This action might not be possible to undo. Are you sure you want to continue?
gaming ceases to be fun. It's like the alcoholic who is no longer in denial. Reality has ruined his drinking! He may persist but, henceforth, in shame and guilt until his internal honesty finally moves him to get help. Accepting the whole truth can often be uncomfortable but it is an amazing a gift when one finally sees clearly for the first time. There can be a twisted sort of satisfaction, even comfort in complaining about failure, lack of progress, victimhood, or being defeated. "Misery loves company" is the old saying. Two or three people can be having a perfectly good time commiserating and gossiping about the various bogeymen in their lives. In walks the optimistic, successful leader. He completely annihilates the dour BS by demonstrating how he overcame the same obstacles and came out way ahead! There are times when my conscious thinking, by default, goes down the wrong road and imagined conflicts; even all out wars, erupt in my head. I imagine second and third parties doing and saying things I would dread. And it s all fantasy rather a bad daydream. I have discovered that when I catch myself doing this, I can turn a potentially rotten day into a wonderful slice of life by reversing my thoughts and seeing the reality of the world through the lens of enterprise and abundance rather than scarcity and fear. I firmly believe in positive (good) and negative (evil) forces working in everyone s life. I ll leave theology out of this but most everyone understands light and darkness, love and hate, health and illness, life and death and so on. Here s a fact of life. There are positive influences and negative influences in everyone s life and that which you dwell on or feed with your thinking creates your attitude as well as your ultimate position in the world. The habit of catching yourself in fear-based, bogeyman thinking and then channeling your thoughts back to realistic and productive ideas is extremely empowering. Thought habits are hard to change but the more we learn about ourselves internally, the more naturally our thinking can change for the better. There is a multi-billion dollar industry in personal development and life coaching. There are perhaps millions of practitioners that basically try to teach only one thing: the fact that we have the power to change our thoughts; we can channel or direct our thinking where we want and reject negative thought impulses when we want. That which you think about, so shall you become is one of the simplest principles to grasp and yet it is elusive to the vast majority of human beings. Perhaps more instructive it is to say that we don t control most situations but rather our responses to them. Mastering emotion is the skill by which we can be a beacon of sanity and hope in the most chaotic of situations. Great business leaders understand this notion and have learned to be the masters of their responses to any stimuli.
Any time you feel victimized, shorted, screwed or cheated, don t let anger, fear, vengeance, envy or despair pollute your thinking and cause an emotional reaction. You have free will and intellect. Harness that freedom. You are free to love in spite of injustice and hate. You are free to smile in spite of glaring frowns. You are free to forgive in spite of harbored grudges. You are free to work in spite of others sloth. This all may sound hokey or trite but if that s what you re thinking STOP! You will have just proven my point about negative versus positive thinking. Rather, consider the value of these statements. This stuff is very serious business. It will directly affect your long-term professional success or failure. Your actions determine your outcomes and your actions are dictated by your mind. Your business will succeed or fail depending on how your thinking directs your actions. Feed your mind always with enterprise and virtue and your success is virtually guaranteed. Here s a bit of caution. Nature acts not in haste and neither should you. A mighty oak tree will develop and mature at only one speed. Give yourself the necessary time to develop better thought habits. The master key to better more action-producing thought habits is repetition. When you practice accurate, positive thinking every single day, prodigious results will begin to unfold sooner that you may expect. Carry on!