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gage in physical affection, problem solving, compromise or positive feelings, affect a child's emotional security. If a child sees his parents live together happily and enjbying doing things in each other's company - he/ she is mentally safufredand feelssecured emotionally. It also helps them get along with friends and improves their academic performance. The innocent heart of a child encrypts all that he/ she sees and all that registers at this age stays in their mind for a lifetime, either at a conscious or a sub-conscious level. Arguments or conflicts may persist between couples but as parents you have to be strong and handle these them constructively for the sake of both your children and you. Parents have to work on their tolerance and patience levels,which possibly require some re-formattiJig for the sake of crafting a sound, stable, mental make-up for the child. Making a conscious effort in managing anger and conflicts ina constructive way, might just pave the way in bettering the marital relationship. And when the marital relationship is functioning well, it will serve as a secure base, a structurally sound bridge to support the child's exploration and his/ her relationships with others. It is undoubtedly a healthy vicious circle
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