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An estimated 67% to 93% of human communication (according to university researchers) is nonverbal, and your body language reveals your internal emotional state. Whether someone's parents just died, or whether they just got promoted to CEO... you can tell by observing their body language. So, as a man who tries to pick up and seduce women, you should be mindful of what you're communicating non-verbally. Body language consists of the following: - Your movements. They should be nonchalant, as if you're so fabulously successful that there's rarely a reason for you to rush nor try to impress anybody. Move through the world doing what you want and assuming that others will follow. - The displacement of your body. Your arms and legs should be spread out. Don't be afraid to take up space. - Your voice. It should have a calm, soothing, and commanding effect. Don't speak too fast or strain your voice. - Your face. Keep your facial muscles relaxed. Never tense your jaw, and only rarely should you frown or wrinkle your brow. - Your shoulders. Keep them relaxed like they'd be if you just got a massage. Don't raise them up like a nervous person. I would even go as far as to say that you body language is more important than anything you say, because if your body language doesn't match what you say, then you won't succeed with women. You see, if you tell a woman stories that convey your confidence, but at the same time you slump over and fold your arms, then you come across as fake. I've picked up women before merely through the use of my body language. For example, a couple months ago I was at a coffee shop that I frequent, lounging on the couch, arms spread out, with my feet up on the table. The mindset I had was that I felt so comfortable that it was as if I were in my home lounging on my own couch. It was as if I owned the coffee shop.
The net result was that a girl sitting near me put down her book and started engaging me in random small talk. (Whenever an attractive girl you don't know starts a random conversation with you, you should ALWAYS assume that she's attracted to you. This is because women generally won't risk the whole male-female dynamic, especially with a stranger, unless they feel attraction.) The conversation went on for awhile, I got her number, called her that night, and a few days later we met and after several hours went to her place, where I spent the night. (We finally had sex in the morning.) The bottom line though is that she became initially attracted to me and approached me because of my body language. Now, of course body language isn't enough. You also must have an internal alpha male mindset that's consistent with your body language. But make no mistake about it... if your body language conveys confidence, then your mood will also shift to become more confident. And have you ever noticed how when you walk with a spring in your step, you feel more upbeat? Conversely, when you cast your eyes down and drag your feet, you feel depressed. So your mindset also follows the body language that you adopt. So, in conclusion, be an alpha male with your mindset and your body language. Be in a woman's personal space and be sexual and interested in her, but at the same time don't be needy or desperate for her attention. Just be comfortable and enjoy yourself. And when your body language conveys that, it means you'll later be comfortable and enjoying yourself... with the woman.
The two of you hit it off.) Fortunately. Let's say you meet a girl at a 5 PM happy hour. there's something you can do that's usually done ONLY by a woman's boyfriend. The two of you have good rapport. Call me. If you do it too. you've long since passed the point where the two of you are comfortable having sex. tell her to hold still and close her eyes. In mid-conversation." If you watch couples who are in close relationships. . Clearly the goal is to get laid. the guy can be made to wait for months. Certainly when you are in a relationship where you can brush sleep out of a woman's eye. Dinner goes well too. a lot of guys get confused about how to advance the interaction forward. You see. You entrance her by telling her fascinating stories about your life. the need for comfort is why women like to make guys wait before sex. and make her believe that you just brushed it off. but the roadmap is often muddled. Around 7:30. Bye!" Often. She's laughing." In a nutshell. having a great conversation. there's a way to shortcircuit that barrier. It's a behavior that's only done by people who are completely comfortable around each other. The man and woman are extremely comfortable touching each other. but with a lot of women."Boyfriending Technique" I'm going to reveal an important comfort-building technique I call "Boyfriending. Usually the night ends with the woman saying something like. in order for a typical woman to have sex with a man. so much so that they'll even do seemingly gross things like brush sleep ("eye boogers") out of each other's eyes. Pretend there's sleep in her eye. Now what? Around this time. I call it the "Boyfriending Technique. it's a way of getting under a woman's radar and making her comfortable enough around you so that she'll be receptive to sex without making you wait. it might be only three dates. She's interested. you'll notice an interesting phenomenon. she must have feelings of comfort. Catch my drift? You can use this as a psychological weapon to make the woman feel more comfortable around you. (If the guy's lucky. "I had great time meeting you. Then dinner ends. you get hungry and invite her to get something to eat. It is not enough for her to simply feel attraction for the guy.
after the two of you finish eating and leave the restaurant.. Third. again tell her to hold still. With your finger. you're in fact touching an erogenous zone. Stimulating her lower lip makes her body release sex hormones. You may just be having sex within several hours instead of having to wait several months. . Second. in the case of you touching her lower lip. brush off an imaginary piece of food from her lower lip.Later. bringing your heads closer together and progressing towards a make out session. a woman's lower lip has a high concentration of nerve endings. Make the Boyfriending Technique a part of your dating arsenal. it involves you touching her face. First.. The net result of the Boyfriending Technique is nuclear. and you'll find more success than ever before. it sub-communicates that the two of you are very comfortable around each other. That's right.
and probably have walked past each other on many occasions. to use a recent example I encountered. they live in the same apartment building. about fate bringing the man of her dreams to her. And now. There is a very easy. The man and the woman each ponder what it will be like when they meet that special someone. Then. "That's awesome. again because of fate.... rather than having to wait through several dates before the woman finally feels comfortable enough with you to have sex? Well. Let's say. and yet are never happy. fate keeps them apart. and without having to resort to complicated (and risky!) hypnosis tactics? Well. Months go by. You can speed the seduction process and have the woman feeling deeply connected with you by using my Fated Encounter Technique.. you then talk about how amazing it is that the two of you could have been there at the same time and yet destiny kept you apart. and the things .. the two of you can talk about other coincidences. I shop there too. Every woman has a fantasy from the time she was a little girl. it can. and they go their separate ways. no-risk way to do this. that she shops at the local Whole Foods grocery store. In one typical scene the guy and the girl almost bump into each other on the sidewalk. The two date other people. Here's why it works. we've probably seen each other there all the time!" Another example would be that the two of you go to downtown LA all the time. "Isn't it amazing how fate has finally brought us together?" As the conversation progresses. fate finally brings them together. you bring up places she has been to. Yet after several close calls. Instead. someday. I call it the Fated Encounter Technique. good news. And then near the end of the movie.. even if you two have known each other for only a few hours. Wouldn't it be nice if that could happen in real life. Imagine. And of course they hit it off right from the start. two years later."The Fated Encounter" Wouldn't it be nice if you could create feelings within a woman of a deep connection with you. triggered by a constant diet of romance movies and novels. During the course of your conversation with the woman. You can then say. they still don't meet. you can say. off and on. If you've been to those same places. I'll explain how it works.
. and how "fate" has now brought the two of you together. you are the man she's been waiting for all her life. With the seed planted. she will then start to feel as if she's known you. for a lot longer than just a few hours.the two of you might have done together if you'd only known each other. on a deeper psychic level. as the girl thinks about those coincidences. She concludes.
This results in being without sex for many months. avoid chasing your girlfriend like a puppy dog. too. Then there's the issue of being a challenge. reward her for good behavior by giving her more of your time when she acts sweet. and then if we get dumped. relationships can make us guys too lazy (since the sex is so easy) and we lose that "high value" mindset."Have You Got a Girlfriend? Here's How Not to Screw It Up" Having a girlfriend can be a dangerous thing. the cycle repeats.. If a woman engages in behavior which you disapprove of. and. punish her by withdrawing your time and focusing on something (or someone) else. We become too dependent on our woman for our happiness. how do you keep that alpha mindset? First and foremost. you should have a similar confident mindset if you want to maximize the attraction your girlfriend feels for you. Don't reward her for acting bitchy by continuing to be around her when she does. A basic concept which will prevent her from ever treating you badly is what I call Punishment and Reward. Often by around month 6 in a relationship is when a woman really starts to take a guy for granted." Do Lamborghini dealerships grovel to try to get people to like them? Of course not. Women act sweet when you're a challenge to them. we find that we've all of a sudden lost our confidence. If she does something you like (such as having sex with you). Hell. so avoid that by remaining a challenge. if you want more of it. reward her by giving her more of your time. the alpha male. until we finally get a girlfriend again. As a man. "I am like a Lamborghini. Lamborghini doesn't even advertise. So. So whenever you do something nice for her. Always be willing to focus your time on things other than your girlfriend. talking about her feelings. It's crucial to keep that alpha male frame of mind that says. Instead they allow all the buyers to come to them.. You see. On the other hand. So to break this cycle. . alpha guy in your relationships is threefold: 1. Punishment and Reward. They act bitchy when they take you for granted and no longer feel like they need put out effort to win your affections. So the solution to remaining the attractive. etc. Like I said. And DO reward her good behavior. do it because you're rewarding her. we need to REMAIN the attractive guy.
this can be very subtle. Again. and she's only telling you that twice. Don't explicitly threaten her with that. Always have it in the back of your mind that you could end the relationship at any time. then obviously the situation is badly out of whack. but if (for example) you're telling her 20 times a day that you love her.2. Always allow her to think that's she's just a little bit more interested in you than you are in her. 3. That way she'll never become truly comfortable with the relationship and will keep working to win you. but just make it a subtle implication. .
And by the way. but also with your confidence levels. There are a couple things you can do in the short term. which will make you appear taller. they were all players before they became famous. you become like a pit bull. strong inner attitude.Humphrey Bogart . I'd like you to experiment with that. So get in the gym. the reason they could attract girls was because of their strong inner attitude.. when you dress.Napoleon Okay...) In fact.. Next thing to do long term is to GIVE UP any approval-seeking. That will make you look SLENDER. Do the affirmation. change your affirmation to. do not always be the nice guy who's polite.. Now." I've noticed that a lot of short guys develop a VERY strong presence by having cultivated that inner badass.. In fact that really should be first and foremost. it helps A LOT."How to Attract Girls Even if You're Short" Let me mention a few names and you can tell me what they all have in common: . If you've got muscles.. I'm not saying you should become a jerk... those guys I list above were players exactly because they went through life doing what they wanted and being true to who they were. try to let your "inner badass" come out a bit when you're with girls. (That is so key by the way. not only with your physical appearance. wear vertical stripes and tight clothes. Long term. When you're muscular and you're a short guy.) . "I AM like the pitbull who can dominate bigger dogs. no surprise here. Also. For the next few months. they're all short guys. one way short guys can be more dominant physically is to work out. But you know what? They were all awesome with the ladies (and not just because of their celebrity status. but just try to balance out that inner nice guy. "I'm becoming like the pitbull who can dominate the bigger dogs. and poise. Who cares what women think of you? Go through life doing what you want and being who you are.Al Pacino . Wearing boots right now will subtly add 2 or 3 inches to your height." Once you start feeling more and more confident in a few weeks.
and project a personality that sucks them in. what women find attractive about them isn't their height. when it comes to tall guys. . they automatically are able to have more rapport with chicks (who tend to be short themselves) than the guys who are beanpoles.You see. If you have a tight sense of inner confidence. and stop caring about anyone's approval. The bottom line is this: only if YOU feel uncomfortable with your height will it affect you with the girls. And do the fashion things I said. take risks in life. It's their dominance. short guys who are badasses really have a bit of an advantage. cultivate your inner badass. height will be the furthest thing from their minds. By the way. Then you'll attract girls without worrying about irrelevant things like height. be true to yourself. So to sum up. then they will too. Because of their stature. If you feel completely comfortable with your height. it makes chicks dripping wet with attraction. And hit the gym ASAP. And when you add to that a bit of a "badboy" element.
Instead you should be a challenge for her. I MUST have this girl! She's irreplaceable!" Having an abundance of women in your life will solve that problem. "God. (By that I mean. So the best attitudes to have towards any one particular woman are: 1..) The bottom line is that a woman should never be a challenge for you. she too feels attraction. a woman finds a man attractive because of his personality. whenever a woman sees that other chicks are attracted to a guy. this is known as the "social proof" phenomenon. (Women are easy to make friends with.. . you can also eliminate neediness by building up your social network. Non-attachment to whether she likes you or not. but if not. there are tons of other chicks out there who are equally as great as she is. don't restrict yourself to dating only "that one special girl. Ironically. Never come from a position of neediness.." You see.. you should come from a mindset of high value. the last thing you ever want to have going through your mind when you're around that special woman is. Ever noticed how your female friends drool over the guy at the corner of the bar who's got four babes at his table? That's social proof in action. if she likes you that's awesome. Nonchalance.. Also. but how can you get her to like you? While men are primarily attracted to women based on their looks. Make friends with as many women as you can. the one with the sweet personality. the really nice hair and a perfect face.) Also date as many women as you can.. In addition to placing a high value on yourself. what this means is that the best way for a girl to like you is when she feels like she has EARNED you.. She dates the more "adept" guys. You know. and it's much more powerful in women than men."How to Get a Girl to Like You" We've all had that special woman in our lives.. A ideal man is an alpha male who's confident in himself and not afraid to take the lead to get what he wants out of life. That's because to get a girl to like you. 2. Psychologically.
it's fine to think a girl is beautiful and to have powerful feelings for her. Just remember that lots of other girls are amazing too. So.. those are the three secrets for how to get a girl to like you... ironically. place a high value on yourself. and hang out with as many women as possible. and. you're free to think that a woman's amazing. Here's the key though. then that gives her power over you.By the way. . makes her lose attraction to you. If you start thinking that any girl is one of a kind. So remember. you must always remind yourself that there are LOTS of other women out there who are just as wonderful as she is.. make her earn your attention. That way you won't become needy.
. So in order to not have your teeth immediately disqualify you. YOUR HANDS. YOUR TEETH. When you're wearing jeans. It shows immaturity. 2. to the enthusiastic agreement of the others. what does that say about you?" 3."Revealed: What Women Want When It Comes to a Guy's Looks" As part of my research for a guide to style. be an individual. "Some boys wear only tennis shoes and that's just annoying. "I am a believer that athletic gear is for exercise." explained another chick. However. take a hawaiian shirt with a flamingo on it. "You should not look sloppy. If you can't even wash your hands." added the blonde." said one woman. listen up. "If you work with your hands. "that's not the first thing a woman should notice about you. The results were surprising. leave the tennis shoes at home. My goal was to find the things that they all agreed on. YOUR CLOTHES. Some guy who absolutely loves it can wear that shirt." Good shoes instead are loafers or boots." said a part-time model in her mid-20s. flossing at least once. Bad teeth are "just gross" said one blonde bombshell. If you've got that one shirt that only you love." And. And if they're rotten or badly stained. even if it is somewhat "uncool. don't go crazy with the teeth whitener. "It's just about taking care of yourself. you should still wear it. see your dentist ASAP. 1. construction workers. and other blue collar types. "It's not what a person does. agreed the women. single women between 21 and 33. "but don't look so put together that you appear obsessive-compulsive. because the issues the women had the strongest opinions about were ones that most guys would never think of. I put together a focus group of 6 randomly chosen hot. "No one wants to kiss Chiclet Mouth." said the blonde." So auto mechanics. Women notice right off the bat if your hands are covered with dirt or grease." For example. to find out what styles in men they considered hot. keep them brushed twice a day. Try to be neat without being anal.
because women will pick up on that." So in other words. Sound confusing? It isn't once you realize that the simple test is this: Are you wearing clothes that display your core personality? As one woman explained it. . except just be your genuine self. You can't make one rule for everything. "You should be comfortable with what you're wearing and like what you're wearing. the perfect style for you comes down to personal preferences and your individual sense of style.So the bottom line is that a few guys can indeed pull off wearing the tennis shoes.
6) Hold your hands unnaturally still. You do this when you: 1) Shred napkins. the hardest thing in the world is figuring out what to do with your hands! For success with your dating and seduction of women. 2) Make your hands into fists. let's face it. MISTAKE TWO. your hands can be particularly tough to manage because. when you feel nervous. Although you might be feeling nervous. you are. For a baby. And then as adults. keeping your arms open and letting them drop forward. 3) Sit on your hands. Instead you want to convey that you're calm and in control. because the wrong hand movements can communicate that you are a low-status. To make matters worse. doing the same thing that infants are doing when they suck their mother's breast. our thumbs replaced our mom's nipple. Displaying your anxiety with your hands. 7) Sit on your hands to avoid having the woman see them tremble. what you do with your hands can be one of the quickest non-verbal ways to destroy the attraction that a woman feels for you. make sure you don't make the following body language mistakes with your hands. MISTAKE ONE. When you bite your nails or otherwise chew on your fingers."Are You Making These Body Language Mistakes With Your Hands?" Unfortunately. Nothing attracts a woman more than a man who's laid back and confident. 4) Hold something and play with it. Rest your forearms on the table. . breast feeding provides comfort. you mainly bite your nails when you're under pressure? THE SOLUTION. Just hold your hands relaxed on the table. beta male. When we became toddlers. Ever noticed that when you're out in public. the last thing you want to do is to let the woman detect you feel that way. according to psychologists. Putting your fingers into your mouth. biting our thumbnail does the same thing. 5) Twiddle your fingers or thumbs.
they should also face the woman. Open palms convey honesty and being completely comfortable with yourself. your palms facing each other. As your palms face each other.Keep your hands and arms open and relaxed. Having the back of your hands facing her can often convey that you're hiding something. with fingers curved slightly upward. Demonstrating your confidence can be as easy as that! Stop twiddling your thumbs and watch the women flock to you. . Most of the time this means having them about 18 inches or half a meter apart.
or alpha." I've coached a lot of guys. there is always one person who is reacting more than the other. Make sure to . But hey. "I'm just going through my day. Women are attracted to men who are a challenge for them.e. You see. whenever you set a girl up with a higher value than you (like when you're trying to win her approval). right? Here was the key: I always made sure that she was reacting to me more than I was reacting to her. then there's no longer a challenge for her and she loses interest."How to Start a Conversation With a Woman" Last week I had the easiest pick up and lay in my life. My follow-up was simply. When I first started speaking to her. The person who reacts less (i. If at some point it becomes clear that you're trying to win her approval.. Simple. In every conversation. Or he starts asking her weird questions that he shouldn't be interested in when speaking to a total stranger (e. and it all started with me walking by a random girl and saying (using a clear." She looked up.. The person trying to win the other's approval is the one who's more attracted. "What's you major?" or "How has your day been today?") This sets her up with a higher value than him. My mindset was. that's cool. Maybe he tries too hard to make her laugh. is the more relaxed of the two) is the more dominant. "Hey. but relaxed and sexual body language). If not." After that. and the mistake I most often see a guy make when he opens a conversation with a girl is that he tries to get a response from her. person. I'm going to enjoy my day just the same. I frankly couldn't care less about what she thought of me. expecting me to say something interesting.g. Keep the alpha status and stay in control of the situation right from the beginning. if some hot chick wants to earn my attention. she kept the conversation going. this causes her to lose attraction for you. So a girl will struggle to make small talk and keep the conversation going as long as your value is higher than hers. resonating voice and disinterested. "Do you know where the smoothie place is? I'm in the mood for a smoothie.
Don't care what she thinks. Always remain more relaxed than her. . So the answer to the best way to begin a conversation with a woman is this: Don't try.not ever react too much to what a girl says. Just say whatever you want.
"I don't always floss my teeth even though I should. Now you need to build trust. Say it's coming up on 11 PM.. Let's take a typical scenario. VW took its quality inspections so seriously that it took note of even small weaknesses in the builds of its cars. Look at it like this: 1. but she must also trust him." . Trust Without Attraction = "He's a great friend and I love him to death!" (Translation: "We'll NEVER have sex!") 2." . and you've been with a woman since 6 that afternoon. We all do. You see. and have sex with you. Attraction Without Trust = "I'm not a loose woman."I have an ugly mole on my neck. You see. and you're witty and interesting. And by the way. you tend to trust him more. As long as you've had good rapport with her and you've kept pushing the interaction forward. you should point out your minor flaws. It's a fundamental trait of human psychology. He'll have to wait before he gets any!" However."How To Make A Woman Trust You Completely" I'm about to reveal a little-known secret of human persuasion that can induce the woman to feel complete trust for you.. Examples could be: . By the time you finish this article. Have you ever noticed how ads will sometimes mention minor defects in the products? A famous example of this was the wildly success Volkswagen Beetle ads from 30 years ago that had the huge headline: "Lemon. you'll know an easy. Sometimes I feel self-conscious about it. So when it comes to women. she'll be literally begging you to take her home with you that night. and now you'll be able to use it with women. if the woman has both attraction AND trust for the guy. she WILL be attracted to you. Because the bottom line is that as long as you've got good body language. if a person tells you something that's against his self-interest. with a woman. you've got a lot going on in your life. you can assume she's attracted to you." The point of the ad was that not all of their cars were perfect. this is a one of the best-kept secrets of human persuasion. for a woman to have sex with a guy. efficient way to do that. even if it's the very first date. The most successful advertisers and salesmen to make billions use it. she must not only be attracted to him."I had to give a speech last week and felt so nervous!" . you should always assume attraction until proven otherwise. And by the way.
By pointing them out. having both attraction for AND trust in you. This means that. Because she believes the minor imperfections about you. she'll believe the MAJOR PERFECTIONS about you as well. you create a perception of honesty within the woman. "I've never done it with a guy this soon before!" . it doesn't necessarily matter. later that night she could be breathlessly panting.Even if they're fake flaws.
Identify them for what they are. fidgeting.. here are some pointers for you to develop the mindset and body language of an alpha male (and by the way. Essentially you're punishing yourself by feeling upset before anything bad has happened. Just let your worries go. Simply not dwelling on negative outcomes that make you feel upset will reduce 90% of your worries. He gives off vibes that he is hot stuff. and. it's simply the fear of what might happen in the future. George Clooney. the alpha males are relaxed and in control when it comes to social situations.. you're right.. So suck it up.. and quit thinking about what might go wrong. can create that aura that makes you attractive to women. too. Now. Now. Don't allow yourself to feel worried... women don't want to be around you.. you can make these changes as early as tonight and have even the hottest girls clamoring for your attention): 1. They've got girls all over them and some great body language going on. Have you ever noticed the way your friends look when they're all nervous? They're looking down at the ground with their arms crossed. if you think they're easy..."The Number One Secret Behind the Alpha Male's Body Language" Watch a man with high status--Brad Pitt. women get soaking wet over him. with their voices cracking and their eyes bugged out. Just live life. I know what I just said is easier said than done (to use an old--but relevant in this case-cliche). since you can't solve any problem by worrying. And when you give off that kind of body language yourself. and because of that. or the CEO where you work--and you'll notice that he moves differently than the rest of us. think about successful guys.. With that in mind. You've spent your whole life up until now dwelling on thoughts that make you feel worried. You. It makes no logical sense to worry! So the solution is to avoid contemplating your worrisome thoughts anymore. let them go. But what is this emotion we call "worry"? When you think about it. relaxation is the most important mental state for you to be in. Make no mistake about it. . So. toxic to your emotional state. what's the number one secret between those high status guys and the low status guys? You've probably guessed it.
Imagine you are standing and walking through a swimming pool. Relax your eyes and eyelids. Only give things your attention if they interest you. .2. Beta males are nervous and make jerky movements. you see them spin their heads toward the person unnaturally fast. . 3. Relax all your muscles and slow down all of your movements a notch. Their eyes dart all around. Avoid nonverbal behaviors that are the opposite of relaxation: . 5. . and I am in control. 4. where your movements are slow and fluid. "I am sexual. Beta males hold their eyelids wide open because they are so nervous. If someone wants your attention. do the affirmation to yourself. Look straight ahead. as if they are in control of time itself.Tightening your facial muscles. A second strategy to relax is to breathe through your abdomen rather than your chest. While you're out and about. Feel your belly rise and fall as you breathe." 6. Alpha males generally move unhurriedly. When you breathe. imagine that you're bringing air down to your stomach. Instead let your eyelids rest. I am relaxed.Wrinkling your forehead. move your head slowly. .Raising your shoulders.Fidgeting with your hands and/or legs. A trait common to many beta males is being so eager to please that when someone calls their name.
not just about chicks. But what separates you (and me) from the rest of the guys is. etc. "Since I'm so good at approaching people . You feel so nervous and fumbly that you would reject yourself if you were her. unfortunately.. If you're thinking about rejection. but I think if you're like most guys.. which is why.. No goals. I know I certainly do. Her skin looks so radiant and so incredibly soft. hot girls. approach without having any expectations. old people.. however. nothing to do with picking up chicks. men. I said to myself. I made a mistake. Does this situation sound familiar? If so. Most guys let fear paralyze them. So you shy away from even approaching her in the first place. most guys will never find the success they want. I'm inclined to be an introvert. you wouldn't know what to say. I would force myself to chat up everybody. You would be on top of the world if you could pick her this girl up.. The problem is inside of you. she has the most gorgeous face you've ever seen.. You know that even if you got your balls in gear and went for it. It's not with the chicks. (I'm just guessing. fat girls. people walking dogs. as I discuss in my book .. You feel the fear deep in your gut. then that means you're making your approaches with a certain outcome in mind. I would talk about neutral topics with them. keep reading. So to overcome my shyness. [insert your affiliate link for "How to Become an Alpha Male"]. no matter who they were. The net result from all of that was I became really good at approaching people. The first thing for you to realize is that all guys get anxiety about approaching women.) Try this instead. After that. Her hair is silky brown.. Let me tell you about a problem I used to have. your goal is getting chicks attracted to you so that you can get laid. ugly girls."Four Keys to Overcoming Your Nervousness Around Women" Standing at the magazine rack thumbing through Cosmo. look at where your fear comes from. First. What You Do About Your Fear.. but about other things in their life like their career..
If it helps. Don't do it for real. For example. Because it's just for practice. Here's something I want you to try. time and time again. Because I had thoughts like "I'm going to try to lay this chick" in my mind. In general. Another time I thought it was amusing when I approached a group of two girls.) Remember though: have no outcome in mind. "Well. It sucked." they both turned their backs on me in unison. I've found that elderly people (both males and females) and fat women are easy to talk to. Again though. do it without having any sort of sex-related outcome in mind. as if they were synchronized dancers! Now I just look back on all of that and laugh. just say. My point is that the more you approach.and have become an outgoing person. just for practice. you'll find that eventually rude responses on their part mean nothing.. set up a time limit for your practice interactions. talk to three people. So it doesn't matter if the chick responds rudely. don't limit yourself to just talking to hot women. In fact. why am I wasting time talking to anyone other than hot chicks?" So then I limited the people I talked to." (Then ask about something that you genuinely want a female opinion on. predictable ways." I've been rejected hideously. . before I'd even opened my mouth to say "hi". I need a quick female opinion on something. I've had tons of women give me that exact same 'clever' rude comment. Good chatting with you. and right after I said "hey. "Hey.) Once you've done your practices and feel warmed up. like that you'll talk to the person for 30 seconds and then you'll get out of the conversation... then you can chat up hot chicks.. I'm on my way to meeting a friend. It was as if I'd never had all that practice chatting up strangers in the first place. It'll bore you rather than cause you anxiety. Whenever you go out. the more you'll reach a level where you notice that most people act in the same. when you reach a point that you've chatted up lots of women. if a chick passes by you in a hallway. One chick screamed "Go away!" at me before I could even get out my initial sentence.... (Say something like. but do it just for practice. and so I would crash and burn. how original.. You'll have an attitude of "ha." And then walk away without making a big deal of it. At that point I realized it was because I was outcome-dependent. and my anxiety about talking to random women swept over me once again.
2) Remember that the only way to get over your fear is by doing the thing you fear. cement. You say things to yourself. You put down one brick at a time and cement it. there's really no such thing as "being nervous. Instead of thinking. 4) Ease the physical tension you have in your body when you feel nervous. but eventually. it's no big deal. The more you do it. because your attitude about the experiences will become. To get a bit more psychological. And so on. the walls will be up (which means you've finished the toughest part of the job). cement. Notice your negative thoughts and change them. "I would reject myself. "Been there. So when I relax my jaw and facial muscles." it sets you up for failure!) You picture the chicks rejecting you. Brick. It'll take a long time. Brick. this chick is going to act like a bitch to me because I fumble my words".." 3) Recognize your bad thoughts and force yourself to replace them with good ones. "It's awesome that I'm making this approach. that means I've gotten her out of the way and I'm one step closer to finding my dream girl.Think of it as trying to build a house. For me." like it's some kind of flu virus that invades your body. "Oh my God. it alleviates a lot of my tension.. You feel tense in your body." You don't "get nervous. So what you can do to break this is to identify it for what it is. the easier it gets. think. (When you think thoughts like. Nothing else. You have a certain series of thought processes that you go through before you become nervous. and then let your muscles relax in those areas. . All feelings of nervousness come from within. I'll wrap it up for you by concluding with this advice: 1) Be social for the sake of being social. because if this chick rejects me. done that." Notice where you feel tense in your body. I feel tense in my jaw and face when I'm nervous.
etc. It would have been simple for all three men to have hung their heads in shame and turn into beta males who never got laid and never even could get a girl to talk to them. I've coached a lot of men who have limiting beliefs when it comes to things like their voice. the late rapper Eazy-E. uplifting question. if you're worried and upset about your physical flaws. The concept is called reframing.) 2. they could have talked to someone on the phone and that person wouldn't have known they were speaking to a man. Do it like this: 1. despite their high voices. and there's always somebody who uses that trait as a negative belief. which prevent you from attracting women. "I feel bad about my voice" becomes "How can I use my unique voice as my own trademark that sets me apart from other guys?" (That's what Tyler. Eazy-E. then I've got some good news for you. their genetics. Not only can you eliminate those flaws. It's a simple technique that I learned when I studied Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). Eazy-E. their looks. You name the trait. I'll explain how by bringing up an example of three guys who were very successful players in their day. So here's a trivia question for you. and Curly were all masters of a simple technique that turned that big flaw into a big trademark that made them even more attractive to women. and it will help you as tremendously as it did all three of those men. In fact. Basically. What do Steve Tyler of Aerosmith. Tyler. In order to develop the confidence of my students. which sabotages their chances at success with women."Too Ugly? Too Short? Here's How To Turn Your Flaws Into Strengths" Are you a guy with a high-pitched voice? Of maybe you've got a face only a mother could love? Well. and Curly all did. "My face is pockmarked from acne" becomes "How is my face totally awesome? How can my lack of natural good looks actually help me with women?" . and Curly from the Three Stooges all have in common? The answer is they all had voices so high that if they had wanted to. Here's how reframing works. whatever it is. I have them learn and apply this concept. However. you can turn them into your advantage. you take every negative belief that you have and turn it into a positive.
Instead it's your belief about your face. Tall guys have a psychological communication barrier a lot of the time because they're literally speaking to a lot of girls (who tend on average to be shorter than guys) from a different level. So remember. That lack of confidence is the thing that women pick up on. That gives you a window of opportunity to display your confident. which interferes with your inner sense of confidence. Then write positive. your brain will come up with answers to them. get out a pen (or open a blank document in your word processor) and write out your negative beliefs. For a woman to be attracted to a guy. They won't expect you to try to pick them up. For example. Gain that kind of confidence. It's your limiting beliefs that do. you'll become unstoppable with your self-confidence. you might find that it's to your advantage to not be a "pretty boy. ordinary guys. the man's confidence level is one of the most important traits that he can have. it's not your flaws that get in your way. Your ugly face doesn't get in your way of meeting women. Being short can allow you to gain rapport much easier with girls than taller guys can. and you'll magnetically attract girls to you. . through the technique of reframing. so when you're displaying the confidence to talk with them. When you become happy and comfortable with all your traits. alpha male personality." Women expect good-looking guys to talk to them.3. "I'm too short" becomes "How can I height to my advantage?" As you ponder your new. their guards will be down. uplifting questions about how to turn those flaws into good things. reframed questions in your mind. So I want you to stop reading after this. You can become comfortable with yourself by turning your flaws from weaknesses into traits that set you apart from the bland.
That means being powerful. So the reason why guys often have trouble getting laid is because they reward bad behavior. yet the guy rewards her by cuddling with her. After all. In short. all you get is a peck on the cheek. You can't understand why it has to take so long to have sex with the woman. After the first date. Does a chick just string you along. you're buying her meals. People behave in ways that cause them to get rewarded. Remember. you get a mouth kiss. Frame all of your behavior towards women in terms of punishment and reward. You even splurged on some pretty flowers.. They avoid behaviors that cause them punishment. You start dating a woman. you're being incredibly nice to the woman.. It's a very slow process. . A better solution would be to punish the bad behavior by being a lot less interested in cuddling with her. Third date."How to Get a Woman to Treat You the Way You Deserve" You know the scenario. Buy her filet mignon and Don Perignon (if you've got the money). Second date. and go talk to other girls instead of her. Never underestimate the power of getting up from the couch and walking out the door. and you'll be treated the way you deserve (or else you'll move onto another woman who WILL treat you right). A chick will lead them on and then make it clear there won't be sex that night. So what's the problem? Why won't she have sex with you? It comes down to human motivation. telling you nice things that she would do for you if only she didn't have a boyfriend? Then withdraw your attention. you need to be an alpha male. So make sure you get treated the way you deserve to be. Take her on a date to a fancy restaurant. you hold hands. to harvest the full enjoyment out of life and to have women be attracted to you. Did a chick do something (like have sex with you) that deserves rewarding? Then go ahead and do something nice for her.
You see signs of her increasing sexual arousal and openness to intimacy. In other words. The conversational vibe is excellent. because studies have shown that when two people are in rapport. and then engage her in conversation about neutral subjects until you see signs that she too is getting relaxed and horny. Instead meet her somewhere informal. 3. No nervousness." If you do. they eventually match emotional states with each other. (To get yourself into a sexual state. As an alpha male. Get her alone with you. but don't masturbate. that puts her into the same "make him wait" mindset that she adopted with the last 100 guys who bought her a nice dinner. don't take her to a fancy dinner or do anything else that she associates with a "date. You want to be relaxed and feeling sexual."How To Have Sex On The First Date" Having gone out with with literally thousands of women and gone to bed with hundreds over the past two and a half decades. I've learned that there's nothing you can do to GUARANTEE having sex with any particular woman. you shouldn't do anything because you're "hoping to get laid. Let's say you and the girl hit it off fantastically in the coffee shop. they were hoping to get laid. she needs to feel relaxed and horny.) And it's important to feel relaxed. by doing a few simple things. For a woman to become sexual. try watching porn just before the date. the last 100 guys she dated paid for her meal because. like a coffee shop or some cheap diner for lunch. So when you're chilling with the girl. By that I mean. Things are really going well there. she has to earn it. If a woman wants his attention. Meet her in a non-traditional venue. you can dramatically INCREASE THE ODDS of going all the way on the very first night of your relationship. so sex is no big deal to him. you should feel deeply relaxed and horny. It is important that you feel that exact way yourself. as was blatantly obvious to her. Don't make a big deal out of who pays for what." That reeks of desperation and kills attraction that a woman feels. because again. so you then take her to a bar to get a quick drink. A more attractive guy is one who gets laid all the time. . Have the proper mindset throughout the date. not a sure thing. 1. 2. However. he is a challenge for her.
has. Sexually. The problem is you can't just say.. . and you'll have your maximum shot at having sex on a first date. Keep that in mind and don't rush things. "Let's go to my place and have sex. it avoids triggering the alarm bells in her mind that scream. then another. Slowly escalate. . and then at your mouth." With women you're on a first date with. it kills the mood for her and results in you sleeping alone that night.Some signs of a woman's deepening sexual attraction to you include: .She engages in "triangle gazing. She might even unfasten a button or two of her blouse.it) 3578 Hartsel Drive Suite E374 Colorado Springs. CO 80920 1-719-357-5694 ." She'll look at one of your eyes. . (Examples could be. "Uh oh! I don't want to be a slut!" Once the two of you are then alone. so you need to be patient.You notice her stealing glimpses at your chest and even your crotch. women are like irons. BY John Alexander (http://alphamale.Sitting with her inner thigh exposed. Sit on your couch and watch a movie. Instead.. "You should come hear my 'Best of the 80s' CD" or "That's awesome that you're so good with art. I have a painting in my living room that I'd love to get your opinion on") Since the two of you have an "innocent" reason to be alone together. Hold hands. isolated at your place. whenever you verbalize anything sexual.Fidgeting with her clothes. and so on from there. stroke her hair. mention an innocent excuse for the two of you to go to your place. It can take several hours for the woman to feel comfortable enough with you at your house. you can set the scene for the seduction. They heat up slowly.
has. How to Be Her Best Lover Ever http://bestlover..Short Bio: John Alexander is author of "How to Become an Alpha Male".it Other languages: [Español] [Français] [Deutsch] [Nederlandse] [Italiano] [Português] John has also written 2 more books: 1.. He guides anyone from saying "hello" to a new woman.it . How to Get a Girl Back in 30 Days or Less http://getgirlback.has. to sharing orgasms in bed with her..it Other languages: [Español] [Français] [Deutsch] [Nederlandse] [Italiano] [Português] …More information can be found at http://alphamale.needz. He has discovered the 7 Step Seduction System..even in just one evening! To know more about his program in English visit: http://alphamale.does.it 2.
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