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Hannah Downs

Interview Project
Psych 201
7-14-15
Early Childhood
Name: Enoch
Age: 6
Gender: Male
Relation: Cousin
Parents: Kathryn & John

1. Describe a typical day.


“Go to swim lessons, play a few video games, go have lunch, then more playing.
Go on a few trips and then have dinner and then go to bed.”

2. What activities do you enjoy most?


“Well, on a screen I like playing video games but that’s only for screen. But like
actual things I like to do I like swim.”

3. What activities do you least enjoy?


“Go to bed!”

4. Describe your best friend. What qualities does he or she have?


“Zeke! Smart, he’s playful, he is…like friendly.”

5. What is your greatest achievement this far in life?


“Win 21 to 1 in soccer!”

6. What is your greatest regret thus far in your life?


“Obeying. Maybe not obeying.”

7. What are you looking forward to in the near future?


Be in first grade and go tot eh next level of swimming.”

8. What are you looking forward to in the far future?


““Being a policeman, or a firefighter and do what teenagers do. Drive! And then
get married, that’s what you’ve gatta do!”
Enoch is 6 years old and he is extremely adventurous. He is attending school now,

which is very exciting for him. He is part of a more traditional classroom setting so

learning is very passive but he is able to interact more with children when he is involved

in sports. He plays on a soccer team and has also started up swimming. This has allowed

him to be more social with his interactions with other children. His parents have brought

him up in more of an authoritative style, which promotes high self-esteem, so he is very

confident among his peers and enjoys cooperative play with them, like when his friend

Josh comes over he loves to get on the trampoline and play games together with him. He

is also involved in many different kinds of sports where he associates with other children

and helps them to reach a common goal.

Enoch, like most 6 year olds has his times when he is upset or misunderstood. He

expresses a lot of reactive aggression when he gets upset. So a lot of what he does is in

reaction to the responses or actions of others. For example if he doesn’t get a turn with a

game or something that he wants to play with then he usually reacts negatively through

physical or verbal means in order to harm others around him or those responsible. When

this happens or things get out of control then his parents step in and use some discipline

techniques such as time out or loss of privileges. He has specific time set aside called

“Screen Time” and during the duration period he is allowed so much screen time every

day and if he breaks a rule then it is taken away from him. Often times to help Enoch

understand how his action are effecting others his parents will use a type of discipline

called induction so that Enoch can notice the feelings of others caused by his

misbehavior.
Enoch has a very creative mind. He tells elaborate stories of dragons and

mountain men and riding flying bananas into the sunset. He plays make believe quite

often and when he is doing this a lot of the time he will engage in socio-dramatic play

where specific roles are used, like someone is the mom and someone is the dad. This also

gives way to private speech as well, he will be found often times talking to himself

about things he is doing or he sometimes explaining things to himself which helps him to

understand things a little more.

As Enoch has developed his self-concept he has begun to realize that he is a boy,

he has brown hair and he likes video games. In regards to emotional development he is

beginning to become self-conscious. When someone was talking to him while he was

eating an apple he dropped something on his hand and it hurt really badly. He looked up

and said, “Hold on just a minute, I’ll be right back”. Then he left and went to sit in a

corner and cry. He recognized that his emotions were coming and he didn’t want that

person to see, cause he was embarrassed. Another thing that he has started doing is when

things are getting out of hand and people are beginning to argue in front of him or make

him stressed out he puts his hands on his ears so that the sound is muffled in order to

block out the unpleasant situation. This is a strategies used for emotional self-regulation.
Middle Childhood
Name: George
Age: 8
Gender: Male
Relation: Cousin
Parents: Jason and Sarah
1. Describe a typical day.
“Wake up, eat breakfast, clean, eat lunch, play xbox, play outside, go to scouts or
wrestling practice, get ready for bed, eat dinner, then go to sleep.”

2. What activities do you enjoy most?


“Playing with Nathan (neighbor kid). Playing the xbox and playing “survival”
outside.”

3. What activities do you enjoy least?


“Folding clothes and doing chores. I hate those.”

4. Describe your best friend. What qualities does he or she have?


“Freckles, blond hair, funny, playful, kind, and he likes to experience new
things.”

5. What is your greatest achievement thus far in life?


“Eating four biscuits today for breakfast because that is my new record!”

6. What is your greatest regret thus far in life?


“Being mean to Aunt Pat.” (Great Aunt who lives next door.)

7. What are you looking forward to in the near future?


“Presents for my birthday for next year. Oh! Also Christmas.”

8. What are you looking forward to in the far future?


“I want to fly to the Milky Way and see if I can drink some milk in space. Also
being a cop, but mainly a spaceman.”
George is 8 years old and he has been raised by authoritative parents who apply

appropriate autonomy granting so that George can learn better self-control, which

applies to regulating himself and doing things on his own. They use coregulation with

George which allows him to generally make his own decision but his parents are there

overseeing things. He is also less gender typed or operates less androgynous. For

example George has an older sister who has graduated high school and he enjoys going

shopping and spending time painting her nails, but when he is with his brothers then he

acts very manly around them and would never admit to doing any of those other things.

When it comes to physical development George has done well and developed

some of his gross-motor skills like agility and force, which boys excel in more then

girls. He plays on a soccer team and is currently competing in wrestling and so he uses

these two skills to shine in these regions. In regards to fine-motor skills his drawings

have improved to show that he understands depth cues, that distant objects are smaller

and different proportions for things. When drawing a picture of his house he made sure to

make the flowers in the front much smaller then the house, and he made the back yard

shed a little smaller then the house as well because it was farther away.

Participating in sports and school has helped George show that he uses creative

intelligence to solve problems. He uses his skills to come up with useful solutions to

problems. These social activities have also helped him develop better cognitive self-

regulation. He now better monitors his progress towards a goal. He wanted to buy a

teddy bear once from a store and so he started saving for it. Every day he would go in and

ask how much he had and how much more he needed. After 2 or 3 weeks of doing odd
jobs around the house and earning small amounts of change from performing them he

was able to save up for it and get it.

When it comes down to it George displays a lot of egocentrism. He is still set in

his mind that everyone thinks the way that he does and that he is the best at most things.

After starting some swimming lessons he came home in excitement and exclaimed “I am

better then all the other swimmers!”. He still participates in make believe as well and has

a huge imagination, and this helps him to be more social. He would be described as

popular-pro-social, because he always tries to surround himself with other children to

talk and play with.


Adolescence
Name: Bailey
Age: 17
Gender: Female
Relation: Cousin
Parents: Leslie & Jay
1. Describe a typical day.
“Wake up, seminary, go to school, and chilled. Different classes every day.
Go to work after and then I come home, eat dinner and go to bed.”

2. What activities do you enjoy most?


“Going outside, hiking, camping, sleep, hanging out with friends, laying
back.”

3. What activities do you enjoy least?


“Yard work and cleaning the house.”

4. Describe your best friend. What qualities does he/she have?


“My best friend is kind and listens, trustworthy. We can always depend on
him. He’s always there, he’s funny.”

5. What is your greatest achievement thus far in life?


“Finishing high school. Being able to pass all my classes.”

6. What is your greatest regret thus far in life?


“Not paying more attention in my education and taking it seriously. If I had
tried harder I could have gotten better grades.”

7. What are you looking forward to in the near future?


“College, and kind of get out and find out who I am and be able to know who
I am and branch out in my life and socialize.”

8. What are you looking forward to in the far future?


“Getting married and having a family. Get a good education and yeah,
basically just the marriage and family.”
Bailey’s parents have two completely different parenting styles. Her mother is

highly passive and her father is authoritarian, so this created a very different way of

handling each situation she is presented with. Depending on what it is she will respond

with lack of confidence or she will respond in a way that is highly anxious and very

dependent. An example of this would be when her mother and her aunts wanted to go on

a trip to California. So Bailey’s mother brought Bailey because she couldn’t say no to her

and then during the whole trip she was having her mother help her with everything and

she couldn’t do anything for herself. And then while Bailey’s father was coaching her

basketball team she was scared about doing well and got anxious which resulted in her

not being able to play very well. Despite their different parenting styles they are good at

allowing appropriate autonomy for Bailey. She can take the car occasionally if she asks

and she has a cell phone to use for after school activities. Bailey is sometimes immature

as well in how she handles being told to clean and sometimes when she is with her

friends.

I feel that Bailey identified a lot with identity foreclosure because she is not

willing to explore many options but if someone tells her to, or convinces her to do

something then she will very easily commit to it. She doesn’t like making choices for

herself. As she is trying to decide on a college to go to she listened to her parents and

decide she would live at home and go to Weeber University, because that is what tey felt

was best. Then a couple weeks later her cousin visited and told her about Brigham Young

University in Idaho and how great it was and explained the track system and some of the

classes. After that Bailey went and asked her parents if she could go there instead, cause

her mind has been changed again.


Bailey has secure attachment to her parents and family. She is highly trusting of

them and respects them. When she is asked to do something for them around the house or

to help she is usually pretty quick to help and does it without complaining most of the

time. Her parents have more of a traditional marriage so she is used to her mother doing

the cooking and the cleaning and her father working and providing for the family, so she

has learned how to do to a lot of the cooking and cleaning already around the house.

She has pretty low self-esteem when it comes to friends and romantic appeal. She

is often found doing things in order to fit in with the group of friends that she is with and

she has little to no confidence around those of the opposite sex. She gets highly nervous

when talking about boys or even approaching them. When it comes to moral reasoning

Bailey has had a lot of training from her church about how to face situations pertaining to

moral values. She has a normal set of standards that she lives by and when she has been

faced with situations before that have been hard she has been pretty good at making good

choices.
Early Adulthood
Name: Eliza
Age: 21
Gender: Female
Relation: Best Friend
Parents: Janet & Mike
1. Describe a typical day.
“I wake up, go to the gym, got to work, then I eat lunch, write a letter or two
to someone, and then I go back to work, then I come home and eat dinner and
I usually watch a movie with my sister, and go do something fun with
somebody and then I sleep.”

2. What activities do you enjoy most?


“Sports, watch movies, and camping things in the mountains. Hiking,
driving.”

3. What activities do you enjoy least?


“Going to school, being told what to do, being obligated to do things by
others.”

4. Describe your best friend. What qualities does he/she have?


“Funny, happy, easy going, forgiving, loving, easy to be with, understanding,
good listener.”

5. What is your greatest achievement thus far in life?


“Serving a mission.”

6. What is your greatest regret thus far in life?


“Not continuing soccer, quitting soccer too early.”

7. What are you looking forward to in the near future?


“Starting to get into studying what I want to study.”

8. What are you looking forward to in the far future?


“Starting my career, getting married, starting a family, Seeing my siblings go
on missions and get married and start their lives and getting more nieces and
nephews.”
Eliza is a 21 year old college student who has just recently returned from her

mission. So she is still in the process of making the transition into every day life.

Choosing to serve a mission fulfilled a part of the social clock that expects women in her

religion to leave when they are 19 years old, and for the boys, 18 years old. Eliza is

getting back into being a student and is enjoying this realistic period of her life where

she can narrow things down and choose exactly what she wants to do. She has settled on

dental hygiene and will be starting her second semester in the fall.

On her mission Eliza discovered that she had serious problems with depression.

She had little to no desire to get out of bed or do anything during the day. She hated

herself and the way she was and all it did was drag her down more. She also experienced

a mild form of anorexia where she was self-conscious about her image and so she

wouldn’t eat very much and she got to where she was close to just skin and bones. In her

head she had the mindset of dualistic thinking where things are separated into good and

bad. She knew depression was bad, so it made her feel worse. She knew that not eating

was bad so she felt worse about that which made her depression spiral out of control.

She was under an immense amount of psychological stress and so it was really

hard on her. She got herself out of it with the help of a good friend and some coping

mechanisms like exercise and mindfulness. She has since contemplated the comparison

of intimacy verses isolation, because with the problems that she has her self-esteem is

affected and she has a hard time trusting others because she doesn’t trust herself. She had

someone who was interested in her and she was too scared to try it out because she didn’t

think that anyone could ever like her so she left it alone, and then she regretted it and

wished she had more self-confidence. This experience has made leaving home a lot
harder for her now as well. She doesn’t want what happened to her to happen again and

so she is scared of making that transition of leaving her family again.

She has returned home for the time being and she knows that it isn’t a sign of

weakness but she also knows that she needs to branch out and figure out what she is

going to do with her life. She has an identity achievement way of being. She has

branched out and explored options and has now committed to follow through with what

she has chosen. Within the next couple of years she plans on getting married and having

children, so she is hopeful for the future. Once she leaves home she will be able to better

focus on her goals and fulfill the rest of the steps in the family life cycle.
Middle Adulthood
Name: Scott
Age: 50
Gander: Male
Relation: Father
Parents: Larry and Lei
1. Describe a typical day.
“Get up early. I read my scriptures, then I head to work. I’m hungry and want
something to eat. Everyday I want breakfast. I eat on the way. I leave at 5:30.
Start work at 6. Work till lunch. GO out to eat. Office work in the morning,
and then after lunch I work outside till 5 or 6 o’clock. Then mom and me go
out and do something. Eat at a different place every day. We like different
food. Sometimes there good and sometimes there not, and then we have
something talk about. In bed by 9:30.”

2. What activities do you enjoy most?


“Socializing with the community. Getting to know people. Just being with my
wife, going together and experiencing life. I would much rather be with her
doing nothing then by myself doing something.”

3. What activities do you enjoy least?


“I don’t like being told what to do. I don’t like authority. I don’t care what
other people think.”

4. Describe your best friend. What qualities does he/she have?


“Mom, I like to share things with her. Love to hear her opinion. I less and less
want to be by myself. I want to spend time with my wife. She has an opinion,
she’s not afraid to share it. It’s not based on mine. I respect and appreciate her
ideas. She loves me. Together we love each other. We have each other’s best
interest at heart.”

5. What is your greatest achievement thus far in life?


“My children. I have 4 healthy, relevant, successful children who will change
their part of the world.”

6. What is your greatest regret thus far in life?


“I have a very poor relationship with my brother. I may have been able to
make it better, but I regret that.”

7. What are you looking forward to in the near future


“I am looking forward to changing my whole life. We lived where we lived
for our children and now we can live our whole life how we want where we
want.”

8. What are you looking forward to in the far future


“We are excited about living and owning a home of our choosing and our own
design. It will be one that really is a gathering place for our kids. Not a home
but a home but a place to come and have social parties and what not. We are
designing our home to be small and modest with a giant room where we can
gather and spend out time with out kids.”
Scott is in the stage of Middle Adulthood so he is not quite yet close to retiring

but is definitely going to have to start thinking about it as he gets older. Some physical

changes that he has observed is his eyesight has declined quite a bit. He used to only have

to wear glasses to see far away and now he finds himself needing to hold things farther

away so that he can read better closer. He has noticed that his body has experiences a lot

of wear and tear. He was a stonemason for a construction company and he used to be able

to lift and haul a lot more weight then he can now. It is obvious to him that his muscle

and over all force power has weakened. He has also noticed that his hearing is not what it

used to be. Working for construction companies that use loud machinery has not done

them much good

He has very high self-esteem that probably stems from his parents displaying an

authoritative parenting style while he was growing up. They allowed him to do most

things for himself, which helped to display proper autonomy granting, and so he learned

to regulate himself better at an earlier age. From his parents example he made sure to

continue the tradition of authoritative parenting as well. He is affectionate and reasonably

demanding and so his children have good self-esteem and have developed adequate self-

control. When disciplining his children he made sure to let them make their own

decisions and would enforce consequences when necessary.

His parents also had a highly traditional marriage and for this reason and many

others, Scott has established a traditional marriage with his wife as well. He has been

working all his life and has been the main provider for the family, and his wife has taken

on the task of caring for the children and other domestic responsibilities. They have been

married 28 years now and in regards to Sternberg’s Components of Love Scott and his
wife have seen a steady increase in their emotional intimacy as their marriage has

progressed. The passion of coarse peaked for a while right after they were married and

then leveled out more. Their commitment level has evened out quite well during their

time together also. They have found good ways of letting the other know how they are

feeling and what is going on in their lives after so many years of marriage.

He just recently underwent a Midlife Transition where he changed his job

entirely and moved to another state to start something else. This was a big change for him

considering that he has been doing the same thing for the last 20 years and he

experienced what you could consider a burnout. He and his wife sold their home in

Alabama and moved to Washington DC and completely changed around their whole

lifestyle.

When asked about something that he regretted the one that was the hardest for

him to talk about was his relationship with his brother. Over time sibling contact and

support declines from early to middle adulthood, rebounding only after age 70 for

siblings living near each other. He and his brother had a falling out when his brother was

first married. Since then they haven’t spoken and have not kept in contact as they have

moved all around the country. He is hopeful for a future where they can mend the tear

that has kept them apart.


Late Adulthood
Name: Larry
Age: 69
Gender: Male
Relation: Grandfather
Parents: May & Glen
1. Describe a typical day.
“Get up play a little cars. Take a shower. Go out and do yard work. Have
breakfast. Go on a ride, or a walk. Maybe shooting. Maybe take a ride in the
country.”

2. What activities do you enjoy most?


“Gardening, motorcycles, and shooting.”

3. What activities do you enjoy least?


“I don’t like shopping and being around crowds. Running. Organized
exercise.”

4. Describe your best friend. What qualities does he/she have?


“My soul mate, my sweet heart. She’s a good shot, she takes care of my needs
and my children’s needs, we have fun together.”

5. What is your greatest achievement thus far in life?


“My family, my children, my grandchildren. Family heritage. That’s what its
all about.”

6. What is your greatest regret thus far in life?


“I didn’t serve in the military. I was the only son of an only son, so the line
would have died with me. They rejected me.”

7. What are you looking forward to in the near future


“Going on some trips, traveling the country with my sweetheart. Seeing my
family as often as possible.“

8. What are you looking forward to in the far future


“To wake up every day and enjoy that day. I have prostate cancer. So life in
general in 5 years would just be nice.”
Larry is now 69 years old. He has been married to his wife for 50 years and is

dying of prostate cancer. He has been in retirement for 2 years now while he has been

receiving treatments for his health. They are the parents of 7 children and used

authoritative parenting with all of their children except for the last one, with her they

were much more passive. Larry’s health has been declining for several years now as his

body has experienced more wear and tear. He uses glasses now for almost every activity

and his hearing abilities have declined a lot just in the last 3 years or so.

He and his wife had a highly traditional marriage and now she is taking care of

him as he goes through this difficult process. As for his activities of daily living he has

been doing pretty well with those. He is still in good shape to care for himself, except for

when his health problems are acting up. When it comes down to instrumental activities

of daily living, things are a little harder. He answers the phone pretty well when his

children and grandchildren call but sometimes when he is cooking something he will

forget that it is cooking and wont check it and then leave it there to burn until he smells it

and then remembers.

It hasn’t gotten bad enough to where he needs assisted living just yet, but it is

definitely apparent that he is loosing some daily living things and needs help. Despite a

slight decline in short term memory his remote memory seems to be doing just fine.

While doing the interview he was able to recall everything that he was talking about. His

granddaughter called him the other day to ask him about how he met his wife and he

remembered every single detail of what happened that day. On that note he can definitely

spend sufficient time reminiscing about stories and things that happened before.
Everything you ask him about reminds him of a story and so he has been spending most

of his time living in the past now that his life is coming to an end soon.

Even though his mind has begun to deteriorate ever so slightly he is still

considered to have so much wisdom. He worked out his days as a diesel mechanic and

knows everything a man could know about a motor and how it runs. But it’s not just that.

He has experiences so much in his life that he understands problems and situations and

people better then anyone. He has applied and mastered so many principles and is every

so happy to bestow this wisdom on others that he comes in contact with. The cancer is

spreading fast and when asked where he see’s himself in 5 years he said “Dead!”. But he

will live out his days with his sweet wife knowing his life was full and have the age spots

to prove it.
Conclusion

This project has really brought to light some things that I had never realized

before. As I conducted the interviews I kind of, in a way saw the circle of life. As each

person expressed their achievement and their regrets I realized that as we grow older we

go from caring so much about things and sporting events and possession to caring mostly

just about people. As the people got older and older their goals changed. More things

involved people and the role they would or have played in their lives. Trivial things will

never be remembered. That is something that stuck out to me a lot in this entire interview

process. I realized that I need to make time for the things in my life that are really going

to matter in the long run.

I loved the simplicity of the younger children. They didn’t hesitate at all when

they were answering the questions. And most of the things that they answered with were

things that were extremely relevant, even things that happened that very day. And then as

the age increased they started hesitating more and thinking more about their answers and

really contemplating what they wanted to say. Sometimes it was because they didn’t want

to say something they felt was embarrassing, but most of the time I think it was because

they wanted to make it meaningful and relevant to them. I liked that the children had

some funny answers as well. It really shows just how confident and invincible they

believe they are.

When I was doing the adolescent interview I was being taken back in time and

remembered when I was in high school. It was so strange to remember those thoughts and

feelings and afterward I was so very thankful for where I was in my life. The early

adulthood interview was really interesting because she is at the same place that I am at
right now. I have a little more schooling then her, but we are both in that in between stage

where we aren’t really real adults yet but we’re not teenagers anymore. We both agreed

that we are trying to find a good balance between fun and professionalism.

And then as I ventured on into Middle and Late Adulthood the answers got a lot

more sentimental. These are men that are set in their ways and have seen most of what

life can throw at you. Their underlying theme was families though, both of them. They

stressed families like it was the most precious thing they had ever been privileged to own.

So I kind of split these interviews into two groups: those who have made families of their

own and those who haven’t. They know the blessing of family and what making one does

for you in your life.

This is especially true for my grandfather. It was so hard to ask him that last

question. He’s coming up on the end of life right now and he’s looking back and

wondering if he’s done a good job. I loved what he said non-the-less. “I want to wake up

every day and enjoy that day”. He said that even though he knows that he wont. Doing

this project made me realize how short life is, and how each stage serves a purpose and

how I only have two stages left! I need to start being a little bit more thankful for what I

have and for what I’ve lost.

I really enjoyed doing this project because It brought me back to the stages that I

had left behind, it made me thankful for the one I’m in and I think that it helped prepare

me a little bit for the ones to come. I’ve got to start working on making a family and then

I’ve got to work on cherishing it until the end of my days.