Does it ever occur to women that maybe a guy might like to have a plan…He’s not sure that he could just walk up to you and you’d respond if he said: “I like you”. - Hitch
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INTRODUCTION PART ONE: SEE THE MATRIX
Change how you see male-to-female relationships.
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PART TWO: UNDERSTANDING ATTRACTION
A full definition of attraction and what attracts a woman.
PART THREE: THE IMPORTANCE OF VALUE
If women have not wanted you so far, here is why.
PART FOUR: HAVE A SEDUCTIVE INTERACTION
Break away from normal conversation and learn how to seduce.
PART FIVE: HANDLING INTERRUPTS AND RESISTANCE
Seduction is never straight forward. How to overcome obstacles.
PART SIX: DECIDING WHERE TO TAKE IT
Avoid being selfish and find a mutual agreement for you both.
PART SEVEN: HOW IT ALL WORKS TOGETHER
How to use seduction.
she feels secure knowing she can control him. “It‟s easy”. You don‟t have to be confused by it all.
A GUY NEEDS A PLAN TO GET THE GIRL HE WANTS
I never used to believe that. If you ask them how they do it. All of our lives can be fitted into categories. look after her. Some guys can have these techniques naturally. And a lot of guys play by the wrong rules.com
. All I can really say is. I see seduction as an ordinary part of life. or even being hurt when I get rejected. She will tell you to be polite with women. And I don‟t go around picking up hot women and models.they will need these skills. with a woman who only wants them because she feels safe with a weaker male figure. they have their own inner issues which prevent them from taking on seduction.modernmanliving. Your mum would never tell you the right rules. And yes. they‟ll just say. or feeling insecure when a girl tests me. But you want to be in control of what you want and what you can get. show respect.but they come AFTER you have sparked attraction and you are seen as a high value man. after a lot of confusion. i|INTRODUCTION www. And you are not a loser for wanting to learn seduction. it‟s not easy if you play with the wrong rules. You can just get on with it. Well. But one day.I do have the knowledge and the understanding to apply these seduction principles to my life whenever I need to. Some guys out there are not so lucky.and seduction is a tool which clears up your relationship category. Otherwise they will just get trapped into a relationship they do not want. It‟ll be like playing tennis with a basketball.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
I am no seduction guru. Also. they are all valid. I‟m not wasting my time on all of the wrong arguments. Fortunately. I learned otherwise. buy her drinks. I believed all you needed was to be yourself and just have a conversation. I thought it was coercive to have a “plan”.
And anyway.7 BILLION race where there are an abundance of men out there for her to choose from.They give without asking for anything in return. ii | I N T R O D U C T I O N www.they have no clue where they are going wrong. we have to understand them. And unless they learn how attraction works. Even women feel it is ridiculous to believe his compliments are enough reason for her to go with him. Many of the men who believe the above method are feeding off of what women tell them to be true. you will know we respond to evolutionary wiring. Society wants to keep it a secret.com
. when really.and as a man. “I like you”. We are showing all of our protector and provider traits. A man can no longer go up to a woman and say.They want to chase after a girl without her even attracting him.modernmanliving. . And the “Be yourself” thing…How do must guys achieve the “Be yourself” attitude with women? Usually it is the DEFAULT way of doing things…
. There are so many consequences for a woman by letting you seduce her. He will only get a “Thank you” with a hidden thought of. It‟s ridiculous when you think about it like that.They offer everything.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
The „Hitch‟ quote was spot on. Women have so many consequences they have to consider. but we are living in a modern world with new rules. As you read this book. This leads to them getting frustrated with women for all the wrong reasons.the real ways to seduce her are a secret. but you will see why it has been kept a secret.They compliment without reason. It could be a feminine influence. . and we are part of a 6. It is bound to create conflict. why should that be enough? Her knickers do not fall off simply through saying you like her.
What we do not realise is we are working backwards. “I bet he says that to all of the girls”.Reason? Because so many other guys living on the old rules keep trying it. . We cannot truly believe that going up to a girl and saying to her you find her attractive works…. But we don‟t realise women are independent nowadays.
modernmanliving. The method has been working for generations. but she will ENJOY following you.being used. If you are still living on old rules. so learn how to do it effectively. Lions Roar.then you won‟t get anywhere.
iii | I N T R O D U C T I O N www. My belief is always about living as a man in a modern world. Their emotions and desires are things you should take into consideration. Peacocks spread. But women are not your play toy for sex. yet today.each must fit like ying and yang into their roles. women will follow you.yes. and do not feel guilty for seduction. or being pregnant.
SEDUCTION IS A BALANCE
Use it to your own gain whilst neglecting hers will only breed more insecurity in women.our challenges are different. Men compete.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
And when they have said she is attractive and she “fell for it”. If you have a strong sense of your own reality. So in this guide. Forget what society tells you. Bee‟s dance. or he fed her lies and she latched onto them etc. she ended up going through the worst consequences. you will learn how seduction should REALLY work. There is clearly a separation between the sexes. Seduction is always happening.com
. We need to catch up to how things work. This is not a guide on how to get a woman into bed.
“Why hasn‟t he swept me off my feet yet?”.
1|SEEING THE MATRIX www. Very nice.it requires action…it requires seduction. I mean. Women would be thinking. we have to understand that seduction MUST be used in order to make things happen. So if either want to have sex. and men would be thinking.
THE MAIN CONFLICT WITH SEDUCTION
Who is gaining from seduction? The reason why there has been such a clash about the subject is because women seem to get the bad end of the deal. They want a long term partner who will love them. Well.modernmanliving. it should be the man who takes the lead to make something happen. Women want more than just sex. The man is simply out for sex (initially).com
. what poppycock. The women will be merely suggestive to encourage his actions in a subtle way. the man can easily leave while the woman feels used as he goes his separate way. But when seducing the opposite sex. How much?” Seduction is bad! Seduction is naughty! …Ugh. even the dictionary definition is „to entice someone astray‟. It plays an important role in human culture. in any culture I should imagine. “Month subscription of porn. So if he manages to seduce her to do the bad thing. How would any race continue without somebody being seduced? Obviously when two people first meet it is hard to know whether they are compatible or not.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
PART ONE: SEE THE MATRIX
Seduction has a very negative connotation. then both men and women would be at a stand off. If we never tried to seduce and “entice the opposite sex astray”. Typically.
There had to become a balance. He would do whatever he could to prove that he is a man worthy of making her happy and be there for her. And as pregnancy and babies can often be the result of some nookie. women don‟t latch on to the notion so tightly.
THE CHANGE OVER
Fortunately. And because of the pill and contraception‟sthey can have sex without any repercussions. The struggle to seduce would become more and more difficult.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
This is why women had to flip the script.it leaves the women in quite a predicament. They were constantly getting the bad end of the deal.modernmanliving. It wasn‟t so long ago when a new wave of female sexual expression came. There have been many seducers throughout history who have fed women a web of lies just to satisfy their lust. But if women held on to the ideology.
“HE‟S ONLY OUT FOR ONE THING”
Nobody can blame women for that ideology. Men have tried to compensate for it by being more affectionate with women.
2|SEEING THE MATRIX www. Women were allowed to say they like sex. the emotional aftermath has still not reached a clear cut point. They would respect a woman and become „the nice guy‟. society encouraged women not to give in so easily to men‟s manipulation. However. And thus.women enjoy sex (I‟ll explain later).com
. and they were allowed to enjoy it. And that is a position we live in today. then there would be a stale mate. They have more play things upstairs than Toys „R‟ Us.
but you can‟t risk being polluted with all the naff ideas out there. We are seeing the world through the wrong lens.
UNDERSTAND WHAT IS REALLY GOING ON WITH MEN AND WOMEN
It would drive you crazy to try and understand all the back n‟ forth fiasco and conflicts.Pick Up Artists. In the same way that women once felt used and worthless. They were the frustrated ones who had the balls to admit defeat and learn attraction from scratch. BUT THEY RESPOND TO ANOTHER
Some wires were clearly being crossed.
WOMEN SAY THEY WANT ONE THING. You should probably forget what your dad told you too if he ever took the time out for it.modernmanliving. So you can see why seduction is so difficult. men began to realise that being the nice guy did not work. only to find that his feelings were not matched.men began to feel the same way. Forget what you see in romance films.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
But once again. There are so many conflicting messages about how a guy should be. So forget what your mum told you. They wanted to understand it. So the first part of learning seduction is to…. Forget what your girl friend told you in your teens before she left you. He would do all that he could for her. So to understand how to spark intimacy with a woman you have to:
FORGET EVERYTHING YOU HAVE BEEN TOLD
It‟s a generalisation for you to do that. Guys created a community to learn seduction.
3|SEEING THE MATRIX www. And these crossed wires go on all the damn time.com
So here are some new beliefs you should follow as you read through this book:
4|SEEING THE MATRIX www. you will put together the pieces that confirm these beginning perceptions. You will only get a reel of manufactured responses. This does not mean hating on women.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
Forget it all.modernmanliving. You are always encouraged to be the nice and respectful guy. and female fantasy. This is simply UNDERSTANDING NATUREThe evolutionary nature that has kept it all going. our biological and animal instincts. but stilla man would not be able to get what he wants by following those rules.that is not the case. So here are a few things you need to come to grips with.because 90% of the beliefs about seduction are fiction. And you can‟t ask women what really works for them because they too have been led to confusion.com
. A few suggestions that you might want to read and check out:
„The Red Queen‟ by Matt Ridley „The Mating Mind‟ by Geoffrey Miller „Sperm Wars‟ by Robin Baker „My Secret Garden‟ by Nancy Friday
They are books about sexual evolution. And as you progress through this mini course. But as you have probably learned throughout your short but colourful life. You‟re being lured into the nice guy fallacy where you are communicating ALL of the wrong things.
CHANGE YOUR PERCEPTION OF WOMEN
What you want to achieve in the beginning is to SEE WOMEN DIFFERENTLY. You have to go to the core to understand male-to-female relationships because society has messed it all up for us. “A guy who respects me…who will look after me…who makes me laugh” All plausible.
We are all constantly checking others out to assess their value and attractiveness. It doesn‟t mean we pursue anything. You‟d probably wise. and every species has a mating ritual. We have this innate instinct in our own species. why is it there? Why do we all subconsciously feel we have to check out other people‟s attractiveness and value? And why can it sometimes feel uncomfortable being left alone with the opposite sex? Some people are obviously more receptive to these feelings than others. It‟s especially true when a guy and a girl are left alone in a room. but it does mean we subconsciously seek it out. It is not altered by “What will they think? Will I get rejected?” thoughts.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
1. which is probably why we have the tension mentioned in #1.modernmanliving. It‟s not learnt at a seduction school.
2. Doing so would cause all kinds of crap.not
5|SEEING THE MATRIX www. so we cannot always act on our own primal instincts. There is a tension as to whether you should keep things safe and respectful. It is purely down to NATURAL INSTINCT.com
. But we do have a consciousness. THERE IS USUALLY AUTOMATIC TENSION BETWEEN THE SEXES
I mean a flirtatious tension. This tension is just there for us. or whether you want to flirt as you check out each others signals. And you have to ask yourself. SEDUCTION IS A NATURAL PROCESS. So we do have to harness our instinctive nature for the sake be spreading your seed in every female going. Sometimes it is automatically assumed they will find something in common and become closer.
We are a species.but it‟s difficult to ignore the feelings.
doesn‟t mean it isn‟t there. It unearths the libido many women feel they have to suppress. WOMEN WANT (AND EXPECT) TO BE SEDUCED. But once the attractive guy who gets it comes along. And every women mentions she wants to be swept off of her feet.she will do everything she can to align with him.com
. No girl wants to be known as a slut by her social peers.just because you cannot see it. yes. AND THEY ENJOY SEX
Everybody wants more of a good thing. Yes. WOMEN SEDUCE US WITH THEIR ATTENTION TO APPEARANCE
In PART TWO. you have to understand that men are not the only ones who seduce. All women feel a social pressure to uphold to a pristine and pure image.
3. Why does every girl LOVE to dance? Why does every girl LOVE to take pictures? Why does every girl LOVE to go shopping?
6|SEEING THE MATRIX www. you will understand how attraction works. women want to be seduced.
4. as long as you respect the boundaries of other peoples personal freedom. there are many guys out there…but a high percentage of them seduce in the wrong way…if you can even call it „seduce‟. or the shy girl wanting to be really slutty etc. She probably has guys in abundance checking her out and constantly trying it on with her.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
of society and emotions.modernmanliving. And these are often the fantasies women want to play out in the bedroom. As for this part. you will read about female fantasies from genuine women. Why? Because. Her libido is like the wind. That‟s okay.but only by the ones who do it right The selective few are the ones who UNDERSTAND how it all works. If you read Nancy Friday. so she can afford to be very selective. They want to take on the forbidden as a role in the bedroomlike the helpless rape victim.
or maybe just to feel good…it doesn‟t matter. You have to respect what she wants. women want relationships…and women also want sex. Why anybody would want to wear them more than once baffles me. But because of social status. girls will constantly tell you. she will feel absolutely amazing that she has been noticed. After all. even though she may be craving for it inside.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
They are all unconscious habits of women who want to display themselves the best they can. just so long as YOU get what you want. If you seduce her in the right way. It all comes down to an unconscious strategy to attract.modernmanliving. unless there is something deeper going on. so that potential suitors will spot them and want to seduce them. a woman does not want to be perceived as a slut. “Just because I‟m going into your bedroom. ALWAYS REACH A MUTUAL UNDERSTANDING
Men want sex. They want potential suitors to find them appealing and attractive. it doesn‟t mean we are going to have sex”. I‟ve had the unfortunate experience of trying on a pair of high heels. all the wrong guys might show up. It‟ll be like Johnny Depp has literally come up to her and said. Her social appeal far outweighs her desire to have sex (in most cases). which then leads to seduction.
5. The way she moves on the dance floor…the way she chooses the right dress to show off the right curves or push up her boobs etc. So do not apologise for trying to seduce a woman. “I like your dress”. But is that enough to stop a woman from doing it? Hell no! It‟s their way of seduction. but as they are doing it. Pay attention to the detail a woman goes through to look good.com
. It‟s a catch-22 for women. Whether she is competing with other females to stand out more. Women may even want a cheeky flirt with a guy. But you do not want to be the guy who can manipulate her feelings about these. as long as her boyfriend doesn‟t see it happening. She has to appear to have high moral standards. She will always try to defend her
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no doubt some other guy will. but this is the art of a seducer.they are all actions and feelings which feel good when you are having them done to you by somebody 8|SEEING THE MATRIX www. YOU ARE ALLOWED TO SEDUCE
My granddad once offered me this advice:
IF YOU DON‟T FUCK HER. She is not your conquest.if you do not make the move to seduce her. just to make her melt in your arms as you carry her to the bedroom.com
.you gain the ability to gauge when she genuinely doesn‟t want anything. Ross Jeffries said it best. She wants to be seduced. If you are telling her you love her and adore her. as you learn the techniques. It‟s natural. No naughty time.modernmanliving. At least that way seduction can be a pleasure. but in the back of your mind you know you will be gone in the morning. and the unpredictability. Also. the tension. She will say no in many ways. and you want it. All the above make you realise that YOU ARE allowed to seduce women. It is a continual thing that will always go on. Be honest from the get go. Our nature would not have gotten this far if we all stood at the far ends of the dance floor. yes you will be able to manipulate the situationBut it doesn‟t mean that you should. The flirting. SOMEBODY ELSE WILL
He didn‟t have much tact.that is unfair manipulation. and seduction HAS to happen otherwise nobody will go with anybody. both for you AND for her. But he also means. the teasing. The only lines to stay in between are using these techniques with respect and maintain your honesty and integrity. “Always leave a woman better than when you found her”. You should not apologise for it or feel bad. She asks for it.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
reputation and social image. Integrity goes a long way for somebody who learns the natural way of seduction.
6. She seduces you by her external appearance.
ONE MORE THING
Look at how far logic would get you if you took the idea of. But as you practice the techniques with these new perceptions in mind. As I said earlier. You can make her feel good by giving her attention in all of the right ways. Saying.UNDERSTAND WHAT WOMEN WANT IN A MAN. giving you much more confidence in knowing when she is receptive and when to pull away. „If she says she wants that in a guy. Without it. it just doesn‟t work. You have to have an overall sexual and attractive attitude about you. You can‟t define how to seduce the opposite sex by logic alone.
Next… ATTRACTION. a woman will never tell you directly what she wants from you. You will not get exact answers.modernmanliving. With that in mind.com
.you will get nowhere.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
you are attracted to.the seduction path is never really defined for you.
9|SEEING THE MATRIX www. “You‟re beautiful” by itself doesn‟t cut it anymore. then being it means she will want me‟. You have to read between the lines.your instinct and awareness will improve.
. and the aftermath. With contraception. Start from the beginning. Men only want sex.
1.so forget everything you have been told. Men seduce to get sex. YOU ARE ALLOWED TO SEDUCE
To understand how attraction works. Or can they?
Women have a lot of consequences with sex.
There are too many mixed messages about what women find attractive. Nobody like the mass media or women will tell you how it really should be. women were allowed to be a bit more aloof because it prevented the consequence of being tied down with children.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
It took a while for women to be able to admit they enjoy sex. but women do not want to be easy to give it because of social perceptions and morals. SEDUCTION IS A NATURAL PROCESS 3.modernmanliving. AND THEY ENJOY SEX. WOMEN WANT (AND EXPECT) TO BE SEDUCED.
10 | S E E I N G T H E M A T R I X www.she has her reputation to worry about. ALWAYS REACH A MUTUAL UNDERSTANDING 6. They can be as promiscuous as men..forget logic. WOMEN SEDUCE US WITH THEIR ATTENTION TO APPEARANCE 5.com
. 4. so it requires a man to work towards a balance. THERE IS USUALLY AUTOMATIC TENSION BETWEEN THE SEXES 2.
Every magazine and media publication knows the answers too.com
. and then apply it to evolution to see how it all fits together. Put it all together and you have nothing but external switches that attract us. It‟s filled with confusion and red herrings. But we would not know about a person‟s personality without language.Imagine a world without language. bitches with attitude or cute and shy girls.we are looking at our core. The best way to understand attraction is to first look at our own responses. We can‟t turn to society or women for the genuine answers.modernmanliving.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
PART TWO: UNDERSTANDING ATTRACTION
We need to understand how attraction works.
And the things we are immediately drawn to are:
Youth Beauty Curves and Slenderness Breasts
Beauty is a category that includes her smile. the one that has been able to make our ancestors mate each other even when we had no such thing as language.
WHAT ATTRACTS A MAN TO A WOMAN?
We know the obvious answers. This is not to say personality plays a big part. But also. forget your own personal preferences for a moment. her facial features and her overall appearance including skin and hair.
For evolutionary attraction. It doesn‟t matter if you prefer blondes over brunettes. And what do all of these add up to?
She is healthy and vibrant Ability to have children She has a higher success rate of raising the child
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then this is how it‟s going to be.
12 | U N D E R S T A N D I N G A T T R A C T I O N www.it just happens naturally and we respond to it. You can‟t move your finger by giving it a command. and there have been many layer additions as we have progressed and evolved. I want her”.com
. It is just done naturally. People may joke about our manhood is independent of us. “Move”. With our body and our psychology we can‟t WILL things to happen. You don‟t even have to think about it. He hardly ever thinks. You cannot control it. “I wonder if she can make me laugh”.modernmanliving. Look down at your index finger. This is at the deepest level of us.
Put your hand flat out on the table. Think about it. A guys first thoughts when noticing a woman are all about her appearance and how „sexy‟ she looks. It‟s instinctive and out of our control.But the core still remains the same. Can you do it? I‟m assuming you won‟t be able to do it. “Damn! Oh she is going to be SO good at having my baby. Just internally say. Unless there is going to be a HUGE genetic mutation.
Apply this principle to attraction. You can‟t choose what or when you get an erection. and tell it to move.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
It‟s true. like the small ones which have already happened to introduce homosexuality to humans as it changes their internal chemistry. This little test proves to you there is something deeper going on. we don‟t look at a beautiful women and think.but it does feel like that at times.
modernmanliving.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
You can‟t argue with instinct. “You will be attracted to X. That is like thinking if I say I love somebody. Y and Z”. just as you don‟t think about liking her because she is healthy enough to have children. And we shouldn‟t be so naïve and closed minded to think it only applies to men. And the older she gets. So what are they? Put simply. We were never shown what to feel attracted to. then she will be attracted to me. they will automatically love me back. the more
13 | U N D E R S T A N D I N G A T T R A C T I O N www. We never went to attraction school which said.com
. It was all down to survival. Women have these responses too which they cannot control. She will get turned on or she will get urges to act on her impulses. they are:
VALUE AND STATUS
Keep on thinking back to a world without words and a social structure. and it needs to be triggered. that fear can still overwhelm her. That‟s stupid.women do not consciously think about this. It just happens for her. A lot of us also go on the same rational thinking.if I show I‟m attracted to her. Even in a big world with a huge population. So we need to trim away the social influence (talked more about in Resistance and Interrupts) and notice what goes on at a woman‟s core. and a woman could not survive on her own…
(Note how women still have a big fear of being alone.
WHAT WOMEN RESPOND TO
Remember. And the mistakes men typically make are down to social influence. Attraction is a feeling.
NOTICING VALUE AND STATUS
We can only know a woman is healthy by her appearance. He has to be man enough to step up.just to get a perception about her. .the main factors which attract her to a man. They often lead to misunderstanding and confusion. We look at her hips. How do you think women notice if a man has value and status? I.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
she feels it. her legs. As women naturally fell into the roles of being at home to care for the children. And what they mean by that is.modernmanliving. her facial features.)
She had to be with a man who was capable of surviving. remember she is not conscious of this screening process. her hair. Just because I have big muscles and I can move a house. Sure I can defend and protect her. He would rather go out with the lads and drink (and we wonder why women get frustrated by this one too) rather than improve or have success. And these value traits are:
14 | U N D E R S T A N D I N G A T T R A C T I O N www. She too has to observe.
SHE COULD NOT AFFORD TO BE WITH A MAN WEAKER THAN HER
Women today complain about men not being real men.but what about being strong emotionally and mentally? No woman would want a man to hide under the bed if somebody broke into the house.com
. When you look around you. you see the core attraction points still in play in today‟s world. doesn‟t mean I have emotional value. men were out hunting and being go-getters. Because she too instinctively knows youth and health plays a big part in raising a child. Once again. but you cannot argue that they still play an important part in maintaining male-to-female relationships. her skin…everything. It is instinctive. He doesn‟t have the emotional strength or the mental attitude to survive in this world.he is appearing to be weaker than her. However.e. the unfortunate thing is it cannot all be down to external factors.
I wouldn‟t be who I am today”? Women NEED a social peer group. but height is a sure sign of having dominance. He may be a skinny runt with gangly legs. Also as part of evolution are the traits for survival. So do you have survival traits? Or are you tamed by shyness and fear? This is why women put confidence at the top of their list.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
EVOLUTIONARY VALUE SOCIAL VALUE EMOTIONAL VALUE SEXUAL VALUE PROTECTOR AND PROVIDER VALUE
1. and a woman feels comfort in seeing he is taller than her.modernmanliving. He goes out and does what he wants. Women are by no means incapable
15 | U N D E R S T A N D I N G A T T R A C T I O N www. How could he venture off to new ground if he is fearful of the dark in that cave they just found? This could be the reason for the „Bad Boy‟ image. It‟s a form of security for her. and he is not tamed by inferior thoughts. Without them. Confidence proves you are not weaker than her. then that is a sign of AMBITION and CONFIDENCE.
2. It goes back to the not wanting to be left alone thing. EVOLUTIONARY VALUE
What woman wants a man shorter than her? This is evolution assuring that the man has a powerful dominance. SOCIAL VALUE
How many women LOVE their friends and family? How many say..you are confident enough to do what needs to be done. No woman would want a man who plays it safe all of his life.com
. Women absolutely need their friends.Because if you are. Ask yourself: Are you willing to do whatever it takes to get what you want?. “they have helped me through so much. and you have to respect it as her way of feeling secure. The bad boy takes risks and tries the unknown.
Why? It is because it encourages you to put your interaction with her in a sexual and intimate frame. I believe this to be very important. then that will make her question whether she wants to cause rifts and lose her social circle. Are you great with people? Are you surrounded by friends and people liking you? It‟s a contest you have to win before you even enter. you‟re in front of a judge and jury. If you can stimulate her to make her laugh. but they are feelings and sensations. but don‟t take it personally.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
of being independent and surviving alone.
16 | U N D E R S T A N D I N G A T T R A C T I O N www. It does not relate to length. Hey. then you will simply be seen as a friend. relaxing picnics on a warm daythey sound romantic by nature. They have to be. EMOTIONAL VALUE
Women are more in tune with their feelings than a man.com
. That is why girls always look to their friends for confirmation about you. They can have everything else in place. If her friends do not like you. Another feeling is laughter.modernmanliving. but their friends are always there for them (or at least they should be) So a woman would not want to align with a man who lacks social intelligence.it will be things like how your personality shines through as you talk to her. cuddles. They are in tune with how their body works and the sensations they feel. They are designed to one day raise a baby inside of them. It is what separates you from the rest of the chumps.
4. So comforting things like soft kisses. girth and stamina. Most guys do not do that.then you make her feel good. To see if you have social value.even if you are overall attractive to her.
3. but if you do not communicate that you are sexually attracted to her. SEXUAL VALUE
This is how desirable you are sexually.
There is no definite winner. a man who makes it a priority to look after her (providing security). Some women see a man who loves sex. For example. Some women see money and think. a healthy man (offspring and long-term security)…. but in a confident and comfortable way for other women to respond to. If you show that women are comfortable around you and they want you. they have people like Hollywood hunks and superstars.
5. The underlying factor is.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
The way she observes this is by noticing how other women react to you.
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. PROTECTOR AND PROVIDER VALUE
Women are all about security. a man who is confident and emotionally strong (protector security).then why not have Bill Gates or Roman Abramovich up on their walls? No. “I‟m made for life!”.she will usually go for the man who has a lot to offer her.and it turns her on. Some women want a weak man she can control because she is fed up of being hurt.
THE CONFUSING PART
It‟s quite a big list to consider just to get her wanting you. Ever heard the line.and so on. other women see this as you being highly sexual. if women like financial security. but we all do it. so what gives her that? They are Things like money (financial security). It‟s a selfish game. So those are what women need to observe in a man to make her purr. “I bet you say that to all the girls”.
However. so they align with their instinctsthey are drawn to fashion. It is all about communication. It‟s down to sex appeal. You need to go get it and achieve it.women want the whole package (I know. it is easy to manipulate factors to make her assume you have them.
Next… LEARN HOW TO SHOW YOUR VALUE. shopping and looking young and healthy. Women are already in tune with what men want. So a man must consciously take on methods to COMMUNICATE his value to a woman. you will see it is carrying on today.modernmanliving. turn up in a posh sporty jag you borrowed off of your friend (she doesn‟t have to know that) and you are communicating wealth.
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It‟s not down to looks. IN A SIMILAR WAY SHE DOES WITH HER APPEARANCE. But you don‟t want to be the guy who is manipulative just to compensate your lack of value. Being seen (or perceived) as a popular guy.Greedy)
SO WHAT NOW?
You know what a woman instinctively finds attractive. Those are methods to give the green light for seduction. And if you look around you.with plenty of pre-selection and social status. And that comes from your attitude. Example.com
. This is why you cannot view attraction in a logical sense.
Value women respond to: EVOLUTIONARY VALUE SOCIAL VALUE EMOTIONAL VALUE SEXUAL VALUE PROTECTOR AND PROVIDER VALUE
There is no magic bullet for attraction. Look around you and observe evolutionary attraction happening. Otherwise women would have rich men on walls. She cannot afford to be with a man who is weaker than her. But instead.it just happens to us.com
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We know how we react when we see a beautiful woman. Women have the same automatic responses but to different things Women respond to VALUE AND STATUS in a man. These responses are natural and evolutionary. We subconsciously see her beauty as her being young and healthy. When you do.modernmanliving. and not what society tells you. It is an overall perception of high status. you will understand you should follow the law of evolutionary attraction. they have musicians and Hollywood stars.the ones with sex appeal. Things like power. We cannot turn it on and off. But women cannot admit they want men to "overpower" them.
spend time with each other.
FOCUS ON INNER GAME. Conversation by itself does not communicate value. hold hands. The truth is.create a connection that is open to intimacy and escalation. all these methods are simply tools to do one thing.
GOAL FOR SEDUCTION
The goal for seduction is simple.modernmanliving. And if you are both strangers.
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Sparking attraction creates a space where you are both in your little world together.com
.how is she expected to know you even have any value? So what you have to do is learn the basic principles to communicating your value in a positive way. and that is:
COMMUNICATE VALUE AND STATUS
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PART THREE: THE IMPORTANCE OF VALUE
There are many schools of seduction out there. This DOES NOT mean put her down or belittle her. flirting and connecting. But you cannot do this ALL of the time. connect with emotions etc. It involves teasing. all creating techniques and strategies for seduction. then she will feel attracted to you. One where she understands that you possess all of the valuable traits defined in part two.
it will just click into place for you. Isn‟t this the case with most relationships? Some relationships end because they can‟t invest time in each other so they drift apart.so people search for these “gaps” elsewhere. It‟s all related to value. For example. Some end because they don‟t stimulate each others emotions anymore. she will tease you more. She will flirt with you.modernmanliving. and your reactions unconsciously communicate value. Attraction cannot be switched on 24/7. You can be attracted to somebody. It would be pointless learning the perfect lines and methods because they are short in length.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
But I soon learned that attraction is a continual thing.com
. When you see the matrix. You want to create a scenario where you are both seducing each other. you get friendly responses back. These are the responses you want to have happen. flirtatious banterYou cannot keep that up ALL of the time.the attraction soon wears off. she will re-initiate if you pull away. If you DON‟T apply these techniques. Some end because the sex life isn‟t as good as it once was.then she will:
Assume you are not interested Carry on normal conversation with you Only see you as a friend with no possible romantic interest
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www. And you create this scenario through the techniques I‟m about to tell you. It will be a short 10 minute dialogue.you get attraction responses back. You just understand how attraction works. you have to work on your inner game so that these tools to communicate become innate. With attraction being continual. but then when they lack value.but the effects of it are amazing! Look at the bigger picture and see how women respond to you when you apply seduction techniques. But with ATTRACTIVE conversation.
ALLOWING ATTRACTION TO SPARK
With friendly conversation. That means you are NATURALLY attractive without thinking up the perfect thing to say or how to handle a situation. They work by changing how she responds to you.
we don‟t want that to happen. Her evolutionary wiring will be telling her. And you must do it AT THE BEGINNING.
HOW YOU COMMUNICATE LOWER VALUE
Let‟s get some perspective on how this works. and you do some of the following things:
You put yourself down a lot. who finds his own level of success.
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www. banter etc. Women nowadays are more than welcome to be better than men in sports. Imagine you are with a girl. But some guys can struggle with this concept.modernmanliving. Communicating value is easy when you remember the rule:
IF SHE SEE‟S YOU WEAKER THAN HER. SHE WILL LOSE INTEREST
Imagine if you did appear weaker than her. “How can I be with a guy who I am better than?” It‟s not a competition of the sexes. and keeps on improving. They believe they have to be similar to a dominant bully and control her. You won‟t be able to establish yourself as a trustworthy friend and then start on seduction. You compliment her and show too much interest. But there is still a desire in a woman to find a man who is capable of being a real man. it is simply knowing your role as a man.
LEARNING HOW TO COMMUNICATE YOUR VALUE
So we know the drill. in careers…all kinds of things.a man who doesn‟t leave everything up to her.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
Suffice to say. We need to communicate we have those traits for success and survival. I think doing that is a HUGE sign of insecurity.switch the conversation to seduction mode. But those are the consequences if you do not set up a seduction scenario through flirting.com
. teasing. Seduction always comes first.
is still too much. Wow. Will I have to always pick him back up?” Complimenting her too much and showing your interest can be very sincere. Whatever she does. But they would much prefer compliments from a guy who uses them sparingly.
Those are just a few examples of a how a man lowers his value with a woman. Even if you are her dream guy. and women do love compliments. It shows you have a very low opinion of yourself.he reacts to it in an.
Are you fishing for compliments? It‟s an IMMEDIATE turn off for a woman. you will notice that they are all due to a man being REACTIVE to a woman. it‟s in the back of the closet somewhere. “What have I done to make him like me?”. then you subliminally cause her to lose interest in you. Why put yourself down?
You: Oh I am so useless at this. a pit bull with a screwdriver could do this better.
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YOU HAVE TO MAKE HER FEEL SHE IS SEDUCING YOU
Too much of a good thing.modernmanliving.
You: I think you are so beautiful. She has probably had hundreds of men tell her that already. If you look at the bigger picture. You: Seriously. I‟m too ___________.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
When she leaves. “I really like you” too soon makes her wonder. Now you have it. Her little put downs and lack of interest upset you. You are amazing!
Those are just fluff compliments.by constantly reinitiating with her and not giving her a chance to miss you. You: You don‟t want me. “I‟m lower than you” fashion. So already she is thinking.com
. you always reinitiate back with her. “This guy can‟t even big up himself. it can become invisible to us. It‟s like that jacket you wanted so bad a few months ago. When we know something is there all the time. And showing your interest saying things such as.
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Her: I have a big thing for dark haired guys. Your best response could be.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
And when you are emotionally reactive. Do you take it personally? She knows you are investing in her. and yet she is putting up hurdles like this! The key is to NOT be reactive and focus on what she says. Women need to figure this out A.S.modernmanliving. However. then how can you honestly be a man who survives?
HANDLING HER TESTS
I was wrestling with the idea of putting this section into Part Four: Resistance and Interrupts.you show low control in your emotions (emotional value and evolutionary value).A. …Shit. Tests are ways for her to see if you have the balls (value) to not be a little puppy dog.com
. How would you react to this? It is not her consciously testing you. It‟s like in an interviewyou could spin off a web of lies about yourself. A woman has to discover your value. it is a statement when she damn well knows you are not a dark haired guy.but I believe her tests are a natural part of the seduction process. I‟m self-motivated”. or ask.
You look up. “I‟m committed. and they do it naturally.P. Bad responses will be you trying to put down dark haired guys. but the person hiring you will never know if you really are until they hire you.you have blonde hair. “Don‟t you like my hair?” That makes your reactions PERSONAL.
If you are always on the back foot to her questions or requests. I lost them.but it communicates a LOT. If she looks at you stood in a corner glancing around and then putting your head down. Subtle signs of your body language and smile all suggest a lot about you. What‟s wrong with blonde haired guys?
This is questioning her preference and it puts her on the back foot. So the blonde hair response prevents it from turning personal and emotionally reactive. This is why seduction is really an art in communication.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
You: haha.then you are lowering your value in her eyes.com
. How do you know the difference? I think of it this way. She will see how you dress and how you interact with everybody around you.modernmanliving. Girl: Where are they? You: They‟re around somewhere. Women have this method of questioning a guy all the time. without even being quizzical about her at times. tests can be like a wrestle for status.Why ask you to buy a drink when she can obviously buy one herself? Why ask you to stay in one spot while she goes away for ten minutes when she can easily just find you later? Why throw out I prefer _______ (the opposite of you) when she can clearly see you are not it? Anything that makes you into a little puppy dog is a test. Girl: What do you mean you lost them?
You constantly have to come up to her level and feed her curiosity. Sometimes they will be genuine and not tests. To me.so don‟t be her little puppy.
COMMUNICATE VALUE FROM A DISTANCE
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You: I‟m here with my friends.
Try to notice and think about what is perceived as LOW VALUE and HIGH VALUE.modernmanliving. you could be with a group of guys all looking at the women and you stand at the side. A woman will look at this and know to be cautious of you. not looks. Depressed people often have their head down. All top CEO‟s and heads of companies sit at the head of the table.so spread yourself out a bit and take up some space. Energetic people usually move fast and in an alert way. BODY LANGUAGE AND PRESENCE
Body language is a consequence of your inner game.so lean back. what does that communicate? It communicates laziness and lack of pride.so be in the centre.com
. The leaders own territory. You will naturally be talking to others. but looks are important. Her defences will be much higher than normal with you. So here are a few pointers for value at a distance:
2. All that matters is if you have the capability to present your best self. All of your external value will be easy if you have your inner game sorted. Calm and collected people move slow making the world come to them. Well.
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Sorry to say. Your body language will be confident and heading out taking on the world. It doesn‟t matter about your build or features. and you will be friendly to all the girls and they will be responding to you in kind. In the same respect.but presentation.you‟re just a group on the prowl.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
value. you are relaxed.
A big indicator of value is for you to be PRE-SELECTED by other girls. and everybody wants to put down those who come across as too high and almighty.
4. USE THE SEDUCTION TECHNIQUES WITH EVERY GIRL YOU MEET.
Bragging is a big no no. But we do want to be creating and giving value. BE SOCIAL AND TALK TO AS MANY PEOPLE AS YOU CAN.you do them to BE of high value. You are only putting yourself in the line of fire. Seduction is about conveying an overall attitude of value. If other women are reacting to you in an „attraction mode‟ way.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
3.modernmanliving. It‟s normal. These traits should be part of you in your everyday life.
COMMUNICATE VALUE DURING YOUR INTERACTION
Nobody likes a guy who brags.
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Don‟t be resigned to only the pretty girls.com
. then other women will feel secure in the knowledge that women are comfortable with you. Otherwise you will be stood there like a lemon and asking all of the questions and only speaking when spoken to. then you are communicating extremely high social value. You don‟t manipulate them for the sake of looking high value. By showing you talk to others and they respond to you. The methods to communicate your value during interactions are simple if you follow a few rules:
Don‟t brag Tell stories rather than directly say something about yourself Emotional stimulation is key. use point number two and communicate your value through stories. expect to be questioned (tests) at times. Instead.
Men can have genuine laughs at toilet humour and silly stuff. If you use self-deprecating humour with a woman. You are able to get away with it whilst still showing an air of confidence about yourself. Other means of providing value through interactions are BEING FUNNY AND MAKING HER LAUGH.we‟re open minded. But if you say something like: You: Hell yeah. the more she will attach those feelings to you. but her parents invited themselves along. What can I say. Laughter is always welcomed by women. It feels good and it eases the mood. when done right. and you are wealthy enough to help out a friend (provider). But it has to be the right type of humour. If you talk about an experience with your ex-girlfriend and how you planned a weekend away for sex. All the qualities are sub-communicated through your stories. And that‟s what seduction is often all about
SEDUCTION IS HOW YOU MAKE HER FEEL
The more you stimulate her emotionally.
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If you tell a story about how you recently helped a friend out financially. you have had a girlfriend before (social value by being pre-selected). aww”.it‟s incredible how astute they can be. Women pick up on these little things. The comedy balances out the arrogance. you will get “hehe.com
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FROM A DISTANCE Style and Grooming Body Language and Presence Social Value and talking to everybody Already pre-selected by other women DURING INTERACTIONS Tell stories to indirectly communicate value.Improvise Interactions – How to be social and think on your feet)
So you know the basics of value and how to communicate it. Social intelligence and Great Conversation
(Note: If you want to improve your conversation skills. Make her laugh and use confident humour. You remember the simple rule: When you appear weak Next… NOW YOU HAVE VALUE.com
If you are naturally a man of valueyou will act as a man of value.she will appear too easy. She has to feel invested into seducing you too.body language. If she let you seduce her with no resistance. social skills Use stories to communicate your value indirectly." Her tests are to appear to be a challenge.
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. she will wonder. then you are lower value.personality.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
All seduction techniques do is accomplish two things: 1) Communicate your value and status 2) Create a sexual tension and spike attraction Inner game should always come first. attitude. social value. If not. If you are the one chasing and apologising. appearance. She wants to see if you are a confident man who gets what he wants. It is always harder to be a lover after a friend. "What the hell did I do to make him like me? I bet he does this to all the girls. Value from a distance . preselection Value during interactions .modernmanliving. Always allow the potential of romance to happen with any girl Lower value = reacting to her and entering her frame of reality.
But if she is attracted to you through your communication of higher value. And you can‟t just walk up to a girl and say to her.there has to be certain amounts of tension and interest.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
PART FOUR: HAVE A SEDUCTIVE INTERACTION
I‟ve established that normal conversation doesn‟t cut it when trying to seduce a girl. you carry on being your loveable charming self. To move interactions into sparking attraction. But when a beautiful girl you find attractive hugs you. and your biggest virtue will be patience. If a beautiful woman came up to a man and said “let‟s have sex”. What happens is. which result in feeling chemistry and connection. “I like you. Women have it a bit more difficult.modernmanliving. We are driven by different desires and needs. If she does not find you attractivethen a hug is just a hug. why did he do that?”
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. This principle applies to every woman out there.then the hug will have a different meaning. There has to be a different level of communication and banter between the two of you. Why did he hug me like that? Why was it a bit longer this time? He‟s holding me lower down.and it means nothing. Let‟s go back to my bedroom” and expect it to work. (Although after 6 JD and cokes.it has all kinds of different meanings and feelings.but you create spikes during the interaction where her attraction for you escalates. And here are the techniques to create attraction…
REMEMBER TO ATTRACT HER TO YOU FIRST BEFORE YOU SHOW INTEREST
A girl you do not find attractive can hug you.he probably will. anything is possible) Seduction is about time.
you appear weaker and give up all of your attraction. and then I will put it into a scenario on how you would use it with a girl. A guy can try too hard to be in charge ALL of the time. then you are allowed to be free to express your interest in her.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
So as soon as she finds you attractive. You have to be the larger than life attractive guy who she DECIDES to seduce.com
. Things like:
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METHODS FOR SEDUCTION
Right now I‟ll go into detail about what each method is. Other than those times.she will be intrigued and attracted to you. A compliment always holds more weight from somebody you respect and admire.
Also. Strangers do not walk up to strangers for nothing. So you can disqualify yourself in two ways:
1. You can get her aroused. They know how guys work because they have experienced them in their dozens.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
You are a challenge and challenging. you make her question your motives. You need to know more. with extremely beautiful women. The best way is to completely ignore her while you interact with other people. She has to work to get you. You must obviously be very stable and a challenge.modernmanliving. they will have heard all of the lines and all of the excuses. and sexual. Show little attention to her 2. but some of us are not that fortunate. Active Disinterest. Her appearance is not enough. Display your high value and show others appreciating your personality. Put her down like she is not the centre of attention.com
.but reward you with nothing. it comes down to attention. You are high enough in value to tease her and question her. It helps if you are first of all observed as a social person. the more she will lap it up. It will intrigue her to be the one to approach you.
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It‟s a lot to ask for. DISQUALIFY YOURSELF
Women have an automatic frame that you are after them for one thing. You take the lead and she can feel safe in trusting you. Let‟s face it. So it is expected she will not even tolerate what you say because you could be like every other guy out there. but they are communicated subtly throughout the interaction with these techniques. playful. You are not afraid to touch. She will be wondering why you are not like every other guy out there trying to hit on her.
1. You are fun. The more you give her. So by disqualifying yourself as a potential suitor.they have questions about what it is you are wanting.
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Make sure you do eventually interact with her though, or she may rationalise it as her beauty being too much for you (No seriously, some girls do. But who can blame them). Putting her down has been questioned by a few people as a legitimate method. It‟s called Negs and devised by mystery. I believe the guys who do not take advantage of them simply don‟t understand the psychology behind it. You have to lower her value, so if you notice something IMPERFECT about her- then it brings her back down off of her pedestal and she is seen as an actual human being. An example is as you talk to her:
You: Ew! You just spit on me. You: Are those nails real?
Be playful as you deliver them. They are not extreme put downs. They are a means to disqualify yourself because she will expect a guy to compliment her about her beauty. By doing this, you show you are not phased by it. Although use them sparingly. Once you have said one or two, your value can then speak for itself.
Flirting is an indicator of your interest in her. Unless she is attracted to you, it won‟t hold much weight. So only flirt when you have established at least SOME value. Flirting is just simply being suggestive. You are not directly offering your interest out on a plate. You are hinting creating a space for her to jump in- like dangling a hook for a fish, and waiting for her to bite on it.
You: Oh my God. I can tell you are going to be trouble already. Her: Hehe and why is that? (notice the quizzical nature) You: (she is hugging you) If you are going to hold me, I suggest you do it on my ass.
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You: (noticing her looking at you across the room. You walk up to her) …I know what you were doing then. You were trying to imagine me naked weren‟t you…
When you flirt, it‟s best that you do not wait for her responses. Cast the conversation or your attention elsewhere immediately after. Why? Because it gives her the opportunity to answer back to the flirting, which will lead down a dead end path. By snapping away from it, you remain in control. So be suggestive at times, and look for any innuendos with her. Try and take on the mindset that SHE is trying to seduce you, and you are having none of it.
Teasing is great because it is such a big communicator of you having higher value. You are like the guy who pulls on the girls pigtails in the playground, and then they come and chase you. Teasing is closely related to flirting, but it is more about making her jump through hoops for you.
You: We are not going to get along at all. We are too similar! - or You: Are you flirting with me? C‟mon girl, keep up…
It is done in a playful and jest manner. If you do it with a straight face, expect some negative responses. Teasing is a playful act, and she will enjoy it when it is done right. But use it sparingly. Teasing is like you are pushing her back and saying, “Try harder”. You can‟t always keep her at arms length or you will never develop intimacy. Only use it when the energy is high and you are having a fun time.
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4. PUSH AND PULL
You use both flirting and teasing to create a push-pull affect. Push her away with disqualifying her as being potential for you, and then pull her back by rewarding her for what she just did.
You: You don‟t like rock music? Boy are you going to hate coming back to my place then… Her: Well I don‟t hate it. I just…I prefer different stuff. You: Okay. At least you have an open mind about it…
You could of left it at her not liking your type of music. But, because you had her attracted to you, she wanted to qualify herself and not close any doors between you too.
5. QUALIFY AND SCREEN HER
After you have attracted her, you need to let her know that you find her attractive too. But you have to do it in a way where she doesn‟t feel like you she has already one you over. As soon as she feels that, and you are no longer challenging- then the fun stops. To qualify her, you ask her a question, and then if it is a desirable enough for youthen you can tell her subtly that you find her interesting.
You: So what do you do for a living? Her: I‟m a veterinary nurse You: That‟s great! I don‟t think I could ever be with somebody who doesn‟t like animals. I can imagine you have a really sympathetic nature about you… You: So what do you do for fun when you‟re not chatting up handsome strangers? Her: I like to _________________. (find something you like or dislike about it and comment on it)
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And touching is a progression. 5. you will not be able to create a physical rapport with her. Touching her tummy. Hand on her knee. Her body is so sensitive to touch. which then results in you being seen only as a friend. Only the attractive guy who is seducing her has the luxury of touching her in intimate ways. 6. Being too shy to jump into her personal space always keeps you behind a barrier. 7. Hand games like pretending to palm read or any other.com
. 8. 4. This gives her comfort in feeling like you are not just going with any girl. TOUCH HER (kino)
Feeling touch can be immensely arousing. Going straight for her lady bits will only get you a slap in the face and a restraining order. especially for a woman. She will not let a friend touch her in arousing ways. Playful games like thumb wrestling. What qualifying does is level you both out so you are on mutual levels of attraction. She will feel uncomfortable and edgy. Smelling her neck. Handshake. Hand on her lower back.
6.modernmanliving. Your hand on the top of her arm as you talk.
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1. 3. Feeling her hair. It is very specific to her qualities and her lifestyle. High fives.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
You do not qualify JUST to have her answering questions so you can say you like her. 2. Holding her hand for a prolonged amount of time. Quick hugs. You have to start small. Longer hugs. They have to be genuine and aligned with the kind of things you actually like in a girl. If you do not touch her.
It‟s just a rough guide. Kissing. she will try and do the same excuses to you. play a game where you get to run your fingers up and down her back.
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9. you can pretend to brush an eyelash away from her cheek. take a closer look at her necklace. Comfort is about finding a bond. Like. You need something to be able to relate to. What is investment? Investment can e something simple like time. Think about taking her off to a private location and spending an hour just getting to know each other. she may wake up with the feelings of attraction completely gone. If she doesn‟t trust you or feel comfortable.com
. The next morning. smell her perfume. Some women feel more personal than others.
7. In the next part you will learn how to overcome resistance you can anticipate with touch. And it doesn‟t necessarily have to be in any order. Hand on her bum. such as her brushing you away. But comfort is more than that. Pecks on the lip.
38 | H A V E A S E D U C T I V E I N T E R A C T I O N www. 10. COMFORT. Don‟t worry. Do you really have a penis? Let me see” Touch is the main key to make your interaction personal and intimate.modernmanliving. Stroking her neck with your fingers. Investment can also mean emotional investment. You can be playful with your touching. like sharing memories and experiences. Hand inside her leg. It is the feelings of connection and investment that keep her interested in you. “Oh my god is that a tattoo? Oh wow.something that can continue past your couple of hours flirting session.little things like that. then chances are she will have a lot more barriers to put up against you. let me see your belly button. CONNECTION AND INVESTMENT
Trust is an important factor to seduction.
Next… HOW TO HANDLE RESISTANCE AND INTERRUPTS
39 | H A V E A S E D U C T I V E I N T E R A C T I O N www. Seducer and you create a connection. Ask her to go over to the coffee place for 15 minutes for a quick chat. In the last part I‟ll show you how it all fits together into a generic model.but it is IMPORTANT you have built the foundation of value and attraction first. Take the bullet and ask to be alone with her somewhere. When you are attractive in her eyes.com
SO FAR… You know how to communicate your value. So when you built bridges in attraction.you become a friend she feels comfortable with. All you have to do is ask something of her (but not too much). and you know seduction techniques to turn the interaction into something sexual. It is comfort and investment which certifies a long friendship and relationship.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
To have her invest in you.take her some where more private where you can talk properly and get to know each other. so she has invested her time waiting for you.modernmanliving. In other words. And then she will feel you both have more to gain than just a quick flirt. Having investment and connection is easy. Ask her to go the bar with you and help get in drinks. Why? It is because you could just be the girlfriend who she turns to whenever things go bad. the comfort building and investment will be much more valuable to her. you are just the two hour fling who was fun for a while. When you‟re alone. you may have to invest in her first. Without this. You cut off Mr. but would never be worthy of keeping around.being in public or still in sight of her friends is clearly the better choice. Remember. Ask her to hold your drink when you go because you‟ll be two minutes. being attracted to somebody comes and goes. you get to ask her personal questions about her. You find commonalities and share things about each other.
Push and Pull. 40 | H A V E A S E D U C T I V E I N T E R A C T I O N www. Always find a reason to touch. Touching is crucial. Show little attention to her.modernmanliving. You need to know more. Comfort and connection is what it all leads to. If you don't build comfort. . When she is attracted to you. 2. "I would never get along with you" This way you set it up that you are not chasing. Disqualify yourself in a subtle way. Pull away to leave her wanting more. so take them into consideration.You can get her aroused.you are a fart in the wind. she will assume you are not interested.You are high enough in value to tease her and question her. even if it is the top of her arm or a hug. You are not afraid to touch.Her appearance is not enough. playful. She has a lot of consequences to allowing you to seduce her. . Active Disinterest. She has to work to get you. This way she feels invested in the attraction. Qualities to communicate: .You take the lead and she can feel safe in trusting you.never constantly keep teasing or flirting. . Disqualify by: 1.but it will have tension and chemistry.You are fun. Put her down like she is not the centre of attention. . If you do not make your moves. . Flirting is playful suggestiveness. You are encouraging her to bite on the hook and play along with you. Normal conversations without these techniques will only leave you as a friend. She can easily forget you. A hug will no longer JUST be a hug. and sexual.You are a challenge and challenging.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
A seduction interaction is using techniques to spark attraction.your actions will be seen in a different light.com
. Qualify her with questions about what she is like or what she does.
causing them to be more resistant to a guys advances. Men often think with their nuts and face the consequences later. “I have issues with my relationship.
41 | H A N D L I N G I N T E R R U P T S A N D R E S I S T A N C E www. There would be the odd occasion of playing hard to get. so do men. she attracts you. One often gets more attached than the other. It requires an understanding and emotional control from the get-go.modernmanliving. and he has the freedom to come and go as he pleases. You never see animals writing into magazines. Yet women have to take all of these consequences into consideration. I screwed the neighbourhood dog and the bitch on my patch is a bit upset about it”. You attract her. Even though a woman‟s deepest desire may be to let loose and enjoy sexual freedom as men doshe still has to face social consequences. society has sunk its teeth into how things should be done. and it is usually geared towards women. Sex is often the transition point where you know if something else will develop. His ego would be fulfilled having gorgeous women after him. As I said in the first part. men would be quite happy having promiscuous sex. match. through finding a mutual balance.Nature just gets on with it.com
. Sex has always been a difficult thing because somebody always “loses”.game.and now. The jealousy in the women around her rises because she gets all the attention and they don‟t. And I may be giving the wrong impression here by talking about sex. She faces labels like “slut” and “easy”. set. but overall it would be simple. you take the lead and escalate. Unfortunately for us.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
PART FIVE: HANDLING INTERRUPTS AND RESISTANCE
Seduction should primarily be straight forward.
. Resistance is due to her personal issues.
42 | H A N D L I N G I N T E R R U P T S A N D R E S I S T A N C E www. She could just be a girl who likes to push-pull with a guy to see how many hoops she can make him go through.
1. At the end. I feel so embarrassed. I didn‟t want that to happen. They all have their own individual preferences and standards. rather than being the guy she only has when she needs a shoulder to cry on. I can‟t see you again”. she would feel like a slut and too easy.it‟s fun for her. standards and beliefs. Another girl may stop seeing you after sex.modernmanliving. you want her to think to herself. Or she may be a very shy girl and having a guy trying it on is alien to her. If she did. HER RESISTANCE TO RESPONSIBILITY ALWAYS TAKE RESPONSIBILITY WITH A GIRL
You should always be the one who takes the lead and initiates. A woman does not want to take any responsibility for initiating anything intimate. Others may stop you as you get into the bedroom because she “isn‟t that kind of girl”. Some may stop you after you say “hello” because she is not looking for anything.what prevents seduction from going where you want it to go?
Women are diverse individuals. It is there to develop possible long-term relationships and connections. They are not carbon copies of the other. With seduction not being so straight forward and just letting us all get on with itwe have to understand RESISTANCE and INTERRUPTS. “…It just happened!” How do you do that? The best method is often being indirect while still escalating. If they are not to do with that. “I‟m sorry.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
But seduction is not all about sex. You can become awfully close to a girl emotionally as well as intimately. it could just be her attitude.
Otherwise you will get the “what are you doing?” or a brush off. She will only allow the ones who she feels comfortable with to escalate touch. “Come over to my place before we go to the bar. Instead of asking for a wild night.modernmanliving. Obviously every girl will have a strong resistance to having her body touched by just ANY guy. It is up to you to create the scenario. Me. if you were to say. Even in a relationship.but her brain kicks in telling her not to be too easy. This is not manipulation. You. Let‟s say you are sat down with her. “Let‟s go back to my place and get naked”. escalation should be taken slowly. It‟s so uncomfortable trying to hold a girls hand only to have her pull it away.com
. this is him hinting at sex” but she will still go along with it. So rather than going straight for the prize.
2. Do it as you talk.Be the one who takes the lead.and then pull it away after 2-3 seconds. She may in the back of her mind think.
43 | H A N D L I N G I N T E R R U P T S A N D R E S I S T A N C E www. as you are talking you can put your hand on her knee for a few seconds. the boyfriend often has the habit of keeping her level of responsibility low. like it is a natural passive thing. “Ey up. If she says “okay”. To lower her resistance to responsibility. he will say “Let‟s have a quiet night in on Saturday. HER RESISTANCE TO KINO ESCALATION USING COMPLIANCE AND PUSH-PULL TO TEST COMFORT
Touching is very intimate and personal. However. then she is responsible for making it happen. and initiate a scenario indirectly. She may in fact want something to happen. DON‟T make it a focus like during a silence.and it can be tested. I have something to show you”. this is playing by the rules.she is not directly initiating anything except seeing what happens. And no guy wants a brush off. Wine.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
If you said to a woman.it‟ll be great”.
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This does two things. If she says something like “Not here”. you can prolong the length of time. you know she is too uncomfortable for that kind of touching right now. take that as a signal to isolate her somewhere a bit more private. Carry on talking and being normal with her. and then pull away before she has the chance to brush you off. it will become comfortable for her feeling your touch in those areas. One. you try it again. If you go back to the TOUCH for attraction page. If she says “yes it is okay to touch me”.
JUST DO IT
If you do get the inevitable brush off. A freeze out has been a suggested method.modernmanliving. if she then leans her knee away from you. don‟t take it personally. she gets accustomed to you touching her on her knee. And two. Another point will be to NEVER ASK TO TOUCH HER. Be respectful of this fact. This comes back to her RESISTANCE TO RESPONSIBILITY. and continue to touch her where she feels comfortable.out of sight and consequences from her peers. As long as you do not latch on to it afterwards. then she is being responsible to you escalating.com
44 | H A N D L I N G I N T E R R U P T S A N D R E S I S T A N C E www. One key point initially is to only touch her for a few seconds. No way would she like to do this in a public venue (unless she is totally tanked up) especially in front of her friends. She would look very sleazy throwing her legs over you on a couch in a bar or at a coffee place in the comfy seat area. Then later on. If that is comfortable for her. Just reinitiate the touch again later. Use little excuses like games to be able to touch her. but I think a lot of women can see this as you being petty and sulking. It helps you gauge just how comfortable she feels with you. you know to ease off a bit and relax her more till she feels comfortable. you will see the list of what is comfortable as you progress. It‟s a social status thing. From there. Isolation is vital when you reach intimate points of the escalation such as kissing and being a bit raunchy.
And it can come in all kinds of ways:
Her: Do you mind. Her shields are automatically up to any guy wanting her.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
Touch is very personal. this is a consequence to you not observing the situation. Her: Could you just go away please
More often than not. we are not out for that tonight. Then she can cast you out by saying. she is often not alone. If you approach these directly. HER RESISTANCE TO YOU WANTING HER
Before you even open your mouth you can be hit with resistance. A blow out straight away is often down to you not assessing the situation. Fortunately. The types you should see on magazines. so don‟t dive in. It will not be a full on rejection aimed at you.but other than that.
3. Be respectful of her need to keep social status. “I‟m going now”. we are having a conversation Her: Sorry.modernmanliving. You should look and see if they are in deep conversation or whether they are fully occupied. Use small compliance tests (such as 2-3 seconds touch then pull away) to gauge her comfort levels. make playful fun of her
45 | H A N D L I N G I N T E R R U P T S A N D R E S I S T A N C E www. you are just another guy doing the same old thing. If you get a brush off. After all. then you can approach at the right time in the right way. If she butts in with a cat call.com
. Many guys may have tried their luck before you and now she is just pissed off.so how can she make a snap judgement with such conviction? You don‟t know the situation prior to that either. you are just her little play thing. continue on as normal. She may have fun with you for a bit and be suggestive. And don‟t forget to isolate her when you reach intimate and raunchy touching. she won‟t even know you. Take it slow and be passive with your touch. That is situation resistance which is misconstrued as her rejecting you… Another is beautiful women. She is tired of it. It should not be a focus. nor should it be asked for. If you do. So you can demonstrate your value by working through the group and not giving her any attention.
I saw you from across the room and I find you really attractive.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
with her friend. If she perceives you as being a player. This is chasing her before you are even seen as attractive. What most players do is they draw their attention to the girl without backing it up with a lot of value.
4. This is why celebrities are such good examples of the value ideology. I don‟t think many women will care how many girls Brad Pitt has had.she will probably go off with him. Manipulative? Once again. If you show you are not shaken by it.modernmanliving. but you have to back it up with a lot of confidence and value. HOWEVER. right? That‟s value and status. Most girls will throw out lines at you such as. That is much more admirable than calling her a bitch. you will get the line. What‟s your name?” It is a direct opener. then you are pre-selected. direct honesty can win her over. When you say. The more girls you say you 46 | H A N D L I N G I N T E R R U P T S A N D R E S I S T A N C E www. But this can be seen as a contradiction. when she feels you are not after her just for her looks. “I bet you say that to all the girls” or “How many girls have you used that on?” Don‟t take this resistance personally. If not. if he comes up to her. “Hi.com
. They‟re all full of empty compliments and saying whatever works.it just doesn‟t work like that.because if you are a guy who gets a lot of girls. You are getting the backlash of all the previous guys who have tried and failed miserably. “You say that to all of the girls. Many girls will have their shields up to guys wanting them or trying it on. then her resistance will undoubtedly be higher. it shows you have a lot of emotional value to remain secure. No…It‟s the rules. Then you can win her over later with your charms. HER RESISTANCE TO YOU BEING A PLAYER
No woman wants to be one of your notches on your bed post. …how many girls have you said that to? …How many girls have you been with?” She does this because she doesn‟t want to look and appear easy.
You will only come across as sleazy and “playing the numbers” game.Who knows what a girl‟s life story is. You: That‟s nice. How do you react? Some guys may assume this to be a conquest.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
have been with. HER RESISTANCE BECAUSE OF COMMITMENTS
. Who knows. the more she will resist you because she doesn‟t want you to think she is easy “like all the other girls”. But right now. this should not prevent you from having her as part of your social circle and contacts. I have a boyfriend. It would be selfish to turn away from her only because you cannot do the whole seduction thing. And you can still have a boyfriend while we become friends. even though she did enjoy your company and a cheeky flirt with you. three kids and a little house on the prairie. Marriage. But we do not want to be home-wreckers.
It‟s a commitment she cannot exactly ignore. your best option is to call her up on the fact she thinks you want her. some are genuinely happy with their status and who they are with. You could be chatting away with her and suddenly:
Her: I think I better tell you. I have 4 mistresses and an angry wife at home. make sure she is attracted to you first before you try on your moves. Get the fair maiden who is to marry the king.
5. I have a boyfriend. . Doesn‟t
47 | H A N D L I N G I N T E R R U P T S A N D R E S I S T A N C E www. Even though there is a lot of chaos in relationships nowadays. or that the boyfriend should be an obstacle:
Her: I think I better tell you. it may end up in a possible romance down the line. To overcome the perception of being a player.modernmanliving.or You: It‟s okay. However.
It is usually how many seductions go. But I do know that girls will ignore the fact a guy is not her exact type.modernmanliving.and don‟t make it personal. Plus. “ugh. Nothing can be straight forward nowadays. persist with her. When she puts up blocks like this. It demands tact. I‟ve known many girls who are not with the dream guy they always fantasised about. or she is not looking for anything at all.or You: Is that a problem because you don‟t trust me? Or because you don‟t trust yourself?
Notice how this is another means of escalating indirectly. Beggars can‟t be choosers. You are simply a social guy building up his social circle.so if you are incredibly attractive to her in a lot of other ways. To avoid her resistance by any commitment or situation she is in. take it on the chin anyway. It could be a marriage. Go away. But other than that. You should believe you are of high value and have a lot to offer in different ways. Do they just settle? I‟m not at liberty to say. or she has just come out of a relationship. however this most of the time this is a test for your persistence to stick up for yourself.it overrides the fact you are not her perfect type. HER RESISTANCE TO YOU NOT BEING HER TYPE
Some girls can be really blunt with you and just say to your face.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
mean we can‟t get to know each other… . so just grin and bear it.com
. It‟s the harshest rejection. Stick 48 | H A N D L I N G I N T E R R U P T S A N D R E S I S T A N C E www. You‟re not my type”. How can she argue with that?
6. it‟s not always a boyfriend. And this is the automatic frame you get when you approach a girl. You may not be her type.just like men. but oh well. women do have preferences in the type of man they want. accuse her of jumping the gun and thinking you are after her.
Even if she says to you. She will be in two minds. she will be thinking to herself. we can‟t do this”. If she get‟s too much of a good thing. “Wait. “I better go” and she grabs her bag. Then after a few minutes. She probably does want to do it. and carry on chatting away. Use the same principles as with kino escalation. but pulling away completely. or diverting to something else. This time she may let you go a bit further.you have to show you are un-phased and not upset by it. She gets a lot of anxiety.
49 | H A N D L I N G I N T E R R U P T S A N D R E S I S T A N C E www. but she needs to know she can trust you. but the feeling of being easy and the consequences afterwards. And the way to handle LAST MINUTE RESISTANCE is by using the principle of pulling away. her emotions will kick into overdrive and it will worry her. Ignore her comments about type and how you are not it. the same kind of anxiety you probably felt when you approached her in the beginning.are you just using her? Does she feel used? What will happen after you do it? Is it going to go anywhere? Did I leave the gas on? (kidding) Will we be okay afterwards? It‟s a nervous moment for her. “Is that it? But I…”. A lot of things will be running through her mind. HER RESISTANCE TO SEX
You can do everything right and still get resistance to sex when you get into that situation. Sex seems to be the ultimate point because it is where the transition begins. and not feel guilty about it. the kissing will be sure to start again.
7. and the heavy petting will follow from that. Trying to escalate past resistance while she is in this state of anxiety can be difficult.modernmanliving.so her only reaction will be to pull away.com
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to your guns and keep riding the wave. By pulling away you are encouraging her to give in to her desires. So pull away completely. You want to intensify the feeling of her wanting it even more.she will want to be with you because she has invested so much time with you and she does find you attractive.
But a lot of the resistance is similar with every girl. and realise a woman will never let the seduction go straight forward. she may want to leave. or it could be personal comfort.com
.but through the right kind of persistence. you can still get resistance from her. Although she didn‟t take responsibility to start it. “Okay. It could be evolutionary. A girl wants to see how far you are willing to go for her. you can try again.you know nothing about her.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
Pulling away is not forcing her.”
CONCLUSION TO RESISTANCE
Even if you do all of the right things. You are genuinely respectful of what she wants. He‟s not far wrong.
50 | H A N D L I N G I N T E R R U P T S A N D R E S I S T A N C E www. Never force or back her in a corner when she resists for sex. or you are not their type. It is up to you to remain persistent and not take what she says literally. their minds may change. Many girls can say they have boyfriends. Doing so would be too easy. it could social influence. lets do it!” but she may say. or they don‟t like you touching her. She would not have let herself be in that position if she did not want to have sex. It is to be expected. You have to respect her decision and allow her to do so. You don‟t know her situation. she will still be a smart girl and probably been in that position before. After a few minutes. you don‟t know her history. If it gets too much for her. but you are helping her make a decision by not forcing her.and not after an easy lay. Russell Brand calls it “The Knobstacle Course”. “I can stay for five more minutes though cant i? Just until my taxi comes.modernmanliving.she knows how it goes. Cut off all touching and divert to something else. The method is to not take it personal. just to show you are invested in her. She will still not open up and say. But you have to trigger her fight or flight response so she can make a true decisionand it is up to you to still keep up the escalation. She will be in two minds. Don‟t throw in the towel straight away. Pull away completely.
Controlling your frame in that situation would mean to not jump into her reality. The same applies for trying to meet a girl while she is doing her job like catering or bartending.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
Interrupts are blocks which happen during the interaction due to the dynamics or because of other people. You didn‟t cave in and feel insecure. it is crucial to be non-reactive and to control your frame…your reality. If a woman says to you. Saying. I‟m nothing like your type at all. either offer to go with them. “Well I‟m hoping you are an open minded girl. When somebody is being busy. And interrupts are pretty much just distractions and excuses for the girl to leave. Stepping into somebody else‟s reality means you are being reactive to what they say and do to you.com
. She will have places to go and people to see. “Oh.modernmanliving.You are entering HER reality. or just say. You are aligning with her frame and standards. INTERRUPTED BECAUSE SHE IS BUSY
This is obvious for meeting a girl during the day and on the move. Do you still like me though?”. So when interrupts come along. Bullies are exceptionally great at this. you never wear it again.
HANDLING INTERRUPTS REQUIRES FRAME CONTROL
Your frame is your reality. Instead you could have kept your frame and just said you like it and felt adventurous.
1. You could be in the middle of spiking her attraction for you by telling an emotional story and demonstrating your value. You walk in trying out your new shirt when some dick comes over. otherwise we are in trouble”. What the hell are you wearing that for? That really does not suit you at all!”. “haha. “I prefer ________ type of guy” and you say to her. From that day on.” 51 | H A N D L I N G I N T E R R U P T S A N D R E S I S T A N C E www.then out of the blue her friend comes along and pulls her away “for five minutes”. “We‟ll only be two minutes.
and that time has come. or her chatting with her friend for five to ten minutes can also happen. INTERRUPTED BECAUSE OF DISTRACTIONS
Things can be going tremendously smooth. but in this situationyour confidence and frame control display a lot of value anyway. and they can take her out of the interaction all together. It‟s a speedy process. You know you are going to still be in each 52 | H A N D L I N G I N T E R R U P T S A N D R E S I S T A N C E www.
3. she will happily oblige. Sales people do it all the time. but as long as you do not stop them in their tracks fully. Just mention you want to keep in touch. One method for ensuring she will come back to you or you can keep in touch is
Something simple like giving her a bracelet and saying to her. You may feel like you are imposing. She pre-warned you she has to go somewhere. These are often unavoidable. Or you could achieve the ultimate goal of many guys. “I‟ll see you later because I want it back”. If you have played it cool. which is to get her phone number or e-mail. until………
Her phone rings and she has to go.com
. “Hi can I just talk to you for a few seconds?”. CONTROLLING YOUR FRAME DURING INTERNAL DISTRACTION
Distractions during the interaction like a phone call. You could be in your own little bubble with her. then it should be okay. She bumps into another friend. Be creative and try think of ways to make her invest in you so you can meet again.
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This is known as a FALSE TIME CONSTRAINT.modernmanliving.
ENSURING YOU MEET AGAIN
All kinds of distractions could happen.
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others company afterwards and continue your conversation. do it within the first 10 seconds.modernmanliving. You are keeping your frame by being busy. You do not want to be the tool who sits there looking at his clock waiting around. INTERRUPTED BECAUSE OF PEOPLE
53 | H A N D L I N G I N T E R R U P T S A N D R E S I S T A N C E www. If she asks why you went away. The reason is because in these situations.
4. say something like:
You: There is nothing worse than being on the phone and somebody sat there waiting and probably listening in.
These keep your frame by it being a decision to be busy. and hanging around just puts pressure on her to hurry the hell up anyway. go up and order another coffee or a bun. It is just your way of doing things.
GET BUSY AND ACTIVE
Then. She will apologise for it no doubt. Before you do anything. you have to get up and go do something else until she is finished. or talk to the group next to you. You are not ignoring her. when you see she is finished.still being your warm and pleasant self. you ask how things are etc. And you can‟t exactly be an asshole and keep cutting in with her. Sitting there and reading or checking your messages on your mobile doesn‟t cut it. So in these instances. Do something active. go back to her and continue your interaction with her. make sure she introduces you to her friend. which isn‟t very nice. Don‟t wait around for five minutes and then ask.and you carry on conversation. .com
. or go to the bar.or You: I wanted to let you catch up with your friend without feeling like you had to rush.
And the girl you are talking to becomes distracted yet again. If you are talking to a girl. girls are very rarely out on there own. If he notices a girl he likes. Your wingman friend will distract this other girl with conversation and banter. Women can also be very competitive. He might even be seducing her too. You go and prevent any potential blocks so they can have a pleasant and decent conversation.
GET A WINGMAN
During the day. Controlling your frame can quite a challenge if you are interacting with groups in a populated and active environment. If her friend sat next to her is getting bored. haha. so it is a lot easier for them to blow you out and overpower your frame. family and sometimes partner. 90% of these blocks can be prevented by having a wingman. It includes their friends. you have other guys in proximity who want her. However. people have a lot more confidence when they are in groups.
HAVING A WOMAN FRIEND HELP YOU OUT
54 | H A N D L I N G I N T E R R U P T S A N D R E S I S T A N C E www.somebody who will keep everybody else talking and not becoming restless. On top of that. They are more than likely to come and put a block in your advances.you never know.com
. You are nothing but a stranger to them.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
Women have a tight knit social circle. Truth is. You can easily have one on ones with a girl without many people blocking you.modernmanliving. they will do the “girl stare” and the one you are interested in will pull away for the benefit of her friend. having a wingman is not so important. her friend may butt in and answer for her. unless they are rushing from A to B or doing something.
You: So what do you do for fun? Friend: She comes out with me. So have a respectable friend by your side so you can help each other out.you reciprocate and do the same for him.
Why wouldn‟t they be? You are not using her. The girl will have around her a protective shield. If you don‟t have the luxury of having a female friend or a wingman. It also has the hidden advantage of making you appear less threatening. so why would you be out “on the prowl” for others? The principle of her doing this is only to let others see you pre-selected. Both a wingman and a female friend counteract a lot of blocks. Who cares if they are taken or just want to be friends. It instantly establishes you as valuable because you are pre-selected. It is mutual respect. You will soon find yourself with an abundance of people around you as you create value. The same rules apply for her as a wingman. girls are quite happy to help you attract other girls. You could see her with her sister or a brother. or as subtle as mocking you indirectly to lower your value. I‟m sure you would do the same for her if she told you she likes a guy across the room. a protective male friend who looks out for her. You learn it to become valuable and improve your social skills. HANDLING PROWLING MEN WHO BLOCK YOU
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This is another valid reason to have girls within your social circle.help each other out.but this is why you learn seduction. As soon as she has been noticed with you then she can leave you to it.modernmanliving.
55 | H A N D L I N G I N T E R R U P T S A N D R E S I S T A N C E www. It can be a very competitive world and “dog eat dog” mentality can always happen. and it is fun. a family friend. then your job at controlling possible interrupts will be a bit harder. She helps you within a social circle to distract any blocks from other people.com
. You already have girls in your life.they are VALUABLE and a huge asset to have them within your life. By coming along showing you have social value gives you a none-threatening vibe. He can be as brutal as just telling you to get the hell out of his way. It is something you have to face as a man. Women (and guys) will notice you with her. Once you know where you both stand.
5. You are doing what friends do.
it‟s not necessary. and he is now the one trying to enter into your world. Think of them as the bullies who try and steal your frame. Already pretend like you have a connection with the girls and you are in your own little role-play together. what‟s with the shirt man?”. The best tactic will always be to be none-reactive. Be friend them as much as you can. “I‟ve been trying to get
56 | H A N D L I N G I N T E R R U P T S A N D R E S I S T A N C E www. A man of value will welcome anybody into his circle because he knows he has control of what he does. It shows how secure you are. Fisticuffs do nothing but lower your value. You want to be able to control your own frame and give him nothing to use as ammunition. Don‟t lower yourself by trying to win over them. “haha.modernmanliving. If I had said.
The girls will find you funny. Instead. The worst tactic to handle to use is challenging them. It‟s a sly way of lowering your value. I‟ve been trying to get these girls away from me for about ten minutes now. while at the same time being warm and welcoming to those around you. but it does nothing but show you do not have the wit and intelligence to hold your own. You might come across all macho in your own eyes.or – Alpha Male: How do you guys know each other? You: She‟s been chatting up guys all night man.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
You do not want to lower yourself and step into his frame.
Alpha Male: Hey ladies.com
. The way to use wit against other men who come into your group putting you down is to indirectly lower his value by never jumping into his frame. Notice how I made the girls to be the focus. and not important. bring them into your reality. They just won‟t leave me alone… . And you do not want to be the guy who always feels like he has to square up just to hold his ground. So who is this guy with you tonight? You: Thank God you came man. You probably notice a pattern now how FRAME CONTROL is all about being none-reactive and not taking anything to heart.
Be complimentary but with authority.modernmanliving. just dismiss it and say. Give the guy a compliment and shake his hand. And so…
There really is no perfect line or defence against these scenarios. Just accept what he says. Whenever he tries to belittle you or put you down. Do it with authority. The best ways to do it are:
. Ones like the girls are stalking you. Reach for his hand to shake it rather than holding it up in the air. the girls will find it really damn funny and crack up. By being the friendly type straight away.” He could just say. and deflect it to something else. or thank god he came because he can take the blonde one you can take the brunette. When it is done in a playful way.
MAKE A PRETEND WORLD WITH YOU AND THE GIRLS
So have a mini scenario.com
.” And blow you out.you are entering his reality.BE UN-REACTIVE
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Alpha Male: You‟re pretty short man. he will look like an ass if he tries blowing you out later. Put your hand on his shoulder and welcome him in. still use the tactic of befriending him as quickly as you an. “Well now is your chance. Another way is to befriend him straight away as soon as he enters.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
away for ten minutes now. “Not Cool man” and carry on being un-reactive.BEFRIEND FIRST . If he got a rise out of you or you tried to put him down too.
modernmanliving. Never take them personal. Both of them can easily be overcome if you follow the techniques outlined here. or her beliefs and values she has been raised with. As long as you control your frame throughout them. Interrupts are the dynamics of the situation and other people pulling her away or getting in YOUR way.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
.ACCEPT AND DEFLECT THEIR PUT DOWNS
Resistance and interrupts are what block seduction from happening naturally. Interrupts are just part of every day life. you can get things back to running smooth again.
58 | H A N D L I N G I N T E R R U P T S A N D R E S I S T A N C E www. and never see them as a reason to throw in the towel just yet.like being hurt and rejected too often. Resistance is down to her being a challenge so she is not appearing to be slutty or easy. and if you are persistent using a push-pull method. All you have to remember is that her resistance is not necessarily to do with you. It can also be her issues from her past.com
.she will follow your lead. Next… DECIDING WHAT KIND OF RELATIONSHIP YOU ARE AFTER.
and pull away to avoid a brush off.modernmanliving.If distracted during an interaction. be active and get busy.More often than not. then come back when she has finished.Use a false time constraint. and pull away completely. She may want to. If it was. Then. Be a man and take the lead.Disqualify yourself from beginning so she does not see you as another guy trying it on with her.Try and get a wingman or a woman friend to have for distractions and over protective friends. Deflection wins over being challenging. Don't sit around like a lemon. .com
. Resistance is just part of it.No girl wants to feel responsible. Respect her decisions.To overcome them requires frame control. it cancels out the opportunity for her to use it as an excuse. . Befriend them as quickly as you can with authority.Handle her tests for resistance by being un-reactive and keep on escalating. Just ensure you have the opportunity to meet at some other time.
.Interrupts happen through dynamics and other people. but she is in conflict. . try to be intimate again later. . . .You can still have her in your social circle if she has other commitments. Let her warm to you first. Lock in with her friend by asking to be introduced. . . Get her number or email and if you have opportunity. lock her in with investment. . . Whether or not she is busy. keep talking to her.Alpha males try to blow you out.
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Seduction is never straight forward.Test the waters with touch. . . Never force her. her resistance is just unconscious reactions to feel safe. .Sex is a big moment for her for a lot of reasons. she would look too easy.For distractions.Be persistent.
the better. And I don‟t mean that in a sexist way. You don‟t want to reach a point where one person is expecting more than the other. You want something from that person. The point is you do not actively pursue a girl unless you want something to happen. you will have no doubt initiated the intimacy between the two of you. No relationship = No chance.so you have to be responsible for your actions.com
.modernmanliving. relationship. “I‟m in a relationship! How the…what the…who drugged my drink?!” Knowing what you want is also of great importance to the girl. Who decides where it should go? It‟s often the one with the stronger frame. she knows where she stands. but until then. You do not want to be venturing into it only to wake up 6 months later thinking. If you want a girl. At least if she knows your motives.she may rationalise it as having fun with you until something else comes along. That‟s another social influence. and the sooner you know it. It could be friendship. sex. then she gets to dictate where it is heading. He believes that as soon as he mentions he is not after anything serious.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
PART SIX: DECIDING WHERE TO TAKE IT
Seducing somebody pre-supposes that you want to have your interactions go somewhere. As a man. And I understand a guy‟s common fear. 60 | D E C I D I N G W H E R E T O T A K E I T www. The reason is because you want to reach a level of mutual understanding with the girl. If you are always CHASING a girl. she may want a relationship.who knows.you have to risk losing her. It should always be the man who takes the lead.I say it because women prefer it that way. But you have to be clear on what it is you want.then she will get up and leave. You can‟t be all lovey dovey with her only to get her into bed. Okay. But it‟s amazing how a girl will align with you and jump into your frame.and then it is her decision.
What kind of relationships can you have?
Purely Friendship and a pivot A friend with benefits A short-term fling (nothing serious. A woman would find it in her best interests to align with this man. so be honest. Same as above pretty much) A relationship
If you notice. It was only one. She would not want to pass up an opportunity with an alpha male. you are respectful and trustworthy) then sex and friendship is always a viable option. even if it meant overriding all of her morals. KNOW WHAT YOU WANT
Straight off. He was at the highest of the pecking order. In our past. but they be a part of your social circle. COMMUNICATE IT RIGHT FROM THE START.
HAVING MULTIPLE GIRLS
Another key point. You don‟t have to be close friends. That is also fine if you have a VERY strong sense of your own reality and frame.modernmanliving.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
The rules are simple:
1. But you may be in a position to have multiple girls on the go at the same time.and there would only be ONE leader who influenced the group. 61 | D E C I D I N G W H E R E T O T A K E I T www.what is it you are wanting right now? We are all at different stages in our lives. And why should it be? Girls can make great friends.com
. KNOW WHAT YOU WANT 2. I advise you to not just want to screw anything not nailed down. It‟s kind of nutty to pass off a girl to not even be an acquaintance. we were only around small groups. 1.you cannot seduce every girl you see. It‟s an immature kind of reality that is only there for your ego and insecurity. you will have realised women enjoy sex just as much as men. And if you read the first part of this mini seduction guide. As long as you do not cause any consequences to her social status and give her a „slut‟ label (In other words. wanting „Nothing at all‟ isn‟t an option. so there were not many to go around.
that is just a fact. Some women obviously won‟t. There will only be a select few who really know how to attract her. And she will override her morals once again to align with that man. 62 | D E C I D I N G W H E R E T O T A K E I T www.what humour is appealing to you? Do you like her to be like one of the guys? Do you want a girl all the other guys want? It‟s up to you to create your own little mini profile of what girl you would like. You don‟t have to necessarily typecast and blow all the others who do not match your criteria out of the water. Be as specific or as vague as you like. then you have to be clear and consistent about it. but that evolutionary wiring still holds true. Just remember that clarity is powerful.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
Now. If your intention is to have fun with multiple girls. It will be her choice to continue on in your reality with you. even if it meant accepting he has multiple girls. Think about how many losers she comes across in her lifetime.
WHAT IS YOUR TYPE OF GIRL?
As well as knowing what relationships you are wanting with a girl. Do you like outgoing girls? How about her humour. you need to know what type of girl you go for. It saves you wasting your time on all of the wrong girls.you know how you yourself need to be to have her in your life. You need standards she has to live up to.com
. But it helps for QUALIFYING purposes. That is not manipulation. there are an abundance of men. But don‟t negate the option fully. By knowing what kind of girl you want to attract. you have to communicate with that in mind.modernmanliving. COMMUNICATE IT FROM THE START
When you know what you want.
and communicate it from the get-go.your honesty. and being your charming self. Remember.then it is then her choice to join you or not. She is much more intelligent than you probably give her credit for. or you want her there with you etc. That is what she is truly testing for. It will send all of the wrong signals. Always maintain your frame and be secure in what it is you want. but you have to remain honest.then the dynamic you create can work. “By the way. Do not fall into the fallacy of today‟s world that women ALL want long-term and deep relationships. If you live a reality of multiple girls. She is not a little girl wanting to change your ways to match hers. I don‟t want anything serious. It‟s easy to cave at times like this. Don‟t constantly say things like you are missing her. Instead.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
You do not have to tell her directly and say.. If you know you do not want anything seriousthen cut out the romance talk.
Whatever place you want to take your relationship with her. But the reality is the fear of loss can encourage you to be dishonest about what it is you want. As long as you stick to respecting her feelings.com
. So define what you want. NEXT… A FULL MODEL ON HOW IT ALL WORKS. At times she will test you by asking you questions about a relationship in the future and things like that.. not being forceful. if you don‟t have the control by knowing what it is you want.then somebody will take control over you. communicate it indirectly. Most girls nowadays have been screwed over so many times that they would rather have passive and no stress fun with somebody they connect with. So as long as that is okay with you then we are okay”. then maybe you are not being honest with yourself anyway on how you really feel. 63 | D E C I D I N G W H E R E T O T A K E I T www.just remember to keep things mutual. If you fear losing her too much.modernmanliving. That communicates a „Getting closer together‟ frame.
The girl will also want to know what you are wanting.hold your frame and be honest with what you want. and know what he wants from the beginning.it is about her personality. Qualify her by seeing if she is attractive to you in that way.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
A man must be responsible for his actions. Do not tell directly. Suggest what you want indirectly. there is a chance she will be okay with this kind of relationship. Leave it open to opportunity. To have a girl. you have to risk losing her.this burns bridges.
64 | D E C I D I N G W H E R E T O T A K E I T www. She will pick up on your signals if you are not contradicting yourself all the time.modernmanliving. it is not all about looks. Know what girl you would like to have in your life. If she tests you with relationship questions etc.com
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here is a little summary of it all together for you…
METHODS TO CREATE ATTRACTION SPIKES . Roleplaying.Push and Pull.modernmanliving. Teasing. .Flirting. .com
. But in terms of this little guide.Comfort building. This was only a mini-guide to break down the basics of seduction. Investment
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PART SEVEN: A MODEL FOR SEDUCTION
So you know the basic techniques for seduction.Qualifying her to show you are attracted to her. Connection. There are other techniques and strategies out there which add to your knowledge about seduction.Touching.If drop dead gorgeous.Communicate and demonstrate value. They are the things you need to spice an interaction with if you want something more than being a friend. Kino Escalation . lower her perceived value first. . . and techniques to do things like overcome resistance or handle her tests in a high value way. .
It‟s important to make her laugh. HAVE AN ATTRACTIVE IDENTITY
You can easily manipulate external factors to give the perception of high value. By working on your inner game and building a life and attitude of high value.Keep your frame. but doing that alone will not make her attracted to you.com
. and that means working on your attitude such as your beliefs and issues. not just her.then she will want to align with you.but what would be the point in that? You have to build value from the core. . . and then pull away before escalate. .Disqualify yourself as potential to be with her. And you know what women perceive as attractive. You will be ambitious and focussed.modernmanliving. so do women.Win over everybody. Forget things like humour and making her laugh. Befriend other guys who try swoop in. .
66 | A MODEL FOR SEDUCTION www.Lock in to the group so you don‟t get blown out. you will naturally go out to build a lifestyle of high value and success.
1.Do not show interest until attracted her to you. . And if you have these. when you initiate with her and „create chemistry‟ by sparking her attraction for you. The traits and values can all be summed up in VALUE AND STATUS. If you do that. It will cut out a lot of the games which go on. You won‟t have time to divert your energy to chase women. All of the techniques and strategies outlined for seduction is merely a way to communicate you have these traits and value. These are sub-communications to a bigger picture.Test how receptive she is to you. It will be a part of you. For example.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
METHODS TO OVERCOME RESISTANCE . women will see you as being attractive because you will be subliminally communicating it.you will have standards and you will know what it is you want. In the same way we have triggers to feel attraction. so you show social value and pre-selection. you could turn up in a limousine in a flash suit with two escorts on your arm.
but it doesn‟t establish any value or spike her interest in you. games and questioning are a means to see you are not weak.How To Be Social And Think On Your Feet. teasing. Don‟t even hint at your interest in her yet. You spike attraction by flirting. “aw you are so sweet.com
. You need these to initiate an interaction and to keep a conversation flowing. All her little tests. even without her doing anything. What these techniques do is they personalise the interaction.but that‟s it. and it is hard to regain back if you start with this attitude. They give her plenty of attention and be her little lap dog. thank you”.modernmanliving. It doesn‟t give her much security. It will be up to her to then offer you subtle hints (Indicators of Interest) to encourage you to seduce her. Establish your value and be seen as attractive first. Without these she will assume you are not interested in her. then she pulls away so you can chase her. 67 | A MODEL FOR SEDUCTION www.
3.Always demonstrate that you are above her in terms of value. These kind of actions put her value higher than you. Remember that value is always crucial. kino escalation etc. So to be attractive. You cause her to chase you. You will get. These are your basic social skills.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
No woman wants to be with a man weaker than her. You can show you have a fun personality and you are an interesting person. the best way is always indirect. INITIATING AN INTERACTION
I go through the mechanics of approaching and transitioning a conversation in my book. ATTRACTION SPIKES
Social skills only make you friends with a girl. What most guys do is.she has to earn your interest. It‟s like a little game of cat and mouse. push-pull. For attraction. they approach a girl and instantly put her on a pedestal.
In any case. It is up to you to know what you want. CONNECTION AND INVESTMENT
Getting her attracted to you does not take long to do. She has actually invested in attracting you. or a full on relationship. From there you move into a certain type of relationship. The relationship could be remaining as friends. Put the attraction on pause and be genuine with her.com
. You have to create a connection by asking about her and who she is. a sexual friendship. Point is you already know you both like each other. You take some time to find out about each other and how much you have in common. she is part of your life now. YOU INVEST IN HER AND SHOW YOU LIKE HER
When you know she is attracted to you (she will respond with indicators of interest like reinitiating conversation and asking about you) then you can do the same to her.you have to have something more than just playful banter.modernmanliving. So don‟t abuse that relationship.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
4. This phase in the interaction can happen within half an hour or a few hours. Fish for them if you have to by asking questions.
6. You can usually assess this indirectly by picking up on her signals. Find things about her you can reward her for. COMFORT. This way she knows she has more than her looks that is winning you over. and understand where she is coming from and what she wants.even if it is just as a friend. DECIDE WHERE TO TAKE IT
This whole interaction where you seduce each other can only be a few hours in real time.
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You won‟t be a sleazy player seducing her first before attracting her.
A FINAL NOTE
Seduction is a way of creating intimacy and a relationship with a girl. but they know when to step up and draw the line. When you know about these hurdles. You will be considerate about her “slut defence” and you won‟t trigger it in her. It is not leading her astray.you are conscious about it. including touch. and you anticipate them. A lot of the times girls never tell you directly what they want. Only difference is. by learning these techniques.modernmanliving. Make her feel secure before you attempt to go too far with her. HANDLE RESISTANCE AND INTERRUPTS
You be able to seduce a girl quite easily if there wasn‟t so much resistance and interruptions.she will be absolutely CLEAR to you about it.com
.then you will know how to bypass them.but that would be it.
Be a man and take responsibility for initiating things with her.
TWO BIG POINTS
As your seduction progresses. It is just part of human nature. You have a plan and you know how to seduce her effectively. 2) You always take the lead and responsibility for making it happen.A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION
7. And more importantly. Step back and gauge how you think she is feeling and what she wants. She may play hard to get so she doesn‟t feel too easy. you won‟t take them personally. if a girl does not want it.
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1) You escalate the attraction. Believe me.
and you have to be persistent with your actions.com
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Up until that point.modernmanliving.
70 | A MODEL FOR SEDUCTION www. then you will get no where with women. If you give up as soon as she suggests a little bit of resistance. you have to be active in your pursuit of her.