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Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course
A structured training program that teaches the language and conversational skills of Speed Seduction .
Speed Seduction is a registered trademark of Ross Jeffries, used with permission.
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course
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Page No. Title Page Legal Notices Table of Contents Product Content Product Protection and User Consent Formatting and Conventions Acknowledgements Forward Registration Important Note About Exercises and Assignments 1.0 INTRODUCTION AND GETTING STARTED i ii iii vi vi vii ix x xii xii 1 D1-T1 Disk and Track No.*
1.2 1.3 1.4 1.5 1.6 2.0 2.1 2.1.1 2.1.2 2.1.3 2.1.4 2.2 2.2.1 2.2.2 2.2.3 2.2.4 2.2.5 2.2.6 2.3 2.3.1 2.3.2 2.3.3 2.3.4 2.4 3.0 3.1 3.1.1
Why Is This Course Needed? What We Will Handle, and How Investing In Yourself, Or Not Can We Change The Way You Speak? Manipulation and Ethics Concerns SPEAKING AND LANGUAGE
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Speaking Pointers 7 The "Cool" Factor 7 Voice Tone and Tonality 7 Pacing and Pausing 9 Energy and Enthusiasm 10 Language Tools and Details 12 Adjectives and Adverbs 12 Trance Words 13 Weasel Phrases 15 Embedded Commands 17 Linking 19 Easy-Linking (This, That, These, Those) 21 More Tools 23 Pointing and Gestures 24 Linking Gestures (Towards and Away) 25 Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This, That, These, Those ...) 26 Easy Anchoring - Point Or Touch, On Positive 27 Review 29 LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES Pace and Lead General Pace and Lead Techniques 31 31 32
* Disk and Track Numbers References to the CDs and the tracks on them are shown in a format such as "D2-T4", which in this example refers to Disk 2, Track 4.
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Page No. 3.1.2 3.1.3 3.1.4 3.2 3.3 3.3.1 3.3.2 3.3.3 3.3.4 3.3.5 3.4 3.5 3.6 3.6.1 3.6.2 3.7 3.7.1 3.7.2 3.7.3 3.7.4 3.8 3.9 4.0 4.1 4.1.1 4.1.2 4.1.3 4.1.4 4.2 4.2.1 4.2.2 4.2.3 4.3 4.3.1 4.3.2 4.3.3 4.3.4 4.3.5 4.4 4.4.1 4.4.2 4.4.3 4.4.4 4.4.5 4.5 4.5.1 4.5.2 Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects Pace and Lead-Mindset Or Frame Of Mind Pace and Lead - Current Reality Give Them a Reason Listing General Listing Listing - At The End Listing - Burying Items Listing, Pauses, and Emphasis.. Listing Review More and More Compare and Contrast Parts Parts of a Subject Parts of a Person Opportunities and Challenges Using Their Own Processes What Do People Want? Mini-Challenges Opportunities and Challenges Ambiguities Summary CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT Challenges Detailed and Specific Plans Are Just Not Workable Navigation Example Navigational Strategies Are Needed She Must Be Engaged In The Conversation! How Conversations Happen Conversational Dynamics Conversational Model Topic Turning Point General Conversational Management Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Want How To Steer Conversations, Moment To Moment The Model With Strategy and Tactics In Place Exercises and Assignments Summary Advanced Conversational Management Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Really Want Steering Conversations Moment To Moment The Model With Advanced Strategy and Tactics In Place Exercises and Assignments Summary More Advanced Conversational Management More About Getting The Conversation To Go Steering Conversations Using More Advanced 33 35 38 39 41 41 43 45 48 48 48 51 54 54 58 61 62 62 63 64 69 69 71 71 71 71 72 72 72 72 73 77 79 79 81 82 83 86 86 86 88 88 91 93 93 93 94 Disk a n d Track N o . * D5-T12 D5-T20 D5-T29 D5-T32 D6-T1 D6-T4 D6-T15 D6-T24 D6-T36 D6-T37 D6-T38 D6-T54 D7-T1 D7-T4 D7-T15 D7-T34 D7-T36 D7-T38 D7-T40 D7-T43 D7-T64 D7-T66 D8-T1 D8-T1 D8-T3 D8-T4 D8-T5 D8-T10 D8-T12 D8-T13 D8-T14 D8-T15 D8-T16 D8-T16 D8-T19 D8-T23 D8-T25 D8-T32 D8-T33 D8-T33 D8-T35 D8-T38 D8-T39 D8-T46 D8-T47 D8-T47 D8-T49
3 7. ..0 The Model With More Advanced Strategy and Tactics In Place..1 7. Do The Exercises. Conversational Fractionation The 1-Shot Beeline Fallacy How Fractionation Works Using Conversational Fractionation Dead Ends Come Back To Life! Conversational Overview and Review Conversational Management Approach What If The Outcome Is Not What You Expected? Summary TOPICS Topics Of Enthusiasm and Passion Seduction Oriented Topics Expanded Seduction Oriented Topics . and Follow The Course Be Willing and Prepared To Put Energy Into Congratulations! Well Done! EXAMPLES. APPENDICES I II III Course "Cheat Sheet" Speaking and Language Tools "Cheat Sheet" The Complete Conversational Management Model 123 131 133 Page v .2 5. EXAMPLES.1 4..6.6.2 6.7.1 6.1 5.7. * D8-T52 D9-T1 D9-T2 D9-T3 D9-T5 D9-T6 D9-T7 D9-T8 D9-T9 D9-T10 D9-T11 D9-T14 D9-T15 D9-T24 D9-T32 D9-T33 D10-T1 D10-T1 D10-T7 D10-T12 D10-T13 D10-T18 D10-T18 D10-T26 D10-T27 D10-T28 D10-T29 D11 .4 4.0 5.7.2 4.3 4.6. .3 5.5. EXAMPLES v i e w .1 4.. .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Table of Contents (continued) Page No.5 8.4 7.4 7.3 5. .6 4. . 94 96 96 97 97 98 99 99 99 99 101 101 102 104 109 111 115 115 115 116 116 119 119 119 119 119 119 121 Disk a n d Track N o .3 4.2 4.2 7.SOTXs Conversational Model With SOTXs The Complete Conversational Model PATTERNS Pattern O v e r Pattern Formula Canned Patterns Pattern Riffing In Real-Time REVIEW AND SUMMARY Review Summary Listen.5 6.3 6.6. 4.0 7.4 5.7 4.0 6.
Italicized Text is used for emphasis in many cases where boldface text may by nearby. It is also used for subject headings so that these stand out and apart from the normal text. Exercises. and conventions have been developed and are used throughout this transcript/workbook. The relationship between these two can be best described by considering the workbook text to be (for the most part) an "outline" of what is presented in the audio. CD Location References are shown using terms such as "D3-T5" in the text. these are in most cases presented as a way to augment the content of the audio presentation. D3-T5 CD Track References . styles. and the italics are simply used as a way to show a different manner of emphasis. Although there are paragraphs of explanatory text. and Assignments are all shown using this typeface (Arial. This shows information that could be considered part of an overall "outline" of what the audio presentation contains.At times. There are certain conventions used in the formatting of the workbook. This shows (for example) the Disk (3) and the Track number (5) that corresponds to that part of the workbook contents. Italics are also used to point the reader towards specific content of the audio CDs. a "sans-serif typeface). Samples of the formatting and conventions used: Typefaces . The graphics in the latter sections are significant in that they are an essential part of the understanding and leaning... a "serif typeface). . A majority of the workbook is presented in an "outline" form. items are presented in a list-like fashion such as this: • Item 1 • Item 2 • Item 3 • Etc. Boldface Text .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Formatting and Conventions The following formatting. and their use is key to many students' understanding of the concepts presented. The written text is NOT a transcript. there may be instances when the conventions are not used for the sake of emphasis.e. However these conventions are guidelines. Since the work book is an "outline" and not a transcript. and the Formulas. there is not an exact place in the book that correlates to the start of each and every track on the audio CDs. Not every track number is listed. Lists .A majority of the workbook content is shown in this typeface (Times New Roman. If the graphic cannot fit there (due to page breaks) then the graphic is placed on the next available page. or clarity.Boldface Text is used to emphasize certain text or passages. i. and to make it easier to reference those items at a later time. or major points in the workbook. Usually the graphic is shown on the page immediately following where that graphic is first mentioned in the text. Therefore most of the track references are shown at the start of major sections.that is simply to show a list of related items. Italicized Text . Text within graphics. The audio is NOT an exact duplicate of the text shown in the workbook. Page vii . Listen to the audio where an example is presented. graphic captions. graphic titles. Graphics are used in the workbook as well.As shown to the right Towards the right margin of section titles and headings.
e. and Assignments are shown inside boxes such as this.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Each graphic has a number and a title of some type. Assignments also call for action on the part of the reader. then that text is shown immediately below the graphic using an indented paragraph such as this. Similarly. Assignments usually requier the reader to go out and interact with other person(s) in order to perform them correctly. -2. The number is in the format of "XYZ-A" where "XYZ" denotes the number of the section where the graphic is placed. Exercises are a series of instructions that call upon the reader to do or perform certain actions. Text Boxes . there are cases where text boxes may actually "break" across two pages. Page viii . -3) to account for multiple graphics in one section of text. For example. Although the difference between Exercises and Assignments is maintained through most of the workbook. but that is a necessity due to the complexity of the book. Exercises. Page Breaks . it is required in order for the "flow" of the book content to remain consistent. fact. there are instances where the definitions may be clouded to some degree. Candidate Topics Figure XYZ-1: Graphic Title Sub-paragraph .Text boxes are used for very specific purposes in the workbook. or maybe and Assignment can be done alone by the student.If a graphic has text that helps to further explain that graphic. an Exercise may require interaction with other people. This may require that a graphic be placed on the next page after where it is first mentioned (instead of being directly below where the graphic is first mentioned in the text). Most exercises can be done alone. Although this is not optimal. A Formula is a way to present a concise explanation of some item.The workbook is laid out to minimize the amount of blank space where reasonably possible. Formula. . This is shown below.1 . Each Formula is presented in its own "text box" as shown here. or technique. This also may result in some page breaks being in places which are not optimal. and the "A" indicates the number of the graphic within a section itself (i.
opening the door for many into the world of self improvement. who helped me by allowing me to help them.. and MD. associates. SM. To the many experts out there who have augmented the SS teachings by showing me other aspects of the mind. Dave Riker Page ix . Ross's developments have lead not only to helping many men with this part of their lives. the creator of Speed Seduction . mentors. but I sincerely hope that the results will prove to have made the wait worthwhile. and what is possible in their lives. and for the assistance they provided with this product. and this wait may have annoyed a few people.. / must apologize to some degree for the time it has taken to finish this product. colleagues. who have placed their trust in me and allowed me the experience of showing them new and wonderful possibilities for what their lives may have to offer. . Yates Canipe. and students (we are each all of these and more) in the TAGR Group.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Acknowledgements The first and foremost acknowledgement goes out to Ross Jeffries himself. To those in the original SD Lair group. EVS. DM. but have also shown many the way to a new way of living. who was the business genius that brought Speed Seduction® to the masses through seminars and products. and have opened the door for me to find many ways of self-improvement and understanding. and who has also contributed greatly to helping men change their minds about themselves. Working with these clients was especially instrumental in formulating and perfecting the concepts and teaching methods used in this product. and to all of the Students out there who I have met at Speed Seduction® seminars. and to help you in finding the Women or Woman of Your Dreams. To all of you. To my coaching clients. I may miss a few sales because of such a delay. The main reason is that I do not wish to release any product until I believe that I am able to provide the level of quality. and those who have entrusted me to teach you and to guide you. Special thanks to my friends. Thank you. SP. those who have read what I have written. confidants. most notably Hypnotica. To Dr. MC. JL.insight and teaching that I think is possible. teachers.
One of the biggest tragedies of life is that there are things. other people. and decide to move forward. the idea of simply communicating with and sharing experiences with the other half of the human population. learn. At least then he will be in a position of choice. and options. As if the interesting. teachings. Such men. I think that is not correct. whether this time has any sort of romantic or seductive component or not. are NOT in short supply. she should decide to be with whom she wants to be with by having opportunities. women. that they will want to spend time with as well. Whether a man decides to use this information as way to embark upon a period of his life which involves casual romantic interludes. I think that many men. having and sharing experiences with. that I create products such as this. or don't know how to present themselves in the best way.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Forward One of the most wonderful things about life is the idea of connecting with others. They just have not been taught such things. Many men through no fault of their own have grown up to be adults and have had little instruction or assistance in a very important area of their lives. I know of many women who are always distraught that they seem to not be able to meet good men. good-natured and well-intentioned man. and introducing themselves. there are a lot of great men out there who would like to meet interesting women. Page x . who was simply deprived of an means to "learn about" how to meet and talk with women. intelligent. the best men. take action. interesting. helps to provide these women with an even better choice. (and more importantly a LACK of information in some cases) that can prevent such connections and moments from happening. and showing themselves in the best and most honest light. there are a lot of wonderful women out there who would love to meet interesting men. And I am here to help correct it. or with that special woman of which they have always dreamed. There are many such men out there. information. A woman should never "settle". So. Good. to make an informed choice. or whether a man uses this information as a means to improve his chances of finding one special woman. as well. They don't know how to keep a woman's interest. most women will be far better off and have much better chances with the kind of men. This is so sad. From that position. Whether that be as friends or acquaintances. for some reason seem to be in short supply. spending time with them. are the ones that really DO look at this area of their lives. so that they really may share wonderful experiences of ALL types with women. charming men. Having many interesting men available. is up to him. It's for these men. or "compromise". and for those women. The women of the world will be better off in their own way. and in many cases the efforts of men to solve this problem on their own have been met by smallminded criticism and slander. some of the most wonderful moments of life are brought about by people. and sharing experiences with them. And. should somehow not improve himself. in fact. And it's a shame for these women to be wanting for their company. and set forth upon a path to improve this area of his life. They are the ones that really don't know how to introduce themselves. He will be able to decide for himself which he feels is the best option for him. Sadly this is most apparent when it comes to men. or the kind of man. and grow.
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you will do so in the future and use these techniques as well. If you follow along and do the exercises. Listen to it. So even this "intro" section is starting to work for you. and what works in the field. We will teach you ways to easily manage conversations so that they go in interesting directions. but this will help you if you are not.0 1. Welcome to Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course. Language Skills What works? What makes the successful guys able to use these technologies? Partly it's the ability to actually "talk" in this manner. This program is based upon experience with countless students. to use these language skills naturally as just a part of the way they speak. consciously and subconsciously. If you are her "type" you don't need this.2 WHY IS THIS COURSE NEEDED? D1-T10 If you are here. then on some level. Page 1 . You are already on your way! This course works on many levels. Conversational Skills The ability to manage conversations is needed as well.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 1. Instructions for each are provided. We will be teaching you the detailed language skills that will really help you. and on you as well. Provide additional explanation of some points that are covered in the audio program. you can change the way you speak as well. along with spaces for written responses where necessary. You are not going to sound like this or talk like this all of the time! Just in the way that you shift and change how you speak now in different situations. You will have this way of speaking as a PART of who you are and what you can do! Guys need to be trained.1 INTRODUCTION AND GETTING STARTED OVERVIEW Dl-Tl Welcome and Thanks. seeing what is needed. The purpose of this workbook is to: • • • Provide an outline of the material covered in the audio program. These techniques all need to sound and be "natural" to actually be effective. and get the full benefit of everything this course has to offer. 1. Some guys don't need this. there is a need. some people do this naturally. and "reprogrammed" in a way. pay attention. This workbook is meant to studied along with a series of audio lectures that are recorded on CDs. Present a series of exercises and assignments.
listen. Not inside your head "thinking" about "how can I use this?"! 1. Other parts of the language tools you may have to "think" about.. listening.. AND HOW Topics Speaking Pointers Language Tools and Details Conversational Management Conversational Fractionation Topics . some of the ways that you speak now will be reprogrammed so that speaking in a new way will be natural. In a way. that is important. some things will sound quite familiar..Seduction Oriented Topics Patterns and Riffing Examples Dl-Tl5 What Methods Are Used • Describe and explain the details of the techniques • Explicit examples of how the details work • Examples throughout and within the discussions • Examples section at the end. many times! • In fact we have already started! Where Does This Material Come From • From SS Teachings. respond to input immediately . then you are not actually IN the conversation! You need to be engaged in a conversation. You need to integrate skills to the degree that they ARE a part of who you ARE. not a "trick". talking. responding. so let's define and explain it for you. but it's really YOU talking! Guys are too focused on "how can I use this" when in a conversation." Guys need to stop the worrying about "Doing something wrong" It's only "wrong" if you are TRYING to do or be something you are not. • Things may seem to "repeat". • Exercises to develop understanding and skills • Assignments for you to do in the field. This is a term that will be used throughout this course. how it is learned. Sure. for a while at least. interacting.. Page 2 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course You have to be PROGRAMMED to do this so you can have a conversation.Enthusiasm and Passion Topics . • Other teachings about language. • Working on several "levels" of you mind at once • Models to arrive at an overall understanding • Left brain and right brain are both addressed • Conscious and subconscious minds are both given what they need for real understanding and retention. so we need to approach this in many ways. Guys need to be able to just "do this" and "talk this way" in REAL-TIME. must react to a steady flow of new information without interruption. Real Time "Occurring immediately .3 Major • • • • • • • • WHAT WE WILL HANDLE.. but that's your left brain talking! We are reprogramming many years of your experience. and be a part of it. and how people speak. but if you are "thinking" too much..
Is this information. The Ways To Study And Use The Product • Listen to the CDs. • This may seem complicated but the point is to get you SO familiar with the tools that you become the guy who does this! Some Very Important Points • Find all of your current SS products and inventory them. Other SS products will work well. or revised? Yes.4 INVESTING IN YOURSELF. see what works for you. the more you put into it. there IS some overlap and duplication with other products and systems. If you need to make your own copies for use in multiple locations. you are doing just that. You will need them because you will have assignments that deal with these. • Get that "Mind-Momentum" going to help you change and improve. Also maybe get a romance novel or two. From working with clients and seeing what worked and how they were able to change. they aren't really putting themselves INTO it. If they just "try" it. 1. By embarking upon this course. new. However. The best way to listen to this course is while also reviewing the workbook (especially in the conversational management sections). and engagement. Page 3 . However. or not? There are various ways. do the exercises over and over. and engagement into your effort to really learn and use these materials. However. and who may "try" to listen to the course. OR NOT D1-T24 Any real change requires you to make an investment in yourself using energy. but in terms of THEM really being willing and ready to change. • Follow along in the workbook if you can • Do the exercises and assignments! • Listen over and over. Be wary of those people who may want to "borrow" a copy. many of these people will be those negative types of people that will then dispute the benefits of this program! Why? Because THEY have not invested anything into it! Not just in terms of dollars. both audio and written materials. a concept that was brought up earlier. • Be prepared to have a place to practice for this course! You will need to be able to speak out loud to do many of the exercises. listening multiple times in any setting also has a lot of benefit. effort. • Listen to other products in conjunction with this product. • Get some other written material to work with for this course. do the assignments over and over! • Be patient. Many of the assignments will deal with talking to people. as assigned or as required. and this is much easier if you have an active life where you can have many conversations. In addition. do it! But please. • Is there an "optimal way" to use the product. do whatever you need to do to listen to this course a LOT. We are reprogramming years and years of you "speaking" in a certain manner. the emphasis here is training you to do it for yourself. effort. that YOU just DO. So. to give you a real roadmap to actually learn the material. and a few women's magazines as well. Applying a structured methodology of step-by-step methods. keep those copies to yourself. • Having a good social life will help you. and being open to what benefits this program can bring. and this journey.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • From personal experiences and how I used the materials. The Mind-Momentum Principle At Work • Get energy. the more you will get out of it. making it a part of YOU. Changing that will take some time.
sentences. Plus it's not YOU talking. Don't let their lack of willingness to improve themselves. there is a "right" and "wrong" way to do it! But if you are just TALKING. It Is Possible! . about grammar. kids are taught about language. you heard it in context. you heard it a lot. Most people want to approach this by learning bits and pieces • • That's good in a way. You keep trying to "remember" things. Those who are not. You will end up "memorizing" thing to some degree. Not as congruent. Imagine having to "think about" how to talk. 1.But This Is A Different Type Of Learning.5 CAN WE CHANGE THE WAY YOU SPEAK? D1-T26 Is this really possible? This sounds difficult.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course People must be engaged in the process to get its benefits. Immersion is the key." So. It's less effective. you heard it. its YOU being YOU! You cannot fail at being YOU! The approach in this course is different. • • • • • • • • This might be good as a learning TOOL. But that's not how you learned to talk! You learned to talk when you were a child . How People Initially Learn How To Speak • • • • Sure in middle school. Also progressive exercises. at every moment! Some people want to try to memorize. just being YOU. then its easier. where you use the skills in the real world. because you will hear it so much! But a LOT of what is being conveyed here is learning by EXAMPLE. etc. where you learn skills piece by piece. It makes guys nervous. • • • • • • You will get some details. some models. will not benefit. at will Engage in conversation Manage conversations Yes. its a memorized "thing".by hearing others around you speak! You were IMMERSED in language. because it addresses that analytical part of your mind. Then it's about a "performance. there is no "right" way or "wrong" way. But it's tough to do that. trying to "remember" what to say. and you started to form the ability to speak and communicate based upon that! Page 4 . And actual assignments. but only indirectly. consequently. paragraphs. Can we literally change the way you speak? • • • • • • • How you select words Create phrases Form sentences Pick topics Speak passionately. hold you back. but to then USE it in conversation is difficult. some structures.
With THIS approach HERE. We will have you become familiar with the range of ways of speaking and sounding. trade.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course This Course Uses Many Techniques To Train You To Have Workable. or craft. so that you will have more ability and more flexibility to do what is appropriate MANIPULATION AND ETHICS CONCERNS D1-T32 1. This causes some real. Page 5 . Examples • • Explicit examples.6 Many guys have been uncomfortable with using many of these skills. like when I say "here is an example" Implicit examples. deep ethics issues and blocks many guy's success. which we go over and over. more natural. Exercises and Assignments to Teach You the Skills • Skills Training like any sport. we will change the way you talk so that it will be easier. and be more of WHO YOU ARE. more a part of YOU. Real-World Skills. and who and what YOU are! Using these skills will be less of an "act". it's not about throwing something AT her. • Break it down into small parts. how you communicate. where I am just DOING these things all during the program. "it's not me" or "I am just using a trick or technique". based upon feelings that when using them. Various Training Methods • • We use a lot of repetitive training methods so that these techniques have a better chance of becoming "automatic".
but if you really want to work on this even more. BORING. even some of the materials from other products. a sense of being relaxed and calm • It also allows you to express some energy and excitement at different times. Cool does NOT mean to be boring and to put people to sleep while talking! The coolest people are the ones that are FUN to talk to and fun to be with! You don't have to be cold. 2. calm. Why is this important? • Great voice tone conveys comfort. that there is a "fire" beneath the surface. Too many guys "try" to be cool but actually come off as COLD or even worse. "Cool" comes from being calm and sure of yourself. not out of nervousness. If this is a challenge for you. Examples: One way to think of this is to consider "where" your voice is generated from in your body. The audio section demonstrates these options quite well. something you are interested in. how calm you are. and even goes a bit over-the-top to really help you to understand what is being discussed. That's what women like.0 2.1. etc. Your tone of voice really conveys a lot about who you are. 2) Read some more of that material out loud. Read several paragraphs.1 2. focusing on the back of your throat might make this easier to do). Listen as the examples demonstrate: • Speaking through the nose • Speaking through the mouth • Speaking from the chest Exercises for Speaking Pointers Grab some reading material of some type. and this time focus on speaking by generating the sound from within your mouth (or. there ARE products that focus JUST on this area and you may want to invest in those. how they sound. to be cool. This is good as long as it's not BORING.2 Voice Tone and Tonality D2-T2 Listen to some examples of different tones of voice. but because it's appropriate to the situation. how they make you feel. and read it aloud. Page 7 . 1) Take some of that reading material.1 SPEAKING AND LANGUAGE SPEAKING POINTERS The "Cool" Factor D2-T1 D2-T1 Guys want to sound "cool". how interesting you are. reserved.1. and what people like in general.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. focusing on generating your voice from your nose. but giving the impression that there IS more. and says a lot about you. there are great products and examples of this elsewhere. We will work on this here in this course. do this for several minutes. That's the "allure". That "cool" feeling comes from being calm and speaking in a relaxed fashion.
and recall some time in the recent past when you were kind of nervous or fearful. See how relaxed it actually makes you feel and how you really need to BE relaxed to do this! 4) Take a moment. Focus on dropping your voice down from your nose/mouth. comfortable. but this time really focus upon generating the sound from deep within your chest. Day/Time Who you spoke to Speaking from? How you felt. 1) Over the next few days when speaking to anyone. mouth. SOUND relaxed. Can you recall how you spoke? Did the way you sound in that situation sound like any of the examples you just did? See the similarity? Assignments for Speaking Pointers These are your first real assignments in the course. and make them a part of who you are. make note of how you felt (nervous. and where you are speaking from (your nose. it's important that you do what you can to REALLY make a point of doing these assignments.in the real world! To get the most benefit from this course. or chest). 2) In the next few conversations you have with people. Real-world experience will really help you to not just "know" the skills. really make a note to speak lower. and whether or not you DID it! Day/Time Who you spoke to Situation (Where) Did you DO it? Page 8 . but to actually HAVE the skills. where you were. and really focus on having that voice generated from your chest. Assignments are where you are given a real task to go out and do . make a note to yourself as to how you are speaking. Make notes below for some of the conversations and see if you can see a correlation between these items. Make notes below as to when it happened. relaxed-confident). with whom.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 3) Now read some of the material. Relax. Also.
1) Take some of that reading material and read it aloud. 2) Read some more of that material out loud. make a note to yourself as to how you are speaking in terms of your pacing and pausing. There are many variations: Listen as these are demonstrated • Hurried showing nervousness • Hurried showing excitement • Slow as in hesitant and/or confused • Slow in a way that is deliberate and relaxed Exercises for Pacing and Pausing Grab some reading material of some type. deliberate. 2. and then far far too slow. Focus on reading in a very hurried fashion as if you are very nervous. in a manner that makes you sound as if you are very confused. 4) Now read some of the material.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Strategic Formula for Speaking Pointers Use your best tone of voice (speaking from your chest) to convey a relaxed.1. comfortable manner. relaxed. first very very fast. Something you are interested in. Too fast? Too slow? Hurried-nervous? Hurried-excited? Slow-confused? Page 9 . and charismatic presence. Why is • • • this important? Correct pacing and speed of delivery conveys comfort. and shows that the speaker is relaxed. Read several paragraphs and do this for several minutes. (Maybe even be aware of where your voice is coming from.3 Pacing and Pausing D2-T15 Listen to the examples where some various pacing is demonstrated. but this time read it slowly.) Assignments for Pacing and Pausing 1) Over the next few days when speaking to anyone. or don't quite understand the content. Speaking too quickly can show tension. and this time focus on reading in a quick and hurried fashion. Being able to vary your pacing and pausing can help a lot to convey a sense of intrigue and create interest. powerful. but this time read it in a slow. or almost a sense of panic. even some of the materials from other products. as we discussed in the past section. but go ahead and convey excitement in your voice! 3) Now read some of the material.
to convey a sense of drama and intrigue in what you are saying in a way that "captivates" people and makes them want to listen to you. who. and if you DID it! Day/Time Who you spoke to Situation (Where) Did you DO it? Strategic Formula for Pacing and Pausing Use variations in pace. When someone else is being boring. where. and excitement when appropriate. you get stuck in fewer boring. then you can show more enthusiasm. dead-end conversations. • If someone else is being interesting. just make a note of this after-the-fact and write that down below. If they do or say something that is interesting to YOU.4 Energy and Enthusiasm D2-T26 Listen to some examples of how this can sound . It's good to have the ability and range to display passion. Who cares? Why does this matter? • Most guys are just TOO BORING.. By doing this. Page 10 . Day/Time Who you spoke to What type of pacing and pausing? 2) For the next few days.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Slow-relaxed? You don't have to change it yet. • This also allows YOU to convey how interesting someone ELSE is as well. enthusiasm. start to focus on changing your pacing and pausing.. 2. Make note of when.. and well-placed pauses. YOU act boring. YOU can show an appropriate amount of energy and enthusiasm. to convey a more relaxed and deliberate manner. energy.1. or bored.
Assignments for Energy and Enthusiasm 1) Over the next few days. Watch on either TV. and how much (or little) energy is conveyed. and how your respond. bland. monotone. go ahead and SHOW your enthusiasm! Be energetic in how you speak. Read it OUT LOUD in an exciting. BE BORING and show no enthusiasm at all. and that are excited about. Read it OUT LOUD in a boring. Note how even if the material is something you do NOT care about. their pace. your work. go ahead. taped lectures. 3) Get some written material that you have NO interest in. 4) Get some written material that really DOES interest you. even some of the materials from . and read that aloud in a boring. Exercises for Energy and Enthusiasm Grab some reading material of some type. Strategic Formula for Energy and Enthusiasm Using energy and enthusiasm when speaking so that people can become energized and enthusiastic about listening to and being with you. maybe sports. energetic voice. Again. their pace.. dry topic. Do this for a good 10-15 minutes. Really pay attention to how they speak. make sure it is something that YOU are passionate about. whatever it is. do that for 10-15 minutes.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course The audio section demonstrates more details about sounding boring/bored and also sounding as if you have energy and enthusiasm. Think as if YOU are convincing a group of people how great this is! Maybe your Dream Job of a lifetime is dependant upon YOU speaking well and showing how passionate YOU are about this! Do that for a good 10-15 minutes. their tone. etc.. how you listen. and how much (or little) energy is conveyed. 2) For the next few conversations you have with people where you ARE interested in the subject. that a good speaker can really grab your attention with their energy and enthusiasm. do that for 10-15 minutes. which bores you. women. Page 11 . animated. something you are interested in. Again. and BE BORING. other products. 1) Watch and listen to some speakers talk about a boring. 5) Take that written material that really does interest you. When you respond or talk back. 2) Watch and listen to some speakers who use a lot of energy and enthusiasm when they are talking! Really pay attention to how they speak. and read THAT aloud in a way that DOES show energy and enthusiasm! Make that sound as convincing as #4 above. monotone voice. bland voice with no energy or enthusiasm. whenever someone is talking about something boring. their tone.. technical presentations.. 6) Take that earlier written material about the subject that you are NOT interested in and that really bores you. your car.
use more Adjectives and Adverbs. • Their use must be automatic. Adjectives will describe THINGS (nouns). and make note of the adjectives and adverbs in it.2. Re-live it. add more descriptive terms to it. Who you spoke to Subject 5) Now. talk about it in a descriptive way. but this time. or they are too factual and leftbrained. boring. nouns and verbs. Most Adjectives and Adverbs are qualitative. It's good if YOU are also interested in it. Most guys are too dry in their speech. you should be able to do this for at least 3-5 minutes each. Day. 2) Read it. movies. Maybe say those adjectives or adverbs and put more energy into those words and emphasize them in some manner. and more ways of talking about processes. and the subject you were talking about. If you really like this subject. 2. feelings. while Adverbs will describe ACTIONS (verbs). sports. we are working to appeal to the emotions. they are not things that can be measured or specified.) 3) Read that text OUT LOUD. Cars. They sound cold. and stress the adjectives and adverbs in it.. Examples • Car reviews • Movie Reviews • This course! Exercises for Adjectives and Adverbs 1) Find some written material that deals with something where people are speaking passionately about some subject. but must be done over and over. and sensations. out loud.2 LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS D2-T39 These are the Bit And Pieces • These are the sort of things that can be powerful. Remember. 4) Think of three recent conversations you had when you talked to someone about something that you REALLY liked. Note whom you were talking to. Most men could be helped by having more descriptive speech. Page 12 . (Maybe highlight them in some manner. whatever. not the logical side of a person. because to have to "think about" using them is almost impossible! • You need to be TRAINED TO USE THEM automatically.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. Do this for each of the conversations listed above. These words modify or in some way describe.1 Adjectives and Adverbs D2-T40 Listen to an example where many of these are used in descriptive language.. and uninteresting. talk about each thing or subject again.
or objective manner. 3) Practice out loud how you would have said those things in each of the three conversations. so that their feelings. and c above). 2. Write down what the subject was. Be descriptive. Start with just a few of them. and with whom you spoke. Trance • • • • • Word List Instantaneously Suddenly Find Yourself Convince Yourself Suppose Page 13 .2. Strategic Formula for Adjectives and Adverbs Use more adjectives and adverbs in your speech to appeal to and excite the emotional side of the listener. make sure to use some of those adjectives and adverbs in your descriptions. factual. is listening and more engaged in the conversation. Trance words help to "open the person up" so that their subconscious. that you are passionate about. They are not "analyzed" in a conscious. that you really enjoy. Trance words are words that "call upon" the subconscious mind in order for them to be processed and understood. b. and processes awaken.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Assignments for Adjectives and Adverbs 1) Make note of the next 3 times you are having a conversation which deals with something that YOU are really into. "paint a picture" with your words. 4) The next several times any of those subjects come up in conversation. and then maybe add some more as time goes on. Day Who you spoke to Subject 2) Write down a few adjectives and adverbs that you could have used in each discussion (refer to a. Act like you are really having the conversation again.2 Trance Words D3-T1 Listen to an example where many of these are used. emotions. their emotional side.
See how many you can find and notice how they are used in context. and see if you can pick these out. You can copy the ones you saw listed earlier. political speakers. Maybe refer to some of your other SS products and see how many more you can find. 3) Get out your written SS materials and look for Trance Words (maybe even use THIS course here). 6) Pick two subjects in which you are interested. talk about it. like advertisements. Trance Word List 2) Watch or listen to some material where people are speaking passionately about something. see and hear if you can pick out when the speaker is using Trance Words. Subject b. or religious speakers.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • Imagine Mysterious (-ly) Wonder (-ous) (-ously) Think of any subject. Looking at the list of Trance Words above. With that list of Trance Words (above) in hand. work. and see how many of those Trance Words you can use. but also see if you can add some to the list. sportscasters. or school. Think for a moment about using those trance words to describe that subject. 4) Get your SS audio materials and listen for Trance Words (maybe even THIS course here). even something concrete like your job. Write them down below. talk OUT LOUD about that subject and see how many times you can use those Trance Words! Subject a. Look at the Trance Word List above. Highlight or circle the Trance Words in a few sections. that's the point! Exercises for Trance Words 1) Make a full list of Trance Words. placing an emphasis on the Trance Words when you see them. Now speak OUT LOUD about that subject. Maybe play one tape or CD. Doesn't that make it sound kind of "mysterious"? Maybe more exciting? Maybe you can take some normal. 5) Take the written text from an SS product (maybe from #3 above) and read it out loud. 7) Pick a subject that bores you. Boring Subject Page 14 . See how many you can notice. something that you think is dull. and make it more interesting? Well. almost boring or mundane thing.
doesn't that make it-sound more "exciting". to get from one subject to another.2. that's what Weasel Phrases are for! Weasel Phrase List (see if you can add to the list by listening to the audio). • • • • • Have you ever . and more fascinating? Assignments for Trance Words 1) Pick two subjects in which you are interested. maybe even a bit odd? Maybe even a different topic or change of subject? Or maybe something that you were worried about bringing up.. Use them when talking to different people.3 Weasel Phrases D3-T14 Listen to an example where many of these are used. Subject a.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Even though that may seem a bit strange. How do you talk about something without REALLY talking about it? How do you bring something up that may be a bit different.. These also work as transitional phrases.. Subject b. because it may be a bit too forward? Well. 2) Integrate a few more of these words into your every-day description of those subjects. Page 15 .. If you were to . The next time you are speaking with anyone about those subjects (in the real world guys!).. Strategic Formula for Trance Words Using Trance Words will help to get the subconscious mind of the listener to be more of a part of your conversation. Practice working with those subjects out loud some more and see if you can get even more comfortable using Trance Words when talking about those subjects. 2.. What's it like when .. Just do whatever you can to start using some of them at first.. If I were to .. make a point to use at least one of the Trance Words in the conversation. and using more and more as time goes on.. As you . more interesting.
2) Note the subject that you used earlier for doing some exercises with Weasel Phrases (exercise 4 above). Use different Phrases.. Maybe pausing for a moment before one. Just read the SS material out loud. sensing it. etc. that seem as if they fit best into your way of speaking about subjects that you may like.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Exercises for Weasel Phrases 1) Get some of your written SS materials and look for some Weasel Phrases in the text. Do this until you use all 4-5 of the attributes that you listed. and then use one of the Weasel Phrases and the bring up another "aspect". the experience of it.) Pick 4-5 different aspects of this "experience" that you will talk about. then use another Weasel Phrase. The next several times that you talk about that subject with anyone. getting into it. Assignments for Weasel Phrases 1) Look at the list of Weasel Phrases that you wrote earlier. make note of the weasel phrases. 3) Take the written SS materials you had earlier. Pick 3 of them that seem the most natural to you. It will get easier. For example. Maybe play one tape or CD. the subject might be "going to a ball game" (pick your own. doing it. don't use that one!) Now talk about one of these 4-5 aspects for 1-2 sentences. While doing it. saying one slowly or quickly. see if you can use some or all of your favorite weasel phrases when talking about it. and read some of this material out loud. 5) Did that sound weird? Strange? Ok . but selecting different Phrases to link the aspects together. we want you to talk about how it FEELS. Talk about THAT one for a few sentences. Try it again. and see if you can string things together so that they sound better. Subject Page 16 . Take a moment and try to emphasize them in a way. 4) Pick a subject in which you are interested. See if you can pick these out. that it makes more sense. In a moment. etc. (Weasel Phrases tend to provide ways to connect sentences and paragraphs that talk about how something is felt and experienced. after another. This is necessary to have the kind of words and subjects that lend themselves to Weasel Phrases. and do so with an awareness on some level that you are saying and using weasel phrases when they are in the text. 2) Get your SS audio materials and listen for some Weasel Phrases..
your car. Just say this stuff out loud. and incorporate Weasel Phrases into the next several discussions you have about that subject as well. instead "you like this" (car). These are small snippets of words and phrases which. and read some of this material out loud. its about multiple usage (bombardment)! Exercises for Embedded Commands 1) Get our your written SS materials (written) and look for embedded commands in a few pages of the text. See if you can pick out embedded commands while listening. These are not to be sexual or suggestive. and do so with an awareness. that you are saying and using embedded commands at the time. Pick something that excites you! Maybe the subject is sports. or experience while they are thinking about that subject.). on some level. Make a point to "lean on it" a bit. intrigued. Write down a list of embedded commands. things you would like a listener to think about. While doing it. • Repetition .It's not just about using one. issue a "command" or statement that instructs someone do something. "get into it". Again not "you like that color". a place you have traveled. Subject Strategic Formula for Weasel Phrases Use Weasel Phrases to keep the conversation going. Maybe play one tape or CD. once. and where the person's emotions or feelings are somehow active (This "context" issue is discussed later in the product in great detail in Conversational Management sections. and to "soften" the way in which something is said.It's very important that the command be brought up in the context of a conversation that is interesting. etc. think of it like this. maybe a car. "get excited".just general things that would cause a person to be interested in something. 4) Pick a topic that YOU are very interested in. when separated from the context.2. Take a moment and try to emphasize them in some way. To make it easy. 2) Get your SS audio materials and listen for these.4 Embedded Commands D3-T25 Listen to an example where many of these are used. feel. saying one slowly. or more quickly. make note of the embedded commands.. maybe pausing for a moment before one. Two key aspects of the use of Embedded Commands are often overlooked. or "you want this" (car). allowing you to say more (and maybe more provocative things) about a subject.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Select another subject that really interests you. but just general things (feelings or states). • Context . or feel a certain way. Like "feel excited". 3) Take the written SS materials. that you want them to experience. lets say you were selling something to someone. Page 17 . 2.. Think of general statements. feelings. etc. excited by something. "this is what you have imagined having for yourself. after another. Write down things that would make someone interested. "see how fascinated" . your job.
and make it sound natural. or school. to create a compelling will on the part of the listener follow you and listen to you. changing your voice. 2) Select another subject that is a part of your life. out loud. just enough to put the emphasis on the command. or maybe it has to deal with your job. 4) The next several times that subject comes up in your life.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 5) Start talking about that topic out loud. pausing. and with that list that YOU wrote in hand. make some effort to use some of these commands in the context of a real discussion. Subject Embedded Commands 3) Practice the use of those commands. Write down a list of at least 5 commands that work well in that subject. Start to place some emphasis on the command itself. The next several times that you talk about that subject with anyone. Assignments for Embedded Commands 1) Look at the list of Commands that you wrote and practiced that deal with a subject in which you are interested (exercise 4 above). Maybe slowing down slightly. that would assist you in being more influential. in the context of talking about that subject. Maybe you work in sales. Maybe it's not a passion or real interest. Page 18 . See how natural you can make them sound. 6) Do the same thing again. start using a few of these commands when speaking. Strategic Formula for Embedded Commands Use embedded commands repeatedly and in the proper context. but now focus more on "leaning" on the embedded commands a bit. work on just saying them and finding a way to bring them up. but something where being influential may help. see just how many of the embedded commands in that list that YOU can say! First.
and then making an ambiguous reference to that feeling using your words. she has to feel it on some level (and she will. See if you can pick out Linking Phrases while listening. recall. emotions. and getting her to experience. and experiences that are being discussed and associate or "link" them to you. you speak of "this feeling". • • • • • • • Now with me In me In myself with this these this belief these feelings Exercises for Linking 1) Get our your written SS materials (written) and look for examples of Linking in the text. "this interest". as long as there is good rapport).Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. make note of where linking is taking place. What is this based upon? • When talking. and inexact. Linking Phrases . For example. • However. The most common linking phrase/tool that guys think about is the phrase "now with me". In some ways. if you are talking about a great feeling of excitement that a woman has had or is having. will "link" them to you. it's easier than you think! Just talking about a subject and getting her to be a part of the discussion. However. then to the deeper levels of her mind. and talking to you. you are being ambiguous. and make this "link" even more effective. etc. change in voice tone. see if you can add more phrases to the list below. Take a moment and try to emphasize the linking in some way. which is ambiguous (non-exact). and feel emotions.While listening to the audio. 2) Get your SS audio materials and listen for these. you are talking "about" a feeling or sensation. ALL of those possible definitions apply! Then. the linking tools and techniques will add to this. Just to "process" what is being discussed. While doing so. when you say "this feeling". then on some level that is creating this "link".2. etc. Maybe play one tape or CD.5 Linking D3-T42 Linking is a way to take the feelings. "in myself. while looking at you. 3) Take the written SS materials. she has to actually feel it to some extent. using some of the techniques that have been discussed in this course (pausing. on some level. non-specific. You can also make reference to "in me". Are you talking about the "feeling" she had at some time in the past? Are you talking about the feeling she is having right now? • Because you are using terms like "this". and read some of this material aloud. you become more associated with those feelings. which is an ambiguous way of referencing what she is thinking about. also "this" and "these" as in "this feeling" of "these feelings". If she is experiencing these feelings in your presence. • In order for her to understand the feeling being discussed.) Page 19 .
the linking is ambiguous and doesn't reference you directly. you could say "feel excited by this" or "feel excited now" (you can also link things by putting in a reference to NOW). A quick way of doing this is to simply add "this feeling". Doing linking in an exercise like this is difficult and hard to make it sound "natural".4). or change your voice.2. Embedded Command Linkage Phrase 5) Pick a topic that YOU are interested in as we did before (it can be the same one you used in Exercise #4 in section 2. As you hear more and more examples of this throughout the course. it's much better if picked up along-the-way. First. This will sound easier for you as we go on. That's ok. Write down the list of commands and an associated linkage phrase for each below. Page 20 . where you listed "feel excited". This may seem strange and sound a bit "off".2. just enough to put emphasis on the Linkage Phrase. Plus the next section will make this much easier! Strategic Formula for Linking After getting someone to experience good feelings and emotions. pause. but now focus more on "leaning" a bit on the Linkage Phrases. see just how many of the Embedded Commands and Linkage Phrases that you can use in your dialog. Maybe slow down slightly. and using the list above. Start talking about that topic out loud. (Again. with me" after one of more of the commands in your list. "these feelings". In some manner.4). link them to you so that YOU become something and someone that they feel good about.) For example. "this person or thing". work on just saying them and finding a way to bring them up.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4) Take the list of embedded commands that you created in an earlier exercise (Exercise #4 in section 2. 6) Now do the same thing again. and see if you can "add" text to each to link them to you in some way. etc. this will come to you much more easily. You can even add the ever-popular "now. Assignments for Linking No separate assignment for this. Another example would be to take the phrase "Get excited" and turn that into "get excited by THESE things".
that person • This direction. so you are not using a name or specific reference. a GREAT strategy is to link anything and everything positive to you (and link negative things away from yourself. for that multiple-instance bombardment that we spoke of before! The idea of linking wild. Consider four words in the English language: • This • That • These • Those These are forms of pronouns. That. that direction • This feeling. So. and "that" is not. these refer to plural items. with you. exciting. one "thing". • This person. and one is not. in general. (In some cases.Non-Possessive (seems to reference something "else" or something "away") Consider these and those. who cares? Well these are almost interchangeable! You can switch this/that in sentences as you wish. So. and included. that sensation They differ though in that "this" seems possessive.2. or not there at the time. "this person" tends to sound like the person that is there. This is a new and very effective way to do linking that is easy to learn and master. • These people.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. they reference a "thing". This and that tend to refer to singular items.Possessive (sort of "includes" something) • That . but that will be quite obvious when you try to do that). there are times when they cannot be switched. This means they are ambiguous! Consider this and that. those people • These directions. Given that one type is possessive. but do so in a general manner.6 Easy-Linking (This. use the possessive form when saying or talking about ANYTHING POSITIVE and use the non-possessive form when saying anything negative! Page 21 . and it can be done a LOT. Whereas "that person" refers to someone "away" some "other" person who is not in the immediate area. These. with "these" being the possessive form. For example. those sensations So. seductive feelings to you may be great but. those directions • These feelings.Possessive • Those . these and those are plural • These . that feeling • This sensation. those feelings • These sensations. Those) D4-T1 Listen to an example where many of these are used.Non-Possessive For example. this & that are singular • This . In this case.
These are good. 2) Say the lines below. Those are not. and the correct form of This. That person is not. Exercises for Easy-Linking 1) Say the lines below. Write down (below) ten attributes. Those people are not. This person is good. These. and those depending on whether the item is positive or negative.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • This That These Those Singular possessive Singular non-possessive Plural possessive Plural non-possessive Anything Anything Anything Anything Positive Negative Positive Negative You can learn to do this (to choose which of these words to use) in real-time through training! Tactical Formula for Easy-Linking Use "This" and "These" when referring to anything positive. That is not. or singular/plural. For each of these attributes or things. Small sentence that includes that attribute. That. write a small sentence for each. This is good. out loud. for a good ten minutes. using the correct versions of That. Subject: Attributes or "things about" that subject. Use "That" and "Those" when referring to anything negative. ' 3) Earlier in the workbook. These. you have discussed a subject (and written a lot of text about it) that is important to you. for a good ten minutes. or "things about" that subject. These people are good. That. out loud. Those Page 22 .
beyond the small bits and pieces of language. 5) Pick another subject. Anchoring Anchoring is associating a feeling or emotional state to a sensory experience. list ten attributes or things about that subject.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4) Talk out loud about that subject for a good 5-10 minutes. That. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. Small sentence that includes that attribute. D4-T13 Page 23 . That. These. and their movement becomes a part of their communication. These sections help to train you in these types of techniques. Those 6) Talk out loud about the subject mentioned above for a good 5-10 minutes. using the appropriate form of This.3 MORE TOOLS D4-T12 Now we are getting into a different area. 2. Great speakers use movement to their advantage. and Those. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. Subject: Attributes or "things about" that subject. and the correct form of This. These. and then write a small sentence for each. and once again.
Pick something YOU are interested in. Move! We will start by generating SOME movement. passionate. Subjects Page 24 . or even a preacher. and that are very very easy to do. and that you are passionate about. and some gestures. talking about a subject that YOU are interested in. 2. down. point up. However we will focus on things that can create a LOT of effectiveness. etc. to help make their point. Watch how they move. make note of where your hands are when speaking. 2) List 3 subjects that you really enjoy. etc). and then we can work on deliberate movement such as • Pointing towards and away from things • Towards yourself and away from yourself Exercises for Pointing and Gestures 1) Find a good speaker on TV. We will break down many of the component parts of this into skills that we will teach you bit by bit. Don't flail about wildly. BE excited! Use your hands and arms for emphasis. towards. embedded commands. They may be a bit over-the-top (speaking to an audience is different than speaking one-on-one) but just watch them for a while. and hopefully the conversations are interesting.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Many different types of anchoring can be done and we are only going to cover some very basic tools. Then later on see if you can start to become aware of what your hands are doing WHILE you are in the conversation. so these techniques discussed here will help. 2) Get one of the text lists from an earlier exercise (weasel phrases. have energy.3. How often are they in your pockets? How often do they just lie by your side and never move? Make note of this after-the-fact. How to • • • do this: Get your hands out of your pockets. Most guys are too boring and too reserved when talking. and to do multiple times. Use your hands to accentuate certain points. Get your hands OUT of your pockets and AWAY from your body! Act excited.1 Pointing and Gestures D4-T14 Good speakers use their hands. and away from yourself. maybe a motivational speaker. Assignments for Pointing and Gestures 1) For the next few days. and way from your sides. and that you end up talking about with people quite often. etc. after the conversation has ended. political speaker. so that the use of these becomes automatic. Read some of that text (from an earlier exercise) out loud.
Subject: Attributes or "things about" that subject. using the appropriate form of This. 2. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking.3 MORE TOOLS D4-T12 Now we are getting into a different area. These. and Those. Small sentence that includes that attribute. These sections help to train you in these types of techniques. These. Great speakers use movement to their advantage. and then write a small sentence for each. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. D4-T13 Page 23 . and the correct form of This. beyond the small bits and pieces of language. list ten attributes or things about that subject. 5) Pick another subject. That. Those 6) Talk out loud about the subject mentioned above for a good 5-10 minutes. and their movement becomes a part of their communication. and once again.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4) Talk out loud about that subject for a good 5-10 minutes. That. Anchoring Anchoring is associating a feeling or emotional state to a sensory experience.
3) With these three subjects in mind. Do your best to re-enact that discussion (say what you said.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course For each of these subjects. point towards yourself. Say the following out loud while gesturing in the correct direction: Good. or at least be able to move. and MOVE! Do this out loud. and to send negative things "away" from yourself. and AWAY from your sides and MOVE when talking about these subjects. no need to WILDLY gesture! • You can do this many many times. Do something. Read that out loud. and others. gesture. motion. and accentuate what you are saying in order to be more compelling as a speaker and to get even more attention from your listener or audience. As you get more comfortable with this. and MOVE. etc. very easily. and every time something positive is being talked about. gesture. Exercises for Linking Gestures 1) Stand up.3.) 2) Grab some of your written SS materials. point or gesture towards yourself. Strategic Formula for Pointing and Gestures Move. just start to MOVE. Bad (gesture towards. 2. make a point to get your hands OUT of your pockets. point or gesture away. ANYTHING.). This technique allows you to do this many many times. and animate to some extent the next time you talk about them.. recall a recent time when you had such a discussion. Whenever you say something positive. make a note to go ahead and move. Good.2 Linking Gestures (Towards And Away) D4-T22 This is a fast and easy way to link positive states to you. away. many people move when talking This technique is most powerful when used at a time when emotions and/or imagination are engaged in the conversation. and send Negative things away • You can point towards or away from yourself. towards.. etc. away. Tactical Formula for Linking Gestures Whenever you say something negative. point away. but this time use your hands. Bad. or • You can place your hand on your chest or abdomen in a subtle manner (to link things to you) . and when anything negative is mentioned. Bring Positive things toward yourself. arms. • Or hold your hand away from yourself (to send things "away") How to use it • Good to do in the context of being a person that already MOVES when talking! • Make this subtle. and the repetition works for you! • Can do in various contexts. Page 25 .
2. or at least sit where you can move. and hopefully the conversations are interesting. Use "This. Exercises for Easy Linking Expanded 1) Stand up. when anything negative is mentioned. Those" correctly Combine these and use them at the same time! When you say This or These. These. point towards yourself and when anything negative is mentioned. Say "this". Conversely. Do this out loud. (yes. Subjects Do your best to re-enact that discussion. For each of these subjects.. Point away Positive statement. Say "that". That. say what you said. point away. motion away or place your hands/arms away. Point away. etc. Pick something that YOU are interested in.) D4-T30 Now we bring together Linking Gestures and Easy Linking. 2) With these three subjects in mind. These. make a note to go ahead and use these Linking Gestures to some extent the next time you talk about them. etc. and MOVE. Do the following out loud: Page 26 . point away. Say "these". Point to you Negative Say "those". these can be the same as the last set of assignments). Those .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Remember the text we used in an earlier example here in the workbook? Read that out loud.3. That. gesture towards yourself or place your hand(s) on yourself. This is veryeasy to do over and over for that repetitive effect. points towards yourself. it will become easier and easier. When you say These or Those. have energy. passionate.3 Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This. but this time when you are speaking of anything good or positive. Linking Gestures and Easy-Linking together: • • • Use the pointing/gestures on Positive and Negative things (point towards and away). recall a recent time when you had such a discussion. and every time something positive is being talked about. and that you end up talking about with people quite often. Assignments for Linking Gestures 1) List 3 subjects that you really enjoy. but you don't have to do it every time! That will seem strange! Tactical Formula for Easy Linking Expanded Positive statement. start with a few.. Point to you Negative statement. Start subtle.
Point back to yourself and say "these". That. On Positive D4-T35 Let's look at anchoring in light of the 80/20 rule (where 80% of the results come from 20% of the effort). etc.3.Point or Touch. These. These. and able to be done many many times. Use the correct versions of This. Also. touch them • they smile. The more that "emotions" are being accessed. and emotions to yourself. the more effective it tends to be. Point away and say "those" Repeat! This WILL help to train you! 2) Remember the text we used in an earlier example? Speak that text out loud. states. and say "that". touch them! This "Easy Anchoring" works in any context: • they laugh. and Those if you can. and Those. 2.. you are anchoring them in a subtle way. It may be good to anchor feelings. but actually. Practice it enough and in connection with earlier exercises. a realization. we are doing that already by pointing "towards" on positive things and "away" on negative things using Linking. and say "this". If you are head-on directly in front of a person.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Point to yourself. or when the person you are talking to goes into a Positive state. specific states. it's more difficult.. Point away. touch them • they seem to go into a pleasant state. Can we apply this to anchoring? Yes! • We need a way to do some basic anchoring that is very simple. trying to add in more instances of This. This is more easily done if you are standing at the side or at an angle. Strategic Formula for Easy Linking Expanded Combine the use of Linking Gestures (towards yourself when positive. That. an expression. touch them This is best done in a "moment" with some emotion. But to get even more effectiveness when anything positive happens. That. These. Page 27 . while pointing towards or away from yourself in the correct manner. a laugh.4 Easy Anchoring .) with Easy Linking (using This. Do this in a way that maybe makes it seem like you are doing it for emphasis. and thoughts to you but in a general sense. it will become automatic. it's very useful to Anchor anything and everything positive to you! In some ways. it's good to be close enough (within arms-length) so that the "touch" is easy to do. and away when negative. Those in the correct ways) to associate even more positive feelings.
. but yet have some degree of rapport already (maybe this is a friend-of-a-friend. or Topic being discussed 2) Recall those 5 times. 2) Spend some time looking for moments (positive ones) where a touch would be appropriate. but in many cases. This is the same type of thing. directly to you. and note to yourself the correlation between how long the touch lasted and the level of rapport. vividly. interest. and the situation or topic being discussed.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course You probably do this already in certain situations. (Not romantically. also make a point to make and maintain eye contact as well. but a bit more "deliberate". Person '" Situation. without really thinking about it. such as. Tactical Formula for Easy Anchoring When the person you are talking with displays a positive feeling of some type. you just touch his or her upper arm or upper back. Exercises for Easy Anchoring 1) Think about the last 5 times where you touched someone in this type of way. A laugh A moment of recognition or realization When someone starts talking quietly. touch them to help anchor it to you.. See if you can recall how it was. etc. Also note the degree of eye contact. What do you do? You shake their hand. maybe someone who you have heard about). just a touch. a smile. Page 28 . you grab their upper arm as well. laugh. • When joking with someone.. Write those down. make a point to hold it just slightly longer than usual. maybe pat on the back. • Think about when you meet and are introduced to someone.) Maybe a handshake Maybe a pat on the back Maybe a funny gesture Make a note of the person. • Think about when you greet a friend. intrigue. Assignments for Easy Anchoring 1) The next several times you shake someone's hand.
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course At first.. maybe you don't touch them. to be cool o Voice Tone And Tonality • Nose. but as you notice these moments. when you have the chance. You are noticing this after-the-fact. Then. These. and movement skills that will be used later in the course. o Linking " with me. Fast • • • Pause o Energy And Enthusiasm • Passionate or Boring? LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS o Adjectives And Adverbs • Be descriptive o Trance Words • Instantaneously. o Embedded Commands • Can you do this now. language. and you have already learned a LOT of the detailed speaking. think "I could have touched them THEN".. • SPEAKING POINTERS o The "Cool" Factor • You don't have to be cold. that a touch is appropriate. Mouth. Chest o Pacing And Pausing • Slow. Find Yourself o Weasel Phrases • If I were to . in-the-moment. see if you can have at least 5 instances of knowing.. That. That. we want you to actually DO IT! So. Suddenly. Those MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures • Move! Point! o Linking Gestures • Towards And Away o Easy Linking Expanded • Pointing With This. Those Page 29 . These... 2. DO IT! Strategic Formula for Easy Anchoring In general. o Easy-Linking • This. 3) Now that you have started to notice these "moments" where a touch would be appropriate.4 REVIEW D4-T46 We are well on our way. anchoring and associating yourself to positive and intriguing feelings in other people helps to make them feel positive towards and intrigued by you.
and later to Conversational Management techniques. Page 30 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o Easy Anchoring • Point Or Touch On Positive And Negative With these parts behind you. we will move onwards to work on Language Structures.
0 LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES D5-T1 We have been working on bits and pieces of language. You might disagree.1 PACE AND LEAD D5-T2 Pace and Lead .. and more influential in general. move with them conversationally for a while.Some people try to display higher knowledge or value by "arguing". Now we are moving "up" a level. acknowledge what the other person is saying. things that you should not even have to really "think about". You almost NEVER impress people that way! To pace/lead well. or to try to "impress" them. You MAY be able to do that. you might bring up a new way of looking at it.. Don't argue! . 3. all of the time. but agreeing is just a special case.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3. etc.Can you just knock someone into agreeing with you? Can you be that bold? Yes.Some people misunderstand and think that to "Pace" means to "agree". Changing the Viewpoint or Frame if Mind . but will hopefully at some point. the sort of things that you need to get used to doing automatically. you might make comments (some that agree and some that may not) but the key is that you are "Taking part in" the conversation and topics at hand. and then take them in some direction. These were tactical details. These techniques give you ways to use and arrive at languaging in a manner that will make you more persuasive. telling someone they are wrong. but you can break rapport in the process. but you must do so powerfully and do NOT look for "acceptance".. however you can break rapport. Agree or not agree? . For example. incorrect.A way to change directions • In someone's way of thinking • In the conversation To make a change in direction in some manner. move them . show understanding (does not have to be agreement necessarily) and then . it's best to meet or join someone in some way. say things such as. Challenges • Can't you just bluntly offer a different view? Yes. The minute you do anything like that to get someone else's "approval".Can you just abruptly jerk a conversation towards where you want it to go? Maybe.. Are they useful and possible? • • • Trying to knock or jar someone into a different direction or way of thinking can be risky. or "bigger chucks" as we say. into higher-level stuff. It can mean this. but you need a lot of power to do it and you risk breaking rapport. you are lost. be able to just "do". Fast and abrupt changes . To "Pace" means to just BE a part of the conversation. towards where you want things to go. Changing Topics and Subjects . then and give them another way of looking at it. Pace and Lead allows us to "join" someone..... o That's one way to see it o I understand your point Page 31 • • .
..BE IMPRESSIVE! People really don't like to be proven dumb or wrong! Most people are offended or "put off by such attempts. and then moving things forward in some manner. a way that you want. So if I understand this . have you thought about this . 3. In addition..) • Yes. Maybe • • • • • • continue showing an understanding or interest So what you mean is ... the implication is that you NEED someone's approval.. • Well. it makes YOU look bad. Strategic Formula for Pacing and Leading Pacing and Leading allows you "be" in the conversation for a while and gain rapport and information.. acknowledgement. I also think you can see .1 General Pace and Lead Techniques D5-T9 Here are some examples of ways to do these steps with example wording for each... Tactical Formula for Pacing and Leading Show agreement.. Arguing! Many smart guys study these techniques and technologies.... Let me make sure I understand . what you are saying is .... • Ok .. as if you "need" their approval. and/or interest. I read/saw/heard the same thing . I get it. The point here is not to memorize these "lines".it's like this.. I see • That's interesting • I get it • Hmmmmm ... Let them know you are listening and understand (using wording such as shown below. Then start to move or shift things in a different way.. understanding. Ok. Page 32 ... To TRY to IMPRESS is bad. but to really get a sense of being IN the conversation.... Then start to direct things in a different way . showing that you are a part of it... Instead . That hardly ever works. and some of then want to go out and "impress" people with their newfound knowledge.1.. Impressing someone with your knowledge. if you attempt to do that.. • Alright.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o o That's interesting I see what you are saying. or. allowing you to move things more in your favor later on. So.
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I hear you, and what else is interesting is .... •-. That's a good way of looking at it, something else that is important is ....
The Formula for Pacing and Leading is ... acknowledge and then start to shift things ... Maybe you want to shift things more and/or bring up another issue or viewpoint entirely (or maybe you actually disagree) • That's one way of looking at it, however I think ... • Yes, I understand, I have also heard ... • Ok, that makes sense, another way of thinking about it is .. • Alright, but on the other hand... Some general methods you can use to introduce the "leading" aspect, you can talk about... • What you know, believe, understand • What a friend or colleague has said • What you heard • What you read • etc. 3.1.2 Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects D5-T12
Lets say you find some people talking about a topic. Do you walk up, interrupt, and start an entirely new topic? No. (Well, you can, but that takes a lot of power and has a lot of risk.) A better way is to enter the conversation, talk about it (Pace), and then move the conversation into areas that you want it to go (Lead). Examples: • You are in a conversation and the topic is cars. People are talking about prices, loans, etc. You acknowledge what is being said, contribute to that conversation (pace), and then start to bring in the idea of how a car handles, how it feels, and how exciting it is to drive certain cars (lead). • People are discussing clothes, various brands, types, etc. You talk about that with them (pace) for a while, and then start to bring up the idea of how clothes make you feel, how you feel differently when wearing different things ... etc (lead)
Tactical Formula for Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects Show agreement, understanding, acknowledgement, and/or interest in the topic or subject. Then start to move or shift topic or subject in a different way, a way that you want.
Exercises for Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects 1) Think about some recent conversations you have had with people about different topics, hopefully these conversations and/or this topic is something that occurs a lot for you (based on interests you have, people you know, etc). Recall a specific "moment" in each conversation. Note what was being discussed, and what point was being talked about. Make a note of each of them. Also note, where did that actual conversation go next?
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course What were you talking about in this "moment"?
Conversation with whom?
Where did it go next?
2) Pace and Lead Gently Out loud, practice as if you were talking in each of the discussions above, and paced the conversation and topic, and then lead it in some direction. In this exercise, simply show agreement, understanding, and/or interest, and then lead in the same general direction. Maybe bring up a new example, new point, new issue, but just sort of "take over" the conversation. 3) Pace and Lead in a New Direction Next, for each of those instances, provide an example where you show agreement, understanding, and/or interest, but now start to "move" things in a new direction. Maybe the conversation that you had started at this one "point" and went in a specific direction ... Now, for this exercise, practice taking it in a new and different direction. Maybe introduce a different aspect of the topic or subject, something not mentioned before, or not normally talked about. The key is to first show agreement, understanding, and/or interest and THEN do this "shift", and you LEAD things in a different way.
Assignments for Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects 1) Make note of three conversations that you tend to have with people on a regular basis. Person or People Subjects we discuss
2) The next times these conversations happen, make a point to "Show agreement, understanding, and/or interest" (Pace). Then "Then start to move things" (Lead) in your own way, Do this by introducing a different aspect of that topic, or a related topic/subject. Don't make this shift or change really abrupt or different, just make a point to sort of "direct" where things move, even if that direction is close to where it was going anyway. Just make sure YOU are the one that moves it. Note the text and examples given earlier as a way to do that. 3) Once you can do the above, now make a point to have your "Lead" incorporate a real change of some type.
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Normally, even without your input, the conversation tends to go in a certain way. The earlier exercise had you just keep thing moving in that same direction. Now you are to "take" the conversation somewhere else towards a different or related topic. Just introduce a new aspect of the topic, a different thing, a different direction, so that you are really "leading" where things go. Remember the language that you were shown earlier. Use languaging like... You know what ELSE is interesting You know what * l * have found (seen, felt) Another way of doing this would be .. You know what ELSE can happen ... is ...
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You can change the way people look at things, their mindset, and their "frame of mind". For example, imagine you are having a discussion and people are talking in a certain "frame of mind" (not directly, it's just their way of seeing things). The point here is to acknowledge that frame, and then introduce another way of seeing things, another "frame", or another "mindset". What is • • • • a "frame"? In general it's ... A way someone "sees" something. What it "means" to them. The way they "feel" about it. The significance or meaning that it has.
Looking at the formula for Pace and Lead, you apply that by first acknowledging the current Frame, and then start to lead by bringing up another way of thinking about it and/or looking at it. You bring a new "frame" into the discussion. (This is a way of shifting that way people LOOK at things, the significance that it has, or their mindset regarding certain topics or behaviours). In the earlier example of Pacing and Leading of Topics and Subjects, we were talking just about a thing, a topic, or subject. Now we are talking about a feeling, or the way things are "seen" or what they "mean". For example, people may be talking about: • Taking risks • Feeling good or bad • Having a good day or a bad day • Making choices • What an event "meant" to them • How someone else actions affected them • How a decision affected them. There is a "frame" (of mind) behind each of these discussions and with proper technique, that frame and mindset may be changed. Look back at the "Methods" section earlier for some details and examples of how to introduce this pacing and leading (there are some lists of languaging examples provided). Examples: • You enter a conversation where people are talking about risks, Risks at work, risks in finances, risks in life. You Pace by discussing this for a while. The frame or mindset here is that risks are bad, dangerous,
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course have consequences. The way they "feel" about it... and paced it. (Risk was framed as dangerous.. some men will just "write off a woman that is a certain size. The frame here is that she has her "standards" and that this is good for her. where the point of the discussion in that moment was: The way they "see" something. Note what was being discussed. acknowledgement. the viewpoint. some risks make you feel alive. • Another conversation has a woman talking about what she looks for in men. she talks about what their professions are.) Tactical Formula for Pace and Lead . Again. who is like 5 lbs overweight.. You agree on some level (pace) and chat about that. What was the "frame". Exercises for Pace and Lead .. or may be perfect but with the wrong hair color (lead). and what "kind" of man she likes (height. the assumption? What is the frame of mind behind the viewpoints that they had? Write down the topic. understanding. The frame you are bring up is how superficial it is to judge based on numbers and details. and how anyone of quality . In this exercise simply Show agreement. (You are shifting her frame so that she may start to look at different things in men. Then start to move or shift the frame by introducing another way of looking at things. and you are working to change the way she screens out guys. what point was being talked about. etc). and the "frame" that was in use.. and/or interest in the mindset or frame of mind . some risks have good rewards. Do this OUT LOUD.. the frame of mind or mindset is the focus here. and/or interest in the Mindset or Frame of mind. etc. understanding. looks for more. With whom? Topic? Mindset / Frame of Mind 2) Pace and Lead Gently Practice as if you were talking in that discussion. What it "means" to them. a new meaning. Just sort of "take over" the conversation. and then lead it in some direction. Towards a way that you want. now its being framed as exciting). Maybe bring up a similar way of looking at it. then start to move into talking about how men do this as well.. Then you start to lead by bringing up the idea that some risks are fun and interesting. then lead in the same general direction. Recall a specific "moment" in the conversation.Mindset or Frame of Mind Show agreement. the people. etc. Page 36 .Mindset or Frame of Mind 1) Think about some recent conversations you have had with people about different topics. Make a note of each of them. weight.. or provide a relevant example.
but really his mindset is the problem someone talks about wanting something different. you are just acknowledging the Mindset or Frame in this example. and says they are cheap. Examples: someone complains a lot. and they are the one not taking risks someone is prejudiced or judges other people. to find a positive way of looking at the situation. a frame of reference. A good way to do it is to show agreement and understanding. for each of those instances. The key is to first Show agreement. or something you heard or read. Maybe bring up a way of looking at things that is totally different. Maybe acknowledge and then bring up an opposing view. and/or interest in the Mindset or Frame of Mind but now start to "move" things in a new direction. even if that direction is close to where it was going anyway. With whom? Subject/Topic? Mindset / Frame of Mind 2) Pace and Lead Gently The next times these conversations happen. but just make a point to sort of "direct" where things move. Write down these subjects. Do this by introducing a "way of looking at it" that is similar to the one that is already being used. understanding. and HE is the one with the limitation someone complains about work and the managers. Maybe find a way. and the frame associated with each. and THEN do this "shift". These should be of a type where THE "frame" or mindset is something of which you are aware. Don't make this really abrupt or different. what it "means" that is not really in agreement with what was said. understanding. and makes assumptions (has a certain frame) about people or groups. or something someone said. some way. understanding. provide an example where you Show agreement.Mindset or Frame of Mind 1) Make note of three conversations that you tend to have with people on a regular basis. and maybe point out a similar example from your own life. Do this OUT LOUD for each example. and/or interest. Then "start to move things" (Lead) in your own way. Page 37 . make a point to "Show agreement. Think about discussions where YOU can see that these people involved are working on a certain set of assumptions. Maybe bring up a different viewpoint or way of looking at it. Assignments for Pace and Lead . maybe even limiting beliefs or beliefs that really hold them back. etc someone looks at a political issue. and/or interest" (Pace). and you LEAD things in a different way. and their motivations etc. Basically.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 3) Pace and Lead in a New Direction Next.
. there was a certain "frame" being discussed. a new aspect of "what it means".. and then use that to lead someone somewhere. o While you think .... A friend of mine used to feel the same way and they.. Just introduce a new frame.. (for example.. Well. o While you are . Meaning... o As you see . Continue to Pace by maybe stating an obvious point about their current reality o seeing XYZ o feeling XYZ o thinking about XYZ o etc.... o While you see . now make a point to have your "Lead" incorporate a real change of some type. but just find a positive way to look at what is being discussed.Current Reality D5-T29 If you look at the languaging used in things like hypnosis. "Pace" their mindset. focus on the Mindset or Frame. The general way to approach this is: • Start by pacing something that is obvious about their current reality .. even without your input.. and allow the conversation to continue with the same frame of mind in place. o etc. it might not be that bad..4 Pace and Lead . or assumed by the people involved. 3.. You know.... What is done here is that you Pace based on something that is obvious (obvious in their "current reality"). a new mindset... o After you have .1. • At least it's not like XYZ.. This is a small-chunk detail and technique. and new way of looking at things.. o You are probably wondering Page 38 • • . point towards a specific Mindset or Frame that is of YOUR choosing.. Some ways to do that is by saying things such as. or used by very powerful speakers. This may be different from the way the subject or belief WAS framed or thought of... these techniques are used a LOT.. The earlier exercise had you just sort of "run" with that. o While you are . using words such as) o As you are . another way of looking at it is ... Now you are to "take" the conversation somewhere else and bring up a new mindset or frame of mind. o As you feel. o As you realize ...Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Pace and Lead In a New Direction Once you can do the above. A "safe" way to do this would be to find a positive way to look at the situation. it could be . but it can work well and adds to the power of the languaging.. Again. and/or express what is on their mind.
"As you feel this...... Page 39 ." • Physical demos use this a lot..Pacing Reality too much can seem arrogant.Current Reality 1) Listen to this section again. and "As that feeling builds. what you are hearing. o you will start to notice o you may realize o you may start to think o you may see how . o state what you want them to see/feel/hear/realize Examples: • As you are listening to this program ... then you are probably wondering . o another thing you will see/feel/notice is .) • Then you will "Y" Where "Y" is something you want them to experience (Lead) Exercises for Pace and Lead . "as you are watching this presentation . the more it will "sink in"." • You will hear a LOT of this in this course (which is part of your re-programming!) Tactical Formula for Pace and Lead . Point them to where you want to lead them ..."... The more you hear this. Studies have been done with persuasive language that show that giving a reason will make people more apt to do things for you and agree with you.... Rewind or go back a few tracks. and do. • You are talking to someone at work .2 GIVE THEM A REASON D5-T32 Give someone a reason for someone to listen . what you are thinking. etc. it starts to become annoying to the listener. 3..... o you will then .. what you are reading.. thoughts... If you spend too much time saying things similar to "I know what you are thinking"... Warning ..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • o As you are thinking about o I know you are concerned about o The issue that may be on your mind is o The question you may have is Begin to lead . you will begin to notice this . o notice what its like as ..Current Reality As (while ) you) are "X" (Pace) Where "X" is something that is true in their current reality (perceptions.. Really pay attention and see how many times I have done pacing and leading in this manner.. Make note of how many times I have paced your current reality...
if you say "Is it ok if I make copies next. but put in a reason of some type. Examples: • You walk up to a copier at work and there are three people in line. Page 40 . However. they may go with you. • You are talking to someone and you would like to pull her aside and make the conversation more private. You are not being apologetic or anything. come up with another reason. because I am really in a hurry" then. "Is it ok if I make copies next". or at least people that are not close friends of yours. asking "can I pay by credit card". if you say "Let's move over there because it's more quiet" you will be amazed at how much more agreeable the person may be. just providing a reason. it just helps to make people more agreeable (and there are statistics to support that as well). It could be asking for coffee. you don't need to be concerned about these things. Person What did you ask for? 2) Practice out loud how you might "ask" for that favor or make that request again. and out loud. Write these down. Tactical Formula for Give Them a Reason Request X because (of) Y Exercises for Give Them a Reason 1) Make note of the last five times you asked someone for something. "hey. However. remarkably. If you say. or asked someone to do something. This technique does not provide a 100% guarantee. the addition of this small "reason" will make people much more agreeable and apt to let you do what you would like. 3) Go through the same list again.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Don't worry about "losing your power" or being too "nice". anything. If you just say. requesting something. The examples will be better if these are people you do not know. then it may be difficult to get people to agree. Write these down. Assignments for Give Them A Reason 1) Make note of five routine situations that you have in your life where you are asking for something. lets move over there".
3. • When you give a reason. just as an example) • Hypnotists use this technique a LOT. point. This technique has been developed based on observing how many good and influential people speak: • Successful sales people • Charismatic speakers • Good debaters • Component of hypnotic languaging « Very important.3 LISTING D6-T1 Listen to an example where many of these are used.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Situation (Place. you get someone to agree and then lead them 3. and flow easily. See if you can make it automatic. or giving an example. 3) The next times these situations come up in your day-to-day life. actually ends up being several points. in order to provide more power to what you are saying. Power in Numbers . or make a point. • When you give several reasons at once. the items that you will "list" need to be brief points. so that your one "opportunity" in a conversation to make "a" point. and quite well.Repetition in a way that serves you. • For the sake of a conversation. Tactical Formula for General Listing When making a point. Page 41 . • Training for sales people use this quite a bit. go ahead and mention the "reason". People) What do you ask for? 2) Practice out loud some "reasons" that you could give in these situations. or make a statement. statement. it's difficult to debate them all or object to them all (not to be combative. • This is somewhat similar to a "pace and lead". provide several. or excuse. "List" several things or examples which support your point. don't just provide one reason.3. which support your point.1 General Listing D6-T4 Strategic Formula for General Listing General Listing is a way to quickly provide several reasons.
. what point you were trying to make. Who you were talking to Page 42 . Each of the items in a list can also be much longer.. For each conversation. so that you don't just say "X. really recall listing to good speakers (2). then the second. and still.. briefly. talk about it for a sentence or two. maybe trying to convince someone of something (NOT an argument-just that you were making a point and would like to be more persuasive). Listing can be short.X and then other times . etc. as in saying three items . make them brief. true. Z (selecting your items listed above). Do that out loud. but as you listen to it (1). Maybe your first two items in a list are obvious. Pick three ways that can go .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Example (see the listed items shown as 1.. Now try again by expounding on each of the items. maybe watching sports. and the types of things to which no one would object. what are three ways that can go? Good? Bad? Indifferent? Exciting? Boring? Pick three and write these down What are three "ways" that the experience of "meeting people" can go? 2) Now practice out loud by saying something like "Isn't it interesting how you can meet people and it happens in different ways? I mean sometimes . listing is like pacing and leading. you may begin to agree. 3) Pick an example of an activity that you do often. Now. 5) Think of three recent conversations you have had with people where you were making a point. etc. Select a particular aspect of that activity. 3. a. playing a game.. where each lasts several minutes. Write them down. and/or what it's like to meet people..... In many ways. Y. Mention the first item. doing some type of work..) • I know this may sound a bit different (1). strange (2).." and mention those three different ways. Y. write down who it was with. the third item may tend to "lead" someone in some way. and start to think about in a positive way (3). but instead you talk ' about each for a few moments. Something you are interested in. and maybe 3 different things that support your "point". sometimes . as a list. and somewhat new (3). Z".. Activity that you like or do often List a particular part of aspect of that activity What are three "ways" that can go? " 4) Now describe "What its like to do your activity .. Exercises for General Listing 1) Lets say you are talking to someone about "Meeting people". Then. etc.2. partying.each of which lasts just a few seconds.
However. suggestion. we were talking about three points in a list that all were similar. it's easy to think of that Page 43 .2 Listing . it makes it seem as if you are being fair. Placing that particular item at the end of a list can have that effect. In the earlier Listing examples. Who you were talking to Point you were trying to make Three items that support your "point" 6) Recall a specific moment in each conversation. activity. you were just listing several things in a list.3. by placing YOUR preferred item at the end. it sticks in the listener's head more. Maybe you want to list several options or examples. Do that for each of the three examples above. and just providing a series of options. Now practice. Normally. at times you want to use listing as a way to highlight or focus upon one item. the other. etc) By doing that.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Point you were trying to make Three items that support your "point" b. out loud. and tends to make THAT point the most important one. 3. you put more emphasis on it. and an elephant) what tends to "stick" in your mind? (The Elephant!) The last item! By hanging an item at the end of a list. or different types of alternatives (to a thought. Maybe you want your list to contain many options. Therefore. Here is a way to think about it.At The End D6-T15 If several items are mentioned in a list (for example a car. how you could bring up these three points in a list-like manner. a table. You weren't trying to emphasize one point vs. However. Who you were talking to Point you were trying to make Three items that support your "point" c. the one that comes to mind the easiest is the one that YOU want someone to agree with.
Again let's bring up this example of "meeting people". I know. It may be because you like the resume (a).. I mean.. or they just have the right answers (c). you know . In general. did you notice the use of the words this/that/these/those? Also where do you think I might have been pointing and gesturing during those examples? Job interview o Have you talked to many candidates? Yes. o You know what it's like when you meet someone . Now those are different ways of seeing it. When I have interviewed a lot of people. It's just a matter of getting to this person.. lets say you are talking about doing some activity.2. you just know . maybe it's boring. you put more emphasis on it and it tends to make that one "stick" more.. or this person presents himself really well (b). was said that at the end? By the way. you just really click and you feel this connection .. It's interesting though. 3). o It could suck. o May be frustrating to you. how they can almost become a blur. you know that those people are NOT qualified (1) o Others you maybe have thought were ok at first. Sometimes there is nothing special. you meet someone. or maybe you are really seeing the power of all of this! I think you can tell which option I was going for! Meeting People.. you eventually find this person that on some level. etc .that is the one (3). they sort of fell into several groups o There are some people that. examples.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course one. Say that one LAST and bring up two other options.... o Other times you get that sort of a "friend" vibe with that person. b. See? Not only did I have a list of three (1. and there is just something about this person.A t The End Listing at The End is a way to provide several options (which may differ) but to emphasize the option that YOU want. o And other times . it could be boring.... right away... those people doesn't mean much either way . or it could really be fun. the more convinced you are that that person is NOT the one! o Hopefully though. this is one of those subtle but very powerful things that many persuasive speakers do a LOT. I put another list within THAT description (a. interesting.. They are not all the same. Again. but even when describing that person. Page 44 . one after another.. and then finish with YOUR preferred item. they are nice. you know? See how I did that? See how the item which I really wanted them to think about. This course. and the third one "eventually find this person" was the one I wanted to really "stick". I have had to do that myself at times. c)! • • • • • • Strategic Formula for Listing . but you spend some time with that person (2) and the more that person talks. or instances FIRST. Examples • • Fun activity. but by placing "it could be fun" last.
3) Do that again. it makes sense to "bury" that item in the middle of a list. buy some thing. etc. and they are haggling or objecting a bit. Exercises for Listing . and you are all figuring out how you are going to spend your time.). and we always have fun .3.? Write down what the "issue" is. and seem too direct. maybe controversial. and therefore you do NOT want it to stick out too much. but place some more emphasis on that last item. but bury it inside a list. is the item you mention LAST. and bring up at least two other "options" BEFORE you mention the one option that you want. where you are trying to convince people to do something. out loud. Maybe you want to suggest something very direct or quite controversial and you do NOT want to give it too much prominence. statement. Go ahead and suggest that item. agree to some point. make sure that the one that YOU want to do. but mention the one which YOU want to put the most emphasis on. Issue or Option What do you want? 5) Now. mentioning all of these in a list. Maybe pause when saying it. or giving an example.At The End When making a point. "List" several things briefly in order. talk about the issue. Three things that you and your friends could do (activity) 2) Practice. 3.3 Listing . At times however. go somewhere.At The End 1) Lets say you are going to spend a day or evening with some friends. placing something at the end can add to its power and make it stand out. 4) What is an example from your life (recently).Burying Items D6-T24 When using a List. Examples: • Sales . However. You want to mention or suggest something that is quite strong. and what the result is that YOU want.Let say you arc trying to get someone to buy something. If you say Page 45 . You may want to "test" to see how the person will react to it. close. LAST. it can be TOO obvious. Maybe add a small "list" within that last item (because it's inexpensive.. List three possible things that you could do and write these down. etc. out loud. In that case. Here is a way to think about it.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Tactical Formula for Listing . Maybe add an embedded command of some type..
or possibly you just still want to negotiate . The idea of " seize this chance and get it while you can" is something rather challenging to say (as the seller) that directly.. that may be a GOOD sign. one of them is to just slip the deadline. maybe you aren't ready to buy this now.. Page 46 . more powerful and direct statement in the middle. it's your choice. lets say you are working on a project and things are behind schedule. But of she smiles and seems interested.Burying Items is a way to mention an outrageous or very direct option for "testing" purposes. Instead. that you are almost "worried" about how the listener may react. just suggesting. it seems a bit easier for you to say it. and when you say it at the end like that. we can leave together right now.. its your choice. or to maybe see if you can get someone to agree to it! Tactical Formula for Listing . o "well. seems to "lighten" it up somehow. maybe you aren't ready to buy this now. and maybe there is a possibility of you even spending that night together. • Instead of thinking about it in terms of a list. you can get away with an outrageous or very direct option by burying that option in the middle of a List.Lets say you have met a women at a party. you don't just say "we can slip the deadline".. But if you switch the order. maybe it IS too direct. it seems too obvious. that you will just seize this chance and get it while you can! That sounds almost TOO forceful..Burying Items Listing . lets say that you want to say something or suggest something that is very direct. There are several options but. bury it inside a list.Burying Items When giving examples or options to someone.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • "Well. See? Putting that one. "let's slip the deadline" might be a problem in some circles! So when people are talking about options to help the project. honestly. However. Lets say your idea is so controversial and over-the-top.. or maybe I'll call you tomorrow".. This is also a good way of testing someone's response. It also allows you a chance to watch the persons reaction to it. we can talk in a few days. more "appropriate" items to lighten it up. For example. Sometimes you have that "direct" item in mind and you surround it with other. If she gasps and has a look of shock and horror when you make that suggestion. Very direct.. So maybe you say something like o "Well. maybe you seize this chance and get it while you can . or maybe you want it so much." Doesn't that sound better? Meeting at a Party . and you are talking about you two getting together sometime. Strategic Formula for Listing . or possibly you still want to negotiate.
Burying Items 1) Go back to the previous exercises where you said some "lists" out loud. Try saying it with the strongest item at the end. or the most direct item. by burying it in a list. For three different situations that have come up in your life recently. Page 47 . Look at the items that were listed and see if one of them maybe seemed very "strong" or "direct". suggesting a List of options but burying that outrageous option in a list. write down an outrageous or very direct suggestion that you would have liked to make (for each). go ahead and do so. 2) Practice out loud how you would say that list in the situation you used in the previous exercise. but do it by burying it in a list. Situation Outrageous or Direct Suggestion 4) For each of those examples (above) go ahead and practice out loud. in the middle and see if it is a bit easier to imagine saying that list. Go ahead and change the order of the list that you used earlier. After these situations occur. Listing can be powerful. see if it seems easier to say. and go ahead and practice how you COULD have said it. as any opportunities come up where you would like to make an outrageous or quite direct suggestion. but as with any technique. it can stand out too much and be annoying. If there is not one. Try it out loud. if you do it TOO much or too blatantly. you may even want to say it in a joking way. but see if you CAN say it. Situation Outrageous or Direct Suggestion you could have made.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Exercises for Listing . you will probably encounter some situations where you might want to suggest something quite outrageous or direct.Burying Items 1) As you go out and live your life. See if you can make it sound natural. make a point (afterward) to think about that outrageous option. and then trying saying that item in the middle. 2) In the near future. Bury the strongest item. Assignments for Listing . 3) Think of some recent situations where you would have liked to mention a quite outrageous or direct suggestion. go ahead and create a new item that is very outrageous or direct.
then the more Y. then present it buried within a List of options.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3.. o See how they are incorporated.. the more Y Page 48 .. the more Z". and see how. Using pauses. then. Or. or experience. and they WILL stay through the pauses! As you are saying various items in a list... Pauses. we are pacing and leading. consider this: • We talked about listing .4 Listing. this is just a way of bringing together many of the things we have learned. 3. really. but have ONE that YOU really want to emphasize or get people to agree to. etc.How do you think of them quickly? How do you make them sound natural? Don't worry! It is ok to have pauses! Pauses make things sound more natural and gives you time to come up with options! We talked about the use of pauses as a way to convey some drama and to make things interesting. as in .. If you must suggest several different examples or options. and the more Y. to "pull" the listener in.3.... in a List. and using lists. The general structure here is: • • The more X o where X is something that is hopefully quite obvious and true to the listener . In a way. changing tone. thinking about languaging such as "The more X. I gave an example (in the audio) of several things I wanted someone to do. think.. then the more Y. can help to alter how the options (and you) are perceived.4 MORE AND MORE." "More and More" is just a way to use these and bring them together. emphasis. remember to use emphasis and change your voice tone with the items. you are walking someone through a series of steps or thoughts.. etc".3. Maybe you want to stress one item more or less.. o See how that is being used here? • We have discuss language details . and provide many examples to support it.. Lets use this as a chance to really step back for a moment and look at this structure. if it's a VERY outrageous option.. So. place that item at the END of the List for more power. D6-T38 You have heard language like "The more X. while incorporating the language tools we have already discussed. then mention several of your points or examples that support what YOU want. and Emphasis D6-T36 You may be worried about coming up with three things in a list . In a way. "the more YOU FEEL this .5 Listing Review D6-T37 If you want to get your point across. so this all works in your favor! Just be interesting enough to keep their attention. and I just strung those together . 3.. Maybe one or more of the items actually has an embedded command in it. o See how we are listing several items? • We discuss Pace and Lead .
2. you notice this.. • Sell TV sets. or realize Y. etc. etc). present. and something obvious... etc Examples • Convincing friends to go do something that you want to do... The best way to do this is to start off with the first item as quite general... . and as Y happens o or as you sense Y. the More Y..) item. Page 49 . and then use More and More to lead them forward . • • • • As you (or while you) X .. You can even start by "pacing" a bit more. 3. the more you can notice Y ..) or thoughts (things you experience or think about.. from a general item towards something that YOU want. As you X. then. towards what YOU want.) specific. As an alternative.. and the more Y happens .. That's a general version of it. see it as just a way of using many of the things we have already covered! More and More tends to be best thought of as a "List". and even more so with the next (more. the more Z.. o walk someone through though process . the More Z. etc How to use it. with "as X is happening". or thoughts) use "More and More" as a way to string them together (and increase your chances of that happening.. The more Y. Strategic Formula for More and More If you want to lead someone through a series of steps (actions. You are "leading" someone. Instead of seeing this as a new type of language. you can use "as you" or "while you" as a way to bridge between sections as well. future) can be altered to make it fit well. THEN make the next item (more. experiences. Tactical Formula for More and More The more X. or "as you notice X". The More Z. or as Y is happening . step 1... o You can start off with something obvious as a statement to kind of pace them.. If you have something that you want to lead someone through. agreeable. as you feel this. then the more Z starts to happen.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course • • o Where Y is something that is a logical extension of what the listener knows and they see this as something that makes sense . or a new "pattern".. The small words and verb tenses (past. like a series of successive steps (things you do.. the more Y. which is more of an example of using Pace and Lead of their current reality. then... the More Y. more and more. then just list them but use "more" as a way to go from one to the next.
practice saying those three steps..) Write down three steps. they would end up doing what you wanted. a trip. what project to work on. Exercises for More and More 1) Consider the idea of convincing some friends of going to a movie. etc . the second. Do the series several times. 2) Think of the last time you were trying to convince a friend to do something. (Agree where to go to dinner. Write these down. if the person followed them. a movie. something with which you are familiar. practice saying those in series. Think of three "steps". 5) Out loud. Don't just say "more". etc. more in your direction. but more and more get closer to what YOU want... what to buy.. work around it and make it sound natural. and bridging between them as we discussed earlier (More. to get towards doing what you want. to get towards doing what you want. that start off in general. of what you want to have happen. who should do what.) Page 50 . The first should be obvious. using "More". something simple. more and more. a plan. "as you" or "while you". or as alternatives. something. as if in a conversation. more leading. and string them together using "more".. practice and see if you can talk about these one by one. 3) Now out loud. as you. a series of thoughts or actions that. something you convince people to do (or wish you could). What do you want to convince someone to do Three steps. what to do. The first should be obvious. or series of thoughts or actions.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • Talking to a woman . etc. o Walk her through the process. etc.. Think of three "steps". You may start with "As you" or "while you" for the first one. that would "walk" the other people through the process of agreeing with you. while you. 4) Think of another series from your life. Think of all of the things you can do tonight Realize that going to a movie would be a good idea Going to see the latest XYZ movie (use whatever movie you wish) See how that is a series of steps? Of thoughts? Like leading someone down a path? Now out loud. or have them experience. Do that several times. or something you want to lead people to do somehow. What you were trying to convince a friend to do Three steps. maybe an activity. The next is another step in the series. Think about a series of steps.
2) With that "More and More" sequence practiced. this is a means to keep speaking. the more things like "knowing what to say" and "what pattern to use" will become easier and easier for you! Notice how we are not doing these examples necessarily with women? Wonder why? 3. or else have the person you are speaking with mention it. you can talk about. look for opportunities to use that in your life. So. it's just a good way to think about discussing a subject. There are various means of doing this. seductive. where you could have a series of "states" lead someone through the process of doing what you want.. exciting. • It's not magical in a persuasive sense.Bad • One option . Maybe add or change some of the reasoning. A Tactic for Talking • Too many guys let a good conversational subject finish far too quickly.. How to use it.another option • Black .White • Right .. Just make sure that with that subject. and even change the specifics of that sequence. Maybe just try 2 of the 3 steps once or twice.) • Too many guys focus on standard lines such as "So what do you like about X". You will see that the more you get these bits and pieces. • You are just comparing and contrasting things. you have two (or more) aspects of a topic. This Compare and Contrast method here gives you a way to talk about and around the subjects at hand. and piece them together and have it sound natural. or various aspects of a subject. you are able to easily go through such a "sequence". The more that happens.5 COMPARE AND CONTRAST D6-T54 Listen to an example where many of these are used.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Assignments for More and More 1) In the exercises. • This works especially well if the subject of the discussion is one that "works" for our purposes (fun. • How two things are similar • How two things are different • Good . This method provides a way to keep the conversation going. and you discuss these two aspects using Compare and Contrast. etc. and move a conversation. we had you think of something from your life.Left Page 51 . • • Take a subject and either mention another aspect of that subject. or several different subjects. to continue. Practice that series more! Get very familiar with it. • It also a great way to get information about the person with which you are speaking. the more you will understand how they fit together. But get to the point where you can flow easily through the 3 in a series. becoming more and more convinced..
what they do not. As you are talking. associate them with things other than you. you can use all of the other tools we have discussed. team sports. Strategic Formula for Compare And Contrast Use this technique to keep the conversation going. and feel those states and emotions for a while as well.. and start to compare and contrast the two. you can talk about one car. • Notice what is liked and not liked • Notice any reactions. This all provides a good way to allow the discussion to continue for a while. good or bad. the offense or the defense. You discuss this. her. idea. Then discuss the other car. o While talking about what she does like. • • Use opportunities to use commands and trance words to create thoughts. Page 52 . and contrast these things. Select another subject.another attribute As you are talking. • You talk to someone for a while and she say she likes scuba diving. keep the discussion focused on a topic that serves your purposes. two facets of that subject. How do these differ How are they the same Which is good-bad. and this situation that you are sharing. • Anything bad. another brand. then discuss these by comparing and contrasting. this meeting. and talk about its attributes as well. and you start to talk about something she likes and enjoys doing. • Maybe what is more important to a sports team. o You select two items. experience.about her) and she mentions various things about that subject. Examples • One brand of car vs. states. and incorporate the language tools.another aspect -. • Link anything good to you. deciding to focus on making a good living now. idea. etc. that are good for you. and discuss whether the handling makes it better. better-worse. or point in a discussion. and to let the person think about. taking a position with a more promising future. or individual sports vs. vs. or its power. Use the other language tools during the discussion. or point in a discussion . you can anchor and link positive things to you! o While talking about things she does not like. you can anchor those away from yourself. feelings. Tactical Formula for Compare And Contrast Take any subject.. easy-difficult. What is different about each? How are they the same? How are they experienced? What is good? What is bad? etc. One attribute . • You may talk to a woman. what they like. • Decisions about a career or job. link away. you can take note of how the person is responding.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • One aspect . etc. o Maybe you start to ask her about it (have a discussion with her . compare.
. Be mindful of that and anchor/link appropriately.. different computer.same type of thing (another car. then I KNOW that you would NOT like THIS .. and put effort into correct linking/anchoring/pointing to associate positive things to you. Something that you like Something that is opposite 2) Now take that same topic. Letting Go Safety and Excitement Liking someone mentally and/or physically o • • • • Exercises for Compare And Contrast 1) Pick some possession that you have that you REALLY like (car. change your tone of voice. and compare/contrast the two. different style of clothing. and anchor/link/point appropriately. Something New Control vs.. be very aware of the positive and negative things that are being said. In addition. Be descriptive! Use pauses. Not-Like" set of things to compare and contrast. etc. bike. and serenity on one hand o and compare and contrast that to the feeling of something new and different on the other. o So we talk about the feeling of quiet..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Maybe you ask about it. somewhere else.. Also. and those that are not good. she mentions various things about it. Maybe some of the language that you are using that may lend itself to be embedded commands. peace. Re-enact that conversation again.(because). that they do like Do the re-enactment again... Familiarity vs.. Be vary aware that even when you are discussing the thing you "Like".." or . so if you like THAT. etc. clothes. Now think of what is opposite to that . Subject or thing that they like Attributes (things about) that. As in "so let me make sure I understand this . This example uses a very obvious "Like vs. offer the compare-contrast ways of discussing it. the same holds true even when discussing what you do NOT like. etc. she finds the experience of seeing new and different things to be interesting as well. etc). etc). where they were really describing or talking about something they like. but this time put some effort into being very aware of the positive and negative things that are being said. and this time. Use compare and contrast to talk about each of the attributes that your friend would say they like about that subject. Be aware of your language! Throw in adjectives and adverbs. and talk about it again. and various things about that subject or topic that they like.. and negative things . that within that may be attributes that are good. Now talk out loud about each. She says she likes the aspect of it being very quiet and serene under water. 3) Recall a recent conversation with someone you know. Page 53 . computer."Oh. your pacing. 4) Select two of the following 4 topics.". and this time.
and the positive aspects of excitement.. then talk about all of the various aspects and parts of it. There ARE many things that people tend to THINK of in an "either-or" way. YOU are then showing someone how BOTH of these things can be experienced. etc. together. Excitement. Parts of a subject. and parts of a person 3. it's too weak.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Control vs. exciting. Two types of parts we can work with . and that's ALL you discuss. and say (for example) "what do you like most about scuba diving" or "what is the most fascinating thing about. BOTH linked and anchored to YOU.. Think about the possibilities. some are bad • Talk about the good parts. Too many guys just blow things to quickly.. but when you go STRAIGHT for the BEST thing that she likes the MOST. this provides a good way to train you to be able to talk and ask questions of people. if you are asking many questions about something that is NOT of interest to you. and you lose out on spending a LOT of time having them discuss something that she REALLY likes! This is just a way to have a discussion. link away Now this may seem tough . that is fun. you can show someone how that can be possible..6 PARTS D7-T1 Listen to an example where these are used. theme. topic. However there ARE ways to have BOTH. If you are talking about an interesting subject. and get them to talk about what THEY are interested in." and that's ALL they talk about! Yes. By comparing and contrasting them.Who wants to talk about something that you are NOT interested in? However. Meaning. For example. For even more Power There IS a very powerful aspect of this technique that is important to mention. of having all of the positive aspects of Safety. this just helps to keep things moving in a conversation. Safety vs. Something New Now do your best to speak out loud and "talk" about these for a while using a Compare and Contrast structure. link them to you • If the bad or boring parts some up. this doesn't necessarily show that you Page 54 . you may end up liking the subject and find a new activity for yourself! Don't worry that you will "give the wrong impression" by inquiring and discussing these "parts".1 Parts Of A Subject D7-T4 This is a variation on the contrast principle. Parts. it is GOOD to focus on the positive aspects of what she likes. etc. 3. Some are good. People tend to think you have one OR the other. Letting Go Safety and Excitement Liking someone mentally and/or physically Familiarity vs.6. Who knows.
etc. 1) Pick a subject that you like. and she may have a lot of positive emotions and feeling associated with that . list various "things" about that subject. You are just asking.. just say "I like learning about people. Subjects come up. Examples • Scuba Diving . Tactical Formula for Parts of a Subject Take any subject. artistic endeavor. that you know. activity. just curious.Don't just "talk about" Scuba Diving! Or. etc. like. but if you start there. Now. don't like. Link good thoughts. feelings and emotions. be comfortable talking about all of the parts of that subject. Exercises for Parts of a Subject . what people do. it's hard to talk about that subject for a while. Strategic Formula for Parts of a Subject Discussing many of the parts of a subject keeps the conversation going. idea. or point in a discussion. that an opportunity to talk for a WHILE about something she likes. feelings and emotions to yourself. If someone asks you about this. know about. allowing you time to gather information and link yourself to good thoughts. sport. maybe a hobby. and enjoys. Use the language tools in the discussion. area of interest. new things. Page 55 ." This technique makes it easier to have conversations with people because THEY are giving you information and ideas for new things to ask about. etc. This is a great way to build rapport with a person as well. don't just ask "What is the most exciting thing about Scuba Diving?" That IS a good question.many of which can be linked to you. This isn't just a way for you to ask ask ask HER about things.. o Where have they dived? o How did they get into it? o What's their favorite place? o Do they have their own equipment? o Do they use different types of equipment for different locations? o How long have they dived? o Have they ever been in danger? o Have they taken photos? o Have they met interesting people? o Has this exposed them to any other cool sports or activities? o etc. Break it down into its component parts and discuss them.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course are interested in it (the subject).. topics come up. If she LIKES scuba diving.
and you were going to have someone (who knows very little about the subject) interview you and learn all about football. That Subject: 3) Now think of someone who you are NOT close to (that you do not know that well). You should easily be able to come up with 10-20 items. Now. or maybe someone in your life that you don't know very well. if your subject was football. You should be able to come up with at least 10 items. or Things About. Write these down. Maybe their hobby. Subject: Parts. what parts about football would you want them to ask about? For your chosen subject. If you have trouble. but hopefully this "subject" is something you are not really into. someone you met at a party. maybe pick a different "person" as your subject. a job they like. and you have heard him or her talk about this. Now think of something that THAT person is interested in or they are involved with. etc. what would you ask about? What are all of the various things and aspects of it that YOU could inquire about or that could come up in a discussion? These are the "parts" of that subject. if you were going to talk to them for like 30 minutes about that subject and were really going to ask them about it. Page 56 . This should be someone you know well. passion. Someone that you recently met. That Subject: 2) Think of one of your friends or family members and some activity or topic that THEY are really into. etc.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course For example. or Things About. like a co-worker. make a list of these parts. maybe a cousin you hardly see or talk to. Person: Subject: Parts.
while YOU are there And you are linking and anchoring things to yourself Using all of the language tools and details And that person is finding YOU so fascinating and charismatic . like the exercise above. but with which you are NOT familiar. Again. out loud. when you are speaking with a friend or family member that you know well. experiencing it. and were really going to ask them about it. mention like 10-15 different things you could ask or inquire about that subject. who is interested in something that you are NOT familiar with. or Things About. and feeling it. but with which you are NOT familiar. That Subject: " 4) Think of another person and subject. make a point to have a good 10-15 minute conversation about a subject that THEY are really interested in. when you are speaking with a person you do not know hardly at all (yet you feel you will be able to talk to them for 10-15 minutes). They are talking about something THEY like Thinking about it. make a point to have a good 10-15 minute conversation about a subject that THEY are really interested in. Person: Subject: Assignments for Parts of a Subject 1) Sometime soon.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course The key here is that this is someone you don't see often. You know the person but you are not real close to them. what would you ask about? What are all of the various things and aspects of it that YOU could inquire about? What are the PARTS you could ask about? Write these down. Make a point to ask about many different parts of that subject. If you were going to talk to them for like 30 minutes about that subject. don't know really well. Person: Subject: Parts.. The subject they are interested in is something with which you are NOT familiar. off the "top of your head". you should be able to list at least 10 items. Now. 2) Sometime in the future. And of course the entire time.. Make a point to ask about many different parts of that subject. Page 57 .
. etc" • Discuss this new or other "part" o "With many people. or view. link it to you. "parts" are meant as in a personality trait. etc... (where XYZ is a different or maybe the opposite behavior. that is more .. This can be VERY powerful. In many ways.." • There will be a lot of this shown in examples here in this section and at the end of the program. and I have found she has this other side. that part of the person or type of behavior that DOES agree with you). if a personality trait. fun. a way of acting or being is being discussed (and one that does not necessarily work in your favor) . etc.. that adventurous side is just waiting to come out. In fact a friend of mine is very shy and one time." • If this new or other "side" works more in your favor. or normally don't "do" certain things? • Then talk about that first (shy) part." o "You may have (or do have) another part (or side. o "When you start to listen to this adventurous side . in a way you are also using Compare and Contrast as well.. • What if it is not? What if they say they are shy. verify it. if the person is shy o "I understand how some people are shy. or reserved. and then say (for example). make it be experienced. o Either in general like "there may be another side" o or more directly. Let's say you are in a discussion with someone. there is a more quiet side • If a person is well-thought-out (thinks things through and takes time). Don't Confront. that XYZ part". their reactions. we are also reframing! We are changing the way they look at things. lean more on the language and linking tools to bring it out. exciting part of a person is being discussed.. they are quiet. directly or indirectly o For example. experiencing it. or parts.. and they feel that way. or side. etc. more spontaneous side to them. • Acknowledge the first part that is being discussed. etc)" o "I know someone similar who as this other part to themselves. • "That's because there is another part. • If an adventurous. A key concept to think about is to ALWAYS assume that there is a part of someone that does agree with you. just looking for the right time. a way of thinking.2 Parts Of A Person D7-T15 Listen to an example where this concept is used.. great.. what she did . there is a more decisive. etc. or part of a person. a "side" to the person. Page 58 . Discuss..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3. "you may have the other side" o or by example "I know someone like that." • Bring up and acknowledge the fact that there is "another" part. adventurous .. another part hidden away. there is a more adventurous part to themselves • If a person is outspoken. or has the same wishes that you do.. they hold back. Let's break this down.. In a discussion. • If a person is shy. and start to discuss and validate that OTHER part. Because you are discussing several things.. In this context.. You do not want to appear to challenge or invalidate and personality trait that is being shown..." o "Many people like that also have another side to themselves. or way of looking at it. their way of walking through and looking at the world.6.
. that can work in your favor.. or part of the person that is somehow related (which works in your favor) or somewhat opposite. . • Maybe someone is secretive. way of thinking. There are also other sides to people . You can work around this issue (of possible confrontation) by saying things like o "I think another way of looking at that trait is . and beliefs. "I am boring". having a conversation. Remember. discuss. and evoke favorable states." Strategic Formula for Parts of a Person Use Parts of a Person as a way to find.... they like to play things safe. and 3 that are opposite. so be careful. way of thinking. Traits similar to "Being Boring" Page 59 . and she realized that she. deep down. even when the other person claims or demonstrates that such parts are NOT there. Well. but it can be handled . People have many sides to themselves. feelings...... you are NOT discussing this as to say. "you are wrong" or to show how smart you are! You are just talking.. etc etc etc. assume there is a part that will work WITH you.. o "I was reading somewhere about things like that and what it was saying was... that may be true but also there is another part of them .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • Many times you don't want to say "because there is another part" because that seems too direct. What personality traits (or what other parts or ways of thinking) are similar? Which are somewhat opposite? Write down 3 that are similar. etc. or part of the person (mostly something which has a negative connotation) Acknowledge that personality trait..... and what I noticed about her is that she also has this other side to her. • Maybe someone lies . Tactical Formula for Parts of a Person For every part of a person that will work against you. This one side . Introduce and discuss that "other part" in a way that works to your advantage. (not good in a person. o "I have a friend who was "X" (where X is the trait being discussed). • Maybe someone says they can be jealous. Find a personality trait. too confrontational.) Exercises for Parts of a Person 1) What if someone says. it may sound like you are arguing or challenging the person.. o "A friend of mine does that as well.. I understand you have that side to you. was also "Y". way of thinking. Examples: • Lets say that a person says they are not into taking challenges.. o "Well. or part of the person by discussing or addressing it Think about a personality trait.
and some of the variations mentioned for language examples. etc. which could you maybe "use" in a good way? 2) Think about how you would discuss the boring part.. or ways of thinking) are similar? Which are somewhat opposite? Think about 1-2 that you could use.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Traits opposite to "Being Boring" Of those that you listed. but this time.. Traits similar to "not into meeting any new people" Traits opposite to "not into meeting any new people" Practice out loud how you might first discuss "I am not into meeting any new people right now" and then transition into the other parts or traits that you selected. Page 60 . 5) From the list you just made (and selected from). What personality traits (or what other parts. Look at the formula earlier.. pick another part or trait. Traits similar to "Being Shy" Traits opposite to "Being Shy" Of those that you listed. and some of the variations mentioned for language examples. be aware of opportunities to maybe mark off an embedded command or two (or more). 3) What if someone says that they are shy? What personality traits (or what other parts or ways of thinking) are similar? Which are somewhat opposite? Write down 3 that are similar. Imagine a conversation and how you might do this. use this/that/these/those . Practice this out loud. and then bring up this other "part" that you selected. Look at the formula earlier. and 3 that are opposite. 6) Lets say someone says "I am not into meeting any new people right now" . Now do a similar exercise again out loud. which could you maybe "use" in a good way? 4) Think about how you would discuss that shy part. Imagine a conversation and how you might do this.. and then bring up this other "part" that you selected. maybe do some linking an anchoring. Practice this out loud.
or putting him or herself down for some reason. and has been a bit difficult for many to really understand Page 61 . This area has caused some confusion.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 7) Do the above example again. see if you can notice them WHILE talking to someone. see if you could maybe think of an opposite one that could be discussed. and then find a way to discuss another part that is more favorable or positive. Use the formula and the variations mentioned earlier. See if what they are saying describes or is pointing out any personality traits (or a "part" of themselves. 9) Lets say someone says "I only like dating my TYPE"? What other part. and offer challenges" many times when studying these materials. 8) Lets say someone says they have trouble meeting new people. You don't have to discuss them (yet) just make a point to note these traits. trusting their own judgment. trait. See if you can arrive at a similar part or trait that you can discuss that could be used in your favor. etc could you discuss? Try that out loud. make a note of these traits or parts.? What other part. You have probably heard the phrase "structure opportunities. Opposite (or similar?) trait or part that might actually work in your favor Conversation with Traits or parts that were discussed. WHILE talking to someone. Assignments for Parts of a Person 1) For the next week or two. 2) After you have become more comfortable noticing such traits after-the-fact. start to bring them up IN the conversation.. An easy way to do this is when a friend or acquaintance is being self-deprecating in some manner. or mentions a "way of thinking"). See if you can note that "part" of who they are. acknowledge it. 3) Now that you can recognize these traits when talking to someone. make note of when you are having a personal conversation with anyone. 3. trait. Just notice the trait or part being mentioned. etc could you discuss? Try that out loud. being open. but ROW see how many of the speaking and language tools you can use. or parts. and offer challenges to you on the audio. Or.. and then point out some other trait or part that might work in your favor somehow.7 OPPORTUNITIES AND CHALLENGES D7-T34 Listen to an example where I structure opportunities. After the conversation.
effect. It's good to somehow work with structures and things that are already in someone's mind. this can be very effective. • Use these general things and assume they are there. and that you believe in yourself.7. 3. "You may be beautiful. Work with universal things that people would like to have. • Show that you have standards. or show it. or be with you. then by using their existing desires.7.1 Using Their Own Processes D7-T36 If you know what people want to have. You are in. these concepts are broken down and offered to you in a way that will truly help you to be able to use these powerful techniques. For example if someone is intelligent. and wants to be seen as intelligent.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course and utilize. • These are also good and convenient for practicing and examples. or want to be perceived as having. Why this matters. using motivations that a person already has. Strategic Formula for Opportunities And Challenges Find or assume what someone wants Create an opportunity for them to get it or demonstrate they have it Make that "demonstration" work in your favor. • It's easy. If you can somehow frame or map yourself as being a way for a person to fulfill things that someone already wants. do it. In this section. is a way for them to show their intelligence. o You are saying in a way. • Show that you are qualifying and screening to some extent. you are just showing that YOU have standards. then they already have mechanisms for that in their mind. Universal Wants • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control • Excitement Page 62 . 3.2 What do people want? - D7-T38 "Universal Wants" = Good. but I am looking for more. you are using processes that they ALREADY have in their minds. or like to be perceived as having. o This is the opposite of pleading and the "pedestal" scenario." • This is NOT about arrogance. but may not be the most effective strategy. Challenge them to demonstrate it. You then find some way to set things up so that choosing to listen to you.
can (use smart. o Maybe you can .. o Talk about what she does. by listening to me or agreeing with me". You are challenging an ASSUMED desire (a "Universal Want").. her interests.7. Mini-Challenge Cheat Sheet o You seem .. o You might..... o I wonder if you can . • Mini-Challenges o You might get this . along with the Universal Wants listed earlier! • We assume here that with a mini-challenge. or an image she wants other people to have of her. but if you can find or work with specific wants or desires.. o If you can .. o Talk to her and find out what she wants or needs. or want to be perceived as having. o You seem like you may have good taste o etc... or maybe a value. o You may . o You seem smart enough . o If you are able to . You can imply a "test" for these things by issuing a mini-challenge.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course "Particular Wants" = Better! What does THIS person want? • Notice o o o particular things that this individual would like to have or be perceived as having She mentions wanting respect She defends her position.. o You seem cool enough . wants to have... o You might see . or fun.. o Talk about some of yours and see how she reacts. or adventurous.This technique can be overused.. etc • Finding these particular wants and desires o These "wants" can be possessions. or want to be perceived as having? Mini-Challenges D7-T40 3.. o Always have the question below in mind. o Are you able to .. we are using one of these sort of "universal" wants.... Warning . o You seem as if. what she likes to do. or be seen as having "X". etc). o You seem like .. and it can really annoy people if you do! Page 63 . o etc.3 There are certain things you can assume that most people may want to have. o The smart people I know. that's even better....... o Try using some of the above items. "you can show me that you have the thing you desire.. and challenging them in a way that says. and discusses what is important to her She mentions something she likes or dislikes about a past boyfriend.. What does she want to have.
4 Opportunities and Challenges D7-T43 Think of it like this.7. by doing "Y" Make "Y" something that works in your favor. What does someone Want? Assume.. "Show me you have that thing by listening and/or agreeing with me" or. • Create an opportunity for them to get that • Make it so that them "getting" that works in your favor. "By listening to and/or agreeing with me. • Find what someone "wants". what someone wants.. Tactical Formula for Opportunities and Challenges Find something "X" that the person wants to have. Challenge the person to do "Y". Make a statement that says. • Universal Wants • Particular Wants Opportunities.. in a way. (and again. 3. or be seen as having. • Challenge them to see if they will follow through and take action to get it.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Tactical Formula for Mini Challenges Assume something she wants to have. you will show me you have that". or been seen as having You can assume based on normal things that people want (Universal Want) or Get information from talking (Particular Want) Create an opportunity for them to get or demonstrate "X". and Mini-Challenge Cheat Sheet. Exercises for Mini-Challenges 1) Try piecing together items from the Universal Wants List. • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control • Excitement Page 64 .. or hopefully find. and see how many combinations you can come up with. Creating Them Consider the wants and needs that a person may have . here we have to "assume" things for the sake of teaching) .
where this opportunity benefits you (and hopefully pertains to the situation). o Mention how confident people can meet someone new. and how the confident ones are able to take chances and have fun. or some way for this person to capture the opportunity • Provide an example of something she can say or do. Examples. • Provide an example from your own life. Maturity .. • Confidence . and feel very comfortable with that.. by doing Y? Page 65 .Think about maturity .. something they want. Provide an example of someone.. o They can do exciting things. • Maybe point out something a friend did . or want to be seen as having Structure this so that it is something that YOU would like them to do.. even if their friends don't approve.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course You need to create an "opportunity" for each of these. • Here is how I read/heard that someone else had or was able to get X. o Talk about how confident people can make their own choices. How can you make that sound like a way for them to "show" something? How to create an opportunity? • Here is a way for you to show me that you really have or was able to get X. Challenges Are they ready to take advantage of that (this) opportunity? Challenge them to get what they want. • Here is a way a friend of mine showed that they have or was able to get X. • Provide a way to demonstrate that they DO have what they want. Create the opportunity for them to show or demonstrate that they have or are perceived as having.How can you create an opportunity for someone to appear confident (that works in your favor)? o Discuss people that YOU know. what does a mature person do? How are they seen? How do they react? o They make their own decisions o They trust their own judgment o They can decide to do something NOW... Examples: • Does she really want X and see how Y can get that? • Does she really have X. by meeting this "challenge". and see how doing Y would demonstrate it?> • Does she have what it takes to get X... o Let the person demonstrate how confident they are. Talk about those things. • Mention something that you have read. o They can go against the grain. on their own. and/or HAVING them. o . or show what they have. talk about DOING them..
then . You discuss success for a while. Can she see an opportunity to have "X". These are your "Assumed Wants". she may have to do Y to prove that. she actually felt more secure about being able to take care of herself." Adventurous o Maybe she wants to feel adventurous. Is she ready to take chances? Take risks? Do something different? Maybe not . Success o Maybe "success" is important to her. their own intuition.. You talk about that for a while. as long as you trust yourself enough to feel that is OK ..". there are others shown earlier. but. Then at some point you talk about you and her getting together. and do Y to get it? Can she do Y and make it happen? Can she see that Y will get her what she wants? Can she trust herself enough to do Y? etc.. Are they ready to do Y. Exercises and Assignments for Opportunities and Challenges 1) Make a list of some assumed things that many people may want to have.. You talk about a friend who has always wanted to feel secure.. Some examples are shown below. Assumed Wants 2) Write a Mini Challenge for each if the above items. Page 66 ... to show or demonstrate that? Examples: • Security o Say she wants to feel secure. It's different from the way most guys think. and she found that by taking chances and risks.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • • • Does she want you to THINK she has X. to be a way for them to get what they want.. • Challenge them to do that. you mention "We should get together sometime. Later. I mean.. and say something like "well. They want X. what this means to her.. I don't know if you are adventurous enough for this. • Find a way to map what YOU want. • • I know this is tricky. or be perceived as having. how she may be adventurous. • Find out what someone wants. and mention that you read somewhere that successful people tend to be able to trust their own judgment. It's NOT about creating an argument! Again..
quite unique. or be perceived as having Page 67 . Note some of your favorites ones below.. "lets see if this makes sense to you "see if you can follow this ." Mini Challenges 3) Practice the list of Mini Challenges you just created. friends. etc. co-workers.. and focus on using these. Person What they want to have. and go out and actually USE them for a while. Hopefully these are specific to them.. For each person. out loud 4) Make a note of some of the ones you practiced that seem closest to something you could easily say or do with people in your life. Write down these "Wants". Practice these more.. "you may . 5) Think about some people that you know quite well like family. or wants to be perceived as having. and NOT just things from the "assumed" list....Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course "you seem like . write down something that each wants to have. "you might.
(You want that friend to lighten up and be able to spend more time going out and having fun. Some way that questions .. You are "mapping" it to you because by doing what you discuss. Example ." The "opportunity" is for them to be a better athlete. they will be doing something that YOU want. and "opportunity".. or that in some way could be interpreted. Person Challenge 8) Practice each of those "Challenges" out loud. want to do what you wish. and they spend a LOT of time practicing. see if you can create a "challenge".) So you challenge their dedication to their sport by saying "I was reading about really good athletes and one thing that was pointed out was that a lot of them really can get burned out. Page 68 . and how can you "map" it to yourself? Write down these "Opportunities". even subconsciously. See if you can make it sound natural. The good athletes find a way to relax and have fun. What is the opportunity. Is there a way to create an "opportunity" for them to get or achieve that? Can you somehow create an opportunity that can be "mapped" in some way towards yourself. as making them look at you more positively.A friend wants to be really good at a sport. etc? Give that some thought. Person Opportunity for them to get what they "want" that somehow works in your favor 7) For each "want". are they ready? Can they take action? Can they DO this? Write down these "Challenges". and write them down.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 6) Consider the "want" that you identified from each of those persons above. and that allows them to be better at their sport.
9 SUMMARY D7-T66 Bringing it together. • SPEAKING POINTERS o The "Cool" Factor o Voice Tone And Tonality o Pacing And Pausing o Energy And Enthusiasm LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS o Adjectives And Adverbs o Trance Words o Weasel Phrases o Embedded Commands o Linking o Easy-Linking (This. Try to guess. They may have one meaning in one context. listen. This is one area that many guys actually ARE able to pick up and use easily if they have listened to the materials enough.8 AMBIGUITIES D7-T64 If you have studied this material for a while. These. see if you can bring them up in conversations over the next few weeks. that these become familiar. Although there could be a section in this course that deals with these areas. you no doubt have heard many examples of "ambiguities". That. we will not be doing any specific work on Ambiguities. really focus on what each person desires.. listen. but in another context. These are those words or phrases that can mean more than one thing.Point Or Touch On Positive And Negative LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES o Pace And Lead " Topics and Subjects * Mindset of Frame • Current Reality o Give Them A Reason • • • Page 69 .) o Easy Anchoring .. look at how many items we have covered so far. to do things that you would want. they mean something different. That.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 9) As you become more familiar with these practiced challenges and opportunities. What do they "want". 11) For the next 1-2 weeks. Those) MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures o Linking Gestures (Towards And Away) o Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This. 3. Do what you can to bring these up while in the conversation if you can. so that you have heard them SO MANY TIMES. but also ask some questions and get into a discussion about it if possible. given that this IS an area that many guys are able to do (with enough listening) and given the many OTHER areas that really DO need the assistance of a program like this. 10) While you are talking to people for the next 1-2 weeks. do the same in terms of observing desires. listen. Listen.. 3. but now also start to look for "opportunities and challenges" in a way that directs their desires towards you..
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These are the building blocks for good Language skills. These are the sorts of skills that are most workable when they are truly "wired in" to someone, so that they are able to be used automatically. To try to "remember" to do such things can be very difficult. That approach would make having a conversation far too difficult and too much work! The best way is to work with these techniques SO much that these truly are just a part of "how you talk". With enough practice, and hearing these enough, you CAN have these become a part of how. YOU talk! So listen, practice, do the exercises, do the assignments, and do that all again, until these really do become a part of you, and a part of how you speak.
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D8-T1 A key aspect of making these tools work is getting the conversation into topic areas that will really work for you. The language tools you studied earlier are best used in the proper context, and in this section, we will learn how to get the conversation into areas that will create that context. Have you had these problems? • You JUMP too quickly into a pattern or topic, and it sounds really strange? • You just THROW a pattern AT her, and get a weird reaction? When you use these tools, or even use "patterns", it's not enough to just "say it", there has to be the correct CONTEXT for what is said! It's a process that she needs to go on and through with you. It's not enough to just find a conversational excuse to "throw" a pattern (or language tool) AT her! This section is about finding ways to just get into an interesting conversation and then towards and onto good topics. We want this to seem natural, and with some understanding, practice, and a few key strategies and tactics it will BE natural and automatic! 4.1 4.1.1 CHALLENGES -a Detailed And Specific Plans Are Just Not Workable. D8-T3
It's good to theorize to "say this", and then "say that", and then to use "this pattern", and "that pattern". However, the problem is that a lot of time the proper context is not presented well enough. The examples you may have seen in other products are just that, examples. The problem is that too many guys have taken them literally! Guys try to do "X, Y, Z," exactly, in order, with no sense of calibration, or being able to work and re-direct things in real time. Therefore, detailed tactical plans are not realistic. 4.1.2 Navigation Example D8-T4
Think of moving a conversation to a certain point, like taking a trip somewhere. Say you are in Chicago, and want to go to Los Angeles. You could have a detailed map of every turn and road, exact route numbers and lengths, etc. The problem is... what do you do if there is a detour? What if the road is changed, what if the map is wrong? You are lost! What if, instead, we teach you how to drive the car, and give you a general set of directions like "keep driving west, until you see the ocean, then turn left (south)". That way, you can handle just about any turns, roads, or detours that you may encounter! Conversations are different from roads too, because people are all unique, situations, times, surroundings etc. are unique and change from moment to moment. Therefore, if you want to get a conversation to go a certain way, then detailed plans made ahead of time are hard to work with. There are too many variables! We need a workable set of strategies and tactics that allows you, in real-time, to direct things the way that you want them to go. They need to be easy to follow, and easy to use, and something that you don't need to "think about", but can just DO easily.
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So we need a general set of guidelines, some overall strategies and tactics, so that you can have this good, intuitive sense of how to "steer" things, and get conversations to where you want them to go. As long as you are engaging a woman's emotions, capturing & leading her imagination, then you are moving in the right direction. Then, in that situation and in that context, linking all the positive & powerful things to you becomes more workable. Instead of a map, we are giving you a "compass". We need a strategy for managing conversations that can to do this gradually, in a way that seems natural! If it's too abrupt or makes the conversation strained, it will sound weird. The strategy must LEAD the conversation towards good topics and subjects in a way that seems natural, and is not TOO abrupt. Examples: (Listen to the audio.) • Talking about a printer o Moving TOO quickly towards emotional topics o Can sound strange • Driving a car and taking a turn (Analogy) o Think of driving down freeway and needing to switch to different direction. o You can't make a hard, right angle turn on a dime! o You need to turn the car, slowly, on a ramp to go in a different direction. When we control conversions, we need to find a way to take it gradually in a new direction. Many guys try to do the hard and fast switch, and they crash in the process! We will learn to move things in a way that makes it seem natural, but it will be deliberate. 4.1.4 She Must Be Engaged In The Conversation! D8-T10
It's important to get conversations into the right area and have HER go along with you. Not just "bring it up" (a topic or pattern), but it must be natural and she must "go along" with it and be a PART of it. She must be actually THINKING about what you are discussing! It has to happen naturally. No weird jumps. It's not enough to just talk; she must BE a part of the conversation! So, don't just "jump" to a topic. Don't find an "excuse" to bring it up. Take the conversation there, take her WITH you, and have her be a part of it! What really helps is to have a genuine interest (or at least curiosity) in her and the conversation, not just thinking to yourself; "How can I use this?" 4.2 HOW CONVERSATIONS HAPPEN D8-T12
How does this really occur? We will break this down so that we have a way to really affect this process. 4.2.1 Conversational Dynamics D8-T13
How do conversations happen? Most of them occur somewhat randomly as the conversation flows from topic to topic over time, and can end up almost anywhere after a while. By the time YOU move from one topic to the next,
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you may end up in a very different place from where you began. However, there is a series of steps as things move forward, as shown in Figure 4.2.1-1.
Figure 4.2.1-1: Conversations Move Through Many Topics
Each of these steps between topics tends to be related. Topic 1 relates to Topic 2. Topic 2 relates to Topic 3, etc. For example, you can start to talk about Cars, and then move to one aspect of that topic, Car Seats. Then it's easy to move to some aspect of that topic, which maybe something that seats are made of, like Leather. Then maybe you talk about Leather Furniture, etc. (See Figure 4.2.1-2.)
Figure 4.2.1-2: Each Topic Flows To the Next Topic In most cases, each Topic is related to the one before.
After a series of such steps, you can be at a quite different topic (like an apartment that you used to live in) even though you started at a quite different topic (Cars). In most cases, it's very difficult to predict where a conversation will go after many of these steps. As you go through a few topic shifts (as shown in the diagrams), although each individual shift relates to the topic before and after that shift, after a series of shifts you can end up talking about almost anything! Therefore, even if you start the conversation at a great topic, you can get off-track and into topics that will not work in your favor. Conversely, what is needed is a way to start at almost any topic at all, and by steering that process (of moving from Topic 1, to Topic 2, Topic 3, etc) take the conversation into better and better topic areas that will serve your purposes. 4.2.2 Conversational Model D8-T14
We introduce a model to assist in discussion, understanding, and control of conversations. If you start at a topic, how do you go to another one? This process happens all of the time very easily. The key is that the movement from one topic to the next takes places easily because there are so many options involved. From any topic (Topic 1) it is easy to flow to any of 6-8 other, related topics (Topic 2 Candidates). People usually just "talk" and naturally the conversation moves from the first topic to the next one. Since the "next" topic is related, this process seems natural and is easy to do. In fact, you do this all the time without really knowing about it. (We are creating a model to describe a process that happens naturally, so that we can teach you a way to have an affect on that process). Figure 4.2.2-1 shows how from one topic, the conversation can flow easily to many related topics.
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Car you own Seats in it Interior of your car How Powerful it is What Gas does it use How Fast it is Feel of Driving Places you have gone Where you bought it
Topic 2 Candidates
Figure 4.2.2-1: From One Topic to many Candidate Topics The topic of Cars is discussed, and from there are many ways the conversation can easily move.
Once the conversation moves to one of these eight topics, it's easy to move to one of eight more. For example if in Figure 4.2.2-1, the conversation flows from "Cars" to "Where you bought it" (as in, where you bought the car), then now we have a situation like that shown in Figure 4.2.2-2.
Where you bought it
That car dealer The salesman Part of town Other car dealers Who went with you How you bought it The Loan you used etc. Topic 3 Candidates
Figure 4.2.2-2: From A Second Topic, Another Group of Candidates If "Cars" was discussed first, and then "Where you bought it" was discussed next, there are now many ways to go in the next step. In the figure, you see how the conversation moves from Cars, to "Where you bought it". After that, there are many "candidate" topics where the conversation can flow. Perhaps it moves to the "Part of town" where the car was purchased.
Now from the topic of "Where you bought it" (a car), there are easily eight places that you can go from there, shown as the "Topic 3 candidates". This process continues throughout a conversation. This process happens regardless of the specific topics being discussed. Conversations flow from topic to topic, as shown in a general manner in Figure 4.2.2-3.
there is no way to know exactly where it will end up by the time you have moved forward a few steps! Imagine trying to predict ahead-of-time exactly where you may arrive (among those 512 options).Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Topic 1 Topic 2 Topic 3 Topic 4 Figure 4. In many ways. you can affect this process (and we will teach that to you). and the conversation flows along in this manner. However. If Topic 1 can lead to eight different candidates for Topic 2.2. In general. since it's so easy to go from any topic to 6-8 others. the plans that many guys try to use to "Talk about X.2.2-4 shows what happens when all the topics are considered. an so on. When this happens in succession. you can end up with the conversation going almost anywhere! Figure 4. then EACH of the eight different candidates for Topic 2 can then lead to their own eight. Do you see why the pre-planned approaches can be difficult?! Even if you ARE able to have the conversation start from a specific place (Topic 1). This results in easily over 500 topics that could be selected by the time we arrive at Topic 4! In only three shifts of the topic ("topic shifts" as shown in the figure) we end up with many many possibilities of where the conversation might end up. the Figures that have been shown so far only show a small portion of the total topics towards which a conversation can flow. you can have up to eight different ways to go at EACH step. when talking to some random person. because there are SO many ways that things can go! Page 75 .2-3: Topics Flow from One to the Next Each topic in a conversation can easily lead to 6-8 others. then talk about Z" are very difficult to really work with. and at each step after that. With some skill and technique. then talk about Y.
you can end up in over 500 different topic areas! We can create a general Conversation Model that shows this process (Figure 4.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 1st Topic Shift 2nd Topic Shift 3rd Topic Shift Figure 4. It then can flow easily to maybe 6-8 others (the diagram shows fewer for the sake of clarity).2-4: Topic Candidates and Topic Shifts If each topic can flow to eight others. it can flow from there. then after only three shifts in the topic. a conversation may start from one topic or subject (Topic 1).2. Page 76 .2. and so on. Once Topic 2 has been discussed. As seen in the diagram.2-5).
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Figure 4.000 different subjects or topics that could be discussed by the time you are at "Level 6" in the conversation!! 4. that they become far too many to shown in the diagram. In fact.2. The diagram only shows a small fraction of them (so that the diagram is not even more cluttered than it already is!). This process of moving from the first topic to one of 6-8 relevant topics is the process of moving through a "Topic Turning Point" as shown in Figure 4. If you are discussing one specific topic. There are SO many ways it can flow.2. then for that diagram to be really accurate it would have to show over 30. (The figure only shows a portion of how many subjects and topics can be reached).3 Topic Turning Point D8-T15 The KEY concept the needs to be understood to gain the ability to manage conversations. is an awareness of this phenomenon that is called the "Topic Turning Point".2. if you assume that from any topic you could go to any of 8 other topics.2-5: Conversation Model The "Tree of Subjects" showing how thousands of subjects can be reached in just a few steps of the conversation.3-1. Page 77 . it is quite easy to move from that onto 6-8 related topics.
3-2: How TTP Selections Effect the Conversation The selections made at each TTP are what actually "steer" the conversation in a certain direction.3-1: The Topic Turning Point (TTP) When discussing any topic (First Topic) there are easily 6-8 different topics to which the conversation can be moved (Candidate Topics). make a statement. Someone might make a comment. Therefore. ask a question. A general way of looking at this process is shown in Figure 4. after one topic has been discussed for a short while. introduce an idea. For example. etc.2. the overall flow of a conversation comes about due to many of these TTP choices being made.3-2 Topic Turning Points Figure 4. as long as the new topic is "related" to the first (this is shown in the diagram by the "candidates") then this change is easy to do.2. the conversation "shifts" slightly.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Candidate Topics Figure 4. The key thing to realize is that this process of Topic Turning Point (TTP) selection occurs over and over. Page 78 .2. the conversation can then move to another topic. However. and throughout a conversation.
isn't it? In general. positive way to look at anything. Many people do this "TTP selection" process automatically. and they quick steer the conversation in that manner. So to start our process of learning how to manage conversations.. These people are able to automatically make TTP choices based on a strategy of finding good. IMPORTANT: The overall direction of a conversation comes about due to a successive selection of TTPs. No matter WHAT you talk to them about. For example: • Maybe someone always finds a fun. • Other people direct conversations based upon their own moral or religious values. By manipulating TTPs from moment to moment.3 4. is coming soon. (See Figure 4. In a very broad sense. but you will have some control over the overall direction.. they find a way to point out something negative. conversations are one of four types: • • • • Fun. These types of people are making TTP selections based on a strategy of finding things that are negative to talk about. and that work in YOUR favor. fun. This selection just "happens". no matter WHAT is discussed. interesting Mundane and uninteresting Negative. D8-T16 D8-T16 So how can you actually affect the flow of a conversation. positive. depressing Confrontational . moment-to-moment.) then you CAN direct how a conversation flows.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Normally.. fun. Can you see how you may be able to affect where a conversation goes? You might not be able to predict EXACTLY where it ends up. they Good Boring Bad Argument could be more specific (and we will get there). to "route" conversations so that they end up being the kinds of conversations that YOU want to have.3. and do so in a way that sounds VERY natural. That ability alone is enough for our purposes. 4. conversations tend to go in one of several ways. positive aspects of every topic being discussed.Those are just general examples.) Page 79 . • Other people able to direct conversations based on their own beliefs and their own political motivations as well.1-1. However. you can direct where the overall conversation goes. fun.3. and imagine if you had a general way to manipulate these TTPs. with some awareness of this process.1 GENERAL CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Want. we are going to later teach you a way to be able to make these TTP selections. easily and naturally? That IS the point. The overall strategy at the beginning is then to "talk about positive. As you have probably guessed by now. interesting things". and the conversation tend to into one of four general areas.. we want to first start to steer things in the best general manner. they somehow see it in terms how in effects their beliefs. Look in the diagrams. choices are made moment to moment. very quickly.. no one is "deciding" the TTPs. • Other people may do the opposite. we want the conversation to be positive. Sometimes this can be VERY apparent. The flow of the conversation starts.. and interesting. and some training (which .
Positive. Figure 4. How do you do that? • • • Show interest when someone discusses positive. Even if things move towards other areas. steer towards Fun. positive and interesting. interesting things. you see that you want to focus the conversation onto topics that are "Fun. Positive. If you break that down into 4 main directions. fun.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course General Conversational Management Conversations tend to flow in one of four major ways. No matter what is brought up. Page 80 . interesting things. and Interesting topics and subjects. Positive.1-1: General Conversational Management Consider all of the ways a conversation can go. Strategic Formula for General Conversational Management To steer the conversation in a good direction. do what you can to steer in that direction.3. and Interesting". fun. bring up positive. Don't engage in conversations when it's NOT about positive. interesting things. fun. you can still "steer" back towards "Fun. Introduce topics that are fun. so from the earliest stages. and Interesting" things.
2-1: Topic Turning Point Navigation for General Conversational Management No matter what subject you start talking about.3. and interesting" (See Figure 4. and interesting" and just move things in that direction. So you just think to yourself "Where can I go that is fan. Positive. you can direct where the overall conversation goes. Repeat. move things towards the related topics that are "Fun. You think of the "candidates" (the related topics or subjects that you can discuss) that serve you at the time.) Tactical Formula for General Conversational Management Keep thinking . Moment To Moment D8-T19 Look at the overall flow of a conversation and break it down to its smallest point that we can affect. Positive. positive. positive. positive. By manipulating TTPs from moment to moment. and then steer things in the correct direction. You then think of several ways you can go (the related topics. Which Of these are Fun..2-1. and Interesting? That is the direction to go! Candidate Topics Figure 4."Where can I go that is fun.3. and interesting"? Moment-to-moment. you make note of where you are in the conversation.2 How To Steer Conversations.. For any subject.3. TTP options.The overall direction of a conversation comes about due to a successive selection of TTPs. and Interesting". the TTP. How do you move things in that direction? You can: • Ask a question • Make a comment • Make a joke • Quote someone you heard. • Etc. the topic "candidates" that were shown earlier). or something you read. TTP Mantra . and interesting?" Move the conversation in that direction.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4.Where can I go that is "fun. as we discussed earlier. as long as it moves things in a way that answers the question "Where can I go that is fun. Page 81 . positive. you can always think of 6-8 other related topics or subjects. and then you move things in that direction! Remember . .
the most important thing to do is to focus on moving thing in a direction that is . and Interesting! Figure 4. positive.3-1.3-2..) Keep things moving in the direction of Fun. (See Figure 4.3. and interesting".3-1: Moving Through Topics Using General Conversational Management Early in a conversation.3.3.3. Positive.). you can work more towards certain topic areas. "fun. Page 82 . Positive. but in the early part of the conversation.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Later in the conversation. and Interesting".. 4. You are steering things towards the direction that you want the conversation to go. Do this for a while.3 The Model With Strategy And Tactics In Place D8-T23 As you make TTP choice after TTP choice (See Figure 4. just keep thinking about where you can go that is "Fun. you get to an overall "area" that will work.
or where you are. Positive. keep steering in the right direction and in many cases you WILL get towards the right area soon enough (and if not.3.4 Exercises and Assignments D8-T25 Exercises for General Conversational Management 1) Think of some conversations that you have been in recently. maybe that person is not someone that you want to talk to anyway). especially early in a conversation. always move towards topics and subjects that are Fun. and Interesting topics and subjects.3-2: General Conversational Management Model The most important direction to go. Even if you temporarily move away from that direction or end up in an area that is not very positive or interesting. and write down the topic for each.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course General Conversational Mgt Model No matter where you start. Positive. 4. and Interesting!/ Figure 4.3. is towards Fun. what was the main topic? Topics Page 83 . At some particular moment early in the conversation.
consider it a topic that leads to a TTP (copy each item above into the "Topic" area below). list 6-8 different ways you could go. Write each of those down. Topic TTP Options (Candidate Topics') Page 84 . or Candidate Topics). For each of those Topics.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 2) Based on each of those topics. things you could comment on. ask about. directions you could "take" the conversation (these are the TTP Options.
maybe by making a comment. etc. whatever it might take to move things in that direction. 5) Practice again on each by moving things in the direction of the second item that was circled. Page 85 .. and Interesting")? Select two "candidates" and circle or highlight those two. Positive. what would it have been like to have moved the conversation in the direction of the first item you circled? Practice that out loud for each Topic above. asking a question.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Of the 6-8 different TTP Options you have written above for each Topic. which are the best? Which of these would move the conversation in a way that is best for you (think of "Fun. 4) For each Topic. making a statement.
whatever it takes. Instead of the more general area of fun. where COULD I have taken things". interesting. etc. After a while. start to take the conversation there! Ask a question. we want it to be really interesting. we want to work with topics that get the emotions involved. Positive.5 Summary D8-T32 Remember what was said earlier: • The overall direction of a conversation comes about due to a successive selection of TTPs (which normally occur at random. we are turning you into someone that people LIKE to talk to! You know the type of person that people enjoy talking to. you can direct where the overall conversation goes. you may have to think of 6-8 options. engaging.Is that the sort of person you want to talk to and spend time with? Maybe not. Interesting. If this is a challenge for you. they will not go down a path of having a fun. and positive conversation. thinking "what COULD I have done. fascinating. we can start to direct the conversation into an even BETTER area. or without an overall strategy in mind). having conversations with. inquire about something. 2) Now that you are able to quickly find 1 or 2 good TTP options. Make it so that it becomes easy for you to come up with a list of "options" very quickly. that no matter WHAT you do with some people. really be aware of the TTP opportunities in your day-to-day life." 4. We want to focus the aim of our conversational management skills even more. the more YOU can and will become that guy! 4.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Assignments for General Conversational Management 1) For the next week or so. we want things to get even more Page 86 . but the REAL key is to at least get to the point where you can very quickly think of at least 1 or 2 ways to go that are Fun. make a comment. maybe offer an opinion. At any moment you should be able to think "Where can I go with this?".3. Do this for a while until the process of finding 1 or 2 good "Ways to go" in a conversation (good TTP options) can happen very rapidly for you.1 ADVANCED CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Really Want. and spending time with? The type of guy that people seek out to spend time with? The more you do these types of exercises. Building on what we learned in the last section. Maybe start out by looking at conversation after the fact. It WILL get easier. don't worry. Just do what you can so that the TTP shifts in a direction that is fun. the conversation becomes more enjoyable for everyone. By manipulating TTPs from moment to moment. • By moving things in this way. look for moments where things can be "steered" in a certain way. In general. You may start to find however. even at the start of a conversation. positive. D8-T33 D8-T33 We want the conversation to be more than just positive. and people REALLY interested. interesting. When talking to anyone.4 4. the imagination moving. You then have to wonder . At first. positive and interesting topics.4.
to "steer" things even more towards what we want. and more involvement of the imagination. (See Figure 4. Now from that point. From there. Positive.4. Using General Conversational Management.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course interesting. you move it in ways that engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way. Positive. we were able to move things in the direction of Fun.) General Conversational Management takes the conversation into the Fun. So. Strategic Formula for Advanced Conversational Management To direct the conversation into even BETTER areas. To move the conversation into more interesting areas. we now shift our strategy of "steering" things to direct the topics in a more focused manner using Advanced Conversational Management. and Interesting. With that as a general strategy. there are many ways the conversation can move.4. So we narrow our focus.1-1. steer the conversation towards directions that engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way. and steer using Advanced Conversational Management Figure 4. there are many ways to go. how do we work that in what we are doing moment-to-moment? How can we do things that will make that happen? Page 87 . there were 4 main directions towards which a conversation may go.1-1: Advanced Conversational Management Focuses the Steering From the start of a conversation. Interesting area. We move forward and want to get a more emotional tone. We use our strategy of working with the TTPs. more excitement.
Interesting Topics Which of these "Engage the Emotions and imagination in a Positive Way"? That is the direction to go! Candidate Topics Figure 4. 4.) Page 88 . Positive. we look at the concept of the TTP.Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Move the conversation in that direction.2 Steering Conversations Moment To Moment using Advanced Conversational Management D8-T35 Again.4. Repeat. With that established. we can assume that we are talking about subjects which fit into the "Fun.4. (See Figure 4. and with that strategy in mind. we need to use the TTP as a way to move things in the right direction. we need to change the way the model is shown.) TTP Mantra " Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Tactical Formula for Advanced Conversational Management Keep thinking .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4.4. and explain a bit more as to its meaning and interpretation. we shift the focus of how we navigate TTPs.4. TTP Fun.2-1: Topic Turning Point Navigation for Advanced Conversational Management After using General Conversational Management for a while. and Interesting" area.4. See Figure 4. but now think "where can I go that will engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way".2-1. Positive.3-1 for an explanation.3 The Model With Advanced Strategy And Tactics In Place D8-T38 (Before we move on to looking at the model.
Positive.) the conversation moves on for a while. It may happen in ten minutes. and Interesting conversation (2) may take four steps. or topic shift) shown on the digram may represent many steps in an actual conversation. (2). Figure 4. From now on in the course. where every "step" (TTP. But after using the general techniques (Fun. etc. with thousands upon thousands of possible possible routes and outcomes. it may take ten. so that the various stages of a conversation can be easily illustrated. these diagrams will indicate a VERY condensed version of the number of steps involved. and (3) in the figure above (and in the next figure) helps to show this. the graphics we will use will show an even more "condensed" version of this process.4.3-1: Understanding the Conversational Management Model The "levels" shown in the models are not meant to be exact. Page 89 . and it ends up at a certain area (2). there can be a whole "tree" of possibilities leading from there. not an exact number of steps or outcomes. For example. The locations of points (1). once again ending up with thousands of topics that could be discussed by the time you get through more topic shifts (3).Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Understanding the Conversational Management Model The model attempts to show a process that has many many steps. the model above is what we used to show a starting point (1). but a way to show a "trend". For example. or thirty. In practice. At that point. This can result in so many possibilities (many thousands within a few steps) that it's important to look at these diagrams as a way to show "trend". When starting from ANY topic (1) to a place where you are firmly established for a period of time in a Fun. we are not showing that there are exactly "four steps" between points (1) and (2). Positive.
Although the diagram shows only 2 steps (for simplicity). General Conversational Management techniques are used. only a few of which are shown in the diagram. 10. the conversation will get better and better. This also is followed for a series of steps and a period of time.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course We started at one topic. are used together to move forward in a conversation. And of course while doing that. Then a shift is made towards focusing the conversation even more using Advanced Conversational Management. the conversation will get more and more of an "emotional" tone to it. Positive. 10 topic shifts.4. This is shown from point (1) to point (2) in the diagram. and could be at any of thousands of topics after 6. in practice it may be good to follow a series of topics for 5. or however long it takes to be firmly established in a Fun. Now the emphasis is on ways to "Engage the Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way". emotional topics.4. and then Advanced Conversational Management. and Interesting conversation (2). to yourself! Advanced Conversational Management Model Figure 4. 8. subjects. If you refer to Figure 4.3-2: Advanced Conversational Management Model Early in the conversation. After that has been established. if you use the language tools which we learned about earlier in the course.3-2. we focused the conversation towards moving things in a direction that is "Fun Positive and Interesting. we now focus more on moving in a direction that will "Engage the Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way". As time goes on. until it is firmly established that the conversation has engaged the emotions and imagination of the participant. you end up linking and associating many fascinating. feelings. 20. For a while. The subjects will get more and more fascinating. and states. you can see how General Conversational Management. This is shown between points (2) and (3). This too can take any number of steps. If you follow these two simple strategies together (and the tactical approach of simply watching the TTPs and moving things in the right way). Page 90 . exciting. or 30 minutes.
list 6-8 different ways you could go. consider it a topic that leads to a TTP (copy each above into the "Topic" areas below). Write each of those down. ask about. Topic a.4 Exercises and Assignments D8-T39 Exercises for Advanced Conversational Management 1) Think of some conversations that you have been in recently. what was the main topic? Topics 2) Based on each of those topics. and write down the topic for each. At some particular moment in that conversation. things you could comment on. These should be conversations where it is already obvious that it is a fun.4. TTP Options (Candidate Topics') Page 91 . positive. or Candidate Topics).Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4. and interesting conversation. For each of those Topics. directions you could "take" the conversation (these are the TTP Options.
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Assignments for Advanced Conversational Management 1) For the next week or so. 2) Now that you are able to quickly find 1 or 2 good TTP options for yourself that "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way".. It WILL get easier. Just do what you can so that the TTP shifts in a direction that can "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". even things with some degree of sensual connotation to them. but be especially aware of wanting to move things to "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way".. etc. fascinating. and interesting. positive. whatever it takes.5 4. D8-T46 D8-T47 D8-T47 As you can see. where COULD I have taken things". until the process of finding 1 or 2 ways to go that "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way" in a conversation can happen very rapidly for you. but the REAL key is to at least get to the point where you can very quickly think of at least 1 or 2 ways to go that "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way".. Maybe start out by looking at conversation after the fact. start to take the conversation there! Ask a question. 5) Practice again on each by moving things in the direction of the second item that was circled. you may have to think of 6-8 options. don't worry. At first. So. inquire about something. maybe by making a comment. thinking "what COULD I have done.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Of the 6-8 different TTP Options you have written above for each Topic. we focus further on the TTP options! Page 93 . really be aware of the TTP opportunities in your day-to-day life. If this is a challenge for you. Do this for a while. making a statement. asking a question. 4) For each Topic. once again. whatever it might take to move things in that direction.4. what next? At some point in the conversation.1 Summary MORE ADVANCED CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT More About Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Really Want. which 1 or 2 would tend to "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way"? Which ones move things in a way that is best for you? Select two "candidates" and circle or highlight these two.5 4. we are "steering" things more and more in a direction that we wish to go. This is best when applied to a conversation that is ALREADY fun. what would it have been like to have moved the conversation in the direction of the first item you circled? Practice that out loud for each Topic above. make a comment. 4.5. maybe offer an opinion. So. we want to steer things more towards romantic. seductive things.
positive and interesting thing.2-1. fascinating. fascinating.5. steer the conversation towards romantic. and seductive things. Seductive things Tactical Formula for More Advanced Conversational Management Keep thinking .5.3 The Model With More Advanced Strategy And Tactics In Place D8-T52 We are just closing in.) "Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. However. Repeat.2-1: Topic Turning Point Navigation for More Advanced Conversational Management After using General and Advanced Conversational Management. and followed the other strategies and tactics shown earlier.) Page 94 . seductive things is much easier after you have first move towards fun.3-1. 4.5.2 Steering Conversations Using More Advanced Conversational Management D8-T49 TTP Mantra (See Figure 4. The focus now is upon topics that get you closer towards Romantic. you will have taken things in the right direction and this will be much easier. seductive things?" Figure 4. and associating YOU with them! (See Figure 4. This may seem odd or hard to do.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Strategic Formula for More Advanced Conversational Management To further direct the conversation into even BETTER areas. if you have been in a conversation for a while. fascinating.5. Moving towards romantic. seductive things?" Move the conversation in that direction. fascinating. Fascinating.5."Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. and focusing more and more towards areas and topics that work. 4. and then topics that engage the emotions and imagination. This gets her mind into thinking more and more about these things. then the focus shifts again towards directing things in a specific way.
Early on. Then the Advanced Conversational Management Techniques place the focus more upon items that involve the Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way. and Seductive.3-1: More Advanced Conversational Management Model As the conversation progresses. shown from point (1) to (2).5. Fascinating. there is a different focus at each stage. the focus moves towards selecting items based on More Advanced Conversational Management. moving to point (3). moving to point (4) Page 95 . General Conversational Management techniques place the focus on selecting items that are Fun.. Positive.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course More Advanced Conversational Management Model Figure 4. which targets topics and subjects that are Romantic. and Interesting. After that type of conversation has been established (3).
6 CONVERSATIONAL FRACTIONATION D9-T1 Using these Conversational Management skills in the real world may be quite different in practice from the way most guys "think" it will happen. and then an emotional one. This hardly ever ever happens.1 The 1-Shot Beeline Fallacy D9-T2 Guys assume that they will travel from a general topic. Moreover.) The Dream that Does Not Happen! Figure 4.MAGIC! However that is NOT the way it works in the real world. (See Figure 4. the way it really DOES happen.1-1. that they will get an AMAZING reaction in their first movement across the Model.6. 4. and get things to be more and more fascinating and exciting. Page 96 . will work in your favor. and then . then a sensual one.6.1-1: The Dream of a 1-Shot Path To Success! A common misperception is that many guys think that if they can just move a conversation from the start. to a positive one.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4. Too many guys are too caught up in this one-shot dream of traveling once across the model and getting an amazing result.6.
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4.. And again. Maybe you start from a very general topic and get all the way through the model towards a very very fascinating topic or subject. moving through the model towards the right. Then you "back up" to some extent (even all the way back to a very general topic area) and then move forward across the model again.. e) Then move back (towards the left side of the model) This may happen because: • The person you are talking to does that (she asks a question) • Or maybe you do it (just to lighten things up) f) Then start again..6. Have fun. Just start the process again. When we say "go back". restarts.. Start at any topic (you are on the far left side of the Model) Move forward towards the right. This is where a process is done repeatedly over and over. move on to the next step. or maybe the conversation shifts back to that place due to something she says. and then at some point. So.. Maybe several times. and fascinating and seductive topics.2 How Fractionation Works D9-T3 The real world has stops. So.. Maybe you move all the way back to a very "normal" topic (which would be all the way on the left side of the model). Use the language tools. no matter where you start. (See Figure 4.. stay there and talk about it for a while. This actually works better! We are actually using Fractionation. and then . no matter how the conversation jumps around. Because no matter where you start from. you are always moving towards positive topics..6. In this way. you go back towards something more "normal". No problem. you back off. The conversation starts. you may jump back just several steps in our Conversational Management Process.. This actually ADDS to the power and effectiveness of what you are doing. here is how this works.3 Using Conversational Fractionation D9-T5 Start at some normal topic and move through the model towards the right.) a) b) c) d) Page 97 . goes for some distance through the model (maybe all the way through). No problem. You just start the process again. Then at some point. the conversation ends up being very interesting and fascinating! 4. you take a conversation from the early stages through the process. You might do that on your own. g) Do the whole process over and over. emotional and imaginative topics. You back up to a more general topic.6. etc. Great! Talk about that for a while. starts.31.. Of if you can't seem to get to a good place. using the Conversational Management techniques Get as far through the model as you can. If you get to a very good place.
it ends up being fun.6. that no matter WHAT you talk about. interesting. This is not a problem. it's not a bad idea to back up a bit (9) and then move forward again.4 Dead Ends Come Back To Life! D9-T6 With this new strategy of using Conversational Fractionation. at times maybe they move towards an area that is not too good (2). Fractionation happens at times because even when you may be at a fairly good place for a while (8).6. simply back up (3) and then try moving into a better direction (4). You become one of those fascinating guys. over time. there is a continued movement up and into better and better areas of conversation. The overall trend is that. there is no such thing as a conversational "Dead End"! Page 98 . As time goes on (5-12) the conversation gets into better and better areas. As things move forward from (1).Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Conversational Fractionation at Work Figure 4.3-1: How Conversation Fractionation Works on the Model Follow the conversation as it moves from (1) to (12). and fascinating! 4.
7.7. seductive things? Move things in that direction. etc.. or what you both have in common Move forward with the Strategies and Tactics in mind. this can happen. o Comment on what is around o Mention common items. have more material to use in conversations in the future! 4..1 • Conversational Management Approach Start on just about ANY subject. you might have just found out that they are NOT someone you want to spend time with! That's not a total loss because you STILL learned more. Where can I go that is fun. Do that for a while and then think .7 CONVERSATIONAL OVERVIEW AND REVIEW D9-T7 So. Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. how do we pull this together? 4. uninteresting. and use the Strategy and Tactics of the Conversational Management techniques! Look at "Dead Ends" as being just like a bad turn on a road. Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Move things in that direction. Do that for a while and then think .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course If you happen to take a "wrong turn" somehow and get into an area of discussion that is boring. (think of your TTP options). fascinating. with you! 4. positive. or maybe negative.. Just back up.. —* The entire time: o If you hit a "dead end".3 Summary D9-T10 Go have fun with these tools! Page 99 .2 What If The Outcome Is Not What You Expected? D9-T9 Despite your best efforts. and the person becomes interested and fascinated.7. use the language tools as much as possible! D9-T8 • • • • • • • • • Keep moving the conversation into these interesting fascinating areas . • What if you can't make the conversation positive? • What if she always points out the negative aspect? • What if there is NO emotional engagement at ALL? Well.. and interesting? Move things in that direction.. and go down another path! 4. stay there for a while.. and get the effect.. you just back up. No problem. When on good topics. use the language tools.. back up a few steps. o If you get to a good subject or topic. talked more.
In the meantime. and then the more "material" you will have. the more familiar you will be with these topics. Can you talk passionately about something? Anything? Hopefully. what can we do here in this course to help you? We have talked about the way to talk and use language. You want to be able to discuss these topics easily. the easier it will get. some practice.. and THEY said. if using those language tools is problem for you. fascinating. fun. and it's even better if you are passionate about those topics. A topic is a particular area of discussion that is taking place in a moment. fascinating. yes! How well can you talk about topics that YOU are passionate about while using many of the language tools we talked about in the earlier parts of the course? If you can do that very well .1 Themes are a way through a discussion or through the "tree of subjects" that we showed earlier. to get the best effect you will have to be a PART of that conversation and familiar with the topics that may come up. The more experience you get. especially as they get more interesting. Talking about these topics may be a challenge for many men. you should be able to use them with subjects in which you are already interested! Page 101 . Now we want you to become familiar with topics that will really work well for you! We are going to work with some of these topics.0 TOPICS D9-T11 What do you talk about? As the conversation gets more interesting.great! It's easier to use the language tools if you are discussing topics with which you are familiar. we have talked about managing conversations. this is something we can and will work on with you.) Before you can use the language tools with new subjects that you are learning about.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 5. so that YOU have some material. and closer towards the subjects that will really serve your intent. Most men may not be very familiar with many of the topics that we REALLY want to get into. and that statement (regarding having actually talked to someone about the topics) will be TRUE! So.. However. then you may want to go back in those earlier sections. Themes vs. the more you talk to people about such things.". and some familiarity with this type of thing. go ahead and practice! (Or maybe do that the next time you go through the course. and while talking about subjects and topics that YOU are really passionate about. Topics • • 5. What do you talk about? There is no substitute for experience. TOPICS OF ENTHUSIASM AND PASSION D9-T14 What are you passionate about? Few things are more compelling in a person than for them to be passionate about something (hopefully many things) in life. You will be able to say things like "I was talking to someone about this the other day. However.
2 SEDUCTION ORIENTED TOPICS D9-T15 In the context of this course (and your intent in talking with .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course So. but doing so while using the language tools.. feelings. or sports.. or the office. and emphasize discussing topics in which YOU are interested and passionate about. and link it to you! When • • • • • you are at or near an SOT: Use the correct tone of Voice Pace and Lead correctly Link things to you Point at the right times.Topics that bring up images and thoughts that are romantic. can create an AMAZING effect! When you do get a conversation into an area near an SOT.just TALKING about these can create a good effect. or topics that are very close to that concept. someone) some topics are easier to work with than others. sensual.. Topics that access emotions. work it. but a good number of them. Your point is to get to. (Every guy has his favorites and ones that work best for him. but how effective are those as subjects given the "purpose" of the discussion? You want to discuss topics and things which deal with seduction.. or cleaning the toilet. excitement. at least. stay there as long as you can! Talk about it. a topic that is an SOT. judge for yourself.) Page 102 . Seduction Oriented Topics (SOTs) . These are called "Seduction Oriented Topics".. and seductive. You may talk about cars. in the right way Use the language tools! You want to be familiar with these topics (SOTs) and able to discuss them easily: maybe not ALL of them. or near. How good are you at the earlier sections that dealt with the language tools? It may be a good idea to go back over those sections. Examples of SOTs • Connections • Going for it • Making good decisions • Surrendering to feelings • Getting excited • Feeling excited • Trusting your judgment • Taking chances • Indulgence • Maturity • Good decisions • . SOTs are the "end goals" when it comes to managing or directing a conversation. You want to be able to discuss topics that deal on some level with Seduction.. etc. in some ways. or. The conversational management sections will help you to move the conversation in a way that will get you near these topics areas. 5.
You can use some of those that were listed earlier if you wish. Assignments for Seduction Oriented Topics 1) Pay attention to conversations in your life (even things you hear on the radio.. or on TV. the more you practice. Don't worry about talking to women. keep it there. and hopefully add some of your own. or overhear from others) and listen for when any of these SOTs come up in conversation. have stories about them. and while there. ask about them. Or. or ask questions. the more you practice using the tools. 3) Practice talking about each aloud. Or are taking!) . Page 103 . and also topics that you have heard in other materials and products that you have. Get the conversation there.. Seduction Oriented Topics 2) You must become familiar with these! You must be able to talk about them. read. the easier it will be to "riff" on these using the language tools. bring up images and thoughts that may work for you. using as many of the language tools as you can. Write down your list of SOTs..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course These topics may seem foreign to you. and discuss these subjects. you will be able to just "talk" about the subject while using the tools that are available. Eventually. Think of SOME way to discuss these. and without "thinking" about the language tools. easily. you JUST need to be able to talk. Exercises for Seduction Oriented Topics 1) Build your own list of SOTs. or anything like that. talk about something you heard. but the more you think about them. Meaning. by there very nature. or joke about them. or even watched in a movie! (Or heard in a course that you took . or in movies. hopefully some way that involves you and your own life. or comment on them! Talk aloud for several minutes about each. or seduction per se.Are you able to somehow relate to these in your own life? Maybe something you read or heard? Maybe questions you can ask? ANYTHING?!?!? You do not need to "know" a lot about these topics or be an expert. the easier it will get! Strategic Formula for Seduction Oriented Topics SOTs are topics that. Think about other topics you have heard mentioned in this program. and the more you talk to and with people about them. the more you work with the materials. use as many of the language tools as you can.
ask. They started and became more and more familiar with these topics.SOTXs D9-T24 What if you had not just 10 ways of discussing "Seduction Oriented" subjects. You listen more to when they are discussed. it gets easier to enter into more conversations that deal with these topics. We learned how you can move from any topic. anything at all! Talk. and frankly. That's what we want to do here. after having worked with hundreds of guys.. discuss. 5. what people think. So can you.. or even when anything CLOSE to one of your SOTs is discussed. The more you hear. "the other day I heard someone talking about. Page 104 . However. Because of that. They did it. Then you get to hear MORE people talk about them. Many guys who can now talk about these things VERY easily and comfortably started from a place of having NO idea of what to say! They changed. Maybe ask some questions about things that deal with your SOTs. show interest. Really! Learning to discuss such things may start out slowly. Use as many of the language tools as you can."). See? We are working on a process to get you to become more comfortable and familiar with these things. but we are walking you through (at least the first steps of) the process to make this easier: • • • • • • • • • • • You have made a list of SOTs. but had even more? Maybe 50? What if that was easy and familiar for you? Think back to how we looked at topics earlier.Talk about these subjects and topics! Make a point to enter into a discussion when one of your SOTs is mentioned. quote.3 EXPANDED SEDUCTION ORIENTED TOPICS . what is said. and move through these exercises and assignments. but this time with SOTs. etc. this process must start somewhere. These are called Expanded SOTs (SOTXs). and makes it easier for you to talk about them. SOT Summary I KNOW that these topics may seem foreign to you. That is understandable. It may start a bit slowly and awkwardly. And that gives you MORE material to talk about! Which make it easier for you to enter into more conversations about these subjects and topics. and easily come up with 6-8 related topics. That gives YOU more familiarity with discussing them. but as long as you start it. the more you listen. However. or even just TRY to do so. You do a few exercises to talk about them. ask an opinion. I can tell you that it DOES get easier and easier to be able to talk about these things. You start to listen and take notice of when these are discussed. 2) Now . ask what something means. this is one of the key challenges that many guys face.. (As in. then the more material YOU will have to talk about. Make special note of topics that are CLOSE or similar to these SOTs in some way.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Listen to what is being said. and start to get your brain working on them. it WILL get easier. That makes you really think about them. make a comment.
it's easy to think of several different aspects of that topic or related topics.with someone while on vacation ... you can talk about that for while.with friends . Instead of worrying about getting to that one topic (SOT) in a certain way.. . how we discussed a Topic Turning Point?) If Connections is a particular subject.. (You do not really need to list "connections with" for each.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Expanding on a Topic Area "Connections" is an SOT. Then.with your teammates Figure 5.. That is one subject.... However as we see here. can you think of different aspects of that? Parts of Connections? Questions about Connections? Ways of experiencing Connections? People or things with which you can experience Connections? By asking those types of questions (to yourself).3-1: How SOTs are related to an SOTXs. and build a whole list of very similar things to talk about -which are SOTXs! For example. That just makes it easier for our example below). the SOTX list consists of all of these items shown in the diagram and listed below.. there are many different types or examples of connecting to people. etc..with someone you just met . if friends. you can take any SOT.. places.with family . They think of only one way of talking about that subject.with coworkers . family.with music . For any given SOT.with a girlfriend ... and things that can be discussed. pets. SOT Connections SOTX Connections with family Connections with friends Connections with coworkers Connections with pets Connections with a girlfriend Connections with someone you just met Connections with someone while on vacation Connections with music Connections with your teammates Many guys worry about talking about something like "Connections".with pets . but can you think of 6-8 different aspects of this? (Remember what we did in the earlier sections.. (Does that diagram look familiar?) If "Connections" is an SOT. you now have 6-8 ways to discuss it. or only one aspect of that to discuss (connections in a romantic or sensual context).. see Figure 5. comes up in a conversation. how easy would it be to talk about how you CONNECT with those? And if you talk about Page 105 . Look at the list above.3-1... coworkers.
SOTs " SOTXs List Page 106 . or a special person. or different aspects of that topic..3-2: SOTXs Can Lead Into SOTs If any of the topics in the SOTX list comes up in conversation.. This is your SOTX list. if someone is talking about pets. or how that topic can be experienced. this is a TTP diagram in reverse!) For example. it's very easy to then shift. or maybe even someone. etc. c. point out an example regarding pets. ask a question.. (Yes. If you talk about that for a while.3-2.to . b... you are to list 5 (at least) related topics. then you can shift to talking about "how you can connect with a pet" fairly easily.) and for each SOT. all of a sudden there are many MORE ways to get to these really GREAT topics! Exercises f o r Expanded Seduction Oriented T o p i c s 1) Take the SOT list you had earlier (copy those down into the first column below.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course THAT (how you connect in that manner) for a while. how to connect with people. you can be as close as one step away from an SOT.) Family Friends Coworkers Pets Connections A girlfriend Someone you just met Someone met on vacation Music Teammates Figure 5. that you just met! When you expand SOTs in this way. then you can shift towards ANOTHER type of "connection" very easily! (See Figure 5. a. Just make a comment.. and how you (or someone else) can connect with a pet.
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) 3) Do the same thing again. then about connecting in general. you talk about pets. and see if you can then focus what you are saying towards the SOT itself. but now do so while using the language tools. You have 50 SOTXs that you are now familiar with as well. That gives you a LOT of flexibility in conversations! Page 108 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 2) Now for each SOTX. practice talking about it out loud. Step back and look at what you have done! You have 10 SOTs with which YOU are familiar. Talk about that SOTX for a moment or two. then about connecting with pets. (Like the earlier example.
Good speakers.. broke it into bits and pieces that you can learn and do as exercises.with pets Connections . and then built upon that step by step..with a girlfriend . but it IS related to an SOT that I have worked with". You will start to notice this. Summary You now have MORE material to work with than you ever thought possible! This is not about memorizing.. Maybe you will even start to notice SOTXs that were not even ON your list.4-1. spotting these opportunities get easier and easier.. especially politicians and activists. The more you work with this.with coworkers .with music . concept of "topics related to a topic" in many many places. it's about getting YOU comfortable and familiar with these topics.... use the language tools if and whenever you can...with family .. The real usefulness of this is when you reverse the order as shown in Figure 5. However. Page 109 . modeled the process arid the steps involved. It ALL gets easier! 2) Start to "direct" the conversations you encounter where your SOTXs are mentioned.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Assignments for Expanded Seduction Oriented Topics 1) Look at all of your SOTXs! That's a LOT of subjects! Pay attention in your life to see how often any of those items come up in conversation (or maybe you just hear them somewhere)...with someone you just met . SOTXs are now like "conversational landmarks" for you in terms of navigating a conversation. "I didn't list that SOTX. D9-T32 We discussed how to develop an SOTX list from an SOT. if you hear any of them mentioned. the easier it will be to notice SOTXs.. The techniques that you have learned are the sort of things that many people do naturally. and move the conversation towards SOTs.4 CONVERSATIONAL MODEL WITH SOTXs.with your teammates Family Friends Coworkers Pets A girlfriend Someone you just met Someone met on vacation Music Teammates Connections This is how we developed SOTXs This is the most useful way of thinking of SOTXs Figure 5. .with friends . We have broken these down.. You may think. that process can work both ways. In addition..with someone while on vacation . use such techniques a LOT. or anything like them mentioned. 5. you know that you are very close to getting near a subject area that will work very well for you. it is easy to then move the conversation towards topics that will work better for you (SOTs)...4-1: SOTXs Are The Pathways To SOTs SOTXs are an easy way to get towards SOTs. The more familiar you are with these subjects.. See if you can move the conversation a bit towards the SOT itself. If anything like an SOTX comes up in a conversation. .
you now see how easy it can be to move over to an SOT! In fact. and for you to just start to "recognize" these things on your own .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course So whenever you are having a conversation. However in the figure above. we have had to compress or simplify them quite a bit and show only a fraction of the actual steps and numbers involved so that the diagrams do not become too large or complex. you have already worked with 10 SOTs and 50 SOTXs as shown in Figure 5. After all.. Figure 5.4-3 shows this in the model itself. and anything like an SOTX comes up in the discussion.4-2.without "thinking" about them. In many of the diagrams. we can then show them as part of our Conversational Model. As the topics get better and better. and 50 SOTXs (in the earlier exercises) you now have many many SOTXs with which YOU are familiar! More importantly. Page 110 . SOTXs SOTs Figure 5.4-2: Your Multiple Pathways to SOTs! Now that you have worked with 10 SOTs. that this process will now be easier than you may have imagined. If you have followed the program. you have practiced with so many of these SOTXs. or the SOTXs.the number that YOU have actually worked with so far! Since SOTXs and SOTs are the "goals" in terms of managing a conversation. you have started to train yourself to "recognize" these landmarks. It's to have you practice and become familiar with them. there are really 50 SOTXs and 10 SOTs shown . you will get closer and closer to SOTXs. to be able to notice when you are talking about things which are "close to" topics that will work well for you. and done the exercises and assignments. that is not an abbreviation or exaggeration. The point here (again) is not to memorize the SOTs. this will start to happen for you. and then towards SOTs.
which are topics near or related to seduction (a step or two away from SOTs). SOTXs SOTs Listen for SOTXs Anything near or related to an SOT.4-3: SOTs Are THE Goals in Conversational Management As you move through a conversation. and ANY TOPIC. or as close as you can towards SOTs. and using this type of approach you will have fascinating conversations with people that lead to where YOU want to go! (See Figure 5. you start to "listen" for topics that are SOTXs. When you get to an SOTx. and topics that are close to that (SOTXs).5 THE COMPLETE CONVERSATIONAL MODEL D9-T33 Start from any topic and get to where you want! Yes. Then move the conversation towards an SOT! This works. You can start from almost ANYWHERE. it's that you have trained yourself to recognize things that are SOTs.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course SOTs in the Conversational Management Model The end goal is to get to. 5. you can start from just about ANY topic and get to GREAT topics! It's easy. then start to pay attention for SOTXs. SOTXs are a pathway to make that easier.5-1. just follow the steps listed earlier in the Conversational Management sections. Stay there for a while if you can! Figure 5. Period.. or anything that is "related" to an SOT.) Page 111 . Move towards SOTs. then you can simply move things towards a topic that is very seduction-oriented! The point is not to have a "list" in mind.
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seductive things Direct the Conversation Pay attention when Good Subjects come up (SOTXs) Listen for anything a step or two away from an SOT Move towards SOTs Stay there as long as you can Use The Language Tools! As much as possible. fascinating.Fun. Fractionate If you take a wrong turn... Especially when at or near SOTXs and SOTs...Romantic.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Figure 5. interesting . or very close! Page 113 . exciting. and see how easy it is to get to some good topic that is an SOT.5-1: The Complete Conversational Management Model (continued) Start a Conversation Manage the Conversation Move the Conversation in a Good Direction Steer towards . back up! If you move back to a general topic.. Steer towards . Steer towards . start over! Assignment! 1) Try it! Start directing conversations using the conversational management model.Engaging the emotions and imagination in a positive way .. or SOTX.
A representative sample. or navigation. The navigation is handled through our use of Conversational Management techniques. that's the key. get her to "experience" good feelings and states. THAT ends up being a very effective way to create "patterns". asking. you make decisions on-the-spot as to what to do and how to proceed. and being aware of when you DO get to an area of conversation that does allow you to use a pattern. or could say. Present a Call to action. we work in that manner. The Pattern Formula in detail. etc. • Maybe talk to a woman and allow HER to bring up things that end up working well in pattern-like language. plus these areas will work for HER because SHE selected them (in a manner of speaking) • Talk and manage the conversation into an area that DOES work for you. Once you actually play the game though.2 PATTERN FORMULA D10-T7 Tactical Formula for Patterns While talking to a woman. In the same manner. think about having a conversation (and managing it correctly). Its just a "type" of talking that you can (and will be able to) use when you feel it is appropriate. and as "a way of speaking".1 PATTERNS PATTERN OVERVIEW D10-T1 What is a pattern? • A plan. With this new approach to learning and using these tools. get her to "experience" good feelings and states o Use the Conversational Management Techniques to get there o Get her to think about good and/or exciting feelings Page 115 . Don't think of "how can I get to the pattern".0 6. or model to be followed in making things. Amplify these feelings and states by talking. diagram. handling the gas pedal. Use the language tools. certain actions. "A plan" or "model".Many of the details of driving a car are things you just "do". • An example of what you can say. She may take the conversation into better places that you could have predicted. We practice specific parts of areas of the skills we wish to use later on. or "how can I bring up a pattern that I know". It's best to just think of patterns as examples.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 6. • Instead. • Driving . 6. You don't have to think about moving the wheel. Link and associate these feelings to you. • While talking to a woman. You practice bits and pieces of the sport. "how can I get to my pattern". we have practiced the small details (language skills) so that these are automatic. or series of actions. These smaller skills become automatic and you focus instead of driving. Examples/Analogies: • Sports . A New way of thinking about the use of patterns • The wrong way is to talk to someone and to keep thinking. or "how can I bring this pattern up". Patterns are just examples of the use of these tools. the clutch. clarifying.You don't play the entire game ahead of time.
However.3 CANNED PATTERNS D10-T12 These are the pre-rehearsed. 6. when you are talking to a woman. canned patterns are good. Their best use is when you use the Conversational Management techniques and then find that the conversation just happens to get to or near a pattern that you DO happen to know already. "Canned" patterns. these canned patterns DO have some usefulness... and that the woman will react to what the patterns is about. don't focus TOO much on them. But." etc.4 PATTERN RIFFING IN REAL-TIME D10-T13 This is the ability to just create pattern language on-the-fly. o Use "this" and "these" (be aware of that and those as well) o Point and mark appropriately Present a Call to action o "Do it now" language o Create a Challenge o Create an Opportunity o Talk about the chance to "Seize the moment" o A simple add-on to the Language Tools There are two main ways of doing patterns. "this person. pre-written patterns that you have seen and heard.these pre-written or canned patterns can work very well. but they assume that you are in a conversation where they will work and be somewhat "appropriate" to what is being discussed. Pre-written. and do. So.. or things you have read. etc Link and associate those feelings to you o Use the Language Tools o Use linkage phrases like "now with me". In the real world. if you just "drop" a pattern into the conversation. and the proper context is not created. sound quite strange.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • o Get her feeling good and/or exciting feelings o Get her experiencing (or recall the experience of) good and/or exciting feelings o Get her to think about things that she wants or desires Amplify these feelings and states by talking. and to use what is needed in the moment. The problem is if you are SO focused on just "getting to the pattern" that you know (or even one of many that you know) then it's difficult to have a good conversation. Some times that does happen. because doing so may work against you. and real-time "Riffing". asking. for her to elaborate and describe o Repeating back what she has said o Provide examples from your own life o Provide examples from friends. The good ways to use these are as teaching and learning tools. and have them there for your use if and when the correct situation comes up. what you need to do is to look at. pre-rehearsed. • The interesting topic that she and you are discussing o what is happening o what you know Page 116 . 6. In THAT case . many times it does not. Therefore it is best to maybe have some of these memorized. clarifying o Use the Language Tools o Asking her for info. they can.
interesting. emotions. get her to. Yes. using the tools. Use the language tools so that YOU become associated with those things. Page 117 . • Use some "act now" languaging. and actions in the conversation. THE BEST PATTERN IS THIS: • • Get her to talk and think about positive. Then you have a conversation and. Then we use those as a basis for discussion.. Wanting to take action or seize an opportunity Always • • • • See the pattern here? We are in general. states. and sensual things. and and use the language tools. it really IS that easy! look for: Positive emotions and feeling Positive sensations (as in physical ones) Exciting feelings. exciting..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • o what she is reacting to o and discuss things which are appropriate. looking and listening for positive feelings. • Talk about these things or listen to you talk about these things • get her to think about these things • get her to feel these things • get her to link them to you.
D10-T28 The more energy and effort you put into this. SOTs) 4. D10-T27 Listen to the full explanations. and the more engaged you are in the process. 7. Keep the conversation going. you will benefit. and how you speak.0 7.1 REVIEW AND SUMMARY REVIEW D10-T18 The course has followed a "bottom-up" approach to training.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 7. Both you and her talk! 2. and view an overall strategy. focusing first on small details. but the method of approaching it is very different. Talk about something positive and interesting c. a. Get the conversation into good subjects (SOTXs. -' d.5 CONGRATULATIONS! WELL DONE! D10-T29 Page 119 . and/or compulsion to act a. Use the Language Tools 5. DO THE EXERCISES. Engage her emotions and imagination in a positive way. and then building up to bigger and bigger pieces. 1. Keep her there and keep talking! a. AND FOLLOW THE COURSE. comfort in. 3. 7. It really is up to you. a. Whether its your first. 7. and really take the time to do the exercises. Direct the conversation in a way that takes you toward good topics a.2 SUMMARY D10-T26 This may be similar to information you have heard in the past. Direct and/or link those feelings towards you.3 LISTEN. Use the conversational management techniques b. We really are focused upon changing you. of fourteenth time through.4 BE WILLING AND PREPARED TO PUT ENERGY INTO THIS COURSE. Use the Language Tools 7. Now we can look from the "top-down". Use the conversational management techniques b. Create a willingness. the greater your results will be. Fractionate if and when needed. fifth.
and provide you with some real-world examples of their use.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 8.0 EXAMPLES. Page 121 . EXAMPLES. EXAMPLES Dll-Tl The discussions presented on the audio for this section are intentionally "casual" to familiarize you even more with the use of these tools.
to convey a sense of drama and intrigue in what you are saying in a way that "captivates "people and makes them want to listen to you. allowing you to say more (and maybe more provocative things) about a subject. • If you were to .. • Have you ever .. so that their feelings. or Chest? Pacing And Pausing Use variations in pace. Voice Tone And Tonality Use your best tone of voice (speaking from your chest) to convey a relaxed. and to "soften " the way in which something is said. Mouth. " As you.. and well-placed pauses.. to be cool. Fast.. • What's it like when .. o o Page 123 .. use Adjectives And Adverbs Trance Words Help to get the subconscious mind of the listener to be more of apart of your conversation. Pause? Energy And Enthusiasm Using energy and enthusiasm when speaking so that people can become energized and enthusiastic about listening to and being with you. • Nose. and charismatic presence. and processes awaken. • Slow. emotions. • If I were to . • Passionate or Boring? o o o • LANGUAGE TOOLS A N T D E T A I L S o Adjectives And Adverbs Use more adjectives and adverbs in your speech to appeal to and excite the emotional side of the listener..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course APPENDIX 1 Course "Cheat Sheet" • SPEAKING POINTERS o The "Cool" Factor You don't have to be cold. powerful... • Be descriptive. • Instantaneously " Suddenly • Find Yourself • Convince Yourself • Suppose • Imagine " Mysterious (-ly) • Wonder (-ous) (-ously) Weasel Phrases Use Weasel Phrases to keep the conversation going.
point or gesture towards yourself. Easy Anchoring When the person you are talking with displays a positive feeling of some type. Point away. Easy Linking Expanded Pointing With This. gesture. Those • Positive statement. Say "these". allowing you to move things more in your favor later on Page 124 . touch them to help anchor it to you. link them to you so that YOU become something and someone that they feel good about • Now with me • In me • In myself • with this • these • this belief • these feelings Easy-Linking • Use "This" and "These" when referring to anything positive. Say "that"..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o Embedded Commands Use embedded commands repeatedly and in the proper context. Say "this". • Move! Point! Linking Gestures Towards And Away • Whenever you say something negative. o o • MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures Move. Point to you • Negative statement. • Use "That" and "Those" when referring to anything negative.. etc. • Can you do this now. Point away • Positive statement. a smile. laugh. • Whenever you say something positive.. intrigue. That. Point to you • Negative Say "those". point or gesture away. • Point Or Touch On Positive —* o o o • LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES o Pace And Lead Pacing and Leading allows you "be " in the conversation for a while and gain rapport and information. interest. and accentuate what you are saying in order to be more compelling as a speaker and to get even more attention from your listener or audience. Linking After getting someone to experience good feelings and emotions. These. to create a compelling will on the part of the listener follow you and listen to you. motion.
another option o o o Page 125 . acknowledgement. etc. experiences. • Topics and Subjects • Mindset or Frame of Mind • Current Reality • As (while) you are "X" (Pace) Where "X" is something that is true in their current reality (perceptions. the More Z. and c When giving examples or options to someone. More And More If you want to lead someone through a series of steps (actions.) • Then you will "Y" Where "Y" is something you want them to experience (Lead) o Give Them A Reason Giving a reason will make people more apt to do things for you and agree with you. Then start to move or shift things in a different way. and incorporate the language tools • This thing vs that thing • How two things are similar • How two things are different • Good . the More Y. • Request X because (of) Y. "List" several things briefly in order. in order to provide more power to what you are saying • At The End Listing at The End is a way to provide several options (which may differ) but to emphasize the option that YOU want. Listing • General Listing General Listing is a way to quickly provide several reason. or giving an example. "List" several things or examples which support your point. but mention the one which YOU want to put the most emphasis on. which support your point • A. B. understanding. statement. etc. or giving an example. LAST • Burying Items Listing . or to maybe see if you can get someone to agree to it! • a. or thoughts) use "More and More " as a way to string them together (and increase your chances of that happening • The more X. Compare And Contrast Use this technique to keep the conversation going. b. statement. and C When making a point. • a. The More Z. the more Y. you can get away with an outrageous or very direct option by burying that option in the middle of a List. and/or interest. The more Y.Bad • One option . thoughts. etc. and C When making a point. the More Y.Burying Items is a way to mention an outrageous or very direct option for "testing" purposes.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Show agreement. B. keep the discussion focused on a topic that serves your purposes. • As you X. a way that you want.
• Challenge them to do that. to be a way for them to get what they want. • Use the language tools in the discussion. • You seem as if. • Find a way to map what YOU want. and beliefs.. —* • • • Page 126 . Parts Of A Person Use Parts of a Person as a way to find. • Take any subject. • You may .\ Universal Wants You can assume that most people want these.. • If you can . • Break it down into its component parts and discuss them. • Using Their Own Processes • Find or assume what someone wants • Create an opportunity for them to get it or demonstrate they have it • Make that "demonstration" work in your favor.. or adventurous. • I wonder if you can . • You seem like . • Link good thoughts.. • You might... assume there is a part that will work WITH you. • The smart people I know. or want to be perceived as having? • Talk to them and find out.... allowing you time to gather information and link yourself to good thoughts.. • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control Particular Wants What does she want to have.. can (use smart. • If you are able to . do it.. or fun.. • Challenge them to demonstrate it. feelings.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o Parts • • Parts Of A Subject Discussing many of the parts of a subject keeps the conversation going. or point in a discussion..... • etc... or show it. and evoke favorable states. • Maybe you can ... idea. even when the other person claims or demonstrates that such parts are NOT there • For every part of a person that will work against you. etc).. discuss.. Mini-Challenges • You seem. o Opportunities And Challenges • Find out what someone wants.. feelings and emotions to yourself. feelings and emotions. • Are you able to . • You might see .
. General Conversational Management To steer the conversation in a good direction. • Introduce topics that are fun. Advanced Conversational Management To direct the conversation into even BETTER areas. • Navigation Don't think of an exact plan. think of general navigation • She Must Be Engaged In The Conversation! You need her to talk. by doing Y? • Does she want you to THINK she has X. bring up positive.. fun.. or show what they have.. she may have to do Y to prove that. • Don't engage in conversations when it's NOT about positive..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • Opportunities. interesting things • Keep thinking . and interesting?" " Move the conversation in that direction."Where can I go that is fun. positive and interesting. Creating Them -. steer the conversation towards directions that engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way o o Page 127 . • Topic Turning Point The process of moving from one topic to one of 6-8 relevant topics • In general. and see how doing Y would demonstrate it?> • Does she have what it takes to get X. Are they ready to take advantage of that (this) opportunity? • Does she really want X and see how Y can get that? • Does she really have X. Consider the wants and needs that a person may have ... • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control " • Excitement Challenges Challenge them to get what they want. interesting things. •• Show interest when someone discusses positive. fun.. • Can she see an opportunity to have "X". fun. positive.-and do Y to get it? • Can she do Y and make it happen? • Can she see that Y will get her what she wants? • Can she trust herself enough to do Y? o • Ambiguities — CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT o General . then . listen and be IN the conversation! • Conversational Dynamics Topics flow from one to the next. interesting things. • Repeat..
steer the conversation towards romantic. use the language tools. Get the conversation there. use the language tools as much as possible! • What If The Outcome Is Not What You Expected? • Move on! o o • TOPICS o Topics Of Enthusiasm and Passion Few things are more compelling in a person than for them to be passionate about something (hopefully many things) in life. • Repeat. Conversational Fractionation • Using Conversational Fractionation • Start • Move • Back Up • Repeat • Dead Ends Come Back To Life! • Just back up and start over! Conversational Overview and Review • General Flow • Start on just about ANY subject. and while there. back up a few steps. Repeat. • Connections • Going for it • Making good decisions Page 128 o . stay there for a while. and seductive things. • When on good topics.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • o Keep thinking . by there very nature. and interesting? • Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? • Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. fascinating. bring up images and thoughts that may work for you. positive. keep it there.Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Move the conversation in that direction. seductive things?" " Move the conversation in that direction. • Keep thinking . fascinating. fascinating. Seduction Oriented Topics SOTs are topics that."Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. use as many of the language tools as you can. More Advanced Conversational Management To further direct the conversation into even BETTER areas. and get the effect. o If you get to a good subject or topic. • Where can I go that is fun. seductive tilings? • The entire time: o If you hit a "dead end".
clarifying.SOTXs For each SOT. Link and associate these feelings to you. • Get her to. o Wanting to take action or seize an opportunity • Use the language tools. • Manage .. Conversational Model With SOTXs..Use the conversational Management Techniques.Look out for SOTXs • Direct 0 Move towards SOTs. Pattern Riffing In Real-Time • Use the Conversational Management techniques to get to good subjects • Look at the interesting topic that she and you are discussing o what is happening o what you know o what she is reacting to o and discuss things which are appropriate. o Canned Patterns .Great as EXAMPLES • Learn and know some of them they may be useful. there are easily 6-8 variations on that SOT that you can talk about. get her to "experience" good feelings and states. Amplify these feelings and states by talking. Present a Call to action. • Direct . asking.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • • • • • o Surrendering to feelings Getting excited Feeling excited Trusting your judgment Taking chances Indulgence Maturity Good decisions Expanded Seduction Oriented Topics . Those are STOXs. The Complete Conversational Model See Appendix 2 o o • PATTERNS o Pattern • • • • Formula While talking to a woman. o Talk about these things or listen to you talk about these things o get her to think about these things o get her to feel these things o get her to link them to you. and • Look for: o Positive emotions and feeling o Positive sensations (as in physical ones) o Exciting feelings. Page 129 o .
interesting. o The Best Pattern Is This: • Get her to talk and think about positive.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • Use some "act now" languaging. exciting. • Use the language tools so that YOU become associated with those things Page 130 . and sensual things.
.At the End • Burying Items o More And More o Compare And Contrast o Parts " Parts of a Subject • Parts of a Person o Opportunities And Challenges • Mini Challenges " Opportunities And Challenges o Ambiguities • • • Page 131 . Those) MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures o Linking Gestures (Towards And Away) o Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This. That.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course APPENDIX II Speaking and Language Tools "Cheat Sheet" • SPEAKING POINTERS o Voice Tone And Tonality o Pacing And Pausing o Energy And Enthusiasm LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS o Adjectives And Adverbs o Trance Words o Weasel Phrases o Embedded Commands o Linking o Easy-Linking (This. That.Point Or Touch On Positive And Negative LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES o Pace And Lead • Topics and Subjects • Mindset of Frame • Current Reality o Give Them A Reason o Listing " General .) o Easy Anchoring .. These.
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course APPENDIX III The Complete Conversational Management Model The Complete Conversational Management Model General Mgt. Positive. Romantic. Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way More Advanced Mgt. Seductive SOTXs SOTs The Complete Conversational Management Model Page 133 . and Interesting Advanced Mgt. Fascinating. Fun.
Fun...Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course The Complete Conversational Management Model (continued) Start a Conversation Manage the Conversation Move the Conversation in a Good Direction Steer towards . fascinating.Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way .. Especially when at or near SOTXs and SOTs.Romantic. back up! If you move back to a general topic. Steer towards . interesting .. seductive things Direct the Conversation Pay attention when Good Subjects come up (SOTXs) Listen for anything a step or two away from an SOT Move towards SOTs Stay there as long as you can Use The Language Tools! As much as possible. positive... Steer towards . Fractionate If you take a wrong turn. start over! Page 134 .
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