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1 Contents Page
1 Contents Page........................................................................................................... 2
2 Guru Nanak’s Long Journeys .................................................................................. 4
2.1 Islam-Sikhism website wrote: An opinion by Patwant Singh .................... 4
2.1.1 SikhingTruth response: A ridiculous opinion by Patwant Singh ....... 4
2.2 Islam-Sikhism website wrote: Sayings of Mohammad................................ 5
2.2.1 SikhingTruth response: Comments regarding the sayings of
Muhammad ................................................................................................................ 5
2.3 Islam-Sikhism website wrote: Husband to provide for the family .......... 6
2.3.1 SikhingTruth response: Comments regarding husband as the
provider 6
2.4 Islam-Sikhism website wrote: A wife must be sexually satisfied ............ 7
2.4.1 SikhingTruth response: response to a wife must be sexually
satisfied 7
2.5 Islam-Sikhism website wrote: Islamic Laws regarding sexual relations
between men and women .......................................................................................... 8
2.5.1 SikhingTruth response: response to Islamic laws regarding sexual
relations between men and women ..................................................................... 8
2.6 Islam-Sikhism website wrote: Statement stating that sex was created
for 3 purposes ............................................................................................................... 9
2.6.1 SikhingTruth response: 3 fold purpose of sex ..................................... 9
2.7 Islam-Sikhism website wrote: A statement that Semen causes the body
harm 9
2.7.1 SikhingTruth response: Regarding expulsion of Semen..................... 9
2.8 Islam-Sikhism website wrote: Sex for fulfilling desires .......................... 11
2.8.1 SikhingTruth response: Comments regarding sex as pleasurable.. 11
2.9 Islam-Sikhism website wrote: The children of Guru Nanak Dev Ji........ 11
2.9.1 SikhingTruth response: The children of Guru Nanak ....................... 11
2.10 Islam-Sikhism website wrote: Question regarding Gurbani.................... 12
2.10.1 SikhingTruth response: Gurbani provides peace of mind ............... 12
2.11 Islam-Sikhism website wrote: Sikhism is not Religion of the
Householder ................................................................................................................ 12
2.11.1 SikhingTruth response: Sikhism is the Religion of the Householder!
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2.12 Islam-Sikhism website wrote: Was Mata Sulakhani at risk of committing
illegal sexual actions?................................................................................................ 13
2.12.1 SikhingTruth response: Gurmukh women are independent, strong
and spiritual ............................................................................................................ 13
3 Guru Nanak and Mata Sulakhani .......................................................................... 15
3.1 Mission of Guru Nanak ................................................................................... 15
3.2 Neglect or Sacrifice?...................................................................................... 16
4 Comparing Guru Nanak with Prophet Mohammad............................................ 17
4.1 Immorality – Only in Islam ............................................................................ 18
4.2 A Sex Predator ................................................................................................ 19

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4.3 Neglect for Wives........................................................................................... 20


4.4 Status and Treatment of Wife ..................................................................... 23
5 Conclusion ............................................................................................................... 26

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2 Guru Nanak’s Long Journeys


This next sub-section of questions from our Muslim colleagues has arisen in a desperate
attempt to find fault with the Sikh lifestyle or the lives of the Sikh Gurus. The theme of
these questions is focused on the idea that it was unfair and immoral for Guru Nanak Dev
Ji to spend long periods of time away from his family. We deal with the flawed logic and
provide complete answers step by step.

2.1 Islam-Sikhism website wrote: An opinion by Patwant Singh


According to the biographies of Nanak, agreement exists amongst Sikhs that Guru Nanak
during his life set out on long proselytising journeys (udhasis).

According to Patwant Singh, these journeys were necessary in order for Nanak to
"crystallize his own ideas and give sharper definition to the contours" of his self-
developing religion:

"A restlessness was building up in Nanak, an urge to discover the nature of the world he
lived in, to meet and understand different people and their beliefs, to find out what they
looked for in their faith. He knew he had to travel far to get the answers. Hard as it was
to leave those whose love had sustained him, he had to go if his mission in life was to
succeed."

2.1.1 SikhingTruth response: A ridiculous opinion by Patwant Singh


Guru Nanak Dev Ji had earned enlightenment before he started any of the Udasis (great
journeys). The opinion of Patwant Singh that he wanted to discover the nature of the
world in which he lived is ridiculous as his only aim of traveling far and wide was to
educate Hindus, Muslims, Buddhists, Janis, Sufis, Yogis, Christians and Sidhas about
Dharma and the True way of life.

Early one morning accompanied by Mardana, Guru Nanak went to the river Bain for his
bath. After plunging into the river, Guru Nanak did not surface and it was reported that he
must have drowned. The villagers searched everywhere, but there was no trace of him.
Guru Nanak was in Holy Communion with God and the God revealed himself to Guru
Nanak and enlightened him. In praise of the Lord, Guru Nanak uttered;

"There is but One God, His name is Truth, He is the Creator, He fears none, he is without
hate, He never dies, He is beyond the cycle of births and death, He is self illuminated, He
is realized by the kindness of the True Guru. He was True in the beginning, He was True
when the ages commenced and has ever been True, He is also True now." (Japji)

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2.2 Islam-Sikhism website wrote: Sayings of Mohammad


Our Prophet Muhammad (may Allaah's blessings be upon him) said:

"Only an honourable man treats women with honour and integrity. And only a mean,
deceitful and dishonest man humiliates and insults women." (Ibn 'Asaakir)

"O Allaah! I declare it a great sin to harm, do injustice, hurt or waste the rights of the
two vulnerable persons, the orphan and the woman." (Sunan an-Nisaa'ee)

"Be kind [with the COMMAND VERB: ‘be kind'] to women." (Al-Bukhaari and Muslim)

"The most perfect of the believers in faith are those who are the best in attitude, and the
best of you are those who are best to their women." (At-Tirmidhee, 1/217; Ahmad, 2/250;
al-Silsilah al-Saheehah, 284)

2.2.1 SikhingTruth response: Comments regarding the sayings of


Muhammad
The Sikhs thank our Muslim brethren for highlighting some excellent thoughts about
women as mentioned by Muhammad. There is no doubt that the Sikh Gurus were
compassionate and loving towards their wives too. In fact compassion and kindness are
pre-requisites to developing a relationship with God through Dharma (spiritual practice).

“The mythical bull is Dharma, the son of compassion”


(Guru Granth Sahib page 4)

“Knowing their Lord and Master, people show compassion; then, they become immortal,
and attain the state of eternal dignity. ||8||”
(Guru Granth Sahib page 340)

“Purity, contentment, compassion, faith and truthfulness - I have ushered these into the
home of my self. ||1||All the loads of birth and death have been removed. Joining the
Saints' Society, my mind has become pure; the Perfect Guru has saved me in an instant.
||1||Pause||”
(Guru Granth Sahib page 379)

So for Muslims to infer that Guru Nanak’s message to humanity regarding the treatment
of women is in some way uncompassionate is simply not true.

However, it should be mentioned that in Islam, the number of quotes which highlight
women as bad exceed the number of quotes which highlight women as good and noble.
We will give just one example below as more are given in the second half of the essay.

Scripture: Sahih Bukhari Volume 1, Book 6, Number 301


http://www.usc.edu/dept/MSA/reference/searchhadith.html

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“Narrated Abu Said Al-Khudri: Once Allah's Apostle went out to the Musalla (to offer
the prayer) o 'Id-al-Adha or Al-Fitr prayer. Then he passed by the women and said, "O
women! Give alms, as I have seen that the majority of the dwellers of Hell-fire were you
(women)." They asked, "Why is it so, O Allah's Apostle ?" He replied, "You curse
frequently and are ungrateful to your husbands. I have not seen anyone more deficient in
intelligence and religion than you. A cautious sensible man could be led astray by some
of you." The women asked, "O Allah's Apostle! What is deficient in our intelligence and
religion?" He said, "Is not the evidence of two women equal to the witness of one man?"
They replied in the affirmative. He said, "This is the deficiency in her intelligence. Isn't it
true that a woman can neither pray nor fast during her menses?" The women replied in
the affirmative. He said, "This is the deficiency in her religion.”

2.3 Islam-Sikhism website wrote: Husband to provide for the


family
The husband in Islaam has been given the responsibility of maintaining his family's
sustenance and protecting them, as Allaah says in the Qur'an:

"...And upon the father is the mother's sustenance and her clothing according to what is
reasonable. No person shall have a burden on him greater than he can bear…"
(Qur'an 2:233)

2.3.1 SikhingTruth response: Comments regarding husband as the


provider
Certainly from a historical perspective it was true that the husband was usually the bread
winner and he would use his money to support his family whereas the wife of the family
would help to rear the children.

However in Sikhism this role can be reversed and also shared. i.e. both men and women
could work and both share the responsibility of bringing up the children or if it is the case
that the wife has a better and more stable job then it would equally be acceptable that the
wife is the breadwinner and the husband brings up the children.

Sikhism is not about “rules”, it is about living our lives with purity and honesty.
Flexibility with regards to family lifestyle is a feature of that spiritual lifestyle.

With regards to Guru Nanak’s family there was nothing that the family did not have in
terms of food, clothing, housing etc. Everything was provided by God himself while
Guru Nanak was educating the world on Dharma and while Mata Sulakhani was looking
after the Dharmic comunity in India.

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2.4 Islam-Sikhism website wrote: A wife must be sexually


satisfied
WIFE MUST BE SEXUALLY SATISIFIED The Prophet said: "The wife of 'Uthman ibn
Madh'oon complained to the Messenger of Allaah that her husband had no need for
women. During the days he would fast [1] and at night he would pray. The Prophet asked
him: "Am I not the best example for you to follow?" He answered: "Certainly, may my
father and mother be sacrificed for you." The Prophet then told him: "As for you, you
pray during the night and you fast during the day. Certainly, your wife has a right upon
you and your body has a right upon you so pray and sleep and fast and break your fast."
(Saheeh Ibn Hibban)

2.4.1 SikhingTruth response: response to a wife must be sexually


satisfied
The Guru lived with his wife up until his early 30’s so he remained with his family for
the first 12 years and his sons would have been around 10 before he set of for his first
Udasi.

When Guru Nanak Dev Ji disappeared for 3 days, Sikh history records that Mata
Sulakhani complained of his absence to her sister-in-law Bebe Nanaki. What this incident
demonstrates is that Mata Sulakhani had enough self-esteem and courage that she was not
afraid to speak to her sister-in-law regarding the actions of her husband. In the customs of
those days, that was not easily done. However Mata Sulakhani took the initiative to tell
Guru Nanak's family as well as her own, that he was missing and that she was unhappy
about this.

So it is reasonable to assume that if she had complained regarding Guru Nanak’s 3 day
absence then she would have also complained about Guru Nanak’s absence when he was
absent on his long Udasis if she was unhappy in any way. However there is no such
record in Sikh history.

An empty accusation to suggest that Guru Nanak’s wife was sexually unsatisfied serves
no purpose without being backed by historical facts as we have done with the life of
Muhammad in the second half of the essay.

Mata Sulakhani was responsible for looking after the growing Sikh community within her
village in the absence of Guru Nanak.

The long Udasis journeys were made because they were necessary by the first Sikh
Master to bring light to the world and its people. The subsequent Gurus did not need to
take long Udasis.

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2.5 Islam-Sikhism website wrote: Islamic Laws regarding sexual


relations between men and women
"Those who take an oath not to have sexual relation with their wives must wait four
months, then if they return (change their idea in this period), truly, Allaah is oft-
Forgiving, Most Merciful. And if they decide upon divorce, then Allaah is All-Hearer,
All-Knowledgeable." (Qur'an 2:226)

In this verse, Allaah has protected the rights of women. Today we find men holding back
from their women for long periods of time thereby placing her at risk of committing
adultery. And since this is a sensitive subject many women do not bring this out into the
open for fear of embarrassment. However, Allaah has established this right for the
woman in no uncertain terms
.
According to the scholars, the above verse indicates that the man is sinning by taking this
type of evil oath and depriving his wife of her sexual rights, whether verbally or
consciously, due to Allaah's saying: "Verily, Allaah is oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful".

Ibn Katheer (d.774 AH) in his commentary wrote:

If the period exceeds four months, the woman must ask her husband for sex or divorce,
otherwise the judge will urge him to do so in order not to harm her.

Shaykhul-Islaam ibn Taymiyyah (d.728 AH) stated:

The harm that comes about to the woman by the man avoiding sexual intercourse with
her is such that the marriage may be dissolved under every circumstance, regardless if it
was intentional from the husband or unintentional, or if he had the ability to perform
sexual intercourse or not. [2]

2.5.1 SikhingTruth response: response to Islamic laws regarding sexual


relations between men and women
The logic of some Islamic laws is very much out-of-date and in some cases just odd.
With the above example what is the significance of 4 months? Why is it not 5 months or
3 months?

Also sexual relations between couples are still a “sensitive” topic only with Muslim
couples because they still live with rules which are 1400+ years out of date. Most couples
don’t have problems talking about sexual matters.

It is unfortunate that Islam does not provide as good an opportunity to women for
spiritual development as it does to men. This is why Muslim women remain weaker in
their spiritual practice and why the author has said ”Today we find men holding back
from their women for long periods of time thereby placing her at risk of committing
adultery.”. It highlights the Islamic view that women should remain subservient to men
and that women are indeed weaker than men, which is why the above opinion regarding

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women is very much “women will commit sin”. This form of weakness is not a
characteristic of Gurmukh women.

Finally there is no record of any of the wives of the Gurus to have been either sexually
unsatisfied or unhappy.

2.6 Islam-Sikhism website wrote: Statement stating that sex


was created for 3 purposes
This is a slight side track taken by our Muslim brethren. However we shall still address
the questions and comments:

Imaam Ibn al-Qayyim (d.751 AH) wrote:


"Concerning sexual relations, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)
brought the most perfect guidance, whereby health may be preserved and people may
find pleasure and enjoyment, and it may fulfil the purpose for which it was created,
because sex was created for three basic purposes:

The preservation and propagation of the human race, until they reach the number of
souls that Allaah has decreed should be created in this world.

2.6.1 SikhingTruth response: 3 fold purpose of sex


We shall look at this 3 fold purpose of sex and the statements made around these 3
purposes. The first purpose of sex is procreation. Nothing further needs to be mentioned
about this.

2.7 Islam-Sikhism website wrote: A statement that Semen


causes the body harm
Expulsion of the water (semen), which may cause harm to the body if it is retained.

2.7.1 SikhingTruth response: Regarding expulsion of Semen


The living religions which understand spiritual science have always held the view that at
least 90% of Semen (more if possible) should be retained within the body as this fluid
contains the body’s life force and if you loose too much of this fluid then you will bring
illness to your body and mind. The noble spiritual sciences like Yoga, Tai-Chi, Kungfu
etc all support this view.

Sikhs do not support the idea that Semen is harmful if retained within the body and no
scientific theory supports this. In fact the opposite is considered true.

The truth of the Taoist, Hindu and Sikh spiritual masters can be tested within the
laboratory of self. Unfortunately this form of experiencing divinity within is an alien

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concept to our Muslim brethren so all we can do is wish you all the best with your loss of
semen!

The following are some quotes from the 3 different traditions regarding the loss of
semen.

2.7.1.1 Sayings of the Siri Singh Sahib, the modern master of Kundalini Yoga
http://kundaliniyoga.homestead.com/tantra.html

"A man's semen contains all the vitamins, and minerals that he needs. One should bring
this semen or Bindu up his spine, so that it may become Ojas [life force] and distribute it
throughout his body. It takes Eighty bites of food, when fully digested, to give you one
drop of blood. Eighty drops of pure blood makes one drop of semen. A man needs 90%
of his semen, to maintain his body." Yogi Bhajan

2.7.1.2 Hindu website highlighting problems with loss of Semen


http://www.sivananda.dls.org.za/Spiritual%20Instructions.htm

Here is what happens if you lose too much of the semen or vital force:

1. You will weaken your memory power. You will not be able to remember your school
lessons well. This is the first disaster you will have to face if you waste this precious vital
force.

2. Your mind will become weak. You will not be strong enough to say no to bad habits.
You will become a slave. The end result will be misery, pain, sorrow and suffering.

3. Wastage of the vital force is the main cause of illnesses. Your health will be affected.
Your body will not be able to fight off diseases easily. You will feel weak and listless.

4. Your nervous system will suffer, because the semen nourishes the nerves. You will get
irritable easily and will lose control of yourself quickly. You will become a prey to fear.

5. You will not be able to face problems bravely, as your mind and will-power will be
weak. You will even want to take your life because you are not able to deal with your
problems.

6. You will have a fickle mind. You will not be able to concentrate properly on your
work at school or at home. You will take up a task and soon give it up. Like a monkey,
your mind will jump from one thing to another. You will feel restless and suffer from
depression.

7. There will be no lustre on your face. This lustre is called Brahma Tejas by the Yogis.
You will not be able to attract others due to the absence of Brahma Tejas.

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8. If you engage in pre-marital sex or such other evil habits, your conscience will always
trouble you. You will have no peace of mind. If you deceive your parents or are disloyal
to your friends, sooner or later you, too, will be let down or deceived. Also, you cannot
expect a successful married life. The great law of cause and effect will operate with
scientific precision.

2.7.1.3 Taoist view on Qi and loss of body fluids


http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Taoist_sexual_practices

The basis of all Daoist thinking is that qi is part of everything that exists. Humans are
born with only a finite amount of qi (known as jing), and once all this has been expended,
you will die. Qi could be lost from the body in a variety of ways, most notably the bodily
fluids. Daoists would use practices to conserve their bodily fluids to great extents, and
some reportedly recycled and composted their own fecal matter (night soil). The fluid
that contained the most qi was male semen. Therefore the Daoists believed that men
should avoid ejaculation in order to conserve their life essence.

2.8 Islam-Sikhism website wrote: Sex for fulfilling desires


Fulfilling physical desires and enjoying physical pleasure. This alone is the feature that
will be present in Paradise, because there will be no producing of offspring there, and no
retention which needs to be relieved by ejaculation." (Zaad al-Ma'aad)

2.8.1 SikhingTruth response: Comments regarding sex as pleasurable


No one denies that sex is pleasurable. Indeed Indians regard sex as an art and have
created a manual for this art which as you know is called the Kama Sutra. Sex in heaven
however is alien to Sikh thought. This may be why Muslims have such an emphasis on
sex during their earthly lives.

2.9 Islam-Sikhism website wrote: The children of Guru Nanak


Dev Ji
We ask the question: How would the children have felt seeing their role-model leave them
for years on end?

2.9.1 SikhingTruth response: The children of Guru Nanak


http://www.sikhiwiki.org/index.php/Guru_Nanak_in_Nepal

The older son of Guru Nanak Dev Ji joined the mission to spread Sikhism and he helped
to propagate the faith. Indeed Baba Siri Chand (the older son) accompanied Guru Nanak
Dev Ji on his Udasis to Nepal and Baba Siri Chand inscribed the book of the Golden

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Letters which is still in Nepal in a Gurdwara which was setup by Rana Bahadur Shah the
King of Nepal.

The descendents of Guru Nanak Dev Ji are still very pious followers of Sikhism and there
is nothing to suggest that the sons of Guru Nanak were unhappy with their father when he
left to educate the world on Dharma.

2.10 Islam-Sikhism website wrote: Question regarding Gurbani


The Guru Granth Sahib states:
"jaa ddithaa pooraa sathiguroo thaan andharahu man saadhhaariaa
When I see the Perfect True Guru, then deep within, my mind is comforted and consoled."
(SGGS 310)

How is it possible for a conscientious man to be comforted and consoled by the reality of
choosing to forsake his family for over a decade, knowing there is no one back home to
tend to the needs of his family in the manner of which only he as a husband and father
could? It is patently obvious which example is better.

2.10.1 SikhingTruth response: Gurbani provides peace of mind


The family of the Guru and indeed all of his disciples had minds that were at peace,
comforted and consoled. We thank our Muslim brothers for quoting the truth of Gurbani.

It therefore follows that there is no issue of anyone of the Gurus family or their disciples
being unsatisfied in anyway as the True Guru provides a complete peace of mind, body
and soul.

2.11 Islam-Sikhism website wrote: Sikhism is not Religion of the


Householder
It is boasted by many Sikhs that Sikhism does not encourage a monastic way of life; but
rather a life of commitment towards siring children and living amicably with one's
spouse.

We dispute this empty claim by asking:

What is worse, the one engaged for years in carrying out a task at only the expense of his
own well being, or the one engaged for years in a task at the expense of not only his own
well being, but others who have a greater right over his time than the said task?

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2.11.1 SikhingTruth response: Sikhism is the Religion of the


Householder!
The above argument only holds true if the Gurus family were in some way caused undue
suffering due to the absence of Guru Nanak. However, all their needs were met by their
extended family and their disciples as well as his wife who was the head of Sikhism in
India. Also everyone understood the importance of Guru Nanak’s mission.

Indeed we have already mentioned that the sons of the Gurus did assist in the spreading
of the faith and that Mata Sulakhai was in charge of the Sikh community in India, in the
absence of Guru Nanak.

There is no doubt that it was a difficult mission to spread the light to all people around
the world and this was not required by the subsequent Gurus.

Sikhism is truly the middle path and is regarded as the “religion of the householder”

2.12 Islam-Sikhism website wrote: Was Mata Sulakhani at risk


of committing illegal sexual actions?
Nanak's wife was a woman who would have had the same desires and needs as any other
woman. Who would have tended to her sexual needs during those 12 years, let alone 28-
years of combined travel?

If Sikhism is against monasticism then who was Sulakhni turning to for companionship
and intimacy?

These are important questions since the behavior of a man who wanders off for 12-years,
having committed to a relationship with a woman, is a type of oppression and will place
the woman at risk of committing illegal sexual actions. How was she satisfying her
personal needs?

2.12.1 SikhingTruth response: Gurmukh women are independent,


strong and spiritual
The fact that some Muslims are still tunnel visioned after 500+ years of Sikhism and the
fact that the whole world is still away from the Truth, highlights the most difficult
mission that lay before Guru Nanak Dev Ji and the subsequent Sikh Gurus.

The above statement from a Muslim “scholar” is clearly a desperate attempt to find a
flaw with the Truth revealed by the Sikh Gurus or the lifestyle of the Gurus.

Indeed we have already mentioned that Mata Sulakhani complained to her sister in law
when Guru Nanak Dev Ji had disappeared for a mere 3 days. So if Mata Sulakhani had
indeed been unhappy about the long Udasis of her husband then she would have

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mentioned this and this would have been recorded within Sikh history. However there is
nothing mentioned.

The family of Guru Nanak Dev Ji were all involved in propagating the Truth in their own
way and in the absence of Guru Nanak it was Mata Sulakhani, a woman, who was the
first preacher and guardian of the new faith in India. She was assigned the task of making
sure that the congregation (Panth) stays on the path given to them by their founder. It is a
misconception that it was only Guru Nanak Dev Ji who was involved with propagating
Dharma.

Something can only be considered oppression if it done against the will of another
person. However, this is not the case with Guru Nanak.

The idea that a woman is at risk of committing illegal sexual actions if she is not satisfied
sexually is very much the Islamic view of women which looks at them as feeble, weak
and dependent on males. This is not the case with Gurmukh women who are independent
and strong and who have conquered their passions.

Also to assume that one needs to have sex in a relationship to satisfy personal needs again
shows the lack of spiritual depth and spiritual experience in Islam.

The experience of Oneness with God can be experienced while living the life of a
householder and also while living as an ascetic. However, doing it within a family
environment is more difficult but the recommended lifestyle for a Sikh.

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3 Guru Nanak and Mata Sulakhani


Throughout the article called “The Expendable Wife” written by the Islam-Sikhism
website team, our Muslim colleagues have made ridiculous assumptions about Guru
Nanak Sahib and tried to show him as a neglectful man which is far from the actual truth.
Further, the claim is made that Guru Sahib is not an ideal role model for the humanity to
follow. In this article, by Guru’s grace we will not only disapprove the polemics of
Muslims but also prove that Guru Sahib is by far the best role model and show the
trueness of Guru Nanak Sahib, the only true savior of the world.

The reasoning used in this section and the questions which are answered are similar to
those of the previous section. However these answers provide a slightly different and
alternative slant to the accusations.

Guru Nanak Sahib is the Satguru, a true Guru, who is highest of all, always has been and
will always be.

You are the True Guru, throughout the four ages; You Yourself are the Transcendent
Lord. (Ang 1406)

Guru Nanak is the greatest of all; He saved my honor in this Dark Age of Kali Yuga.
(Ang 750)

3.1 Mission of Guru Nanak


Muslims citing the source from Patwant Singh’s book claim that Guru Sahib left His
home to “find answers” and spend time “in wilderness”. It seems as though neither
Muslims nor Patwant Singh have studied the Sikh history or fully understood it because
neither one of them presented any credible sources to prove such claims. What questions
did He have answers to which could only be found in Tibet, Sri Lanka and Medina? Did
he find the answers? If yes where are they written? Which particular question was
answered at which place during which journey? Both have no answers because such
ridiculous claims are nowhere to be found in any credible history source. The oldest
record of history of Guru Sahib is written by Bhai Gurdas Ji which gives us a factual look
at the reality.

Before Guru Nanak Sahib there was utter darkness of ignorance in the minds of
humanity. Islam and Hinduism had failed to provide proper guidance to the people and
path of true peacefulness. Everyone was engrossed in lust and greed. Guru Sahib’s
mission was to show a right path to humanity, which provides pace of mind, spiritual
enlightenment and helps one to achieve salvation. For this very purpose He traveled in all
four directions and visited many religious centers.

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In his meditation, Baba found the whole earth burning (with the fire of lust, greed and
anger). Without Guru there is utter darkness and he heard the cries of the common
men…… Thus he went out to depurate humanity on earth. (Vaar 1)

Thus it was for this purpose that Guru Sahib left His home. Bhai Gurdas Ji further states:

Baba liberated all four directions and nine divisions of earth. Gurmukh (Guru Nanak)
has emerged in this kaliyug, the Dark Age. (Vaar 1)

Therefore, it is clear that the mission was to provide a path of liberation and preach the
truth which Guru Sahib successfully accomplished.

3.2 Neglect or Sacrifice?


Muslims claim Guru Sahib “left home and neglected his family” and “did not fulfill his
responsibilities”. Such claims can only be made by those who fail to understand the truth
and are blinded by ignorance. The fact is that Guru Sahib wanted to liberate the humanity
from the fire of lust, anger and greed because such were (and still are) the main causes of
one’s separation from Waheguru (God). Those who do not meditate upon Naam are
engrossed in five vices and suffer in their entire life. Guru Sahib preached Naam and
whosoever obtained it forsake all worldly pleasures that lead to separation from
Waheguru.

If Guru Sahib wanted to deliver peace to the humanity would he not have started His
mission from his own family? He very well did and the first person to become Sikh was
His sister, Bibi Nanki Ji, followed by many others including His own wife, Mata
Sulakhanee Ji. The message delivered through Guru Sahib by Waheguru not only
provided absolute blissful peace for people but also eradicated the five vices (Lust,
Anger, Greed, Worldly Attachment and Ego).

Lust, anger, egotism, jealousy and desire are eliminated by chanting the Name of the
Lord. (Ang 1388)

It would’ve been very selfish to know the path of liberation and not show it to others.
Guru Sahib wanted everyone to enjoy the true peace. The only way to do that was by
traveling in all four directions and preaching the truth. He targeted the major religious
centers first. He went to Hardwar and Banaras (Hindu places), Mecca, Baghdad and
Medina (Muslim places), Nepal, Sri Lanka and Tibet which are Buddhist places.

Guru Sahib left His home for a greater good i.e. to provide true happiness and peace to
the humanity. It was a sacrifice He made for the mission He was bestowed upon by Akal
Purakh (God). Mata Sulakhanee, His wife, was a very wise person and a devout Sikh.
She clearly understood the mission and fully supported her husband in this great feat.
There are no sources that claim that Mata Sulakhanee did not approve Guru Sahib leaving
home or if she was not consulted in making this decision. She was satisfied by the
blessings of Naam and wasn’t attached to the materialistic pleasures.

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In Sikhi, Naam (constant meditation of God) has the power to provide all satisfactions.
With Naam one’s desire to eat, drink and sleep goes away. There have been numerous
accounts of Sikhs who never got married and never had sexual desires. Muslim Sufis,
Buddhist Monks and many Hindu and Christian saints live the life of celibacy. Most
fundamental teaching of Sikhi is to control one’s desires and be absorbed in Naam.

Mata Sulakhanee enjoyed the company of Guru Nanak Sahib and had received the
blessings of Naam. She had attained peace and spiritual level of attachment only with
Waheguru. Had she been so worried about her sex life, she never would have consented
Guru Sahib to go. According to history records such as Prachin Panth Parkash and Nanak
Parkash, Mata Ji stayed with her in-laws while Guru Sahib was away. Guru Sahib was
from a wealthy family which proves that neither Mata Ji nor the kids were deprived of
basic worldly needs and they were well taken care of financially. Furthermore,
disagreement between Guru Sahib and Mata Ji would have resulted in separation but such
never happened. After each journey Guru Sahib returned home but never once did Mata
Sulakhanee Ji object Him going away again. She understood very well that Guru Nanak
Sahib had come to this earth for the entire humanity and it was absolutely necessary for
Him to spread the message of God.

By taking journeys Guru Sahib taught that for the sake of truth one should not hesitate to
sacrifice not only himself but also his entire family. Sikhs, being the true followers, lived
up to it and sacrificed their families and children but never gave up the true path of life,
Sikhi. Therefore, it is utterly foolish to disregard His sacrifice and turn it into neglect.

4 Comparing Guru Nanak with Prophet Mohammad


Now let’s take a look at the life of Prophet Mohammad and find out what kind of family
person and role model he was and analyze the examples he has left for the humanity and
his followers to follow.

First of all, if Mohammad was a true prophet he would have left his area for the purpose
of spreading his message. Instead, he sent letters to the neighboring states requesting
them to recognize his “prophethood” and when his letters were denied he revealed hateful
verses against Jews and Christians. A true prophet cares for humanity not just for his
family or the area in which he is born. Mohammad being the prophet had the
responsibility to preach the truth which requires leaving home, area and even the state. As
Muslims claim Allah had chosen him to be the messenger therefore he was solely
responsible for delivering the message to as many people as possible in which he
absolutely failed. He stayed in his area throughout his life except when he was exiled
from Medina.

Mohammad being a prophet should have been a role model for the Muslims in all respect.
However, it is astonishing that he could not even control his sexual desires and married
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the following Quranic verse Mohammad told his followers to justify his keeping of maid
captives.

“O Prophet! We have made lawful to you the wives to whom you have given their
dowers; and those ladies whom your right hands possess (from the prisoners of war)
whom Allah has assigned to you; and the daughters of your paternal uncles and aunts,
and the daughters of your maternal uncles and aunts, who have migrated with you; and
the believing woman who gave herself to the Prophet if the Prophet desires to marry her
– this permission is only for you and not for the other believers; we know what
restrictions We have imposed on the other believers concerning their wives and those
whom their right hands possess. We have granted you this privilege as an exception so
that no blame may be attached to you. Allah is Forgiving, Merciful”. (33:50)

What kind of God’s message allows a follower to keep only four wives but unlimited for
the messenger? Shouldn’t Mohammad have followed the message first and served as a
role model to the humanity? If God’s message (Quran) is for everyone on earth then why
was Mohammad an exception? If Quran really was from God then Mohammad should
have kept no more than four wives (according to Islamic belief) but on the contrary he
was the first one to go against the very message he delivered. Hence, Mohammad is not a
true role model.

Marrying more than one spouse is absolutely discouraged in Sikhi. Not only Islam allows
a man to marry up to four wives but also deprives the woman of common rights. If the
message of Mohammad and Islam is truly from God then why would God focus on a man
to have four wives and pose a number of restrictions on women? This shows that the
message of Mohammad is of personal desires rather than one from God.

4.1 Immorality – Only in Islam


Mohammad had become engrossed in sexual pleasures so much so that he even went
after his adopted son’s wife, who was also his first cousin. Zaid Ibn Harith was
Mohammad’s adopted son who married with Zainab Bint Jahsh. Looking at Zainab’s
beauty, Mohammad could not refrain from his desire to marry her. Zaid, somehow or the
other came to know the intention of Mohammad which resulted in Zainab and Zaid’s
divorce. After he divorced her, Mohammad told his followers about the revelation of the
following verse to justify his unethical, immoral and ashamed action of marrying his
adopted son’s wife:

“O Prophet, remember when you said to the one (Zaid, Prophet’s adopted son) whom
Allah as well as you had favored: “Keep your wife in wedlock and fear Allah”. You
sought to hide in your heart what Allah intended to reveal; you were afraid of the people
whereas it would have been more appropriate to fear Allah. So when Zaid divorced his
wife, we gave her to you in marriage, so that there remains no hindrance for the believers
to wed the wives of their adopted sons if they divorced them. And Allah’s Command had
to be carried out.” (33:37)

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And to justify his marriage, Mohammad brought the following sura to declare the status
of adopted son:

“God did not make your adopted son as your own sons. To declare them so is your empty
claim. God’s word is righteous and constitutes true guidance.” (33:4)

What kind of moral message was preached to the people? That all adopted sons all over
the world should not trust their fathers with regard to their wives? Is this not a matter for
the Muslims to be ashamed of? Marrying first cousin is considered immoral in most of
the societies but only in Islam do we find that the Prophet declared it a moral act to
justify his lust for whom he was a father figure to. Had Islamic history been full of stories
of Mohammad’s patience, self-control and sexual disinterest it would have been a matter
of proud for the Muslims and only then could Mohammad be considered as a good role
model.

The fact that Guru Nanak Sahib had no sexual interest and lived His life with pure self
control shows that He is the true role model for humanity. Guru Nanak Sahib gave up
materialistic pleasures to spread and preach the true path to meet and be one with
Waheguru (God). His followers followed the same message. Sikhs were offered money,
palaces, sex slaves, multiple wives and worldly riches for the price of religion, Gurmat,
but they chose to be cut into pieces and boiled alive instead. This shows how much self-
control Sikhs had and were ready to sacrifice everything in the name of truth. This is the
example that was set forth by Guru Nanak Sahib.

4.2 A Sex Predator


Guru Sahib had no lust and no sexual desires burning in His mind that could stop Him
from spreading the message of Waheguru and deliver the message of truth to the
humanity. Mohammad on the other hand was totally opposite of having such personality.
He was not only keen for seeking young women for him but also had lust for young child
girls, which is clearly stated in Hadith below:

Narrated Jabir bin 'Abdullah: When I got married, Allah's Apostle said to me, "What type
of lady have you married?" I replied, "I have married a matron' He said, "Why, don't you
have a liking for the young virgins and for fondling them?" Jabir also said: Allah's
Apostle said, "Why didn't you marry a young girl so that you might play with her and she
with you?' (Sahih Bukhari Volume 7, Book 62, Number 17)

The above hadith makes it clear that for Mohammad marriage is all about physical
relation i.e. to have sex and nothing more. This becomes apparent when Mohammad
marries a six years old girl, Ayesha.

'A'isha (Allah be pleased with her) reported: Allah's Apostle (may peace be upon him)
married me when I was six years old, and I was admitted to his house when I was nine
years old. (Sahih Muslim Book 008, Number 3310)

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Narrated 'Aisha: that the Prophet married her when she was six years old and he
consummated his marriage when she was nine years old, and then she remained with him
for nine years (i.e., till his death). (Sahih Bukhari Volume 7, Book 62, Number 64)

Narrated 'Aisha: that the Prophet married her when she was six years old and he
consummated his marriage when she was nine years old. Hisham said: I have been
informed that 'Aisha remained with the Prophet for nine years (i.e. till his death)." what
you know of the Quran (by heart)' (Sahih Bukhari Volume 7, Book 62, Number 65).

Is the act of an old man marrying a young girl to whom he is of grandfather figure a good
example for the humanity to follow?

Mohammad also had many sex slaves such as Rayhana and Mariyah al-Qibtiyaa. Instead
of opposing an evil practice of slavery, Mohammad himself advocated and practiced it.
This can only come from a person who has nothing but lust in his mind.

"The Prophet used to pass (have sexual relation with) all his wives in one night, and at
that time he had nine wives." (Sahih Bukhari, Arabic-English translation, vol. 7, Hadith
No. 142. And vol. 1, Hadith No.268)

This is a stark contrast to Satguru Nanak Sahib’s example. When the King of Sangladeep
sent dancing girls to entertain and seduce Guru Nanak Sahib, Guru Sahib said,

O princess, my daughter, run away from this place! Chant the True Name, and embellish
your days. Serve your Beloved Lord God, and lean on the Support of His Love. Through
the Word of the Guru's Shabad, abandon your thirst for corruption and poison. ||7||

Whereas Guru Sahib was spending days and nights in singing praises of Waheguru (God)
and spreading the true divine message, Mohammad was busy in going to each of his
wives to have sexual intercourse. Of course, unlike real prophets, he could never rise
above the materialistic pleasures. Message and life of Guru Sahib brings peace, love, and
compassion in one’s mind but in the case of Mohammad such things are nowhere to be
found.

4.3 Neglect for Wives


Now we come to the so-called empty claims of “sex satisfaction” and “neglect” made by
the Muslims. We shall see in this section that it was not Guru Sahib who had neglected
his wife but Mohammad himself who showed little to no care for his wives and their
needs.

According to Islamic scholars a wife 1) must be sexually satisfied 2) must not become
burden on the society 3) needs companionship of husband. We (Sikhs) reject this falsified
claim because Sikhi, unlike Islam, teaches to control one’s desires and have self-control.
From Islamic viewpoint, all women have to have these needs fulfilled and it is rational to
believe that women must be provided with such needs even after the death of the
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world. We, therefore, evaluate this Islamic claim on the life of Mohammad. After reading
this section it would become crystal clear that Mohammad not only neglected many of his
wives but played a vital role in depriving them of the very needs Muslims are hectic
about. In other words, the three needs mentioned above were not fulfilled by Mohammad.
Mohammad married approximately 12 (varies) women in his lifetime excluding sex
slaves and concubines. Therefore, we must look at how much time of their lives was
spent with and without Mohammad.

1) Ayesha – Mohammad married Ayesha when she was 6 years old and the prophet was
53 (varies depending on sources). He consummated the marriage when she turned 9.
When the prophet died at the age of 63, she was 16 years old. She died at the age of 66.
So Ayesha lived for 50 years after Mohammad’s death.

2) Hafsah Bint Umar – Hafsah was the daughter of Caliph Umar. She was first married
to Khunais Ibn alkhattab. She became a widow at the age of 18. She was 20 years and
Mohammad was 55 years when they got married. She lived with Mohammad for 8 years.
She died at the age of 63 which means she spent 35 years of her life after Mohammad’s
death.

3) Umm Salama Hind Bint – Mohammad married her in 626 A.D. She was with
Mohammad for about 7 years and lived for 48 years after Mohammad.

4) Juwayriah Bint – Mohammad married her when he was 58 and she was 20. She was
married to Mohammad for 5 years. She died at the age of 65. She lived for 40 years after
Mohammad's death.

5) Safiyah Bint Hoyay – She was war booty. She lost her father, recently married
husband and all other close relatives in the battle. Safiyah had no choice but to marry
Mohammad to save her life. She was 17 years old when she married the 58 years old
Mohammad. She was with Mohammad for 5 years. She was 22 when the prophet of
Islam died. She lived as a widow for 39 years. She died in 50 A.H (673 A.D.) at the age
of 60.

6) Umm Habibah Ramla Bint Abu Sufyan – The King of Ethiopia, Negas presented her
to Mohammad as a wife. She was 35 and the prophet was 60 at the time of marriage in 7
A.H. She spent about 3-4 years of her life with Mohammad and continued living another
33 years. She died at the age of 72.

7) Maimunah Bint – Mohammad married her when he was 60 and she was 36 in 629
A.D. (7 A.H). She lived with Mohammad for just 3-4 years. After Mohammad died,
Maimunah lived for 40 years. She died at the age of 80. She was Mohammad's last wife
to die.

To summarize the above, Mohammad’s wives lived for couple of decades after his death.

Ayesha – 50 years

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Hafsah Bint Umar - 35 years


Umm Salama Hind Bint – 48 years
Juwayriah Bint – 40 years
Safiyah Bint Hoyay – 39 years
Umm Habibah Ramla Bint Abu Sufyan – 33 years
Maimunah Bint – 40 years

This shows that Mohammad had left his wives sexually deprived after his death. Some
like Ayesha were very young and could get remarried but Mohammad had put a stop to
the remarriage by revealing the following verse.

Nor is it right for you that ye should annoy God’s Messenger, or that ye should marry his
widows after him at any time. (33:53).

On one hand, Islam says that wife must be sexually satisfied and on the other hand no one
had the right to marry Mohammad’s widow. Then we must ask the same question: How
were these wives sexually satisfied especially Ayesha the “mother of the believers” after
Mohammad’s death? Did they turn to caliphs (Umar, Ali, Uthman, Hussain, Abu Bakr
etc) or did they engage in “the secret act” as Muslims put it which is forbidden in Islam?

Who attended to their needs? Granted that Mohammad had died but he had taken away
the rights of his wives to remarry and seek companionship, as a result, leaving them as a
burden on the society to be looked after. According to the prophet “responsibility of
looking after the family should be given to no one but the husband” then who took over
this responsibility after Mohammad’s death? Was it not an injustice to women who spent
many decades without a husband, companionship, no one to look after their financial
needs and most importantly satisfy their sexual urges?

Not remarrying would have been a personal choice of the wives but Mohammad did not
have any right to decide their future after his death. This proves that Mohammad
considered his wives to be his property as is apparent from the teachings of Quran. This
is not even practical from rational point of view. What kind of message is it? That it is
okay for husbands to decide the future of their wives without consent after they pass
away.

The biggest problem with such an act is that it allows other Muslims to do the same. It
certainly shows how Mohammad lacked common sense and thought nothing of the future
sex life of his wives and not to mention the lack of companionship and intimacy they
missed out on. They had no Naam and no teaching of Guru Sahib to elevate themselves
above these worldly desires. So how were they satisfied? Does this not make Mohammad
a neglectful man? It certainly does. It was perfectly fine for him to marry as many women
as he wanted to satisfy his sexual desires but little did he know that women too have
feelings and require companionship. Therefore, it proves beyond the doubt that
Mohammad neglected his wives and took no constructive measures to look after them
after his death.

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Revelation of the above said suras (33:37, 33:50, 33:53) have no impact in today’s life
because there is no Mohammad, his adopted son and his wife and Mohammad’s widows.
There are no more wives of Mohammad. Mohammad is not there to marry as many
women as he can. These are the suras which do not have anything to guide the people of
present time. Therefore, what message is being given to the people? Absolutely nothing

4.4 Status and Treatment of Wife


Further investigation of Islamic teachings brings forth some disturbing and irrational laws
which are degrading to women. Women are not only considered deficient in intelligence
but also a property of men so much so that they must present themselves to men to satisfy
their sexual needs, which is contrary to the Muslim claim that a woman must be sexually
satisfied. The following verse from Quran is more than enough to show how husbands
are ought to “honor” and treat their wives.

Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has given the one more
(strength) than the other, and because they support them from their means. Therefore the
righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in (the husband's) absence what Allah
would have them guard. As to those women on whose part ye fear disloyalty and ill-
conduct, admonish them (first), (Next), refuse to share their beds, beat them; but if they
return to obedience, seek not against them Means: For Allah is Most High, great (above
you all). (Quran, 4:34)

The above sura gives men the right to beat their women. If Islam was all about equality
women should have been granted the same right but Islamic marriage gives men
superiority over women. This is fully supported by Muslim scholars.

"God established the superiority of men over women by the above verse (the Qur'an
4:34) which prevents the equating of men and women. For here man is above the woman
due to his intellectual superiority and his ability to administer and spend on the woman."
(Tuffaha, Ahmad Zaky, Al-Mar'ah wal- Islam, Dar al-Kitab al-Lubnani, Beirut, first
edition, 1985, p.36)

Man's sexual needs are considered so urgent that it is better for food to burn in the oven
than a man to burn in waiting for his wife to satisfy his desire. If she refuses, the angels
of heaven will turn against her.

"The prophet of Allah said: When a man calls his wife to satisfy his desire, let her come
to him though she is occupied at the oven." (Mishkat al-Masabih, English translation,
Book I, Section 'Duties of husband and wife', Hadith No. 61)

"The messenger of Allah said: Whenever a man calls his wife to his bed and she refuses,
and then he passes the night in an angry mood, the angels curse her till she gets up at
dawn." (Ibid., Hadith No. 54)

Women are considered a sex toy in Islam.

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"Your wives are as a tilth (a field to be ploughed) unto you, so approach your tilth when
or how ye will." (2:223)

Umar [one of the Caliphs] was once talking when his wife interjected, so he said to her:
'You are a toy; if you are needed we will call you.' (Al-Musanaf Vol. 1 Part 2, p. 263)

Thus it leaves no doubt that the so-called claim of Islamic scholars about women’s “sex
satisfaction” exists nowhere in Islam rather Islamic teachings are all about men’s sex
satisfaction and women presenting themselves to fulfill the desires of their husbands to
avoid the cursing of the angels.

Another contemporary scholar wrote:

"The marriage contract is designed by the legislator so that the husband may benefit
from the sexual organ of the woman and the rest of her body for the purpose of pleasure.
As such the husband owns by the marriage contract, this exclusive benefit." ('Abd ar-
Rahman al-Gaziri, al-Fiqh 'ala al-Mazahib al-Arba'a, Dar al-Kutub al- 'Elmeyah, 1990,
vol. 4, p. 7)

Any rational person can see how Islam degrades women and equates them to nothing
more than a sexual object. On the other hand, Gurmat principles are far more superior
and perfectly fit in the modern society. Women are given utmost respect and equal rights
by Guru Sahib.

"We are born of woman, we are conceived in the womb of woman, and we are engaged
and married to woman. We make friendship with woman and the lineage continued
because of woman. When one woman dies, we take another one, we are bound with the
world through woman. Why should we talk ill of her, who gives birth to kings? The
woman is born from woman; there is none without her. Only the One True Lord is
without woman" (Ang 473)

Guru Sahib put a high importance in marriage which is not merely a physical and legal
contract but a holy union between two souls where physically they appear as two
individual bodies but in fact are united as one. Guru Sahib taught that our married life
should also be molded on the ideal laid down for our union with Waheguru. The bride
and bridegroom then share their life, happiness and sorrow; from two individuals they
become 'Ek Jot Doe Murti' meaning one spirit in two bodies.

They are not said to be husband and wife, who merely sit together. They alone are called
husband and wife, who have one light in two bodies. ||3|| (Siri Guru Granth Sahib Ji, Ang
788)

Unlike Islam, Gurmat teaches that both (husband and wife) are to live a married life,
grow spiritually together and work towards achieving salvation. Sikhs are taught to live

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in their household but at the same time attach themselves to Waheguru. In other words,
Sikhs are taught to live in the world but rise above it mentally and spiritually.

Night and day, sing the Kirtan, the Praises of the One Lord. In the midst of your
household, remain balanced and unattached. (Ang 281)

Becoming householder, man resides in his innate nature (atman). (Vaar 16)

All the religious rights bestowed upon men are also given to women equally.

“Woman is one half the complete personality of man, and is entitled to share secular and
spiritual knowledge equally." (Bhai Gurdas Ji, Var 5, Pauri 16:59)

Therefore, it is completely foolish to think that Sikhs let alone Guru Sahib would ever
think about forsaking their families and “wonder in wilderness”. Guru Sahib led by
example and served as an excellent role model for humanity. He followed the divine
message first then taught Sikhs to live up to it. Following the same divine message Guru
Sahib not only fulfilled the family needs but also undertook the divine mission that was
bestowed upon him by Waheguru Himself. A false self-claimed prophet such as
Mohammad accomplished nothing more than what an ordinary human does.

We don’t think Mohammad had a slightest bit of clue as to what marriage is all about.
The so-called empty claim of Mohammad being a family man made by Muslims goes out
the window when we see the reference from Hadith:

Narrated Abu Huraira: The Prophet said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e., her
wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So you should marry the religious
woman (otherwise) you will be a losers. (Sahih Bukhari Volume 7, Book 62, Number 27)

Notice that the prophet never talked of love, companionship, sense of belonging and
feelings between men and women. The basis of his relationship is entirely physical.
What kind of message did Mohammad leave for the world to follow? That it is okay to
have multiple wives for sexual pleasure, marry an adolescent to whom you are of
grandfather figure, and take captives as sex slaves.

Guru Sahib on the contrary, very well fulfilled His family’s worldly needs, and looked
after them. Before going to journeys, he had made sure that they were well off financially
and would not become a burden on anyone. After each journey he returned home to make
sure his family was doing well and then set off to the next journey as commanded by
Waheguru. Even after taking long journeys, He never abandoned His family. He settled
and spent last 18 years of His life in Kartarpur with His wife and two sons where He
established the first Sikh center and set a milestone of morality for the Sikhs to live by.

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5 Conclusion
In conclusion, Mohammad who kept sex slaves, married first cousin (adopted son’s wife)
and an adolescent to whom he was of grandfather figure is no role model for the
humanity. No rational moral human being can or is allowed to do in today’s world what
Mohammad did 1400 years ago. He was so busy in the worldly pleasures that he did
nothing to spread the message of Allah that is if it was ever revealed to him. He stayed in
his local area his entire life having no care about the rest of the world who did not know
anything about the so-called “revealed message”. Some of his followers (Umar, Uthman,
Hasan, Husain etc) kept more than four wives and married young girls. There is nothing
for the humanity to follow from Mohammad’s life.

Guru Nanak Sahib, on the other hand, came to this earth with a mission. A mission to
show the humanity a true path of peace and salvation for which He took long journeys
and traveled in all directions. He is a true role model for the humanity who taught true
way of life by giving up worldly desires and riches for the cause of truth and Himself
lived up to it.

Truth is higher than everything; but higher still is truthful living. (Ang 62)

Guru Nanak Sahib’s followers, Sikhs, followed the same example and chose death rather
than giving up truth and adopting false way of Islam. No one has ever and never will
achieve salvation without becoming the disciple of Guru Nanak Sahib. Therefore, we
appeal to the Muslims to give up backward old aged teaching of Islam and adopt true way
of life set forth by Guru Nanak Sahib, which brings peace and salvation.

Let no one wander in doubt in the world. Without the Guru, no one can cross over. (Ang
864)

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