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Dave Riker's

Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course

A structured training program that teaches the language and conversational skills of Speed Seduction .

Workbook
Speed Seduction is a registered trademark of Ross Jeffries, used with permission.

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Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course

Table of Contents
Page No. Title Page Legal Notices Table of Contents Product Content Product Protection and User Consent Formatting and Conventions Acknowledgements Forward Registration Important Note About Exercises and Assignments 1.0 INTRODUCTION AND GETTING STARTED i ii iii vi vi vii ix x xii xii 1 D1-T1 Disk and Track No.*

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Overview
Why Is This Course Needed? What We Will Handle, and How Investing In Yourself, Or Not Can We Change The Way You Speak? Manipulation and Ethics Concerns SPEAKING AND LANGUAGE

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Speaking Pointers 7 The "Cool" Factor 7 Voice Tone and Tonality 7 Pacing and Pausing 9 Energy and Enthusiasm 10 Language Tools and Details 12 Adjectives and Adverbs 12 Trance Words 13 Weasel Phrases 15 Embedded Commands 17 Linking 19 Easy-Linking (This, That, These, Those) 21 More Tools 23 Pointing and Gestures 24 Linking Gestures (Towards and Away) 25 Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This, That, These, Those ...) 26 Easy Anchoring - Point Or Touch, On Positive 27 Review 29 LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES Pace and Lead General Pace and Lead Techniques 31 31 32

* Disk and Track Numbers References to the CDs and the tracks on them are shown in a format such as "D2-T4", which in this example refers to Disk 2, Track 4.

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Table of Contents (continued)
Page No. 3.1.2 3.1.3 3.1.4 3.2 3.3 3.3.1 3.3.2 3.3.3 3.3.4 3.3.5 3.4 3.5 3.6 3.6.1 3.6.2 3.7 3.7.1 3.7.2 3.7.3 3.7.4 3.8 3.9 4.0 4.1 4.1.1 4.1.2 4.1.3 4.1.4 4.2 4.2.1 4.2.2 4.2.3 4.3 4.3.1 4.3.2 4.3.3 4.3.4 4.3.5 4.4 4.4.1 4.4.2 4.4.3 4.4.4 4.4.5 4.5 4.5.1 4.5.2 Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects Pace and Lead-Mindset Or Frame Of Mind Pace and Lead - Current Reality Give Them a Reason Listing General Listing Listing - At The End Listing - Burying Items Listing, Pauses, and Emphasis.. Listing Review More and More Compare and Contrast Parts Parts of a Subject Parts of a Person Opportunities and Challenges Using Their Own Processes What Do People Want? Mini-Challenges Opportunities and Challenges Ambiguities Summary CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT Challenges Detailed and Specific Plans Are Just Not Workable Navigation Example Navigational Strategies Are Needed She Must Be Engaged In The Conversation! How Conversations Happen Conversational Dynamics Conversational Model Topic Turning Point General Conversational Management Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Want How To Steer Conversations, Moment To Moment The Model With Strategy and Tactics In Place Exercises and Assignments Summary Advanced Conversational Management Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Really Want Steering Conversations Moment To Moment The Model With Advanced Strategy and Tactics In Place Exercises and Assignments Summary More Advanced Conversational Management More About Getting The Conversation To Go Steering Conversations Using More Advanced 33 35 38 39 41 41 43 45 48 48 48 51 54 54 58 61 62 62 63 64 69 69 71 71 71 71 72 72 72 72 73 77 79 79 81 82 83 86 86 86 88 88 91 93 93 93 94 Disk a n d Track N o . * D5-T12 D5-T20 D5-T29 D5-T32 D6-T1 D6-T4 D6-T15 D6-T24 D6-T36 D6-T37 D6-T38 D6-T54 D7-T1 D7-T4 D7-T15 D7-T34 D7-T36 D7-T38 D7-T40 D7-T43 D7-T64 D7-T66 D8-T1 D8-T1 D8-T3 D8-T4 D8-T5 D8-T10 D8-T12 D8-T13 D8-T14 D8-T15 D8-T16 D8-T16 D8-T19 D8-T23 D8-T25 D8-T32 D8-T33 D8-T33 D8-T35 D8-T38 D8-T39 D8-T46 D8-T47 D8-T47 D8-T49

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6.2 7. . . 4. and Follow The Course Be Willing and Prepared To Put Energy Into Congratulations! Well Done! EXAMPLES.2 4..SOTXs Conversational Model With SOTXs The Complete Conversational Model PATTERNS Pattern O v e r Pattern Formula Canned Patterns Pattern Riffing In Real-Time REVIEW AND SUMMARY Review Summary Listen.6. Conversational Fractionation The 1-Shot Beeline Fallacy How Fractionation Works Using Conversational Fractionation Dead Ends Come Back To Life! Conversational Overview and Review Conversational Management Approach What If The Outcome Is Not What You Expected? Summary TOPICS Topics Of Enthusiasm and Passion Seduction Oriented Topics Expanded Seduction Oriented Topics .2 4. .3 4.4 7.7. .3 5.7.5 6.7.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Table of Contents (continued) Page No.6.6.3 5..2 6.. .0 6.4 5. * D8-T52 D9-T1 D9-T2 D9-T3 D9-T5 D9-T6 D9-T7 D9-T8 D9-T9 D9-T10 D9-T11 D9-T14 D9-T15 D9-T24 D9-T32 D9-T33 D10-T1 D10-T1 D10-T7 D10-T12 D10-T13 D10-T18 D10-T18 D10-T26 D10-T27 D10-T28 D10-T29 D11 .1 4.0 The Model With More Advanced Strategy and Tactics In Place. 94 96 96 97 97 98 99 99 99 99 101 101 102 104 109 111 115 115 115 116 116 119 119 119 119 119 119 121 Disk a n d Track N o . EXAMPLES v i e w .1 5. APPENDICES I II III Course "Cheat Sheet" Speaking and Language Tools "Cheat Sheet" The Complete Conversational Management Model 123 131 133 Page v . EXAMPLES. Do The Exercises.4 4.6 4.0 5.5.1 7..0 7.3 6.7 4.5 8.2 5.3 7.1 6.1 4.3 4.4 7.

these are in most cases presented as a way to augment the content of the audio presentation. Therefore most of the track references are shown at the start of major sections.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Formatting and Conventions The following formatting. However these conventions are guidelines.e. A majority of the workbook is presented in an "outline" form. and the Formulas. The audio is NOT an exact duplicate of the text shown in the workbook. and conventions have been developed and are used throughout this transcript/workbook. and the italics are simply used as a way to show a different manner of emphasis. Not every track number is listed. items are presented in a list-like fashion such as this: • Item 1 • Item 2 • Item 3 • Etc. a "serif typeface). Usually the graphic is shown on the page immediately following where that graphic is first mentioned in the text. and to make it easier to reference those items at a later time. Exercises. . This shows information that could be considered part of an overall "outline" of what the audio presentation contains. there may be instances when the conventions are not used for the sake of emphasis. Boldface Text . There are certain conventions used in the formatting of the workbook. and their use is key to many students' understanding of the concepts presented. The written text is NOT a transcript.As shown to the right Towards the right margin of section titles and headings. Samples of the formatting and conventions used: Typefaces .. Italicized Text . The graphics in the latter sections are significant in that they are an essential part of the understanding and leaning. Lists . It is also used for subject headings so that these stand out and apart from the normal text.Italicized Text is used for emphasis in many cases where boldface text may by nearby. Since the work book is an "outline" and not a transcript. or major points in the workbook. styles. Page vii .. Italics are also used to point the reader towards specific content of the audio CDs. This shows (for example) the Disk (3) and the Track number (5) that corresponds to that part of the workbook contents. a "sans-serif typeface). Text within graphics. D3-T5 CD Track References . or clarity. graphic captions. Listen to the audio where an example is presented.A majority of the workbook content is shown in this typeface (Times New Roman.that is simply to show a list of related items. If the graphic cannot fit there (due to page breaks) then the graphic is placed on the next available page. Graphics are used in the workbook as well. The relationship between these two can be best described by considering the workbook text to be (for the most part) an "outline" of what is presented in the audio. and Assignments are all shown using this typeface (Arial. i.Boldface Text is used to emphasize certain text or passages. Although there are paragraphs of explanatory text. CD Location References are shown using terms such as "D3-T5" in the text.At times. graphic titles. there is not an exact place in the book that correlates to the start of each and every track on the audio CDs.

Page viii . Although this is not optimal.1 . -3) to account for multiple graphics in one section of text. Similarly. For example. . Candidate Topics Figure XYZ-1: Graphic Title Sub-paragraph . or maybe and Assignment can be done alone by the student. it is required in order for the "flow" of the book content to remain consistent.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Each graphic has a number and a title of some type.Text boxes are used for very specific purposes in the workbook. or technique. This is shown below. and the "A" indicates the number of the graphic within a section itself (i. Text Boxes . Exercises are a series of instructions that call upon the reader to do or perform certain actions. Although the difference between Exercises and Assignments is maintained through most of the workbook. -2. This also may result in some page breaks being in places which are not optimal. then that text is shown immediately below the graphic using an indented paragraph such as this. an Exercise may require interaction with other people. Most exercises can be done alone. This may require that a graphic be placed on the next page after where it is first mentioned (instead of being directly below where the graphic is first mentioned in the text).The workbook is laid out to minimize the amount of blank space where reasonably possible. Each Formula is presented in its own "text box" as shown here.If a graphic has text that helps to further explain that graphic. there are instances where the definitions may be clouded to some degree. Assignments usually requier the reader to go out and interact with other person(s) in order to perform them correctly. there are cases where text boxes may actually "break" across two pages. Formula. but that is a necessity due to the complexity of the book. fact. Page Breaks . A Formula is a way to present a concise explanation of some item. Exercises. and Assignments are shown inside boxes such as this. Assignments also call for action on the part of the reader.e. The number is in the format of "XYZ-A" where "XYZ" denotes the number of the section where the graphic is placed.

and MD. Special thanks to my friends. SM. and this wait may have annoyed a few people. and to all of the Students out there who I have met at Speed Seduction® seminars. who helped me by allowing me to help them. Dave Riker Page ix . mentors. those who have read what I have written. most notably Hypnotica. and for the assistance they provided with this product. associates.insight and teaching that I think is possible. DM.. / must apologize to some degree for the time it has taken to finish this product.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Acknowledgements The first and foremost acknowledgement goes out to Ross Jeffries himself. teachers. but I sincerely hope that the results will prove to have made the wait worthwhile. and what is possible in their lives. Ross's developments have lead not only to helping many men with this part of their lives. Yates Canipe. I may miss a few sales because of such a delay. opening the door for many into the world of self improvement. To Dr. but have also shown many the way to a new way of living. To those in the original SD Lair group. colleagues. who have placed their trust in me and allowed me the experience of showing them new and wonderful possibilities for what their lives may have to offer. JL. and students (we are each all of these and more) in the TAGR Group. MC. Thank you. EVS. The main reason is that I do not wish to release any product until I believe that I am able to provide the level of quality. confidants. and have opened the door for me to find many ways of self-improvement and understanding. To the many experts out there who have augmented the SS teachings by showing me other aspects of the mind. . the creator of Speed Seduction . who was the business genius that brought Speed Seduction® to the masses through seminars and products. To my coaching clients.. and those who have entrusted me to teach you and to guide you. and to help you in finding the Women or Woman of Your Dreams. To all of you. SP. Working with these clients was especially instrumental in formulating and perfecting the concepts and teaching methods used in this product. and who has also contributed greatly to helping men change their minds about themselves.

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This workbook is meant to studied along with a series of audio lectures that are recorded on CDs. Language Skills What works? What makes the successful guys able to use these technologies? Partly it's the ability to actually "talk" in this manner. you will do so in the future and use these techniques as well.1 INTRODUCTION AND GETTING STARTED OVERVIEW Dl-Tl Welcome and Thanks. pay attention.2 WHY IS THIS COURSE NEEDED? D1-T10 If you are here. Provide additional explanation of some points that are covered in the audio program. The purpose of this workbook is to: • • • Provide an outline of the material covered in the audio program. along with spaces for written responses where necessary. Conversational Skills The ability to manage conversations is needed as well. and what works in the field. Welcome to Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course. You are already on your way! This course works on many levels. 1. and get the full benefit of everything this course has to offer. Some guys don't need this. If you are her "type" you don't need this. Listen to it. If you follow along and do the exercises. and on you as well. seeing what is needed.0 1. We will be teaching you the detailed language skills that will really help you. you can change the way you speak as well. We will teach you ways to easily manage conversations so that they go in interesting directions. Present a series of exercises and assignments. but this will help you if you are not. consciously and subconsciously. then on some level. Instructions for each are provided. there is a need. You will have this way of speaking as a PART of who you are and what you can do! Guys need to be trained. So even this "intro" section is starting to work for you. and "reprogrammed" in a way. This program is based upon experience with countless students. some people do this naturally. Page 1 . These techniques all need to sound and be "natural" to actually be effective.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 1. to use these language skills naturally as just a part of the way they speak. You are not going to sound like this or talk like this all of the time! Just in the way that you shift and change how you speak now in different situations.

that is important.Seduction Oriented Topics Patterns and Riffing Examples Dl-Tl5 What Methods Are Used • Describe and explain the details of the techniques • Explicit examples of how the details work • Examples throughout and within the discussions • Examples section at the end.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course You have to be PROGRAMMED to do this so you can have a conversation. You need to integrate skills to the degree that they ARE a part of who you ARE. listening. listen. how it is learned. Page 2 . Other parts of the language tools you may have to "think" about. must react to a steady flow of new information without interruption. respond to input immediately . Sure. and be a part of it.Enthusiasm and Passion Topics ." Guys need to stop the worrying about "Doing something wrong" It's only "wrong" if you are TRYING to do or be something you are not. but that's your left brain talking! We are reprogramming many years of your experience.. many times! • In fact we have already started! Where Does This Material Come From • From SS Teachings. for a while at least. Guys need to be able to just "do this" and "talk this way" in REAL-TIME. Not inside your head "thinking" about "how can I use this?"! 1. talking. In a way. AND HOW Topics Speaking Pointers Language Tools and Details Conversational Management Conversational Fractionation Topics . • Working on several "levels" of you mind at once • Models to arrive at an overall understanding • Left brain and right brain are both addressed • Conscious and subconscious minds are both given what they need for real understanding and retention.. so let's define and explain it for you.3 Major • • • • • • • • WHAT WE WILL HANDLE. • Things may seem to "repeat". so we need to approach this in many ways. but it's really YOU talking! Guys are too focused on "how can I use this" when in a conversation. but if you are "thinking" too much. some things will sound quite familiar. Real Time "Occurring immediately . This is a term that will be used throughout this course. and how people speak. • Other teachings about language. interacting. then you are not actually IN the conversation! You need to be engaged in a conversation. some of the ways that you speak now will be reprogrammed so that speaking in a new way will be natural... not a "trick". • Exercises to develop understanding and skills • Assignments for you to do in the field. responding...

Other SS products will work well. do whatever you need to do to listen to this course a LOT. The Mind-Momentum Principle At Work • Get energy. Is this information. In addition. If they just "try" it. as assigned or as required. many of these people will be those negative types of people that will then dispute the benefits of this program! Why? Because THEY have not invested anything into it! Not just in terms of dollars. or revised? Yes. Changing that will take some time. effort. So. From working with clients and seeing what worked and how they were able to change. You will need them because you will have assignments that deal with these. • This may seem complicated but the point is to get you SO familiar with the tools that you become the guy who does this! Some Very Important Points • Find all of your current SS products and inventory them. By embarking upon this course. However. and this is much easier if you have an active life where you can have many conversations. However. The Ways To Study And Use The Product • Listen to the CDs. • Get that "Mind-Momentum" going to help you change and improve. new. the more you put into it. • Listen to other products in conjunction with this product. listening multiple times in any setting also has a lot of benefit. and engagement. Be wary of those people who may want to "borrow" a copy. Applying a structured methodology of step-by-step methods.4 INVESTING IN YOURSELF. However. and this journey. OR NOT D1-T24 Any real change requires you to make an investment in yourself using energy. keep those copies to yourself. • Is there an "optimal way" to use the product. • Follow along in the workbook if you can • Do the exercises and assignments! • Listen over and over. the emphasis here is training you to do it for yourself. do the exercises over and over. Page 3 . or not? There are various ways. and engagement into your effort to really learn and use these materials. do it! But please. and a few women's magazines as well. • Get some other written material to work with for this course. Many of the assignments will deal with talking to people. and being open to what benefits this program can bring. If you need to make your own copies for use in multiple locations. do the assignments over and over! • Be patient. but in terms of THEM really being willing and ready to change. making it a part of YOU. the more you will get out of it. they aren't really putting themselves INTO it. see what works for you. to give you a real roadmap to actually learn the material.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • From personal experiences and how I used the materials. • Be prepared to have a place to practice for this course! You will need to be able to speak out loud to do many of the exercises. there IS some overlap and duplication with other products and systems. • Having a good social life will help you. you are doing just that. We are reprogramming years and years of you "speaking" in a certain manner. Also maybe get a romance novel or two. The best way to listen to this course is while also reviewing the workbook (especially in the conversational management sections). and who may "try" to listen to the course. a concept that was brought up earlier. that YOU just DO. 1. effort. both audio and written materials.

you heard it. you heard it in context. • • • • • • • • This might be good as a learning TOOL. But it's tough to do that. Imagine having to "think about" how to talk. at every moment! Some people want to try to memorize. kids are taught about language. Most people want to approach this by learning bits and pieces • • That's good in a way.But This Is A Different Type Of Learning. sentences. How People Initially Learn How To Speak • • • • Sure in middle school. its a memorized "thing". paragraphs. will not benefit. you heard it a lot. where you learn skills piece by piece. there is a "right" and "wrong" way to do it! But if you are just TALKING. consequently. It Is Possible! . its YOU being YOU! You cannot fail at being YOU! The approach in this course is different. etc. • • • • • • You will get some details. Immersion is the key. just being YOU. Can we literally change the way you speak? • • • • • • • How you select words Create phrases Form sentences Pick topics Speak passionately. at will Engage in conversation Manage conversations Yes. Then it's about a "performance. But that's not how you learned to talk! You learned to talk when you were a child . It makes guys nervous. where you use the skills in the real world. about grammar. 1. Those who are not. Not as congruent.by hearing others around you speak! You were IMMERSED in language." So. Don't let their lack of willingness to improve themselves. You keep trying to "remember" things. You will end up "memorizing" thing to some degree. because you will hear it so much! But a LOT of what is being conveyed here is learning by EXAMPLE. Plus it's not YOU talking. And actual assignments. hold you back.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course People must be engaged in the process to get its benefits. trying to "remember" what to say. but to then USE it in conversation is difficult. but only indirectly. there is no "right" way or "wrong" way. It's less effective. some models.5 CAN WE CHANGE THE WAY YOU SPEAK? D1-T26 Is this really possible? This sounds difficult. Also progressive exercises. then its easier. because it addresses that analytical part of your mind. some structures. and you started to form the ability to speak and communicate based upon that! Page 4 .

how you communicate. trade. Exercises and Assignments to Teach You the Skills • Skills Training like any sport. so that you will have more ability and more flexibility to do what is appropriate MANIPULATION AND ETHICS CONCERNS D1-T32 1. and who and what YOU are! Using these skills will be less of an "act".6 Many guys have been uncomfortable with using many of these skills. where I am just DOING these things all during the program. like when I say "here is an example" Implicit examples. or craft. more a part of YOU. it's not about throwing something AT her. based upon feelings that when using them. • Break it down into small parts. Examples • • Explicit examples. With THIS approach HERE. Real-World Skills. This causes some real. Various Training Methods • • We use a lot of repetitive training methods so that these techniques have a better chance of becoming "automatic". we will change the way you talk so that it will be easier. Page 5 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course This Course Uses Many Techniques To Train You To Have Workable. which we go over and over. and be more of WHO YOU ARE. more natural. deep ethics issues and blocks many guy's success. We will have you become familiar with the range of ways of speaking and sounding. "it's not me" or "I am just using a trick or technique".

and this time focus on speaking by generating the sound from within your mouth (or. but giving the impression that there IS more. and read it aloud. Listen as the examples demonstrate: • Speaking through the nose • Speaking through the mouth • Speaking from the chest Exercises for Speaking Pointers Grab some reading material of some type. but because it's appropriate to the situation. BORING. do this for several minutes. 2) Read some more of that material out loud. That "cool" feeling comes from being calm and speaking in a relaxed fashion. etc. how interesting you are. This is good as long as it's not BORING. reserved. Page 7 . focusing on generating your voice from your nose. how calm you are. and says a lot about you.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. not out of nervousness. Too many guys "try" to be cool but actually come off as COLD or even worse. We will work on this here in this course. calm. Examples: One way to think of this is to consider "where" your voice is generated from in your body.1. something you are interested in. and even goes a bit over-the-top to really help you to understand what is being discussed. 1) Take some of that reading material. focusing on the back of your throat might make this easier to do).0 2.2 Voice Tone and Tonality D2-T2 Listen to some examples of different tones of voice. Read several paragraphs. "Cool" comes from being calm and sure of yourself. there are great products and examples of this elsewhere. there ARE products that focus JUST on this area and you may want to invest in those. Why is this important? • Great voice tone conveys comfort. The audio section demonstrates these options quite well. That's the "allure".1 SPEAKING AND LANGUAGE SPEAKING POINTERS The "Cool" Factor D2-T1 D2-T1 Guys want to sound "cool". how they make you feel. that there is a "fire" beneath the surface.1 2. to be cool. how they sound. a sense of being relaxed and calm • It also allows you to express some energy and excitement at different times. and what people like in general. 2. but if you really want to work on this even more. Your tone of voice really conveys a lot about who you are. Cool does NOT mean to be boring and to put people to sleep while talking! The coolest people are the ones that are FUN to talk to and fun to be with! You don't have to be cold.1. even some of the materials from other products. That's what women like. If this is a challenge for you.

Make notes below for some of the conversations and see if you can see a correlation between these items. really make a note to speak lower. it's important that you do what you can to REALLY make a point of doing these assignments. comfortable. 2) In the next few conversations you have with people. Real-world experience will really help you to not just "know" the skills. Make notes below as to when it happened. Assignments are where you are given a real task to go out and do .in the real world! To get the most benefit from this course. and really focus on having that voice generated from your chest. and recall some time in the recent past when you were kind of nervous or fearful. with whom. make note of how you felt (nervous. and where you are speaking from (your nose. relaxed-confident). See how relaxed it actually makes you feel and how you really need to BE relaxed to do this! 4) Take a moment. Day/Time Who you spoke to Speaking from? How you felt. Can you recall how you spoke? Did the way you sound in that situation sound like any of the examples you just did? See the similarity? Assignments for Speaking Pointers These are your first real assignments in the course. make a note to yourself as to how you are speaking. mouth. Focus on dropping your voice down from your nose/mouth. Relax. and whether or not you DID it! Day/Time Who you spoke to Situation (Where) Did you DO it? Page 8 . but this time really focus upon generating the sound from deep within your chest. 1) Over the next few days when speaking to anyone. and make them a part of who you are. but to actually HAVE the skills. SOUND relaxed. or chest).Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 3) Now read some of the material. Also. where you were.

Why is • • • this important? Correct pacing and speed of delivery conveys comfort.3 Pacing and Pausing D2-T15 Listen to the examples where some various pacing is demonstrated.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Strategic Formula for Speaking Pointers Use your best tone of voice (speaking from your chest) to convey a relaxed.1. but this time read it slowly. There are many variations: Listen as these are demonstrated • Hurried showing nervousness • Hurried showing excitement • Slow as in hesitant and/or confused • Slow in a way that is deliberate and relaxed Exercises for Pacing and Pausing Grab some reading material of some type. 2) Read some more of that material out loud. deliberate. 4) Now read some of the material. in a manner that makes you sound as if you are very confused. even some of the materials from other products. and this time focus on reading in a quick and hurried fashion. 2. Focus on reading in a very hurried fashion as if you are very nervous. but go ahead and convey excitement in your voice! 3) Now read some of the material. first very very fast. relaxed. or almost a sense of panic. Speaking too quickly can show tension. make a note to yourself as to how you are speaking in terms of your pacing and pausing. comfortable manner. Being able to vary your pacing and pausing can help a lot to convey a sense of intrigue and create interest. Read several paragraphs and do this for several minutes. Too fast? Too slow? Hurried-nervous? Hurried-excited? Slow-confused? Page 9 . powerful. 1) Take some of that reading material and read it aloud. (Maybe even be aware of where your voice is coming from. and then far far too slow. Something you are interested in. and shows that the speaker is relaxed. but this time read it in a slow.) Assignments for Pacing and Pausing 1) Over the next few days when speaking to anyone. as we discussed in the past section. and charismatic presence. or don't quite understand the content.

who.. or bored. • If someone else is being interesting. enthusiasm. you get stuck in fewer boring. Page 10 . to convey a more relaxed and deliberate manner. • This also allows YOU to convey how interesting someone ELSE is as well. where. and well-placed pauses. then you can show more enthusiasm. By doing this. When someone else is being boring.1.. energy. 2. YOU act boring. Make note of when. and excitement when appropriate.4 Energy and Enthusiasm D2-T26 Listen to some examples of how this can sound . If they do or say something that is interesting to YOU. to convey a sense of drama and intrigue in what you are saying in a way that "captivates" people and makes them want to listen to you. Who cares? Why does this matter? • Most guys are just TOO BORING. dead-end conversations.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Slow-relaxed? You don't have to change it yet. and if you DID it! Day/Time Who you spoke to Situation (Where) Did you DO it? Strategic Formula for Pacing and Pausing Use variations in pace. Day/Time Who you spoke to What type of pacing and pausing? 2) For the next few days. just make a note of this after-the-fact and write that down below. YOU can show an appropriate amount of energy and enthusiasm. start to focus on changing your pacing and pausing. It's good to have the ability and range to display passion..

their pace.. women. go ahead. other products. Exercises for Energy and Enthusiasm Grab some reading material of some type. your work. bland voice with no energy or enthusiasm. go ahead and SHOW your enthusiasm! Be energetic in how you speak. their tone. do that for 10-15 minutes. bland. how you listen. Again. 4) Get some written material that really DOES interest you.. their tone. even some of the materials from . 5) Take that written material that really does interest you. energetic voice. and BE BORING. whatever it is. technical presentations. Again. 3) Get some written material that you have NO interest in. maybe sports. something you are interested in. dry topic. monotone. their pace. Think as if YOU are convincing a group of people how great this is! Maybe your Dream Job of a lifetime is dependant upon YOU speaking well and showing how passionate YOU are about this! Do that for a good 10-15 minutes. and read that aloud in a boring. etc. taped lectures.. Really pay attention to how they speak. Page 11 . which bores you. 2) For the next few conversations you have with people where you ARE interested in the subject. and that are excited about.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course The audio section demonstrates more details about sounding boring/bored and also sounding as if you have energy and enthusiasm. 2) Watch and listen to some speakers who use a lot of energy and enthusiasm when they are talking! Really pay attention to how they speak. 6) Take that earlier written material about the subject that you are NOT interested in and that really bores you. When you respond or talk back. do that for 10-15 minutes. 1) Watch and listen to some speakers talk about a boring. Read it OUT LOUD in an exciting. monotone voice. BE BORING and show no enthusiasm at all. Assignments for Energy and Enthusiasm 1) Over the next few days. Read it OUT LOUD in a boring. and read THAT aloud in a way that DOES show energy and enthusiasm! Make that sound as convincing as #4 above. and how much (or little) energy is conveyed. Watch on either TV.. Strategic Formula for Energy and Enthusiasm Using energy and enthusiasm when speaking so that people can become energized and enthusiastic about listening to and being with you. and how your respond. that a good speaker can really grab your attention with their energy and enthusiasm. Do this for a good 10-15 minutes. Note how even if the material is something you do NOT care about. whenever someone is talking about something boring. animated. your car. make sure it is something that YOU are passionate about. and how much (or little) energy is conveyed.

Most men could be helped by having more descriptive speech. not the logical side of a person. They sound cold. because to have to "think about" using them is almost impossible! • You need to be TRAINED TO USE THEM automatically.1 Adjectives and Adverbs D2-T40 Listen to an example where many of these are used in descriptive language. movies. Cars.2. If you really like this subject. Note whom you were talking to.. talk about it in a descriptive way. but must be done over and over.) 3) Read that text OUT LOUD. • Their use must be automatic. Day. 2. we are working to appeal to the emotions. they are not things that can be measured or specified. 4) Think of three recent conversations you had when you talked to someone about something that you REALLY liked.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. but this time. and uninteresting. nouns and verbs. while Adverbs will describe ACTIONS (verbs). whatever. and more ways of talking about processes. out loud. Re-live it. Most Adjectives and Adverbs are qualitative. (Maybe highlight them in some manner. add more descriptive terms to it. feelings. Examples • Car reviews • Movie Reviews • This course! Exercises for Adjectives and Adverbs 1) Find some written material that deals with something where people are speaking passionately about some subject. or they are too factual and leftbrained. you should be able to do this for at least 3-5 minutes each. use more Adjectives and Adverbs. Who you spoke to Subject 5) Now. and the subject you were talking about. 2) Read it. Adjectives will describe THINGS (nouns). Most guys are too dry in their speech. Remember. It's good if YOU are also interested in it..2 LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS D2-T39 These are the Bit And Pieces • These are the sort of things that can be powerful. talk about each thing or subject again. Maybe say those adjectives or adverbs and put more energy into those words and emphasize them in some manner. Do this for each of the conversations listed above. sports. Page 12 . and stress the adjectives and adverbs in it. These words modify or in some way describe. and sensations. and make note of the adjectives and adverbs in it. boring.

2. their emotional side. Be descriptive. factual. and then maybe add some more as time goes on. 3) Practice out loud how you would have said those things in each of the three conversations. Trance • • • • • Word List Instantaneously Suddenly Find Yourself Convince Yourself Suppose Page 13 . or objective manner. and with whom you spoke. They are not "analyzed" in a conscious. Trance words help to "open the person up" so that their subconscious. that you are passionate about. "paint a picture" with your words.2.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Assignments for Adjectives and Adverbs 1) Make note of the next 3 times you are having a conversation which deals with something that YOU are really into. make sure to use some of those adjectives and adverbs in your descriptions. Strategic Formula for Adjectives and Adverbs Use more adjectives and adverbs in your speech to appeal to and excite the emotional side of the listener. Write down what the subject was. that you really enjoy. and processes awaken. 4) The next several times any of those subjects come up in conversation. is listening and more engaged in the conversation. Start with just a few of them. so that their feelings. Act like you are really having the conversation again. Trance words are words that "call upon" the subconscious mind in order for them to be processed and understood. b.2 Trance Words D3-T1 Listen to an example where many of these are used. emotions. and c above). Day Who you spoke to Subject 2) Write down a few adjectives and adverbs that you could have used in each discussion (refer to a.

Write them down below. and see if you can pick these out. and see how many of those Trance Words you can use. With that list of Trance Words (above) in hand. You can copy the ones you saw listed earlier. Highlight or circle the Trance Words in a few sections. but also see if you can add some to the list. 6) Pick two subjects in which you are interested. 5) Take the written text from an SS product (maybe from #3 above) and read it out loud. and make it more interesting? Well. Trance Word List 2) Watch or listen to some material where people are speaking passionately about something.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • Imagine Mysterious (-ly) Wonder (-ous) (-ously) Think of any subject. like advertisements. sportscasters. that's the point! Exercises for Trance Words 1) Make a full list of Trance Words. See how many you can find and notice how they are used in context. Look at the Trance Word List above. See how many you can notice. 7) Pick a subject that bores you. Maybe play one tape or CD. Think for a moment about using those trance words to describe that subject. almost boring or mundane thing. Maybe refer to some of your other SS products and see how many more you can find. Boring Subject Page 14 . Doesn't that make it sound kind of "mysterious"? Maybe more exciting? Maybe you can take some normal. see and hear if you can pick out when the speaker is using Trance Words. Looking at the list of Trance Words above. or religious speakers. Subject b. placing an emphasis on the Trance Words when you see them. talk OUT LOUD about that subject and see how many times you can use those Trance Words! Subject a. even something concrete like your job. 4) Get your SS audio materials and listen for Trance Words (maybe even THIS course here). Now speak OUT LOUD about that subject. work. something that you think is dull. 3) Get out your written SS materials and look for Trance Words (maybe even use THIS course here). or school. political speakers. talk about it.

. As you ..... Subject b. maybe even a bit odd? Maybe even a different topic or change of subject? Or maybe something that you were worried about bringing up. The next time you are speaking with anyone about those subjects (in the real world guys!). that's what Weasel Phrases are for! Weasel Phrase List (see if you can add to the list by listening to the audio). because it may be a bit too forward? Well. How do you talk about something without REALLY talking about it? How do you bring something up that may be a bit different. If you were to . Just do whatever you can to start using some of them at first. to get from one subject to another. Use them when talking to different people. • • • • • Have you ever . Practice working with those subjects out loud some more and see if you can get even more comfortable using Trance Words when talking about those subjects.2.. more interesting. 2) Integrate a few more of these words into your every-day description of those subjects. If I were to . make a point to use at least one of the Trance Words in the conversation. and more fascinating? Assignments for Trance Words 1) Pick two subjects in which you are interested..3 Weasel Phrases D3-T14 Listen to an example where many of these are used.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Even though that may seem a bit strange. Page 15 ... 2.. and using more and more as time goes on. doesn't that make it-sound more "exciting". These also work as transitional phrases. Subject a. What's it like when . Strategic Formula for Trance Words Using Trance Words will help to get the subconscious mind of the listener to be more of a part of your conversation.

Try it again. etc. getting into it. In a moment. Subject Page 16 . This is necessary to have the kind of words and subjects that lend themselves to Weasel Phrases. The next several times that you talk about that subject with anyone. For example. make note of the weasel phrases. See if you can pick these out.. doing it. etc.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Exercises for Weasel Phrases 1) Get some of your written SS materials and look for some Weasel Phrases in the text. (Weasel Phrases tend to provide ways to connect sentences and paragraphs that talk about how something is felt and experienced. don't use that one!) Now talk about one of these 4-5 aspects for 1-2 sentences. that seem as if they fit best into your way of speaking about subjects that you may like. then use another Weasel Phrase. Take a moment and try to emphasize them in a way. Assignments for Weasel Phrases 1) Look at the list of Weasel Phrases that you wrote earlier. see if you can use some or all of your favorite weasel phrases when talking about it. Just read the SS material out loud. 2) Get your SS audio materials and listen for some Weasel Phrases. we want you to talk about how it FEELS. Use different Phrases. after another. Do this until you use all 4-5 of the attributes that you listed.. but selecting different Phrases to link the aspects together. 4) Pick a subject in which you are interested. and read some of this material out loud. and do so with an awareness on some level that you are saying and using weasel phrases when they are in the text. 3) Take the written SS materials you had earlier.) Pick 4-5 different aspects of this "experience" that you will talk about. It will get easier. 2) Note the subject that you used earlier for doing some exercises with Weasel Phrases (exercise 4 above). While doing it. Maybe pausing for a moment before one. and then use one of the Weasel Phrases and the bring up another "aspect". the experience of it. and see if you can string things together so that they sound better. sensing it. 5) Did that sound weird? Strange? Ok . saying one slowly or quickly. Maybe play one tape or CD. Pick 3 of them that seem the most natural to you. that it makes more sense. the subject might be "going to a ball game" (pick your own. Talk about THAT one for a few sentences.

saying one slowly.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Select another subject that really interests you. after another. that you want them to experience. feelings. your car. when separated from the context. Think of general statements. Two key aspects of the use of Embedded Commands are often overlooked. 2) Get your SS audio materials and listen for these. etc. or feel a certain way. excited by something. maybe pausing for a moment before one. Write down a list of embedded commands. Pick something that excites you! Maybe the subject is sports. think of it like this. instead "you like this" (car). Again not "you like that color". 3) Take the written SS materials. its about multiple usage (bombardment)! Exercises for Embedded Commands 1) Get our your written SS materials (written) and look for embedded commands in a few pages of the text. Like "feel excited". and incorporate Weasel Phrases into the next several discussions you have about that subject as well. Just say this stuff out loud.It's not just about using one.). Page 17 . "this is what you have imagined having for yourself. Maybe play one tape or CD. See if you can pick out embedded commands while listening. These are not to be sexual or suggestive. allowing you to say more (and maybe more provocative things) about a subject.. or more quickly. "get excited". a place you have traveled. 2. intrigued. Make a point to "lean on it" a bit. Subject Strategic Formula for Weasel Phrases Use Weasel Phrases to keep the conversation going. maybe a car. • Repetition . These are small snippets of words and phrases which. and do so with an awareness.. but just general things (feelings or states).2. and read some of this material out loud. on some level. or "you want this" (car). feel.It's very important that the command be brought up in the context of a conversation that is interesting. To make it easy. "get into it". make note of the embedded commands. etc. things you would like a listener to think about. once. your job. "see how fascinated" . 4) Pick a topic that YOU are very interested in. and where the person's emotions or feelings are somehow active (This "context" issue is discussed later in the product in great detail in Conversational Management sections. • Context . and to "soften" the way in which something is said. Take a moment and try to emphasize them in some way. While doing it. Write down things that would make someone interested. issue a "command" or statement that instructs someone do something. that you are saying and using embedded commands at the time. or experience while they are thinking about that subject.4 Embedded Commands D3-T25 Listen to an example where many of these are used.just general things that would cause a person to be interested in something. lets say you were selling something to someone.

Maybe it's not a passion or real interest. pausing.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 5) Start talking about that topic out loud. work on just saying them and finding a way to bring them up. but something where being influential may help. Subject Embedded Commands 3) Practice the use of those commands. Maybe slowing down slightly. changing your voice. 6) Do the same thing again. see just how many of the embedded commands in that list that YOU can say! First. or school. just enough to put the emphasis on the command. 2) Select another subject that is a part of your life. Page 18 . and with that list that YOU wrote in hand. See how natural you can make them sound. 4) The next several times that subject comes up in your life. Start to place some emphasis on the command itself. The next several times that you talk about that subject with anyone. out loud. Assignments for Embedded Commands 1) Look at the list of Commands that you wrote and practiced that deal with a subject in which you are interested (exercise 4 above). but now focus more on "leaning" on the embedded commands a bit. to create a compelling will on the part of the listener follow you and listen to you. make some effort to use some of these commands in the context of a real discussion. Strategic Formula for Embedded Commands Use embedded commands repeatedly and in the proper context. start using a few of these commands when speaking. and make it sound natural. Maybe you work in sales. in the context of talking about that subject. or maybe it has to deal with your job. Write down a list of at least 5 commands that work well in that subject. that would assist you in being more influential.

recall.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. and feel emotions. and then making an ambiguous reference to that feeling using your words. using some of the techniques that have been discussed in this course (pausing. You can also make reference to "in me". change in voice tone. "this interest". etc. while looking at you.) Page 19 . While doing so. "in myself. the linking tools and techniques will add to this. see if you can add more phrases to the list below. • • • • • • • Now with me In me In myself with this these this belief these feelings Exercises for Linking 1) Get our your written SS materials (written) and look for examples of Linking in the text. For example. Just to "process" what is being discussed. However. Maybe play one tape or CD. and getting her to experience. and talking to you. ALL of those possible definitions apply! Then. and experiences that are being discussed and associate or "link" them to you. she has to actually feel it to some extent. • In order for her to understand the feeling being discussed. which is ambiguous (non-exact). if you are talking about a great feeling of excitement that a woman has had or is having. on some level. Are you talking about the "feeling" she had at some time in the past? Are you talking about the feeling she is having right now? • Because you are using terms like "this". then to the deeper levels of her mind. non-specific.2. and inexact. If she is experiencing these feelings in your presence.While listening to the audio. you speak of "this feeling". What is this based upon? • When talking. The most common linking phrase/tool that guys think about is the phrase "now with me". will "link" them to you. In some ways. also "this" and "these" as in "this feeling" of "these feelings". • However. etc. Linking Phrases . emotions. you become more associated with those feelings. 2) Get your SS audio materials and listen for these. make note of where linking is taking place. 3) Take the written SS materials. she has to feel it on some level (and she will. and make this "link" even more effective. which is an ambiguous way of referencing what she is thinking about. and read some of this material aloud. it's easier than you think! Just talking about a subject and getting her to be a part of the discussion.5 Linking D3-T42 Linking is a way to take the feelings. Take a moment and try to emphasize the linking in some way. you are talking "about" a feeling or sensation. then on some level that is creating this "link". See if you can pick out Linking Phrases while listening. when you say "this feeling". you are being ambiguous. as long as there is good rapport).

"these feelings". "this person or thing".4). you could say "feel excited by this" or "feel excited now" (you can also link things by putting in a reference to NOW). see just how many of the Embedded Commands and Linkage Phrases that you can use in your dialog. link them to you so that YOU become something and someone that they feel good about. pause. and see if you can "add" text to each to link them to you in some way. In some manner. just enough to put emphasis on the Linkage Phrase.4). This may seem strange and sound a bit "off".2. Maybe slow down slightly. Doing linking in an exercise like this is difficult and hard to make it sound "natural". or change your voice. Assignments for Linking No separate assignment for this. 6) Now do the same thing again. As you hear more and more examples of this throughout the course.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4) Take the list of embedded commands that you created in an earlier exercise (Exercise #4 in section 2. Start talking about that topic out loud. it's much better if picked up along-the-way. work on just saying them and finding a way to bring them up. Write down the list of commands and an associated linkage phrase for each below. with me" after one of more of the commands in your list. Embedded Command Linkage Phrase 5) Pick a topic that YOU are interested in as we did before (it can be the same one you used in Exercise #4 in section 2.) For example. where you listed "feel excited". and using the list above. A quick way of doing this is to simply add "this feeling". this will come to you much more easily. This will sound easier for you as we go on. but now focus more on "leaning" a bit on the Linkage Phrases. Another example would be to take the phrase "Get excited" and turn that into "get excited by THESE things". (Again. etc. the linking is ambiguous and doesn't reference you directly. You can even add the ever-popular "now. First.2. That's ok. Plus the next section will make this much easier! Strategic Formula for Linking After getting someone to experience good feelings and emotions. Page 20 .

"this person" tends to sound like the person that is there. or not there at the time. For example. they reference a "thing".6 Easy-Linking (This. • This person.Possessive • Those . These. that person • This direction. with you. Those) D4-T1 Listen to an example where many of these are used. In this case.Possessive (sort of "includes" something) • That . for that multiple-instance bombardment that we spoke of before! The idea of linking wild. and it can be done a LOT. seductive feelings to you may be great but. that sensation They differ though in that "this" seems possessive. so you are not using a name or specific reference. that direction • This feeling. this & that are singular • This . use the possessive form when saying or talking about ANYTHING POSITIVE and use the non-possessive form when saying anything negative! Page 21 . those feelings • These sensations. So. and "that" is not. and included. in general. one "thing". Given that one type is possessive.2. these refer to plural items. but do so in a general manner.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. those directions • These feelings. • These people. who cares? Well these are almost interchangeable! You can switch this/that in sentences as you wish. there are times when they cannot be switched. Consider four words in the English language: • This • That • These • Those These are forms of pronouns. and one is not. This is a new and very effective way to do linking that is easy to learn and master. these and those are plural • These .Non-Possessive (seems to reference something "else" or something "away") Consider these and those. This and that tend to refer to singular items. those sensations So. exciting. those people • These directions. that feeling • This sensation.Non-Possessive For example. So. but that will be quite obvious when you try to do that). Whereas "that person" refers to someone "away" some "other" person who is not in the immediate area. with "these" being the possessive form. a GREAT strategy is to link anything and everything positive to you (and link negative things away from yourself. That. (In some cases. This means they are ambiguous! Consider this and that.

This person is good. These. out loud. using the correct versions of That. This is good. Subject: Attributes or "things about" that subject. or "things about" that subject. out loud. Write down (below) ten attributes. 2) Say the lines below. These people are good. These are good. for a good ten minutes. Those people are not. or singular/plural. and those depending on whether the item is positive or negative. and the correct form of This. That is not. For each of these attributes or things. That. ' 3) Earlier in the workbook. you have discussed a subject (and written a lot of text about it) that is important to you. That. Small sentence that includes that attribute. for a good ten minutes. Those are not. Use "That" and "Those" when referring to anything negative. Those Page 22 . write a small sentence for each. Exercises for Easy-Linking 1) Say the lines below.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • This That These Those Singular possessive Singular non-possessive Plural possessive Plural non-possessive Anything Anything Anything Anything Positive Negative Positive Negative You can learn to do this (to choose which of these words to use) in real-time through training! Tactical Formula for Easy-Linking Use "This" and "These" when referring to anything positive. These. That person is not.

Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4) Talk out loud about that subject for a good 5-10 minutes. Those 6) Talk out loud about the subject mentioned above for a good 5-10 minutes. D4-T13 Page 23 . 5) Pick another subject. Anchoring Anchoring is associating a feeling or emotional state to a sensory experience. These. That. Small sentence that includes that attribute. and Those.3 MORE TOOLS D4-T12 Now we are getting into a different area. Great speakers use movement to their advantage. These sections help to train you in these types of techniques. and once again. and then write a small sentence for each. 2. That. list ten attributes or things about that subject. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. beyond the small bits and pieces of language. These. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. and their movement becomes a part of their communication. and the correct form of This. using the appropriate form of This. Subject: Attributes or "things about" that subject.

Assignments for Pointing and Gestures 1) For the next few days. after the conversation has ended. Most guys are too boring and too reserved when talking. and some gestures. and to do multiple times. so that the use of these becomes automatic. However we will focus on things that can create a LOT of effectiveness. and then we can work on deliberate movement such as • Pointing towards and away from things • Towards yourself and away from yourself Exercises for Pointing and Gestures 1) Find a good speaker on TV. etc. 2. or even a preacher. and hopefully the conversations are interesting. embedded commands. have energy. Move! We will start by generating SOME movement. etc).3. maybe a motivational speaker. talking about a subject that YOU are interested in. point up. BE excited! Use your hands and arms for emphasis. passionate. 2) Get one of the text lists from an earlier exercise (weasel phrases.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Many different types of anchoring can be done and we are only going to cover some very basic tools. and way from your sides. Read some of that text (from an earlier exercise) out loud. Pick something YOU are interested in. make note of where your hands are when speaking. Don't flail about wildly. How often are they in your pockets? How often do they just lie by your side and never move? Make note of this after-the-fact. Subjects Page 24 . How to • • • do this: Get your hands out of your pockets. and away from yourself. Get your hands OUT of your pockets and AWAY from your body! Act excited. so these techniques discussed here will help. They may be a bit over-the-top (speaking to an audience is different than speaking one-on-one) but just watch them for a while. etc. political speaker. Watch how they move. and that you are passionate about.1 Pointing and Gestures D4-T14 Good speakers use their hands. down. Then later on see if you can start to become aware of what your hands are doing WHILE you are in the conversation. towards. and that are very very easy to do. We will break down many of the component parts of this into skills that we will teach you bit by bit. 2) List 3 subjects that you really enjoy. Use your hands to accentuate certain points. to help make their point. and that you end up talking about with people quite often.

and then write a small sentence for each. These sections help to train you in these types of techniques. Those 6) Talk out loud about the subject mentioned above for a good 5-10 minutes. and once again. Small sentence that includes that attribute. and Those. and their movement becomes a part of their communication. using the appropriate form of This. and the correct form of This. D4-T13 Page 23 . These. list ten attributes or things about that subject. Anchoring Anchoring is associating a feeling or emotional state to a sensory experience.3 MORE TOOLS D4-T12 Now we are getting into a different area. Great speakers use movement to their advantage. These. That. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. 2. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. 5) Pick another subject.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4) Talk out loud about that subject for a good 5-10 minutes. Subject: Attributes or "things about" that subject. That. beyond the small bits and pieces of language.

and accentuate what you are saying in order to be more compelling as a speaker and to get even more attention from your listener or audience. 3) With these three subjects in mind. arms. make a point to get your hands OUT of your pockets. Do something. and others.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course For each of these subjects. no need to WILDLY gesture! • You can do this many many times. Bad (gesture towards. just start to MOVE. This technique allows you to do this many many times. or at least be able to move.. but this time use your hands. and when anything negative is mentioned. • Or hold your hand away from yourself (to send things "away") How to use it • Good to do in the context of being a person that already MOVES when talking! • Make this subtle. Read that out loud. Tactical Formula for Linking Gestures Whenever you say something negative. point away. ANYTHING. and animate to some extent the next time you talk about them. point or gesture away. Strategic Formula for Pointing and Gestures Move. Whenever you say something positive. towards. and send Negative things away • You can point towards or away from yourself. Exercises for Linking Gestures 1) Stand up. gesture. gesture. motion. etc. and to send negative things "away" from yourself. and MOVE! Do this out loud..3. and MOVE.) 2) Grab some of your written SS materials. As you get more comfortable with this. point towards yourself. and the repetition works for you! • Can do in various contexts. Bad. recall a recent time when you had such a discussion. many people move when talking This technique is most powerful when used at a time when emotions and/or imagination are engaged in the conversation. away. make a note to go ahead and move. and every time something positive is being talked about. very easily. Say the following out loud while gesturing in the correct direction: Good. Bring Positive things toward yourself.2 Linking Gestures (Towards And Away) D4-T22 This is a fast and easy way to link positive states to you. away. 2. Do your best to re-enact that discussion (say what you said. or • You can place your hand on your chest or abdomen in a subtle manner (to link things to you) .). Page 25 . etc. point or gesture towards yourself. and AWAY from your sides and MOVE when talking about these subjects. Good.

make a note to go ahead and use these Linking Gestures to some extent the next time you talk about them. Do the following out loud: Page 26 . 2) With these three subjects in mind. etc. 2. (yes. it will become easier and easier. point away. Point away. motion away or place your hands/arms away. these can be the same as the last set of assignments). gesture towards yourself or place your hand(s) on yourself. Say "that".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Remember the text we used in an earlier example here in the workbook? Read that out loud. and every time something positive is being talked about. recall a recent time when you had such a discussion. Start subtle. when anything negative is mentioned. When you say These or Those. Pick something that YOU are interested in. points towards yourself. Point to you Negative statement. Those" correctly Combine these and use them at the same time! When you say This or These. and that you end up talking about with people quite often. Say "this". Conversely. point away. and MOVE.3 Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This. For each of these subjects. say what you said. Point away Positive statement. point towards yourself and when anything negative is mentioned. Subjects Do your best to re-enact that discussion.. This is veryeasy to do over and over for that repetitive effect. Those . or at least sit where you can move. Use "This. but you don't have to do it every time! That will seem strange! Tactical Formula for Easy Linking Expanded Positive statement. start with a few. but this time when you are speaking of anything good or positive. etc. Do this out loud. Assignments for Linking Gestures 1) List 3 subjects that you really enjoy. That. Linking Gestures and Easy-Linking together: • • • Use the pointing/gestures on Positive and Negative things (point towards and away). passionate. These. Say "these". have energy. Point to you Negative Say "those".) D4-T30 Now we bring together Linking Gestures and Easy Linking. These.3. and hopefully the conversations are interesting. Exercises for Easy Linking Expanded 1) Stand up.. That.

and emotions to yourself. a laugh. it will become automatic. If you are head-on directly in front of a person. it's very useful to Anchor anything and everything positive to you! In some ways. states. it's good to be close enough (within arms-length) so that the "touch" is easy to do. touch them • they seem to go into a pleasant state. an expression. Also.. while pointing towards or away from yourself in the correct manner. Can we apply this to anchoring? Yes! • We need a way to do some basic anchoring that is very simple. and able to be done many many times. That. Those in the correct ways) to associate even more positive feelings. touch them! This "Easy Anchoring" works in any context: • they laugh. Practice it enough and in connection with earlier exercises. you are anchoring them in a subtle way.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Point to yourself. and say "this". Point away and say "those" Repeat! This WILL help to train you! 2) Remember the text we used in an earlier example? Speak that text out loud. Point back to yourself and say "these". Strategic Formula for Easy Linking Expanded Combine the use of Linking Gestures (towards yourself when positive. or when the person you are talking to goes into a Positive state.Point or Touch. The more that "emotions" are being accessed. These. but actually. etc. touch them This is best done in a "moment" with some emotion. But to get even more effectiveness when anything positive happens. These. It may be good to anchor feelings. and Those if you can.) with Easy Linking (using This. 2.. Do this in a way that maybe makes it seem like you are doing it for emphasis.3. touch them • they smile. specific states. and say "that". the more effective it tends to be. it's more difficult.4 Easy Anchoring . and Those. trying to add in more instances of This. Page 27 . That. This is more easily done if you are standing at the side or at an angle. Point away. Use the correct versions of This. On Positive D4-T35 Let's look at anchoring in light of the 80/20 rule (where 80% of the results come from 20% of the effort). These. and away when negative. a realization. and thoughts to you but in a general sense. we are doing that already by pointing "towards" on positive things and "away" on negative things using Linking. That.

but a bit more "deliberate". maybe pat on the back. but in many cases. you just touch his or her upper arm or upper back. (Not romantically.) Maybe a handshake Maybe a pat on the back Maybe a funny gesture Make a note of the person. intrigue. Person '" Situation. touch them to help anchor it to you. What do you do? You shake their hand. also make a point to make and maintain eye contact as well. a smile. you grab their upper arm as well. etc. Exercises for Easy Anchoring 1) Think about the last 5 times where you touched someone in this type of way. Also note the degree of eye contact.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course You probably do this already in certain situations. without really thinking about it.. but yet have some degree of rapport already (maybe this is a friend-of-a-friend. vividly. Write those down. 2) Spend some time looking for moments (positive ones) where a touch would be appropriate. and note to yourself the correlation between how long the touch lasted and the level of rapport. interest. laugh. just a touch.. See if you can recall how it was. Assignments for Easy Anchoring 1) The next several times you shake someone's hand. A laugh A moment of recognition or realization When someone starts talking quietly. This is the same type of thing. make a point to hold it just slightly longer than usual. or Topic being discussed 2) Recall those 5 times. • Think about when you meet and are introduced to someone. Tactical Formula for Easy Anchoring When the person you are talking with displays a positive feeling of some type. maybe someone who you have heard about). such as. • Think about when you greet a friend. • When joking with someone. and the situation or topic being discussed. directly to you.. Page 28 .

Then. language. 2. You are noticing this after-the-fact. o Linking " with me. we want you to actually DO IT! So. Chest o Pacing And Pausing • Slow. o Embedded Commands • Can you do this now.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course At first. think "I could have touched them THEN". Suddenly.4 REVIEW D4-T46 We are well on our way. These. DO IT! Strategic Formula for Easy Anchoring In general. Those Page 29 . but as you notice these moments. 3) Now that you have started to notice these "moments" where a touch would be appropriate. and you have already learned a LOT of the detailed speaking. in-the-moment. and movement skills that will be used later in the course. that a touch is appropriate... That. anchoring and associating yourself to positive and intriguing feelings in other people helps to make them feel positive towards and intrigued by you. That. These. • SPEAKING POINTERS o The "Cool" Factor • You don't have to be cold. maybe you don't touch them... Fast • • • Pause o Energy And Enthusiasm • Passionate or Boring? LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS o Adjectives And Adverbs • Be descriptive o Trance Words • Instantaneously. when you have the chance. Find Yourself o Weasel Phrases • If I were to . Mouth. o Easy-Linking • This.. to be cool o Voice Tone And Tonality • Nose. Those MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures • Move! Point! o Linking Gestures • Towards And Away o Easy Linking Expanded • Pointing With This. see if you can have at least 5 instances of knowing.

we will move onwards to work on Language Structures.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o Easy Anchoring • Point Or Touch On Positive And Negative With these parts behind you. Page 30 . and later to Conversational Management techniques.

Are they useful and possible? • • • Trying to knock or jar someone into a different direction or way of thinking can be risky.Some people misunderstand and think that to "Pace" means to "agree". show understanding (does not have to be agreement necessarily) and then .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3. incorrect. You might disagree.1 PACE AND LEAD D5-T2 Pace and Lead . Changing Topics and Subjects . etc. or to try to "impress" them.A way to change directions • In someone's way of thinking • In the conversation To make a change in direction in some manner. move with them conversationally for a while. say things such as. These techniques give you ways to use and arrive at languaging in a manner that will make you more persuasive. You MAY be able to do that. you might bring up a new way of looking at it... it's best to meet or join someone in some way.Some people try to display higher knowledge or value by "arguing". be able to just "do". o That's one way to see it o I understand your point Page 31 • • . then and give them another way of looking at it. You almost NEVER impress people that way! To pace/lead well. move them . but you need a lot of power to do it and you risk breaking rapport. The minute you do anything like that to get someone else's "approval". Challenges • Can't you just bluntly offer a different view? Yes. Now we are moving "up" a level.0 LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES D5-T1 We have been working on bits and pieces of language. 3. It can mean this. and more influential in general. but you can break rapport in the process.. you might make comments (some that agree and some that may not) but the key is that you are "Taking part in" the conversation and topics at hand. These were tactical details. or "bigger chucks" as we say.Can you just abruptly jerk a conversation towards where you want it to go? Maybe.Can you just knock someone into agreeing with you? Can you be that bold? Yes. Fast and abrupt changes .. but you must do so powerfully and do NOT look for "acceptance". you are lost. Changing the Viewpoint or Frame if Mind . but agreeing is just a special case. towards where you want things to go. but will hopefully at some point.. Agree or not agree? . however you can break rapport. Don't argue! . acknowledge what the other person is saying. telling someone they are wrong. things that you should not even have to really "think about". all of the time... into higher-level stuff. For example. and then take them in some direction. Pace and Lead allows us to "join" someone.. the sort of things that you need to get used to doing automatically. To "Pace" means to just BE a part of the conversation.

• Ok .BE IMPRESSIVE! People really don't like to be proven dumb or wrong! Most people are offended or "put off by such attempts. To TRY to IMPRESS is bad. a way that you want. as if you "need" their approval.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o o That's interesting I see what you are saying. and some of then want to go out and "impress" people with their newfound knowledge..1.. the implication is that you NEED someone's approval.1 General Pace and Lead Techniques D5-T9 Here are some examples of ways to do these steps with example wording for each. understanding. Impressing someone with your knowledge... but to really get a sense of being IN the conversation.) • Yes.... I see • That's interesting • I get it • Hmmmmm .. Strategic Formula for Pacing and Leading Pacing and Leading allows you "be" in the conversation for a while and gain rapport and information... or. • Alright.. showing that you are a part of it. Then start to direct things in a different way .. Arguing! Many smart guys study these techniques and technologies.. Maybe • • • • • • continue showing an understanding or interest So what you mean is . I read/saw/heard the same thing ... 3..... if you attempt to do that. Let me make sure I understand .. Let them know you are listening and understand (using wording such as shown below. it makes YOU look bad. I get it. have you thought about this .. That hardly ever works. allowing you to move things more in your favor later on... and then moving things forward in some manner. • Well.. Tactical Formula for Pacing and Leading Show agreement. Page 32 . what you are saying is . Then start to move or shift things in a different way. The point here is not to memorize these "lines". Instead . So if I understand this .. Ok... .. In addition.it's like this.. I also think you can see . acknowledgement. So. and/or interest.

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I hear you, and what else is interesting is .... •-. That's a good way of looking at it, something else that is important is ....

The Formula for Pacing and Leading is ... acknowledge and then start to shift things ... Maybe you want to shift things more and/or bring up another issue or viewpoint entirely (or maybe you actually disagree) • That's one way of looking at it, however I think ... • Yes, I understand, I have also heard ... • Ok, that makes sense, another way of thinking about it is .. • Alright, but on the other hand... Some general methods you can use to introduce the "leading" aspect, you can talk about... • What you know, believe, understand • What a friend or colleague has said • What you heard • What you read • etc. 3.1.2 Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects D5-T12

Lets say you find some people talking about a topic. Do you walk up, interrupt, and start an entirely new topic? No. (Well, you can, but that takes a lot of power and has a lot of risk.) A better way is to enter the conversation, talk about it (Pace), and then move the conversation into areas that you want it to go (Lead). Examples: • You are in a conversation and the topic is cars. People are talking about prices, loans, etc. You acknowledge what is being said, contribute to that conversation (pace), and then start to bring in the idea of how a car handles, how it feels, and how exciting it is to drive certain cars (lead). • People are discussing clothes, various brands, types, etc. You talk about that with them (pace) for a while, and then start to bring up the idea of how clothes make you feel, how you feel differently when wearing different things ... etc (lead)

Tactical Formula for Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects Show agreement, understanding, acknowledgement, and/or interest in the topic or subject. Then start to move or shift topic or subject in a different way, a way that you want.

Exercises for Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects 1) Think about some recent conversations you have had with people about different topics, hopefully these conversations and/or this topic is something that occurs a lot for you (based on interests you have, people you know, etc). Recall a specific "moment" in each conversation. Note what was being discussed, and what point was being talked about. Make a note of each of them. Also note, where did that actual conversation go next?

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Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course What were you talking about in this "moment"?

Conversation with whom?

Where did it go next?

2) Pace and Lead Gently Out loud, practice as if you were talking in each of the discussions above, and paced the conversation and topic, and then lead it in some direction. In this exercise, simply show agreement, understanding, and/or interest, and then lead in the same general direction. Maybe bring up a new example, new point, new issue, but just sort of "take over" the conversation. 3) Pace and Lead in a New Direction Next, for each of those instances, provide an example where you show agreement, understanding, and/or interest, but now start to "move" things in a new direction. Maybe the conversation that you had started at this one "point" and went in a specific direction ... Now, for this exercise, practice taking it in a new and different direction. Maybe introduce a different aspect of the topic or subject, something not mentioned before, or not normally talked about. The key is to first show agreement, understanding, and/or interest and THEN do this "shift", and you LEAD things in a different way.

Assignments for Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects 1) Make note of three conversations that you tend to have with people on a regular basis. Person or People Subjects we discuss

2) The next times these conversations happen, make a point to "Show agreement, understanding, and/or interest" (Pace). Then "Then start to move things" (Lead) in your own way, Do this by introducing a different aspect of that topic, or a related topic/subject. Don't make this shift or change really abrupt or different, just make a point to sort of "direct" where things move, even if that direction is close to where it was going anyway. Just make sure YOU are the one that moves it. Note the text and examples given earlier as a way to do that. 3) Once you can do the above, now make a point to have your "Lead" incorporate a real change of some type.

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Normally, even without your input, the conversation tends to go in a certain way. The earlier exercise had you just keep thing moving in that same direction. Now you are to "take" the conversation somewhere else towards a different or related topic. Just introduce a new aspect of the topic, a different thing, a different direction, so that you are really "leading" where things go. Remember the language that you were shown earlier. Use languaging like... You know what ELSE is interesting You know what * l * have found (seen, felt) Another way of doing this would be .. You know what ELSE can happen ... is ...

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You can change the way people look at things, their mindset, and their "frame of mind". For example, imagine you are having a discussion and people are talking in a certain "frame of mind" (not directly, it's just their way of seeing things). The point here is to acknowledge that frame, and then introduce another way of seeing things, another "frame", or another "mindset". What is • • • • a "frame"? In general it's ... A way someone "sees" something. What it "means" to them. The way they "feel" about it. The significance or meaning that it has.

Looking at the formula for Pace and Lead, you apply that by first acknowledging the current Frame, and then start to lead by bringing up another way of thinking about it and/or looking at it. You bring a new "frame" into the discussion. (This is a way of shifting that way people LOOK at things, the significance that it has, or their mindset regarding certain topics or behaviours). In the earlier example of Pacing and Leading of Topics and Subjects, we were talking just about a thing, a topic, or subject. Now we are talking about a feeling, or the way things are "seen" or what they "mean". For example, people may be talking about: • Taking risks • Feeling good or bad • Having a good day or a bad day • Making choices • What an event "meant" to them • How someone else actions affected them • How a decision affected them. There is a "frame" (of mind) behind each of these discussions and with proper technique, that frame and mindset may be changed. Look back at the "Methods" section earlier for some details and examples of how to introduce this pacing and leading (there are some lists of languaging examples provided). Examples: • You enter a conversation where people are talking about risks, Risks at work, risks in finances, risks in life. You Pace by discussing this for a while. The frame or mindset here is that risks are bad, dangerous,

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now its being framed as exciting). Make a note of each of them. In this exercise simply Show agreement. where the point of the discussion in that moment was: The way they "see" something. Just sort of "take over" the conversation. The frame here is that she has her "standards" and that this is good for her. etc). and you are working to change the way she screens out guys. and/or interest in the Mindset or Frame of mind. The frame you are bring up is how superficial it is to judge based on numbers and details. Again. the viewpoint. With whom? Topic? Mindset / Frame of Mind 2) Pace and Lead Gently Practice as if you were talking in that discussion. some risks make you feel alive. understanding. who is like 5 lbs overweight. Note what was being discussed. and then lead it in some direction. What was the "frame". Then start to move or shift the frame by introducing another way of looking at things.Mindset or Frame of Mind 1) Think about some recent conversations you have had with people about different topics.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course have consequences. then start to move into talking about how men do this as well. Exercises for Pace and Lead . then lead in the same general direction. a new meaning. the people... weight. and what "kind" of man she likes (height. and paced it. what point was being talked about. or may be perfect but with the wrong hair color (lead). she talks about what their professions are. and/or interest in the mindset or frame of mind .. etc.. the assumption? What is the frame of mind behind the viewpoints that they had? Write down the topic. Then you start to lead by bringing up the idea that some risks are fun and interesting. and how anyone of quality . the frame of mind or mindset is the focus here.. What it "means" to them. You agree on some level (pace) and chat about that... (You are shifting her frame so that she may start to look at different things in men. understanding. some risks have good rewards.. and the "frame" that was in use. looks for more. Recall a specific "moment" in the conversation. some men will just "write off a woman that is a certain size. or provide a relevant example.. (Risk was framed as dangerous. • Another conversation has a woman talking about what she looks for in men. The way they "feel" about it. etc.) Tactical Formula for Pace and Lead . acknowledgement. Towards a way that you want. Do this OUT LOUD.Mindset or Frame of Mind Show agreement. Maybe bring up a similar way of looking at it. Page 36 .

what it "means" that is not really in agreement with what was said. Do this OUT LOUD for each example. understanding.Mindset or Frame of Mind 1) Make note of three conversations that you tend to have with people on a regular basis. understanding. a frame of reference. Maybe acknowledge and then bring up an opposing view.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 3) Pace and Lead in a New Direction Next. and/or interest in the Mindset or Frame of Mind but now start to "move" things in a new direction. even if that direction is close to where it was going anyway. etc someone looks at a political issue. and says they are cheap. With whom? Subject/Topic? Mindset / Frame of Mind 2) Pace and Lead Gently The next times these conversations happen. but just make a point to sort of "direct" where things move. maybe even limiting beliefs or beliefs that really hold them back. and HE is the one with the limitation someone complains about work and the managers. or something you heard or read. but really his mindset is the problem someone talks about wanting something different. and makes assumptions (has a certain frame) about people or groups. for each of those instances. Then "start to move things" (Lead) in your own way. you are just acknowledging the Mindset or Frame in this example. and their motivations etc. Assignments for Pace and Lead . and the frame associated with each. The key is to first Show agreement. Maybe find a way. and THEN do this "shift". Don't make this really abrupt or different. make a point to "Show agreement. Write down these subjects. Maybe bring up a way of looking at things that is totally different. These should be of a type where THE "frame" or mindset is something of which you are aware. A good way to do it is to show agreement and understanding. and they are the one not taking risks someone is prejudiced or judges other people. Page 37 . and/or interest. Basically. Think about discussions where YOU can see that these people involved are working on a certain set of assumptions. to find a positive way of looking at the situation. and you LEAD things in a different way. understanding. and maybe point out a similar example from your own life. some way. provide an example where you Show agreement. and/or interest" (Pace). Do this by introducing a "way of looking at it" that is similar to the one that is already being used. Maybe bring up a different viewpoint or way of looking at it. or something someone said. Examples: someone complains a lot.

it might not be that bad. (for example.. Again.. and new way of looking at things. now make a point to have your "Lead" incorporate a real change of some type.... o After you have .. The earlier exercise had you just sort of "run" with that. o While you think . a new aspect of "what it means".. o While you are .. o You are probably wondering Page 38 • • . or used by very powerful speakers. point towards a specific Mindset or Frame that is of YOUR choosing. but it can work well and adds to the power of the languaging.1... What is done here is that you Pace based on something that is obvious (obvious in their "current reality"). o etc. but just find a positive way to look at what is being discussed... Just introduce a new frame. using words such as) o As you are .. The general way to approach this is: • Start by pacing something that is obvious about their current reality .. o As you see .. even without your input.4 Pace and Lead . Some ways to do that is by saying things such as. A friend of mine used to feel the same way and they.. This is a small-chunk detail and technique. o While you are . or assumed by the people involved. these techniques are used a LOT. A "safe" way to do this would be to find a positive way to look at the situation.. This may be different from the way the subject or belief WAS framed or thought of..Current Reality D5-T29 If you look at the languaging used in things like hypnosis. focus on the Mindset or Frame.. o As you realize . and allow the conversation to continue with the same frame of mind in place.... Continue to Pace by maybe stating an obvious point about their current reality o seeing XYZ o feeling XYZ o thinking about XYZ o etc. You know.. another way of looking at it is . "Pace" their mindset..... o While you see . • At least it's not like XYZ.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Pace and Lead In a New Direction Once you can do the above.. it could be . a new mindset. Well. Now you are to "take" the conversation somewhere else and bring up a new mindset or frame of mind. and/or express what is on their mind. 3. Meaning..... and then use that to lead someone somewhere.. o As you feel. there was a certain "frame" being discussed.

. o you will then . • You are talking to someone at work . and "As that feeling builds. then you are probably wondering . Rewind or go back a few tracks..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • o As you are thinking about o I know you are concerned about o The issue that may be on your mind is o The question you may have is Begin to lead . what you are hearing. o you will start to notice o you may realize o you may start to think o you may see how . thoughts..Pacing Reality too much can seem arrogant. 3. Warning ..Current Reality 1) Listen to this section again.. "as you are watching this presentation .. Studies have been done with persuasive language that show that giving a reason will make people more apt to do things for you and agree with you.2 GIVE THEM A REASON D5-T32 Give someone a reason for someone to listen ... o another thing you will see/feel/notice is . etc. Point them to where you want to lead them . o notice what its like as ..) • Then you will "Y" Where "Y" is something you want them to experience (Lead) Exercises for Pace and Lead .. the more it will "sink in"." • Physical demos use this a lot....... it starts to become annoying to the listener. If you spend too much time saying things similar to "I know what you are thinking".... what you are thinking.. what you are reading.. "As you feel this..".. Really pay attention and see how many times I have done pacing and leading in this manner.. Make note of how many times I have paced your current reality.. Page 39 .... The more you hear this.. o state what you want them to see/feel/hear/realize Examples: • As you are listening to this program . you will begin to notice this ." • You will hear a LOT of this in this course (which is part of your re-programming!) Tactical Formula for Pace and Lead ...Current Reality As (while ) you) are "X" (Pace) Where "X" is something that is true in their current reality (perceptions. and do.

This technique does not provide a 100% guarantee. Write these down. it just helps to make people more agreeable (and there are statistics to support that as well). Write these down. "Is it ok if I make copies next". However. the addition of this small "reason" will make people much more agreeable and apt to let you do what you would like.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Don't worry about "losing your power" or being too "nice". because I am really in a hurry" then. Person What did you ask for? 2) Practice out loud how you might "ask" for that favor or make that request again. Tactical Formula for Give Them a Reason Request X because (of) Y Exercises for Give Them a Reason 1) Make note of the last five times you asked someone for something. then it may be difficult to get people to agree. but put in a reason of some type. anything. • You are talking to someone and you would like to pull her aside and make the conversation more private. Assignments for Give Them A Reason 1) Make note of five routine situations that you have in your life where you are asking for something. requesting something. Page 40 . you don't need to be concerned about these things. asking "can I pay by credit card". Examples: • You walk up to a copier at work and there are three people in line. if you say "Is it ok if I make copies next. 3) Go through the same list again. However. lets move over there". It could be asking for coffee. You are not being apologetic or anything. remarkably. The examples will be better if these are people you do not know. just providing a reason. If you say. or at least people that are not close friends of yours. If you just say. if you say "Let's move over there because it's more quiet" you will be amazed at how much more agreeable the person may be. they may go with you. come up with another reason. "hey. or asked someone to do something. and out loud.

the items that you will "list" need to be brief points. • When you give several reasons at once. and quite well.1 General Listing D6-T4 Strategic Formula for General Listing General Listing is a way to quickly provide several reasons. in order to provide more power to what you are saying. • For the sake of a conversation. Tactical Formula for General Listing When making a point. • When you give a reason. or make a statement. go ahead and mention the "reason". you get someone to agree and then lead them 3. and flow easily. • Training for sales people use this quite a bit. which support your point. • This is somewhat similar to a "pace and lead". Power in Numbers . statement. 3) The next times these situations come up in your day-to-day life. point. See if you can make it automatic. don't just provide one reason. it's difficult to debate them all or object to them all (not to be combative. just as an example) • Hypnotists use this technique a LOT. provide several. "List" several things or examples which support your point. so that your one "opportunity" in a conversation to make "a" point. This technique has been developed based on observing how many good and influential people speak: • Successful sales people • Charismatic speakers • Good debaters • Component of hypnotic languaging « Very important. People) What do you ask for? 2) Practice out loud some "reasons" that you could give in these situations. or giving an example.3. 3. Page 41 . or excuse. or make a point.3 LISTING D6-T1 Listen to an example where many of these are used.Repetition in a way that serves you.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Situation (Place. actually ends up being several points.

Do that out loud. Pick three ways that can go . but instead you talk ' about each for a few moments. Now. Exercises for General Listing 1) Lets say you are talking to someone about "Meeting people". and the types of things to which no one would object. In many ways.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Example (see the listed items shown as 1. and start to think about in a positive way (3). Write them down.X and then other times .. and/or what it's like to meet people.each of which lasts just a few seconds. maybe trying to convince someone of something (NOT an argument-just that you were making a point and would like to be more persuasive). make them brief. strange (2). really recall listing to good speakers (2). and maybe 3 different things that support your "point". Z (selecting your items listed above). you may begin to agree.. Who you were talking to Page 42 . write down who it was with. playing a game. 3. 3) Pick an example of an activity that you do often. Z". Activity that you like or do often List a particular part of aspect of that activity What are three "ways" that can go? " 4) Now describe "What its like to do your activity . Y. where each lasts several minutes. the third item may tend to "lead" someone in some way. etc.. Each of the items in a list can also be much longer..2.. partying. briefly. what point you were trying to make. as a list. Y. true.) • I know this may sound a bit different (1). Maybe your first two items in a list are obvious... For each conversation.. Mention the first item.. 5) Think of three recent conversations you have had with people where you were making a point. etc... and still.." and mention those three different ways.. etc. and somewhat new (3). doing some type of work. Now try again by expounding on each of the items. so that you don't just say "X. listing is like pacing and leading. maybe watching sports. Select a particular aspect of that activity. Something you are interested in. sometimes . talk about it for a sentence or two. as in saying three items . Then. Listing can be short. a. but as you listen to it (1). what are three ways that can go? Good? Bad? Indifferent? Exciting? Boring? Pick three and write these down What are three "ways" that the experience of "meeting people" can go? 2) Now practice out loud by saying something like "Isn't it interesting how you can meet people and it happens in different ways? I mean sometimes . then the second.

2 Listing . However. Here is a way to think about it. Who you were talking to Point you were trying to make Three items that support your "point" 6) Recall a specific moment in each conversation. we were talking about three points in a list that all were similar. Maybe you want your list to contain many options. Do that for each of the three examples above. a table. activity. by placing YOUR preferred item at the end. and just providing a series of options. In the earlier Listing examples. and an elephant) what tends to "stick" in your mind? (The Elephant!) The last item! By hanging an item at the end of a list. the one that comes to mind the easiest is the one that YOU want someone to agree with. it sticks in the listener's head more. suggestion. 3. it makes it seem as if you are being fair. the other. You weren't trying to emphasize one point vs.At The End D6-T15 If several items are mentioned in a list (for example a car. out loud. Maybe you want to list several options or examples. you put more emphasis on it. how you could bring up these three points in a list-like manner. at times you want to use listing as a way to highlight or focus upon one item. you were just listing several things in a list. and tends to make THAT point the most important one.3. it's easy to think of that Page 43 . Placing that particular item at the end of a list can have that effect.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Point you were trying to make Three items that support your "point" b. Normally. However. etc) By doing that. Therefore. Now practice. Who you were talking to Point you were trying to make Three items that support your "point" c. or different types of alternatives (to a thought.

c)! • • • • • • Strategic Formula for Listing . but you spend some time with that person (2) and the more that person talks. it could be boring. It may be because you like the resume (a). or this person presents himself really well (b). o And other times .. or maybe you are really seeing the power of all of this! I think you can tell which option I was going for! Meeting People.. Again let's bring up this example of "meeting people". right away. When I have interviewed a lot of people. you know? See how I did that? See how the item which I really wanted them to think about. and then finish with YOUR preferred item. Page 44 .. It's interesting though. etc .A t The End Listing at The End is a way to provide several options (which may differ) but to emphasize the option that YOU want. this is one of those subtle but very powerful things that many persuasive speakers do a LOT.. you just know . They are not all the same. and the third one "eventually find this person" was the one I wanted to really "stick". or they just have the right answers (c). but even when describing that person..2. and there is just something about this person.. you eventually find this person that on some level. Examples • • Fun activity. or instances FIRST. Now those are different ways of seeing it. I put another list within THAT description (a. or it could really be fun.. o Other times you get that sort of a "friend" vibe with that person. examples. b.. you know . o You know what it's like when you meet someone . It's just a matter of getting to this person. Sometimes there is nothing special. Say that one LAST and bring up two other options. lets say you are talking about doing some activity.. I have had to do that myself at times. you just really click and you feel this connection . 3). Again... interesting.. the more convinced you are that that person is NOT the one! o Hopefully though..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course one. one after another. I mean.. See? Not only did I have a list of three (1. In general. I know.. maybe it's boring. you meet someone. they are nice. you put more emphasis on it and it tends to make that one "stick" more. was said that at the end? By the way. they sort of fell into several groups o There are some people that. did you notice the use of the words this/that/these/those? Also where do you think I might have been pointing and gesturing during those examples? Job interview o Have you talked to many candidates? Yes. how they can almost become a blur. but by placing "it could be fun" last. o May be frustrating to you.. you know that those people are NOT qualified (1) o Others you maybe have thought were ok at first. those people doesn't mean much either way . o It could suck.that is the one (3). This course.

In that case. LAST. Maybe add a small "list" within that last item (because it's inexpensive. Maybe you want to suggest something very direct or quite controversial and you do NOT want to give it too much prominence. Issue or Option What do you want? 5) Now. out loud. is the item you mention LAST.At The End 1) Lets say you are going to spend a day or evening with some friends. but mention the one which YOU want to put the most emphasis on.? Write down what the "issue" is. Examples: • Sales . Go ahead and suggest that item. where you are trying to convince people to do something. etc. and what the result is that YOU want.). You want to mention or suggest something that is quite strong. Here is a way to think about it. agree to some point.3.. and we always have fun . make sure that the one that YOU want to do. but place some more emphasis on that last item. and you are all figuring out how you are going to spend your time. close.At The End When making a point. 4) What is an example from your life (recently).Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Tactical Formula for Listing . At times however. statement. If you say Page 45 . mentioning all of these in a list.. or giving an example. 3) Do that again. 3. Maybe pause when saying it. out loud. List three possible things that you could do and write these down. Maybe add an embedded command of some type. and seem too direct. etc. and bring up at least two other "options" BEFORE you mention the one option that you want. and they are haggling or objecting a bit.Let say you arc trying to get someone to buy something. placing something at the end can add to its power and make it stand out. "List" several things briefly in order. go somewhere.Burying Items D6-T24 When using a List. it can be TOO obvious. and therefore you do NOT want it to stick out too much. However. it makes sense to "bury" that item in the middle of a list. but bury it inside a list. buy some thing. Exercises for Listing . You may want to "test" to see how the person will react to it. maybe controversial.3 Listing . talk about the issue. Three things that you and your friends could do (activity) 2) Practice.

If she gasps and has a look of shock and horror when you make that suggestion. Instead. However. So maybe you say something like o "Well. and maybe there is a possibility of you even spending that night together. This is also a good way of testing someone's response.. lets say that you want to say something or suggest something that is very direct. maybe you aren't ready to buy this now. But if you switch the order.. you don't just say "we can slip the deadline". There are several options but." Doesn't that sound better? Meeting at a Party . or possibly you still want to negotiate.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • "Well. See? Putting that one. it seems too obvious. we can leave together right now. For example. maybe it IS too direct. or maybe you want it so much. seems to "lighten" it up somehow. and you are talking about you two getting together sometime.. and when you say it at the end like that. lets say you are working on a project and things are behind schedule. Lets say your idea is so controversial and over-the-top.. bury it inside a list. just suggesting. or to maybe see if you can get someone to agree to it! Tactical Formula for Listing . Strategic Formula for Listing . it's your choice.Burying Items is a way to mention an outrageous or very direct option for "testing" purposes. It also allows you a chance to watch the persons reaction to it. But of she smiles and seems interested. honestly. more "appropriate" items to lighten it up. one of them is to just slip the deadline.Lets say you have met a women at a party. more powerful and direct statement in the middle.. "let's slip the deadline" might be a problem in some circles! So when people are talking about options to help the project. Sometimes you have that "direct" item in mind and you surround it with other. that you will just seize this chance and get it while you can! That sounds almost TOO forceful. Page 46 .Burying Items When giving examples or options to someone. we can talk in a few days. Very direct. maybe you seize this chance and get it while you can .Burying Items Listing . • Instead of thinking about it in terms of a list. o "well. you can get away with an outrageous or very direct option by burying that option in the middle of a List. its your choice. or possibly you just still want to negotiate .. that may be a GOOD sign. The idea of " seize this chance and get it while you can" is something rather challenging to say (as the seller) that directly.. maybe you aren't ready to buy this now.. that you are almost "worried" about how the listener may react. or maybe I'll call you tomorrow". it seems a bit easier for you to say it.

Assignments for Listing .Burying Items 1) Go back to the previous exercises where you said some "lists" out loud. as any opportunities come up where you would like to make an outrageous or quite direct suggestion. 2) Practice out loud how you would say that list in the situation you used in the previous exercise. and go ahead and practice how you COULD have said it. 3) Think of some recent situations where you would have liked to mention a quite outrageous or direct suggestion. Situation Outrageous or Direct Suggestion you could have made. write down an outrageous or very direct suggestion that you would have liked to make (for each). See if you can make it sound natural. but do it by burying it in a list. Listing can be powerful. it can stand out too much and be annoying. make a point (afterward) to think about that outrageous option. Situation Outrageous or Direct Suggestion 4) For each of those examples (above) go ahead and practice out loud. or the most direct item. suggesting a List of options but burying that outrageous option in a list. you may even want to say it in a joking way. by burying it in a list. but as with any technique. go ahead and create a new item that is very outrageous or direct. see if it seems easier to say. If there is not one. Bury the strongest item.Burying Items 1) As you go out and live your life. Try saying it with the strongest item at the end. but see if you CAN say it. Look at the items that were listed and see if one of them maybe seemed very "strong" or "direct". For three different situations that have come up in your life recently. go ahead and do so.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Exercises for Listing . Go ahead and change the order of the list that you used earlier. in the middle and see if it is a bit easier to imagine saying that list. 2) In the near future. if you do it TOO much or too blatantly. After these situations occur. and then trying saying that item in the middle. Try it out loud. Page 47 . you will probably encounter some situations where you might want to suggest something quite outrageous or direct.

Or. this is just a way of bringing together many of the things we have learned. Pauses. consider this: • We talked about listing . etc.. If you must suggest several different examples or options. 3. In a way..How do you think of them quickly? How do you make them sound natural? Don't worry! It is ok to have pauses! Pauses make things sound more natural and gives you time to come up with options! We talked about the use of pauses as a way to convey some drama and to make things interesting. to "pull" the listener in. and I just strung those together . and Emphasis D6-T36 You may be worried about coming up with three things in a list .. and see how.4 Listing." "More and More" is just a way to use these and bring them together. but have ONE that YOU really want to emphasize or get people to agree to. or experience. really. So. you are walking someone through a series of steps or thoughts. changing tone... The general structure here is: • • The more X o where X is something that is hopefully quite obvious and true to the listener .. emphasis. so this all works in your favor! Just be interesting enough to keep their attention.. then the more Y. Maybe one or more of the items actually has an embedded command in it. 3. then.3.5 Listing Review D6-T37 If you want to get your point across. and using lists. remember to use emphasis and change your voice tone with the items.. place that item at the END of the List for more power. the more Y Page 48 . "the more YOU FEEL this . Lets use this as a chance to really step back for a moment and look at this structure. think. and provide many examples to support it. if it's a VERY outrageous option. Using pauses. Maybe you want to stress one item more or less. the more Z". and they WILL stay through the pauses! As you are saying various items in a list.. we are pacing and leading. can help to alter how the options (and you) are perceived. while incorporating the language tools we have already discussed. then the more Y. o See how we are listing several items? • We discuss Pace and Lead ..4 MORE AND MORE.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3. In a way. then present it buried within a List of options.. then mention several of your points or examples that support what YOU want.3. D6-T38 You have heard language like "The more X. in a List.. thinking about languaging such as "The more X.... as in . and the more Y. o See how that is being used here? • We have discuss language details . etc". o See how they are incorporated. I gave an example (in the audio) of several things I wanted someone to do.

then. the more you can notice Y .) specific.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course • • o Where Y is something that is a logical extension of what the listener knows and they see this as something that makes sense .... you notice this... The more Y. That's a general version of it. etc.. • Sell TV sets.. and the more Y happens . then. • • • • As you (or while you) X . o walk someone through though process . then just list them but use "more" as a way to go from one to the next. the More Z.. You are "leading" someone.. the More Y. more and more.) item. As you X. Instead of seeing this as a new type of language. or as Y is happening . and as Y happens o or as you sense Y.. You can even start by "pacing" a bit more.. present. step 1.. you can use "as you" or "while you" as a way to bridge between sections as well. If you have something that you want to lead someone through. and something obvious. experiences.. like a series of successive steps (things you do. which is more of an example of using Pace and Lead of their current reality. or realize Y. or thoughts) use "More and More" as a way to string them together (and increase your chances of that happening. Strategic Formula for More and More If you want to lead someone through a series of steps (actions. with "as X is happening". etc How to use it.. 2. towards what YOU want.. As an alternative. the more Z. the more Y.) or thoughts (things you experience or think about. THEN make the next item (more. . Page 49 . The small words and verb tenses (past. and then use More and More to lead them forward .. Tactical Formula for More and More The more X. or "as you notice X". and even more so with the next (more. The best way to do this is to start off with the first item as quite general. see it as just a way of using many of the things we have already covered! More and More tends to be best thought of as a "List". the More Y. then the more Z starts to happen. etc).. or a new "pattern". future) can be altered to make it fit well.. o You can start off with something obvious as a statement to kind of pace them.... The More Z. as you feel this. etc Examples • Convincing friends to go do something that you want to do. 3.. agreeable. from a general item towards something that YOU want.

. "as you" or "while you". etc. practice and see if you can talk about these one by one.. Think about a series of steps. You may start with "As you" or "while you" for the first one. more leading. that start off in general. The next is another step in the series. etc .. using "More". work around it and make it sound natural. as if in a conversation. what to do. of what you want to have happen. or series of thoughts or actions. something simple. something you convince people to do (or wish you could).. Do the series several times. who should do what. maybe an activity. Think of all of the things you can do tonight Realize that going to a movie would be a good idea Going to see the latest XYZ movie (use whatever movie you wish) See how that is a series of steps? Of thoughts? Like leading someone down a path? Now out loud. but more and more get closer to what YOU want. a movie. etc. what project to work on. Write these down. 2) Think of the last time you were trying to convince a friend to do something. Think of three "steps". something. to get towards doing what you want. 3) Now out loud. a series of thoughts or actions that. Exercises for More and More 1) Consider the idea of convincing some friends of going to a movie. 4) Think of another series from your life. or as alternatives. and bridging between them as we discussed earlier (More.) Write down three steps. 5) Out loud.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • Talking to a woman . Do that several times. to get towards doing what you want. as you. while you.) Page 50 . What do you want to convince someone to do Three steps. what to buy.. practice saying those in series. and string them together using "more". they would end up doing what you wanted. o Walk her through the process. The first should be obvious. or have them experience. What you were trying to convince a friend to do Three steps.. the second. something with which you are familiar. if the person followed them. a plan. (Agree where to go to dinner. or something you want to lead people to do somehow. more in your direction. that would "walk" the other people through the process of agreeing with you. Don't just say "more". practice saying those three steps. more and more. a trip. Think of three "steps". The first should be obvious. etc.

we had you think of something from your life. and you discuss these two aspects using Compare and Contrast.) • Too many guys focus on standard lines such as "So what do you like about X". There are various means of doing this. becoming more and more convinced. and piece them together and have it sound natural..Bad • One option . you can talk about. You will see that the more you get these bits and pieces. • • Take a subject and either mention another aspect of that subject.. you have two (or more) aspects of a topic. This method provides a way to keep the conversation going. or else have the person you are speaking with mention it.White • Right . • It's not magical in a persuasive sense. This Compare and Contrast method here gives you a way to talk about and around the subjects at hand. • How two things are similar • How two things are different • Good . or various aspects of a subject. and move a conversation. look for opportunities to use that in your life. • It also a great way to get information about the person with which you are speaking. A Tactic for Talking • Too many guys let a good conversational subject finish far too quickly. it's just a good way to think about discussing a subject. 2) With that "More and More" sequence practiced.5 COMPARE AND CONTRAST D6-T54 Listen to an example where many of these are used. you are able to easily go through such a "sequence". Just make sure that with that subject. the more things like "knowing what to say" and "what pattern to use" will become easier and easier for you! Notice how we are not doing these examples necessarily with women? Wonder why? 3. seductive. etc. • This works especially well if the subject of the discussion is one that "works" for our purposes (fun.. But get to the point where you can flow easily through the 3 in a series. Maybe add or change some of the reasoning. or several different subjects. the more you will understand how they fit together. • You are just comparing and contrasting things. and even change the specifics of that sequence. this is a means to keep speaking.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Assignments for More and More 1) In the exercises. How to use it.Left Page 51 . So. to continue. The more that happens. where you could have a series of "states" lead someone through the process of doing what you want.. exciting.another option • Black . Practice that series more! Get very familiar with it. Maybe just try 2 of the 3 steps once or twice.

you can anchor and link positive things to you! o While talking about things she does not like. etc. • Anything bad. team sports. Strategic Formula for Compare And Contrast Use this technique to keep the conversation going. or its power. and to let the person think about. you can anchor those away from yourself. compare. associate them with things other than you. and contrast these things. taking a position with a more promising future. what they like.about her) and she mentions various things about that subject. and incorporate the language tools. what they do not. you can talk about one car. then discuss these by comparing and contrasting. another brand. or point in a discussion. and you start to talk about something she likes and enjoys doing. idea. keep the discussion focused on a topic that serves your purposes.another attribute As you are talking. you can take note of how the person is responding. • You talk to someone for a while and she say she likes scuba diving. o While talking about what she does like. link away.. o Maybe you start to ask her about it (have a discussion with her .another aspect -. • • Use opportunities to use commands and trance words to create thoughts. o You select two items. • Maybe what is more important to a sports team. the offense or the defense. you can use all of the other tools we have discussed. that are good for you. states. etc. experience. This all provides a good way to allow the discussion to continue for a while. this meeting. her. and start to compare and contrast the two. deciding to focus on making a good living now. Page 52 . Tactical Formula for Compare And Contrast Take any subject. better-worse. and talk about its attributes as well. • Notice what is liked and not liked • Notice any reactions. or point in a discussion . What is different about each? How are they the same? How are they experienced? What is good? What is bad? etc. easy-difficult. • You may talk to a woman. and this situation that you are sharing..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • One aspect . two facets of that subject. • Link anything good to you. and feel those states and emotions for a while as well. Then discuss the other car. or individual sports vs. vs. feelings. idea. As you are talking. good or bad. Use the other language tools during the discussion. You discuss this. Examples • One brand of car vs. and discuss whether the handling makes it better. • Decisions about a career or job. How do these differ How are they the same Which is good-bad. One attribute . Select another subject.

Familiarity vs. 4) Select two of the following 4 topics. 3) Recall a recent conversation with someone you know. Now think of what is opposite to that . and this time. clothes. etc.. and those that are not good. Use compare and contrast to talk about each of the attributes that your friend would say they like about that subject. offer the compare-contrast ways of discussing it. Also. she mentions various things about it. that within that may be attributes that are good.". that they do like Do the re-enactment again. This example uses a very obvious "Like vs. Be aware of your language! Throw in adjectives and adverbs. and put effort into correct linking/anchoring/pointing to associate positive things to you.. the same holds true even when discussing what you do NOT like. but this time put some effort into being very aware of the positive and negative things that are being said.same type of thing (another car. Subject or thing that they like Attributes (things about) that.. your pacing. and talk about it again. different computer. so if you like THAT. Something New Control vs. different style of clothing.. Letting Go Safety and Excitement Liking someone mentally and/or physically o • • • • Exercises for Compare And Contrast 1) Pick some possession that you have that you REALLY like (car. Now talk out loud about each. Page 53 .. and this time.." or . etc. and serenity on one hand o and compare and contrast that to the feeling of something new and different on the other.. Re-enact that conversation again.. be very aware of the positive and negative things that are being said. In addition."Oh. computer. bike. As in "so let me make sure I understand this . where they were really describing or talking about something they like. etc. Something that you like Something that is opposite 2) Now take that same topic.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Maybe you ask about it. o So we talk about the feeling of quiet. Maybe some of the language that you are using that may lend itself to be embedded commands. she finds the experience of seeing new and different things to be interesting as well. She says she likes the aspect of it being very quiet and serene under water. and anchor/link/point appropriately. etc).. peace. Be descriptive! Use pauses.. somewhere else. etc). Not-Like" set of things to compare and contrast.. and various things about that subject or topic that they like. Be mindful of that and anchor/link appropriately. then I KNOW that you would NOT like THIS . change your tone of voice. and negative things .(because). and compare/contrast the two. Be vary aware that even when you are discussing the thing you "Like".

of having all of the positive aspects of Safety. If you are talking about an interesting subject. Excitement.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Control vs. and get them to talk about what THEY are interested in. but when you go STRAIGHT for the BEST thing that she likes the MOST. and parts of a person 3. etc.6. Letting Go Safety and Excitement Liking someone mentally and/or physically Familiarity vs. you may end up liking the subject and find a new activity for yourself! Don't worry that you will "give the wrong impression" by inquiring and discussing these "parts". However there ARE ways to have BOTH." and that's ALL they talk about! Yes. you can show someone how that can be possible. 3. it's too weak. link them to you • If the bad or boring parts some up. theme. that is fun. Parts. exciting. Two types of parts we can work with . it is GOOD to focus on the positive aspects of what she likes. Safety vs. link away Now this may seem tough .Who wants to talk about something that you are NOT interested in? However.. By comparing and contrasting them. People tend to think you have one OR the other. and you lose out on spending a LOT of time having them discuss something that she REALLY likes! This is just a way to have a discussion. Too many guys just blow things to quickly.. then talk about all of the various aspects and parts of it. Parts of a subject. Think about the possibilities.1 Parts Of A Subject D7-T4 This is a variation on the contrast principle.. and the positive aspects of excitement. if you are asking many questions about something that is NOT of interest to you. For even more Power There IS a very powerful aspect of this technique that is important to mention. topic. etc. this provides a good way to train you to be able to talk and ask questions of people. together. For example. Something New Now do your best to speak out loud and "talk" about these for a while using a Compare and Contrast structure. this just helps to keep things moving in a conversation. and that's ALL you discuss.6 PARTS D7-T1 Listen to an example where these are used. BOTH linked and anchored to YOU. YOU are then showing someone how BOTH of these things can be experienced.. Who knows. Meaning. Some are good. some are bad • Talk about the good parts. and say (for example) "what do you like most about scuba diving" or "what is the most fascinating thing about. There ARE many things that people tend to THINK of in an "either-or" way. this doesn't necessarily show that you Page 54 .

maybe a hobby. Strategic Formula for Parts of a Subject Discussing many of the parts of a subject keeps the conversation going. This isn't just a way for you to ask ask ask HER about things. that an opportunity to talk for a WHILE about something she likes. new things. This is a great way to build rapport with a person as well. Tactical Formula for Parts of a Subject Take any subject. artistic endeavor.. etc. what people do. Now. 1) Pick a subject that you like. If someone asks you about this. Use the language tools in the discussion. topics come up. You are just asking. and enjoys. activity. o Where have they dived? o How did they get into it? o What's their favorite place? o Do they have their own equipment? o Do they use different types of equipment for different locations? o How long have they dived? o Have they ever been in danger? o Have they taken photos? o Have they met interesting people? o Has this exposed them to any other cool sports or activities? o etc. don't just ask "What is the most exciting thing about Scuba Diving?" That IS a good question. allowing you time to gather information and link yourself to good thoughts. If she LIKES scuba diving. that you know. etc. idea. be comfortable talking about all of the parts of that subject. Page 55 . it's hard to talk about that subject for a while. feelings and emotions to yourself. Subjects come up. feelings and emotions. Break it down into its component parts and discuss them. list various "things" about that subject. and she may have a lot of positive emotions and feeling associated with that .many of which can be linked to you. sport. but if you start there. etc. just curious. like." This technique makes it easier to have conversations with people because THEY are giving you information and ideas for new things to ask about. Link good thoughts. know about.. or point in a discussion. Exercises for Parts of a Subject . Examples • Scuba Diving .Don't just "talk about" Scuba Diving! Or. area of interest.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course are interested in it (the subject).. just say "I like learning about people. don't like.

but hopefully this "subject" is something you are not really into. like a co-worker. That Subject: 3) Now think of someone who you are NOT close to (that you do not know that well). Maybe their hobby. if you were going to talk to them for like 30 minutes about that subject and were really going to ask them about it. or maybe someone in your life that you don't know very well. You should be able to come up with at least 10 items. passion. Subject: Parts. make a list of these parts. Now think of something that THAT person is interested in or they are involved with. what parts about football would you want them to ask about? For your chosen subject. maybe pick a different "person" as your subject. Someone that you recently met. someone you met at a party. and you were going to have someone (who knows very little about the subject) interview you and learn all about football. You should easily be able to come up with 10-20 items. or Things About. etc. etc. what would you ask about? What are all of the various things and aspects of it that YOU could inquire about or that could come up in a discussion? These are the "parts" of that subject. Person: Subject: Parts. maybe a cousin you hardly see or talk to. Now. or Things About. Page 56 . and you have heard him or her talk about this. If you have trouble. This should be someone you know well. Write these down. if your subject was football. a job they like. That Subject: 2) Think of one of your friends or family members and some activity or topic that THEY are really into.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course For example.

Page 57 . and were really going to ask them about it. The subject they are interested in is something with which you are NOT familiar. and feeling it. And of course the entire time. make a point to have a good 10-15 minute conversation about a subject that THEY are really interested in. Make a point to ask about many different parts of that subject. They are talking about something THEY like Thinking about it. Make a point to ask about many different parts of that subject.. don't know really well. or Things About. when you are speaking with a friend or family member that you know well.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course The key here is that this is someone you don't see often. but with which you are NOT familiar. make a point to have a good 10-15 minute conversation about a subject that THEY are really interested in. off the "top of your head". what would you ask about? What are all of the various things and aspects of it that YOU could inquire about? What are the PARTS you could ask about? Write these down. You know the person but you are not real close to them. Person: Subject: Assignments for Parts of a Subject 1) Sometime soon. 2) Sometime in the future. Person: Subject: Parts. That Subject: " 4) Think of another person and subject. mention like 10-15 different things you could ask or inquire about that subject.. experiencing it. while YOU are there And you are linking and anchoring things to yourself Using all of the language tools and details And that person is finding YOU so fascinating and charismatic . but with which you are NOT familiar. like the exercise above. Again. If you were going to talk to them for like 30 minutes about that subject. who is interested in something that you are NOT familiar with. Now. out loud. you should be able to list at least 10 items. when you are speaking with a person you do not know hardly at all (yet you feel you will be able to talk to them for 10-15 minutes).

they hold back. o "When you start to listen to this adventurous side . or reserved. In a discussion. In many ways.. "you may have the other side" o or by example "I know someone like that.... etc. etc. and then say (for example).. adventurous . • If a person is shy. and start to discuss and validate that OTHER part.. they are quiet. • What if it is not? What if they say they are shy. or parts. You do not want to appear to challenge or invalidate and personality trait that is being shown. Discuss. their reactions. or side. etc)" o "I know someone similar who as this other part to themselves. that XYZ part". lean more on the language and linking tools to bring it out." o "You may have (or do have) another part (or side. o Either in general like "there may be another side" o or more directly.. or part of a person. Let's say you are in a discussion with someone. that adventurous side is just waiting to come out. (where XYZ is a different or maybe the opposite behavior.. etc. in a way you are also using Compare and Contrast as well. that part of the person or type of behavior that DOES agree with you).6. just looking for the right time. "parts" are meant as in a personality trait. etc. directly or indirectly o For example. Don't Confront. there is a more adventurous part to themselves • If a person is outspoken... another part hidden away.. or way of looking at it.. and I have found she has this other side. more spontaneous side to them.. what she did . a "side" to the person. a way of acting or being is being discussed (and one that does not necessarily work in your favor) . • "That's because there is another part. Let's break this down. their way of walking through and looking at the world. In fact a friend of mine is very shy and one time. if a personality trait. there is a more decisive.." • If this new or other "side" works more in your favor. great. verify it. or has the same wishes that you do. experiencing it. we are also reframing! We are changing the way they look at things. that is more ..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3. exciting part of a person is being discussed. a way of thinking. there is a more quiet side • If a person is well-thought-out (thinks things through and takes time).2 Parts Of A Person D7-T15 Listen to an example where this concept is used." • There will be a lot of this shown in examples here in this section and at the end of the program. make it be experienced. if the person is shy o "I understand how some people are shy. • Acknowledge the first part that is being discussed. • If an adventurous. or normally don't "do" certain things? • Then talk about that first (shy) part.. etc" • Discuss this new or other "part" o "With many people. or view. and they feel that way. link it to you. A key concept to think about is to ALWAYS assume that there is a part of someone that does agree with you.. Page 58 . In this context. This can be VERY powerful... fun." o "Many people like that also have another side to themselves." • Bring up and acknowledge the fact that there is "another" part. Because you are discussing several things.

"I am boring".. was also "Y".. Traits similar to "Being Boring" Page 59 .... etc. discuss. o "Well. even when the other person claims or demonstrates that such parts are NOT there.. that can work in your favor. o "I have a friend who was "X" (where X is the trait being discussed). o "I was reading somewhere about things like that and what it was saying was. • Maybe someone lies .... What personality traits (or what other parts or ways of thinking) are similar? Which are somewhat opposite? Write down 3 that are similar. There are also other sides to people .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • Many times you don't want to say "because there is another part" because that seems too direct. Find a personality trait. too confrontational.. but it can be handled . or part of the person (mostly something which has a negative connotation) Acknowledge that personality trait. • Maybe someone is secretive. and she realized that she. You can work around this issue (of possible confrontation) by saying things like o "I think another way of looking at that trait is .. having a conversation. way of thinking. and evoke favorable states. way of thinking.. and what I noticed about her is that she also has this other side to her. or part of the person by discussing or addressing it Think about a personality trait. way of thinking... or part of the person that is somehow related (which works in your favor) or somewhat opposite. o "A friend of mine does that as well. Introduce and discuss that "other part" in a way that works to your advantage.. assume there is a part that will work WITH you. Examples: • Lets say that a person says they are not into taking challenges. Remember. feelings. you are NOT discussing this as to say. This one side . Well. and 3 that are opposite... etc etc etc..) Exercises for Parts of a Person 1) What if someone says." Strategic Formula for Parts of a Person Use Parts of a Person as a way to find. Tactical Formula for Parts of a Person For every part of a person that will work against you. so be careful. they like to play things safe. it may sound like you are arguing or challenging the person. I understand you have that side to you. "you are wrong" or to show how smart you are! You are just talking. • Maybe someone says they can be jealous.. and beliefs. deep down. that may be true but also there is another part of them . .. People have many sides to themselves. (not good in a person..

be aware of opportunities to maybe mark off an embedded command or two (or more). and then bring up this other "part" that you selected. Traits similar to "not into meeting any new people" Traits opposite to "not into meeting any new people" Practice out loud how you might first discuss "I am not into meeting any new people right now" and then transition into the other parts or traits that you selected. Look at the formula earlier. Now do a similar exercise again out loud. pick another part or trait. or ways of thinking) are similar? Which are somewhat opposite? Think about 1-2 that you could use. which could you maybe "use" in a good way? 2) Think about how you would discuss the boring part.. and some of the variations mentioned for language examples. use this/that/these/those . 3) What if someone says that they are shy? What personality traits (or what other parts or ways of thinking) are similar? Which are somewhat opposite? Write down 3 that are similar. which could you maybe "use" in a good way? 4) Think about how you would discuss that shy part. Imagine a conversation and how you might do this. and 3 that are opposite. Look at the formula earlier. 5) From the list you just made (and selected from). etc. and some of the variations mentioned for language examples. Imagine a conversation and how you might do this. and then bring up this other "part" that you selected. What personality traits (or what other parts..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Traits opposite to "Being Boring" Of those that you listed. but this time. Practice this out loud. Page 60 .. 6) Lets say someone says "I am not into meeting any new people right now" . Practice this out loud.. Traits similar to "Being Shy" Traits opposite to "Being Shy" Of those that you listed. maybe do some linking an anchoring.

or mentions a "way of thinking"). Assignments for Parts of a Person 1) For the next week or two. See if you can arrive at a similar part or trait that you can discuss that could be used in your favor. or putting him or herself down for some reason. You have probably heard the phrase "structure opportunities. You don't have to discuss them (yet) just make a point to note these traits. 8) Lets say someone says they have trouble meeting new people. See if you can note that "part" of who they are. trusting their own judgment. An easy way to do this is when a friend or acquaintance is being self-deprecating in some manner. and offer challenges" many times when studying these materials. and offer challenges to you on the audio. Just notice the trait or part being mentioned. make note of when you are having a personal conversation with anyone. 2) After you have become more comfortable noticing such traits after-the-fact. 3) Now that you can recognize these traits when talking to someone. see if you can notice them WHILE talking to someone. 3.7 OPPORTUNITIES AND CHALLENGES D7-T34 Listen to an example where I structure opportunities.. or parts.? What other part. but ROW see how many of the speaking and language tools you can use. make a note of these traits or parts. Opposite (or similar?) trait or part that might actually work in your favor Conversation with Traits or parts that were discussed. etc could you discuss? Try that out loud. and has been a bit difficult for many to really understand Page 61 . 9) Lets say someone says "I only like dating my TYPE"? What other part. Use the formula and the variations mentioned earlier. start to bring them up IN the conversation.. WHILE talking to someone. acknowledge it. being open. etc could you discuss? Try that out loud. trait. trait. see if you could maybe think of an opposite one that could be discussed. This area has caused some confusion. See if what they are saying describes or is pointing out any personality traits (or a "part" of themselves. and then find a way to discuss another part that is more favorable or positive.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 7) Do the above example again. and then point out some other trait or part that might work in your favor somehow. After the conversation. Or.

effect. You are in. or like to be perceived as having. Strategic Formula for Opportunities And Challenges Find or assume what someone wants Create an opportunity for them to get it or demonstrate they have it Make that "demonstration" work in your favor. • Show that you are qualifying and screening to some extent.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course and utilize. • Use these general things and assume they are there. "You may be beautiful.1 Using Their Own Processes D7-T36 If you know what people want to have. In this section. o This is the opposite of pleading and the "pedestal" scenario. Universal Wants • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control • Excitement Page 62 . • Show that you have standards. It's good to somehow work with structures and things that are already in someone's mind. o You are saying in a way. or want to be perceived as having. If you can somehow frame or map yourself as being a way for a person to fulfill things that someone already wants. Why this matters. but I am looking for more. Challenge them to demonstrate it.2 What do people want? - D7-T38 "Universal Wants" = Good. 3. these concepts are broken down and offered to you in a way that will truly help you to be able to use these powerful techniques. then they already have mechanisms for that in their mind. For example if someone is intelligent. • These are also good and convenient for practicing and examples. • It's easy. but may not be the most effective strategy. you are just showing that YOU have standards." • This is NOT about arrogance. or be with you.7. do it. this can be very effective. or show it. You then find some way to set things up so that choosing to listen to you. is a way for them to show their intelligence. 3. and wants to be seen as intelligent.7. you are using processes that they ALREADY have in their minds. Work with universal things that people would like to have. then by using their existing desires. using motivations that a person already has. and that you believe in yourself.

. or adventurous.. by listening to me or agreeing with me". or want to be perceived as having. etc • Finding these particular wants and desires o These "wants" can be possessions. or maybe a value. Warning . o You seem as if.. o You seem smart enough . o You seem cool enough . What does she want to have. etc)...... o Always have the question below in mind. can (use smart. o Are you able to . • Mini-Challenges o You might get this . o Try using some of the above items.This technique can be overused.. what she likes to do. and it can really annoy people if you do! Page 63 ... or want to be perceived as having? Mini-Challenges D7-T40 3... or be seen as having "X"... "you can show me that you have the thing you desire. along with the Universal Wants listed earlier! • We assume here that with a mini-challenge... o etc. o Maybe you can . Mini-Challenge Cheat Sheet o You seem . o You seem like ... o You seem like you may have good taste o etc.. but if you can find or work with specific wants or desires. or an image she wants other people to have of her. You are challenging an ASSUMED desire (a "Universal Want").. wants to have..3 There are certain things you can assume that most people may want to have. that's even better. her interests. o You might. o The smart people I know. You can imply a "test" for these things by issuing a mini-challenge. o If you are able to ..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course "Particular Wants" = Better! What does THIS person want? • Notice o o o particular things that this individual would like to have or be perceived as having She mentions wanting respect She defends her position. o Talk to her and find out what she wants or needs.. o Talk about what she does.. and challenging them in a way that says. or fun. o You may .....7. and discusses what is important to her She mentions something she likes or dislikes about a past boyfriend. we are using one of these sort of "universal" wants. o If you can . o I wonder if you can . o You might see .. o Talk about some of yours and see how she reacts.

Tactical Formula for Opportunities and Challenges Find something "X" that the person wants to have. or been seen as having You can assume based on normal things that people want (Universal Want) or Get information from talking (Particular Want) Create an opportunity for them to get or demonstrate "X". "Show me you have that thing by listening and/or agreeing with me" or. and Mini-Challenge Cheat Sheet. • Find what someone "wants". you will show me you have that". Creating Them Consider the wants and needs that a person may have .. 3. Challenge the person to do "Y".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Tactical Formula for Mini Challenges Assume something she wants to have.7. "By listening to and/or agreeing with me. • Challenge them to see if they will follow through and take action to get it. • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control • Excitement Page 64 . here we have to "assume" things for the sake of teaching) .4 Opportunities and Challenges D7-T43 Think of it like this. Make a statement that says. (and again.. • Create an opportunity for them to get that • Make it so that them "getting" that works in your favor. or be seen as having. by doing "Y" Make "Y" something that works in your favor.. Exercises for Mini-Challenges 1) Try piecing together items from the Universal Wants List. • Universal Wants • Particular Wants Opportunities.. in a way. What does someone Want? Assume. what someone wants. and see how many combinations you can come up with. or hopefully find.

o Mention how confident people can meet someone new.. talk about DOING them. Examples: • Does she really want X and see how Y can get that? • Does she really have X. • Provide an example from your own life. o .. or show what they have. o Let the person demonstrate how confident they are. • Confidence . • Here is a way a friend of mine showed that they have or was able to get X. and how the confident ones are able to take chances and have fun. by doing Y? Page 65 ...How can you create an opportunity for someone to appear confident (that works in your favor)? o Discuss people that YOU know.. o They can do exciting things. and see how doing Y would demonstrate it?> • Does she have what it takes to get X. where this opportunity benefits you (and hopefully pertains to the situation). even if their friends don't approve. what does a mature person do? How are they seen? How do they react? o They make their own decisions o They trust their own judgment o They can decide to do something NOW. or some way for this person to capture the opportunity • Provide an example of something she can say or do.. or want to be seen as having Structure this so that it is something that YOU would like them to do.Think about maturity . Provide an example of someone. Examples. by meeting this "challenge".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course You need to create an "opportunity" for each of these. o They can go against the grain. Challenges Are they ready to take advantage of that (this) opportunity? Challenge them to get what they want. • Here is how I read/heard that someone else had or was able to get X.. and/or HAVING them... • Mention something that you have read. on their own. and feel very comfortable with that. o Talk about how confident people can make their own choices. How can you make that sound like a way for them to "show" something? How to create an opportunity? • Here is a way for you to show me that you really have or was able to get X. Maturity . Talk about those things. Create the opportunity for them to show or demonstrate that they have or are perceived as having. • Provide a way to demonstrate that they DO have what they want. • Maybe point out something a friend did .. something they want.

Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • • • Does she want you to THINK she has X. It's NOT about creating an argument! Again." Adventurous o Maybe she wants to feel adventurous. and say something like "well. and she found that by taking chances and risks. It's different from the way most guys think. their own intuition.. but.. Is she ready to take chances? Take risks? Do something different? Maybe not . and mention that you read somewhere that successful people tend to be able to trust their own judgment. You discuss success for a while. Page 66 . You talk about a friend who has always wanted to feel secure. to show or demonstrate that? Examples: • Security o Say she wants to feel secure. Are they ready to do Y. I don't know if you are adventurous enough for this. Can she see an opportunity to have "X". • Find a way to map what YOU want. • • I know this is tricky. Later..... They want X.. Then at some point you talk about you and her getting together. as long as you trust yourself enough to feel that is OK . you mention "We should get together sometime. These are your "Assumed Wants". • Challenge them to do that. or be perceived as having. You talk about that for a while. how she may be adventurous. there are others shown earlier.. and do Y to get it? Can she do Y and make it happen? Can she see that Y will get her what she wants? Can she trust herself enough to do Y? etc. Some examples are shown below. Assumed Wants 2) Write a Mini Challenge for each if the above items... Exercises and Assignments for Opportunities and Challenges 1) Make a list of some assumed things that many people may want to have. then . what this means to her. she may have to do Y to prove that. Success o Maybe "success" is important to her..". she actually felt more secure about being able to take care of herself. • Find out what someone wants. I mean. to be a way for them to get what they want.

or wants to be perceived as having. "you might.. "you may . or be perceived as having Page 67 .. out loud 4) Make a note of some of the ones you practiced that seem closest to something you could easily say or do with people in your life. and go out and actually USE them for a while. friends." Mini Challenges 3) Practice the list of Mini Challenges you just created. and NOT just things from the "assumed" list. 5) Think about some people that you know quite well like family. For each person. "lets see if this makes sense to you "see if you can follow this . Write down these "Wants". co-workers. Practice these more. Hopefully these are specific to them...Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course "you seem like . Person What they want to have... write down something that each wants to have. and focus on using these. quite unique. etc.. Note some of your favorites ones below.

Example . Person Challenge 8) Practice each of those "Challenges" out loud. What is the opportunity. and they spend a LOT of time practicing. and write them down. are they ready? Can they take action? Can they DO this? Write down these "Challenges". Some way that questions . want to do what you wish.. You are "mapping" it to you because by doing what you discuss. (You want that friend to lighten up and be able to spend more time going out and having fun. or that in some way could be interpreted. Is there a way to create an "opportunity" for them to get or achieve that? Can you somehow create an opportunity that can be "mapped" in some way towards yourself. even subconsciously.A friend wants to be really good at a sport. see if you can create a "challenge".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 6) Consider the "want" that you identified from each of those persons above.) So you challenge their dedication to their sport by saying "I was reading about really good athletes and one thing that was pointed out was that a lot of them really can get burned out. as making them look at you more positively. Page 68 . they will be doing something that YOU want. etc? Give that some thought." The "opportunity" is for them to be a better athlete. and how can you "map" it to yourself? Write down these "Opportunities". See if you can make it sound natural.. The good athletes find a way to relax and have fun. and that allows them to be better at their sport. and "opportunity". Person Opportunity for them to get what they "want" that somehow works in your favor 7) For each "want".

They may have one meaning in one context. to do things that you would want. but in another context. they mean something different. but now also start to look for "opportunities and challenges" in a way that directs their desires towards you. do the same in terms of observing desires.9 SUMMARY D7-T66 Bringing it together. • SPEAKING POINTERS o The "Cool" Factor o Voice Tone And Tonality o Pacing And Pausing o Energy And Enthusiasm LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS o Adjectives And Adverbs o Trance Words o Weasel Phrases o Embedded Commands o Linking o Easy-Linking (This. This is one area that many guys actually ARE able to pick up and use easily if they have listened to the materials enough. Although there could be a section in this course that deals with these areas. These are those words or phrases that can mean more than one thing. given that this IS an area that many guys are able to do (with enough listening) and given the many OTHER areas that really DO need the assistance of a program like this. What do they "want".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 9) As you become more familiar with these practiced challenges and opportunities.. listen.8 AMBIGUITIES D7-T64 If you have studied this material for a while. that these become familiar. 3. Do what you can to bring these up while in the conversation if you can.. listen. 3. Listen. see if you can bring them up in conversations over the next few weeks. 10) While you are talking to people for the next 1-2 weeks.Point Or Touch On Positive And Negative LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES o Pace And Lead " Topics and Subjects * Mindset of Frame • Current Reality o Give Them A Reason • • • Page 69 . we will not be doing any specific work on Ambiguities. These.) o Easy Anchoring . really focus on what each person desires. That. you no doubt have heard many examples of "ambiguities".. Try to guess. Those) MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures o Linking Gestures (Towards And Away) o Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This. 11) For the next 1-2 weeks.. but also ask some questions and get into a discussion about it if possible. That. listen. so that you have heard them SO MANY TIMES. look at how many items we have covered so far.

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These are the building blocks for good Language skills. These are the sorts of skills that are most workable when they are truly "wired in" to someone, so that they are able to be used automatically. To try to "remember" to do such things can be very difficult. That approach would make having a conversation far too difficult and too much work! The best way is to work with these techniques SO much that these truly are just a part of "how you talk". With enough practice, and hearing these enough, you CAN have these become a part of how. YOU talk! So listen, practice, do the exercises, do the assignments, and do that all again, until these really do become a part of you, and a part of how you speak.

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D8-T1 A key aspect of making these tools work is getting the conversation into topic areas that will really work for you. The language tools you studied earlier are best used in the proper context, and in this section, we will learn how to get the conversation into areas that will create that context. Have you had these problems? • You JUMP too quickly into a pattern or topic, and it sounds really strange? • You just THROW a pattern AT her, and get a weird reaction? When you use these tools, or even use "patterns", it's not enough to just "say it", there has to be the correct CONTEXT for what is said! It's a process that she needs to go on and through with you. It's not enough to just find a conversational excuse to "throw" a pattern (or language tool) AT her! This section is about finding ways to just get into an interesting conversation and then towards and onto good topics. We want this to seem natural, and with some understanding, practice, and a few key strategies and tactics it will BE natural and automatic! 4.1 4.1.1 CHALLENGES -a Detailed And Specific Plans Are Just Not Workable. D8-T3

It's good to theorize to "say this", and then "say that", and then to use "this pattern", and "that pattern". However, the problem is that a lot of time the proper context is not presented well enough. The examples you may have seen in other products are just that, examples. The problem is that too many guys have taken them literally! Guys try to do "X, Y, Z," exactly, in order, with no sense of calibration, or being able to work and re-direct things in real time. Therefore, detailed tactical plans are not realistic. 4.1.2 Navigation Example D8-T4

Think of moving a conversation to a certain point, like taking a trip somewhere. Say you are in Chicago, and want to go to Los Angeles. You could have a detailed map of every turn and road, exact route numbers and lengths, etc. The problem is... what do you do if there is a detour? What if the road is changed, what if the map is wrong? You are lost! What if, instead, we teach you how to drive the car, and give you a general set of directions like "keep driving west, until you see the ocean, then turn left (south)". That way, you can handle just about any turns, roads, or detours that you may encounter! Conversations are different from roads too, because people are all unique, situations, times, surroundings etc. are unique and change from moment to moment. Therefore, if you want to get a conversation to go a certain way, then detailed plans made ahead of time are hard to work with. There are too many variables! We need a workable set of strategies and tactics that allows you, in real-time, to direct things the way that you want them to go. They need to be easy to follow, and easy to use, and something that you don't need to "think about", but can just DO easily.
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So we need a general set of guidelines, some overall strategies and tactics, so that you can have this good, intuitive sense of how to "steer" things, and get conversations to where you want them to go. As long as you are engaging a woman's emotions, capturing & leading her imagination, then you are moving in the right direction. Then, in that situation and in that context, linking all the positive & powerful things to you becomes more workable. Instead of a map, we are giving you a "compass". We need a strategy for managing conversations that can to do this gradually, in a way that seems natural! If it's too abrupt or makes the conversation strained, it will sound weird. The strategy must LEAD the conversation towards good topics and subjects in a way that seems natural, and is not TOO abrupt. Examples: (Listen to the audio.) • Talking about a printer o Moving TOO quickly towards emotional topics o Can sound strange • Driving a car and taking a turn (Analogy) o Think of driving down freeway and needing to switch to different direction. o You can't make a hard, right angle turn on a dime! o You need to turn the car, slowly, on a ramp to go in a different direction. When we control conversions, we need to find a way to take it gradually in a new direction. Many guys try to do the hard and fast switch, and they crash in the process! We will learn to move things in a way that makes it seem natural, but it will be deliberate. 4.1.4 She Must Be Engaged In The Conversation! D8-T10

It's important to get conversations into the right area and have HER go along with you. Not just "bring it up" (a topic or pattern), but it must be natural and she must "go along" with it and be a PART of it. She must be actually THINKING about what you are discussing! It has to happen naturally. No weird jumps. It's not enough to just talk; she must BE a part of the conversation! So, don't just "jump" to a topic. Don't find an "excuse" to bring it up. Take the conversation there, take her WITH you, and have her be a part of it! What really helps is to have a genuine interest (or at least curiosity) in her and the conversation, not just thinking to yourself; "How can I use this?" 4.2 HOW CONVERSATIONS HAPPEN D8-T12

How does this really occur? We will break this down so that we have a way to really affect this process. 4.2.1 Conversational Dynamics D8-T13

How do conversations happen? Most of them occur somewhat randomly as the conversation flows from topic to topic over time, and can end up almost anywhere after a while. By the time YOU move from one topic to the next,
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you may end up in a very different place from where you began. However, there is a series of steps as things move forward, as shown in Figure 4.2.1-1.

Figure 4.2.1-1: Conversations Move Through Many Topics

Each of these steps between topics tends to be related. Topic 1 relates to Topic 2. Topic 2 relates to Topic 3, etc. For example, you can start to talk about Cars, and then move to one aspect of that topic, Car Seats. Then it's easy to move to some aspect of that topic, which maybe something that seats are made of, like Leather. Then maybe you talk about Leather Furniture, etc. (See Figure 4.2.1-2.)

Figure 4.2.1-2: Each Topic Flows To the Next Topic In most cases, each Topic is related to the one before.

After a series of such steps, you can be at a quite different topic (like an apartment that you used to live in) even though you started at a quite different topic (Cars). In most cases, it's very difficult to predict where a conversation will go after many of these steps. As you go through a few topic shifts (as shown in the diagrams), although each individual shift relates to the topic before and after that shift, after a series of shifts you can end up talking about almost anything! Therefore, even if you start the conversation at a great topic, you can get off-track and into topics that will not work in your favor. Conversely, what is needed is a way to start at almost any topic at all, and by steering that process (of moving from Topic 1, to Topic 2, Topic 3, etc) take the conversation into better and better topic areas that will serve your purposes. 4.2.2 Conversational Model D8-T14

We introduce a model to assist in discussion, understanding, and control of conversations. If you start at a topic, how do you go to another one? This process happens all of the time very easily. The key is that the movement from one topic to the next takes places easily because there are so many options involved. From any topic (Topic 1) it is easy to flow to any of 6-8 other, related topics (Topic 2 Candidates). People usually just "talk" and naturally the conversation moves from the first topic to the next one. Since the "next" topic is related, this process seems natural and is easy to do. In fact, you do this all the time without really knowing about it. (We are creating a model to describe a process that happens naturally, so that we can teach you a way to have an affect on that process). Figure 4.2.2-1 shows how from one topic, the conversation can flow easily to many related topics.

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Once the conversation moves to one of these eight topics, it's easy to move to one of eight more. For example if in Figure 4.2.2-1, the conversation flows from "Cars" to "Where you bought it" (as in, where you bought the car), then now we have a situation like that shown in Figure 4.2.2-2.

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Figure 4.2.2-2: From A Second Topic, Another Group of Candidates If "Cars" was discussed first, and then "Where you bought it" was discussed next, there are now many ways to go in the next step. In the figure, you see how the conversation moves from Cars, to "Where you bought it". After that, there are many "candidate" topics where the conversation can flow. Perhaps it moves to the "Part of town" where the car was purchased.

Now from the topic of "Where you bought it" (a car), there are easily eight places that you can go from there, shown as the "Topic 3 candidates". This process continues throughout a conversation. This process happens regardless of the specific topics being discussed. Conversations flow from topic to topic, as shown in a general manner in Figure 4.2.2-3.
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the plans that many guys try to use to "Talk about X.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Topic 1 Topic 2 Topic 3 Topic 4 Figure 4. and the conversation flows along in this manner. then EACH of the eight different candidates for Topic 2 can then lead to their own eight.2. When this happens in succession. However. because there are SO many ways that things can go! Page 75 .2. since it's so easy to go from any topic to 6-8 others. when talking to some random person. If Topic 1 can lead to eight different candidates for Topic 2. and at each step after that. This results in easily over 500 topics that could be selected by the time we arrive at Topic 4! In only three shifts of the topic ("topic shifts" as shown in the figure) we end up with many many possibilities of where the conversation might end up. In many ways. then talk about Y. you can end up with the conversation going almost anywhere! Figure 4.2-4 shows what happens when all the topics are considered. you can affect this process (and we will teach that to you). In general. the Figures that have been shown so far only show a small portion of the total topics towards which a conversation can flow.2-3: Topics Flow from One to the Next Each topic in a conversation can easily lead to 6-8 others. an so on. Do you see why the pre-planned approaches can be difficult?! Even if you ARE able to have the conversation start from a specific place (Topic 1). With some skill and technique. then talk about Z" are very difficult to really work with. you can have up to eight different ways to go at EACH step. there is no way to know exactly where it will end up by the time you have moved forward a few steps! Imagine trying to predict ahead-of-time exactly where you may arrive (among those 512 options).

a conversation may start from one topic or subject (Topic 1). and so on.2.2. As seen in the diagram.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 1st Topic Shift 2nd Topic Shift 3rd Topic Shift Figure 4. Page 76 . it can flow from there.2-4: Topic Candidates and Topic Shifts If each topic can flow to eight others. you can end up in over 500 different topic areas! We can create a general Conversation Model that shows this process (Figure 4. then after only three shifts in the topic. Once Topic 2 has been discussed.2-5). It then can flow easily to maybe 6-8 others (the diagram shows fewer for the sake of clarity).

2. is an awareness of this phenomenon that is called the "Topic Turning Point".2-5: Conversation Model The "Tree of Subjects" showing how thousands of subjects can be reached in just a few steps of the conversation.3 Topic Turning Point D8-T15 The KEY concept the needs to be understood to gain the ability to manage conversations. if you assume that from any topic you could go to any of 8 other topics. If you are discussing one specific topic. then for that diagram to be really accurate it would have to show over 30.3-1. that they become far too many to shown in the diagram. it is quite easy to move from that onto 6-8 related topics.2. This process of moving from the first topic to one of 6-8 relevant topics is the process of moving through a "Topic Turning Point" as shown in Figure 4. (The figure only shows a portion of how many subjects and topics can be reached). Page 77 . There are SO many ways it can flow.000 different subjects or topics that could be discussed by the time you are at "Level 6" in the conversation!! 4. In fact.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Figure 4.2. The diagram only shows a small fraction of them (so that the diagram is not even more cluttered than it already is!).

3-2: How TTP Selections Effect the Conversation The selections made at each TTP are what actually "steer" the conversation in a certain direction. Page 78 .2. ask a question. as long as the new topic is "related" to the first (this is shown in the diagram by the "candidates") then this change is easy to do. The key thing to realize is that this process of Topic Turning Point (TTP) selection occurs over and over. after one topic has been discussed for a short while.2.2. However. For example. the overall flow of a conversation comes about due to many of these TTP choices being made.3-2 Topic Turning Points Figure 4. make a statement.3-1: The Topic Turning Point (TTP) When discussing any topic (First Topic) there are easily 6-8 different topics to which the conversation can be moved (Candidate Topics). introduce an idea. A general way of looking at this process is shown in Figure 4. etc. and throughout a conversation.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Candidate Topics Figure 4. the conversation "shifts" slightly. Someone might make a comment. Therefore. the conversation can then move to another topic.

we want the conversation to be positive. The flow of the conversation starts. depressing Confrontational ... and they quick steer the conversation in that manner. fun. choices are made moment to moment.) then you CAN direct how a conversation flows. and imagine if you had a general way to manipulate these TTPs. positive. and the conversation tend to into one of four general areas.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Normally. no one is "deciding" the TTPs. is coming soon. positive way to look at anything. conversations tend to go in one of several ways. conversations are one of four types: • • • • Fun. fun. they find a way to point out something negative.. to "route" conversations so that they end up being the kinds of conversations that YOU want to have.. This selection just "happens". Many people do this "TTP selection" process automatically. they somehow see it in terms how in effects their beliefs. positive aspects of every topic being discussed. we want to first start to steer things in the best general manner. That ability alone is enough for our purposes. No matter WHAT you talk to them about. IMPORTANT: The overall direction of a conversation comes about due to a successive selection of TTPs. very quickly. interesting things". and some training (which . Look in the diagrams. Sometimes this can be VERY apparent.3.1-1. and interesting. However. isn't it? In general. with some awareness of this process.Those are just general examples. but you will have some control over the overall direction. interesting Mundane and uninteresting Negative. we are going to later teach you a way to be able to make these TTP selections. 4. they Good Boring Bad Argument could be more specific (and we will get there). • Other people may do the opposite. D8-T16 D8-T16 So how can you actually affect the flow of a conversation. moment-to-moment. (See Figure 4.. fun. By manipulating TTPs from moment to moment. Can you see how you may be able to affect where a conversation goes? You might not be able to predict EXACTLY where it ends up. and that work in YOUR favor. For example: • Maybe someone always finds a fun.. The overall strategy at the beginning is then to "talk about positive. you can direct where the overall conversation goes. So to start our process of learning how to manage conversations. As you have probably guessed by now.1 GENERAL CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Want. In a very broad sense. These types of people are making TTP selections based on a strategy of finding things that are negative to talk about. • Other people able to direct conversations based on their own beliefs and their own political motivations as well.) Page 79 . no matter WHAT is discussed.3 4. These people are able to automatically make TTP choices based on a strategy of finding good.3. • Other people direct conversations based upon their own moral or religious values. and do so in a way that sounds VERY natural. easily and naturally? That IS the point.

you can still "steer" back towards "Fun. Page 80 . and Interesting topics and subjects. Positive. do what you can to steer in that direction. interesting things. positive and interesting. Don't engage in conversations when it's NOT about positive. Positive. fun. interesting things. fun. No matter what is brought up. Strategic Formula for General Conversational Management To steer the conversation in a good direction. you see that you want to focus the conversation onto topics that are "Fun. Even if things move towards other areas. and Interesting". Introduce topics that are fun.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course General Conversational Management Conversations tend to flow in one of four major ways. steer towards Fun. interesting things. and Interesting" things. fun.1-1: General Conversational Management Consider all of the ways a conversation can go.3. Positive. so from the earliest stages. Figure 4. How do you do that? • • • Show interest when someone discusses positive. If you break that down into 4 main directions. bring up positive.

the TTP.3. you make note of where you are in the conversation. Moment To Moment D8-T19 Look at the overall flow of a conversation and break it down to its smallest point that we can affect. Repeat.2-1. or something you read. How do you move things in that direction? You can: • Ask a question • Make a comment • Make a joke • Quote someone you heard. Which Of these are Fun. and then steer things in the correct direction. the topic "candidates" that were shown earlier). • Etc.2 How To Steer Conversations. and interesting"? Moment-to-moment. So you just think to yourself "Where can I go that is fan. and Interesting". positive. and interesting" and just move things in that direction. you can always think of 6-8 other related topics or subjects.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4.. For any subject. and interesting" (See Figure 4. Page 81 .) Tactical Formula for General Conversational Management Keep thinking . and Interesting? That is the direction to go! Candidate Topics Figure 4. You then think of several ways you can go (the related topics. You think of the "candidates" (the related topics or subjects that you can discuss) that serve you at the time. you can direct where the overall conversation goes. Positive. and interesting?" Move the conversation in that direction. as long as it moves things in a way that answers the question "Where can I go that is fun. positive."Where can I go that is fun. Positive. .2-1: Topic Turning Point Navigation for General Conversational Management No matter what subject you start talking about. as we discussed earlier. positive. positive.3.The overall direction of a conversation comes about due to a successive selection of TTPs. move things towards the related topics that are "Fun.3.Where can I go that is "fun. TTP options. and then you move things in that direction! Remember . TTP Mantra . By manipulating TTPs from moment to moment..

you get to an overall "area" that will work. "fun. You are steering things towards the direction that you want the conversation to go. Positive.3-2. and Interesting! Figure 4. you can work more towards certain topic areas. the most important thing to do is to focus on moving thing in a direction that is . (See Figure 4.3-1: Moving Through Topics Using General Conversational Management Early in a conversation.3.3.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Later in the conversation..3 The Model With Strategy And Tactics In Place D8-T23 As you make TTP choice after TTP choice (See Figure 4. positive.3. Positive. just keep thinking about where you can go that is "Fun. but in the early part of the conversation. Page 82 .3-1..). 4. and interesting". Do this for a while.) Keep things moving in the direction of Fun. and Interesting".3.

keep steering in the right direction and in many cases you WILL get towards the right area soon enough (and if not. 4.3-2: General Conversational Management Model The most important direction to go. and Interesting topics and subjects. and Interesting!/ Figure 4. maybe that person is not someone that you want to talk to anyway). Positive. what was the main topic? Topics Page 83 . always move towards topics and subjects that are Fun. and write down the topic for each. Positive. or where you are.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course General Conversational Mgt Model No matter where you start. especially early in a conversation. Even if you temporarily move away from that direction or end up in an area that is not very positive or interesting.3. is towards Fun.3. At some particular moment early in the conversation.4 Exercises and Assignments D8-T25 Exercises for General Conversational Management 1) Think of some conversations that you have been in recently.

or Candidate Topics).Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 2) Based on each of those topics. list 6-8 different ways you could go. things you could comment on. Write each of those down. Topic TTP Options (Candidate Topics') Page 84 . directions you could "take" the conversation (these are the TTP Options. consider it a topic that leads to a TTP (copy each item above into the "Topic" area below). For each of those Topics. ask about.

Positive. 5) Practice again on each by moving things in the direction of the second item that was circled. which are the best? Which of these would move the conversation in a way that is best for you (think of "Fun. Page 85 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Of the 6-8 different TTP Options you have written above for each Topic. maybe by making a comment. making a statement. 4) For each Topic. asking a question. etc. and Interesting")? Select two "candidates" and circle or highlight those two.. what would it have been like to have moved the conversation in the direction of the first item you circled? Practice that out loud for each Topic above. whatever it might take to move things in that direction.

the conversation becomes more enjoyable for everyone. Instead of the more general area of fun. but the REAL key is to at least get to the point where you can very quickly think of at least 1 or 2 ways to go that are Fun. we are turning you into someone that people LIKE to talk to! You know the type of person that people enjoy talking to. and people REALLY interested. positive. even at the start of a conversation. maybe offer an opinion. we want it to be really interesting. If this is a challenge for you. It WILL get easier. Maybe start out by looking at conversation after the fact. After a while. where COULD I have taken things". having conversations with. 2) Now that you are able to quickly find 1 or 2 good TTP options. and positive conversation.Is that the sort of person you want to talk to and spend time with? Maybe not. they will not go down a path of having a fun. we want things to get even more Page 86 . Positive. • By moving things in this way. Building on what we learned in the last section. D8-T33 D8-T33 We want the conversation to be more than just positive. You may start to find however. Do this for a while until the process of finding 1 or 2 good "Ways to go" in a conversation (good TTP options) can happen very rapidly for you. Make it so that it becomes easy for you to come up with a list of "options" very quickly.4 4. Just do what you can so that the TTP shifts in a direction that is fun. we can start to direct the conversation into an even BETTER area. In general. don't worry. At first. or without an overall strategy in mind). that no matter WHAT you do with some people. you can direct where the overall conversation goes. thinking "what COULD I have done. you may have to think of 6-8 options. At any moment you should be able to think "Where can I go with this?". make a comment.5 Summary D8-T32 Remember what was said earlier: • The overall direction of a conversation comes about due to a successive selection of TTPs (which normally occur at random. really be aware of the TTP opportunities in your day-to-day life.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Assignments for General Conversational Management 1) For the next week or so. fascinating. positive and interesting topics. look for moments where things can be "steered" in a certain way.3. We want to focus the aim of our conversational management skills even more. we want to work with topics that get the emotions involved." 4. start to take the conversation there! Ask a question. interesting. whatever it takes.1 ADVANCED CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Really Want.4. etc. the more YOU can and will become that guy! 4. the imagination moving. When talking to anyone. You then have to wonder . By manipulating TTPs from moment to moment. interesting. engaging. and spending time with? The type of guy that people seek out to spend time with? The more you do these types of exercises. Interesting. inquire about something.

how do we work that in what we are doing moment-to-moment? How can we do things that will make that happen? Page 87 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course interesting. Using General Conversational Management. Strategic Formula for Advanced Conversational Management To direct the conversation into even BETTER areas. and steer using Advanced Conversational Management Figure 4.4.1-1: Advanced Conversational Management Focuses the Steering From the start of a conversation. there were 4 main directions towards which a conversation may go. you move it in ways that engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way. we were able to move things in the direction of Fun. more excitement. Now from that point.4. to "steer" things even more towards what we want. Positive. there are many ways the conversation can move. and more involvement of the imagination. there are many ways to go.1-1. Positive. we now shift our strategy of "steering" things to direct the topics in a more focused manner using Advanced Conversational Management.) General Conversational Management takes the conversation into the Fun. steer the conversation towards directions that engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way. So. To move the conversation into more interesting areas. So we narrow our focus. We use our strategy of working with the TTPs. We move forward and want to get a more emotional tone. Interesting area. From there. (See Figure 4. With that as a general strategy. and Interesting.

4. we shift the focus of how we navigate TTPs. and with that strategy in mind.4.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4.3 The Model With Advanced Strategy And Tactics In Place D8-T38 (Before we move on to looking at the model.4.Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Move the conversation in that direction.) Page 88 .3-1 for an explanation.2-1: Topic Turning Point Navigation for Advanced Conversational Management After using General Conversational Management for a while. Repeat. we need to change the way the model is shown.4. Positive. but now think "where can I go that will engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". TTP Fun. and explain a bit more as to its meaning and interpretation. With that established. and Interesting" area. we look at the concept of the TTP. we need to use the TTP as a way to move things in the right direction.2 Steering Conversations Moment To Moment using Advanced Conversational Management D8-T35 Again. 4.) TTP Mantra " Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Tactical Formula for Advanced Conversational Management Keep thinking . Interesting Topics Which of these "Engage the Emotions and imagination in a Positive Way"? That is the direction to go! Candidate Topics Figure 4. Positive. we can assume that we are talking about subjects which fit into the "Fun.2-1. See Figure 4. (See Figure 4.4.

Figure 4.3-1: Understanding the Conversational Management Model The "levels" shown in the models are not meant to be exact. it may take ten. It may happen in ten minutes. and (3) in the figure above (and in the next figure) helps to show this. Positive. or thirty.) the conversation moves on for a while. For example. with thousands upon thousands of possible possible routes and outcomes. these diagrams will indicate a VERY condensed version of the number of steps involved. From now on in the course. the graphics we will use will show an even more "condensed" version of this process. At that point. but a way to show a "trend". (2). the model above is what we used to show a starting point (1). not an exact number of steps or outcomes. etc. so that the various stages of a conversation can be easily illustrated. where every "step" (TTP. and Interesting conversation (2) may take four steps. there can be a whole "tree" of possibilities leading from there. we are not showing that there are exactly "four steps" between points (1) and (2). The locations of points (1). For example. Page 89 . once again ending up with thousands of topics that could be discussed by the time you get through more topic shifts (3).Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Understanding the Conversational Management Model The model attempts to show a process that has many many steps. and it ends up at a certain area (2).4. This can result in so many possibilities (many thousands within a few steps) that it's important to look at these diagrams as a way to show "trend". When starting from ANY topic (1) to a place where you are firmly established for a period of time in a Fun. Positive. But after using the general techniques (Fun. or topic shift) shown on the digram may represent many steps in an actual conversation. In practice.

and states. the conversation will get more and more of an "emotional" tone to it.4. If you refer to Figure 4. For a while. exciting. and then Advanced Conversational Management. if you use the language tools which we learned about earlier in the course. and Interesting conversation (2). subjects. only a few of which are shown in the diagram. And of course while doing that. This also is followed for a series of steps and a period of time. The subjects will get more and more fascinating. the conversation will get better and better. in practice it may be good to follow a series of topics for 5.3-2. Now the emphasis is on ways to "Engage the Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way". 10.4. emotional topics. Although the diagram shows only 2 steps (for simplicity). or however long it takes to be firmly established in a Fun.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course We started at one topic. General Conversational Management techniques are used. This is shown between points (2) and (3). 10 topic shifts. we focused the conversation towards moving things in a direction that is "Fun Positive and Interesting.3-2: Advanced Conversational Management Model Early in the conversation. to yourself! Advanced Conversational Management Model Figure 4. you can see how General Conversational Management. 20. Then a shift is made towards focusing the conversation even more using Advanced Conversational Management. Page 90 . After that has been established. we now focus more on moving in a direction that will "Engage the Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way". you end up linking and associating many fascinating. and could be at any of thousands of topics after 6. If you follow these two simple strategies together (and the tactical approach of simply watching the TTPs and moving things in the right way). Positive. or 30 minutes. This is shown from point (1) to point (2) in the diagram. are used together to move forward in a conversation. This too can take any number of steps. 8. feelings. until it is firmly established that the conversation has engaged the emotions and imagination of the participant. As time goes on.

TTP Options (Candidate Topics') Page 91 . what was the main topic? Topics 2) Based on each of those topics. consider it a topic that leads to a TTP (copy each above into the "Topic" areas below). Write each of those down.4 Exercises and Assignments D8-T39 Exercises for Advanced Conversational Management 1) Think of some conversations that you have been in recently. These should be conversations where it is already obvious that it is a fun.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4.4. Topic a. For each of those Topics. things you could comment on. ask about. directions you could "take" the conversation (these are the TTP Options. and interesting conversation. list 6-8 different ways you could go. positive. or Candidate Topics). At some particular moment in that conversation. and write down the topic for each.

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Assignments for Advanced Conversational Management 1) For the next week or so. This is best when applied to a conversation that is ALREADY fun. which 1 or 2 would tend to "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way"? Which ones move things in a way that is best for you? Select two "candidates" and circle or highlight these two. thinking "what COULD I have done. So. It WILL get easier. If this is a challenge for you. don't worry. asking a question..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Of the 6-8 different TTP Options you have written above for each Topic. Maybe start out by looking at conversation after the fact. 4) For each Topic. start to take the conversation there! Ask a question.. At first. we focus further on the TTP options! Page 93 . 4.1 Summary MORE ADVANCED CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT More About Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Really Want. what would it have been like to have moved the conversation in the direction of the first item you circled? Practice that out loud for each Topic above. seductive things. really be aware of the TTP opportunities in your day-to-day life. So. maybe by making a comment. whatever it might take to move things in that direction. Just do what you can so that the TTP shifts in a direction that can "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". but the REAL key is to at least get to the point where you can very quickly think of at least 1 or 2 ways to go that "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". even things with some degree of sensual connotation to them. 2) Now that you are able to quickly find 1 or 2 good TTP options for yourself that "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". and interesting. make a comment. but be especially aware of wanting to move things to "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way".5 4. you may have to think of 6-8 options. 5) Practice again on each by moving things in the direction of the second item that was circled. we want to steer things more towards romantic. Do this for a while. inquire about something.4. where COULD I have taken things".. D8-T46 D8-T47 D8-T47 As you can see. making a statement. what next? At some point in the conversation. once again.5 4. positive. we are "steering" things more and more in a direction that we wish to go. etc. until the process of finding 1 or 2 ways to go that "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way" in a conversation can happen very rapidly for you.5. fascinating. whatever it takes. maybe offer an opinion.

5. Repeat. However. This may seem odd or hard to do. fascinating. seductive things?" Move the conversation in that direction.2-1: Topic Turning Point Navigation for More Advanced Conversational Management After using General and Advanced Conversational Management. positive and interesting thing.5. fascinating. 4. The focus now is upon topics that get you closer towards Romantic. 4.2 Steering Conversations Using More Advanced Conversational Management D8-T49 TTP Mantra (See Figure 4. and seductive things.3 The Model With More Advanced Strategy And Tactics In Place D8-T52 We are just closing in. seductive things is much easier after you have first move towards fun.2-1. Moving towards romantic.3-1. if you have been in a conversation for a while. and focusing more and more towards areas and topics that work. Fascinating. seductive things?" Figure 4. and followed the other strategies and tactics shown earlier.) "Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic.5. fascinating.) Page 94 ."Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. steer the conversation towards romantic. you will have taken things in the right direction and this will be much easier. This gets her mind into thinking more and more about these things. and associating YOU with them! (See Figure 4. fascinating. and then topics that engage the emotions and imagination. Seductive things Tactical Formula for More Advanced Conversational Management Keep thinking .5. then the focus shifts again towards directing things in a specific way.5.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Strategic Formula for More Advanced Conversational Management To further direct the conversation into even BETTER areas.

and Seductive. Positive. After that type of conversation has been established (3). which targets topics and subjects that are Romantic. Early on. moving to point (3). the focus moves towards selecting items based on More Advanced Conversational Management. moving to point (4) Page 95 . Fascinating. Then the Advanced Conversational Management Techniques place the focus more upon items that involve the Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way..5. and Interesting. there is a different focus at each stage. shown from point (1) to (2).3-1: More Advanced Conversational Management Model As the conversation progresses. General Conversational Management techniques place the focus on selecting items that are Fun.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course More Advanced Conversational Management Model Figure 4.

the way it really DOES happen.6. Page 96 . Too many guys are too caught up in this one-shot dream of traveling once across the model and getting an amazing result.6. that they will get an AMAZING reaction in their first movement across the Model.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4. 4.6. to a positive one. and then an emotional one.6 CONVERSATIONAL FRACTIONATION D9-T1 Using these Conversational Management skills in the real world may be quite different in practice from the way most guys "think" it will happen.1-1. This hardly ever ever happens.1 The 1-Shot Beeline Fallacy D9-T2 Guys assume that they will travel from a general topic. (See Figure 4.1-1: The Dream of a 1-Shot Path To Success! A common misperception is that many guys think that if they can just move a conversation from the start. and get things to be more and more fascinating and exciting. will work in your favor. then a sensual one.) The Dream that Does Not Happen! Figure 4.MAGIC! However that is NOT the way it works in the real world. and then . Moreover.

Have fun. Just start the process again. move on to the next step. no matter where you start. you go back towards something more "normal". emotional and imaginative topics.. you may jump back just several steps in our Conversational Management Process. In this way. Great! Talk about that for a while.. no matter how the conversation jumps around.. g) Do the whole process over and over. and then at some point..6.6. using the Conversational Management techniques Get as far through the model as you can. Use the language tools. stay there and talk about it for a while. Then at some point. No problem.. or maybe the conversation shifts back to that place due to something she says. This is where a process is done repeatedly over and over. you back off. here is how this works. Maybe you start from a very general topic and get all the way through the model towards a very very fascinating topic or subject. When we say "go back". starts. So. You just start the process again. The conversation starts. you are always moving towards positive topics. (See Figure 4. the conversation ends up being very interesting and fascinating! 4.. This actually works better! We are actually using Fractionation. So. And again. You back up to a more general topic.2 How Fractionation Works D9-T3 The real world has stops. Start at any topic (you are on the far left side of the Model) Move forward towards the right. No problem. Maybe several times.) a) b) c) d) Page 97 .. moving through the model towards the right. Of if you can't seem to get to a good place. restarts. If you get to a very good place. you take a conversation from the early stages through the process.31.. Then you "back up" to some extent (even all the way back to a very general topic area) and then move forward across the model again. e) Then move back (towards the left side of the model) This may happen because: • The person you are talking to does that (she asks a question) • Or maybe you do it (just to lighten things up) f) Then start again.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4. You might do that on your own. and fascinating and seductive topics.3 Using Conversational Fractionation D9-T5 Start at some normal topic and move through the model towards the right. etc. and then . Because no matter where you start from.. Maybe you move all the way back to a very "normal" topic (which would be all the way on the left side of the model).6.. This actually ADDS to the power and effectiveness of what you are doing. goes for some distance through the model (maybe all the way through).

As things move forward from (1). it's not a bad idea to back up a bit (9) and then move forward again.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Conversational Fractionation at Work Figure 4. that no matter WHAT you talk about. there is no such thing as a conversational "Dead End"! Page 98 . This is not a problem. Fractionation happens at times because even when you may be at a fairly good place for a while (8). simply back up (3) and then try moving into a better direction (4). interesting. it ends up being fun.6.4 Dead Ends Come Back To Life! D9-T6 With this new strategy of using Conversational Fractionation. there is a continued movement up and into better and better areas of conversation. As time goes on (5-12) the conversation gets into better and better areas. over time. The overall trend is that. at times maybe they move towards an area that is not too good (2).3-1: How Conversation Fractionation Works on the Model Follow the conversation as it moves from (1) to (12).6. and fascinating! 4. You become one of those fascinating guys.

etc. or maybe negative. how do we pull this together? 4. When on good topics. use the language tools. fascinating.1 • Conversational Management Approach Start on just about ANY subject. • What if you can't make the conversation positive? • What if she always points out the negative aspect? • What if there is NO emotional engagement at ALL? Well. Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Move things in that direction.. talked more. Just back up. Where can I go that is fun. Do that for a while and then think . and go down another path! 4.3 Summary D9-T10 Go have fun with these tools! Page 99 .7 CONVERSATIONAL OVERVIEW AND REVIEW D9-T7 So. Do that for a while and then think . —* The entire time: o If you hit a "dead end".2 What If The Outcome Is Not What You Expected? D9-T9 Despite your best efforts. (think of your TTP options).Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course If you happen to take a "wrong turn" somehow and get into an area of discussion that is boring. and get the effect.. with you! 4.. you might have just found out that they are NOT someone you want to spend time with! That's not a total loss because you STILL learned more..7.7. No problem.. have more material to use in conversations in the future! 4. and the person becomes interested and fascinated. uninteresting. and use the Strategy and Tactics of the Conversational Management techniques! Look at "Dead Ends" as being just like a bad turn on a road. you just back up. and interesting? Move things in that direction. or what you both have in common Move forward with the Strategies and Tactics in mind... positive.. stay there for a while. o Comment on what is around o Mention common items. seductive things? Move things in that direction. use the language tools as much as possible! D9-T8 • • • • • • • • • Keep moving the conversation into these interesting fascinating areas .. this can happen. o If you get to a good subject or topic.7. back up a few steps. Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic.

In the meantime. then you may want to go back in those earlier sections. However.great! It's easier to use the language tools if you are discussing topics with which you are familiar.. this is something we can and will work on with you. Can you talk passionately about something? Anything? Hopefully. some practice. and it's even better if you are passionate about those topics. yes! How well can you talk about topics that YOU are passionate about while using many of the language tools we talked about in the earlier parts of the course? If you can do that very well . The more experience you get. Themes vs. and closer towards the subjects that will really serve your intent. Most men may not be very familiar with many of the topics that we REALLY want to get into. However. the more familiar you will be with these topics. and THEY said. you should be able to use them with subjects in which you are already interested! Page 101 . we have talked about managing conversations.. A topic is a particular area of discussion that is taking place in a moment. especially as they get more interesting. the more you talk to people about such things. and while talking about subjects and topics that YOU are really passionate about. and that statement (regarding having actually talked to someone about the topics) will be TRUE! So.) Before you can use the language tools with new subjects that you are learning about. fascinating.0 TOPICS D9-T11 What do you talk about? As the conversation gets more interesting. fun. what can we do here in this course to help you? We have talked about the way to talk and use language. fascinating. Now we want you to become familiar with topics that will really work well for you! We are going to work with some of these topics. and some familiarity with this type of thing. go ahead and practice! (Or maybe do that the next time you go through the course. TOPICS OF ENTHUSIASM AND PASSION D9-T14 What are you passionate about? Few things are more compelling in a person than for them to be passionate about something (hopefully many things) in life. to get the best effect you will have to be a PART of that conversation and familiar with the topics that may come up. the easier it will get.1 Themes are a way through a discussion or through the "tree of subjects" that we showed earlier. if using those language tools is problem for you. You will be able to say things like "I was talking to someone about this the other day.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 5.". and then the more "material" you will have. so that YOU have some material. You want to be able to discuss these topics easily. Talking about these topics may be a challenge for many men. Topics • • 5. What do you talk about? There is no substitute for experience.

. a topic that is an SOT. and seductive. or sports. at least. or topics that are very close to that concept. Topics that access emotions. but how effective are those as subjects given the "purpose" of the discussion? You want to discuss topics and things which deal with seduction.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course So. in the right way Use the language tools! You want to be familiar with these topics (SOTs) and able to discuss them easily: maybe not ALL of them. These are called "Seduction Oriented Topics". in some ways.) Page 102 . How good are you at the earlier sections that dealt with the language tools? It may be a good idea to go back over those sections.. You may talk about cars. and emphasize discussing topics in which YOU are interested and passionate about.. or cleaning the toilet.. or near. Examples of SOTs • Connections • Going for it • Making good decisions • Surrendering to feelings • Getting excited • Feeling excited • Trusting your judgment • Taking chances • Indulgence • Maturity • Good decisions • .. Seduction Oriented Topics (SOTs) . sensual.just TALKING about these can create a good effect. You want to be able to discuss topics that deal on some level with Seduction.2 SEDUCTION ORIENTED TOPICS D9-T15 In the context of this course (and your intent in talking with .Topics that bring up images and thoughts that are romantic. (Every guy has his favorites and ones that work best for him. stay there as long as you can! Talk about it. SOTs are the "end goals" when it comes to managing or directing a conversation. excitement. work it. feelings. etc. The conversational management sections will help you to move the conversation in a way that will get you near these topics areas. but doing so while using the language tools. 5. or. judge for yourself. can create an AMAZING effect! When you do get a conversation into an area near an SOT. but a good number of them. and link it to you! When • • • • • you are at or near an SOT: Use the correct tone of Voice Pace and Lead correctly Link things to you Point at the right times. Your point is to get to.. someone) some topics are easier to work with than others. or the office.

Eventually. using as many of the language tools as you can. or on TV. and the more you talk to and with people about them. or seduction per se. ask about them. and without "thinking" about the language tools. by there very nature. the more you practice using the tools. Meaning. You can use some of those that were listed earlier if you wish. or joke about them. Or are taking!) . and hopefully add some of your own. use as many of the language tools as you can. Write down your list of SOTs. keep it there. Or. you will be able to just "talk" about the subject while using the tools that are available. and also topics that you have heard in other materials and products that you have. Get the conversation there. you JUST need to be able to talk. and while there. the easier it will get! Strategic Formula for Seduction Oriented Topics SOTs are topics that. easily. Think about other topics you have heard mentioned in this program. bring up images and thoughts that may work for you. have stories about them. Think of SOME way to discuss these. or comment on them! Talk aloud for several minutes about each. 3) Practice talking about each aloud. talk about something you heard. and discuss these subjects. or even watched in a movie! (Or heard in a course that you took . or overhear from others) and listen for when any of these SOTs come up in conversation. hopefully some way that involves you and your own life. but the more you think about them. or in movies. read. Seduction Oriented Topics 2) You must become familiar with these! You must be able to talk about them. or anything like that. the more you work with the materials. or ask questions.. Don't worry about talking to women. Assignments for Seduction Oriented Topics 1) Pay attention to conversations in your life (even things you hear on the radio. Exercises for Seduction Oriented Topics 1) Build your own list of SOTs... the easier it will be to "riff" on these using the language tools.Are you able to somehow relate to these in your own life? Maybe something you read or heard? Maybe questions you can ask? ANYTHING?!?!? You do not need to "know" a lot about these topics or be an expert. the more you practice.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course These topics may seem foreign to you. Page 103 .

but we are walking you through (at least the first steps of) the process to make this easier: • • • • • • • • • • • You have made a list of SOTs. These are called Expanded SOTs (SOTXs). ask an opinion.3 EXPANDED SEDUCTION ORIENTED TOPICS . then the more material YOU will have to talk about. and start to get your brain working on them. Then you get to hear MORE people talk about them. Really! Learning to discuss such things may start out slowly. ask what something means. etc. the more you listen. make a comment. Make special note of topics that are CLOSE or similar to these SOTs in some way. You start to listen and take notice of when these are discussed.Talk about these subjects and topics! Make a point to enter into a discussion when one of your SOTs is mentioned. "the other day I heard someone talking about. The more you hear. Maybe ask some questions about things that deal with your SOTs. it WILL get easier. However. what is said. and makes it easier for you to talk about them. 2) Now . but had even more? Maybe 50? What if that was easy and familiar for you? Think back to how we looked at topics earlier. but as long as you start it. However.. So can you. They did it. anything at all! Talk. 5. and frankly. quote. Many guys who can now talk about these things VERY easily and comfortably started from a place of having NO idea of what to say! They changed. That gives YOU more familiarity with discussing them. after having worked with hundreds of guys. discuss. That's what we want to do here. this is one of the key challenges that many guys face. We learned how you can move from any topic.. ask. See? We are working on a process to get you to become more comfortable and familiar with these things. That makes you really think about them. And that gives you MORE material to talk about! Which make it easier for you to enter into more conversations about these subjects and topics. That is understandable.SOTXs D9-T24 What if you had not just 10 ways of discussing "Seduction Oriented" subjects."). I can tell you that it DOES get easier and easier to be able to talk about these things. Because of that. Use as many of the language tools as you can. SOT Summary I KNOW that these topics may seem foreign to you.. this process must start somewhere.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Listen to what is being said. but this time with SOTs. and move through these exercises and assignments. Page 104 . It may start a bit slowly and awkwardly. You do a few exercises to talk about them. and easily come up with 6-8 related topics. it gets easier to enter into more conversations that deal with these topics. You listen more to when they are discussed. or even when anything CLOSE to one of your SOTs is discussed. show interest. what people think. or even just TRY to do so. They started and became more and more familiar with these topics. (As in.

.with your teammates Figure 5.with music . can you think of different aspects of that? Parts of Connections? Questions about Connections? Ways of experiencing Connections? People or things with which you can experience Connections? By asking those types of questions (to yourself).... (You do not really need to list "connections with" for each. comes up in a conversation. Look at the list above.with someone while on vacation . For any given SOT.... etc... how we discussed a Topic Turning Point?) If Connections is a particular subject.with pets . the SOTX list consists of all of these items shown in the diagram and listed below.3-1: How SOTs are related to an SOTXs..with family .with someone you just met . However as we see here. pets.3-1. there are many different types or examples of connecting to people. you now have 6-8 ways to discuss it.. Instead of worrying about getting to that one topic (SOT) in a certain way. or only one aspect of that to discuss (connections in a romantic or sensual context). but can you think of 6-8 different aspects of this? (Remember what we did in the earlier sections. and things that can be discussed. They think of only one way of talking about that subject.. if friends. you can talk about that for while. see Figure 5. family. SOT Connections SOTX Connections with family Connections with friends Connections with coworkers Connections with pets Connections with a girlfriend Connections with someone you just met Connections with someone while on vacation Connections with music Connections with your teammates Many guys worry about talking about something like "Connections". and build a whole list of very similar things to talk about -which are SOTXs! For example. places. how easy would it be to talk about how you CONNECT with those? And if you talk about Page 105 ... .with friends .with coworkers . it's easy to think of several different aspects of that topic or related topics.with a girlfriend . coworkers... That is one subject. Then. (Does that diagram look familiar?) If "Connections" is an SOT.. That just makes it easier for our example below). you can take any SOT.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Expanding on a Topic Area "Connections" is an SOT.

it's very easy to then shift. SOTs " SOTXs List Page 106 . then you can shift towards ANOTHER type of "connection" very easily! (See Figure 5. or how that topic can be experienced. c. If you talk about that for a while. then you can shift to talking about "how you can connect with a pet" fairly easily. all of a sudden there are many MORE ways to get to these really GREAT topics! Exercises f o r Expanded Seduction Oriented T o p i c s 1) Take the SOT list you had earlier (copy those down into the first column below. or different aspects of that topic.. or a special person. Just make a comment. etc.) Family Friends Coworkers Pets Connections A girlfriend Someone you just met Someone met on vacation Music Teammates Figure 5. a. b. or maybe even someone.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course THAT (how you connect in that manner) for a while. This is your SOTX list.. you can be as close as one step away from an SOT.. you are to list 5 (at least) related topics. that you just met! When you expand SOTs in this way. how to connect with people. this is a TTP diagram in reverse!) For example.3-2: SOTXs Can Lead Into SOTs If any of the topics in the SOTX list comes up in conversation.3-2.) and for each SOT. if someone is talking about pets.to . and how you (or someone else) can connect with a pet. ask a question.. (Yes.. point out an example regarding pets..

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but now do so while using the language tools. you talk about pets. That gives you a LOT of flexibility in conversations! Page 108 . Talk about that SOTX for a moment or two. then about connecting in general. You have 50 SOTXs that you are now familiar with as well.) 3) Do the same thing again. then about connecting with pets. practice talking about it out loud. (Like the earlier example.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 2) Now for each SOTX. and see if you can then focus what you are saying towards the SOT itself. Step back and look at what you have done! You have 10 SOTs with which YOU are familiar.

with music . In addition.with friends . especially politicians and activists. it is easy to then move the conversation towards topics that will work better for you (SOTs). Good speakers. that process can work both ways.with your teammates Family Friends Coworkers Pets A girlfriend Someone you just met Someone met on vacation Music Teammates Connections This is how we developed SOTXs This is the most useful way of thinking of SOTXs Figure 5.. but it IS related to an SOT that I have worked with". However. it's about getting YOU comfortable and familiar with these topics. if you hear any of them mentioned. use the language tools if and whenever you can. You may think... you know that you are very close to getting near a subject area that will work very well for you.with someone you just met .. 5. It ALL gets easier! 2) Start to "direct" the conversations you encounter where your SOTXs are mentioned.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Assignments for Expanded Seduction Oriented Topics 1) Look at all of your SOTXs! That's a LOT of subjects! Pay attention in your life to see how often any of those items come up in conversation (or maybe you just hear them somewhere). See if you can move the conversation a bit towards the SOT itself. and move the conversation towards SOTs.with family .with pets Connections . or anything like them mentioned. .4-1. The more familiar you are with these subjects. The techniques that you have learned are the sort of things that many people do naturally. concept of "topics related to a topic" in many many places.with someone while on vacation . . Page 109 .. use such techniques a LOT...4-1: SOTXs Are The Pathways To SOTs SOTXs are an easy way to get towards SOTs.with coworkers .. spotting these opportunities get easier and easier. and then built upon that step by step. Summary You now have MORE material to work with than you ever thought possible! This is not about memorizing. The more you work with this. D9-T32 We discussed how to develop an SOTX list from an SOT.... You will start to notice this. If anything like an SOTX comes up in a conversation..4 CONVERSATIONAL MODEL WITH SOTXs. "I didn't list that SOTX. broke it into bits and pieces that you can learn and do as exercises. We have broken these down.... SOTXs are now like "conversational landmarks" for you in terms of navigating a conversation. The real usefulness of this is when you reverse the order as shown in Figure 5.. Maybe you will even start to notice SOTXs that were not even ON your list.. modeled the process arid the steps involved.. the easier it will be to notice SOTXs.with a girlfriend .

you have started to train yourself to "recognize" these landmarks. and 50 SOTXs (in the earlier exercises) you now have many many SOTXs with which YOU are familiar! More importantly. that this process will now be easier than you may have imagined. and anything like an SOTX comes up in the discussion. you will get closer and closer to SOTXs. It's to have you practice and become familiar with them. Page 110 . we have had to compress or simplify them quite a bit and show only a fraction of the actual steps and numbers involved so that the diagrams do not become too large or complex. However in the figure above. In many of the diagrams. to be able to notice when you are talking about things which are "close to" topics that will work well for you. we can then show them as part of our Conversational Model. If you have followed the program. and done the exercises and assignments. there are really 50 SOTXs and 10 SOTs shown . Figure 5.4-2.. you now see how easy it can be to move over to an SOT! In fact.4-3 shows this in the model itself. you have already worked with 10 SOTs and 50 SOTXs as shown in Figure 5. this will start to happen for you. After all. you have practiced with so many of these SOTXs. or the SOTXs.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course So whenever you are having a conversation.without "thinking" about them. that is not an abbreviation or exaggeration.4-2: Your Multiple Pathways to SOTs! Now that you have worked with 10 SOTs. As the topics get better and better.the number that YOU have actually worked with so far! Since SOTXs and SOTs are the "goals" in terms of managing a conversation. and for you to just start to "recognize" these things on your own . and then towards SOTs. SOTXs SOTs Figure 5. The point here (again) is not to memorize the SOTs.

. and topics that are close to that (SOTXs).5-1. then start to pay attention for SOTXs. When you get to an SOTx.5 THE COMPLETE CONVERSATIONAL MODEL D9-T33 Start from any topic and get to where you want! Yes. Then move the conversation towards an SOT! This works.) Page 111 . and using this type of approach you will have fascinating conversations with people that lead to where YOU want to go! (See Figure 5. then you can simply move things towards a topic that is very seduction-oriented! The point is not to have a "list" in mind. SOTXs are a pathway to make that easier. You can start from almost ANYWHERE. Period. Move towards SOTs. you start to "listen" for topics that are SOTXs. or as close as you can towards SOTs. Stay there for a while if you can! Figure 5.4-3: SOTs Are THE Goals in Conversational Management As you move through a conversation. just follow the steps listed earlier in the Conversational Management sections. you can start from just about ANY topic and get to GREAT topics! It's easy. and ANY TOPIC. or anything that is "related" to an SOT. which are topics near or related to seduction (a step or two away from SOTs). it's that you have trained yourself to recognize things that are SOTs. SOTXs SOTs Listen for SOTXs Anything near or related to an SOT.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course SOTs in the Conversational Management Model The end goal is to get to. 5.

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interesting ... fascinating. or SOTX... seductive things Direct the Conversation Pay attention when Good Subjects come up (SOTXs) Listen for anything a step or two away from an SOT Move towards SOTs Stay there as long as you can Use The Language Tools! As much as possible. start over! Assignment! 1) Try it! Start directing conversations using the conversational management model.5-1: The Complete Conversational Management Model (continued) Start a Conversation Manage the Conversation Move the Conversation in a Good Direction Steer towards .Fun. back up! If you move back to a general topic.Romantic. Fractionate If you take a wrong turn.. or very close! Page 113 . Especially when at or near SOTXs and SOTs. Steer towards . Steer towards .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Figure 5.Engaging the emotions and imagination in a positive way .. exciting. and see how easy it is to get to some good topic that is an SOT.

that's the key. • Maybe talk to a woman and allow HER to bring up things that end up working well in pattern-like language. clarifying. asking. or series of actions. or could say. and being aware of when you DO get to an area of conversation that does allow you to use a pattern. think about having a conversation (and managing it correctly). • While talking to a woman. Link and associate these feelings to you. 6. Examples/Analogies: • Sports . and as "a way of speaking".2 PATTERN FORMULA D10-T7 Tactical Formula for Patterns While talking to a woman. • Driving . we have practiced the small details (language skills) so that these are automatic.1 PATTERNS PATTERN OVERVIEW D10-T1 What is a pattern? • A plan. A representative sample. With this new approach to learning and using these tools. It's best to just think of patterns as examples. or model to be followed in making things. • An example of what you can say.You don't play the entire game ahead of time. "A plan" or "model". Once you actually play the game though. These smaller skills become automatic and you focus instead of driving. She may take the conversation into better places that you could have predicted. The Pattern Formula in detail. "how can I get to my pattern". You don't have to think about moving the wheel. Don't think of "how can I get to the pattern".Many of the details of driving a car are things you just "do". THAT ends up being a very effective way to create "patterns". the clutch. etc. You practice bits and pieces of the sport. plus these areas will work for HER because SHE selected them (in a manner of speaking) • Talk and manage the conversation into an area that DOES work for you. Amplify these feelings and states by talking. or "how can I bring up a pattern that I know". handling the gas pedal. We practice specific parts of areas of the skills we wish to use later on. Patterns are just examples of the use of these tools.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 6.0 6. diagram. get her to "experience" good feelings and states o Use the Conversational Management Techniques to get there o Get her to think about good and/or exciting feelings Page 115 . In the same manner. • Instead. or "how can I bring this pattern up". certain actions. Present a Call to action. you make decisions on-the-spot as to what to do and how to proceed. A New way of thinking about the use of patterns • The wrong way is to talk to someone and to keep thinking. get her to "experience" good feelings and states. we work in that manner. Use the language tools. The navigation is handled through our use of Conversational Management techniques. or navigation. Its just a "type" of talking that you can (and will be able to) use when you feel it is appropriate.

because doing so may work against you.3 CANNED PATTERNS D10-T12 These are the pre-rehearsed.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • o Get her feeling good and/or exciting feelings o Get her experiencing (or recall the experience of) good and/or exciting feelings o Get her to think about things that she wants or desires Amplify these feelings and states by talking. if you just "drop" a pattern into the conversation. don't focus TOO much on them. and do. many times it does not. "this person. Their best use is when you use the Conversational Management techniques and then find that the conversation just happens to get to or near a pattern that you DO happen to know already. In THAT case . these canned patterns DO have some usefulness. asking. for her to elaborate and describe o Repeating back what she has said o Provide examples from your own life o Provide examples from friends. but they assume that you are in a conversation where they will work and be somewhat "appropriate" to what is being discussed.these pre-written or canned patterns can work very well. The good ways to use these are as teaching and learning tools. they can. and real-time "Riffing". The problem is if you are SO focused on just "getting to the pattern" that you know (or even one of many that you know) then it's difficult to have a good conversation. So. Some times that does happen. 6. clarifying o Use the Language Tools o Asking her for info. canned patterns are good. and have them there for your use if and when the correct situation comes up. sound quite strange. what you need to do is to look at.4 PATTERN RIFFING IN REAL-TIME D10-T13 This is the ability to just create pattern language on-the-fly. However. and the proper context is not created. • The interesting topic that she and you are discussing o what is happening o what you know Page 116 .. o Use "this" and "these" (be aware of that and those as well) o Point and mark appropriately Present a Call to action o "Do it now" language o Create a Challenge o Create an Opportunity o Talk about the chance to "Seize the moment" o A simple add-on to the Language Tools There are two main ways of doing patterns." etc. 6. and to use what is needed in the moment. Therefore it is best to maybe have some of these memorized. Pre-written. "Canned" patterns. etc Link and associate those feelings to you o Use the Language Tools o Use linkage phrases like "now with me". But. and that the woman will react to what the patterns is about. In the real world. pre-written patterns that you have seen and heard. when you are talking to a woman. pre-rehearsed.. or things you have read..

interesting. exciting. Then we use those as a basis for discussion. and and use the language tools. Wanting to take action or seize an opportunity Always • • • • See the pattern here? We are in general. Use the language tools so that YOU become associated with those things. it really IS that easy! look for: Positive emotions and feeling Positive sensations (as in physical ones) Exciting feelings. THE BEST PATTERN IS THIS: • • Get her to talk and think about positive.. states.. Then you have a conversation and.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • o what she is reacting to o and discuss things which are appropriate. • Use some "act now" languaging. Yes. and sensual things. using the tools. Page 117 . and actions in the conversation. looking and listening for positive feelings. • Talk about these things or listen to you talk about these things • get her to think about these things • get her to feel these things • get her to link them to you. get her to. emotions.

7.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 7. Keep her there and keep talking! a. Use the Language Tools 7. Use the conversational management techniques b. and the more engaged you are in the process. D10-T28 The more energy and effort you put into this. and how you speak. 7. a. Use the Language Tools 5. D10-T27 Listen to the full explanations. Talk about something positive and interesting c.3 LISTEN. fifth. Now we can look from the "top-down". but the method of approaching it is very different. Whether its your first. It really is up to you. 7. focusing first on small details.1 REVIEW AND SUMMARY REVIEW D10-T18 The course has followed a "bottom-up" approach to training. Get the conversation into good subjects (SOTXs. AND FOLLOW THE COURSE. Direct and/or link those feelings towards you. SOTs) 4. -' d. Create a willingness.5 CONGRATULATIONS! WELL DONE! D10-T29 Page 119 . Engage her emotions and imagination in a positive way. you will benefit.0 7. and/or compulsion to act a. Direct the conversation in a way that takes you toward good topics a. DO THE EXERCISES. of fourteenth time through.4 BE WILLING AND PREPARED TO PUT ENERGY INTO THIS COURSE. comfort in. and really take the time to do the exercises. a. and then building up to bigger and bigger pieces. and view an overall strategy. Fractionate if and when needed. 3. 1.2 SUMMARY D10-T26 This may be similar to information you have heard in the past. the greater your results will be. We really are focused upon changing you. Use the conversational management techniques b. Keep the conversation going. Both you and her talk! 2.

Page 121 . EXAMPLES Dll-Tl The discussions presented on the audio for this section are intentionally "casual" to familiarize you even more with the use of these tools. and provide you with some real-world examples of their use.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 8.0 EXAMPLES. EXAMPLES.

. so that their feelings. • Passionate or Boring? o o o • LANGUAGE TOOLS A N T D E T A I L S o Adjectives And Adverbs Use more adjectives and adverbs in your speech to appeal to and excite the emotional side of the listener. • Nose.. and to "soften " the way in which something is said.... • Slow.. emotions. and processes awaken. • Instantaneously " Suddenly • Find Yourself • Convince Yourself • Suppose • Imagine " Mysterious (-ly) • Wonder (-ous) (-ously) Weasel Phrases Use Weasel Phrases to keep the conversation going. Pause? Energy And Enthusiasm Using energy and enthusiasm when speaking so that people can become energized and enthusiastic about listening to and being with you. • If I were to . to be cool. • Be descriptive. and charismatic presence.. allowing you to say more (and maybe more provocative things) about a subject. • If you were to . or Chest? Pacing And Pausing Use variations in pace. Voice Tone And Tonality Use your best tone of voice (speaking from your chest) to convey a relaxed. " As you. to convey a sense of drama and intrigue in what you are saying in a way that "captivates "people and makes them want to listen to you. use Adjectives And Adverbs Trance Words Help to get the subconscious mind of the listener to be more of apart of your conversation. • What's it like when . Mouth. Fast. powerful. and well-placed pauses. • Have you ever . o o Page 123 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course APPENDIX 1 Course "Cheat Sheet" • SPEAKING POINTERS o The "Cool" Factor You don't have to be cold....

Those • Positive statement.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o Embedded Commands Use embedded commands repeatedly and in the proper context. interest. Say "these". • Can you do this now. allowing you to move things more in your favor later on Page 124 . point or gesture towards yourself. link them to you so that YOU become something and someone that they feel good about • Now with me • In me • In myself • with this • these • this belief • these feelings Easy-Linking • Use "This" and "These" when referring to anything positive. Easy Anchoring When the person you are talking with displays a positive feeling of some type. • Use "That" and "Those" when referring to anything negative. • Whenever you say something positive. laugh. to create a compelling will on the part of the listener follow you and listen to you.. Easy Linking Expanded Pointing With This. touch them to help anchor it to you. Say "this". Point to you • Negative statement. Point to you • Negative Say "those".. o o • MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures Move. gesture. That. Say "that". a smile. and accentuate what you are saying in order to be more compelling as a speaker and to get even more attention from your listener or audience. • Point Or Touch On Positive —* o o o • LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES o Pace And Lead Pacing and Leading allows you "be " in the conversation for a while and gain rapport and information. • Move! Point! Linking Gestures Towards And Away • Whenever you say something negative. motion. Point away. Point away • Positive statement. etc. These. point or gesture away. intrigue. Linking After getting someone to experience good feelings and emotions..

Then start to move or shift things in a different way. statement. but mention the one which YOU want to put the most emphasis on. etc.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Show agreement. statement. • a. a way that you want. the More Y. or thoughts) use "More and More " as a way to string them together (and increase your chances of that happening • The more X. and incorporate the language tools • This thing vs that thing • How two things are similar • How two things are different • Good . and c When giving examples or options to someone. the More Z. acknowledgement.Bad • One option . LAST • Burying Items Listing . thoughts. or giving an example. and/or interest. and C When making a point. understanding. The More Z.) • Then you will "Y" Where "Y" is something you want them to experience (Lead) o Give Them A Reason Giving a reason will make people more apt to do things for you and agree with you. "List" several things or examples which support your point. experiences. or giving an example. Compare And Contrast Use this technique to keep the conversation going. More And More If you want to lead someone through a series of steps (actions. B. the more Y. The more Y. etc. "List" several things briefly in order. • Topics and Subjects • Mindset or Frame of Mind • Current Reality • As (while) you are "X" (Pace) Where "X" is something that is true in their current reality (perceptions. b. and C When making a point. keep the discussion focused on a topic that serves your purposes.another option o o o Page 125 . etc. B. Listing • General Listing General Listing is a way to quickly provide several reason. the More Y. • As you X.Burying Items is a way to mention an outrageous or very direct option for "testing" purposes. you can get away with an outrageous or very direct option by burying that option in the middle of a List. in order to provide more power to what you are saying • At The End Listing at The End is a way to provide several options (which may differ) but to emphasize the option that YOU want. or to maybe see if you can get someone to agree to it! • a. which support your point • A. • Request X because (of) Y.

discuss. • Link good thoughts. • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control Particular Wants What does she want to have. • Are you able to . even when the other person claims or demonstrates that such parts are NOT there • For every part of a person that will work against you.. or want to be perceived as having? • Talk to them and find out. • If you can . to be a way for them to get what they want. feelings and emotions. —* • • • Page 126 . or show it.. allowing you time to gather information and link yourself to good thoughts.. • You may . etc). • Break it down into its component parts and discuss them.. Parts Of A Person Use Parts of a Person as a way to find. • Maybe you can .. • Use the language tools in the discussion..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o Parts • • Parts Of A Subject Discussing many of the parts of a subject keeps the conversation going. or adventurous. • The smart people I know. • You seem as if. • Find a way to map what YOU want... do it. • You seem like ... • Challenge them to demonstrate it. and evoke favorable states. and beliefs.. feelings and emotions to yourself. Mini-Challenges • You seem.. or point in a discussion.. • etc. or fun. • I wonder if you can .. o Opportunities And Challenges • Find out what someone wants. assume there is a part that will work WITH you. idea. • You might see ....\ Universal Wants You can assume that most people want these.. • Take any subject... feelings... • You might. • If you are able to . • Using Their Own Processes • Find or assume what someone wants • Create an opportunity for them to get it or demonstrate they have it • Make that "demonstration" work in your favor. • Challenge them to do that... can (use smart.

Creating Them -.. and interesting?" " Move the conversation in that direction.. • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control " • Excitement Challenges Challenge them to get what they want. by doing Y? • Does she want you to THINK she has X. Consider the wants and needs that a person may have .. think of general navigation • She Must Be Engaged In The Conversation! You need her to talk. Advanced Conversational Management To direct the conversation into even BETTER areas.. • Navigation Don't think of an exact plan. interesting things. • Topic Turning Point The process of moving from one topic to one of 6-8 relevant topics • In general. fun. Are they ready to take advantage of that (this) opportunity? • Does she really want X and see how Y can get that? • Does she really have X. interesting things • Keep thinking . • Repeat."Where can I go that is fun. steer the conversation towards directions that engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way o o Page 127 . she may have to do Y to prove that. bring up positive..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • Opportunities. listen and be IN the conversation! • Conversational Dynamics Topics flow from one to the next. then . or show what they have.. interesting things. and see how doing Y would demonstrate it?> • Does she have what it takes to get X. positive and interesting.. •• Show interest when someone discusses positive... fun. positive. General Conversational Management To steer the conversation in a good direction.-and do Y to get it? • Can she do Y and make it happen? • Can she see that Y will get her what she wants? • Can she trust herself enough to do Y? o • Ambiguities — CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT o General . • Introduce topics that are fun. • Can she see an opportunity to have "X". fun. • Don't engage in conversations when it's NOT about positive.

stay there for a while. fascinating. • Keep thinking ."Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. • Repeat.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • o Keep thinking . Conversational Fractionation • Using Conversational Fractionation • Start • Move • Back Up • Repeat • Dead Ends Come Back To Life! • Just back up and start over! Conversational Overview and Review • General Flow • Start on just about ANY subject. • Connections • Going for it • Making good decisions Page 128 o . o If you get to a good subject or topic. positive. bring up images and thoughts that may work for you.Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Move the conversation in that direction. fascinating. steer the conversation towards romantic. fascinating. and get the effect. use the language tools as much as possible! • What If The Outcome Is Not What You Expected? • Move on! o o • TOPICS o Topics Of Enthusiasm and Passion Few things are more compelling in a person than for them to be passionate about something (hopefully many things) in life. and seductive things. use the language tools. More Advanced Conversational Management To further direct the conversation into even BETTER areas. • Where can I go that is fun. • When on good topics. and interesting? • Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? • Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. seductive tilings? • The entire time: o If you hit a "dead end". Get the conversation there. back up a few steps. Repeat. Seduction Oriented Topics SOTs are topics that. by there very nature. seductive things?" " Move the conversation in that direction. use as many of the language tools as you can. keep it there. and while there.

• Manage . • Direct . o Canned Patterns ..Use the conversational Management Techniques. and • Look for: o Positive emotions and feeling o Positive sensations (as in physical ones) o Exciting feelings. Conversational Model With SOTXs.Great as EXAMPLES • Learn and know some of them they may be useful.Look out for SOTXs • Direct 0 Move towards SOTs. there are easily 6-8 variations on that SOT that you can talk about. Amplify these feelings and states by talking. Pattern Riffing In Real-Time • Use the Conversational Management techniques to get to good subjects • Look at the interesting topic that she and you are discussing o what is happening o what you know o what she is reacting to o and discuss things which are appropriate. o Wanting to take action or seize an opportunity • Use the language tools. get her to "experience" good feelings and states. asking. o Talk about these things or listen to you talk about these things o get her to think about these things o get her to feel these things o get her to link them to you. The Complete Conversational Model See Appendix 2 o o • PATTERNS o Pattern • • • • Formula While talking to a woman..SOTXs For each SOT. Page 129 o . Present a Call to action. Link and associate these feelings to you. • Get her to.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • • • • • o Surrendering to feelings Getting excited Feeling excited Trusting your judgment Taking chances Indulgence Maturity Good decisions Expanded Seduction Oriented Topics . Those are STOXs. clarifying.

Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • Use some "act now" languaging. and sensual things. exciting. interesting. • Use the language tools so that YOU become associated with those things Page 130 . o The Best Pattern Is This: • Get her to talk and think about positive.

At the End • Burying Items o More And More o Compare And Contrast o Parts " Parts of a Subject • Parts of a Person o Opportunities And Challenges • Mini Challenges " Opportunities And Challenges o Ambiguities • • • Page 131 . These. That. Those) MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures o Linking Gestures (Towards And Away) o Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course APPENDIX II Speaking and Language Tools "Cheat Sheet" • SPEAKING POINTERS o Voice Tone And Tonality o Pacing And Pausing o Energy And Enthusiasm LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS o Adjectives And Adverbs o Trance Words o Weasel Phrases o Embedded Commands o Linking o Easy-Linking (This... That.) o Easy Anchoring .Point Or Touch On Positive And Negative LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES o Pace And Lead • Topics and Subjects • Mindset of Frame • Current Reality o Give Them A Reason o Listing " General .

Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course APPENDIX III The Complete Conversational Management Model The Complete Conversational Management Model General Mgt. Seductive SOTXs SOTs The Complete Conversational Management Model Page 133 . and Interesting Advanced Mgt. Positive. Fun. Romantic. Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way More Advanced Mgt. Fascinating.

Fun. Especially when at or near SOTXs and SOTs.. Fractionate If you take a wrong turn.. back up! If you move back to a general topic.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course The Complete Conversational Management Model (continued) Start a Conversation Manage the Conversation Move the Conversation in a Good Direction Steer towards .. start over! Page 134 .Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way . fascinating. positive.. Steer towards . seductive things Direct the Conversation Pay attention when Good Subjects come up (SOTXs) Listen for anything a step or two away from an SOT Move towards SOTs Stay there as long as you can Use The Language Tools! As much as possible.. Steer towards .. interesting .Romantic.

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