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Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course
A structured training program that teaches the language and conversational skills of Speed Seduction .
Speed Seduction is a registered trademark of Ross Jeffries, used with permission.
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course
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Page No. Title Page Legal Notices Table of Contents Product Content Product Protection and User Consent Formatting and Conventions Acknowledgements Forward Registration Important Note About Exercises and Assignments 1.0 INTRODUCTION AND GETTING STARTED i ii iii vi vi vii ix x xii xii 1 D1-T1 Disk and Track No.*
1.2 1.3 1.4 1.5 1.6 2.0 2.1 2.1.1 2.1.2 2.1.3 2.1.4 2.2 2.2.1 2.2.2 2.2.3 2.2.4 2.2.5 2.2.6 2.3 2.3.1 2.3.2 2.3.3 2.3.4 2.4 3.0 3.1 3.1.1
Why Is This Course Needed? What We Will Handle, and How Investing In Yourself, Or Not Can We Change The Way You Speak? Manipulation and Ethics Concerns SPEAKING AND LANGUAGE
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Speaking Pointers 7 The "Cool" Factor 7 Voice Tone and Tonality 7 Pacing and Pausing 9 Energy and Enthusiasm 10 Language Tools and Details 12 Adjectives and Adverbs 12 Trance Words 13 Weasel Phrases 15 Embedded Commands 17 Linking 19 Easy-Linking (This, That, These, Those) 21 More Tools 23 Pointing and Gestures 24 Linking Gestures (Towards and Away) 25 Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This, That, These, Those ...) 26 Easy Anchoring - Point Or Touch, On Positive 27 Review 29 LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES Pace and Lead General Pace and Lead Techniques 31 31 32
* Disk and Track Numbers References to the CDs and the tracks on them are shown in a format such as "D2-T4", which in this example refers to Disk 2, Track 4.
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Page No. 3.1.2 3.1.3 3.1.4 3.2 3.3 3.3.1 3.3.2 3.3.3 3.3.4 3.3.5 3.4 3.5 3.6 3.6.1 3.6.2 3.7 3.7.1 3.7.2 3.7.3 3.7.4 3.8 3.9 4.0 4.1 4.1.1 4.1.2 4.1.3 4.1.4 4.2 4.2.1 4.2.2 4.2.3 4.3 4.3.1 4.3.2 4.3.3 4.3.4 4.3.5 4.4 4.4.1 4.4.2 4.4.3 4.4.4 4.4.5 4.5 4.5.1 4.5.2 Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects Pace and Lead-Mindset Or Frame Of Mind Pace and Lead - Current Reality Give Them a Reason Listing General Listing Listing - At The End Listing - Burying Items Listing, Pauses, and Emphasis.. Listing Review More and More Compare and Contrast Parts Parts of a Subject Parts of a Person Opportunities and Challenges Using Their Own Processes What Do People Want? Mini-Challenges Opportunities and Challenges Ambiguities Summary CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT Challenges Detailed and Specific Plans Are Just Not Workable Navigation Example Navigational Strategies Are Needed She Must Be Engaged In The Conversation! How Conversations Happen Conversational Dynamics Conversational Model Topic Turning Point General Conversational Management Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Want How To Steer Conversations, Moment To Moment The Model With Strategy and Tactics In Place Exercises and Assignments Summary Advanced Conversational Management Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Really Want Steering Conversations Moment To Moment The Model With Advanced Strategy and Tactics In Place Exercises and Assignments Summary More Advanced Conversational Management More About Getting The Conversation To Go Steering Conversations Using More Advanced 33 35 38 39 41 41 43 45 48 48 48 51 54 54 58 61 62 62 63 64 69 69 71 71 71 71 72 72 72 72 73 77 79 79 81 82 83 86 86 86 88 88 91 93 93 93 94 Disk a n d Track N o . * D5-T12 D5-T20 D5-T29 D5-T32 D6-T1 D6-T4 D6-T15 D6-T24 D6-T36 D6-T37 D6-T38 D6-T54 D7-T1 D7-T4 D7-T15 D7-T34 D7-T36 D7-T38 D7-T40 D7-T43 D7-T64 D7-T66 D8-T1 D8-T1 D8-T3 D8-T4 D8-T5 D8-T10 D8-T12 D8-T13 D8-T14 D8-T15 D8-T16 D8-T16 D8-T19 D8-T23 D8-T25 D8-T32 D8-T33 D8-T33 D8-T35 D8-T38 D8-T39 D8-T46 D8-T47 D8-T47 D8-T49
4 4.1 6.SOTXs Conversational Model With SOTXs The Complete Conversational Model PATTERNS Pattern O v e r Pattern Formula Canned Patterns Pattern Riffing In Real-Time REVIEW AND SUMMARY Review Summary Listen.3 5.3 5.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Table of Contents (continued) Page No.7.0 7.0 5.1 4. Conversational Fractionation The 1-Shot Beeline Fallacy How Fractionation Works Using Conversational Fractionation Dead Ends Come Back To Life! Conversational Overview and Review Conversational Management Approach What If The Outcome Is Not What You Expected? Summary TOPICS Topics Of Enthusiasm and Passion Seduction Oriented Topics Expanded Seduction Oriented Topics .4 7. EXAMPLES..1 4.4 5.4 7.2 4.3 6.3 7. 94 96 96 97 97 98 99 99 99 99 101 101 102 104 109 111 115 115 115 116 116 119 119 119 119 119 119 121 Disk a n d Track N o .6.2 4.6. . .5 8. Do The Exercises. .5..7...2 7.7 4.2 5.1 7.6 4.3 4. * D8-T52 D9-T1 D9-T2 D9-T3 D9-T5 D9-T6 D9-T7 D9-T8 D9-T9 D9-T10 D9-T11 D9-T14 D9-T15 D9-T24 D9-T32 D9-T33 D10-T1 D10-T1 D10-T7 D10-T12 D10-T13 D10-T18 D10-T18 D10-T26 D10-T27 D10-T28 D10-T29 D11 .6.3 4. 4. .0 The Model With More Advanced Strategy and Tactics In Place.5 6.7.2 6. APPENDICES I II III Course "Cheat Sheet" Speaking and Language Tools "Cheat Sheet" The Complete Conversational Management Model 123 131 133 Page v .1 5.0 6. and Follow The Course Be Willing and Prepared To Put Energy Into Congratulations! Well Done! EXAMPLES. EXAMPLES v i e w .6. .
Since the work book is an "outline" and not a transcript. a "serif typeface). CD Location References are shown using terms such as "D3-T5" in the text. A majority of the workbook is presented in an "outline" form.. Not every track number is listed. If the graphic cannot fit there (due to page breaks) then the graphic is placed on the next available page. This shows (for example) the Disk (3) and the Track number (5) that corresponds to that part of the workbook contents. Lists . there may be instances when the conventions are not used for the sake of emphasis.At times. The relationship between these two can be best described by considering the workbook text to be (for the most part) an "outline" of what is presented in the audio. styles.that is simply to show a list of related items.Italicized Text is used for emphasis in many cases where boldface text may by nearby. Although there are paragraphs of explanatory text. and conventions have been developed and are used throughout this transcript/workbook. Listen to the audio where an example is presented. D3-T5 CD Track References . Italicized Text . Graphics are used in the workbook as well. The audio is NOT an exact duplicate of the text shown in the workbook. Usually the graphic is shown on the page immediately following where that graphic is first mentioned in the text. and Assignments are all shown using this typeface (Arial. and the Formulas. This shows information that could be considered part of an overall "outline" of what the audio presentation contains. and the italics are simply used as a way to show a different manner of emphasis. items are presented in a list-like fashion such as this: • Item 1 • Item 2 • Item 3 • Etc. . graphic captions. However these conventions are guidelines.. Page vii . The written text is NOT a transcript. there is not an exact place in the book that correlates to the start of each and every track on the audio CDs.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Formatting and Conventions The following formatting. these are in most cases presented as a way to augment the content of the audio presentation. Text within graphics. and their use is key to many students' understanding of the concepts presented. It is also used for subject headings so that these stand out and apart from the normal text.Boldface Text is used to emphasize certain text or passages. or major points in the workbook. Boldface Text . Exercises. a "sans-serif typeface).As shown to the right Towards the right margin of section titles and headings. i. and to make it easier to reference those items at a later time.A majority of the workbook content is shown in this typeface (Times New Roman. There are certain conventions used in the formatting of the workbook. Therefore most of the track references are shown at the start of major sections. graphic titles. or clarity. Italics are also used to point the reader towards specific content of the audio CDs. Samples of the formatting and conventions used: Typefaces .e. The graphics in the latter sections are significant in that they are an essential part of the understanding and leaning.
and the "A" indicates the number of the graphic within a section itself (i. Candidate Topics Figure XYZ-1: Graphic Title Sub-paragraph . but that is a necessity due to the complexity of the book. Text Boxes . Formula. there are instances where the definitions may be clouded to some degree. For example. The number is in the format of "XYZ-A" where "XYZ" denotes the number of the section where the graphic is placed. . Assignments also call for action on the part of the reader. or maybe and Assignment can be done alone by the student. A Formula is a way to present a concise explanation of some item.Text boxes are used for very specific purposes in the workbook.1 . it is required in order for the "flow" of the book content to remain consistent. Most exercises can be done alone.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Each graphic has a number and a title of some type.The workbook is laid out to minimize the amount of blank space where reasonably possible. Exercises. This may require that a graphic be placed on the next page after where it is first mentioned (instead of being directly below where the graphic is first mentioned in the text). -2. or technique. Page viii . Exercises are a series of instructions that call upon the reader to do or perform certain actions. Although this is not optimal. Similarly. Each Formula is presented in its own "text box" as shown here. and Assignments are shown inside boxes such as this.e. Although the difference between Exercises and Assignments is maintained through most of the workbook. -3) to account for multiple graphics in one section of text. there are cases where text boxes may actually "break" across two pages. Page Breaks . This is shown below. fact. then that text is shown immediately below the graphic using an indented paragraph such as this. Assignments usually requier the reader to go out and interact with other person(s) in order to perform them correctly. an Exercise may require interaction with other people.If a graphic has text that helps to further explain that graphic. This also may result in some page breaks being in places which are not optimal.
To Dr. To all of you. and to all of the Students out there who I have met at Speed Seduction® seminars. MC. and for the assistance they provided with this product. and to help you in finding the Women or Woman of Your Dreams. confidants. and who has also contributed greatly to helping men change their minds about themselves. and have opened the door for me to find many ways of self-improvement and understanding. but I sincerely hope that the results will prove to have made the wait worthwhile. associates. and what is possible in their lives. To the many experts out there who have augmented the SS teachings by showing me other aspects of the mind. I may miss a few sales because of such a delay. / must apologize to some degree for the time it has taken to finish this product. Special thanks to my friends. and MD. colleagues. who have placed their trust in me and allowed me the experience of showing them new and wonderful possibilities for what their lives may have to offer. and this wait may have annoyed a few people.. To my coaching clients. . and students (we are each all of these and more) in the TAGR Group. those who have read what I have written. but have also shown many the way to a new way of living. To those in the original SD Lair group. EVS. the creator of Speed Seduction . DM. JL. and those who have entrusted me to teach you and to guide you. SM. Dave Riker Page ix . The main reason is that I do not wish to release any product until I believe that I am able to provide the level of quality. mentors. SP. Working with these clients was especially instrumental in formulating and perfecting the concepts and teaching methods used in this product.. Ross's developments have lead not only to helping many men with this part of their lives. Thank you. opening the door for many into the world of self improvement. most notably Hypnotica. who was the business genius that brought Speed Seduction® to the masses through seminars and products. who helped me by allowing me to help them. Yates Canipe.insight and teaching that I think is possible. teachers.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Acknowledgements The first and foremost acknowledgement goes out to Ross Jeffries himself.
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Provide additional explanation of some points that are covered in the audio program.0 1. and on you as well. you can change the way you speak as well. then on some level. You are not going to sound like this or talk like this all of the time! Just in the way that you shift and change how you speak now in different situations. but this will help you if you are not. We will teach you ways to easily manage conversations so that they go in interesting directions. Listen to it.2 WHY IS THIS COURSE NEEDED? D1-T10 If you are here.1 INTRODUCTION AND GETTING STARTED OVERVIEW Dl-Tl Welcome and Thanks. and get the full benefit of everything this course has to offer. This workbook is meant to studied along with a series of audio lectures that are recorded on CDs. Instructions for each are provided. to use these language skills naturally as just a part of the way they speak. Conversational Skills The ability to manage conversations is needed as well. These techniques all need to sound and be "natural" to actually be effective. You will have this way of speaking as a PART of who you are and what you can do! Guys need to be trained. If you are her "type" you don't need this. If you follow along and do the exercises. some people do this naturally. Welcome to Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course. along with spaces for written responses where necessary. This program is based upon experience with countless students. consciously and subconsciously. seeing what is needed. Present a series of exercises and assignments. 1. We will be teaching you the detailed language skills that will really help you.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 1. Some guys don't need this. you will do so in the future and use these techniques as well. Page 1 . The purpose of this workbook is to: • • • Provide an outline of the material covered in the audio program. Language Skills What works? What makes the successful guys able to use these technologies? Partly it's the ability to actually "talk" in this manner. and "reprogrammed" in a way. You are already on your way! This course works on many levels. pay attention. So even this "intro" section is starting to work for you. and what works in the field. there is a need.
Page 2 . not a "trick". so we need to approach this in many ways." Guys need to stop the worrying about "Doing something wrong" It's only "wrong" if you are TRYING to do or be something you are not. and how people speak. Other parts of the language tools you may have to "think" about.. AND HOW Topics Speaking Pointers Language Tools and Details Conversational Management Conversational Fractionation Topics . You need to integrate skills to the degree that they ARE a part of who you ARE..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course You have to be PROGRAMMED to do this so you can have a conversation. listen. This is a term that will be used throughout this course. some things will sound quite familiar. then you are not actually IN the conversation! You need to be engaged in a conversation. Guys need to be able to just "do this" and "talk this way" in REAL-TIME..Seduction Oriented Topics Patterns and Riffing Examples Dl-Tl5 What Methods Are Used • Describe and explain the details of the techniques • Explicit examples of how the details work • Examples throughout and within the discussions • Examples section at the end..Enthusiasm and Passion Topics . • Working on several "levels" of you mind at once • Models to arrive at an overall understanding • Left brain and right brain are both addressed • Conscious and subconscious minds are both given what they need for real understanding and retention. but it's really YOU talking! Guys are too focused on "how can I use this" when in a conversation. how it is learned. talking. many times! • In fact we have already started! Where Does This Material Come From • From SS Teachings. for a while at least. so let's define and explain it for you. and be a part of it.. Not inside your head "thinking" about "how can I use this?"! 1. responding. must react to a steady flow of new information without interruption. • Things may seem to "repeat". • Exercises to develop understanding and skills • Assignments for you to do in the field. that is important. In a way. Sure.. but if you are "thinking" too much. listening. some of the ways that you speak now will be reprogrammed so that speaking in a new way will be natural. but that's your left brain talking! We are reprogramming many years of your experience. interacting. respond to input immediately .3 Major • • • • • • • • WHAT WE WILL HANDLE. Real Time "Occurring immediately . • Other teachings about language.
do whatever you need to do to listen to this course a LOT. From working with clients and seeing what worked and how they were able to change. Changing that will take some time. as assigned or as required. However. you are doing just that. listening multiple times in any setting also has a lot of benefit. • Get some other written material to work with for this course. making it a part of YOU. to give you a real roadmap to actually learn the material. However. and this journey. and engagement.4 INVESTING IN YOURSELF. • Get that "Mind-Momentum" going to help you change and improve. • Follow along in the workbook if you can • Do the exercises and assignments! • Listen over and over. Is this information. keep those copies to yourself. do it! But please. Page 3 . there IS some overlap and duplication with other products and systems. Be wary of those people who may want to "borrow" a copy. the emphasis here is training you to do it for yourself. • Is there an "optimal way" to use the product. do the exercises over and over. The best way to listen to this course is while also reviewing the workbook (especially in the conversational management sections). You will need them because you will have assignments that deal with these. The Mind-Momentum Principle At Work • Get energy. but in terms of THEM really being willing and ready to change. and this is much easier if you have an active life where you can have many conversations. many of these people will be those negative types of people that will then dispute the benefits of this program! Why? Because THEY have not invested anything into it! Not just in terms of dollars. effort. 1. Many of the assignments will deal with talking to people. or not? There are various ways. In addition. However. and engagement into your effort to really learn and use these materials. effort. OR NOT D1-T24 Any real change requires you to make an investment in yourself using energy. or revised? Yes. a concept that was brought up earlier. The Ways To Study And Use The Product • Listen to the CDs. new. that YOU just DO. If they just "try" it. they aren't really putting themselves INTO it. By embarking upon this course. Also maybe get a romance novel or two. • Be prepared to have a place to practice for this course! You will need to be able to speak out loud to do many of the exercises. and being open to what benefits this program can bring. If you need to make your own copies for use in multiple locations. and a few women's magazines as well. Applying a structured methodology of step-by-step methods.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • From personal experiences and how I used the materials. • Having a good social life will help you. So. do the assignments over and over! • Be patient. both audio and written materials. see what works for you. Other SS products will work well. the more you put into it. We are reprogramming years and years of you "speaking" in a certain manner. • Listen to other products in conjunction with this product. • This may seem complicated but the point is to get you SO familiar with the tools that you become the guy who does this! Some Very Important Points • Find all of your current SS products and inventory them. the more you will get out of it. and who may "try" to listen to the course.
some structures. hold you back. where you learn skills piece by piece. will not benefit. at every moment! Some people want to try to memorize.5 CAN WE CHANGE THE WAY YOU SPEAK? D1-T26 Is this really possible? This sounds difficult. then its easier. But that's not how you learned to talk! You learned to talk when you were a child . It Is Possible! . Imagine having to "think about" how to talk. because you will hear it so much! But a LOT of what is being conveyed here is learning by EXAMPLE. Don't let their lack of willingness to improve themselves. But it's tough to do that." So. And actual assignments.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course People must be engaged in the process to get its benefits. • • • • • • You will get some details. Plus it's not YOU talking. sentences. Those who are not.by hearing others around you speak! You were IMMERSED in language. at will Engage in conversation Manage conversations Yes. because it addresses that analytical part of your mind. You will end up "memorizing" thing to some degree. Then it's about a "performance. you heard it a lot. about grammar. kids are taught about language. It makes guys nervous. • • • • • • • • This might be good as a learning TOOL. its a memorized "thing". etc. you heard it. paragraphs.But This Is A Different Type Of Learning. consequently. How People Initially Learn How To Speak • • • • Sure in middle school. trying to "remember" what to say. Most people want to approach this by learning bits and pieces • • That's good in a way. Can we literally change the way you speak? • • • • • • • How you select words Create phrases Form sentences Pick topics Speak passionately. Immersion is the key. It's less effective. 1. you heard it in context. Also progressive exercises. just being YOU. and you started to form the ability to speak and communicate based upon that! Page 4 . some models. You keep trying to "remember" things. its YOU being YOU! You cannot fail at being YOU! The approach in this course is different. but to then USE it in conversation is difficult. there is a "right" and "wrong" way to do it! But if you are just TALKING. there is no "right" way or "wrong" way. but only indirectly. where you use the skills in the real world. Not as congruent.
more natural. and be more of WHO YOU ARE. or craft. like when I say "here is an example" Implicit examples.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course This Course Uses Many Techniques To Train You To Have Workable. "it's not me" or "I am just using a trick or technique". based upon feelings that when using them. Examples • • Explicit examples. so that you will have more ability and more flexibility to do what is appropriate MANIPULATION AND ETHICS CONCERNS D1-T32 1. where I am just DOING these things all during the program. Page 5 . it's not about throwing something AT her. more a part of YOU. trade. This causes some real. and who and what YOU are! Using these skills will be less of an "act". • Break it down into small parts. Real-World Skills. which we go over and over. Various Training Methods • • We use a lot of repetitive training methods so that these techniques have a better chance of becoming "automatic". With THIS approach HERE. Exercises and Assignments to Teach You the Skills • Skills Training like any sport. how you communicate. we will change the way you talk so that it will be easier. We will have you become familiar with the range of ways of speaking and sounding.6 Many guys have been uncomfortable with using many of these skills. deep ethics issues and blocks many guy's success.
to be cool. That's what women like. and this time focus on speaking by generating the sound from within your mouth (or. Page 7 . that there is a "fire" beneath the surface. and what people like in general. Read several paragraphs. Examples: One way to think of this is to consider "where" your voice is generated from in your body. That's the "allure". but giving the impression that there IS more. but because it's appropriate to the situation. calm. This is good as long as it's not BORING. 2. and says a lot about you. focusing on the back of your throat might make this easier to do). there are great products and examples of this elsewhere. a sense of being relaxed and calm • It also allows you to express some energy and excitement at different times. 1) Take some of that reading material. and read it aloud. how interesting you are. Cool does NOT mean to be boring and to put people to sleep while talking! The coolest people are the ones that are FUN to talk to and fun to be with! You don't have to be cold. there ARE products that focus JUST on this area and you may want to invest in those.1 SPEAKING AND LANGUAGE SPEAKING POINTERS The "Cool" Factor D2-T1 D2-T1 Guys want to sound "cool". Too many guys "try" to be cool but actually come off as COLD or even worse. Listen as the examples demonstrate: • Speaking through the nose • Speaking through the mouth • Speaking from the chest Exercises for Speaking Pointers Grab some reading material of some type. etc. 2) Read some more of that material out loud. Why is this important? • Great voice tone conveys comfort. BORING.2 Voice Tone and Tonality D2-T2 Listen to some examples of different tones of voice.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. If this is a challenge for you. but if you really want to work on this even more. how they make you feel. The audio section demonstrates these options quite well. how they sound. and even goes a bit over-the-top to really help you to understand what is being discussed. That "cool" feeling comes from being calm and speaking in a relaxed fashion. do this for several minutes. Your tone of voice really conveys a lot about who you are. focusing on generating your voice from your nose.1. how calm you are.1. We will work on this here in this course. even some of the materials from other products.0 2. "Cool" comes from being calm and sure of yourself.1 2. not out of nervousness. something you are interested in. reserved.
but this time really focus upon generating the sound from deep within your chest. where you were. and whether or not you DID it! Day/Time Who you spoke to Situation (Where) Did you DO it? Page 8 . Focus on dropping your voice down from your nose/mouth. Make notes below for some of the conversations and see if you can see a correlation between these items. it's important that you do what you can to REALLY make a point of doing these assignments. Make notes below as to when it happened. and recall some time in the recent past when you were kind of nervous or fearful. 1) Over the next few days when speaking to anyone. Relax. relaxed-confident).Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 3) Now read some of the material. and where you are speaking from (your nose. and really focus on having that voice generated from your chest. and make them a part of who you are. Day/Time Who you spoke to Speaking from? How you felt.in the real world! To get the most benefit from this course. Can you recall how you spoke? Did the way you sound in that situation sound like any of the examples you just did? See the similarity? Assignments for Speaking Pointers These are your first real assignments in the course. really make a note to speak lower. mouth. See how relaxed it actually makes you feel and how you really need to BE relaxed to do this! 4) Take a moment. Assignments are where you are given a real task to go out and do . 2) In the next few conversations you have with people. make note of how you felt (nervous. Also. comfortable. but to actually HAVE the skills. make a note to yourself as to how you are speaking. or chest). with whom. SOUND relaxed. Real-world experience will really help you to not just "know" the skills.
powerful. 1) Take some of that reading material and read it aloud.) Assignments for Pacing and Pausing 1) Over the next few days when speaking to anyone. but go ahead and convey excitement in your voice! 3) Now read some of the material.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Strategic Formula for Speaking Pointers Use your best tone of voice (speaking from your chest) to convey a relaxed. or don't quite understand the content. 2) Read some more of that material out loud. first very very fast. Read several paragraphs and do this for several minutes. (Maybe even be aware of where your voice is coming from. but this time read it slowly. as we discussed in the past section. 2. and then far far too slow. in a manner that makes you sound as if you are very confused. Focus on reading in a very hurried fashion as if you are very nervous. and this time focus on reading in a quick and hurried fashion. make a note to yourself as to how you are speaking in terms of your pacing and pausing. relaxed. even some of the materials from other products. 4) Now read some of the material. deliberate.3 Pacing and Pausing D2-T15 Listen to the examples where some various pacing is demonstrated. or almost a sense of panic. Being able to vary your pacing and pausing can help a lot to convey a sense of intrigue and create interest. There are many variations: Listen as these are demonstrated • Hurried showing nervousness • Hurried showing excitement • Slow as in hesitant and/or confused • Slow in a way that is deliberate and relaxed Exercises for Pacing and Pausing Grab some reading material of some type. and charismatic presence. Speaking too quickly can show tension. Something you are interested in.1. Why is • • • this important? Correct pacing and speed of delivery conveys comfort. comfortable manner. Too fast? Too slow? Hurried-nervous? Hurried-excited? Slow-confused? Page 9 . and shows that the speaker is relaxed. but this time read it in a slow.
By doing this. It's good to have the ability and range to display passion. enthusiasm. to convey a more relaxed and deliberate manner. or bored. When someone else is being boring. and if you DID it! Day/Time Who you spoke to Situation (Where) Did you DO it? Strategic Formula for Pacing and Pausing Use variations in pace. and well-placed pauses.. If they do or say something that is interesting to YOU. then you can show more enthusiasm. Page 10 . Day/Time Who you spoke to What type of pacing and pausing? 2) For the next few days. dead-end conversations. to convey a sense of drama and intrigue in what you are saying in a way that "captivates" people and makes them want to listen to you. who.4 Energy and Enthusiasm D2-T26 Listen to some examples of how this can sound .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Slow-relaxed? You don't have to change it yet. YOU act boring. just make a note of this after-the-fact and write that down below. you get stuck in fewer boring. • If someone else is being interesting. start to focus on changing your pacing and pausing. energy.1. • This also allows YOU to convey how interesting someone ELSE is as well. where. YOU can show an appropriate amount of energy and enthusiasm. Make note of when. and excitement when appropriate. 2... Who cares? Why does this matter? • Most guys are just TOO BORING.
technical presentations. Again. 2) Watch and listen to some speakers who use a lot of energy and enthusiasm when they are talking! Really pay attention to how they speak.. and read THAT aloud in a way that DOES show energy and enthusiasm! Make that sound as convincing as #4 above. their pace. Watch on either TV. 3) Get some written material that you have NO interest in. 2) For the next few conversations you have with people where you ARE interested in the subject. and how your respond. their tone. animated. their pace. go ahead and SHOW your enthusiasm! Be energetic in how you speak. your work. Again. their tone. other products. dry topic. etc. Read it OUT LOUD in a boring. and BE BORING. Assignments for Energy and Enthusiasm 1) Over the next few days. Do this for a good 10-15 minutes. Strategic Formula for Energy and Enthusiasm Using energy and enthusiasm when speaking so that people can become energized and enthusiastic about listening to and being with you. 5) Take that written material that really does interest you. Note how even if the material is something you do NOT care about. how you listen. do that for 10-15 minutes. Read it OUT LOUD in an exciting. Think as if YOU are convincing a group of people how great this is! Maybe your Dream Job of a lifetime is dependant upon YOU speaking well and showing how passionate YOU are about this! Do that for a good 10-15 minutes. and that are excited about. bland. monotone voice. Page 11 . make sure it is something that YOU are passionate about. Exercises for Energy and Enthusiasm Grab some reading material of some type.. women. When you respond or talk back. taped lectures. 6) Take that earlier written material about the subject that you are NOT interested in and that really bores you. monotone. bland voice with no energy or enthusiasm. energetic voice. whatever it is. your car.. do that for 10-15 minutes.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course The audio section demonstrates more details about sounding boring/bored and also sounding as if you have energy and enthusiasm. something you are interested in. that a good speaker can really grab your attention with their energy and enthusiasm. go ahead. 4) Get some written material that really DOES interest you. 1) Watch and listen to some speakers talk about a boring. maybe sports. whenever someone is talking about something boring. Really pay attention to how they speak. even some of the materials from . and read that aloud in a boring. and how much (or little) energy is conveyed. BE BORING and show no enthusiasm at all. which bores you. and how much (or little) energy is conveyed..
2 LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS D2-T39 These are the Bit And Pieces • These are the sort of things that can be powerful. Do this for each of the conversations listed above. If you really like this subject.. Day. • Their use must be automatic. They sound cold. sports.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. but this time. movies. out loud. Remember. and make note of the adjectives and adverbs in it. or they are too factual and leftbrained. add more descriptive terms to it. use more Adjectives and Adverbs. while Adverbs will describe ACTIONS (verbs). and the subject you were talking about. we are working to appeal to the emotions.2. Re-live it. Cars. because to have to "think about" using them is almost impossible! • You need to be TRAINED TO USE THEM automatically. and sensations. 2. whatever. boring. Most guys are too dry in their speech. and stress the adjectives and adverbs in it. Most men could be helped by having more descriptive speech. talk about it in a descriptive way. Maybe say those adjectives or adverbs and put more energy into those words and emphasize them in some manner. Adjectives will describe THINGS (nouns). Note whom you were talking to. Who you spoke to Subject 5) Now. 2) Read it. Most Adjectives and Adverbs are qualitative. you should be able to do this for at least 3-5 minutes each. feelings.) 3) Read that text OUT LOUD. but must be done over and over. It's good if YOU are also interested in it. and uninteresting. they are not things that can be measured or specified. Page 12 . 4) Think of three recent conversations you had when you talked to someone about something that you REALLY liked. These words modify or in some way describe. nouns and verbs. talk about each thing or subject again.1 Adjectives and Adverbs D2-T40 Listen to an example where many of these are used in descriptive language. (Maybe highlight them in some manner. Examples • Car reviews • Movie Reviews • This course! Exercises for Adjectives and Adverbs 1) Find some written material that deals with something where people are speaking passionately about some subject. and more ways of talking about processes. not the logical side of a person..
that you are passionate about. emotions. Be descriptive. and processes awaken. Strategic Formula for Adjectives and Adverbs Use more adjectives and adverbs in your speech to appeal to and excite the emotional side of the listener. b. Trance words help to "open the person up" so that their subconscious. They are not "analyzed" in a conscious. Trance • • • • • Word List Instantaneously Suddenly Find Yourself Convince Yourself Suppose Page 13 . that you really enjoy. so that their feelings. Day Who you spoke to Subject 2) Write down a few adjectives and adverbs that you could have used in each discussion (refer to a.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Assignments for Adjectives and Adverbs 1) Make note of the next 3 times you are having a conversation which deals with something that YOU are really into.2 Trance Words D3-T1 Listen to an example where many of these are used. 2. or objective manner. and then maybe add some more as time goes on. and c above).2. factual. is listening and more engaged in the conversation. and with whom you spoke. 4) The next several times any of those subjects come up in conversation. Trance words are words that "call upon" the subconscious mind in order for them to be processed and understood. their emotional side. make sure to use some of those adjectives and adverbs in your descriptions. Write down what the subject was. Act like you are really having the conversation again. "paint a picture" with your words. 3) Practice out loud how you would have said those things in each of the three conversations. Start with just a few of them.
and see how many of those Trance Words you can use. almost boring or mundane thing. Subject b. talk OUT LOUD about that subject and see how many times you can use those Trance Words! Subject a. 6) Pick two subjects in which you are interested. but also see if you can add some to the list. Maybe refer to some of your other SS products and see how many more you can find. 4) Get your SS audio materials and listen for Trance Words (maybe even THIS course here). 7) Pick a subject that bores you. Trance Word List 2) Watch or listen to some material where people are speaking passionately about something. Looking at the list of Trance Words above. Boring Subject Page 14 . With that list of Trance Words (above) in hand. You can copy the ones you saw listed earlier. work. Doesn't that make it sound kind of "mysterious"? Maybe more exciting? Maybe you can take some normal.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • Imagine Mysterious (-ly) Wonder (-ous) (-ously) Think of any subject. Look at the Trance Word List above. that's the point! Exercises for Trance Words 1) Make a full list of Trance Words. Think for a moment about using those trance words to describe that subject. or school. Write them down below. political speakers. 3) Get out your written SS materials and look for Trance Words (maybe even use THIS course here). like advertisements. See how many you can find and notice how they are used in context. and see if you can pick these out. and make it more interesting? Well. See how many you can notice. talk about it. Maybe play one tape or CD. sportscasters. 5) Take the written text from an SS product (maybe from #3 above) and read it out loud. placing an emphasis on the Trance Words when you see them. Highlight or circle the Trance Words in a few sections. even something concrete like your job. Now speak OUT LOUD about that subject. see and hear if you can pick out when the speaker is using Trance Words. something that you think is dull. or religious speakers.
Just do whatever you can to start using some of them at first. If you were to .. Use them when talking to different people. to get from one subject to another. maybe even a bit odd? Maybe even a different topic or change of subject? Or maybe something that you were worried about bringing up... doesn't that make it-sound more "exciting". The next time you are speaking with anyone about those subjects (in the real world guys!). Strategic Formula for Trance Words Using Trance Words will help to get the subconscious mind of the listener to be more of a part of your conversation. because it may be a bit too forward? Well. How do you talk about something without REALLY talking about it? How do you bring something up that may be a bit different. Subject a. 2) Integrate a few more of these words into your every-day description of those subjects.3 Weasel Phrases D3-T14 Listen to an example where many of these are used.... make a point to use at least one of the Trance Words in the conversation. that's what Weasel Phrases are for! Weasel Phrase List (see if you can add to the list by listening to the audio).. Page 15 . and using more and more as time goes on. • • • • • Have you ever . These also work as transitional phrases... and more fascinating? Assignments for Trance Words 1) Pick two subjects in which you are interested.. Subject b. As you . more interesting. If I were to .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Even though that may seem a bit strange. Practice working with those subjects out loud some more and see if you can get even more comfortable using Trance Words when talking about those subjects.2. 2. What's it like when .
4) Pick a subject in which you are interested. sensing it. Try it again. Pick 3 of them that seem the most natural to you. Maybe pausing for a moment before one. 2) Get your SS audio materials and listen for some Weasel Phrases. This is necessary to have the kind of words and subjects that lend themselves to Weasel Phrases. It will get easier. doing it. but selecting different Phrases to link the aspects together. Maybe play one tape or CD. make note of the weasel phrases. See if you can pick these out.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Exercises for Weasel Phrases 1) Get some of your written SS materials and look for some Weasel Phrases in the text.. (Weasel Phrases tend to provide ways to connect sentences and paragraphs that talk about how something is felt and experienced. Just read the SS material out loud. then use another Weasel Phrase.) Pick 4-5 different aspects of this "experience" that you will talk about. and do so with an awareness on some level that you are saying and using weasel phrases when they are in the text. and read some of this material out loud. Use different Phrases. Do this until you use all 4-5 of the attributes that you listed. Take a moment and try to emphasize them in a way. 5) Did that sound weird? Strange? Ok . the subject might be "going to a ball game" (pick your own. The next several times that you talk about that subject with anyone. that it makes more sense. we want you to talk about how it FEELS. In a moment. that seem as if they fit best into your way of speaking about subjects that you may like. Assignments for Weasel Phrases 1) Look at the list of Weasel Phrases that you wrote earlier. and see if you can string things together so that they sound better. and then use one of the Weasel Phrases and the bring up another "aspect". saying one slowly or quickly. after another. While doing it. getting into it. don't use that one!) Now talk about one of these 4-5 aspects for 1-2 sentences. see if you can use some or all of your favorite weasel phrases when talking about it. For example. etc. Talk about THAT one for a few sentences. etc. 3) Take the written SS materials you had earlier. 2) Note the subject that you used earlier for doing some exercises with Weasel Phrases (exercise 4 above). Subject Page 16 .. the experience of it.
2. and do so with an awareness. that you are saying and using embedded commands at the time. Think of general statements. Maybe play one tape or CD. that you want them to experience. saying one slowly. While doing it. maybe a car. "get excited". after another. lets say you were selling something to someone. or "you want this" (car). "get into it". maybe pausing for a moment before one. or experience while they are thinking about that subject. These are not to be sexual or suggestive.2. Make a point to "lean on it" a bit. a place you have traveled. intrigued. Two key aspects of the use of Embedded Commands are often overlooked. 3) Take the written SS materials. its about multiple usage (bombardment)! Exercises for Embedded Commands 1) Get our your written SS materials (written) and look for embedded commands in a few pages of the text. or more quickly.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Select another subject that really interests you. your job. and where the person's emotions or feelings are somehow active (This "context" issue is discussed later in the product in great detail in Conversational Management sections. your car.It's not just about using one. Write down things that would make someone interested. To make it easy. and to "soften" the way in which something is said. make note of the embedded commands. See if you can pick out embedded commands while listening. Pick something that excites you! Maybe the subject is sports. instead "you like this" (car). These are small snippets of words and phrases which. Again not "you like that color". once. allowing you to say more (and maybe more provocative things) about a subject. "this is what you have imagined having for yourself. • Repetition .just general things that would cause a person to be interested in something. 4) Pick a topic that YOU are very interested in.. issue a "command" or statement that instructs someone do something. when separated from the context. Just say this stuff out loud. "see how fascinated" . Page 17 . etc. Subject Strategic Formula for Weasel Phrases Use Weasel Phrases to keep the conversation going. and read some of this material out loud. or feel a certain way.4 Embedded Commands D3-T25 Listen to an example where many of these are used. and incorporate Weasel Phrases into the next several discussions you have about that subject as well. excited by something. Take a moment and try to emphasize them in some way. on some level.. 2) Get your SS audio materials and listen for these. feel. Like "feel excited".). think of it like this.It's very important that the command be brought up in the context of a conversation that is interesting. feelings. things you would like a listener to think about. etc. • Context . Write down a list of embedded commands. but just general things (feelings or states).
out loud. Page 18 . to create a compelling will on the part of the listener follow you and listen to you. Assignments for Embedded Commands 1) Look at the list of Commands that you wrote and practiced that deal with a subject in which you are interested (exercise 4 above). but now focus more on "leaning" on the embedded commands a bit. 6) Do the same thing again.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 5) Start talking about that topic out loud. Write down a list of at least 5 commands that work well in that subject. changing your voice. make some effort to use some of these commands in the context of a real discussion. Maybe slowing down slightly. pausing. 4) The next several times that subject comes up in your life. Maybe you work in sales. Maybe it's not a passion or real interest. just enough to put the emphasis on the command. or maybe it has to deal with your job. but something where being influential may help. or school. 2) Select another subject that is a part of your life. start using a few of these commands when speaking. and with that list that YOU wrote in hand. and make it sound natural. that would assist you in being more influential. The next several times that you talk about that subject with anyone. work on just saying them and finding a way to bring them up. in the context of talking about that subject. Start to place some emphasis on the command itself. see just how many of the embedded commands in that list that YOU can say! First. Strategic Formula for Embedded Commands Use embedded commands repeatedly and in the proper context. Subject Embedded Commands 3) Practice the use of those commands. See how natural you can make them sound.
2. she has to feel it on some level (and she will. you are talking "about" a feeling or sensation. and talking to you.) Page 19 . she has to actually feel it to some extent. using some of the techniques that have been discussed in this course (pausing. and inexact. 2) Get your SS audio materials and listen for these. 3) Take the written SS materials. Are you talking about the "feeling" she had at some time in the past? Are you talking about the feeling she is having right now? • Because you are using terms like "this". as long as there is good rapport). when you say "this feeling". "this interest". Linking Phrases . you become more associated with those feelings. non-specific. If she is experiencing these feelings in your presence. you are being ambiguous. etc. also "this" and "these" as in "this feeling" of "these feelings". and experiences that are being discussed and associate or "link" them to you. then to the deeper levels of her mind. The most common linking phrase/tool that guys think about is the phrase "now with me". make note of where linking is taking place. See if you can pick out Linking Phrases while listening. you speak of "this feeling". will "link" them to you. and feel emotions. • However. etc. and then making an ambiguous reference to that feeling using your words. While doing so. if you are talking about a great feeling of excitement that a woman has had or is having.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. and read some of this material aloud. change in voice tone. • • • • • • • Now with me In me In myself with this these this belief these feelings Exercises for Linking 1) Get our your written SS materials (written) and look for examples of Linking in the text.While listening to the audio. the linking tools and techniques will add to this. However. For example. What is this based upon? • When talking. Take a moment and try to emphasize the linking in some way.5 Linking D3-T42 Linking is a way to take the feelings. while looking at you. then on some level that is creating this "link". "in myself. Maybe play one tape or CD. which is an ambiguous way of referencing what she is thinking about. on some level. and make this "link" even more effective. • In order for her to understand the feeling being discussed. emotions. ALL of those possible definitions apply! Then. Just to "process" what is being discussed. and getting her to experience. In some ways. it's easier than you think! Just talking about a subject and getting her to be a part of the discussion. You can also make reference to "in me". recall. see if you can add more phrases to the list below. which is ambiguous (non-exact).
4). As you hear more and more examples of this throughout the course.) For example. Another example would be to take the phrase "Get excited" and turn that into "get excited by THESE things". the linking is ambiguous and doesn't reference you directly. with me" after one of more of the commands in your list. or change your voice. this will come to you much more easily. 6) Now do the same thing again. it's much better if picked up along-the-way. and using the list above.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4) Take the list of embedded commands that you created in an earlier exercise (Exercise #4 in section 2. etc. (Again. This will sound easier for you as we go on. You can even add the ever-popular "now. A quick way of doing this is to simply add "this feeling". In some manner. work on just saying them and finding a way to bring them up. where you listed "feel excited". just enough to put emphasis on the Linkage Phrase. and see if you can "add" text to each to link them to you in some way.2. Maybe slow down slightly.4). Assignments for Linking No separate assignment for this. see just how many of the Embedded Commands and Linkage Phrases that you can use in your dialog. "this person or thing". This may seem strange and sound a bit "off".2. link them to you so that YOU become something and someone that they feel good about. you could say "feel excited by this" or "feel excited now" (you can also link things by putting in a reference to NOW). That's ok. Doing linking in an exercise like this is difficult and hard to make it sound "natural". Plus the next section will make this much easier! Strategic Formula for Linking After getting someone to experience good feelings and emotions. pause. Page 20 . but now focus more on "leaning" a bit on the Linkage Phrases. First. "these feelings". Embedded Command Linkage Phrase 5) Pick a topic that YOU are interested in as we did before (it can be the same one you used in Exercise #4 in section 2. Write down the list of commands and an associated linkage phrase for each below. Start talking about that topic out loud.
with you. that direction • This feeling. • This person. with "these" being the possessive form. Whereas "that person" refers to someone "away" some "other" person who is not in the immediate area. (In some cases. That. So. a GREAT strategy is to link anything and everything positive to you (and link negative things away from yourself.2. seductive feelings to you may be great but. those feelings • These sensations. and one is not. those people • These directions. those directions • These feelings. that sensation They differ though in that "this" seems possessive.Non-Possessive (seems to reference something "else" or something "away") Consider these and those. they reference a "thing". Given that one type is possessive. for that multiple-instance bombardment that we spoke of before! The idea of linking wild.Possessive (sort of "includes" something) • That . These. so you are not using a name or specific reference. that person • This direction. but that will be quite obvious when you try to do that). who cares? Well these are almost interchangeable! You can switch this/that in sentences as you wish. In this case. there are times when they cannot be switched. and included. For example.6 Easy-Linking (This. So. one "thing". This is a new and very effective way to do linking that is easy to learn and master. and "that" is not. and it can be done a LOT. • These people. that feeling • This sensation.Possessive • Those . This means they are ambiguous! Consider this and that. in general. these refer to plural items. exciting.Non-Possessive For example. This and that tend to refer to singular items. but do so in a general manner. those sensations So. these and those are plural • These . Consider four words in the English language: • This • That • These • Those These are forms of pronouns. this & that are singular • This .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. use the possessive form when saying or talking about ANYTHING POSITIVE and use the non-possessive form when saying anything negative! Page 21 . "this person" tends to sound like the person that is there. Those) D4-T1 Listen to an example where many of these are used. or not there at the time.
and the correct form of This. These are good. using the correct versions of That. That. That. 2) Say the lines below. These. These people are good. write a small sentence for each. and those depending on whether the item is positive or negative. Those are not. for a good ten minutes. ' 3) Earlier in the workbook. or singular/plural.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • This That These Those Singular possessive Singular non-possessive Plural possessive Plural non-possessive Anything Anything Anything Anything Positive Negative Positive Negative You can learn to do this (to choose which of these words to use) in real-time through training! Tactical Formula for Easy-Linking Use "This" and "These" when referring to anything positive. out loud. Those Page 22 . Exercises for Easy-Linking 1) Say the lines below. Use "That" and "Those" when referring to anything negative. That person is not. That is not. This person is good. Small sentence that includes that attribute. out loud. Write down (below) ten attributes. These. you have discussed a subject (and written a lot of text about it) that is important to you. or "things about" that subject. This is good. for a good ten minutes. Those people are not. For each of these attributes or things. Subject: Attributes or "things about" that subject.
list ten attributes or things about that subject.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4) Talk out loud about that subject for a good 5-10 minutes. 5) Pick another subject. and then write a small sentence for each. That. and once again. Anchoring Anchoring is associating a feeling or emotional state to a sensory experience. Those 6) Talk out loud about the subject mentioned above for a good 5-10 minutes. Subject: Attributes or "things about" that subject. and Those. These. beyond the small bits and pieces of language. D4-T13 Page 23 . and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. and their movement becomes a part of their communication. These sections help to train you in these types of techniques. using the appropriate form of This. and the correct form of This.3 MORE TOOLS D4-T12 Now we are getting into a different area. 2. These. That. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. Small sentence that includes that attribute. Great speakers use movement to their advantage.
Get your hands OUT of your pockets and AWAY from your body! Act excited. point up. 2.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Many different types of anchoring can be done and we are only going to cover some very basic tools. after the conversation has ended. so these techniques discussed here will help. towards.3. and hopefully the conversations are interesting. etc. etc). 2) List 3 subjects that you really enjoy. or even a preacher. talking about a subject that YOU are interested in. and that are very very easy to do. Use your hands to accentuate certain points. and that you end up talking about with people quite often. Move! We will start by generating SOME movement. have energy. Most guys are too boring and too reserved when talking. and away from yourself. Then later on see if you can start to become aware of what your hands are doing WHILE you are in the conversation. and some gestures. Pick something YOU are interested in. etc. We will break down many of the component parts of this into skills that we will teach you bit by bit. embedded commands. How often are they in your pockets? How often do they just lie by your side and never move? Make note of this after-the-fact. Watch how they move. Subjects Page 24 . BE excited! Use your hands and arms for emphasis. and way from your sides. to help make their point. Assignments for Pointing and Gestures 1) For the next few days. How to • • • do this: Get your hands out of your pockets. and that you are passionate about. maybe a motivational speaker. make note of where your hands are when speaking. They may be a bit over-the-top (speaking to an audience is different than speaking one-on-one) but just watch them for a while. However we will focus on things that can create a LOT of effectiveness. and to do multiple times. down. Read some of that text (from an earlier exercise) out loud. political speaker.1 Pointing and Gestures D4-T14 Good speakers use their hands. so that the use of these becomes automatic. and then we can work on deliberate movement such as • Pointing towards and away from things • Towards yourself and away from yourself Exercises for Pointing and Gestures 1) Find a good speaker on TV. passionate. Don't flail about wildly. 2) Get one of the text lists from an earlier exercise (weasel phrases.
2. using the appropriate form of This. That. These. and then write a small sentence for each. and Those.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4) Talk out loud about that subject for a good 5-10 minutes. Great speakers use movement to their advantage. Subject: Attributes or "things about" that subject. That. 5) Pick another subject. Small sentence that includes that attribute. beyond the small bits and pieces of language. list ten attributes or things about that subject. D4-T13 Page 23 . and the correct form of This. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. and once again. These sections help to train you in these types of techniques. and their movement becomes a part of their communication.3 MORE TOOLS D4-T12 Now we are getting into a different area. These. Those 6) Talk out loud about the subject mentioned above for a good 5-10 minutes. Anchoring Anchoring is associating a feeling or emotional state to a sensory experience. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking.
and every time something positive is being talked about. etc. gesture. towards. As you get more comfortable with this. make a note to go ahead and move. just start to MOVE. Good. Bring Positive things toward yourself. away. and others. and to send negative things "away" from yourself. 3) With these three subjects in mind.2 Linking Gestures (Towards And Away) D4-T22 This is a fast and easy way to link positive states to you.. away. • Or hold your hand away from yourself (to send things "away") How to use it • Good to do in the context of being a person that already MOVES when talking! • Make this subtle. point away. and animate to some extent the next time you talk about them.3. arms. Tactical Formula for Linking Gestures Whenever you say something negative. many people move when talking This technique is most powerful when used at a time when emotions and/or imagination are engaged in the conversation. or • You can place your hand on your chest or abdomen in a subtle manner (to link things to you) . and MOVE! Do this out loud. Do something. gesture. and the repetition works for you! • Can do in various contexts. Say the following out loud while gesturing in the correct direction: Good. and send Negative things away • You can point towards or away from yourself. motion. Bad. ANYTHING. Strategic Formula for Pointing and Gestures Move. very easily. but this time use your hands. recall a recent time when you had such a discussion. make a point to get your hands OUT of your pockets. Whenever you say something positive. point or gesture away.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course For each of these subjects.). point or gesture towards yourself. and MOVE. and AWAY from your sides and MOVE when talking about these subjects. Page 25 . Exercises for Linking Gestures 1) Stand up. and when anything negative is mentioned. Read that out loud. Bad (gesture towards. and accentuate what you are saying in order to be more compelling as a speaker and to get even more attention from your listener or audience. point towards yourself. This technique allows you to do this many many times. no need to WILDLY gesture! • You can do this many many times.) 2) Grab some of your written SS materials. or at least be able to move.. Do your best to re-enact that discussion (say what you said. 2. etc.
say what you said. but this time when you are speaking of anything good or positive. Do the following out loud: Page 26 . etc. For each of these subjects. make a note to go ahead and use these Linking Gestures to some extent the next time you talk about them. etc. it will become easier and easier. Point to you Negative Say "those". Those" correctly Combine these and use them at the same time! When you say This or These. That. and every time something positive is being talked about.. have energy. That. Those . Start subtle. 2) With these three subjects in mind. passionate.) D4-T30 Now we bring together Linking Gestures and Easy Linking. Say "that". Use "This. Point away. these can be the same as the last set of assignments). Point away Positive statement. and hopefully the conversations are interesting.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Remember the text we used in an earlier example here in the workbook? Read that out loud. but you don't have to do it every time! That will seem strange! Tactical Formula for Easy Linking Expanded Positive statement. when anything negative is mentioned. Exercises for Easy Linking Expanded 1) Stand up. point away. (yes. These. 2. and that you end up talking about with people quite often.3. Pick something that YOU are interested in. recall a recent time when you had such a discussion. start with a few. Point to you Negative statement. Subjects Do your best to re-enact that discussion.3 Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This. Do this out loud. These. or at least sit where you can move. When you say These or Those. motion away or place your hands/arms away. Say "these". Conversely.. gesture towards yourself or place your hand(s) on yourself. Say "this". and MOVE. point away. point towards yourself and when anything negative is mentioned. points towards yourself. Linking Gestures and Easy-Linking together: • • • Use the pointing/gestures on Positive and Negative things (point towards and away). Assignments for Linking Gestures 1) List 3 subjects that you really enjoy. This is veryeasy to do over and over for that repetitive effect.
a realization. Practice it enough and in connection with earlier exercises. Strategic Formula for Easy Linking Expanded Combine the use of Linking Gestures (towards yourself when positive. Use the correct versions of This. These. Also. and able to be done many many times. But to get even more effectiveness when anything positive happens. and say "that". This is more easily done if you are standing at the side or at an angle..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Point to yourself. we are doing that already by pointing "towards" on positive things and "away" on negative things using Linking. the more effective it tends to be. If you are head-on directly in front of a person.) with Easy Linking (using This. Point back to yourself and say "these". Page 27 . That. That. Do this in a way that maybe makes it seem like you are doing it for emphasis. It may be good to anchor feelings. or when the person you are talking to goes into a Positive state. touch them This is best done in a "moment" with some emotion. Can we apply this to anchoring? Yes! • We need a way to do some basic anchoring that is very simple. That. it will become automatic. Point away. states.4 Easy Anchoring . it's good to be close enough (within arms-length) so that the "touch" is easy to do. touch them • they smile. etc. and Those.. On Positive D4-T35 Let's look at anchoring in light of the 80/20 rule (where 80% of the results come from 20% of the effort). trying to add in more instances of This. and thoughts to you but in a general sense. it's more difficult. specific states. These. it's very useful to Anchor anything and everything positive to you! In some ways. while pointing towards or away from yourself in the correct manner. 2.3. an expression. but actually. These. and away when negative. Those in the correct ways) to associate even more positive feelings. and say "this". The more that "emotions" are being accessed. touch them! This "Easy Anchoring" works in any context: • they laugh. Point away and say "those" Repeat! This WILL help to train you! 2) Remember the text we used in an earlier example? Speak that text out loud. a laugh.Point or Touch. and emotions to yourself. touch them • they seem to go into a pleasant state. you are anchoring them in a subtle way. and Those if you can.
and the situation or topic being discussed. Page 28 . without really thinking about it. vividly. See if you can recall how it was. A laugh A moment of recognition or realization When someone starts talking quietly. but yet have some degree of rapport already (maybe this is a friend-of-a-friend. • Think about when you meet and are introduced to someone. also make a point to make and maintain eye contact as well. but in many cases. maybe pat on the back. and note to yourself the correlation between how long the touch lasted and the level of rapport. Exercises for Easy Anchoring 1) Think about the last 5 times where you touched someone in this type of way. • Think about when you greet a friend. Tactical Formula for Easy Anchoring When the person you are talking with displays a positive feeling of some type. make a point to hold it just slightly longer than usual. (Not romantically. • When joking with someone.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course You probably do this already in certain situations. etc. maybe someone who you have heard about).) Maybe a handshake Maybe a pat on the back Maybe a funny gesture Make a note of the person. This is the same type of thing. Also note the degree of eye contact... Person '" Situation. a smile. interest. What do you do? You shake their hand. laugh. intrigue. you grab their upper arm as well. touch them to help anchor it to you. directly to you. you just touch his or her upper arm or upper back. such as. or Topic being discussed 2) Recall those 5 times. but a bit more "deliberate".. Assignments for Easy Anchoring 1) The next several times you shake someone's hand. Write those down. 2) Spend some time looking for moments (positive ones) where a touch would be appropriate. just a touch.
Chest o Pacing And Pausing • Slow. Those MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures • Move! Point! o Linking Gestures • Towards And Away o Easy Linking Expanded • Pointing With This.. 3) Now that you have started to notice these "moments" where a touch would be appropriate. That. that a touch is appropriate. language. maybe you don't touch them. Mouth. but as you notice these moments. in-the-moment. Suddenly. These. think "I could have touched them THEN". o Embedded Commands • Can you do this now. DO IT! Strategic Formula for Easy Anchoring In general. Then. see if you can have at least 5 instances of knowing. Fast • • • Pause o Energy And Enthusiasm • Passionate or Boring? LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS o Adjectives And Adverbs • Be descriptive o Trance Words • Instantaneously. we want you to actually DO IT! So. o Linking " with me. to be cool o Voice Tone And Tonality • Nose.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course At first. These.. That. o Easy-Linking • This. when you have the chance. 2. and you have already learned a LOT of the detailed speaking. anchoring and associating yourself to positive and intriguing feelings in other people helps to make them feel positive towards and intrigued by you.. You are noticing this after-the-fact. Those Page 29 . and movement skills that will be used later in the course..4 REVIEW D4-T46 We are well on our way. Find Yourself o Weasel Phrases • If I were to .. • SPEAKING POINTERS o The "Cool" Factor • You don't have to be cold.
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o Easy Anchoring • Point Or Touch On Positive And Negative With these parts behind you. we will move onwards to work on Language Structures. and later to Conversational Management techniques. Page 30 .
Don't argue! . it's best to meet or join someone in some way. but you need a lot of power to do it and you risk breaking rapport. These were tactical details. Fast and abrupt changes . you might make comments (some that agree and some that may not) but the key is that you are "Taking part in" the conversation and topics at hand. Are they useful and possible? • • • Trying to knock or jar someone into a different direction or way of thinking can be risky. but agreeing is just a special case. Changing the Viewpoint or Frame if Mind . into higher-level stuff. incorrect. and then take them in some direction.1 PACE AND LEAD D5-T2 Pace and Lead .A way to change directions • In someone's way of thinking • In the conversation To make a change in direction in some manner. telling someone they are wrong. show understanding (does not have to be agreement necessarily) and then . You almost NEVER impress people that way! To pace/lead well. For example. Pace and Lead allows us to "join" someone. acknowledge what the other person is saying. To "Pace" means to just BE a part of the conversation. and more influential in general.. move with them conversationally for a while.Can you just knock someone into agreeing with you? Can you be that bold? Yes.. all of the time. Agree or not agree? . You might disagree.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3. or to try to "impress" them. Now we are moving "up" a level. It can mean this.. but will hopefully at some point. be able to just "do". 3. or "bigger chucks" as we say.Some people misunderstand and think that to "Pace" means to "agree". you are lost. Challenges • Can't you just bluntly offer a different view? Yes. you might bring up a new way of looking at it. however you can break rapport. towards where you want things to go. You MAY be able to do that.. move them . etc.. say things such as.. o That's one way to see it o I understand your point Page 31 • • . then and give them another way of looking at it.Can you just abruptly jerk a conversation towards where you want it to go? Maybe. the sort of things that you need to get used to doing automatically.0 LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES D5-T1 We have been working on bits and pieces of language.. Changing Topics and Subjects . The minute you do anything like that to get someone else's "approval". things that you should not even have to really "think about". These techniques give you ways to use and arrive at languaging in a manner that will make you more persuasive.Some people try to display higher knowledge or value by "arguing". but you can break rapport in the process.. but you must do so powerfully and do NOT look for "acceptance".
.. I see • That's interesting • I get it • Hmmmmm . and/or interest. To TRY to IMPRESS is bad. if you attempt to do that.. 3. showing that you are a part of it... acknowledgement.. Maybe • • • • • • continue showing an understanding or interest So what you mean is . • Alright. In addition.it's like this. So... The point here is not to memorize these "lines". So if I understand this . Tactical Formula for Pacing and Leading Show agreement..1 General Pace and Lead Techniques D5-T9 Here are some examples of ways to do these steps with example wording for each. Ok.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o o That's interesting I see what you are saying. Arguing! Many smart guys study these techniques and technologies...1. Instead . I also think you can see . Page 32 . the implication is that you NEED someone's approval.) • Yes... but to really get a sense of being IN the conversation. Then start to move or shift things in a different way. as if you "need" their approval. Strategic Formula for Pacing and Leading Pacing and Leading allows you "be" in the conversation for a while and gain rapport and information. Let me make sure I understand ..... I read/saw/heard the same thing ..BE IMPRESSIVE! People really don't like to be proven dumb or wrong! Most people are offended or "put off by such attempts... a way that you want.... That hardly ever works. understanding. what you are saying is . Let them know you are listening and understand (using wording such as shown below.. Impressing someone with your knowledge. . • Ok .. Then start to direct things in a different way .. have you thought about this .. allowing you to move things more in your favor later on. and some of then want to go out and "impress" people with their newfound knowledge.. it makes YOU look bad. and then moving things forward in some manner.. I get it. • Well. or.
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I hear you, and what else is interesting is .... •-. That's a good way of looking at it, something else that is important is ....
The Formula for Pacing and Leading is ... acknowledge and then start to shift things ... Maybe you want to shift things more and/or bring up another issue or viewpoint entirely (or maybe you actually disagree) • That's one way of looking at it, however I think ... • Yes, I understand, I have also heard ... • Ok, that makes sense, another way of thinking about it is .. • Alright, but on the other hand... Some general methods you can use to introduce the "leading" aspect, you can talk about... • What you know, believe, understand • What a friend or colleague has said • What you heard • What you read • etc. 3.1.2 Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects D5-T12
Lets say you find some people talking about a topic. Do you walk up, interrupt, and start an entirely new topic? No. (Well, you can, but that takes a lot of power and has a lot of risk.) A better way is to enter the conversation, talk about it (Pace), and then move the conversation into areas that you want it to go (Lead). Examples: • You are in a conversation and the topic is cars. People are talking about prices, loans, etc. You acknowledge what is being said, contribute to that conversation (pace), and then start to bring in the idea of how a car handles, how it feels, and how exciting it is to drive certain cars (lead). • People are discussing clothes, various brands, types, etc. You talk about that with them (pace) for a while, and then start to bring up the idea of how clothes make you feel, how you feel differently when wearing different things ... etc (lead)
Tactical Formula for Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects Show agreement, understanding, acknowledgement, and/or interest in the topic or subject. Then start to move or shift topic or subject in a different way, a way that you want.
Exercises for Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects 1) Think about some recent conversations you have had with people about different topics, hopefully these conversations and/or this topic is something that occurs a lot for you (based on interests you have, people you know, etc). Recall a specific "moment" in each conversation. Note what was being discussed, and what point was being talked about. Make a note of each of them. Also note, where did that actual conversation go next?
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course What were you talking about in this "moment"?
Conversation with whom?
Where did it go next?
2) Pace and Lead Gently Out loud, practice as if you were talking in each of the discussions above, and paced the conversation and topic, and then lead it in some direction. In this exercise, simply show agreement, understanding, and/or interest, and then lead in the same general direction. Maybe bring up a new example, new point, new issue, but just sort of "take over" the conversation. 3) Pace and Lead in a New Direction Next, for each of those instances, provide an example where you show agreement, understanding, and/or interest, but now start to "move" things in a new direction. Maybe the conversation that you had started at this one "point" and went in a specific direction ... Now, for this exercise, practice taking it in a new and different direction. Maybe introduce a different aspect of the topic or subject, something not mentioned before, or not normally talked about. The key is to first show agreement, understanding, and/or interest and THEN do this "shift", and you LEAD things in a different way.
Assignments for Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects 1) Make note of three conversations that you tend to have with people on a regular basis. Person or People Subjects we discuss
2) The next times these conversations happen, make a point to "Show agreement, understanding, and/or interest" (Pace). Then "Then start to move things" (Lead) in your own way, Do this by introducing a different aspect of that topic, or a related topic/subject. Don't make this shift or change really abrupt or different, just make a point to sort of "direct" where things move, even if that direction is close to where it was going anyway. Just make sure YOU are the one that moves it. Note the text and examples given earlier as a way to do that. 3) Once you can do the above, now make a point to have your "Lead" incorporate a real change of some type.
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Normally, even without your input, the conversation tends to go in a certain way. The earlier exercise had you just keep thing moving in that same direction. Now you are to "take" the conversation somewhere else towards a different or related topic. Just introduce a new aspect of the topic, a different thing, a different direction, so that you are really "leading" where things go. Remember the language that you were shown earlier. Use languaging like... You know what ELSE is interesting You know what * l * have found (seen, felt) Another way of doing this would be .. You know what ELSE can happen ... is ...
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You can change the way people look at things, their mindset, and their "frame of mind". For example, imagine you are having a discussion and people are talking in a certain "frame of mind" (not directly, it's just their way of seeing things). The point here is to acknowledge that frame, and then introduce another way of seeing things, another "frame", or another "mindset". What is • • • • a "frame"? In general it's ... A way someone "sees" something. What it "means" to them. The way they "feel" about it. The significance or meaning that it has.
Looking at the formula for Pace and Lead, you apply that by first acknowledging the current Frame, and then start to lead by bringing up another way of thinking about it and/or looking at it. You bring a new "frame" into the discussion. (This is a way of shifting that way people LOOK at things, the significance that it has, or their mindset regarding certain topics or behaviours). In the earlier example of Pacing and Leading of Topics and Subjects, we were talking just about a thing, a topic, or subject. Now we are talking about a feeling, or the way things are "seen" or what they "mean". For example, people may be talking about: • Taking risks • Feeling good or bad • Having a good day or a bad day • Making choices • What an event "meant" to them • How someone else actions affected them • How a decision affected them. There is a "frame" (of mind) behind each of these discussions and with proper technique, that frame and mindset may be changed. Look back at the "Methods" section earlier for some details and examples of how to introduce this pacing and leading (there are some lists of languaging examples provided). Examples: • You enter a conversation where people are talking about risks, Risks at work, risks in finances, risks in life. You Pace by discussing this for a while. The frame or mindset here is that risks are bad, dangerous,
. and how anyone of quality . understanding. etc). etc.) Tactical Formula for Pace and Lead .. Do this OUT LOUD... looks for more. weight. Then start to move or shift the frame by introducing another way of looking at things. and paced it. Recall a specific "moment" in the conversation. the people.. and/or interest in the mindset or frame of mind . understanding. The way they "feel" about it. and/or interest in the Mindset or Frame of mind. Maybe bring up a similar way of looking at it. Towards a way that you want. Exercises for Pace and Lead . Again. who is like 5 lbs overweight. what point was being talked about. acknowledgement.. then lead in the same general direction. Just sort of "take over" the conversation. the viewpoint. a new meaning.Mindset or Frame of Mind 1) Think about some recent conversations you have had with people about different topics. some men will just "write off a woman that is a certain size... then start to move into talking about how men do this as well. • Another conversation has a woman talking about what she looks for in men. and what "kind" of man she likes (height. or may be perfect but with the wrong hair color (lead). The frame here is that she has her "standards" and that this is good for her. Note what was being discussed. In this exercise simply Show agreement. What was the "frame". Then you start to lead by bringing up the idea that some risks are fun and interesting. The frame you are bring up is how superficial it is to judge based on numbers and details. now its being framed as exciting)..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course have consequences. she talks about what their professions are. some risks have good rewards. etc. the assumption? What is the frame of mind behind the viewpoints that they had? Write down the topic. You agree on some level (pace) and chat about that. and then lead it in some direction. Make a note of each of them. What it "means" to them. (Risk was framed as dangerous. Page 36 . where the point of the discussion in that moment was: The way they "see" something.Mindset or Frame of Mind Show agreement. or provide a relevant example. (You are shifting her frame so that she may start to look at different things in men. and you are working to change the way she screens out guys. With whom? Topic? Mindset / Frame of Mind 2) Pace and Lead Gently Practice as if you were talking in that discussion. and the "frame" that was in use. some risks make you feel alive. the frame of mind or mindset is the focus here.
Do this OUT LOUD for each example. for each of those instances.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 3) Pace and Lead in a New Direction Next. and their motivations etc. or something you heard or read. to find a positive way of looking at the situation. Page 37 . etc someone looks at a political issue. maybe even limiting beliefs or beliefs that really hold them back. and/or interest" (Pace). and maybe point out a similar example from your own life. and makes assumptions (has a certain frame) about people or groups. and the frame associated with each. Maybe acknowledge and then bring up an opposing view. and they are the one not taking risks someone is prejudiced or judges other people. and/or interest in the Mindset or Frame of Mind but now start to "move" things in a new direction. Think about discussions where YOU can see that these people involved are working on a certain set of assumptions. Maybe bring up a different viewpoint or way of looking at it. and/or interest. Basically. even if that direction is close to where it was going anyway. Then "start to move things" (Lead) in your own way. or something someone said. you are just acknowledging the Mindset or Frame in this example. These should be of a type where THE "frame" or mindset is something of which you are aware. Examples: someone complains a lot. understanding. make a point to "Show agreement. provide an example where you Show agreement. A good way to do it is to show agreement and understanding. but really his mindset is the problem someone talks about wanting something different. some way. Maybe find a way. Do this by introducing a "way of looking at it" that is similar to the one that is already being used. and THEN do this "shift". what it "means" that is not really in agreement with what was said. understanding. but just make a point to sort of "direct" where things move.Mindset or Frame of Mind 1) Make note of three conversations that you tend to have with people on a regular basis. and HE is the one with the limitation someone complains about work and the managers. understanding. With whom? Subject/Topic? Mindset / Frame of Mind 2) Pace and Lead Gently The next times these conversations happen. Write down these subjects. and you LEAD things in a different way. Assignments for Pace and Lead . a frame of reference. Maybe bring up a way of looking at things that is totally different. Don't make this really abrupt or different. The key is to first Show agreement. and says they are cheap.
o As you see . o After you have ... A "safe" way to do this would be to find a positive way to look at the situation... Some ways to do that is by saying things such as. o While you think .. A friend of mine used to feel the same way and they. but it can work well and adds to the power of the languaging.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Pace and Lead In a New Direction Once you can do the above. focus on the Mindset or Frame. o While you see . and allow the conversation to continue with the same frame of mind in place... and then use that to lead someone somewhere.. another way of looking at it is ..Current Reality D5-T29 If you look at the languaging used in things like hypnosis. these techniques are used a LOT. This is a small-chunk detail and technique.. and/or express what is on their mind. using words such as) o As you are .. "Pace" their mindset... What is done here is that you Pace based on something that is obvious (obvious in their "current reality").. o As you realize .. it could be . (for example. • At least it's not like XYZ.. o You are probably wondering Page 38 • • . a new mindset.. The earlier exercise had you just sort of "run" with that.. o While you are .. Just introduce a new frame. You know. Continue to Pace by maybe stating an obvious point about their current reality o seeing XYZ o feeling XYZ o thinking about XYZ o etc... point towards a specific Mindset or Frame that is of YOUR choosing.. Meaning... The general way to approach this is: • Start by pacing something that is obvious about their current reality . This may be different from the way the subject or belief WAS framed or thought of.. even without your input.. Well.. or assumed by the people involved.1. now make a point to have your "Lead" incorporate a real change of some type..4 Pace and Lead . Again. but just find a positive way to look at what is being discussed.. o As you feel.. a new aspect of "what it means". it might not be that bad. or used by very powerful speakers. Now you are to "take" the conversation somewhere else and bring up a new mindset or frame of mind. 3... and new way of looking at things.. o While you are . there was a certain "frame" being discussed. o etc.
. what you are thinking. then you are probably wondering . o notice what its like as . o you will start to notice o you may realize o you may start to think o you may see how .) • Then you will "Y" Where "Y" is something you want them to experience (Lead) Exercises for Pace and Lead . and "As that feeling builds....Current Reality 1) Listen to this section again.. Rewind or go back a few tracks. Warning ........".. Page 39 . o state what you want them to see/feel/hear/realize Examples: • As you are listening to this program . what you are hearing. 3...2 GIVE THEM A REASON D5-T32 Give someone a reason for someone to listen .. thoughts. If you spend too much time saying things similar to "I know what you are thinking". Really pay attention and see how many times I have done pacing and leading in this manner. and do.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • o As you are thinking about o I know you are concerned about o The issue that may be on your mind is o The question you may have is Begin to lead ." • You will hear a LOT of this in this course (which is part of your re-programming!) Tactical Formula for Pace and Lead .. etc. "as you are watching this presentation ." • Physical demos use this a lot.... • You are talking to someone at work .. what you are reading. The more you hear this.Current Reality As (while ) you) are "X" (Pace) Where "X" is something that is true in their current reality (perceptions.. Studies have been done with persuasive language that show that giving a reason will make people more apt to do things for you and agree with you. it starts to become annoying to the listener. Point them to where you want to lead them . "As you feel this...Pacing Reality too much can seem arrogant.. Make note of how many times I have paced your current reality... the more it will "sink in". o you will then . o another thing you will see/feel/notice is ... you will begin to notice this ...
Assignments for Give Them A Reason 1) Make note of five routine situations that you have in your life where you are asking for something. if you say "Let's move over there because it's more quiet" you will be amazed at how much more agreeable the person may be. come up with another reason. Page 40 . requesting something. just providing a reason. and out loud. then it may be difficult to get people to agree. they may go with you. However. Examples: • You walk up to a copier at work and there are three people in line. This technique does not provide a 100% guarantee. you don't need to be concerned about these things. anything. "Is it ok if I make copies next". remarkably. "hey. Write these down. However. Write these down. 3) Go through the same list again.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Don't worry about "losing your power" or being too "nice". or at least people that are not close friends of yours. it just helps to make people more agreeable (and there are statistics to support that as well). the addition of this small "reason" will make people much more agreeable and apt to let you do what you would like. If you just say. Tactical Formula for Give Them a Reason Request X because (of) Y Exercises for Give Them a Reason 1) Make note of the last five times you asked someone for something. asking "can I pay by credit card". It could be asking for coffee. or asked someone to do something. but put in a reason of some type. The examples will be better if these are people you do not know. because I am really in a hurry" then. if you say "Is it ok if I make copies next. lets move over there". Person What did you ask for? 2) Practice out loud how you might "ask" for that favor or make that request again. You are not being apologetic or anything. • You are talking to someone and you would like to pull her aside and make the conversation more private. If you say.
• Training for sales people use this quite a bit.Repetition in a way that serves you. This technique has been developed based on observing how many good and influential people speak: • Successful sales people • Charismatic speakers • Good debaters • Component of hypnotic languaging « Very important. and quite well. in order to provide more power to what you are saying. and flow easily. "List" several things or examples which support your point. provide several. or make a point. which support your point. 3. statement.3. or giving an example. just as an example) • Hypnotists use this technique a LOT. 3) The next times these situations come up in your day-to-day life. actually ends up being several points.1 General Listing D6-T4 Strategic Formula for General Listing General Listing is a way to quickly provide several reasons. the items that you will "list" need to be brief points. so that your one "opportunity" in a conversation to make "a" point. Tactical Formula for General Listing When making a point. • For the sake of a conversation. go ahead and mention the "reason". • When you give several reasons at once. or excuse. don't just provide one reason. People) What do you ask for? 2) Practice out loud some "reasons" that you could give in these situations. or make a statement. Power in Numbers . it's difficult to debate them all or object to them all (not to be combative. • This is somewhat similar to a "pace and lead".3 LISTING D6-T1 Listen to an example where many of these are used. Page 41 . point. you get someone to agree and then lead them 3. See if you can make it automatic.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Situation (Place. • When you give a reason.
playing a game.. but as you listen to it (1).. 5) Think of three recent conversations you have had with people where you were making a point. maybe watching sports. make them brief. Maybe your first two items in a list are obvious. Write them down. you may begin to agree. Now. 3) Pick an example of an activity that you do often. as in saying three items . what are three ways that can go? Good? Bad? Indifferent? Exciting? Boring? Pick three and write these down What are three "ways" that the experience of "meeting people" can go? 2) Now practice out loud by saying something like "Isn't it interesting how you can meet people and it happens in different ways? I mean sometimes . briefly. sometimes . a. and still.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Example (see the listed items shown as 1. listing is like pacing and leading. true.each of which lasts just a few seconds. Mention the first item.. For each conversation. Something you are interested in. Who you were talking to Page 42 . but instead you talk ' about each for a few moments. strange (2).... and somewhat new (3).. etc. Exercises for General Listing 1) Lets say you are talking to someone about "Meeting people".. then the second. doing some type of work. and start to think about in a positive way (3). etc. Each of the items in a list can also be much longer. what point you were trying to make. Listing can be short. Then. Do that out loud. and the types of things to which no one would object. Now try again by expounding on each of the items. 3. partying. where each lasts several minutes. Activity that you like or do often List a particular part of aspect of that activity What are three "ways" that can go? " 4) Now describe "What its like to do your activity . Select a particular aspect of that activity. and/or what it's like to meet people. maybe trying to convince someone of something (NOT an argument-just that you were making a point and would like to be more persuasive). as a list.X and then other times . so that you don't just say "X. talk about it for a sentence or two.2. the third item may tend to "lead" someone in some way. write down who it was with. Z (selecting your items listed above). etc." and mention those three different ways. really recall listing to good speakers (2). Pick three ways that can go .... Z". In many ways.. Y. Y. and maybe 3 different things that support your "point".) • I know this may sound a bit different (1)..
3. at times you want to use listing as a way to highlight or focus upon one item. you put more emphasis on it. a table. how you could bring up these three points in a list-like manner. out loud. by placing YOUR preferred item at the end. and tends to make THAT point the most important one. Therefore. You weren't trying to emphasize one point vs. Maybe you want your list to contain many options. and an elephant) what tends to "stick" in your mind? (The Elephant!) The last item! By hanging an item at the end of a list. it sticks in the listener's head more. However. In the earlier Listing examples. the one that comes to mind the easiest is the one that YOU want someone to agree with. we were talking about three points in a list that all were similar. suggestion. it makes it seem as if you are being fair.3. However. Who you were talking to Point you were trying to make Three items that support your "point" 6) Recall a specific moment in each conversation.2 Listing . it's easy to think of that Page 43 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Point you were trying to make Three items that support your "point" b. or different types of alternatives (to a thought. Here is a way to think about it. Maybe you want to list several options or examples. Do that for each of the three examples above. etc) By doing that. activity. Normally. and just providing a series of options. the other. Who you were talking to Point you were trying to make Three items that support your "point" c.At The End D6-T15 If several items are mentioned in a list (for example a car. Now practice. Placing that particular item at the end of a list can have that effect. you were just listing several things in a list.
or this person presents himself really well (b). Now those are different ways of seeing it. They are not all the same. you know that those people are NOT qualified (1) o Others you maybe have thought were ok at first. or maybe you are really seeing the power of all of this! I think you can tell which option I was going for! Meeting People. you meet someone. It may be because you like the resume (a).Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course one. and the third one "eventually find this person" was the one I wanted to really "stick". Examples • • Fun activity. or instances FIRST... Again. but by placing "it could be fun" last.. did you notice the use of the words this/that/these/those? Also where do you think I might have been pointing and gesturing during those examples? Job interview o Have you talked to many candidates? Yes. Again let's bring up this example of "meeting people". o You know what it's like when you meet someone . This course. they sort of fell into several groups o There are some people that. how they can almost become a blur. I put another list within THAT description (a. lets say you are talking about doing some activity.. 3).. right away.. one after another.that is the one (3). o And other times . you put more emphasis on it and it tends to make that one "stick" more. you just really click and you feel this connection ... was said that at the end? By the way.... you eventually find this person that on some level. When I have interviewed a lot of people.. or they just have the right answers (c). examples. this is one of those subtle but very powerful things that many persuasive speakers do a LOT. I have had to do that myself at times. In general. but even when describing that person. Say that one LAST and bring up two other options. it could be boring. you just know . See? Not only did I have a list of three (1.A t The End Listing at The End is a way to provide several options (which may differ) but to emphasize the option that YOU want. It's interesting though. Sometimes there is nothing special. you know . those people doesn't mean much either way .. you know? See how I did that? See how the item which I really wanted them to think about. b. I know. or it could really be fun. etc . c)! • • • • • • Strategic Formula for Listing . Page 44 .... they are nice. I mean. the more convinced you are that that person is NOT the one! o Hopefully though. o Other times you get that sort of a "friend" vibe with that person. o May be frustrating to you. o It could suck. It's just a matter of getting to this person.2. and there is just something about this person. interesting. maybe it's boring. but you spend some time with that person (2) and the more that person talks. and then finish with YOUR preferred item.
3. Here is a way to think about it.Burying Items D6-T24 When using a List. etc. but place some more emphasis on that last item. At times however. but bury it inside a list.3 Listing . maybe controversial. In that case. and you are all figuring out how you are going to spend your time. it makes sense to "bury" that item in the middle of a list. statement. 3. is the item you mention LAST.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Tactical Formula for Listing . Maybe pause when saying it. and what the result is that YOU want. out loud. it can be TOO obvious. "List" several things briefly in order. mentioning all of these in a list. and bring up at least two other "options" BEFORE you mention the one option that you want.Let say you arc trying to get someone to buy something. but mention the one which YOU want to put the most emphasis on. Exercises for Listing . Examples: • Sales . go somewhere. or giving an example. etc. placing something at the end can add to its power and make it stand out.At The End 1) Lets say you are going to spend a day or evening with some friends. Issue or Option What do you want? 5) Now. Maybe add an embedded command of some type. If you say Page 45 . LAST. You want to mention or suggest something that is quite strong.. List three possible things that you could do and write these down. agree to some point. 3) Do that again. However. Go ahead and suggest that item. and therefore you do NOT want it to stick out too much.).. buy some thing. and they are haggling or objecting a bit. Maybe add a small "list" within that last item (because it's inexpensive. and we always have fun . talk about the issue. Maybe you want to suggest something very direct or quite controversial and you do NOT want to give it too much prominence. and seem too direct. Three things that you and your friends could do (activity) 2) Practice.? Write down what the "issue" is. make sure that the one that YOU want to do. close. out loud. where you are trying to convince people to do something. 4) What is an example from your life (recently).At The End When making a point. You may want to "test" to see how the person will react to it.
bury it inside a list. or possibly you still want to negotiate. it seems a bit easier for you to say it. that may be a GOOD sign. This is also a good way of testing someone's response. Sometimes you have that "direct" item in mind and you surround it with other.Burying Items When giving examples or options to someone. more powerful and direct statement in the middle. we can leave together right now. or maybe you want it so much. one of them is to just slip the deadline. lets say you are working on a project and things are behind schedule. Very direct.. But of she smiles and seems interested. If she gasps and has a look of shock and horror when you make that suggestion. its your choice. The idea of " seize this chance and get it while you can" is something rather challenging to say (as the seller) that directly. seems to "lighten" it up somehow. maybe you aren't ready to buy this now... Instead. you don't just say "we can slip the deadline". Strategic Formula for Listing .. See? Putting that one. • Instead of thinking about it in terms of a list.Lets say you have met a women at a party. It also allows you a chance to watch the persons reaction to it. just suggesting. maybe you seize this chance and get it while you can . it's your choice. Lets say your idea is so controversial and over-the-top. you can get away with an outrageous or very direct option by burying that option in the middle of a List. lets say that you want to say something or suggest something that is very direct.. or maybe I'll call you tomorrow". we can talk in a few days. more "appropriate" items to lighten it up. and maybe there is a possibility of you even spending that night together. or to maybe see if you can get someone to agree to it! Tactical Formula for Listing . and you are talking about you two getting together sometime. So maybe you say something like o "Well. For example. that you will just seize this chance and get it while you can! That sounds almost TOO forceful. it seems too obvious. or possibly you just still want to negotiate ." Doesn't that sound better? Meeting at a Party . maybe it IS too direct. "let's slip the deadline" might be a problem in some circles! So when people are talking about options to help the project. and when you say it at the end like that. However.. But if you switch the order.Burying Items is a way to mention an outrageous or very direct option for "testing" purposes. o "well. maybe you aren't ready to buy this now.. There are several options but.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • "Well. Page 46 ..Burying Items Listing . honestly. that you are almost "worried" about how the listener may react.
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Exercises for Listing . it can stand out too much and be annoying. Go ahead and change the order of the list that you used earlier. but as with any technique. After these situations occur. 2) In the near future. For three different situations that have come up in your life recently. Try saying it with the strongest item at the end. Bury the strongest item. Listing can be powerful. Situation Outrageous or Direct Suggestion you could have made. suggesting a List of options but burying that outrageous option in a list. Situation Outrageous or Direct Suggestion 4) For each of those examples (above) go ahead and practice out loud. but do it by burying it in a list.Burying Items 1) As you go out and live your life. go ahead and do so. Page 47 . if you do it TOO much or too blatantly. 3) Think of some recent situations where you would have liked to mention a quite outrageous or direct suggestion. make a point (afterward) to think about that outrageous option. in the middle and see if it is a bit easier to imagine saying that list. If there is not one. by burying it in a list. Try it out loud. 2) Practice out loud how you would say that list in the situation you used in the previous exercise. See if you can make it sound natural. write down an outrageous or very direct suggestion that you would have liked to make (for each). you will probably encounter some situations where you might want to suggest something quite outrageous or direct. or the most direct item. Look at the items that were listed and see if one of them maybe seemed very "strong" or "direct".Burying Items 1) Go back to the previous exercises where you said some "lists" out loud. and go ahead and practice how you COULD have said it. see if it seems easier to say. you may even want to say it in a joking way. go ahead and create a new item that is very outrageous or direct. but see if you CAN say it. Assignments for Listing . as any opportunities come up where you would like to make an outrageous or quite direct suggestion. and then trying saying that item in the middle.
In a way. and they WILL stay through the pauses! As you are saying various items in a list. but have ONE that YOU really want to emphasize or get people to agree to. changing tone.4 MORE AND MORE..4 Listing. and the more Y.. In a way. then present it buried within a List of options...Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3. and I just strung those together . to "pull" the listener in. can help to alter how the options (and you) are perceived. etc. then mention several of your points or examples that support what YOU want. and Emphasis D6-T36 You may be worried about coming up with three things in a list .... The general structure here is: • • The more X o where X is something that is hopefully quite obvious and true to the listener . and see how.3. in a List. o See how we are listing several items? • We discuss Pace and Lead . I gave an example (in the audio) of several things I wanted someone to do. then the more Y. really. then. o See how they are incorporated. you are walking someone through a series of steps or thoughts. etc".. as in . thinking about languaging such as "The more X." "More and More" is just a way to use these and bring them together. so this all works in your favor! Just be interesting enough to keep their attention. or experience.. Maybe one or more of the items actually has an embedded command in it. and using lists.How do you think of them quickly? How do you make them sound natural? Don't worry! It is ok to have pauses! Pauses make things sound more natural and gives you time to come up with options! We talked about the use of pauses as a way to convey some drama and to make things interesting. think. the more Y Page 48 . Maybe you want to stress one item more or less.. if it's a VERY outrageous option. If you must suggest several different examples or options.3. So. o See how that is being used here? • We have discuss language details . Or. Pauses. remember to use emphasis and change your voice tone with the items.. this is just a way of bringing together many of the things we have learned. while incorporating the language tools we have already discussed. the more Z". D6-T38 You have heard language like "The more X. 3.. Lets use this as a chance to really step back for a moment and look at this structure. 3. consider this: • We talked about listing ...5 Listing Review D6-T37 If you want to get your point across. then the more Y. "the more YOU FEEL this . Using pauses. place that item at the END of the List for more power. we are pacing and leading. emphasis. and provide many examples to support it..
Tactical Formula for More and More The more X.. future) can be altered to make it fit well. and then use More and More to lead them forward .) item. 3. and as Y happens o or as you sense Y. agreeable.. Page 49 .. like a series of successive steps (things you do.. and even more so with the next (more. you notice this. etc How to use it. etc. You can even start by "pacing" a bit more. then.. or realize Y.... or "as you notice X".. and the more Y happens . or as Y is happening . and something obvious. The More Z. • • • • As you (or while you) X . which is more of an example of using Pace and Lead of their current reality. The more Y.....Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course • • o Where Y is something that is a logical extension of what the listener knows and they see this as something that makes sense .. or thoughts) use "More and More" as a way to string them together (and increase your chances of that happening... then just list them but use "more" as a way to go from one to the next. etc Examples • Convincing friends to go do something that you want to do.. The small words and verb tenses (past. towards what YOU want. If you have something that you want to lead someone through. see it as just a way of using many of the things we have already covered! More and More tends to be best thought of as a "List". the more Z. THEN make the next item (more. 2. from a general item towards something that YOU want.) or thoughts (things you experience or think about.) specific.. the more you can notice Y .. • Sell TV sets. as you feel this. .. with "as X is happening". That's a general version of it. The best way to do this is to start off with the first item as quite general. You are "leading" someone. Instead of seeing this as a new type of language. o walk someone through though process .. etc). Strategic Formula for More and More If you want to lead someone through a series of steps (actions. then. the more Y. more and more. or a new "pattern". As you X. step 1. the More Z. then the more Z starts to happen. the More Y.. experiences. the More Y. As an alternative. o You can start off with something obvious as a statement to kind of pace them. you can use "as you" or "while you" as a way to bridge between sections as well. present.
You may start with "As you" or "while you" for the first one. The next is another step in the series. using "More". a plan. Don't just say "more".. practice saying those in series... of what you want to have happen. Think of three "steps". etc. while you. The first should be obvious. Think of all of the things you can do tonight Realize that going to a movie would be a good idea Going to see the latest XYZ movie (use whatever movie you wish) See how that is a series of steps? Of thoughts? Like leading someone down a path? Now out loud. as if in a conversation. a trip. etc. Write these down. Think about a series of steps. etc. 3) Now out loud. Do that several times. or have them experience. as you. they would end up doing what you wanted. o Walk her through the process.. 4) Think of another series from your life. what to buy. that would "walk" the other people through the process of agreeing with you. 5) Out loud.) Page 50 . to get towards doing what you want. a movie. something. etc . the second. to get towards doing what you want. maybe an activity. and string them together using "more". more in your direction. what project to work on. The first should be obvious. (Agree where to go to dinner. what to do. a series of thoughts or actions that.. practice saying those three steps. and bridging between them as we discussed earlier (More. something with which you are familiar. but more and more get closer to what YOU want. something you convince people to do (or wish you could). practice and see if you can talk about these one by one. or series of thoughts or actions. or as alternatives. if the person followed them. "as you" or "while you".) Write down three steps. Think of three "steps". 2) Think of the last time you were trying to convince a friend to do something. or something you want to lead people to do somehow. Do the series several times.. that start off in general. something simple. more and more. What do you want to convince someone to do Three steps. work around it and make it sound natural. who should do what. What you were trying to convince a friend to do Three steps. Exercises for More and More 1) Consider the idea of convincing some friends of going to a movie. more leading.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • Talking to a woman .
. or else have the person you are speaking with mention it. etc. 2) With that "More and More" sequence practiced. Maybe add or change some of the reasoning. • How two things are similar • How two things are different • Good . where you could have a series of "states" lead someone through the process of doing what you want.. This Compare and Contrast method here gives you a way to talk about and around the subjects at hand.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Assignments for More and More 1) In the exercises. How to use it. A Tactic for Talking • Too many guys let a good conversational subject finish far too quickly. to continue. • • Take a subject and either mention another aspect of that subject. this is a means to keep speaking. and move a conversation.. This method provides a way to keep the conversation going. • This works especially well if the subject of the discussion is one that "works" for our purposes (fun. • It's not magical in a persuasive sense. exciting. • It also a great way to get information about the person with which you are speaking. • You are just comparing and contrasting things. seductive. and piece them together and have it sound natural. Practice that series more! Get very familiar with it.Bad • One option .5 COMPARE AND CONTRAST D6-T54 Listen to an example where many of these are used. Just make sure that with that subject. or several different subjects. look for opportunities to use that in your life. the more you will understand how they fit together. or various aspects of a subject.. You will see that the more you get these bits and pieces. you are able to easily go through such a "sequence". you have two (or more) aspects of a topic. and you discuss these two aspects using Compare and Contrast. There are various means of doing this. Maybe just try 2 of the 3 steps once or twice. But get to the point where you can flow easily through the 3 in a series. becoming more and more convinced. the more things like "knowing what to say" and "what pattern to use" will become easier and easier for you! Notice how we are not doing these examples necessarily with women? Wonder why? 3. you can talk about. The more that happens.White • Right .) • Too many guys focus on standard lines such as "So what do you like about X". So. and even change the specifics of that sequence.another option • Black .Left Page 51 . we had you think of something from your life. it's just a good way to think about discussing a subject.
associate them with things other than you. What is different about each? How are they the same? How are they experienced? What is good? What is bad? etc.. and you start to talk about something she likes and enjoys doing.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • One aspect . One attribute . Tactical Formula for Compare And Contrast Take any subject. you can anchor those away from yourself. How do these differ How are they the same Which is good-bad. and start to compare and contrast the two. • You talk to someone for a while and she say she likes scuba diving. Page 52 . what they do not. and to let the person think about. Select another subject. • Maybe what is more important to a sports team. vs. and feel those states and emotions for a while as well. you can talk about one car. team sports. good or bad. • Notice what is liked and not liked • Notice any reactions. and this situation that you are sharing. easy-difficult. deciding to focus on making a good living now. experience. Then discuss the other car. better-worse. then discuss these by comparing and contrasting. keep the discussion focused on a topic that serves your purposes. you can use all of the other tools we have discussed. the offense or the defense. link away. etc. states. • • Use opportunities to use commands and trance words to create thoughts. idea. taking a position with a more promising future. o Maybe you start to ask her about it (have a discussion with her . two facets of that subject. • Decisions about a career or job. As you are talking. or point in a discussion . or its power. o You select two items. that are good for you. o While talking about what she does like. etc. compare. You discuss this. and contrast these things. idea. and incorporate the language tools.. you can take note of how the person is responding. • Anything bad. Strategic Formula for Compare And Contrast Use this technique to keep the conversation going. and discuss whether the handling makes it better. • Link anything good to you. This all provides a good way to allow the discussion to continue for a while. what they like. this meeting. or individual sports vs. and talk about its attributes as well. • You may talk to a woman.another attribute As you are talking. Examples • One brand of car vs. you can anchor and link positive things to you! o While talking about things she does not like.about her) and she mentions various things about that subject.another aspect -. feelings. another brand. Use the other language tools during the discussion. or point in a discussion. her.
She says she likes the aspect of it being very quiet and serene under water. so if you like THAT. Not-Like" set of things to compare and contrast. Letting Go Safety and Excitement Liking someone mentally and/or physically o • • • • Exercises for Compare And Contrast 1) Pick some possession that you have that you REALLY like (car. and negative things . she mentions various things about it.. computer. she finds the experience of seeing new and different things to be interesting as well. and compare/contrast the two. etc. Re-enact that conversation again. Maybe some of the language that you are using that may lend itself to be embedded commands. that they do like Do the re-enactment again.same type of thing (another car.(because). that within that may be attributes that are good. Now talk out loud about each.. Be mindful of that and anchor/link appropriately. clothes. and serenity on one hand o and compare and contrast that to the feeling of something new and different on the other.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Maybe you ask about it.. As in "so let me make sure I understand this . and those that are not good.. etc. change your tone of voice. Be aware of your language! Throw in adjectives and adverbs. Page 53 . Familiarity vs.. and this time. o So we talk about the feeling of quiet. This example uses a very obvious "Like vs. peace. Be vary aware that even when you are discussing the thing you "Like". Subject or thing that they like Attributes (things about) that. where they were really describing or talking about something they like.. and this time. then I KNOW that you would NOT like THIS .. and talk about it again. and anchor/link/point appropriately. the same holds true even when discussing what you do NOT like.". In addition. different style of clothing. 4) Select two of the following 4 topics. etc... Something that you like Something that is opposite 2) Now take that same topic.."Oh. be very aware of the positive and negative things that are being said. but this time put some effort into being very aware of the positive and negative things that are being said. etc).. different computer. 3) Recall a recent conversation with someone you know." or . and various things about that subject or topic that they like. bike. Also. and put effort into correct linking/anchoring/pointing to associate positive things to you. etc). Be descriptive! Use pauses. Use compare and contrast to talk about each of the attributes that your friend would say they like about that subject. offer the compare-contrast ways of discussing it. Something New Control vs. somewhere else. your pacing. Now think of what is opposite to that .
By comparing and contrasting them. and parts of a person 3.6 PARTS D7-T1 Listen to an example where these are used. and say (for example) "what do you like most about scuba diving" or "what is the most fascinating thing about. However there ARE ways to have BOTH. Two types of parts we can work with . For even more Power There IS a very powerful aspect of this technique that is important to mention.. together. BOTH linked and anchored to YOU. Think about the possibilities. Parts. some are bad • Talk about the good parts. if you are asking many questions about something that is NOT of interest to you. Parts of a subject. 3. and you lose out on spending a LOT of time having them discuss something that she REALLY likes! This is just a way to have a discussion.. you can show someone how that can be possible. Excitement.Who wants to talk about something that you are NOT interested in? However. etc.6. this doesn't necessarily show that you Page 54 . and get them to talk about what THEY are interested in. If you are talking about an interesting subject. but when you go STRAIGHT for the BEST thing that she likes the MOST. then talk about all of the various aspects and parts of it. Safety vs. YOU are then showing someone how BOTH of these things can be experienced. it's too weak. that is fun. theme. link away Now this may seem tough . Some are good. link them to you • If the bad or boring parts some up. Who knows. People tend to think you have one OR the other... Letting Go Safety and Excitement Liking someone mentally and/or physically Familiarity vs. and the positive aspects of excitement. you may end up liking the subject and find a new activity for yourself! Don't worry that you will "give the wrong impression" by inquiring and discussing these "parts". topic. this just helps to keep things moving in a conversation. Meaning.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Control vs. it is GOOD to focus on the positive aspects of what she likes. exciting. of having all of the positive aspects of Safety.1 Parts Of A Subject D7-T4 This is a variation on the contrast principle. Too many guys just blow things to quickly." and that's ALL they talk about! Yes. and that's ALL you discuss. this provides a good way to train you to be able to talk and ask questions of people. Something New Now do your best to speak out loud and "talk" about these for a while using a Compare and Contrast structure. etc. There ARE many things that people tend to THINK of in an "either-or" way. For example.
Page 55 .many of which can be linked to you. just say "I like learning about people. list various "things" about that subject. If someone asks you about this.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course are interested in it (the subject). and enjoys. Examples • Scuba Diving . topics come up.. like. If she LIKES scuba diving. it's hard to talk about that subject for a while. This isn't just a way for you to ask ask ask HER about things. allowing you time to gather information and link yourself to good thoughts. new things. maybe a hobby. artistic endeavor. etc.Don't just "talk about" Scuba Diving! Or. feelings and emotions. You are just asking. Now. area of interest.. o Where have they dived? o How did they get into it? o What's their favorite place? o Do they have their own equipment? o Do they use different types of equipment for different locations? o How long have they dived? o Have they ever been in danger? o Have they taken photos? o Have they met interesting people? o Has this exposed them to any other cool sports or activities? o etc. feelings and emotions to yourself. Break it down into its component parts and discuss them. know about. be comfortable talking about all of the parts of that subject." This technique makes it easier to have conversations with people because THEY are giving you information and ideas for new things to ask about. activity. Exercises for Parts of a Subject . Use the language tools in the discussion. sport. that you know. 1) Pick a subject that you like. Tactical Formula for Parts of a Subject Take any subject. etc. but if you start there. Link good thoughts. This is a great way to build rapport with a person as well. and she may have a lot of positive emotions and feeling associated with that .. what people do. idea. just curious. or point in a discussion. don't just ask "What is the most exciting thing about Scuba Diving?" That IS a good question. Subjects come up. etc. don't like. that an opportunity to talk for a WHILE about something she likes. Strategic Formula for Parts of a Subject Discussing many of the parts of a subject keeps the conversation going.
If you have trouble. someone you met at a party. what would you ask about? What are all of the various things and aspects of it that YOU could inquire about or that could come up in a discussion? These are the "parts" of that subject. make a list of these parts. a job they like. You should be able to come up with at least 10 items. That Subject: 2) Think of one of your friends or family members and some activity or topic that THEY are really into. and you have heard him or her talk about this. Subject: Parts. Page 56 . if your subject was football. passion.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course For example. maybe a cousin you hardly see or talk to. etc. Now. or maybe someone in your life that you don't know very well. but hopefully this "subject" is something you are not really into. You should easily be able to come up with 10-20 items. maybe pick a different "person" as your subject. Someone that you recently met. like a co-worker. Write these down. or Things About. Maybe their hobby. if you were going to talk to them for like 30 minutes about that subject and were really going to ask them about it. Now think of something that THAT person is interested in or they are involved with. That Subject: 3) Now think of someone who you are NOT close to (that you do not know that well). Person: Subject: Parts. and you were going to have someone (who knows very little about the subject) interview you and learn all about football. or Things About. etc. This should be someone you know well. what parts about football would you want them to ask about? For your chosen subject.
while YOU are there And you are linking and anchoring things to yourself Using all of the language tools and details And that person is finding YOU so fascinating and charismatic . Again. Person: Subject: Assignments for Parts of a Subject 1) Sometime soon. and feeling it. and were really going to ask them about it.. experiencing it. you should be able to list at least 10 items. make a point to have a good 10-15 minute conversation about a subject that THEY are really interested in. Make a point to ask about many different parts of that subject. out loud. make a point to have a good 10-15 minute conversation about a subject that THEY are really interested in. or Things About. off the "top of your head". Now. like the exercise above. what would you ask about? What are all of the various things and aspects of it that YOU could inquire about? What are the PARTS you could ask about? Write these down. Person: Subject: Parts. Make a point to ask about many different parts of that subject. but with which you are NOT familiar.. mention like 10-15 different things you could ask or inquire about that subject. You know the person but you are not real close to them. when you are speaking with a friend or family member that you know well. If you were going to talk to them for like 30 minutes about that subject. And of course the entire time. The subject they are interested in is something with which you are NOT familiar. don't know really well. when you are speaking with a person you do not know hardly at all (yet you feel you will be able to talk to them for 10-15 minutes). who is interested in something that you are NOT familiar with. Page 57 . They are talking about something THEY like Thinking about it. That Subject: " 4) Think of another person and subject.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course The key here is that this is someone you don't see often. but with which you are NOT familiar. 2) Sometime in the future.
and then say (for example). (where XYZ is a different or maybe the opposite behavior.. o "When you start to listen to this adventurous side ... there is a more decisive. their reactions. a way of thinking. their way of walking through and looking at the world.. verify it. just looking for the right time. that XYZ part". "parts" are meant as in a personality trait." o "Many people like that also have another side to themselves. or side. we are also reframing! We are changing the way they look at things.. there is a more adventurous part to themselves • If a person is outspoken.. etc. etc)" o "I know someone similar who as this other part to themselves. another part hidden away.. • If a person is shy. great." • There will be a lot of this shown in examples here in this section and at the end of the program. In fact a friend of mine is very shy and one time. or has the same wishes that you do.. they hold back. in a way you are also using Compare and Contrast as well. In a discussion.. and start to discuss and validate that OTHER part. • "That's because there is another part. In many ways. • Acknowledge the first part that is being discussed. if the person is shy o "I understand how some people are shy. etc. Let's say you are in a discussion with someone. or part of a person. Let's break this down. a "side" to the person.... or way of looking at it. and they feel that way. they are quiet. what she did .. there is a more quiet side • If a person is well-thought-out (thinks things through and takes time). if a personality trait. that is more . etc. o Either in general like "there may be another side" o or more directly. "you may have the other side" o or by example "I know someone like that. In this context. adventurous . that part of the person or type of behavior that DOES agree with you). or view.. • What if it is not? What if they say they are shy. • If an adventurous. link it to you. fun. A key concept to think about is to ALWAYS assume that there is a part of someone that does agree with you.. You do not want to appear to challenge or invalidate and personality trait that is being shown. more spontaneous side to them... exciting part of a person is being discussed. directly or indirectly o For example. etc.6. Discuss. This can be VERY powerful.. or reserved." • Bring up and acknowledge the fact that there is "another" part.2 Parts Of A Person D7-T15 Listen to an example where this concept is used. and I have found she has this other side. or normally don't "do" certain things? • Then talk about that first (shy) part.. Because you are discussing several things." • If this new or other "side" works more in your favor. lean more on the language and linking tools to bring it out. that adventurous side is just waiting to come out. or parts. experiencing it. etc" • Discuss this new or other "part" o "With many people. make it be experienced. Page 58 . a way of acting or being is being discussed (and one that does not necessarily work in your favor) ." o "You may have (or do have) another part (or side.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3. Don't Confront.
you are NOT discussing this as to say.. Find a personality trait.. even when the other person claims or demonstrates that such parts are NOT there. that can work in your favor. and beliefs. What personality traits (or what other parts or ways of thinking) are similar? Which are somewhat opposite? Write down 3 that are similar. that may be true but also there is another part of them .. but it can be handled . People have many sides to themselves. and what I noticed about her is that she also has this other side to her.. o "I have a friend who was "X" (where X is the trait being discussed)... Remember. having a conversation..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • Many times you don't want to say "because there is another part" because that seems too direct.. Well. they like to play things safe. discuss. assume there is a part that will work WITH you... and she realized that she... Introduce and discuss that "other part" in a way that works to your advantage. so be careful.. and evoke favorable states. o "Well. You can work around this issue (of possible confrontation) by saying things like o "I think another way of looking at that trait is .) Exercises for Parts of a Person 1) What if someone says... • Maybe someone lies . "you are wrong" or to show how smart you are! You are just talking. o "I was reading somewhere about things like that and what it was saying was. Tactical Formula for Parts of a Person For every part of a person that will work against you. etc etc etc.. • Maybe someone is secretive. (not good in a person. deep down." Strategic Formula for Parts of a Person Use Parts of a Person as a way to find. feelings. Traits similar to "Being Boring" Page 59 . "I am boring".. or part of the person (mostly something which has a negative connotation) Acknowledge that personality trait. or part of the person by discussing or addressing it Think about a personality trait. too confrontational. way of thinking. • Maybe someone says they can be jealous. it may sound like you are arguing or challenging the person. and 3 that are opposite. There are also other sides to people . way of thinking. o "A friend of mine does that as well. I understand you have that side to you.. etc.. way of thinking. or part of the person that is somehow related (which works in your favor) or somewhat opposite. was also "Y". ... Examples: • Lets say that a person says they are not into taking challenges. This one side .
What personality traits (or what other parts. Traits similar to "Being Shy" Traits opposite to "Being Shy" Of those that you listed. or ways of thinking) are similar? Which are somewhat opposite? Think about 1-2 that you could use. Now do a similar exercise again out loud. 3) What if someone says that they are shy? What personality traits (or what other parts or ways of thinking) are similar? Which are somewhat opposite? Write down 3 that are similar. Practice this out loud. Traits similar to "not into meeting any new people" Traits opposite to "not into meeting any new people" Practice out loud how you might first discuss "I am not into meeting any new people right now" and then transition into the other parts or traits that you selected. but this time. Practice this out loud.. and some of the variations mentioned for language examples. and some of the variations mentioned for language examples. Look at the formula earlier.. pick another part or trait. and then bring up this other "part" that you selected. maybe do some linking an anchoring..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Traits opposite to "Being Boring" Of those that you listed. Look at the formula earlier. which could you maybe "use" in a good way? 4) Think about how you would discuss that shy part. Imagine a conversation and how you might do this. use this/that/these/those . Page 60 . Imagine a conversation and how you might do this. and 3 that are opposite. and then bring up this other "part" that you selected. which could you maybe "use" in a good way? 2) Think about how you would discuss the boring part.. 5) From the list you just made (and selected from). be aware of opportunities to maybe mark off an embedded command or two (or more). etc. 6) Lets say someone says "I am not into meeting any new people right now" .
trait. and offer challenges" many times when studying these materials. but ROW see how many of the speaking and language tools you can use. Or. etc could you discuss? Try that out loud. WHILE talking to someone. You have probably heard the phrase "structure opportunities. start to bring them up IN the conversation. 2) After you have become more comfortable noticing such traits after-the-fact. See if you can arrive at a similar part or trait that you can discuss that could be used in your favor. You don't have to discuss them (yet) just make a point to note these traits. etc could you discuss? Try that out loud. trusting their own judgment. acknowledge it. or parts. or putting him or herself down for some reason. Just notice the trait or part being mentioned.. Use the formula and the variations mentioned earlier.. trait.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 7) Do the above example again. See if you can note that "part" of who they are. See if what they are saying describes or is pointing out any personality traits (or a "part" of themselves. or mentions a "way of thinking"). being open. Assignments for Parts of a Person 1) For the next week or two. and offer challenges to you on the audio.7 OPPORTUNITIES AND CHALLENGES D7-T34 Listen to an example where I structure opportunities. make a note of these traits or parts. and then find a way to discuss another part that is more favorable or positive. After the conversation. and then point out some other trait or part that might work in your favor somehow. see if you could maybe think of an opposite one that could be discussed. 9) Lets say someone says "I only like dating my TYPE"? What other part. and has been a bit difficult for many to really understand Page 61 . 3) Now that you can recognize these traits when talking to someone. see if you can notice them WHILE talking to someone. 8) Lets say someone says they have trouble meeting new people. Opposite (or similar?) trait or part that might actually work in your favor Conversation with Traits or parts that were discussed. This area has caused some confusion. make note of when you are having a personal conversation with anyone. 3.? What other part. An easy way to do this is when a friend or acquaintance is being self-deprecating in some manner.
and wants to be seen as intelligent. but may not be the most effective strategy. then by using their existing desires.7. using motivations that a person already has. Why this matters. • It's easy. • These are also good and convenient for practicing and examples.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course and utilize. and that you believe in yourself.1 Using Their Own Processes D7-T36 If you know what people want to have. For example if someone is intelligent." • This is NOT about arrogance. 3. effect. you are using processes that they ALREADY have in their minds. 3. do it. is a way for them to show their intelligence. or like to be perceived as having. You are in. • Use these general things and assume they are there. you are just showing that YOU have standards. Strategic Formula for Opportunities And Challenges Find or assume what someone wants Create an opportunity for them to get it or demonstrate they have it Make that "demonstration" work in your favor. or show it. this can be very effective. • Show that you are qualifying and screening to some extent. In this section.7. these concepts are broken down and offered to you in a way that will truly help you to be able to use these powerful techniques. Universal Wants • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control • Excitement Page 62 . o You are saying in a way. If you can somehow frame or map yourself as being a way for a person to fulfill things that someone already wants. o This is the opposite of pleading and the "pedestal" scenario. "You may be beautiful. or be with you. It's good to somehow work with structures and things that are already in someone's mind. • Show that you have standards. or want to be perceived as having. but I am looking for more.2 What do people want? - D7-T38 "Universal Wants" = Good. Challenge them to demonstrate it. You then find some way to set things up so that choosing to listen to you. then they already have mechanisms for that in their mind. Work with universal things that people would like to have.
. o Always have the question below in mind. or fun. • Mini-Challenges o You might get this .. Mini-Challenge Cheat Sheet o You seem . o You seem like you may have good taste o etc. etc). o Are you able to ... by listening to me or agreeing with me". You can imply a "test" for these things by issuing a mini-challenge.. o The smart people I know... o Talk to her and find out what she wants or needs. o If you can ..This technique can be overused. or maybe a value. or adventurous. we are using one of these sort of "universal" wants.3 There are certain things you can assume that most people may want to have..7.. o You seem as if. o You might. o Talk about some of yours and see how she reacts... o You seem cool enough ... or want to be perceived as having? Mini-Challenges D7-T40 3. wants to have. o You seem smart enough . and it can really annoy people if you do! Page 63 . or be seen as having "X". or want to be perceived as having. her interests. Warning ... along with the Universal Wants listed earlier! • We assume here that with a mini-challenge.... and challenging them in a way that says. o You seem like .. o I wonder if you can . what she likes to do. o etc.. o You might see . o You may . or an image she wants other people to have of her... but if you can find or work with specific wants or desires.. "you can show me that you have the thing you desire. You are challenging an ASSUMED desire (a "Universal Want").. etc • Finding these particular wants and desires o These "wants" can be possessions. o Talk about what she does. o Maybe you can .. that's even better. o If you are able to ..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course "Particular Wants" = Better! What does THIS person want? • Notice o o o particular things that this individual would like to have or be perceived as having She mentions wanting respect She defends her position... o Try using some of the above items.. and discusses what is important to her She mentions something she likes or dislikes about a past boyfriend. What does she want to have. can (use smart.
• Create an opportunity for them to get that • Make it so that them "getting" that works in your favor. and see how many combinations you can come up with. • Universal Wants • Particular Wants Opportunities. What does someone Want? Assume.7. Creating Them Consider the wants and needs that a person may have .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Tactical Formula for Mini Challenges Assume something she wants to have.. Make a statement that says. • Find what someone "wants".. (and again. Exercises for Mini-Challenges 1) Try piecing together items from the Universal Wants List. Challenge the person to do "Y". or hopefully find. "Show me you have that thing by listening and/or agreeing with me" or. you will show me you have that". • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control • Excitement Page 64 .. or been seen as having You can assume based on normal things that people want (Universal Want) or Get information from talking (Particular Want) Create an opportunity for them to get or demonstrate "X". Tactical Formula for Opportunities and Challenges Find something "X" that the person wants to have. in a way.4 Opportunities and Challenges D7-T43 Think of it like this. "By listening to and/or agreeing with me. by doing "Y" Make "Y" something that works in your favor. • Challenge them to see if they will follow through and take action to get it. and Mini-Challenge Cheat Sheet. what someone wants. or be seen as having.. here we have to "assume" things for the sake of teaching) . 3.
and see how doing Y would demonstrate it?> • Does she have what it takes to get X. • Provide an example from your own life. or some way for this person to capture the opportunity • Provide an example of something she can say or do. o . • Here is a way a friend of mine showed that they have or was able to get X. even if their friends don't approve.. on their own. • Confidence . Create the opportunity for them to show or demonstrate that they have or are perceived as having. How can you make that sound like a way for them to "show" something? How to create an opportunity? • Here is a way for you to show me that you really have or was able to get X. • Maybe point out something a friend did . • Provide a way to demonstrate that they DO have what they want. Challenges Are they ready to take advantage of that (this) opportunity? Challenge them to get what they want. o They can do exciting things. talk about DOING them. o Let the person demonstrate how confident they are. o Mention how confident people can meet someone new.. or want to be seen as having Structure this so that it is something that YOU would like them to do.. Examples. Talk about those things. or show what they have.Think about maturity .. something they want.. what does a mature person do? How are they seen? How do they react? o They make their own decisions o They trust their own judgment o They can decide to do something NOW. o They can go against the grain.. and/or HAVING them. Examples: • Does she really want X and see how Y can get that? • Does she really have X.. • Here is how I read/heard that someone else had or was able to get X. Provide an example of someone.. • Mention something that you have read..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course You need to create an "opportunity" for each of these. where this opportunity benefits you (and hopefully pertains to the situation). by meeting this "challenge". by doing Y? Page 65 .How can you create an opportunity for someone to appear confident (that works in your favor)? o Discuss people that YOU know.. Maturity . and feel very comfortable with that. and how the confident ones are able to take chances and have fun. o Talk about how confident people can make their own choices.
. You talk about a friend who has always wanted to feel secure. • • I know this is tricky.... but. Page 66 . Can she see an opportunity to have "X". to show or demonstrate that? Examples: • Security o Say she wants to feel secure. Then at some point you talk about you and her getting together.. and do Y to get it? Can she do Y and make it happen? Can she see that Y will get her what she wants? Can she trust herself enough to do Y? etc. It's different from the way most guys think.". and say something like "well. there are others shown earlier.. Exercises and Assignments for Opportunities and Challenges 1) Make a list of some assumed things that many people may want to have. and mention that you read somewhere that successful people tend to be able to trust their own judgment. then . They want X.. You discuss success for a while. and she found that by taking chances and risks. you mention "We should get together sometime. how she may be adventurous. Assumed Wants 2) Write a Mini Challenge for each if the above items. These are your "Assumed Wants". what this means to her. to be a way for them to get what they want.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • • • Does she want you to THINK she has X. • Find a way to map what YOU want. or be perceived as having.. as long as you trust yourself enough to feel that is OK .. • Find out what someone wants. she may have to do Y to prove that. Some examples are shown below. their own intuition.. she actually felt more secure about being able to take care of herself. I mean. Is she ready to take chances? Take risks? Do something different? Maybe not . Later. You talk about that for a while.. Success o Maybe "success" is important to her. I don't know if you are adventurous enough for this. It's NOT about creating an argument! Again. • Challenge them to do that." Adventurous o Maybe she wants to feel adventurous. Are they ready to do Y.
. and focus on using these. friends.. "you might. Note some of your favorites ones below." Mini Challenges 3) Practice the list of Mini Challenges you just created. Practice these more. co-workers... 5) Think about some people that you know quite well like family.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course "you seem like .. "you may . quite unique. and NOT just things from the "assumed" list. "lets see if this makes sense to you "see if you can follow this . and go out and actually USE them for a while. out loud 4) Make a note of some of the ones you practiced that seem closest to something you could easily say or do with people in your life. write down something that each wants to have. Person What they want to have.. or be perceived as having Page 67 . Write down these "Wants".. Hopefully these are specific to them. etc. For each person. or wants to be perceived as having.
as making them look at you more positively. Some way that questions .. Page 68 .. and "opportunity".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 6) Consider the "want" that you identified from each of those persons above.A friend wants to be really good at a sport. and how can you "map" it to yourself? Write down these "Opportunities". Person Opportunity for them to get what they "want" that somehow works in your favor 7) For each "want". Is there a way to create an "opportunity" for them to get or achieve that? Can you somehow create an opportunity that can be "mapped" in some way towards yourself. Person Challenge 8) Practice each of those "Challenges" out loud. You are "mapping" it to you because by doing what you discuss. etc? Give that some thought. and write them down. even subconsciously. want to do what you wish. are they ready? Can they take action? Can they DO this? Write down these "Challenges"." The "opportunity" is for them to be a better athlete. The good athletes find a way to relax and have fun. Example .) So you challenge their dedication to their sport by saying "I was reading about really good athletes and one thing that was pointed out was that a lot of them really can get burned out. or that in some way could be interpreted. see if you can create a "challenge". and they spend a LOT of time practicing. What is the opportunity. (You want that friend to lighten up and be able to spend more time going out and having fun. and that allows them to be better at their sport. they will be doing something that YOU want. See if you can make it sound natural.
Point Or Touch On Positive And Negative LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES o Pace And Lead " Topics and Subjects * Mindset of Frame • Current Reality o Give Them A Reason • • • Page 69 . we will not be doing any specific work on Ambiguities. These are those words or phrases that can mean more than one thing. listen. do the same in terms of observing desires. but in another context. look at how many items we have covered so far.8 AMBIGUITIES D7-T64 If you have studied this material for a while. given that this IS an area that many guys are able to do (with enough listening) and given the many OTHER areas that really DO need the assistance of a program like this. Do what you can to bring these up while in the conversation if you can. listen.9 SUMMARY D7-T66 Bringing it together. What do they "want". really focus on what each person desires. listen. Those) MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures o Linking Gestures (Towards And Away) o Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This.) o Easy Anchoring . but also ask some questions and get into a discussion about it if possible. that these become familiar. see if you can bring them up in conversations over the next few weeks. That. so that you have heard them SO MANY TIMES. Listen.. they mean something different... They may have one meaning in one context. 11) For the next 1-2 weeks. 3. but now also start to look for "opportunities and challenges" in a way that directs their desires towards you. to do things that you would want. you no doubt have heard many examples of "ambiguities". 3. That. These. 10) While you are talking to people for the next 1-2 weeks. Try to guess.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 9) As you become more familiar with these practiced challenges and opportunities.. This is one area that many guys actually ARE able to pick up and use easily if they have listened to the materials enough. Although there could be a section in this course that deals with these areas. • SPEAKING POINTERS o The "Cool" Factor o Voice Tone And Tonality o Pacing And Pausing o Energy And Enthusiasm LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS o Adjectives And Adverbs o Trance Words o Weasel Phrases o Embedded Commands o Linking o Easy-Linking (This.
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These are the building blocks for good Language skills. These are the sorts of skills that are most workable when they are truly "wired in" to someone, so that they are able to be used automatically. To try to "remember" to do such things can be very difficult. That approach would make having a conversation far too difficult and too much work! The best way is to work with these techniques SO much that these truly are just a part of "how you talk". With enough practice, and hearing these enough, you CAN have these become a part of how. YOU talk! So listen, practice, do the exercises, do the assignments, and do that all again, until these really do become a part of you, and a part of how you speak.
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D8-T1 A key aspect of making these tools work is getting the conversation into topic areas that will really work for you. The language tools you studied earlier are best used in the proper context, and in this section, we will learn how to get the conversation into areas that will create that context. Have you had these problems? • You JUMP too quickly into a pattern or topic, and it sounds really strange? • You just THROW a pattern AT her, and get a weird reaction? When you use these tools, or even use "patterns", it's not enough to just "say it", there has to be the correct CONTEXT for what is said! It's a process that she needs to go on and through with you. It's not enough to just find a conversational excuse to "throw" a pattern (or language tool) AT her! This section is about finding ways to just get into an interesting conversation and then towards and onto good topics. We want this to seem natural, and with some understanding, practice, and a few key strategies and tactics it will BE natural and automatic! 4.1 4.1.1 CHALLENGES -a Detailed And Specific Plans Are Just Not Workable. D8-T3
It's good to theorize to "say this", and then "say that", and then to use "this pattern", and "that pattern". However, the problem is that a lot of time the proper context is not presented well enough. The examples you may have seen in other products are just that, examples. The problem is that too many guys have taken them literally! Guys try to do "X, Y, Z," exactly, in order, with no sense of calibration, or being able to work and re-direct things in real time. Therefore, detailed tactical plans are not realistic. 4.1.2 Navigation Example D8-T4
Think of moving a conversation to a certain point, like taking a trip somewhere. Say you are in Chicago, and want to go to Los Angeles. You could have a detailed map of every turn and road, exact route numbers and lengths, etc. The problem is... what do you do if there is a detour? What if the road is changed, what if the map is wrong? You are lost! What if, instead, we teach you how to drive the car, and give you a general set of directions like "keep driving west, until you see the ocean, then turn left (south)". That way, you can handle just about any turns, roads, or detours that you may encounter! Conversations are different from roads too, because people are all unique, situations, times, surroundings etc. are unique and change from moment to moment. Therefore, if you want to get a conversation to go a certain way, then detailed plans made ahead of time are hard to work with. There are too many variables! We need a workable set of strategies and tactics that allows you, in real-time, to direct things the way that you want them to go. They need to be easy to follow, and easy to use, and something that you don't need to "think about", but can just DO easily.
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So we need a general set of guidelines, some overall strategies and tactics, so that you can have this good, intuitive sense of how to "steer" things, and get conversations to where you want them to go. As long as you are engaging a woman's emotions, capturing & leading her imagination, then you are moving in the right direction. Then, in that situation and in that context, linking all the positive & powerful things to you becomes more workable. Instead of a map, we are giving you a "compass". We need a strategy for managing conversations that can to do this gradually, in a way that seems natural! If it's too abrupt or makes the conversation strained, it will sound weird. The strategy must LEAD the conversation towards good topics and subjects in a way that seems natural, and is not TOO abrupt. Examples: (Listen to the audio.) • Talking about a printer o Moving TOO quickly towards emotional topics o Can sound strange • Driving a car and taking a turn (Analogy) o Think of driving down freeway and needing to switch to different direction. o You can't make a hard, right angle turn on a dime! o You need to turn the car, slowly, on a ramp to go in a different direction. When we control conversions, we need to find a way to take it gradually in a new direction. Many guys try to do the hard and fast switch, and they crash in the process! We will learn to move things in a way that makes it seem natural, but it will be deliberate. 4.1.4 She Must Be Engaged In The Conversation! D8-T10
It's important to get conversations into the right area and have HER go along with you. Not just "bring it up" (a topic or pattern), but it must be natural and she must "go along" with it and be a PART of it. She must be actually THINKING about what you are discussing! It has to happen naturally. No weird jumps. It's not enough to just talk; she must BE a part of the conversation! So, don't just "jump" to a topic. Don't find an "excuse" to bring it up. Take the conversation there, take her WITH you, and have her be a part of it! What really helps is to have a genuine interest (or at least curiosity) in her and the conversation, not just thinking to yourself; "How can I use this?" 4.2 HOW CONVERSATIONS HAPPEN D8-T12
How does this really occur? We will break this down so that we have a way to really affect this process. 4.2.1 Conversational Dynamics D8-T13
How do conversations happen? Most of them occur somewhat randomly as the conversation flows from topic to topic over time, and can end up almost anywhere after a while. By the time YOU move from one topic to the next,
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you may end up in a very different place from where you began. However, there is a series of steps as things move forward, as shown in Figure 4.2.1-1.
Figure 4.2.1-1: Conversations Move Through Many Topics
Each of these steps between topics tends to be related. Topic 1 relates to Topic 2. Topic 2 relates to Topic 3, etc. For example, you can start to talk about Cars, and then move to one aspect of that topic, Car Seats. Then it's easy to move to some aspect of that topic, which maybe something that seats are made of, like Leather. Then maybe you talk about Leather Furniture, etc. (See Figure 4.2.1-2.)
Figure 4.2.1-2: Each Topic Flows To the Next Topic In most cases, each Topic is related to the one before.
After a series of such steps, you can be at a quite different topic (like an apartment that you used to live in) even though you started at a quite different topic (Cars). In most cases, it's very difficult to predict where a conversation will go after many of these steps. As you go through a few topic shifts (as shown in the diagrams), although each individual shift relates to the topic before and after that shift, after a series of shifts you can end up talking about almost anything! Therefore, even if you start the conversation at a great topic, you can get off-track and into topics that will not work in your favor. Conversely, what is needed is a way to start at almost any topic at all, and by steering that process (of moving from Topic 1, to Topic 2, Topic 3, etc) take the conversation into better and better topic areas that will serve your purposes. 4.2.2 Conversational Model D8-T14
We introduce a model to assist in discussion, understanding, and control of conversations. If you start at a topic, how do you go to another one? This process happens all of the time very easily. The key is that the movement from one topic to the next takes places easily because there are so many options involved. From any topic (Topic 1) it is easy to flow to any of 6-8 other, related topics (Topic 2 Candidates). People usually just "talk" and naturally the conversation moves from the first topic to the next one. Since the "next" topic is related, this process seems natural and is easy to do. In fact, you do this all the time without really knowing about it. (We are creating a model to describe a process that happens naturally, so that we can teach you a way to have an affect on that process). Figure 4.2.2-1 shows how from one topic, the conversation can flow easily to many related topics.
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Car you own Seats in it Interior of your car How Powerful it is What Gas does it use How Fast it is Feel of Driving Places you have gone Where you bought it
Topic 2 Candidates
Figure 4.2.2-1: From One Topic to many Candidate Topics The topic of Cars is discussed, and from there are many ways the conversation can easily move.
Once the conversation moves to one of these eight topics, it's easy to move to one of eight more. For example if in Figure 4.2.2-1, the conversation flows from "Cars" to "Where you bought it" (as in, where you bought the car), then now we have a situation like that shown in Figure 4.2.2-2.
Where you bought it
That car dealer The salesman Part of town Other car dealers Who went with you How you bought it The Loan you used etc. Topic 3 Candidates
Figure 4.2.2-2: From A Second Topic, Another Group of Candidates If "Cars" was discussed first, and then "Where you bought it" was discussed next, there are now many ways to go in the next step. In the figure, you see how the conversation moves from Cars, to "Where you bought it". After that, there are many "candidate" topics where the conversation can flow. Perhaps it moves to the "Part of town" where the car was purchased.
Now from the topic of "Where you bought it" (a car), there are easily eight places that you can go from there, shown as the "Topic 3 candidates". This process continues throughout a conversation. This process happens regardless of the specific topics being discussed. Conversations flow from topic to topic, as shown in a general manner in Figure 4.2.2-3.
an so on. because there are SO many ways that things can go! Page 75 . This results in easily over 500 topics that could be selected by the time we arrive at Topic 4! In only three shifts of the topic ("topic shifts" as shown in the figure) we end up with many many possibilities of where the conversation might end up. and the conversation flows along in this manner.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Topic 1 Topic 2 Topic 3 Topic 4 Figure 4. then talk about Y. there is no way to know exactly where it will end up by the time you have moved forward a few steps! Imagine trying to predict ahead-of-time exactly where you may arrive (among those 512 options). when talking to some random person. In general. Do you see why the pre-planned approaches can be difficult?! Even if you ARE able to have the conversation start from a specific place (Topic 1). since it's so easy to go from any topic to 6-8 others. However. If Topic 1 can lead to eight different candidates for Topic 2.2-4 shows what happens when all the topics are considered. you can end up with the conversation going almost anywhere! Figure 4. and at each step after that.2. With some skill and technique. When this happens in succession. the Figures that have been shown so far only show a small portion of the total topics towards which a conversation can flow. then talk about Z" are very difficult to really work with. then EACH of the eight different candidates for Topic 2 can then lead to their own eight. the plans that many guys try to use to "Talk about X.2. In many ways.2-3: Topics Flow from One to the Next Each topic in a conversation can easily lead to 6-8 others. you can have up to eight different ways to go at EACH step. you can affect this process (and we will teach that to you).
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 1st Topic Shift 2nd Topic Shift 3rd Topic Shift Figure 4. It then can flow easily to maybe 6-8 others (the diagram shows fewer for the sake of clarity). and so on. it can flow from there.2-4: Topic Candidates and Topic Shifts If each topic can flow to eight others.2. As seen in the diagram. you can end up in over 500 different topic areas! We can create a general Conversation Model that shows this process (Figure 4.2. then after only three shifts in the topic. Once Topic 2 has been discussed.2-5). Page 76 . a conversation may start from one topic or subject (Topic 1).
then for that diagram to be really accurate it would have to show over 30.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Figure 4. is an awareness of this phenomenon that is called the "Topic Turning Point". In fact. There are SO many ways it can flow.2-5: Conversation Model The "Tree of Subjects" showing how thousands of subjects can be reached in just a few steps of the conversation. it is quite easy to move from that onto 6-8 related topics. that they become far too many to shown in the diagram.3-1.2. This process of moving from the first topic to one of 6-8 relevant topics is the process of moving through a "Topic Turning Point" as shown in Figure 4. if you assume that from any topic you could go to any of 8 other topics.000 different subjects or topics that could be discussed by the time you are at "Level 6" in the conversation!! 4. The diagram only shows a small fraction of them (so that the diagram is not even more cluttered than it already is!). If you are discussing one specific topic.2.3 Topic Turning Point D8-T15 The KEY concept the needs to be understood to gain the ability to manage conversations. Page 77 .2. (The figure only shows a portion of how many subjects and topics can be reached).
3-2 Topic Turning Points Figure 4. However. ask a question.2. The key thing to realize is that this process of Topic Turning Point (TTP) selection occurs over and over. as long as the new topic is "related" to the first (this is shown in the diagram by the "candidates") then this change is easy to do. introduce an idea. after one topic has been discussed for a short while.3-1: The Topic Turning Point (TTP) When discussing any topic (First Topic) there are easily 6-8 different topics to which the conversation can be moved (Candidate Topics).Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Candidate Topics Figure 4. the conversation "shifts" slightly. make a statement.3-2: How TTP Selections Effect the Conversation The selections made at each TTP are what actually "steer" the conversation in a certain direction. and throughout a conversation. the conversation can then move to another topic. A general way of looking at this process is shown in Figure 4. For example.2. Page 78 .2. Someone might make a comment. the overall flow of a conversation comes about due to many of these TTP choices being made. etc. Therefore.
and some training (which . to "route" conversations so that they end up being the kinds of conversations that YOU want to have. No matter WHAT you talk to them about. Sometimes this can be VERY apparent. 4. no matter WHAT is discussed. conversations are one of four types: • • • • Fun. they somehow see it in terms how in effects their beliefs. These types of people are making TTP selections based on a strategy of finding things that are negative to talk about. they find a way to point out something negative.3. but you will have some control over the overall direction. Can you see how you may be able to affect where a conversation goes? You might not be able to predict EXACTLY where it ends up.) then you CAN direct how a conversation flows. and do so in a way that sounds VERY natural. we want the conversation to be positive. choices are made moment to moment. D8-T16 D8-T16 So how can you actually affect the flow of a conversation..Those are just general examples. (See Figure 4. and imagine if you had a general way to manipulate these TTPs.. and that work in YOUR favor. conversations tend to go in one of several ways. positive way to look at anything.. and the conversation tend to into one of four general areas. we want to first start to steer things in the best general manner. we are going to later teach you a way to be able to make these TTP selections. IMPORTANT: The overall direction of a conversation comes about due to a successive selection of TTPs. • Other people may do the opposite. So to start our process of learning how to manage conversations. you can direct where the overall conversation goes. and interesting. fun. interesting things". In a very broad sense.3 4. • Other people able to direct conversations based on their own beliefs and their own political motivations as well. These people are able to automatically make TTP choices based on a strategy of finding good. moment-to-moment. Look in the diagrams..1 GENERAL CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Want. and they quick steer the conversation in that manner. is coming soon. This selection just "happens". However. easily and naturally? That IS the point. positive.. • Other people direct conversations based upon their own moral or religious values. By manipulating TTPs from moment to moment. with some awareness of this process. positive aspects of every topic being discussed. very quickly. isn't it? In general. fun. fun. interesting Mundane and uninteresting Negative.) Page 79 . depressing Confrontational . The flow of the conversation starts.1-1. The overall strategy at the beginning is then to "talk about positive. That ability alone is enough for our purposes. no one is "deciding" the TTPs. Many people do this "TTP selection" process automatically.. As you have probably guessed by now. For example: • Maybe someone always finds a fun.3.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Normally. they Good Boring Bad Argument could be more specific (and we will get there).
1-1: General Conversational Management Consider all of the ways a conversation can go. fun. interesting things. bring up positive.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course General Conversational Management Conversations tend to flow in one of four major ways. interesting things. Page 80 . you see that you want to focus the conversation onto topics that are "Fun. and Interesting". fun. If you break that down into 4 main directions. so from the earliest stages. No matter what is brought up. Positive. Strategic Formula for General Conversational Management To steer the conversation in a good direction. Positive. How do you do that? • • • Show interest when someone discusses positive. Even if things move towards other areas. interesting things. Introduce topics that are fun.3. and Interesting" things. Positive. steer towards Fun. Figure 4. do what you can to steer in that direction. you can still "steer" back towards "Fun. Don't engage in conversations when it's NOT about positive. positive and interesting. fun. and Interesting topics and subjects.
So you just think to yourself "Where can I go that is fan. and Interesting? That is the direction to go! Candidate Topics Figure 4.The overall direction of a conversation comes about due to a successive selection of TTPs. and interesting"? Moment-to-moment. How do you move things in that direction? You can: • Ask a question • Make a comment • Make a joke • Quote someone you heard.2-1. TTP options. and then steer things in the correct direction. For any subject."Where can I go that is fun. positive.Where can I go that is "fun.3. as we discussed earlier. or something you read.. TTP Mantra . • Etc. move things towards the related topics that are "Fun.. you can always think of 6-8 other related topics or subjects. positive. You think of the "candidates" (the related topics or subjects that you can discuss) that serve you at the time.3. Positive. and then you move things in that direction! Remember . and interesting" (See Figure 4.3. . positive. By manipulating TTPs from moment to moment. you can direct where the overall conversation goes. and interesting?" Move the conversation in that direction. and interesting" and just move things in that direction. the TTP. Repeat.) Tactical Formula for General Conversational Management Keep thinking . Page 81 . you make note of where you are in the conversation.2 How To Steer Conversations. as long as it moves things in a way that answers the question "Where can I go that is fun. Which Of these are Fun. positive. and Interesting". Moment To Moment D8-T19 Look at the overall flow of a conversation and break it down to its smallest point that we can affect.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4. You then think of several ways you can go (the related topics. Positive.2-1: Topic Turning Point Navigation for General Conversational Management No matter what subject you start talking about. the topic "candidates" that were shown earlier).
. You are steering things towards the direction that you want the conversation to go. the most important thing to do is to focus on moving thing in a direction that is .).3.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Later in the conversation. Do this for a while.3. just keep thinking about where you can go that is "Fun.) Keep things moving in the direction of Fun.3-2. (See Figure 4. Positive. but in the early part of the conversation. and interesting".3. you get to an overall "area" that will work. 4. "fun. Positive.3-1: Moving Through Topics Using General Conversational Management Early in a conversation. you can work more towards certain topic areas. positive.3. and Interesting! Figure 4.3-1. Page 82 . and Interesting".3 The Model With Strategy And Tactics In Place D8-T23 As you make TTP choice after TTP choice (See Figure 4..
always move towards topics and subjects that are Fun. keep steering in the right direction and in many cases you WILL get towards the right area soon enough (and if not.3.4 Exercises and Assignments D8-T25 Exercises for General Conversational Management 1) Think of some conversations that you have been in recently. At some particular moment early in the conversation. maybe that person is not someone that you want to talk to anyway).3-2: General Conversational Management Model The most important direction to go. is towards Fun.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course General Conversational Mgt Model No matter where you start. and write down the topic for each. Positive. or where you are. Even if you temporarily move away from that direction or end up in an area that is not very positive or interesting. what was the main topic? Topics Page 83 . and Interesting topics and subjects.3. and Interesting!/ Figure 4. 4. especially early in a conversation. Positive.
consider it a topic that leads to a TTP (copy each item above into the "Topic" area below). directions you could "take" the conversation (these are the TTP Options. Write each of those down. For each of those Topics. ask about. things you could comment on. list 6-8 different ways you could go.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 2) Based on each of those topics. or Candidate Topics). Topic TTP Options (Candidate Topics') Page 84 .
5) Practice again on each by moving things in the direction of the second item that was circled.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Of the 6-8 different TTP Options you have written above for each Topic. whatever it might take to move things in that direction. Positive. Page 85 . asking a question. making a statement. 4) For each Topic. maybe by making a comment.. etc. what would it have been like to have moved the conversation in the direction of the first item you circled? Practice that out loud for each Topic above. and Interesting")? Select two "candidates" and circle or highlight those two. which are the best? Which of these would move the conversation in a way that is best for you (think of "Fun.
We want to focus the aim of our conversational management skills even more. make a comment.1 ADVANCED CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Really Want. Building on what we learned in the last section. interesting. we want to work with topics that get the emotions involved.3. 2) Now that you are able to quickly find 1 or 2 good TTP options. Instead of the more general area of fun. where COULD I have taken things". Maybe start out by looking at conversation after the fact. we are turning you into someone that people LIKE to talk to! You know the type of person that people enjoy talking to. even at the start of a conversation.4. that no matter WHAT you do with some people. start to take the conversation there! Ask a question. engaging. • By moving things in this way. After a while. In general. they will not go down a path of having a fun. At first. Just do what you can so that the TTP shifts in a direction that is fun.Is that the sort of person you want to talk to and spend time with? Maybe not. inquire about something. look for moments where things can be "steered" in a certain way. we want it to be really interesting. but the REAL key is to at least get to the point where you can very quickly think of at least 1 or 2 ways to go that are Fun. It WILL get easier. You then have to wonder . and positive conversation. positive. you may have to think of 6-8 options. fascinating. If this is a challenge for you. At any moment you should be able to think "Where can I go with this?". having conversations with. maybe offer an opinion.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Assignments for General Conversational Management 1) For the next week or so.4 4. You may start to find however. Interesting. don't worry. and people REALLY interested. Do this for a while until the process of finding 1 or 2 good "Ways to go" in a conversation (good TTP options) can happen very rapidly for you. etc. interesting. the imagination moving. we want things to get even more Page 86 . thinking "what COULD I have done. really be aware of the TTP opportunities in your day-to-day life. Positive. When talking to anyone. Make it so that it becomes easy for you to come up with a list of "options" very quickly." 4. we can start to direct the conversation into an even BETTER area. whatever it takes. the conversation becomes more enjoyable for everyone.5 Summary D8-T32 Remember what was said earlier: • The overall direction of a conversation comes about due to a successive selection of TTPs (which normally occur at random. By manipulating TTPs from moment to moment. D8-T33 D8-T33 We want the conversation to be more than just positive. you can direct where the overall conversation goes. or without an overall strategy in mind). the more YOU can and will become that guy! 4. positive and interesting topics. and spending time with? The type of guy that people seek out to spend time with? The more you do these types of exercises.
So. you move it in ways that engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way. there were 4 main directions towards which a conversation may go. Interesting area. steer the conversation towards directions that engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way. how do we work that in what we are doing moment-to-moment? How can we do things that will make that happen? Page 87 . So we narrow our focus. We move forward and want to get a more emotional tone. we were able to move things in the direction of Fun. Strategic Formula for Advanced Conversational Management To direct the conversation into even BETTER areas. and steer using Advanced Conversational Management Figure 4. and Interesting. We use our strategy of working with the TTPs.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course interesting. Positive. Using General Conversational Management. we now shift our strategy of "steering" things to direct the topics in a more focused manner using Advanced Conversational Management.1-1. there are many ways to go. more excitement. to "steer" things even more towards what we want.4. From there.4. and more involvement of the imagination.1-1: Advanced Conversational Management Focuses the Steering From the start of a conversation. (See Figure 4. With that as a general strategy. Now from that point. there are many ways the conversation can move. Positive. To move the conversation into more interesting areas.) General Conversational Management takes the conversation into the Fun.
4. Positive. With that established. we need to use the TTP as a way to move things in the right direction. 4. we shift the focus of how we navigate TTPs. Repeat. we need to change the way the model is shown. we can assume that we are talking about subjects which fit into the "Fun. we look at the concept of the TTP.3-1 for an explanation.4.2-1.2 Steering Conversations Moment To Moment using Advanced Conversational Management D8-T35 Again. and explain a bit more as to its meaning and interpretation. Positive.4.4. (See Figure 4. Interesting Topics Which of these "Engage the Emotions and imagination in a Positive Way"? That is the direction to go! Candidate Topics Figure 4. but now think "where can I go that will engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way".2-1: Topic Turning Point Navigation for Advanced Conversational Management After using General Conversational Management for a while. See Figure 4.) TTP Mantra " Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Tactical Formula for Advanced Conversational Management Keep thinking .) Page 88 . and Interesting" area.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4.3 The Model With Advanced Strategy And Tactics In Place D8-T38 (Before we move on to looking at the model.4. and with that strategy in mind. TTP Fun.Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Move the conversation in that direction.
and Interesting conversation (2) may take four steps. Page 89 . it may take ten. Positive. these diagrams will indicate a VERY condensed version of the number of steps involved. once again ending up with thousands of topics that could be discussed by the time you get through more topic shifts (3). with thousands upon thousands of possible possible routes and outcomes. and it ends up at a certain area (2). But after using the general techniques (Fun.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Understanding the Conversational Management Model The model attempts to show a process that has many many steps. When starting from ANY topic (1) to a place where you are firmly established for a period of time in a Fun. the model above is what we used to show a starting point (1).) the conversation moves on for a while. we are not showing that there are exactly "four steps" between points (1) and (2). not an exact number of steps or outcomes. This can result in so many possibilities (many thousands within a few steps) that it's important to look at these diagrams as a way to show "trend". At that point. but a way to show a "trend". For example. For example. or topic shift) shown on the digram may represent many steps in an actual conversation. Positive.4. It may happen in ten minutes. there can be a whole "tree" of possibilities leading from there. The locations of points (1). From now on in the course. In practice. or thirty.3-1: Understanding the Conversational Management Model The "levels" shown in the models are not meant to be exact. and (3) in the figure above (and in the next figure) helps to show this. the graphics we will use will show an even more "condensed" version of this process. Figure 4. etc. where every "step" (TTP. so that the various stages of a conversation can be easily illustrated. (2).
If you follow these two simple strategies together (and the tactical approach of simply watching the TTPs and moving things in the right way). Then a shift is made towards focusing the conversation even more using Advanced Conversational Management. feelings.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course We started at one topic.4. Now the emphasis is on ways to "Engage the Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way".3-2. or however long it takes to be firmly established in a Fun. Page 90 . 10.3-2: Advanced Conversational Management Model Early in the conversation. This too can take any number of steps. we focused the conversation towards moving things in a direction that is "Fun Positive and Interesting. If you refer to Figure 4. you end up linking and associating many fascinating. Although the diagram shows only 2 steps (for simplicity). And of course while doing that. As time goes on. in practice it may be good to follow a series of topics for 5. 10 topic shifts. For a while. This is shown between points (2) and (3). you can see how General Conversational Management. until it is firmly established that the conversation has engaged the emotions and imagination of the participant. if you use the language tools which we learned about earlier in the course. This also is followed for a series of steps and a period of time. and could be at any of thousands of topics after 6. emotional topics. 8. General Conversational Management techniques are used. This is shown from point (1) to point (2) in the diagram. or 30 minutes. only a few of which are shown in the diagram. After that has been established. subjects. and Interesting conversation (2). to yourself! Advanced Conversational Management Model Figure 4. The subjects will get more and more fascinating. 20. and states. Positive. we now focus more on moving in a direction that will "Engage the Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way". exciting.4. are used together to move forward in a conversation. and then Advanced Conversational Management. the conversation will get more and more of an "emotional" tone to it. the conversation will get better and better.
consider it a topic that leads to a TTP (copy each above into the "Topic" areas below). At some particular moment in that conversation. directions you could "take" the conversation (these are the TTP Options.4.4 Exercises and Assignments D8-T39 Exercises for Advanced Conversational Management 1) Think of some conversations that you have been in recently. These should be conversations where it is already obvious that it is a fun. positive.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4. things you could comment on. and write down the topic for each. list 6-8 different ways you could go. For each of those Topics. or Candidate Topics). what was the main topic? Topics 2) Based on each of those topics. ask about. TTP Options (Candidate Topics') Page 91 . Topic a. and interesting conversation. Write each of those down.
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make a comment. Just do what you can so that the TTP shifts in a direction that can "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". At first. Assignments for Advanced Conversational Management 1) For the next week or so. but the REAL key is to at least get to the point where you can very quickly think of at least 1 or 2 ways to go that "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". don't worry.4. Maybe start out by looking at conversation after the fact. asking a question. and interesting. inquire about something. seductive things. It WILL get easier. etc. we are "steering" things more and more in a direction that we wish to go. If this is a challenge for you. 2) Now that you are able to quickly find 1 or 2 good TTP options for yourself that "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". but be especially aware of wanting to move things to "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". This is best when applied to a conversation that is ALREADY fun. whatever it might take to move things in that direction. 4) For each Topic.5 4. maybe offer an opinion. where COULD I have taken things". until the process of finding 1 or 2 ways to go that "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way" in a conversation can happen very rapidly for you. once again.5 4. which 1 or 2 would tend to "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way"? Which ones move things in a way that is best for you? Select two "candidates" and circle or highlight these two. even things with some degree of sensual connotation to them. positive. making a statement. So. fascinating. we focus further on the TTP options! Page 93 .. 5) Practice again on each by moving things in the direction of the second item that was circled. So. you may have to think of 6-8 options. 4. what next? At some point in the conversation.5. what would it have been like to have moved the conversation in the direction of the first item you circled? Practice that out loud for each Topic above.. Do this for a while. we want to steer things more towards romantic. really be aware of the TTP opportunities in your day-to-day life. thinking "what COULD I have done.1 Summary MORE ADVANCED CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT More About Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Really Want.. start to take the conversation there! Ask a question. maybe by making a comment. whatever it takes.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Of the 6-8 different TTP Options you have written above for each Topic. D8-T46 D8-T47 D8-T47 As you can see.
2 Steering Conversations Using More Advanced Conversational Management D8-T49 TTP Mantra (See Figure 4. The focus now is upon topics that get you closer towards Romantic. you will have taken things in the right direction and this will be much easier. seductive things?" Move the conversation in that direction. steer the conversation towards romantic. if you have been in a conversation for a while. seductive things is much easier after you have first move towards fun.5. Fascinating. This gets her mind into thinking more and more about these things.) Page 94 . Seductive things Tactical Formula for More Advanced Conversational Management Keep thinking . 4.) "Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. and followed the other strategies and tactics shown earlier. positive and interesting thing. then the focus shifts again towards directing things in a specific way. However. fascinating. This may seem odd or hard to do. fascinating. fascinating. Moving towards romantic.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Strategic Formula for More Advanced Conversational Management To further direct the conversation into even BETTER areas.5.3 The Model With More Advanced Strategy And Tactics In Place D8-T52 We are just closing in.3-1. Repeat.2-1: Topic Turning Point Navigation for More Advanced Conversational Management After using General and Advanced Conversational Management. and associating YOU with them! (See Figure 4. 4."Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. and then topics that engage the emotions and imagination. and seductive things.5.5. and focusing more and more towards areas and topics that work.2-1.5. seductive things?" Figure 4. fascinating.
there is a different focus at each stage. and Seductive. the focus moves towards selecting items based on More Advanced Conversational Management. Fascinating. After that type of conversation has been established (3). Then the Advanced Conversational Management Techniques place the focus more upon items that involve the Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way. moving to point (4) Page 95 . Early on. General Conversational Management techniques place the focus on selecting items that are Fun. Positive. shown from point (1) to (2)..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course More Advanced Conversational Management Model Figure 4. and Interesting. which targets topics and subjects that are Romantic.3-1: More Advanced Conversational Management Model As the conversation progresses.5. moving to point (3).
6 CONVERSATIONAL FRACTIONATION D9-T1 Using these Conversational Management skills in the real world may be quite different in practice from the way most guys "think" it will happen. (See Figure 4. and then an emotional one. Moreover. 4. and get things to be more and more fascinating and exciting. Too many guys are too caught up in this one-shot dream of traveling once across the model and getting an amazing result. the way it really DOES happen. and then .6.1 The 1-Shot Beeline Fallacy D9-T2 Guys assume that they will travel from a general topic.) The Dream that Does Not Happen! Figure 4.6.MAGIC! However that is NOT the way it works in the real world.1-1. to a positive one.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4. then a sensual one. Page 96 . This hardly ever ever happens. that they will get an AMAZING reaction in their first movement across the Model.1-1: The Dream of a 1-Shot Path To Success! A common misperception is that many guys think that if they can just move a conversation from the start. will work in your favor.6.
e) Then move back (towards the left side of the model) This may happen because: • The person you are talking to does that (she asks a question) • Or maybe you do it (just to lighten things up) f) Then start again.6. you back off. Maybe you start from a very general topic and get all the way through the model towards a very very fascinating topic or subject. the conversation ends up being very interesting and fascinating! 4. here is how this works. You just start the process again.. You back up to a more general topic. Just start the process again.. No problem. etc. Then at some point.) a) b) c) d) Page 97 .6. using the Conversational Management techniques Get as far through the model as you can.. Great! Talk about that for a while. If you get to a very good place. Then you "back up" to some extent (even all the way back to a very general topic area) and then move forward across the model again. and then . or maybe the conversation shifts back to that place due to something she says.. emotional and imaginative topics. The conversation starts.. you go back towards something more "normal". (See Figure 4. Because no matter where you start from.. So. and fascinating and seductive topics. you take a conversation from the early stages through the process.. Use the language tools. Maybe several times. restarts. You might do that on your own. g) Do the whole process over and over. Have fun. stay there and talk about it for a while. Start at any topic (you are on the far left side of the Model) Move forward towards the right.2 How Fractionation Works D9-T3 The real world has stops. no matter where you start. moving through the model towards the right.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4. and then at some point. This actually ADDS to the power and effectiveness of what you are doing.. So. Of if you can't seem to get to a good place... you may jump back just several steps in our Conversational Management Process. And again. no matter how the conversation jumps around.6. goes for some distance through the model (maybe all the way through). No problem. In this way. When we say "go back". you are always moving towards positive topics. This is where a process is done repeatedly over and over. Maybe you move all the way back to a very "normal" topic (which would be all the way on the left side of the model). starts. move on to the next step. This actually works better! We are actually using Fractionation.3 Using Conversational Fractionation D9-T5 Start at some normal topic and move through the model towards the right.31.
3-1: How Conversation Fractionation Works on the Model Follow the conversation as it moves from (1) to (12). As time goes on (5-12) the conversation gets into better and better areas.6.4 Dead Ends Come Back To Life! D9-T6 With this new strategy of using Conversational Fractionation. and fascinating! 4. at times maybe they move towards an area that is not too good (2). over time.6. there is no such thing as a conversational "Dead End"! Page 98 . there is a continued movement up and into better and better areas of conversation. it ends up being fun. interesting. As things move forward from (1). This is not a problem. that no matter WHAT you talk about. simply back up (3) and then try moving into a better direction (4). The overall trend is that.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Conversational Fractionation at Work Figure 4. You become one of those fascinating guys. Fractionation happens at times because even when you may be at a fairly good place for a while (8). it's not a bad idea to back up a bit (9) and then move forward again.
and use the Strategy and Tactics of the Conversational Management techniques! Look at "Dead Ends" as being just like a bad turn on a road. or what you both have in common Move forward with the Strategies and Tactics in mind. have more material to use in conversations in the future! 4. you might have just found out that they are NOT someone you want to spend time with! That's not a total loss because you STILL learned more. Do that for a while and then think . you just back up. how do we pull this together? 4. this can happen.. etc.1 • Conversational Management Approach Start on just about ANY subject. or maybe negative. use the language tools. and go down another path! 4. and the person becomes interested and fascinated. When on good topics.. —* The entire time: o If you hit a "dead end". Do that for a while and then think . with you! 4.. talked more. back up a few steps.7.7.. positive. o If you get to a good subject or topic. (think of your TTP options). Just back up. No problem.2 What If The Outcome Is Not What You Expected? D9-T9 Despite your best efforts.. Where can I go that is fun.3 Summary D9-T10 Go have fun with these tools! Page 99 ..7. Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. and interesting? Move things in that direction. use the language tools as much as possible! D9-T8 • • • • • • • • • Keep moving the conversation into these interesting fascinating areas ..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course If you happen to take a "wrong turn" somehow and get into an area of discussion that is boring. Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Move things in that direction. stay there for a while. and get the effect. fascinating. seductive things? Move things in that direction. • What if you can't make the conversation positive? • What if she always points out the negative aspect? • What if there is NO emotional engagement at ALL? Well... o Comment on what is around o Mention common items.7 CONVERSATIONAL OVERVIEW AND REVIEW D9-T7 So. uninteresting.
this is something we can and will work on with you. the more you talk to people about such things. yes! How well can you talk about topics that YOU are passionate about while using many of the language tools we talked about in the earlier parts of the course? If you can do that very well . You will be able to say things like "I was talking to someone about this the other day..". some practice. Topics • • 5. the easier it will get. and THEY said.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 5. you should be able to use them with subjects in which you are already interested! Page 101 . and it's even better if you are passionate about those topics.great! It's easier to use the language tools if you are discussing topics with which you are familiar. What do you talk about? There is no substitute for experience. the more familiar you will be with these topics. if using those language tools is problem for you. to get the best effect you will have to be a PART of that conversation and familiar with the topics that may come up.1 Themes are a way through a discussion or through the "tree of subjects" that we showed earlier. Most men may not be very familiar with many of the topics that we REALLY want to get into. TOPICS OF ENTHUSIASM AND PASSION D9-T14 What are you passionate about? Few things are more compelling in a person than for them to be passionate about something (hopefully many things) in life.0 TOPICS D9-T11 What do you talk about? As the conversation gets more interesting.) Before you can use the language tools with new subjects that you are learning about. You want to be able to discuss these topics easily. A topic is a particular area of discussion that is taking place in a moment. go ahead and practice! (Or maybe do that the next time you go through the course. fascinating. what can we do here in this course to help you? We have talked about the way to talk and use language. and while talking about subjects and topics that YOU are really passionate about. especially as they get more interesting. However. we have talked about managing conversations. Themes vs. Talking about these topics may be a challenge for many men. The more experience you get. fascinating. and some familiarity with this type of thing. fun.. Can you talk passionately about something? Anything? Hopefully. In the meantime. and that statement (regarding having actually talked to someone about the topics) will be TRUE! So. then you may want to go back in those earlier sections. However. and closer towards the subjects that will really serve your intent. so that YOU have some material. Now we want you to become familiar with topics that will really work well for you! We are going to work with some of these topics. and then the more "material" you will have.
or near.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course So.just TALKING about these can create a good effect. in some ways. Examples of SOTs • Connections • Going for it • Making good decisions • Surrendering to feelings • Getting excited • Feeling excited • Trusting your judgment • Taking chances • Indulgence • Maturity • Good decisions • . or cleaning the toilet. These are called "Seduction Oriented Topics". can create an AMAZING effect! When you do get a conversation into an area near an SOT. work it. but doing so while using the language tools. You may talk about cars. someone) some topics are easier to work with than others. stay there as long as you can! Talk about it. (Every guy has his favorites and ones that work best for him... at least. SOTs are the "end goals" when it comes to managing or directing a conversation.2 SEDUCTION ORIENTED TOPICS D9-T15 In the context of this course (and your intent in talking with .. You want to be able to discuss topics that deal on some level with Seduction. or sports. or the office. sensual. How good are you at the earlier sections that dealt with the language tools? It may be a good idea to go back over those sections. or topics that are very close to that concept. in the right way Use the language tools! You want to be familiar with these topics (SOTs) and able to discuss them easily: maybe not ALL of them. Your point is to get to..) Page 102 . and link it to you! When • • • • • you are at or near an SOT: Use the correct tone of Voice Pace and Lead correctly Link things to you Point at the right times. feelings.. excitement. a topic that is an SOT. but how effective are those as subjects given the "purpose" of the discussion? You want to discuss topics and things which deal with seduction.Topics that bring up images and thoughts that are romantic. The conversational management sections will help you to move the conversation in a way that will get you near these topics areas. and emphasize discussing topics in which YOU are interested and passionate about. judge for yourself. 5. Seduction Oriented Topics (SOTs) .. and seductive. but a good number of them. Topics that access emotions. etc. or.
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course These topics may seem foreign to you. the more you work with the materials. the more you practice. and the more you talk to and with people about them. the easier it will get! Strategic Formula for Seduction Oriented Topics SOTs are topics that. bring up images and thoughts that may work for you. you JUST need to be able to talk. or in movies. Don't worry about talking to women. You can use some of those that were listed earlier if you wish. Exercises for Seduction Oriented Topics 1) Build your own list of SOTs. and also topics that you have heard in other materials and products that you have. or ask questions. Assignments for Seduction Oriented Topics 1) Pay attention to conversations in your life (even things you hear on the radio. use as many of the language tools as you can. or seduction per se. and without "thinking" about the language tools.. talk about something you heard. the more you practice using the tools. Or. 3) Practice talking about each aloud.Are you able to somehow relate to these in your own life? Maybe something you read or heard? Maybe questions you can ask? ANYTHING?!?!? You do not need to "know" a lot about these topics or be an expert. hopefully some way that involves you and your own life. the easier it will be to "riff" on these using the language tools. and while there. but the more you think about them. and discuss these subjects. by there very nature. easily. Meaning.. or even watched in a movie! (Or heard in a course that you took . using as many of the language tools as you can. or overhear from others) and listen for when any of these SOTs come up in conversation. Page 103 . keep it there. or anything like that. have stories about them. Eventually. Seduction Oriented Topics 2) You must become familiar with these! You must be able to talk about them. or on TV. and hopefully add some of your own. or joke about them.. Write down your list of SOTs. or comment on them! Talk aloud for several minutes about each. read. Think about other topics you have heard mentioned in this program. Or are taking!) . Think of SOME way to discuss these. ask about them. Get the conversation there. you will be able to just "talk" about the subject while using the tools that are available.
what is said. Use as many of the language tools as you can. So can you. but this time with SOTs. the more you listen. Maybe ask some questions about things that deal with your SOTs.. That is understandable. Make special note of topics that are CLOSE or similar to these SOTs in some way. what people think.3 EXPANDED SEDUCTION ORIENTED TOPICS . That gives YOU more familiarity with discussing them. 2) Now . but we are walking you through (at least the first steps of) the process to make this easier: • • • • • • • • • • • You have made a list of SOTs. (As in. They started and became more and more familiar with these topics. this is one of the key challenges that many guys face. after having worked with hundreds of guys.. make a comment. 5. You do a few exercises to talk about them. See? We are working on a process to get you to become more comfortable and familiar with these things. It may start a bit slowly and awkwardly.. You listen more to when they are discussed. You start to listen and take notice of when these are discussed. it WILL get easier. These are called Expanded SOTs (SOTXs).Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Listen to what is being said. Many guys who can now talk about these things VERY easily and comfortably started from a place of having NO idea of what to say! They changed. Then you get to hear MORE people talk about them. Really! Learning to discuss such things may start out slowly. and frankly. or even just TRY to do so.").Talk about these subjects and topics! Make a point to enter into a discussion when one of your SOTs is mentioned. Because of that. and start to get your brain working on them. quote. And that gives you MORE material to talk about! Which make it easier for you to enter into more conversations about these subjects and topics. However. SOT Summary I KNOW that these topics may seem foreign to you. However. We learned how you can move from any topic. "the other day I heard someone talking about. but as long as you start it. show interest. and move through these exercises and assignments. this process must start somewhere. but had even more? Maybe 50? What if that was easy and familiar for you? Think back to how we looked at topics earlier. The more you hear. That's what we want to do here. They did it. then the more material YOU will have to talk about. it gets easier to enter into more conversations that deal with these topics. or even when anything CLOSE to one of your SOTs is discussed. anything at all! Talk. and makes it easier for you to talk about them. discuss. and easily come up with 6-8 related topics. Page 104 .SOTXs D9-T24 What if you had not just 10 ways of discussing "Seduction Oriented" subjects. ask. etc. I can tell you that it DOES get easier and easier to be able to talk about these things. ask an opinion. That makes you really think about them. ask what something means.
pets. and build a whole list of very similar things to talk about -which are SOTXs! For example. and things that can be discussed. That just makes it easier for our example below).with music . For any given SOT.. you now have 6-8 ways to discuss it. or only one aspect of that to discuss (connections in a romantic or sensual context).3-1: How SOTs are related to an SOTXs... you can take any SOT.with someone you just met . Look at the list above. but can you think of 6-8 different aspects of this? (Remember what we did in the earlier sections... Instead of worrying about getting to that one topic (SOT) in a certain way... However as we see here. (You do not really need to list "connections with" for each. family.. comes up in a conversation..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Expanding on a Topic Area "Connections" is an SOT. it's easy to think of several different aspects of that topic or related topics. .. can you think of different aspects of that? Parts of Connections? Questions about Connections? Ways of experiencing Connections? People or things with which you can experience Connections? By asking those types of questions (to yourself).. That is one subject. how we discussed a Topic Turning Point?) If Connections is a particular subject.. They think of only one way of talking about that subject.. if friends. places. you can talk about that for while.. (Does that diagram look familiar?) If "Connections" is an SOT.with your teammates Figure 5... see Figure 5..with coworkers . there are many different types or examples of connecting to people.with a girlfriend . etc. Then.with family .with pets . SOT Connections SOTX Connections with family Connections with friends Connections with coworkers Connections with pets Connections with a girlfriend Connections with someone you just met Connections with someone while on vacation Connections with music Connections with your teammates Many guys worry about talking about something like "Connections".with friends . the SOTX list consists of all of these items shown in the diagram and listed below.with someone while on vacation . coworkers. how easy would it be to talk about how you CONNECT with those? And if you talk about Page 105 .3-1.
and how you (or someone else) can connect with a pet. or different aspects of that topic.. etc. c. ask a question. then you can shift towards ANOTHER type of "connection" very easily! (See Figure 5. Just make a comment. If you talk about that for a while. if someone is talking about pets. b.3-2.. then you can shift to talking about "how you can connect with a pet" fairly easily. all of a sudden there are many MORE ways to get to these really GREAT topics! Exercises f o r Expanded Seduction Oriented T o p i c s 1) Take the SOT list you had earlier (copy those down into the first column below. you can be as close as one step away from an SOT. you are to list 5 (at least) related topics.) Family Friends Coworkers Pets Connections A girlfriend Someone you just met Someone met on vacation Music Teammates Figure 5. or how that topic can be experienced..3-2: SOTXs Can Lead Into SOTs If any of the topics in the SOTX list comes up in conversation. point out an example regarding pets.. it's very easy to then shift. This is your SOTX list. SOTs " SOTXs List Page 106 . or maybe even someone. (Yes. or a special person..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course THAT (how you connect in that manner) for a while.. how to connect with people.) and for each SOT.to . that you just met! When you expand SOTs in this way. a. this is a TTP diagram in reverse!) For example.
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but now do so while using the language tools. Talk about that SOTX for a moment or two. You have 50 SOTXs that you are now familiar with as well. (Like the earlier example.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 2) Now for each SOTX.) 3) Do the same thing again. and see if you can then focus what you are saying towards the SOT itself. then about connecting in general. practice talking about it out loud. Step back and look at what you have done! You have 10 SOTs with which YOU are familiar. you talk about pets. then about connecting with pets. That gives you a LOT of flexibility in conversations! Page 108 .
SOTXs are now like "conversational landmarks" for you in terms of navigating a conversation.. We have broken these down. the easier it will be to notice SOTXs. Summary You now have MORE material to work with than you ever thought possible! This is not about memorizing.. it is easy to then move the conversation towards topics that will work better for you (SOTs). modeled the process arid the steps involved. if you hear any of them mentioned. If anything like an SOTX comes up in a conversation.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Assignments for Expanded Seduction Oriented Topics 1) Look at all of your SOTXs! That's a LOT of subjects! Pay attention in your life to see how often any of those items come up in conversation (or maybe you just hear them somewhere). The more familiar you are with these subjects.4-1. The real usefulness of this is when you reverse the order as shown in Figure 5... concept of "topics related to a topic" in many many places..with friends . You will start to notice this. In addition. use the language tools if and whenever you can.. "I didn't list that SOTX.with coworkers . However. that process can work both ways.. Maybe you will even start to notice SOTXs that were not even ON your list. it's about getting YOU comfortable and familiar with these topics.with a girlfriend . It ALL gets easier! 2) Start to "direct" the conversations you encounter where your SOTXs are mentioned. and then built upon that step by step. or anything like them mentioned.4 CONVERSATIONAL MODEL WITH SOTXs.. especially politicians and activists..with someone while on vacation .... Good speakers.with someone you just met .. use such techniques a LOT. 5. D9-T32 We discussed how to develop an SOTX list from an SOT..with music . .. You may think.with family .. The techniques that you have learned are the sort of things that many people do naturally. broke it into bits and pieces that you can learn and do as exercises.. See if you can move the conversation a bit towards the SOT itself. .with pets Connections . Page 109 .with your teammates Family Friends Coworkers Pets A girlfriend Someone you just met Someone met on vacation Music Teammates Connections This is how we developed SOTXs This is the most useful way of thinking of SOTXs Figure 5. spotting these opportunities get easier and easier.4-1: SOTXs Are The Pathways To SOTs SOTXs are an easy way to get towards SOTs. and move the conversation towards SOTs.. you know that you are very close to getting near a subject area that will work very well for you. The more you work with this. but it IS related to an SOT that I have worked with".
and anything like an SOTX comes up in the discussion. In many of the diagrams. that this process will now be easier than you may have imagined..4-3 shows this in the model itself. The point here (again) is not to memorize the SOTs.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course So whenever you are having a conversation. this will start to happen for you. Page 110 . It's to have you practice and become familiar with them. If you have followed the program. that is not an abbreviation or exaggeration. SOTXs SOTs Figure 5. Figure 5. you have practiced with so many of these SOTXs. and for you to just start to "recognize" these things on your own . you have already worked with 10 SOTs and 50 SOTXs as shown in Figure 5. you now see how easy it can be to move over to an SOT! In fact.4-2. or the SOTXs.without "thinking" about them. As the topics get better and better. we have had to compress or simplify them quite a bit and show only a fraction of the actual steps and numbers involved so that the diagrams do not become too large or complex.the number that YOU have actually worked with so far! Since SOTXs and SOTs are the "goals" in terms of managing a conversation. After all. However in the figure above. we can then show them as part of our Conversational Model. to be able to notice when you are talking about things which are "close to" topics that will work well for you.4-2: Your Multiple Pathways to SOTs! Now that you have worked with 10 SOTs. and then towards SOTs. you have started to train yourself to "recognize" these landmarks. there are really 50 SOTXs and 10 SOTs shown . and done the exercises and assignments. you will get closer and closer to SOTXs. and 50 SOTXs (in the earlier exercises) you now have many many SOTXs with which YOU are familiar! More importantly.
then you can simply move things towards a topic that is very seduction-oriented! The point is not to have a "list" in mind. SOTXs SOTs Listen for SOTXs Anything near or related to an SOT.4-3: SOTs Are THE Goals in Conversational Management As you move through a conversation. Then move the conversation towards an SOT! This works. then start to pay attention for SOTXs. SOTXs are a pathway to make that easier. or as close as you can towards SOTs. you start to "listen" for topics that are SOTXs. When you get to an SOTx. or anything that is "related" to an SOT. which are topics near or related to seduction (a step or two away from SOTs). and using this type of approach you will have fascinating conversations with people that lead to where YOU want to go! (See Figure 5. it's that you have trained yourself to recognize things that are SOTs.) Page 111 .5 THE COMPLETE CONVERSATIONAL MODEL D9-T33 Start from any topic and get to where you want! Yes.. Stay there for a while if you can! Figure 5. 5. just follow the steps listed earlier in the Conversational Management sections. and topics that are close to that (SOTXs). Period. and ANY TOPIC. you can start from just about ANY topic and get to GREAT topics! It's easy. You can start from almost ANYWHERE. Move towards SOTs.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course SOTs in the Conversational Management Model The end goal is to get to.5-1.
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fascinating.Engaging the emotions and imagination in a positive way . or SOTX.. back up! If you move back to a general topic. exciting...Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Figure 5. interesting . Steer towards . seductive things Direct the Conversation Pay attention when Good Subjects come up (SOTXs) Listen for anything a step or two away from an SOT Move towards SOTs Stay there as long as you can Use The Language Tools! As much as possible.. start over! Assignment! 1) Try it! Start directing conversations using the conversational management model. and see how easy it is to get to some good topic that is an SOT. Steer towards . Fractionate If you take a wrong turn.. or very close! Page 113 . Especially when at or near SOTXs and SOTs.Romantic.Fun..5-1: The Complete Conversational Management Model (continued) Start a Conversation Manage the Conversation Move the Conversation in a Good Direction Steer towards .
Once you actually play the game though. These smaller skills become automatic and you focus instead of driving. You don't have to think about moving the wheel. • An example of what you can say. or model to be followed in making things. The Pattern Formula in detail. She may take the conversation into better places that you could have predicted. "how can I get to my pattern". Amplify these feelings and states by talking. clarifying. Use the language tools. or "how can I bring up a pattern that I know". The navigation is handled through our use of Conversational Management techniques. You practice bits and pieces of the sport. certain actions. • Maybe talk to a woman and allow HER to bring up things that end up working well in pattern-like language. Present a Call to action. and as "a way of speaking". we have practiced the small details (language skills) so that these are automatic. THAT ends up being a very effective way to create "patterns". we work in that manner. Link and associate these feelings to you. A representative sample. or could say.0 6. etc. the clutch. • Driving . • While talking to a woman.You don't play the entire game ahead of time. 6. We practice specific parts of areas of the skills we wish to use later on. get her to "experience" good feelings and states.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 6. It's best to just think of patterns as examples. asking. plus these areas will work for HER because SHE selected them (in a manner of speaking) • Talk and manage the conversation into an area that DOES work for you. and being aware of when you DO get to an area of conversation that does allow you to use a pattern. In the same manner. that's the key. you make decisions on-the-spot as to what to do and how to proceed. or navigation. think about having a conversation (and managing it correctly). Examples/Analogies: • Sports . diagram. With this new approach to learning and using these tools. Its just a "type" of talking that you can (and will be able to) use when you feel it is appropriate.Many of the details of driving a car are things you just "do". A New way of thinking about the use of patterns • The wrong way is to talk to someone and to keep thinking. Don't think of "how can I get to the pattern". or "how can I bring this pattern up". or series of actions.2 PATTERN FORMULA D10-T7 Tactical Formula for Patterns While talking to a woman. Patterns are just examples of the use of these tools.1 PATTERNS PATTERN OVERVIEW D10-T1 What is a pattern? • A plan. • Instead. "A plan" or "model". handling the gas pedal. get her to "experience" good feelings and states o Use the Conversational Management Techniques to get there o Get her to think about good and/or exciting feelings Page 115 .
. sound quite strange. Some times that does happen. However. Their best use is when you use the Conversational Management techniques and then find that the conversation just happens to get to or near a pattern that you DO happen to know already.. clarifying o Use the Language Tools o Asking her for info. etc Link and associate those feelings to you o Use the Language Tools o Use linkage phrases like "now with me". pre-written patterns that you have seen and heard.these pre-written or canned patterns can work very well. The good ways to use these are as teaching and learning tools. In the real world.4 PATTERN RIFFING IN REAL-TIME D10-T13 This is the ability to just create pattern language on-the-fly. But. or things you have read. when you are talking to a woman. • The interesting topic that she and you are discussing o what is happening o what you know Page 116 .3 CANNED PATTERNS D10-T12 These are the pre-rehearsed." etc. and to use what is needed in the moment. canned patterns are good.. In THAT case . and do. 6. Therefore it is best to maybe have some of these memorized. these canned patterns DO have some usefulness. but they assume that you are in a conversation where they will work and be somewhat "appropriate" to what is being discussed. and real-time "Riffing". "this person. 6. pre-rehearsed. if you just "drop" a pattern into the conversation. and have them there for your use if and when the correct situation comes up. asking. what you need to do is to look at. because doing so may work against you. So.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • o Get her feeling good and/or exciting feelings o Get her experiencing (or recall the experience of) good and/or exciting feelings o Get her to think about things that she wants or desires Amplify these feelings and states by talking. and that the woman will react to what the patterns is about. for her to elaborate and describe o Repeating back what she has said o Provide examples from your own life o Provide examples from friends. The problem is if you are SO focused on just "getting to the pattern" that you know (or even one of many that you know) then it's difficult to have a good conversation. don't focus TOO much on them. and the proper context is not created. they can. many times it does not. "Canned" patterns. o Use "this" and "these" (be aware of that and those as well) o Point and mark appropriately Present a Call to action o "Do it now" language o Create a Challenge o Create an Opportunity o Talk about the chance to "Seize the moment" o A simple add-on to the Language Tools There are two main ways of doing patterns. Pre-written.
Yes. and actions in the conversation. states.. looking and listening for positive feelings. • Talk about these things or listen to you talk about these things • get her to think about these things • get her to feel these things • get her to link them to you. using the tools. Wanting to take action or seize an opportunity Always • • • • See the pattern here? We are in general. Use the language tools so that YOU become associated with those things.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • o what she is reacting to o and discuss things which are appropriate. and sensual things.. get her to. and and use the language tools. THE BEST PATTERN IS THIS: • • Get her to talk and think about positive. interesting. • Use some "act now" languaging. it really IS that easy! look for: Positive emotions and feeling Positive sensations (as in physical ones) Exciting feelings. emotions. Then you have a conversation and. exciting. Page 117 . Then we use those as a basis for discussion.
and really take the time to do the exercises.1 REVIEW AND SUMMARY REVIEW D10-T18 The course has followed a "bottom-up" approach to training.5 CONGRATULATIONS! WELL DONE! D10-T29 Page 119 . D10-T27 Listen to the full explanations. 7. Keep her there and keep talking! a. Use the Language Tools 7. and then building up to bigger and bigger pieces.2 SUMMARY D10-T26 This may be similar to information you have heard in the past. and how you speak. a. D10-T28 The more energy and effort you put into this. Direct and/or link those feelings towards you. DO THE EXERCISES. AND FOLLOW THE COURSE. 7. the greater your results will be.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 7. Whether its your first. It really is up to you. but the method of approaching it is very different. 3. focusing first on small details.0 7. Use the conversational management techniques b. Get the conversation into good subjects (SOTXs. Both you and her talk! 2. fifth.3 LISTEN. Fractionate if and when needed. and the more engaged you are in the process.4 BE WILLING AND PREPARED TO PUT ENERGY INTO THIS COURSE. and/or compulsion to act a. and view an overall strategy. comfort in. 1. Talk about something positive and interesting c. 7. you will benefit. Create a willingness. We really are focused upon changing you. of fourteenth time through. Keep the conversation going. Use the Language Tools 5. Engage her emotions and imagination in a positive way. Now we can look from the "top-down". a. Direct the conversation in a way that takes you toward good topics a. Use the conversational management techniques b. SOTs) 4. -' d.
and provide you with some real-world examples of their use. EXAMPLES.0 EXAMPLES. EXAMPLES Dll-Tl The discussions presented on the audio for this section are intentionally "casual" to familiarize you even more with the use of these tools. Page 121 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 8.
.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course APPENDIX 1 Course "Cheat Sheet" • SPEAKING POINTERS o The "Cool" Factor You don't have to be cold. " As you. to convey a sense of drama and intrigue in what you are saying in a way that "captivates "people and makes them want to listen to you. • Instantaneously " Suddenly • Find Yourself • Convince Yourself • Suppose • Imagine " Mysterious (-ly) • Wonder (-ous) (-ously) Weasel Phrases Use Weasel Phrases to keep the conversation going. Voice Tone And Tonality Use your best tone of voice (speaking from your chest) to convey a relaxed.... • Be descriptive. use Adjectives And Adverbs Trance Words Help to get the subconscious mind of the listener to be more of apart of your conversation. • If I were to . • Nose. powerful.. so that their feelings.. and charismatic presence. • Slow. to be cool. emotions.. • Have you ever ... • Passionate or Boring? o o o • LANGUAGE TOOLS A N T D E T A I L S o Adjectives And Adverbs Use more adjectives and adverbs in your speech to appeal to and excite the emotional side of the listener. Pause? Energy And Enthusiasm Using energy and enthusiasm when speaking so that people can become energized and enthusiastic about listening to and being with you. o o Page 123 . and well-placed pauses. Fast. allowing you to say more (and maybe more provocative things) about a subject. and to "soften " the way in which something is said. Mouth. or Chest? Pacing And Pausing Use variations in pace.. • What's it like when . and processes awaken. • If you were to .
• Move! Point! Linking Gestures Towards And Away • Whenever you say something negative. motion. a smile. These. intrigue. link them to you so that YOU become something and someone that they feel good about • Now with me • In me • In myself • with this • these • this belief • these feelings Easy-Linking • Use "This" and "These" when referring to anything positive.. Point to you • Negative statement. • Can you do this now.. • Whenever you say something positive. Easy Anchoring When the person you are talking with displays a positive feeling of some type. Easy Linking Expanded Pointing With This. Linking After getting someone to experience good feelings and emotions. etc. allowing you to move things more in your favor later on Page 124 . gesture. Point away. That. o o • MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures Move. point or gesture towards yourself. Point to you • Negative Say "those". point or gesture away. Say "this".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o Embedded Commands Use embedded commands repeatedly and in the proper context. to create a compelling will on the part of the listener follow you and listen to you. • Use "That" and "Those" when referring to anything negative. and accentuate what you are saying in order to be more compelling as a speaker and to get even more attention from your listener or audience. Those • Positive statement. Say "that". • Point Or Touch On Positive —* o o o • LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES o Pace And Lead Pacing and Leading allows you "be " in the conversation for a while and gain rapport and information. touch them to help anchor it to you. Point away • Positive statement. laugh. interest. Say "these"..
and/or interest. thoughts. and C When making a point. the More Z.) • Then you will "Y" Where "Y" is something you want them to experience (Lead) o Give Them A Reason Giving a reason will make people more apt to do things for you and agree with you. The More Z. or to maybe see if you can get someone to agree to it! • a. The more Y. experiences. LAST • Burying Items Listing . or giving an example. and c When giving examples or options to someone. B. understanding. • Topics and Subjects • Mindset or Frame of Mind • Current Reality • As (while) you are "X" (Pace) Where "X" is something that is true in their current reality (perceptions. the More Y. b.Bad • One option .Burying Items is a way to mention an outrageous or very direct option for "testing" purposes. but mention the one which YOU want to put the most emphasis on. or giving an example. a way that you want. More And More If you want to lead someone through a series of steps (actions. etc. • As you X. "List" several things briefly in order. Compare And Contrast Use this technique to keep the conversation going. the More Y. etc. in order to provide more power to what you are saying • At The End Listing at The End is a way to provide several options (which may differ) but to emphasize the option that YOU want. B. you can get away with an outrageous or very direct option by burying that option in the middle of a List. • a. Listing • General Listing General Listing is a way to quickly provide several reason. "List" several things or examples which support your point. etc. Then start to move or shift things in a different way. and C When making a point. acknowledgement.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Show agreement. statement. or thoughts) use "More and More " as a way to string them together (and increase your chances of that happening • The more X. statement. keep the discussion focused on a topic that serves your purposes. • Request X because (of) Y. the more Y. which support your point • A. and incorporate the language tools • This thing vs that thing • How two things are similar • How two things are different • Good .another option o o o Page 125 .
.... • Link good thoughts. Mini-Challenges • You seem. • Break it down into its component parts and discuss them. • Use the language tools in the discussion.. • Take any subject. to be a way for them to get what they want. or fun..... • You might. • If you can . • Challenge them to do that.. • You might see . • Maybe you can . • I wonder if you can .. or want to be perceived as having? • Talk to them and find out. • You seem like ... or show it. discuss. Parts Of A Person Use Parts of a Person as a way to find.. allowing you time to gather information and link yourself to good thoughts.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o Parts • • Parts Of A Subject Discussing many of the parts of a subject keeps the conversation going.. do it. • If you are able to . • etc. • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control Particular Wants What does she want to have. o Opportunities And Challenges • Find out what someone wants. • Find a way to map what YOU want. • The smart people I know..... —* • • • Page 126 .\ Universal Wants You can assume that most people want these. feelings and emotions to yourself. assume there is a part that will work WITH you. or adventurous. feelings and emotions. • Using Their Own Processes • Find or assume what someone wants • Create an opportunity for them to get it or demonstrate they have it • Make that "demonstration" work in your favor. • You may . • You seem as if. feelings. and evoke favorable states. idea.. • Challenge them to demonstrate it. or point in a discussion. • Are you able to ... even when the other person claims or demonstrates that such parts are NOT there • For every part of a person that will work against you. can (use smart. and beliefs.. etc)..
Advanced Conversational Management To direct the conversation into even BETTER areas.. by doing Y? • Does she want you to THINK she has X. • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control " • Excitement Challenges Challenge them to get what they want.. • Repeat. Creating Them -.. Are they ready to take advantage of that (this) opportunity? • Does she really want X and see how Y can get that? • Does she really have X."Where can I go that is fun. think of general navigation • She Must Be Engaged In The Conversation! You need her to talk. •• Show interest when someone discusses positive. • Can she see an opportunity to have "X". Consider the wants and needs that a person may have . • Don't engage in conversations when it's NOT about positive.. fun. fun. she may have to do Y to prove that..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • Opportunities. • Topic Turning Point The process of moving from one topic to one of 6-8 relevant topics • In general. and interesting?" " Move the conversation in that direction. • Introduce topics that are fun. or show what they have. positive and interesting. then . interesting things.. positive.. interesting things.-and do Y to get it? • Can she do Y and make it happen? • Can she see that Y will get her what she wants? • Can she trust herself enough to do Y? o • Ambiguities — CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT o General . fun. interesting things • Keep thinking . • Navigation Don't think of an exact plan... and see how doing Y would demonstrate it?> • Does she have what it takes to get X. steer the conversation towards directions that engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way o o Page 127 . bring up positive. General Conversational Management To steer the conversation in a good direction. listen and be IN the conversation! • Conversational Dynamics Topics flow from one to the next.
back up a few steps. seductive tilings? • The entire time: o If you hit a "dead end". steer the conversation towards romantic. keep it there. • Where can I go that is fun. • When on good topics. positive."Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. use the language tools as much as possible! • What If The Outcome Is Not What You Expected? • Move on! o o • TOPICS o Topics Of Enthusiasm and Passion Few things are more compelling in a person than for them to be passionate about something (hopefully many things) in life. • Repeat.Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Move the conversation in that direction. fascinating. fascinating. Repeat. • Keep thinking . and while there. stay there for a while. • Connections • Going for it • Making good decisions Page 128 o . Seduction Oriented Topics SOTs are topics that. More Advanced Conversational Management To further direct the conversation into even BETTER areas. and seductive things.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • o Keep thinking . seductive things?" " Move the conversation in that direction. Get the conversation there. o If you get to a good subject or topic. use as many of the language tools as you can. bring up images and thoughts that may work for you. and get the effect. Conversational Fractionation • Using Conversational Fractionation • Start • Move • Back Up • Repeat • Dead Ends Come Back To Life! • Just back up and start over! Conversational Overview and Review • General Flow • Start on just about ANY subject. fascinating. use the language tools. by there very nature. and interesting? • Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? • Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic.
Those are STOXs. o Canned Patterns . o Talk about these things or listen to you talk about these things o get her to think about these things o get her to feel these things o get her to link them to you. Conversational Model With SOTXs. asking. • Manage ..Look out for SOTXs • Direct 0 Move towards SOTs.Use the conversational Management Techniques. Page 129 o .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • • • • • o Surrendering to feelings Getting excited Feeling excited Trusting your judgment Taking chances Indulgence Maturity Good decisions Expanded Seduction Oriented Topics . Present a Call to action.SOTXs For each SOT. Pattern Riffing In Real-Time • Use the Conversational Management techniques to get to good subjects • Look at the interesting topic that she and you are discussing o what is happening o what you know o what she is reacting to o and discuss things which are appropriate. • Get her to. there are easily 6-8 variations on that SOT that you can talk about.Great as EXAMPLES • Learn and know some of them they may be useful.. o Wanting to take action or seize an opportunity • Use the language tools. The Complete Conversational Model See Appendix 2 o o • PATTERNS o Pattern • • • • Formula While talking to a woman. clarifying. get her to "experience" good feelings and states. Amplify these feelings and states by talking. and • Look for: o Positive emotions and feeling o Positive sensations (as in physical ones) o Exciting feelings. • Direct . Link and associate these feelings to you.
interesting. exciting. and sensual things. o The Best Pattern Is This: • Get her to talk and think about positive. • Use the language tools so that YOU become associated with those things Page 130 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • Use some "act now" languaging.
.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course APPENDIX II Speaking and Language Tools "Cheat Sheet" • SPEAKING POINTERS o Voice Tone And Tonality o Pacing And Pausing o Energy And Enthusiasm LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS o Adjectives And Adverbs o Trance Words o Weasel Phrases o Embedded Commands o Linking o Easy-Linking (This.At the End • Burying Items o More And More o Compare And Contrast o Parts " Parts of a Subject • Parts of a Person o Opportunities And Challenges • Mini Challenges " Opportunities And Challenges o Ambiguities • • • Page 131 .Point Or Touch On Positive And Negative LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES o Pace And Lead • Topics and Subjects • Mindset of Frame • Current Reality o Give Them A Reason o Listing " General . These. That. Those) MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures o Linking Gestures (Towards And Away) o Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This. That..) o Easy Anchoring .
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course APPENDIX III The Complete Conversational Management Model The Complete Conversational Management Model General Mgt. Seductive SOTXs SOTs The Complete Conversational Management Model Page 133 . Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way More Advanced Mgt. Fascinating. Fun. and Interesting Advanced Mgt. Romantic. Positive.
Steer towards .Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way .. Fractionate If you take a wrong turn.. positive. interesting . start over! Page 134 . Especially when at or near SOTXs and SOTs. Steer towards . fascinating...Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course The Complete Conversational Management Model (continued) Start a Conversation Manage the Conversation Move the Conversation in a Good Direction Steer towards ..Fun.Romantic. seductive things Direct the Conversation Pay attention when Good Subjects come up (SOTXs) Listen for anything a step or two away from an SOT Move towards SOTs Stay there as long as you can Use The Language Tools! As much as possible.. back up! If you move back to a general topic.
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