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Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course
A structured training program that teaches the language and conversational skills of Speed Seduction .
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Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course
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Page No. Title Page Legal Notices Table of Contents Product Content Product Protection and User Consent Formatting and Conventions Acknowledgements Forward Registration Important Note About Exercises and Assignments 1.0 INTRODUCTION AND GETTING STARTED i ii iii vi vi vii ix x xii xii 1 D1-T1 Disk and Track No.*
1.2 1.3 1.4 1.5 1.6 2.0 2.1 2.1.1 2.1.2 2.1.3 2.1.4 2.2 2.2.1 2.2.2 2.2.3 2.2.4 2.2.5 2.2.6 2.3 2.3.1 2.3.2 2.3.3 2.3.4 2.4 3.0 3.1 3.1.1
Why Is This Course Needed? What We Will Handle, and How Investing In Yourself, Or Not Can We Change The Way You Speak? Manipulation and Ethics Concerns SPEAKING AND LANGUAGE
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Speaking Pointers 7 The "Cool" Factor 7 Voice Tone and Tonality 7 Pacing and Pausing 9 Energy and Enthusiasm 10 Language Tools and Details 12 Adjectives and Adverbs 12 Trance Words 13 Weasel Phrases 15 Embedded Commands 17 Linking 19 Easy-Linking (This, That, These, Those) 21 More Tools 23 Pointing and Gestures 24 Linking Gestures (Towards and Away) 25 Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This, That, These, Those ...) 26 Easy Anchoring - Point Or Touch, On Positive 27 Review 29 LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES Pace and Lead General Pace and Lead Techniques 31 31 32
* Disk and Track Numbers References to the CDs and the tracks on them are shown in a format such as "D2-T4", which in this example refers to Disk 2, Track 4.
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Page No. 3.1.2 3.1.3 3.1.4 3.2 3.3 3.3.1 3.3.2 3.3.3 3.3.4 3.3.5 3.4 3.5 3.6 3.6.1 3.6.2 3.7 3.7.1 3.7.2 3.7.3 3.7.4 3.8 3.9 4.0 4.1 4.1.1 4.1.2 4.1.3 4.1.4 4.2 4.2.1 4.2.2 4.2.3 4.3 4.3.1 4.3.2 4.3.3 4.3.4 4.3.5 4.4 4.4.1 4.4.2 4.4.3 4.4.4 4.4.5 4.5 4.5.1 4.5.2 Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects Pace and Lead-Mindset Or Frame Of Mind Pace and Lead - Current Reality Give Them a Reason Listing General Listing Listing - At The End Listing - Burying Items Listing, Pauses, and Emphasis.. Listing Review More and More Compare and Contrast Parts Parts of a Subject Parts of a Person Opportunities and Challenges Using Their Own Processes What Do People Want? Mini-Challenges Opportunities and Challenges Ambiguities Summary CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT Challenges Detailed and Specific Plans Are Just Not Workable Navigation Example Navigational Strategies Are Needed She Must Be Engaged In The Conversation! How Conversations Happen Conversational Dynamics Conversational Model Topic Turning Point General Conversational Management Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Want How To Steer Conversations, Moment To Moment The Model With Strategy and Tactics In Place Exercises and Assignments Summary Advanced Conversational Management Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Really Want Steering Conversations Moment To Moment The Model With Advanced Strategy and Tactics In Place Exercises and Assignments Summary More Advanced Conversational Management More About Getting The Conversation To Go Steering Conversations Using More Advanced 33 35 38 39 41 41 43 45 48 48 48 51 54 54 58 61 62 62 63 64 69 69 71 71 71 71 72 72 72 72 73 77 79 79 81 82 83 86 86 86 88 88 91 93 93 93 94 Disk a n d Track N o . * D5-T12 D5-T20 D5-T29 D5-T32 D6-T1 D6-T4 D6-T15 D6-T24 D6-T36 D6-T37 D6-T38 D6-T54 D7-T1 D7-T4 D7-T15 D7-T34 D7-T36 D7-T38 D7-T40 D7-T43 D7-T64 D7-T66 D8-T1 D8-T1 D8-T3 D8-T4 D8-T5 D8-T10 D8-T12 D8-T13 D8-T14 D8-T15 D8-T16 D8-T16 D8-T19 D8-T23 D8-T25 D8-T32 D8-T33 D8-T33 D8-T35 D8-T38 D8-T39 D8-T46 D8-T47 D8-T47 D8-T49
5 6.3 5. .4 4.7.1 7.1 5.7.4 7.6. EXAMPLES v i e w . EXAMPLES. 4.2 4.3 6.. * D8-T52 D9-T1 D9-T2 D9-T3 D9-T5 D9-T6 D9-T7 D9-T8 D9-T9 D9-T10 D9-T11 D9-T14 D9-T15 D9-T24 D9-T32 D9-T33 D10-T1 D10-T1 D10-T7 D10-T12 D10-T13 D10-T18 D10-T18 D10-T26 D10-T27 D10-T28 D10-T29 D11 .SOTXs Conversational Model With SOTXs The Complete Conversational Model PATTERNS Pattern O v e r Pattern Formula Canned Patterns Pattern Riffing In Real-Time REVIEW AND SUMMARY Review Summary Listen.4 5.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Table of Contents (continued) Page No.3 7.2 7.3 5.. .. and Follow The Course Be Willing and Prepared To Put Energy Into Congratulations! Well Done! EXAMPLES.0 5..1 4.5 8. Conversational Fractionation The 1-Shot Beeline Fallacy How Fractionation Works Using Conversational Fractionation Dead Ends Come Back To Life! Conversational Overview and Review Conversational Management Approach What If The Outcome Is Not What You Expected? Summary TOPICS Topics Of Enthusiasm and Passion Seduction Oriented Topics Expanded Seduction Oriented Topics .6 4.6.1 6. 94 96 96 97 97 98 99 99 99 99 101 101 102 104 109 111 115 115 115 116 116 119 119 119 119 119 119 121 Disk a n d Track N o .3 4. Do The Exercises.4 7.2 5.0 7.2 4.6. . .3 4. .6.7 4. APPENDICES I II III Course "Cheat Sheet" Speaking and Language Tools "Cheat Sheet" The Complete Conversational Management Model 123 131 133 Page v .7.0 6.2 6.1 4.0 The Model With More Advanced Strategy and Tactics In Place.5.
. graphic captions. and the Formulas. Italics are also used to point the reader towards specific content of the audio CDs. i. and their use is key to many students' understanding of the concepts presented. a "serif typeface). There are certain conventions used in the formatting of the workbook. This shows (for example) the Disk (3) and the Track number (5) that corresponds to that part of the workbook contents.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Formatting and Conventions The following formatting. items are presented in a list-like fashion such as this: • Item 1 • Item 2 • Item 3 • Etc. The graphics in the latter sections are significant in that they are an essential part of the understanding and leaning.As shown to the right Towards the right margin of section titles and headings. Italicized Text . Therefore most of the track references are shown at the start of major sections.Boldface Text is used to emphasize certain text or passages. and the italics are simply used as a way to show a different manner of emphasis. . However these conventions are guidelines.. The written text is NOT a transcript. Usually the graphic is shown on the page immediately following where that graphic is first mentioned in the text. The relationship between these two can be best described by considering the workbook text to be (for the most part) an "outline" of what is presented in the audio.Italicized Text is used for emphasis in many cases where boldface text may by nearby. Not every track number is listed. If the graphic cannot fit there (due to page breaks) then the graphic is placed on the next available page. and to make it easier to reference those items at a later time.that is simply to show a list of related items. there may be instances when the conventions are not used for the sake of emphasis.A majority of the workbook content is shown in this typeface (Times New Roman. styles. Listen to the audio where an example is presented. The audio is NOT an exact duplicate of the text shown in the workbook. or clarity. This shows information that could be considered part of an overall "outline" of what the audio presentation contains. Graphics are used in the workbook as well. a "sans-serif typeface). and conventions have been developed and are used throughout this transcript/workbook. Text within graphics. these are in most cases presented as a way to augment the content of the audio presentation. Page vii . and Assignments are all shown using this typeface (Arial. D3-T5 CD Track References . Boldface Text .At times. A majority of the workbook is presented in an "outline" form.e. Samples of the formatting and conventions used: Typefaces . It is also used for subject headings so that these stand out and apart from the normal text. there is not an exact place in the book that correlates to the start of each and every track on the audio CDs. Since the work book is an "outline" and not a transcript. graphic titles. Exercises. Although there are paragraphs of explanatory text. CD Location References are shown using terms such as "D3-T5" in the text. or major points in the workbook. Lists .
Candidate Topics Figure XYZ-1: Graphic Title Sub-paragraph . Page Breaks . This may require that a graphic be placed on the next page after where it is first mentioned (instead of being directly below where the graphic is first mentioned in the text). or maybe and Assignment can be done alone by the student. and Assignments are shown inside boxes such as this. -2. Page viii . This is shown below. Assignments also call for action on the part of the reader.If a graphic has text that helps to further explain that graphic. or technique. Text Boxes . there are instances where the definitions may be clouded to some degree. Formula. then that text is shown immediately below the graphic using an indented paragraph such as this.e.The workbook is laid out to minimize the amount of blank space where reasonably possible. fact. Each Formula is presented in its own "text box" as shown here. there are cases where text boxes may actually "break" across two pages.1 . Exercises. Exercises are a series of instructions that call upon the reader to do or perform certain actions. . -3) to account for multiple graphics in one section of text. but that is a necessity due to the complexity of the book. Most exercises can be done alone. and the "A" indicates the number of the graphic within a section itself (i.Text boxes are used for very specific purposes in the workbook. Similarly. an Exercise may require interaction with other people. The number is in the format of "XYZ-A" where "XYZ" denotes the number of the section where the graphic is placed. Although this is not optimal. A Formula is a way to present a concise explanation of some item. This also may result in some page breaks being in places which are not optimal.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Each graphic has a number and a title of some type. For example. Although the difference between Exercises and Assignments is maintained through most of the workbook. Assignments usually requier the reader to go out and interact with other person(s) in order to perform them correctly. it is required in order for the "flow" of the book content to remain consistent.
and MD. associates.insight and teaching that I think is possible. who have placed their trust in me and allowed me the experience of showing them new and wonderful possibilities for what their lives may have to offer. SM. and who has also contributed greatly to helping men change their minds about themselves. opening the door for many into the world of self improvement. who was the business genius that brought Speed Seduction® to the masses through seminars and products. mentors. / must apologize to some degree for the time it has taken to finish this product. and those who have entrusted me to teach you and to guide you. To Dr. SP. DM. and this wait may have annoyed a few people. To my coaching clients. and have opened the door for me to find many ways of self-improvement and understanding.. and for the assistance they provided with this product. . JL. MC. Yates Canipe. To all of you.. teachers. colleagues. those who have read what I have written. To the many experts out there who have augmented the SS teachings by showing me other aspects of the mind. Thank you. and students (we are each all of these and more) in the TAGR Group. To those in the original SD Lair group. confidants.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Acknowledgements The first and foremost acknowledgement goes out to Ross Jeffries himself. Special thanks to my friends. most notably Hypnotica. EVS. and to help you in finding the Women or Woman of Your Dreams. The main reason is that I do not wish to release any product until I believe that I am able to provide the level of quality. the creator of Speed Seduction . and what is possible in their lives. but have also shown many the way to a new way of living. I may miss a few sales because of such a delay. Ross's developments have lead not only to helping many men with this part of their lives. Dave Riker Page ix . Working with these clients was especially instrumental in formulating and perfecting the concepts and teaching methods used in this product. who helped me by allowing me to help them. and to all of the Students out there who I have met at Speed Seduction® seminars. but I sincerely hope that the results will prove to have made the wait worthwhile.
and options.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Forward One of the most wonderful things about life is the idea of connecting with others. she should decide to be with whom she wants to be with by having opportunities. that I create products such as this. A woman should never "settle". Whether a man decides to use this information as way to embark upon a period of his life which involves casual romantic interludes. there are a lot of wonderful women out there who would love to meet interesting men. helps to provide these women with an even better choice. and set forth upon a path to improve this area of his life. good-natured and well-intentioned man. are NOT in short supply. and grow. Good. At least then he will be in a position of choice. As if the interesting. most women will be far better off and have much better chances with the kind of men. the idea of simply communicating with and sharing experiences with the other half of the human population. I know of many women who are always distraught that they seem to not be able to meet good men. take action. having and sharing experiences with. I think that many men. in fact. to make an informed choice. One of the biggest tragedies of life is that there are things. and in many cases the efforts of men to solve this problem on their own have been met by smallminded criticism and slander. Having many interesting men available. information. or the kind of man. Sadly this is most apparent when it comes to men. The women of the world will be better off in their own way. interesting. or "compromise". who was simply deprived of an means to "learn about" how to meet and talk with women. whether this time has any sort of romantic or seductive component or not. From that position. And I am here to help correct it. He will be able to decide for himself which he feels is the best option for him. or with that special woman of which they have always dreamed. as well. the best men. They just have not been taught such things. that they will want to spend time with as well. And. learn. They don't know how to keep a woman's interest. So. And it's a shame for these women to be wanting for their company. spending time with them. Many men through no fault of their own have grown up to be adults and have had little instruction or assistance in a very important area of their lives. or don't know how to present themselves in the best way. some of the most wonderful moments of life are brought about by people. other people. and introducing themselves. should somehow not improve himself. or whether a man uses this information as a means to improve his chances of finding one special woman. women. and showing themselves in the best and most honest light. It's for these men. (and more importantly a LACK of information in some cases) that can prevent such connections and moments from happening. intelligent. This is so sad. Page x . so that they really may share wonderful experiences of ALL types with women. and sharing experiences with them. Whether that be as friends or acquaintances. is up to him. I think that is not correct. They are the ones that really don't know how to introduce themselves. charming men. and for those women. are the ones that really DO look at this area of their lives. teachings. There are many such men out there. Such men. for some reason seem to be in short supply. there are a lot of great men out there who would like to meet interesting women. and decide to move forward.
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pay attention. Provide additional explanation of some points that are covered in the audio program. You are not going to sound like this or talk like this all of the time! Just in the way that you shift and change how you speak now in different situations. then on some level. The purpose of this workbook is to: • • • Provide an outline of the material covered in the audio program. We will teach you ways to easily manage conversations so that they go in interesting directions. you can change the way you speak as well. and get the full benefit of everything this course has to offer. Present a series of exercises and assignments. Instructions for each are provided. there is a need. Some guys don't need this. These techniques all need to sound and be "natural" to actually be effective. Conversational Skills The ability to manage conversations is needed as well. and "reprogrammed" in a way. If you are her "type" you don't need this. Listen to it. and on you as well. This workbook is meant to studied along with a series of audio lectures that are recorded on CDs.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 1. Language Skills What works? What makes the successful guys able to use these technologies? Partly it's the ability to actually "talk" in this manner. So even this "intro" section is starting to work for you. We will be teaching you the detailed language skills that will really help you. You will have this way of speaking as a PART of who you are and what you can do! Guys need to be trained.2 WHY IS THIS COURSE NEEDED? D1-T10 If you are here. along with spaces for written responses where necessary. You are already on your way! This course works on many levels.0 1. 1. If you follow along and do the exercises. seeing what is needed. This program is based upon experience with countless students. but this will help you if you are not. some people do this naturally. Page 1 . you will do so in the future and use these techniques as well. consciously and subconsciously. Welcome to Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course. to use these language skills naturally as just a part of the way they speak. and what works in the field.1 INTRODUCTION AND GETTING STARTED OVERVIEW Dl-Tl Welcome and Thanks.
so let's define and explain it for you. so we need to approach this in many ways. not a "trick". Real Time "Occurring immediately . and be a part of it. • Things may seem to "repeat".. many times! • In fact we have already started! Where Does This Material Come From • From SS Teachings. Guys need to be able to just "do this" and "talk this way" in REAL-TIME. Sure. talking. that is important. but it's really YOU talking! Guys are too focused on "how can I use this" when in a conversation." Guys need to stop the worrying about "Doing something wrong" It's only "wrong" if you are TRYING to do or be something you are not.. listening. In a way. for a while at least. responding. must react to a steady flow of new information without interruption. and how people speak. This is a term that will be used throughout this course. listen.Seduction Oriented Topics Patterns and Riffing Examples Dl-Tl5 What Methods Are Used • Describe and explain the details of the techniques • Explicit examples of how the details work • Examples throughout and within the discussions • Examples section at the end. some of the ways that you speak now will be reprogrammed so that speaking in a new way will be natural... respond to input immediately . Other parts of the language tools you may have to "think" about.3 Major • • • • • • • • WHAT WE WILL HANDLE. • Working on several "levels" of you mind at once • Models to arrive at an overall understanding • Left brain and right brain are both addressed • Conscious and subconscious minds are both given what they need for real understanding and retention.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course You have to be PROGRAMMED to do this so you can have a conversation. some things will sound quite familiar. but if you are "thinking" too much. but that's your left brain talking! We are reprogramming many years of your experience. interacting. • Exercises to develop understanding and skills • Assignments for you to do in the field.Enthusiasm and Passion Topics . Not inside your head "thinking" about "how can I use this?"! 1... You need to integrate skills to the degree that they ARE a part of who you ARE. then you are not actually IN the conversation! You need to be engaged in a conversation. • Other teachings about language. AND HOW Topics Speaking Pointers Language Tools and Details Conversational Management Conversational Fractionation Topics . how it is learned. Page 2 .
• Get that "Mind-Momentum" going to help you change and improve. However. However. or revised? Yes. • Follow along in the workbook if you can • Do the exercises and assignments! • Listen over and over. the more you will get out of it. So. and who may "try" to listen to the course. Be wary of those people who may want to "borrow" a copy. • Be prepared to have a place to practice for this course! You will need to be able to speak out loud to do many of the exercises. you are doing just that. and engagement into your effort to really learn and use these materials. they aren't really putting themselves INTO it. or not? There are various ways. do the exercises over and over. as assigned or as required. the more you put into it. The Ways To Study And Use The Product • Listen to the CDs. Changing that will take some time. effort. Other SS products will work well. there IS some overlap and duplication with other products and systems. 1. If they just "try" it. the emphasis here is training you to do it for yourself. Page 3 . Is this information. that YOU just DO. The best way to listen to this course is while also reviewing the workbook (especially in the conversational management sections). and a few women's magazines as well. listening multiple times in any setting also has a lot of benefit. From working with clients and seeing what worked and how they were able to change. We are reprogramming years and years of you "speaking" in a certain manner. do whatever you need to do to listen to this course a LOT. Many of the assignments will deal with talking to people. but in terms of THEM really being willing and ready to change. keep those copies to yourself. see what works for you. You will need them because you will have assignments that deal with these. Also maybe get a romance novel or two. to give you a real roadmap to actually learn the material. By embarking upon this course.4 INVESTING IN YOURSELF. new. and engagement. do it! But please. a concept that was brought up earlier. • Get some other written material to work with for this course. Applying a structured methodology of step-by-step methods. making it a part of YOU. both audio and written materials. • This may seem complicated but the point is to get you SO familiar with the tools that you become the guy who does this! Some Very Important Points • Find all of your current SS products and inventory them. The Mind-Momentum Principle At Work • Get energy. • Listen to other products in conjunction with this product. and this is much easier if you have an active life where you can have many conversations. If you need to make your own copies for use in multiple locations. • Having a good social life will help you. OR NOT D1-T24 Any real change requires you to make an investment in yourself using energy. and this journey. • Is there an "optimal way" to use the product. do the assignments over and over! • Be patient. In addition. However. and being open to what benefits this program can bring. effort.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • From personal experiences and how I used the materials. many of these people will be those negative types of people that will then dispute the benefits of this program! Why? Because THEY have not invested anything into it! Not just in terms of dollars.
some structures. you heard it in context.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course People must be engaged in the process to get its benefits. But that's not how you learned to talk! You learned to talk when you were a child ." So. hold you back. Also progressive exercises. But it's tough to do that. there is no "right" way or "wrong" way. It makes guys nervous. where you learn skills piece by piece. at will Engage in conversation Manage conversations Yes. about grammar. because you will hear it so much! But a LOT of what is being conveyed here is learning by EXAMPLE. Don't let their lack of willingness to improve themselves. at every moment! Some people want to try to memorize. there is a "right" and "wrong" way to do it! But if you are just TALKING. You will end up "memorizing" thing to some degree. Plus it's not YOU talking. because it addresses that analytical part of your mind. where you use the skills in the real world. It Is Possible! . some models. but only indirectly. trying to "remember" what to say. You keep trying to "remember" things. kids are taught about language. you heard it. Can we literally change the way you speak? • • • • • • • How you select words Create phrases Form sentences Pick topics Speak passionately. just being YOU. • • • • • • You will get some details. and you started to form the ability to speak and communicate based upon that! Page 4 . 1.by hearing others around you speak! You were IMMERSED in language. its a memorized "thing". you heard it a lot. will not benefit. sentences. Immersion is the key. Those who are not. How People Initially Learn How To Speak • • • • Sure in middle school. paragraphs. consequently. then its easier.5 CAN WE CHANGE THE WAY YOU SPEAK? D1-T26 Is this really possible? This sounds difficult.But This Is A Different Type Of Learning. And actual assignments. Then it's about a "performance. Imagine having to "think about" how to talk. It's less effective. etc. Not as congruent. • • • • • • • • This might be good as a learning TOOL. but to then USE it in conversation is difficult. its YOU being YOU! You cannot fail at being YOU! The approach in this course is different. Most people want to approach this by learning bits and pieces • • That's good in a way.
and be more of WHO YOU ARE. This causes some real. deep ethics issues and blocks many guy's success. and who and what YOU are! Using these skills will be less of an "act". • Break it down into small parts. like when I say "here is an example" Implicit examples. With THIS approach HERE. more natural. based upon feelings that when using them. Examples • • Explicit examples.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course This Course Uses Many Techniques To Train You To Have Workable. more a part of YOU. Various Training Methods • • We use a lot of repetitive training methods so that these techniques have a better chance of becoming "automatic". it's not about throwing something AT her. trade. which we go over and over. We will have you become familiar with the range of ways of speaking and sounding.6 Many guys have been uncomfortable with using many of these skills. so that you will have more ability and more flexibility to do what is appropriate MANIPULATION AND ETHICS CONCERNS D1-T32 1. we will change the way you talk so that it will be easier. Page 5 . Exercises and Assignments to Teach You the Skills • Skills Training like any sport. Real-World Skills. "it's not me" or "I am just using a trick or technique". or craft. where I am just DOING these things all during the program. how you communicate.
a sense of being relaxed and calm • It also allows you to express some energy and excitement at different times. This is good as long as it's not BORING. even some of the materials from other products. focusing on the back of your throat might make this easier to do). to be cool. do this for several minutes. We will work on this here in this course. reserved. something you are interested in. that there is a "fire" beneath the surface. "Cool" comes from being calm and sure of yourself.1 2.1 SPEAKING AND LANGUAGE SPEAKING POINTERS The "Cool" Factor D2-T1 D2-T1 Guys want to sound "cool". Why is this important? • Great voice tone conveys comfort. there are great products and examples of this elsewhere. etc. That "cool" feeling comes from being calm and speaking in a relaxed fashion. and read it aloud. how they make you feel. 2) Read some more of that material out loud. how calm you are. If this is a challenge for you. but giving the impression that there IS more. but because it's appropriate to the situation. and even goes a bit over-the-top to really help you to understand what is being discussed.2 Voice Tone and Tonality D2-T2 Listen to some examples of different tones of voice. how they sound. Read several paragraphs.1. and this time focus on speaking by generating the sound from within your mouth (or. Cool does NOT mean to be boring and to put people to sleep while talking! The coolest people are the ones that are FUN to talk to and fun to be with! You don't have to be cold. Listen as the examples demonstrate: • Speaking through the nose • Speaking through the mouth • Speaking from the chest Exercises for Speaking Pointers Grab some reading material of some type. there ARE products that focus JUST on this area and you may want to invest in those. how interesting you are. calm. and what people like in general. That's what women like. BORING. Your tone of voice really conveys a lot about who you are. focusing on generating your voice from your nose.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. not out of nervousness. Page 7 . 2.1. and says a lot about you. Too many guys "try" to be cool but actually come off as COLD or even worse. The audio section demonstrates these options quite well. but if you really want to work on this even more. That's the "allure". Examples: One way to think of this is to consider "where" your voice is generated from in your body. 1) Take some of that reading material.0 2.
comfortable. Focus on dropping your voice down from your nose/mouth. it's important that you do what you can to REALLY make a point of doing these assignments. and where you are speaking from (your nose. Also. make a note to yourself as to how you are speaking. See how relaxed it actually makes you feel and how you really need to BE relaxed to do this! 4) Take a moment. Day/Time Who you spoke to Speaking from? How you felt. really make a note to speak lower. relaxed-confident). Can you recall how you spoke? Did the way you sound in that situation sound like any of the examples you just did? See the similarity? Assignments for Speaking Pointers These are your first real assignments in the course. but to actually HAVE the skills. and really focus on having that voice generated from your chest. Assignments are where you are given a real task to go out and do .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 3) Now read some of the material. Relax. SOUND relaxed. Make notes below as to when it happened. Make notes below for some of the conversations and see if you can see a correlation between these items. and make them a part of who you are. with whom.in the real world! To get the most benefit from this course. 2) In the next few conversations you have with people. 1) Over the next few days when speaking to anyone. mouth. and recall some time in the recent past when you were kind of nervous or fearful. make note of how you felt (nervous. but this time really focus upon generating the sound from deep within your chest. or chest). where you were. and whether or not you DID it! Day/Time Who you spoke to Situation (Where) Did you DO it? Page 8 . Real-world experience will really help you to not just "know" the skills.
in a manner that makes you sound as if you are very confused. Being able to vary your pacing and pausing can help a lot to convey a sense of intrigue and create interest. relaxed. Too fast? Too slow? Hurried-nervous? Hurried-excited? Slow-confused? Page 9 . or don't quite understand the content. Focus on reading in a very hurried fashion as if you are very nervous. or almost a sense of panic. comfortable manner. 1) Take some of that reading material and read it aloud. Read several paragraphs and do this for several minutes. and this time focus on reading in a quick and hurried fashion. 2. Why is • • • this important? Correct pacing and speed of delivery conveys comfort. first very very fast. and charismatic presence. and shows that the speaker is relaxed. deliberate. 4) Now read some of the material. but this time read it slowly.1.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Strategic Formula for Speaking Pointers Use your best tone of voice (speaking from your chest) to convey a relaxed. 2) Read some more of that material out loud. and then far far too slow. even some of the materials from other products. powerful. Something you are interested in. (Maybe even be aware of where your voice is coming from. There are many variations: Listen as these are demonstrated • Hurried showing nervousness • Hurried showing excitement • Slow as in hesitant and/or confused • Slow in a way that is deliberate and relaxed Exercises for Pacing and Pausing Grab some reading material of some type.3 Pacing and Pausing D2-T15 Listen to the examples where some various pacing is demonstrated. but this time read it in a slow. Speaking too quickly can show tension. make a note to yourself as to how you are speaking in terms of your pacing and pausing. but go ahead and convey excitement in your voice! 3) Now read some of the material.) Assignments for Pacing and Pausing 1) Over the next few days when speaking to anyone. as we discussed in the past section.
or bored.. enthusiasm. who. YOU can show an appropriate amount of energy and enthusiasm. energy. you get stuck in fewer boring. By doing this. just make a note of this after-the-fact and write that down below. where.. Who cares? Why does this matter? • Most guys are just TOO BORING. then you can show more enthusiasm. When someone else is being boring. It's good to have the ability and range to display passion.1. to convey a more relaxed and deliberate manner. to convey a sense of drama and intrigue in what you are saying in a way that "captivates" people and makes them want to listen to you.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Slow-relaxed? You don't have to change it yet. start to focus on changing your pacing and pausing.. 2. Page 10 .4 Energy and Enthusiasm D2-T26 Listen to some examples of how this can sound . Make note of when. Day/Time Who you spoke to What type of pacing and pausing? 2) For the next few days. YOU act boring. • If someone else is being interesting. and excitement when appropriate. and if you DID it! Day/Time Who you spoke to Situation (Where) Did you DO it? Strategic Formula for Pacing and Pausing Use variations in pace. dead-end conversations. and well-placed pauses. • This also allows YOU to convey how interesting someone ELSE is as well. If they do or say something that is interesting to YOU.
make sure it is something that YOU are passionate about. go ahead. their tone. other products. Do this for a good 10-15 minutes. how you listen. that a good speaker can really grab your attention with their energy and enthusiasm. do that for 10-15 minutes. Assignments for Energy and Enthusiasm 1) Over the next few days. do that for 10-15 minutes. 4) Get some written material that really DOES interest you. technical presentations. something you are interested in. Again. dry topic. Again. Strategic Formula for Energy and Enthusiasm Using energy and enthusiasm when speaking so that people can become energized and enthusiastic about listening to and being with you. your car. monotone voice. and that are excited about. bland. and how much (or little) energy is conveyed. Think as if YOU are convincing a group of people how great this is! Maybe your Dream Job of a lifetime is dependant upon YOU speaking well and showing how passionate YOU are about this! Do that for a good 10-15 minutes. BE BORING and show no enthusiasm at all. monotone. whenever someone is talking about something boring. energetic voice. Read it OUT LOUD in a boring. maybe sports. which bores you. 6) Take that earlier written material about the subject that you are NOT interested in and that really bores you. their tone. Read it OUT LOUD in an exciting. animated. your work. taped lectures. 2) Watch and listen to some speakers who use a lot of energy and enthusiasm when they are talking! Really pay attention to how they speak. Exercises for Energy and Enthusiasm Grab some reading material of some type. Note how even if the material is something you do NOT care about. their pace. 3) Get some written material that you have NO interest in. etc. Page 11 . 5) Take that written material that really does interest you. bland voice with no energy or enthusiasm... women. and read THAT aloud in a way that DOES show energy and enthusiasm! Make that sound as convincing as #4 above. and how your respond. Really pay attention to how they speak.. whatever it is. and read that aloud in a boring. their pace.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course The audio section demonstrates more details about sounding boring/bored and also sounding as if you have energy and enthusiasm. and BE BORING. When you respond or talk back. go ahead and SHOW your enthusiasm! Be energetic in how you speak. 2) For the next few conversations you have with people where you ARE interested in the subject. and how much (or little) energy is conveyed. 1) Watch and listen to some speakers talk about a boring. even some of the materials from . Watch on either TV..
Adjectives will describe THINGS (nouns). Most men could be helped by having more descriptive speech. Who you spoke to Subject 5) Now. not the logical side of a person. If you really like this subject.) 3) Read that text OUT LOUD. we are working to appeal to the emotions.2. nouns and verbs. Day. 2) Read it. you should be able to do this for at least 3-5 minutes each. Page 12 . whatever. 2. they are not things that can be measured or specified.2 LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS D2-T39 These are the Bit And Pieces • These are the sort of things that can be powerful. out loud. and uninteresting. movies. • Their use must be automatic. 4) Think of three recent conversations you had when you talked to someone about something that you REALLY liked. Do this for each of the conversations listed above. because to have to "think about" using them is almost impossible! • You need to be TRAINED TO USE THEM automatically. and more ways of talking about processes. or they are too factual and leftbrained. but this time.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. and the subject you were talking about. (Maybe highlight them in some manner. talk about it in a descriptive way. Note whom you were talking to. sports. Cars. add more descriptive terms to it.. talk about each thing or subject again. It's good if YOU are also interested in it.1 Adjectives and Adverbs D2-T40 Listen to an example where many of these are used in descriptive language. and sensations. boring. but must be done over and over. Examples • Car reviews • Movie Reviews • This course! Exercises for Adjectives and Adverbs 1) Find some written material that deals with something where people are speaking passionately about some subject. and stress the adjectives and adverbs in it.. Most Adjectives and Adverbs are qualitative. feelings. and make note of the adjectives and adverbs in it. These words modify or in some way describe. They sound cold. Most guys are too dry in their speech. Remember. while Adverbs will describe ACTIONS (verbs). use more Adjectives and Adverbs. Maybe say those adjectives or adverbs and put more energy into those words and emphasize them in some manner. Re-live it.
is listening and more engaged in the conversation. and then maybe add some more as time goes on. Trance words help to "open the person up" so that their subconscious. Start with just a few of them. Write down what the subject was. that you are passionate about. or objective manner. 3) Practice out loud how you would have said those things in each of the three conversations. Day Who you spoke to Subject 2) Write down a few adjectives and adverbs that you could have used in each discussion (refer to a.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Assignments for Adjectives and Adverbs 1) Make note of the next 3 times you are having a conversation which deals with something that YOU are really into. and processes awaken. and with whom you spoke. so that their feelings. Act like you are really having the conversation again. Trance words are words that "call upon" the subconscious mind in order for them to be processed and understood.2 Trance Words D3-T1 Listen to an example where many of these are used.2. that you really enjoy. Strategic Formula for Adjectives and Adverbs Use more adjectives and adverbs in your speech to appeal to and excite the emotional side of the listener. Trance • • • • • Word List Instantaneously Suddenly Find Yourself Convince Yourself Suppose Page 13 . emotions. 4) The next several times any of those subjects come up in conversation. b. Be descriptive. They are not "analyzed" in a conscious. make sure to use some of those adjectives and adverbs in your descriptions. "paint a picture" with your words. and c above). their emotional side. 2. factual.
that's the point! Exercises for Trance Words 1) Make a full list of Trance Words.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • Imagine Mysterious (-ly) Wonder (-ous) (-ously) Think of any subject. Subject b. Now speak OUT LOUD about that subject. You can copy the ones you saw listed earlier. See how many you can find and notice how they are used in context. see and hear if you can pick out when the speaker is using Trance Words. 5) Take the written text from an SS product (maybe from #3 above) and read it out loud. sportscasters. work. Think for a moment about using those trance words to describe that subject. or religious speakers. but also see if you can add some to the list. like advertisements. Doesn't that make it sound kind of "mysterious"? Maybe more exciting? Maybe you can take some normal. Highlight or circle the Trance Words in a few sections. placing an emphasis on the Trance Words when you see them. With that list of Trance Words (above) in hand. 7) Pick a subject that bores you. Boring Subject Page 14 . Trance Word List 2) Watch or listen to some material where people are speaking passionately about something. See how many you can notice. and see how many of those Trance Words you can use. Look at the Trance Word List above. and see if you can pick these out. Write them down below. even something concrete like your job. or school. Looking at the list of Trance Words above. Maybe refer to some of your other SS products and see how many more you can find. 3) Get out your written SS materials and look for Trance Words (maybe even use THIS course here). something that you think is dull. political speakers. almost boring or mundane thing. 4) Get your SS audio materials and listen for Trance Words (maybe even THIS course here). talk about it. Maybe play one tape or CD. 6) Pick two subjects in which you are interested. and make it more interesting? Well. talk OUT LOUD about that subject and see how many times you can use those Trance Words! Subject a.
Just do whatever you can to start using some of them at first. If you were to .2. 2) Integrate a few more of these words into your every-day description of those subjects.. Subject b.. • • • • • Have you ever . The next time you are speaking with anyone about those subjects (in the real world guys!). Use them when talking to different people. and using more and more as time goes on. Practice working with those subjects out loud some more and see if you can get even more comfortable using Trance Words when talking about those subjects... Page 15 . more interesting.. doesn't that make it-sound more "exciting". What's it like when .3 Weasel Phrases D3-T14 Listen to an example where many of these are used. These also work as transitional phrases.. Subject a.... As you . Strategic Formula for Trance Words Using Trance Words will help to get the subconscious mind of the listener to be more of a part of your conversation. that's what Weasel Phrases are for! Weasel Phrase List (see if you can add to the list by listening to the audio). 2. and more fascinating? Assignments for Trance Words 1) Pick two subjects in which you are interested. How do you talk about something without REALLY talking about it? How do you bring something up that may be a bit different. If I were to . maybe even a bit odd? Maybe even a different topic or change of subject? Or maybe something that you were worried about bringing up. because it may be a bit too forward? Well. make a point to use at least one of the Trance Words in the conversation. to get from one subject to another..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Even though that may seem a bit strange.
the subject might be "going to a ball game" (pick your own. While doing it. Talk about THAT one for a few sentences.. Do this until you use all 4-5 of the attributes that you listed. Just read the SS material out loud. The next several times that you talk about that subject with anyone. sensing it. then use another Weasel Phrase. saying one slowly or quickly. but selecting different Phrases to link the aspects together.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Exercises for Weasel Phrases 1) Get some of your written SS materials and look for some Weasel Phrases in the text. see if you can use some or all of your favorite weasel phrases when talking about it. 3) Take the written SS materials you had earlier. Assignments for Weasel Phrases 1) Look at the list of Weasel Phrases that you wrote earlier. See if you can pick these out. Maybe pausing for a moment before one. and read some of this material out loud. after another. It will get easier. that it makes more sense. and then use one of the Weasel Phrases and the bring up another "aspect". This is necessary to have the kind of words and subjects that lend themselves to Weasel Phrases. Subject Page 16 . Take a moment and try to emphasize them in a way. (Weasel Phrases tend to provide ways to connect sentences and paragraphs that talk about how something is felt and experienced. etc. Use different Phrases. Try it again. Maybe play one tape or CD. and see if you can string things together so that they sound better. we want you to talk about how it FEELS. etc. For example. doing it. In a moment. make note of the weasel phrases. that seem as if they fit best into your way of speaking about subjects that you may like.) Pick 4-5 different aspects of this "experience" that you will talk about. 5) Did that sound weird? Strange? Ok . Pick 3 of them that seem the most natural to you. 2) Get your SS audio materials and listen for some Weasel Phrases. 2) Note the subject that you used earlier for doing some exercises with Weasel Phrases (exercise 4 above). and do so with an awareness on some level that you are saying and using weasel phrases when they are in the text.. 4) Pick a subject in which you are interested. don't use that one!) Now talk about one of these 4-5 aspects for 1-2 sentences. getting into it. the experience of it.
). once. or feel a certain way. on some level. These are not to be sexual or suggestive. or more quickly.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Select another subject that really interests you.. when separated from the context. Take a moment and try to emphasize them in some way.4 Embedded Commands D3-T25 Listen to an example where many of these are used. 2. "this is what you have imagined having for yourself. Think of general statements. or "you want this" (car). Write down a list of embedded commands. "get into it". Maybe play one tape or CD. and read some of this material out loud. saying one slowly. Page 17 . Subject Strategic Formula for Weasel Phrases Use Weasel Phrases to keep the conversation going. excited by something. and do so with an awareness. Again not "you like that color". etc. a place you have traveled. See if you can pick out embedded commands while listening. and incorporate Weasel Phrases into the next several discussions you have about that subject as well. • Repetition .It's not just about using one. intrigued. that you are saying and using embedded commands at the time. and to "soften" the way in which something is said.just general things that would cause a person to be interested in something.2. think of it like this. To make it easy. 2) Get your SS audio materials and listen for these. feel. after another. Just say this stuff out loud. instead "you like this" (car). These are small snippets of words and phrases which. feelings. things you would like a listener to think about. maybe a car. Make a point to "lean on it" a bit. your job. etc. your car. allowing you to say more (and maybe more provocative things) about a subject. "get excited". that you want them to experience. lets say you were selling something to someone. "see how fascinated" . • Context . Pick something that excites you! Maybe the subject is sports. but just general things (feelings or states).It's very important that the command be brought up in the context of a conversation that is interesting. Two key aspects of the use of Embedded Commands are often overlooked. 3) Take the written SS materials. or experience while they are thinking about that subject. Like "feel excited". 4) Pick a topic that YOU are very interested in.. make note of the embedded commands. maybe pausing for a moment before one. While doing it. issue a "command" or statement that instructs someone do something. and where the person's emotions or feelings are somehow active (This "context" issue is discussed later in the product in great detail in Conversational Management sections. its about multiple usage (bombardment)! Exercises for Embedded Commands 1) Get our your written SS materials (written) and look for embedded commands in a few pages of the text. Write down things that would make someone interested.
6) Do the same thing again. Start to place some emphasis on the command itself. Strategic Formula for Embedded Commands Use embedded commands repeatedly and in the proper context. or school. and with that list that YOU wrote in hand. pausing. but now focus more on "leaning" on the embedded commands a bit. Page 18 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 5) Start talking about that topic out loud. Maybe slowing down slightly. just enough to put the emphasis on the command. see just how many of the embedded commands in that list that YOU can say! First. to create a compelling will on the part of the listener follow you and listen to you. 2) Select another subject that is a part of your life. but something where being influential may help. 4) The next several times that subject comes up in your life. Assignments for Embedded Commands 1) Look at the list of Commands that you wrote and practiced that deal with a subject in which you are interested (exercise 4 above). Write down a list of at least 5 commands that work well in that subject. work on just saying them and finding a way to bring them up. Maybe it's not a passion or real interest. The next several times that you talk about that subject with anyone. start using a few of these commands when speaking. changing your voice. Maybe you work in sales. in the context of talking about that subject. Subject Embedded Commands 3) Practice the use of those commands. make some effort to use some of these commands in the context of a real discussion. or maybe it has to deal with your job. and make it sound natural. out loud. See how natural you can make them sound. that would assist you in being more influential.
she has to actually feel it to some extent. For example. Take a moment and try to emphasize the linking in some way. when you say "this feeling". and then making an ambiguous reference to that feeling using your words. • In order for her to understand the feeling being discussed. 3) Take the written SS materials. it's easier than you think! Just talking about a subject and getting her to be a part of the discussion. and feel emotions. If she is experiencing these feelings in your presence. and make this "link" even more effective. • However. ALL of those possible definitions apply! Then. The most common linking phrase/tool that guys think about is the phrase "now with me". and inexact. which is an ambiguous way of referencing what she is thinking about. then to the deeper levels of her mind. 2) Get your SS audio materials and listen for these. non-specific. you become more associated with those feelings. emotions. • • • • • • • Now with me In me In myself with this these this belief these feelings Exercises for Linking 1) Get our your written SS materials (written) and look for examples of Linking in the text. However.2.) Page 19 . and read some of this material aloud. "in myself.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. and talking to you. will "link" them to you. then on some level that is creating this "link". and getting her to experience. You can also make reference to "in me".5 Linking D3-T42 Linking is a way to take the feelings. she has to feel it on some level (and she will. make note of where linking is taking place. etc. see if you can add more phrases to the list below. you are talking "about" a feeling or sensation.While listening to the audio. Linking Phrases . you speak of "this feeling". "this interest". also "this" and "these" as in "this feeling" of "these feelings". on some level. Just to "process" what is being discussed. Maybe play one tape or CD. recall. if you are talking about a great feeling of excitement that a woman has had or is having. Are you talking about the "feeling" she had at some time in the past? Are you talking about the feeling she is having right now? • Because you are using terms like "this". as long as there is good rapport). See if you can pick out Linking Phrases while listening. and experiences that are being discussed and associate or "link" them to you. change in voice tone. the linking tools and techniques will add to this. In some ways. while looking at you. which is ambiguous (non-exact). using some of the techniques that have been discussed in this course (pausing. While doing so. etc. you are being ambiguous. What is this based upon? • When talking.
Doing linking in an exercise like this is difficult and hard to make it sound "natural". or change your voice. Another example would be to take the phrase "Get excited" and turn that into "get excited by THESE things". This may seem strange and sound a bit "off". This will sound easier for you as we go on. Start talking about that topic out loud.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4) Take the list of embedded commands that you created in an earlier exercise (Exercise #4 in section 2. That's ok.2. you could say "feel excited by this" or "feel excited now" (you can also link things by putting in a reference to NOW). and using the list above. pause. the linking is ambiguous and doesn't reference you directly. Assignments for Linking No separate assignment for this. but now focus more on "leaning" a bit on the Linkage Phrases.4). it's much better if picked up along-the-way. Plus the next section will make this much easier! Strategic Formula for Linking After getting someone to experience good feelings and emotions. Embedded Command Linkage Phrase 5) Pick a topic that YOU are interested in as we did before (it can be the same one you used in Exercise #4 in section 2. work on just saying them and finding a way to bring them up. Maybe slow down slightly. etc. Page 20 . "these feelings". You can even add the ever-popular "now.4). Write down the list of commands and an associated linkage phrase for each below.) For example. where you listed "feel excited". just enough to put emphasis on the Linkage Phrase. this will come to you much more easily. with me" after one of more of the commands in your list. (Again. link them to you so that YOU become something and someone that they feel good about. "this person or thing". In some manner. As you hear more and more examples of this throughout the course. and see if you can "add" text to each to link them to you in some way.2. First. A quick way of doing this is to simply add "this feeling". see just how many of the Embedded Commands and Linkage Phrases that you can use in your dialog. 6) Now do the same thing again.
Possessive (sort of "includes" something) • That . Consider four words in the English language: • This • That • These • Those These are forms of pronouns.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. "this person" tends to sound like the person that is there. that feeling • This sensation. so you are not using a name or specific reference. that person • This direction. these refer to plural items.6 Easy-Linking (This. • These people. So. or not there at the time. • This person. those directions • These feelings. (In some cases. in general. these and those are plural • These . with "these" being the possessive form. In this case. That. This and that tend to refer to singular items.Possessive • Those . exciting. and included. So. and it can be done a LOT. this & that are singular • This . for that multiple-instance bombardment that we spoke of before! The idea of linking wild. Whereas "that person" refers to someone "away" some "other" person who is not in the immediate area. there are times when they cannot be switched. those feelings • These sensations. those sensations So.2. seductive feelings to you may be great but. Those) D4-T1 Listen to an example where many of these are used. who cares? Well these are almost interchangeable! You can switch this/that in sentences as you wish. one "thing". those people • These directions. This means they are ambiguous! Consider this and that. that direction • This feeling. but that will be quite obvious when you try to do that).Non-Possessive (seems to reference something "else" or something "away") Consider these and those. For example. This is a new and very effective way to do linking that is easy to learn and master. but do so in a general manner. and "that" is not.Non-Possessive For example. that sensation They differ though in that "this" seems possessive. and one is not. Given that one type is possessive. use the possessive form when saying or talking about ANYTHING POSITIVE and use the non-possessive form when saying anything negative! Page 21 . These. a GREAT strategy is to link anything and everything positive to you (and link negative things away from yourself. they reference a "thing". with you.
That. for a good ten minutes. This person is good. That person is not. These. Those Page 22 . and the correct form of This. Use "That" and "Those" when referring to anything negative. Small sentence that includes that attribute. 2) Say the lines below. This is good.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • This That These Those Singular possessive Singular non-possessive Plural possessive Plural non-possessive Anything Anything Anything Anything Positive Negative Positive Negative You can learn to do this (to choose which of these words to use) in real-time through training! Tactical Formula for Easy-Linking Use "This" and "These" when referring to anything positive. and those depending on whether the item is positive or negative. for a good ten minutes. Exercises for Easy-Linking 1) Say the lines below. Write down (below) ten attributes. Those people are not. out loud. Subject: Attributes or "things about" that subject. That is not. using the correct versions of That. write a small sentence for each. or singular/plural. That. out loud. These people are good. These are good. Those are not. These. For each of these attributes or things. or "things about" that subject. you have discussed a subject (and written a lot of text about it) that is important to you. ' 3) Earlier in the workbook.
These sections help to train you in these types of techniques. These. Those 6) Talk out loud about the subject mentioned above for a good 5-10 minutes. That. D4-T13 Page 23 . beyond the small bits and pieces of language. using the appropriate form of This. Small sentence that includes that attribute. Great speakers use movement to their advantage.3 MORE TOOLS D4-T12 Now we are getting into a different area. 5) Pick another subject. These. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. and then write a small sentence for each. That. Anchoring Anchoring is associating a feeling or emotional state to a sensory experience. and the correct form of This. list ten attributes or things about that subject. Subject: Attributes or "things about" that subject. and their movement becomes a part of their communication. and once again.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4) Talk out loud about that subject for a good 5-10 minutes. and Those. 2.
1 Pointing and Gestures D4-T14 Good speakers use their hands. towards. and that are very very easy to do. so that the use of these becomes automatic. How to • • • do this: Get your hands out of your pockets. 2. Move! We will start by generating SOME movement. and then we can work on deliberate movement such as • Pointing towards and away from things • Towards yourself and away from yourself Exercises for Pointing and Gestures 1) Find a good speaker on TV. passionate. Use your hands to accentuate certain points. point up. Read some of that text (from an earlier exercise) out loud. so these techniques discussed here will help. and that you are passionate about. and that you end up talking about with people quite often. Then later on see if you can start to become aware of what your hands are doing WHILE you are in the conversation. maybe a motivational speaker. and hopefully the conversations are interesting. have energy. and some gestures. Subjects Page 24 . Pick something YOU are interested in. and to do multiple times. Watch how they move. Assignments for Pointing and Gestures 1) For the next few days. after the conversation has ended. BE excited! Use your hands and arms for emphasis. 2) Get one of the text lists from an earlier exercise (weasel phrases. political speaker. We will break down many of the component parts of this into skills that we will teach you bit by bit. However we will focus on things that can create a LOT of effectiveness. Get your hands OUT of your pockets and AWAY from your body! Act excited. or even a preacher. talking about a subject that YOU are interested in. make note of where your hands are when speaking. etc. down.3. 2) List 3 subjects that you really enjoy. and way from your sides. etc. Most guys are too boring and too reserved when talking. How often are they in your pockets? How often do they just lie by your side and never move? Make note of this after-the-fact. Don't flail about wildly. and away from yourself. etc). They may be a bit over-the-top (speaking to an audience is different than speaking one-on-one) but just watch them for a while. to help make their point.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Many different types of anchoring can be done and we are only going to cover some very basic tools. embedded commands.
These sections help to train you in these types of techniques.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4) Talk out loud about that subject for a good 5-10 minutes. using the appropriate form of This. These. and then write a small sentence for each. 2. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking.3 MORE TOOLS D4-T12 Now we are getting into a different area. Anchoring Anchoring is associating a feeling or emotional state to a sensory experience. and their movement becomes a part of their communication. Great speakers use movement to their advantage. and once again. That. 5) Pick another subject. and the correct form of This. Small sentence that includes that attribute. Subject: Attributes or "things about" that subject. Those 6) Talk out loud about the subject mentioned above for a good 5-10 minutes. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. D4-T13 Page 23 . beyond the small bits and pieces of language. That. and Those. These. list ten attributes or things about that subject.
Bad. Do your best to re-enact that discussion (say what you said. and MOVE. make a point to get your hands OUT of your pockets. very easily. make a note to go ahead and move. point or gesture towards yourself. point away. • Or hold your hand away from yourself (to send things "away") How to use it • Good to do in the context of being a person that already MOVES when talking! • Make this subtle. away.2 Linking Gestures (Towards And Away) D4-T22 This is a fast and easy way to link positive states to you. Read that out loud. Do something. away. etc. ANYTHING. and every time something positive is being talked about. Say the following out loud while gesturing in the correct direction: Good.3.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course For each of these subjects. or • You can place your hand on your chest or abdomen in a subtle manner (to link things to you) . and accentuate what you are saying in order to be more compelling as a speaker and to get even more attention from your listener or audience. and MOVE! Do this out loud. and send Negative things away • You can point towards or away from yourself. but this time use your hands. 2. arms. and the repetition works for you! • Can do in various contexts. Bring Positive things toward yourself.) 2) Grab some of your written SS materials. and AWAY from your sides and MOVE when talking about these subjects. point towards yourself.). point or gesture away. towards. gesture.. and others. and when anything negative is mentioned. just start to MOVE. This technique allows you to do this many many times. Bad (gesture towards. Tactical Formula for Linking Gestures Whenever you say something negative. no need to WILDLY gesture! • You can do this many many times. gesture. Strategic Formula for Pointing and Gestures Move. Good. or at least be able to move. and animate to some extent the next time you talk about them. Whenever you say something positive. Page 25 . and to send negative things "away" from yourself.. Exercises for Linking Gestures 1) Stand up. many people move when talking This technique is most powerful when used at a time when emotions and/or imagination are engaged in the conversation. As you get more comfortable with this. motion. recall a recent time when you had such a discussion. 3) With these three subjects in mind. etc.
have energy. Say "this". passionate. or at least sit where you can move. start with a few. Subjects Do your best to re-enact that discussion. That. Linking Gestures and Easy-Linking together: • • • Use the pointing/gestures on Positive and Negative things (point towards and away). and that you end up talking about with people quite often. gesture towards yourself or place your hand(s) on yourself.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Remember the text we used in an earlier example here in the workbook? Read that out loud.3. Exercises for Easy Linking Expanded 1) Stand up. Conversely. Use "This. Assignments for Linking Gestures 1) List 3 subjects that you really enjoy. Point to you Negative statement. etc. Say "these". When you say These or Those. make a note to go ahead and use these Linking Gestures to some extent the next time you talk about them. recall a recent time when you had such a discussion. and every time something positive is being talked about. but this time when you are speaking of anything good or positive. This is veryeasy to do over and over for that repetitive effect. Those . Point away Positive statement. Point to you Negative Say "those". For each of these subjects. Say "that". Those" correctly Combine these and use them at the same time! When you say This or These. and MOVE. Pick something that YOU are interested in. Start subtle. Point away. etc. Do the following out loud: Page 26 .) D4-T30 Now we bring together Linking Gestures and Easy Linking. 2. point away. but you don't have to do it every time! That will seem strange! Tactical Formula for Easy Linking Expanded Positive statement.. say what you said. 2) With these three subjects in mind. and hopefully the conversations are interesting. point away.3 Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This. these can be the same as the last set of assignments). That. motion away or place your hands/arms away.. (yes. points towards yourself. when anything negative is mentioned. These. point towards yourself and when anything negative is mentioned. Do this out loud. These. it will become easier and easier.
Do this in a way that maybe makes it seem like you are doing it for emphasis. Use the correct versions of This. and thoughts to you but in a general sense. Practice it enough and in connection with earlier exercises. it's good to be close enough (within arms-length) so that the "touch" is easy to do. and say "that".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Point to yourself. 2. That. This is more easily done if you are standing at the side or at an angle.3. it's very useful to Anchor anything and everything positive to you! In some ways. touch them! This "Easy Anchoring" works in any context: • they laugh. and emotions to yourself. That. On Positive D4-T35 Let's look at anchoring in light of the 80/20 rule (where 80% of the results come from 20% of the effort). specific states. a laugh. while pointing towards or away from yourself in the correct manner. a realization. These. But to get even more effectiveness when anything positive happens. and Those if you can. Point away. trying to add in more instances of This. it's more difficult. etc. an expression. That. touch them • they seem to go into a pleasant state. Also.Point or Touch. The more that "emotions" are being accessed. These. we are doing that already by pointing "towards" on positive things and "away" on negative things using Linking. and say "this". the more effective it tends to be. If you are head-on directly in front of a person. and able to be done many many times. it will become automatic. Those in the correct ways) to associate even more positive feelings. Can we apply this to anchoring? Yes! • We need a way to do some basic anchoring that is very simple. touch them • they smile. states.. It may be good to anchor feelings. you are anchoring them in a subtle way.. touch them This is best done in a "moment" with some emotion. Strategic Formula for Easy Linking Expanded Combine the use of Linking Gestures (towards yourself when positive. These.) with Easy Linking (using This. Page 27 . Point away and say "those" Repeat! This WILL help to train you! 2) Remember the text we used in an earlier example? Speak that text out loud. or when the person you are talking to goes into a Positive state.4 Easy Anchoring . and Those. Point back to yourself and say "these". and away when negative. but actually.
Write those down. See if you can recall how it was. without really thinking about it. etc.. and note to yourself the correlation between how long the touch lasted and the level of rapport. but in many cases. Also note the degree of eye contact.. Tactical Formula for Easy Anchoring When the person you are talking with displays a positive feeling of some type. • When joking with someone. or Topic being discussed 2) Recall those 5 times. but a bit more "deliberate". also make a point to make and maintain eye contact as well. but yet have some degree of rapport already (maybe this is a friend-of-a-friend. • Think about when you greet a friend. make a point to hold it just slightly longer than usual. What do you do? You shake their hand. (Not romantically. Page 28 . This is the same type of thing. intrigue. maybe pat on the back. and the situation or topic being discussed. laugh. directly to you. maybe someone who you have heard about). just a touch.. A laugh A moment of recognition or realization When someone starts talking quietly.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course You probably do this already in certain situations. Exercises for Easy Anchoring 1) Think about the last 5 times where you touched someone in this type of way. you just touch his or her upper arm or upper back. Person '" Situation. a smile. such as. vividly. 2) Spend some time looking for moments (positive ones) where a touch would be appropriate. interest.) Maybe a handshake Maybe a pat on the back Maybe a funny gesture Make a note of the person. you grab their upper arm as well. Assignments for Easy Anchoring 1) The next several times you shake someone's hand. touch them to help anchor it to you. • Think about when you meet and are introduced to someone.
Fast • • • Pause o Energy And Enthusiasm • Passionate or Boring? LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS o Adjectives And Adverbs • Be descriptive o Trance Words • Instantaneously.. o Embedded Commands • Can you do this now. You are noticing this after-the-fact. Then. That.. Those Page 29 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course At first. Find Yourself o Weasel Phrases • If I were to . but as you notice these moments. o Easy-Linking • This. anchoring and associating yourself to positive and intriguing feelings in other people helps to make them feel positive towards and intrigued by you. Suddenly.4 REVIEW D4-T46 We are well on our way.. language. 2. and you have already learned a LOT of the detailed speaking. DO IT! Strategic Formula for Easy Anchoring In general. to be cool o Voice Tone And Tonality • Nose. Those MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures • Move! Point! o Linking Gestures • Towards And Away o Easy Linking Expanded • Pointing With This. Mouth. that a touch is appropriate. These. and movement skills that will be used later in the course. in-the-moment. These. Chest o Pacing And Pausing • Slow. see if you can have at least 5 instances of knowing. 3) Now that you have started to notice these "moments" where a touch would be appropriate. • SPEAKING POINTERS o The "Cool" Factor • You don't have to be cold. when you have the chance. maybe you don't touch them.. think "I could have touched them THEN". we want you to actually DO IT! So. That. o Linking " with me..
Page 30 . and later to Conversational Management techniques.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o Easy Anchoring • Point Or Touch On Positive And Negative With these parts behind you. we will move onwards to work on Language Structures.
move with them conversationally for a while. The minute you do anything like that to get someone else's "approval". acknowledge what the other person is saying. the sort of things that you need to get used to doing automatically. Changing the Viewpoint or Frame if Mind .. incorrect. 3. show understanding (does not have to be agreement necessarily) and then . be able to just "do". however you can break rapport..Can you just knock someone into agreeing with you? Can you be that bold? Yes.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3. you might bring up a new way of looking at it. To "Pace" means to just BE a part of the conversation. Agree or not agree? . Don't argue! . You almost NEVER impress people that way! To pace/lead well. etc. say things such as. but you can break rapport in the process. For example. It can mean this. but will hopefully at some point. but you need a lot of power to do it and you risk breaking rapport. or to try to "impress" them. towards where you want things to go. These were tactical details. you are lost. then and give them another way of looking at it. Pace and Lead allows us to "join" someone..Some people misunderstand and think that to "Pace" means to "agree". You MAY be able to do that.. These techniques give you ways to use and arrive at languaging in a manner that will make you more persuasive.0 LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES D5-T1 We have been working on bits and pieces of language. Now we are moving "up" a level. all of the time.Can you just abruptly jerk a conversation towards where you want it to go? Maybe.. Are they useful and possible? • • • Trying to knock or jar someone into a different direction or way of thinking can be risky.. Changing Topics and Subjects . Fast and abrupt changes . telling someone they are wrong.1 PACE AND LEAD D5-T2 Pace and Lead . and then take them in some direction. and more influential in general.Some people try to display higher knowledge or value by "arguing". Challenges • Can't you just bluntly offer a different view? Yes.. move them . but agreeing is just a special case. into higher-level stuff. o That's one way to see it o I understand your point Page 31 • • . you might make comments (some that agree and some that may not) but the key is that you are "Taking part in" the conversation and topics at hand. You might disagree. things that you should not even have to really "think about". it's best to meet or join someone in some way.A way to change directions • In someone's way of thinking • In the conversation To make a change in direction in some manner. but you must do so powerfully and do NOT look for "acceptance".. or "bigger chucks" as we say.
. . allowing you to move things more in your favor later on. I get it. Instead . I read/saw/heard the same thing . • Well.. Then start to move or shift things in a different way.. acknowledgement. So. In addition. and/or interest.it's like this.. Maybe • • • • • • continue showing an understanding or interest So what you mean is .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o o That's interesting I see what you are saying. Impressing someone with your knowledge... a way that you want..1 General Pace and Lead Techniques D5-T9 Here are some examples of ways to do these steps with example wording for each.. it makes YOU look bad. Strategic Formula for Pacing and Leading Pacing and Leading allows you "be" in the conversation for a while and gain rapport and information. Let me make sure I understand .... I also think you can see .. and then moving things forward in some manner..BE IMPRESSIVE! People really don't like to be proven dumb or wrong! Most people are offended or "put off by such attempts.. Let them know you are listening and understand (using wording such as shown below. the implication is that you NEED someone's approval.. or.. have you thought about this ... Page 32 .. and some of then want to go out and "impress" people with their newfound knowledge. as if you "need" their approval... I see • That's interesting • I get it • Hmmmmm .. Tactical Formula for Pacing and Leading Show agreement.. To TRY to IMPRESS is bad.. Arguing! Many smart guys study these techniques and technologies.1. understanding.) • Yes. • Alright. what you are saying is .. showing that you are a part of it. The point here is not to memorize these "lines". That hardly ever works. 3. So if I understand this .. if you attempt to do that. Then start to direct things in a different way . but to really get a sense of being IN the conversation. Ok... • Ok ..
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I hear you, and what else is interesting is .... •-. That's a good way of looking at it, something else that is important is ....
The Formula for Pacing and Leading is ... acknowledge and then start to shift things ... Maybe you want to shift things more and/or bring up another issue or viewpoint entirely (or maybe you actually disagree) • That's one way of looking at it, however I think ... • Yes, I understand, I have also heard ... • Ok, that makes sense, another way of thinking about it is .. • Alright, but on the other hand... Some general methods you can use to introduce the "leading" aspect, you can talk about... • What you know, believe, understand • What a friend or colleague has said • What you heard • What you read • etc. 3.1.2 Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects D5-T12
Lets say you find some people talking about a topic. Do you walk up, interrupt, and start an entirely new topic? No. (Well, you can, but that takes a lot of power and has a lot of risk.) A better way is to enter the conversation, talk about it (Pace), and then move the conversation into areas that you want it to go (Lead). Examples: • You are in a conversation and the topic is cars. People are talking about prices, loans, etc. You acknowledge what is being said, contribute to that conversation (pace), and then start to bring in the idea of how a car handles, how it feels, and how exciting it is to drive certain cars (lead). • People are discussing clothes, various brands, types, etc. You talk about that with them (pace) for a while, and then start to bring up the idea of how clothes make you feel, how you feel differently when wearing different things ... etc (lead)
Tactical Formula for Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects Show agreement, understanding, acknowledgement, and/or interest in the topic or subject. Then start to move or shift topic or subject in a different way, a way that you want.
Exercises for Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects 1) Think about some recent conversations you have had with people about different topics, hopefully these conversations and/or this topic is something that occurs a lot for you (based on interests you have, people you know, etc). Recall a specific "moment" in each conversation. Note what was being discussed, and what point was being talked about. Make a note of each of them. Also note, where did that actual conversation go next?
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course What were you talking about in this "moment"?
Conversation with whom?
Where did it go next?
2) Pace and Lead Gently Out loud, practice as if you were talking in each of the discussions above, and paced the conversation and topic, and then lead it in some direction. In this exercise, simply show agreement, understanding, and/or interest, and then lead in the same general direction. Maybe bring up a new example, new point, new issue, but just sort of "take over" the conversation. 3) Pace and Lead in a New Direction Next, for each of those instances, provide an example where you show agreement, understanding, and/or interest, but now start to "move" things in a new direction. Maybe the conversation that you had started at this one "point" and went in a specific direction ... Now, for this exercise, practice taking it in a new and different direction. Maybe introduce a different aspect of the topic or subject, something not mentioned before, or not normally talked about. The key is to first show agreement, understanding, and/or interest and THEN do this "shift", and you LEAD things in a different way.
Assignments for Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects 1) Make note of three conversations that you tend to have with people on a regular basis. Person or People Subjects we discuss
2) The next times these conversations happen, make a point to "Show agreement, understanding, and/or interest" (Pace). Then "Then start to move things" (Lead) in your own way, Do this by introducing a different aspect of that topic, or a related topic/subject. Don't make this shift or change really abrupt or different, just make a point to sort of "direct" where things move, even if that direction is close to where it was going anyway. Just make sure YOU are the one that moves it. Note the text and examples given earlier as a way to do that. 3) Once you can do the above, now make a point to have your "Lead" incorporate a real change of some type.
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Normally, even without your input, the conversation tends to go in a certain way. The earlier exercise had you just keep thing moving in that same direction. Now you are to "take" the conversation somewhere else towards a different or related topic. Just introduce a new aspect of the topic, a different thing, a different direction, so that you are really "leading" where things go. Remember the language that you were shown earlier. Use languaging like... You know what ELSE is interesting You know what * l * have found (seen, felt) Another way of doing this would be .. You know what ELSE can happen ... is ...
Pace and Lead-Mindset or Frame of Mind
You can change the way people look at things, their mindset, and their "frame of mind". For example, imagine you are having a discussion and people are talking in a certain "frame of mind" (not directly, it's just their way of seeing things). The point here is to acknowledge that frame, and then introduce another way of seeing things, another "frame", or another "mindset". What is • • • • a "frame"? In general it's ... A way someone "sees" something. What it "means" to them. The way they "feel" about it. The significance or meaning that it has.
Looking at the formula for Pace and Lead, you apply that by first acknowledging the current Frame, and then start to lead by bringing up another way of thinking about it and/or looking at it. You bring a new "frame" into the discussion. (This is a way of shifting that way people LOOK at things, the significance that it has, or their mindset regarding certain topics or behaviours). In the earlier example of Pacing and Leading of Topics and Subjects, we were talking just about a thing, a topic, or subject. Now we are talking about a feeling, or the way things are "seen" or what they "mean". For example, people may be talking about: • Taking risks • Feeling good or bad • Having a good day or a bad day • Making choices • What an event "meant" to them • How someone else actions affected them • How a decision affected them. There is a "frame" (of mind) behind each of these discussions and with proper technique, that frame and mindset may be changed. Look back at the "Methods" section earlier for some details and examples of how to introduce this pacing and leading (there are some lists of languaging examples provided). Examples: • You enter a conversation where people are talking about risks, Risks at work, risks in finances, risks in life. You Pace by discussing this for a while. The frame or mindset here is that risks are bad, dangerous,
. and how anyone of quality . and/or interest in the mindset or frame of mind . What was the "frame". the people. (You are shifting her frame so that she may start to look at different things in men..Mindset or Frame of Mind 1) Think about some recent conversations you have had with people about different topics. now its being framed as exciting). she talks about what their professions are. Page 36 .. You agree on some level (pace) and chat about that. and what "kind" of man she likes (height. (Risk was framed as dangerous. where the point of the discussion in that moment was: The way they "see" something.. and the "frame" that was in use. Recall a specific "moment" in the conversation. and paced it. understanding. a new meaning. some risks have good rewards. understanding. the viewpoint. • Another conversation has a woman talking about what she looks for in men. etc). In this exercise simply Show agreement.. looks for more. Note what was being discussed. the frame of mind or mindset is the focus here.. Again. Do this OUT LOUD. Exercises for Pace and Lead . or provide a relevant example. With whom? Topic? Mindset / Frame of Mind 2) Pace and Lead Gently Practice as if you were talking in that discussion. Then you start to lead by bringing up the idea that some risks are fun and interesting. and then lead it in some direction. some men will just "write off a woman that is a certain size. Just sort of "take over" the conversation. etc.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course have consequences. some risks make you feel alive. The frame here is that she has her "standards" and that this is good for her.Mindset or Frame of Mind Show agreement. what point was being talked about. etc.. The way they "feel" about it. What it "means" to them. the assumption? What is the frame of mind behind the viewpoints that they had? Write down the topic. and/or interest in the Mindset or Frame of mind. weight. Towards a way that you want. and you are working to change the way she screens out guys.. Then start to move or shift the frame by introducing another way of looking at things. Make a note of each of them.) Tactical Formula for Pace and Lead . who is like 5 lbs overweight. then lead in the same general direction. Maybe bring up a similar way of looking at it.. then start to move into talking about how men do this as well. acknowledgement. or may be perfect but with the wrong hair color (lead). The frame you are bring up is how superficial it is to judge based on numbers and details.
Write down these subjects. or something you heard or read. understanding. etc someone looks at a political issue. Maybe bring up a different viewpoint or way of looking at it. to find a positive way of looking at the situation. and/or interest. The key is to first Show agreement. Page 37 . and their motivations etc. Assignments for Pace and Lead . Examples: someone complains a lot. or something someone said. and HE is the one with the limitation someone complains about work and the managers. Do this OUT LOUD for each example. and/or interest in the Mindset or Frame of Mind but now start to "move" things in a new direction.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 3) Pace and Lead in a New Direction Next. A good way to do it is to show agreement and understanding. you are just acknowledging the Mindset or Frame in this example. Maybe find a way. even if that direction is close to where it was going anyway.Mindset or Frame of Mind 1) Make note of three conversations that you tend to have with people on a regular basis. Maybe bring up a way of looking at things that is totally different. what it "means" that is not really in agreement with what was said. and they are the one not taking risks someone is prejudiced or judges other people. With whom? Subject/Topic? Mindset / Frame of Mind 2) Pace and Lead Gently The next times these conversations happen. understanding. and/or interest" (Pace). and maybe point out a similar example from your own life. Think about discussions where YOU can see that these people involved are working on a certain set of assumptions. provide an example where you Show agreement. and the frame associated with each. but just make a point to sort of "direct" where things move. for each of those instances. maybe even limiting beliefs or beliefs that really hold them back. and THEN do this "shift". Basically. and you LEAD things in a different way. but really his mindset is the problem someone talks about wanting something different. a frame of reference. and makes assumptions (has a certain frame) about people or groups. make a point to "Show agreement. and says they are cheap. Maybe acknowledge and then bring up an opposing view. Don't make this really abrupt or different. These should be of a type where THE "frame" or mindset is something of which you are aware. Then "start to move things" (Lead) in your own way. some way. Do this by introducing a "way of looking at it" that is similar to the one that is already being used. understanding.
.. A friend of mine used to feel the same way and they. o You are probably wondering Page 38 • • . A "safe" way to do this would be to find a positive way to look at the situation.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Pace and Lead In a New Direction Once you can do the above.. o While you are .... o While you think .. o While you see . o After you have .. The general way to approach this is: • Start by pacing something that is obvious about their current reality . and allow the conversation to continue with the same frame of mind in place. but it can work well and adds to the power of the languaging. o As you see . it might not be that bad. using words such as) o As you are . even without your input.... Again. another way of looking at it is . Meaning.. there was a certain "frame" being discussed.. The earlier exercise had you just sort of "run" with that. a new mindset. o While you are . or used by very powerful speakers. Now you are to "take" the conversation somewhere else and bring up a new mindset or frame of mind... What is done here is that you Pace based on something that is obvious (obvious in their "current reality"). This is a small-chunk detail and technique.. Some ways to do that is by saying things such as. and new way of looking at things. these techniques are used a LOT.. Just introduce a new frame. Continue to Pace by maybe stating an obvious point about their current reality o seeing XYZ o feeling XYZ o thinking about XYZ o etc.. focus on the Mindset or Frame.Current Reality D5-T29 If you look at the languaging used in things like hypnosis... but just find a positive way to look at what is being discussed. This may be different from the way the subject or belief WAS framed or thought of.. and then use that to lead someone somewhere..1. (for example. now make a point to have your "Lead" incorporate a real change of some type.. You know.4 Pace and Lead .. point towards a specific Mindset or Frame that is of YOUR choosing. o As you feel.. a new aspect of "what it means".. • At least it's not like XYZ... it could be . Well... o As you realize . "Pace" their mindset. o etc. or assumed by the people involved. 3.. and/or express what is on their mind...
and do.. o you will start to notice o you may realize o you may start to think o you may see how . Warning . The more you hear this. then you are probably wondering . o another thing you will see/feel/notice is . the more it will "sink in".." • You will hear a LOT of this in this course (which is part of your re-programming!) Tactical Formula for Pace and Lead ..2 GIVE THEM A REASON D5-T32 Give someone a reason for someone to listen ... you will begin to notice this .. it starts to become annoying to the listener.Current Reality 1) Listen to this section again.. "As you feel this. Make note of how many times I have paced your current reality.) • Then you will "Y" Where "Y" is something you want them to experience (Lead) Exercises for Pace and Lead .Pacing Reality too much can seem arrogant.. If you spend too much time saying things similar to "I know what you are thinking"..... what you are thinking. o notice what its like as .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • o As you are thinking about o I know you are concerned about o The issue that may be on your mind is o The question you may have is Begin to lead .. Studies have been done with persuasive language that show that giving a reason will make people more apt to do things for you and agree with you. and "As that feeling builds... Page 39 .Current Reality As (while ) you) are "X" (Pace) Where "X" is something that is true in their current reality (perceptions..... Rewind or go back a few tracks. • You are talking to someone at work . what you are hearing." • Physical demos use this a lot. "as you are watching this presentation . etc. Really pay attention and see how many times I have done pacing and leading in this manner. o you will then .. o state what you want them to see/feel/hear/realize Examples: • As you are listening to this program ..". Point them to where you want to lead them . thoughts. 3..... what you are reading.......
the addition of this small "reason" will make people much more agreeable and apt to let you do what you would like. then it may be difficult to get people to agree. come up with another reason. anything. requesting something. remarkably. Write these down. • You are talking to someone and you would like to pull her aside and make the conversation more private. It could be asking for coffee. Tactical Formula for Give Them a Reason Request X because (of) Y Exercises for Give Them a Reason 1) Make note of the last five times you asked someone for something.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Don't worry about "losing your power" or being too "nice". Examples: • You walk up to a copier at work and there are three people in line. Assignments for Give Them A Reason 1) Make note of five routine situations that you have in your life where you are asking for something. Page 40 . lets move over there". "hey. if you say "Let's move over there because it's more quiet" you will be amazed at how much more agreeable the person may be. because I am really in a hurry" then. just providing a reason. or asked someone to do something. they may go with you. it just helps to make people more agreeable (and there are statistics to support that as well). "Is it ok if I make copies next". If you say. Person What did you ask for? 2) Practice out loud how you might "ask" for that favor or make that request again. if you say "Is it ok if I make copies next. However. and out loud. The examples will be better if these are people you do not know. or at least people that are not close friends of yours. You are not being apologetic or anything. However. Write these down. you don't need to be concerned about these things. 3) Go through the same list again. but put in a reason of some type. asking "can I pay by credit card". This technique does not provide a 100% guarantee. If you just say.
don't just provide one reason. • Training for sales people use this quite a bit. or excuse. which support your point. it's difficult to debate them all or object to them all (not to be combative. and quite well. Page 41 . 3. • When you give several reasons at once. you get someone to agree and then lead them 3. • For the sake of a conversation. Power in Numbers . or giving an example. go ahead and mention the "reason". See if you can make it automatic. just as an example) • Hypnotists use this technique a LOT. statement. actually ends up being several points.Repetition in a way that serves you. and flow easily.3. • This is somewhat similar to a "pace and lead".1 General Listing D6-T4 Strategic Formula for General Listing General Listing is a way to quickly provide several reasons. 3) The next times these situations come up in your day-to-day life. or make a point. Tactical Formula for General Listing When making a point. People) What do you ask for? 2) Practice out loud some "reasons" that you could give in these situations. "List" several things or examples which support your point. so that your one "opportunity" in a conversation to make "a" point. provide several. in order to provide more power to what you are saying.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Situation (Place. or make a statement.3 LISTING D6-T1 Listen to an example where many of these are used. the items that you will "list" need to be brief points. point. This technique has been developed based on observing how many good and influential people speak: • Successful sales people • Charismatic speakers • Good debaters • Component of hypnotic languaging « Very important. • When you give a reason.
. maybe watching sports. the third item may tend to "lead" someone in some way. briefly.. Do that out loud. and start to think about in a positive way (3). what point you were trying to make. Y. Exercises for General Listing 1) Lets say you are talking to someone about "Meeting people". partying. write down who it was with. really recall listing to good speakers (2). Write them down. Select a particular aspect of that activity. For each conversation. and/or what it's like to meet people. 3. as in saying three items . etc. where each lasts several minutes. and maybe 3 different things that support your "point". Activity that you like or do often List a particular part of aspect of that activity What are three "ways" that can go? " 4) Now describe "What its like to do your activity .. and somewhat new (3)." and mention those three different ways. listing is like pacing and leading. but instead you talk ' about each for a few moments. playing a game. 3) Pick an example of an activity that you do often. Maybe your first two items in a list are obvious. Z". 5) Think of three recent conversations you have had with people where you were making a point.. maybe trying to convince someone of something (NOT an argument-just that you were making a point and would like to be more persuasive).) • I know this may sound a bit different (1).. Pick three ways that can go .... and still. Now try again by expounding on each of the items.X and then other times .2. so that you don't just say "X. Who you were talking to Page 42 . and the types of things to which no one would object. you may begin to agree. as a list. Mention the first item. doing some type of work. make them brief. what are three ways that can go? Good? Bad? Indifferent? Exciting? Boring? Pick three and write these down What are three "ways" that the experience of "meeting people" can go? 2) Now practice out loud by saying something like "Isn't it interesting how you can meet people and it happens in different ways? I mean sometimes . strange (2). Listing can be short. Z (selecting your items listed above). Each of the items in a list can also be much longer. Something you are interested in. Y. etc. etc...each of which lasts just a few seconds.. Then.. sometimes . Now. true. talk about it for a sentence or two.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Example (see the listed items shown as 1. In many ways. a. but as you listen to it (1).. then the second.
the other. Maybe you want to list several options or examples. You weren't trying to emphasize one point vs. 3. Maybe you want your list to contain many options. Now practice. However. In the earlier Listing examples. etc) By doing that. by placing YOUR preferred item at the end. a table. Who you were talking to Point you were trying to make Three items that support your "point" c. at times you want to use listing as a way to highlight or focus upon one item. Here is a way to think about it.3. Placing that particular item at the end of a list can have that effect. you put more emphasis on it. and an elephant) what tends to "stick" in your mind? (The Elephant!) The last item! By hanging an item at the end of a list.2 Listing . suggestion. Normally. it makes it seem as if you are being fair. out loud. or different types of alternatives (to a thought. Therefore. However. you were just listing several things in a list. Who you were talking to Point you were trying to make Three items that support your "point" 6) Recall a specific moment in each conversation.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Point you were trying to make Three items that support your "point" b. it sticks in the listener's head more. it's easy to think of that Page 43 . Do that for each of the three examples above. we were talking about three points in a list that all were similar. how you could bring up these three points in a list-like manner. and just providing a series of options.At The End D6-T15 If several items are mentioned in a list (for example a car. activity. the one that comes to mind the easiest is the one that YOU want someone to agree with. and tends to make THAT point the most important one.
See? Not only did I have a list of three (1. right away. you just really click and you feel this connection . they sort of fell into several groups o There are some people that. Again... or this person presents himself really well (b). the more convinced you are that that person is NOT the one! o Hopefully though.. it could be boring. I know.A t The End Listing at The End is a way to provide several options (which may differ) but to emphasize the option that YOU want. or they just have the right answers (c). and then finish with YOUR preferred item. you know . but even when describing that person. Say that one LAST and bring up two other options. etc .. Now those are different ways of seeing it. but by placing "it could be fun" last. and there is just something about this person. I have had to do that myself at times.2. you know that those people are NOT qualified (1) o Others you maybe have thought were ok at first. This course. this is one of those subtle but very powerful things that many persuasive speakers do a LOT. Again let's bring up this example of "meeting people"... one after another. When I have interviewed a lot of people. you put more emphasis on it and it tends to make that one "stick" more. Sometimes there is nothing special. b. I mean. lets say you are talking about doing some activity.. you meet someone. I put another list within THAT description (a. o Other times you get that sort of a "friend" vibe with that person. was said that at the end? By the way. or maybe you are really seeing the power of all of this! I think you can tell which option I was going for! Meeting People. o May be frustrating to you.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course one. c)! • • • • • • Strategic Formula for Listing . o It could suck. They are not all the same.. how they can almost become a blur. you eventually find this person that on some level. Examples • • Fun activity. those people doesn't mean much either way . 3).... o And other times . and the third one "eventually find this person" was the one I wanted to really "stick". In general. they are nice. you just know .that is the one (3). or instances FIRST. but you spend some time with that person (2) and the more that person talks. examples. you know? See how I did that? See how the item which I really wanted them to think about. interesting. It's just a matter of getting to this person... It's interesting though. o You know what it's like when you meet someone .. or it could really be fun. Page 44 . It may be because you like the resume (a). did you notice the use of the words this/that/these/those? Also where do you think I might have been pointing and gesturing during those examples? Job interview o Have you talked to many candidates? Yes. maybe it's boring...
Examples: • Sales . go somewhere. but mention the one which YOU want to put the most emphasis on. Maybe pause when saying it. Exercises for Listing . List three possible things that you could do and write these down. maybe controversial. Here is a way to think about it. You may want to "test" to see how the person will react to it. close. You want to mention or suggest something that is quite strong. and bring up at least two other "options" BEFORE you mention the one option that you want. Go ahead and suggest that item.At The End 1) Lets say you are going to spend a day or evening with some friends. is the item you mention LAST. where you are trying to convince people to do something. out loud. If you say Page 45 . and we always have fun .Burying Items D6-T24 When using a List. etc. 3. and seem too direct. out loud.Let say you arc trying to get someone to buy something.? Write down what the "issue" is. Maybe add an embedded command of some type.. "List" several things briefly in order.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Tactical Formula for Listing .. statement. Issue or Option What do you want? 5) Now. and therefore you do NOT want it to stick out too much. In that case.At The End When making a point. placing something at the end can add to its power and make it stand out. LAST. Maybe you want to suggest something very direct or quite controversial and you do NOT want to give it too much prominence. talk about the issue. or giving an example. mentioning all of these in a list. Maybe add a small "list" within that last item (because it's inexpensive. but place some more emphasis on that last item.3 Listing . 4) What is an example from your life (recently). and they are haggling or objecting a bit. and you are all figuring out how you are going to spend your time. However. make sure that the one that YOU want to do. agree to some point. it makes sense to "bury" that item in the middle of a list. and what the result is that YOU want. 3) Do that again. etc. buy some thing. At times however.). it can be TOO obvious. but bury it inside a list.3. Three things that you and your friends could do (activity) 2) Practice.
But if you switch the order. But of she smiles and seems interested. See? Putting that one. more "appropriate" items to lighten it up.. This is also a good way of testing someone's response. It also allows you a chance to watch the persons reaction to it. or possibly you just still want to negotiate .Lets say you have met a women at a party. lets say you are working on a project and things are behind schedule." Doesn't that sound better? Meeting at a Party .Burying Items When giving examples or options to someone. that you will just seize this chance and get it while you can! That sounds almost TOO forceful. bury it inside a list. Very direct. and when you say it at the end like that. For example. Page 46 .. maybe it IS too direct.. and maybe there is a possibility of you even spending that night together. its your choice.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • "Well. just suggesting. we can talk in a few days. lets say that you want to say something or suggest something that is very direct.Burying Items is a way to mention an outrageous or very direct option for "testing" purposes. So maybe you say something like o "Well. • Instead of thinking about it in terms of a list. Instead. There are several options but. seems to "lighten" it up somehow. that you are almost "worried" about how the listener may react. or maybe you want it so much. you don't just say "we can slip the deadline". Lets say your idea is so controversial and over-the-top. The idea of " seize this chance and get it while you can" is something rather challenging to say (as the seller) that directly. it's your choice.. However.. If she gasps and has a look of shock and horror when you make that suggestion. maybe you seize this chance and get it while you can . Strategic Formula for Listing . that may be a GOOD sign. we can leave together right now.. or maybe I'll call you tomorrow". or to maybe see if you can get someone to agree to it! Tactical Formula for Listing . maybe you aren't ready to buy this now. you can get away with an outrageous or very direct option by burying that option in the middle of a List. or possibly you still want to negotiate.. and you are talking about you two getting together sometime. one of them is to just slip the deadline. more powerful and direct statement in the middle. honestly. Sometimes you have that "direct" item in mind and you surround it with other. it seems too obvious..Burying Items Listing . "let's slip the deadline" might be a problem in some circles! So when people are talking about options to help the project. o "well. it seems a bit easier for you to say it. maybe you aren't ready to buy this now.
or the most direct item. go ahead and do so. 2) In the near future. 2) Practice out loud how you would say that list in the situation you used in the previous exercise. but do it by burying it in a list. but see if you CAN say it.Burying Items 1) Go back to the previous exercises where you said some "lists" out loud. but as with any technique. see if it seems easier to say. by burying it in a list. in the middle and see if it is a bit easier to imagine saying that list. See if you can make it sound natural. After these situations occur. you will probably encounter some situations where you might want to suggest something quite outrageous or direct. make a point (afterward) to think about that outrageous option. write down an outrageous or very direct suggestion that you would have liked to make (for each). Listing can be powerful. Look at the items that were listed and see if one of them maybe seemed very "strong" or "direct".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Exercises for Listing . as any opportunities come up where you would like to make an outrageous or quite direct suggestion. you may even want to say it in a joking way.Burying Items 1) As you go out and live your life. go ahead and create a new item that is very outrageous or direct. Page 47 . if you do it TOO much or too blatantly. suggesting a List of options but burying that outrageous option in a list. If there is not one. and then trying saying that item in the middle. it can stand out too much and be annoying. Situation Outrageous or Direct Suggestion you could have made. 3) Think of some recent situations where you would have liked to mention a quite outrageous or direct suggestion. Try it out loud. Assignments for Listing . For three different situations that have come up in your life recently. Bury the strongest item. and go ahead and practice how you COULD have said it. Situation Outrageous or Direct Suggestion 4) For each of those examples (above) go ahead and practice out loud. Try saying it with the strongest item at the end. Go ahead and change the order of the list that you used earlier.
"the more YOU FEEL this . really. and Emphasis D6-T36 You may be worried about coming up with three things in a list .." "More and More" is just a way to use these and bring them together. So. or experience.3. o See how they are incorporated. I gave an example (in the audio) of several things I wanted someone to do. and using lists. and provide many examples to support it. as in .4 Listing... then mention several of your points or examples that support what YOU want.. If you must suggest several different examples or options. consider this: • We talked about listing . The general structure here is: • • The more X o where X is something that is hopefully quite obvious and true to the listener . etc". D6-T38 You have heard language like "The more X. thinking about languaging such as "The more X. we are pacing and leading. then present it buried within a List of options.. o See how that is being used here? • We have discuss language details ... and I just strung those together .5 Listing Review D6-T37 If you want to get your point across... but have ONE that YOU really want to emphasize or get people to agree to. Or.3. remember to use emphasis and change your voice tone with the items. in a List.. and see how. Pauses. 3. In a way. then the more Y.. the more Z".. Using pauses. if it's a VERY outrageous option. you are walking someone through a series of steps or thoughts. Maybe one or more of the items actually has an embedded command in it. can help to alter how the options (and you) are perceived. so this all works in your favor! Just be interesting enough to keep their attention. and they WILL stay through the pauses! As you are saying various items in a list. and the more Y. etc.. 3. to "pull" the listener in. changing tone.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3. emphasis.4 MORE AND MORE.How do you think of them quickly? How do you make them sound natural? Don't worry! It is ok to have pauses! Pauses make things sound more natural and gives you time to come up with options! We talked about the use of pauses as a way to convey some drama and to make things interesting. In a way. then. o See how we are listing several items? • We discuss Pace and Lead . this is just a way of bringing together many of the things we have learned. think. Lets use this as a chance to really step back for a moment and look at this structure. Maybe you want to stress one item more or less. the more Y Page 48 .. place that item at the END of the List for more power. then the more Y.. while incorporating the language tools we have already discussed.
You are "leading" someone.. The More Z... like a series of successive steps (things you do. you notice this. future) can be altered to make it fit well.) specific.. etc. You can even start by "pacing" a bit more. which is more of an example of using Pace and Lead of their current reality. and something obvious. or as Y is happening . agreeable. see it as just a way of using many of the things we have already covered! More and More tends to be best thought of as a "List". the More Z. then. or thoughts) use "More and More" as a way to string them together (and increase your chances of that happening. the More Y. That's a general version of it. 2. . The more Y. present. the more Z. as you feel this. more and more.. and as Y happens o or as you sense Y. 3. experiences. the more Y. etc). • • • • As you (or while you) X . or realize Y.. then the more Z starts to happen. As an alternative. then just list them but use "more" as a way to go from one to the next..) or thoughts (things you experience or think about... o walk someone through though process .. then. towards what YOU want.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course • • o Where Y is something that is a logical extension of what the listener knows and they see this as something that makes sense . The best way to do this is to start off with the first item as quite general. The small words and verb tenses (past. Instead of seeing this as a new type of language. the More Y. etc How to use it. Page 49 .. and even more so with the next (more.. or "as you notice X"... o You can start off with something obvious as a statement to kind of pace them.. the more you can notice Y . from a general item towards something that YOU want.. you can use "as you" or "while you" as a way to bridge between sections as well. etc Examples • Convincing friends to go do something that you want to do.. Tactical Formula for More and More The more X. with "as X is happening"... and the more Y happens . Strategic Formula for More and More If you want to lead someone through a series of steps (actions.. THEN make the next item (more. As you X.. or a new "pattern". • Sell TV sets. step 1..) item. If you have something that you want to lead someone through. and then use More and More to lead them forward .
a plan. as you. practice saying those in series. more and more. "as you" or "while you"..) Write down three steps. practice saying those three steps. the second. a trip. (Agree where to go to dinner. Think of three "steps". who should do what. something. or as alternatives. to get towards doing what you want. while you. or series of thoughts or actions.. work around it and make it sound natural.. What do you want to convince someone to do Three steps. what project to work on. 4) Think of another series from your life. or have them experience.. what to do. Exercises for More and More 1) Consider the idea of convincing some friends of going to a movie.) Page 50 . or something you want to lead people to do somehow. Do that several times. 5) Out loud. maybe an activity. if the person followed them.. etc. 3) Now out loud. Think of all of the things you can do tonight Realize that going to a movie would be a good idea Going to see the latest XYZ movie (use whatever movie you wish) See how that is a series of steps? Of thoughts? Like leading someone down a path? Now out loud. etc. as if in a conversation. something you convince people to do (or wish you could). more leading. Think of three "steps". 2) Think of the last time you were trying to convince a friend to do something. Think about a series of steps. something with which you are familiar. to get towards doing what you want.. more in your direction. something simple. practice and see if you can talk about these one by one. Write these down. what to buy. o Walk her through the process. The first should be obvious. etc . a movie. and bridging between them as we discussed earlier (More. The first should be obvious. that would "walk" the other people through the process of agreeing with you. Do the series several times. a series of thoughts or actions that. You may start with "As you" or "while you" for the first one. and string them together using "more". but more and more get closer to what YOU want. that start off in general. What you were trying to convince a friend to do Three steps. using "More". Don't just say "more". The next is another step in the series. etc.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • Talking to a woman . of what you want to have happen. they would end up doing what you wanted.
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Assignments for More and More 1) In the exercises. look for opportunities to use that in your life. exciting. and you discuss these two aspects using Compare and Contrast. How to use it. • It's not magical in a persuasive sense. or several different subjects. you are able to easily go through such a "sequence". But get to the point where you can flow easily through the 3 in a series. and piece them together and have it sound natural. • How two things are similar • How two things are different • Good . A Tactic for Talking • Too many guys let a good conversational subject finish far too quickly. Maybe just try 2 of the 3 steps once or twice. This method provides a way to keep the conversation going. becoming more and more convinced.. etc. • • Take a subject and either mention another aspect of that subject. • It also a great way to get information about the person with which you are speaking. you have two (or more) aspects of a topic.another option • Black . 2) With that "More and More" sequence practiced...White • Right . it's just a good way to think about discussing a subject. This Compare and Contrast method here gives you a way to talk about and around the subjects at hand. the more things like "knowing what to say" and "what pattern to use" will become easier and easier for you! Notice how we are not doing these examples necessarily with women? Wonder why? 3. • This works especially well if the subject of the discussion is one that "works" for our purposes (fun.) • Too many guys focus on standard lines such as "So what do you like about X".Left Page 51 .5 COMPARE AND CONTRAST D6-T54 Listen to an example where many of these are used. and move a conversation. or else have the person you are speaking with mention it. seductive. There are various means of doing this. or various aspects of a subject.. Maybe add or change some of the reasoning.Bad • One option . You will see that the more you get these bits and pieces. the more you will understand how they fit together. • You are just comparing and contrasting things. Practice that series more! Get very familiar with it. you can talk about. and even change the specifics of that sequence. The more that happens. Just make sure that with that subject. So. we had you think of something from your life. where you could have a series of "states" lead someone through the process of doing what you want. to continue. this is a means to keep speaking.
• Anything bad. Select another subject. the offense or the defense.another attribute As you are talking. As you are talking. associate them with things other than you. One attribute . How do these differ How are they the same Which is good-bad. or point in a discussion . and incorporate the language tools. better-worse. Examples • One brand of car vs. team sports. this meeting. or individual sports vs. and you start to talk about something she likes and enjoys doing. idea. • Decisions about a career or job.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • One aspect .about her) and she mentions various things about that subject.another aspect -.. you can anchor and link positive things to you! o While talking about things she does not like. another brand. taking a position with a more promising future. you can take note of how the person is responding. and contrast these things. vs. What is different about each? How are they the same? How are they experienced? What is good? What is bad? etc. what they like. experience. compare. and this situation that you are sharing. Strategic Formula for Compare And Contrast Use this technique to keep the conversation going. • Maybe what is more important to a sports team. feelings. states. or its power. and discuss whether the handling makes it better. • Link anything good to you. her. and talk about its attributes as well. keep the discussion focused on a topic that serves your purposes. and start to compare and contrast the two. • • Use opportunities to use commands and trance words to create thoughts. that are good for you. • You may talk to a woman. o While talking about what she does like. deciding to focus on making a good living now. • Notice what is liked and not liked • Notice any reactions. o Maybe you start to ask her about it (have a discussion with her . Tactical Formula for Compare And Contrast Take any subject. etc. Use the other language tools during the discussion. Page 52 . This all provides a good way to allow the discussion to continue for a while. and to let the person think about. good or bad.. Then discuss the other car. you can use all of the other tools we have discussed. and feel those states and emotions for a while as well. easy-difficult. • You talk to someone for a while and she say she likes scuba diving. idea. you can talk about one car. two facets of that subject. you can anchor those away from yourself. what they do not. or point in a discussion. link away. o You select two items. You discuss this. etc. then discuss these by comparing and contrasting.
etc. etc. and put effort into correct linking/anchoring/pointing to associate positive things to you. somewhere else. etc). computer. clothes.(because). Not-Like" set of things to compare and contrast. Page 53 . so if you like THAT. and this time. Now talk out loud about each. Be mindful of that and anchor/link appropriately. different computer. Also. and those that are not good.. Re-enact that conversation again.. peace.. Be vary aware that even when you are discussing the thing you "Like". As in "so let me make sure I understand this .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Maybe you ask about it. and this time. that they do like Do the re-enactment again. but this time put some effort into being very aware of the positive and negative things that are being said. and compare/contrast the two.. 4) Select two of the following 4 topics. and various things about that subject or topic that they like. 3) Recall a recent conversation with someone you know. she finds the experience of seeing new and different things to be interesting as well. o So we talk about the feeling of quiet. Be aware of your language! Throw in adjectives and adverbs. etc).. This example uses a very obvious "Like vs. Be descriptive! Use pauses. different style of clothing. be very aware of the positive and negative things that are being said. Subject or thing that they like Attributes (things about) that." or . Now think of what is opposite to that . Something New Control vs. that within that may be attributes that are good.". and serenity on one hand o and compare and contrast that to the feeling of something new and different on the other... and negative things .. your pacing. bike. Maybe some of the language that you are using that may lend itself to be embedded commands. then I KNOW that you would NOT like THIS . the same holds true even when discussing what you do NOT like.same type of thing (another car.. Use compare and contrast to talk about each of the attributes that your friend would say they like about that subject. and anchor/link/point appropriately.. offer the compare-contrast ways of discussing it. She says she likes the aspect of it being very quiet and serene under water.. In addition. she mentions various things about it. etc. Letting Go Safety and Excitement Liking someone mentally and/or physically o • • • • Exercises for Compare And Contrast 1) Pick some possession that you have that you REALLY like (car. Familiarity vs. Something that you like Something that is opposite 2) Now take that same topic. and talk about it again. where they were really describing or talking about something they like."Oh. change your tone of voice.
some are bad • Talk about the good parts. you may end up liking the subject and find a new activity for yourself! Don't worry that you will "give the wrong impression" by inquiring and discussing these "parts". you can show someone how that can be possible. link them to you • If the bad or boring parts some up.. and parts of a person 3. By comparing and contrasting them. this just helps to keep things moving in a conversation. Think about the possibilities. Safety vs.1 Parts Of A Subject D7-T4 This is a variation on the contrast principle. link away Now this may seem tough .. but when you go STRAIGHT for the BEST thing that she likes the MOST. and say (for example) "what do you like most about scuba diving" or "what is the most fascinating thing about. if you are asking many questions about something that is NOT of interest to you.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Control vs.. For even more Power There IS a very powerful aspect of this technique that is important to mention. etc. this provides a good way to train you to be able to talk and ask questions of people.. of having all of the positive aspects of Safety. this doesn't necessarily show that you Page 54 . YOU are then showing someone how BOTH of these things can be experienced.6 PARTS D7-T1 Listen to an example where these are used. BOTH linked and anchored to YOU. Letting Go Safety and Excitement Liking someone mentally and/or physically Familiarity vs. 3. Parts of a subject. exciting. Meaning. topic. People tend to think you have one OR the other. However there ARE ways to have BOTH. If you are talking about an interesting subject." and that's ALL they talk about! Yes. and you lose out on spending a LOT of time having them discuss something that she REALLY likes! This is just a way to have a discussion. and get them to talk about what THEY are interested in. Some are good. and that's ALL you discuss.6. For example. and the positive aspects of excitement.Who wants to talk about something that you are NOT interested in? However. Too many guys just blow things to quickly. theme. it's too weak. then talk about all of the various aspects and parts of it. that is fun. Parts. Who knows. it is GOOD to focus on the positive aspects of what she likes. etc. Excitement. Two types of parts we can work with . Something New Now do your best to speak out loud and "talk" about these for a while using a Compare and Contrast structure. together. There ARE many things that people tend to THINK of in an "either-or" way.
don't like. feelings and emotions. area of interest. Page 55 . be comfortable talking about all of the parts of that subject. activity. maybe a hobby. idea. that an opportunity to talk for a WHILE about something she likes. Strategic Formula for Parts of a Subject Discussing many of the parts of a subject keeps the conversation going. etc.. You are just asking.many of which can be linked to you. If she LIKES scuba diving. like. don't just ask "What is the most exciting thing about Scuba Diving?" That IS a good question. new things. it's hard to talk about that subject for a while. Subjects come up." This technique makes it easier to have conversations with people because THEY are giving you information and ideas for new things to ask about. If someone asks you about this. but if you start there. what people do. just curious. just say "I like learning about people.Don't just "talk about" Scuba Diving! Or. sport. and she may have a lot of positive emotions and feeling associated with that . Use the language tools in the discussion. Tactical Formula for Parts of a Subject Take any subject.. know about. list various "things" about that subject. Link good thoughts.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course are interested in it (the subject). artistic endeavor. This is a great way to build rapport with a person as well. topics come up. and enjoys. Now. Examples • Scuba Diving . o Where have they dived? o How did they get into it? o What's their favorite place? o Do they have their own equipment? o Do they use different types of equipment for different locations? o How long have they dived? o Have they ever been in danger? o Have they taken photos? o Have they met interesting people? o Has this exposed them to any other cool sports or activities? o etc.. Break it down into its component parts and discuss them. 1) Pick a subject that you like. Exercises for Parts of a Subject . etc. This isn't just a way for you to ask ask ask HER about things. that you know. allowing you time to gather information and link yourself to good thoughts. feelings and emotions to yourself. etc. or point in a discussion.
Maybe their hobby. That Subject: 3) Now think of someone who you are NOT close to (that you do not know that well). Subject: Parts. and you were going to have someone (who knows very little about the subject) interview you and learn all about football. passion. what parts about football would you want them to ask about? For your chosen subject. Write these down. and you have heard him or her talk about this. someone you met at a party. like a co-worker. Now. make a list of these parts. etc. maybe pick a different "person" as your subject. If you have trouble. or maybe someone in your life that you don't know very well. a job they like. That Subject: 2) Think of one of your friends or family members and some activity or topic that THEY are really into. or Things About. if you were going to talk to them for like 30 minutes about that subject and were really going to ask them about it. what would you ask about? What are all of the various things and aspects of it that YOU could inquire about or that could come up in a discussion? These are the "parts" of that subject. This should be someone you know well. Person: Subject: Parts. but hopefully this "subject" is something you are not really into. You should be able to come up with at least 10 items. Page 56 . Someone that you recently met. or Things About. You should easily be able to come up with 10-20 items. maybe a cousin you hardly see or talk to. if your subject was football.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course For example. etc. Now think of something that THAT person is interested in or they are involved with.
while YOU are there And you are linking and anchoring things to yourself Using all of the language tools and details And that person is finding YOU so fascinating and charismatic .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course The key here is that this is someone you don't see often. The subject they are interested in is something with which you are NOT familiar. You know the person but you are not real close to them. Again. Person: Subject: Assignments for Parts of a Subject 1) Sometime soon. make a point to have a good 10-15 minute conversation about a subject that THEY are really interested in. Now. don't know really well. what would you ask about? What are all of the various things and aspects of it that YOU could inquire about? What are the PARTS you could ask about? Write these down. Make a point to ask about many different parts of that subject. If you were going to talk to them for like 30 minutes about that subject. Person: Subject: Parts. and were really going to ask them about it. you should be able to list at least 10 items. That Subject: " 4) Think of another person and subject. out loud. Page 57 . but with which you are NOT familiar. experiencing it. but with which you are NOT familiar. off the "top of your head". They are talking about something THEY like Thinking about it. like the exercise above. 2) Sometime in the future. Make a point to ask about many different parts of that subject. when you are speaking with a person you do not know hardly at all (yet you feel you will be able to talk to them for 10-15 minutes).. And of course the entire time. who is interested in something that you are NOT familiar with. when you are speaking with a friend or family member that you know well. mention like 10-15 different things you could ask or inquire about that subject. and feeling it.. or Things About. make a point to have a good 10-15 minute conversation about a subject that THEY are really interested in.
Let's say you are in a discussion with someone. that is more . they hold back. "parts" are meant as in a personality trait. Don't Confront. verify it... or normally don't "do" certain things? • Then talk about that first (shy) part." • Bring up and acknowledge the fact that there is "another" part. etc)" o "I know someone similar who as this other part to themselves.. great. Let's break this down. This can be VERY powerful.. • If an adventurous. that part of the person or type of behavior that DOES agree with you). there is a more adventurous part to themselves • If a person is outspoken. o "When you start to listen to this adventurous side . adventurous ." • There will be a lot of this shown in examples here in this section and at the end of the program. You do not want to appear to challenge or invalidate and personality trait that is being shown.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3. fun. and start to discuss and validate that OTHER part. etc.. a "side" to the person. more spontaneous side to them. Discuss. "you may have the other side" o or by example "I know someone like that...." o "Many people like that also have another side to themselves. make it be experienced.. and I have found she has this other side. Because you are discussing several things. another part hidden away.. exciting part of a person is being discussed. or has the same wishes that you do. A key concept to think about is to ALWAYS assume that there is a part of someone that does agree with you. directly or indirectly o For example. • What if it is not? What if they say they are shy.6. etc. just looking for the right time. • "That's because there is another part. In fact a friend of mine is very shy and one time.2 Parts Of A Person D7-T15 Listen to an example where this concept is used. etc" • Discuss this new or other "part" o "With many people. or view.. or part of a person.." o "You may have (or do have) another part (or side.. (where XYZ is a different or maybe the opposite behavior. if a personality trait... In many ways. etc. that XYZ part".. what she did . that adventurous side is just waiting to come out. experiencing it. etc. their way of walking through and looking at the world. and they feel that way. and then say (for example). In a discussion.. link it to you.. there is a more quiet side • If a person is well-thought-out (thinks things through and takes time). there is a more decisive. • If a person is shy. • Acknowledge the first part that is being discussed." • If this new or other "side" works more in your favor. or reserved. lean more on the language and linking tools to bring it out. Page 58 . we are also reframing! We are changing the way they look at things.. o Either in general like "there may be another side" o or more directly. In this context. if the person is shy o "I understand how some people are shy. their reactions. a way of thinking. in a way you are also using Compare and Contrast as well. a way of acting or being is being discussed (and one that does not necessarily work in your favor) . or side. or way of looking at it. or parts. they are quiet.
assume there is a part that will work WITH you. too confrontational. feelings. etc. etc etc etc.. and what I noticed about her is that she also has this other side to her. that can work in your favor. Examples: • Lets say that a person says they are not into taking challenges.. o "Well. (not good in a person.... or part of the person by discussing or addressing it Think about a personality trait. Find a personality trait. Traits similar to "Being Boring" Page 59 . even when the other person claims or demonstrates that such parts are NOT there. Introduce and discuss that "other part" in a way that works to your advantage. and she realized that she.. • Maybe someone lies . Remember.. way of thinking. o "I was reading somewhere about things like that and what it was saying was.. or part of the person that is somehow related (which works in your favor) or somewhat opposite. way of thinking.. and evoke favorable states. and 3 that are opposite. or part of the person (mostly something which has a negative connotation) Acknowledge that personality trait. that may be true but also there is another part of them .. it may sound like you are arguing or challenging the person.. so be careful. You can work around this issue (of possible confrontation) by saying things like o "I think another way of looking at that trait is . This one side .. I understand you have that side to you. Tactical Formula for Parts of a Person For every part of a person that will work against you.. you are NOT discussing this as to say. deep down. There are also other sides to people ." Strategic Formula for Parts of a Person Use Parts of a Person as a way to find... . they like to play things safe. People have many sides to themselves. discuss.. way of thinking. What personality traits (or what other parts or ways of thinking) are similar? Which are somewhat opposite? Write down 3 that are similar. and beliefs...) Exercises for Parts of a Person 1) What if someone says. but it can be handled . o "A friend of mine does that as well. "you are wrong" or to show how smart you are! You are just talking. having a conversation..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • Many times you don't want to say "because there is another part" because that seems too direct. was also "Y". • Maybe someone is secretive. "I am boring".. Well.. • Maybe someone says they can be jealous. o "I have a friend who was "X" (where X is the trait being discussed).
3) What if someone says that they are shy? What personality traits (or what other parts or ways of thinking) are similar? Which are somewhat opposite? Write down 3 that are similar.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Traits opposite to "Being Boring" Of those that you listed. and then bring up this other "part" that you selected. and 3 that are opposite. maybe do some linking an anchoring. but this time. etc. use this/that/these/those . or ways of thinking) are similar? Which are somewhat opposite? Think about 1-2 that you could use. Imagine a conversation and how you might do this.. which could you maybe "use" in a good way? 4) Think about how you would discuss that shy part. 6) Lets say someone says "I am not into meeting any new people right now" .. Practice this out loud. What personality traits (or what other parts. 5) From the list you just made (and selected from). and some of the variations mentioned for language examples. and then bring up this other "part" that you selected. Page 60 . Practice this out loud.. pick another part or trait. Traits similar to "not into meeting any new people" Traits opposite to "not into meeting any new people" Practice out loud how you might first discuss "I am not into meeting any new people right now" and then transition into the other parts or traits that you selected. and some of the variations mentioned for language examples. Now do a similar exercise again out loud.. Look at the formula earlier. Imagine a conversation and how you might do this. be aware of opportunities to maybe mark off an embedded command or two (or more). Look at the formula earlier. Traits similar to "Being Shy" Traits opposite to "Being Shy" Of those that you listed. which could you maybe "use" in a good way? 2) Think about how you would discuss the boring part.
Use the formula and the variations mentioned earlier. being open. WHILE talking to someone. make a note of these traits or parts. Or.. and offer challenges" many times when studying these materials. and has been a bit difficult for many to really understand Page 61 . or mentions a "way of thinking"). This area has caused some confusion. See if you can arrive at a similar part or trait that you can discuss that could be used in your favor. 3) Now that you can recognize these traits when talking to someone. See if you can note that "part" of who they are. start to bring them up IN the conversation. trait. After the conversation. 2) After you have become more comfortable noticing such traits after-the-fact. Assignments for Parts of a Person 1) For the next week or two. Opposite (or similar?) trait or part that might actually work in your favor Conversation with Traits or parts that were discussed.. You have probably heard the phrase "structure opportunities. or parts. and then point out some other trait or part that might work in your favor somehow.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 7) Do the above example again.7 OPPORTUNITIES AND CHALLENGES D7-T34 Listen to an example where I structure opportunities. etc could you discuss? Try that out loud. 3. make note of when you are having a personal conversation with anyone. but ROW see how many of the speaking and language tools you can use. trait. see if you could maybe think of an opposite one that could be discussed. An easy way to do this is when a friend or acquaintance is being self-deprecating in some manner. trusting their own judgment. 8) Lets say someone says they have trouble meeting new people. See if what they are saying describes or is pointing out any personality traits (or a "part" of themselves.? What other part. Just notice the trait or part being mentioned. see if you can notice them WHILE talking to someone. acknowledge it. and offer challenges to you on the audio. etc could you discuss? Try that out loud. and then find a way to discuss another part that is more favorable or positive. or putting him or herself down for some reason. You don't have to discuss them (yet) just make a point to note these traits. 9) Lets say someone says "I only like dating my TYPE"? What other part.
or want to be perceived as having. then they already have mechanisms for that in their mind.7. you are using processes that they ALREADY have in their minds. then by using their existing desires. but I am looking for more. • Use these general things and assume they are there. Challenge them to demonstrate it. • Show that you have standards. and that you believe in yourself. Work with universal things that people would like to have. do it. 3. o This is the opposite of pleading and the "pedestal" scenario. but may not be the most effective strategy. or like to be perceived as having. effect.1 Using Their Own Processes D7-T36 If you know what people want to have.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course and utilize. and wants to be seen as intelligent. For example if someone is intelligent." • This is NOT about arrogance. You are in. you are just showing that YOU have standards. using motivations that a person already has. It's good to somehow work with structures and things that are already in someone's mind. • Show that you are qualifying and screening to some extent.2 What do people want? - D7-T38 "Universal Wants" = Good. "You may be beautiful. If you can somehow frame or map yourself as being a way for a person to fulfill things that someone already wants. these concepts are broken down and offered to you in a way that will truly help you to be able to use these powerful techniques. • These are also good and convenient for practicing and examples. Universal Wants • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control • Excitement Page 62 .7. Strategic Formula for Opportunities And Challenges Find or assume what someone wants Create an opportunity for them to get it or demonstrate they have it Make that "demonstration" work in your favor. or be with you. is a way for them to show their intelligence. You then find some way to set things up so that choosing to listen to you. or show it. 3. Why this matters. this can be very effective. • It's easy. In this section. o You are saying in a way.
by listening to me or agreeing with me".. along with the Universal Wants listed earlier! • We assume here that with a mini-challenge. "you can show me that you have the thing you desire.... we are using one of these sort of "universal" wants. o You seem like you may have good taste o etc. o etc.. • Mini-Challenges o You might get this .. that's even better. o You seem like .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course "Particular Wants" = Better! What does THIS person want? • Notice o o o particular things that this individual would like to have or be perceived as having She mentions wanting respect She defends her position... can (use smart. or adventurous... wants to have. or want to be perceived as having.... o If you can ... or an image she wants other people to have of her. or maybe a value. o Are you able to . o The smart people I know. and it can really annoy people if you do! Page 63 . o Try using some of the above items.. what she likes to do. You are challenging an ASSUMED desire (a "Universal Want"). What does she want to have. o Talk to her and find out what she wants or needs.. or be seen as having "X". o You might see . and discusses what is important to her She mentions something she likes or dislikes about a past boyfriend..7.. o You might... o Talk about what she does.. o Maybe you can . etc • Finding these particular wants and desires o These "wants" can be possessions.3 There are certain things you can assume that most people may want to have. but if you can find or work with specific wants or desires. and challenging them in a way that says. You can imply a "test" for these things by issuing a mini-challenge. o Talk about some of yours and see how she reacts... etc). Mini-Challenge Cheat Sheet o You seem . o You seem smart enough . or want to be perceived as having? Mini-Challenges D7-T40 3. or fun. her interests. o Always have the question below in mind... o You may . o You seem cool enough ...This technique can be overused. o You seem as if. Warning . o I wonder if you can . o If you are able to ...
• Challenge them to see if they will follow through and take action to get it. you will show me you have that". Make a statement that says. Creating Them Consider the wants and needs that a person may have .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Tactical Formula for Mini Challenges Assume something she wants to have. What does someone Want? Assume. and Mini-Challenge Cheat Sheet. what someone wants. or be seen as having. • Create an opportunity for them to get that • Make it so that them "getting" that works in your favor. Tactical Formula for Opportunities and Challenges Find something "X" that the person wants to have.. and see how many combinations you can come up with. "By listening to and/or agreeing with me. • Universal Wants • Particular Wants Opportunities. 3. (and again. or hopefully find. or been seen as having You can assume based on normal things that people want (Universal Want) or Get information from talking (Particular Want) Create an opportunity for them to get or demonstrate "X". in a way.. by doing "Y" Make "Y" something that works in your favor. Exercises for Mini-Challenges 1) Try piecing together items from the Universal Wants List.4 Opportunities and Challenges D7-T43 Think of it like this. • Find what someone "wants".7.. here we have to "assume" things for the sake of teaching) . "Show me you have that thing by listening and/or agreeing with me" or. Challenge the person to do "Y". • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control • Excitement Page 64 ..
Challenges Are they ready to take advantage of that (this) opportunity? Challenge them to get what they want. • Here is a way a friend of mine showed that they have or was able to get X... • Maybe point out something a friend did . on their own. • Provide an example from your own life. even if their friends don't approve. o They can go against the grain. and how the confident ones are able to take chances and have fun. and feel very comfortable with that. Examples.How can you create an opportunity for someone to appear confident (that works in your favor)? o Discuss people that YOU know. o They can do exciting things. • Provide a way to demonstrate that they DO have what they want. How can you make that sound like a way for them to "show" something? How to create an opportunity? • Here is a way for you to show me that you really have or was able to get X. Create the opportunity for them to show or demonstrate that they have or are perceived as having.. • Here is how I read/heard that someone else had or was able to get X. o Let the person demonstrate how confident they are. where this opportunity benefits you (and hopefully pertains to the situation). talk about DOING them. Talk about those things. o . Examples: • Does she really want X and see how Y can get that? • Does she really have X. by meeting this "challenge".. o Talk about how confident people can make their own choices. and see how doing Y would demonstrate it?> • Does she have what it takes to get X.. or show what they have. or some way for this person to capture the opportunity • Provide an example of something she can say or do. by doing Y? Page 65 .. o Mention how confident people can meet someone new. Provide an example of someone.Think about maturity . • Mention something that you have read.. or want to be seen as having Structure this so that it is something that YOU would like them to do. Maturity .. something they want. • Confidence .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course You need to create an "opportunity" for each of these. and/or HAVING them. what does a mature person do? How are they seen? How do they react? o They make their own decisions o They trust their own judgment o They can decide to do something NOW...
. she actually felt more secure about being able to take care of herself.. then .. she may have to do Y to prove that. Exercises and Assignments for Opportunities and Challenges 1) Make a list of some assumed things that many people may want to have. You discuss success for a while. • • I know this is tricky. It's NOT about creating an argument! Again.. I don't know if you are adventurous enough for this.. how she may be adventurous." Adventurous o Maybe she wants to feel adventurous. you mention "We should get together sometime. • Find out what someone wants. what this means to her. as long as you trust yourself enough to feel that is OK . and she found that by taking chances and risks. • Challenge them to do that. Later.. and mention that you read somewhere that successful people tend to be able to trust their own judgment. Then at some point you talk about you and her getting together. to show or demonstrate that? Examples: • Security o Say she wants to feel secure. It's different from the way most guys think. You talk about a friend who has always wanted to feel secure. Some examples are shown below. You talk about that for a while. to be a way for them to get what they want. and do Y to get it? Can she do Y and make it happen? Can she see that Y will get her what she wants? Can she trust herself enough to do Y? etc.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • • • Does she want you to THINK she has X. and say something like "well.. I mean. Success o Maybe "success" is important to her. but. Is she ready to take chances? Take risks? Do something different? Maybe not .".. These are your "Assumed Wants".. • Find a way to map what YOU want.. Can she see an opportunity to have "X". Assumed Wants 2) Write a Mini Challenge for each if the above items. their own intuition. They want X. Are they ready to do Y.. or be perceived as having. there are others shown earlier. Page 66 .
Hopefully these are specific to them. "you might. or be perceived as having Page 67 . For each person. 5) Think about some people that you know quite well like family. and go out and actually USE them for a while.. co-workers." Mini Challenges 3) Practice the list of Mini Challenges you just created. write down something that each wants to have. quite unique... and NOT just things from the "assumed" list... Practice these more. Person What they want to have. and focus on using these. or wants to be perceived as having.. out loud 4) Make a note of some of the ones you practiced that seem closest to something you could easily say or do with people in your life. Write down these "Wants". etc. Note some of your favorites ones below.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course "you seem like . "lets see if this makes sense to you "see if you can follow this .. friends. "you may .
and they spend a LOT of time practicing. see if you can create a "challenge". want to do what you wish. even subconsciously. etc? Give that some thought. and how can you "map" it to yourself? Write down these "Opportunities". and that allows them to be better at their sport. they will be doing something that YOU want. You are "mapping" it to you because by doing what you discuss. Is there a way to create an "opportunity" for them to get or achieve that? Can you somehow create an opportunity that can be "mapped" in some way towards yourself. as making them look at you more positively. and write them down. Some way that questions . Person Challenge 8) Practice each of those "Challenges" out loud..) So you challenge their dedication to their sport by saying "I was reading about really good athletes and one thing that was pointed out was that a lot of them really can get burned out.. Example .A friend wants to be really good at a sport." The "opportunity" is for them to be a better athlete. (You want that friend to lighten up and be able to spend more time going out and having fun.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 6) Consider the "want" that you identified from each of those persons above. Person Opportunity for them to get what they "want" that somehow works in your favor 7) For each "want". What is the opportunity. or that in some way could be interpreted. The good athletes find a way to relax and have fun. and "opportunity". Page 68 . are they ready? Can they take action? Can they DO this? Write down these "Challenges". See if you can make it sound natural.
. given that this IS an area that many guys are able to do (with enough listening) and given the many OTHER areas that really DO need the assistance of a program like this. do the same in terms of observing desires. Those) MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures o Linking Gestures (Towards And Away) o Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This.. listen. What do they "want".8 AMBIGUITIES D7-T64 If you have studied this material for a while. • SPEAKING POINTERS o The "Cool" Factor o Voice Tone And Tonality o Pacing And Pausing o Energy And Enthusiasm LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS o Adjectives And Adverbs o Trance Words o Weasel Phrases o Embedded Commands o Linking o Easy-Linking (This. 3. they mean something different. This is one area that many guys actually ARE able to pick up and use easily if they have listened to the materials enough.. that these become familiar. 10) While you are talking to people for the next 1-2 weeks. to do things that you would want.9 SUMMARY D7-T66 Bringing it together. but in another context. Try to guess. we will not be doing any specific work on Ambiguities.Point Or Touch On Positive And Negative LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES o Pace And Lead " Topics and Subjects * Mindset of Frame • Current Reality o Give Them A Reason • • • Page 69 . That. That. but also ask some questions and get into a discussion about it if possible. Do what you can to bring these up while in the conversation if you can. really focus on what each person desires. 11) For the next 1-2 weeks. These.) o Easy Anchoring . you no doubt have heard many examples of "ambiguities". so that you have heard them SO MANY TIMES. listen.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 9) As you become more familiar with these practiced challenges and opportunities. Listen. listen.. but now also start to look for "opportunities and challenges" in a way that directs their desires towards you. These are those words or phrases that can mean more than one thing. 3. They may have one meaning in one context. Although there could be a section in this course that deals with these areas. look at how many items we have covered so far. see if you can bring them up in conversations over the next few weeks.
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These are the building blocks for good Language skills. These are the sorts of skills that are most workable when they are truly "wired in" to someone, so that they are able to be used automatically. To try to "remember" to do such things can be very difficult. That approach would make having a conversation far too difficult and too much work! The best way is to work with these techniques SO much that these truly are just a part of "how you talk". With enough practice, and hearing these enough, you CAN have these become a part of how. YOU talk! So listen, practice, do the exercises, do the assignments, and do that all again, until these really do become a part of you, and a part of how you speak.
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D8-T1 A key aspect of making these tools work is getting the conversation into topic areas that will really work for you. The language tools you studied earlier are best used in the proper context, and in this section, we will learn how to get the conversation into areas that will create that context. Have you had these problems? • You JUMP too quickly into a pattern or topic, and it sounds really strange? • You just THROW a pattern AT her, and get a weird reaction? When you use these tools, or even use "patterns", it's not enough to just "say it", there has to be the correct CONTEXT for what is said! It's a process that she needs to go on and through with you. It's not enough to just find a conversational excuse to "throw" a pattern (or language tool) AT her! This section is about finding ways to just get into an interesting conversation and then towards and onto good topics. We want this to seem natural, and with some understanding, practice, and a few key strategies and tactics it will BE natural and automatic! 4.1 4.1.1 CHALLENGES -a Detailed And Specific Plans Are Just Not Workable. D8-T3
It's good to theorize to "say this", and then "say that", and then to use "this pattern", and "that pattern". However, the problem is that a lot of time the proper context is not presented well enough. The examples you may have seen in other products are just that, examples. The problem is that too many guys have taken them literally! Guys try to do "X, Y, Z," exactly, in order, with no sense of calibration, or being able to work and re-direct things in real time. Therefore, detailed tactical plans are not realistic. 4.1.2 Navigation Example D8-T4
Think of moving a conversation to a certain point, like taking a trip somewhere. Say you are in Chicago, and want to go to Los Angeles. You could have a detailed map of every turn and road, exact route numbers and lengths, etc. The problem is... what do you do if there is a detour? What if the road is changed, what if the map is wrong? You are lost! What if, instead, we teach you how to drive the car, and give you a general set of directions like "keep driving west, until you see the ocean, then turn left (south)". That way, you can handle just about any turns, roads, or detours that you may encounter! Conversations are different from roads too, because people are all unique, situations, times, surroundings etc. are unique and change from moment to moment. Therefore, if you want to get a conversation to go a certain way, then detailed plans made ahead of time are hard to work with. There are too many variables! We need a workable set of strategies and tactics that allows you, in real-time, to direct things the way that you want them to go. They need to be easy to follow, and easy to use, and something that you don't need to "think about", but can just DO easily.
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So we need a general set of guidelines, some overall strategies and tactics, so that you can have this good, intuitive sense of how to "steer" things, and get conversations to where you want them to go. As long as you are engaging a woman's emotions, capturing & leading her imagination, then you are moving in the right direction. Then, in that situation and in that context, linking all the positive & powerful things to you becomes more workable. Instead of a map, we are giving you a "compass". We need a strategy for managing conversations that can to do this gradually, in a way that seems natural! If it's too abrupt or makes the conversation strained, it will sound weird. The strategy must LEAD the conversation towards good topics and subjects in a way that seems natural, and is not TOO abrupt. Examples: (Listen to the audio.) • Talking about a printer o Moving TOO quickly towards emotional topics o Can sound strange • Driving a car and taking a turn (Analogy) o Think of driving down freeway and needing to switch to different direction. o You can't make a hard, right angle turn on a dime! o You need to turn the car, slowly, on a ramp to go in a different direction. When we control conversions, we need to find a way to take it gradually in a new direction. Many guys try to do the hard and fast switch, and they crash in the process! We will learn to move things in a way that makes it seem natural, but it will be deliberate. 4.1.4 She Must Be Engaged In The Conversation! D8-T10
It's important to get conversations into the right area and have HER go along with you. Not just "bring it up" (a topic or pattern), but it must be natural and she must "go along" with it and be a PART of it. She must be actually THINKING about what you are discussing! It has to happen naturally. No weird jumps. It's not enough to just talk; she must BE a part of the conversation! So, don't just "jump" to a topic. Don't find an "excuse" to bring it up. Take the conversation there, take her WITH you, and have her be a part of it! What really helps is to have a genuine interest (or at least curiosity) in her and the conversation, not just thinking to yourself; "How can I use this?" 4.2 HOW CONVERSATIONS HAPPEN D8-T12
How does this really occur? We will break this down so that we have a way to really affect this process. 4.2.1 Conversational Dynamics D8-T13
How do conversations happen? Most of them occur somewhat randomly as the conversation flows from topic to topic over time, and can end up almost anywhere after a while. By the time YOU move from one topic to the next,
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you may end up in a very different place from where you began. However, there is a series of steps as things move forward, as shown in Figure 4.2.1-1.
Figure 4.2.1-1: Conversations Move Through Many Topics
Each of these steps between topics tends to be related. Topic 1 relates to Topic 2. Topic 2 relates to Topic 3, etc. For example, you can start to talk about Cars, and then move to one aspect of that topic, Car Seats. Then it's easy to move to some aspect of that topic, which maybe something that seats are made of, like Leather. Then maybe you talk about Leather Furniture, etc. (See Figure 4.2.1-2.)
Figure 4.2.1-2: Each Topic Flows To the Next Topic In most cases, each Topic is related to the one before.
After a series of such steps, you can be at a quite different topic (like an apartment that you used to live in) even though you started at a quite different topic (Cars). In most cases, it's very difficult to predict where a conversation will go after many of these steps. As you go through a few topic shifts (as shown in the diagrams), although each individual shift relates to the topic before and after that shift, after a series of shifts you can end up talking about almost anything! Therefore, even if you start the conversation at a great topic, you can get off-track and into topics that will not work in your favor. Conversely, what is needed is a way to start at almost any topic at all, and by steering that process (of moving from Topic 1, to Topic 2, Topic 3, etc) take the conversation into better and better topic areas that will serve your purposes. 4.2.2 Conversational Model D8-T14
We introduce a model to assist in discussion, understanding, and control of conversations. If you start at a topic, how do you go to another one? This process happens all of the time very easily. The key is that the movement from one topic to the next takes places easily because there are so many options involved. From any topic (Topic 1) it is easy to flow to any of 6-8 other, related topics (Topic 2 Candidates). People usually just "talk" and naturally the conversation moves from the first topic to the next one. Since the "next" topic is related, this process seems natural and is easy to do. In fact, you do this all the time without really knowing about it. (We are creating a model to describe a process that happens naturally, so that we can teach you a way to have an affect on that process). Figure 4.2.2-1 shows how from one topic, the conversation can flow easily to many related topics.
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Car you own Seats in it Interior of your car How Powerful it is What Gas does it use How Fast it is Feel of Driving Places you have gone Where you bought it
Topic 2 Candidates
Figure 4.2.2-1: From One Topic to many Candidate Topics The topic of Cars is discussed, and from there are many ways the conversation can easily move.
Once the conversation moves to one of these eight topics, it's easy to move to one of eight more. For example if in Figure 4.2.2-1, the conversation flows from "Cars" to "Where you bought it" (as in, where you bought the car), then now we have a situation like that shown in Figure 4.2.2-2.
Where you bought it
That car dealer The salesman Part of town Other car dealers Who went with you How you bought it The Loan you used etc. Topic 3 Candidates
Figure 4.2.2-2: From A Second Topic, Another Group of Candidates If "Cars" was discussed first, and then "Where you bought it" was discussed next, there are now many ways to go in the next step. In the figure, you see how the conversation moves from Cars, to "Where you bought it". After that, there are many "candidate" topics where the conversation can flow. Perhaps it moves to the "Part of town" where the car was purchased.
Now from the topic of "Where you bought it" (a car), there are easily eight places that you can go from there, shown as the "Topic 3 candidates". This process continues throughout a conversation. This process happens regardless of the specific topics being discussed. Conversations flow from topic to topic, as shown in a general manner in Figure 4.2.2-3.
However. With some skill and technique. When this happens in succession. you can end up with the conversation going almost anywhere! Figure 4.2. If Topic 1 can lead to eight different candidates for Topic 2. you can affect this process (and we will teach that to you). the Figures that have been shown so far only show a small portion of the total topics towards which a conversation can flow. and at each step after that. the plans that many guys try to use to "Talk about X. In many ways.2. then EACH of the eight different candidates for Topic 2 can then lead to their own eight. when talking to some random person. since it's so easy to go from any topic to 6-8 others. an so on. then talk about Y. In general. there is no way to know exactly where it will end up by the time you have moved forward a few steps! Imagine trying to predict ahead-of-time exactly where you may arrive (among those 512 options). This results in easily over 500 topics that could be selected by the time we arrive at Topic 4! In only three shifts of the topic ("topic shifts" as shown in the figure) we end up with many many possibilities of where the conversation might end up. and the conversation flows along in this manner.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Topic 1 Topic 2 Topic 3 Topic 4 Figure 4.2-3: Topics Flow from One to the Next Each topic in a conversation can easily lead to 6-8 others. because there are SO many ways that things can go! Page 75 . then talk about Z" are very difficult to really work with. you can have up to eight different ways to go at EACH step. Do you see why the pre-planned approaches can be difficult?! Even if you ARE able to have the conversation start from a specific place (Topic 1).2-4 shows what happens when all the topics are considered.
you can end up in over 500 different topic areas! We can create a general Conversation Model that shows this process (Figure 4.2-5). it can flow from there.2-4: Topic Candidates and Topic Shifts If each topic can flow to eight others.2. Once Topic 2 has been discussed.2. Page 76 . and so on. then after only three shifts in the topic.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 1st Topic Shift 2nd Topic Shift 3rd Topic Shift Figure 4. As seen in the diagram. It then can flow easily to maybe 6-8 others (the diagram shows fewer for the sake of clarity). a conversation may start from one topic or subject (Topic 1).
In fact. (The figure only shows a portion of how many subjects and topics can be reached). if you assume that from any topic you could go to any of 8 other topics. is an awareness of this phenomenon that is called the "Topic Turning Point".000 different subjects or topics that could be discussed by the time you are at "Level 6" in the conversation!! 4.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Figure 4.2-5: Conversation Model The "Tree of Subjects" showing how thousands of subjects can be reached in just a few steps of the conversation. it is quite easy to move from that onto 6-8 related topics. This process of moving from the first topic to one of 6-8 relevant topics is the process of moving through a "Topic Turning Point" as shown in Figure 4. Page 77 . If you are discussing one specific topic. The diagram only shows a small fraction of them (so that the diagram is not even more cluttered than it already is!).3-1.2. that they become far too many to shown in the diagram. then for that diagram to be really accurate it would have to show over 30.2.3 Topic Turning Point D8-T15 The KEY concept the needs to be understood to gain the ability to manage conversations.2. There are SO many ways it can flow.
3-1: The Topic Turning Point (TTP) When discussing any topic (First Topic) there are easily 6-8 different topics to which the conversation can be moved (Candidate Topics). the overall flow of a conversation comes about due to many of these TTP choices being made. etc.2.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Candidate Topics Figure 4.2. the conversation "shifts" slightly. as long as the new topic is "related" to the first (this is shown in the diagram by the "candidates") then this change is easy to do.2. and throughout a conversation. the conversation can then move to another topic. Someone might make a comment. For example.3-2: How TTP Selections Effect the Conversation The selections made at each TTP are what actually "steer" the conversation in a certain direction. ask a question. The key thing to realize is that this process of Topic Turning Point (TTP) selection occurs over and over. introduce an idea. However.3-2 Topic Turning Points Figure 4. make a statement. after one topic has been discussed for a short while. Therefore. A general way of looking at this process is shown in Figure 4. Page 78 .
fun.1 GENERAL CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Want. they Good Boring Bad Argument could be more specific (and we will get there). moment-to-moment. As you have probably guessed by now. very quickly. fun. and do so in a way that sounds VERY natural.3. (See Figure 4. no one is "deciding" the TTPs.. For example: • Maybe someone always finds a fun. depressing Confrontational . fun.. Sometimes this can be VERY apparent.3 4. By manipulating TTPs from moment to moment. is coming soon. IMPORTANT: The overall direction of a conversation comes about due to a successive selection of TTPs. you can direct where the overall conversation goes. • Other people direct conversations based upon their own moral or religious values. These types of people are making TTP selections based on a strategy of finding things that are negative to talk about. interesting Mundane and uninteresting Negative.. they somehow see it in terms how in effects their beliefs. easily and naturally? That IS the point. we want the conversation to be positive. The flow of the conversation starts. Can you see how you may be able to affect where a conversation goes? You might not be able to predict EXACTLY where it ends up. we want to first start to steer things in the best general manner. and the conversation tend to into one of four general areas. positive way to look at anything. This selection just "happens". • Other people able to direct conversations based on their own beliefs and their own political motivations as well. Look in the diagrams. with some awareness of this process.1-1.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Normally. they find a way to point out something negative. conversations tend to go in one of several ways. No matter WHAT you talk to them about. positive aspects of every topic being discussed.3. isn't it? In general. So to start our process of learning how to manage conversations. and they quick steer the conversation in that manner. conversations are one of four types: • • • • Fun. no matter WHAT is discussed. However. positive. interesting things". to "route" conversations so that they end up being the kinds of conversations that YOU want to have..Those are just general examples. and interesting. we are going to later teach you a way to be able to make these TTP selections. In a very broad sense. These people are able to automatically make TTP choices based on a strategy of finding good. D8-T16 D8-T16 So how can you actually affect the flow of a conversation.. choices are made moment to moment. but you will have some control over the overall direction. 4. The overall strategy at the beginning is then to "talk about positive. and some training (which .) then you CAN direct how a conversation flows. • Other people may do the opposite. and that work in YOUR favor.) Page 79 . That ability alone is enough for our purposes.. and imagine if you had a general way to manipulate these TTPs. Many people do this "TTP selection" process automatically.
do what you can to steer in that direction. If you break that down into 4 main directions. Introduce topics that are fun. you can still "steer" back towards "Fun. you see that you want to focus the conversation onto topics that are "Fun. so from the earliest stages. Don't engage in conversations when it's NOT about positive. interesting things. fun. Positive. Positive. Strategic Formula for General Conversational Management To steer the conversation in a good direction. How do you do that? • • • Show interest when someone discusses positive.3. and Interesting". bring up positive. interesting things.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course General Conversational Management Conversations tend to flow in one of four major ways. and Interesting topics and subjects. No matter what is brought up. steer towards Fun. fun. and Interesting" things. Figure 4. Positive. fun. interesting things.1-1: General Conversational Management Consider all of the ways a conversation can go. Even if things move towards other areas. positive and interesting. Page 80 .
positive. Page 81 . and interesting" (See Figure 4.2 How To Steer Conversations. For any subject. or something you read.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4. Moment To Moment D8-T19 Look at the overall flow of a conversation and break it down to its smallest point that we can affect. Positive. positive."Where can I go that is fun.) Tactical Formula for General Conversational Management Keep thinking . you can direct where the overall conversation goes. as long as it moves things in a way that answers the question "Where can I go that is fun. and Interesting". You think of the "candidates" (the related topics or subjects that you can discuss) that serve you at the time. and interesting?" Move the conversation in that direction. So you just think to yourself "Where can I go that is fan.2-1. the TTP. Positive. By manipulating TTPs from moment to moment. you make note of where you are in the conversation.3.. TTP Mantra .Where can I go that is "fun. and interesting"? Moment-to-moment. You then think of several ways you can go (the related topics. positive. How do you move things in that direction? You can: • Ask a question • Make a comment • Make a joke • Quote someone you heard. and then steer things in the correct direction.3.3. as we discussed earlier. . you can always think of 6-8 other related topics or subjects. and Interesting? That is the direction to go! Candidate Topics Figure 4. move things towards the related topics that are "Fun.2-1: Topic Turning Point Navigation for General Conversational Management No matter what subject you start talking about. and interesting" and just move things in that direction. and then you move things in that direction! Remember . positive. the topic "candidates" that were shown earlier). • Etc.The overall direction of a conversation comes about due to a successive selection of TTPs. Repeat. Which Of these are Fun. TTP options..
Page 82 . (See Figure 4. 4. but in the early part of the conversation. Positive..3.).3.3. You are steering things towards the direction that you want the conversation to go.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Later in the conversation. and Interesting! Figure 4. you can work more towards certain topic areas. you get to an overall "area" that will work.3-1: Moving Through Topics Using General Conversational Management Early in a conversation. the most important thing to do is to focus on moving thing in a direction that is .3-1. "fun. Positive.) Keep things moving in the direction of Fun. and Interesting". and interesting".3 The Model With Strategy And Tactics In Place D8-T23 As you make TTP choice after TTP choice (See Figure 4.3-2. positive.. just keep thinking about where you can go that is "Fun.3. Do this for a while.
3-2: General Conversational Management Model The most important direction to go. 4. maybe that person is not someone that you want to talk to anyway). or where you are. what was the main topic? Topics Page 83 .3. and write down the topic for each. Positive. Positive. Even if you temporarily move away from that direction or end up in an area that is not very positive or interesting. and Interesting topics and subjects.3. At some particular moment early in the conversation. is towards Fun. and Interesting!/ Figure 4.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course General Conversational Mgt Model No matter where you start. always move towards topics and subjects that are Fun.4 Exercises and Assignments D8-T25 Exercises for General Conversational Management 1) Think of some conversations that you have been in recently. keep steering in the right direction and in many cases you WILL get towards the right area soon enough (and if not. especially early in a conversation.
ask about. For each of those Topics. Write each of those down. list 6-8 different ways you could go. or Candidate Topics). things you could comment on. consider it a topic that leads to a TTP (copy each item above into the "Topic" area below). Topic TTP Options (Candidate Topics') Page 84 . directions you could "take" the conversation (these are the TTP Options.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 2) Based on each of those topics.
Positive.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Of the 6-8 different TTP Options you have written above for each Topic. what would it have been like to have moved the conversation in the direction of the first item you circled? Practice that out loud for each Topic above. asking a question. which are the best? Which of these would move the conversation in a way that is best for you (think of "Fun. etc.. whatever it might take to move things in that direction. making a statement. 5) Practice again on each by moving things in the direction of the second item that was circled. maybe by making a comment. and Interesting")? Select two "candidates" and circle or highlight those two. 4) For each Topic. Page 85 .
Building on what we learned in the last section. positive. even at the start of a conversation. Interesting. we want things to get even more Page 86 . we can start to direct the conversation into an even BETTER area. etc." 4. interesting. we want to work with topics that get the emotions involved. You may start to find however. thinking "what COULD I have done. that no matter WHAT you do with some people. fascinating.4 4. maybe offer an opinion. It WILL get easier. At any moment you should be able to think "Where can I go with this?".Is that the sort of person you want to talk to and spend time with? Maybe not. you may have to think of 6-8 options. the more YOU can and will become that guy! 4. but the REAL key is to at least get to the point where you can very quickly think of at least 1 or 2 ways to go that are Fun.3. don't worry. and people REALLY interested. Maybe start out by looking at conversation after the fact. really be aware of the TTP opportunities in your day-to-day life.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Assignments for General Conversational Management 1) For the next week or so. you can direct where the overall conversation goes. we want it to be really interesting. We want to focus the aim of our conversational management skills even more. D8-T33 D8-T33 We want the conversation to be more than just positive. start to take the conversation there! Ask a question. Just do what you can so that the TTP shifts in a direction that is fun. In general. Do this for a while until the process of finding 1 or 2 good "Ways to go" in a conversation (good TTP options) can happen very rapidly for you. inquire about something. By manipulating TTPs from moment to moment. having conversations with. You then have to wonder . and positive conversation. • By moving things in this way. make a comment.5 Summary D8-T32 Remember what was said earlier: • The overall direction of a conversation comes about due to a successive selection of TTPs (which normally occur at random.1 ADVANCED CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Really Want. we are turning you into someone that people LIKE to talk to! You know the type of person that people enjoy talking to. 2) Now that you are able to quickly find 1 or 2 good TTP options. engaging. Make it so that it becomes easy for you to come up with a list of "options" very quickly. whatever it takes. they will not go down a path of having a fun. the imagination moving. or without an overall strategy in mind). positive and interesting topics. and spending time with? The type of guy that people seek out to spend time with? The more you do these types of exercises. At first. If this is a challenge for you. look for moments where things can be "steered" in a certain way. where COULD I have taken things". After a while.4. interesting. Instead of the more general area of fun. When talking to anyone. Positive. the conversation becomes more enjoyable for everyone.
and Interesting. With that as a general strategy. and more involvement of the imagination.1-1: Advanced Conversational Management Focuses the Steering From the start of a conversation. Using General Conversational Management. you move it in ways that engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way.) General Conversational Management takes the conversation into the Fun. more excitement. Positive. Positive.4. Now from that point. there are many ways to go.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course interesting. We move forward and want to get a more emotional tone. So we narrow our focus. (See Figure 4. how do we work that in what we are doing moment-to-moment? How can we do things that will make that happen? Page 87 . steer the conversation towards directions that engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way.4. there are many ways the conversation can move. To move the conversation into more interesting areas. and steer using Advanced Conversational Management Figure 4. Interesting area. So. From there. We use our strategy of working with the TTPs. Strategic Formula for Advanced Conversational Management To direct the conversation into even BETTER areas. to "steer" things even more towards what we want. we were able to move things in the direction of Fun. there were 4 main directions towards which a conversation may go. we now shift our strategy of "steering" things to direct the topics in a more focused manner using Advanced Conversational Management.1-1.
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4. Repeat. See Figure 4.4. we need to use the TTP as a way to move things in the right direction. With that established. 4. we can assume that we are talking about subjects which fit into the "Fun. we shift the focus of how we navigate TTPs.4.4. and explain a bit more as to its meaning and interpretation.3 The Model With Advanced Strategy And Tactics In Place D8-T38 (Before we move on to looking at the model.3-1 for an explanation.4. and with that strategy in mind.) Page 88 . TTP Fun.Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Move the conversation in that direction.2-1: Topic Turning Point Navigation for Advanced Conversational Management After using General Conversational Management for a while. Positive. and Interesting" area. we need to change the way the model is shown.4.2-1. but now think "where can I go that will engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way".2 Steering Conversations Moment To Moment using Advanced Conversational Management D8-T35 Again. we look at the concept of the TTP. Positive.) TTP Mantra " Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Tactical Formula for Advanced Conversational Management Keep thinking . (See Figure 4. Interesting Topics Which of these "Engage the Emotions and imagination in a Positive Way"? That is the direction to go! Candidate Topics Figure 4.
(2). with thousands upon thousands of possible possible routes and outcomes.) the conversation moves on for a while. In practice. Page 89 . and (3) in the figure above (and in the next figure) helps to show this. it may take ten. the model above is what we used to show a starting point (1). the graphics we will use will show an even more "condensed" version of this process. Figure 4. At that point. or topic shift) shown on the digram may represent many steps in an actual conversation. where every "step" (TTP. Positive. The locations of points (1). From now on in the course. not an exact number of steps or outcomes. etc. and it ends up at a certain area (2). For example. and Interesting conversation (2) may take four steps. once again ending up with thousands of topics that could be discussed by the time you get through more topic shifts (3). But after using the general techniques (Fun. When starting from ANY topic (1) to a place where you are firmly established for a period of time in a Fun.4.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Understanding the Conversational Management Model The model attempts to show a process that has many many steps. It may happen in ten minutes. so that the various stages of a conversation can be easily illustrated. For example. these diagrams will indicate a VERY condensed version of the number of steps involved. Positive.3-1: Understanding the Conversational Management Model The "levels" shown in the models are not meant to be exact. but a way to show a "trend". there can be a whole "tree" of possibilities leading from there. we are not showing that there are exactly "four steps" between points (1) and (2). or thirty. This can result in so many possibilities (many thousands within a few steps) that it's important to look at these diagrams as a way to show "trend".
Now the emphasis is on ways to "Engage the Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way". Although the diagram shows only 2 steps (for simplicity). you end up linking and associating many fascinating. 20. only a few of which are shown in the diagram. the conversation will get more and more of an "emotional" tone to it. to yourself! Advanced Conversational Management Model Figure 4. 8. until it is firmly established that the conversation has engaged the emotions and imagination of the participant. or however long it takes to be firmly established in a Fun. and could be at any of thousands of topics after 6. And of course while doing that. 10. This is shown from point (1) to point (2) in the diagram. Then a shift is made towards focusing the conversation even more using Advanced Conversational Management. and Interesting conversation (2). The subjects will get more and more fascinating.3-2: Advanced Conversational Management Model Early in the conversation.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course We started at one topic. For a while. If you refer to Figure 4. you can see how General Conversational Management. emotional topics. 10 topic shifts. If you follow these two simple strategies together (and the tactical approach of simply watching the TTPs and moving things in the right way).4. This is shown between points (2) and (3). This too can take any number of steps.3-2. feelings. and then Advanced Conversational Management. Positive. General Conversational Management techniques are used. This also is followed for a series of steps and a period of time.4. if you use the language tools which we learned about earlier in the course. subjects. and states. we now focus more on moving in a direction that will "Engage the Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way". in practice it may be good to follow a series of topics for 5. or 30 minutes. are used together to move forward in a conversation. After that has been established. the conversation will get better and better. As time goes on. Page 90 . we focused the conversation towards moving things in a direction that is "Fun Positive and Interesting. exciting.
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4. These should be conversations where it is already obvious that it is a fun. and interesting conversation.4 Exercises and Assignments D8-T39 Exercises for Advanced Conversational Management 1) Think of some conversations that you have been in recently. and write down the topic for each. list 6-8 different ways you could go. For each of those Topics. directions you could "take" the conversation (these are the TTP Options. At some particular moment in that conversation. what was the main topic? Topics 2) Based on each of those topics. ask about. Write each of those down.4. positive. or Candidate Topics). things you could comment on. consider it a topic that leads to a TTP (copy each above into the "Topic" areas below). Topic a. TTP Options (Candidate Topics') Page 91 .
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really be aware of the TTP opportunities in your day-to-day life. Maybe start out by looking at conversation after the fact. but the REAL key is to at least get to the point where you can very quickly think of at least 1 or 2 ways to go that "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". At first.1 Summary MORE ADVANCED CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT More About Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Really Want. fascinating. we want to steer things more towards romantic. 4) For each Topic. Do this for a while.5 4. until the process of finding 1 or 2 ways to go that "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way" in a conversation can happen very rapidly for you. where COULD I have taken things". So. Assignments for Advanced Conversational Management 1) For the next week or so. we focus further on the TTP options! Page 93 . seductive things... positive. what would it have been like to have moved the conversation in the direction of the first item you circled? Practice that out loud for each Topic above. maybe by making a comment. It WILL get easier. and interesting.5. asking a question. start to take the conversation there! Ask a question. etc.5 4. whatever it takes. D8-T46 D8-T47 D8-T47 As you can see.. inquire about something.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Of the 6-8 different TTP Options you have written above for each Topic. whatever it might take to move things in that direction. 4. what next? At some point in the conversation. but be especially aware of wanting to move things to "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". Just do what you can so that the TTP shifts in a direction that can "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". once again. 2) Now that you are able to quickly find 1 or 2 good TTP options for yourself that "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". which 1 or 2 would tend to "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way"? Which ones move things in a way that is best for you? Select two "candidates" and circle or highlight these two. we are "steering" things more and more in a direction that we wish to go. make a comment.4. even things with some degree of sensual connotation to them. If this is a challenge for you. This is best when applied to a conversation that is ALREADY fun. making a statement. don't worry. maybe offer an opinion. So. 5) Practice again on each by moving things in the direction of the second item that was circled. thinking "what COULD I have done. you may have to think of 6-8 options.
5. Repeat.3 The Model With More Advanced Strategy And Tactics In Place D8-T52 We are just closing in. steer the conversation towards romantic. fascinating. 4.5.5. seductive things?" Move the conversation in that direction. The focus now is upon topics that get you closer towards Romantic. However. if you have been in a conversation for a while.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Strategic Formula for More Advanced Conversational Management To further direct the conversation into even BETTER areas.5.5. positive and interesting thing. seductive things?" Figure 4. and seductive things. seductive things is much easier after you have first move towards fun.) Page 94 . and associating YOU with them! (See Figure 4. then the focus shifts again towards directing things in a specific way.2-1. and followed the other strategies and tactics shown earlier. This gets her mind into thinking more and more about these things.2-1: Topic Turning Point Navigation for More Advanced Conversational Management After using General and Advanced Conversational Management. Seductive things Tactical Formula for More Advanced Conversational Management Keep thinking .) "Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. This may seem odd or hard to do. and focusing more and more towards areas and topics that work. Moving towards romantic. and then topics that engage the emotions and imagination. you will have taken things in the right direction and this will be much easier. 4. fascinating.2 Steering Conversations Using More Advanced Conversational Management D8-T49 TTP Mantra (See Figure 4. fascinating."Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. Fascinating.3-1. fascinating.
5. moving to point (4) Page 95 .3-1: More Advanced Conversational Management Model As the conversation progresses. there is a different focus at each stage. and Seductive. Then the Advanced Conversational Management Techniques place the focus more upon items that involve the Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way. moving to point (3). which targets topics and subjects that are Romantic.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course More Advanced Conversational Management Model Figure 4. shown from point (1) to (2).. the focus moves towards selecting items based on More Advanced Conversational Management. Fascinating. General Conversational Management techniques place the focus on selecting items that are Fun. Positive. Early on. After that type of conversation has been established (3). and Interesting.
and then an emotional one. Too many guys are too caught up in this one-shot dream of traveling once across the model and getting an amazing result. then a sensual one.1-1. Moreover.6.6.MAGIC! However that is NOT the way it works in the real world.1 The 1-Shot Beeline Fallacy D9-T2 Guys assume that they will travel from a general topic. This hardly ever ever happens. that they will get an AMAZING reaction in their first movement across the Model.1-1: The Dream of a 1-Shot Path To Success! A common misperception is that many guys think that if they can just move a conversation from the start. will work in your favor.) The Dream that Does Not Happen! Figure 4. (See Figure 4.6 CONVERSATIONAL FRACTIONATION D9-T1 Using these Conversational Management skills in the real world may be quite different in practice from the way most guys "think" it will happen. to a positive one.6. the way it really DOES happen. Page 96 . and then . 4.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4. and get things to be more and more fascinating and exciting.
. This actually ADDS to the power and effectiveness of what you are doing. you take a conversation from the early stages through the process.6.. (See Figure 4. the conversation ends up being very interesting and fascinating! 4.2 How Fractionation Works D9-T3 The real world has stops. you are always moving towards positive topics.) a) b) c) d) Page 97 . stay there and talk about it for a while. Because no matter where you start from. and fascinating and seductive topics..6.3 Using Conversational Fractionation D9-T5 Start at some normal topic and move through the model towards the right. So.. You just start the process again. no matter how the conversation jumps around. g) Do the whole process over and over.. starts..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4.. move on to the next step. you may jump back just several steps in our Conversational Management Process. and then . This actually works better! We are actually using Fractionation. You might do that on your own.31. Then you "back up" to some extent (even all the way back to a very general topic area) and then move forward across the model again. When we say "go back". Then at some point. This is where a process is done repeatedly over and over. So. moving through the model towards the right. restarts. no matter where you start.. Maybe you start from a very general topic and get all the way through the model towards a very very fascinating topic or subject. and then at some point. Start at any topic (you are on the far left side of the Model) Move forward towards the right. Maybe several times. If you get to a very good place. Have fun. And again. No problem.6. Use the language tools. In this way. etc. e) Then move back (towards the left side of the model) This may happen because: • The person you are talking to does that (she asks a question) • Or maybe you do it (just to lighten things up) f) Then start again. goes for some distance through the model (maybe all the way through). using the Conversational Management techniques Get as far through the model as you can. Maybe you move all the way back to a very "normal" topic (which would be all the way on the left side of the model). No problem. or maybe the conversation shifts back to that place due to something she says. you back off. emotional and imaginative topics. here is how this works. You back up to a more general topic. Of if you can't seem to get to a good place.. Great! Talk about that for a while. The conversation starts. you go back towards something more "normal".. Just start the process again.
3-1: How Conversation Fractionation Works on the Model Follow the conversation as it moves from (1) to (12). it's not a bad idea to back up a bit (9) and then move forward again. As things move forward from (1).6. at times maybe they move towards an area that is not too good (2). This is not a problem. interesting. and fascinating! 4. The overall trend is that. You become one of those fascinating guys. As time goes on (5-12) the conversation gets into better and better areas. simply back up (3) and then try moving into a better direction (4).6. over time. there is a continued movement up and into better and better areas of conversation. it ends up being fun.4 Dead Ends Come Back To Life! D9-T6 With this new strategy of using Conversational Fractionation. Fractionation happens at times because even when you may be at a fairly good place for a while (8).Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Conversational Fractionation at Work Figure 4. there is no such thing as a conversational "Dead End"! Page 98 . that no matter WHAT you talk about.
use the language tools as much as possible! D9-T8 • • • • • • • • • Keep moving the conversation into these interesting fascinating areas . stay there for a while.7 CONVERSATIONAL OVERVIEW AND REVIEW D9-T7 So. how do we pull this together? 4. Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. back up a few steps. Just back up. or maybe negative. Do that for a while and then think . have more material to use in conversations in the future! 4. uninteresting. etc. use the language tools. or what you both have in common Move forward with the Strategies and Tactics in mind. fascinating. talked more..3 Summary D9-T10 Go have fun with these tools! Page 99 .7.. and use the Strategy and Tactics of the Conversational Management techniques! Look at "Dead Ends" as being just like a bad turn on a road.1 • Conversational Management Approach Start on just about ANY subject. Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Move things in that direction. Where can I go that is fun.. you might have just found out that they are NOT someone you want to spend time with! That's not a total loss because you STILL learned more. (think of your TTP options).Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course If you happen to take a "wrong turn" somehow and get into an area of discussion that is boring. No problem. you just back up. o If you get to a good subject or topic.. seductive things? Move things in that direction.. • What if you can't make the conversation positive? • What if she always points out the negative aspect? • What if there is NO emotional engagement at ALL? Well.2 What If The Outcome Is Not What You Expected? D9-T9 Despite your best efforts. positive.7. this can happen.7... and interesting? Move things in that direction. —* The entire time: o If you hit a "dead end". and the person becomes interested and fascinated. When on good topics. Do that for a while and then think . with you! 4.. and get the effect. and go down another path! 4.. o Comment on what is around o Mention common items.
. you should be able to use them with subjects in which you are already interested! Page 101 . what can we do here in this course to help you? We have talked about the way to talk and use language. However. and closer towards the subjects that will really serve your intent. to get the best effect you will have to be a PART of that conversation and familiar with the topics that may come up. Topics • • 5.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 5. if using those language tools is problem for you. this is something we can and will work on with you. In the meantime.. and some familiarity with this type of thing. the more familiar you will be with these topics. the easier it will get. and while talking about subjects and topics that YOU are really passionate about. then you may want to go back in those earlier sections. fun. The more experience you get. However. the more you talk to people about such things. TOPICS OF ENTHUSIASM AND PASSION D9-T14 What are you passionate about? Few things are more compelling in a person than for them to be passionate about something (hopefully many things) in life. Most men may not be very familiar with many of the topics that we REALLY want to get into. What do you talk about? There is no substitute for experience. You will be able to say things like "I was talking to someone about this the other day. You want to be able to discuss these topics easily. Can you talk passionately about something? Anything? Hopefully. yes! How well can you talk about topics that YOU are passionate about while using many of the language tools we talked about in the earlier parts of the course? If you can do that very well .1 Themes are a way through a discussion or through the "tree of subjects" that we showed earlier. especially as they get more interesting.0 TOPICS D9-T11 What do you talk about? As the conversation gets more interesting. and then the more "material" you will have. we have talked about managing conversations. some practice.) Before you can use the language tools with new subjects that you are learning about. so that YOU have some material.". and THEY said. fascinating. fascinating. and that statement (regarding having actually talked to someone about the topics) will be TRUE! So. Now we want you to become familiar with topics that will really work well for you! We are going to work with some of these topics. A topic is a particular area of discussion that is taking place in a moment.great! It's easier to use the language tools if you are discussing topics with which you are familiar. go ahead and practice! (Or maybe do that the next time you go through the course. Themes vs. Talking about these topics may be a challenge for many men. and it's even better if you are passionate about those topics.
.) Page 102 . How good are you at the earlier sections that dealt with the language tools? It may be a good idea to go back over those sections. Your point is to get to. can create an AMAZING effect! When you do get a conversation into an area near an SOT. etc. and seductive. You may talk about cars. and emphasize discussing topics in which YOU are interested and passionate about. a topic that is an SOT. You want to be able to discuss topics that deal on some level with Seduction. in the right way Use the language tools! You want to be familiar with these topics (SOTs) and able to discuss them easily: maybe not ALL of them. 5. Topics that access emotions. or cleaning the toilet. sensual. excitement. SOTs are the "end goals" when it comes to managing or directing a conversation. but a good number of them.just TALKING about these can create a good effect. but doing so while using the language tools.. Seduction Oriented Topics (SOTs) .. These are called "Seduction Oriented Topics"... at least. stay there as long as you can! Talk about it. or the office. or sports. and link it to you! When • • • • • you are at or near an SOT: Use the correct tone of Voice Pace and Lead correctly Link things to you Point at the right times. or topics that are very close to that concept..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course So. or near. in some ways.2 SEDUCTION ORIENTED TOPICS D9-T15 In the context of this course (and your intent in talking with . someone) some topics are easier to work with than others. The conversational management sections will help you to move the conversation in a way that will get you near these topics areas. but how effective are those as subjects given the "purpose" of the discussion? You want to discuss topics and things which deal with seduction.Topics that bring up images and thoughts that are romantic. work it. (Every guy has his favorites and ones that work best for him. judge for yourself. feelings. Examples of SOTs • Connections • Going for it • Making good decisions • Surrendering to feelings • Getting excited • Feeling excited • Trusting your judgment • Taking chances • Indulgence • Maturity • Good decisions • . or.
Eventually. or in movies. or seduction per se. using as many of the language tools as you can. the more you practice using the tools. or even watched in a movie! (Or heard in a course that you took . bring up images and thoughts that may work for you. and discuss these subjects. and without "thinking" about the language tools. 3) Practice talking about each aloud. or anything like that..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course These topics may seem foreign to you. or ask questions. easily. the more you work with the materials. keep it there. ask about them. you JUST need to be able to talk. but the more you think about them. Seduction Oriented Topics 2) You must become familiar with these! You must be able to talk about them. use as many of the language tools as you can. Assignments for Seduction Oriented Topics 1) Pay attention to conversations in your life (even things you hear on the radio. Meaning. Think about other topics you have heard mentioned in this program. the easier it will be to "riff" on these using the language tools. have stories about them.. You can use some of those that were listed earlier if you wish. Page 103 . the more you practice. Think of SOME way to discuss these. and the more you talk to and with people about them. Exercises for Seduction Oriented Topics 1) Build your own list of SOTs. Write down your list of SOTs. by there very nature. or comment on them! Talk aloud for several minutes about each. and hopefully add some of your own. Or. or overhear from others) and listen for when any of these SOTs come up in conversation. Don't worry about talking to women. or on TV. and while there. the easier it will get! Strategic Formula for Seduction Oriented Topics SOTs are topics that. read. hopefully some way that involves you and your own life. Or are taking!) .Are you able to somehow relate to these in your own life? Maybe something you read or heard? Maybe questions you can ask? ANYTHING?!?!? You do not need to "know" a lot about these topics or be an expert. you will be able to just "talk" about the subject while using the tools that are available. talk about something you heard. Get the conversation there.. and also topics that you have heard in other materials and products that you have. or joke about them.
this is one of the key challenges that many guys face. or even when anything CLOSE to one of your SOTs is discussed. etc.SOTXs D9-T24 What if you had not just 10 ways of discussing "Seduction Oriented" subjects. These are called Expanded SOTs (SOTXs). then the more material YOU will have to talk about. Maybe ask some questions about things that deal with your SOTs. or even just TRY to do so. The more you hear. 5. it WILL get easier. That is understandable.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Listen to what is being said. Really! Learning to discuss such things may start out slowly. anything at all! Talk. ask. Because of that.3 EXPANDED SEDUCTION ORIENTED TOPICS . ask what something means. but we are walking you through (at least the first steps of) the process to make this easier: • • • • • • • • • • • You have made a list of SOTs. after having worked with hundreds of guys. So can you. Many guys who can now talk about these things VERY easily and comfortably started from a place of having NO idea of what to say! They changed. make a comment. but this time with SOTs. I can tell you that it DOES get easier and easier to be able to talk about these things. That makes you really think about them. ask an opinion."). They started and became more and more familiar with these topics. And that gives you MORE material to talk about! Which make it easier for you to enter into more conversations about these subjects and topics. and frankly.Talk about these subjects and topics! Make a point to enter into a discussion when one of your SOTs is mentioned. That gives YOU more familiarity with discussing them. (As in. and start to get your brain working on them.. Make special note of topics that are CLOSE or similar to these SOTs in some way. 2) Now . and easily come up with 6-8 related topics. but as long as you start it. Page 104 . Then you get to hear MORE people talk about them. Use as many of the language tools as you can. SOT Summary I KNOW that these topics may seem foreign to you. and move through these exercises and assignments. That's what we want to do here. You start to listen and take notice of when these are discussed. what people think. this process must start somewhere. but had even more? Maybe 50? What if that was easy and familiar for you? Think back to how we looked at topics earlier. However. it gets easier to enter into more conversations that deal with these topics. They did it. discuss. You do a few exercises to talk about them. the more you listen. quote. what is said. "the other day I heard someone talking about. It may start a bit slowly and awkwardly. However.. See? We are working on a process to get you to become more comfortable and familiar with these things. You listen more to when they are discussed. We learned how you can move from any topic.. and makes it easier for you to talk about them. show interest.
. pets.with someone while on vacation . That just makes it easier for our example below).with family .. (You do not really need to list "connections with" for each.with your teammates Figure 5.with someone you just met . or only one aspect of that to discuss (connections in a romantic or sensual context). That is one subject. it's easy to think of several different aspects of that topic or related topics. For any given SOT. and build a whole list of very similar things to talk about -which are SOTXs! For example. you now have 6-8 ways to discuss it. you can talk about that for while.with pets . see Figure 5..with coworkers . but can you think of 6-8 different aspects of this? (Remember what we did in the earlier sections... Look at the list above..3-1. (Does that diagram look familiar?) If "Connections" is an SOT. Instead of worrying about getting to that one topic (SOT) in a certain way.. comes up in a conversation.with friends .. However as we see here. places... family. and things that can be discussed... there are many different types or examples of connecting to people. Then. how we discussed a Topic Turning Point?) If Connections is a particular subject..with a girlfriend . if friends.. They think of only one way of talking about that subject. you can take any SOT.3-1: How SOTs are related to an SOTXs..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Expanding on a Topic Area "Connections" is an SOT. can you think of different aspects of that? Parts of Connections? Questions about Connections? Ways of experiencing Connections? People or things with which you can experience Connections? By asking those types of questions (to yourself). the SOTX list consists of all of these items shown in the diagram and listed below.with music . coworkers.. SOT Connections SOTX Connections with family Connections with friends Connections with coworkers Connections with pets Connections with a girlfriend Connections with someone you just met Connections with someone while on vacation Connections with music Connections with your teammates Many guys worry about talking about something like "Connections". how easy would it be to talk about how you CONNECT with those? And if you talk about Page 105 . etc.. .
. Just make a comment. b.. and how you (or someone else) can connect with a pet. or how that topic can be experienced. ask a question.to . SOTs " SOTXs List Page 106 . this is a TTP diagram in reverse!) For example. or different aspects of that topic. that you just met! When you expand SOTs in this way.3-2.) Family Friends Coworkers Pets Connections A girlfriend Someone you just met Someone met on vacation Music Teammates Figure 5. c.. a. etc. or maybe even someone.. (Yes.. or a special person. all of a sudden there are many MORE ways to get to these really GREAT topics! Exercises f o r Expanded Seduction Oriented T o p i c s 1) Take the SOT list you had earlier (copy those down into the first column below. if someone is talking about pets. it's very easy to then shift. how to connect with people. This is your SOTX list. then you can shift to talking about "how you can connect with a pet" fairly easily.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course THAT (how you connect in that manner) for a while..) and for each SOT. point out an example regarding pets. you can be as close as one step away from an SOT. then you can shift towards ANOTHER type of "connection" very easily! (See Figure 5.3-2: SOTXs Can Lead Into SOTs If any of the topics in the SOTX list comes up in conversation. If you talk about that for a while. you are to list 5 (at least) related topics.
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you talk about pets. Step back and look at what you have done! You have 10 SOTs with which YOU are familiar. Talk about that SOTX for a moment or two. then about connecting with pets. (Like the earlier example. practice talking about it out loud. but now do so while using the language tools.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 2) Now for each SOTX. and see if you can then focus what you are saying towards the SOT itself. That gives you a LOT of flexibility in conversations! Page 108 . You have 50 SOTXs that you are now familiar with as well. then about connecting in general.) 3) Do the same thing again.
Maybe you will even start to notice SOTXs that were not even ON your list. it's about getting YOU comfortable and familiar with these topics. The techniques that you have learned are the sort of things that many people do naturally.with someone while on vacation .... but it IS related to an SOT that I have worked with"..with music . the easier it will be to notice SOTXs.. "I didn't list that SOTX..with pets Connections . The real usefulness of this is when you reverse the order as shown in Figure 5.4 CONVERSATIONAL MODEL WITH SOTXs.. SOTXs are now like "conversational landmarks" for you in terms of navigating a conversation.. 5. We have broken these down. modeled the process arid the steps involved. or anything like them mentioned. Summary You now have MORE material to work with than you ever thought possible! This is not about memorizing. The more you work with this.with friends . especially politicians and activists. See if you can move the conversation a bit towards the SOT itself. use the language tools if and whenever you can.with a girlfriend . If anything like an SOTX comes up in a conversation. Good speakers.with family .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Assignments for Expanded Seduction Oriented Topics 1) Look at all of your SOTXs! That's a LOT of subjects! Pay attention in your life to see how often any of those items come up in conversation (or maybe you just hear them somewhere).4-1: SOTXs Are The Pathways To SOTs SOTXs are an easy way to get towards SOTs. It ALL gets easier! 2) Start to "direct" the conversations you encounter where your SOTXs are mentioned.. concept of "topics related to a topic" in many many places... broke it into bits and pieces that you can learn and do as exercises. you know that you are very close to getting near a subject area that will work very well for you.with someone you just met . However.. and move the conversation towards SOTs.. spotting these opportunities get easier and easier.. The more familiar you are with these subjects. . D9-T32 We discussed how to develop an SOTX list from an SOT.4-1... that process can work both ways.. it is easy to then move the conversation towards topics that will work better for you (SOTs).with your teammates Family Friends Coworkers Pets A girlfriend Someone you just met Someone met on vacation Music Teammates Connections This is how we developed SOTXs This is the most useful way of thinking of SOTXs Figure 5. . You will start to notice this.with coworkers . use such techniques a LOT. You may think. In addition. Page 109 .. if you hear any of them mentioned. and then built upon that step by step.
However in the figure above. this will start to happen for you.4-2: Your Multiple Pathways to SOTs! Now that you have worked with 10 SOTs. you have already worked with 10 SOTs and 50 SOTXs as shown in Figure 5. and for you to just start to "recognize" these things on your own . and anything like an SOTX comes up in the discussion.without "thinking" about them. there are really 50 SOTXs and 10 SOTs shown . After all.4-2. we can then show them as part of our Conversational Model. As the topics get better and better. The point here (again) is not to memorize the SOTs. Figure 5. that this process will now be easier than you may have imagined. you have started to train yourself to "recognize" these landmarks. you will get closer and closer to SOTXs. we have had to compress or simplify them quite a bit and show only a fraction of the actual steps and numbers involved so that the diagrams do not become too large or complex. you now see how easy it can be to move over to an SOT! In fact.4-3 shows this in the model itself. and 50 SOTXs (in the earlier exercises) you now have many many SOTXs with which YOU are familiar! More importantly. to be able to notice when you are talking about things which are "close to" topics that will work well for you. and then towards SOTs.. you have practiced with so many of these SOTXs. and done the exercises and assignments. that is not an abbreviation or exaggeration. If you have followed the program. SOTXs SOTs Figure 5. It's to have you practice and become familiar with them. or the SOTXs.the number that YOU have actually worked with so far! Since SOTXs and SOTs are the "goals" in terms of managing a conversation.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course So whenever you are having a conversation. Page 110 . In many of the diagrams.
or anything that is "related" to an SOT. You can start from almost ANYWHERE. Stay there for a while if you can! Figure 5. you can start from just about ANY topic and get to GREAT topics! It's easy. just follow the steps listed earlier in the Conversational Management sections. which are topics near or related to seduction (a step or two away from SOTs). it's that you have trained yourself to recognize things that are SOTs.4-3: SOTs Are THE Goals in Conversational Management As you move through a conversation. Move towards SOTs.) Page 111 . or as close as you can towards SOTs. SOTXs SOTs Listen for SOTXs Anything near or related to an SOT. 5.. and topics that are close to that (SOTXs).5-1. SOTXs are a pathway to make that easier. and using this type of approach you will have fascinating conversations with people that lead to where YOU want to go! (See Figure 5.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course SOTs in the Conversational Management Model The end goal is to get to. When you get to an SOTx. and ANY TOPIC. you start to "listen" for topics that are SOTXs. then you can simply move things towards a topic that is very seduction-oriented! The point is not to have a "list" in mind. Then move the conversation towards an SOT! This works. then start to pay attention for SOTXs. Period.5 THE COMPLETE CONVERSATIONAL MODEL D9-T33 Start from any topic and get to where you want! Yes.
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Steer towards . back up! If you move back to a general topic. start over! Assignment! 1) Try it! Start directing conversations using the conversational management model. and see how easy it is to get to some good topic that is an SOT.Fun. exciting. or very close! Page 113 . fascinating. or SOTX.5-1: The Complete Conversational Management Model (continued) Start a Conversation Manage the Conversation Move the Conversation in a Good Direction Steer towards ... Fractionate If you take a wrong turn.....Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Figure 5. Especially when at or near SOTXs and SOTs. Steer towards .Romantic. interesting .Engaging the emotions and imagination in a positive way . seductive things Direct the Conversation Pay attention when Good Subjects come up (SOTXs) Listen for anything a step or two away from an SOT Move towards SOTs Stay there as long as you can Use The Language Tools! As much as possible.
plus these areas will work for HER because SHE selected them (in a manner of speaking) • Talk and manage the conversation into an area that DOES work for you. Don't think of "how can I get to the pattern". • While talking to a woman. or navigation. Amplify these feelings and states by talking. We practice specific parts of areas of the skills we wish to use later on.2 PATTERN FORMULA D10-T7 Tactical Formula for Patterns While talking to a woman. handling the gas pedal.Many of the details of driving a car are things you just "do". etc. She may take the conversation into better places that you could have predicted. "A plan" or "model". • Driving . With this new approach to learning and using these tools. • An example of what you can say. or series of actions. Once you actually play the game though. think about having a conversation (and managing it correctly). that's the key. we work in that manner. Present a Call to action. and being aware of when you DO get to an area of conversation that does allow you to use a pattern. Its just a "type" of talking that you can (and will be able to) use when you feel it is appropriate. or "how can I bring up a pattern that I know". certain actions. or model to be followed in making things. A New way of thinking about the use of patterns • The wrong way is to talk to someone and to keep thinking. diagram. • Maybe talk to a woman and allow HER to bring up things that end up working well in pattern-like language. you make decisions on-the-spot as to what to do and how to proceed. get her to "experience" good feelings and states o Use the Conversational Management Techniques to get there o Get her to think about good and/or exciting feelings Page 115 . The navigation is handled through our use of Conversational Management techniques. In the same manner. asking. THAT ends up being a very effective way to create "patterns". we have practiced the small details (language skills) so that these are automatic. • Instead. The Pattern Formula in detail. and as "a way of speaking". the clutch.0 6. Use the language tools. A representative sample. It's best to just think of patterns as examples. These smaller skills become automatic and you focus instead of driving. Patterns are just examples of the use of these tools. Link and associate these feelings to you.You don't play the entire game ahead of time.1 PATTERNS PATTERN OVERVIEW D10-T1 What is a pattern? • A plan. or could say.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 6. or "how can I bring this pattern up". clarifying. "how can I get to my pattern". Examples/Analogies: • Sports . You don't have to think about moving the wheel. You practice bits and pieces of the sport. get her to "experience" good feelings and states. 6.
clarifying o Use the Language Tools o Asking her for info. because doing so may work against you. and have them there for your use if and when the correct situation comes up. these canned patterns DO have some usefulness. but they assume that you are in a conversation where they will work and be somewhat "appropriate" to what is being discussed.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • o Get her feeling good and/or exciting feelings o Get her experiencing (or recall the experience of) good and/or exciting feelings o Get her to think about things that she wants or desires Amplify these feelings and states by talking. In the real world. what you need to do is to look at. 6. asking. Therefore it is best to maybe have some of these memorized. if you just "drop" a pattern into the conversation. and do. and real-time "Riffing". 6. and the proper context is not created. In THAT case . pre-written patterns that you have seen and heard. sound quite strange. don't focus TOO much on them. Some times that does happen.these pre-written or canned patterns can work very well. The problem is if you are SO focused on just "getting to the pattern" that you know (or even one of many that you know) then it's difficult to have a good conversation. Their best use is when you use the Conversational Management techniques and then find that the conversation just happens to get to or near a pattern that you DO happen to know already. "this person... The good ways to use these are as teaching and learning tools. etc Link and associate those feelings to you o Use the Language Tools o Use linkage phrases like "now with me". • The interesting topic that she and you are discussing o what is happening o what you know Page 116 . canned patterns are good.. or things you have read. and that the woman will react to what the patterns is about. So. However. o Use "this" and "these" (be aware of that and those as well) o Point and mark appropriately Present a Call to action o "Do it now" language o Create a Challenge o Create an Opportunity o Talk about the chance to "Seize the moment" o A simple add-on to the Language Tools There are two main ways of doing patterns. pre-rehearsed. many times it does not.3 CANNED PATTERNS D10-T12 These are the pre-rehearsed. "Canned" patterns. But. when you are talking to a woman. Pre-written." etc. for her to elaborate and describe o Repeating back what she has said o Provide examples from your own life o Provide examples from friends.4 PATTERN RIFFING IN REAL-TIME D10-T13 This is the ability to just create pattern language on-the-fly. they can. and to use what is needed in the moment.
and sensual things. Page 117 . Then you have a conversation and. and and use the language tools. Then we use those as a basis for discussion. interesting. using the tools.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • o what she is reacting to o and discuss things which are appropriate. • Use some "act now" languaging. looking and listening for positive feelings. • Talk about these things or listen to you talk about these things • get her to think about these things • get her to feel these things • get her to link them to you. states. get her to. THE BEST PATTERN IS THIS: • • Get her to talk and think about positive. exciting. Wanting to take action or seize an opportunity Always • • • • See the pattern here? We are in general.. Use the language tools so that YOU become associated with those things. and actions in the conversation.. emotions. it really IS that easy! look for: Positive emotions and feeling Positive sensations (as in physical ones) Exciting feelings. Yes.
fifth. and/or compulsion to act a. We really are focused upon changing you. and really take the time to do the exercises. comfort in. the greater your results will be. and view an overall strategy. DO THE EXERCISES. 3. D10-T27 Listen to the full explanations. Talk about something positive and interesting c.4 BE WILLING AND PREPARED TO PUT ENERGY INTO THIS COURSE. a.5 CONGRATULATIONS! WELL DONE! D10-T29 Page 119 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 7. SOTs) 4. Use the Language Tools 5. 1. Direct and/or link those feelings towards you. D10-T28 The more energy and effort you put into this.1 REVIEW AND SUMMARY REVIEW D10-T18 The course has followed a "bottom-up" approach to training. Both you and her talk! 2. focusing first on small details. Create a willingness. -' d. AND FOLLOW THE COURSE. Engage her emotions and imagination in a positive way. and how you speak. 7.2 SUMMARY D10-T26 This may be similar to information you have heard in the past. a. Keep the conversation going. Use the Language Tools 7. Use the conversational management techniques b. Keep her there and keep talking! a. Fractionate if and when needed. Get the conversation into good subjects (SOTXs. 7. you will benefit.3 LISTEN. of fourteenth time through. 7. and then building up to bigger and bigger pieces.0 7. but the method of approaching it is very different. It really is up to you. and the more engaged you are in the process. Now we can look from the "top-down". Direct the conversation in a way that takes you toward good topics a. Whether its your first. Use the conversational management techniques b.
EXAMPLES Dll-Tl The discussions presented on the audio for this section are intentionally "casual" to familiarize you even more with the use of these tools. and provide you with some real-world examples of their use. Page 121 . EXAMPLES.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 8.0 EXAMPLES.
and to "soften " the way in which something is said.. to convey a sense of drama and intrigue in what you are saying in a way that "captivates "people and makes them want to listen to you. Pause? Energy And Enthusiasm Using energy and enthusiasm when speaking so that people can become energized and enthusiastic about listening to and being with you. so that their feelings.. and well-placed pauses. Fast.. • Nose... or Chest? Pacing And Pausing Use variations in pace. • If you were to . • What's it like when . • If I were to . • Have you ever ...Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course APPENDIX 1 Course "Cheat Sheet" • SPEAKING POINTERS o The "Cool" Factor You don't have to be cold... and charismatic presence. • Slow. emotions. • Passionate or Boring? o o o • LANGUAGE TOOLS A N T D E T A I L S o Adjectives And Adverbs Use more adjectives and adverbs in your speech to appeal to and excite the emotional side of the listener. use Adjectives And Adverbs Trance Words Help to get the subconscious mind of the listener to be more of apart of your conversation. Voice Tone And Tonality Use your best tone of voice (speaking from your chest) to convey a relaxed. • Be descriptive. powerful. allowing you to say more (and maybe more provocative things) about a subject. and processes awaken. • Instantaneously " Suddenly • Find Yourself • Convince Yourself • Suppose • Imagine " Mysterious (-ly) • Wonder (-ous) (-ously) Weasel Phrases Use Weasel Phrases to keep the conversation going.. Mouth. to be cool. " As you. o o Page 123 .
Point to you • Negative Say "those". Point away • Positive statement. • Whenever you say something positive.. etc. Say "these". Easy Linking Expanded Pointing With This. Say "this".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o Embedded Commands Use embedded commands repeatedly and in the proper context. o o • MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures Move. • Move! Point! Linking Gestures Towards And Away • Whenever you say something negative. • Point Or Touch On Positive —* o o o • LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES o Pace And Lead Pacing and Leading allows you "be " in the conversation for a while and gain rapport and information. intrigue. Point away. and accentuate what you are saying in order to be more compelling as a speaker and to get even more attention from your listener or audience. That. point or gesture towards yourself. gesture. Easy Anchoring When the person you are talking with displays a positive feeling of some type. Point to you • Negative statement. Those • Positive statement. • Use "That" and "Those" when referring to anything negative. link them to you so that YOU become something and someone that they feel good about • Now with me • In me • In myself • with this • these • this belief • these feelings Easy-Linking • Use "This" and "These" when referring to anything positive. to create a compelling will on the part of the listener follow you and listen to you. Linking After getting someone to experience good feelings and emotions. These. point or gesture away. motion. touch them to help anchor it to you. interest. laugh. a smile. Say "that".. • Can you do this now. allowing you to move things more in your favor later on Page 124 ..
Listing • General Listing General Listing is a way to quickly provide several reason. or thoughts) use "More and More " as a way to string them together (and increase your chances of that happening • The more X. or giving an example. experiences. and c When giving examples or options to someone. etc. keep the discussion focused on a topic that serves your purposes. etc. and C When making a point. a way that you want. "List" several things briefly in order. thoughts. the More Y. or to maybe see if you can get someone to agree to it! • a.Bad • One option . and/or interest. • As you X. B. LAST • Burying Items Listing . statement. understanding. statement. • Request X because (of) Y. Then start to move or shift things in a different way.) • Then you will "Y" Where "Y" is something you want them to experience (Lead) o Give Them A Reason Giving a reason will make people more apt to do things for you and agree with you.Burying Items is a way to mention an outrageous or very direct option for "testing" purposes. • a. B. The More Z. and C When making a point. or giving an example. and incorporate the language tools • This thing vs that thing • How two things are similar • How two things are different • Good . More And More If you want to lead someone through a series of steps (actions. you can get away with an outrageous or very direct option by burying that option in the middle of a List. The more Y. but mention the one which YOU want to put the most emphasis on. the More Y. in order to provide more power to what you are saying • At The End Listing at The End is a way to provide several options (which may differ) but to emphasize the option that YOU want. the More Z. acknowledgement. etc.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Show agreement. • Topics and Subjects • Mindset or Frame of Mind • Current Reality • As (while) you are "X" (Pace) Where "X" is something that is true in their current reality (perceptions. b.another option o o o Page 125 . Compare And Contrast Use this technique to keep the conversation going. "List" several things or examples which support your point. which support your point • A. the more Y.
• Maybe you can . or show it. o Opportunities And Challenges • Find out what someone wants. Mini-Challenges • You seem. • I wonder if you can .. • Challenge them to demonstrate it.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o Parts • • Parts Of A Subject Discussing many of the parts of a subject keeps the conversation going... do it.. to be a way for them to get what they want.. and evoke favorable states... idea.. Parts Of A Person Use Parts of a Person as a way to find. • If you are able to .. • You seem as if. etc). • Take any subject.\ Universal Wants You can assume that most people want these. • Are you able to . • You might. • Find a way to map what YOU want... or point in a discussion. • Use the language tools in the discussion... • Using Their Own Processes • Find or assume what someone wants • Create an opportunity for them to get it or demonstrate they have it • Make that "demonstration" work in your favor. and beliefs. even when the other person claims or demonstrates that such parts are NOT there • For every part of a person that will work against you. feelings and emotions to yourself.. • Link good thoughts. allowing you time to gather information and link yourself to good thoughts. • Break it down into its component parts and discuss them. • Challenge them to do that. feelings and emotions. feelings. assume there is a part that will work WITH you. • If you can . discuss. or want to be perceived as having? • Talk to them and find out... • You may . • You seem like . —* • • • Page 126 ... • etc.. or adventurous.. • You might see . • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control Particular Wants What does she want to have.. can (use smart... • The smart people I know.. or fun.
. Consider the wants and needs that a person may have . listen and be IN the conversation! • Conversational Dynamics Topics flow from one to the next.. she may have to do Y to prove that. interesting things. • Repeat."Where can I go that is fun. and interesting?" " Move the conversation in that direction.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • Opportunities. General Conversational Management To steer the conversation in a good direction. Are they ready to take advantage of that (this) opportunity? • Does she really want X and see how Y can get that? • Does she really have X. fun. then .. steer the conversation towards directions that engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way o o Page 127 . • Don't engage in conversations when it's NOT about positive. interesting things.. Creating Them -.. • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control " • Excitement Challenges Challenge them to get what they want. fun. Advanced Conversational Management To direct the conversation into even BETTER areas.. by doing Y? • Does she want you to THINK she has X. • Introduce topics that are fun. positive. • Navigation Don't think of an exact plan. or show what they have.-and do Y to get it? • Can she do Y and make it happen? • Can she see that Y will get her what she wants? • Can she trust herself enough to do Y? o • Ambiguities — CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT o General . interesting things • Keep thinking . • Topic Turning Point The process of moving from one topic to one of 6-8 relevant topics • In general. think of general navigation • She Must Be Engaged In The Conversation! You need her to talk. bring up positive... positive and interesting. fun.. •• Show interest when someone discusses positive. • Can she see an opportunity to have "X". and see how doing Y would demonstrate it?> • Does she have what it takes to get X.
use the language tools. • Where can I go that is fun.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • o Keep thinking .Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Move the conversation in that direction. by there very nature. use the language tools as much as possible! • What If The Outcome Is Not What You Expected? • Move on! o o • TOPICS o Topics Of Enthusiasm and Passion Few things are more compelling in a person than for them to be passionate about something (hopefully many things) in life. fascinating. seductive things?" " Move the conversation in that direction. • When on good topics. • Connections • Going for it • Making good decisions Page 128 o . bring up images and thoughts that may work for you. steer the conversation towards romantic. use as many of the language tools as you can. and while there. fascinating. and get the effect. Conversational Fractionation • Using Conversational Fractionation • Start • Move • Back Up • Repeat • Dead Ends Come Back To Life! • Just back up and start over! Conversational Overview and Review • General Flow • Start on just about ANY subject. Seduction Oriented Topics SOTs are topics that. keep it there. fascinating. and interesting? • Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? • Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. o If you get to a good subject or topic. seductive tilings? • The entire time: o If you hit a "dead end". stay there for a while. and seductive things. back up a few steps. Repeat. positive. Get the conversation there."Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. • Repeat. More Advanced Conversational Management To further direct the conversation into even BETTER areas. • Keep thinking .
The Complete Conversational Model See Appendix 2 o o • PATTERNS o Pattern • • • • Formula While talking to a woman. Amplify these feelings and states by talking. get her to "experience" good feelings and states. Those are STOXs. Page 129 o . asking. Present a Call to action. Link and associate these feelings to you. there are easily 6-8 variations on that SOT that you can talk about. • Get her to. and • Look for: o Positive emotions and feeling o Positive sensations (as in physical ones) o Exciting feelings.. o Wanting to take action or seize an opportunity • Use the language tools. o Talk about these things or listen to you talk about these things o get her to think about these things o get her to feel these things o get her to link them to you. clarifying.. Conversational Model With SOTXs.Use the conversational Management Techniques. • Direct .Great as EXAMPLES • Learn and know some of them they may be useful.SOTXs For each SOT. Pattern Riffing In Real-Time • Use the Conversational Management techniques to get to good subjects • Look at the interesting topic that she and you are discussing o what is happening o what you know o what she is reacting to o and discuss things which are appropriate.Look out for SOTXs • Direct 0 Move towards SOTs. o Canned Patterns .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • • • • • o Surrendering to feelings Getting excited Feeling excited Trusting your judgment Taking chances Indulgence Maturity Good decisions Expanded Seduction Oriented Topics . • Manage .
• Use the language tools so that YOU become associated with those things Page 130 . exciting. interesting. o The Best Pattern Is This: • Get her to talk and think about positive.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • Use some "act now" languaging. and sensual things.
That.. That.At the End • Burying Items o More And More o Compare And Contrast o Parts " Parts of a Subject • Parts of a Person o Opportunities And Challenges • Mini Challenges " Opportunities And Challenges o Ambiguities • • • Page 131 .Point Or Touch On Positive And Negative LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES o Pace And Lead • Topics and Subjects • Mindset of Frame • Current Reality o Give Them A Reason o Listing " General .) o Easy Anchoring .. Those) MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures o Linking Gestures (Towards And Away) o Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This. These.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course APPENDIX II Speaking and Language Tools "Cheat Sheet" • SPEAKING POINTERS o Voice Tone And Tonality o Pacing And Pausing o Energy And Enthusiasm LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS o Adjectives And Adverbs o Trance Words o Weasel Phrases o Embedded Commands o Linking o Easy-Linking (This.
Fascinating. Fun. Seductive SOTXs SOTs The Complete Conversational Management Model Page 133 . Positive. Romantic. Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way More Advanced Mgt. and Interesting Advanced Mgt.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course APPENDIX III The Complete Conversational Management Model The Complete Conversational Management Model General Mgt.
Fractionate If you take a wrong turn. seductive things Direct the Conversation Pay attention when Good Subjects come up (SOTXs) Listen for anything a step or two away from an SOT Move towards SOTs Stay there as long as you can Use The Language Tools! As much as possible. interesting . back up! If you move back to a general topic.... Steer towards .Romantic. Especially when at or near SOTXs and SOTs.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course The Complete Conversational Management Model (continued) Start a Conversation Manage the Conversation Move the Conversation in a Good Direction Steer towards .. start over! Page 134 . Steer towards . fascinating.Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way .Fun... positive.
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