This action might not be possible to undo. Are you sure you want to continue?
Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course
A structured training program that teaches the language and conversational skills of Speed Seduction .
Speed Seduction is a registered trademark of Ross Jeffries, used with permission.
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course
Table of Contents
Page No. Title Page Legal Notices Table of Contents Product Content Product Protection and User Consent Formatting and Conventions Acknowledgements Forward Registration Important Note About Exercises and Assignments 1.0 INTRODUCTION AND GETTING STARTED i ii iii vi vi vii ix x xii xii 1 D1-T1 Disk and Track No.*
1.2 1.3 1.4 1.5 1.6 2.0 2.1 2.1.1 2.1.2 2.1.3 2.1.4 2.2 2.2.1 2.2.2 2.2.3 2.2.4 2.2.5 2.2.6 2.3 2.3.1 2.3.2 2.3.3 2.3.4 2.4 3.0 3.1 3.1.1
Why Is This Course Needed? What We Will Handle, and How Investing In Yourself, Or Not Can We Change The Way You Speak? Manipulation and Ethics Concerns SPEAKING AND LANGUAGE
1 2 3 4 5 7
D1-T10 D1-T15 D1-T24 D1-T26 D1-T32 D2-T1 D2-T1 D2-T1 D2-T2 D2-T15 D2-T26 D2-T39 D2-T40 D3-T1 D3-T14 D3-T25 D3-T42 D4-T1 D4-T12 D4-T14 D4-T22 D4-T30 D4-T35 D4-T46 D5-T1 D5-T2 D5-T9
Speaking Pointers 7 The "Cool" Factor 7 Voice Tone and Tonality 7 Pacing and Pausing 9 Energy and Enthusiasm 10 Language Tools and Details 12 Adjectives and Adverbs 12 Trance Words 13 Weasel Phrases 15 Embedded Commands 17 Linking 19 Easy-Linking (This, That, These, Those) 21 More Tools 23 Pointing and Gestures 24 Linking Gestures (Towards and Away) 25 Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This, That, These, Those ...) 26 Easy Anchoring - Point Or Touch, On Positive 27 Review 29 LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES Pace and Lead General Pace and Lead Techniques 31 31 32
* Disk and Track Numbers References to the CDs and the tracks on them are shown in a format such as "D2-T4", which in this example refers to Disk 2, Track 4.
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course
Table of Contents (continued)
Page No. 3.1.2 3.1.3 3.1.4 3.2 3.3 3.3.1 3.3.2 3.3.3 3.3.4 3.3.5 3.4 3.5 3.6 3.6.1 3.6.2 3.7 3.7.1 3.7.2 3.7.3 3.7.4 3.8 3.9 4.0 4.1 4.1.1 4.1.2 4.1.3 4.1.4 4.2 4.2.1 4.2.2 4.2.3 4.3 4.3.1 4.3.2 4.3.3 4.3.4 4.3.5 4.4 4.4.1 4.4.2 4.4.3 4.4.4 4.4.5 4.5 4.5.1 4.5.2 Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects Pace and Lead-Mindset Or Frame Of Mind Pace and Lead - Current Reality Give Them a Reason Listing General Listing Listing - At The End Listing - Burying Items Listing, Pauses, and Emphasis.. Listing Review More and More Compare and Contrast Parts Parts of a Subject Parts of a Person Opportunities and Challenges Using Their Own Processes What Do People Want? Mini-Challenges Opportunities and Challenges Ambiguities Summary CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT Challenges Detailed and Specific Plans Are Just Not Workable Navigation Example Navigational Strategies Are Needed She Must Be Engaged In The Conversation! How Conversations Happen Conversational Dynamics Conversational Model Topic Turning Point General Conversational Management Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Want How To Steer Conversations, Moment To Moment The Model With Strategy and Tactics In Place Exercises and Assignments Summary Advanced Conversational Management Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Really Want Steering Conversations Moment To Moment The Model With Advanced Strategy and Tactics In Place Exercises and Assignments Summary More Advanced Conversational Management More About Getting The Conversation To Go Steering Conversations Using More Advanced 33 35 38 39 41 41 43 45 48 48 48 51 54 54 58 61 62 62 63 64 69 69 71 71 71 71 72 72 72 72 73 77 79 79 81 82 83 86 86 86 88 88 91 93 93 93 94 Disk a n d Track N o . * D5-T12 D5-T20 D5-T29 D5-T32 D6-T1 D6-T4 D6-T15 D6-T24 D6-T36 D6-T37 D6-T38 D6-T54 D7-T1 D7-T4 D7-T15 D7-T34 D7-T36 D7-T38 D7-T40 D7-T43 D7-T64 D7-T66 D8-T1 D8-T1 D8-T3 D8-T4 D8-T5 D8-T10 D8-T12 D8-T13 D8-T14 D8-T15 D8-T16 D8-T16 D8-T19 D8-T23 D8-T25 D8-T32 D8-T33 D8-T33 D8-T35 D8-T38 D8-T39 D8-T46 D8-T47 D8-T47 D8-T49
2 4.3 6.3 4.2 7. EXAMPLES.5. 4.0 6.SOTXs Conversational Model With SOTXs The Complete Conversational Model PATTERNS Pattern O v e r Pattern Formula Canned Patterns Pattern Riffing In Real-Time REVIEW AND SUMMARY Review Summary Listen.2 5.6..3 5.1 5..3 4.4 7. . * D8-T52 D9-T1 D9-T2 D9-T3 D9-T5 D9-T6 D9-T7 D9-T8 D9-T9 D9-T10 D9-T11 D9-T14 D9-T15 D9-T24 D9-T32 D9-T33 D10-T1 D10-T1 D10-T7 D10-T12 D10-T13 D10-T18 D10-T18 D10-T26 D10-T27 D10-T28 D10-T29 D11 . Conversational Fractionation The 1-Shot Beeline Fallacy How Fractionation Works Using Conversational Fractionation Dead Ends Come Back To Life! Conversational Overview and Review Conversational Management Approach What If The Outcome Is Not What You Expected? Summary TOPICS Topics Of Enthusiasm and Passion Seduction Oriented Topics Expanded Seduction Oriented Topics .1 7.6.4 7..6.7.1 6.6 4. Do The Exercises. .0 7.7.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Table of Contents (continued) Page No.3 7. 94 96 96 97 97 98 99 99 99 99 101 101 102 104 109 111 115 115 115 116 116 119 119 119 119 119 119 121 Disk a n d Track N o .2 4. and Follow The Course Be Willing and Prepared To Put Energy Into Congratulations! Well Done! EXAMPLES.7 4. .0 5.4 4.3 5.1 4.2 6.4 5.5 8.0 The Model With More Advanced Strategy and Tactics In Place.6. .7. APPENDICES I II III Course "Cheat Sheet" Speaking and Language Tools "Cheat Sheet" The Complete Conversational Management Model 123 131 133 Page v . .1 4. EXAMPLES v i e w .5 6..
that is simply to show a list of related items. Usually the graphic is shown on the page immediately following where that graphic is first mentioned in the text. a "sans-serif typeface). there is not an exact place in the book that correlates to the start of each and every track on the audio CDs.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Formatting and Conventions The following formatting. Text within graphics. Page vii .Italicized Text is used for emphasis in many cases where boldface text may by nearby.. The audio is NOT an exact duplicate of the text shown in the workbook. The relationship between these two can be best described by considering the workbook text to be (for the most part) an "outline" of what is presented in the audio. Since the work book is an "outline" and not a transcript. graphic titles. i. and Assignments are all shown using this typeface (Arial. This shows information that could be considered part of an overall "outline" of what the audio presentation contains. Italicized Text .As shown to the right Towards the right margin of section titles and headings.At times. items are presented in a list-like fashion such as this: • Item 1 • Item 2 • Item 3 • Etc. The graphics in the latter sections are significant in that they are an essential part of the understanding and leaning. There are certain conventions used in the formatting of the workbook. Graphics are used in the workbook as well.A majority of the workbook content is shown in this typeface (Times New Roman. Italics are also used to point the reader towards specific content of the audio CDs. . A majority of the workbook is presented in an "outline" form. However these conventions are guidelines. Exercises. If the graphic cannot fit there (due to page breaks) then the graphic is placed on the next available page. or clarity. and conventions have been developed and are used throughout this transcript/workbook. and to make it easier to reference those items at a later time. and the Formulas. Not every track number is listed. Listen to the audio where an example is presented. Lists . Although there are paragraphs of explanatory text. a "serif typeface). It is also used for subject headings so that these stand out and apart from the normal text. and their use is key to many students' understanding of the concepts presented. D3-T5 CD Track References . these are in most cases presented as a way to augment the content of the audio presentation.Boldface Text is used to emphasize certain text or passages. Therefore most of the track references are shown at the start of major sections. Boldface Text . CD Location References are shown using terms such as "D3-T5" in the text. The written text is NOT a transcript. styles. there may be instances when the conventions are not used for the sake of emphasis. or major points in the workbook. This shows (for example) the Disk (3) and the Track number (5) that corresponds to that part of the workbook contents..e. graphic captions. and the italics are simply used as a way to show a different manner of emphasis. Samples of the formatting and conventions used: Typefaces .
there are instances where the definitions may be clouded to some degree. and Assignments are shown inside boxes such as this. or maybe and Assignment can be done alone by the student. The number is in the format of "XYZ-A" where "XYZ" denotes the number of the section where the graphic is placed. Most exercises can be done alone. This may require that a graphic be placed on the next page after where it is first mentioned (instead of being directly below where the graphic is first mentioned in the text). Page viii . Although the difference between Exercises and Assignments is maintained through most of the workbook.If a graphic has text that helps to further explain that graphic. -3) to account for multiple graphics in one section of text. fact. it is required in order for the "flow" of the book content to remain consistent. This is shown below. For example.1 . Although this is not optimal. Exercises. then that text is shown immediately below the graphic using an indented paragraph such as this. Assignments usually requier the reader to go out and interact with other person(s) in order to perform them correctly. but that is a necessity due to the complexity of the book. an Exercise may require interaction with other people. Formula. Assignments also call for action on the part of the reader. and the "A" indicates the number of the graphic within a section itself (i. . Similarly. This also may result in some page breaks being in places which are not optimal.e.The workbook is laid out to minimize the amount of blank space where reasonably possible. Candidate Topics Figure XYZ-1: Graphic Title Sub-paragraph . Exercises are a series of instructions that call upon the reader to do or perform certain actions. Each Formula is presented in its own "text box" as shown here. or technique. A Formula is a way to present a concise explanation of some item. Page Breaks . -2.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Each graphic has a number and a title of some type. Text Boxes . there are cases where text boxes may actually "break" across two pages.Text boxes are used for very specific purposes in the workbook.
most notably Hypnotica. MC. and to help you in finding the Women or Woman of Your Dreams. the creator of Speed Seduction . and those who have entrusted me to teach you and to guide you. / must apologize to some degree for the time it has taken to finish this product. confidants. Yates Canipe. opening the door for many into the world of self improvement. Working with these clients was especially instrumental in formulating and perfecting the concepts and teaching methods used in this product. DM. and students (we are each all of these and more) in the TAGR Group. who have placed their trust in me and allowed me the experience of showing them new and wonderful possibilities for what their lives may have to offer. associates. Special thanks to my friends. To my coaching clients. To those in the original SD Lair group. but have also shown many the way to a new way of living. I may miss a few sales because of such a delay. Ross's developments have lead not only to helping many men with this part of their lives. and for the assistance they provided with this product. mentors. . To the many experts out there who have augmented the SS teachings by showing me other aspects of the mind. who was the business genius that brought Speed Seduction® to the masses through seminars and products. SM. Dave Riker Page ix . who helped me by allowing me to help them. and to all of the Students out there who I have met at Speed Seduction® seminars. colleagues. Thank you. but I sincerely hope that the results will prove to have made the wait worthwhile. JL..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Acknowledgements The first and foremost acknowledgement goes out to Ross Jeffries himself. and this wait may have annoyed a few people. and have opened the door for me to find many ways of self-improvement and understanding. To Dr. those who have read what I have written.insight and teaching that I think is possible. EVS. To all of you. The main reason is that I do not wish to release any product until I believe that I am able to provide the level of quality. and who has also contributed greatly to helping men change their minds about themselves.. teachers. and MD. SP. and what is possible in their lives.
some of the most wonderful moments of life are brought about by people. other people. This is so sad. and showing themselves in the best and most honest light. I know of many women who are always distraught that they seem to not be able to meet good men.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Forward One of the most wonderful things about life is the idea of connecting with others. as well. They don't know how to keep a woman's interest. Whether a man decides to use this information as way to embark upon a period of his life which involves casual romantic interludes. It's for these men. are NOT in short supply. teachings. or don't know how to present themselves in the best way. and decide to move forward. and options. Whether that be as friends or acquaintances. are the ones that really DO look at this area of their lives. and in many cases the efforts of men to solve this problem on their own have been met by smallminded criticism and slander. So. that they will want to spend time with as well. the idea of simply communicating with and sharing experiences with the other half of the human population. charming men. I think that is not correct. spending time with them. or with that special woman of which they have always dreamed. most women will be far better off and have much better chances with the kind of men. and introducing themselves. There are many such men out there. intelligent. and sharing experiences with them. Page x . and for those women. As if the interesting. helps to provide these women with an even better choice. At least then he will be in a position of choice. and grow. is up to him. Having many interesting men available. there are a lot of wonderful women out there who would love to meet interesting men. take action. women. learn. They are the ones that really don't know how to introduce themselves. And. The women of the world will be better off in their own way. Good. A woman should never "settle". information. so that they really may share wonderful experiences of ALL types with women. or whether a man uses this information as a means to improve his chances of finding one special woman. whether this time has any sort of romantic or seductive component or not. (and more importantly a LACK of information in some cases) that can prevent such connections and moments from happening. One of the biggest tragedies of life is that there are things. or "compromise". in fact. good-natured and well-intentioned man. I think that many men. and set forth upon a path to improve this area of his life. Many men through no fault of their own have grown up to be adults and have had little instruction or assistance in a very important area of their lives. there are a lot of great men out there who would like to meet interesting women. Such men. And it's a shame for these women to be wanting for their company. to make an informed choice. who was simply deprived of an means to "learn about" how to meet and talk with women. interesting. for some reason seem to be in short supply. Sadly this is most apparent when it comes to men. having and sharing experiences with. the best men. From that position. she should decide to be with whom she wants to be with by having opportunities. They just have not been taught such things. should somehow not improve himself. or the kind of man. that I create products such as this. He will be able to decide for himself which he feels is the best option for him. And I am here to help correct it.
understood. Have fun. Dave Riker Page xi . So in my own way. the benefits are meant to be for both men and women alike. and applied by men. my goal and my hope is that this product will make men. and women. Apply. of your dreams. Study. somewhat happier and able to enjoy their lives even more than before. or Woman. read. even though this product is intended to be read. And good luck in finding The Women. Get out there. So guys ..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course So. Learn..
If you are her "type" you don't need this. some people do this naturally. you can change the way you speak as well. You are already on your way! This course works on many levels. Listen to it. So even this "intro" section is starting to work for you. You are not going to sound like this or talk like this all of the time! Just in the way that you shift and change how you speak now in different situations. You will have this way of speaking as a PART of who you are and what you can do! Guys need to be trained. Language Skills What works? What makes the successful guys able to use these technologies? Partly it's the ability to actually "talk" in this manner. and "reprogrammed" in a way. Page 1 . This program is based upon experience with countless students.2 WHY IS THIS COURSE NEEDED? D1-T10 If you are here.1 INTRODUCTION AND GETTING STARTED OVERVIEW Dl-Tl Welcome and Thanks. and what works in the field.0 1. to use these language skills naturally as just a part of the way they speak. but this will help you if you are not. there is a need. Instructions for each are provided. seeing what is needed. Welcome to Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course. These techniques all need to sound and be "natural" to actually be effective. Provide additional explanation of some points that are covered in the audio program. along with spaces for written responses where necessary. then on some level. Some guys don't need this. We will teach you ways to easily manage conversations so that they go in interesting directions. If you follow along and do the exercises. consciously and subconsciously. you will do so in the future and use these techniques as well. The purpose of this workbook is to: • • • Provide an outline of the material covered in the audio program. and get the full benefit of everything this course has to offer. Conversational Skills The ability to manage conversations is needed as well.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 1. We will be teaching you the detailed language skills that will really help you. This workbook is meant to studied along with a series of audio lectures that are recorded on CDs. 1. pay attention. Present a series of exercises and assignments. and on you as well.
You need to integrate skills to the degree that they ARE a part of who you ARE. how it is learned.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course You have to be PROGRAMMED to do this so you can have a conversation. Not inside your head "thinking" about "how can I use this?"! 1. listen.3 Major • • • • • • • • WHAT WE WILL HANDLE. • Working on several "levels" of you mind at once • Models to arrive at an overall understanding • Left brain and right brain are both addressed • Conscious and subconscious minds are both given what they need for real understanding and retention. some things will sound quite familiar... many times! • In fact we have already started! Where Does This Material Come From • From SS Teachings. but that's your left brain talking! We are reprogramming many years of your experience. but if you are "thinking" too much. responding. listening. for a while at least. In a way. This is a term that will be used throughout this course. but it's really YOU talking! Guys are too focused on "how can I use this" when in a conversation. talking. then you are not actually IN the conversation! You need to be engaged in a conversation. some of the ways that you speak now will be reprogrammed so that speaking in a new way will be natural. Page 2 . Sure. not a "trick".Seduction Oriented Topics Patterns and Riffing Examples Dl-Tl5 What Methods Are Used • Describe and explain the details of the techniques • Explicit examples of how the details work • Examples throughout and within the discussions • Examples section at the end. • Exercises to develop understanding and skills • Assignments for you to do in the field. that is important. • Things may seem to "repeat". and how people speak.Enthusiasm and Passion Topics .. respond to input immediately ." Guys need to stop the worrying about "Doing something wrong" It's only "wrong" if you are TRYING to do or be something you are not. so let's define and explain it for you. Guys need to be able to just "do this" and "talk this way" in REAL-TIME. interacting. so we need to approach this in many ways. AND HOW Topics Speaking Pointers Language Tools and Details Conversational Management Conversational Fractionation Topics .. and be a part of it.. Real Time "Occurring immediately . Other parts of the language tools you may have to "think" about.. • Other teachings about language. must react to a steady flow of new information without interruption.
that YOU just DO. Be wary of those people who may want to "borrow" a copy. • Get some other written material to work with for this course. but in terms of THEM really being willing and ready to change. or revised? Yes. The Ways To Study And Use The Product • Listen to the CDs. new. However.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • From personal experiences and how I used the materials. to give you a real roadmap to actually learn the material. do it! But please. effort. and who may "try" to listen to the course. Is this information. as assigned or as required. If you need to make your own copies for use in multiple locations. Applying a structured methodology of step-by-step methods. • Listen to other products in conjunction with this product. listening multiple times in any setting also has a lot of benefit. The best way to listen to this course is while also reviewing the workbook (especially in the conversational management sections). 1. • Is there an "optimal way" to use the product. the more you put into it. see what works for you. many of these people will be those negative types of people that will then dispute the benefits of this program! Why? Because THEY have not invested anything into it! Not just in terms of dollars. and engagement into your effort to really learn and use these materials.4 INVESTING IN YOURSELF. • Be prepared to have a place to practice for this course! You will need to be able to speak out loud to do many of the exercises. making it a part of YOU. a concept that was brought up earlier. We are reprogramming years and years of you "speaking" in a certain manner. or not? There are various ways. and engagement. However. effort. they aren't really putting themselves INTO it. Page 3 . From working with clients and seeing what worked and how they were able to change. the emphasis here is training you to do it for yourself. The Mind-Momentum Principle At Work • Get energy. both audio and written materials. • Having a good social life will help you. However. • Get that "Mind-Momentum" going to help you change and improve. Also maybe get a romance novel or two. You will need them because you will have assignments that deal with these. Changing that will take some time. you are doing just that. Other SS products will work well. do the exercises over and over. and being open to what benefits this program can bring. there IS some overlap and duplication with other products and systems. and a few women's magazines as well. In addition. do the assignments over and over! • Be patient. the more you will get out of it. • This may seem complicated but the point is to get you SO familiar with the tools that you become the guy who does this! Some Very Important Points • Find all of your current SS products and inventory them. • Follow along in the workbook if you can • Do the exercises and assignments! • Listen over and over. do whatever you need to do to listen to this course a LOT. Many of the assignments will deal with talking to people. By embarking upon this course. If they just "try" it. keep those copies to yourself. So. and this journey. OR NOT D1-T24 Any real change requires you to make an investment in yourself using energy. and this is much easier if you have an active life where you can have many conversations.
Don't let their lack of willingness to improve themselves. some structures. And actual assignments. some models. You keep trying to "remember" things. But it's tough to do that." So. Immersion is the key.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course People must be engaged in the process to get its benefits. but only indirectly. Can we literally change the way you speak? • • • • • • • How you select words Create phrases Form sentences Pick topics Speak passionately. sentences. there is no "right" way or "wrong" way. 1. You will end up "memorizing" thing to some degree. It Is Possible! . will not benefit. where you use the skills in the real world. It makes guys nervous.But This Is A Different Type Of Learning. because you will hear it so much! But a LOT of what is being conveyed here is learning by EXAMPLE. where you learn skills piece by piece. Also progressive exercises. paragraphs.5 CAN WE CHANGE THE WAY YOU SPEAK? D1-T26 Is this really possible? This sounds difficult. because it addresses that analytical part of your mind. you heard it. etc. Imagine having to "think about" how to talk. Plus it's not YOU talking. It's less effective. consequently. Most people want to approach this by learning bits and pieces • • That's good in a way. you heard it a lot. just being YOU. Not as congruent. trying to "remember" what to say. there is a "right" and "wrong" way to do it! But if you are just TALKING.by hearing others around you speak! You were IMMERSED in language. at every moment! Some people want to try to memorize. its YOU being YOU! You cannot fail at being YOU! The approach in this course is different. But that's not how you learned to talk! You learned to talk when you were a child . and you started to form the ability to speak and communicate based upon that! Page 4 . but to then USE it in conversation is difficult. • • • • • • • • This might be good as a learning TOOL. Then it's about a "performance. its a memorized "thing". • • • • • • You will get some details. at will Engage in conversation Manage conversations Yes. Those who are not. you heard it in context. kids are taught about language. How People Initially Learn How To Speak • • • • Sure in middle school. hold you back. about grammar. then its easier.
• Break it down into small parts. This causes some real.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course This Course Uses Many Techniques To Train You To Have Workable. We will have you become familiar with the range of ways of speaking and sounding. which we go over and over.6 Many guys have been uncomfortable with using many of these skills. based upon feelings that when using them. like when I say "here is an example" Implicit examples. and be more of WHO YOU ARE. more natural. "it's not me" or "I am just using a trick or technique". we will change the way you talk so that it will be easier. it's not about throwing something AT her. Page 5 . With THIS approach HERE. Real-World Skills. deep ethics issues and blocks many guy's success. so that you will have more ability and more flexibility to do what is appropriate MANIPULATION AND ETHICS CONCERNS D1-T32 1. trade. and who and what YOU are! Using these skills will be less of an "act". more a part of YOU. how you communicate. Exercises and Assignments to Teach You the Skills • Skills Training like any sport. or craft. Various Training Methods • • We use a lot of repetitive training methods so that these techniques have a better chance of becoming "automatic". where I am just DOING these things all during the program. Examples • • Explicit examples.
Listen as the examples demonstrate: • Speaking through the nose • Speaking through the mouth • Speaking from the chest Exercises for Speaking Pointers Grab some reading material of some type. that there is a "fire" beneath the surface. That "cool" feeling comes from being calm and speaking in a relaxed fashion. 1) Take some of that reading material. but because it's appropriate to the situation. "Cool" comes from being calm and sure of yourself.1. and this time focus on speaking by generating the sound from within your mouth (or. Page 7 . how interesting you are. there ARE products that focus JUST on this area and you may want to invest in those. how they sound. reserved. calm. That's the "allure". We will work on this here in this course. The audio section demonstrates these options quite well. Read several paragraphs. BORING. to be cool. and says a lot about you. focusing on generating your voice from your nose. and what people like in general. do this for several minutes. This is good as long as it's not BORING. even some of the materials from other products. and even goes a bit over-the-top to really help you to understand what is being discussed. That's what women like. how they make you feel. 2.1 SPEAKING AND LANGUAGE SPEAKING POINTERS The "Cool" Factor D2-T1 D2-T1 Guys want to sound "cool". 2) Read some more of that material out loud.1 2. If this is a challenge for you.0 2. Too many guys "try" to be cool but actually come off as COLD or even worse. focusing on the back of your throat might make this easier to do). but giving the impression that there IS more. Examples: One way to think of this is to consider "where" your voice is generated from in your body. Your tone of voice really conveys a lot about who you are. something you are interested in. there are great products and examples of this elsewhere. Why is this important? • Great voice tone conveys comfort.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. etc. how calm you are. a sense of being relaxed and calm • It also allows you to express some energy and excitement at different times. but if you really want to work on this even more.2 Voice Tone and Tonality D2-T2 Listen to some examples of different tones of voice. Cool does NOT mean to be boring and to put people to sleep while talking! The coolest people are the ones that are FUN to talk to and fun to be with! You don't have to be cold. and read it aloud.1. not out of nervousness.
Also. it's important that you do what you can to REALLY make a point of doing these assignments.in the real world! To get the most benefit from this course. and really focus on having that voice generated from your chest. with whom. make note of how you felt (nervous. SOUND relaxed. or chest). Day/Time Who you spoke to Speaking from? How you felt. but to actually HAVE the skills. 1) Over the next few days when speaking to anyone. and make them a part of who you are. Relax. where you were. mouth. and where you are speaking from (your nose. relaxed-confident). Assignments are where you are given a real task to go out and do . but this time really focus upon generating the sound from deep within your chest. Make notes below for some of the conversations and see if you can see a correlation between these items. comfortable. 2) In the next few conversations you have with people. Real-world experience will really help you to not just "know" the skills. and recall some time in the recent past when you were kind of nervous or fearful. and whether or not you DID it! Day/Time Who you spoke to Situation (Where) Did you DO it? Page 8 . Can you recall how you spoke? Did the way you sound in that situation sound like any of the examples you just did? See the similarity? Assignments for Speaking Pointers These are your first real assignments in the course. make a note to yourself as to how you are speaking. Focus on dropping your voice down from your nose/mouth. See how relaxed it actually makes you feel and how you really need to BE relaxed to do this! 4) Take a moment. really make a note to speak lower.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 3) Now read some of the material. Make notes below as to when it happened.
but this time read it slowly.1. deliberate. 1) Take some of that reading material and read it aloud. There are many variations: Listen as these are demonstrated • Hurried showing nervousness • Hurried showing excitement • Slow as in hesitant and/or confused • Slow in a way that is deliberate and relaxed Exercises for Pacing and Pausing Grab some reading material of some type. 4) Now read some of the material. powerful.3 Pacing and Pausing D2-T15 Listen to the examples where some various pacing is demonstrated. but go ahead and convey excitement in your voice! 3) Now read some of the material. or don't quite understand the content. Why is • • • this important? Correct pacing and speed of delivery conveys comfort. or almost a sense of panic. Something you are interested in. even some of the materials from other products. Being able to vary your pacing and pausing can help a lot to convey a sense of intrigue and create interest. Read several paragraphs and do this for several minutes. Focus on reading in a very hurried fashion as if you are very nervous. make a note to yourself as to how you are speaking in terms of your pacing and pausing. and charismatic presence.) Assignments for Pacing and Pausing 1) Over the next few days when speaking to anyone. 2) Read some more of that material out loud.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Strategic Formula for Speaking Pointers Use your best tone of voice (speaking from your chest) to convey a relaxed. but this time read it in a slow. and shows that the speaker is relaxed. and this time focus on reading in a quick and hurried fashion. (Maybe even be aware of where your voice is coming from. as we discussed in the past section. in a manner that makes you sound as if you are very confused. and then far far too slow. Too fast? Too slow? Hurried-nervous? Hurried-excited? Slow-confused? Page 9 . first very very fast. Speaking too quickly can show tension. relaxed. comfortable manner. 2.
Make note of when. then you can show more enthusiasm.. Who cares? Why does this matter? • Most guys are just TOO BORING. • If someone else is being interesting.. dead-end conversations. you get stuck in fewer boring. who. 2.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Slow-relaxed? You don't have to change it yet.4 Energy and Enthusiasm D2-T26 Listen to some examples of how this can sound .. enthusiasm. and excitement when appropriate. to convey a more relaxed and deliberate manner. When someone else is being boring. to convey a sense of drama and intrigue in what you are saying in a way that "captivates" people and makes them want to listen to you. and if you DID it! Day/Time Who you spoke to Situation (Where) Did you DO it? Strategic Formula for Pacing and Pausing Use variations in pace. start to focus on changing your pacing and pausing. energy.1. It's good to have the ability and range to display passion. where. By doing this. just make a note of this after-the-fact and write that down below. If they do or say something that is interesting to YOU. Page 10 . and well-placed pauses. YOU can show an appropriate amount of energy and enthusiasm. • This also allows YOU to convey how interesting someone ELSE is as well. YOU act boring. Day/Time Who you spoke to What type of pacing and pausing? 2) For the next few days. or bored.
5) Take that written material that really does interest you. etc. something you are interested in. and how your respond. Really pay attention to how they speak. their pace. dry topic. monotone. your car. Read it OUT LOUD in a boring. go ahead and SHOW your enthusiasm! Be energetic in how you speak. Assignments for Energy and Enthusiasm 1) Over the next few days.. and read that aloud in a boring. animated. Again. Read it OUT LOUD in an exciting. taped lectures. how you listen. 2) For the next few conversations you have with people where you ARE interested in the subject. 3) Get some written material that you have NO interest in. and how much (or little) energy is conveyed. do that for 10-15 minutes. your work. women. go ahead. make sure it is something that YOU are passionate about. Page 11 . energetic voice. BE BORING and show no enthusiasm at all. bland. technical presentations. Strategic Formula for Energy and Enthusiasm Using energy and enthusiasm when speaking so that people can become energized and enthusiastic about listening to and being with you.. When you respond or talk back. Watch on either TV.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course The audio section demonstrates more details about sounding boring/bored and also sounding as if you have energy and enthusiasm. monotone voice.. and read THAT aloud in a way that DOES show energy and enthusiasm! Make that sound as convincing as #4 above. 4) Get some written material that really DOES interest you. 1) Watch and listen to some speakers talk about a boring. do that for 10-15 minutes. even some of the materials from . 6) Take that earlier written material about the subject that you are NOT interested in and that really bores you. maybe sports. other products. that a good speaker can really grab your attention with their energy and enthusiasm. Think as if YOU are convincing a group of people how great this is! Maybe your Dream Job of a lifetime is dependant upon YOU speaking well and showing how passionate YOU are about this! Do that for a good 10-15 minutes. their tone. whatever it is. Again.. their tone. bland voice with no energy or enthusiasm. their pace. which bores you. and BE BORING. and that are excited about. Note how even if the material is something you do NOT care about. Exercises for Energy and Enthusiasm Grab some reading material of some type. Do this for a good 10-15 minutes. 2) Watch and listen to some speakers who use a lot of energy and enthusiasm when they are talking! Really pay attention to how they speak. whenever someone is talking about something boring. and how much (or little) energy is conveyed.
while Adverbs will describe ACTIONS (verbs). out loud. not the logical side of a person. (Maybe highlight them in some manner. Maybe say those adjectives or adverbs and put more energy into those words and emphasize them in some manner. Most men could be helped by having more descriptive speech. Cars.2 LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS D2-T39 These are the Bit And Pieces • These are the sort of things that can be powerful. Most guys are too dry in their speech.. and sensations. or they are too factual and leftbrained. because to have to "think about" using them is almost impossible! • You need to be TRAINED TO USE THEM automatically. you should be able to do this for at least 3-5 minutes each. whatever. feelings. Adjectives will describe THINGS (nouns). add more descriptive terms to it. They sound cold.. and make note of the adjectives and adverbs in it. sports. talk about it in a descriptive way. 2. we are working to appeal to the emotions. they are not things that can be measured or specified. but must be done over and over. Who you spoke to Subject 5) Now.) 3) Read that text OUT LOUD. 4) Think of three recent conversations you had when you talked to someone about something that you REALLY liked. If you really like this subject. It's good if YOU are also interested in it.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. movies. and the subject you were talking about. Do this for each of the conversations listed above. and stress the adjectives and adverbs in it. talk about each thing or subject again. Note whom you were talking to. boring. but this time. • Their use must be automatic. Most Adjectives and Adverbs are qualitative.1 Adjectives and Adverbs D2-T40 Listen to an example where many of these are used in descriptive language. Examples • Car reviews • Movie Reviews • This course! Exercises for Adjectives and Adverbs 1) Find some written material that deals with something where people are speaking passionately about some subject. These words modify or in some way describe. and uninteresting.2. and more ways of talking about processes. use more Adjectives and Adverbs. Remember. Re-live it. 2) Read it. nouns and verbs. Page 12 . Day.
2. or objective manner. so that their feelings. Day Who you spoke to Subject 2) Write down a few adjectives and adverbs that you could have used in each discussion (refer to a.2 Trance Words D3-T1 Listen to an example where many of these are used. that you really enjoy. Be descriptive. Strategic Formula for Adjectives and Adverbs Use more adjectives and adverbs in your speech to appeal to and excite the emotional side of the listener. and with whom you spoke. make sure to use some of those adjectives and adverbs in your descriptions.2. Trance • • • • • Word List Instantaneously Suddenly Find Yourself Convince Yourself Suppose Page 13 . "paint a picture" with your words. factual. Trance words are words that "call upon" the subconscious mind in order for them to be processed and understood.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Assignments for Adjectives and Adverbs 1) Make note of the next 3 times you are having a conversation which deals with something that YOU are really into. emotions. and c above). Start with just a few of them. b. their emotional side. and processes awaken. and then maybe add some more as time goes on. Write down what the subject was. that you are passionate about. 3) Practice out loud how you would have said those things in each of the three conversations. 4) The next several times any of those subjects come up in conversation. is listening and more engaged in the conversation. Trance words help to "open the person up" so that their subconscious. They are not "analyzed" in a conscious. Act like you are really having the conversation again.
7) Pick a subject that bores you. sportscasters. With that list of Trance Words (above) in hand. even something concrete like your job. Now speak OUT LOUD about that subject. something that you think is dull. Highlight or circle the Trance Words in a few sections. 6) Pick two subjects in which you are interested. 5) Take the written text from an SS product (maybe from #3 above) and read it out loud. political speakers. see and hear if you can pick out when the speaker is using Trance Words. like advertisements. talk OUT LOUD about that subject and see how many times you can use those Trance Words! Subject a. 4) Get your SS audio materials and listen for Trance Words (maybe even THIS course here). and see how many of those Trance Words you can use. See how many you can find and notice how they are used in context. Subject b. placing an emphasis on the Trance Words when you see them. and see if you can pick these out. but also see if you can add some to the list. that's the point! Exercises for Trance Words 1) Make a full list of Trance Words. Maybe play one tape or CD. work. almost boring or mundane thing.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • Imagine Mysterious (-ly) Wonder (-ous) (-ously) Think of any subject. You can copy the ones you saw listed earlier. 3) Get out your written SS materials and look for Trance Words (maybe even use THIS course here). Look at the Trance Word List above. and make it more interesting? Well. Doesn't that make it sound kind of "mysterious"? Maybe more exciting? Maybe you can take some normal. Maybe refer to some of your other SS products and see how many more you can find. Trance Word List 2) Watch or listen to some material where people are speaking passionately about something. talk about it. Looking at the list of Trance Words above. or religious speakers. Boring Subject Page 14 . or school. Write them down below. Think for a moment about using those trance words to describe that subject. See how many you can notice.
. These also work as transitional phrases.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Even though that may seem a bit strange. Strategic Formula for Trance Words Using Trance Words will help to get the subconscious mind of the listener to be more of a part of your conversation.. because it may be a bit too forward? Well. maybe even a bit odd? Maybe even a different topic or change of subject? Or maybe something that you were worried about bringing up. If I were to .. As you .. • • • • • Have you ever . How do you talk about something without REALLY talking about it? How do you bring something up that may be a bit different. The next time you are speaking with anyone about those subjects (in the real world guys!). Use them when talking to different people. more interesting. to get from one subject to another.. and using more and more as time goes on. and more fascinating? Assignments for Trance Words 1) Pick two subjects in which you are interested. Page 15 . 2) Integrate a few more of these words into your every-day description of those subjects.. If you were to .3 Weasel Phrases D3-T14 Listen to an example where many of these are used.2.. Subject b. Practice working with those subjects out loud some more and see if you can get even more comfortable using Trance Words when talking about those subjects. What's it like when . doesn't that make it-sound more "exciting". Subject a.... that's what Weasel Phrases are for! Weasel Phrase List (see if you can add to the list by listening to the audio). 2. make a point to use at least one of the Trance Words in the conversation. Just do whatever you can to start using some of them at first.
Pick 3 of them that seem the most natural to you. (Weasel Phrases tend to provide ways to connect sentences and paragraphs that talk about how something is felt and experienced. This is necessary to have the kind of words and subjects that lend themselves to Weasel Phrases.) Pick 4-5 different aspects of this "experience" that you will talk about. Do this until you use all 4-5 of the attributes that you listed. Try it again. 4) Pick a subject in which you are interested. Talk about THAT one for a few sentences. doing it. 3) Take the written SS materials you had earlier. sensing it. The next several times that you talk about that subject with anyone. and read some of this material out loud. 2) Note the subject that you used earlier for doing some exercises with Weasel Phrases (exercise 4 above). Just read the SS material out loud. after another. Use different Phrases. For example. Take a moment and try to emphasize them in a way. make note of the weasel phrases. the experience of it. etc. and see if you can string things together so that they sound better. etc. Assignments for Weasel Phrases 1) Look at the list of Weasel Phrases that you wrote earlier. It will get easier. Subject Page 16 ... Maybe pausing for a moment before one. and then use one of the Weasel Phrases and the bring up another "aspect". While doing it. Maybe play one tape or CD. see if you can use some or all of your favorite weasel phrases when talking about it. getting into it. don't use that one!) Now talk about one of these 4-5 aspects for 1-2 sentences. that it makes more sense. that seem as if they fit best into your way of speaking about subjects that you may like. 2) Get your SS audio materials and listen for some Weasel Phrases.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Exercises for Weasel Phrases 1) Get some of your written SS materials and look for some Weasel Phrases in the text. saying one slowly or quickly. we want you to talk about how it FEELS. In a moment. and do so with an awareness on some level that you are saying and using weasel phrases when they are in the text. 5) Did that sound weird? Strange? Ok . See if you can pick these out. then use another Weasel Phrase. but selecting different Phrases to link the aspects together. the subject might be "going to a ball game" (pick your own.
. excited by something. and incorporate Weasel Phrases into the next several discussions you have about that subject as well. or "you want this" (car). 4) Pick a topic that YOU are very interested in. after another. 2) Get your SS audio materials and listen for these. Two key aspects of the use of Embedded Commands are often overlooked. its about multiple usage (bombardment)! Exercises for Embedded Commands 1) Get our your written SS materials (written) and look for embedded commands in a few pages of the text.2. Page 17 . "get into it". your car. etc. Just say this stuff out loud. or experience while they are thinking about that subject. Pick something that excites you! Maybe the subject is sports.just general things that would cause a person to be interested in something. things you would like a listener to think about. allowing you to say more (and maybe more provocative things) about a subject.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Select another subject that really interests you. These are not to be sexual or suggestive. 2. feelings. Make a point to "lean on it" a bit. Again not "you like that color". and where the person's emotions or feelings are somehow active (This "context" issue is discussed later in the product in great detail in Conversational Management sections. and read some of this material out loud. intrigued. think of it like this. on some level.). Like "feel excited". issue a "command" or statement that instructs someone do something. your job. While doing it. "see how fascinated" . "this is what you have imagined having for yourself. • Repetition . Write down things that would make someone interested. Subject Strategic Formula for Weasel Phrases Use Weasel Phrases to keep the conversation going. when separated from the context. and to "soften" the way in which something is said. To make it easy.4 Embedded Commands D3-T25 Listen to an example where many of these are used. feel.It's very important that the command be brought up in the context of a conversation that is interesting. etc. a place you have traveled. 3) Take the written SS materials. or feel a certain way. Maybe play one tape or CD. Think of general statements. maybe a car. but just general things (feelings or states). See if you can pick out embedded commands while listening. saying one slowly. make note of the embedded commands. lets say you were selling something to someone. • Context . instead "you like this" (car). that you are saying and using embedded commands at the time. "get excited". These are small snippets of words and phrases which.It's not just about using one. once. or more quickly. maybe pausing for a moment before one. Write down a list of embedded commands. that you want them to experience.. Take a moment and try to emphasize them in some way. and do so with an awareness.
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 5) Start talking about that topic out loud. but now focus more on "leaning" on the embedded commands a bit. pausing. to create a compelling will on the part of the listener follow you and listen to you. Write down a list of at least 5 commands that work well in that subject. 4) The next several times that subject comes up in your life. Strategic Formula for Embedded Commands Use embedded commands repeatedly and in the proper context. The next several times that you talk about that subject with anyone. Maybe slowing down slightly. work on just saying them and finding a way to bring them up. see just how many of the embedded commands in that list that YOU can say! First. Maybe it's not a passion or real interest. but something where being influential may help. out loud. See how natural you can make them sound. Start to place some emphasis on the command itself. and with that list that YOU wrote in hand. make some effort to use some of these commands in the context of a real discussion. that would assist you in being more influential. start using a few of these commands when speaking. just enough to put the emphasis on the command. or school. in the context of talking about that subject. Page 18 . or maybe it has to deal with your job. 2) Select another subject that is a part of your life. Assignments for Embedded Commands 1) Look at the list of Commands that you wrote and practiced that deal with a subject in which you are interested (exercise 4 above). and make it sound natural. 6) Do the same thing again. changing your voice. Subject Embedded Commands 3) Practice the use of those commands. Maybe you work in sales.
which is ambiguous (non-exact). ALL of those possible definitions apply! Then.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. you become more associated with those feelings. and make this "link" even more effective. it's easier than you think! Just talking about a subject and getting her to be a part of the discussion. and experiences that are being discussed and associate or "link" them to you. etc. make note of where linking is taking place. recall. 3) Take the written SS materials. on some level. and inexact.While listening to the audio. she has to actually feel it to some extent. if you are talking about a great feeling of excitement that a woman has had or is having. • However. and read some of this material aloud. etc. emotions. and then making an ambiguous reference to that feeling using your words. also "this" and "these" as in "this feeling" of "these feelings". you are talking "about" a feeling or sensation. For example.5 Linking D3-T42 Linking is a way to take the feelings. you are being ambiguous. you speak of "this feeling". she has to feel it on some level (and she will. What is this based upon? • When talking. then to the deeper levels of her mind. when you say "this feeling". See if you can pick out Linking Phrases while listening. 2) Get your SS audio materials and listen for these. using some of the techniques that have been discussed in this course (pausing. then on some level that is creating this "link". and feel emotions. "in myself. change in voice tone. You can also make reference to "in me". see if you can add more phrases to the list below. "this interest".) Page 19 . will "link" them to you. Linking Phrases . In some ways. the linking tools and techniques will add to this. Maybe play one tape or CD. as long as there is good rapport). • In order for her to understand the feeling being discussed. Are you talking about the "feeling" she had at some time in the past? Are you talking about the feeling she is having right now? • Because you are using terms like "this". and getting her to experience. • • • • • • • Now with me In me In myself with this these this belief these feelings Exercises for Linking 1) Get our your written SS materials (written) and look for examples of Linking in the text. If she is experiencing these feelings in your presence. The most common linking phrase/tool that guys think about is the phrase "now with me". which is an ambiguous way of referencing what she is thinking about. Take a moment and try to emphasize the linking in some way.2. Just to "process" what is being discussed. while looking at you. and talking to you. While doing so. non-specific. However.
or change your voice. First. Another example would be to take the phrase "Get excited" and turn that into "get excited by THESE things".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4) Take the list of embedded commands that you created in an earlier exercise (Exercise #4 in section 2. Plus the next section will make this much easier! Strategic Formula for Linking After getting someone to experience good feelings and emotions. This will sound easier for you as we go on. you could say "feel excited by this" or "feel excited now" (you can also link things by putting in a reference to NOW).4). work on just saying them and finding a way to bring them up. (Again. Maybe slow down slightly. Assignments for Linking No separate assignment for this. You can even add the ever-popular "now. see just how many of the Embedded Commands and Linkage Phrases that you can use in your dialog.2. and see if you can "add" text to each to link them to you in some way. with me" after one of more of the commands in your list. Start talking about that topic out loud. Doing linking in an exercise like this is difficult and hard to make it sound "natural". Page 20 . this will come to you much more easily. it's much better if picked up along-the-way.) For example. but now focus more on "leaning" a bit on the Linkage Phrases. In some manner. and using the list above. just enough to put emphasis on the Linkage Phrase. As you hear more and more examples of this throughout the course. etc. 6) Now do the same thing again. Embedded Command Linkage Phrase 5) Pick a topic that YOU are interested in as we did before (it can be the same one you used in Exercise #4 in section 2. "these feelings". That's ok. Write down the list of commands and an associated linkage phrase for each below. the linking is ambiguous and doesn't reference you directly. This may seem strange and sound a bit "off". "this person or thing".4). pause. where you listed "feel excited". A quick way of doing this is to simply add "this feeling".2. link them to you so that YOU become something and someone that they feel good about.
use the possessive form when saying or talking about ANYTHING POSITIVE and use the non-possessive form when saying anything negative! Page 21 . they reference a "thing". those people • These directions. That. This means they are ambiguous! Consider this and that. a GREAT strategy is to link anything and everything positive to you (and link negative things away from yourself. or not there at the time. for that multiple-instance bombardment that we spoke of before! The idea of linking wild. so you are not using a name or specific reference. seductive feelings to you may be great but. • This person. these refer to plural items. and "that" is not. (In some cases.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. Whereas "that person" refers to someone "away" some "other" person who is not in the immediate area. those directions • These feelings.2. exciting. and it can be done a LOT. and included. Those) D4-T1 Listen to an example where many of these are used. with you.Non-Possessive For example. This is a new and very effective way to do linking that is easy to learn and master.6 Easy-Linking (This. in general. that direction • This feeling. those feelings • These sensations. one "thing". Given that one type is possessive. and one is not.Possessive (sort of "includes" something) • That . there are times when they cannot be switched. those sensations So. that sensation They differ though in that "this" seems possessive. this & that are singular • This . • These people. So. but that will be quite obvious when you try to do that). So. who cares? Well these are almost interchangeable! You can switch this/that in sentences as you wish.Possessive • Those . with "these" being the possessive form. Consider four words in the English language: • This • That • These • Those These are forms of pronouns. This and that tend to refer to singular items. that feeling • This sensation. "this person" tends to sound like the person that is there. These. In this case. For example. that person • This direction.Non-Possessive (seems to reference something "else" or something "away") Consider these and those. but do so in a general manner. these and those are plural • These .
That. out loud. Subject: Attributes or "things about" that subject. These are good. out loud. Those are not. That is not. That person is not. Those Page 22 . Exercises for Easy-Linking 1) Say the lines below. Write down (below) ten attributes. using the correct versions of That. Use "That" and "Those" when referring to anything negative. Small sentence that includes that attribute. write a small sentence for each. and those depending on whether the item is positive or negative. That. you have discussed a subject (and written a lot of text about it) that is important to you. or singular/plural. for a good ten minutes.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • This That These Those Singular possessive Singular non-possessive Plural possessive Plural non-possessive Anything Anything Anything Anything Positive Negative Positive Negative You can learn to do this (to choose which of these words to use) in real-time through training! Tactical Formula for Easy-Linking Use "This" and "These" when referring to anything positive. for a good ten minutes. This is good. These. 2) Say the lines below. ' 3) Earlier in the workbook. These. This person is good. Those people are not. For each of these attributes or things. These people are good. or "things about" that subject. and the correct form of This.
Small sentence that includes that attribute. Great speakers use movement to their advantage. These. using the appropriate form of This. D4-T13 Page 23 . beyond the small bits and pieces of language. and Those. That. and the correct form of This. and once again.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4) Talk out loud about that subject for a good 5-10 minutes. Anchoring Anchoring is associating a feeling or emotional state to a sensory experience. list ten attributes or things about that subject. These sections help to train you in these types of techniques. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. That. and then write a small sentence for each. Subject: Attributes or "things about" that subject. 5) Pick another subject.3 MORE TOOLS D4-T12 Now we are getting into a different area. Those 6) Talk out loud about the subject mentioned above for a good 5-10 minutes. These. 2. and their movement becomes a part of their communication.
They may be a bit over-the-top (speaking to an audience is different than speaking one-on-one) but just watch them for a while. How to • • • do this: Get your hands out of your pockets. talking about a subject that YOU are interested in. etc). and away from yourself. 2) List 3 subjects that you really enjoy. Assignments for Pointing and Gestures 1) For the next few days. How often are they in your pockets? How often do they just lie by your side and never move? Make note of this after-the-fact.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Many different types of anchoring can be done and we are only going to cover some very basic tools. Read some of that text (from an earlier exercise) out loud.3. Pick something YOU are interested in. Watch how they move. 2. Don't flail about wildly. down. so that the use of these becomes automatic. Move! We will start by generating SOME movement.1 Pointing and Gestures D4-T14 Good speakers use their hands. have energy. Subjects Page 24 . BE excited! Use your hands and arms for emphasis. embedded commands. Get your hands OUT of your pockets and AWAY from your body! Act excited. and way from your sides. maybe a motivational speaker. and hopefully the conversations are interesting. and some gestures. etc. towards. to help make their point. and that you end up talking about with people quite often. Use your hands to accentuate certain points. make note of where your hands are when speaking. and then we can work on deliberate movement such as • Pointing towards and away from things • Towards yourself and away from yourself Exercises for Pointing and Gestures 1) Find a good speaker on TV. passionate. or even a preacher. after the conversation has ended. However we will focus on things that can create a LOT of effectiveness. We will break down many of the component parts of this into skills that we will teach you bit by bit. political speaker. etc. Then later on see if you can start to become aware of what your hands are doing WHILE you are in the conversation. so these techniques discussed here will help. Most guys are too boring and too reserved when talking. 2) Get one of the text lists from an earlier exercise (weasel phrases. point up. and to do multiple times. and that you are passionate about. and that are very very easy to do.
5) Pick another subject. These.3 MORE TOOLS D4-T12 Now we are getting into a different area. Small sentence that includes that attribute. beyond the small bits and pieces of language. Great speakers use movement to their advantage. Those 6) Talk out loud about the subject mentioned above for a good 5-10 minutes. 2. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. These sections help to train you in these types of techniques. Anchoring Anchoring is associating a feeling or emotional state to a sensory experience. D4-T13 Page 23 . and then write a small sentence for each.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4) Talk out loud about that subject for a good 5-10 minutes. list ten attributes or things about that subject. and the correct form of This. and their movement becomes a part of their communication. Subject: Attributes or "things about" that subject. and Those. That. and once again. That. These. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. using the appropriate form of This.
towards. and MOVE! Do this out loud. or • You can place your hand on your chest or abdomen in a subtle manner (to link things to you) . Bad (gesture towards. and when anything negative is mentioned. but this time use your hands. no need to WILDLY gesture! • You can do this many many times. point or gesture away. Read that out loud.2 Linking Gestures (Towards And Away) D4-T22 This is a fast and easy way to link positive states to you. motion. Bad. Tactical Formula for Linking Gestures Whenever you say something negative. and others. away. very easily. Bring Positive things toward yourself. 3) With these three subjects in mind.. make a note to go ahead and move. etc. etc. and accentuate what you are saying in order to be more compelling as a speaker and to get even more attention from your listener or audience. and every time something positive is being talked about.) 2) Grab some of your written SS materials. just start to MOVE.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course For each of these subjects. Strategic Formula for Pointing and Gestures Move. make a point to get your hands OUT of your pockets. recall a recent time when you had such a discussion.). gesture. • Or hold your hand away from yourself (to send things "away") How to use it • Good to do in the context of being a person that already MOVES when talking! • Make this subtle. This technique allows you to do this many many times. away. Page 25 . and MOVE. and AWAY from your sides and MOVE when talking about these subjects. As you get more comfortable with this. and to send negative things "away" from yourself. ANYTHING. gesture. point or gesture towards yourself. Exercises for Linking Gestures 1) Stand up. Do your best to re-enact that discussion (say what you said..3. Do something. Say the following out loud while gesturing in the correct direction: Good. 2. Whenever you say something positive. and animate to some extent the next time you talk about them. point towards yourself. and send Negative things away • You can point towards or away from yourself. many people move when talking This technique is most powerful when used at a time when emotions and/or imagination are engaged in the conversation. Good. arms. or at least be able to move. and the repetition works for you! • Can do in various contexts. point away.
points towards yourself. passionate.. Those .3. etc. and every time something positive is being talked about.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Remember the text we used in an earlier example here in the workbook? Read that out loud. and that you end up talking about with people quite often. These. 2. but you don't have to do it every time! That will seem strange! Tactical Formula for Easy Linking Expanded Positive statement. Assignments for Linking Gestures 1) List 3 subjects that you really enjoy. Those" correctly Combine these and use them at the same time! When you say This or These. Do this out loud. and hopefully the conversations are interesting. When you say These or Those. Say "these". (yes. Point away. motion away or place your hands/arms away. For each of these subjects. etc. have energy. 2) With these three subjects in mind.) D4-T30 Now we bring together Linking Gestures and Easy Linking. it will become easier and easier. make a note to go ahead and use these Linking Gestures to some extent the next time you talk about them. when anything negative is mentioned. Say "that". Use "This. Start subtle. but this time when you are speaking of anything good or positive. Exercises for Easy Linking Expanded 1) Stand up. Do the following out loud: Page 26 . and MOVE. Point away Positive statement. point away. Pick something that YOU are interested in. That. Linking Gestures and Easy-Linking together: • • • Use the pointing/gestures on Positive and Negative things (point towards and away). That. say what you said.. These. start with a few. Point to you Negative Say "those". point towards yourself and when anything negative is mentioned. recall a recent time when you had such a discussion. gesture towards yourself or place your hand(s) on yourself. This is veryeasy to do over and over for that repetitive effect.3 Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This. Point to you Negative statement. these can be the same as the last set of assignments). Conversely. Subjects Do your best to re-enact that discussion. point away. or at least sit where you can move. Say "this".
an expression. and emotions to yourself.) with Easy Linking (using This.. it will become automatic.Point or Touch. Practice it enough and in connection with earlier exercises. and able to be done many many times. states. That. etc. a realization. But to get even more effectiveness when anything positive happens. 2. Can we apply this to anchoring? Yes! • We need a way to do some basic anchoring that is very simple. That.. Also. Point away. If you are head-on directly in front of a person. Point back to yourself and say "these". These. touch them! This "Easy Anchoring" works in any context: • they laugh. Point away and say "those" Repeat! This WILL help to train you! 2) Remember the text we used in an earlier example? Speak that text out loud.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Point to yourself. the more effective it tends to be. Do this in a way that maybe makes it seem like you are doing it for emphasis. specific states. On Positive D4-T35 Let's look at anchoring in light of the 80/20 rule (where 80% of the results come from 20% of the effort). Those in the correct ways) to associate even more positive feelings. touch them • they seem to go into a pleasant state. it's very useful to Anchor anything and everything positive to you! In some ways. touch them • they smile. and say "that". and Those.4 Easy Anchoring . and Those if you can. you are anchoring them in a subtle way. and away when negative. The more that "emotions" are being accessed. These. trying to add in more instances of This. it's more difficult. Use the correct versions of This. or when the person you are talking to goes into a Positive state. but actually. Strategic Formula for Easy Linking Expanded Combine the use of Linking Gestures (towards yourself when positive. a laugh.3. These. we are doing that already by pointing "towards" on positive things and "away" on negative things using Linking. That. while pointing towards or away from yourself in the correct manner. it's good to be close enough (within arms-length) so that the "touch" is easy to do. and thoughts to you but in a general sense. touch them This is best done in a "moment" with some emotion. It may be good to anchor feelings. This is more easily done if you are standing at the side or at an angle. Page 27 . and say "this".
laugh. maybe someone who you have heard about). Write those down. but in many cases.) Maybe a handshake Maybe a pat on the back Maybe a funny gesture Make a note of the person. Assignments for Easy Anchoring 1) The next several times you shake someone's hand. Person '" Situation. • Think about when you greet a friend. touch them to help anchor it to you. maybe pat on the back.. but yet have some degree of rapport already (maybe this is a friend-of-a-friend. • Think about when you meet and are introduced to someone. directly to you. Tactical Formula for Easy Anchoring When the person you are talking with displays a positive feeling of some type. Exercises for Easy Anchoring 1) Think about the last 5 times where you touched someone in this type of way. or Topic being discussed 2) Recall those 5 times. A laugh A moment of recognition or realization When someone starts talking quietly. intrigue. and note to yourself the correlation between how long the touch lasted and the level of rapport. make a point to hold it just slightly longer than usual. you grab their upper arm as well. etc. a smile.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course You probably do this already in certain situations. just a touch. but a bit more "deliberate". you just touch his or her upper arm or upper back. This is the same type of thing. and the situation or topic being discussed.. (Not romantically. also make a point to make and maintain eye contact as well. • When joking with someone. Also note the degree of eye contact. Page 28 . without really thinking about it. such as. vividly. See if you can recall how it was. 2) Spend some time looking for moments (positive ones) where a touch would be appropriate.. What do you do? You shake their hand. interest.
DO IT! Strategic Formula for Easy Anchoring In general. o Embedded Commands • Can you do this now. see if you can have at least 5 instances of knowing. maybe you don't touch them. That.. Then. anchoring and associating yourself to positive and intriguing feelings in other people helps to make them feel positive towards and intrigued by you. • SPEAKING POINTERS o The "Cool" Factor • You don't have to be cold. These. think "I could have touched them THEN". Those MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures • Move! Point! o Linking Gestures • Towards And Away o Easy Linking Expanded • Pointing With This. Mouth. when you have the chance. 2. in-the-moment.4 REVIEW D4-T46 We are well on our way.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course At first. o Linking " with me. You are noticing this after-the-fact. o Easy-Linking • This. Suddenly. language.. and movement skills that will be used later in the course.. and you have already learned a LOT of the detailed speaking. Those Page 29 . Chest o Pacing And Pausing • Slow.. we want you to actually DO IT! So. These. to be cool o Voice Tone And Tonality • Nose.. but as you notice these moments. 3) Now that you have started to notice these "moments" where a touch would be appropriate. that a touch is appropriate. Fast • • • Pause o Energy And Enthusiasm • Passionate or Boring? LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS o Adjectives And Adverbs • Be descriptive o Trance Words • Instantaneously. Find Yourself o Weasel Phrases • If I were to . That.
Page 30 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o Easy Anchoring • Point Or Touch On Positive And Negative With these parts behind you. and later to Conversational Management techniques. we will move onwards to work on Language Structures.
say things such as. telling someone they are wrong. You almost NEVER impress people that way! To pace/lead well. move with them conversationally for a while. Changing the Viewpoint or Frame if Mind . the sort of things that you need to get used to doing automatically..A way to change directions • In someone's way of thinking • In the conversation To make a change in direction in some manner.. however you can break rapport. Don't argue! . Are they useful and possible? • • • Trying to knock or jar someone into a different direction or way of thinking can be risky. For example. o That's one way to see it o I understand your point Page 31 • • . You MAY be able to do that.. move them .1 PACE AND LEAD D5-T2 Pace and Lead . incorrect. but will hopefully at some point.Some people try to display higher knowledge or value by "arguing"... The minute you do anything like that to get someone else's "approval". Changing Topics and Subjects . but you need a lot of power to do it and you risk breaking rapport. etc. but you must do so powerfully and do NOT look for "acceptance". or "bigger chucks" as we say. you might bring up a new way of looking at it.Can you just knock someone into agreeing with you? Can you be that bold? Yes.. or to try to "impress" them. To "Pace" means to just BE a part of the conversation. Agree or not agree? . and then take them in some direction. you might make comments (some that agree and some that may not) but the key is that you are "Taking part in" the conversation and topics at hand. These techniques give you ways to use and arrive at languaging in a manner that will make you more persuasive..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3. then and give them another way of looking at it. but agreeing is just a special case. It can mean this. Now we are moving "up" a level. all of the time. it's best to meet or join someone in some way. be able to just "do". you are lost. into higher-level stuff.0 LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES D5-T1 We have been working on bits and pieces of language. Pace and Lead allows us to "join" someone. things that you should not even have to really "think about".. You might disagree. These were tactical details. show understanding (does not have to be agreement necessarily) and then .Can you just abruptly jerk a conversation towards where you want it to go? Maybe. 3. Fast and abrupt changes .Some people misunderstand and think that to "Pace" means to "agree". acknowledge what the other person is saying. Challenges • Can't you just bluntly offer a different view? Yes. towards where you want things to go. and more influential in general. but you can break rapport in the process.
it makes YOU look bad.. The point here is not to memorize these "lines"... and then moving things forward in some manner. 3. Maybe • • • • • • continue showing an understanding or interest So what you mean is .BE IMPRESSIVE! People really don't like to be proven dumb or wrong! Most people are offended or "put off by such attempts. and some of then want to go out and "impress" people with their newfound knowledge...1. I see • That's interesting • I get it • Hmmmmm ... Impressing someone with your knowledge.) • Yes... as if you "need" their approval.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o o That's interesting I see what you are saying. Tactical Formula for Pacing and Leading Show agreement.... Arguing! Many smart guys study these techniques and technologies....... allowing you to move things more in your favor later on. I also think you can see .. but to really get a sense of being IN the conversation. That hardly ever works.... Let me make sure I understand . Page 32 . Strategic Formula for Pacing and Leading Pacing and Leading allows you "be" in the conversation for a while and gain rapport and information. what you are saying is . I get it. Instead . So.. Then start to direct things in a different way . To TRY to IMPRESS is bad. and/or interest. showing that you are a part of it.1 General Pace and Lead Techniques D5-T9 Here are some examples of ways to do these steps with example wording for each. . Let them know you are listening and understand (using wording such as shown below. • Ok ... have you thought about this .. if you attempt to do that. Ok... In addition. or. So if I understand this . I read/saw/heard the same thing . the implication is that you NEED someone's approval. a way that you want. Then start to move or shift things in a different way. • Alright. understanding. • Well. acknowledgement.it's like this..
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course
I hear you, and what else is interesting is .... •-. That's a good way of looking at it, something else that is important is ....
The Formula for Pacing and Leading is ... acknowledge and then start to shift things ... Maybe you want to shift things more and/or bring up another issue or viewpoint entirely (or maybe you actually disagree) • That's one way of looking at it, however I think ... • Yes, I understand, I have also heard ... • Ok, that makes sense, another way of thinking about it is .. • Alright, but on the other hand... Some general methods you can use to introduce the "leading" aspect, you can talk about... • What you know, believe, understand • What a friend or colleague has said • What you heard • What you read • etc. 3.1.2 Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects D5-T12
Lets say you find some people talking about a topic. Do you walk up, interrupt, and start an entirely new topic? No. (Well, you can, but that takes a lot of power and has a lot of risk.) A better way is to enter the conversation, talk about it (Pace), and then move the conversation into areas that you want it to go (Lead). Examples: • You are in a conversation and the topic is cars. People are talking about prices, loans, etc. You acknowledge what is being said, contribute to that conversation (pace), and then start to bring in the idea of how a car handles, how it feels, and how exciting it is to drive certain cars (lead). • People are discussing clothes, various brands, types, etc. You talk about that with them (pace) for a while, and then start to bring up the idea of how clothes make you feel, how you feel differently when wearing different things ... etc (lead)
Tactical Formula for Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects Show agreement, understanding, acknowledgement, and/or interest in the topic or subject. Then start to move or shift topic or subject in a different way, a way that you want.
Exercises for Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects 1) Think about some recent conversations you have had with people about different topics, hopefully these conversations and/or this topic is something that occurs a lot for you (based on interests you have, people you know, etc). Recall a specific "moment" in each conversation. Note what was being discussed, and what point was being talked about. Make a note of each of them. Also note, where did that actual conversation go next?
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course What were you talking about in this "moment"?
Conversation with whom?
Where did it go next?
2) Pace and Lead Gently Out loud, practice as if you were talking in each of the discussions above, and paced the conversation and topic, and then lead it in some direction. In this exercise, simply show agreement, understanding, and/or interest, and then lead in the same general direction. Maybe bring up a new example, new point, new issue, but just sort of "take over" the conversation. 3) Pace and Lead in a New Direction Next, for each of those instances, provide an example where you show agreement, understanding, and/or interest, but now start to "move" things in a new direction. Maybe the conversation that you had started at this one "point" and went in a specific direction ... Now, for this exercise, practice taking it in a new and different direction. Maybe introduce a different aspect of the topic or subject, something not mentioned before, or not normally talked about. The key is to first show agreement, understanding, and/or interest and THEN do this "shift", and you LEAD things in a different way.
Assignments for Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects 1) Make note of three conversations that you tend to have with people on a regular basis. Person or People Subjects we discuss
2) The next times these conversations happen, make a point to "Show agreement, understanding, and/or interest" (Pace). Then "Then start to move things" (Lead) in your own way, Do this by introducing a different aspect of that topic, or a related topic/subject. Don't make this shift or change really abrupt or different, just make a point to sort of "direct" where things move, even if that direction is close to where it was going anyway. Just make sure YOU are the one that moves it. Note the text and examples given earlier as a way to do that. 3) Once you can do the above, now make a point to have your "Lead" incorporate a real change of some type.
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course
Normally, even without your input, the conversation tends to go in a certain way. The earlier exercise had you just keep thing moving in that same direction. Now you are to "take" the conversation somewhere else towards a different or related topic. Just introduce a new aspect of the topic, a different thing, a different direction, so that you are really "leading" where things go. Remember the language that you were shown earlier. Use languaging like... You know what ELSE is interesting You know what * l * have found (seen, felt) Another way of doing this would be .. You know what ELSE can happen ... is ...
Pace and Lead-Mindset or Frame of Mind
You can change the way people look at things, their mindset, and their "frame of mind". For example, imagine you are having a discussion and people are talking in a certain "frame of mind" (not directly, it's just their way of seeing things). The point here is to acknowledge that frame, and then introduce another way of seeing things, another "frame", or another "mindset". What is • • • • a "frame"? In general it's ... A way someone "sees" something. What it "means" to them. The way they "feel" about it. The significance or meaning that it has.
Looking at the formula for Pace and Lead, you apply that by first acknowledging the current Frame, and then start to lead by bringing up another way of thinking about it and/or looking at it. You bring a new "frame" into the discussion. (This is a way of shifting that way people LOOK at things, the significance that it has, or their mindset regarding certain topics or behaviours). In the earlier example of Pacing and Leading of Topics and Subjects, we were talking just about a thing, a topic, or subject. Now we are talking about a feeling, or the way things are "seen" or what they "mean". For example, people may be talking about: • Taking risks • Feeling good or bad • Having a good day or a bad day • Making choices • What an event "meant" to them • How someone else actions affected them • How a decision affected them. There is a "frame" (of mind) behind each of these discussions and with proper technique, that frame and mindset may be changed. Look back at the "Methods" section earlier for some details and examples of how to introduce this pacing and leading (there are some lists of languaging examples provided). Examples: • You enter a conversation where people are talking about risks, Risks at work, risks in finances, risks in life. You Pace by discussing this for a while. The frame or mindset here is that risks are bad, dangerous,
What was the "frame". Recall a specific "moment" in the conversation. etc.Mindset or Frame of Mind 1) Think about some recent conversations you have had with people about different topics. then start to move into talking about how men do this as well. With whom? Topic? Mindset / Frame of Mind 2) Pace and Lead Gently Practice as if you were talking in that discussion. (Risk was framed as dangerous. You agree on some level (pace) and chat about that. and/or interest in the Mindset or Frame of mind. The frame you are bring up is how superficial it is to judge based on numbers and details. and the "frame" that was in use. (You are shifting her frame so that she may start to look at different things in men. • Another conversation has a woman talking about what she looks for in men. acknowledgement. and how anyone of quality .) Tactical Formula for Pace and Lead . the assumption? What is the frame of mind behind the viewpoints that they had? Write down the topic. etc. looks for more. the people. Exercises for Pace and Lead . Page 36 . Do this OUT LOUD. understanding. Again.. In this exercise simply Show agreement.. the viewpoint. now its being framed as exciting). etc). the frame of mind or mindset is the focus here. Make a note of each of them. or may be perfect but with the wrong hair color (lead).. and paced it. weight. and you are working to change the way she screens out guys.Mindset or Frame of Mind Show agreement.. and what "kind" of man she likes (height. she talks about what their professions are. Just sort of "take over" the conversation. understanding. what point was being talked about.. or provide a relevant example.. Note what was being discussed. The way they "feel" about it. then lead in the same general direction. The frame here is that she has her "standards" and that this is good for her. Towards a way that you want.. where the point of the discussion in that moment was: The way they "see" something.. and/or interest in the mindset or frame of mind . Then you start to lead by bringing up the idea that some risks are fun and interesting.. What it "means" to them. who is like 5 lbs overweight.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course have consequences. some risks make you feel alive. and then lead it in some direction. some men will just "write off a woman that is a certain size. Maybe bring up a similar way of looking at it. a new meaning. some risks have good rewards. Then start to move or shift the frame by introducing another way of looking at things.
etc someone looks at a political issue. Page 37 . Examples: someone complains a lot. A good way to do it is to show agreement and understanding. a frame of reference.Mindset or Frame of Mind 1) Make note of three conversations that you tend to have with people on a regular basis. understanding. what it "means" that is not really in agreement with what was said. for each of those instances. These should be of a type where THE "frame" or mindset is something of which you are aware. The key is to first Show agreement. you are just acknowledging the Mindset or Frame in this example. and/or interest in the Mindset or Frame of Mind but now start to "move" things in a new direction. but really his mindset is the problem someone talks about wanting something different. and maybe point out a similar example from your own life. and/or interest. or something you heard or read. Maybe bring up a way of looking at things that is totally different. but just make a point to sort of "direct" where things move. or something someone said. some way. and/or interest" (Pace). understanding. and you LEAD things in a different way. Then "start to move things" (Lead) in your own way.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 3) Pace and Lead in a New Direction Next. and their motivations etc. and they are the one not taking risks someone is prejudiced or judges other people. Do this by introducing a "way of looking at it" that is similar to the one that is already being used. Write down these subjects. Maybe find a way. Do this OUT LOUD for each example. and the frame associated with each. Maybe acknowledge and then bring up an opposing view. provide an example where you Show agreement. maybe even limiting beliefs or beliefs that really hold them back. With whom? Subject/Topic? Mindset / Frame of Mind 2) Pace and Lead Gently The next times these conversations happen. even if that direction is close to where it was going anyway. Maybe bring up a different viewpoint or way of looking at it. understanding. and says they are cheap. Basically. Think about discussions where YOU can see that these people involved are working on a certain set of assumptions. make a point to "Show agreement. Assignments for Pace and Lead . Don't make this really abrupt or different. and HE is the one with the limitation someone complains about work and the managers. to find a positive way of looking at the situation. and THEN do this "shift". and makes assumptions (has a certain frame) about people or groups.
Now you are to "take" the conversation somewhere else and bring up a new mindset or frame of mind.. and new way of looking at things. using words such as) o As you are .. o While you think . Meaning.... focus on the Mindset or Frame. 3.. o As you realize .4 Pace and Lead .. another way of looking at it is ... and/or express what is on their mind. Some ways to do that is by saying things such as... but just find a positive way to look at what is being discussed.Current Reality D5-T29 If you look at the languaging used in things like hypnosis... even without your input. a new aspect of "what it means". This is a small-chunk detail and technique.. o After you have . What is done here is that you Pace based on something that is obvious (obvious in their "current reality"). (for example. o While you are .. there was a certain "frame" being discussed. now make a point to have your "Lead" incorporate a real change of some type. or used by very powerful speakers.. o While you are . and then use that to lead someone somewhere... it could be . The general way to approach this is: • Start by pacing something that is obvious about their current reality . o You are probably wondering Page 38 • • .. it might not be that bad. o While you see .. point towards a specific Mindset or Frame that is of YOUR choosing. Continue to Pace by maybe stating an obvious point about their current reality o seeing XYZ o feeling XYZ o thinking about XYZ o etc.. A "safe" way to do this would be to find a positive way to look at the situation. "Pace" their mindset.. o etc. • At least it's not like XYZ. You know.. This may be different from the way the subject or belief WAS framed or thought of. but it can work well and adds to the power of the languaging. and allow the conversation to continue with the same frame of mind in place...... a new mindset.. Well. or assumed by the people involved.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Pace and Lead In a New Direction Once you can do the above..1. o As you see . The earlier exercise had you just sort of "run" with that. A friend of mine used to feel the same way and they... Again. o As you feel. Just introduce a new frame.. these techniques are used a LOT.
Really pay attention and see how many times I have done pacing and leading in this manner.Current Reality 1) Listen to this section again.... what you are reading.. Warning . thoughts. what you are hearing.. and "As that feeling builds... o you will then ......".. o notice what its like as . 3... "as you are watching this presentation . o you will start to notice o you may realize o you may start to think o you may see how . If you spend too much time saying things similar to "I know what you are thinking".. you will begin to notice this ...Current Reality As (while ) you) are "X" (Pace) Where "X" is something that is true in their current reality (perceptions.." • You will hear a LOT of this in this course (which is part of your re-programming!) Tactical Formula for Pace and Lead . then you are probably wondering .. The more you hear this. • You are talking to someone at work ..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • o As you are thinking about o I know you are concerned about o The issue that may be on your mind is o The question you may have is Begin to lead . Rewind or go back a few tracks.) • Then you will "Y" Where "Y" is something you want them to experience (Lead) Exercises for Pace and Lead . etc..." • Physical demos use this a lot. and do. the more it will "sink in".. "As you feel this. Studies have been done with persuasive language that show that giving a reason will make people more apt to do things for you and agree with you. it starts to become annoying to the listener.. Page 39 ...2 GIVE THEM A REASON D5-T32 Give someone a reason for someone to listen .. what you are thinking.Pacing Reality too much can seem arrogant.. Point them to where you want to lead them . o another thing you will see/feel/notice is .. o state what you want them to see/feel/hear/realize Examples: • As you are listening to this program .. Make note of how many times I have paced your current reality.
3) Go through the same list again. This technique does not provide a 100% guarantee. Write these down. they may go with you. if you say "Is it ok if I make copies next.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Don't worry about "losing your power" or being too "nice". However. Person What did you ask for? 2) Practice out loud how you might "ask" for that favor or make that request again. lets move over there". Tactical Formula for Give Them a Reason Request X because (of) Y Exercises for Give Them a Reason 1) Make note of the last five times you asked someone for something. asking "can I pay by credit card". Write these down. anything. • You are talking to someone and you would like to pull her aside and make the conversation more private. or asked someone to do something. or at least people that are not close friends of yours. Assignments for Give Them A Reason 1) Make note of five routine situations that you have in your life where you are asking for something. because I am really in a hurry" then. remarkably. You are not being apologetic or anything. but put in a reason of some type. it just helps to make people more agreeable (and there are statistics to support that as well). Examples: • You walk up to a copier at work and there are three people in line. Page 40 . the addition of this small "reason" will make people much more agreeable and apt to let you do what you would like. It could be asking for coffee. If you say. and out loud. then it may be difficult to get people to agree. However. The examples will be better if these are people you do not know. If you just say. requesting something. "hey. come up with another reason. if you say "Let's move over there because it's more quiet" you will be amazed at how much more agreeable the person may be. just providing a reason. "Is it ok if I make copies next". you don't need to be concerned about these things.
don't just provide one reason. or excuse. actually ends up being several points. Power in Numbers . and flow easily. point. the items that you will "list" need to be brief points. • For the sake of a conversation. • Training for sales people use this quite a bit. statement. provide several. so that your one "opportunity" in a conversation to make "a" point. • When you give a reason. you get someone to agree and then lead them 3. Page 41 . People) What do you ask for? 2) Practice out loud some "reasons" that you could give in these situations.3. or make a point. and quite well. in order to provide more power to what you are saying.1 General Listing D6-T4 Strategic Formula for General Listing General Listing is a way to quickly provide several reasons. which support your point. This technique has been developed based on observing how many good and influential people speak: • Successful sales people • Charismatic speakers • Good debaters • Component of hypnotic languaging « Very important. or make a statement.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Situation (Place. Tactical Formula for General Listing When making a point.3 LISTING D6-T1 Listen to an example where many of these are used. • This is somewhat similar to a "pace and lead". it's difficult to debate them all or object to them all (not to be combative. go ahead and mention the "reason". • When you give several reasons at once. just as an example) • Hypnotists use this technique a LOT. 3.Repetition in a way that serves you. or giving an example. 3) The next times these situations come up in your day-to-day life. "List" several things or examples which support your point. See if you can make it automatic.
) • I know this may sound a bit different (1). Y. In many ways. maybe trying to convince someone of something (NOT an argument-just that you were making a point and would like to be more persuasive).. Write them down.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Example (see the listed items shown as 1.. what point you were trying to make. and the types of things to which no one would object. Do that out loud. 3) Pick an example of an activity that you do often. Z". Listing can be short. For each conversation. etc. Maybe your first two items in a list are obvious. Something you are interested in. Z (selecting your items listed above). etc. partying. so that you don't just say "X.. Each of the items in a list can also be much longer. 5) Think of three recent conversations you have had with people where you were making a point.. maybe watching sports. but as you listen to it (1). then the second. talk about it for a sentence or two. you may begin to agree. Pick three ways that can go . listing is like pacing and leading. write down who it was with..each of which lasts just a few seconds. as in saying three items .. as a list. and maybe 3 different things that support your "point". Now try again by expounding on each of the items. where each lasts several minutes.. really recall listing to good speakers (2). Exercises for General Listing 1) Lets say you are talking to someone about "Meeting people". etc. make them brief. Select a particular aspect of that activity.2.. and/or what it's like to meet people. and still. and start to think about in a positive way (3). and somewhat new (3). Mention the first item.. the third item may tend to "lead" someone in some way. what are three ways that can go? Good? Bad? Indifferent? Exciting? Boring? Pick three and write these down What are three "ways" that the experience of "meeting people" can go? 2) Now practice out loud by saying something like "Isn't it interesting how you can meet people and it happens in different ways? I mean sometimes . playing a game. sometimes . briefly." and mention those three different ways.. but instead you talk ' about each for a few moments.X and then other times .. Y. Now. Who you were talking to Page 42 . a.. strange (2). 3.. Activity that you like or do often List a particular part of aspect of that activity What are three "ways" that can go? " 4) Now describe "What its like to do your activity . Then. doing some type of work. true.
and just providing a series of options. you were just listing several things in a list. Who you were talking to Point you were trying to make Three items that support your "point" 6) Recall a specific moment in each conversation. Maybe you want your list to contain many options. etc) By doing that. the other. However. Normally. Maybe you want to list several options or examples. by placing YOUR preferred item at the end. the one that comes to mind the easiest is the one that YOU want someone to agree with. Do that for each of the three examples above. how you could bring up these three points in a list-like manner. it sticks in the listener's head more. activity. you put more emphasis on it. and an elephant) what tends to "stick" in your mind? (The Elephant!) The last item! By hanging an item at the end of a list. it's easy to think of that Page 43 . we were talking about three points in a list that all were similar. Placing that particular item at the end of a list can have that effect. out loud. it makes it seem as if you are being fair.At The End D6-T15 If several items are mentioned in a list (for example a car. suggestion.2 Listing . at times you want to use listing as a way to highlight or focus upon one item. However. Here is a way to think about it. Now practice. You weren't trying to emphasize one point vs. and tends to make THAT point the most important one. a table. 3.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Point you were trying to make Three items that support your "point" b. or different types of alternatives (to a thought.3. In the earlier Listing examples. Who you were talking to Point you were trying to make Three items that support your "point" c. Therefore.
Now those are different ways of seeing it. how they can almost become a blur. o May be frustrating to you. etc . Sometimes there is nothing special.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course one.A t The End Listing at The End is a way to provide several options (which may differ) but to emphasize the option that YOU want. or this person presents himself really well (b). but you spend some time with that person (2) and the more that person talks. was said that at the end? By the way. but by placing "it could be fun" last. c)! • • • • • • Strategic Formula for Listing ... b.. Page 44 . Say that one LAST and bring up two other options. and then finish with YOUR preferred item. you just really click and you feel this connection . or instances FIRST. o It could suck. interesting. They are not all the same. they are nice.. or they just have the right answers (c). I have had to do that myself at times. In general. 3).... those people doesn't mean much either way . It may be because you like the resume (a). I know. o You know what it's like when you meet someone . I put another list within THAT description (a. this is one of those subtle but very powerful things that many persuasive speakers do a LOT. it could be boring. you eventually find this person that on some level. It's just a matter of getting to this person. It's interesting though... and there is just something about this person.. you meet someone.. examples.. you know . I mean.. but even when describing that person. the more convinced you are that that person is NOT the one! o Hopefully though. you know that those people are NOT qualified (1) o Others you maybe have thought were ok at first. or it could really be fun. right away. Again let's bring up this example of "meeting people".. o Other times you get that sort of a "friend" vibe with that person. one after another. This course. or maybe you are really seeing the power of all of this! I think you can tell which option I was going for! Meeting People. and the third one "eventually find this person" was the one I wanted to really "stick". did you notice the use of the words this/that/these/those? Also where do you think I might have been pointing and gesturing during those examples? Job interview o Have you talked to many candidates? Yes.. Again. When I have interviewed a lot of people. lets say you are talking about doing some activity. Examples • • Fun activity. you know? See how I did that? See how the item which I really wanted them to think about.2.that is the one (3). maybe it's boring. o And other times . you just know . they sort of fell into several groups o There are some people that. See? Not only did I have a list of three (1. you put more emphasis on it and it tends to make that one "stick" more..
out loud. is the item you mention LAST. statement. Issue or Option What do you want? 5) Now. buy some thing. and you are all figuring out how you are going to spend your time.3. If you say Page 45 . placing something at the end can add to its power and make it stand out.Let say you arc trying to get someone to buy something.Burying Items D6-T24 When using a List. LAST. close.. Here is a way to think about it. At times however. Maybe pause when saying it. Three things that you and your friends could do (activity) 2) Practice. and we always have fun . talk about the issue. You may want to "test" to see how the person will react to it. out loud. where you are trying to convince people to do something. or giving an example. it can be TOO obvious. etc. In that case. and therefore you do NOT want it to stick out too much. 4) What is an example from your life (recently). and bring up at least two other "options" BEFORE you mention the one option that you want. However. Maybe add a small "list" within that last item (because it's inexpensive. and what the result is that YOU want. Exercises for Listing . etc.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Tactical Formula for Listing . 3) Do that again.. and seem too direct. agree to some point.At The End When making a point. You want to mention or suggest something that is quite strong. List three possible things that you could do and write these down. mentioning all of these in a list. Maybe add an embedded command of some type.? Write down what the "issue" is. but mention the one which YOU want to put the most emphasis on. go somewhere.). Maybe you want to suggest something very direct or quite controversial and you do NOT want to give it too much prominence.3 Listing . maybe controversial. 3. Examples: • Sales . make sure that the one that YOU want to do. but bury it inside a list. and they are haggling or objecting a bit. but place some more emphasis on that last item.At The End 1) Lets say you are going to spend a day or evening with some friends. it makes sense to "bury" that item in the middle of a list. Go ahead and suggest that item. "List" several things briefly in order.
However." Doesn't that sound better? Meeting at a Party . it seems too obvious. that may be a GOOD sign. This is also a good way of testing someone's response. it seems a bit easier for you to say it.. If she gasps and has a look of shock and horror when you make that suggestion.. • Instead of thinking about it in terms of a list. or possibly you just still want to negotiate . you don't just say "we can slip the deadline". and maybe there is a possibility of you even spending that night together. or to maybe see if you can get someone to agree to it! Tactical Formula for Listing . "let's slip the deadline" might be a problem in some circles! So when people are talking about options to help the project. its your choice. Sometimes you have that "direct" item in mind and you surround it with other. For example. maybe you aren't ready to buy this now. that you are almost "worried" about how the listener may react. just suggesting. Very direct.. or possibly you still want to negotiate. See? Putting that one. Lets say your idea is so controversial and over-the-top. we can leave together right now. bury it inside a list.. The idea of " seize this chance and get it while you can" is something rather challenging to say (as the seller) that directly. lets say you are working on a project and things are behind schedule.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • "Well. maybe it IS too direct.Burying Items When giving examples or options to someone.Lets say you have met a women at a party. and you are talking about you two getting together sometime. So maybe you say something like o "Well. Page 46 .. It also allows you a chance to watch the persons reaction to it. lets say that you want to say something or suggest something that is very direct. seems to "lighten" it up somehow. There are several options but.Burying Items is a way to mention an outrageous or very direct option for "testing" purposes. honestly.. that you will just seize this chance and get it while you can! That sounds almost TOO forceful. But of she smiles and seems interested.. maybe you seize this chance and get it while you can . or maybe you want it so much.. we can talk in a few days. But if you switch the order. o "well. or maybe I'll call you tomorrow". one of them is to just slip the deadline.Burying Items Listing . more powerful and direct statement in the middle. more "appropriate" items to lighten it up. Strategic Formula for Listing . Instead. you can get away with an outrageous or very direct option by burying that option in the middle of a List. maybe you aren't ready to buy this now. and when you say it at the end like that. it's your choice.
Try it out loud. 2) Practice out loud how you would say that list in the situation you used in the previous exercise. For three different situations that have come up in your life recently. write down an outrageous or very direct suggestion that you would have liked to make (for each). Page 47 . make a point (afterward) to think about that outrageous option. go ahead and do so. After these situations occur. Situation Outrageous or Direct Suggestion 4) For each of those examples (above) go ahead and practice out loud. 2) In the near future. Assignments for Listing . Listing can be powerful. Bury the strongest item. you may even want to say it in a joking way. in the middle and see if it is a bit easier to imagine saying that list.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Exercises for Listing . or the most direct item. see if it seems easier to say.Burying Items 1) As you go out and live your life. but see if you CAN say it. See if you can make it sound natural. Go ahead and change the order of the list that you used earlier. 3) Think of some recent situations where you would have liked to mention a quite outrageous or direct suggestion.Burying Items 1) Go back to the previous exercises where you said some "lists" out loud. Look at the items that were listed and see if one of them maybe seemed very "strong" or "direct". Situation Outrageous or Direct Suggestion you could have made. but do it by burying it in a list. suggesting a List of options but burying that outrageous option in a list. you will probably encounter some situations where you might want to suggest something quite outrageous or direct. and then trying saying that item in the middle. if you do it TOO much or too blatantly. Try saying it with the strongest item at the end. it can stand out too much and be annoying. but as with any technique. and go ahead and practice how you COULD have said it. go ahead and create a new item that is very outrageous or direct. If there is not one. by burying it in a list. as any opportunities come up where you would like to make an outrageous or quite direct suggestion.
and see how. then mention several of your points or examples that support what YOU want. o See how that is being used here? • We have discuss language details . Using pauses.. and using lists. thinking about languaging such as "The more X. in a List. changing tone. 3. to "pull" the listener in. or experience. you are walking someone through a series of steps or thoughts. this is just a way of bringing together many of the things we have learned. remember to use emphasis and change your voice tone with the items. Pauses. think. we are pacing and leading. The general structure here is: • • The more X o where X is something that is hopefully quite obvious and true to the listener ... place that item at the END of the List for more power.. the more Z".. Or. and provide many examples to support it. So. Maybe one or more of the items actually has an embedded command in it. if it's a VERY outrageous option.5 Listing Review D6-T37 If you want to get your point across. and the more Y. then. the more Y Page 48 . D6-T38 You have heard language like "The more X. and Emphasis D6-T36 You may be worried about coming up with three things in a list .4 Listing. 3. In a way.4 MORE AND MORE..How do you think of them quickly? How do you make them sound natural? Don't worry! It is ok to have pauses! Pauses make things sound more natural and gives you time to come up with options! We talked about the use of pauses as a way to convey some drama and to make things interesting... as in .3. then the more Y.. then present it buried within a List of options.3. then the more Y. and they WILL stay through the pauses! As you are saying various items in a list. o See how they are incorporated. Maybe you want to stress one item more or less.. In a way. while incorporating the language tools we have already discussed. etc. and I just strung those together . really. Lets use this as a chance to really step back for a moment and look at this structure. consider this: • We talked about listing .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3. emphasis. can help to alter how the options (and you) are perceived. o See how we are listing several items? • We discuss Pace and Lead .. so this all works in your favor! Just be interesting enough to keep their attention. If you must suggest several different examples or options.." "More and More" is just a way to use these and bring them together. but have ONE that YOU really want to emphasize or get people to agree to. "the more YOU FEEL this .. I gave an example (in the audio) of several things I wanted someone to do... etc".
3. Page 49 .. the more you can notice Y . then the more Z starts to happen. then... You are "leading" someone.. • Sell TV sets. then just list them but use "more" as a way to go from one to the next. • • • • As you (or while you) X . The More Z.. and the more Y happens . or as Y is happening . you notice this. and something obvious.. or a new "pattern". The more Y. Tactical Formula for More and More The more X. o You can start off with something obvious as a statement to kind of pace them. present.... As you X. the More Z... which is more of an example of using Pace and Lead of their current reality. etc How to use it. or thoughts) use "More and More" as a way to string them together (and increase your chances of that happening. experiences.. as you feel this. THEN make the next item (more.. or realize Y.. and then use More and More to lead them forward .. the More Y.. the More Y. Instead of seeing this as a new type of language. the more Z.. like a series of successive steps (things you do. The small words and verb tenses (past. If you have something that you want to lead someone through. . Strategic Formula for More and More If you want to lead someone through a series of steps (actions. 2. see it as just a way of using many of the things we have already covered! More and More tends to be best thought of as a "List". future) can be altered to make it fit well.) or thoughts (things you experience or think about. and even more so with the next (more.. etc Examples • Convincing friends to go do something that you want to do. more and more. o walk someone through though process . etc. As an alternative. from a general item towards something that YOU want... You can even start by "pacing" a bit more. with "as X is happening".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course • • o Where Y is something that is a logical extension of what the listener knows and they see this as something that makes sense ..) item. agreeable. etc). you can use "as you" or "while you" as a way to bridge between sections as well. or "as you notice X". step 1. and as Y happens o or as you sense Y. towards what YOU want. then. The best way to do this is to start off with the first item as quite general..) specific. That's a general version of it. the more Y.
Exercises for More and More 1) Consider the idea of convincing some friends of going to a movie. Think of all of the things you can do tonight Realize that going to a movie would be a good idea Going to see the latest XYZ movie (use whatever movie you wish) See how that is a series of steps? Of thoughts? Like leading someone down a path? Now out loud.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • Talking to a woman . 5) Out loud. more and more. but more and more get closer to what YOU want. "as you" or "while you". something.) Write down three steps. using "More".. and bridging between them as we discussed earlier (More.) Page 50 . as you. of what you want to have happen. etc. something simple. to get towards doing what you want. What do you want to convince someone to do Three steps. to get towards doing what you want.. etc . What you were trying to convince a friend to do Three steps. that would "walk" the other people through the process of agreeing with you. o Walk her through the process. who should do what. as if in a conversation. or series of thoughts or actions. what project to work on. a plan. or have them experience. more leading. 3) Now out loud. while you. The next is another step in the series.. Don't just say "more". Think of three "steps". or something you want to lead people to do somehow. etc. The first should be obvious.. practice and see if you can talk about these one by one. if the person followed them. more in your direction. something with which you are familiar. (Agree where to go to dinner. Write these down. practice saying those in series. what to do. 2) Think of the last time you were trying to convince a friend to do something. the second. something you convince people to do (or wish you could). they would end up doing what you wanted. and string them together using "more". Think about a series of steps. a series of thoughts or actions that. a movie. Do the series several times. maybe an activity. Think of three "steps". practice saying those three steps.. Do that several times. etc. The first should be obvious. what to buy. You may start with "As you" or "while you" for the first one. that start off in general. a trip. 4) Think of another series from your life. work around it and make it sound natural.. or as alternatives.
. becoming more and more convinced. and even change the specifics of that sequence..White • Right . the more you will understand how they fit together. it's just a good way to think about discussing a subject. 2) With that "More and More" sequence practiced. you are able to easily go through such a "sequence". where you could have a series of "states" lead someone through the process of doing what you want. and move a conversation. So. Practice that series more! Get very familiar with it. • How two things are similar • How two things are different • Good . or else have the person you are speaking with mention it. Maybe add or change some of the reasoning. or several different subjects. you have two (or more) aspects of a topic. seductive.. exciting. this is a means to keep speaking.Left Page 51 . You will see that the more you get these bits and pieces. This Compare and Contrast method here gives you a way to talk about and around the subjects at hand. • • Take a subject and either mention another aspect of that subject. • This works especially well if the subject of the discussion is one that "works" for our purposes (fun. Maybe just try 2 of the 3 steps once or twice. How to use it.. • It's not magical in a persuasive sense. you can talk about. and you discuss these two aspects using Compare and Contrast.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Assignments for More and More 1) In the exercises. • You are just comparing and contrasting things. The more that happens. A Tactic for Talking • Too many guys let a good conversational subject finish far too quickly. But get to the point where you can flow easily through the 3 in a series. This method provides a way to keep the conversation going.5 COMPARE AND CONTRAST D6-T54 Listen to an example where many of these are used. or various aspects of a subject. the more things like "knowing what to say" and "what pattern to use" will become easier and easier for you! Notice how we are not doing these examples necessarily with women? Wonder why? 3. to continue. Just make sure that with that subject.Bad • One option . There are various means of doing this.another option • Black . etc. and piece them together and have it sound natural. look for opportunities to use that in your life.) • Too many guys focus on standard lines such as "So what do you like about X". • It also a great way to get information about the person with which you are speaking. we had you think of something from your life.
Examples • One brand of car vs. or point in a discussion. her. idea.another attribute As you are talking. • Link anything good to you. and you start to talk about something she likes and enjoys doing. • You talk to someone for a while and she say she likes scuba diving. associate them with things other than you. you can anchor and link positive things to you! o While talking about things she does not like. Then discuss the other car. taking a position with a more promising future. and this situation that you are sharing.. idea.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • One aspect .. you can talk about one car. you can anchor those away from yourself. As you are talking. you can take note of how the person is responding. or point in a discussion . easy-difficult. vs.about her) and she mentions various things about that subject. this meeting. • • Use opportunities to use commands and trance words to create thoughts. what they do not. then discuss these by comparing and contrasting. Select another subject. and feel those states and emotions for a while as well. and start to compare and contrast the two. What is different about each? How are they the same? How are they experienced? What is good? What is bad? etc. • You may talk to a woman. and incorporate the language tools. or individual sports vs. Use the other language tools during the discussion. o While talking about what she does like. Strategic Formula for Compare And Contrast Use this technique to keep the conversation going. and contrast these things. states. This all provides a good way to allow the discussion to continue for a while. • Notice what is liked and not liked • Notice any reactions. You discuss this. what they like. and talk about its attributes as well. o You select two items. One attribute . link away. good or bad. etc. o Maybe you start to ask her about it (have a discussion with her . deciding to focus on making a good living now. etc. Page 52 . Tactical Formula for Compare And Contrast Take any subject. or its power. experience. and discuss whether the handling makes it better. keep the discussion focused on a topic that serves your purposes. • Anything bad. and to let the person think about. How do these differ How are they the same Which is good-bad. feelings. compare. you can use all of the other tools we have discussed. the offense or the defense.another aspect -. • Decisions about a career or job. that are good for you. team sports. better-worse. • Maybe what is more important to a sports team. two facets of that subject. another brand.
This example uses a very obvious "Like vs. Subject or thing that they like Attributes (things about) that.. Now think of what is opposite to that . etc). 4) Select two of the following 4 topics. so if you like THAT. She says she likes the aspect of it being very quiet and serene under water. Familiarity vs. and this time.(because). Also. then I KNOW that you would NOT like THIS . Be mindful of that and anchor/link appropriately. etc.. and compare/contrast the two. that they do like Do the re-enactment again. Something New Control vs..." or . different computer... Page 53 . etc). Letting Go Safety and Excitement Liking someone mentally and/or physically o • • • • Exercises for Compare And Contrast 1) Pick some possession that you have that you REALLY like (car. Maybe some of the language that you are using that may lend itself to be embedded commands. Now talk out loud about each. Not-Like" set of things to compare and contrast. 3) Recall a recent conversation with someone you know. o So we talk about the feeling of quiet. Use compare and contrast to talk about each of the attributes that your friend would say they like about that subject. peace. and this time. Be descriptive! Use pauses. Something that you like Something that is opposite 2) Now take that same topic. etc. offer the compare-contrast ways of discussing it. and talk about it again. change your tone of voice. she mentions various things about it."Oh. bike. different style of clothing. but this time put some effort into being very aware of the positive and negative things that are being said.. Be vary aware that even when you are discussing the thing you "Like"... and negative things . your pacing. In addition. and those that are not good. and put effort into correct linking/anchoring/pointing to associate positive things to you. clothes. and various things about that subject or topic that they like.". and serenity on one hand o and compare and contrast that to the feeling of something new and different on the other. Be aware of your language! Throw in adjectives and adverbs.. As in "so let me make sure I understand this . the same holds true even when discussing what you do NOT like. be very aware of the positive and negative things that are being said. that within that may be attributes that are good. Re-enact that conversation again. and anchor/link/point appropriately. etc.same type of thing (another car. she finds the experience of seeing new and different things to be interesting as well.. computer. somewhere else.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Maybe you ask about it. where they were really describing or talking about something they like.
1 Parts Of A Subject D7-T4 This is a variation on the contrast principle. For example. theme.. if you are asking many questions about something that is NOT of interest to you. etc. People tend to think you have one OR the other. Parts. If you are talking about an interesting subject. it's too weak.6 PARTS D7-T1 Listen to an example where these are used. Who knows. link away Now this may seem tough . some are bad • Talk about the good parts. together.Who wants to talk about something that you are NOT interested in? However. Think about the possibilities. topic. and that's ALL you discuss.. Safety vs. By comparing and contrasting them. but when you go STRAIGHT for the BEST thing that she likes the MOST. you may end up liking the subject and find a new activity for yourself! Don't worry that you will "give the wrong impression" by inquiring and discussing these "parts". link them to you • If the bad or boring parts some up.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Control vs. then talk about all of the various aspects and parts of it. it is GOOD to focus on the positive aspects of what she likes. this provides a good way to train you to be able to talk and ask questions of people. and parts of a person 3. Meaning. For even more Power There IS a very powerful aspect of this technique that is important to mention.6. you can show someone how that can be possible.. etc. There ARE many things that people tend to THINK of in an "either-or" way. YOU are then showing someone how BOTH of these things can be experienced. and say (for example) "what do you like most about scuba diving" or "what is the most fascinating thing about. of having all of the positive aspects of Safety. Something New Now do your best to speak out loud and "talk" about these for a while using a Compare and Contrast structure." and that's ALL they talk about! Yes. Some are good. Too many guys just blow things to quickly. Two types of parts we can work with . this just helps to keep things moving in a conversation. Excitement. and get them to talk about what THEY are interested in. that is fun. BOTH linked and anchored to YOU. Parts of a subject. exciting. and you lose out on spending a LOT of time having them discuss something that she REALLY likes! This is just a way to have a discussion.. Letting Go Safety and Excitement Liking someone mentally and/or physically Familiarity vs. However there ARE ways to have BOTH. and the positive aspects of excitement. 3. this doesn't necessarily show that you Page 54 .
idea. feelings and emotions." This technique makes it easier to have conversations with people because THEY are giving you information and ideas for new things to ask about. or point in a discussion.many of which can be linked to you. and enjoys. Examples • Scuba Diving .. new things. be comfortable talking about all of the parts of that subject.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course are interested in it (the subject). If she LIKES scuba diving. just say "I like learning about people. Page 55 . feelings and emotions to yourself. it's hard to talk about that subject for a while.. Use the language tools in the discussion. This isn't just a way for you to ask ask ask HER about things.Don't just "talk about" Scuba Diving! Or. just curious. Link good thoughts. Now. but if you start there. etc. that an opportunity to talk for a WHILE about something she likes. like. and she may have a lot of positive emotions and feeling associated with that . You are just asking. Tactical Formula for Parts of a Subject Take any subject.. know about. etc. Exercises for Parts of a Subject . don't just ask "What is the most exciting thing about Scuba Diving?" That IS a good question. that you know. area of interest. sport. maybe a hobby. list various "things" about that subject. Strategic Formula for Parts of a Subject Discussing many of the parts of a subject keeps the conversation going. don't like. artistic endeavor. etc. Break it down into its component parts and discuss them. what people do. Subjects come up. activity. This is a great way to build rapport with a person as well. allowing you time to gather information and link yourself to good thoughts. topics come up. o Where have they dived? o How did they get into it? o What's their favorite place? o Do they have their own equipment? o Do they use different types of equipment for different locations? o How long have they dived? o Have they ever been in danger? o Have they taken photos? o Have they met interesting people? o Has this exposed them to any other cool sports or activities? o etc. If someone asks you about this. 1) Pick a subject that you like.
This should be someone you know well. someone you met at a party. what parts about football would you want them to ask about? For your chosen subject. That Subject: 2) Think of one of your friends or family members and some activity or topic that THEY are really into. You should be able to come up with at least 10 items.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course For example. If you have trouble. or Things About. Page 56 . Subject: Parts. Person: Subject: Parts. etc. but hopefully this "subject" is something you are not really into. if your subject was football. or Things About. Now think of something that THAT person is interested in or they are involved with. You should easily be able to come up with 10-20 items. Now. Write these down. and you have heard him or her talk about this. Maybe their hobby. make a list of these parts. a job they like. etc. and you were going to have someone (who knows very little about the subject) interview you and learn all about football. Someone that you recently met. like a co-worker. passion. or maybe someone in your life that you don't know very well. That Subject: 3) Now think of someone who you are NOT close to (that you do not know that well). if you were going to talk to them for like 30 minutes about that subject and were really going to ask them about it. maybe pick a different "person" as your subject. what would you ask about? What are all of the various things and aspects of it that YOU could inquire about or that could come up in a discussion? These are the "parts" of that subject. maybe a cousin you hardly see or talk to.
out loud. who is interested in something that you are NOT familiar with. but with which you are NOT familiar. 2) Sometime in the future.. make a point to have a good 10-15 minute conversation about a subject that THEY are really interested in. while YOU are there And you are linking and anchoring things to yourself Using all of the language tools and details And that person is finding YOU so fascinating and charismatic . Again. Person: Subject: Parts. That Subject: " 4) Think of another person and subject. They are talking about something THEY like Thinking about it. or Things About. make a point to have a good 10-15 minute conversation about a subject that THEY are really interested in.. Make a point to ask about many different parts of that subject. when you are speaking with a person you do not know hardly at all (yet you feel you will be able to talk to them for 10-15 minutes). and feeling it. but with which you are NOT familiar. You know the person but you are not real close to them. Page 57 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course The key here is that this is someone you don't see often. Make a point to ask about many different parts of that subject. The subject they are interested in is something with which you are NOT familiar. Person: Subject: Assignments for Parts of a Subject 1) Sometime soon. And of course the entire time. what would you ask about? What are all of the various things and aspects of it that YOU could inquire about? What are the PARTS you could ask about? Write these down. and were really going to ask them about it. off the "top of your head". don't know really well. mention like 10-15 different things you could ask or inquire about that subject. you should be able to list at least 10 items. when you are speaking with a friend or family member that you know well. If you were going to talk to them for like 30 minutes about that subject. like the exercise above. experiencing it. Now.
or normally don't "do" certain things? • Then talk about that first (shy) part. • If a person is shy. • Acknowledge the first part that is being discussed. • If an adventurous." o "You may have (or do have) another part (or side. that adventurous side is just waiting to come out. "you may have the other side" o or by example "I know someone like that. what she did . they are quiet. (where XYZ is a different or maybe the opposite behavior. that part of the person or type of behavior that DOES agree with you). link it to you. • "That's because there is another part. a way of thinking. In a discussion. another part hidden away. or view. You do not want to appear to challenge or invalidate and personality trait that is being shown. or part of a person. Page 58 .2 Parts Of A Person D7-T15 Listen to an example where this concept is used.. lean more on the language and linking tools to bring it out. exciting part of a person is being discussed. "parts" are meant as in a personality trait. adventurous . o Either in general like "there may be another side" o or more directly. we are also reframing! We are changing the way they look at things. great. etc)" o "I know someone similar who as this other part to themselves.6. there is a more decisive. and start to discuss and validate that OTHER part. or way of looking at it. etc" • Discuss this new or other "part" o "With many people.. their way of walking through and looking at the world. etc. and I have found she has this other side.... etc. experiencing it. directly or indirectly o For example. they hold back.. In this context.." • Bring up and acknowledge the fact that there is "another" part. a way of acting or being is being discussed (and one that does not necessarily work in your favor) . o "When you start to listen to this adventurous side .. or parts. there is a more quiet side • If a person is well-thought-out (thinks things through and takes time). a "side" to the person.. or reserved. In fact a friend of mine is very shy and one time. if the person is shy o "I understand how some people are shy. • What if it is not? What if they say they are shy. Don't Confront. etc. verify it. in a way you are also using Compare and Contrast as well. This can be VERY powerful. fun. there is a more adventurous part to themselves • If a person is outspoken.. Because you are discussing several things. Let's say you are in a discussion with someone. more spontaneous side to them. A key concept to think about is to ALWAYS assume that there is a part of someone that does agree with you. their reactions. and they feel that way. In many ways.. etc.." o "Many people like that also have another side to themselves.... if a personality trait. or has the same wishes that you do." • If this new or other "side" works more in your favor." • There will be a lot of this shown in examples here in this section and at the end of the program. that is more ..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3. or side. that XYZ part".. make it be experienced. Discuss. just looking for the right time. and then say (for example).. Let's break this down..
feelings. Find a personality trait. way of thinking. so be careful.. • Maybe someone is secretive.. and what I noticed about her is that she also has this other side to her. and 3 that are opposite... too confrontational. or part of the person by discussing or addressing it Think about a personality trait. Examples: • Lets say that a person says they are not into taking challenges.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • Many times you don't want to say "because there is another part" because that seems too direct.. having a conversation. they like to play things safe..) Exercises for Parts of a Person 1) What if someone says. assume there is a part that will work WITH you. or part of the person that is somehow related (which works in your favor) or somewhat opposite.. etc etc etc. Tactical Formula for Parts of a Person For every part of a person that will work against you. There are also other sides to people . was also "Y". and beliefs. Introduce and discuss that "other part" in a way that works to your advantage. that can work in your favor. Well. . o "A friend of mine does that as well. but it can be handled . o "I have a friend who was "X" (where X is the trait being discussed). • Maybe someone says they can be jealous. etc.. "I am boring". that may be true but also there is another part of them . you are NOT discussing this as to say. o "Well.. o "I was reading somewhere about things like that and what it was saying was..... I understand you have that side to you. Remember." Strategic Formula for Parts of a Person Use Parts of a Person as a way to find. and she realized that she.... You can work around this issue (of possible confrontation) by saying things like o "I think another way of looking at that trait is .. "you are wrong" or to show how smart you are! You are just talking.. This one side . • Maybe someone lies . People have many sides to themselves. discuss. Traits similar to "Being Boring" Page 59 . even when the other person claims or demonstrates that such parts are NOT there... way of thinking. or part of the person (mostly something which has a negative connotation) Acknowledge that personality trait. (not good in a person. way of thinking. and evoke favorable states. deep down.. What personality traits (or what other parts or ways of thinking) are similar? Which are somewhat opposite? Write down 3 that are similar. it may sound like you are arguing or challenging the person.
use this/that/these/those .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Traits opposite to "Being Boring" Of those that you listed. and then bring up this other "part" that you selected. 3) What if someone says that they are shy? What personality traits (or what other parts or ways of thinking) are similar? Which are somewhat opposite? Write down 3 that are similar. Look at the formula earlier.. which could you maybe "use" in a good way? 4) Think about how you would discuss that shy part. or ways of thinking) are similar? Which are somewhat opposite? Think about 1-2 that you could use. but this time.. 5) From the list you just made (and selected from). Page 60 . and some of the variations mentioned for language examples. What personality traits (or what other parts.. be aware of opportunities to maybe mark off an embedded command or two (or more). etc. pick another part or trait. Traits similar to "not into meeting any new people" Traits opposite to "not into meeting any new people" Practice out loud how you might first discuss "I am not into meeting any new people right now" and then transition into the other parts or traits that you selected. Practice this out loud. and then bring up this other "part" that you selected. Imagine a conversation and how you might do this. Imagine a conversation and how you might do this. Now do a similar exercise again out loud. Traits similar to "Being Shy" Traits opposite to "Being Shy" Of those that you listed. and some of the variations mentioned for language examples. and 3 that are opposite. which could you maybe "use" in a good way? 2) Think about how you would discuss the boring part. maybe do some linking an anchoring. Look at the formula earlier.. Practice this out loud. 6) Lets say someone says "I am not into meeting any new people right now" .
and offer challenges to you on the audio. or mentions a "way of thinking").. See if what they are saying describes or is pointing out any personality traits (or a "part" of themselves. start to bring them up IN the conversation. 3) Now that you can recognize these traits when talking to someone. etc could you discuss? Try that out loud. but ROW see how many of the speaking and language tools you can use. 8) Lets say someone says they have trouble meeting new people. see if you can notice them WHILE talking to someone. or parts. WHILE talking to someone. trusting their own judgment. trait. This area has caused some confusion. and then find a way to discuss another part that is more favorable or positive. or putting him or herself down for some reason. See if you can arrive at a similar part or trait that you can discuss that could be used in your favor. see if you could maybe think of an opposite one that could be discussed.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 7) Do the above example again.. Use the formula and the variations mentioned earlier. and then point out some other trait or part that might work in your favor somehow. An easy way to do this is when a friend or acquaintance is being self-deprecating in some manner. Or. and has been a bit difficult for many to really understand Page 61 . Assignments for Parts of a Person 1) For the next week or two.? What other part.7 OPPORTUNITIES AND CHALLENGES D7-T34 Listen to an example where I structure opportunities. etc could you discuss? Try that out loud. trait. Just notice the trait or part being mentioned. 3. You don't have to discuss them (yet) just make a point to note these traits. acknowledge it. After the conversation. make a note of these traits or parts. 2) After you have become more comfortable noticing such traits after-the-fact. You have probably heard the phrase "structure opportunities. being open. Opposite (or similar?) trait or part that might actually work in your favor Conversation with Traits or parts that were discussed. See if you can note that "part" of who they are. 9) Lets say someone says "I only like dating my TYPE"? What other part. make note of when you are having a personal conversation with anyone. and offer challenges" many times when studying these materials.
1 Using Their Own Processes D7-T36 If you know what people want to have. o You are saying in a way. or like to be perceived as having. you are just showing that YOU have standards.7. You are in. Strategic Formula for Opportunities And Challenges Find or assume what someone wants Create an opportunity for them to get it or demonstrate they have it Make that "demonstration" work in your favor. If you can somehow frame or map yourself as being a way for a person to fulfill things that someone already wants. • These are also good and convenient for practicing and examples. 3. or show it. or want to be perceived as having. Challenge them to demonstrate it. It's good to somehow work with structures and things that are already in someone's mind. • Show that you have standards. you are using processes that they ALREADY have in their minds." • This is NOT about arrogance. You then find some way to set things up so that choosing to listen to you. but may not be the most effective strategy. For example if someone is intelligent. and wants to be seen as intelligent. these concepts are broken down and offered to you in a way that will truly help you to be able to use these powerful techniques. Universal Wants • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control • Excitement Page 62 . but I am looking for more. "You may be beautiful. do it. • Use these general things and assume they are there. Why this matters. In this section. o This is the opposite of pleading and the "pedestal" scenario. then they already have mechanisms for that in their mind. • It's easy.7. • Show that you are qualifying and screening to some extent. Work with universal things that people would like to have. is a way for them to show their intelligence. effect. then by using their existing desires. or be with you. using motivations that a person already has.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course and utilize.2 What do people want? - D7-T38 "Universal Wants" = Good. and that you believe in yourself. 3. this can be very effective.
and discusses what is important to her She mentions something she likes or dislikes about a past boyfriend.. You are challenging an ASSUMED desire (a "Universal Want").. o etc.... o Talk about what she does.. or maybe a value. o Are you able to . o I wonder if you can .. Warning . or adventurous. o Always have the question below in mind... o You might. can (use smart. o You might see .. or fun. o You seem like you may have good taste o etc. Mini-Challenge Cheat Sheet o You seem .. o You may . we are using one of these sort of "universal" wants. o The smart people I know.. o You seem cool enough . • Mini-Challenges o You might get this . o If you can . etc • Finding these particular wants and desires o These "wants" can be possessions. along with the Universal Wants listed earlier! • We assume here that with a mini-challenge. etc).. or an image she wants other people to have of her.... but if you can find or work with specific wants or desires.. or want to be perceived as having? Mini-Challenges D7-T40 3. her interests. and it can really annoy people if you do! Page 63 . You can imply a "test" for these things by issuing a mini-challenge. and challenging them in a way that says.. o You seem like .7. o Try using some of the above items.. o Talk to her and find out what she wants or needs.. or want to be perceived as having. o You seem as if.....3 There are certain things you can assume that most people may want to have. or be seen as having "X"... what she likes to do.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course "Particular Wants" = Better! What does THIS person want? • Notice o o o particular things that this individual would like to have or be perceived as having She mentions wanting respect She defends her position. wants to have. that's even better.This technique can be overused. o Talk about some of yours and see how she reacts. o Maybe you can .. o You seem smart enough . "you can show me that you have the thing you desire. What does she want to have.. o If you are able to . by listening to me or agreeing with me"...
(and again. "By listening to and/or agreeing with me. Tactical Formula for Opportunities and Challenges Find something "X" that the person wants to have. Make a statement that says. or hopefully find. in a way. • Universal Wants • Particular Wants Opportunities. • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control • Excitement Page 64 . "Show me you have that thing by listening and/or agreeing with me" or.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Tactical Formula for Mini Challenges Assume something she wants to have. by doing "Y" Make "Y" something that works in your favor. here we have to "assume" things for the sake of teaching) . • Challenge them to see if they will follow through and take action to get it. or been seen as having You can assume based on normal things that people want (Universal Want) or Get information from talking (Particular Want) Create an opportunity for them to get or demonstrate "X".. or be seen as having. • Find what someone "wants". Challenge the person to do "Y".. and Mini-Challenge Cheat Sheet. and see how many combinations you can come up with. • Create an opportunity for them to get that • Make it so that them "getting" that works in your favor..7. you will show me you have that". what someone wants. 3. What does someone Want? Assume. Creating Them Consider the wants and needs that a person may have .4 Opportunities and Challenges D7-T43 Think of it like this.. Exercises for Mini-Challenges 1) Try piecing together items from the Universal Wants List.
or show what they have.Think about maturity . • Here is a way a friend of mine showed that they have or was able to get X...Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course You need to create an "opportunity" for each of these. something they want. o Mention how confident people can meet someone new. Provide an example of someone. Examples. o They can go against the grain.. o They can do exciting things. • Provide an example from your own life. How can you make that sound like a way for them to "show" something? How to create an opportunity? • Here is a way for you to show me that you really have or was able to get X.. Challenges Are they ready to take advantage of that (this) opportunity? Challenge them to get what they want. and see how doing Y would demonstrate it?> • Does she have what it takes to get X. talk about DOING them. o Talk about how confident people can make their own choices.. Examples: • Does she really want X and see how Y can get that? • Does she really have X. • Confidence .. Maturity . where this opportunity benefits you (and hopefully pertains to the situation)... • Maybe point out something a friend did . or want to be seen as having Structure this so that it is something that YOU would like them to do.How can you create an opportunity for someone to appear confident (that works in your favor)? o Discuss people that YOU know. • Provide a way to demonstrate that they DO have what they want. or some way for this person to capture the opportunity • Provide an example of something she can say or do. • Here is how I read/heard that someone else had or was able to get X.. on their own. o . and how the confident ones are able to take chances and have fun. Talk about those things. even if their friends don't approve.. by doing Y? Page 65 . Create the opportunity for them to show or demonstrate that they have or are perceived as having. and/or HAVING them. and feel very comfortable with that. what does a mature person do? How are they seen? How do they react? o They make their own decisions o They trust their own judgment o They can decide to do something NOW. by meeting this "challenge". • Mention something that you have read. o Let the person demonstrate how confident they are.
you mention "We should get together sometime. It's NOT about creating an argument! Again.. what this means to her. how she may be adventurous." Adventurous o Maybe she wants to feel adventurous... or be perceived as having... and she found that by taking chances and risks.. • • I know this is tricky. I mean. These are your "Assumed Wants". Exercises and Assignments for Opportunities and Challenges 1) Make a list of some assumed things that many people may want to have.. and do Y to get it? Can she do Y and make it happen? Can she see that Y will get her what she wants? Can she trust herself enough to do Y? etc. Is she ready to take chances? Take risks? Do something different? Maybe not . It's different from the way most guys think. Some examples are shown below. but. and mention that you read somewhere that successful people tend to be able to trust their own judgment.. I don't know if you are adventurous enough for this. there are others shown earlier. Later. their own intuition.". Can she see an opportunity to have "X". You talk about a friend who has always wanted to feel secure. to show or demonstrate that? Examples: • Security o Say she wants to feel secure. she actually felt more secure about being able to take care of herself. Page 66 . to be a way for them to get what they want. You talk about that for a while. Then at some point you talk about you and her getting together. Success o Maybe "success" is important to her.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • • • Does she want you to THINK she has X. as long as you trust yourself enough to feel that is OK . They want X. You discuss success for a while.. she may have to do Y to prove that. Are they ready to do Y. and say something like "well. • Find out what someone wants. • Find a way to map what YOU want. Assumed Wants 2) Write a Mini Challenge for each if the above items.. then .. • Challenge them to do that.
or wants to be perceived as having. 5) Think about some people that you know quite well like family. out loud 4) Make a note of some of the ones you practiced that seem closest to something you could easily say or do with people in your life. or be perceived as having Page 67 . For each person.. "you may .. Hopefully these are specific to them. etc. quite unique. "lets see if this makes sense to you "see if you can follow this ." Mini Challenges 3) Practice the list of Mini Challenges you just created. friends.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course "you seem like . and focus on using these. Practice these more.. Note some of your favorites ones below. and go out and actually USE them for a while. Person What they want to have. and NOT just things from the "assumed" list. Write down these "Wants".... write down something that each wants to have.. "you might. co-workers.
are they ready? Can they take action? Can they DO this? Write down these "Challenges". even subconsciously. and "opportunity". Is there a way to create an "opportunity" for them to get or achieve that? Can you somehow create an opportunity that can be "mapped" in some way towards yourself." The "opportunity" is for them to be a better athlete. Page 68 . and that allows them to be better at their sport. see if you can create a "challenge". Person Opportunity for them to get what they "want" that somehow works in your favor 7) For each "want". as making them look at you more positively. Example .) So you challenge their dedication to their sport by saying "I was reading about really good athletes and one thing that was pointed out was that a lot of them really can get burned out. See if you can make it sound natural. You are "mapping" it to you because by doing what you discuss. want to do what you wish. or that in some way could be interpreted.. and write them down. etc? Give that some thought. The good athletes find a way to relax and have fun..A friend wants to be really good at a sport. Some way that questions . they will be doing something that YOU want. and they spend a LOT of time practicing. (You want that friend to lighten up and be able to spend more time going out and having fun. and how can you "map" it to yourself? Write down these "Opportunities".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 6) Consider the "want" that you identified from each of those persons above. Person Challenge 8) Practice each of those "Challenges" out loud. What is the opportunity.
really focus on what each person desires. you no doubt have heard many examples of "ambiguities". that these become familiar. they mean something different. to do things that you would want. listen. listen. These are those words or phrases that can mean more than one thing. listen.8 AMBIGUITIES D7-T64 If you have studied this material for a while. Try to guess. What do they "want". This is one area that many guys actually ARE able to pick up and use easily if they have listened to the materials enough.. look at how many items we have covered so far. 10) While you are talking to people for the next 1-2 weeks. but in another context. 3. Those) MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures o Linking Gestures (Towards And Away) o Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This. we will not be doing any specific work on Ambiguities. • SPEAKING POINTERS o The "Cool" Factor o Voice Tone And Tonality o Pacing And Pausing o Energy And Enthusiasm LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS o Adjectives And Adverbs o Trance Words o Weasel Phrases o Embedded Commands o Linking o Easy-Linking (This. but now also start to look for "opportunities and challenges" in a way that directs their desires towards you. Do what you can to bring these up while in the conversation if you can. 11) For the next 1-2 weeks. see if you can bring them up in conversations over the next few weeks..Point Or Touch On Positive And Negative LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES o Pace And Lead " Topics and Subjects * Mindset of Frame • Current Reality o Give Them A Reason • • • Page 69 . so that you have heard them SO MANY TIMES..9 SUMMARY D7-T66 Bringing it together. 3. do the same in terms of observing desires. They may have one meaning in one context.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 9) As you become more familiar with these practiced challenges and opportunities. Although there could be a section in this course that deals with these areas. but also ask some questions and get into a discussion about it if possible. That. That. Listen.) o Easy Anchoring . These.. given that this IS an area that many guys are able to do (with enough listening) and given the many OTHER areas that really DO need the assistance of a program like this.
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course
o o o
Listing • General • At the End • Burying Items More And More Compare And Contrast Parts • Parts of a Subject • Parts of a Person Opportunities And Challenges • Mini Challenges • Opportunities And Challenges Ambiguities
These are the building blocks for good Language skills. These are the sorts of skills that are most workable when they are truly "wired in" to someone, so that they are able to be used automatically. To try to "remember" to do such things can be very difficult. That approach would make having a conversation far too difficult and too much work! The best way is to work with these techniques SO much that these truly are just a part of "how you talk". With enough practice, and hearing these enough, you CAN have these become a part of how. YOU talk! So listen, practice, do the exercises, do the assignments, and do that all again, until these really do become a part of you, and a part of how you speak.
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course
D8-T1 A key aspect of making these tools work is getting the conversation into topic areas that will really work for you. The language tools you studied earlier are best used in the proper context, and in this section, we will learn how to get the conversation into areas that will create that context. Have you had these problems? • You JUMP too quickly into a pattern or topic, and it sounds really strange? • You just THROW a pattern AT her, and get a weird reaction? When you use these tools, or even use "patterns", it's not enough to just "say it", there has to be the correct CONTEXT for what is said! It's a process that she needs to go on and through with you. It's not enough to just find a conversational excuse to "throw" a pattern (or language tool) AT her! This section is about finding ways to just get into an interesting conversation and then towards and onto good topics. We want this to seem natural, and with some understanding, practice, and a few key strategies and tactics it will BE natural and automatic! 4.1 4.1.1 CHALLENGES -a Detailed And Specific Plans Are Just Not Workable. D8-T3
It's good to theorize to "say this", and then "say that", and then to use "this pattern", and "that pattern". However, the problem is that a lot of time the proper context is not presented well enough. The examples you may have seen in other products are just that, examples. The problem is that too many guys have taken them literally! Guys try to do "X, Y, Z," exactly, in order, with no sense of calibration, or being able to work and re-direct things in real time. Therefore, detailed tactical plans are not realistic. 4.1.2 Navigation Example D8-T4
Think of moving a conversation to a certain point, like taking a trip somewhere. Say you are in Chicago, and want to go to Los Angeles. You could have a detailed map of every turn and road, exact route numbers and lengths, etc. The problem is... what do you do if there is a detour? What if the road is changed, what if the map is wrong? You are lost! What if, instead, we teach you how to drive the car, and give you a general set of directions like "keep driving west, until you see the ocean, then turn left (south)". That way, you can handle just about any turns, roads, or detours that you may encounter! Conversations are different from roads too, because people are all unique, situations, times, surroundings etc. are unique and change from moment to moment. Therefore, if you want to get a conversation to go a certain way, then detailed plans made ahead of time are hard to work with. There are too many variables! We need a workable set of strategies and tactics that allows you, in real-time, to direct things the way that you want them to go. They need to be easy to follow, and easy to use, and something that you don't need to "think about", but can just DO easily.
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course
Navigational Strategies Are Needed
So we need a general set of guidelines, some overall strategies and tactics, so that you can have this good, intuitive sense of how to "steer" things, and get conversations to where you want them to go. As long as you are engaging a woman's emotions, capturing & leading her imagination, then you are moving in the right direction. Then, in that situation and in that context, linking all the positive & powerful things to you becomes more workable. Instead of a map, we are giving you a "compass". We need a strategy for managing conversations that can to do this gradually, in a way that seems natural! If it's too abrupt or makes the conversation strained, it will sound weird. The strategy must LEAD the conversation towards good topics and subjects in a way that seems natural, and is not TOO abrupt. Examples: (Listen to the audio.) • Talking about a printer o Moving TOO quickly towards emotional topics o Can sound strange • Driving a car and taking a turn (Analogy) o Think of driving down freeway and needing to switch to different direction. o You can't make a hard, right angle turn on a dime! o You need to turn the car, slowly, on a ramp to go in a different direction. When we control conversions, we need to find a way to take it gradually in a new direction. Many guys try to do the hard and fast switch, and they crash in the process! We will learn to move things in a way that makes it seem natural, but it will be deliberate. 4.1.4 She Must Be Engaged In The Conversation! D8-T10
It's important to get conversations into the right area and have HER go along with you. Not just "bring it up" (a topic or pattern), but it must be natural and she must "go along" with it and be a PART of it. She must be actually THINKING about what you are discussing! It has to happen naturally. No weird jumps. It's not enough to just talk; she must BE a part of the conversation! So, don't just "jump" to a topic. Don't find an "excuse" to bring it up. Take the conversation there, take her WITH you, and have her be a part of it! What really helps is to have a genuine interest (or at least curiosity) in her and the conversation, not just thinking to yourself; "How can I use this?" 4.2 HOW CONVERSATIONS HAPPEN D8-T12
How does this really occur? We will break this down so that we have a way to really affect this process. 4.2.1 Conversational Dynamics D8-T13
How do conversations happen? Most of them occur somewhat randomly as the conversation flows from topic to topic over time, and can end up almost anywhere after a while. By the time YOU move from one topic to the next,
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course
you may end up in a very different place from where you began. However, there is a series of steps as things move forward, as shown in Figure 4.2.1-1.
Figure 4.2.1-1: Conversations Move Through Many Topics
Each of these steps between topics tends to be related. Topic 1 relates to Topic 2. Topic 2 relates to Topic 3, etc. For example, you can start to talk about Cars, and then move to one aspect of that topic, Car Seats. Then it's easy to move to some aspect of that topic, which maybe something that seats are made of, like Leather. Then maybe you talk about Leather Furniture, etc. (See Figure 4.2.1-2.)
Figure 4.2.1-2: Each Topic Flows To the Next Topic In most cases, each Topic is related to the one before.
After a series of such steps, you can be at a quite different topic (like an apartment that you used to live in) even though you started at a quite different topic (Cars). In most cases, it's very difficult to predict where a conversation will go after many of these steps. As you go through a few topic shifts (as shown in the diagrams), although each individual shift relates to the topic before and after that shift, after a series of shifts you can end up talking about almost anything! Therefore, even if you start the conversation at a great topic, you can get off-track and into topics that will not work in your favor. Conversely, what is needed is a way to start at almost any topic at all, and by steering that process (of moving from Topic 1, to Topic 2, Topic 3, etc) take the conversation into better and better topic areas that will serve your purposes. 4.2.2 Conversational Model D8-T14
We introduce a model to assist in discussion, understanding, and control of conversations. If you start at a topic, how do you go to another one? This process happens all of the time very easily. The key is that the movement from one topic to the next takes places easily because there are so many options involved. From any topic (Topic 1) it is easy to flow to any of 6-8 other, related topics (Topic 2 Candidates). People usually just "talk" and naturally the conversation moves from the first topic to the next one. Since the "next" topic is related, this process seems natural and is easy to do. In fact, you do this all the time without really knowing about it. (We are creating a model to describe a process that happens naturally, so that we can teach you a way to have an affect on that process). Figure 4.2.2-1 shows how from one topic, the conversation can flow easily to many related topics.
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course
Car you own Seats in it Interior of your car How Powerful it is What Gas does it use How Fast it is Feel of Driving Places you have gone Where you bought it
Topic 2 Candidates
Figure 4.2.2-1: From One Topic to many Candidate Topics The topic of Cars is discussed, and from there are many ways the conversation can easily move.
Once the conversation moves to one of these eight topics, it's easy to move to one of eight more. For example if in Figure 4.2.2-1, the conversation flows from "Cars" to "Where you bought it" (as in, where you bought the car), then now we have a situation like that shown in Figure 4.2.2-2.
Where you bought it
That car dealer The salesman Part of town Other car dealers Who went with you How you bought it The Loan you used etc. Topic 3 Candidates
Figure 4.2.2-2: From A Second Topic, Another Group of Candidates If "Cars" was discussed first, and then "Where you bought it" was discussed next, there are now many ways to go in the next step. In the figure, you see how the conversation moves from Cars, to "Where you bought it". After that, there are many "candidate" topics where the conversation can flow. Perhaps it moves to the "Part of town" where the car was purchased.
Now from the topic of "Where you bought it" (a car), there are easily eight places that you can go from there, shown as the "Topic 3 candidates". This process continues throughout a conversation. This process happens regardless of the specific topics being discussed. Conversations flow from topic to topic, as shown in a general manner in Figure 4.2.2-3.
then talk about Y. because there are SO many ways that things can go! Page 75 . you can end up with the conversation going almost anywhere! Figure 4. and the conversation flows along in this manner.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Topic 1 Topic 2 Topic 3 Topic 4 Figure 4. there is no way to know exactly where it will end up by the time you have moved forward a few steps! Imagine trying to predict ahead-of-time exactly where you may arrive (among those 512 options).2-4 shows what happens when all the topics are considered. then EACH of the eight different candidates for Topic 2 can then lead to their own eight. If Topic 1 can lead to eight different candidates for Topic 2. Do you see why the pre-planned approaches can be difficult?! Even if you ARE able to have the conversation start from a specific place (Topic 1). the Figures that have been shown so far only show a small portion of the total topics towards which a conversation can flow. and at each step after that. you can affect this process (and we will teach that to you). when talking to some random person. you can have up to eight different ways to go at EACH step. since it's so easy to go from any topic to 6-8 others. then talk about Z" are very difficult to really work with.2. With some skill and technique. an so on. In many ways. This results in easily over 500 topics that could be selected by the time we arrive at Topic 4! In only three shifts of the topic ("topic shifts" as shown in the figure) we end up with many many possibilities of where the conversation might end up. the plans that many guys try to use to "Talk about X. In general.2.2-3: Topics Flow from One to the Next Each topic in a conversation can easily lead to 6-8 others. When this happens in succession. However.
you can end up in over 500 different topic areas! We can create a general Conversation Model that shows this process (Figure 4. It then can flow easily to maybe 6-8 others (the diagram shows fewer for the sake of clarity).2. a conversation may start from one topic or subject (Topic 1).Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 1st Topic Shift 2nd Topic Shift 3rd Topic Shift Figure 4.2-5).2.2-4: Topic Candidates and Topic Shifts If each topic can flow to eight others. it can flow from there. then after only three shifts in the topic. Page 76 . As seen in the diagram. Once Topic 2 has been discussed. and so on.
This process of moving from the first topic to one of 6-8 relevant topics is the process of moving through a "Topic Turning Point" as shown in Figure 4. (The figure only shows a portion of how many subjects and topics can be reached). The diagram only shows a small fraction of them (so that the diagram is not even more cluttered than it already is!). if you assume that from any topic you could go to any of 8 other topics.2. If you are discussing one specific topic.000 different subjects or topics that could be discussed by the time you are at "Level 6" in the conversation!! 4.3-1. is an awareness of this phenomenon that is called the "Topic Turning Point". In fact.3 Topic Turning Point D8-T15 The KEY concept the needs to be understood to gain the ability to manage conversations. then for that diagram to be really accurate it would have to show over 30. There are SO many ways it can flow.2-5: Conversation Model The "Tree of Subjects" showing how thousands of subjects can be reached in just a few steps of the conversation. Page 77 .2.2.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Figure 4. that they become far too many to shown in the diagram. it is quite easy to move from that onto 6-8 related topics.
the conversation can then move to another topic.3-2: How TTP Selections Effect the Conversation The selections made at each TTP are what actually "steer" the conversation in a certain direction. Page 78 . make a statement.3-1: The Topic Turning Point (TTP) When discussing any topic (First Topic) there are easily 6-8 different topics to which the conversation can be moved (Candidate Topics). as long as the new topic is "related" to the first (this is shown in the diagram by the "candidates") then this change is easy to do. Therefore. the conversation "shifts" slightly.3-2 Topic Turning Points Figure 4.2. A general way of looking at this process is shown in Figure 4.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Candidate Topics Figure 4.2. ask a question. after one topic has been discussed for a short while. the overall flow of a conversation comes about due to many of these TTP choices being made. and throughout a conversation. Someone might make a comment. introduce an idea.2. However. The key thing to realize is that this process of Topic Turning Point (TTP) selection occurs over and over. etc. For example.
3 4. moment-to-moment.. no matter WHAT is discussed. 4. As you have probably guessed by now. and do so in a way that sounds VERY natural.) then you CAN direct how a conversation flows. very quickly. In a very broad sense. to "route" conversations so that they end up being the kinds of conversations that YOU want to have. but you will have some control over the overall direction. Look in the diagrams. However. depressing Confrontational . So to start our process of learning how to manage conversations. choices are made moment to moment. positive. D8-T16 D8-T16 So how can you actually affect the flow of a conversation. they somehow see it in terms how in effects their beliefs.1 GENERAL CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Want. The overall strategy at the beginning is then to "talk about positive. they find a way to point out something negative. • Other people able to direct conversations based on their own beliefs and their own political motivations as well. we are going to later teach you a way to be able to make these TTP selections. positive aspects of every topic being discussed.3.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Normally. fun.1-1.. is coming soon. with some awareness of this process. That ability alone is enough for our purposes. Sometimes this can be VERY apparent.. By manipulating TTPs from moment to moment. For example: • Maybe someone always finds a fun. interesting Mundane and uninteresting Negative. we want the conversation to be positive. fun. interesting things". conversations tend to go in one of several ways. The flow of the conversation starts.3. and the conversation tend to into one of four general areas. No matter WHAT you talk to them about. This selection just "happens". and that work in YOUR favor. • Other people may do the opposite. fun. you can direct where the overall conversation goes.Those are just general examples. These types of people are making TTP selections based on a strategy of finding things that are negative to talk about. conversations are one of four types: • • • • Fun. IMPORTANT: The overall direction of a conversation comes about due to a successive selection of TTPs. no one is "deciding" the TTPs.. and they quick steer the conversation in that manner. positive way to look at anything. easily and naturally? That IS the point. and some training (which . we want to first start to steer things in the best general manner. and interesting.. isn't it? In general. and imagine if you had a general way to manipulate these TTPs. • Other people direct conversations based upon their own moral or religious values. Can you see how you may be able to affect where a conversation goes? You might not be able to predict EXACTLY where it ends up. they Good Boring Bad Argument could be more specific (and we will get there). Many people do this "TTP selection" process automatically.. These people are able to automatically make TTP choices based on a strategy of finding good.) Page 79 . (See Figure 4.
Even if things move towards other areas. interesting things. Page 80 . Figure 4. Positive. you can still "steer" back towards "Fun. you see that you want to focus the conversation onto topics that are "Fun. do what you can to steer in that direction. How do you do that? • • • Show interest when someone discusses positive. and Interesting topics and subjects. fun. No matter what is brought up. so from the earliest stages. steer towards Fun. bring up positive. fun. fun. Positive. Positive.3. Strategic Formula for General Conversational Management To steer the conversation in a good direction. positive and interesting. If you break that down into 4 main directions. Don't engage in conversations when it's NOT about positive.1-1: General Conversational Management Consider all of the ways a conversation can go. and Interesting". interesting things.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course General Conversational Management Conversations tend to flow in one of four major ways. and Interesting" things. Introduce topics that are fun. interesting things.
Moment To Moment D8-T19 Look at the overall flow of a conversation and break it down to its smallest point that we can affect. Page 81 . positive. and interesting" (See Figure 4."Where can I go that is fun.3. TTP Mantra ... TTP options. and then you move things in that direction! Remember . you can always think of 6-8 other related topics or subjects. as we discussed earlier.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4.) Tactical Formula for General Conversational Management Keep thinking . . • Etc. as long as it moves things in a way that answers the question "Where can I go that is fun. and interesting?" Move the conversation in that direction. and interesting" and just move things in that direction. Positive.3. and Interesting". positive. the TTP. Positive. How do you move things in that direction? You can: • Ask a question • Make a comment • Make a joke • Quote someone you heard. You think of the "candidates" (the related topics or subjects that you can discuss) that serve you at the time. positive. So you just think to yourself "Where can I go that is fan.Where can I go that is "fun. You then think of several ways you can go (the related topics. Which Of these are Fun. and interesting"? Moment-to-moment. and Interesting? That is the direction to go! Candidate Topics Figure 4. and then steer things in the correct direction. or something you read.2 How To Steer Conversations. you make note of where you are in the conversation. the topic "candidates" that were shown earlier). For any subject.2-1. move things towards the related topics that are "Fun. you can direct where the overall conversation goes.2-1: Topic Turning Point Navigation for General Conversational Management No matter what subject you start talking about. positive.3. By manipulating TTPs from moment to moment.The overall direction of a conversation comes about due to a successive selection of TTPs. Repeat.
but in the early part of the conversation. Do this for a while.).3. positive. "fun. 4. you get to an overall "area" that will work. and Interesting".) Keep things moving in the direction of Fun. (See Figure 4.3-1. just keep thinking about where you can go that is "Fun. the most important thing to do is to focus on moving thing in a direction that is .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Later in the conversation. and interesting".3-2.3-1: Moving Through Topics Using General Conversational Management Early in a conversation.3. you can work more towards certain topic areas. Positive..3.3 The Model With Strategy And Tactics In Place D8-T23 As you make TTP choice after TTP choice (See Figure 4. Page 82 . and Interesting! Figure 4. Positive. You are steering things towards the direction that you want the conversation to go..3.
4 Exercises and Assignments D8-T25 Exercises for General Conversational Management 1) Think of some conversations that you have been in recently. At some particular moment early in the conversation. Even if you temporarily move away from that direction or end up in an area that is not very positive or interesting. or where you are. 4. what was the main topic? Topics Page 83 . maybe that person is not someone that you want to talk to anyway). Positive.3. Positive. and Interesting topics and subjects. is towards Fun. and write down the topic for each. especially early in a conversation.3. always move towards topics and subjects that are Fun. and Interesting!/ Figure 4. keep steering in the right direction and in many cases you WILL get towards the right area soon enough (and if not.3-2: General Conversational Management Model The most important direction to go.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course General Conversational Mgt Model No matter where you start.
things you could comment on. ask about. For each of those Topics. or Candidate Topics). Write each of those down. Topic TTP Options (Candidate Topics') Page 84 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 2) Based on each of those topics. consider it a topic that leads to a TTP (copy each item above into the "Topic" area below). directions you could "take" the conversation (these are the TTP Options. list 6-8 different ways you could go.
Positive. 5) Practice again on each by moving things in the direction of the second item that was circled. 4) For each Topic. what would it have been like to have moved the conversation in the direction of the first item you circled? Practice that out loud for each Topic above. maybe by making a comment. which are the best? Which of these would move the conversation in a way that is best for you (think of "Fun. asking a question.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Of the 6-8 different TTP Options you have written above for each Topic. etc.. whatever it might take to move things in that direction. and Interesting")? Select two "candidates" and circle or highlight those two. making a statement. Page 85 .
interesting. At any moment you should be able to think "Where can I go with this?". etc. • By moving things in this way. and positive conversation. don't worry. or without an overall strategy in mind). positive and interesting topics. they will not go down a path of having a fun. that no matter WHAT you do with some people. By manipulating TTPs from moment to moment. Do this for a while until the process of finding 1 or 2 good "Ways to go" in a conversation (good TTP options) can happen very rapidly for you. we are turning you into someone that people LIKE to talk to! You know the type of person that people enjoy talking to.5 Summary D8-T32 Remember what was said earlier: • The overall direction of a conversation comes about due to a successive selection of TTPs (which normally occur at random. Just do what you can so that the TTP shifts in a direction that is fun. If this is a challenge for you. maybe offer an opinion. It WILL get easier.3. we want to work with topics that get the emotions involved. you can direct where the overall conversation goes. You may start to find however. having conversations with. make a comment. we want things to get even more Page 86 ." 4. In general. the imagination moving. fascinating. After a while.Is that the sort of person you want to talk to and spend time with? Maybe not. When talking to anyone. you may have to think of 6-8 options.4 4. the more YOU can and will become that guy! 4. interesting.4. D8-T33 D8-T33 We want the conversation to be more than just positive. positive. look for moments where things can be "steered" in a certain way. Make it so that it becomes easy for you to come up with a list of "options" very quickly.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Assignments for General Conversational Management 1) For the next week or so. engaging. and spending time with? The type of guy that people seek out to spend time with? The more you do these types of exercises. where COULD I have taken things". but the REAL key is to at least get to the point where you can very quickly think of at least 1 or 2 ways to go that are Fun. Maybe start out by looking at conversation after the fact. the conversation becomes more enjoyable for everyone. Instead of the more general area of fun.1 ADVANCED CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Really Want. start to take the conversation there! Ask a question. We want to focus the aim of our conversational management skills even more. 2) Now that you are able to quickly find 1 or 2 good TTP options. Interesting. At first. and people REALLY interested. really be aware of the TTP opportunities in your day-to-day life. we want it to be really interesting. inquire about something. we can start to direct the conversation into an even BETTER area. even at the start of a conversation. whatever it takes. Building on what we learned in the last section. Positive. thinking "what COULD I have done. You then have to wonder .
To move the conversation into more interesting areas. there were 4 main directions towards which a conversation may go.1-1. there are many ways to go. we were able to move things in the direction of Fun. Interesting area. We use our strategy of working with the TTPs.4. Using General Conversational Management. We move forward and want to get a more emotional tone. Now from that point. we now shift our strategy of "steering" things to direct the topics in a more focused manner using Advanced Conversational Management. Positive. there are many ways the conversation can move. steer the conversation towards directions that engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way. Positive. and Interesting. Strategic Formula for Advanced Conversational Management To direct the conversation into even BETTER areas. So.4.) General Conversational Management takes the conversation into the Fun. and steer using Advanced Conversational Management Figure 4. With that as a general strategy. and more involvement of the imagination.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course interesting. to "steer" things even more towards what we want. (See Figure 4. more excitement.1-1: Advanced Conversational Management Focuses the Steering From the start of a conversation. So we narrow our focus. you move it in ways that engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way. how do we work that in what we are doing moment-to-moment? How can we do things that will make that happen? Page 87 . From there.
4. Positive.4.) TTP Mantra " Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Tactical Formula for Advanced Conversational Management Keep thinking .Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Move the conversation in that direction.2-1: Topic Turning Point Navigation for Advanced Conversational Management After using General Conversational Management for a while. With that established.) Page 88 .4.4. Repeat. but now think "where can I go that will engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". we shift the focus of how we navigate TTPs. we look at the concept of the TTP.3 The Model With Advanced Strategy And Tactics In Place D8-T38 (Before we move on to looking at the model. See Figure 4. and with that strategy in mind. we can assume that we are talking about subjects which fit into the "Fun. Positive. TTP Fun.3-1 for an explanation. and explain a bit more as to its meaning and interpretation.2-1. we need to change the way the model is shown. and Interesting" area.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4.4. (See Figure 4.2 Steering Conversations Moment To Moment using Advanced Conversational Management D8-T35 Again. Interesting Topics Which of these "Engage the Emotions and imagination in a Positive Way"? That is the direction to go! Candidate Topics Figure 4. we need to use the TTP as a way to move things in the right direction.4.
and (3) in the figure above (and in the next figure) helps to show this.3-1: Understanding the Conversational Management Model The "levels" shown in the models are not meant to be exact. Page 89 . but a way to show a "trend". the graphics we will use will show an even more "condensed" version of this process. In practice.) the conversation moves on for a while. so that the various stages of a conversation can be easily illustrated. we are not showing that there are exactly "four steps" between points (1) and (2). Positive.4. For example. not an exact number of steps or outcomes. Positive. there can be a whole "tree" of possibilities leading from there. It may happen in ten minutes. and Interesting conversation (2) may take four steps.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Understanding the Conversational Management Model The model attempts to show a process that has many many steps. or thirty. At that point. But after using the general techniques (Fun. From now on in the course. and it ends up at a certain area (2). For example. (2). Figure 4. or topic shift) shown on the digram may represent many steps in an actual conversation. etc. it may take ten. with thousands upon thousands of possible possible routes and outcomes. where every "step" (TTP. When starting from ANY topic (1) to a place where you are firmly established for a period of time in a Fun. The locations of points (1). these diagrams will indicate a VERY condensed version of the number of steps involved. once again ending up with thousands of topics that could be discussed by the time you get through more topic shifts (3). This can result in so many possibilities (many thousands within a few steps) that it's important to look at these diagrams as a way to show "trend". the model above is what we used to show a starting point (1).
This also is followed for a series of steps and a period of time. The subjects will get more and more fascinating. emotional topics. you end up linking and associating many fascinating. and then Advanced Conversational Management. to yourself! Advanced Conversational Management Model Figure 4. Although the diagram shows only 2 steps (for simplicity). or 30 minutes. the conversation will get more and more of an "emotional" tone to it. Then a shift is made towards focusing the conversation even more using Advanced Conversational Management. and Interesting conversation (2). 8. General Conversational Management techniques are used.3-2. 10.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course We started at one topic. 20. And of course while doing that. As time goes on. if you use the language tools which we learned about earlier in the course. only a few of which are shown in the diagram. Positive. After that has been established. are used together to move forward in a conversation. If you follow these two simple strategies together (and the tactical approach of simply watching the TTPs and moving things in the right way). feelings. This is shown between points (2) and (3).4. subjects. and could be at any of thousands of topics after 6. This is shown from point (1) to point (2) in the diagram. and states. we focused the conversation towards moving things in a direction that is "Fun Positive and Interesting.4. until it is firmly established that the conversation has engaged the emotions and imagination of the participant. If you refer to Figure 4. Page 90 . in practice it may be good to follow a series of topics for 5. 10 topic shifts. we now focus more on moving in a direction that will "Engage the Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way". Now the emphasis is on ways to "Engage the Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way". For a while. you can see how General Conversational Management. or however long it takes to be firmly established in a Fun. exciting. This too can take any number of steps.3-2: Advanced Conversational Management Model Early in the conversation. the conversation will get better and better.
These should be conversations where it is already obvious that it is a fun. what was the main topic? Topics 2) Based on each of those topics. TTP Options (Candidate Topics') Page 91 . ask about. Topic a. and write down the topic for each. or Candidate Topics). At some particular moment in that conversation. things you could comment on.4. Write each of those down. consider it a topic that leads to a TTP (copy each above into the "Topic" areas below).4 Exercises and Assignments D8-T39 Exercises for Advanced Conversational Management 1) Think of some conversations that you have been in recently. For each of those Topics. directions you could "take" the conversation (these are the TTP Options.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4. positive. list 6-8 different ways you could go. and interesting conversation.
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Page 92 .
Just do what you can so that the TTP shifts in a direction that can "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". making a statement. Do this for a while. So. we are "steering" things more and more in a direction that we wish to go. D8-T46 D8-T47 D8-T47 As you can see.. This is best when applied to a conversation that is ALREADY fun. Maybe start out by looking at conversation after the fact. we want to steer things more towards romantic. but be especially aware of wanting to move things to "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". maybe by making a comment.4. whatever it takes. even things with some degree of sensual connotation to them. 4.. inquire about something. really be aware of the TTP opportunities in your day-to-day life. whatever it might take to move things in that direction. thinking "what COULD I have done. 2) Now that you are able to quickly find 1 or 2 good TTP options for yourself that "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way".5 4. until the process of finding 1 or 2 ways to go that "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way" in a conversation can happen very rapidly for you. which 1 or 2 would tend to "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way"? Which ones move things in a way that is best for you? Select two "candidates" and circle or highlight these two. and interesting. So. once again. At first. maybe offer an opinion. It WILL get easier. 4) For each Topic. etc. positive.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Of the 6-8 different TTP Options you have written above for each Topic. start to take the conversation there! Ask a question. make a comment.5.1 Summary MORE ADVANCED CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT More About Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Really Want. fascinating. don't worry. asking a question. what would it have been like to have moved the conversation in the direction of the first item you circled? Practice that out loud for each Topic above. we focus further on the TTP options! Page 93 ..5 4. but the REAL key is to at least get to the point where you can very quickly think of at least 1 or 2 ways to go that "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". seductive things. where COULD I have taken things". what next? At some point in the conversation. you may have to think of 6-8 options. 5) Practice again on each by moving things in the direction of the second item that was circled. Assignments for Advanced Conversational Management 1) For the next week or so. If this is a challenge for you.
5. Seductive things Tactical Formula for More Advanced Conversational Management Keep thinking .5. fascinating. 4. The focus now is upon topics that get you closer towards Romantic. Fascinating. and focusing more and more towards areas and topics that work. and followed the other strategies and tactics shown earlier. then the focus shifts again towards directing things in a specific way.2-1: Topic Turning Point Navigation for More Advanced Conversational Management After using General and Advanced Conversational Management.) Page 94 . This gets her mind into thinking more and more about these things.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Strategic Formula for More Advanced Conversational Management To further direct the conversation into even BETTER areas.) "Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. and associating YOU with them! (See Figure 4. Moving towards romantic. This may seem odd or hard to do. seductive things is much easier after you have first move towards fun. and then topics that engage the emotions and imagination. fascinating.5.3-1."Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic.3 The Model With More Advanced Strategy And Tactics In Place D8-T52 We are just closing in. you will have taken things in the right direction and this will be much easier.2 Steering Conversations Using More Advanced Conversational Management D8-T49 TTP Mantra (See Figure 4.2-1. However.5. seductive things?" Figure 4. if you have been in a conversation for a while. 4. steer the conversation towards romantic. fascinating. and seductive things.5. fascinating. Repeat. positive and interesting thing. seductive things?" Move the conversation in that direction.
Then the Advanced Conversational Management Techniques place the focus more upon items that involve the Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way. shown from point (1) to (2). which targets topics and subjects that are Romantic. moving to point (3).5. Fascinating. the focus moves towards selecting items based on More Advanced Conversational Management. there is a different focus at each stage. General Conversational Management techniques place the focus on selecting items that are Fun. and Interesting.3-1: More Advanced Conversational Management Model As the conversation progresses. and Seductive. Positive. After that type of conversation has been established (3). moving to point (4) Page 95 . Early on..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course More Advanced Conversational Management Model Figure 4.
and then . 4.6.1-1.6.) The Dream that Does Not Happen! Figure 4. the way it really DOES happen. then a sensual one. and get things to be more and more fascinating and exciting.6. Too many guys are too caught up in this one-shot dream of traveling once across the model and getting an amazing result. Moreover.MAGIC! However that is NOT the way it works in the real world.6 CONVERSATIONAL FRACTIONATION D9-T1 Using these Conversational Management skills in the real world may be quite different in practice from the way most guys "think" it will happen.1-1: The Dream of a 1-Shot Path To Success! A common misperception is that many guys think that if they can just move a conversation from the start.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4. Page 96 . and then an emotional one. that they will get an AMAZING reaction in their first movement across the Model. This hardly ever ever happens. will work in your favor.1 The 1-Shot Beeline Fallacy D9-T2 Guys assume that they will travel from a general topic. (See Figure 4. to a positive one.
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4. stay there and talk about it for a while..6. and then . move on to the next step. In this way. goes for some distance through the model (maybe all the way through). Then you "back up" to some extent (even all the way back to a very general topic area) and then move forward across the model again. and fascinating and seductive topics. So. Then at some point. no matter how the conversation jumps around. Maybe several times. Just start the process again. You just start the process again.6. e) Then move back (towards the left side of the model) This may happen because: • The person you are talking to does that (she asks a question) • Or maybe you do it (just to lighten things up) f) Then start again.. g) Do the whole process over and over.. So. No problem. etc. using the Conversational Management techniques Get as far through the model as you can. you may jump back just several steps in our Conversational Management Process. The conversation starts. No problem.2 How Fractionation Works D9-T3 The real world has stops. Of if you can't seem to get to a good place. no matter where you start. you back off. restarts. (See Figure 4.) a) b) c) d) Page 97 .. This actually ADDS to the power and effectiveness of what you are doing. You back up to a more general topic. moving through the model towards the right. here is how this works.. And again. Have fun. or maybe the conversation shifts back to that place due to something she says. starts.3 Using Conversational Fractionation D9-T5 Start at some normal topic and move through the model towards the right. Maybe you start from a very general topic and get all the way through the model towards a very very fascinating topic or subject.6. emotional and imaginative topics.. If you get to a very good place. you are always moving towards positive topics. This actually works better! We are actually using Fractionation. Great! Talk about that for a while. and then at some point.. When we say "go back". you take a conversation from the early stages through the process. Use the language tools. You might do that on your own.31. This is where a process is done repeatedly over and over. Because no matter where you start from.. you go back towards something more "normal". the conversation ends up being very interesting and fascinating! 4. Maybe you move all the way back to a very "normal" topic (which would be all the way on the left side of the model)... Start at any topic (you are on the far left side of the Model) Move forward towards the right.
that no matter WHAT you talk about. Fractionation happens at times because even when you may be at a fairly good place for a while (8).3-1: How Conversation Fractionation Works on the Model Follow the conversation as it moves from (1) to (12).6. over time.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Conversational Fractionation at Work Figure 4. at times maybe they move towards an area that is not too good (2). This is not a problem. As time goes on (5-12) the conversation gets into better and better areas. it's not a bad idea to back up a bit (9) and then move forward again. and fascinating! 4. You become one of those fascinating guys.4 Dead Ends Come Back To Life! D9-T6 With this new strategy of using Conversational Fractionation. simply back up (3) and then try moving into a better direction (4). it ends up being fun.6. there is a continued movement up and into better and better areas of conversation. As things move forward from (1). interesting. there is no such thing as a conversational "Dead End"! Page 98 . The overall trend is that.
No problem. seductive things? Move things in that direction. or maybe negative.. When on good topics. Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Move things in that direction.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course If you happen to take a "wrong turn" somehow and get into an area of discussion that is boring.. Do that for a while and then think .3 Summary D9-T10 Go have fun with these tools! Page 99 . o Comment on what is around o Mention common items. or what you both have in common Move forward with the Strategies and Tactics in mind.2 What If The Outcome Is Not What You Expected? D9-T9 Despite your best efforts.1 • Conversational Management Approach Start on just about ANY subject. you just back up. positive. stay there for a while. use the language tools. with you! 4..7. (think of your TTP options).. back up a few steps. uninteresting. this can happen. and go down another path! 4... and use the Strategy and Tactics of the Conversational Management techniques! Look at "Dead Ends" as being just like a bad turn on a road. Where can I go that is fun. have more material to use in conversations in the future! 4.. talked more. and interesting? Move things in that direction. Just back up.7. and the person becomes interested and fascinated.. you might have just found out that they are NOT someone you want to spend time with! That's not a total loss because you STILL learned more.7.. and get the effect. fascinating. etc. how do we pull this together? 4. —* The entire time: o If you hit a "dead end". Do that for a while and then think . o If you get to a good subject or topic.7 CONVERSATIONAL OVERVIEW AND REVIEW D9-T7 So. use the language tools as much as possible! D9-T8 • • • • • • • • • Keep moving the conversation into these interesting fascinating areas . Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. • What if you can't make the conversation positive? • What if she always points out the negative aspect? • What if there is NO emotional engagement at ALL? Well.
) Before you can use the language tools with new subjects that you are learning about.great! It's easier to use the language tools if you are discussing topics with which you are familiar. this is something we can and will work on with you. and closer towards the subjects that will really serve your intent. and while talking about subjects and topics that YOU are really passionate about. and THEY said. and some familiarity with this type of thing.. go ahead and practice! (Or maybe do that the next time you go through the course. A topic is a particular area of discussion that is taking place in a moment. so that YOU have some material.. to get the best effect you will have to be a PART of that conversation and familiar with the topics that may come up. Now we want you to become familiar with topics that will really work well for you! We are going to work with some of these topics. You will be able to say things like "I was talking to someone about this the other day. the more familiar you will be with these topics. In the meantime.". and then the more "material" you will have. However. TOPICS OF ENTHUSIASM AND PASSION D9-T14 What are you passionate about? Few things are more compelling in a person than for them to be passionate about something (hopefully many things) in life. if using those language tools is problem for you. then you may want to go back in those earlier sections. What do you talk about? There is no substitute for experience. Can you talk passionately about something? Anything? Hopefully. some practice. fun. you should be able to use them with subjects in which you are already interested! Page 101 . fascinating.1 Themes are a way through a discussion or through the "tree of subjects" that we showed earlier.0 TOPICS D9-T11 What do you talk about? As the conversation gets more interesting. Talking about these topics may be a challenge for many men. Most men may not be very familiar with many of the topics that we REALLY want to get into. yes! How well can you talk about topics that YOU are passionate about while using many of the language tools we talked about in the earlier parts of the course? If you can do that very well . You want to be able to discuss these topics easily. the easier it will get. we have talked about managing conversations. especially as they get more interesting. fascinating.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 5. what can we do here in this course to help you? We have talked about the way to talk and use language. The more experience you get. Topics • • 5. and that statement (regarding having actually talked to someone about the topics) will be TRUE! So. the more you talk to people about such things. and it's even better if you are passionate about those topics. Themes vs. However.
. and link it to you! When • • • • • you are at or near an SOT: Use the correct tone of Voice Pace and Lead correctly Link things to you Point at the right times. can create an AMAZING effect! When you do get a conversation into an area near an SOT. in the right way Use the language tools! You want to be familiar with these topics (SOTs) and able to discuss them easily: maybe not ALL of them. Seduction Oriented Topics (SOTs) . etc. or sports. at least.. but a good number of them. in some ways. and emphasize discussing topics in which YOU are interested and passionate about. or cleaning the toilet.. or.. These are called "Seduction Oriented Topics". SOTs are the "end goals" when it comes to managing or directing a conversation. Topics that access emotions. excitement. feelings. sensual. You want to be able to discuss topics that deal on some level with Seduction. or near. and seductive.2 SEDUCTION ORIENTED TOPICS D9-T15 In the context of this course (and your intent in talking with . or topics that are very close to that concept.) Page 102 . The conversational management sections will help you to move the conversation in a way that will get you near these topics areas. stay there as long as you can! Talk about it. judge for yourself. 5..just TALKING about these can create a good effect. work it.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course So. someone) some topics are easier to work with than others. You may talk about cars. a topic that is an SOT.. or the office.Topics that bring up images and thoughts that are romantic. How good are you at the earlier sections that dealt with the language tools? It may be a good idea to go back over those sections. but how effective are those as subjects given the "purpose" of the discussion? You want to discuss topics and things which deal with seduction. Examples of SOTs • Connections • Going for it • Making good decisions • Surrendering to feelings • Getting excited • Feeling excited • Trusting your judgment • Taking chances • Indulgence • Maturity • Good decisions • . Your point is to get to. (Every guy has his favorites and ones that work best for him. but doing so while using the language tools.
the easier it will be to "riff" on these using the language tools. use as many of the language tools as you can.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course These topics may seem foreign to you. or overhear from others) and listen for when any of these SOTs come up in conversation. keep it there. the more you work with the materials. using as many of the language tools as you can. and also topics that you have heard in other materials and products that you have. Page 103 . Think about other topics you have heard mentioned in this program. and discuss these subjects. you will be able to just "talk" about the subject while using the tools that are available. you JUST need to be able to talk. by there very nature. You can use some of those that were listed earlier if you wish. or ask questions. or even watched in a movie! (Or heard in a course that you took . or in movies. read. Write down your list of SOTs. hopefully some way that involves you and your own life.. and the more you talk to and with people about them. and while there. the easier it will get! Strategic Formula for Seduction Oriented Topics SOTs are topics that. Think of SOME way to discuss these. Get the conversation there. or seduction per se. easily. Seduction Oriented Topics 2) You must become familiar with these! You must be able to talk about them. ask about them.. and hopefully add some of your own. Assignments for Seduction Oriented Topics 1) Pay attention to conversations in your life (even things you hear on the radio. have stories about them. Or are taking!) . Or. or comment on them! Talk aloud for several minutes about each. Eventually.. Don't worry about talking to women. or on TV. the more you practice using the tools. and without "thinking" about the language tools.Are you able to somehow relate to these in your own life? Maybe something you read or heard? Maybe questions you can ask? ANYTHING?!?!? You do not need to "know" a lot about these topics or be an expert. or anything like that. talk about something you heard. bring up images and thoughts that may work for you. Meaning. but the more you think about them. the more you practice. 3) Practice talking about each aloud. or joke about them. Exercises for Seduction Oriented Topics 1) Build your own list of SOTs.
Maybe ask some questions about things that deal with your SOTs. but this time with SOTs.. or even just TRY to do so. However. quote.SOTXs D9-T24 What if you had not just 10 ways of discussing "Seduction Oriented" subjects. "the other day I heard someone talking about. and move through these exercises and assignments.Talk about these subjects and topics! Make a point to enter into a discussion when one of your SOTs is mentioned. and frankly. 2) Now . ask an opinion. and easily come up with 6-8 related topics. anything at all! Talk.. And that gives you MORE material to talk about! Which make it easier for you to enter into more conversations about these subjects and topics. You start to listen and take notice of when these are discussed. So can you. make a comment. However. They did it. ask what something means. That is understandable. (As in. See? We are working on a process to get you to become more comfortable and familiar with these things. That's what we want to do here."). but we are walking you through (at least the first steps of) the process to make this easier: • • • • • • • • • • • You have made a list of SOTs. after having worked with hundreds of guys. Many guys who can now talk about these things VERY easily and comfortably started from a place of having NO idea of what to say! They changed. 5. it WILL get easier. then the more material YOU will have to talk about. what people think. I can tell you that it DOES get easier and easier to be able to talk about these things. These are called Expanded SOTs (SOTXs). The more you hear. They started and became more and more familiar with these topics. show interest. discuss. We learned how you can move from any topic. Use as many of the language tools as you can. ask. Really! Learning to discuss such things may start out slowly.. etc. or even when anything CLOSE to one of your SOTs is discussed. this is one of the key challenges that many guys face.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Listen to what is being said. Because of that. SOT Summary I KNOW that these topics may seem foreign to you. and makes it easier for you to talk about them. That gives YOU more familiarity with discussing them. You listen more to when they are discussed. the more you listen. It may start a bit slowly and awkwardly. Page 104 . it gets easier to enter into more conversations that deal with these topics.3 EXPANDED SEDUCTION ORIENTED TOPICS . this process must start somewhere. but as long as you start it. and start to get your brain working on them. what is said. but had even more? Maybe 50? What if that was easy and familiar for you? Think back to how we looked at topics earlier. Make special note of topics that are CLOSE or similar to these SOTs in some way. You do a few exercises to talk about them. That makes you really think about them. Then you get to hear MORE people talk about them.
.3-1..with music . places. there are many different types or examples of connecting to people. if friends..3-1: How SOTs are related to an SOTXs. you now have 6-8 ways to discuss it. That is one subject....with someone you just met . Then. but can you think of 6-8 different aspects of this? (Remember what we did in the earlier sections. (You do not really need to list "connections with" for each.with pets .. or only one aspect of that to discuss (connections in a romantic or sensual context). you can talk about that for while. etc.. and build a whole list of very similar things to talk about -which are SOTXs! For example. how easy would it be to talk about how you CONNECT with those? And if you talk about Page 105 .with your teammates Figure 5.with family .... For any given SOT.with a girlfriend . That just makes it easier for our example below).. . SOT Connections SOTX Connections with family Connections with friends Connections with coworkers Connections with pets Connections with a girlfriend Connections with someone you just met Connections with someone while on vacation Connections with music Connections with your teammates Many guys worry about talking about something like "Connections". Instead of worrying about getting to that one topic (SOT) in a certain way. how we discussed a Topic Turning Point?) If Connections is a particular subject. However as we see here. you can take any SOT. pets. Look at the list above.with someone while on vacation . it's easy to think of several different aspects of that topic or related topics. can you think of different aspects of that? Parts of Connections? Questions about Connections? Ways of experiencing Connections? People or things with which you can experience Connections? By asking those types of questions (to yourself). They think of only one way of talking about that subject. comes up in a conversation.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Expanding on a Topic Area "Connections" is an SOT. see Figure 5.with coworkers . and things that can be discussed.. family... coworkers.. the SOTX list consists of all of these items shown in the diagram and listed below. (Does that diagram look familiar?) If "Connections" is an SOT..with friends .
it's very easy to then shift. b. Just make a comment. then you can shift towards ANOTHER type of "connection" very easily! (See Figure 5. or maybe even someone. point out an example regarding pets. c.. ask a question. that you just met! When you expand SOTs in this way... if someone is talking about pets.) Family Friends Coworkers Pets Connections A girlfriend Someone you just met Someone met on vacation Music Teammates Figure 5. this is a TTP diagram in reverse!) For example. a.. or how that topic can be experienced. you can be as close as one step away from an SOT..) and for each SOT. If you talk about that for a while. all of a sudden there are many MORE ways to get to these really GREAT topics! Exercises f o r Expanded Seduction Oriented T o p i c s 1) Take the SOT list you had earlier (copy those down into the first column below. then you can shift to talking about "how you can connect with a pet" fairly easily. you are to list 5 (at least) related topics. or a special person. SOTs " SOTXs List Page 106 . and how you (or someone else) can connect with a pet. This is your SOTX list.3-2: SOTXs Can Lead Into SOTs If any of the topics in the SOTX list comes up in conversation.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course THAT (how you connect in that manner) for a while. etc.. (Yes. how to connect with people.3-2.to . or different aspects of that topic.
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Page 107 .
Talk about that SOTX for a moment or two. then about connecting with pets. Step back and look at what you have done! You have 10 SOTs with which YOU are familiar. but now do so while using the language tools. (Like the earlier example. then about connecting in general.) 3) Do the same thing again. you talk about pets. That gives you a LOT of flexibility in conversations! Page 108 . and see if you can then focus what you are saying towards the SOT itself. practice talking about it out loud. You have 50 SOTXs that you are now familiar with as well.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 2) Now for each SOTX.
the easier it will be to notice SOTXs. The techniques that you have learned are the sort of things that many people do naturally.with someone you just met . that process can work both ways..4-1. use such techniques a LOT. "I didn't list that SOTX. You will start to notice this. You may think. Summary You now have MORE material to work with than you ever thought possible! This is not about memorizing.. SOTXs are now like "conversational landmarks" for you in terms of navigating a conversation. See if you can move the conversation a bit towards the SOT itself. Good speakers.. you know that you are very close to getting near a subject area that will work very well for you. If anything like an SOTX comes up in a conversation..with someone while on vacation ..with pets Connections . or anything like them mentioned.... The more familiar you are with these subjects. especially politicians and activists.. but it IS related to an SOT that I have worked with".with music ..with friends ... The real usefulness of this is when you reverse the order as shown in Figure 5. D9-T32 We discussed how to develop an SOTX list from an SOT. spotting these opportunities get easier and easier. . and then built upon that step by step.with your teammates Family Friends Coworkers Pets A girlfriend Someone you just met Someone met on vacation Music Teammates Connections This is how we developed SOTXs This is the most useful way of thinking of SOTXs Figure 5. . if you hear any of them mentioned. broke it into bits and pieces that you can learn and do as exercises. 5. Page 109 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Assignments for Expanded Seduction Oriented Topics 1) Look at all of your SOTXs! That's a LOT of subjects! Pay attention in your life to see how often any of those items come up in conversation (or maybe you just hear them somewhere). it's about getting YOU comfortable and familiar with these topics.with coworkers ...with a girlfriend . In addition. use the language tools if and whenever you can. We have broken these down. modeled the process arid the steps involved.with family . It ALL gets easier! 2) Start to "direct" the conversations you encounter where your SOTXs are mentioned... However. The more you work with this.. it is easy to then move the conversation towards topics that will work better for you (SOTs).. and move the conversation towards SOTs.4-1: SOTXs Are The Pathways To SOTs SOTXs are an easy way to get towards SOTs.4 CONVERSATIONAL MODEL WITH SOTXs. Maybe you will even start to notice SOTXs that were not even ON your list. concept of "topics related to a topic" in many many places.
If you have followed the program. The point here (again) is not to memorize the SOTs.the number that YOU have actually worked with so far! Since SOTXs and SOTs are the "goals" in terms of managing a conversation. After all. to be able to notice when you are talking about things which are "close to" topics that will work well for you. Page 110 . and then towards SOTs. However in the figure above.. there are really 50 SOTXs and 10 SOTs shown . or the SOTXs. we have had to compress or simplify them quite a bit and show only a fraction of the actual steps and numbers involved so that the diagrams do not become too large or complex. It's to have you practice and become familiar with them. and 50 SOTXs (in the earlier exercises) you now have many many SOTXs with which YOU are familiar! More importantly.4-2. In many of the diagrams.4-3 shows this in the model itself. you have already worked with 10 SOTs and 50 SOTXs as shown in Figure 5. that this process will now be easier than you may have imagined. you have practiced with so many of these SOTXs. Figure 5.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course So whenever you are having a conversation. that is not an abbreviation or exaggeration. and anything like an SOTX comes up in the discussion. you will get closer and closer to SOTXs. and for you to just start to "recognize" these things on your own .4-2: Your Multiple Pathways to SOTs! Now that you have worked with 10 SOTs. and done the exercises and assignments.without "thinking" about them. this will start to happen for you. SOTXs SOTs Figure 5. we can then show them as part of our Conversational Model. As the topics get better and better. you now see how easy it can be to move over to an SOT! In fact. you have started to train yourself to "recognize" these landmarks.
you start to "listen" for topics that are SOTXs. Move towards SOTs.5 THE COMPLETE CONVERSATIONAL MODEL D9-T33 Start from any topic and get to where you want! Yes.. which are topics near or related to seduction (a step or two away from SOTs). or anything that is "related" to an SOT.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course SOTs in the Conversational Management Model The end goal is to get to. You can start from almost ANYWHERE.5-1. you can start from just about ANY topic and get to GREAT topics! It's easy. then start to pay attention for SOTXs. Period. and ANY TOPIC. SOTXs are a pathway to make that easier. and using this type of approach you will have fascinating conversations with people that lead to where YOU want to go! (See Figure 5. 5. it's that you have trained yourself to recognize things that are SOTs. Stay there for a while if you can! Figure 5. or as close as you can towards SOTs. and topics that are close to that (SOTXs).) Page 111 . then you can simply move things towards a topic that is very seduction-oriented! The point is not to have a "list" in mind. When you get to an SOTx.4-3: SOTs Are THE Goals in Conversational Management As you move through a conversation. Then move the conversation towards an SOT! This works. just follow the steps listed earlier in the Conversational Management sections. SOTXs SOTs Listen for SOTXs Anything near or related to an SOT.
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Figure 5.5-1: The Complete Conversational Management Model (continued on next page) Page 112 .
interesting . or very close! Page 113 . fascinating.Fun. Steer towards .. exciting..5-1: The Complete Conversational Management Model (continued) Start a Conversation Manage the Conversation Move the Conversation in a Good Direction Steer towards ...Engaging the emotions and imagination in a positive way . back up! If you move back to a general topic. Steer towards . or SOTX. Especially when at or near SOTXs and SOTs..Romantic.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Figure 5. Fractionate If you take a wrong turn.. start over! Assignment! 1) Try it! Start directing conversations using the conversational management model. and see how easy it is to get to some good topic that is an SOT. seductive things Direct the Conversation Pay attention when Good Subjects come up (SOTXs) Listen for anything a step or two away from an SOT Move towards SOTs Stay there as long as you can Use The Language Tools! As much as possible.
A New way of thinking about the use of patterns • The wrong way is to talk to someone and to keep thinking.Many of the details of driving a car are things you just "do". and being aware of when you DO get to an area of conversation that does allow you to use a pattern. With this new approach to learning and using these tools. and as "a way of speaking". • An example of what you can say. These smaller skills become automatic and you focus instead of driving. Examples/Analogies: • Sports . or model to be followed in making things. We practice specific parts of areas of the skills we wish to use later on. It's best to just think of patterns as examples. we work in that manner. get her to "experience" good feelings and states. "how can I get to my pattern". • Maybe talk to a woman and allow HER to bring up things that end up working well in pattern-like language. or could say. Once you actually play the game though. THAT ends up being a very effective way to create "patterns". She may take the conversation into better places that you could have predicted. The navigation is handled through our use of Conversational Management techniques. Amplify these feelings and states by talking. think about having a conversation (and managing it correctly). or "how can I bring this pattern up". Use the language tools. You don't have to think about moving the wheel.0 6. • Instead. You practice bits and pieces of the sport. asking. Patterns are just examples of the use of these tools. the clutch.2 PATTERN FORMULA D10-T7 Tactical Formula for Patterns While talking to a woman. or "how can I bring up a pattern that I know". you make decisions on-the-spot as to what to do and how to proceed. Don't think of "how can I get to the pattern". "A plan" or "model".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 6. plus these areas will work for HER because SHE selected them (in a manner of speaking) • Talk and manage the conversation into an area that DOES work for you. • Driving . A representative sample. clarifying. Present a Call to action. get her to "experience" good feelings and states o Use the Conversational Management Techniques to get there o Get her to think about good and/or exciting feelings Page 115 . Link and associate these feelings to you. handling the gas pedal. Its just a "type" of talking that you can (and will be able to) use when you feel it is appropriate. diagram. 6. or navigation.You don't play the entire game ahead of time. etc. that's the key.1 PATTERNS PATTERN OVERVIEW D10-T1 What is a pattern? • A plan. certain actions. The Pattern Formula in detail. • While talking to a woman. we have practiced the small details (language skills) so that these are automatic. In the same manner. or series of actions.
because doing so may work against you. but they assume that you are in a conversation where they will work and be somewhat "appropriate" to what is being discussed.4 PATTERN RIFFING IN REAL-TIME D10-T13 This is the ability to just create pattern language on-the-fly. In THAT case . asking. o Use "this" and "these" (be aware of that and those as well) o Point and mark appropriately Present a Call to action o "Do it now" language o Create a Challenge o Create an Opportunity o Talk about the chance to "Seize the moment" o A simple add-on to the Language Tools There are two main ways of doing patterns. don't focus TOO much on them. etc Link and associate those feelings to you o Use the Language Tools o Use linkage phrases like "now with me".3 CANNED PATTERNS D10-T12 These are the pre-rehearsed. But. "this person. if you just "drop" a pattern into the conversation.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • o Get her feeling good and/or exciting feelings o Get her experiencing (or recall the experience of) good and/or exciting feelings o Get her to think about things that she wants or desires Amplify these feelings and states by talking.." etc. Pre-written. Therefore it is best to maybe have some of these memorized. The good ways to use these are as teaching and learning tools. clarifying o Use the Language Tools o Asking her for info. sound quite strange. canned patterns are good. these canned patterns DO have some usefulness. and that the woman will react to what the patterns is about. • The interesting topic that she and you are discussing o what is happening o what you know Page 116 . many times it does not. and the proper context is not created. However. pre-written patterns that you have seen and heard. The problem is if you are SO focused on just "getting to the pattern" that you know (or even one of many that you know) then it's difficult to have a good conversation. So. Some times that does happen. pre-rehearsed.. "Canned" patterns. 6. In the real world. 6. and to use what is needed in the moment. or things you have read. they can. and have them there for your use if and when the correct situation comes up.. and real-time "Riffing".these pre-written or canned patterns can work very well. and do. for her to elaborate and describe o Repeating back what she has said o Provide examples from your own life o Provide examples from friends. when you are talking to a woman. what you need to do is to look at. Their best use is when you use the Conversational Management techniques and then find that the conversation just happens to get to or near a pattern that you DO happen to know already.
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • o what she is reacting to o and discuss things which are appropriate. • Talk about these things or listen to you talk about these things • get her to think about these things • get her to feel these things • get her to link them to you.. interesting. using the tools. and sensual things. Wanting to take action or seize an opportunity Always • • • • See the pattern here? We are in general. Page 117 . looking and listening for positive feelings. Then you have a conversation and. states.. THE BEST PATTERN IS THIS: • • Get her to talk and think about positive. Use the language tools so that YOU become associated with those things. and and use the language tools. get her to. and actions in the conversation. emotions. it really IS that easy! look for: Positive emotions and feeling Positive sensations (as in physical ones) Exciting feelings. Then we use those as a basis for discussion. Yes. • Use some "act now" languaging. exciting.
D10-T27 Listen to the full explanations. Keep the conversation going. and the more engaged you are in the process. 1. 7. Create a willingness.5 CONGRATULATIONS! WELL DONE! D10-T29 Page 119 . Both you and her talk! 2. Use the Language Tools 5. Direct the conversation in a way that takes you toward good topics a. and view an overall strategy. -' d. but the method of approaching it is very different. fifth. Now we can look from the "top-down".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 7.2 SUMMARY D10-T26 This may be similar to information you have heard in the past.1 REVIEW AND SUMMARY REVIEW D10-T18 The course has followed a "bottom-up" approach to training. It really is up to you. you will benefit. Get the conversation into good subjects (SOTXs. the greater your results will be. D10-T28 The more energy and effort you put into this. comfort in. 7. DO THE EXERCISES. Use the Language Tools 7. Talk about something positive and interesting c. SOTs) 4. and then building up to bigger and bigger pieces. of fourteenth time through. and really take the time to do the exercises. 7. Use the conversational management techniques b. Engage her emotions and imagination in a positive way. and how you speak. Whether its your first. 3.3 LISTEN. and/or compulsion to act a. AND FOLLOW THE COURSE. We really are focused upon changing you. a. Keep her there and keep talking! a. Direct and/or link those feelings towards you. focusing first on small details.0 7.4 BE WILLING AND PREPARED TO PUT ENERGY INTO THIS COURSE. Fractionate if and when needed. Use the conversational management techniques b. a.
EXAMPLES Dll-Tl The discussions presented on the audio for this section are intentionally "casual" to familiarize you even more with the use of these tools. EXAMPLES.0 EXAMPLES. and provide you with some real-world examples of their use.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 8. Page 121 .
. powerful. and processes awaken. • Nose.. • If I were to . • Instantaneously " Suddenly • Find Yourself • Convince Yourself • Suppose • Imagine " Mysterious (-ly) • Wonder (-ous) (-ously) Weasel Phrases Use Weasel Phrases to keep the conversation going.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course APPENDIX 1 Course "Cheat Sheet" • SPEAKING POINTERS o The "Cool" Factor You don't have to be cold. " As you. • Slow. • Passionate or Boring? o o o • LANGUAGE TOOLS A N T D E T A I L S o Adjectives And Adverbs Use more adjectives and adverbs in your speech to appeal to and excite the emotional side of the listener. to be cool.. and to "soften " the way in which something is said. and charismatic presence. • Be descriptive. emotions. so that their feelings.. • What's it like when . Voice Tone And Tonality Use your best tone of voice (speaking from your chest) to convey a relaxed.. use Adjectives And Adverbs Trance Words Help to get the subconscious mind of the listener to be more of apart of your conversation. o o Page 123 . allowing you to say more (and maybe more provocative things) about a subject. or Chest? Pacing And Pausing Use variations in pace.. and well-placed pauses. Pause? Energy And Enthusiasm Using energy and enthusiasm when speaking so that people can become energized and enthusiastic about listening to and being with you. to convey a sense of drama and intrigue in what you are saying in a way that "captivates "people and makes them want to listen to you.. • Have you ever . Fast... • If you were to .. Mouth.
• Move! Point! Linking Gestures Towards And Away • Whenever you say something negative. gesture. Easy Linking Expanded Pointing With This.. intrigue. a smile. touch them to help anchor it to you.. Say "this". Say "that".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o Embedded Commands Use embedded commands repeatedly and in the proper context. Point to you • Negative Say "those". Those • Positive statement. to create a compelling will on the part of the listener follow you and listen to you. These. Linking After getting someone to experience good feelings and emotions. interest. Easy Anchoring When the person you are talking with displays a positive feeling of some type. Point to you • Negative statement. link them to you so that YOU become something and someone that they feel good about • Now with me • In me • In myself • with this • these • this belief • these feelings Easy-Linking • Use "This" and "These" when referring to anything positive. o o • MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures Move. • Whenever you say something positive. • Use "That" and "Those" when referring to anything negative. point or gesture towards yourself. That. point or gesture away.. Say "these". • Point Or Touch On Positive —* o o o • LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES o Pace And Lead Pacing and Leading allows you "be " in the conversation for a while and gain rapport and information. Point away. allowing you to move things more in your favor later on Page 124 . laugh. • Can you do this now. Point away • Positive statement. etc. and accentuate what you are saying in order to be more compelling as a speaker and to get even more attention from your listener or audience. motion.
you can get away with an outrageous or very direct option by burying that option in the middle of a List. "List" several things briefly in order. the More Z. statement. which support your point • A. a way that you want. etc. and incorporate the language tools • This thing vs that thing • How two things are similar • How two things are different • Good . "List" several things or examples which support your point. or thoughts) use "More and More " as a way to string them together (and increase your chances of that happening • The more X. • Request X because (of) Y. B. and C When making a point. the more Y. or giving an example. acknowledgement. the More Y.Burying Items is a way to mention an outrageous or very direct option for "testing" purposes. experiences. More And More If you want to lead someone through a series of steps (actions. The more Y. and c When giving examples or options to someone.another option o o o Page 125 . understanding. • a.Bad • One option . etc. and C When making a point. The More Z. B.) • Then you will "Y" Where "Y" is something you want them to experience (Lead) o Give Them A Reason Giving a reason will make people more apt to do things for you and agree with you. in order to provide more power to what you are saying • At The End Listing at The End is a way to provide several options (which may differ) but to emphasize the option that YOU want. b. or to maybe see if you can get someone to agree to it! • a. Then start to move or shift things in a different way. • As you X. or giving an example. etc. thoughts. LAST • Burying Items Listing . but mention the one which YOU want to put the most emphasis on. Listing • General Listing General Listing is a way to quickly provide several reason. • Topics and Subjects • Mindset or Frame of Mind • Current Reality • As (while) you are "X" (Pace) Where "X" is something that is true in their current reality (perceptions.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Show agreement. and/or interest. the More Y. Compare And Contrast Use this technique to keep the conversation going. keep the discussion focused on a topic that serves your purposes. statement.
. feelings and emotions. Parts Of A Person Use Parts of a Person as a way to find. • Are you able to .. • You might see . allowing you time to gather information and link yourself to good thoughts.. • The smart people I know.\ Universal Wants You can assume that most people want these... • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control Particular Wants What does she want to have. idea.. can (use smart. feelings. feelings and emotions to yourself. • You might.. • If you can ... o Opportunities And Challenges • Find out what someone wants.. discuss. • etc. • Use the language tools in the discussion. • Take any subject. or want to be perceived as having? • Talk to them and find out. • Break it down into its component parts and discuss them.. • Find a way to map what YOU want. to be a way for them to get what they want... • Challenge them to do that.. • I wonder if you can . and evoke favorable states. • If you are able to .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o Parts • • Parts Of A Subject Discussing many of the parts of a subject keeps the conversation going. even when the other person claims or demonstrates that such parts are NOT there • For every part of a person that will work against you. • Maybe you can . • You may .. do it. or fun. assume there is a part that will work WITH you. or point in a discussion. • Using Their Own Processes • Find or assume what someone wants • Create an opportunity for them to get it or demonstrate they have it • Make that "demonstration" work in your favor.. and beliefs. etc).. • You seem as if. or adventurous. • You seem like .. Mini-Challenges • You seem... —* • • • Page 126 .... • Link good thoughts.. • Challenge them to demonstrate it. or show it.
• Introduce topics that are fun. • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control " • Excitement Challenges Challenge them to get what they want. and interesting?" " Move the conversation in that direction."Where can I go that is fun. Consider the wants and needs that a person may have . fun.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • Opportunities. • Repeat. listen and be IN the conversation! • Conversational Dynamics Topics flow from one to the next. she may have to do Y to prove that... or show what they have. • Topic Turning Point The process of moving from one topic to one of 6-8 relevant topics • In general. •• Show interest when someone discusses positive. Creating Them -.. fun.. General Conversational Management To steer the conversation in a good direction. • Can she see an opportunity to have "X". • Navigation Don't think of an exact plan.. positive and interesting. interesting things. interesting things. Are they ready to take advantage of that (this) opportunity? • Does she really want X and see how Y can get that? • Does she really have X. positive. fun.. and see how doing Y would demonstrate it?> • Does she have what it takes to get X. think of general navigation • She Must Be Engaged In The Conversation! You need her to talk.. by doing Y? • Does she want you to THINK she has X. interesting things • Keep thinking .. then . • Don't engage in conversations when it's NOT about positive. Advanced Conversational Management To direct the conversation into even BETTER areas. steer the conversation towards directions that engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way o o Page 127 . bring up positive.-and do Y to get it? • Can she do Y and make it happen? • Can she see that Y will get her what she wants? • Can she trust herself enough to do Y? o • Ambiguities — CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT o General ..
by there very nature. use the language tools as much as possible! • What If The Outcome Is Not What You Expected? • Move on! o o • TOPICS o Topics Of Enthusiasm and Passion Few things are more compelling in a person than for them to be passionate about something (hopefully many things) in life. • Keep thinking . More Advanced Conversational Management To further direct the conversation into even BETTER areas.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • o Keep thinking ."Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. Conversational Fractionation • Using Conversational Fractionation • Start • Move • Back Up • Repeat • Dead Ends Come Back To Life! • Just back up and start over! Conversational Overview and Review • General Flow • Start on just about ANY subject. • Repeat. seductive tilings? • The entire time: o If you hit a "dead end". Repeat. back up a few steps. Get the conversation there.Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Move the conversation in that direction. use as many of the language tools as you can. positive. Seduction Oriented Topics SOTs are topics that. fascinating. and while there. seductive things?" " Move the conversation in that direction. • Where can I go that is fun. keep it there. • When on good topics. fascinating. and seductive things. and interesting? • Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? • Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. fascinating. • Connections • Going for it • Making good decisions Page 128 o . bring up images and thoughts that may work for you. o If you get to a good subject or topic. stay there for a while. and get the effect. use the language tools. steer the conversation towards romantic.
clarifying.Great as EXAMPLES • Learn and know some of them they may be useful. Page 129 o .. • Get her to. and • Look for: o Positive emotions and feeling o Positive sensations (as in physical ones) o Exciting feelings. get her to "experience" good feelings and states. • Direct . there are easily 6-8 variations on that SOT that you can talk about. Those are STOXs. • Manage ..Look out for SOTXs • Direct 0 Move towards SOTs. Conversational Model With SOTXs. o Canned Patterns . Pattern Riffing In Real-Time • Use the Conversational Management techniques to get to good subjects • Look at the interesting topic that she and you are discussing o what is happening o what you know o what she is reacting to o and discuss things which are appropriate. Present a Call to action.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • • • • • o Surrendering to feelings Getting excited Feeling excited Trusting your judgment Taking chances Indulgence Maturity Good decisions Expanded Seduction Oriented Topics . asking. o Talk about these things or listen to you talk about these things o get her to think about these things o get her to feel these things o get her to link them to you.SOTXs For each SOT.Use the conversational Management Techniques. o Wanting to take action or seize an opportunity • Use the language tools. Amplify these feelings and states by talking. The Complete Conversational Model See Appendix 2 o o • PATTERNS o Pattern • • • • Formula While talking to a woman. Link and associate these feelings to you.
and sensual things. • Use the language tools so that YOU become associated with those things Page 130 . o The Best Pattern Is This: • Get her to talk and think about positive. exciting. interesting.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • Use some "act now" languaging.
Point Or Touch On Positive And Negative LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES o Pace And Lead • Topics and Subjects • Mindset of Frame • Current Reality o Give Them A Reason o Listing " General .. Those) MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures o Linking Gestures (Towards And Away) o Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This.. That. These.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course APPENDIX II Speaking and Language Tools "Cheat Sheet" • SPEAKING POINTERS o Voice Tone And Tonality o Pacing And Pausing o Energy And Enthusiasm LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS o Adjectives And Adverbs o Trance Words o Weasel Phrases o Embedded Commands o Linking o Easy-Linking (This.) o Easy Anchoring .At the End • Burying Items o More And More o Compare And Contrast o Parts " Parts of a Subject • Parts of a Person o Opportunities And Challenges • Mini Challenges " Opportunities And Challenges o Ambiguities • • • Page 131 . That.
Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way More Advanced Mgt. Fun. Fascinating. Romantic.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course APPENDIX III The Complete Conversational Management Model The Complete Conversational Management Model General Mgt. Positive. and Interesting Advanced Mgt. Seductive SOTXs SOTs The Complete Conversational Management Model Page 133 .
.Romantic.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course The Complete Conversational Management Model (continued) Start a Conversation Manage the Conversation Move the Conversation in a Good Direction Steer towards . positive. seductive things Direct the Conversation Pay attention when Good Subjects come up (SOTXs) Listen for anything a step or two away from an SOT Move towards SOTs Stay there as long as you can Use The Language Tools! As much as possible....Fun. start over! Page 134 .Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way .. fascinating.. Steer towards . Especially when at or near SOTXs and SOTs. interesting . Fractionate If you take a wrong turn. back up! If you move back to a general topic. Steer towards .
This action might not be possible to undo. Are you sure you want to continue?
We've moved you to where you read on your other device.
Get the full title to continue reading from where you left off, or restart the preview.