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Clearing the Hidden Blocks to Receiving What You Want
With Patricia Carrington, Ph.D., EFT Master

· Reaching for more than you have now is human. This trait has allowed us to survive
as a species and brings direction and meaning to our lives.

· Visualizing what we want as already a reality – actually experiencing it in anticipation
– radically changes our energetic VIBRATION around our desires so that the LAW OF
ATTRACTION (*see footnote) goes into effect, and attracts to us what we are already
experiencing in our imagination.

BUT – is it all that simple?

Actually, there can be a hidden block to the playing out of this Law.

It has to do with the act of Receiving.

Imagine this scene:

Your imagination allows you to have “right now” exactly that which you desire to have in
your life. It is real to you and you’re able to experience the joy and relief of it, in advance.

Your wish for a wonderful change in your relationships, or your health, or your financial
status – or whatever the change you want may be – results in what you want being
“delivered to your door.” You even hear the doorbell ring. Like is attracting like because
you have fully experienced what you want to have happen.

BUT – now imagine that a frustrating thing happens. You cannot open the door, or if you
open it a bit you slam it closed before your gift can be delivered.

Moral of the Story


The Law of Attraction is an ancient concept known for thousands of years in metaphysical traditions
around the world, and which is increasingly accepted today by many people. It states that in terms of
the fundamental energies that make up the universe, that “like attracts like”. Whatever form of energy,
positive or negative, that we send out into the universe, it is said to resonate with and attract a similar
type of energy back to us and bring experiences similar to our thoughts and feelings. This creates a
boomerang-like effect – what we send out comes back to us. For more information about the Law of
Attraction see the movie, The Secret ( ) or read the books by Esther and Jerry Hicks.)
Now think about this:
What if your longing for a particular change in your life has come with an inability to

What if your inability to receive is what’s keeping you stuck?

And why would you not want to receive it?

Your reasons, of course, will be individual, but they may include:

· FEAR that if you get what you want this will stir up anger or resentment in others who
do not have what you do (have not achieved what you have, etc.), and that this will
result in a loss of love, in abandonment or perhaps even in danger to you.

· GUILT that you possess this gift when others do not.

· FEELING that somehow you do not deserve this much good in your life.

· FEAR that this gift will bring heavy responsibilities that you do not want.

· FEAR that having this gift will change “who you are” and you will lose your identify.

And so on…and so on…

The problem is that most people don’t realize that they have any blocks to receiving at all
because we are supposed to be “sensible” and of course want “good things”.

So the first thing you will have to do is hunt for such blocks.


Write down 5 things that you don’t have in your life now that you would like having (they
can be very small things as well as large things, it doesn’t matter):

1. ______________________________________________________________________

2. ______________________________________________________________________

3. ______________________________________________________________________

4. ______________________________________________________________________

5. ______________________________________________________________________
Write down a list of the disadvantages that receiving what you want might bring about
(you already know the advantages!):

1. ______________________________________________________________________

2. ______________________________________________________________________

3. ______________________________________________________________________

4. ______________________________________________________________________

5. ______________________________________________________________________

(If you think of more disadvantages, continue on another piece of paper)

Now say out loud:
“I deserve to have (describe your gift)”

Rate how TRUE this sentence sounds to you, with 10 being absolutely true and 0 being
not true at all. Feeling that they do not deserve what they want is a big issue for many
people. Note any deserving issue you may have with respect to receiving your gift, so
that you can return to this issue later and tap on it.

Now you will address the first disadvantage on your list of 5 possible disadvantages that
might occur if you actually received your gift (you will address the rest of the items on this
list when you are later working by yourself). To do this:

Imagine how you would feel (what the side effect might be) receiving this gift, and give
yourself a distress rating according to how distressing this side effect feels to you, where
10 is about as upset as you can imagine being if this should happen, and 0 represents
being completely laid back about it (i.e. it’s not a problem).

My Initial Distress Rating (before tapping) is: _______________

My Distress Rating after tapping (fill in later) is: _____________

This distress rating will be your baseline, and you will refer to it again after you have done
the tapping.

Start by tapping on the Karate Chop Spot on the side of your hand, and say out loud:

“Even though I am afraid of ______________ happening (insert your unpleasant side
effect), I choose to accept this problem as an issue that can be handled by tapping”.

Say the above sentence THREE TIMES, while still tapping on the karate chop spot.

Now tap on the EFT spots as follows:

Inner eyebrow: I don’t want this unpleasant thing to happen.
Outer Eye: It will be distressing.
Under Eye: I just want the gift all by itself.
Under Nose: But suppose I can’t have the gift without this inconvenient side effect?
Under Mouth: That bothers me.
Collarbone: I want the gift without the problem.
Under Arm: I want the gift without any problems.
Top of Head: I want the gift without the problem.
Inner Eyebrow: I choose to solve this conflict within me.
Outer Eye: I choose to face this unpleasant side effect and eliminate its effect by tapping.
Under Eye: … I choose to handle it by tapping.
Under Mouth: I choose to know that if I work on this side effect using EFT it can make
a big difference.
Collarbone: I choose to make that difference.
Under Arm: I choose to stare this difficulty right in the face and see it as a reason why
my gift may be delaying itself.
Top of Head: I choose to do something about this side effect.
Inner Eyebrow: I choose to clear the road once and for all for my wonderful gift.
Outer Eye: I choose to clear the road completely for my gift.
Under Eye: I choose to clear the way.


You have now finished this tapping exercise. Later you will want to use this same exercise
for the other “disadvantages” on your list.

After you finish this Workbook through to the end, you should systematically do tapping
on your own for each one of the issues that you wrote down as being potential problems
for you if you do receive what you want.

HINT: You can also replay the Summit recording of this last exercise and let me lead you
through the exercise each time you do it.
It’s important that you address each one of these possible problems concerned
with receiving your gift because you can be sure that your gift will be DELAYED, OR
EVEN PREVENTED if you don’t remove these obstacles first.

By doing the tapping, you will be creating a clear path to receiving your gift and you will
be surprised how easily the Law of Attraction works when you are not sending out mixed
signals to the Universe. When you are no longer broadcasting stop-and-go signals, this
will make a huge difference in the outcome.



We’re taught that receiving is much less valuable or good than giving, and for this reason
many people hold back from being able to manifest what they want in their lives.

The prevalent belief is:

“It is better to give than to receive”.

The actual biblical quote is: “It is more blessed to give than to receive.” Actually the
problem is not the quote itself but the fact that we interpret it by ignoring entirely the
great pleasure that comes to the person who is giving a gift to another when that gift is
received with delight and appreciation.


Write down a description of an occasion when you gave (or observed someone else
give) a gift to someone, and that other person was absolutely thrilled with the gift. This
could have been the simplest of gifts that you (or the other person) gave to a child on
their birthday, or it could have been some help you extended to a friend when they didn’t
expect it. Think of whatever it was that you (or the other person) did that was received
wonderfully, and write the incident down:

A time I saw a gift be wonderfully received was (describe):
Having a gift that you give received wonderfully is one of the great experiences in life.
What a sense of joy it is when you’ve been able to make another person that happy!

But suppose the person you had given that gift to had turned to you instead and said,
“Oh no, I can’t accept this! I want to give it to you instead. I can’t accept it!”

If someone had said that to me when I’d gone to all the trouble of finding something I
thought would mean a lot to them, it would seem almost like a slap in the face. I would
experience it as a rejection of me and of my caring and love. The person would have
spoiled the experience for me.

What’s important to realize is that receiving, fully and graciously, is in itself a great
gift to the giver -- it is an act of love.

So now you will do a tapping sequence to help you create a different relationship to

Start by saying out loud:


Now rate how True this statement feels to you on a 10 point scale where 10 is Absolutely
True and 0 is Not True At All.

Truth Rating of This Statement: _______________________

Now start tapping using the following words:

Karate Chop Spot: Even though they say it’s better to give than to receive, I choose to
know that giving and receiving are both parts of the same act.
Inner eyebrow: I choose to know that there cannot be giving without receiving.
Outer Eye: I choose to know that the Giver is only happy when the Receiver receives
Under Eye: Even though I was told it was selfish to receive too much, I choose to know
that unless I receive fully I cannot participate in the universe with true balance and grace.
Under Mouth: I choose to know that in receiving with grace, I become humble and
Collarbone: I choose to know that when I receive gracefully, I honor the Giver.
Under Arm: I choose to know that both giving and receiving are part of our natural
Now test yourself by saying out loud again:

“It is better to give than receive”

And rate how TRUE you feel this is now, with 10 being absolutely true, and 0 not true at
all. Where are you on the scale?

My Truth Rating After One Round of Tapping is: ______________

If you have not yet come down sufficiently in your rating, repeat the exercise as many
times as you need to.


· It is neither better nor worse to GIVE than it is to RECEIVE.

· We cannot interrupt the process of Giving and Receiving by emphasizing one end of
the pole without causing disruption and imbalance in the process.

· Sometimes we need to ask for something we want, and our asking can be a gift to


This exercise will help you understand that you are both Giver and Receiver in every
situation, and realize how much you will benefit from being able to receive your own gifts.

Don’t try to be too logical when you do this exercise. Just repeat the words when thinking
about the person you wrote down earlier who was so happy to have received your (or
another’s) gift, and let whatever happens happen. It can change your feeling radically
about receiving the good fortune that is coming to you.

For this exercise you will skip the Karate Chop Spot and start with the inner eyebrow

Inner Eyebrow: I shouldn’t be receiving this good fortune when others don’t have it.
Outer Eye: It will make others feel bad.
Under Eye: They won’t love me anymore.
Under Mouth: They will be mad at me.
Collarbone: I shouldn’t be conspicuous in my good fortune.
Under Arm: I shouldn’t get ahead of others in life.
Top of head: I’m not a good person if I benefit from this good fortune if others don’t have it.

Inner Eyebrow: I choose to feel the sense of warm tingling and relief I felt when my
helping gift was accepted by (insert person’s name)
Outer Eye: I choose to feel that same way about my own SELF when I imagine receiving
my good fortune.
Under Eye: I choose to know that I honor the Universe (or God, Spirit, the Divine, Buddha,
etc.) by accepting this gift.
Under Nose: I choose to know that actually I am giving a wonderful gift to myself by
letting in fully this good fortune.
Under Mouth: I choose to receive this good fortune with love and joy and open arms
and thereby bring happiness to myself as I honor the Universe (or God, Spirit, the Divine,
Buddha, etc..
Collarbone: I choose to know that Receiving is an act of love.
Top of Head: I choose to thank myself for accepting this wonderful gift that I so want.
Inner Eyebrow: Thank you (put your own name here) - I accept your gift!
Outer Eye: Thank you (Universe, the Divine, God, Buddha, or whatever designation you
prefer to use) for giving me this gift.
Under Eye: Thank you…
Under Nose: Thank you…


Each day do one round of tapping using whatever phrase from Exercise 4 that speaks
most strongly to you that day. This will serve to “tap in” the awareness that receiving is
an act of love.
May you Receive and Give joyously throughout the year, every day. . .

Dr. Patricia Carrington, Ph.D. is one of the pioneers in the field of EFT
and energy psychology. Since 1987 she has been a leader and teacher of
the Meridian Tapping techniques, and is the author of a leading book in
this field, Discover The Power of Meridian Tapping, the companion book
to the powerful documentary film The Tapping Solution. Formally on the
faculty of Princeton University, she is presently a clinical professor at the
University of Medicine and Dentistry in New Jersey. Her clinical work
and research revolves around EFT, and her widely acclaimed advanced
technique in this area, known as the EFT Choices Method, is a landmark
in the field.

Dr. Pat Carrington may be contacted through her website or by
writing to

How Pat Carrington Sees Her Work and EFT Therapy

Dr. Carrington (left) talks with a client (right).
“To me therapy using EFT is a meeting of people on an unusual and profound level. This
is true whether it is conducted in person, over the telephone, at a workshop, or anywhere

“The meeting may be short — but it is always a contact-at-the-core. The EFT tapping
process is a special space that both of us, or perhaps many of us, enter into together.
From it comes an experience that is far more than the technique used to elicit it, the
method followed, formal credentials, or in fact, anything else.”

“Using the remarkable ability of EFT to effect rapid and profound change, together we
often achieve a dramatic reduction of symptoms and this is of the greatest importance,
but it is not my major goal when doing EFT, or when teaching others about it. I “tap” with
people because I respect and love people. From my point of view, every contact with a
client is a healing experience for both the client and myself, an exploration of our human
connectedness. I am therefore not very technical in my approach because I see life as
too fleeting for a lot of formalities, and people as too real for that. I approach my task
hoping I will be of some help in improving our lives on this earth. I am grateful for the
help this wonderful technique gives me for doing that…”