Dating Deal Breakers

That Drive Men Away

12 Relationship Killers That Ruin Your Long-
Term Potential With High-Quality Men

By Bruce Bryans

www.BruceBryans.com

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 Table of Contents

Introduction

#1: He Secretly Judges You By Watching This

#2: This Is One Behavioral Flaw NO Man Can Ignore

#3: Good Men Have A Zero Tolerance Policy For This

#4: This Makes Him Think He’ll Never Make You Happy

#5: This Will Drive Him Into A “Lesser” Woman’s Arms

#6: This Makes Him Think You’re Not “Wife” Material

#7: This Can Quickly KILL His Efforts To Please You

#8: You’ll Unknowingly Lose His Trust By Doing This

#9: Your Value Goes Down When You Act Like This

#10: The Behavior That Makes Being With You A Chore

#11: This Makes Him Regret Ever Dating You

#12: This Makes Him Feel Totally Replaceable To You

Final Thoughts

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 Introduction

Many goodhearted men, like their female counterparts, have been burned by bad
relationship experiences. As these experiences add up, a man either develops in
one of two ways:

1. He becomes jaded with trying to form serious relationships with women and
instead opts to keep his affairs with the opposite sex loose, casual, and non-
committal, or…

2. He remains optimistic about long-term relationships but approaches

committing to a woman from a far more rational (and at times, cutthroat)
standpoint.

The first group of men is the subject of one of my other books, namely, He’s Not
That Interested, He’s Just Passing Time. This book, however, will focus on the
latter group of men. These are the guys that are fed up (maybe even more so
than women) with the endless game playing, the awkward first dates, and the
dead-on-arrival romances that make them think, “Well, she was an utter waste of
time.” These are the guys that, because of their emotional maturity, maintain a
positive outlook on commitment as they develop into high-quality, relationship-
minded men. However, although these are the types of men that want to date
and even marry a great woman, they also find it absolutely necessary to have a
low tolerance policy for any behavior that makes a woman appear “unequipped”
to take on a serious relationship.

Just like goodhearted women who want nothing more than to find the right man
to love and someday build a life with, relationship-minded men want desperately
to avoid falling in love with someone that could make their life a living hell. And
because of this one simple fact, guys like this are very discriminating when
assessing a woman’s long-term relationship potential. With a more mature view
of what it takes to fully love and cherish a woman, high-quality men are highly
rational creatures who have no qualms about ending things with a woman once
they realize she possesses some negative quality that could make trying to
cultivate a relationship with her an exercise in insanity.

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The thing is, as a man matures he becomes less trusting of a woman’s physical
beauty and amiable personality. Instead, when evaluating her long-term
relationship potential, he places greater attention on the quality (or lack thereof)
of her personal character, as well as those things that have a direct or indirect
influence upon her character (such as the people, places, and things in her life).

All this brings us to the reason why this book was written. Within the contents of
these pages, I hope to provide you with an inside look at the most common
(culled from years of dating experience and research) dating red flags that high-
quality men consider “deal-breakers”, the kind of deal-breakers that compel
them to stop pursuing a woman, ignore her texts (and phone calls), and
eventually blow up a budding relationship.

Narrowing Things Down

There could be a hundred or so reasons why a woman might be considered non-

girlfriend material to the guys she normally dates. Unfortunately, this short book
wasn’t meant to be an exhaustive list of relationship killers that explain why a
man might pull away, withdraw from a budding romance, or break-up with a
woman. No two men will need or want the exact same things in a relationship,
and therefore it’s almost impossible to catalogue every single dating deal
breaker a man might have.

Therefore, to tackle this topic in an unbiased way, the subject matter of this book
will focus on the most common relationship mistakes, based solely on a
woman’s character (and those things that effect her character), that turn
high-quality men off.

To do this effectively, I chose not to focus on superficial behaviors or physical

attributes that different men may find unattractive enough to lose interest in a
woman. For example, some men are quieter in nature and thus prefer the
company of extremely chatty women. While an overly chatty woman might be a
deal breaker for one guy, the quiet man may find her conversational vivacity
quite refreshing. Also, it wouldn’t be fair for me to state that a woman with hairy
arms (due to her ethnicity) or a hint of hair above the lip is a deal breaker for

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most men. I’m well aware that some women are naturally hairier than others,
and honestly, a good portion of men have no qualms dating and marrying such
women. Again, these are more superficial variations in female personalities,
behaviors, and physical attributes that no one source of information can justly
account for.

Instead of focusing on men in general and trying to account for these varied
differences of dating deal breakers, what this book purposes to do is to focus on
a much smaller subset of men: high-quality men. The reason for this is because
these men are more likely to assess a woman’s relationship potential based on
her character rather than her physical appearance or interpersonal chemistry
alone. So for this book, we’ll focus on those aspects of a woman’s character that
high-quality men consider unattractive and deal breaking turn offs.

Because these points are based on a woman’s character, the content within this
book will prove advantageous to the astute woman. Why? Because unlike
superficial behaviors or the nuances of physical attributes, a woman’s character
can be improved to such effect as to make her vastly more attractive to more
relationship-minded, high-quality men. This is, of course, assuming a woman so
desires to improve her intrinsic value in the eyes of a potential high-quality
suitor.

After you’ve passed a man’s physical appearance test, he will gauge your level of
chemistry with him (the way you make him feel). And once a man realizes that
he has a good enough amount of chemistry with you, over time he will slowly
evaluate various aspects of your character in order to determine if you are, in
fact, a woman worth dating for long-term love and perhaps even marriage.

The Women That Need This Book

Now that we’ve briefly discussed the type of men this book will focus on, I think
it’s important for me to be upfront about the type of woman that will benefit
most from this material. In order to provide the highest amount of value
possible, I must confess that this book will resonate and benefit you greatly
assuming two things:

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1. You want to attract and keep the attention of a high-quality man (a man with
high self-esteem, ambition, leadership qualities, compassion, cherishes
commitment, has high-standards for himself, defends his personal boundaries,
knows what he wants, speaks his mind, understands the value of relationships,
and exudes masculine, sexual confidence).

2. You want to pursue and nurture a loving relationship that can lead to marriage
with such a man.

If you’re not interested in dating guys that will hold you to a high but reasonable
standard (meaning he won’t tolerate flaky or disrespectful behaviour) or if
you’re not interested in securing a serious relationship with a masculine man
who wants and values commitment…this book is not for you. If you want to
attract one-night stands, so called “players”, or forty something year-old bad
boys who think commitment is just another curse word…this book is not for you.

Commitment-minded, high-quality men date consciously and sagaciously so as to

weed through the innumerous amount of low-character, low-chemistry, or
incompatible women in order to find their Miss Right. They are less likely to
waste a woman’s time because their time is extremely precious to them. Because
they highly value commitment, relationships, social and family values, they date
with the intention of finding a woman they can build a life with, one who is
willing to support their life’s mission.

So if you want to learn how to avoid those dating and relationship mistakes that
tend to “disqualify” seemingly phenomenal women from long-term, loving
relationships with these kinds of men, I encourage you to read on.

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 The 12 Dating Deal Breakers

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Keeping company with licentious and/or unabashedly
obnoxious women.

This one may seem strange, but it does have a great effect on what men think
about you as a person and therefore, the future (or lack thereof) they might see
with you. The truth is, if you often find that the men you date just don’t seem to
‘get’ your friends and they’re often unwilling or uninterested in getting to know
them a bit better, you may have a female friend problem on your hands.

When the emotions of a new romance are high, a man is more likely to overlook
many things about a woman that would have otherwise made him think twice
about pursuing her. This is nature’s way of allowing two different people from
different genders to get to know one another more intimately without too many
barriers. Nature wants people to come together to make babies, and you can’t
make babies if the only things two people can see are each other’s unattractive
flaws. So, with nature’s love potion at work in a new romance, most men simply
won’t be able to realize earlier on that there might be some things about you that
make you an incompatible mate.

Your friends, however, will act as an early red flag for a man, especially if he’s a
bit more experienced and prudent in dating. Your friends can provide him with a
good look at what you are really like when he’s not around you. He’s not
romantically attracted to your friends, which means that his judgments about
them are clear and untainted by his hormones. Of course, this may all seem a bit
extreme, as chances are you’ve probably never heard a guy admit this sort of
thing. But make no mistake: Relationship-minded men are way more
discriminating when assessing the quality of a woman’s social connections.

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Guys like this understand that birds of a feather do, in fact, flock together. They
understand that you and your friends will have many shared beliefs, interests,
and even personalities. In many cases, for a guy who’s considering whether or
not to commit to you, it may quickly occur to him that if he can’t stand your
friends now, there’s a good chance he might not be able to stand you in the near
future (once the romantic fog has lifted).

High-quality men also understand that bad company will inevitably corrupt good
character. So even if you’re a high value women who just so happens to keep
company with women of lower value (due to their character, habits, interests,
etc.), your potential Mr. McDreamy might be terrified of what you might become
in the future and will thus cease dating you so as to avoid any unwanted future
surprises.

When a man is seriously considering any kind of future with a woman he begins
to play out various scenarios in his mind that either reinforces his hopes or his
fears about being with you. If the thought of being around your friends or even
being around you when you’re with your friends makes him want to hang
himself, he’s not going to stick around long enough for that to happen.

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Treating strangers, service personnel, and people of lower
social status like garbage.

This may seem like common sense, but I believe it deserves to be mentioned just
in case. Guys who are looking for a great girl to hopefully cultivate a serious
relationship with will RUN at the slightest sign of meanness in a woman. If a
woman has the habit of treating those of lesser station than herself like garbage,
the only kinds of men she’ll attract will be guys who either treat others the same
way or guys who don’t respect themselves enough to pass on such women.

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Imagine this. You’re on your first or second date with a very attractive guy. He’s
handsome, has a great career going, and seems very romantically interested in
you. You’re out in a restaurant and the waiter accidently mixes up his order. And
let’s say that this Prince Charming begins to insult the waiter, to his face, and
berate him publicly. What would you think of him then? Would you continue to
see him after such a spectacle? Or would you run for your life?

If you’re a reasonable person who believes that you’re worthy of being treated
like a person, I’m sure you’d pass on an idiot like this. I mean, why wouldn’t you?
The same applies for men, because quality guys don’t want to risk ending up
with a woman who lacks the patience and empathy needed for cultivating a
healthy, long-term relationship.

It’s easy to put on your best face and treat the person you’re interested in at the
moment with warmth, kindness, and compassion because you want them to like
you. But you can’t hide what’s inside. If your natural inclination is to treat
persons of lower station, class, or status with less compassion than you would
those of a higher station, you need to develop a more mature paradigm towards
human relationships.

It’s true that we can’t give everyone the same level of honour and veneration, but
we can give him or her the same level of humane kindness. Human compassion
shouldn’t have any favourites. Think of it this way. If a homeless person said
something derogatory to you how would you respond? How would you respond
if your favourite actor said the exact same thing? Think about it.

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Showing an unreliable and fickle nature.

If you’ve read any of my other books, you’ve probably heard me harp on how
important reliability is to a high-quality man, which is why guys like this cannot

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tolerate flaky behaviour (in women or other men). But in case you haven’t read
anything else I’ve ever written (shame on you!), I’ll touch on this subject once
more for your benefit.

First of all, let’s define the term.

A “flake” is basically someone who doesn’t follow through. They are major
procrastinators, highly unreliable, and nearly incapable of keeping their word.
The major factor in determining whether or not a flake will actually follow
through is based on his or her mood at the time or the urgency of the need to act.
In short, flakes make terrible friends and disastrous partners (both in love and in
business) to those unfortunate enough to rely on them.

Now, you may be asking yourself: “Why would Bruce devote so much time to this
character flaw?” Excellent question, my dear! I’ll tell you…

Female flakiness is perhaps the most widespread of unattractive dating habits

men have to deal with when interacting with women. Therefore, when a man
comes across a woman who keeps her word no matter what, she immediately
stands out amongst her peers. Add to this the fact that habitual flaky behaviour
means that a woman is more concerned with how she feels at the expense of
others. Having such a low level of interest in how her actions affect those around
her, she illustrates a deep lack of empathy. And in the eyes of a mature,
masculine man, a woman with a lack of empathy represents all that is
opposed to mature womanhood.

Read that again.

Now, to be sympathetic, my experience and observations with flakiness usually

inform me of several things.

1. A woman is not that interested in a man and chooses to communicate it

through low-integrity behaviours.

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 2. She struggles with a fear of abandonment and thus acts in a way that
will help her to maintain “control” in a relationship; meaning that she’ll
never be “all in” with a potential paramour, or…

3. Her attention and loyalty to a man is directly related to his outward

displays of wealth/status or lack thereof. (The beautiful but frustrating
Holly Golightly from Breakfast At Tiffany’s comes to mind here).

How do these underlying attitudes play out in a dating scenario? Below I’ve
listed a few of the most common examples of flaky behaviour a woman might
unknowingly display when interacting with men:

 She breaks off contact with a man who begins showing her serious
interest for fear of being abandoned. (Notice, I’m not referring to a
woman who has genuinely lost interest in a man for other reasons. I’m
referring specifically to women who begin “logging out” of a romance
because of a pathological fear of becoming emotionally interdependent
with a man.)

 She disappears or does not respond in a reasonable amount of time

when communicating with a man, and does not give a valid excuse for
doing so.

 She breaks dates on short notice without suggesting a future date to make
up for it.

 She arrives unreasonably late and gives off an attitude of indifference

towards her tardiness.

 She defends her flakiness with the belief that she “owes no man anything”
or that she’s a free spirit who can “do as she pleases”, even after the guy
she’s dating has made a significant investment of love and loyalty
towards her.

 She does not follow through on her word and usually gives a dishonest
excuse for doing so. That is, if she cares enough to provide an excuse at all.

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These are just the tip of the iceberg, but it should get you thinking in the right
direction. The underlying problem with behaviours like the ones listed above is
that the more a woman chooses the path of least resistance, the stronger the bad
habit becomes until she no longer realizes that her conduct has become odious to
high-quality men. No matter what happens in your interactions with a man, you
can either choose to be a woman of high-integrity (thereby increasing your
intrinsic value over time) or you can choose the path of least resistance.

For example, let’s analyse the first behaviour I’ve previously listed. If a woman is
not that interested in a man, she has the choice of forming a good habit
(forthrightness) or a bad one (flakiness). If she chooses the latter, instead of
displaying high-integrity by gracefully letting the gentleman know that he’s no
longer a factor of romantic importance, she’ll simply ignore him or respond to
him when there’s nothing else more important going on for her. I understand
that many women do this to avoid confrontation or directly hurting the guy’s
feelings, but the loss of interest is translated into flaky behaviour that inevitably
leaves behind a bitter memory in the minds of most men.

The end result from these experiences is that it causes experienced, mature men
to develop a zero tolerance policy for ALL types of female flakiness. Astute, high-
quality men especially will have little to do with a woman that seems flaky so as
to avoid ending up looking like a perpetual idiot.

Therefore, to avoid being perceived as a flake, it would be in a woman’s best

interest to ensure that all of her interactions with men communicate high-
integrity, authenticity, and most important, respect. Develop the habit of being
gracious with the men you come across and thoughtful of their egos, even if the
men in question do not deserve it. This alone will separate you from most other
women, as your characteristic courtesy, politeness, and sense of honour towards
men will earn you their respect and adoration. Yes, not all men will deserve your
kindness, but resolve to be the better woman if you want to end up with a better
man.

Every high-quality man who’s looking to date a woman for love and marriage is
going to evaluate your behaviour with this thought in mind: “Can I really rely on

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this woman?” Men like this want to know without a shadow of a doubt that they
can count on you to be there when you said you would and that you’ll follow
through on your promises and commitments…regardless of how you feel. They
want to know that you are the best woman they can possibly find to play the role
of a supportive first mate to their devoted captain.

Therefore, as I’ve already established in the introduction, securing the love and
commitment of a high-quality man who’s ready for a serious relationship means
that you’re going to have to set a higher standard for yourself in this area. If you
want to be with a man worth dating, become a woman worth keeping – one
who’s known for keeping her word…regardless of how she feels.

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Requiring high-maintenance, thus being hard-to-please.

If you consider yourself ‘high-maintenance’ and have absolutely no problem

keeping a man’s interest longer than a few weeks then more power to you and
keep doing what you’re doing. But if you think you may be giving off that ‘high-
maintenance’ vibe that turns men off after they really get to know you, read on…

For starters, it is quite possible for a woman to be high quality and worth a man’s
investment of time and attention without her having to be high-maintenance.
Great guys would jump through hoops to make a high quality woman their own.
They’d also jump over fences to avoid ending up with a high-maintenance
woman.

Now, because there are many different definitions to the term ‘high-maintenance
woman’, I want to clarify what guys generally tend to think when they hear this
term. A high-maintenance woman, in the negative sense of the phrase, is
basically a woman who requires an unreasonable amount of time, attention, and

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resources from a man to keep her happy (if she ever is) and therefore, maintain
her interest.

Guys who just want some arm candy or who might be overly obsessed with a
woman’s physical beauty usually succumb to the wiles of these types of women.
But more experienced, mature men who are looking for a great girlfriend or wife
who can be content with a lot (the good times) and content with a little (the not-
so-good times) will avoid these types of women. If you can only be content with a
lot…you are definitely high-maintenance.

Even if you believe you deserve the world from a man, try to understand what
high-maintenance looks like through his eyes. The main problem is that keeping
a woman like this happy is a twenty-four hour job. Okay, maybe not a full
twenty-four, but that’s how it may feel to a man. If a woman is demanding of her
partner a certain level of ‘upkeep’ in lifestyle that she is incapable or unwilling to
do for herself, she can be considered ‘high maintenance.’ If a man finds himself
sacrificing too much time away from his non-relationship commitments or going
into debt in order to facilitate the lifestyle demands of a woman, she can be
considered ‘high maintenance.’

I admit, this is a tricky topic to navigate and probably requires a full book on its
own. If you consider being high-maintenance the equivalent to being
sophisticated in taste, fashion forward, and high class then what we have is a
difference in definition. But the fact remains: If the men you regularly meet
consider you high-maintenance in the negative sense of the phrase, you may
either want to re-evaluate what you actually require from a man to feel fulfilled,
or find a way to attract the kinds of men who enjoy the challenges that come with
dating a high-maintenance woman.

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Showing inconsideration for his masculine drives while in a
relationship, thus projecting a lack of interdependence.

There’s nothing inherently wrong with being Miss Independent. In this day and
age a woman who can handle her own business communicates confidence and
capableness to a high-quality man, both of which are extremely attractive
qualities. However, as with everything else in life, be careful of slipping into
extremism. Being “too” independent communicates something else to a man:
That you don’t need him!

The three pillars of manhood are to procreate, to protect, and to provide. If you
decide that you don’t need a man for even just one of those pillars, as long as he’s
with you he will feel as if something is missing in his life.

But let’s be practical for a minute.

If you had a difficult life for example, and so you trained yourself to be strong and
independent, the reality for you might be that you simply don’t need a man to
provide for you. If you’re strong on your own financially, there’s no reason to be
ashamed of it or to feel as if it could be detrimental to your future with men.

The problem here however, is when you either have unrealistic expectations
(like wanting to find a man who can beat your six figure income) or you resist it
when a man wants to take care of you. If a man is able to do so, he will enjoy the
burden of providing for you. Even if you’re quite capable of providing for both
you and him, do not deprive him of this desire if he’s clearly showing an interest
in taking care of you in some form or fashion.

Let’s talk about the pillar of protection for a second. What if you’ve had military
training and you’re a better protector than most men? That’s fine. But there will
still be situations in which he will want to show you his mettle. For example, let’s

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say you decide to go camping together and a big, old grizzly bear suddenly shows
up. Most men would place themselves between a threat like this (physical
danger) and their loved ones, regardless of who’s the most experienced
defender. Of course, if you’re some kind of bear whisperer that’s another thing
altogether. But I think you get my point.

Give him room to fulfil his naturally hard-wired roles as a man. A good man
wants to cultivate a life with a woman who is willing to be interdependent with
him. In the same way a woman desires to feel desired, a man needs to feel
needed. A good man, one who revels in his masculinity, will love and cherish you
for allowing him the opportunity to bear the burdens that come with being born
male.

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Showing insensitivity to or indifference for his dreams.

Being insensitive or indifferent to a man’s dreams is a major no-no, one that can
cause your Mr. McDreamy to disappear off the face of the planet (at least to you)
without so much as a goodbye, especially if you’ve only been dating for a very
short while. The sooner you can prove to a man (one that has shown a serious
interest in you obviously) that you want to become an indispensible part of his
life’s journey, the quicker he’ll be able to see you as long-term girlfriend or even
wife material.

Every man who has even an ounce of ambition is going to have a dream or
worthwhile goal ingrained deep in his heart, one that he probably isn’t quick to
share with others because of its deep importance to him. Men know that sharing
their deepest drives, dreams, and desires with others is always a hit or miss. We
know that whenever we do express our greatest dreams, most won’t understand,
some will understand but disregard them entirely, and few will be supportive. If
a man is especially ambitious, he’ll probably be a lot more hesitant to express the

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big visions that keep him up at night as he dreams and toils in an attempt to
make something worthwhile out of himself.

The mistake some women make in this regard is that they simply don’t know
how to be supportive both in enthusiasm and in significant action. If you’ve been
dating a guy for several weeks and he feels a strong enough connection with you
to tell you that he wants to purchase his own Starbucks franchise someday, don’t
simply log it away in the back of your mind as if he said something
inconsequential. Communicate your enthusiasm by asking him questions about
this aspiration of his and more importantly, at some point be sure to thank him
for sharing his dreams with you. Being ambitious by nature, high-quality men
actively pay attention to how a woman responds to the meaningful confessions
of their heart. If you act indifferently, a man like this will notice it, and I can
guarantee you that he won’t forget it.

While we don’t expect the woman we’re dating to simply uproot her life just to
support a man blindly, we do expect her to show an active interest in making our
dreams a reality. This could mean anything from something as small as a weekly
reminder to follow up on a career changing job interview to something more
time intensive like helping him search for an affordable college in your state.
Again, I’m not saying you need to uproot your life or rework your entire schedule
just to help him succeed, but even the smallest action or sacrifice you make to
see him win in life will register deeply in his heart. And keep in mind that the
nature and level of support a man requires of you will obviously depend on the
guy you’re dating and the size of his ambition.

If you find yourself dating a great guy, you can be sure that he wants to end up
with a woman that understands him better than anyone else in this world. In the
pursuit of our aspirations, we desperately want to be with a woman who can
encourage us when we’re at our lowest, show us the light when we’re lost in
darkness, and who can help us to appreciate the small victories we’ve made
along the way when we get lost in our grand visions of the future. I know that for
some women this may sound like a tall order, but believe me, these are the things

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that all men want to experience with a woman though few know how to express
it.

Ideally, a man prefers when a woman wants to be supportive of him off of her
own volition. No man wants to feel as if he has to beg, cajole, or strong-arm a
woman into supporting him. Doing so only saps his confidence and makes him
second-guess his mate selection, even if only for a moment. The problem here is
when the guy you’ve been dating begins to lose interest in you and he himself
probably doesn’t understand why. And if he doesn’t understand why, he won’t be
able to explain his sudden (or progressive) loss of interest.

In some cases, nothing may be inherently wrong with the relationship, but he
knows on some level that he doesn’t feel that connected to you. The reason for
this loss of connection, in this instance at least, is because he feels neglected, not
in a romantic sense, but in terms of the respect he feels from you. To a man,
neglecting his dreams and aspirations communicates that you don’t respect his
dreams and aspirations. And if he feels as if you don’t at least respect his dreams
and aspirations he’ll feel as if you don’t love him enough. Although some women
tend to think men are incapable of true feelings, I can assure you that if a man
feels unimportant to you, it won’t be long before he doesn’t feel anything for you.

That’s just the way it is. And unfortunately, this is one of those deep-rooted
issues many men face, especially highly ambitious men that have high hopes and
far-reaching aspirations.

Now, keep in mind that I’m saying all this with the assumption that you’re dating
a high-quality man who has demonstrated a progressive romantic interest in
you. I’m also basing this point on the assumption that you can actually see
yourself supporting the long-term aspirations of your Mr. McDreamy. If a man
tells you that he wants to run for office someday but you simply can’t fathom the
thought of dating and marrying a high-powered, future politician, that’s perfectly
fine. Finding the right man has a lot to do with finding one with whom you share
a high compatibility with. This means that if you cannot get excited about a
man’s dreams, life goals, and aspirations, he may simply not be the right guy for
you.

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However, do keep in mind that there’s a clear difference between a lack of
compatibility and having an apathetic attitude towards a man’s dreams. If you
truly find yourself enthusiastically challenged and unable to show an active
support after a man expresses his hopes and dreams with you, do both of you a
favour and be honest about it. Don’t settle for a romantic situation that will
eventually conflict with your hopes for the future. Every man deserves to be
with a highly supportive woman just as every woman deserves to be with a man
whom she can encourage and support with sincere enthusiasm.

Also keep in mind that when I say to show an active interest in supporting him
I’m not talking about trying to be a man’s saviour. The operative word here is
“supportive”, meaning that you’ve taken an interest in assisting him in an area
where he has shown at least some initiative. If a man is not proactive about
making his own dreams a reality, it’s not wise to exert your time and energy
trying to support him. If you do, you’ll soon find that you’re actually no longer
supporting him…you’re leading him.

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Not showing him enough appreciation.

A friend of mine bought a brand new cell phone for his girlfriend. He doesn’t earn
a ton of money (I should know, since I used to hold the same position in the
company with him a while back) and it was a pretty high quality phone, meaning
it was definitely a sacrifice for him. Upon receiving the phone, his girlfriend
decides that instead of showing her appreciation for what she received she’s
going to complain about it instead. Apparently, it wasn’t the exact phone she was
hoping to get and she thought it was more important that he was fully aware of
this fact instead of being grateful.

The funny thing is, I know this guy pretty well, and if his girlfriend had shown
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expressed her dissatisfaction, he would have eventually changed it or sold it to
get her something she would have preferred. She had unfortunately crossed a
major boundary and due to the principle of the matter, he felt hurt, angry, and
upset at her ungrateful reaction and unreasonableness. His girlfriend in this case
just didn’t understand the sacrifice.

Some women have a “Daddy’s Princess” mentality meaning that they have a
difficult time recognizing and appreciating the little (and sometimes big)
sacrifices a man makes for them. Other women are simply too self-focused or
self-interested that they often disregard or underappreciate a man’s kindness. A
good man with even an ounce of self-respect and common sense is either going
to address this issue with you, or, if he experiences it far too often, he’ll simply
move on.

The thing is, most men secretly crave appreciation, but they’ll never admit it for
fear of looking needy or weak. The more you appreciate a man, I mean REALLY
appreciate him, the better he’ll feel about himself. The better he feels about
himself the more confident he will be in his ability to love you, romance you, and
make you happy. Whenever you genuinely appreciate a man his value both to
himself and to you greatly increases. If you want to make a man feel good about
himself tell him all of the things you love about him, but be authentic. A man
loves it when a woman can give him authentic appreciation. Paying him a
compliment that he knows isn’t genuine will only make him feel as if you’re
trying to sweet talk him.

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Trying to change him.

One of the most irresistible qualities that high-quality men desperately want in a
woman is this: Complete acceptance of him for the man he is. If you can love a
man unconditionally, even accepting the ugly things about him (his love for

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wearing trucker hats perhaps?), he’ll develop an emotional connection with you
that won’t be easily broken because he’ll feel as if you just “get him.”

High-quality men are men that possess firm personal boundaries and have a low
tolerance for female manipulation. A man like this values authenticity and loyalty
in a woman to his core, and the act of trying to change him to suit your ideal is a
clear sign of treachery. No matter how charming or ridiculously good-looking
you think you are, don’t be fooled. No self-respecting man is going to allow you to
turn him into your pet project.

Keep in mind that the man worth dating, the Mr. McDreamy you want to end up
with, is the kind of man who will accept you for who you are, flaws and all. He
will not make it his life’s purpose to mold you into his personal ideal, no matter
what kind of potential he sees in you. Granted, he’ll want to influence you to
constantly grow and evolve as he’ll expect the same treatment from you, but he
won’t manipulate or try to force you to change.

Such a man will love you unconditionally because he has a high-level of respect
for you, as respect is the language men understand most in ALL their
relationships. Not accepting him for who he is clearly communicates that you
don’t respect him, and if a man doesn’t feel that you respect him he won’t be able
to fall in love or stay in love with you.

Naturally, as I mentioned earlier, a good man will be open to the influence of a

woman once he’s been assured that the woman in question has his best interest
at heart. Now, I know some women might be thinking that they have nothing but
love for men and that any encouragement towards betterment they offer a man
comes from a place of utter sincerity. With that in mind, consider that someone
can be honest and sincere but still lack the tact necessary to communicate it
effectively.

As with almost anything communicative, sometimes it’s not what you say, but
how you say it. If you don’t know how to communicate gracefully with men, you
may find yourself constantly frustrated with the men you love and want.
Wanting to help a man bring out his highest potential is a noble quality in a

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woman, but such a task must be handled with the utmost grace, patience,
tenderness, and compassion (this is something I discuss much more in-depth in
my book, Make Him BEG For Your Attention.)

In order to go the distance with a woman a man must feel that his soul is safe
with her. He needs to know that the woman he loves has his best interests at
heart, and that she’s more concerned with increasing his well-being than she is
with achieving her own personal (and selfish) agenda. Accepting a man as he is
creates the kind of emotional environment that makes him feel comfortable
opening up to you, thus giving you the perfect opportunity to connect with him
on a deep, emotional level.

Having a woman constantly berate you to change some aspect about yourself
that you don’t want to change is emasculating. It’s even worse when this sort of
behavior consistently happens in social settings, among his or your friends and
family. But don’t get me wrong. There are certain kinds of men that will willingly
change themselves to make you happy, but these probably aren’t the kinds of
men you want to end up with. Only the passive, nice guy types will hand over
their gonads to you without a second thought and allow you to push them
around indefinitely. Getting into a relationship with men like this will frustrate
you to no end, especially if you actually want to be with a man who wants to lead
his woman just as passionately as he wants to love her.

Unfortunately, having an intense desire to “chisel” men to meet your standards

comes with an unattractive side effect. Many women don’t seem to realize that
the forceful act of trying to change a man causes them to give off something so
very opposite from feminine energy that it might be considered masculine. So
masculine in fact, that a high-quality, masculine man will be turned off by your
mannerisms probably long before they’ve experienced the pleasure of becoming
your pet project. And as nebulous as the idea of “masculine energy” sounds, I
assure you that the more experienced a man is with the opposite sex the faster
he can sense if he’s dealing with a woman who revels in her femininity or if he’s
dealing with a straight up ball-busting, man-crafter. Accepting a man and being
receptive of him in every way is one of the core ways a woman radiates her

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femininity to keep a man helplessly hooked and captivated by her. Read that last
sentence again…slowly.

So as you can see, one of the fastest ways to lose the love and adoration of a man
is to try and change him to suit your “ideal” of what you believe he should be.
Just like women, a man wants to be loved and accepted for who he presently is,
not for what you believe he should be or could be. Even if you see a ton of
potential in him, don’t be tempted to chisel a man into something that better
meets your self-interests. The habit will only net you the affections of passive,
subservient men that will probably never be able to stoke your fires, if you catch
my drift.

With all that said, ensure that you don’t fall into the habit of dating men you
believe are fixer-uppers. Either that or work hard on changing your paradigm so
that you learn to accept a man just as he is from the get go. I understand that
some women have the mindset that, “If I could just change him, it must mean that
I’m special! It must mean that I’m the best woman there is…his best!”

No.

This sort of paradigm will keep a woman on a dating merry-go-round where she
finds a man, tries to fix him, and leaves once she does “fix” him as a result of
boredom and loss of attraction to him. Either that or the man in question will
leave her before she gets a chance to sink her manipulative hooks into his
individuality.

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Losing your poise when he talks to another woman.

With so many women on this tiny planet of ours, it’s going to be impossible for
any guy you date not to interact with other women in some form or fashion.
Therefore, if you completely lose your cool when the guy you’re dating looks or

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interacts with other women, don’t be surprised if he decides to take his business
elsewhere once he’s had enough of your crazy jealousy. No matter what kind of
personal self-esteem issues you have, you’ll have to get over them very quickly if
you don’t want to come off as a straight up nut job to a great guy.

If the primal nature of men leads them to compete against and dominate other
men for the right to the best resources and most fertile women, then the nature
of women is to compete against other women for the attention of the most
dominant man. But even though we’re all driven by these primal drives,
civilization (“civil” being the underlying word) demands that we “play out” these
drives with far more sophistication in order to succeed. So while these primal
drives are built-in to our psyche, keep in mind that a high-value woman
communicates her superiority not by a display of force or intimidation, but by
the way she carries herself in the midst of potential competitors. Acting out on
your jealousy communicates fear of loss, insecurity, neediness, and desperation –
all of which are highly unattractive to the kind of man you want to end up with.

Some women falsely believe that a show of jealousy towards other women might
help to keep their Mr. McDreamy in check (and other women at bay).
Unfortunately, getting jealous whenever your guy interacts with other women
never works in your favor. Whether your jealousy shows itself through violent
outbursts or passive-aggressive pettiness doesn’t matter. There’s always some
form of collateral damage that will cause his trust, respect, and adoration for you
to corrode over time.

First of all, being irrationally jealous communicates to your guy that you have
some serious self-esteem issues that might make him reassess the value he’s
already ascribed to you. When a high-quality man is looking for a woman to be
with in the long-term, ending up with a hyper-jealous wife or girlfriend is a
situation he’s going to want to avoid at all costs. No matter the chemistry you
may share with him or how gorgeous you are, an excessively jealous nature
heavily taints your personality to the point where even a man who seemed to
love everything about you may find himself reevaluating his taste in women.

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Secondly, displays of jealousy towards other women sometimes results in
embarrassing or awkward social situations. For a man, it’s tremendously
aggravating if he’s forced into a social situation that demands masterful social
finesse just to manage his woman’s erratically jealous behavior. A woman with
such an unpredictable nature limits her use (yes…I said “use”) to a high-quality
man because he’ll never be sure how she’ll react in public settings where
interacting with other women is unavoidable. If he can’t trust you to act with
poise and decorum in social settings without acting out on your jealousy then
and there (or berating him later on in private), he’ll avoid taking you along with
him altogether.

Obviously, I’m not talking about situations in which a guy is clearly disrespecting
you by blatantly ogling or flirting with other women. These are different
situations altogether, and they shouldn’t even be a problem for you if you’re
dating a man who loves you, respects you, and values your self-dignity. Also,
because of differences in social prowess, culture, etc., there’s always a chance
that you might consider a man’s behavior a bit too “friendly” when he genuinely
is just being himself. In a situation like this it’s better to have open, mature
dialogue about his behavior as opposed to losing your feminine poise in public or
blowing up on him the moment you’re both alone.

I understand that one of the main things women want from men is security, in all
areas. Therefore, it is quite important for you to be in a relationship with a man
in whom you can truly trust. If after numerous heart to heart conversations the
man you’re dating can’t seem to find a common ground with you concerning his
overly friendly or flirtatious behavior with the opposite sex, it might be time for
you to look for greener pastures, especially if his behavior causes you needless
stress and anxiety.

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Being unreasonably jealous whenever he spends time with
his friends.

In the spirit of the previous point, this behavioural issue also has to do with
unattractive jealous behaviour. Getting angry, combative, or whiny whenever a
man wants to spend quality time with his friends is a sure sign of insecurity and
neediness. So long as his friends aren’t a clear and direct threat to his well-
being or your budding relationship, there shouldn’t be any reason for you to lose
your cool if he enjoys spending time with them.

Even if you have an overwhelming desire to be the center of your Mr.

McDreamy’s universe, try to exercise self-control. It’s a major turn off for a guy to
have to constantly cajole, explain, and reason with his girlfriend just to keep his
friends in his life. Over time, this sort of relationship conflict can tear away at a
man’s peace of mind, especially if he’s really sold on you as a quality girlfriend
and sincerely wants to make you happy.

Spending time with other men is a necessary part of a man’s psychological well-
being. Even the man who loves spending quality time with you will require a
healthy amount of time away from you to reconnect with his buddies and
replenish his masculine energies (you do want him to have a healthy amount of
masculine vitality right?). Time with the men isn’t merely just for fun and
friendship. It keeps him sane, grounded in his masculinity, and far more capable
to deal with both the challenges of life and the challenges he’ll face with his
woman.

Yes. Spending time with his friends makes him a better man for you.

Historically considered the wisest man that ever lived, the Israelite monarch,
King Solomon, once wrote that as iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens

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another. Assuming his friends have some level of masculine maturity, his
emotional development is highly dependent on his relationships with other men.
Knowing that a healthy amount of time with the men is paramount to his
character development, a high-quality man – one with firm personal boundaries
– will not allow you to become a wedge between him and his closest friends.
Making yourself a hindrance to his “guy time” is a very effective and speedy way
to force a man to demote you to the “some girl I used to date” status.

If you’re dating a really sociable or high-status man, one who has a quality
network of friends, instead of trying to compete with his affections learn to
appreciate him for the great importance he’s placed in his male friendships.
Many women don’t seem to truly appreciate how difficult it can be for a man to
maintain meaningful adult relationships with other men in this fast-paced,
achievement-driven age. This is especially true if the man you’re dating is a
highly ambitious one. As based on the research done by Thomas Joiner, academic
psychologist and author of the book, Lonely At The Top: The High Cost Of Men’s
Success, we know that highly driven men tend to sacrifice the development of
meaningful friendships due to their intense focus on attaining great levels of
economic success and power.

So with that little titbit in mind, consider that if your guy is a prince among men
and is a valuable member of a group of imperfect yet endearing guys, don’t be a
hindrance to his happiness. Instead, support his loyalty to his friends and try to
be the one woman that truly “gets him.” Trust me, he’ll adore you for it.

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Being both a magnet and a catalyst for relationship drama.

A woman with a natural inclination to instigate and relish drama in all its various
forms can only mean one thing: She’s a bona fide “Drama Queen.” This particular
type of woman usually falls into one of two categories, namely, women who

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KNOW that they’re Drama Queens and who wear the title proudly, and women
who don’t know that they’re Drama Queens and who don’t understand why they
have so much difficulty dealing with men (men who have a low tolerance for
drama at least).

Now, if you wear the title proudly but you’re humble enough to admit that it
might be having a negative affect on your relationships with men, I encourage
you to read on with an open mind. The same applies if you think you may belong
to the second group, the women who don’t know that they’re Drama Queens.

To be fair, I should also mention that the Drama Queen is an extreme personality.
Just because you struggle with certain insecurities or you might be prone to
emotional outbursts in a handful of extreme situations it does not mean that
you’re a Drama Queen. And since the term “Drama Queen” is usually thrown
about by men to represent any kind of difficult female behavior (it’s true…I
confess), I think we should properly define what being a Drama Queen really
means.

When used in the female specific context (meaning we’re not talking about a
Drama King), the Drama Queen is a woman who responds to situations
irrationally and melodramatically. She habitually makes a mountain out of a
molehill, and magically turns the unimportant into a major issue. A woman like
this is usually unreasonable, overly critical, and exceptionally difficult to deal
with when it comes to managing relationship conflicts. Her craving to be the
center of attention is insatiable, and she’s mastered the art of blowing things out
of proportion. She feels threatened in steady environments and is usually
tempted to “rock the boat” the minute things get too stable in a relationship.

Here’s what some of her behaviors look like to a man (and her honest friends):

 She manipulates those around her in order to create conflict that has her
at the center of it all. (She’s the ringmaster of drama!)

 She’s never satisfied, nor can she be easily appeased. Her placation, if
possible to attain, usually comes at great cost to someone else.

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  Gossips ceaselessly.

 She uses urgent problems to invite attention and gain sympathy.

 Mistakes made by others at her expense are blown out of proportion, and
she’d rather give the encroacher a piece of her mind than her mercy.

 In the elaborate tales of life, she’s always the victim.

 She manhandles social situations to bring the spotlight back on herself.

(Think of the person who shouts out something random and self-focused
when the group is clearly discussing something or someone else.)

One of the most interesting things about the Drama Queen is that in most cases, a
woman might not want to realize that she falls into this category. This is when
ex-boyfriends, close friends, and even family refer to her as “The Drama Queen”,
and she refuses to consider if their bestowed title for her is justified or not. This,
my dear, is a Drama Queen in denial.

The Drama Queen in denial uses self-deception to maintain a positive self-image

about herself. In other words, she doesn’t know what she is because she has
chosen, albeit subconsciously, to explain away her behavior as nothing more
than assertiveness or firmness of wants. However, being a Drama Queen is less
about assertiveness and more about selfishness and a lack of emotional self-
control. The Drama Queen in denial insists that she’s reasonable. She honestly
believes that she’s just outspoken about her needs and that people think she’s a
“Drama Queen” because she stands up for herself. The Drama Queen in denial, if
she were honest, would also admit that her demandingness and irrational
display of emotion is merely a product of her earnest desire to be happy. In other
words, she absolutely MUST get her way.

The Drama Queen in denial may not realize that there’s a major conflict with
what she believes and how she wants to be perceived by others. It’s actually
impossible to be both reasonable and to have a strong need to always get your
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willing to sacrifice, compromise, or concede in order to make room for the needs,
wants, and ideas of others.

Unfortunately, aside every Drama Queen is an exhausted man – usually one with
the patience of a saint or a self-soothing addiction that grants him a “vacation
from the crazy.” And while every man has a different threshold for what he’s
willing to deal with when it comes to the beautiful unpredictability that comes
with loving a woman, most men will admit that they’d rather chew off their own
foot than get stuck in a relationship with a Drama Queen.

Looking back on my personal dating history, I can honestly say that out of all the
women I’ve dated, only one sticks out as being a Drama Queen. And while I’ve
had my share of low quality relationships and bad breakups just like everyone
else, this girl was the only one that could make me shudder whenever I thought
back on that relationship.

When I say this particular female blew things out of proportion I’m probably
making an understatement. She threatened a mutual friend of ours (a female
friend) to stop talking to me because her friend and I were really good friends (I
was good friends with her friend way before I started dating this girl). She
destroyed furniture in the apartment she shared with her friends when she
merely thought one of them might have had feelings for me. She once said that
her mother often makes her so angry that she wanted to “cut off her head.”
(Naturally, she was exaggerating, but I’d NEVER heard a woman refer to her
mother this way, even those I knew who had difficult relationships with them).
And lastly, she would often display irrational outbursts of emotions whenever
things didn’t go her way with me.

In short, this woman used over-the-top arguments, tears, and antagonizing

behaviour with our group of friends as weapons to help her get her way. And let
me tell you…it was exhausting. Believe me, I understand that no one is perfect,
and I’m pretty sure I attracted her because of my own issues…but at some point
in the relationship I realized that if I didn’t want to attract another woman like
this…I had to change…a lot. This was during a time in my life when I was a lot
less experienced with the ways of women, but it was a defining moment for me. I

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vowed never to date a Drama Queen again, and from that point on I had
developed a zero tolerance policy for any form of female manipulation.

So what’s the big takeaway here? Simple. A Drama Queen might still be able to
attract men into her life, but they won’t be the kinds of men I’ve referred to in the
introduction of this book. Instead of a high-quality man, she’ll attract men that
suffer from personal issues that are likely to complement those that she
struggles with. This makes for a very needy, chaotic, and unstable relationship.
High-quality men are those who’ve figured out how to keep these women at
arm’s length, and they ensure that their experiences with such women are kept
at a minimum.

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Self-absorption.

Great guys want great girlfriends who are capable of showing a genuine interest
in them. While you should date both purposefully and strategically, be careful
not to fall in total self-absorption. But even if you don’t “think” you struggle with
this particular behaviour, don’t be misled. Self-absorption is one of those
personality traits that make us completely oblivious to our own behaviour.

Being self-absorbed can mean anything from talking about yourself too much on
a date (not sharing the conversation) to being so caught up in your own life that
a man feels neglected and unable to connect with you emotionally. There are
different levels of self-absorption, and in some way we all have a bit of it. The
main problem in dating occurs when a woman fails to show a genuine interest in
the man she’s dating.

When a man feels that a woman has taken a genuine interest in him, he’s more
likely to see her as a warm, giving, and honest person who might be worth
investing in for the future. Being self-centered or self-absorbed communicates to

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a man that any interest you are showing him is merely agenda based. What this
means is that even if you actually do like him, nothing you do will get this
message across because he’ll feel as if your interest in him is simply based on
what he can do for you. This is relationship suicide.

It’s okay to be goal-driven, to have an engrossingly great life, and to know what
you want as a woman. Men LOVE these things. But like anything else in life, too
much of a good thing can still make you sick. Don’t let your goals, your incredibly
interesting life, or your love life agenda dominate your interactions with men to
the point of being narcissistic.

A quality guy wants to be happily seduced in order to fall in love with the right
person just as much as you do. But it’s going to be impossible for him to open up
to a woman or even see a future with her if everything about her (her attitude,
actions, etc.) screams “ME, ME, ME!”

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 Final Thoughts

Now, I know that a handful of women reading this book may reach this point
with a stern pout on their face thinking, “Well, this is all just too much. I don’t need
to change, I can find a man who will love me just as I am!” While this may be true
to some degree, consider that most, if not all of the unattractive behaviors listed
in this book are specifically repelling to a certain type of man – the commitment-
minded, high-quality man.

I’m not espousing that a woman has to be perfect in order to find Mr. Right and
keep him interested, but I’d be doing you a disservice if I sugar-coated this very
important fact: When a high-quality man is seeking a woman specifically for a
serious relationship, he will have much higher standards when appraising female
behavior and far greater sensitivity towards anything that signifies
incompatibility.

These men know that their undivided attention and relationship loyalty are not
cheap commodities, and they must therefore have a more demanding screening
process when trying to find the right woman to love and someday marry. There
is A LOT at stake if a man gets this area of his life wrong. A LOT. So if he’s in that
stage in his life where he’s “auditioning” women for a life of love, passion, mutual
respect, and more, he’s going to have an almost cutthroat attitude with the
women he dates. (Before you throw stones at me, I should mention that I’ve
written several other books advocating that women should possess this very
same cutthroat mindset when filtering for Mr. Right. So check those out if you’d
like to get a more balanced perspective without feeling as if I’m “picking on the
women.”)

On the other hand, a man who only wants a woman for sex, money, to “pass time”
with, or some other nefarious purpose will pay very little attention to her
behavior and romantic compatibility. In other words, you should be concerned
when the guy you’re dating actually consistently allows you to overstep his
boundaries or get away with behavior that offends his self-respect, threatens his
well-being, or makes him cringe inwardly. If a man seems indifferent to your

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personal character and relationship-building behavior it might very well
mean that his purpose for dating you is strictly short-term focused. Read
that paragraph again.

Being Yourself vs. Being Girlfriend Material

If “being yourself” has attracted phenomenal men who’ve swept you off your feet
and loved you unconditionally for great lengths of time, then by all means, ignore
everything I’ve said in this book. However, if you’ve found that adhering to the
“be yourself” mantra of today’s self-help hasn’t gotten you any closer to being
with a man worth respecting unconditionally and loving with all your heart, then
it might be time to adopt a slightly different philosophy.

Don’t use “being yourself” as an excuse to soothe your ego and do nothing as you
simply wait for the right guy to come along and commit to you despite your
unattractive behavior. If “being yourself” means ignoring what a man wants in a
woman worth committing to for love and marriage, it’s a losing paradigm. “Being
yourself” should never get in the way of becoming a woman of high character
while striving to be a high-value romantic partner.

For example, let’s say that a woman struggles with feelings of undesirability, and
therefore has a habit of flirting excessively with other men, even when in a
relationship. If this habit has cost her a series of relationships with great guys in
the past, is it wrong for her to change her ways so as to avoid any future
breakups? Of course it isn’t, because she’s realized that any inward self-
improvement refines her character and thus, enhances both her social and
romantic value. She can become what she so desires, knowing full and well that
so long as what she desires to become is desirable to the quality of man she
desires, she loses nothing. Read that again.

Consider that the “be yourself” advice that is often tossed about in today’s self-
help literature is often ill defined and grossly misunderstood. The whole idea of
“being yourself” should actually be stated as “accept yourself and be vulnerable
with others.” Accepting yourself allows you to appreciate the good, bad, and ugly
about yourself while understanding that you have room for improvement if you

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want to get better results when relating with others. The second part to this
equation is being vulnerable, which makes people, the right people, like you and
want to be around you because they empathize with you.

I mention all this to point out that the information you’ve read in this book will
help you to improve the way you relate with men once you understand that
“being yourself” doesn’t mean you should cease striving for a higher standard.
Accept yourself, yes, but be willing to recognize how you can improve your
dating and relationship habits so that the process of getting and keeping a high-
quality boyfriend and potential husband no longer feels like you’re trying to split
atoms.

It is quite possible to seek a higher, more attractive standard without sacrificing

your authentic self. In fact, if you really analyze each of the listed relationship
killing behaviors within this book you will notice that they can be avoided rather
easily with a little bit of self-awareness, some general personal development
effort, and a genuine desire to make yourself as irresistible to a commitment-
minded man as possible. It may require some effort, but I guarantee you that so
long as you maintain an open mind, a humble heart, and a willingness to aim for
a higher standard, you’ll find dealing with men to be a far more manageable (and
even more fun) process.

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About Bruce Bryans

Bruce Bryans is a successful author who has written numerous best-selling

books for men and women who want to improve the quality of their
relationships. After writing for various online publications on the topics of dating
and relationships, he ran a successful romance advice website where his
insightful articles and newsletters helped improve people’s love lives one-by-
one.

Years later, Bruce decided to focus his time and efforts on writing and publishing
books with easy-to-implement, practical information that had the potential to
reach, and therefore help more people. While he doesn’t consider himself the all-
knowing “Yoda” of relationships, he still enjoys sharing the triumphs (and
failures) of his love life with anyone who enjoys a good laugh or a life lesson.

When he isn’t tucked away in some corner writing a literary masterpiece (or so
he thinks), Bruce spends most of his time engaged in manly hobbies or being a
romantic nuisance to the love of his life.

You can learn more about his writings and receive updates (and future
discounts) on his books by visiting his website at: www.BruceBryans.com

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Most Recommended Books by Bruce Bryans:

The 7 Irresistible Qualities Men Want In A Woman: What High-Quality Men

Secretly Look For When Choosing “The One”

In The 7 Irresistible Qualities Men Want In A Woman, you’ll find out the feminine
qualities that commitment ready, high-quality men look for when choosing a
long-term mate.

Click here to check it out on Kindle: http://amzn.to/1aj29LA

101 Things Your Dad Never Told You About Men: The Good, Bad, And Ugly
Things Men Want And Think About Women And Relationships

In 101 Things Your Dad Never Told You About Men, you’ll learn what high-quality
men want from women and what they think about love, sex, and romance. You’ll
learn how to seduce the man you want or captivate the man you love because
you'll know exactly what makes him tick.

Click here to check it out on Kindle: http://amzn.to/Xb0Eej

Make Him BEG For Your Attention: 75 Communication Secrets For

Captivating Men And Getting The Love And Commitment You Deserve

In Make Him BEG For Your Attention, you’ll discover how to talk to a man so that
he listens to you, opens up to you, and gives you what you want without a fuss.

Click here to check it out on Kindle: http://amzn.to/18RvTlj

101 Reasons Why He Won’t Commit To You: The Secret Fears, Doubts, And
Insecurities That Prevent Most Men From Getting Married

In 101 Reasons Why He Won’t Commit To You, you’ll learn about the most
common fears, doubts, and insecurities that paralyze men and prevent them
from making the leap from boyfriend to husband.

Click here to check it out on Kindle: http://amzn.to/13YsISI

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 Never Chase Men Again: 38 Dating Secrets To Get The Guy, Keep Him
Interested, And Avoid Dead-End Relationships

In Never Chase Men Again, you’ll learn how to get the guy you want, train him to
pursue you, and avoid dead-end or even “dead-on-arrival” relationships by being
more assertive and communicating high-value to the men you date.

Click here to check it out on Kindle: http://amzn.to/1LpXk52

He’s Not That Interested, He’s Just Passing Time: 40 Unmistakable Behaviors
Of Men Who Avoid Commitment And Play Games With Women

In He’s Not That Interested, He’s Just Passing Time, you’ll learn how to read a
man’s behavior in order to tell if he REALLY wants to have a relationship with
you or if he’s just leading you on and completely wasting your time.

Click here to check it out on Kindle: http://amzn.to/1j7NzjP

Send Him A Signal: 61 Secrets For Indicating Interest And Attracting The
Attention Of Higher Quality Men

In Send Him A Signal, you’ll learn the subtle signs of female interest that entices
men to pursue a woman and also how to become more approachable to high-
quality guys.

Click here to check it out on Kindle: http://amzn.to/1saYkPh

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