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Dave Riker's

Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course

A structured training program that teaches the language and conversational skills of Speed Seduction .

Workbook
Speed Seduction is a registered trademark of Ross Jeffries, used with permission.

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Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course

Table of Contents
Page No. Title Page Legal Notices Table of Contents Product Content Product Protection and User Consent Formatting and Conventions Acknowledgements Forward Registration Important Note About Exercises and Assignments 1.0 INTRODUCTION AND GETTING STARTED i ii iii vi vi vii ix x xii xii 1 D1-T1 Disk and Track No.*

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Overview
Why Is This Course Needed? What We Will Handle, and How Investing In Yourself, Or Not Can We Change The Way You Speak? Manipulation and Ethics Concerns SPEAKING AND LANGUAGE

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Speaking Pointers 7 The "Cool" Factor 7 Voice Tone and Tonality 7 Pacing and Pausing 9 Energy and Enthusiasm 10 Language Tools and Details 12 Adjectives and Adverbs 12 Trance Words 13 Weasel Phrases 15 Embedded Commands 17 Linking 19 Easy-Linking (This, That, These, Those) 21 More Tools 23 Pointing and Gestures 24 Linking Gestures (Towards and Away) 25 Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This, That, These, Those ...) 26 Easy Anchoring - Point Or Touch, On Positive 27 Review 29 LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES Pace and Lead General Pace and Lead Techniques 31 31 32

* Disk and Track Numbers References to the CDs and the tracks on them are shown in a format such as "D2-T4", which in this example refers to Disk 2, Track 4.

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Table of Contents (continued)
Page No. 3.1.2 3.1.3 3.1.4 3.2 3.3 3.3.1 3.3.2 3.3.3 3.3.4 3.3.5 3.4 3.5 3.6 3.6.1 3.6.2 3.7 3.7.1 3.7.2 3.7.3 3.7.4 3.8 3.9 4.0 4.1 4.1.1 4.1.2 4.1.3 4.1.4 4.2 4.2.1 4.2.2 4.2.3 4.3 4.3.1 4.3.2 4.3.3 4.3.4 4.3.5 4.4 4.4.1 4.4.2 4.4.3 4.4.4 4.4.5 4.5 4.5.1 4.5.2 Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects Pace and Lead-Mindset Or Frame Of Mind Pace and Lead - Current Reality Give Them a Reason Listing General Listing Listing - At The End Listing - Burying Items Listing, Pauses, and Emphasis.. Listing Review More and More Compare and Contrast Parts Parts of a Subject Parts of a Person Opportunities and Challenges Using Their Own Processes What Do People Want? Mini-Challenges Opportunities and Challenges Ambiguities Summary CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT Challenges Detailed and Specific Plans Are Just Not Workable Navigation Example Navigational Strategies Are Needed She Must Be Engaged In The Conversation! How Conversations Happen Conversational Dynamics Conversational Model Topic Turning Point General Conversational Management Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Want How To Steer Conversations, Moment To Moment The Model With Strategy and Tactics In Place Exercises and Assignments Summary Advanced Conversational Management Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Really Want Steering Conversations Moment To Moment The Model With Advanced Strategy and Tactics In Place Exercises and Assignments Summary More Advanced Conversational Management More About Getting The Conversation To Go Steering Conversations Using More Advanced 33 35 38 39 41 41 43 45 48 48 48 51 54 54 58 61 62 62 63 64 69 69 71 71 71 71 72 72 72 72 73 77 79 79 81 82 83 86 86 86 88 88 91 93 93 93 94 Disk a n d Track N o . * D5-T12 D5-T20 D5-T29 D5-T32 D6-T1 D6-T4 D6-T15 D6-T24 D6-T36 D6-T37 D6-T38 D6-T54 D7-T1 D7-T4 D7-T15 D7-T34 D7-T36 D7-T38 D7-T40 D7-T43 D7-T64 D7-T66 D8-T1 D8-T1 D8-T3 D8-T4 D8-T5 D8-T10 D8-T12 D8-T13 D8-T14 D8-T15 D8-T16 D8-T16 D8-T19 D8-T23 D8-T25 D8-T32 D8-T33 D8-T33 D8-T35 D8-T38 D8-T39 D8-T46 D8-T47 D8-T47 D8-T49

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Do The Exercises.7.2 7. EXAMPLES. APPENDICES I II III Course "Cheat Sheet" Speaking and Language Tools "Cheat Sheet" The Complete Conversational Management Model 123 131 133 Page v .4 7.3 6. EXAMPLES v i e w .6.4 5.6 4.3 7.0 6.. Conversational Fractionation The 1-Shot Beeline Fallacy How Fractionation Works Using Conversational Fractionation Dead Ends Come Back To Life! Conversational Overview and Review Conversational Management Approach What If The Outcome Is Not What You Expected? Summary TOPICS Topics Of Enthusiasm and Passion Seduction Oriented Topics Expanded Seduction Oriented Topics . * D8-T52 D9-T1 D9-T2 D9-T3 D9-T5 D9-T6 D9-T7 D9-T8 D9-T9 D9-T10 D9-T11 D9-T14 D9-T15 D9-T24 D9-T32 D9-T33 D10-T1 D10-T1 D10-T7 D10-T12 D10-T13 D10-T18 D10-T18 D10-T26 D10-T27 D10-T28 D10-T29 D11 .3 4.2 6.5 6.1 6.4 4..4 7.6. 94 96 96 97 97 98 99 99 99 99 101 101 102 104 109 111 115 115 115 116 116 119 119 119 119 119 119 121 Disk a n d Track N o .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Table of Contents (continued) Page No.7.1 4.1 5.2 4. .SOTXs Conversational Model With SOTXs The Complete Conversational Model PATTERNS Pattern O v e r Pattern Formula Canned Patterns Pattern Riffing In Real-Time REVIEW AND SUMMARY Review Summary Listen. 4.1 4.2 5.0 7. . .7.3 4. .3 5..5..6.7 4.0 5.2 4.6.5 8.3 5.1 7. and Follow The Course Be Willing and Prepared To Put Energy Into Congratulations! Well Done! EXAMPLES. .0 The Model With More Advanced Strategy and Tactics In Place.

CD Location References are shown using terms such as "D3-T5" in the text. The audio is NOT an exact duplicate of the text shown in the workbook.. Lists .Italicized Text is used for emphasis in many cases where boldface text may by nearby. This shows (for example) the Disk (3) and the Track number (5) that corresponds to that part of the workbook contents. graphic captions. Although there are paragraphs of explanatory text.Boldface Text is used to emphasize certain text or passages. items are presented in a list-like fashion such as this: • Item 1 • Item 2 • Item 3 • Etc. or major points in the workbook.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Formatting and Conventions The following formatting.that is simply to show a list of related items.At times. and Assignments are all shown using this typeface (Arial. This shows information that could be considered part of an overall "outline" of what the audio presentation contains. Exercises. Boldface Text . A majority of the workbook is presented in an "outline" form. a "serif typeface). The relationship between these two can be best described by considering the workbook text to be (for the most part) an "outline" of what is presented in the audio. Usually the graphic is shown on the page immediately following where that graphic is first mentioned in the text. a "sans-serif typeface). The written text is NOT a transcript. and the Formulas. Italics are also used to point the reader towards specific content of the audio CDs. D3-T5 CD Track References . Therefore most of the track references are shown at the start of major sections. or clarity. these are in most cases presented as a way to augment the content of the audio presentation. there may be instances when the conventions are not used for the sake of emphasis. Since the work book is an "outline" and not a transcript. and conventions have been developed and are used throughout this transcript/workbook. there is not an exact place in the book that correlates to the start of each and every track on the audio CDs. There are certain conventions used in the formatting of the workbook.A majority of the workbook content is shown in this typeface (Times New Roman. . and to make it easier to reference those items at a later time. However these conventions are guidelines. Samples of the formatting and conventions used: Typefaces .As shown to the right Towards the right margin of section titles and headings. Page vii . Text within graphics. and the italics are simply used as a way to show a different manner of emphasis. Graphics are used in the workbook as well. Listen to the audio where an example is presented. The graphics in the latter sections are significant in that they are an essential part of the understanding and leaning. i. If the graphic cannot fit there (due to page breaks) then the graphic is placed on the next available page. graphic titles. styles. It is also used for subject headings so that these stand out and apart from the normal text. Italicized Text .. and their use is key to many students' understanding of the concepts presented.e. Not every track number is listed.

This is shown below. an Exercise may require interaction with other people. Candidate Topics Figure XYZ-1: Graphic Title Sub-paragraph . Although the difference between Exercises and Assignments is maintained through most of the workbook. or technique. or maybe and Assignment can be done alone by the student. Most exercises can be done alone. and Assignments are shown inside boxes such as this. The number is in the format of "XYZ-A" where "XYZ" denotes the number of the section where the graphic is placed. -3) to account for multiple graphics in one section of text. This also may result in some page breaks being in places which are not optimal. A Formula is a way to present a concise explanation of some item. Page viii . but that is a necessity due to the complexity of the book. Exercises. Assignments usually requier the reader to go out and interact with other person(s) in order to perform them correctly.The workbook is laid out to minimize the amount of blank space where reasonably possible.Text boxes are used for very specific purposes in the workbook. then that text is shown immediately below the graphic using an indented paragraph such as this. This may require that a graphic be placed on the next page after where it is first mentioned (instead of being directly below where the graphic is first mentioned in the text). fact. Similarly. Text Boxes . Assignments also call for action on the part of the reader. -2. For example. Although this is not optimal.1 . there are cases where text boxes may actually "break" across two pages. . Formula.If a graphic has text that helps to further explain that graphic. there are instances where the definitions may be clouded to some degree. Exercises are a series of instructions that call upon the reader to do or perform certain actions.e.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Each graphic has a number and a title of some type. Page Breaks . it is required in order for the "flow" of the book content to remain consistent. Each Formula is presented in its own "text box" as shown here. and the "A" indicates the number of the graphic within a section itself (i.

teachers.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Acknowledgements The first and foremost acknowledgement goes out to Ross Jeffries himself. To those in the original SD Lair group. Special thanks to my friends. but I sincerely hope that the results will prove to have made the wait worthwhile. and this wait may have annoyed a few people. To the many experts out there who have augmented the SS teachings by showing me other aspects of the mind. . colleagues. To all of you. MC.. the creator of Speed Seduction . those who have read what I have written. opening the door for many into the world of self improvement. mentors. / must apologize to some degree for the time it has taken to finish this product. who have placed their trust in me and allowed me the experience of showing them new and wonderful possibilities for what their lives may have to offer. and for the assistance they provided with this product. The main reason is that I do not wish to release any product until I believe that I am able to provide the level of quality. and have opened the door for me to find many ways of self-improvement and understanding. Thank you. associates. JL. and who has also contributed greatly to helping men change their minds about themselves. Dave Riker Page ix . most notably Hypnotica. who was the business genius that brought Speed Seduction® to the masses through seminars and products. but have also shown many the way to a new way of living. EVS.. Yates Canipe.insight and teaching that I think is possible. Ross's developments have lead not only to helping many men with this part of their lives. Working with these clients was especially instrumental in formulating and perfecting the concepts and teaching methods used in this product. To my coaching clients. who helped me by allowing me to help them. To Dr. and MD. DM. and to help you in finding the Women or Woman of Your Dreams. SM. and to all of the Students out there who I have met at Speed Seduction® seminars. and students (we are each all of these and more) in the TAGR Group. and what is possible in their lives. SP. confidants. and those who have entrusted me to teach you and to guide you. I may miss a few sales because of such a delay.

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If you are her "type" you don't need this. Instructions for each are provided.0 1. 1. then on some level. you can change the way you speak as well. there is a need. you will do so in the future and use these techniques as well. to use these language skills naturally as just a part of the way they speak. and get the full benefit of everything this course has to offer. Listen to it. This workbook is meant to studied along with a series of audio lectures that are recorded on CDs. If you follow along and do the exercises.2 WHY IS THIS COURSE NEEDED? D1-T10 If you are here. pay attention. Conversational Skills The ability to manage conversations is needed as well. and "reprogrammed" in a way. This program is based upon experience with countless students. Some guys don't need this. Language Skills What works? What makes the successful guys able to use these technologies? Partly it's the ability to actually "talk" in this manner. The purpose of this workbook is to: • • • Provide an outline of the material covered in the audio program. You are already on your way! This course works on many levels. but this will help you if you are not. consciously and subconsciously. and on you as well. Present a series of exercises and assignments. Welcome to Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course. along with spaces for written responses where necessary. You will have this way of speaking as a PART of who you are and what you can do! Guys need to be trained. We will teach you ways to easily manage conversations so that they go in interesting directions. some people do this naturally. and what works in the field. So even this "intro" section is starting to work for you.1 INTRODUCTION AND GETTING STARTED OVERVIEW Dl-Tl Welcome and Thanks.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 1. These techniques all need to sound and be "natural" to actually be effective. You are not going to sound like this or talk like this all of the time! Just in the way that you shift and change how you speak now in different situations. Provide additional explanation of some points that are covered in the audio program. Page 1 . seeing what is needed. We will be teaching you the detailed language skills that will really help you.

many times! • In fact we have already started! Where Does This Material Come From • From SS Teachings. for a while at least. how it is learned. interacting. talking.. Sure. but that's your left brain talking! We are reprogramming many years of your experience. and how people speak. Other parts of the language tools you may have to "think" about. • Exercises to develop understanding and skills • Assignments for you to do in the field. must react to a steady flow of new information without interruption. but it's really YOU talking! Guys are too focused on "how can I use this" when in a conversation.. Real Time "Occurring immediately .." Guys need to stop the worrying about "Doing something wrong" It's only "wrong" if you are TRYING to do or be something you are not.Enthusiasm and Passion Topics . some of the ways that you speak now will be reprogrammed so that speaking in a new way will be natural. that is important.3 Major • • • • • • • • WHAT WE WILL HANDLE.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course You have to be PROGRAMMED to do this so you can have a conversation.Seduction Oriented Topics Patterns and Riffing Examples Dl-Tl5 What Methods Are Used • Describe and explain the details of the techniques • Explicit examples of how the details work • Examples throughout and within the discussions • Examples section at the end. Not inside your head "thinking" about "how can I use this?"! 1. then you are not actually IN the conversation! You need to be engaged in a conversation. some things will sound quite familiar. respond to input immediately . AND HOW Topics Speaking Pointers Language Tools and Details Conversational Management Conversational Fractionation Topics . so we need to approach this in many ways. listen. listening. • Other teachings about language. • Working on several "levels" of you mind at once • Models to arrive at an overall understanding • Left brain and right brain are both addressed • Conscious and subconscious minds are both given what they need for real understanding and retention. In a way. This is a term that will be used throughout this course. not a "trick".. but if you are "thinking" too much. and be a part of it. Guys need to be able to just "do this" and "talk this way" in REAL-TIME. • Things may seem to "repeat".. responding. Page 2 .. so let's define and explain it for you. You need to integrate skills to the degree that they ARE a part of who you ARE.

new. the more you put into it. do the assignments over and over! • Be patient. Also maybe get a romance novel or two. However. • Get that "Mind-Momentum" going to help you change and improve. Many of the assignments will deal with talking to people. that YOU just DO. or revised? Yes. effort. Be wary of those people who may want to "borrow" a copy. Page 3 . You will need them because you will have assignments that deal with these. However. 1. and engagement. do whatever you need to do to listen to this course a LOT. listening multiple times in any setting also has a lot of benefit. making it a part of YOU. as assigned or as required. • Having a good social life will help you. to give you a real roadmap to actually learn the material. a concept that was brought up earlier. and being open to what benefits this program can bring. Other SS products will work well. By embarking upon this course. do it! But please. but in terms of THEM really being willing and ready to change. or not? There are various ways. From working with clients and seeing what worked and how they were able to change. • Get some other written material to work with for this course. they aren't really putting themselves INTO it. keep those copies to yourself. If they just "try" it. and this is much easier if you have an active life where you can have many conversations. and this journey. do the exercises over and over. However. and engagement into your effort to really learn and use these materials. the more you will get out of it. So. • Listen to other products in conjunction with this product. you are doing just that. Changing that will take some time.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • From personal experiences and how I used the materials.4 INVESTING IN YOURSELF. Is this information. We are reprogramming years and years of you "speaking" in a certain manner. • Is there an "optimal way" to use the product. see what works for you. • This may seem complicated but the point is to get you SO familiar with the tools that you become the guy who does this! Some Very Important Points • Find all of your current SS products and inventory them. effort. many of these people will be those negative types of people that will then dispute the benefits of this program! Why? Because THEY have not invested anything into it! Not just in terms of dollars. The Mind-Momentum Principle At Work • Get energy. and who may "try" to listen to the course. • Follow along in the workbook if you can • Do the exercises and assignments! • Listen over and over. In addition. • Be prepared to have a place to practice for this course! You will need to be able to speak out loud to do many of the exercises. The best way to listen to this course is while also reviewing the workbook (especially in the conversational management sections). the emphasis here is training you to do it for yourself. OR NOT D1-T24 Any real change requires you to make an investment in yourself using energy. and a few women's magazines as well. both audio and written materials. there IS some overlap and duplication with other products and systems. Applying a structured methodology of step-by-step methods. If you need to make your own copies for use in multiple locations. The Ways To Study And Use The Product • Listen to the CDs.

just being YOU. but to then USE it in conversation is difficult. you heard it. Immersion is the key. there is no "right" way or "wrong" way. How People Initially Learn How To Speak • • • • Sure in middle school. hold you back. You keep trying to "remember" things. Those who are not. Don't let their lack of willingness to improve themselves.by hearing others around you speak! You were IMMERSED in language. Not as congruent. • • • • • • You will get some details. But that's not how you learned to talk! You learned to talk when you were a child . Also progressive exercises.But This Is A Different Type Of Learning. • • • • • • • • This might be good as a learning TOOL. But it's tough to do that. Plus it's not YOU talking. you heard it in context. consequently. because you will hear it so much! But a LOT of what is being conveyed here is learning by EXAMPLE. You will end up "memorizing" thing to some degree. trying to "remember" what to say. And actual assignments. It's less effective. about grammar. but only indirectly. 1. some models. It Is Possible! . you heard it a lot. because it addresses that analytical part of your mind. at every moment! Some people want to try to memorize. there is a "right" and "wrong" way to do it! But if you are just TALKING. will not benefit. sentences. It makes guys nervous. paragraphs. Imagine having to "think about" how to talk. at will Engage in conversation Manage conversations Yes. and you started to form the ability to speak and communicate based upon that! Page 4 ." So. some structures. Most people want to approach this by learning bits and pieces • • That's good in a way. Then it's about a "performance. kids are taught about language.5 CAN WE CHANGE THE WAY YOU SPEAK? D1-T26 Is this really possible? This sounds difficult. where you learn skills piece by piece. Can we literally change the way you speak? • • • • • • • How you select words Create phrases Form sentences Pick topics Speak passionately. then its easier. its a memorized "thing". where you use the skills in the real world. its YOU being YOU! You cannot fail at being YOU! The approach in this course is different. etc.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course People must be engaged in the process to get its benefits.

more a part of YOU. • Break it down into small parts. Exercises and Assignments to Teach You the Skills • Skills Training like any sport. and be more of WHO YOU ARE. which we go over and over. it's not about throwing something AT her. Page 5 . more natural. With THIS approach HERE. deep ethics issues and blocks many guy's success.6 Many guys have been uncomfortable with using many of these skills. based upon feelings that when using them. how you communicate. Various Training Methods • • We use a lot of repetitive training methods so that these techniques have a better chance of becoming "automatic". or craft. and who and what YOU are! Using these skills will be less of an "act". We will have you become familiar with the range of ways of speaking and sounding. "it's not me" or "I am just using a trick or technique". so that you will have more ability and more flexibility to do what is appropriate MANIPULATION AND ETHICS CONCERNS D1-T32 1. Examples • • Explicit examples. This causes some real.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course This Course Uses Many Techniques To Train You To Have Workable. where I am just DOING these things all during the program. like when I say "here is an example" Implicit examples. Real-World Skills. trade. we will change the way you talk so that it will be easier.

how interesting you are. and what people like in general. and says a lot about you.2 Voice Tone and Tonality D2-T2 Listen to some examples of different tones of voice. calm. but if you really want to work on this even more. 2) Read some more of that material out loud.1. but giving the impression that there IS more. Read several paragraphs. This is good as long as it's not BORING. reserved. there are great products and examples of this elsewhere. do this for several minutes. how they make you feel. even some of the materials from other products. etc. there ARE products that focus JUST on this area and you may want to invest in those. and this time focus on speaking by generating the sound from within your mouth (or. We will work on this here in this course. not out of nervousness. That "cool" feeling comes from being calm and speaking in a relaxed fashion. BORING. 2. focusing on the back of your throat might make this easier to do). Why is this important? • Great voice tone conveys comfort.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. That's what women like. Page 7 . focusing on generating your voice from your nose.1 SPEAKING AND LANGUAGE SPEAKING POINTERS The "Cool" Factor D2-T1 D2-T1 Guys want to sound "cool".1. to be cool. and read it aloud. Cool does NOT mean to be boring and to put people to sleep while talking! The coolest people are the ones that are FUN to talk to and fun to be with! You don't have to be cold. how calm you are. something you are interested in. Listen as the examples demonstrate: • Speaking through the nose • Speaking through the mouth • Speaking from the chest Exercises for Speaking Pointers Grab some reading material of some type. 1) Take some of that reading material.1 2. how they sound. Too many guys "try" to be cool but actually come off as COLD or even worse.0 2. and even goes a bit over-the-top to really help you to understand what is being discussed. a sense of being relaxed and calm • It also allows you to express some energy and excitement at different times. That's the "allure". The audio section demonstrates these options quite well. If this is a challenge for you. Examples: One way to think of this is to consider "where" your voice is generated from in your body. but because it's appropriate to the situation. Your tone of voice really conveys a lot about who you are. "Cool" comes from being calm and sure of yourself. that there is a "fire" beneath the surface.

really make a note to speak lower. Relax. with whom. 1) Over the next few days when speaking to anyone. Can you recall how you spoke? Did the way you sound in that situation sound like any of the examples you just did? See the similarity? Assignments for Speaking Pointers These are your first real assignments in the course. 2) In the next few conversations you have with people. comfortable. and whether or not you DID it! Day/Time Who you spoke to Situation (Where) Did you DO it? Page 8 . SOUND relaxed. and really focus on having that voice generated from your chest. Make notes below as to when it happened. Day/Time Who you spoke to Speaking from? How you felt. make a note to yourself as to how you are speaking.in the real world! To get the most benefit from this course. See how relaxed it actually makes you feel and how you really need to BE relaxed to do this! 4) Take a moment. Make notes below for some of the conversations and see if you can see a correlation between these items. where you were.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 3) Now read some of the material. mouth. but this time really focus upon generating the sound from deep within your chest. relaxed-confident). make note of how you felt (nervous. Also. it's important that you do what you can to REALLY make a point of doing these assignments. and make them a part of who you are. and where you are speaking from (your nose. but to actually HAVE the skills. Real-world experience will really help you to not just "know" the skills. Focus on dropping your voice down from your nose/mouth. or chest). and recall some time in the recent past when you were kind of nervous or fearful. Assignments are where you are given a real task to go out and do .

3 Pacing and Pausing D2-T15 Listen to the examples where some various pacing is demonstrated. but this time read it slowly. Read several paragraphs and do this for several minutes. as we discussed in the past section. and then far far too slow. but go ahead and convey excitement in your voice! 3) Now read some of the material. Why is • • • this important? Correct pacing and speed of delivery conveys comfort. comfortable manner. make a note to yourself as to how you are speaking in terms of your pacing and pausing. relaxed. powerful. deliberate. and charismatic presence. 1) Take some of that reading material and read it aloud.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Strategic Formula for Speaking Pointers Use your best tone of voice (speaking from your chest) to convey a relaxed. in a manner that makes you sound as if you are very confused. first very very fast. 2. Speaking too quickly can show tension. Focus on reading in a very hurried fashion as if you are very nervous. There are many variations: Listen as these are demonstrated • Hurried showing nervousness • Hurried showing excitement • Slow as in hesitant and/or confused • Slow in a way that is deliberate and relaxed Exercises for Pacing and Pausing Grab some reading material of some type. or almost a sense of panic. 4) Now read some of the material. even some of the materials from other products. Something you are interested in. (Maybe even be aware of where your voice is coming from. but this time read it in a slow. and shows that the speaker is relaxed. and this time focus on reading in a quick and hurried fashion. Being able to vary your pacing and pausing can help a lot to convey a sense of intrigue and create interest.1.) Assignments for Pacing and Pausing 1) Over the next few days when speaking to anyone. or don't quite understand the content. 2) Read some more of that material out loud. Too fast? Too slow? Hurried-nervous? Hurried-excited? Slow-confused? Page 9 .

It's good to have the ability and range to display passion. When someone else is being boring. you get stuck in fewer boring. By doing this. Page 10 . 2.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Slow-relaxed? You don't have to change it yet. • This also allows YOU to convey how interesting someone ELSE is as well. who. and excitement when appropriate.4 Energy and Enthusiasm D2-T26 Listen to some examples of how this can sound . dead-end conversations. then you can show more enthusiasm. Who cares? Why does this matter? • Most guys are just TOO BORING. start to focus on changing your pacing and pausing... and if you DID it! Day/Time Who you spoke to Situation (Where) Did you DO it? Strategic Formula for Pacing and Pausing Use variations in pace. energy. just make a note of this after-the-fact and write that down below. YOU can show an appropriate amount of energy and enthusiasm. • If someone else is being interesting. YOU act boring.. Make note of when. or bored. enthusiasm. where. If they do or say something that is interesting to YOU.1. Day/Time Who you spoke to What type of pacing and pausing? 2) For the next few days. to convey a sense of drama and intrigue in what you are saying in a way that "captivates" people and makes them want to listen to you. and well-placed pauses. to convey a more relaxed and deliberate manner.

4) Get some written material that really DOES interest you. do that for 10-15 minutes. go ahead and SHOW your enthusiasm! Be energetic in how you speak. Think as if YOU are convincing a group of people how great this is! Maybe your Dream Job of a lifetime is dependant upon YOU speaking well and showing how passionate YOU are about this! Do that for a good 10-15 minutes.. and how your respond. whatever it is. Watch on either TV. 3) Get some written material that you have NO interest in. dry topic. Do this for a good 10-15 minutes. etc. and how much (or little) energy is conveyed. which bores you. Strategic Formula for Energy and Enthusiasm Using energy and enthusiasm when speaking so that people can become energized and enthusiastic about listening to and being with you. women. that a good speaker can really grab your attention with their energy and enthusiasm. Assignments for Energy and Enthusiasm 1) Over the next few days. and read THAT aloud in a way that DOES show energy and enthusiasm! Make that sound as convincing as #4 above. Exercises for Energy and Enthusiasm Grab some reading material of some type. and that are excited about. their tone. maybe sports. Really pay attention to how they speak. their pace. Note how even if the material is something you do NOT care about. BE BORING and show no enthusiasm at all. their pace. 5) Take that written material that really does interest you. and how much (or little) energy is conveyed. 1) Watch and listen to some speakers talk about a boring. Again. other products. monotone voice. 6) Take that earlier written material about the subject that you are NOT interested in and that really bores you.. 2) For the next few conversations you have with people where you ARE interested in the subject. even some of the materials from . and read that aloud in a boring. and BE BORING. technical presentations. bland. animated. Read it OUT LOUD in a boring. something you are interested in. energetic voice. do that for 10-15 minutes. their tone. Again. monotone. your work. 2) Watch and listen to some speakers who use a lot of energy and enthusiasm when they are talking! Really pay attention to how they speak. your car.. When you respond or talk back. go ahead. whenever someone is talking about something boring. bland voice with no energy or enthusiasm. Read it OUT LOUD in an exciting.. make sure it is something that YOU are passionate about. Page 11 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course The audio section demonstrates more details about sounding boring/bored and also sounding as if you have energy and enthusiasm. how you listen. taped lectures.

Adjectives will describe THINGS (nouns).2. Cars. 2) Read it. boring. not the logical side of a person. talk about it in a descriptive way. you should be able to do this for at least 3-5 minutes each.. and more ways of talking about processes. because to have to "think about" using them is almost impossible! • You need to be TRAINED TO USE THEM automatically..1 Adjectives and Adverbs D2-T40 Listen to an example where many of these are used in descriptive language. and the subject you were talking about. and stress the adjectives and adverbs in it. These words modify or in some way describe. they are not things that can be measured or specified. and make note of the adjectives and adverbs in it. but must be done over and over. whatever. or they are too factual and leftbrained. Do this for each of the conversations listed above. Note whom you were talking to. 2. movies. Page 12 . nouns and verbs.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. add more descriptive terms to it. Most men could be helped by having more descriptive speech. • Their use must be automatic. but this time. If you really like this subject. talk about each thing or subject again.2 LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS D2-T39 These are the Bit And Pieces • These are the sort of things that can be powerful. feelings. 4) Think of three recent conversations you had when you talked to someone about something that you REALLY liked. while Adverbs will describe ACTIONS (verbs). out loud. Re-live it.) 3) Read that text OUT LOUD. we are working to appeal to the emotions. and sensations. and uninteresting. sports. Most Adjectives and Adverbs are qualitative. It's good if YOU are also interested in it. (Maybe highlight them in some manner. use more Adjectives and Adverbs. Examples • Car reviews • Movie Reviews • This course! Exercises for Adjectives and Adverbs 1) Find some written material that deals with something where people are speaking passionately about some subject. Maybe say those adjectives or adverbs and put more energy into those words and emphasize them in some manner. Remember. Most guys are too dry in their speech. Day. Who you spoke to Subject 5) Now. They sound cold.

Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Assignments for Adjectives and Adverbs 1) Make note of the next 3 times you are having a conversation which deals with something that YOU are really into. that you really enjoy. Strategic Formula for Adjectives and Adverbs Use more adjectives and adverbs in your speech to appeal to and excite the emotional side of the listener.2. make sure to use some of those adjectives and adverbs in your descriptions. Trance • • • • • Word List Instantaneously Suddenly Find Yourself Convince Yourself Suppose Page 13 .2 Trance Words D3-T1 Listen to an example where many of these are used. or objective manner. 3) Practice out loud how you would have said those things in each of the three conversations. b. They are not "analyzed" in a conscious. Write down what the subject was. Day Who you spoke to Subject 2) Write down a few adjectives and adverbs that you could have used in each discussion (refer to a. Trance words are words that "call upon" the subconscious mind in order for them to be processed and understood. and c above). so that their feelings. emotions. Act like you are really having the conversation again. and processes awaken. their emotional side. and with whom you spoke. 4) The next several times any of those subjects come up in conversation. Start with just a few of them. is listening and more engaged in the conversation. "paint a picture" with your words. and then maybe add some more as time goes on. Be descriptive. that you are passionate about. 2. factual. Trance words help to "open the person up" so that their subconscious.

4) Get your SS audio materials and listen for Trance Words (maybe even THIS course here). placing an emphasis on the Trance Words when you see them. 3) Get out your written SS materials and look for Trance Words (maybe even use THIS course here). Now speak OUT LOUD about that subject. talk about it. Write them down below. work. political speakers. Maybe play one tape or CD. see and hear if you can pick out when the speaker is using Trance Words. sportscasters. and see how many of those Trance Words you can use. or school. talk OUT LOUD about that subject and see how many times you can use those Trance Words! Subject a. With that list of Trance Words (above) in hand. that's the point! Exercises for Trance Words 1) Make a full list of Trance Words. like advertisements. almost boring or mundane thing. You can copy the ones you saw listed earlier. even something concrete like your job. and make it more interesting? Well. See how many you can notice. Maybe refer to some of your other SS products and see how many more you can find. Looking at the list of Trance Words above. and see if you can pick these out. Subject b. 6) Pick two subjects in which you are interested.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • Imagine Mysterious (-ly) Wonder (-ous) (-ously) Think of any subject. See how many you can find and notice how they are used in context. something that you think is dull. Doesn't that make it sound kind of "mysterious"? Maybe more exciting? Maybe you can take some normal. or religious speakers. 5) Take the written text from an SS product (maybe from #3 above) and read it out loud. Trance Word List 2) Watch or listen to some material where people are speaking passionately about something. but also see if you can add some to the list. Look at the Trance Word List above. Highlight or circle the Trance Words in a few sections. 7) Pick a subject that bores you. Think for a moment about using those trance words to describe that subject. Boring Subject Page 14 .

more interesting.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Even though that may seem a bit strange. If you were to . As you ...3 Weasel Phrases D3-T14 Listen to an example where many of these are used. because it may be a bit too forward? Well.. that's what Weasel Phrases are for! Weasel Phrase List (see if you can add to the list by listening to the audio). maybe even a bit odd? Maybe even a different topic or change of subject? Or maybe something that you were worried about bringing up. 2) Integrate a few more of these words into your every-day description of those subjects.. make a point to use at least one of the Trance Words in the conversation. Subject b. Just do whatever you can to start using some of them at first. Practice working with those subjects out loud some more and see if you can get even more comfortable using Trance Words when talking about those subjects. • • • • • Have you ever . to get from one subject to another. These also work as transitional phrases. doesn't that make it-sound more "exciting". What's it like when . 2.. If I were to . Page 15 ... Use them when talking to different people. Subject a.. How do you talk about something without REALLY talking about it? How do you bring something up that may be a bit different. and using more and more as time goes on.2.. The next time you are speaking with anyone about those subjects (in the real world guys!). and more fascinating? Assignments for Trance Words 1) Pick two subjects in which you are interested.. Strategic Formula for Trance Words Using Trance Words will help to get the subconscious mind of the listener to be more of a part of your conversation.

Maybe pausing for a moment before one. getting into it. This is necessary to have the kind of words and subjects that lend themselves to Weasel Phrases. after another. see if you can use some or all of your favorite weasel phrases when talking about it. Pick 3 of them that seem the most natural to you. and then use one of the Weasel Phrases and the bring up another "aspect". Assignments for Weasel Phrases 1) Look at the list of Weasel Phrases that you wrote earlier. 4) Pick a subject in which you are interested. doing it. that it makes more sense. Talk about THAT one for a few sentences. Do this until you use all 4-5 of the attributes that you listed. and read some of this material out loud. the experience of it. For example.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Exercises for Weasel Phrases 1) Get some of your written SS materials and look for some Weasel Phrases in the text. etc. but selecting different Phrases to link the aspects together. 2) Get your SS audio materials and listen for some Weasel Phrases. Just read the SS material out loud.. 2) Note the subject that you used earlier for doing some exercises with Weasel Phrases (exercise 4 above). Try it again. we want you to talk about how it FEELS. Subject Page 16 . don't use that one!) Now talk about one of these 4-5 aspects for 1-2 sentences.) Pick 4-5 different aspects of this "experience" that you will talk about. sensing it. 5) Did that sound weird? Strange? Ok . and do so with an awareness on some level that you are saying and using weasel phrases when they are in the text. that seem as if they fit best into your way of speaking about subjects that you may like. 3) Take the written SS materials you had earlier. The next several times that you talk about that subject with anyone. While doing it. Maybe play one tape or CD. etc. Use different Phrases. saying one slowly or quickly. and see if you can string things together so that they sound better. See if you can pick these out.. the subject might be "going to a ball game" (pick your own. (Weasel Phrases tend to provide ways to connect sentences and paragraphs that talk about how something is felt and experienced. Take a moment and try to emphasize them in a way. make note of the weasel phrases. In a moment. It will get easier. then use another Weasel Phrase.

These are not to be sexual or suggestive. Like "feel excited". things you would like a listener to think about.. Again not "you like that color". 2) Get your SS audio materials and listen for these. Subject Strategic Formula for Weasel Phrases Use Weasel Phrases to keep the conversation going. Maybe play one tape or CD. and incorporate Weasel Phrases into the next several discussions you have about that subject as well. • Repetition .It's very important that the command be brought up in the context of a conversation that is interesting. or more quickly. your car. feel. feelings. or "you want this" (car). when separated from the context. maybe a car. "this is what you have imagined having for yourself. saying one slowly. excited by something. Take a moment and try to emphasize them in some way. but just general things (feelings or states). lets say you were selling something to someone. Page 17 . Pick something that excites you! Maybe the subject is sports. etc. While doing it. think of it like this. Two key aspects of the use of Embedded Commands are often overlooked. "get excited". or experience while they are thinking about that subject. 2. "get into it". Make a point to "lean on it" a bit. make note of the embedded commands. and to "soften" the way in which something is said. Write down a list of embedded commands. after another. and where the person's emotions or feelings are somehow active (This "context" issue is discussed later in the product in great detail in Conversational Management sections. maybe pausing for a moment before one. your job. Think of general statements. once.). that you are saying and using embedded commands at the time. a place you have traveled. intrigued..just general things that would cause a person to be interested in something. instead "you like this" (car). its about multiple usage (bombardment)! Exercises for Embedded Commands 1) Get our your written SS materials (written) and look for embedded commands in a few pages of the text. and do so with an awareness. See if you can pick out embedded commands while listening. that you want them to experience. or feel a certain way. allowing you to say more (and maybe more provocative things) about a subject. 3) Take the written SS materials. "see how fascinated" . and read some of this material out loud.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Select another subject that really interests you.It's not just about using one. Just say this stuff out loud.4 Embedded Commands D3-T25 Listen to an example where many of these are used.2. To make it easy. Write down things that would make someone interested. on some level. • Context . These are small snippets of words and phrases which. etc. issue a "command" or statement that instructs someone do something. 4) Pick a topic that YOU are very interested in.

just enough to put the emphasis on the command. Write down a list of at least 5 commands that work well in that subject. or maybe it has to deal with your job. start using a few of these commands when speaking. Subject Embedded Commands 3) Practice the use of those commands. Maybe slowing down slightly. that would assist you in being more influential. out loud. or school. see just how many of the embedded commands in that list that YOU can say! First. in the context of talking about that subject. and with that list that YOU wrote in hand. make some effort to use some of these commands in the context of a real discussion. but something where being influential may help. to create a compelling will on the part of the listener follow you and listen to you. work on just saying them and finding a way to bring them up. but now focus more on "leaning" on the embedded commands a bit. Maybe you work in sales. changing your voice. Start to place some emphasis on the command itself. Strategic Formula for Embedded Commands Use embedded commands repeatedly and in the proper context. 6) Do the same thing again. pausing. and make it sound natural. Page 18 . Maybe it's not a passion or real interest. 4) The next several times that subject comes up in your life. The next several times that you talk about that subject with anyone. Assignments for Embedded Commands 1) Look at the list of Commands that you wrote and practiced that deal with a subject in which you are interested (exercise 4 above). 2) Select another subject that is a part of your life. See how natural you can make them sound.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 5) Start talking about that topic out loud.

Take a moment and try to emphasize the linking in some way. etc. ALL of those possible definitions apply! Then. while looking at you. recall. non-specific. For example. • In order for her to understand the feeling being discussed. also "this" and "these" as in "this feeling" of "these feelings". • However.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. "this interest". What is this based upon? • When talking. and read some of this material aloud. will "link" them to you. However. she has to actually feel it to some extent. you speak of "this feeling". the linking tools and techniques will add to this. she has to feel it on some level (and she will.While listening to the audio. you become more associated with those feelings. you are talking "about" a feeling or sensation. on some level. and inexact.5 Linking D3-T42 Linking is a way to take the feelings. see if you can add more phrases to the list below. The most common linking phrase/tool that guys think about is the phrase "now with me". 2) Get your SS audio materials and listen for these. Just to "process" what is being discussed.) Page 19 . make note of where linking is taking place. etc. If she is experiencing these feelings in your presence. emotions. Are you talking about the "feeling" she had at some time in the past? Are you talking about the feeling she is having right now? • Because you are using terms like "this". then to the deeper levels of her mind. using some of the techniques that have been discussed in this course (pausing. Maybe play one tape or CD. if you are talking about a great feeling of excitement that a woman has had or is having. and getting her to experience.2. which is ambiguous (non-exact). you are being ambiguous. and talking to you. • • • • • • • Now with me In me In myself with this these this belief these feelings Exercises for Linking 1) Get our your written SS materials (written) and look for examples of Linking in the text. and feel emotions. then on some level that is creating this "link". Linking Phrases . which is an ambiguous way of referencing what she is thinking about. change in voice tone. While doing so. "in myself. and make this "link" even more effective. In some ways. 3) Take the written SS materials. and then making an ambiguous reference to that feeling using your words. and experiences that are being discussed and associate or "link" them to you. it's easier than you think! Just talking about a subject and getting her to be a part of the discussion. See if you can pick out Linking Phrases while listening. when you say "this feeling". You can also make reference to "in me". as long as there is good rapport).

Write down the list of commands and an associated linkage phrase for each below. That's ok. or change your voice. "these feelings". Embedded Command Linkage Phrase 5) Pick a topic that YOU are interested in as we did before (it can be the same one you used in Exercise #4 in section 2. 6) Now do the same thing again. First. link them to you so that YOU become something and someone that they feel good about. This will sound easier for you as we go on.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4) Take the list of embedded commands that you created in an earlier exercise (Exercise #4 in section 2. "this person or thing".4). this will come to you much more easily. Page 20 . This may seem strange and sound a bit "off". Plus the next section will make this much easier! Strategic Formula for Linking After getting someone to experience good feelings and emotions. As you hear more and more examples of this throughout the course. You can even add the ever-popular "now.2. the linking is ambiguous and doesn't reference you directly.4).2. and using the list above. etc. you could say "feel excited by this" or "feel excited now" (you can also link things by putting in a reference to NOW). A quick way of doing this is to simply add "this feeling". Assignments for Linking No separate assignment for this. work on just saying them and finding a way to bring them up. pause. where you listed "feel excited". it's much better if picked up along-the-way. Maybe slow down slightly. see just how many of the Embedded Commands and Linkage Phrases that you can use in your dialog. In some manner. and see if you can "add" text to each to link them to you in some way. with me" after one of more of the commands in your list. Start talking about that topic out loud. Doing linking in an exercise like this is difficult and hard to make it sound "natural".) For example. just enough to put emphasis on the Linkage Phrase. Another example would be to take the phrase "Get excited" and turn that into "get excited by THESE things". (Again. but now focus more on "leaning" a bit on the Linkage Phrases.

those sensations So. with you. that feeling • This sensation. with "these" being the possessive form. This means they are ambiguous! Consider this and that. and it can be done a LOT.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. For example. exciting. this & that are singular • This . Those) D4-T1 Listen to an example where many of these are used. that direction • This feeling. "this person" tends to sound like the person that is there. a GREAT strategy is to link anything and everything positive to you (and link negative things away from yourself.Non-Possessive For example. but do so in a general manner.Possessive (sort of "includes" something) • That . In this case. these and those are plural • These . that person • This direction. This is a new and very effective way to do linking that is easy to learn and master. so you are not using a name or specific reference. one "thing".2. those people • These directions. So. they reference a "thing". in general. That. • These people. that sensation They differ though in that "this" seems possessive.6 Easy-Linking (This. but that will be quite obvious when you try to do that). Consider four words in the English language: • This • That • These • Those These are forms of pronouns. for that multiple-instance bombardment that we spoke of before! The idea of linking wild. and included. and "that" is not. who cares? Well these are almost interchangeable! You can switch this/that in sentences as you wish. Whereas "that person" refers to someone "away" some "other" person who is not in the immediate area.Possessive • Those . • This person. (In some cases. and one is not. So. seductive feelings to you may be great but. those directions • These feelings. use the possessive form when saying or talking about ANYTHING POSITIVE and use the non-possessive form when saying anything negative! Page 21 . or not there at the time. Given that one type is possessive. These. these refer to plural items.Non-Possessive (seems to reference something "else" or something "away") Consider these and those. those feelings • These sensations. there are times when they cannot be switched. This and that tend to refer to singular items.

That. Those Page 22 . using the correct versions of That. This is good. and those depending on whether the item is positive or negative. ' 3) Earlier in the workbook. Those people are not. or singular/plural. Use "That" and "Those" when referring to anything negative. That person is not. out loud. Write down (below) ten attributes. These.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • This That These Those Singular possessive Singular non-possessive Plural possessive Plural non-possessive Anything Anything Anything Anything Positive Negative Positive Negative You can learn to do this (to choose which of these words to use) in real-time through training! Tactical Formula for Easy-Linking Use "This" and "These" when referring to anything positive. you have discussed a subject (and written a lot of text about it) that is important to you. These are good. That. Exercises for Easy-Linking 1) Say the lines below. for a good ten minutes. or "things about" that subject. This person is good. 2) Say the lines below. write a small sentence for each. Small sentence that includes that attribute. That is not. These. These people are good. For each of these attributes or things. out loud. and the correct form of This. for a good ten minutes. Those are not. Subject: Attributes or "things about" that subject.

That. That. 2. and then write a small sentence for each. beyond the small bits and pieces of language. D4-T13 Page 23 . and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. Those 6) Talk out loud about the subject mentioned above for a good 5-10 minutes. Anchoring Anchoring is associating a feeling or emotional state to a sensory experience. and Those. These sections help to train you in these types of techniques. list ten attributes or things about that subject. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. and once again. 5) Pick another subject. Great speakers use movement to their advantage. Small sentence that includes that attribute. Subject: Attributes or "things about" that subject.3 MORE TOOLS D4-T12 Now we are getting into a different area. and their movement becomes a part of their communication. using the appropriate form of This. These. and the correct form of This. These.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4) Talk out loud about that subject for a good 5-10 minutes.

Subjects Page 24 . talking about a subject that YOU are interested in. passionate. How often are they in your pockets? How often do they just lie by your side and never move? Make note of this after-the-fact. make note of where your hands are when speaking. Assignments for Pointing and Gestures 1) For the next few days.1 Pointing and Gestures D4-T14 Good speakers use their hands. after the conversation has ended. Use your hands to accentuate certain points. and away from yourself. and hopefully the conversations are interesting. How to • • • do this: Get your hands out of your pockets. and way from your sides. However we will focus on things that can create a LOT of effectiveness.3. point up. etc). etc. so these techniques discussed here will help. towards. Don't flail about wildly. or even a preacher. and then we can work on deliberate movement such as • Pointing towards and away from things • Towards yourself and away from yourself Exercises for Pointing and Gestures 1) Find a good speaker on TV. political speaker. Get your hands OUT of your pockets and AWAY from your body! Act excited. and to do multiple times. maybe a motivational speaker. to help make their point. and that you end up talking about with people quite often. Pick something YOU are interested in. 2) Get one of the text lists from an earlier exercise (weasel phrases. Watch how they move. 2) List 3 subjects that you really enjoy. Move! We will start by generating SOME movement. We will break down many of the component parts of this into skills that we will teach you bit by bit. and that are very very easy to do. Read some of that text (from an earlier exercise) out loud. embedded commands. etc. 2. Then later on see if you can start to become aware of what your hands are doing WHILE you are in the conversation. BE excited! Use your hands and arms for emphasis. Most guys are too boring and too reserved when talking. so that the use of these becomes automatic. down. have energy. They may be a bit over-the-top (speaking to an audience is different than speaking one-on-one) but just watch them for a while. and some gestures.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Many different types of anchoring can be done and we are only going to cover some very basic tools. and that you are passionate about.

and then write a small sentence for each. These. Great speakers use movement to their advantage. D4-T13 Page 23 . and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. Small sentence that includes that attribute. These. Anchoring Anchoring is associating a feeling or emotional state to a sensory experience. and once again. 5) Pick another subject. and the correct form of This. and their movement becomes a part of their communication. list ten attributes or things about that subject. and Those. Subject: Attributes or "things about" that subject. That. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. using the appropriate form of This. These sections help to train you in these types of techniques. 2.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4) Talk out loud about that subject for a good 5-10 minutes.3 MORE TOOLS D4-T12 Now we are getting into a different area. Those 6) Talk out loud about the subject mentioned above for a good 5-10 minutes. That. beyond the small bits and pieces of language.

gesture. point away. and accentuate what you are saying in order to be more compelling as a speaker and to get even more attention from your listener or audience. point or gesture away. Strategic Formula for Pointing and Gestures Move. Exercises for Linking Gestures 1) Stand up. and when anything negative is mentioned. and send Negative things away • You can point towards or away from yourself. motion. just start to MOVE. no need to WILDLY gesture! • You can do this many many times. Do your best to re-enact that discussion (say what you said. away. but this time use your hands. make a note to go ahead and move. Do something.) 2) Grab some of your written SS materials. away. gesture. ANYTHING. Tactical Formula for Linking Gestures Whenever you say something negative. As you get more comfortable with this. make a point to get your hands OUT of your pockets. Bad. etc. towards. arms.2 Linking Gestures (Towards And Away) D4-T22 This is a fast and easy way to link positive states to you. Bring Positive things toward yourself. point or gesture towards yourself. Page 25 . and the repetition works for you! • Can do in various contexts. and animate to some extent the next time you talk about them. etc. 2. Good. point towards yourself.. Bad (gesture towards. • Or hold your hand away from yourself (to send things "away") How to use it • Good to do in the context of being a person that already MOVES when talking! • Make this subtle. or • You can place your hand on your chest or abdomen in a subtle manner (to link things to you) . Whenever you say something positive. recall a recent time when you had such a discussion. and others. Read that out loud.). and MOVE! Do this out loud. Say the following out loud while gesturing in the correct direction: Good. and AWAY from your sides and MOVE when talking about these subjects.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course For each of these subjects. and MOVE. or at least be able to move. This technique allows you to do this many many times. very easily.3. 3) With these three subjects in mind.. many people move when talking This technique is most powerful when used at a time when emotions and/or imagination are engaged in the conversation. and to send negative things "away" from yourself. and every time something positive is being talked about.

When you say These or Those. Those" correctly Combine these and use them at the same time! When you say This or These. 2. Use "This. have energy. 2) With these three subjects in mind. These. and every time something positive is being talked about. points towards yourself. Say "this". and MOVE. etc. These. Linking Gestures and Easy-Linking together: • • • Use the pointing/gestures on Positive and Negative things (point towards and away). Point to you Negative statement. point away. say what you said. Do this out loud. or at least sit where you can move.) D4-T30 Now we bring together Linking Gestures and Easy Linking. point away. etc. Subjects Do your best to re-enact that discussion. That. Point away. make a note to go ahead and use these Linking Gestures to some extent the next time you talk about them. but this time when you are speaking of anything good or positive. Say "these". That. these can be the same as the last set of assignments). Point away Positive statement.. This is veryeasy to do over and over for that repetitive effect. Start subtle. Assignments for Linking Gestures 1) List 3 subjects that you really enjoy. For each of these subjects.3 Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This. Do the following out loud: Page 26 . Pick something that YOU are interested in. (yes. Say "that". and that you end up talking about with people quite often. Exercises for Easy Linking Expanded 1) Stand up. recall a recent time when you had such a discussion. start with a few. when anything negative is mentioned.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Remember the text we used in an earlier example here in the workbook? Read that out loud. Those . point towards yourself and when anything negative is mentioned. passionate. Conversely.3. motion away or place your hands/arms away.. Point to you Negative Say "those". gesture towards yourself or place your hand(s) on yourself. but you don't have to do it every time! That will seem strange! Tactical Formula for Easy Linking Expanded Positive statement. it will become easier and easier. and hopefully the conversations are interesting.

Also. while pointing towards or away from yourself in the correct manner. Strategic Formula for Easy Linking Expanded Combine the use of Linking Gestures (towards yourself when positive. you are anchoring them in a subtle way. But to get even more effectiveness when anything positive happens. and Those if you can. it will become automatic. and away when negative.. If you are head-on directly in front of a person. specific states. This is more easily done if you are standing at the side or at an angle. and able to be done many many times. an expression. Use the correct versions of This. and Those. but actually. Point away. These. states. Can we apply this to anchoring? Yes! • We need a way to do some basic anchoring that is very simple.4 Easy Anchoring . and emotions to yourself. we are doing that already by pointing "towards" on positive things and "away" on negative things using Linking. That. These. It may be good to anchor feelings. a laugh. it's more difficult. and say "that". it's very useful to Anchor anything and everything positive to you! In some ways. On Positive D4-T35 Let's look at anchoring in light of the 80/20 rule (where 80% of the results come from 20% of the effort). These. 2. touch them • they seem to go into a pleasant state. touch them This is best done in a "moment" with some emotion. it's good to be close enough (within arms-length) so that the "touch" is easy to do.Point or Touch.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Point to yourself. Do this in a way that maybe makes it seem like you are doing it for emphasis. or when the person you are talking to goes into a Positive state. Point back to yourself and say "these". and say "this". Page 27 . and thoughts to you but in a general sense. Point away and say "those" Repeat! This WILL help to train you! 2) Remember the text we used in an earlier example? Speak that text out loud. trying to add in more instances of This. Practice it enough and in connection with earlier exercises. etc. The more that "emotions" are being accessed.3. That. That. a realization. touch them! This "Easy Anchoring" works in any context: • they laugh. touch them • they smile.. Those in the correct ways) to associate even more positive feelings. the more effective it tends to be.) with Easy Linking (using This.

or Topic being discussed 2) Recall those 5 times. Tactical Formula for Easy Anchoring When the person you are talking with displays a positive feeling of some type. but yet have some degree of rapport already (maybe this is a friend-of-a-friend. you just touch his or her upper arm or upper back. and note to yourself the correlation between how long the touch lasted and the level of rapport. • Think about when you meet and are introduced to someone. • When joking with someone. 2) Spend some time looking for moments (positive ones) where a touch would be appropriate. maybe someone who you have heard about). also make a point to make and maintain eye contact as well. See if you can recall how it was.. Also note the degree of eye contact. directly to you. Write those down. just a touch. make a point to hold it just slightly longer than usual.. laugh. touch them to help anchor it to you.. without really thinking about it. Page 28 . This is the same type of thing. vividly. intrigue. but a bit more "deliberate". maybe pat on the back. etc.) Maybe a handshake Maybe a pat on the back Maybe a funny gesture Make a note of the person. A laugh A moment of recognition or realization When someone starts talking quietly. interest. a smile.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course You probably do this already in certain situations. What do you do? You shake their hand. (Not romantically. and the situation or topic being discussed. Exercises for Easy Anchoring 1) Think about the last 5 times where you touched someone in this type of way. but in many cases. such as. Assignments for Easy Anchoring 1) The next several times you shake someone's hand. • Think about when you greet a friend. Person '" Situation. you grab their upper arm as well.

Then. Suddenly..4 REVIEW D4-T46 We are well on our way. You are noticing this after-the-fact. in-the-moment. but as you notice these moments. to be cool o Voice Tone And Tonality • Nose. and you have already learned a LOT of the detailed speaking. think "I could have touched them THEN". These. when you have the chance. DO IT! Strategic Formula for Easy Anchoring In general. These. Mouth. Find Yourself o Weasel Phrases • If I were to .. o Easy-Linking • This. 3) Now that you have started to notice these "moments" where a touch would be appropriate. Chest o Pacing And Pausing • Slow. language.. Those MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures • Move! Point! o Linking Gestures • Towards And Away o Easy Linking Expanded • Pointing With This. and movement skills that will be used later in the course. 2. o Linking " with me. That. see if you can have at least 5 instances of knowing.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course At first.. anchoring and associating yourself to positive and intriguing feelings in other people helps to make them feel positive towards and intrigued by you. we want you to actually DO IT! So. That. o Embedded Commands • Can you do this now. Those Page 29 . maybe you don't touch them. that a touch is appropriate.. Fast • • • Pause o Energy And Enthusiasm • Passionate or Boring? LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS o Adjectives And Adverbs • Be descriptive o Trance Words • Instantaneously. • SPEAKING POINTERS o The "Cool" Factor • You don't have to be cold.

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The minute you do anything like that to get someone else's "approval". Changing the Viewpoint or Frame if Mind . say things such as.0 LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES D5-T1 We have been working on bits and pieces of language. Now we are moving "up" a level. and then take them in some direction... towards where you want things to go. it's best to meet or join someone in some way. To "Pace" means to just BE a part of the conversation. 3. These techniques give you ways to use and arrive at languaging in a manner that will make you more persuasive. but you must do so powerfully and do NOT look for "acceptance". you might bring up a new way of looking at it. It can mean this. move with them conversationally for a while. o That's one way to see it o I understand your point Page 31 • • . the sort of things that you need to get used to doing automatically.Some people misunderstand and think that to "Pace" means to "agree". acknowledge what the other person is saying.Can you just knock someone into agreeing with you? Can you be that bold? Yes. but you need a lot of power to do it and you risk breaking rapport. things that you should not even have to really "think about".1 PACE AND LEAD D5-T2 Pace and Lead . For example. then and give them another way of looking at it. Challenges • Can't you just bluntly offer a different view? Yes.. Don't argue! . all of the time.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3. You might disagree. You MAY be able to do that. You almost NEVER impress people that way! To pace/lead well.Can you just abruptly jerk a conversation towards where you want it to go? Maybe. Are they useful and possible? • • • Trying to knock or jar someone into a different direction or way of thinking can be risky. but will hopefully at some point.Some people try to display higher knowledge or value by "arguing". These were tactical details. Agree or not agree? . be able to just "do". however you can break rapport. incorrect. telling someone they are wrong.A way to change directions • In someone's way of thinking • In the conversation To make a change in direction in some manner. Pace and Lead allows us to "join" someone. and more influential in general. into higher-level stuff. Fast and abrupt changes ... you are lost.. etc.. but agreeing is just a special case. or "bigger chucks" as we say. Changing Topics and Subjects . move them . show understanding (does not have to be agreement necessarily) and then .. but you can break rapport in the process. or to try to "impress" them. you might make comments (some that agree and some that may not) but the key is that you are "Taking part in" the conversation and topics at hand.

. understanding.. the implication is that you NEED someone's approval. and/or interest. it makes YOU look bad.... The point here is not to memorize these "lines". but to really get a sense of being IN the conversation..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o o That's interesting I see what you are saying. or..1..1 General Pace and Lead Techniques D5-T9 Here are some examples of ways to do these steps with example wording for each.BE IMPRESSIVE! People really don't like to be proven dumb or wrong! Most people are offended or "put off by such attempts.. Arguing! Many smart guys study these techniques and technologies. acknowledgement.. • Alright. Let me make sure I understand . Then start to direct things in a different way .. I also think you can see .. I see • That's interesting • I get it • Hmmmmm . 3. if you attempt to do that. In addition. Instead . Ok.. Let them know you are listening and understand (using wording such as shown below.. Then start to move or shift things in a different way.. Maybe • • • • • • continue showing an understanding or interest So what you mean is . To TRY to IMPRESS is bad.it's like this. a way that you want..... showing that you are a part of it.... That hardly ever works. allowing you to move things more in your favor later on. have you thought about this . So if I understand this .. I get it.. Tactical Formula for Pacing and Leading Show agreement. as if you "need" their approval..) • Yes. I read/saw/heard the same thing . what you are saying is . and then moving things forward in some manner. Impressing someone with your knowledge. Strategic Formula for Pacing and Leading Pacing and Leading allows you "be" in the conversation for a while and gain rapport and information... So.. • Ok . Page 32 . • Well. .. and some of then want to go out and "impress" people with their newfound knowledge.

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I hear you, and what else is interesting is .... •-. That's a good way of looking at it, something else that is important is ....

The Formula for Pacing and Leading is ... acknowledge and then start to shift things ... Maybe you want to shift things more and/or bring up another issue or viewpoint entirely (or maybe you actually disagree) • That's one way of looking at it, however I think ... • Yes, I understand, I have also heard ... • Ok, that makes sense, another way of thinking about it is .. • Alright, but on the other hand... Some general methods you can use to introduce the "leading" aspect, you can talk about... • What you know, believe, understand • What a friend or colleague has said • What you heard • What you read • etc. 3.1.2 Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects D5-T12

Lets say you find some people talking about a topic. Do you walk up, interrupt, and start an entirely new topic? No. (Well, you can, but that takes a lot of power and has a lot of risk.) A better way is to enter the conversation, talk about it (Pace), and then move the conversation into areas that you want it to go (Lead). Examples: • You are in a conversation and the topic is cars. People are talking about prices, loans, etc. You acknowledge what is being said, contribute to that conversation (pace), and then start to bring in the idea of how a car handles, how it feels, and how exciting it is to drive certain cars (lead). • People are discussing clothes, various brands, types, etc. You talk about that with them (pace) for a while, and then start to bring up the idea of how clothes make you feel, how you feel differently when wearing different things ... etc (lead)

Tactical Formula for Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects Show agreement, understanding, acknowledgement, and/or interest in the topic or subject. Then start to move or shift topic or subject in a different way, a way that you want.

Exercises for Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects 1) Think about some recent conversations you have had with people about different topics, hopefully these conversations and/or this topic is something that occurs a lot for you (based on interests you have, people you know, etc). Recall a specific "moment" in each conversation. Note what was being discussed, and what point was being talked about. Make a note of each of them. Also note, where did that actual conversation go next?

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Conversation with whom?

Where did it go next?

2) Pace and Lead Gently Out loud, practice as if you were talking in each of the discussions above, and paced the conversation and topic, and then lead it in some direction. In this exercise, simply show agreement, understanding, and/or interest, and then lead in the same general direction. Maybe bring up a new example, new point, new issue, but just sort of "take over" the conversation. 3) Pace and Lead in a New Direction Next, for each of those instances, provide an example where you show agreement, understanding, and/or interest, but now start to "move" things in a new direction. Maybe the conversation that you had started at this one "point" and went in a specific direction ... Now, for this exercise, practice taking it in a new and different direction. Maybe introduce a different aspect of the topic or subject, something not mentioned before, or not normally talked about. The key is to first show agreement, understanding, and/or interest and THEN do this "shift", and you LEAD things in a different way.

Assignments for Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects 1) Make note of three conversations that you tend to have with people on a regular basis. Person or People Subjects we discuss

2) The next times these conversations happen, make a point to "Show agreement, understanding, and/or interest" (Pace). Then "Then start to move things" (Lead) in your own way, Do this by introducing a different aspect of that topic, or a related topic/subject. Don't make this shift or change really abrupt or different, just make a point to sort of "direct" where things move, even if that direction is close to where it was going anyway. Just make sure YOU are the one that moves it. Note the text and examples given earlier as a way to do that. 3) Once you can do the above, now make a point to have your "Lead" incorporate a real change of some type.

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Normally, even without your input, the conversation tends to go in a certain way. The earlier exercise had you just keep thing moving in that same direction. Now you are to "take" the conversation somewhere else towards a different or related topic. Just introduce a new aspect of the topic, a different thing, a different direction, so that you are really "leading" where things go. Remember the language that you were shown earlier. Use languaging like... You know what ELSE is interesting You know what * l * have found (seen, felt) Another way of doing this would be .. You know what ELSE can happen ... is ...

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You can change the way people look at things, their mindset, and their "frame of mind". For example, imagine you are having a discussion and people are talking in a certain "frame of mind" (not directly, it's just their way of seeing things). The point here is to acknowledge that frame, and then introduce another way of seeing things, another "frame", or another "mindset". What is • • • • a "frame"? In general it's ... A way someone "sees" something. What it "means" to them. The way they "feel" about it. The significance or meaning that it has.

Looking at the formula for Pace and Lead, you apply that by first acknowledging the current Frame, and then start to lead by bringing up another way of thinking about it and/or looking at it. You bring a new "frame" into the discussion. (This is a way of shifting that way people LOOK at things, the significance that it has, or their mindset regarding certain topics or behaviours). In the earlier example of Pacing and Leading of Topics and Subjects, we were talking just about a thing, a topic, or subject. Now we are talking about a feeling, or the way things are "seen" or what they "mean". For example, people may be talking about: • Taking risks • Feeling good or bad • Having a good day or a bad day • Making choices • What an event "meant" to them • How someone else actions affected them • How a decision affected them. There is a "frame" (of mind) behind each of these discussions and with proper technique, that frame and mindset may be changed. Look back at the "Methods" section earlier for some details and examples of how to introduce this pacing and leading (there are some lists of languaging examples provided). Examples: • You enter a conversation where people are talking about risks, Risks at work, risks in finances, risks in life. You Pace by discussing this for a while. The frame or mindset here is that risks are bad, dangerous,

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Mindset or Frame of Mind Show agreement. Then start to move or shift the frame by introducing another way of looking at things. Then you start to lead by bringing up the idea that some risks are fun and interesting. etc). Page 36 . etc. understanding.. acknowledgement. In this exercise simply Show agreement. then start to move into talking about how men do this as well. (Risk was framed as dangerous. some risks make you feel alive. and paced it. looks for more. the viewpoint.) Tactical Formula for Pace and Lead . the people. What was the "frame". and you are working to change the way she screens out guys.Mindset or Frame of Mind 1) Think about some recent conversations you have had with people about different topics.. and/or interest in the Mindset or Frame of mind. or provide a relevant example. and how anyone of quality . Make a note of each of them. • Another conversation has a woman talking about what she looks for in men. now its being framed as exciting). where the point of the discussion in that moment was: The way they "see" something. What it "means" to them. then lead in the same general direction.. who is like 5 lbs overweight. what point was being talked about... the frame of mind or mindset is the focus here. the assumption? What is the frame of mind behind the viewpoints that they had? Write down the topic.. or may be perfect but with the wrong hair color (lead). Again. a new meaning... Towards a way that you want. and/or interest in the mindset or frame of mind . With whom? Topic? Mindset / Frame of Mind 2) Pace and Lead Gently Practice as if you were talking in that discussion. Maybe bring up a similar way of looking at it. understanding. Do this OUT LOUD. she talks about what their professions are. and then lead it in some direction. Recall a specific "moment" in the conversation. Just sort of "take over" the conversation. some men will just "write off a woman that is a certain size. weight. etc. Note what was being discussed. and what "kind" of man she likes (height. some risks have good rewards. The way they "feel" about it. The frame you are bring up is how superficial it is to judge based on numbers and details. and the "frame" that was in use. Exercises for Pace and Lead ..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course have consequences. The frame here is that she has her "standards" and that this is good for her. (You are shifting her frame so that she may start to look at different things in men. You agree on some level (pace) and chat about that.

and the frame associated with each. make a point to "Show agreement. With whom? Subject/Topic? Mindset / Frame of Mind 2) Pace and Lead Gently The next times these conversations happen. Examples: someone complains a lot. Do this OUT LOUD for each example. understanding. or something you heard or read. understanding. to find a positive way of looking at the situation. Maybe acknowledge and then bring up an opposing view. Maybe bring up a way of looking at things that is totally different. Think about discussions where YOU can see that these people involved are working on a certain set of assumptions. and their motivations etc. Do this by introducing a "way of looking at it" that is similar to the one that is already being used.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 3) Pace and Lead in a New Direction Next.Mindset or Frame of Mind 1) Make note of three conversations that you tend to have with people on a regular basis. Basically. and THEN do this "shift". what it "means" that is not really in agreement with what was said. you are just acknowledging the Mindset or Frame in this example. and you LEAD things in a different way. and they are the one not taking risks someone is prejudiced or judges other people. etc someone looks at a political issue. A good way to do it is to show agreement and understanding. or something someone said. These should be of a type where THE "frame" or mindset is something of which you are aware. Maybe find a way. and/or interest" (Pace). Then "start to move things" (Lead) in your own way. and/or interest. Assignments for Pace and Lead . maybe even limiting beliefs or beliefs that really hold them back. understanding. and/or interest in the Mindset or Frame of Mind but now start to "move" things in a new direction. Write down these subjects. provide an example where you Show agreement. The key is to first Show agreement. but really his mindset is the problem someone talks about wanting something different. for each of those instances. but just make a point to sort of "direct" where things move. and HE is the one with the limitation someone complains about work and the managers. a frame of reference. and says they are cheap. Maybe bring up a different viewpoint or way of looking at it. even if that direction is close to where it was going anyway. Page 37 . and maybe point out a similar example from your own life. some way. and makes assumptions (has a certain frame) about people or groups. Don't make this really abrupt or different.

Current Reality D5-T29 If you look at the languaging used in things like hypnosis.. "Pace" their mindset. o You are probably wondering Page 38 • • .. What is done here is that you Pace based on something that is obvious (obvious in their "current reality"). o After you have . or assumed by the people involved... a new mindset. using words such as) o As you are .. Meaning.. Again. it might not be that bad. • At least it's not like XYZ. Just introduce a new frame...4 Pace and Lead .... The general way to approach this is: • Start by pacing something that is obvious about their current reality . You know. Continue to Pace by maybe stating an obvious point about their current reality o seeing XYZ o feeling XYZ o thinking about XYZ o etc. a new aspect of "what it means".1. o While you are . and/or express what is on their mind.. now make a point to have your "Lead" incorporate a real change of some type. Well... o etc. o As you feel... but just find a positive way to look at what is being discussed.. and new way of looking at things.....Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Pace and Lead In a New Direction Once you can do the above.. another way of looking at it is . there was a certain "frame" being discussed.. or used by very powerful speakers.. Some ways to do that is by saying things such as... A friend of mine used to feel the same way and they. point towards a specific Mindset or Frame that is of YOUR choosing. Now you are to "take" the conversation somewhere else and bring up a new mindset or frame of mind. focus on the Mindset or Frame. The earlier exercise had you just sort of "run" with that. 3. (for example. o While you see .... and then use that to lead someone somewhere. even without your input. o While you think ... these techniques are used a LOT. This may be different from the way the subject or belief WAS framed or thought of.. o As you see . but it can work well and adds to the power of the languaging. and allow the conversation to continue with the same frame of mind in place. A "safe" way to do this would be to find a positive way to look at the situation. it could be . This is a small-chunk detail and technique.. o As you realize . o While you are .

... thoughts......" • You will hear a LOT of this in this course (which is part of your re-programming!) Tactical Formula for Pace and Lead .. • You are talking to someone at work . o state what you want them to see/feel/hear/realize Examples: • As you are listening to this program .2 GIVE THEM A REASON D5-T32 Give someone a reason for someone to listen . Warning . you will begin to notice this .. "as you are watching this presentation . 3. o you will start to notice o you may realize o you may start to think o you may see how .. the more it will "sink in".. what you are hearing..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • o As you are thinking about o I know you are concerned about o The issue that may be on your mind is o The question you may have is Begin to lead . and "As that feeling builds. o another thing you will see/feel/notice is . what you are reading. The more you hear this.. o you will then .Current Reality As (while ) you) are "X" (Pace) Where "X" is something that is true in their current reality (perceptions. what you are thinking. Really pay attention and see how many times I have done pacing and leading in this manner... If you spend too much time saying things similar to "I know what you are thinking". and do. Point them to where you want to lead them ." • Physical demos use this a lot. then you are probably wondering ...Current Reality 1) Listen to this section again...... it starts to become annoying to the listener..".) • Then you will "Y" Where "Y" is something you want them to experience (Lead) Exercises for Pace and Lead . o notice what its like as . Rewind or go back a few tracks. Studies have been done with persuasive language that show that giving a reason will make people more apt to do things for you and agree with you... etc.. Page 39 .. "As you feel this.... Make note of how many times I have paced your current reality.Pacing Reality too much can seem arrogant.

However. or at least people that are not close friends of yours. asking "can I pay by credit card". anything. if you say "Is it ok if I make copies next. if you say "Let's move over there because it's more quiet" you will be amazed at how much more agreeable the person may be. Examples: • You walk up to a copier at work and there are three people in line. If you just say. just providing a reason. The examples will be better if these are people you do not know. and out loud. then it may be difficult to get people to agree. because I am really in a hurry" then. "hey. It could be asking for coffee. come up with another reason. Write these down. However. they may go with you.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Don't worry about "losing your power" or being too "nice". 3) Go through the same list again. or asked someone to do something. • You are talking to someone and you would like to pull her aside and make the conversation more private. If you say. Person What did you ask for? 2) Practice out loud how you might "ask" for that favor or make that request again. Assignments for Give Them A Reason 1) Make note of five routine situations that you have in your life where you are asking for something. You are not being apologetic or anything. you don't need to be concerned about these things. This technique does not provide a 100% guarantee. it just helps to make people more agreeable (and there are statistics to support that as well). but put in a reason of some type. "Is it ok if I make copies next". requesting something. lets move over there". remarkably. the addition of this small "reason" will make people much more agreeable and apt to let you do what you would like. Write these down. Page 40 . Tactical Formula for Give Them a Reason Request X because (of) Y Exercises for Give Them a Reason 1) Make note of the last five times you asked someone for something.

3. the items that you will "list" need to be brief points. or make a statement.3 LISTING D6-T1 Listen to an example where many of these are used. "List" several things or examples which support your point. or excuse. don't just provide one reason. you get someone to agree and then lead them 3. 3) The next times these situations come up in your day-to-day life. which support your point. or giving an example. and flow easily. it's difficult to debate them all or object to them all (not to be combative. This technique has been developed based on observing how many good and influential people speak: • Successful sales people • Charismatic speakers • Good debaters • Component of hypnotic languaging « Very important. • When you give a reason. and quite well. People) What do you ask for? 2) Practice out loud some "reasons" that you could give in these situations. • When you give several reasons at once. go ahead and mention the "reason". • This is somewhat similar to a "pace and lead". See if you can make it automatic. in order to provide more power to what you are saying. just as an example) • Hypnotists use this technique a LOT. • For the sake of a conversation. point. so that your one "opportunity" in a conversation to make "a" point. Tactical Formula for General Listing When making a point. Page 41 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Situation (Place. Power in Numbers . statement.1 General Listing D6-T4 Strategic Formula for General Listing General Listing is a way to quickly provide several reasons. 3. provide several.Repetition in a way that serves you. or make a point. • Training for sales people use this quite a bit. actually ends up being several points.

" and mention those three different ways. and the types of things to which no one would object. what point you were trying to make. Something you are interested in. listing is like pacing and leading. Listing can be short. what are three ways that can go? Good? Bad? Indifferent? Exciting? Boring? Pick three and write these down What are three "ways" that the experience of "meeting people" can go? 2) Now practice out loud by saying something like "Isn't it interesting how you can meet people and it happens in different ways? I mean sometimes .2. really recall listing to good speakers (2). playing a game. Select a particular aspect of that activity. Now..) • I know this may sound a bit different (1). as in saying three items . In many ways. and still. etc. Each of the items in a list can also be much longer. Write them down. 3. true. doing some type of work. etc. Activity that you like or do often List a particular part of aspect of that activity What are three "ways" that can go? " 4) Now describe "What its like to do your activity . strange (2)... and/or what it's like to meet people. write down who it was with. Then. For each conversation. and somewhat new (3). Z". Y.. Now try again by expounding on each of the items.. Y. Do that out loud. so that you don't just say "X. you may begin to agree.. Exercises for General Listing 1) Lets say you are talking to someone about "Meeting people". partying. where each lasts several minutes. 5) Think of three recent conversations you have had with people where you were making a point. as a list.. etc. the third item may tend to "lead" someone in some way. maybe watching sports.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Example (see the listed items shown as 1.. a. talk about it for a sentence or two. sometimes .. 3) Pick an example of an activity that you do often... Mention the first item. Pick three ways that can go .each of which lasts just a few seconds.. and start to think about in a positive way (3). briefly.. then the second. maybe trying to convince someone of something (NOT an argument-just that you were making a point and would like to be more persuasive).X and then other times . but instead you talk ' about each for a few moments. Who you were talking to Page 42 . and maybe 3 different things that support your "point". but as you listen to it (1). make them brief. Z (selecting your items listed above). Maybe your first two items in a list are obvious.

and just providing a series of options. etc) By doing that. Now practice. Maybe you want to list several options or examples. Maybe you want your list to contain many options. how you could bring up these three points in a list-like manner.At The End D6-T15 If several items are mentioned in a list (for example a car. you were just listing several things in a list. the other. it sticks in the listener's head more. by placing YOUR preferred item at the end.3. it makes it seem as if you are being fair. it's easy to think of that Page 43 . the one that comes to mind the easiest is the one that YOU want someone to agree with. out loud. Normally. and tends to make THAT point the most important one. 3. Do that for each of the three examples above. suggestion. In the earlier Listing examples.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Point you were trying to make Three items that support your "point" b. Who you were talking to Point you were trying to make Three items that support your "point" c. or different types of alternatives (to a thought. However.2 Listing . and an elephant) what tends to "stick" in your mind? (The Elephant!) The last item! By hanging an item at the end of a list. However. Who you were talking to Point you were trying to make Three items that support your "point" 6) Recall a specific moment in each conversation. at times you want to use listing as a way to highlight or focus upon one item. activity. Therefore. a table. You weren't trying to emphasize one point vs. we were talking about three points in a list that all were similar. you put more emphasis on it. Here is a way to think about it. Placing that particular item at the end of a list can have that effect.

you just really click and you feel this connection . o Other times you get that sort of a "friend" vibe with that person.. or it could really be fun. right away. lets say you are talking about doing some activity. o It could suck. was said that at the end? By the way.A t The End Listing at The End is a way to provide several options (which may differ) but to emphasize the option that YOU want. you eventually find this person that on some level. you meet someone. c)! • • • • • • Strategic Formula for Listing . Again. this is one of those subtle but very powerful things that many persuasive speakers do a LOT.. one after another.that is the one (3). but you spend some time with that person (2) and the more that person talks. Page 44 . but by placing "it could be fun" last. It may be because you like the resume (a). When I have interviewed a lot of people. the more convinced you are that that person is NOT the one! o Hopefully though. and the third one "eventually find this person" was the one I wanted to really "stick". Examples • • Fun activity. those people doesn't mean much either way .. I put another list within THAT description (a.. and there is just something about this person. 3). o And other times . Sometimes there is nothing special. Now those are different ways of seeing it. but even when describing that person. It's interesting though.. you know that those people are NOT qualified (1) o Others you maybe have thought were ok at first. Again let's bring up this example of "meeting people".. b.. interesting. I know. it could be boring. or they just have the right answers (c).. you know .2. they sort of fell into several groups o There are some people that.. how they can almost become a blur. or this person presents himself really well (b). o May be frustrating to you. or maybe you are really seeing the power of all of this! I think you can tell which option I was going for! Meeting People. examples. or instances FIRST. I mean. maybe it's boring. This course.. I have had to do that myself at times. you put more emphasis on it and it tends to make that one "stick" more... See? Not only did I have a list of three (1. In general. o You know what it's like when you meet someone .. did you notice the use of the words this/that/these/those? Also where do you think I might have been pointing and gesturing during those examples? Job interview o Have you talked to many candidates? Yes.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course one. Say that one LAST and bring up two other options.. They are not all the same. etc . you just know . you know? See how I did that? See how the item which I really wanted them to think about. they are nice. and then finish with YOUR preferred item... It's just a matter of getting to this person.

but mention the one which YOU want to put the most emphasis on. buy some thing. and they are haggling or objecting a bit. If you say Page 45 . go somewhere. Maybe add an embedded command of some type. where you are trying to convince people to do something. etc. You may want to "test" to see how the person will react to it. List three possible things that you could do and write these down. out loud. out loud. and you are all figuring out how you are going to spend your time.At The End 1) Lets say you are going to spend a day or evening with some friends. Here is a way to think about it.).Let say you arc trying to get someone to buy something. Maybe add a small "list" within that last item (because it's inexpensive. 3. Issue or Option What do you want? 5) Now. agree to some point. talk about the issue. 4) What is an example from your life (recently). or giving an example.3 Listing . and we always have fun . and bring up at least two other "options" BEFORE you mention the one option that you want. it can be TOO obvious. close. mentioning all of these in a list.At The End When making a point..? Write down what the "issue" is. and therefore you do NOT want it to stick out too much.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Tactical Formula for Listing . statement. Exercises for Listing . At times however.3.. but place some more emphasis on that last item. placing something at the end can add to its power and make it stand out. make sure that the one that YOU want to do. Maybe pause when saying it.Burying Items D6-T24 When using a List. is the item you mention LAST. and what the result is that YOU want. etc. Maybe you want to suggest something very direct or quite controversial and you do NOT want to give it too much prominence. However. "List" several things briefly in order. 3) Do that again. maybe controversial. Examples: • Sales . Go ahead and suggest that item. You want to mention or suggest something that is quite strong. and seem too direct. it makes sense to "bury" that item in the middle of a list. but bury it inside a list. LAST. Three things that you and your friends could do (activity) 2) Practice. In that case.

and you are talking about you two getting together sometime.. and when you say it at the end like that..Burying Items When giving examples or options to someone.." Doesn't that sound better? Meeting at a Party . it's your choice. or maybe you want it so much. Sometimes you have that "direct" item in mind and you surround it with other. you don't just say "we can slip the deadline".. maybe you aren't ready to buy this now. lets say you are working on a project and things are behind schedule. that you are almost "worried" about how the listener may react. or possibly you just still want to negotiate . it seems a bit easier for you to say it. or to maybe see if you can get someone to agree to it! Tactical Formula for Listing . or maybe I'll call you tomorrow".. However. Instead. Lets say your idea is so controversial and over-the-top. The idea of " seize this chance and get it while you can" is something rather challenging to say (as the seller) that directly. It also allows you a chance to watch the persons reaction to it. that may be a GOOD sign. just suggesting. But of she smiles and seems interested. This is also a good way of testing someone's response.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • "Well.Burying Items Listing . So maybe you say something like o "Well. we can talk in a few days. There are several options but. "let's slip the deadline" might be a problem in some circles! So when people are talking about options to help the project. o "well. maybe it IS too direct. maybe you seize this chance and get it while you can .Lets say you have met a women at a party.. • Instead of thinking about it in terms of a list. more powerful and direct statement in the middle. maybe you aren't ready to buy this now. But if you switch the order. more "appropriate" items to lighten it up... Strategic Formula for Listing . that you will just seize this chance and get it while you can! That sounds almost TOO forceful. you can get away with an outrageous or very direct option by burying that option in the middle of a List. Page 46 . its your choice. honestly. See? Putting that one. For example. and maybe there is a possibility of you even spending that night together. or possibly you still want to negotiate. lets say that you want to say something or suggest something that is very direct. seems to "lighten" it up somehow. If she gasps and has a look of shock and horror when you make that suggestion. one of them is to just slip the deadline. it seems too obvious.Burying Items is a way to mention an outrageous or very direct option for "testing" purposes. bury it inside a list. Very direct. we can leave together right now.

Bury the strongest item. make a point (afterward) to think about that outrageous option. Go ahead and change the order of the list that you used earlier. Try it out loud. Listing can be powerful. and then trying saying that item in the middle. suggesting a List of options but burying that outrageous option in a list. 2) In the near future. it can stand out too much and be annoying.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Exercises for Listing . Try saying it with the strongest item at the end. After these situations occur. See if you can make it sound natural. but as with any technique. Assignments for Listing . but see if you CAN say it. 2) Practice out loud how you would say that list in the situation you used in the previous exercise. Look at the items that were listed and see if one of them maybe seemed very "strong" or "direct". go ahead and create a new item that is very outrageous or direct.Burying Items 1) As you go out and live your life. by burying it in a list. or the most direct item. you may even want to say it in a joking way. in the middle and see if it is a bit easier to imagine saying that list. go ahead and do so. Situation Outrageous or Direct Suggestion you could have made. but do it by burying it in a list. Page 47 . For three different situations that have come up in your life recently. as any opportunities come up where you would like to make an outrageous or quite direct suggestion. and go ahead and practice how you COULD have said it.Burying Items 1) Go back to the previous exercises where you said some "lists" out loud. if you do it TOO much or too blatantly. write down an outrageous or very direct suggestion that you would have liked to make (for each). see if it seems easier to say. 3) Think of some recent situations where you would have liked to mention a quite outrageous or direct suggestion. you will probably encounter some situations where you might want to suggest something quite outrageous or direct. If there is not one. Situation Outrageous or Direct Suggestion 4) For each of those examples (above) go ahead and practice out loud.

" "More and More" is just a way to use these and bring them together.How do you think of them quickly? How do you make them sound natural? Don't worry! It is ok to have pauses! Pauses make things sound more natural and gives you time to come up with options! We talked about the use of pauses as a way to convey some drama and to make things interesting.3. and the more Y. Or.. etc. Lets use this as a chance to really step back for a moment and look at this structure.3. 3.4 Listing. o See how we are listing several items? • We discuss Pace and Lead . So. Using pauses.. consider this: • We talked about listing . and provide many examples to support it.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3. as in . we are pacing and leading.. etc".. and Emphasis D6-T36 You may be worried about coming up with three things in a list . place that item at the END of the List for more power. o See how they are incorporated. you are walking someone through a series of steps or thoughts. and using lists. then the more Y. Maybe one or more of the items actually has an embedded command in it. then. and see how.. In a way. emphasis. "the more YOU FEEL this . or experience. Maybe you want to stress one item more or less. thinking about languaging such as "The more X. then mention several of your points or examples that support what YOU want.4 MORE AND MORE. o See how that is being used here? • We have discuss language details . in a List.. Pauses... the more Z". to "pull" the listener in. the more Y Page 48 .5 Listing Review D6-T37 If you want to get your point across. can help to alter how the options (and you) are perceived. I gave an example (in the audio) of several things I wanted someone to do. In a way. 3. D6-T38 You have heard language like "The more X.. if it's a VERY outrageous option. If you must suggest several different examples or options.. and they WILL stay through the pauses! As you are saying various items in a list. then present it buried within a List of options. remember to use emphasis and change your voice tone with the items. think. and I just strung those together . The general structure here is: • • The more X o where X is something that is hopefully quite obvious and true to the listener ... changing tone. then the more Y.. while incorporating the language tools we have already discussed.. but have ONE that YOU really want to emphasize or get people to agree to. really. this is just a way of bringing together many of the things we have learned.. so this all works in your favor! Just be interesting enough to keep their attention.

.) or thoughts (things you experience or think about. agreeable... which is more of an example of using Pace and Lead of their current reality.. then. 2. You are "leading" someone. as you feel this.. and even more so with the next (more.. then.. and then use More and More to lead them forward . etc How to use it. o walk someone through though process . The small words and verb tenses (past. That's a general version of it. like a series of successive steps (things you do. the more Y.. Tactical Formula for More and More The more X.. experiences..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course • • o Where Y is something that is a logical extension of what the listener knows and they see this as something that makes sense . the More Y. or a new "pattern". THEN make the next item (more.. or thoughts) use "More and More" as a way to string them together (and increase your chances of that happening. you can use "as you" or "while you" as a way to bridge between sections as well. Page 49 . from a general item towards something that YOU want. Strategic Formula for More and More If you want to lead someone through a series of steps (actions. and the more Y happens .) specific. As you X. • • • • As you (or while you) X .. step 1. The best way to do this is to start off with the first item as quite general... the More Y. more and more.. 3.) item. etc). As an alternative. • Sell TV sets. and as Y happens o or as you sense Y. or as Y is happening . then the more Z starts to happen. with "as X is happening".. the More Z.. or realize Y. towards what YOU want. etc. ... or "as you notice X". Instead of seeing this as a new type of language. see it as just a way of using many of the things we have already covered! More and More tends to be best thought of as a "List". you notice this. etc Examples • Convincing friends to go do something that you want to do. The more Y.. future) can be altered to make it fit well. then just list them but use "more" as a way to go from one to the next.. and something obvious. o You can start off with something obvious as a statement to kind of pace them. The More Z. If you have something that you want to lead someone through. You can even start by "pacing" a bit more. present. the more Z.. the more you can notice Y .

and bridging between them as we discussed earlier (More. a series of thoughts or actions that. what to do. the second. of what you want to have happen. 2) Think of the last time you were trying to convince a friend to do something. or have them experience. The first should be obvious. etc. practice saying those in series. something you convince people to do (or wish you could). who should do what. they would end up doing what you wanted.. what project to work on. Exercises for More and More 1) Consider the idea of convincing some friends of going to a movie.. while you. something with which you are familiar. a trip. etc. to get towards doing what you want. Think of three "steps". (Agree where to go to dinner.) Write down three steps. Write these down. more leading. 4) Think of another series from your life. maybe an activity.. 5) Out loud. that would "walk" the other people through the process of agreeing with you. Think about a series of steps. The first should be obvious. or something you want to lead people to do somehow. using "More". work around it and make it sound natural. etc. something. Don't just say "more". a movie. a plan. "as you" or "while you". You may start with "As you" or "while you" for the first one. What you were trying to convince a friend to do Three steps. Think of all of the things you can do tonight Realize that going to a movie would be a good idea Going to see the latest XYZ movie (use whatever movie you wish) See how that is a series of steps? Of thoughts? Like leading someone down a path? Now out loud. to get towards doing what you want. what to buy. if the person followed them. or series of thoughts or actions. Do the series several times. as you. more in your direction. What do you want to convince someone to do Three steps. etc . and string them together using "more".) Page 50 . Think of three "steps".. something simple. Do that several times. more and more. that start off in general. The next is another step in the series. practice and see if you can talk about these one by one.. o Walk her through the process.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • Talking to a woman .. practice saying those three steps. but more and more get closer to what YOU want. 3) Now out loud. or as alternatives. as if in a conversation.

. • How two things are similar • How two things are different • Good . and piece them together and have it sound natural. Maybe just try 2 of the 3 steps once or twice. and even change the specifics of that sequence. The more that happens. Practice that series more! Get very familiar with it.Left Page 51 . or several different subjects. you can talk about. 2) With that "More and More" sequence practiced.White • Right . This method provides a way to keep the conversation going. you have two (or more) aspects of a topic. How to use it.another option • Black . • This works especially well if the subject of the discussion is one that "works" for our purposes (fun..Bad • One option . and you discuss these two aspects using Compare and Contrast. the more things like "knowing what to say" and "what pattern to use" will become easier and easier for you! Notice how we are not doing these examples necessarily with women? Wonder why? 3.. and move a conversation. the more you will understand how they fit together. But get to the point where you can flow easily through the 3 in a series. This Compare and Contrast method here gives you a way to talk about and around the subjects at hand. it's just a good way to think about discussing a subject. • It's not magical in a persuasive sense. or various aspects of a subject. etc. where you could have a series of "states" lead someone through the process of doing what you want.) • Too many guys focus on standard lines such as "So what do you like about X".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Assignments for More and More 1) In the exercises. we had you think of something from your life. Maybe add or change some of the reasoning. seductive. to continue. becoming more and more convinced. you are able to easily go through such a "sequence". look for opportunities to use that in your life. You will see that the more you get these bits and pieces.5 COMPARE AND CONTRAST D6-T54 Listen to an example where many of these are used. A Tactic for Talking • Too many guys let a good conversational subject finish far too quickly. There are various means of doing this. So. or else have the person you are speaking with mention it. • • Take a subject and either mention another aspect of that subject. Just make sure that with that subject. • It also a great way to get information about the person with which you are speaking. • You are just comparing and contrasting things. this is a means to keep speaking. exciting..

How do these differ How are they the same Which is good-bad. taking a position with a more promising future. This all provides a good way to allow the discussion to continue for a while. this meeting. idea. keep the discussion focused on a topic that serves your purposes. As you are talking. states. associate them with things other than you. compare. and contrast these things. or point in a discussion. or individual sports vs. One attribute . • Decisions about a career or job. then discuss these by comparing and contrasting. link away. • Link anything good to you. o You select two items. o Maybe you start to ask her about it (have a discussion with her . or point in a discussion . o While talking about what she does like. Page 52 . good or bad. idea. vs. the offense or the defense. team sports.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • One aspect . deciding to focus on making a good living now. you can talk about one car. Strategic Formula for Compare And Contrast Use this technique to keep the conversation going. you can anchor those away from yourself. and to let the person think about. • Anything bad. you can take note of how the person is responding..another attribute As you are talking. two facets of that subject. you can use all of the other tools we have discussed. and feel those states and emotions for a while as well. etc. • Notice what is liked and not liked • Notice any reactions. • Maybe what is more important to a sports team. and discuss whether the handling makes it better. her. Then discuss the other car. and talk about its attributes as well. • You talk to someone for a while and she say she likes scuba diving.about her) and she mentions various things about that subject. Tactical Formula for Compare And Contrast Take any subject. and you start to talk about something she likes and enjoys doing. that are good for you. etc. • You may talk to a woman. What is different about each? How are they the same? How are they experienced? What is good? What is bad? etc.. you can anchor and link positive things to you! o While talking about things she does not like. what they do not.another aspect -. easy-difficult. You discuss this. Use the other language tools during the discussion. better-worse. and incorporate the language tools. another brand. and this situation that you are sharing. experience. what they like. • • Use opportunities to use commands and trance words to create thoughts. and start to compare and contrast the two. or its power. Select another subject. Examples • One brand of car vs. feelings.

. She says she likes the aspect of it being very quiet and serene under water. Be aware of your language! Throw in adjectives and adverbs. etc). that they do like Do the re-enactment again. Not-Like" set of things to compare and contrast. Subject or thing that they like Attributes (things about) that. she finds the experience of seeing new and different things to be interesting as well.. different style of clothing." or . but this time put some effort into being very aware of the positive and negative things that are being said. Familiarity vs. Page 53 . then I KNOW that you would NOT like THIS . the same holds true even when discussing what you do NOT like. so if you like THAT.. and various things about that subject or topic that they like. etc). As in "so let me make sure I understand this . Re-enact that conversation again.. This example uses a very obvious "Like vs. o So we talk about the feeling of quiet. bike.. be very aware of the positive and negative things that are being said. and those that are not good. 4) Select two of the following 4 topics.". offer the compare-contrast ways of discussing it. she mentions various things about it. 3) Recall a recent conversation with someone you know..same type of thing (another car. Use compare and contrast to talk about each of the attributes that your friend would say they like about that subject... change your tone of voice. and this time. and anchor/link/point appropriately. where they were really describing or talking about something they like. Letting Go Safety and Excitement Liking someone mentally and/or physically o • • • • Exercises for Compare And Contrast 1) Pick some possession that you have that you REALLY like (car. somewhere else. and put effort into correct linking/anchoring/pointing to associate positive things to you. different computer.. Now talk out loud about each. etc. and compare/contrast the two.. etc. your pacing."Oh. Something that you like Something that is opposite 2) Now take that same topic. and negative things . Also. and serenity on one hand o and compare and contrast that to the feeling of something new and different on the other. peace.(because). that within that may be attributes that are good. clothes. Be mindful of that and anchor/link appropriately. Be vary aware that even when you are discussing the thing you "Like".. Now think of what is opposite to that . Maybe some of the language that you are using that may lend itself to be embedded commands. etc. and this time.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Maybe you ask about it. In addition. Something New Control vs. Be descriptive! Use pauses. computer. and talk about it again.

Parts. Too many guys just blow things to quickly. some are bad • Talk about the good parts.6 PARTS D7-T1 Listen to an example where these are used. this just helps to keep things moving in a conversation. this provides a good way to train you to be able to talk and ask questions of people. and get them to talk about what THEY are interested in. Think about the possibilities.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Control vs. Two types of parts we can work with . Who knows. For even more Power There IS a very powerful aspect of this technique that is important to mention. and you lose out on spending a LOT of time having them discuss something that she REALLY likes! This is just a way to have a discussion.1 Parts Of A Subject D7-T4 This is a variation on the contrast principle.. There ARE many things that people tend to THINK of in an "either-or" way. theme. Parts of a subject. People tend to think you have one OR the other. of having all of the positive aspects of Safety.6. BOTH linked and anchored to YOU. it is GOOD to focus on the positive aspects of what she likes..Who wants to talk about something that you are NOT interested in? However. this doesn't necessarily show that you Page 54 .. and say (for example) "what do you like most about scuba diving" or "what is the most fascinating thing about. 3. Some are good. you may end up liking the subject and find a new activity for yourself! Don't worry that you will "give the wrong impression" by inquiring and discussing these "parts". it's too weak. If you are talking about an interesting subject. you can show someone how that can be possible. and that's ALL you discuss. Excitement." and that's ALL they talk about! Yes. that is fun. link away Now this may seem tough . Meaning. and the positive aspects of excitement. Safety vs. but when you go STRAIGHT for the BEST thing that she likes the MOST. if you are asking many questions about something that is NOT of interest to you. then talk about all of the various aspects and parts of it. topic. YOU are then showing someone how BOTH of these things can be experienced. exciting. etc. By comparing and contrasting them. together.. Something New Now do your best to speak out loud and "talk" about these for a while using a Compare and Contrast structure. However there ARE ways to have BOTH. and parts of a person 3. Letting Go Safety and Excitement Liking someone mentally and/or physically Familiarity vs. For example. link them to you • If the bad or boring parts some up. etc.

. Now. If someone asks you about this. that an opportunity to talk for a WHILE about something she likes. just say "I like learning about people. idea. Examples • Scuba Diving . allowing you time to gather information and link yourself to good thoughts.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course are interested in it (the subject). artistic endeavor. Link good thoughts. This isn't just a way for you to ask ask ask HER about things.. that you know. 1) Pick a subject that you like. etc. activity. etc. o Where have they dived? o How did they get into it? o What's their favorite place? o Do they have their own equipment? o Do they use different types of equipment for different locations? o How long have they dived? o Have they ever been in danger? o Have they taken photos? o Have they met interesting people? o Has this exposed them to any other cool sports or activities? o etc. You are just asking. know about. sport. This is a great way to build rapport with a person as well. Tactical Formula for Parts of a Subject Take any subject. don't just ask "What is the most exciting thing about Scuba Diving?" That IS a good question." This technique makes it easier to have conversations with people because THEY are giving you information and ideas for new things to ask about. be comfortable talking about all of the parts of that subject. or point in a discussion. Subjects come up.. what people do. it's hard to talk about that subject for a while.Don't just "talk about" Scuba Diving! Or. but if you start there. and enjoys. Break it down into its component parts and discuss them. don't like. just curious. topics come up.many of which can be linked to you. new things. Page 55 . like. etc. maybe a hobby. Use the language tools in the discussion. Exercises for Parts of a Subject . list various "things" about that subject. and she may have a lot of positive emotions and feeling associated with that . area of interest. Strategic Formula for Parts of a Subject Discussing many of the parts of a subject keeps the conversation going. feelings and emotions. feelings and emotions to yourself. If she LIKES scuba diving.

a job they like. make a list of these parts. Now think of something that THAT person is interested in or they are involved with. This should be someone you know well. Now. maybe pick a different "person" as your subject. Write these down. and you have heard him or her talk about this. Maybe their hobby. You should easily be able to come up with 10-20 items. someone you met at a party. You should be able to come up with at least 10 items. Someone that you recently met. what parts about football would you want them to ask about? For your chosen subject. but hopefully this "subject" is something you are not really into. if you were going to talk to them for like 30 minutes about that subject and were really going to ask them about it. like a co-worker. what would you ask about? What are all of the various things and aspects of it that YOU could inquire about or that could come up in a discussion? These are the "parts" of that subject. Page 56 . etc. and you were going to have someone (who knows very little about the subject) interview you and learn all about football.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course For example. if your subject was football. That Subject: 3) Now think of someone who you are NOT close to (that you do not know that well). Person: Subject: Parts. maybe a cousin you hardly see or talk to. or Things About. or Things About. passion. If you have trouble. or maybe someone in your life that you don't know very well. That Subject: 2) Think of one of your friends or family members and some activity or topic that THEY are really into. Subject: Parts. etc.

who is interested in something that you are NOT familiar with. when you are speaking with a person you do not know hardly at all (yet you feel you will be able to talk to them for 10-15 minutes). out loud. Person: Subject: Assignments for Parts of a Subject 1) Sometime soon. or Things About. mention like 10-15 different things you could ask or inquire about that subject. off the "top of your head". 2) Sometime in the future. Person: Subject: Parts.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course The key here is that this is someone you don't see often. but with which you are NOT familiar. Again. make a point to have a good 10-15 minute conversation about a subject that THEY are really interested in. Make a point to ask about many different parts of that subject. They are talking about something THEY like Thinking about it. and were really going to ask them about it. If you were going to talk to them for like 30 minutes about that subject.. You know the person but you are not real close to them. don't know really well. Now. make a point to have a good 10-15 minute conversation about a subject that THEY are really interested in. experiencing it. you should be able to list at least 10 items. what would you ask about? What are all of the various things and aspects of it that YOU could inquire about? What are the PARTS you could ask about? Write these down. when you are speaking with a friend or family member that you know well. Page 57 . and feeling it.. That Subject: " 4) Think of another person and subject. while YOU are there And you are linking and anchoring things to yourself Using all of the language tools and details And that person is finding YOU so fascinating and charismatic . Make a point to ask about many different parts of that subject. And of course the entire time. but with which you are NOT familiar. like the exercise above. The subject they are interested in is something with which you are NOT familiar.

. o Either in general like "there may be another side" o or more directly. experiencing it.. adventurous . and they feel that way. • Acknowledge the first part that is being discussed. link it to you.. or way of looking at it. they are quiet. more spontaneous side to them. if the person is shy o "I understand how some people are shy. and then say (for example). In this context. lean more on the language and linking tools to bring it out. "parts" are meant as in a personality trait. or part of a person. and I have found she has this other side. etc. • "That's because there is another part. You do not want to appear to challenge or invalidate and personality trait that is being shown. a "side" to the person... there is a more quiet side • If a person is well-thought-out (thinks things through and takes time). In fact a friend of mine is very shy and one time. Let's break this down. that XYZ part". "you may have the other side" o or by example "I know someone like that. they hold back. etc" • Discuss this new or other "part" o "With many people. o "When you start to listen to this adventurous side . or parts. exciting part of a person is being discussed. their way of walking through and looking at the world... and start to discuss and validate that OTHER part... that adventurous side is just waiting to come out.. Don't Confront. another part hidden away. just looking for the right time. A key concept to think about is to ALWAYS assume that there is a part of someone that does agree with you. In a discussion.6.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3. or view. a way of thinking.." • Bring up and acknowledge the fact that there is "another" part. (where XYZ is a different or maybe the opposite behavior. etc. or has the same wishes that you do. etc. what she did . • What if it is not? What if they say they are shy. verify it.. or reserved. etc)" o "I know someone similar who as this other part to themselves.. their reactions. Page 58 . great. Let's say you are in a discussion with someone. In many ways.. directly or indirectly o For example.. • If a person is shy. in a way you are also using Compare and Contrast as well. there is a more adventurous part to themselves • If a person is outspoken. This can be VERY powerful. a way of acting or being is being discussed (and one that does not necessarily work in your favor) . or normally don't "do" certain things? • Then talk about that first (shy) part." o "Many people like that also have another side to themselves. that is more .. we are also reframing! We are changing the way they look at things. Discuss. make it be experienced.2 Parts Of A Person D7-T15 Listen to an example where this concept is used." • There will be a lot of this shown in examples here in this section and at the end of the program. if a personality trait." o "You may have (or do have) another part (or side.. fun. or side. Because you are discussing several things. etc.. that part of the person or type of behavior that DOES agree with you)." • If this new or other "side" works more in your favor.. • If an adventurous. there is a more decisive.

Well. or part of the person by discussing or addressing it Think about a personality trait. or part of the person that is somehow related (which works in your favor) or somewhat opposite.. and evoke favorable states. I understand you have that side to you. and 3 that are opposite. Introduce and discuss that "other part" in a way that works to your advantage. and beliefs. assume there is a part that will work WITH you. This one side . deep down.. o "I was reading somewhere about things like that and what it was saying was. Tactical Formula for Parts of a Person For every part of a person that will work against you. and she realized that she. but it can be handled . You can work around this issue (of possible confrontation) by saying things like o "I think another way of looking at that trait is .. o "A friend of mine does that as well. (not good in a person.... way of thinking.) Exercises for Parts of a Person 1) What if someone says. There are also other sides to people . o "I have a friend who was "X" (where X is the trait being discussed). they like to play things safe. having a conversation... "I am boring". etc etc etc.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • Many times you don't want to say "because there is another part" because that seems too direct... too confrontational.. that can work in your favor.. Remember. • Maybe someone is secretive. it may sound like you are arguing or challenging the person. or part of the person (mostly something which has a negative connotation) Acknowledge that personality trait.. People have many sides to themselves.. discuss. even when the other person claims or demonstrates that such parts are NOT there. so be careful.. was also "Y". Examples: • Lets say that a person says they are not into taking challenges. that may be true but also there is another part of them . Find a personality trait. What personality traits (or what other parts or ways of thinking) are similar? Which are somewhat opposite? Write down 3 that are similar. way of thinking. way of thinking. Traits similar to "Being Boring" Page 59 . and what I noticed about her is that she also has this other side to her." Strategic Formula for Parts of a Person Use Parts of a Person as a way to find. you are NOT discussing this as to say... o "Well.. • Maybe someone lies . • Maybe someone says they can be jealous. "you are wrong" or to show how smart you are! You are just talking. feelings. etc... ..

Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Traits opposite to "Being Boring" Of those that you listed.. and some of the variations mentioned for language examples.. be aware of opportunities to maybe mark off an embedded command or two (or more). Traits similar to "not into meeting any new people" Traits opposite to "not into meeting any new people" Practice out loud how you might first discuss "I am not into meeting any new people right now" and then transition into the other parts or traits that you selected. Page 60 . Imagine a conversation and how you might do this. Practice this out loud. Practice this out loud. but this time. and 3 that are opposite. maybe do some linking an anchoring.. Traits similar to "Being Shy" Traits opposite to "Being Shy" Of those that you listed. etc. use this/that/these/those . pick another part or trait. or ways of thinking) are similar? Which are somewhat opposite? Think about 1-2 that you could use. and then bring up this other "part" that you selected. and then bring up this other "part" that you selected. Look at the formula earlier. Look at the formula earlier. 5) From the list you just made (and selected from). What personality traits (or what other parts. 6) Lets say someone says "I am not into meeting any new people right now" .. Imagine a conversation and how you might do this. and some of the variations mentioned for language examples. which could you maybe "use" in a good way? 2) Think about how you would discuss the boring part. which could you maybe "use" in a good way? 4) Think about how you would discuss that shy part. Now do a similar exercise again out loud. 3) What if someone says that they are shy? What personality traits (or what other parts or ways of thinking) are similar? Which are somewhat opposite? Write down 3 that are similar.

. and offer challenges" many times when studying these materials. See if what they are saying describes or is pointing out any personality traits (or a "part" of themselves. 3) Now that you can recognize these traits when talking to someone. You have probably heard the phrase "structure opportunities. and then point out some other trait or part that might work in your favor somehow. 2) After you have become more comfortable noticing such traits after-the-fact. See if you can note that "part" of who they are. WHILE talking to someone. 8) Lets say someone says they have trouble meeting new people. and then find a way to discuss another part that is more favorable or positive. Or. see if you can notice them WHILE talking to someone. make note of when you are having a personal conversation with anyone. This area has caused some confusion. After the conversation.? What other part. trusting their own judgment. Just notice the trait or part being mentioned. An easy way to do this is when a friend or acquaintance is being self-deprecating in some manner. make a note of these traits or parts. etc could you discuss? Try that out loud. etc could you discuss? Try that out loud. Use the formula and the variations mentioned earlier. or putting him or herself down for some reason. trait. 3.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 7) Do the above example again. but ROW see how many of the speaking and language tools you can use. Opposite (or similar?) trait or part that might actually work in your favor Conversation with Traits or parts that were discussed.. Assignments for Parts of a Person 1) For the next week or two.7 OPPORTUNITIES AND CHALLENGES D7-T34 Listen to an example where I structure opportunities. See if you can arrive at a similar part or trait that you can discuss that could be used in your favor. see if you could maybe think of an opposite one that could be discussed. being open. and has been a bit difficult for many to really understand Page 61 . trait. or mentions a "way of thinking"). acknowledge it. 9) Lets say someone says "I only like dating my TYPE"? What other part. You don't have to discuss them (yet) just make a point to note these traits. and offer challenges to you on the audio. start to bring them up IN the conversation. or parts.

If you can somehow frame or map yourself as being a way for a person to fulfill things that someone already wants. then they already have mechanisms for that in their mind.7. You then find some way to set things up so that choosing to listen to you. o You are saying in a way." • This is NOT about arrogance. and wants to be seen as intelligent. is a way for them to show their intelligence. or want to be perceived as having. o This is the opposite of pleading and the "pedestal" scenario. Why this matters. • It's easy. then by using their existing desires. effect. but may not be the most effective strategy.2 What do people want? - D7-T38 "Universal Wants" = Good. or be with you. Work with universal things that people would like to have.1 Using Their Own Processes D7-T36 If you know what people want to have. Universal Wants • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control • Excitement Page 62 . It's good to somehow work with structures and things that are already in someone's mind. you are just showing that YOU have standards. or like to be perceived as having. 3. or show it. You are in. Challenge them to demonstrate it. • Show that you are qualifying and screening to some extent. In this section. • Use these general things and assume they are there. this can be very effective. Strategic Formula for Opportunities And Challenges Find or assume what someone wants Create an opportunity for them to get it or demonstrate they have it Make that "demonstration" work in your favor.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course and utilize. • Show that you have standards.7. but I am looking for more. these concepts are broken down and offered to you in a way that will truly help you to be able to use these powerful techniques. • These are also good and convenient for practicing and examples. using motivations that a person already has. do it. 3. For example if someone is intelligent. and that you believe in yourself. you are using processes that they ALREADY have in their minds. "You may be beautiful.

or an image she wants other people to have of her. "you can show me that you have the thing you desire.. etc). o If you are able to .. etc • Finding these particular wants and desires o These "wants" can be possessions.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course "Particular Wants" = Better! What does THIS person want? • Notice o o o particular things that this individual would like to have or be perceived as having She mentions wanting respect She defends her position.. and challenging them in a way that says. or want to be perceived as having? Mini-Challenges D7-T40 3. her interests...3 There are certain things you can assume that most people may want to have. what she likes to do... o You seem like you may have good taste o etc.. o Talk about what she does.. What does she want to have. o The smart people I know. o You might see . • Mini-Challenges o You might get this ... or fun.This technique can be overused. You can imply a "test" for these things by issuing a mini-challenge. can (use smart. o Maybe you can . You are challenging an ASSUMED desire (a "Universal Want").... Warning . by listening to me or agreeing with me". o You seem cool enough .. o etc. o Try using some of the above items. and it can really annoy people if you do! Page 63 . o You seem smart enough . wants to have. or maybe a value..... o Are you able to . o You might. along with the Universal Wants listed earlier! • We assume here that with a mini-challenge.. Mini-Challenge Cheat Sheet o You seem .... o You seem as if. that's even better. or want to be perceived as having. and discusses what is important to her She mentions something she likes or dislikes about a past boyfriend.. o If you can . o You may . but if you can find or work with specific wants or desires... or be seen as having "X".7. we are using one of these sort of "universal" wants.. o You seem like . o Talk to her and find out what she wants or needs... or adventurous. o Always have the question below in mind. o Talk about some of yours and see how she reacts. o I wonder if you can ..

• Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control • Excitement Page 64 . and Mini-Challenge Cheat Sheet. • Find what someone "wants". • Challenge them to see if they will follow through and take action to get it.. and see how many combinations you can come up with.. • Universal Wants • Particular Wants Opportunities. or be seen as having.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Tactical Formula for Mini Challenges Assume something she wants to have.. What does someone Want? Assume.4 Opportunities and Challenges D7-T43 Think of it like this.. "Show me you have that thing by listening and/or agreeing with me" or. or been seen as having You can assume based on normal things that people want (Universal Want) or Get information from talking (Particular Want) Create an opportunity for them to get or demonstrate "X". in a way. • Create an opportunity for them to get that • Make it so that them "getting" that works in your favor. (and again.7. what someone wants. or hopefully find. Creating Them Consider the wants and needs that a person may have . Tactical Formula for Opportunities and Challenges Find something "X" that the person wants to have. here we have to "assume" things for the sake of teaching) . Make a statement that says. Exercises for Mini-Challenges 1) Try piecing together items from the Universal Wants List. 3. Challenge the person to do "Y". you will show me you have that". by doing "Y" Make "Y" something that works in your favor. "By listening to and/or agreeing with me.

or show what they have... Challenges Are they ready to take advantage of that (this) opportunity? Challenge them to get what they want. what does a mature person do? How are they seen? How do they react? o They make their own decisions o They trust their own judgment o They can decide to do something NOW. or some way for this person to capture the opportunity • Provide an example of something she can say or do.. Provide an example of someone. where this opportunity benefits you (and hopefully pertains to the situation). and/or HAVING them. and see how doing Y would demonstrate it?> • Does she have what it takes to get X. o Let the person demonstrate how confident they are. o Mention how confident people can meet someone new. • Mention something that you have read. • Maybe point out something a friend did .Think about maturity . talk about DOING them. How can you make that sound like a way for them to "show" something? How to create an opportunity? • Here is a way for you to show me that you really have or was able to get X.How can you create an opportunity for someone to appear confident (that works in your favor)? o Discuss people that YOU know. • Confidence . Maturity .. • Provide an example from your own life. Examples: • Does she really want X and see how Y can get that? • Does she really have X. even if their friends don't approve..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course You need to create an "opportunity" for each of these.. and feel very comfortable with that. Talk about those things. Examples. Create the opportunity for them to show or demonstrate that they have or are perceived as having.. by meeting this "challenge". • Here is how I read/heard that someone else had or was able to get X. o They can go against the grain. and how the confident ones are able to take chances and have fun. on their own. something they want. • Here is a way a friend of mine showed that they have or was able to get X. o .. • Provide a way to demonstrate that they DO have what they want.. o They can do exciting things. o Talk about how confident people can make their own choices. by doing Y? Page 65 . or want to be seen as having Structure this so that it is something that YOU would like them to do..

. she actually felt more secure about being able to take care of herself. I mean. then . Can she see an opportunity to have "X".. Some examples are shown below. to be a way for them to get what they want... as long as you trust yourself enough to feel that is OK .". and do Y to get it? Can she do Y and make it happen? Can she see that Y will get her what she wants? Can she trust herself enough to do Y? etc." Adventurous o Maybe she wants to feel adventurous. Exercises and Assignments for Opportunities and Challenges 1) Make a list of some assumed things that many people may want to have. It's different from the way most guys think. or be perceived as having. there are others shown earlier. to show or demonstrate that? Examples: • Security o Say she wants to feel secure. You discuss success for a while. how she may be adventurous. You talk about that for a while. but... Later. Is she ready to take chances? Take risks? Do something different? Maybe not . Then at some point you talk about you and her getting together. They want X. she may have to do Y to prove that. and she found that by taking chances and risks. their own intuition. Page 66 . Are they ready to do Y. • Find a way to map what YOU want. You talk about a friend who has always wanted to feel secure. you mention "We should get together sometime. and mention that you read somewhere that successful people tend to be able to trust their own judgment.... Assumed Wants 2) Write a Mini Challenge for each if the above items.. what this means to her. and say something like "well. These are your "Assumed Wants". I don't know if you are adventurous enough for this.. • Challenge them to do that. • Find out what someone wants. Success o Maybe "success" is important to her. • • I know this is tricky. It's NOT about creating an argument! Again.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • • • Does she want you to THINK she has X.

. For each person. friends. etc.. quite unique.. "you may . and NOT just things from the "assumed" list.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course "you seem like . Write down these "Wants". Note some of your favorites ones below.. co-workers. write down something that each wants to have." Mini Challenges 3) Practice the list of Mini Challenges you just created. and focus on using these. 5) Think about some people that you know quite well like family. Practice these more. or be perceived as having Page 67 . out loud 4) Make a note of some of the ones you practiced that seem closest to something you could easily say or do with people in your life. Person What they want to have. and go out and actually USE them for a while.. Hopefully these are specific to them. "lets see if this makes sense to you "see if you can follow this . or wants to be perceived as having. "you might...

and write them down. and "opportunity". Some way that questions . What is the opportunity. want to do what you wish. as making them look at you more positively. see if you can create a "challenge"..) So you challenge their dedication to their sport by saying "I was reading about really good athletes and one thing that was pointed out was that a lot of them really can get burned out.A friend wants to be really good at a sport. You are "mapping" it to you because by doing what you discuss.. Page 68 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 6) Consider the "want" that you identified from each of those persons above. and they spend a LOT of time practicing. and how can you "map" it to yourself? Write down these "Opportunities". The good athletes find a way to relax and have fun. (You want that friend to lighten up and be able to spend more time going out and having fun. Is there a way to create an "opportunity" for them to get or achieve that? Can you somehow create an opportunity that can be "mapped" in some way towards yourself. Person Challenge 8) Practice each of those "Challenges" out loud. are they ready? Can they take action? Can they DO this? Write down these "Challenges". or that in some way could be interpreted. they will be doing something that YOU want. and that allows them to be better at their sport. See if you can make it sound natural. Example ." The "opportunity" is for them to be a better athlete. etc? Give that some thought. even subconsciously. Person Opportunity for them to get what they "want" that somehow works in your favor 7) For each "want".

Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 9) As you become more familiar with these practiced challenges and opportunities. Do what you can to bring these up while in the conversation if you can. so that you have heard them SO MANY TIMES. but now also start to look for "opportunities and challenges" in a way that directs their desires towards you. These. This is one area that many guys actually ARE able to pick up and use easily if they have listened to the materials enough. to do things that you would want.. but also ask some questions and get into a discussion about it if possible. they mean something different. really focus on what each person desires. 3. What do they "want". we will not be doing any specific work on Ambiguities. listen. Those) MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures o Linking Gestures (Towards And Away) o Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This. see if you can bring them up in conversations over the next few weeks. that these become familiar. do the same in terms of observing desires.8 AMBIGUITIES D7-T64 If you have studied this material for a while. but in another context. • SPEAKING POINTERS o The "Cool" Factor o Voice Tone And Tonality o Pacing And Pausing o Energy And Enthusiasm LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS o Adjectives And Adverbs o Trance Words o Weasel Phrases o Embedded Commands o Linking o Easy-Linking (This.. That. 10) While you are talking to people for the next 1-2 weeks. listen. listen.. 3. Listen. They may have one meaning in one context.) o Easy Anchoring . These are those words or phrases that can mean more than one thing.9 SUMMARY D7-T66 Bringing it together. Try to guess.. That. Although there could be a section in this course that deals with these areas. look at how many items we have covered so far. 11) For the next 1-2 weeks. you no doubt have heard many examples of "ambiguities".Point Or Touch On Positive And Negative LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES o Pace And Lead " Topics and Subjects * Mindset of Frame • Current Reality o Give Them A Reason • • • Page 69 . given that this IS an area that many guys are able to do (with enough listening) and given the many OTHER areas that really DO need the assistance of a program like this.

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These are the building blocks for good Language skills. These are the sorts of skills that are most workable when they are truly "wired in" to someone, so that they are able to be used automatically. To try to "remember" to do such things can be very difficult. That approach would make having a conversation far too difficult and too much work! The best way is to work with these techniques SO much that these truly are just a part of "how you talk". With enough practice, and hearing these enough, you CAN have these become a part of how. YOU talk! So listen, practice, do the exercises, do the assignments, and do that all again, until these really do become a part of you, and a part of how you speak.

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D8-T1 A key aspect of making these tools work is getting the conversation into topic areas that will really work for you. The language tools you studied earlier are best used in the proper context, and in this section, we will learn how to get the conversation into areas that will create that context. Have you had these problems? • You JUMP too quickly into a pattern or topic, and it sounds really strange? • You just THROW a pattern AT her, and get a weird reaction? When you use these tools, or even use "patterns", it's not enough to just "say it", there has to be the correct CONTEXT for what is said! It's a process that she needs to go on and through with you. It's not enough to just find a conversational excuse to "throw" a pattern (or language tool) AT her! This section is about finding ways to just get into an interesting conversation and then towards and onto good topics. We want this to seem natural, and with some understanding, practice, and a few key strategies and tactics it will BE natural and automatic! 4.1 4.1.1 CHALLENGES -a Detailed And Specific Plans Are Just Not Workable. D8-T3

It's good to theorize to "say this", and then "say that", and then to use "this pattern", and "that pattern". However, the problem is that a lot of time the proper context is not presented well enough. The examples you may have seen in other products are just that, examples. The problem is that too many guys have taken them literally! Guys try to do "X, Y, Z," exactly, in order, with no sense of calibration, or being able to work and re-direct things in real time. Therefore, detailed tactical plans are not realistic. 4.1.2 Navigation Example D8-T4

Think of moving a conversation to a certain point, like taking a trip somewhere. Say you are in Chicago, and want to go to Los Angeles. You could have a detailed map of every turn and road, exact route numbers and lengths, etc. The problem is... what do you do if there is a detour? What if the road is changed, what if the map is wrong? You are lost! What if, instead, we teach you how to drive the car, and give you a general set of directions like "keep driving west, until you see the ocean, then turn left (south)". That way, you can handle just about any turns, roads, or detours that you may encounter! Conversations are different from roads too, because people are all unique, situations, times, surroundings etc. are unique and change from moment to moment. Therefore, if you want to get a conversation to go a certain way, then detailed plans made ahead of time are hard to work with. There are too many variables! We need a workable set of strategies and tactics that allows you, in real-time, to direct things the way that you want them to go. They need to be easy to follow, and easy to use, and something that you don't need to "think about", but can just DO easily.
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So we need a general set of guidelines, some overall strategies and tactics, so that you can have this good, intuitive sense of how to "steer" things, and get conversations to where you want them to go. As long as you are engaging a woman's emotions, capturing & leading her imagination, then you are moving in the right direction. Then, in that situation and in that context, linking all the positive & powerful things to you becomes more workable. Instead of a map, we are giving you a "compass". We need a strategy for managing conversations that can to do this gradually, in a way that seems natural! If it's too abrupt or makes the conversation strained, it will sound weird. The strategy must LEAD the conversation towards good topics and subjects in a way that seems natural, and is not TOO abrupt. Examples: (Listen to the audio.) • Talking about a printer o Moving TOO quickly towards emotional topics o Can sound strange • Driving a car and taking a turn (Analogy) o Think of driving down freeway and needing to switch to different direction. o You can't make a hard, right angle turn on a dime! o You need to turn the car, slowly, on a ramp to go in a different direction. When we control conversions, we need to find a way to take it gradually in a new direction. Many guys try to do the hard and fast switch, and they crash in the process! We will learn to move things in a way that makes it seem natural, but it will be deliberate. 4.1.4 She Must Be Engaged In The Conversation! D8-T10

It's important to get conversations into the right area and have HER go along with you. Not just "bring it up" (a topic or pattern), but it must be natural and she must "go along" with it and be a PART of it. She must be actually THINKING about what you are discussing! It has to happen naturally. No weird jumps. It's not enough to just talk; she must BE a part of the conversation! So, don't just "jump" to a topic. Don't find an "excuse" to bring it up. Take the conversation there, take her WITH you, and have her be a part of it! What really helps is to have a genuine interest (or at least curiosity) in her and the conversation, not just thinking to yourself; "How can I use this?" 4.2 HOW CONVERSATIONS HAPPEN D8-T12

How does this really occur? We will break this down so that we have a way to really affect this process. 4.2.1 Conversational Dynamics D8-T13

How do conversations happen? Most of them occur somewhat randomly as the conversation flows from topic to topic over time, and can end up almost anywhere after a while. By the time YOU move from one topic to the next,
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you may end up in a very different place from where you began. However, there is a series of steps as things move forward, as shown in Figure 4.2.1-1.

Figure 4.2.1-1: Conversations Move Through Many Topics

Each of these steps between topics tends to be related. Topic 1 relates to Topic 2. Topic 2 relates to Topic 3, etc. For example, you can start to talk about Cars, and then move to one aspect of that topic, Car Seats. Then it's easy to move to some aspect of that topic, which maybe something that seats are made of, like Leather. Then maybe you talk about Leather Furniture, etc. (See Figure 4.2.1-2.)

Figure 4.2.1-2: Each Topic Flows To the Next Topic In most cases, each Topic is related to the one before.

After a series of such steps, you can be at a quite different topic (like an apartment that you used to live in) even though you started at a quite different topic (Cars). In most cases, it's very difficult to predict where a conversation will go after many of these steps. As you go through a few topic shifts (as shown in the diagrams), although each individual shift relates to the topic before and after that shift, after a series of shifts you can end up talking about almost anything! Therefore, even if you start the conversation at a great topic, you can get off-track and into topics that will not work in your favor. Conversely, what is needed is a way to start at almost any topic at all, and by steering that process (of moving from Topic 1, to Topic 2, Topic 3, etc) take the conversation into better and better topic areas that will serve your purposes. 4.2.2 Conversational Model D8-T14

We introduce a model to assist in discussion, understanding, and control of conversations. If you start at a topic, how do you go to another one? This process happens all of the time very easily. The key is that the movement from one topic to the next takes places easily because there are so many options involved. From any topic (Topic 1) it is easy to flow to any of 6-8 other, related topics (Topic 2 Candidates). People usually just "talk" and naturally the conversation moves from the first topic to the next one. Since the "next" topic is related, this process seems natural and is easy to do. In fact, you do this all the time without really knowing about it. (We are creating a model to describe a process that happens naturally, so that we can teach you a way to have an affect on that process). Figure 4.2.2-1 shows how from one topic, the conversation can flow easily to many related topics.

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Figure 4.2.2-1: From One Topic to many Candidate Topics The topic of Cars is discussed, and from there are many ways the conversation can easily move.

Once the conversation moves to one of these eight topics, it's easy to move to one of eight more. For example if in Figure 4.2.2-1, the conversation flows from "Cars" to "Where you bought it" (as in, where you bought the car), then now we have a situation like that shown in Figure 4.2.2-2.

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Figure 4.2.2-2: From A Second Topic, Another Group of Candidates If "Cars" was discussed first, and then "Where you bought it" was discussed next, there are now many ways to go in the next step. In the figure, you see how the conversation moves from Cars, to "Where you bought it". After that, there are many "candidate" topics where the conversation can flow. Perhaps it moves to the "Part of town" where the car was purchased.

Now from the topic of "Where you bought it" (a car), there are easily eight places that you can go from there, shown as the "Topic 3 candidates". This process continues throughout a conversation. This process happens regardless of the specific topics being discussed. Conversations flow from topic to topic, as shown in a general manner in Figure 4.2.2-3.
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In general.2-4 shows what happens when all the topics are considered. then talk about Z" are very difficult to really work with. In many ways. This results in easily over 500 topics that could be selected by the time we arrive at Topic 4! In only three shifts of the topic ("topic shifts" as shown in the figure) we end up with many many possibilities of where the conversation might end up. then EACH of the eight different candidates for Topic 2 can then lead to their own eight. when talking to some random person. you can affect this process (and we will teach that to you). When this happens in succession. Do you see why the pre-planned approaches can be difficult?! Even if you ARE able to have the conversation start from a specific place (Topic 1). you can end up with the conversation going almost anywhere! Figure 4. you can have up to eight different ways to go at EACH step. and the conversation flows along in this manner.2. If Topic 1 can lead to eight different candidates for Topic 2. then talk about Y. since it's so easy to go from any topic to 6-8 others. With some skill and technique. an so on.2-3: Topics Flow from One to the Next Each topic in a conversation can easily lead to 6-8 others. the plans that many guys try to use to "Talk about X. and at each step after that. the Figures that have been shown so far only show a small portion of the total topics towards which a conversation can flow. because there are SO many ways that things can go! Page 75 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Topic 1 Topic 2 Topic 3 Topic 4 Figure 4. there is no way to know exactly where it will end up by the time you have moved forward a few steps! Imagine trying to predict ahead-of-time exactly where you may arrive (among those 512 options).2. However.

2-4: Topic Candidates and Topic Shifts If each topic can flow to eight others. It then can flow easily to maybe 6-8 others (the diagram shows fewer for the sake of clarity). Page 76 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 1st Topic Shift 2nd Topic Shift 3rd Topic Shift Figure 4. you can end up in over 500 different topic areas! We can create a general Conversation Model that shows this process (Figure 4.2. a conversation may start from one topic or subject (Topic 1).2-5). As seen in the diagram. it can flow from there. Once Topic 2 has been discussed. then after only three shifts in the topic. and so on.2.

if you assume that from any topic you could go to any of 8 other topics.2.2-5: Conversation Model The "Tree of Subjects" showing how thousands of subjects can be reached in just a few steps of the conversation. In fact. There are SO many ways it can flow. it is quite easy to move from that onto 6-8 related topics.2. This process of moving from the first topic to one of 6-8 relevant topics is the process of moving through a "Topic Turning Point" as shown in Figure 4.2. If you are discussing one specific topic. then for that diagram to be really accurate it would have to show over 30. The diagram only shows a small fraction of them (so that the diagram is not even more cluttered than it already is!). that they become far too many to shown in the diagram.000 different subjects or topics that could be discussed by the time you are at "Level 6" in the conversation!! 4. is an awareness of this phenomenon that is called the "Topic Turning Point".3 Topic Turning Point D8-T15 The KEY concept the needs to be understood to gain the ability to manage conversations. Page 77 .3-1. (The figure only shows a portion of how many subjects and topics can be reached).Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Figure 4.

as long as the new topic is "related" to the first (this is shown in the diagram by the "candidates") then this change is easy to do. Page 78 . Someone might make a comment. A general way of looking at this process is shown in Figure 4. after one topic has been discussed for a short while. The key thing to realize is that this process of Topic Turning Point (TTP) selection occurs over and over. and throughout a conversation.3-1: The Topic Turning Point (TTP) When discussing any topic (First Topic) there are easily 6-8 different topics to which the conversation can be moved (Candidate Topics). the conversation "shifts" slightly.2. For example.3-2: How TTP Selections Effect the Conversation The selections made at each TTP are what actually "steer" the conversation in a certain direction. the conversation can then move to another topic. ask a question.3-2 Topic Turning Points Figure 4. the overall flow of a conversation comes about due to many of these TTP choices being made. make a statement.2.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Candidate Topics Figure 4. However. Therefore. introduce an idea.2. etc.

) Page 79 . to "route" conversations so that they end up being the kinds of conversations that YOU want to have. they Good Boring Bad Argument could be more specific (and we will get there). (See Figure 4. you can direct where the overall conversation goes. with some awareness of this process.. • Other people direct conversations based upon their own moral or religious values. and do so in a way that sounds VERY natural. Look in the diagrams. they somehow see it in terms how in effects their beliefs. we are going to later teach you a way to be able to make these TTP selections. choices are made moment to moment.3 4. 4.Those are just general examples. These people are able to automatically make TTP choices based on a strategy of finding good. However. but you will have some control over the overall direction. This selection just "happens". interesting things". IMPORTANT: The overall direction of a conversation comes about due to a successive selection of TTPs. no matter WHAT is discussed. and interesting.. depressing Confrontational . Sometimes this can be VERY apparent. fun. and that work in YOUR favor. In a very broad sense. and the conversation tend to into one of four general areas. For example: • Maybe someone always finds a fun.. fun. Can you see how you may be able to affect where a conversation goes? You might not be able to predict EXACTLY where it ends up. As you have probably guessed by now. Many people do this "TTP selection" process automatically.1 GENERAL CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Want.3. positive way to look at anything. These types of people are making TTP selections based on a strategy of finding things that are negative to talk about.. and imagine if you had a general way to manipulate these TTPs.. D8-T16 D8-T16 So how can you actually affect the flow of a conversation. is coming soon. they find a way to point out something negative. positive. • Other people able to direct conversations based on their own beliefs and their own political motivations as well. very quickly. • Other people may do the opposite. easily and naturally? That IS the point. conversations are one of four types: • • • • Fun. fun.) then you CAN direct how a conversation flows. no one is "deciding" the TTPs. positive aspects of every topic being discussed. moment-to-moment. we want the conversation to be positive. interesting Mundane and uninteresting Negative.1-1. The overall strategy at the beginning is then to "talk about positive. conversations tend to go in one of several ways.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Normally. By manipulating TTPs from moment to moment.3. So to start our process of learning how to manage conversations. isn't it? In general. No matter WHAT you talk to them about. That ability alone is enough for our purposes.. and some training (which . The flow of the conversation starts. we want to first start to steer things in the best general manner. and they quick steer the conversation in that manner.

you see that you want to focus the conversation onto topics that are "Fun. fun. Page 80 .1-1: General Conversational Management Consider all of the ways a conversation can go. Don't engage in conversations when it's NOT about positive. you can still "steer" back towards "Fun. positive and interesting. fun. If you break that down into 4 main directions.3.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course General Conversational Management Conversations tend to flow in one of four major ways. fun. No matter what is brought up. interesting things. so from the earliest stages. and Interesting". Positive. Positive. Even if things move towards other areas. and Interesting" things. do what you can to steer in that direction. steer towards Fun. interesting things. and Interesting topics and subjects. Strategic Formula for General Conversational Management To steer the conversation in a good direction. Figure 4. Introduce topics that are fun. How do you do that? • • • Show interest when someone discusses positive. bring up positive. interesting things. Positive.

and interesting?" Move the conversation in that direction. Positive. and Interesting". So you just think to yourself "Where can I go that is fan.2-1. the TTP. Moment To Moment D8-T19 Look at the overall flow of a conversation and break it down to its smallest point that we can affect. or something you read. and interesting" (See Figure 4. move things towards the related topics that are "Fun. you can always think of 6-8 other related topics or subjects.. Which Of these are Fun.2 How To Steer Conversations.Where can I go that is "fun.3.) Tactical Formula for General Conversational Management Keep thinking .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4. . Repeat. TTP Mantra . Page 81 . Positive. positive. and interesting" and just move things in that direction. positive. and Interesting? That is the direction to go! Candidate Topics Figure 4. and then you move things in that direction! Remember . • Etc. You then think of several ways you can go (the related topics. you make note of where you are in the conversation. as long as it moves things in a way that answers the question "Where can I go that is fun."Where can I go that is fun. TTP options. For any subject. By manipulating TTPs from moment to moment.. as we discussed earlier.3. the topic "candidates" that were shown earlier). How do you move things in that direction? You can: • Ask a question • Make a comment • Make a joke • Quote someone you heard.2-1: Topic Turning Point Navigation for General Conversational Management No matter what subject you start talking about. positive. and then steer things in the correct direction. you can direct where the overall conversation goes. and interesting"? Moment-to-moment.3. You think of the "candidates" (the related topics or subjects that you can discuss) that serve you at the time. positive.The overall direction of a conversation comes about due to a successive selection of TTPs.

you get to an overall "area" that will work. just keep thinking about where you can go that is "Fun. (See Figure 4. but in the early part of the conversation.) Keep things moving in the direction of Fun.3..3-1: Moving Through Topics Using General Conversational Management Early in a conversation.3-1. Do this for a while. and Interesting". and interesting". "fun. you can work more towards certain topic areas.3.3 The Model With Strategy And Tactics In Place D8-T23 As you make TTP choice after TTP choice (See Figure 4. 4. positive. and Interesting! Figure 4.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Later in the conversation. the most important thing to do is to focus on moving thing in a direction that is . You are steering things towards the direction that you want the conversation to go..). Positive. Page 82 .3-2.3.3. Positive.

Positive.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course General Conversational Mgt Model No matter where you start.3. or where you are. what was the main topic? Topics Page 83 . and Interesting!/ Figure 4.3. and write down the topic for each. At some particular moment early in the conversation. Positive. especially early in a conversation. 4. keep steering in the right direction and in many cases you WILL get towards the right area soon enough (and if not.4 Exercises and Assignments D8-T25 Exercises for General Conversational Management 1) Think of some conversations that you have been in recently. always move towards topics and subjects that are Fun. Even if you temporarily move away from that direction or end up in an area that is not very positive or interesting.3-2: General Conversational Management Model The most important direction to go. maybe that person is not someone that you want to talk to anyway). and Interesting topics and subjects. is towards Fun.

Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 2) Based on each of those topics. consider it a topic that leads to a TTP (copy each item above into the "Topic" area below). ask about. list 6-8 different ways you could go. For each of those Topics. Topic TTP Options (Candidate Topics') Page 84 . directions you could "take" the conversation (these are the TTP Options. things you could comment on. or Candidate Topics). Write each of those down.

etc. making a statement. Positive. which are the best? Which of these would move the conversation in a way that is best for you (think of "Fun. 4) For each Topic. maybe by making a comment.. and Interesting")? Select two "candidates" and circle or highlight those two. whatever it might take to move things in that direction. what would it have been like to have moved the conversation in the direction of the first item you circled? Practice that out loud for each Topic above. 5) Practice again on each by moving things in the direction of the second item that was circled.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Of the 6-8 different TTP Options you have written above for each Topic. Page 85 . asking a question.

• By moving things in this way. When talking to anyone. and people REALLY interested. positive. Do this for a while until the process of finding 1 or 2 good "Ways to go" in a conversation (good TTP options) can happen very rapidly for you. make a comment. You then have to wonder . thinking "what COULD I have done. don't worry." 4. In general. etc.Is that the sort of person you want to talk to and spend time with? Maybe not.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Assignments for General Conversational Management 1) For the next week or so. the more YOU can and will become that guy! 4. you may have to think of 6-8 options. and positive conversation. You may start to find however. interesting. 2) Now that you are able to quickly find 1 or 2 good TTP options. Interesting. start to take the conversation there! Ask a question. It WILL get easier. positive and interesting topics. maybe offer an opinion. inquire about something. engaging.4. we want to work with topics that get the emotions involved. look for moments where things can be "steered" in a certain way.1 ADVANCED CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Really Want. that no matter WHAT you do with some people. Positive. we can start to direct the conversation into an even BETTER area. they will not go down a path of having a fun.3. having conversations with. we want it to be really interesting. we are turning you into someone that people LIKE to talk to! You know the type of person that people enjoy talking to. the conversation becomes more enjoyable for everyone. Building on what we learned in the last section. or without an overall strategy in mind). If this is a challenge for you. interesting. whatever it takes. and spending time with? The type of guy that people seek out to spend time with? The more you do these types of exercises. even at the start of a conversation. We want to focus the aim of our conversational management skills even more. Maybe start out by looking at conversation after the fact. After a while. but the REAL key is to at least get to the point where you can very quickly think of at least 1 or 2 ways to go that are Fun. Make it so that it becomes easy for you to come up with a list of "options" very quickly. where COULD I have taken things". By manipulating TTPs from moment to moment. At any moment you should be able to think "Where can I go with this?". really be aware of the TTP opportunities in your day-to-day life. the imagination moving. Instead of the more general area of fun. At first. we want things to get even more Page 86 . Just do what you can so that the TTP shifts in a direction that is fun. you can direct where the overall conversation goes.5 Summary D8-T32 Remember what was said earlier: • The overall direction of a conversation comes about due to a successive selection of TTPs (which normally occur at random. fascinating. D8-T33 D8-T33 We want the conversation to be more than just positive.4 4.

how do we work that in what we are doing moment-to-moment? How can we do things that will make that happen? Page 87 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course interesting. and steer using Advanced Conversational Management Figure 4. steer the conversation towards directions that engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way. Strategic Formula for Advanced Conversational Management To direct the conversation into even BETTER areas. We move forward and want to get a more emotional tone. Using General Conversational Management. To move the conversation into more interesting areas. we now shift our strategy of "steering" things to direct the topics in a more focused manner using Advanced Conversational Management.1-1: Advanced Conversational Management Focuses the Steering From the start of a conversation. Now from that point.) General Conversational Management takes the conversation into the Fun. So.1-1. there are many ways the conversation can move. there are many ways to go. there were 4 main directions towards which a conversation may go. (See Figure 4. to "steer" things even more towards what we want. Positive. more excitement. With that as a general strategy. We use our strategy of working with the TTPs. Interesting area. From there. we were able to move things in the direction of Fun. So we narrow our focus. Positive. and Interesting.4. and more involvement of the imagination. you move it in ways that engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way.4.

4. With that established. we need to change the way the model is shown.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4. Positive.4.3-1 for an explanation. we need to use the TTP as a way to move things in the right direction. we can assume that we are talking about subjects which fit into the "Fun. See Figure 4. we shift the focus of how we navigate TTPs.3 The Model With Advanced Strategy And Tactics In Place D8-T38 (Before we move on to looking at the model.Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Move the conversation in that direction. TTP Fun.) TTP Mantra " Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Tactical Formula for Advanced Conversational Management Keep thinking .2 Steering Conversations Moment To Moment using Advanced Conversational Management D8-T35 Again.) Page 88 . and explain a bit more as to its meaning and interpretation.4. 4.2-1: Topic Turning Point Navigation for Advanced Conversational Management After using General Conversational Management for a while. and with that strategy in mind. and Interesting" area.4. Positive. Repeat.4. we look at the concept of the TTP. but now think "where can I go that will engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way".2-1. (See Figure 4. Interesting Topics Which of these "Engage the Emotions and imagination in a Positive Way"? That is the direction to go! Candidate Topics Figure 4.

it may take ten. the graphics we will use will show an even more "condensed" version of this process. The locations of points (1). Positive. For example. In practice. and Interesting conversation (2) may take four steps. where every "step" (TTP. At that point. not an exact number of steps or outcomes. or thirty. so that the various stages of a conversation can be easily illustrated. But after using the general techniques (Fun. Figure 4. and it ends up at a certain area (2). and (3) in the figure above (and in the next figure) helps to show this.4.) the conversation moves on for a while. For example. From now on in the course. once again ending up with thousands of topics that could be discussed by the time you get through more topic shifts (3). Positive. This can result in so many possibilities (many thousands within a few steps) that it's important to look at these diagrams as a way to show "trend". etc. It may happen in ten minutes. When starting from ANY topic (1) to a place where you are firmly established for a period of time in a Fun. there can be a whole "tree" of possibilities leading from there. the model above is what we used to show a starting point (1). these diagrams will indicate a VERY condensed version of the number of steps involved.3-1: Understanding the Conversational Management Model The "levels" shown in the models are not meant to be exact.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Understanding the Conversational Management Model The model attempts to show a process that has many many steps. but a way to show a "trend". Page 89 . we are not showing that there are exactly "four steps" between points (1) and (2). (2). or topic shift) shown on the digram may represent many steps in an actual conversation. with thousands upon thousands of possible possible routes and outcomes.

Now the emphasis is on ways to "Engage the Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way". you can see how General Conversational Management. emotional topics. to yourself! Advanced Conversational Management Model Figure 4. or 30 minutes. only a few of which are shown in the diagram. you end up linking and associating many fascinating.3-2: Advanced Conversational Management Model Early in the conversation. we now focus more on moving in a direction that will "Engage the Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way". 20.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course We started at one topic. 10 topic shifts. are used together to move forward in a conversation. The subjects will get more and more fascinating. This is shown between points (2) and (3). and states.4. For a while. General Conversational Management techniques are used. And of course while doing that. Page 90 . 10.4. As time goes on. if you use the language tools which we learned about earlier in the course. After that has been established. exciting. or however long it takes to be firmly established in a Fun. the conversation will get better and better. This also is followed for a series of steps and a period of time. 8. If you follow these two simple strategies together (and the tactical approach of simply watching the TTPs and moving things in the right way). until it is firmly established that the conversation has engaged the emotions and imagination of the participant. Although the diagram shows only 2 steps (for simplicity). Then a shift is made towards focusing the conversation even more using Advanced Conversational Management. we focused the conversation towards moving things in a direction that is "Fun Positive and Interesting. and could be at any of thousands of topics after 6. If you refer to Figure 4. This is shown from point (1) to point (2) in the diagram. and then Advanced Conversational Management. This too can take any number of steps. feelings. Positive. in practice it may be good to follow a series of topics for 5. the conversation will get more and more of an "emotional" tone to it. and Interesting conversation (2). subjects.3-2.

directions you could "take" the conversation (these are the TTP Options. Write each of those down.4 Exercises and Assignments D8-T39 Exercises for Advanced Conversational Management 1) Think of some conversations that you have been in recently. or Candidate Topics).4. positive. and interesting conversation. Topic a. ask about. what was the main topic? Topics 2) Based on each of those topics. At some particular moment in that conversation. consider it a topic that leads to a TTP (copy each above into the "Topic" areas below). and write down the topic for each. things you could comment on. For each of those Topics. TTP Options (Candidate Topics') Page 91 . list 6-8 different ways you could go. These should be conversations where it is already obvious that it is a fun.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4.

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start to take the conversation there! Ask a question. So. Maybe start out by looking at conversation after the fact. but the REAL key is to at least get to the point where you can very quickly think of at least 1 or 2 ways to go that "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way".. Do this for a while. If this is a challenge for you.5 4. until the process of finding 1 or 2 ways to go that "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way" in a conversation can happen very rapidly for you. and interesting. thinking "what COULD I have done. really be aware of the TTP opportunities in your day-to-day life. D8-T46 D8-T47 D8-T47 As you can see. positive. asking a question. It WILL get easier. At first. fascinating. Just do what you can so that the TTP shifts in a direction that can "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". we are "steering" things more and more in a direction that we wish to go.5. 5) Practice again on each by moving things in the direction of the second item that was circled. what would it have been like to have moved the conversation in the direction of the first item you circled? Practice that out loud for each Topic above.4. which 1 or 2 would tend to "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way"? Which ones move things in a way that is best for you? Select two "candidates" and circle or highlight these two. maybe offer an opinion. So. inquire about something. whatever it might take to move things in that direction. what next? At some point in the conversation. seductive things. you may have to think of 6-8 options. whatever it takes. even things with some degree of sensual connotation to them. once again. This is best when applied to a conversation that is ALREADY fun. we want to steer things more towards romantic. etc. making a statement.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Of the 6-8 different TTP Options you have written above for each Topic. make a comment.5 4. we focus further on the TTP options! Page 93 . but be especially aware of wanting to move things to "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way".1 Summary MORE ADVANCED CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT More About Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Really Want. maybe by making a comment. Assignments for Advanced Conversational Management 1) For the next week or so.. 4. 4) For each Topic. 2) Now that you are able to quickly find 1 or 2 good TTP options for yourself that "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". don't worry.. where COULD I have taken things".

5. then the focus shifts again towards directing things in a specific way.3-1.2 Steering Conversations Using More Advanced Conversational Management D8-T49 TTP Mantra (See Figure 4. The focus now is upon topics that get you closer towards Romantic. fascinating. positive and interesting thing. Moving towards romantic.3 The Model With More Advanced Strategy And Tactics In Place D8-T52 We are just closing in. fascinating."Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. you will have taken things in the right direction and this will be much easier.5. and then topics that engage the emotions and imagination. seductive things?" Figure 4. Repeat.2-1. and followed the other strategies and tactics shown earlier.5. and focusing more and more towards areas and topics that work. seductive things?" Move the conversation in that direction.) Page 94 . fascinating. and seductive things.) "Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. and associating YOU with them! (See Figure 4. Seductive things Tactical Formula for More Advanced Conversational Management Keep thinking .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Strategic Formula for More Advanced Conversational Management To further direct the conversation into even BETTER areas. if you have been in a conversation for a while. seductive things is much easier after you have first move towards fun. 4. Fascinating.5. However.2-1: Topic Turning Point Navigation for More Advanced Conversational Management After using General and Advanced Conversational Management. 4. fascinating. steer the conversation towards romantic. This gets her mind into thinking more and more about these things. This may seem odd or hard to do.5.

and Seductive. shown from point (1) to (2).. moving to point (4) Page 95 . Then the Advanced Conversational Management Techniques place the focus more upon items that involve the Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way. there is a different focus at each stage. After that type of conversation has been established (3). Early on. Positive. the focus moves towards selecting items based on More Advanced Conversational Management. and Interesting. Fascinating.5. which targets topics and subjects that are Romantic.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course More Advanced Conversational Management Model Figure 4. moving to point (3).3-1: More Advanced Conversational Management Model As the conversation progresses. General Conversational Management techniques place the focus on selecting items that are Fun.

6. that they will get an AMAZING reaction in their first movement across the Model. Moreover.6. (See Figure 4.6. then a sensual one. 4. Page 96 . and get things to be more and more fascinating and exciting. and then . will work in your favor.6 CONVERSATIONAL FRACTIONATION D9-T1 Using these Conversational Management skills in the real world may be quite different in practice from the way most guys "think" it will happen. and then an emotional one.MAGIC! However that is NOT the way it works in the real world. to a positive one.) The Dream that Does Not Happen! Figure 4.1-1: The Dream of a 1-Shot Path To Success! A common misperception is that many guys think that if they can just move a conversation from the start. This hardly ever ever happens.1-1. Too many guys are too caught up in this one-shot dream of traveling once across the model and getting an amazing result. the way it really DOES happen.1 The 1-Shot Beeline Fallacy D9-T2 Guys assume that they will travel from a general topic.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4.

6. You just start the process again. you take a conversation from the early stages through the process. This actually works better! We are actually using Fractionation. Just start the process again. no matter how the conversation jumps around. you are always moving towards positive topics. So. This actually ADDS to the power and effectiveness of what you are doing. no matter where you start. starts. you back off.. using the Conversational Management techniques Get as far through the model as you can. the conversation ends up being very interesting and fascinating! 4. etc. you may jump back just several steps in our Conversational Management Process. Then you "back up" to some extent (even all the way back to a very general topic area) and then move forward across the model again. This is where a process is done repeatedly over and over. You might do that on your own. move on to the next step.. No problem.. Start at any topic (you are on the far left side of the Model) Move forward towards the right. and then at some point.) a) b) c) d) Page 97 . and fascinating and seductive topics. No problem. restarts..6.. And again. Because no matter where you start from. Of if you can't seem to get to a good place.. Have fun... Great! Talk about that for a while. moving through the model towards the right. Maybe you move all the way back to a very "normal" topic (which would be all the way on the left side of the model). here is how this works. g) Do the whole process over and over.. So.. goes for some distance through the model (maybe all the way through). If you get to a very good place. Use the language tools.31. Then at some point.2 How Fractionation Works D9-T3 The real world has stops. emotional and imaginative topics. The conversation starts. or maybe the conversation shifts back to that place due to something she says. When we say "go back". Maybe you start from a very general topic and get all the way through the model towards a very very fascinating topic or subject.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4. You back up to a more general topic. stay there and talk about it for a while. and then . you go back towards something more "normal". e) Then move back (towards the left side of the model) This may happen because: • The person you are talking to does that (she asks a question) • Or maybe you do it (just to lighten things up) f) Then start again.6.3 Using Conversational Fractionation D9-T5 Start at some normal topic and move through the model towards the right. In this way. (See Figure 4. Maybe several times.

This is not a problem.4 Dead Ends Come Back To Life! D9-T6 With this new strategy of using Conversational Fractionation. it ends up being fun. and fascinating! 4.6. As things move forward from (1).6. As time goes on (5-12) the conversation gets into better and better areas. The overall trend is that. You become one of those fascinating guys. Fractionation happens at times because even when you may be at a fairly good place for a while (8). it's not a bad idea to back up a bit (9) and then move forward again. there is a continued movement up and into better and better areas of conversation. simply back up (3) and then try moving into a better direction (4). at times maybe they move towards an area that is not too good (2). that no matter WHAT you talk about. over time.3-1: How Conversation Fractionation Works on the Model Follow the conversation as it moves from (1) to (12). there is no such thing as a conversational "Dead End"! Page 98 . interesting.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Conversational Fractionation at Work Figure 4.

... use the language tools. —* The entire time: o If you hit a "dead end". and go down another path! 4.. this can happen. etc. talked more. Do that for a while and then think . Just back up. or what you both have in common Move forward with the Strategies and Tactics in mind. seductive things? Move things in that direction.2 What If The Outcome Is Not What You Expected? D9-T9 Despite your best efforts. and the person becomes interested and fascinated. Do that for a while and then think . and interesting? Move things in that direction. back up a few steps. or maybe negative. • What if you can't make the conversation positive? • What if she always points out the negative aspect? • What if there is NO emotional engagement at ALL? Well. and use the Strategy and Tactics of the Conversational Management techniques! Look at "Dead Ends" as being just like a bad turn on a road. o If you get to a good subject or topic. with you! 4. how do we pull this together? 4.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course If you happen to take a "wrong turn" somehow and get into an area of discussion that is boring. Where can I go that is fun.7...1 • Conversational Management Approach Start on just about ANY subject. Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Move things in that direction.7 CONVERSATIONAL OVERVIEW AND REVIEW D9-T7 So.3 Summary D9-T10 Go have fun with these tools! Page 99 . No problem. (think of your TTP options). you just back up. uninteresting.. fascinating.. use the language tools as much as possible! D9-T8 • • • • • • • • • Keep moving the conversation into these interesting fascinating areas .. have more material to use in conversations in the future! 4. and get the effect. you might have just found out that they are NOT someone you want to spend time with! That's not a total loss because you STILL learned more.7.7. o Comment on what is around o Mention common items. positive. Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. When on good topics. stay there for a while.

and then the more "material" you will have. You want to be able to discuss these topics easily. Talking about these topics may be a challenge for many men. fascinating.. you should be able to use them with subjects in which you are already interested! Page 101 . You will be able to say things like "I was talking to someone about this the other day. then you may want to go back in those earlier sections. and it's even better if you are passionate about those topics. Now we want you to become familiar with topics that will really work well for you! We are going to work with some of these topics. However. and closer towards the subjects that will really serve your intent. go ahead and practice! (Or maybe do that the next time you go through the course.. Themes vs. fascinating. and THEY said. the easier it will get. if using those language tools is problem for you. we have talked about managing conversations. this is something we can and will work on with you. fun. A topic is a particular area of discussion that is taking place in a moment.great! It's easier to use the language tools if you are discussing topics with which you are familiar.1 Themes are a way through a discussion or through the "tree of subjects" that we showed earlier. yes! How well can you talk about topics that YOU are passionate about while using many of the language tools we talked about in the earlier parts of the course? If you can do that very well .) Before you can use the language tools with new subjects that you are learning about.". and while talking about subjects and topics that YOU are really passionate about. and some familiarity with this type of thing. What do you talk about? There is no substitute for experience. In the meantime.0 TOPICS D9-T11 What do you talk about? As the conversation gets more interesting. Most men may not be very familiar with many of the topics that we REALLY want to get into. especially as they get more interesting. The more experience you get. Topics • • 5. However. what can we do here in this course to help you? We have talked about the way to talk and use language. and that statement (regarding having actually talked to someone about the topics) will be TRUE! So. the more familiar you will be with these topics. TOPICS OF ENTHUSIASM AND PASSION D9-T14 What are you passionate about? Few things are more compelling in a person than for them to be passionate about something (hopefully many things) in life. so that YOU have some material. the more you talk to people about such things. Can you talk passionately about something? Anything? Hopefully. to get the best effect you will have to be a PART of that conversation and familiar with the topics that may come up. some practice.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 5.

. at least. excitement. How good are you at the earlier sections that dealt with the language tools? It may be a good idea to go back over those sections. or topics that are very close to that concept.2 SEDUCTION ORIENTED TOPICS D9-T15 In the context of this course (and your intent in talking with . someone) some topics are easier to work with than others.just TALKING about these can create a good effect. Examples of SOTs • Connections • Going for it • Making good decisions • Surrendering to feelings • Getting excited • Feeling excited • Trusting your judgment • Taking chances • Indulgence • Maturity • Good decisions • .. SOTs are the "end goals" when it comes to managing or directing a conversation. Your point is to get to. but doing so while using the language tools. and seductive.) Page 102 . a topic that is an SOT. These are called "Seduction Oriented Topics". work it. but how effective are those as subjects given the "purpose" of the discussion? You want to discuss topics and things which deal with seduction. stay there as long as you can! Talk about it. and emphasize discussing topics in which YOU are interested and passionate about. but a good number of them. The conversational management sections will help you to move the conversation in a way that will get you near these topics areas. Topics that access emotions. judge for yourself. 5.. You want to be able to discuss topics that deal on some level with Seduction. or near.. in the right way Use the language tools! You want to be familiar with these topics (SOTs) and able to discuss them easily: maybe not ALL of them. in some ways. etc. feelings. or sports. or cleaning the toilet. Seduction Oriented Topics (SOTs) . sensual.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course So. You may talk about cars. and link it to you! When • • • • • you are at or near an SOT: Use the correct tone of Voice Pace and Lead correctly Link things to you Point at the right times. can create an AMAZING effect! When you do get a conversation into an area near an SOT. or the office..Topics that bring up images and thoughts that are romantic. or. (Every guy has his favorites and ones that work best for him..

but the more you think about them. ask about them. the easier it will be to "riff" on these using the language tools. Exercises for Seduction Oriented Topics 1) Build your own list of SOTs. or ask questions. and hopefully add some of your own. Eventually. use as many of the language tools as you can. Think about other topics you have heard mentioned in this program. or anything like that. Or are taking!) . or comment on them! Talk aloud for several minutes about each. Get the conversation there. Page 103 .. hopefully some way that involves you and your own life. You can use some of those that were listed earlier if you wish. talk about something you heard. the easier it will get! Strategic Formula for Seduction Oriented Topics SOTs are topics that. or in movies.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course These topics may seem foreign to you... and the more you talk to and with people about them. Write down your list of SOTs. Assignments for Seduction Oriented Topics 1) Pay attention to conversations in your life (even things you hear on the radio. 3) Practice talking about each aloud. have stories about them. the more you work with the materials. and while there. read. the more you practice using the tools.Are you able to somehow relate to these in your own life? Maybe something you read or heard? Maybe questions you can ask? ANYTHING?!?!? You do not need to "know" a lot about these topics or be an expert. by there very nature. Don't worry about talking to women. and also topics that you have heard in other materials and products that you have. Meaning. Or. Seduction Oriented Topics 2) You must become familiar with these! You must be able to talk about them. keep it there. and discuss these subjects. you JUST need to be able to talk. you will be able to just "talk" about the subject while using the tools that are available. and without "thinking" about the language tools. or on TV. or seduction per se. easily. or overhear from others) and listen for when any of these SOTs come up in conversation. bring up images and thoughts that may work for you. the more you practice. or joke about them. Think of SOME way to discuss these. or even watched in a movie! (Or heard in a course that you took . using as many of the language tools as you can.

and frankly. then the more material YOU will have to talk about. You start to listen and take notice of when these are discussed. and makes it easier for you to talk about them. Page 104 . 5. You do a few exercises to talk about them.SOTXs D9-T24 What if you had not just 10 ways of discussing "Seduction Oriented" subjects.3 EXPANDED SEDUCTION ORIENTED TOPICS . Because of that. make a comment. Many guys who can now talk about these things VERY easily and comfortably started from a place of having NO idea of what to say! They changed.. discuss. 2) Now . but as long as you start it. anything at all! Talk. but had even more? Maybe 50? What if that was easy and familiar for you? Think back to how we looked at topics earlier. And that gives you MORE material to talk about! Which make it easier for you to enter into more conversations about these subjects and topics. SOT Summary I KNOW that these topics may seem foreign to you. They did it. after having worked with hundreds of guys. However.Talk about these subjects and topics! Make a point to enter into a discussion when one of your SOTs is mentioned. However. or even just TRY to do so. That's what we want to do here. and move through these exercises and assignments. Make special note of topics that are CLOSE or similar to these SOTs in some way. So can you. Maybe ask some questions about things that deal with your SOTs. That is understandable. but this time with SOTs. or even when anything CLOSE to one of your SOTs is discussed. They started and became more and more familiar with these topics. quote. It may start a bit slowly and awkwardly.. what people think. The more you hear. this process must start somewhere.. and start to get your brain working on them. ask what something means. We learned how you can move from any topic. Use as many of the language tools as you can. etc. That gives YOU more familiarity with discussing them. "the other day I heard someone talking about. ask an opinion.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Listen to what is being said. ask. (As in. Then you get to hear MORE people talk about them. show interest. this is one of the key challenges that many guys face. I can tell you that it DOES get easier and easier to be able to talk about these things."). These are called Expanded SOTs (SOTXs). but we are walking you through (at least the first steps of) the process to make this easier: • • • • • • • • • • • You have made a list of SOTs. and easily come up with 6-8 related topics. See? We are working on a process to get you to become more comfortable and familiar with these things. it WILL get easier. what is said. You listen more to when they are discussed. the more you listen. That makes you really think about them. Really! Learning to discuss such things may start out slowly. it gets easier to enter into more conversations that deal with these topics.

if friends.3-1..with pets . That is one subject. how easy would it be to talk about how you CONNECT with those? And if you talk about Page 105 .. That just makes it easier for our example below). (You do not really need to list "connections with" for each. how we discussed a Topic Turning Point?) If Connections is a particular subject. the SOTX list consists of all of these items shown in the diagram and listed below....with your teammates Figure 5.with music .with a girlfriend .. and build a whole list of very similar things to talk about -which are SOTXs! For example. you now have 6-8 ways to discuss it. or only one aspect of that to discuss (connections in a romantic or sensual context). but can you think of 6-8 different aspects of this? (Remember what we did in the earlier sections.. SOT Connections SOTX Connections with family Connections with friends Connections with coworkers Connections with pets Connections with a girlfriend Connections with someone you just met Connections with someone while on vacation Connections with music Connections with your teammates Many guys worry about talking about something like "Connections".. you can talk about that for while..with someone you just met . places. there are many different types or examples of connecting to people.3-1: How SOTs are related to an SOTXs..with family ..with friends .. and things that can be discussed. comes up in a conversation. you can take any SOT. pets. . However as we see here. etc.. can you think of different aspects of that? Parts of Connections? Questions about Connections? Ways of experiencing Connections? People or things with which you can experience Connections? By asking those types of questions (to yourself). family. For any given SOT. it's easy to think of several different aspects of that topic or related topics. Look at the list above. Instead of worrying about getting to that one topic (SOT) in a certain way. see Figure 5..with someone while on vacation ..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Expanding on a Topic Area "Connections" is an SOT. (Does that diagram look familiar?) If "Connections" is an SOT.with coworkers . coworkers. They think of only one way of talking about that subject. Then...

b. or a special person. and how you (or someone else) can connect with a pet.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course THAT (how you connect in that manner) for a while. all of a sudden there are many MORE ways to get to these really GREAT topics! Exercises f o r Expanded Seduction Oriented T o p i c s 1) Take the SOT list you had earlier (copy those down into the first column below.. c. this is a TTP diagram in reverse!) For example. or maybe even someone.. etc. that you just met! When you expand SOTs in this way.3-2.. if someone is talking about pets.. ask a question. it's very easy to then shift. SOTs " SOTXs List Page 106 . then you can shift towards ANOTHER type of "connection" very easily! (See Figure 5. or how that topic can be experienced.) and for each SOT. you are to list 5 (at least) related topics.. you can be as close as one step away from an SOT.3-2: SOTXs Can Lead Into SOTs If any of the topics in the SOTX list comes up in conversation.) Family Friends Coworkers Pets Connections A girlfriend Someone you just met Someone met on vacation Music Teammates Figure 5. Just make a comment. or different aspects of that topic. (Yes. This is your SOTX list. point out an example regarding pets. If you talk about that for a while. then you can shift to talking about "how you can connect with a pet" fairly easily.to .. how to connect with people. a.

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Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 2) Now for each SOTX. practice talking about it out loud. Step back and look at what you have done! You have 10 SOTs with which YOU are familiar. (Like the earlier example. then about connecting with pets. That gives you a LOT of flexibility in conversations! Page 108 . and see if you can then focus what you are saying towards the SOT itself. Talk about that SOTX for a moment or two.) 3) Do the same thing again. You have 50 SOTXs that you are now familiar with as well. then about connecting in general. but now do so while using the language tools. you talk about pets.

..4-1. Page 109 . SOTXs are now like "conversational landmarks" for you in terms of navigating a conversation. Good speakers.. . it's about getting YOU comfortable and familiar with these topics.with a girlfriend . "I didn't list that SOTX.. In addition. The more familiar you are with these subjects.with pets Connections . that process can work both ways.. concept of "topics related to a topic" in many many places.with friends . The more you work with this. See if you can move the conversation a bit towards the SOT itself. especially politicians and activists. use the language tools if and whenever you can.. D9-T32 We discussed how to develop an SOTX list from an SOT.with someone you just met .4 CONVERSATIONAL MODEL WITH SOTXs.. However.with coworkers . Maybe you will even start to notice SOTXs that were not even ON your list. it is easy to then move the conversation towards topics that will work better for you (SOTs)..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Assignments for Expanded Seduction Oriented Topics 1) Look at all of your SOTXs! That's a LOT of subjects! Pay attention in your life to see how often any of those items come up in conversation (or maybe you just hear them somewhere). The techniques that you have learned are the sort of things that many people do naturally... If anything like an SOTX comes up in a conversation. Summary You now have MORE material to work with than you ever thought possible! This is not about memorizing. You may think... the easier it will be to notice SOTXs. you know that you are very close to getting near a subject area that will work very well for you.. use such techniques a LOT.with music ... 5. spotting these opportunities get easier and easier.. but it IS related to an SOT that I have worked with".. broke it into bits and pieces that you can learn and do as exercises. . It ALL gets easier! 2) Start to "direct" the conversations you encounter where your SOTXs are mentioned. The real usefulness of this is when you reverse the order as shown in Figure 5.4-1: SOTXs Are The Pathways To SOTs SOTXs are an easy way to get towards SOTs. and move the conversation towards SOTs.with your teammates Family Friends Coworkers Pets A girlfriend Someone you just met Someone met on vacation Music Teammates Connections This is how we developed SOTXs This is the most useful way of thinking of SOTXs Figure 5. and then built upon that step by step..with family .with someone while on vacation . or anything like them mentioned. We have broken these down. if you hear any of them mentioned. You will start to notice this. modeled the process arid the steps involved.

and then towards SOTs. this will start to happen for you. there are really 50 SOTXs and 10 SOTs shown . The point here (again) is not to memorize the SOTs.4-3 shows this in the model itself.4-2: Your Multiple Pathways to SOTs! Now that you have worked with 10 SOTs. you have started to train yourself to "recognize" these landmarks. and anything like an SOTX comes up in the discussion. It's to have you practice and become familiar with them.. However in the figure above. that is not an abbreviation or exaggeration. SOTXs SOTs Figure 5. to be able to notice when you are talking about things which are "close to" topics that will work well for you. In many of the diagrams.the number that YOU have actually worked with so far! Since SOTXs and SOTs are the "goals" in terms of managing a conversation. that this process will now be easier than you may have imagined. you have already worked with 10 SOTs and 50 SOTXs as shown in Figure 5. Page 110 . and 50 SOTXs (in the earlier exercises) you now have many many SOTXs with which YOU are familiar! More importantly.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course So whenever you are having a conversation. If you have followed the program. we have had to compress or simplify them quite a bit and show only a fraction of the actual steps and numbers involved so that the diagrams do not become too large or complex. As the topics get better and better. After all. you now see how easy it can be to move over to an SOT! In fact. and done the exercises and assignments. or the SOTXs. you will get closer and closer to SOTXs. you have practiced with so many of these SOTXs. we can then show them as part of our Conversational Model.4-2. Figure 5.without "thinking" about them. and for you to just start to "recognize" these things on your own .

you start to "listen" for topics that are SOTXs. it's that you have trained yourself to recognize things that are SOTs. Period. You can start from almost ANYWHERE.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course SOTs in the Conversational Management Model The end goal is to get to.. and ANY TOPIC. which are topics near or related to seduction (a step or two away from SOTs).5 THE COMPLETE CONVERSATIONAL MODEL D9-T33 Start from any topic and get to where you want! Yes. just follow the steps listed earlier in the Conversational Management sections. then you can simply move things towards a topic that is very seduction-oriented! The point is not to have a "list" in mind. SOTXs are a pathway to make that easier. or anything that is "related" to an SOT. or as close as you can towards SOTs. Stay there for a while if you can! Figure 5.) Page 111 . Then move the conversation towards an SOT! This works. SOTXs SOTs Listen for SOTXs Anything near or related to an SOT. and using this type of approach you will have fascinating conversations with people that lead to where YOU want to go! (See Figure 5. 5. then start to pay attention for SOTXs. When you get to an SOTx. you can start from just about ANY topic and get to GREAT topics! It's easy. and topics that are close to that (SOTXs).4-3: SOTs Are THE Goals in Conversational Management As you move through a conversation.5-1. Move towards SOTs.

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.Engaging the emotions and imagination in a positive way .. fascinating.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Figure 5.5-1: The Complete Conversational Management Model (continued) Start a Conversation Manage the Conversation Move the Conversation in a Good Direction Steer towards . Steer towards .. or SOTX. Especially when at or near SOTXs and SOTs. Steer towards . exciting. or very close! Page 113 .Fun.. seductive things Direct the Conversation Pay attention when Good Subjects come up (SOTXs) Listen for anything a step or two away from an SOT Move towards SOTs Stay there as long as you can Use The Language Tools! As much as possible.. start over! Assignment! 1) Try it! Start directing conversations using the conversational management model. and see how easy it is to get to some good topic that is an SOT. back up! If you move back to a general topic. Fractionate If you take a wrong turn.. interesting .Romantic.

get her to "experience" good feelings and states o Use the Conversational Management Techniques to get there o Get her to think about good and/or exciting feelings Page 115 . plus these areas will work for HER because SHE selected them (in a manner of speaking) • Talk and manage the conversation into an area that DOES work for you. the clutch. and as "a way of speaking". Amplify these feelings and states by talking. or model to be followed in making things. Patterns are just examples of the use of these tools. A New way of thinking about the use of patterns • The wrong way is to talk to someone and to keep thinking. and being aware of when you DO get to an area of conversation that does allow you to use a pattern. With this new approach to learning and using these tools. you make decisions on-the-spot as to what to do and how to proceed. think about having a conversation (and managing it correctly). or "how can I bring up a pattern that I know". The Pattern Formula in detail. we work in that manner. handling the gas pedal. • An example of what you can say. diagram. We practice specific parts of areas of the skills we wish to use later on. • Instead. certain actions. Once you actually play the game though. or could say. A representative sample. • While talking to a woman. 6. • Maybe talk to a woman and allow HER to bring up things that end up working well in pattern-like language.2 PATTERN FORMULA D10-T7 Tactical Formula for Patterns While talking to a woman.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 6. In the same manner. The navigation is handled through our use of Conversational Management techniques. These smaller skills become automatic and you focus instead of driving. or navigation. asking. • Driving . or "how can I bring this pattern up". Don't think of "how can I get to the pattern". She may take the conversation into better places that you could have predicted.You don't play the entire game ahead of time. Present a Call to action.0 6. Its just a "type" of talking that you can (and will be able to) use when you feel it is appropriate. You don't have to think about moving the wheel. etc. Examples/Analogies: • Sports . Link and associate these feelings to you. get her to "experience" good feelings and states. You practice bits and pieces of the sport. that's the key. clarifying. It's best to just think of patterns as examples.1 PATTERNS PATTERN OVERVIEW D10-T1 What is a pattern? • A plan. THAT ends up being a very effective way to create "patterns". "A plan" or "model". or series of actions. "how can I get to my pattern". we have practiced the small details (language skills) so that these are automatic. Use the language tools.Many of the details of driving a car are things you just "do".

asking. In the real world.4 PATTERN RIFFING IN REAL-TIME D10-T13 This is the ability to just create pattern language on-the-fly. they can. 6. pre-rehearsed. clarifying o Use the Language Tools o Asking her for info. and the proper context is not created. So. or things you have read. • The interesting topic that she and you are discussing o what is happening o what you know Page 116 . and have them there for your use if and when the correct situation comes up." etc. for her to elaborate and describe o Repeating back what she has said o Provide examples from your own life o Provide examples from friends. However.. pre-written patterns that you have seen and heard. Some times that does happen. canned patterns are good. "Canned" patterns. if you just "drop" a pattern into the conversation. Pre-written.. what you need to do is to look at. Their best use is when you use the Conversational Management techniques and then find that the conversation just happens to get to or near a pattern that you DO happen to know already. The good ways to use these are as teaching and learning tools.3 CANNED PATTERNS D10-T12 These are the pre-rehearsed. don't focus TOO much on them.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • o Get her feeling good and/or exciting feelings o Get her experiencing (or recall the experience of) good and/or exciting feelings o Get her to think about things that she wants or desires Amplify these feelings and states by talking. many times it does not.these pre-written or canned patterns can work very well. Therefore it is best to maybe have some of these memorized. and to use what is needed in the moment. 6. and that the woman will react to what the patterns is about. and do. these canned patterns DO have some usefulness. In THAT case . and real-time "Riffing". But. because doing so may work against you.. The problem is if you are SO focused on just "getting to the pattern" that you know (or even one of many that you know) then it's difficult to have a good conversation. etc Link and associate those feelings to you o Use the Language Tools o Use linkage phrases like "now with me". "this person. sound quite strange. when you are talking to a woman. o Use "this" and "these" (be aware of that and those as well) o Point and mark appropriately Present a Call to action o "Do it now" language o Create a Challenge o Create an Opportunity o Talk about the chance to "Seize the moment" o A simple add-on to the Language Tools There are two main ways of doing patterns. but they assume that you are in a conversation where they will work and be somewhat "appropriate" to what is being discussed.

emotions.. • Talk about these things or listen to you talk about these things • get her to think about these things • get her to feel these things • get her to link them to you. get her to.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • o what she is reacting to o and discuss things which are appropriate. THE BEST PATTERN IS THIS: • • Get her to talk and think about positive. states. Then we use those as a basis for discussion.. Then you have a conversation and. Yes. Use the language tools so that YOU become associated with those things. and sensual things. it really IS that easy! look for: Positive emotions and feeling Positive sensations (as in physical ones) Exciting feelings. • Use some "act now" languaging. Wanting to take action or seize an opportunity Always • • • • See the pattern here? We are in general. exciting. and actions in the conversation. interesting. and and use the language tools. using the tools. looking and listening for positive feelings. Page 117 .

1 REVIEW AND SUMMARY REVIEW D10-T18 The course has followed a "bottom-up" approach to training. Keep the conversation going. 3. It really is up to you. you will benefit. fifth. and then building up to bigger and bigger pieces. Both you and her talk! 2. D10-T27 Listen to the full explanations. and the more engaged you are in the process. We really are focused upon changing you.3 LISTEN. Talk about something positive and interesting c. 1. DO THE EXERCISES. Whether its your first. Use the Language Tools 5. Direct the conversation in a way that takes you toward good topics a. and really take the time to do the exercises. AND FOLLOW THE COURSE. Now we can look from the "top-down". focusing first on small details. a. Engage her emotions and imagination in a positive way.5 CONGRATULATIONS! WELL DONE! D10-T29 Page 119 . but the method of approaching it is very different. Get the conversation into good subjects (SOTXs. and view an overall strategy. 7. and how you speak. SOTs) 4. -' d. and/or compulsion to act a. 7. Use the conversational management techniques b. Direct and/or link those feelings towards you.2 SUMMARY D10-T26 This may be similar to information you have heard in the past. Create a willingness. Use the conversational management techniques b.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 7. comfort in. D10-T28 The more energy and effort you put into this.0 7. of fourteenth time through. Use the Language Tools 7. a. the greater your results will be. Fractionate if and when needed.4 BE WILLING AND PREPARED TO PUT ENERGY INTO THIS COURSE. 7. Keep her there and keep talking! a.

EXAMPLES.0 EXAMPLES. Page 121 . EXAMPLES Dll-Tl The discussions presented on the audio for this section are intentionally "casual" to familiarize you even more with the use of these tools. and provide you with some real-world examples of their use.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 8.

Voice Tone And Tonality Use your best tone of voice (speaking from your chest) to convey a relaxed. emotions. or Chest? Pacing And Pausing Use variations in pace. • If I were to .. to be cool.. o o Page 123 .. Pause? Energy And Enthusiasm Using energy and enthusiasm when speaking so that people can become energized and enthusiastic about listening to and being with you. and to "soften " the way in which something is said. and charismatic presence. and processes awaken. • Have you ever . • Slow. so that their feelings. • Instantaneously " Suddenly • Find Yourself • Convince Yourself • Suppose • Imagine " Mysterious (-ly) • Wonder (-ous) (-ously) Weasel Phrases Use Weasel Phrases to keep the conversation going. allowing you to say more (and maybe more provocative things) about a subject.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course APPENDIX 1 Course "Cheat Sheet" • SPEAKING POINTERS o The "Cool" Factor You don't have to be cold.... to convey a sense of drama and intrigue in what you are saying in a way that "captivates "people and makes them want to listen to you. Mouth.. • Nose. • If you were to . use Adjectives And Adverbs Trance Words Help to get the subconscious mind of the listener to be more of apart of your conversation.. • What's it like when . powerful. Fast.. and well-placed pauses. " As you. • Passionate or Boring? o o o • LANGUAGE TOOLS A N T D E T A I L S o Adjectives And Adverbs Use more adjectives and adverbs in your speech to appeal to and excite the emotional side of the listener.. • Be descriptive.

a smile.. Say "that". Easy Linking Expanded Pointing With This. o o • MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures Move. touch them to help anchor it to you. allowing you to move things more in your favor later on Page 124 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o Embedded Commands Use embedded commands repeatedly and in the proper context. Point to you • Negative Say "those". • Move! Point! Linking Gestures Towards And Away • Whenever you say something negative. to create a compelling will on the part of the listener follow you and listen to you. etc. • Point Or Touch On Positive —* o o o • LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES o Pace And Lead Pacing and Leading allows you "be " in the conversation for a while and gain rapport and information. That.. link them to you so that YOU become something and someone that they feel good about • Now with me • In me • In myself • with this • these • this belief • these feelings Easy-Linking • Use "This" and "These" when referring to anything positive. Easy Anchoring When the person you are talking with displays a positive feeling of some type. and accentuate what you are saying in order to be more compelling as a speaker and to get even more attention from your listener or audience. • Can you do this now. Say "this". interest. Point away. Point to you • Negative statement.. • Whenever you say something positive. Point away • Positive statement. These. gesture. point or gesture away. motion. point or gesture towards yourself. Linking After getting someone to experience good feelings and emotions. Say "these". intrigue. • Use "That" and "Those" when referring to anything negative. Those • Positive statement. laugh.

etc. and C When making a point. • As you X. B. • Topics and Subjects • Mindset or Frame of Mind • Current Reality • As (while) you are "X" (Pace) Where "X" is something that is true in their current reality (perceptions. or giving an example.another option o o o Page 125 . the more Y. experiences. B. and C When making a point. Then start to move or shift things in a different way. a way that you want. statement. • Request X because (of) Y.) • Then you will "Y" Where "Y" is something you want them to experience (Lead) o Give Them A Reason Giving a reason will make people more apt to do things for you and agree with you. LAST • Burying Items Listing .Bad • One option . and c When giving examples or options to someone. • a. or thoughts) use "More and More " as a way to string them together (and increase your chances of that happening • The more X. you can get away with an outrageous or very direct option by burying that option in the middle of a List. keep the discussion focused on a topic that serves your purposes. thoughts. etc. but mention the one which YOU want to put the most emphasis on. which support your point • A. Compare And Contrast Use this technique to keep the conversation going. etc. and incorporate the language tools • This thing vs that thing • How two things are similar • How two things are different • Good . or giving an example. The More Z. or to maybe see if you can get someone to agree to it! • a. b. the More Y.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Show agreement.Burying Items is a way to mention an outrageous or very direct option for "testing" purposes. "List" several things or examples which support your point. the More Y. understanding. Listing • General Listing General Listing is a way to quickly provide several reason. and/or interest. "List" several things briefly in order. the More Z. The more Y. More And More If you want to lead someone through a series of steps (actions. acknowledgement. in order to provide more power to what you are saying • At The End Listing at The End is a way to provide several options (which may differ) but to emphasize the option that YOU want. statement.

.. do it. • Find a way to map what YOU want. —* • • • Page 126 . • If you are able to .... • I wonder if you can .. • Challenge them to do that.. • If you can . discuss.. • Take any subject. Parts Of A Person Use Parts of a Person as a way to find. • You seem like . and beliefs. o Opportunities And Challenges • Find out what someone wants. • The smart people I know. • Use the language tools in the discussion. • Challenge them to demonstrate it.. • Maybe you can . idea. • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control Particular Wants What does she want to have. • Link good thoughts.. • You may .. even when the other person claims or demonstrates that such parts are NOT there • For every part of a person that will work against you.... Mini-Challenges • You seem. feelings and emotions to yourself. • etc. • Break it down into its component parts and discuss them. allowing you time to gather information and link yourself to good thoughts. to be a way for them to get what they want.. assume there is a part that will work WITH you....Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o Parts • • Parts Of A Subject Discussing many of the parts of a subject keeps the conversation going. or show it. or fun. or adventurous. etc). • You might see .\ Universal Wants You can assume that most people want these. • Are you able to . • You might..... or point in a discussion.. and evoke favorable states. • You seem as if. or want to be perceived as having? • Talk to them and find out. • Using Their Own Processes • Find or assume what someone wants • Create an opportunity for them to get it or demonstrate they have it • Make that "demonstration" work in your favor. can (use smart. feelings and emotions. feelings..

fun.. positive. Consider the wants and needs that a person may have . • Introduce topics that are fun. • Repeat. General Conversational Management To steer the conversation in a good direction. listen and be IN the conversation! • Conversational Dynamics Topics flow from one to the next. interesting things. then .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • Opportunities. steer the conversation towards directions that engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way o o Page 127 .. •• Show interest when someone discusses positive. Advanced Conversational Management To direct the conversation into even BETTER areas. • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control " • Excitement Challenges Challenge them to get what they want..-and do Y to get it? • Can she do Y and make it happen? • Can she see that Y will get her what she wants? • Can she trust herself enough to do Y? o • Ambiguities — CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT o General . • Navigation Don't think of an exact plan... bring up positive.. think of general navigation • She Must Be Engaged In The Conversation! You need her to talk. • Don't engage in conversations when it's NOT about positive. and see how doing Y would demonstrate it?> • Does she have what it takes to get X. interesting things • Keep thinking . positive and interesting. or show what they have. • Can she see an opportunity to have "X". Creating Them -. fun."Where can I go that is fun... she may have to do Y to prove that. Are they ready to take advantage of that (this) opportunity? • Does she really want X and see how Y can get that? • Does she really have X. • Topic Turning Point The process of moving from one topic to one of 6-8 relevant topics • In general. interesting things.. fun. and interesting?" " Move the conversation in that direction. by doing Y? • Does she want you to THINK she has X.

More Advanced Conversational Management To further direct the conversation into even BETTER areas. fascinating.Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Move the conversation in that direction. bring up images and thoughts that may work for you. and interesting? • Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? • Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. use as many of the language tools as you can. o If you get to a good subject or topic. • Keep thinking . positive. and while there. • Where can I go that is fun. stay there for a while."Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. steer the conversation towards romantic. Seduction Oriented Topics SOTs are topics that. back up a few steps. and seductive things.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • o Keep thinking . seductive things?" " Move the conversation in that direction. seductive tilings? • The entire time: o If you hit a "dead end". by there very nature. • Repeat. use the language tools. Conversational Fractionation • Using Conversational Fractionation • Start • Move • Back Up • Repeat • Dead Ends Come Back To Life! • Just back up and start over! Conversational Overview and Review • General Flow • Start on just about ANY subject. keep it there. use the language tools as much as possible! • What If The Outcome Is Not What You Expected? • Move on! o o • TOPICS o Topics Of Enthusiasm and Passion Few things are more compelling in a person than for them to be passionate about something (hopefully many things) in life. fascinating. and get the effect. Get the conversation there. Repeat. • When on good topics. • Connections • Going for it • Making good decisions Page 128 o . fascinating.

Great as EXAMPLES • Learn and know some of them they may be useful. Link and associate these feelings to you..Use the conversational Management Techniques. o Talk about these things or listen to you talk about these things o get her to think about these things o get her to feel these things o get her to link them to you. get her to "experience" good feelings and states.. Page 129 o . clarifying. Present a Call to action. o Canned Patterns . there are easily 6-8 variations on that SOT that you can talk about. Pattern Riffing In Real-Time • Use the Conversational Management techniques to get to good subjects • Look at the interesting topic that she and you are discussing o what is happening o what you know o what she is reacting to o and discuss things which are appropriate.SOTXs For each SOT. and • Look for: o Positive emotions and feeling o Positive sensations (as in physical ones) o Exciting feelings.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • • • • • o Surrendering to feelings Getting excited Feeling excited Trusting your judgment Taking chances Indulgence Maturity Good decisions Expanded Seduction Oriented Topics . • Get her to. Those are STOXs. o Wanting to take action or seize an opportunity • Use the language tools. • Direct . asking. Amplify these feelings and states by talking. • Manage . Conversational Model With SOTXs.Look out for SOTXs • Direct 0 Move towards SOTs. The Complete Conversational Model See Appendix 2 o o • PATTERNS o Pattern • • • • Formula While talking to a woman.

• Use the language tools so that YOU become associated with those things Page 130 . exciting.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • Use some "act now" languaging. interesting. o The Best Pattern Is This: • Get her to talk and think about positive. and sensual things.

Point Or Touch On Positive And Negative LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES o Pace And Lead • Topics and Subjects • Mindset of Frame • Current Reality o Give Them A Reason o Listing " General .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course APPENDIX II Speaking and Language Tools "Cheat Sheet" • SPEAKING POINTERS o Voice Tone And Tonality o Pacing And Pausing o Energy And Enthusiasm LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS o Adjectives And Adverbs o Trance Words o Weasel Phrases o Embedded Commands o Linking o Easy-Linking (This...At the End • Burying Items o More And More o Compare And Contrast o Parts " Parts of a Subject • Parts of a Person o Opportunities And Challenges • Mini Challenges " Opportunities And Challenges o Ambiguities • • • Page 131 .) o Easy Anchoring . That. That. Those) MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures o Linking Gestures (Towards And Away) o Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This. These.

Positive. and Interesting Advanced Mgt. Fascinating. Romantic. Fun. Seductive SOTXs SOTs The Complete Conversational Management Model Page 133 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course APPENDIX III The Complete Conversational Management Model The Complete Conversational Management Model General Mgt. Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way More Advanced Mgt.

. Especially when at or near SOTXs and SOTs..Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way ..Fun. interesting . back up! If you move back to a general topic.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course The Complete Conversational Management Model (continued) Start a Conversation Manage the Conversation Move the Conversation in a Good Direction Steer towards . fascinating.Romantic.. start over! Page 134 . Steer towards . Fractionate If you take a wrong turn.. seductive things Direct the Conversation Pay attention when Good Subjects come up (SOTXs) Listen for anything a step or two away from an SOT Move towards SOTs Stay there as long as you can Use The Language Tools! As much as possible.. Steer towards . positive.

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