NLP: Neuro-Linguistic Programming by XFMAN

"Give me five minutes to talk away my face, and I'll bed the Queen of France.” ... Voltaire “This is a recompilation of information, routines, patterns concerning NLP… The author doesn’t claim he wrote and/or made any of this. The author is only responsible of bring this material together, for educational purpose only. If you choose to continue reading you agree with this terms and conditions. If you disagree with NLP or you love it, share your comments.”… Xfman

involves the careful reproduction of the behaviors and beliefs of those who have achieved "excellence". Secondly. to overload and distract the conscious mind so that unconscious communication can be cultivated. is done to achieve better communication and responsiveness. breathing. Singer gives examples of the pantomime effect of mere mimicry by some practitioners which does not create rapport. called "modeling". 2. The patterns discovered were adapted for general communication and effecting change. Rapport The first aspect. to assist in building and maintaining rapport with the client. The underlying source of these techniques. NLP teaches 'mirroring' or matching body language. The Milton model has three primary aspects: Firstly. building rapport or empathy. posture. The early focus of NLP was the study of the underlying patterns in the language and techniques of noted and successful therapists in hypnotherapy. to allow for interpretation in the words offered to the client. but warn against mimicry. Thirdly. . There are many concepts and methods: The Milton model is a form of hypnotherapy based on the language patterns for hypnotic communication of Milton Erickson . can be changed by the application of a variety of techniques. Rapport is an aspect of 'pacing' or tuning into the client or learners world. Overloading conscious attention The second aspect of the milton model is that it uses ambiguity in language and non-verbal communication. gestalt therapy and family therapy. and hence behaviors. axioms and beliefs that adherents use primarily as an approach to personal development. predicates and voice tonality. Once pacing is established. an extension of natural skills. the practitioner can 'lead' by changing their behavior or perception so the other follows. which arises when the boundaries of meaning are indistinct. It has been described as "a way of using language to induce and maintain trance in order to contact the hidden resources of our personality". 1. body and language interact to create an individual's perception of the world and that perceptions. O'Connor & Seymour in "Introducing NLP" describe rapport as a 'harmonious dance'. This might also be combined with vagueness. a noted hypnotherapist. The use of ambiguity and vagueness distracts the conscious mind as it tries to work out what is meant which gives the unconscious mind the opportunity to prosper. It is based on the idea that mind.Introduction: What is NLP ? Is a set of techniques.

you might find yourself feeling ever more confident"." The choice of speaking in front of the audience. the exact time and the likely responses to the whole process are framed but the imprecise language gives the client the opportunity to fill in the finer details. "when you come to a decision to speak in public. you may find it appealing how your feelings have changed. "when you are in front of the audience you will not feel nervous". It might be made even more indirect by saying. "When you are in front of the audience. A direct suggestion merely states what is wanted. . Indirect communication The third aspect of the Milton Model is that it is purposely vague and metaphoric for the purpose of accessing the unconscious mind. This example follows the indirect method leaving both the specific time and level of self-confidence unspecified. for example. In contrast an indirect suggestion is less authoritative and leaves an opportunity for interpretation. for example. It is used to soften the meta model and make indirect suggestions.3.

taste and smell in their mind. such as voice tone. the Milton model uses non-specific and metaphoric language. Virginia Satir.History: Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) is an interpersonal communication model and an alternative approach to psychotherapy based on the subjective study of language. Perhaps most generally. On the other hand. mental representations of problems. It is claimed that states can be enhanced through various . there are some common principles and presuppositions shared by its proponents. The actual state someone is in when setting a goal or choosing a course of action is also considered important. books and audio programs in the form of exercises and principles intended to influence change in self and others. posture. helping someone see a problem in a new light. action necessary to achieve outcomes. modeling three successful psychotherapists. making their own meaning from what is being said. Milton H. A number of techniques in NLP aim to enhance states by anchoring resourceful states associated with personal experience or model states by imitating others. such as sensory specific evidence for a goal. Some of the main ideas include: • • • • The way an individual thinks about a problem or desired outcome has an effect on the way he or she will deal with problems and choose a certain course of action. wishes and desired outcomes. These are used in combination with reframing. Erickson and Fritz Perls. workshops. While the field of NLP is loosely spread and resistant to a single comprehensive definition. including psychology. finding their own solutions and inner resources. More specifically. Today. cognitive science. The generality of the Milton model allows the listener to fill in the gaps. On the one hand. communication and personal change. their representational systems is crucial to determining state and. There is also a great deal of difference between the depth and breadth of training and standards. feel. It was co-founded by Richard Bandler and linguist John Grinder in the 1970s. The theoretical foundations borrow from work related to the these models and disciplines related to language and the mind. variants and applications of NLP are often found in seminars. meta model questioning is intended to clarify what has been left out or distorted in communication. It is claimed that these verbal patterns and non-verbal cues reveal information not typically available when distracted by preconceptions or expectations. linguistics. facial expression and eye movements. rather than just listening to and responding to what a person is saying. The focus was pragmatic. When communicating with someone. NLP aims to increase choice in the underlying representations so that the individual has more choice and flexibility in the world. hear. with the aim of discovering what made these individuals more successful than their peers. what people see. NLP aims to also respond to the structure of verbal communication and cues outwardly expressed in their nonverbal communication. hence. gesture. and occupational therapy. which aims to challenge faulty thinking and irrational beliefs.

In the early 1980s. But the relationship between NLP and science has been complex and controversial. Some (evidence based) clinical psychologists and researchers have criticized NLP as a pseudoscience or New Age form of psychotherapy. Research reviews (1984. NRC) committee found little empirical basis for these claims or for the assumptions of NLP. .techniques including manipulation of submodalities. Few practitioners have presented their clinical data for peerreview and most have had little interest in empirical validation marking a decrease in research interest. partly explained by its world view that was born of pragmatism rather than theory. adjusting the size. 1987) in The Journal of Counseling Psychology and by the National Research Council (1988. NLP as remained widely supported by its practitioners in the psychotherapy field and has influenced other forms of brief and eclectic interventions. NLP was heralded as an important advance in psychotherapy and counseling. and it attracted significant interest from researchers and clinicians. brightness and location of visual imagery or equivalent properties of representations in the other sensory modalities.

"A . "What would it be like if you were to feel irresistibly attracted . commands end with a down turn in tonality. There are many opinions about NLP in seduction. the seducer can remind a woman of these emotional states by his appearance or touch. The commands usually possess the word formation of a question. in effect.. but the tonality of a command. do you find yourself compelled to act on it?" What would it be like if. now?" A person can. process. Here are some useful embedded commands.NLP on Seduction: NLP on Seduction was introduced by Ross Jeffires and the whole Speed Seduction material he created. to put them in a connected or sexual state. since you really aren't talking about him or her.. For example. so it's no longer open to debate or doubt.. but I will let you decide for your own. We will use each one to embed the command "feel irresistibly attracted to someone.. if YOU WANT TO USE IT or not. This weasel phrase is. By talking about a "person" it deflects any resistance on the part of the person. "What's it like when you feel irresistibly attracted to someone?" The purpose of using embedded commands is to move your listener’s mind in the direction you want it to go without seeming to be intruding or ordering in any way. This is done through presuppositions." When you. which are assumptions implied within verbal structures. or experience) within the mind of another person beneath the person’s conscious awareness. Embedded commands mandate the use of a commanding tonality to be effective. but I will add routines and patterns that can help you more and can make you realize how things work. a command for the person to imagine the condition or occurrence named or described after it. "When you feel irresistibly attracted to someone.." these states can be anchored to oneself. The basis of the original Speed Seduction books and courses is that a person feels the emotions expressed in a story or a linguistically pattern. Phonetic ambiguity (such as below me vs blow me) and anchoring are used.. "When you" presupposes that the person is going to do the thing or experience the state you describe. In the English language... The goal is to arouse women with words. Embedded command An embedded command is a Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) technique for "planting" a thought (state. (LOL!) I’m going to avoid the technical and scientific part of NLP where I explain how things work and all the techniques. From that point on. The concept is that by using "anchors" and "weasel phrases.

really like!" If you were to.. feeling or situation you are describing... it's not like you're trying to get them to do anything.. "As you feel irresistibly attracted.. condition. By saying "you don't have to".. By saying "if. so it's useful both as a connector and an amplifier.person can feel irresistibly attracted. aren't you? "You really shouldn't.feel irresistibly attracted to me now!". This phrase assumes the person will do the behavior or undergo the condition you describe. since you're saying they don't really have to do it (even though they will!) "You don't have to feel irresistibly attracted. talking with someone they really..) As you. so it's not like you're commanding them to do it! "You might find that as you begin to feel irresistibly attracted to me.... Useful as the start of an intensifying chain of phrases. Emphasis in Commands (CAPS in the routines) . it could lead to your acting on it!" To the point where. It implies that they are going to experience what you describe as something that just happens.." it deflects resistance while directing the person to imagine the experience.. now?" ** Important points concerning NLP and Routines: Voice: Deep Tonality. now!" How surprised would you be to… This implies that the event you describe is certainly going to happen. as you listen carefully to what I say!" You really shouldn't. Plus. and the only question is how surprised they'll be by it! "How surprised will you be to find that you are becoming irresistibly attracted to me .. do you think you might feel compelled to act on it?" (There's a second command hidden in that last sentence. This has the same effect as "you might find" because it implies that what you describe is going to happen. "You might find those pictures start to get bigger and brighter to the point where you feel irresistibly attracted to me!" Invite you to notice.. "invite" has pleasant connotations of it being voluntary and polite! "And I invite you to notice how the warmth of my voice can allow you to feel irresistibly attracted to me. you eliminate resistance. Slow talk. can you feel how (sexually) excited you're getting?" You don't have to.... You might find... "If you were to feel irresistibly attracted. Since you're saying they "shouldn't". This phrase connects one thing your listener is experiencing with the next thing you want her to experience..

it's fascinating. The ideal attraction makes your heart beat faster. Can you (squeeze her hand) feel _that_. exactly because of that. Or rather. is pretty close to the way it is?" Her: "Oooh. the most important element. after you're done with your description. you can answer with a confused look at first and then a "Well. you're CERTAIN YOU'RE SAFE. don't stiffen up . I’m going to share great routines and patterns that I have found and known through my life... now that you mention it.. You: "When you imagine how much fun it is to ride a roller coaster or any . finally.for she loved it regardless. just by reciting it to them.. The Discovery Channel Pattern by Ross Jeffries You: "You know. is a sense of overall safety.. out of the blue. They said there are 3 parts to the ideal attraction.." Her: "Yeah!" You: "And then they said that another part to an ideal attraction is . and your breathing gets faster and you just FEEL THAT AMAZING RUSH all over. you FEEL SAFE because you realise nothing bad can really happen. this pattern has been reported to make women cum. they were talking about the elements that make up the ideal attraction (sp). Wouldn't that be a cool way to make a living?" Her: "Yeah! That sounds so interesting.. so that allows you to FEEL TOTALLY FREE to LET GO AND ENJOY THAT GREAT AROUSAL again and again and again. They were interviewing people who make their living designing attractions for amusement parks like Magic Mountain and Disneyland and Universal Studios.. I saw the most interesting show on the Discovery Channel last night.." You: "Well.. That even though the attraction make look a little dangerous. First.Routines and Patterns: All this said I think we can start talking about some patterns wrote by some famous and not that famous writers."." Her: "Yeah!" You: "And they said. the girl says with a sly smile "Sounded more like making love" Don't be shocked. And if nothing else comes to mind. as soon as you GET OFF you want to GET BACK ON again. you FEEL A STATE OF HIGH AROUSAL. You just FEEL SO ENTHRALLED that you want to TAKE THIS RIDE (point to your pecker!) multiple times. when you EXPERIENCE the ideal attraction.yeah!!" Ok. anyway. Usually though.

sometimes you're even gasping and panting you feel the blood rushing through every part of your body and as that excitement and tension is building and building. watch. you ever been on a roller coaster? Her: Yeah! You: Ok. point to where you seem to see that picture.. isn't that the totally accurate description of your ideal attraction to another person. you feel you're breathing faster and faster. see what you'd actually see through your own eyes if you were there. (Let her point) You: Right there? Ok. going on that roller coaster ride. and sometimes you're screaming you're so turned on.... now we're gonna do it again." The Blammo by Ross Jeffries You: Think about someone you really like for a second? Ok? Got that? Now. (She'll discover that she can't do it) You: See that? It doesn't want to go does it? Because you need a way to sort out who you really like (point to yourself .. (Let her do this for a bit) You: Ok . there's another difference in the way you make pictures in your head.other kind of amusement park ride . Now think of someone who you really don't like at all. and try as hard as you can to move it over into the place where you see the picture of the person you do like. (Let her point . Ok? Point to where you see that. Its like as that ride is climbing up and up.. then have her think of someone she could take or leave . but this time. Just do that for a few seconds... and I want you to see yourself sitting in the roller coaster car. riding up and down on the roller coaster. (Let her do that) ... why miss an opportunity) from who you don't. you reach the top of the ride and then as it crests. you can feel your heart pounding with excitement.. you just release it in a flood of excitement. instead of seeing yourself. And you know.. and by the way if she's one of those people who doesn't dislike anyone. who she's neutral about!) You: Now watch .. You know that kind of wonderful click right there (right in the center of who you are) that just makes you feel totally drawn to this person and on one hand you feel totally safe and totally comfortable like you were meant to know them and as if you've known them forever. take that picture of the person you don't like . Isn't that need? Her: Yeah! Cool! Wow! (Or any other similar stupid female expostulation!) You: Now see. I want you to remember a time you were on a roller coaster. afterwards I thought to myself. For example.

.. hear what you heard. feel how it felt.. can you remember a time when you were feeling exquisite pleasure in your body??? Her: mmmm . when she wiggles that finger. here. You: Ok. breathing quicken. when you repeat that touch they'll go back into that state. So if I were to say to you. try this . the theory behind anchoring is. here's the next piece of this and it's called anchoring. doesn't it? Her: Oh. So. and feel how it felt. touch her wrist and say: You: Purrrfect. (Watch to see she's really in state .. just wiggle your little finger for me. hear what you heard. close your eyes .. yes. Close em again.see what you saw.. (Repeat the anchor process) You: Ok.. When you see what you actually saw it really helps you to get the feelings of how it actually felt! Her: Wow? This is fascinating!!! You: Isn't it? Now look . and I really start to FEEL THAT SENSE OF INCREDIBLE CONNECTION. never miss that opportunity!) Her: Oh yeah! You: Well. I find that when I spend time with someone. yeah! You: Isn't this interesting? Isn't the mind really cool? Now notice something else: you ever just fall head over heels in love with some. Open eyes. maybe then you can just FEEL PERFECT (fire off the anchor by touching her wrist). And when those feelings of exquisite pleasure really reach their peak.You: Now. as you're remembering that time. and you combine that state with a touch or sound.. one more time (run her through it one more time) You: Ok. you know. And when those feelings reach their peak... Open your eyes. I want you to see what you saw. And go through it again... And that feels (point to yourself . of those two.. actually gave you the feelings of being there? Her: The second one!! You: Of course . her face will change..... point to where you see that picture! (let her point it out) . reach over. which one felt more real.. (Keep holding her wrist as she's experiencing this!) You: Ok. or see what you actually saw. And just hang on for a minute to how good it feels to FEEL PERFECT. Now. etc. wiggle that finger. now . because you can see yourself in a memory. that if someone is in a certain state.

God. you might find it's like you want to CREATE AN OPENING FOR MY VOICE .. Cause I know some guys can be so crude.. and SPREAD THAT WARMTH ALL THROUGH YOUR BODY .You: Ok .'Different places in the mind' "You know. Possible theme . oh God.."No" "I agree. I was in a bar . please fuck me!!!!! Forbidden Patterns: THE GEMINI / DARK SUN Once in rapport..Set up and Challenge "Do you think that most men understand what women really want/need?" Likely answer . and this guy walks right up to a girl and he says: "Can you IMAGINE HOW GREAT IT WOULD FEEL if I were going down on you. I just want to tell you I'm having a great time with you tonight.. as you ALLOW MY VOICE TO COME FROM THAT SPACE . as YOUR HEART BEATS FASTER and your BREATHING INCREASES. aren't you? (fire off that anchor again!) Her: Oh yeah! You: So watch .. It's like the other night... exactly the way you like it.. and you were SO HOT AND SO WET YOU WERE BEGGING TO HAVE ME INSIDE YOU?" I can't believe how crude some guys can be!!! Her: Oh... and opening that allows the deep.. and that really feels perfect (fire anchor) doesn't it? Her: God.. rich warmth of my voice to just penetrate your thoughts.. all night long.. yes!! You: In fact. It sure is better that being with all those jerks out there. and you're really feeling perfect right now.. you see I've come to an understanding about women that a . as THE WARMTH OF THAT VOICE JUST TURNS TO A FIRE. SPREADING through your chest and down through your body . and you really FEEL THAT TOTAL PERFECTION (fire anchor again) . (point to where she falls in love) As you THINK ABOUT THAT SPACE AS I TALK TO YOU . we've been taking for a while now and I feel that you're somebody who understands herself and somebody I can get an honest answer from" ...

.in such a way that no matter how much we try to deny that desire to act... daydreams..lot of my friends/a lot of men will never get.just waiting to emerge" ***notice response here and anchor .ready...... (as if that wasn't enough .deep the moment. see this face. where you ponder fantasies. I want to step into this special place. or maybe a relationship that you're already in that resticts you.....what would it be like for a person.....2 questions that I like to ask myself feel this presence in that special place...... realizing that this is the main chance <sp>.my understanding is...right hear this voice..where that voice inside says YES....alive..........vivid. with this special person <sp> and explore anything that we can make real together" "and the other question..willing.. a chance to move in a nude erection.that's the place where you keep you most exciting memories.REAL!........ ....and oftentimes what happens is.." ".. to just right now. I actually think that inside every woman there are infact 2 women" "On one hand there is the culturally programmed woman. feel all of those hidden parts and desires wake up. you've got to reach out and grab it and act on it right now.if you wish***** "So.......what is it about the way certain people affect us that causes us to think of this person <sp> in that special place.the kind of things you do if no-one were watching and the things you wouldn't even want your best friends to know that you dream about and long for. a person has to lock those parts of them away and keep them safe.......... amazing just takes on a life of it's own. It's an understanding I've come to be really opening my mind. because of the roles that society forces you to play.. and the thing about nude erections is that it's not enough to just ponder it..." "...... ------------------------------------------------------------------------------ . the one with all of the social rules and roles (give a couple of examples here make it sound really opressive and miserable ....." "but then on the other hand there's the natural woman..and yet they are still ...

it was awful. I'm a real positive person. You really shouldn't think about the door and you really don't have to think about the door. what would happen if I walked out that door and the door closed and as the door closed." (her answer) Ok. I mean. you know? It's almost as if. silly. you don't know what can happen from day to day... "I don't like this door business at all...." (you) "yeah.." So you go back to playing around with her some more. "ok. it slammed shut." (point towards the door) ".. you could not open the door and you knew that you would never be able to look into my eyes again and you'd never be able to hear my voice again and you'd never be able to feel my touch again. alright sweetheart. (you) "you know. and you say. bring her to another orgasm or whatever and say. and no matter what you did. I mean. can you imagine." . Other patterns that you've used on her have anchored immense pleasure to you.. -------------------------------------You're fooling around in bed. that's a door. you know. you're right. right here is where she starts going. -*** The ideal setting for the power of the door is right after you've had intercourse and you're in bed with the girl. a terrible thing happened the other day.that no matter even if you were to get that door opened and you were to search. I mean. I can't believe it. by the time they got him to hospital he was dead. My friend was hit by a truck. The Door creates an anchor for the loss of that pleasure. when you think about it in your mind. (her answer) "well you know. I mean. (you) "sweetheart." (you) And at this time you just reassure her. that you could never find me again. what's that over there?" (point towards the door). Have some more fun with her. it would be a horrible thing you know when you think about. but.The Door pattern originated by Alex Domnikov: -*** The Door is aimed at controlling her after you've started sleeping with her.

have a good time with her. Let's stop this door now. "well what are you doing?" (you) "I'm going to the bathroom. You know. I'm just playing with this door again. "sweetheart.. still you know. are you trying to upset me?" (you) "oh. and then then get back into the door and (you) "you know." Having anchored that sense of loss and pain to the door. he says.. and he knows the relation of where the door is to her desk." -----------------------------------------------------------------------------The Shadow and The Rising Sun . all that fun we had together. you'll never be able to hear my voice again. hand in hand in the moonlight." (you) "You'll never be able. about life's tragedies." At this point you can already see that this is starting to make her feel uncomfortable. You want to anchor that response. you really shouldn't think about this door now and you really don't want to think about this door now.Then she starts freaking out. I'm sorry sweetheart. That right there will freak her out. could you please turn right and take a look at what's over there." and that was the end of the bullshit. I mean.. fool around. I just keep on thinking how. Get up and she'll say. we would never be able to do those things again and even if you were to open that door. ok?" So play around some more. You want to create that sense in her that you can walk out and she'll feel terrible for the rest of here life. (you) "you will never be able to see me again.. God. you can trigger it whenever needed." I go up to the bedroom door and slam it. Then I'll open the door and (you) "oh. I'm sorry. I'm just saying these are just things that are popping into my mind. all those great times we had together. joke. Alex says: If he's talking on the phone and getting any crap from her. I'm sorry. walking along the beach. You know. You calibrate more on that part of." (her answer) "no no I hate this door. you would search and you could never find. Get her good and nice and hot again.

....about and white. This was the concept behind mid-life crisis. to just let go. So balance then is a good thing... these thoughts that you don't tell anyone about .......experience all that life offers you now. closer and closer to the highest point in its path (midlife) . This is that part of you that you hide from the rest of the world... while the latter part of our lives is about integration with the shadow and about being whole... Now. what would it say? Now what if you were to step into your shadow right now.. because in the morning.. as the Sun rises in the sky.and I wasn't quite sure what she meant at the time until I read something by Jung.. this sense of balance is very important because the concept that whatever you repress grows and begins to spill over into other parts of your life. Theme builds on the darker side of a person and a sneaky "swish" to get you in there(shadow) Essentially it seems this pattern is best suited to encouraging one to get in touch with their hidden desires (thus connecting emotionally with them) and then eliciting their appearance in an extroverted way. He said that everyone has a Shadow... about the whole concept of the Yin and Yang.. it gets higher and higher. Now what if you were to see your shadow right in front of you..... I was thinking about something the other day...She said.and how one is defined in relation to the other. If your shadow is repressed it grows and grows.. And then I remembered something that a Psychologist friend of mine said once.just varying degrees on the same spectrum.. where you can experience and imagine these thoughts.One of the forbidden patterns. and everything that was once true has now changed.where you really want to experience all the excitement of this moment......about hot and cold. And how opposites are really the same thing.. because it brings a sense of balance...... and see the world .. maybe even from yourself. The Shadow is a good thing he believed. and talk to it... "I have to go feed my shadow". We are born completely whole and it isn't until we learn what our current culture tells us what is good and what is bad that we start to both repress and express these parts of ourselves....until at mid-day it changes polarity completely..a hidden side.. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------You know..of possibilities...light and darkness. and Jung believed that the first part of our lives is about separation from the shadow...and now the opposite is true. and the sun goes down.. to let go of all the things that had been holding you back before...and how there are no absolutes..a place of forbidden desire..until it just takes you over completely. Jung said it was like the Rising Sun..

.through the eyes of your shadow. What would that say about the person that you were before and what does this say about who you are now? .

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