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Dave Riker's

Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course

A structured training program that teaches the language and conversational skills of Speed Seduction .

Workbook
Speed Seduction is a registered trademark of Ross Jeffries, used with permission.

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Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course

Table of Contents
Page No. Title Page Legal Notices Table of Contents Product Content Product Protection and User Consent Formatting and Conventions Acknowledgements Forward Registration Important Note About Exercises and Assignments 1.0 INTRODUCTION AND GETTING STARTED i ii iii vi vi vii ix x xii xii 1 D1-T1 Disk and Track No.*

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1.2 1.3 1.4 1.5 1.6 2.0 2.1 2.1.1 2.1.2 2.1.3 2.1.4 2.2 2.2.1 2.2.2 2.2.3 2.2.4 2.2.5 2.2.6 2.3 2.3.1 2.3.2 2.3.3 2.3.4 2.4 3.0 3.1 3.1.1

Overview
Why Is This Course Needed? What We Will Handle, and How Investing In Yourself, Or Not Can We Change The Way You Speak? Manipulation and Ethics Concerns SPEAKING AND LANGUAGE

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D1-T1
D1-T10 D1-T15 D1-T24 D1-T26 D1-T32 D2-T1 D2-T1 D2-T1 D2-T2 D2-T15 D2-T26 D2-T39 D2-T40 D3-T1 D3-T14 D3-T25 D3-T42 D4-T1 D4-T12 D4-T14 D4-T22 D4-T30 D4-T35 D4-T46 D5-T1 D5-T2 D5-T9

Speaking Pointers 7 The "Cool" Factor 7 Voice Tone and Tonality 7 Pacing and Pausing 9 Energy and Enthusiasm 10 Language Tools and Details 12 Adjectives and Adverbs 12 Trance Words 13 Weasel Phrases 15 Embedded Commands 17 Linking 19 Easy-Linking (This, That, These, Those) 21 More Tools 23 Pointing and Gestures 24 Linking Gestures (Towards and Away) 25 Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This, That, These, Those ...) 26 Easy Anchoring - Point Or Touch, On Positive 27 Review 29 LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES Pace and Lead General Pace and Lead Techniques 31 31 32

* Disk and Track Numbers References to the CDs and the tracks on them are shown in a format such as "D2-T4", which in this example refers to Disk 2, Track 4.

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Table of Contents (continued)
Page No. 3.1.2 3.1.3 3.1.4 3.2 3.3 3.3.1 3.3.2 3.3.3 3.3.4 3.3.5 3.4 3.5 3.6 3.6.1 3.6.2 3.7 3.7.1 3.7.2 3.7.3 3.7.4 3.8 3.9 4.0 4.1 4.1.1 4.1.2 4.1.3 4.1.4 4.2 4.2.1 4.2.2 4.2.3 4.3 4.3.1 4.3.2 4.3.3 4.3.4 4.3.5 4.4 4.4.1 4.4.2 4.4.3 4.4.4 4.4.5 4.5 4.5.1 4.5.2 Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects Pace and Lead-Mindset Or Frame Of Mind Pace and Lead - Current Reality Give Them a Reason Listing General Listing Listing - At The End Listing - Burying Items Listing, Pauses, and Emphasis.. Listing Review More and More Compare and Contrast Parts Parts of a Subject Parts of a Person Opportunities and Challenges Using Their Own Processes What Do People Want? Mini-Challenges Opportunities and Challenges Ambiguities Summary CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT Challenges Detailed and Specific Plans Are Just Not Workable Navigation Example Navigational Strategies Are Needed She Must Be Engaged In The Conversation! How Conversations Happen Conversational Dynamics Conversational Model Topic Turning Point General Conversational Management Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Want How To Steer Conversations, Moment To Moment The Model With Strategy and Tactics In Place Exercises and Assignments Summary Advanced Conversational Management Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Really Want Steering Conversations Moment To Moment The Model With Advanced Strategy and Tactics In Place Exercises and Assignments Summary More Advanced Conversational Management More About Getting The Conversation To Go Steering Conversations Using More Advanced 33 35 38 39 41 41 43 45 48 48 48 51 54 54 58 61 62 62 63 64 69 69 71 71 71 71 72 72 72 72 73 77 79 79 81 82 83 86 86 86 88 88 91 93 93 93 94 Disk a n d Track N o . * D5-T12 D5-T20 D5-T29 D5-T32 D6-T1 D6-T4 D6-T15 D6-T24 D6-T36 D6-T37 D6-T38 D6-T54 D7-T1 D7-T4 D7-T15 D7-T34 D7-T36 D7-T38 D7-T40 D7-T43 D7-T64 D7-T66 D8-T1 D8-T1 D8-T3 D8-T4 D8-T5 D8-T10 D8-T12 D8-T13 D8-T14 D8-T15 D8-T16 D8-T16 D8-T19 D8-T23 D8-T25 D8-T32 D8-T33 D8-T33 D8-T35 D8-T38 D8-T39 D8-T46 D8-T47 D8-T47 D8-T49

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.7.6. * D8-T52 D9-T1 D9-T2 D9-T3 D9-T5 D9-T6 D9-T7 D9-T8 D9-T9 D9-T10 D9-T11 D9-T14 D9-T15 D9-T24 D9-T32 D9-T33 D10-T1 D10-T1 D10-T7 D10-T12 D10-T13 D10-T18 D10-T18 D10-T26 D10-T27 D10-T28 D10-T29 D11 .3 5.5 6.1 4. 4.SOTXs Conversational Model With SOTXs The Complete Conversational Model PATTERNS Pattern O v e r Pattern Formula Canned Patterns Pattern Riffing In Real-Time REVIEW AND SUMMARY Review Summary Listen.1 4.2 7.7 4.4 7.6 4. 94 96 96 97 97 98 99 99 99 99 101 101 102 104 109 111 115 115 115 116 116 119 119 119 119 119 119 121 Disk a n d Track N o .7. EXAMPLES.2 6. .2 4.5 8.0 5.3 4.0 7.3 6.0 6.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Table of Contents (continued) Page No. . and Follow The Course Be Willing and Prepared To Put Energy Into Congratulations! Well Done! EXAMPLES.6.3 5.1 5. .0 The Model With More Advanced Strategy and Tactics In Place. EXAMPLES v i e w .1 6.6. Do The Exercises..2 4.1 7.4 5.6..3 4. .7. Conversational Fractionation The 1-Shot Beeline Fallacy How Fractionation Works Using Conversational Fractionation Dead Ends Come Back To Life! Conversational Overview and Review Conversational Management Approach What If The Outcome Is Not What You Expected? Summary TOPICS Topics Of Enthusiasm and Passion Seduction Oriented Topics Expanded Seduction Oriented Topics ...2 5. APPENDICES I II III Course "Cheat Sheet" Speaking and Language Tools "Cheat Sheet" The Complete Conversational Management Model 123 131 133 Page v .4 4.3 7.5.4 7.

Graphics are used in the workbook as well. Boldface Text .. Page vii . Samples of the formatting and conventions used: Typefaces . Lists . It is also used for subject headings so that these stand out and apart from the normal text. and the italics are simply used as a way to show a different manner of emphasis. and conventions have been developed and are used throughout this transcript/workbook. There are certain conventions used in the formatting of the workbook. i. Italics are also used to point the reader towards specific content of the audio CDs.that is simply to show a list of related items. Text within graphics. If the graphic cannot fit there (due to page breaks) then the graphic is placed on the next available page. a "sans-serif typeface). This shows information that could be considered part of an overall "outline" of what the audio presentation contains. D3-T5 CD Track References . A majority of the workbook is presented in an "outline" form. Therefore most of the track references are shown at the start of major sections. CD Location References are shown using terms such as "D3-T5" in the text.. and their use is key to many students' understanding of the concepts presented. graphic titles. Exercises. and the Formulas. This shows (for example) the Disk (3) and the Track number (5) that corresponds to that part of the workbook contents. items are presented in a list-like fashion such as this: • Item 1 • Item 2 • Item 3 • Etc. there may be instances when the conventions are not used for the sake of emphasis. a "serif typeface). The relationship between these two can be best described by considering the workbook text to be (for the most part) an "outline" of what is presented in the audio.At times. Although there are paragraphs of explanatory text. The graphics in the latter sections are significant in that they are an essential part of the understanding and leaning. there is not an exact place in the book that correlates to the start of each and every track on the audio CDs. graphic captions. these are in most cases presented as a way to augment the content of the audio presentation.As shown to the right Towards the right margin of section titles and headings. The audio is NOT an exact duplicate of the text shown in the workbook. The written text is NOT a transcript. Not every track number is listed. Listen to the audio where an example is presented. However these conventions are guidelines. Usually the graphic is shown on the page immediately following where that graphic is first mentioned in the text.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Formatting and Conventions The following formatting.Boldface Text is used to emphasize certain text or passages. Italicized Text . . styles. Since the work book is an "outline" and not a transcript. and Assignments are all shown using this typeface (Arial. or clarity.Italicized Text is used for emphasis in many cases where boldface text may by nearby.A majority of the workbook content is shown in this typeface (Times New Roman. and to make it easier to reference those items at a later time. or major points in the workbook.e.

. Page Breaks . This is shown below.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Each graphic has a number and a title of some type. The number is in the format of "XYZ-A" where "XYZ" denotes the number of the section where the graphic is placed. Each Formula is presented in its own "text box" as shown here. -3) to account for multiple graphics in one section of text. Most exercises can be done alone. then that text is shown immediately below the graphic using an indented paragraph such as this. Text Boxes . Although this is not optimal. Similarly. it is required in order for the "flow" of the book content to remain consistent. but that is a necessity due to the complexity of the book.e.If a graphic has text that helps to further explain that graphic. Candidate Topics Figure XYZ-1: Graphic Title Sub-paragraph . A Formula is a way to present a concise explanation of some item. there are cases where text boxes may actually "break" across two pages. -2. there are instances where the definitions may be clouded to some degree. Assignments also call for action on the part of the reader.The workbook is laid out to minimize the amount of blank space where reasonably possible. Exercises are a series of instructions that call upon the reader to do or perform certain actions. Page viii . an Exercise may require interaction with other people. or maybe and Assignment can be done alone by the student. fact. Assignments usually requier the reader to go out and interact with other person(s) in order to perform them correctly. and the "A" indicates the number of the graphic within a section itself (i. Exercises. For example. or technique. This may require that a graphic be placed on the next page after where it is first mentioned (instead of being directly below where the graphic is first mentioned in the text). Although the difference between Exercises and Assignments is maintained through most of the workbook.Text boxes are used for very specific purposes in the workbook. and Assignments are shown inside boxes such as this. This also may result in some page breaks being in places which are not optimal.1 . Formula.

opening the door for many into the world of self improvement.insight and teaching that I think is possible. those who have read what I have written. colleagues. but I sincerely hope that the results will prove to have made the wait worthwhile. and students (we are each all of these and more) in the TAGR Group. and what is possible in their lives. JL. who helped me by allowing me to help them. most notably Hypnotica. associates.. Ross's developments have lead not only to helping many men with this part of their lives. and MD. EVS. confidants. To those in the original SD Lair group. but have also shown many the way to a new way of living. and who has also contributed greatly to helping men change their minds about themselves. Working with these clients was especially instrumental in formulating and perfecting the concepts and teaching methods used in this product. SM.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Acknowledgements The first and foremost acknowledgement goes out to Ross Jeffries himself. teachers. mentors. SP. and for the assistance they provided with this product. and to all of the Students out there who I have met at Speed Seduction® seminars. To my coaching clients. and this wait may have annoyed a few people. Dave Riker Page ix . and have opened the door for me to find many ways of self-improvement and understanding. Thank you. Special thanks to my friends. and to help you in finding the Women or Woman of Your Dreams. The main reason is that I do not wish to release any product until I believe that I am able to provide the level of quality. To the many experts out there who have augmented the SS teachings by showing me other aspects of the mind. / must apologize to some degree for the time it has taken to finish this product. DM. and those who have entrusted me to teach you and to guide you. To Dr. who was the business genius that brought Speed Seduction® to the masses through seminars and products. the creator of Speed Seduction . To all of you. MC. . I may miss a few sales because of such a delay.. who have placed their trust in me and allowed me the experience of showing them new and wonderful possibilities for what their lives may have to offer. Yates Canipe.

One of the biggest tragedies of life is that there are things. most women will be far better off and have much better chances with the kind of men. (and more importantly a LACK of information in some cases) that can prevent such connections and moments from happening. interesting. whether this time has any sort of romantic or seductive component or not. she should decide to be with whom she wants to be with by having opportunities. are NOT in short supply. is up to him. As if the interesting. women. And it's a shame for these women to be wanting for their company. And. and in many cases the efforts of men to solve this problem on their own have been met by smallminded criticism and slander. who was simply deprived of an means to "learn about" how to meet and talk with women. information. or with that special woman of which they have always dreamed. At least then he will be in a position of choice. there are a lot of wonderful women out there who would love to meet interesting men. to make an informed choice. Such men. He will be able to decide for himself which he feels is the best option for him. And I am here to help correct it. the idea of simply communicating with and sharing experiences with the other half of the human population. or the kind of man. charming men. A woman should never "settle". Whether a man decides to use this information as way to embark upon a period of his life which involves casual romantic interludes. and introducing themselves. They are the ones that really don't know how to introduce themselves. or "compromise". spending time with them. Page x . learn. in fact. or don't know how to present themselves in the best way. It's for these men. and sharing experiences with them. the best men. Many men through no fault of their own have grown up to be adults and have had little instruction or assistance in a very important area of their lives. They don't know how to keep a woman's interest. Having many interesting men available. there are a lot of great men out there who would like to meet interesting women. or whether a man uses this information as a means to improve his chances of finding one special woman. From that position. so that they really may share wonderful experiences of ALL types with women. take action. I know of many women who are always distraught that they seem to not be able to meet good men. There are many such men out there. They just have not been taught such things. are the ones that really DO look at this area of their lives. that I create products such as this. Whether that be as friends or acquaintances. other people. for some reason seem to be in short supply. some of the most wonderful moments of life are brought about by people. and options.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Forward One of the most wonderful things about life is the idea of connecting with others. I think that is not correct. helps to provide these women with an even better choice. that they will want to spend time with as well. and showing themselves in the best and most honest light. should somehow not improve himself. and for those women. and grow. This is so sad. as well. having and sharing experiences with. So. I think that many men. intelligent. and set forth upon a path to improve this area of his life. The women of the world will be better off in their own way. and decide to move forward. Sadly this is most apparent when it comes to men. Good. good-natured and well-intentioned man. teachings.

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Present a series of exercises and assignments. along with spaces for written responses where necessary. to use these language skills naturally as just a part of the way they speak. If you follow along and do the exercises. These techniques all need to sound and be "natural" to actually be effective. and get the full benefit of everything this course has to offer. and what works in the field. pay attention. seeing what is needed. Some guys don't need this. Listen to it. Welcome to Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course. some people do this naturally.2 WHY IS THIS COURSE NEEDED? D1-T10 If you are here. but this will help you if you are not.0 1. You are not going to sound like this or talk like this all of the time! Just in the way that you shift and change how you speak now in different situations. Instructions for each are provided. Language Skills What works? What makes the successful guys able to use these technologies? Partly it's the ability to actually "talk" in this manner. Page 1 . We will be teaching you the detailed language skills that will really help you. there is a need. We will teach you ways to easily manage conversations so that they go in interesting directions. Provide additional explanation of some points that are covered in the audio program. and on you as well. consciously and subconsciously. The purpose of this workbook is to: • • • Provide an outline of the material covered in the audio program.1 INTRODUCTION AND GETTING STARTED OVERVIEW Dl-Tl Welcome and Thanks. and "reprogrammed" in a way. You will have this way of speaking as a PART of who you are and what you can do! Guys need to be trained. Conversational Skills The ability to manage conversations is needed as well. you will do so in the future and use these techniques as well.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 1. you can change the way you speak as well. You are already on your way! This course works on many levels. This program is based upon experience with countless students. 1. This workbook is meant to studied along with a series of audio lectures that are recorded on CDs. So even this "intro" section is starting to work for you. then on some level. If you are her "type" you don't need this.

Enthusiasm and Passion Topics . talking. interacting. Real Time "Occurring immediately .. responding. listening.Seduction Oriented Topics Patterns and Riffing Examples Dl-Tl5 What Methods Are Used • Describe and explain the details of the techniques • Explicit examples of how the details work • Examples throughout and within the discussions • Examples section at the end. In a way. Sure." Guys need to stop the worrying about "Doing something wrong" It's only "wrong" if you are TRYING to do or be something you are not. Guys need to be able to just "do this" and "talk this way" in REAL-TIME. You need to integrate skills to the degree that they ARE a part of who you ARE. • Working on several "levels" of you mind at once • Models to arrive at an overall understanding • Left brain and right brain are both addressed • Conscious and subconscious minds are both given what they need for real understanding and retention. AND HOW Topics Speaking Pointers Language Tools and Details Conversational Management Conversational Fractionation Topics . some of the ways that you speak now will be reprogrammed so that speaking in a new way will be natural.3 Major • • • • • • • • WHAT WE WILL HANDLE. respond to input immediately . • Other teachings about language. listen. then you are not actually IN the conversation! You need to be engaged in a conversation. and how people speak.. not a "trick". must react to a steady flow of new information without interruption.. • Exercises to develop understanding and skills • Assignments for you to do in the field..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course You have to be PROGRAMMED to do this so you can have a conversation. Page 2 . some things will sound quite familiar. how it is learned. but if you are "thinking" too much. so let's define and explain it for you. so we need to approach this in many ways. that is important. but that's your left brain talking! We are reprogramming many years of your experience. Other parts of the language tools you may have to "think" about. This is a term that will be used throughout this course.. and be a part of it. • Things may seem to "repeat". for a while at least. but it's really YOU talking! Guys are too focused on "how can I use this" when in a conversation.. many times! • In fact we have already started! Where Does This Material Come From • From SS Teachings. Not inside your head "thinking" about "how can I use this?"! 1.

In addition. If they just "try" it. The Mind-Momentum Principle At Work • Get energy. and engagement into your effort to really learn and use these materials. You will need them because you will have assignments that deal with these. • Listen to other products in conjunction with this product. the emphasis here is training you to do it for yourself. they aren't really putting themselves INTO it. you are doing just that. or revised? Yes. many of these people will be those negative types of people that will then dispute the benefits of this program! Why? Because THEY have not invested anything into it! Not just in terms of dollars. However. but in terms of THEM really being willing and ready to change. However. or not? There are various ways. and a few women's magazines as well. the more you will get out of it. do the assignments over and over! • Be patient. • Be prepared to have a place to practice for this course! You will need to be able to speak out loud to do many of the exercises. and engagement. From working with clients and seeing what worked and how they were able to change. OR NOT D1-T24 Any real change requires you to make an investment in yourself using energy. effort.4 INVESTING IN YOURSELF. do the exercises over and over. do whatever you need to do to listen to this course a LOT. Other SS products will work well. and who may "try" to listen to the course. Many of the assignments will deal with talking to people. • This may seem complicated but the point is to get you SO familiar with the tools that you become the guy who does this! Some Very Important Points • Find all of your current SS products and inventory them. both audio and written materials. So. Page 3 . the more you put into it. new. If you need to make your own copies for use in multiple locations. Be wary of those people who may want to "borrow" a copy. making it a part of YOU. 1. • Having a good social life will help you. • Get that "Mind-Momentum" going to help you change and improve. and being open to what benefits this program can bring. to give you a real roadmap to actually learn the material. We are reprogramming years and years of you "speaking" in a certain manner. The Ways To Study And Use The Product • Listen to the CDs. Is this information. see what works for you. The best way to listen to this course is while also reviewing the workbook (especially in the conversational management sections). and this journey. that YOU just DO. a concept that was brought up earlier. • Follow along in the workbook if you can • Do the exercises and assignments! • Listen over and over. Also maybe get a romance novel or two. • Get some other written material to work with for this course. do it! But please. By embarking upon this course. However. and this is much easier if you have an active life where you can have many conversations. Applying a structured methodology of step-by-step methods. • Is there an "optimal way" to use the product. Changing that will take some time. there IS some overlap and duplication with other products and systems. keep those copies to yourself. effort.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • From personal experiences and how I used the materials. listening multiple times in any setting also has a lot of benefit. as assigned or as required.

1. It makes guys nervous. You keep trying to "remember" things. about grammar. where you use the skills in the real world. where you learn skills piece by piece. its a memorized "thing". paragraphs. It Is Possible! . but only indirectly.5 CAN WE CHANGE THE WAY YOU SPEAK? D1-T26 Is this really possible? This sounds difficult. at will Engage in conversation Manage conversations Yes. and you started to form the ability to speak and communicate based upon that! Page 4 ." So. But that's not how you learned to talk! You learned to talk when you were a child . It's less effective. its YOU being YOU! You cannot fail at being YOU! The approach in this course is different.But This Is A Different Type Of Learning. at every moment! Some people want to try to memorize. Not as congruent. because it addresses that analytical part of your mind. will not benefit. You will end up "memorizing" thing to some degree. you heard it a lot. Then it's about a "performance. then its easier. sentences. Those who are not. Can we literally change the way you speak? • • • • • • • How you select words Create phrases Form sentences Pick topics Speak passionately. But it's tough to do that. hold you back. there is a "right" and "wrong" way to do it! But if you are just TALKING. Don't let their lack of willingness to improve themselves. you heard it in context. Also progressive exercises. some structures. How People Initially Learn How To Speak • • • • Sure in middle school. consequently. Most people want to approach this by learning bits and pieces • • That's good in a way.by hearing others around you speak! You were IMMERSED in language. kids are taught about language. • • • • • • You will get some details. but to then USE it in conversation is difficult. some models. just being YOU. And actual assignments.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course People must be engaged in the process to get its benefits. • • • • • • • • This might be good as a learning TOOL. etc. you heard it. trying to "remember" what to say. Immersion is the key. because you will hear it so much! But a LOT of what is being conveyed here is learning by EXAMPLE. there is no "right" way or "wrong" way. Plus it's not YOU talking. Imagine having to "think about" how to talk.

more natural. which we go over and over. more a part of YOU. With THIS approach HERE. This causes some real. it's not about throwing something AT her. • Break it down into small parts. so that you will have more ability and more flexibility to do what is appropriate MANIPULATION AND ETHICS CONCERNS D1-T32 1. Page 5 . Various Training Methods • • We use a lot of repetitive training methods so that these techniques have a better chance of becoming "automatic". how you communicate.6 Many guys have been uncomfortable with using many of these skills. we will change the way you talk so that it will be easier. where I am just DOING these things all during the program. We will have you become familiar with the range of ways of speaking and sounding. Exercises and Assignments to Teach You the Skills • Skills Training like any sport. "it's not me" or "I am just using a trick or technique". like when I say "here is an example" Implicit examples. and be more of WHO YOU ARE. based upon feelings that when using them. trade.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course This Course Uses Many Techniques To Train You To Have Workable. and who and what YOU are! Using these skills will be less of an "act". Examples • • Explicit examples. Real-World Skills. deep ethics issues and blocks many guy's success. or craft.

Too many guys "try" to be cool but actually come off as COLD or even worse. Cool does NOT mean to be boring and to put people to sleep while talking! The coolest people are the ones that are FUN to talk to and fun to be with! You don't have to be cold. that there is a "fire" beneath the surface. Why is this important? • Great voice tone conveys comfort. to be cool. but if you really want to work on this even more. do this for several minutes. how interesting you are. how they make you feel. how they sound. That "cool" feeling comes from being calm and speaking in a relaxed fashion. reserved. there ARE products that focus JUST on this area and you may want to invest in those.2 Voice Tone and Tonality D2-T2 Listen to some examples of different tones of voice. Your tone of voice really conveys a lot about who you are. and this time focus on speaking by generating the sound from within your mouth (or. 2. We will work on this here in this course. The audio section demonstrates these options quite well. etc. even some of the materials from other products. 2) Read some more of that material out loud. "Cool" comes from being calm and sure of yourself. calm. Examples: One way to think of this is to consider "where" your voice is generated from in your body. a sense of being relaxed and calm • It also allows you to express some energy and excitement at different times. Read several paragraphs. not out of nervousness. This is good as long as it's not BORING. 1) Take some of that reading material. If this is a challenge for you. Page 7 .1 SPEAKING AND LANGUAGE SPEAKING POINTERS The "Cool" Factor D2-T1 D2-T1 Guys want to sound "cool".1. That's the "allure". there are great products and examples of this elsewhere.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. but because it's appropriate to the situation.0 2. and says a lot about you. focusing on generating your voice from your nose. focusing on the back of your throat might make this easier to do). That's what women like. something you are interested in. and read it aloud.1. and even goes a bit over-the-top to really help you to understand what is being discussed. BORING. how calm you are.1 2. and what people like in general. but giving the impression that there IS more. Listen as the examples demonstrate: • Speaking through the nose • Speaking through the mouth • Speaking from the chest Exercises for Speaking Pointers Grab some reading material of some type.

and whether or not you DID it! Day/Time Who you spoke to Situation (Where) Did you DO it? Page 8 . Assignments are where you are given a real task to go out and do . comfortable. and make them a part of who you are. but this time really focus upon generating the sound from deep within your chest. Day/Time Who you spoke to Speaking from? How you felt. 2) In the next few conversations you have with people. make note of how you felt (nervous. with whom. relaxed-confident). but to actually HAVE the skills. Also.in the real world! To get the most benefit from this course. and recall some time in the recent past when you were kind of nervous or fearful. it's important that you do what you can to REALLY make a point of doing these assignments. and where you are speaking from (your nose. Make notes below as to when it happened. Focus on dropping your voice down from your nose/mouth. or chest). 1) Over the next few days when speaking to anyone. where you were. Relax. Real-world experience will really help you to not just "know" the skills. really make a note to speak lower. and really focus on having that voice generated from your chest. Make notes below for some of the conversations and see if you can see a correlation between these items. Can you recall how you spoke? Did the way you sound in that situation sound like any of the examples you just did? See the similarity? Assignments for Speaking Pointers These are your first real assignments in the course. mouth. SOUND relaxed. See how relaxed it actually makes you feel and how you really need to BE relaxed to do this! 4) Take a moment.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 3) Now read some of the material. make a note to yourself as to how you are speaking.

Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Strategic Formula for Speaking Pointers Use your best tone of voice (speaking from your chest) to convey a relaxed. 2. comfortable manner. or almost a sense of panic. first very very fast. There are many variations: Listen as these are demonstrated • Hurried showing nervousness • Hurried showing excitement • Slow as in hesitant and/or confused • Slow in a way that is deliberate and relaxed Exercises for Pacing and Pausing Grab some reading material of some type. and charismatic presence. 1) Take some of that reading material and read it aloud. and shows that the speaker is relaxed. deliberate. and then far far too slow. relaxed. or don't quite understand the content. make a note to yourself as to how you are speaking in terms of your pacing and pausing. powerful.1. in a manner that makes you sound as if you are very confused. but this time read it slowly. Why is • • • this important? Correct pacing and speed of delivery conveys comfort. and this time focus on reading in a quick and hurried fashion. Speaking too quickly can show tension. 2) Read some more of that material out loud. Something you are interested in. 4) Now read some of the material.) Assignments for Pacing and Pausing 1) Over the next few days when speaking to anyone. as we discussed in the past section. Too fast? Too slow? Hurried-nervous? Hurried-excited? Slow-confused? Page 9 . Being able to vary your pacing and pausing can help a lot to convey a sense of intrigue and create interest. Read several paragraphs and do this for several minutes.3 Pacing and Pausing D2-T15 Listen to the examples where some various pacing is demonstrated. but this time read it in a slow. (Maybe even be aware of where your voice is coming from. even some of the materials from other products. but go ahead and convey excitement in your voice! 3) Now read some of the material. Focus on reading in a very hurried fashion as if you are very nervous.

If they do or say something that is interesting to YOU. where.. then you can show more enthusiasm. Page 10 .1. or bored. Who cares? Why does this matter? • Most guys are just TOO BORING. • If someone else is being interesting. 2. YOU act boring. start to focus on changing your pacing and pausing. you get stuck in fewer boring. When someone else is being boring. enthusiasm.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Slow-relaxed? You don't have to change it yet. to convey a sense of drama and intrigue in what you are saying in a way that "captivates" people and makes them want to listen to you. dead-end conversations... and if you DID it! Day/Time Who you spoke to Situation (Where) Did you DO it? Strategic Formula for Pacing and Pausing Use variations in pace. energy.4 Energy and Enthusiasm D2-T26 Listen to some examples of how this can sound . just make a note of this after-the-fact and write that down below. By doing this. It's good to have the ability and range to display passion. and well-placed pauses. who. Make note of when. Day/Time Who you spoke to What type of pacing and pausing? 2) For the next few days. • This also allows YOU to convey how interesting someone ELSE is as well. YOU can show an appropriate amount of energy and enthusiasm. and excitement when appropriate. to convey a more relaxed and deliberate manner.

Do this for a good 10-15 minutes.. whatever it is. whenever someone is talking about something boring. and how much (or little) energy is conveyed. even some of the materials from . and BE BORING. 2) For the next few conversations you have with people where you ARE interested in the subject. their tone. Assignments for Energy and Enthusiasm 1) Over the next few days. their pace. Page 11 . Note how even if the material is something you do NOT care about. women. 1) Watch and listen to some speakers talk about a boring. bland voice with no energy or enthusiasm. their pace. 2) Watch and listen to some speakers who use a lot of energy and enthusiasm when they are talking! Really pay attention to how they speak. and read THAT aloud in a way that DOES show energy and enthusiasm! Make that sound as convincing as #4 above. energetic voice. taped lectures. Again. Read it OUT LOUD in a boring. Exercises for Energy and Enthusiasm Grab some reading material of some type.. make sure it is something that YOU are passionate about. bland. technical presentations. which bores you. how you listen. 5) Take that written material that really does interest you. Think as if YOU are convincing a group of people how great this is! Maybe your Dream Job of a lifetime is dependant upon YOU speaking well and showing how passionate YOU are about this! Do that for a good 10-15 minutes. Really pay attention to how they speak. Watch on either TV.. their tone. your car. do that for 10-15 minutes. Strategic Formula for Energy and Enthusiasm Using energy and enthusiasm when speaking so that people can become energized and enthusiastic about listening to and being with you. 6) Take that earlier written material about the subject that you are NOT interested in and that really bores you. monotone. and read that aloud in a boring. Again. maybe sports. do that for 10-15 minutes. 3) Get some written material that you have NO interest in. animated..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course The audio section demonstrates more details about sounding boring/bored and also sounding as if you have energy and enthusiasm. something you are interested in. your work. and how much (or little) energy is conveyed. monotone voice. other products. Read it OUT LOUD in an exciting. BE BORING and show no enthusiasm at all. 4) Get some written material that really DOES interest you. go ahead. and that are excited about. and how your respond. go ahead and SHOW your enthusiasm! Be energetic in how you speak. that a good speaker can really grab your attention with their energy and enthusiasm. When you respond or talk back. dry topic. etc.

but must be done over and over.1 Adjectives and Adverbs D2-T40 Listen to an example where many of these are used in descriptive language. Remember. It's good if YOU are also interested in it. talk about each thing or subject again. use more Adjectives and Adverbs. talk about it in a descriptive way. sports. movies. and more ways of talking about processes. 4) Think of three recent conversations you had when you talked to someone about something that you REALLY liked. while Adverbs will describe ACTIONS (verbs). These words modify or in some way describe. Do this for each of the conversations listed above. add more descriptive terms to it. and sensations. 2) Read it. and make note of the adjectives and adverbs in it. (Maybe highlight them in some manner. and the subject you were talking about. Re-live it.2 LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS D2-T39 These are the Bit And Pieces • These are the sort of things that can be powerful.. they are not things that can be measured or specified. Most guys are too dry in their speech. Examples • Car reviews • Movie Reviews • This course! Exercises for Adjectives and Adverbs 1) Find some written material that deals with something where people are speaking passionately about some subject.. They sound cold. whatever. not the logical side of a person. Who you spoke to Subject 5) Now. Page 12 . we are working to appeal to the emotions. you should be able to do this for at least 3-5 minutes each. Most Adjectives and Adverbs are qualitative. nouns and verbs. Cars. feelings. and uninteresting. 2. out loud. Most men could be helped by having more descriptive speech. or they are too factual and leftbrained.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. If you really like this subject. Maybe say those adjectives or adverbs and put more energy into those words and emphasize them in some manner. boring. but this time. and stress the adjectives and adverbs in it. Adjectives will describe THINGS (nouns). because to have to "think about" using them is almost impossible! • You need to be TRAINED TO USE THEM automatically. Day.) 3) Read that text OUT LOUD. Note whom you were talking to. • Their use must be automatic.2.

Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Assignments for Adjectives and Adverbs 1) Make note of the next 3 times you are having a conversation which deals with something that YOU are really into. Trance words help to "open the person up" so that their subconscious. Act like you are really having the conversation again. 3) Practice out loud how you would have said those things in each of the three conversations.2 Trance Words D3-T1 Listen to an example where many of these are used. or objective manner. Be descriptive. that you are passionate about. Trance words are words that "call upon" the subconscious mind in order for them to be processed and understood. Strategic Formula for Adjectives and Adverbs Use more adjectives and adverbs in your speech to appeal to and excite the emotional side of the listener. that you really enjoy. Start with just a few of them. and c above). is listening and more engaged in the conversation. They are not "analyzed" in a conscious. 2. Trance • • • • • Word List Instantaneously Suddenly Find Yourself Convince Yourself Suppose Page 13 . factual. Day Who you spoke to Subject 2) Write down a few adjectives and adverbs that you could have used in each discussion (refer to a.2. b. "paint a picture" with your words. and processes awaken. make sure to use some of those adjectives and adverbs in your descriptions. and then maybe add some more as time goes on. Write down what the subject was. so that their feelings. 4) The next several times any of those subjects come up in conversation. their emotional side. emotions. and with whom you spoke.

Subject b. talk about it. See how many you can find and notice how they are used in context. Looking at the list of Trance Words above. that's the point! Exercises for Trance Words 1) Make a full list of Trance Words. 4) Get your SS audio materials and listen for Trance Words (maybe even THIS course here). Think for a moment about using those trance words to describe that subject. work. Write them down below. or religious speakers. political speakers. Maybe refer to some of your other SS products and see how many more you can find. almost boring or mundane thing. Now speak OUT LOUD about that subject. see and hear if you can pick out when the speaker is using Trance Words. and see how many of those Trance Words you can use. sportscasters. See how many you can notice. Boring Subject Page 14 . or school. something that you think is dull. Maybe play one tape or CD. 5) Take the written text from an SS product (maybe from #3 above) and read it out loud. With that list of Trance Words (above) in hand. 6) Pick two subjects in which you are interested. 7) Pick a subject that bores you. but also see if you can add some to the list. Highlight or circle the Trance Words in a few sections. 3) Get out your written SS materials and look for Trance Words (maybe even use THIS course here). You can copy the ones you saw listed earlier. and make it more interesting? Well. and see if you can pick these out. Trance Word List 2) Watch or listen to some material where people are speaking passionately about something. Doesn't that make it sound kind of "mysterious"? Maybe more exciting? Maybe you can take some normal. talk OUT LOUD about that subject and see how many times you can use those Trance Words! Subject a. Look at the Trance Word List above. even something concrete like your job. placing an emphasis on the Trance Words when you see them.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • Imagine Mysterious (-ly) Wonder (-ous) (-ously) Think of any subject. like advertisements.

doesn't that make it-sound more "exciting". The next time you are speaking with anyone about those subjects (in the real world guys!). Subject a. If you were to . What's it like when .. maybe even a bit odd? Maybe even a different topic or change of subject? Or maybe something that you were worried about bringing up.. more interesting. Page 15 . Use them when talking to different people... and more fascinating? Assignments for Trance Words 1) Pick two subjects in which you are interested. that's what Weasel Phrases are for! Weasel Phrase List (see if you can add to the list by listening to the audio). Just do whatever you can to start using some of them at first.. How do you talk about something without REALLY talking about it? How do you bring something up that may be a bit different. As you . to get from one subject to another.3 Weasel Phrases D3-T14 Listen to an example where many of these are used. make a point to use at least one of the Trance Words in the conversation. because it may be a bit too forward? Well. and using more and more as time goes on..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Even though that may seem a bit strange. 2. • • • • • Have you ever .. Strategic Formula for Trance Words Using Trance Words will help to get the subconscious mind of the listener to be more of a part of your conversation.. These also work as transitional phrases. Subject b.. If I were to . 2) Integrate a few more of these words into your every-day description of those subjects.2. Practice working with those subjects out loud some more and see if you can get even more comfortable using Trance Words when talking about those subjects..

Talk about THAT one for a few sentences. getting into it. the subject might be "going to a ball game" (pick your own. This is necessary to have the kind of words and subjects that lend themselves to Weasel Phrases. Subject Page 16 . see if you can use some or all of your favorite weasel phrases when talking about it. In a moment. Just read the SS material out loud. that seem as if they fit best into your way of speaking about subjects that you may like. that it makes more sense. Assignments for Weasel Phrases 1) Look at the list of Weasel Phrases that you wrote earlier. and then use one of the Weasel Phrases and the bring up another "aspect". 4) Pick a subject in which you are interested. doing it. and read some of this material out loud.. While doing it.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Exercises for Weasel Phrases 1) Get some of your written SS materials and look for some Weasel Phrases in the text. etc. but selecting different Phrases to link the aspects together. 5) Did that sound weird? Strange? Ok . Do this until you use all 4-5 of the attributes that you listed. For example. The next several times that you talk about that subject with anyone. then use another Weasel Phrase. saying one slowly or quickly. we want you to talk about how it FEELS. etc. It will get easier. Pick 3 of them that seem the most natural to you. 2) Note the subject that you used earlier for doing some exercises with Weasel Phrases (exercise 4 above). Try it again. Use different Phrases. the experience of it. 3) Take the written SS materials you had earlier. Take a moment and try to emphasize them in a way. don't use that one!) Now talk about one of these 4-5 aspects for 1-2 sentences. sensing it. after another. make note of the weasel phrases. (Weasel Phrases tend to provide ways to connect sentences and paragraphs that talk about how something is felt and experienced.. Maybe play one tape or CD. 2) Get your SS audio materials and listen for some Weasel Phrases.) Pick 4-5 different aspects of this "experience" that you will talk about. and see if you can string things together so that they sound better. Maybe pausing for a moment before one. See if you can pick these out. and do so with an awareness on some level that you are saying and using weasel phrases when they are in the text.

2. and read some of this material out loud.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Select another subject that really interests you. excited by something. your job. 3) Take the written SS materials. Pick something that excites you! Maybe the subject is sports. Like "feel excited". and do so with an awareness. Subject Strategic Formula for Weasel Phrases Use Weasel Phrases to keep the conversation going. Write down things that would make someone interested. after another. or feel a certain way. instead "you like this" (car). Page 17 . maybe pausing for a moment before one. a place you have traveled. Maybe play one tape or CD. Two key aspects of the use of Embedded Commands are often overlooked. See if you can pick out embedded commands while listening. While doing it. your car. Make a point to "lean on it" a bit. etc. "get into it". To make it easy. or more quickly.).. once. saying one slowly. and where the person's emotions or feelings are somehow active (This "context" issue is discussed later in the product in great detail in Conversational Management sections. and incorporate Weasel Phrases into the next several discussions you have about that subject as well.It's not just about using one. when separated from the context. or experience while they are thinking about that subject. lets say you were selling something to someone. "see how fascinated" . that you are saying and using embedded commands at the time. think of it like this. 2. • Context . etc. 4) Pick a topic that YOU are very interested in. Just say this stuff out loud. feelings. feel. things you would like a listener to think about. These are small snippets of words and phrases which. issue a "command" or statement that instructs someone do something. or "you want this" (car). "get excited". 2) Get your SS audio materials and listen for these. Write down a list of embedded commands.just general things that would cause a person to be interested in something. make note of the embedded commands.4 Embedded Commands D3-T25 Listen to an example where many of these are used. • Repetition . Take a moment and try to emphasize them in some way. maybe a car. These are not to be sexual or suggestive.. Again not "you like that color".It's very important that the command be brought up in the context of a conversation that is interesting. on some level. but just general things (feelings or states). intrigued. that you want them to experience. allowing you to say more (and maybe more provocative things) about a subject. Think of general statements. its about multiple usage (bombardment)! Exercises for Embedded Commands 1) Get our your written SS materials (written) and look for embedded commands in a few pages of the text. "this is what you have imagined having for yourself. and to "soften" the way in which something is said.

to create a compelling will on the part of the listener follow you and listen to you. and make it sound natural. or school. in the context of talking about that subject. Strategic Formula for Embedded Commands Use embedded commands repeatedly and in the proper context. work on just saying them and finding a way to bring them up. out loud.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 5) Start talking about that topic out loud. 4) The next several times that subject comes up in your life. just enough to put the emphasis on the command. see just how many of the embedded commands in that list that YOU can say! First. that would assist you in being more influential. or maybe it has to deal with your job. Maybe you work in sales. pausing. Start to place some emphasis on the command itself. Write down a list of at least 5 commands that work well in that subject. See how natural you can make them sound. and with that list that YOU wrote in hand. 6) Do the same thing again. start using a few of these commands when speaking. Page 18 . The next several times that you talk about that subject with anyone. Subject Embedded Commands 3) Practice the use of those commands. 2) Select another subject that is a part of your life. Maybe slowing down slightly. but now focus more on "leaning" on the embedded commands a bit. Assignments for Embedded Commands 1) Look at the list of Commands that you wrote and practiced that deal with a subject in which you are interested (exercise 4 above). changing your voice. but something where being influential may help. Maybe it's not a passion or real interest. make some effort to use some of these commands in the context of a real discussion.

when you say "this feeling". you speak of "this feeling". as long as there is good rapport).5 Linking D3-T42 Linking is a way to take the feelings. and experiences that are being discussed and associate or "link" them to you. she has to feel it on some level (and she will. which is an ambiguous way of referencing what she is thinking about. will "link" them to you. • • • • • • • Now with me In me In myself with this these this belief these feelings Exercises for Linking 1) Get our your written SS materials (written) and look for examples of Linking in the text. the linking tools and techniques will add to this. make note of where linking is taking place.2. while looking at you. etc. you are being ambiguous. 2) Get your SS audio materials and listen for these. emotions. see if you can add more phrases to the list below. then to the deeper levels of her mind. Are you talking about the "feeling" she had at some time in the past? Are you talking about the feeling she is having right now? • Because you are using terms like "this". she has to actually feel it to some extent. See if you can pick out Linking Phrases while listening. and then making an ambiguous reference to that feeling using your words. ALL of those possible definitions apply! Then. • In order for her to understand the feeling being discussed. 3) Take the written SS materials.While listening to the audio. What is this based upon? • When talking. recall. also "this" and "these" as in "this feeling" of "these feelings". change in voice tone. Take a moment and try to emphasize the linking in some way. "in myself. • However. etc. on some level. While doing so. using some of the techniques that have been discussed in this course (pausing. and getting her to experience. Maybe play one tape or CD. For example. In some ways. you are talking "about" a feeling or sensation. and feel emotions. and make this "link" even more effective. you become more associated with those feelings. If she is experiencing these feelings in your presence.) Page 19 . it's easier than you think! Just talking about a subject and getting her to be a part of the discussion. and read some of this material aloud. "this interest". However. non-specific. The most common linking phrase/tool that guys think about is the phrase "now with me".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. You can also make reference to "in me". and talking to you. Linking Phrases . if you are talking about a great feeling of excitement that a woman has had or is having. and inexact. Just to "process" what is being discussed. then on some level that is creating this "link". which is ambiguous (non-exact).

this will come to you much more easily. but now focus more on "leaning" a bit on the Linkage Phrases. where you listed "feel excited". You can even add the ever-popular "now. and see if you can "add" text to each to link them to you in some way. This will sound easier for you as we go on. pause. etc. Plus the next section will make this much easier! Strategic Formula for Linking After getting someone to experience good feelings and emotions. Another example would be to take the phrase "Get excited" and turn that into "get excited by THESE things". "this person or thing". "these feelings". Embedded Command Linkage Phrase 5) Pick a topic that YOU are interested in as we did before (it can be the same one you used in Exercise #4 in section 2.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4) Take the list of embedded commands that you created in an earlier exercise (Exercise #4 in section 2. link them to you so that YOU become something and someone that they feel good about. That's ok. just enough to put emphasis on the Linkage Phrase. and using the list above. A quick way of doing this is to simply add "this feeling". Write down the list of commands and an associated linkage phrase for each below. First.2. 6) Now do the same thing again. Doing linking in an exercise like this is difficult and hard to make it sound "natural". In some manner. it's much better if picked up along-the-way. Assignments for Linking No separate assignment for this. Maybe slow down slightly.) For example. work on just saying them and finding a way to bring them up.2. or change your voice. (Again. This may seem strange and sound a bit "off". Page 20 .4). the linking is ambiguous and doesn't reference you directly. with me" after one of more of the commands in your list.4). you could say "feel excited by this" or "feel excited now" (you can also link things by putting in a reference to NOW). see just how many of the Embedded Commands and Linkage Phrases that you can use in your dialog. Start talking about that topic out loud. As you hear more and more examples of this throughout the course.

those feelings • These sensations. So. these and those are plural • These . (In some cases.6 Easy-Linking (This.Possessive • Those . there are times when they cannot be switched. but that will be quite obvious when you try to do that). this & that are singular • This . • This person. This means they are ambiguous! Consider this and that. those sensations So. they reference a "thing". so you are not using a name or specific reference. that direction • This feeling. a GREAT strategy is to link anything and everything positive to you (and link negative things away from yourself. those directions • These feelings. "this person" tends to sound like the person that is there.Non-Possessive For example. Those) D4-T1 Listen to an example where many of these are used. and it can be done a LOT. for that multiple-instance bombardment that we spoke of before! The idea of linking wild. and one is not. This and that tend to refer to singular items. in general.2. These. that sensation They differ though in that "this" seems possessive. those people • These directions.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. For example. or not there at the time. who cares? Well these are almost interchangeable! You can switch this/that in sentences as you wish.Possessive (sort of "includes" something) • That .Non-Possessive (seems to reference something "else" or something "away") Consider these and those. with you. seductive feelings to you may be great but. Given that one type is possessive. these refer to plural items. that feeling • This sensation. Consider four words in the English language: • This • That • These • Those These are forms of pronouns. with "these" being the possessive form. but do so in a general manner. use the possessive form when saying or talking about ANYTHING POSITIVE and use the non-possessive form when saying anything negative! Page 21 . one "thing". exciting. So. This is a new and very effective way to do linking that is easy to learn and master. In this case. and included. • These people. That. that person • This direction. Whereas "that person" refers to someone "away" some "other" person who is not in the immediate area. and "that" is not.

This person is good. or "things about" that subject. That. For each of these attributes or things. Those Page 22 . Write down (below) ten attributes. This is good. out loud. Those are not. you have discussed a subject (and written a lot of text about it) that is important to you. These. These people are good. write a small sentence for each. using the correct versions of That. and the correct form of This. Those people are not. Small sentence that includes that attribute. Use "That" and "Those" when referring to anything negative. and those depending on whether the item is positive or negative. These. Exercises for Easy-Linking 1) Say the lines below. That person is not.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • This That These Those Singular possessive Singular non-possessive Plural possessive Plural non-possessive Anything Anything Anything Anything Positive Negative Positive Negative You can learn to do this (to choose which of these words to use) in real-time through training! Tactical Formula for Easy-Linking Use "This" and "These" when referring to anything positive. That. Subject: Attributes or "things about" that subject. or singular/plural. ' 3) Earlier in the workbook. for a good ten minutes. That is not. These are good. for a good ten minutes. out loud. 2) Say the lines below.

These. 5) Pick another subject. Subject: Attributes or "things about" that subject. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. D4-T13 Page 23 . Anchoring Anchoring is associating a feeling or emotional state to a sensory experience. and then write a small sentence for each.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4) Talk out loud about that subject for a good 5-10 minutes. and once again. 2. and Those. beyond the small bits and pieces of language. list ten attributes or things about that subject. using the appropriate form of This. and their movement becomes a part of their communication. Small sentence that includes that attribute. Great speakers use movement to their advantage. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. Those 6) Talk out loud about the subject mentioned above for a good 5-10 minutes. That. These. These sections help to train you in these types of techniques.3 MORE TOOLS D4-T12 Now we are getting into a different area. and the correct form of This. That.

Most guys are too boring and too reserved when talking. and some gestures. 2. so that the use of these becomes automatic. 2) List 3 subjects that you really enjoy. etc. Use your hands to accentuate certain points. etc. maybe a motivational speaker. after the conversation has ended. make note of where your hands are when speaking. and then we can work on deliberate movement such as • Pointing towards and away from things • Towards yourself and away from yourself Exercises for Pointing and Gestures 1) Find a good speaker on TV. BE excited! Use your hands and arms for emphasis. down. and to do multiple times.1 Pointing and Gestures D4-T14 Good speakers use their hands. and that you end up talking about with people quite often. 2) Get one of the text lists from an earlier exercise (weasel phrases. passionate. Don't flail about wildly. How often are they in your pockets? How often do they just lie by your side and never move? Make note of this after-the-fact. Watch how they move. Then later on see if you can start to become aware of what your hands are doing WHILE you are in the conversation. or even a preacher. Get your hands OUT of your pockets and AWAY from your body! Act excited. and hopefully the conversations are interesting. so these techniques discussed here will help. talking about a subject that YOU are interested in.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Many different types of anchoring can be done and we are only going to cover some very basic tools. We will break down many of the component parts of this into skills that we will teach you bit by bit. They may be a bit over-the-top (speaking to an audience is different than speaking one-on-one) but just watch them for a while. towards. and that you are passionate about. have energy. Assignments for Pointing and Gestures 1) For the next few days. How to • • • do this: Get your hands out of your pockets. Pick something YOU are interested in. political speaker.3. Move! We will start by generating SOME movement. embedded commands. and way from your sides. Read some of that text (from an earlier exercise) out loud. etc). and that are very very easy to do. point up. to help make their point. and away from yourself. Subjects Page 24 . However we will focus on things that can create a LOT of effectiveness.

These sections help to train you in these types of techniques. These. 5) Pick another subject. That. D4-T13 Page 23 . and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. and then write a small sentence for each. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. Great speakers use movement to their advantage. list ten attributes or things about that subject.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4) Talk out loud about that subject for a good 5-10 minutes. Subject: Attributes or "things about" that subject. using the appropriate form of This. beyond the small bits and pieces of language. Those 6) Talk out loud about the subject mentioned above for a good 5-10 minutes. Small sentence that includes that attribute. That.3 MORE TOOLS D4-T12 Now we are getting into a different area. These. Anchoring Anchoring is associating a feeling or emotional state to a sensory experience. and the correct form of This. 2. and Those. and once again. and their movement becomes a part of their communication.

) 2) Grab some of your written SS materials. Say the following out loud while gesturing in the correct direction: Good. away. Strategic Formula for Pointing and Gestures Move. ANYTHING. 3) With these three subjects in mind. and animate to some extent the next time you talk about them. etc. and AWAY from your sides and MOVE when talking about these subjects. very easily.. As you get more comfortable with this.). and the repetition works for you! • Can do in various contexts. make a note to go ahead and move. many people move when talking This technique is most powerful when used at a time when emotions and/or imagination are engaged in the conversation. • Or hold your hand away from yourself (to send things "away") How to use it • Good to do in the context of being a person that already MOVES when talking! • Make this subtle. This technique allows you to do this many many times.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course For each of these subjects. and send Negative things away • You can point towards or away from yourself. Page 25 . point or gesture away. gesture. or • You can place your hand on your chest or abdomen in a subtle manner (to link things to you) . and MOVE! Do this out loud. arms. Bring Positive things toward yourself. recall a recent time when you had such a discussion. Whenever you say something positive.3. point or gesture towards yourself. and accentuate what you are saying in order to be more compelling as a speaker and to get even more attention from your listener or audience.2 Linking Gestures (Towards And Away) D4-T22 This is a fast and easy way to link positive states to you. and every time something positive is being talked about. and when anything negative is mentioned. away. Bad (gesture towards. towards. Exercises for Linking Gestures 1) Stand up. and others. no need to WILDLY gesture! • You can do this many many times.. just start to MOVE. gesture. but this time use your hands. Bad. 2. Read that out loud. Do your best to re-enact that discussion (say what you said. Do something. Tactical Formula for Linking Gestures Whenever you say something negative. point towards yourself. point away. and to send negative things "away" from yourself. and MOVE. or at least be able to move. etc. make a point to get your hands OUT of your pockets. Good. motion.

etc. start with a few. For each of these subjects. and hopefully the conversations are interesting. say what you said. or at least sit where you can move. 2. Point to you Negative Say "those". Those" correctly Combine these and use them at the same time! When you say This or These. Point away. and that you end up talking about with people quite often. have energy. these can be the same as the last set of assignments). Do this out loud. when anything negative is mentioned. and every time something positive is being talked about. but you don't have to do it every time! That will seem strange! Tactical Formula for Easy Linking Expanded Positive statement. That. point away. Say "this". Start subtle.) D4-T30 Now we bring together Linking Gestures and Easy Linking. That. point towards yourself and when anything negative is mentioned. but this time when you are speaking of anything good or positive. (yes. Pick something that YOU are interested in. Say "these". Do the following out loud: Page 26 . Exercises for Easy Linking Expanded 1) Stand up. Use "This. Assignments for Linking Gestures 1) List 3 subjects that you really enjoy. These. passionate. recall a recent time when you had such a discussion. etc. Point away Positive statement. point away. points towards yourself. Subjects Do your best to re-enact that discussion. 2) With these three subjects in mind. and MOVE. make a note to go ahead and use these Linking Gestures to some extent the next time you talk about them. Linking Gestures and Easy-Linking together: • • • Use the pointing/gestures on Positive and Negative things (point towards and away). These.3 Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This.. gesture towards yourself or place your hand(s) on yourself. Conversely.. Say "that". This is veryeasy to do over and over for that repetitive effect. Those . Point to you Negative statement. When you say These or Those. it will become easier and easier.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Remember the text we used in an earlier example here in the workbook? Read that out loud.3. motion away or place your hands/arms away.

) with Easy Linking (using This. or when the person you are talking to goes into a Positive state. The more that "emotions" are being accessed. it's more difficult. Point back to yourself and say "these". If you are head-on directly in front of a person.. it will become automatic. That.. while pointing towards or away from yourself in the correct manner. touch them • they seem to go into a pleasant state. Point away. It may be good to anchor feelings. it's good to be close enough (within arms-length) so that the "touch" is easy to do. a laugh. Use the correct versions of This. Those in the correct ways) to associate even more positive feelings. Strategic Formula for Easy Linking Expanded Combine the use of Linking Gestures (towards yourself when positive. This is more easily done if you are standing at the side or at an angle. That.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Point to yourself. and say "that". touch them! This "Easy Anchoring" works in any context: • they laugh. Can we apply this to anchoring? Yes! • We need a way to do some basic anchoring that is very simple. touch them • they smile. you are anchoring them in a subtle way.4 Easy Anchoring . the more effective it tends to be. and able to be done many many times. states. Also. it's very useful to Anchor anything and everything positive to you! In some ways.Point or Touch. These. and Those. Page 27 . These. On Positive D4-T35 Let's look at anchoring in light of the 80/20 rule (where 80% of the results come from 20% of the effort). Point away and say "those" Repeat! This WILL help to train you! 2) Remember the text we used in an earlier example? Speak that text out loud. and away when negative. Practice it enough and in connection with earlier exercises. and emotions to yourself. and say "this". and thoughts to you but in a general sense. and Those if you can. trying to add in more instances of This. we are doing that already by pointing "towards" on positive things and "away" on negative things using Linking. but actually. specific states. But to get even more effectiveness when anything positive happens. a realization. That. These. Do this in a way that maybe makes it seem like you are doing it for emphasis. an expression. touch them This is best done in a "moment" with some emotion. etc.3. 2.

vividly. you grab their upper arm as well. but a bit more "deliberate". (Not romantically. you just touch his or her upper arm or upper back. 2) Spend some time looking for moments (positive ones) where a touch would be appropriate. just a touch. Also note the degree of eye contact. such as. What do you do? You shake their hand. • Think about when you greet a friend. but in many cases. See if you can recall how it was. Person '" Situation. Assignments for Easy Anchoring 1) The next several times you shake someone's hand. maybe pat on the back. etc. Page 28 . directly to you. interest. Write those down. make a point to hold it just slightly longer than usual. a smile. laugh. Tactical Formula for Easy Anchoring When the person you are talking with displays a positive feeling of some type. without really thinking about it. and note to yourself the correlation between how long the touch lasted and the level of rapport... This is the same type of thing. intrigue. also make a point to make and maintain eye contact as well. or Topic being discussed 2) Recall those 5 times. • Think about when you meet and are introduced to someone. and the situation or topic being discussed. Exercises for Easy Anchoring 1) Think about the last 5 times where you touched someone in this type of way. • When joking with someone.) Maybe a handshake Maybe a pat on the back Maybe a funny gesture Make a note of the person. touch them to help anchor it to you. maybe someone who you have heard about). A laugh A moment of recognition or realization When someone starts talking quietly. but yet have some degree of rapport already (maybe this is a friend-of-a-friend..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course You probably do this already in certain situations.

. and movement skills that will be used later in the course.. You are noticing this after-the-fact. 3) Now that you have started to notice these "moments" where a touch would be appropriate.4 REVIEW D4-T46 We are well on our way. That. to be cool o Voice Tone And Tonality • Nose. and you have already learned a LOT of the detailed speaking. maybe you don't touch them. Those MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures • Move! Point! o Linking Gestures • Towards And Away o Easy Linking Expanded • Pointing With This. • SPEAKING POINTERS o The "Cool" Factor • You don't have to be cold. Mouth. Those Page 29 . Fast • • • Pause o Energy And Enthusiasm • Passionate or Boring? LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS o Adjectives And Adverbs • Be descriptive o Trance Words • Instantaneously.. o Linking " with me. but as you notice these moments. o Embedded Commands • Can you do this now. language. These. that a touch is appropriate. when you have the chance. That. see if you can have at least 5 instances of knowing.. These. we want you to actually DO IT! So. in-the-moment. think "I could have touched them THEN".. 2. Chest o Pacing And Pausing • Slow.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course At first. Suddenly. DO IT! Strategic Formula for Easy Anchoring In general. anchoring and associating yourself to positive and intriguing feelings in other people helps to make them feel positive towards and intrigued by you. o Easy-Linking • This. Then. Find Yourself o Weasel Phrases • If I were to .

and later to Conversational Management techniques. we will move onwards to work on Language Structures. Page 30 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o Easy Anchoring • Point Or Touch On Positive And Negative With these parts behind you.

Pace and Lead allows us to "join" someone. but you must do so powerfully and do NOT look for "acceptance". but you can break rapport in the process.. For example.1 PACE AND LEAD D5-T2 Pace and Lead . and then take them in some direction.. towards where you want things to go. all of the time..Can you just knock someone into agreeing with you? Can you be that bold? Yes.. Fast and abrupt changes .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3. however you can break rapport. and more influential in general. but agreeing is just a special case. you might make comments (some that agree and some that may not) but the key is that you are "Taking part in" the conversation and topics at hand..Some people misunderstand and think that to "Pace" means to "agree". Agree or not agree? . You almost NEVER impress people that way! To pace/lead well. or to try to "impress" them.Can you just abruptly jerk a conversation towards where you want it to go? Maybe. To "Pace" means to just BE a part of the conversation. show understanding (does not have to be agreement necessarily) and then . you might bring up a new way of looking at it. Now we are moving "up" a level.Some people try to display higher knowledge or value by "arguing". incorrect. Don't argue! . say things such as. You might disagree. Challenges • Can't you just bluntly offer a different view? Yes. Changing the Viewpoint or Frame if Mind .0 LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES D5-T1 We have been working on bits and pieces of language. or "bigger chucks" as we say. These techniques give you ways to use and arrive at languaging in a manner that will make you more persuasive. but will hopefully at some point.A way to change directions • In someone's way of thinking • In the conversation To make a change in direction in some manner. acknowledge what the other person is saying. Are they useful and possible? • • • Trying to knock or jar someone into a different direction or way of thinking can be risky. move with them conversationally for a while. These were tactical details. You MAY be able to do that. the sort of things that you need to get used to doing automatically. telling someone they are wrong. into higher-level stuff. be able to just "do".. you are lost. things that you should not even have to really "think about". it's best to meet or join someone in some way. etc. The minute you do anything like that to get someone else's "approval".. Changing Topics and Subjects . then and give them another way of looking at it. move them .. but you need a lot of power to do it and you risk breaking rapport. o That's one way to see it o I understand your point Page 31 • • . It can mean this. 3.

. showing that you are a part of it.. Let me make sure I understand . I read/saw/heard the same thing .... So.. and then moving things forward in some manner. Impressing someone with your knowledge. acknowledgement.. and/or interest. and some of then want to go out and "impress" people with their newfound knowledge. Then start to move or shift things in a different way..1 General Pace and Lead Techniques D5-T9 Here are some examples of ways to do these steps with example wording for each.. Tactical Formula for Pacing and Leading Show agreement. Let them know you are listening and understand (using wording such as shown below.BE IMPRESSIVE! People really don't like to be proven dumb or wrong! Most people are offended or "put off by such attempts. what you are saying is . but to really get a sense of being IN the conversation. a way that you want. Maybe • • • • • • continue showing an understanding or interest So what you mean is . 3.. • Well..) • Yes.. or. . as if you "need" their approval. That hardly ever works... Page 32 . I get it. it makes YOU look bad.. • Ok .1..... To TRY to IMPRESS is bad.it's like this. So if I understand this .. • Alright. I also think you can see . allowing you to move things more in your favor later on. if you attempt to do that.. have you thought about this . The point here is not to memorize these "lines". understanding. Then start to direct things in a different way . Instead ... Arguing! Many smart guys study these techniques and technologies. the implication is that you NEED someone's approval....... In addition. I see • That's interesting • I get it • Hmmmmm . Ok.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o o That's interesting I see what you are saying. Strategic Formula for Pacing and Leading Pacing and Leading allows you "be" in the conversation for a while and gain rapport and information.

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I hear you, and what else is interesting is .... •-. That's a good way of looking at it, something else that is important is ....

The Formula for Pacing and Leading is ... acknowledge and then start to shift things ... Maybe you want to shift things more and/or bring up another issue or viewpoint entirely (or maybe you actually disagree) • That's one way of looking at it, however I think ... • Yes, I understand, I have also heard ... • Ok, that makes sense, another way of thinking about it is .. • Alright, but on the other hand... Some general methods you can use to introduce the "leading" aspect, you can talk about... • What you know, believe, understand • What a friend or colleague has said • What you heard • What you read • etc. 3.1.2 Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects D5-T12

Lets say you find some people talking about a topic. Do you walk up, interrupt, and start an entirely new topic? No. (Well, you can, but that takes a lot of power and has a lot of risk.) A better way is to enter the conversation, talk about it (Pace), and then move the conversation into areas that you want it to go (Lead). Examples: • You are in a conversation and the topic is cars. People are talking about prices, loans, etc. You acknowledge what is being said, contribute to that conversation (pace), and then start to bring in the idea of how a car handles, how it feels, and how exciting it is to drive certain cars (lead). • People are discussing clothes, various brands, types, etc. You talk about that with them (pace) for a while, and then start to bring up the idea of how clothes make you feel, how you feel differently when wearing different things ... etc (lead)

Tactical Formula for Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects Show agreement, understanding, acknowledgement, and/or interest in the topic or subject. Then start to move or shift topic or subject in a different way, a way that you want.

Exercises for Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects 1) Think about some recent conversations you have had with people about different topics, hopefully these conversations and/or this topic is something that occurs a lot for you (based on interests you have, people you know, etc). Recall a specific "moment" in each conversation. Note what was being discussed, and what point was being talked about. Make a note of each of them. Also note, where did that actual conversation go next?

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Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course What were you talking about in this "moment"?

Conversation with whom?

Where did it go next?

2) Pace and Lead Gently Out loud, practice as if you were talking in each of the discussions above, and paced the conversation and topic, and then lead it in some direction. In this exercise, simply show agreement, understanding, and/or interest, and then lead in the same general direction. Maybe bring up a new example, new point, new issue, but just sort of "take over" the conversation. 3) Pace and Lead in a New Direction Next, for each of those instances, provide an example where you show agreement, understanding, and/or interest, but now start to "move" things in a new direction. Maybe the conversation that you had started at this one "point" and went in a specific direction ... Now, for this exercise, practice taking it in a new and different direction. Maybe introduce a different aspect of the topic or subject, something not mentioned before, or not normally talked about. The key is to first show agreement, understanding, and/or interest and THEN do this "shift", and you LEAD things in a different way.

Assignments for Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects 1) Make note of three conversations that you tend to have with people on a regular basis. Person or People Subjects we discuss

2) The next times these conversations happen, make a point to "Show agreement, understanding, and/or interest" (Pace). Then "Then start to move things" (Lead) in your own way, Do this by introducing a different aspect of that topic, or a related topic/subject. Don't make this shift or change really abrupt or different, just make a point to sort of "direct" where things move, even if that direction is close to where it was going anyway. Just make sure YOU are the one that moves it. Note the text and examples given earlier as a way to do that. 3) Once you can do the above, now make a point to have your "Lead" incorporate a real change of some type.

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Normally, even without your input, the conversation tends to go in a certain way. The earlier exercise had you just keep thing moving in that same direction. Now you are to "take" the conversation somewhere else towards a different or related topic. Just introduce a new aspect of the topic, a different thing, a different direction, so that you are really "leading" where things go. Remember the language that you were shown earlier. Use languaging like... You know what ELSE is interesting You know what * l * have found (seen, felt) Another way of doing this would be .. You know what ELSE can happen ... is ...

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You can change the way people look at things, their mindset, and their "frame of mind". For example, imagine you are having a discussion and people are talking in a certain "frame of mind" (not directly, it's just their way of seeing things). The point here is to acknowledge that frame, and then introduce another way of seeing things, another "frame", or another "mindset". What is • • • • a "frame"? In general it's ... A way someone "sees" something. What it "means" to them. The way they "feel" about it. The significance or meaning that it has.

Looking at the formula for Pace and Lead, you apply that by first acknowledging the current Frame, and then start to lead by bringing up another way of thinking about it and/or looking at it. You bring a new "frame" into the discussion. (This is a way of shifting that way people LOOK at things, the significance that it has, or their mindset regarding certain topics or behaviours). In the earlier example of Pacing and Leading of Topics and Subjects, we were talking just about a thing, a topic, or subject. Now we are talking about a feeling, or the way things are "seen" or what they "mean". For example, people may be talking about: • Taking risks • Feeling good or bad • Having a good day or a bad day • Making choices • What an event "meant" to them • How someone else actions affected them • How a decision affected them. There is a "frame" (of mind) behind each of these discussions and with proper technique, that frame and mindset may be changed. Look back at the "Methods" section earlier for some details and examples of how to introduce this pacing and leading (there are some lists of languaging examples provided). Examples: • You enter a conversation where people are talking about risks, Risks at work, risks in finances, risks in life. You Pace by discussing this for a while. The frame or mindset here is that risks are bad, dangerous,

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. the people. weight. and/or interest in the Mindset or Frame of mind. who is like 5 lbs overweight. Note what was being discussed. With whom? Topic? Mindset / Frame of Mind 2) Pace and Lead Gently Practice as if you were talking in that discussion. What was the "frame".. (Risk was framed as dangerous. where the point of the discussion in that moment was: The way they "see" something. You agree on some level (pace) and chat about that. understanding. and/or interest in the mindset or frame of mind . What it "means" to them. then start to move into talking about how men do this as well. etc. and paced it. and what "kind" of man she likes (height. then lead in the same general direction. she talks about what their professions are. and then lead it in some direction.... Make a note of each of them. Towards a way that you want. Again. acknowledgement.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course have consequences. understanding. The frame you are bring up is how superficial it is to judge based on numbers and details.) Tactical Formula for Pace and Lead .. looks for more.Mindset or Frame of Mind 1) Think about some recent conversations you have had with people about different topics. the frame of mind or mindset is the focus here. the assumption? What is the frame of mind behind the viewpoints that they had? Write down the topic. Maybe bring up a similar way of looking at it. Recall a specific "moment" in the conversation. Do this OUT LOUD. Exercises for Pace and Lead .Mindset or Frame of Mind Show agreement. The way they "feel" about it.. the viewpoint. etc). etc.. and the "frame" that was in use. Then you start to lead by bringing up the idea that some risks are fun and interesting. or may be perfect but with the wrong hair color (lead). what point was being talked about. or provide a relevant example. some risks have good rewards. and you are working to change the way she screens out guys. Just sort of "take over" the conversation. some men will just "write off a woman that is a certain size. a new meaning. The frame here is that she has her "standards" and that this is good for her. Then start to move or shift the frame by introducing another way of looking at things. (You are shifting her frame so that she may start to look at different things in men. Page 36 . now its being framed as exciting). • Another conversation has a woman talking about what she looks for in men. some risks make you feel alive. and how anyone of quality .. In this exercise simply Show agreement.

Mindset or Frame of Mind 1) Make note of three conversations that you tend to have with people on a regular basis. and THEN do this "shift". and their motivations etc. or something someone said. a frame of reference. some way. and/or interest. you are just acknowledging the Mindset or Frame in this example. provide an example where you Show agreement. Basically. but really his mindset is the problem someone talks about wanting something different. Page 37 . The key is to first Show agreement.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 3) Pace and Lead in a New Direction Next. Don't make this really abrupt or different. Do this by introducing a "way of looking at it" that is similar to the one that is already being used. and/or interest" (Pace). but just make a point to sort of "direct" where things move. or something you heard or read. Do this OUT LOUD for each example. for each of those instances. Maybe find a way. to find a positive way of looking at the situation. and/or interest in the Mindset or Frame of Mind but now start to "move" things in a new direction. Maybe bring up a way of looking at things that is totally different. maybe even limiting beliefs or beliefs that really hold them back. understanding. and they are the one not taking risks someone is prejudiced or judges other people. Then "start to move things" (Lead) in your own way. Assignments for Pace and Lead . understanding. and HE is the one with the limitation someone complains about work and the managers. Write down these subjects. and says they are cheap. and you LEAD things in a different way. and the frame associated with each. These should be of a type where THE "frame" or mindset is something of which you are aware. Think about discussions where YOU can see that these people involved are working on a certain set of assumptions. Maybe acknowledge and then bring up an opposing view. and makes assumptions (has a certain frame) about people or groups. understanding. With whom? Subject/Topic? Mindset / Frame of Mind 2) Pace and Lead Gently The next times these conversations happen. A good way to do it is to show agreement and understanding. Examples: someone complains a lot. what it "means" that is not really in agreement with what was said. Maybe bring up a different viewpoint or way of looking at it. even if that direction is close to where it was going anyway. make a point to "Show agreement. and maybe point out a similar example from your own life. etc someone looks at a political issue.

there was a certain "frame" being discussed. or used by very powerful speakers.Current Reality D5-T29 If you look at the languaging used in things like hypnosis.. o As you realize . it might not be that bad.. but just find a positive way to look at what is being discussed. This may be different from the way the subject or belief WAS framed or thought of... and then use that to lead someone somewhere... o As you see . Meaning.. a new mindset.. You know. A friend of mine used to feel the same way and they... o While you are .. • At least it's not like XYZ.. The general way to approach this is: • Start by pacing something that is obvious about their current reality ... and new way of looking at things.4 Pace and Lead .. "Pace" their mindset. or assumed by the people involved. A "safe" way to do this would be to find a positive way to look at the situation.. point towards a specific Mindset or Frame that is of YOUR choosing. but it can work well and adds to the power of the languaging. o etc. a new aspect of "what it means". o While you are . another way of looking at it is .. Some ways to do that is by saying things such as.. it could be . even without your input. o While you think . Just introduce a new frame. The earlier exercise had you just sort of "run" with that. o After you have . o While you see .. and allow the conversation to continue with the same frame of mind in place. (for example.... o As you feel. Now you are to "take" the conversation somewhere else and bring up a new mindset or frame of mind.. now make a point to have your "Lead" incorporate a real change of some type. Again..... Continue to Pace by maybe stating an obvious point about their current reality o seeing XYZ o feeling XYZ o thinking about XYZ o etc. What is done here is that you Pace based on something that is obvious (obvious in their "current reality"). Well.. using words such as) o As you are . and/or express what is on their mind. 3. o You are probably wondering Page 38 • • ... these techniques are used a LOT.. This is a small-chunk detail and technique.1..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Pace and Lead In a New Direction Once you can do the above. focus on the Mindset or Frame..

. Studies have been done with persuasive language that show that giving a reason will make people more apt to do things for you and agree with you. o you will then ... o you will start to notice o you may realize o you may start to think o you may see how .Current Reality 1) Listen to this section again... "as you are watching this presentation ...) • Then you will "Y" Where "Y" is something you want them to experience (Lead) Exercises for Pace and Lead ..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • o As you are thinking about o I know you are concerned about o The issue that may be on your mind is o The question you may have is Begin to lead . If you spend too much time saying things similar to "I know what you are thinking"...Pacing Reality too much can seem arrogant. what you are thinking. Rewind or go back a few tracks." • You will hear a LOT of this in this course (which is part of your re-programming!) Tactical Formula for Pace and Lead .. thoughts. and "As that feeling builds. what you are hearing.. what you are reading. o notice what its like as .. and do. Point them to where you want to lead them ... then you are probably wondering . Really pay attention and see how many times I have done pacing and leading in this manner. o another thing you will see/feel/notice is ...Current Reality As (while ) you) are "X" (Pace) Where "X" is something that is true in their current reality (perceptions. it starts to become annoying to the listener. • You are talking to someone at work ... Warning . "As you feel this....." • Physical demos use this a lot.. 3. you will begin to notice this . The more you hear this. o state what you want them to see/feel/hear/realize Examples: • As you are listening to this program .. Make note of how many times I have paced your current reality... the more it will "sink in". Page 39 .2 GIVE THEM A REASON D5-T32 Give someone a reason for someone to listen ."..... etc.

Person What did you ask for? 2) Practice out loud how you might "ask" for that favor or make that request again. remarkably. because I am really in a hurry" then. requesting something. You are not being apologetic or anything. if you say "Is it ok if I make copies next. the addition of this small "reason" will make people much more agreeable and apt to let you do what you would like. • You are talking to someone and you would like to pull her aside and make the conversation more private. lets move over there". but put in a reason of some type. and out loud.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Don't worry about "losing your power" or being too "nice". If you just say. then it may be difficult to get people to agree. just providing a reason. if you say "Let's move over there because it's more quiet" you will be amazed at how much more agreeable the person may be. or asked someone to do something. Write these down. 3) Go through the same list again. they may go with you. come up with another reason. asking "can I pay by credit card". Write these down. However. If you say. Assignments for Give Them A Reason 1) Make note of five routine situations that you have in your life where you are asking for something. you don't need to be concerned about these things. Tactical Formula for Give Them a Reason Request X because (of) Y Exercises for Give Them a Reason 1) Make note of the last five times you asked someone for something. This technique does not provide a 100% guarantee. Examples: • You walk up to a copier at work and there are three people in line. It could be asking for coffee. "Is it ok if I make copies next". The examples will be better if these are people you do not know. or at least people that are not close friends of yours. However. it just helps to make people more agreeable (and there are statistics to support that as well). "hey. anything. Page 40 .

the items that you will "list" need to be brief points. don't just provide one reason. it's difficult to debate them all or object to them all (not to be combative. • Training for sales people use this quite a bit. so that your one "opportunity" in a conversation to make "a" point. "List" several things or examples which support your point. point. provide several. or giving an example. People) What do you ask for? 2) Practice out loud some "reasons" that you could give in these situations. just as an example) • Hypnotists use this technique a LOT.Repetition in a way that serves you.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Situation (Place. Page 41 . in order to provide more power to what you are saying. 3) The next times these situations come up in your day-to-day life.1 General Listing D6-T4 Strategic Formula for General Listing General Listing is a way to quickly provide several reasons. which support your point. This technique has been developed based on observing how many good and influential people speak: • Successful sales people • Charismatic speakers • Good debaters • Component of hypnotic languaging « Very important. or excuse. you get someone to agree and then lead them 3.3 LISTING D6-T1 Listen to an example where many of these are used. actually ends up being several points. statement. • This is somewhat similar to a "pace and lead". Tactical Formula for General Listing When making a point. and quite well. • When you give a reason. • For the sake of a conversation. or make a point. or make a statement. • When you give several reasons at once.3. and flow easily. Power in Numbers . 3. See if you can make it automatic. go ahead and mention the "reason".

talk about it for a sentence or two.2. then the second. and/or what it's like to meet people.. Pick three ways that can go . and still. For each conversation. maybe watching sports. write down who it was with. 3) Pick an example of an activity that you do often. and the types of things to which no one would object.. Each of the items in a list can also be much longer. a. you may begin to agree. the third item may tend to "lead" someone in some way. as in saying three items . as a list. etc. In many ways. Maybe your first two items in a list are obvious. etc.. briefly. strange (2). playing a game... partying. Then.. Y. what are three ways that can go? Good? Bad? Indifferent? Exciting? Boring? Pick three and write these down What are three "ways" that the experience of "meeting people" can go? 2) Now practice out loud by saying something like "Isn't it interesting how you can meet people and it happens in different ways? I mean sometimes . Y.X and then other times ." and mention those three different ways.. so that you don't just say "X.. Now. Activity that you like or do often List a particular part of aspect of that activity What are three "ways" that can go? " 4) Now describe "What its like to do your activity .) • I know this may sound a bit different (1).. Z"..each of which lasts just a few seconds. Mention the first item. and maybe 3 different things that support your "point". Select a particular aspect of that activity. and somewhat new (3). 5) Think of three recent conversations you have had with people where you were making a point. 3.. listing is like pacing and leading.. Listing can be short. sometimes . maybe trying to convince someone of something (NOT an argument-just that you were making a point and would like to be more persuasive). true. Exercises for General Listing 1) Lets say you are talking to someone about "Meeting people". Who you were talking to Page 42 . what point you were trying to make.. Do that out loud. etc. Write them down.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Example (see the listed items shown as 1. but instead you talk ' about each for a few moments. and start to think about in a positive way (3). Z (selecting your items listed above). Now try again by expounding on each of the items. really recall listing to good speakers (2). make them brief. but as you listen to it (1). Something you are interested in. where each lasts several minutes. doing some type of work.

you put more emphasis on it.2 Listing . However.3. Maybe you want to list several options or examples.At The End D6-T15 If several items are mentioned in a list (for example a car. a table. activity. or different types of alternatives (to a thought. Maybe you want your list to contain many options. Normally. suggestion. out loud. it's easy to think of that Page 43 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Point you were trying to make Three items that support your "point" b. Here is a way to think about it. Now practice. we were talking about three points in a list that all were similar. it sticks in the listener's head more. and just providing a series of options. Do that for each of the three examples above. you were just listing several things in a list. and tends to make THAT point the most important one. However. at times you want to use listing as a way to highlight or focus upon one item. how you could bring up these three points in a list-like manner. by placing YOUR preferred item at the end. In the earlier Listing examples. Who you were talking to Point you were trying to make Three items that support your "point" 6) Recall a specific moment in each conversation. and an elephant) what tends to "stick" in your mind? (The Elephant!) The last item! By hanging an item at the end of a list. 3. You weren't trying to emphasize one point vs. Who you were talking to Point you were trying to make Three items that support your "point" c. Therefore. the one that comes to mind the easiest is the one that YOU want someone to agree with. etc) By doing that. it makes it seem as if you are being fair. Placing that particular item at the end of a list can have that effect. the other.

Say that one LAST and bring up two other options. 3). When I have interviewed a lot of people. o Other times you get that sort of a "friend" vibe with that person. or instances FIRST.. or maybe you are really seeing the power of all of this! I think you can tell which option I was going for! Meeting People. you know that those people are NOT qualified (1) o Others you maybe have thought were ok at first. examples.. b.. they sort of fell into several groups o There are some people that.. It's just a matter of getting to this person. how they can almost become a blur. o And other times . and then finish with YOUR preferred item. those people doesn't mean much either way . and the third one "eventually find this person" was the one I wanted to really "stick". interesting.... the more convinced you are that that person is NOT the one! o Hopefully though. This course. but by placing "it could be fun" last. you just know . lets say you are talking about doing some activity. maybe it's boring. I know.A t The End Listing at The End is a way to provide several options (which may differ) but to emphasize the option that YOU want. Now those are different ways of seeing it. this is one of those subtle but very powerful things that many persuasive speakers do a LOT. It's interesting though.2. I have had to do that myself at times. I mean.. right away. o You know what it's like when you meet someone . or they just have the right answers (c). c)! • • • • • • Strategic Formula for Listing .. Sometimes there is nothing special. Again let's bring up this example of "meeting people".. I put another list within THAT description (a.that is the one (3). but even when describing that person. one after another. o May be frustrating to you. you just really click and you feel this connection . you know? See how I did that? See how the item which I really wanted them to think about. or this person presents himself really well (b). etc .. or it could really be fun.. was said that at the end? By the way. they are nice.. and there is just something about this person. you know . you eventually find this person that on some level. In general.. It may be because you like the resume (a). o It could suck.. you put more emphasis on it and it tends to make that one "stick" more. Examples • • Fun activity. They are not all the same. but you spend some time with that person (2) and the more that person talks. it could be boring. Again.. did you notice the use of the words this/that/these/those? Also where do you think I might have been pointing and gesturing during those examples? Job interview o Have you talked to many candidates? Yes. See? Not only did I have a list of three (1. you meet someone.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course one. Page 44 .

). statement.. but mention the one which YOU want to put the most emphasis on.3 Listing . but bury it inside a list.? Write down what the "issue" is. 3. "List" several things briefly in order. it can be TOO obvious. or giving an example. Exercises for Listing . etc.3. etc. close. 4) What is an example from your life (recently). make sure that the one that YOU want to do. maybe controversial. Maybe you want to suggest something very direct or quite controversial and you do NOT want to give it too much prominence. However. and you are all figuring out how you are going to spend your time. Issue or Option What do you want? 5) Now. and seem too direct. and we always have fun . You want to mention or suggest something that is quite strong. Maybe add an embedded command of some type.At The End 1) Lets say you are going to spend a day or evening with some friends. it makes sense to "bury" that item in the middle of a list. go somewhere. placing something at the end can add to its power and make it stand out. is the item you mention LAST.Let say you arc trying to get someone to buy something. LAST. Go ahead and suggest that item.Burying Items D6-T24 When using a List.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Tactical Formula for Listing . and therefore you do NOT want it to stick out too much. and bring up at least two other "options" BEFORE you mention the one option that you want. out loud. If you say Page 45 .. In that case. where you are trying to convince people to do something. out loud. You may want to "test" to see how the person will react to it. but place some more emphasis on that last item. talk about the issue. List three possible things that you could do and write these down. Examples: • Sales . 3) Do that again. Maybe add a small "list" within that last item (because it's inexpensive. mentioning all of these in a list. Here is a way to think about it. At times however. Maybe pause when saying it. Three things that you and your friends could do (activity) 2) Practice. and what the result is that YOU want. buy some thing.At The End When making a point. agree to some point. and they are haggling or objecting a bit.

Lets say you have met a women at a party.. But of she smiles and seems interested. o "well. that may be a GOOD sign." Doesn't that sound better? Meeting at a Party . we can talk in a few days. that you are almost "worried" about how the listener may react. It also allows you a chance to watch the persons reaction to it. honestly. • Instead of thinking about it in terms of a list.. you don't just say "we can slip the deadline". just suggesting.Burying Items is a way to mention an outrageous or very direct option for "testing" purposes..Burying Items When giving examples or options to someone. or possibly you just still want to negotiate . and you are talking about you two getting together sometime. Page 46 . maybe it IS too direct. Strategic Formula for Listing . or maybe you want it so much. lets say that you want to say something or suggest something that is very direct. maybe you aren't ready to buy this now.Burying Items Listing . its your choice. more powerful and direct statement in the middle. Very direct. maybe you aren't ready to buy this now.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • "Well. See? Putting that one. Lets say your idea is so controversial and over-the-top. it seems a bit easier for you to say it. If she gasps and has a look of shock and horror when you make that suggestion. maybe you seize this chance and get it while you can . This is also a good way of testing someone's response. For example. seems to "lighten" it up somehow. we can leave together right now.. Instead. or to maybe see if you can get someone to agree to it! Tactical Formula for Listing .. it seems too obvious. However. or possibly you still want to negotiate... or maybe I'll call you tomorrow". bury it inside a list. Sometimes you have that "direct" item in mind and you surround it with other. it's your choice. The idea of " seize this chance and get it while you can" is something rather challenging to say (as the seller) that directly. "let's slip the deadline" might be a problem in some circles! So when people are talking about options to help the project. you can get away with an outrageous or very direct option by burying that option in the middle of a List. and when you say it at the end like that.. There are several options but. one of them is to just slip the deadline. and maybe there is a possibility of you even spending that night together. lets say you are working on a project and things are behind schedule. But if you switch the order. more "appropriate" items to lighten it up. that you will just seize this chance and get it while you can! That sounds almost TOO forceful. So maybe you say something like o "Well.

suggesting a List of options but burying that outrageous option in a list. Situation Outrageous or Direct Suggestion you could have made. go ahead and do so. 2) Practice out loud how you would say that list in the situation you used in the previous exercise. in the middle and see if it is a bit easier to imagine saying that list. Assignments for Listing . but see if you CAN say it. For three different situations that have come up in your life recently. and then trying saying that item in the middle. you may even want to say it in a joking way. Try saying it with the strongest item at the end. and go ahead and practice how you COULD have said it. but as with any technique. you will probably encounter some situations where you might want to suggest something quite outrageous or direct. make a point (afterward) to think about that outrageous option. If there is not one. Page 47 .Burying Items 1) Go back to the previous exercises where you said some "lists" out loud. write down an outrageous or very direct suggestion that you would have liked to make (for each). it can stand out too much and be annoying.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Exercises for Listing . if you do it TOO much or too blatantly. as any opportunities come up where you would like to make an outrageous or quite direct suggestion. Try it out loud.Burying Items 1) As you go out and live your life. See if you can make it sound natural. Listing can be powerful. or the most direct item. by burying it in a list. Bury the strongest item. Situation Outrageous or Direct Suggestion 4) For each of those examples (above) go ahead and practice out loud. After these situations occur. go ahead and create a new item that is very outrageous or direct. Look at the items that were listed and see if one of them maybe seemed very "strong" or "direct". 2) In the near future. see if it seems easier to say. Go ahead and change the order of the list that you used earlier. but do it by burying it in a list. 3) Think of some recent situations where you would have liked to mention a quite outrageous or direct suggestion.

then the more Y.. this is just a way of bringing together many of the things we have learned. In a way. In a way. if it's a VERY outrageous option.. Pauses. The general structure here is: • • The more X o where X is something that is hopefully quite obvious and true to the listener . then present it buried within a List of options. and using lists.. but have ONE that YOU really want to emphasize or get people to agree to.How do you think of them quickly? How do you make them sound natural? Don't worry! It is ok to have pauses! Pauses make things sound more natural and gives you time to come up with options! We talked about the use of pauses as a way to convey some drama and to make things interesting. changing tone.3. the more Y Page 48 . and the more Y.." "More and More" is just a way to use these and bring them together. and provide many examples to support it. "the more YOU FEEL this . If you must suggest several different examples or options. while incorporating the language tools we have already discussed. consider this: • We talked about listing . o See how they are incorporated.. Maybe one or more of the items actually has an embedded command in it. o See how we are listing several items? • We discuss Pace and Lead .. and Emphasis D6-T36 You may be worried about coming up with three things in a list . 3. the more Z".4 MORE AND MORE.... Lets use this as a chance to really step back for a moment and look at this structure. D6-T38 You have heard language like "The more X. and they WILL stay through the pauses! As you are saying various items in a list. to "pull" the listener in. then the more Y. remember to use emphasis and change your voice tone with the items. so this all works in your favor! Just be interesting enough to keep their attention. Maybe you want to stress one item more or less. I gave an example (in the audio) of several things I wanted someone to do. So.. thinking about languaging such as "The more X. o See how that is being used here? • We have discuss language details . etc... Using pauses.3. in a List. etc". as in . really. we are pacing and leading. or experience. then mention several of your points or examples that support what YOU want.4 Listing. Or. you are walking someone through a series of steps or thoughts. can help to alter how the options (and you) are perceived. and I just strung those together ..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3...5 Listing Review D6-T37 If you want to get your point across. place that item at the END of the List for more power. think. 3. then. and see how. emphasis.

or realize Y. you can use "as you" or "while you" as a way to bridge between sections as well. then. step 1. You are "leading" someone. the more Y.. You can even start by "pacing" a bit more.. and something obvious. the More Y.... which is more of an example of using Pace and Lead of their current reality. The small words and verb tenses (past. or thoughts) use "More and More" as a way to string them together (and increase your chances of that happening. As you X. then the more Z starts to happen.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course • • o Where Y is something that is a logical extension of what the listener knows and they see this as something that makes sense . or as Y is happening . then. • Sell TV sets. • • • • As you (or while you) X . That's a general version of it. experiences. or a new "pattern".. future) can be altered to make it fit well. with "as X is happening".. the more you can notice Y . and as Y happens o or as you sense Y. The more Y. Instead of seeing this as a new type of language. o walk someone through though process . present. Strategic Formula for More and More If you want to lead someone through a series of steps (actions. the more Z. more and more... As an alternative. etc. agreeable. as you feel this. . see it as just a way of using many of the things we have already covered! More and More tends to be best thought of as a "List". the More Z. like a series of successive steps (things you do.) or thoughts (things you experience or think about.. Tactical Formula for More and More The more X.. etc).. and even more so with the next (more.) item. you notice this. etc Examples • Convincing friends to go do something that you want to do. etc How to use it. and then use More and More to lead them forward . towards what YOU want...... 3. The More Z. or "as you notice X".) specific. o You can start off with something obvious as a statement to kind of pace them. the More Y. from a general item towards something that YOU want. THEN make the next item (more. and the more Y happens . The best way to do this is to start off with the first item as quite general... If you have something that you want to lead someone through.... then just list them but use "more" as a way to go from one to the next. 2. Page 49 .

etc. what to buy. Do the series several times. of what you want to have happen. practice saying those three steps.) Page 50 . What do you want to convince someone to do Three steps. Think about a series of steps. more leading. "as you" or "while you". o Walk her through the process. Write these down. as if in a conversation... to get towards doing what you want. 3) Now out loud. something simple. practice and see if you can talk about these one by one. a series of thoughts or actions that... and bridging between them as we discussed earlier (More. as you. You may start with "As you" or "while you" for the first one. maybe an activity. The next is another step in the series. Think of all of the things you can do tonight Realize that going to a movie would be a good idea Going to see the latest XYZ movie (use whatever movie you wish) See how that is a series of steps? Of thoughts? Like leading someone down a path? Now out loud. Think of three "steps". What you were trying to convince a friend to do Three steps. they would end up doing what you wanted. who should do what.. and string them together using "more". Do that several times. to get towards doing what you want.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • Talking to a woman . or as alternatives. etc. or series of thoughts or actions. something with which you are familiar. 4) Think of another series from your life. a movie. something. practice saying those in series. the second. something you convince people to do (or wish you could). what project to work on. 5) Out loud.. a trip. The first should be obvious. more and more. that start off in general. Think of three "steps". etc . The first should be obvious. Don't just say "more". a plan. if the person followed them. more in your direction. that would "walk" the other people through the process of agreeing with you. using "More". but more and more get closer to what YOU want. (Agree where to go to dinner. while you. 2) Think of the last time you were trying to convince a friend to do something. what to do. or something you want to lead people to do somehow. or have them experience. work around it and make it sound natural. etc. Exercises for More and More 1) Consider the idea of convincing some friends of going to a movie.) Write down three steps.

becoming more and more convinced. you can talk about. • You are just comparing and contrasting things. the more you will understand how they fit together.White • Right . The more that happens. How to use it. look for opportunities to use that in your life. it's just a good way to think about discussing a subject. Practice that series more! Get very familiar with it. • How two things are similar • How two things are different • Good . So. Maybe add or change some of the reasoning. and even change the specifics of that sequence. and piece them together and have it sound natural. you are able to easily go through such a "sequence".another option • Black . Just make sure that with that subject. But get to the point where you can flow easily through the 3 in a series. or various aspects of a subject. Maybe just try 2 of the 3 steps once or twice. etc. 2) With that "More and More" sequence practiced. where you could have a series of "states" lead someone through the process of doing what you want. this is a means to keep speaking. seductive. you have two (or more) aspects of a topic. • • Take a subject and either mention another aspect of that subject. we had you think of something from your life. to continue..Left Page 51 . or else have the person you are speaking with mention it. There are various means of doing this. the more things like "knowing what to say" and "what pattern to use" will become easier and easier for you! Notice how we are not doing these examples necessarily with women? Wonder why? 3. • It also a great way to get information about the person with which you are speaking. • This works especially well if the subject of the discussion is one that "works" for our purposes (fun... or several different subjects. and you discuss these two aspects using Compare and Contrast. This Compare and Contrast method here gives you a way to talk about and around the subjects at hand. This method provides a way to keep the conversation going.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Assignments for More and More 1) In the exercises..) • Too many guys focus on standard lines such as "So what do you like about X". and move a conversation. • It's not magical in a persuasive sense. A Tactic for Talking • Too many guys let a good conversational subject finish far too quickly.Bad • One option . You will see that the more you get these bits and pieces.5 COMPARE AND CONTRAST D6-T54 Listen to an example where many of these are used. exciting.

Tactical Formula for Compare And Contrast Take any subject. and you start to talk about something she likes and enjoys doing. you can use all of the other tools we have discussed. and this situation that you are sharing. better-worse. o While talking about what she does like. or individual sports vs. associate them with things other than you. then discuss these by comparing and contrasting. vs. states. her. and incorporate the language tools. this meeting. etc. Page 52 . that are good for you.. easy-difficult.about her) and she mentions various things about that subject. • Notice what is liked and not liked • Notice any reactions. What is different about each? How are they the same? How are they experienced? What is good? What is bad? etc. • Anything bad. o You select two items. • • Use opportunities to use commands and trance words to create thoughts. the offense or the defense. taking a position with a more promising future. As you are talking. • You may talk to a woman. One attribute . or its power. what they like. This all provides a good way to allow the discussion to continue for a while. • You talk to someone for a while and she say she likes scuba diving. Strategic Formula for Compare And Contrast Use this technique to keep the conversation going.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • One aspect . what they do not. compare.another aspect -. you can talk about one car. or point in a discussion . and talk about its attributes as well. Then discuss the other car. • Decisions about a career or job. another brand. How do these differ How are they the same Which is good-bad. etc. you can take note of how the person is responding. Select another subject. and discuss whether the handling makes it better. and feel those states and emotions for a while as well. Examples • One brand of car vs. • Link anything good to you. you can anchor and link positive things to you! o While talking about things she does not like. feelings. or point in a discussion. link away. two facets of that subject. you can anchor those away from yourself. Use the other language tools during the discussion. keep the discussion focused on a topic that serves your purposes.. and start to compare and contrast the two. • Maybe what is more important to a sports team. idea. o Maybe you start to ask her about it (have a discussion with her . deciding to focus on making a good living now. good or bad. team sports. and to let the person think about. and contrast these things.another attribute As you are talking. You discuss this. idea. experience.

. Use compare and contrast to talk about each of the attributes that your friend would say they like about that subject. etc.. Now talk out loud about each. 3) Recall a recent conversation with someone you know. and this time. clothes. so if you like THAT. etc.". etc). Now think of what is opposite to that . etc). This example uses a very obvious "Like vs. Also. and this time. she finds the experience of seeing new and different things to be interesting as well. 4) Select two of the following 4 topics. bike. where they were really describing or talking about something they like. and negative things . Letting Go Safety and Excitement Liking someone mentally and/or physically o • • • • Exercises for Compare And Contrast 1) Pick some possession that you have that you REALLY like (car. Be descriptive! Use pauses. Page 53 . your pacing. and talk about it again." or .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Maybe you ask about it. different style of clothing... and those that are not good. then I KNOW that you would NOT like THIS .same type of thing (another car. o So we talk about the feeling of quiet. that within that may be attributes that are good.. but this time put some effort into being very aware of the positive and negative things that are being said. Be aware of your language! Throw in adjectives and adverbs.. peace. Subject or thing that they like Attributes (things about) that. computer. As in "so let me make sure I understand this . Maybe some of the language that you are using that may lend itself to be embedded commands.. Re-enact that conversation again. somewhere else.. Not-Like" set of things to compare and contrast. that they do like Do the re-enactment again... the same holds true even when discussing what you do NOT like. change your tone of voice."Oh. and put effort into correct linking/anchoring/pointing to associate positive things to you. and anchor/link/point appropriately. Familiarity vs. She says she likes the aspect of it being very quiet and serene under water. and various things about that subject or topic that they like. Something that you like Something that is opposite 2) Now take that same topic. and serenity on one hand o and compare and contrast that to the feeling of something new and different on the other. offer the compare-contrast ways of discussing it. be very aware of the positive and negative things that are being said. Something New Control vs. she mentions various things about it. Be mindful of that and anchor/link appropriately. Be vary aware that even when you are discussing the thing you "Like". different computer.. and compare/contrast the two. In addition.(because). etc.

BOTH linked and anchored to YOU. For example. you may end up liking the subject and find a new activity for yourself! Don't worry that you will "give the wrong impression" by inquiring and discussing these "parts"... Parts of a subject.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Control vs. this just helps to keep things moving in a conversation. Who knows. Two types of parts we can work with . it's too weak. etc. and say (for example) "what do you like most about scuba diving" or "what is the most fascinating thing about. link them to you • If the bad or boring parts some up. but when you go STRAIGHT for the BEST thing that she likes the MOST. some are bad • Talk about the good parts. Excitement. By comparing and contrasting them. this provides a good way to train you to be able to talk and ask questions of people. and parts of a person 3. that is fun. Letting Go Safety and Excitement Liking someone mentally and/or physically Familiarity vs. There ARE many things that people tend to THINK of in an "either-or" way. this doesn't necessarily show that you Page 54 . 3. then talk about all of the various aspects and parts of it. Safety vs.6 PARTS D7-T1 Listen to an example where these are used.. and you lose out on spending a LOT of time having them discuss something that she REALLY likes! This is just a way to have a discussion. Think about the possibilities. For even more Power There IS a very powerful aspect of this technique that is important to mention. People tend to think you have one OR the other. However there ARE ways to have BOTH. and that's ALL you discuss. and the positive aspects of excitement. Some are good. you can show someone how that can be possible. exciting. Too many guys just blow things to quickly.. YOU are then showing someone how BOTH of these things can be experienced. theme. it is GOOD to focus on the positive aspects of what she likes. if you are asking many questions about something that is NOT of interest to you. topic. etc." and that's ALL they talk about! Yes. of having all of the positive aspects of Safety. link away Now this may seem tough . Something New Now do your best to speak out loud and "talk" about these for a while using a Compare and Contrast structure.6. Parts. together. and get them to talk about what THEY are interested in. If you are talking about an interesting subject. Meaning.Who wants to talk about something that you are NOT interested in? However.1 Parts Of A Subject D7-T4 This is a variation on the contrast principle.

maybe a hobby. but if you start there. Page 55 . idea. Use the language tools in the discussion. allowing you time to gather information and link yourself to good thoughts. feelings and emotions.Don't just "talk about" Scuba Diving! Or. You are just asking. Examples • Scuba Diving .. and enjoys. 1) Pick a subject that you like. know about.. that an opportunity to talk for a WHILE about something she likes. Strategic Formula for Parts of a Subject Discussing many of the parts of a subject keeps the conversation going. Tactical Formula for Parts of a Subject Take any subject. etc. topics come up. or point in a discussion. what people do. Link good thoughts. don't just ask "What is the most exciting thing about Scuba Diving?" That IS a good question. area of interest. Break it down into its component parts and discuss them. don't like. it's hard to talk about that subject for a while. Subjects come up. If someone asks you about this. be comfortable talking about all of the parts of that subject. that you know. This is a great way to build rapport with a person as well. just say "I like learning about people. like. Now. and she may have a lot of positive emotions and feeling associated with that . etc. feelings and emotions to yourself. artistic endeavor. new things. list various "things" about that subject. Exercises for Parts of a Subject ." This technique makes it easier to have conversations with people because THEY are giving you information and ideas for new things to ask about. etc. activity. just curious. This isn't just a way for you to ask ask ask HER about things.. sport. If she LIKES scuba diving.many of which can be linked to you. o Where have they dived? o How did they get into it? o What's their favorite place? o Do they have their own equipment? o Do they use different types of equipment for different locations? o How long have they dived? o Have they ever been in danger? o Have they taken photos? o Have they met interesting people? o Has this exposed them to any other cool sports or activities? o etc.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course are interested in it (the subject).

You should be able to come up with at least 10 items. You should easily be able to come up with 10-20 items. maybe pick a different "person" as your subject. and you were going to have someone (who knows very little about the subject) interview you and learn all about football. passion. or maybe someone in your life that you don't know very well. or Things About. Now. if your subject was football. make a list of these parts. Subject: Parts. maybe a cousin you hardly see or talk to. what would you ask about? What are all of the various things and aspects of it that YOU could inquire about or that could come up in a discussion? These are the "parts" of that subject. etc. Page 56 . Someone that you recently met. like a co-worker. This should be someone you know well. or Things About. If you have trouble. if you were going to talk to them for like 30 minutes about that subject and were really going to ask them about it. Write these down. and you have heard him or her talk about this. That Subject: 3) Now think of someone who you are NOT close to (that you do not know that well). Maybe their hobby. a job they like.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course For example. etc. someone you met at a party. That Subject: 2) Think of one of your friends or family members and some activity or topic that THEY are really into. what parts about football would you want them to ask about? For your chosen subject. Now think of something that THAT person is interested in or they are involved with. Person: Subject: Parts. but hopefully this "subject" is something you are not really into.

while YOU are there And you are linking and anchoring things to yourself Using all of the language tools and details And that person is finding YOU so fascinating and charismatic . mention like 10-15 different things you could ask or inquire about that subject. off the "top of your head". you should be able to list at least 10 items. They are talking about something THEY like Thinking about it. what would you ask about? What are all of the various things and aspects of it that YOU could inquire about? What are the PARTS you could ask about? Write these down. make a point to have a good 10-15 minute conversation about a subject that THEY are really interested in. Page 57 . You know the person but you are not real close to them. And of course the entire time. when you are speaking with a friend or family member that you know well. or Things About.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course The key here is that this is someone you don't see often. That Subject: " 4) Think of another person and subject. experiencing it. Now. Person: Subject: Parts. who is interested in something that you are NOT familiar with. and feeling it. 2) Sometime in the future. Person: Subject: Assignments for Parts of a Subject 1) Sometime soon. but with which you are NOT familiar. Make a point to ask about many different parts of that subject. like the exercise above. Again. make a point to have a good 10-15 minute conversation about a subject that THEY are really interested in. If you were going to talk to them for like 30 minutes about that subject. when you are speaking with a person you do not know hardly at all (yet you feel you will be able to talk to them for 10-15 minutes). Make a point to ask about many different parts of that subject. don't know really well. but with which you are NOT familiar. and were really going to ask them about it.. out loud.. The subject they are interested in is something with which you are NOT familiar.

or side. • "That's because there is another part.. they hold back.. This can be VERY powerful.. or part of a person. • If a person is shy. o "When you start to listen to this adventurous side . In this context.. great. or normally don't "do" certain things? • Then talk about that first (shy) part." • If this new or other "side" works more in your favor. that is more .. directly or indirectly o For example. etc" • Discuss this new or other "part" o "With many people. if a personality trait. and I have found she has this other side. Page 58 .6.. more spontaneous side to them. o Either in general like "there may be another side" o or more directly." o "You may have (or do have) another part (or side. that adventurous side is just waiting to come out... they are quiet. or view. in a way you are also using Compare and Contrast as well. etc. make it be experienced. • If an adventurous. a way of thinking. and start to discuss and validate that OTHER part. • Acknowledge the first part that is being discussed. "you may have the other side" o or by example "I know someone like that. a way of acting or being is being discussed (and one that does not necessarily work in your favor) . there is a more decisive... that XYZ part". if the person is shy o "I understand how some people are shy. You do not want to appear to challenge or invalidate and personality trait that is being shown.. or has the same wishes that you do. Discuss. etc.. or reserved.." • There will be a lot of this shown in examples here in this section and at the end of the program. In a discussion. Because you are discussing several things. Let's break this down. link it to you. just looking for the right time. there is a more adventurous part to themselves • If a person is outspoken.2 Parts Of A Person D7-T15 Listen to an example where this concept is used. what she did . another part hidden away. that part of the person or type of behavior that DOES agree with you). lean more on the language and linking tools to bring it out." o "Many people like that also have another side to themselves. a "side" to the person.. etc. "parts" are meant as in a personality trait. we are also reframing! We are changing the way they look at things. their reactions.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3.. there is a more quiet side • If a person is well-thought-out (thinks things through and takes time). A key concept to think about is to ALWAYS assume that there is a part of someone that does agree with you. and they feel that way. verify it. In many ways. or parts. etc. Let's say you are in a discussion with someone. (where XYZ is a different or maybe the opposite behavior.. • What if it is not? What if they say they are shy. or way of looking at it. Don't Confront. etc)" o "I know someone similar who as this other part to themselves. adventurous .. experiencing it. fun." • Bring up and acknowledge the fact that there is "another" part. and then say (for example). In fact a friend of mine is very shy and one time. their way of walking through and looking at the world. exciting part of a person is being discussed...

etc.. feelings. "I am boring"... or part of the person that is somehow related (which works in your favor) or somewhat opposite. This one side .. o "Well." Strategic Formula for Parts of a Person Use Parts of a Person as a way to find. that may be true but also there is another part of them ... • Maybe someone lies . Examples: • Lets say that a person says they are not into taking challenges. • Maybe someone is secretive. o "I have a friend who was "X" (where X is the trait being discussed).. What personality traits (or what other parts or ways of thinking) are similar? Which are somewhat opposite? Write down 3 that are similar. Traits similar to "Being Boring" Page 59 .. way of thinking. o "A friend of mine does that as well.. discuss. o "I was reading somewhere about things like that and what it was saying was.) Exercises for Parts of a Person 1) What if someone says. and beliefs.. Find a personality trait. • Maybe someone says they can be jealous. it may sound like you are arguing or challenging the person.. You can work around this issue (of possible confrontation) by saying things like o "I think another way of looking at that trait is . Introduce and discuss that "other part" in a way that works to your advantage. Tactical Formula for Parts of a Person For every part of a person that will work against you... having a conversation. or part of the person by discussing or addressing it Think about a personality trait. deep down. but it can be handled . and she realized that she.. There are also other sides to people . too confrontational.... way of thinking. that can work in your favor.. way of thinking. Remember. they like to play things safe.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • Many times you don't want to say "because there is another part" because that seems too direct. "you are wrong" or to show how smart you are! You are just talking. you are NOT discussing this as to say. so be careful. . and 3 that are opposite. or part of the person (mostly something which has a negative connotation) Acknowledge that personality trait. was also "Y".. even when the other person claims or demonstrates that such parts are NOT there. and evoke favorable states.. People have many sides to themselves. Well.. assume there is a part that will work WITH you. etc etc etc. (not good in a person. I understand you have that side to you. and what I noticed about her is that she also has this other side to her.

be aware of opportunities to maybe mark off an embedded command or two (or more). and 3 that are opposite. and then bring up this other "part" that you selected. pick another part or trait. and some of the variations mentioned for language examples. Traits similar to "Being Shy" Traits opposite to "Being Shy" Of those that you listed.. Now do a similar exercise again out loud. Practice this out loud.. maybe do some linking an anchoring. Page 60 .. What personality traits (or what other parts. use this/that/these/those . Traits similar to "not into meeting any new people" Traits opposite to "not into meeting any new people" Practice out loud how you might first discuss "I am not into meeting any new people right now" and then transition into the other parts or traits that you selected. or ways of thinking) are similar? Which are somewhat opposite? Think about 1-2 that you could use.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Traits opposite to "Being Boring" Of those that you listed. Imagine a conversation and how you might do this. which could you maybe "use" in a good way? 4) Think about how you would discuss that shy part. etc. and some of the variations mentioned for language examples. Look at the formula earlier. Imagine a conversation and how you might do this. 5) From the list you just made (and selected from).. Look at the formula earlier. Practice this out loud. 6) Lets say someone says "I am not into meeting any new people right now" . and then bring up this other "part" that you selected. but this time. 3) What if someone says that they are shy? What personality traits (or what other parts or ways of thinking) are similar? Which are somewhat opposite? Write down 3 that are similar. which could you maybe "use" in a good way? 2) Think about how you would discuss the boring part.

3. You don't have to discuss them (yet) just make a point to note these traits. or parts. This area has caused some confusion. and then find a way to discuss another part that is more favorable or positive. See if what they are saying describes or is pointing out any personality traits (or a "part" of themselves. See if you can note that "part" of who they are. etc could you discuss? Try that out loud. but ROW see how many of the speaking and language tools you can use. or putting him or herself down for some reason. and has been a bit difficult for many to really understand Page 61 . Use the formula and the variations mentioned earlier. trait. trusting their own judgment. See if you can arrive at a similar part or trait that you can discuss that could be used in your favor. Or. You have probably heard the phrase "structure opportunities. start to bring them up IN the conversation.. After the conversation. and offer challenges" many times when studying these materials. 9) Lets say someone says "I only like dating my TYPE"? What other part. Just notice the trait or part being mentioned. Opposite (or similar?) trait or part that might actually work in your favor Conversation with Traits or parts that were discussed. acknowledge it. make note of when you are having a personal conversation with anyone. see if you could maybe think of an opposite one that could be discussed.7 OPPORTUNITIES AND CHALLENGES D7-T34 Listen to an example where I structure opportunities. WHILE talking to someone. or mentions a "way of thinking"). see if you can notice them WHILE talking to someone.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 7) Do the above example again. being open. 2) After you have become more comfortable noticing such traits after-the-fact. An easy way to do this is when a friend or acquaintance is being self-deprecating in some manner. 8) Lets say someone says they have trouble meeting new people. trait..? What other part. and offer challenges to you on the audio. etc could you discuss? Try that out loud. 3) Now that you can recognize these traits when talking to someone. and then point out some other trait or part that might work in your favor somehow. make a note of these traits or parts. Assignments for Parts of a Person 1) For the next week or two.

• Show that you are qualifying and screening to some extent. or show it. It's good to somehow work with structures and things that are already in someone's mind. using motivations that a person already has. or want to be perceived as having. You then find some way to set things up so that choosing to listen to you. If you can somehow frame or map yourself as being a way for a person to fulfill things that someone already wants. "You may be beautiful. but I am looking for more. 3. these concepts are broken down and offered to you in a way that will truly help you to be able to use these powerful techniques. Universal Wants • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control • Excitement Page 62 . then by using their existing desires. you are using processes that they ALREADY have in their minds. and wants to be seen as intelligent.7. this can be very effective. You are in. effect. o You are saying in a way. In this section. or be with you.7. is a way for them to show their intelligence. Why this matters. • Use these general things and assume they are there. you are just showing that YOU have standards." • This is NOT about arrogance. Strategic Formula for Opportunities And Challenges Find or assume what someone wants Create an opportunity for them to get it or demonstrate they have it Make that "demonstration" work in your favor. 3. and that you believe in yourself. • It's easy. o This is the opposite of pleading and the "pedestal" scenario. For example if someone is intelligent. do it. Challenge them to demonstrate it. or like to be perceived as having. • These are also good and convenient for practicing and examples. then they already have mechanisms for that in their mind. • Show that you have standards.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course and utilize.2 What do people want? - D7-T38 "Universal Wants" = Good.1 Using Their Own Processes D7-T36 If you know what people want to have. Work with universal things that people would like to have. but may not be the most effective strategy.

.. o Talk about some of yours and see how she reacts. o etc.. etc). or adventurous. and challenging them in a way that says..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course "Particular Wants" = Better! What does THIS person want? • Notice o o o particular things that this individual would like to have or be perceived as having She mentions wanting respect She defends her position. o You may . what she likes to do. • Mini-Challenges o You might get this . o You might see . o Try using some of the above items. or fun... o Talk to her and find out what she wants or needs.. her interests. but if you can find or work with specific wants or desires. o The smart people I know. that's even better. Warning . You are challenging an ASSUMED desire (a "Universal Want").. along with the Universal Wants listed earlier! • We assume here that with a mini-challenge.. o If you can .. o You seem like you may have good taste o etc... o Are you able to . o You seem smart enough ... o You seem cool enough .. can (use smart... o Talk about what she does. o Maybe you can . or want to be perceived as having.3 There are certain things you can assume that most people may want to have. and discusses what is important to her She mentions something she likes or dislikes about a past boyfriend. or maybe a value... and it can really annoy people if you do! Page 63 . What does she want to have....7.. we are using one of these sort of "universal" wants. o Always have the question below in mind. or want to be perceived as having? Mini-Challenges D7-T40 3. o You seem as if. or be seen as having "X".. Mini-Challenge Cheat Sheet o You seem . wants to have.. o I wonder if you can . by listening to me or agreeing with me"... o If you are able to . "you can show me that you have the thing you desire. or an image she wants other people to have of her. etc • Finding these particular wants and desires o These "wants" can be possessions. You can imply a "test" for these things by issuing a mini-challenge. o You seem like . o You might.This technique can be overused....

Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Tactical Formula for Mini Challenges Assume something she wants to have. • Find what someone "wants". what someone wants. What does someone Want? Assume.. in a way. or be seen as having. or hopefully find. or been seen as having You can assume based on normal things that people want (Universal Want) or Get information from talking (Particular Want) Create an opportunity for them to get or demonstrate "X". by doing "Y" Make "Y" something that works in your favor.. • Create an opportunity for them to get that • Make it so that them "getting" that works in your favor. Make a statement that says.7. Tactical Formula for Opportunities and Challenges Find something "X" that the person wants to have... "By listening to and/or agreeing with me. here we have to "assume" things for the sake of teaching) . 3. • Universal Wants • Particular Wants Opportunities. you will show me you have that". Exercises for Mini-Challenges 1) Try piecing together items from the Universal Wants List. Creating Them Consider the wants and needs that a person may have .4 Opportunities and Challenges D7-T43 Think of it like this. • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control • Excitement Page 64 . • Challenge them to see if they will follow through and take action to get it. (and again. and see how many combinations you can come up with. Challenge the person to do "Y". "Show me you have that thing by listening and/or agreeing with me" or. and Mini-Challenge Cheat Sheet.

and/or HAVING them. o They can go against the grain.. o Let the person demonstrate how confident they are.. • Here is how I read/heard that someone else had or was able to get X. or want to be seen as having Structure this so that it is something that YOU would like them to do.. • Provide a way to demonstrate that they DO have what they want.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course You need to create an "opportunity" for each of these. • Maybe point out something a friend did . what does a mature person do? How are they seen? How do they react? o They make their own decisions o They trust their own judgment o They can decide to do something NOW. How can you make that sound like a way for them to "show" something? How to create an opportunity? • Here is a way for you to show me that you really have or was able to get X. • Confidence . Talk about those things.. by meeting this "challenge". o Talk about how confident people can make their own choices. Challenges Are they ready to take advantage of that (this) opportunity? Challenge them to get what they want. and see how doing Y would demonstrate it?> • Does she have what it takes to get X. Create the opportunity for them to show or demonstrate that they have or are perceived as having.. Examples: • Does she really want X and see how Y can get that? • Does she really have X. • Mention something that you have read.. by doing Y? Page 65 . on their own. • Provide an example from your own life. something they want. talk about DOING them. Maturity .. and feel very comfortable with that. o Mention how confident people can meet someone new. where this opportunity benefits you (and hopefully pertains to the situation)...Think about maturity . or show what they have. Provide an example of someone. or some way for this person to capture the opportunity • Provide an example of something she can say or do.How can you create an opportunity for someone to appear confident (that works in your favor)? o Discuss people that YOU know. and how the confident ones are able to take chances and have fun. even if their friends don't approve. • Here is a way a friend of mine showed that they have or was able to get X. o They can do exciting things. o . Examples..

. • Find out what someone wants. I don't know if you are adventurous enough for this. • Find a way to map what YOU want. • • I know this is tricky. or be perceived as having. she actually felt more secure about being able to take care of herself. you mention "We should get together sometime. as long as you trust yourself enough to feel that is OK .. Some examples are shown below.." Adventurous o Maybe she wants to feel adventurous. she may have to do Y to prove that. how she may be adventurous. Then at some point you talk about you and her getting together. Success o Maybe "success" is important to her. Page 66 . and say something like "well. Is she ready to take chances? Take risks? Do something different? Maybe not . and she found that by taking chances and risks.. Assumed Wants 2) Write a Mini Challenge for each if the above items. Are they ready to do Y. but. Can she see an opportunity to have "X"."... You talk about a friend who has always wanted to feel secure.. there are others shown earlier. It's different from the way most guys think. It's NOT about creating an argument! Again. Later. and do Y to get it? Can she do Y and make it happen? Can she see that Y will get her what she wants? Can she trust herself enough to do Y? etc. their own intuition. Exercises and Assignments for Opportunities and Challenges 1) Make a list of some assumed things that many people may want to have. You talk about that for a while. to be a way for them to get what they want. then . I mean. • Challenge them to do that. what this means to her.. You discuss success for a while. to show or demonstrate that? Examples: • Security o Say she wants to feel secure... They want X.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • • • Does she want you to THINK she has X.. These are your "Assumed Wants". and mention that you read somewhere that successful people tend to be able to trust their own judgment.

5) Think about some people that you know quite well like family. quite unique. etc... "lets see if this makes sense to you "see if you can follow this . co-workers. For each person. and focus on using these. "you may .... out loud 4) Make a note of some of the ones you practiced that seem closest to something you could easily say or do with people in your life.. or be perceived as having Page 67 ." Mini Challenges 3) Practice the list of Mini Challenges you just created. friends. Note some of your favorites ones below. and go out and actually USE them for a while. Hopefully these are specific to them. or wants to be perceived as having..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course "you seem like . "you might. Write down these "Wants". and NOT just things from the "assumed" list. write down something that each wants to have. Practice these more. Person What they want to have.

Example . Person Opportunity for them to get what they "want" that somehow works in your favor 7) For each "want". and how can you "map" it to yourself? Write down these "Opportunities".. What is the opportunity. and write them down. Is there a way to create an "opportunity" for them to get or achieve that? Can you somehow create an opportunity that can be "mapped" in some way towards yourself. see if you can create a "challenge". even subconsciously. are they ready? Can they take action? Can they DO this? Write down these "Challenges". or that in some way could be interpreted. See if you can make it sound natural. Some way that questions . You are "mapping" it to you because by doing what you discuss. and "opportunity". The good athletes find a way to relax and have fun. and they spend a LOT of time practicing. they will be doing something that YOU want.) So you challenge their dedication to their sport by saying "I was reading about really good athletes and one thing that was pointed out was that a lot of them really can get burned out. Person Challenge 8) Practice each of those "Challenges" out loud. (You want that friend to lighten up and be able to spend more time going out and having fun. Page 68 . want to do what you wish. as making them look at you more positively.A friend wants to be really good at a sport. etc? Give that some thought..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 6) Consider the "want" that you identified from each of those persons above." The "opportunity" is for them to be a better athlete. and that allows them to be better at their sport.

but now also start to look for "opportunities and challenges" in a way that directs their desires towards you. that these become familiar.. Try to guess. 10) While you are talking to people for the next 1-2 weeks. do the same in terms of observing desires. Do what you can to bring these up while in the conversation if you can. That. look at how many items we have covered so far. they mean something different.8 AMBIGUITIES D7-T64 If you have studied this material for a while.) o Easy Anchoring . • SPEAKING POINTERS o The "Cool" Factor o Voice Tone And Tonality o Pacing And Pausing o Energy And Enthusiasm LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS o Adjectives And Adverbs o Trance Words o Weasel Phrases o Embedded Commands o Linking o Easy-Linking (This. 11) For the next 1-2 weeks. listen. but also ask some questions and get into a discussion about it if possible. 3. This is one area that many guys actually ARE able to pick up and use easily if they have listened to the materials enough. They may have one meaning in one context. Those) MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures o Linking Gestures (Towards And Away) o Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This. we will not be doing any specific work on Ambiguities.. listen.. you no doubt have heard many examples of "ambiguities". 3.. Although there could be a section in this course that deals with these areas. given that this IS an area that many guys are able to do (with enough listening) and given the many OTHER areas that really DO need the assistance of a program like this. Listen. but in another context. That.Point Or Touch On Positive And Negative LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES o Pace And Lead " Topics and Subjects * Mindset of Frame • Current Reality o Give Them A Reason • • • Page 69 . These. see if you can bring them up in conversations over the next few weeks. listen. really focus on what each person desires. so that you have heard them SO MANY TIMES.9 SUMMARY D7-T66 Bringing it together. These are those words or phrases that can mean more than one thing. to do things that you would want.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 9) As you become more familiar with these practiced challenges and opportunities. What do they "want".

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These are the building blocks for good Language skills. These are the sorts of skills that are most workable when they are truly "wired in" to someone, so that they are able to be used automatically. To try to "remember" to do such things can be very difficult. That approach would make having a conversation far too difficult and too much work! The best way is to work with these techniques SO much that these truly are just a part of "how you talk". With enough practice, and hearing these enough, you CAN have these become a part of how. YOU talk! So listen, practice, do the exercises, do the assignments, and do that all again, until these really do become a part of you, and a part of how you speak.

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D8-T1 A key aspect of making these tools work is getting the conversation into topic areas that will really work for you. The language tools you studied earlier are best used in the proper context, and in this section, we will learn how to get the conversation into areas that will create that context. Have you had these problems? • You JUMP too quickly into a pattern or topic, and it sounds really strange? • You just THROW a pattern AT her, and get a weird reaction? When you use these tools, or even use "patterns", it's not enough to just "say it", there has to be the correct CONTEXT for what is said! It's a process that she needs to go on and through with you. It's not enough to just find a conversational excuse to "throw" a pattern (or language tool) AT her! This section is about finding ways to just get into an interesting conversation and then towards and onto good topics. We want this to seem natural, and with some understanding, practice, and a few key strategies and tactics it will BE natural and automatic! 4.1 4.1.1 CHALLENGES -a Detailed And Specific Plans Are Just Not Workable. D8-T3

It's good to theorize to "say this", and then "say that", and then to use "this pattern", and "that pattern". However, the problem is that a lot of time the proper context is not presented well enough. The examples you may have seen in other products are just that, examples. The problem is that too many guys have taken them literally! Guys try to do "X, Y, Z," exactly, in order, with no sense of calibration, or being able to work and re-direct things in real time. Therefore, detailed tactical plans are not realistic. 4.1.2 Navigation Example D8-T4

Think of moving a conversation to a certain point, like taking a trip somewhere. Say you are in Chicago, and want to go to Los Angeles. You could have a detailed map of every turn and road, exact route numbers and lengths, etc. The problem is... what do you do if there is a detour? What if the road is changed, what if the map is wrong? You are lost! What if, instead, we teach you how to drive the car, and give you a general set of directions like "keep driving west, until you see the ocean, then turn left (south)". That way, you can handle just about any turns, roads, or detours that you may encounter! Conversations are different from roads too, because people are all unique, situations, times, surroundings etc. are unique and change from moment to moment. Therefore, if you want to get a conversation to go a certain way, then detailed plans made ahead of time are hard to work with. There are too many variables! We need a workable set of strategies and tactics that allows you, in real-time, to direct things the way that you want them to go. They need to be easy to follow, and easy to use, and something that you don't need to "think about", but can just DO easily.
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So we need a general set of guidelines, some overall strategies and tactics, so that you can have this good, intuitive sense of how to "steer" things, and get conversations to where you want them to go. As long as you are engaging a woman's emotions, capturing & leading her imagination, then you are moving in the right direction. Then, in that situation and in that context, linking all the positive & powerful things to you becomes more workable. Instead of a map, we are giving you a "compass". We need a strategy for managing conversations that can to do this gradually, in a way that seems natural! If it's too abrupt or makes the conversation strained, it will sound weird. The strategy must LEAD the conversation towards good topics and subjects in a way that seems natural, and is not TOO abrupt. Examples: (Listen to the audio.) • Talking about a printer o Moving TOO quickly towards emotional topics o Can sound strange • Driving a car and taking a turn (Analogy) o Think of driving down freeway and needing to switch to different direction. o You can't make a hard, right angle turn on a dime! o You need to turn the car, slowly, on a ramp to go in a different direction. When we control conversions, we need to find a way to take it gradually in a new direction. Many guys try to do the hard and fast switch, and they crash in the process! We will learn to move things in a way that makes it seem natural, but it will be deliberate. 4.1.4 She Must Be Engaged In The Conversation! D8-T10

It's important to get conversations into the right area and have HER go along with you. Not just "bring it up" (a topic or pattern), but it must be natural and she must "go along" with it and be a PART of it. She must be actually THINKING about what you are discussing! It has to happen naturally. No weird jumps. It's not enough to just talk; she must BE a part of the conversation! So, don't just "jump" to a topic. Don't find an "excuse" to bring it up. Take the conversation there, take her WITH you, and have her be a part of it! What really helps is to have a genuine interest (or at least curiosity) in her and the conversation, not just thinking to yourself; "How can I use this?" 4.2 HOW CONVERSATIONS HAPPEN D8-T12

How does this really occur? We will break this down so that we have a way to really affect this process. 4.2.1 Conversational Dynamics D8-T13

How do conversations happen? Most of them occur somewhat randomly as the conversation flows from topic to topic over time, and can end up almost anywhere after a while. By the time YOU move from one topic to the next,
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you may end up in a very different place from where you began. However, there is a series of steps as things move forward, as shown in Figure 4.2.1-1.

Figure 4.2.1-1: Conversations Move Through Many Topics

Each of these steps between topics tends to be related. Topic 1 relates to Topic 2. Topic 2 relates to Topic 3, etc. For example, you can start to talk about Cars, and then move to one aspect of that topic, Car Seats. Then it's easy to move to some aspect of that topic, which maybe something that seats are made of, like Leather. Then maybe you talk about Leather Furniture, etc. (See Figure 4.2.1-2.)

Figure 4.2.1-2: Each Topic Flows To the Next Topic In most cases, each Topic is related to the one before.

After a series of such steps, you can be at a quite different topic (like an apartment that you used to live in) even though you started at a quite different topic (Cars). In most cases, it's very difficult to predict where a conversation will go after many of these steps. As you go through a few topic shifts (as shown in the diagrams), although each individual shift relates to the topic before and after that shift, after a series of shifts you can end up talking about almost anything! Therefore, even if you start the conversation at a great topic, you can get off-track and into topics that will not work in your favor. Conversely, what is needed is a way to start at almost any topic at all, and by steering that process (of moving from Topic 1, to Topic 2, Topic 3, etc) take the conversation into better and better topic areas that will serve your purposes. 4.2.2 Conversational Model D8-T14

We introduce a model to assist in discussion, understanding, and control of conversations. If you start at a topic, how do you go to another one? This process happens all of the time very easily. The key is that the movement from one topic to the next takes places easily because there are so many options involved. From any topic (Topic 1) it is easy to flow to any of 6-8 other, related topics (Topic 2 Candidates). People usually just "talk" and naturally the conversation moves from the first topic to the next one. Since the "next" topic is related, this process seems natural and is easy to do. In fact, you do this all the time without really knowing about it. (We are creating a model to describe a process that happens naturally, so that we can teach you a way to have an affect on that process). Figure 4.2.2-1 shows how from one topic, the conversation can flow easily to many related topics.

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Figure 4.2.2-1: From One Topic to many Candidate Topics The topic of Cars is discussed, and from there are many ways the conversation can easily move.

Once the conversation moves to one of these eight topics, it's easy to move to one of eight more. For example if in Figure 4.2.2-1, the conversation flows from "Cars" to "Where you bought it" (as in, where you bought the car), then now we have a situation like that shown in Figure 4.2.2-2.

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Figure 4.2.2-2: From A Second Topic, Another Group of Candidates If "Cars" was discussed first, and then "Where you bought it" was discussed next, there are now many ways to go in the next step. In the figure, you see how the conversation moves from Cars, to "Where you bought it". After that, there are many "candidate" topics where the conversation can flow. Perhaps it moves to the "Part of town" where the car was purchased.

Now from the topic of "Where you bought it" (a car), there are easily eight places that you can go from there, shown as the "Topic 3 candidates". This process continues throughout a conversation. This process happens regardless of the specific topics being discussed. Conversations flow from topic to topic, as shown in a general manner in Figure 4.2.2-3.
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the plans that many guys try to use to "Talk about X. you can have up to eight different ways to go at EACH step. However. In many ways. an so on. then talk about Y. there is no way to know exactly where it will end up by the time you have moved forward a few steps! Imagine trying to predict ahead-of-time exactly where you may arrive (among those 512 options). since it's so easy to go from any topic to 6-8 others. then EACH of the eight different candidates for Topic 2 can then lead to their own eight. In general. because there are SO many ways that things can go! Page 75 . If Topic 1 can lead to eight different candidates for Topic 2. you can end up with the conversation going almost anywhere! Figure 4.2. the Figures that have been shown so far only show a small portion of the total topics towards which a conversation can flow.2-4 shows what happens when all the topics are considered.2-3: Topics Flow from One to the Next Each topic in a conversation can easily lead to 6-8 others. Do you see why the pre-planned approaches can be difficult?! Even if you ARE able to have the conversation start from a specific place (Topic 1). When this happens in succession. when talking to some random person. This results in easily over 500 topics that could be selected by the time we arrive at Topic 4! In only three shifts of the topic ("topic shifts" as shown in the figure) we end up with many many possibilities of where the conversation might end up.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Topic 1 Topic 2 Topic 3 Topic 4 Figure 4. then talk about Z" are very difficult to really work with. and the conversation flows along in this manner. With some skill and technique.2. you can affect this process (and we will teach that to you). and at each step after that.

Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 1st Topic Shift 2nd Topic Shift 3rd Topic Shift Figure 4.2-5).2.2-4: Topic Candidates and Topic Shifts If each topic can flow to eight others.2. Once Topic 2 has been discussed. and so on. it can flow from there. then after only three shifts in the topic. a conversation may start from one topic or subject (Topic 1). As seen in the diagram. Page 76 . It then can flow easily to maybe 6-8 others (the diagram shows fewer for the sake of clarity). you can end up in over 500 different topic areas! We can create a general Conversation Model that shows this process (Figure 4.

(The figure only shows a portion of how many subjects and topics can be reached). it is quite easy to move from that onto 6-8 related topics. that they become far too many to shown in the diagram.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Figure 4. then for that diagram to be really accurate it would have to show over 30.2.3 Topic Turning Point D8-T15 The KEY concept the needs to be understood to gain the ability to manage conversations. is an awareness of this phenomenon that is called the "Topic Turning Point". Page 77 . There are SO many ways it can flow. if you assume that from any topic you could go to any of 8 other topics. If you are discussing one specific topic.3-1.2.2. This process of moving from the first topic to one of 6-8 relevant topics is the process of moving through a "Topic Turning Point" as shown in Figure 4.000 different subjects or topics that could be discussed by the time you are at "Level 6" in the conversation!! 4. In fact.2-5: Conversation Model The "Tree of Subjects" showing how thousands of subjects can be reached in just a few steps of the conversation. The diagram only shows a small fraction of them (so that the diagram is not even more cluttered than it already is!).

etc. ask a question.2. Someone might make a comment.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Candidate Topics Figure 4. the conversation can then move to another topic.2. introduce an idea. the overall flow of a conversation comes about due to many of these TTP choices being made. The key thing to realize is that this process of Topic Turning Point (TTP) selection occurs over and over. For example. after one topic has been discussed for a short while. Page 78 . However. the conversation "shifts" slightly.2. as long as the new topic is "related" to the first (this is shown in the diagram by the "candidates") then this change is easy to do.3-2: How TTP Selections Effect the Conversation The selections made at each TTP are what actually "steer" the conversation in a certain direction. make a statement.3-1: The Topic Turning Point (TTP) When discussing any topic (First Topic) there are easily 6-8 different topics to which the conversation can be moved (Candidate Topics). and throughout a conversation. Therefore. A general way of looking at this process is shown in Figure 4.3-2 Topic Turning Points Figure 4.

. fun. This selection just "happens". fun. easily and naturally? That IS the point. we are going to later teach you a way to be able to make these TTP selections. and that work in YOUR favor. So to start our process of learning how to manage conversations.. Sometimes this can be VERY apparent. These types of people are making TTP selections based on a strategy of finding things that are negative to talk about. positive aspects of every topic being discussed. moment-to-moment. is coming soon.1 GENERAL CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Want. but you will have some control over the overall direction. and the conversation tend to into one of four general areas. Can you see how you may be able to affect where a conversation goes? You might not be able to predict EXACTLY where it ends up. The overall strategy at the beginning is then to "talk about positive. and interesting. For example: • Maybe someone always finds a fun. As you have probably guessed by now. That ability alone is enough for our purposes.Those are just general examples. D8-T16 D8-T16 So how can you actually affect the flow of a conversation. we want the conversation to be positive. no one is "deciding" the TTPs. 4. with some awareness of this process. Look in the diagrams. you can direct where the overall conversation goes. isn't it? In general. conversations tend to go in one of several ways. In a very broad sense. choices are made moment to moment. fun. By manipulating TTPs from moment to moment.. and do so in a way that sounds VERY natural. The flow of the conversation starts. However.3. No matter WHAT you talk to them about. These people are able to automatically make TTP choices based on a strategy of finding good. IMPORTANT: The overall direction of a conversation comes about due to a successive selection of TTPs. and imagine if you had a general way to manipulate these TTPs.3. no matter WHAT is discussed. very quickly. (See Figure 4. conversations are one of four types: • • • • Fun. interesting things". positive way to look at anything. • Other people may do the opposite. interesting Mundane and uninteresting Negative. and they quick steer the conversation in that manner. to "route" conversations so that they end up being the kinds of conversations that YOU want to have.3 4.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Normally. they find a way to point out something negative..) Page 79 . • Other people able to direct conversations based on their own beliefs and their own political motivations as well.. we want to first start to steer things in the best general manner. and some training (which . • Other people direct conversations based upon their own moral or religious values. Many people do this "TTP selection" process automatically. positive. they Good Boring Bad Argument could be more specific (and we will get there).) then you CAN direct how a conversation flows. depressing Confrontational . they somehow see it in terms how in effects their beliefs.1-1..

If you break that down into 4 main directions.1-1: General Conversational Management Consider all of the ways a conversation can go.3. Page 80 . Figure 4. Positive. steer towards Fun.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course General Conversational Management Conversations tend to flow in one of four major ways. Strategic Formula for General Conversational Management To steer the conversation in a good direction. do what you can to steer in that direction. and Interesting" things. interesting things. No matter what is brought up. interesting things. bring up positive. and Interesting". Even if things move towards other areas. and Interesting topics and subjects. Positive. Introduce topics that are fun. fun. positive and interesting. interesting things. How do you do that? • • • Show interest when someone discusses positive. fun. Don't engage in conversations when it's NOT about positive. you see that you want to focus the conversation onto topics that are "Fun. Positive. so from the earliest stages. you can still "steer" back towards "Fun. fun.

Moment To Moment D8-T19 Look at the overall flow of a conversation and break it down to its smallest point that we can affect. and Interesting". Positive. the topic "candidates" that were shown earlier). move things towards the related topics that are "Fun. and interesting"? Moment-to-moment."Where can I go that is fun. you can direct where the overall conversation goes. So you just think to yourself "Where can I go that is fan. Page 81 . the TTP. For any subject.2 How To Steer Conversations. TTP options. Repeat. Positive. you make note of where you are in the conversation. • Etc. You think of the "candidates" (the related topics or subjects that you can discuss) that serve you at the time. positive. positive. you can always think of 6-8 other related topics or subjects. and Interesting? That is the direction to go! Candidate Topics Figure 4.Where can I go that is "fun.. or something you read. Which Of these are Fun. and interesting" (See Figure 4. How do you move things in that direction? You can: • Ask a question • Make a comment • Make a joke • Quote someone you heard.3. TTP Mantra . You then think of several ways you can go (the related topics.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4. as we discussed earlier.. as long as it moves things in a way that answers the question "Where can I go that is fun. By manipulating TTPs from moment to moment.3.3. positive.) Tactical Formula for General Conversational Management Keep thinking . and then steer things in the correct direction.2-1: Topic Turning Point Navigation for General Conversational Management No matter what subject you start talking about. positive.The overall direction of a conversation comes about due to a successive selection of TTPs. and interesting?" Move the conversation in that direction.2-1. and interesting" and just move things in that direction. . and then you move things in that direction! Remember .

3. Do this for a while.3.3-1. Positive.) Keep things moving in the direction of Fun. and Interesting". "fun. just keep thinking about where you can go that is "Fun. Page 82 . the most important thing to do is to focus on moving thing in a direction that is . you can work more towards certain topic areas. (See Figure 4. you get to an overall "area" that will work. but in the early part of the conversation.. 4.3-1: Moving Through Topics Using General Conversational Management Early in a conversation.3-2. and interesting".3. and Interesting! Figure 4. You are steering things towards the direction that you want the conversation to go. positive. Positive.3 The Model With Strategy And Tactics In Place D8-T23 As you make TTP choice after TTP choice (See Figure 4.).Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Later in the conversation.3..

what was the main topic? Topics Page 83 . keep steering in the right direction and in many cases you WILL get towards the right area soon enough (and if not. 4.3. always move towards topics and subjects that are Fun. Positive.3.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course General Conversational Mgt Model No matter where you start. is towards Fun.3-2: General Conversational Management Model The most important direction to go. and Interesting!/ Figure 4.4 Exercises and Assignments D8-T25 Exercises for General Conversational Management 1) Think of some conversations that you have been in recently. especially early in a conversation. and Interesting topics and subjects. Even if you temporarily move away from that direction or end up in an area that is not very positive or interesting. maybe that person is not someone that you want to talk to anyway). Positive. and write down the topic for each. At some particular moment early in the conversation. or where you are.

or Candidate Topics). Write each of those down. things you could comment on. consider it a topic that leads to a TTP (copy each item above into the "Topic" area below). For each of those Topics. ask about. Topic TTP Options (Candidate Topics') Page 84 . directions you could "take" the conversation (these are the TTP Options.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 2) Based on each of those topics. list 6-8 different ways you could go.

making a statement.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Of the 6-8 different TTP Options you have written above for each Topic. and Interesting")? Select two "candidates" and circle or highlight those two. which are the best? Which of these would move the conversation in a way that is best for you (think of "Fun. 4) For each Topic. Page 85 . etc. whatever it might take to move things in that direction. Positive. asking a question. 5) Practice again on each by moving things in the direction of the second item that was circled.. what would it have been like to have moved the conversation in the direction of the first item you circled? Practice that out loud for each Topic above. maybe by making a comment.

where COULD I have taken things". After a while. we are turning you into someone that people LIKE to talk to! You know the type of person that people enjoy talking to. Make it so that it becomes easy for you to come up with a list of "options" very quickly.1 ADVANCED CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Really Want. positive and interesting topics. really be aware of the TTP opportunities in your day-to-day life. etc. It WILL get easier. maybe offer an opinion. You may start to find however. In general. make a comment. that no matter WHAT you do with some people. Instead of the more general area of fun. they will not go down a path of having a fun. At first. and positive conversation. At any moment you should be able to think "Where can I go with this?". don't worry. By manipulating TTPs from moment to moment. or without an overall strategy in mind).3. When talking to anyone. we can start to direct the conversation into an even BETTER area. the imagination moving. If this is a challenge for you. Positive.Is that the sort of person you want to talk to and spend time with? Maybe not.4. the conversation becomes more enjoyable for everyone. having conversations with. • By moving things in this way. interesting. whatever it takes. and spending time with? The type of guy that people seek out to spend time with? The more you do these types of exercises. Do this for a while until the process of finding 1 or 2 good "Ways to go" in a conversation (good TTP options) can happen very rapidly for you. you may have to think of 6-8 options. we want it to be really interesting. we want things to get even more Page 86 .4 4. Building on what we learned in the last section. We want to focus the aim of our conversational management skills even more. positive." 4. start to take the conversation there! Ask a question. and people REALLY interested.5 Summary D8-T32 Remember what was said earlier: • The overall direction of a conversation comes about due to a successive selection of TTPs (which normally occur at random. You then have to wonder . Maybe start out by looking at conversation after the fact. but the REAL key is to at least get to the point where you can very quickly think of at least 1 or 2 ways to go that are Fun. engaging. 2) Now that you are able to quickly find 1 or 2 good TTP options. the more YOU can and will become that guy! 4. we want to work with topics that get the emotions involved. Interesting. you can direct where the overall conversation goes. interesting. even at the start of a conversation. fascinating. look for moments where things can be "steered" in a certain way. thinking "what COULD I have done. inquire about something.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Assignments for General Conversational Management 1) For the next week or so. D8-T33 D8-T33 We want the conversation to be more than just positive. Just do what you can so that the TTP shifts in a direction that is fun.

there were 4 main directions towards which a conversation may go. you move it in ways that engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way. to "steer" things even more towards what we want. we were able to move things in the direction of Fun. more excitement. Now from that point. and more involvement of the imagination. Interesting area. Positive.) General Conversational Management takes the conversation into the Fun. From there. Using General Conversational Management. steer the conversation towards directions that engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way. and Interesting. there are many ways the conversation can move. there are many ways to go. With that as a general strategy.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course interesting. So we narrow our focus. we now shift our strategy of "steering" things to direct the topics in a more focused manner using Advanced Conversational Management. (See Figure 4. To move the conversation into more interesting areas.4. So. how do we work that in what we are doing moment-to-moment? How can we do things that will make that happen? Page 87 . We use our strategy of working with the TTPs. Strategic Formula for Advanced Conversational Management To direct the conversation into even BETTER areas.1-1. Positive. and steer using Advanced Conversational Management Figure 4. We move forward and want to get a more emotional tone.4.1-1: Advanced Conversational Management Focuses the Steering From the start of a conversation.

and with that strategy in mind. we need to change the way the model is shown. and Interesting" area.) TTP Mantra " Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Tactical Formula for Advanced Conversational Management Keep thinking .4. Positive. (See Figure 4. TTP Fun.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4. we need to use the TTP as a way to move things in the right direction. but now think "where can I go that will engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way".4.4.2-1: Topic Turning Point Navigation for Advanced Conversational Management After using General Conversational Management for a while.3-1 for an explanation. 4. See Figure 4. and explain a bit more as to its meaning and interpretation. we can assume that we are talking about subjects which fit into the "Fun.4. we look at the concept of the TTP. Positive.4. Repeat.2 Steering Conversations Moment To Moment using Advanced Conversational Management D8-T35 Again.Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Move the conversation in that direction. With that established.2-1.3 The Model With Advanced Strategy And Tactics In Place D8-T38 (Before we move on to looking at the model. we shift the focus of how we navigate TTPs.) Page 88 . Interesting Topics Which of these "Engage the Emotions and imagination in a Positive Way"? That is the direction to go! Candidate Topics Figure 4.

For example. so that the various stages of a conversation can be easily illustrated. there can be a whole "tree" of possibilities leading from there. When starting from ANY topic (1) to a place where you are firmly established for a period of time in a Fun.) the conversation moves on for a while. At that point. we are not showing that there are exactly "four steps" between points (1) and (2). In practice. It may happen in ten minutes. etc. Page 89 . The locations of points (1). or topic shift) shown on the digram may represent many steps in an actual conversation. and it ends up at a certain area (2). Positive. and Interesting conversation (2) may take four steps. it may take ten. and (3) in the figure above (and in the next figure) helps to show this. For example.3-1: Understanding the Conversational Management Model The "levels" shown in the models are not meant to be exact. Positive. Figure 4. with thousands upon thousands of possible possible routes and outcomes. (2). once again ending up with thousands of topics that could be discussed by the time you get through more topic shifts (3). or thirty. but a way to show a "trend". where every "step" (TTP. From now on in the course. the model above is what we used to show a starting point (1). This can result in so many possibilities (many thousands within a few steps) that it's important to look at these diagrams as a way to show "trend".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Understanding the Conversational Management Model The model attempts to show a process that has many many steps. not an exact number of steps or outcomes. But after using the general techniques (Fun.4. these diagrams will indicate a VERY condensed version of the number of steps involved. the graphics we will use will show an even more "condensed" version of this process.

This is shown between points (2) and (3). in practice it may be good to follow a series of topics for 5. are used together to move forward in a conversation. and states. For a while. we now focus more on moving in a direction that will "Engage the Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way". to yourself! Advanced Conversational Management Model Figure 4. This too can take any number of steps.3-2. If you refer to Figure 4. the conversation will get better and better. you end up linking and associating many fascinating. subjects. General Conversational Management techniques are used. 20. feelings. Positive. exciting. 10. you can see how General Conversational Management.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course We started at one topic. we focused the conversation towards moving things in a direction that is "Fun Positive and Interesting. 10 topic shifts.3-2: Advanced Conversational Management Model Early in the conversation. if you use the language tools which we learned about earlier in the course. If you follow these two simple strategies together (and the tactical approach of simply watching the TTPs and moving things in the right way). and Interesting conversation (2).4. Now the emphasis is on ways to "Engage the Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way". As time goes on. Although the diagram shows only 2 steps (for simplicity). and then Advanced Conversational Management. only a few of which are shown in the diagram. emotional topics. and could be at any of thousands of topics after 6. The subjects will get more and more fascinating. This also is followed for a series of steps and a period of time. or 30 minutes. or however long it takes to be firmly established in a Fun. Then a shift is made towards focusing the conversation even more using Advanced Conversational Management. This is shown from point (1) to point (2) in the diagram.4. the conversation will get more and more of an "emotional" tone to it. After that has been established. 8. Page 90 . And of course while doing that. until it is firmly established that the conversation has engaged the emotions and imagination of the participant.

consider it a topic that leads to a TTP (copy each above into the "Topic" areas below). and interesting conversation. positive. Write each of those down.4 Exercises and Assignments D8-T39 Exercises for Advanced Conversational Management 1) Think of some conversations that you have been in recently. For each of those Topics. These should be conversations where it is already obvious that it is a fun.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4. Topic a. list 6-8 different ways you could go. TTP Options (Candidate Topics') Page 91 . At some particular moment in that conversation. directions you could "take" the conversation (these are the TTP Options. and write down the topic for each. what was the main topic? Topics 2) Based on each of those topics.4. ask about. things you could comment on. or Candidate Topics).

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If this is a challenge for you. you may have to think of 6-8 options. fascinating. At first. 4) For each Topic.. Assignments for Advanced Conversational Management 1) For the next week or so. seductive things. This is best when applied to a conversation that is ALREADY fun. Maybe start out by looking at conversation after the fact. we are "steering" things more and more in a direction that we wish to go. positive. start to take the conversation there! Ask a question. make a comment. really be aware of the TTP opportunities in your day-to-day life.5 4. asking a question. which 1 or 2 would tend to "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way"? Which ones move things in a way that is best for you? Select two "candidates" and circle or highlight these two. So.4. Do this for a while. but be especially aware of wanting to move things to "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". we focus further on the TTP options! Page 93 . whatever it takes. what would it have been like to have moved the conversation in the direction of the first item you circled? Practice that out loud for each Topic above. inquire about something. but the REAL key is to at least get to the point where you can very quickly think of at least 1 or 2 ways to go that "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". 2) Now that you are able to quickly find 1 or 2 good TTP options for yourself that "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". don't worry. 4. we want to steer things more towards romantic. thinking "what COULD I have done. where COULD I have taken things".5 4. It WILL get easier. even things with some degree of sensual connotation to them. until the process of finding 1 or 2 ways to go that "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way" in a conversation can happen very rapidly for you. making a statement. what next? At some point in the conversation.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Of the 6-8 different TTP Options you have written above for each Topic. maybe by making a comment.5.1 Summary MORE ADVANCED CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT More About Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Really Want. once again. 5) Practice again on each by moving things in the direction of the second item that was circled. whatever it might take to move things in that direction. Just do what you can so that the TTP shifts in a direction that can "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". maybe offer an opinion. and interesting.. D8-T46 D8-T47 D8-T47 As you can see. So.. etc.

5.5. Moving towards romantic. and seductive things.5. and followed the other strategies and tactics shown earlier.5. 4.) "Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. fascinating. and then topics that engage the emotions and imagination.3 The Model With More Advanced Strategy And Tactics In Place D8-T52 We are just closing in. fascinating. and focusing more and more towards areas and topics that work."Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. The focus now is upon topics that get you closer towards Romantic. Fascinating. then the focus shifts again towards directing things in a specific way. seductive things?" Move the conversation in that direction.) Page 94 . Repeat. This may seem odd or hard to do. This gets her mind into thinking more and more about these things.2-1: Topic Turning Point Navigation for More Advanced Conversational Management After using General and Advanced Conversational Management.2-1. fascinating. and associating YOU with them! (See Figure 4. 4.3-1. Seductive things Tactical Formula for More Advanced Conversational Management Keep thinking .2 Steering Conversations Using More Advanced Conversational Management D8-T49 TTP Mantra (See Figure 4.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Strategic Formula for More Advanced Conversational Management To further direct the conversation into even BETTER areas. However.5. steer the conversation towards romantic. if you have been in a conversation for a while. fascinating. you will have taken things in the right direction and this will be much easier. seductive things is much easier after you have first move towards fun. seductive things?" Figure 4. positive and interesting thing.

the focus moves towards selecting items based on More Advanced Conversational Management. and Seductive. General Conversational Management techniques place the focus on selecting items that are Fun. Early on. Then the Advanced Conversational Management Techniques place the focus more upon items that involve the Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way. and Interesting.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course More Advanced Conversational Management Model Figure 4. Positive.5. which targets topics and subjects that are Romantic. there is a different focus at each stage. Fascinating.. After that type of conversation has been established (3).3-1: More Advanced Conversational Management Model As the conversation progresses. shown from point (1) to (2). moving to point (4) Page 95 . moving to point (3).

will work in your favor. Page 96 . 4.1 The 1-Shot Beeline Fallacy D9-T2 Guys assume that they will travel from a general topic. and get things to be more and more fascinating and exciting.6 CONVERSATIONAL FRACTIONATION D9-T1 Using these Conversational Management skills in the real world may be quite different in practice from the way most guys "think" it will happen. Too many guys are too caught up in this one-shot dream of traveling once across the model and getting an amazing result. that they will get an AMAZING reaction in their first movement across the Model.1-1: The Dream of a 1-Shot Path To Success! A common misperception is that many guys think that if they can just move a conversation from the start.1-1.) The Dream that Does Not Happen! Figure 4. (See Figure 4.6.6. This hardly ever ever happens.MAGIC! However that is NOT the way it works in the real world. then a sensual one.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4. and then . Moreover. the way it really DOES happen. to a positive one. and then an emotional one.6.

. So. g) Do the whole process over and over. or maybe the conversation shifts back to that place due to something she says. This actually works better! We are actually using Fractionation.. Great! Talk about that for a while.. (See Figure 4. etc.6. Use the language tools. you may jump back just several steps in our Conversational Management Process. Maybe you move all the way back to a very "normal" topic (which would be all the way on the left side of the model).6. Then at some point.6. and fascinating and seductive topics. starts.. no matter how the conversation jumps around. here is how this works. This actually ADDS to the power and effectiveness of what you are doing.. The conversation starts. So. You back up to a more general topic. Just start the process again.. using the Conversational Management techniques Get as far through the model as you can.3 Using Conversational Fractionation D9-T5 Start at some normal topic and move through the model towards the right. stay there and talk about it for a while. no matter where you start. Of if you can't seem to get to a good place. restarts.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4.. you back off. you are always moving towards positive topics.31. Then you "back up" to some extent (even all the way back to a very general topic area) and then move forward across the model again. And again. emotional and imaginative topics.2 How Fractionation Works D9-T3 The real world has stops. you go back towards something more "normal". move on to the next step.. Have fun. If you get to a very good place. When we say "go back". the conversation ends up being very interesting and fascinating! 4.) a) b) c) d) Page 97 . and then . you take a conversation from the early stages through the process. You might do that on your own. moving through the model towards the right.. No problem. goes for some distance through the model (maybe all the way through). In this way. Maybe several times. You just start the process again. Maybe you start from a very general topic and get all the way through the model towards a very very fascinating topic or subject. Start at any topic (you are on the far left side of the Model) Move forward towards the right. and then at some point. This is where a process is done repeatedly over and over. No problem. e) Then move back (towards the left side of the model) This may happen because: • The person you are talking to does that (she asks a question) • Or maybe you do it (just to lighten things up) f) Then start again.. Because no matter where you start from.

over time.3-1: How Conversation Fractionation Works on the Model Follow the conversation as it moves from (1) to (12). and fascinating! 4.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Conversational Fractionation at Work Figure 4. that no matter WHAT you talk about. The overall trend is that. there is no such thing as a conversational "Dead End"! Page 98 . interesting. simply back up (3) and then try moving into a better direction (4).6. As things move forward from (1). As time goes on (5-12) the conversation gets into better and better areas.6. it's not a bad idea to back up a bit (9) and then move forward again. Fractionation happens at times because even when you may be at a fairly good place for a while (8).4 Dead Ends Come Back To Life! D9-T6 With this new strategy of using Conversational Fractionation. This is not a problem. it ends up being fun. there is a continued movement up and into better and better areas of conversation. You become one of those fascinating guys. at times maybe they move towards an area that is not too good (2).

7. have more material to use in conversations in the future! 4.. fascinating. • What if you can't make the conversation positive? • What if she always points out the negative aspect? • What if there is NO emotional engagement at ALL? Well.1 • Conversational Management Approach Start on just about ANY subject. with you! 4.. you just back up. stay there for a while. use the language tools as much as possible! D9-T8 • • • • • • • • • Keep moving the conversation into these interesting fascinating areas . o If you get to a good subject or topic.. and interesting? Move things in that direction.. seductive things? Move things in that direction. talked more. this can happen. Just back up. etc. you might have just found out that they are NOT someone you want to spend time with! That's not a total loss because you STILL learned more. Do that for a while and then think .. Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic.7 CONVERSATIONAL OVERVIEW AND REVIEW D9-T7 So. or maybe negative. positive. how do we pull this together? 4. Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Move things in that direction.7.3 Summary D9-T10 Go have fun with these tools! Page 99 . and get the effect. (think of your TTP options). or what you both have in common Move forward with the Strategies and Tactics in mind. No problem... back up a few steps. o Comment on what is around o Mention common items.. Do that for a while and then think . and go down another path! 4.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course If you happen to take a "wrong turn" somehow and get into an area of discussion that is boring. Where can I go that is fun. and the person becomes interested and fascinated. uninteresting. When on good topics. use the language tools.2 What If The Outcome Is Not What You Expected? D9-T9 Despite your best efforts. —* The entire time: o If you hit a "dead end". and use the Strategy and Tactics of the Conversational Management techniques! Look at "Dead Ends" as being just like a bad turn on a road..7.

then you may want to go back in those earlier sections. and that statement (regarding having actually talked to someone about the topics) will be TRUE! So. and while talking about subjects and topics that YOU are really passionate about. What do you talk about? There is no substitute for experience. and some familiarity with this type of thing. and closer towards the subjects that will really serve your intent. and THEY said. the more you talk to people about such things. TOPICS OF ENTHUSIASM AND PASSION D9-T14 What are you passionate about? Few things are more compelling in a person than for them to be passionate about something (hopefully many things) in life. and then the more "material" you will have. Topics • • 5. what can we do here in this course to help you? We have talked about the way to talk and use language. You want to be able to discuss these topics easily.) Before you can use the language tools with new subjects that you are learning about. we have talked about managing conversations.". Can you talk passionately about something? Anything? Hopefully. Themes vs.1 Themes are a way through a discussion or through the "tree of subjects" that we showed earlier. if using those language tools is problem for you. the easier it will get. this is something we can and will work on with you. some practice. A topic is a particular area of discussion that is taking place in a moment.. you should be able to use them with subjects in which you are already interested! Page 101 .great! It's easier to use the language tools if you are discussing topics with which you are familiar. especially as they get more interesting. Talking about these topics may be a challenge for many men. fascinating. In the meantime. the more familiar you will be with these topics. fun.0 TOPICS D9-T11 What do you talk about? As the conversation gets more interesting.. yes! How well can you talk about topics that YOU are passionate about while using many of the language tools we talked about in the earlier parts of the course? If you can do that very well . so that YOU have some material. Most men may not be very familiar with many of the topics that we REALLY want to get into. The more experience you get. fascinating. to get the best effect you will have to be a PART of that conversation and familiar with the topics that may come up. go ahead and practice! (Or maybe do that the next time you go through the course. However. and it's even better if you are passionate about those topics.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 5. However. Now we want you to become familiar with topics that will really work well for you! We are going to work with some of these topics. You will be able to say things like "I was talking to someone about this the other day.

The conversational management sections will help you to move the conversation in a way that will get you near these topics areas. work it. Topics that access emotions. Your point is to get to. can create an AMAZING effect! When you do get a conversation into an area near an SOT.) Page 102 . SOTs are the "end goals" when it comes to managing or directing a conversation. sensual. and link it to you! When • • • • • you are at or near an SOT: Use the correct tone of Voice Pace and Lead correctly Link things to you Point at the right times. judge for yourself. but a good number of them. a topic that is an SOT. in the right way Use the language tools! You want to be familiar with these topics (SOTs) and able to discuss them easily: maybe not ALL of them.just TALKING about these can create a good effect.. but how effective are those as subjects given the "purpose" of the discussion? You want to discuss topics and things which deal with seduction. or.. or cleaning the toilet.2 SEDUCTION ORIENTED TOPICS D9-T15 In the context of this course (and your intent in talking with . How good are you at the earlier sections that dealt with the language tools? It may be a good idea to go back over those sections. at least. or near. and seductive... (Every guy has his favorites and ones that work best for him. or the office. Seduction Oriented Topics (SOTs) . stay there as long as you can! Talk about it. in some ways. but doing so while using the language tools. excitement. someone) some topics are easier to work with than others. and emphasize discussing topics in which YOU are interested and passionate about. You want to be able to discuss topics that deal on some level with Seduction.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course So. You may talk about cars. These are called "Seduction Oriented Topics".Topics that bring up images and thoughts that are romantic. 5. or topics that are very close to that concept.. feelings. or sports. Examples of SOTs • Connections • Going for it • Making good decisions • Surrendering to feelings • Getting excited • Feeling excited • Trusting your judgment • Taking chances • Indulgence • Maturity • Good decisions • . etc..

Exercises for Seduction Oriented Topics 1) Build your own list of SOTs. you will be able to just "talk" about the subject while using the tools that are available. or overhear from others) and listen for when any of these SOTs come up in conversation. using as many of the language tools as you can. Don't worry about talking to women. bring up images and thoughts that may work for you.Are you able to somehow relate to these in your own life? Maybe something you read or heard? Maybe questions you can ask? ANYTHING?!?!? You do not need to "know" a lot about these topics or be an expert. Page 103 . the more you work with the materials. Get the conversation there. and the more you talk to and with people about them. and while there. the easier it will be to "riff" on these using the language tools. the more you practice using the tools. Think about other topics you have heard mentioned in this program. easily. or joke about them. Think of SOME way to discuss these. and also topics that you have heard in other materials and products that you have. the easier it will get! Strategic Formula for Seduction Oriented Topics SOTs are topics that. ask about them. Seduction Oriented Topics 2) You must become familiar with these! You must be able to talk about them. or even watched in a movie! (Or heard in a course that you took . and discuss these subjects. 3) Practice talking about each aloud. or in movies. but the more you think about them. Write down your list of SOTs. or on TV. Meaning. or seduction per se.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course These topics may seem foreign to you. or ask questions. and hopefully add some of your own. keep it there. by there very nature. the more you practice. you JUST need to be able to talk. Or are taking!) . talk about something you heard. Eventually. or comment on them! Talk aloud for several minutes about each.. Assignments for Seduction Oriented Topics 1) Pay attention to conversations in your life (even things you hear on the radio... and without "thinking" about the language tools. Or. You can use some of those that were listed earlier if you wish. use as many of the language tools as you can. read. hopefully some way that involves you and your own life. have stories about them. or anything like that.

anything at all! Talk. The more you hear. etc. and move through these exercises and assignments. And that gives you MORE material to talk about! Which make it easier for you to enter into more conversations about these subjects and topics.. what people think. "the other day I heard someone talking about. ask what something means. However. Use as many of the language tools as you can. That gives YOU more familiarity with discussing them. You start to listen and take notice of when these are discussed. These are called Expanded SOTs (SOTXs). Then you get to hear MORE people talk about them. So can you. or even when anything CLOSE to one of your SOTs is discussed. You do a few exercises to talk about them. ask an opinion. I can tell you that it DOES get easier and easier to be able to talk about these things. Make special note of topics that are CLOSE or similar to these SOTs in some way. make a comment. the more you listen. show interest. They started and became more and more familiar with these topics. but this time with SOTs. See? We are working on a process to get you to become more comfortable and familiar with these things. 5. Many guys who can now talk about these things VERY easily and comfortably started from a place of having NO idea of what to say! They changed. but had even more? Maybe 50? What if that was easy and familiar for you? Think back to how we looked at topics earlier."). Maybe ask some questions about things that deal with your SOTs.. and start to get your brain working on them. then the more material YOU will have to talk about. ask. That makes you really think about them. (As in. Really! Learning to discuss such things may start out slowly. discuss. Because of that. after having worked with hundreds of guys.. and easily come up with 6-8 related topics. it gets easier to enter into more conversations that deal with these topics. It may start a bit slowly and awkwardly. That is understandable. SOT Summary I KNOW that these topics may seem foreign to you. However. They did it. it WILL get easier.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Listen to what is being said. or even just TRY to do so. 2) Now . this process must start somewhere. and makes it easier for you to talk about them. quote. and frankly. That's what we want to do here. but we are walking you through (at least the first steps of) the process to make this easier: • • • • • • • • • • • You have made a list of SOTs.Talk about these subjects and topics! Make a point to enter into a discussion when one of your SOTs is mentioned.3 EXPANDED SEDUCTION ORIENTED TOPICS . but as long as you start it. Page 104 . We learned how you can move from any topic. what is said. You listen more to when they are discussed.SOTXs D9-T24 What if you had not just 10 ways of discussing "Seduction Oriented" subjects. this is one of the key challenges that many guys face.

..with your teammates Figure 5. places.. there are many different types or examples of connecting to people.. you now have 6-8 ways to discuss it. it's easy to think of several different aspects of that topic or related topics. the SOTX list consists of all of these items shown in the diagram and listed below. They think of only one way of talking about that subject..with a girlfriend ..with friends . Instead of worrying about getting to that one topic (SOT) in a certain way. see Figure 5... and things that can be discussed.. you can take any SOT.with someone while on vacation . Look at the list above.. That is one subject. (Does that diagram look familiar?) If "Connections" is an SOT..with pets . pets. (You do not really need to list "connections with" for each..with someone you just met . but can you think of 6-8 different aspects of this? (Remember what we did in the earlier sections. SOT Connections SOTX Connections with family Connections with friends Connections with coworkers Connections with pets Connections with a girlfriend Connections with someone you just met Connections with someone while on vacation Connections with music Connections with your teammates Many guys worry about talking about something like "Connections". ..3-1.. That just makes it easier for our example below). or only one aspect of that to discuss (connections in a romantic or sensual context). if friends. family. For any given SOT..with coworkers . comes up in a conversation.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Expanding on a Topic Area "Connections" is an SOT. etc. and build a whole list of very similar things to talk about -which are SOTXs! For example. how we discussed a Topic Turning Point?) If Connections is a particular subject. However as we see here. you can talk about that for while. coworkers.with music . how easy would it be to talk about how you CONNECT with those? And if you talk about Page 105 . Then.with family . can you think of different aspects of that? Parts of Connections? Questions about Connections? Ways of experiencing Connections? People or things with which you can experience Connections? By asking those types of questions (to yourself).3-1: How SOTs are related to an SOTXs...

ask a question. you can be as close as one step away from an SOT. (Yes. b. If you talk about that for a while.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course THAT (how you connect in that manner) for a while. etc. Just make a comment.) and for each SOT.. a.) Family Friends Coworkers Pets Connections A girlfriend Someone you just met Someone met on vacation Music Teammates Figure 5. all of a sudden there are many MORE ways to get to these really GREAT topics! Exercises f o r Expanded Seduction Oriented T o p i c s 1) Take the SOT list you had earlier (copy those down into the first column below. it's very easy to then shift. this is a TTP diagram in reverse!) For example. and how you (or someone else) can connect with a pet. that you just met! When you expand SOTs in this way. then you can shift towards ANOTHER type of "connection" very easily! (See Figure 5. then you can shift to talking about "how you can connect with a pet" fairly easily. or different aspects of that topic.. how to connect with people. SOTs " SOTXs List Page 106 .. you are to list 5 (at least) related topics.. or maybe even someone. or a special person. if someone is talking about pets.to .. c. point out an example regarding pets.3-2. or how that topic can be experienced.3-2: SOTXs Can Lead Into SOTs If any of the topics in the SOTX list comes up in conversation.. This is your SOTX list.

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You have 50 SOTXs that you are now familiar with as well.) 3) Do the same thing again. then about connecting with pets. Step back and look at what you have done! You have 10 SOTs with which YOU are familiar. you talk about pets. but now do so while using the language tools. That gives you a LOT of flexibility in conversations! Page 108 . then about connecting in general.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 2) Now for each SOTX. Talk about that SOTX for a moment or two. and see if you can then focus what you are saying towards the SOT itself. practice talking about it out loud. (Like the earlier example.

We have broken these down. The real usefulness of this is when you reverse the order as shown in Figure 5. The more you work with this. the easier it will be to notice SOTXs. You may think. use the language tools if and whenever you can. especially politicians and activists. if you hear any of them mentioned. 5. Good speakers.with coworkers .with music .. D9-T32 We discussed how to develop an SOTX list from an SOT. it is easy to then move the conversation towards topics that will work better for you (SOTs).. If anything like an SOTX comes up in a conversation. or anything like them mentioned. See if you can move the conversation a bit towards the SOT itself.. it's about getting YOU comfortable and familiar with these topics. use such techniques a LOT. broke it into bits and pieces that you can learn and do as exercises.with pets Connections ... spotting these opportunities get easier and easier.with friends .with a girlfriend . It ALL gets easier! 2) Start to "direct" the conversations you encounter where your SOTXs are mentioned. but it IS related to an SOT that I have worked with". you know that you are very close to getting near a subject area that will work very well for you.. .. .. Maybe you will even start to notice SOTXs that were not even ON your list.. In addition. and then built upon that step by step. The techniques that you have learned are the sort of things that many people do naturally.with someone you just met . "I didn't list that SOTX. SOTXs are now like "conversational landmarks" for you in terms of navigating a conversation... Page 109 ..4 CONVERSATIONAL MODEL WITH SOTXs.4-1....with family . that process can work both ways.with someone while on vacation .. and move the conversation towards SOTs. However. modeled the process arid the steps involved.. concept of "topics related to a topic" in many many places. Summary You now have MORE material to work with than you ever thought possible! This is not about memorizing.with your teammates Family Friends Coworkers Pets A girlfriend Someone you just met Someone met on vacation Music Teammates Connections This is how we developed SOTXs This is the most useful way of thinking of SOTXs Figure 5.4-1: SOTXs Are The Pathways To SOTs SOTXs are an easy way to get towards SOTs. You will start to notice this.. The more familiar you are with these subjects.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Assignments for Expanded Seduction Oriented Topics 1) Look at all of your SOTXs! That's a LOT of subjects! Pay attention in your life to see how often any of those items come up in conversation (or maybe you just hear them somewhere).

you have started to train yourself to "recognize" these landmarks. However in the figure above.4-3 shows this in the model itself. and anything like an SOTX comes up in the discussion. to be able to notice when you are talking about things which are "close to" topics that will work well for you. In many of the diagrams. this will start to happen for you. you now see how easy it can be to move over to an SOT! In fact. there are really 50 SOTXs and 10 SOTs shown .without "thinking" about them. Page 110 .4-2: Your Multiple Pathways to SOTs! Now that you have worked with 10 SOTs. As the topics get better and better. and done the exercises and assignments. If you have followed the program. we have had to compress or simplify them quite a bit and show only a fraction of the actual steps and numbers involved so that the diagrams do not become too large or complex. Figure 5.. and for you to just start to "recognize" these things on your own . we can then show them as part of our Conversational Model. you will get closer and closer to SOTXs. you have already worked with 10 SOTs and 50 SOTXs as shown in Figure 5.4-2. and 50 SOTXs (in the earlier exercises) you now have many many SOTXs with which YOU are familiar! More importantly. that is not an abbreviation or exaggeration. The point here (again) is not to memorize the SOTs. or the SOTXs.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course So whenever you are having a conversation. It's to have you practice and become familiar with them. and then towards SOTs. that this process will now be easier than you may have imagined. SOTXs SOTs Figure 5.the number that YOU have actually worked with so far! Since SOTXs and SOTs are the "goals" in terms of managing a conversation. you have practiced with so many of these SOTXs. After all.

Stay there for a while if you can! Figure 5. SOTXs are a pathway to make that easier. just follow the steps listed earlier in the Conversational Management sections.5 THE COMPLETE CONVERSATIONAL MODEL D9-T33 Start from any topic and get to where you want! Yes.. and using this type of approach you will have fascinating conversations with people that lead to where YOU want to go! (See Figure 5. SOTXs SOTs Listen for SOTXs Anything near or related to an SOT. or anything that is "related" to an SOT. 5. then start to pay attention for SOTXs. which are topics near or related to seduction (a step or two away from SOTs). and topics that are close to that (SOTXs). or as close as you can towards SOTs. it's that you have trained yourself to recognize things that are SOTs.) Page 111 . Period.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course SOTs in the Conversational Management Model The end goal is to get to. then you can simply move things towards a topic that is very seduction-oriented! The point is not to have a "list" in mind.4-3: SOTs Are THE Goals in Conversational Management As you move through a conversation. Then move the conversation towards an SOT! This works. and ANY TOPIC.5-1. You can start from almost ANYWHERE. you start to "listen" for topics that are SOTXs. Move towards SOTs. you can start from just about ANY topic and get to GREAT topics! It's easy. When you get to an SOTx.

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.. interesting .. fascinating.. Steer towards . Steer towards . or very close! Page 113 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Figure 5. seductive things Direct the Conversation Pay attention when Good Subjects come up (SOTXs) Listen for anything a step or two away from an SOT Move towards SOTs Stay there as long as you can Use The Language Tools! As much as possible.. back up! If you move back to a general topic. or SOTX. exciting. start over! Assignment! 1) Try it! Start directing conversations using the conversational management model.Romantic.5-1: The Complete Conversational Management Model (continued) Start a Conversation Manage the Conversation Move the Conversation in a Good Direction Steer towards . Fractionate If you take a wrong turn.Engaging the emotions and imagination in a positive way ..Fun. Especially when at or near SOTXs and SOTs. and see how easy it is to get to some good topic that is an SOT.

get her to "experience" good feelings and states. You practice bits and pieces of the sport. clarifying.0 6. With this new approach to learning and using these tools. asking. or "how can I bring this pattern up". Patterns are just examples of the use of these tools. Once you actually play the game though. Present a Call to action. certain actions. or navigation. etc.1 PATTERNS PATTERN OVERVIEW D10-T1 What is a pattern? • A plan. or "how can I bring up a pattern that I know".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 6. and being aware of when you DO get to an area of conversation that does allow you to use a pattern.Many of the details of driving a car are things you just "do". It's best to just think of patterns as examples. think about having a conversation (and managing it correctly). A New way of thinking about the use of patterns • The wrong way is to talk to someone and to keep thinking. • Maybe talk to a woman and allow HER to bring up things that end up working well in pattern-like language. we work in that manner. we have practiced the small details (language skills) so that these are automatic. Examples/Analogies: • Sports . Don't think of "how can I get to the pattern". or series of actions. plus these areas will work for HER because SHE selected them (in a manner of speaking) • Talk and manage the conversation into an area that DOES work for you. She may take the conversation into better places that you could have predicted. Amplify these feelings and states by talking. • Driving . "how can I get to my pattern". get her to "experience" good feelings and states o Use the Conversational Management Techniques to get there o Get her to think about good and/or exciting feelings Page 115 .2 PATTERN FORMULA D10-T7 Tactical Formula for Patterns While talking to a woman. you make decisions on-the-spot as to what to do and how to proceed. the clutch. In the same manner. that's the key. or model to be followed in making things. Link and associate these feelings to you. THAT ends up being a very effective way to create "patterns". The navigation is handled through our use of Conversational Management techniques. handling the gas pedal. or could say. You don't have to think about moving the wheel. We practice specific parts of areas of the skills we wish to use later on. These smaller skills become automatic and you focus instead of driving.You don't play the entire game ahead of time. Use the language tools. A representative sample. "A plan" or "model". The Pattern Formula in detail. diagram. • An example of what you can say. Its just a "type" of talking that you can (and will be able to) use when you feel it is appropriate. 6. • Instead. and as "a way of speaking". • While talking to a woman.

o Use "this" and "these" (be aware of that and those as well) o Point and mark appropriately Present a Call to action o "Do it now" language o Create a Challenge o Create an Opportunity o Talk about the chance to "Seize the moment" o A simple add-on to the Language Tools There are two main ways of doing patterns. if you just "drop" a pattern into the conversation. what you need to do is to look at.. don't focus TOO much on them. and that the woman will react to what the patterns is about." etc.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • o Get her feeling good and/or exciting feelings o Get her experiencing (or recall the experience of) good and/or exciting feelings o Get her to think about things that she wants or desires Amplify these feelings and states by talking. and do. pre-written patterns that you have seen and heard. many times it does not. So. 6. asking. Pre-written. "this person. and real-time "Riffing". However. and to use what is needed in the moment. sound quite strange. The problem is if you are SO focused on just "getting to the pattern" that you know (or even one of many that you know) then it's difficult to have a good conversation. pre-rehearsed. Some times that does happen.4 PATTERN RIFFING IN REAL-TIME D10-T13 This is the ability to just create pattern language on-the-fly. Therefore it is best to maybe have some of these memorized. because doing so may work against you. etc Link and associate those feelings to you o Use the Language Tools o Use linkage phrases like "now with me". and have them there for your use if and when the correct situation comes up.3 CANNED PATTERNS D10-T12 These are the pre-rehearsed.these pre-written or canned patterns can work very well. "Canned" patterns. Their best use is when you use the Conversational Management techniques and then find that the conversation just happens to get to or near a pattern that you DO happen to know already.. or things you have read. but they assume that you are in a conversation where they will work and be somewhat "appropriate" to what is being discussed. for her to elaborate and describe o Repeating back what she has said o Provide examples from your own life o Provide examples from friends. they can. In the real world. The good ways to use these are as teaching and learning tools. • The interesting topic that she and you are discussing o what is happening o what you know Page 116 . these canned patterns DO have some usefulness.. and the proper context is not created. canned patterns are good. But. when you are talking to a woman. In THAT case . clarifying o Use the Language Tools o Asking her for info. 6.

Then you have a conversation and. Yes.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • o what she is reacting to o and discuss things which are appropriate. interesting. states. looking and listening for positive feelings. THE BEST PATTERN IS THIS: • • Get her to talk and think about positive. using the tools. Page 117 . • Talk about these things or listen to you talk about these things • get her to think about these things • get her to feel these things • get her to link them to you. get her to. it really IS that easy! look for: Positive emotions and feeling Positive sensations (as in physical ones) Exciting feelings. emotions. Then we use those as a basis for discussion. exciting. Wanting to take action or seize an opportunity Always • • • • See the pattern here? We are in general. • Use some "act now" languaging. Use the language tools so that YOU become associated with those things.. and actions in the conversation. and sensual things.. and and use the language tools.

7. Both you and her talk! 2.5 CONGRATULATIONS! WELL DONE! D10-T29 Page 119 . of fourteenth time through. comfort in. Use the Language Tools 5. and view an overall strategy. SOTs) 4. and the more engaged you are in the process. Fractionate if and when needed. D10-T27 Listen to the full explanations. 1. Direct and/or link those feelings towards you. D10-T28 The more energy and effort you put into this.1 REVIEW AND SUMMARY REVIEW D10-T18 The course has followed a "bottom-up" approach to training. 7. and/or compulsion to act a. and really take the time to do the exercises. and how you speak. a. 7.0 7. a.4 BE WILLING AND PREPARED TO PUT ENERGY INTO THIS COURSE. Engage her emotions and imagination in a positive way. DO THE EXERCISES. but the method of approaching it is very different. Keep the conversation going. Use the Language Tools 7. focusing first on small details. and then building up to bigger and bigger pieces. Now we can look from the "top-down". Talk about something positive and interesting c. -' d. We really are focused upon changing you. Get the conversation into good subjects (SOTXs.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 7.2 SUMMARY D10-T26 This may be similar to information you have heard in the past. Create a willingness. you will benefit. Use the conversational management techniques b. Use the conversational management techniques b. 3. Whether its your first. It really is up to you.3 LISTEN. the greater your results will be. fifth. Direct the conversation in a way that takes you toward good topics a. Keep her there and keep talking! a. AND FOLLOW THE COURSE.

and provide you with some real-world examples of their use.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 8.0 EXAMPLES. Page 121 . EXAMPLES Dll-Tl The discussions presented on the audio for this section are intentionally "casual" to familiarize you even more with the use of these tools. EXAMPLES.

allowing you to say more (and maybe more provocative things) about a subject. • What's it like when . or Chest? Pacing And Pausing Use variations in pace.. • Have you ever . and to "soften " the way in which something is said. • Slow. • Be descriptive. powerful. and charismatic presence. " As you.. to be cool. Voice Tone And Tonality Use your best tone of voice (speaking from your chest) to convey a relaxed. and processes awaken. Mouth. • If I were to . so that their feelings. • Passionate or Boring? o o o • LANGUAGE TOOLS A N T D E T A I L S o Adjectives And Adverbs Use more adjectives and adverbs in your speech to appeal to and excite the emotional side of the listener. • Nose.... • Instantaneously " Suddenly • Find Yourself • Convince Yourself • Suppose • Imagine " Mysterious (-ly) • Wonder (-ous) (-ously) Weasel Phrases Use Weasel Phrases to keep the conversation going.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course APPENDIX 1 Course "Cheat Sheet" • SPEAKING POINTERS o The "Cool" Factor You don't have to be cold. • If you were to . emotions.... o o Page 123 . to convey a sense of drama and intrigue in what you are saying in a way that "captivates "people and makes them want to listen to you. Fast. and well-placed pauses.. Pause? Energy And Enthusiasm Using energy and enthusiasm when speaking so that people can become energized and enthusiastic about listening to and being with you. use Adjectives And Adverbs Trance Words Help to get the subconscious mind of the listener to be more of apart of your conversation..

. interest.. o o • MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures Move. Point away • Positive statement. Point away. Linking After getting someone to experience good feelings and emotions. • Can you do this now. • Move! Point! Linking Gestures Towards And Away • Whenever you say something negative.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o Embedded Commands Use embedded commands repeatedly and in the proper context. and accentuate what you are saying in order to be more compelling as a speaker and to get even more attention from your listener or audience. a smile. • Use "That" and "Those" when referring to anything negative. laugh. link them to you so that YOU become something and someone that they feel good about • Now with me • In me • In myself • with this • these • this belief • these feelings Easy-Linking • Use "This" and "These" when referring to anything positive. to create a compelling will on the part of the listener follow you and listen to you. Easy Linking Expanded Pointing With This. intrigue. Say "this". gesture. point or gesture towards yourself. Easy Anchoring When the person you are talking with displays a positive feeling of some type. Say "that". Say "these". That. point or gesture away. • Whenever you say something positive. Point to you • Negative statement. Those • Positive statement. etc. touch them to help anchor it to you. motion. • Point Or Touch On Positive —* o o o • LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES o Pace And Lead Pacing and Leading allows you "be " in the conversation for a while and gain rapport and information. These. Point to you • Negative Say "those". allowing you to move things more in your favor later on Page 124 ..

the more Y. in order to provide more power to what you are saying • At The End Listing at The End is a way to provide several options (which may differ) but to emphasize the option that YOU want. LAST • Burying Items Listing . thoughts. the More Y. etc.) • Then you will "Y" Where "Y" is something you want them to experience (Lead) o Give Them A Reason Giving a reason will make people more apt to do things for you and agree with you. b. keep the discussion focused on a topic that serves your purposes. or to maybe see if you can get someone to agree to it! • a. and/or interest.Bad • One option . and incorporate the language tools • This thing vs that thing • How two things are similar • How two things are different • Good . you can get away with an outrageous or very direct option by burying that option in the middle of a List.another option o o o Page 125 . More And More If you want to lead someone through a series of steps (actions. or giving an example. experiences. and C When making a point. a way that you want. B. The more Y. the More Y. "List" several things briefly in order. etc. understanding. B. The More Z. and c When giving examples or options to someone. Compare And Contrast Use this technique to keep the conversation going.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Show agreement. or giving an example. and C When making a point. Listing • General Listing General Listing is a way to quickly provide several reason. the More Z. acknowledgement. which support your point • A. • As you X. • Request X because (of) Y. statement. • Topics and Subjects • Mindset or Frame of Mind • Current Reality • As (while) you are "X" (Pace) Where "X" is something that is true in their current reality (perceptions. etc. "List" several things or examples which support your point. Then start to move or shift things in a different way. but mention the one which YOU want to put the most emphasis on. • a. or thoughts) use "More and More " as a way to string them together (and increase your chances of that happening • The more X. statement.Burying Items is a way to mention an outrageous or very direct option for "testing" purposes.

Mini-Challenges • You seem.. or want to be perceived as having? • Talk to them and find out.. • Using Their Own Processes • Find or assume what someone wants • Create an opportunity for them to get it or demonstrate they have it • Make that "demonstration" work in your favor. feelings... • You might see . to be a way for them to get what they want. etc). • You might. idea. • You seem as if.\ Universal Wants You can assume that most people want these.. • Challenge them to demonstrate it. allowing you time to gather information and link yourself to good thoughts. feelings and emotions to yourself. can (use smart. discuss. Parts Of A Person Use Parts of a Person as a way to find. do it. • etc.. • If you are able to . feelings and emotions.. • You may .. • Break it down into its component parts and discuss them..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o Parts • • Parts Of A Subject Discussing many of the parts of a subject keeps the conversation going. and beliefs. • Are you able to . • Maybe you can . • Link good thoughts.. o Opportunities And Challenges • Find out what someone wants.. assume there is a part that will work WITH you. • I wonder if you can . • Challenge them to do that. • If you can . or show it... or adventurous. • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control Particular Wants What does she want to have. and evoke favorable states.. • Use the language tools in the discussion. • Take any subject... • The smart people I know. or point in a discussion...... • You seem like . or fun... —* • • • Page 126 . even when the other person claims or demonstrates that such parts are NOT there • For every part of a person that will work against you. • Find a way to map what YOU want..

Are they ready to take advantage of that (this) opportunity? • Does she really want X and see how Y can get that? • Does she really have X... fun. Advanced Conversational Management To direct the conversation into even BETTER areas. positive and interesting."Where can I go that is fun. or show what they have. • Repeat. by doing Y? • Does she want you to THINK she has X. think of general navigation • She Must Be Engaged In The Conversation! You need her to talk.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • Opportunities.. • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control " • Excitement Challenges Challenge them to get what they want. • Don't engage in conversations when it's NOT about positive.. fun..-and do Y to get it? • Can she do Y and make it happen? • Can she see that Y will get her what she wants? • Can she trust herself enough to do Y? o • Ambiguities — CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT o General . • Navigation Don't think of an exact plan. listen and be IN the conversation! • Conversational Dynamics Topics flow from one to the next. interesting things. General Conversational Management To steer the conversation in a good direction. •• Show interest when someone discusses positive. positive. Consider the wants and needs that a person may have . interesting things. • Introduce topics that are fun. and see how doing Y would demonstrate it?> • Does she have what it takes to get X. • Can she see an opportunity to have "X".. and interesting?" " Move the conversation in that direction. steer the conversation towards directions that engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way o o Page 127 . • Topic Turning Point The process of moving from one topic to one of 6-8 relevant topics • In general. Creating Them -. then . she may have to do Y to prove that.. bring up positive.. fun. interesting things • Keep thinking ..

Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Move the conversation in that direction. fascinating. • Connections • Going for it • Making good decisions Page 128 o . and seductive things. fascinating. Get the conversation there. use the language tools. Conversational Fractionation • Using Conversational Fractionation • Start • Move • Back Up • Repeat • Dead Ends Come Back To Life! • Just back up and start over! Conversational Overview and Review • General Flow • Start on just about ANY subject. and interesting? • Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? • Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. stay there for a while. • Repeat. positive. use as many of the language tools as you can. keep it there.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • o Keep thinking . and get the effect. seductive things?" " Move the conversation in that direction. • Keep thinking . back up a few steps. and while there. • When on good topics. steer the conversation towards romantic. o If you get to a good subject or topic. Repeat. • Where can I go that is fun. by there very nature. bring up images and thoughts that may work for you. seductive tilings? • The entire time: o If you hit a "dead end"."Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. fascinating. use the language tools as much as possible! • What If The Outcome Is Not What You Expected? • Move on! o o • TOPICS o Topics Of Enthusiasm and Passion Few things are more compelling in a person than for them to be passionate about something (hopefully many things) in life. More Advanced Conversational Management To further direct the conversation into even BETTER areas. Seduction Oriented Topics SOTs are topics that.

. • Manage . Amplify these feelings and states by talking. o Wanting to take action or seize an opportunity • Use the language tools. there are easily 6-8 variations on that SOT that you can talk about.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • • • • • o Surrendering to feelings Getting excited Feeling excited Trusting your judgment Taking chances Indulgence Maturity Good decisions Expanded Seduction Oriented Topics . o Talk about these things or listen to you talk about these things o get her to think about these things o get her to feel these things o get her to link them to you. asking. • Get her to.SOTXs For each SOT. Pattern Riffing In Real-Time • Use the Conversational Management techniques to get to good subjects • Look at the interesting topic that she and you are discussing o what is happening o what you know o what she is reacting to o and discuss things which are appropriate.. Those are STOXs. Link and associate these feelings to you. The Complete Conversational Model See Appendix 2 o o • PATTERNS o Pattern • • • • Formula While talking to a woman. and • Look for: o Positive emotions and feeling o Positive sensations (as in physical ones) o Exciting feelings. o Canned Patterns . clarifying. Page 129 o .Look out for SOTXs • Direct 0 Move towards SOTs.Use the conversational Management Techniques. get her to "experience" good feelings and states. Present a Call to action. • Direct . Conversational Model With SOTXs.Great as EXAMPLES • Learn and know some of them they may be useful.

o The Best Pattern Is This: • Get her to talk and think about positive. interesting. • Use the language tools so that YOU become associated with those things Page 130 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • Use some "act now" languaging. and sensual things. exciting.

. Those) MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures o Linking Gestures (Towards And Away) o Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This. That.. These.Point Or Touch On Positive And Negative LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES o Pace And Lead • Topics and Subjects • Mindset of Frame • Current Reality o Give Them A Reason o Listing " General . That.) o Easy Anchoring .At the End • Burying Items o More And More o Compare And Contrast o Parts " Parts of a Subject • Parts of a Person o Opportunities And Challenges • Mini Challenges " Opportunities And Challenges o Ambiguities • • • Page 131 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course APPENDIX II Speaking and Language Tools "Cheat Sheet" • SPEAKING POINTERS o Voice Tone And Tonality o Pacing And Pausing o Energy And Enthusiasm LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS o Adjectives And Adverbs o Trance Words o Weasel Phrases o Embedded Commands o Linking o Easy-Linking (This.

Positive.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course APPENDIX III The Complete Conversational Management Model The Complete Conversational Management Model General Mgt. and Interesting Advanced Mgt. Seductive SOTXs SOTs The Complete Conversational Management Model Page 133 . Fascinating. Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way More Advanced Mgt. Romantic. Fun.

Fun. fascinating. positive. back up! If you move back to a general topic. start over! Page 134 . Fractionate If you take a wrong turn....Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course The Complete Conversational Management Model (continued) Start a Conversation Manage the Conversation Move the Conversation in a Good Direction Steer towards .Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way . Steer towards . Steer towards .. Especially when at or near SOTXs and SOTs. interesting ..Romantic.. seductive things Direct the Conversation Pay attention when Good Subjects come up (SOTXs) Listen for anything a step or two away from an SOT Move towards SOTs Stay there as long as you can Use The Language Tools! As much as possible.

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