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Dave Riker's

Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course

A structured training program that teaches the language and conversational skills of Speed Seduction .

Workbook
Speed Seduction is a registered trademark of Ross Jeffries, used with permission.

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Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course

Table of Contents
Page No. Title Page Legal Notices Table of Contents Product Content Product Protection and User Consent Formatting and Conventions Acknowledgements Forward Registration Important Note About Exercises and Assignments 1.0 INTRODUCTION AND GETTING STARTED i ii iii vi vi vii ix x xii xii 1 D1-T1 Disk and Track No.*

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Overview
Why Is This Course Needed? What We Will Handle, and How Investing In Yourself, Or Not Can We Change The Way You Speak? Manipulation and Ethics Concerns SPEAKING AND LANGUAGE

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Speaking Pointers 7 The "Cool" Factor 7 Voice Tone and Tonality 7 Pacing and Pausing 9 Energy and Enthusiasm 10 Language Tools and Details 12 Adjectives and Adverbs 12 Trance Words 13 Weasel Phrases 15 Embedded Commands 17 Linking 19 Easy-Linking (This, That, These, Those) 21 More Tools 23 Pointing and Gestures 24 Linking Gestures (Towards and Away) 25 Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This, That, These, Those ...) 26 Easy Anchoring - Point Or Touch, On Positive 27 Review 29 LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES Pace and Lead General Pace and Lead Techniques 31 31 32

* Disk and Track Numbers References to the CDs and the tracks on them are shown in a format such as "D2-T4", which in this example refers to Disk 2, Track 4.

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Table of Contents (continued)
Page No. 3.1.2 3.1.3 3.1.4 3.2 3.3 3.3.1 3.3.2 3.3.3 3.3.4 3.3.5 3.4 3.5 3.6 3.6.1 3.6.2 3.7 3.7.1 3.7.2 3.7.3 3.7.4 3.8 3.9 4.0 4.1 4.1.1 4.1.2 4.1.3 4.1.4 4.2 4.2.1 4.2.2 4.2.3 4.3 4.3.1 4.3.2 4.3.3 4.3.4 4.3.5 4.4 4.4.1 4.4.2 4.4.3 4.4.4 4.4.5 4.5 4.5.1 4.5.2 Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects Pace and Lead-Mindset Or Frame Of Mind Pace and Lead - Current Reality Give Them a Reason Listing General Listing Listing - At The End Listing - Burying Items Listing, Pauses, and Emphasis.. Listing Review More and More Compare and Contrast Parts Parts of a Subject Parts of a Person Opportunities and Challenges Using Their Own Processes What Do People Want? Mini-Challenges Opportunities and Challenges Ambiguities Summary CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT Challenges Detailed and Specific Plans Are Just Not Workable Navigation Example Navigational Strategies Are Needed She Must Be Engaged In The Conversation! How Conversations Happen Conversational Dynamics Conversational Model Topic Turning Point General Conversational Management Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Want How To Steer Conversations, Moment To Moment The Model With Strategy and Tactics In Place Exercises and Assignments Summary Advanced Conversational Management Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Really Want Steering Conversations Moment To Moment The Model With Advanced Strategy and Tactics In Place Exercises and Assignments Summary More Advanced Conversational Management More About Getting The Conversation To Go Steering Conversations Using More Advanced 33 35 38 39 41 41 43 45 48 48 48 51 54 54 58 61 62 62 63 64 69 69 71 71 71 71 72 72 72 72 73 77 79 79 81 82 83 86 86 86 88 88 91 93 93 93 94 Disk a n d Track N o . * D5-T12 D5-T20 D5-T29 D5-T32 D6-T1 D6-T4 D6-T15 D6-T24 D6-T36 D6-T37 D6-T38 D6-T54 D7-T1 D7-T4 D7-T15 D7-T34 D7-T36 D7-T38 D7-T40 D7-T43 D7-T64 D7-T66 D8-T1 D8-T1 D8-T3 D8-T4 D8-T5 D8-T10 D8-T12 D8-T13 D8-T14 D8-T15 D8-T16 D8-T16 D8-T19 D8-T23 D8-T25 D8-T32 D8-T33 D8-T33 D8-T35 D8-T38 D8-T39 D8-T46 D8-T47 D8-T47 D8-T49

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* D8-T52 D9-T1 D9-T2 D9-T3 D9-T5 D9-T6 D9-T7 D9-T8 D9-T9 D9-T10 D9-T11 D9-T14 D9-T15 D9-T24 D9-T32 D9-T33 D10-T1 D10-T1 D10-T7 D10-T12 D10-T13 D10-T18 D10-T18 D10-T26 D10-T27 D10-T28 D10-T29 D11 .4 7.3 4.5 6.1 4. Conversational Fractionation The 1-Shot Beeline Fallacy How Fractionation Works Using Conversational Fractionation Dead Ends Come Back To Life! Conversational Overview and Review Conversational Management Approach What If The Outcome Is Not What You Expected? Summary TOPICS Topics Of Enthusiasm and Passion Seduction Oriented Topics Expanded Seduction Oriented Topics . Do The Exercises.0 6.6. 94 96 96 97 97 98 99 99 99 99 101 101 102 104 109 111 115 115 115 116 116 119 119 119 119 119 119 121 Disk a n d Track N o . 4.7 4.6.5.3 4..1 4.3 5.2 7. .2 5..7.1 5.0 5.4 5..1 7.0 7. . EXAMPLES.6.6 4. and Follow The Course Be Willing and Prepared To Put Energy Into Congratulations! Well Done! EXAMPLES. .2 4.5 8. APPENDICES I II III Course "Cheat Sheet" Speaking and Language Tools "Cheat Sheet" The Complete Conversational Management Model 123 131 133 Page v .7.0 The Model With More Advanced Strategy and Tactics In Place.6. .7. .2 4.3 6.3 7.3 5. EXAMPLES v i e w ..2 6.4 4.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Table of Contents (continued) Page No.1 6.4 7.SOTXs Conversational Model With SOTXs The Complete Conversational Model PATTERNS Pattern O v e r Pattern Formula Canned Patterns Pattern Riffing In Real-Time REVIEW AND SUMMARY Review Summary Listen.

Listen to the audio where an example is presented. . or major points in the workbook.As shown to the right Towards the right margin of section titles and headings. and Assignments are all shown using this typeface (Arial. a "serif typeface). items are presented in a list-like fashion such as this: • Item 1 • Item 2 • Item 3 • Etc. Italicized Text . The relationship between these two can be best described by considering the workbook text to be (for the most part) an "outline" of what is presented in the audio.e. Exercises. a "sans-serif typeface). Page vii . Graphics are used in the workbook as well. Usually the graphic is shown on the page immediately following where that graphic is first mentioned in the text. i. there may be instances when the conventions are not used for the sake of emphasis.. Although there are paragraphs of explanatory text. Italics are also used to point the reader towards specific content of the audio CDs. It is also used for subject headings so that these stand out and apart from the normal text. CD Location References are shown using terms such as "D3-T5" in the text. and the italics are simply used as a way to show a different manner of emphasis. there is not an exact place in the book that correlates to the start of each and every track on the audio CDs. D3-T5 CD Track References . Since the work book is an "outline" and not a transcript. styles.At times. and their use is key to many students' understanding of the concepts presented. This shows information that could be considered part of an overall "outline" of what the audio presentation contains. these are in most cases presented as a way to augment the content of the audio presentation. Lists . Therefore most of the track references are shown at the start of major sections. There are certain conventions used in the formatting of the workbook.. A majority of the workbook is presented in an "outline" form. and conventions have been developed and are used throughout this transcript/workbook. and to make it easier to reference those items at a later time. graphic captions.Boldface Text is used to emphasize certain text or passages. If the graphic cannot fit there (due to page breaks) then the graphic is placed on the next available page.Italicized Text is used for emphasis in many cases where boldface text may by nearby. Text within graphics. The graphics in the latter sections are significant in that they are an essential part of the understanding and leaning. However these conventions are guidelines. graphic titles.A majority of the workbook content is shown in this typeface (Times New Roman.that is simply to show a list of related items. The audio is NOT an exact duplicate of the text shown in the workbook. Samples of the formatting and conventions used: Typefaces . or clarity. The written text is NOT a transcript. and the Formulas. Boldface Text . Not every track number is listed.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Formatting and Conventions The following formatting. This shows (for example) the Disk (3) and the Track number (5) that corresponds to that part of the workbook contents.

Assignments also call for action on the part of the reader. Assignments usually requier the reader to go out and interact with other person(s) in order to perform them correctly. Page Breaks . there are cases where text boxes may actually "break" across two pages. but that is a necessity due to the complexity of the book. This also may result in some page breaks being in places which are not optimal. -2. Exercises are a series of instructions that call upon the reader to do or perform certain actions. and the "A" indicates the number of the graphic within a section itself (i. it is required in order for the "flow" of the book content to remain consistent. For example. fact.e. Although this is not optimal.If a graphic has text that helps to further explain that graphic.1 . Exercises.Text boxes are used for very specific purposes in the workbook.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Each graphic has a number and a title of some type. and Assignments are shown inside boxes such as this. there are instances where the definitions may be clouded to some degree. Formula. A Formula is a way to present a concise explanation of some item.The workbook is laid out to minimize the amount of blank space where reasonably possible. The number is in the format of "XYZ-A" where "XYZ" denotes the number of the section where the graphic is placed. Although the difference between Exercises and Assignments is maintained through most of the workbook. Text Boxes . -3) to account for multiple graphics in one section of text. . an Exercise may require interaction with other people. Most exercises can be done alone. or maybe and Assignment can be done alone by the student. then that text is shown immediately below the graphic using an indented paragraph such as this. This is shown below. or technique. Similarly. Candidate Topics Figure XYZ-1: Graphic Title Sub-paragraph . Each Formula is presented in its own "text box" as shown here. This may require that a graphic be placed on the next page after where it is first mentioned (instead of being directly below where the graphic is first mentioned in the text). Page viii .

insight and teaching that I think is possible. To my coaching clients. I may miss a few sales because of such a delay. Thank you. / must apologize to some degree for the time it has taken to finish this product. Special thanks to my friends. .. Working with these clients was especially instrumental in formulating and perfecting the concepts and teaching methods used in this product. The main reason is that I do not wish to release any product until I believe that I am able to provide the level of quality.. To Dr. the creator of Speed Seduction . teachers. but I sincerely hope that the results will prove to have made the wait worthwhile. who was the business genius that brought Speed Seduction® to the masses through seminars and products. and this wait may have annoyed a few people. opening the door for many into the world of self improvement. JL. Ross's developments have lead not only to helping many men with this part of their lives. confidants. Yates Canipe. and those who have entrusted me to teach you and to guide you. and MD. who helped me by allowing me to help them. and have opened the door for me to find many ways of self-improvement and understanding. but have also shown many the way to a new way of living. and what is possible in their lives. and for the assistance they provided with this product. To those in the original SD Lair group. who have placed their trust in me and allowed me the experience of showing them new and wonderful possibilities for what their lives may have to offer. DM. most notably Hypnotica. colleagues. SM. those who have read what I have written. EVS. mentors. and to all of the Students out there who I have met at Speed Seduction® seminars. To all of you. and who has also contributed greatly to helping men change their minds about themselves. Dave Riker Page ix . associates. and students (we are each all of these and more) in the TAGR Group. SP. MC. and to help you in finding the Women or Woman of Your Dreams.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Acknowledgements The first and foremost acknowledgement goes out to Ross Jeffries himself. To the many experts out there who have augmented the SS teachings by showing me other aspects of the mind.

They don't know how to keep a woman's interest. women. and sharing experiences with them. in fact. and options. Such men. and decide to move forward. charming men. This is so sad. Page x . and in many cases the efforts of men to solve this problem on their own have been met by smallminded criticism and slander. Whether a man decides to use this information as way to embark upon a period of his life which involves casual romantic interludes. there are a lot of great men out there who would like to meet interesting women. she should decide to be with whom she wants to be with by having opportunities. information. whether this time has any sort of romantic or seductive component or not. are NOT in short supply. learn. spending time with them. or with that special woman of which they have always dreamed. And I am here to help correct it. should somehow not improve himself.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Forward One of the most wonderful things about life is the idea of connecting with others. for some reason seem to be in short supply. helps to provide these women with an even better choice. the idea of simply communicating with and sharing experiences with the other half of the human population. At least then he will be in a position of choice. are the ones that really DO look at this area of their lives. Good. having and sharing experiences with. intelligent. and introducing themselves. that I create products such as this. From that position. The women of the world will be better off in their own way. other people. I think that is not correct. that they will want to spend time with as well. who was simply deprived of an means to "learn about" how to meet and talk with women. and set forth upon a path to improve this area of his life. and showing themselves in the best and most honest light. Having many interesting men available. to make an informed choice. As if the interesting. so that they really may share wonderful experiences of ALL types with women. some of the most wonderful moments of life are brought about by people. They just have not been taught such things. He will be able to decide for himself which he feels is the best option for him. or "compromise". and for those women. A woman should never "settle". the best men. One of the biggest tragedies of life is that there are things. take action. teachings. And it's a shame for these women to be wanting for their company. So. and grow. (and more importantly a LACK of information in some cases) that can prevent such connections and moments from happening. And. Whether that be as friends or acquaintances. Many men through no fault of their own have grown up to be adults and have had little instruction or assistance in a very important area of their lives. or don't know how to present themselves in the best way. interesting. I think that many men. most women will be far better off and have much better chances with the kind of men. They are the ones that really don't know how to introduce themselves. It's for these men. or whether a man uses this information as a means to improve his chances of finding one special woman. good-natured and well-intentioned man. Sadly this is most apparent when it comes to men. There are many such men out there. there are a lot of wonderful women out there who would love to meet interesting men. or the kind of man. I know of many women who are always distraught that they seem to not be able to meet good men. as well. is up to him.

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along with spaces for written responses where necessary. you can change the way you speak as well. Language Skills What works? What makes the successful guys able to use these technologies? Partly it's the ability to actually "talk" in this manner. seeing what is needed. If you follow along and do the exercises. 1. Provide additional explanation of some points that are covered in the audio program. and get the full benefit of everything this course has to offer. but this will help you if you are not. Listen to it.0 1. You are not going to sound like this or talk like this all of the time! Just in the way that you shift and change how you speak now in different situations. Welcome to Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course. You will have this way of speaking as a PART of who you are and what you can do! Guys need to be trained. You are already on your way! This course works on many levels. The purpose of this workbook is to: • • • Provide an outline of the material covered in the audio program. So even this "intro" section is starting to work for you. Conversational Skills The ability to manage conversations is needed as well. and what works in the field. These techniques all need to sound and be "natural" to actually be effective. We will be teaching you the detailed language skills that will really help you. Present a series of exercises and assignments. and "reprogrammed" in a way. Instructions for each are provided. there is a need. Page 1 . pay attention. to use these language skills naturally as just a part of the way they speak. This workbook is meant to studied along with a series of audio lectures that are recorded on CDs.1 INTRODUCTION AND GETTING STARTED OVERVIEW Dl-Tl Welcome and Thanks. We will teach you ways to easily manage conversations so that they go in interesting directions. you will do so in the future and use these techniques as well. Some guys don't need this.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 1. This program is based upon experience with countless students. If you are her "type" you don't need this. some people do this naturally. then on some level.2 WHY IS THIS COURSE NEEDED? D1-T10 If you are here. and on you as well. consciously and subconsciously.

must react to a steady flow of new information without interruption. • Things may seem to "repeat".Seduction Oriented Topics Patterns and Riffing Examples Dl-Tl5 What Methods Are Used • Describe and explain the details of the techniques • Explicit examples of how the details work • Examples throughout and within the discussions • Examples section at the end. AND HOW Topics Speaking Pointers Language Tools and Details Conversational Management Conversational Fractionation Topics . Guys need to be able to just "do this" and "talk this way" in REAL-TIME. This is a term that will be used throughout this course.. that is important. Page 2 . so we need to approach this in many ways.3 Major • • • • • • • • WHAT WE WILL HANDLE. but it's really YOU talking! Guys are too focused on "how can I use this" when in a conversation. some of the ways that you speak now will be reprogrammed so that speaking in a new way will be natural. You need to integrate skills to the degree that they ARE a part of who you ARE. respond to input immediately . and be a part of it.. but if you are "thinking" too much. so let's define and explain it for you.... • Working on several "levels" of you mind at once • Models to arrive at an overall understanding • Left brain and right brain are both addressed • Conscious and subconscious minds are both given what they need for real understanding and retention. how it is learned.Enthusiasm and Passion Topics ." Guys need to stop the worrying about "Doing something wrong" It's only "wrong" if you are TRYING to do or be something you are not. Real Time "Occurring immediately . then you are not actually IN the conversation! You need to be engaged in a conversation. • Other teachings about language. Not inside your head "thinking" about "how can I use this?"! 1.. interacting. talking. responding. listening. In a way. but that's your left brain talking! We are reprogramming many years of your experience. some things will sound quite familiar. • Exercises to develop understanding and skills • Assignments for you to do in the field. many times! • In fact we have already started! Where Does This Material Come From • From SS Teachings. for a while at least. Sure. not a "trick".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course You have to be PROGRAMMED to do this so you can have a conversation. Other parts of the language tools you may have to "think" about. listen. and how people speak.

The Ways To Study And Use The Product • Listen to the CDs.4 INVESTING IN YOURSELF. do the assignments over and over! • Be patient. Many of the assignments will deal with talking to people. they aren't really putting themselves INTO it. the more you put into it. do whatever you need to do to listen to this course a LOT. Applying a structured methodology of step-by-step methods. effort. effort. • Having a good social life will help you. • Follow along in the workbook if you can • Do the exercises and assignments! • Listen over and over. the more you will get out of it. and who may "try" to listen to the course. there IS some overlap and duplication with other products and systems. By embarking upon this course. new. keep those copies to yourself. However. or not? There are various ways. see what works for you. • This may seem complicated but the point is to get you SO familiar with the tools that you become the guy who does this! Some Very Important Points • Find all of your current SS products and inventory them. and engagement into your effort to really learn and use these materials. If you need to make your own copies for use in multiple locations.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • From personal experiences and how I used the materials. Also maybe get a romance novel or two. • Get that "Mind-Momentum" going to help you change and improve. Be wary of those people who may want to "borrow" a copy. to give you a real roadmap to actually learn the material. • Get some other written material to work with for this course. do it! But please. do the exercises over and over. Other SS products will work well. 1. • Be prepared to have a place to practice for this course! You will need to be able to speak out loud to do many of the exercises. Changing that will take some time. and a few women's magazines as well. We are reprogramming years and years of you "speaking" in a certain manner. • Is there an "optimal way" to use the product. a concept that was brought up earlier. In addition. Page 3 . you are doing just that. So. as assigned or as required. If they just "try" it. • Listen to other products in conjunction with this product. and this journey. The Mind-Momentum Principle At Work • Get energy. that YOU just DO. However. From working with clients and seeing what worked and how they were able to change. and this is much easier if you have an active life where you can have many conversations. You will need them because you will have assignments that deal with these. and engagement. OR NOT D1-T24 Any real change requires you to make an investment in yourself using energy. making it a part of YOU. and being open to what benefits this program can bring. or revised? Yes. many of these people will be those negative types of people that will then dispute the benefits of this program! Why? Because THEY have not invested anything into it! Not just in terms of dollars. but in terms of THEM really being willing and ready to change. However. the emphasis here is training you to do it for yourself. Is this information. both audio and written materials. The best way to listen to this course is while also reviewing the workbook (especially in the conversational management sections). listening multiple times in any setting also has a lot of benefit.

You keep trying to "remember" things. trying to "remember" what to say. there is a "right" and "wrong" way to do it! But if you are just TALKING. its a memorized "thing". • • • • • • You will get some details. Immersion is the key. because it addresses that analytical part of your mind. but only indirectly.5 CAN WE CHANGE THE WAY YOU SPEAK? D1-T26 Is this really possible? This sounds difficult. you heard it in context. But that's not how you learned to talk! You learned to talk when you were a child . some structures. Don't let their lack of willingness to improve themselves. It makes guys nervous. at every moment! Some people want to try to memorize. there is no "right" way or "wrong" way.by hearing others around you speak! You were IMMERSED in language. you heard it a lot. about grammar. because you will hear it so much! But a LOT of what is being conveyed here is learning by EXAMPLE. some models. How People Initially Learn How To Speak • • • • Sure in middle school. hold you back.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course People must be engaged in the process to get its benefits. Most people want to approach this by learning bits and pieces • • That's good in a way. Imagine having to "think about" how to talk. paragraphs. its YOU being YOU! You cannot fail at being YOU! The approach in this course is different. Not as congruent. Those who are not. Also progressive exercises. and you started to form the ability to speak and communicate based upon that! Page 4 . You will end up "memorizing" thing to some degree. But it's tough to do that. you heard it. where you use the skills in the real world. • • • • • • • • This might be good as a learning TOOL. Plus it's not YOU talking. sentences. consequently. It Is Possible! .But This Is A Different Type Of Learning. kids are taught about language. etc. then its easier. Then it's about a "performance." So. Can we literally change the way you speak? • • • • • • • How you select words Create phrases Form sentences Pick topics Speak passionately. at will Engage in conversation Manage conversations Yes. And actual assignments. 1. It's less effective. will not benefit. where you learn skills piece by piece. but to then USE it in conversation is difficult. just being YOU.

where I am just DOING these things all during the program. Examples • • Explicit examples. Real-World Skills. We will have you become familiar with the range of ways of speaking and sounding. so that you will have more ability and more flexibility to do what is appropriate MANIPULATION AND ETHICS CONCERNS D1-T32 1. trade. Exercises and Assignments to Teach You the Skills • Skills Training like any sport. or craft. With THIS approach HERE. "it's not me" or "I am just using a trick or technique". based upon feelings that when using them. more a part of YOU. Various Training Methods • • We use a lot of repetitive training methods so that these techniques have a better chance of becoming "automatic". and who and what YOU are! Using these skills will be less of an "act". and be more of WHO YOU ARE. more natural. it's not about throwing something AT her. which we go over and over. Page 5 . • Break it down into small parts. we will change the way you talk so that it will be easier.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course This Course Uses Many Techniques To Train You To Have Workable. deep ethics issues and blocks many guy's success. how you communicate. This causes some real. like when I say "here is an example" Implicit examples.6 Many guys have been uncomfortable with using many of these skills.

Too many guys "try" to be cool but actually come off as COLD or even worse. that there is a "fire" beneath the surface. focusing on generating your voice from your nose. BORING. there are great products and examples of this elsewhere. Page 7 . Your tone of voice really conveys a lot about who you are. 2. That's the "allure". 2) Read some more of that material out loud. calm. This is good as long as it's not BORING. and says a lot about you. focusing on the back of your throat might make this easier to do). to be cool. "Cool" comes from being calm and sure of yourself. Why is this important? • Great voice tone conveys comfort. but because it's appropriate to the situation.2 Voice Tone and Tonality D2-T2 Listen to some examples of different tones of voice.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. and this time focus on speaking by generating the sound from within your mouth (or. and what people like in general. how they sound. If this is a challenge for you. Listen as the examples demonstrate: • Speaking through the nose • Speaking through the mouth • Speaking from the chest Exercises for Speaking Pointers Grab some reading material of some type. something you are interested in. That's what women like. a sense of being relaxed and calm • It also allows you to express some energy and excitement at different times. even some of the materials from other products.0 2.1 SPEAKING AND LANGUAGE SPEAKING POINTERS The "Cool" Factor D2-T1 D2-T1 Guys want to sound "cool". do this for several minutes. there ARE products that focus JUST on this area and you may want to invest in those. 1) Take some of that reading material. Cool does NOT mean to be boring and to put people to sleep while talking! The coolest people are the ones that are FUN to talk to and fun to be with! You don't have to be cold. how they make you feel. reserved. and read it aloud. and even goes a bit over-the-top to really help you to understand what is being discussed. The audio section demonstrates these options quite well. That "cool" feeling comes from being calm and speaking in a relaxed fashion. etc. not out of nervousness. Examples: One way to think of this is to consider "where" your voice is generated from in your body. Read several paragraphs. but giving the impression that there IS more. We will work on this here in this course.1. how interesting you are.1. how calm you are.1 2. but if you really want to work on this even more.

really make a note to speak lower. 1) Over the next few days when speaking to anyone. and whether or not you DID it! Day/Time Who you spoke to Situation (Where) Did you DO it? Page 8 . make note of how you felt (nervous. Focus on dropping your voice down from your nose/mouth. SOUND relaxed. 2) In the next few conversations you have with people. make a note to yourself as to how you are speaking. but this time really focus upon generating the sound from deep within your chest.in the real world! To get the most benefit from this course. Can you recall how you spoke? Did the way you sound in that situation sound like any of the examples you just did? See the similarity? Assignments for Speaking Pointers These are your first real assignments in the course. or chest). Make notes below as to when it happened. Assignments are where you are given a real task to go out and do . Also. and make them a part of who you are. Real-world experience will really help you to not just "know" the skills. relaxed-confident). comfortable. mouth. and recall some time in the recent past when you were kind of nervous or fearful.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 3) Now read some of the material. Day/Time Who you spoke to Speaking from? How you felt. Relax. where you were. and really focus on having that voice generated from your chest. See how relaxed it actually makes you feel and how you really need to BE relaxed to do this! 4) Take a moment. but to actually HAVE the skills. with whom. Make notes below for some of the conversations and see if you can see a correlation between these items. and where you are speaking from (your nose. it's important that you do what you can to REALLY make a point of doing these assignments.

make a note to yourself as to how you are speaking in terms of your pacing and pausing. (Maybe even be aware of where your voice is coming from. as we discussed in the past section. Too fast? Too slow? Hurried-nervous? Hurried-excited? Slow-confused? Page 9 . deliberate. and this time focus on reading in a quick and hurried fashion.1. 1) Take some of that reading material and read it aloud. but this time read it slowly. comfortable manner. Being able to vary your pacing and pausing can help a lot to convey a sense of intrigue and create interest. Focus on reading in a very hurried fashion as if you are very nervous. and shows that the speaker is relaxed. Something you are interested in. in a manner that makes you sound as if you are very confused. but go ahead and convey excitement in your voice! 3) Now read some of the material.) Assignments for Pacing and Pausing 1) Over the next few days when speaking to anyone. 2) Read some more of that material out loud. Speaking too quickly can show tension. or almost a sense of panic. Read several paragraphs and do this for several minutes. There are many variations: Listen as these are demonstrated • Hurried showing nervousness • Hurried showing excitement • Slow as in hesitant and/or confused • Slow in a way that is deliberate and relaxed Exercises for Pacing and Pausing Grab some reading material of some type. and then far far too slow. 4) Now read some of the material. even some of the materials from other products. powerful. Why is • • • this important? Correct pacing and speed of delivery conveys comfort. relaxed. but this time read it in a slow. or don't quite understand the content.3 Pacing and Pausing D2-T15 Listen to the examples where some various pacing is demonstrated. and charismatic presence. first very very fast. 2.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Strategic Formula for Speaking Pointers Use your best tone of voice (speaking from your chest) to convey a relaxed.

energy. • If someone else is being interesting. and excitement when appropriate. who. to convey a sense of drama and intrigue in what you are saying in a way that "captivates" people and makes them want to listen to you. Page 10 .4 Energy and Enthusiasm D2-T26 Listen to some examples of how this can sound . start to focus on changing your pacing and pausing.. then you can show more enthusiasm. When someone else is being boring. YOU can show an appropriate amount of energy and enthusiasm. to convey a more relaxed and deliberate manner. 2.. Day/Time Who you spoke to What type of pacing and pausing? 2) For the next few days. you get stuck in fewer boring. By doing this. If they do or say something that is interesting to YOU. Make note of when. and if you DID it! Day/Time Who you spoke to Situation (Where) Did you DO it? Strategic Formula for Pacing and Pausing Use variations in pace.1. It's good to have the ability and range to display passion.. or bored. where. enthusiasm. YOU act boring. • This also allows YOU to convey how interesting someone ELSE is as well.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Slow-relaxed? You don't have to change it yet. dead-end conversations. Who cares? Why does this matter? • Most guys are just TOO BORING. and well-placed pauses. just make a note of this after-the-fact and write that down below.

which bores you. something you are interested in. women.. go ahead. 2) For the next few conversations you have with people where you ARE interested in the subject. go ahead and SHOW your enthusiasm! Be energetic in how you speak. do that for 10-15 minutes. monotone voice. whatever it is. bland. 2) Watch and listen to some speakers who use a lot of energy and enthusiasm when they are talking! Really pay attention to how they speak. Read it OUT LOUD in a boring. maybe sports. Read it OUT LOUD in an exciting. 4) Get some written material that really DOES interest you. and BE BORING. and that are excited about. dry topic. your car. bland voice with no energy or enthusiasm. Strategic Formula for Energy and Enthusiasm Using energy and enthusiasm when speaking so that people can become energized and enthusiastic about listening to and being with you. their tone. their tone. 6) Take that earlier written material about the subject that you are NOT interested in and that really bores you. make sure it is something that YOU are passionate about. Again. their pace. and read THAT aloud in a way that DOES show energy and enthusiasm! Make that sound as convincing as #4 above. and how much (or little) energy is conveyed. Really pay attention to how they speak. their pace. and read that aloud in a boring. do that for 10-15 minutes. and how much (or little) energy is conveyed.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course The audio section demonstrates more details about sounding boring/bored and also sounding as if you have energy and enthusiasm. other products. that a good speaker can really grab your attention with their energy and enthusiasm.. BE BORING and show no enthusiasm at all. Do this for a good 10-15 minutes. Think as if YOU are convincing a group of people how great this is! Maybe your Dream Job of a lifetime is dependant upon YOU speaking well and showing how passionate YOU are about this! Do that for a good 10-15 minutes. even some of the materials from . whenever someone is talking about something boring. how you listen. and how your respond. etc. 3) Get some written material that you have NO interest in. Assignments for Energy and Enthusiasm 1) Over the next few days. Note how even if the material is something you do NOT care about. Exercises for Energy and Enthusiasm Grab some reading material of some type. energetic voice. When you respond or talk back. Page 11 . Watch on either TV. Again. your work. animated. taped lectures... 1) Watch and listen to some speakers talk about a boring. technical presentations. monotone. 5) Take that written material that really does interest you.

boring. It's good if YOU are also interested in it.2. These words modify or in some way describe. they are not things that can be measured or specified. and the subject you were talking about. add more descriptive terms to it. Cars. not the logical side of a person.. use more Adjectives and Adverbs. movies. • Their use must be automatic. Adjectives will describe THINGS (nouns). Who you spoke to Subject 5) Now. Day. 4) Think of three recent conversations you had when you talked to someone about something that you REALLY liked. 2) Read it. Maybe say those adjectives or adverbs and put more energy into those words and emphasize them in some manner. we are working to appeal to the emotions. If you really like this subject. Remember. talk about it in a descriptive way. out loud. you should be able to do this for at least 3-5 minutes each. Note whom you were talking to.1 Adjectives and Adverbs D2-T40 Listen to an example where many of these are used in descriptive language. (Maybe highlight them in some manner. sports. Examples • Car reviews • Movie Reviews • This course! Exercises for Adjectives and Adverbs 1) Find some written material that deals with something where people are speaking passionately about some subject. 2. but this time. Do this for each of the conversations listed above. Re-live it. while Adverbs will describe ACTIONS (verbs).. and sensations. and more ways of talking about processes. but must be done over and over.) 3) Read that text OUT LOUD. Most Adjectives and Adverbs are qualitative. or they are too factual and leftbrained. Most men could be helped by having more descriptive speech. nouns and verbs. Page 12 . and make note of the adjectives and adverbs in it. feelings. Most guys are too dry in their speech. because to have to "think about" using them is almost impossible! • You need to be TRAINED TO USE THEM automatically. They sound cold.2 LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS D2-T39 These are the Bit And Pieces • These are the sort of things that can be powerful. talk about each thing or subject again. and uninteresting.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. and stress the adjectives and adverbs in it. whatever.

Day Who you spoke to Subject 2) Write down a few adjectives and adverbs that you could have used in each discussion (refer to a. Start with just a few of them. Strategic Formula for Adjectives and Adverbs Use more adjectives and adverbs in your speech to appeal to and excite the emotional side of the listener. 4) The next several times any of those subjects come up in conversation. Write down what the subject was. so that their feelings. Trance • • • • • Word List Instantaneously Suddenly Find Yourself Convince Yourself Suppose Page 13 .2 Trance Words D3-T1 Listen to an example where many of these are used. and processes awaken. and then maybe add some more as time goes on. Trance words are words that "call upon" the subconscious mind in order for them to be processed and understood. that you are passionate about. that you really enjoy. b.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Assignments for Adjectives and Adverbs 1) Make note of the next 3 times you are having a conversation which deals with something that YOU are really into. make sure to use some of those adjectives and adverbs in your descriptions. "paint a picture" with your words. Trance words help to "open the person up" so that their subconscious. and with whom you spoke. or objective manner. their emotional side. and c above).2. 2. is listening and more engaged in the conversation. emotions. They are not "analyzed" in a conscious. factual. Be descriptive. Act like you are really having the conversation again. 3) Practice out loud how you would have said those things in each of the three conversations.

Now speak OUT LOUD about that subject. almost boring or mundane thing. and make it more interesting? Well. 4) Get your SS audio materials and listen for Trance Words (maybe even THIS course here). like advertisements. 3) Get out your written SS materials and look for Trance Words (maybe even use THIS course here). sportscasters. Maybe refer to some of your other SS products and see how many more you can find. 7) Pick a subject that bores you. and see how many of those Trance Words you can use. even something concrete like your job. but also see if you can add some to the list. Write them down below. Trance Word List 2) Watch or listen to some material where people are speaking passionately about something. You can copy the ones you saw listed earlier. 5) Take the written text from an SS product (maybe from #3 above) and read it out loud. placing an emphasis on the Trance Words when you see them. or school. talk about it. Highlight or circle the Trance Words in a few sections. Looking at the list of Trance Words above. 6) Pick two subjects in which you are interested. Look at the Trance Word List above. something that you think is dull. With that list of Trance Words (above) in hand. work. see and hear if you can pick out when the speaker is using Trance Words. See how many you can notice. talk OUT LOUD about that subject and see how many times you can use those Trance Words! Subject a. that's the point! Exercises for Trance Words 1) Make a full list of Trance Words. Doesn't that make it sound kind of "mysterious"? Maybe more exciting? Maybe you can take some normal.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • Imagine Mysterious (-ly) Wonder (-ous) (-ously) Think of any subject. Subject b. or religious speakers. and see if you can pick these out. Boring Subject Page 14 . political speakers. Maybe play one tape or CD. Think for a moment about using those trance words to describe that subject. See how many you can find and notice how they are used in context.

• • • • • Have you ever .. Just do whatever you can to start using some of them at first.. Page 15 .. because it may be a bit too forward? Well. that's what Weasel Phrases are for! Weasel Phrase List (see if you can add to the list by listening to the audio). If you were to ..2. Use them when talking to different people. What's it like when . and using more and more as time goes on.. doesn't that make it-sound more "exciting".. and more fascinating? Assignments for Trance Words 1) Pick two subjects in which you are interested. 2) Integrate a few more of these words into your every-day description of those subjects. Strategic Formula for Trance Words Using Trance Words will help to get the subconscious mind of the listener to be more of a part of your conversation. maybe even a bit odd? Maybe even a different topic or change of subject? Or maybe something that you were worried about bringing up. These also work as transitional phrases. If I were to . Practice working with those subjects out loud some more and see if you can get even more comfortable using Trance Words when talking about those subjects. As you .. to get from one subject to another. The next time you are speaking with anyone about those subjects (in the real world guys!).. Subject b. Subject a. more interesting. make a point to use at least one of the Trance Words in the conversation. How do you talk about something without REALLY talking about it? How do you bring something up that may be a bit different. 2.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Even though that may seem a bit strange.3 Weasel Phrases D3-T14 Listen to an example where many of these are used...

. See if you can pick these out. getting into it. don't use that one!) Now talk about one of these 4-5 aspects for 1-2 sentences. etc. sensing it. Use different Phrases. 4) Pick a subject in which you are interested. (Weasel Phrases tend to provide ways to connect sentences and paragraphs that talk about how something is felt and experienced. Take a moment and try to emphasize them in a way. and read some of this material out loud. Just read the SS material out loud. Try it again. and then use one of the Weasel Phrases and the bring up another "aspect". after another.) Pick 4-5 different aspects of this "experience" that you will talk about. 3) Take the written SS materials you had earlier. we want you to talk about how it FEELS. etc. In a moment. saying one slowly or quickly. 5) Did that sound weird? Strange? Ok . that it makes more sense. Pick 3 of them that seem the most natural to you.. doing it. Maybe pausing for a moment before one. Do this until you use all 4-5 of the attributes that you listed. Subject Page 16 . make note of the weasel phrases. 2) Get your SS audio materials and listen for some Weasel Phrases. While doing it. then use another Weasel Phrase. see if you can use some or all of your favorite weasel phrases when talking about it. the subject might be "going to a ball game" (pick your own. This is necessary to have the kind of words and subjects that lend themselves to Weasel Phrases.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Exercises for Weasel Phrases 1) Get some of your written SS materials and look for some Weasel Phrases in the text. Talk about THAT one for a few sentences. and see if you can string things together so that they sound better. It will get easier. Assignments for Weasel Phrases 1) Look at the list of Weasel Phrases that you wrote earlier. but selecting different Phrases to link the aspects together. and do so with an awareness on some level that you are saying and using weasel phrases when they are in the text. that seem as if they fit best into your way of speaking about subjects that you may like. The next several times that you talk about that subject with anyone. Maybe play one tape or CD. 2) Note the subject that you used earlier for doing some exercises with Weasel Phrases (exercise 4 above). For example. the experience of it.

Two key aspects of the use of Embedded Commands are often overlooked.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Select another subject that really interests you. or experience while they are thinking about that subject. Write down things that would make someone interested. feel. • Repetition . lets say you were selling something to someone. a place you have traveled. and incorporate Weasel Phrases into the next several discussions you have about that subject as well. These are small snippets of words and phrases which. Again not "you like that color". your job. 3) Take the written SS materials. and to "soften" the way in which something is said.It's very important that the command be brought up in the context of a conversation that is interesting. • Context . See if you can pick out embedded commands while listening. maybe a car. Think of general statements. that you want them to experience.It's not just about using one. issue a "command" or statement that instructs someone do something. your car. intrigued. maybe pausing for a moment before one. its about multiple usage (bombardment)! Exercises for Embedded Commands 1) Get our your written SS materials (written) and look for embedded commands in a few pages of the text. make note of the embedded commands. or "you want this" (car).. or more quickly. Page 17 . "get excited". Maybe play one tape or CD. 2) Get your SS audio materials and listen for these. and read some of this material out loud. but just general things (feelings or states). feelings. think of it like this. 2. Make a point to "lean on it" a bit. Like "feel excited".just general things that would cause a person to be interested in something. Subject Strategic Formula for Weasel Phrases Use Weasel Phrases to keep the conversation going. Pick something that excites you! Maybe the subject is sports.4 Embedded Commands D3-T25 Listen to an example where many of these are used.2. Take a moment and try to emphasize them in some way.. or feel a certain way. excited by something. saying one slowly. once. "get into it". and do so with an awareness. and where the person's emotions or feelings are somehow active (This "context" issue is discussed later in the product in great detail in Conversational Management sections. "this is what you have imagined having for yourself. on some level. instead "you like this" (car). after another. To make it easy. that you are saying and using embedded commands at the time. things you would like a listener to think about. etc. These are not to be sexual or suggestive. 4) Pick a topic that YOU are very interested in. Write down a list of embedded commands. "see how fascinated" . allowing you to say more (and maybe more provocative things) about a subject.). when separated from the context. While doing it. Just say this stuff out loud. etc.

but something where being influential may help. make some effort to use some of these commands in the context of a real discussion. Maybe you work in sales. 4) The next several times that subject comes up in your life. or maybe it has to deal with your job. Assignments for Embedded Commands 1) Look at the list of Commands that you wrote and practiced that deal with a subject in which you are interested (exercise 4 above). The next several times that you talk about that subject with anyone. that would assist you in being more influential. but now focus more on "leaning" on the embedded commands a bit. out loud. Subject Embedded Commands 3) Practice the use of those commands. to create a compelling will on the part of the listener follow you and listen to you. 6) Do the same thing again.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 5) Start talking about that topic out loud. Write down a list of at least 5 commands that work well in that subject. and make it sound natural. in the context of talking about that subject. See how natural you can make them sound. pausing. or school. Page 18 . see just how many of the embedded commands in that list that YOU can say! First. and with that list that YOU wrote in hand. Maybe it's not a passion or real interest. Strategic Formula for Embedded Commands Use embedded commands repeatedly and in the proper context. Maybe slowing down slightly. start using a few of these commands when speaking. work on just saying them and finding a way to bring them up. Start to place some emphasis on the command itself. 2) Select another subject that is a part of your life. changing your voice. just enough to put the emphasis on the command.

and inexact. recall. which is an ambiguous way of referencing what she is thinking about. non-specific. on some level. • However. See if you can pick out Linking Phrases while listening.) Page 19 . The most common linking phrase/tool that guys think about is the phrase "now with me". when you say "this feeling". as long as there is good rapport). 2) Get your SS audio materials and listen for these. and feel emotions. and make this "link" even more effective. see if you can add more phrases to the list below. and talking to you. she has to feel it on some level (and she will. and read some of this material aloud.5 Linking D3-T42 Linking is a way to take the feelings. etc. which is ambiguous (non-exact). you become more associated with those feelings. Take a moment and try to emphasize the linking in some way. emotions. then on some level that is creating this "link". However. "this interest". it's easier than you think! Just talking about a subject and getting her to be a part of the discussion. Maybe play one tape or CD. For example. you are talking "about" a feeling or sensation. "in myself. Linking Phrases . change in voice tone. the linking tools and techniques will add to this. you speak of "this feeling". What is this based upon? • When talking. then to the deeper levels of her mind. If she is experiencing these feelings in your presence. and getting her to experience. she has to actually feel it to some extent. Are you talking about the "feeling" she had at some time in the past? Are you talking about the feeling she is having right now? • Because you are using terms like "this". and then making an ambiguous reference to that feeling using your words.2. You can also make reference to "in me". also "this" and "these" as in "this feeling" of "these feelings". • In order for her to understand the feeling being discussed.While listening to the audio. while looking at you. Just to "process" what is being discussed. will "link" them to you. using some of the techniques that have been discussed in this course (pausing. 3) Take the written SS materials. • • • • • • • Now with me In me In myself with this these this belief these feelings Exercises for Linking 1) Get our your written SS materials (written) and look for examples of Linking in the text. ALL of those possible definitions apply! Then.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. make note of where linking is taking place. you are being ambiguous. if you are talking about a great feeling of excitement that a woman has had or is having. While doing so. In some ways. and experiences that are being discussed and associate or "link" them to you. etc.

This will sound easier for you as we go on. pause. and see if you can "add" text to each to link them to you in some way. A quick way of doing this is to simply add "this feeling". see just how many of the Embedded Commands and Linkage Phrases that you can use in your dialog.2. That's ok. this will come to you much more easily.4). Page 20 . etc. Maybe slow down slightly. where you listed "feel excited". Start talking about that topic out loud. Embedded Command Linkage Phrase 5) Pick a topic that YOU are interested in as we did before (it can be the same one you used in Exercise #4 in section 2. Doing linking in an exercise like this is difficult and hard to make it sound "natural". it's much better if picked up along-the-way. with me" after one of more of the commands in your list. Write down the list of commands and an associated linkage phrase for each below.) For example. (Again. Another example would be to take the phrase "Get excited" and turn that into "get excited by THESE things". As you hear more and more examples of this throughout the course.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4) Take the list of embedded commands that you created in an earlier exercise (Exercise #4 in section 2.2.4). you could say "feel excited by this" or "feel excited now" (you can also link things by putting in a reference to NOW). This may seem strange and sound a bit "off". but now focus more on "leaning" a bit on the Linkage Phrases. link them to you so that YOU become something and someone that they feel good about. just enough to put emphasis on the Linkage Phrase. In some manner. 6) Now do the same thing again. First. "this person or thing". work on just saying them and finding a way to bring them up. Plus the next section will make this much easier! Strategic Formula for Linking After getting someone to experience good feelings and emotions. You can even add the ever-popular "now. the linking is ambiguous and doesn't reference you directly. and using the list above. or change your voice. Assignments for Linking No separate assignment for this. "these feelings".

These. Those) D4-T1 Listen to an example where many of these are used. Whereas "that person" refers to someone "away" some "other" person who is not in the immediate area. and one is not. This is a new and very effective way to do linking that is easy to learn and master. (In some cases. or not there at the time. these refer to plural items. Consider four words in the English language: • This • That • These • Those These are forms of pronouns. seductive feelings to you may be great but. but do so in a general manner. that person • This direction.Non-Possessive (seems to reference something "else" or something "away") Consider these and those. those sensations So.6 Easy-Linking (This. exciting. and "that" is not. So.Possessive (sort of "includes" something) • That . those people • These directions. "this person" tends to sound like the person that is there. • This person. with "these" being the possessive form.Possessive • Those . so you are not using a name or specific reference. but that will be quite obvious when you try to do that). in general. So. • These people. For example.Non-Possessive For example. those feelings • These sensations. there are times when they cannot be switched.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. This and that tend to refer to singular items. that feeling • This sensation. for that multiple-instance bombardment that we spoke of before! The idea of linking wild. and included. with you. That. Given that one type is possessive. and it can be done a LOT. This means they are ambiguous! Consider this and that. they reference a "thing". these and those are plural • These . use the possessive form when saying or talking about ANYTHING POSITIVE and use the non-possessive form when saying anything negative! Page 21 . those directions • These feelings. that sensation They differ though in that "this" seems possessive. In this case. that direction • This feeling.2. one "thing". a GREAT strategy is to link anything and everything positive to you (and link negative things away from yourself. this & that are singular • This . who cares? Well these are almost interchangeable! You can switch this/that in sentences as you wish.

Those are not. These. That. Those people are not. Write down (below) ten attributes. Use "That" and "Those" when referring to anything negative. write a small sentence for each. you have discussed a subject (and written a lot of text about it) that is important to you. 2) Say the lines below. That. out loud. or singular/plural. That is not. Exercises for Easy-Linking 1) Say the lines below. These people are good. This is good. using the correct versions of That. This person is good. for a good ten minutes. out loud. That person is not. Small sentence that includes that attribute. for a good ten minutes. or "things about" that subject. Those Page 22 . For each of these attributes or things. These are good.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • This That These Those Singular possessive Singular non-possessive Plural possessive Plural non-possessive Anything Anything Anything Anything Positive Negative Positive Negative You can learn to do this (to choose which of these words to use) in real-time through training! Tactical Formula for Easy-Linking Use "This" and "These" when referring to anything positive. and those depending on whether the item is positive or negative. Subject: Attributes or "things about" that subject. and the correct form of This. ' 3) Earlier in the workbook. These.

5) Pick another subject.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4) Talk out loud about that subject for a good 5-10 minutes. Great speakers use movement to their advantage. These sections help to train you in these types of techniques. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. Anchoring Anchoring is associating a feeling or emotional state to a sensory experience. list ten attributes or things about that subject. D4-T13 Page 23 . and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. and then write a small sentence for each.3 MORE TOOLS D4-T12 Now we are getting into a different area. These. That. Those 6) Talk out loud about the subject mentioned above for a good 5-10 minutes. Small sentence that includes that attribute. and Those. and the correct form of This. These. and their movement becomes a part of their communication. beyond the small bits and pieces of language. That. and once again. Subject: Attributes or "things about" that subject. 2. using the appropriate form of This.

point up. so these techniques discussed here will help. and that are very very easy to do. etc). and some gestures. to help make their point.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Many different types of anchoring can be done and we are only going to cover some very basic tools. and that you end up talking about with people quite often. Read some of that text (from an earlier exercise) out loud.1 Pointing and Gestures D4-T14 Good speakers use their hands. Watch how they move. Move! We will start by generating SOME movement. How often are they in your pockets? How often do they just lie by your side and never move? Make note of this after-the-fact. have energy. How to • • • do this: Get your hands out of your pockets. We will break down many of the component parts of this into skills that we will teach you bit by bit. Use your hands to accentuate certain points. and then we can work on deliberate movement such as • Pointing towards and away from things • Towards yourself and away from yourself Exercises for Pointing and Gestures 1) Find a good speaker on TV. However we will focus on things that can create a LOT of effectiveness. and way from your sides. so that the use of these becomes automatic. Most guys are too boring and too reserved when talking. towards. Then later on see if you can start to become aware of what your hands are doing WHILE you are in the conversation. 2) Get one of the text lists from an earlier exercise (weasel phrases. make note of where your hands are when speaking. 2) List 3 subjects that you really enjoy. They may be a bit over-the-top (speaking to an audience is different than speaking one-on-one) but just watch them for a while. after the conversation has ended. and to do multiple times. Assignments for Pointing and Gestures 1) For the next few days. Subjects Page 24 . 2. etc. talking about a subject that YOU are interested in.3. Don't flail about wildly. and away from yourself. etc. Pick something YOU are interested in. Get your hands OUT of your pockets and AWAY from your body! Act excited. down. and hopefully the conversations are interesting. passionate. political speaker. or even a preacher. maybe a motivational speaker. BE excited! Use your hands and arms for emphasis. embedded commands. and that you are passionate about.

Those 6) Talk out loud about the subject mentioned above for a good 5-10 minutes. D4-T13 Page 23 . and the correct form of This. using the appropriate form of This. Subject: Attributes or "things about" that subject. beyond the small bits and pieces of language. list ten attributes or things about that subject. Anchoring Anchoring is associating a feeling or emotional state to a sensory experience. and Those. and their movement becomes a part of their communication. 2. That. These.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4) Talk out loud about that subject for a good 5-10 minutes. Great speakers use movement to their advantage. That.3 MORE TOOLS D4-T12 Now we are getting into a different area. and then write a small sentence for each. Small sentence that includes that attribute. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. 5) Pick another subject. These sections help to train you in these types of techniques. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. and once again. These.

and the repetition works for you! • Can do in various contexts. Do your best to re-enact that discussion (say what you said. recall a recent time when you had such a discussion. or • You can place your hand on your chest or abdomen in a subtle manner (to link things to you) . 2. Read that out loud. towards. ANYTHING.) 2) Grab some of your written SS materials. make a note to go ahead and move. Bad (gesture towards. gesture. • Or hold your hand away from yourself (to send things "away") How to use it • Good to do in the context of being a person that already MOVES when talking! • Make this subtle. and MOVE! Do this out loud. or at least be able to move. no need to WILDLY gesture! • You can do this many many times. point or gesture towards yourself. away. and animate to some extent the next time you talk about them. but this time use your hands. very easily. point or gesture away. Exercises for Linking Gestures 1) Stand up. Tactical Formula for Linking Gestures Whenever you say something negative.2 Linking Gestures (Towards And Away) D4-T22 This is a fast and easy way to link positive states to you. Page 25 . Do something. As you get more comfortable with this. make a point to get your hands OUT of your pockets. and to send negative things "away" from yourself. and MOVE. This technique allows you to do this many many times.. and others. 3) With these three subjects in mind.. many people move when talking This technique is most powerful when used at a time when emotions and/or imagination are engaged in the conversation.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course For each of these subjects. just start to MOVE. and every time something positive is being talked about. etc. and send Negative things away • You can point towards or away from yourself. gesture.3. and AWAY from your sides and MOVE when talking about these subjects. motion. arms.). away. and accentuate what you are saying in order to be more compelling as a speaker and to get even more attention from your listener or audience. point towards yourself. and when anything negative is mentioned. Say the following out loud while gesturing in the correct direction: Good. Bring Positive things toward yourself. point away. Whenever you say something positive. Strategic Formula for Pointing and Gestures Move. Good. etc. Bad.

These. That. Exercises for Easy Linking Expanded 1) Stand up.. motion away or place your hands/arms away.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Remember the text we used in an earlier example here in the workbook? Read that out loud. recall a recent time when you had such a discussion. but this time when you are speaking of anything good or positive. For each of these subjects. or at least sit where you can move. Say "this". Those" correctly Combine these and use them at the same time! When you say This or These. Use "This. Start subtle.. and hopefully the conversations are interesting. these can be the same as the last set of assignments). etc. etc. and MOVE. Subjects Do your best to re-enact that discussion. (yes. say what you said. but you don't have to do it every time! That will seem strange! Tactical Formula for Easy Linking Expanded Positive statement. point away. Do the following out loud: Page 26 . Conversely. Linking Gestures and Easy-Linking together: • • • Use the pointing/gestures on Positive and Negative things (point towards and away). Say "these". and that you end up talking about with people quite often. point towards yourself and when anything negative is mentioned. When you say These or Those.3. Assignments for Linking Gestures 1) List 3 subjects that you really enjoy. make a note to go ahead and use these Linking Gestures to some extent the next time you talk about them.3 Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This. These. Pick something that YOU are interested in. it will become easier and easier. have energy. Point to you Negative Say "those". Those . points towards yourself. when anything negative is mentioned. start with a few.) D4-T30 Now we bring together Linking Gestures and Easy Linking. Say "that". That. gesture towards yourself or place your hand(s) on yourself. 2. Point to you Negative statement. Point away. Point away Positive statement. 2) With these three subjects in mind. point away. This is veryeasy to do over and over for that repetitive effect. Do this out loud. and every time something positive is being talked about. passionate.

4 Easy Anchoring . and Those. On Positive D4-T35 Let's look at anchoring in light of the 80/20 rule (where 80% of the results come from 20% of the effort). and Those if you can. and away when negative. Can we apply this to anchoring? Yes! • We need a way to do some basic anchoring that is very simple. Practice it enough and in connection with earlier exercises. These. and able to be done many many times. Point away and say "those" Repeat! This WILL help to train you! 2) Remember the text we used in an earlier example? Speak that text out loud. Page 27 . an expression. That. touch them • they smile. trying to add in more instances of This. Strategic Formula for Easy Linking Expanded Combine the use of Linking Gestures (towards yourself when positive. a realization. and say "that". Also. but actually. Use the correct versions of This.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Point to yourself. If you are head-on directly in front of a person. touch them! This "Easy Anchoring" works in any context: • they laugh. etc. But to get even more effectiveness when anything positive happens. the more effective it tends to be. it will become automatic. while pointing towards or away from yourself in the correct manner. 2. The more that "emotions" are being accessed. touch them • they seem to go into a pleasant state.3. Those in the correct ways) to associate even more positive feelings. a laugh. and thoughts to you but in a general sense. it's good to be close enough (within arms-length) so that the "touch" is easy to do. specific states.. Do this in a way that maybe makes it seem like you are doing it for emphasis.Point or Touch. you are anchoring them in a subtle way. it's very useful to Anchor anything and everything positive to you! In some ways. or when the person you are talking to goes into a Positive state. Point back to yourself and say "these". states.. and say "this". This is more easily done if you are standing at the side or at an angle. That. and emotions to yourself. That. touch them This is best done in a "moment" with some emotion. These.) with Easy Linking (using This. These. Point away. It may be good to anchor feelings. we are doing that already by pointing "towards" on positive things and "away" on negative things using Linking. it's more difficult.

interest. you just touch his or her upper arm or upper back. but a bit more "deliberate". 2) Spend some time looking for moments (positive ones) where a touch would be appropriate. directly to you. make a point to hold it just slightly longer than usual. you grab their upper arm as well. maybe pat on the back. etc. What do you do? You shake their hand. Assignments for Easy Anchoring 1) The next several times you shake someone's hand.. Person '" Situation. such as. • When joking with someone. maybe someone who you have heard about). This is the same type of thing. a smile. also make a point to make and maintain eye contact as well. A laugh A moment of recognition or realization When someone starts talking quietly. Tactical Formula for Easy Anchoring When the person you are talking with displays a positive feeling of some type. and note to yourself the correlation between how long the touch lasted and the level of rapport. and the situation or topic being discussed. or Topic being discussed 2) Recall those 5 times.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course You probably do this already in certain situations. Page 28 . See if you can recall how it was. without really thinking about it. • Think about when you meet and are introduced to someone. vividly. but yet have some degree of rapport already (maybe this is a friend-of-a-friend. but in many cases. Also note the degree of eye contact. Exercises for Easy Anchoring 1) Think about the last 5 times where you touched someone in this type of way.) Maybe a handshake Maybe a pat on the back Maybe a funny gesture Make a note of the person.. • Think about when you greet a friend. laugh. intrigue. (Not romantically. Write those down. just a touch. touch them to help anchor it to you..

maybe you don't touch them.. to be cool o Voice Tone And Tonality • Nose. think "I could have touched them THEN". that a touch is appropriate. Those Page 29 . That. Fast • • • Pause o Energy And Enthusiasm • Passionate or Boring? LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS o Adjectives And Adverbs • Be descriptive o Trance Words • Instantaneously. language. o Embedded Commands • Can you do this now. see if you can have at least 5 instances of knowing.. o Easy-Linking • This. when you have the chance.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course At first. in-the-moment. These. and you have already learned a LOT of the detailed speaking. • SPEAKING POINTERS o The "Cool" Factor • You don't have to be cold.. but as you notice these moments. 3) Now that you have started to notice these "moments" where a touch would be appropriate. Mouth.. Suddenly. These. anchoring and associating yourself to positive and intriguing feelings in other people helps to make them feel positive towards and intrigued by you. Those MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures • Move! Point! o Linking Gestures • Towards And Away o Easy Linking Expanded • Pointing With This. Then. and movement skills that will be used later in the course. we want you to actually DO IT! So.4 REVIEW D4-T46 We are well on our way. Chest o Pacing And Pausing • Slow. o Linking " with me. Find Yourself o Weasel Phrases • If I were to . 2. You are noticing this after-the-fact. That.. DO IT! Strategic Formula for Easy Anchoring In general.

Page 30 . we will move onwards to work on Language Structures.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o Easy Anchoring • Point Or Touch On Positive And Negative With these parts behind you. and later to Conversational Management techniques.

It can mean this. Changing Topics and Subjects . you are lost. Now we are moving "up" a level.Some people try to display higher knowledge or value by "arguing". telling someone they are wrong. You might disagree.. but you must do so powerfully and do NOT look for "acceptance". These were tactical details. however you can break rapport. move them . For example.A way to change directions • In someone's way of thinking • In the conversation To make a change in direction in some manner. Are they useful and possible? • • • Trying to knock or jar someone into a different direction or way of thinking can be risky. move with them conversationally for a while. incorrect.. all of the time.0 LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES D5-T1 We have been working on bits and pieces of language.. but agreeing is just a special case.Can you just knock someone into agreeing with you? Can you be that bold? Yes. it's best to meet or join someone in some way.. the sort of things that you need to get used to doing automatically. o That's one way to see it o I understand your point Page 31 • • . but you can break rapport in the process. 3. These techniques give you ways to use and arrive at languaging in a manner that will make you more persuasive. show understanding (does not have to be agreement necessarily) and then . You MAY be able to do that. you might make comments (some that agree and some that may not) but the key is that you are "Taking part in" the conversation and topics at hand. etc.. or "bigger chucks" as we say. Pace and Lead allows us to "join" someone. Agree or not agree? . To "Pace" means to just BE a part of the conversation. or to try to "impress" them. Don't argue! . into higher-level stuff. then and give them another way of looking at it.Can you just abruptly jerk a conversation towards where you want it to go? Maybe. but you need a lot of power to do it and you risk breaking rapport.1 PACE AND LEAD D5-T2 Pace and Lead .. Changing the Viewpoint or Frame if Mind .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3. acknowledge what the other person is saying. You almost NEVER impress people that way! To pace/lead well. you might bring up a new way of looking at it.Some people misunderstand and think that to "Pace" means to "agree". The minute you do anything like that to get someone else's "approval". Fast and abrupt changes . say things such as. be able to just "do".. and then take them in some direction. Challenges • Can't you just bluntly offer a different view? Yes. but will hopefully at some point.. and more influential in general. towards where you want things to go. things that you should not even have to really "think about".

... and/or interest.. I get it. • Well.. showing that you are a part of it. • Ok .... Tactical Formula for Pacing and Leading Show agreement.. it makes YOU look bad. if you attempt to do that. The point here is not to memorize these "lines". • Alright.. Ok. . Impressing someone with your knowledge. 3. So. Then start to direct things in a different way . what you are saying is . but to really get a sense of being IN the conversation. Maybe • • • • • • continue showing an understanding or interest So what you mean is .) • Yes. understanding.... have you thought about this .. That hardly ever works.. and some of then want to go out and "impress" people with their newfound knowledge... allowing you to move things more in your favor later on... I see • That's interesting • I get it • Hmmmmm . To TRY to IMPRESS is bad.1 General Pace and Lead Techniques D5-T9 Here are some examples of ways to do these steps with example wording for each. Arguing! Many smart guys study these techniques and technologies. I also think you can see . Then start to move or shift things in a different way. the implication is that you NEED someone's approval. Let me make sure I understand .. In addition. a way that you want. Page 32 .. So if I understand this ..1.BE IMPRESSIVE! People really don't like to be proven dumb or wrong! Most people are offended or "put off by such attempts... I read/saw/heard the same thing . as if you "need" their approval.... and then moving things forward in some manner.it's like this... Instead .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o o That's interesting I see what you are saying. Strategic Formula for Pacing and Leading Pacing and Leading allows you "be" in the conversation for a while and gain rapport and information. Let them know you are listening and understand (using wording such as shown below. or. acknowledgement.

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I hear you, and what else is interesting is .... •-. That's a good way of looking at it, something else that is important is ....

The Formula for Pacing and Leading is ... acknowledge and then start to shift things ... Maybe you want to shift things more and/or bring up another issue or viewpoint entirely (or maybe you actually disagree) • That's one way of looking at it, however I think ... • Yes, I understand, I have also heard ... • Ok, that makes sense, another way of thinking about it is .. • Alright, but on the other hand... Some general methods you can use to introduce the "leading" aspect, you can talk about... • What you know, believe, understand • What a friend or colleague has said • What you heard • What you read • etc. 3.1.2 Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects D5-T12

Lets say you find some people talking about a topic. Do you walk up, interrupt, and start an entirely new topic? No. (Well, you can, but that takes a lot of power and has a lot of risk.) A better way is to enter the conversation, talk about it (Pace), and then move the conversation into areas that you want it to go (Lead). Examples: • You are in a conversation and the topic is cars. People are talking about prices, loans, etc. You acknowledge what is being said, contribute to that conversation (pace), and then start to bring in the idea of how a car handles, how it feels, and how exciting it is to drive certain cars (lead). • People are discussing clothes, various brands, types, etc. You talk about that with them (pace) for a while, and then start to bring up the idea of how clothes make you feel, how you feel differently when wearing different things ... etc (lead)

Tactical Formula for Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects Show agreement, understanding, acknowledgement, and/or interest in the topic or subject. Then start to move or shift topic or subject in a different way, a way that you want.

Exercises for Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects 1) Think about some recent conversations you have had with people about different topics, hopefully these conversations and/or this topic is something that occurs a lot for you (based on interests you have, people you know, etc). Recall a specific "moment" in each conversation. Note what was being discussed, and what point was being talked about. Make a note of each of them. Also note, where did that actual conversation go next?

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Conversation with whom?

Where did it go next?

2) Pace and Lead Gently Out loud, practice as if you were talking in each of the discussions above, and paced the conversation and topic, and then lead it in some direction. In this exercise, simply show agreement, understanding, and/or interest, and then lead in the same general direction. Maybe bring up a new example, new point, new issue, but just sort of "take over" the conversation. 3) Pace and Lead in a New Direction Next, for each of those instances, provide an example where you show agreement, understanding, and/or interest, but now start to "move" things in a new direction. Maybe the conversation that you had started at this one "point" and went in a specific direction ... Now, for this exercise, practice taking it in a new and different direction. Maybe introduce a different aspect of the topic or subject, something not mentioned before, or not normally talked about. The key is to first show agreement, understanding, and/or interest and THEN do this "shift", and you LEAD things in a different way.

Assignments for Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects 1) Make note of three conversations that you tend to have with people on a regular basis. Person or People Subjects we discuss

2) The next times these conversations happen, make a point to "Show agreement, understanding, and/or interest" (Pace). Then "Then start to move things" (Lead) in your own way, Do this by introducing a different aspect of that topic, or a related topic/subject. Don't make this shift or change really abrupt or different, just make a point to sort of "direct" where things move, even if that direction is close to where it was going anyway. Just make sure YOU are the one that moves it. Note the text and examples given earlier as a way to do that. 3) Once you can do the above, now make a point to have your "Lead" incorporate a real change of some type.

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Normally, even without your input, the conversation tends to go in a certain way. The earlier exercise had you just keep thing moving in that same direction. Now you are to "take" the conversation somewhere else towards a different or related topic. Just introduce a new aspect of the topic, a different thing, a different direction, so that you are really "leading" where things go. Remember the language that you were shown earlier. Use languaging like... You know what ELSE is interesting You know what * l * have found (seen, felt) Another way of doing this would be .. You know what ELSE can happen ... is ...

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You can change the way people look at things, their mindset, and their "frame of mind". For example, imagine you are having a discussion and people are talking in a certain "frame of mind" (not directly, it's just their way of seeing things). The point here is to acknowledge that frame, and then introduce another way of seeing things, another "frame", or another "mindset". What is • • • • a "frame"? In general it's ... A way someone "sees" something. What it "means" to them. The way they "feel" about it. The significance or meaning that it has.

Looking at the formula for Pace and Lead, you apply that by first acknowledging the current Frame, and then start to lead by bringing up another way of thinking about it and/or looking at it. You bring a new "frame" into the discussion. (This is a way of shifting that way people LOOK at things, the significance that it has, or their mindset regarding certain topics or behaviours). In the earlier example of Pacing and Leading of Topics and Subjects, we were talking just about a thing, a topic, or subject. Now we are talking about a feeling, or the way things are "seen" or what they "mean". For example, people may be talking about: • Taking risks • Feeling good or bad • Having a good day or a bad day • Making choices • What an event "meant" to them • How someone else actions affected them • How a decision affected them. There is a "frame" (of mind) behind each of these discussions and with proper technique, that frame and mindset may be changed. Look back at the "Methods" section earlier for some details and examples of how to introduce this pacing and leading (there are some lists of languaging examples provided). Examples: • You enter a conversation where people are talking about risks, Risks at work, risks in finances, risks in life. You Pace by discussing this for a while. The frame or mindset here is that risks are bad, dangerous,

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. what point was being talked about. then lead in the same general direction. Exercises for Pace and Lead . Then start to move or shift the frame by introducing another way of looking at things. etc. some risks make you feel alive. some risks have good rewards. In this exercise simply Show agreement. Then you start to lead by bringing up the idea that some risks are fun and interesting. etc). The frame here is that she has her "standards" and that this is good for her. etc. and/or interest in the mindset or frame of mind . Again. and you are working to change the way she screens out guys. Do this OUT LOUD. then start to move into talking about how men do this as well..Mindset or Frame of Mind 1) Think about some recent conversations you have had with people about different topics. Maybe bring up a similar way of looking at it.) Tactical Formula for Pace and Lead . or may be perfect but with the wrong hair color (lead). the assumption? What is the frame of mind behind the viewpoints that they had? Write down the topic. and how anyone of quality . where the point of the discussion in that moment was: The way they "see" something.. or provide a relevant example.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course have consequences... Note what was being discussed. Page 36 . the people. some men will just "write off a woman that is a certain size. Towards a way that you want. Just sort of "take over" the conversation. weight. (You are shifting her frame so that she may start to look at different things in men. and paced it. What it "means" to them. understanding. and what "kind" of man she likes (height. the viewpoint. and the "frame" that was in use. now its being framed as exciting). acknowledgement. Recall a specific "moment" in the conversation. who is like 5 lbs overweight. The way they "feel" about it. looks for more. the frame of mind or mindset is the focus here. With whom? Topic? Mindset / Frame of Mind 2) Pace and Lead Gently Practice as if you were talking in that discussion.. a new meaning. What was the "frame".Mindset or Frame of Mind Show agreement. (Risk was framed as dangerous. Make a note of each of them. You agree on some level (pace) and chat about that.. and then lead it in some direction. The frame you are bring up is how superficial it is to judge based on numbers and details... understanding. • Another conversation has a woman talking about what she looks for in men. and/or interest in the Mindset or Frame of mind. she talks about what their professions are.

A good way to do it is to show agreement and understanding. and/or interest. some way. and their motivations etc. Do this OUT LOUD for each example. and makes assumptions (has a certain frame) about people or groups. and/or interest in the Mindset or Frame of Mind but now start to "move" things in a new direction. and they are the one not taking risks someone is prejudiced or judges other people. understanding. make a point to "Show agreement. The key is to first Show agreement. you are just acknowledging the Mindset or Frame in this example.Mindset or Frame of Mind 1) Make note of three conversations that you tend to have with people on a regular basis. what it "means" that is not really in agreement with what was said. even if that direction is close to where it was going anyway. but really his mindset is the problem someone talks about wanting something different. but just make a point to sort of "direct" where things move. and maybe point out a similar example from your own life.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 3) Pace and Lead in a New Direction Next. to find a positive way of looking at the situation. and you LEAD things in a different way. and/or interest" (Pace). and the frame associated with each. Basically. Maybe acknowledge and then bring up an opposing view. Maybe bring up a way of looking at things that is totally different. or something someone said. Do this by introducing a "way of looking at it" that is similar to the one that is already being used. maybe even limiting beliefs or beliefs that really hold them back. provide an example where you Show agreement. Maybe find a way. etc someone looks at a political issue. understanding. understanding. for each of those instances. Then "start to move things" (Lead) in your own way. With whom? Subject/Topic? Mindset / Frame of Mind 2) Pace and Lead Gently The next times these conversations happen. Don't make this really abrupt or different. Maybe bring up a different viewpoint or way of looking at it. Page 37 . and THEN do this "shift". Examples: someone complains a lot. and HE is the one with the limitation someone complains about work and the managers. and says they are cheap. Write down these subjects. a frame of reference. Assignments for Pace and Lead . These should be of a type where THE "frame" or mindset is something of which you are aware. Think about discussions where YOU can see that these people involved are working on a certain set of assumptions. or something you heard or read.

. or assumed by the people involved.. another way of looking at it is . point towards a specific Mindset or Frame that is of YOUR choosing. focus on the Mindset or Frame. now make a point to have your "Lead" incorporate a real change of some type.. o While you see .. You know. The general way to approach this is: • Start by pacing something that is obvious about their current reality .1.... but it can work well and adds to the power of the languaging. o As you feel. A friend of mine used to feel the same way and they. it could be .. using words such as) o As you are . o etc. and then use that to lead someone somewhere. Some ways to do that is by saying things such as. o While you are . and/or express what is on their mind..... o As you realize . o While you think . and new way of looking at things. and allow the conversation to continue with the same frame of mind in place. "Pace" their mindset. there was a certain "frame" being discussed..4 Pace and Lead . Just introduce a new frame.. these techniques are used a LOT. or used by very powerful speakers. Well.. Meaning.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Pace and Lead In a New Direction Once you can do the above.. o While you are .. Now you are to "take" the conversation somewhere else and bring up a new mindset or frame of mind.. This is a small-chunk detail and technique. Again. The earlier exercise had you just sort of "run" with that... This may be different from the way the subject or belief WAS framed or thought of... (for example... A "safe" way to do this would be to find a positive way to look at the situation.. but just find a positive way to look at what is being discussed. o You are probably wondering Page 38 • • . a new mindset... o As you see .. What is done here is that you Pace based on something that is obvious (obvious in their "current reality").. it might not be that bad. Continue to Pace by maybe stating an obvious point about their current reality o seeing XYZ o feeling XYZ o thinking about XYZ o etc.. o After you have .. 3. • At least it's not like XYZ. a new aspect of "what it means".. even without your input.Current Reality D5-T29 If you look at the languaging used in things like hypnosis..

... The more you hear this. Point them to where you want to lead them . Make note of how many times I have paced your current reality... o you will start to notice o you may realize o you may start to think o you may see how . 3.. the more it will "sink in".."." • You will hear a LOT of this in this course (which is part of your re-programming!) Tactical Formula for Pace and Lead ........ Warning .. o state what you want them to see/feel/hear/realize Examples: • As you are listening to this program . Page 39 .Current Reality 1) Listen to this section again. you will begin to notice this .. what you are hearing.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • o As you are thinking about o I know you are concerned about o The issue that may be on your mind is o The question you may have is Begin to lead . "as you are watching this presentation .2 GIVE THEM A REASON D5-T32 Give someone a reason for someone to listen . If you spend too much time saying things similar to "I know what you are thinking".. it starts to become annoying to the listener.) • Then you will "Y" Where "Y" is something you want them to experience (Lead) Exercises for Pace and Lead . • You are talking to someone at work . etc. o another thing you will see/feel/notice is . what you are thinking.. o notice what its like as . o you will then .. what you are reading.." • Physical demos use this a lot.. and "As that feeling builds..... Rewind or go back a few tracks.. thoughts.. "As you feel this.Current Reality As (while ) you) are "X" (Pace) Where "X" is something that is true in their current reality (perceptions.. and do... Studies have been done with persuasive language that show that giving a reason will make people more apt to do things for you and agree with you.Pacing Reality too much can seem arrogant.. Really pay attention and see how many times I have done pacing and leading in this manner. then you are probably wondering .

Write these down. 3) Go through the same list again. Tactical Formula for Give Them a Reason Request X because (of) Y Exercises for Give Them a Reason 1) Make note of the last five times you asked someone for something. It could be asking for coffee. lets move over there". anything. Assignments for Give Them A Reason 1) Make note of five routine situations that you have in your life where you are asking for something. or asked someone to do something. because I am really in a hurry" then. just providing a reason.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Don't worry about "losing your power" or being too "nice". You are not being apologetic or anything. requesting something. This technique does not provide a 100% guarantee. the addition of this small "reason" will make people much more agreeable and apt to let you do what you would like. they may go with you. then it may be difficult to get people to agree. "Is it ok if I make copies next". if you say "Is it ok if I make copies next. come up with another reason. or at least people that are not close friends of yours. If you say. "hey. if you say "Let's move over there because it's more quiet" you will be amazed at how much more agreeable the person may be. Person What did you ask for? 2) Practice out loud how you might "ask" for that favor or make that request again. Write these down. However. However. remarkably. it just helps to make people more agreeable (and there are statistics to support that as well). asking "can I pay by credit card". • You are talking to someone and you would like to pull her aside and make the conversation more private. you don't need to be concerned about these things. but put in a reason of some type. Examples: • You walk up to a copier at work and there are three people in line. If you just say. The examples will be better if these are people you do not know. and out loud. Page 40 .

1 General Listing D6-T4 Strategic Formula for General Listing General Listing is a way to quickly provide several reasons. See if you can make it automatic. People) What do you ask for? 2) Practice out loud some "reasons" that you could give in these situations. 3) The next times these situations come up in your day-to-day life. point.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Situation (Place. or giving an example. "List" several things or examples which support your point.3. the items that you will "list" need to be brief points. • When you give a reason. and quite well. or make a statement. Power in Numbers . which support your point.Repetition in a way that serves you. Page 41 . provide several. don't just provide one reason. go ahead and mention the "reason".3 LISTING D6-T1 Listen to an example where many of these are used. or excuse. • This is somewhat similar to a "pace and lead". so that your one "opportunity" in a conversation to make "a" point. • For the sake of a conversation. and flow easily. 3. Tactical Formula for General Listing When making a point. just as an example) • Hypnotists use this technique a LOT. it's difficult to debate them all or object to them all (not to be combative. • When you give several reasons at once. statement. actually ends up being several points. This technique has been developed based on observing how many good and influential people speak: • Successful sales people • Charismatic speakers • Good debaters • Component of hypnotic languaging « Very important. or make a point. in order to provide more power to what you are saying. you get someone to agree and then lead them 3. • Training for sales people use this quite a bit.

etc. talk about it for a sentence or two. what are three ways that can go? Good? Bad? Indifferent? Exciting? Boring? Pick three and write these down What are three "ways" that the experience of "meeting people" can go? 2) Now practice out loud by saying something like "Isn't it interesting how you can meet people and it happens in different ways? I mean sometimes . and somewhat new (3).2.. Then. Now. etc. maybe trying to convince someone of something (NOT an argument-just that you were making a point and would like to be more persuasive).. briefly. write down who it was with.. doing some type of work. Exercises for General Listing 1) Lets say you are talking to someone about "Meeting people"..X and then other times . Z". Write them down. Something you are interested in. listing is like pacing and leading. Z (selecting your items listed above). then the second. maybe watching sports. Who you were talking to Page 42 .. so that you don't just say "X. a... the third item may tend to "lead" someone in some way. etc. Do that out loud. where each lasts several minutes. sometimes . 3) Pick an example of an activity that you do often. what point you were trying to make. Y. Select a particular aspect of that activity. true. as in saying three items .. 3. you may begin to agree. and start to think about in a positive way (3).. make them brief.. Mention the first item.. Y." and mention those three different ways. really recall listing to good speakers (2). Maybe your first two items in a list are obvious. Listing can be short. Now try again by expounding on each of the items. 5) Think of three recent conversations you have had with people where you were making a point.. playing a game.. For each conversation. Activity that you like or do often List a particular part of aspect of that activity What are three "ways" that can go? " 4) Now describe "What its like to do your activity . strange (2).) • I know this may sound a bit different (1). and/or what it's like to meet people.each of which lasts just a few seconds. and maybe 3 different things that support your "point". but as you listen to it (1). and the types of things to which no one would object. Each of the items in a list can also be much longer. as a list. In many ways.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Example (see the listed items shown as 1. partying. but instead you talk ' about each for a few moments. Pick three ways that can go . and still.

how you could bring up these three points in a list-like manner. Maybe you want your list to contain many options. by placing YOUR preferred item at the end. and an elephant) what tends to "stick" in your mind? (The Elephant!) The last item! By hanging an item at the end of a list. Who you were talking to Point you were trying to make Three items that support your "point" c. Maybe you want to list several options or examples.At The End D6-T15 If several items are mentioned in a list (for example a car. You weren't trying to emphasize one point vs. 3. However.3. and tends to make THAT point the most important one. you were just listing several things in a list. the one that comes to mind the easiest is the one that YOU want someone to agree with. Therefore. Normally. the other. it sticks in the listener's head more. Placing that particular item at the end of a list can have that effect. we were talking about three points in a list that all were similar. suggestion. Do that for each of the three examples above. you put more emphasis on it. it's easy to think of that Page 43 . and just providing a series of options. In the earlier Listing examples. etc) By doing that. However. Now practice.2 Listing . it makes it seem as if you are being fair. Here is a way to think about it. a table. Who you were talking to Point you were trying to make Three items that support your "point" 6) Recall a specific moment in each conversation.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Point you were trying to make Three items that support your "point" b. or different types of alternatives (to a thought. activity. out loud. at times you want to use listing as a way to highlight or focus upon one item.

you know? See how I did that? See how the item which I really wanted them to think about. examples. but you spend some time with that person (2) and the more that person talks. This course. they sort of fell into several groups o There are some people that.. they are nice. did you notice the use of the words this/that/these/those? Also where do you think I might have been pointing and gesturing during those examples? Job interview o Have you talked to many candidates? Yes. or this person presents himself really well (b).... Page 44 . I know. It's interesting though.. and then finish with YOUR preferred item. this is one of those subtle but very powerful things that many persuasive speakers do a LOT. those people doesn't mean much either way . 3)..that is the one (3). When I have interviewed a lot of people.2. I put another list within THAT description (a. o May be frustrating to you. or maybe you are really seeing the power of all of this! I think you can tell which option I was going for! Meeting People.. Again let's bring up this example of "meeting people". It's just a matter of getting to this person. was said that at the end? By the way. o And other times . and the third one "eventually find this person" was the one I wanted to really "stick". or they just have the right answers (c). it could be boring.. Examples • • Fun activity. See? Not only did I have a list of three (1. you eventually find this person that on some level. and there is just something about this person. you put more emphasis on it and it tends to make that one "stick" more. In general. etc . right away.. you know . but even when describing that person.A t The End Listing at The End is a way to provide several options (which may differ) but to emphasize the option that YOU want. c)! • • • • • • Strategic Formula for Listing .. o Other times you get that sort of a "friend" vibe with that person. maybe it's boring. Now those are different ways of seeing it. b. the more convinced you are that that person is NOT the one! o Hopefully though. how they can almost become a blur.. Again. or it could really be fun. you know that those people are NOT qualified (1) o Others you maybe have thought were ok at first. I mean.. I have had to do that myself at times. or instances FIRST. you just really click and you feel this connection . lets say you are talking about doing some activity. Sometimes there is nothing special. It may be because you like the resume (a). one after another. but by placing "it could be fun" last.. Say that one LAST and bring up two other options. o It could suck. They are not all the same... o You know what it's like when you meet someone . you meet someone.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course one. you just know .. interesting.

At times however. Issue or Option What do you want? 5) Now. where you are trying to convince people to do something. Maybe add a small "list" within that last item (because it's inexpensive. but mention the one which YOU want to put the most emphasis on. buy some thing. talk about the issue. etc. and we always have fun . 4) What is an example from your life (recently).3. and seem too direct. and what the result is that YOU want. and therefore you do NOT want it to stick out too much. If you say Page 45 . and they are haggling or objecting a bit. or giving an example. Examples: • Sales . agree to some point. Maybe you want to suggest something very direct or quite controversial and you do NOT want to give it too much prominence. List three possible things that you could do and write these down. it can be TOO obvious. 3) Do that again. out loud. However.). statement.At The End When making a point. go somewhere. Maybe add an embedded command of some type.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Tactical Formula for Listing . out loud. make sure that the one that YOU want to do.. LAST. In that case.3 Listing . and bring up at least two other "options" BEFORE you mention the one option that you want. and you are all figuring out how you are going to spend your time. etc. placing something at the end can add to its power and make it stand out. it makes sense to "bury" that item in the middle of a list. but place some more emphasis on that last item. "List" several things briefly in order. close.? Write down what the "issue" is. 3. You may want to "test" to see how the person will react to it. Three things that you and your friends could do (activity) 2) Practice. Maybe pause when saying it. Go ahead and suggest that item. Here is a way to think about it.At The End 1) Lets say you are going to spend a day or evening with some friends.Burying Items D6-T24 When using a List. mentioning all of these in a list. You want to mention or suggest something that is quite strong. Exercises for Listing .Let say you arc trying to get someone to buy something. maybe controversial.. is the item you mention LAST. but bury it inside a list.

. that you will just seize this chance and get it while you can! That sounds almost TOO forceful.Burying Items is a way to mention an outrageous or very direct option for "testing" purposes. you don't just say "we can slip the deadline". and maybe there is a possibility of you even spending that night together. Strategic Formula for Listing . So maybe you say something like o "Well. one of them is to just slip the deadline. This is also a good way of testing someone's response.. See? Putting that one. "let's slip the deadline" might be a problem in some circles! So when people are talking about options to help the project. There are several options but. • Instead of thinking about it in terms of a list. honestly. maybe you aren't ready to buy this now. it seems too obvious. or maybe I'll call you tomorrow". Page 46 . we can talk in a few days. it seems a bit easier for you to say it. However. maybe it IS too direct. It also allows you a chance to watch the persons reaction to it. The idea of " seize this chance and get it while you can" is something rather challenging to say (as the seller) that directly. more "appropriate" items to lighten it up. maybe you seize this chance and get it while you can .. But if you switch the order. But of she smiles and seems interested.. or maybe you want it so much. and you are talking about you two getting together sometime. Instead.. seems to "lighten" it up somehow.Burying Items Listing . maybe you aren't ready to buy this now. that may be a GOOD sign. its your choice. lets say that you want to say something or suggest something that is very direct. o "well. bury it inside a list. Sometimes you have that "direct" item in mind and you surround it with other. you can get away with an outrageous or very direct option by burying that option in the middle of a List. and when you say it at the end like that. or possibly you just still want to negotiate . lets say you are working on a project and things are behind schedule. or to maybe see if you can get someone to agree to it! Tactical Formula for Listing .Burying Items When giving examples or options to someone. or possibly you still want to negotiate.. we can leave together right now. just suggesting.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • "Well. that you are almost "worried" about how the listener may react. it's your choice..Lets say you have met a women at a party.. If she gasps and has a look of shock and horror when you make that suggestion. For example. Very direct. more powerful and direct statement in the middle." Doesn't that sound better? Meeting at a Party . Lets say your idea is so controversial and over-the-top.

see if it seems easier to say. suggesting a List of options but burying that outrageous option in a list. Page 47 . Listing can be powerful. and go ahead and practice how you COULD have said it. go ahead and do so.Burying Items 1) As you go out and live your life. 2) In the near future. Look at the items that were listed and see if one of them maybe seemed very "strong" or "direct". Try saying it with the strongest item at the end. Situation Outrageous or Direct Suggestion 4) For each of those examples (above) go ahead and practice out loud. 3) Think of some recent situations where you would have liked to mention a quite outrageous or direct suggestion. See if you can make it sound natural. Assignments for Listing . but as with any technique. For three different situations that have come up in your life recently.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Exercises for Listing . 2) Practice out loud how you would say that list in the situation you used in the previous exercise. in the middle and see if it is a bit easier to imagine saying that list.Burying Items 1) Go back to the previous exercises where you said some "lists" out loud. it can stand out too much and be annoying. but do it by burying it in a list. as any opportunities come up where you would like to make an outrageous or quite direct suggestion. but see if you CAN say it. Go ahead and change the order of the list that you used earlier. Bury the strongest item. Try it out loud. If there is not one. Situation Outrageous or Direct Suggestion you could have made. by burying it in a list. if you do it TOO much or too blatantly. write down an outrageous or very direct suggestion that you would have liked to make (for each). and then trying saying that item in the middle. you may even want to say it in a joking way. make a point (afterward) to think about that outrageous option. go ahead and create a new item that is very outrageous or direct. or the most direct item. After these situations occur. you will probably encounter some situations where you might want to suggest something quite outrageous or direct.

Using pauses. If you must suggest several different examples or options. the more Y Page 48 . can help to alter how the options (and you) are perceived. In a way. really. while incorporating the language tools we have already discussed. then the more Y. the more Z". The general structure here is: • • The more X o where X is something that is hopefully quite obvious and true to the listener . and see how. D6-T38 You have heard language like "The more X. In a way. etc". consider this: • We talked about listing . etc... then. but have ONE that YOU really want to emphasize or get people to agree to. so this all works in your favor! Just be interesting enough to keep their attention... emphasis... we are pacing and leading. this is just a way of bringing together many of the things we have learned.3.5 Listing Review D6-T37 If you want to get your point across.3. remember to use emphasis and change your voice tone with the items.. o See how we are listing several items? • We discuss Pace and Lead . then the more Y. or experience. and I just strung those together ... in a List.How do you think of them quickly? How do you make them sound natural? Don't worry! It is ok to have pauses! Pauses make things sound more natural and gives you time to come up with options! We talked about the use of pauses as a way to convey some drama and to make things interesting. 3. So. Lets use this as a chance to really step back for a moment and look at this structure. and using lists.4 MORE AND MORE." "More and More" is just a way to use these and bring them together. then present it buried within a List of options. thinking about languaging such as "The more X. then mention several of your points or examples that support what YOU want.. Or. and Emphasis D6-T36 You may be worried about coming up with three things in a list . place that item at the END of the List for more power. changing tone. you are walking someone through a series of steps or thoughts..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3. 3. Maybe you want to stress one item more or less. and they WILL stay through the pauses! As you are saying various items in a list. as in .. I gave an example (in the audio) of several things I wanted someone to do.4 Listing. to "pull" the listener in. o See how that is being used here? • We have discuss language details . Pauses.. think. and the more Y. and provide many examples to support it. Maybe one or more of the items actually has an embedded command in it. if it's a VERY outrageous option. o See how they are incorporated... "the more YOU FEEL this .

The more Y. The small words and verb tenses (past. • Sell TV sets. towards what YOU want. and something obvious.. etc). • • • • As you (or while you) X . As an alternative. etc Examples • Convincing friends to go do something that you want to do. present.. like a series of successive steps (things you do.. experiences. or realize Y. Tactical Formula for More and More The more X. agreeable. Instead of seeing this as a new type of language..... If you have something that you want to lead someone through. the More Y. or a new "pattern". etc.. That's a general version of it.. 3.) specific. you notice this. Strategic Formula for More and More If you want to lead someone through a series of steps (actions. Page 49 ... The More Z.. or "as you notice X"... with "as X is happening". as you feel this. then the more Z starts to happen. You are "leading" someone. THEN make the next item (more. then. and as Y happens o or as you sense Y. the More Z. As you X. o walk someone through though process . from a general item towards something that YOU want. more and more. and the more Y happens . or thoughts) use "More and More" as a way to string them together (and increase your chances of that happening. then just list them but use "more" as a way to go from one to the next. the More Y.. see it as just a way of using many of the things we have already covered! More and More tends to be best thought of as a "List". You can even start by "pacing" a bit more.. the more you can notice Y . future) can be altered to make it fit well. etc How to use it. step 1..) item. then.) or thoughts (things you experience or think about. The best way to do this is to start off with the first item as quite general. . and even more so with the next (more. the more Z. o You can start off with something obvious as a statement to kind of pace them.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course • • o Where Y is something that is a logical extension of what the listener knows and they see this as something that makes sense .. which is more of an example of using Pace and Lead of their current reality. and then use More and More to lead them forward ... 2.. you can use "as you" or "while you" as a way to bridge between sections as well. or as Y is happening .. the more Y.

The first should be obvious. practice saying those in series. etc. or as alternatives. while you. "as you" or "while you". The next is another step in the series. Think about a series of steps. that would "walk" the other people through the process of agreeing with you. as you. The first should be obvious. etc. but more and more get closer to what YOU want. of what you want to have happen. 4) Think of another series from your life. something. what to do..) Write down three steps. (Agree where to go to dinner. who should do what. Do the series several times. a series of thoughts or actions that. Think of three "steps". Exercises for More and More 1) Consider the idea of convincing some friends of going to a movie. Think of all of the things you can do tonight Realize that going to a movie would be a good idea Going to see the latest XYZ movie (use whatever movie you wish) See how that is a series of steps? Of thoughts? Like leading someone down a path? Now out loud. more leading. work around it and make it sound natural. o Walk her through the process. Write these down. What you were trying to convince a friend to do Three steps. Think of three "steps". more in your direction. they would end up doing what you wanted. using "More". maybe an activity. that start off in general. You may start with "As you" or "while you" for the first one. 5) Out loud... and string them together using "more". to get towards doing what you want. the second. practice and see if you can talk about these one by one. to get towards doing what you want.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • Talking to a woman . a trip... as if in a conversation. practice saying those three steps.) Page 50 . something simple. what to buy. or have them experience. and bridging between them as we discussed earlier (More. a plan. Don't just say "more". what project to work on. a movie. something you convince people to do (or wish you could). etc.. Do that several times. 3) Now out loud. more and more. etc . What do you want to convince someone to do Three steps. or something you want to lead people to do somehow. something with which you are familiar. or series of thoughts or actions. 2) Think of the last time you were trying to convince a friend to do something. if the person followed them.

or else have the person you are speaking with mention it. this is a means to keep speaking.) • Too many guys focus on standard lines such as "So what do you like about X".another option • Black . • You are just comparing and contrasting things. • It also a great way to get information about the person with which you are speaking. So. How to use it. • • Take a subject and either mention another aspect of that subject. This method provides a way to keep the conversation going. look for opportunities to use that in your life. the more you will understand how they fit together.. There are various means of doing this. and even change the specifics of that sequence.. Practice that series more! Get very familiar with it. But get to the point where you can flow easily through the 3 in a series. Maybe just try 2 of the 3 steps once or twice.. 2) With that "More and More" sequence practiced. etc. or various aspects of a subject. or several different subjects. Maybe add or change some of the reasoning. we had you think of something from your life.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Assignments for More and More 1) In the exercises. you are able to easily go through such a "sequence". This Compare and Contrast method here gives you a way to talk about and around the subjects at hand. the more things like "knowing what to say" and "what pattern to use" will become easier and easier for you! Notice how we are not doing these examples necessarily with women? Wonder why? 3. A Tactic for Talking • Too many guys let a good conversational subject finish far too quickly.White • Right . • This works especially well if the subject of the discussion is one that "works" for our purposes (fun. • How two things are similar • How two things are different • Good . and piece them together and have it sound natural. seductive.5 COMPARE AND CONTRAST D6-T54 Listen to an example where many of these are used. it's just a good way to think about discussing a subject. The more that happens.Left Page 51 . to continue. you have two (or more) aspects of a topic. • It's not magical in a persuasive sense. becoming more and more convinced. you can talk about. exciting. and you discuss these two aspects using Compare and Contrast. and move a conversation. where you could have a series of "states" lead someone through the process of doing what you want.Bad • One option .. You will see that the more you get these bits and pieces. Just make sure that with that subject.

Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • One aspect . or individual sports vs.. Page 52 . • Notice what is liked and not liked • Notice any reactions. deciding to focus on making a good living now. One attribute . idea. or point in a discussion. Select another subject. then discuss these by comparing and contrasting. Tactical Formula for Compare And Contrast Take any subject. This all provides a good way to allow the discussion to continue for a while. and incorporate the language tools. easy-difficult. that are good for you. states.about her) and she mentions various things about that subject. feelings. or its power. vs. the offense or the defense. experience. etc. you can anchor and link positive things to you! o While talking about things she does not like. o Maybe you start to ask her about it (have a discussion with her . and contrast these things. better-worse. o While talking about what she does like. team sports. what they like.another attribute As you are talking. Use the other language tools during the discussion. you can use all of the other tools we have discussed. and to let the person think about. associate them with things other than you. keep the discussion focused on a topic that serves your purposes. two facets of that subject. you can talk about one car. and feel those states and emotions for a while as well. and start to compare and contrast the two. and talk about its attributes as well. or point in a discussion .. link away. • Link anything good to you. • Maybe what is more important to a sports team. you can take note of how the person is responding. o You select two items. etc. How do these differ How are they the same Which is good-bad. this meeting. You discuss this. her. idea. and you start to talk about something she likes and enjoys doing. and this situation that you are sharing. Examples • One brand of car vs. good or bad. Then discuss the other car.another aspect -. Strategic Formula for Compare And Contrast Use this technique to keep the conversation going. • • Use opportunities to use commands and trance words to create thoughts. What is different about each? How are they the same? How are they experienced? What is good? What is bad? etc. • Anything bad. • Decisions about a career or job. As you are talking. • You may talk to a woman. and discuss whether the handling makes it better. another brand. you can anchor those away from yourself. compare. • You talk to someone for a while and she say she likes scuba diving. what they do not. taking a position with a more promising future.

computer. Re-enact that conversation again. Something New Control vs. and this time.. This example uses a very obvious "Like vs..". she mentions various things about it. and put effort into correct linking/anchoring/pointing to associate positive things to you. and compare/contrast the two. the same holds true even when discussing what you do NOT like. and various things about that subject or topic that they like..same type of thing (another car.(because). that they do like Do the re-enactment again. peace.. change your tone of voice. 4) Select two of the following 4 topics. Maybe some of the language that you are using that may lend itself to be embedded commands. that within that may be attributes that are good. and negative things . Be mindful of that and anchor/link appropriately. and talk about it again.. etc. Familiarity vs. Be descriptive! Use pauses. and anchor/link/point appropriately. She says she likes the aspect of it being very quiet and serene under water. As in "so let me make sure I understand this .. Page 53 . Be aware of your language! Throw in adjectives and adverbs.. Something that you like Something that is opposite 2) Now take that same topic. your pacing. etc). so if you like THAT. Also. Not-Like" set of things to compare and contrast. and serenity on one hand o and compare and contrast that to the feeling of something new and different on the other. In addition. and those that are not good. etc). clothes. Letting Go Safety and Excitement Liking someone mentally and/or physically o • • • • Exercises for Compare And Contrast 1) Pick some possession that you have that you REALLY like (car. she finds the experience of seeing new and different things to be interesting as well. but this time put some effort into being very aware of the positive and negative things that are being said. different computer. somewhere else." or . offer the compare-contrast ways of discussing it. Be vary aware that even when you are discussing the thing you "Like". be very aware of the positive and negative things that are being said. and this time..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Maybe you ask about it. etc.. Now think of what is opposite to that . Use compare and contrast to talk about each of the attributes that your friend would say they like about that subject.. etc. where they were really describing or talking about something they like. Subject or thing that they like Attributes (things about) that. o So we talk about the feeling of quiet. different style of clothing. then I KNOW that you would NOT like THIS . 3) Recall a recent conversation with someone you know."Oh. Now talk out loud about each. bike..

some are bad • Talk about the good parts.. etc. Meaning.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Control vs. YOU are then showing someone how BOTH of these things can be experienced. There ARE many things that people tend to THINK of in an "either-or" way.Who wants to talk about something that you are NOT interested in? However. and the positive aspects of excitement. Think about the possibilities. Safety vs. However there ARE ways to have BOTH.1 Parts Of A Subject D7-T4 This is a variation on the contrast principle. it's too weak. Too many guys just blow things to quickly. Excitement. this doesn't necessarily show that you Page 54 .6. it is GOOD to focus on the positive aspects of what she likes. Something New Now do your best to speak out loud and "talk" about these for a while using a Compare and Contrast structure. you may end up liking the subject and find a new activity for yourself! Don't worry that you will "give the wrong impression" by inquiring and discussing these "parts". Letting Go Safety and Excitement Liking someone mentally and/or physically Familiarity vs. then talk about all of the various aspects and parts of it. and you lose out on spending a LOT of time having them discuss something that she REALLY likes! This is just a way to have a discussion. Who knows. and parts of a person 3. BOTH linked and anchored to YOU. exciting. and get them to talk about what THEY are interested in. but when you go STRAIGHT for the BEST thing that she likes the MOST. Some are good. By comparing and contrasting them. For even more Power There IS a very powerful aspect of this technique that is important to mention. 3. People tend to think you have one OR the other. and that's ALL you discuss.. Parts of a subject. and say (for example) "what do you like most about scuba diving" or "what is the most fascinating thing about.. this just helps to keep things moving in a conversation.6 PARTS D7-T1 Listen to an example where these are used. Parts. etc. topic. theme. link away Now this may seem tough ." and that's ALL they talk about! Yes. If you are talking about an interesting subject. of having all of the positive aspects of Safety. that is fun. For example. Two types of parts we can work with . if you are asking many questions about something that is NOT of interest to you. you can show someone how that can be possible. link them to you • If the bad or boring parts some up. together.. this provides a good way to train you to be able to talk and ask questions of people.

area of interest. new things. artistic endeavor. Page 55 . just curious. etc. etc. that an opportunity to talk for a WHILE about something she likes. sport. Now. it's hard to talk about that subject for a while. Strategic Formula for Parts of a Subject Discussing many of the parts of a subject keeps the conversation going. list various "things" about that subject. Examples • Scuba Diving . idea.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course are interested in it (the subject). but if you start there. 1) Pick a subject that you like. don't just ask "What is the most exciting thing about Scuba Diving?" That IS a good question. Subjects come up. or point in a discussion. etc. Exercises for Parts of a Subject . This isn't just a way for you to ask ask ask HER about things. just say "I like learning about people. o Where have they dived? o How did they get into it? o What's their favorite place? o Do they have their own equipment? o Do they use different types of equipment for different locations? o How long have they dived? o Have they ever been in danger? o Have they taken photos? o Have they met interesting people? o Has this exposed them to any other cool sports or activities? o etc. feelings and emotions. activity. feelings and emotions to yourself. This is a great way to build rapport with a person as well. allowing you time to gather information and link yourself to good thoughts. know about. You are just asking. Link good thoughts. If someone asks you about this. maybe a hobby. topics come up. that you know." This technique makes it easier to have conversations with people because THEY are giving you information and ideas for new things to ask about.Don't just "talk about" Scuba Diving! Or.. what people do. like. If she LIKES scuba diving. be comfortable talking about all of the parts of that subject. Break it down into its component parts and discuss them. and enjoys. and she may have a lot of positive emotions and feeling associated with that . Use the language tools in the discussion.many of which can be linked to you. don't like... Tactical Formula for Parts of a Subject Take any subject.

a job they like. This should be someone you know well.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course For example. or maybe someone in your life that you don't know very well. but hopefully this "subject" is something you are not really into. Now. what parts about football would you want them to ask about? For your chosen subject. maybe a cousin you hardly see or talk to. passion. like a co-worker. maybe pick a different "person" as your subject. what would you ask about? What are all of the various things and aspects of it that YOU could inquire about or that could come up in a discussion? These are the "parts" of that subject. someone you met at a party. That Subject: 2) Think of one of your friends or family members and some activity or topic that THEY are really into. Now think of something that THAT person is interested in or they are involved with. You should be able to come up with at least 10 items. etc. Page 56 . If you have trouble. make a list of these parts. That Subject: 3) Now think of someone who you are NOT close to (that you do not know that well). if your subject was football. Write these down. You should easily be able to come up with 10-20 items. Someone that you recently met. Subject: Parts. if you were going to talk to them for like 30 minutes about that subject and were really going to ask them about it. etc. and you were going to have someone (who knows very little about the subject) interview you and learn all about football. Person: Subject: Parts. and you have heard him or her talk about this. or Things About. or Things About. Maybe their hobby.

Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course The key here is that this is someone you don't see often. experiencing it. what would you ask about? What are all of the various things and aspects of it that YOU could inquire about? What are the PARTS you could ask about? Write these down. like the exercise above.. and were really going to ask them about it. when you are speaking with a friend or family member that you know well. mention like 10-15 different things you could ask or inquire about that subject.. who is interested in something that you are NOT familiar with. make a point to have a good 10-15 minute conversation about a subject that THEY are really interested in. don't know really well. Person: Subject: Assignments for Parts of a Subject 1) Sometime soon. Now. but with which you are NOT familiar. but with which you are NOT familiar. while YOU are there And you are linking and anchoring things to yourself Using all of the language tools and details And that person is finding YOU so fascinating and charismatic . Page 57 . when you are speaking with a person you do not know hardly at all (yet you feel you will be able to talk to them for 10-15 minutes). Person: Subject: Parts. Make a point to ask about many different parts of that subject. If you were going to talk to them for like 30 minutes about that subject. They are talking about something THEY like Thinking about it. off the "top of your head". Again. you should be able to list at least 10 items. 2) Sometime in the future. You know the person but you are not real close to them. out loud. Make a point to ask about many different parts of that subject. That Subject: " 4) Think of another person and subject. and feeling it. or Things About. And of course the entire time. The subject they are interested in is something with which you are NOT familiar. make a point to have a good 10-15 minute conversation about a subject that THEY are really interested in.

.. • What if it is not? What if they say they are shy.. "you may have the other side" o or by example "I know someone like that. or has the same wishes that you do." • If this new or other "side" works more in your favor. or normally don't "do" certain things? • Then talk about that first (shy) part.. or view. or part of a person. • If an adventurous. You do not want to appear to challenge or invalidate and personality trait that is being shown.. they hold back.. • If a person is shy. (where XYZ is a different or maybe the opposite behavior.. o Either in general like "there may be another side" o or more directly. In this context. more spontaneous side to them. etc)" o "I know someone similar who as this other part to themselves. Let's say you are in a discussion with someone. if the person is shy o "I understand how some people are shy. Don't Confront. what she did . Page 58 .2 Parts Of A Person D7-T15 Listen to an example where this concept is used. that is more . a "side" to the person...Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3. or way of looking at it. etc. and start to discuss and validate that OTHER part.. etc." o "You may have (or do have) another part (or side.. their reactions... that XYZ part". "parts" are meant as in a personality trait... experiencing it." o "Many people like that also have another side to themselves. make it be experienced. in a way you are also using Compare and Contrast as well." • There will be a lot of this shown in examples here in this section and at the end of the program. link it to you. exciting part of a person is being discussed. adventurous . they are quiet. Because you are discussing several things. Discuss. and then say (for example). there is a more adventurous part to themselves • If a person is outspoken. A key concept to think about is to ALWAYS assume that there is a part of someone that does agree with you. This can be VERY powerful. verify it. there is a more decisive.. fun. that part of the person or type of behavior that DOES agree with you). or parts." • Bring up and acknowledge the fact that there is "another" part. we are also reframing! We are changing the way they look at things. etc. directly or indirectly o For example.. In many ways. or reserved. lean more on the language and linking tools to bring it out. their way of walking through and looking at the world. and I have found she has this other side. just looking for the right time. • "That's because there is another part.. o "When you start to listen to this adventurous side . another part hidden away.6. In a discussion. and they feel that way. etc. In fact a friend of mine is very shy and one time.. if a personality trait. • Acknowledge the first part that is being discussed. a way of thinking. or side. great. that adventurous side is just waiting to come out. a way of acting or being is being discussed (and one that does not necessarily work in your favor) . Let's break this down. there is a more quiet side • If a person is well-thought-out (thinks things through and takes time). etc" • Discuss this new or other "part" o "With many people.

. discuss. too confrontational.. so be careful... • Maybe someone says they can be jealous. Introduce and discuss that "other part" in a way that works to your advantage.. and what I noticed about her is that she also has this other side to her.. deep down. that may be true but also there is another part of them . You can work around this issue (of possible confrontation) by saying things like o "I think another way of looking at that trait is . etc... . way of thinking. What personality traits (or what other parts or ways of thinking) are similar? Which are somewhat opposite? Write down 3 that are similar. you are NOT discussing this as to say. People have many sides to themselves. assume there is a part that will work WITH you. "I am boring".. feelings. but it can be handled ..." Strategic Formula for Parts of a Person Use Parts of a Person as a way to find. or part of the person by discussing or addressing it Think about a personality trait. even when the other person claims or demonstrates that such parts are NOT there.. and evoke favorable states.) Exercises for Parts of a Person 1) What if someone says. Traits similar to "Being Boring" Page 59 . "you are wrong" or to show how smart you are! You are just talking. way of thinking.... Well.. There are also other sides to people . it may sound like you are arguing or challenging the person. This one side . Examples: • Lets say that a person says they are not into taking challenges. having a conversation.. o "I was reading somewhere about things like that and what it was saying was. and 3 that are opposite. • Maybe someone is secretive. was also "Y"..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • Many times you don't want to say "because there is another part" because that seems too direct. way of thinking. or part of the person that is somehow related (which works in your favor) or somewhat opposite.. o "I have a friend who was "X" (where X is the trait being discussed).. • Maybe someone lies .. or part of the person (mostly something which has a negative connotation) Acknowledge that personality trait. they like to play things safe. (not good in a person. I understand you have that side to you. and she realized that she. Remember. Tactical Formula for Parts of a Person For every part of a person that will work against you. o "Well. and beliefs. etc etc etc. that can work in your favor. Find a personality trait. o "A friend of mine does that as well.

and some of the variations mentioned for language examples.. Practice this out loud. which could you maybe "use" in a good way? 2) Think about how you would discuss the boring part. and 3 that are opposite. Traits similar to "Being Shy" Traits opposite to "Being Shy" Of those that you listed. maybe do some linking an anchoring. Practice this out loud. which could you maybe "use" in a good way? 4) Think about how you would discuss that shy part.. pick another part or trait. and then bring up this other "part" that you selected.. use this/that/these/those . be aware of opportunities to maybe mark off an embedded command or two (or more). Look at the formula earlier. Now do a similar exercise again out loud. Imagine a conversation and how you might do this. etc. Traits similar to "not into meeting any new people" Traits opposite to "not into meeting any new people" Practice out loud how you might first discuss "I am not into meeting any new people right now" and then transition into the other parts or traits that you selected.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Traits opposite to "Being Boring" Of those that you listed.. 3) What if someone says that they are shy? What personality traits (or what other parts or ways of thinking) are similar? Which are somewhat opposite? Write down 3 that are similar. 5) From the list you just made (and selected from). Imagine a conversation and how you might do this. Look at the formula earlier. and some of the variations mentioned for language examples. and then bring up this other "part" that you selected. Page 60 . but this time. 6) Lets say someone says "I am not into meeting any new people right now" . What personality traits (or what other parts. or ways of thinking) are similar? Which are somewhat opposite? Think about 1-2 that you could use.

WHILE talking to someone. Just notice the trait or part being mentioned. 9) Lets say someone says "I only like dating my TYPE"? What other part.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 7) Do the above example again. etc could you discuss? Try that out loud. Opposite (or similar?) trait or part that might actually work in your favor Conversation with Traits or parts that were discussed. 3. 8) Lets say someone says they have trouble meeting new people. and offer challenges to you on the audio. After the conversation. trusting their own judgment. See if what they are saying describes or is pointing out any personality traits (or a "part" of themselves. or mentions a "way of thinking"). make note of when you are having a personal conversation with anyone. and then find a way to discuss another part that is more favorable or positive. see if you could maybe think of an opposite one that could be discussed. see if you can notice them WHILE talking to someone. and has been a bit difficult for many to really understand Page 61 . but ROW see how many of the speaking and language tools you can use. start to bring them up IN the conversation. acknowledge it. Use the formula and the variations mentioned earlier. make a note of these traits or parts. being open. trait. You don't have to discuss them (yet) just make a point to note these traits. 3) Now that you can recognize these traits when talking to someone. This area has caused some confusion. See if you can note that "part" of who they are. and offer challenges" many times when studying these materials.? What other part. 2) After you have become more comfortable noticing such traits after-the-fact.. or parts. An easy way to do this is when a friend or acquaintance is being self-deprecating in some manner. or putting him or herself down for some reason. and then point out some other trait or part that might work in your favor somehow. Or. etc could you discuss? Try that out loud.7 OPPORTUNITIES AND CHALLENGES D7-T34 Listen to an example where I structure opportunities. See if you can arrive at a similar part or trait that you can discuss that could be used in your favor. Assignments for Parts of a Person 1) For the next week or two. trait.. You have probably heard the phrase "structure opportunities.

then they already have mechanisms for that in their mind. In this section.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course and utilize. but I am looking for more. • These are also good and convenient for practicing and examples. or like to be perceived as having. do it. • Show that you have standards. Challenge them to demonstrate it. this can be very effective. and that you believe in yourself." • This is NOT about arrogance. It's good to somehow work with structures and things that are already in someone's mind. Why this matters. you are just showing that YOU have standards. or show it. using motivations that a person already has. o This is the opposite of pleading and the "pedestal" scenario.7. or be with you. 3. Universal Wants • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control • Excitement Page 62 . Strategic Formula for Opportunities And Challenges Find or assume what someone wants Create an opportunity for them to get it or demonstrate they have it Make that "demonstration" work in your favor. You are in. For example if someone is intelligent. • Use these general things and assume they are there. effect. you are using processes that they ALREADY have in their minds. is a way for them to show their intelligence. If you can somehow frame or map yourself as being a way for a person to fulfill things that someone already wants. • Show that you are qualifying and screening to some extent. "You may be beautiful. or want to be perceived as having.2 What do people want? - D7-T38 "Universal Wants" = Good. 3.7. You then find some way to set things up so that choosing to listen to you. and wants to be seen as intelligent. but may not be the most effective strategy. Work with universal things that people would like to have. o You are saying in a way. • It's easy. these concepts are broken down and offered to you in a way that will truly help you to be able to use these powerful techniques.1 Using Their Own Processes D7-T36 If you know what people want to have. then by using their existing desires.

. or adventurous.. can (use smart.. o The smart people I know.. o If you can . You are challenging an ASSUMED desire (a "Universal Want"). o If you are able to . or fun. o Are you able to . o Talk to her and find out what she wants or needs. o You seem cool enough . o You seem like .. o Try using some of the above items. and it can really annoy people if you do! Page 63 . o You may .. o You might. or be seen as having "X"..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course "Particular Wants" = Better! What does THIS person want? • Notice o o o particular things that this individual would like to have or be perceived as having She mentions wanting respect She defends her position...... along with the Universal Wants listed earlier! • We assume here that with a mini-challenge.This technique can be overused. o You seem smart enough . that's even better. or want to be perceived as having? Mini-Challenges D7-T40 3. by listening to me or agreeing with me".3 There are certain things you can assume that most people may want to have. o Always have the question below in mind. o You seem like you may have good taste o etc.. or an image she wants other people to have of her.. etc)... What does she want to have... but if you can find or work with specific wants or desires. or maybe a value. wants to have. o I wonder if you can . You can imply a "test" for these things by issuing a mini-challenge... • Mini-Challenges o You might get this . o You seem as if.. o etc. what she likes to do. Warning . etc • Finding these particular wants and desires o These "wants" can be possessions. Mini-Challenge Cheat Sheet o You seem . we are using one of these sort of "universal" wants.. her interests. o Maybe you can .. o You might see .7.. and discusses what is important to her She mentions something she likes or dislikes about a past boyfriend. o Talk about some of yours and see how she reacts. or want to be perceived as having.... and challenging them in a way that says. o Talk about what she does. "you can show me that you have the thing you desire....

• Create an opportunity for them to get that • Make it so that them "getting" that works in your favor.4 Opportunities and Challenges D7-T43 Think of it like this. "Show me you have that thing by listening and/or agreeing with me" or. (and again. • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control • Excitement Page 64 . Make a statement that says. or hopefully find. • Challenge them to see if they will follow through and take action to get it. Exercises for Mini-Challenges 1) Try piecing together items from the Universal Wants List. you will show me you have that". in a way. what someone wants. and see how many combinations you can come up with.7. or been seen as having You can assume based on normal things that people want (Universal Want) or Get information from talking (Particular Want) Create an opportunity for them to get or demonstrate "X". Creating Them Consider the wants and needs that a person may have . and Mini-Challenge Cheat Sheet. • Find what someone "wants".. by doing "Y" Make "Y" something that works in your favor.. Tactical Formula for Opportunities and Challenges Find something "X" that the person wants to have. 3. What does someone Want? Assume.. here we have to "assume" things for the sake of teaching) .. "By listening to and/or agreeing with me.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Tactical Formula for Mini Challenges Assume something she wants to have. • Universal Wants • Particular Wants Opportunities. Challenge the person to do "Y". or be seen as having.

what does a mature person do? How are they seen? How do they react? o They make their own decisions o They trust their own judgment o They can decide to do something NOW.. • Maybe point out something a friend did . or some way for this person to capture the opportunity • Provide an example of something she can say or do.How can you create an opportunity for someone to appear confident (that works in your favor)? o Discuss people that YOU know.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course You need to create an "opportunity" for each of these. on their own. o They can go against the grain.. where this opportunity benefits you (and hopefully pertains to the situation). or want to be seen as having Structure this so that it is something that YOU would like them to do... o Talk about how confident people can make their own choices. and/or HAVING them. Examples. something they want. Examples: • Does she really want X and see how Y can get that? • Does she really have X. and see how doing Y would demonstrate it?> • Does she have what it takes to get X. o . and how the confident ones are able to take chances and have fun... o Let the person demonstrate how confident they are. even if their friends don't approve. • Here is a way a friend of mine showed that they have or was able to get X.. • Here is how I read/heard that someone else had or was able to get X. Provide an example of someone. and feel very comfortable with that. Maturity .. Talk about those things. • Mention something that you have read. talk about DOING them. Create the opportunity for them to show or demonstrate that they have or are perceived as having.. or show what they have. • Provide an example from your own life.Think about maturity . o They can do exciting things. • Confidence . o Mention how confident people can meet someone new. by meeting this "challenge". Challenges Are they ready to take advantage of that (this) opportunity? Challenge them to get what they want. How can you make that sound like a way for them to "show" something? How to create an opportunity? • Here is a way for you to show me that you really have or was able to get X. by doing Y? Page 65 .. • Provide a way to demonstrate that they DO have what they want.

. what this means to her. I mean. I don't know if you are adventurous enough for this. to be a way for them to get what they want... and mention that you read somewhere that successful people tend to be able to trust their own judgment. she actually felt more secure about being able to take care of herself. • Challenge them to do that." Adventurous o Maybe she wants to feel adventurous. You discuss success for a while. she may have to do Y to prove that. their own intuition. and do Y to get it? Can she do Y and make it happen? Can she see that Y will get her what she wants? Can she trust herself enough to do Y? etc. to show or demonstrate that? Examples: • Security o Say she wants to feel secure. Later.... Are they ready to do Y. • Find a way to map what YOU want. Then at some point you talk about you and her getting together. • • I know this is tricky. and she found that by taking chances and risks.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • • • Does she want you to THINK she has X. They want X. • Find out what someone wants.. Exercises and Assignments for Opportunities and Challenges 1) Make a list of some assumed things that many people may want to have. how she may be adventurous.... then .. Some examples are shown below. You talk about a friend who has always wanted to feel secure. Assumed Wants 2) Write a Mini Challenge for each if the above items. or be perceived as having. there are others shown earlier. you mention "We should get together sometime.". Page 66 . These are your "Assumed Wants". It's different from the way most guys think. as long as you trust yourself enough to feel that is OK . Success o Maybe "success" is important to her. You talk about that for a while. Is she ready to take chances? Take risks? Do something different? Maybe not . Can she see an opportunity to have "X". and say something like "well. It's NOT about creating an argument! Again. but.

. and go out and actually USE them for a while. Note some of your favorites ones below. friends. "you may . Hopefully these are specific to them." Mini Challenges 3) Practice the list of Mini Challenges you just created. For each person.. Person What they want to have. write down something that each wants to have. out loud 4) Make a note of some of the ones you practiced that seem closest to something you could easily say or do with people in your life. 5) Think about some people that you know quite well like family.. Practice these more. "lets see if this makes sense to you "see if you can follow this . or be perceived as having Page 67 . "you might.. and focus on using these. co-workers. and NOT just things from the "assumed" list.. quite unique..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course "you seem like .. Write down these "Wants". or wants to be perceived as having. etc.

A friend wants to be really good at a sport. or that in some way could be interpreted. and "opportunity". You are "mapping" it to you because by doing what you discuss.) So you challenge their dedication to their sport by saying "I was reading about really good athletes and one thing that was pointed out was that a lot of them really can get burned out." The "opportunity" is for them to be a better athlete.. (You want that friend to lighten up and be able to spend more time going out and having fun. and write them down. see if you can create a "challenge". The good athletes find a way to relax and have fun. Person Opportunity for them to get what they "want" that somehow works in your favor 7) For each "want". Example . even subconsciously. Person Challenge 8) Practice each of those "Challenges" out loud. want to do what you wish. Page 68 . Is there a way to create an "opportunity" for them to get or achieve that? Can you somehow create an opportunity that can be "mapped" in some way towards yourself. are they ready? Can they take action? Can they DO this? Write down these "Challenges". and that allows them to be better at their sport. and how can you "map" it to yourself? Write down these "Opportunities". they will be doing something that YOU want.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 6) Consider the "want" that you identified from each of those persons above.. See if you can make it sound natural. as making them look at you more positively. and they spend a LOT of time practicing. What is the opportunity. Some way that questions . etc? Give that some thought.

3. look at how many items we have covered so far. given that this IS an area that many guys are able to do (with enough listening) and given the many OTHER areas that really DO need the assistance of a program like this. Listen. Those) MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures o Linking Gestures (Towards And Away) o Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This. • SPEAKING POINTERS o The "Cool" Factor o Voice Tone And Tonality o Pacing And Pausing o Energy And Enthusiasm LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS o Adjectives And Adverbs o Trance Words o Weasel Phrases o Embedded Commands o Linking o Easy-Linking (This. What do they "want". we will not be doing any specific work on Ambiguities. listen. see if you can bring them up in conversations over the next few weeks. to do things that you would want. These. but now also start to look for "opportunities and challenges" in a way that directs their desires towards you. Try to guess.. That. 11) For the next 1-2 weeks.) o Easy Anchoring . really focus on what each person desires. Although there could be a section in this course that deals with these areas. Do what you can to bring these up while in the conversation if you can.. listen.Point Or Touch On Positive And Negative LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES o Pace And Lead " Topics and Subjects * Mindset of Frame • Current Reality o Give Them A Reason • • • Page 69 . 3. but in another context. so that you have heard them SO MANY TIMES. that these become familiar. you no doubt have heard many examples of "ambiguities"..9 SUMMARY D7-T66 Bringing it together. These are those words or phrases that can mean more than one thing.8 AMBIGUITIES D7-T64 If you have studied this material for a while.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 9) As you become more familiar with these practiced challenges and opportunities. That. This is one area that many guys actually ARE able to pick up and use easily if they have listened to the materials enough. 10) While you are talking to people for the next 1-2 weeks. They may have one meaning in one context. they mean something different. listen.. but also ask some questions and get into a discussion about it if possible. do the same in terms of observing desires.

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These are the building blocks for good Language skills. These are the sorts of skills that are most workable when they are truly "wired in" to someone, so that they are able to be used automatically. To try to "remember" to do such things can be very difficult. That approach would make having a conversation far too difficult and too much work! The best way is to work with these techniques SO much that these truly are just a part of "how you talk". With enough practice, and hearing these enough, you CAN have these become a part of how. YOU talk! So listen, practice, do the exercises, do the assignments, and do that all again, until these really do become a part of you, and a part of how you speak.

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D8-T1 A key aspect of making these tools work is getting the conversation into topic areas that will really work for you. The language tools you studied earlier are best used in the proper context, and in this section, we will learn how to get the conversation into areas that will create that context. Have you had these problems? • You JUMP too quickly into a pattern or topic, and it sounds really strange? • You just THROW a pattern AT her, and get a weird reaction? When you use these tools, or even use "patterns", it's not enough to just "say it", there has to be the correct CONTEXT for what is said! It's a process that she needs to go on and through with you. It's not enough to just find a conversational excuse to "throw" a pattern (or language tool) AT her! This section is about finding ways to just get into an interesting conversation and then towards and onto good topics. We want this to seem natural, and with some understanding, practice, and a few key strategies and tactics it will BE natural and automatic! 4.1 4.1.1 CHALLENGES -a Detailed And Specific Plans Are Just Not Workable. D8-T3

It's good to theorize to "say this", and then "say that", and then to use "this pattern", and "that pattern". However, the problem is that a lot of time the proper context is not presented well enough. The examples you may have seen in other products are just that, examples. The problem is that too many guys have taken them literally! Guys try to do "X, Y, Z," exactly, in order, with no sense of calibration, or being able to work and re-direct things in real time. Therefore, detailed tactical plans are not realistic. 4.1.2 Navigation Example D8-T4

Think of moving a conversation to a certain point, like taking a trip somewhere. Say you are in Chicago, and want to go to Los Angeles. You could have a detailed map of every turn and road, exact route numbers and lengths, etc. The problem is... what do you do if there is a detour? What if the road is changed, what if the map is wrong? You are lost! What if, instead, we teach you how to drive the car, and give you a general set of directions like "keep driving west, until you see the ocean, then turn left (south)". That way, you can handle just about any turns, roads, or detours that you may encounter! Conversations are different from roads too, because people are all unique, situations, times, surroundings etc. are unique and change from moment to moment. Therefore, if you want to get a conversation to go a certain way, then detailed plans made ahead of time are hard to work with. There are too many variables! We need a workable set of strategies and tactics that allows you, in real-time, to direct things the way that you want them to go. They need to be easy to follow, and easy to use, and something that you don't need to "think about", but can just DO easily.
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So we need a general set of guidelines, some overall strategies and tactics, so that you can have this good, intuitive sense of how to "steer" things, and get conversations to where you want them to go. As long as you are engaging a woman's emotions, capturing & leading her imagination, then you are moving in the right direction. Then, in that situation and in that context, linking all the positive & powerful things to you becomes more workable. Instead of a map, we are giving you a "compass". We need a strategy for managing conversations that can to do this gradually, in a way that seems natural! If it's too abrupt or makes the conversation strained, it will sound weird. The strategy must LEAD the conversation towards good topics and subjects in a way that seems natural, and is not TOO abrupt. Examples: (Listen to the audio.) • Talking about a printer o Moving TOO quickly towards emotional topics o Can sound strange • Driving a car and taking a turn (Analogy) o Think of driving down freeway and needing to switch to different direction. o You can't make a hard, right angle turn on a dime! o You need to turn the car, slowly, on a ramp to go in a different direction. When we control conversions, we need to find a way to take it gradually in a new direction. Many guys try to do the hard and fast switch, and they crash in the process! We will learn to move things in a way that makes it seem natural, but it will be deliberate. 4.1.4 She Must Be Engaged In The Conversation! D8-T10

It's important to get conversations into the right area and have HER go along with you. Not just "bring it up" (a topic or pattern), but it must be natural and she must "go along" with it and be a PART of it. She must be actually THINKING about what you are discussing! It has to happen naturally. No weird jumps. It's not enough to just talk; she must BE a part of the conversation! So, don't just "jump" to a topic. Don't find an "excuse" to bring it up. Take the conversation there, take her WITH you, and have her be a part of it! What really helps is to have a genuine interest (or at least curiosity) in her and the conversation, not just thinking to yourself; "How can I use this?" 4.2 HOW CONVERSATIONS HAPPEN D8-T12

How does this really occur? We will break this down so that we have a way to really affect this process. 4.2.1 Conversational Dynamics D8-T13

How do conversations happen? Most of them occur somewhat randomly as the conversation flows from topic to topic over time, and can end up almost anywhere after a while. By the time YOU move from one topic to the next,
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you may end up in a very different place from where you began. However, there is a series of steps as things move forward, as shown in Figure 4.2.1-1.

Figure 4.2.1-1: Conversations Move Through Many Topics

Each of these steps between topics tends to be related. Topic 1 relates to Topic 2. Topic 2 relates to Topic 3, etc. For example, you can start to talk about Cars, and then move to one aspect of that topic, Car Seats. Then it's easy to move to some aspect of that topic, which maybe something that seats are made of, like Leather. Then maybe you talk about Leather Furniture, etc. (See Figure 4.2.1-2.)

Figure 4.2.1-2: Each Topic Flows To the Next Topic In most cases, each Topic is related to the one before.

After a series of such steps, you can be at a quite different topic (like an apartment that you used to live in) even though you started at a quite different topic (Cars). In most cases, it's very difficult to predict where a conversation will go after many of these steps. As you go through a few topic shifts (as shown in the diagrams), although each individual shift relates to the topic before and after that shift, after a series of shifts you can end up talking about almost anything! Therefore, even if you start the conversation at a great topic, you can get off-track and into topics that will not work in your favor. Conversely, what is needed is a way to start at almost any topic at all, and by steering that process (of moving from Topic 1, to Topic 2, Topic 3, etc) take the conversation into better and better topic areas that will serve your purposes. 4.2.2 Conversational Model D8-T14

We introduce a model to assist in discussion, understanding, and control of conversations. If you start at a topic, how do you go to another one? This process happens all of the time very easily. The key is that the movement from one topic to the next takes places easily because there are so many options involved. From any topic (Topic 1) it is easy to flow to any of 6-8 other, related topics (Topic 2 Candidates). People usually just "talk" and naturally the conversation moves from the first topic to the next one. Since the "next" topic is related, this process seems natural and is easy to do. In fact, you do this all the time without really knowing about it. (We are creating a model to describe a process that happens naturally, so that we can teach you a way to have an affect on that process). Figure 4.2.2-1 shows how from one topic, the conversation can flow easily to many related topics.

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Figure 4.2.2-1: From One Topic to many Candidate Topics The topic of Cars is discussed, and from there are many ways the conversation can easily move.

Once the conversation moves to one of these eight topics, it's easy to move to one of eight more. For example if in Figure 4.2.2-1, the conversation flows from "Cars" to "Where you bought it" (as in, where you bought the car), then now we have a situation like that shown in Figure 4.2.2-2.

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Figure 4.2.2-2: From A Second Topic, Another Group of Candidates If "Cars" was discussed first, and then "Where you bought it" was discussed next, there are now many ways to go in the next step. In the figure, you see how the conversation moves from Cars, to "Where you bought it". After that, there are many "candidate" topics where the conversation can flow. Perhaps it moves to the "Part of town" where the car was purchased.

Now from the topic of "Where you bought it" (a car), there are easily eight places that you can go from there, shown as the "Topic 3 candidates". This process continues throughout a conversation. This process happens regardless of the specific topics being discussed. Conversations flow from topic to topic, as shown in a general manner in Figure 4.2.2-3.
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there is no way to know exactly where it will end up by the time you have moved forward a few steps! Imagine trying to predict ahead-of-time exactly where you may arrive (among those 512 options). you can end up with the conversation going almost anywhere! Figure 4. since it's so easy to go from any topic to 6-8 others. you can have up to eight different ways to go at EACH step.2-4 shows what happens when all the topics are considered.2.2-3: Topics Flow from One to the Next Each topic in a conversation can easily lead to 6-8 others. Do you see why the pre-planned approaches can be difficult?! Even if you ARE able to have the conversation start from a specific place (Topic 1). then talk about Z" are very difficult to really work with. With some skill and technique. an so on. This results in easily over 500 topics that could be selected by the time we arrive at Topic 4! In only three shifts of the topic ("topic shifts" as shown in the figure) we end up with many many possibilities of where the conversation might end up. and the conversation flows along in this manner. you can affect this process (and we will teach that to you). the plans that many guys try to use to "Talk about X. If Topic 1 can lead to eight different candidates for Topic 2. when talking to some random person. then talk about Y.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Topic 1 Topic 2 Topic 3 Topic 4 Figure 4. because there are SO many ways that things can go! Page 75 . However. In many ways. the Figures that have been shown so far only show a small portion of the total topics towards which a conversation can flow. When this happens in succession. In general. and at each step after that. then EACH of the eight different candidates for Topic 2 can then lead to their own eight.2.

a conversation may start from one topic or subject (Topic 1).Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 1st Topic Shift 2nd Topic Shift 3rd Topic Shift Figure 4. Once Topic 2 has been discussed. you can end up in over 500 different topic areas! We can create a general Conversation Model that shows this process (Figure 4. and so on. Page 76 .2-4: Topic Candidates and Topic Shifts If each topic can flow to eight others.2.2-5). then after only three shifts in the topic. it can flow from there. As seen in the diagram. It then can flow easily to maybe 6-8 others (the diagram shows fewer for the sake of clarity).2.

(The figure only shows a portion of how many subjects and topics can be reached). it is quite easy to move from that onto 6-8 related topics. There are SO many ways it can flow.2.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Figure 4. In fact. This process of moving from the first topic to one of 6-8 relevant topics is the process of moving through a "Topic Turning Point" as shown in Figure 4. then for that diagram to be really accurate it would have to show over 30.2-5: Conversation Model The "Tree of Subjects" showing how thousands of subjects can be reached in just a few steps of the conversation.2. Page 77 . if you assume that from any topic you could go to any of 8 other topics. If you are discussing one specific topic.3-1.2.3 Topic Turning Point D8-T15 The KEY concept the needs to be understood to gain the ability to manage conversations.000 different subjects or topics that could be discussed by the time you are at "Level 6" in the conversation!! 4. The diagram only shows a small fraction of them (so that the diagram is not even more cluttered than it already is!). that they become far too many to shown in the diagram. is an awareness of this phenomenon that is called the "Topic Turning Point".

A general way of looking at this process is shown in Figure 4.2. For example. as long as the new topic is "related" to the first (this is shown in the diagram by the "candidates") then this change is easy to do. make a statement. and throughout a conversation.2. after one topic has been discussed for a short while.3-1: The Topic Turning Point (TTP) When discussing any topic (First Topic) there are easily 6-8 different topics to which the conversation can be moved (Candidate Topics). etc. Someone might make a comment. Therefore.2. The key thing to realize is that this process of Topic Turning Point (TTP) selection occurs over and over.3-2: How TTP Selections Effect the Conversation The selections made at each TTP are what actually "steer" the conversation in a certain direction. introduce an idea. the overall flow of a conversation comes about due to many of these TTP choices being made. ask a question. Page 78 .3-2 Topic Turning Points Figure 4. the conversation "shifts" slightly. However.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Candidate Topics Figure 4. the conversation can then move to another topic.

These types of people are making TTP selections based on a strategy of finding things that are negative to talk about. fun. is coming soon. The overall strategy at the beginning is then to "talk about positive. • Other people may do the opposite.Those are just general examples.. For example: • Maybe someone always finds a fun. The flow of the conversation starts.. These people are able to automatically make TTP choices based on a strategy of finding good. That ability alone is enough for our purposes.. IMPORTANT: The overall direction of a conversation comes about due to a successive selection of TTPs.) then you CAN direct how a conversation flows. Sometimes this can be VERY apparent.1 GENERAL CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Want. (See Figure 4. very quickly. to "route" conversations so that they end up being the kinds of conversations that YOU want to have. isn't it? In general. However. Look in the diagrams. and imagine if you had a general way to manipulate these TTPs.) Page 79 . you can direct where the overall conversation goes. we want the conversation to be positive. they find a way to point out something negative. depressing Confrontational . fun. we want to first start to steer things in the best general manner. By manipulating TTPs from moment to moment. moment-to-moment. So to start our process of learning how to manage conversations.3 4. interesting Mundane and uninteresting Negative. fun. positive. Can you see how you may be able to affect where a conversation goes? You might not be able to predict EXACTLY where it ends up. conversations are one of four types: • • • • Fun. and do so in a way that sounds VERY natural. interesting things". positive aspects of every topic being discussed.3. Many people do this "TTP selection" process automatically. they somehow see it in terms how in effects their beliefs. • Other people able to direct conversations based on their own beliefs and their own political motivations as well. and interesting. positive way to look at anything. conversations tend to go in one of several ways. D8-T16 D8-T16 So how can you actually affect the flow of a conversation. they Good Boring Bad Argument could be more specific (and we will get there). and they quick steer the conversation in that manner. but you will have some control over the overall direction. 4..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Normally. and that work in YOUR favor.. As you have probably guessed by now. we are going to later teach you a way to be able to make these TTP selections. with some awareness of this process. no matter WHAT is discussed. and the conversation tend to into one of four general areas.3. choices are made moment to moment. • Other people direct conversations based upon their own moral or religious values. This selection just "happens". In a very broad sense. easily and naturally? That IS the point.. and some training (which .1-1. No matter WHAT you talk to them about. no one is "deciding" the TTPs.

Positive. interesting things.1-1: General Conversational Management Consider all of the ways a conversation can go. Even if things move towards other areas. fun. and Interesting" things. Positive. positive and interesting. Page 80 .3. steer towards Fun. Figure 4. Strategic Formula for General Conversational Management To steer the conversation in a good direction. interesting things. do what you can to steer in that direction. bring up positive. Introduce topics that are fun. If you break that down into 4 main directions. you can still "steer" back towards "Fun. so from the earliest stages. and Interesting". fun. interesting things.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course General Conversational Management Conversations tend to flow in one of four major ways. and Interesting topics and subjects. How do you do that? • • • Show interest when someone discusses positive. No matter what is brought up. Don't engage in conversations when it's NOT about positive. you see that you want to focus the conversation onto topics that are "Fun. fun. Positive.

. and Interesting? That is the direction to go! Candidate Topics Figure 4. as we discussed earlier.3. For any subject. positive.3. the TTP. Page 81 .Where can I go that is "fun.2-1. You then think of several ways you can go (the related topics. So you just think to yourself "Where can I go that is fan. positive. you make note of where you are in the conversation. the topic "candidates" that were shown earlier). By manipulating TTPs from moment to moment. Which Of these are Fun. TTP options. as long as it moves things in a way that answers the question "Where can I go that is fun. positive. Moment To Moment D8-T19 Look at the overall flow of a conversation and break it down to its smallest point that we can affect. TTP Mantra . How do you move things in that direction? You can: • Ask a question • Make a comment • Make a joke • Quote someone you heard. and interesting" (See Figure 4.The overall direction of a conversation comes about due to a successive selection of TTPs. and then steer things in the correct direction. or something you read. you can direct where the overall conversation goes. and Interesting"..) Tactical Formula for General Conversational Management Keep thinking . • Etc. move things towards the related topics that are "Fun."Where can I go that is fun. and then you move things in that direction! Remember . You think of the "candidates" (the related topics or subjects that you can discuss) that serve you at the time.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4. and interesting?" Move the conversation in that direction. .2 How To Steer Conversations.3. Repeat.2-1: Topic Turning Point Navigation for General Conversational Management No matter what subject you start talking about. Positive. positive. Positive. and interesting" and just move things in that direction. and interesting"? Moment-to-moment. you can always think of 6-8 other related topics or subjects.

"fun. and Interesting". the most important thing to do is to focus on moving thing in a direction that is .3-2. and Interesting! Figure 4.3. (See Figure 4. you get to an overall "area" that will work.. and interesting".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Later in the conversation.) Keep things moving in the direction of Fun. 4. you can work more towards certain topic areas.3. but in the early part of the conversation. positive. You are steering things towards the direction that you want the conversation to go. Do this for a while. Page 82 .3. just keep thinking about where you can go that is "Fun.3-1: Moving Through Topics Using General Conversational Management Early in a conversation.3.3-1.).3 The Model With Strategy And Tactics In Place D8-T23 As you make TTP choice after TTP choice (See Figure 4. Positive. Positive..

3-2: General Conversational Management Model The most important direction to go. especially early in a conversation. Positive. and Interesting topics and subjects. Even if you temporarily move away from that direction or end up in an area that is not very positive or interesting. 4. and write down the topic for each. Positive. At some particular moment early in the conversation.3. and Interesting!/ Figure 4. or where you are. is towards Fun. keep steering in the right direction and in many cases you WILL get towards the right area soon enough (and if not.4 Exercises and Assignments D8-T25 Exercises for General Conversational Management 1) Think of some conversations that you have been in recently. always move towards topics and subjects that are Fun.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course General Conversational Mgt Model No matter where you start. maybe that person is not someone that you want to talk to anyway). what was the main topic? Topics Page 83 .3.

consider it a topic that leads to a TTP (copy each item above into the "Topic" area below). list 6-8 different ways you could go.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 2) Based on each of those topics. For each of those Topics. Topic TTP Options (Candidate Topics') Page 84 . ask about. or Candidate Topics). directions you could "take" the conversation (these are the TTP Options. things you could comment on. Write each of those down.

Page 85 . Positive. asking a question. making a statement. and Interesting")? Select two "candidates" and circle or highlight those two. which are the best? Which of these would move the conversation in a way that is best for you (think of "Fun.. whatever it might take to move things in that direction. maybe by making a comment. 4) For each Topic.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Of the 6-8 different TTP Options you have written above for each Topic. 5) Practice again on each by moving things in the direction of the second item that was circled. what would it have been like to have moved the conversation in the direction of the first item you circled? Practice that out loud for each Topic above. etc.

interesting. and positive conversation. positive and interesting topics. Just do what you can so that the TTP shifts in a direction that is fun. inquire about something. Make it so that it becomes easy for you to come up with a list of "options" very quickly.4 4. Instead of the more general area of fun. we want it to be really interesting.Is that the sort of person you want to talk to and spend time with? Maybe not. or without an overall strategy in mind)." 4. whatever it takes. Positive. It WILL get easier. start to take the conversation there! Ask a question. really be aware of the TTP opportunities in your day-to-day life. positive. Maybe start out by looking at conversation after the fact. maybe offer an opinion. etc. you can direct where the overall conversation goes. 2) Now that you are able to quickly find 1 or 2 good TTP options.1 ADVANCED CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Really Want. we want to work with topics that get the emotions involved. When talking to anyone. the imagination moving. look for moments where things can be "steered" in a certain way. we are turning you into someone that people LIKE to talk to! You know the type of person that people enjoy talking to.3. make a comment. and people REALLY interested. interesting. having conversations with. By manipulating TTPs from moment to moment. fascinating. even at the start of a conversation. In general. D8-T33 D8-T33 We want the conversation to be more than just positive. we want things to get even more Page 86 . and spending time with? The type of guy that people seek out to spend time with? The more you do these types of exercises. don't worry.4. thinking "what COULD I have done. • By moving things in this way.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Assignments for General Conversational Management 1) For the next week or so. At any moment you should be able to think "Where can I go with this?". Interesting. We want to focus the aim of our conversational management skills even more. where COULD I have taken things". Building on what we learned in the last section. the conversation becomes more enjoyable for everyone. After a while. we can start to direct the conversation into an even BETTER area. the more YOU can and will become that guy! 4. but the REAL key is to at least get to the point where you can very quickly think of at least 1 or 2 ways to go that are Fun. engaging. they will not go down a path of having a fun. If this is a challenge for you. you may have to think of 6-8 options. that no matter WHAT you do with some people. Do this for a while until the process of finding 1 or 2 good "Ways to go" in a conversation (good TTP options) can happen very rapidly for you. At first.5 Summary D8-T32 Remember what was said earlier: • The overall direction of a conversation comes about due to a successive selection of TTPs (which normally occur at random. You may start to find however. You then have to wonder .

We move forward and want to get a more emotional tone. From there.1-1. (See Figure 4. Using General Conversational Management. and Interesting. Positive.) General Conversational Management takes the conversation into the Fun. there are many ways to go. and more involvement of the imagination. to "steer" things even more towards what we want. Strategic Formula for Advanced Conversational Management To direct the conversation into even BETTER areas. So. So we narrow our focus.4. Now from that point. With that as a general strategy.4. how do we work that in what we are doing moment-to-moment? How can we do things that will make that happen? Page 87 . We use our strategy of working with the TTPs.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course interesting. you move it in ways that engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way. there were 4 main directions towards which a conversation may go. and steer using Advanced Conversational Management Figure 4. steer the conversation towards directions that engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way. we now shift our strategy of "steering" things to direct the topics in a more focused manner using Advanced Conversational Management. we were able to move things in the direction of Fun.1-1: Advanced Conversational Management Focuses the Steering From the start of a conversation. there are many ways the conversation can move. Positive. Interesting area. more excitement. To move the conversation into more interesting areas.

and with that strategy in mind.4. (See Figure 4. and Interesting" area. With that established. Positive. 4.2-1: Topic Turning Point Navigation for Advanced Conversational Management After using General Conversational Management for a while.3 The Model With Advanced Strategy And Tactics In Place D8-T38 (Before we move on to looking at the model.4. we shift the focus of how we navigate TTPs. Positive. we need to use the TTP as a way to move things in the right direction.) Page 88 . but now think "where can I go that will engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way".) TTP Mantra " Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Tactical Formula for Advanced Conversational Management Keep thinking .4.4. TTP Fun.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4. we can assume that we are talking about subjects which fit into the "Fun. we look at the concept of the TTP. See Figure 4. and explain a bit more as to its meaning and interpretation.2-1. we need to change the way the model is shown. Interesting Topics Which of these "Engage the Emotions and imagination in a Positive Way"? That is the direction to go! Candidate Topics Figure 4.2 Steering Conversations Moment To Moment using Advanced Conversational Management D8-T35 Again. Repeat.3-1 for an explanation.Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Move the conversation in that direction.4.

The locations of points (1). there can be a whole "tree" of possibilities leading from there. etc.4. or thirty. it may take ten.) the conversation moves on for a while. where every "step" (TTP. and it ends up at a certain area (2). For example. At that point. In practice. and (3) in the figure above (and in the next figure) helps to show this. we are not showing that there are exactly "four steps" between points (1) and (2). When starting from ANY topic (1) to a place where you are firmly established for a period of time in a Fun. with thousands upon thousands of possible possible routes and outcomes. This can result in so many possibilities (many thousands within a few steps) that it's important to look at these diagrams as a way to show "trend". or topic shift) shown on the digram may represent many steps in an actual conversation. these diagrams will indicate a VERY condensed version of the number of steps involved. (2).Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Understanding the Conversational Management Model The model attempts to show a process that has many many steps. and Interesting conversation (2) may take four steps. For example. once again ending up with thousands of topics that could be discussed by the time you get through more topic shifts (3). Page 89 . Positive. It may happen in ten minutes. but a way to show a "trend". so that the various stages of a conversation can be easily illustrated. the graphics we will use will show an even more "condensed" version of this process. But after using the general techniques (Fun. the model above is what we used to show a starting point (1). not an exact number of steps or outcomes. Figure 4. Positive.3-1: Understanding the Conversational Management Model The "levels" shown in the models are not meant to be exact. From now on in the course.

This is shown from point (1) to point (2) in the diagram.4. the conversation will get better and better. if you use the language tools which we learned about earlier in the course. to yourself! Advanced Conversational Management Model Figure 4. For a while. feelings. or however long it takes to be firmly established in a Fun. and Interesting conversation (2). only a few of which are shown in the diagram. Although the diagram shows only 2 steps (for simplicity). and states. General Conversational Management techniques are used. you can see how General Conversational Management. 10. emotional topics. If you refer to Figure 4. are used together to move forward in a conversation. 10 topic shifts. Then a shift is made towards focusing the conversation even more using Advanced Conversational Management. If you follow these two simple strategies together (and the tactical approach of simply watching the TTPs and moving things in the right way). Now the emphasis is on ways to "Engage the Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way". 20. we now focus more on moving in a direction that will "Engage the Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way". and then Advanced Conversational Management. subjects. And of course while doing that.4. This too can take any number of steps.3-2: Advanced Conversational Management Model Early in the conversation. Positive. we focused the conversation towards moving things in a direction that is "Fun Positive and Interesting. and could be at any of thousands of topics after 6. This is shown between points (2) and (3). until it is firmly established that the conversation has engaged the emotions and imagination of the participant.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course We started at one topic. exciting.3-2. This also is followed for a series of steps and a period of time. The subjects will get more and more fascinating. the conversation will get more and more of an "emotional" tone to it. in practice it may be good to follow a series of topics for 5. you end up linking and associating many fascinating. 8. As time goes on. or 30 minutes. Page 90 . After that has been established.

or Candidate Topics). ask about. things you could comment on. At some particular moment in that conversation.4 Exercises and Assignments D8-T39 Exercises for Advanced Conversational Management 1) Think of some conversations that you have been in recently. These should be conversations where it is already obvious that it is a fun. positive. what was the main topic? Topics 2) Based on each of those topics. TTP Options (Candidate Topics') Page 91 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4. For each of those Topics. Write each of those down. and write down the topic for each. directions you could "take" the conversation (these are the TTP Options.4. consider it a topic that leads to a TTP (copy each above into the "Topic" areas below). and interesting conversation. Topic a. list 6-8 different ways you could go.

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If this is a challenge for you. start to take the conversation there! Ask a question. making a statement.1 Summary MORE ADVANCED CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT More About Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Really Want. So. asking a question.. you may have to think of 6-8 options. 4) For each Topic. Do this for a while. make a comment. Assignments for Advanced Conversational Management 1) For the next week or so. Just do what you can so that the TTP shifts in a direction that can "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". and interesting. what next? At some point in the conversation. It WILL get easier. seductive things. etc. inquire about something. we are "steering" things more and more in a direction that we wish to go. Maybe start out by looking at conversation after the fact. 2) Now that you are able to quickly find 1 or 2 good TTP options for yourself that "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". really be aware of the TTP opportunities in your day-to-day life. but be especially aware of wanting to move things to "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way".. where COULD I have taken things". we focus further on the TTP options! Page 93 . This is best when applied to a conversation that is ALREADY fun. but the REAL key is to at least get to the point where you can very quickly think of at least 1 or 2 ways to go that "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". even things with some degree of sensual connotation to them. At first. maybe offer an opinion. which 1 or 2 would tend to "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way"? Which ones move things in a way that is best for you? Select two "candidates" and circle or highlight these two. don't worry. D8-T46 D8-T47 D8-T47 As you can see. 5) Practice again on each by moving things in the direction of the second item that was circled. we want to steer things more towards romantic. once again. fascinating.5 4.. 4.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Of the 6-8 different TTP Options you have written above for each Topic.5. what would it have been like to have moved the conversation in the direction of the first item you circled? Practice that out loud for each Topic above. thinking "what COULD I have done. until the process of finding 1 or 2 ways to go that "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way" in a conversation can happen very rapidly for you. whatever it takes. whatever it might take to move things in that direction. So.5 4.4. maybe by making a comment. positive.

then the focus shifts again towards directing things in a specific way. fascinating. and associating YOU with them! (See Figure 4. and focusing more and more towards areas and topics that work. and seductive things. you will have taken things in the right direction and this will be much easier. seductive things?" Figure 4.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Strategic Formula for More Advanced Conversational Management To further direct the conversation into even BETTER areas.5. Repeat.3-1.5. 4. fascinating.) Page 94 ."Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. Fascinating. steer the conversation towards romantic.5. seductive things is much easier after you have first move towards fun. seductive things?" Move the conversation in that direction.5. The focus now is upon topics that get you closer towards Romantic. However. This gets her mind into thinking more and more about these things. Moving towards romantic. Seductive things Tactical Formula for More Advanced Conversational Management Keep thinking .2 Steering Conversations Using More Advanced Conversational Management D8-T49 TTP Mantra (See Figure 4. and then topics that engage the emotions and imagination. positive and interesting thing. 4. This may seem odd or hard to do. and followed the other strategies and tactics shown earlier.3 The Model With More Advanced Strategy And Tactics In Place D8-T52 We are just closing in. if you have been in a conversation for a while.5. fascinating.2-1: Topic Turning Point Navigation for More Advanced Conversational Management After using General and Advanced Conversational Management. fascinating.2-1.) "Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic.

there is a different focus at each stage. Positive. Then the Advanced Conversational Management Techniques place the focus more upon items that involve the Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way.5. and Seductive. shown from point (1) to (2). General Conversational Management techniques place the focus on selecting items that are Fun. Fascinating. and Interesting. which targets topics and subjects that are Romantic. Early on. the focus moves towards selecting items based on More Advanced Conversational Management. moving to point (3).Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course More Advanced Conversational Management Model Figure 4. moving to point (4) Page 95 .. After that type of conversation has been established (3).3-1: More Advanced Conversational Management Model As the conversation progresses.

1 The 1-Shot Beeline Fallacy D9-T2 Guys assume that they will travel from a general topic. then a sensual one. and then . will work in your favor.6.6. that they will get an AMAZING reaction in their first movement across the Model. Too many guys are too caught up in this one-shot dream of traveling once across the model and getting an amazing result. and then an emotional one. (See Figure 4.6. to a positive one.6 CONVERSATIONAL FRACTIONATION D9-T1 Using these Conversational Management skills in the real world may be quite different in practice from the way most guys "think" it will happen.MAGIC! However that is NOT the way it works in the real world. and get things to be more and more fascinating and exciting. Moreover.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4. 4.1-1. the way it really DOES happen. Page 96 .) The Dream that Does Not Happen! Figure 4.1-1: The Dream of a 1-Shot Path To Success! A common misperception is that many guys think that if they can just move a conversation from the start. This hardly ever ever happens.

.. you may jump back just several steps in our Conversational Management Process.6. goes for some distance through the model (maybe all the way through).. g) Do the whole process over and over.. you go back towards something more "normal". the conversation ends up being very interesting and fascinating! 4. stay there and talk about it for a while. move on to the next step.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4. etc. This actually ADDS to the power and effectiveness of what you are doing. emotional and imaginative topics.31. you back off. restarts. You might do that on your own. or maybe the conversation shifts back to that place due to something she says. starts.2 How Fractionation Works D9-T3 The real world has stops.. Start at any topic (you are on the far left side of the Model) Move forward towards the right. Have fun. When we say "go back". e) Then move back (towards the left side of the model) This may happen because: • The person you are talking to does that (she asks a question) • Or maybe you do it (just to lighten things up) f) Then start again. You back up to a more general topic. and then . and fascinating and seductive topics.. moving through the model towards the right. No problem. no matter where you start. If you get to a very good place. Of if you can't seem to get to a good place. and then at some point. using the Conversational Management techniques Get as far through the model as you can. (See Figure 4. Use the language tools. So. No problem.3 Using Conversational Fractionation D9-T5 Start at some normal topic and move through the model towards the right... Great! Talk about that for a while. This is where a process is done repeatedly over and over. Maybe you move all the way back to a very "normal" topic (which would be all the way on the left side of the model). no matter how the conversation jumps around.) a) b) c) d) Page 97 . You just start the process again. So. Maybe several times. And again. you take a conversation from the early stages through the process. Just start the process again. here is how this works. In this way. Then you "back up" to some extent (even all the way back to a very general topic area) and then move forward across the model again. This actually works better! We are actually using Fractionation. you are always moving towards positive topics. Then at some point.6... Because no matter where you start from. Maybe you start from a very general topic and get all the way through the model towards a very very fascinating topic or subject. The conversation starts.6.

interesting.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Conversational Fractionation at Work Figure 4. As time goes on (5-12) the conversation gets into better and better areas. that no matter WHAT you talk about. Fractionation happens at times because even when you may be at a fairly good place for a while (8). simply back up (3) and then try moving into a better direction (4). at times maybe they move towards an area that is not too good (2). The overall trend is that. This is not a problem. there is a continued movement up and into better and better areas of conversation.3-1: How Conversation Fractionation Works on the Model Follow the conversation as it moves from (1) to (12). there is no such thing as a conversational "Dead End"! Page 98 . it ends up being fun.6. over time. it's not a bad idea to back up a bit (9) and then move forward again.4 Dead Ends Come Back To Life! D9-T6 With this new strategy of using Conversational Fractionation. As things move forward from (1). You become one of those fascinating guys. and fascinating! 4.6.

. and interesting? Move things in that direction. and go down another path! 4.7 CONVERSATIONAL OVERVIEW AND REVIEW D9-T7 So.. use the language tools as much as possible! D9-T8 • • • • • • • • • Keep moving the conversation into these interesting fascinating areas . When on good topics. Just back up. and use the Strategy and Tactics of the Conversational Management techniques! Look at "Dead Ends" as being just like a bad turn on a road. Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. Do that for a while and then think .2 What If The Outcome Is Not What You Expected? D9-T9 Despite your best efforts. or what you both have in common Move forward with the Strategies and Tactics in mind. o If you get to a good subject or topic.. • What if you can't make the conversation positive? • What if she always points out the negative aspect? • What if there is NO emotional engagement at ALL? Well. (think of your TTP options). with you! 4.1 • Conversational Management Approach Start on just about ANY subject. positive. or maybe negative. o Comment on what is around o Mention common items. you might have just found out that they are NOT someone you want to spend time with! That's not a total loss because you STILL learned more.. etc. seductive things? Move things in that direction.. Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Move things in that direction.. and the person becomes interested and fascinated. stay there for a while. —* The entire time: o If you hit a "dead end". have more material to use in conversations in the future! 4. and get the effect.3 Summary D9-T10 Go have fun with these tools! Page 99 . back up a few steps. No problem. how do we pull this together? 4.. Where can I go that is fun. uninteresting. use the language tools. this can happen.7.. Do that for a while and then think .7.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course If you happen to take a "wrong turn" somehow and get into an area of discussion that is boring. you just back up.. talked more. fascinating.7.

A topic is a particular area of discussion that is taking place in a moment. and that statement (regarding having actually talked to someone about the topics) will be TRUE! So. Most men may not be very familiar with many of the topics that we REALLY want to get into. What do you talk about? There is no substitute for experience.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 5.. fascinating. especially as they get more interesting. Themes vs. TOPICS OF ENTHUSIASM AND PASSION D9-T14 What are you passionate about? Few things are more compelling in a person than for them to be passionate about something (hopefully many things) in life. Topics • • 5. You will be able to say things like "I was talking to someone about this the other day.great! It's easier to use the language tools if you are discussing topics with which you are familiar. and THEY said. yes! How well can you talk about topics that YOU are passionate about while using many of the language tools we talked about in the earlier parts of the course? If you can do that very well .. what can we do here in this course to help you? We have talked about the way to talk and use language. The more experience you get. fascinating. Talking about these topics may be a challenge for many men. and while talking about subjects and topics that YOU are really passionate about. Can you talk passionately about something? Anything? Hopefully.". the more you talk to people about such things. However.) Before you can use the language tools with new subjects that you are learning about. the more familiar you will be with these topics. and then the more "material" you will have. then you may want to go back in those earlier sections. In the meantime. fun. to get the best effect you will have to be a PART of that conversation and familiar with the topics that may come up. and closer towards the subjects that will really serve your intent. we have talked about managing conversations. you should be able to use them with subjects in which you are already interested! Page 101 . and it's even better if you are passionate about those topics. so that YOU have some material. if using those language tools is problem for you.0 TOPICS D9-T11 What do you talk about? As the conversation gets more interesting. You want to be able to discuss these topics easily. some practice. However. and some familiarity with this type of thing.1 Themes are a way through a discussion or through the "tree of subjects" that we showed earlier. Now we want you to become familiar with topics that will really work well for you! We are going to work with some of these topics. go ahead and practice! (Or maybe do that the next time you go through the course. the easier it will get. this is something we can and will work on with you.

. can create an AMAZING effect! When you do get a conversation into an area near an SOT.just TALKING about these can create a good effect. but doing so while using the language tools. someone) some topics are easier to work with than others. stay there as long as you can! Talk about it. (Every guy has his favorites and ones that work best for him. feelings. The conversational management sections will help you to move the conversation in a way that will get you near these topics areas. at least. or near.Topics that bring up images and thoughts that are romantic. Seduction Oriented Topics (SOTs) . or cleaning the toilet. How good are you at the earlier sections that dealt with the language tools? It may be a good idea to go back over those sections. sensual. Your point is to get to. etc. but how effective are those as subjects given the "purpose" of the discussion? You want to discuss topics and things which deal with seduction.2 SEDUCTION ORIENTED TOPICS D9-T15 In the context of this course (and your intent in talking with . You may talk about cars. and seductive. or. Examples of SOTs • Connections • Going for it • Making good decisions • Surrendering to feelings • Getting excited • Feeling excited • Trusting your judgment • Taking chances • Indulgence • Maturity • Good decisions • . and link it to you! When • • • • • you are at or near an SOT: Use the correct tone of Voice Pace and Lead correctly Link things to you Point at the right times. a topic that is an SOT. but a good number of them.) Page 102 . or topics that are very close to that concept. 5. These are called "Seduction Oriented Topics". in the right way Use the language tools! You want to be familiar with these topics (SOTs) and able to discuss them easily: maybe not ALL of them.. or sports. work it. Topics that access emotions. or the office... excitement. in some ways. SOTs are the "end goals" when it comes to managing or directing a conversation. judge for yourself.. You want to be able to discuss topics that deal on some level with Seduction.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course So.. and emphasize discussing topics in which YOU are interested and passionate about.

and without "thinking" about the language tools.Are you able to somehow relate to these in your own life? Maybe something you read or heard? Maybe questions you can ask? ANYTHING?!?!? You do not need to "know" a lot about these topics or be an expert. Exercises for Seduction Oriented Topics 1) Build your own list of SOTs. or overhear from others) and listen for when any of these SOTs come up in conversation. or seduction per se.. but the more you think about them. Think of SOME way to discuss these. Page 103 . or joke about them.. the more you work with the materials. bring up images and thoughts that may work for you. Meaning. use as many of the language tools as you can. Get the conversation there. Write down your list of SOTs. or on TV. Eventually. or comment on them! Talk aloud for several minutes about each. and the more you talk to and with people about them. or ask questions. keep it there. the easier it will get! Strategic Formula for Seduction Oriented Topics SOTs are topics that. ask about them. you will be able to just "talk" about the subject while using the tools that are available. and discuss these subjects. and hopefully add some of your own. or even watched in a movie! (Or heard in a course that you took . the more you practice using the tools. and also topics that you have heard in other materials and products that you have. Or.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course These topics may seem foreign to you. by there very nature. Or are taking!) . You can use some of those that were listed earlier if you wish. and while there. have stories about them.. Think about other topics you have heard mentioned in this program. you JUST need to be able to talk. using as many of the language tools as you can. 3) Practice talking about each aloud. the more you practice. the easier it will be to "riff" on these using the language tools. Seduction Oriented Topics 2) You must become familiar with these! You must be able to talk about them. or in movies. easily. or anything like that. read. Assignments for Seduction Oriented Topics 1) Pay attention to conversations in your life (even things you hear on the radio. Don't worry about talking to women. hopefully some way that involves you and your own life. talk about something you heard.

Because of that. We learned how you can move from any topic."). Use as many of the language tools as you can. and easily come up with 6-8 related topics. They started and became more and more familiar with these topics. then the more material YOU will have to talk about. (As in. It may start a bit slowly and awkwardly. this is one of the key challenges that many guys face. ask what something means. 2) Now . 5.SOTXs D9-T24 What if you had not just 10 ways of discussing "Seduction Oriented" subjects. So can you. but as long as you start it. or even when anything CLOSE to one of your SOTs is discussed. They did it. after having worked with hundreds of guys.3 EXPANDED SEDUCTION ORIENTED TOPICS . That gives YOU more familiarity with discussing them. However. That's what we want to do here. SOT Summary I KNOW that these topics may seem foreign to you. "the other day I heard someone talking about. You do a few exercises to talk about them. what is said. You listen more to when they are discussed. You start to listen and take notice of when these are discussed.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Listen to what is being said. That is understandable. Page 104 .. etc. That makes you really think about them. Make special note of topics that are CLOSE or similar to these SOTs in some way. or even just TRY to do so. what people think. but this time with SOTs. I can tell you that it DOES get easier and easier to be able to talk about these things. The more you hear. See? We are working on a process to get you to become more comfortable and familiar with these things. the more you listen. ask an opinion. These are called Expanded SOTs (SOTXs). quote. but we are walking you through (at least the first steps of) the process to make this easier: • • • • • • • • • • • You have made a list of SOTs. Maybe ask some questions about things that deal with your SOTs.Talk about these subjects and topics! Make a point to enter into a discussion when one of your SOTs is mentioned. it WILL get easier. anything at all! Talk. Then you get to hear MORE people talk about them. and frankly. and move through these exercises and assignments.. and makes it easier for you to talk about them. show interest. However. but had even more? Maybe 50? What if that was easy and familiar for you? Think back to how we looked at topics earlier. Many guys who can now talk about these things VERY easily and comfortably started from a place of having NO idea of what to say! They changed. And that gives you MORE material to talk about! Which make it easier for you to enter into more conversations about these subjects and topics. it gets easier to enter into more conversations that deal with these topics. and start to get your brain working on them. make a comment. Really! Learning to discuss such things may start out slowly. ask. this process must start somewhere.. discuss.

with family . SOT Connections SOTX Connections with family Connections with friends Connections with coworkers Connections with pets Connections with a girlfriend Connections with someone you just met Connections with someone while on vacation Connections with music Connections with your teammates Many guys worry about talking about something like "Connections". .. can you think of different aspects of that? Parts of Connections? Questions about Connections? Ways of experiencing Connections? People or things with which you can experience Connections? By asking those types of questions (to yourself). but can you think of 6-8 different aspects of this? (Remember what we did in the earlier sections.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Expanding on a Topic Area "Connections" is an SOT.3-1.. or only one aspect of that to discuss (connections in a romantic or sensual context). etc. comes up in a conversation.. see Figure 5. That is one subject. (You do not really need to list "connections with" for each..with someone you just met . the SOTX list consists of all of these items shown in the diagram and listed below..with friends . it's easy to think of several different aspects of that topic or related topics. Instead of worrying about getting to that one topic (SOT) in a certain way.with someone while on vacation .with a girlfriend .. if friends. and build a whole list of very similar things to talk about -which are SOTXs! For example. and things that can be discussed. That just makes it easier for our example below)... family. Then.... how easy would it be to talk about how you CONNECT with those? And if you talk about Page 105 .. For any given SOT. how we discussed a Topic Turning Point?) If Connections is a particular subject. (Does that diagram look familiar?) If "Connections" is an SOT. you can take any SOT.with coworkers . coworkers.. you now have 6-8 ways to discuss it..with your teammates Figure 5. there are many different types or examples of connecting to people.3-1: How SOTs are related to an SOTXs. you can talk about that for while.. Look at the list above.. places.with pets .. However as we see here. They think of only one way of talking about that subject.with music . pets.

point out an example regarding pets. or different aspects of that topic. a. (Yes. SOTs " SOTXs List Page 106 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course THAT (how you connect in that manner) for a while. that you just met! When you expand SOTs in this way. how to connect with people.) Family Friends Coworkers Pets Connections A girlfriend Someone you just met Someone met on vacation Music Teammates Figure 5.3-2: SOTXs Can Lead Into SOTs If any of the topics in the SOTX list comes up in conversation. If you talk about that for a while.to .. all of a sudden there are many MORE ways to get to these really GREAT topics! Exercises f o r Expanded Seduction Oriented T o p i c s 1) Take the SOT list you had earlier (copy those down into the first column below. ask a question. you are to list 5 (at least) related topics. then you can shift towards ANOTHER type of "connection" very easily! (See Figure 5. you can be as close as one step away from an SOT.. b. This is your SOTX list. etc. or maybe even someone. and how you (or someone else) can connect with a pet.3-2.... then you can shift to talking about "how you can connect with a pet" fairly easily.) and for each SOT. or a special person. Just make a comment. if someone is talking about pets. or how that topic can be experienced. this is a TTP diagram in reverse!) For example.. c. it's very easy to then shift.

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Step back and look at what you have done! You have 10 SOTs with which YOU are familiar.) 3) Do the same thing again. That gives you a LOT of flexibility in conversations! Page 108 . then about connecting in general. (Like the earlier example.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 2) Now for each SOTX. and see if you can then focus what you are saying towards the SOT itself. You have 50 SOTXs that you are now familiar with as well. Talk about that SOTX for a moment or two. but now do so while using the language tools. practice talking about it out loud. then about connecting with pets. you talk about pets.

You will start to notice this... especially politicians and activists. broke it into bits and pieces that you can learn and do as exercises. Summary You now have MORE material to work with than you ever thought possible! This is not about memorizing. In addition. it is easy to then move the conversation towards topics that will work better for you (SOTs).. Page 109 .4 CONVERSATIONAL MODEL WITH SOTXs. it's about getting YOU comfortable and familiar with these topics. if you hear any of them mentioned. use the language tools if and whenever you can.. but it IS related to an SOT that I have worked with". you know that you are very close to getting near a subject area that will work very well for you.. modeled the process arid the steps involved. and move the conversation towards SOTs.with family . . The techniques that you have learned are the sort of things that many people do naturally. The more familiar you are with these subjects. Maybe you will even start to notice SOTXs that were not even ON your list. The real usefulness of this is when you reverse the order as shown in Figure 5.with your teammates Family Friends Coworkers Pets A girlfriend Someone you just met Someone met on vacation Music Teammates Connections This is how we developed SOTXs This is the most useful way of thinking of SOTXs Figure 5. 5. However.. . You may think. SOTXs are now like "conversational landmarks" for you in terms of navigating a conversation...Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Assignments for Expanded Seduction Oriented Topics 1) Look at all of your SOTXs! That's a LOT of subjects! Pay attention in your life to see how often any of those items come up in conversation (or maybe you just hear them somewhere).. It ALL gets easier! 2) Start to "direct" the conversations you encounter where your SOTXs are mentioned.with music .. The more you work with this. Good speakers.. If anything like an SOTX comes up in a conversation.with a girlfriend . "I didn't list that SOTX.4-1: SOTXs Are The Pathways To SOTs SOTXs are an easy way to get towards SOTs.. that process can work both ways.with coworkers .. use such techniques a LOT.with someone you just met .. D9-T32 We discussed how to develop an SOTX list from an SOT. the easier it will be to notice SOTXs. We have broken these down.with someone while on vacation .with pets Connections . See if you can move the conversation a bit towards the SOT itself..4-1. or anything like them mentioned.. concept of "topics related to a topic" in many many places. and then built upon that step by step. spotting these opportunities get easier and easier...with friends .

that this process will now be easier than you may have imagined. you have practiced with so many of these SOTXs. As the topics get better and better. and 50 SOTXs (in the earlier exercises) you now have many many SOTXs with which YOU are familiar! More importantly. It's to have you practice and become familiar with them. you have already worked with 10 SOTs and 50 SOTXs as shown in Figure 5. After all. we can then show them as part of our Conversational Model.. However in the figure above. we have had to compress or simplify them quite a bit and show only a fraction of the actual steps and numbers involved so that the diagrams do not become too large or complex.4-3 shows this in the model itself.without "thinking" about them. If you have followed the program. that is not an abbreviation or exaggeration.4-2: Your Multiple Pathways to SOTs! Now that you have worked with 10 SOTs.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course So whenever you are having a conversation. you have started to train yourself to "recognize" these landmarks. and anything like an SOTX comes up in the discussion. Figure 5. Page 110 . SOTXs SOTs Figure 5. In many of the diagrams. to be able to notice when you are talking about things which are "close to" topics that will work well for you. and for you to just start to "recognize" these things on your own . this will start to happen for you. you will get closer and closer to SOTXs.4-2. The point here (again) is not to memorize the SOTs. and done the exercises and assignments. and then towards SOTs. you now see how easy it can be to move over to an SOT! In fact. or the SOTXs. there are really 50 SOTXs and 10 SOTs shown .the number that YOU have actually worked with so far! Since SOTXs and SOTs are the "goals" in terms of managing a conversation.

Then move the conversation towards an SOT! This works. When you get to an SOTx. which are topics near or related to seduction (a step or two away from SOTs). SOTXs are a pathway to make that easier.5 THE COMPLETE CONVERSATIONAL MODEL D9-T33 Start from any topic and get to where you want! Yes.) Page 111 .5-1. then you can simply move things towards a topic that is very seduction-oriented! The point is not to have a "list" in mind. and using this type of approach you will have fascinating conversations with people that lead to where YOU want to go! (See Figure 5. then start to pay attention for SOTXs.4-3: SOTs Are THE Goals in Conversational Management As you move through a conversation.. or anything that is "related" to an SOT. You can start from almost ANYWHERE.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course SOTs in the Conversational Management Model The end goal is to get to. just follow the steps listed earlier in the Conversational Management sections. Move towards SOTs. you start to "listen" for topics that are SOTXs. Period. Stay there for a while if you can! Figure 5. and topics that are close to that (SOTXs). or as close as you can towards SOTs. you can start from just about ANY topic and get to GREAT topics! It's easy. and ANY TOPIC. it's that you have trained yourself to recognize things that are SOTs. SOTXs SOTs Listen for SOTXs Anything near or related to an SOT. 5.

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Fractionate If you take a wrong turn. or SOTX. back up! If you move back to a general topic. or very close! Page 113 . interesting . exciting...Engaging the emotions and imagination in a positive way . start over! Assignment! 1) Try it! Start directing conversations using the conversational management model.Fun. Especially when at or near SOTXs and SOTs.5-1: The Complete Conversational Management Model (continued) Start a Conversation Manage the Conversation Move the Conversation in a Good Direction Steer towards .. Steer towards .Romantic..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Figure 5.. fascinating. Steer towards .. and see how easy it is to get to some good topic that is an SOT. seductive things Direct the Conversation Pay attention when Good Subjects come up (SOTXs) Listen for anything a step or two away from an SOT Move towards SOTs Stay there as long as you can Use The Language Tools! As much as possible.

or "how can I bring up a pattern that I know". • An example of what you can say. think about having a conversation (and managing it correctly).0 6. "how can I get to my pattern". we have practiced the small details (language skills) so that these are automatic. • Driving . or "how can I bring this pattern up". plus these areas will work for HER because SHE selected them (in a manner of speaking) • Talk and manage the conversation into an area that DOES work for you. Don't think of "how can I get to the pattern". A representative sample. etc. The Pattern Formula in detail. and being aware of when you DO get to an area of conversation that does allow you to use a pattern. 6. It's best to just think of patterns as examples. and as "a way of speaking". get her to "experience" good feelings and states o Use the Conversational Management Techniques to get there o Get her to think about good and/or exciting feelings Page 115 . Its just a "type" of talking that you can (and will be able to) use when you feel it is appropriate. Use the language tools. Amplify these feelings and states by talking. asking. certain actions. clarifying. In the same manner. diagram.2 PATTERN FORMULA D10-T7 Tactical Formula for Patterns While talking to a woman. or navigation.Many of the details of driving a car are things you just "do". or could say. get her to "experience" good feelings and states. Present a Call to action. The navigation is handled through our use of Conversational Management techniques. With this new approach to learning and using these tools. A New way of thinking about the use of patterns • The wrong way is to talk to someone and to keep thinking. You practice bits and pieces of the sport. or model to be followed in making things. THAT ends up being a very effective way to create "patterns". or series of actions. We practice specific parts of areas of the skills we wish to use later on. the clutch. that's the key. "A plan" or "model". • While talking to a woman. • Instead.1 PATTERNS PATTERN OVERVIEW D10-T1 What is a pattern? • A plan. She may take the conversation into better places that you could have predicted. You don't have to think about moving the wheel. Once you actually play the game though. • Maybe talk to a woman and allow HER to bring up things that end up working well in pattern-like language. Examples/Analogies: • Sports . we work in that manner. Patterns are just examples of the use of these tools. handling the gas pedal.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 6.You don't play the entire game ahead of time. These smaller skills become automatic and you focus instead of driving. you make decisions on-the-spot as to what to do and how to proceed. Link and associate these feelings to you.

But.. In the real world. for her to elaborate and describe o Repeating back what she has said o Provide examples from your own life o Provide examples from friends.4 PATTERN RIFFING IN REAL-TIME D10-T13 This is the ability to just create pattern language on-the-fly. or things you have read. • The interesting topic that she and you are discussing o what is happening o what you know Page 116 . etc Link and associate those feelings to you o Use the Language Tools o Use linkage phrases like "now with me". they can. and real-time "Riffing". o Use "this" and "these" (be aware of that and those as well) o Point and mark appropriately Present a Call to action o "Do it now" language o Create a Challenge o Create an Opportunity o Talk about the chance to "Seize the moment" o A simple add-on to the Language Tools There are two main ways of doing patterns. but they assume that you are in a conversation where they will work and be somewhat "appropriate" to what is being discussed. asking. and to use what is needed in the moment. and the proper context is not created. pre-written patterns that you have seen and heard. these canned patterns DO have some usefulness. Therefore it is best to maybe have some of these memorized. canned patterns are good. don't focus TOO much on them. Pre-written. pre-rehearsed. when you are talking to a woman. and have them there for your use if and when the correct situation comes up. Some times that does happen. In THAT case . The problem is if you are SO focused on just "getting to the pattern" that you know (or even one of many that you know) then it's difficult to have a good conversation..." etc. sound quite strange. clarifying o Use the Language Tools o Asking her for info. 6. "Canned" patterns. if you just "drop" a pattern into the conversation.these pre-written or canned patterns can work very well. Their best use is when you use the Conversational Management techniques and then find that the conversation just happens to get to or near a pattern that you DO happen to know already. "this person. However. So. because doing so may work against you. many times it does not. what you need to do is to look at. The good ways to use these are as teaching and learning tools. and do. 6.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • o Get her feeling good and/or exciting feelings o Get her experiencing (or recall the experience of) good and/or exciting feelings o Get her to think about things that she wants or desires Amplify these feelings and states by talking.3 CANNED PATTERNS D10-T12 These are the pre-rehearsed. and that the woman will react to what the patterns is about.

and sensual things. emotions. THE BEST PATTERN IS THIS: • • Get her to talk and think about positive. get her to. Then you have a conversation and.. Yes. looking and listening for positive feelings. Wanting to take action or seize an opportunity Always • • • • See the pattern here? We are in general. and and use the language tools. and actions in the conversation.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • o what she is reacting to o and discuss things which are appropriate. • Use some "act now" languaging. Use the language tools so that YOU become associated with those things. it really IS that easy! look for: Positive emotions and feeling Positive sensations (as in physical ones) Exciting feelings. Then we use those as a basis for discussion. • Talk about these things or listen to you talk about these things • get her to think about these things • get her to feel these things • get her to link them to you.. using the tools. states. exciting. Page 117 . interesting.

SOTs) 4. Now we can look from the "top-down". 1. Keep her there and keep talking! a. Use the Language Tools 5. D10-T27 Listen to the full explanations. 7. Keep the conversation going. Fractionate if and when needed.0 7. D10-T28 The more energy and effort you put into this. and really take the time to do the exercises. and/or compulsion to act a. Use the conversational management techniques b. you will benefit. focusing first on small details.5 CONGRATULATIONS! WELL DONE! D10-T29 Page 119 . Create a willingness. 7. of fourteenth time through. Get the conversation into good subjects (SOTXs. Use the Language Tools 7.1 REVIEW AND SUMMARY REVIEW D10-T18 The course has followed a "bottom-up" approach to training. comfort in. Talk about something positive and interesting c.2 SUMMARY D10-T26 This may be similar to information you have heard in the past. Direct the conversation in a way that takes you toward good topics a. but the method of approaching it is very different. Both you and her talk! 2. and view an overall strategy. Engage her emotions and imagination in a positive way.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 7. DO THE EXERCISES. -' d. It really is up to you.3 LISTEN. a. the greater your results will be. 7. AND FOLLOW THE COURSE. a. fifth. Use the conversational management techniques b. and the more engaged you are in the process. and then building up to bigger and bigger pieces. and how you speak. 3.4 BE WILLING AND PREPARED TO PUT ENERGY INTO THIS COURSE. Whether its your first. We really are focused upon changing you. Direct and/or link those feelings towards you.

0 EXAMPLES.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 8. EXAMPLES. and provide you with some real-world examples of their use. Page 121 . EXAMPLES Dll-Tl The discussions presented on the audio for this section are intentionally "casual" to familiarize you even more with the use of these tools.

• If I were to . or Chest? Pacing And Pausing Use variations in pace. Mouth. emotions. • Instantaneously " Suddenly • Find Yourself • Convince Yourself • Suppose • Imagine " Mysterious (-ly) • Wonder (-ous) (-ously) Weasel Phrases Use Weasel Phrases to keep the conversation going. Voice Tone And Tonality Use your best tone of voice (speaking from your chest) to convey a relaxed. " As you. and well-placed pauses. • Have you ever . Pause? Energy And Enthusiasm Using energy and enthusiasm when speaking so that people can become energized and enthusiastic about listening to and being with you. allowing you to say more (and maybe more provocative things) about a subject. • If you were to . to be cool. o o Page 123 . to convey a sense of drama and intrigue in what you are saying in a way that "captivates "people and makes them want to listen to you. and to "soften " the way in which something is said. Fast. use Adjectives And Adverbs Trance Words Help to get the subconscious mind of the listener to be more of apart of your conversation. • What's it like when . and charismatic presence. powerful... • Slow.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course APPENDIX 1 Course "Cheat Sheet" • SPEAKING POINTERS o The "Cool" Factor You don't have to be cold.... • Nose. so that their feelings. and processes awaken.. • Passionate or Boring? o o o • LANGUAGE TOOLS A N T D E T A I L S o Adjectives And Adverbs Use more adjectives and adverbs in your speech to appeal to and excite the emotional side of the listener. • Be descriptive.....

intrigue. Point away • Positive statement. gesture. point or gesture towards yourself. Those • Positive statement.. touch them to help anchor it to you. a smile. • Move! Point! Linking Gestures Towards And Away • Whenever you say something negative. link them to you so that YOU become something and someone that they feel good about • Now with me • In me • In myself • with this • these • this belief • these feelings Easy-Linking • Use "This" and "These" when referring to anything positive. allowing you to move things more in your favor later on Page 124 . Linking After getting someone to experience good feelings and emotions. laugh. and accentuate what you are saying in order to be more compelling as a speaker and to get even more attention from your listener or audience. Point to you • Negative Say "those". to create a compelling will on the part of the listener follow you and listen to you. Point away. interest. • Whenever you say something positive. Point to you • Negative statement.. o o • MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures Move. point or gesture away. etc. Say "this". • Point Or Touch On Positive —* o o o • LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES o Pace And Lead Pacing and Leading allows you "be " in the conversation for a while and gain rapport and information. That. Say "that". Say "these".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o Embedded Commands Use embedded commands repeatedly and in the proper context. These. Easy Linking Expanded Pointing With This.. • Can you do this now. Easy Anchoring When the person you are talking with displays a positive feeling of some type. • Use "That" and "Those" when referring to anything negative. motion.

etc. etc. • Topics and Subjects • Mindset or Frame of Mind • Current Reality • As (while) you are "X" (Pace) Where "X" is something that is true in their current reality (perceptions. • As you X. or to maybe see if you can get someone to agree to it! • a. B. in order to provide more power to what you are saying • At The End Listing at The End is a way to provide several options (which may differ) but to emphasize the option that YOU want. etc. experiences. the More Z. Then start to move or shift things in a different way. you can get away with an outrageous or very direct option by burying that option in the middle of a List. the More Y. "List" several things or examples which support your point. and incorporate the language tools • This thing vs that thing • How two things are similar • How two things are different • Good . and C When making a point. • Request X because (of) Y. keep the discussion focused on a topic that serves your purposes.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Show agreement. Compare And Contrast Use this technique to keep the conversation going. More And More If you want to lead someone through a series of steps (actions. The more Y. statement. b. B. and/or interest. • a. and C When making a point. a way that you want.another option o o o Page 125 . or giving an example. but mention the one which YOU want to put the most emphasis on.) • Then you will "Y" Where "Y" is something you want them to experience (Lead) o Give Them A Reason Giving a reason will make people more apt to do things for you and agree with you. Listing • General Listing General Listing is a way to quickly provide several reason. and c When giving examples or options to someone. or giving an example. The More Z. the more Y. LAST • Burying Items Listing . understanding. which support your point • A.Bad • One option . the More Y. acknowledgement. thoughts. or thoughts) use "More and More " as a way to string them together (and increase your chances of that happening • The more X. "List" several things briefly in order.Burying Items is a way to mention an outrageous or very direct option for "testing" purposes. statement.

\ Universal Wants You can assume that most people want these.... o Opportunities And Challenges • Find out what someone wants.. • Take any subject.. or show it. • You seem like . • Link good thoughts.. • If you are able to . or fun.. • I wonder if you can . feelings.. • You may . • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control Particular Wants What does she want to have... feelings and emotions to yourself. • Using Their Own Processes • Find or assume what someone wants • Create an opportunity for them to get it or demonstrate they have it • Make that "demonstration" work in your favor.. • Use the language tools in the discussion. • Are you able to . do it. and evoke favorable states. • The smart people I know. to be a way for them to get what they want.. or point in a discussion. • You might see . • If you can ... or want to be perceived as having? • Talk to them and find out. Parts Of A Person Use Parts of a Person as a way to find. • You seem as if... feelings and emotions. can (use smart.. allowing you time to gather information and link yourself to good thoughts.... • Challenge them to demonstrate it.. assume there is a part that will work WITH you. —* • • • Page 126 ... • etc. idea.. discuss. or adventurous. • You might. etc). even when the other person claims or demonstrates that such parts are NOT there • For every part of a person that will work against you. • Find a way to map what YOU want. • Challenge them to do that. and beliefs.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o Parts • • Parts Of A Subject Discussing many of the parts of a subject keeps the conversation going. Mini-Challenges • You seem. • Break it down into its component parts and discuss them. • Maybe you can .

she may have to do Y to prove that.. • Topic Turning Point The process of moving from one topic to one of 6-8 relevant topics • In general. Consider the wants and needs that a person may have . • Don't engage in conversations when it's NOT about positive.. Are they ready to take advantage of that (this) opportunity? • Does she really want X and see how Y can get that? • Does she really have X. and interesting?" " Move the conversation in that direction. then . interesting things. positive and interesting."Where can I go that is fun. fun..-and do Y to get it? • Can she do Y and make it happen? • Can she see that Y will get her what she wants? • Can she trust herself enough to do Y? o • Ambiguities — CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT o General .. Creating Them -. General Conversational Management To steer the conversation in a good direction. interesting things • Keep thinking . • Navigation Don't think of an exact plan... • Introduce topics that are fun.. by doing Y? • Does she want you to THINK she has X. fun.. • Repeat.. steer the conversation towards directions that engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way o o Page 127 . fun. bring up positive.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • Opportunities. interesting things. listen and be IN the conversation! • Conversational Dynamics Topics flow from one to the next. positive. think of general navigation • She Must Be Engaged In The Conversation! You need her to talk. • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control " • Excitement Challenges Challenge them to get what they want. • Can she see an opportunity to have "X". and see how doing Y would demonstrate it?> • Does she have what it takes to get X. or show what they have. Advanced Conversational Management To direct the conversation into even BETTER areas. •• Show interest when someone discusses positive.

Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Move the conversation in that direction. fascinating. back up a few steps. stay there for a while. by there very nature. seductive things?" " Move the conversation in that direction. fascinating. steer the conversation towards romantic.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • o Keep thinking . and while there. • Repeat."Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. • When on good topics. keep it there. • Connections • Going for it • Making good decisions Page 128 o . and interesting? • Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? • Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. use the language tools. seductive tilings? • The entire time: o If you hit a "dead end". • Keep thinking . o If you get to a good subject or topic. and get the effect. Conversational Fractionation • Using Conversational Fractionation • Start • Move • Back Up • Repeat • Dead Ends Come Back To Life! • Just back up and start over! Conversational Overview and Review • General Flow • Start on just about ANY subject. positive. More Advanced Conversational Management To further direct the conversation into even BETTER areas. • Where can I go that is fun. Get the conversation there. bring up images and thoughts that may work for you. fascinating. and seductive things. Seduction Oriented Topics SOTs are topics that. Repeat. use the language tools as much as possible! • What If The Outcome Is Not What You Expected? • Move on! o o • TOPICS o Topics Of Enthusiasm and Passion Few things are more compelling in a person than for them to be passionate about something (hopefully many things) in life. use as many of the language tools as you can.

The Complete Conversational Model See Appendix 2 o o • PATTERNS o Pattern • • • • Formula While talking to a woman. • Direct . o Canned Patterns .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • • • • • o Surrendering to feelings Getting excited Feeling excited Trusting your judgment Taking chances Indulgence Maturity Good decisions Expanded Seduction Oriented Topics . Link and associate these feelings to you.SOTXs For each SOT. and • Look for: o Positive emotions and feeling o Positive sensations (as in physical ones) o Exciting feelings. Amplify these feelings and states by talking. Present a Call to action. Page 129 o .. there are easily 6-8 variations on that SOT that you can talk about. Those are STOXs. clarifying. • Manage . o Wanting to take action or seize an opportunity • Use the language tools.Great as EXAMPLES • Learn and know some of them they may be useful. o Talk about these things or listen to you talk about these things o get her to think about these things o get her to feel these things o get her to link them to you. get her to "experience" good feelings and states.Use the conversational Management Techniques..Look out for SOTXs • Direct 0 Move towards SOTs. Conversational Model With SOTXs. Pattern Riffing In Real-Time • Use the Conversational Management techniques to get to good subjects • Look at the interesting topic that she and you are discussing o what is happening o what you know o what she is reacting to o and discuss things which are appropriate. asking. • Get her to.

interesting. exciting. o The Best Pattern Is This: • Get her to talk and think about positive. and sensual things. • Use the language tools so that YOU become associated with those things Page 130 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • Use some "act now" languaging.

Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course APPENDIX II Speaking and Language Tools "Cheat Sheet" • SPEAKING POINTERS o Voice Tone And Tonality o Pacing And Pausing o Energy And Enthusiasm LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS o Adjectives And Adverbs o Trance Words o Weasel Phrases o Embedded Commands o Linking o Easy-Linking (This.. These.. That.At the End • Burying Items o More And More o Compare And Contrast o Parts " Parts of a Subject • Parts of a Person o Opportunities And Challenges • Mini Challenges " Opportunities And Challenges o Ambiguities • • • Page 131 .Point Or Touch On Positive And Negative LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES o Pace And Lead • Topics and Subjects • Mindset of Frame • Current Reality o Give Them A Reason o Listing " General . Those) MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures o Linking Gestures (Towards And Away) o Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This. That.) o Easy Anchoring .

Seductive SOTXs SOTs The Complete Conversational Management Model Page 133 . Fascinating. and Interesting Advanced Mgt. Romantic. Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way More Advanced Mgt. Fun. Positive.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course APPENDIX III The Complete Conversational Management Model The Complete Conversational Management Model General Mgt.

fascinating. interesting . Especially when at or near SOTXs and SOTs.Fun. Steer towards .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course The Complete Conversational Management Model (continued) Start a Conversation Manage the Conversation Move the Conversation in a Good Direction Steer towards .. positive.Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way ... seductive things Direct the Conversation Pay attention when Good Subjects come up (SOTXs) Listen for anything a step or two away from an SOT Move towards SOTs Stay there as long as you can Use The Language Tools! As much as possible. back up! If you move back to a general topic. Steer towards . start over! Page 134 . Fractionate If you take a wrong turn.Romantic....

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