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April Romero

Personal Change Proposal

I will be better at empathizing, adapting, and being ethical in conversations. I want
people to feel safe and know that I will not only listen but not push my beliefs, I will be
understating, and I will try to see things from their perspective.

It has been brought to my attention several times that I talk over people. I have a bad
habit of not listening to someone’s thought all the way through I cut them off and speak
over them. I never do it on purpose, but when I do I know it hurts people’s feelings. This
has been brought to my attention, and I have tried to make a conscious effort not to do
it, but I am still very much guilty of it. I have tried to hold back what I want to say but, I
think that I could really gain something from becoming better at Other-Oriented
Communication. “The signature concept for our study of interpersonal
communication is the goal of becoming other-oriented in relationships.” (Beebe
7e, pg.24) We need to Consider the interests of others, Empathize, Adapt and Be
Ethical. (Beebe 7e, pg.24-26)

Here are some strategies I can use to help me reach my goal of being better at Other-
Oriented Communication. I plan to be more aware of how I am participating in
conversation. I’ll try and focus more on the other person and less on what I want to say.
1. “Focusing on the interests, needs, and goals of another person” (Beebe 8e p.24)
2. Deliver my message with the other person in mind, be thoughtful of the
other person, in doing so it will make my message more effective. (Beebe 8e p.
3. Being other-oriented doesn't mean you have to know the "thoughts, needs,
experiences..."(Beebe 8e. p.2 Ch01) of everyone, all it asks is that we be aware
of them. The text says that to be other-oriented means that we should consider
the feelings, goals, desires, experiences etc. of the person we are
communicating with (Bebee 8e, p 24).
4. To communicate with others, we must first try to understand their points of view.
That does not mean we have to agree with them, just understand where they are
coming from.
5. To be an effective communicator in deeper more personal relationships,
becoming other-oriented is essential.
6. When one is other-oriented they are better equipped to form their message,
and better equipped to decide how, when and where to deliver their
message. (Beebe, 7e, p.24)

I will begin to implement these changes by next week 10/1/2018. It will be while I have
my classes during the day. To remind myself, I will place a sticky note on my monitor,
set a daily reminder on my phone, and note it in my planner. I plan to keep a journal of
at least a conversation per day. This will help me look back and review my progress.

Works Cited:
Beebe, Beebe, & Redmond, 8th edition. (2017). Interpersonal Communication: Relating
to Others. Boston: Pearson Education. ISBN-13: 978-0-13-420203-7