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Supplement to The Jewish Standard • October 2018
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OCTOBER 2018

Table of Contents
5 Sukkot
An antidote to Indulgence The Heschel School
11 Combating Colds OPENING MINDS, BRIDGING DIFFERENCES, LIVING JEWISH VALUES.
6 Off to College Tips for keeping healthy Ariela Dubler, Head of School NURSERY - 12TH GRADE

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12 Gallery To RSVP contact Iris Klein, Co-Director of Admissions
7 Introverted Children Pictures of our children iriskl@heschel.org
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13 Top Choices Contact Erica Panush, Co-Director of Admissions ericap@heschel.org

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Musings from the Editor
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rowing up, I was pretty much the week. These temporary made his way into our fam- Center in Jersey City, we met David Blaine,
finished with the major Jewish shelters also are intended ily. One of my nieces, who the magician, illusionist and endurance
holidays after Yom Kippur. That to help us shed our world was 3 at the time, took a artist. He did a card trick that baffled us,
is until Chanukah in the cold of win- of materialism — at least in particular liking to Jeff and coming up with the card numbers that
ter and Passover in the spring. Those theory — and serve to un- named one of her dolls af- corresponded to my cell phone number.
we celebrated with brand new clothes, derscore our faith. To know ter him — Jaffnik, a version This year the privilege to join my
break fast foods, menorah lighting, and that even with nothing, we of his name. brother and sister-in-law’s sukkah is
Manischewitz matzo and Malaga wine at have everything. Soon thereafter we upon us.
lively family seders. I looked forward to Sukkot is also a whole returned to their suk- Some of his children are married and
them and even welcomed my Yom Kippur lot of fun. kah with our first child, have children of their own, nearly the age
“hunger” as part of the experience. I knew I first experienced Suk- Yehuda. Then later another of my niece when she named her doll af-
about Purim and Simchat Torah with its kot with my brother and sister-in-law, child, Shaina, and from their very begin- ter Jeff. And this Sukkot we go with just
costumed carnivals and flag-waving fun, who erected their sukkah in the backyard nings, our children knew and celebrated Shaina, as Yehuda celebrates the festival
but at that point, I wasn’t all in. of their Brooklyn home. Big and bright the holiday of Sukkot in this sukkah. in Israel.
It wasn’t until well into adulthood blue plastic, the decorations inside were When they were old enough, the This year what do I take with me
that I embraced, and was embraced by, a mix of their children’s pre-school art kids, ours along with their cousins, took besides a hostess gift and a thirst for be-
the holiday of Sukkot, the autumn festival and laminated pictures of Torah giants. to the tradition of sukkah hopping, go- ing with family to celebrate? Even before
that commemorates the sheltering of the Meryl, my sister-in-law, is an exquisite ing from backyard to backyard into the I step inside the temporary shelter, even
Israelites in the wilderness. Sukkot, a joy- cook, and she would save and serve the neighboring sukkahs, collecting candy before I think about shedding my materi-
ous holiday and a time of celebration, re- special dishes, like sweetbreads, for us to and other treats. This made the holiday alism, even before I eat the delicious food,
minds of the years that the Jews spent in eat inside the sukkah. There always were even sweeter. this Sukkot I know that even with noth-
the desert on their way to the Promised guests at their table and the conversation The week of chol hamoed — the in ing, I have everything.
Land, and the way in which they were ran from themes on the holiday to light- between days of the holiday — was also
divinely protected under difficult desert hearted jokes. fun. We took daytrips to museums and Cheers,
conditions. The sukkot built today are I remember bringing my then-fiancé, other attractions. It was a vacation and
meant for us to “live” in, eat, sleep, and Jeff, to their home for Sukkot, Newly en- respite from school that was welcomed.
study, and to dwell in for the duration of gaged, Jeff was still a bit on display as he One year, on a visit to the Liberty Science

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Sukkot: The Antidote to


Indulgence and Entitlement
Slovie Jungreis-Wolff very same parents demanded caring for We cannot remain at peace as their beneath the open sky. Our families, our
others, communal responsibility, and ac- sense of entitlement and appetite for loved ones, time shared together, all with-

I
n a letter to the parent body of an af- tivism and charity work that require some materialism grows. The holiday of Suk- in the walls of this temporary hut.
fluent private NYC school the head of sense of sacrifice? kot brings the inspiration Jewish families The sukkah allows us to transmit this
the school, once described how the What is our message about priori- everywhere so desperately need to touch life-changing belief to the next genera-
school has become a dangerous incubator ties? Where does spirituality fit in? the hearts of our children. tion. We are asked to stop focusing on the
of indulgence where ostentatious displays Judaism teaches that we are all re- The lesson of the sukkah resonates. confines of the material and experience
of entitlement slip by unquestioned. He sponsible for one another; we are parts Most people feel safe while living in the a deeper joy. To realize that despite our
wrote of “consumerist families that treat of one body. If you are feeling pain then I, comfort of their own homes. When all is hardest efforts we cannot guarantee any-
teachers and the school … exclusively to too, am discomforted. If I have been gifted familiar and we sit within the rooms of thing in life.
advance their child’s self-interests.” He with athletic prowess, popularity, brains or our house, we do not feel vulnerable. In a world where children constantly
warned parents that they are raising chil- financial resources, I must be aware that During Sukkot embrace the shelter of want to acquire more, where the lens is
dren who are a “cognitive elite that is self- these are God-given gifts. The question I faith. We exit the walls of our home and sit rarely focused on others and mostly on
serving, callous, and spiritually barren.” am faced with is: What will I do with these beneath the stars. Each time we enter the themselves, Sukkot provides a tangible ex-
Parents have pursued children’s aca- gifts to better my world? Or is it simply sukkah, we declare our trust in God. We perience to connect to spirituality and their
demic goals often at the expense of their caring about getting the achievement leave all that is familiar and dwell in tem- Creator, the Source of genuine security.
souls. Respect has been neglected as chil- award, the trophy, attaining brand names? porary residences so that we don’t grow Bring the sukkah home. Sheltered un-
dren acquire more, consume more and We cannot separate values from arrogant and find all our happiness within der the wings of the Divine, show your chil-
want more. But at what price do we keep learning. We need to re-evaluate how we our material possessions. We feel protected dren the everlasting joy within our faith.
on giving without demanding in return? are nourishing our children’s souls. Can in the sanctuary of the Divine presence. Aish.Com
Parents are focused on college place- we put as much effort into their character This is genuine security. To know
ments, internships, and achievement. Af- as we do into their academic pursuits? Do that it is not about wealth, brand names, Slovie Jungreis-Wolff is a parenting and couples
ter-school activities and tutoring consume we take the time to focus on values? How awards or technology. Everything that counselor and the author of “Raising A Child
the night. When was the last time these can we infuse children with faith? counts in life is right here, in our sukkah With Soul,” (St. Martin’s Press).

Tenafly Pediatrics
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Tales of a Bergen Mother


from the Launching Pad
Deb Breslow and a booming voice, was delivering our “Please don’t sing. Please don’t hum. Please
homework assignment when he was in- don’t laugh.” By the time we arrived at Bos-

I
assumed I stood in good stead be- terrupted by the bell signifying the af- ton Market we were starving, sweaty and
cause I’d already been through it ternoon announcements. I tried to listen exhausted, I tried to muster a smile as we
twice. With just one month to shop, nonchalantly to the man’s voice speaking waited our turn in line. “Please don’t sigh.
organize, and pack for college, I was feel- on the school’s PA system as though that Please don’t roll your eyes. Please don’t
ing the burn in my stomach every time man had no personal connection to me. stare. Please don’t cry.”
I passed Bed, Bath & Beyond. My two But it was no use. With a wide grin on his It was the end of new student orien-
older sons, without ever looking up from face, Mr. Papoula towered over me. “How tation. We had unpacked, set up his room,
their phones, shared their collective wis- does it feel to have your father address met the roommate, enjoyed some local
dom: “Don’t let her buy the jumbo pack the whole school over that contraption?” restaurants, and purchased our requisite
of highlighters. You’ll be lucky if you use he asked, pointing to the plastic box on Georgetown swag. The tension was high.
one.” “Oh, and wait till she slides in the the wall. He’d blown my cover. Everyone I did not speak unless spoken to. I could
two-pack of stool softener! That was a big was staring at me. Everyone knew. Was feel things shifting, my role and his. My
hit among my suitemates.” “Yeah, I ended Deb Breslow that how my son felt? Did he want to husband made small talk prepared for the
up leaving half the stuff she bought me in fade into the woodwork every time I re- torrent of emotion that he’d come to ex-
my apartment for the next victim. How brella. Soon, small piles collected in the minded him of this brand new, scary, but pect from me. But I was unusually calm.
many push pins does one kid need?” Ig- Florida room, along with empty bins and exciting, completely uncertain next phase I’d become accustomed to keeping my
noring their jeers, I went to work with a large duffel that the family cat claimed of his young life? I suppose we were one mouth shut and surprisingly, there was
lists. I’d memorized the room layout from as its residence. and the same, desperate to assert our very little to say.
the online virtual tour, knew the move- Two weeks passed. “Fine,” he said one independent selves in an effort to break Looking up at the clear blue sky, the
in protocols, and was more than familiar morning, “We can go shopping. But I get free from the safe, but stifling hold of Washington Monument in the distance,
with what was a must-have dorm room to choose where we go.” I didn’t dare admit our parents. I was overwhelmed by the possibilities.
item and what could wait until Parents’ that I’d had the Route 4/Route 17 course Somehow we made it from store to There was no question he was going to
Weekend. But to no avail. Since I hadn’t plotted out in my mind for weeks. “And, if store without incident. By day’s end, the soar. I cleared my throat. He braced him-
attended college in 40-plus years, knew we don’t find what we’re looking for, you trunk was filled with bags from a half doz- self. “Sorry I made the past month so diffi-
nothing about the needs, styles and wants are not to ask a salesperson where to find en stores in Paramus. Checking the pack- cult for you,” I whispered. “I just wanted...I
of an iGeneration 18 year old, was not it.” A short pause, then more: “You cannot ing list off in my head, I knew we’d made just needed...I just hoped...” Stopping me
conversant with all things electronic, and make suggestions for posters or family some headway. For a day’s worth of shop- with the tightest bear hug, he leaned into
was, after all, Mom, my opinion was, in a pictures or decide what kind of bedding ping, it was more than a success. Whatever me and said assuredly, “I know, and it’s
word, irrelevant. I need.” we were unable to find, he assured me he OK, just please stop.”
It began with the first packet of cor- Admittedly, I’d planned to show him could order online. Many times throughout
respondence that came to the house from the five practically brand new comforters the day, if it seemed as though I was about Deborah Breslow is a freelance writer and
Georgetown. “Danny, did you register for I’d had cleaned that were wrapped in plas- to ask a question, he stifled me. A mother college-essay coach from Wyckoff. Her work
a GoCard?” “Did you sign up for convoca- tic in the basement, but didn’t. “Anything and son on a mission, we barely spoke. appears in publications focusing on home, fam-
tion?” “What about the survey for find- else?” “Yeah,” he added, “I don’t care that Delicate emotions were palpable. Any at- ily, and medical advocacy. Visit her website at
ing a roommate?” His response, in a tone YOU think I need boots and a raincoat. tempts at levity on my part were met with: www.djbreslow.com.
that I’d never dare speak to my mother in, I’ve never worn a raincoat in my life and it
was: “How about this? Starting now, and snowed one inch in D.C. last winter.” Before
going forward, please assume that any he could change his mind, I grabbed my
correspondence addressed to you from purse, and keys, and collected my reheated
college has already been sent to me via coffee from the microwave. “And one more
email. Not only do you not have to tell me thing,” he barked. “Don’t bring your stupid
about it, there is no action that you need Hello Kitty coffee mug in the car. It doesn’t
to take.” Taking the hit in stride, I soft- even fit in the cup holder.”
ened. “Sure,” I agreed, picturing the first Since when was I such a complete
month of kindergarten when he wouldn’t and utter embarrassment to my children?
let go of my pant leg at drop-off, “I just Was I this intolerant with my parents?
thought...” “How ’bout this? he proposed. Contemplating this, I flashed back to
“Just don’t think.” middle school. As undeniably awkward
There I had it. I was not to think, or as these years were for me, what made
speak, or act, or react, for that matter. it worse was that my father was my prin-
“Give him space; he’s probably nervous,” cipal. Walking through the halls on the
one friend suggested. “You’ll get it done; first day, I prayed I wouldn’t see him, or
boys don’t bring half as much to college have to acknowledge him. My friends, of
as girls do.” I was determined to keep my course, knew, but they understood how
mouth shut, but found it impossible to self-conscious I was about it. “Miller is a
stand still. Quietly and unobtrusively, I common name,” they’d assured me. “No
began to collect the things I knew he was one will put two and two together.” I be-
bringing: the Georgetown sweatshirt my lieved I’d made it through the first day
brother had gotten him, a tower fan, the unscathed until seventh period. Mr. Pa-
four risers to lift the bed, an extra um- poula, 6-foot 4-inches with lanky arms

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Bringing Out the Best


in an Introverted Child
Adina Soclof In order to help engage our introverted kid’s coopera- feel comfortable right away with your new teacher, wear-
tion (so that we don’t run into the power struggles that ing your new sweater or swimming in the pool, but you

T
he more we know about a child’s temperament are so common with them) we can watch to see if they will start to feel comfortable soon.”
and personality, the easier it is for us to get along have had too much people time and make sure that they It is also essential that introverted kids get one-on-
with our child, stop power struggles, genuinely have breaks. If a fight is starting out between your kids, one time with their parents. They can connect better in
connect with them and help raise them to meet their full one an introvert and one an extrovert, instead of running that way. They also tend to be quieter and can get lost in
potential. to punish them, you can ask your introverted child pri- the shuffle of a large family.
Understanding our child’s temperament also provides vately, “Have you had enough? Do you need some time Not only do we need to protect their quiet and alone
us with a deeper understanding of our kid’s misbehavior. alone?” You can then tell your extroverted child, “Some- time, we need to teach our introverted kids to recognize
Quite often their behavior is perfectly normal for their times people need time to play alone. If we take a break their own triggers and take care of themselves. We can
age or reflects inner conflicts due to their personality and for a bit, your brother might be able to play again soon.” teach them to say, “You are too close to me, move away.”
temperament. Introverted kids also need to hear, “You might not See Introverted on page 15
A child who cries and whines in a crowded room is
usually not misbehaving. He is probably a sensitive kid
who is overwhelmed with the stimulation around him. A
high-energy child who is fidgety and starts to run around
at the doctor’s office is not “bad;” he’s just acting on a
very real need to move.
Introversion is often misunderstood. Kids who are
introverts are called shy, nerdy, or bookworms. It is hard
to appreciate our introverted kids because they seem so
awkward in social situations, sometimes to the point of
rudeness. They won’t be convinced to kiss Aunt Ethel Sunday, October 14
when she comes to visit and sometimes when they have 1pm – 4pm @ Camp Veritans
a friend over, they’ll play by themselves, leaving us to Rain Date, October 21
entertain their friend.
Younger kids might even bite their peers if they have
moved into their personal space. This can be the cause
of many power struggles and frustrations. But if we un-
derstand how their minds work, we can learn to respect
their needs and work with them to help them reach their
potential.
Introverted kids need quiet, alone time, their own
space and time for reflection. That is why they don’t an-
swer questions right away; they are listening but need
time to come up with an answer. These kids need time
to read and play quietly without interruption. They like
to watch before joining an activity and they need lots of
time to get comfortable in new situations.
Introverted kids do not like crowds. They may talk
a lot with family members but not with outsiders. They
are not being rude; they are just conserving their energy,
besides they do not like small talk and are likely to pursue
more meaningful relationships. ASK
ABOUT OUR
An unrecognized need for time alone is one of the HEATED
major triggers of tantrums, fight with siblings or why POOL!
a child may get nasty. An introverted kid cannot usually
handle being around too many people, or involved in
too many high-energy activities. They aren’t being bad;
they’re just trying to get their very real needs met.

How to Help Them


The best thing that we can do to help our introverted kids
is to help them recognize their needs. We need to teach
them to appreciate themselves and express what they are
feeling. We need to tell them:

• “It’s hard for you when too many people are around
you.”
•  “Sometimes you like to play and be by yourself.”
• “Dreaming is important to you.”
• “Thinking is fun.”

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Thinking About Summer?


Camps Host Open Houses
Heidi Mae Bratt

C
ome next summer, campers at Camp Veritans in
Haledon will not only work on their swim skills,
social skills, and sports skills, but will also have
the chance to work on their STEM skills.
STEM (Science, Technology, Engineering and Math)
is riding a high educational wave these days as schools
scramble to give students the skills and education they
need to progress and succeed in our rapidly changing
digital world.
“Our parents wanted STEM,” said Carla Rudow, the
camp’s longtime director. “It’s not like we’re going to be Summer fun for the upcoming season at Camp Veritans will include STEM-centered activities as well as more traditional camp pastimes
in a classroom. We will work on STEM skills in a hands- like swimming, sports, and arts and crafts.
on, developmental, creative way,” she said, adding that
she is still putting together the pieces of the STEM camp modern elements into it,” said Ms. Rudow. In addition who attend will be able to meet the staff and sample the
program, which will especially target the camp’s lower to STEM camp programming, Camp Veritans will offer many programs, including arts and crafts, ropes, sports,
division, campers who are in kindergarten to third grade. youngsters karate, yoga, and, of course, its traditional and cooking. In addition, there will be hayrides around
The inclusion of STEM activities, Ms. Rudow said, is tried and true camp activities. the verdant campgrounds, and the autumnal sweet treats
part of the camp’s commitment to being a dynamic place To introduce the new season, summer 2019, Camp of apple cider and donuts will be available.
for its more than 300 campers to spend their summer. Veritans is holding its annual Fall Festival Open House on
“We are keeping our traditional values, but infusing Sunday, Octpber 14 from 1 to 4 p.m. Campers and parents Heidi Mae Bratt is the editor of About Our Children

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the Big Apple with Aplomb
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day with the Museum of Natural History grandson’s favorite.

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ur youngest grandson spent a week and in the evening, a free performance of “The most expensive sculpture ever,” he
with us this summer in New York. Hamlet in Riverside Park. Whatever we do says, and indeed there it is, “L’Homme au
Can this city that never sleeps of- we must contend with unfriendly forces— a doigt,” ($141.3 million), along with two oth-
fer enough to challenge a 13-year-old who heat wave in the 90’s and daily threats of er costly Giacometti stick pieces set aside
shuns most compatriots and whose inter- thunderstorms, as well as overwhelming on a platform to be viewed from above. We
ests defy cataloguing. At home in Balti- crowds of day camps and tourists. must admit we learned something about Our grandson at Ellis Island pointing to the
more, he spent a week at wrestling camp His bus arrives and he’s trailing a both the idiosyncratic architect and sculp- names of his great-great-grandparents.
and a week at debate camp, two forms of wheeled suitcase almost as big as he is. We tor through the eyes of a 13-year-old.
combat that demand cunning, speed, and decide it may not be welcome at any of his The New York Aquarium at Coney for as much as an hour-and-a-half of wait-
skill of limb or speech. places of interest. We take him and it home, Island was partly destroyed in Hurricane ing time, but thanks to the threat of rain
We plan activities, but he has his own eat lunch, and head for the Guggenheim. Sandy. Rebuilding featured a giant tank we’re able to walk right in.
list, an assortment that seems to have no We learn what attracts him. “I like the to house sharks and rays. The great new What a sight — sharks of all sizes
common thread: the Guggenheim Muse- building,” he says of the corkscrew-shaped shark tank officially opened to the public drifting among small, multi-colored fish
um, the Aquarium, Ellis Island, the Pros- structure that has generated controversy this summer. We want to go but there is that seem unconcerned about the great
pect Park Zoo, and the New York Stock ever since Frank Lloyd Wright designed it the daily threat of rain. We give it a try finned carnivores. “The sharks have been
Exchange to see the chaos on the trading 60 years ago. A tour is scheduled but we anyway and shlep umbrellas and water- well-fed,” an attendant tells us. “They
floor. We tell him that since 9/11 the NYSE give it up because of crowd and noise. We proof pullovers. The preparation has the won’t bother the little guys.”
is no longer open to the public, and any- work our way along the sloping ramps on effect of guarding against rain and dis- There’s much more to see — a spec-
way, with the use of computers, the stock our own to see the special retrospective of couraging the crowds. At the shark tank, tacular coral reef, display of fish in Africa’s
exchange scene is much calmer than in the Giacometti sculpture — elongated heads guide lines for crowds have been set up See Grandpa Tour on page 15

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ning of autumn, and the beginning of the coughs, a specific diet plan, however, balanced diet with prop-
sore throats, sneezes, and sniffles that happen er proportions of carbohydrates, fats, proteins, vita-
each year the weather turns from warm mins, minerals, and water are necessary
to cool and children find themselves back
with other children in school.
to maintain good health, especially in a
growing child. A Reason to Smile
About Our Children consulted with AOC: How about sleep in helping to
Dr. Eirene George John, a family medicine prevent colds?
practitioner with the Valley Medical Group Dr. John: Again, studies have not
in Fair Lawn for her tips on keeping healthy shown any benefit for prevention of colds;
at this time of year and all year long. however, sleep is especially important for
About Our Children: What is the children as it directly impacts mental and
best way to prevent getting the “Start of physical development.
School Sniffles,” etc.? AOC: What are your thoughts on ex-
Dr. John: Hand washing is an essential ercise in prevention of colds?
and highly effective way to prevent the Dr. John: Exercise has a number of
spread of infection. Hands should be wet beneficial effects; however, there is no
with water and plain soap, and rubbed to- Dr. Eirene George John good evidence that exercise reduces the
gether for 15 to 30 seconds. It is not nec- risk of colds.
essary to use antibacterial hand soap. Teach children to AOC: Can children be dressed in a certain way to
wash their hands before and after eating, after coughing prevent colds?
or sneezing, and the restroom. Using a household cleaner Dr. John: Keep them comfortable and happy! TEANECK DENTIST
that kills viruses, such as phenol/alcohol (sample brand AOC: Anything else you would like to add?
name: Lysol), may help to reduce viral transmission. Dr. John: Most children with colds need not be
AOC: What is the best way to sneeze if one has to excluded from day care or school. It is likely that they We put the Care
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Dr. John: To avoid contaminating their hands, chil- Although, with a fever (higher than 100.4F), they are
dren can be instructed to cough into a tissue or the crook likely to spread their disease. A number of alternative Richard S. Gertler, DMD, FAGD
of their elbow rather than into their hands. products, including zinc and herbal products such as Ari Frohlich, DMD
AOC: What are your thoughts on using hand sani- echinacea, are advertised to treat or prevent the com- Sami Solaimanzadeh, DMD
tizer in prevention of colds? mon cold. There is some evidence that prophylactic use
Dr. John: Alcohol-based hand rubs are a good al- of vitamin C may decrease the duration of the common 1008 Teaneck Road • Teaneck
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Off to a striking start


Following their orientation and registration at Bergen County High School of
Jewish Studies (BCHSJS) 16 new students took to the lanes and, along with
teachers and their principal, went bowling at Bowler City in Hackensack.
Welcome to the start of the new year
The Jewish Center of Teaneck recently held its Opening Youth Event
to celebrate the start of the new year with two bounce houses, snow
cones, cotton candy, crafts, music and challah-making by Lisa Mincis.
All ages were welcome and it was ideal for youngsters 2 to 10. Youth
directors Rav Yishai and Yiskah Klein coordinated the event, with help
from Miriam Leah Mincis and Jake Resnick.

So you want to be a star


The School of Dramatic Arts at the Kaplen JCC on the Palisades
presents an open call and a chance to be discovered by NYC
agents on Sunday, October 7 at 2 p.m. Actors, singers, improv art-
ists and models — ages 3K to adult — will have a rare opportunity
to audition for top theatrical agents and managers from New York
City and New Jersey. For an audition appointment or more infor-
mation call Hagit at 201-409-1493.

Special Games at the JCC


The Chuck Guttenberg Center for the Physically
Challenged at the Kaplen JCC on the Palisades
will host its annual Special Games on Sunday,
September 30, from noon to 2:30 pm. The
Special Games is a fun-filled day of sports
activities that provides differently-abled ath-
Kicking off teen activity letes the chance to plan and win, as well as
Valley Chabad in Woodcliff Lake’s popular CTeen group had its annual kickoff. CTeen is a global family of Jewish teens, with many socialize with friends.
local chapters, dedicated to changing the world through acts of kindness.

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TopChoices OCTOBER 2018


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If I Had a Hammer at Liberty Science


Learn about carpentry and tools at own creations, and even help build a Daily from 10:30 a.m. to 12:30 p.m.
Home Explore Today at the Liberty house. The workshop is complete with and 2 to 4 p.m.
Science Center We Explore workshop. workbenches, tools of all shapes and Liberty Science Center
In this program, which is designed for sizes, and many special activities for 222 Jersey City Boulevard
young learners, young visitors will learn young builders. We Explore is an inter- Jersey City
all about tools and construction skills. active adventure series for children 2 to 201-200-1000
Dress like a carpenter, practice safety 5 years old. It is held in LSC’s I Explore www.lsc.org.
skills, use and name tools, make your gallery, with new themes all the time.

Music of The Moonlights at The Jewish Museum


Groove to the melodious music of The produced many successful children’s Sunday, October 14, 11:30 a.m.
Moonlights—a collaboration between music artists. Rachel Loshak has been to 12:30 p.m.
songwriters Rachel Loshak and Dean writing and performing original mate- Scheuer Auditorium
Jones – and their collection of stirring, rial for 20 years as a singer/songwriter/ The Jewish Museum
quirky songs for all ages. Dean Jones bassist. She has performed and col- 1109 Fifth Avenue at 92nd Street,
has been creating music for families for laborated on projects with Norah Jones, Manhattan
many years as a solo artist and with the Moby, Natalie Merchant, Chris Ballew 212- 423-3200
successful band, Dog On Fleas. He has and others. For ages 3 to 8. www.thejewishmuseum.

Marc Chagall among Artists


at Family Extravaganza
Enter the striking world of Marc ful work of art in our studio, hear live Sunday, October 21, 11 a.m. to 4 p.m.
Chagall, El Lissitzky, and Kazimir music inspired by paintings on view, Scheuer Auditorium
Malevich at The Jewish Museum’s collaborate on a giant cityscape with The Jewish Museum
family extravaganza honoring these floating images, see highlights of Marc 1109 Fifth Avenue at 92nd Street,
celebrated artists. Children are invited Chagall’s masterworks on a gallery Manhattan
to design a whimsical collage book, tour, and more. For youngsters 3 212- 423-3200
sculpt a playful mobile, paint a color- and older. www.thejewishmuseum.
Marc Chagall, Self-Portrait with Easel, 1919. Gouache
on paper. Private collection. Artwork © Artists
Rights Society (ARS), New York / ADAGP, Paris

The Curious Reader in Glen Rock


Celebrates Five Years of Books
For the last half decade, The Curious store manager. “We want to reach each that are used by the local schools. “It’s
Reader in Glen Rock, has given its customer individually.” In addition, very helpful for the students,” said Mr.
young curious customers plenty to read. The Curious Reader offers its custom- Lutz.
Thousands of children’s and young ers a guided reading room from which The Curious Reader
adult books pack this 1,800-square they can choose a book of their liking 229 Rock Road, Glen Rock
foot storefront owned by father and and on their reading and skills level. 201-444-1918
daughter Jim Morgan and Sally Morgan. The Fountas & Pinnell reading levels www.thecuriousreaderbooks.com.
“We take a lot of pride in our selec- (commonly referred to as “Fountas &
tion of books,” said Christopher Lutz, Pinnell”) are a system of reading levels

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Saturday, September 29 Friday, October 5


Sukkot, Simchat Torah at Temple Emeth: This Family Services at Temple Emeth: Temple
program is for children ages 3-6 with a par- Emeth’s Family Shabbat services for youngsters
ent or grandparent. Morning of crafts, stories, in grades two through seven include singing and a
music and snacks from 9:30 to 10:45 a.m. The story from Rabbi Sirbu followed by a kid-friendly
program is free, but an RSVP is required. For res- dessert oneg. 7:30 p.m. 1666 Windsor Road in
ervations, Dora Geld Friedman, 201-833-8466. Teaneck. 201-833-1322, www.emeth.org.
1666 Windsor Road, Teaneck.
Sunday, October 7
Sunday, September 30 USY Event: FLIPPER (Fair Lawn Jewish
Sunday Special: Jewish Community of Paramus/ Center, Temple Beth Sholom Fair Lawn, Jewish
Congregation Beth Tikvah Hebrew School hosts Community Center of Paramus/CBT and Temple
first Sunday Special for 4 to 10 year olds and Israel Ridgewood) chapter of KADIMA hosts its
their families. Celebrate Sukkot with fun activi- first event from 2 to 3:30 p.m. Sports, games and
ties, brunch in the sukkah and a chance to look at ice cream sundaes in the gym from 2 to 3:30 p.m.
the Torah for Simchat Torah. East 304 Midland at the Fair Lawn Jewish Center, 10-10 Norma Ave.,
Ave., Paramus. 201-262-7733, edudirector@ Fair Lawn. All sixth through eighth graders are
jccparamus.org. welcome. RSVP edudirector@jccparamus.org.
USY Event: FLIPPER (Fair Lawn Jewish Teen Book Week at Teaneck Library: From now
Center, Temple Beth Sholom Fair Lawn, Jewish until October 13, teens, 12 and up, present their
Community Center of Paramus/CBT and Temple library care and receive a free book. Teaneck
Israel Ridgewood) chapter of USY has first event. Public Library, 840 Teaneck Road, Teaneck. 201-
Pizza and dessert, sushi making in the sukkah of 837-4171, www.teanecklibrary.org.
Temple Israel, 475 Grove St., Ridgewood. 1:30 to Drop-In Art at The Jewish Museum: Discover
3 p.m. All high school teens are welcome. RSVP Read to a Dog, see Wednesday, October 3
the many ways in which the six-pointed star is
flipperusy@gmail.com. represented in artwork on view in Scenes from
Drop in Art Studio at The Jewish Museum: Use the Collection as well as other symbols you
Morrow School, 435 Lydecker St., Englewood.
201-568-5566, kvisconti@elisabethmorrrow.org.
Sunday, October 21
paper shapes in a variety of colors, textures, and might find in the galleries. In the studio use a Pit Bulls & Pumpkins Fall Festival: Join us for the
sizes to create a collage or a figure inspired by art- variety of colorful fabrics to create a patterned History and Fall Fun in Passaic: The Passaic Ramapo-Bergen Animal Refuge, Inc’s Annual Pit
work in the exhibition Chagall, Lissitzky, Malevich: cloth piece that includes the star or another County Historical Society fall fun day from 3 to 6 Bulls & Pumpkins Fall Festival from noon to 4 p.m.
The Russian Avant-Garde in Vitebsk, 1918-1922, symbol that is important to you. 1 to 4 p.m. Ages p.m. at 3 Valley Road, Paterson where there will The event includes a dog costume contest, adop-
as well as artwork by Eliza Douglas. 12:30 to 3 and older. The Jewish Museum, 1109 Fifth be history, food and fun fall activities like arts and tion opportunities, pumpkin painting, and chil-
3 p.m. Ages 3 and older. The Jewish Museum, Ave., near 92 St., Manhattan. 212- 423-3200, crafts and drills with some Revolutionary War dren’s crafts. Friendly dogs on leash are welcome.
1109 Fifth Ave., near 92nd Street., Manhattan. www.thejewishmuseum. soldiers. The day ends at 5:30 p.m. with a reading 2 Shelter Lane, Oakland. 201-337-5180, execdir@
212-423-3200, www.thejewishmuseum. of a Washington Irving classic story. Bring your rbari.org
Tuesday, October 9 own blankets or lawn chairs. Recommended for
Wednesday, October 3 Shutter Club: Come join our new amateur pho-
children age 3-12 years. 973-247-0085. Saturday, October 27
Read to a Dog: Children can sign up to read a
book or books of their choice to a therapy dog
tography club, which meets biweekly. Learn a little
about photography and have a lot of fun taking
Monday, October 15 Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire Live
Concert: NJPAC hosts the movie “Harry Potter
“one-on-one” for 20 minutes. The purpose of this photos with new friends. For 10-14 year olds. Lego Club at the Library: Lego Club is for young- and the Goblet of Fire” as Oscar-nominated
program is to encourage reading, improve lan- 4 p.m. Teaneck Public Library, 840 Teaneck Road, sters age 6 and up. After a story, we build with composer Patrick Dyle leads a score by the New
guage skills, and give children a sense of security Teaneck. 201-837-4171, www.teanecklibrary.org. our Legos based on the book’s theme. Meets Jersey Symphony Orchestra. 1 Center St., Newark.
and confidence in their reading ability. Teaneck once each month. Children can sign up for either 888-GO-NJPAC, www.njpac.org.
Public Library, 840 Teaneck Road, Teaneck. Friday, October 12 the Thursday 4 p.m. club or the Monday 7 p.m.
201-837-4171, www.teanecklibrary.org. Tot Shabbat in Franklin Lakes: Tot Shabbat musi-
club. Teaneck Public Library, 840 Teaneck Road,
Teaneck. 201-837-4171, www.teanecklibrary.org.
Sunday, October 28
cal family-friendly service and dinner at Barnert Local Author Chana Stiefel at the library: Local
Thursday, October 4 Temple starting at 5 p.m. with Rabbi Rachel Wednesday, October 17 author Chana Stiefel will be at the library to share
Benefit Israel Night at Solomon Schechter: Steiner and cantorial intern Danielle Rodnizki. her book, “Animal Zombies.” Event is from 2 to
Solomon Schechter Day School of Bergen County 747 Route 208 South, Franklin Lakes. 201-848- iCan Teen Task Force: The Jewish Federation’s 4 p.m. Teaneck Public Library, 840 Teaneck Road,
hosts its annual Israel Night benefiting The 1027, schooloffice@barnerttemple.org, www. iCAN Teen Task Force, a group of high school stu- Teaneck. 201-837-4171,www.teanecklibrary.org.
Stephanie Prezant Israel Scholarship Fund for barnerttemple.org. dents, will meet at 7 p.m. The group meets twice
eighth graders. Schechter parent Amos Nachum, a month with the mission to teach teens how to
Israeli Air Force Veteran and current advanced sys- Friday, October 12 combat anti-Semitism and anti-Israel sentiment.
The first meeting will feature an open discussion
tem analyst for Israel, will speak on the innovation Children Services at Temple Beth Tikvah: Join
that drives the Israeli Air Force’s success. Dinner with young Israeli soldiers. 50 Eisenhower Drive,
us for special Shabbat services from 6:30 to 7:30 Paramus. 201-820-3946 , www.jfnnj.org/ican.
6 p.m. followed by 7 p.m. program. 275 McKinley p.m. for an hour of Shabbat fun and blessings.
Ave., New Milford. For information, Alyssa Wolf,
201-262-9898, awolf@ssdsbergen.org.
For children 8 and younger. See friends, make
new ones, do an art project, decorate a cupcake,
Friday, October 19
sing Shabbat songs, say blessings. 950 Peakness Music Services at Temple Emeth: Temple
Ave., Wayne. 973-595-6565, Emeth presents a Shabbat music service at 8
tbtschool@optimum.net. p.m. Congregants join Rabbi Steven Sirbu and
Cantor Ellen Tilem by singing and dancing and
Saturday, enjoying Shabbat music performed by the Temple
Emeth band. 1666 Windsor Road in Teaneck.
October 13 201-833-1322, www.emeth.org,
Elisabeth Morrow Fall Tot Shabbat in Closter: Temple Beth El of
Festival: Meet current families Northern Valley welcomes families with young
and school administration while children for Shabbat with blessings, singing and
enjoying food, music, maze, stories, followed by a craft project. For children
arts and crafts, pumpkin deco- up to 5 and their families. 5:15 to 6:15 p.m. 221
rating, bounce houses and field Schraalenburg Road, Closter. 201-767-5112,
days. 1 to 3 p.m. The Elisabeth wwwtbenv.org.
Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire Live Concert, See Saturday,
October 27 Local Author Chana Stiefel at the library, see
Sunday, October 28
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Introverted from page 7 helpful if we praise them:


“I want some quiet now.” They can also be
taught more positive self-talk. Instead of, • “You felt you needed a break and

Simchas
“This party is so stupid!” We can teach you found a quiet place.”
them to say to themselves, “I don’t like • “You said hello and made eye con-
the loud noise of this party, but if I go to tact with our new neighbor, that’s called
the corner arts and crafts table, or I find being friendly!”
one friend to talk to, I might find that I can
enjoy myself.” Do not describe them in negative Birth
We can also teach them to plan ahead ways. We can call them bright, depend-
in order to avoid problems. We can say, able, a steadfast friend with depth. PRESTON SLATE MALLON
“Tomorrow you are going on a class trip Introverted kids certainly come with Preston Slate Mallon was born two months early on
for the whole day, on a noisy bus, what do their own quirks and habits, but all kids August 19 to Melissa and Alexander Mallon of Oradell. He
you think you could do if it gets too much do. If we appreciate them for who they weighed 6 pounds and was 20 inches long and is named
in memory of his maternal grandfather, Peter Ronay of
for you?” truly are and teach them to appreciate
Oradell, and his maternal great-grandmother, Shirley
“Cousin Sara is visiting tomorrow, themselves, the rewards can be great. Greenblatt of Fort Lee, formerly of Teaneck. Preston
how can you be polite until you get com- Slate’s grandmothers are Suzanne Ronay of Oradell and
fortable with her?” Adina Soclof is a parent educator, Lynn Mallon of Bergenfield, and his first cousins are broth-
Introverted kids often feel different speech pathologist and the founder of ers Peter Jaxon, 3, and Jack Ryan Ronay, who was born
and may be insecure about the fact that ParentingSimply.com. She is available for September 15, of Rockaway.
they might not like the things their peers speaking engagements and can be reached at
do. In order to build their confidence it is asoclof@parentingsimply.com.

Bar mitzvah
Grandpa Tour from page 10 were dingoes from Australia, water moni- LEV ZARETSKY
deepest lake, and surprising inhabitants in tors from Indonesia, baboons, macaques, Lev Zaretsky, son of Leah and Ira Zaretsky and brother of Eli, Jordan, Delia, and Shai, cel-
water off the New York shoreline. We even tamarins, desert foxes with gigantic ears, a ebrated becoming a bar mitzvah on September 1 at Congregation Beth Sholom in Teaneck.
manage to see the sea lion show and make massive porcupine, and a “discovery trail”
it home before the inevitable downpour. for woodland creatures. It was a day that Send us your simchas!
Ellis Island is reached by boat, which ended early enough for barbecue spare ribs
We welcome simcha announcements for Send to pr@jewishmediagroup.com
also goes to the Statue of Liberty, one of at a favorite restaurant. births and b’nai mitzvah. Announcements or mail to NJ Jewish Media Group,
New York’s most popular tourist attrac- The Museum of Natural History was are subject to editing. There is a $10 ATT: Simchas
tions. Our grandson says, “It’s Ellis Island I the most daunting challenge of the week. charge for photos. Photos must be high 1086 Teaneck Road
care about,” but we disembark at the Statue It offered some of the most intriguing ex- resolution jpg files. Teaneck, NJ 07666
first to check it out in the blistering heat. hibits and most oppressive crowds. With Call (201) 837-8818 for information. If a photograph is to be returned,
Then, we board the boat for Ellis Island the help of a friend who happened to be a include a SASE.
where our grandson’s great-great-grand- museum employee, we were able to sched-
parents came ashore after fleeing Czarist ule all four special exhibits throughout the

PARTY
Russia and what’s now the Ukraine. day. There was a planetarium show that
The stately building is several mu- told a billion year story of the universe, an
seums in one. It’s the story of the island I-Max movie about the Amazon, a walk-
itself, how it grew from an oyster fishing through, hands-on exhibit about the five
ground to a harbor fortification, then to senses, and perhaps most extraordinary
the gateway for the country’s massive im- of all, a description of the ocean’s depth
migration. With exhibits and narrative, it and the creatures that live there. Our blasé
tells the story of the bone-weary traveler grandson was fascinated to learn that in
from the ship’s oppressive below-deck the Marianas Trench in the southwest Pa-
steerage to the new land of hope — the gi- cific, the deepest place on earth, one could
ant reception room, the registration, the put the Empire State building and it still
medical exams, the delousing, the fear of would be below the surface.
rejection, the eventual (for most) accep- On his last night in town we saw
tance, and the beginning of a new life. Hamlet in Riverside Park. There was one
For our grandson, Ellis Island offers intermission, at which point our grandson 973-661-9368
two unique thrills. In one room is a wall- wanted to leave. He said he wasn’t bored.
size photograph of the marketplace for “It was too dramatic, and the violent part
the eastern European town of Stryj where is coming up.”
one of his great-grandparents was born. Our grandson returned to Baltimore
And outside the building is the Wall of in time to for school. We were satisfied
Honor with plaques listing the names of that New York had made a worthwhile
thousands of immigrants who had come contribution to a hard-to-satisfy a 13 Include:
1 hours of skating (during public session)
through Ellis Island. There he sees the year old. He even had an opportunity in Private decorated party room
names of his great-great-grandmother the evening to watch “Sponge Bob” on TV. Off ice party attendant
Skate rental
and grandfather. Invitations for party guests
Our grandson had once spent a week Ed Silberfarb was a reporter for the Bergen Pizza and soda
Personalized Carvel ice cream cake
in New York visiting the city’s five zoos, Record in New Jersey, then the New York Herald Favors and candy
one in each borough. This time it was only Tribune where he was City Hall bureau chief. FREE skating pass for future use
Birthday child receives FREE Ice Vault T shirt
Brooklyn’s Prospect Park zoo, a small man- Later, he was a public information officer for the
ageable animal park with displays that New York City Transit Authority and editor of
offered him unhurried reflection. There one of its employee publications.

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“Anytime of the day or night,
they were there for me.”

Valley Health System is giving patients like Carol access to the most Carol
innovative lung cancer treatments. That’s because our cancer care team Battled lung cancer
collaborates with the Mount Sinai Health System — leaders in cancer
research — to bring the most advanced options to our region. With these
breakthroughs, along with our focus on each patient’s needs, we’re able
to take our care to the next level. Here’s Carol’s story.

At 43 years old, Carol was finally fulfilling her dream of opening a women’s boutique.
Her dream was about to become a reality, but instead of feeling energized, she felt
unusually tired. She knew something was wrong. As someone who hasn’t smoked a
day in her life, she never expected to hear she had lung cancer.

See how Carol fiercely battled cancer with Valley at MyStory.ValleyHealth.com.


Or, to reach a lung cancer specialist at Valley, call 201-634-5339.

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