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Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course
A structured training program that teaches the language and conversational skills of Speed Seduction .
Speed Seduction is a registered trademark of Ross Jeffries, used with permission.
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course
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Page No. Title Page Legal Notices Table of Contents Product Content Product Protection and User Consent Formatting and Conventions Acknowledgements Forward Registration Important Note About Exercises and Assignments 1.0 INTRODUCTION AND GETTING STARTED i ii iii vi vi vii ix x xii xii 1 D1-T1 Disk and Track No.*
1.2 1.3 1.4 1.5 1.6 2.0 2.1 2.1.1 2.1.2 2.1.3 2.1.4 2.2 2.2.1 2.2.2 2.2.3 2.2.4 2.2.5 2.2.6 2.3 2.3.1 2.3.2 2.3.3 2.3.4 2.4 3.0 3.1 3.1.1
Why Is This Course Needed? What We Will Handle, and How Investing In Yourself, Or Not Can We Change The Way You Speak? Manipulation and Ethics Concerns SPEAKING AND LANGUAGE
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Speaking Pointers 7 The "Cool" Factor 7 Voice Tone and Tonality 7 Pacing and Pausing 9 Energy and Enthusiasm 10 Language Tools and Details 12 Adjectives and Adverbs 12 Trance Words 13 Weasel Phrases 15 Embedded Commands 17 Linking 19 Easy-Linking (This, That, These, Those) 21 More Tools 23 Pointing and Gestures 24 Linking Gestures (Towards and Away) 25 Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This, That, These, Those ...) 26 Easy Anchoring - Point Or Touch, On Positive 27 Review 29 LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES Pace and Lead General Pace and Lead Techniques 31 31 32
* Disk and Track Numbers References to the CDs and the tracks on them are shown in a format such as "D2-T4", which in this example refers to Disk 2, Track 4.
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Page No. 3.1.2 3.1.3 3.1.4 3.2 3.3 3.3.1 3.3.2 3.3.3 3.3.4 3.3.5 3.4 3.5 3.6 3.6.1 3.6.2 3.7 3.7.1 3.7.2 3.7.3 3.7.4 3.8 3.9 4.0 4.1 4.1.1 4.1.2 4.1.3 4.1.4 4.2 4.2.1 4.2.2 4.2.3 4.3 4.3.1 4.3.2 4.3.3 4.3.4 4.3.5 4.4 4.4.1 4.4.2 4.4.3 4.4.4 4.4.5 4.5 4.5.1 4.5.2 Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects Pace and Lead-Mindset Or Frame Of Mind Pace and Lead - Current Reality Give Them a Reason Listing General Listing Listing - At The End Listing - Burying Items Listing, Pauses, and Emphasis.. Listing Review More and More Compare and Contrast Parts Parts of a Subject Parts of a Person Opportunities and Challenges Using Their Own Processes What Do People Want? Mini-Challenges Opportunities and Challenges Ambiguities Summary CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT Challenges Detailed and Specific Plans Are Just Not Workable Navigation Example Navigational Strategies Are Needed She Must Be Engaged In The Conversation! How Conversations Happen Conversational Dynamics Conversational Model Topic Turning Point General Conversational Management Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Want How To Steer Conversations, Moment To Moment The Model With Strategy and Tactics In Place Exercises and Assignments Summary Advanced Conversational Management Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Really Want Steering Conversations Moment To Moment The Model With Advanced Strategy and Tactics In Place Exercises and Assignments Summary More Advanced Conversational Management More About Getting The Conversation To Go Steering Conversations Using More Advanced 33 35 38 39 41 41 43 45 48 48 48 51 54 54 58 61 62 62 63 64 69 69 71 71 71 71 72 72 72 72 73 77 79 79 81 82 83 86 86 86 88 88 91 93 93 93 94 Disk a n d Track N o . * D5-T12 D5-T20 D5-T29 D5-T32 D6-T1 D6-T4 D6-T15 D6-T24 D6-T36 D6-T37 D6-T38 D6-T54 D7-T1 D7-T4 D7-T15 D7-T34 D7-T36 D7-T38 D7-T40 D7-T43 D7-T64 D7-T66 D8-T1 D8-T1 D8-T3 D8-T4 D8-T5 D8-T10 D8-T12 D8-T13 D8-T14 D8-T15 D8-T16 D8-T16 D8-T19 D8-T23 D8-T25 D8-T32 D8-T33 D8-T33 D8-T35 D8-T38 D8-T39 D8-T46 D8-T47 D8-T47 D8-T49
4 4.7.3 4.0 5.6.3 5.1 4. Do The Exercises.4 7. 94 96 96 97 97 98 99 99 99 99 101 101 102 104 109 111 115 115 115 116 116 119 119 119 119 119 119 121 Disk a n d Track N o . EXAMPLES v i e w .2 6.1 5.5.2 4.2 5.6.2 7.3 5.2 4.. APPENDICES I II III Course "Cheat Sheet" Speaking and Language Tools "Cheat Sheet" The Complete Conversational Management Model 123 131 133 Page v ..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Table of Contents (continued) Page No.3 4. * D8-T52 D9-T1 D9-T2 D9-T3 D9-T5 D9-T6 D9-T7 D9-T8 D9-T9 D9-T10 D9-T11 D9-T14 D9-T15 D9-T24 D9-T32 D9-T33 D10-T1 D10-T1 D10-T7 D10-T12 D10-T13 D10-T18 D10-T18 D10-T26 D10-T27 D10-T28 D10-T29 D11 .7.5 8. and Follow The Course Be Willing and Prepared To Put Energy Into Congratulations! Well Done! EXAMPLES.7 4.1 6.4 5.6.SOTXs Conversational Model With SOTXs The Complete Conversational Model PATTERNS Pattern O v e r Pattern Formula Canned Patterns Pattern Riffing In Real-Time REVIEW AND SUMMARY Review Summary Listen.0 7.6 4.3 6. 4.0 The Model With More Advanced Strategy and Tactics In Place. .1 4..4 7.0 6.3 7. .6.5 6. . ..1 7. .7. EXAMPLES. Conversational Fractionation The 1-Shot Beeline Fallacy How Fractionation Works Using Conversational Fractionation Dead Ends Come Back To Life! Conversational Overview and Review Conversational Management Approach What If The Outcome Is Not What You Expected? Summary TOPICS Topics Of Enthusiasm and Passion Seduction Oriented Topics Expanded Seduction Oriented Topics .
Not every track number is listed. . Since the work book is an "outline" and not a transcript. The relationship between these two can be best described by considering the workbook text to be (for the most part) an "outline" of what is presented in the audio. and the italics are simply used as a way to show a different manner of emphasis.As shown to the right Towards the right margin of section titles and headings. Graphics are used in the workbook as well. Text within graphics.Italicized Text is used for emphasis in many cases where boldface text may by nearby. This shows information that could be considered part of an overall "outline" of what the audio presentation contains.e. It is also used for subject headings so that these stand out and apart from the normal text. or major points in the workbook. The written text is NOT a transcript. However these conventions are guidelines. i. items are presented in a list-like fashion such as this: • Item 1 • Item 2 • Item 3 • Etc. Italics are also used to point the reader towards specific content of the audio CDs. Listen to the audio where an example is presented. Lists . graphic captions.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Formatting and Conventions The following formatting.A majority of the workbook content is shown in this typeface (Times New Roman. styles. If the graphic cannot fit there (due to page breaks) then the graphic is placed on the next available page.. There are certain conventions used in the formatting of the workbook. Page vii . The graphics in the latter sections are significant in that they are an essential part of the understanding and leaning.Boldface Text is used to emphasize certain text or passages. these are in most cases presented as a way to augment the content of the audio presentation. Italicized Text . and Assignments are all shown using this typeface (Arial.that is simply to show a list of related items. Therefore most of the track references are shown at the start of major sections.. graphic titles. Although there are paragraphs of explanatory text. A majority of the workbook is presented in an "outline" form. or clarity. and to make it easier to reference those items at a later time. The audio is NOT an exact duplicate of the text shown in the workbook. D3-T5 CD Track References . and their use is key to many students' understanding of the concepts presented. Samples of the formatting and conventions used: Typefaces .At times. Exercises. and conventions have been developed and are used throughout this transcript/workbook. a "sans-serif typeface). a "serif typeface). there may be instances when the conventions are not used for the sake of emphasis. Usually the graphic is shown on the page immediately following where that graphic is first mentioned in the text. Boldface Text . and the Formulas. there is not an exact place in the book that correlates to the start of each and every track on the audio CDs. This shows (for example) the Disk (3) and the Track number (5) that corresponds to that part of the workbook contents. CD Location References are shown using terms such as "D3-T5" in the text.
Text Boxes .If a graphic has text that helps to further explain that graphic. . -2. Most exercises can be done alone. there are instances where the definitions may be clouded to some degree. Each Formula is presented in its own "text box" as shown here. and the "A" indicates the number of the graphic within a section itself (i. or technique. For example. there are cases where text boxes may actually "break" across two pages. and Assignments are shown inside boxes such as this. Exercises. Similarly. or maybe and Assignment can be done alone by the student. Although the difference between Exercises and Assignments is maintained through most of the workbook. This may require that a graphic be placed on the next page after where it is first mentioned (instead of being directly below where the graphic is first mentioned in the text). then that text is shown immediately below the graphic using an indented paragraph such as this. This also may result in some page breaks being in places which are not optimal. but that is a necessity due to the complexity of the book. Page viii . fact. Page Breaks . Candidate Topics Figure XYZ-1: Graphic Title Sub-paragraph .1 . This is shown below. The number is in the format of "XYZ-A" where "XYZ" denotes the number of the section where the graphic is placed. an Exercise may require interaction with other people.The workbook is laid out to minimize the amount of blank space where reasonably possible. Formula. A Formula is a way to present a concise explanation of some item. Assignments usually requier the reader to go out and interact with other person(s) in order to perform them correctly. -3) to account for multiple graphics in one section of text. Although this is not optimal.e.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Each graphic has a number and a title of some type.Text boxes are used for very specific purposes in the workbook. Exercises are a series of instructions that call upon the reader to do or perform certain actions. it is required in order for the "flow" of the book content to remain consistent. Assignments also call for action on the part of the reader.
To my coaching clients. teachers. Special thanks to my friends. and those who have entrusted me to teach you and to guide you. and what is possible in their lives. who helped me by allowing me to help them. Yates Canipe. who have placed their trust in me and allowed me the experience of showing them new and wonderful possibilities for what their lives may have to offer. Dave Riker Page ix . Thank you. most notably Hypnotica. and MD.insight and teaching that I think is possible. and students (we are each all of these and more) in the TAGR Group.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Acknowledgements The first and foremost acknowledgement goes out to Ross Jeffries himself. MC. and for the assistance they provided with this product. EVS. and have opened the door for me to find many ways of self-improvement and understanding. and to help you in finding the Women or Woman of Your Dreams. SM. the creator of Speed Seduction . mentors. and this wait may have annoyed a few people. Ross's developments have lead not only to helping many men with this part of their lives. The main reason is that I do not wish to release any product until I believe that I am able to provide the level of quality. / must apologize to some degree for the time it has taken to finish this product. I may miss a few sales because of such a delay. To the many experts out there who have augmented the SS teachings by showing me other aspects of the mind. To Dr. Working with these clients was especially instrumental in formulating and perfecting the concepts and teaching methods used in this product. associates. colleagues. and to all of the Students out there who I have met at Speed Seduction® seminars. DM. SP. .. but have also shown many the way to a new way of living. those who have read what I have written. and who has also contributed greatly to helping men change their minds about themselves. who was the business genius that brought Speed Seduction® to the masses through seminars and products. To those in the original SD Lair group. but I sincerely hope that the results will prove to have made the wait worthwhile.. JL. confidants. opening the door for many into the world of self improvement. To all of you.
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You will have this way of speaking as a PART of who you are and what you can do! Guys need to be trained. you can change the way you speak as well. and what works in the field. pay attention. you will do so in the future and use these techniques as well. along with spaces for written responses where necessary. Welcome to Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course. This workbook is meant to studied along with a series of audio lectures that are recorded on CDs. This program is based upon experience with countless students. 1.1 INTRODUCTION AND GETTING STARTED OVERVIEW Dl-Tl Welcome and Thanks. The purpose of this workbook is to: • • • Provide an outline of the material covered in the audio program. You are already on your way! This course works on many levels. Provide additional explanation of some points that are covered in the audio program. So even this "intro" section is starting to work for you. some people do this naturally. but this will help you if you are not. Listen to it. We will be teaching you the detailed language skills that will really help you. there is a need. These techniques all need to sound and be "natural" to actually be effective. consciously and subconsciously. You are not going to sound like this or talk like this all of the time! Just in the way that you shift and change how you speak now in different situations. Language Skills What works? What makes the successful guys able to use these technologies? Partly it's the ability to actually "talk" in this manner. Conversational Skills The ability to manage conversations is needed as well. Present a series of exercises and assignments. Instructions for each are provided.0 1. Page 1 . then on some level.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 1. and get the full benefit of everything this course has to offer. We will teach you ways to easily manage conversations so that they go in interesting directions. Some guys don't need this. seeing what is needed. If you are her "type" you don't need this. and "reprogrammed" in a way. If you follow along and do the exercises. and on you as well. to use these language skills naturally as just a part of the way they speak.2 WHY IS THIS COURSE NEEDED? D1-T10 If you are here.
listening. Sure. but if you are "thinking" too much. but it's really YOU talking! Guys are too focused on "how can I use this" when in a conversation.Seduction Oriented Topics Patterns and Riffing Examples Dl-Tl5 What Methods Are Used • Describe and explain the details of the techniques • Explicit examples of how the details work • Examples throughout and within the discussions • Examples section at the end. listen.3 Major • • • • • • • • WHAT WE WILL HANDLE. how it is learned. some of the ways that you speak now will be reprogrammed so that speaking in a new way will be natural. respond to input immediately . This is a term that will be used throughout this course. that is important. and how people speak. talking. so let's define and explain it for you. In a way. Other parts of the language tools you may have to "think" about. • Exercises to develop understanding and skills • Assignments for you to do in the field.. and be a part of it..Enthusiasm and Passion Topics . but that's your left brain talking! We are reprogramming many years of your experience... interacting. many times! • In fact we have already started! Where Does This Material Come From • From SS Teachings. so we need to approach this in many ways. Not inside your head "thinking" about "how can I use this?"! 1. • Other teachings about language. some things will sound quite familiar. • Working on several "levels" of you mind at once • Models to arrive at an overall understanding • Left brain and right brain are both addressed • Conscious and subconscious minds are both given what they need for real understanding and retention. • Things may seem to "repeat". must react to a steady flow of new information without interruption. Real Time "Occurring immediately . Guys need to be able to just "do this" and "talk this way" in REAL-TIME. then you are not actually IN the conversation! You need to be engaged in a conversation.. not a "trick".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course You have to be PROGRAMMED to do this so you can have a conversation. You need to integrate skills to the degree that they ARE a part of who you ARE. for a while at least. responding. Page 2 . AND HOW Topics Speaking Pointers Language Tools and Details Conversational Management Conversational Fractionation Topics ." Guys need to stop the worrying about "Doing something wrong" It's only "wrong" if you are TRYING to do or be something you are not..
keep those copies to yourself. However.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • From personal experiences and how I used the materials. However. The Ways To Study And Use The Product • Listen to the CDs. the emphasis here is training you to do it for yourself. Changing that will take some time. and who may "try" to listen to the course. Other SS products will work well. and engagement. • Having a good social life will help you.4 INVESTING IN YOURSELF. and this is much easier if you have an active life where you can have many conversations. new. a concept that was brought up earlier. • Be prepared to have a place to practice for this course! You will need to be able to speak out loud to do many of the exercises. • Follow along in the workbook if you can • Do the exercises and assignments! • Listen over and over. do whatever you need to do to listen to this course a LOT. listening multiple times in any setting also has a lot of benefit. • Is there an "optimal way" to use the product. and being open to what benefits this program can bring. If they just "try" it. and this journey. The best way to listen to this course is while also reviewing the workbook (especially in the conversational management sections). or revised? Yes. effort. • This may seem complicated but the point is to get you SO familiar with the tools that you become the guy who does this! Some Very Important Points • Find all of your current SS products and inventory them. or not? There are various ways. The Mind-Momentum Principle At Work • Get energy. effort. that YOU just DO. Is this information. do it! But please. You will need them because you will have assignments that deal with these. many of these people will be those negative types of people that will then dispute the benefits of this program! Why? Because THEY have not invested anything into it! Not just in terms of dollars. there IS some overlap and duplication with other products and systems. 1. If you need to make your own copies for use in multiple locations. From working with clients and seeing what worked and how they were able to change. they aren't really putting themselves INTO it. OR NOT D1-T24 Any real change requires you to make an investment in yourself using energy. as assigned or as required. the more you put into it. By embarking upon this course. • Get that "Mind-Momentum" going to help you change and improve. both audio and written materials. and engagement into your effort to really learn and use these materials. Be wary of those people who may want to "borrow" a copy. but in terms of THEM really being willing and ready to change. In addition. Also maybe get a romance novel or two. see what works for you. We are reprogramming years and years of you "speaking" in a certain manner. to give you a real roadmap to actually learn the material. do the assignments over and over! • Be patient. • Get some other written material to work with for this course. So. However. making it a part of YOU. • Listen to other products in conjunction with this product. do the exercises over and over. the more you will get out of it. you are doing just that. Page 3 . Many of the assignments will deal with talking to people. and a few women's magazines as well. Applying a structured methodology of step-by-step methods.
kids are taught about language. It Is Possible! .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course People must be engaged in the process to get its benefits. etc. Immersion is the key. its a memorized "thing". sentences.5 CAN WE CHANGE THE WAY YOU SPEAK? D1-T26 Is this really possible? This sounds difficult. will not benefit. paragraphs. Don't let their lack of willingness to improve themselves. you heard it. It makes guys nervous. where you learn skills piece by piece. But that's not how you learned to talk! You learned to talk when you were a child . but only indirectly. Then it's about a "performance. You keep trying to "remember" things.by hearing others around you speak! You were IMMERSED in language. consequently. Imagine having to "think about" how to talk. Most people want to approach this by learning bits and pieces • • That's good in a way. 1. at every moment! Some people want to try to memorize. some models. there is no "right" way or "wrong" way. there is a "right" and "wrong" way to do it! But if you are just TALKING. Also progressive exercises. where you use the skills in the real world. And actual assignments. Not as congruent. You will end up "memorizing" thing to some degree.But This Is A Different Type Of Learning. How People Initially Learn How To Speak • • • • Sure in middle school. It's less effective. • • • • • • • • This might be good as a learning TOOL. its YOU being YOU! You cannot fail at being YOU! The approach in this course is different. but to then USE it in conversation is difficult. Plus it's not YOU talking. at will Engage in conversation Manage conversations Yes. about grammar. • • • • • • You will get some details. some structures." So. trying to "remember" what to say. you heard it in context. you heard it a lot. because you will hear it so much! But a LOT of what is being conveyed here is learning by EXAMPLE. hold you back. just being YOU. Those who are not. But it's tough to do that. then its easier. and you started to form the ability to speak and communicate based upon that! Page 4 . Can we literally change the way you speak? • • • • • • • How you select words Create phrases Form sentences Pick topics Speak passionately. because it addresses that analytical part of your mind.
"it's not me" or "I am just using a trick or technique". • Break it down into small parts. Examples • • Explicit examples. and be more of WHO YOU ARE. like when I say "here is an example" Implicit examples. which we go over and over. deep ethics issues and blocks many guy's success.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course This Course Uses Many Techniques To Train You To Have Workable.6 Many guys have been uncomfortable with using many of these skills. more a part of YOU. Various Training Methods • • We use a lot of repetitive training methods so that these techniques have a better chance of becoming "automatic". We will have you become familiar with the range of ways of speaking and sounding. based upon feelings that when using them. we will change the way you talk so that it will be easier. trade. how you communicate. or craft. so that you will have more ability and more flexibility to do what is appropriate MANIPULATION AND ETHICS CONCERNS D1-T32 1. Page 5 . Real-World Skills. and who and what YOU are! Using these skills will be less of an "act". Exercises and Assignments to Teach You the Skills • Skills Training like any sport. where I am just DOING these things all during the program. This causes some real. With THIS approach HERE. it's not about throwing something AT her. more natural.
0 2. but giving the impression that there IS more.2 Voice Tone and Tonality D2-T2 Listen to some examples of different tones of voice. and says a lot about you. and read it aloud. The audio section demonstrates these options quite well. etc. We will work on this here in this course. focusing on the back of your throat might make this easier to do). 2) Read some more of that material out loud. how they make you feel. but if you really want to work on this even more. but because it's appropriate to the situation. how interesting you are. not out of nervousness. calm. Cool does NOT mean to be boring and to put people to sleep while talking! The coolest people are the ones that are FUN to talk to and fun to be with! You don't have to be cold. do this for several minutes. there are great products and examples of this elsewhere. That's what women like.1. 1) Take some of that reading material. that there is a "fire" beneath the surface. to be cool.1. Too many guys "try" to be cool but actually come off as COLD or even worse. "Cool" comes from being calm and sure of yourself.1 SPEAKING AND LANGUAGE SPEAKING POINTERS The "Cool" Factor D2-T1 D2-T1 Guys want to sound "cool". even some of the materials from other products. reserved.1 2. and what people like in general. Your tone of voice really conveys a lot about who you are.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. focusing on generating your voice from your nose. something you are interested in. Why is this important? • Great voice tone conveys comfort. 2. and this time focus on speaking by generating the sound from within your mouth (or. how calm you are. Examples: One way to think of this is to consider "where" your voice is generated from in your body. and even goes a bit over-the-top to really help you to understand what is being discussed. how they sound. That's the "allure". there ARE products that focus JUST on this area and you may want to invest in those. That "cool" feeling comes from being calm and speaking in a relaxed fashion. a sense of being relaxed and calm • It also allows you to express some energy and excitement at different times. Listen as the examples demonstrate: • Speaking through the nose • Speaking through the mouth • Speaking from the chest Exercises for Speaking Pointers Grab some reading material of some type. BORING. This is good as long as it's not BORING. If this is a challenge for you. Read several paragraphs. Page 7 .
Make notes below as to when it happened. and whether or not you DID it! Day/Time Who you spoke to Situation (Where) Did you DO it? Page 8 . and where you are speaking from (your nose. make a note to yourself as to how you are speaking.in the real world! To get the most benefit from this course. Relax. Can you recall how you spoke? Did the way you sound in that situation sound like any of the examples you just did? See the similarity? Assignments for Speaking Pointers These are your first real assignments in the course. See how relaxed it actually makes you feel and how you really need to BE relaxed to do this! 4) Take a moment. Make notes below for some of the conversations and see if you can see a correlation between these items. Focus on dropping your voice down from your nose/mouth. with whom. make note of how you felt (nervous. relaxed-confident). Real-world experience will really help you to not just "know" the skills. Day/Time Who you spoke to Speaking from? How you felt. mouth. and recall some time in the recent past when you were kind of nervous or fearful. really make a note to speak lower. it's important that you do what you can to REALLY make a point of doing these assignments. SOUND relaxed. comfortable. Assignments are where you are given a real task to go out and do . or chest). Also. 1) Over the next few days when speaking to anyone. 2) In the next few conversations you have with people. where you were. but to actually HAVE the skills. but this time really focus upon generating the sound from deep within your chest. and make them a part of who you are. and really focus on having that voice generated from your chest.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 3) Now read some of the material.
There are many variations: Listen as these are demonstrated • Hurried showing nervousness • Hurried showing excitement • Slow as in hesitant and/or confused • Slow in a way that is deliberate and relaxed Exercises for Pacing and Pausing Grab some reading material of some type. or don't quite understand the content. Something you are interested in. and this time focus on reading in a quick and hurried fashion. as we discussed in the past section. Why is • • • this important? Correct pacing and speed of delivery conveys comfort. and charismatic presence. Read several paragraphs and do this for several minutes. deliberate. Speaking too quickly can show tension. in a manner that makes you sound as if you are very confused.) Assignments for Pacing and Pausing 1) Over the next few days when speaking to anyone. 4) Now read some of the material. and then far far too slow.1. first very very fast. or almost a sense of panic. (Maybe even be aware of where your voice is coming from. but go ahead and convey excitement in your voice! 3) Now read some of the material. relaxed. even some of the materials from other products. but this time read it in a slow. Focus on reading in a very hurried fashion as if you are very nervous. 2) Read some more of that material out loud.3 Pacing and Pausing D2-T15 Listen to the examples where some various pacing is demonstrated. make a note to yourself as to how you are speaking in terms of your pacing and pausing. Being able to vary your pacing and pausing can help a lot to convey a sense of intrigue and create interest. 2. comfortable manner. powerful. but this time read it slowly. and shows that the speaker is relaxed. Too fast? Too slow? Hurried-nervous? Hurried-excited? Slow-confused? Page 9 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Strategic Formula for Speaking Pointers Use your best tone of voice (speaking from your chest) to convey a relaxed. 1) Take some of that reading material and read it aloud.
Who cares? Why does this matter? • Most guys are just TOO BORING. and if you DID it! Day/Time Who you spoke to Situation (Where) Did you DO it? Strategic Formula for Pacing and Pausing Use variations in pace. start to focus on changing your pacing and pausing. It's good to have the ability and range to display passion. dead-end conversations. By doing this. If they do or say something that is interesting to YOU. Make note of when... When someone else is being boring. Day/Time Who you spoke to What type of pacing and pausing? 2) For the next few days. • This also allows YOU to convey how interesting someone ELSE is as well. Page 10 . to convey a more relaxed and deliberate manner. just make a note of this after-the-fact and write that down below. who. you get stuck in fewer boring. 2. then you can show more enthusiasm. and well-placed pauses. YOU act boring.. enthusiasm. where.4 Energy and Enthusiasm D2-T26 Listen to some examples of how this can sound . to convey a sense of drama and intrigue in what you are saying in a way that "captivates" people and makes them want to listen to you.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Slow-relaxed? You don't have to change it yet.1. energy. or bored. and excitement when appropriate. • If someone else is being interesting. YOU can show an appropriate amount of energy and enthusiasm.
1) Watch and listen to some speakers talk about a boring. BE BORING and show no enthusiasm at all. their tone. which bores you. Again. maybe sports. whatever it is. Assignments for Energy and Enthusiasm 1) Over the next few days. Really pay attention to how they speak. 2) For the next few conversations you have with people where you ARE interested in the subject. and that are excited about. even some of the materials from . your car. monotone voice. and how much (or little) energy is conveyed. etc. something you are interested in. that a good speaker can really grab your attention with their energy and enthusiasm. 2) Watch and listen to some speakers who use a lot of energy and enthusiasm when they are talking! Really pay attention to how they speak.. Page 11 .. taped lectures. do that for 10-15 minutes. When you respond or talk back. and how much (or little) energy is conveyed. energetic voice. their tone.. Exercises for Energy and Enthusiasm Grab some reading material of some type. animated. 4) Get some written material that really DOES interest you. 6) Take that earlier written material about the subject that you are NOT interested in and that really bores you. Again. their pace. and BE BORING.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course The audio section demonstrates more details about sounding boring/bored and also sounding as if you have energy and enthusiasm. go ahead and SHOW your enthusiasm! Be energetic in how you speak. Do this for a good 10-15 minutes. 3) Get some written material that you have NO interest in. how you listen. Think as if YOU are convincing a group of people how great this is! Maybe your Dream Job of a lifetime is dependant upon YOU speaking well and showing how passionate YOU are about this! Do that for a good 10-15 minutes. go ahead. whenever someone is talking about something boring. monotone. make sure it is something that YOU are passionate about. women. 5) Take that written material that really does interest you. their pace. your work. do that for 10-15 minutes.. Note how even if the material is something you do NOT care about. bland. bland voice with no energy or enthusiasm. and how your respond. Strategic Formula for Energy and Enthusiasm Using energy and enthusiasm when speaking so that people can become energized and enthusiastic about listening to and being with you. other products. and read that aloud in a boring. and read THAT aloud in a way that DOES show energy and enthusiasm! Make that sound as convincing as #4 above. technical presentations. Watch on either TV. Read it OUT LOUD in an exciting. Read it OUT LOUD in a boring. dry topic.
Day. Examples • Car reviews • Movie Reviews • This course! Exercises for Adjectives and Adverbs 1) Find some written material that deals with something where people are speaking passionately about some subject. Page 12 . add more descriptive terms to it. Adjectives will describe THINGS (nouns). and stress the adjectives and adverbs in it. Note whom you were talking to. out loud. nouns and verbs.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. and make note of the adjectives and adverbs in it. and more ways of talking about processes.. while Adverbs will describe ACTIONS (verbs).. talk about each thing or subject again. These words modify or in some way describe. • Their use must be automatic. and the subject you were talking about. not the logical side of a person. 2) Read it.1 Adjectives and Adverbs D2-T40 Listen to an example where many of these are used in descriptive language. Do this for each of the conversations listed above. They sound cold. boring. but this time. you should be able to do this for at least 3-5 minutes each. and uninteresting. feelings.2. sports. 4) Think of three recent conversations you had when you talked to someone about something that you REALLY liked. but must be done over and over. they are not things that can be measured or specified. whatever. or they are too factual and leftbrained. Who you spoke to Subject 5) Now. Most guys are too dry in their speech. Most men could be helped by having more descriptive speech. Cars. It's good if YOU are also interested in it. If you really like this subject. and sensations. we are working to appeal to the emotions. use more Adjectives and Adverbs. Re-live it. talk about it in a descriptive way. (Maybe highlight them in some manner.) 3) Read that text OUT LOUD. Maybe say those adjectives or adverbs and put more energy into those words and emphasize them in some manner.2 LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS D2-T39 These are the Bit And Pieces • These are the sort of things that can be powerful. Remember. Most Adjectives and Adverbs are qualitative. because to have to "think about" using them is almost impossible! • You need to be TRAINED TO USE THEM automatically. 2. movies.
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Assignments for Adjectives and Adverbs 1) Make note of the next 3 times you are having a conversation which deals with something that YOU are really into. Act like you are really having the conversation again. 3) Practice out loud how you would have said those things in each of the three conversations. Trance words are words that "call upon" the subconscious mind in order for them to be processed and understood.2. Write down what the subject was.2 Trance Words D3-T1 Listen to an example where many of these are used. is listening and more engaged in the conversation. 2. Be descriptive. Trance words help to "open the person up" so that their subconscious. Start with just a few of them. make sure to use some of those adjectives and adverbs in your descriptions. They are not "analyzed" in a conscious. emotions. and with whom you spoke. factual. Strategic Formula for Adjectives and Adverbs Use more adjectives and adverbs in your speech to appeal to and excite the emotional side of the listener. and processes awaken. their emotional side. b. so that their feelings. and c above). that you are passionate about. that you really enjoy. "paint a picture" with your words. 4) The next several times any of those subjects come up in conversation. or objective manner. and then maybe add some more as time goes on. Trance • • • • • Word List Instantaneously Suddenly Find Yourself Convince Yourself Suppose Page 13 . Day Who you spoke to Subject 2) Write down a few adjectives and adverbs that you could have used in each discussion (refer to a.
Highlight or circle the Trance Words in a few sections.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • Imagine Mysterious (-ly) Wonder (-ous) (-ously) Think of any subject. Subject b. political speakers. and make it more interesting? Well. and see how many of those Trance Words you can use. talk about it. 5) Take the written text from an SS product (maybe from #3 above) and read it out loud. or school. like advertisements. Boring Subject Page 14 . but also see if you can add some to the list. almost boring or mundane thing. You can copy the ones you saw listed earlier. work. Think for a moment about using those trance words to describe that subject. 4) Get your SS audio materials and listen for Trance Words (maybe even THIS course here). see and hear if you can pick out when the speaker is using Trance Words. Trance Word List 2) Watch or listen to some material where people are speaking passionately about something. placing an emphasis on the Trance Words when you see them. See how many you can notice. Looking at the list of Trance Words above. 3) Get out your written SS materials and look for Trance Words (maybe even use THIS course here). Maybe play one tape or CD. 6) Pick two subjects in which you are interested. Maybe refer to some of your other SS products and see how many more you can find. or religious speakers. Look at the Trance Word List above. Now speak OUT LOUD about that subject. talk OUT LOUD about that subject and see how many times you can use those Trance Words! Subject a. that's the point! Exercises for Trance Words 1) Make a full list of Trance Words. even something concrete like your job. and see if you can pick these out. 7) Pick a subject that bores you. With that list of Trance Words (above) in hand. something that you think is dull. See how many you can find and notice how they are used in context. sportscasters. Write them down below. Doesn't that make it sound kind of "mysterious"? Maybe more exciting? Maybe you can take some normal.
. Just do whatever you can to start using some of them at first. Subject a. to get from one subject to another. Practice working with those subjects out loud some more and see if you can get even more comfortable using Trance Words when talking about those subjects. doesn't that make it-sound more "exciting". and more fascinating? Assignments for Trance Words 1) Pick two subjects in which you are interested. and using more and more as time goes on.3 Weasel Phrases D3-T14 Listen to an example where many of these are used. How do you talk about something without REALLY talking about it? How do you bring something up that may be a bit different.2.... 2) Integrate a few more of these words into your every-day description of those subjects. As you .. more interesting.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Even though that may seem a bit strange. that's what Weasel Phrases are for! Weasel Phrase List (see if you can add to the list by listening to the audio). Strategic Formula for Trance Words Using Trance Words will help to get the subconscious mind of the listener to be more of a part of your conversation. • • • • • Have you ever . These also work as transitional phrases. because it may be a bit too forward? Well. What's it like when ... The next time you are speaking with anyone about those subjects (in the real world guys!). Use them when talking to different people. maybe even a bit odd? Maybe even a different topic or change of subject? Or maybe something that you were worried about bringing up... If I were to . If you were to . Page 15 . Subject b. make a point to use at least one of the Trance Words in the conversation. 2..
Talk about THAT one for a few sentences. make note of the weasel phrases. and see if you can string things together so that they sound better. after another. but selecting different Phrases to link the aspects together. It will get easier. Do this until you use all 4-5 of the attributes that you listed. 4) Pick a subject in which you are interested. etc. the subject might be "going to a ball game" (pick your own. don't use that one!) Now talk about one of these 4-5 aspects for 1-2 sentences. (Weasel Phrases tend to provide ways to connect sentences and paragraphs that talk about how something is felt and experienced. the experience of it. 3) Take the written SS materials you had earlier. doing it. Subject Page 16 . Pick 3 of them that seem the most natural to you. sensing it. that seem as if they fit best into your way of speaking about subjects that you may like. Just read the SS material out loud. etc. see if you can use some or all of your favorite weasel phrases when talking about it. getting into it.) Pick 4-5 different aspects of this "experience" that you will talk about. and read some of this material out loud. we want you to talk about how it FEELS. 2) Note the subject that you used earlier for doing some exercises with Weasel Phrases (exercise 4 above). Try it again. then use another Weasel Phrase. 5) Did that sound weird? Strange? Ok . saying one slowly or quickly. 2) Get your SS audio materials and listen for some Weasel Phrases.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Exercises for Weasel Phrases 1) Get some of your written SS materials and look for some Weasel Phrases in the text.. While doing it. In a moment. This is necessary to have the kind of words and subjects that lend themselves to Weasel Phrases. and do so with an awareness on some level that you are saying and using weasel phrases when they are in the text. Use different Phrases. Assignments for Weasel Phrases 1) Look at the list of Weasel Phrases that you wrote earlier. that it makes more sense. The next several times that you talk about that subject with anyone. Maybe play one tape or CD. Take a moment and try to emphasize them in a way.. See if you can pick these out. Maybe pausing for a moment before one. For example. and then use one of the Weasel Phrases and the bring up another "aspect".
just general things that would cause a person to be interested in something. Just say this stuff out loud. • Repetition . that you are saying and using embedded commands at the time. and to "soften" the way in which something is said. once.It's very important that the command be brought up in the context of a conversation that is interesting. While doing it. "get excited".It's not just about using one. but just general things (feelings or states). a place you have traveled. Pick something that excites you! Maybe the subject is sports. and where the person's emotions or feelings are somehow active (This "context" issue is discussed later in the product in great detail in Conversational Management sections. on some level. These are not to be sexual or suggestive. or more quickly. when separated from the context. 2. etc. that you want them to experience. • Context . saying one slowly. Again not "you like that color". its about multiple usage (bombardment)! Exercises for Embedded Commands 1) Get our your written SS materials (written) and look for embedded commands in a few pages of the text. and do so with an awareness. Think of general statements.4 Embedded Commands D3-T25 Listen to an example where many of these are used. Take a moment and try to emphasize them in some way.2. "see how fascinated" . or experience while they are thinking about that subject. 2) Get your SS audio materials and listen for these. Two key aspects of the use of Embedded Commands are often overlooked. feelings. Like "feel excited".. think of it like this. Write down things that would make someone interested. or "you want this" (car). Make a point to "lean on it" a bit.). Page 17 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Select another subject that really interests you. issue a "command" or statement that instructs someone do something. allowing you to say more (and maybe more provocative things) about a subject. and read some of this material out loud. maybe pausing for a moment before one. Maybe play one tape or CD. maybe a car. feel. 3) Take the written SS materials. etc. things you would like a listener to think about. make note of the embedded commands. "get into it". lets say you were selling something to someone. excited by something. Write down a list of embedded commands. To make it easy. after another. intrigued. Subject Strategic Formula for Weasel Phrases Use Weasel Phrases to keep the conversation going. 4) Pick a topic that YOU are very interested in. instead "you like this" (car). your car. your job.. These are small snippets of words and phrases which. and incorporate Weasel Phrases into the next several discussions you have about that subject as well. or feel a certain way. See if you can pick out embedded commands while listening. "this is what you have imagined having for yourself.
Page 18 . out loud. to create a compelling will on the part of the listener follow you and listen to you. 4) The next several times that subject comes up in your life. but something where being influential may help. just enough to put the emphasis on the command. Write down a list of at least 5 commands that work well in that subject. or maybe it has to deal with your job. Maybe slowing down slightly. See how natural you can make them sound. see just how many of the embedded commands in that list that YOU can say! First. in the context of talking about that subject. Subject Embedded Commands 3) Practice the use of those commands. or school. and make it sound natural. Maybe it's not a passion or real interest. Strategic Formula for Embedded Commands Use embedded commands repeatedly and in the proper context. Assignments for Embedded Commands 1) Look at the list of Commands that you wrote and practiced that deal with a subject in which you are interested (exercise 4 above). Maybe you work in sales. The next several times that you talk about that subject with anyone. make some effort to use some of these commands in the context of a real discussion. start using a few of these commands when speaking. 6) Do the same thing again. but now focus more on "leaning" on the embedded commands a bit. 2) Select another subject that is a part of your life. changing your voice. and with that list that YOU wrote in hand. work on just saying them and finding a way to bring them up. that would assist you in being more influential. Start to place some emphasis on the command itself.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 5) Start talking about that topic out loud. pausing.
make note of where linking is taking place. and then making an ambiguous reference to that feeling using your words. • • • • • • • Now with me In me In myself with this these this belief these feelings Exercises for Linking 1) Get our your written SS materials (written) and look for examples of Linking in the text.While listening to the audio. if you are talking about a great feeling of excitement that a woman has had or is having. you speak of "this feeling". on some level. Maybe play one tape or CD. See if you can pick out Linking Phrases while listening. 2) Get your SS audio materials and listen for these. However. • However. If she is experiencing these feelings in your presence. and getting her to experience. In some ways. and inexact.5 Linking D3-T42 Linking is a way to take the feelings. using some of the techniques that have been discussed in this course (pausing. then to the deeper levels of her mind. You can also make reference to "in me". which is ambiguous (non-exact).Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. it's easier than you think! Just talking about a subject and getting her to be a part of the discussion. and talking to you. • In order for her to understand the feeling being discussed. as long as there is good rapport). The most common linking phrase/tool that guys think about is the phrase "now with me". and read some of this material aloud. "in myself. and experiences that are being discussed and associate or "link" them to you. and make this "link" even more effective. she has to actually feel it to some extent.) Page 19 . ALL of those possible definitions apply! Then. emotions. What is this based upon? • When talking. non-specific. she has to feel it on some level (and she will. "this interest". you are talking "about" a feeling or sensation. 3) Take the written SS materials. and feel emotions. recall. etc. Linking Phrases . when you say "this feeling". which is an ambiguous way of referencing what she is thinking about. also "this" and "these" as in "this feeling" of "these feelings". While doing so. then on some level that is creating this "link". For example. the linking tools and techniques will add to this. etc. you become more associated with those feelings. Are you talking about the "feeling" she had at some time in the past? Are you talking about the feeling she is having right now? • Because you are using terms like "this". change in voice tone. while looking at you. you are being ambiguous.2. Just to "process" what is being discussed. Take a moment and try to emphasize the linking in some way. see if you can add more phrases to the list below. will "link" them to you.
it's much better if picked up along-the-way. This may seem strange and sound a bit "off". As you hear more and more examples of this throughout the course. Embedded Command Linkage Phrase 5) Pick a topic that YOU are interested in as we did before (it can be the same one you used in Exercise #4 in section 2. Start talking about that topic out loud.4). A quick way of doing this is to simply add "this feeling". work on just saying them and finding a way to bring them up. (Again. Assignments for Linking No separate assignment for this. where you listed "feel excited". you could say "feel excited by this" or "feel excited now" (you can also link things by putting in a reference to NOW). but now focus more on "leaning" a bit on the Linkage Phrases. Doing linking in an exercise like this is difficult and hard to make it sound "natural".) For example. You can even add the ever-popular "now. and see if you can "add" text to each to link them to you in some way. see just how many of the Embedded Commands and Linkage Phrases that you can use in your dialog. "these feelings". and using the list above. This will sound easier for you as we go on. Plus the next section will make this much easier! Strategic Formula for Linking After getting someone to experience good feelings and emotions. this will come to you much more easily. 6) Now do the same thing again. "this person or thing".2. or change your voice.2.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4) Take the list of embedded commands that you created in an earlier exercise (Exercise #4 in section 2. the linking is ambiguous and doesn't reference you directly. pause. Page 20 . Maybe slow down slightly. etc. just enough to put emphasis on the Linkage Phrase. with me" after one of more of the commands in your list. In some manner. link them to you so that YOU become something and someone that they feel good about. That's ok. Write down the list of commands and an associated linkage phrase for each below. First. Another example would be to take the phrase "Get excited" and turn that into "get excited by THESE things".4).
• This person. but do so in a general manner. so you are not using a name or specific reference. that feeling • This sensation.Possessive • Those . For example. for that multiple-instance bombardment that we spoke of before! The idea of linking wild. Those) D4-T1 Listen to an example where many of these are used. these and those are plural • These . This means they are ambiguous! Consider this and that.Possessive (sort of "includes" something) • That . this & that are singular • This . that sensation They differ though in that "this" seems possessive. These. (In some cases. and "that" is not. but that will be quite obvious when you try to do that).Non-Possessive (seems to reference something "else" or something "away") Consider these and those. there are times when they cannot be switched. and one is not. those feelings • These sensations. So. those directions • These feelings. In this case. those people • These directions.2. Given that one type is possessive. in general. one "thing". That. This is a new and very effective way to do linking that is easy to learn and master. Whereas "that person" refers to someone "away" some "other" person who is not in the immediate area. So. and it can be done a LOT. • These people. those sensations So. that person • This direction.6 Easy-Linking (This. use the possessive form when saying or talking about ANYTHING POSITIVE and use the non-possessive form when saying anything negative! Page 21 . with "these" being the possessive form. Consider four words in the English language: • This • That • These • Those These are forms of pronouns. with you. these refer to plural items. who cares? Well these are almost interchangeable! You can switch this/that in sentences as you wish.Non-Possessive For example. or not there at the time. exciting. a GREAT strategy is to link anything and everything positive to you (and link negative things away from yourself. that direction • This feeling. seductive feelings to you may be great but. they reference a "thing".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. and included. "this person" tends to sound like the person that is there. This and that tend to refer to singular items.
and those depending on whether the item is positive or negative. These. or singular/plural. ' 3) Earlier in the workbook. Those are not. 2) Say the lines below. This is good. using the correct versions of That. Small sentence that includes that attribute. for a good ten minutes. write a small sentence for each. out loud. Write down (below) ten attributes. That person is not. out loud. Subject: Attributes or "things about" that subject. Use "That" and "Those" when referring to anything negative. for a good ten minutes. These. That. For each of these attributes or things. Those Page 22 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • This That These Those Singular possessive Singular non-possessive Plural possessive Plural non-possessive Anything Anything Anything Anything Positive Negative Positive Negative You can learn to do this (to choose which of these words to use) in real-time through training! Tactical Formula for Easy-Linking Use "This" and "These" when referring to anything positive. That is not. Those people are not. and the correct form of This. Exercises for Easy-Linking 1) Say the lines below. you have discussed a subject (and written a lot of text about it) that is important to you. This person is good. These people are good. These are good. or "things about" that subject. That.
and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. That. and Those. Subject: Attributes or "things about" that subject. and once again. Great speakers use movement to their advantage. using the appropriate form of This. D4-T13 Page 23 . These. Those 6) Talk out loud about the subject mentioned above for a good 5-10 minutes. These sections help to train you in these types of techniques. Anchoring Anchoring is associating a feeling or emotional state to a sensory experience. list ten attributes or things about that subject. Small sentence that includes that attribute. and their movement becomes a part of their communication. That.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4) Talk out loud about that subject for a good 5-10 minutes. 2. beyond the small bits and pieces of language. and then write a small sentence for each. These. and the correct form of This. 5) Pick another subject. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking.3 MORE TOOLS D4-T12 Now we are getting into a different area.
Subjects Page 24 . so these techniques discussed here will help. and that you are passionate about.3. BE excited! Use your hands and arms for emphasis. They may be a bit over-the-top (speaking to an audience is different than speaking one-on-one) but just watch them for a while. Don't flail about wildly. point up. Then later on see if you can start to become aware of what your hands are doing WHILE you are in the conversation. have energy.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Many different types of anchoring can be done and we are only going to cover some very basic tools. 2. after the conversation has ended. political speaker. and hopefully the conversations are interesting. Get your hands OUT of your pockets and AWAY from your body! Act excited. or even a preacher. Move! We will start by generating SOME movement. etc). We will break down many of the component parts of this into skills that we will teach you bit by bit. embedded commands. How often are they in your pockets? How often do they just lie by your side and never move? Make note of this after-the-fact. How to • • • do this: Get your hands out of your pockets. and that you end up talking about with people quite often.1 Pointing and Gestures D4-T14 Good speakers use their hands. towards. etc. Watch how they move. and way from your sides. and some gestures. 2) Get one of the text lists from an earlier exercise (weasel phrases. However we will focus on things that can create a LOT of effectiveness. make note of where your hands are when speaking. Read some of that text (from an earlier exercise) out loud. so that the use of these becomes automatic. and away from yourself. etc. maybe a motivational speaker. Pick something YOU are interested in. Use your hands to accentuate certain points. to help make their point. 2) List 3 subjects that you really enjoy. and that are very very easy to do. Assignments for Pointing and Gestures 1) For the next few days. talking about a subject that YOU are interested in. and to do multiple times. down. passionate. Most guys are too boring and too reserved when talking. and then we can work on deliberate movement such as • Pointing towards and away from things • Towards yourself and away from yourself Exercises for Pointing and Gestures 1) Find a good speaker on TV.
That. and once again. and then write a small sentence for each. 5) Pick another subject. Great speakers use movement to their advantage. Anchoring Anchoring is associating a feeling or emotional state to a sensory experience. beyond the small bits and pieces of language.3 MORE TOOLS D4-T12 Now we are getting into a different area. D4-T13 Page 23 . and their movement becomes a part of their communication. These. That. and Those. list ten attributes or things about that subject. Subject: Attributes or "things about" that subject. Small sentence that includes that attribute. 2. using the appropriate form of This. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. Those 6) Talk out loud about the subject mentioned above for a good 5-10 minutes. These sections help to train you in these types of techniques.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4) Talk out loud about that subject for a good 5-10 minutes. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. These. and the correct form of This.
etc. Read that out loud.. Page 25 . gesture. point or gesture towards yourself. and MOVE! Do this out loud. make a point to get your hands OUT of your pockets. 3) With these three subjects in mind. Bring Positive things toward yourself. and send Negative things away • You can point towards or away from yourself. gesture. arms.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course For each of these subjects. This technique allows you to do this many many times. As you get more comfortable with this. • Or hold your hand away from yourself (to send things "away") How to use it • Good to do in the context of being a person that already MOVES when talking! • Make this subtle. or at least be able to move. ANYTHING. Strategic Formula for Pointing and Gestures Move. and animate to some extent the next time you talk about them. just start to MOVE. away. point away. no need to WILDLY gesture! • You can do this many many times. motion. Bad (gesture towards. very easily. Whenever you say something positive. away. and MOVE. Bad.2 Linking Gestures (Towards And Away) D4-T22 This is a fast and easy way to link positive states to you. point towards yourself. and when anything negative is mentioned. Good. and to send negative things "away" from yourself. and AWAY from your sides and MOVE when talking about these subjects. towards. or • You can place your hand on your chest or abdomen in a subtle manner (to link things to you) .). Do your best to re-enact that discussion (say what you said. 2. and the repetition works for you! • Can do in various contexts. Say the following out loud while gesturing in the correct direction: Good.. and every time something positive is being talked about. recall a recent time when you had such a discussion. Do something. but this time use your hands.) 2) Grab some of your written SS materials. many people move when talking This technique is most powerful when used at a time when emotions and/or imagination are engaged in the conversation. etc. point or gesture away. Exercises for Linking Gestures 1) Stand up.3. Tactical Formula for Linking Gestures Whenever you say something negative. make a note to go ahead and move. and others. and accentuate what you are saying in order to be more compelling as a speaker and to get even more attention from your listener or audience.
. Those" correctly Combine these and use them at the same time! When you say This or These. point towards yourself and when anything negative is mentioned. These. Use "This. Do this out loud. Those . point away. (yes. motion away or place your hands/arms away. Conversely. Start subtle..) D4-T30 Now we bring together Linking Gestures and Easy Linking. Exercises for Easy Linking Expanded 1) Stand up. Point away Positive statement. points towards yourself. etc. have energy. Pick something that YOU are interested in. That. but you don't have to do it every time! That will seem strange! Tactical Formula for Easy Linking Expanded Positive statement. point away. gesture towards yourself or place your hand(s) on yourself. Point to you Negative Say "those". make a note to go ahead and use these Linking Gestures to some extent the next time you talk about them. When you say These or Those. it will become easier and easier. or at least sit where you can move. Do the following out loud: Page 26 . 2. Point to you Negative statement. etc. Linking Gestures and Easy-Linking together: • • • Use the pointing/gestures on Positive and Negative things (point towards and away). That. and that you end up talking about with people quite often. and every time something positive is being talked about. Subjects Do your best to re-enact that discussion.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Remember the text we used in an earlier example here in the workbook? Read that out loud. but this time when you are speaking of anything good or positive. Point away. and MOVE. Say "that". say what you said. these can be the same as the last set of assignments). when anything negative is mentioned. Assignments for Linking Gestures 1) List 3 subjects that you really enjoy. recall a recent time when you had such a discussion. This is veryeasy to do over and over for that repetitive effect.3. 2) With these three subjects in mind.3 Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This. Say "this". For each of these subjects. passionate. These. start with a few. Say "these". and hopefully the conversations are interesting.
or when the person you are talking to goes into a Positive state. 2. and emotions to yourself. and say "that". Those in the correct ways) to associate even more positive feelings. These. and away when negative. Do this in a way that maybe makes it seem like you are doing it for emphasis. Point away. it's very useful to Anchor anything and everything positive to you! In some ways. Also. an expression. Page 27 . That. touch them • they seem to go into a pleasant state. you are anchoring them in a subtle way. But to get even more effectiveness when anything positive happens. we are doing that already by pointing "towards" on positive things and "away" on negative things using Linking. but actually. If you are head-on directly in front of a person. touch them This is best done in a "moment" with some emotion. the more effective it tends to be. Point back to yourself and say "these".) with Easy Linking (using This. Can we apply this to anchoring? Yes! • We need a way to do some basic anchoring that is very simple. That. and Those if you can. and say "this". and Those.4 Easy Anchoring . a realization. it's good to be close enough (within arms-length) so that the "touch" is easy to do. etc. Use the correct versions of This.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Point to yourself. specific states. a laugh. touch them • they smile. and thoughts to you but in a general sense. trying to add in more instances of This. states.. This is more easily done if you are standing at the side or at an angle. The more that "emotions" are being accessed. That. Strategic Formula for Easy Linking Expanded Combine the use of Linking Gestures (towards yourself when positive. These. while pointing towards or away from yourself in the correct manner. On Positive D4-T35 Let's look at anchoring in light of the 80/20 rule (where 80% of the results come from 20% of the effort). it's more difficult.3. Practice it enough and in connection with earlier exercises. touch them! This "Easy Anchoring" works in any context: • they laugh. and able to be done many many times. Point away and say "those" Repeat! This WILL help to train you! 2) Remember the text we used in an earlier example? Speak that text out loud..Point or Touch. These. It may be good to anchor feelings. it will become automatic.
This is the same type of thing. vividly. but a bit more "deliberate". also make a point to make and maintain eye contact as well.. maybe someone who you have heard about). A laugh A moment of recognition or realization When someone starts talking quietly. (Not romantically. such as. just a touch. • Think about when you greet a friend. • Think about when you meet and are introduced to someone. make a point to hold it just slightly longer than usual. you just touch his or her upper arm or upper back.. 2) Spend some time looking for moments (positive ones) where a touch would be appropriate. without really thinking about it. Also note the degree of eye contact. etc. Assignments for Easy Anchoring 1) The next several times you shake someone's hand.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course You probably do this already in certain situations. and the situation or topic being discussed. touch them to help anchor it to you.. What do you do? You shake their hand. See if you can recall how it was. directly to you.) Maybe a handshake Maybe a pat on the back Maybe a funny gesture Make a note of the person. Write those down. maybe pat on the back. but yet have some degree of rapport already (maybe this is a friend-of-a-friend. laugh. Page 28 . Tactical Formula for Easy Anchoring When the person you are talking with displays a positive feeling of some type. a smile. and note to yourself the correlation between how long the touch lasted and the level of rapport. • When joking with someone. interest. but in many cases. Exercises for Easy Anchoring 1) Think about the last 5 times where you touched someone in this type of way. intrigue. Person '" Situation. you grab their upper arm as well. or Topic being discussed 2) Recall those 5 times.
Those Page 29 . to be cool o Voice Tone And Tonality • Nose. in-the-moment. • SPEAKING POINTERS o The "Cool" Factor • You don't have to be cold. Suddenly. These. Find Yourself o Weasel Phrases • If I were to ... Mouth. maybe you don't touch them. 2. language. but as you notice these moments. that a touch is appropriate. You are noticing this after-the-fact. see if you can have at least 5 instances of knowing. o Linking " with me. and movement skills that will be used later in the course.. Then. o Embedded Commands • Can you do this now. Fast • • • Pause o Energy And Enthusiasm • Passionate or Boring? LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS o Adjectives And Adverbs • Be descriptive o Trance Words • Instantaneously. when you have the chance. Chest o Pacing And Pausing • Slow. That. anchoring and associating yourself to positive and intriguing feelings in other people helps to make them feel positive towards and intrigued by you. o Easy-Linking • This.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course At first. we want you to actually DO IT! So. Those MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures • Move! Point! o Linking Gestures • Towards And Away o Easy Linking Expanded • Pointing With This.. and you have already learned a LOT of the detailed speaking.. DO IT! Strategic Formula for Easy Anchoring In general. 3) Now that you have started to notice these "moments" where a touch would be appropriate.4 REVIEW D4-T46 We are well on our way. These. That. think "I could have touched them THEN".
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o Easy Anchoring • Point Or Touch On Positive And Negative With these parts behind you. and later to Conversational Management techniques. we will move onwards to work on Language Structures. Page 30 .
and more influential in general. Agree or not agree? .Can you just abruptly jerk a conversation towards where you want it to go? Maybe.Can you just knock someone into agreeing with you? Can you be that bold? Yes.. These techniques give you ways to use and arrive at languaging in a manner that will make you more persuasive. The minute you do anything like that to get someone else's "approval". but agreeing is just a special case.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3. towards where you want things to go. but will hopefully at some point. show understanding (does not have to be agreement necessarily) and then . o That's one way to see it o I understand your point Page 31 • • . be able to just "do".1 PACE AND LEAD D5-T2 Pace and Lead . or "bigger chucks" as we say. or to try to "impress" them. move with them conversationally for a while. etc. Are they useful and possible? • • • Trying to knock or jar someone into a different direction or way of thinking can be risky. 3.. These were tactical details. however you can break rapport.Some people misunderstand and think that to "Pace" means to "agree". you are lost.. You almost NEVER impress people that way! To pace/lead well. move them .0 LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES D5-T1 We have been working on bits and pieces of language. To "Pace" means to just BE a part of the conversation.Some people try to display higher knowledge or value by "arguing". Changing Topics and Subjects . You might disagree. Don't argue! . the sort of things that you need to get used to doing automatically. but you must do so powerfully and do NOT look for "acceptance". into higher-level stuff. and then take them in some direction. telling someone they are wrong. For example. but you need a lot of power to do it and you risk breaking rapport. Changing the Viewpoint or Frame if Mind .. you might bring up a new way of looking at it.. then and give them another way of looking at it.A way to change directions • In someone's way of thinking • In the conversation To make a change in direction in some manner. It can mean this. Challenges • Can't you just bluntly offer a different view? Yes. Fast and abrupt changes . it's best to meet or join someone in some way. Pace and Lead allows us to "join" someone.. Now we are moving "up" a level. acknowledge what the other person is saying. You MAY be able to do that... you might make comments (some that agree and some that may not) but the key is that you are "Taking part in" the conversation and topics at hand. but you can break rapport in the process. incorrect. all of the time. things that you should not even have to really "think about". say things such as.
showing that you are a part of it. So if I understand this . and/or interest. I get it.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o o That's interesting I see what you are saying. if you attempt to do that. Arguing! Many smart guys study these techniques and technologies...1 General Pace and Lead Techniques D5-T9 Here are some examples of ways to do these steps with example wording for each. In addition... the implication is that you NEED someone's approval.. Impressing someone with your knowledge.. I see • That's interesting • I get it • Hmmmmm .. • Well...) • Yes. 3. and then moving things forward in some manner. • Alright. Let them know you are listening and understand (using wording such as shown below.. To TRY to IMPRESS is bad.. have you thought about this . • Ok ..BE IMPRESSIVE! People really don't like to be proven dumb or wrong! Most people are offended or "put off by such attempts. Strategic Formula for Pacing and Leading Pacing and Leading allows you "be" in the conversation for a while and gain rapport and information. The point here is not to memorize these "lines". it makes YOU look bad. Tactical Formula for Pacing and Leading Show agreement.it's like this.. a way that you want. acknowledgement... I read/saw/heard the same thing . Then start to direct things in a different way . That hardly ever works. Instead .. Maybe • • • • • • continue showing an understanding or interest So what you mean is . Ok. So...1. but to really get a sense of being IN the conversation. Let me make sure I understand .... Page 32 . Then start to move or shift things in a different way.. . understanding. I also think you can see .... or. what you are saying is .. as if you "need" their approval... and some of then want to go out and "impress" people with their newfound knowledge.. allowing you to move things more in your favor later on.
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I hear you, and what else is interesting is .... •-. That's a good way of looking at it, something else that is important is ....
The Formula for Pacing and Leading is ... acknowledge and then start to shift things ... Maybe you want to shift things more and/or bring up another issue or viewpoint entirely (or maybe you actually disagree) • That's one way of looking at it, however I think ... • Yes, I understand, I have also heard ... • Ok, that makes sense, another way of thinking about it is .. • Alright, but on the other hand... Some general methods you can use to introduce the "leading" aspect, you can talk about... • What you know, believe, understand • What a friend or colleague has said • What you heard • What you read • etc. 3.1.2 Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects D5-T12
Lets say you find some people talking about a topic. Do you walk up, interrupt, and start an entirely new topic? No. (Well, you can, but that takes a lot of power and has a lot of risk.) A better way is to enter the conversation, talk about it (Pace), and then move the conversation into areas that you want it to go (Lead). Examples: • You are in a conversation and the topic is cars. People are talking about prices, loans, etc. You acknowledge what is being said, contribute to that conversation (pace), and then start to bring in the idea of how a car handles, how it feels, and how exciting it is to drive certain cars (lead). • People are discussing clothes, various brands, types, etc. You talk about that with them (pace) for a while, and then start to bring up the idea of how clothes make you feel, how you feel differently when wearing different things ... etc (lead)
Tactical Formula for Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects Show agreement, understanding, acknowledgement, and/or interest in the topic or subject. Then start to move or shift topic or subject in a different way, a way that you want.
Exercises for Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects 1) Think about some recent conversations you have had with people about different topics, hopefully these conversations and/or this topic is something that occurs a lot for you (based on interests you have, people you know, etc). Recall a specific "moment" in each conversation. Note what was being discussed, and what point was being talked about. Make a note of each of them. Also note, where did that actual conversation go next?
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course What were you talking about in this "moment"?
Conversation with whom?
Where did it go next?
2) Pace and Lead Gently Out loud, practice as if you were talking in each of the discussions above, and paced the conversation and topic, and then lead it in some direction. In this exercise, simply show agreement, understanding, and/or interest, and then lead in the same general direction. Maybe bring up a new example, new point, new issue, but just sort of "take over" the conversation. 3) Pace and Lead in a New Direction Next, for each of those instances, provide an example where you show agreement, understanding, and/or interest, but now start to "move" things in a new direction. Maybe the conversation that you had started at this one "point" and went in a specific direction ... Now, for this exercise, practice taking it in a new and different direction. Maybe introduce a different aspect of the topic or subject, something not mentioned before, or not normally talked about. The key is to first show agreement, understanding, and/or interest and THEN do this "shift", and you LEAD things in a different way.
Assignments for Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects 1) Make note of three conversations that you tend to have with people on a regular basis. Person or People Subjects we discuss
2) The next times these conversations happen, make a point to "Show agreement, understanding, and/or interest" (Pace). Then "Then start to move things" (Lead) in your own way, Do this by introducing a different aspect of that topic, or a related topic/subject. Don't make this shift or change really abrupt or different, just make a point to sort of "direct" where things move, even if that direction is close to where it was going anyway. Just make sure YOU are the one that moves it. Note the text and examples given earlier as a way to do that. 3) Once you can do the above, now make a point to have your "Lead" incorporate a real change of some type.
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Normally, even without your input, the conversation tends to go in a certain way. The earlier exercise had you just keep thing moving in that same direction. Now you are to "take" the conversation somewhere else towards a different or related topic. Just introduce a new aspect of the topic, a different thing, a different direction, so that you are really "leading" where things go. Remember the language that you were shown earlier. Use languaging like... You know what ELSE is interesting You know what * l * have found (seen, felt) Another way of doing this would be .. You know what ELSE can happen ... is ...
Pace and Lead-Mindset or Frame of Mind
You can change the way people look at things, their mindset, and their "frame of mind". For example, imagine you are having a discussion and people are talking in a certain "frame of mind" (not directly, it's just their way of seeing things). The point here is to acknowledge that frame, and then introduce another way of seeing things, another "frame", or another "mindset". What is • • • • a "frame"? In general it's ... A way someone "sees" something. What it "means" to them. The way they "feel" about it. The significance or meaning that it has.
Looking at the formula for Pace and Lead, you apply that by first acknowledging the current Frame, and then start to lead by bringing up another way of thinking about it and/or looking at it. You bring a new "frame" into the discussion. (This is a way of shifting that way people LOOK at things, the significance that it has, or their mindset regarding certain topics or behaviours). In the earlier example of Pacing and Leading of Topics and Subjects, we were talking just about a thing, a topic, or subject. Now we are talking about a feeling, or the way things are "seen" or what they "mean". For example, people may be talking about: • Taking risks • Feeling good or bad • Having a good day or a bad day • Making choices • What an event "meant" to them • How someone else actions affected them • How a decision affected them. There is a "frame" (of mind) behind each of these discussions and with proper technique, that frame and mindset may be changed. Look back at the "Methods" section earlier for some details and examples of how to introduce this pacing and leading (there are some lists of languaging examples provided). Examples: • You enter a conversation where people are talking about risks, Risks at work, risks in finances, risks in life. You Pace by discussing this for a while. The frame or mindset here is that risks are bad, dangerous,
she talks about what their professions are. Recall a specific "moment" in the conversation. a new meaning. and the "frame" that was in use. and then lead it in some direction. some risks make you feel alive. the assumption? What is the frame of mind behind the viewpoints that they had? Write down the topic. etc. The frame you are bring up is how superficial it is to judge based on numbers and details. looks for more. and/or interest in the mindset or frame of mind . what point was being talked about. (Risk was framed as dangerous. then lead in the same general direction. or may be perfect but with the wrong hair color (lead). some men will just "write off a woman that is a certain size. weight.. and/or interest in the Mindset or Frame of mind.. some risks have good rewards. the people. now its being framed as exciting). With whom? Topic? Mindset / Frame of Mind 2) Pace and Lead Gently Practice as if you were talking in that discussion. understanding. The way they "feel" about it.Mindset or Frame of Mind Show agreement. Do this OUT LOUD. Again. What was the "frame".) Tactical Formula for Pace and Lead .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course have consequences.. Note what was being discussed. Exercises for Pace and Lead . In this exercise simply Show agreement. understanding. the viewpoint. You agree on some level (pace) and chat about that. What it "means" to them.. acknowledgement. Page 36 . and what "kind" of man she likes (height. the frame of mind or mindset is the focus here.Mindset or Frame of Mind 1) Think about some recent conversations you have had with people about different topics.. The frame here is that she has her "standards" and that this is good for her.. then start to move into talking about how men do this as well. Make a note of each of them. who is like 5 lbs overweight. or provide a relevant example. and you are working to change the way she screens out guys. Just sort of "take over" the conversation. etc. Then start to move or shift the frame by introducing another way of looking at things. and paced it. Then you start to lead by bringing up the idea that some risks are fun and interesting. Towards a way that you want. and how anyone of quality ... Maybe bring up a similar way of looking at it. • Another conversation has a woman talking about what she looks for in men. (You are shifting her frame so that she may start to look at different things in men. where the point of the discussion in that moment was: The way they "see" something. etc)..
understanding. and you LEAD things in a different way. Maybe find a way. and THEN do this "shift". you are just acknowledging the Mindset or Frame in this example. etc someone looks at a political issue. Maybe bring up a different viewpoint or way of looking at it. some way.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 3) Pace and Lead in a New Direction Next. understanding. Then "start to move things" (Lead) in your own way. With whom? Subject/Topic? Mindset / Frame of Mind 2) Pace and Lead Gently The next times these conversations happen. even if that direction is close to where it was going anyway. and maybe point out a similar example from your own life. for each of those instances. Don't make this really abrupt or different. to find a positive way of looking at the situation. Basically. but just make a point to sort of "direct" where things move. or something you heard or read. A good way to do it is to show agreement and understanding. Maybe acknowledge and then bring up an opposing view. or something someone said. Assignments for Pace and Lead . and HE is the one with the limitation someone complains about work and the managers. make a point to "Show agreement. a frame of reference. understanding. what it "means" that is not really in agreement with what was said. These should be of a type where THE "frame" or mindset is something of which you are aware. and they are the one not taking risks someone is prejudiced or judges other people. provide an example where you Show agreement. Examples: someone complains a lot. Page 37 . Do this by introducing a "way of looking at it" that is similar to the one that is already being used.Mindset or Frame of Mind 1) Make note of three conversations that you tend to have with people on a regular basis. and their motivations etc. Maybe bring up a way of looking at things that is totally different. Think about discussions where YOU can see that these people involved are working on a certain set of assumptions. Write down these subjects. and/or interest" (Pace). and/or interest. The key is to first Show agreement. but really his mindset is the problem someone talks about wanting something different. maybe even limiting beliefs or beliefs that really hold them back. and says they are cheap. and the frame associated with each. and makes assumptions (has a certain frame) about people or groups. Do this OUT LOUD for each example. and/or interest in the Mindset or Frame of Mind but now start to "move" things in a new direction.
and then use that to lead someone somewhere.. but it can work well and adds to the power of the languaging. o While you are .... This is a small-chunk detail and technique.1. Continue to Pace by maybe stating an obvious point about their current reality o seeing XYZ o feeling XYZ o thinking about XYZ o etc.... 3. o You are probably wondering Page 38 • • .. a new aspect of "what it means".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Pace and Lead In a New Direction Once you can do the above.... using words such as) o As you are . o While you are . A friend of mine used to feel the same way and they. point towards a specific Mindset or Frame that is of YOUR choosing.. o etc. o After you have . "Pace" their mindset... another way of looking at it is ... and new way of looking at things. The earlier exercise had you just sort of "run" with that.Current Reality D5-T29 If you look at the languaging used in things like hypnosis.... (for example. • At least it's not like XYZ. it might not be that bad.. o As you feel.. o As you see . but just find a positive way to look at what is being discussed. focus on the Mindset or Frame. You know. o As you realize . and/or express what is on their mind. or assumed by the people involved.. Again. now make a point to have your "Lead" incorporate a real change of some type. Some ways to do that is by saying things such as.. these techniques are used a LOT. Now you are to "take" the conversation somewhere else and bring up a new mindset or frame of mind. Just introduce a new frame..4 Pace and Lead . This may be different from the way the subject or belief WAS framed or thought of. Well.... A "safe" way to do this would be to find a positive way to look at the situation.... even without your input. and allow the conversation to continue with the same frame of mind in place. What is done here is that you Pace based on something that is obvious (obvious in their "current reality"). or used by very powerful speakers. there was a certain "frame" being discussed. a new mindset. The general way to approach this is: • Start by pacing something that is obvious about their current reality ... it could be . o While you think .. Meaning. o While you see .
.. then you are probably wondering .. 3.Current Reality 1) Listen to this section again.. etc.. The more you hear this. o notice what its like as . thoughts. o you will start to notice o you may realize o you may start to think o you may see how .. and "As that feeling builds.. "as you are watching this presentation . • You are talking to someone at work .. o you will then ... what you are reading. Warning .. Page 39 .. If you spend too much time saying things similar to "I know what you are thinking". you will begin to notice this ..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • o As you are thinking about o I know you are concerned about o The issue that may be on your mind is o The question you may have is Begin to lead . Really pay attention and see how many times I have done pacing and leading in this manner...." • You will hear a LOT of this in this course (which is part of your re-programming!) Tactical Formula for Pace and Lead . and do. the more it will "sink in"..2 GIVE THEM A REASON D5-T32 Give someone a reason for someone to listen ...Current Reality As (while ) you) are "X" (Pace) Where "X" is something that is true in their current reality (perceptions.Pacing Reality too much can seem arrogant.. what you are thinking. what you are hearing." • Physical demos use this a lot.) • Then you will "Y" Where "Y" is something you want them to experience (Lead) Exercises for Pace and Lead . Studies have been done with persuasive language that show that giving a reason will make people more apt to do things for you and agree with you. o another thing you will see/feel/notice is . o state what you want them to see/feel/hear/realize Examples: • As you are listening to this program .. "As you feel this..... Rewind or go back a few tracks. Make note of how many times I have paced your current reality..".. Point them to where you want to lead them .... it starts to become annoying to the listener..
However. "hey. or at least people that are not close friends of yours. the addition of this small "reason" will make people much more agreeable and apt to let you do what you would like. just providing a reason. if you say "Let's move over there because it's more quiet" you will be amazed at how much more agreeable the person may be. Write these down. Page 40 . Person What did you ask for? 2) Practice out loud how you might "ask" for that favor or make that request again. then it may be difficult to get people to agree. requesting something. It could be asking for coffee. because I am really in a hurry" then. You are not being apologetic or anything. if you say "Is it ok if I make copies next. However. The examples will be better if these are people you do not know. it just helps to make people more agreeable (and there are statistics to support that as well). you don't need to be concerned about these things. Write these down. If you say. anything. 3) Go through the same list again. • You are talking to someone and you would like to pull her aside and make the conversation more private. Assignments for Give Them A Reason 1) Make note of five routine situations that you have in your life where you are asking for something. "Is it ok if I make copies next". This technique does not provide a 100% guarantee. Examples: • You walk up to a copier at work and there are three people in line. or asked someone to do something. If you just say. but put in a reason of some type. lets move over there". remarkably. and out loud.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Don't worry about "losing your power" or being too "nice". asking "can I pay by credit card". Tactical Formula for Give Them a Reason Request X because (of) Y Exercises for Give Them a Reason 1) Make note of the last five times you asked someone for something. they may go with you. come up with another reason.
• When you give a reason. the items that you will "list" need to be brief points. which support your point.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Situation (Place. People) What do you ask for? 2) Practice out loud some "reasons" that you could give in these situations. This technique has been developed based on observing how many good and influential people speak: • Successful sales people • Charismatic speakers • Good debaters • Component of hypnotic languaging « Very important. • For the sake of a conversation. Power in Numbers . just as an example) • Hypnotists use this technique a LOT. so that your one "opportunity" in a conversation to make "a" point. • Training for sales people use this quite a bit. "List" several things or examples which support your point. Page 41 .3 LISTING D6-T1 Listen to an example where many of these are used. in order to provide more power to what you are saying. provide several. it's difficult to debate them all or object to them all (not to be combative. or make a statement. • This is somewhat similar to a "pace and lead". • When you give several reasons at once.1 General Listing D6-T4 Strategic Formula for General Listing General Listing is a way to quickly provide several reasons. and quite well. or excuse. actually ends up being several points.3. and flow easily. or make a point.Repetition in a way that serves you. you get someone to agree and then lead them 3. See if you can make it automatic. point. Tactical Formula for General Listing When making a point. 3) The next times these situations come up in your day-to-day life. 3. or giving an example. statement. don't just provide one reason. go ahead and mention the "reason".
each of which lasts just a few seconds. strange (2). and the types of things to which no one would object.2. 3) Pick an example of an activity that you do often. what are three ways that can go? Good? Bad? Indifferent? Exciting? Boring? Pick three and write these down What are three "ways" that the experience of "meeting people" can go? 2) Now practice out loud by saying something like "Isn't it interesting how you can meet people and it happens in different ways? I mean sometimes .. a. Z (selecting your items listed above). doing some type of work. and/or what it's like to meet people. as a list. Each of the items in a list can also be much longer.. true.. Then. In many ways. so that you don't just say "X. Activity that you like or do often List a particular part of aspect of that activity What are three "ways" that can go? " 4) Now describe "What its like to do your activity .. Maybe your first two items in a list are obvious. Now try again by expounding on each of the items.. and maybe 3 different things that support your "point".. where each lasts several minutes. Mention the first item. really recall listing to good speakers (2). Exercises for General Listing 1) Lets say you are talking to someone about "Meeting people". Z".) • I know this may sound a bit different (1). Write them down.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Example (see the listed items shown as 1. Select a particular aspect of that activity. sometimes . briefly. For each conversation. Y. Something you are interested in. what point you were trying to make. listing is like pacing and leading. Listing can be short. etc. but instead you talk ' about each for a few moments. partying. playing a game. etc.." and mention those three different ways. etc.. talk about it for a sentence or two. Do that out loud. maybe trying to convince someone of something (NOT an argument-just that you were making a point and would like to be more persuasive). write down who it was with. and somewhat new (3).. and still. Who you were talking to Page 42 . as in saying three items . make them brief. the third item may tend to "lead" someone in some way. Now..... Pick three ways that can go . but as you listen to it (1).X and then other times . then the second. you may begin to agree. 5) Think of three recent conversations you have had with people where you were making a point. 3. maybe watching sports. and start to think about in a positive way (3). Y.
At The End D6-T15 If several items are mentioned in a list (for example a car. we were talking about three points in a list that all were similar. Placing that particular item at the end of a list can have that effect. However. by placing YOUR preferred item at the end. You weren't trying to emphasize one point vs. However. Who you were talking to Point you were trying to make Three items that support your "point" c. Who you were talking to Point you were trying to make Three items that support your "point" 6) Recall a specific moment in each conversation. Do that for each of the three examples above. out loud. Maybe you want to list several options or examples.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Point you were trying to make Three items that support your "point" b. the one that comes to mind the easiest is the one that YOU want someone to agree with. Normally. at times you want to use listing as a way to highlight or focus upon one item. Maybe you want your list to contain many options. activity.3. you put more emphasis on it. or different types of alternatives (to a thought. how you could bring up these three points in a list-like manner. and tends to make THAT point the most important one. and an elephant) what tends to "stick" in your mind? (The Elephant!) The last item! By hanging an item at the end of a list. Now practice.2 Listing . and just providing a series of options. it makes it seem as if you are being fair. a table. Therefore. etc) By doing that. 3. it's easy to think of that Page 43 . you were just listing several things in a list. Here is a way to think about it. it sticks in the listener's head more. the other. suggestion. In the earlier Listing examples.
They are not all the same. It's interesting though. It may be because you like the resume (a). Say that one LAST and bring up two other options.2. and there is just something about this person. or instances FIRST.... and the third one "eventually find this person" was the one I wanted to really "stick". I mean.. Page 44 . did you notice the use of the words this/that/these/those? Also where do you think I might have been pointing and gesturing during those examples? Job interview o Have you talked to many candidates? Yes.. It's just a matter of getting to this person. I put another list within THAT description (a. they are nice... but by placing "it could be fun" last... lets say you are talking about doing some activity. Again. right away. or they just have the right answers (c). In general. one after another.. it could be boring. Again let's bring up this example of "meeting people". you put more emphasis on it and it tends to make that one "stick" more.A t The End Listing at The End is a way to provide several options (which may differ) but to emphasize the option that YOU want. maybe it's boring. those people doesn't mean much either way . b. o You know what it's like when you meet someone . this is one of those subtle but very powerful things that many persuasive speakers do a LOT. c)! • • • • • • Strategic Formula for Listing .. See? Not only did I have a list of three (1.that is the one (3). and then finish with YOUR preferred item. or it could really be fun. 3). you meet someone. etc . you know? See how I did that? See how the item which I really wanted them to think about. the more convinced you are that that person is NOT the one! o Hopefully though. interesting. was said that at the end? By the way. o And other times . or maybe you are really seeing the power of all of this! I think you can tell which option I was going for! Meeting People. o Other times you get that sort of a "friend" vibe with that person. o May be frustrating to you.. This course. but even when describing that person. you eventually find this person that on some level. o It could suck. Now those are different ways of seeing it. but you spend some time with that person (2) and the more that person talks. Sometimes there is nothing special. they sort of fell into several groups o There are some people that. you know . you know that those people are NOT qualified (1) o Others you maybe have thought were ok at first. you just know . I know.... or this person presents himself really well (b). you just really click and you feel this connection . When I have interviewed a lot of people.. examples.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course one. I have had to do that myself at times. how they can almost become a blur. Examples • • Fun activity.
Burying Items D6-T24 When using a List.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Tactical Formula for Listing .3. You may want to "test" to see how the person will react to it. List three possible things that you could do and write these down. but mention the one which YOU want to put the most emphasis on. out loud. statement. At times however. or giving an example. and seem too direct.. maybe controversial. and you are all figuring out how you are going to spend your time. and they are haggling or objecting a bit. Exercises for Listing . You want to mention or suggest something that is quite strong. placing something at the end can add to its power and make it stand out. and therefore you do NOT want it to stick out too much. Maybe pause when saying it. In that case.Let say you arc trying to get someone to buy something. Maybe add a small "list" within that last item (because it's inexpensive. mentioning all of these in a list. 3.At The End When making a point. etc.3 Listing . Maybe you want to suggest something very direct or quite controversial and you do NOT want to give it too much prominence. Issue or Option What do you want? 5) Now. Here is a way to think about it. Maybe add an embedded command of some type. is the item you mention LAST. go somewhere. etc.). buy some thing.At The End 1) Lets say you are going to spend a day or evening with some friends. However.? Write down what the "issue" is. make sure that the one that YOU want to do.. but bury it inside a list. but place some more emphasis on that last item. Examples: • Sales . it makes sense to "bury" that item in the middle of a list. talk about the issue. Three things that you and your friends could do (activity) 2) Practice. and we always have fun . and bring up at least two other "options" BEFORE you mention the one option that you want. 3) Do that again. out loud. If you say Page 45 . "List" several things briefly in order. agree to some point. and what the result is that YOU want. close. 4) What is an example from your life (recently). where you are trying to convince people to do something. LAST. Go ahead and suggest that item. it can be TOO obvious.
more "appropriate" items to lighten it up. If she gasps and has a look of shock and horror when you make that suggestion. that may be a GOOD sign. it's your choice. However. you don't just say "we can slip the deadline". This is also a good way of testing someone's response. maybe you aren't ready to buy this now. For example. more powerful and direct statement in the middle. But if you switch the order.Lets say you have met a women at a party. it seems too obvious. See? Putting that one. or to maybe see if you can get someone to agree to it! Tactical Formula for Listing .. There are several options but." Doesn't that sound better? Meeting at a Party . maybe it IS too direct. lets say that you want to say something or suggest something that is very direct. So maybe you say something like o "Well... maybe you seize this chance and get it while you can . it seems a bit easier for you to say it..Burying Items Listing . Instead.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • "Well. "let's slip the deadline" might be a problem in some circles! So when people are talking about options to help the project. Page 46 . maybe you aren't ready to buy this now. honestly. and when you say it at the end like that. Lets say your idea is so controversial and over-the-top.. Very direct. that you will just seize this chance and get it while you can! That sounds almost TOO forceful. and you are talking about you two getting together sometime. bury it inside a list. seems to "lighten" it up somehow.Burying Items is a way to mention an outrageous or very direct option for "testing" purposes. that you are almost "worried" about how the listener may react. or possibly you just still want to negotiate .. But of she smiles and seems interested.Burying Items When giving examples or options to someone. we can talk in a few days.. its your choice. Sometimes you have that "direct" item in mind and you surround it with other. The idea of " seize this chance and get it while you can" is something rather challenging to say (as the seller) that directly. lets say you are working on a project and things are behind schedule. • Instead of thinking about it in terms of a list.. or maybe I'll call you tomorrow". or maybe you want it so much. o "well. It also allows you a chance to watch the persons reaction to it. Strategic Formula for Listing . and maybe there is a possibility of you even spending that night together. or possibly you still want to negotiate. we can leave together right now. one of them is to just slip the deadline. just suggesting. you can get away with an outrageous or very direct option by burying that option in the middle of a List.
it can stand out too much and be annoying. Assignments for Listing . but see if you CAN say it. Page 47 . See if you can make it sound natural. 2) In the near future.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Exercises for Listing . you may even want to say it in a joking way. Bury the strongest item. 2) Practice out loud how you would say that list in the situation you used in the previous exercise. For three different situations that have come up in your life recently. make a point (afterward) to think about that outrageous option. Situation Outrageous or Direct Suggestion 4) For each of those examples (above) go ahead and practice out loud. Try it out loud. go ahead and create a new item that is very outrageous or direct. Look at the items that were listed and see if one of them maybe seemed very "strong" or "direct". but as with any technique. as any opportunities come up where you would like to make an outrageous or quite direct suggestion.Burying Items 1) As you go out and live your life. see if it seems easier to say. or the most direct item. Situation Outrageous or Direct Suggestion you could have made. Listing can be powerful. 3) Think of some recent situations where you would have liked to mention a quite outrageous or direct suggestion. Go ahead and change the order of the list that you used earlier.Burying Items 1) Go back to the previous exercises where you said some "lists" out loud. After these situations occur. If there is not one. by burying it in a list. and go ahead and practice how you COULD have said it. in the middle and see if it is a bit easier to imagine saying that list. suggesting a List of options but burying that outrageous option in a list. and then trying saying that item in the middle. you will probably encounter some situations where you might want to suggest something quite outrageous or direct. Try saying it with the strongest item at the end. but do it by burying it in a list. go ahead and do so. if you do it TOO much or too blatantly. write down an outrageous or very direct suggestion that you would have liked to make (for each).
Using pauses. Pauses.5 Listing Review D6-T37 If you want to get your point across. If you must suggest several different examples or options.. if it's a VERY outrageous option. and provide many examples to support it. o See how we are listing several items? • We discuss Pace and Lead ...How do you think of them quickly? How do you make them sound natural? Don't worry! It is ok to have pauses! Pauses make things sound more natural and gives you time to come up with options! We talked about the use of pauses as a way to convey some drama and to make things interesting. you are walking someone through a series of steps or thoughts. this is just a way of bringing together many of the things we have learned. and they WILL stay through the pauses! As you are saying various items in a list.. and using lists.... The general structure here is: • • The more X o where X is something that is hopefully quite obvious and true to the listener . can help to alter how the options (and you) are perceived. 3. emphasis... in a List. remember to use emphasis and change your voice tone with the items. or experience. then. the more Y Page 48 . and see how. and I just strung those together . D6-T38 You have heard language like "The more X. thinking about languaging such as "The more X.. think.3. In a way. but have ONE that YOU really want to emphasize or get people to agree to. etc". etc.. changing tone. So.. "the more YOU FEEL this . so this all works in your favor! Just be interesting enough to keep their attention. o See how that is being used here? • We have discuss language details .. consider this: • We talked about listing . place that item at the END of the List for more power. really. then the more Y. then mention several of your points or examples that support what YOU want. I gave an example (in the audio) of several things I wanted someone to do. we are pacing and leading.4 Listing. Maybe you want to stress one item more or less. and Emphasis D6-T36 You may be worried about coming up with three things in a list .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3. Lets use this as a chance to really step back for a moment and look at this structure. In a way. as in . 3. then present it buried within a List of options. o See how they are incorporated. Or. and the more Y. while incorporating the language tools we have already discussed. then the more Y... Maybe one or more of the items actually has an embedded command in it.3. to "pull" the listener in.4 MORE AND MORE." "More and More" is just a way to use these and bring them together. the more Z".
and something obvious. the more you can notice Y .. o walk someone through though process . the More Y.. or thoughts) use "More and More" as a way to string them together (and increase your chances of that happening. The best way to do this is to start off with the first item as quite general.. the More Y. you notice this. THEN make the next item (more. the more Z... As an alternative.. then.. etc Examples • Convincing friends to go do something that you want to do. more and more. etc.. The More Z.. or as Y is happening . you can use "as you" or "while you" as a way to bridge between sections as well. as you feel this. etc).. • • • • As you (or while you) X .. • Sell TV sets. You can even start by "pacing" a bit more. and the more Y happens . present..) specific.) item. Strategic Formula for More and More If you want to lead someone through a series of steps (actions. which is more of an example of using Pace and Lead of their current reality.. then just list them but use "more" as a way to go from one to the next. or a new "pattern"... towards what YOU want.) or thoughts (things you experience or think about. then. If you have something that you want to lead someone through.. . and even more so with the next (more. future) can be altered to make it fit well. That's a general version of it. with "as X is happening". experiences. then the more Z starts to happen. The more Y.. o You can start off with something obvious as a statement to kind of pace them.. step 1. 3. Instead of seeing this as a new type of language. Page 49 .. and as Y happens o or as you sense Y. The small words and verb tenses (past.. agreeable. Tactical Formula for More and More The more X. the More Z. or "as you notice X".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course • • o Where Y is something that is a logical extension of what the listener knows and they see this as something that makes sense . As you X.. see it as just a way of using many of the things we have already covered! More and More tends to be best thought of as a "List". and then use More and More to lead them forward .. or realize Y. from a general item towards something that YOU want. You are "leading" someone. 2. etc How to use it. like a series of successive steps (things you do. the more Y.
) Page 50 . they would end up doing what you wanted. etc. what project to work on.. that start off in general. if the person followed them. Don't just say "more". or something you want to lead people to do somehow. or have them experience. What do you want to convince someone to do Three steps. etc. a trip. "as you" or "while you". a series of thoughts or actions that. as if in a conversation. 3) Now out loud. maybe an activity. Think of all of the things you can do tonight Realize that going to a movie would be a good idea Going to see the latest XYZ movie (use whatever movie you wish) See how that is a series of steps? Of thoughts? Like leading someone down a path? Now out loud. Think of three "steps". The first should be obvious. more in your direction. using "More". What you were trying to convince a friend to do Three steps.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • Talking to a woman . o Walk her through the process. The next is another step in the series. more leading. to get towards doing what you want. practice and see if you can talk about these one by one. Think of three "steps". 2) Think of the last time you were trying to convince a friend to do something. or series of thoughts or actions. Think about a series of steps. Do the series several times. more and more. to get towards doing what you want. (Agree where to go to dinner. Write these down. who should do what.. 4) Think of another series from your life.) Write down three steps. Exercises for More and More 1) Consider the idea of convincing some friends of going to a movie. 5) Out loud. work around it and make it sound natural.. a plan.. or as alternatives. something. Do that several times. a movie. The first should be obvious. practice saying those in series. etc. what to do. what to buy. and string them together using "more". while you.. as you. and bridging between them as we discussed earlier (More. something with which you are familiar.. You may start with "As you" or "while you" for the first one. the second. something you convince people to do (or wish you could). but more and more get closer to what YOU want. something simple. practice saying those three steps. that would "walk" the other people through the process of agreeing with you. of what you want to have happen. etc .
• It's not magical in a persuasive sense. How to use it. exciting. etc. But get to the point where you can flow easily through the 3 in a series. and piece them together and have it sound natural.. The more that happens. or several different subjects. the more you will understand how they fit together. 2) With that "More and More" sequence practiced.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Assignments for More and More 1) In the exercises. you are able to easily go through such a "sequence". Practice that series more! Get very familiar with it. look for opportunities to use that in your life. seductive. Maybe add or change some of the reasoning. This Compare and Contrast method here gives you a way to talk about and around the subjects at hand.) • Too many guys focus on standard lines such as "So what do you like about X". Just make sure that with that subject.5 COMPARE AND CONTRAST D6-T54 Listen to an example where many of these are used.another option • Black . you have two (or more) aspects of a topic. or else have the person you are speaking with mention it. A Tactic for Talking • Too many guys let a good conversational subject finish far too quickly. the more things like "knowing what to say" and "what pattern to use" will become easier and easier for you! Notice how we are not doing these examples necessarily with women? Wonder why? 3. and move a conversation. this is a means to keep speaking.. or various aspects of a subject. where you could have a series of "states" lead someone through the process of doing what you want. you can talk about.Left Page 51 . • • Take a subject and either mention another aspect of that subject.. There are various means of doing this. • It also a great way to get information about the person with which you are speaking. becoming more and more convinced. You will see that the more you get these bits and pieces. and you discuss these two aspects using Compare and Contrast. So. we had you think of something from your life. • How two things are similar • How two things are different • Good . Maybe just try 2 of the 3 steps once or twice. • This works especially well if the subject of the discussion is one that "works" for our purposes (fun. it's just a good way to think about discussing a subject. This method provides a way to keep the conversation going.Bad • One option .. and even change the specifics of that sequence. to continue.White • Right . • You are just comparing and contrasting things.
good or bad. vs. you can take note of how the person is responding. this meeting. As you are talking. You discuss this. you can talk about one car. her. One attribute . Page 52 . or point in a discussion . o Maybe you start to ask her about it (have a discussion with her . then discuss these by comparing and contrasting. easy-difficult. and feel those states and emotions for a while as well. • Maybe what is more important to a sports team. link away. deciding to focus on making a good living now. keep the discussion focused on a topic that serves your purposes. better-worse. • Decisions about a career or job. and to let the person think about. what they do not. associate them with things other than you. team sports. what they like. two facets of that subject. • Anything bad. etc. • You may talk to a woman. feelings. compare. o You select two items. experience. you can anchor and link positive things to you! o While talking about things she does not like. that are good for you. • • Use opportunities to use commands and trance words to create thoughts. taking a position with a more promising future. Strategic Formula for Compare And Contrast Use this technique to keep the conversation going. you can use all of the other tools we have discussed. Then discuss the other car. This all provides a good way to allow the discussion to continue for a while. • Link anything good to you. Tactical Formula for Compare And Contrast Take any subject. Examples • One brand of car vs. or individual sports vs. and discuss whether the handling makes it better. the offense or the defense. • You talk to someone for a while and she say she likes scuba diving. idea.. and start to compare and contrast the two. and you start to talk about something she likes and enjoys doing. and incorporate the language tools. etc. How do these differ How are they the same Which is good-bad. o While talking about what she does like. and contrast these things. states. another brand.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • One aspect .another attribute As you are talking. or its power. idea. What is different about each? How are they the same? How are they experienced? What is good? What is bad? etc. Use the other language tools during the discussion.another aspect -. and talk about its attributes as well.about her) and she mentions various things about that subject.. • Notice what is liked and not liked • Notice any reactions. or point in a discussion. and this situation that you are sharing. you can anchor those away from yourself. Select another subject.
offer the compare-contrast ways of discussing it. Also. different computer. Maybe some of the language that you are using that may lend itself to be embedded commands.same type of thing (another car.. and this time. be very aware of the positive and negative things that are being said. and compare/contrast the two.. where they were really describing or talking about something they like. computer."Oh. somewhere else. and anchor/link/point appropriately. the same holds true even when discussing what you do NOT like. Use compare and contrast to talk about each of the attributes that your friend would say they like about that subject. that within that may be attributes that are good. etc). your pacing. etc).. peace. Subject or thing that they like Attributes (things about) that. but this time put some effort into being very aware of the positive and negative things that are being said. and various things about that subject or topic that they like. Page 53 .. so if you like THAT. Now think of what is opposite to that . she finds the experience of seeing new and different things to be interesting as well. and this time. etc.. This example uses a very obvious "Like vs.... Be mindful of that and anchor/link appropriately. She says she likes the aspect of it being very quiet and serene under water. Be vary aware that even when you are discussing the thing you "Like". Be aware of your language! Throw in adjectives and adverbs.". o So we talk about the feeling of quiet. that they do like Do the re-enactment again. then I KNOW that you would NOT like THIS . Re-enact that conversation again. Something New Control vs. and put effort into correct linking/anchoring/pointing to associate positive things to you. and negative things . As in "so let me make sure I understand this ..(because). and serenity on one hand o and compare and contrast that to the feeling of something new and different on the other. and talk about it again. she mentions various things about it. In addition. etc.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Maybe you ask about it.. different style of clothing." or .. change your tone of voice. Familiarity vs. 4) Select two of the following 4 topics. bike. and those that are not good. Now talk out loud about each. clothes. 3) Recall a recent conversation with someone you know. etc. Not-Like" set of things to compare and contrast. Letting Go Safety and Excitement Liking someone mentally and/or physically o • • • • Exercises for Compare And Contrast 1) Pick some possession that you have that you REALLY like (car. Be descriptive! Use pauses. Something that you like Something that is opposite 2) Now take that same topic.
" and that's ALL they talk about! Yes. topic. but when you go STRAIGHT for the BEST thing that she likes the MOST. Parts of a subject. that is fun.6. Two types of parts we can work with . People tend to think you have one OR the other. etc. Some are good. Who knows. and you lose out on spending a LOT of time having them discuss something that she REALLY likes! This is just a way to have a discussion. and parts of a person 3. you can show someone how that can be possible.1 Parts Of A Subject D7-T4 This is a variation on the contrast principle. If you are talking about an interesting subject. theme. Too many guys just blow things to quickly. However there ARE ways to have BOTH. and say (for example) "what do you like most about scuba diving" or "what is the most fascinating thing about. this doesn't necessarily show that you Page 54 . and that's ALL you discuss.6 PARTS D7-T1 Listen to an example where these are used. and the positive aspects of excitement. Meaning. Think about the possibilities. some are bad • Talk about the good parts. this provides a good way to train you to be able to talk and ask questions of people. For even more Power There IS a very powerful aspect of this technique that is important to mention. Parts. BOTH linked and anchored to YOU.. it's too weak. link them to you • If the bad or boring parts some up. together. 3. For example. By comparing and contrasting them. it is GOOD to focus on the positive aspects of what she likes. There ARE many things that people tend to THINK of in an "either-or" way. YOU are then showing someone how BOTH of these things can be experienced. link away Now this may seem tough .. exciting.Who wants to talk about something that you are NOT interested in? However.. of having all of the positive aspects of Safety. Something New Now do your best to speak out loud and "talk" about these for a while using a Compare and Contrast structure. then talk about all of the various aspects and parts of it. Excitement. etc. Letting Go Safety and Excitement Liking someone mentally and/or physically Familiarity vs. this just helps to keep things moving in a conversation.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Control vs. if you are asking many questions about something that is NOT of interest to you. Safety vs. you may end up liking the subject and find a new activity for yourself! Don't worry that you will "give the wrong impression" by inquiring and discussing these "parts".. and get them to talk about what THEY are interested in.
etc. just say "I like learning about people. Now. o Where have they dived? o How did they get into it? o What's their favorite place? o Do they have their own equipment? o Do they use different types of equipment for different locations? o How long have they dived? o Have they ever been in danger? o Have they taken photos? o Have they met interesting people? o Has this exposed them to any other cool sports or activities? o etc. area of interest. artistic endeavor. like.Don't just "talk about" Scuba Diving! Or. and enjoys. Exercises for Parts of a Subject . just curious. but if you start there. list various "things" about that subject. topics come up.many of which can be linked to you. or point in a discussion." This technique makes it easier to have conversations with people because THEY are giving you information and ideas for new things to ask about. don't like. be comfortable talking about all of the parts of that subject. etc... sport. maybe a hobby.. it's hard to talk about that subject for a while. etc. what people do. allowing you time to gather information and link yourself to good thoughts. new things. Use the language tools in the discussion. and she may have a lot of positive emotions and feeling associated with that . that you know. feelings and emotions. activity. Strategic Formula for Parts of a Subject Discussing many of the parts of a subject keeps the conversation going. You are just asking. Page 55 . idea. Break it down into its component parts and discuss them. feelings and emotions to yourself. Subjects come up.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course are interested in it (the subject). Examples • Scuba Diving . Tactical Formula for Parts of a Subject Take any subject. know about. Link good thoughts. This isn't just a way for you to ask ask ask HER about things. If someone asks you about this. If she LIKES scuba diving. 1) Pick a subject that you like. don't just ask "What is the most exciting thing about Scuba Diving?" That IS a good question. This is a great way to build rapport with a person as well. that an opportunity to talk for a WHILE about something she likes.
maybe pick a different "person" as your subject. and you were going to have someone (who knows very little about the subject) interview you and learn all about football. maybe a cousin you hardly see or talk to. make a list of these parts. passion. etc. if you were going to talk to them for like 30 minutes about that subject and were really going to ask them about it.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course For example. You should easily be able to come up with 10-20 items. Now. but hopefully this "subject" is something you are not really into. Subject: Parts. or Things About. Page 56 . or maybe someone in your life that you don't know very well. That Subject: 3) Now think of someone who you are NOT close to (that you do not know that well). or Things About. Now think of something that THAT person is interested in or they are involved with. If you have trouble. That Subject: 2) Think of one of your friends or family members and some activity or topic that THEY are really into. like a co-worker. Person: Subject: Parts. a job they like. Write these down. what parts about football would you want them to ask about? For your chosen subject. if your subject was football. You should be able to come up with at least 10 items. and you have heard him or her talk about this. someone you met at a party. This should be someone you know well. what would you ask about? What are all of the various things and aspects of it that YOU could inquire about or that could come up in a discussion? These are the "parts" of that subject. Maybe their hobby. Someone that you recently met. etc.
. Make a point to ask about many different parts of that subject. mention like 10-15 different things you could ask or inquire about that subject. They are talking about something THEY like Thinking about it. 2) Sometime in the future. make a point to have a good 10-15 minute conversation about a subject that THEY are really interested in. and were really going to ask them about it. when you are speaking with a person you do not know hardly at all (yet you feel you will be able to talk to them for 10-15 minutes). The subject they are interested in is something with which you are NOT familiar. Now. Person: Subject: Parts. and feeling it. Make a point to ask about many different parts of that subject. or Things About. you should be able to list at least 10 items.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course The key here is that this is someone you don't see often. who is interested in something that you are NOT familiar with. If you were going to talk to them for like 30 minutes about that subject. Person: Subject: Assignments for Parts of a Subject 1) Sometime soon. off the "top of your head". You know the person but you are not real close to them. make a point to have a good 10-15 minute conversation about a subject that THEY are really interested in.. but with which you are NOT familiar. out loud. but with which you are NOT familiar. Again. That Subject: " 4) Think of another person and subject. when you are speaking with a friend or family member that you know well. Page 57 . don't know really well. like the exercise above. while YOU are there And you are linking and anchoring things to yourself Using all of the language tools and details And that person is finding YOU so fascinating and charismatic . what would you ask about? What are all of the various things and aspects of it that YOU could inquire about? What are the PARTS you could ask about? Write these down. And of course the entire time. experiencing it.
and start to discuss and validate that OTHER part. lean more on the language and linking tools to bring it out. that adventurous side is just waiting to come out.2 Parts Of A Person D7-T15 Listen to an example where this concept is used. adventurous .. there is a more quiet side • If a person is well-thought-out (thinks things through and takes time). o "When you start to listen to this adventurous side .. a way of acting or being is being discussed (and one that does not necessarily work in your favor) . Let's say you are in a discussion with someone. experiencing it. we are also reframing! We are changing the way they look at things." o "Many people like that also have another side to themselves. • If a person is shy. etc)" o "I know someone similar who as this other part to themselves. great." • If this new or other "side" works more in your favor. a way of thinking. just looking for the right time. o Either in general like "there may be another side" o or more directly. if the person is shy o "I understand how some people are shy. (where XYZ is a different or maybe the opposite behavior. etc. exciting part of a person is being discussed. and they feel that way.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3. In many ways. or part of a person.." • There will be a lot of this shown in examples here in this section and at the end of the program. • What if it is not? What if they say they are shy. etc. their way of walking through and looking at the world. Because you are discussing several things. etc" • Discuss this new or other "part" o "With many people. "parts" are meant as in a personality trait. or has the same wishes that you do. more spontaneous side to them. that is more . • If an adventurous. link it to you. another part hidden away. and I have found she has this other side. Don't Confront. they are quiet. that part of the person or type of behavior that DOES agree with you).. This can be VERY powerful. that XYZ part".. or way of looking at it. "you may have the other side" o or by example "I know someone like that. fun. and then say (for example)... • "That's because there is another part. directly or indirectly o For example.. • Acknowledge the first part that is being discussed... or parts.." o "You may have (or do have) another part (or side. or view. in a way you are also using Compare and Contrast as well.. You do not want to appear to challenge or invalidate and personality trait that is being shown. what she did . In this context. verify it. or normally don't "do" certain things? • Then talk about that first (shy) part. Let's break this down. In a discussion. if a personality trait. etc.. or side.6.. etc. a "side" to the person. they hold back. A key concept to think about is to ALWAYS assume that there is a part of someone that does agree with you. In fact a friend of mine is very shy and one time. there is a more decisive.. or reserved.." • Bring up and acknowledge the fact that there is "another" part. Page 58 . make it be experienced. Discuss. their reactions.. there is a more adventurous part to themselves • If a person is outspoken...
o "A friend of mine does that as well. • Maybe someone is secretive. o "I have a friend who was "X" (where X is the trait being discussed)... discuss.. and she realized that she.. • Maybe someone says they can be jealous.. and beliefs.. (not good in a person. Tactical Formula for Parts of a Person For every part of a person that will work against you. or part of the person by discussing or addressing it Think about a personality trait.. There are also other sides to people . Introduce and discuss that "other part" in a way that works to your advantage. you are NOT discussing this as to say. way of thinking. This one side . that can work in your favor. Traits similar to "Being Boring" Page 59 .. Find a personality trait. . or part of the person (mostly something which has a negative connotation) Acknowledge that personality trait. "you are wrong" or to show how smart you are! You are just talking. having a conversation. o "I was reading somewhere about things like that and what it was saying was. assume there is a part that will work WITH you.. way of thinking. that may be true but also there is another part of them .. and what I noticed about her is that she also has this other side to her. way of thinking. What personality traits (or what other parts or ways of thinking) are similar? Which are somewhat opposite? Write down 3 that are similar. was also "Y". People have many sides to themselves.) Exercises for Parts of a Person 1) What if someone says.. too confrontational. deep down..... or part of the person that is somehow related (which works in your favor) or somewhat opposite.. they like to play things safe. so be careful. You can work around this issue (of possible confrontation) by saying things like o "I think another way of looking at that trait is . I understand you have that side to you. etc. etc etc etc..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • Many times you don't want to say "because there is another part" because that seems too direct. Remember. even when the other person claims or demonstrates that such parts are NOT there." Strategic Formula for Parts of a Person Use Parts of a Person as a way to find. it may sound like you are arguing or challenging the person. Well.. and 3 that are opposite. "I am boring".. but it can be handled . and evoke favorable states. • Maybe someone lies . feelings. Examples: • Lets say that a person says they are not into taking challenges... o "Well.
which could you maybe "use" in a good way? 4) Think about how you would discuss that shy part. maybe do some linking an anchoring. pick another part or trait. Look at the formula earlier.. use this/that/these/those . and then bring up this other "part" that you selected. 3) What if someone says that they are shy? What personality traits (or what other parts or ways of thinking) are similar? Which are somewhat opposite? Write down 3 that are similar. be aware of opportunities to maybe mark off an embedded command or two (or more). Practice this out loud. or ways of thinking) are similar? Which are somewhat opposite? Think about 1-2 that you could use. 5) From the list you just made (and selected from). Imagine a conversation and how you might do this. Traits similar to "Being Shy" Traits opposite to "Being Shy" Of those that you listed. 6) Lets say someone says "I am not into meeting any new people right now" . Page 60 . which could you maybe "use" in a good way? 2) Think about how you would discuss the boring part. but this time. Look at the formula earlier. and some of the variations mentioned for language examples. Traits similar to "not into meeting any new people" Traits opposite to "not into meeting any new people" Practice out loud how you might first discuss "I am not into meeting any new people right now" and then transition into the other parts or traits that you selected. and 3 that are opposite.. Practice this out loud. etc.. Now do a similar exercise again out loud. Imagine a conversation and how you might do this. What personality traits (or what other parts. and some of the variations mentioned for language examples.. and then bring up this other "part" that you selected.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Traits opposite to "Being Boring" Of those that you listed.
3. see if you can notice them WHILE talking to someone. Or. 2) After you have become more comfortable noticing such traits after-the-fact. An easy way to do this is when a friend or acquaintance is being self-deprecating in some manner. and offer challenges to you on the audio. trait. Assignments for Parts of a Person 1) For the next week or two. You don't have to discuss them (yet) just make a point to note these traits. See if you can note that "part" of who they are. trait. or parts.7 OPPORTUNITIES AND CHALLENGES D7-T34 Listen to an example where I structure opportunities. make note of when you are having a personal conversation with anyone. or putting him or herself down for some reason. trusting their own judgment. etc could you discuss? Try that out loud. Just notice the trait or part being mentioned.. After the conversation. and has been a bit difficult for many to really understand Page 61 . and offer challenges" many times when studying these materials. 8) Lets say someone says they have trouble meeting new people. or mentions a "way of thinking"). Opposite (or similar?) trait or part that might actually work in your favor Conversation with Traits or parts that were discussed. See if what they are saying describes or is pointing out any personality traits (or a "part" of themselves. 9) Lets say someone says "I only like dating my TYPE"? What other part. You have probably heard the phrase "structure opportunities. but ROW see how many of the speaking and language tools you can use. being open. and then find a way to discuss another part that is more favorable or positive. make a note of these traits or parts.. See if you can arrive at a similar part or trait that you can discuss that could be used in your favor.? What other part.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 7) Do the above example again. and then point out some other trait or part that might work in your favor somehow. start to bring them up IN the conversation. WHILE talking to someone. Use the formula and the variations mentioned earlier. see if you could maybe think of an opposite one that could be discussed. acknowledge it. This area has caused some confusion. 3) Now that you can recognize these traits when talking to someone. etc could you discuss? Try that out loud.
3. • Use these general things and assume they are there. • These are also good and convenient for practicing and examples. 3.7. Why this matters.2 What do people want? - D7-T38 "Universal Wants" = Good. you are using processes that they ALREADY have in their minds. or like to be perceived as having.7. but I am looking for more. • Show that you are qualifying and screening to some extent. o This is the opposite of pleading and the "pedestal" scenario. Universal Wants • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control • Excitement Page 62 . Challenge them to demonstrate it. or show it. You then find some way to set things up so that choosing to listen to you. do it. For example if someone is intelligent. and wants to be seen as intelligent. • It's easy.1 Using Their Own Processes D7-T36 If you know what people want to have. is a way for them to show their intelligence. effect. or want to be perceived as having. this can be very effective. You are in. In this section. "You may be beautiful." • This is NOT about arrogance. o You are saying in a way. It's good to somehow work with structures and things that are already in someone's mind. Work with universal things that people would like to have.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course and utilize. If you can somehow frame or map yourself as being a way for a person to fulfill things that someone already wants. you are just showing that YOU have standards. • Show that you have standards. these concepts are broken down and offered to you in a way that will truly help you to be able to use these powerful techniques. Strategic Formula for Opportunities And Challenges Find or assume what someone wants Create an opportunity for them to get it or demonstrate they have it Make that "demonstration" work in your favor. using motivations that a person already has. but may not be the most effective strategy. then they already have mechanisms for that in their mind. then by using their existing desires. and that you believe in yourself. or be with you.
that's even better. o You may . etc • Finding these particular wants and desires o These "wants" can be possessions. or maybe a value.. Mini-Challenge Cheat Sheet o You seem ... o Talk about some of yours and see how she reacts. by listening to me or agreeing with me".. and challenging them in a way that says... o You might.. or want to be perceived as having.. and discusses what is important to her She mentions something she likes or dislikes about a past boyfriend. or adventurous.. You can imply a "test" for these things by issuing a mini-challenge.3 There are certain things you can assume that most people may want to have. o You seem cool enough .7.. o You seem smart enough . "you can show me that you have the thing you desire. and it can really annoy people if you do! Page 63 . we are using one of these sort of "universal" wants. but if you can find or work with specific wants or desires. o You might see . o Talk about what she does. o You seem like .. What does she want to have.. her interests.. or an image she wants other people to have of her. etc). o Try using some of the above items... along with the Universal Wants listed earlier! • We assume here that with a mini-challenge. or want to be perceived as having? Mini-Challenges D7-T40 3. o Are you able to .... Warning . o If you are able to ... o I wonder if you can . can (use smart. o The smart people I know.. o You seem as if. what she likes to do. or be seen as having "X". You are challenging an ASSUMED desire (a "Universal Want").. o Maybe you can . o Always have the question below in mind. o etc.. • Mini-Challenges o You might get this ... wants to have.. o You seem like you may have good taste o etc.. o If you can ..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course "Particular Wants" = Better! What does THIS person want? • Notice o o o particular things that this individual would like to have or be perceived as having She mentions wanting respect She defends her position. or fun. o Talk to her and find out what she wants or needs..This technique can be overused..
3. • Find what someone "wants". you will show me you have that". and Mini-Challenge Cheat Sheet. Challenge the person to do "Y". Creating Them Consider the wants and needs that a person may have . what someone wants.. "By listening to and/or agreeing with me. or be seen as having. Make a statement that says.. (and again. in a way. "Show me you have that thing by listening and/or agreeing with me" or. Tactical Formula for Opportunities and Challenges Find something "X" that the person wants to have. Exercises for Mini-Challenges 1) Try piecing together items from the Universal Wants List. by doing "Y" Make "Y" something that works in your favor. and see how many combinations you can come up with. What does someone Want? Assume.. • Challenge them to see if they will follow through and take action to get it. • Universal Wants • Particular Wants Opportunities. • Create an opportunity for them to get that • Make it so that them "getting" that works in your favor.7.4 Opportunities and Challenges D7-T43 Think of it like this.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Tactical Formula for Mini Challenges Assume something she wants to have. • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control • Excitement Page 64 . here we have to "assume" things for the sake of teaching) .. or hopefully find. or been seen as having You can assume based on normal things that people want (Universal Want) or Get information from talking (Particular Want) Create an opportunity for them to get or demonstrate "X".
• Here is how I read/heard that someone else had or was able to get X. and/or HAVING them. Challenges Are they ready to take advantage of that (this) opportunity? Challenge them to get what they want. Maturity . • Mention something that you have read. Examples: • Does she really want X and see how Y can get that? • Does she really have X. • Confidence .. Provide an example of someone.. something they want. and see how doing Y would demonstrate it?> • Does she have what it takes to get X. or show what they have. • Provide a way to demonstrate that they DO have what they want. and how the confident ones are able to take chances and have fun. even if their friends don't approve. Talk about those things. what does a mature person do? How are they seen? How do they react? o They make their own decisions o They trust their own judgment o They can decide to do something NOW. • Here is a way a friend of mine showed that they have or was able to get X.How can you create an opportunity for someone to appear confident (that works in your favor)? o Discuss people that YOU know. by doing Y? Page 65 . on their own. or some way for this person to capture the opportunity • Provide an example of something she can say or do.. or want to be seen as having Structure this so that it is something that YOU would like them to do. Examples. o . where this opportunity benefits you (and hopefully pertains to the situation)...Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course You need to create an "opportunity" for each of these..Think about maturity . • Provide an example from your own life.. o Let the person demonstrate how confident they are. o They can go against the grain.. How can you make that sound like a way for them to "show" something? How to create an opportunity? • Here is a way for you to show me that you really have or was able to get X. o Talk about how confident people can make their own choices. • Maybe point out something a friend did ... Create the opportunity for them to show or demonstrate that they have or are perceived as having. and feel very comfortable with that. o They can do exciting things. talk about DOING them. by meeting this "challenge". o Mention how confident people can meet someone new.
. Is she ready to take chances? Take risks? Do something different? Maybe not ... and do Y to get it? Can she do Y and make it happen? Can she see that Y will get her what she wants? Can she trust herself enough to do Y? etc. It's NOT about creating an argument! Again. They want X. You talk about that for a while. Page 66 . • Challenge them to do that. she may have to do Y to prove that. • Find out what someone wants.. but. their own intuition. Some examples are shown below. then . • Find a way to map what YOU want.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • • • Does she want you to THINK she has X... and say something like "well. as long as you trust yourself enough to feel that is OK .. there are others shown earlier. Then at some point you talk about you and her getting together. she actually felt more secure about being able to take care of herself. • • I know this is tricky. to show or demonstrate that? Examples: • Security o Say she wants to feel secure.. You discuss success for a while. or be perceived as having. Later. Exercises and Assignments for Opportunities and Challenges 1) Make a list of some assumed things that many people may want to have.". Can she see an opportunity to have "X". I don't know if you are adventurous enough for this. Success o Maybe "success" is important to her." Adventurous o Maybe she wants to feel adventurous. It's different from the way most guys think.. to be a way for them to get what they want. Assumed Wants 2) Write a Mini Challenge for each if the above items.. what this means to her. and mention that you read somewhere that successful people tend to be able to trust their own judgment. These are your "Assumed Wants". you mention "We should get together sometime. Are they ready to do Y. how she may be adventurous. I mean. and she found that by taking chances and risks. You talk about a friend who has always wanted to feel secure..
and focus on using these. out loud 4) Make a note of some of the ones you practiced that seem closest to something you could easily say or do with people in your life.. "you may ... and NOT just things from the "assumed" list. friends. or wants to be perceived as having. Write down these "Wants". co-workers." Mini Challenges 3) Practice the list of Mini Challenges you just created.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course "you seem like . 5) Think about some people that you know quite well like family. Hopefully these are specific to them. or be perceived as having Page 67 . quite unique. "lets see if this makes sense to you "see if you can follow this . Note some of your favorites ones below. write down something that each wants to have.... and go out and actually USE them for a while. "you might. Practice these more. For each person.. etc. Person What they want to have.
.) So you challenge their dedication to their sport by saying "I was reading about really good athletes and one thing that was pointed out was that a lot of them really can get burned out. See if you can make it sound natural. (You want that friend to lighten up and be able to spend more time going out and having fun. Page 68 . see if you can create a "challenge". and "opportunity"." The "opportunity" is for them to be a better athlete. Is there a way to create an "opportunity" for them to get or achieve that? Can you somehow create an opportunity that can be "mapped" in some way towards yourself.. and write them down.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 6) Consider the "want" that you identified from each of those persons above. You are "mapping" it to you because by doing what you discuss. The good athletes find a way to relax and have fun. etc? Give that some thought. Some way that questions . and they spend a LOT of time practicing. or that in some way could be interpreted. and that allows them to be better at their sport. Person Challenge 8) Practice each of those "Challenges" out loud. want to do what you wish. What is the opportunity. Example . Person Opportunity for them to get what they "want" that somehow works in your favor 7) For each "want". even subconsciously. as making them look at you more positively.A friend wants to be really good at a sport. are they ready? Can they take action? Can they DO this? Write down these "Challenges". they will be doing something that YOU want. and how can you "map" it to yourself? Write down these "Opportunities".
we will not be doing any specific work on Ambiguities.... given that this IS an area that many guys are able to do (with enough listening) and given the many OTHER areas that really DO need the assistance of a program like this. • SPEAKING POINTERS o The "Cool" Factor o Voice Tone And Tonality o Pacing And Pausing o Energy And Enthusiasm LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS o Adjectives And Adverbs o Trance Words o Weasel Phrases o Embedded Commands o Linking o Easy-Linking (This. What do they "want". Do what you can to bring these up while in the conversation if you can. 11) For the next 1-2 weeks.9 SUMMARY D7-T66 Bringing it together. that these become familiar. Although there could be a section in this course that deals with these areas. 3. do the same in terms of observing desires.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 9) As you become more familiar with these practiced challenges and opportunities. listen. Those) MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures o Linking Gestures (Towards And Away) o Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This. This is one area that many guys actually ARE able to pick up and use easily if they have listened to the materials enough.8 AMBIGUITIES D7-T64 If you have studied this material for a while.) o Easy Anchoring . That. to do things that you would want.Point Or Touch On Positive And Negative LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES o Pace And Lead " Topics and Subjects * Mindset of Frame • Current Reality o Give Them A Reason • • • Page 69 . look at how many items we have covered so far. listen. listen. they mean something different. 10) While you are talking to people for the next 1-2 weeks. These.. They may have one meaning in one context. so that you have heard them SO MANY TIMES. really focus on what each person desires. you no doubt have heard many examples of "ambiguities". These are those words or phrases that can mean more than one thing. but also ask some questions and get into a discussion about it if possible. but now also start to look for "opportunities and challenges" in a way that directs their desires towards you. see if you can bring them up in conversations over the next few weeks. Listen. Try to guess. That. but in another context. 3.
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These are the building blocks for good Language skills. These are the sorts of skills that are most workable when they are truly "wired in" to someone, so that they are able to be used automatically. To try to "remember" to do such things can be very difficult. That approach would make having a conversation far too difficult and too much work! The best way is to work with these techniques SO much that these truly are just a part of "how you talk". With enough practice, and hearing these enough, you CAN have these become a part of how. YOU talk! So listen, practice, do the exercises, do the assignments, and do that all again, until these really do become a part of you, and a part of how you speak.
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D8-T1 A key aspect of making these tools work is getting the conversation into topic areas that will really work for you. The language tools you studied earlier are best used in the proper context, and in this section, we will learn how to get the conversation into areas that will create that context. Have you had these problems? • You JUMP too quickly into a pattern or topic, and it sounds really strange? • You just THROW a pattern AT her, and get a weird reaction? When you use these tools, or even use "patterns", it's not enough to just "say it", there has to be the correct CONTEXT for what is said! It's a process that she needs to go on and through with you. It's not enough to just find a conversational excuse to "throw" a pattern (or language tool) AT her! This section is about finding ways to just get into an interesting conversation and then towards and onto good topics. We want this to seem natural, and with some understanding, practice, and a few key strategies and tactics it will BE natural and automatic! 4.1 4.1.1 CHALLENGES -a Detailed And Specific Plans Are Just Not Workable. D8-T3
It's good to theorize to "say this", and then "say that", and then to use "this pattern", and "that pattern". However, the problem is that a lot of time the proper context is not presented well enough. The examples you may have seen in other products are just that, examples. The problem is that too many guys have taken them literally! Guys try to do "X, Y, Z," exactly, in order, with no sense of calibration, or being able to work and re-direct things in real time. Therefore, detailed tactical plans are not realistic. 4.1.2 Navigation Example D8-T4
Think of moving a conversation to a certain point, like taking a trip somewhere. Say you are in Chicago, and want to go to Los Angeles. You could have a detailed map of every turn and road, exact route numbers and lengths, etc. The problem is... what do you do if there is a detour? What if the road is changed, what if the map is wrong? You are lost! What if, instead, we teach you how to drive the car, and give you a general set of directions like "keep driving west, until you see the ocean, then turn left (south)". That way, you can handle just about any turns, roads, or detours that you may encounter! Conversations are different from roads too, because people are all unique, situations, times, surroundings etc. are unique and change from moment to moment. Therefore, if you want to get a conversation to go a certain way, then detailed plans made ahead of time are hard to work with. There are too many variables! We need a workable set of strategies and tactics that allows you, in real-time, to direct things the way that you want them to go. They need to be easy to follow, and easy to use, and something that you don't need to "think about", but can just DO easily.
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So we need a general set of guidelines, some overall strategies and tactics, so that you can have this good, intuitive sense of how to "steer" things, and get conversations to where you want them to go. As long as you are engaging a woman's emotions, capturing & leading her imagination, then you are moving in the right direction. Then, in that situation and in that context, linking all the positive & powerful things to you becomes more workable. Instead of a map, we are giving you a "compass". We need a strategy for managing conversations that can to do this gradually, in a way that seems natural! If it's too abrupt or makes the conversation strained, it will sound weird. The strategy must LEAD the conversation towards good topics and subjects in a way that seems natural, and is not TOO abrupt. Examples: (Listen to the audio.) • Talking about a printer o Moving TOO quickly towards emotional topics o Can sound strange • Driving a car and taking a turn (Analogy) o Think of driving down freeway and needing to switch to different direction. o You can't make a hard, right angle turn on a dime! o You need to turn the car, slowly, on a ramp to go in a different direction. When we control conversions, we need to find a way to take it gradually in a new direction. Many guys try to do the hard and fast switch, and they crash in the process! We will learn to move things in a way that makes it seem natural, but it will be deliberate. 4.1.4 She Must Be Engaged In The Conversation! D8-T10
It's important to get conversations into the right area and have HER go along with you. Not just "bring it up" (a topic or pattern), but it must be natural and she must "go along" with it and be a PART of it. She must be actually THINKING about what you are discussing! It has to happen naturally. No weird jumps. It's not enough to just talk; she must BE a part of the conversation! So, don't just "jump" to a topic. Don't find an "excuse" to bring it up. Take the conversation there, take her WITH you, and have her be a part of it! What really helps is to have a genuine interest (or at least curiosity) in her and the conversation, not just thinking to yourself; "How can I use this?" 4.2 HOW CONVERSATIONS HAPPEN D8-T12
How does this really occur? We will break this down so that we have a way to really affect this process. 4.2.1 Conversational Dynamics D8-T13
How do conversations happen? Most of them occur somewhat randomly as the conversation flows from topic to topic over time, and can end up almost anywhere after a while. By the time YOU move from one topic to the next,
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you may end up in a very different place from where you began. However, there is a series of steps as things move forward, as shown in Figure 4.2.1-1.
Figure 4.2.1-1: Conversations Move Through Many Topics
Each of these steps between topics tends to be related. Topic 1 relates to Topic 2. Topic 2 relates to Topic 3, etc. For example, you can start to talk about Cars, and then move to one aspect of that topic, Car Seats. Then it's easy to move to some aspect of that topic, which maybe something that seats are made of, like Leather. Then maybe you talk about Leather Furniture, etc. (See Figure 4.2.1-2.)
Figure 4.2.1-2: Each Topic Flows To the Next Topic In most cases, each Topic is related to the one before.
After a series of such steps, you can be at a quite different topic (like an apartment that you used to live in) even though you started at a quite different topic (Cars). In most cases, it's very difficult to predict where a conversation will go after many of these steps. As you go through a few topic shifts (as shown in the diagrams), although each individual shift relates to the topic before and after that shift, after a series of shifts you can end up talking about almost anything! Therefore, even if you start the conversation at a great topic, you can get off-track and into topics that will not work in your favor. Conversely, what is needed is a way to start at almost any topic at all, and by steering that process (of moving from Topic 1, to Topic 2, Topic 3, etc) take the conversation into better and better topic areas that will serve your purposes. 4.2.2 Conversational Model D8-T14
We introduce a model to assist in discussion, understanding, and control of conversations. If you start at a topic, how do you go to another one? This process happens all of the time very easily. The key is that the movement from one topic to the next takes places easily because there are so many options involved. From any topic (Topic 1) it is easy to flow to any of 6-8 other, related topics (Topic 2 Candidates). People usually just "talk" and naturally the conversation moves from the first topic to the next one. Since the "next" topic is related, this process seems natural and is easy to do. In fact, you do this all the time without really knowing about it. (We are creating a model to describe a process that happens naturally, so that we can teach you a way to have an affect on that process). Figure 4.2.2-1 shows how from one topic, the conversation can flow easily to many related topics.
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Car you own Seats in it Interior of your car How Powerful it is What Gas does it use How Fast it is Feel of Driving Places you have gone Where you bought it
Topic 2 Candidates
Figure 4.2.2-1: From One Topic to many Candidate Topics The topic of Cars is discussed, and from there are many ways the conversation can easily move.
Once the conversation moves to one of these eight topics, it's easy to move to one of eight more. For example if in Figure 4.2.2-1, the conversation flows from "Cars" to "Where you bought it" (as in, where you bought the car), then now we have a situation like that shown in Figure 4.2.2-2.
Where you bought it
That car dealer The salesman Part of town Other car dealers Who went with you How you bought it The Loan you used etc. Topic 3 Candidates
Figure 4.2.2-2: From A Second Topic, Another Group of Candidates If "Cars" was discussed first, and then "Where you bought it" was discussed next, there are now many ways to go in the next step. In the figure, you see how the conversation moves from Cars, to "Where you bought it". After that, there are many "candidate" topics where the conversation can flow. Perhaps it moves to the "Part of town" where the car was purchased.
Now from the topic of "Where you bought it" (a car), there are easily eight places that you can go from there, shown as the "Topic 3 candidates". This process continues throughout a conversation. This process happens regardless of the specific topics being discussed. Conversations flow from topic to topic, as shown in a general manner in Figure 4.2.2-3.
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Topic 1 Topic 2 Topic 3 Topic 4 Figure 4. However. an so on. you can affect this process (and we will teach that to you). Do you see why the pre-planned approaches can be difficult?! Even if you ARE able to have the conversation start from a specific place (Topic 1). If Topic 1 can lead to eight different candidates for Topic 2. When this happens in succession. since it's so easy to go from any topic to 6-8 others. when talking to some random person.2-4 shows what happens when all the topics are considered. because there are SO many ways that things can go! Page 75 .2. the Figures that have been shown so far only show a small portion of the total topics towards which a conversation can flow. then talk about Z" are very difficult to really work with. then EACH of the eight different candidates for Topic 2 can then lead to their own eight. you can have up to eight different ways to go at EACH step. This results in easily over 500 topics that could be selected by the time we arrive at Topic 4! In only three shifts of the topic ("topic shifts" as shown in the figure) we end up with many many possibilities of where the conversation might end up.2. With some skill and technique. there is no way to know exactly where it will end up by the time you have moved forward a few steps! Imagine trying to predict ahead-of-time exactly where you may arrive (among those 512 options).2-3: Topics Flow from One to the Next Each topic in a conversation can easily lead to 6-8 others. the plans that many guys try to use to "Talk about X. then talk about Y. and at each step after that. and the conversation flows along in this manner. you can end up with the conversation going almost anywhere! Figure 4. In general. In many ways.
2. then after only three shifts in the topic. you can end up in over 500 different topic areas! We can create a general Conversation Model that shows this process (Figure 4. a conversation may start from one topic or subject (Topic 1).2. Once Topic 2 has been discussed.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 1st Topic Shift 2nd Topic Shift 3rd Topic Shift Figure 4. it can flow from there.2-5). It then can flow easily to maybe 6-8 others (the diagram shows fewer for the sake of clarity).2-4: Topic Candidates and Topic Shifts If each topic can flow to eight others. Page 76 . As seen in the diagram. and so on.
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Figure 4.2-5: Conversation Model The "Tree of Subjects" showing how thousands of subjects can be reached in just a few steps of the conversation. that they become far too many to shown in the diagram.2. if you assume that from any topic you could go to any of 8 other topics.2. it is quite easy to move from that onto 6-8 related topics.2. In fact. There are SO many ways it can flow. (The figure only shows a portion of how many subjects and topics can be reached). is an awareness of this phenomenon that is called the "Topic Turning Point". This process of moving from the first topic to one of 6-8 relevant topics is the process of moving through a "Topic Turning Point" as shown in Figure 4.3 Topic Turning Point D8-T15 The KEY concept the needs to be understood to gain the ability to manage conversations.000 different subjects or topics that could be discussed by the time you are at "Level 6" in the conversation!! 4. Page 77 . then for that diagram to be really accurate it would have to show over 30.3-1. The diagram only shows a small fraction of them (so that the diagram is not even more cluttered than it already is!). If you are discussing one specific topic.
etc. as long as the new topic is "related" to the first (this is shown in the diagram by the "candidates") then this change is easy to do. However. Someone might make a comment.3-2: How TTP Selections Effect the Conversation The selections made at each TTP are what actually "steer" the conversation in a certain direction. the conversation "shifts" slightly.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Candidate Topics Figure 4. and throughout a conversation. the overall flow of a conversation comes about due to many of these TTP choices being made. For example.2. Therefore.3-1: The Topic Turning Point (TTP) When discussing any topic (First Topic) there are easily 6-8 different topics to which the conversation can be moved (Candidate Topics). The key thing to realize is that this process of Topic Turning Point (TTP) selection occurs over and over.3-2 Topic Turning Points Figure 4. Page 78 . introduce an idea.2. after one topic has been discussed for a short while. make a statement. A general way of looking at this process is shown in Figure 4. the conversation can then move to another topic. ask a question.2.
) then you CAN direct how a conversation flows.. no matter WHAT is discussed. • Other people may do the opposite. positive. and the conversation tend to into one of four general areas. fun. IMPORTANT: The overall direction of a conversation comes about due to a successive selection of TTPs. However. fun. we want the conversation to be positive.. Many people do this "TTP selection" process automatically. The flow of the conversation starts. No matter WHAT you talk to them about. For example: • Maybe someone always finds a fun. Look in the diagrams. positive aspects of every topic being discussed. depressing Confrontational .. and interesting. and some training (which .Those are just general examples. positive way to look at anything. By manipulating TTPs from moment to moment. In a very broad sense. and they quick steer the conversation in that manner. very quickly. This selection just "happens". they Good Boring Bad Argument could be more specific (and we will get there). but you will have some control over the overall direction. no one is "deciding" the TTPs. • Other people able to direct conversations based on their own beliefs and their own political motivations as well. These types of people are making TTP selections based on a strategy of finding things that are negative to talk about. moment-to-moment.3. • Other people direct conversations based upon their own moral or religious values.. As you have probably guessed by now.. they somehow see it in terms how in effects their beliefs. they find a way to point out something negative. with some awareness of this process. So to start our process of learning how to manage conversations. conversations tend to go in one of several ways. interesting things". you can direct where the overall conversation goes. (See Figure 4. easily and naturally? That IS the point. These people are able to automatically make TTP choices based on a strategy of finding good. and that work in YOUR favor. we are going to later teach you a way to be able to make these TTP selections. and imagine if you had a general way to manipulate these TTPs.3. conversations are one of four types: • • • • Fun. choices are made moment to moment.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Normally. interesting Mundane and uninteresting Negative. 4.. D8-T16 D8-T16 So how can you actually affect the flow of a conversation. and do so in a way that sounds VERY natural.1 GENERAL CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Want. fun.) Page 79 . That ability alone is enough for our purposes. The overall strategy at the beginning is then to "talk about positive. we want to first start to steer things in the best general manner.1-1. is coming soon. to "route" conversations so that they end up being the kinds of conversations that YOU want to have.3 4. isn't it? In general. Can you see how you may be able to affect where a conversation goes? You might not be able to predict EXACTLY where it ends up. Sometimes this can be VERY apparent.
3. do what you can to steer in that direction. positive and interesting. fun. Even if things move towards other areas. No matter what is brought up. interesting things. Strategic Formula for General Conversational Management To steer the conversation in a good direction. and Interesting" things. interesting things. so from the earliest stages. interesting things. Introduce topics that are fun.1-1: General Conversational Management Consider all of the ways a conversation can go. and Interesting topics and subjects.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course General Conversational Management Conversations tend to flow in one of four major ways. Don't engage in conversations when it's NOT about positive. How do you do that? • • • Show interest when someone discusses positive. you see that you want to focus the conversation onto topics that are "Fun. Positive. Page 80 . Positive. fun. If you break that down into 4 main directions. and Interesting". Figure 4. steer towards Fun. bring up positive. you can still "steer" back towards "Fun. Positive. fun.
By manipulating TTPs from moment to moment.Where can I go that is "fun. Positive.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4. positive. . and Interesting? That is the direction to go! Candidate Topics Figure 4. you make note of where you are in the conversation.) Tactical Formula for General Conversational Management Keep thinking . positive.The overall direction of a conversation comes about due to a successive selection of TTPs. you can always think of 6-8 other related topics or subjects. Repeat. You think of the "candidates" (the related topics or subjects that you can discuss) that serve you at the time. Page 81 . Which Of these are Fun.3."Where can I go that is fun. the TTP. So you just think to yourself "Where can I go that is fan. • Etc. move things towards the related topics that are "Fun. and interesting?" Move the conversation in that direction. and Interesting". For any subject. and interesting"? Moment-to-moment. and then steer things in the correct direction.3. Positive.2-1. and interesting" (See Figure 4.2 How To Steer Conversations. TTP options. positive. and then you move things in that direction! Remember . and interesting" and just move things in that direction. How do you move things in that direction? You can: • Ask a question • Make a comment • Make a joke • Quote someone you heard. positive. as long as it moves things in a way that answers the question "Where can I go that is fun. You then think of several ways you can go (the related topics.. TTP Mantra . as we discussed earlier. the topic "candidates" that were shown earlier).3. or something you read. Moment To Moment D8-T19 Look at the overall flow of a conversation and break it down to its smallest point that we can affect. you can direct where the overall conversation goes.2-1: Topic Turning Point Navigation for General Conversational Management No matter what subject you start talking about..
"fun. just keep thinking about where you can go that is "Fun.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Later in the conversation.3-1: Moving Through Topics Using General Conversational Management Early in a conversation.3-2.3. and interesting"..).) Keep things moving in the direction of Fun. 4. Positive..3 The Model With Strategy And Tactics In Place D8-T23 As you make TTP choice after TTP choice (See Figure 4. you get to an overall "area" that will work. Do this for a while.3.3. and Interesting! Figure 4.3-1. the most important thing to do is to focus on moving thing in a direction that is . (See Figure 4. Page 82 .3. You are steering things towards the direction that you want the conversation to go. Positive. and Interesting". you can work more towards certain topic areas. positive. but in the early part of the conversation.
and write down the topic for each.3-2: General Conversational Management Model The most important direction to go. what was the main topic? Topics Page 83 . Positive. and Interesting!/ Figure 4. At some particular moment early in the conversation.3.3. especially early in a conversation. Positive. keep steering in the right direction and in many cases you WILL get towards the right area soon enough (and if not. or where you are. and Interesting topics and subjects. 4. Even if you temporarily move away from that direction or end up in an area that is not very positive or interesting. maybe that person is not someone that you want to talk to anyway). is towards Fun.4 Exercises and Assignments D8-T25 Exercises for General Conversational Management 1) Think of some conversations that you have been in recently. always move towards topics and subjects that are Fun.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course General Conversational Mgt Model No matter where you start.
consider it a topic that leads to a TTP (copy each item above into the "Topic" area below). For each of those Topics. ask about. directions you could "take" the conversation (these are the TTP Options. Write each of those down. Topic TTP Options (Candidate Topics') Page 84 . list 6-8 different ways you could go.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 2) Based on each of those topics. or Candidate Topics). things you could comment on.
which are the best? Which of these would move the conversation in a way that is best for you (think of "Fun. 4) For each Topic.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Of the 6-8 different TTP Options you have written above for each Topic. 5) Practice again on each by moving things in the direction of the second item that was circled. whatever it might take to move things in that direction. making a statement. asking a question. Positive. what would it have been like to have moved the conversation in the direction of the first item you circled? Practice that out loud for each Topic above. Page 85 . and Interesting")? Select two "candidates" and circle or highlight those two.. maybe by making a comment. etc.
positive and interesting topics. the imagination moving. where COULD I have taken things". the more YOU can and will become that guy! 4. etc. you may have to think of 6-8 options. and spending time with? The type of guy that people seek out to spend time with? The more you do these types of exercises. 2) Now that you are able to quickly find 1 or 2 good TTP options. we want to work with topics that get the emotions involved.5 Summary D8-T32 Remember what was said earlier: • The overall direction of a conversation comes about due to a successive selection of TTPs (which normally occur at random.4. You then have to wonder . or without an overall strategy in mind). positive. the conversation becomes more enjoyable for everyone. • By moving things in this way. engaging. thinking "what COULD I have done. When talking to anyone. start to take the conversation there! Ask a question. we want things to get even more Page 86 . you can direct where the overall conversation goes. fascinating. It WILL get easier. that no matter WHAT you do with some people. they will not go down a path of having a fun. don't worry. we are turning you into someone that people LIKE to talk to! You know the type of person that people enjoy talking to. Building on what we learned in the last section.4 4. D8-T33 D8-T33 We want the conversation to be more than just positive.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Assignments for General Conversational Management 1) For the next week or so. whatever it takes. Just do what you can so that the TTP shifts in a direction that is fun. and positive conversation. maybe offer an opinion. even at the start of a conversation. We want to focus the aim of our conversational management skills even more. but the REAL key is to at least get to the point where you can very quickly think of at least 1 or 2 ways to go that are Fun. look for moments where things can be "steered" in a certain way. Maybe start out by looking at conversation after the fact. inquire about something. we want it to be really interesting. make a comment. In general. we can start to direct the conversation into an even BETTER area. Positive.3. If this is a challenge for you. By manipulating TTPs from moment to moment. At first. interesting. After a while. Make it so that it becomes easy for you to come up with a list of "options" very quickly. You may start to find however. Interesting." 4.1 ADVANCED CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Really Want. Do this for a while until the process of finding 1 or 2 good "Ways to go" in a conversation (good TTP options) can happen very rapidly for you. At any moment you should be able to think "Where can I go with this?". and people REALLY interested. having conversations with. interesting.Is that the sort of person you want to talk to and spend time with? Maybe not. really be aware of the TTP opportunities in your day-to-day life. Instead of the more general area of fun.
1-1: Advanced Conversational Management Focuses the Steering From the start of a conversation. you move it in ways that engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way.) General Conversational Management takes the conversation into the Fun.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course interesting. and Interesting. there were 4 main directions towards which a conversation may go. So. and steer using Advanced Conversational Management Figure 4. there are many ways to go. how do we work that in what we are doing moment-to-moment? How can we do things that will make that happen? Page 87 . Strategic Formula for Advanced Conversational Management To direct the conversation into even BETTER areas. more excitement. we were able to move things in the direction of Fun. We use our strategy of working with the TTPs.4. With that as a general strategy.4. Now from that point. there are many ways the conversation can move. (See Figure 4. and more involvement of the imagination. Using General Conversational Management.1-1. We move forward and want to get a more emotional tone. Positive. To move the conversation into more interesting areas. So we narrow our focus. to "steer" things even more towards what we want. From there. steer the conversation towards directions that engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way. Interesting area. Positive. we now shift our strategy of "steering" things to direct the topics in a more focused manner using Advanced Conversational Management.
4.3-1 for an explanation. (See Figure 4.) Page 88 . TTP Fun. we shift the focus of how we navigate TTPs.2 Steering Conversations Moment To Moment using Advanced Conversational Management D8-T35 Again. Positive.4. we need to use the TTP as a way to move things in the right direction.) TTP Mantra " Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Tactical Formula for Advanced Conversational Management Keep thinking . See Figure 4. and explain a bit more as to its meaning and interpretation. 4. Interesting Topics Which of these "Engage the Emotions and imagination in a Positive Way"? That is the direction to go! Candidate Topics Figure 4.2-1: Topic Turning Point Navigation for Advanced Conversational Management After using General Conversational Management for a while. With that established. we can assume that we are talking about subjects which fit into the "Fun. and Interesting" area. Repeat. Positive. and with that strategy in mind.4.4.2-1. we look at the concept of the TTP. we need to change the way the model is shown.4. but now think "where can I go that will engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way".3 The Model With Advanced Strategy And Tactics In Place D8-T38 (Before we move on to looking at the model.Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Move the conversation in that direction.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4.
The locations of points (1). the graphics we will use will show an even more "condensed" version of this process. For example.4. these diagrams will indicate a VERY condensed version of the number of steps involved. the model above is what we used to show a starting point (1). From now on in the course. there can be a whole "tree" of possibilities leading from there. but a way to show a "trend". etc. it may take ten. At that point. Figure 4. and Interesting conversation (2) may take four steps. or topic shift) shown on the digram may represent many steps in an actual conversation. or thirty. It may happen in ten minutes. (2). not an exact number of steps or outcomes.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Understanding the Conversational Management Model The model attempts to show a process that has many many steps. where every "step" (TTP. Positive. Page 89 . and it ends up at a certain area (2). Positive. But after using the general techniques (Fun. and (3) in the figure above (and in the next figure) helps to show this.) the conversation moves on for a while. we are not showing that there are exactly "four steps" between points (1) and (2). with thousands upon thousands of possible possible routes and outcomes. once again ending up with thousands of topics that could be discussed by the time you get through more topic shifts (3). This can result in so many possibilities (many thousands within a few steps) that it's important to look at these diagrams as a way to show "trend". In practice. When starting from ANY topic (1) to a place where you are firmly established for a period of time in a Fun.3-1: Understanding the Conversational Management Model The "levels" shown in the models are not meant to be exact. For example. so that the various stages of a conversation can be easily illustrated.
Page 90 .4. we now focus more on moving in a direction that will "Engage the Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way". If you follow these two simple strategies together (and the tactical approach of simply watching the TTPs and moving things in the right way). emotional topics. 10. Now the emphasis is on ways to "Engage the Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way". 20. If you refer to Figure 4.4. This is shown from point (1) to point (2) in the diagram. and states.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course We started at one topic. Then a shift is made towards focusing the conversation even more using Advanced Conversational Management. the conversation will get more and more of an "emotional" tone to it. you end up linking and associating many fascinating. feelings. Although the diagram shows only 2 steps (for simplicity). After that has been established. and Interesting conversation (2). Positive. 10 topic shifts. And of course while doing that. and could be at any of thousands of topics after 6. This too can take any number of steps. in practice it may be good to follow a series of topics for 5. and then Advanced Conversational Management.3-2. until it is firmly established that the conversation has engaged the emotions and imagination of the participant. only a few of which are shown in the diagram. you can see how General Conversational Management. or 30 minutes. General Conversational Management techniques are used. we focused the conversation towards moving things in a direction that is "Fun Positive and Interesting. This also is followed for a series of steps and a period of time. For a while. if you use the language tools which we learned about earlier in the course. As time goes on. to yourself! Advanced Conversational Management Model Figure 4. subjects. The subjects will get more and more fascinating. 8. the conversation will get better and better. This is shown between points (2) and (3).3-2: Advanced Conversational Management Model Early in the conversation. or however long it takes to be firmly established in a Fun. are used together to move forward in a conversation. exciting.
consider it a topic that leads to a TTP (copy each above into the "Topic" areas below). Write each of those down. positive. what was the main topic? Topics 2) Based on each of those topics. list 6-8 different ways you could go. and interesting conversation. TTP Options (Candidate Topics') Page 91 . Topic a. things you could comment on.4.4 Exercises and Assignments D8-T39 Exercises for Advanced Conversational Management 1) Think of some conversations that you have been in recently.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4. For each of those Topics. and write down the topic for each. ask about. At some particular moment in that conversation. These should be conversations where it is already obvious that it is a fun. or Candidate Topics). directions you could "take" the conversation (these are the TTP Options.
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you may have to think of 6-8 options. start to take the conversation there! Ask a question. even things with some degree of sensual connotation to them. fascinating.. but the REAL key is to at least get to the point where you can very quickly think of at least 1 or 2 ways to go that "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way".5 4.5. what would it have been like to have moved the conversation in the direction of the first item you circled? Practice that out loud for each Topic above. once again. This is best when applied to a conversation that is ALREADY fun.4. So. inquire about something.1 Summary MORE ADVANCED CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT More About Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Really Want. until the process of finding 1 or 2 ways to go that "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way" in a conversation can happen very rapidly for you. It WILL get easier. whatever it takes. maybe offer an opinion. which 1 or 2 would tend to "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way"? Which ones move things in a way that is best for you? Select two "candidates" and circle or highlight these two. Assignments for Advanced Conversational Management 1) For the next week or so. we want to steer things more towards romantic. maybe by making a comment. seductive things. etc. whatever it might take to move things in that direction.. making a statement. If this is a challenge for you. really be aware of the TTP opportunities in your day-to-day life. 5) Practice again on each by moving things in the direction of the second item that was circled.5 4. thinking "what COULD I have done. we focus further on the TTP options! Page 93 . 4) For each Topic. Just do what you can so that the TTP shifts in a direction that can "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". 4. what next? At some point in the conversation. make a comment.. but be especially aware of wanting to move things to "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". asking a question. Do this for a while. Maybe start out by looking at conversation after the fact.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Of the 6-8 different TTP Options you have written above for each Topic. D8-T46 D8-T47 D8-T47 As you can see. don't worry. At first. where COULD I have taken things". So. we are "steering" things more and more in a direction that we wish to go. positive. 2) Now that you are able to quickly find 1 or 2 good TTP options for yourself that "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". and interesting.
5. fascinating. seductive things?" Move the conversation in that direction. and then topics that engage the emotions and imagination. and associating YOU with them! (See Figure 4.2-1. Moving towards romantic. seductive things is much easier after you have first move towards fun. However. you will have taken things in the right direction and this will be much easier. The focus now is upon topics that get you closer towards Romantic. and followed the other strategies and tactics shown earlier.3 The Model With More Advanced Strategy And Tactics In Place D8-T52 We are just closing in.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Strategic Formula for More Advanced Conversational Management To further direct the conversation into even BETTER areas. fascinating.3-1. then the focus shifts again towards directing things in a specific way. 4.5. Fascinating. This gets her mind into thinking more and more about these things. Seductive things Tactical Formula for More Advanced Conversational Management Keep thinking . Repeat.2-1: Topic Turning Point Navigation for More Advanced Conversational Management After using General and Advanced Conversational Management. if you have been in a conversation for a while. 4. and focusing more and more towards areas and topics that work. seductive things?" Figure 4. positive and interesting thing.) Page 94 .5. This may seem odd or hard to do. steer the conversation towards romantic.) "Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic.2 Steering Conversations Using More Advanced Conversational Management D8-T49 TTP Mantra (See Figure 4. fascinating.5. fascinating.5. and seductive things."Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic.
General Conversational Management techniques place the focus on selecting items that are Fun.. shown from point (1) to (2). the focus moves towards selecting items based on More Advanced Conversational Management. moving to point (4) Page 95 . Early on. and Seductive. moving to point (3). and Interesting. Positive.5. Then the Advanced Conversational Management Techniques place the focus more upon items that involve the Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way. Fascinating. there is a different focus at each stage.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course More Advanced Conversational Management Model Figure 4. After that type of conversation has been established (3).3-1: More Advanced Conversational Management Model As the conversation progresses. which targets topics and subjects that are Romantic.
6 CONVERSATIONAL FRACTIONATION D9-T1 Using these Conversational Management skills in the real world may be quite different in practice from the way most guys "think" it will happen.6. and get things to be more and more fascinating and exciting.6. (See Figure 4. 4.) The Dream that Does Not Happen! Figure 4. that they will get an AMAZING reaction in their first movement across the Model. and then an emotional one. Moreover. Too many guys are too caught up in this one-shot dream of traveling once across the model and getting an amazing result.6. the way it really DOES happen.1-1: The Dream of a 1-Shot Path To Success! A common misperception is that many guys think that if they can just move a conversation from the start. then a sensual one.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4.MAGIC! However that is NOT the way it works in the real world. Page 96 . to a positive one. and then .1 The 1-Shot Beeline Fallacy D9-T2 Guys assume that they will travel from a general topic. will work in your favor. This hardly ever ever happens.1-1.
You just start the process again.6. Use the language tools.31. When we say "go back".2 How Fractionation Works D9-T3 The real world has stops. move on to the next step..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4. moving through the model towards the right. and then at some point. This actually ADDS to the power and effectiveness of what you are doing. and then . So. No problem. (See Figure 4. stay there and talk about it for a while. You back up to a more general topic. emotional and imaginative topics. you may jump back just several steps in our Conversational Management Process. This is where a process is done repeatedly over and over. goes for some distance through the model (maybe all the way through). the conversation ends up being very interesting and fascinating! 4.. No problem. you are always moving towards positive topics. Have fun. no matter where you start. Then at some point. And again. You might do that on your own. and fascinating and seductive topics. etc.. Maybe you start from a very general topic and get all the way through the model towards a very very fascinating topic or subject. or maybe the conversation shifts back to that place due to something she says.. Great! Talk about that for a while. you take a conversation from the early stages through the process. g) Do the whole process over and over. In this way. Maybe several times. If you get to a very good place. you go back towards something more "normal". here is how this works. no matter how the conversation jumps around. restarts.6. Just start the process again.. Start at any topic (you are on the far left side of the Model) Move forward towards the right.6..) a) b) c) d) Page 97 .. This actually works better! We are actually using Fractionation. Because no matter where you start from. starts.. Maybe you move all the way back to a very "normal" topic (which would be all the way on the left side of the model). The conversation starts. Then you "back up" to some extent (even all the way back to a very general topic area) and then move forward across the model again.. e) Then move back (towards the left side of the model) This may happen because: • The person you are talking to does that (she asks a question) • Or maybe you do it (just to lighten things up) f) Then start again. you back off.3 Using Conversational Fractionation D9-T5 Start at some normal topic and move through the model towards the right. Of if you can't seem to get to a good place. So. using the Conversational Management techniques Get as far through the model as you can..
there is a continued movement up and into better and better areas of conversation.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Conversational Fractionation at Work Figure 4. This is not a problem. As time goes on (5-12) the conversation gets into better and better areas.6. it's not a bad idea to back up a bit (9) and then move forward again. there is no such thing as a conversational "Dead End"! Page 98 . that no matter WHAT you talk about. interesting. and fascinating! 4. simply back up (3) and then try moving into a better direction (4).4 Dead Ends Come Back To Life! D9-T6 With this new strategy of using Conversational Fractionation. over time. at times maybe they move towards an area that is not too good (2). Fractionation happens at times because even when you may be at a fairly good place for a while (8).3-1: How Conversation Fractionation Works on the Model Follow the conversation as it moves from (1) to (12). it ends up being fun. The overall trend is that. As things move forward from (1). You become one of those fascinating guys.6.
.7 CONVERSATIONAL OVERVIEW AND REVIEW D9-T7 So. seductive things? Move things in that direction. and get the effect.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course If you happen to take a "wrong turn" somehow and get into an area of discussion that is boring. with you! 4. and use the Strategy and Tactics of the Conversational Management techniques! Look at "Dead Ends" as being just like a bad turn on a road. or what you both have in common Move forward with the Strategies and Tactics in mind. have more material to use in conversations in the future! 4.. how do we pull this together? 4. • What if you can't make the conversation positive? • What if she always points out the negative aspect? • What if there is NO emotional engagement at ALL? Well. etc. o If you get to a good subject or topic. and go down another path! 4. No problem.2 What If The Outcome Is Not What You Expected? D9-T9 Despite your best efforts. When on good topics.. Do that for a while and then think .1 • Conversational Management Approach Start on just about ANY subject..7. use the language tools. uninteresting. and interesting? Move things in that direction.. use the language tools as much as possible! D9-T8 • • • • • • • • • Keep moving the conversation into these interesting fascinating areas . you just back up. —* The entire time: o If you hit a "dead end". or maybe negative. back up a few steps. (think of your TTP options).. talked more. Just back up.3 Summary D9-T10 Go have fun with these tools! Page 99 .7. Do that for a while and then think .. this can happen. Where can I go that is fun.7. o Comment on what is around o Mention common items.. positive. Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. fascinating. Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Move things in that direction. stay there for a while. and the person becomes interested and fascinated. you might have just found out that they are NOT someone you want to spend time with! That's not a total loss because you STILL learned more..
In the meantime. especially as they get more interesting. You will be able to say things like "I was talking to someone about this the other day.. you should be able to use them with subjects in which you are already interested! Page 101 . some practice. and it's even better if you are passionate about those topics. and THEY said.) Before you can use the language tools with new subjects that you are learning about.great! It's easier to use the language tools if you are discussing topics with which you are familiar. TOPICS OF ENTHUSIASM AND PASSION D9-T14 What are you passionate about? Few things are more compelling in a person than for them to be passionate about something (hopefully many things) in life. Themes vs. the easier it will get. However. and closer towards the subjects that will really serve your intent. then you may want to go back in those earlier sections. this is something we can and will work on with you. if using those language tools is problem for you. fascinating. The more experience you get. However. Talking about these topics may be a challenge for many men. fascinating. Can you talk passionately about something? Anything? Hopefully.". and some familiarity with this type of thing. Most men may not be very familiar with many of the topics that we REALLY want to get into. Now we want you to become familiar with topics that will really work well for you! We are going to work with some of these topics. we have talked about managing conversations. go ahead and practice! (Or maybe do that the next time you go through the course. What do you talk about? There is no substitute for experience. and then the more "material" you will have. and while talking about subjects and topics that YOU are really passionate about. Topics • • 5. fun.1 Themes are a way through a discussion or through the "tree of subjects" that we showed earlier. to get the best effect you will have to be a PART of that conversation and familiar with the topics that may come up.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 5. A topic is a particular area of discussion that is taking place in a moment. the more familiar you will be with these topics. the more you talk to people about such things..0 TOPICS D9-T11 What do you talk about? As the conversation gets more interesting. what can we do here in this course to help you? We have talked about the way to talk and use language. so that YOU have some material. yes! How well can you talk about topics that YOU are passionate about while using many of the language tools we talked about in the earlier parts of the course? If you can do that very well . and that statement (regarding having actually talked to someone about the topics) will be TRUE! So. You want to be able to discuss these topics easily.
or sports. excitement. at least. someone) some topics are easier to work with than others. and link it to you! When • • • • • you are at or near an SOT: Use the correct tone of Voice Pace and Lead correctly Link things to you Point at the right times. Topics that access emotions. work it. or cleaning the toilet...2 SEDUCTION ORIENTED TOPICS D9-T15 In the context of this course (and your intent in talking with . but a good number of them. stay there as long as you can! Talk about it. You want to be able to discuss topics that deal on some level with Seduction.. or the office. 5.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course So.. judge for yourself. etc. How good are you at the earlier sections that dealt with the language tools? It may be a good idea to go back over those sections. feelings. Seduction Oriented Topics (SOTs) .just TALKING about these can create a good effect. and emphasize discussing topics in which YOU are interested and passionate about. Examples of SOTs • Connections • Going for it • Making good decisions • Surrendering to feelings • Getting excited • Feeling excited • Trusting your judgment • Taking chances • Indulgence • Maturity • Good decisions • . but how effective are those as subjects given the "purpose" of the discussion? You want to discuss topics and things which deal with seduction. or topics that are very close to that concept. or near. a topic that is an SOT. You may talk about cars. Your point is to get to.Topics that bring up images and thoughts that are romantic. sensual.. in the right way Use the language tools! You want to be familiar with these topics (SOTs) and able to discuss them easily: maybe not ALL of them. but doing so while using the language tools. and seductive.) Page 102 . These are called "Seduction Oriented Topics". or. The conversational management sections will help you to move the conversation in a way that will get you near these topics areas. can create an AMAZING effect! When you do get a conversation into an area near an SOT. (Every guy has his favorites and ones that work best for him. in some ways.. SOTs are the "end goals" when it comes to managing or directing a conversation.
bring up images and thoughts that may work for you. or on TV. the easier it will be to "riff" on these using the language tools. Write down your list of SOTs. and the more you talk to and with people about them.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course These topics may seem foreign to you. You can use some of those that were listed earlier if you wish. have stories about them. Get the conversation there. hopefully some way that involves you and your own life. Think about other topics you have heard mentioned in this program. Eventually.. the more you practice. easily. or comment on them! Talk aloud for several minutes about each. Seduction Oriented Topics 2) You must become familiar with these! You must be able to talk about them. or anything like that. you will be able to just "talk" about the subject while using the tools that are available. and without "thinking" about the language tools. the more you practice using the tools. keep it there. using as many of the language tools as you can.. talk about something you heard. the easier it will get! Strategic Formula for Seduction Oriented Topics SOTs are topics that. and discuss these subjects. by there very nature. or overhear from others) and listen for when any of these SOTs come up in conversation. ask about them. read. or in movies. Page 103 . you JUST need to be able to talk. and also topics that you have heard in other materials and products that you have. Or. but the more you think about them.Are you able to somehow relate to these in your own life? Maybe something you read or heard? Maybe questions you can ask? ANYTHING?!?!? You do not need to "know" a lot about these topics or be an expert. the more you work with the materials. or joke about them. Or are taking!) . or seduction per se. and while there. Exercises for Seduction Oriented Topics 1) Build your own list of SOTs. use as many of the language tools as you can.. Think of SOME way to discuss these. Meaning. and hopefully add some of your own. Don't worry about talking to women. Assignments for Seduction Oriented Topics 1) Pay attention to conversations in your life (even things you hear on the radio. or even watched in a movie! (Or heard in a course that you took . 3) Practice talking about each aloud. or ask questions.
but this time with SOTs. And that gives you MORE material to talk about! Which make it easier for you to enter into more conversations about these subjects and topics. what people think. Use as many of the language tools as you can.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Listen to what is being said.Talk about these subjects and topics! Make a point to enter into a discussion when one of your SOTs is mentioned. We learned how you can move from any topic. but as long as you start it. (As in. I can tell you that it DOES get easier and easier to be able to talk about these things. It may start a bit slowly and awkwardly. or even when anything CLOSE to one of your SOTs is discussed."). Really! Learning to discuss such things may start out slowly. The more you hear. it gets easier to enter into more conversations that deal with these topics. Many guys who can now talk about these things VERY easily and comfortably started from a place of having NO idea of what to say! They changed. You do a few exercises to talk about them. and start to get your brain working on them. That is understandable. That gives YOU more familiarity with discussing them. and move through these exercises and assignments. Page 104 . They did it. it WILL get easier. and makes it easier for you to talk about them. quote.. They started and became more and more familiar with these topics. You listen more to when they are discussed. These are called Expanded SOTs (SOTXs). Maybe ask some questions about things that deal with your SOTs.. discuss. and frankly. this process must start somewhere. show interest. However. You start to listen and take notice of when these are discussed. 5. Because of that. and easily come up with 6-8 related topics. etc. but we are walking you through (at least the first steps of) the process to make this easier: • • • • • • • • • • • You have made a list of SOTs. after having worked with hundreds of guys.3 EXPANDED SEDUCTION ORIENTED TOPICS . Make special note of topics that are CLOSE or similar to these SOTs in some way. 2) Now . SOT Summary I KNOW that these topics may seem foreign to you. this is one of the key challenges that many guys face.SOTXs D9-T24 What if you had not just 10 ways of discussing "Seduction Oriented" subjects. the more you listen. anything at all! Talk. what is said. ask what something means. However. Then you get to hear MORE people talk about them. "the other day I heard someone talking about. but had even more? Maybe 50? What if that was easy and familiar for you? Think back to how we looked at topics earlier.. make a comment. ask an opinion. or even just TRY to do so. So can you. See? We are working on a process to get you to become more comfortable and familiar with these things. ask. That's what we want to do here. That makes you really think about them. then the more material YOU will have to talk about.
. However as we see here. They think of only one way of talking about that subject. etc. the SOTX list consists of all of these items shown in the diagram and listed below.. . Instead of worrying about getting to that one topic (SOT) in a certain way. (You do not really need to list "connections with" for each.3-1. if friends.. (Does that diagram look familiar?) If "Connections" is an SOT.... That is one subject. SOT Connections SOTX Connections with family Connections with friends Connections with coworkers Connections with pets Connections with a girlfriend Connections with someone you just met Connections with someone while on vacation Connections with music Connections with your teammates Many guys worry about talking about something like "Connections".with friends ..with a girlfriend . That just makes it easier for our example below)..with pets .. pets.3-1: How SOTs are related to an SOTXs.with someone you just met ... you can take any SOT. but can you think of 6-8 different aspects of this? (Remember what we did in the earlier sections.with coworkers ... comes up in a conversation. see Figure 5. how we discussed a Topic Turning Point?) If Connections is a particular subject.with family .with music . family. coworkers.. can you think of different aspects of that? Parts of Connections? Questions about Connections? Ways of experiencing Connections? People or things with which you can experience Connections? By asking those types of questions (to yourself). and things that can be discussed.. and build a whole list of very similar things to talk about -which are SOTXs! For example.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Expanding on a Topic Area "Connections" is an SOT. there are many different types or examples of connecting to people. places.. For any given SOT.with someone while on vacation . you now have 6-8 ways to discuss it. it's easy to think of several different aspects of that topic or related topics. Look at the list above.with your teammates Figure 5.. Then. or only one aspect of that to discuss (connections in a romantic or sensual context). you can talk about that for while. how easy would it be to talk about how you CONNECT with those? And if you talk about Page 105 .
3-2: SOTXs Can Lead Into SOTs If any of the topics in the SOTX list comes up in conversation. ask a question.) Family Friends Coworkers Pets Connections A girlfriend Someone you just met Someone met on vacation Music Teammates Figure 5. point out an example regarding pets.to .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course THAT (how you connect in that manner) for a while. all of a sudden there are many MORE ways to get to these really GREAT topics! Exercises f o r Expanded Seduction Oriented T o p i c s 1) Take the SOT list you had earlier (copy those down into the first column below. you can be as close as one step away from an SOT. how to connect with people. If you talk about that for a while... and how you (or someone else) can connect with a pet. or how that topic can be experienced. b. you are to list 5 (at least) related topics. then you can shift to talking about "how you can connect with a pet" fairly easily. it's very easy to then shift. or different aspects of that topic. Just make a comment. this is a TTP diagram in reverse!) For example. a. if someone is talking about pets. that you just met! When you expand SOTs in this way. or a special person. This is your SOTX list..3-2. SOTs " SOTXs List Page 106 . then you can shift towards ANOTHER type of "connection" very easily! (See Figure 5.) and for each SOT. c.. or maybe even someone... (Yes. etc.
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you talk about pets.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 2) Now for each SOTX. That gives you a LOT of flexibility in conversations! Page 108 . but now do so while using the language tools. You have 50 SOTXs that you are now familiar with as well. practice talking about it out loud. then about connecting with pets.) 3) Do the same thing again. (Like the earlier example. then about connecting in general. and see if you can then focus what you are saying towards the SOT itself. Talk about that SOTX for a moment or two. Step back and look at what you have done! You have 10 SOTs with which YOU are familiar.
with coworkers .. Summary You now have MORE material to work with than you ever thought possible! This is not about memorizing. that process can work both ways.. The more familiar you are with these subjects. However.with family . 5. The more you work with this. Maybe you will even start to notice SOTXs that were not even ON your list. concept of "topics related to a topic" in many many places. You will start to notice this.with someone you just met ..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Assignments for Expanded Seduction Oriented Topics 1) Look at all of your SOTXs! That's a LOT of subjects! Pay attention in your life to see how often any of those items come up in conversation (or maybe you just hear them somewhere).. The techniques that you have learned are the sort of things that many people do naturally. .. broke it into bits and pieces that you can learn and do as exercises. Good speakers. SOTXs are now like "conversational landmarks" for you in terms of navigating a conversation.with a girlfriend . In addition. See if you can move the conversation a bit towards the SOT itself. You may think.with music . .with friends .. and move the conversation towards SOTs... the easier it will be to notice SOTXs. D9-T32 We discussed how to develop an SOTX list from an SOT...4-1.4-1: SOTXs Are The Pathways To SOTs SOTXs are an easy way to get towards SOTs. it is easy to then move the conversation towards topics that will work better for you (SOTs).4 CONVERSATIONAL MODEL WITH SOTXs. you know that you are very close to getting near a subject area that will work very well for you. or anything like them mentioned. especially politicians and activists. use such techniques a LOT. modeled the process arid the steps involved.with someone while on vacation .. "I didn't list that SOTX.. We have broken these down. If anything like an SOTX comes up in a conversation. use the language tools if and whenever you can.. but it IS related to an SOT that I have worked with".. It ALL gets easier! 2) Start to "direct" the conversations you encounter where your SOTXs are mentioned. The real usefulness of this is when you reverse the order as shown in Figure 5.. and then built upon that step by step... it's about getting YOU comfortable and familiar with these topics..with your teammates Family Friends Coworkers Pets A girlfriend Someone you just met Someone met on vacation Music Teammates Connections This is how we developed SOTXs This is the most useful way of thinking of SOTXs Figure 5. Page 109 . spotting these opportunities get easier and easier. if you hear any of them mentioned.with pets Connections .
we have had to compress or simplify them quite a bit and show only a fraction of the actual steps and numbers involved so that the diagrams do not become too large or complex.the number that YOU have actually worked with so far! Since SOTXs and SOTs are the "goals" in terms of managing a conversation. and anything like an SOTX comes up in the discussion.4-3 shows this in the model itself. that is not an abbreviation or exaggeration. and done the exercises and assignments. Figure 5. or the SOTXs.4-2.. that this process will now be easier than you may have imagined. you have already worked with 10 SOTs and 50 SOTXs as shown in Figure 5. we can then show them as part of our Conversational Model. this will start to happen for you. In many of the diagrams. you have started to train yourself to "recognize" these landmarks.4-2: Your Multiple Pathways to SOTs! Now that you have worked with 10 SOTs. After all. you now see how easy it can be to move over to an SOT! In fact. If you have followed the program. and then towards SOTs. to be able to notice when you are talking about things which are "close to" topics that will work well for you. and for you to just start to "recognize" these things on your own .without "thinking" about them. As the topics get better and better.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course So whenever you are having a conversation. It's to have you practice and become familiar with them. there are really 50 SOTXs and 10 SOTs shown . Page 110 . SOTXs SOTs Figure 5. and 50 SOTXs (in the earlier exercises) you now have many many SOTXs with which YOU are familiar! More importantly. The point here (again) is not to memorize the SOTs. you will get closer and closer to SOTXs. However in the figure above. you have practiced with so many of these SOTXs.
Period.5 THE COMPLETE CONVERSATIONAL MODEL D9-T33 Start from any topic and get to where you want! Yes. SOTXs are a pathway to make that easier. which are topics near or related to seduction (a step or two away from SOTs). and topics that are close to that (SOTXs).5-1. or as close as you can towards SOTs.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course SOTs in the Conversational Management Model The end goal is to get to.. you can start from just about ANY topic and get to GREAT topics! It's easy. SOTXs SOTs Listen for SOTXs Anything near or related to an SOT. You can start from almost ANYWHERE. you start to "listen" for topics that are SOTXs. then you can simply move things towards a topic that is very seduction-oriented! The point is not to have a "list" in mind. and ANY TOPIC. then start to pay attention for SOTXs. When you get to an SOTx. and using this type of approach you will have fascinating conversations with people that lead to where YOU want to go! (See Figure 5. Move towards SOTs. 5. Then move the conversation towards an SOT! This works. or anything that is "related" to an SOT.4-3: SOTs Are THE Goals in Conversational Management As you move through a conversation. just follow the steps listed earlier in the Conversational Management sections. Stay there for a while if you can! Figure 5.) Page 111 . it's that you have trained yourself to recognize things that are SOTs.
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5-1: The Complete Conversational Management Model (continued) Start a Conversation Manage the Conversation Move the Conversation in a Good Direction Steer towards . Especially when at or near SOTXs and SOTs..Fun. interesting . seductive things Direct the Conversation Pay attention when Good Subjects come up (SOTXs) Listen for anything a step or two away from an SOT Move towards SOTs Stay there as long as you can Use The Language Tools! As much as possible. Steer towards . Steer towards .. back up! If you move back to a general topic. start over! Assignment! 1) Try it! Start directing conversations using the conversational management model.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Figure 5.Romantic. fascinating.. exciting. or very close! Page 113 ..Engaging the emotions and imagination in a positive way . and see how easy it is to get to some good topic that is an SOT. or SOTX... Fractionate If you take a wrong turn.
etc.2 PATTERN FORMULA D10-T7 Tactical Formula for Patterns While talking to a woman. or navigation. THAT ends up being a very effective way to create "patterns". With this new approach to learning and using these tools. Don't think of "how can I get to the pattern". Amplify these feelings and states by talking. handling the gas pedal. 6. Patterns are just examples of the use of these tools. Use the language tools. certain actions. plus these areas will work for HER because SHE selected them (in a manner of speaking) • Talk and manage the conversation into an area that DOES work for you. • An example of what you can say. In the same manner. The navigation is handled through our use of Conversational Management techniques. Present a Call to action. We practice specific parts of areas of the skills we wish to use later on. that's the key. • Maybe talk to a woman and allow HER to bring up things that end up working well in pattern-like language. Link and associate these feelings to you. we have practiced the small details (language skills) so that these are automatic. or series of actions. and as "a way of speaking". you make decisions on-the-spot as to what to do and how to proceed. • Driving . diagram.0 6. A New way of thinking about the use of patterns • The wrong way is to talk to someone and to keep thinking. and being aware of when you DO get to an area of conversation that does allow you to use a pattern.You don't play the entire game ahead of time. You practice bits and pieces of the sport. You don't have to think about moving the wheel. clarifying.Many of the details of driving a car are things you just "do". • While talking to a woman. get her to "experience" good feelings and states. She may take the conversation into better places that you could have predicted.1 PATTERNS PATTERN OVERVIEW D10-T1 What is a pattern? • A plan. • Instead. or could say. "A plan" or "model". It's best to just think of patterns as examples. get her to "experience" good feelings and states o Use the Conversational Management Techniques to get there o Get her to think about good and/or exciting feelings Page 115 . asking. The Pattern Formula in detail. or "how can I bring this pattern up".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 6. These smaller skills become automatic and you focus instead of driving. or model to be followed in making things. we work in that manner. think about having a conversation (and managing it correctly). Once you actually play the game though. "how can I get to my pattern". the clutch. Its just a "type" of talking that you can (and will be able to) use when you feel it is appropriate. A representative sample. Examples/Analogies: • Sports . or "how can I bring up a pattern that I know".
. However. many times it does not. for her to elaborate and describe o Repeating back what she has said o Provide examples from your own life o Provide examples from friends. • The interesting topic that she and you are discussing o what is happening o what you know Page 116 . clarifying o Use the Language Tools o Asking her for info. Their best use is when you use the Conversational Management techniques and then find that the conversation just happens to get to or near a pattern that you DO happen to know already. "this person.. and do. "Canned" patterns. but they assume that you are in a conversation where they will work and be somewhat "appropriate" to what is being discussed. etc Link and associate those feelings to you o Use the Language Tools o Use linkage phrases like "now with me". 6. or things you have read. In the real world. if you just "drop" a pattern into the conversation. So. o Use "this" and "these" (be aware of that and those as well) o Point and mark appropriately Present a Call to action o "Do it now" language o Create a Challenge o Create an Opportunity o Talk about the chance to "Seize the moment" o A simple add-on to the Language Tools There are two main ways of doing patterns. pre-rehearsed. Therefore it is best to maybe have some of these memorized. The good ways to use these are as teaching and learning tools.3 CANNED PATTERNS D10-T12 These are the pre-rehearsed. sound quite strange.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • o Get her feeling good and/or exciting feelings o Get her experiencing (or recall the experience of) good and/or exciting feelings o Get her to think about things that she wants or desires Amplify these feelings and states by talking. they can. The problem is if you are SO focused on just "getting to the pattern" that you know (or even one of many that you know) then it's difficult to have a good conversation. what you need to do is to look at. In THAT case . don't focus TOO much on them. and have them there for your use if and when the correct situation comes up. and to use what is needed in the moment. Pre-written. when you are talking to a woman. and the proper context is not created. But. and real-time "Riffing". asking. and that the woman will react to what the patterns is about. because doing so may work against you.." etc. these canned patterns DO have some usefulness. canned patterns are good.4 PATTERN RIFFING IN REAL-TIME D10-T13 This is the ability to just create pattern language on-the-fly. Some times that does happen.these pre-written or canned patterns can work very well. pre-written patterns that you have seen and heard. 6.
using the tools.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • o what she is reacting to o and discuss things which are appropriate. • Use some "act now" languaging. looking and listening for positive feelings. Yes. Then we use those as a basis for discussion. • Talk about these things or listen to you talk about these things • get her to think about these things • get her to feel these things • get her to link them to you. Then you have a conversation and. interesting. exciting. and sensual things. THE BEST PATTERN IS THIS: • • Get her to talk and think about positive. Page 117 . Wanting to take action or seize an opportunity Always • • • • See the pattern here? We are in general.. Use the language tools so that YOU become associated with those things.. and and use the language tools. it really IS that easy! look for: Positive emotions and feeling Positive sensations (as in physical ones) Exciting feelings. emotions. get her to. states. and actions in the conversation.
7. It really is up to you. Use the Language Tools 7. and how you speak.4 BE WILLING AND PREPARED TO PUT ENERGY INTO THIS COURSE. Keep the conversation going. 7. and view an overall strategy. Get the conversation into good subjects (SOTXs.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 7. and then building up to bigger and bigger pieces. you will benefit. 3. Both you and her talk! 2. comfort in.2 SUMMARY D10-T26 This may be similar to information you have heard in the past.1 REVIEW AND SUMMARY REVIEW D10-T18 The course has followed a "bottom-up" approach to training. D10-T28 The more energy and effort you put into this. and the more engaged you are in the process. Engage her emotions and imagination in a positive way. Use the Language Tools 5. 1.0 7. a. 7. and/or compulsion to act a. Direct the conversation in a way that takes you toward good topics a.3 LISTEN. AND FOLLOW THE COURSE. Talk about something positive and interesting c. We really are focused upon changing you. Keep her there and keep talking! a. DO THE EXERCISES. but the method of approaching it is very different.5 CONGRATULATIONS! WELL DONE! D10-T29 Page 119 . Direct and/or link those feelings towards you. and really take the time to do the exercises. fifth. Use the conversational management techniques b. focusing first on small details. Use the conversational management techniques b. SOTs) 4. the greater your results will be. Whether its your first. Now we can look from the "top-down". a. Fractionate if and when needed. D10-T27 Listen to the full explanations. -' d. of fourteenth time through. Create a willingness.
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 8. EXAMPLES.0 EXAMPLES. and provide you with some real-world examples of their use. Page 121 . EXAMPLES Dll-Tl The discussions presented on the audio for this section are intentionally "casual" to familiarize you even more with the use of these tools.
and to "soften " the way in which something is said.. and well-placed pauses.. • Have you ever .... and charismatic presence. • Slow. • If I were to . allowing you to say more (and maybe more provocative things) about a subject. o o Page 123 . powerful.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course APPENDIX 1 Course "Cheat Sheet" • SPEAKING POINTERS o The "Cool" Factor You don't have to be cold.. to be cool.. Mouth. • If you were to . • Instantaneously " Suddenly • Find Yourself • Convince Yourself • Suppose • Imagine " Mysterious (-ly) • Wonder (-ous) (-ously) Weasel Phrases Use Weasel Phrases to keep the conversation going... • What's it like when . and processes awaken. so that their feelings. • Nose. use Adjectives And Adverbs Trance Words Help to get the subconscious mind of the listener to be more of apart of your conversation. • Be descriptive.. Pause? Energy And Enthusiasm Using energy and enthusiasm when speaking so that people can become energized and enthusiastic about listening to and being with you. " As you. or Chest? Pacing And Pausing Use variations in pace. • Passionate or Boring? o o o • LANGUAGE TOOLS A N T D E T A I L S o Adjectives And Adverbs Use more adjectives and adverbs in your speech to appeal to and excite the emotional side of the listener. Fast. emotions. Voice Tone And Tonality Use your best tone of voice (speaking from your chest) to convey a relaxed. to convey a sense of drama and intrigue in what you are saying in a way that "captivates "people and makes them want to listen to you.
o o • MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures Move. • Whenever you say something positive. Point away.. Easy Linking Expanded Pointing With This. to create a compelling will on the part of the listener follow you and listen to you. motion. Say "these". link them to you so that YOU become something and someone that they feel good about • Now with me • In me • In myself • with this • these • this belief • these feelings Easy-Linking • Use "This" and "These" when referring to anything positive.. and accentuate what you are saying in order to be more compelling as a speaker and to get even more attention from your listener or audience. interest. These. Point away • Positive statement. Say "this". Those • Positive statement. Linking After getting someone to experience good feelings and emotions. laugh. • Move! Point! Linking Gestures Towards And Away • Whenever you say something negative. • Use "That" and "Those" when referring to anything negative. etc. touch them to help anchor it to you. • Can you do this now. gesture. point or gesture away. a smile. That. allowing you to move things more in your favor later on Page 124 . Say "that".. intrigue. • Point Or Touch On Positive —* o o o • LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES o Pace And Lead Pacing and Leading allows you "be " in the conversation for a while and gain rapport and information. Easy Anchoring When the person you are talking with displays a positive feeling of some type.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o Embedded Commands Use embedded commands repeatedly and in the proper context. Point to you • Negative Say "those". Point to you • Negative statement. point or gesture towards yourself.
the More Y. • Topics and Subjects • Mindset or Frame of Mind • Current Reality • As (while) you are "X" (Pace) Where "X" is something that is true in their current reality (perceptions. B. LAST • Burying Items Listing . which support your point • A. experiences. b. statement. or to maybe see if you can get someone to agree to it! • a. • As you X. More And More If you want to lead someone through a series of steps (actions. understanding. • a. or thoughts) use "More and More " as a way to string them together (and increase your chances of that happening • The more X. Then start to move or shift things in a different way. or giving an example. Compare And Contrast Use this technique to keep the conversation going. etc.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Show agreement. keep the discussion focused on a topic that serves your purposes.another option o o o Page 125 . etc. thoughts.Burying Items is a way to mention an outrageous or very direct option for "testing" purposes. etc. "List" several things or examples which support your point. you can get away with an outrageous or very direct option by burying that option in the middle of a List. but mention the one which YOU want to put the most emphasis on.) • Then you will "Y" Where "Y" is something you want them to experience (Lead) o Give Them A Reason Giving a reason will make people more apt to do things for you and agree with you.Bad • One option . and c When giving examples or options to someone. or giving an example. and incorporate the language tools • This thing vs that thing • How two things are similar • How two things are different • Good . in order to provide more power to what you are saying • At The End Listing at The End is a way to provide several options (which may differ) but to emphasize the option that YOU want. the More Z. the more Y. Listing • General Listing General Listing is a way to quickly provide several reason. B. and C When making a point. statement. a way that you want. "List" several things briefly in order. acknowledgement. The More Z. • Request X because (of) Y. and/or interest. the More Y. and C When making a point. The more Y.
. • You seem as if. • You might. • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control Particular Wants What does she want to have. Mini-Challenges • You seem..... can (use smart.\ Universal Wants You can assume that most people want these.. • If you are able to . or point in a discussion. —* • • • Page 126 . allowing you time to gather information and link yourself to good thoughts.. etc).. • I wonder if you can . or adventurous.. • You might see . discuss.. assume there is a part that will work WITH you... • Maybe you can . o Opportunities And Challenges • Find out what someone wants. • Find a way to map what YOU want. or fun. • Challenge them to demonstrate it.. idea. do it. or show it... • Are you able to . • If you can . even when the other person claims or demonstrates that such parts are NOT there • For every part of a person that will work against you.. • etc. • Using Their Own Processes • Find or assume what someone wants • Create an opportunity for them to get it or demonstrate they have it • Make that "demonstration" work in your favor. and beliefs.. • Use the language tools in the discussion. • You seem like . • Take any subject. feelings and emotions to yourself. feelings and emotions. Parts Of A Person Use Parts of a Person as a way to find.. • You may . and evoke favorable states. or want to be perceived as having? • Talk to them and find out.... to be a way for them to get what they want. • The smart people I know. feelings.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o Parts • • Parts Of A Subject Discussing many of the parts of a subject keeps the conversation going. • Break it down into its component parts and discuss them.... • Link good thoughts. • Challenge them to do that.
• Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control " • Excitement Challenges Challenge them to get what they want. • Topic Turning Point The process of moving from one topic to one of 6-8 relevant topics • In general.. Consider the wants and needs that a person may have .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • Opportunities. •• Show interest when someone discusses positive..-and do Y to get it? • Can she do Y and make it happen? • Can she see that Y will get her what she wants? • Can she trust herself enough to do Y? o • Ambiguities — CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT o General . General Conversational Management To steer the conversation in a good direction. and interesting?" " Move the conversation in that direction. positive and interesting.. • Navigation Don't think of an exact plan. fun. and see how doing Y would demonstrate it?> • Does she have what it takes to get X. • Introduce topics that are fun. • Don't engage in conversations when it's NOT about positive. fun. listen and be IN the conversation! • Conversational Dynamics Topics flow from one to the next.. interesting things • Keep thinking . bring up positive. steer the conversation towards directions that engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way o o Page 127 . she may have to do Y to prove that. then .. fun. think of general navigation • She Must Be Engaged In The Conversation! You need her to talk. • Can she see an opportunity to have "X". or show what they have... Advanced Conversational Management To direct the conversation into even BETTER areas. interesting things. Creating Them -. • Repeat. Are they ready to take advantage of that (this) opportunity? • Does she really want X and see how Y can get that? • Does she really have X.. positive. interesting things."Where can I go that is fun. by doing Y? • Does she want you to THINK she has X..
Get the conversation there. More Advanced Conversational Management To further direct the conversation into even BETTER areas. Repeat. fascinating. and while there. • Repeat. • Where can I go that is fun. bring up images and thoughts that may work for you. use as many of the language tools as you can. steer the conversation towards romantic. Conversational Fractionation • Using Conversational Fractionation • Start • Move • Back Up • Repeat • Dead Ends Come Back To Life! • Just back up and start over! Conversational Overview and Review • General Flow • Start on just about ANY subject. and seductive things. use the language tools as much as possible! • What If The Outcome Is Not What You Expected? • Move on! o o • TOPICS o Topics Of Enthusiasm and Passion Few things are more compelling in a person than for them to be passionate about something (hopefully many things) in life. and get the effect. • Keep thinking . • Connections • Going for it • Making good decisions Page 128 o . and interesting? • Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? • Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. fascinating. keep it there. seductive tilings? • The entire time: o If you hit a "dead end". seductive things?" " Move the conversation in that direction. use the language tools. o If you get to a good subject or topic. fascinating."Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic.Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Move the conversation in that direction. Seduction Oriented Topics SOTs are topics that. • When on good topics. positive.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • o Keep thinking . back up a few steps. by there very nature. stay there for a while.
Great as EXAMPLES • Learn and know some of them they may be useful. o Wanting to take action or seize an opportunity • Use the language tools. o Talk about these things or listen to you talk about these things o get her to think about these things o get her to feel these things o get her to link them to you. Conversational Model With SOTXs.. o Canned Patterns . • Manage . Link and associate these feelings to you. • Get her to. • Direct . Those are STOXs.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • • • • • o Surrendering to feelings Getting excited Feeling excited Trusting your judgment Taking chances Indulgence Maturity Good decisions Expanded Seduction Oriented Topics . Page 129 o . The Complete Conversational Model See Appendix 2 o o • PATTERNS o Pattern • • • • Formula While talking to a woman. asking. and • Look for: o Positive emotions and feeling o Positive sensations (as in physical ones) o Exciting feelings. get her to "experience" good feelings and states. there are easily 6-8 variations on that SOT that you can talk about. Present a Call to action. Pattern Riffing In Real-Time • Use the Conversational Management techniques to get to good subjects • Look at the interesting topic that she and you are discussing o what is happening o what you know o what she is reacting to o and discuss things which are appropriate.Use the conversational Management Techniques.Look out for SOTXs • Direct 0 Move towards SOTs. Amplify these feelings and states by talking.SOTXs For each SOT. clarifying..
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • Use some "act now" languaging. interesting. o The Best Pattern Is This: • Get her to talk and think about positive. exciting. and sensual things. • Use the language tools so that YOU become associated with those things Page 130 .
) o Easy Anchoring ..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course APPENDIX II Speaking and Language Tools "Cheat Sheet" • SPEAKING POINTERS o Voice Tone And Tonality o Pacing And Pausing o Energy And Enthusiasm LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS o Adjectives And Adverbs o Trance Words o Weasel Phrases o Embedded Commands o Linking o Easy-Linking (This.At the End • Burying Items o More And More o Compare And Contrast o Parts " Parts of a Subject • Parts of a Person o Opportunities And Challenges • Mini Challenges " Opportunities And Challenges o Ambiguities • • • Page 131 .. That. These. Those) MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures o Linking Gestures (Towards And Away) o Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This. That.Point Or Touch On Positive And Negative LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES o Pace And Lead • Topics and Subjects • Mindset of Frame • Current Reality o Give Them A Reason o Listing " General .
Seductive SOTXs SOTs The Complete Conversational Management Model Page 133 . Positive.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course APPENDIX III The Complete Conversational Management Model The Complete Conversational Management Model General Mgt. Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way More Advanced Mgt. Romantic. Fascinating. Fun. and Interesting Advanced Mgt.
. fascinating. Fractionate If you take a wrong turn. Steer towards . interesting ... positive.Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course The Complete Conversational Management Model (continued) Start a Conversation Manage the Conversation Move the Conversation in a Good Direction Steer towards . start over! Page 134 ... Steer towards .. seductive things Direct the Conversation Pay attention when Good Subjects come up (SOTXs) Listen for anything a step or two away from an SOT Move towards SOTs Stay there as long as you can Use The Language Tools! As much as possible. Especially when at or near SOTXs and SOTs.Fun. back up! If you move back to a general topic.Romantic.
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