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Started a laugh riot with a friend? Woofed
it up with your dog? If you’ve forgotten
Your Laugh Lines,
it might be time to play the Fool. Going
a little Gaga is a good thing—choose
impossible shoes. People will smile at
your style. If you fall down in public, get
up laughing. Dance in the spice aisle to
the supermarket soundtrack. Arm wrestle
for the check. Make dessert an occasion
to celebrate instead of an orgy of regret.
Create an alter-ego name to use at Starbucks.
Be ticklish.
Practice being amazed instead of glazed
over. Text “I love your laugh” to a friend.
Collaborate—it’s another way to play.
Experiment, even if it blows up in your face.
Smile, it’s a renewable resource.
“Forget love—I’d rather fall in chocolate!”
attributed to Sandra J. Dykes
The bi ggest l i t t l e l ender i n Sout h Carol i na.
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When it comes to your mortgage,
Paula, the busy head of development for Charleston Special Olympics, grew up with her broth-
er, Eddie, in Florida. “I grew up never really thinking he was different,” says Paula. “He was sim-
ply treated as just another one of the kids.” But it was Eddie’s move to Charleston after the death of
their mother that caused Paula to seek out Special Olympics. “He wanted friends, a job, and
to play basketball, so we got a group together and started the Big Dogs basketball team.” Once
word got around, more families got involved and the organization now has groups for golf, tennis,
sailing, kayaking, soccer, softball, and swimming. Paula says Eddie’s joy of life is infectious, adding that
he has “tons of friends—with and without disabilities. He works at Publix. He’s a successful artist. The
confdence that the Special Olympics has given him has helped him succeed in all that he tries.” When
it came time to buy a new home, Paula chose Lucey Mortgage because she knew how involved Lorcan
and the rest of the staff are in supporting local organizations—most recently their team for the Bocce
Bash to raise money for the Special Olympics. “I believe Special Olympics brings out the best in everyone
it touches,” says Paula. “How lucky I am to know the extended family that is part of this organization!”
Want to make a difference in your life and someone else’s? Become a volunteer for the Special Olympics.
Contact Paula Byers at pbyers1@comcast.net or 843.795.5316.
Trust Us. Paula and Eddie Byers do.
Lorcan Lucey: 843.884.8133
22 years in business,
a billion dollars in loans,
one of the most trusted
and dependable
companies in Charleston. Paula Byers
Marketing & Development Director
Charleston Special Olympics
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CLINIC OF
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Dr. Zeyi Chen from China Shanghai Medical University; former
Instructor and Chairman of China International Acupuncture School,
has been in practice for 46 years, 16 years in Charleston.
Dr. Zeyi Chen is the Grandfather Acupuncturist voted by the
medical board of South Carolina.
5 Daniel Street
Charleston, SC 29407
Tel: (843) 571-6913
1465 Stuart Engal Blvd.
Mt. Pleasant, SC 29464
Tel: (843) 881-1818
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excels in designer clothing
and old school service.”
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Pre-Spring Trunk Show
October 22-23
Fountain of Youth
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October 22-23
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c e n t e r
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Visit
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and fnd our team
Dr. Jack’s Jolly Pink Joggers
to donate
or call us at 843.971.2860
for more information
offer expires october 31, 2010
Donate $10 to our race for the cure team and
receive any product or service at 10% off regular price!
*This offer does not include surgical procedures or the hCG diet. All offers end 10/16/2010.
Join or
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Donate to this amazing cause and get the product
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Donate $10 ~ receive a slimming body Wrap
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Donate $30 ~ receive a Luca sunscreen.
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Donate $200 ~ receive 20 units of botox or
one Velashape body contouring treatment!
Donate $500 ~ Get tHree 1-hour Laser Hair
removal sessions.
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On Erin: Emma Graham Designs Ashley
skirt $98, Black Nikibiki tank $44, Jack
Rogers Black Slim Flat $198, Gold and
Black beaded hoop earrings $40

On Penny: Elliott Lauren Charcoal Sweater
$175, Citizens of Humanity straight leg jean
$158, Tolani printed scarf $78, Gentle Souls
Joyous in Antique Pewter $195

On Melissa: Tulle Cropped Jacket in
Emberglow $68,Tolani Printed Tunic $128,
Citizens of Humanity Ava straight leg jean
$168, Corso Como Quest Leather Boot $279,
Gold plated hoop earrings $30

On Jaclyn: 525 America Black Cashmere
Sweater $218, Citizens of Humanity
Avedon jeggings in Dark Ivy $165, Corso
Como Rhonda Black Leather Riding Boot
$198, Red Cashmere Pashmina $38,
Maslo Designs Gold Rake earrings $58
(from left to right)
On Jaclyn: Trina Turk River Dress in Ruby
$218, Kate Spade Kathy Black ruffe bootie
$335, Maslo Designs Gold and Black drop
earrings $48

On Erin: Trina Turk Coda Dress $298, Jack
Rogers Black Slim Flats $198, Gold and
Pearl fligree earrings $38, Dark Blue
envelope clutch in Pewter $45
On Penny: Kay Unger Charcoal & Black
Sheath Dress $176, Kate Spade Bloom
Eggplant Suede Pumps $315, Kissaka Black
Crystal and Pearl stranded necklace $55,
Black Crystal drop earring $35, Deep Blue
Black envelope clutch $45

On Melissa: Tibi Genevieve Silk Chiffon
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Grey Patent Pumps $245, Red and Gold
fligree earrings $38
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Mother and daughter team
Terri and Krista, with Chloe May
With unique details and innovative designs,
our gowns are unlike any you have seen!
Let us help you pull together your
perfect wedding day style.
Please call to schedule your appointment.
We look forward to seeing you!
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Join Dr. Hahm
and the
Hot Pink Hotties!
susan g. komen race for the cure
saturday • october 16 • 2010
daniel island, sc
For more information, log onto
www.komenlowcountry.org
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Carolina
Aesthetic
Plastic
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Thomas Hahm, M.D., Board Certifed Plastic Surgeon, offers
Natural Breast Reconstruction to all Breast Cancer Patients
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See Hotties Fundraise!
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Jennet Robinson Alterman
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Pearl Ascue
Linda Bakker
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Gloria Murray Bell
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Nancy Bloodgood
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Norma Davis
Elise Davis-McFarland
Laura Deaton
Sallie M. Duell
Gerry Dukes
Barbara Kelley Duncan
Susan K. Dunn
Nathalie Dupree
Mollie Curtis Fair
Thuane B. Fielding
Carol H. Fishman
Lynne E. Ford
Julia Forster
Joan Warshauer Fox
Diane Fox
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Barbara Fry
Suzanne Galloway
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Vanessa White Goodwin
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Nikki Hardin
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Linda L. Lader
Mattese Lecque
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Mary Legare
Jan P. Lipov
Tish Lynn
Catherine Malloy
Catherine McCullough
Gwen A. McCurdy
Madeleine McGee
Georgette C. McKenzie
Rhetta A. Mendelsohn
Alicia Mendicino
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Whitney Powers
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Susan W. Ravenel
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Scott Shanklin-Peterson
Harriet Smartt
Maxine Smith
Debra S. Stewart
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Doretha Walker
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The Hon. Lucille S. Whipper
Cappi Pate Wilborn
Catherine Legare Wilhoit
Holland A. Williams
Giselle D. Wrenn
Anita Zucker
Thank You, Vincent Sheheen
Candidate for Governor of South Carolina
For Celebrating 90 Years of Women’s Voting Rights*
Shown with Senator Vincent and Amy Sheheen are some of the nearly 300 nonpartisan, Charleston women who
celebrated the 90th anniversary of the ratifcation of the 19th Amendment in early September.
Please join us in supporting Vincent Sheheen, the only gubernatorial candidate who has pledged to appoint
qualifed women to state boards and commissions. **
SPECIAL THANKS TO THE 90 WOMEN FOR 90 YEARS HOST COMMITTEE
More than 110 Percent Strong
* African-American women were made to wait an additional 15 years for this right. **South Carolina ranks a dismal 50th in the nation in number of women holding elected offce.

To submit resumes for consideration for boards and commissions post-election, please visit
www.scelectswomen.com/sc_gap.
SC GAP is a broad-based, bi-partisan project of the Southeastern Institute for Women in Politics.
Join us on Women for Sheheen
- Paid for by Independent-Minded Women -
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Your Costume Headquarters!
One of the Largest Costume Shops on the East Coast!
~ buy or re nt y ours t oday ~
1015 St. Andrews Blvd. ~ West Ashley ~ 843.556.6607
Halloween Hours: Mon-Sat 10-9 ~ Sun 1-6 Costumes
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Marguerite A. Germain, M.D.
Voted “Best Dermatologist”
four years running!
check out our Website for october specials!!
612 Seacoast Parkway | Mount Pleasant | 843.881.4440 | germaindermatology.com
WWW.GerMaiNDerMatoloGY.coM
Mark Your calendar:
;Thursday • October 14th • 5:30-7pm ;
Zeltiq Night
Muffn Top, Love Handles, Back Fat?
Learn About the New Non-Invasive Way to Reduce Fat.
LIVE Demonstration and Presentation
Space is Limited. Please RSVP 881-4440

; Thursday • November 11th • 3:30-7:30pm ;
2nd Annual Sparkle Party
To Make You Sparkle & Glow
Space is Limited. Please RSVP 881-4440
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Receive 10% Off your laser treatment
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Iron out your wrinkles without pain! purchase a Pelleve
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Receive $150 Off each syringe of Perlane
($75 Off at purchase, $75 mail-in rebate)
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($100 Off at purchase, $100 mail-in rebate)
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Dysport and Botox 10% Off
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Purchase over $100 of products and
receive 20% Off your purchase
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Sun Undone Peel—End of summer Laser Peel
$375 ($450 value)
Lookin’
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BIRTHDAY PARTIES•BRIDAL SHOWERS•BABY SHOWERS•LADIES NIGHT OUT•CHEAP THERAPY...
For more information on our specials, upcoming
events or to book your next party, call
843.871.8090
or visit our website
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Oakbrook Shoppi ng Pl aza • 10050 Dorchest er Rd. Summer vi l l e • 843. 871. 8090
YOUR ONLY LIMIT IS YOUR IMAGINATION.
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Pottery Specials All Day
Live Entertainment featuring Jamie Marcotte
Heavy Hors d’ouevres & Drinks
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shampoo and conditioner
with color treatment.
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BRIAN CANTRELL
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Reinvent Yourself
with Amanda Seay, DDS
Artistic Talent
Technical Competence
Beautiful Results

“My practice focuses on complex, multi-faceted
cosmetic and restorative dental procedures and
techniques. We also provide comprehensive
preventative hygiene services. My team and I
have dedicated hundreds of hours to advanced
training in order to create an exceptional and
friendly dental experience in a spa environment.”
Amanda Seay, DDS
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Sustaining Member
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Lowcountry
p l a s t i c s u r g e r y
c e n t e r
www.lowcountryplasticsurgery.com
570 Long Point Road, Suite 240 • Mt. Pleasant, SC
You must RSVP to qualify for our
great giveaways for each event
843.971.2860
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and melt away inches in as little as 45 minutes.
$25 per wrap
or get
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when you sign up for our
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$10 of each wrap will be donated to our
Race for the Cure Lowcountry
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“Wrapping for the Cause”
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REAL PEOPLE. REAL RESULTS!
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Hey Lady!
Amy C. Balfour ...................................................................................... 34
The Car Cart
Robyn Passante ..................................................................................... 40
Pro Kiters
Jami Bonyun ............................................................................................ 48
The Cat Lady
Bree Barton ........................................................................................... 62
Dating for Dummies
Jen Rognerud ......................................................................................... 72
Eat, Pay, Leave
Stacy Appel ............................................................................................ 80
F-Word: “Have We Forgotten the Ladies?”
Jennet Robinson Alterman ............................................................ 82
Letters .......................................................................................................... 26
He’s So Original ..................................................................................... 36
Calendar ..................................................................................................... 43
She Said, He Said ................................................................................... 44
Skirt of the Month................................................................................ 51
SmartGirl ................................................................................................... 53
Browse ......................................................................................................... 65
skirt! Alerts/Brava/It’s a Shame .................................................. 66
skirt! Loves ............................................................................................. 75
Girl Power ................................................................................................. 86
24/7 with… .............................................................................................. 88
Planet Nikki ............................................................................................... 90
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O C T O B E R
What’s Happening
C E L E BRAT I NG 20 YE ARS OF HE L PI NG WOME N!
Unless noted, all events are held at 129 Cannon St. (between Ashley Ave. & President St.)
For daytime parking, one hour street parking is available or consult our website for close-by parking garages.
Parking is free nights and weekends at 30 Bee St. To phone us, call (843) 763-7333.
To learn more or register for any event, visit www.c4women.org.
4 - W E E K E M P O W E R M E N T G R O U P S
Flash Fiction
Hone your writing skills through short, short fiction.
Facilitated by Lisa Chewning, Write-It Right
Saturdays, October 2 - 30 10:00am–Noon
Registration required: $40 C4W Members; $70 Non-members
Managing Your Life by Managing Your $
Uncover self-sabotaging money habits. Learn new tools & take control!
Facilitated by Diane Blackwelder, CFP, Charleston Financial Advisors
Mondays, October 4-25 6:00pm–8:00pm
Registration required: $40 C4W Members; $70 Non-members
Separation and Divorce
Exchange ideas and practice new solutions. Find comfort without criticism.
Facilitated by Elise Richard, LPC, CACII, Ashley Therapy Associates
Wednesdays, October 6-27 5:30pm–7:30pm
Registration required: $40 C4W Members; $70 Non-members
E N T R E P R E N E U R I A L W O M A N S E R I E S
Cause Marketing
How to develop successful revenue-generating partnerships
among non-profits & businesses. Examples given.
Lee Deas, Obviouslee Marketing
Tuesday, October 12 6:00pm–8:00pm
Registration required: $20 C4W Members; $40 Non-members
Business Sponsors: SunTrust
Media Sponsor: Charleston Regional Business Journal
B R O W N B A G L U N C H S E R I E S
Newcomers to Charleston
Get the inside scoop on what groups and activities to get involved with.
Jennifer Buddin, The Little Black Book for every busy woman
Allyson Bird, The Post & Courier
Thursday, October 14 at Noon • FREE
Working from Home
Hear how these business women make their home offices really work!
Katie Kern, CircaPR
Amanda Moreno Duke, Cutie Pa Tutu
Thursday, October 21 at Noon • FREE
Title Sponsor: Merrill Lynch
Mary Helen Condon Moore, CFM & Lynn Anne Gillen, CIMA
Business Sponsor: Belk Department Store
Media Sponsor: Little Black Book for every busy woman
W O M E N W R I T E R S F O R U M
The Book in You
How to decide the right genre for the story that’s in you!
Signe Pike, Penguin USA Editor and Author, Faery Tale
Saturday, October 9 10:00am–12:00 Noon
Registration required: $25 C4W Members; $50 Non-members
Y O U C A N D O I T ! S E R I E S
I Love Chocolate: Truffle Making
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dearskirt!
Just when
I get to think-
ing that skirt!
cannot get
much better
than it has
been this year,
you just keep
raising the
bar. I loved the
September is-
sue. As always,
it seems to be
speaking to
just me.
...magazine
when I’m
done read-
ing and use
the pages to
decorate, and
even to wrap
gifts. What a
beautiful, fun
and inspiring
magazine for
our city.
Have an opinion?
Email editor@skirt.com.
All letters to the editor must include the
writer’s name and city/state.
I just wanted to let you know that I
love your magazine. I run to the book-
store every month to grab one and
am so disappointed when the rack is
empty! I keep the magazine when I’m
done reading and use the pages to
decorate, and even to wrap gifts. What
a beautiful, fun and inspiring maga-
zine for our city. Well done!
Raquel White
Memphis, TN
Just when I get to thinking that skirt!
cannot get much better than it has
been this year, you just keep raising
the bar. I loved the September issue.
As always, it seems to be speaking
to just me. The articles were great
and the profles were excellent. Keep
up the great work and I’m anxiously
awaiting the October issue.
Nicole Sickmann
Knoxville, TN
So far I’ve read three copies of skirt!
and I love it. I believe in women being
independent and standing up for
their beliefs. As a teenage mother,
I’m constantly feeling pressure to do
things that are morally right and things
that mothers should do. I think it’s
great that skirt! publishes people that
are role models and have something
positive to say about women. Keep up
the good work.
Laura Canales
High Point, NC
There’s a spate of staggering stats
on the importance of marketing to
women. A recent MediaPost item
cited 85% of household purchases
being infuenced by women; 55% of
spending on consumer electronics
coming from women; and the fact that
64% of women plan to use the Internet
to fnd sales and compare prices.
Women love the process of buying
as much—if not more—than the
transaction itself.
And that leads me to my secret
source for marketing to women: skirt!
Magazine. skirt! is the brainchild of
Nikki Hardin, and she has created
editions in several markets. It’s also
available online at skirt.com.
September’s cover quote says it all:
“The score never interested me, only
the game.” – Mae West
Reading skirt! provides a wonderful
window to the mind and thought
pattern of women. I commend it.
Excerpted from the
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Charleston, SC
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Join us for a fun-filled weekend.

live music,
children’s activities,
an around the world party,
and more.

Friday, October 8th
6:00 to 9:00 p.m.
Join us for a free live concert by Plane Jane. Bring a picnic .
The best-dressed picnic wins a Freshfelds gift certifcate.

Saturday, October 9th
10:00 a.m. to 2:00 p.m.
Farmer’s Market, children’s activities,
art demonstrations, live music.
5:00 to 8:00 p.m.
Participating stores will host an Around the World Party.
Enjoy snacks and beverages from countries around the world
and shop your favorites stores to receive special gifts,
promotions, and sales.

Sunday, October 10th
2:00 to 7:00 p.m.
5th Annual American Music Celebration
Our Fall Festival festivities conclude with an afternoon of
live music from some of the country’s most renowned
jazz and blues musicians.
visit www.freshfieldsvillage.com for
more information or call 843-768-6491.
Let us know
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We are always
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If you would like to
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Our guidelines for
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Submit artwork or essays
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Send letters or press re-
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Charleston,
7 Radcliffe St., Suite 302,
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from the editor
Julia Breckenreid’s illustra-
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Both conceptual and in-
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Some children have rosy cheeks, curly tendrils of hair and fnger-painting skills. I was never one of these children. I had crowded teeth, chicken pox scars and a permanent
scowl. My mother swears I was never a lover, a hugger, a cuddler. I recall one housewife-haired babysitter who once tickled me until I couldn’t breathe. I never sat near her
again. And as soon as I realized that other adults called my mom by another name, I did that too. My cantankerous frstborn status was cemented at the tender age of three:
“Sylvia, I’d like my glass of milk now.” I like to think at least that made her smile. I’m still reticent to hug it out—can’t we drink or talk it out?—but being unimpressed for
much of my life was overrated. Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing like a good “are you stupid?” stare, but at the end of the day, it’s smiles that count. This month you’ll
see seven of Charleston’s brightest smiles: Lillian, Mackie, Dell, Lisa, Lindsey, Stephen and Crystal. Behind their smiles are your well-being, your closet, and Charleston’s
treats, takeout and tipples. I still have the crowded teeth and the chicken pox scars, but this month I’ve remembered to de-scowl.

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When you have worked on an issue devoted to smiles and humor for over a
month, you start to get cranky around deadline. Videos of cats doing yoga and
cute stories about kids make you grind your teeth, chocolate does not make
you happy and jokes just seem like annoying time-sucks. And then you realize
you still have to write an editorial. About Smiles. It’s not that you don’t want
to write it, but evidently your funny bone is broken from overuse. So what you
end up with is a list of things that might be funny if they weren’t so stupid,
annoying or astounding:
 1/5 of Americans think Obama is a Muslim.
 That we all know who Snooki is. I’m particularly sad that knowledge is now
in my brain.
 Ashton Kutcher playing Ashton Kutcher being cool in the Nikon ads.
 The fact that anyone would use 60 minutes of their allotted lifespan to watch
Bristol Palin on Dancing with the Stars.
 Wedding parties still dancing down the aisle long after the original viral
video. Are they getting married or auditioning for Glee?
 That BP thinks viewers believe their concerned-citizen TV ads.
 The ubiquitous lardon. A sophisticated name for pork chunks in your salad.
 Etsy crafts that feature creature faces that seem to say “I’m part squirrel,
part girl.” Whoever started this should have their felt taken away.
And when you’re through venting, you suddenly feel much, much better.
Almost smiley-faced, in fact.
Nikki publisher@skirt.com
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Amy C. Balfour
...sometimes a Southern gal has to work things out for herself.
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Hey Lady!
Amy has written for the Los Angeles Times, Backpacker, Redbook, Southern Living
and Women’s Health and authored or co-authored seven guidebooks for Lonely
Planet including Los Angeles Encounter and the upcoming USA’s Best Trips.
As a travel writer, I have several phrases I never want uttered in my presence:
“About the bed bugs...” and “We seem to be losing altitude...” spring to mind.
But there’s no clearer indication that my day is about to be ruined than hearing
“Hey lady!” yelled from afar. Like the glimpse of an iceberg on a cold April night,
“Hey lady!” is a simple but ominous warning, one that sends an immediate chill to
the depths of my soul. Or it would, if not for the fact that I’m always momentarily
confused, never immediately aware that I am, in fact, the “lady” in question.
Why the fear? Because “Hey lady!” often precedes a horrible announce-
ment: “Hey lady! Your dress is tucked into your underwear!” or “Hey lady! You
know you just drove over a kitten!” Discretion prevents further elaboration.
Although, most of the time “Hey lady!” means someone is gearing up for a
sales pitch. And whether it’s a fnger puppet in Nassau or spiced turkey jerky in
Temecula, I can assure you, I never want it. I do not want it on a plane, I do not
want it on a train. I do not want it in my purse, don’t ask again, I might just curse.
The problem is that I’m incapable of ignoring the person yelling “Hey
lady!”—I’ll always approach, like a dog sniffng a porcupine. A child reaching
for a hot burner. John McCain sitting down with the ladies of the The View.
Curious, optimistic, stupid. I don’t want the turkey jerky, but here I come.
My excuse? The last gasping throes of manners and civility in a world that
no longer cares. Raised in Virginia, I’m a master of the Southern mode of com-
munication. If someone tries to sell a Southern woman something she doesn’t
want, there’s a procedure for polite refusal based on generations of passive-ag-
gressive behavior. Cliché, yes. But a cliché implicitly understood by all parties.
For 200 years, the world has misunderstood Southern ways. I will now ex-
plain in four paragraphs how we think, using a typical scenario at the Virginia
Junior League Arts & Crafts Fair:
Amy wanders the booths. She pauses, mesmerized by an unusual purse. The
Pursemaker smiles, “Each one’s made of 15 MoonPie wrappers.
Amy takes a closer look, concluding that if this was the last handbag
on Earth, she would henceforth carry her money in her shoe. “Adorable!
How’d you come up with that?”
“Cute, right? It just came to me, looking at all the wrappers sitting there in
the trash. And then, voilà!”
Amy smiles, “Voilà! But you know what? My niece made me one out of
Frito bags just last week, bless her heart, and I don’t want to hurt her feelings by
buying one so similar. But I love your stuff. You have a card?”
Can you see the mastery of this exchange? Pursemaker understands her goods
have been refused, but there are no hurt feelings because I have complimented
said purse, blamed an absent 10-year-old and expressed future interest. Everyone
feels good about herself. Toasts all around. And I can assure you, she never hol-
lered, “Hey lady!”
I have found on my travels, however, that most people do not understand
this delicate art of refusal. Outside the perimeters of the Mason-Dixon, a po-
lite expression of admiration before a refusal is perceived to be actual interest,
which results in a harder sell.
Recent efforts to toughen up have failed. While researching a guidebook in
Los Angeles, for example, I spent a morning checking out restaurants on gritty
Hollywood Boulevard. On the sidewalk, a wild-haired ruffan approached. He
zeroed in, targeting me with a pointed “Hey lady!”
I stopped, deciding it was time to take charge of my life. No more passive-
aggressive waffing. I looked him in the eye and proclaimed: “I don’t have any!”
Any what, I cannot tell you. Money? Breath mints? Common sense? I
paused. The ruffan paused. The world stopped on its axis. And then the ruffan
realized he was offended. He snapped back: “I ain’t even asked you for nuthin’
yet!” How true. My apologies. Here’s a dollar.
Since social interaction is an inevitable part of my job, I’ve decided to try a
new approach. One that I hope will minimize frustration for all involved. It came
to me recently as I trudged toward a fsh market on a distant tropical isle, just
moments after “Hey lady! You wanna be my girlfriend?”
I paused. His audacity was compelling. Forget manners. Forget propriety.
Why not say yes? I could live my life by the tenets of the improv handbook
where the frst rule is: “Never deny anyone’s offer.” Say yes. Keep the show
fowing. Carpe diem y’all!
So that’s my plan. In the future, if a guy on the side of the road yells, “Hey
lady!” then asks me to be his girlfriend, instead of blurting a fustered no, I’ll just
say yes. After a few seconds of celebration, I’ll then ask him how I look in my
jeans. I’ve kept the show going and upped the ante. Depending on his answer,
I’ll counter or simply walk away.
And yes, I realize that this strategy is known worldwide as “negotiation,”
but sometimes a Southern gal has to work things out for herself.
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Stephen Smoak will lift, and pour, your spirits.
A decade as Rue de Jean’s barkeeper has done nothing for Stephen’s French, but he can parlez-vous a martini like je ne sais quoi.
In addition to keeping glasses flled for Rue’s regulars—whom he knows by sight and by preferred sip—Stephen is fnishing course work to apply to
nursing school. “I realized that I can’t keep bartending for the next 20 or 30 years,” he says, though he loves the people, the non-traditional schedule
and the high energy, non-stop pace that mixing and serving requires. “I’m one of these people who can’t sit still, I’ve got too much go in me,”
he admits. Part of that “go” is spent with daughter Ava Wyatt (4 ½ ), who goes to Montessori school, while mom completes her architecture degree
in Savannah (“we’re all three in school!” Stephen laughs). Golf is another Smoak passion, with a food-and-bev fair—
“I especially love beating Ben Berryhill, Ken Vedrinski and Mike Lata.”
The best thing about wearing a skirt? “Showing off my hairy legs.”
His favorite thing about reading skirt!? “It keeps me in tune with what my wife is feeling, thinking and wanting to have.”
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Robyn Passante is a freelance writer, blogger and editor who lives in the Harrisburg, PA, area with her husband and two young sons.
She has recently discovered the joys of online grocery shopping.
B
efore I had kids, I scoffed at any mother I saw
wheeling around one of those ridiculously large
car-shaped grocery carts. She always looked
frazzled with a vague sense of forced oblivion,
as though since she couldn’t see her children
at the moment, then she didn’t have to mind
them. (She sure could hear them, though; there’s
something about being in those plastic cages
that makes kids scream like banshees.)
Now that I’m a work-from-home mom with
a two-year-old and a two-month-old whose job
it is to get the groceries each week, I am the
frazzled one pushing the car cart. A typical grocery store visit for us goes some-
thing like this:
Entrance: The baby sleeps blissfully in his car seat perched on the back of the
cart while I manage to get a wiggly toddler through a plastic window and belted
in against his will. Then I realize there’s toddler goo all over the horn and crumbs
on the seat. The conveniently placed canister of sanitized wipes near the doorway
is empty.
Produce: It’s impossible to keep the car cart out of everyone’s way as I bag my
fruit. So I plod through produce like I’m lost, backtracking and apologizing as I
go. That’s when I see a kindred spirit—another mom huffng behind one of these
stupid red carts. She’s got two kids, both in the “car,” and they’re arguing. I see
my future, and I don’t like it.
Aisle 2: Every time I stop the cart, my two-year-old sticks his head out the
side and asks if he can walk now. This will continue for the next nine aisles. Every
single time I stop the cart.
Aisle 5: I’m pushing the cart slowly, looking for the needle-in-a-haystack kind of
bread my husband likes when I feel a thump. I’ve knocked over an entire display stand
of individually wrapped Hostess cupcakes. The stand seems like it’s 10 feet away from
where I’m standing but then again, so is the front of my cart. A nice woman stoops to
help pick them all up. For the next 15 aisles I will pat myself on the back—and sigh
with remorse—for not putting any cupcakes in my cart.
Aisle 11: My son stops asking if he can walk and instead tries to escape. He
manages to get his head, shoulders and chest out the side window despite being
buckled in. I’m tempted to let his determined little noggin “tap” the cereal boxes
on the bottom shelf as we pass. The image makes me giggle.
Aisle 12: I remember the taco seasoning but forget the refried beans. I cannot
turn around in the aisle, especially with people behind me, so I have to cruise up
Aisle 13 to return to Aisle 12.
Aisle 12 redux: This thing has more blind spots than a semi. I almost bump
into an old lady with a mini-cart. As I swerve to avoid her, the stack of coupons
sitting on the baby’s legs futters to the foor. I won’t realize I didn’t fnd them all
until I’m checking out.
Aisle 14: Another run-in with the same old lady, only this time I hit her cart.
Oops. Quick, boys, look cute.
Aisle 15: My toddler has begun chanting. “Mama, mama, mama, mama,
mama, mama...” At frst I try to answer him, but soon realize he is not ex-
pecting an answer. This is some type of song. Or rhetorical statement. Or
form of torture.
Meat counter: At this point I’m absolutely sure this godforsaken thing was
not designed by a mother, or anyone with kids, or anyone who shops for more
than one day’s worth of food. The engineers shrank the size of the basket to com-
pensate for the size of the car attached to it. This makes very little sense since the
people who use these carts have more than one mouth to feed. My basket is full
and I’ve still got six aisles to go! I try to perch my stack of fresh meat packages
on top of the car. Five seconds later, they fall off.
Aisle 19: The woman with the car cart and bickering siblings is at the other
end of the aisle. As we approach one another I give her the “Isn’t this a pain in the
butt?” eye roll-slash-smile and she gives me the “Oh God, I hear ya sister” grin
and I answer with an “I used to vow I’d never push one of these friggin’ things”
face and she nods with an “I wish they gave out samples of wine here” look that
makes me want to hug her. Then we heave our carts in opposite directions, but
mine feels a little lighter. There is strength in numbers.
Aisle 20: There’s a giant delivery cart flled with boxes of eggs taking up half
the aisle. It’s in the way of the yogurt I need to get, and I begin to huff at the stock
boy before realizing that my car cart is actually slightly bigger. And the way I
feel about him right now is how everyone else has felt about me for the last hour
when they saw me coming up the aisle.
Checkout: My son yells the entire time we’re in line. Not words, just
“Aaaaah!!!! Aaaaahhh!!! Aaaahhhh!!!” at the top of his lungs, a wordless “I’m
mad as hell and I’m not gonna take it anymore” tirade. I try to talk to him. Scold
him. Bribe him. Finally, I push the cart into the tiny checkout aisle and, since I can
no longer see or reach him, I ignore him. Forced oblivion. Ahhhhh.
...I’m absolutely sure this godforsaken thing
was not designed by a mother, or anyone with kids, or anyone who shops
for more than one day’s worth of food.
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The MOMS Clubs of Mt.
Pleasant hosts a Mom-to-
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245 Mathis Ferry Rd., in
Mt. Pleasant. Proceeds
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Wednesday coffees at Panera Bread, 5070
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info@womenatworkcharleston.com
Lisa Chewning, of
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Fiction workshops.
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short story and a
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“Edgar Allan Poe: Back
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you into Poe’s mind in an
original performance art
event. Poe’s characters
come to life within the
passageways of Fort
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The Avondale Business
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Don’t miss the 6th annual
Read and Romp Family
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Children are invited to
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the Teddy Bear Picnic
in Hampton Park. Enjoy
crafts, activities, and live
music by Sol Driven Train,
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The India Association of
Greater Charleston hosts
IndiaFest2010 in Marion
Square, downtown.
From 12-5pm, enjoy
demonstrations, dance,
music and food of India.
Join Mary Harris and Karole Turner Campbell for
Poetry and Paint at the Open Studio Workshop.
Materials provided, 10am-12:30pm, $5. Registration
ends two days prior to class. The Meeting Place, 1077
East Montague Ave., North Charleston.
Florence Crittenton Programs of South
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Enjoy cocktails, hors d’oeuvres and dancing. Tickets
$75/individuals, $125/couple and can be purchased
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We’ll be at Third Wednesdays: Caveman Masculinity: Pop-Darwinist Constructions
of Manhood. Why do we seem determined to believe that men are the way they
are because of what happened in caveman times? Third Wednesday events are
informal conversational salons and are open to the public. Noon, on campus in
Stern Center 409.
Mikayla Mackaness and Jenny Bloom speak tonight at
Redux’s Double Vision lecture series. Free, open to the
public, and comes with a complimentary glass of wine
from Social Wine Bar. Lecture begins at 6pm, 136 St.
Philip St. reduxstudios.org
The League of Women
Voters Charleston host
District 1 congressional
candidates for a one-
hour forum. The audience
will be able to submit
written questions and
distribute campaign
literature, so come
prepared! Begins at 7pm
at Wando High School.
Tonight top Charleston chefs provide gourmet
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to support the March of Dimes. marchofdimes.com/
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Do you remember Celia’s
on Archdale Street? Then
you won’t want to miss
An Evening with Celia
to beneft Saint John
Catholic School. Tickets
$20/person, 744.3901.
The Halsey Institute
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to Charleston. Free, 8pm,
Simons Center for the
Arts, room 309.
The Blue Bicycle Books
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Virginia Postrel speaks on
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downtown). Free,
3:30-4:30pm.
Tonight is the full-
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Jeff, and I fy to Hawaii to begin our
stint as kiteboarders, it occurs to us
that knowing how to fy a kite might
be useful. “Oh well,” I say, “I sus-
pect we will both be naturals.”
We spend the entire 10-hour
fight speculating as to what
awe-inspiring tricks we will have
mastered after six days of lessons.
After landing in Maui, we check into
the hotel and take a quick glance at the beach and pool area. We scoff at the tour-
ists sipping cocktails from coconuts, reading trashy magazines between naps, and
staring at the water from underneath their oversized umbrellas.
“How cliché,” I say, shaking my head. “Imagine how boring their postcards
must be! ‘Today, I avoided any new life experiences and drowned myself in weak
piña coladas. Tomorrow, if I feel up to it, I may dip my toe into the swimming
pool. What an adventurous life I lead!’”
Jeff nods in agreement. “It’s like they’re not even trying to impress their
friends and family.”
The day
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husband,
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It’s true that Jeff and I are competitive when it comes to acquiring life
experiences. Lately, it’s become increasingly diffcult to top our more ad-
venturous friends. A few years ago, it was scuba diving, elephant training
in Thailand, and psy-trance parties in India. These days, it’s spelunking,
Arctic dog sled expeditions, and illegal base jumping.
We arrive at Kite Beach for our frst lesson and gawk at the kiters
effortlessly maneuvering their giant kites while gliding across the
water on their tiny boards, doing back fips and 360s, and jump-
ing 30 feet into the air. Our private instructor, Dylan, skips over
to introduce himself. Sporting a foppy sun hat and a perma-
nent smile, he’s one of those overly cheerful individuals who I fnd
unnerving since you can never fgure out why they’re so damn happy (usually
Jesus or drugs). He is ecstatic to get us ftted with equipment. He offers us
helmets, but we adamantly refuse; helmets are intended for fearful, unath-
letic beginners who will inevitably injure themselves or others. We sign a
series of waivers, and I try to ignore the fact that their world-class kite-
boarding school is operated out of the back of a van.
Suited up in harnesses that attach us to the kite, we spend day one on
land, learning the basics of kite fying. Since Jeff and I are sharing a kite,
we take turns trying to impress Dylan and secure star-pupil status. At one
point, another beginner shreds a thousand-dollar kite on some bushes,
much to the frustration of his instructor. I snap a quick photo to document
his failure.
On day two, we graduate to body-dragging in the water. One at a time,
Dylan sends us into the ocean to fy the kite back and forth while simply
holding onto the board. It sounds easy enough, but the kite has a mind
of its own, and it proves challenging to maintain your grasp on the board
while being violently dragged face-frst through the water. After my second
turn, I vomit salt water and immediately update my Facebook status to
explain how hardcore I am.
On day three, I quit twice before noon, but I’m only half-serious. We
practice putting the board on our feet while foating on our backs and
simultaneously fying the kite with one hand. Once our feet are secured
into the footstraps, the idea is to dive the kite with enough force to yank
us into a standing position. The sheer elation that comes from standing
is abruptly followed by an unpleasant and disorienting crash as the kite
changes course. I fnally see the point of those helmets. By the end of the
lesson, I have perfected the face plant and ridden maybe 20 feet standing
up on the board. That’s still 10 feet further than Jeff, who pouts inces-
santly and complains to Dylan that I am receiving an unfair amount of
instruction time.
On day four, Dylan quits, claiming that we are “bumming him out”
with our negative attitudes. He accuses us of “not having fun” and sug-
gests we pursue a less demanding activity. “Have you tried snorkeling?”
he asks with a deadpan expression. I struggle to keep my composure after
such a slap in the face. “Does anyone actually have fun climbing Mount
Everest?” I argue. Dylan eventually agrees to continue with the lesson, but
only if we promise to be more laid-back.
I show up on day fve faunting my new mellow attitude, responding
to everything with a shrug and a “whatever, man.” I keep this up until I
lose control of my kite on a bad run and hurtle past the designated safe
area toward the rocks. Under duress, I revert to my true nature, alternat-
ing between crying and yelling profanities as I trail helplessly behind my
stubborn kite. Dylan, the optimist, continues to smile at me from the beach
and initiates a series of nonsensical hand gestures. I consider giving him
the fnger. Jeff, on the other hand, recognizes my hysteria and dives into
the ocean to rescue me. Although I appreciate the gesture, my white knight
swims at an agonizingly slow pace. After watching him doggy-paddle in
my general direction for a few interminable seconds, I take matters into
my own hands and pull the emergency cord to cut myself loose. The kite,
freed from its screaming six-foot anchor, crashes onto the rocks. I swim
back to shore and stomp through the crowd of concerned onlookers. One
of them snaps a photo to document my failure.
Although Dylan manages to recover our kite, my near-death experi-
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all lessons are canceled. Jeff and I are both relieved, although neither of us
will admit it. We spend the day on the beach, drinking piña coladas and
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Betsy Cribb is a senior
at Ashley Hall in Charleston, South Carolina.
When she is not working on college applications,
Betsy is designing her sure-to-be-a-hit Halloween costume—
and it will not be cliché “sexy” anything.
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College grub ain’t what it used to be, at least not since Dell came along.
Now, heaping helpings of organic veggies, healthy proteins and other lunch and late-night yummies—at non-heaping prices—
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“This is my dream. It’s what I do, I cook. I’m all about health; everything here is good for you. I just love it,” says Dell,
who moved to Charleston from Kansas City fve years ago and has been waiting for the right time and place to realize her dream of opening Dell’z Deli.
She loves catering to the college crowd. “They’re working hard, and I take care of them,” says Dell, who has four kids—
including two college students—of her own. “People don’t just come here for the food, they come for Dell.
I make people smile.”
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“I call it skin therapy. It’s beyond fuff and buff; it’s about a connection between what’s inside and outside,”
says Lillian, who directs the aesthetics program at Miller-Motte Technical College and is a certifed oncology aesthetics educator and practitioner.
Her interest in oncology-related care evolved after realizing that many clients were cancer patients or survivors who had unique skin care needs.
“I had to relearn what products to use, and what not to use,” says Lillian, a working mom who left a marketing and advertising career for the fexibility of
cosmetology. She’s also studied Reiki and massage to better understand the mind/body/spirit health connection.
“For an hour I’m invited into their life; I offer an escape from thinking about illness or pain.
It’s satisfying to help someone who’s lost eyebrows or eyelashes put them on without looking awkward,” she says.
“When a woman feels good about herself, it gives a different outlook on everything.”
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Lisa Perrett | Retro-Candy Queen
Make Me sMile
Lisa was a children’s book illustrator and graphic designer by day and a retail wannabe by night, or at least in her dreams.
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Company. The inspiration for their funky, fun throwback to all things bad-for-your-teeth and good-for-your-soul came from a year hiatus in New York
City, when Lisa would take her two young daughters downtown to explore “kooky little shops.” Back in Charleston she thought, “why not a mix of crazy
candy and toys, unusual, fun stuff you can’t fnd elsewhere? I’m a sucker for things I haven’t seen since I was a little kid.” The clean, white interior
is a futuristic foil for 1920s cartoons, wind-up toys and sugary nostalgia, with some mod Japanese toys thrown in.
“I love that different generations can come introduce things to each other.”
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Make Me sMile
When Mackie took the reins at this therapeutic riding facility last year, she brought event-planning experience,
a dedication to social justice causes and lifelong love of horses, but she’d never run a nonproft before. “I’d gathered all the tools in my toolbox.
I wanted the challenge,” says this Charleston native, Georgetown University grad and former regional theater actor/director. But she wasn’t totally
prepared for the emotional impact of watching kids respond so dramatically, or hearing a 5-year-old speak for the frst time. “I spent the frst three days
running back to the offce, hiding tears.” Mackie has helped the premier-accredited facility expand, from serving 20 children with various disabilities
last year, to 94 kids and a waiting list. “It’s truly amazing to take part in creating this,” Mackie says. “We want to serve as many as possible,
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here’s a difference between “cat person” and
“cat lady.” Cat people are simply cat lovers.
They prefer felines to canines and are the
proud owners of a well-groomed Persian or
two. Cat ladies are wild-eyed women teeter-
ing on the edge of sanity with kinky hair
and streams of kittens fowing out of their
cupboards.
My mother is one of those.
It started in moderation, back when
there was only Looney Tunes. Looney was
my mother’s faithful Himalayan that, by the
time I was born, was a crotchety old biddy with hair that came out in large
clumps. Before I learned to walk, the carpet in our one-bedroom apartment
was covered in soft, grey fur balls—irresistible after a supper of Gerber mashed
peas. If cat hair is indeed indigestible, my stomach is probably so well-lined with
downy fur that you could gut me and make a nice winter coat.
Looney never liked me much, so I amused myself eating fur until the day a
stray tabby appeared on our doorstep.
“Look, Mom! She’s got a tail!”
Even as a four-year-old, my powers of perception were exceptionally sharp.
“Yes, Bree, she does.”
“Let’s call her Tail-er!”
Hence, Taylor was christened as the newest addition to the family.
the
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Bree Barton
“Mom?...Maybe it would be easier if we, you know…
had fewer pets.”
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A native Texan, Bree Barton now lives in Los Angeles where she collects bookshelves,
exotic cheeses, and parking tickets. Her work has been published in The Huffngton
Post Complete Guide to Blogging, McSweeney’s, USA Today, Los Angeles Times, and
Chronogram. She owns no cats.
The Cat Lady
It wasn’t long before the other neighborhood strays got the same
idea, and our front porch became a kind of revolving door for the
bruised and beaten. We were living in a rough part of Dallas when gang
warfare was at its height. When Bloods and Crips weren’t shooting
each other in the alley behind our house, they were clearly beating the
shit out of their pets.
Limping calicos, tailless kittens, alley cats with mange—all staggered up
to 222 N. Rosemont for some solidarity and Meow Mix. My mother was a
generous spirit, but she drew the line at communicable diseases. The truly
sickly specimens were ushered on with a gentle prod, only to be replaced by
the next band of battered pussies from the ’hood.
Over the next few years, we moved in and out of the ghetto until we
fnally landed in an upscale part of town, where we were promptly brand-
ed with a scarlet “R”—Renters. Despite our stigmatized social status, we
couldn’t help but notice that the quality of strays had improved. Three-
legged tomcats had been replaced by Turkish Angoras with entitlement
issues. My mother still fed them, unable to ever deny help to an animal in
need. And slowly, subtly, they began to inch their way beyond the front
porch and into our living room.
That’s about the time I noticed something strange. The number of cats
we owned at any given time was inversely related to my mother’s serotonin
levels. Only two cats? She was relatively happy. Three or four cats crowded
into the kitchen for a Friskies feast? Bad news, Dr. Phil.
It was undeniable. The day I found my mother hunched in a ball by
the clothes dryer, unable to get up, we were offering asylum to at least fve
strays. When Taylor’s frst litter of kittens came, she cried for days. The
morning she rang her fancé to call off their engagement, I noticed four
unfamiliar furry faces peeking out from behind a pillow.
I struggled with basic cause and effect. Was it the cats causing the
depression, or the depression causing the cats?
“Mom?” I ventured, while scrubbing vomit stains out of the rug. “May-
be it would be easier if we, you know…had fewer pets.”
“What?”
“Maybe it’s better to just have two cats. Like we used to.”
“Less stressful?” She stared at me like I’d just proposed we lop off her
left breast and donate it to UNICEF. “My cats make me happy,” she said,
smacking her thighs with her palms.
My mother has a habit of doing this—slapping her hands down on her
thighs to emphasize a point. It’s one of those tics that start to wear on you
when you’ve known someone an entire lifetime, like when they chew too
loudly. Which, incidentally, she also does.
“Okay,” I said, throwing my hands up in surrender. “We’ll keep
the cats.”
I was beginning to understand that, in many ways, my mother preferred
cats to people. They were less complicated, more unconditionally loving,
and in spite of the nuisance of cleaning the litter box, it was a whole lot
easier dealing with their shit.
Not long after our conversation, she had the living room chair reuphol-
stered in cats. Not real cats—she wasn’t skinning the neighbor’s pets during
manic episodes. Instead she pored over fabric samples and fnally chose a
pattern with dozens of life-sized American shorthairs. Now, when we had
company, they were forced to sip their Franzia while balancing uneasily on
50 pairs of embroidered yellow eyes.
“I just love your…decorating,” guests would say.
“Thank you!” my mother would beam. “I still have a swatch of the
fabric if you’re interested.”
“Oh! Well…”The guest would grope desperately for an excuse. “Bill
would never let me reupholster the couch. Not in this economy! If only I
could. I do so admire your…creativity.”
My mother got a lot of compliments on her creativity. Most of them
came when she wore her Wicked Witch of the West leggings, which had
horizontal black and chartreuse stripes like a prison uniform that acciden-
tally wound up with a green sock in the wash. I have a Halloween picture of
the two of us, my mother in those leggings and a witch costume. She’s hold-
ing Looney Tunes, who is wearing a miniature witch hat, and I’m standing
in front of her with black-eyeliner whiskers painted on my face. Looney is
dressed like my mom, and I’m dressed like Looney. I think, if I had to pin-
point the frst time I had a sneaking suspicion that my mother wished she’d
actually given birth to a kitten, that would be the moment.
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and the background noises fade, the peripheral
colors swirl. He has a chessboard tucked under his
arm and wears bright red sneakers; has paint stains
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after hours, the crazy full moon, and how pleasantly surprised you are when this
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talking about it. Maybe it’s time to get on board.
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You’d like to meet this guy from the country music capital of the world, but
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(which will eventually become ubiquitous on something called Facebook), has
given him a mighty tall glass of false hope.
Back in Boston, you go balls out and decide to try actual internet dating.
The frst guy you meet is Perry, who invites you to his place for a drink. A
few years from now this will all seem really shady, but for now there are no
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quite; not yet.
Perry has a large piece of antique flm equipment in his living room. He
calls it “a really sexy machine.” Brother. Good thing you brought Yahtzee. You
have decided that you will bring Yahtzee on your dates with strangers, to shake
things up if there’s a lull in conversation.
Next is Jordan, who you eagerly meet at a North End bakery for cappuc-
cino and biscotti. His long bangs are pushed back with what is clearly a girl’s
headband, and he talks slowly and endlessly about Chinese astrology. Even
though you’re drinking espresso, you fall asleep. He nudges you awake and
says, “So Jen, what inspires you?” Enough said.
You communicate with Sean by phone for about a month before you meet.
He’s funny and natural and you feel optimistic. You even leave Yahtzee at home for
the frst date. Things are just as easy in person as they were on the phone, but you
spend the majority of the night trying to fgure out if you’re attracted to him.
You notice that his glasses are crooked—broken, actually. Maybe it’s the
dim neon lighting of the dive bar, but you could swear that they’re also mauve.
He confesses that he’s wearing his mom’s. And they’re taped.
Jen, I know that you’re lonely, but do not kiss the guy who shows up to
meet you with his mom’s glasses—taped. Okay? Have another Guinness. That’s
probably wise.
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more dates. He shows up in the lady glasses every time and inevitably, the two
of you play a lot of Yahtzee.
You return to the chat rooms and strike up a friendship with Stephen King.
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picture—knocking around Manchester with this bloke, eating fsh and chips
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You meet him at the airport and escort him back to his hotel. Stupid, stu-
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doesn’t end with you chopped up into little bits.
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to come over to help him make chutney. You fght it by holding hands with the
Brit and playing Yahtzee ‘til your fngers chafe. In desperation, you take things
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Stephen leaves the U.S. with one friendly kiss and a heartbroken slouch.
Before he goes, he buys you a Nintendo. You shouldn’t take it. It will make you
feel guilty for years. But you really love video games…
After you’ve played Mario Kart for about fve hours, you call Aaron’s work.
Naturally, he works at an arcade. You make plans for later that night.
In his slanted bedroom with the bright yellow walls, you wear clown wigs,
roll pennies and meow along to songs. The moon is full, of course, and you’ve
never seen it so close. Aaron turns off the lights and you stand at the window,
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up the whole sky.
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this can only end badly, and it will. But hey—you’ll be okay. Someday, you may
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Faye Walters (G) for District 4
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Nikki Haley (R) for Governor
Marjorie Johnson (D) for Secretary of State
Doretha Bull (G) for State Superintendent
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Leslie Minerd (G) for Attorney General
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Anne Parks (D) for District 12
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Wendy Nanney (R) for District 22
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Chandra Dillard (D) for District 23
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Judy Gilstrap (D) for District 26
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Ines Alvarez (D) for District 28
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Honorable Rita Allison (R) for District 36
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Delores Frazer (D) for District 37
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Mary Bernsdorff (D) for District 45
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Deborah Long (R) for District 45
Lancaster Co.
Holly Cooper (D) for District 46
York Co.
Laurie Slade Funderburk (D) for District 52
Kershaw Co.
Elizabeth R. Munnerlyn (D) for District 54
Marlboro Co.
Denny W. Neilson (D) for District 56
Darlington Co.
Sheila Gallagher (D) for District 63
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Cathy Harvin (D) for District 64
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Gilda Cobb-Hunter (D) for District 66
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Jan Steensen Crangle (D) for District 69
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Joan Brady (R) for District 78
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Paige Blair George (D) for District 78
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Mia Butler (D) for District 79
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Sheri Few (R) for District 79
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Beverly Diane Frierson (D) for District 79
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Jenny Horne (R) for District 94
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Patsy Knight (D) for District 97
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Christine Jackson (D) for District 98
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Barbara W. Mishoe (R) for District 101
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Vida Miller (D) for District 108
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Anne Peterson-Hutto (D) for District 115
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Shannon Erickson (R) for District 124
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A
t this very moment, a blonde toddler in
a day care center somewhere in America
cries inconsolably because Billy blacked
out the eye of her new Barbie doll with a
Magic Marker and Sasha got apple juice
at snack time while she got pineapple
instead. In a sun-drenched backyard, a
four-year-old in a lopsided baseball cap
is having a meltdown because the tip of
his squirt gun just broke and his mother
couldn’t fnd his Batman t-shirt in the
clean laundry this morning. And in a
bustling city, at a linen-covered table in a pleasantly crowded bistro in the nicer
section of town, a businessman revs himself into a full-blown tantrum because
the patrons next to him got their Caesars and breadsticks before he did.
Dining out, like flying, has a mysterious effect on previously civilized
Homo sapiens. Earlier in the day, they were reviewing important policy
memos with colleagues or mesmerizing audiences in an auditorium or
changing their oil and paying their phone bills like reasonable adults. But
mere moments after exchanging pleasantries with the maitre d’, the same
people can be observed wailing, red-faced, because the much-anticipated
Chilean sea bass arrived with a side of potato gratin instead of mashed.
Stacy Appel
The confounding secret known to waitpersons everywhere
is that while a small portion of the population actually comes to a restaurant
intending to enjoy a meal, the rest arrive armed with an
arsenal of unresolved stuff that should have been
brought up in therapy.
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Stacy Appel is an award-winning writer in California whose work has been
featured in the Chicago Tribune and other publications. She has also written for
National Public Radio. She is a contributor to the book You Know You’re a Writer
When… Contact Stacy at WordWork101@aol.com.
Eat, Pay, Leave
The confounding secret known to waitpersons everywhere is that while
a small portion of the population actually comes to a restaurant intending
to enjoy a meal, the rest arrive armed with an arsenal of unresolved stuff
that should have been brought up in therapy. They wish to be coddled, in-
structed and left alone, all at the same time. They want to fght, be noticed
and be invisible. They long to impress and humiliate. They want to eat
dessert without actually eating dessert. They would love to get drunk, get
famous, or at the very least, have the chef write off their check because the
medium-rare steak had a few peppercorns on top.
I’m amazed when I remember my parents instructing me as a teenager
not to overtip.
“It’s a sign of poor breeding,” said my mother. “Waiters look down on
you. Overtipping is offensive—they resent it.”
By age 21, when I’d waited tables on and off for fve years, I knew I’d
never heard such a preposterous lie in all my life. There is no such thing as
too large a tip unless someone plans to leave you the entire family inheri-
tance after he eats.
A waitress or waiter must be so much more than a server. She must
hear the lonely confession of the guy who was just stood up by his
date at table nine and grant him absolution. She must play umpire to
the two children throwing drinking straws, napkins and wood-backed
menus at one another while their parents sip martinis. No matter how
busy the dining room, she must find time to act as a marriage counselor
to the silent couple in the corner who glare at each other over bowls
of French onion soup, and referee the three guys wrestling one another
for the onion rings without getting her arm broken. She must hasten
with bar towels and soda water to soothe the hysterical matron whose
blouse is now covered with Burgundy “accidentally” spilled on her by
her daughter-in-law. A competent waitperson must produce Band-Aids,
Tylenol, crayons, Prozac, ice chips and extra Béarnaise sauce on a mo-
ment’s notice. She must call upon the saints to help her conjure up a
graceful smile as the leering bachelor party who filled her section all
night leaves her 10 bucks on a $200 dinner tab.
As pleasant as it might be to get divorced and fy off to Italy, India, and
Bali, á la Elizabeth Gilbert, one needn’t invest all that time and expense in
the name of spiritual development, especially if one doesn’t have a book
contract in hand. For every devotee sitting cross-legged on a mat in a
Buddhist ashram or hiking up a Tibetan mountainside, her counterpart in
America is right now balancing four hot entrees on a tray and wondering
how to break it to table 12 that another diner just got the last order of
mahi-mahi. Waiting tables offers an accelerated spiritual path for those
courageous enough to embark upon it, besides which there are almost
always free leftovers after your shift.
As a waitress, you will discover within yourself reserves of patience,
restraint, and kindness, when the loudmouth CEO sends his pasta back
twice, just for fun, and you refrain from stabbing him with a fork.
You will examine aspects of your own nature against the intriguing
backdrop of a culture of greedy gluttons who can’t believe you actu-
ally expect them to choose between a salad and two sides with their
filet mignons and baked potato. You will marvel at the complexity and
diversity of human nature before you, including those persons who
believe “quiche” is pronounced “quickie” and others who would like a
doggie bag in which to stow the remains of their hot fudge sundae, the
leftover butter, as well as all the unused packets of Sweet ‘n Low. Res-
taurant employment will teach you the art of balance between worldly
enjoyment and divine transcendence, once you realize that the dash-
ingly handsome man who cornered you near the cash register was only
flirting with you to make his girlfriend furious. Your faith in God will
be restored when the cranky old lady at table two, who threatened to
complain about you to the manager, mistakenly leaves you a 30 percent
tip because she couldn’t find her reading glasses.
When you come to the end of your path waiting tables, or to the
end of your wits, or both, you will have gained an inner wealth that can
never be taken away—which is a marvelous thing since the paycheck
just really will not cut it. And you, unlike so many others, will have
inside your heart the secret key to being welcomed no matter where
you find yourself in the world, a truth at once simple and profound:
Eat. Pay. Leave.
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Women must
Work more
than 16 months
to earn What
men make in
12 months—
the
same job.
they earn
77 cents
for every
dollar earned
by their male
counterparts.
?
[ Th e F - Wo r d | Fe mi n i s t s S p e a k Ou t ]
“Remember the ladies…If particular care and attention is not paid to the ladies, we are determined
to foment a rebellion, and will not hold ourselves bound by any laws in which we have no voice or
representation.”
Abigail Adams, in a letter to husband John Adams, Second President of the United States
I don’t know about you, but I think we could use some ‘fomenting’ right about now in our country.
I know that the economy and wars and natural disasters are hugely important; however, I’m not
feeling the love for the whole issue of women’s equality these days. I applaud the regular attention
being given to women in countries like Afghanistan and the Congo, but am saddened that here in the
United States, we seem to have backed off of the fght for treating women equally.
What happened to the Equal Rights Amendment? Why has the Paycheck Fairness Act not passed
in the Senate? Lawmakers in the House said it would strengthen the Equal Pay Act of 1963 and
also allow women to receive the same benefts for sex-based pay discrimination that are currently
available to those discriminated against based on race and national origin. Women now make up half
the American workforce, but they still haven’t managed to achieve pay equity. Women must work
more than 16 months to earn what men make in 12 months—for the same job. They earn 77 cents for
every dollar earned by their male counterparts. According to the AAUW, over a working lifetime, the
disparity between men’s and women’s wages costs the average woman and her family $700,000 to $2
million in lost pay.
Jennet Robinson Alterman
have
We forgotten
the ladies?
Paycheck discrimination hurts families who lose out on badly needed income. With so many women now supporting their families, unequal
pay leads to unequal wealth in ways that affect the entire family. There is less money to pay bills, less income to qualify for a mortgage, less money
available to send children to college. The effects ripple through our culture.
What about having a voice and representation? Only 17 percent of the US Congress is female, compared to 42 percent in Nordic countries, or in
Rwanda where more than 50 percent of the national parliament is female! Worldwide, the US is ranked 90th in women elected to national bodies…
tying us with Turkmenistan. (Fun fact: in my home state of South Carolina, we are ranked 50th in the nation in terms of the number of women elected
to our state legislature.)
Here’s the real kick in all of this—according to a 2007 Catalyst study of women on boards and commissions—women held
15 percent of corporate officer positions. The study also stated that Fortune 500 companies with the highest representation of women board
directors attained significantly higher financial performance than those with the lowest representation of women board directors. It’s the
economy, stupid.
Recent research shows that stronger than average results prevail at
companies where at least three women serve on the board of directors.
According to a report published by the National Association of
Corporate Directors, when at least three women serve on a board or
commission, “People talk differently when there are more women. It is
much more conversational and less hierarchical, and as a result, all of
the directors get better information. Having three women is ‘like three
legs on a stool.’ Strong. It is clear you are not there because of gender
but because of your talent.”
So let’s get out there and foment—for better pay, more representation,
and most importantly, a voice. We can do it for Abigail.

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Jennet Robinson Alterman has been the Executive Director of the Center for Women in Charleston, SC, since 2001.
Ms. Alterman has worked in television broadcasting, state and federal government and the non-proft sector. She has an extensive background in international
women’s issues, having served as a Peace Corps Volunteer in Afghanistan and subsequently on Peace Corps Senior Staff.
She is married to noted photographer Jack Alterman, and lives in her hometown of Charleston.
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Is life really all that
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Crystal Dully
The latest winner of our skirt!
scholarship is one busy bee. This
senior history major is also getting a
minor in Women’s and Gender Studies
and has been a campus mentor,
a former volunteer coordinator for
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service projects for the Black Student
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