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Dave Riker's

Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course

A structured training program that teaches the language and conversational skills of Speed Seduction .

Workbook
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Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course

Table of Contents
Page No. Title Page Legal Notices Table of Contents Product Content Product Protection and User Consent Formatting and Conventions Acknowledgements Forward Registration Important Note About Exercises and Assignments 1.0 INTRODUCTION AND GETTING STARTED i ii iii vi vi vii ix x xii xii 1 D1-T1 Disk and Track No.*

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Overview
Why Is This Course Needed? What We Will Handle, and How Investing In Yourself, Or Not Can We Change The Way You Speak? Manipulation and Ethics Concerns SPEAKING AND LANGUAGE

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Speaking Pointers 7 The "Cool" Factor 7 Voice Tone and Tonality 7 Pacing and Pausing 9 Energy and Enthusiasm 10 Language Tools and Details 12 Adjectives and Adverbs 12 Trance Words 13 Weasel Phrases 15 Embedded Commands 17 Linking 19 Easy-Linking (This, That, These, Those) 21 More Tools 23 Pointing and Gestures 24 Linking Gestures (Towards and Away) 25 Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This, That, These, Those ...) 26 Easy Anchoring - Point Or Touch, On Positive 27 Review 29 LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES Pace and Lead General Pace and Lead Techniques 31 31 32

* Disk and Track Numbers References to the CDs and the tracks on them are shown in a format such as "D2-T4", which in this example refers to Disk 2, Track 4.

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Table of Contents (continued)
Page No. 3.1.2 3.1.3 3.1.4 3.2 3.3 3.3.1 3.3.2 3.3.3 3.3.4 3.3.5 3.4 3.5 3.6 3.6.1 3.6.2 3.7 3.7.1 3.7.2 3.7.3 3.7.4 3.8 3.9 4.0 4.1 4.1.1 4.1.2 4.1.3 4.1.4 4.2 4.2.1 4.2.2 4.2.3 4.3 4.3.1 4.3.2 4.3.3 4.3.4 4.3.5 4.4 4.4.1 4.4.2 4.4.3 4.4.4 4.4.5 4.5 4.5.1 4.5.2 Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects Pace and Lead-Mindset Or Frame Of Mind Pace and Lead - Current Reality Give Them a Reason Listing General Listing Listing - At The End Listing - Burying Items Listing, Pauses, and Emphasis.. Listing Review More and More Compare and Contrast Parts Parts of a Subject Parts of a Person Opportunities and Challenges Using Their Own Processes What Do People Want? Mini-Challenges Opportunities and Challenges Ambiguities Summary CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT Challenges Detailed and Specific Plans Are Just Not Workable Navigation Example Navigational Strategies Are Needed She Must Be Engaged In The Conversation! How Conversations Happen Conversational Dynamics Conversational Model Topic Turning Point General Conversational Management Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Want How To Steer Conversations, Moment To Moment The Model With Strategy and Tactics In Place Exercises and Assignments Summary Advanced Conversational Management Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Really Want Steering Conversations Moment To Moment The Model With Advanced Strategy and Tactics In Place Exercises and Assignments Summary More Advanced Conversational Management More About Getting The Conversation To Go Steering Conversations Using More Advanced 33 35 38 39 41 41 43 45 48 48 48 51 54 54 58 61 62 62 63 64 69 69 71 71 71 71 72 72 72 72 73 77 79 79 81 82 83 86 86 86 88 88 91 93 93 93 94 Disk a n d Track N o . * D5-T12 D5-T20 D5-T29 D5-T32 D6-T1 D6-T4 D6-T15 D6-T24 D6-T36 D6-T37 D6-T38 D6-T54 D7-T1 D7-T4 D7-T15 D7-T34 D7-T36 D7-T38 D7-T40 D7-T43 D7-T64 D7-T66 D8-T1 D8-T1 D8-T3 D8-T4 D8-T5 D8-T10 D8-T12 D8-T13 D8-T14 D8-T15 D8-T16 D8-T16 D8-T19 D8-T23 D8-T25 D8-T32 D8-T33 D8-T33 D8-T35 D8-T38 D8-T39 D8-T46 D8-T47 D8-T47 D8-T49

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6.3 5.2 5. EXAMPLES. Do The Exercises.2 7. 94 96 96 97 97 98 99 99 99 99 101 101 102 104 109 111 115 115 115 116 116 119 119 119 119 119 119 121 Disk a n d Track N o .1 6.5 6.SOTXs Conversational Model With SOTXs The Complete Conversational Model PATTERNS Pattern O v e r Pattern Formula Canned Patterns Pattern Riffing In Real-Time REVIEW AND SUMMARY Review Summary Listen. .0 6.7 4. .1 5.2 4..0 5.4 7. APPENDICES I II III Course "Cheat Sheet" Speaking and Language Tools "Cheat Sheet" The Complete Conversational Management Model 123 131 133 Page v .2 4.3 7.4 7.6 4..3 6.0 The Model With More Advanced Strategy and Tactics In Place.1 7.3 5. * D8-T52 D9-T1 D9-T2 D9-T3 D9-T5 D9-T6 D9-T7 D9-T8 D9-T9 D9-T10 D9-T11 D9-T14 D9-T15 D9-T24 D9-T32 D9-T33 D10-T1 D10-T1 D10-T7 D10-T12 D10-T13 D10-T18 D10-T18 D10-T26 D10-T27 D10-T28 D10-T29 D11 .2 6..4 4. . and Follow The Course Be Willing and Prepared To Put Energy Into Congratulations! Well Done! EXAMPLES.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Table of Contents (continued) Page No.6.4 5. EXAMPLES v i e w .5..6. .3 4. Conversational Fractionation The 1-Shot Beeline Fallacy How Fractionation Works Using Conversational Fractionation Dead Ends Come Back To Life! Conversational Overview and Review Conversational Management Approach What If The Outcome Is Not What You Expected? Summary TOPICS Topics Of Enthusiasm and Passion Seduction Oriented Topics Expanded Seduction Oriented Topics .7.0 7.1 4. .6.1 4.7. 4.3 4.5 8.7.

At times. This shows information that could be considered part of an overall "outline" of what the audio presentation contains.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Formatting and Conventions The following formatting. and to make it easier to reference those items at a later time. There are certain conventions used in the formatting of the workbook. . and conventions have been developed and are used throughout this transcript/workbook. This shows (for example) the Disk (3) and the Track number (5) that corresponds to that part of the workbook contents. and Assignments are all shown using this typeface (Arial. these are in most cases presented as a way to augment the content of the audio presentation. The relationship between these two can be best described by considering the workbook text to be (for the most part) an "outline" of what is presented in the audio. a "sans-serif typeface). Graphics are used in the workbook as well. or major points in the workbook. and their use is key to many students' understanding of the concepts presented. and the italics are simply used as a way to show a different manner of emphasis. It is also used for subject headings so that these stand out and apart from the normal text. i. If the graphic cannot fit there (due to page breaks) then the graphic is placed on the next available page. Boldface Text . Text within graphics.. The graphics in the latter sections are significant in that they are an essential part of the understanding and leaning. The written text is NOT a transcript. styles.A majority of the workbook content is shown in this typeface (Times New Roman.Boldface Text is used to emphasize certain text or passages. Exercises. D3-T5 CD Track References . Although there are paragraphs of explanatory text.that is simply to show a list of related items. graphic titles. Listen to the audio where an example is presented. items are presented in a list-like fashion such as this: • Item 1 • Item 2 • Item 3 • Etc. CD Location References are shown using terms such as "D3-T5" in the text. or clarity. graphic captions.e. Italics are also used to point the reader towards specific content of the audio CDs. The audio is NOT an exact duplicate of the text shown in the workbook. Lists . and the Formulas. Therefore most of the track references are shown at the start of major sections.As shown to the right Towards the right margin of section titles and headings.Italicized Text is used for emphasis in many cases where boldface text may by nearby. Not every track number is listed. Usually the graphic is shown on the page immediately following where that graphic is first mentioned in the text. Page vii . there is not an exact place in the book that correlates to the start of each and every track on the audio CDs. A majority of the workbook is presented in an "outline" form. Since the work book is an "outline" and not a transcript. Samples of the formatting and conventions used: Typefaces . Italicized Text .. there may be instances when the conventions are not used for the sake of emphasis. However these conventions are guidelines. a "serif typeface).

This may require that a graphic be placed on the next page after where it is first mentioned (instead of being directly below where the graphic is first mentioned in the text). A Formula is a way to present a concise explanation of some item. Similarly. Exercises are a series of instructions that call upon the reader to do or perform certain actions. Most exercises can be done alone. Assignments also call for action on the part of the reader. Each Formula is presented in its own "text box" as shown here. fact. Although the difference between Exercises and Assignments is maintained through most of the workbook. but that is a necessity due to the complexity of the book. . and Assignments are shown inside boxes such as this. -3) to account for multiple graphics in one section of text. then that text is shown immediately below the graphic using an indented paragraph such as this. -2. Formula. Although this is not optimal. Assignments usually requier the reader to go out and interact with other person(s) in order to perform them correctly. Candidate Topics Figure XYZ-1: Graphic Title Sub-paragraph .Text boxes are used for very specific purposes in the workbook.If a graphic has text that helps to further explain that graphic.The workbook is laid out to minimize the amount of blank space where reasonably possible. Exercises. Page Breaks . or technique. it is required in order for the "flow" of the book content to remain consistent. Text Boxes .e.1 . or maybe and Assignment can be done alone by the student. and the "A" indicates the number of the graphic within a section itself (i. there are cases where text boxes may actually "break" across two pages. an Exercise may require interaction with other people. This also may result in some page breaks being in places which are not optimal. This is shown below.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Each graphic has a number and a title of some type. For example. Page viii . there are instances where the definitions may be clouded to some degree. The number is in the format of "XYZ-A" where "XYZ" denotes the number of the section where the graphic is placed.

and this wait may have annoyed a few people. JL. Special thanks to my friends. those who have read what I have written. EVS. who helped me by allowing me to help them. To the many experts out there who have augmented the SS teachings by showing me other aspects of the mind. Ross's developments have lead not only to helping many men with this part of their lives. Yates Canipe. and what is possible in their lives. and to all of the Students out there who I have met at Speed Seduction® seminars.. / must apologize to some degree for the time it has taken to finish this product. . but I sincerely hope that the results will prove to have made the wait worthwhile. To Dr. SP. DM.. The main reason is that I do not wish to release any product until I believe that I am able to provide the level of quality. teachers. opening the door for many into the world of self improvement. SM. but have also shown many the way to a new way of living. Working with these clients was especially instrumental in formulating and perfecting the concepts and teaching methods used in this product. and who has also contributed greatly to helping men change their minds about themselves. To all of you. To my coaching clients. and have opened the door for me to find many ways of self-improvement and understanding. MC. and to help you in finding the Women or Woman of Your Dreams. and students (we are each all of these and more) in the TAGR Group. colleagues. confidants. and MD. and those who have entrusted me to teach you and to guide you. Thank you. who was the business genius that brought Speed Seduction® to the masses through seminars and products. the creator of Speed Seduction . I may miss a few sales because of such a delay. Dave Riker Page ix . and for the assistance they provided with this product. associates.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Acknowledgements The first and foremost acknowledgement goes out to Ross Jeffries himself. who have placed their trust in me and allowed me the experience of showing them new and wonderful possibilities for what their lives may have to offer.insight and teaching that I think is possible. mentors. most notably Hypnotica. To those in the original SD Lair group.

intelligent. Page x . From that position. the best men. This is so sad. They don't know how to keep a woman's interest. for some reason seem to be in short supply. and set forth upon a path to improve this area of his life. there are a lot of wonderful women out there who would love to meet interesting men. I know of many women who are always distraught that they seem to not be able to meet good men. and decide to move forward. At least then he will be in a position of choice. and for those women. or "compromise". Having many interesting men available. There are many such men out there. interesting. or don't know how to present themselves in the best way. so that they really may share wonderful experiences of ALL types with women. whether this time has any sort of romantic or seductive component or not. that they will want to spend time with as well. I think that is not correct. take action. as well. good-natured and well-intentioned man. teachings. So. The women of the world will be better off in their own way. to make an informed choice. They are the ones that really don't know how to introduce themselves. there are a lot of great men out there who would like to meet interesting women. Many men through no fault of their own have grown up to be adults and have had little instruction or assistance in a very important area of their lives. and sharing experiences with them. in fact. spending time with them. and showing themselves in the best and most honest light. that I create products such as this. and in many cases the efforts of men to solve this problem on their own have been met by smallminded criticism and slander. learn. should somehow not improve himself. charming men. He will be able to decide for himself which he feels is the best option for him. are the ones that really DO look at this area of their lives. is up to him. And I am here to help correct it. It's for these men. And it's a shame for these women to be wanting for their company. who was simply deprived of an means to "learn about" how to meet and talk with women. are NOT in short supply. A woman should never "settle". and introducing themselves. having and sharing experiences with.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Forward One of the most wonderful things about life is the idea of connecting with others. Sadly this is most apparent when it comes to men. or the kind of man. Good. (and more importantly a LACK of information in some cases) that can prevent such connections and moments from happening. I think that many men. women. Whether that be as friends or acquaintances. other people. One of the biggest tragedies of life is that there are things. As if the interesting. helps to provide these women with an even better choice. and grow. Whether a man decides to use this information as way to embark upon a period of his life which involves casual romantic interludes. And. some of the most wonderful moments of life are brought about by people. They just have not been taught such things. or whether a man uses this information as a means to improve his chances of finding one special woman. information. Such men. the idea of simply communicating with and sharing experiences with the other half of the human population. and options. she should decide to be with whom she wants to be with by having opportunities. most women will be far better off and have much better chances with the kind of men. or with that special woman of which they have always dreamed.

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Welcome to Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course. The purpose of this workbook is to: • • • Provide an outline of the material covered in the audio program. to use these language skills naturally as just a part of the way they speak. Some guys don't need this. This workbook is meant to studied along with a series of audio lectures that are recorded on CDs. then on some level. Instructions for each are provided. you will do so in the future and use these techniques as well. there is a need. some people do this naturally.1 INTRODUCTION AND GETTING STARTED OVERVIEW Dl-Tl Welcome and Thanks. So even this "intro" section is starting to work for you. We will be teaching you the detailed language skills that will really help you. and "reprogrammed" in a way. We will teach you ways to easily manage conversations so that they go in interesting directions. pay attention. 1. You are not going to sound like this or talk like this all of the time! Just in the way that you shift and change how you speak now in different situations. Listen to it. You are already on your way! This course works on many levels. If you follow along and do the exercises. seeing what is needed. but this will help you if you are not.2 WHY IS THIS COURSE NEEDED? D1-T10 If you are here. and get the full benefit of everything this course has to offer. If you are her "type" you don't need this.0 1. Present a series of exercises and assignments. These techniques all need to sound and be "natural" to actually be effective. Page 1 . and on you as well. This program is based upon experience with countless students. Language Skills What works? What makes the successful guys able to use these technologies? Partly it's the ability to actually "talk" in this manner. You will have this way of speaking as a PART of who you are and what you can do! Guys need to be trained. consciously and subconsciously. along with spaces for written responses where necessary. Provide additional explanation of some points that are covered in the audio program. Conversational Skills The ability to manage conversations is needed as well. and what works in the field. you can change the way you speak as well.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 1.

Page 2 . so let's define and explain it for you. • Other teachings about language. but that's your left brain talking! We are reprogramming many years of your experience.. Other parts of the language tools you may have to "think" about. You need to integrate skills to the degree that they ARE a part of who you ARE. how it is learned. and be a part of it.. Guys need to be able to just "do this" and "talk this way" in REAL-TIME. listen. talking.. many times! • In fact we have already started! Where Does This Material Come From • From SS Teachings.. for a while at least. but if you are "thinking" too much. responding. Real Time "Occurring immediately . Sure. and how people speak. some things will sound quite familiar. so we need to approach this in many ways.Enthusiasm and Passion Topics . but it's really YOU talking! Guys are too focused on "how can I use this" when in a conversation. interacting. Not inside your head "thinking" about "how can I use this?"! 1. In a way.Seduction Oriented Topics Patterns and Riffing Examples Dl-Tl5 What Methods Are Used • Describe and explain the details of the techniques • Explicit examples of how the details work • Examples throughout and within the discussions • Examples section at the end. listening. then you are not actually IN the conversation! You need to be engaged in a conversation. not a "trick".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course You have to be PROGRAMMED to do this so you can have a conversation. • Things may seem to "repeat". This is a term that will be used throughout this course." Guys need to stop the worrying about "Doing something wrong" It's only "wrong" if you are TRYING to do or be something you are not. • Exercises to develop understanding and skills • Assignments for you to do in the field. AND HOW Topics Speaking Pointers Language Tools and Details Conversational Management Conversational Fractionation Topics . • Working on several "levels" of you mind at once • Models to arrive at an overall understanding • Left brain and right brain are both addressed • Conscious and subconscious minds are both given what they need for real understanding and retention... respond to input immediately .3 Major • • • • • • • • WHAT WE WILL HANDLE. must react to a steady flow of new information without interruption. some of the ways that you speak now will be reprogrammed so that speaking in a new way will be natural. that is important.

• Having a good social life will help you. many of these people will be those negative types of people that will then dispute the benefits of this program! Why? Because THEY have not invested anything into it! Not just in terms of dollars. You will need them because you will have assignments that deal with these. and this is much easier if you have an active life where you can have many conversations. • Get that "Mind-Momentum" going to help you change and improve. 1. If you need to make your own copies for use in multiple locations. do the exercises over and over. do the assignments over and over! • Be patient. The best way to listen to this course is while also reviewing the workbook (especially in the conversational management sections). do whatever you need to do to listen to this course a LOT. • Be prepared to have a place to practice for this course! You will need to be able to speak out loud to do many of the exercises. you are doing just that. However. and a few women's magazines as well. From working with clients and seeing what worked and how they were able to change. By embarking upon this course. However. Other SS products will work well. and being open to what benefits this program can bring. • Follow along in the workbook if you can • Do the exercises and assignments! • Listen over and over. So. keep those copies to yourself. • Is there an "optimal way" to use the product. but in terms of THEM really being willing and ready to change. as assigned or as required. and engagement. listening multiple times in any setting also has a lot of benefit. However. • This may seem complicated but the point is to get you SO familiar with the tools that you become the guy who does this! Some Very Important Points • Find all of your current SS products and inventory them. the more you put into it.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • From personal experiences and how I used the materials. Also maybe get a romance novel or two. see what works for you. The Ways To Study And Use The Product • Listen to the CDs. do it! But please. Applying a structured methodology of step-by-step methods. that YOU just DO. The Mind-Momentum Principle At Work • Get energy. Changing that will take some time. new. In addition. effort. the more you will get out of it. effort. the emphasis here is training you to do it for yourself. • Get some other written material to work with for this course. and who may "try" to listen to the course. both audio and written materials. Be wary of those people who may want to "borrow" a copy. a concept that was brought up earlier. If they just "try" it. or revised? Yes. to give you a real roadmap to actually learn the material. there IS some overlap and duplication with other products and systems. OR NOT D1-T24 Any real change requires you to make an investment in yourself using energy. and this journey. Many of the assignments will deal with talking to people. making it a part of YOU. and engagement into your effort to really learn and use these materials. they aren't really putting themselves INTO it. We are reprogramming years and years of you "speaking" in a certain manner.4 INVESTING IN YOURSELF. Is this information. Page 3 . • Listen to other products in conjunction with this product. or not? There are various ways.

You keep trying to "remember" things.But This Is A Different Type Of Learning. at every moment! Some people want to try to memorize. about grammar. will not benefit. Don't let their lack of willingness to improve themselves.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course People must be engaged in the process to get its benefits. you heard it in context. Not as congruent. etc." So. kids are taught about language. consequently. Can we literally change the way you speak? • • • • • • • How you select words Create phrases Form sentences Pick topics Speak passionately. because it addresses that analytical part of your mind. where you learn skills piece by piece. you heard it. • • • • • • You will get some details. there is a "right" and "wrong" way to do it! But if you are just TALKING. hold you back. But it's tough to do that. you heard it a lot. trying to "remember" what to say. 1. It's less effective. Those who are not. where you use the skills in the real world. then its easier. Also progressive exercises. You will end up "memorizing" thing to some degree. its YOU being YOU! You cannot fail at being YOU! The approach in this course is different. there is no "right" way or "wrong" way. How People Initially Learn How To Speak • • • • Sure in middle school. some models. but to then USE it in conversation is difficult. just being YOU. Then it's about a "performance. at will Engage in conversation Manage conversations Yes. but only indirectly. its a memorized "thing". Plus it's not YOU talking. But that's not how you learned to talk! You learned to talk when you were a child . and you started to form the ability to speak and communicate based upon that! Page 4 . It makes guys nervous. sentences. It Is Possible! . And actual assignments. Imagine having to "think about" how to talk. • • • • • • • • This might be good as a learning TOOL. some structures.5 CAN WE CHANGE THE WAY YOU SPEAK? D1-T26 Is this really possible? This sounds difficult. because you will hear it so much! But a LOT of what is being conveyed here is learning by EXAMPLE.by hearing others around you speak! You were IMMERSED in language. Most people want to approach this by learning bits and pieces • • That's good in a way. Immersion is the key. paragraphs.

deep ethics issues and blocks many guy's success.6 Many guys have been uncomfortable with using many of these skills. Examples • • Explicit examples. it's not about throwing something AT her. we will change the way you talk so that it will be easier. and be more of WHO YOU ARE. This causes some real. or craft. trade. more a part of YOU.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course This Course Uses Many Techniques To Train You To Have Workable. With THIS approach HERE. more natural. like when I say "here is an example" Implicit examples. based upon feelings that when using them. and who and what YOU are! Using these skills will be less of an "act". Exercises and Assignments to Teach You the Skills • Skills Training like any sport. where I am just DOING these things all during the program. • Break it down into small parts. Various Training Methods • • We use a lot of repetitive training methods so that these techniques have a better chance of becoming "automatic". Page 5 . "it's not me" or "I am just using a trick or technique". Real-World Skills. so that you will have more ability and more flexibility to do what is appropriate MANIPULATION AND ETHICS CONCERNS D1-T32 1. which we go over and over. how you communicate. We will have you become familiar with the range of ways of speaking and sounding.

We will work on this here in this course. Your tone of voice really conveys a lot about who you are.1. that there is a "fire" beneath the surface. how calm you are. Page 7 . and read it aloud. BORING. Read several paragraphs. but if you really want to work on this even more. That's what women like. Listen as the examples demonstrate: • Speaking through the nose • Speaking through the mouth • Speaking from the chest Exercises for Speaking Pointers Grab some reading material of some type. there ARE products that focus JUST on this area and you may want to invest in those. Cool does NOT mean to be boring and to put people to sleep while talking! The coolest people are the ones that are FUN to talk to and fun to be with! You don't have to be cold. and even goes a bit over-the-top to really help you to understand what is being discussed. and says a lot about you. to be cool.1 SPEAKING AND LANGUAGE SPEAKING POINTERS The "Cool" Factor D2-T1 D2-T1 Guys want to sound "cool". and this time focus on speaking by generating the sound from within your mouth (or.1 2. The audio section demonstrates these options quite well. Too many guys "try" to be cool but actually come off as COLD or even worse. focusing on generating your voice from your nose. how they sound. but giving the impression that there IS more. a sense of being relaxed and calm • It also allows you to express some energy and excitement at different times. etc. do this for several minutes. Why is this important? • Great voice tone conveys comfort. calm.0 2. there are great products and examples of this elsewhere. Examples: One way to think of this is to consider "where" your voice is generated from in your body. how they make you feel. and what people like in general. That "cool" feeling comes from being calm and speaking in a relaxed fashion. but because it's appropriate to the situation. 1) Take some of that reading material. how interesting you are. If this is a challenge for you. not out of nervousness. 2. even some of the materials from other products. "Cool" comes from being calm and sure of yourself. focusing on the back of your throat might make this easier to do). That's the "allure".2 Voice Tone and Tonality D2-T2 Listen to some examples of different tones of voice. 2) Read some more of that material out loud.1.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. something you are interested in. This is good as long as it's not BORING. reserved.

and where you are speaking from (your nose. Assignments are where you are given a real task to go out and do . it's important that you do what you can to REALLY make a point of doing these assignments. 2) In the next few conversations you have with people. Relax. and really focus on having that voice generated from your chest. mouth. Also. make a note to yourself as to how you are speaking. but this time really focus upon generating the sound from deep within your chest. where you were. Make notes below for some of the conversations and see if you can see a correlation between these items. and whether or not you DID it! Day/Time Who you spoke to Situation (Where) Did you DO it? Page 8 . but to actually HAVE the skills.in the real world! To get the most benefit from this course. 1) Over the next few days when speaking to anyone. Focus on dropping your voice down from your nose/mouth. SOUND relaxed. Real-world experience will really help you to not just "know" the skills.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 3) Now read some of the material. and make them a part of who you are. relaxed-confident). really make a note to speak lower. Make notes below as to when it happened. comfortable. or chest). and recall some time in the recent past when you were kind of nervous or fearful. See how relaxed it actually makes you feel and how you really need to BE relaxed to do this! 4) Take a moment. make note of how you felt (nervous. with whom. Can you recall how you spoke? Did the way you sound in that situation sound like any of the examples you just did? See the similarity? Assignments for Speaking Pointers These are your first real assignments in the course. Day/Time Who you spoke to Speaking from? How you felt.

2. or almost a sense of panic. Speaking too quickly can show tension. comfortable manner. Something you are interested in. even some of the materials from other products. There are many variations: Listen as these are demonstrated • Hurried showing nervousness • Hurried showing excitement • Slow as in hesitant and/or confused • Slow in a way that is deliberate and relaxed Exercises for Pacing and Pausing Grab some reading material of some type.3 Pacing and Pausing D2-T15 Listen to the examples where some various pacing is demonstrated. 2) Read some more of that material out loud. as we discussed in the past section. and this time focus on reading in a quick and hurried fashion. make a note to yourself as to how you are speaking in terms of your pacing and pausing. Being able to vary your pacing and pausing can help a lot to convey a sense of intrigue and create interest. but go ahead and convey excitement in your voice! 3) Now read some of the material. and shows that the speaker is relaxed.) Assignments for Pacing and Pausing 1) Over the next few days when speaking to anyone.1. Focus on reading in a very hurried fashion as if you are very nervous. or don't quite understand the content. but this time read it in a slow. first very very fast. and then far far too slow. in a manner that makes you sound as if you are very confused. but this time read it slowly. relaxed. Too fast? Too slow? Hurried-nervous? Hurried-excited? Slow-confused? Page 9 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Strategic Formula for Speaking Pointers Use your best tone of voice (speaking from your chest) to convey a relaxed. and charismatic presence. deliberate. (Maybe even be aware of where your voice is coming from. Read several paragraphs and do this for several minutes. 1) Take some of that reading material and read it aloud. 4) Now read some of the material. Why is • • • this important? Correct pacing and speed of delivery conveys comfort. powerful.

. where. and excitement when appropriate. 2. If they do or say something that is interesting to YOU. • This also allows YOU to convey how interesting someone ELSE is as well.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Slow-relaxed? You don't have to change it yet. YOU can show an appropriate amount of energy and enthusiasm. YOU act boring. you get stuck in fewer boring.1. start to focus on changing your pacing and pausing. energy. and if you DID it! Day/Time Who you spoke to Situation (Where) Did you DO it? Strategic Formula for Pacing and Pausing Use variations in pace. Make note of when. and well-placed pauses. to convey a sense of drama and intrigue in what you are saying in a way that "captivates" people and makes them want to listen to you. enthusiasm. Who cares? Why does this matter? • Most guys are just TOO BORING. By doing this. Day/Time Who you spoke to What type of pacing and pausing? 2) For the next few days.4 Energy and Enthusiasm D2-T26 Listen to some examples of how this can sound . • If someone else is being interesting. dead-end conversations. or bored. to convey a more relaxed and deliberate manner.. Page 10 . When someone else is being boring.. just make a note of this after-the-fact and write that down below. then you can show more enthusiasm. It's good to have the ability and range to display passion. who.

women. Read it OUT LOUD in a boring. do that for 10-15 minutes. When you respond or talk back. make sure it is something that YOU are passionate about. and how your respond. bland voice with no energy or enthusiasm. which bores you. BE BORING and show no enthusiasm at all. 2) For the next few conversations you have with people where you ARE interested in the subject. Think as if YOU are convincing a group of people how great this is! Maybe your Dream Job of a lifetime is dependant upon YOU speaking well and showing how passionate YOU are about this! Do that for a good 10-15 minutes. taped lectures. Note how even if the material is something you do NOT care about.. their tone. Read it OUT LOUD in an exciting. bland. Page 11 .. monotone voice. your car. their pace. their pace. Do this for a good 10-15 minutes. Exercises for Energy and Enthusiasm Grab some reading material of some type. animated.. their tone. and read THAT aloud in a way that DOES show energy and enthusiasm! Make that sound as convincing as #4 above. Again. etc. and that are excited about. technical presentations. and how much (or little) energy is conveyed. whatever it is. and BE BORING. 5) Take that written material that really does interest you. go ahead. your work. go ahead and SHOW your enthusiasm! Be energetic in how you speak. 6) Take that earlier written material about the subject that you are NOT interested in and that really bores you.. Watch on either TV.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course The audio section demonstrates more details about sounding boring/bored and also sounding as if you have energy and enthusiasm. how you listen. maybe sports. dry topic. monotone. 2) Watch and listen to some speakers who use a lot of energy and enthusiasm when they are talking! Really pay attention to how they speak. even some of the materials from . that a good speaker can really grab your attention with their energy and enthusiasm. Assignments for Energy and Enthusiasm 1) Over the next few days. 3) Get some written material that you have NO interest in. energetic voice. and read that aloud in a boring. Strategic Formula for Energy and Enthusiasm Using energy and enthusiasm when speaking so that people can become energized and enthusiastic about listening to and being with you. 4) Get some written material that really DOES interest you. and how much (or little) energy is conveyed. Again. 1) Watch and listen to some speakers talk about a boring. something you are interested in. whenever someone is talking about something boring. other products. Really pay attention to how they speak. do that for 10-15 minutes.

whatever.) 3) Read that text OUT LOUD. and make note of the adjectives and adverbs in it. Day. you should be able to do this for at least 3-5 minutes each. while Adverbs will describe ACTIONS (verbs). • Their use must be automatic. Most Adjectives and Adverbs are qualitative. and uninteresting. 2) Read it. and stress the adjectives and adverbs in it. and sensations. 2.. Cars. They sound cold. Maybe say those adjectives or adverbs and put more energy into those words and emphasize them in some manner. nouns and verbs. Most guys are too dry in their speech. they are not things that can be measured or specified. Examples • Car reviews • Movie Reviews • This course! Exercises for Adjectives and Adverbs 1) Find some written material that deals with something where people are speaking passionately about some subject. Note whom you were talking to. Re-live it.. talk about each thing or subject again.1 Adjectives and Adverbs D2-T40 Listen to an example where many of these are used in descriptive language.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. but this time. These words modify or in some way describe. Who you spoke to Subject 5) Now. movies. It's good if YOU are also interested in it.2. out loud. sports. If you really like this subject.2 LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS D2-T39 These are the Bit And Pieces • These are the sort of things that can be powerful. Remember. because to have to "think about" using them is almost impossible! • You need to be TRAINED TO USE THEM automatically. Do this for each of the conversations listed above. add more descriptive terms to it. 4) Think of three recent conversations you had when you talked to someone about something that you REALLY liked. and the subject you were talking about. (Maybe highlight them in some manner. Page 12 . feelings. but must be done over and over. or they are too factual and leftbrained. not the logical side of a person. use more Adjectives and Adverbs. talk about it in a descriptive way. boring. and more ways of talking about processes. we are working to appeal to the emotions. Most men could be helped by having more descriptive speech. Adjectives will describe THINGS (nouns).

2. Act like you are really having the conversation again. or objective manner. that you are passionate about. their emotional side. 2. so that their feelings.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Assignments for Adjectives and Adverbs 1) Make note of the next 3 times you are having a conversation which deals with something that YOU are really into. Write down what the subject was. b. that you really enjoy. 4) The next several times any of those subjects come up in conversation. Day Who you spoke to Subject 2) Write down a few adjectives and adverbs that you could have used in each discussion (refer to a. "paint a picture" with your words. factual. and with whom you spoke. Trance words are words that "call upon" the subconscious mind in order for them to be processed and understood. and c above). is listening and more engaged in the conversation. Strategic Formula for Adjectives and Adverbs Use more adjectives and adverbs in your speech to appeal to and excite the emotional side of the listener. Be descriptive. They are not "analyzed" in a conscious. emotions.2 Trance Words D3-T1 Listen to an example where many of these are used. and processes awaken. make sure to use some of those adjectives and adverbs in your descriptions. Trance words help to "open the person up" so that their subconscious. Trance • • • • • Word List Instantaneously Suddenly Find Yourself Convince Yourself Suppose Page 13 . Start with just a few of them. 3) Practice out loud how you would have said those things in each of the three conversations. and then maybe add some more as time goes on.

or school. Maybe refer to some of your other SS products and see how many more you can find. work. 4) Get your SS audio materials and listen for Trance Words (maybe even THIS course here). 6) Pick two subjects in which you are interested. 7) Pick a subject that bores you. Doesn't that make it sound kind of "mysterious"? Maybe more exciting? Maybe you can take some normal. see and hear if you can pick out when the speaker is using Trance Words. Subject b. talk about it. Boring Subject Page 14 . See how many you can find and notice how they are used in context. placing an emphasis on the Trance Words when you see them. but also see if you can add some to the list. something that you think is dull. that's the point! Exercises for Trance Words 1) Make a full list of Trance Words. Trance Word List 2) Watch or listen to some material where people are speaking passionately about something. With that list of Trance Words (above) in hand.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • Imagine Mysterious (-ly) Wonder (-ous) (-ously) Think of any subject. even something concrete like your job. Maybe play one tape or CD. Write them down below. 5) Take the written text from an SS product (maybe from #3 above) and read it out loud. and make it more interesting? Well. Look at the Trance Word List above. Highlight or circle the Trance Words in a few sections. Now speak OUT LOUD about that subject. or religious speakers. Looking at the list of Trance Words above. See how many you can notice. Think for a moment about using those trance words to describe that subject. and see how many of those Trance Words you can use. You can copy the ones you saw listed earlier. like advertisements. 3) Get out your written SS materials and look for Trance Words (maybe even use THIS course here). talk OUT LOUD about that subject and see how many times you can use those Trance Words! Subject a. political speakers. and see if you can pick these out. almost boring or mundane thing. sportscasters.

. As you .. Subject a. Just do whatever you can to start using some of them at first. 2) Integrate a few more of these words into your every-day description of those subjects. Strategic Formula for Trance Words Using Trance Words will help to get the subconscious mind of the listener to be more of a part of your conversation. If I were to . more interesting... The next time you are speaking with anyone about those subjects (in the real world guys!).... Practice working with those subjects out loud some more and see if you can get even more comfortable using Trance Words when talking about those subjects. doesn't that make it-sound more "exciting". If you were to . Page 15 . and using more and more as time goes on.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Even though that may seem a bit strange. • • • • • Have you ever . to get from one subject to another. What's it like when . Use them when talking to different people.3 Weasel Phrases D3-T14 Listen to an example where many of these are used.2. and more fascinating? Assignments for Trance Words 1) Pick two subjects in which you are interested. that's what Weasel Phrases are for! Weasel Phrase List (see if you can add to the list by listening to the audio)... These also work as transitional phrases.. How do you talk about something without REALLY talking about it? How do you bring something up that may be a bit different. because it may be a bit too forward? Well. Subject b. make a point to use at least one of the Trance Words in the conversation. 2. maybe even a bit odd? Maybe even a different topic or change of subject? Or maybe something that you were worried about bringing up.

etc. don't use that one!) Now talk about one of these 4-5 aspects for 1-2 sentences. Just read the SS material out loud. (Weasel Phrases tend to provide ways to connect sentences and paragraphs that talk about how something is felt and experienced. sensing it.. and see if you can string things together so that they sound better. getting into it. then use another Weasel Phrase. 5) Did that sound weird? Strange? Ok . and do so with an awareness on some level that you are saying and using weasel phrases when they are in the text. Use different Phrases. etc. Maybe play one tape or CD. make note of the weasel phrases. For example. after another. While doing it. 2) Note the subject that you used earlier for doing some exercises with Weasel Phrases (exercise 4 above). that seem as if they fit best into your way of speaking about subjects that you may like. Take a moment and try to emphasize them in a way. Subject Page 16 . 2) Get your SS audio materials and listen for some Weasel Phrases. see if you can use some or all of your favorite weasel phrases when talking about it. In a moment. but selecting different Phrases to link the aspects together.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Exercises for Weasel Phrases 1) Get some of your written SS materials and look for some Weasel Phrases in the text. and read some of this material out loud.. Maybe pausing for a moment before one. saying one slowly or quickly. doing it. Talk about THAT one for a few sentences. the subject might be "going to a ball game" (pick your own. See if you can pick these out. and then use one of the Weasel Phrases and the bring up another "aspect". we want you to talk about how it FEELS. Try it again. Do this until you use all 4-5 of the attributes that you listed. It will get easier.) Pick 4-5 different aspects of this "experience" that you will talk about. The next several times that you talk about that subject with anyone. Pick 3 of them that seem the most natural to you. that it makes more sense. Assignments for Weasel Phrases 1) Look at the list of Weasel Phrases that you wrote earlier. 4) Pick a subject in which you are interested. the experience of it. 3) Take the written SS materials you had earlier. This is necessary to have the kind of words and subjects that lend themselves to Weasel Phrases.

Two key aspects of the use of Embedded Commands are often overlooked. 2. Just say this stuff out loud. or feel a certain way.2.just general things that would cause a person to be interested in something. Make a point to "lean on it" a bit.). Like "feel excited". and incorporate Weasel Phrases into the next several discussions you have about that subject as well. instead "you like this" (car).Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Select another subject that really interests you.It's very important that the command be brought up in the context of a conversation that is interesting. • Repetition . These are small snippets of words and phrases which.It's not just about using one. "get excited". on some level. or experience while they are thinking about that subject. "get into it". after another. To make it easy. and to "soften" the way in which something is said.. Write down things that would make someone interested. • Context . once. Pick something that excites you! Maybe the subject is sports. feelings. Page 17 . think of it like this. and do so with an awareness. Take a moment and try to emphasize them in some way. Write down a list of embedded commands. but just general things (feelings or states). its about multiple usage (bombardment)! Exercises for Embedded Commands 1) Get our your written SS materials (written) and look for embedded commands in a few pages of the text. a place you have traveled. Think of general statements. Again not "you like that color". things you would like a listener to think about. your job. intrigued. "this is what you have imagined having for yourself. maybe a car. make note of the embedded commands. etc. and where the person's emotions or feelings are somehow active (This "context" issue is discussed later in the product in great detail in Conversational Management sections. your car. maybe pausing for a moment before one. 3) Take the written SS materials. Subject Strategic Formula for Weasel Phrases Use Weasel Phrases to keep the conversation going. 2) Get your SS audio materials and listen for these. and read some of this material out loud.4 Embedded Commands D3-T25 Listen to an example where many of these are used. that you are saying and using embedded commands at the time. allowing you to say more (and maybe more provocative things) about a subject. These are not to be sexual or suggestive. Maybe play one tape or CD. While doing it. saying one slowly. "see how fascinated" . feel. See if you can pick out embedded commands while listening. that you want them to experience. excited by something. or "you want this" (car). lets say you were selling something to someone.. issue a "command" or statement that instructs someone do something. or more quickly. when separated from the context. 4) Pick a topic that YOU are very interested in. etc.

just enough to put the emphasis on the command. Maybe slowing down slightly. See how natural you can make them sound. start using a few of these commands when speaking. 4) The next several times that subject comes up in your life. Maybe you work in sales. or school. 2) Select another subject that is a part of your life. Assignments for Embedded Commands 1) Look at the list of Commands that you wrote and practiced that deal with a subject in which you are interested (exercise 4 above). Start to place some emphasis on the command itself. Page 18 . Write down a list of at least 5 commands that work well in that subject. Strategic Formula for Embedded Commands Use embedded commands repeatedly and in the proper context. see just how many of the embedded commands in that list that YOU can say! First. make some effort to use some of these commands in the context of a real discussion. 6) Do the same thing again. changing your voice. Subject Embedded Commands 3) Practice the use of those commands. but something where being influential may help. out loud. or maybe it has to deal with your job. and make it sound natural.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 5) Start talking about that topic out loud. in the context of talking about that subject. pausing. but now focus more on "leaning" on the embedded commands a bit. work on just saying them and finding a way to bring them up. to create a compelling will on the part of the listener follow you and listen to you. The next several times that you talk about that subject with anyone. that would assist you in being more influential. Maybe it's not a passion or real interest. and with that list that YOU wrote in hand.

Maybe play one tape or CD. If she is experiencing these feelings in your presence. In some ways.5 Linking D3-T42 Linking is a way to take the feelings. Just to "process" what is being discussed. if you are talking about a great feeling of excitement that a woman has had or is having. "in myself. For example. • However. 2) Get your SS audio materials and listen for these.While listening to the audio.2. Linking Phrases . and inexact. What is this based upon? • When talking. • In order for her to understand the feeling being discussed. and experiences that are being discussed and associate or "link" them to you. see if you can add more phrases to the list below. as long as there is good rapport). Are you talking about the "feeling" she had at some time in the past? Are you talking about the feeling she is having right now? • Because you are using terms like "this". then on some level that is creating this "link". and read some of this material aloud. non-specific. it's easier than you think! Just talking about a subject and getting her to be a part of the discussion. etc. and getting her to experience. you speak of "this feeling". then to the deeper levels of her mind. and make this "link" even more effective. will "link" them to you. While doing so. However. on some level.) Page 19 . ALL of those possible definitions apply! Then. and feel emotions. you become more associated with those feelings. 3) Take the written SS materials.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. which is an ambiguous way of referencing what she is thinking about. and talking to you. which is ambiguous (non-exact). See if you can pick out Linking Phrases while listening. and then making an ambiguous reference to that feeling using your words. you are being ambiguous. Take a moment and try to emphasize the linking in some way. make note of where linking is taking place. using some of the techniques that have been discussed in this course (pausing. etc. she has to actually feel it to some extent. you are talking "about" a feeling or sensation. emotions. You can also make reference to "in me". the linking tools and techniques will add to this. while looking at you. • • • • • • • Now with me In me In myself with this these this belief these feelings Exercises for Linking 1) Get our your written SS materials (written) and look for examples of Linking in the text. when you say "this feeling". also "this" and "these" as in "this feeling" of "these feelings". The most common linking phrase/tool that guys think about is the phrase "now with me". change in voice tone. recall. "this interest". she has to feel it on some level (and she will.

Assignments for Linking No separate assignment for this. this will come to you much more easily.4). "these feelings". This will sound easier for you as we go on.) For example. You can even add the ever-popular "now. Another example would be to take the phrase "Get excited" and turn that into "get excited by THESE things". the linking is ambiguous and doesn't reference you directly. link them to you so that YOU become something and someone that they feel good about. This may seem strange and sound a bit "off". where you listed "feel excited". and using the list above. Maybe slow down slightly. Plus the next section will make this much easier! Strategic Formula for Linking After getting someone to experience good feelings and emotions. but now focus more on "leaning" a bit on the Linkage Phrases. That's ok.2. pause. just enough to put emphasis on the Linkage Phrase.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4) Take the list of embedded commands that you created in an earlier exercise (Exercise #4 in section 2. you could say "feel excited by this" or "feel excited now" (you can also link things by putting in a reference to NOW). or change your voice. Start talking about that topic out loud. work on just saying them and finding a way to bring them up. with me" after one of more of the commands in your list. Write down the list of commands and an associated linkage phrase for each below. Doing linking in an exercise like this is difficult and hard to make it sound "natural". (Again. In some manner. "this person or thing".2. and see if you can "add" text to each to link them to you in some way. see just how many of the Embedded Commands and Linkage Phrases that you can use in your dialog. 6) Now do the same thing again. Page 20 . A quick way of doing this is to simply add "this feeling". Embedded Command Linkage Phrase 5) Pick a topic that YOU are interested in as we did before (it can be the same one you used in Exercise #4 in section 2. First. etc. it's much better if picked up along-the-way. As you hear more and more examples of this throughout the course.4).

who cares? Well these are almost interchangeable! You can switch this/that in sentences as you wish. with you. in general. (In some cases.Possessive • Those . that person • This direction. That. but that will be quite obvious when you try to do that). So. so you are not using a name or specific reference. use the possessive form when saying or talking about ANYTHING POSITIVE and use the non-possessive form when saying anything negative! Page 21 . that direction • This feeling.2. but do so in a general manner. with "these" being the possessive form. This is a new and very effective way to do linking that is easy to learn and master.Non-Possessive For example. exciting.Possessive (sort of "includes" something) • That . • This person. These. those sensations So. So. one "thing". and one is not. "this person" tends to sound like the person that is there. For example. and it can be done a LOT. they reference a "thing". for that multiple-instance bombardment that we spoke of before! The idea of linking wild. • These people. there are times when they cannot be switched. Whereas "that person" refers to someone "away" some "other" person who is not in the immediate area. that sensation They differ though in that "this" seems possessive. these refer to plural items. This means they are ambiguous! Consider this and that. Those) D4-T1 Listen to an example where many of these are used. seductive feelings to you may be great but. and included. or not there at the time. that feeling • This sensation. Consider four words in the English language: • This • That • These • Those These are forms of pronouns.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. This and that tend to refer to singular items. Given that one type is possessive. these and those are plural • These . and "that" is not. this & that are singular • This .6 Easy-Linking (This. those directions • These feelings. a GREAT strategy is to link anything and everything positive to you (and link negative things away from yourself. those feelings • These sensations. those people • These directions.Non-Possessive (seems to reference something "else" or something "away") Consider these and those. In this case.

This person is good. for a good ten minutes. These are good. or singular/plural. This is good. These. ' 3) Earlier in the workbook. 2) Say the lines below. Subject: Attributes or "things about" that subject. Those people are not. out loud. That. Exercises for Easy-Linking 1) Say the lines below. These. Use "That" and "Those" when referring to anything negative. or "things about" that subject. and the correct form of This. For each of these attributes or things. Those are not.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • This That These Those Singular possessive Singular non-possessive Plural possessive Plural non-possessive Anything Anything Anything Anything Positive Negative Positive Negative You can learn to do this (to choose which of these words to use) in real-time through training! Tactical Formula for Easy-Linking Use "This" and "These" when referring to anything positive. using the correct versions of That. and those depending on whether the item is positive or negative. out loud. Those Page 22 . These people are good. write a small sentence for each. Write down (below) ten attributes. Small sentence that includes that attribute. That person is not. That. you have discussed a subject (and written a lot of text about it) that is important to you. for a good ten minutes. That is not.

and their movement becomes a part of their communication.3 MORE TOOLS D4-T12 Now we are getting into a different area.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4) Talk out loud about that subject for a good 5-10 minutes. Those 6) Talk out loud about the subject mentioned above for a good 5-10 minutes. These. 2. beyond the small bits and pieces of language. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. list ten attributes or things about that subject. using the appropriate form of This. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. and once again. These sections help to train you in these types of techniques. 5) Pick another subject. Subject: Attributes or "things about" that subject. and the correct form of This. and Those. Small sentence that includes that attribute. D4-T13 Page 23 . and then write a small sentence for each. That. These. Great speakers use movement to their advantage. Anchoring Anchoring is associating a feeling or emotional state to a sensory experience. That.

after the conversation has ended. They may be a bit over-the-top (speaking to an audience is different than speaking one-on-one) but just watch them for a while. passionate. 2) Get one of the text lists from an earlier exercise (weasel phrases. embedded commands. We will break down many of the component parts of this into skills that we will teach you bit by bit. and way from your sides. political speaker. Read some of that text (from an earlier exercise) out loud. and hopefully the conversations are interesting. How often are they in your pockets? How often do they just lie by your side and never move? Make note of this after-the-fact. and that you end up talking about with people quite often. down. etc. However we will focus on things that can create a LOT of effectiveness. Watch how they move.1 Pointing and Gestures D4-T14 Good speakers use their hands.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Many different types of anchoring can be done and we are only going to cover some very basic tools. and away from yourself. and then we can work on deliberate movement such as • Pointing towards and away from things • Towards yourself and away from yourself Exercises for Pointing and Gestures 1) Find a good speaker on TV. Move! We will start by generating SOME movement. towards. talking about a subject that YOU are interested in. Most guys are too boring and too reserved when talking. have energy. and that you are passionate about. to help make their point. etc). Subjects Page 24 . BE excited! Use your hands and arms for emphasis. Get your hands OUT of your pockets and AWAY from your body! Act excited. 2. Then later on see if you can start to become aware of what your hands are doing WHILE you are in the conversation. Don't flail about wildly. so that the use of these becomes automatic. and that are very very easy to do. Assignments for Pointing and Gestures 1) For the next few days.3. Use your hands to accentuate certain points. 2) List 3 subjects that you really enjoy. and to do multiple times. so these techniques discussed here will help. make note of where your hands are when speaking. How to • • • do this: Get your hands out of your pockets. and some gestures. or even a preacher. Pick something YOU are interested in. point up. maybe a motivational speaker. etc.

Anchoring Anchoring is associating a feeling or emotional state to a sensory experience. Small sentence that includes that attribute. Those 6) Talk out loud about the subject mentioned above for a good 5-10 minutes. These sections help to train you in these types of techniques. using the appropriate form of This.3 MORE TOOLS D4-T12 Now we are getting into a different area. beyond the small bits and pieces of language. D4-T13 Page 23 . Great speakers use movement to their advantage. and their movement becomes a part of their communication. 5) Pick another subject. These. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. These. list ten attributes or things about that subject. 2.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4) Talk out loud about that subject for a good 5-10 minutes. That. and then write a small sentence for each. That. Subject: Attributes or "things about" that subject. and the correct form of This. and once again. and Those.

point or gesture away. very easily. recall a recent time when you had such a discussion. Bad. and animate to some extent the next time you talk about them. Bad (gesture towards. towards.). and to send negative things "away" from yourself. Page 25 .. Good. and send Negative things away • You can point towards or away from yourself. point towards yourself. Say the following out loud while gesturing in the correct direction: Good. or at least be able to move.2 Linking Gestures (Towards And Away) D4-T22 This is a fast and easy way to link positive states to you. motion. or • You can place your hand on your chest or abdomen in a subtle manner (to link things to you) . 3) With these three subjects in mind. Do your best to re-enact that discussion (say what you said. Bring Positive things toward yourself. point or gesture towards yourself. away. make a note to go ahead and move. and every time something positive is being talked about. away. Do something. Whenever you say something positive. and accentuate what you are saying in order to be more compelling as a speaker and to get even more attention from your listener or audience. and when anything negative is mentioned. gesture. but this time use your hands. Read that out loud. As you get more comfortable with this. point away.3. and MOVE! Do this out loud. and the repetition works for you! • Can do in various contexts. and MOVE. This technique allows you to do this many many times. no need to WILDLY gesture! • You can do this many many times. just start to MOVE. ANYTHING. etc.) 2) Grab some of your written SS materials. 2.. many people move when talking This technique is most powerful when used at a time when emotions and/or imagination are engaged in the conversation.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course For each of these subjects. Strategic Formula for Pointing and Gestures Move. and others. make a point to get your hands OUT of your pockets. Tactical Formula for Linking Gestures Whenever you say something negative. and AWAY from your sides and MOVE when talking about these subjects. etc. • Or hold your hand away from yourself (to send things "away") How to use it • Good to do in the context of being a person that already MOVES when talking! • Make this subtle. Exercises for Linking Gestures 1) Stand up. gesture. arms.

make a note to go ahead and use these Linking Gestures to some extent the next time you talk about them. point away. When you say These or Those.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Remember the text we used in an earlier example here in the workbook? Read that out loud. 2) With these three subjects in mind.3. Say "these". Point to you Negative statement. and every time something positive is being talked about. points towards yourself. Start subtle. say what you said. Exercises for Easy Linking Expanded 1) Stand up. passionate. (yes. it will become easier and easier. gesture towards yourself or place your hand(s) on yourself. have energy. and MOVE. Point away Positive statement. 2. Use "This.) D4-T30 Now we bring together Linking Gestures and Easy Linking. Point away. Do this out loud. and hopefully the conversations are interesting.. but you don't have to do it every time! That will seem strange! Tactical Formula for Easy Linking Expanded Positive statement. This is veryeasy to do over and over for that repetitive effect. recall a recent time when you had such a discussion. That.. For each of these subjects. etc. but this time when you are speaking of anything good or positive. or at least sit where you can move. start with a few. Subjects Do your best to re-enact that discussion. These. and that you end up talking about with people quite often. Linking Gestures and Easy-Linking together: • • • Use the pointing/gestures on Positive and Negative things (point towards and away). Point to you Negative Say "those". Assignments for Linking Gestures 1) List 3 subjects that you really enjoy. Pick something that YOU are interested in. point towards yourself and when anything negative is mentioned. Do the following out loud: Page 26 . Those .3 Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This. Say "that". Those" correctly Combine these and use them at the same time! When you say This or These. motion away or place your hands/arms away. Say "this". These. That. Conversely. etc. point away. when anything negative is mentioned. these can be the same as the last set of assignments).

the more effective it tends to be. and Those if you can. and emotions to yourself. trying to add in more instances of This. while pointing towards or away from yourself in the correct manner. These. That. That. and say "this". it's very useful to Anchor anything and everything positive to you! In some ways. states.Point or Touch. a laugh. Strategic Formula for Easy Linking Expanded Combine the use of Linking Gestures (towards yourself when positive. 2. But to get even more effectiveness when anything positive happens. Point back to yourself and say "these". It may be good to anchor feelings. The more that "emotions" are being accessed. That. it's good to be close enough (within arms-length) so that the "touch" is easy to do..) with Easy Linking (using This. and away when negative. you are anchoring them in a subtle way. and say "that". Also. touch them! This "Easy Anchoring" works in any context: • they laugh. Page 27 . we are doing that already by pointing "towards" on positive things and "away" on negative things using Linking. Do this in a way that maybe makes it seem like you are doing it for emphasis. it will become automatic. Use the correct versions of This. touch them • they seem to go into a pleasant state.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Point to yourself. etc. On Positive D4-T35 Let's look at anchoring in light of the 80/20 rule (where 80% of the results come from 20% of the effort). a realization. it's more difficult. touch them This is best done in a "moment" with some emotion. These. Point away and say "those" Repeat! This WILL help to train you! 2) Remember the text we used in an earlier example? Speak that text out loud. This is more easily done if you are standing at the side or at an angle.4 Easy Anchoring . Those in the correct ways) to associate even more positive feelings.3.. Can we apply this to anchoring? Yes! • We need a way to do some basic anchoring that is very simple. If you are head-on directly in front of a person. Point away. touch them • they smile. specific states. These. Practice it enough and in connection with earlier exercises. an expression. and Those. and thoughts to you but in a general sense. and able to be done many many times. but actually. or when the person you are talking to goes into a Positive state.

A laugh A moment of recognition or realization When someone starts talking quietly. See if you can recall how it was.. also make a point to make and maintain eye contact as well. This is the same type of thing. Page 28 . Person '" Situation. interest.. Write those down. Also note the degree of eye contact. 2) Spend some time looking for moments (positive ones) where a touch would be appropriate. a smile. and the situation or topic being discussed. Assignments for Easy Anchoring 1) The next several times you shake someone's hand. such as.. but in many cases. directly to you.) Maybe a handshake Maybe a pat on the back Maybe a funny gesture Make a note of the person. etc. maybe pat on the back. just a touch. maybe someone who you have heard about). make a point to hold it just slightly longer than usual. • Think about when you greet a friend. and note to yourself the correlation between how long the touch lasted and the level of rapport. intrigue. but yet have some degree of rapport already (maybe this is a friend-of-a-friend. Tactical Formula for Easy Anchoring When the person you are talking with displays a positive feeling of some type. you grab their upper arm as well. • When joking with someone. or Topic being discussed 2) Recall those 5 times.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course You probably do this already in certain situations. touch them to help anchor it to you. without really thinking about it. What do you do? You shake their hand. vividly. Exercises for Easy Anchoring 1) Think about the last 5 times where you touched someone in this type of way. you just touch his or her upper arm or upper back. but a bit more "deliberate". (Not romantically. • Think about when you meet and are introduced to someone. laugh.

These. Mouth. Those MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures • Move! Point! o Linking Gestures • Towards And Away o Easy Linking Expanded • Pointing With This. maybe you don't touch them. to be cool o Voice Tone And Tonality • Nose. These. Find Yourself o Weasel Phrases • If I were to . o Embedded Commands • Can you do this now. o Easy-Linking • This.. language.. when you have the chance. think "I could have touched them THEN".. You are noticing this after-the-fact.4 REVIEW D4-T46 We are well on our way.. 3) Now that you have started to notice these "moments" where a touch would be appropriate. Then. see if you can have at least 5 instances of knowing. That. DO IT! Strategic Formula for Easy Anchoring In general. 2. Those Page 29 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course At first. Chest o Pacing And Pausing • Slow. o Linking " with me. and movement skills that will be used later in the course. that a touch is appropriate. but as you notice these moments. we want you to actually DO IT! So. anchoring and associating yourself to positive and intriguing feelings in other people helps to make them feel positive towards and intrigued by you. • SPEAKING POINTERS o The "Cool" Factor • You don't have to be cold. That. and you have already learned a LOT of the detailed speaking.. Fast • • • Pause o Energy And Enthusiasm • Passionate or Boring? LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS o Adjectives And Adverbs • Be descriptive o Trance Words • Instantaneously. in-the-moment. Suddenly.

we will move onwards to work on Language Structures. Page 30 . and later to Conversational Management techniques.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o Easy Anchoring • Point Or Touch On Positive And Negative With these parts behind you.

but agreeing is just a special case. you might make comments (some that agree and some that may not) but the key is that you are "Taking part in" the conversation and topics at hand.. acknowledge what the other person is saying.Can you just knock someone into agreeing with you? Can you be that bold? Yes. move them . say things such as. These were tactical details. telling someone they are wrong.A way to change directions • In someone's way of thinking • In the conversation To make a change in direction in some manner. or "bigger chucks" as we say. the sort of things that you need to get used to doing automatically. Now we are moving "up" a level. however you can break rapport. but you can break rapport in the process. all of the time. For example... Fast and abrupt changes .0 LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES D5-T1 We have been working on bits and pieces of language. You might disagree. show understanding (does not have to be agreement necessarily) and then .Some people misunderstand and think that to "Pace" means to "agree". You almost NEVER impress people that way! To pace/lead well..Some people try to display higher knowledge or value by "arguing". Are they useful and possible? • • • Trying to knock or jar someone into a different direction or way of thinking can be risky. You MAY be able to do that. but you must do so powerfully and do NOT look for "acceptance".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3. or to try to "impress" them. It can mean this. Agree or not agree? . and more influential in general. move with them conversationally for a while. but you need a lot of power to do it and you risk breaking rapport. then and give them another way of looking at it. be able to just "do". etc. and then take them in some direction. things that you should not even have to really "think about". Pace and Lead allows us to "join" someone. Changing the Viewpoint or Frame if Mind . The minute you do anything like that to get someone else's "approval". These techniques give you ways to use and arrive at languaging in a manner that will make you more persuasive. but will hopefully at some point.1 PACE AND LEAD D5-T2 Pace and Lead . To "Pace" means to just BE a part of the conversation. Changing Topics and Subjects . incorrect. Don't argue! . it's best to meet or join someone in some way. o That's one way to see it o I understand your point Page 31 • • . into higher-level stuff. you are lost. 3. towards where you want things to go... Challenges • Can't you just bluntly offer a different view? Yes..Can you just abruptly jerk a conversation towards where you want it to go? Maybe. you might bring up a new way of looking at it..

. acknowledgement.. Then start to move or shift things in a different way.. That hardly ever works. Arguing! Many smart guys study these techniques and technologies. I see • That's interesting • I get it • Hmmmmm . as if you "need" their approval... it makes YOU look bad. Let me make sure I understand . showing that you are a part of it. I read/saw/heard the same thing .. In addition. To TRY to IMPRESS is bad. and then moving things forward in some manner. • Alright. I also think you can see ...BE IMPRESSIVE! People really don't like to be proven dumb or wrong! Most people are offended or "put off by such attempts.. . Strategic Formula for Pacing and Leading Pacing and Leading allows you "be" in the conversation for a while and gain rapport and information.... Maybe • • • • • • continue showing an understanding or interest So what you mean is . Then start to direct things in a different way .. So. if you attempt to do that. what you are saying is . I get it. • Well.. Instead . a way that you want.) • Yes. Page 32 .. Let them know you are listening and understand (using wording such as shown below.. have you thought about this . understanding. The point here is not to memorize these "lines". 3.. Tactical Formula for Pacing and Leading Show agreement..1 General Pace and Lead Techniques D5-T9 Here are some examples of ways to do these steps with example wording for each.. allowing you to move things more in your favor later on. and some of then want to go out and "impress" people with their newfound knowledge. So if I understand this .... Ok.. but to really get a sense of being IN the conversation. and/or interest.... Impressing someone with your knowledge.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o o That's interesting I see what you are saying.1. the implication is that you NEED someone's approval.. or. • Ok ...it's like this.

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I hear you, and what else is interesting is .... •-. That's a good way of looking at it, something else that is important is ....

The Formula for Pacing and Leading is ... acknowledge and then start to shift things ... Maybe you want to shift things more and/or bring up another issue or viewpoint entirely (or maybe you actually disagree) • That's one way of looking at it, however I think ... • Yes, I understand, I have also heard ... • Ok, that makes sense, another way of thinking about it is .. • Alright, but on the other hand... Some general methods you can use to introduce the "leading" aspect, you can talk about... • What you know, believe, understand • What a friend or colleague has said • What you heard • What you read • etc. 3.1.2 Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects D5-T12

Lets say you find some people talking about a topic. Do you walk up, interrupt, and start an entirely new topic? No. (Well, you can, but that takes a lot of power and has a lot of risk.) A better way is to enter the conversation, talk about it (Pace), and then move the conversation into areas that you want it to go (Lead). Examples: • You are in a conversation and the topic is cars. People are talking about prices, loans, etc. You acknowledge what is being said, contribute to that conversation (pace), and then start to bring in the idea of how a car handles, how it feels, and how exciting it is to drive certain cars (lead). • People are discussing clothes, various brands, types, etc. You talk about that with them (pace) for a while, and then start to bring up the idea of how clothes make you feel, how you feel differently when wearing different things ... etc (lead)

Tactical Formula for Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects Show agreement, understanding, acknowledgement, and/or interest in the topic or subject. Then start to move or shift topic or subject in a different way, a way that you want.

Exercises for Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects 1) Think about some recent conversations you have had with people about different topics, hopefully these conversations and/or this topic is something that occurs a lot for you (based on interests you have, people you know, etc). Recall a specific "moment" in each conversation. Note what was being discussed, and what point was being talked about. Make a note of each of them. Also note, where did that actual conversation go next?

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Conversation with whom?

Where did it go next?

2) Pace and Lead Gently Out loud, practice as if you were talking in each of the discussions above, and paced the conversation and topic, and then lead it in some direction. In this exercise, simply show agreement, understanding, and/or interest, and then lead in the same general direction. Maybe bring up a new example, new point, new issue, but just sort of "take over" the conversation. 3) Pace and Lead in a New Direction Next, for each of those instances, provide an example where you show agreement, understanding, and/or interest, but now start to "move" things in a new direction. Maybe the conversation that you had started at this one "point" and went in a specific direction ... Now, for this exercise, practice taking it in a new and different direction. Maybe introduce a different aspect of the topic or subject, something not mentioned before, or not normally talked about. The key is to first show agreement, understanding, and/or interest and THEN do this "shift", and you LEAD things in a different way.

Assignments for Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects 1) Make note of three conversations that you tend to have with people on a regular basis. Person or People Subjects we discuss

2) The next times these conversations happen, make a point to "Show agreement, understanding, and/or interest" (Pace). Then "Then start to move things" (Lead) in your own way, Do this by introducing a different aspect of that topic, or a related topic/subject. Don't make this shift or change really abrupt or different, just make a point to sort of "direct" where things move, even if that direction is close to where it was going anyway. Just make sure YOU are the one that moves it. Note the text and examples given earlier as a way to do that. 3) Once you can do the above, now make a point to have your "Lead" incorporate a real change of some type.

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Normally, even without your input, the conversation tends to go in a certain way. The earlier exercise had you just keep thing moving in that same direction. Now you are to "take" the conversation somewhere else towards a different or related topic. Just introduce a new aspect of the topic, a different thing, a different direction, so that you are really "leading" where things go. Remember the language that you were shown earlier. Use languaging like... You know what ELSE is interesting You know what * l * have found (seen, felt) Another way of doing this would be .. You know what ELSE can happen ... is ...

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You can change the way people look at things, their mindset, and their "frame of mind". For example, imagine you are having a discussion and people are talking in a certain "frame of mind" (not directly, it's just their way of seeing things). The point here is to acknowledge that frame, and then introduce another way of seeing things, another "frame", or another "mindset". What is • • • • a "frame"? In general it's ... A way someone "sees" something. What it "means" to them. The way they "feel" about it. The significance or meaning that it has.

Looking at the formula for Pace and Lead, you apply that by first acknowledging the current Frame, and then start to lead by bringing up another way of thinking about it and/or looking at it. You bring a new "frame" into the discussion. (This is a way of shifting that way people LOOK at things, the significance that it has, or their mindset regarding certain topics or behaviours). In the earlier example of Pacing and Leading of Topics and Subjects, we were talking just about a thing, a topic, or subject. Now we are talking about a feeling, or the way things are "seen" or what they "mean". For example, people may be talking about: • Taking risks • Feeling good or bad • Having a good day or a bad day • Making choices • What an event "meant" to them • How someone else actions affected them • How a decision affected them. There is a "frame" (of mind) behind each of these discussions and with proper technique, that frame and mindset may be changed. Look back at the "Methods" section earlier for some details and examples of how to introduce this pacing and leading (there are some lists of languaging examples provided). Examples: • You enter a conversation where people are talking about risks, Risks at work, risks in finances, risks in life. You Pace by discussing this for a while. The frame or mindset here is that risks are bad, dangerous,

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Do this OUT LOUD. Exercises for Pace and Lead .. and what "kind" of man she likes (height. the people. Then you start to lead by bringing up the idea that some risks are fun and interesting... etc. and/or interest in the Mindset or Frame of mind. etc. or provide a relevant example.. understanding. acknowledgement. The way they "feel" about it.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course have consequences.. and how anyone of quality . and you are working to change the way she screens out guys.. etc).Mindset or Frame of Mind Show agreement. You agree on some level (pace) and chat about that. Page 36 . what point was being talked about. The frame you are bring up is how superficial it is to judge based on numbers and details. or may be perfect but with the wrong hair color (lead). some risks have good rewards. and paced it. and/or interest in the mindset or frame of mind .Mindset or Frame of Mind 1) Think about some recent conversations you have had with people about different topics. What was the "frame". the viewpoint. Maybe bring up a similar way of looking at it. some men will just "write off a woman that is a certain size. • Another conversation has a woman talking about what she looks for in men. In this exercise simply Show agreement. What it "means" to them. then start to move into talking about how men do this as well. a new meaning. weight. who is like 5 lbs overweight. Note what was being discussed. then lead in the same general direction. some risks make you feel alive.. understanding. she talks about what their professions are. looks for more. Just sort of "take over" the conversation. the assumption? What is the frame of mind behind the viewpoints that they had? Write down the topic. (You are shifting her frame so that she may start to look at different things in men. now its being framed as exciting). and then lead it in some direction. the frame of mind or mindset is the focus here. The frame here is that she has her "standards" and that this is good for her. where the point of the discussion in that moment was: The way they "see" something. Then start to move or shift the frame by introducing another way of looking at things... Again. Make a note of each of them. Towards a way that you want. (Risk was framed as dangerous.) Tactical Formula for Pace and Lead . and the "frame" that was in use. With whom? Topic? Mindset / Frame of Mind 2) Pace and Lead Gently Practice as if you were talking in that discussion. Recall a specific "moment" in the conversation.

Don't make this really abrupt or different. understanding. and maybe point out a similar example from your own life. make a point to "Show agreement. understanding. and the frame associated with each. and makes assumptions (has a certain frame) about people or groups. Examples: someone complains a lot. and says they are cheap. The key is to first Show agreement. Maybe bring up a different viewpoint or way of looking at it. Maybe bring up a way of looking at things that is totally different.Mindset or Frame of Mind 1) Make note of three conversations that you tend to have with people on a regular basis. and THEN do this "shift". and HE is the one with the limitation someone complains about work and the managers.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 3) Pace and Lead in a New Direction Next. and/or interest" (Pace). These should be of a type where THE "frame" or mindset is something of which you are aware. With whom? Subject/Topic? Mindset / Frame of Mind 2) Pace and Lead Gently The next times these conversations happen. to find a positive way of looking at the situation. Page 37 . understanding. and you LEAD things in a different way. Then "start to move things" (Lead) in your own way. but just make a point to sort of "direct" where things move. or something you heard or read. for each of those instances. Basically. or something someone said. and/or interest. and their motivations etc. what it "means" that is not really in agreement with what was said. Write down these subjects. Assignments for Pace and Lead . even if that direction is close to where it was going anyway. etc someone looks at a political issue. Maybe acknowledge and then bring up an opposing view. some way. Maybe find a way. Do this by introducing a "way of looking at it" that is similar to the one that is already being used. you are just acknowledging the Mindset or Frame in this example. A good way to do it is to show agreement and understanding. and/or interest in the Mindset or Frame of Mind but now start to "move" things in a new direction. Do this OUT LOUD for each example. Think about discussions where YOU can see that these people involved are working on a certain set of assumptions. but really his mindset is the problem someone talks about wanting something different. provide an example where you Show agreement. maybe even limiting beliefs or beliefs that really hold them back. and they are the one not taking risks someone is prejudiced or judges other people. a frame of reference.

and allow the conversation to continue with the same frame of mind in place. but it can work well and adds to the power of the languaging.. Continue to Pace by maybe stating an obvious point about their current reality o seeing XYZ o feeling XYZ o thinking about XYZ o etc. focus on the Mindset or Frame.. A friend of mine used to feel the same way and they... o While you are ... point towards a specific Mindset or Frame that is of YOUR choosing. or assumed by the people involved.. This may be different from the way the subject or belief WAS framed or thought of.Current Reality D5-T29 If you look at the languaging used in things like hypnosis.. "Pace" their mindset.. these techniques are used a LOT.. a new mindset. A "safe" way to do this would be to find a positive way to look at the situation. Meaning. using words such as) o As you are . even without your input.. o While you are .. now make a point to have your "Lead" incorporate a real change of some type. o As you realize .4 Pace and Lead . Well.... o While you see .. What is done here is that you Pace based on something that is obvious (obvious in their "current reality").. o While you think . another way of looking at it is . Now you are to "take" the conversation somewhere else and bring up a new mindset or frame of mind. o You are probably wondering Page 38 • • . but just find a positive way to look at what is being discussed.. Again. You know.. and then use that to lead someone somewhere. o etc.. and new way of looking at things.. • At least it's not like XYZ.. it might not be that bad. there was a certain "frame" being discussed... o After you have . a new aspect of "what it means". Just introduce a new frame..... (for example.1.. or used by very powerful speakers. The general way to approach this is: • Start by pacing something that is obvious about their current reality . o As you see . This is a small-chunk detail and technique.. Some ways to do that is by saying things such as.. o As you feel. The earlier exercise had you just sort of "run" with that. 3. it could be .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Pace and Lead In a New Direction Once you can do the above. and/or express what is on their mind...

..) • Then you will "Y" Where "Y" is something you want them to experience (Lead) Exercises for Pace and Lead .. Make note of how many times I have paced your current reality.Current Reality As (while ) you) are "X" (Pace) Where "X" is something that is true in their current reality (perceptions.. the more it will "sink in". "As you feel this. Really pay attention and see how many times I have done pacing and leading in this manner... what you are hearing... o you will then ... Page 39 .. Rewind or go back a few tracks.. it starts to become annoying to the listener. o notice what its like as . o you will start to notice o you may realize o you may start to think o you may see how ..Pacing Reality too much can seem arrogant. 3. what you are thinking. what you are reading. Studies have been done with persuasive language that show that giving a reason will make people more apt to do things for you and agree with you. then you are probably wondering ..2 GIVE THEM A REASON D5-T32 Give someone a reason for someone to listen .. If you spend too much time saying things similar to "I know what you are thinking"." • Physical demos use this a lot.. and do... The more you hear this.. thoughts..". o state what you want them to see/feel/hear/realize Examples: • As you are listening to this program ." • You will hear a LOT of this in this course (which is part of your re-programming!) Tactical Formula for Pace and Lead ... etc... Point them to where you want to lead them .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • o As you are thinking about o I know you are concerned about o The issue that may be on your mind is o The question you may have is Begin to lead .. Warning .. o another thing you will see/feel/notice is ..Current Reality 1) Listen to this section again.. "as you are watching this presentation . • You are talking to someone at work . you will begin to notice this . and "As that feeling builds....

anything. it just helps to make people more agreeable (and there are statistics to support that as well). If you just say. This technique does not provide a 100% guarantee. if you say "Let's move over there because it's more quiet" you will be amazed at how much more agreeable the person may be. you don't need to be concerned about these things. Page 40 . if you say "Is it ok if I make copies next. or at least people that are not close friends of yours. You are not being apologetic or anything. 3) Go through the same list again. Tactical Formula for Give Them a Reason Request X because (of) Y Exercises for Give Them a Reason 1) Make note of the last five times you asked someone for something. but put in a reason of some type. asking "can I pay by credit card". and out loud. remarkably. come up with another reason. "Is it ok if I make copies next". Write these down. The examples will be better if these are people you do not know. "hey.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Don't worry about "losing your power" or being too "nice". because I am really in a hurry" then. Write these down. requesting something. • You are talking to someone and you would like to pull her aside and make the conversation more private. or asked someone to do something. then it may be difficult to get people to agree. However. they may go with you. Person What did you ask for? 2) Practice out loud how you might "ask" for that favor or make that request again. lets move over there". Assignments for Give Them A Reason 1) Make note of five routine situations that you have in your life where you are asking for something. the addition of this small "reason" will make people much more agreeable and apt to let you do what you would like. Examples: • You walk up to a copier at work and there are three people in line. just providing a reason. If you say. It could be asking for coffee. However.

and flow easily. • For the sake of a conversation. • When you give several reasons at once. don't just provide one reason. 3) The next times these situations come up in your day-to-day life. go ahead and mention the "reason". or giving an example.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Situation (Place. statement. it's difficult to debate them all or object to them all (not to be combative.Repetition in a way that serves you. or excuse. or make a statement. Tactical Formula for General Listing When making a point. you get someone to agree and then lead them 3.3. just as an example) • Hypnotists use this technique a LOT. People) What do you ask for? 2) Practice out loud some "reasons" that you could give in these situations. 3. "List" several things or examples which support your point. Page 41 . actually ends up being several points. • When you give a reason. or make a point. • Training for sales people use this quite a bit. Power in Numbers . the items that you will "list" need to be brief points. See if you can make it automatic. This technique has been developed based on observing how many good and influential people speak: • Successful sales people • Charismatic speakers • Good debaters • Component of hypnotic languaging « Very important. and quite well. • This is somewhat similar to a "pace and lead". so that your one "opportunity" in a conversation to make "a" point. point. in order to provide more power to what you are saying. which support your point. provide several.3 LISTING D6-T1 Listen to an example where many of these are used.1 General Listing D6-T4 Strategic Formula for General Listing General Listing is a way to quickly provide several reasons.

. 3. Then. etc.. Exercises for General Listing 1) Lets say you are talking to someone about "Meeting people". sometimes . really recall listing to good speakers (2). Mention the first item.. true. you may begin to agree. Who you were talking to Page 42 . strange (2). Select a particular aspect of that activity. and somewhat new (3).. and maybe 3 different things that support your "point".. briefly. the third item may tend to "lead" someone in some way. In many ways. and/or what it's like to meet people.. Maybe your first two items in a list are obvious. Y. what point you were trying to make. 5) Think of three recent conversations you have had with people where you were making a point. Write them down. as in saying three items . Do that out loud. Z". For each conversation.2.X and then other times .." and mention those three different ways. and the types of things to which no one would object. maybe watching sports. make them brief. playing a game. doing some type of work. then the second. Z (selecting your items listed above). Activity that you like or do often List a particular part of aspect of that activity What are three "ways" that can go? " 4) Now describe "What its like to do your activity . as a list. Y.. Listing can be short. maybe trying to convince someone of something (NOT an argument-just that you were making a point and would like to be more persuasive).. so that you don't just say "X. 3) Pick an example of an activity that you do often. and still. but as you listen to it (1).each of which lasts just a few seconds. Something you are interested in.. listing is like pacing and leading.. write down who it was with. etc. but instead you talk ' about each for a few moments. and start to think about in a positive way (3). a.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Example (see the listed items shown as 1.. Each of the items in a list can also be much longer. partying.. Now. where each lasts several minutes. etc. Pick three ways that can go . Now try again by expounding on each of the items.) • I know this may sound a bit different (1). talk about it for a sentence or two. what are three ways that can go? Good? Bad? Indifferent? Exciting? Boring? Pick three and write these down What are three "ways" that the experience of "meeting people" can go? 2) Now practice out loud by saying something like "Isn't it interesting how you can meet people and it happens in different ways? I mean sometimes .

However.2 Listing . it's easy to think of that Page 43 . Maybe you want your list to contain many options. suggestion. out loud.At The End D6-T15 If several items are mentioned in a list (for example a car. Who you were talking to Point you were trying to make Three items that support your "point" c. Do that for each of the three examples above. at times you want to use listing as a way to highlight or focus upon one item. You weren't trying to emphasize one point vs. and just providing a series of options. a table.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Point you were trying to make Three items that support your "point" b. how you could bring up these three points in a list-like manner. by placing YOUR preferred item at the end. etc) By doing that. it makes it seem as if you are being fair. or different types of alternatives (to a thought. Now practice. Maybe you want to list several options or examples.3. Therefore. Who you were talking to Point you were trying to make Three items that support your "point" 6) Recall a specific moment in each conversation. 3. However. you put more emphasis on it. and an elephant) what tends to "stick" in your mind? (The Elephant!) The last item! By hanging an item at the end of a list. activity. In the earlier Listing examples. Placing that particular item at the end of a list can have that effect. the one that comes to mind the easiest is the one that YOU want someone to agree with. it sticks in the listener's head more. Normally. we were talking about three points in a list that all were similar. and tends to make THAT point the most important one. the other. you were just listing several things in a list. Here is a way to think about it.

. It may be because you like the resume (a). did you notice the use of the words this/that/these/those? Also where do you think I might have been pointing and gesturing during those examples? Job interview o Have you talked to many candidates? Yes. It's just a matter of getting to this person. Examples • • Fun activity. you know . but by placing "it could be fun" last. Again let's bring up this example of "meeting people". Page 44 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course one. Say that one LAST and bring up two other options. or they just have the right answers (c).2. but you spend some time with that person (2) and the more that person talks. o You know what it's like when you meet someone . 3). how they can almost become a blur.. and the third one "eventually find this person" was the one I wanted to really "stick". o It could suck. I know.. c)! • • • • • • Strategic Formula for Listing . those people doesn't mean much either way .. etc . I put another list within THAT description (a. was said that at the end? By the way. maybe it's boring. or it could really be fun. and then finish with YOUR preferred item. Now those are different ways of seeing it. This course. you put more emphasis on it and it tends to make that one "stick" more.A t The End Listing at The End is a way to provide several options (which may differ) but to emphasize the option that YOU want. I mean. When I have interviewed a lot of people. o Other times you get that sort of a "friend" vibe with that person. interesting.... right away. b.. They are not all the same.. or instances FIRST. you meet someone. you know? See how I did that? See how the item which I really wanted them to think about. you eventually find this person that on some level. or this person presents himself really well (b). lets say you are talking about doing some activity. Again... It's interesting though.. the more convinced you are that that person is NOT the one! o Hopefully though. See? Not only did I have a list of three (1. examples. this is one of those subtle but very powerful things that many persuasive speakers do a LOT. but even when describing that person.. one after another. you know that those people are NOT qualified (1) o Others you maybe have thought were ok at first. you just really click and you feel this connection .. o And other times . you just know . In general. they sort of fell into several groups o There are some people that. I have had to do that myself at times. and there is just something about this person. Sometimes there is nothing special. o May be frustrating to you.that is the one (3).. they are nice. it could be boring.. or maybe you are really seeing the power of all of this! I think you can tell which option I was going for! Meeting People.

out loud. and you are all figuring out how you are going to spend your time. If you say Page 45 . 3) Do that again. You may want to "test" to see how the person will react to it. and what the result is that YOU want.). and we always have fun . At times however. and seem too direct. However. You want to mention or suggest something that is quite strong.At The End 1) Lets say you are going to spend a day or evening with some friends.Let say you arc trying to get someone to buy something. Examples: • Sales .Burying Items D6-T24 When using a List. placing something at the end can add to its power and make it stand out. but place some more emphasis on that last item. In that case. 3. and they are haggling or objecting a bit. and bring up at least two other "options" BEFORE you mention the one option that you want. or giving an example. talk about the issue. make sure that the one that YOU want to do. is the item you mention LAST. close. and therefore you do NOT want it to stick out too much.3. it makes sense to "bury" that item in the middle of a list.3 Listing . it can be TOO obvious. maybe controversial.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Tactical Formula for Listing . 4) What is an example from your life (recently). List three possible things that you could do and write these down. but mention the one which YOU want to put the most emphasis on. buy some thing. Here is a way to think about it.. Maybe pause when saying it. etc. Maybe add an embedded command of some type. where you are trying to convince people to do something. etc. Go ahead and suggest that item. Exercises for Listing . Maybe you want to suggest something very direct or quite controversial and you do NOT want to give it too much prominence. mentioning all of these in a list. out loud. "List" several things briefly in order.? Write down what the "issue" is.At The End When making a point. but bury it inside a list. Issue or Option What do you want? 5) Now. LAST. Three things that you and your friends could do (activity) 2) Practice. go somewhere. statement. agree to some point. Maybe add a small "list" within that last item (because it's inexpensive..

See? Putting that one. and maybe there is a possibility of you even spending that night together. • Instead of thinking about it in terms of a list. The idea of " seize this chance and get it while you can" is something rather challenging to say (as the seller) that directly. one of them is to just slip the deadline. more "appropriate" items to lighten it up. o "well. honestly. lets say you are working on a project and things are behind schedule.Burying Items is a way to mention an outrageous or very direct option for "testing" purposes.. seems to "lighten" it up somehow. we can talk in a few days. But of she smiles and seems interested. maybe it IS too direct.. Very direct. its your choice. that may be a GOOD sign. bury it inside a list.. Instead." Doesn't that sound better? Meeting at a Party . Sometimes you have that "direct" item in mind and you surround it with other. or possibly you just still want to negotiate . Page 46 .Burying Items Listing . lets say that you want to say something or suggest something that is very direct. However.. we can leave together right now. more powerful and direct statement in the middle. or possibly you still want to negotiate... or maybe I'll call you tomorrow". you can get away with an outrageous or very direct option by burying that option in the middle of a List. So maybe you say something like o "Well. It also allows you a chance to watch the persons reaction to it. it seems a bit easier for you to say it. that you are almost "worried" about how the listener may react. If she gasps and has a look of shock and horror when you make that suggestion. or maybe you want it so much. maybe you seize this chance and get it while you can . maybe you aren't ready to buy this now... There are several options but. Lets say your idea is so controversial and over-the-top. just suggesting. it's your choice. But if you switch the order. Strategic Formula for Listing . that you will just seize this chance and get it while you can! That sounds almost TOO forceful. it seems too obvious. maybe you aren't ready to buy this now. For example. or to maybe see if you can get someone to agree to it! Tactical Formula for Listing .Burying Items When giving examples or options to someone.Lets say you have met a women at a party.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • "Well. and when you say it at the end like that. "let's slip the deadline" might be a problem in some circles! So when people are talking about options to help the project. you don't just say "we can slip the deadline". This is also a good way of testing someone's response. and you are talking about you two getting together sometime.

and go ahead and practice how you COULD have said it. or the most direct item. see if it seems easier to say.Burying Items 1) As you go out and live your life. but do it by burying it in a list. but as with any technique. Situation Outrageous or Direct Suggestion you could have made. 2) Practice out loud how you would say that list in the situation you used in the previous exercise. if you do it TOO much or too blatantly. as any opportunities come up where you would like to make an outrageous or quite direct suggestion. you will probably encounter some situations where you might want to suggest something quite outrageous or direct. After these situations occur. and then trying saying that item in the middle.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Exercises for Listing . Listing can be powerful. If there is not one.Burying Items 1) Go back to the previous exercises where you said some "lists" out loud. For three different situations that have come up in your life recently. go ahead and do so. it can stand out too much and be annoying. write down an outrageous or very direct suggestion that you would have liked to make (for each). Try it out loud. suggesting a List of options but burying that outrageous option in a list. Go ahead and change the order of the list that you used earlier. you may even want to say it in a joking way. Page 47 . Situation Outrageous or Direct Suggestion 4) For each of those examples (above) go ahead and practice out loud. Look at the items that were listed and see if one of them maybe seemed very "strong" or "direct". 3) Think of some recent situations where you would have liked to mention a quite outrageous or direct suggestion. Assignments for Listing . by burying it in a list. See if you can make it sound natural. in the middle and see if it is a bit easier to imagine saying that list. 2) In the near future. go ahead and create a new item that is very outrageous or direct. make a point (afterward) to think about that outrageous option. Try saying it with the strongest item at the end. Bury the strongest item. but see if you CAN say it.

changing tone. etc. then mention several of your points or examples that support what YOU want.. then the more Y. o See how they are incorporated. consider this: • We talked about listing . Maybe you want to stress one item more or less. remember to use emphasis and change your voice tone with the items. place that item at the END of the List for more power. think. D6-T38 You have heard language like "The more X. etc"... if it's a VERY outrageous option. the more Y Page 48 ..4 Listing. The general structure here is: • • The more X o where X is something that is hopefully quite obvious and true to the listener . so this all works in your favor! Just be interesting enough to keep their attention.. as in .. If you must suggest several different examples or options. can help to alter how the options (and you) are perceived. o See how that is being used here? • We have discuss language details . while incorporating the language tools we have already discussed. thinking about languaging such as "The more X. Using pauses. emphasis. Or.3. and see how. in a List.. In a way. Maybe one or more of the items actually has an embedded command in it. then the more Y. and Emphasis D6-T36 You may be worried about coming up with three things in a list .4 MORE AND MORE.. I gave an example (in the audio) of several things I wanted someone to do.. Lets use this as a chance to really step back for a moment and look at this structure... or experience. 3. this is just a way of bringing together many of the things we have learned. and I just strung those together . then present it buried within a List of options. really.How do you think of them quickly? How do you make them sound natural? Don't worry! It is ok to have pauses! Pauses make things sound more natural and gives you time to come up with options! We talked about the use of pauses as a way to convey some drama and to make things interesting. you are walking someone through a series of steps or thoughts. 3. then. the more Z". "the more YOU FEEL this . but have ONE that YOU really want to emphasize or get people to agree to. we are pacing and leading.." "More and More" is just a way to use these and bring them together. In a way.5 Listing Review D6-T37 If you want to get your point across. and provide many examples to support it. and the more Y. and using lists. Pauses... o See how we are listing several items? • We discuss Pace and Lead ..3. to "pull" the listener in. and they WILL stay through the pauses! As you are saying various items in a list. So.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3.

. from a general item towards something that YOU want. experiences.. you can use "as you" or "while you" as a way to bridge between sections as well..) or thoughts (things you experience or think about. o walk someone through though process .) specific. then. or "as you notice X".. . • Sell TV sets. The More Z. That's a general version of it.. etc). or thoughts) use "More and More" as a way to string them together (and increase your chances of that happening. The more Y. agreeable. and then use More and More to lead them forward .. and the more Y happens . you notice this. and even more so with the next (more. If you have something that you want to lead someone through. The best way to do this is to start off with the first item as quite general. then.. step 1.. and as Y happens o or as you sense Y. etc... with "as X is happening".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course • • o Where Y is something that is a logical extension of what the listener knows and they see this as something that makes sense . the more Y. or realize Y. 3...) item.. • • • • As you (or while you) X . As you X. or a new "pattern"... the More Z. present. the more you can notice Y . o You can start off with something obvious as a statement to kind of pace them. Instead of seeing this as a new type of language. then the more Z starts to happen. towards what YOU want. The small words and verb tenses (past. Strategic Formula for More and More If you want to lead someone through a series of steps (actions. more and more. 2. As an alternative. the More Y... etc Examples • Convincing friends to go do something that you want to do.. which is more of an example of using Pace and Lead of their current reality. the More Y. THEN make the next item (more. You can even start by "pacing" a bit more. then just list them but use "more" as a way to go from one to the next. etc How to use it. and something obvious.. Tactical Formula for More and More The more X... Page 49 .. as you feel this. future) can be altered to make it fit well. or as Y is happening . the more Z. You are "leading" someone. like a series of successive steps (things you do. see it as just a way of using many of the things we have already covered! More and More tends to be best thought of as a "List".

etc. The first should be obvious. a series of thoughts or actions that. or something you want to lead people to do somehow. o Walk her through the process. Don't just say "more". something you convince people to do (or wish you could). What you were trying to convince a friend to do Three steps. 4) Think of another series from your life. You may start with "As you" or "while you" for the first one. that would "walk" the other people through the process of agreeing with you. practice saying those in series. etc. practice and see if you can talk about these one by one.. Write these down.. Think of all of the things you can do tonight Realize that going to a movie would be a good idea Going to see the latest XYZ movie (use whatever movie you wish) See how that is a series of steps? Of thoughts? Like leading someone down a path? Now out loud. more leading. they would end up doing what you wanted. more in your direction. or have them experience. Do that several times. as you. that start off in general.) Page 50 . etc. (Agree where to go to dinner. what to buy. 2) Think of the last time you were trying to convince a friend to do something. 5) Out loud. or series of thoughts or actions. if the person followed them. something.. using "More". or as alternatives.) Write down three steps. The next is another step in the series. 3) Now out loud. a movie. what project to work on. Think of three "steps". work around it and make it sound natural. Think about a series of steps. the second. The first should be obvious. what to do. while you. Think of three "steps". something simple. What do you want to convince someone to do Three steps. to get towards doing what you want. a trip. practice saying those three steps. but more and more get closer to what YOU want..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • Talking to a woman .. and string them together using "more". something with which you are familiar. and bridging between them as we discussed earlier (More. Do the series several times. to get towards doing what you want. a plan. "as you" or "while you". maybe an activity. Exercises for More and More 1) Consider the idea of convincing some friends of going to a movie.. who should do what. as if in a conversation. more and more. etc . of what you want to have happen.

• It's not magical in a persuasive sense. • It also a great way to get information about the person with which you are speaking. But get to the point where you can flow easily through the 3 in a series. • How two things are similar • How two things are different • Good . • • Take a subject and either mention another aspect of that subject. you can talk about. you have two (or more) aspects of a topic. we had you think of something from your life...another option • Black . Maybe add or change some of the reasoning. and you discuss these two aspects using Compare and Contrast. the more things like "knowing what to say" and "what pattern to use" will become easier and easier for you! Notice how we are not doing these examples necessarily with women? Wonder why? 3.White • Right . look for opportunities to use that in your life. This method provides a way to keep the conversation going. 2) With that "More and More" sequence practiced. • This works especially well if the subject of the discussion is one that "works" for our purposes (fun. and piece them together and have it sound natural. This Compare and Contrast method here gives you a way to talk about and around the subjects at hand. A Tactic for Talking • Too many guys let a good conversational subject finish far too quickly. Maybe just try 2 of the 3 steps once or twice. seductive. Just make sure that with that subject.5 COMPARE AND CONTRAST D6-T54 Listen to an example where many of these are used. and even change the specifics of that sequence.Left Page 51 . The more that happens. it's just a good way to think about discussing a subject.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Assignments for More and More 1) In the exercises. or various aspects of a subject. the more you will understand how they fit together.. you are able to easily go through such a "sequence"..) • Too many guys focus on standard lines such as "So what do you like about X". • You are just comparing and contrasting things. So. You will see that the more you get these bits and pieces. etc. There are various means of doing this.Bad • One option . Practice that series more! Get very familiar with it. How to use it. to continue. where you could have a series of "states" lead someone through the process of doing what you want. exciting. or else have the person you are speaking with mention it. this is a means to keep speaking. or several different subjects. and move a conversation. becoming more and more convinced.

team sports. Page 52 . states. • You may talk to a woman. that are good for you. then discuss these by comparing and contrasting. and discuss whether the handling makes it better. and to let the person think about. vs. etc. the offense or the defense. good or bad. and incorporate the language tools. or point in a discussion . and talk about its attributes as well.about her) and she mentions various things about that subject. • Maybe what is more important to a sports team. This all provides a good way to allow the discussion to continue for a while. and you start to talk about something she likes and enjoys doing. or point in a discussion.. you can anchor and link positive things to you! o While talking about things she does not like. Use the other language tools during the discussion. • You talk to someone for a while and she say she likes scuba diving. feelings. associate them with things other than you.another aspect -. Strategic Formula for Compare And Contrast Use this technique to keep the conversation going. etc. you can take note of how the person is responding. what they like. deciding to focus on making a good living now. What is different about each? How are they the same? How are they experienced? What is good? What is bad? etc. link away. another brand.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • One aspect . keep the discussion focused on a topic that serves your purposes. • Link anything good to you. two facets of that subject. • Notice what is liked and not liked • Notice any reactions. Then discuss the other car. Tactical Formula for Compare And Contrast Take any subject. o While talking about what she does like. you can talk about one car. compare. you can use all of the other tools we have discussed. and this situation that you are sharing. taking a position with a more promising future. you can anchor those away from yourself. One attribute . You discuss this. o You select two items. or individual sports vs.another attribute As you are talking.. Select another subject. o Maybe you start to ask her about it (have a discussion with her . As you are talking. her. better-worse. and start to compare and contrast the two. Examples • One brand of car vs. • Decisions about a career or job. what they do not. idea. idea. • • Use opportunities to use commands and trance words to create thoughts. • Anything bad. and feel those states and emotions for a while as well. or its power. experience. and contrast these things. easy-difficult. this meeting. How do these differ How are they the same Which is good-bad.

and talk about it again. Subject or thing that they like Attributes (things about) that. be very aware of the positive and negative things that are being said.. etc).(because).. and put effort into correct linking/anchoring/pointing to associate positive things to you.. then I KNOW that you would NOT like THIS . she mentions various things about it. 3) Recall a recent conversation with someone you know. Be aware of your language! Throw in adjectives and adverbs. Be descriptive! Use pauses.. Familiarity vs. bike. that within that may be attributes that are good. and this time. where they were really describing or talking about something they like. somewhere else. Be mindful of that and anchor/link appropriately. etc. and compare/contrast the two. o So we talk about the feeling of quiet. In addition. she finds the experience of seeing new and different things to be interesting as well. Not-Like" set of things to compare and contrast. peace. etc..".. the same holds true even when discussing what you do NOT like. and negative things . 4) Select two of the following 4 topics. your pacing. so if you like THAT. etc. but this time put some effort into being very aware of the positive and negative things that are being said. Also. This example uses a very obvious "Like vs. change your tone of voice... and those that are not good. Something New Control vs. Letting Go Safety and Excitement Liking someone mentally and/or physically o • • • • Exercises for Compare And Contrast 1) Pick some possession that you have that you REALLY like (car. Use compare and contrast to talk about each of the attributes that your friend would say they like about that subject.same type of thing (another car. Page 53 . and serenity on one hand o and compare and contrast that to the feeling of something new and different on the other. Be vary aware that even when you are discussing the thing you "Like". and various things about that subject or topic that they like. Re-enact that conversation again. As in "so let me make sure I understand this . that they do like Do the re-enactment again. and anchor/link/point appropriately. different style of clothing. clothes. and this time. computer. offer the compare-contrast ways of discussing it. Now think of what is opposite to that . Something that you like Something that is opposite 2) Now take that same topic. different computer. etc)." or .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Maybe you ask about it."Oh.. Now talk out loud about each. Maybe some of the language that you are using that may lend itself to be embedded commands. She says she likes the aspect of it being very quiet and serene under water...

. However there ARE ways to have BOTH. this doesn't necessarily show that you Page 54 . etc. Think about the possibilities. 3. For example. Meaning. Something New Now do your best to speak out loud and "talk" about these for a while using a Compare and Contrast structure. if you are asking many questions about something that is NOT of interest to you. link away Now this may seem tough . and say (for example) "what do you like most about scuba diving" or "what is the most fascinating thing about. that is fun. etc. link them to you • If the bad or boring parts some up.Who wants to talk about something that you are NOT interested in? However. together. If you are talking about an interesting subject. Two types of parts we can work with . some are bad • Talk about the good parts. Letting Go Safety and Excitement Liking someone mentally and/or physically Familiarity vs. but when you go STRAIGHT for the BEST thing that she likes the MOST. you may end up liking the subject and find a new activity for yourself! Don't worry that you will "give the wrong impression" by inquiring and discussing these "parts".. There ARE many things that people tend to THINK of in an "either-or" way. Excitement. and parts of a person 3. topic.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Control vs. People tend to think you have one OR the other. Some are good. it is GOOD to focus on the positive aspects of what she likes. it's too weak. this provides a good way to train you to be able to talk and ask questions of people. this just helps to keep things moving in a conversation. of having all of the positive aspects of Safety. BOTH linked and anchored to YOU. Parts. Safety vs.1 Parts Of A Subject D7-T4 This is a variation on the contrast principle. For even more Power There IS a very powerful aspect of this technique that is important to mention. Who knows. and you lose out on spending a LOT of time having them discuss something that she REALLY likes! This is just a way to have a discussion.. By comparing and contrasting them. then talk about all of the various aspects and parts of it.6. and get them to talk about what THEY are interested in. Parts of a subject. YOU are then showing someone how BOTH of these things can be experienced." and that's ALL they talk about! Yes. exciting. and the positive aspects of excitement. and that's ALL you discuss. theme. Too many guys just blow things to quickly..6 PARTS D7-T1 Listen to an example where these are used. you can show someone how that can be possible.

be comfortable talking about all of the parts of that subject. just curious. Page 55 . topics come up. and she may have a lot of positive emotions and feeling associated with that ..Don't just "talk about" Scuba Diving! Or. know about. If someone asks you about this. Subjects come up. don't just ask "What is the most exciting thing about Scuba Diving?" That IS a good question..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course are interested in it (the subject). like." This technique makes it easier to have conversations with people because THEY are giving you information and ideas for new things to ask about. Tactical Formula for Parts of a Subject Take any subject. If she LIKES scuba diving. 1) Pick a subject that you like. etc.. Link good thoughts. Strategic Formula for Parts of a Subject Discussing many of the parts of a subject keeps the conversation going. don't like. but if you start there. that an opportunity to talk for a WHILE about something she likes. or point in a discussion. list various "things" about that subject. feelings and emotions to yourself.many of which can be linked to you. o Where have they dived? o How did they get into it? o What's their favorite place? o Do they have their own equipment? o Do they use different types of equipment for different locations? o How long have they dived? o Have they ever been in danger? o Have they taken photos? o Have they met interesting people? o Has this exposed them to any other cool sports or activities? o etc. This is a great way to build rapport with a person as well. area of interest. allowing you time to gather information and link yourself to good thoughts. Exercises for Parts of a Subject . artistic endeavor. and enjoys. maybe a hobby. etc. etc. Break it down into its component parts and discuss them. sport. feelings and emotions. what people do. You are just asking. new things. Examples • Scuba Diving . idea. just say "I like learning about people. it's hard to talk about that subject for a while. Now. This isn't just a way for you to ask ask ask HER about things. activity. that you know. Use the language tools in the discussion.

or Things About. maybe a cousin you hardly see or talk to. if your subject was football. like a co-worker. You should be able to come up with at least 10 items. what parts about football would you want them to ask about? For your chosen subject. or Things About. If you have trouble. etc. Someone that you recently met. or maybe someone in your life that you don't know very well. maybe pick a different "person" as your subject. Write these down. That Subject: 2) Think of one of your friends or family members and some activity or topic that THEY are really into. Page 56 . Person: Subject: Parts. passion. Now think of something that THAT person is interested in or they are involved with. Maybe their hobby. if you were going to talk to them for like 30 minutes about that subject and were really going to ask them about it. This should be someone you know well. someone you met at a party. Subject: Parts. what would you ask about? What are all of the various things and aspects of it that YOU could inquire about or that could come up in a discussion? These are the "parts" of that subject. and you were going to have someone (who knows very little about the subject) interview you and learn all about football. make a list of these parts. etc. Now. and you have heard him or her talk about this.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course For example. a job they like. That Subject: 3) Now think of someone who you are NOT close to (that you do not know that well). but hopefully this "subject" is something you are not really into. You should easily be able to come up with 10-20 items.

who is interested in something that you are NOT familiar with.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course The key here is that this is someone you don't see often. If you were going to talk to them for like 30 minutes about that subject. while YOU are there And you are linking and anchoring things to yourself Using all of the language tools and details And that person is finding YOU so fascinating and charismatic . or Things About. And of course the entire time. when you are speaking with a person you do not know hardly at all (yet you feel you will be able to talk to them for 10-15 minutes). and were really going to ask them about it.. off the "top of your head". make a point to have a good 10-15 minute conversation about a subject that THEY are really interested in. Make a point to ask about many different parts of that subject. when you are speaking with a friend or family member that you know well. out loud. experiencing it. and feeling it. you should be able to list at least 10 items. You know the person but you are not real close to them. don't know really well. Now. like the exercise above. Person: Subject: Parts. Person: Subject: Assignments for Parts of a Subject 1) Sometime soon. but with which you are NOT familiar.. That Subject: " 4) Think of another person and subject. The subject they are interested in is something with which you are NOT familiar. Make a point to ask about many different parts of that subject. Page 57 . Again. They are talking about something THEY like Thinking about it. but with which you are NOT familiar. what would you ask about? What are all of the various things and aspects of it that YOU could inquire about? What are the PARTS you could ask about? Write these down. mention like 10-15 different things you could ask or inquire about that subject. make a point to have a good 10-15 minute conversation about a subject that THEY are really interested in. 2) Sometime in the future.

if a personality trait. etc" • Discuss this new or other "part" o "With many people.. in a way you are also using Compare and Contrast as well. what she did .. Don't Confront. they are quiet. their reactions. their way of walking through and looking at the world. This can be VERY powerful. • "That's because there is another part.. In a discussion. Discuss. verify it. and they feel that way. that is more . or way of looking at it. exciting part of a person is being discussed. a way of thinking." o "Many people like that also have another side to themselves." o "You may have (or do have) another part (or side. "parts" are meant as in a personality trait. or has the same wishes that you do.. that adventurous side is just waiting to come out. • Acknowledge the first part that is being discussed. etc. if the person is shy o "I understand how some people are shy.. "you may have the other side" o or by example "I know someone like that. and then say (for example).2 Parts Of A Person D7-T15 Listen to an example where this concept is used... there is a more decisive. they hold back.. o "When you start to listen to this adventurous side . link it to you. In many ways. or normally don't "do" certain things? • Then talk about that first (shy) part. or parts. fun.. You do not want to appear to challenge or invalidate and personality trait that is being shown. or reserved. • If a person is shy. that part of the person or type of behavior that DOES agree with you)... Let's say you are in a discussion with someone.. Let's break this down. a way of acting or being is being discussed (and one that does not necessarily work in your favor) . there is a more quiet side • If a person is well-thought-out (thinks things through and takes time). In this context. there is a more adventurous part to themselves • If a person is outspoken.. make it be experienced. A key concept to think about is to ALWAYS assume that there is a part of someone that does agree with you. etc)" o "I know someone similar who as this other part to themselves. directly or indirectly o For example.. just looking for the right time. (where XYZ is a different or maybe the opposite behavior." • If this new or other "side" works more in your favor. great.. • What if it is not? What if they say they are shy. Page 58 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3. and start to discuss and validate that OTHER part.. or side. In fact a friend of mine is very shy and one time. or view. o Either in general like "there may be another side" o or more directly. more spontaneous side to them.. we are also reframing! We are changing the way they look at things. or part of a person. Because you are discussing several things. adventurous ." • Bring up and acknowledge the fact that there is "another" part." • There will be a lot of this shown in examples here in this section and at the end of the program.6... lean more on the language and linking tools to bring it out. • If an adventurous. etc. another part hidden away. that XYZ part". experiencing it. and I have found she has this other side. etc. etc. a "side" to the person.

so be careful. Well... even when the other person claims or demonstrates that such parts are NOT there. and evoke favorable states. feelings. You can work around this issue (of possible confrontation) by saying things like o "I think another way of looking at that trait is .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • Many times you don't want to say "because there is another part" because that seems too direct. deep down.. but it can be handled . o "I was reading somewhere about things like that and what it was saying was.. that can work in your favor.. and 3 that are opposite. and beliefs. o "A friend of mine does that as well. There are also other sides to people . way of thinking. Traits similar to "Being Boring" Page 59 .. having a conversation. . This one side . they like to play things safe. • Maybe someone says they can be jealous... Find a personality trait. too confrontational.. I understand you have that side to you. way of thinking. that may be true but also there is another part of them .. Tactical Formula for Parts of a Person For every part of a person that will work against you.. or part of the person that is somehow related (which works in your favor) or somewhat opposite. • Maybe someone lies .. you are NOT discussing this as to say. etc. • Maybe someone is secretive. or part of the person (mostly something which has a negative connotation) Acknowledge that personality trait. (not good in a person.. it may sound like you are arguing or challenging the person.. o "I have a friend who was "X" (where X is the trait being discussed)... etc etc etc. People have many sides to themselves. discuss. and she realized that she..) Exercises for Parts of a Person 1) What if someone says. o "Well. What personality traits (or what other parts or ways of thinking) are similar? Which are somewhat opposite? Write down 3 that are similar. Examples: • Lets say that a person says they are not into taking challenges. Remember.. and what I noticed about her is that she also has this other side to her..." Strategic Formula for Parts of a Person Use Parts of a Person as a way to find. "I am boring".. assume there is a part that will work WITH you. was also "Y". Introduce and discuss that "other part" in a way that works to your advantage. or part of the person by discussing or addressing it Think about a personality trait. "you are wrong" or to show how smart you are! You are just talking. way of thinking.

. Practice this out loud. which could you maybe "use" in a good way? 2) Think about how you would discuss the boring part. Look at the formula earlier. and then bring up this other "part" that you selected. Look at the formula earlier. and some of the variations mentioned for language examples. etc.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Traits opposite to "Being Boring" Of those that you listed. Practice this out loud. and 3 that are opposite. or ways of thinking) are similar? Which are somewhat opposite? Think about 1-2 that you could use. 5) From the list you just made (and selected from). use this/that/these/those .. maybe do some linking an anchoring. What personality traits (or what other parts. Now do a similar exercise again out loud. 6) Lets say someone says "I am not into meeting any new people right now" . Traits similar to "Being Shy" Traits opposite to "Being Shy" Of those that you listed. Imagine a conversation and how you might do this.. Imagine a conversation and how you might do this. 3) What if someone says that they are shy? What personality traits (or what other parts or ways of thinking) are similar? Which are somewhat opposite? Write down 3 that are similar.. be aware of opportunities to maybe mark off an embedded command or two (or more). pick another part or trait. but this time. and some of the variations mentioned for language examples. Page 60 . and then bring up this other "part" that you selected. Traits similar to "not into meeting any new people" Traits opposite to "not into meeting any new people" Practice out loud how you might first discuss "I am not into meeting any new people right now" and then transition into the other parts or traits that you selected. which could you maybe "use" in a good way? 4) Think about how you would discuss that shy part.

or mentions a "way of thinking"). Or. but ROW see how many of the speaking and language tools you can use. WHILE talking to someone. etc could you discuss? Try that out loud. Opposite (or similar?) trait or part that might actually work in your favor Conversation with Traits or parts that were discussed. trusting their own judgment. make a note of these traits or parts. and has been a bit difficult for many to really understand Page 61 .7 OPPORTUNITIES AND CHALLENGES D7-T34 Listen to an example where I structure opportunities. 3.. being open. 3) Now that you can recognize these traits when talking to someone. trait. trait. This area has caused some confusion. or putting him or herself down for some reason. and offer challenges to you on the audio.? What other part. make note of when you are having a personal conversation with anyone.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 7) Do the above example again. and offer challenges" many times when studying these materials. See if what they are saying describes or is pointing out any personality traits (or a "part" of themselves. and then find a way to discuss another part that is more favorable or positive. 2) After you have become more comfortable noticing such traits after-the-fact. You don't have to discuss them (yet) just make a point to note these traits. 8) Lets say someone says they have trouble meeting new people. 9) Lets say someone says "I only like dating my TYPE"? What other part. acknowledge it. Just notice the trait or part being mentioned. See if you can note that "part" of who they are. After the conversation.. You have probably heard the phrase "structure opportunities. and then point out some other trait or part that might work in your favor somehow. Assignments for Parts of a Person 1) For the next week or two. etc could you discuss? Try that out loud. See if you can arrive at a similar part or trait that you can discuss that could be used in your favor. or parts. An easy way to do this is when a friend or acquaintance is being self-deprecating in some manner. see if you could maybe think of an opposite one that could be discussed. Use the formula and the variations mentioned earlier. see if you can notice them WHILE talking to someone. start to bring them up IN the conversation.

"You may be beautiful. Why this matters. or want to be perceived as having. You are in. but may not be the most effective strategy. It's good to somehow work with structures and things that are already in someone's mind.1 Using Their Own Processes D7-T36 If you know what people want to have. • Show that you are qualifying and screening to some extent. 3. this can be very effective. then by using their existing desires.7. or like to be perceived as having. or be with you. o This is the opposite of pleading and the "pedestal" scenario. is a way for them to show their intelligence. In this section. • Show that you have standards.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course and utilize. or show it." • This is NOT about arrogance. • Use these general things and assume they are there. then they already have mechanisms for that in their mind. You then find some way to set things up so that choosing to listen to you. Universal Wants • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control • Excitement Page 62 . For example if someone is intelligent. do it.2 What do people want? - D7-T38 "Universal Wants" = Good. effect. you are using processes that they ALREADY have in their minds. but I am looking for more. o You are saying in a way. and that you believe in yourself. Challenge them to demonstrate it. Work with universal things that people would like to have. If you can somehow frame or map yourself as being a way for a person to fulfill things that someone already wants. you are just showing that YOU have standards.7. these concepts are broken down and offered to you in a way that will truly help you to be able to use these powerful techniques. 3. • These are also good and convenient for practicing and examples. using motivations that a person already has. Strategic Formula for Opportunities And Challenges Find or assume what someone wants Create an opportunity for them to get it or demonstrate they have it Make that "demonstration" work in your favor. and wants to be seen as intelligent. • It's easy.

. or adventurous. etc). or want to be perceived as having? Mini-Challenges D7-T40 3. "you can show me that you have the thing you desire. o Talk to her and find out what she wants or needs.. or maybe a value.. o You might. o You seem as if..... etc • Finding these particular wants and desires o These "wants" can be possessions. wants to have. • Mini-Challenges o You might get this ..3 There are certain things you can assume that most people may want to have. o You seem smart enough .. o I wonder if you can .. or fun. o etc. what she likes to do... Warning . o Maybe you can ... What does she want to have. o Are you able to .. by listening to me or agreeing with me". Mini-Challenge Cheat Sheet o You seem ... and discusses what is important to her She mentions something she likes or dislikes about a past boyfriend. but if you can find or work with specific wants or desires. along with the Universal Wants listed earlier! • We assume here that with a mini-challenge... or an image she wants other people to have of her. o Talk about some of yours and see how she reacts. we are using one of these sort of "universal" wants. o If you can . her interests. or want to be perceived as having. You can imply a "test" for these things by issuing a mini-challenge.. o Always have the question below in mind..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course "Particular Wants" = Better! What does THIS person want? • Notice o o o particular things that this individual would like to have or be perceived as having She mentions wanting respect She defends her position. o You may . can (use smart.. You are challenging an ASSUMED desire (a "Universal Want")... or be seen as having "X".This technique can be overused. o If you are able to .. o Try using some of the above items.. that's even better. o The smart people I know.7.. o You seem cool enough . and challenging them in a way that says... o You might see . and it can really annoy people if you do! Page 63 .. o You seem like . o Talk about what she does. o You seem like you may have good taste o etc.

what someone wants. 3. you will show me you have that". Make a statement that says. • Challenge them to see if they will follow through and take action to get it.7.. and see how many combinations you can come up with.. "Show me you have that thing by listening and/or agreeing with me" or. or been seen as having You can assume based on normal things that people want (Universal Want) or Get information from talking (Particular Want) Create an opportunity for them to get or demonstrate "X".4 Opportunities and Challenges D7-T43 Think of it like this. (and again. and Mini-Challenge Cheat Sheet. in a way. Creating Them Consider the wants and needs that a person may have . Challenge the person to do "Y". here we have to "assume" things for the sake of teaching) . "By listening to and/or agreeing with me. • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control • Excitement Page 64 . or hopefully find. by doing "Y" Make "Y" something that works in your favor.. • Create an opportunity for them to get that • Make it so that them "getting" that works in your favor. • Universal Wants • Particular Wants Opportunities.. Exercises for Mini-Challenges 1) Try piecing together items from the Universal Wants List. or be seen as having. What does someone Want? Assume.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Tactical Formula for Mini Challenges Assume something she wants to have. Tactical Formula for Opportunities and Challenges Find something "X" that the person wants to have. • Find what someone "wants".

Maturity .How can you create an opportunity for someone to appear confident (that works in your favor)? o Discuss people that YOU know. and how the confident ones are able to take chances and have fun.. and see how doing Y would demonstrate it?> • Does she have what it takes to get X. • Here is how I read/heard that someone else had or was able to get X.. How can you make that sound like a way for them to "show" something? How to create an opportunity? • Here is a way for you to show me that you really have or was able to get X. talk about DOING them. o Talk about how confident people can make their own choices... o Let the person demonstrate how confident they are. • Mention something that you have read. what does a mature person do? How are they seen? How do they react? o They make their own decisions o They trust their own judgment o They can decide to do something NOW. or some way for this person to capture the opportunity • Provide an example of something she can say or do....Think about maturity .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course You need to create an "opportunity" for each of these. something they want. and/or HAVING them. and feel very comfortable with that. on their own. by meeting this "challenge". or show what they have. where this opportunity benefits you (and hopefully pertains to the situation). Examples. • Confidence . Talk about those things. by doing Y? Page 65 . • Here is a way a friend of mine showed that they have or was able to get X. Examples: • Does she really want X and see how Y can get that? • Does she really have X. or want to be seen as having Structure this so that it is something that YOU would like them to do. even if their friends don't approve. o Mention how confident people can meet someone new.. o . Challenges Are they ready to take advantage of that (this) opportunity? Challenge them to get what they want. Create the opportunity for them to show or demonstrate that they have or are perceived as having. o They can go against the grain. • Provide an example from your own life... • Provide a way to demonstrate that they DO have what they want. o They can do exciting things. • Maybe point out something a friend did . Provide an example of someone.

and do Y to get it? Can she do Y and make it happen? Can she see that Y will get her what she wants? Can she trust herself enough to do Y? etc. Can she see an opportunity to have "X". how she may be adventurous. to show or demonstrate that? Examples: • Security o Say she wants to feel secure. she actually felt more secure about being able to take care of herself. Are they ready to do Y. and say something like "well.. there are others shown earlier. • • I know this is tricky. Page 66 .. It's NOT about creating an argument! Again.. You talk about that for a while. It's different from the way most guys think. she may have to do Y to prove that. what this means to her. and mention that you read somewhere that successful people tend to be able to trust their own judgment. Success o Maybe "success" is important to her. I don't know if you are adventurous enough for this.. and she found that by taking chances and risks. You discuss success for a while. or be perceived as having. • Find a way to map what YOU want. Is she ready to take chances? Take risks? Do something different? Maybe not .. Some examples are shown below. as long as you trust yourself enough to feel that is OK ..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • • • Does she want you to THINK she has X. • Challenge them to do that.. Then at some point you talk about you and her getting together. Later. You talk about a friend who has always wanted to feel secure. but. to be a way for them to get what they want. Exercises and Assignments for Opportunities and Challenges 1) Make a list of some assumed things that many people may want to have.. Assumed Wants 2) Write a Mini Challenge for each if the above items. then . They want X. These are your "Assumed Wants".". I mean." Adventurous o Maybe she wants to feel adventurous. you mention "We should get together sometime. • Find out what someone wants... their own intuition..

Practice these more.. and NOT just things from the "assumed" list. Person What they want to have. out loud 4) Make a note of some of the ones you practiced that seem closest to something you could easily say or do with people in your life. or be perceived as having Page 67 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course "you seem like . co-workers. quite unique.. "you might. For each person. and focus on using these. Note some of your favorites ones below. or wants to be perceived as having.. and go out and actually USE them for a while." Mini Challenges 3) Practice the list of Mini Challenges you just created. etc... 5) Think about some people that you know quite well like family. friends. Write down these "Wants". "you may . write down something that each wants to have.. "lets see if this makes sense to you "see if you can follow this .. Hopefully these are specific to them.

even subconsciously. Person Challenge 8) Practice each of those "Challenges" out loud. and write them down. The good athletes find a way to relax and have fun. Person Opportunity for them to get what they "want" that somehow works in your favor 7) For each "want".) So you challenge their dedication to their sport by saying "I was reading about really good athletes and one thing that was pointed out was that a lot of them really can get burned out. and that allows them to be better at their sport. want to do what you wish. (You want that friend to lighten up and be able to spend more time going out and having fun. etc? Give that some thought. and how can you "map" it to yourself? Write down these "Opportunities". See if you can make it sound natural. What is the opportunity. they will be doing something that YOU want. as making them look at you more positively. You are "mapping" it to you because by doing what you discuss. are they ready? Can they take action? Can they DO this? Write down these "Challenges". Is there a way to create an "opportunity" for them to get or achieve that? Can you somehow create an opportunity that can be "mapped" in some way towards yourself." The "opportunity" is for them to be a better athlete. Page 68 .. and they spend a LOT of time practicing. and "opportunity". see if you can create a "challenge"..A friend wants to be really good at a sport. Example . or that in some way could be interpreted.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 6) Consider the "want" that you identified from each of those persons above. Some way that questions .

Do what you can to bring these up while in the conversation if you can. These are those words or phrases that can mean more than one thing. 10) While you are talking to people for the next 1-2 weeks.9 SUMMARY D7-T66 Bringing it together.) o Easy Anchoring ... Listen. Although there could be a section in this course that deals with these areas. given that this IS an area that many guys are able to do (with enough listening) and given the many OTHER areas that really DO need the assistance of a program like this. What do they "want". they mean something different. we will not be doing any specific work on Ambiguities. but in another context. listen. so that you have heard them SO MANY TIMES. • SPEAKING POINTERS o The "Cool" Factor o Voice Tone And Tonality o Pacing And Pausing o Energy And Enthusiasm LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS o Adjectives And Adverbs o Trance Words o Weasel Phrases o Embedded Commands o Linking o Easy-Linking (This. 3. do the same in terms of observing desires. That. 3. Try to guess.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 9) As you become more familiar with these practiced challenges and opportunities. These. They may have one meaning in one context. but now also start to look for "opportunities and challenges" in a way that directs their desires towards you. listen.. 11) For the next 1-2 weeks. look at how many items we have covered so far..8 AMBIGUITIES D7-T64 If you have studied this material for a while. that these become familiar. see if you can bring them up in conversations over the next few weeks.Point Or Touch On Positive And Negative LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES o Pace And Lead " Topics and Subjects * Mindset of Frame • Current Reality o Give Them A Reason • • • Page 69 . to do things that you would want. That. but also ask some questions and get into a discussion about it if possible. really focus on what each person desires. This is one area that many guys actually ARE able to pick up and use easily if they have listened to the materials enough. you no doubt have heard many examples of "ambiguities". Those) MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures o Linking Gestures (Towards And Away) o Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This. listen.

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These are the building blocks for good Language skills. These are the sorts of skills that are most workable when they are truly "wired in" to someone, so that they are able to be used automatically. To try to "remember" to do such things can be very difficult. That approach would make having a conversation far too difficult and too much work! The best way is to work with these techniques SO much that these truly are just a part of "how you talk". With enough practice, and hearing these enough, you CAN have these become a part of how. YOU talk! So listen, practice, do the exercises, do the assignments, and do that all again, until these really do become a part of you, and a part of how you speak.

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D8-T1 A key aspect of making these tools work is getting the conversation into topic areas that will really work for you. The language tools you studied earlier are best used in the proper context, and in this section, we will learn how to get the conversation into areas that will create that context. Have you had these problems? • You JUMP too quickly into a pattern or topic, and it sounds really strange? • You just THROW a pattern AT her, and get a weird reaction? When you use these tools, or even use "patterns", it's not enough to just "say it", there has to be the correct CONTEXT for what is said! It's a process that she needs to go on and through with you. It's not enough to just find a conversational excuse to "throw" a pattern (or language tool) AT her! This section is about finding ways to just get into an interesting conversation and then towards and onto good topics. We want this to seem natural, and with some understanding, practice, and a few key strategies and tactics it will BE natural and automatic! 4.1 4.1.1 CHALLENGES -a Detailed And Specific Plans Are Just Not Workable. D8-T3

It's good to theorize to "say this", and then "say that", and then to use "this pattern", and "that pattern". However, the problem is that a lot of time the proper context is not presented well enough. The examples you may have seen in other products are just that, examples. The problem is that too many guys have taken them literally! Guys try to do "X, Y, Z," exactly, in order, with no sense of calibration, or being able to work and re-direct things in real time. Therefore, detailed tactical plans are not realistic. 4.1.2 Navigation Example D8-T4

Think of moving a conversation to a certain point, like taking a trip somewhere. Say you are in Chicago, and want to go to Los Angeles. You could have a detailed map of every turn and road, exact route numbers and lengths, etc. The problem is... what do you do if there is a detour? What if the road is changed, what if the map is wrong? You are lost! What if, instead, we teach you how to drive the car, and give you a general set of directions like "keep driving west, until you see the ocean, then turn left (south)". That way, you can handle just about any turns, roads, or detours that you may encounter! Conversations are different from roads too, because people are all unique, situations, times, surroundings etc. are unique and change from moment to moment. Therefore, if you want to get a conversation to go a certain way, then detailed plans made ahead of time are hard to work with. There are too many variables! We need a workable set of strategies and tactics that allows you, in real-time, to direct things the way that you want them to go. They need to be easy to follow, and easy to use, and something that you don't need to "think about", but can just DO easily.
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So we need a general set of guidelines, some overall strategies and tactics, so that you can have this good, intuitive sense of how to "steer" things, and get conversations to where you want them to go. As long as you are engaging a woman's emotions, capturing & leading her imagination, then you are moving in the right direction. Then, in that situation and in that context, linking all the positive & powerful things to you becomes more workable. Instead of a map, we are giving you a "compass". We need a strategy for managing conversations that can to do this gradually, in a way that seems natural! If it's too abrupt or makes the conversation strained, it will sound weird. The strategy must LEAD the conversation towards good topics and subjects in a way that seems natural, and is not TOO abrupt. Examples: (Listen to the audio.) • Talking about a printer o Moving TOO quickly towards emotional topics o Can sound strange • Driving a car and taking a turn (Analogy) o Think of driving down freeway and needing to switch to different direction. o You can't make a hard, right angle turn on a dime! o You need to turn the car, slowly, on a ramp to go in a different direction. When we control conversions, we need to find a way to take it gradually in a new direction. Many guys try to do the hard and fast switch, and they crash in the process! We will learn to move things in a way that makes it seem natural, but it will be deliberate. 4.1.4 She Must Be Engaged In The Conversation! D8-T10

It's important to get conversations into the right area and have HER go along with you. Not just "bring it up" (a topic or pattern), but it must be natural and she must "go along" with it and be a PART of it. She must be actually THINKING about what you are discussing! It has to happen naturally. No weird jumps. It's not enough to just talk; she must BE a part of the conversation! So, don't just "jump" to a topic. Don't find an "excuse" to bring it up. Take the conversation there, take her WITH you, and have her be a part of it! What really helps is to have a genuine interest (or at least curiosity) in her and the conversation, not just thinking to yourself; "How can I use this?" 4.2 HOW CONVERSATIONS HAPPEN D8-T12

How does this really occur? We will break this down so that we have a way to really affect this process. 4.2.1 Conversational Dynamics D8-T13

How do conversations happen? Most of them occur somewhat randomly as the conversation flows from topic to topic over time, and can end up almost anywhere after a while. By the time YOU move from one topic to the next,
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you may end up in a very different place from where you began. However, there is a series of steps as things move forward, as shown in Figure 4.2.1-1.

Figure 4.2.1-1: Conversations Move Through Many Topics

Each of these steps between topics tends to be related. Topic 1 relates to Topic 2. Topic 2 relates to Topic 3, etc. For example, you can start to talk about Cars, and then move to one aspect of that topic, Car Seats. Then it's easy to move to some aspect of that topic, which maybe something that seats are made of, like Leather. Then maybe you talk about Leather Furniture, etc. (See Figure 4.2.1-2.)

Figure 4.2.1-2: Each Topic Flows To the Next Topic In most cases, each Topic is related to the one before.

After a series of such steps, you can be at a quite different topic (like an apartment that you used to live in) even though you started at a quite different topic (Cars). In most cases, it's very difficult to predict where a conversation will go after many of these steps. As you go through a few topic shifts (as shown in the diagrams), although each individual shift relates to the topic before and after that shift, after a series of shifts you can end up talking about almost anything! Therefore, even if you start the conversation at a great topic, you can get off-track and into topics that will not work in your favor. Conversely, what is needed is a way to start at almost any topic at all, and by steering that process (of moving from Topic 1, to Topic 2, Topic 3, etc) take the conversation into better and better topic areas that will serve your purposes. 4.2.2 Conversational Model D8-T14

We introduce a model to assist in discussion, understanding, and control of conversations. If you start at a topic, how do you go to another one? This process happens all of the time very easily. The key is that the movement from one topic to the next takes places easily because there are so many options involved. From any topic (Topic 1) it is easy to flow to any of 6-8 other, related topics (Topic 2 Candidates). People usually just "talk" and naturally the conversation moves from the first topic to the next one. Since the "next" topic is related, this process seems natural and is easy to do. In fact, you do this all the time without really knowing about it. (We are creating a model to describe a process that happens naturally, so that we can teach you a way to have an affect on that process). Figure 4.2.2-1 shows how from one topic, the conversation can flow easily to many related topics.

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Once the conversation moves to one of these eight topics, it's easy to move to one of eight more. For example if in Figure 4.2.2-1, the conversation flows from "Cars" to "Where you bought it" (as in, where you bought the car), then now we have a situation like that shown in Figure 4.2.2-2.

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Figure 4.2.2-2: From A Second Topic, Another Group of Candidates If "Cars" was discussed first, and then "Where you bought it" was discussed next, there are now many ways to go in the next step. In the figure, you see how the conversation moves from Cars, to "Where you bought it". After that, there are many "candidate" topics where the conversation can flow. Perhaps it moves to the "Part of town" where the car was purchased.

Now from the topic of "Where you bought it" (a car), there are easily eight places that you can go from there, shown as the "Topic 3 candidates". This process continues throughout a conversation. This process happens regardless of the specific topics being discussed. Conversations flow from topic to topic, as shown in a general manner in Figure 4.2.2-3.
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since it's so easy to go from any topic to 6-8 others.2-3: Topics Flow from One to the Next Each topic in a conversation can easily lead to 6-8 others. the Figures that have been shown so far only show a small portion of the total topics towards which a conversation can flow. and at each step after that. When this happens in succession. This results in easily over 500 topics that could be selected by the time we arrive at Topic 4! In only three shifts of the topic ("topic shifts" as shown in the figure) we end up with many many possibilities of where the conversation might end up. an so on. you can affect this process (and we will teach that to you). then talk about Y. you can have up to eight different ways to go at EACH step. when talking to some random person. there is no way to know exactly where it will end up by the time you have moved forward a few steps! Imagine trying to predict ahead-of-time exactly where you may arrive (among those 512 options).2-4 shows what happens when all the topics are considered. However. because there are SO many ways that things can go! Page 75 . If Topic 1 can lead to eight different candidates for Topic 2.2. then EACH of the eight different candidates for Topic 2 can then lead to their own eight.2. you can end up with the conversation going almost anywhere! Figure 4. Do you see why the pre-planned approaches can be difficult?! Even if you ARE able to have the conversation start from a specific place (Topic 1). In many ways. and the conversation flows along in this manner.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Topic 1 Topic 2 Topic 3 Topic 4 Figure 4. In general. With some skill and technique. the plans that many guys try to use to "Talk about X. then talk about Z" are very difficult to really work with.

it can flow from there. then after only three shifts in the topic. As seen in the diagram. Once Topic 2 has been discussed. and so on. It then can flow easily to maybe 6-8 others (the diagram shows fewer for the sake of clarity).2.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 1st Topic Shift 2nd Topic Shift 3rd Topic Shift Figure 4. Page 76 .2-5). a conversation may start from one topic or subject (Topic 1).2-4: Topic Candidates and Topic Shifts If each topic can flow to eight others. you can end up in over 500 different topic areas! We can create a general Conversation Model that shows this process (Figure 4.2.

Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Figure 4. that they become far too many to shown in the diagram. There are SO many ways it can flow. if you assume that from any topic you could go to any of 8 other topics. then for that diagram to be really accurate it would have to show over 30.3 Topic Turning Point D8-T15 The KEY concept the needs to be understood to gain the ability to manage conversations. is an awareness of this phenomenon that is called the "Topic Turning Point". This process of moving from the first topic to one of 6-8 relevant topics is the process of moving through a "Topic Turning Point" as shown in Figure 4. Page 77 . The diagram only shows a small fraction of them (so that the diagram is not even more cluttered than it already is!).000 different subjects or topics that could be discussed by the time you are at "Level 6" in the conversation!! 4.2. (The figure only shows a portion of how many subjects and topics can be reached).2-5: Conversation Model The "Tree of Subjects" showing how thousands of subjects can be reached in just a few steps of the conversation. If you are discussing one specific topic.2.3-1. In fact. it is quite easy to move from that onto 6-8 related topics.2.

3-1: The Topic Turning Point (TTP) When discussing any topic (First Topic) there are easily 6-8 different topics to which the conversation can be moved (Candidate Topics).3-2: How TTP Selections Effect the Conversation The selections made at each TTP are what actually "steer" the conversation in a certain direction. make a statement. A general way of looking at this process is shown in Figure 4. and throughout a conversation.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Candidate Topics Figure 4.2. Page 78 . Therefore.2. the overall flow of a conversation comes about due to many of these TTP choices being made. as long as the new topic is "related" to the first (this is shown in the diagram by the "candidates") then this change is easy to do. after one topic has been discussed for a short while. introduce an idea. Someone might make a comment. The key thing to realize is that this process of Topic Turning Point (TTP) selection occurs over and over. the conversation can then move to another topic. However.3-2 Topic Turning Points Figure 4. For example. the conversation "shifts" slightly. etc.2. ask a question.

. and the conversation tend to into one of four general areas. • Other people may do the opposite. to "route" conversations so that they end up being the kinds of conversations that YOU want to have.Those are just general examples. In a very broad sense. they Good Boring Bad Argument could be more specific (and we will get there). Look in the diagrams. That ability alone is enough for our purposes. • Other people able to direct conversations based on their own beliefs and their own political motivations as well.3. is coming soon. No matter WHAT you talk to them about. conversations are one of four types: • • • • Fun.1 GENERAL CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Want. choices are made moment to moment. they somehow see it in terms how in effects their beliefs.. These people are able to automatically make TTP choices based on a strategy of finding good.) then you CAN direct how a conversation flows. and they quick steer the conversation in that manner. These types of people are making TTP selections based on a strategy of finding things that are negative to talk about.) Page 79 . Sometimes this can be VERY apparent. D8-T16 D8-T16 So how can you actually affect the flow of a conversation... The flow of the conversation starts. positive. we want the conversation to be positive. interesting Mundane and uninteresting Negative. positive aspects of every topic being discussed.. no one is "deciding" the TTPs. Many people do this "TTP selection" process automatically. we want to first start to steer things in the best general manner. depressing Confrontational . and interesting. positive way to look at anything. isn't it? In general. This selection just "happens". and imagine if you had a general way to manipulate these TTPs. but you will have some control over the overall direction. you can direct where the overall conversation goes. By manipulating TTPs from moment to moment. So to start our process of learning how to manage conversations. fun.. with some awareness of this process. However. very quickly. For example: • Maybe someone always finds a fun.3 4. IMPORTANT: The overall direction of a conversation comes about due to a successive selection of TTPs. • Other people direct conversations based upon their own moral or religious values. conversations tend to go in one of several ways. Can you see how you may be able to affect where a conversation goes? You might not be able to predict EXACTLY where it ends up. fun. and that work in YOUR favor.1-1. moment-to-moment. we are going to later teach you a way to be able to make these TTP selections. and do so in a way that sounds VERY natural. 4. As you have probably guessed by now. no matter WHAT is discussed. fun. (See Figure 4.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Normally. they find a way to point out something negative. easily and naturally? That IS the point. The overall strategy at the beginning is then to "talk about positive. interesting things".3. and some training (which .

If you break that down into 4 main directions. Figure 4. you see that you want to focus the conversation onto topics that are "Fun. Positive. so from the earliest stages. No matter what is brought up. How do you do that? • • • Show interest when someone discusses positive. you can still "steer" back towards "Fun. Positive.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course General Conversational Management Conversations tend to flow in one of four major ways. and Interesting topics and subjects. Page 80 . interesting things. Strategic Formula for General Conversational Management To steer the conversation in a good direction. positive and interesting.3. and Interesting". steer towards Fun. Even if things move towards other areas.1-1: General Conversational Management Consider all of the ways a conversation can go. Positive. fun. fun. Don't engage in conversations when it's NOT about positive. Introduce topics that are fun. interesting things. interesting things. fun. and Interesting" things. do what you can to steer in that direction. bring up positive.

3. • Etc. Repeat.. Which Of these are Fun. Page 81 .Where can I go that is "fun. You then think of several ways you can go (the related topics. and interesting?" Move the conversation in that direction. the TTP.The overall direction of a conversation comes about due to a successive selection of TTPs. you can always think of 6-8 other related topics or subjects. as we discussed earlier.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4. as long as it moves things in a way that answers the question "Where can I go that is fun. and interesting" (See Figure 4. positive. and then steer things in the correct direction.2 How To Steer Conversations. Moment To Moment D8-T19 Look at the overall flow of a conversation and break it down to its smallest point that we can affect. and then you move things in that direction! Remember . and interesting" and just move things in that direction.. Positive. positive. and Interesting? That is the direction to go! Candidate Topics Figure 4. positive. positive. For any subject.2-1. Positive. . you can direct where the overall conversation goes. or something you read. the topic "candidates" that were shown earlier). So you just think to yourself "Where can I go that is fan. TTP Mantra .2-1: Topic Turning Point Navigation for General Conversational Management No matter what subject you start talking about. you make note of where you are in the conversation. By manipulating TTPs from moment to moment.) Tactical Formula for General Conversational Management Keep thinking ."Where can I go that is fun. move things towards the related topics that are "Fun. You think of the "candidates" (the related topics or subjects that you can discuss) that serve you at the time. and Interesting".3. and interesting"? Moment-to-moment.3. How do you move things in that direction? You can: • Ask a question • Make a comment • Make a joke • Quote someone you heard. TTP options.

just keep thinking about where you can go that is "Fun.3. you can work more towards certain topic areas. you get to an overall "area" that will work. Positive. 4.3.3. but in the early part of the conversation.) Keep things moving in the direction of Fun.3.. and Interesting".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Later in the conversation. and interesting".3-2.). "fun. positive. Page 82 . You are steering things towards the direction that you want the conversation to go.. the most important thing to do is to focus on moving thing in a direction that is . Positive.3-1. and Interesting! Figure 4. (See Figure 4.3-1: Moving Through Topics Using General Conversational Management Early in a conversation.3 The Model With Strategy And Tactics In Place D8-T23 As you make TTP choice after TTP choice (See Figure 4. Do this for a while.

4. maybe that person is not someone that you want to talk to anyway). At some particular moment early in the conversation.3-2: General Conversational Management Model The most important direction to go. or where you are. especially early in a conversation. and Interesting!/ Figure 4. what was the main topic? Topics Page 83 . keep steering in the right direction and in many cases you WILL get towards the right area soon enough (and if not. and write down the topic for each. Positive. always move towards topics and subjects that are Fun. Even if you temporarily move away from that direction or end up in an area that is not very positive or interesting.4 Exercises and Assignments D8-T25 Exercises for General Conversational Management 1) Think of some conversations that you have been in recently. is towards Fun. Positive. and Interesting topics and subjects.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course General Conversational Mgt Model No matter where you start.3.3.

directions you could "take" the conversation (these are the TTP Options. things you could comment on. Write each of those down. For each of those Topics. Topic TTP Options (Candidate Topics') Page 84 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 2) Based on each of those topics. list 6-8 different ways you could go. ask about. or Candidate Topics). consider it a topic that leads to a TTP (copy each item above into the "Topic" area below).

5) Practice again on each by moving things in the direction of the second item that was circled.. Positive.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Of the 6-8 different TTP Options you have written above for each Topic. 4) For each Topic. making a statement. etc. what would it have been like to have moved the conversation in the direction of the first item you circled? Practice that out loud for each Topic above. asking a question. maybe by making a comment. and Interesting")? Select two "candidates" and circle or highlight those two. whatever it might take to move things in that direction. Page 85 . which are the best? Which of these would move the conversation in a way that is best for you (think of "Fun.

3. we want things to get even more Page 86 . the conversation becomes more enjoyable for everyone. we can start to direct the conversation into an even BETTER area. thinking "what COULD I have done. Building on what we learned in the last section.Is that the sort of person you want to talk to and spend time with? Maybe not. By manipulating TTPs from moment to moment. Interesting. Just do what you can so that the TTP shifts in a direction that is fun. Do this for a while until the process of finding 1 or 2 good "Ways to go" in a conversation (good TTP options) can happen very rapidly for you. we are turning you into someone that people LIKE to talk to! You know the type of person that people enjoy talking to. and spending time with? The type of guy that people seek out to spend time with? The more you do these types of exercises. whatever it takes. We want to focus the aim of our conversational management skills even more. inquire about something. At any moment you should be able to think "Where can I go with this?". don't worry. having conversations with. they will not go down a path of having a fun. maybe offer an opinion. Instead of the more general area of fun. Make it so that it becomes easy for you to come up with a list of "options" very quickly. where COULD I have taken things". In general. the imagination moving. etc.5 Summary D8-T32 Remember what was said earlier: • The overall direction of a conversation comes about due to a successive selection of TTPs (which normally occur at random.4. really be aware of the TTP opportunities in your day-to-day life. the more YOU can and will become that guy! 4. Positive. Maybe start out by looking at conversation after the fact. you can direct where the overall conversation goes. we want it to be really interesting." 4. D8-T33 D8-T33 We want the conversation to be more than just positive. we want to work with topics that get the emotions involved. If this is a challenge for you. You then have to wonder . you may have to think of 6-8 options. but the REAL key is to at least get to the point where you can very quickly think of at least 1 or 2 ways to go that are Fun. interesting. 2) Now that you are able to quickly find 1 or 2 good TTP options. make a comment. fascinating. positive. and positive conversation.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Assignments for General Conversational Management 1) For the next week or so. • By moving things in this way. that no matter WHAT you do with some people. It WILL get easier. At first. and people REALLY interested. engaging. You may start to find however. positive and interesting topics. start to take the conversation there! Ask a question. When talking to anyone. even at the start of a conversation.1 ADVANCED CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Really Want. interesting. or without an overall strategy in mind). look for moments where things can be "steered" in a certain way. After a while.4 4.

Now from that point. So.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course interesting. With that as a general strategy. Strategic Formula for Advanced Conversational Management To direct the conversation into even BETTER areas.1-1: Advanced Conversational Management Focuses the Steering From the start of a conversation. there are many ways the conversation can move.4. there were 4 main directions towards which a conversation may go. we now shift our strategy of "steering" things to direct the topics in a more focused manner using Advanced Conversational Management. Interesting area. we were able to move things in the direction of Fun. We use our strategy of working with the TTPs.) General Conversational Management takes the conversation into the Fun. We move forward and want to get a more emotional tone. From there. you move it in ways that engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way. steer the conversation towards directions that engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way. there are many ways to go.1-1. and Interesting.4. So we narrow our focus. Positive. Positive. to "steer" things even more towards what we want. how do we work that in what we are doing moment-to-moment? How can we do things that will make that happen? Page 87 . Using General Conversational Management. more excitement. (See Figure 4. and steer using Advanced Conversational Management Figure 4. To move the conversation into more interesting areas. and more involvement of the imagination.

Positive. and explain a bit more as to its meaning and interpretation.4.4. but now think "where can I go that will engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way".Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Move the conversation in that direction. we look at the concept of the TTP. we shift the focus of how we navigate TTPs. and Interesting" area. we need to use the TTP as a way to move things in the right direction. Interesting Topics Which of these "Engage the Emotions and imagination in a Positive Way"? That is the direction to go! Candidate Topics Figure 4.4. Repeat.4.) TTP Mantra " Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Tactical Formula for Advanced Conversational Management Keep thinking . and with that strategy in mind.3 The Model With Advanced Strategy And Tactics In Place D8-T38 (Before we move on to looking at the model.2-1: Topic Turning Point Navigation for Advanced Conversational Management After using General Conversational Management for a while. See Figure 4. With that established.4. Positive. we can assume that we are talking about subjects which fit into the "Fun.) Page 88 .2 Steering Conversations Moment To Moment using Advanced Conversational Management D8-T35 Again. 4. we need to change the way the model is shown. TTP Fun.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4.3-1 for an explanation.2-1. (See Figure 4.

so that the various stages of a conversation can be easily illustrated. the graphics we will use will show an even more "condensed" version of this process. (2). Positive.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Understanding the Conversational Management Model The model attempts to show a process that has many many steps.) the conversation moves on for a while. etc. where every "step" (TTP. but a way to show a "trend". or thirty. not an exact number of steps or outcomes. But after using the general techniques (Fun. For example. these diagrams will indicate a VERY condensed version of the number of steps involved. with thousands upon thousands of possible possible routes and outcomes. It may happen in ten minutes.3-1: Understanding the Conversational Management Model The "levels" shown in the models are not meant to be exact. once again ending up with thousands of topics that could be discussed by the time you get through more topic shifts (3). This can result in so many possibilities (many thousands within a few steps) that it's important to look at these diagrams as a way to show "trend". At that point. we are not showing that there are exactly "four steps" between points (1) and (2).4. it may take ten. The locations of points (1). For example. and (3) in the figure above (and in the next figure) helps to show this. When starting from ANY topic (1) to a place where you are firmly established for a period of time in a Fun. In practice. Figure 4. From now on in the course. and it ends up at a certain area (2). the model above is what we used to show a starting point (1). and Interesting conversation (2) may take four steps. Page 89 . there can be a whole "tree" of possibilities leading from there. Positive. or topic shift) shown on the digram may represent many steps in an actual conversation.

until it is firmly established that the conversation has engaged the emotions and imagination of the participant. 10.4. General Conversational Management techniques are used. and states. and then Advanced Conversational Management. only a few of which are shown in the diagram. you can see how General Conversational Management. to yourself! Advanced Conversational Management Model Figure 4. 20. Now the emphasis is on ways to "Engage the Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way". Page 90 .3-2: Advanced Conversational Management Model Early in the conversation. After that has been established. This is shown between points (2) and (3). Then a shift is made towards focusing the conversation even more using Advanced Conversational Management. This is shown from point (1) to point (2) in the diagram. or however long it takes to be firmly established in a Fun. Positive.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course We started at one topic.4. you end up linking and associating many fascinating. feelings. subjects. 10 topic shifts. are used together to move forward in a conversation. For a while. exciting. emotional topics. we now focus more on moving in a direction that will "Engage the Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way". If you follow these two simple strategies together (and the tactical approach of simply watching the TTPs and moving things in the right way). the conversation will get more and more of an "emotional" tone to it. if you use the language tools which we learned about earlier in the course. The subjects will get more and more fascinating. This too can take any number of steps. and could be at any of thousands of topics after 6. in practice it may be good to follow a series of topics for 5. If you refer to Figure 4. or 30 minutes. the conversation will get better and better. and Interesting conversation (2). As time goes on. And of course while doing that. 8. we focused the conversation towards moving things in a direction that is "Fun Positive and Interesting.3-2. This also is followed for a series of steps and a period of time. Although the diagram shows only 2 steps (for simplicity).

For each of those Topics. Topic a. At some particular moment in that conversation. These should be conversations where it is already obvious that it is a fun. and write down the topic for each. things you could comment on.4 Exercises and Assignments D8-T39 Exercises for Advanced Conversational Management 1) Think of some conversations that you have been in recently.4. and interesting conversation. consider it a topic that leads to a TTP (copy each above into the "Topic" areas below). Write each of those down. list 6-8 different ways you could go. TTP Options (Candidate Topics') Page 91 . directions you could "take" the conversation (these are the TTP Options. positive. what was the main topic? Topics 2) Based on each of those topics.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4. or Candidate Topics). ask about.

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Assignments for Advanced Conversational Management 1) For the next week or so. don't worry. 4) For each Topic. but be especially aware of wanting to move things to "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". we focus further on the TTP options! Page 93 . etc. 2) Now that you are able to quickly find 1 or 2 good TTP options for yourself that "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". So. until the process of finding 1 or 2 ways to go that "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way" in a conversation can happen very rapidly for you. and interesting. we are "steering" things more and more in a direction that we wish to go. inquire about something. once again. positive. If this is a challenge for you. start to take the conversation there! Ask a question. what next? At some point in the conversation. So. make a comment. 4. 5) Practice again on each by moving things in the direction of the second item that was circled.1 Summary MORE ADVANCED CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT More About Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Really Want. Do this for a while. It WILL get easier. we want to steer things more towards romantic.. but the REAL key is to at least get to the point where you can very quickly think of at least 1 or 2 ways to go that "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". even things with some degree of sensual connotation to them. D8-T46 D8-T47 D8-T47 As you can see.. making a statement.. really be aware of the TTP opportunities in your day-to-day life. maybe offer an opinion. At first. seductive things. whatever it takes. asking a question.5. where COULD I have taken things". Maybe start out by looking at conversation after the fact. fascinating. maybe by making a comment. whatever it might take to move things in that direction. This is best when applied to a conversation that is ALREADY fun. you may have to think of 6-8 options.5 4. what would it have been like to have moved the conversation in the direction of the first item you circled? Practice that out loud for each Topic above.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Of the 6-8 different TTP Options you have written above for each Topic.5 4. which 1 or 2 would tend to "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way"? Which ones move things in a way that is best for you? Select two "candidates" and circle or highlight these two. Just do what you can so that the TTP shifts in a direction that can "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". thinking "what COULD I have done.4.

5.3-1. The focus now is upon topics that get you closer towards Romantic. you will have taken things in the right direction and this will be much easier. 4. and focusing more and more towards areas and topics that work. fascinating. if you have been in a conversation for a while. Fascinating.) "Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Strategic Formula for More Advanced Conversational Management To further direct the conversation into even BETTER areas. and then topics that engage the emotions and imagination.2 Steering Conversations Using More Advanced Conversational Management D8-T49 TTP Mantra (See Figure 4. then the focus shifts again towards directing things in a specific way. Moving towards romantic.5. However. and associating YOU with them! (See Figure 4. steer the conversation towards romantic.) Page 94 . seductive things?" Move the conversation in that direction. fascinating. This gets her mind into thinking more and more about these things. fascinating.2-1: Topic Turning Point Navigation for More Advanced Conversational Management After using General and Advanced Conversational Management. and followed the other strategies and tactics shown earlier. Seductive things Tactical Formula for More Advanced Conversational Management Keep thinking . positive and interesting thing. 4. and seductive things. Repeat. seductive things is much easier after you have first move towards fun. This may seem odd or hard to do.5. fascinating.5.3 The Model With More Advanced Strategy And Tactics In Place D8-T52 We are just closing in. seductive things?" Figure 4.2-1.5."Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic.

there is a different focus at each stage. Early on. Then the Advanced Conversational Management Techniques place the focus more upon items that involve the Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way.3-1: More Advanced Conversational Management Model As the conversation progresses. Fascinating.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course More Advanced Conversational Management Model Figure 4. After that type of conversation has been established (3). General Conversational Management techniques place the focus on selecting items that are Fun. and Interesting. which targets topics and subjects that are Romantic.5. moving to point (4) Page 95 . shown from point (1) to (2).. and Seductive. Positive. moving to point (3). the focus moves towards selecting items based on More Advanced Conversational Management.

Too many guys are too caught up in this one-shot dream of traveling once across the model and getting an amazing result.MAGIC! However that is NOT the way it works in the real world. then a sensual one.6.6. and then . 4.) The Dream that Does Not Happen! Figure 4. This hardly ever ever happens.6. the way it really DOES happen. and get things to be more and more fascinating and exciting. to a positive one. Moreover. Page 96 . will work in your favor.1-1. that they will get an AMAZING reaction in their first movement across the Model.1 The 1-Shot Beeline Fallacy D9-T2 Guys assume that they will travel from a general topic. (See Figure 4.6 CONVERSATIONAL FRACTIONATION D9-T1 Using these Conversational Management skills in the real world may be quite different in practice from the way most guys "think" it will happen.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4. and then an emotional one.1-1: The Dream of a 1-Shot Path To Success! A common misperception is that many guys think that if they can just move a conversation from the start.

Maybe you start from a very general topic and get all the way through the model towards a very very fascinating topic or subject. Then you "back up" to some extent (even all the way back to a very general topic area) and then move forward across the model again. Use the language tools. Of if you can't seem to get to a good place. This actually works better! We are actually using Fractionation. In this way. Maybe you move all the way back to a very "normal" topic (which would be all the way on the left side of the model). the conversation ends up being very interesting and fascinating! 4. g) Do the whole process over and over.. No problem.6. Have fun.6. using the Conversational Management techniques Get as far through the model as you can... Just start the process again. You just start the process again. and then . Great! Talk about that for a while.) a) b) c) d) Page 97 . restarts. or maybe the conversation shifts back to that place due to something she says.31. You might do that on your own. Start at any topic (you are on the far left side of the Model) Move forward towards the right.. (See Figure 4. etc. So. No problem.. no matter how the conversation jumps around. move on to the next step. This is where a process is done repeatedly over and over. This actually ADDS to the power and effectiveness of what you are doing.2 How Fractionation Works D9-T3 The real world has stops. So. emotional and imaginative topics. You back up to a more general topic. here is how this works. stay there and talk about it for a while. and fascinating and seductive topics. no matter where you start.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4. If you get to a very good place. goes for some distance through the model (maybe all the way through)... you may jump back just several steps in our Conversational Management Process.. Then at some point. Because no matter where you start from.3 Using Conversational Fractionation D9-T5 Start at some normal topic and move through the model towards the right. you take a conversation from the early stages through the process. you go back towards something more "normal". and then at some point. moving through the model towards the right. When we say "go back".. The conversation starts. starts. Maybe several times. e) Then move back (towards the left side of the model) This may happen because: • The person you are talking to does that (she asks a question) • Or maybe you do it (just to lighten things up) f) Then start again. And again.6. you back off.. you are always moving towards positive topics.

that no matter WHAT you talk about. interesting.6. simply back up (3) and then try moving into a better direction (4).3-1: How Conversation Fractionation Works on the Model Follow the conversation as it moves from (1) to (12). You become one of those fascinating guys. over time. it's not a bad idea to back up a bit (9) and then move forward again. As things move forward from (1). there is a continued movement up and into better and better areas of conversation. at times maybe they move towards an area that is not too good (2). Fractionation happens at times because even when you may be at a fairly good place for a while (8). The overall trend is that. and fascinating! 4.6.4 Dead Ends Come Back To Life! D9-T6 With this new strategy of using Conversational Fractionation.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Conversational Fractionation at Work Figure 4. This is not a problem. it ends up being fun. there is no such thing as a conversational "Dead End"! Page 98 . As time goes on (5-12) the conversation gets into better and better areas.

or what you both have in common Move forward with the Strategies and Tactics in mind.1 • Conversational Management Approach Start on just about ANY subject.. Where can I go that is fun.. and interesting? Move things in that direction. —* The entire time: o If you hit a "dead end". Just back up. and the person becomes interested and fascinated. Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. with you! 4. or maybe negative. you just back up. Do that for a while and then think .. you might have just found out that they are NOT someone you want to spend time with! That's not a total loss because you STILL learned more. this can happen. • What if you can't make the conversation positive? • What if she always points out the negative aspect? • What if there is NO emotional engagement at ALL? Well.7. and use the Strategy and Tactics of the Conversational Management techniques! Look at "Dead Ends" as being just like a bad turn on a road. and go down another path! 4.7 CONVERSATIONAL OVERVIEW AND REVIEW D9-T7 So. etc. have more material to use in conversations in the future! 4. Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Move things in that direction.. positive. back up a few steps. o Comment on what is around o Mention common items.. uninteresting.7. how do we pull this together? 4.2 What If The Outcome Is Not What You Expected? D9-T9 Despite your best efforts.. (think of your TTP options). stay there for a while. use the language tools.. No problem. fascinating.. When on good topics. seductive things? Move things in that direction. Do that for a while and then think . talked more. use the language tools as much as possible! D9-T8 • • • • • • • • • Keep moving the conversation into these interesting fascinating areas .3 Summary D9-T10 Go have fun with these tools! Page 99 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course If you happen to take a "wrong turn" somehow and get into an area of discussion that is boring. and get the effect.. o If you get to a good subject or topic.7.

1 Themes are a way through a discussion or through the "tree of subjects" that we showed earlier. The more experience you get. Can you talk passionately about something? Anything? Hopefully. Most men may not be very familiar with many of the topics that we REALLY want to get into. especially as they get more interesting. the more familiar you will be with these topics. so that YOU have some material. the easier it will get.". go ahead and practice! (Or maybe do that the next time you go through the course. and it's even better if you are passionate about those topics. Talking about these topics may be a challenge for many men. and while talking about subjects and topics that YOU are really passionate about. fun. and then the more "material" you will have. and that statement (regarding having actually talked to someone about the topics) will be TRUE! So.great! It's easier to use the language tools if you are discussing topics with which you are familiar. then you may want to go back in those earlier sections. fascinating.0 TOPICS D9-T11 What do you talk about? As the conversation gets more interesting. and closer towards the subjects that will really serve your intent. we have talked about managing conversations. What do you talk about? There is no substitute for experience. Themes vs.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 5. what can we do here in this course to help you? We have talked about the way to talk and use language. In the meantime. Now we want you to become familiar with topics that will really work well for you! We are going to work with some of these topics. TOPICS OF ENTHUSIASM AND PASSION D9-T14 What are you passionate about? Few things are more compelling in a person than for them to be passionate about something (hopefully many things) in life.) Before you can use the language tools with new subjects that you are learning about. if using those language tools is problem for you. this is something we can and will work on with you. to get the best effect you will have to be a PART of that conversation and familiar with the topics that may come up. You will be able to say things like "I was talking to someone about this the other day. you should be able to use them with subjects in which you are already interested! Page 101 . yes! How well can you talk about topics that YOU are passionate about while using many of the language tools we talked about in the earlier parts of the course? If you can do that very well . You want to be able to discuss these topics easily. fascinating. and some familiarity with this type of thing. and THEY said. some practice. However. Topics • • 5. However. the more you talk to people about such things... A topic is a particular area of discussion that is taking place in a moment.

Your point is to get to.just TALKING about these can create a good effect. at least. These are called "Seduction Oriented Topics". Seduction Oriented Topics (SOTs) . but doing so while using the language tools. judge for yourself. or near. How good are you at the earlier sections that dealt with the language tools? It may be a good idea to go back over those sections. or cleaning the toilet. The conversational management sections will help you to move the conversation in a way that will get you near these topics areas.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course So. but a good number of them. You want to be able to discuss topics that deal on some level with Seduction.2 SEDUCTION ORIENTED TOPICS D9-T15 In the context of this course (and your intent in talking with ..Topics that bring up images and thoughts that are romantic. or topics that are very close to that concept. etc.. a topic that is an SOT. and emphasize discussing topics in which YOU are interested and passionate about. SOTs are the "end goals" when it comes to managing or directing a conversation. or the office.. Topics that access emotions. 5. or sports.) Page 102 .. and seductive. excitement. but how effective are those as subjects given the "purpose" of the discussion? You want to discuss topics and things which deal with seduction. in the right way Use the language tools! You want to be familiar with these topics (SOTs) and able to discuss them easily: maybe not ALL of them. You may talk about cars. can create an AMAZING effect! When you do get a conversation into an area near an SOT. stay there as long as you can! Talk about it. someone) some topics are easier to work with than others.. work it. or. and link it to you! When • • • • • you are at or near an SOT: Use the correct tone of Voice Pace and Lead correctly Link things to you Point at the right times. (Every guy has his favorites and ones that work best for him. sensual. feelings.. Examples of SOTs • Connections • Going for it • Making good decisions • Surrendering to feelings • Getting excited • Feeling excited • Trusting your judgment • Taking chances • Indulgence • Maturity • Good decisions • . in some ways.

Don't worry about talking to women. have stories about them. read. you will be able to just "talk" about the subject while using the tools that are available. You can use some of those that were listed earlier if you wish.. or ask questions. keep it there. and while there. ask about them. or overhear from others) and listen for when any of these SOTs come up in conversation.. Think about other topics you have heard mentioned in this program. Eventually. or joke about them. or even watched in a movie! (Or heard in a course that you took .. easily. the easier it will get! Strategic Formula for Seduction Oriented Topics SOTs are topics that.Are you able to somehow relate to these in your own life? Maybe something you read or heard? Maybe questions you can ask? ANYTHING?!?!? You do not need to "know" a lot about these topics or be an expert. Write down your list of SOTs. or anything like that. the more you practice using the tools. and the more you talk to and with people about them. Or are taking!) . use as many of the language tools as you can. Think of SOME way to discuss these. and discuss these subjects. the more you work with the materials. Or. or comment on them! Talk aloud for several minutes about each. Page 103 . using as many of the language tools as you can. or in movies. and without "thinking" about the language tools. or on TV. Assignments for Seduction Oriented Topics 1) Pay attention to conversations in your life (even things you hear on the radio. you JUST need to be able to talk. Meaning. bring up images and thoughts that may work for you. and hopefully add some of your own. talk about something you heard. but the more you think about them. Exercises for Seduction Oriented Topics 1) Build your own list of SOTs.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course These topics may seem foreign to you. the more you practice. 3) Practice talking about each aloud. and also topics that you have heard in other materials and products that you have. the easier it will be to "riff" on these using the language tools. hopefully some way that involves you and your own life. by there very nature. Get the conversation there. or seduction per se. Seduction Oriented Topics 2) You must become familiar with these! You must be able to talk about them.

anything at all! Talk. That gives YOU more familiarity with discussing them. The more you hear. We learned how you can move from any topic. ask what something means. Page 104 . and start to get your brain working on them. it gets easier to enter into more conversations that deal with these topics.SOTXs D9-T24 What if you had not just 10 ways of discussing "Seduction Oriented" subjects. but had even more? Maybe 50? What if that was easy and familiar for you? Think back to how we looked at topics earlier. They did it. It may start a bit slowly and awkwardly. then the more material YOU will have to talk about.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Listen to what is being said. SOT Summary I KNOW that these topics may seem foreign to you. or even when anything CLOSE to one of your SOTs is discussed. You start to listen and take notice of when these are discussed. after having worked with hundreds of guys. Make special note of topics that are CLOSE or similar to these SOTs in some way. You do a few exercises to talk about them. However. this process must start somewhere. or even just TRY to do so. However. 2) Now . Use as many of the language tools as you can. That's what we want to do here. Then you get to hear MORE people talk about them. See? We are working on a process to get you to become more comfortable and familiar with these things. but this time with SOTs. what people think. They started and became more and more familiar with these topics. show interest. Many guys who can now talk about these things VERY easily and comfortably started from a place of having NO idea of what to say! They changed. quote. I can tell you that it DOES get easier and easier to be able to talk about these things. These are called Expanded SOTs (SOTXs).. what is said. Because of that. discuss. You listen more to when they are discussed.Talk about these subjects and topics! Make a point to enter into a discussion when one of your SOTs is mentioned. and easily come up with 6-8 related topics. and frankly. Really! Learning to discuss such things may start out slowly."). ask an opinion. ask. etc. and move through these exercises and assignments.. "the other day I heard someone talking about. 5. That is understandable. That makes you really think about them. And that gives you MORE material to talk about! Which make it easier for you to enter into more conversations about these subjects and topics. it WILL get easier. this is one of the key challenges that many guys face. Maybe ask some questions about things that deal with your SOTs.3 EXPANDED SEDUCTION ORIENTED TOPICS . but as long as you start it. the more you listen. and makes it easier for you to talk about them. but we are walking you through (at least the first steps of) the process to make this easier: • • • • • • • • • • • You have made a list of SOTs. make a comment.. (As in. So can you.

pets. For any given SOT.with a girlfriend ..with coworkers . Instead of worrying about getting to that one topic (SOT) in a certain way. the SOTX list consists of all of these items shown in the diagram and listed below.with someone you just met . comes up in a conversation. see Figure 5. . coworkers.with pets .. and build a whole list of very similar things to talk about -which are SOTXs! For example. how easy would it be to talk about how you CONNECT with those? And if you talk about Page 105 . etc.. Then.with your teammates Figure 5..with music .. it's easy to think of several different aspects of that topic or related topics. However as we see here. you can take any SOT. there are many different types or examples of connecting to people. (Does that diagram look familiar?) If "Connections" is an SOT.... They think of only one way of talking about that subject.with family .... and things that can be discussed.. you can talk about that for while.. That is one subject..3-1: How SOTs are related to an SOTXs.. Look at the list above. how we discussed a Topic Turning Point?) If Connections is a particular subject. SOT Connections SOTX Connections with family Connections with friends Connections with coworkers Connections with pets Connections with a girlfriend Connections with someone you just met Connections with someone while on vacation Connections with music Connections with your teammates Many guys worry about talking about something like "Connections". can you think of different aspects of that? Parts of Connections? Questions about Connections? Ways of experiencing Connections? People or things with which you can experience Connections? By asking those types of questions (to yourself). if friends.. but can you think of 6-8 different aspects of this? (Remember what we did in the earlier sections.with friends . or only one aspect of that to discuss (connections in a romantic or sensual context). That just makes it easier for our example below). family.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Expanding on a Topic Area "Connections" is an SOT. you now have 6-8 ways to discuss it..3-1.with someone while on vacation . places. (You do not really need to list "connections with" for each.

If you talk about that for a while. you can be as close as one step away from an SOT. then you can shift to talking about "how you can connect with a pet" fairly easily. how to connect with people. This is your SOTX list. Just make a comment.3-2.. b. ask a question. it's very easy to then shift.) and for each SOT. if someone is talking about pets. or how that topic can be experienced.. or a special person.3-2: SOTXs Can Lead Into SOTs If any of the topics in the SOTX list comes up in conversation. point out an example regarding pets.to . c. that you just met! When you expand SOTs in this way.. etc. or maybe even someone.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course THAT (how you connect in that manner) for a while.. all of a sudden there are many MORE ways to get to these really GREAT topics! Exercises f o r Expanded Seduction Oriented T o p i c s 1) Take the SOT list you had earlier (copy those down into the first column below. (Yes. you are to list 5 (at least) related topics... or different aspects of that topic. a. SOTs " SOTXs List Page 106 .) Family Friends Coworkers Pets Connections A girlfriend Someone you just met Someone met on vacation Music Teammates Figure 5. then you can shift towards ANOTHER type of "connection" very easily! (See Figure 5. and how you (or someone else) can connect with a pet. this is a TTP diagram in reverse!) For example.

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You have 50 SOTXs that you are now familiar with as well. then about connecting with pets. That gives you a LOT of flexibility in conversations! Page 108 . Step back and look at what you have done! You have 10 SOTs with which YOU are familiar. practice talking about it out loud. but now do so while using the language tools. and see if you can then focus what you are saying towards the SOT itself.) 3) Do the same thing again. then about connecting in general. Talk about that SOTX for a moment or two. (Like the earlier example.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 2) Now for each SOTX. you talk about pets.

with family .with music . In addition. the easier it will be to notice SOTXs. However. if you hear any of them mentioned... See if you can move the conversation a bit towards the SOT itself... Page 109 . you know that you are very close to getting near a subject area that will work very well for you. that process can work both ways. SOTXs are now like "conversational landmarks" for you in terms of navigating a conversation. modeled the process arid the steps involved. "I didn't list that SOTX.. especially politicians and activists.. and move the conversation towards SOTs. Maybe you will even start to notice SOTXs that were not even ON your list. spotting these opportunities get easier and easier. The techniques that you have learned are the sort of things that many people do naturally.. concept of "topics related to a topic" in many many places.. The more you work with this.4-1: SOTXs Are The Pathways To SOTs SOTXs are an easy way to get towards SOTs. use such techniques a LOT..4-1. . You may think.. You will start to notice this. Good speakers.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Assignments for Expanded Seduction Oriented Topics 1) Look at all of your SOTXs! That's a LOT of subjects! Pay attention in your life to see how often any of those items come up in conversation (or maybe you just hear them somewhere). We have broken these down.4 CONVERSATIONAL MODEL WITH SOTXs. D9-T32 We discussed how to develop an SOTX list from an SOT.. The more familiar you are with these subjects. ..with a girlfriend .with pets Connections .with friends . but it IS related to an SOT that I have worked with".. it is easy to then move the conversation towards topics that will work better for you (SOTs). or anything like them mentioned.... it's about getting YOU comfortable and familiar with these topics. If anything like an SOTX comes up in a conversation.with your teammates Family Friends Coworkers Pets A girlfriend Someone you just met Someone met on vacation Music Teammates Connections This is how we developed SOTXs This is the most useful way of thinking of SOTXs Figure 5. Summary You now have MORE material to work with than you ever thought possible! This is not about memorizing. use the language tools if and whenever you can. broke it into bits and pieces that you can learn and do as exercises. and then built upon that step by step..with someone while on vacation .with coworkers . 5.with someone you just met . The real usefulness of this is when you reverse the order as shown in Figure 5. It ALL gets easier! 2) Start to "direct" the conversations you encounter where your SOTXs are mentioned..

If you have followed the program.the number that YOU have actually worked with so far! Since SOTXs and SOTs are the "goals" in terms of managing a conversation. SOTXs SOTs Figure 5. or the SOTXs.4-2. you have practiced with so many of these SOTXs. and anything like an SOTX comes up in the discussion. The point here (again) is not to memorize the SOTs. you will get closer and closer to SOTXs.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course So whenever you are having a conversation. and done the exercises and assignments. to be able to notice when you are talking about things which are "close to" topics that will work well for you. and for you to just start to "recognize" these things on your own .without "thinking" about them. Page 110 .4-2: Your Multiple Pathways to SOTs! Now that you have worked with 10 SOTs. After all. In many of the diagrams. Figure 5. that this process will now be easier than you may have imagined. It's to have you practice and become familiar with them.4-3 shows this in the model itself. However in the figure above. and 50 SOTXs (in the earlier exercises) you now have many many SOTXs with which YOU are familiar! More importantly. this will start to happen for you. As the topics get better and better. we have had to compress or simplify them quite a bit and show only a fraction of the actual steps and numbers involved so that the diagrams do not become too large or complex. and then towards SOTs.. that is not an abbreviation or exaggeration. there are really 50 SOTXs and 10 SOTs shown . we can then show them as part of our Conversational Model. you now see how easy it can be to move over to an SOT! In fact. you have already worked with 10 SOTs and 50 SOTXs as shown in Figure 5. you have started to train yourself to "recognize" these landmarks.

When you get to an SOTx. You can start from almost ANYWHERE. Move towards SOTs. which are topics near or related to seduction (a step or two away from SOTs). you start to "listen" for topics that are SOTXs..) Page 111 . it's that you have trained yourself to recognize things that are SOTs. you can start from just about ANY topic and get to GREAT topics! It's easy.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course SOTs in the Conversational Management Model The end goal is to get to. or as close as you can towards SOTs. then start to pay attention for SOTXs. and ANY TOPIC. SOTXs are a pathway to make that easier. and topics that are close to that (SOTXs). Stay there for a while if you can! Figure 5.4-3: SOTs Are THE Goals in Conversational Management As you move through a conversation. SOTXs SOTs Listen for SOTXs Anything near or related to an SOT. then you can simply move things towards a topic that is very seduction-oriented! The point is not to have a "list" in mind.5-1. and using this type of approach you will have fascinating conversations with people that lead to where YOU want to go! (See Figure 5. or anything that is "related" to an SOT. Period. just follow the steps listed earlier in the Conversational Management sections.5 THE COMPLETE CONVERSATIONAL MODEL D9-T33 Start from any topic and get to where you want! Yes. 5. Then move the conversation towards an SOT! This works.

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Romantic. seductive things Direct the Conversation Pay attention when Good Subjects come up (SOTXs) Listen for anything a step or two away from an SOT Move towards SOTs Stay there as long as you can Use The Language Tools! As much as possible.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Figure 5.Fun. or very close! Page 113 . fascinating. exciting.... start over! Assignment! 1) Try it! Start directing conversations using the conversational management model.5-1: The Complete Conversational Management Model (continued) Start a Conversation Manage the Conversation Move the Conversation in a Good Direction Steer towards . back up! If you move back to a general topic. Especially when at or near SOTXs and SOTs. Steer towards . or SOTX... interesting .. and see how easy it is to get to some good topic that is an SOT.Engaging the emotions and imagination in a positive way . Fractionate If you take a wrong turn. Steer towards .

We practice specific parts of areas of the skills we wish to use later on.0 6. and as "a way of speaking". Don't think of "how can I get to the pattern". The navigation is handled through our use of Conversational Management techniques. These smaller skills become automatic and you focus instead of driving. or "how can I bring this pattern up". • While talking to a woman. handling the gas pedal. get her to "experience" good feelings and states o Use the Conversational Management Techniques to get there o Get her to think about good and/or exciting feelings Page 115 . Its just a "type" of talking that you can (and will be able to) use when you feel it is appropriate.You don't play the entire game ahead of time. In the same manner. asking.2 PATTERN FORMULA D10-T7 Tactical Formula for Patterns While talking to a woman. A representative sample. we have practiced the small details (language skills) so that these are automatic. or could say. "A plan" or "model". • Driving . With this new approach to learning and using these tools. Patterns are just examples of the use of these tools.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 6. It's best to just think of patterns as examples. we work in that manner. or series of actions. Amplify these feelings and states by talking.Many of the details of driving a car are things you just "do". get her to "experience" good feelings and states. You don't have to think about moving the wheel. Once you actually play the game though. • Instead. diagram. THAT ends up being a very effective way to create "patterns". certain actions. A New way of thinking about the use of patterns • The wrong way is to talk to someone and to keep thinking. or navigation. • An example of what you can say. Present a Call to action. You practice bits and pieces of the sport. Examples/Analogies: • Sports . clarifying. The Pattern Formula in detail. the clutch. you make decisions on-the-spot as to what to do and how to proceed. that's the key. etc. Link and associate these feelings to you. or "how can I bring up a pattern that I know". plus these areas will work for HER because SHE selected them (in a manner of speaking) • Talk and manage the conversation into an area that DOES work for you. • Maybe talk to a woman and allow HER to bring up things that end up working well in pattern-like language. and being aware of when you DO get to an area of conversation that does allow you to use a pattern. 6. or model to be followed in making things. "how can I get to my pattern". She may take the conversation into better places that you could have predicted.1 PATTERNS PATTERN OVERVIEW D10-T1 What is a pattern? • A plan. Use the language tools. think about having a conversation (and managing it correctly).

. However.these pre-written or canned patterns can work very well. In THAT case .3 CANNED PATTERNS D10-T12 These are the pre-rehearsed. etc Link and associate those feelings to you o Use the Language Tools o Use linkage phrases like "now with me". 6. and the proper context is not created. Therefore it is best to maybe have some of these memorized. In the real world. pre-written patterns that you have seen and heard. because doing so may work against you. and to use what is needed in the moment. and that the woman will react to what the patterns is about. asking. The problem is if you are SO focused on just "getting to the pattern" that you know (or even one of many that you know) then it's difficult to have a good conversation." etc. 6. Pre-written. clarifying o Use the Language Tools o Asking her for info. if you just "drop" a pattern into the conversation.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • o Get her feeling good and/or exciting feelings o Get her experiencing (or recall the experience of) good and/or exciting feelings o Get her to think about things that she wants or desires Amplify these feelings and states by talking. and have them there for your use if and when the correct situation comes up. and do. "Canned" patterns. o Use "this" and "these" (be aware of that and those as well) o Point and mark appropriately Present a Call to action o "Do it now" language o Create a Challenge o Create an Opportunity o Talk about the chance to "Seize the moment" o A simple add-on to the Language Tools There are two main ways of doing patterns. The good ways to use these are as teaching and learning tools. what you need to do is to look at. Their best use is when you use the Conversational Management techniques and then find that the conversation just happens to get to or near a pattern that you DO happen to know already. "this person. canned patterns are good. But. when you are talking to a woman. for her to elaborate and describe o Repeating back what she has said o Provide examples from your own life o Provide examples from friends. but they assume that you are in a conversation where they will work and be somewhat "appropriate" to what is being discussed..4 PATTERN RIFFING IN REAL-TIME D10-T13 This is the ability to just create pattern language on-the-fly. don't focus TOO much on them. these canned patterns DO have some usefulness. many times it does not. Some times that does happen. they can. • The interesting topic that she and you are discussing o what is happening o what you know Page 116 . and real-time "Riffing". sound quite strange. or things you have read. So.. pre-rehearsed.

• Use some "act now" languaging. states.. Wanting to take action or seize an opportunity Always • • • • See the pattern here? We are in general. and and use the language tools. looking and listening for positive feelings. exciting. THE BEST PATTERN IS THIS: • • Get her to talk and think about positive. • Talk about these things or listen to you talk about these things • get her to think about these things • get her to feel these things • get her to link them to you. interesting. Then we use those as a basis for discussion. get her to. Then you have a conversation and. using the tools. Yes. and actions in the conversation..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • o what she is reacting to o and discuss things which are appropriate. and sensual things. Page 117 . Use the language tools so that YOU become associated with those things. it really IS that easy! look for: Positive emotions and feeling Positive sensations (as in physical ones) Exciting feelings. emotions.

SOTs) 4.1 REVIEW AND SUMMARY REVIEW D10-T18 The course has followed a "bottom-up" approach to training. Use the conversational management techniques b.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 7. and the more engaged you are in the process. Get the conversation into good subjects (SOTXs.3 LISTEN. Direct and/or link those feelings towards you. Whether its your first. -' d. Use the conversational management techniques b. comfort in. Use the Language Tools 5. 7. Now we can look from the "top-down". of fourteenth time through. Keep her there and keep talking! a. Both you and her talk! 2. DO THE EXERCISES. focusing first on small details. and view an overall strategy. Keep the conversation going.2 SUMMARY D10-T26 This may be similar to information you have heard in the past. AND FOLLOW THE COURSE. you will benefit. fifth. D10-T27 Listen to the full explanations. a. 7. and really take the time to do the exercises. It really is up to you. 7. D10-T28 The more energy and effort you put into this. Use the Language Tools 7. and/or compulsion to act a. Create a willingness. a. the greater your results will be.4 BE WILLING AND PREPARED TO PUT ENERGY INTO THIS COURSE. We really are focused upon changing you. 1. and how you speak. but the method of approaching it is very different. 3. and then building up to bigger and bigger pieces.5 CONGRATULATIONS! WELL DONE! D10-T29 Page 119 . Direct the conversation in a way that takes you toward good topics a. Fractionate if and when needed. Engage her emotions and imagination in a positive way.0 7. Talk about something positive and interesting c.

EXAMPLES. and provide you with some real-world examples of their use. EXAMPLES Dll-Tl The discussions presented on the audio for this section are intentionally "casual" to familiarize you even more with the use of these tools.0 EXAMPLES. Page 121 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 8.

. • Passionate or Boring? o o o • LANGUAGE TOOLS A N T D E T A I L S o Adjectives And Adverbs Use more adjectives and adverbs in your speech to appeal to and excite the emotional side of the listener... Fast. • What's it like when . Pause? Energy And Enthusiasm Using energy and enthusiasm when speaking so that people can become energized and enthusiastic about listening to and being with you. • Be descriptive. emotions. and charismatic presence. powerful. so that their feelings. allowing you to say more (and maybe more provocative things) about a subject. to convey a sense of drama and intrigue in what you are saying in a way that "captivates "people and makes them want to listen to you. o o Page 123 . Mouth. and processes awaken. " As you.. • If I were to . • Have you ever . or Chest? Pacing And Pausing Use variations in pace. • Nose. • Slow.. and to "soften " the way in which something is said.... to be cool. Voice Tone And Tonality Use your best tone of voice (speaking from your chest) to convey a relaxed. and well-placed pauses..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course APPENDIX 1 Course "Cheat Sheet" • SPEAKING POINTERS o The "Cool" Factor You don't have to be cold.. • If you were to . • Instantaneously " Suddenly • Find Yourself • Convince Yourself • Suppose • Imagine " Mysterious (-ly) • Wonder (-ous) (-ously) Weasel Phrases Use Weasel Phrases to keep the conversation going. use Adjectives And Adverbs Trance Words Help to get the subconscious mind of the listener to be more of apart of your conversation.

Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o Embedded Commands Use embedded commands repeatedly and in the proper context. Say "that". • Point Or Touch On Positive —* o o o • LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES o Pace And Lead Pacing and Leading allows you "be " in the conversation for a while and gain rapport and information. • Can you do this now. Say "this". Say "these". Those • Positive statement. Point to you • Negative statement.. Linking After getting someone to experience good feelings and emotions. • Move! Point! Linking Gestures Towards And Away • Whenever you say something negative.. point or gesture towards yourself. link them to you so that YOU become something and someone that they feel good about • Now with me • In me • In myself • with this • these • this belief • these feelings Easy-Linking • Use "This" and "These" when referring to anything positive. That.. • Whenever you say something positive. motion. o o • MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures Move. touch them to help anchor it to you. These. point or gesture away. Point to you • Negative Say "those". laugh. and accentuate what you are saying in order to be more compelling as a speaker and to get even more attention from your listener or audience. to create a compelling will on the part of the listener follow you and listen to you. Point away • Positive statement. allowing you to move things more in your favor later on Page 124 . Point away. gesture. Easy Anchoring When the person you are talking with displays a positive feeling of some type. a smile. intrigue. interest. • Use "That" and "Those" when referring to anything negative. Easy Linking Expanded Pointing With This. etc.

The More Z. b.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Show agreement. or to maybe see if you can get someone to agree to it! • a. etc. • Request X because (of) Y. and incorporate the language tools • This thing vs that thing • How two things are similar • How two things are different • Good . "List" several things or examples which support your point. Then start to move or shift things in a different way. • Topics and Subjects • Mindset or Frame of Mind • Current Reality • As (while) you are "X" (Pace) Where "X" is something that is true in their current reality (perceptions. and/or interest. or thoughts) use "More and More " as a way to string them together (and increase your chances of that happening • The more X. • As you X. "List" several things briefly in order. a way that you want. and C When making a point. statement. etc. keep the discussion focused on a topic that serves your purposes. you can get away with an outrageous or very direct option by burying that option in the middle of a List.Bad • One option .another option o o o Page 125 . acknowledgement. the More Y. and C When making a point. thoughts. • a.) • Then you will "Y" Where "Y" is something you want them to experience (Lead) o Give Them A Reason Giving a reason will make people more apt to do things for you and agree with you. etc. B. in order to provide more power to what you are saying • At The End Listing at The End is a way to provide several options (which may differ) but to emphasize the option that YOU want. or giving an example. LAST • Burying Items Listing . statement. but mention the one which YOU want to put the most emphasis on. the more Y. or giving an example. Compare And Contrast Use this technique to keep the conversation going. The more Y. and c When giving examples or options to someone. B. Listing • General Listing General Listing is a way to quickly provide several reason. understanding. the More Z. which support your point • A. the More Y. experiences.Burying Items is a way to mention an outrageous or very direct option for "testing" purposes. More And More If you want to lead someone through a series of steps (actions.

feelings. • Link good thoughts. to be a way for them to get what they want.. • etc. discuss. • You might see .. or point in a discussion. or show it.. • Challenge them to do that. • The smart people I know. or fun. • Challenge them to demonstrate it.. • If you can . allowing you time to gather information and link yourself to good thoughts. Mini-Challenges • You seem. and evoke favorable states. can (use smart. • I wonder if you can .\ Universal Wants You can assume that most people want these. • Maybe you can ... even when the other person claims or demonstrates that such parts are NOT there • For every part of a person that will work against you. • Are you able to . • You might. • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control Particular Wants What does she want to have.. etc). —* • • • Page 126 .... o Opportunities And Challenges • Find out what someone wants..... idea. or adventurous. • Find a way to map what YOU want.. feelings and emotions to yourself. • Use the language tools in the discussion. assume there is a part that will work WITH you. • You seem as if... • If you are able to .. • Take any subject...Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o Parts • • Parts Of A Subject Discussing many of the parts of a subject keeps the conversation going. and beliefs. • Using Their Own Processes • Find or assume what someone wants • Create an opportunity for them to get it or demonstrate they have it • Make that "demonstration" work in your favor. feelings and emotions... • You may . • Break it down into its component parts and discuss them. • You seem like .. do it.. Parts Of A Person Use Parts of a Person as a way to find. or want to be perceived as having? • Talk to them and find out.

and interesting?" " Move the conversation in that direction.. fun. or show what they have. • Introduce topics that are fun.. General Conversational Management To steer the conversation in a good direction. interesting things. listen and be IN the conversation! • Conversational Dynamics Topics flow from one to the next. Creating Them -. • Navigation Don't think of an exact plan. interesting things • Keep thinking . Advanced Conversational Management To direct the conversation into even BETTER areas. fun. • Can she see an opportunity to have "X". interesting things.. Consider the wants and needs that a person may have .."Where can I go that is fun. by doing Y? • Does she want you to THINK she has X... fun.-and do Y to get it? • Can she do Y and make it happen? • Can she see that Y will get her what she wants? • Can she trust herself enough to do Y? o • Ambiguities — CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT o General .. positive. and see how doing Y would demonstrate it?> • Does she have what it takes to get X. • Repeat. • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control " • Excitement Challenges Challenge them to get what they want. she may have to do Y to prove that. steer the conversation towards directions that engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way o o Page 127 .. then . positive and interesting. • Topic Turning Point The process of moving from one topic to one of 6-8 relevant topics • In general. bring up positive. think of general navigation • She Must Be Engaged In The Conversation! You need her to talk.. •• Show interest when someone discusses positive. • Don't engage in conversations when it's NOT about positive.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • Opportunities. Are they ready to take advantage of that (this) opportunity? • Does she really want X and see how Y can get that? • Does she really have X.

Repeat. Conversational Fractionation • Using Conversational Fractionation • Start • Move • Back Up • Repeat • Dead Ends Come Back To Life! • Just back up and start over! Conversational Overview and Review • General Flow • Start on just about ANY subject.Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Move the conversation in that direction. positive."Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. keep it there. back up a few steps. fascinating. • Keep thinking . and while there. and interesting? • Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? • Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. seductive things?" " Move the conversation in that direction. fascinating. • When on good topics. use the language tools as much as possible! • What If The Outcome Is Not What You Expected? • Move on! o o • TOPICS o Topics Of Enthusiasm and Passion Few things are more compelling in a person than for them to be passionate about something (hopefully many things) in life. by there very nature. More Advanced Conversational Management To further direct the conversation into even BETTER areas. steer the conversation towards romantic. • Where can I go that is fun.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • o Keep thinking . Get the conversation there. o If you get to a good subject or topic. use the language tools. and get the effect. • Connections • Going for it • Making good decisions Page 128 o . seductive tilings? • The entire time: o If you hit a "dead end". • Repeat. stay there for a while. fascinating. use as many of the language tools as you can. Seduction Oriented Topics SOTs are topics that. and seductive things. bring up images and thoughts that may work for you.

asking.Use the conversational Management Techniques. The Complete Conversational Model See Appendix 2 o o • PATTERNS o Pattern • • • • Formula While talking to a woman. Pattern Riffing In Real-Time • Use the Conversational Management techniques to get to good subjects • Look at the interesting topic that she and you are discussing o what is happening o what you know o what she is reacting to o and discuss things which are appropriate. Conversational Model With SOTXs. clarifying. • Get her to. • Manage . Link and associate these feelings to you. o Wanting to take action or seize an opportunity • Use the language tools. and • Look for: o Positive emotions and feeling o Positive sensations (as in physical ones) o Exciting feelings.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • • • • • o Surrendering to feelings Getting excited Feeling excited Trusting your judgment Taking chances Indulgence Maturity Good decisions Expanded Seduction Oriented Topics . Page 129 o . Those are STOXs. o Canned Patterns .. Amplify these feelings and states by talking. there are easily 6-8 variations on that SOT that you can talk about.. get her to "experience" good feelings and states. Present a Call to action. o Talk about these things or listen to you talk about these things o get her to think about these things o get her to feel these things o get her to link them to you. • Direct .SOTXs For each SOT.Look out for SOTXs • Direct 0 Move towards SOTs.Great as EXAMPLES • Learn and know some of them they may be useful.

Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • Use some "act now" languaging. • Use the language tools so that YOU become associated with those things Page 130 . interesting. o The Best Pattern Is This: • Get her to talk and think about positive. and sensual things. exciting.

Point Or Touch On Positive And Negative LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES o Pace And Lead • Topics and Subjects • Mindset of Frame • Current Reality o Give Them A Reason o Listing " General ..) o Easy Anchoring .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course APPENDIX II Speaking and Language Tools "Cheat Sheet" • SPEAKING POINTERS o Voice Tone And Tonality o Pacing And Pausing o Energy And Enthusiasm LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS o Adjectives And Adverbs o Trance Words o Weasel Phrases o Embedded Commands o Linking o Easy-Linking (This. These. That.At the End • Burying Items o More And More o Compare And Contrast o Parts " Parts of a Subject • Parts of a Person o Opportunities And Challenges • Mini Challenges " Opportunities And Challenges o Ambiguities • • • Page 131 .. That. Those) MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures o Linking Gestures (Towards And Away) o Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This.

Fun. and Interesting Advanced Mgt. Positive. Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way More Advanced Mgt. Romantic. Seductive SOTXs SOTs The Complete Conversational Management Model Page 133 . Fascinating.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course APPENDIX III The Complete Conversational Management Model The Complete Conversational Management Model General Mgt.

. Especially when at or near SOTXs and SOTs..Romantic. start over! Page 134 ....Fun. interesting . fascinating. Steer towards . positive.Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way . Steer towards .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course The Complete Conversational Management Model (continued) Start a Conversation Manage the Conversation Move the Conversation in a Good Direction Steer towards . Fractionate If you take a wrong turn. seductive things Direct the Conversation Pay attention when Good Subjects come up (SOTXs) Listen for anything a step or two away from an SOT Move towards SOTs Stay there as long as you can Use The Language Tools! As much as possible.. back up! If you move back to a general topic.

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