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insights about how determination. What is a treadmill? ETHAN: Treadmill is. basically. number 150. and yeah. this is Ethan from RealLife English. and your voice is a little bit funny? They say you've got a frog in your throat. Step 1: Determination The 3 Pillars of English learning success Where there’s a Will. you'll run on this machine. So. if my voice is a little bit scratchy. effective and gritty way to learn English. exactly. ETHAN: Yeah. I'm here in the Transcontinental Studio with my good buddy. because we've got some really great information and ideas. I'm working on it. To do this podcast. ladies and gentlemen. As any of you who listened to last week's podcasts. passion and perseverance. I got a little bit sick. we both read a book called “Grit” which is defined as “a combination of passion and perseverance”. We are talking about the 3:21 1 . There’s a Way ETHAN: Aww yeah. download this podcast now and listen to us while you're on the bus. and what about the word gritty? ETHAN: Gritty. shooting some hoops in the hood. grit. but I know you're pretty gritty. and if you have not done that then press pause and go listen to that one first. well. you might lose some sleep and get sick and so that happened to me. so you won't let that get in the way of recording a kick ass podcast. where we believe that listening to podcasts is a fun. A lot of times when you can't sleep enough or your neighbors are being really loud. JUSTIN: Yep. you got it. right? JUSTIN: Yep. a lot of mucus in your throat. ETHAN: Have you been able to catch up on your sleep? I heard that there were some pretty crazy parties going on there? JUSTIN: Yeah. if you're a runner and the weather's not good outside. or you don't like running outside for whatever reason. frog in the throat? ETHAN: Don't you usually say that when you've got like a lot of phlegm. Justin Murray. right? While running on a treadmill. Looking forward to this. how all this can come together and really help you become a kick ass English learner. So. ETHAN: Got a frog in the throat? JUSTIN: (Laughs) What do you mean by that. so I was actually about to say that you lost some sleep last week. boys and girls from all across the interwebs. natural. How's it going man? JUSTIN: Aww yeah. JUSTIN: Okay. Oh yeah. to do this lesson. I'm really excited to be here to have this conversation. And this is actually one of the main components of today's lesson. or even running on the treadmill. And so I said in the intro. that's the reason. Grit is.

ETHAN: I mean. who doesn't really have that will. you have to find a way to get motivated. you're unstoppable. I really wanted to share a quote. this goes back to the idea that like somebody who doesn't really want it. It's just really difficult. and we're going to help you do that. and really help you guys realize. A lot of times it can get boring. Justin? JUSTIN: Where there's a will there's a way. that want that really drives them forward to go through all of the difficult. and I think that is one of the big problems for I would say the bulk of English learners. no one can help you. We are on step one of the RealLife Way this week. the determination. ETHAN: Exactly. they're not going to be successful. it's a saying in English. where there's a will. And today. there's a way? Justin: Well. what exactly does that mean. even if they lack many of the other things. there is a way. and really connect to that purpose and start to see the life changing potential with English. to explain this first very fundamental part of the RealLife Way. where you have desire. of needing to get a better job. no matter how many resources they have. JUSTIN: So. a lot of students I've had. there's a way. and a lot of times maybe it can be. you're talented. our mission is to awaken the determination that you need to realize your true potential. I think it's anonymous. relentless desire. if you have the will you can do anything. But they don't have really that desire. And we're going to come back to our kick ass quote. And somebody who. “If you are not willing to learn. if they have the determination. it's so critical. is just because you need English for your job. no can stop you. So. really. you just need to find that way. And what I mean by that is that a lot of people. you can find the way. So what does that mean? We're actually going to use that quote or an expression in English. then no one can stop you. If you are determined to learn. the speed bumps that you're going to have to go over in order to reach a conversational level. Not only as an English learner. empowering. And so. where there's a will. you might not have a good teacher. ETHAN: Yeah. that their motivations aren't really in order. So. for example. And this is really what we want to share with you today. connecting you to the world through English. 2 6:14 .RealLife Way. And if you have that. And the first step is called what. Where there's a will. and like maybe the traditional methods and just learning grammar.” So. or a good method. But at the bottom of it. where you have that intention. Or needing to be able to travel or they need to learn English. that's the will. even if you have the best teacher in the world. And the inspire part. And this goes back to our promise of inspiring. I think that's the first thing. for example. the best resources. you mentioned like the fact that learners are bored. We used to do this every episode. we're going to dive into this and to start with. That most people listening to this have been through maybe that existential crisis of learning English. but as a human being. you can probably find a deeper motivation which is going to be much more powerful for you in helping you to achieve your goals. they're learning English out of a necessity. but there's a quote that really illustrates this and I don't know who this is by actually. right? JUSTIN: Absolutely. So.

“This person must just have natural talent. in order to be successful as an English learner. just owning your process. or it won't be effective. They see somebody who's successful and then they look at them. it's like we talked about willpower. there probably isn't going to be a way. is being very curious. So. More and more that Ethan and I have really gotten into. Ethan? ETHAN: So. it's like the rungs on the ladder. but we've read books on the psychology of success. they say. because it always comes back to you. but as members of this planet. But you. And for other people it will be boring. we've learned a lot. There's not like a technical root. I would say. because if you don't have a will. and they've actually worked really hard. desire. so shall we jump into these three pillars of determination. And that's the only way to succeed on a lifelong scale. I have many different tools that I use. You need to really want it. You're going to go through different teachers. You actually have to do the things that are going to propel you forward. 9:34 3 . It's like almost an existential crisis. So. Because I'll give the example with my own students. and just try different things. Just taking responsibility. especially at the beginning.not only as an English learner. that you've laid out. but in life in general. determination. We break it up into Desire. have to actually be the one to climb the ladder. And I think another thing is that maybe it's not necessarily 100% their fault. Not only as individuals. determination. and perspectives. So often you see different English schools and they're advertising. So. absolutely. So. and they think like. These are the three aspects of your learning that you need to have down. I'm going to go through this course. because I just remember living in Brazil. ETHAN: Yeah. it must have been easier for them. not only from teaching English.” “I'm going to listen to this podcast talking about the RealLife Way and that's the solution. or resources. ETHAN: For sure. it's not because you don't have enough grammar or enough like exercises. you actually have to make the effort. different methodologies. opportunities. So. or opportunities to learn English. and applied to our own teaching to really help identify the root of the difficulty that a lot of people are having. what is it? We've kind of broken this up into three areas. The problem is that people just get kind of like stuck motivationally. I think it kind of starts with something that I always tell my students is a quality they need to develop to be successful. you can't depend on any methodology. in the end. and really figure out what works and what doesn't work. And it's good to try different things. where there's a will. Always asking questions. to help you get up to where you need to go.” Basically those are all there to help you. it's like. Vision and Discipline. To get fluent. All right. But you have to be the self directed learner. just full of excuses. the psychology of achievement. many different exercises that I use. For some people a certain tool or a certain exercise will be extremely effective. There's a lot of research out there. How would you describe the main aspects of desire. J-man? JUSTIN: Yeah. and that's the solution.” It makes people start to think that “Oh. JUSTIN: Yeah. always trying things. So. living in Spain. to at least be connected to. they come. I'm going to have this teacher that's going to teach me this method. And another thing. I think it's a really big illusion is that people learners think that it should be easy. performance. You can't depend on a teacher. there's a way.” And they don't realize that person has actually been through their own process. “Oh get fluent in six weeks with our methodology. this is why the first one is “Desire”. being very open minded to trying things.Understand that it's the gateway to a completely new world of experience. that's the solution.

“Yes! I'm going to do this!” They'll get so excited and you'll feel that passion. and it's called “The Elephant and the Rider”. and his goal at the end. And that you need to be open and curious to trying new things. The next thing is having a purpose for why you're learning. “Someday. it's important to be able to persevere through those difficult moments- ETHAN: There's an image that I'd actually like to share in the show notes and in the email we send out for this to our subscribers of actually. before he gets to his goal. and they'll be like. So. it gets you out of bed- even if you have to get up at 5:30 in the morning.” So. every learning process pretty much you start off with a lot of motivation. every single day. It shows a man on a bike. so you need to take learning into your own hands and not just learn in school but learn outside as well. it's one of those dreams like. and he has to climb this snowy mountain. named Jonathan Height. I think recognizing first that everyone is unique in the way that they learn. like he just has to go straight.” When you really need to have a purpose that is driving today. and as we hinted at the beginning. up this hill to arrive at his destination. to get in your 30 minutes of English study before starting your day. which is just a straight uphill line. And I would say basically those are at the core of this aspect of determination. to close this part here. You need to have a purpose that's that strong. It will be low some days. it's not the type of passion that's like. I'll have good enough English to travel the world.it shows first how most people think it'll be. you're going to really want it one day and then the next day just be lazy. too. usually for most people just getting a better job or getting promotion or whatever is not a big enough motivation. But some things might not work for you. that clear. She said. about trying things constantly. that's got alligators in it. once you get going a lot of people will start like a new activity. And then. Or.So. before the break of dawn. So. there's a metaphor by this psychologist. the next picture how it really is and it shows oh actually. I would add to that. So. And also because every endeavor. he has to cross this lake. that burning inside you. JUSTIN: Yeah. that book on the science of achievement. JUSTIN: And it goes back to what you were talking about. because being in that class with 10 or 20 or 30 students? The teacher's going to give a very generic lesson plan. “Grit. So. Because it has to be the pain has to outweigh the effort. it's an image that Justin showed me. his achievement. similar to determination. about desire. is about passion and perseverance. “Someday I'll have good enough English to get that job that I've always wanted”. I think that that's a really good visual representation for what we're talking about here. And all of these other things. Learn outside of the classroom. And generally. And about taking responsibility. desire. 4 12:20 . that you can reflect on every single day. but then that motivation will dip down. but it's like Angela Duckworth. but it's ability to really day in and day out. the author of Grit.

you can't really do anything to get it going. but we also specialize in helping you decipher.” but did you know that adding the word ARE in between WHAT and the YOU in “What ARE you” can also become “wha-chew”? For example:” o What are you doing -. which becomes “wha-chew” or even “wha-cha”. but now we’re going to get really ninja. Today we’re going to use a popular song to show you how natives blend the sounds in expressions like “got you. These Connected Speech Tips are advanced.“whachew gonna do?” 5 . imagine an elephant with a guy riding it. but if you're.And basically he talks about. powerful animal and the rider is in control. So. But if your elephant. the key is. But you're just going to sit down with a piece of paper and you're going to think of why are you learning English? Native Connected Speech Tip #1 T + Y = Ch (what + you = wha-chew) Aww yeah. give it your full attention. we need to recognize that natives don’t speak like robots. your emotional part. because he's way more powerful. Words that end with “T.” followed by words that begin with “Y” often form a “Ch” sound-  “Got you” becomes “got-chew” --. and connect you on the RealLife Way. And just to make this kind of more practical for people I thought I would give them an exercise that I like to do with all of my students. brought to you by our very own RealLife Native Immersion Course. And it only takes maybe 15 minutes or so. Is the elephant is this really big. but powerful Native Connected Speech Tip. to really define and to be able to get in contact everyday with that why they're learning. is to get to the point where it's like the elephant and the rider are going in the same direction.” which becomes “gotcha” or “nice to meet you” which becomes “nice to me-chew”. which we are going to teach you to perceive and imitate. But once you get it going. think about who's more powerful and who's smarter. But if the elephant decided that he wanted to really take control into his own hands. that's the rider in this case. use. It's like your rational mind says you might want to learn English. and the muscles of articulation in our mouth. So. and repeat this part as much as you need to. ETHAN: Yeah.“wha-chew doing” o What are you going to do? -. so if you want to get the most out of them. We speak with rhythm and flow. and this will take you so far. where Ethan. he could. he's riding it. and infuse native English into your everyday life. In order to open our ears. we highly recommend you download the transcript. Let’s do another imitation exercise: o I like what you said—“I like wha-chew you said” o What you really want to say – “wha-chew really wanna say” This advanced stuff. your rational self. if you can align your motivation with your rider. But this is the main idea about really plugging into your desire. So we now know t hat “what you” becomes “wha-chew. this is Justin. Then you power forward with so much progress so quickly.“gotcha”  “Nice to Meet you” becomes “nice to mee-chew” -. it depends on how deep you want to dive with this exercise. empower.“nice to mee-cha” Two more common words that blend together are “what you. to the way that natives really speak. and we’re going to take a quick break from the podcast for another simple. we follow a predictable pattern. Chad. To get them to think about why they're learning English. to your will. and I (Justin) not only inspire. your motivation doesn't really want it.

if you find that your main motivation is “Oh.” If you know the song. the last thing you're going to do is get a sticky note. So. Or a piece of paper. and even record and listen to yourself. what you1 want. or even playful situations. Listen to it and pay attention to all the times that we morph “what you want” to “what you want” and “what are you going to do” to “wha-cha-gonna do. what are1 you going to2 do when they come for you. when you've actually imagined that situation in your head. you’ll find the lyrics in the transcript. right? That's why. bad boys. “I am 19:05 6 . I want to get a better job” or “I want to get a promotion” then. bad boys. So I can speak to foreigners in my city. Aww yeah! I hope you enjoyed that. And you might even add into this another exercise if you want to spend a little extra time. natives often omit the “are” in “what are you. Bad Boys. And you should feel excited when you think about. what you1 want. You keep doing this until you get to the point where the answer is just because. That's going to be your really big goal. so if you wanna sing along. that's not again.like we learned “what-chew. use. I highly recommend that you listen.” And finally. This is the kind of native English that we teach you to decipher. you're going to come up with that. there’s a TON of connected speech exemplifying today’s Native Connected Speech Tip. repeat. So. What (are) you = wha-cha boys. Bad 1.RealLifeGlobal. it's not really the main motivation. And then. what are1 you going to2 do. ask yourself again why? Why do I want to get a better job? And maybe the answer is “Oh. Going to = gonna to2 do when they come for you. treat it as a listening exercise. and that's going to be your core motivation. You can learn more about the RealLife Native Immersion Course in the e-mail that you received with this lesson. So.we’re gonna slow it down to about 80% speed. Want to = wanna going to2 do. So. Now let’s get back to this episode of the RealLife Way! Just that question. but if not. JUSTIN: It's almost like I can't not do it. What can't you not do? Create a little bit of a confusing sentence. a small piece of paper and you're go ing to write this out as an affirmation. so if it is get a better job. You can't go any deeper. this actually comes out of that book that we were talking about. so that I can help my kids learn. with complete pronunciation breakdowns. To really learn and master these sounds. you might say for example. whatever it is. write down that question “why am I learning English?” And you can write down as many different ideas that come to mind. so I can make more money. that I can travel. bad boys. An affirmation is basically a goal. or at www.” leaving “what you” or -. your really big vision.com/immersion. what you1 want to3 do. as if it were already true. Let’s do this! Bad Boys (Inner Circle) Bad boys. what are1 you going 2. and infuse in your everyday life. what are1 you going to2 do. practice A LOT. As you can see. ETHAN: Exactly. but it's written in the present tense. which we're going to talk about in a minute. what are1 you 3. You're going to write down all these different motivations. by the band Inner Circle. I encourage you to sing along. So.You see. what are1 you going to2 do. so I can see the world.” And then ask yourself again why? And keep doing this. in more relaxed. Grit. I’m gonna share an excellent example how natives do this in the popular song.

anywhere. of speaking in a foreign language.” And that's your affirmation. especially when I first meet people. meaning that you kind of embrace it. You can be as creative with this as you want. right? How would you describe that? ETHAN: Confidence really is just the ability to do what's uncomfortable. if you want to actually get to the objective side. So. where you're at in your own English learning process. of all the things you've learned about your own process. where you really have the confidence that you can do this. Having a vision of yourself. hopefully multiple times per day. to believe in yourself. I think you can be more clear as well. having that confidence is really going to help your motivation as you go along. or the next aspect of really being a great English learner and a great English speaker is having a vision. Like. I would probably stick it right next to my computer. the easier it becomes. but the important thing is you're coming into contact and thinking about this every single day. So. even though it's uncomfortable. to be self aware of what you need. It explains in a very detailed way what it's like to be the most advanced English speaker that you can be. So. So. if I were to do this. should we move onto the Vision aspect? JUSTIN: Yeah. I have to speak to people and the sooner that you do that. something that has helped me to become more extroverted. But moving onto the belief in yourself. So the first thing is having clear goals. because I work on my computer all the time. to be aware of where you want to be and what you're capable of. I had one of the students. It's your why. getting self-awareness. The more that you do it. because I realize it's what's necessary if I want to become fluent in a language. you might say. But besides that. it's getting to that point where you're comfortable in your own skin. the standardized tests. which we'll talk about in a 7 21:56 . And a lot of the tests out there. I would say it's really important for learning English to learn how to do this. which explains all the different levels. we're going to give you a couple of recommendations for how you can do this. That's really important. So. There's something called the European Common Reference of Languages. so he would see it every time he looked on his phone. for example. That's a pretty clear goal. you have really focused on this. The next step. Like you recognize that it's difficult and you do it anyway. it's like your vision of the world and your place in it. to be a comfortable and confident English speaker. Your vision of English learning. Ethan. into that initial discomfort. that's Desire. And also kind of a part in “Grit” and in “Deilberate Practice”. somebody to give you feedback. the better. So. it's your purpose. will map English fluency onto this framework. So. To be self aware. I would definitely say like I am more introverted. It's like where do you want to be with your English? I think it was excellent like your student said there. it's really important to have a vision of yourself. and it's also you'll find that confidence is kind of a muscle. that said. or a coach. you can get that from a teacher. he took a picture of it and set it as the background on his phone. And you're going to stick that somewhere where you're going to see that everyday. Because having that belief. because you know it's going to get you where you need to be.comfortable and confident speaking English with anyone. You lean into those awkward situations. So. But something that I've learned through learning languages. So. you've created a lot of content around how to be a confident English speaker. JUSTIN: What do you mean by lean in? ETHAN: You lean in.

it's just part of the process. when they're practicing some new skill or micro-skill that they're trying to master. that are going to make those mistakes in their learning emerge. Not what they're doing right. they embrace the mistakes. You're going to have to keep stretching yourself and keep leaning into more and more uncomfortable situations. I highly recommend it. Or more and more uncomfortable exercises. spelling competitions and she found that people who are really experts in their field. you're going to have to find ways to make the conversations more challenging. Grit. and comfortable with mistakes and difficulties that go along with that and recognizing this is not-. somebody with a growth mindset will see like intelligence is a question of neuroplasticity. in a way it's kind of like. JUSTIN: Stepping outside of your comfort zone. she discovered that there are two different mindsets. we can include this in the show notes. And I feel like most English learners they're wanting to avoid what they did wrong. that sense of vulnerability is super important to get really comfortable with that. So. So. are you actually learning? Is it actually doing you good? Are you actually making progress? ETHAN: And is it in line with your why. as well. Two different attitudes that people have about themselves. “My gosh. if you work hard the difficult struggle of working hard to learn something is reciprocated by a new wiring of your brain. ETHAN: Yeah. You can change your brain. that shame. what's going to happen?” That embarrassment. like. they're not going to ask what they did well.little bit.there's nothing wrong with you. or if you have a problem. after a little bit. They're wanting to kind of ignore and maybe even deceive themselves a little bit that they're better than they are. which we talked about before. I thought it was really interesting that she talks about how experts. And I actually think in that book. From athletics to academics. intelligence. They want to know what they're doing wrong. And I think in some sense. With your core reason that you're learning. JUSTIN: Yeah. and about learning. But the idea. Or to avoid doing the things that are difficult. if you make a mistake or you can't communicate. So. so that they can focus on overcoming what they did wrong. if you want to deepen into these ideas. it's kind of your theory about yourself. that difficulty and just being okay with it. So. Angela Duckworth in the book “Grit”. for example. She has a six minute Ted Talk. having those kind of basic conversations is going to become easier. And these create two fundamentally different ways of looking at. So. about what success is. responding to it. is doing things that stretch you. JUSTIN: So it's really coming down to the question of like. And so. And if you have a fixed mindset you look at intelligent 8 . Another really great piece of science that contributed to our thinking on this is Carol Dweck and she wrote a book called “The New Science of Success”. They want to know what they did wrong. because she interviewed hundreds and maybe thousands of experts in all sorts of different fields. not even caring about the external validation as much as. to things like chess or spelling bees. And she talks about growth mindset and these ideas overlap.

it's like you kind of have to change the narration in your own head. they can have certain talents. so your skill in something equals your natural talent. when we're growing up will value our innate talent. And then. But something that Angela Duckworth shows in Grit.” So. our hard work. who's speaking English. you feel bad. or who doesn't work hard to achieve their goals. keep learning. people can be naturally gifted. that they actually worked really hard for that. skill x effort equals achievement. who's not going to give up. your mindset. but you need to actually empower your vision. So. They tend to see someone who is really great at something. Obviously if you have a natural ability for learning English. or being successful in something.” instead of telling them. Vision and now we're going to talk about Discipline. not just having the desire to learn. they must just be naturally gifted with languages. It counts twice as much as talent. but they never actually get to the point where they have enough skill. this is your vision of yourself. which has actually been backed up by science. who is willing to work hard. take critical feedback and learn from that. So. What exactly is grit in the discipline sense. You're so smart. 27:25 9 . So. JUSTIN: They're always going to have the ability. if you see someone from your country. and they're speaking super fluently. instead of our determination. So. do I have responsibility? And do I have the opportunity to keep going and change my behavior? Keep trying. it's just kind of like a different. is that while talent is important effort counts for twice. So. ETHAN: That said. If somebody corrects your mistakes. ETHAN: The stories we tell ourselves are crucial. So. and I'm not. “You did such a good job on this. How you look at yourself. ETHAN: And a lot of this comes out of just what we've been told by our parents.” And true. she actually gives a formula that skill. Like a fixed mindset is going to be offended by feedback. you get defensive or something. is ultimately going to be more successful than the talented person who maybe has a fixed mindset. I know a lot of parents they like to tell their kids. if you looked at that altogether. how you look at the world. Which means that effort counts twice as much as skill. it will be helpful. it's the action component. no matter what. You're just going to think “Well. But the person who is disciplined. we talked a lot about grit before. your goals and this is really important for being successful. we so talked about Desire. you must have worked really hard. it would be skill x effort squared equals achievement. You can't see. “You did such a good job on this. Or if you don't do well in a test. a lot of people. shall we jump into the last pillar of Determination? JUSTIN: Yeah. Ethan? ETHAN: People tend to think that what's really important is being talented at something. I guess I'll never be that good. So. and your attitude with the right tools to be successful. This is where we take it into that world. not be offended by it. for example.people or successful people and you believe that it's just natural talent. multiplied by the effort that you put into. JUSTIN: Yes. by our teachers. fundamentally different approach to learning that we're talking about. it goes back to this question of these failures. So. Your self awareness. for learning another language.

I always got kind of average grades in my language classes. you must be such a good language learner. habit is so important to really make these actions repetitive. And someone who doesn't have so much talent. And then. Another thing which is super important that we've talked a lot about in RealLife English. So what is the 30-day challenge? JUSTIN: A 30-day challenge is like when you select a new behavior that you want to integrate into your life. it's like if every morning you have to wake up and decide that you have to study English. But it's not enough just to have the thing that you say that you're going to do everyday. and easy in your life. Or. I do this and I have some conditions with it. I don't know. is habit. which I'll share in the show notes. then you apply that effort. And this is like kind of that first level of developing a habit. you don't have to make that decision every single day. they're going to read five pages everyday. I've become a good language learner. if you start with something small and you do it everyday it becomes automatic. so he doesn't make it a priority.ETHAN: Exactly. I think he does have that very natural ability. you see. it can be like eating an apple a day. we develop our own 30-day challenge. that you don't demand so much effort. on the other hand. depending on the habit you're trying to develop for it to become an actual ingrained habit. still from what he learned in high school. And I've seen this a lot with my own learning. But. but you choose to do it every single day for 30 days. “True. But my brother is not fluent in any other languages. Which means that you don't have to think about it. So.” And then. because a lot of times when people find out like I speak several different languages. JUSTIN: There you go. but not motivation. ETHAN: Yeah. And my brother. So. and efficient. And first I have them watch this TED Talk. then it becomes almost a lot more automatic. at least when I'm going through a period where I'm really studying a language. And that's a very big difference between someone who has talent. once you reach that first platform of skill. for example. exactly.the second layer of effort leads to achievement. I discipline myself to do it every single day. So. basically. “Oh. but they put in that effort. ETHAN: So. So. very small. lifelong fluency.” And I would say. because of my experience. So. maybe like running for five minutes. I never did that well in school. grit is super important in this sense. And my brother doesn't have that motivation. called “Try Something New. they choose something usually related to English. it becomes easier and easier over time. If you do it for 30 days. Again. but I don't think that I've ever had a natural talent. but it comes into play a lot more here. they tend to say. JUSTIN: So. he speaks some basic Spanish. that you're going to study English. It can be something very. But the difference there is that I am very motivated to learn languages and so I disciplined myself to. you can expand that base of habits. They say from different studies that they've done that it takes about 30 days or up to six weeks. because 30:19 10 . where it's on autopilot. right? ETHAN: Exactly. one of the first things I do with all of my students is I have them do a 30-day challenge. it might be that they want to get in the habit of reading everyday in English. So. it becomes really difficult. that first layer of skill. It becomes a drain.” I've learned a lot about what goes into learning. And it becomes something that you give up pretty easily. but I tell them if they have another priority they can choose that.

So.” However much money you need it to be.to put something at stake? JUSTIN: Put something at stake just means that you're going to lose something if you don't do it. it's okay. a lot of people will give up. And so. there's a lot of things you can do. you can get back on the habit. or whatever. you're going to hold them accountable. Another thing is. the decision is a limited resource. And what does that mean. right? ETHAN: Exactly. then it's really for you one day to be like. are one: they have someone holding them accountable. “I'm going to give $20 to this person. I had one of my students she had her husband hold her accountable. 33:14 11 . entirely. “Oh. But it's finding that central. and then you won't spend will power on it anymore. core habit that's going to affect all the other habits. But one keystone habit is making English a part of your everyday life. And so you can't do too many habits at once. I've had a lot of people do other things. And the important thing is just recognize it happens sometimes. Today I'm not going to do it. just that desire to do something everyday.” So. It becomes an easier thing. And the third thing I want to emphasize is that there's a thing called “keystone habits”. maybe like listening to this podcast. And that's really going to help you. Or there are a million other things you can do. for example. So. ETHAN: Definitely. if you fall off the horse. exercise is considered a keystone habit. in our case.” Or. “Everyday I don't do this. and after those 30 days it kind of just becomes effortless. Just get back on. that was like one example. if you. it's like this is the whole purpose of doing like one small habit at a time. And that's part of the fun of it. a lot of people would just say.that's it. really. I just wanted to underscore here. “Shoot for 100% and be happy with 80. just start again. because when you exercise. but it becomes extremely powerful when you have someone that's going to be checking in on you and you have something that you're going to lose if you don't do it. with English. for example. I'm really tired. or for a week. much more likely to do it. And she told him. So. what they say is. you probably eat better. And then other part of it that they need to have. I will iron one of your shirts. as a teacher come along and say. So. it affects other aspects of your life as well. Justin? To have someone to hold you accountable? JUSTIN: Somebody who sort of like checks on you. you can get very creative with this. it could be monetary. or maybe watching a TV series on a regular basis. right? There’s sort of an external accountability. “Everyday I don't do this. So. “Hey. if you fail for a couple of days. ETHAN: Exactly. give you permission to fail. I'm going to donate $50 to this charity. because you need to make that habit automatic. maybe you sleep better. Most likely you're going to do it every single day.” And so. the other two conditions that they have. So. And a lot of times it's like one important habit that will change many other habits. So. is they have to put something at stake. because it's going to suck to tell you that you didn't do it. so a couple of things. a lot of times it'll go hand in hand with the person who's holding you accountable. But. to make sure that you're doing it. To emphasize is that will power. maybe you stop doing other destructive habits. to motivate you to do that. So. What does that mean. JUSTIN: Yeah. if you don't do it.” And she didn't want to do that because she didn't want him to have the satisfaction of her ironing his shirts. did you do it?” The person's much more motivated. 'Cause you're going to hold them responsible. So. at any point you can get back on the horse.

in the next couple of weeks and next couple of days. no. JUSTIN: Let’s do it. and I want you to answer these two questions: The first one is: How does English help you to fill your potential in life? The second one is: How does determination help you to realize your potential in the rest of your life? And of course. you have the 30-day challenge and you have the why. So. ETHAN: Awesome. So. I mean. to really get you reflecting on these ideas. Actually take a little bit of time today.JUSTIN: So. three. BOTH: Aww yeah! Song: Never Give Up (by Sia) I've battled demons that won't let me sleep Called to the sea but she abandoned me But I won't never give up. The one of creating a new habit through a 30-day challenge. it's extremely powerful. getting them to hold you accountable. never give up no. so let's one. don't think you have to learn this all at once. those are the three pillars of Determination. we're going to share some videos in the show notes. and for every day that I don't. Choose some sort of small habit and go through this yourself. ETHAN: One two. So. Just 10. by picking. telling someone about your challenge. “Aww yeah” them out of here. no. And this is really important for you to be successful in your English learning process. as you learn and as you study. three. ETHAN: So. And I'm looking forward to the next one. never give up. You might even say on Facebook. anyways. this is just the start and we have some more really awesome lessons coming for you. do you have anything else you wanted to say to wrap up. So. actually defining your why and writing an affirmation that you look at daily. I'm going to. two. oh 12 . And with that. no. no. no (repeat) And I won't let you get me down I'll keep gettin' up when I hit the ground Oh. no. I'm going to donate $50 to this charity. This is going to be really powerful if you actually take the time to do this. all of this good motivation go to waste. I've enjoyed sharing this with you guys. grab a piece of paper. sit down for 15 minutes and go through these short exercises. never give up. I'm going to get up an hour earlier. there are a lot of ideas here.. I just want to wrap this up by giving you guys a few small homework assignments. And picking something that you're going to have at stake. watch TED Talks. But it's a process and it will definitely help you. And applying them to your own learning. Vision. 15 minutes is all it'll take. as soon as you finish this podcast if you can. you have those two questions. don't let all of this good information. I'm going to eat sandwiches everyday. no. And I encourage you to read some of these books. So. never give up no. and Discipline.. And the other one that I talked about earlier. So.” and you put whatever you have at stake. you have: Desire. we already talked about a couple of other exercises that you can do. Justin? JUSTIN: I just wanted to say this is a process. never give up. “I'm going to do this thing for the next 30 days. oh I won't let you get me down I'll keep gettin' up when I hit the ground Oh.

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