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Dave Riker's

Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course

A structured training program that teaches the language and conversational skills of Speed Seduction .

Workbook
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Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course

Table of Contents
Page No. Title Page Legal Notices Table of Contents Product Content Product Protection and User Consent Formatting and Conventions Acknowledgements Forward Registration Important Note About Exercises and Assignments 1.0 INTRODUCTION AND GETTING STARTED i ii iii vi vi vii ix x xii xii 1 D1-T1 Disk and Track No.*

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Overview
Why Is This Course Needed? What We Will Handle, and How Investing In Yourself, Or Not Can We Change The Way You Speak? Manipulation and Ethics Concerns SPEAKING AND LANGUAGE

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Speaking Pointers 7 The "Cool" Factor 7 Voice Tone and Tonality 7 Pacing and Pausing 9 Energy and Enthusiasm 10 Language Tools and Details 12 Adjectives and Adverbs 12 Trance Words 13 Weasel Phrases 15 Embedded Commands 17 Linking 19 Easy-Linking (This, That, These, Those) 21 More Tools 23 Pointing and Gestures 24 Linking Gestures (Towards and Away) 25 Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This, That, These, Those ...) 26 Easy Anchoring - Point Or Touch, On Positive 27 Review 29 LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES Pace and Lead General Pace and Lead Techniques 31 31 32

* Disk and Track Numbers References to the CDs and the tracks on them are shown in a format such as "D2-T4", which in this example refers to Disk 2, Track 4.

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Table of Contents (continued)
Page No. 3.1.2 3.1.3 3.1.4 3.2 3.3 3.3.1 3.3.2 3.3.3 3.3.4 3.3.5 3.4 3.5 3.6 3.6.1 3.6.2 3.7 3.7.1 3.7.2 3.7.3 3.7.4 3.8 3.9 4.0 4.1 4.1.1 4.1.2 4.1.3 4.1.4 4.2 4.2.1 4.2.2 4.2.3 4.3 4.3.1 4.3.2 4.3.3 4.3.4 4.3.5 4.4 4.4.1 4.4.2 4.4.3 4.4.4 4.4.5 4.5 4.5.1 4.5.2 Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects Pace and Lead-Mindset Or Frame Of Mind Pace and Lead - Current Reality Give Them a Reason Listing General Listing Listing - At The End Listing - Burying Items Listing, Pauses, and Emphasis.. Listing Review More and More Compare and Contrast Parts Parts of a Subject Parts of a Person Opportunities and Challenges Using Their Own Processes What Do People Want? Mini-Challenges Opportunities and Challenges Ambiguities Summary CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT Challenges Detailed and Specific Plans Are Just Not Workable Navigation Example Navigational Strategies Are Needed She Must Be Engaged In The Conversation! How Conversations Happen Conversational Dynamics Conversational Model Topic Turning Point General Conversational Management Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Want How To Steer Conversations, Moment To Moment The Model With Strategy and Tactics In Place Exercises and Assignments Summary Advanced Conversational Management Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Really Want Steering Conversations Moment To Moment The Model With Advanced Strategy and Tactics In Place Exercises and Assignments Summary More Advanced Conversational Management More About Getting The Conversation To Go Steering Conversations Using More Advanced 33 35 38 39 41 41 43 45 48 48 48 51 54 54 58 61 62 62 63 64 69 69 71 71 71 71 72 72 72 72 73 77 79 79 81 82 83 86 86 86 88 88 91 93 93 93 94 Disk a n d Track N o . * D5-T12 D5-T20 D5-T29 D5-T32 D6-T1 D6-T4 D6-T15 D6-T24 D6-T36 D6-T37 D6-T38 D6-T54 D7-T1 D7-T4 D7-T15 D7-T34 D7-T36 D7-T38 D7-T40 D7-T43 D7-T64 D7-T66 D8-T1 D8-T1 D8-T3 D8-T4 D8-T5 D8-T10 D8-T12 D8-T13 D8-T14 D8-T15 D8-T16 D8-T16 D8-T19 D8-T23 D8-T25 D8-T32 D8-T33 D8-T33 D8-T35 D8-T38 D8-T39 D8-T46 D8-T47 D8-T47 D8-T49

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4 5.1 4.2 6. .6.0 The Model With More Advanced Strategy and Tactics In Place.7.3 4. and Follow The Course Be Willing and Prepared To Put Energy Into Congratulations! Well Done! EXAMPLES.SOTXs Conversational Model With SOTXs The Complete Conversational Model PATTERNS Pattern O v e r Pattern Formula Canned Patterns Pattern Riffing In Real-Time REVIEW AND SUMMARY Review Summary Listen.3 5.5 8.7..2 7. 94 96 96 97 97 98 99 99 99 99 101 101 102 104 109 111 115 115 115 116 116 119 119 119 119 119 119 121 Disk a n d Track N o .3 4.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Table of Contents (continued) Page No. APPENDICES I II III Course "Cheat Sheet" Speaking and Language Tools "Cheat Sheet" The Complete Conversational Management Model 123 131 133 Page v .4 7. Conversational Fractionation The 1-Shot Beeline Fallacy How Fractionation Works Using Conversational Fractionation Dead Ends Come Back To Life! Conversational Overview and Review Conversational Management Approach What If The Outcome Is Not What You Expected? Summary TOPICS Topics Of Enthusiasm and Passion Seduction Oriented Topics Expanded Seduction Oriented Topics ..0 5.3 7.3 6.1 5.5.3 5.1 6. EXAMPLES v i e w .0 7.5 6.6. * D8-T52 D9-T1 D9-T2 D9-T3 D9-T5 D9-T6 D9-T7 D9-T8 D9-T9 D9-T10 D9-T11 D9-T14 D9-T15 D9-T24 D9-T32 D9-T33 D10-T1 D10-T1 D10-T7 D10-T12 D10-T13 D10-T18 D10-T18 D10-T26 D10-T27 D10-T28 D10-T29 D11 .6. . .0 6. 4.1 7.4 4.2 4.7.2 5. Do The Exercises.4 7.2 4.1 4. EXAMPLES. .6.. .6 4..7 4.

Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Formatting and Conventions The following formatting. items are presented in a list-like fashion such as this: • Item 1 • Item 2 • Item 3 • Etc. and the italics are simply used as a way to show a different manner of emphasis. This shows information that could be considered part of an overall "outline" of what the audio presentation contains. However these conventions are guidelines. styles. The graphics in the latter sections are significant in that they are an essential part of the understanding and leaning. and the Formulas. The relationship between these two can be best described by considering the workbook text to be (for the most part) an "outline" of what is presented in the audio. Italicized Text . Usually the graphic is shown on the page immediately following where that graphic is first mentioned in the text. It is also used for subject headings so that these stand out and apart from the normal text. Italics are also used to point the reader towards specific content of the audio CDs. Boldface Text . The written text is NOT a transcript. Although there are paragraphs of explanatory text. Text within graphics. D3-T5 CD Track References . there is not an exact place in the book that correlates to the start of each and every track on the audio CDs. a "serif typeface). Exercises.Italicized Text is used for emphasis in many cases where boldface text may by nearby.that is simply to show a list of related items. and Assignments are all shown using this typeface (Arial. . and their use is key to many students' understanding of the concepts presented. This shows (for example) the Disk (3) and the Track number (5) that corresponds to that part of the workbook contents. If the graphic cannot fit there (due to page breaks) then the graphic is placed on the next available page. these are in most cases presented as a way to augment the content of the audio presentation.A majority of the workbook content is shown in this typeface (Times New Roman. Graphics are used in the workbook as well. or major points in the workbook. and to make it easier to reference those items at a later time. Not every track number is listed. Since the work book is an "outline" and not a transcript. there may be instances when the conventions are not used for the sake of emphasis. and conventions have been developed and are used throughout this transcript/workbook. a "sans-serif typeface).At times. There are certain conventions used in the formatting of the workbook. i. Therefore most of the track references are shown at the start of major sections. CD Location References are shown using terms such as "D3-T5" in the text.. graphic titles.Boldface Text is used to emphasize certain text or passages. The audio is NOT an exact duplicate of the text shown in the workbook.As shown to the right Towards the right margin of section titles and headings. Lists . Samples of the formatting and conventions used: Typefaces . A majority of the workbook is presented in an "outline" form. graphic captions. Page vii .. Listen to the audio where an example is presented. or clarity.e.

or maybe and Assignment can be done alone by the student. Similarly. -3) to account for multiple graphics in one section of text. A Formula is a way to present a concise explanation of some item.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Each graphic has a number and a title of some type. Page Breaks .The workbook is laid out to minimize the amount of blank space where reasonably possible. For example. Formula. fact. The number is in the format of "XYZ-A" where "XYZ" denotes the number of the section where the graphic is placed. Assignments usually requier the reader to go out and interact with other person(s) in order to perform them correctly.e. an Exercise may require interaction with other people. but that is a necessity due to the complexity of the book. Each Formula is presented in its own "text box" as shown here. or technique. then that text is shown immediately below the graphic using an indented paragraph such as this. Text Boxes . Exercises are a series of instructions that call upon the reader to do or perform certain actions. there are instances where the definitions may be clouded to some degree. . and the "A" indicates the number of the graphic within a section itself (i. there are cases where text boxes may actually "break" across two pages.1 . it is required in order for the "flow" of the book content to remain consistent. This also may result in some page breaks being in places which are not optimal.If a graphic has text that helps to further explain that graphic. Candidate Topics Figure XYZ-1: Graphic Title Sub-paragraph .Text boxes are used for very specific purposes in the workbook. This may require that a graphic be placed on the next page after where it is first mentioned (instead of being directly below where the graphic is first mentioned in the text). Assignments also call for action on the part of the reader. This is shown below. Exercises. and Assignments are shown inside boxes such as this. -2. Although the difference between Exercises and Assignments is maintained through most of the workbook. Most exercises can be done alone. Page viii . Although this is not optimal.

To Dr. who helped me by allowing me to help them. EVS.insight and teaching that I think is possible. those who have read what I have written. Special thanks to my friends. confidants. and what is possible in their lives. and MD. Thank you.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Acknowledgements The first and foremost acknowledgement goes out to Ross Jeffries himself. and have opened the door for me to find many ways of self-improvement and understanding. and this wait may have annoyed a few people. To all of you. associates. and students (we are each all of these and more) in the TAGR Group. colleagues. who was the business genius that brought Speed Seduction® to the masses through seminars and products. but I sincerely hope that the results will prove to have made the wait worthwhile. and those who have entrusted me to teach you and to guide you. opening the door for many into the world of self improvement. Ross's developments have lead not only to helping many men with this part of their lives. and who has also contributed greatly to helping men change their minds about themselves. MC. and to help you in finding the Women or Woman of Your Dreams. SP. who have placed their trust in me and allowed me the experience of showing them new and wonderful possibilities for what their lives may have to offer. To my coaching clients.. but have also shown many the way to a new way of living. To those in the original SD Lair group. SM. the creator of Speed Seduction . mentors. JL. teachers. and to all of the Students out there who I have met at Speed Seduction® seminars. Working with these clients was especially instrumental in formulating and perfecting the concepts and teaching methods used in this product. . DM. The main reason is that I do not wish to release any product until I believe that I am able to provide the level of quality. most notably Hypnotica. and for the assistance they provided with this product. Yates Canipe. I may miss a few sales because of such a delay. To the many experts out there who have augmented the SS teachings by showing me other aspects of the mind. Dave Riker Page ix .. / must apologize to some degree for the time it has taken to finish this product.

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you can change the way you speak as well. to use these language skills naturally as just a part of the way they speak. and on you as well. You will have this way of speaking as a PART of who you are and what you can do! Guys need to be trained. there is a need. Language Skills What works? What makes the successful guys able to use these technologies? Partly it's the ability to actually "talk" in this manner. If you follow along and do the exercises.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 1. So even this "intro" section is starting to work for you. You are already on your way! This course works on many levels. seeing what is needed. Some guys don't need this. along with spaces for written responses where necessary. Conversational Skills The ability to manage conversations is needed as well. you will do so in the future and use these techniques as well. We will teach you ways to easily manage conversations so that they go in interesting directions. Listen to it. We will be teaching you the detailed language skills that will really help you. The purpose of this workbook is to: • • • Provide an outline of the material covered in the audio program. This workbook is meant to studied along with a series of audio lectures that are recorded on CDs. Instructions for each are provided.1 INTRODUCTION AND GETTING STARTED OVERVIEW Dl-Tl Welcome and Thanks. Welcome to Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course. pay attention. consciously and subconsciously.2 WHY IS THIS COURSE NEEDED? D1-T10 If you are here. These techniques all need to sound and be "natural" to actually be effective. If you are her "type" you don't need this. some people do this naturally. Page 1 . Present a series of exercises and assignments. 1.0 1. but this will help you if you are not. You are not going to sound like this or talk like this all of the time! Just in the way that you shift and change how you speak now in different situations. then on some level. Provide additional explanation of some points that are covered in the audio program. and get the full benefit of everything this course has to offer. and "reprogrammed" in a way. and what works in the field. This program is based upon experience with countless students.

. so let's define and explain it for you. Other parts of the language tools you may have to "think" about. • Other teachings about language. for a while at least. Not inside your head "thinking" about "how can I use this?"! 1. not a "trick". but that's your left brain talking! We are reprogramming many years of your experience. Real Time "Occurring immediately .3 Major • • • • • • • • WHAT WE WILL HANDLE. so we need to approach this in many ways.. many times! • In fact we have already started! Where Does This Material Come From • From SS Teachings.. Guys need to be able to just "do this" and "talk this way" in REAL-TIME. respond to input immediately . but if you are "thinking" too much. that is important. responding. and how people speak. some things will sound quite familiar. then you are not actually IN the conversation! You need to be engaged in a conversation. interacting.Enthusiasm and Passion Topics . Page 2 ." Guys need to stop the worrying about "Doing something wrong" It's only "wrong" if you are TRYING to do or be something you are not.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course You have to be PROGRAMMED to do this so you can have a conversation.. • Working on several "levels" of you mind at once • Models to arrive at an overall understanding • Left brain and right brain are both addressed • Conscious and subconscious minds are both given what they need for real understanding and retention.Seduction Oriented Topics Patterns and Riffing Examples Dl-Tl5 What Methods Are Used • Describe and explain the details of the techniques • Explicit examples of how the details work • Examples throughout and within the discussions • Examples section at the end. talking. listening. AND HOW Topics Speaking Pointers Language Tools and Details Conversational Management Conversational Fractionation Topics . • Things may seem to "repeat".. but it's really YOU talking! Guys are too focused on "how can I use this" when in a conversation. some of the ways that you speak now will be reprogrammed so that speaking in a new way will be natural. how it is learned. • Exercises to develop understanding and skills • Assignments for you to do in the field. This is a term that will be used throughout this course. You need to integrate skills to the degree that they ARE a part of who you ARE. and be a part of it. In a way.. must react to a steady flow of new information without interruption. Sure. listen.

and being open to what benefits this program can bring. they aren't really putting themselves INTO it. many of these people will be those negative types of people that will then dispute the benefits of this program! Why? Because THEY have not invested anything into it! Not just in terms of dollars. Many of the assignments will deal with talking to people. and a few women's magazines as well. In addition. However. see what works for you. do whatever you need to do to listen to this course a LOT. • This may seem complicated but the point is to get you SO familiar with the tools that you become the guy who does this! Some Very Important Points • Find all of your current SS products and inventory them. Also maybe get a romance novel or two. If they just "try" it. or not? There are various ways.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • From personal experiences and how I used the materials. the more you put into it. OR NOT D1-T24 Any real change requires you to make an investment in yourself using energy. • Be prepared to have a place to practice for this course! You will need to be able to speak out loud to do many of the exercises. We are reprogramming years and years of you "speaking" in a certain manner. and this journey. The Ways To Study And Use The Product • Listen to the CDs. a concept that was brought up earlier. there IS some overlap and duplication with other products and systems. So. However.4 INVESTING IN YOURSELF. and engagement. as assigned or as required. effort. and who may "try" to listen to the course. to give you a real roadmap to actually learn the material. effort. • Listen to other products in conjunction with this product. Other SS products will work well. making it a part of YOU. However. and engagement into your effort to really learn and use these materials. • Get some other written material to work with for this course. new. By embarking upon this course. • Follow along in the workbook if you can • Do the exercises and assignments! • Listen over and over. The best way to listen to this course is while also reviewing the workbook (especially in the conversational management sections). Changing that will take some time. Is this information. both audio and written materials. do the assignments over and over! • Be patient. do the exercises over and over. If you need to make your own copies for use in multiple locations. Be wary of those people who may want to "borrow" a copy. From working with clients and seeing what worked and how they were able to change. and this is much easier if you have an active life where you can have many conversations. or revised? Yes. the more you will get out of it. the emphasis here is training you to do it for yourself. that YOU just DO. you are doing just that. but in terms of THEM really being willing and ready to change. 1. • Is there an "optimal way" to use the product. do it! But please. Applying a structured methodology of step-by-step methods. Page 3 . You will need them because you will have assignments that deal with these. listening multiple times in any setting also has a lot of benefit. • Get that "Mind-Momentum" going to help you change and improve. keep those copies to yourself. • Having a good social life will help you. The Mind-Momentum Principle At Work • Get energy.

But This Is A Different Type Of Learning. because you will hear it so much! But a LOT of what is being conveyed here is learning by EXAMPLE. because it addresses that analytical part of your mind. its a memorized "thing".5 CAN WE CHANGE THE WAY YOU SPEAK? D1-T26 Is this really possible? This sounds difficult. • • • • • • • • This might be good as a learning TOOL. at will Engage in conversation Manage conversations Yes. its YOU being YOU! You cannot fail at being YOU! The approach in this course is different. It's less effective. at every moment! Some people want to try to memorize. Don't let their lack of willingness to improve themselves. Also progressive exercises. How People Initially Learn How To Speak • • • • Sure in middle school. It Is Possible! . then its easier." So. you heard it a lot. and you started to form the ability to speak and communicate based upon that! Page 4 . but only indirectly. Then it's about a "performance.by hearing others around you speak! You were IMMERSED in language. trying to "remember" what to say. etc. You will end up "memorizing" thing to some degree. about grammar. but to then USE it in conversation is difficult. there is a "right" and "wrong" way to do it! But if you are just TALKING. Most people want to approach this by learning bits and pieces • • That's good in a way. where you learn skills piece by piece. some models. Can we literally change the way you speak? • • • • • • • How you select words Create phrases Form sentences Pick topics Speak passionately. Not as congruent. You keep trying to "remember" things. kids are taught about language. paragraphs. you heard it. • • • • • • You will get some details. And actual assignments. Immersion is the key. there is no "right" way or "wrong" way. consequently. sentences. 1. where you use the skills in the real world. But it's tough to do that. you heard it in context. Imagine having to "think about" how to talk.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course People must be engaged in the process to get its benefits. some structures. Plus it's not YOU talking. But that's not how you learned to talk! You learned to talk when you were a child . It makes guys nervous. Those who are not. hold you back. just being YOU. will not benefit.

Various Training Methods • • We use a lot of repetitive training methods so that these techniques have a better chance of becoming "automatic". Real-World Skills. and be more of WHO YOU ARE. which we go over and over. and who and what YOU are! Using these skills will be less of an "act". trade. • Break it down into small parts. We will have you become familiar with the range of ways of speaking and sounding. Page 5 . "it's not me" or "I am just using a trick or technique".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course This Course Uses Many Techniques To Train You To Have Workable. we will change the way you talk so that it will be easier. or craft. it's not about throwing something AT her.6 Many guys have been uncomfortable with using many of these skills. where I am just DOING these things all during the program. based upon feelings that when using them. how you communicate. deep ethics issues and blocks many guy's success. This causes some real. Exercises and Assignments to Teach You the Skills • Skills Training like any sport. so that you will have more ability and more flexibility to do what is appropriate MANIPULATION AND ETHICS CONCERNS D1-T32 1. more natural. With THIS approach HERE. like when I say "here is an example" Implicit examples. Examples • • Explicit examples. more a part of YOU.

Read several paragraphs. but if you really want to work on this even more. BORING. That's the "allure". and says a lot about you. Too many guys "try" to be cool but actually come off as COLD or even worse. The audio section demonstrates these options quite well. Listen as the examples demonstrate: • Speaking through the nose • Speaking through the mouth • Speaking from the chest Exercises for Speaking Pointers Grab some reading material of some type. Why is this important? • Great voice tone conveys comfort. Examples: One way to think of this is to consider "where" your voice is generated from in your body.1 2.1. That's what women like. to be cool. 1) Take some of that reading material. Page 7 . We will work on this here in this course. calm.1 SPEAKING AND LANGUAGE SPEAKING POINTERS The "Cool" Factor D2-T1 D2-T1 Guys want to sound "cool". even some of the materials from other products. This is good as long as it's not BORING. that there is a "fire" beneath the surface. Your tone of voice really conveys a lot about who you are. reserved. and even goes a bit over-the-top to really help you to understand what is being discussed.1. Cool does NOT mean to be boring and to put people to sleep while talking! The coolest people are the ones that are FUN to talk to and fun to be with! You don't have to be cold. something you are interested in. and what people like in general. etc. focusing on the back of your throat might make this easier to do). but giving the impression that there IS more.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. That "cool" feeling comes from being calm and speaking in a relaxed fashion. and read it aloud. but because it's appropriate to the situation. 2. 2) Read some more of that material out loud.0 2. how calm you are. there are great products and examples of this elsewhere. there ARE products that focus JUST on this area and you may want to invest in those. and this time focus on speaking by generating the sound from within your mouth (or. how they sound. If this is a challenge for you.2 Voice Tone and Tonality D2-T2 Listen to some examples of different tones of voice. do this for several minutes. focusing on generating your voice from your nose. how interesting you are. how they make you feel. "Cool" comes from being calm and sure of yourself. not out of nervousness. a sense of being relaxed and calm • It also allows you to express some energy and excitement at different times.

it's important that you do what you can to REALLY make a point of doing these assignments. Also. 2) In the next few conversations you have with people. Real-world experience will really help you to not just "know" the skills. and make them a part of who you are. and where you are speaking from (your nose. Relax. SOUND relaxed. but to actually HAVE the skills. with whom.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 3) Now read some of the material. comfortable. but this time really focus upon generating the sound from deep within your chest. relaxed-confident). 1) Over the next few days when speaking to anyone. really make a note to speak lower. where you were. Make notes below as to when it happened. Focus on dropping your voice down from your nose/mouth. Day/Time Who you spoke to Speaking from? How you felt. mouth. and whether or not you DID it! Day/Time Who you spoke to Situation (Where) Did you DO it? Page 8 . Assignments are where you are given a real task to go out and do . make note of how you felt (nervous. Make notes below for some of the conversations and see if you can see a correlation between these items.in the real world! To get the most benefit from this course. Can you recall how you spoke? Did the way you sound in that situation sound like any of the examples you just did? See the similarity? Assignments for Speaking Pointers These are your first real assignments in the course. See how relaxed it actually makes you feel and how you really need to BE relaxed to do this! 4) Take a moment. and really focus on having that voice generated from your chest. and recall some time in the recent past when you were kind of nervous or fearful. make a note to yourself as to how you are speaking. or chest).

but this time read it slowly. Read several paragraphs and do this for several minutes. or almost a sense of panic. 2) Read some more of that material out loud. Focus on reading in a very hurried fashion as if you are very nervous.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Strategic Formula for Speaking Pointers Use your best tone of voice (speaking from your chest) to convey a relaxed. comfortable manner.3 Pacing and Pausing D2-T15 Listen to the examples where some various pacing is demonstrated. and shows that the speaker is relaxed. 1) Take some of that reading material and read it aloud. powerful. even some of the materials from other products. first very very fast. 2. relaxed. Something you are interested in. Speaking too quickly can show tension. Why is • • • this important? Correct pacing and speed of delivery conveys comfort. but this time read it in a slow. 4) Now read some of the material. and this time focus on reading in a quick and hurried fashion. but go ahead and convey excitement in your voice! 3) Now read some of the material. deliberate. Being able to vary your pacing and pausing can help a lot to convey a sense of intrigue and create interest.) Assignments for Pacing and Pausing 1) Over the next few days when speaking to anyone. in a manner that makes you sound as if you are very confused.1. as we discussed in the past section. make a note to yourself as to how you are speaking in terms of your pacing and pausing. Too fast? Too slow? Hurried-nervous? Hurried-excited? Slow-confused? Page 9 . (Maybe even be aware of where your voice is coming from. and charismatic presence. There are many variations: Listen as these are demonstrated • Hurried showing nervousness • Hurried showing excitement • Slow as in hesitant and/or confused • Slow in a way that is deliberate and relaxed Exercises for Pacing and Pausing Grab some reading material of some type. and then far far too slow. or don't quite understand the content.

or bored. dead-end conversations. to convey a more relaxed and deliberate manner. YOU can show an appropriate amount of energy and enthusiasm. By doing this. energy.4 Energy and Enthusiasm D2-T26 Listen to some examples of how this can sound . Page 10 . YOU act boring. • If someone else is being interesting. then you can show more enthusiasm. where. Day/Time Who you spoke to What type of pacing and pausing? 2) For the next few days. enthusiasm. just make a note of this after-the-fact and write that down below.. Who cares? Why does this matter? • Most guys are just TOO BORING. and if you DID it! Day/Time Who you spoke to Situation (Where) Did you DO it? Strategic Formula for Pacing and Pausing Use variations in pace. start to focus on changing your pacing and pausing.. 2. you get stuck in fewer boring. who. and excitement when appropriate.1. to convey a sense of drama and intrigue in what you are saying in a way that "captivates" people and makes them want to listen to you. Make note of when.. and well-placed pauses.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Slow-relaxed? You don't have to change it yet. • This also allows YOU to convey how interesting someone ELSE is as well. It's good to have the ability and range to display passion. When someone else is being boring. If they do or say something that is interesting to YOU.

. women. something you are interested in. their tone. go ahead and SHOW your enthusiasm! Be energetic in how you speak. Page 11 .. do that for 10-15 minutes. 2) For the next few conversations you have with people where you ARE interested in the subject. bland voice with no energy or enthusiasm. go ahead. and how your respond. Watch on either TV. whatever it is. their tone. animated. monotone. Note how even if the material is something you do NOT care about. When you respond or talk back. Again. etc. and how much (or little) energy is conveyed.. 4) Get some written material that really DOES interest you. and that are excited about. Strategic Formula for Energy and Enthusiasm Using energy and enthusiasm when speaking so that people can become energized and enthusiastic about listening to and being with you. and read that aloud in a boring. Really pay attention to how they speak. Read it OUT LOUD in a boring.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course The audio section demonstrates more details about sounding boring/bored and also sounding as if you have energy and enthusiasm. their pace. their pace. Think as if YOU are convincing a group of people how great this is! Maybe your Dream Job of a lifetime is dependant upon YOU speaking well and showing how passionate YOU are about this! Do that for a good 10-15 minutes. taped lectures. and read THAT aloud in a way that DOES show energy and enthusiasm! Make that sound as convincing as #4 above.. Do this for a good 10-15 minutes. do that for 10-15 minutes. 5) Take that written material that really does interest you. 2) Watch and listen to some speakers who use a lot of energy and enthusiasm when they are talking! Really pay attention to how they speak. bland. Again. Exercises for Energy and Enthusiasm Grab some reading material of some type. 1) Watch and listen to some speakers talk about a boring. maybe sports. Assignments for Energy and Enthusiasm 1) Over the next few days. your work. your car. and how much (or little) energy is conveyed. dry topic. Read it OUT LOUD in an exciting. BE BORING and show no enthusiasm at all. that a good speaker can really grab your attention with their energy and enthusiasm. how you listen. make sure it is something that YOU are passionate about. monotone voice. technical presentations. even some of the materials from . energetic voice. 3) Get some written material that you have NO interest in. 6) Take that earlier written material about the subject that you are NOT interested in and that really bores you. which bores you. whenever someone is talking about something boring. other products. and BE BORING.

• Their use must be automatic. they are not things that can be measured or specified. nouns and verbs. Examples • Car reviews • Movie Reviews • This course! Exercises for Adjectives and Adverbs 1) Find some written material that deals with something where people are speaking passionately about some subject.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. Note whom you were talking to. or they are too factual and leftbrained. Who you spoke to Subject 5) Now. Cars. add more descriptive terms to it. 4) Think of three recent conversations you had when you talked to someone about something that you REALLY liked.) 3) Read that text OUT LOUD. Adjectives will describe THINGS (nouns). Most guys are too dry in their speech. while Adverbs will describe ACTIONS (verbs). but this time. whatever. and uninteresting. sports. but must be done over and over. boring. (Maybe highlight them in some manner. These words modify or in some way describe.1 Adjectives and Adverbs D2-T40 Listen to an example where many of these are used in descriptive language. you should be able to do this for at least 3-5 minutes each. Remember. Day. Most men could be helped by having more descriptive speech. and more ways of talking about processes. If you really like this subject. and stress the adjectives and adverbs in it. we are working to appeal to the emotions. Page 12 . and the subject you were talking about. not the logical side of a person. talk about each thing or subject again. It's good if YOU are also interested in it. Maybe say those adjectives or adverbs and put more energy into those words and emphasize them in some manner.2 LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS D2-T39 These are the Bit And Pieces • These are the sort of things that can be powerful. movies. They sound cold. Do this for each of the conversations listed above. Re-live it. because to have to "think about" using them is almost impossible! • You need to be TRAINED TO USE THEM automatically. feelings. 2) Read it. Most Adjectives and Adverbs are qualitative. out loud. and make note of the adjectives and adverbs in it. use more Adjectives and Adverbs. talk about it in a descriptive way. 2. and sensations..2..

make sure to use some of those adjectives and adverbs in your descriptions. 4) The next several times any of those subjects come up in conversation. Day Who you spoke to Subject 2) Write down a few adjectives and adverbs that you could have used in each discussion (refer to a. their emotional side. factual. and c above). Write down what the subject was. Trance • • • • • Word List Instantaneously Suddenly Find Yourself Convince Yourself Suppose Page 13 . Strategic Formula for Adjectives and Adverbs Use more adjectives and adverbs in your speech to appeal to and excite the emotional side of the listener. is listening and more engaged in the conversation. Start with just a few of them. They are not "analyzed" in a conscious. Trance words help to "open the person up" so that their subconscious. and with whom you spoke. "paint a picture" with your words. that you are passionate about. Act like you are really having the conversation again. so that their feelings. and then maybe add some more as time goes on.2. 3) Practice out loud how you would have said those things in each of the three conversations. Trance words are words that "call upon" the subconscious mind in order for them to be processed and understood. b. 2.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Assignments for Adjectives and Adverbs 1) Make note of the next 3 times you are having a conversation which deals with something that YOU are really into.2 Trance Words D3-T1 Listen to an example where many of these are used. Be descriptive. emotions. and processes awaken. that you really enjoy. or objective manner.

work. and see how many of those Trance Words you can use. See how many you can notice. Boring Subject Page 14 . placing an emphasis on the Trance Words when you see them. but also see if you can add some to the list. sportscasters. almost boring or mundane thing. Write them down below. Highlight or circle the Trance Words in a few sections. 5) Take the written text from an SS product (maybe from #3 above) and read it out loud. Think for a moment about using those trance words to describe that subject. Look at the Trance Word List above. Trance Word List 2) Watch or listen to some material where people are speaking passionately about something. or school. even something concrete like your job.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • Imagine Mysterious (-ly) Wonder (-ous) (-ously) Think of any subject. talk OUT LOUD about that subject and see how many times you can use those Trance Words! Subject a. With that list of Trance Words (above) in hand. and see if you can pick these out. or religious speakers. 3) Get out your written SS materials and look for Trance Words (maybe even use THIS course here). see and hear if you can pick out when the speaker is using Trance Words. Maybe refer to some of your other SS products and see how many more you can find. 6) Pick two subjects in which you are interested. Subject b. You can copy the ones you saw listed earlier. Doesn't that make it sound kind of "mysterious"? Maybe more exciting? Maybe you can take some normal. Maybe play one tape or CD. Now speak OUT LOUD about that subject. See how many you can find and notice how they are used in context. Looking at the list of Trance Words above. like advertisements. 4) Get your SS audio materials and listen for Trance Words (maybe even THIS course here). political speakers. and make it more interesting? Well. something that you think is dull. talk about it. that's the point! Exercises for Trance Words 1) Make a full list of Trance Words. 7) Pick a subject that bores you.

. If you were to . because it may be a bit too forward? Well. and more fascinating? Assignments for Trance Words 1) Pick two subjects in which you are interested. Subject b.. doesn't that make it-sound more "exciting". As you ... Strategic Formula for Trance Words Using Trance Words will help to get the subconscious mind of the listener to be more of a part of your conversation. and using more and more as time goes on. Subject a. The next time you are speaking with anyone about those subjects (in the real world guys!). more interesting. Practice working with those subjects out loud some more and see if you can get even more comfortable using Trance Words when talking about those subjects. 2. Page 15 . How do you talk about something without REALLY talking about it? How do you bring something up that may be a bit different. to get from one subject to another... 2) Integrate a few more of these words into your every-day description of those subjects...3 Weasel Phrases D3-T14 Listen to an example where many of these are used. • • • • • Have you ever .. These also work as transitional phrases.2.. If I were to . Just do whatever you can to start using some of them at first.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Even though that may seem a bit strange. make a point to use at least one of the Trance Words in the conversation. Use them when talking to different people. that's what Weasel Phrases are for! Weasel Phrase List (see if you can add to the list by listening to the audio). What's it like when . maybe even a bit odd? Maybe even a different topic or change of subject? Or maybe something that you were worried about bringing up.

saying one slowly or quickly. the subject might be "going to a ball game" (pick your own. and then use one of the Weasel Phrases and the bring up another "aspect". that seem as if they fit best into your way of speaking about subjects that you may like. Just read the SS material out loud. don't use that one!) Now talk about one of these 4-5 aspects for 1-2 sentences. 3) Take the written SS materials you had earlier. getting into it. This is necessary to have the kind of words and subjects that lend themselves to Weasel Phrases. we want you to talk about how it FEELS. (Weasel Phrases tend to provide ways to connect sentences and paragraphs that talk about how something is felt and experienced. make note of the weasel phrases.. Talk about THAT one for a few sentences. It will get easier. that it makes more sense. For example. Maybe pausing for a moment before one. Pick 3 of them that seem the most natural to you. but selecting different Phrases to link the aspects together. etc. 2) Note the subject that you used earlier for doing some exercises with Weasel Phrases (exercise 4 above). 2) Get your SS audio materials and listen for some Weasel Phrases. and do so with an awareness on some level that you are saying and using weasel phrases when they are in the text. doing it. etc. Try it again. and read some of this material out loud. The next several times that you talk about that subject with anyone. Subject Page 16 . see if you can use some or all of your favorite weasel phrases when talking about it. the experience of it. Maybe play one tape or CD. Take a moment and try to emphasize them in a way.) Pick 4-5 different aspects of this "experience" that you will talk about.. While doing it. 4) Pick a subject in which you are interested. Assignments for Weasel Phrases 1) Look at the list of Weasel Phrases that you wrote earlier. Do this until you use all 4-5 of the attributes that you listed. Use different Phrases. See if you can pick these out. 5) Did that sound weird? Strange? Ok . after another. then use another Weasel Phrase. In a moment. sensing it. and see if you can string things together so that they sound better.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Exercises for Weasel Phrases 1) Get some of your written SS materials and look for some Weasel Phrases in the text.

Page 17 . maybe a car. Just say this stuff out loud. Maybe play one tape or CD. issue a "command" or statement that instructs someone do something. Two key aspects of the use of Embedded Commands are often overlooked. While doing it. or more quickly. a place you have traveled. feel.). Pick something that excites you! Maybe the subject is sports. See if you can pick out embedded commands while listening. or "you want this" (car). "get excited". Think of general statements. allowing you to say more (and maybe more provocative things) about a subject. Like "feel excited".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Select another subject that really interests you. or experience while they are thinking about that subject. • Repetition . and where the person's emotions or feelings are somehow active (This "context" issue is discussed later in the product in great detail in Conversational Management sections. Subject Strategic Formula for Weasel Phrases Use Weasel Phrases to keep the conversation going.just general things that would cause a person to be interested in something. and incorporate Weasel Phrases into the next several discussions you have about that subject as well. make note of the embedded commands. feelings. your job. Write down a list of embedded commands. etc. things you would like a listener to think about. These are not to be sexual or suggestive.It's not just about using one. once. Again not "you like that color". 3) Take the written SS materials. on some level. These are small snippets of words and phrases which. excited by something. think of it like this. your car.2.. 4) Pick a topic that YOU are very interested in. Take a moment and try to emphasize them in some way. that you want them to experience. maybe pausing for a moment before one.4 Embedded Commands D3-T25 Listen to an example where many of these are used. and to "soften" the way in which something is said. after another. and do so with an awareness. • Context . instead "you like this" (car). but just general things (feelings or states). that you are saying and using embedded commands at the time. To make it easy. intrigued. "this is what you have imagined having for yourself. "see how fascinated" . 2. 2) Get your SS audio materials and listen for these. when separated from the context.. saying one slowly.It's very important that the command be brought up in the context of a conversation that is interesting. Make a point to "lean on it" a bit. its about multiple usage (bombardment)! Exercises for Embedded Commands 1) Get our your written SS materials (written) and look for embedded commands in a few pages of the text. lets say you were selling something to someone. "get into it". and read some of this material out loud. etc. or feel a certain way. Write down things that would make someone interested.

but something where being influential may help. out loud. and make it sound natural. Start to place some emphasis on the command itself. or school. Maybe it's not a passion or real interest. see just how many of the embedded commands in that list that YOU can say! First. pausing. and with that list that YOU wrote in hand. Write down a list of at least 5 commands that work well in that subject. work on just saying them and finding a way to bring them up. Maybe slowing down slightly. Subject Embedded Commands 3) Practice the use of those commands. make some effort to use some of these commands in the context of a real discussion. or maybe it has to deal with your job. 4) The next several times that subject comes up in your life. changing your voice. to create a compelling will on the part of the listener follow you and listen to you. 6) Do the same thing again. The next several times that you talk about that subject with anyone. Strategic Formula for Embedded Commands Use embedded commands repeatedly and in the proper context.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 5) Start talking about that topic out loud. 2) Select another subject that is a part of your life. See how natural you can make them sound. but now focus more on "leaning" on the embedded commands a bit. Page 18 . in the context of talking about that subject. that would assist you in being more influential. start using a few of these commands when speaking. Maybe you work in sales. just enough to put the emphasis on the command. Assignments for Embedded Commands 1) Look at the list of Commands that you wrote and practiced that deal with a subject in which you are interested (exercise 4 above).

5 Linking D3-T42 Linking is a way to take the feelings. it's easier than you think! Just talking about a subject and getting her to be a part of the discussion. then on some level that is creating this "link". make note of where linking is taking place.While listening to the audio. 3) Take the written SS materials. etc.2. will "link" them to you. If she is experiencing these feelings in your presence. See if you can pick out Linking Phrases while listening. which is ambiguous (non-exact). • • • • • • • Now with me In me In myself with this these this belief these feelings Exercises for Linking 1) Get our your written SS materials (written) and look for examples of Linking in the text. The most common linking phrase/tool that guys think about is the phrase "now with me".) Page 19 . Maybe play one tape or CD. you become more associated with those feelings. Are you talking about the "feeling" she had at some time in the past? Are you talking about the feeling she is having right now? • Because you are using terms like "this". which is an ambiguous way of referencing what she is thinking about. emotions. etc. recall. and talking to you. What is this based upon? • When talking. and make this "link" even more effective. 2) Get your SS audio materials and listen for these. Take a moment and try to emphasize the linking in some way. see if you can add more phrases to the list below. ALL of those possible definitions apply! Then. and read some of this material aloud. However. "this interest". using some of the techniques that have been discussed in this course (pausing. In some ways. you are being ambiguous. also "this" and "these" as in "this feeling" of "these feelings". While doing so. she has to feel it on some level (and she will. when you say "this feeling". and then making an ambiguous reference to that feeling using your words. • However. non-specific. For example.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. the linking tools and techniques will add to this. and inexact. and feel emotions. she has to actually feel it to some extent. if you are talking about a great feeling of excitement that a woman has had or is having. on some level. You can also make reference to "in me". and getting her to experience. Linking Phrases . • In order for her to understand the feeling being discussed. change in voice tone. as long as there is good rapport). Just to "process" what is being discussed. and experiences that are being discussed and associate or "link" them to you. you are talking "about" a feeling or sensation. "in myself. then to the deeper levels of her mind. while looking at you. you speak of "this feeling".

Another example would be to take the phrase "Get excited" and turn that into "get excited by THESE things". where you listed "feel excited".2. Embedded Command Linkage Phrase 5) Pick a topic that YOU are interested in as we did before (it can be the same one you used in Exercise #4 in section 2.4). etc. This may seem strange and sound a bit "off". or change your voice. In some manner. You can even add the ever-popular "now. work on just saying them and finding a way to bring them up. and see if you can "add" text to each to link them to you in some way. 6) Now do the same thing again. Write down the list of commands and an associated linkage phrase for each below. but now focus more on "leaning" a bit on the Linkage Phrases. with me" after one of more of the commands in your list.4). Plus the next section will make this much easier! Strategic Formula for Linking After getting someone to experience good feelings and emotions. A quick way of doing this is to simply add "this feeling". "this person or thing". and using the list above. see just how many of the Embedded Commands and Linkage Phrases that you can use in your dialog.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4) Take the list of embedded commands that you created in an earlier exercise (Exercise #4 in section 2. this will come to you much more easily.2.) For example. That's ok. just enough to put emphasis on the Linkage Phrase. As you hear more and more examples of this throughout the course. Page 20 . pause. the linking is ambiguous and doesn't reference you directly. it's much better if picked up along-the-way. "these feelings". (Again. Maybe slow down slightly. link them to you so that YOU become something and someone that they feel good about. Assignments for Linking No separate assignment for this. Start talking about that topic out loud. This will sound easier for you as we go on. Doing linking in an exercise like this is difficult and hard to make it sound "natural". you could say "feel excited by this" or "feel excited now" (you can also link things by putting in a reference to NOW). First.

In this case. one "thing". that feeling • This sensation.Possessive • Those .6 Easy-Linking (This. they reference a "thing". for that multiple-instance bombardment that we spoke of before! The idea of linking wild. those sensations So. with "these" being the possessive form. exciting. with you. Whereas "that person" refers to someone "away" some "other" person who is not in the immediate area. Those) D4-T1 Listen to an example where many of these are used. This is a new and very effective way to do linking that is easy to learn and master. For example. these refer to plural items. this & that are singular • This . who cares? Well these are almost interchangeable! You can switch this/that in sentences as you wish. and included. there are times when they cannot be switched. those people • These directions. but do so in a general manner. So. these and those are plural • These . That.Possessive (sort of "includes" something) • That .Non-Possessive For example.Non-Possessive (seems to reference something "else" or something "away") Consider these and those.2. that person • This direction. "this person" tends to sound like the person that is there. This means they are ambiguous! Consider this and that. a GREAT strategy is to link anything and everything positive to you (and link negative things away from yourself. and one is not. in general. This and that tend to refer to singular items. seductive feelings to you may be great but. So. or not there at the time. and "that" is not.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. that sensation They differ though in that "this" seems possessive. (In some cases. Consider four words in the English language: • This • That • These • Those These are forms of pronouns. Given that one type is possessive. use the possessive form when saying or talking about ANYTHING POSITIVE and use the non-possessive form when saying anything negative! Page 21 . • These people. those directions • These feelings. • This person. so you are not using a name or specific reference. that direction • This feeling. and it can be done a LOT. but that will be quite obvious when you try to do that). These. those feelings • These sensations.

These people are good. you have discussed a subject (and written a lot of text about it) that is important to you. Those are not. These are good. These. 2) Say the lines below. That person is not. That is not. ' 3) Earlier in the workbook. These. Exercises for Easy-Linking 1) Say the lines below. Write down (below) ten attributes. That. That. or "things about" that subject. for a good ten minutes. and the correct form of This. using the correct versions of That. out loud. out loud. Subject: Attributes or "things about" that subject. For each of these attributes or things. Use "That" and "Those" when referring to anything negative. or singular/plural. This person is good. for a good ten minutes. Those people are not. and those depending on whether the item is positive or negative. Small sentence that includes that attribute. This is good. Those Page 22 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • This That These Those Singular possessive Singular non-possessive Plural possessive Plural non-possessive Anything Anything Anything Anything Positive Negative Positive Negative You can learn to do this (to choose which of these words to use) in real-time through training! Tactical Formula for Easy-Linking Use "This" and "These" when referring to anything positive. write a small sentence for each.

and their movement becomes a part of their communication. These. Subject: Attributes or "things about" that subject. and the correct form of This. Small sentence that includes that attribute. and then write a small sentence for each. Anchoring Anchoring is associating a feeling or emotional state to a sensory experience. That. Those 6) Talk out loud about the subject mentioned above for a good 5-10 minutes. Great speakers use movement to their advantage. list ten attributes or things about that subject. That. and once again. These sections help to train you in these types of techniques.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4) Talk out loud about that subject for a good 5-10 minutes. and Those.3 MORE TOOLS D4-T12 Now we are getting into a different area. 5) Pick another subject. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. D4-T13 Page 23 . 2. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. These. using the appropriate form of This. beyond the small bits and pieces of language.

How to • • • do this: Get your hands out of your pockets. Don't flail about wildly. Watch how they move. Read some of that text (from an earlier exercise) out loud.1 Pointing and Gestures D4-T14 Good speakers use their hands. 2) List 3 subjects that you really enjoy. point up.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Many different types of anchoring can be done and we are only going to cover some very basic tools. and away from yourself. or even a preacher. etc. etc.3. have energy. and that are very very easy to do. and hopefully the conversations are interesting. Assignments for Pointing and Gestures 1) For the next few days. and way from your sides. down. and some gestures. to help make their point. talking about a subject that YOU are interested in. after the conversation has ended. Get your hands OUT of your pockets and AWAY from your body! Act excited. political speaker. Then later on see if you can start to become aware of what your hands are doing WHILE you are in the conversation. so that the use of these becomes automatic. However we will focus on things that can create a LOT of effectiveness. so these techniques discussed here will help. Subjects Page 24 . 2. Move! We will start by generating SOME movement. and that you are passionate about. We will break down many of the component parts of this into skills that we will teach you bit by bit. maybe a motivational speaker. BE excited! Use your hands and arms for emphasis. Pick something YOU are interested in. Use your hands to accentuate certain points. and then we can work on deliberate movement such as • Pointing towards and away from things • Towards yourself and away from yourself Exercises for Pointing and Gestures 1) Find a good speaker on TV. etc). They may be a bit over-the-top (speaking to an audience is different than speaking one-on-one) but just watch them for a while. and to do multiple times. How often are they in your pockets? How often do they just lie by your side and never move? Make note of this after-the-fact. passionate. towards. 2) Get one of the text lists from an earlier exercise (weasel phrases. Most guys are too boring and too reserved when talking. and that you end up talking about with people quite often. embedded commands. make note of where your hands are when speaking.

and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. beyond the small bits and pieces of language. and the correct form of This. Great speakers use movement to their advantage.3 MORE TOOLS D4-T12 Now we are getting into a different area. That. 2. These sections help to train you in these types of techniques. D4-T13 Page 23 . and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. These. Subject: Attributes or "things about" that subject. and Those. That. Anchoring Anchoring is associating a feeling or emotional state to a sensory experience. and once again. These. and their movement becomes a part of their communication. list ten attributes or things about that subject. and then write a small sentence for each.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4) Talk out loud about that subject for a good 5-10 minutes. using the appropriate form of This. 5) Pick another subject. Small sentence that includes that attribute. Those 6) Talk out loud about the subject mentioned above for a good 5-10 minutes.

Bad. point towards yourself. Bad (gesture towards. Do your best to re-enact that discussion (say what you said. etc. motion.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course For each of these subjects. As you get more comfortable with this. just start to MOVE. and others. Strategic Formula for Pointing and Gestures Move. gesture. Page 25 . away.. Say the following out loud while gesturing in the correct direction: Good. Do something. arms. and MOVE. and animate to some extent the next time you talk about them. ANYTHING.. point or gesture towards yourself.3. no need to WILDLY gesture! • You can do this many many times. point away. away. This technique allows you to do this many many times.). and send Negative things away • You can point towards or away from yourself. Whenever you say something positive. Bring Positive things toward yourself. 2. Tactical Formula for Linking Gestures Whenever you say something negative. recall a recent time when you had such a discussion. make a point to get your hands OUT of your pockets. Exercises for Linking Gestures 1) Stand up.2 Linking Gestures (Towards And Away) D4-T22 This is a fast and easy way to link positive states to you.) 2) Grab some of your written SS materials. and AWAY from your sides and MOVE when talking about these subjects. etc. Read that out loud. make a note to go ahead and move. 3) With these three subjects in mind. point or gesture away. but this time use your hands. very easily. many people move when talking This technique is most powerful when used at a time when emotions and/or imagination are engaged in the conversation. and to send negative things "away" from yourself. and every time something positive is being talked about. or • You can place your hand on your chest or abdomen in a subtle manner (to link things to you) . gesture. Good. towards. and the repetition works for you! • Can do in various contexts. • Or hold your hand away from yourself (to send things "away") How to use it • Good to do in the context of being a person that already MOVES when talking! • Make this subtle. and accentuate what you are saying in order to be more compelling as a speaker and to get even more attention from your listener or audience. and when anything negative is mentioned. or at least be able to move. and MOVE! Do this out loud.

say what you said.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Remember the text we used in an earlier example here in the workbook? Read that out loud.) D4-T30 Now we bring together Linking Gestures and Easy Linking. make a note to go ahead and use these Linking Gestures to some extent the next time you talk about them.3. Subjects Do your best to re-enact that discussion.. That. Start subtle. Conversely. or at least sit where you can move. Do this out loud. when anything negative is mentioned. Point to you Negative statement. (yes. Pick something that YOU are interested in. Linking Gestures and Easy-Linking together: • • • Use the pointing/gestures on Positive and Negative things (point towards and away). Use "This. Say "this". these can be the same as the last set of assignments). point away. but this time when you are speaking of anything good or positive. Point away Positive statement. and that you end up talking about with people quite often. start with a few. These. When you say These or Those. Point to you Negative Say "those". and hopefully the conversations are interesting. points towards yourself. it will become easier and easier. Those" correctly Combine these and use them at the same time! When you say This or These. gesture towards yourself or place your hand(s) on yourself. point away.. 2. motion away or place your hands/arms away. Say "that". Point away. Say "these". but you don't have to do it every time! That will seem strange! Tactical Formula for Easy Linking Expanded Positive statement. For each of these subjects. etc. Exercises for Easy Linking Expanded 1) Stand up. That. passionate. This is veryeasy to do over and over for that repetitive effect. 2) With these three subjects in mind. and MOVE. Those .3 Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This. These. have energy. point towards yourself and when anything negative is mentioned. and every time something positive is being talked about. recall a recent time when you had such a discussion. etc. Assignments for Linking Gestures 1) List 3 subjects that you really enjoy. Do the following out loud: Page 26 .

But to get even more effectiveness when anything positive happens. and able to be done many many times. 2. we are doing that already by pointing "towards" on positive things and "away" on negative things using Linking. The more that "emotions" are being accessed.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Point to yourself. the more effective it tends to be. and away when negative. Do this in a way that maybe makes it seem like you are doing it for emphasis. These. Strategic Formula for Easy Linking Expanded Combine the use of Linking Gestures (towards yourself when positive. That. it's more difficult. and emotions to yourself. etc.) with Easy Linking (using This. but actually. Point away. a laugh. Point back to yourself and say "these". an expression. These. touch them • they seem to go into a pleasant state. it will become automatic. If you are head-on directly in front of a person. states. Those in the correct ways) to associate even more positive feelings. It may be good to anchor feelings. you are anchoring them in a subtle way. Practice it enough and in connection with earlier exercises. and say "that". trying to add in more instances of This.Point or Touch. touch them This is best done in a "moment" with some emotion. and say "this".. That. On Positive D4-T35 Let's look at anchoring in light of the 80/20 rule (where 80% of the results come from 20% of the effort). or when the person you are talking to goes into a Positive state. Page 27 . Also. touch them! This "Easy Anchoring" works in any context: • they laugh. Can we apply this to anchoring? Yes! • We need a way to do some basic anchoring that is very simple. and Those. This is more easily done if you are standing at the side or at an angle.3. That. specific states. it's good to be close enough (within arms-length) so that the "touch" is easy to do. a realization. touch them • they smile. and thoughts to you but in a general sense. Use the correct versions of This. and Those if you can.4 Easy Anchoring . while pointing towards or away from yourself in the correct manner. Point away and say "those" Repeat! This WILL help to train you! 2) Remember the text we used in an earlier example? Speak that text out loud.. These. it's very useful to Anchor anything and everything positive to you! In some ways.

make a point to hold it just slightly longer than usual. Also note the degree of eye contact. laugh..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course You probably do this already in certain situations.) Maybe a handshake Maybe a pat on the back Maybe a funny gesture Make a note of the person. Assignments for Easy Anchoring 1) The next several times you shake someone's hand.. • When joking with someone. and the situation or topic being discussed. A laugh A moment of recognition or realization When someone starts talking quietly. vividly. without really thinking about it.. Person '" Situation. but in many cases. a smile. See if you can recall how it was. (Not romantically. such as. Tactical Formula for Easy Anchoring When the person you are talking with displays a positive feeling of some type. • Think about when you greet a friend. also make a point to make and maintain eye contact as well. you grab their upper arm as well. This is the same type of thing. maybe pat on the back. Exercises for Easy Anchoring 1) Think about the last 5 times where you touched someone in this type of way. or Topic being discussed 2) Recall those 5 times. maybe someone who you have heard about). but yet have some degree of rapport already (maybe this is a friend-of-a-friend. you just touch his or her upper arm or upper back. etc. Write those down. directly to you. What do you do? You shake their hand. Page 28 . but a bit more "deliberate". • Think about when you meet and are introduced to someone. 2) Spend some time looking for moments (positive ones) where a touch would be appropriate. touch them to help anchor it to you. intrigue. interest. and note to yourself the correlation between how long the touch lasted and the level of rapport. just a touch.

These..4 REVIEW D4-T46 We are well on our way. o Easy-Linking • This. These. You are noticing this after-the-fact. • SPEAKING POINTERS o The "Cool" Factor • You don't have to be cold. 3) Now that you have started to notice these "moments" where a touch would be appropriate. and movement skills that will be used later in the course. Those MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures • Move! Point! o Linking Gestures • Towards And Away o Easy Linking Expanded • Pointing With This. think "I could have touched them THEN". when you have the chance. That. and you have already learned a LOT of the detailed speaking. to be cool o Voice Tone And Tonality • Nose.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course At first. That. Then.. in-the-moment. Fast • • • Pause o Energy And Enthusiasm • Passionate or Boring? LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS o Adjectives And Adverbs • Be descriptive o Trance Words • Instantaneously. maybe you don't touch them.. language. Suddenly.. Those Page 29 . 2. anchoring and associating yourself to positive and intriguing feelings in other people helps to make them feel positive towards and intrigued by you. Find Yourself o Weasel Phrases • If I were to . but as you notice these moments. we want you to actually DO IT! So. see if you can have at least 5 instances of knowing. Chest o Pacing And Pausing • Slow.. that a touch is appropriate. o Linking " with me. o Embedded Commands • Can you do this now. Mouth. DO IT! Strategic Formula for Easy Anchoring In general.

we will move onwards to work on Language Structures. and later to Conversational Management techniques.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o Easy Anchoring • Point Or Touch On Positive And Negative With these parts behind you. Page 30 .

.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3. but will hopefully at some point. Don't argue! . Now we are moving "up" a level.0 LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES D5-T1 We have been working on bits and pieces of language. Pace and Lead allows us to "join" someone. but agreeing is just a special case.. Are they useful and possible? • • • Trying to knock or jar someone into a different direction or way of thinking can be risky. move with them conversationally for a while. incorrect. be able to just "do". move them . Agree or not agree? . towards where you want things to go.. To "Pace" means to just BE a part of the conversation. you are lost. Challenges • Can't you just bluntly offer a different view? Yes. all of the time. You almost NEVER impress people that way! To pace/lead well. the sort of things that you need to get used to doing automatically. It can mean this. you might bring up a new way of looking at it. or "bigger chucks" as we say. say things such as. and more influential in general. You might disagree.Some people misunderstand and think that to "Pace" means to "agree". o That's one way to see it o I understand your point Page 31 • • .Can you just knock someone into agreeing with you? Can you be that bold? Yes. These were tactical details. The minute you do anything like that to get someone else's "approval". Changing the Viewpoint or Frame if Mind . etc. 3. and then take them in some direction... Changing Topics and Subjects .. Fast and abrupt changes .Can you just abruptly jerk a conversation towards where you want it to go? Maybe.. into higher-level stuff.Some people try to display higher knowledge or value by "arguing". You MAY be able to do that. but you can break rapport in the process. then and give them another way of looking at it. but you must do so powerfully and do NOT look for "acceptance".. show understanding (does not have to be agreement necessarily) and then . For example. it's best to meet or join someone in some way. telling someone they are wrong. or to try to "impress" them. you might make comments (some that agree and some that may not) but the key is that you are "Taking part in" the conversation and topics at hand.A way to change directions • In someone's way of thinking • In the conversation To make a change in direction in some manner.1 PACE AND LEAD D5-T2 Pace and Lead . These techniques give you ways to use and arrive at languaging in a manner that will make you more persuasive. however you can break rapport. but you need a lot of power to do it and you risk breaking rapport. acknowledge what the other person is saying. things that you should not even have to really "think about".

Instead .. have you thought about this ...... That hardly ever works. . but to really get a sense of being IN the conversation..1 General Pace and Lead Techniques D5-T9 Here are some examples of ways to do these steps with example wording for each. or. 3... So..... • Alright. Let them know you are listening and understand (using wording such as shown below... the implication is that you NEED someone's approval. and/or interest.. as if you "need" their approval. I read/saw/heard the same thing ... allowing you to move things more in your favor later on. it makes YOU look bad. Page 32 .. what you are saying is . if you attempt to do that. • Ok ..it's like this..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o o That's interesting I see what you are saying. Maybe • • • • • • continue showing an understanding or interest So what you mean is ... and then moving things forward in some manner.BE IMPRESSIVE! People really don't like to be proven dumb or wrong! Most people are offended or "put off by such attempts. • Well. Then start to direct things in a different way ... understanding. showing that you are a part of it. Tactical Formula for Pacing and Leading Show agreement.. So if I understand this .. To TRY to IMPRESS is bad. Let me make sure I understand . a way that you want.1. The point here is not to memorize these "lines". Impressing someone with your knowledge. In addition. Ok.) • Yes. Strategic Formula for Pacing and Leading Pacing and Leading allows you "be" in the conversation for a while and gain rapport and information.. I also think you can see . I see • That's interesting • I get it • Hmmmmm .. acknowledgement. and some of then want to go out and "impress" people with their newfound knowledge. I get it. Then start to move or shift things in a different way. Arguing! Many smart guys study these techniques and technologies.

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I hear you, and what else is interesting is .... •-. That's a good way of looking at it, something else that is important is ....

The Formula for Pacing and Leading is ... acknowledge and then start to shift things ... Maybe you want to shift things more and/or bring up another issue or viewpoint entirely (or maybe you actually disagree) • That's one way of looking at it, however I think ... • Yes, I understand, I have also heard ... • Ok, that makes sense, another way of thinking about it is .. • Alright, but on the other hand... Some general methods you can use to introduce the "leading" aspect, you can talk about... • What you know, believe, understand • What a friend or colleague has said • What you heard • What you read • etc. 3.1.2 Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects D5-T12

Lets say you find some people talking about a topic. Do you walk up, interrupt, and start an entirely new topic? No. (Well, you can, but that takes a lot of power and has a lot of risk.) A better way is to enter the conversation, talk about it (Pace), and then move the conversation into areas that you want it to go (Lead). Examples: • You are in a conversation and the topic is cars. People are talking about prices, loans, etc. You acknowledge what is being said, contribute to that conversation (pace), and then start to bring in the idea of how a car handles, how it feels, and how exciting it is to drive certain cars (lead). • People are discussing clothes, various brands, types, etc. You talk about that with them (pace) for a while, and then start to bring up the idea of how clothes make you feel, how you feel differently when wearing different things ... etc (lead)

Tactical Formula for Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects Show agreement, understanding, acknowledgement, and/or interest in the topic or subject. Then start to move or shift topic or subject in a different way, a way that you want.

Exercises for Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects 1) Think about some recent conversations you have had with people about different topics, hopefully these conversations and/or this topic is something that occurs a lot for you (based on interests you have, people you know, etc). Recall a specific "moment" in each conversation. Note what was being discussed, and what point was being talked about. Make a note of each of them. Also note, where did that actual conversation go next?

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Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course What were you talking about in this "moment"?

Conversation with whom?

Where did it go next?

2) Pace and Lead Gently Out loud, practice as if you were talking in each of the discussions above, and paced the conversation and topic, and then lead it in some direction. In this exercise, simply show agreement, understanding, and/or interest, and then lead in the same general direction. Maybe bring up a new example, new point, new issue, but just sort of "take over" the conversation. 3) Pace and Lead in a New Direction Next, for each of those instances, provide an example where you show agreement, understanding, and/or interest, but now start to "move" things in a new direction. Maybe the conversation that you had started at this one "point" and went in a specific direction ... Now, for this exercise, practice taking it in a new and different direction. Maybe introduce a different aspect of the topic or subject, something not mentioned before, or not normally talked about. The key is to first show agreement, understanding, and/or interest and THEN do this "shift", and you LEAD things in a different way.

Assignments for Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects 1) Make note of three conversations that you tend to have with people on a regular basis. Person or People Subjects we discuss

2) The next times these conversations happen, make a point to "Show agreement, understanding, and/or interest" (Pace). Then "Then start to move things" (Lead) in your own way, Do this by introducing a different aspect of that topic, or a related topic/subject. Don't make this shift or change really abrupt or different, just make a point to sort of "direct" where things move, even if that direction is close to where it was going anyway. Just make sure YOU are the one that moves it. Note the text and examples given earlier as a way to do that. 3) Once you can do the above, now make a point to have your "Lead" incorporate a real change of some type.

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Normally, even without your input, the conversation tends to go in a certain way. The earlier exercise had you just keep thing moving in that same direction. Now you are to "take" the conversation somewhere else towards a different or related topic. Just introduce a new aspect of the topic, a different thing, a different direction, so that you are really "leading" where things go. Remember the language that you were shown earlier. Use languaging like... You know what ELSE is interesting You know what * l * have found (seen, felt) Another way of doing this would be .. You know what ELSE can happen ... is ...

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You can change the way people look at things, their mindset, and their "frame of mind". For example, imagine you are having a discussion and people are talking in a certain "frame of mind" (not directly, it's just their way of seeing things). The point here is to acknowledge that frame, and then introduce another way of seeing things, another "frame", or another "mindset". What is • • • • a "frame"? In general it's ... A way someone "sees" something. What it "means" to them. The way they "feel" about it. The significance or meaning that it has.

Looking at the formula for Pace and Lead, you apply that by first acknowledging the current Frame, and then start to lead by bringing up another way of thinking about it and/or looking at it. You bring a new "frame" into the discussion. (This is a way of shifting that way people LOOK at things, the significance that it has, or their mindset regarding certain topics or behaviours). In the earlier example of Pacing and Leading of Topics and Subjects, we were talking just about a thing, a topic, or subject. Now we are talking about a feeling, or the way things are "seen" or what they "mean". For example, people may be talking about: • Taking risks • Feeling good or bad • Having a good day or a bad day • Making choices • What an event "meant" to them • How someone else actions affected them • How a decision affected them. There is a "frame" (of mind) behind each of these discussions and with proper technique, that frame and mindset may be changed. Look back at the "Methods" section earlier for some details and examples of how to introduce this pacing and leading (there are some lists of languaging examples provided). Examples: • You enter a conversation where people are talking about risks, Risks at work, risks in finances, risks in life. You Pace by discussing this for a while. The frame or mindset here is that risks are bad, dangerous,

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The frame you are bring up is how superficial it is to judge based on numbers and details. and/or interest in the mindset or frame of mind . and then lead it in some direction. looks for more.. a new meaning. etc. then start to move into talking about how men do this as well. Then start to move or shift the frame by introducing another way of looking at things. she talks about what their professions are. etc. the assumption? What is the frame of mind behind the viewpoints that they had? Write down the topic.. and you are working to change the way she screens out guys. Note what was being discussed. the frame of mind or mindset is the focus here. what point was being talked about... or provide a relevant example. • Another conversation has a woman talking about what she looks for in men.Mindset or Frame of Mind Show agreement.. then lead in the same general direction. Again.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course have consequences. and paced it.. Exercises for Pace and Lead . What was the "frame".. the viewpoint. Then you start to lead by bringing up the idea that some risks are fun and interesting. and how anyone of quality . some risks make you feel alive. weight.) Tactical Formula for Pace and Lead . where the point of the discussion in that moment was: The way they "see" something. Towards a way that you want. and what "kind" of man she likes (height. now its being framed as exciting). In this exercise simply Show agreement. who is like 5 lbs overweight. (Risk was framed as dangerous. (You are shifting her frame so that she may start to look at different things in men. With whom? Topic? Mindset / Frame of Mind 2) Pace and Lead Gently Practice as if you were talking in that discussion. Make a note of each of them. understanding.. understanding. and the "frame" that was in use. Page 36 . The frame here is that she has her "standards" and that this is good for her. some risks have good rewards. Just sort of "take over" the conversation. Do this OUT LOUD. the people. some men will just "write off a woman that is a certain size. and/or interest in the Mindset or Frame of mind. acknowledgement. You agree on some level (pace) and chat about that. Recall a specific "moment" in the conversation. The way they "feel" about it.. Maybe bring up a similar way of looking at it.Mindset or Frame of Mind 1) Think about some recent conversations you have had with people about different topics. or may be perfect but with the wrong hair color (lead). etc). What it "means" to them.

and/or interest" (Pace).Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 3) Pace and Lead in a New Direction Next. or something someone said. and maybe point out a similar example from your own life. and THEN do this "shift". and/or interest. and makes assumptions (has a certain frame) about people or groups. and says they are cheap. to find a positive way of looking at the situation. even if that direction is close to where it was going anyway. etc someone looks at a political issue. provide an example where you Show agreement. Then "start to move things" (Lead) in your own way. Do this by introducing a "way of looking at it" that is similar to the one that is already being used. and their motivations etc. The key is to first Show agreement. but really his mindset is the problem someone talks about wanting something different. and/or interest in the Mindset or Frame of Mind but now start to "move" things in a new direction. some way. Don't make this really abrupt or different. understanding. a frame of reference. Maybe bring up a different viewpoint or way of looking at it. make a point to "Show agreement. Examples: someone complains a lot. and the frame associated with each. for each of those instances. you are just acknowledging the Mindset or Frame in this example. A good way to do it is to show agreement and understanding. and you LEAD things in a different way. Write down these subjects. Assignments for Pace and Lead . understanding. Maybe acknowledge and then bring up an opposing view.Mindset or Frame of Mind 1) Make note of three conversations that you tend to have with people on a regular basis. These should be of a type where THE "frame" or mindset is something of which you are aware. Page 37 . but just make a point to sort of "direct" where things move. what it "means" that is not really in agreement with what was said. Maybe bring up a way of looking at things that is totally different. maybe even limiting beliefs or beliefs that really hold them back. With whom? Subject/Topic? Mindset / Frame of Mind 2) Pace and Lead Gently The next times these conversations happen. Think about discussions where YOU can see that these people involved are working on a certain set of assumptions. and HE is the one with the limitation someone complains about work and the managers. or something you heard or read. Basically. Maybe find a way. and they are the one not taking risks someone is prejudiced or judges other people. understanding. Do this OUT LOUD for each example.

.. What is done here is that you Pace based on something that is obvious (obvious in their "current reality"). A "safe" way to do this would be to find a positive way to look at the situation. but it can work well and adds to the power of the languaging. and then use that to lead someone somewhere. (for example.Current Reality D5-T29 If you look at the languaging used in things like hypnosis... • At least it's not like XYZ. This is a small-chunk detail and technique.1. This may be different from the way the subject or belief WAS framed or thought of. Meaning. a new aspect of "what it means". The earlier exercise had you just sort of "run" with that. point towards a specific Mindset or Frame that is of YOUR choosing. o etc.. these techniques are used a LOT. even without your input. or assumed by the people involved. it might not be that bad..4 Pace and Lead . o After you have ... another way of looking at it is .. focus on the Mindset or Frame. Just introduce a new frame. Some ways to do that is by saying things such as. 3. The general way to approach this is: • Start by pacing something that is obvious about their current reality . Now you are to "take" the conversation somewhere else and bring up a new mindset or frame of mind.. Again. You know.. using words such as) o As you are ......... a new mindset. or used by very powerful speakers. o As you realize .. o As you feel. o While you think ..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Pace and Lead In a New Direction Once you can do the above. Continue to Pace by maybe stating an obvious point about their current reality o seeing XYZ o feeling XYZ o thinking about XYZ o etc. it could be .. and new way of looking at things.. o While you are .. A friend of mine used to feel the same way and they. now make a point to have your "Lead" incorporate a real change of some type. Well.. o As you see ... "Pace" their mindset. o While you are .. and allow the conversation to continue with the same frame of mind in place. o You are probably wondering Page 38 • • .. and/or express what is on their mind.... there was a certain "frame" being discussed.. but just find a positive way to look at what is being discussed. o While you see .

• You are talking to someone at work .. Studies have been done with persuasive language that show that giving a reason will make people more apt to do things for you and agree with you... Really pay attention and see how many times I have done pacing and leading in this manner. you will begin to notice this .. and "As that feeling builds. the more it will "sink in". o notice what its like as ... what you are reading. o you will start to notice o you may realize o you may start to think o you may see how . then you are probably wondering ..." • You will hear a LOT of this in this course (which is part of your re-programming!) Tactical Formula for Pace and Lead ...) • Then you will "Y" Where "Y" is something you want them to experience (Lead) Exercises for Pace and Lead . o you will then .. o state what you want them to see/feel/hear/realize Examples: • As you are listening to this program ...Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • o As you are thinking about o I know you are concerned about o The issue that may be on your mind is o The question you may have is Begin to lead .. Page 39 . If you spend too much time saying things similar to "I know what you are thinking". it starts to become annoying to the listener. Rewind or go back a few tracks.Current Reality As (while ) you) are "X" (Pace) Where "X" is something that is true in their current reality (perceptions...."..Pacing Reality too much can seem arrogant.2 GIVE THEM A REASON D5-T32 Give someone a reason for someone to listen ." • Physical demos use this a lot. 3. Make note of how many times I have paced your current reality.Current Reality 1) Listen to this section again. what you are hearing..... "As you feel this.. The more you hear this.. Point them to where you want to lead them . what you are thinking. thoughts. and do.. Warning . o another thing you will see/feel/notice is . "as you are watching this presentation .... etc....

requesting something. but put in a reason of some type. come up with another reason. they may go with you. Page 40 . It could be asking for coffee.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Don't worry about "losing your power" or being too "nice". The examples will be better if these are people you do not know. if you say "Let's move over there because it's more quiet" you will be amazed at how much more agreeable the person may be. anything. you don't need to be concerned about these things. Examples: • You walk up to a copier at work and there are three people in line. just providing a reason. However. or asked someone to do something. • You are talking to someone and you would like to pull her aside and make the conversation more private. If you just say. "Is it ok if I make copies next". lets move over there". because I am really in a hurry" then. if you say "Is it ok if I make copies next. asking "can I pay by credit card". and out loud. Person What did you ask for? 2) Practice out loud how you might "ask" for that favor or make that request again. Tactical Formula for Give Them a Reason Request X because (of) Y Exercises for Give Them a Reason 1) Make note of the last five times you asked someone for something. or at least people that are not close friends of yours. the addition of this small "reason" will make people much more agreeable and apt to let you do what you would like. If you say. Assignments for Give Them A Reason 1) Make note of five routine situations that you have in your life where you are asking for something. You are not being apologetic or anything. Write these down. 3) Go through the same list again. remarkably. it just helps to make people more agreeable (and there are statistics to support that as well). Write these down. However. then it may be difficult to get people to agree. "hey. This technique does not provide a 100% guarantee.

Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Situation (Place. • For the sake of a conversation. People) What do you ask for? 2) Practice out loud some "reasons" that you could give in these situations. Power in Numbers . 3) The next times these situations come up in your day-to-day life. 3. or make a point. • When you give several reasons at once. and quite well. actually ends up being several points. or excuse.1 General Listing D6-T4 Strategic Formula for General Listing General Listing is a way to quickly provide several reasons. Page 41 . and flow easily. • This is somewhat similar to a "pace and lead". it's difficult to debate them all or object to them all (not to be combative. in order to provide more power to what you are saying. • When you give a reason. point. "List" several things or examples which support your point. don't just provide one reason. Tactical Formula for General Listing When making a point. which support your point.Repetition in a way that serves you. the items that you will "list" need to be brief points. statement. or make a statement.3 LISTING D6-T1 Listen to an example where many of these are used. See if you can make it automatic. so that your one "opportunity" in a conversation to make "a" point. or giving an example. go ahead and mention the "reason". just as an example) • Hypnotists use this technique a LOT. • Training for sales people use this quite a bit. provide several.3. This technique has been developed based on observing how many good and influential people speak: • Successful sales people • Charismatic speakers • Good debaters • Component of hypnotic languaging « Very important. you get someone to agree and then lead them 3.

In many ways. and still.. briefly. Now. Listing can be short.. Who you were talking to Page 42 . the third item may tend to "lead" someone in some way. what are three ways that can go? Good? Bad? Indifferent? Exciting? Boring? Pick three and write these down What are three "ways" that the experience of "meeting people" can go? 2) Now practice out loud by saying something like "Isn't it interesting how you can meet people and it happens in different ways? I mean sometimes ..each of which lasts just a few seconds. maybe trying to convince someone of something (NOT an argument-just that you were making a point and would like to be more persuasive). Now try again by expounding on each of the items. maybe watching sports. but as you listen to it (1). write down who it was with.. and maybe 3 different things that support your "point". Mention the first item.. Then. you may begin to agree. then the second..X and then other times . etc. 3) Pick an example of an activity that you do often. but instead you talk ' about each for a few moments. partying. and start to think about in a positive way (3).Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Example (see the listed items shown as 1.. 5) Think of three recent conversations you have had with people where you were making a point. as a list.. etc. a. Z". etc.. playing a game. and the types of things to which no one would object. Exercises for General Listing 1) Lets say you are talking to someone about "Meeting people".) • I know this may sound a bit different (1). Activity that you like or do often List a particular part of aspect of that activity What are three "ways" that can go? " 4) Now describe "What its like to do your activity . Something you are interested in. strange (2)." and mention those three different ways. listing is like pacing and leading. as in saying three items . make them brief.. Maybe your first two items in a list are obvious. what point you were trying to make. Y.. sometimes . so that you don't just say "X. where each lasts several minutes. Pick three ways that can go . doing some type of work. talk about it for a sentence or two. Each of the items in a list can also be much longer. Z (selecting your items listed above).. For each conversation. really recall listing to good speakers (2). 3. Select a particular aspect of that activity. Write them down. Y. and/or what it's like to meet people. Do that out loud.. and somewhat new (3).2. true.

At The End D6-T15 If several items are mentioned in a list (for example a car. Here is a way to think about it. However. you were just listing several things in a list. Do that for each of the three examples above. and tends to make THAT point the most important one. we were talking about three points in a list that all were similar. the one that comes to mind the easiest is the one that YOU want someone to agree with.2 Listing . at times you want to use listing as a way to highlight or focus upon one item. a table. you put more emphasis on it. Therefore. You weren't trying to emphasize one point vs. Who you were talking to Point you were trying to make Three items that support your "point" 6) Recall a specific moment in each conversation. the other. how you could bring up these three points in a list-like manner. Maybe you want to list several options or examples. Normally. In the earlier Listing examples. out loud. 3. and just providing a series of options. it makes it seem as if you are being fair. Who you were talking to Point you were trying to make Three items that support your "point" c. it's easy to think of that Page 43 . and an elephant) what tends to "stick" in your mind? (The Elephant!) The last item! By hanging an item at the end of a list. by placing YOUR preferred item at the end.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Point you were trying to make Three items that support your "point" b. suggestion. it sticks in the listener's head more.3. activity. Now practice. However. Placing that particular item at the end of a list can have that effect. or different types of alternatives (to a thought. Maybe you want your list to contain many options. etc) By doing that.

that is the one (3). It's interesting though. I know. how they can almost become a blur.. When I have interviewed a lot of people.. o May be frustrating to you. They are not all the same.. you just really click and you feel this connection . etc .. interesting. one after another. lets say you are talking about doing some activity.A t The End Listing at The End is a way to provide several options (which may differ) but to emphasize the option that YOU want. or it could really be fun. you eventually find this person that on some level. and then finish with YOUR preferred item. you know . or they just have the right answers (c). I mean.2. o And other times . Again let's bring up this example of "meeting people". Again. maybe it's boring. and there is just something about this person. you know that those people are NOT qualified (1) o Others you maybe have thought were ok at first. those people doesn't mean much either way .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course one.. Page 44 . This course. o You know what it's like when you meet someone . and the third one "eventually find this person" was the one I wanted to really "stick". this is one of those subtle but very powerful things that many persuasive speakers do a LOT. or instances FIRST. I put another list within THAT description (a. Examples • • Fun activity... In general. 3). you know? See how I did that? See how the item which I really wanted them to think about. you just know . it could be boring. did you notice the use of the words this/that/these/those? Also where do you think I might have been pointing and gesturing during those examples? Job interview o Have you talked to many candidates? Yes. but you spend some time with that person (2) and the more that person talks. right away. you meet someone. b. See? Not only did I have a list of three (1. was said that at the end? By the way. c)! • • • • • • Strategic Formula for Listing .. Now those are different ways of seeing it.. o It could suck. or maybe you are really seeing the power of all of this! I think you can tell which option I was going for! Meeting People.. but even when describing that person. or this person presents himself really well (b). Say that one LAST and bring up two other options.. they are nice. o Other times you get that sort of a "friend" vibe with that person. they sort of fell into several groups o There are some people that. the more convinced you are that that person is NOT the one! o Hopefully though. examples. I have had to do that myself at times. but by placing "it could be fun" last.. you put more emphasis on it and it tends to make that one "stick" more.. Sometimes there is nothing special.. It may be because you like the resume (a). It's just a matter of getting to this person...

If you say Page 45 . maybe controversial. "List" several things briefly in order. etc. Examples: • Sales . LAST. In that case. You may want to "test" to see how the person will react to it. out loud. At times however. 4) What is an example from your life (recently). is the item you mention LAST. mentioning all of these in a list.. and therefore you do NOT want it to stick out too much. and you are all figuring out how you are going to spend your time. and bring up at least two other "options" BEFORE you mention the one option that you want.Let say you arc trying to get someone to buy something. and they are haggling or objecting a bit. go somewhere.Burying Items D6-T24 When using a List. or giving an example. placing something at the end can add to its power and make it stand out. List three possible things that you could do and write these down. Maybe add an embedded command of some type.? Write down what the "issue" is. 3) Do that again. Maybe pause when saying it. close. but mention the one which YOU want to put the most emphasis on. it makes sense to "bury" that item in the middle of a list. Issue or Option What do you want? 5) Now. Three things that you and your friends could do (activity) 2) Practice. However. Exercises for Listing . agree to some point. Go ahead and suggest that item. 3. where you are trying to convince people to do something. it can be TOO obvious. Here is a way to think about it.. etc. Maybe add a small "list" within that last item (because it's inexpensive.3 Listing . but bury it inside a list. Maybe you want to suggest something very direct or quite controversial and you do NOT want to give it too much prominence.At The End When making a point. statement.). and we always have fun .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Tactical Formula for Listing . and what the result is that YOU want.3. make sure that the one that YOU want to do. and seem too direct. buy some thing.At The End 1) Lets say you are going to spend a day or evening with some friends. but place some more emphasis on that last item. talk about the issue. You want to mention or suggest something that is quite strong. out loud.

See? Putting that one..Burying Items is a way to mention an outrageous or very direct option for "testing" purposes.." Doesn't that sound better? Meeting at a Party . we can talk in a few days. honestly. its your choice. it's your choice. we can leave together right now.. seems to "lighten" it up somehow. you don't just say "we can slip the deadline". maybe you aren't ready to buy this now. and you are talking about you two getting together sometime. and maybe there is a possibility of you even spending that night together. So maybe you say something like o "Well. or maybe you want it so much. Strategic Formula for Listing . and when you say it at the end like that. one of them is to just slip the deadline. Page 46 . lets say that you want to say something or suggest something that is very direct. lets say you are working on a project and things are behind schedule. "let's slip the deadline" might be a problem in some circles! So when people are talking about options to help the project. But if you switch the order. maybe it IS too direct.Burying Items When giving examples or options to someone. However.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • "Well. maybe you seize this chance and get it while you can .. If she gasps and has a look of shock and horror when you make that suggestion.. you can get away with an outrageous or very direct option by burying that option in the middle of a List. that may be a GOOD sign. But of she smiles and seems interested. Instead. it seems a bit easier for you to say it.. This is also a good way of testing someone's response. The idea of " seize this chance and get it while you can" is something rather challenging to say (as the seller) that directly. o "well.. There are several options but. just suggesting. For example. maybe you aren't ready to buy this now. it seems too obvious. Sometimes you have that "direct" item in mind and you surround it with other. It also allows you a chance to watch the persons reaction to it. Lets say your idea is so controversial and over-the-top. or possibly you just still want to negotiate . more powerful and direct statement in the middle. more "appropriate" items to lighten it up. or maybe I'll call you tomorrow". or to maybe see if you can get someone to agree to it! Tactical Formula for Listing .Lets say you have met a women at a party. or possibly you still want to negotiate.Burying Items Listing .. that you will just seize this chance and get it while you can! That sounds almost TOO forceful. • Instead of thinking about it in terms of a list. that you are almost "worried" about how the listener may react. Very direct. bury it inside a list.

Bury the strongest item. but do it by burying it in a list. Try saying it with the strongest item at the end. and go ahead and practice how you COULD have said it. Situation Outrageous or Direct Suggestion you could have made. see if it seems easier to say. 2) In the near future. Listing can be powerful. in the middle and see if it is a bit easier to imagine saying that list. Assignments for Listing . If there is not one. Page 47 .Burying Items 1) As you go out and live your life.Burying Items 1) Go back to the previous exercises where you said some "lists" out loud. you will probably encounter some situations where you might want to suggest something quite outrageous or direct. Look at the items that were listed and see if one of them maybe seemed very "strong" or "direct". See if you can make it sound natural. but see if you CAN say it. 3) Think of some recent situations where you would have liked to mention a quite outrageous or direct suggestion. 2) Practice out loud how you would say that list in the situation you used in the previous exercise. go ahead and do so. Situation Outrageous or Direct Suggestion 4) For each of those examples (above) go ahead and practice out loud. Go ahead and change the order of the list that you used earlier. For three different situations that have come up in your life recently.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Exercises for Listing . make a point (afterward) to think about that outrageous option. you may even want to say it in a joking way. if you do it TOO much or too blatantly. by burying it in a list. go ahead and create a new item that is very outrageous or direct. it can stand out too much and be annoying. as any opportunities come up where you would like to make an outrageous or quite direct suggestion. and then trying saying that item in the middle. or the most direct item. write down an outrageous or very direct suggestion that you would have liked to make (for each). suggesting a List of options but burying that outrageous option in a list. but as with any technique. After these situations occur. Try it out loud.

If you must suggest several different examples or options. and provide many examples to support it. and Emphasis D6-T36 You may be worried about coming up with three things in a list . and see how. really.. place that item at the END of the List for more power. 3. then the more Y. we are pacing and leading. but have ONE that YOU really want to emphasize or get people to agree to. then mention several of your points or examples that support what YOU want.3...4 Listing. etc". o See how they are incorporated. so this all works in your favor! Just be interesting enough to keep their attention. can help to alter how the options (and you) are perceived. Maybe one or more of the items actually has an embedded command in it. as in . to "pull" the listener in. In a way.. The general structure here is: • • The more X o where X is something that is hopefully quite obvious and true to the listener .. emphasis. 3. this is just a way of bringing together many of the things we have learned. consider this: • We talked about listing . In a way.. if it's a VERY outrageous option.. changing tone. then.5 Listing Review D6-T37 If you want to get your point across. while incorporating the language tools we have already discussed. and using lists. Using pauses. think. "the more YOU FEEL this .. and I just strung those together .. and they WILL stay through the pauses! As you are saying various items in a list. and the more Y.How do you think of them quickly? How do you make them sound natural? Don't worry! It is ok to have pauses! Pauses make things sound more natural and gives you time to come up with options! We talked about the use of pauses as a way to convey some drama and to make things interesting. Maybe you want to stress one item more or less. D6-T38 You have heard language like "The more X. Or.. etc.. I gave an example (in the audio) of several things I wanted someone to do.3. So. in a List.. thinking about languaging such as "The more X.4 MORE AND MORE. then the more Y.. o See how that is being used here? • We have discuss language details . Pauses. Lets use this as a chance to really step back for a moment and look at this structure." "More and More" is just a way to use these and bring them together.. the more Z". or experience. o See how we are listing several items? • We discuss Pace and Lead . you are walking someone through a series of steps or thoughts.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3. remember to use emphasis and change your voice tone with the items. the more Y Page 48 .. then present it buried within a List of options.

and even more so with the next (more. You can even start by "pacing" a bit more.. The More Z. 3. As an alternative.. or a new "pattern". see it as just a way of using many of the things we have already covered! More and More tends to be best thought of as a "List".) specific. towards what YOU want. or realize Y. experiences. and something obvious.. step 1. future) can be altered to make it fit well. or as Y is happening . the more Y.) or thoughts (things you experience or think about. • • • • As you (or while you) X . The best way to do this is to start off with the first item as quite general. the More Z. the more you can notice Y . The small words and verb tenses (past... You are "leading" someone.. or thoughts) use "More and More" as a way to string them together (and increase your chances of that happening. THEN make the next item (more. etc Examples • Convincing friends to go do something that you want to do. and then use More and More to lead them forward . Strategic Formula for More and More If you want to lead someone through a series of steps (actions. 2. That's a general version of it. • Sell TV sets. you can use "as you" or "while you" as a way to bridge between sections as well. etc How to use it. and as Y happens o or as you sense Y. As you X... etc).. present.. If you have something that you want to lead someone through. Tactical Formula for More and More The more X... from a general item towards something that YOU want.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course • • o Where Y is something that is a logical extension of what the listener knows and they see this as something that makes sense . then. o You can start off with something obvious as a statement to kind of pace them.. you notice this.. more and more.. which is more of an example of using Pace and Lead of their current reality. . etc.. and the more Y happens ... the More Y.. Instead of seeing this as a new type of language.. like a series of successive steps (things you do. agreeable. as you feel this.. the More Y. o walk someone through though process . then. then just list them but use "more" as a way to go from one to the next.. then the more Z starts to happen. or "as you notice X". Page 49 .) item. The more Y. with "as X is happening". the more Z.

using "More". "as you" or "while you". a movie. etc . as you. Exercises for More and More 1) Consider the idea of convincing some friends of going to a movie. Think about a series of steps. to get towards doing what you want.. to get towards doing what you want. etc.) Write down three steps.. practice and see if you can talk about these one by one. while you. the second. something with which you are familiar. and string them together using "more". o Walk her through the process. or something you want to lead people to do somehow. more and more..) Page 50 . something simple. practice saying those three steps. practice saying those in series. and bridging between them as we discussed earlier (More. 2) Think of the last time you were trying to convince a friend to do something. 5) Out loud. what to do. or have them experience. 4) Think of another series from your life. The first should be obvious. Do that several times. but more and more get closer to what YOU want. What you were trying to convince a friend to do Three steps. etc. Don't just say "more". (Agree where to go to dinner. that would "walk" the other people through the process of agreeing with you. more in your direction. a plan. The next is another step in the series. Do the series several times. they would end up doing what you wanted. maybe an activity. 3) Now out loud. or series of thoughts or actions. as if in a conversation. something. You may start with "As you" or "while you" for the first one. something you convince people to do (or wish you could). Think of three "steps". work around it and make it sound natural. Think of three "steps".. of what you want to have happen. Think of all of the things you can do tonight Realize that going to a movie would be a good idea Going to see the latest XYZ movie (use whatever movie you wish) See how that is a series of steps? Of thoughts? Like leading someone down a path? Now out loud. if the person followed them. a series of thoughts or actions that. what to buy. that start off in general.. Write these down. The first should be obvious. more leading..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • Talking to a woman . or as alternatives. what project to work on. a trip. What do you want to convince someone to do Three steps. who should do what. etc.

becoming more and more convinced. How to use it. • It's not magical in a persuasive sense. you have two (or more) aspects of a topic. A Tactic for Talking • Too many guys let a good conversational subject finish far too quickly. Maybe add or change some of the reasoning. the more you will understand how they fit together.Left Page 51 . The more that happens. etc.) • Too many guys focus on standard lines such as "So what do you like about X".another option • Black .. it's just a good way to think about discussing a subject.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Assignments for More and More 1) In the exercises.Bad • One option .5 COMPARE AND CONTRAST D6-T54 Listen to an example where many of these are used. look for opportunities to use that in your life. we had you think of something from your life. Maybe just try 2 of the 3 steps once or twice. and move a conversation. or several different subjects. you can talk about. So.. and piece them together and have it sound natural. But get to the point where you can flow easily through the 3 in a series. 2) With that "More and More" sequence practiced. • It also a great way to get information about the person with which you are speaking. and even change the specifics of that sequence. You will see that the more you get these bits and pieces. seductive. where you could have a series of "states" lead someone through the process of doing what you want. and you discuss these two aspects using Compare and Contrast. or else have the person you are speaking with mention it. Practice that series more! Get very familiar with it. • How two things are similar • How two things are different • Good . This Compare and Contrast method here gives you a way to talk about and around the subjects at hand. • • Take a subject and either mention another aspect of that subject. or various aspects of a subject. • You are just comparing and contrasting things. this is a means to keep speaking.. Just make sure that with that subject. you are able to easily go through such a "sequence".White • Right . to continue.. exciting. the more things like "knowing what to say" and "what pattern to use" will become easier and easier for you! Notice how we are not doing these examples necessarily with women? Wonder why? 3. This method provides a way to keep the conversation going. • This works especially well if the subject of the discussion is one that "works" for our purposes (fun. There are various means of doing this.

compare. etc.another aspect -. One attribute .another attribute As you are talking. then discuss these by comparing and contrasting. Then discuss the other car. and incorporate the language tools. Tactical Formula for Compare And Contrast Take any subject. link away. deciding to focus on making a good living now. • Decisions about a career or job. • Maybe what is more important to a sports team. or individual sports vs. you can use all of the other tools we have discussed. or its power. that are good for you. and you start to talk about something she likes and enjoys doing. • Anything bad. This all provides a good way to allow the discussion to continue for a while. o Maybe you start to ask her about it (have a discussion with her . and start to compare and contrast the two. or point in a discussion. • Link anything good to you. etc. keep the discussion focused on a topic that serves your purposes. two facets of that subject. what they like. and feel those states and emotions for a while as well. and to let the person think about. another brand. • • Use opportunities to use commands and trance words to create thoughts. As you are talking. How do these differ How are they the same Which is good-bad. Strategic Formula for Compare And Contrast Use this technique to keep the conversation going. vs. experience. idea. • Notice what is liked and not liked • Notice any reactions. taking a position with a more promising future. and contrast these things. you can talk about one car.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • One aspect . Examples • One brand of car vs. Page 52 .. or point in a discussion . o You select two items. and this situation that you are sharing. You discuss this. associate them with things other than you. her. and talk about its attributes as well. • You talk to someone for a while and she say she likes scuba diving. you can take note of how the person is responding. good or bad. the offense or the defense. what they do not. and discuss whether the handling makes it better. you can anchor and link positive things to you! o While talking about things she does not like. o While talking about what she does like. What is different about each? How are they the same? How are they experienced? What is good? What is bad? etc. Use the other language tools during the discussion. you can anchor those away from yourself. Select another subject. better-worse. team sports. • You may talk to a woman. this meeting. states. easy-difficult. idea. feelings..about her) and she mentions various things about that subject.

. Page 53 . and talk about it again. Subject or thing that they like Attributes (things about) that. peace. offer the compare-contrast ways of discussing it. Now talk out loud about each. etc. computer. Be vary aware that even when you are discussing the thing you "Like". she mentions various things about it. She says she likes the aspect of it being very quiet and serene under water. and anchor/link/point appropriately.. etc). 3) Recall a recent conversation with someone you know. Now think of what is opposite to that . Maybe some of the language that you are using that may lend itself to be embedded commands. that they do like Do the re-enactment again. This example uses a very obvious "Like vs. Use compare and contrast to talk about each of the attributes that your friend would say they like about that subject. Letting Go Safety and Excitement Liking someone mentally and/or physically o • • • • Exercises for Compare And Contrast 1) Pick some possession that you have that you REALLY like (car.."Oh. so if you like THAT.. change your tone of voice. Something New Control vs.. and this time. o So we talk about the feeling of quiet.. 4) Select two of the following 4 topics. etc).. and compare/contrast the two. Something that you like Something that is opposite 2) Now take that same topic.(because). that within that may be attributes that are good. and those that are not good." or . bike. different style of clothing. she finds the experience of seeing new and different things to be interesting as well.".. clothes. Be descriptive! Use pauses. and this time. Be mindful of that and anchor/link appropriately. In addition.. and put effort into correct linking/anchoring/pointing to associate positive things to you. and negative things . then I KNOW that you would NOT like THIS . the same holds true even when discussing what you do NOT like. etc. etc. where they were really describing or talking about something they like. Not-Like" set of things to compare and contrast.same type of thing (another car. somewhere else. and various things about that subject or topic that they like.. Be aware of your language! Throw in adjectives and adverbs. Re-enact that conversation again.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Maybe you ask about it.. and serenity on one hand o and compare and contrast that to the feeling of something new and different on the other. Familiarity vs. be very aware of the positive and negative things that are being said. Also. As in "so let me make sure I understand this . different computer. your pacing. but this time put some effort into being very aware of the positive and negative things that are being said.

Who wants to talk about something that you are NOT interested in? However. Letting Go Safety and Excitement Liking someone mentally and/or physically Familiarity vs. For example. Something New Now do your best to speak out loud and "talk" about these for a while using a Compare and Contrast structure. 3. Safety vs. Parts. and you lose out on spending a LOT of time having them discuss something that she REALLY likes! This is just a way to have a discussion. this just helps to keep things moving in a conversation. of having all of the positive aspects of Safety. it's too weak." and that's ALL they talk about! Yes. Think about the possibilities. YOU are then showing someone how BOTH of these things can be experienced. exciting. and that's ALL you discuss. BOTH linked and anchored to YOU. Parts of a subject. that is fun.6 PARTS D7-T1 Listen to an example where these are used. Two types of parts we can work with . this provides a good way to train you to be able to talk and ask questions of people. If you are talking about an interesting subject. Who knows. this doesn't necessarily show that you Page 54 . and say (for example) "what do you like most about scuba diving" or "what is the most fascinating thing about. together.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Control vs. etc. For even more Power There IS a very powerful aspect of this technique that is important to mention.. and the positive aspects of excitement.. but when you go STRAIGHT for the BEST thing that she likes the MOST. etc. Excitement. and parts of a person 3. link them to you • If the bad or boring parts some up. it is GOOD to focus on the positive aspects of what she likes. However there ARE ways to have BOTH. then talk about all of the various aspects and parts of it. you can show someone how that can be possible. you may end up liking the subject and find a new activity for yourself! Don't worry that you will "give the wrong impression" by inquiring and discussing these "parts".6. theme.. Some are good.1 Parts Of A Subject D7-T4 This is a variation on the contrast principle. some are bad • Talk about the good parts. People tend to think you have one OR the other. link away Now this may seem tough . By comparing and contrasting them. topic. if you are asking many questions about something that is NOT of interest to you. There ARE many things that people tend to THINK of in an "either-or" way. and get them to talk about what THEY are interested in. Meaning.. Too many guys just blow things to quickly.

that you know. what people do. know about. Strategic Formula for Parts of a Subject Discussing many of the parts of a subject keeps the conversation going. don't like. Exercises for Parts of a Subject . etc. allowing you time to gather information and link yourself to good thoughts.Don't just "talk about" Scuba Diving! Or.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course are interested in it (the subject). Subjects come up. Link good thoughts. Break it down into its component parts and discuss them.. maybe a hobby. and she may have a lot of positive emotions and feeling associated with that . sport. activity. etc. or point in a discussion. but if you start there. If she LIKES scuba diving. like. and enjoys. Page 55 . area of interest." This technique makes it easier to have conversations with people because THEY are giving you information and ideas for new things to ask about.. Examples • Scuba Diving . If someone asks you about this.many of which can be linked to you. artistic endeavor. o Where have they dived? o How did they get into it? o What's their favorite place? o Do they have their own equipment? o Do they use different types of equipment for different locations? o How long have they dived? o Have they ever been in danger? o Have they taken photos? o Have they met interesting people? o Has this exposed them to any other cool sports or activities? o etc. etc. don't just ask "What is the most exciting thing about Scuba Diving?" That IS a good question. topics come up. feelings and emotions.. it's hard to talk about that subject for a while. be comfortable talking about all of the parts of that subject. This is a great way to build rapport with a person as well. feelings and emotions to yourself. This isn't just a way for you to ask ask ask HER about things. Tactical Formula for Parts of a Subject Take any subject. Use the language tools in the discussion. list various "things" about that subject. Now. idea. just say "I like learning about people. that an opportunity to talk for a WHILE about something she likes. You are just asking. 1) Pick a subject that you like. new things. just curious.

You should easily be able to come up with 10-20 items. or maybe someone in your life that you don't know very well. make a list of these parts. etc. Subject: Parts. That Subject: 3) Now think of someone who you are NOT close to (that you do not know that well). Write these down. and you have heard him or her talk about this. If you have trouble. what parts about football would you want them to ask about? For your chosen subject. This should be someone you know well. and you were going to have someone (who knows very little about the subject) interview you and learn all about football.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course For example. Now. like a co-worker. Page 56 . That Subject: 2) Think of one of your friends or family members and some activity or topic that THEY are really into. or Things About. maybe a cousin you hardly see or talk to. if your subject was football. someone you met at a party. Maybe their hobby. Person: Subject: Parts. passion. Now think of something that THAT person is interested in or they are involved with. etc. what would you ask about? What are all of the various things and aspects of it that YOU could inquire about or that could come up in a discussion? These are the "parts" of that subject. Someone that you recently met. but hopefully this "subject" is something you are not really into. if you were going to talk to them for like 30 minutes about that subject and were really going to ask them about it. You should be able to come up with at least 10 items. a job they like. or Things About. maybe pick a different "person" as your subject.

.. Page 57 . Person: Subject: Assignments for Parts of a Subject 1) Sometime soon. what would you ask about? What are all of the various things and aspects of it that YOU could inquire about? What are the PARTS you could ask about? Write these down.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course The key here is that this is someone you don't see often. Make a point to ask about many different parts of that subject. out loud. make a point to have a good 10-15 minute conversation about a subject that THEY are really interested in. don't know really well. 2) Sometime in the future. and feeling it. like the exercise above. but with which you are NOT familiar. They are talking about something THEY like Thinking about it. You know the person but you are not real close to them. Again. when you are speaking with a person you do not know hardly at all (yet you feel you will be able to talk to them for 10-15 minutes). That Subject: " 4) Think of another person and subject. but with which you are NOT familiar. who is interested in something that you are NOT familiar with. And of course the entire time. mention like 10-15 different things you could ask or inquire about that subject. you should be able to list at least 10 items. experiencing it. Now. and were really going to ask them about it. off the "top of your head". while YOU are there And you are linking and anchoring things to yourself Using all of the language tools and details And that person is finding YOU so fascinating and charismatic . If you were going to talk to them for like 30 minutes about that subject. Person: Subject: Parts. The subject they are interested in is something with which you are NOT familiar. when you are speaking with a friend or family member that you know well. or Things About. make a point to have a good 10-15 minute conversation about a subject that THEY are really interested in. Make a point to ask about many different parts of that subject.

or view. This can be VERY powerful. they are quiet. In this context. in a way you are also using Compare and Contrast as well. Page 58 . directly or indirectly o For example.. You do not want to appear to challenge or invalidate and personality trait that is being shown." o "Many people like that also have another side to themselves. or part of a person. link it to you.. or normally don't "do" certain things? • Then talk about that first (shy) part.. (where XYZ is a different or maybe the opposite behavior.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3. make it be experienced. fun. • Acknowledge the first part that is being discussed. Let's say you are in a discussion with someone.. a way of acting or being is being discussed (and one that does not necessarily work in your favor) . etc. or side. that XYZ part".2 Parts Of A Person D7-T15 Listen to an example where this concept is used. that adventurous side is just waiting to come out. Let's break this down. or way of looking at it. and then say (for example). Because you are discussing several things. more spontaneous side to them. what she did .. or has the same wishes that you do. In a discussion.. • "That's because there is another part. another part hidden away. etc.. their way of walking through and looking at the world. o Either in general like "there may be another side" o or more directly." • Bring up and acknowledge the fact that there is "another" part... Don't Confront. great. there is a more quiet side • If a person is well-thought-out (thinks things through and takes time). and start to discuss and validate that OTHER part.6. we are also reframing! We are changing the way they look at things. just looking for the right time. verify it. • If a person is shy. etc)" o "I know someone similar who as this other part to themselves. etc. a way of thinking. they hold back. there is a more decisive. etc. a "side" to the person. there is a more adventurous part to themselves • If a person is outspoken. or parts. In many ways..." • If this new or other "side" works more in your favor.. that part of the person or type of behavior that DOES agree with you). • What if it is not? What if they say they are shy.. In fact a friend of mine is very shy and one time. experiencing it.. if the person is shy o "I understand how some people are shy. o "When you start to listen to this adventurous side . their reactions. and they feel that way. and I have found she has this other side. • If an adventurous. exciting part of a person is being discussed. that is more ." • There will be a lot of this shown in examples here in this section and at the end of the program. adventurous . Discuss. or reserved. "parts" are meant as in a personality trait." o "You may have (or do have) another part (or side. A key concept to think about is to ALWAYS assume that there is a part of someone that does agree with you... lean more on the language and linking tools to bring it out. etc" • Discuss this new or other "part" o "With many people. "you may have the other side" o or by example "I know someone like that.. if a personality trait...

. etc etc etc. Examples: • Lets say that a person says they are not into taking challenges.) Exercises for Parts of a Person 1) What if someone says.. "you are wrong" or to show how smart you are! You are just talking. and beliefs.. way of thinking. I understand you have that side to you. Remember.... Find a personality trait.. they like to play things safe.. assume there is a part that will work WITH you. and 3 that are opposite. Traits similar to "Being Boring" Page 59 . etc. (not good in a person. that can work in your favor. and evoke favorable states. feelings... Tactical Formula for Parts of a Person For every part of a person that will work against you. and what I noticed about her is that she also has this other side to her. too confrontational.. deep down. Introduce and discuss that "other part" in a way that works to your advantage. What personality traits (or what other parts or ways of thinking) are similar? Which are somewhat opposite? Write down 3 that are similar." Strategic Formula for Parts of a Person Use Parts of a Person as a way to find. • Maybe someone says they can be jealous. and she realized that she.. even when the other person claims or demonstrates that such parts are NOT there. so be careful.. o "Well. or part of the person by discussing or addressing it Think about a personality trait. o "I was reading somewhere about things like that and what it was saying was.. or part of the person that is somehow related (which works in your favor) or somewhat opposite. People have many sides to themselves. There are also other sides to people .. that may be true but also there is another part of them . This one side . way of thinking. having a conversation. you are NOT discussing this as to say. or part of the person (mostly something which has a negative connotation) Acknowledge that personality trait.. • Maybe someone lies ... was also "Y". way of thinking. it may sound like you are arguing or challenging the person. Well. You can work around this issue (of possible confrontation) by saying things like o "I think another way of looking at that trait is . . • Maybe someone is secretive. "I am boring".. o "A friend of mine does that as well.. but it can be handled . discuss.. o "I have a friend who was "X" (where X is the trait being discussed).Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • Many times you don't want to say "because there is another part" because that seems too direct.

Page 60 . Traits similar to "Being Shy" Traits opposite to "Being Shy" Of those that you listed.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Traits opposite to "Being Boring" Of those that you listed. use this/that/these/those . Imagine a conversation and how you might do this. and some of the variations mentioned for language examples.. which could you maybe "use" in a good way? 4) Think about how you would discuss that shy part. etc. Practice this out loud. 5) From the list you just made (and selected from). 3) What if someone says that they are shy? What personality traits (or what other parts or ways of thinking) are similar? Which are somewhat opposite? Write down 3 that are similar. Traits similar to "not into meeting any new people" Traits opposite to "not into meeting any new people" Practice out loud how you might first discuss "I am not into meeting any new people right now" and then transition into the other parts or traits that you selected. Now do a similar exercise again out loud. which could you maybe "use" in a good way? 2) Think about how you would discuss the boring part. and then bring up this other "part" that you selected. What personality traits (or what other parts. and 3 that are opposite. 6) Lets say someone says "I am not into meeting any new people right now" . pick another part or trait. Look at the formula earlier. or ways of thinking) are similar? Which are somewhat opposite? Think about 1-2 that you could use. and some of the variations mentioned for language examples. but this time. and then bring up this other "part" that you selected. Imagine a conversation and how you might do this. maybe do some linking an anchoring.. be aware of opportunities to maybe mark off an embedded command or two (or more). Practice this out loud. Look at the formula earlier...

.? What other part. 3) Now that you can recognize these traits when talking to someone. Assignments for Parts of a Person 1) For the next week or two. start to bring them up IN the conversation. 8) Lets say someone says they have trouble meeting new people. Just notice the trait or part being mentioned. acknowledge it. WHILE talking to someone. You don't have to discuss them (yet) just make a point to note these traits. see if you can notice them WHILE talking to someone. make note of when you are having a personal conversation with anyone. trusting their own judgment. Use the formula and the variations mentioned earlier. or mentions a "way of thinking"). Or. and has been a bit difficult for many to really understand Page 61 . 3.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 7) Do the above example again. See if you can note that "part" of who they are. and then find a way to discuss another part that is more favorable or positive. You have probably heard the phrase "structure opportunities. 9) Lets say someone says "I only like dating my TYPE"? What other part. and offer challenges to you on the audio. trait. 2) After you have become more comfortable noticing such traits after-the-fact. etc could you discuss? Try that out loud. make a note of these traits or parts. etc could you discuss? Try that out loud. Opposite (or similar?) trait or part that might actually work in your favor Conversation with Traits or parts that were discussed. See if what they are saying describes or is pointing out any personality traits (or a "part" of themselves. This area has caused some confusion.7 OPPORTUNITIES AND CHALLENGES D7-T34 Listen to an example where I structure opportunities. being open. see if you could maybe think of an opposite one that could be discussed. An easy way to do this is when a friend or acquaintance is being self-deprecating in some manner. or putting him or herself down for some reason.. trait. After the conversation. but ROW see how many of the speaking and language tools you can use. See if you can arrive at a similar part or trait that you can discuss that could be used in your favor. and then point out some other trait or part that might work in your favor somehow. and offer challenges" many times when studying these materials. or parts.

In this section. Work with universal things that people would like to have.7. effect. • Show that you are qualifying and screening to some extent. these concepts are broken down and offered to you in a way that will truly help you to be able to use these powerful techniques. It's good to somehow work with structures and things that are already in someone's mind. this can be very effective. is a way for them to show their intelligence. • Show that you have standards. 3. then they already have mechanisms for that in their mind. or be with you. o This is the opposite of pleading and the "pedestal" scenario. Why this matters. using motivations that a person already has. and wants to be seen as intelligent. you are just showing that YOU have standards. If you can somehow frame or map yourself as being a way for a person to fulfill things that someone already wants. but may not be the most effective strategy. and that you believe in yourself. o You are saying in a way.7. You are in. 3. You then find some way to set things up so that choosing to listen to you. or want to be perceived as having." • This is NOT about arrogance. then by using their existing desires. do it. but I am looking for more. "You may be beautiful. or show it. • Use these general things and assume they are there.2 What do people want? - D7-T38 "Universal Wants" = Good.1 Using Their Own Processes D7-T36 If you know what people want to have.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course and utilize. Universal Wants • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control • Excitement Page 62 . For example if someone is intelligent. Challenge them to demonstrate it. or like to be perceived as having. • These are also good and convenient for practicing and examples. • It's easy. Strategic Formula for Opportunities And Challenges Find or assume what someone wants Create an opportunity for them to get it or demonstrate they have it Make that "demonstration" work in your favor. you are using processes that they ALREADY have in their minds.

along with the Universal Wants listed earlier! • We assume here that with a mini-challenge. o Talk to her and find out what she wants or needs. or an image she wants other people to have of her.7. "you can show me that you have the thing you desire..... can (use smart. Warning . and it can really annoy people if you do! Page 63 . You can imply a "test" for these things by issuing a mini-challenge. o I wonder if you can . o You seem smart enough ..... etc • Finding these particular wants and desires o These "wants" can be possessions.. o You seem as if. o You may . o You might see . o The smart people I know. by listening to me or agreeing with me".... or fun... o You seem like you may have good taste o etc. or want to be perceived as having..3 There are certain things you can assume that most people may want to have. o If you can . etc).. Mini-Challenge Cheat Sheet o You seem . o You might. o Are you able to .. or be seen as having "X".. • Mini-Challenges o You might get this . o Talk about what she does.. and challenging them in a way that says. o You seem like . or want to be perceived as having? Mini-Challenges D7-T40 3.. What does she want to have. o Always have the question below in mind. that's even better..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course "Particular Wants" = Better! What does THIS person want? • Notice o o o particular things that this individual would like to have or be perceived as having She mentions wanting respect She defends her position.. and discusses what is important to her She mentions something she likes or dislikes about a past boyfriend.. or maybe a value. o Maybe you can .. o Try using some of the above items. we are using one of these sort of "universal" wants. what she likes to do. o If you are able to . You are challenging an ASSUMED desire (a "Universal Want").This technique can be overused. o etc. o You seem cool enough . wants to have. o Talk about some of yours and see how she reacts... or adventurous... her interests. but if you can find or work with specific wants or desires...

. "Show me you have that thing by listening and/or agreeing with me" or. Make a statement that says. • Find what someone "wants". What does someone Want? Assume. Exercises for Mini-Challenges 1) Try piecing together items from the Universal Wants List. in a way. by doing "Y" Make "Y" something that works in your favor.4 Opportunities and Challenges D7-T43 Think of it like this.. and see how many combinations you can come up with. • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control • Excitement Page 64 . Creating Them Consider the wants and needs that a person may have . "By listening to and/or agreeing with me. and Mini-Challenge Cheat Sheet. you will show me you have that".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Tactical Formula for Mini Challenges Assume something she wants to have. Tactical Formula for Opportunities and Challenges Find something "X" that the person wants to have. or be seen as having. Challenge the person to do "Y".7. what someone wants.. or been seen as having You can assume based on normal things that people want (Universal Want) or Get information from talking (Particular Want) Create an opportunity for them to get or demonstrate "X". here we have to "assume" things for the sake of teaching) . • Challenge them to see if they will follow through and take action to get it. 3.. • Create an opportunity for them to get that • Make it so that them "getting" that works in your favor. or hopefully find. • Universal Wants • Particular Wants Opportunities. (and again.

Challenges Are they ready to take advantage of that (this) opportunity? Challenge them to get what they want. o Talk about how confident people can make their own choices.. Talk about those things..Think about maturity . Examples: • Does she really want X and see how Y can get that? • Does she really have X.. and how the confident ones are able to take chances and have fun. o They can go against the grain. on their own. • Confidence . or want to be seen as having Structure this so that it is something that YOU would like them to do. • Mention something that you have read. How can you make that sound like a way for them to "show" something? How to create an opportunity? • Here is a way for you to show me that you really have or was able to get X. or show what they have. talk about DOING them. Create the opportunity for them to show or demonstrate that they have or are perceived as having.. o Mention how confident people can meet someone new. o Let the person demonstrate how confident they are. Maturity .How can you create an opportunity for someone to appear confident (that works in your favor)? o Discuss people that YOU know. o They can do exciting things. o . what does a mature person do? How are they seen? How do they react? o They make their own decisions o They trust their own judgment o They can decide to do something NOW. • Here is a way a friend of mine showed that they have or was able to get X. even if their friends don't approve... • Provide a way to demonstrate that they DO have what they want. by doing Y? Page 65 . where this opportunity benefits you (and hopefully pertains to the situation).Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course You need to create an "opportunity" for each of these. or some way for this person to capture the opportunity • Provide an example of something she can say or do. • Here is how I read/heard that someone else had or was able to get X. • Maybe point out something a friend did . and feel very comfortable with that. Examples. • Provide an example from your own life. something they want.. Provide an example of someone... by meeting this "challenge". and see how doing Y would demonstrate it?> • Does she have what it takes to get X.. and/or HAVING them.

Assumed Wants 2) Write a Mini Challenge for each if the above items.... she actually felt more secure about being able to take care of herself. and she found that by taking chances and risks. to show or demonstrate that? Examples: • Security o Say she wants to feel secure. there are others shown earlier. I mean. what this means to her. you mention "We should get together sometime. she may have to do Y to prove that.. but.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • • • Does she want you to THINK she has X. • Find out what someone wants. Success o Maybe "success" is important to her. how she may be adventurous. You talk about a friend who has always wanted to feel secure.. They want X. It's NOT about creating an argument! Again.. • Challenge them to do that.. Then at some point you talk about you and her getting together. Can she see an opportunity to have "X".. Page 66 . or be perceived as having.. as long as you trust yourself enough to feel that is OK . to be a way for them to get what they want. • Find a way to map what YOU want. I don't know if you are adventurous enough for this. Later. You discuss success for a while. These are your "Assumed Wants". Some examples are shown below. and do Y to get it? Can she do Y and make it happen? Can she see that Y will get her what she wants? Can she trust herself enough to do Y? etc. You talk about that for a while." Adventurous o Maybe she wants to feel adventurous.". Exercises and Assignments for Opportunities and Challenges 1) Make a list of some assumed things that many people may want to have. Is she ready to take chances? Take risks? Do something different? Maybe not ... It's different from the way most guys think. and mention that you read somewhere that successful people tend to be able to trust their own judgment. then . and say something like "well. • • I know this is tricky. Are they ready to do Y. their own intuition.

"you may . Person What they want to have. write down something that each wants to have. "you might.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course "you seem like . 5) Think about some people that you know quite well like family.. Hopefully these are specific to them. out loud 4) Make a note of some of the ones you practiced that seem closest to something you could easily say or do with people in your life.. or be perceived as having Page 67 . co-workers. quite unique. and go out and actually USE them for a while. Practice these more. or wants to be perceived as having. Note some of your favorites ones below. Write down these "Wants".. and NOT just things from the "assumed" list.. friends. etc. and focus on using these." Mini Challenges 3) Practice the list of Mini Challenges you just created.. "lets see if this makes sense to you "see if you can follow this . For each person...

Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 6) Consider the "want" that you identified from each of those persons above. Person Challenge 8) Practice each of those "Challenges" out loud. are they ready? Can they take action? Can they DO this? Write down these "Challenges". You are "mapping" it to you because by doing what you discuss. Example . as making them look at you more positively.A friend wants to be really good at a sport. and "opportunity". The good athletes find a way to relax and have fun.) So you challenge their dedication to their sport by saying "I was reading about really good athletes and one thing that was pointed out was that a lot of them really can get burned out. See if you can make it sound natural. Person Opportunity for them to get what they "want" that somehow works in your favor 7) For each "want". and they spend a LOT of time practicing. see if you can create a "challenge". they will be doing something that YOU want. What is the opportunity. Is there a way to create an "opportunity" for them to get or achieve that? Can you somehow create an opportunity that can be "mapped" in some way towards yourself. Some way that questions . and how can you "map" it to yourself? Write down these "Opportunities". or that in some way could be interpreted... want to do what you wish. etc? Give that some thought. (You want that friend to lighten up and be able to spend more time going out and having fun. even subconsciously. and that allows them to be better at their sport." The "opportunity" is for them to be a better athlete. and write them down. Page 68 .

. listen. Do what you can to bring these up while in the conversation if you can..Point Or Touch On Positive And Negative LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES o Pace And Lead " Topics and Subjects * Mindset of Frame • Current Reality o Give Them A Reason • • • Page 69 . you no doubt have heard many examples of "ambiguities". but also ask some questions and get into a discussion about it if possible. They may have one meaning in one context. listen. That. These are those words or phrases that can mean more than one thing. 3. do the same in terms of observing desires.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 9) As you become more familiar with these practiced challenges and opportunities. This is one area that many guys actually ARE able to pick up and use easily if they have listened to the materials enough. Listen. These.. 3. Those) MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures o Linking Gestures (Towards And Away) o Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This. • SPEAKING POINTERS o The "Cool" Factor o Voice Tone And Tonality o Pacing And Pausing o Energy And Enthusiasm LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS o Adjectives And Adverbs o Trance Words o Weasel Phrases o Embedded Commands o Linking o Easy-Linking (This. listen. see if you can bring them up in conversations over the next few weeks. but in another context. given that this IS an area that many guys are able to do (with enough listening) and given the many OTHER areas that really DO need the assistance of a program like this. Although there could be a section in this course that deals with these areas. What do they "want". That. that these become familiar. Try to guess. really focus on what each person desires. 10) While you are talking to people for the next 1-2 weeks. we will not be doing any specific work on Ambiguities. look at how many items we have covered so far. but now also start to look for "opportunities and challenges" in a way that directs their desires towards you.8 AMBIGUITIES D7-T64 If you have studied this material for a while.9 SUMMARY D7-T66 Bringing it together. 11) For the next 1-2 weeks.) o Easy Anchoring . they mean something different.. so that you have heard them SO MANY TIMES. to do things that you would want.

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These are the building blocks for good Language skills. These are the sorts of skills that are most workable when they are truly "wired in" to someone, so that they are able to be used automatically. To try to "remember" to do such things can be very difficult. That approach would make having a conversation far too difficult and too much work! The best way is to work with these techniques SO much that these truly are just a part of "how you talk". With enough practice, and hearing these enough, you CAN have these become a part of how. YOU talk! So listen, practice, do the exercises, do the assignments, and do that all again, until these really do become a part of you, and a part of how you speak.

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D8-T1 A key aspect of making these tools work is getting the conversation into topic areas that will really work for you. The language tools you studied earlier are best used in the proper context, and in this section, we will learn how to get the conversation into areas that will create that context. Have you had these problems? • You JUMP too quickly into a pattern or topic, and it sounds really strange? • You just THROW a pattern AT her, and get a weird reaction? When you use these tools, or even use "patterns", it's not enough to just "say it", there has to be the correct CONTEXT for what is said! It's a process that she needs to go on and through with you. It's not enough to just find a conversational excuse to "throw" a pattern (or language tool) AT her! This section is about finding ways to just get into an interesting conversation and then towards and onto good topics. We want this to seem natural, and with some understanding, practice, and a few key strategies and tactics it will BE natural and automatic! 4.1 4.1.1 CHALLENGES -a Detailed And Specific Plans Are Just Not Workable. D8-T3

It's good to theorize to "say this", and then "say that", and then to use "this pattern", and "that pattern". However, the problem is that a lot of time the proper context is not presented well enough. The examples you may have seen in other products are just that, examples. The problem is that too many guys have taken them literally! Guys try to do "X, Y, Z," exactly, in order, with no sense of calibration, or being able to work and re-direct things in real time. Therefore, detailed tactical plans are not realistic. 4.1.2 Navigation Example D8-T4

Think of moving a conversation to a certain point, like taking a trip somewhere. Say you are in Chicago, and want to go to Los Angeles. You could have a detailed map of every turn and road, exact route numbers and lengths, etc. The problem is... what do you do if there is a detour? What if the road is changed, what if the map is wrong? You are lost! What if, instead, we teach you how to drive the car, and give you a general set of directions like "keep driving west, until you see the ocean, then turn left (south)". That way, you can handle just about any turns, roads, or detours that you may encounter! Conversations are different from roads too, because people are all unique, situations, times, surroundings etc. are unique and change from moment to moment. Therefore, if you want to get a conversation to go a certain way, then detailed plans made ahead of time are hard to work with. There are too many variables! We need a workable set of strategies and tactics that allows you, in real-time, to direct things the way that you want them to go. They need to be easy to follow, and easy to use, and something that you don't need to "think about", but can just DO easily.
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So we need a general set of guidelines, some overall strategies and tactics, so that you can have this good, intuitive sense of how to "steer" things, and get conversations to where you want them to go. As long as you are engaging a woman's emotions, capturing & leading her imagination, then you are moving in the right direction. Then, in that situation and in that context, linking all the positive & powerful things to you becomes more workable. Instead of a map, we are giving you a "compass". We need a strategy for managing conversations that can to do this gradually, in a way that seems natural! If it's too abrupt or makes the conversation strained, it will sound weird. The strategy must LEAD the conversation towards good topics and subjects in a way that seems natural, and is not TOO abrupt. Examples: (Listen to the audio.) • Talking about a printer o Moving TOO quickly towards emotional topics o Can sound strange • Driving a car and taking a turn (Analogy) o Think of driving down freeway and needing to switch to different direction. o You can't make a hard, right angle turn on a dime! o You need to turn the car, slowly, on a ramp to go in a different direction. When we control conversions, we need to find a way to take it gradually in a new direction. Many guys try to do the hard and fast switch, and they crash in the process! We will learn to move things in a way that makes it seem natural, but it will be deliberate. 4.1.4 She Must Be Engaged In The Conversation! D8-T10

It's important to get conversations into the right area and have HER go along with you. Not just "bring it up" (a topic or pattern), but it must be natural and she must "go along" with it and be a PART of it. She must be actually THINKING about what you are discussing! It has to happen naturally. No weird jumps. It's not enough to just talk; she must BE a part of the conversation! So, don't just "jump" to a topic. Don't find an "excuse" to bring it up. Take the conversation there, take her WITH you, and have her be a part of it! What really helps is to have a genuine interest (or at least curiosity) in her and the conversation, not just thinking to yourself; "How can I use this?" 4.2 HOW CONVERSATIONS HAPPEN D8-T12

How does this really occur? We will break this down so that we have a way to really affect this process. 4.2.1 Conversational Dynamics D8-T13

How do conversations happen? Most of them occur somewhat randomly as the conversation flows from topic to topic over time, and can end up almost anywhere after a while. By the time YOU move from one topic to the next,
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you may end up in a very different place from where you began. However, there is a series of steps as things move forward, as shown in Figure 4.2.1-1.

Figure 4.2.1-1: Conversations Move Through Many Topics

Each of these steps between topics tends to be related. Topic 1 relates to Topic 2. Topic 2 relates to Topic 3, etc. For example, you can start to talk about Cars, and then move to one aspect of that topic, Car Seats. Then it's easy to move to some aspect of that topic, which maybe something that seats are made of, like Leather. Then maybe you talk about Leather Furniture, etc. (See Figure 4.2.1-2.)

Figure 4.2.1-2: Each Topic Flows To the Next Topic In most cases, each Topic is related to the one before.

After a series of such steps, you can be at a quite different topic (like an apartment that you used to live in) even though you started at a quite different topic (Cars). In most cases, it's very difficult to predict where a conversation will go after many of these steps. As you go through a few topic shifts (as shown in the diagrams), although each individual shift relates to the topic before and after that shift, after a series of shifts you can end up talking about almost anything! Therefore, even if you start the conversation at a great topic, you can get off-track and into topics that will not work in your favor. Conversely, what is needed is a way to start at almost any topic at all, and by steering that process (of moving from Topic 1, to Topic 2, Topic 3, etc) take the conversation into better and better topic areas that will serve your purposes. 4.2.2 Conversational Model D8-T14

We introduce a model to assist in discussion, understanding, and control of conversations. If you start at a topic, how do you go to another one? This process happens all of the time very easily. The key is that the movement from one topic to the next takes places easily because there are so many options involved. From any topic (Topic 1) it is easy to flow to any of 6-8 other, related topics (Topic 2 Candidates). People usually just "talk" and naturally the conversation moves from the first topic to the next one. Since the "next" topic is related, this process seems natural and is easy to do. In fact, you do this all the time without really knowing about it. (We are creating a model to describe a process that happens naturally, so that we can teach you a way to have an affect on that process). Figure 4.2.2-1 shows how from one topic, the conversation can flow easily to many related topics.

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Once the conversation moves to one of these eight topics, it's easy to move to one of eight more. For example if in Figure 4.2.2-1, the conversation flows from "Cars" to "Where you bought it" (as in, where you bought the car), then now we have a situation like that shown in Figure 4.2.2-2.

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Figure 4.2.2-2: From A Second Topic, Another Group of Candidates If "Cars" was discussed first, and then "Where you bought it" was discussed next, there are now many ways to go in the next step. In the figure, you see how the conversation moves from Cars, to "Where you bought it". After that, there are many "candidate" topics where the conversation can flow. Perhaps it moves to the "Part of town" where the car was purchased.

Now from the topic of "Where you bought it" (a car), there are easily eight places that you can go from there, shown as the "Topic 3 candidates". This process continues throughout a conversation. This process happens regardless of the specific topics being discussed. Conversations flow from topic to topic, as shown in a general manner in Figure 4.2.2-3.
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Do you see why the pre-planned approaches can be difficult?! Even if you ARE able to have the conversation start from a specific place (Topic 1). then EACH of the eight different candidates for Topic 2 can then lead to their own eight. since it's so easy to go from any topic to 6-8 others. when talking to some random person.2. you can end up with the conversation going almost anywhere! Figure 4. then talk about Z" are very difficult to really work with.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Topic 1 Topic 2 Topic 3 Topic 4 Figure 4. there is no way to know exactly where it will end up by the time you have moved forward a few steps! Imagine trying to predict ahead-of-time exactly where you may arrive (among those 512 options). and at each step after that. and the conversation flows along in this manner. an so on. you can have up to eight different ways to go at EACH step. the plans that many guys try to use to "Talk about X. When this happens in succession.2-4 shows what happens when all the topics are considered. If Topic 1 can lead to eight different candidates for Topic 2.2-3: Topics Flow from One to the Next Each topic in a conversation can easily lead to 6-8 others. the Figures that have been shown so far only show a small portion of the total topics towards which a conversation can flow. In general. In many ways. With some skill and technique. you can affect this process (and we will teach that to you). because there are SO many ways that things can go! Page 75 . then talk about Y. This results in easily over 500 topics that could be selected by the time we arrive at Topic 4! In only three shifts of the topic ("topic shifts" as shown in the figure) we end up with many many possibilities of where the conversation might end up.2. However.

and so on. Page 76 . As seen in the diagram.2-5).2. It then can flow easily to maybe 6-8 others (the diagram shows fewer for the sake of clarity). Once Topic 2 has been discussed.2. it can flow from there. a conversation may start from one topic or subject (Topic 1).2-4: Topic Candidates and Topic Shifts If each topic can flow to eight others. you can end up in over 500 different topic areas! We can create a general Conversation Model that shows this process (Figure 4. then after only three shifts in the topic.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 1st Topic Shift 2nd Topic Shift 3rd Topic Shift Figure 4.

There are SO many ways it can flow.3 Topic Turning Point D8-T15 The KEY concept the needs to be understood to gain the ability to manage conversations.2-5: Conversation Model The "Tree of Subjects" showing how thousands of subjects can be reached in just a few steps of the conversation.3-1. (The figure only shows a portion of how many subjects and topics can be reached).000 different subjects or topics that could be discussed by the time you are at "Level 6" in the conversation!! 4. If you are discussing one specific topic. This process of moving from the first topic to one of 6-8 relevant topics is the process of moving through a "Topic Turning Point" as shown in Figure 4.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Figure 4. it is quite easy to move from that onto 6-8 related topics.2. Page 77 . The diagram only shows a small fraction of them (so that the diagram is not even more cluttered than it already is!). In fact.2. if you assume that from any topic you could go to any of 8 other topics. is an awareness of this phenomenon that is called the "Topic Turning Point". then for that diagram to be really accurate it would have to show over 30. that they become far too many to shown in the diagram.2.

make a statement. The key thing to realize is that this process of Topic Turning Point (TTP) selection occurs over and over. Someone might make a comment. the conversation can then move to another topic. as long as the new topic is "related" to the first (this is shown in the diagram by the "candidates") then this change is easy to do.2. Page 78 . ask a question. For example. introduce an idea. However. etc. the conversation "shifts" slightly.3-2: How TTP Selections Effect the Conversation The selections made at each TTP are what actually "steer" the conversation in a certain direction.2.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Candidate Topics Figure 4.3-1: The Topic Turning Point (TTP) When discussing any topic (First Topic) there are easily 6-8 different topics to which the conversation can be moved (Candidate Topics).3-2 Topic Turning Points Figure 4.2. Therefore. the overall flow of a conversation comes about due to many of these TTP choices being made. A general way of looking at this process is shown in Figure 4. after one topic has been discussed for a short while. and throughout a conversation.

interesting Mundane and uninteresting Negative. As you have probably guessed by now. 4.3 4.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Normally. IMPORTANT: The overall direction of a conversation comes about due to a successive selection of TTPs. but you will have some control over the overall direction.1 GENERAL CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Want. they find a way to point out something negative. no one is "deciding" the TTPs. However. no matter WHAT is discussed.1-1. In a very broad sense.3.. they Good Boring Bad Argument could be more specific (and we will get there). Look in the diagrams. For example: • Maybe someone always finds a fun. No matter WHAT you talk to them about. This selection just "happens".) Page 79 . D8-T16 D8-T16 So how can you actually affect the flow of a conversation.. conversations tend to go in one of several ways. very quickly. The overall strategy at the beginning is then to "talk about positive. • Other people may do the opposite. interesting things". they somehow see it in terms how in effects their beliefs. depressing Confrontational . and do so in a way that sounds VERY natural.3. you can direct where the overall conversation goes. positive aspects of every topic being discussed. Can you see how you may be able to affect where a conversation goes? You might not be able to predict EXACTLY where it ends up. choices are made moment to moment. So to start our process of learning how to manage conversations. (See Figure 4. moment-to-moment. • Other people able to direct conversations based on their own beliefs and their own political motivations as well. and they quick steer the conversation in that manner.) then you CAN direct how a conversation flows. easily and naturally? That IS the point. fun.. and some training (which . The flow of the conversation starts. with some awareness of this process. positive way to look at anything. By manipulating TTPs from moment to moment. is coming soon. and that work in YOUR favor. and imagine if you had a general way to manipulate these TTPs. and the conversation tend to into one of four general areas. These people are able to automatically make TTP choices based on a strategy of finding good.. isn't it? In general.. Sometimes this can be VERY apparent. we want to first start to steer things in the best general manner. • Other people direct conversations based upon their own moral or religious values.. positive. fun. Many people do this "TTP selection" process automatically. fun. we are going to later teach you a way to be able to make these TTP selections.Those are just general examples. to "route" conversations so that they end up being the kinds of conversations that YOU want to have. and interesting. conversations are one of four types: • • • • Fun. we want the conversation to be positive. That ability alone is enough for our purposes. These types of people are making TTP selections based on a strategy of finding things that are negative to talk about.

steer towards Fun. No matter what is brought up.3. interesting things.1-1: General Conversational Management Consider all of the ways a conversation can go. you see that you want to focus the conversation onto topics that are "Fun. Figure 4. Don't engage in conversations when it's NOT about positive. and Interesting topics and subjects. Even if things move towards other areas. fun. so from the earliest stages. and Interesting". and Interesting" things. Positive. you can still "steer" back towards "Fun. Strategic Formula for General Conversational Management To steer the conversation in a good direction. fun. How do you do that? • • • Show interest when someone discusses positive. Page 80 . fun. Positive. positive and interesting. Positive. If you break that down into 4 main directions.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course General Conversational Management Conversations tend to flow in one of four major ways. interesting things. bring up positive. do what you can to steer in that direction. Introduce topics that are fun. interesting things.

move things towards the related topics that are "Fun. • Etc. You think of the "candidates" (the related topics or subjects that you can discuss) that serve you at the time. and Interesting".. you make note of where you are in the conversation. So you just think to yourself "Where can I go that is fan."Where can I go that is fun. You then think of several ways you can go (the related topics. or something you read.3. and interesting?" Move the conversation in that direction.2 How To Steer Conversations. and Interesting? That is the direction to go! Candidate Topics Figure 4. Page 81 . positive. Which Of these are Fun. you can direct where the overall conversation goes. TTP options.3. Positive. positive. TTP Mantra . as long as it moves things in a way that answers the question "Where can I go that is fun. and interesting" (See Figure 4.) Tactical Formula for General Conversational Management Keep thinking . By manipulating TTPs from moment to moment. the TTP. the topic "candidates" that were shown earlier).The overall direction of a conversation comes about due to a successive selection of TTPs.3. as we discussed earlier. Positive. and interesting"? Moment-to-moment.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4. positive.2-1. Repeat. How do you move things in that direction? You can: • Ask a question • Make a comment • Make a joke • Quote someone you heard. and interesting" and just move things in that direction.2-1: Topic Turning Point Navigation for General Conversational Management No matter what subject you start talking about.. . and then steer things in the correct direction. positive. you can always think of 6-8 other related topics or subjects. and then you move things in that direction! Remember . For any subject.Where can I go that is "fun. Moment To Moment D8-T19 Look at the overall flow of a conversation and break it down to its smallest point that we can affect.

but in the early part of the conversation. the most important thing to do is to focus on moving thing in a direction that is . Positive. Page 82 . just keep thinking about where you can go that is "Fun..3-1.).3. and Interesting! Figure 4.3-1: Moving Through Topics Using General Conversational Management Early in a conversation.3 The Model With Strategy And Tactics In Place D8-T23 As you make TTP choice after TTP choice (See Figure 4.3-2.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Later in the conversation.3.) Keep things moving in the direction of Fun. Do this for a while. You are steering things towards the direction that you want the conversation to go. Positive..3. and interesting".3. "fun. and Interesting". you get to an overall "area" that will work. you can work more towards certain topic areas. (See Figure 4. 4. positive.

always move towards topics and subjects that are Fun. and Interesting topics and subjects. keep steering in the right direction and in many cases you WILL get towards the right area soon enough (and if not. and Interesting!/ Figure 4. what was the main topic? Topics Page 83 .3. especially early in a conversation.3-2: General Conversational Management Model The most important direction to go.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course General Conversational Mgt Model No matter where you start. 4. Positive. maybe that person is not someone that you want to talk to anyway). or where you are. and write down the topic for each.4 Exercises and Assignments D8-T25 Exercises for General Conversational Management 1) Think of some conversations that you have been in recently. At some particular moment early in the conversation. Positive. Even if you temporarily move away from that direction or end up in an area that is not very positive or interesting. is towards Fun.3.

or Candidate Topics). ask about.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 2) Based on each of those topics. Topic TTP Options (Candidate Topics') Page 84 . consider it a topic that leads to a TTP (copy each item above into the "Topic" area below). directions you could "take" the conversation (these are the TTP Options. things you could comment on. Write each of those down. list 6-8 different ways you could go. For each of those Topics.

5) Practice again on each by moving things in the direction of the second item that was circled. what would it have been like to have moved the conversation in the direction of the first item you circled? Practice that out loud for each Topic above. which are the best? Which of these would move the conversation in a way that is best for you (think of "Fun. asking a question. 4) For each Topic.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Of the 6-8 different TTP Options you have written above for each Topic. and Interesting")? Select two "candidates" and circle or highlight those two. Page 85 . whatever it might take to move things in that direction. Positive. etc. making a statement. maybe by making a comment..

Make it so that it becomes easy for you to come up with a list of "options" very quickly. When talking to anyone. At any moment you should be able to think "Where can I go with this?". Maybe start out by looking at conversation after the fact. we want to work with topics that get the emotions involved. Building on what we learned in the last section. make a comment. we are turning you into someone that people LIKE to talk to! You know the type of person that people enjoy talking to. where COULD I have taken things". maybe offer an opinion.4 4.4. You then have to wonder . or without an overall strategy in mind). and positive conversation. positive. the more YOU can and will become that guy! 4.3. the imagination moving. look for moments where things can be "steered" in a certain way. we can start to direct the conversation into an even BETTER area. After a while. You may start to find however. • By moving things in this way. and spending time with? The type of guy that people seek out to spend time with? The more you do these types of exercises. inquire about something. don't worry. the conversation becomes more enjoyable for everyone.5 Summary D8-T32 Remember what was said earlier: • The overall direction of a conversation comes about due to a successive selection of TTPs (which normally occur at random. really be aware of the TTP opportunities in your day-to-day life. thinking "what COULD I have done. they will not go down a path of having a fun. fascinating. Positive. 2) Now that you are able to quickly find 1 or 2 good TTP options. In general.1 ADVANCED CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Really Want. At first. we want it to be really interesting. engaging. etc. even at the start of a conversation. Instead of the more general area of fun. start to take the conversation there! Ask a question. you may have to think of 6-8 options. positive and interesting topics.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Assignments for General Conversational Management 1) For the next week or so. By manipulating TTPs from moment to moment. that no matter WHAT you do with some people. whatever it takes. Do this for a while until the process of finding 1 or 2 good "Ways to go" in a conversation (good TTP options) can happen very rapidly for you." 4. It WILL get easier. Just do what you can so that the TTP shifts in a direction that is fun. but the REAL key is to at least get to the point where you can very quickly think of at least 1 or 2 ways to go that are Fun. Interesting. interesting. interesting. and people REALLY interested. If this is a challenge for you.Is that the sort of person you want to talk to and spend time with? Maybe not. We want to focus the aim of our conversational management skills even more. having conversations with. you can direct where the overall conversation goes. D8-T33 D8-T33 We want the conversation to be more than just positive. we want things to get even more Page 86 .

we now shift our strategy of "steering" things to direct the topics in a more focused manner using Advanced Conversational Management. there are many ways to go. there were 4 main directions towards which a conversation may go. So we narrow our focus. We use our strategy of working with the TTPs. to "steer" things even more towards what we want. With that as a general strategy. We move forward and want to get a more emotional tone. To move the conversation into more interesting areas.4. (See Figure 4. more excitement.) General Conversational Management takes the conversation into the Fun. steer the conversation towards directions that engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way. and more involvement of the imagination. there are many ways the conversation can move. So. how do we work that in what we are doing moment-to-moment? How can we do things that will make that happen? Page 87 .1-1: Advanced Conversational Management Focuses the Steering From the start of a conversation.1-1. Now from that point.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course interesting. and steer using Advanced Conversational Management Figure 4. and Interesting. we were able to move things in the direction of Fun.4. you move it in ways that engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way. Interesting area. Using General Conversational Management. Positive. Positive. Strategic Formula for Advanced Conversational Management To direct the conversation into even BETTER areas. From there.

Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Move the conversation in that direction.2-1. and explain a bit more as to its meaning and interpretation.) TTP Mantra " Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Tactical Formula for Advanced Conversational Management Keep thinking . Positive. See Figure 4. we shift the focus of how we navigate TTPs. 4. Interesting Topics Which of these "Engage the Emotions and imagination in a Positive Way"? That is the direction to go! Candidate Topics Figure 4. Repeat. Positive.) Page 88 .3-1 for an explanation.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4. we can assume that we are talking about subjects which fit into the "Fun. but now think "where can I go that will engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way".2-1: Topic Turning Point Navigation for Advanced Conversational Management After using General Conversational Management for a while.4.3 The Model With Advanced Strategy And Tactics In Place D8-T38 (Before we move on to looking at the model.2 Steering Conversations Moment To Moment using Advanced Conversational Management D8-T35 Again.4.4. (See Figure 4. With that established.4.4. and Interesting" area. we need to change the way the model is shown. TTP Fun. and with that strategy in mind. we look at the concept of the TTP. we need to use the TTP as a way to move things in the right direction.

there can be a whole "tree" of possibilities leading from there. or topic shift) shown on the digram may represent many steps in an actual conversation.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Understanding the Conversational Management Model The model attempts to show a process that has many many steps. or thirty. the graphics we will use will show an even more "condensed" version of this process. When starting from ANY topic (1) to a place where you are firmly established for a period of time in a Fun.) the conversation moves on for a while. But after using the general techniques (Fun. so that the various stages of a conversation can be easily illustrated. It may happen in ten minutes. the model above is what we used to show a starting point (1). Figure 4. For example. (2). etc.3-1: Understanding the Conversational Management Model The "levels" shown in the models are not meant to be exact. This can result in so many possibilities (many thousands within a few steps) that it's important to look at these diagrams as a way to show "trend". and Interesting conversation (2) may take four steps.4. not an exact number of steps or outcomes. From now on in the course. we are not showing that there are exactly "four steps" between points (1) and (2). At that point. and it ends up at a certain area (2). For example. it may take ten. The locations of points (1). these diagrams will indicate a VERY condensed version of the number of steps involved. once again ending up with thousands of topics that could be discussed by the time you get through more topic shifts (3). but a way to show a "trend". Positive. Page 89 . and (3) in the figure above (and in the next figure) helps to show this. In practice. with thousands upon thousands of possible possible routes and outcomes. Positive. where every "step" (TTP.

Now the emphasis is on ways to "Engage the Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way". if you use the language tools which we learned about earlier in the course. the conversation will get better and better.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course We started at one topic. emotional topics. we now focus more on moving in a direction that will "Engage the Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way". in practice it may be good to follow a series of topics for 5. feelings. This too can take any number of steps. to yourself! Advanced Conversational Management Model Figure 4. the conversation will get more and more of an "emotional" tone to it. and states. For a while. Positive.4. After that has been established. This also is followed for a series of steps and a period of time. 20. and then Advanced Conversational Management. and could be at any of thousands of topics after 6. As time goes on. only a few of which are shown in the diagram.4. you can see how General Conversational Management. or 30 minutes. are used together to move forward in a conversation. exciting.3-2: Advanced Conversational Management Model Early in the conversation. If you refer to Figure 4. we focused the conversation towards moving things in a direction that is "Fun Positive and Interesting. This is shown from point (1) to point (2) in the diagram. This is shown between points (2) and (3). If you follow these two simple strategies together (and the tactical approach of simply watching the TTPs and moving things in the right way). and Interesting conversation (2). you end up linking and associating many fascinating. or however long it takes to be firmly established in a Fun. The subjects will get more and more fascinating. Although the diagram shows only 2 steps (for simplicity). 10 topic shifts. subjects. until it is firmly established that the conversation has engaged the emotions and imagination of the participant. 10. 8.3-2. General Conversational Management techniques are used. Then a shift is made towards focusing the conversation even more using Advanced Conversational Management. Page 90 . And of course while doing that.

4 Exercises and Assignments D8-T39 Exercises for Advanced Conversational Management 1) Think of some conversations that you have been in recently. consider it a topic that leads to a TTP (copy each above into the "Topic" areas below). directions you could "take" the conversation (these are the TTP Options. list 6-8 different ways you could go. Write each of those down. things you could comment on. ask about.4.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4. and interesting conversation. or Candidate Topics). Topic a. These should be conversations where it is already obvious that it is a fun. what was the main topic? Topics 2) Based on each of those topics. At some particular moment in that conversation. For each of those Topics. positive. and write down the topic for each. TTP Options (Candidate Topics') Page 91 .

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asking a question. where COULD I have taken things". Assignments for Advanced Conversational Management 1) For the next week or so.. So. Just do what you can so that the TTP shifts in a direction that can "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way"..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Of the 6-8 different TTP Options you have written above for each Topic. Maybe start out by looking at conversation after the fact. 2) Now that you are able to quickly find 1 or 2 good TTP options for yourself that "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". making a statement. once again. but be especially aware of wanting to move things to "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". we want to steer things more towards romantic. So. It WILL get easier.5. etc. don't worry. which 1 or 2 would tend to "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way"? Which ones move things in a way that is best for you? Select two "candidates" and circle or highlight these two. seductive things. 4) For each Topic. what next? At some point in the conversation. At first. positive. start to take the conversation there! Ask a question. but the REAL key is to at least get to the point where you can very quickly think of at least 1 or 2 ways to go that "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". maybe offer an opinion. whatever it takes. really be aware of the TTP opportunities in your day-to-day life. If this is a challenge for you.1 Summary MORE ADVANCED CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT More About Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Really Want. we focus further on the TTP options! Page 93 .4. make a comment. even things with some degree of sensual connotation to them. thinking "what COULD I have done. we are "steering" things more and more in a direction that we wish to go. and interesting. maybe by making a comment. Do this for a while. inquire about something. until the process of finding 1 or 2 ways to go that "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way" in a conversation can happen very rapidly for you. fascinating. you may have to think of 6-8 options.5 4.. whatever it might take to move things in that direction. 5) Practice again on each by moving things in the direction of the second item that was circled. 4. This is best when applied to a conversation that is ALREADY fun. D8-T46 D8-T47 D8-T47 As you can see.5 4. what would it have been like to have moved the conversation in the direction of the first item you circled? Practice that out loud for each Topic above.

fascinating.3 The Model With More Advanced Strategy And Tactics In Place D8-T52 We are just closing in. seductive things?" Figure 4.) "Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic.5. Fascinating. you will have taken things in the right direction and this will be much easier. and followed the other strategies and tactics shown earlier. Repeat.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Strategic Formula for More Advanced Conversational Management To further direct the conversation into even BETTER areas.) Page 94 .2-1.2-1: Topic Turning Point Navigation for More Advanced Conversational Management After using General and Advanced Conversational Management.5.5. This may seem odd or hard to do. and associating YOU with them! (See Figure 4.2 Steering Conversations Using More Advanced Conversational Management D8-T49 TTP Mantra (See Figure 4. This gets her mind into thinking more and more about these things. However. and focusing more and more towards areas and topics that work. seductive things?" Move the conversation in that direction. seductive things is much easier after you have first move towards fun. and then topics that engage the emotions and imagination. 4.5."Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. Seductive things Tactical Formula for More Advanced Conversational Management Keep thinking . Moving towards romantic.3-1. fascinating. steer the conversation towards romantic. if you have been in a conversation for a while. The focus now is upon topics that get you closer towards Romantic. fascinating. positive and interesting thing.5. then the focus shifts again towards directing things in a specific way. and seductive things. fascinating. 4.

. Early on. Fascinating. and Interesting. Positive. and Seductive.3-1: More Advanced Conversational Management Model As the conversation progresses. Then the Advanced Conversational Management Techniques place the focus more upon items that involve the Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way. the focus moves towards selecting items based on More Advanced Conversational Management. shown from point (1) to (2). After that type of conversation has been established (3).Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course More Advanced Conversational Management Model Figure 4. General Conversational Management techniques place the focus on selecting items that are Fun. moving to point (3). which targets topics and subjects that are Romantic. there is a different focus at each stage.5. moving to point (4) Page 95 .

This hardly ever ever happens.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4. that they will get an AMAZING reaction in their first movement across the Model.1-1. Too many guys are too caught up in this one-shot dream of traveling once across the model and getting an amazing result. and then . the way it really DOES happen.MAGIC! However that is NOT the way it works in the real world. Moreover.6. then a sensual one. and then an emotional one.1-1: The Dream of a 1-Shot Path To Success! A common misperception is that many guys think that if they can just move a conversation from the start.) The Dream that Does Not Happen! Figure 4.1 The 1-Shot Beeline Fallacy D9-T2 Guys assume that they will travel from a general topic. will work in your favor. to a positive one. (See Figure 4.6 CONVERSATIONAL FRACTIONATION D9-T1 Using these Conversational Management skills in the real world may be quite different in practice from the way most guys "think" it will happen. and get things to be more and more fascinating and exciting. Page 96 .6.6. 4.

So. Use the language tools. no matter how the conversation jumps around.3 Using Conversational Fractionation D9-T5 Start at some normal topic and move through the model towards the right.6. If you get to a very good place.31.6. you go back towards something more "normal". Just start the process again.. You back up to a more general topic. When we say "go back".. using the Conversational Management techniques Get as far through the model as you can. restarts. And again. This actually works better! We are actually using Fractionation. Then at some point. moving through the model towards the right. You just start the process again. Because no matter where you start from.. etc..2 How Fractionation Works D9-T3 The real world has stops. move on to the next step. no matter where you start. you take a conversation from the early stages through the process. This actually ADDS to the power and effectiveness of what you are doing. The conversation starts.. You might do that on your own. Maybe you move all the way back to a very "normal" topic (which would be all the way on the left side of the model). emotional and imaginative topics. Great! Talk about that for a while. No problem. In this way. Have fun.. Start at any topic (you are on the far left side of the Model) Move forward towards the right. Then you "back up" to some extent (even all the way back to a very general topic area) and then move forward across the model again. Maybe several times. Of if you can't seem to get to a good place.. or maybe the conversation shifts back to that place due to something she says. No problem. g) Do the whole process over and over.. (See Figure 4. and fascinating and seductive topics.) a) b) c) d) Page 97 . This is where a process is done repeatedly over and over. and then at some point.. here is how this works. you back off. So. Maybe you start from a very general topic and get all the way through the model towards a very very fascinating topic or subject. starts. goes for some distance through the model (maybe all the way through). and then .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4. you are always moving towards positive topics. stay there and talk about it for a while.6. you may jump back just several steps in our Conversational Management Process. e) Then move back (towards the left side of the model) This may happen because: • The person you are talking to does that (she asks a question) • Or maybe you do it (just to lighten things up) f) Then start again.. the conversation ends up being very interesting and fascinating! 4.

6. The overall trend is that. and fascinating! 4. that no matter WHAT you talk about. it ends up being fun. You become one of those fascinating guys. As things move forward from (1). it's not a bad idea to back up a bit (9) and then move forward again. over time. This is not a problem. at times maybe they move towards an area that is not too good (2).6. interesting.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Conversational Fractionation at Work Figure 4. Fractionation happens at times because even when you may be at a fairly good place for a while (8). there is a continued movement up and into better and better areas of conversation. As time goes on (5-12) the conversation gets into better and better areas. there is no such thing as a conversational "Dead End"! Page 98 .4 Dead Ends Come Back To Life! D9-T6 With this new strategy of using Conversational Fractionation.3-1: How Conversation Fractionation Works on the Model Follow the conversation as it moves from (1) to (12). simply back up (3) and then try moving into a better direction (4).

... Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. Just back up.. Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Move things in that direction. have more material to use in conversations in the future! 4. No problem. and the person becomes interested and fascinated. you just back up. this can happen. Where can I go that is fun.. When on good topics. with you! 4. Do that for a while and then think . Do that for a while and then think .7.7 CONVERSATIONAL OVERVIEW AND REVIEW D9-T7 So. and interesting? Move things in that direction. o Comment on what is around o Mention common items.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course If you happen to take a "wrong turn" somehow and get into an area of discussion that is boring. stay there for a while.3 Summary D9-T10 Go have fun with these tools! Page 99 . uninteresting. talked more. —* The entire time: o If you hit a "dead end". or maybe negative.7...7. positive. or what you both have in common Move forward with the Strategies and Tactics in mind. o If you get to a good subject or topic.1 • Conversational Management Approach Start on just about ANY subject. (think of your TTP options). seductive things? Move things in that direction. you might have just found out that they are NOT someone you want to spend time with! That's not a total loss because you STILL learned more. fascinating. back up a few steps. and go down another path! 4. use the language tools.2 What If The Outcome Is Not What You Expected? D9-T9 Despite your best efforts. and get the effect.. how do we pull this together? 4. use the language tools as much as possible! D9-T8 • • • • • • • • • Keep moving the conversation into these interesting fascinating areas . • What if you can't make the conversation positive? • What if she always points out the negative aspect? • What if there is NO emotional engagement at ALL? Well. and use the Strategy and Tactics of the Conversational Management techniques! Look at "Dead Ends" as being just like a bad turn on a road.. etc.

". and that statement (regarding having actually talked to someone about the topics) will be TRUE! So. especially as they get more interesting. fascinating.. and some familiarity with this type of thing. Themes vs. if using those language tools is problem for you.1 Themes are a way through a discussion or through the "tree of subjects" that we showed earlier. and closer towards the subjects that will really serve your intent.. we have talked about managing conversations. and while talking about subjects and topics that YOU are really passionate about. this is something we can and will work on with you. some practice. so that YOU have some material. TOPICS OF ENTHUSIASM AND PASSION D9-T14 What are you passionate about? Few things are more compelling in a person than for them to be passionate about something (hopefully many things) in life. You will be able to say things like "I was talking to someone about this the other day. The more experience you get. the more familiar you will be with these topics.0 TOPICS D9-T11 What do you talk about? As the conversation gets more interesting. and then the more "material" you will have. However. yes! How well can you talk about topics that YOU are passionate about while using many of the language tools we talked about in the earlier parts of the course? If you can do that very well . and it's even better if you are passionate about those topics. Topics • • 5. However. Now we want you to become familiar with topics that will really work well for you! We are going to work with some of these topics. What do you talk about? There is no substitute for experience. A topic is a particular area of discussion that is taking place in a moment. what can we do here in this course to help you? We have talked about the way to talk and use language.great! It's easier to use the language tools if you are discussing topics with which you are familiar. You want to be able to discuss these topics easily. the easier it will get. In the meantime. the more you talk to people about such things. go ahead and practice! (Or maybe do that the next time you go through the course. and THEY said. Talking about these topics may be a challenge for many men.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 5. to get the best effect you will have to be a PART of that conversation and familiar with the topics that may come up. fascinating. fun. you should be able to use them with subjects in which you are already interested! Page 101 .) Before you can use the language tools with new subjects that you are learning about. Most men may not be very familiar with many of the topics that we REALLY want to get into. then you may want to go back in those earlier sections. Can you talk passionately about something? Anything? Hopefully.

or sports. at least. Topics that access emotions. and emphasize discussing topics in which YOU are interested and passionate about. You may talk about cars. or the office.. etc. or near.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course So.) Page 102 . in some ways. How good are you at the earlier sections that dealt with the language tools? It may be a good idea to go back over those sections.. or cleaning the toilet. feelings. but doing so while using the language tools. or topics that are very close to that concept. and seductive. and link it to you! When • • • • • you are at or near an SOT: Use the correct tone of Voice Pace and Lead correctly Link things to you Point at the right times. but how effective are those as subjects given the "purpose" of the discussion? You want to discuss topics and things which deal with seduction. excitement. work it. These are called "Seduction Oriented Topics". Seduction Oriented Topics (SOTs) . can create an AMAZING effect! When you do get a conversation into an area near an SOT. a topic that is an SOT. in the right way Use the language tools! You want to be familiar with these topics (SOTs) and able to discuss them easily: maybe not ALL of them. Examples of SOTs • Connections • Going for it • Making good decisions • Surrendering to feelings • Getting excited • Feeling excited • Trusting your judgment • Taking chances • Indulgence • Maturity • Good decisions • . stay there as long as you can! Talk about it.. You want to be able to discuss topics that deal on some level with Seduction. but a good number of them. someone) some topics are easier to work with than others. judge for yourself.2 SEDUCTION ORIENTED TOPICS D9-T15 In the context of this course (and your intent in talking with . (Every guy has his favorites and ones that work best for him.. Your point is to get to..just TALKING about these can create a good effect. or. sensual. The conversational management sections will help you to move the conversation in a way that will get you near these topics areas.. 5. SOTs are the "end goals" when it comes to managing or directing a conversation.Topics that bring up images and thoughts that are romantic.

and the more you talk to and with people about them. or anything like that. Write down your list of SOTs. Page 103 . Meaning. by there very nature. You can use some of those that were listed earlier if you wish. or even watched in a movie! (Or heard in a course that you took .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course These topics may seem foreign to you. Or.. have stories about them. read. ask about them. Think of SOME way to discuss these. and while there. or in movies. Or are taking!) . keep it there. or joke about them. easily.Are you able to somehow relate to these in your own life? Maybe something you read or heard? Maybe questions you can ask? ANYTHING?!?!? You do not need to "know" a lot about these topics or be an expert. Assignments for Seduction Oriented Topics 1) Pay attention to conversations in your life (even things you hear on the radio. hopefully some way that involves you and your own life. use as many of the language tools as you can. the easier it will get! Strategic Formula for Seduction Oriented Topics SOTs are topics that. and also topics that you have heard in other materials and products that you have. the more you practice. or on TV. using as many of the language tools as you can. but the more you think about them. or seduction per se. Exercises for Seduction Oriented Topics 1) Build your own list of SOTs.. 3) Practice talking about each aloud. you JUST need to be able to talk. Get the conversation there. or overhear from others) and listen for when any of these SOTs come up in conversation. Think about other topics you have heard mentioned in this program. and hopefully add some of your own. the easier it will be to "riff" on these using the language tools. or ask questions. Seduction Oriented Topics 2) You must become familiar with these! You must be able to talk about them. the more you work with the materials. and without "thinking" about the language tools. talk about something you heard. the more you practice using the tools. and discuss these subjects. Eventually. Don't worry about talking to women. or comment on them! Talk aloud for several minutes about each. bring up images and thoughts that may work for you.. you will be able to just "talk" about the subject while using the tools that are available.

Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Listen to what is being said. and start to get your brain working on them. Because of that. We learned how you can move from any topic. You listen more to when they are discussed. after having worked with hundreds of guys. The more you hear. it gets easier to enter into more conversations that deal with these topics. See? We are working on a process to get you to become more comfortable and familiar with these things. However. show interest. So can you. That gives YOU more familiarity with discussing them. but had even more? Maybe 50? What if that was easy and familiar for you? Think back to how we looked at topics earlier. That is understandable. I can tell you that it DOES get easier and easier to be able to talk about these things. etc. the more you listen. They did it. (As in. and easily come up with 6-8 related topics. but as long as you start it.SOTXs D9-T24 What if you had not just 10 ways of discussing "Seduction Oriented" subjects. but we are walking you through (at least the first steps of) the process to make this easier: • • • • • • • • • • • You have made a list of SOTs."). It may start a bit slowly and awkwardly.. what is said. Maybe ask some questions about things that deal with your SOTs. make a comment.3 EXPANDED SEDUCTION ORIENTED TOPICS . Page 104 . this process must start somewhere. or even just TRY to do so. 5. You start to listen and take notice of when these are discussed. You do a few exercises to talk about them. Really! Learning to discuss such things may start out slowly. That's what we want to do here. then the more material YOU will have to talk about. quote. and frankly. and makes it easier for you to talk about them. Many guys who can now talk about these things VERY easily and comfortably started from a place of having NO idea of what to say! They changed. Use as many of the language tools as you can. They started and became more and more familiar with these topics. anything at all! Talk. and move through these exercises and assignments. this is one of the key challenges that many guys face. ask an opinion. what people think. but this time with SOTs. These are called Expanded SOTs (SOTXs). Then you get to hear MORE people talk about them. ask. SOT Summary I KNOW that these topics may seem foreign to you. "the other day I heard someone talking about. That makes you really think about them. ask what something means. discuss. 2) Now . it WILL get easier.. Make special note of topics that are CLOSE or similar to these SOTs in some way. And that gives you MORE material to talk about! Which make it easier for you to enter into more conversations about these subjects and topics..Talk about these subjects and topics! Make a point to enter into a discussion when one of your SOTs is mentioned. However. or even when anything CLOSE to one of your SOTs is discussed.

For any given SOT. it's easy to think of several different aspects of that topic or related topics. However as we see here..with a girlfriend . or only one aspect of that to discuss (connections in a romantic or sensual context). That just makes it easier for our example below).. (Does that diagram look familiar?) If "Connections" is an SOT..with someone you just met . SOT Connections SOTX Connections with family Connections with friends Connections with coworkers Connections with pets Connections with a girlfriend Connections with someone you just met Connections with someone while on vacation Connections with music Connections with your teammates Many guys worry about talking about something like "Connections". see Figure 5.3-1: How SOTs are related to an SOTXs.with your teammates Figure 5. . places... how we discussed a Topic Turning Point?) If Connections is a particular subject. Instead of worrying about getting to that one topic (SOT) in a certain way. pets.. how easy would it be to talk about how you CONNECT with those? And if you talk about Page 105 . there are many different types or examples of connecting to people. but can you think of 6-8 different aspects of this? (Remember what we did in the earlier sections.with coworkers . and build a whole list of very similar things to talk about -which are SOTXs! For example....3-1. you can take any SOT.with someone while on vacation . Then. comes up in a conversation.. you can talk about that for while.with family .. and things that can be discussed. family.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Expanding on a Topic Area "Connections" is an SOT. you now have 6-8 ways to discuss it....with music . if friends. (You do not really need to list "connections with" for each..with pets . That is one subject. They think of only one way of talking about that subject. coworkers.. the SOTX list consists of all of these items shown in the diagram and listed below. Look at the list above.. etc.with friends . can you think of different aspects of that? Parts of Connections? Questions about Connections? Ways of experiencing Connections? People or things with which you can experience Connections? By asking those types of questions (to yourself).

or a special person. then you can shift towards ANOTHER type of "connection" very easily! (See Figure 5. that you just met! When you expand SOTs in this way.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course THAT (how you connect in that manner) for a while. or maybe even someone. ask a question. (Yes.) Family Friends Coworkers Pets Connections A girlfriend Someone you just met Someone met on vacation Music Teammates Figure 5...3-2: SOTXs Can Lead Into SOTs If any of the topics in the SOTX list comes up in conversation. then you can shift to talking about "how you can connect with a pet" fairly easily. c. b. if someone is talking about pets. or different aspects of that topic. a.. or how that topic can be experienced. it's very easy to then shift.. etc.3-2. this is a TTP diagram in reverse!) For example. all of a sudden there are many MORE ways to get to these really GREAT topics! Exercises f o r Expanded Seduction Oriented T o p i c s 1) Take the SOT list you had earlier (copy those down into the first column below.. you can be as close as one step away from an SOT.to . how to connect with people.. If you talk about that for a while. you are to list 5 (at least) related topics. SOTs " SOTXs List Page 106 . This is your SOTX list. and how you (or someone else) can connect with a pet.) and for each SOT. point out an example regarding pets. Just make a comment.

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That gives you a LOT of flexibility in conversations! Page 108 . and see if you can then focus what you are saying towards the SOT itself. you talk about pets. (Like the earlier example.) 3) Do the same thing again. Talk about that SOTX for a moment or two. practice talking about it out loud. Step back and look at what you have done! You have 10 SOTs with which YOU are familiar. but now do so while using the language tools. then about connecting with pets. You have 50 SOTXs that you are now familiar with as well. then about connecting in general.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 2) Now for each SOTX.

..with pets Connections . spotting these opportunities get easier and easier. 5.with family . D9-T32 We discussed how to develop an SOTX list from an SOT.with someone while on vacation . The techniques that you have learned are the sort of things that many people do naturally..with friends .. broke it into bits and pieces that you can learn and do as exercises. We have broken these down. The more familiar you are with these subjects. it is easy to then move the conversation towards topics that will work better for you (SOTs).. you know that you are very close to getting near a subject area that will work very well for you. modeled the process arid the steps involved.. However. . Maybe you will even start to notice SOTXs that were not even ON your list.4 CONVERSATIONAL MODEL WITH SOTXs. SOTXs are now like "conversational landmarks" for you in terms of navigating a conversation.with someone you just met ...with your teammates Family Friends Coworkers Pets A girlfriend Someone you just met Someone met on vacation Music Teammates Connections This is how we developed SOTXs This is the most useful way of thinking of SOTXs Figure 5. and then built upon that step by step. concept of "topics related to a topic" in many many places. If anything like an SOTX comes up in a conversation. or anything like them mentioned. "I didn't list that SOTX.. and move the conversation towards SOTs.4-1: SOTXs Are The Pathways To SOTs SOTXs are an easy way to get towards SOTs. The more you work with this...with a girlfriend .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Assignments for Expanded Seduction Oriented Topics 1) Look at all of your SOTXs! That's a LOT of subjects! Pay attention in your life to see how often any of those items come up in conversation (or maybe you just hear them somewhere).with music .with coworkers . Good speakers... that process can work both ways. especially politicians and activists. . See if you can move the conversation a bit towards the SOT itself. if you hear any of them mentioned. use such techniques a LOT. it's about getting YOU comfortable and familiar with these topics.. the easier it will be to notice SOTXs. use the language tools if and whenever you can. The real usefulness of this is when you reverse the order as shown in Figure 5. You will start to notice this. Page 109 .. It ALL gets easier! 2) Start to "direct" the conversations you encounter where your SOTXs are mentioned. You may think..4-1. Summary You now have MORE material to work with than you ever thought possible! This is not about memorizing... In addition. but it IS related to an SOT that I have worked with".

you have practiced with so many of these SOTXs. we have had to compress or simplify them quite a bit and show only a fraction of the actual steps and numbers involved so that the diagrams do not become too large or complex. this will start to happen for you. to be able to notice when you are talking about things which are "close to" topics that will work well for you. However in the figure above. SOTXs SOTs Figure 5. there are really 50 SOTXs and 10 SOTs shown .the number that YOU have actually worked with so far! Since SOTXs and SOTs are the "goals" in terms of managing a conversation.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course So whenever you are having a conversation. and done the exercises and assignments. or the SOTXs. and for you to just start to "recognize" these things on your own . and 50 SOTXs (in the earlier exercises) you now have many many SOTXs with which YOU are familiar! More importantly. that this process will now be easier than you may have imagined. Figure 5. After all. and then towards SOTs.. you now see how easy it can be to move over to an SOT! In fact.without "thinking" about them. you will get closer and closer to SOTXs. As the topics get better and better.4-2: Your Multiple Pathways to SOTs! Now that you have worked with 10 SOTs.4-3 shows this in the model itself. It's to have you practice and become familiar with them. If you have followed the program. you have already worked with 10 SOTs and 50 SOTXs as shown in Figure 5. that is not an abbreviation or exaggeration. In many of the diagrams. we can then show them as part of our Conversational Model.4-2. The point here (again) is not to memorize the SOTs. and anything like an SOTX comes up in the discussion. Page 110 . you have started to train yourself to "recognize" these landmarks.

and topics that are close to that (SOTXs). Period. or as close as you can towards SOTs. Move towards SOTs. then you can simply move things towards a topic that is very seduction-oriented! The point is not to have a "list" in mind. Then move the conversation towards an SOT! This works. just follow the steps listed earlier in the Conversational Management sections. it's that you have trained yourself to recognize things that are SOTs.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course SOTs in the Conversational Management Model The end goal is to get to.4-3: SOTs Are THE Goals in Conversational Management As you move through a conversation. you can start from just about ANY topic and get to GREAT topics! It's easy. SOTXs are a pathway to make that easier. When you get to an SOTx.. which are topics near or related to seduction (a step or two away from SOTs).5 THE COMPLETE CONVERSATIONAL MODEL D9-T33 Start from any topic and get to where you want! Yes. Stay there for a while if you can! Figure 5. 5. or anything that is "related" to an SOT.) Page 111 . then start to pay attention for SOTXs. and using this type of approach you will have fascinating conversations with people that lead to where YOU want to go! (See Figure 5.5-1. You can start from almost ANYWHERE. SOTXs SOTs Listen for SOTXs Anything near or related to an SOT. and ANY TOPIC. you start to "listen" for topics that are SOTXs.

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seductive things Direct the Conversation Pay attention when Good Subjects come up (SOTXs) Listen for anything a step or two away from an SOT Move towards SOTs Stay there as long as you can Use The Language Tools! As much as possible. start over! Assignment! 1) Try it! Start directing conversations using the conversational management model. and see how easy it is to get to some good topic that is an SOT. fascinating. Especially when at or near SOTXs and SOTs. or very close! Page 113 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Figure 5.. back up! If you move back to a general topic.5-1: The Complete Conversational Management Model (continued) Start a Conversation Manage the Conversation Move the Conversation in a Good Direction Steer towards ...Fun. interesting .Engaging the emotions and imagination in a positive way . exciting... or SOTX. Fractionate If you take a wrong turn. Steer towards ..Romantic. Steer towards .

or "how can I bring this pattern up".0 6. It's best to just think of patterns as examples. etc. 6. You don't have to think about moving the wheel. or series of actions. "A plan" or "model". • Instead. THAT ends up being a very effective way to create "patterns". These smaller skills become automatic and you focus instead of driving. Amplify these feelings and states by talking. A New way of thinking about the use of patterns • The wrong way is to talk to someone and to keep thinking. that's the key. Examples/Analogies: • Sports . With this new approach to learning and using these tools.1 PATTERNS PATTERN OVERVIEW D10-T1 What is a pattern? • A plan. Present a Call to action. A representative sample. • Driving . Don't think of "how can I get to the pattern".2 PATTERN FORMULA D10-T7 Tactical Formula for Patterns While talking to a woman. Patterns are just examples of the use of these tools. Link and associate these feelings to you. She may take the conversation into better places that you could have predicted. we work in that manner. asking.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 6. We practice specific parts of areas of the skills we wish to use later on. The Pattern Formula in detail. you make decisions on-the-spot as to what to do and how to proceed. • While talking to a woman. plus these areas will work for HER because SHE selected them (in a manner of speaking) • Talk and manage the conversation into an area that DOES work for you. or could say. and as "a way of speaking". "how can I get to my pattern". clarifying. diagram. or model to be followed in making things. and being aware of when you DO get to an area of conversation that does allow you to use a pattern. In the same manner. The navigation is handled through our use of Conversational Management techniques. certain actions. get her to "experience" good feelings and states o Use the Conversational Management Techniques to get there o Get her to think about good and/or exciting feelings Page 115 .You don't play the entire game ahead of time.Many of the details of driving a car are things you just "do". Use the language tools. or navigation. the clutch. think about having a conversation (and managing it correctly). • An example of what you can say. You practice bits and pieces of the sport. • Maybe talk to a woman and allow HER to bring up things that end up working well in pattern-like language. or "how can I bring up a pattern that I know". handling the gas pedal. Its just a "type" of talking that you can (and will be able to) use when you feel it is appropriate. Once you actually play the game though. get her to "experience" good feelings and states. we have practiced the small details (language skills) so that these are automatic.

6. but they assume that you are in a conversation where they will work and be somewhat "appropriate" to what is being discussed. The problem is if you are SO focused on just "getting to the pattern" that you know (or even one of many that you know) then it's difficult to have a good conversation. etc Link and associate those feelings to you o Use the Language Tools o Use linkage phrases like "now with me". canned patterns are good. or things you have read. The good ways to use these are as teaching and learning tools. and real-time "Riffing".. these canned patterns DO have some usefulness. clarifying o Use the Language Tools o Asking her for info. Therefore it is best to maybe have some of these memorized. and do. and the proper context is not created. don't focus TOO much on them. "Canned" patterns.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • o Get her feeling good and/or exciting feelings o Get her experiencing (or recall the experience of) good and/or exciting feelings o Get her to think about things that she wants or desires Amplify these feelings and states by talking. and that the woman will react to what the patterns is about. So. Pre-written. Some times that does happen. pre-rehearsed. what you need to do is to look at. for her to elaborate and describe o Repeating back what she has said o Provide examples from your own life o Provide examples from friends. many times it does not. In THAT case ." etc. o Use "this" and "these" (be aware of that and those as well) o Point and mark appropriately Present a Call to action o "Do it now" language o Create a Challenge o Create an Opportunity o Talk about the chance to "Seize the moment" o A simple add-on to the Language Tools There are two main ways of doing patterns. if you just "drop" a pattern into the conversation. "this person. when you are talking to a woman. and to use what is needed in the moment. pre-written patterns that you have seen and heard. Their best use is when you use the Conversational Management techniques and then find that the conversation just happens to get to or near a pattern that you DO happen to know already. and have them there for your use if and when the correct situation comes up. asking.these pre-written or canned patterns can work very well. they can. However. In the real world..4 PATTERN RIFFING IN REAL-TIME D10-T13 This is the ability to just create pattern language on-the-fly..3 CANNED PATTERNS D10-T12 These are the pre-rehearsed. 6. But. because doing so may work against you. • The interesting topic that she and you are discussing o what is happening o what you know Page 116 . sound quite strange.

interesting. Yes. Then we use those as a basis for discussion... using the tools. it really IS that easy! look for: Positive emotions and feeling Positive sensations (as in physical ones) Exciting feelings. Then you have a conversation and. • Talk about these things or listen to you talk about these things • get her to think about these things • get her to feel these things • get her to link them to you. THE BEST PATTERN IS THIS: • • Get her to talk and think about positive. get her to. and sensual things. Page 117 . Wanting to take action or seize an opportunity Always • • • • See the pattern here? We are in general. Use the language tools so that YOU become associated with those things.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • o what she is reacting to o and discuss things which are appropriate. emotions. looking and listening for positive feelings. • Use some "act now" languaging. states. exciting. and and use the language tools. and actions in the conversation.

Engage her emotions and imagination in a positive way. a. Whether its your first. SOTs) 4. Keep the conversation going. Direct the conversation in a way that takes you toward good topics a.3 LISTEN. Both you and her talk! 2. and how you speak. DO THE EXERCISES.0 7. and/or compulsion to act a. Use the Language Tools 5.2 SUMMARY D10-T26 This may be similar to information you have heard in the past. focusing first on small details. Use the conversational management techniques b. the greater your results will be.1 REVIEW AND SUMMARY REVIEW D10-T18 The course has followed a "bottom-up" approach to training. Get the conversation into good subjects (SOTXs. comfort in. a. 3. We really are focused upon changing you. 7. fifth. It really is up to you. Use the Language Tools 7. Now we can look from the "top-down". Talk about something positive and interesting c. AND FOLLOW THE COURSE.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 7. D10-T27 Listen to the full explanations. Create a willingness. D10-T28 The more energy and effort you put into this.5 CONGRATULATIONS! WELL DONE! D10-T29 Page 119 . Use the conversational management techniques b. 1. of fourteenth time through. but the method of approaching it is very different.4 BE WILLING AND PREPARED TO PUT ENERGY INTO THIS COURSE. Direct and/or link those feelings towards you. -' d. you will benefit. and really take the time to do the exercises. 7. and then building up to bigger and bigger pieces. 7. Keep her there and keep talking! a. and the more engaged you are in the process. and view an overall strategy. Fractionate if and when needed.

EXAMPLES Dll-Tl The discussions presented on the audio for this section are intentionally "casual" to familiarize you even more with the use of these tools. Page 121 . and provide you with some real-world examples of their use.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 8.0 EXAMPLES. EXAMPLES.

• Be descriptive. • If I were to . • Slow.. to convey a sense of drama and intrigue in what you are saying in a way that "captivates "people and makes them want to listen to you. powerful.. emotions. allowing you to say more (and maybe more provocative things) about a subject. so that their feelings. use Adjectives And Adverbs Trance Words Help to get the subconscious mind of the listener to be more of apart of your conversation. • Nose.. • What's it like when ... • If you were to . and processes awaken. • Instantaneously " Suddenly • Find Yourself • Convince Yourself • Suppose • Imagine " Mysterious (-ly) • Wonder (-ous) (-ously) Weasel Phrases Use Weasel Phrases to keep the conversation going. or Chest? Pacing And Pausing Use variations in pace. • Passionate or Boring? o o o • LANGUAGE TOOLS A N T D E T A I L S o Adjectives And Adverbs Use more adjectives and adverbs in your speech to appeal to and excite the emotional side of the listener. Voice Tone And Tonality Use your best tone of voice (speaking from your chest) to convey a relaxed.. and to "soften " the way in which something is said.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course APPENDIX 1 Course "Cheat Sheet" • SPEAKING POINTERS o The "Cool" Factor You don't have to be cold. • Have you ever . and charismatic presence. and well-placed pauses.. Fast.. o o Page 123 . to be cool.. " As you. Mouth.. Pause? Energy And Enthusiasm Using energy and enthusiasm when speaking so that people can become energized and enthusiastic about listening to and being with you.

• Can you do this now. a smile. Point away • Positive statement. intrigue. interest. Say "this". Easy Anchoring When the person you are talking with displays a positive feeling of some type. etc. • Use "That" and "Those" when referring to anything negative. laugh. touch them to help anchor it to you.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o Embedded Commands Use embedded commands repeatedly and in the proper context. These. and accentuate what you are saying in order to be more compelling as a speaker and to get even more attention from your listener or audience... motion.. allowing you to move things more in your favor later on Page 124 . Point to you • Negative statement. point or gesture towards yourself. • Move! Point! Linking Gestures Towards And Away • Whenever you say something negative. Point away. Say "that". Point to you • Negative Say "those". Linking After getting someone to experience good feelings and emotions. gesture. o o • MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures Move. Say "these". • Point Or Touch On Positive —* o o o • LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES o Pace And Lead Pacing and Leading allows you "be " in the conversation for a while and gain rapport and information. to create a compelling will on the part of the listener follow you and listen to you. point or gesture away. Those • Positive statement. link them to you so that YOU become something and someone that they feel good about • Now with me • In me • In myself • with this • these • this belief • these feelings Easy-Linking • Use "This" and "These" when referring to anything positive. Easy Linking Expanded Pointing With This. • Whenever you say something positive. That.

Burying Items is a way to mention an outrageous or very direct option for "testing" purposes. etc.another option o o o Page 125 . or giving an example. you can get away with an outrageous or very direct option by burying that option in the middle of a List. "List" several things or examples which support your point. • Request X because (of) Y. the More Z. "List" several things briefly in order. and c When giving examples or options to someone. statement. but mention the one which YOU want to put the most emphasis on.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Show agreement. statement. Listing • General Listing General Listing is a way to quickly provide several reason. acknowledgement. B. The more Y. understanding. the more Y. or giving an example. LAST • Burying Items Listing . • Topics and Subjects • Mindset or Frame of Mind • Current Reality • As (while) you are "X" (Pace) Where "X" is something that is true in their current reality (perceptions. B. • As you X. etc. a way that you want. etc. More And More If you want to lead someone through a series of steps (actions. • a. thoughts. keep the discussion focused on a topic that serves your purposes. Then start to move or shift things in a different way. or thoughts) use "More and More " as a way to string them together (and increase your chances of that happening • The more X. the More Y. or to maybe see if you can get someone to agree to it! • a.Bad • One option .) • Then you will "Y" Where "Y" is something you want them to experience (Lead) o Give Them A Reason Giving a reason will make people more apt to do things for you and agree with you. The More Z. experiences. the More Y. and/or interest. and C When making a point. which support your point • A. b. in order to provide more power to what you are saying • At The End Listing at The End is a way to provide several options (which may differ) but to emphasize the option that YOU want. and C When making a point. and incorporate the language tools • This thing vs that thing • How two things are similar • How two things are different • Good . Compare And Contrast Use this technique to keep the conversation going.

• Using Their Own Processes • Find or assume what someone wants • Create an opportunity for them to get it or demonstrate they have it • Make that "demonstration" work in your favor. can (use smart... • Maybe you can . to be a way for them to get what they want. • You might see .. feelings. • Find a way to map what YOU want. • Take any subject..... and beliefs... idea. • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control Particular Wants What does she want to have. —* • • • Page 126 .. • You may ... Mini-Challenges • You seem. or want to be perceived as having? • Talk to them and find out. Parts Of A Person Use Parts of a Person as a way to find. • You might. • Link good thoughts. feelings and emotions. or show it.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o Parts • • Parts Of A Subject Discussing many of the parts of a subject keeps the conversation going. • Are you able to . even when the other person claims or demonstrates that such parts are NOT there • For every part of a person that will work against you. assume there is a part that will work WITH you.. discuss.. or fun.\ Universal Wants You can assume that most people want these. do it. • etc. • The smart people I know.. o Opportunities And Challenges • Find out what someone wants.. • Use the language tools in the discussion. or point in a discussion. • If you are able to ... • I wonder if you can . • You seem like .. • Break it down into its component parts and discuss them. etc). and evoke favorable states. • Challenge them to demonstrate it.. allowing you time to gather information and link yourself to good thoughts.. feelings and emotions to yourself. • If you can .. or adventurous... • Challenge them to do that. • You seem as if.

• Introduce topics that are fun. steer the conversation towards directions that engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way o o Page 127 .. and see how doing Y would demonstrate it?> • Does she have what it takes to get X. Creating Them -..-and do Y to get it? • Can she do Y and make it happen? • Can she see that Y will get her what she wants? • Can she trust herself enough to do Y? o • Ambiguities — CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT o General . • Topic Turning Point The process of moving from one topic to one of 6-8 relevant topics • In general. • Repeat. listen and be IN the conversation! • Conversational Dynamics Topics flow from one to the next. interesting things. Advanced Conversational Management To direct the conversation into even BETTER areas. General Conversational Management To steer the conversation in a good direction.. she may have to do Y to prove that. Consider the wants and needs that a person may have ."Where can I go that is fun.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • Opportunities. positive and interesting. positive.. by doing Y? • Does she want you to THINK she has X. fun. and interesting?" " Move the conversation in that direction. • Can she see an opportunity to have "X". then . interesting things • Keep thinking . •• Show interest when someone discusses positive.. fun. • Don't engage in conversations when it's NOT about positive.. bring up positive.. fun.. • Navigation Don't think of an exact plan. Are they ready to take advantage of that (this) opportunity? • Does she really want X and see how Y can get that? • Does she really have X.. • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control " • Excitement Challenges Challenge them to get what they want. interesting things. think of general navigation • She Must Be Engaged In The Conversation! You need her to talk. or show what they have.

keep it there. stay there for a while. More Advanced Conversational Management To further direct the conversation into even BETTER areas. • Keep thinking . back up a few steps. seductive things?" " Move the conversation in that direction. use the language tools. o If you get to a good subject or topic. seductive tilings? • The entire time: o If you hit a "dead end". • When on good topics. and while there. fascinating. Conversational Fractionation • Using Conversational Fractionation • Start • Move • Back Up • Repeat • Dead Ends Come Back To Life! • Just back up and start over! Conversational Overview and Review • General Flow • Start on just about ANY subject. by there very nature.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • o Keep thinking . and get the effect. use the language tools as much as possible! • What If The Outcome Is Not What You Expected? • Move on! o o • TOPICS o Topics Of Enthusiasm and Passion Few things are more compelling in a person than for them to be passionate about something (hopefully many things) in life. fascinating. positive. steer the conversation towards romantic. • Repeat. bring up images and thoughts that may work for you. and interesting? • Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? • Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic.Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Move the conversation in that direction. fascinating. Repeat. Get the conversation there. use as many of the language tools as you can. and seductive things. Seduction Oriented Topics SOTs are topics that. • Connections • Going for it • Making good decisions Page 128 o . • Where can I go that is fun."Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic.

asking. clarifying.SOTXs For each SOT. • Manage . Pattern Riffing In Real-Time • Use the Conversational Management techniques to get to good subjects • Look at the interesting topic that she and you are discussing o what is happening o what you know o what she is reacting to o and discuss things which are appropriate..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • • • • • o Surrendering to feelings Getting excited Feeling excited Trusting your judgment Taking chances Indulgence Maturity Good decisions Expanded Seduction Oriented Topics . there are easily 6-8 variations on that SOT that you can talk about. Present a Call to action. o Wanting to take action or seize an opportunity • Use the language tools.Look out for SOTXs • Direct 0 Move towards SOTs. o Canned Patterns . Page 129 o . Link and associate these feelings to you. The Complete Conversational Model See Appendix 2 o o • PATTERNS o Pattern • • • • Formula While talking to a woman. Conversational Model With SOTXs.. o Talk about these things or listen to you talk about these things o get her to think about these things o get her to feel these things o get her to link them to you. • Get her to. and • Look for: o Positive emotions and feeling o Positive sensations (as in physical ones) o Exciting feelings. Amplify these feelings and states by talking. Those are STOXs. get her to "experience" good feelings and states. • Direct .Great as EXAMPLES • Learn and know some of them they may be useful.Use the conversational Management Techniques.

interesting.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • Use some "act now" languaging. • Use the language tools so that YOU become associated with those things Page 130 . exciting. o The Best Pattern Is This: • Get her to talk and think about positive. and sensual things.

That. Those) MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures o Linking Gestures (Towards And Away) o Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This.At the End • Burying Items o More And More o Compare And Contrast o Parts " Parts of a Subject • Parts of a Person o Opportunities And Challenges • Mini Challenges " Opportunities And Challenges o Ambiguities • • • Page 131 ..) o Easy Anchoring ..Point Or Touch On Positive And Negative LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES o Pace And Lead • Topics and Subjects • Mindset of Frame • Current Reality o Give Them A Reason o Listing " General .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course APPENDIX II Speaking and Language Tools "Cheat Sheet" • SPEAKING POINTERS o Voice Tone And Tonality o Pacing And Pausing o Energy And Enthusiasm LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS o Adjectives And Adverbs o Trance Words o Weasel Phrases o Embedded Commands o Linking o Easy-Linking (This. These. That.

Positive. Fascinating. Fun. Seductive SOTXs SOTs The Complete Conversational Management Model Page 133 . Romantic.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course APPENDIX III The Complete Conversational Management Model The Complete Conversational Management Model General Mgt. Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way More Advanced Mgt. and Interesting Advanced Mgt.

..Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way ... Especially when at or near SOTXs and SOTs.Romantic. seductive things Direct the Conversation Pay attention when Good Subjects come up (SOTXs) Listen for anything a step or two away from an SOT Move towards SOTs Stay there as long as you can Use The Language Tools! As much as possible. fascinating. Steer towards . Steer towards .Fun. start over! Page 134 .. positive..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course The Complete Conversational Management Model (continued) Start a Conversation Manage the Conversation Move the Conversation in a Good Direction Steer towards . Fractionate If you take a wrong turn. back up! If you move back to a general topic. interesting .

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