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Dave Riker's

Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course

A structured training program that teaches the language and conversational skills of Speed Seduction .

Workbook
Speed Seduction is a registered trademark of Ross Jeffries, used with permission.

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Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course

Table of Contents
Page No. Title Page Legal Notices Table of Contents Product Content Product Protection and User Consent Formatting and Conventions Acknowledgements Forward Registration Important Note About Exercises and Assignments 1.0 INTRODUCTION AND GETTING STARTED i ii iii vi vi vii ix x xii xii 1 D1-T1 Disk and Track No.*

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Overview
Why Is This Course Needed? What We Will Handle, and How Investing In Yourself, Or Not Can We Change The Way You Speak? Manipulation and Ethics Concerns SPEAKING AND LANGUAGE

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Speaking Pointers 7 The "Cool" Factor 7 Voice Tone and Tonality 7 Pacing and Pausing 9 Energy and Enthusiasm 10 Language Tools and Details 12 Adjectives and Adverbs 12 Trance Words 13 Weasel Phrases 15 Embedded Commands 17 Linking 19 Easy-Linking (This, That, These, Those) 21 More Tools 23 Pointing and Gestures 24 Linking Gestures (Towards and Away) 25 Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This, That, These, Those ...) 26 Easy Anchoring - Point Or Touch, On Positive 27 Review 29 LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES Pace and Lead General Pace and Lead Techniques 31 31 32

* Disk and Track Numbers References to the CDs and the tracks on them are shown in a format such as "D2-T4", which in this example refers to Disk 2, Track 4.

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Table of Contents (continued)
Page No. 3.1.2 3.1.3 3.1.4 3.2 3.3 3.3.1 3.3.2 3.3.3 3.3.4 3.3.5 3.4 3.5 3.6 3.6.1 3.6.2 3.7 3.7.1 3.7.2 3.7.3 3.7.4 3.8 3.9 4.0 4.1 4.1.1 4.1.2 4.1.3 4.1.4 4.2 4.2.1 4.2.2 4.2.3 4.3 4.3.1 4.3.2 4.3.3 4.3.4 4.3.5 4.4 4.4.1 4.4.2 4.4.3 4.4.4 4.4.5 4.5 4.5.1 4.5.2 Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects Pace and Lead-Mindset Or Frame Of Mind Pace and Lead - Current Reality Give Them a Reason Listing General Listing Listing - At The End Listing - Burying Items Listing, Pauses, and Emphasis.. Listing Review More and More Compare and Contrast Parts Parts of a Subject Parts of a Person Opportunities and Challenges Using Their Own Processes What Do People Want? Mini-Challenges Opportunities and Challenges Ambiguities Summary CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT Challenges Detailed and Specific Plans Are Just Not Workable Navigation Example Navigational Strategies Are Needed She Must Be Engaged In The Conversation! How Conversations Happen Conversational Dynamics Conversational Model Topic Turning Point General Conversational Management Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Want How To Steer Conversations, Moment To Moment The Model With Strategy and Tactics In Place Exercises and Assignments Summary Advanced Conversational Management Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Really Want Steering Conversations Moment To Moment The Model With Advanced Strategy and Tactics In Place Exercises and Assignments Summary More Advanced Conversational Management More About Getting The Conversation To Go Steering Conversations Using More Advanced 33 35 38 39 41 41 43 45 48 48 48 51 54 54 58 61 62 62 63 64 69 69 71 71 71 71 72 72 72 72 73 77 79 79 81 82 83 86 86 86 88 88 91 93 93 93 94 Disk a n d Track N o . * D5-T12 D5-T20 D5-T29 D5-T32 D6-T1 D6-T4 D6-T15 D6-T24 D6-T36 D6-T37 D6-T38 D6-T54 D7-T1 D7-T4 D7-T15 D7-T34 D7-T36 D7-T38 D7-T40 D7-T43 D7-T64 D7-T66 D8-T1 D8-T1 D8-T3 D8-T4 D8-T5 D8-T10 D8-T12 D8-T13 D8-T14 D8-T15 D8-T16 D8-T16 D8-T19 D8-T23 D8-T25 D8-T32 D8-T33 D8-T33 D8-T35 D8-T38 D8-T39 D8-T46 D8-T47 D8-T47 D8-T49

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6.6. APPENDICES I II III Course "Cheat Sheet" Speaking and Language Tools "Cheat Sheet" The Complete Conversational Management Model 123 131 133 Page v . EXAMPLES.3 4.3 4.7.5 8. and Follow The Course Be Willing and Prepared To Put Energy Into Congratulations! Well Done! EXAMPLES.5.6.5 6.4 5. ...6.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Table of Contents (continued) Page No. .2 4.4 7. . .7.2 4.1 4. EXAMPLES v i e w .0 The Model With More Advanced Strategy and Tactics In Place.3 5.7. 4.SOTXs Conversational Model With SOTXs The Complete Conversational Model PATTERNS Pattern O v e r Pattern Formula Canned Patterns Pattern Riffing In Real-Time REVIEW AND SUMMARY Review Summary Listen.0 5..0 7..2 7.1 6.1 7. Do The Exercises.4 7.4 4. Conversational Fractionation The 1-Shot Beeline Fallacy How Fractionation Works Using Conversational Fractionation Dead Ends Come Back To Life! Conversational Overview and Review Conversational Management Approach What If The Outcome Is Not What You Expected? Summary TOPICS Topics Of Enthusiasm and Passion Seduction Oriented Topics Expanded Seduction Oriented Topics .2 6. 94 96 96 97 97 98 99 99 99 99 101 101 102 104 109 111 115 115 115 116 116 119 119 119 119 119 119 121 Disk a n d Track N o .3 6.3 7.6 4. .1 5. * D8-T52 D9-T1 D9-T2 D9-T3 D9-T5 D9-T6 D9-T7 D9-T8 D9-T9 D9-T10 D9-T11 D9-T14 D9-T15 D9-T24 D9-T32 D9-T33 D10-T1 D10-T1 D10-T7 D10-T12 D10-T13 D10-T18 D10-T18 D10-T26 D10-T27 D10-T28 D10-T29 D11 .2 5.7 4.3 5.1 4.0 6.

There are certain conventions used in the formatting of the workbook. Not every track number is listed. and Assignments are all shown using this typeface (Arial. The graphics in the latter sections are significant in that they are an essential part of the understanding and leaning.. Italicized Text . It is also used for subject headings so that these stand out and apart from the normal text. However these conventions are guidelines. Boldface Text . i. Graphics are used in the workbook as well. graphic titles. Italics are also used to point the reader towards specific content of the audio CDs. or major points in the workbook. Listen to the audio where an example is presented. Samples of the formatting and conventions used: Typefaces . Since the work book is an "outline" and not a transcript. and conventions have been developed and are used throughout this transcript/workbook.Boldface Text is used to emphasize certain text or passages.At times. these are in most cases presented as a way to augment the content of the audio presentation.e. This shows (for example) the Disk (3) and the Track number (5) that corresponds to that part of the workbook contents. a "serif typeface). a "sans-serif typeface). Usually the graphic is shown on the page immediately following where that graphic is first mentioned in the text. Text within graphics. This shows information that could be considered part of an overall "outline" of what the audio presentation contains. Exercises. Although there are paragraphs of explanatory text. Lists . Page vii . . or clarity. styles. and to make it easier to reference those items at a later time.Italicized Text is used for emphasis in many cases where boldface text may by nearby. A majority of the workbook is presented in an "outline" form..that is simply to show a list of related items. and their use is key to many students' understanding of the concepts presented. The written text is NOT a transcript. The audio is NOT an exact duplicate of the text shown in the workbook. and the italics are simply used as a way to show a different manner of emphasis. If the graphic cannot fit there (due to page breaks) then the graphic is placed on the next available page. graphic captions. D3-T5 CD Track References . Therefore most of the track references are shown at the start of major sections. there may be instances when the conventions are not used for the sake of emphasis. and the Formulas.As shown to the right Towards the right margin of section titles and headings.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Formatting and Conventions The following formatting. items are presented in a list-like fashion such as this: • Item 1 • Item 2 • Item 3 • Etc. The relationship between these two can be best described by considering the workbook text to be (for the most part) an "outline" of what is presented in the audio. CD Location References are shown using terms such as "D3-T5" in the text.A majority of the workbook content is shown in this typeface (Times New Roman. there is not an exact place in the book that correlates to the start of each and every track on the audio CDs.

Candidate Topics Figure XYZ-1: Graphic Title Sub-paragraph . fact. Although the difference between Exercises and Assignments is maintained through most of the workbook. but that is a necessity due to the complexity of the book. Although this is not optimal. Assignments usually requier the reader to go out and interact with other person(s) in order to perform them correctly. Exercises are a series of instructions that call upon the reader to do or perform certain actions.Text boxes are used for very specific purposes in the workbook. it is required in order for the "flow" of the book content to remain consistent. This may require that a graphic be placed on the next page after where it is first mentioned (instead of being directly below where the graphic is first mentioned in the text). Each Formula is presented in its own "text box" as shown here. and the "A" indicates the number of the graphic within a section itself (i. Page Breaks . -2. or technique. and Assignments are shown inside boxes such as this. Page viii .e. . This is shown below. Similarly. Assignments also call for action on the part of the reader. For example. an Exercise may require interaction with other people. The number is in the format of "XYZ-A" where "XYZ" denotes the number of the section where the graphic is placed.The workbook is laid out to minimize the amount of blank space where reasonably possible. or maybe and Assignment can be done alone by the student. then that text is shown immediately below the graphic using an indented paragraph such as this. Text Boxes .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Each graphic has a number and a title of some type. there are instances where the definitions may be clouded to some degree. -3) to account for multiple graphics in one section of text. Most exercises can be done alone. Exercises. A Formula is a way to present a concise explanation of some item. there are cases where text boxes may actually "break" across two pages. Formula. This also may result in some page breaks being in places which are not optimal.1 .If a graphic has text that helps to further explain that graphic.

. the creator of Speed Seduction . The main reason is that I do not wish to release any product until I believe that I am able to provide the level of quality. and who has also contributed greatly to helping men change their minds about themselves. To the many experts out there who have augmented the SS teachings by showing me other aspects of the mind. and those who have entrusted me to teach you and to guide you. and students (we are each all of these and more) in the TAGR Group. colleagues. To all of you. Special thanks to my friends. Thank you. those who have read what I have written. and to all of the Students out there who I have met at Speed Seduction® seminars. MC.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Acknowledgements The first and foremost acknowledgement goes out to Ross Jeffries himself. To those in the original SD Lair group. JL. associates. Dave Riker Page ix . who was the business genius that brought Speed Seduction® to the masses through seminars and products. who helped me by allowing me to help them.. / must apologize to some degree for the time it has taken to finish this product. Working with these clients was especially instrumental in formulating and perfecting the concepts and teaching methods used in this product. SP. To my coaching clients. Ross's developments have lead not only to helping many men with this part of their lives. mentors. To Dr. confidants. and have opened the door for me to find many ways of self-improvement and understanding. and to help you in finding the Women or Woman of Your Dreams.insight and teaching that I think is possible. most notably Hypnotica. I may miss a few sales because of such a delay. opening the door for many into the world of self improvement. EVS. and this wait may have annoyed a few people. and what is possible in their lives. teachers. and for the assistance they provided with this product. Yates Canipe. who have placed their trust in me and allowed me the experience of showing them new and wonderful possibilities for what their lives may have to offer. . but I sincerely hope that the results will prove to have made the wait worthwhile. and MD. DM. SM. but have also shown many the way to a new way of living.

that they will want to spend time with as well. for some reason seem to be in short supply. and introducing themselves. charming men. I know of many women who are always distraught that they seem to not be able to meet good men. that I create products such as this. the idea of simply communicating with and sharing experiences with the other half of the human population. who was simply deprived of an means to "learn about" how to meet and talk with women. most women will be far better off and have much better chances with the kind of men. take action. or with that special woman of which they have always dreamed. This is so sad. And. the best men. and for those women. there are a lot of great men out there who would like to meet interesting women. or the kind of man. And it's a shame for these women to be wanting for their company. and in many cases the efforts of men to solve this problem on their own have been met by smallminded criticism and slander. One of the biggest tragedies of life is that there are things. It's for these men. The women of the world will be better off in their own way. and sharing experiences with them. I think that many men. intelligent. information. or don't know how to present themselves in the best way. teachings. As if the interesting. At least then he will be in a position of choice. And I am here to help correct it. and showing themselves in the best and most honest light. whether this time has any sort of romantic or seductive component or not. He will be able to decide for himself which he feels is the best option for him. and grow. Having many interesting men available. Page x . Whether that be as friends or acquaintances. are the ones that really DO look at this area of their lives. From that position. she should decide to be with whom she wants to be with by having opportunities. and decide to move forward. Sadly this is most apparent when it comes to men. Such men. so that they really may share wonderful experiences of ALL types with women. Whether a man decides to use this information as way to embark upon a period of his life which involves casual romantic interludes. and options. learn. other people. Good. should somehow not improve himself. to make an informed choice. spending time with them. there are a lot of wonderful women out there who would love to meet interesting men. Many men through no fault of their own have grown up to be adults and have had little instruction or assistance in a very important area of their lives. A woman should never "settle". There are many such men out there. helps to provide these women with an even better choice. or whether a man uses this information as a means to improve his chances of finding one special woman. interesting. So. is up to him. as well. good-natured and well-intentioned man. and set forth upon a path to improve this area of his life. They are the ones that really don't know how to introduce themselves.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Forward One of the most wonderful things about life is the idea of connecting with others. women. (and more importantly a LACK of information in some cases) that can prevent such connections and moments from happening. are NOT in short supply. They just have not been taught such things. or "compromise". They don't know how to keep a woman's interest. I think that is not correct. having and sharing experiences with. some of the most wonderful moments of life are brought about by people. in fact.

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Some guys don't need this. you can change the way you speak as well. along with spaces for written responses where necessary.1 INTRODUCTION AND GETTING STARTED OVERVIEW Dl-Tl Welcome and Thanks. You will have this way of speaking as a PART of who you are and what you can do! Guys need to be trained. Instructions for each are provided. If you are her "type" you don't need this. This program is based upon experience with countless students. to use these language skills naturally as just a part of the way they speak. and get the full benefit of everything this course has to offer. So even this "intro" section is starting to work for you. You are not going to sound like this or talk like this all of the time! Just in the way that you shift and change how you speak now in different situations. Conversational Skills The ability to manage conversations is needed as well. then on some level. consciously and subconsciously. some people do this naturally. but this will help you if you are not. The purpose of this workbook is to: • • • Provide an outline of the material covered in the audio program. This workbook is meant to studied along with a series of audio lectures that are recorded on CDs. 1. Listen to it. These techniques all need to sound and be "natural" to actually be effective. there is a need. you will do so in the future and use these techniques as well. Page 1 . Provide additional explanation of some points that are covered in the audio program. seeing what is needed. We will be teaching you the detailed language skills that will really help you. pay attention. and "reprogrammed" in a way. We will teach you ways to easily manage conversations so that they go in interesting directions. and what works in the field. Present a series of exercises and assignments. Welcome to Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course.0 1. Language Skills What works? What makes the successful guys able to use these technologies? Partly it's the ability to actually "talk" in this manner. and on you as well.2 WHY IS THIS COURSE NEEDED? D1-T10 If you are here. You are already on your way! This course works on many levels. If you follow along and do the exercises.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 1.

but that's your left brain talking! We are reprogramming many years of your experience. how it is learned. must react to a steady flow of new information without interruption.3 Major • • • • • • • • WHAT WE WILL HANDLE. but it's really YOU talking! Guys are too focused on "how can I use this" when in a conversation. You need to integrate skills to the degree that they ARE a part of who you ARE. some of the ways that you speak now will be reprogrammed so that speaking in a new way will be natural. AND HOW Topics Speaking Pointers Language Tools and Details Conversational Management Conversational Fractionation Topics . Other parts of the language tools you may have to "think" about. that is important. Sure. some things will sound quite familiar. and how people speak. • Exercises to develop understanding and skills • Assignments for you to do in the field. This is a term that will be used throughout this course. and be a part of it. then you are not actually IN the conversation! You need to be engaged in a conversation. responding. interacting. many times! • In fact we have already started! Where Does This Material Come From • From SS Teachings.. Page 2 . In a way.. but if you are "thinking" too much... Not inside your head "thinking" about "how can I use this?"! 1.Seduction Oriented Topics Patterns and Riffing Examples Dl-Tl5 What Methods Are Used • Describe and explain the details of the techniques • Explicit examples of how the details work • Examples throughout and within the discussions • Examples section at the end. • Things may seem to "repeat".Enthusiasm and Passion Topics . for a while at least. so let's define and explain it for you. listen. so we need to approach this in many ways. • Other teachings about language. • Working on several "levels" of you mind at once • Models to arrive at an overall understanding • Left brain and right brain are both addressed • Conscious and subconscious minds are both given what they need for real understanding and retention. respond to input immediately . not a "trick". Real Time "Occurring immediately .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course You have to be PROGRAMMED to do this so you can have a conversation.. Guys need to be able to just "do this" and "talk this way" in REAL-TIME. listening.. talking." Guys need to stop the worrying about "Doing something wrong" It's only "wrong" if you are TRYING to do or be something you are not.

• Get some other written material to work with for this course.4 INVESTING IN YOURSELF. you are doing just that. the more you will get out of it. effort. both audio and written materials. do the exercises over and over. do it! But please. Also maybe get a romance novel or two. and a few women's magazines as well. However. You will need them because you will have assignments that deal with these. and this is much easier if you have an active life where you can have many conversations. • Follow along in the workbook if you can • Do the exercises and assignments! • Listen over and over. making it a part of YOU. to give you a real roadmap to actually learn the material. the emphasis here is training you to do it for yourself. and this journey. • Listen to other products in conjunction with this product. • This may seem complicated but the point is to get you SO familiar with the tools that you become the guy who does this! Some Very Important Points • Find all of your current SS products and inventory them. see what works for you. Page 3 . but in terms of THEM really being willing and ready to change. and being open to what benefits this program can bring. a concept that was brought up earlier. By embarking upon this course. and engagement. The Ways To Study And Use The Product • Listen to the CDs. or revised? Yes. From working with clients and seeing what worked and how they were able to change.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • From personal experiences and how I used the materials. The Mind-Momentum Principle At Work • Get energy. Changing that will take some time. However. many of these people will be those negative types of people that will then dispute the benefits of this program! Why? Because THEY have not invested anything into it! Not just in terms of dollars. do whatever you need to do to listen to this course a LOT. the more you put into it. they aren't really putting themselves INTO it. So. new. and engagement into your effort to really learn and use these materials. Be wary of those people who may want to "borrow" a copy. If you need to make your own copies for use in multiple locations. Other SS products will work well. listening multiple times in any setting also has a lot of benefit. Applying a structured methodology of step-by-step methods. • Having a good social life will help you. • Is there an "optimal way" to use the product. OR NOT D1-T24 Any real change requires you to make an investment in yourself using energy. The best way to listen to this course is while also reviewing the workbook (especially in the conversational management sections). or not? There are various ways. keep those copies to yourself. Is this information. 1. However. there IS some overlap and duplication with other products and systems. • Get that "Mind-Momentum" going to help you change and improve. and who may "try" to listen to the course. If they just "try" it. do the assignments over and over! • Be patient. Many of the assignments will deal with talking to people. • Be prepared to have a place to practice for this course! You will need to be able to speak out loud to do many of the exercises. We are reprogramming years and years of you "speaking" in a certain manner. as assigned or as required. In addition. effort. that YOU just DO.

there is a "right" and "wrong" way to do it! But if you are just TALKING. some structures. etc. Then it's about a "performance. at will Engage in conversation Manage conversations Yes. Also progressive exercises. You keep trying to "remember" things. at every moment! Some people want to try to memorize. paragraphs. but to then USE it in conversation is difficult.5 CAN WE CHANGE THE WAY YOU SPEAK? D1-T26 Is this really possible? This sounds difficult. • • • • • • • • This might be good as a learning TOOL.by hearing others around you speak! You were IMMERSED in language. will not benefit. Immersion is the key. but only indirectly. But that's not how you learned to talk! You learned to talk when you were a child . It makes guys nervous. sentences. consequently. hold you back. Don't let their lack of willingness to improve themselves. kids are taught about language. Those who are not. you heard it. It Is Possible! . Most people want to approach this by learning bits and pieces • • That's good in a way. and you started to form the ability to speak and communicate based upon that! Page 4 . Plus it's not YOU talking. its YOU being YOU! You cannot fail at being YOU! The approach in this course is different. because you will hear it so much! But a LOT of what is being conveyed here is learning by EXAMPLE. You will end up "memorizing" thing to some degree. Can we literally change the way you speak? • • • • • • • How you select words Create phrases Form sentences Pick topics Speak passionately. then its easier. Not as congruent. about grammar. where you learn skills piece by piece. just being YOU. 1. its a memorized "thing". there is no "right" way or "wrong" way. some models. trying to "remember" what to say. because it addresses that analytical part of your mind. Imagine having to "think about" how to talk. It's less effective. And actual assignments. But it's tough to do that. How People Initially Learn How To Speak • • • • Sure in middle school. • • • • • • You will get some details. you heard it a lot.But This Is A Different Type Of Learning.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course People must be engaged in the process to get its benefits." So. where you use the skills in the real world. you heard it in context.

where I am just DOING these things all during the program. which we go over and over. We will have you become familiar with the range of ways of speaking and sounding. or craft. "it's not me" or "I am just using a trick or technique". more natural. more a part of YOU. we will change the way you talk so that it will be easier. trade. With THIS approach HERE. based upon feelings that when using them. Real-World Skills. and be more of WHO YOU ARE. how you communicate. deep ethics issues and blocks many guy's success. it's not about throwing something AT her. • Break it down into small parts.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course This Course Uses Many Techniques To Train You To Have Workable. This causes some real. so that you will have more ability and more flexibility to do what is appropriate MANIPULATION AND ETHICS CONCERNS D1-T32 1. Various Training Methods • • We use a lot of repetitive training methods so that these techniques have a better chance of becoming "automatic". Page 5 . Exercises and Assignments to Teach You the Skills • Skills Training like any sport. and who and what YOU are! Using these skills will be less of an "act".6 Many guys have been uncomfortable with using many of these skills. like when I say "here is an example" Implicit examples. Examples • • Explicit examples.

That "cool" feeling comes from being calm and speaking in a relaxed fashion. 2. We will work on this here in this course. how calm you are. This is good as long as it's not BORING. how interesting you are. 1) Take some of that reading material. Page 7 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. to be cool. even some of the materials from other products. "Cool" comes from being calm and sure of yourself. and says a lot about you. Listen as the examples demonstrate: • Speaking through the nose • Speaking through the mouth • Speaking from the chest Exercises for Speaking Pointers Grab some reading material of some type. there are great products and examples of this elsewhere. If this is a challenge for you. etc. how they make you feel. Why is this important? • Great voice tone conveys comfort. there ARE products that focus JUST on this area and you may want to invest in those. that there is a "fire" beneath the surface. and what people like in general.1. but because it's appropriate to the situation. a sense of being relaxed and calm • It also allows you to express some energy and excitement at different times. how they sound.1 SPEAKING AND LANGUAGE SPEAKING POINTERS The "Cool" Factor D2-T1 D2-T1 Guys want to sound "cool". focusing on generating your voice from your nose. BORING. Examples: One way to think of this is to consider "where" your voice is generated from in your body. not out of nervousness. and this time focus on speaking by generating the sound from within your mouth (or.1. reserved. do this for several minutes. That's what women like. and read it aloud. but giving the impression that there IS more. something you are interested in. The audio section demonstrates these options quite well.2 Voice Tone and Tonality D2-T2 Listen to some examples of different tones of voice.0 2. 2) Read some more of that material out loud. Read several paragraphs. and even goes a bit over-the-top to really help you to understand what is being discussed. Your tone of voice really conveys a lot about who you are. focusing on the back of your throat might make this easier to do). Too many guys "try" to be cool but actually come off as COLD or even worse. That's the "allure". calm. Cool does NOT mean to be boring and to put people to sleep while talking! The coolest people are the ones that are FUN to talk to and fun to be with! You don't have to be cold. but if you really want to work on this even more.1 2.

Relax. Also. Day/Time Who you spoke to Speaking from? How you felt. make a note to yourself as to how you are speaking. Make notes below as to when it happened.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 3) Now read some of the material. with whom. but this time really focus upon generating the sound from deep within your chest. and recall some time in the recent past when you were kind of nervous or fearful. and whether or not you DID it! Day/Time Who you spoke to Situation (Where) Did you DO it? Page 8 . 1) Over the next few days when speaking to anyone. comfortable. Real-world experience will really help you to not just "know" the skills. really make a note to speak lower.in the real world! To get the most benefit from this course. where you were. relaxed-confident). and where you are speaking from (your nose. and really focus on having that voice generated from your chest. mouth. but to actually HAVE the skills. See how relaxed it actually makes you feel and how you really need to BE relaxed to do this! 4) Take a moment. or chest). Make notes below for some of the conversations and see if you can see a correlation between these items. Assignments are where you are given a real task to go out and do . Can you recall how you spoke? Did the way you sound in that situation sound like any of the examples you just did? See the similarity? Assignments for Speaking Pointers These are your first real assignments in the course. and make them a part of who you are. SOUND relaxed. Focus on dropping your voice down from your nose/mouth. it's important that you do what you can to REALLY make a point of doing these assignments. make note of how you felt (nervous. 2) In the next few conversations you have with people.

or don't quite understand the content. or almost a sense of panic. as we discussed in the past section. Focus on reading in a very hurried fashion as if you are very nervous. and then far far too slow. Something you are interested in. Why is • • • this important? Correct pacing and speed of delivery conveys comfort. relaxed.3 Pacing and Pausing D2-T15 Listen to the examples where some various pacing is demonstrated. first very very fast. Read several paragraphs and do this for several minutes.1. deliberate.) Assignments for Pacing and Pausing 1) Over the next few days when speaking to anyone. 1) Take some of that reading material and read it aloud. and this time focus on reading in a quick and hurried fashion.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Strategic Formula for Speaking Pointers Use your best tone of voice (speaking from your chest) to convey a relaxed. comfortable manner. Speaking too quickly can show tension. powerful. but this time read it slowly. make a note to yourself as to how you are speaking in terms of your pacing and pausing. in a manner that makes you sound as if you are very confused. 2) Read some more of that material out loud. and shows that the speaker is relaxed. but this time read it in a slow. and charismatic presence. (Maybe even be aware of where your voice is coming from. but go ahead and convey excitement in your voice! 3) Now read some of the material. Too fast? Too slow? Hurried-nervous? Hurried-excited? Slow-confused? Page 9 . Being able to vary your pacing and pausing can help a lot to convey a sense of intrigue and create interest. 4) Now read some of the material. even some of the materials from other products. 2. There are many variations: Listen as these are demonstrated • Hurried showing nervousness • Hurried showing excitement • Slow as in hesitant and/or confused • Slow in a way that is deliberate and relaxed Exercises for Pacing and Pausing Grab some reading material of some type.

2. When someone else is being boring. start to focus on changing your pacing and pausing. dead-end conversations. where. YOU can show an appropriate amount of energy and enthusiasm. then you can show more enthusiasm. YOU act boring.. enthusiasm. If they do or say something that is interesting to YOU. Day/Time Who you spoke to What type of pacing and pausing? 2) For the next few days. By doing this. you get stuck in fewer boring. • If someone else is being interesting.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Slow-relaxed? You don't have to change it yet. energy. Page 10 . Make note of when. and if you DID it! Day/Time Who you spoke to Situation (Where) Did you DO it? Strategic Formula for Pacing and Pausing Use variations in pace. to convey a sense of drama and intrigue in what you are saying in a way that "captivates" people and makes them want to listen to you. • This also allows YOU to convey how interesting someone ELSE is as well. and excitement when appropriate.1. just make a note of this after-the-fact and write that down below. who.4 Energy and Enthusiasm D2-T26 Listen to some examples of how this can sound . It's good to have the ability and range to display passion. or bored. to convey a more relaxed and deliberate manner. Who cares? Why does this matter? • Most guys are just TOO BORING.. and well-placed pauses..

your work. and read that aloud in a boring. taped lectures.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course The audio section demonstrates more details about sounding boring/bored and also sounding as if you have energy and enthusiasm. Page 11 . technical presentations. go ahead and SHOW your enthusiasm! Be energetic in how you speak. BE BORING and show no enthusiasm at all. monotone. Read it OUT LOUD in an exciting. Note how even if the material is something you do NOT care about. and BE BORING. Read it OUT LOUD in a boring. something you are interested in. Exercises for Energy and Enthusiasm Grab some reading material of some type. Really pay attention to how they speak. and how much (or little) energy is conveyed. 4) Get some written material that really DOES interest you. and how much (or little) energy is conveyed. 1) Watch and listen to some speakers talk about a boring. Assignments for Energy and Enthusiasm 1) Over the next few days. Again. animated.. monotone voice. Strategic Formula for Energy and Enthusiasm Using energy and enthusiasm when speaking so that people can become energized and enthusiastic about listening to and being with you. their tone.. 2) For the next few conversations you have with people where you ARE interested in the subject. whenever someone is talking about something boring. their tone. dry topic. energetic voice. Think as if YOU are convincing a group of people how great this is! Maybe your Dream Job of a lifetime is dependant upon YOU speaking well and showing how passionate YOU are about this! Do that for a good 10-15 minutes. that a good speaker can really grab your attention with their energy and enthusiasm. maybe sports.. women. and read THAT aloud in a way that DOES show energy and enthusiasm! Make that sound as convincing as #4 above. 5) Take that written material that really does interest you. do that for 10-15 minutes. go ahead. and how your respond. 2) Watch and listen to some speakers who use a lot of energy and enthusiasm when they are talking! Really pay attention to how they speak. bland. your car. how you listen. do that for 10-15 minutes. When you respond or talk back.. and that are excited about. 6) Take that earlier written material about the subject that you are NOT interested in and that really bores you. their pace. their pace. bland voice with no energy or enthusiasm. Again. which bores you. 3) Get some written material that you have NO interest in. Watch on either TV. other products. Do this for a good 10-15 minutes. etc. even some of the materials from . make sure it is something that YOU are passionate about. whatever it is.

or they are too factual and leftbrained. you should be able to do this for at least 3-5 minutes each. Do this for each of the conversations listed above. If you really like this subject. Day. feelings.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2.2 LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS D2-T39 These are the Bit And Pieces • These are the sort of things that can be powerful. sports. Note whom you were talking to. and uninteresting. Most Adjectives and Adverbs are qualitative. • Their use must be automatic. talk about it in a descriptive way. 4) Think of three recent conversations you had when you talked to someone about something that you REALLY liked. (Maybe highlight them in some manner. Examples • Car reviews • Movie Reviews • This course! Exercises for Adjectives and Adverbs 1) Find some written material that deals with something where people are speaking passionately about some subject. movies. Page 12 . talk about each thing or subject again. out loud. and more ways of talking about processes. 2) Read it. Cars. nouns and verbs. Most guys are too dry in their speech.. Adjectives will describe THINGS (nouns). boring. and stress the adjectives and adverbs in it.) 3) Read that text OUT LOUD. whatever. but must be done over and over. These words modify or in some way describe. we are working to appeal to the emotions. Who you spoke to Subject 5) Now. Re-live it.2. and make note of the adjectives and adverbs in it. Remember. because to have to "think about" using them is almost impossible! • You need to be TRAINED TO USE THEM automatically. use more Adjectives and Adverbs. while Adverbs will describe ACTIONS (verbs). and sensations. but this time. Most men could be helped by having more descriptive speech. Maybe say those adjectives or adverbs and put more energy into those words and emphasize them in some manner. they are not things that can be measured or specified. 2. It's good if YOU are also interested in it. They sound cold. not the logical side of a person.. and the subject you were talking about. add more descriptive terms to it.1 Adjectives and Adverbs D2-T40 Listen to an example where many of these are used in descriptive language.

Trance • • • • • Word List Instantaneously Suddenly Find Yourself Convince Yourself Suppose Page 13 . their emotional side.2 Trance Words D3-T1 Listen to an example where many of these are used. Start with just a few of them. or objective manner. b. and with whom you spoke.2. so that their feelings. and then maybe add some more as time goes on. Trance words are words that "call upon" the subconscious mind in order for them to be processed and understood. that you really enjoy. and c above). emotions. make sure to use some of those adjectives and adverbs in your descriptions. is listening and more engaged in the conversation. 3) Practice out loud how you would have said those things in each of the three conversations. and processes awaken. Write down what the subject was. Day Who you spoke to Subject 2) Write down a few adjectives and adverbs that you could have used in each discussion (refer to a. Act like you are really having the conversation again.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Assignments for Adjectives and Adverbs 1) Make note of the next 3 times you are having a conversation which deals with something that YOU are really into. that you are passionate about. 4) The next several times any of those subjects come up in conversation. Strategic Formula for Adjectives and Adverbs Use more adjectives and adverbs in your speech to appeal to and excite the emotional side of the listener. Trance words help to "open the person up" so that their subconscious. factual. They are not "analyzed" in a conscious. 2. "paint a picture" with your words. Be descriptive.

even something concrete like your job. Highlight or circle the Trance Words in a few sections. See how many you can find and notice how they are used in context. Subject b. 5) Take the written text from an SS product (maybe from #3 above) and read it out loud. but also see if you can add some to the list.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • Imagine Mysterious (-ly) Wonder (-ous) (-ously) Think of any subject. Boring Subject Page 14 . 3) Get out your written SS materials and look for Trance Words (maybe even use THIS course here). and see if you can pick these out. placing an emphasis on the Trance Words when you see them. something that you think is dull. 7) Pick a subject that bores you. talk about it. Look at the Trance Word List above. talk OUT LOUD about that subject and see how many times you can use those Trance Words! Subject a. Looking at the list of Trance Words above. Doesn't that make it sound kind of "mysterious"? Maybe more exciting? Maybe you can take some normal. or school. and make it more interesting? Well. sportscasters. Write them down below. 4) Get your SS audio materials and listen for Trance Words (maybe even THIS course here). See how many you can notice. like advertisements. political speakers. almost boring or mundane thing. Trance Word List 2) Watch or listen to some material where people are speaking passionately about something. Maybe play one tape or CD. With that list of Trance Words (above) in hand. see and hear if you can pick out when the speaker is using Trance Words. Think for a moment about using those trance words to describe that subject. or religious speakers. that's the point! Exercises for Trance Words 1) Make a full list of Trance Words. Now speak OUT LOUD about that subject. You can copy the ones you saw listed earlier. 6) Pick two subjects in which you are interested. and see how many of those Trance Words you can use. work. Maybe refer to some of your other SS products and see how many more you can find.

. 2. • • • • • Have you ever . As you ..3 Weasel Phrases D3-T14 Listen to an example where many of these are used. and more fascinating? Assignments for Trance Words 1) Pick two subjects in which you are interested. because it may be a bit too forward? Well. Practice working with those subjects out loud some more and see if you can get even more comfortable using Trance Words when talking about those subjects.. How do you talk about something without REALLY talking about it? How do you bring something up that may be a bit different. doesn't that make it-sound more "exciting".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Even though that may seem a bit strange... Page 15 . to get from one subject to another. and using more and more as time goes on. If you were to . If I were to . Subject b. Strategic Formula for Trance Words Using Trance Words will help to get the subconscious mind of the listener to be more of a part of your conversation. These also work as transitional phrases. maybe even a bit odd? Maybe even a different topic or change of subject? Or maybe something that you were worried about bringing up.. that's what Weasel Phrases are for! Weasel Phrase List (see if you can add to the list by listening to the audio).. What's it like when . 2) Integrate a few more of these words into your every-day description of those subjects. Just do whatever you can to start using some of them at first.. Subject a.2. make a point to use at least one of the Trance Words in the conversation.. The next time you are speaking with anyone about those subjects (in the real world guys!). more interesting. Use them when talking to different people..

Assignments for Weasel Phrases 1) Look at the list of Weasel Phrases that you wrote earlier. Use different Phrases. and then use one of the Weasel Phrases and the bring up another "aspect". 3) Take the written SS materials you had earlier. 5) Did that sound weird? Strange? Ok . make note of the weasel phrases. etc. see if you can use some or all of your favorite weasel phrases when talking about it. Just read the SS material out loud.. getting into it. sensing it. that it makes more sense. For example. Maybe pausing for a moment before one. Try it again. saying one slowly or quickly. that seem as if they fit best into your way of speaking about subjects that you may like. Take a moment and try to emphasize them in a way. and see if you can string things together so that they sound better. The next several times that you talk about that subject with anyone. It will get easier. Do this until you use all 4-5 of the attributes that you listed.. but selecting different Phrases to link the aspects together. the subject might be "going to a ball game" (pick your own. (Weasel Phrases tend to provide ways to connect sentences and paragraphs that talk about how something is felt and experienced. don't use that one!) Now talk about one of these 4-5 aspects for 1-2 sentences.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Exercises for Weasel Phrases 1) Get some of your written SS materials and look for some Weasel Phrases in the text. 2) Note the subject that you used earlier for doing some exercises with Weasel Phrases (exercise 4 above). Pick 3 of them that seem the most natural to you. and read some of this material out loud. See if you can pick these out. Subject Page 16 . 4) Pick a subject in which you are interested. and do so with an awareness on some level that you are saying and using weasel phrases when they are in the text. 2) Get your SS audio materials and listen for some Weasel Phrases. after another. In a moment. Maybe play one tape or CD. etc. Talk about THAT one for a few sentences. we want you to talk about how it FEELS. the experience of it. doing it. then use another Weasel Phrase.) Pick 4-5 different aspects of this "experience" that you will talk about. This is necessary to have the kind of words and subjects that lend themselves to Weasel Phrases. While doing it.

. make note of the embedded commands. See if you can pick out embedded commands while listening. allowing you to say more (and maybe more provocative things) about a subject. excited by something. These are small snippets of words and phrases which. or experience while they are thinking about that subject. Make a point to "lean on it" a bit. These are not to be sexual or suggestive. a place you have traveled. maybe pausing for a moment before one. Again not "you like that color". your job. 4) Pick a topic that YOU are very interested in. • Repetition . etc. Two key aspects of the use of Embedded Commands are often overlooked. or feel a certain way. maybe a car. and read some of this material out loud. Write down a list of embedded commands. lets say you were selling something to someone. • Context . after another. While doing it.2. issue a "command" or statement that instructs someone do something. and to "soften" the way in which something is said. once. but just general things (feelings or states).just general things that would cause a person to be interested in something. or "you want this" (car). "see how fascinated" . your car. think of it like this. Like "feel excited".It's not just about using one. and where the person's emotions or feelings are somehow active (This "context" issue is discussed later in the product in great detail in Conversational Management sections. To make it easy. Write down things that would make someone interested. and incorporate Weasel Phrases into the next several discussions you have about that subject as well. things you would like a listener to think about.4 Embedded Commands D3-T25 Listen to an example where many of these are used. feelings. "get into it". Maybe play one tape or CD. saying one slowly. Take a moment and try to emphasize them in some way. Think of general statements. etc. Pick something that excites you! Maybe the subject is sports.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Select another subject that really interests you. on some level.It's very important that the command be brought up in the context of a conversation that is interesting. its about multiple usage (bombardment)! Exercises for Embedded Commands 1) Get our your written SS materials (written) and look for embedded commands in a few pages of the text. feel. 2) Get your SS audio materials and listen for these. 3) Take the written SS materials. "this is what you have imagined having for yourself. Page 17 . Subject Strategic Formula for Weasel Phrases Use Weasel Phrases to keep the conversation going. Just say this stuff out loud. that you want them to experience. 2. that you are saying and using embedded commands at the time.. instead "you like this" (car). "get excited". intrigued. when separated from the context.). or more quickly. and do so with an awareness.

just enough to put the emphasis on the command. Maybe you work in sales. work on just saying them and finding a way to bring them up. but something where being influential may help. or maybe it has to deal with your job. that would assist you in being more influential. to create a compelling will on the part of the listener follow you and listen to you.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 5) Start talking about that topic out loud. 2) Select another subject that is a part of your life. but now focus more on "leaning" on the embedded commands a bit. out loud. or school. pausing. make some effort to use some of these commands in the context of a real discussion. 6) Do the same thing again. 4) The next several times that subject comes up in your life. Start to place some emphasis on the command itself. Write down a list of at least 5 commands that work well in that subject. in the context of talking about that subject. start using a few of these commands when speaking. changing your voice. see just how many of the embedded commands in that list that YOU can say! First. Subject Embedded Commands 3) Practice the use of those commands. Maybe slowing down slightly. Assignments for Embedded Commands 1) Look at the list of Commands that you wrote and practiced that deal with a subject in which you are interested (exercise 4 above). The next several times that you talk about that subject with anyone. and make it sound natural. Maybe it's not a passion or real interest. and with that list that YOU wrote in hand. See how natural you can make them sound. Strategic Formula for Embedded Commands Use embedded commands repeatedly and in the proper context. Page 18 .

which is an ambiguous way of referencing what she is thinking about. "this interest". if you are talking about a great feeling of excitement that a woman has had or is having. also "this" and "these" as in "this feeling" of "these feelings".5 Linking D3-T42 Linking is a way to take the feelings. and inexact. etc. • • • • • • • Now with me In me In myself with this these this belief these feelings Exercises for Linking 1) Get our your written SS materials (written) and look for examples of Linking in the text. For example. 3) Take the written SS materials. See if you can pick out Linking Phrases while listening. and getting her to experience. while looking at you. Just to "process" what is being discussed. then to the deeper levels of her mind. However. Take a moment and try to emphasize the linking in some way. see if you can add more phrases to the list below. you are being ambiguous. and make this "link" even more effective. In some ways. While doing so.) Page 19 . and feel emotions. and talking to you. emotions.2. as long as there is good rapport). etc. on some level. "in myself. 2) Get your SS audio materials and listen for these. using some of the techniques that have been discussed in this course (pausing. the linking tools and techniques will add to this. The most common linking phrase/tool that guys think about is the phrase "now with me".While listening to the audio. she has to feel it on some level (and she will. which is ambiguous (non-exact). and experiences that are being discussed and associate or "link" them to you. recall. You can also make reference to "in me". it's easier than you think! Just talking about a subject and getting her to be a part of the discussion. and then making an ambiguous reference to that feeling using your words. you become more associated with those feelings. non-specific. she has to actually feel it to some extent. and read some of this material aloud. will "link" them to you. If she is experiencing these feelings in your presence. • However. Maybe play one tape or CD.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. you speak of "this feeling". then on some level that is creating this "link". What is this based upon? • When talking. Linking Phrases . you are talking "about" a feeling or sensation. when you say "this feeling". make note of where linking is taking place. ALL of those possible definitions apply! Then. • In order for her to understand the feeling being discussed. change in voice tone. Are you talking about the "feeling" she had at some time in the past? Are you talking about the feeling she is having right now? • Because you are using terms like "this".

That's ok. 6) Now do the same thing again. This may seem strange and sound a bit "off". where you listed "feel excited". it's much better if picked up along-the-way. this will come to you much more easily. work on just saying them and finding a way to bring them up. with me" after one of more of the commands in your list. the linking is ambiguous and doesn't reference you directly. As you hear more and more examples of this throughout the course. just enough to put emphasis on the Linkage Phrase. you could say "feel excited by this" or "feel excited now" (you can also link things by putting in a reference to NOW). Write down the list of commands and an associated linkage phrase for each below. and using the list above.4). Page 20 . Doing linking in an exercise like this is difficult and hard to make it sound "natural".2. "this person or thing".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4) Take the list of embedded commands that you created in an earlier exercise (Exercise #4 in section 2. but now focus more on "leaning" a bit on the Linkage Phrases. Embedded Command Linkage Phrase 5) Pick a topic that YOU are interested in as we did before (it can be the same one you used in Exercise #4 in section 2.) For example. In some manner. Maybe slow down slightly. see just how many of the Embedded Commands and Linkage Phrases that you can use in your dialog. etc. Plus the next section will make this much easier! Strategic Formula for Linking After getting someone to experience good feelings and emotions. A quick way of doing this is to simply add "this feeling". (Again. "these feelings". and see if you can "add" text to each to link them to you in some way. You can even add the ever-popular "now. or change your voice. Another example would be to take the phrase "Get excited" and turn that into "get excited by THESE things". Start talking about that topic out loud.2. First. link them to you so that YOU become something and someone that they feel good about.4). pause. Assignments for Linking No separate assignment for this. This will sound easier for you as we go on.

Possessive • Those . and one is not. but do so in a general manner. Whereas "that person" refers to someone "away" some "other" person who is not in the immediate area. who cares? Well these are almost interchangeable! You can switch this/that in sentences as you wish. there are times when they cannot be switched. • These people. and "that" is not. These.2. So. For example. that person • This direction. (In some cases. those directions • These feelings. and included. Consider four words in the English language: • This • That • These • Those These are forms of pronouns. In this case. seductive feelings to you may be great but. This and that tend to refer to singular items. exciting. or not there at the time. Those) D4-T1 Listen to an example where many of these are used. those people • These directions.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. this & that are singular • This . with "these" being the possessive form.Non-Possessive For example. one "thing". So. That. Given that one type is possessive. with you. so you are not using a name or specific reference. in general. "this person" tends to sound like the person that is there. that feeling • This sensation. This means they are ambiguous! Consider this and that. • This person.6 Easy-Linking (This.Possessive (sort of "includes" something) • That . those sensations So. that direction • This feeling. but that will be quite obvious when you try to do that). those feelings • These sensations. that sensation They differ though in that "this" seems possessive. these and those are plural • These . they reference a "thing". for that multiple-instance bombardment that we spoke of before! The idea of linking wild. and it can be done a LOT. This is a new and very effective way to do linking that is easy to learn and master. a GREAT strategy is to link anything and everything positive to you (and link negative things away from yourself. use the possessive form when saying or talking about ANYTHING POSITIVE and use the non-possessive form when saying anything negative! Page 21 .Non-Possessive (seems to reference something "else" or something "away") Consider these and those. these refer to plural items.

2) Say the lines below. For each of these attributes or things. and those depending on whether the item is positive or negative. write a small sentence for each. That person is not. ' 3) Earlier in the workbook. Those Page 22 . for a good ten minutes. Subject: Attributes or "things about" that subject. Exercises for Easy-Linking 1) Say the lines below.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • This That These Those Singular possessive Singular non-possessive Plural possessive Plural non-possessive Anything Anything Anything Anything Positive Negative Positive Negative You can learn to do this (to choose which of these words to use) in real-time through training! Tactical Formula for Easy-Linking Use "This" and "These" when referring to anything positive. for a good ten minutes. or "things about" that subject. These. These are good. Small sentence that includes that attribute. and the correct form of This. out loud. That. using the correct versions of That. That is not. Write down (below) ten attributes. These. This person is good. Those are not. This is good. or singular/plural. That. out loud. These people are good. Use "That" and "Those" when referring to anything negative. Those people are not. you have discussed a subject (and written a lot of text about it) that is important to you.

2. list ten attributes or things about that subject. and their movement becomes a part of their communication. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. and once again. That. beyond the small bits and pieces of language. D4-T13 Page 23 . 5) Pick another subject. Great speakers use movement to their advantage. These sections help to train you in these types of techniques. and Those.3 MORE TOOLS D4-T12 Now we are getting into a different area. These. and then write a small sentence for each. Small sentence that includes that attribute. using the appropriate form of This. Subject: Attributes or "things about" that subject. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4) Talk out loud about that subject for a good 5-10 minutes. These. Those 6) Talk out loud about the subject mentioned above for a good 5-10 minutes. That. Anchoring Anchoring is associating a feeling or emotional state to a sensory experience. and the correct form of This.

maybe a motivational speaker.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Many different types of anchoring can be done and we are only going to cover some very basic tools. How to • • • do this: Get your hands out of your pockets. 2) List 3 subjects that you really enjoy. However we will focus on things that can create a LOT of effectiveness. 2) Get one of the text lists from an earlier exercise (weasel phrases. passionate. after the conversation has ended. Don't flail about wildly. BE excited! Use your hands and arms for emphasis. How often are they in your pockets? How often do they just lie by your side and never move? Make note of this after-the-fact. and some gestures. and that you end up talking about with people quite often. down. We will break down many of the component parts of this into skills that we will teach you bit by bit. political speaker. etc. so these techniques discussed here will help. Get your hands OUT of your pockets and AWAY from your body! Act excited.1 Pointing and Gestures D4-T14 Good speakers use their hands. and hopefully the conversations are interesting. talking about a subject that YOU are interested in. have energy. towards. and to do multiple times. and that you are passionate about. Move! We will start by generating SOME movement. Subjects Page 24 . and then we can work on deliberate movement such as • Pointing towards and away from things • Towards yourself and away from yourself Exercises for Pointing and Gestures 1) Find a good speaker on TV.3. Most guys are too boring and too reserved when talking. make note of where your hands are when speaking. etc. to help make their point. point up. Then later on see if you can start to become aware of what your hands are doing WHILE you are in the conversation. Pick something YOU are interested in. so that the use of these becomes automatic. Assignments for Pointing and Gestures 1) For the next few days. Watch how they move. embedded commands. 2. and that are very very easy to do. etc). Read some of that text (from an earlier exercise) out loud. They may be a bit over-the-top (speaking to an audience is different than speaking one-on-one) but just watch them for a while. and way from your sides. or even a preacher. and away from yourself. Use your hands to accentuate certain points.

and then write a small sentence for each. 2. beyond the small bits and pieces of language. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. Small sentence that includes that attribute. and once again. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. list ten attributes or things about that subject. and their movement becomes a part of their communication.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4) Talk out loud about that subject for a good 5-10 minutes. That. Those 6) Talk out loud about the subject mentioned above for a good 5-10 minutes. and the correct form of This. Anchoring Anchoring is associating a feeling or emotional state to a sensory experience. Subject: Attributes or "things about" that subject. and Those.3 MORE TOOLS D4-T12 Now we are getting into a different area. 5) Pick another subject. These. These sections help to train you in these types of techniques. Great speakers use movement to their advantage. D4-T13 Page 23 . These. using the appropriate form of This. That.

or at least be able to move. • Or hold your hand away from yourself (to send things "away") How to use it • Good to do in the context of being a person that already MOVES when talking! • Make this subtle. point or gesture away.2 Linking Gestures (Towards And Away) D4-T22 This is a fast and easy way to link positive states to you.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course For each of these subjects. and every time something positive is being talked about. gesture. etc. and others. motion. Bad. Say the following out loud while gesturing in the correct direction: Good. make a point to get your hands OUT of your pockets. just start to MOVE. etc. and MOVE. 3) With these three subjects in mind. point or gesture towards yourself. away. and AWAY from your sides and MOVE when talking about these subjects. or • You can place your hand on your chest or abdomen in a subtle manner (to link things to you) . away. Strategic Formula for Pointing and Gestures Move. Do something. point towards yourself. Exercises for Linking Gestures 1) Stand up. and the repetition works for you! • Can do in various contexts. ANYTHING. Bring Positive things toward yourself. and MOVE! Do this out loud. As you get more comfortable with this. but this time use your hands. point away.3. very easily. Tactical Formula for Linking Gestures Whenever you say something negative. Page 25 . and to send negative things "away" from yourself. Read that out loud. make a note to go ahead and move. Good. 2.) 2) Grab some of your written SS materials. Bad (gesture towards. and animate to some extent the next time you talk about them. and send Negative things away • You can point towards or away from yourself. arms.. and accentuate what you are saying in order to be more compelling as a speaker and to get even more attention from your listener or audience. This technique allows you to do this many many times. no need to WILDLY gesture! • You can do this many many times. towards. gesture. many people move when talking This technique is most powerful when used at a time when emotions and/or imagination are engaged in the conversation. Whenever you say something positive..). Do your best to re-enact that discussion (say what you said. and when anything negative is mentioned. recall a recent time when you had such a discussion.

or at least sit where you can move. Point away Positive statement. Start subtle. have energy..) D4-T30 Now we bring together Linking Gestures and Easy Linking. motion away or place your hands/arms away. and hopefully the conversations are interesting. these can be the same as the last set of assignments). Say "these". 2) With these three subjects in mind. Conversely. and MOVE. That. recall a recent time when you had such a discussion. Point to you Negative Say "those". point away. These. Say "that". Use "This.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Remember the text we used in an earlier example here in the workbook? Read that out loud. Do this out loud. when anything negative is mentioned. point towards yourself and when anything negative is mentioned. Point away. Do the following out loud: Page 26 .. Point to you Negative statement. Those" correctly Combine these and use them at the same time! When you say This or These. gesture towards yourself or place your hand(s) on yourself. Say "this". make a note to go ahead and use these Linking Gestures to some extent the next time you talk about them. That. it will become easier and easier. point away.3 Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This. and every time something positive is being talked about. Subjects Do your best to re-enact that discussion. and that you end up talking about with people quite often. These. This is veryeasy to do over and over for that repetitive effect. Assignments for Linking Gestures 1) List 3 subjects that you really enjoy.3. When you say These or Those. start with a few. Exercises for Easy Linking Expanded 1) Stand up. Pick something that YOU are interested in. etc. 2. passionate. points towards yourself. Those . but you don't have to do it every time! That will seem strange! Tactical Formula for Easy Linking Expanded Positive statement. For each of these subjects. (yes. Linking Gestures and Easy-Linking together: • • • Use the pointing/gestures on Positive and Negative things (point towards and away). say what you said. etc. but this time when you are speaking of anything good or positive.

touch them This is best done in a "moment" with some emotion. etc. It may be good to anchor feelings. Can we apply this to anchoring? Yes! • We need a way to do some basic anchoring that is very simple. specific states. If you are head-on directly in front of a person.Point or Touch. while pointing towards or away from yourself in the correct manner. Point away and say "those" Repeat! This WILL help to train you! 2) Remember the text we used in an earlier example? Speak that text out loud. or when the person you are talking to goes into a Positive state. touch them • they smile.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Point to yourself.. it will become automatic. Point back to yourself and say "these". a realization. it's good to be close enough (within arms-length) so that the "touch" is easy to do. trying to add in more instances of This.3. it's more difficult. That. and say "that". and Those if you can. and thoughts to you but in a general sense. and away when negative. On Positive D4-T35 Let's look at anchoring in light of the 80/20 rule (where 80% of the results come from 20% of the effort). Point away. Those in the correct ways) to associate even more positive feelings. touch them! This "Easy Anchoring" works in any context: • they laugh. an expression. Practice it enough and in connection with earlier exercises. and emotions to yourself. Page 27 .) with Easy Linking (using This. This is more easily done if you are standing at the side or at an angle. and say "this". These. Do this in a way that maybe makes it seem like you are doing it for emphasis. That. we are doing that already by pointing "towards" on positive things and "away" on negative things using Linking. the more effective it tends to be. 2. Strategic Formula for Easy Linking Expanded Combine the use of Linking Gestures (towards yourself when positive. That. but actually. it's very useful to Anchor anything and everything positive to you! In some ways. The more that "emotions" are being accessed. states. a laugh.4 Easy Anchoring . and able to be done many many times.. These. touch them • they seem to go into a pleasant state. Also. you are anchoring them in a subtle way. But to get even more effectiveness when anything positive happens. These. Use the correct versions of This. and Those.

This is the same type of thing. but yet have some degree of rapport already (maybe this is a friend-of-a-friend. but in many cases. etc. but a bit more "deliberate". and the situation or topic being discussed. Write those down. directly to you. laugh. Exercises for Easy Anchoring 1) Think about the last 5 times where you touched someone in this type of way. intrigue.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course You probably do this already in certain situations. or Topic being discussed 2) Recall those 5 times. Assignments for Easy Anchoring 1) The next several times you shake someone's hand. Also note the degree of eye contact. interest. • Think about when you meet and are introduced to someone. you just touch his or her upper arm or upper back. What do you do? You shake their hand.) Maybe a handshake Maybe a pat on the back Maybe a funny gesture Make a note of the person. Person '" Situation.. A laugh A moment of recognition or realization When someone starts talking quietly. • Think about when you greet a friend. Tactical Formula for Easy Anchoring When the person you are talking with displays a positive feeling of some type. and note to yourself the correlation between how long the touch lasted and the level of rapport. make a point to hold it just slightly longer than usual. maybe someone who you have heard about). also make a point to make and maintain eye contact as well. • When joking with someone. See if you can recall how it was. 2) Spend some time looking for moments (positive ones) where a touch would be appropriate. Page 28 . a smile. maybe pat on the back. such as. without really thinking about it. (Not romantically. vividly. just a touch.. touch them to help anchor it to you.. you grab their upper arm as well.

o Easy-Linking • This. o Linking " with me. anchoring and associating yourself to positive and intriguing feelings in other people helps to make them feel positive towards and intrigued by you. Then. when you have the chance.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course At first. and movement skills that will be used later in the course. see if you can have at least 5 instances of knowing.. That. o Embedded Commands • Can you do this now. think "I could have touched them THEN". • SPEAKING POINTERS o The "Cool" Factor • You don't have to be cold. These. to be cool o Voice Tone And Tonality • Nose.. Those MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures • Move! Point! o Linking Gestures • Towards And Away o Easy Linking Expanded • Pointing With This. Fast • • • Pause o Energy And Enthusiasm • Passionate or Boring? LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS o Adjectives And Adverbs • Be descriptive o Trance Words • Instantaneously.. and you have already learned a LOT of the detailed speaking.4 REVIEW D4-T46 We are well on our way. we want you to actually DO IT! So. language. that a touch is appropriate. maybe you don't touch them. Mouth. These. in-the-moment. DO IT! Strategic Formula for Easy Anchoring In general.. Those Page 29 . That. 2.. Chest o Pacing And Pausing • Slow. but as you notice these moments. You are noticing this after-the-fact. Suddenly. Find Yourself o Weasel Phrases • If I were to . 3) Now that you have started to notice these "moments" where a touch would be appropriate.

and later to Conversational Management techniques. Page 30 . we will move onwards to work on Language Structures.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o Easy Anchoring • Point Or Touch On Positive And Negative With these parts behind you.

acknowledge what the other person is saying. Agree or not agree? . into higher-level stuff. Pace and Lead allows us to "join" someone. Don't argue! . To "Pace" means to just BE a part of the conversation. You MAY be able to do that. etc.. be able to just "do". towards where you want things to go. incorrect. and more influential in general. You might disagree.. you might make comments (some that agree and some that may not) but the key is that you are "Taking part in" the conversation and topics at hand. o That's one way to see it o I understand your point Page 31 • • . you might bring up a new way of looking at it. but you must do so powerfully and do NOT look for "acceptance". Changing the Viewpoint or Frame if Mind .Can you just knock someone into agreeing with you? Can you be that bold? Yes.A way to change directions • In someone's way of thinking • In the conversation To make a change in direction in some manner. telling someone they are wrong.Some people misunderstand and think that to "Pace" means to "agree". It can mean this... it's best to meet or join someone in some way. Challenges • Can't you just bluntly offer a different view? Yes.Some people try to display higher knowledge or value by "arguing". but you need a lot of power to do it and you risk breaking rapport.. move with them conversationally for a while. You almost NEVER impress people that way! To pace/lead well. These were tactical details. 3.0 LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES D5-T1 We have been working on bits and pieces of language. or to try to "impress" them..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3. These techniques give you ways to use and arrive at languaging in a manner that will make you more persuasive.. say things such as. show understanding (does not have to be agreement necessarily) and then . For example. you are lost. but agreeing is just a special case. or "bigger chucks" as we say. things that you should not even have to really "think about". move them . The minute you do anything like that to get someone else's "approval". Are they useful and possible? • • • Trying to knock or jar someone into a different direction or way of thinking can be risky. and then take them in some direction. Changing Topics and Subjects ..Can you just abruptly jerk a conversation towards where you want it to go? Maybe. however you can break rapport. but you can break rapport in the process. the sort of things that you need to get used to doing automatically. all of the time. then and give them another way of looking at it. but will hopefully at some point. Fast and abrupt changes . Now we are moving "up" a level.1 PACE AND LEAD D5-T2 Pace and Lead .

Let me make sure I understand . if you attempt to do that.. Impressing someone with your knowledge.. I see • That's interesting • I get it • Hmmmmm .. and/or interest.... or... Maybe • • • • • • continue showing an understanding or interest So what you mean is .. Ok. Strategic Formula for Pacing and Leading Pacing and Leading allows you "be" in the conversation for a while and gain rapport and information..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o o That's interesting I see what you are saying.1. have you thought about this ... Let them know you are listening and understand (using wording such as shown below.. I also think you can see .. • Well.1 General Pace and Lead Techniques D5-T9 Here are some examples of ways to do these steps with example wording for each. and then moving things forward in some manner. showing that you are a part of it..... To TRY to IMPRESS is bad... but to really get a sense of being IN the conversation. I read/saw/heard the same thing . The point here is not to memorize these "lines". In addition. understanding. 3. acknowledgement. Then start to move or shift things in a different way. Page 32 . That hardly ever works.. as if you "need" their approval. • Alright. Instead . allowing you to move things more in your favor later on. the implication is that you NEED someone's approval... So if I understand this . . a way that you want. • Ok .. and some of then want to go out and "impress" people with their newfound knowledge. Tactical Formula for Pacing and Leading Show agreement..) • Yes.. Arguing! Many smart guys study these techniques and technologies.. I get it. Then start to direct things in a different way . it makes YOU look bad. what you are saying is .it's like this..BE IMPRESSIVE! People really don't like to be proven dumb or wrong! Most people are offended or "put off by such attempts. So..

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I hear you, and what else is interesting is .... •-. That's a good way of looking at it, something else that is important is ....

The Formula for Pacing and Leading is ... acknowledge and then start to shift things ... Maybe you want to shift things more and/or bring up another issue or viewpoint entirely (or maybe you actually disagree) • That's one way of looking at it, however I think ... • Yes, I understand, I have also heard ... • Ok, that makes sense, another way of thinking about it is .. • Alright, but on the other hand... Some general methods you can use to introduce the "leading" aspect, you can talk about... • What you know, believe, understand • What a friend or colleague has said • What you heard • What you read • etc. 3.1.2 Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects D5-T12

Lets say you find some people talking about a topic. Do you walk up, interrupt, and start an entirely new topic? No. (Well, you can, but that takes a lot of power and has a lot of risk.) A better way is to enter the conversation, talk about it (Pace), and then move the conversation into areas that you want it to go (Lead). Examples: • You are in a conversation and the topic is cars. People are talking about prices, loans, etc. You acknowledge what is being said, contribute to that conversation (pace), and then start to bring in the idea of how a car handles, how it feels, and how exciting it is to drive certain cars (lead). • People are discussing clothes, various brands, types, etc. You talk about that with them (pace) for a while, and then start to bring up the idea of how clothes make you feel, how you feel differently when wearing different things ... etc (lead)

Tactical Formula for Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects Show agreement, understanding, acknowledgement, and/or interest in the topic or subject. Then start to move or shift topic or subject in a different way, a way that you want.

Exercises for Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects 1) Think about some recent conversations you have had with people about different topics, hopefully these conversations and/or this topic is something that occurs a lot for you (based on interests you have, people you know, etc). Recall a specific "moment" in each conversation. Note what was being discussed, and what point was being talked about. Make a note of each of them. Also note, where did that actual conversation go next?

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Conversation with whom?

Where did it go next?

2) Pace and Lead Gently Out loud, practice as if you were talking in each of the discussions above, and paced the conversation and topic, and then lead it in some direction. In this exercise, simply show agreement, understanding, and/or interest, and then lead in the same general direction. Maybe bring up a new example, new point, new issue, but just sort of "take over" the conversation. 3) Pace and Lead in a New Direction Next, for each of those instances, provide an example where you show agreement, understanding, and/or interest, but now start to "move" things in a new direction. Maybe the conversation that you had started at this one "point" and went in a specific direction ... Now, for this exercise, practice taking it in a new and different direction. Maybe introduce a different aspect of the topic or subject, something not mentioned before, or not normally talked about. The key is to first show agreement, understanding, and/or interest and THEN do this "shift", and you LEAD things in a different way.

Assignments for Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects 1) Make note of three conversations that you tend to have with people on a regular basis. Person or People Subjects we discuss

2) The next times these conversations happen, make a point to "Show agreement, understanding, and/or interest" (Pace). Then "Then start to move things" (Lead) in your own way, Do this by introducing a different aspect of that topic, or a related topic/subject. Don't make this shift or change really abrupt or different, just make a point to sort of "direct" where things move, even if that direction is close to where it was going anyway. Just make sure YOU are the one that moves it. Note the text and examples given earlier as a way to do that. 3) Once you can do the above, now make a point to have your "Lead" incorporate a real change of some type.

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Normally, even without your input, the conversation tends to go in a certain way. The earlier exercise had you just keep thing moving in that same direction. Now you are to "take" the conversation somewhere else towards a different or related topic. Just introduce a new aspect of the topic, a different thing, a different direction, so that you are really "leading" where things go. Remember the language that you were shown earlier. Use languaging like... You know what ELSE is interesting You know what * l * have found (seen, felt) Another way of doing this would be .. You know what ELSE can happen ... is ...

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You can change the way people look at things, their mindset, and their "frame of mind". For example, imagine you are having a discussion and people are talking in a certain "frame of mind" (not directly, it's just their way of seeing things). The point here is to acknowledge that frame, and then introduce another way of seeing things, another "frame", or another "mindset". What is • • • • a "frame"? In general it's ... A way someone "sees" something. What it "means" to them. The way they "feel" about it. The significance or meaning that it has.

Looking at the formula for Pace and Lead, you apply that by first acknowledging the current Frame, and then start to lead by bringing up another way of thinking about it and/or looking at it. You bring a new "frame" into the discussion. (This is a way of shifting that way people LOOK at things, the significance that it has, or their mindset regarding certain topics or behaviours). In the earlier example of Pacing and Leading of Topics and Subjects, we were talking just about a thing, a topic, or subject. Now we are talking about a feeling, or the way things are "seen" or what they "mean". For example, people may be talking about: • Taking risks • Feeling good or bad • Having a good day or a bad day • Making choices • What an event "meant" to them • How someone else actions affected them • How a decision affected them. There is a "frame" (of mind) behind each of these discussions and with proper technique, that frame and mindset may be changed. Look back at the "Methods" section earlier for some details and examples of how to introduce this pacing and leading (there are some lists of languaging examples provided). Examples: • You enter a conversation where people are talking about risks, Risks at work, risks in finances, risks in life. You Pace by discussing this for a while. The frame or mindset here is that risks are bad, dangerous,

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Then you start to lead by bringing up the idea that some risks are fun and interesting. What was the "frame". Exercises for Pace and Lead . You agree on some level (pace) and chat about that. etc. a new meaning. Just sort of "take over" the conversation. What it "means" to them. Page 36 . weight.. and then lead it in some direction. the viewpoint.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course have consequences. etc. understanding. the frame of mind or mindset is the focus here. The frame you are bring up is how superficial it is to judge based on numbers and details. what point was being talked about. some men will just "write off a woman that is a certain size. Maybe bring up a similar way of looking at it. and the "frame" that was in use. The frame here is that she has her "standards" and that this is good for her. Do this OUT LOUD. who is like 5 lbs overweight. In this exercise simply Show agreement. then lead in the same general direction. or provide a relevant example. and paced it. (You are shifting her frame so that she may start to look at different things in men. understanding. etc). where the point of the discussion in that moment was: The way they "see" something. some risks have good rewards.. (Risk was framed as dangerous. • Another conversation has a woman talking about what she looks for in men. The way they "feel" about it.. and/or interest in the Mindset or Frame of mind. looks for more. the assumption? What is the frame of mind behind the viewpoints that they had? Write down the topic. and/or interest in the mindset or frame of mind .Mindset or Frame of Mind 1) Think about some recent conversations you have had with people about different topics. the people. With whom? Topic? Mindset / Frame of Mind 2) Pace and Lead Gently Practice as if you were talking in that discussion. Make a note of each of them.. and you are working to change the way she screens out guys.. some risks make you feel alive.. Towards a way that you want. acknowledgement. now its being framed as exciting). Note what was being discussed.. and what "kind" of man she likes (height. or may be perfect but with the wrong hair color (lead)..Mindset or Frame of Mind Show agreement. and how anyone of quality . then start to move into talking about how men do this as well.. Again. Then start to move or shift the frame by introducing another way of looking at things.) Tactical Formula for Pace and Lead . she talks about what their professions are. Recall a specific "moment" in the conversation.

for each of those instances. maybe even limiting beliefs or beliefs that really hold them back. Page 37 . understanding. understanding.Mindset or Frame of Mind 1) Make note of three conversations that you tend to have with people on a regular basis.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 3) Pace and Lead in a New Direction Next. and you LEAD things in a different way. The key is to first Show agreement. and/or interest" (Pace). Do this OUT LOUD for each example. Write down these subjects. etc someone looks at a political issue. Think about discussions where YOU can see that these people involved are working on a certain set of assumptions. and maybe point out a similar example from your own life. Assignments for Pace and Lead . understanding. some way. With whom? Subject/Topic? Mindset / Frame of Mind 2) Pace and Lead Gently The next times these conversations happen. and the frame associated with each. what it "means" that is not really in agreement with what was said. Maybe bring up a different viewpoint or way of looking at it. make a point to "Show agreement. you are just acknowledging the Mindset or Frame in this example. Examples: someone complains a lot. provide an example where you Show agreement. and THEN do this "shift". Maybe acknowledge and then bring up an opposing view. Don't make this really abrupt or different. or something you heard or read. Maybe find a way. and their motivations etc. These should be of a type where THE "frame" or mindset is something of which you are aware. and HE is the one with the limitation someone complains about work and the managers. to find a positive way of looking at the situation. and/or interest. but just make a point to sort of "direct" where things move. and makes assumptions (has a certain frame) about people or groups. or something someone said. and says they are cheap. even if that direction is close to where it was going anyway. A good way to do it is to show agreement and understanding. Then "start to move things" (Lead) in your own way. but really his mindset is the problem someone talks about wanting something different. Basically. a frame of reference. and/or interest in the Mindset or Frame of Mind but now start to "move" things in a new direction. Maybe bring up a way of looking at things that is totally different. and they are the one not taking risks someone is prejudiced or judges other people. Do this by introducing a "way of looking at it" that is similar to the one that is already being used.

a new mindset. or assumed by the people involved.. This may be different from the way the subject or belief WAS framed or thought of. and new way of looking at things. a new aspect of "what it means". o While you are .. Again. Meaning. Some ways to do that is by saying things such as. there was a certain "frame" being discussed.. these techniques are used a LOT. (for example. or used by very powerful speakers.. and allow the conversation to continue with the same frame of mind in place. Continue to Pace by maybe stating an obvious point about their current reality o seeing XYZ o feeling XYZ o thinking about XYZ o etc. Well. o While you think .... and then use that to lead someone somewhere. This is a small-chunk detail and technique... A friend of mine used to feel the same way and they.. another way of looking at it is .Current Reality D5-T29 If you look at the languaging used in things like hypnosis. Now you are to "take" the conversation somewhere else and bring up a new mindset or frame of mind... it might not be that bad.. o etc.. • At least it's not like XYZ. o As you realize . o As you feel.. o After you have . You know. "Pace" their mindset. A "safe" way to do this would be to find a positive way to look at the situation. but it can work well and adds to the power of the languaging. The earlier exercise had you just sort of "run" with that.. The general way to approach this is: • Start by pacing something that is obvious about their current reality . but just find a positive way to look at what is being discussed. o While you are . it could be ....4 Pace and Lead .. o As you see ... now make a point to have your "Lead" incorporate a real change of some type.. using words such as) o As you are .. point towards a specific Mindset or Frame that is of YOUR choosing. 3. What is done here is that you Pace based on something that is obvious (obvious in their "current reality").1. o You are probably wondering Page 38 • • . Just introduce a new frame.. focus on the Mindset or Frame...... o While you see .. even without your input. and/or express what is on their mind.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Pace and Lead In a New Direction Once you can do the above...

o state what you want them to see/feel/hear/realize Examples: • As you are listening to this program .".. "As you feel this. thoughts.. what you are reading.. If you spend too much time saying things similar to "I know what you are thinking". then you are probably wondering .. Warning . Really pay attention and see how many times I have done pacing and leading in this manner.. o another thing you will see/feel/notice is . Point them to where you want to lead them ...Current Reality 1) Listen to this section again. Make note of how many times I have paced your current reality. o you will start to notice o you may realize o you may start to think o you may see how ... and do. o notice what its like as . etc. Rewind or go back a few tracks..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • o As you are thinking about o I know you are concerned about o The issue that may be on your mind is o The question you may have is Begin to lead ....... it starts to become annoying to the listener...2 GIVE THEM A REASON D5-T32 Give someone a reason for someone to listen .. "as you are watching this presentation . The more you hear this. 3... o you will then . what you are hearing. Studies have been done with persuasive language that show that giving a reason will make people more apt to do things for you and agree with you.....) • Then you will "Y" Where "Y" is something you want them to experience (Lead) Exercises for Pace and Lead ..Current Reality As (while ) you) are "X" (Pace) Where "X" is something that is true in their current reality (perceptions." • You will hear a LOT of this in this course (which is part of your re-programming!) Tactical Formula for Pace and Lead . Page 39 . and "As that feeling builds.. • You are talking to someone at work .. the more it will "sink in". what you are thinking..Pacing Reality too much can seem arrogant.." • Physical demos use this a lot. you will begin to notice this ..

Page 40 . if you say "Is it ok if I make copies next. "Is it ok if I make copies next". just providing a reason. • You are talking to someone and you would like to pull her aside and make the conversation more private. but put in a reason of some type. or at least people that are not close friends of yours. then it may be difficult to get people to agree. This technique does not provide a 100% guarantee. However. lets move over there". or asked someone to do something. Tactical Formula for Give Them a Reason Request X because (of) Y Exercises for Give Them a Reason 1) Make note of the last five times you asked someone for something. "hey. and out loud. asking "can I pay by credit card". requesting something.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Don't worry about "losing your power" or being too "nice". If you say. because I am really in a hurry" then. You are not being apologetic or anything. Write these down. Write these down. remarkably. anything. if you say "Let's move over there because it's more quiet" you will be amazed at how much more agreeable the person may be. If you just say. Person What did you ask for? 2) Practice out loud how you might "ask" for that favor or make that request again. the addition of this small "reason" will make people much more agreeable and apt to let you do what you would like. The examples will be better if these are people you do not know. Examples: • You walk up to a copier at work and there are three people in line. it just helps to make people more agreeable (and there are statistics to support that as well). you don't need to be concerned about these things. Assignments for Give Them A Reason 1) Make note of five routine situations that you have in your life where you are asking for something. It could be asking for coffee. However. they may go with you. come up with another reason. 3) Go through the same list again.

This technique has been developed based on observing how many good and influential people speak: • Successful sales people • Charismatic speakers • Good debaters • Component of hypnotic languaging « Very important. actually ends up being several points. People) What do you ask for? 2) Practice out loud some "reasons" that you could give in these situations. 3. Tactical Formula for General Listing When making a point. it's difficult to debate them all or object to them all (not to be combative. don't just provide one reason. or giving an example.3 LISTING D6-T1 Listen to an example where many of these are used. Power in Numbers . "List" several things or examples which support your point. so that your one "opportunity" in a conversation to make "a" point.1 General Listing D6-T4 Strategic Formula for General Listing General Listing is a way to quickly provide several reasons.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Situation (Place. and flow easily. just as an example) • Hypnotists use this technique a LOT. and quite well. • When you give a reason. which support your point. statement. go ahead and mention the "reason". or make a statement. • This is somewhat similar to a "pace and lead". or excuse. in order to provide more power to what you are saying. • When you give several reasons at once. 3) The next times these situations come up in your day-to-day life. you get someone to agree and then lead them 3. See if you can make it automatic.3. or make a point. Page 41 . point. the items that you will "list" need to be brief points. • For the sake of a conversation.Repetition in a way that serves you. provide several. • Training for sales people use this quite a bit.

. Exercises for General Listing 1) Lets say you are talking to someone about "Meeting people"... and start to think about in a positive way (3). playing a game. so that you don't just say "X.. maybe trying to convince someone of something (NOT an argument-just that you were making a point and would like to be more persuasive). Maybe your first two items in a list are obvious. true. what point you were trying to make. Who you were talking to Page 42 . talk about it for a sentence or two. In many ways. briefly. and still. you may begin to agree.) • I know this may sound a bit different (1).. Listing can be short. 3) Pick an example of an activity that you do often. partying.each of which lasts just a few seconds. Z". For each conversation. Now try again by expounding on each of the items. Select a particular aspect of that activity.. strange (2). and the types of things to which no one would object. Each of the items in a list can also be much longer. what are three ways that can go? Good? Bad? Indifferent? Exciting? Boring? Pick three and write these down What are three "ways" that the experience of "meeting people" can go? 2) Now practice out loud by saying something like "Isn't it interesting how you can meet people and it happens in different ways? I mean sometimes .. but instead you talk ' about each for a few moments. a. sometimes . Do that out loud. and somewhat new (3). and maybe 3 different things that support your "point". Z (selecting your items listed above). Something you are interested in.X and then other times . Now. Then." and mention those three different ways. Write them down. etc.. Mention the first item. as a list. maybe watching sports.. then the second. the third item may tend to "lead" someone in some way. Y.. make them brief... Activity that you like or do often List a particular part of aspect of that activity What are three "ways" that can go? " 4) Now describe "What its like to do your activity . write down who it was with. really recall listing to good speakers (2). 5) Think of three recent conversations you have had with people where you were making a point.2. as in saying three items . and/or what it's like to meet people. etc. but as you listen to it (1). Y.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Example (see the listed items shown as 1. listing is like pacing and leading. Pick three ways that can go . where each lasts several minutes. doing some type of work. etc. 3..

a table. You weren't trying to emphasize one point vs. at times you want to use listing as a way to highlight or focus upon one item. However. we were talking about three points in a list that all were similar.At The End D6-T15 If several items are mentioned in a list (for example a car.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Point you were trying to make Three items that support your "point" b. Maybe you want your list to contain many options. Normally. and an elephant) what tends to "stick" in your mind? (The Elephant!) The last item! By hanging an item at the end of a list. Maybe you want to list several options or examples. you put more emphasis on it. 3. Therefore. the one that comes to mind the easiest is the one that YOU want someone to agree with. you were just listing several things in a list. Who you were talking to Point you were trying to make Three items that support your "point" 6) Recall a specific moment in each conversation. etc) By doing that. how you could bring up these three points in a list-like manner. suggestion. Do that for each of the three examples above. In the earlier Listing examples. Here is a way to think about it. Now practice. out loud. activity. it makes it seem as if you are being fair. the other. However. Placing that particular item at the end of a list can have that effect.3. and tends to make THAT point the most important one. it sticks in the listener's head more. Who you were talking to Point you were trying to make Three items that support your "point" c. or different types of alternatives (to a thought. it's easy to think of that Page 43 . and just providing a series of options.2 Listing . by placing YOUR preferred item at the end.

the more convinced you are that that person is NOT the one! o Hopefully though. They are not all the same. I mean. o You know what it's like when you meet someone . I put another list within THAT description (a. you eventually find this person that on some level. Now those are different ways of seeing it.. o And other times .that is the one (3). It's interesting though. lets say you are talking about doing some activity. o Other times you get that sort of a "friend" vibe with that person. Again let's bring up this example of "meeting people".. right away. Sometimes there is nothing special. c)! • • • • • • Strategic Formula for Listing . but you spend some time with that person (2) and the more that person talks. they are nice. and the third one "eventually find this person" was the one I wanted to really "stick"... but by placing "it could be fun" last. Say that one LAST and bring up two other options. you know . and then finish with YOUR preferred item....2. When I have interviewed a lot of people. It may be because you like the resume (a). you meet someone..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course one. It's just a matter of getting to this person. or instances FIRST.. those people doesn't mean much either way . b. one after another. you know that those people are NOT qualified (1) o Others you maybe have thought were ok at first. and there is just something about this person. I have had to do that myself at times. this is one of those subtle but very powerful things that many persuasive speakers do a LOT. In general. or maybe you are really seeing the power of all of this! I think you can tell which option I was going for! Meeting People. did you notice the use of the words this/that/these/those? Also where do you think I might have been pointing and gesturing during those examples? Job interview o Have you talked to many candidates? Yes..A t The End Listing at The End is a way to provide several options (which may differ) but to emphasize the option that YOU want. you put more emphasis on it and it tends to make that one "stick" more. etc . 3). maybe it's boring. or it could really be fun. but even when describing that person. or this person presents himself really well (b). was said that at the end? By the way. interesting. examples. you just know . Examples • • Fun activity.. how they can almost become a blur.. Page 44 . Again. o It could suck. they sort of fell into several groups o There are some people that. o May be frustrating to you.. This course. I know. you just really click and you feel this connection . it could be boring.. or they just have the right answers (c).. See? Not only did I have a list of three (1. you know? See how I did that? See how the item which I really wanted them to think about..

or giving an example. agree to some point. placing something at the end can add to its power and make it stand out. Exercises for Listing . Maybe add a small "list" within that last item (because it's inexpensive. If you say Page 45 . and bring up at least two other "options" BEFORE you mention the one option that you want. Issue or Option What do you want? 5) Now. "List" several things briefly in order. buy some thing. but mention the one which YOU want to put the most emphasis on. it can be TOO obvious. etc. and they are haggling or objecting a bit. 4) What is an example from your life (recently). is the item you mention LAST. You want to mention or suggest something that is quite strong. and seem too direct.. 3) Do that again. However.Burying Items D6-T24 When using a List. close. and you are all figuring out how you are going to spend your time. talk about the issue.At The End 1) Lets say you are going to spend a day or evening with some friends. and what the result is that YOU want. Examples: • Sales . Maybe pause when saying it. make sure that the one that YOU want to do. statement. out loud.? Write down what the "issue" is. Here is a way to think about it. List three possible things that you could do and write these down. maybe controversial. it makes sense to "bury" that item in the middle of a list. Maybe you want to suggest something very direct or quite controversial and you do NOT want to give it too much prominence. Go ahead and suggest that item.Let say you arc trying to get someone to buy something. Maybe add an embedded command of some type. go somewhere. In that case. You may want to "test" to see how the person will react to it. At times however. mentioning all of these in a list.). and we always have fun . where you are trying to convince people to do something. out loud. Three things that you and your friends could do (activity) 2) Practice.3 Listing . 3.3. etc. LAST. but bury it inside a list. and therefore you do NOT want it to stick out too much.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Tactical Formula for Listing .. but place some more emphasis on that last item.At The End When making a point.

." Doesn't that sound better? Meeting at a Party . one of them is to just slip the deadline. or maybe I'll call you tomorrow". This is also a good way of testing someone's response. that you are almost "worried" about how the listener may react. Instead. maybe it IS too direct. maybe you aren't ready to buy this now. seems to "lighten" it up somehow. o "well. However.. lets say you are working on a project and things are behind schedule. But if you switch the order. honestly. and maybe there is a possibility of you even spending that night together.Burying Items Listing . we can talk in a few days. bury it inside a list.. Strategic Formula for Listing . Page 46 .Burying Items When giving examples or options to someone. it seems too obvious. you can get away with an outrageous or very direct option by burying that option in the middle of a List. For example.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • "Well. • Instead of thinking about it in terms of a list. or possibly you just still want to negotiate . and you are talking about you two getting together sometime. The idea of " seize this chance and get it while you can" is something rather challenging to say (as the seller) that directly.. or possibly you still want to negotiate. or to maybe see if you can get someone to agree to it! Tactical Formula for Listing . But of she smiles and seems interested. it's your choice. Lets say your idea is so controversial and over-the-top. that you will just seize this chance and get it while you can! That sounds almost TOO forceful. It also allows you a chance to watch the persons reaction to it. and when you say it at the end like that. that may be a GOOD sign.. you don't just say "we can slip the deadline". more powerful and direct statement in the middle.. more "appropriate" items to lighten it up.Burying Items is a way to mention an outrageous or very direct option for "testing" purposes.Lets say you have met a women at a party. There are several options but. its your choice. just suggesting. So maybe you say something like o "Well. lets say that you want to say something or suggest something that is very direct. or maybe you want it so much. See? Putting that one. maybe you seize this chance and get it while you can . Sometimes you have that "direct" item in mind and you surround it with other.. If she gasps and has a look of shock and horror when you make that suggestion. "let's slip the deadline" might be a problem in some circles! So when people are talking about options to help the project.. Very direct. we can leave together right now. it seems a bit easier for you to say it. maybe you aren't ready to buy this now.

see if it seems easier to say. make a point (afterward) to think about that outrageous option. if you do it TOO much or too blatantly. Situation Outrageous or Direct Suggestion you could have made. go ahead and do so. it can stand out too much and be annoying. Try it out loud. you may even want to say it in a joking way. but see if you CAN say it. Look at the items that were listed and see if one of them maybe seemed very "strong" or "direct". Page 47 .Burying Items 1) As you go out and live your life. Situation Outrageous or Direct Suggestion 4) For each of those examples (above) go ahead and practice out loud.Burying Items 1) Go back to the previous exercises where you said some "lists" out loud. suggesting a List of options but burying that outrageous option in a list. If there is not one. Try saying it with the strongest item at the end. 2) Practice out loud how you would say that list in the situation you used in the previous exercise. Go ahead and change the order of the list that you used earlier. in the middle and see if it is a bit easier to imagine saying that list. go ahead and create a new item that is very outrageous or direct. Assignments for Listing . but as with any technique.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Exercises for Listing . as any opportunities come up where you would like to make an outrageous or quite direct suggestion. but do it by burying it in a list. For three different situations that have come up in your life recently. Listing can be powerful. write down an outrageous or very direct suggestion that you would have liked to make (for each). and go ahead and practice how you COULD have said it. See if you can make it sound natural. by burying it in a list. 3) Think of some recent situations where you would have liked to mention a quite outrageous or direct suggestion. After these situations occur. you will probably encounter some situations where you might want to suggest something quite outrageous or direct. and then trying saying that item in the middle. or the most direct item. Bury the strongest item. 2) In the near future.

. etc".. etc. as in . Lets use this as a chance to really step back for a moment and look at this structure. this is just a way of bringing together many of the things we have learned. If you must suggest several different examples or options... can help to alter how the options (and you) are perceived. o See how that is being used here? • We have discuss language details . In a way. we are pacing and leading.4 MORE AND MORE. o See how we are listing several items? • We discuss Pace and Lead . then present it buried within a List of options. then. So.. remember to use emphasis and change your voice tone with the items. Maybe you want to stress one item more or less. but have ONE that YOU really want to emphasize or get people to agree to.. Maybe one or more of the items actually has an embedded command in it. and the more Y. in a List.. 3. then mention several of your points or examples that support what YOU want. you are walking someone through a series of steps or thoughts. D6-T38 You have heard language like "The more X. really. The general structure here is: • • The more X o where X is something that is hopefully quite obvious and true to the listener .5 Listing Review D6-T37 If you want to get your point across..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3. then the more Y. to "pull" the listener in. and I just strung those together . emphasis. o See how they are incorporated.. thinking about languaging such as "The more X.. and Emphasis D6-T36 You may be worried about coming up with three things in a list .4 Listing.. and provide many examples to support it. consider this: • We talked about listing . the more Y Page 48 .How do you think of them quickly? How do you make them sound natural? Don't worry! It is ok to have pauses! Pauses make things sound more natural and gives you time to come up with options! We talked about the use of pauses as a way to convey some drama and to make things interesting. I gave an example (in the audio) of several things I wanted someone to do. Using pauses.3. so this all works in your favor! Just be interesting enough to keep their attention. "the more YOU FEEL this . or experience. and they WILL stay through the pauses! As you are saying various items in a list. if it's a VERY outrageous option. Or. think. and using lists.3.. the more Z". and see how. changing tone. Pauses. 3. In a way." "More and More" is just a way to use these and bring them together. while incorporating the language tools we have already discussed.. place that item at the END of the List for more power... then the more Y.

then.. like a series of successive steps (things you do. If you have something that you want to lead someone through. . or "as you notice X"..) specific.. and as Y happens o or as you sense Y. from a general item towards something that YOU want. the More Z. you can use "as you" or "while you" as a way to bridge between sections as well. The more Y. future) can be altered to make it fit well. and something obvious. or a new "pattern".. and even more so with the next (more. or thoughts) use "More and More" as a way to string them together (and increase your chances of that happening. present..... more and more. The More Z..... etc.. You can even start by "pacing" a bit more. then the more Z starts to happen.) item. agreeable. That's a general version of it.. Page 49 . or realize Y.. THEN make the next item (more.. you notice this.. the More Y. o walk someone through though process . Tactical Formula for More and More The more X. As an alternative. the more Z. You are "leading" someone. then. As you X. 3.. • • • • As you (or while you) X . then just list them but use "more" as a way to go from one to the next. etc).. which is more of an example of using Pace and Lead of their current reality. the More Y. the more you can notice Y .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course • • o Where Y is something that is a logical extension of what the listener knows and they see this as something that makes sense . • Sell TV sets. as you feel this. Instead of seeing this as a new type of language.) or thoughts (things you experience or think about. see it as just a way of using many of the things we have already covered! More and More tends to be best thought of as a "List". Strategic Formula for More and More If you want to lead someone through a series of steps (actions. with "as X is happening". experiences.. etc Examples • Convincing friends to go do something that you want to do. the more Y. and then use More and More to lead them forward . step 1. The best way to do this is to start off with the first item as quite general. towards what YOU want. etc How to use it. The small words and verb tenses (past. 2. o You can start off with something obvious as a statement to kind of pace them.. and the more Y happens . or as Y is happening ..

5) Out loud. as you. practice and see if you can talk about these one by one. etc . if the person followed them. You may start with "As you" or "while you" for the first one. a movie. Don't just say "more". and bridging between them as we discussed earlier (More. to get towards doing what you want. or series of thoughts or actions. what to buy. as if in a conversation. etc. to get towards doing what you want. Exercises for More and More 1) Consider the idea of convincing some friends of going to a movie.. something simple. Think of three "steps". more and more. a series of thoughts or actions that. work around it and make it sound natural. Write these down. what to do. What do you want to convince someone to do Three steps. 4) Think of another series from your life. a plan. "as you" or "while you". that would "walk" the other people through the process of agreeing with you. what project to work on. Do the series several times. 2) Think of the last time you were trying to convince a friend to do something. more in your direction. the second.. 3) Now out loud. or have them experience. of what you want to have happen. that start off in general.. they would end up doing what you wanted.) Page 50 . or as alternatives. maybe an activity. while you. Think of three "steps". Think of all of the things you can do tonight Realize that going to a movie would be a good idea Going to see the latest XYZ movie (use whatever movie you wish) See how that is a series of steps? Of thoughts? Like leading someone down a path? Now out loud. more leading. something.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • Talking to a woman . (Agree where to go to dinner. and string them together using "more". o Walk her through the process.. etc. The next is another step in the series. What you were trying to convince a friend to do Three steps... Think about a series of steps. using "More".) Write down three steps. or something you want to lead people to do somehow. The first should be obvious. something you convince people to do (or wish you could). practice saying those three steps. practice saying those in series. etc. The first should be obvious. Do that several times. a trip. who should do what. something with which you are familiar. but more and more get closer to what YOU want.

the more things like "knowing what to say" and "what pattern to use" will become easier and easier for you! Notice how we are not doing these examples necessarily with women? Wonder why? 3.5 COMPARE AND CONTRAST D6-T54 Listen to an example where many of these are used. • It also a great way to get information about the person with which you are speaking. • How two things are similar • How two things are different • Good . The more that happens. Maybe just try 2 of the 3 steps once or twice. and move a conversation. How to use it. etc. exciting.) • Too many guys focus on standard lines such as "So what do you like about X". or else have the person you are speaking with mention it. Just make sure that with that subject. • • Take a subject and either mention another aspect of that subject. • It's not magical in a persuasive sense. This Compare and Contrast method here gives you a way to talk about and around the subjects at hand. But get to the point where you can flow easily through the 3 in a series. becoming more and more convinced. this is a means to keep speaking. it's just a good way to think about discussing a subject. you are able to easily go through such a "sequence". and you discuss these two aspects using Compare and Contrast.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Assignments for More and More 1) In the exercises. There are various means of doing this. seductive. Maybe add or change some of the reasoning.Left Page 51 . • This works especially well if the subject of the discussion is one that "works" for our purposes (fun. and piece them together and have it sound natural.. This method provides a way to keep the conversation going.. we had you think of something from your life. you can talk about. • You are just comparing and contrasting things.. you have two (or more) aspects of a topic. the more you will understand how they fit together. Practice that series more! Get very familiar with it. You will see that the more you get these bits and pieces. or various aspects of a subject.Bad • One option . So. where you could have a series of "states" lead someone through the process of doing what you want. look for opportunities to use that in your life. or several different subjects.. and even change the specifics of that sequence. A Tactic for Talking • Too many guys let a good conversational subject finish far too quickly. 2) With that "More and More" sequence practiced.another option • Black .White • Right . to continue.

associate them with things other than you. link away. Tactical Formula for Compare And Contrast Take any subject. Select another subject. that are good for you. • Decisions about a career or job. • Link anything good to you.. and contrast these things. good or bad. then discuss these by comparing and contrasting. idea. what they like. Use the other language tools during the discussion. and incorporate the language tools. • Maybe what is more important to a sports team. One attribute . Strategic Formula for Compare And Contrast Use this technique to keep the conversation going. you can take note of how the person is responding. etc. better-worse. deciding to focus on making a good living now. keep the discussion focused on a topic that serves your purposes. This all provides a good way to allow the discussion to continue for a while. Then discuss the other car. and discuss whether the handling makes it better. or point in a discussion.. you can anchor those away from yourself. o Maybe you start to ask her about it (have a discussion with her .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • One aspect . her. team sports. and you start to talk about something she likes and enjoys doing.about her) and she mentions various things about that subject. and start to compare and contrast the two. idea. experience. another brand. How do these differ How are they the same Which is good-bad. what they do not. or its power. • • Use opportunities to use commands and trance words to create thoughts. You discuss this. compare. you can talk about one car. Page 52 . Examples • One brand of car vs. • Notice what is liked and not liked • Notice any reactions. etc. • You talk to someone for a while and she say she likes scuba diving.another aspect -.another attribute As you are talking. and to let the person think about. or point in a discussion . easy-difficult. What is different about each? How are they the same? How are they experienced? What is good? What is bad? etc. or individual sports vs. and this situation that you are sharing. o While talking about what she does like. • You may talk to a woman. two facets of that subject. As you are talking. vs. o You select two items. feelings. • Anything bad. this meeting. the offense or the defense. taking a position with a more promising future. you can anchor and link positive things to you! o While talking about things she does not like. you can use all of the other tools we have discussed. and feel those states and emotions for a while as well. states. and talk about its attributes as well.

and serenity on one hand o and compare and contrast that to the feeling of something new and different on the other. etc). that they do like Do the re-enactment again. computer. Be mindful of that and anchor/link appropriately. Familiarity vs. Also. Now think of what is opposite to that . your pacing. Something New Control vs..(because). bike. and compare/contrast the two. Be aware of your language! Throw in adjectives and adverbs. she finds the experience of seeing new and different things to be interesting as well. so if you like THAT. Not-Like" set of things to compare and contrast. etc. then I KNOW that you would NOT like THIS . and talk about it again. Use compare and contrast to talk about each of the attributes that your friend would say they like about that subject. and various things about that subject or topic that they like. and negative things . but this time put some effort into being very aware of the positive and negative things that are being said. change your tone of voice."Oh. As in "so let me make sure I understand this . Something that you like Something that is opposite 2) Now take that same topic. she mentions various things about it. Be descriptive! Use pauses.. peace. etc. and this time.. Subject or thing that they like Attributes (things about) that. Page 53 . the same holds true even when discussing what you do NOT like.. different computer.". Letting Go Safety and Excitement Liking someone mentally and/or physically o • • • • Exercises for Compare And Contrast 1) Pick some possession that you have that you REALLY like (car. offer the compare-contrast ways of discussing it... that within that may be attributes that are good.. and those that are not good. where they were really describing or talking about something they like... 4) Select two of the following 4 topics." or . and put effort into correct linking/anchoring/pointing to associate positive things to you. different style of clothing. This example uses a very obvious "Like vs.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Maybe you ask about it.same type of thing (another car. Now talk out loud about each. and anchor/link/point appropriately. be very aware of the positive and negative things that are being said. clothes. Maybe some of the language that you are using that may lend itself to be embedded commands. somewhere else. etc. Be vary aware that even when you are discussing the thing you "Like". Re-enact that conversation again. 3) Recall a recent conversation with someone you know. and this time. o So we talk about the feeling of quiet... etc). She says she likes the aspect of it being very quiet and serene under water. In addition.

and get them to talk about what THEY are interested in. theme. By comparing and contrasting them.. this doesn't necessarily show that you Page 54 . you may end up liking the subject and find a new activity for yourself! Don't worry that you will "give the wrong impression" by inquiring and discussing these "parts".1 Parts Of A Subject D7-T4 This is a variation on the contrast principle. 3. then talk about all of the various aspects and parts of it. it's too weak. of having all of the positive aspects of Safety. Something New Now do your best to speak out loud and "talk" about these for a while using a Compare and Contrast structure. Who knows. Too many guys just blow things to quickly. If you are talking about an interesting subject. Excitement. and that's ALL you discuss. YOU are then showing someone how BOTH of these things can be experienced. Parts of a subject. this just helps to keep things moving in a conversation. Two types of parts we can work with .6 PARTS D7-T1 Listen to an example where these are used. Meaning." and that's ALL they talk about! Yes. etc.6. it is GOOD to focus on the positive aspects of what she likes. People tend to think you have one OR the other. topic. Think about the possibilities. some are bad • Talk about the good parts. together.. and say (for example) "what do you like most about scuba diving" or "what is the most fascinating thing about. However there ARE ways to have BOTH. and you lose out on spending a LOT of time having them discuss something that she REALLY likes! This is just a way to have a discussion. this provides a good way to train you to be able to talk and ask questions of people.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Control vs. Some are good. and parts of a person 3. Safety vs..Who wants to talk about something that you are NOT interested in? However. Parts. etc. BOTH linked and anchored to YOU. exciting. For even more Power There IS a very powerful aspect of this technique that is important to mention. but when you go STRAIGHT for the BEST thing that she likes the MOST. There ARE many things that people tend to THINK of in an "either-or" way. that is fun. if you are asking many questions about something that is NOT of interest to you. link away Now this may seem tough . you can show someone how that can be possible. link them to you • If the bad or boring parts some up.. For example. and the positive aspects of excitement. Letting Go Safety and Excitement Liking someone mentally and/or physically Familiarity vs.

Tactical Formula for Parts of a Subject Take any subject. Subjects come up. and enjoys.. don't just ask "What is the most exciting thing about Scuba Diving?" That IS a good question. If she LIKES scuba diving. Examples • Scuba Diving . This is a great way to build rapport with a person as well.. that an opportunity to talk for a WHILE about something she likes. Strategic Formula for Parts of a Subject Discussing many of the parts of a subject keeps the conversation going. o Where have they dived? o How did they get into it? o What's their favorite place? o Do they have their own equipment? o Do they use different types of equipment for different locations? o How long have they dived? o Have they ever been in danger? o Have they taken photos? o Have they met interesting people? o Has this exposed them to any other cool sports or activities? o etc. etc. or point in a discussion.. sport. allowing you time to gather information and link yourself to good thoughts. Page 55 . etc. artistic endeavor. new things. just curious. know about. topics come up. 1) Pick a subject that you like. This isn't just a way for you to ask ask ask HER about things. idea. area of interest. list various "things" about that subject. but if you start there.many of which can be linked to you. just say "I like learning about people. like." This technique makes it easier to have conversations with people because THEY are giving you information and ideas for new things to ask about. it's hard to talk about that subject for a while. Use the language tools in the discussion. etc. feelings and emotions to yourself. maybe a hobby. that you know. feelings and emotions. If someone asks you about this. You are just asking. Link good thoughts.Don't just "talk about" Scuba Diving! Or. activity.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course are interested in it (the subject). and she may have a lot of positive emotions and feeling associated with that . don't like. Break it down into its component parts and discuss them. what people do. Now. Exercises for Parts of a Subject . be comfortable talking about all of the parts of that subject.

Page 56 . someone you met at a party. if your subject was football. Now. a job they like. Person: Subject: Parts. make a list of these parts. Maybe their hobby. If you have trouble. This should be someone you know well. if you were going to talk to them for like 30 minutes about that subject and were really going to ask them about it. but hopefully this "subject" is something you are not really into. You should be able to come up with at least 10 items. or Things About. Write these down. maybe pick a different "person" as your subject. That Subject: 3) Now think of someone who you are NOT close to (that you do not know that well).Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course For example. Now think of something that THAT person is interested in or they are involved with. Someone that you recently met. what parts about football would you want them to ask about? For your chosen subject. etc. Subject: Parts. or Things About. or maybe someone in your life that you don't know very well. maybe a cousin you hardly see or talk to. and you were going to have someone (who knows very little about the subject) interview you and learn all about football. what would you ask about? What are all of the various things and aspects of it that YOU could inquire about or that could come up in a discussion? These are the "parts" of that subject. You should easily be able to come up with 10-20 items. and you have heard him or her talk about this. etc. passion. like a co-worker. That Subject: 2) Think of one of your friends or family members and some activity or topic that THEY are really into.

like the exercise above. experiencing it. but with which you are NOT familiar. what would you ask about? What are all of the various things and aspects of it that YOU could inquire about? What are the PARTS you could ask about? Write these down. you should be able to list at least 10 items. and were really going to ask them about it. 2) Sometime in the future. Page 57 . Now. when you are speaking with a friend or family member that you know well. make a point to have a good 10-15 minute conversation about a subject that THEY are really interested in. Make a point to ask about many different parts of that subject. don't know really well. Person: Subject: Parts.. while YOU are there And you are linking and anchoring things to yourself Using all of the language tools and details And that person is finding YOU so fascinating and charismatic . make a point to have a good 10-15 minute conversation about a subject that THEY are really interested in. If you were going to talk to them for like 30 minutes about that subject.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course The key here is that this is someone you don't see often. and feeling it. mention like 10-15 different things you could ask or inquire about that subject. The subject they are interested in is something with which you are NOT familiar. And of course the entire time. You know the person but you are not real close to them. when you are speaking with a person you do not know hardly at all (yet you feel you will be able to talk to them for 10-15 minutes). who is interested in something that you are NOT familiar with. off the "top of your head". That Subject: " 4) Think of another person and subject. out loud.. Again. They are talking about something THEY like Thinking about it. Person: Subject: Assignments for Parts of a Subject 1) Sometime soon. or Things About. Make a point to ask about many different parts of that subject. but with which you are NOT familiar.

just looking for the right time. a way of thinking." • There will be a lot of this shown in examples here in this section and at the end of the program. or part of a person. more spontaneous side to them.. and then say (for example). You do not want to appear to challenge or invalidate and personality trait that is being shown.. Let's say you are in a discussion with someone.... a "side" to the person. another part hidden away. • "That's because there is another part. "parts" are meant as in a personality trait. exciting part of a person is being discussed.. and they feel that way. if a personality trait. there is a more decisive. Don't Confront. In many ways.. "you may have the other side" o or by example "I know someone like that.. what she did . they are quiet. or side. etc. that XYZ part". • If an adventurous. that adventurous side is just waiting to come out. and I have found she has this other side. or parts.. This can be VERY powerful. • What if it is not? What if they say they are shy. fun. verify it. in a way you are also using Compare and Contrast as well. Page 58 . that is more . In a discussion. Because you are discussing several things. they hold back. • If a person is shy." • If this new or other "side" works more in your favor.. etc)" o "I know someone similar who as this other part to themselves.6. we are also reframing! We are changing the way they look at things. etc. A key concept to think about is to ALWAYS assume that there is a part of someone that does agree with you. or view. and start to discuss and validate that OTHER part.." • Bring up and acknowledge the fact that there is "another" part. lean more on the language and linking tools to bring it out." o "Many people like that also have another side to themselves. their way of walking through and looking at the world. or normally don't "do" certain things? • Then talk about that first (shy) part. In this context. if the person is shy o "I understand how some people are shy.2 Parts Of A Person D7-T15 Listen to an example where this concept is used. directly or indirectly o For example." o "You may have (or do have) another part (or side.. o Either in general like "there may be another side" o or more directly. In fact a friend of mine is very shy and one time. adventurous . there is a more quiet side • If a person is well-thought-out (thinks things through and takes time). etc. make it be experienced. o "When you start to listen to this adventurous side . or reserved. (where XYZ is a different or maybe the opposite behavior. link it to you. • Acknowledge the first part that is being discussed. or has the same wishes that you do.. experiencing it.. etc. there is a more adventurous part to themselves • If a person is outspoken. that part of the person or type of behavior that DOES agree with you)... Let's break this down. or way of looking at it.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3. etc" • Discuss this new or other "part" o "With many people. a way of acting or being is being discussed (and one that does not necessarily work in your favor) . Discuss. their reactions.... great.

way of thinking.. • Maybe someone says they can be jealous. o "A friend of mine does that as well. deep down. feelings. "you are wrong" or to show how smart you are! You are just talking. it may sound like you are arguing or challenging the person. Tactical Formula for Parts of a Person For every part of a person that will work against you. People have many sides to themselves.. What personality traits (or what other parts or ways of thinking) are similar? Which are somewhat opposite? Write down 3 that are similar. o "I have a friend who was "X" (where X is the trait being discussed). Examples: • Lets say that a person says they are not into taking challenges. • Maybe someone is secretive. etc..... way of thinking. discuss. they like to play things safe. and what I noticed about her is that she also has this other side to her.. so be careful. I understand you have that side to you.. .. that may be true but also there is another part of them . etc etc etc. Introduce and discuss that "other part" in a way that works to your advantage. way of thinking.. or part of the person (mostly something which has a negative connotation) Acknowledge that personality trait. that can work in your favor.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • Many times you don't want to say "because there is another part" because that seems too direct.. Well. or part of the person that is somehow related (which works in your favor) or somewhat opposite. and she realized that she.) Exercises for Parts of a Person 1) What if someone says... There are also other sides to people . Traits similar to "Being Boring" Page 59 . even when the other person claims or demonstrates that such parts are NOT there. This one side .. Remember. You can work around this issue (of possible confrontation) by saying things like o "I think another way of looking at that trait is . was also "Y".. assume there is a part that will work WITH you... but it can be handled . you are NOT discussing this as to say. and beliefs. o "Well.. o "I was reading somewhere about things like that and what it was saying was. having a conversation... and 3 that are opposite. too confrontational. "I am boring".. Find a personality trait. or part of the person by discussing or addressing it Think about a personality trait." Strategic Formula for Parts of a Person Use Parts of a Person as a way to find. and evoke favorable states. (not good in a person. • Maybe someone lies .

be aware of opportunities to maybe mark off an embedded command or two (or more). and some of the variations mentioned for language examples. What personality traits (or what other parts. Practice this out loud. Imagine a conversation and how you might do this. pick another part or trait. Look at the formula earlier. use this/that/these/those . which could you maybe "use" in a good way? 2) Think about how you would discuss the boring part. maybe do some linking an anchoring. and some of the variations mentioned for language examples.. 3) What if someone says that they are shy? What personality traits (or what other parts or ways of thinking) are similar? Which are somewhat opposite? Write down 3 that are similar. Traits similar to "Being Shy" Traits opposite to "Being Shy" Of those that you listed. and then bring up this other "part" that you selected.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Traits opposite to "Being Boring" Of those that you listed.. which could you maybe "use" in a good way? 4) Think about how you would discuss that shy part. Look at the formula earlier. Traits similar to "not into meeting any new people" Traits opposite to "not into meeting any new people" Practice out loud how you might first discuss "I am not into meeting any new people right now" and then transition into the other parts or traits that you selected. and then bring up this other "part" that you selected. 5) From the list you just made (and selected from). and 3 that are opposite. 6) Lets say someone says "I am not into meeting any new people right now" . or ways of thinking) are similar? Which are somewhat opposite? Think about 1-2 that you could use. etc. Now do a similar exercise again out loud.. but this time. Practice this out loud. Page 60 . Imagine a conversation and how you might do this..

After the conversation. Just notice the trait or part being mentioned. etc could you discuss? Try that out loud. trait. and then point out some other trait or part that might work in your favor somehow. Or. Opposite (or similar?) trait or part that might actually work in your favor Conversation with Traits or parts that were discussed. see if you could maybe think of an opposite one that could be discussed. or parts. or putting him or herself down for some reason. and then find a way to discuss another part that is more favorable or positive. trait. You don't have to discuss them (yet) just make a point to note these traits.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 7) Do the above example again. etc could you discuss? Try that out loud. acknowledge it. 2) After you have become more comfortable noticing such traits after-the-fact. but ROW see how many of the speaking and language tools you can use. This area has caused some confusion. You have probably heard the phrase "structure opportunities. See if you can note that "part" of who they are. 9) Lets say someone says "I only like dating my TYPE"? What other part. start to bring them up IN the conversation. make a note of these traits or parts. See if you can arrive at a similar part or trait that you can discuss that could be used in your favor.. trusting their own judgment. or mentions a "way of thinking"). and offer challenges to you on the audio. being open. 8) Lets say someone says they have trouble meeting new people. 3. Assignments for Parts of a Person 1) For the next week or two. and has been a bit difficult for many to really understand Page 61 . see if you can notice them WHILE talking to someone. WHILE talking to someone.? What other part.7 OPPORTUNITIES AND CHALLENGES D7-T34 Listen to an example where I structure opportunities. See if what they are saying describes or is pointing out any personality traits (or a "part" of themselves. make note of when you are having a personal conversation with anyone.. and offer challenges" many times when studying these materials. An easy way to do this is when a friend or acquaintance is being self-deprecating in some manner. Use the formula and the variations mentioned earlier. 3) Now that you can recognize these traits when talking to someone.

o This is the opposite of pleading and the "pedestal" scenario. these concepts are broken down and offered to you in a way that will truly help you to be able to use these powerful techniques. "You may be beautiful. or like to be perceived as having. and wants to be seen as intelligent. and that you believe in yourself. • Show that you are qualifying and screening to some extent. you are just showing that YOU have standards. If you can somehow frame or map yourself as being a way for a person to fulfill things that someone already wants. In this section. 3. Strategic Formula for Opportunities And Challenges Find or assume what someone wants Create an opportunity for them to get it or demonstrate they have it Make that "demonstration" work in your favor. • Use these general things and assume they are there. 3.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course and utilize. Why this matters. Work with universal things that people would like to have.7. Challenge them to demonstrate it. For example if someone is intelligent. effect. or show it.7. or be with you. or want to be perceived as having. but may not be the most effective strategy. do it.1 Using Their Own Processes D7-T36 If you know what people want to have. You are in. using motivations that a person already has. • Show that you have standards. but I am looking for more. o You are saying in a way.2 What do people want? - D7-T38 "Universal Wants" = Good. then they already have mechanisms for that in their mind. is a way for them to show their intelligence. It's good to somehow work with structures and things that are already in someone's mind. this can be very effective." • This is NOT about arrogance. you are using processes that they ALREADY have in their minds. Universal Wants • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control • Excitement Page 62 . • It's easy. • These are also good and convenient for practicing and examples. then by using their existing desires. You then find some way to set things up so that choosing to listen to you.

... o Maybe you can .. or fun. and challenging them in a way that says. wants to have. o Talk about what she does. and discusses what is important to her She mentions something she likes or dislikes about a past boyfriend. or adventurous. but if you can find or work with specific wants or desires. • Mini-Challenges o You might get this ... o You seem as if. along with the Universal Wants listed earlier! • We assume here that with a mini-challenge. You are challenging an ASSUMED desire (a "Universal Want"). What does she want to have. o Talk to her and find out what she wants or needs..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course "Particular Wants" = Better! What does THIS person want? • Notice o o o particular things that this individual would like to have or be perceived as having She mentions wanting respect She defends her position.. o You might. or want to be perceived as having. or maybe a value. Warning .. etc • Finding these particular wants and desires o These "wants" can be possessions. we are using one of these sort of "universal" wants.... that's even better... o etc. You can imply a "test" for these things by issuing a mini-challenge.. or an image she wants other people to have of her. "you can show me that you have the thing you desire.. o Try using some of the above items.7.... o If you can ..This technique can be overused..3 There are certain things you can assume that most people may want to have. o I wonder if you can . or be seen as having "X". o You seem like you may have good taste o etc.. o The smart people I know. can (use smart. o You seem smart enough . o Are you able to . etc). o You seem cool enough . by listening to me or agreeing with me". her interests.. o Talk about some of yours and see how she reacts. o You seem like .. and it can really annoy people if you do! Page 63 .. what she likes to do... o Always have the question below in mind. o You may ... Mini-Challenge Cheat Sheet o You seem . o If you are able to .. o You might see . or want to be perceived as having? Mini-Challenges D7-T40 3.

Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Tactical Formula for Mini Challenges Assume something she wants to have. • Create an opportunity for them to get that • Make it so that them "getting" that works in your favor. What does someone Want? Assume. by doing "Y" Make "Y" something that works in your favor. (and again. Challenge the person to do "Y". Exercises for Mini-Challenges 1) Try piecing together items from the Universal Wants List.. and Mini-Challenge Cheat Sheet.. you will show me you have that". what someone wants. or been seen as having You can assume based on normal things that people want (Universal Want) or Get information from talking (Particular Want) Create an opportunity for them to get or demonstrate "X".4 Opportunities and Challenges D7-T43 Think of it like this. Tactical Formula for Opportunities and Challenges Find something "X" that the person wants to have. Make a statement that says. • Challenge them to see if they will follow through and take action to get it. • Find what someone "wants".7. or be seen as having. in a way. • Universal Wants • Particular Wants Opportunities. here we have to "assume" things for the sake of teaching) . • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control • Excitement Page 64 .. "By listening to and/or agreeing with me. 3. and see how many combinations you can come up with. Creating Them Consider the wants and needs that a person may have .. or hopefully find. "Show me you have that thing by listening and/or agreeing with me" or.

..... • Provide a way to demonstrate that they DO have what they want. what does a mature person do? How are they seen? How do they react? o They make their own decisions o They trust their own judgment o They can decide to do something NOW. Talk about those things. by doing Y? Page 65 . • Mention something that you have read. • Confidence . o They can do exciting things. on their own. o Mention how confident people can meet someone new. • Here is how I read/heard that someone else had or was able to get X.How can you create an opportunity for someone to appear confident (that works in your favor)? o Discuss people that YOU know. o . and/or HAVING them. Provide an example of someone. Examples. or want to be seen as having Structure this so that it is something that YOU would like them to do. and feel very comfortable with that. or show what they have. by meeting this "challenge". and see how doing Y would demonstrate it?> • Does she have what it takes to get X.. o They can go against the grain. • Here is a way a friend of mine showed that they have or was able to get X. even if their friends don't approve. and how the confident ones are able to take chances and have fun.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course You need to create an "opportunity" for each of these.Think about maturity . o Talk about how confident people can make their own choices. Examples: • Does she really want X and see how Y can get that? • Does she really have X. • Maybe point out something a friend did .. Create the opportunity for them to show or demonstrate that they have or are perceived as having. o Let the person demonstrate how confident they are. Maturity . How can you make that sound like a way for them to "show" something? How to create an opportunity? • Here is a way for you to show me that you really have or was able to get X. Challenges Are they ready to take advantage of that (this) opportunity? Challenge them to get what they want... or some way for this person to capture the opportunity • Provide an example of something she can say or do. where this opportunity benefits you (and hopefully pertains to the situation). • Provide an example from your own life. something they want.. talk about DOING them.

Assumed Wants 2) Write a Mini Challenge for each if the above items. and mention that you read somewhere that successful people tend to be able to trust their own judgment. she may have to do Y to prove that. Then at some point you talk about you and her getting together. I mean. Success o Maybe "success" is important to her. • • I know this is tricky. These are your "Assumed Wants". Can she see an opportunity to have "X"... but.. and say something like "well. how she may be adventurous.. Page 66 . It's NOT about creating an argument! Again.". as long as you trust yourself enough to feel that is OK . I don't know if you are adventurous enough for this.. It's different from the way most guys think. their own intuition. Is she ready to take chances? Take risks? Do something different? Maybe not . you mention "We should get together sometime. • Find a way to map what YOU want. • Find out what someone wants. there are others shown earlier. she actually felt more secure about being able to take care of herself.. You talk about that for a while. what this means to her.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • • • Does she want you to THINK she has X. Are they ready to do Y.. to show or demonstrate that? Examples: • Security o Say she wants to feel secure... • Challenge them to do that.. and she found that by taking chances and risks. Some examples are shown below. Later. then ." Adventurous o Maybe she wants to feel adventurous. or be perceived as having.. You discuss success for a while. and do Y to get it? Can she do Y and make it happen? Can she see that Y will get her what she wants? Can she trust herself enough to do Y? etc. to be a way for them to get what they want. Exercises and Assignments for Opportunities and Challenges 1) Make a list of some assumed things that many people may want to have. They want X. You talk about a friend who has always wanted to feel secure.

Hopefully these are specific to them. or wants to be perceived as having. "lets see if this makes sense to you "see if you can follow this . For each person. friends.. Practice these more.. co-workers. quite unique. "you may .. and NOT just things from the "assumed" list. 5) Think about some people that you know quite well like family.. and go out and actually USE them for a while.. write down something that each wants to have. "you might.. Note some of your favorites ones below. Write down these "Wants". or be perceived as having Page 67 . and focus on using these." Mini Challenges 3) Practice the list of Mini Challenges you just created. out loud 4) Make a note of some of the ones you practiced that seem closest to something you could easily say or do with people in your life. etc. Person What they want to have.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course "you seem like ..

they will be doing something that YOU want. want to do what you wish. See if you can make it sound natural. and "opportunity". You are "mapping" it to you because by doing what you discuss. Page 68 . What is the opportunity. and they spend a LOT of time practicing. as making them look at you more positively. or that in some way could be interpreted. and that allows them to be better at their sport. (You want that friend to lighten up and be able to spend more time going out and having fun. and write them down. Example .. etc? Give that some thought.A friend wants to be really good at a sport. and how can you "map" it to yourself? Write down these "Opportunities". The good athletes find a way to relax and have fun.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 6) Consider the "want" that you identified from each of those persons above. Is there a way to create an "opportunity" for them to get or achieve that? Can you somehow create an opportunity that can be "mapped" in some way towards yourself. even subconsciously. Some way that questions . Person Challenge 8) Practice each of those "Challenges" out loud. are they ready? Can they take action? Can they DO this? Write down these "Challenges"." The "opportunity" is for them to be a better athlete. Person Opportunity for them to get what they "want" that somehow works in your favor 7) For each "want".. see if you can create a "challenge".) So you challenge their dedication to their sport by saying "I was reading about really good athletes and one thing that was pointed out was that a lot of them really can get burned out.

Those) MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures o Linking Gestures (Towards And Away) o Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This. They may have one meaning in one context. 3. see if you can bring them up in conversations over the next few weeks. These are those words or phrases that can mean more than one thing. so that you have heard them SO MANY TIMES... 11) For the next 1-2 weeks. really focus on what each person desires. These. • SPEAKING POINTERS o The "Cool" Factor o Voice Tone And Tonality o Pacing And Pausing o Energy And Enthusiasm LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS o Adjectives And Adverbs o Trance Words o Weasel Phrases o Embedded Commands o Linking o Easy-Linking (This. given that this IS an area that many guys are able to do (with enough listening) and given the many OTHER areas that really DO need the assistance of a program like this. This is one area that many guys actually ARE able to pick up and use easily if they have listened to the materials enough. That. listen.9 SUMMARY D7-T66 Bringing it together. but also ask some questions and get into a discussion about it if possible.Point Or Touch On Positive And Negative LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES o Pace And Lead " Topics and Subjects * Mindset of Frame • Current Reality o Give Them A Reason • • • Page 69 . but in another context. they mean something different. but now also start to look for "opportunities and challenges" in a way that directs their desires towards you. 10) While you are talking to people for the next 1-2 weeks.. listen.) o Easy Anchoring . Do what you can to bring these up while in the conversation if you can. 3. Listen. Try to guess.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 9) As you become more familiar with these practiced challenges and opportunities. you no doubt have heard many examples of "ambiguities".8 AMBIGUITIES D7-T64 If you have studied this material for a while. do the same in terms of observing desires. Although there could be a section in this course that deals with these areas. That. to do things that you would want. What do they "want". look at how many items we have covered so far.. that these become familiar. listen. we will not be doing any specific work on Ambiguities.

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These are the building blocks for good Language skills. These are the sorts of skills that are most workable when they are truly "wired in" to someone, so that they are able to be used automatically. To try to "remember" to do such things can be very difficult. That approach would make having a conversation far too difficult and too much work! The best way is to work with these techniques SO much that these truly are just a part of "how you talk". With enough practice, and hearing these enough, you CAN have these become a part of how. YOU talk! So listen, practice, do the exercises, do the assignments, and do that all again, until these really do become a part of you, and a part of how you speak.

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D8-T1 A key aspect of making these tools work is getting the conversation into topic areas that will really work for you. The language tools you studied earlier are best used in the proper context, and in this section, we will learn how to get the conversation into areas that will create that context. Have you had these problems? • You JUMP too quickly into a pattern or topic, and it sounds really strange? • You just THROW a pattern AT her, and get a weird reaction? When you use these tools, or even use "patterns", it's not enough to just "say it", there has to be the correct CONTEXT for what is said! It's a process that she needs to go on and through with you. It's not enough to just find a conversational excuse to "throw" a pattern (or language tool) AT her! This section is about finding ways to just get into an interesting conversation and then towards and onto good topics. We want this to seem natural, and with some understanding, practice, and a few key strategies and tactics it will BE natural and automatic! 4.1 4.1.1 CHALLENGES -a Detailed And Specific Plans Are Just Not Workable. D8-T3

It's good to theorize to "say this", and then "say that", and then to use "this pattern", and "that pattern". However, the problem is that a lot of time the proper context is not presented well enough. The examples you may have seen in other products are just that, examples. The problem is that too many guys have taken them literally! Guys try to do "X, Y, Z," exactly, in order, with no sense of calibration, or being able to work and re-direct things in real time. Therefore, detailed tactical plans are not realistic. 4.1.2 Navigation Example D8-T4

Think of moving a conversation to a certain point, like taking a trip somewhere. Say you are in Chicago, and want to go to Los Angeles. You could have a detailed map of every turn and road, exact route numbers and lengths, etc. The problem is... what do you do if there is a detour? What if the road is changed, what if the map is wrong? You are lost! What if, instead, we teach you how to drive the car, and give you a general set of directions like "keep driving west, until you see the ocean, then turn left (south)". That way, you can handle just about any turns, roads, or detours that you may encounter! Conversations are different from roads too, because people are all unique, situations, times, surroundings etc. are unique and change from moment to moment. Therefore, if you want to get a conversation to go a certain way, then detailed plans made ahead of time are hard to work with. There are too many variables! We need a workable set of strategies and tactics that allows you, in real-time, to direct things the way that you want them to go. They need to be easy to follow, and easy to use, and something that you don't need to "think about", but can just DO easily.
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So we need a general set of guidelines, some overall strategies and tactics, so that you can have this good, intuitive sense of how to "steer" things, and get conversations to where you want them to go. As long as you are engaging a woman's emotions, capturing & leading her imagination, then you are moving in the right direction. Then, in that situation and in that context, linking all the positive & powerful things to you becomes more workable. Instead of a map, we are giving you a "compass". We need a strategy for managing conversations that can to do this gradually, in a way that seems natural! If it's too abrupt or makes the conversation strained, it will sound weird. The strategy must LEAD the conversation towards good topics and subjects in a way that seems natural, and is not TOO abrupt. Examples: (Listen to the audio.) • Talking about a printer o Moving TOO quickly towards emotional topics o Can sound strange • Driving a car and taking a turn (Analogy) o Think of driving down freeway and needing to switch to different direction. o You can't make a hard, right angle turn on a dime! o You need to turn the car, slowly, on a ramp to go in a different direction. When we control conversions, we need to find a way to take it gradually in a new direction. Many guys try to do the hard and fast switch, and they crash in the process! We will learn to move things in a way that makes it seem natural, but it will be deliberate. 4.1.4 She Must Be Engaged In The Conversation! D8-T10

It's important to get conversations into the right area and have HER go along with you. Not just "bring it up" (a topic or pattern), but it must be natural and she must "go along" with it and be a PART of it. She must be actually THINKING about what you are discussing! It has to happen naturally. No weird jumps. It's not enough to just talk; she must BE a part of the conversation! So, don't just "jump" to a topic. Don't find an "excuse" to bring it up. Take the conversation there, take her WITH you, and have her be a part of it! What really helps is to have a genuine interest (or at least curiosity) in her and the conversation, not just thinking to yourself; "How can I use this?" 4.2 HOW CONVERSATIONS HAPPEN D8-T12

How does this really occur? We will break this down so that we have a way to really affect this process. 4.2.1 Conversational Dynamics D8-T13

How do conversations happen? Most of them occur somewhat randomly as the conversation flows from topic to topic over time, and can end up almost anywhere after a while. By the time YOU move from one topic to the next,
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Figure 4.2.1-1: Conversations Move Through Many Topics

Each of these steps between topics tends to be related. Topic 1 relates to Topic 2. Topic 2 relates to Topic 3, etc. For example, you can start to talk about Cars, and then move to one aspect of that topic, Car Seats. Then it's easy to move to some aspect of that topic, which maybe something that seats are made of, like Leather. Then maybe you talk about Leather Furniture, etc. (See Figure 4.2.1-2.)

Figure 4.2.1-2: Each Topic Flows To the Next Topic In most cases, each Topic is related to the one before.

After a series of such steps, you can be at a quite different topic (like an apartment that you used to live in) even though you started at a quite different topic (Cars). In most cases, it's very difficult to predict where a conversation will go after many of these steps. As you go through a few topic shifts (as shown in the diagrams), although each individual shift relates to the topic before and after that shift, after a series of shifts you can end up talking about almost anything! Therefore, even if you start the conversation at a great topic, you can get off-track and into topics that will not work in your favor. Conversely, what is needed is a way to start at almost any topic at all, and by steering that process (of moving from Topic 1, to Topic 2, Topic 3, etc) take the conversation into better and better topic areas that will serve your purposes. 4.2.2 Conversational Model D8-T14

We introduce a model to assist in discussion, understanding, and control of conversations. If you start at a topic, how do you go to another one? This process happens all of the time very easily. The key is that the movement from one topic to the next takes places easily because there are so many options involved. From any topic (Topic 1) it is easy to flow to any of 6-8 other, related topics (Topic 2 Candidates). People usually just "talk" and naturally the conversation moves from the first topic to the next one. Since the "next" topic is related, this process seems natural and is easy to do. In fact, you do this all the time without really knowing about it. (We are creating a model to describe a process that happens naturally, so that we can teach you a way to have an affect on that process). Figure 4.2.2-1 shows how from one topic, the conversation can flow easily to many related topics.

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Once the conversation moves to one of these eight topics, it's easy to move to one of eight more. For example if in Figure 4.2.2-1, the conversation flows from "Cars" to "Where you bought it" (as in, where you bought the car), then now we have a situation like that shown in Figure 4.2.2-2.

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Figure 4.2.2-2: From A Second Topic, Another Group of Candidates If "Cars" was discussed first, and then "Where you bought it" was discussed next, there are now many ways to go in the next step. In the figure, you see how the conversation moves from Cars, to "Where you bought it". After that, there are many "candidate" topics where the conversation can flow. Perhaps it moves to the "Part of town" where the car was purchased.

Now from the topic of "Where you bought it" (a car), there are easily eight places that you can go from there, shown as the "Topic 3 candidates". This process continues throughout a conversation. This process happens regardless of the specific topics being discussed. Conversations flow from topic to topic, as shown in a general manner in Figure 4.2.2-3.
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then EACH of the eight different candidates for Topic 2 can then lead to their own eight. you can have up to eight different ways to go at EACH step. then talk about Y. However. since it's so easy to go from any topic to 6-8 others.2-4 shows what happens when all the topics are considered.2-3: Topics Flow from One to the Next Each topic in a conversation can easily lead to 6-8 others. Do you see why the pre-planned approaches can be difficult?! Even if you ARE able to have the conversation start from a specific place (Topic 1). then talk about Z" are very difficult to really work with. the plans that many guys try to use to "Talk about X. In general. When this happens in succession.2. because there are SO many ways that things can go! Page 75 . you can affect this process (and we will teach that to you). the Figures that have been shown so far only show a small portion of the total topics towards which a conversation can flow. and at each step after that. If Topic 1 can lead to eight different candidates for Topic 2. an so on. you can end up with the conversation going almost anywhere! Figure 4. when talking to some random person.2. With some skill and technique. there is no way to know exactly where it will end up by the time you have moved forward a few steps! Imagine trying to predict ahead-of-time exactly where you may arrive (among those 512 options). and the conversation flows along in this manner. In many ways. This results in easily over 500 topics that could be selected by the time we arrive at Topic 4! In only three shifts of the topic ("topic shifts" as shown in the figure) we end up with many many possibilities of where the conversation might end up.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Topic 1 Topic 2 Topic 3 Topic 4 Figure 4.

Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 1st Topic Shift 2nd Topic Shift 3rd Topic Shift Figure 4. It then can flow easily to maybe 6-8 others (the diagram shows fewer for the sake of clarity).2-5). As seen in the diagram. Page 76 .2. you can end up in over 500 different topic areas! We can create a general Conversation Model that shows this process (Figure 4.2. then after only three shifts in the topic. Once Topic 2 has been discussed. and so on.2-4: Topic Candidates and Topic Shifts If each topic can flow to eight others. a conversation may start from one topic or subject (Topic 1). it can flow from there.

In fact. There are SO many ways it can flow.2.2-5: Conversation Model The "Tree of Subjects" showing how thousands of subjects can be reached in just a few steps of the conversation. (The figure only shows a portion of how many subjects and topics can be reached). If you are discussing one specific topic. it is quite easy to move from that onto 6-8 related topics. is an awareness of this phenomenon that is called the "Topic Turning Point". if you assume that from any topic you could go to any of 8 other topics.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Figure 4. This process of moving from the first topic to one of 6-8 relevant topics is the process of moving through a "Topic Turning Point" as shown in Figure 4.3-1. The diagram only shows a small fraction of them (so that the diagram is not even more cluttered than it already is!).3 Topic Turning Point D8-T15 The KEY concept the needs to be understood to gain the ability to manage conversations. that they become far too many to shown in the diagram.000 different subjects or topics that could be discussed by the time you are at "Level 6" in the conversation!! 4.2. then for that diagram to be really accurate it would have to show over 30.2. Page 77 .

2.2.3-2: How TTP Selections Effect the Conversation The selections made at each TTP are what actually "steer" the conversation in a certain direction. etc.2. after one topic has been discussed for a short while. A general way of looking at this process is shown in Figure 4. ask a question. introduce an idea. as long as the new topic is "related" to the first (this is shown in the diagram by the "candidates") then this change is easy to do. Page 78 . the conversation "shifts" slightly.3-2 Topic Turning Points Figure 4.3-1: The Topic Turning Point (TTP) When discussing any topic (First Topic) there are easily 6-8 different topics to which the conversation can be moved (Candidate Topics). Therefore. The key thing to realize is that this process of Topic Turning Point (TTP) selection occurs over and over. Someone might make a comment. the overall flow of a conversation comes about due to many of these TTP choices being made. For example. make a statement. However. and throughout a conversation.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Candidate Topics Figure 4. the conversation can then move to another topic.

they find a way to point out something negative. fun.. • Other people direct conversations based upon their own moral or religious values. These types of people are making TTP selections based on a strategy of finding things that are negative to talk about.3. interesting things".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Normally.. and do so in a way that sounds VERY natural. you can direct where the overall conversation goes. we want the conversation to be positive. no one is "deciding" the TTPs. • Other people may do the opposite.Those are just general examples. This selection just "happens". and that work in YOUR favor. (See Figure 4. positive. Many people do this "TTP selection" process automatically. positive way to look at anything. conversations are one of four types: • • • • Fun. and imagine if you had a general way to manipulate these TTPs.3 4. That ability alone is enough for our purposes. fun. and some training (which . So to start our process of learning how to manage conversations. These people are able to automatically make TTP choices based on a strategy of finding good. no matter WHAT is discussed. D8-T16 D8-T16 So how can you actually affect the flow of a conversation. The overall strategy at the beginning is then to "talk about positive. However. Sometimes this can be VERY apparent.1-1. easily and naturally? That IS the point. IMPORTANT: The overall direction of a conversation comes about due to a successive selection of TTPs. In a very broad sense. Can you see how you may be able to affect where a conversation goes? You might not be able to predict EXACTLY where it ends up. we want to first start to steer things in the best general manner. • Other people able to direct conversations based on their own beliefs and their own political motivations as well. very quickly.. By manipulating TTPs from moment to moment. and the conversation tend to into one of four general areas. positive aspects of every topic being discussed.3. For example: • Maybe someone always finds a fun. As you have probably guessed by now. moment-to-moment. with some awareness of this process. The flow of the conversation starts. they Good Boring Bad Argument could be more specific (and we will get there). 4..) Page 79 .. to "route" conversations so that they end up being the kinds of conversations that YOU want to have. No matter WHAT you talk to them about. conversations tend to go in one of several ways. interesting Mundane and uninteresting Negative. but you will have some control over the overall direction. choices are made moment to moment. fun. isn't it? In general. is coming soon. depressing Confrontational .1 GENERAL CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Want. and interesting. Look in the diagrams.. and they quick steer the conversation in that manner. we are going to later teach you a way to be able to make these TTP selections. they somehow see it in terms how in effects their beliefs.) then you CAN direct how a conversation flows.

If you break that down into 4 main directions. and Interesting" things. interesting things. No matter what is brought up. Positive. so from the earliest stages. Introduce topics that are fun. Don't engage in conversations when it's NOT about positive. you can still "steer" back towards "Fun. How do you do that? • • • Show interest when someone discusses positive.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course General Conversational Management Conversations tend to flow in one of four major ways. interesting things. do what you can to steer in that direction. Positive. you see that you want to focus the conversation onto topics that are "Fun.1-1: General Conversational Management Consider all of the ways a conversation can go. Page 80 . fun. and Interesting topics and subjects.3. Even if things move towards other areas. Figure 4. fun. interesting things. bring up positive. positive and interesting. steer towards Fun. Strategic Formula for General Conversational Management To steer the conversation in a good direction. and Interesting". Positive. fun.

and then steer things in the correct direction. and Interesting? That is the direction to go! Candidate Topics Figure 4. or something you read.3. and interesting?" Move the conversation in that direction. .3. and interesting" and just move things in that direction. positive.) Tactical Formula for General Conversational Management Keep thinking . and interesting"? Moment-to-moment. How do you move things in that direction? You can: • Ask a question • Make a comment • Make a joke • Quote someone you heard. TTP options.The overall direction of a conversation comes about due to a successive selection of TTPs. positive.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4. as long as it moves things in a way that answers the question "Where can I go that is fun. you make note of where you are in the conversation. and then you move things in that direction! Remember . By manipulating TTPs from moment to moment.3. • Etc. the TTP. Page 81 . Repeat.2 How To Steer Conversations."Where can I go that is fun. and Interesting".2-1.2-1: Topic Turning Point Navigation for General Conversational Management No matter what subject you start talking about. TTP Mantra . Which Of these are Fun. move things towards the related topics that are "Fun. positive. you can direct where the overall conversation goes. as we discussed earlier.. For any subject. Positive. You then think of several ways you can go (the related topics. You think of the "candidates" (the related topics or subjects that you can discuss) that serve you at the time. Moment To Moment D8-T19 Look at the overall flow of a conversation and break it down to its smallest point that we can affect. Positive. the topic "candidates" that were shown earlier). So you just think to yourself "Where can I go that is fan. you can always think of 6-8 other related topics or subjects.. and interesting" (See Figure 4. positive.Where can I go that is "fun.

.).3-1. positive. the most important thing to do is to focus on moving thing in a direction that is .3-1: Moving Through Topics Using General Conversational Management Early in a conversation.3. Positive. just keep thinking about where you can go that is "Fun. Page 82 . and interesting". and Interesting! Figure 4. (See Figure 4.3 The Model With Strategy And Tactics In Place D8-T23 As you make TTP choice after TTP choice (See Figure 4. you can work more towards certain topic areas.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Later in the conversation. and Interesting". Do this for a while.3. you get to an overall "area" that will work.3-2. "fun. but in the early part of the conversation.3. Positive.3. You are steering things towards the direction that you want the conversation to go.) Keep things moving in the direction of Fun. 4..

Positive.3. Positive. maybe that person is not someone that you want to talk to anyway).3-2: General Conversational Management Model The most important direction to go. 4. what was the main topic? Topics Page 83 . especially early in a conversation. keep steering in the right direction and in many cases you WILL get towards the right area soon enough (and if not. is towards Fun.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course General Conversational Mgt Model No matter where you start.3. Even if you temporarily move away from that direction or end up in an area that is not very positive or interesting. or where you are. and write down the topic for each. and Interesting!/ Figure 4. At some particular moment early in the conversation.4 Exercises and Assignments D8-T25 Exercises for General Conversational Management 1) Think of some conversations that you have been in recently. always move towards topics and subjects that are Fun. and Interesting topics and subjects.

Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 2) Based on each of those topics. directions you could "take" the conversation (these are the TTP Options. list 6-8 different ways you could go. Write each of those down. For each of those Topics. Topic TTP Options (Candidate Topics') Page 84 . or Candidate Topics). things you could comment on. consider it a topic that leads to a TTP (copy each item above into the "Topic" area below). ask about.

whatever it might take to move things in that direction. asking a question. 4) For each Topic. maybe by making a comment. Page 85 . etc. and Interesting")? Select two "candidates" and circle or highlight those two. making a statement.. 5) Practice again on each by moving things in the direction of the second item that was circled. Positive. which are the best? Which of these would move the conversation in a way that is best for you (think of "Fun. what would it have been like to have moved the conversation in the direction of the first item you circled? Practice that out loud for each Topic above.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Of the 6-8 different TTP Options you have written above for each Topic.

the conversation becomes more enjoyable for everyone." 4. we want to work with topics that get the emotions involved. and spending time with? The type of guy that people seek out to spend time with? The more you do these types of exercises. make a comment. we can start to direct the conversation into an even BETTER area. etc. You may start to find however. but the REAL key is to at least get to the point where you can very quickly think of at least 1 or 2 ways to go that are Fun. You then have to wonder . you can direct where the overall conversation goes. We want to focus the aim of our conversational management skills even more. we are turning you into someone that people LIKE to talk to! You know the type of person that people enjoy talking to. D8-T33 D8-T33 We want the conversation to be more than just positive. you may have to think of 6-8 options. having conversations with. we want it to be really interesting. fascinating. inquire about something. engaging. thinking "what COULD I have done. In general. and positive conversation. Just do what you can so that the TTP shifts in a direction that is fun.5 Summary D8-T32 Remember what was said earlier: • The overall direction of a conversation comes about due to a successive selection of TTPs (which normally occur at random. 2) Now that you are able to quickly find 1 or 2 good TTP options. At any moment you should be able to think "Where can I go with this?". positive and interesting topics. When talking to anyone. that no matter WHAT you do with some people. and people REALLY interested. start to take the conversation there! Ask a question.4 4.1 ADVANCED CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Really Want.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Assignments for General Conversational Management 1) For the next week or so.Is that the sort of person you want to talk to and spend time with? Maybe not. After a while. the more YOU can and will become that guy! 4. Do this for a while until the process of finding 1 or 2 good "Ways to go" in a conversation (good TTP options) can happen very rapidly for you. really be aware of the TTP opportunities in your day-to-day life. Positive. don't worry. the imagination moving. even at the start of a conversation. maybe offer an opinion. Building on what we learned in the last section. where COULD I have taken things".3. we want things to get even more Page 86 . Make it so that it becomes easy for you to come up with a list of "options" very quickly. they will not go down a path of having a fun. whatever it takes.4. interesting. interesting. At first. positive. By manipulating TTPs from moment to moment. • By moving things in this way. If this is a challenge for you. or without an overall strategy in mind). Interesting. Instead of the more general area of fun. Maybe start out by looking at conversation after the fact. It WILL get easier. look for moments where things can be "steered" in a certain way.

how do we work that in what we are doing moment-to-moment? How can we do things that will make that happen? Page 87 . We use our strategy of working with the TTPs.) General Conversational Management takes the conversation into the Fun.4. From there. So. there are many ways to go. steer the conversation towards directions that engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way. Strategic Formula for Advanced Conversational Management To direct the conversation into even BETTER areas. With that as a general strategy. We move forward and want to get a more emotional tone. to "steer" things even more towards what we want. there are many ways the conversation can move. we now shift our strategy of "steering" things to direct the topics in a more focused manner using Advanced Conversational Management. To move the conversation into more interesting areas. there were 4 main directions towards which a conversation may go. So we narrow our focus. we were able to move things in the direction of Fun.4. Interesting area.1-1: Advanced Conversational Management Focuses the Steering From the start of a conversation. Positive. and Interesting. Now from that point. Positive. (See Figure 4. you move it in ways that engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way. and steer using Advanced Conversational Management Figure 4.1-1. Using General Conversational Management. and more involvement of the imagination. more excitement.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course interesting.

4. and explain a bit more as to its meaning and interpretation. Interesting Topics Which of these "Engage the Emotions and imagination in a Positive Way"? That is the direction to go! Candidate Topics Figure 4. See Figure 4.4. With that established. we can assume that we are talking about subjects which fit into the "Fun. 4. TTP Fun. Positive. Positive.2 Steering Conversations Moment To Moment using Advanced Conversational Management D8-T35 Again.) Page 88 . but now think "where can I go that will engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". and with that strategy in mind.) TTP Mantra " Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Tactical Formula for Advanced Conversational Management Keep thinking . and Interesting" area. Repeat.3-1 for an explanation.2-1. we need to change the way the model is shown. we look at the concept of the TTP.4.Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Move the conversation in that direction. (See Figure 4.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4.4. we need to use the TTP as a way to move things in the right direction.3 The Model With Advanced Strategy And Tactics In Place D8-T38 (Before we move on to looking at the model.4.2-1: Topic Turning Point Navigation for Advanced Conversational Management After using General Conversational Management for a while. we shift the focus of how we navigate TTPs.

and Interesting conversation (2) may take four steps. the model above is what we used to show a starting point (1). Page 89 . (2).3-1: Understanding the Conversational Management Model The "levels" shown in the models are not meant to be exact. with thousands upon thousands of possible possible routes and outcomes. not an exact number of steps or outcomes. once again ending up with thousands of topics that could be discussed by the time you get through more topic shifts (3). and it ends up at a certain area (2). so that the various stages of a conversation can be easily illustrated.) the conversation moves on for a while. In practice. the graphics we will use will show an even more "condensed" version of this process. or topic shift) shown on the digram may represent many steps in an actual conversation. Positive. This can result in so many possibilities (many thousands within a few steps) that it's important to look at these diagrams as a way to show "trend". For example.4. or thirty. Figure 4. It may happen in ten minutes. where every "step" (TTP. The locations of points (1).Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Understanding the Conversational Management Model The model attempts to show a process that has many many steps. When starting from ANY topic (1) to a place where you are firmly established for a period of time in a Fun. etc. these diagrams will indicate a VERY condensed version of the number of steps involved. we are not showing that there are exactly "four steps" between points (1) and (2). At that point. From now on in the course. there can be a whole "tree" of possibilities leading from there. but a way to show a "trend". But after using the general techniques (Fun. and (3) in the figure above (and in the next figure) helps to show this. Positive. For example. it may take ten.

This is shown between points (2) and (3). are used together to move forward in a conversation. Although the diagram shows only 2 steps (for simplicity). and could be at any of thousands of topics after 6. until it is firmly established that the conversation has engaged the emotions and imagination of the participant. and states. the conversation will get better and better. For a while.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course We started at one topic. General Conversational Management techniques are used. feelings. we focused the conversation towards moving things in a direction that is "Fun Positive and Interesting. Positive.3-2. emotional topics. you can see how General Conversational Management. and Interesting conversation (2). This is shown from point (1) to point (2) in the diagram. If you follow these two simple strategies together (and the tactical approach of simply watching the TTPs and moving things in the right way). subjects. 8. As time goes on. The subjects will get more and more fascinating. or 30 minutes. exciting. only a few of which are shown in the diagram. Then a shift is made towards focusing the conversation even more using Advanced Conversational Management. After that has been established. And of course while doing that. 20. and then Advanced Conversational Management. Now the emphasis is on ways to "Engage the Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way". in practice it may be good to follow a series of topics for 5. This too can take any number of steps. Page 90 . 10. we now focus more on moving in a direction that will "Engage the Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way".4. 10 topic shifts. you end up linking and associating many fascinating. If you refer to Figure 4. to yourself! Advanced Conversational Management Model Figure 4. or however long it takes to be firmly established in a Fun.4. the conversation will get more and more of an "emotional" tone to it.3-2: Advanced Conversational Management Model Early in the conversation. if you use the language tools which we learned about earlier in the course. This also is followed for a series of steps and a period of time.

what was the main topic? Topics 2) Based on each of those topics. positive. Topic a. ask about. list 6-8 different ways you could go. TTP Options (Candidate Topics') Page 91 . consider it a topic that leads to a TTP (copy each above into the "Topic" areas below). and interesting conversation. These should be conversations where it is already obvious that it is a fun. At some particular moment in that conversation. or Candidate Topics). directions you could "take" the conversation (these are the TTP Options. Write each of those down.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4.4 Exercises and Assignments D8-T39 Exercises for Advanced Conversational Management 1) Think of some conversations that you have been in recently.4. things you could comment on. For each of those Topics. and write down the topic for each.

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. start to take the conversation there! Ask a question. 4) For each Topic. make a comment. Maybe start out by looking at conversation after the fact. So. maybe by making a comment. we are "steering" things more and more in a direction that we wish to go.. This is best when applied to a conversation that is ALREADY fun.5. and interesting. etc. even things with some degree of sensual connotation to them.4. making a statement. At first.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Of the 6-8 different TTP Options you have written above for each Topic. but the REAL key is to at least get to the point where you can very quickly think of at least 1 or 2 ways to go that "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". 5) Practice again on each by moving things in the direction of the second item that was circled. what would it have been like to have moved the conversation in the direction of the first item you circled? Practice that out loud for each Topic above. asking a question. 2) Now that you are able to quickly find 1 or 2 good TTP options for yourself that "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". 4. where COULD I have taken things". which 1 or 2 would tend to "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way"? Which ones move things in a way that is best for you? Select two "candidates" and circle or highlight these two. until the process of finding 1 or 2 ways to go that "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way" in a conversation can happen very rapidly for you.5 4. positive. thinking "what COULD I have done. whatever it might take to move things in that direction.. you may have to think of 6-8 options. once again. It WILL get easier. Assignments for Advanced Conversational Management 1) For the next week or so. we want to steer things more towards romantic. Do this for a while. don't worry. whatever it takes. Just do what you can so that the TTP shifts in a direction that can "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way".5 4. but be especially aware of wanting to move things to "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". what next? At some point in the conversation.1 Summary MORE ADVANCED CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT More About Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Really Want. D8-T46 D8-T47 D8-T47 As you can see. maybe offer an opinion. inquire about something. really be aware of the TTP opportunities in your day-to-day life. If this is a challenge for you. So. we focus further on the TTP options! Page 93 . seductive things. fascinating.

fascinating. seductive things?" Figure 4. then the focus shifts again towards directing things in a specific way. The focus now is upon topics that get you closer towards Romantic. and focusing more and more towards areas and topics that work. and followed the other strategies and tactics shown earlier. steer the conversation towards romantic. and then topics that engage the emotions and imagination.2 Steering Conversations Using More Advanced Conversational Management D8-T49 TTP Mantra (See Figure 4. and seductive things. you will have taken things in the right direction and this will be much easier. However.5. positive and interesting thing.5. This gets her mind into thinking more and more about these things. 4.5.5. seductive things is much easier after you have first move towards fun.5. Seductive things Tactical Formula for More Advanced Conversational Management Keep thinking . fascinating. Fascinating. fascinating. 4. fascinating.2-1: Topic Turning Point Navigation for More Advanced Conversational Management After using General and Advanced Conversational Management.) Page 94 . Moving towards romantic. This may seem odd or hard to do.2-1. if you have been in a conversation for a while.) "Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic.3-1.3 The Model With More Advanced Strategy And Tactics In Place D8-T52 We are just closing in.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Strategic Formula for More Advanced Conversational Management To further direct the conversation into even BETTER areas. Repeat. seductive things?" Move the conversation in that direction."Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. and associating YOU with them! (See Figure 4.

there is a different focus at each stage. Positive.. moving to point (3). and Seductive. Then the Advanced Conversational Management Techniques place the focus more upon items that involve the Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way. Fascinating. After that type of conversation has been established (3). moving to point (4) Page 95 .5. and Interesting. the focus moves towards selecting items based on More Advanced Conversational Management.3-1: More Advanced Conversational Management Model As the conversation progresses. General Conversational Management techniques place the focus on selecting items that are Fun.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course More Advanced Conversational Management Model Figure 4. shown from point (1) to (2). which targets topics and subjects that are Romantic. Early on.

Moreover.MAGIC! However that is NOT the way it works in the real world.) The Dream that Does Not Happen! Figure 4. then a sensual one. and then . that they will get an AMAZING reaction in their first movement across the Model. 4. to a positive one.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4. This hardly ever ever happens. (See Figure 4.1-1: The Dream of a 1-Shot Path To Success! A common misperception is that many guys think that if they can just move a conversation from the start. will work in your favor. Page 96 .1 The 1-Shot Beeline Fallacy D9-T2 Guys assume that they will travel from a general topic.6.6 CONVERSATIONAL FRACTIONATION D9-T1 Using these Conversational Management skills in the real world may be quite different in practice from the way most guys "think" it will happen. Too many guys are too caught up in this one-shot dream of traveling once across the model and getting an amazing result. and get things to be more and more fascinating and exciting.6. and then an emotional one.1-1. the way it really DOES happen.6.

restarts. So. Maybe you start from a very general topic and get all the way through the model towards a very very fascinating topic or subject. emotional and imaginative topics. you may jump back just several steps in our Conversational Management Process. No problem. or maybe the conversation shifts back to that place due to something she says. Use the language tools.6. move on to the next step. When we say "go back". If you get to a very good place.3 Using Conversational Fractionation D9-T5 Start at some normal topic and move through the model towards the right. Maybe you move all the way back to a very "normal" topic (which would be all the way on the left side of the model). g) Do the whole process over and over. Of if you can't seem to get to a good place..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4. stay there and talk about it for a while. Great! Talk about that for a while.. no matter how the conversation jumps around.) a) b) c) d) Page 97 . you back off.. Just start the process again... Because no matter where you start from. This is where a process is done repeatedly over and over. No problem. and fascinating and seductive topics. etc. You back up to a more general topic.2 How Fractionation Works D9-T3 The real world has stops. You just start the process again. Then you "back up" to some extent (even all the way back to a very general topic area) and then move forward across the model again..31. goes for some distance through the model (maybe all the way through). Maybe several times. Then at some point. (See Figure 4. And again. using the Conversational Management techniques Get as far through the model as you can.... So. starts. no matter where you start. In this way.. the conversation ends up being very interesting and fascinating! 4. This actually ADDS to the power and effectiveness of what you are doing.6. Start at any topic (you are on the far left side of the Model) Move forward towards the right. Have fun. here is how this works. you take a conversation from the early stages through the process. The conversation starts. moving through the model towards the right. e) Then move back (towards the left side of the model) This may happen because: • The person you are talking to does that (she asks a question) • Or maybe you do it (just to lighten things up) f) Then start again. you are always moving towards positive topics. and then at some point.6. you go back towards something more "normal". You might do that on your own. This actually works better! We are actually using Fractionation. and then .

over time. Fractionation happens at times because even when you may be at a fairly good place for a while (8).3-1: How Conversation Fractionation Works on the Model Follow the conversation as it moves from (1) to (12). interesting. You become one of those fascinating guys.6.4 Dead Ends Come Back To Life! D9-T6 With this new strategy of using Conversational Fractionation.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Conversational Fractionation at Work Figure 4. there is no such thing as a conversational "Dead End"! Page 98 . The overall trend is that. it's not a bad idea to back up a bit (9) and then move forward again. it ends up being fun. As things move forward from (1). This is not a problem. there is a continued movement up and into better and better areas of conversation. simply back up (3) and then try moving into a better direction (4). and fascinating! 4. that no matter WHAT you talk about. As time goes on (5-12) the conversation gets into better and better areas. at times maybe they move towards an area that is not too good (2).6.

7. o Comment on what is around o Mention common items.. this can happen. When on good topics. No problem. fascinating. you just back up.7 CONVERSATIONAL OVERVIEW AND REVIEW D9-T7 So. and the person becomes interested and fascinated. (think of your TTP options). Do that for a while and then think . • What if you can't make the conversation positive? • What if she always points out the negative aspect? • What if there is NO emotional engagement at ALL? Well. and get the effect. talked more.. —* The entire time: o If you hit a "dead end".. Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Move things in that direction.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course If you happen to take a "wrong turn" somehow and get into an area of discussion that is boring. use the language tools..7. Just back up. stay there for a while.. seductive things? Move things in that direction. etc.2 What If The Outcome Is Not What You Expected? D9-T9 Despite your best efforts.. you might have just found out that they are NOT someone you want to spend time with! That's not a total loss because you STILL learned more.. and interesting? Move things in that direction.3 Summary D9-T10 Go have fun with these tools! Page 99 . Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic.. o If you get to a good subject or topic. positive. and use the Strategy and Tactics of the Conversational Management techniques! Look at "Dead Ends" as being just like a bad turn on a road. and go down another path! 4.. have more material to use in conversations in the future! 4. with you! 4.1 • Conversational Management Approach Start on just about ANY subject. Do that for a while and then think . back up a few steps. or what you both have in common Move forward with the Strategies and Tactics in mind. uninteresting. Where can I go that is fun. use the language tools as much as possible! D9-T8 • • • • • • • • • Keep moving the conversation into these interesting fascinating areas . how do we pull this together? 4. or maybe negative.7.

fascinating. if using those language tools is problem for you.0 TOPICS D9-T11 What do you talk about? As the conversation gets more interesting. the more you talk to people about such things.1 Themes are a way through a discussion or through the "tree of subjects" that we showed earlier. However.. The more experience you get. and closer towards the subjects that will really serve your intent..) Before you can use the language tools with new subjects that you are learning about. yes! How well can you talk about topics that YOU are passionate about while using many of the language tools we talked about in the earlier parts of the course? If you can do that very well . this is something we can and will work on with you. What do you talk about? There is no substitute for experience. then you may want to go back in those earlier sections. A topic is a particular area of discussion that is taking place in a moment. Can you talk passionately about something? Anything? Hopefully. fascinating.". go ahead and practice! (Or maybe do that the next time you go through the course. However. you should be able to use them with subjects in which you are already interested! Page 101 . to get the best effect you will have to be a PART of that conversation and familiar with the topics that may come up. and some familiarity with this type of thing. Topics • • 5. You will be able to say things like "I was talking to someone about this the other day. fun. so that YOU have some material. especially as they get more interesting. and that statement (regarding having actually talked to someone about the topics) will be TRUE! So. You want to be able to discuss these topics easily. TOPICS OF ENTHUSIASM AND PASSION D9-T14 What are you passionate about? Few things are more compelling in a person than for them to be passionate about something (hopefully many things) in life. and THEY said. some practice. what can we do here in this course to help you? We have talked about the way to talk and use language. Themes vs. and while talking about subjects and topics that YOU are really passionate about.great! It's easier to use the language tools if you are discussing topics with which you are familiar. Talking about these topics may be a challenge for many men. we have talked about managing conversations. Most men may not be very familiar with many of the topics that we REALLY want to get into. and it's even better if you are passionate about those topics. Now we want you to become familiar with topics that will really work well for you! We are going to work with some of these topics.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 5. In the meantime. and then the more "material" you will have. the more familiar you will be with these topics. the easier it will get.

or. or topics that are very close to that concept. Your point is to get to. but how effective are those as subjects given the "purpose" of the discussion? You want to discuss topics and things which deal with seduction.just TALKING about these can create a good effect. stay there as long as you can! Talk about it. work it. but a good number of them. Seduction Oriented Topics (SOTs) . and emphasize discussing topics in which YOU are interested and passionate about. at least. You want to be able to discuss topics that deal on some level with Seduction. in the right way Use the language tools! You want to be familiar with these topics (SOTs) and able to discuss them easily: maybe not ALL of them. etc. excitement. or sports. or the office.. Topics that access emotions. judge for yourself. How good are you at the earlier sections that dealt with the language tools? It may be a good idea to go back over those sections. or near.Topics that bring up images and thoughts that are romantic. Examples of SOTs • Connections • Going for it • Making good decisions • Surrendering to feelings • Getting excited • Feeling excited • Trusting your judgment • Taking chances • Indulgence • Maturity • Good decisions • . and seductive.. a topic that is an SOT. You may talk about cars. 5. feelings.) Page 102 .. but doing so while using the language tools. someone) some topics are easier to work with than others.. sensual.. or cleaning the toilet.2 SEDUCTION ORIENTED TOPICS D9-T15 In the context of this course (and your intent in talking with .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course So. These are called "Seduction Oriented Topics". and link it to you! When • • • • • you are at or near an SOT: Use the correct tone of Voice Pace and Lead correctly Link things to you Point at the right times. can create an AMAZING effect! When you do get a conversation into an area near an SOT. in some ways.. (Every guy has his favorites and ones that work best for him. The conversational management sections will help you to move the conversation in a way that will get you near these topics areas. SOTs are the "end goals" when it comes to managing or directing a conversation.

keep it there. you will be able to just "talk" about the subject while using the tools that are available. or in movies. talk about something you heard. or seduction per se. and also topics that you have heard in other materials and products that you have. Seduction Oriented Topics 2) You must become familiar with these! You must be able to talk about them. ask about them. Or.. Meaning. or overhear from others) and listen for when any of these SOTs come up in conversation. use as many of the language tools as you can. easily. the more you practice. and discuss these subjects. Exercises for Seduction Oriented Topics 1) Build your own list of SOTs. Don't worry about talking to women. Get the conversation there. You can use some of those that were listed earlier if you wish. the more you work with the materials. by there very nature. but the more you think about them. Write down your list of SOTs. the more you practice using the tools.. read. hopefully some way that involves you and your own life. bring up images and thoughts that may work for you. the easier it will be to "riff" on these using the language tools. you JUST need to be able to talk. 3) Practice talking about each aloud. Assignments for Seduction Oriented Topics 1) Pay attention to conversations in your life (even things you hear on the radio. and while there. or on TV. or even watched in a movie! (Or heard in a course that you took .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course These topics may seem foreign to you. the easier it will get! Strategic Formula for Seduction Oriented Topics SOTs are topics that. Page 103 . and hopefully add some of your own. and the more you talk to and with people about them. Eventually.. Think of SOME way to discuss these. and without "thinking" about the language tools. or ask questions. Think about other topics you have heard mentioned in this program. have stories about them.Are you able to somehow relate to these in your own life? Maybe something you read or heard? Maybe questions you can ask? ANYTHING?!?!? You do not need to "know" a lot about these topics or be an expert. or anything like that. or joke about them. using as many of the language tools as you can. Or are taking!) . or comment on them! Talk aloud for several minutes about each.

That makes you really think about them. They started and became more and more familiar with these topics. However. and start to get your brain working on them.Talk about these subjects and topics! Make a point to enter into a discussion when one of your SOTs is mentioned. That's what we want to do here. the more you listen.. Because of that. it WILL get easier.3 EXPANDED SEDUCTION ORIENTED TOPICS . Page 104 . I can tell you that it DOES get easier and easier to be able to talk about these things. Many guys who can now talk about these things VERY easily and comfortably started from a place of having NO idea of what to say! They changed. but this time with SOTs. then the more material YOU will have to talk about. You listen more to when they are discussed. and easily come up with 6-8 related topics. These are called Expanded SOTs (SOTXs).SOTXs D9-T24 What if you had not just 10 ways of discussing "Seduction Oriented" subjects. what people think. ask an opinion. quote.. 5. and move through these exercises and assignments. what is said. ask. and frankly. but as long as you start it. See? We are working on a process to get you to become more comfortable and familiar with these things. or even just TRY to do so. this is one of the key challenges that many guys face. (As in. They did it. Really! Learning to discuss such things may start out slowly. anything at all! Talk. SOT Summary I KNOW that these topics may seem foreign to you. ask what something means. Use as many of the language tools as you can. but had even more? Maybe 50? What if that was easy and familiar for you? Think back to how we looked at topics earlier. We learned how you can move from any topic.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Listen to what is being said. it gets easier to enter into more conversations that deal with these topics. The more you hear. That gives YOU more familiarity with discussing them. It may start a bit slowly and awkwardly. but we are walking you through (at least the first steps of) the process to make this easier: • • • • • • • • • • • You have made a list of SOTs. That is understandable. discuss. 2) Now . So can you. However. You start to listen and take notice of when these are discussed. Maybe ask some questions about things that deal with your SOTs."). You do a few exercises to talk about them. this process must start somewhere. and makes it easier for you to talk about them. etc.. Make special note of topics that are CLOSE or similar to these SOTs in some way. Then you get to hear MORE people talk about them. or even when anything CLOSE to one of your SOTs is discussed. "the other day I heard someone talking about. show interest. after having worked with hundreds of guys. And that gives you MORE material to talk about! Which make it easier for you to enter into more conversations about these subjects and topics. make a comment.

how we discussed a Topic Turning Point?) If Connections is a particular subject.. you can take any SOT.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Expanding on a Topic Area "Connections" is an SOT. coworkers. if friends. there are many different types or examples of connecting to people.3-1. comes up in a conversation. it's easy to think of several different aspects of that topic or related topics. can you think of different aspects of that? Parts of Connections? Questions about Connections? Ways of experiencing Connections? People or things with which you can experience Connections? By asking those types of questions (to yourself).with someone you just met .. see Figure 5.. you now have 6-8 ways to discuss it..with your teammates Figure 5. pets. how easy would it be to talk about how you CONNECT with those? And if you talk about Page 105 . Then... Instead of worrying about getting to that one topic (SOT) in a certain way.. SOT Connections SOTX Connections with family Connections with friends Connections with coworkers Connections with pets Connections with a girlfriend Connections with someone you just met Connections with someone while on vacation Connections with music Connections with your teammates Many guys worry about talking about something like "Connections".with coworkers .with family . family. That is one subject.with friends . etc.3-1: How SOTs are related to an SOTXs..with music . or only one aspect of that to discuss (connections in a romantic or sensual context).. They think of only one way of talking about that subject. Look at the list above.. ..with pets . and build a whole list of very similar things to talk about -which are SOTXs! For example. For any given SOT.. the SOTX list consists of all of these items shown in the diagram and listed below. you can talk about that for while. (You do not really need to list "connections with" for each. places.with someone while on vacation . and things that can be discussed.. but can you think of 6-8 different aspects of this? (Remember what we did in the earlier sections. That just makes it easier for our example below).....with a girlfriend . (Does that diagram look familiar?) If "Connections" is an SOT. However as we see here.

and how you (or someone else) can connect with a pet. SOTs " SOTXs List Page 106 . Just make a comment.. all of a sudden there are many MORE ways to get to these really GREAT topics! Exercises f o r Expanded Seduction Oriented T o p i c s 1) Take the SOT list you had earlier (copy those down into the first column below. point out an example regarding pets. it's very easy to then shift.. how to connect with people.3-2. etc. b. if someone is talking about pets. or maybe even someone. c. you are to list 5 (at least) related topics. a.) Family Friends Coworkers Pets Connections A girlfriend Someone you just met Someone met on vacation Music Teammates Figure 5. This is your SOTX list. you can be as close as one step away from an SOT.. then you can shift towards ANOTHER type of "connection" very easily! (See Figure 5.) and for each SOT. then you can shift to talking about "how you can connect with a pet" fairly easily.3-2: SOTXs Can Lead Into SOTs If any of the topics in the SOTX list comes up in conversation. ask a question.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course THAT (how you connect in that manner) for a while.to . or a special person. (Yes. this is a TTP diagram in reverse!) For example.. that you just met! When you expand SOTs in this way. If you talk about that for a while. or different aspects of that topic... or how that topic can be experienced.

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Talk about that SOTX for a moment or two.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 2) Now for each SOTX. You have 50 SOTXs that you are now familiar with as well. but now do so while using the language tools. and see if you can then focus what you are saying towards the SOT itself. That gives you a LOT of flexibility in conversations! Page 108 . (Like the earlier example. Step back and look at what you have done! You have 10 SOTs with which YOU are familiar.) 3) Do the same thing again. then about connecting with pets. practice talking about it out loud. then about connecting in general. you talk about pets.

with someone you just met . spotting these opportunities get easier and easier. SOTXs are now like "conversational landmarks" for you in terms of navigating a conversation.4-1: SOTXs Are The Pathways To SOTs SOTXs are an easy way to get towards SOTs.. We have broken these down. and move the conversation towards SOTs. The techniques that you have learned are the sort of things that many people do naturally. D9-T32 We discussed how to develop an SOTX list from an SOT. concept of "topics related to a topic" in many many places.. The more you work with this..4 CONVERSATIONAL MODEL WITH SOTXs. modeled the process arid the steps involved..with family .. Maybe you will even start to notice SOTXs that were not even ON your list. The real usefulness of this is when you reverse the order as shown in Figure 5. it's about getting YOU comfortable and familiar with these topics. use the language tools if and whenever you can.. broke it into bits and pieces that you can learn and do as exercises. the easier it will be to notice SOTXs.... The more familiar you are with these subjects.with pets Connections .with your teammates Family Friends Coworkers Pets A girlfriend Someone you just met Someone met on vacation Music Teammates Connections This is how we developed SOTXs This is the most useful way of thinking of SOTXs Figure 5. it is easy to then move the conversation towards topics that will work better for you (SOTs).with someone while on vacation . "I didn't list that SOTX.with friends . .. 5.with music . You may think. Page 109 . See if you can move the conversation a bit towards the SOT itself. especially politicians and activists. or anything like them mentioned. but it IS related to an SOT that I have worked with".with coworkers . You will start to notice this...... In addition. If anything like an SOTX comes up in a conversation. Summary You now have MORE material to work with than you ever thought possible! This is not about memorizing. It ALL gets easier! 2) Start to "direct" the conversations you encounter where your SOTXs are mentioned.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Assignments for Expanded Seduction Oriented Topics 1) Look at all of your SOTXs! That's a LOT of subjects! Pay attention in your life to see how often any of those items come up in conversation (or maybe you just hear them somewhere).. if you hear any of them mentioned.with a girlfriend .. use such techniques a LOT. you know that you are very close to getting near a subject area that will work very well for you.. that process can work both ways. However. and then built upon that step by step. .4-1. Good speakers.

that this process will now be easier than you may have imagined. and done the exercises and assignments. that is not an abbreviation or exaggeration. and for you to just start to "recognize" these things on your own . there are really 50 SOTXs and 10 SOTs shown .. or the SOTXs.4-2: Your Multiple Pathways to SOTs! Now that you have worked with 10 SOTs.the number that YOU have actually worked with so far! Since SOTXs and SOTs are the "goals" in terms of managing a conversation. you have already worked with 10 SOTs and 50 SOTXs as shown in Figure 5.4-2. and 50 SOTXs (in the earlier exercises) you now have many many SOTXs with which YOU are familiar! More importantly. you have started to train yourself to "recognize" these landmarks. SOTXs SOTs Figure 5. However in the figure above. Page 110 . It's to have you practice and become familiar with them. and then towards SOTs.4-3 shows this in the model itself. In many of the diagrams. and anything like an SOTX comes up in the discussion. to be able to notice when you are talking about things which are "close to" topics that will work well for you. If you have followed the program. we can then show them as part of our Conversational Model. this will start to happen for you. you will get closer and closer to SOTXs. As the topics get better and better. we have had to compress or simplify them quite a bit and show only a fraction of the actual steps and numbers involved so that the diagrams do not become too large or complex. you now see how easy it can be to move over to an SOT! In fact. you have practiced with so many of these SOTXs. The point here (again) is not to memorize the SOTs. After all.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course So whenever you are having a conversation.without "thinking" about them. Figure 5.

or anything that is "related" to an SOT. Move towards SOTs. you start to "listen" for topics that are SOTXs. just follow the steps listed earlier in the Conversational Management sections. 5. then start to pay attention for SOTXs. When you get to an SOTx.) Page 111 .4-3: SOTs Are THE Goals in Conversational Management As you move through a conversation. or as close as you can towards SOTs.5 THE COMPLETE CONVERSATIONAL MODEL D9-T33 Start from any topic and get to where you want! Yes. it's that you have trained yourself to recognize things that are SOTs.. and topics that are close to that (SOTXs). You can start from almost ANYWHERE.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course SOTs in the Conversational Management Model The end goal is to get to. which are topics near or related to seduction (a step or two away from SOTs).5-1. and using this type of approach you will have fascinating conversations with people that lead to where YOU want to go! (See Figure 5. Period. Then move the conversation towards an SOT! This works. you can start from just about ANY topic and get to GREAT topics! It's easy. Stay there for a while if you can! Figure 5. and ANY TOPIC. then you can simply move things towards a topic that is very seduction-oriented! The point is not to have a "list" in mind. SOTXs SOTs Listen for SOTXs Anything near or related to an SOT. SOTXs are a pathway to make that easier.

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and see how easy it is to get to some good topic that is an SOT.Engaging the emotions and imagination in a positive way . or SOTX.Fun.. Steer towards .Romantic. interesting ... back up! If you move back to a general topic. exciting. Fractionate If you take a wrong turn.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Figure 5. Especially when at or near SOTXs and SOTs.5-1: The Complete Conversational Management Model (continued) Start a Conversation Manage the Conversation Move the Conversation in a Good Direction Steer towards ... start over! Assignment! 1) Try it! Start directing conversations using the conversational management model.. or very close! Page 113 . Steer towards . seductive things Direct the Conversation Pay attention when Good Subjects come up (SOTXs) Listen for anything a step or two away from an SOT Move towards SOTs Stay there as long as you can Use The Language Tools! As much as possible. fascinating.

"how can I get to my pattern". Its just a "type" of talking that you can (and will be able to) use when you feel it is appropriate. we work in that manner. plus these areas will work for HER because SHE selected them (in a manner of speaking) • Talk and manage the conversation into an area that DOES work for you.1 PATTERNS PATTERN OVERVIEW D10-T1 What is a pattern? • A plan.0 6. get her to "experience" good feelings and states o Use the Conversational Management Techniques to get there o Get her to think about good and/or exciting feelings Page 115 . Link and associate these feelings to you. 6. etc. certain actions. A representative sample. clarifying.Many of the details of driving a car are things you just "do". Amplify these feelings and states by talking. • Instead. • An example of what you can say. She may take the conversation into better places that you could have predicted. Once you actually play the game though. get her to "experience" good feelings and states. With this new approach to learning and using these tools. The navigation is handled through our use of Conversational Management techniques. Patterns are just examples of the use of these tools. or "how can I bring up a pattern that I know".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 6. You don't have to think about moving the wheel. A New way of thinking about the use of patterns • The wrong way is to talk to someone and to keep thinking. we have practiced the small details (language skills) so that these are automatic. THAT ends up being a very effective way to create "patterns". It's best to just think of patterns as examples. Present a Call to action. The Pattern Formula in detail. "A plan" or "model". and being aware of when you DO get to an area of conversation that does allow you to use a pattern. You practice bits and pieces of the sport. or model to be followed in making things. or series of actions. Examples/Analogies: • Sports . that's the key. • While talking to a woman.You don't play the entire game ahead of time. or navigation. and as "a way of speaking". the clutch.2 PATTERN FORMULA D10-T7 Tactical Formula for Patterns While talking to a woman. diagram. you make decisions on-the-spot as to what to do and how to proceed. • Driving . or "how can I bring this pattern up". handling the gas pedal. These smaller skills become automatic and you focus instead of driving. Don't think of "how can I get to the pattern". • Maybe talk to a woman and allow HER to bring up things that end up working well in pattern-like language. Use the language tools. or could say. We practice specific parts of areas of the skills we wish to use later on. asking. think about having a conversation (and managing it correctly). In the same manner.

canned patterns are good.. 6. don't focus TOO much on them. asking. pre-rehearsed. Therefore it is best to maybe have some of these memorized.these pre-written or canned patterns can work very well. and have them there for your use if and when the correct situation comes up. In THAT case . and real-time "Riffing". or things you have read. o Use "this" and "these" (be aware of that and those as well) o Point and mark appropriately Present a Call to action o "Do it now" language o Create a Challenge o Create an Opportunity o Talk about the chance to "Seize the moment" o A simple add-on to the Language Tools There are two main ways of doing patterns. and that the woman will react to what the patterns is about. Their best use is when you use the Conversational Management techniques and then find that the conversation just happens to get to or near a pattern that you DO happen to know already. because doing so may work against you. sound quite strange.4 PATTERN RIFFING IN REAL-TIME D10-T13 This is the ability to just create pattern language on-the-fly." etc. for her to elaborate and describe o Repeating back what she has said o Provide examples from your own life o Provide examples from friends. However. The problem is if you are SO focused on just "getting to the pattern" that you know (or even one of many that you know) then it's difficult to have a good conversation. and to use what is needed in the moment. what you need to do is to look at. many times it does not. • The interesting topic that she and you are discussing o what is happening o what you know Page 116 . "this person. these canned patterns DO have some usefulness. So. The good ways to use these are as teaching and learning tools. but they assume that you are in a conversation where they will work and be somewhat "appropriate" to what is being discussed. and do. "Canned" patterns. if you just "drop" a pattern into the conversation. when you are talking to a woman. In the real world.. and the proper context is not created. Pre-written. Some times that does happen. 6. they can.3 CANNED PATTERNS D10-T12 These are the pre-rehearsed. pre-written patterns that you have seen and heard. etc Link and associate those feelings to you o Use the Language Tools o Use linkage phrases like "now with me".. clarifying o Use the Language Tools o Asking her for info.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • o Get her feeling good and/or exciting feelings o Get her experiencing (or recall the experience of) good and/or exciting feelings o Get her to think about things that she wants or desires Amplify these feelings and states by talking. But.

states. Yes. Page 117 . emotions. Then we use those as a basis for discussion. THE BEST PATTERN IS THIS: • • Get her to talk and think about positive. Use the language tools so that YOU become associated with those things. Then you have a conversation and. looking and listening for positive feelings. and and use the language tools. get her to. exciting. and actions in the conversation. it really IS that easy! look for: Positive emotions and feeling Positive sensations (as in physical ones) Exciting feelings.. and sensual things. Wanting to take action or seize an opportunity Always • • • • See the pattern here? We are in general.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • o what she is reacting to o and discuss things which are appropriate.. • Use some "act now" languaging. using the tools. interesting. • Talk about these things or listen to you talk about these things • get her to think about these things • get her to feel these things • get her to link them to you.

1. D10-T28 The more energy and effort you put into this. AND FOLLOW THE COURSE. fifth. Use the Language Tools 7. Use the conversational management techniques b. and/or compulsion to act a.0 7. Use the Language Tools 5. 7. -' d. Whether its your first. you will benefit. 7. DO THE EXERCISES.4 BE WILLING AND PREPARED TO PUT ENERGY INTO THIS COURSE. of fourteenth time through. and view an overall strategy. 3. 7. Keep the conversation going. Direct the conversation in a way that takes you toward good topics a. We really are focused upon changing you.5 CONGRATULATIONS! WELL DONE! D10-T29 Page 119 . the greater your results will be. Get the conversation into good subjects (SOTXs. comfort in. Talk about something positive and interesting c.3 LISTEN.1 REVIEW AND SUMMARY REVIEW D10-T18 The course has followed a "bottom-up" approach to training. but the method of approaching it is very different. Create a willingness. Keep her there and keep talking! a. focusing first on small details. Now we can look from the "top-down". and the more engaged you are in the process. SOTs) 4. a. Direct and/or link those feelings towards you. and then building up to bigger and bigger pieces. and really take the time to do the exercises. Both you and her talk! 2.2 SUMMARY D10-T26 This may be similar to information you have heard in the past. a. and how you speak. Engage her emotions and imagination in a positive way.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 7. Fractionate if and when needed. D10-T27 Listen to the full explanations. Use the conversational management techniques b. It really is up to you.

0 EXAMPLES. EXAMPLES Dll-Tl The discussions presented on the audio for this section are intentionally "casual" to familiarize you even more with the use of these tools. and provide you with some real-world examples of their use. Page 121 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 8. EXAMPLES.

emotions.. and to "soften " the way in which something is said. Mouth. Pause? Energy And Enthusiasm Using energy and enthusiasm when speaking so that people can become energized and enthusiastic about listening to and being with you. and well-placed pauses. • If I were to . and processes awaken. • Instantaneously " Suddenly • Find Yourself • Convince Yourself • Suppose • Imagine " Mysterious (-ly) • Wonder (-ous) (-ously) Weasel Phrases Use Weasel Phrases to keep the conversation going. to be cool. • Have you ever . • Be descriptive.. and charismatic presence.. o o Page 123 . • Nose. so that their feelings.. " As you.. • What's it like when .. allowing you to say more (and maybe more provocative things) about a subject. • Slow. Fast. or Chest? Pacing And Pausing Use variations in pace. to convey a sense of drama and intrigue in what you are saying in a way that "captivates "people and makes them want to listen to you. • Passionate or Boring? o o o • LANGUAGE TOOLS A N T D E T A I L S o Adjectives And Adverbs Use more adjectives and adverbs in your speech to appeal to and excite the emotional side of the listener.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course APPENDIX 1 Course "Cheat Sheet" • SPEAKING POINTERS o The "Cool" Factor You don't have to be cold. • If you were to . powerful. Voice Tone And Tonality Use your best tone of voice (speaking from your chest) to convey a relaxed..... use Adjectives And Adverbs Trance Words Help to get the subconscious mind of the listener to be more of apart of your conversation.

• Move! Point! Linking Gestures Towards And Away • Whenever you say something negative. intrigue.. to create a compelling will on the part of the listener follow you and listen to you. link them to you so that YOU become something and someone that they feel good about • Now with me • In me • In myself • with this • these • this belief • these feelings Easy-Linking • Use "This" and "These" when referring to anything positive.. • Use "That" and "Those" when referring to anything negative.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o Embedded Commands Use embedded commands repeatedly and in the proper context. Point away. Say "these". a smile. • Point Or Touch On Positive —* o o o • LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES o Pace And Lead Pacing and Leading allows you "be " in the conversation for a while and gain rapport and information. motion. and accentuate what you are saying in order to be more compelling as a speaker and to get even more attention from your listener or audience. Those • Positive statement. These. Linking After getting someone to experience good feelings and emotions. Point away • Positive statement. interest. point or gesture towards yourself. Easy Linking Expanded Pointing With This. etc. Say "that". Easy Anchoring When the person you are talking with displays a positive feeling of some type. gesture. That.. Point to you • Negative statement. • Can you do this now. Say "this". o o • MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures Move. • Whenever you say something positive. allowing you to move things more in your favor later on Page 124 . laugh. point or gesture away. Point to you • Negative Say "those". touch them to help anchor it to you.

or thoughts) use "More and More " as a way to string them together (and increase your chances of that happening • The more X. B. in order to provide more power to what you are saying • At The End Listing at The End is a way to provide several options (which may differ) but to emphasize the option that YOU want. Listing • General Listing General Listing is a way to quickly provide several reason. B. b. The More Z. "List" several things or examples which support your point.Bad • One option . • Topics and Subjects • Mindset or Frame of Mind • Current Reality • As (while) you are "X" (Pace) Where "X" is something that is true in their current reality (perceptions. acknowledgement.Burying Items is a way to mention an outrageous or very direct option for "testing" purposes. the More Y. experiences. LAST • Burying Items Listing . and C When making a point.) • Then you will "Y" Where "Y" is something you want them to experience (Lead) o Give Them A Reason Giving a reason will make people more apt to do things for you and agree with you. and C When making a point. and/or interest. but mention the one which YOU want to put the most emphasis on. Then start to move or shift things in a different way. • Request X because (of) Y. the more Y. statement. or to maybe see if you can get someone to agree to it! • a. etc.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Show agreement. a way that you want. keep the discussion focused on a topic that serves your purposes. • a.another option o o o Page 125 . and c When giving examples or options to someone. the More Z. or giving an example. More And More If you want to lead someone through a series of steps (actions. thoughts. "List" several things briefly in order. etc. • As you X. etc. the More Y. you can get away with an outrageous or very direct option by burying that option in the middle of a List. which support your point • A. Compare And Contrast Use this technique to keep the conversation going. or giving an example. and incorporate the language tools • This thing vs that thing • How two things are similar • How two things are different • Good . The more Y. statement. understanding.

discuss.... • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control Particular Wants What does she want to have. • Find a way to map what YOU want. • Take any subject. • You seem as if. • Are you able to . and evoke favorable states. or fun.. • Link good thoughts.. to be a way for them to get what they want. • If you can ... etc). • Using Their Own Processes • Find or assume what someone wants • Create an opportunity for them to get it or demonstrate they have it • Make that "demonstration" work in your favor. and beliefs. o Opportunities And Challenges • Find out what someone wants. • Use the language tools in the discussion. feelings. Parts Of A Person Use Parts of a Person as a way to find.. or show it. • Break it down into its component parts and discuss them.. can (use smart.. feelings and emotions to yourself... • The smart people I know.. Mini-Challenges • You seem.. • Maybe you can . even when the other person claims or demonstrates that such parts are NOT there • For every part of a person that will work against you. • You may . • I wonder if you can . do it.. or point in a discussion... allowing you time to gather information and link yourself to good thoughts. or adventurous. • You seem like ... • Challenge them to demonstrate it. • If you are able to ..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o Parts • • Parts Of A Subject Discussing many of the parts of a subject keeps the conversation going. or want to be perceived as having? • Talk to them and find out. • You might.. • You might see . • Challenge them to do that.. —* • • • Page 126 . idea.. assume there is a part that will work WITH you..\ Universal Wants You can assume that most people want these. feelings and emotions. • etc.

• Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control " • Excitement Challenges Challenge them to get what they want. interesting things • Keep thinking . fun.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • Opportunities. positive and interesting. think of general navigation • She Must Be Engaged In The Conversation! You need her to talk. she may have to do Y to prove that. and see how doing Y would demonstrate it?> • Does she have what it takes to get X. • Can she see an opportunity to have "X". Consider the wants and needs that a person may have .. • Don't engage in conversations when it's NOT about positive. interesting things. • Topic Turning Point The process of moving from one topic to one of 6-8 relevant topics • In general. Advanced Conversational Management To direct the conversation into even BETTER areas. bring up positive... then ."Where can I go that is fun. Are they ready to take advantage of that (this) opportunity? • Does she really want X and see how Y can get that? • Does she really have X. Creating Them -.. fun. and interesting?" " Move the conversation in that direction. • Introduce topics that are fun. positive. General Conversational Management To steer the conversation in a good direction.. listen and be IN the conversation! • Conversational Dynamics Topics flow from one to the next. by doing Y? • Does she want you to THINK she has X.. or show what they have..-and do Y to get it? • Can she do Y and make it happen? • Can she see that Y will get her what she wants? • Can she trust herself enough to do Y? o • Ambiguities — CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT o General .. interesting things. steer the conversation towards directions that engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way o o Page 127 . • Navigation Don't think of an exact plan. •• Show interest when someone discusses positive. • Repeat. fun..

and while there. Get the conversation there.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • o Keep thinking . use the language tools. steer the conversation towards romantic. Seduction Oriented Topics SOTs are topics that.Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Move the conversation in that direction. • Where can I go that is fun. fascinating. More Advanced Conversational Management To further direct the conversation into even BETTER areas. • When on good topics. Repeat. and interesting? • Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? • Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic."Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. back up a few steps. bring up images and thoughts that may work for you. Conversational Fractionation • Using Conversational Fractionation • Start • Move • Back Up • Repeat • Dead Ends Come Back To Life! • Just back up and start over! Conversational Overview and Review • General Flow • Start on just about ANY subject. by there very nature. seductive things?" " Move the conversation in that direction. keep it there. and seductive things. • Repeat. stay there for a while. • Keep thinking . fascinating. o If you get to a good subject or topic. positive. seductive tilings? • The entire time: o If you hit a "dead end". fascinating. use as many of the language tools as you can. and get the effect. • Connections • Going for it • Making good decisions Page 128 o . use the language tools as much as possible! • What If The Outcome Is Not What You Expected? • Move on! o o • TOPICS o Topics Of Enthusiasm and Passion Few things are more compelling in a person than for them to be passionate about something (hopefully many things) in life.

Link and associate these feelings to you.Great as EXAMPLES • Learn and know some of them they may be useful. • Manage . Page 129 o . Conversational Model With SOTXs. o Wanting to take action or seize an opportunity • Use the language tools. The Complete Conversational Model See Appendix 2 o o • PATTERNS o Pattern • • • • Formula While talking to a woman. Amplify these feelings and states by talking.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • • • • • o Surrendering to feelings Getting excited Feeling excited Trusting your judgment Taking chances Indulgence Maturity Good decisions Expanded Seduction Oriented Topics ... • Get her to. Pattern Riffing In Real-Time • Use the Conversational Management techniques to get to good subjects • Look at the interesting topic that she and you are discussing o what is happening o what you know o what she is reacting to o and discuss things which are appropriate. there are easily 6-8 variations on that SOT that you can talk about. o Canned Patterns . Present a Call to action. and • Look for: o Positive emotions and feeling o Positive sensations (as in physical ones) o Exciting feelings. get her to "experience" good feelings and states.SOTXs For each SOT. • Direct . Those are STOXs.Use the conversational Management Techniques. asking.Look out for SOTXs • Direct 0 Move towards SOTs. o Talk about these things or listen to you talk about these things o get her to think about these things o get her to feel these things o get her to link them to you. clarifying.

Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • Use some "act now" languaging. o The Best Pattern Is This: • Get her to talk and think about positive. and sensual things. exciting. interesting. • Use the language tools so that YOU become associated with those things Page 130 .

Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course APPENDIX II Speaking and Language Tools "Cheat Sheet" • SPEAKING POINTERS o Voice Tone And Tonality o Pacing And Pausing o Energy And Enthusiasm LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS o Adjectives And Adverbs o Trance Words o Weasel Phrases o Embedded Commands o Linking o Easy-Linking (This. That.Point Or Touch On Positive And Negative LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES o Pace And Lead • Topics and Subjects • Mindset of Frame • Current Reality o Give Them A Reason o Listing " General . Those) MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures o Linking Gestures (Towards And Away) o Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This.At the End • Burying Items o More And More o Compare And Contrast o Parts " Parts of a Subject • Parts of a Person o Opportunities And Challenges • Mini Challenges " Opportunities And Challenges o Ambiguities • • • Page 131 . These. That...) o Easy Anchoring .

Fun. Positive. Seductive SOTXs SOTs The Complete Conversational Management Model Page 133 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course APPENDIX III The Complete Conversational Management Model The Complete Conversational Management Model General Mgt. and Interesting Advanced Mgt. Romantic. Fascinating. Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way More Advanced Mgt.

. Fractionate If you take a wrong turn. Steer towards .. Especially when at or near SOTXs and SOTs.Romantic.Fun. Steer towards . start over! Page 134 .. seductive things Direct the Conversation Pay attention when Good Subjects come up (SOTXs) Listen for anything a step or two away from an SOT Move towards SOTs Stay there as long as you can Use The Language Tools! As much as possible. fascinating.Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way . positive...Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course The Complete Conversational Management Model (continued) Start a Conversation Manage the Conversation Move the Conversation in a Good Direction Steer towards . back up! If you move back to a general topic.. interesting .

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