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12 Definitive Traits of a Middle Child able to mediate between the two and provide a balance

between the oldest and youngest,” Guarino says.

Birth order doesn’t automatically impact your personality.
But there are some common traits that middle children Middle children are wonderful negotiators
share—beyond peacekeeping. When middle children aren’t mediating family fights, they
Middle children have strong friendships and are making solid points for their own agendas. Thanks to
relationships good listening skills and patience, they know how to grab
their parents’ attention—and negotiate for what they want.
A middle child tends to prioritize relationships outside of Or, as Frank Sulloway, Ph.D. puts it, “Middle-borns are the
the family unit, according to Lisa Lewis, MD. “Middle most willing to wheel and deal.”
children, probably because they feel overlooked, will have
a tendency to create stronger friendships and long-term Middle children are easygoing
relationships,” Lewis says. They rely more heavily on Being good mediators also helps middles compromise—
relationships with their peers than with family as they see meaning they are more likely to go with the flow rather than
outsiders meeting their needs for emotional support, Nedra act stubborn of contentious, Guarino says. Plus, some
Glover Tawwab, Licensed Clinical Social Worker and parents may have more relaxed parenting styles by the
Owner of Kaleidoscope Counseling in Charlotte, NC adds. time the second kid comes around.
Here are the facts that prove having friends is ridiculously
healthy. Middle children are more independent

Middle children are great mediators Since middles tend to form healthy relationships outside
the home, they also tend to fuse less with their parents.
Most middle children are peacekeepers. Since they are “They are neither overcompensating in terms of taking on
sandwiched between other siblings, they are often family responsibilities like the oldest sibling nor depending
obsessed with fairness and balance. GinaMarie Guarino, on others like the youngest,” says Katie Davis, PsyD.
a Licensed Mental Health Counselor Family Therapist, Although it may seem like siblings compete for their
says that middle children also tend to manage conflict parents’ attention and “fusion,” middles who are less fused
between siblings as well. “A middle child will hold a special actually grow up to be healthier, better-adjusted adults,
relationship with each sibling, which helps him or her be Davis says. “They benefit from the emotional distance they
need to differentiate themselves as individuals,” she adds.
Middle children have strong 12 Definitive Traits Middle children are self-motivated
friendships and relationships
of a Middle Child

A middle child tends to The independence that drives

prioritize relationships middle children also makes
outside of the family unit, them self-motivated.
according to Lisa Lewis, MD. Schumann says middles are
Middle children are wonderful
“Middle children, probably used to working hard for their
because they feel accomplishments—as well as
overlooked, will have a recognition from their
tendency to create stronger parents. These hard-working
friendships and long-term justice seekers fight for what
relationships,” they want in life. Try these
smart ways to stop sibling
rivalry before it starts.
Thanks to good listening skills
and patience, they know how
to grab their parents’
attention—and negotiate for
what they want.