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Dave Riker's

Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course

A structured training program that teaches the language and conversational skills of Speed Seduction .

Workbook
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Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course

Table of Contents
Page No. Title Page Legal Notices Table of Contents Product Content Product Protection and User Consent Formatting and Conventions Acknowledgements Forward Registration Important Note About Exercises and Assignments 1.0 INTRODUCTION AND GETTING STARTED i ii iii vi vi vii ix x xii xii 1 D1-T1 Disk and Track No.*

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Overview
Why Is This Course Needed? What We Will Handle, and How Investing In Yourself, Or Not Can We Change The Way You Speak? Manipulation and Ethics Concerns SPEAKING AND LANGUAGE

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Speaking Pointers 7 The "Cool" Factor 7 Voice Tone and Tonality 7 Pacing and Pausing 9 Energy and Enthusiasm 10 Language Tools and Details 12 Adjectives and Adverbs 12 Trance Words 13 Weasel Phrases 15 Embedded Commands 17 Linking 19 Easy-Linking (This, That, These, Those) 21 More Tools 23 Pointing and Gestures 24 Linking Gestures (Towards and Away) 25 Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This, That, These, Those ...) 26 Easy Anchoring - Point Or Touch, On Positive 27 Review 29 LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES Pace and Lead General Pace and Lead Techniques 31 31 32

* Disk and Track Numbers References to the CDs and the tracks on them are shown in a format such as "D2-T4", which in this example refers to Disk 2, Track 4.

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Table of Contents (continued)
Page No. 3.1.2 3.1.3 3.1.4 3.2 3.3 3.3.1 3.3.2 3.3.3 3.3.4 3.3.5 3.4 3.5 3.6 3.6.1 3.6.2 3.7 3.7.1 3.7.2 3.7.3 3.7.4 3.8 3.9 4.0 4.1 4.1.1 4.1.2 4.1.3 4.1.4 4.2 4.2.1 4.2.2 4.2.3 4.3 4.3.1 4.3.2 4.3.3 4.3.4 4.3.5 4.4 4.4.1 4.4.2 4.4.3 4.4.4 4.4.5 4.5 4.5.1 4.5.2 Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects Pace and Lead-Mindset Or Frame Of Mind Pace and Lead - Current Reality Give Them a Reason Listing General Listing Listing - At The End Listing - Burying Items Listing, Pauses, and Emphasis.. Listing Review More and More Compare and Contrast Parts Parts of a Subject Parts of a Person Opportunities and Challenges Using Their Own Processes What Do People Want? Mini-Challenges Opportunities and Challenges Ambiguities Summary CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT Challenges Detailed and Specific Plans Are Just Not Workable Navigation Example Navigational Strategies Are Needed She Must Be Engaged In The Conversation! How Conversations Happen Conversational Dynamics Conversational Model Topic Turning Point General Conversational Management Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Want How To Steer Conversations, Moment To Moment The Model With Strategy and Tactics In Place Exercises and Assignments Summary Advanced Conversational Management Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Really Want Steering Conversations Moment To Moment The Model With Advanced Strategy and Tactics In Place Exercises and Assignments Summary More Advanced Conversational Management More About Getting The Conversation To Go Steering Conversations Using More Advanced 33 35 38 39 41 41 43 45 48 48 48 51 54 54 58 61 62 62 63 64 69 69 71 71 71 71 72 72 72 72 73 77 79 79 81 82 83 86 86 86 88 88 91 93 93 93 94 Disk a n d Track N o . * D5-T12 D5-T20 D5-T29 D5-T32 D6-T1 D6-T4 D6-T15 D6-T24 D6-T36 D6-T37 D6-T38 D6-T54 D7-T1 D7-T4 D7-T15 D7-T34 D7-T36 D7-T38 D7-T40 D7-T43 D7-T64 D7-T66 D8-T1 D8-T1 D8-T3 D8-T4 D8-T5 D8-T10 D8-T12 D8-T13 D8-T14 D8-T15 D8-T16 D8-T16 D8-T19 D8-T23 D8-T25 D8-T32 D8-T33 D8-T33 D8-T35 D8-T38 D8-T39 D8-T46 D8-T47 D8-T47 D8-T49

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and Follow The Course Be Willing and Prepared To Put Energy Into Congratulations! Well Done! EXAMPLES.6.1 4..7.7.3 5.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Table of Contents (continued) Page No.5.4 7.1 7.. 94 96 96 97 97 98 99 99 99 99 101 101 102 104 109 111 115 115 115 116 116 119 119 119 119 119 119 121 Disk a n d Track N o . .2 4.4 7.3 4. . Conversational Fractionation The 1-Shot Beeline Fallacy How Fractionation Works Using Conversational Fractionation Dead Ends Come Back To Life! Conversational Overview and Review Conversational Management Approach What If The Outcome Is Not What You Expected? Summary TOPICS Topics Of Enthusiasm and Passion Seduction Oriented Topics Expanded Seduction Oriented Topics .3 6. Do The Exercises. .2 5.6.5 6.6 4.SOTXs Conversational Model With SOTXs The Complete Conversational Model PATTERNS Pattern O v e r Pattern Formula Canned Patterns Pattern Riffing In Real-Time REVIEW AND SUMMARY Review Summary Listen. . 4.2 6..7. EXAMPLES.2 4.. * D8-T52 D9-T1 D9-T2 D9-T3 D9-T5 D9-T6 D9-T7 D9-T8 D9-T9 D9-T10 D9-T11 D9-T14 D9-T15 D9-T24 D9-T32 D9-T33 D10-T1 D10-T1 D10-T7 D10-T12 D10-T13 D10-T18 D10-T18 D10-T26 D10-T27 D10-T28 D10-T29 D11 .1 6. APPENDICES I II III Course "Cheat Sheet" Speaking and Language Tools "Cheat Sheet" The Complete Conversational Management Model 123 131 133 Page v .0 The Model With More Advanced Strategy and Tactics In Place.1 5.0 5.4 4.3 7.3 5.0 7.3 4.2 7.1 4.6. EXAMPLES v i e w .7 4. .5 8.0 6.6.4 5.

a "sans-serif typeface).that is simply to show a list of related items. It is also used for subject headings so that these stand out and apart from the normal text. CD Location References are shown using terms such as "D3-T5" in the text. and Assignments are all shown using this typeface (Arial. Page vii . This shows (for example) the Disk (3) and the Track number (5) that corresponds to that part of the workbook contents.As shown to the right Towards the right margin of section titles and headings. If the graphic cannot fit there (due to page breaks) then the graphic is placed on the next available page.Italicized Text is used for emphasis in many cases where boldface text may by nearby. there may be instances when the conventions are not used for the sake of emphasis. The graphics in the latter sections are significant in that they are an essential part of the understanding and leaning. a "serif typeface).A majority of the workbook content is shown in this typeface (Times New Roman. Exercises. graphic titles. . Although there are paragraphs of explanatory text. Italicized Text . these are in most cases presented as a way to augment the content of the audio presentation. styles.Boldface Text is used to emphasize certain text or passages.e. graphic captions. Since the work book is an "outline" and not a transcript. and their use is key to many students' understanding of the concepts presented. or clarity. Lists . Boldface Text . There are certain conventions used in the formatting of the workbook. there is not an exact place in the book that correlates to the start of each and every track on the audio CDs. and conventions have been developed and are used throughout this transcript/workbook. Listen to the audio where an example is presented. Therefore most of the track references are shown at the start of major sections. Not every track number is listed.. Samples of the formatting and conventions used: Typefaces .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Formatting and Conventions The following formatting. and the italics are simply used as a way to show a different manner of emphasis. The audio is NOT an exact duplicate of the text shown in the workbook.. D3-T5 CD Track References . items are presented in a list-like fashion such as this: • Item 1 • Item 2 • Item 3 • Etc. and the Formulas. Graphics are used in the workbook as well. and to make it easier to reference those items at a later time. or major points in the workbook.At times. Text within graphics. A majority of the workbook is presented in an "outline" form. The relationship between these two can be best described by considering the workbook text to be (for the most part) an "outline" of what is presented in the audio. i. However these conventions are guidelines. The written text is NOT a transcript. This shows information that could be considered part of an overall "outline" of what the audio presentation contains. Italics are also used to point the reader towards specific content of the audio CDs. Usually the graphic is shown on the page immediately following where that graphic is first mentioned in the text.

Each Formula is presented in its own "text box" as shown here.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Each graphic has a number and a title of some type. Text Boxes . then that text is shown immediately below the graphic using an indented paragraph such as this. -3) to account for multiple graphics in one section of text. This also may result in some page breaks being in places which are not optimal.If a graphic has text that helps to further explain that graphic. Although this is not optimal. This may require that a graphic be placed on the next page after where it is first mentioned (instead of being directly below where the graphic is first mentioned in the text). Most exercises can be done alone. fact. Exercises. or maybe and Assignment can be done alone by the student. The number is in the format of "XYZ-A" where "XYZ" denotes the number of the section where the graphic is placed.Text boxes are used for very specific purposes in the workbook. Page Breaks . . Assignments usually requier the reader to go out and interact with other person(s) in order to perform them correctly. there are cases where text boxes may actually "break" across two pages. Assignments also call for action on the part of the reader. there are instances where the definitions may be clouded to some degree. A Formula is a way to present a concise explanation of some item. or technique. it is required in order for the "flow" of the book content to remain consistent. Although the difference between Exercises and Assignments is maintained through most of the workbook.The workbook is laid out to minimize the amount of blank space where reasonably possible.e.1 . Formula. Page viii . and Assignments are shown inside boxes such as this. Similarly. and the "A" indicates the number of the graphic within a section itself (i. For example. -2. Candidate Topics Figure XYZ-1: Graphic Title Sub-paragraph . an Exercise may require interaction with other people. This is shown below. but that is a necessity due to the complexity of the book. Exercises are a series of instructions that call upon the reader to do or perform certain actions.

Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Acknowledgements The first and foremost acknowledgement goes out to Ross Jeffries himself. I may miss a few sales because of such a delay. To my coaching clients. Dave Riker Page ix . and MD. and those who have entrusted me to teach you and to guide you. MC. and this wait may have annoyed a few people. who helped me by allowing me to help them. Thank you. Yates Canipe. associates. who have placed their trust in me and allowed me the experience of showing them new and wonderful possibilities for what their lives may have to offer. opening the door for many into the world of self improvement. and have opened the door for me to find many ways of self-improvement and understanding. EVS. / must apologize to some degree for the time it has taken to finish this product. To Dr.. Ross's developments have lead not only to helping many men with this part of their lives. and students (we are each all of these and more) in the TAGR Group. mentors. SP. those who have read what I have written. To those in the original SD Lair group. who was the business genius that brought Speed Seduction® to the masses through seminars and products. most notably Hypnotica. and what is possible in their lives. and for the assistance they provided with this product. The main reason is that I do not wish to release any product until I believe that I am able to provide the level of quality. . Special thanks to my friends. colleagues. but I sincerely hope that the results will prove to have made the wait worthwhile. confidants. Working with these clients was especially instrumental in formulating and perfecting the concepts and teaching methods used in this product. and to all of the Students out there who I have met at Speed Seduction® seminars.. JL. and to help you in finding the Women or Woman of Your Dreams. SM. the creator of Speed Seduction . but have also shown many the way to a new way of living. To the many experts out there who have augmented the SS teachings by showing me other aspects of the mind. and who has also contributed greatly to helping men change their minds about themselves.insight and teaching that I think is possible. To all of you. teachers. DM.

are NOT in short supply. in fact. should somehow not improve himself. having and sharing experiences with. From that position. as well. or don't know how to present themselves in the best way. or with that special woman of which they have always dreamed. Such men. there are a lot of wonderful women out there who would love to meet interesting men. teachings. I think that is not correct. and for those women. and showing themselves in the best and most honest light. They just have not been taught such things. she should decide to be with whom she wants to be with by having opportunities. spending time with them. And I am here to help correct it. They are the ones that really don't know how to introduce themselves. interesting. are the ones that really DO look at this area of their lives. helps to provide these women with an even better choice. and in many cases the efforts of men to solve this problem on their own have been met by smallminded criticism and slander. that I create products such as this. Whether that be as friends or acquaintances. Page x . I think that many men. Sadly this is most apparent when it comes to men. and decide to move forward. (and more importantly a LACK of information in some cases) that can prevent such connections and moments from happening. A woman should never "settle". learn. And. other people. so that they really may share wonderful experiences of ALL types with women. One of the biggest tragedies of life is that there are things. or the kind of man. to make an informed choice. As if the interesting. good-natured and well-intentioned man. information. or whether a man uses this information as a means to improve his chances of finding one special woman. Having many interesting men available. that they will want to spend time with as well. Many men through no fault of their own have grown up to be adults and have had little instruction or assistance in a very important area of their lives. And it's a shame for these women to be wanting for their company. most women will be far better off and have much better chances with the kind of men. and set forth upon a path to improve this area of his life. and options. and grow. Whether a man decides to use this information as way to embark upon a period of his life which involves casual romantic interludes. or "compromise". This is so sad. They don't know how to keep a woman's interest. take action. is up to him.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Forward One of the most wonderful things about life is the idea of connecting with others. Good. there are a lot of great men out there who would like to meet interesting women. women. So. The women of the world will be better off in their own way. for some reason seem to be in short supply. There are many such men out there. He will be able to decide for himself which he feels is the best option for him. At least then he will be in a position of choice. who was simply deprived of an means to "learn about" how to meet and talk with women. the idea of simply communicating with and sharing experiences with the other half of the human population. I know of many women who are always distraught that they seem to not be able to meet good men. It's for these men. and sharing experiences with them. and introducing themselves. charming men. intelligent. the best men. some of the most wonderful moments of life are brought about by people. whether this time has any sort of romantic or seductive component or not.

even though this product is intended to be read. Get out there. the benefits are meant to be for both men and women alike. Study. and applied by men. and women. Dave Riker Page xi . So in my own way. So guys . or Woman. of your dreams. And good luck in finding The Women. read.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course So.. somewhat happier and able to enjoy their lives even more than before. Learn. Have fun. Apply. my goal and my hope is that this product will make men.. understood.

Conversational Skills The ability to manage conversations is needed as well. These techniques all need to sound and be "natural" to actually be effective. If you are her "type" you don't need this. then on some level. and on you as well. to use these language skills naturally as just a part of the way they speak.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 1. Some guys don't need this. You will have this way of speaking as a PART of who you are and what you can do! Guys need to be trained. pay attention. Present a series of exercises and assignments. but this will help you if you are not. there is a need. seeing what is needed. Instructions for each are provided. This program is based upon experience with countless students. Welcome to Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course. Page 1 . and get the full benefit of everything this course has to offer. If you follow along and do the exercises. You are not going to sound like this or talk like this all of the time! Just in the way that you shift and change how you speak now in different situations. The purpose of this workbook is to: • • • Provide an outline of the material covered in the audio program.1 INTRODUCTION AND GETTING STARTED OVERVIEW Dl-Tl Welcome and Thanks. consciously and subconsciously. and "reprogrammed" in a way. You are already on your way! This course works on many levels. So even this "intro" section is starting to work for you. you will do so in the future and use these techniques as well. We will be teaching you the detailed language skills that will really help you. you can change the way you speak as well.2 WHY IS THIS COURSE NEEDED? D1-T10 If you are here. Listen to it. Language Skills What works? What makes the successful guys able to use these technologies? Partly it's the ability to actually "talk" in this manner. This workbook is meant to studied along with a series of audio lectures that are recorded on CDs. We will teach you ways to easily manage conversations so that they go in interesting directions. 1. and what works in the field. along with spaces for written responses where necessary. Provide additional explanation of some points that are covered in the audio program.0 1. some people do this naturally.

Sure.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course You have to be PROGRAMMED to do this so you can have a conversation. • Working on several "levels" of you mind at once • Models to arrive at an overall understanding • Left brain and right brain are both addressed • Conscious and subconscious minds are both given what they need for real understanding and retention. Other parts of the language tools you may have to "think" about. that is important. respond to input immediately . and be a part of it.. Real Time "Occurring immediately . but if you are "thinking" too much.Enthusiasm and Passion Topics .. Page 2 . Not inside your head "thinking" about "how can I use this?"! 1. listening. but that's your left brain talking! We are reprogramming many years of your experience. then you are not actually IN the conversation! You need to be engaged in a conversation.. listen. some of the ways that you speak now will be reprogrammed so that speaking in a new way will be natural. talking.. not a "trick". interacting." Guys need to stop the worrying about "Doing something wrong" It's only "wrong" if you are TRYING to do or be something you are not. must react to a steady flow of new information without interruption. Guys need to be able to just "do this" and "talk this way" in REAL-TIME. so we need to approach this in many ways. so let's define and explain it for you. many times! • In fact we have already started! Where Does This Material Come From • From SS Teachings. and how people speak. AND HOW Topics Speaking Pointers Language Tools and Details Conversational Management Conversational Fractionation Topics . but it's really YOU talking! Guys are too focused on "how can I use this" when in a conversation. • Other teachings about language.Seduction Oriented Topics Patterns and Riffing Examples Dl-Tl5 What Methods Are Used • Describe and explain the details of the techniques • Explicit examples of how the details work • Examples throughout and within the discussions • Examples section at the end.3 Major • • • • • • • • WHAT WE WILL HANDLE. This is a term that will be used throughout this course. for a while at least. You need to integrate skills to the degree that they ARE a part of who you ARE. some things will sound quite familiar. In a way. how it is learned... • Things may seem to "repeat". • Exercises to develop understanding and skills • Assignments for you to do in the field. responding.

do whatever you need to do to listen to this course a LOT. OR NOT D1-T24 Any real change requires you to make an investment in yourself using energy. Changing that will take some time. and who may "try" to listen to the course. or not? There are various ways. Other SS products will work well. and engagement. and this is much easier if you have an active life where you can have many conversations. • Get that "Mind-Momentum" going to help you change and improve. From working with clients and seeing what worked and how they were able to change. • Having a good social life will help you. to give you a real roadmap to actually learn the material. • Follow along in the workbook if you can • Do the exercises and assignments! • Listen over and over. • Get some other written material to work with for this course. The Ways To Study And Use The Product • Listen to the CDs. Also maybe get a romance novel or two. and this journey. If you need to make your own copies for use in multiple locations. new. However. see what works for you. Many of the assignments will deal with talking to people. the more you will get out of it. You will need them because you will have assignments that deal with these. However. The best way to listen to this course is while also reviewing the workbook (especially in the conversational management sections). and being open to what benefits this program can bring. Is this information. keep those copies to yourself. effort. If they just "try" it. So. Applying a structured methodology of step-by-step methods. Be wary of those people who may want to "borrow" a copy. and engagement into your effort to really learn and use these materials. but in terms of THEM really being willing and ready to change. • Is there an "optimal way" to use the product.4 INVESTING IN YOURSELF. as assigned or as required. However. Page 3 . there IS some overlap and duplication with other products and systems. the more you put into it. do the exercises over and over. The Mind-Momentum Principle At Work • Get energy. do the assignments over and over! • Be patient. both audio and written materials. We are reprogramming years and years of you "speaking" in a certain manner. effort. a concept that was brought up earlier. the emphasis here is training you to do it for yourself. or revised? Yes. By embarking upon this course. • Be prepared to have a place to practice for this course! You will need to be able to speak out loud to do many of the exercises. 1. making it a part of YOU. listening multiple times in any setting also has a lot of benefit. do it! But please.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • From personal experiences and how I used the materials. • Listen to other products in conjunction with this product. In addition. you are doing just that. • This may seem complicated but the point is to get you SO familiar with the tools that you become the guy who does this! Some Very Important Points • Find all of your current SS products and inventory them. that YOU just DO. many of these people will be those negative types of people that will then dispute the benefits of this program! Why? Because THEY have not invested anything into it! Not just in terms of dollars. and a few women's magazines as well. they aren't really putting themselves INTO it.

its a memorized "thing". Imagine having to "think about" how to talk. 1. trying to "remember" what to say. at will Engage in conversation Manage conversations Yes. hold you back.5 CAN WE CHANGE THE WAY YOU SPEAK? D1-T26 Is this really possible? This sounds difficult. It Is Possible! .But This Is A Different Type Of Learning.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course People must be engaged in the process to get its benefits. its YOU being YOU! You cannot fail at being YOU! The approach in this course is different. Those who are not. you heard it in context. But that's not how you learned to talk! You learned to talk when you were a child . sentences. and you started to form the ability to speak and communicate based upon that! Page 4 . you heard it a lot. etc. paragraphs. where you learn skills piece by piece. Immersion is the key. • • • • • • • • This might be good as a learning TOOL. at every moment! Some people want to try to memorize. you heard it. Not as congruent. You keep trying to "remember" things. Don't let their lack of willingness to improve themselves. It makes guys nervous. You will end up "memorizing" thing to some degree. about grammar. because you will hear it so much! But a LOT of what is being conveyed here is learning by EXAMPLE. just being YOU. some structures. Plus it's not YOU talking. And actual assignments. • • • • • • You will get some details. Most people want to approach this by learning bits and pieces • • That's good in a way. there is a "right" and "wrong" way to do it! But if you are just TALKING. But it's tough to do that. some models. but only indirectly." So. where you use the skills in the real world. How People Initially Learn How To Speak • • • • Sure in middle school.by hearing others around you speak! You were IMMERSED in language. because it addresses that analytical part of your mind. will not benefit. Then it's about a "performance. there is no "right" way or "wrong" way. then its easier. kids are taught about language. consequently. It's less effective. but to then USE it in conversation is difficult. Can we literally change the way you speak? • • • • • • • How you select words Create phrases Form sentences Pick topics Speak passionately. Also progressive exercises.

trade. where I am just DOING these things all during the program. based upon feelings that when using them. • Break it down into small parts. and who and what YOU are! Using these skills will be less of an "act". Page 5 . more a part of YOU. more natural. Exercises and Assignments to Teach You the Skills • Skills Training like any sport. how you communicate. Real-World Skills.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course This Course Uses Many Techniques To Train You To Have Workable. deep ethics issues and blocks many guy's success. With THIS approach HERE. Various Training Methods • • We use a lot of repetitive training methods so that these techniques have a better chance of becoming "automatic". or craft. "it's not me" or "I am just using a trick or technique". We will have you become familiar with the range of ways of speaking and sounding. and be more of WHO YOU ARE. it's not about throwing something AT her. so that you will have more ability and more flexibility to do what is appropriate MANIPULATION AND ETHICS CONCERNS D1-T32 1. like when I say "here is an example" Implicit examples. which we go over and over. Examples • • Explicit examples.6 Many guys have been uncomfortable with using many of these skills. we will change the way you talk so that it will be easier. This causes some real.

how they make you feel. focusing on generating your voice from your nose. something you are interested in. how interesting you are. how calm you are. That's the "allure". but if you really want to work on this even more. etc. a sense of being relaxed and calm • It also allows you to express some energy and excitement at different times. there are great products and examples of this elsewhere. Listen as the examples demonstrate: • Speaking through the nose • Speaking through the mouth • Speaking from the chest Exercises for Speaking Pointers Grab some reading material of some type. to be cool.2 Voice Tone and Tonality D2-T2 Listen to some examples of different tones of voice. even some of the materials from other products. how they sound. Cool does NOT mean to be boring and to put people to sleep while talking! The coolest people are the ones that are FUN to talk to and fun to be with! You don't have to be cold. "Cool" comes from being calm and sure of yourself. That "cool" feeling comes from being calm and speaking in a relaxed fashion. Too many guys "try" to be cool but actually come off as COLD or even worse. reserved. The audio section demonstrates these options quite well. Your tone of voice really conveys a lot about who you are.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. and even goes a bit over-the-top to really help you to understand what is being discussed. that there is a "fire" beneath the surface. If this is a challenge for you. and this time focus on speaking by generating the sound from within your mouth (or.1 SPEAKING AND LANGUAGE SPEAKING POINTERS The "Cool" Factor D2-T1 D2-T1 Guys want to sound "cool". and read it aloud. not out of nervousness. That's what women like. focusing on the back of your throat might make this easier to do). but giving the impression that there IS more. Read several paragraphs. but because it's appropriate to the situation.1. do this for several minutes. calm.1. This is good as long as it's not BORING. there ARE products that focus JUST on this area and you may want to invest in those. Page 7 . We will work on this here in this course. 2) Read some more of that material out loud. and what people like in general. and says a lot about you. 2.1 2. Examples: One way to think of this is to consider "where" your voice is generated from in your body.0 2. Why is this important? • Great voice tone conveys comfort. BORING. 1) Take some of that reading material.

Focus on dropping your voice down from your nose/mouth. make a note to yourself as to how you are speaking. Can you recall how you spoke? Did the way you sound in that situation sound like any of the examples you just did? See the similarity? Assignments for Speaking Pointers These are your first real assignments in the course.in the real world! To get the most benefit from this course. and recall some time in the recent past when you were kind of nervous or fearful. relaxed-confident). Real-world experience will really help you to not just "know" the skills. and where you are speaking from (your nose. or chest).Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 3) Now read some of the material. Make notes below for some of the conversations and see if you can see a correlation between these items. See how relaxed it actually makes you feel and how you really need to BE relaxed to do this! 4) Take a moment. SOUND relaxed. Day/Time Who you spoke to Speaking from? How you felt. and whether or not you DID it! Day/Time Who you spoke to Situation (Where) Did you DO it? Page 8 . but this time really focus upon generating the sound from deep within your chest. with whom. comfortable. 1) Over the next few days when speaking to anyone. mouth. but to actually HAVE the skills. where you were. Assignments are where you are given a real task to go out and do . it's important that you do what you can to REALLY make a point of doing these assignments. and make them a part of who you are. really make a note to speak lower. Relax. 2) In the next few conversations you have with people. Also. and really focus on having that voice generated from your chest. Make notes below as to when it happened. make note of how you felt (nervous.

Being able to vary your pacing and pausing can help a lot to convey a sense of intrigue and create interest. Too fast? Too slow? Hurried-nervous? Hurried-excited? Slow-confused? Page 9 . and this time focus on reading in a quick and hurried fashion. and charismatic presence. as we discussed in the past section.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Strategic Formula for Speaking Pointers Use your best tone of voice (speaking from your chest) to convey a relaxed. but this time read it slowly. (Maybe even be aware of where your voice is coming from. Focus on reading in a very hurried fashion as if you are very nervous. but this time read it in a slow. Read several paragraphs and do this for several minutes. or almost a sense of panic. powerful. in a manner that makes you sound as if you are very confused. comfortable manner.) Assignments for Pacing and Pausing 1) Over the next few days when speaking to anyone. but go ahead and convey excitement in your voice! 3) Now read some of the material. and then far far too slow. There are many variations: Listen as these are demonstrated • Hurried showing nervousness • Hurried showing excitement • Slow as in hesitant and/or confused • Slow in a way that is deliberate and relaxed Exercises for Pacing and Pausing Grab some reading material of some type.1. even some of the materials from other products. make a note to yourself as to how you are speaking in terms of your pacing and pausing. first very very fast. Speaking too quickly can show tension. 4) Now read some of the material.3 Pacing and Pausing D2-T15 Listen to the examples where some various pacing is demonstrated. 2) Read some more of that material out loud. or don't quite understand the content. 1) Take some of that reading material and read it aloud. Something you are interested in. deliberate. Why is • • • this important? Correct pacing and speed of delivery conveys comfort. relaxed. 2. and shows that the speaker is relaxed.

and if you DID it! Day/Time Who you spoke to Situation (Where) Did you DO it? Strategic Formula for Pacing and Pausing Use variations in pace. 2. to convey a sense of drama and intrigue in what you are saying in a way that "captivates" people and makes them want to listen to you. to convey a more relaxed and deliberate manner. YOU act boring. where. If they do or say something that is interesting to YOU.. Day/Time Who you spoke to What type of pacing and pausing? 2) For the next few days. • This also allows YOU to convey how interesting someone ELSE is as well. you get stuck in fewer boring.. Who cares? Why does this matter? • Most guys are just TOO BORING. energy. YOU can show an appropriate amount of energy and enthusiasm.. dead-end conversations. Page 10 . Make note of when.4 Energy and Enthusiasm D2-T26 Listen to some examples of how this can sound . start to focus on changing your pacing and pausing. just make a note of this after-the-fact and write that down below. or bored. enthusiasm. who. When someone else is being boring. and well-placed pauses.1.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Slow-relaxed? You don't have to change it yet. then you can show more enthusiasm. and excitement when appropriate. By doing this. It's good to have the ability and range to display passion. • If someone else is being interesting.

other products. etc. dry topic. do that for 10-15 minutes. and how your respond. BE BORING and show no enthusiasm at all. Do this for a good 10-15 minutes.. 2) For the next few conversations you have with people where you ARE interested in the subject. taped lectures. Again. animated. 1) Watch and listen to some speakers talk about a boring. Note how even if the material is something you do NOT care about. their tone. 2) Watch and listen to some speakers who use a lot of energy and enthusiasm when they are talking! Really pay attention to how they speak. and that are excited about. whenever someone is talking about something boring.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course The audio section demonstrates more details about sounding boring/bored and also sounding as if you have energy and enthusiasm. technical presentations. their pace. Strategic Formula for Energy and Enthusiasm Using energy and enthusiasm when speaking so that people can become energized and enthusiastic about listening to and being with you. Read it OUT LOUD in an exciting. Read it OUT LOUD in a boring. that a good speaker can really grab your attention with their energy and enthusiasm. Again. and how much (or little) energy is conveyed. and how much (or little) energy is conveyed. energetic voice. which bores you. and read that aloud in a boring. Think as if YOU are convincing a group of people how great this is! Maybe your Dream Job of a lifetime is dependant upon YOU speaking well and showing how passionate YOU are about this! Do that for a good 10-15 minutes. your car. and BE BORING. monotone. do that for 10-15 minutes. Really pay attention to how they speak. bland voice with no energy or enthusiasm. make sure it is something that YOU are passionate about. When you respond or talk back. their tone. women. go ahead. and read THAT aloud in a way that DOES show energy and enthusiasm! Make that sound as convincing as #4 above. Exercises for Energy and Enthusiasm Grab some reading material of some type. even some of the materials from . monotone voice. go ahead and SHOW your enthusiasm! Be energetic in how you speak. 3) Get some written material that you have NO interest in. maybe sports... your work. Watch on either TV.. 4) Get some written material that really DOES interest you. Page 11 . 6) Take that earlier written material about the subject that you are NOT interested in and that really bores you. whatever it is. 5) Take that written material that really does interest you. bland. Assignments for Energy and Enthusiasm 1) Over the next few days. something you are interested in. their pace. how you listen.

) 3) Read that text OUT LOUD. Page 12 . Most Adjectives and Adverbs are qualitative. 4) Think of three recent conversations you had when you talked to someone about something that you REALLY liked. or they are too factual and leftbrained. not the logical side of a person. They sound cold. nouns and verbs. Note whom you were talking to. boring. Adjectives will describe THINGS (nouns). Cars. talk about it in a descriptive way. • Their use must be automatic. and sensations.1 Adjectives and Adverbs D2-T40 Listen to an example where many of these are used in descriptive language. Maybe say those adjectives or adverbs and put more energy into those words and emphasize them in some manner. 2..2. and stress the adjectives and adverbs in it. Day. Who you spoke to Subject 5) Now.. (Maybe highlight them in some manner.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. talk about each thing or subject again. These words modify or in some way describe. but this time. It's good if YOU are also interested in it. Re-live it. use more Adjectives and Adverbs. and uninteresting. and the subject you were talking about. we are working to appeal to the emotions. Remember. sports. add more descriptive terms to it. and more ways of talking about processes. while Adverbs will describe ACTIONS (verbs). out loud. whatever. If you really like this subject. 2) Read it. feelings. movies. Most guys are too dry in their speech. you should be able to do this for at least 3-5 minutes each. Do this for each of the conversations listed above. Most men could be helped by having more descriptive speech.2 LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS D2-T39 These are the Bit And Pieces • These are the sort of things that can be powerful. and make note of the adjectives and adverbs in it. Examples • Car reviews • Movie Reviews • This course! Exercises for Adjectives and Adverbs 1) Find some written material that deals with something where people are speaking passionately about some subject. but must be done over and over. they are not things that can be measured or specified. because to have to "think about" using them is almost impossible! • You need to be TRAINED TO USE THEM automatically.

their emotional side. "paint a picture" with your words. Day Who you spoke to Subject 2) Write down a few adjectives and adverbs that you could have used in each discussion (refer to a.2. factual. 2. Start with just a few of them. make sure to use some of those adjectives and adverbs in your descriptions. Trance • • • • • Word List Instantaneously Suddenly Find Yourself Convince Yourself Suppose Page 13 . and with whom you spoke. or objective manner. They are not "analyzed" in a conscious. 3) Practice out loud how you would have said those things in each of the three conversations. Be descriptive. and then maybe add some more as time goes on. Trance words help to "open the person up" so that their subconscious. that you are passionate about.2 Trance Words D3-T1 Listen to an example where many of these are used. emotions. Act like you are really having the conversation again. that you really enjoy. so that their feelings. b. and processes awaken.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Assignments for Adjectives and Adverbs 1) Make note of the next 3 times you are having a conversation which deals with something that YOU are really into. Trance words are words that "call upon" the subconscious mind in order for them to be processed and understood. Write down what the subject was. 4) The next several times any of those subjects come up in conversation. is listening and more engaged in the conversation. and c above). Strategic Formula for Adjectives and Adverbs Use more adjectives and adverbs in your speech to appeal to and excite the emotional side of the listener.

6) Pick two subjects in which you are interested. see and hear if you can pick out when the speaker is using Trance Words. You can copy the ones you saw listed earlier. 5) Take the written text from an SS product (maybe from #3 above) and read it out loud. Think for a moment about using those trance words to describe that subject. even something concrete like your job. Look at the Trance Word List above. Doesn't that make it sound kind of "mysterious"? Maybe more exciting? Maybe you can take some normal. almost boring or mundane thing. Highlight or circle the Trance Words in a few sections. like advertisements. or religious speakers. talk OUT LOUD about that subject and see how many times you can use those Trance Words! Subject a. Maybe refer to some of your other SS products and see how many more you can find. Looking at the list of Trance Words above. that's the point! Exercises for Trance Words 1) Make a full list of Trance Words. and see how many of those Trance Words you can use. Now speak OUT LOUD about that subject. Boring Subject Page 14 . See how many you can notice. something that you think is dull. Subject b. 4) Get your SS audio materials and listen for Trance Words (maybe even THIS course here). 3) Get out your written SS materials and look for Trance Words (maybe even use THIS course here). sportscasters. work. talk about it. Maybe play one tape or CD. 7) Pick a subject that bores you.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • Imagine Mysterious (-ly) Wonder (-ous) (-ously) Think of any subject. Write them down below. or school. political speakers. and make it more interesting? Well. but also see if you can add some to the list. Trance Word List 2) Watch or listen to some material where people are speaking passionately about something. and see if you can pick these out. placing an emphasis on the Trance Words when you see them. With that list of Trance Words (above) in hand. See how many you can find and notice how they are used in context.

. Strategic Formula for Trance Words Using Trance Words will help to get the subconscious mind of the listener to be more of a part of your conversation. more interesting.2. Use them when talking to different people. 2) Integrate a few more of these words into your every-day description of those subjects. that's what Weasel Phrases are for! Weasel Phrase List (see if you can add to the list by listening to the audio). If you were to .. and more fascinating? Assignments for Trance Words 1) Pick two subjects in which you are interested.. Subject a.. and using more and more as time goes on..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Even though that may seem a bit strange. What's it like when ... Subject b. to get from one subject to another.. If I were to . • • • • • Have you ever .. doesn't that make it-sound more "exciting". because it may be a bit too forward? Well. As you . Practice working with those subjects out loud some more and see if you can get even more comfortable using Trance Words when talking about those subjects. How do you talk about something without REALLY talking about it? How do you bring something up that may be a bit different.3 Weasel Phrases D3-T14 Listen to an example where many of these are used. Just do whatever you can to start using some of them at first. make a point to use at least one of the Trance Words in the conversation. These also work as transitional phrases. maybe even a bit odd? Maybe even a different topic or change of subject? Or maybe something that you were worried about bringing up. 2. Page 15 . The next time you are speaking with anyone about those subjects (in the real world guys!)..

don't use that one!) Now talk about one of these 4-5 aspects for 1-2 sentences. see if you can use some or all of your favorite weasel phrases when talking about it. we want you to talk about how it FEELS. etc. saying one slowly or quickly. Use different Phrases. Pick 3 of them that seem the most natural to you. that it makes more sense. In a moment. then use another Weasel Phrase. 5) Did that sound weird? Strange? Ok . Do this until you use all 4-5 of the attributes that you listed. 2) Get your SS audio materials and listen for some Weasel Phrases. This is necessary to have the kind of words and subjects that lend themselves to Weasel Phrases. doing it. 2) Note the subject that you used earlier for doing some exercises with Weasel Phrases (exercise 4 above). 3) Take the written SS materials you had earlier. and then use one of the Weasel Phrases and the bring up another "aspect". Assignments for Weasel Phrases 1) Look at the list of Weasel Phrases that you wrote earlier. sensing it. getting into it. Try it again. See if you can pick these out. Talk about THAT one for a few sentences. Just read the SS material out loud. Maybe pausing for a moment before one. and see if you can string things together so that they sound better. (Weasel Phrases tend to provide ways to connect sentences and paragraphs that talk about how something is felt and experienced. after another. but selecting different Phrases to link the aspects together. and do so with an awareness on some level that you are saying and using weasel phrases when they are in the text.. and read some of this material out loud.) Pick 4-5 different aspects of this "experience" that you will talk about. The next several times that you talk about that subject with anyone. Maybe play one tape or CD. For example. Take a moment and try to emphasize them in a way. that seem as if they fit best into your way of speaking about subjects that you may like.. make note of the weasel phrases. It will get easier. Subject Page 16 . 4) Pick a subject in which you are interested. While doing it. the subject might be "going to a ball game" (pick your own. etc. the experience of it.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Exercises for Weasel Phrases 1) Get some of your written SS materials and look for some Weasel Phrases in the text.

. Take a moment and try to emphasize them in some way.2. or more quickly. a place you have traveled. instead "you like this" (car). that you want them to experience. etc. To make it easy. Make a point to "lean on it" a bit. Just say this stuff out loud. • Repetition . and where the person's emotions or feelings are somehow active (This "context" issue is discussed later in the product in great detail in Conversational Management sections. See if you can pick out embedded commands while listening. Think of general statements. your car. 2) Get your SS audio materials and listen for these. Like "feel excited". and do so with an awareness. "see how fascinated" . once. These are not to be sexual or suggestive. lets say you were selling something to someone. Write down things that would make someone interested.). or feel a certain way. or "you want this" (car). on some level.4 Embedded Commands D3-T25 Listen to an example where many of these are used. 2. allowing you to say more (and maybe more provocative things) about a subject. or experience while they are thinking about that subject. "get into it". and read some of this material out loud. things you would like a listener to think about. and incorporate Weasel Phrases into the next several discussions you have about that subject as well. feel. saying one slowly.It's very important that the command be brought up in the context of a conversation that is interesting. but just general things (feelings or states). maybe a car.It's not just about using one. Maybe play one tape or CD. Two key aspects of the use of Embedded Commands are often overlooked. Write down a list of embedded commands. "get excited". intrigued. that you are saying and using embedded commands at the time. Again not "you like that color". after another. 3) Take the written SS materials. your job. These are small snippets of words and phrases which. think of it like this. Pick something that excites you! Maybe the subject is sports. make note of the embedded commands. • Context . feelings. excited by something. its about multiple usage (bombardment)! Exercises for Embedded Commands 1) Get our your written SS materials (written) and look for embedded commands in a few pages of the text. While doing it. Subject Strategic Formula for Weasel Phrases Use Weasel Phrases to keep the conversation going. and to "soften" the way in which something is said..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Select another subject that really interests you. Page 17 . issue a "command" or statement that instructs someone do something. maybe pausing for a moment before one. 4) Pick a topic that YOU are very interested in.just general things that would cause a person to be interested in something. "this is what you have imagined having for yourself. etc. when separated from the context.

Assignments for Embedded Commands 1) Look at the list of Commands that you wrote and practiced that deal with a subject in which you are interested (exercise 4 above). Maybe you work in sales. just enough to put the emphasis on the command. but now focus more on "leaning" on the embedded commands a bit. make some effort to use some of these commands in the context of a real discussion. in the context of talking about that subject. 2) Select another subject that is a part of your life. 6) Do the same thing again. Subject Embedded Commands 3) Practice the use of those commands. The next several times that you talk about that subject with anyone. Start to place some emphasis on the command itself. see just how many of the embedded commands in that list that YOU can say! First. and with that list that YOU wrote in hand. Page 18 . and make it sound natural. Strategic Formula for Embedded Commands Use embedded commands repeatedly and in the proper context. Write down a list of at least 5 commands that work well in that subject. out loud. but something where being influential may help. See how natural you can make them sound. that would assist you in being more influential. work on just saying them and finding a way to bring them up.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 5) Start talking about that topic out loud. Maybe slowing down slightly. to create a compelling will on the part of the listener follow you and listen to you. changing your voice. or school. start using a few of these commands when speaking. Maybe it's not a passion or real interest. 4) The next several times that subject comes up in your life. or maybe it has to deal with your job. pausing.

while looking at you. 3) Take the written SS materials. etc.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. "in myself. she has to actually feel it to some extent. also "this" and "these" as in "this feeling" of "these feelings". Just to "process" what is being discussed. • • • • • • • Now with me In me In myself with this these this belief these feelings Exercises for Linking 1) Get our your written SS materials (written) and look for examples of Linking in the text. The most common linking phrase/tool that guys think about is the phrase "now with me". and getting her to experience. which is an ambiguous way of referencing what she is thinking about. you are talking "about" a feeling or sensation. you are being ambiguous. and then making an ambiguous reference to that feeling using your words. you speak of "this feeling". see if you can add more phrases to the list below. However. then to the deeper levels of her mind. make note of where linking is taking place. Maybe play one tape or CD. if you are talking about a great feeling of excitement that a woman has had or is having. For example. which is ambiguous (non-exact). See if you can pick out Linking Phrases while listening. and make this "link" even more effective. it's easier than you think! Just talking about a subject and getting her to be a part of the discussion. You can also make reference to "in me". "this interest". and experiences that are being discussed and associate or "link" them to you. Take a moment and try to emphasize the linking in some way. 2) Get your SS audio materials and listen for these. when you say "this feeling". the linking tools and techniques will add to this. Are you talking about the "feeling" she had at some time in the past? Are you talking about the feeling she is having right now? • Because you are using terms like "this". you become more associated with those feelings. and talking to you.5 Linking D3-T42 Linking is a way to take the feelings. • However. etc. on some level. and feel emotions. then on some level that is creating this "link".) Page 19 . What is this based upon? • When talking. While doing so. emotions. and inexact.2. as long as there is good rapport). recall. change in voice tone. In some ways. Linking Phrases . she has to feel it on some level (and she will. and read some of this material aloud.While listening to the audio. using some of the techniques that have been discussed in this course (pausing. will "link" them to you. If she is experiencing these feelings in your presence. • In order for her to understand the feeling being discussed. non-specific. ALL of those possible definitions apply! Then.

this will come to you much more easily.2. First.4). or change your voice. with me" after one of more of the commands in your list. Plus the next section will make this much easier! Strategic Formula for Linking After getting someone to experience good feelings and emotions. "this person or thing". link them to you so that YOU become something and someone that they feel good about.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4) Take the list of embedded commands that you created in an earlier exercise (Exercise #4 in section 2. just enough to put emphasis on the Linkage Phrase. 6) Now do the same thing again. Another example would be to take the phrase "Get excited" and turn that into "get excited by THESE things". Doing linking in an exercise like this is difficult and hard to make it sound "natural". You can even add the ever-popular "now. it's much better if picked up along-the-way. where you listed "feel excited".4). you could say "feel excited by this" or "feel excited now" (you can also link things by putting in a reference to NOW). Write down the list of commands and an associated linkage phrase for each below. As you hear more and more examples of this throughout the course.2. see just how many of the Embedded Commands and Linkage Phrases that you can use in your dialog. "these feelings". and using the list above. the linking is ambiguous and doesn't reference you directly. Page 20 . In some manner. Maybe slow down slightly. That's ok.) For example. work on just saying them and finding a way to bring them up. (Again. etc. A quick way of doing this is to simply add "this feeling". Embedded Command Linkage Phrase 5) Pick a topic that YOU are interested in as we did before (it can be the same one you used in Exercise #4 in section 2. This will sound easier for you as we go on. pause. and see if you can "add" text to each to link them to you in some way. This may seem strange and sound a bit "off". Assignments for Linking No separate assignment for this. but now focus more on "leaning" a bit on the Linkage Phrases. Start talking about that topic out loud.

This means they are ambiguous! Consider this and that. For example. Those) D4-T1 Listen to an example where many of these are used. Whereas "that person" refers to someone "away" some "other" person who is not in the immediate area. These. with "these" being the possessive form. Given that one type is possessive. there are times when they cannot be switched. those feelings • These sensations. for that multiple-instance bombardment that we spoke of before! The idea of linking wild. • This person.Possessive (sort of "includes" something) • That . they reference a "thing". Consider four words in the English language: • This • That • These • Those These are forms of pronouns. that direction • This feeling. but do so in a general manner. but that will be quite obvious when you try to do that). and "that" is not. This is a new and very effective way to do linking that is easy to learn and master. use the possessive form when saying or talking about ANYTHING POSITIVE and use the non-possessive form when saying anything negative! Page 21 . these refer to plural items. In this case. these and those are plural • These .Non-Possessive (seems to reference something "else" or something "away") Consider these and those. exciting.2. • These people. a GREAT strategy is to link anything and everything positive to you (and link negative things away from yourself. and one is not. that person • This direction. this & that are singular • This . This and that tend to refer to singular items. So.Non-Possessive For example. (In some cases. seductive feelings to you may be great but.Possessive • Those . who cares? Well these are almost interchangeable! You can switch this/that in sentences as you wish. in general.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. those directions • These feelings. that sensation They differ though in that "this" seems possessive. "this person" tends to sound like the person that is there. So. with you. those sensations So.6 Easy-Linking (This. and included. so you are not using a name or specific reference. those people • These directions. that feeling • This sensation. one "thing". That. or not there at the time. and it can be done a LOT.

or "things about" that subject. That. or singular/plural.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • This That These Those Singular possessive Singular non-possessive Plural possessive Plural non-possessive Anything Anything Anything Anything Positive Negative Positive Negative You can learn to do this (to choose which of these words to use) in real-time through training! Tactical Formula for Easy-Linking Use "This" and "These" when referring to anything positive. For each of these attributes or things. for a good ten minutes. for a good ten minutes. and the correct form of This. out loud. That is not. Those are not. write a small sentence for each. using the correct versions of That. Subject: Attributes or "things about" that subject. These. Those Page 22 . These people are good. Those people are not. Small sentence that includes that attribute. That person is not. and those depending on whether the item is positive or negative. you have discussed a subject (and written a lot of text about it) that is important to you. out loud. These. Exercises for Easy-Linking 1) Say the lines below. This is good. ' 3) Earlier in the workbook. This person is good. 2) Say the lines below. These are good. Use "That" and "Those" when referring to anything negative. That. Write down (below) ten attributes.

and their movement becomes a part of their communication. That. 5) Pick another subject. These. That. 2. Small sentence that includes that attribute. and once again.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4) Talk out loud about that subject for a good 5-10 minutes. beyond the small bits and pieces of language. using the appropriate form of This. and the correct form of This. These.3 MORE TOOLS D4-T12 Now we are getting into a different area. Great speakers use movement to their advantage. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. Anchoring Anchoring is associating a feeling or emotional state to a sensory experience. and Those. D4-T13 Page 23 . These sections help to train you in these types of techniques. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. Subject: Attributes or "things about" that subject. Those 6) Talk out loud about the subject mentioned above for a good 5-10 minutes. and then write a small sentence for each. list ten attributes or things about that subject.

How to • • • do this: Get your hands out of your pockets. Pick something YOU are interested in. and to do multiple times. talking about a subject that YOU are interested in. and then we can work on deliberate movement such as • Pointing towards and away from things • Towards yourself and away from yourself Exercises for Pointing and Gestures 1) Find a good speaker on TV. BE excited! Use your hands and arms for emphasis. maybe a motivational speaker. Most guys are too boring and too reserved when talking. Read some of that text (from an earlier exercise) out loud. point up. passionate. Don't flail about wildly.1 Pointing and Gestures D4-T14 Good speakers use their hands. and way from your sides. etc). Use your hands to accentuate certain points. so that the use of these becomes automatic. to help make their point. 2) Get one of the text lists from an earlier exercise (weasel phrases. and that are very very easy to do. They may be a bit over-the-top (speaking to an audience is different than speaking one-on-one) but just watch them for a while. Then later on see if you can start to become aware of what your hands are doing WHILE you are in the conversation. and that you end up talking about with people quite often. How often are they in your pockets? How often do they just lie by your side and never move? Make note of this after-the-fact. make note of where your hands are when speaking. so these techniques discussed here will help.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Many different types of anchoring can be done and we are only going to cover some very basic tools. political speaker. have energy.3. or even a preacher. etc. and that you are passionate about. etc. Subjects Page 24 . However we will focus on things that can create a LOT of effectiveness. and away from yourself. Get your hands OUT of your pockets and AWAY from your body! Act excited. after the conversation has ended. Watch how they move. and hopefully the conversations are interesting. We will break down many of the component parts of this into skills that we will teach you bit by bit. 2) List 3 subjects that you really enjoy. and some gestures. towards. 2. Move! We will start by generating SOME movement. down. Assignments for Pointing and Gestures 1) For the next few days. embedded commands.

2. and their movement becomes a part of their communication. These. That. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. These sections help to train you in these types of techniques. 5) Pick another subject. Anchoring Anchoring is associating a feeling or emotional state to a sensory experience.3 MORE TOOLS D4-T12 Now we are getting into a different area. and once again. using the appropriate form of This. Those 6) Talk out loud about the subject mentioned above for a good 5-10 minutes. and the correct form of This. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. That. Subject: Attributes or "things about" that subject. beyond the small bits and pieces of language. Great speakers use movement to their advantage. Small sentence that includes that attribute. D4-T13 Page 23 . and Those. and then write a small sentence for each. list ten attributes or things about that subject.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4) Talk out loud about that subject for a good 5-10 minutes. These.

and to send negative things "away" from yourself. • Or hold your hand away from yourself (to send things "away") How to use it • Good to do in the context of being a person that already MOVES when talking! • Make this subtle. 3) With these three subjects in mind. Do your best to re-enact that discussion (say what you said.. make a note to go ahead and move. just start to MOVE. and when anything negative is mentioned. Do something. and animate to some extent the next time you talk about them.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course For each of these subjects. away. Tactical Formula for Linking Gestures Whenever you say something negative. or • You can place your hand on your chest or abdomen in a subtle manner (to link things to you) . Good. away.) 2) Grab some of your written SS materials. but this time use your hands. motion. gesture. etc. Whenever you say something positive. Exercises for Linking Gestures 1) Stand up. point towards yourself. and AWAY from your sides and MOVE when talking about these subjects. Strategic Formula for Pointing and Gestures Move. and accentuate what you are saying in order to be more compelling as a speaker and to get even more attention from your listener or audience.). and MOVE! Do this out loud. point away. Bring Positive things toward yourself.3. Read that out loud. This technique allows you to do this many many times. no need to WILDLY gesture! • You can do this many many times.2 Linking Gestures (Towards And Away) D4-T22 This is a fast and easy way to link positive states to you. ANYTHING. and send Negative things away • You can point towards or away from yourself. or at least be able to move. and MOVE. Page 25 . As you get more comfortable with this. Say the following out loud while gesturing in the correct direction: Good. Bad. point or gesture away. Bad (gesture towards. arms. make a point to get your hands OUT of your pockets. recall a recent time when you had such a discussion. point or gesture towards yourself. etc. towards. and the repetition works for you! • Can do in various contexts.. many people move when talking This technique is most powerful when used at a time when emotions and/or imagination are engaged in the conversation. 2. and others. gesture. very easily. and every time something positive is being talked about.

. Start subtle. 2.3 Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This. passionate. but you don't have to do it every time! That will seem strange! Tactical Formula for Easy Linking Expanded Positive statement. This is veryeasy to do over and over for that repetitive effect.) D4-T30 Now we bring together Linking Gestures and Easy Linking. Exercises for Easy Linking Expanded 1) Stand up. Those" correctly Combine these and use them at the same time! When you say This or These. These. For each of these subjects. make a note to go ahead and use these Linking Gestures to some extent the next time you talk about them. Conversely. point away.. and that you end up talking about with people quite often. Say "these". Say "that". these can be the same as the last set of assignments). Point away. or at least sit where you can move. Use "This. and MOVE. Linking Gestures and Easy-Linking together: • • • Use the pointing/gestures on Positive and Negative things (point towards and away). point away. and hopefully the conversations are interesting. and every time something positive is being talked about. say what you said. but this time when you are speaking of anything good or positive. Those . 2) With these three subjects in mind. etc. Point away Positive statement. have energy. Point to you Negative statement. Do this out loud. point towards yourself and when anything negative is mentioned. when anything negative is mentioned. Point to you Negative Say "those". (yes.3. motion away or place your hands/arms away. points towards yourself.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Remember the text we used in an earlier example here in the workbook? Read that out loud. Assignments for Linking Gestures 1) List 3 subjects that you really enjoy. When you say These or Those. it will become easier and easier. Say "this". recall a recent time when you had such a discussion. Pick something that YOU are interested in. etc. Do the following out loud: Page 26 . start with a few. These. Subjects Do your best to re-enact that discussion. That. gesture towards yourself or place your hand(s) on yourself. That.

Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Point to yourself. you are anchoring them in a subtle way.) with Easy Linking (using This. These. the more effective it tends to be. Strategic Formula for Easy Linking Expanded Combine the use of Linking Gestures (towards yourself when positive. If you are head-on directly in front of a person. and Those. This is more easily done if you are standing at the side or at an angle.4 Easy Anchoring . touch them • they smile. Practice it enough and in connection with earlier exercises.3..Point or Touch. On Positive D4-T35 Let's look at anchoring in light of the 80/20 rule (where 80% of the results come from 20% of the effort). touch them • they seem to go into a pleasant state. it will become automatic. states. touch them! This "Easy Anchoring" works in any context: • they laugh. Page 27 . Do this in a way that maybe makes it seem like you are doing it for emphasis. but actually. and Those if you can. and able to be done many many times. it's good to be close enough (within arms-length) so that the "touch" is easy to do. while pointing towards or away from yourself in the correct manner. Can we apply this to anchoring? Yes! • We need a way to do some basic anchoring that is very simple. touch them This is best done in a "moment" with some emotion. a laugh. Use the correct versions of This. it's more difficult. Point back to yourself and say "these". That. and say "that". These. trying to add in more instances of This. It may be good to anchor feelings. That. or when the person you are talking to goes into a Positive state.. an expression. The more that "emotions" are being accessed. and away when negative. 2. Point away. Also. Point away and say "those" Repeat! This WILL help to train you! 2) Remember the text we used in an earlier example? Speak that text out loud. it's very useful to Anchor anything and everything positive to you! In some ways. we are doing that already by pointing "towards" on positive things and "away" on negative things using Linking. a realization. Those in the correct ways) to associate even more positive feelings. and say "this". But to get even more effectiveness when anything positive happens. That. These. and emotions to yourself. specific states. etc. and thoughts to you but in a general sense.

without really thinking about it. laugh.. just a touch. or Topic being discussed 2) Recall those 5 times. • Think about when you greet a friend. also make a point to make and maintain eye contact as well. and the situation or topic being discussed. Write those down.) Maybe a handshake Maybe a pat on the back Maybe a funny gesture Make a note of the person. you grab their upper arm as well. such as.. make a point to hold it just slightly longer than usual. maybe pat on the back. vividly. A laugh A moment of recognition or realization When someone starts talking quietly. touch them to help anchor it to you. you just touch his or her upper arm or upper back. See if you can recall how it was. Also note the degree of eye contact. but a bit more "deliberate". Tactical Formula for Easy Anchoring When the person you are talking with displays a positive feeling of some type. Person '" Situation. Assignments for Easy Anchoring 1) The next several times you shake someone's hand. Page 28 . (Not romantically. etc. What do you do? You shake their hand. This is the same type of thing. • When joking with someone. • Think about when you meet and are introduced to someone. maybe someone who you have heard about). 2) Spend some time looking for moments (positive ones) where a touch would be appropriate.. directly to you. and note to yourself the correlation between how long the touch lasted and the level of rapport. Exercises for Easy Anchoring 1) Think about the last 5 times where you touched someone in this type of way. interest. intrigue.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course You probably do this already in certain situations. a smile. but yet have some degree of rapport already (maybe this is a friend-of-a-friend. but in many cases.

. maybe you don't touch them. • SPEAKING POINTERS o The "Cool" Factor • You don't have to be cold. That. o Easy-Linking • This. that a touch is appropriate.. Fast • • • Pause o Energy And Enthusiasm • Passionate or Boring? LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS o Adjectives And Adverbs • Be descriptive o Trance Words • Instantaneously. and movement skills that will be used later in the course. when you have the chance.. o Linking " with me. anchoring and associating yourself to positive and intriguing feelings in other people helps to make them feel positive towards and intrigued by you. language. Find Yourself o Weasel Phrases • If I were to . and you have already learned a LOT of the detailed speaking. These. Those Page 29 . in-the-moment. You are noticing this after-the-fact. DO IT! Strategic Formula for Easy Anchoring In general. That. to be cool o Voice Tone And Tonality • Nose. we want you to actually DO IT! So.4 REVIEW D4-T46 We are well on our way.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course At first. Mouth. 3) Now that you have started to notice these "moments" where a touch would be appropriate. but as you notice these moments.. Those MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures • Move! Point! o Linking Gestures • Towards And Away o Easy Linking Expanded • Pointing With This.. Then. Suddenly. These. think "I could have touched them THEN". Chest o Pacing And Pausing • Slow. o Embedded Commands • Can you do this now. 2. see if you can have at least 5 instances of knowing.

we will move onwards to work on Language Structures.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o Easy Anchoring • Point Or Touch On Positive And Negative With these parts behind you. Page 30 . and later to Conversational Management techniques.

move with them conversationally for a while. things that you should not even have to really "think about".1 PACE AND LEAD D5-T2 Pace and Lead . but agreeing is just a special case.0 LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES D5-T1 We have been working on bits and pieces of language. all of the time.. etc. then and give them another way of looking at it. towards where you want things to go. Pace and Lead allows us to "join" someone.. Agree or not agree? .. You might disagree. 3. move them .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3.Can you just knock someone into agreeing with you? Can you be that bold? Yes.. Don't argue! . Now we are moving "up" a level. you might bring up a new way of looking at it.A way to change directions • In someone's way of thinking • In the conversation To make a change in direction in some manner.. show understanding (does not have to be agreement necessarily) and then . and then take them in some direction. You MAY be able to do that. telling someone they are wrong. you might make comments (some that agree and some that may not) but the key is that you are "Taking part in" the conversation and topics at hand. incorrect.. say things such as. Fast and abrupt changes . and more influential in general. it's best to meet or join someone in some way. into higher-level stuff. Changing the Viewpoint or Frame if Mind . It can mean this. but will hopefully at some point. however you can break rapport. Changing Topics and Subjects . acknowledge what the other person is saying.Some people try to display higher knowledge or value by "arguing".. To "Pace" means to just BE a part of the conversation. you are lost. These techniques give you ways to use and arrive at languaging in a manner that will make you more persuasive. Challenges • Can't you just bluntly offer a different view? Yes. or "bigger chucks" as we say.Can you just abruptly jerk a conversation towards where you want it to go? Maybe. These were tactical details. but you must do so powerfully and do NOT look for "acceptance".. o That's one way to see it o I understand your point Page 31 • • . the sort of things that you need to get used to doing automatically. or to try to "impress" them.Some people misunderstand and think that to "Pace" means to "agree". The minute you do anything like that to get someone else's "approval". You almost NEVER impress people that way! To pace/lead well. be able to just "do". but you can break rapport in the process. but you need a lot of power to do it and you risk breaking rapport. Are they useful and possible? • • • Trying to knock or jar someone into a different direction or way of thinking can be risky. For example.

I see • That's interesting • I get it • Hmmmmm . • Ok . Page 32 .. Let me make sure I understand . Arguing! Many smart guys study these techniques and technologies. • Well...it's like this.1.. • Alright. allowing you to move things more in your favor later on. Strategic Formula for Pacing and Leading Pacing and Leading allows you "be" in the conversation for a while and gain rapport and information..... . and/or interest.. Tactical Formula for Pacing and Leading Show agreement. Impressing someone with your knowledge. Instead . understanding. as if you "need" their approval. Maybe • • • • • • continue showing an understanding or interest So what you mean is ..) • Yes.. Ok.. I get it..... and then moving things forward in some manner.. So.. The point here is not to memorize these "lines".. Then start to move or shift things in a different way. I read/saw/heard the same thing . acknowledgement. In addition. showing that you are a part of it... a way that you want. So if I understand this .. I also think you can see .. or.. and some of then want to go out and "impress" people with their newfound knowledge.. it makes YOU look bad. if you attempt to do that... the implication is that you NEED someone's approval. but to really get a sense of being IN the conversation. That hardly ever works. 3. have you thought about this . To TRY to IMPRESS is bad. what you are saying is . Then start to direct things in a different way .BE IMPRESSIVE! People really don't like to be proven dumb or wrong! Most people are offended or "put off by such attempts. Let them know you are listening and understand (using wording such as shown below.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o o That's interesting I see what you are saying...1 General Pace and Lead Techniques D5-T9 Here are some examples of ways to do these steps with example wording for each.

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I hear you, and what else is interesting is .... •-. That's a good way of looking at it, something else that is important is ....

The Formula for Pacing and Leading is ... acknowledge and then start to shift things ... Maybe you want to shift things more and/or bring up another issue or viewpoint entirely (or maybe you actually disagree) • That's one way of looking at it, however I think ... • Yes, I understand, I have also heard ... • Ok, that makes sense, another way of thinking about it is .. • Alright, but on the other hand... Some general methods you can use to introduce the "leading" aspect, you can talk about... • What you know, believe, understand • What a friend or colleague has said • What you heard • What you read • etc. 3.1.2 Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects D5-T12

Lets say you find some people talking about a topic. Do you walk up, interrupt, and start an entirely new topic? No. (Well, you can, but that takes a lot of power and has a lot of risk.) A better way is to enter the conversation, talk about it (Pace), and then move the conversation into areas that you want it to go (Lead). Examples: • You are in a conversation and the topic is cars. People are talking about prices, loans, etc. You acknowledge what is being said, contribute to that conversation (pace), and then start to bring in the idea of how a car handles, how it feels, and how exciting it is to drive certain cars (lead). • People are discussing clothes, various brands, types, etc. You talk about that with them (pace) for a while, and then start to bring up the idea of how clothes make you feel, how you feel differently when wearing different things ... etc (lead)

Tactical Formula for Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects Show agreement, understanding, acknowledgement, and/or interest in the topic or subject. Then start to move or shift topic or subject in a different way, a way that you want.

Exercises for Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects 1) Think about some recent conversations you have had with people about different topics, hopefully these conversations and/or this topic is something that occurs a lot for you (based on interests you have, people you know, etc). Recall a specific "moment" in each conversation. Note what was being discussed, and what point was being talked about. Make a note of each of them. Also note, where did that actual conversation go next?

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Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course What were you talking about in this "moment"?

Conversation with whom?

Where did it go next?

2) Pace and Lead Gently Out loud, practice as if you were talking in each of the discussions above, and paced the conversation and topic, and then lead it in some direction. In this exercise, simply show agreement, understanding, and/or interest, and then lead in the same general direction. Maybe bring up a new example, new point, new issue, but just sort of "take over" the conversation. 3) Pace and Lead in a New Direction Next, for each of those instances, provide an example where you show agreement, understanding, and/or interest, but now start to "move" things in a new direction. Maybe the conversation that you had started at this one "point" and went in a specific direction ... Now, for this exercise, practice taking it in a new and different direction. Maybe introduce a different aspect of the topic or subject, something not mentioned before, or not normally talked about. The key is to first show agreement, understanding, and/or interest and THEN do this "shift", and you LEAD things in a different way.

Assignments for Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects 1) Make note of three conversations that you tend to have with people on a regular basis. Person or People Subjects we discuss

2) The next times these conversations happen, make a point to "Show agreement, understanding, and/or interest" (Pace). Then "Then start to move things" (Lead) in your own way, Do this by introducing a different aspect of that topic, or a related topic/subject. Don't make this shift or change really abrupt or different, just make a point to sort of "direct" where things move, even if that direction is close to where it was going anyway. Just make sure YOU are the one that moves it. Note the text and examples given earlier as a way to do that. 3) Once you can do the above, now make a point to have your "Lead" incorporate a real change of some type.

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Normally, even without your input, the conversation tends to go in a certain way. The earlier exercise had you just keep thing moving in that same direction. Now you are to "take" the conversation somewhere else towards a different or related topic. Just introduce a new aspect of the topic, a different thing, a different direction, so that you are really "leading" where things go. Remember the language that you were shown earlier. Use languaging like... You know what ELSE is interesting You know what * l * have found (seen, felt) Another way of doing this would be .. You know what ELSE can happen ... is ...

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You can change the way people look at things, their mindset, and their "frame of mind". For example, imagine you are having a discussion and people are talking in a certain "frame of mind" (not directly, it's just their way of seeing things). The point here is to acknowledge that frame, and then introduce another way of seeing things, another "frame", or another "mindset". What is • • • • a "frame"? In general it's ... A way someone "sees" something. What it "means" to them. The way they "feel" about it. The significance or meaning that it has.

Looking at the formula for Pace and Lead, you apply that by first acknowledging the current Frame, and then start to lead by bringing up another way of thinking about it and/or looking at it. You bring a new "frame" into the discussion. (This is a way of shifting that way people LOOK at things, the significance that it has, or their mindset regarding certain topics or behaviours). In the earlier example of Pacing and Leading of Topics and Subjects, we were talking just about a thing, a topic, or subject. Now we are talking about a feeling, or the way things are "seen" or what they "mean". For example, people may be talking about: • Taking risks • Feeling good or bad • Having a good day or a bad day • Making choices • What an event "meant" to them • How someone else actions affected them • How a decision affected them. There is a "frame" (of mind) behind each of these discussions and with proper technique, that frame and mindset may be changed. Look back at the "Methods" section earlier for some details and examples of how to introduce this pacing and leading (there are some lists of languaging examples provided). Examples: • You enter a conversation where people are talking about risks, Risks at work, risks in finances, risks in life. You Pace by discussing this for a while. The frame or mindset here is that risks are bad, dangerous,

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or may be perfect but with the wrong hair color (lead). some men will just "write off a woman that is a certain size. some risks have good rewards. Maybe bring up a similar way of looking at it. The frame here is that she has her "standards" and that this is good for her. and you are working to change the way she screens out guys. weight. some risks make you feel alive.Mindset or Frame of Mind 1) Think about some recent conversations you have had with people about different topics. The way they "feel" about it. then start to move into talking about how men do this as well. etc. the frame of mind or mindset is the focus here. Page 36 . The frame you are bring up is how superficial it is to judge based on numbers and details. understanding. then lead in the same general direction. who is like 5 lbs overweight. Just sort of "take over" the conversation. Exercises for Pace and Lead . acknowledgement.. Then start to move or shift the frame by introducing another way of looking at things. the assumption? What is the frame of mind behind the viewpoints that they had? Write down the topic. Make a note of each of them.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course have consequences.. (Risk was framed as dangerous. What it "means" to them. where the point of the discussion in that moment was: The way they "see" something. the viewpoint... Recall a specific "moment" in the conversation. and/or interest in the Mindset or Frame of mind. You agree on some level (pace) and chat about that. and then lead it in some direction. or provide a relevant example. a new meaning. she talks about what their professions are.. (You are shifting her frame so that she may start to look at different things in men. looks for more. Towards a way that you want. now its being framed as exciting). What was the "frame".. Then you start to lead by bringing up the idea that some risks are fun and interesting. Again. understanding. etc). and how anyone of quality . and paced it..Mindset or Frame of Mind Show agreement. and/or interest in the mindset or frame of mind .) Tactical Formula for Pace and Lead . and the "frame" that was in use. the people. In this exercise simply Show agreement... With whom? Topic? Mindset / Frame of Mind 2) Pace and Lead Gently Practice as if you were talking in that discussion. • Another conversation has a woman talking about what she looks for in men. etc. Do this OUT LOUD. and what "kind" of man she likes (height. Note what was being discussed. what point was being talked about.

to find a positive way of looking at the situation. maybe even limiting beliefs or beliefs that really hold them back.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 3) Pace and Lead in a New Direction Next. understanding. and maybe point out a similar example from your own life. provide an example where you Show agreement. Maybe bring up a way of looking at things that is totally different. or something someone said. and THEN do this "shift". Then "start to move things" (Lead) in your own way. These should be of a type where THE "frame" or mindset is something of which you are aware. and they are the one not taking risks someone is prejudiced or judges other people. Do this OUT LOUD for each example. Page 37 . and you LEAD things in a different way.Mindset or Frame of Mind 1) Make note of three conversations that you tend to have with people on a regular basis. etc someone looks at a political issue. Write down these subjects. and the frame associated with each. you are just acknowledging the Mindset or Frame in this example. understanding. Assignments for Pace and Lead . and HE is the one with the limitation someone complains about work and the managers. Think about discussions where YOU can see that these people involved are working on a certain set of assumptions. A good way to do it is to show agreement and understanding. Don't make this really abrupt or different. but really his mindset is the problem someone talks about wanting something different. for each of those instances. and/or interest" (Pace). Maybe find a way. Maybe bring up a different viewpoint or way of looking at it. make a point to "Show agreement. even if that direction is close to where it was going anyway. and their motivations etc. and says they are cheap. and makes assumptions (has a certain frame) about people or groups. but just make a point to sort of "direct" where things move. Basically. The key is to first Show agreement. and/or interest in the Mindset or Frame of Mind but now start to "move" things in a new direction. Do this by introducing a "way of looking at it" that is similar to the one that is already being used. Examples: someone complains a lot. With whom? Subject/Topic? Mindset / Frame of Mind 2) Pace and Lead Gently The next times these conversations happen. Maybe acknowledge and then bring up an opposing view. understanding. or something you heard or read. and/or interest. what it "means" that is not really in agreement with what was said. a frame of reference. some way.

and/or express what is on their mind. A "safe" way to do this would be to find a positive way to look at the situation. or used by very powerful speakers.. Continue to Pace by maybe stating an obvious point about their current reality o seeing XYZ o feeling XYZ o thinking about XYZ o etc. and new way of looking at things.. Again.1. Now you are to "take" the conversation somewhere else and bring up a new mindset or frame of mind..... A friend of mine used to feel the same way and they..Current Reality D5-T29 If you look at the languaging used in things like hypnosis. it might not be that bad. o While you think . but just find a positive way to look at what is being discussed. o You are probably wondering Page 38 • • . Well.. You know... The earlier exercise had you just sort of "run" with that.. (for example. even without your input.. a new aspect of "what it means". another way of looking at it is .. What is done here is that you Pace based on something that is obvious (obvious in their "current reality"). o While you are . This may be different from the way the subject or belief WAS framed or thought of.. o As you realize . or assumed by the people involved. these techniques are used a LOT. o As you feel..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Pace and Lead In a New Direction Once you can do the above.... This is a small-chunk detail and technique..4 Pace and Lead .. point towards a specific Mindset or Frame that is of YOUR choosing. 3. o While you are . o After you have . and then use that to lead someone somewhere. The general way to approach this is: • Start by pacing something that is obvious about their current reality . a new mindset.. Meaning....... "Pace" their mindset.. o etc. o While you see . • At least it's not like XYZ.. and allow the conversation to continue with the same frame of mind in place. now make a point to have your "Lead" incorporate a real change of some type. o As you see . it could be . there was a certain "frame" being discussed. Just introduce a new frame.. but it can work well and adds to the power of the languaging.. using words such as) o As you are .. focus on the Mindset or Frame.. Some ways to do that is by saying things such as.

you will begin to notice this . If you spend too much time saying things similar to "I know what you are thinking"..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • o As you are thinking about o I know you are concerned about o The issue that may be on your mind is o The question you may have is Begin to lead .... Page 39 . thoughts.... Studies have been done with persuasive language that show that giving a reason will make people more apt to do things for you and agree with you. o state what you want them to see/feel/hear/realize Examples: • As you are listening to this program .. it starts to become annoying to the listener... o you will then .Pacing Reality too much can seem arrogant.2 GIVE THEM A REASON D5-T32 Give someone a reason for someone to listen . "As you feel this.. "as you are watching this presentation .. Warning ...Current Reality As (while ) you) are "X" (Pace) Where "X" is something that is true in their current reality (perceptions." • You will hear a LOT of this in this course (which is part of your re-programming!) Tactical Formula for Pace and Lead . what you are thinking.. o you will start to notice o you may realize o you may start to think o you may see how . and "As that feeling builds. 3... o notice what its like as .. The more you hear this. o another thing you will see/feel/notice is . • You are talking to someone at work . Point them to where you want to lead them . the more it will "sink in".". then you are probably wondering .. Really pay attention and see how many times I have done pacing and leading in this manner." • Physical demos use this a lot.) • Then you will "Y" Where "Y" is something you want them to experience (Lead) Exercises for Pace and Lead ..Current Reality 1) Listen to this section again. and do.... Make note of how many times I have paced your current reality... what you are hearing. Rewind or go back a few tracks.... what you are reading.. etc...

then it may be difficult to get people to agree. Write these down. if you say "Let's move over there because it's more quiet" you will be amazed at how much more agreeable the person may be. asking "can I pay by credit card". anything. However. 3) Go through the same list again. and out loud. If you say. lets move over there". Tactical Formula for Give Them a Reason Request X because (of) Y Exercises for Give Them a Reason 1) Make note of the last five times you asked someone for something. Person What did you ask for? 2) Practice out loud how you might "ask" for that favor or make that request again. This technique does not provide a 100% guarantee. you don't need to be concerned about these things. Assignments for Give Them A Reason 1) Make note of five routine situations that you have in your life where you are asking for something. remarkably. Write these down. Page 40 . If you just say. You are not being apologetic or anything. "Is it ok if I make copies next". they may go with you. the addition of this small "reason" will make people much more agreeable and apt to let you do what you would like. It could be asking for coffee. come up with another reason. requesting something. However. "hey. or asked someone to do something. it just helps to make people more agreeable (and there are statistics to support that as well). if you say "Is it ok if I make copies next.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Don't worry about "losing your power" or being too "nice". Examples: • You walk up to a copier at work and there are three people in line. because I am really in a hurry" then. or at least people that are not close friends of yours. The examples will be better if these are people you do not know. just providing a reason. • You are talking to someone and you would like to pull her aside and make the conversation more private. but put in a reason of some type.

• This is somewhat similar to a "pace and lead". which support your point. actually ends up being several points. you get someone to agree and then lead them 3. "List" several things or examples which support your point. provide several. and quite well. point.3 LISTING D6-T1 Listen to an example where many of these are used. See if you can make it automatic. just as an example) • Hypnotists use this technique a LOT. go ahead and mention the "reason". it's difficult to debate them all or object to them all (not to be combative.1 General Listing D6-T4 Strategic Formula for General Listing General Listing is a way to quickly provide several reasons. in order to provide more power to what you are saying. and flow easily. or make a statement. • Training for sales people use this quite a bit. so that your one "opportunity" in a conversation to make "a" point. Page 41 . • When you give several reasons at once. People) What do you ask for? 2) Practice out loud some "reasons" that you could give in these situations. Power in Numbers . • When you give a reason. 3) The next times these situations come up in your day-to-day life. 3. • For the sake of a conversation. statement. or excuse. or giving an example.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Situation (Place. don't just provide one reason. or make a point.Repetition in a way that serves you. This technique has been developed based on observing how many good and influential people speak: • Successful sales people • Charismatic speakers • Good debaters • Component of hypnotic languaging « Very important. the items that you will "list" need to be brief points. Tactical Formula for General Listing When making a point.3.

Write them down. etc. doing some type of work. and maybe 3 different things that support your "point". Z". Then. etc. Who you were talking to Page 42 . and somewhat new (3). Do that out loud. sometimes . but instead you talk ' about each for a few moments. Each of the items in a list can also be much longer." and mention those three different ways.each of which lasts just a few seconds. you may begin to agree. and start to think about in a positive way (3). 5) Think of three recent conversations you have had with people where you were making a point... Pick three ways that can go . and the types of things to which no one would object. playing a game. Mention the first item. as in saying three items . a. so that you don't just say "X. talk about it for a sentence or two.. write down who it was with. maybe watching sports. make them brief. Now try again by expounding on each of the items. partying. For each conversation. Y. listing is like pacing and leading. but as you listen to it (1). then the second. strange (2). what point you were trying to make.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Example (see the listed items shown as 1. and still. the third item may tend to "lead" someone in some way. In many ways.. 3) Pick an example of an activity that you do often.X and then other times . where each lasts several minutes.) • I know this may sound a bit different (1).2.. maybe trying to convince someone of something (NOT an argument-just that you were making a point and would like to be more persuasive). Y. etc. and/or what it's like to meet people. really recall listing to good speakers (2). what are three ways that can go? Good? Bad? Indifferent? Exciting? Boring? Pick three and write these down What are three "ways" that the experience of "meeting people" can go? 2) Now practice out loud by saying something like "Isn't it interesting how you can meet people and it happens in different ways? I mean sometimes .. true. Exercises for General Listing 1) Lets say you are talking to someone about "Meeting people". 3. Activity that you like or do often List a particular part of aspect of that activity What are three "ways" that can go? " 4) Now describe "What its like to do your activity . Now. as a list... Something you are interested in... Listing can be short.. Select a particular aspect of that activity. Maybe your first two items in a list are obvious. briefly.. Z (selecting your items listed above)..

by placing YOUR preferred item at the end. you were just listing several things in a list. suggestion. Who you were talking to Point you were trying to make Three items that support your "point" 6) Recall a specific moment in each conversation. However. Maybe you want your list to contain many options.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Point you were trying to make Three items that support your "point" b. You weren't trying to emphasize one point vs. Who you were talking to Point you were trying to make Three items that support your "point" c. it sticks in the listener's head more. Here is a way to think about it. a table. etc) By doing that. you put more emphasis on it.3. Placing that particular item at the end of a list can have that effect. or different types of alternatives (to a thought.At The End D6-T15 If several items are mentioned in a list (for example a car. we were talking about three points in a list that all were similar. it's easy to think of that Page 43 . 3.2 Listing . the one that comes to mind the easiest is the one that YOU want someone to agree with. activity. Maybe you want to list several options or examples. In the earlier Listing examples. out loud. Normally. Now practice. how you could bring up these three points in a list-like manner. However. it makes it seem as if you are being fair. and tends to make THAT point the most important one. the other. Do that for each of the three examples above. and an elephant) what tends to "stick" in your mind? (The Elephant!) The last item! By hanging an item at the end of a list. at times you want to use listing as a way to highlight or focus upon one item. and just providing a series of options. Therefore.

Now those are different ways of seeing it.. you eventually find this person that on some level. o You know what it's like when you meet someone ... It's just a matter of getting to this person. Say that one LAST and bring up two other options. See? Not only did I have a list of three (1... they sort of fell into several groups o There are some people that.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course one. and then finish with YOUR preferred item. It's interesting though.. you just know . examples... Again let's bring up this example of "meeting people".. you just really click and you feel this connection . interesting.. you know? See how I did that? See how the item which I really wanted them to think about. It may be because you like the resume (a). it could be boring. b. o Other times you get that sort of a "friend" vibe with that person. I know. I put another list within THAT description (a. you meet someone.. maybe it's boring... c)! • • • • • • Strategic Formula for Listing . o It could suck. but by placing "it could be fun" last. this is one of those subtle but very powerful things that many persuasive speakers do a LOT.that is the one (3). o And other times . o May be frustrating to you. and there is just something about this person. Page 44 . When I have interviewed a lot of people. but even when describing that person.. They are not all the same. In general. and the third one "eventually find this person" was the one I wanted to really "stick". Sometimes there is nothing special.. right away. did you notice the use of the words this/that/these/those? Also where do you think I might have been pointing and gesturing during those examples? Job interview o Have you talked to many candidates? Yes.2. Again..A t The End Listing at The End is a way to provide several options (which may differ) but to emphasize the option that YOU want. I mean. or this person presents himself really well (b). or it could really be fun. Examples • • Fun activity. or maybe you are really seeing the power of all of this! I think you can tell which option I was going for! Meeting People. or they just have the right answers (c). you know that those people are NOT qualified (1) o Others you maybe have thought were ok at first. 3). the more convinced you are that that person is NOT the one! o Hopefully though. or instances FIRST. I have had to do that myself at times. lets say you are talking about doing some activity. one after another. but you spend some time with that person (2) and the more that person talks. etc . they are nice. This course. you know . you put more emphasis on it and it tends to make that one "stick" more. was said that at the end? By the way. those people doesn't mean much either way . how they can almost become a blur.

? Write down what the "issue" is. Maybe add a small "list" within that last item (because it's inexpensive. LAST. where you are trying to convince people to do something. and you are all figuring out how you are going to spend your time. Three things that you and your friends could do (activity) 2) Practice. List three possible things that you could do and write these down. out loud. is the item you mention LAST. Maybe add an embedded command of some type. and we always have fun .. 3. and bring up at least two other "options" BEFORE you mention the one option that you want. agree to some point. and what the result is that YOU want. make sure that the one that YOU want to do. but place some more emphasis on that last item. buy some thing. but bury it inside a list. Maybe you want to suggest something very direct or quite controversial and you do NOT want to give it too much prominence. it can be TOO obvious.3 Listing . go somewhere. Go ahead and suggest that item.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Tactical Formula for Listing . You want to mention or suggest something that is quite strong. maybe controversial. If you say Page 45 . and they are haggling or objecting a bit.. and therefore you do NOT want it to stick out too much.Let say you arc trying to get someone to buy something. Issue or Option What do you want? 5) Now. but mention the one which YOU want to put the most emphasis on.Burying Items D6-T24 When using a List.At The End When making a point. In that case. etc. You may want to "test" to see how the person will react to it.3. 3) Do that again. Maybe pause when saying it.At The End 1) Lets say you are going to spend a day or evening with some friends. and seem too direct. out loud. placing something at the end can add to its power and make it stand out. 4) What is an example from your life (recently). or giving an example. etc. "List" several things briefly in order. Examples: • Sales . At times however. mentioning all of these in a list. However. close. talk about the issue. Here is a way to think about it. Exercises for Listing . it makes sense to "bury" that item in the middle of a list. statement.).

and when you say it at the end like that. its your choice. or possibly you still want to negotiate.. more powerful and direct statement in the middle. you don't just say "we can slip the deadline". Page 46 .. it seems a bit easier for you to say it. more "appropriate" items to lighten it up. Very direct. This is also a good way of testing someone's response. you can get away with an outrageous or very direct option by burying that option in the middle of a List. maybe you aren't ready to buy this now.Burying Items is a way to mention an outrageous or very direct option for "testing" purposes. that you are almost "worried" about how the listener may react. lets say you are working on a project and things are behind schedule. So maybe you say something like o "Well. maybe you seize this chance and get it while you can . maybe you aren't ready to buy this now. seems to "lighten" it up somehow. just suggesting.Lets say you have met a women at a party. or to maybe see if you can get someone to agree to it! Tactical Formula for Listing . o "well. But of she smiles and seems interested. There are several options but. Sometimes you have that "direct" item in mind and you surround it with other. and you are talking about you two getting together sometime.. If she gasps and has a look of shock and horror when you make that suggestion. lets say that you want to say something or suggest something that is very direct.Burying Items Listing . See? Putting that one. The idea of " seize this chance and get it while you can" is something rather challenging to say (as the seller) that directly. "let's slip the deadline" might be a problem in some circles! So when people are talking about options to help the project.. maybe it IS too direct.. But if you switch the order. For example. or possibly you just still want to negotiate . we can talk in a few days. or maybe you want it so much. and maybe there is a possibility of you even spending that night together. that you will just seize this chance and get it while you can! That sounds almost TOO forceful. Lets say your idea is so controversial and over-the-top. honestly.. that may be a GOOD sign." Doesn't that sound better? Meeting at a Party .Burying Items When giving examples or options to someone. it's your choice. Instead. we can leave together right now.. or maybe I'll call you tomorrow". one of them is to just slip the deadline. it seems too obvious.. Strategic Formula for Listing . • Instead of thinking about it in terms of a list. It also allows you a chance to watch the persons reaction to it. bury it inside a list. However.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • "Well.

Try saying it with the strongest item at the end. if you do it TOO much or too blatantly. as any opportunities come up where you would like to make an outrageous or quite direct suggestion. see if it seems easier to say. you will probably encounter some situations where you might want to suggest something quite outrageous or direct. Bury the strongest item. Try it out loud. After these situations occur. Situation Outrageous or Direct Suggestion 4) For each of those examples (above) go ahead and practice out loud. and then trying saying that item in the middle. make a point (afterward) to think about that outrageous option. by burying it in a list.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Exercises for Listing . go ahead and create a new item that is very outrageous or direct. Look at the items that were listed and see if one of them maybe seemed very "strong" or "direct". but as with any technique. but do it by burying it in a list. Listing can be powerful. or the most direct item.Burying Items 1) Go back to the previous exercises where you said some "lists" out loud. you may even want to say it in a joking way. Go ahead and change the order of the list that you used earlier. Page 47 . 2) Practice out loud how you would say that list in the situation you used in the previous exercise. For three different situations that have come up in your life recently. it can stand out too much and be annoying. go ahead and do so. If there is not one. 3) Think of some recent situations where you would have liked to mention a quite outrageous or direct suggestion. Assignments for Listing . 2) In the near future. suggesting a List of options but burying that outrageous option in a list. See if you can make it sound natural. but see if you CAN say it. in the middle and see if it is a bit easier to imagine saying that list. and go ahead and practice how you COULD have said it. Situation Outrageous or Direct Suggestion you could have made.Burying Items 1) As you go out and live your life. write down an outrageous or very direct suggestion that you would have liked to make (for each).

while incorporating the language tools we have already discussed. then the more Y.. and Emphasis D6-T36 You may be worried about coming up with three things in a list . then the more Y.. and provide many examples to support it.. Maybe one or more of the items actually has an embedded command in it. to "pull" the listener in.. the more Y Page 48 . so this all works in your favor! Just be interesting enough to keep their attention... In a way. really. this is just a way of bringing together many of the things we have learned.. emphasis. Maybe you want to stress one item more or less. then present it buried within a List of options.4 Listing.. consider this: • We talked about listing . the more Z". 3. then mention several of your points or examples that support what YOU want. you are walking someone through a series of steps or thoughts. think. remember to use emphasis and change your voice tone with the items. changing tone. In a way.4 MORE AND MORE. etc".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3. If you must suggest several different examples or options. Pauses. and see how.. or experience. then.How do you think of them quickly? How do you make them sound natural? Don't worry! It is ok to have pauses! Pauses make things sound more natural and gives you time to come up with options! We talked about the use of pauses as a way to convey some drama and to make things interesting. The general structure here is: • • The more X o where X is something that is hopefully quite obvious and true to the listener .5 Listing Review D6-T37 If you want to get your point across...." "More and More" is just a way to use these and bring them together. 3.3. "the more YOU FEEL this . we are pacing and leading. etc. Lets use this as a chance to really step back for a moment and look at this structure. in a List. and the more Y.. and they WILL stay through the pauses! As you are saying various items in a list. Using pauses. o See how we are listing several items? • We discuss Pace and Lead . but have ONE that YOU really want to emphasize or get people to agree to.3. thinking about languaging such as "The more X. I gave an example (in the audio) of several things I wanted someone to do. if it's a VERY outrageous option. can help to alter how the options (and you) are perceived. and using lists. as in . So. place that item at the END of the List for more power. o See how they are incorporated.. Or. and I just strung those together . D6-T38 You have heard language like "The more X.. o See how that is being used here? • We have discuss language details .

or as Y is happening . or realize Y. The More Z. You are "leading" someone... Instead of seeing this as a new type of language. see it as just a way of using many of the things we have already covered! More and More tends to be best thought of as a "List". as you feel this. which is more of an example of using Pace and Lead of their current reality. present. towards what YOU want.. the more Y. you notice this. and even more so with the next (more. • • • • As you (or while you) X . Page 49 . 3. You can even start by "pacing" a bit more.. . and the more Y happens . then. etc).. experiences. from a general item towards something that YOU want.. etc. the More Y. like a series of successive steps (things you do. If you have something that you want to lead someone through. That's a general version of it. As you X. more and more. etc How to use it. the more Z. or "as you notice X". 2.. • Sell TV sets. and as Y happens o or as you sense Y. or thoughts) use "More and More" as a way to string them together (and increase your chances of that happening.) item. As an alternative. then just list them but use "more" as a way to go from one to the next... Tactical Formula for More and More The more X.) or thoughts (things you experience or think about.. then the more Z starts to happen. THEN make the next item (more... and then use More and More to lead them forward .. the More Z.. o walk someone through though process . Strategic Formula for More and More If you want to lead someone through a series of steps (actions. the more you can notice Y . The small words and verb tenses (past... etc Examples • Convincing friends to go do something that you want to do...) specific. future) can be altered to make it fit well.. The best way to do this is to start off with the first item as quite general.. step 1. with "as X is happening". then. or a new "pattern".. agreeable. and something obvious. you can use "as you" or "while you" as a way to bridge between sections as well. o You can start off with something obvious as a statement to kind of pace them.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course • • o Where Y is something that is a logical extension of what the listener knows and they see this as something that makes sense . The more Y. the More Y..

) Page 50 . Think of three "steps". The first should be obvious. as you. Write these down. what to buy. to get towards doing what you want. etc.. that start off in general. etc . Exercises for More and More 1) Consider the idea of convincing some friends of going to a movie. and bridging between them as we discussed earlier (More. more leading. what project to work on. but more and more get closer to what YOU want. practice saying those in series. as if in a conversation. or series of thoughts or actions. practice and see if you can talk about these one by one. etc. practice saying those three steps. work around it and make it sound natural. "as you" or "while you". maybe an activity. 5) Out loud..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • Talking to a woman . a trip. or have them experience. The first should be obvious. etc. something. You may start with "As you" or "while you" for the first one.. 3) Now out loud. Do the series several times. to get towards doing what you want. who should do what. or something you want to lead people to do somehow. What you were trying to convince a friend to do Three steps. 4) Think of another series from your life.) Write down three steps. What do you want to convince someone to do Three steps. or as alternatives. Do that several times. a movie. 2) Think of the last time you were trying to convince a friend to do something. Don't just say "more". something you convince people to do (or wish you could). something simple. more in your direction. they would end up doing what you wanted... Think of all of the things you can do tonight Realize that going to a movie would be a good idea Going to see the latest XYZ movie (use whatever movie you wish) See how that is a series of steps? Of thoughts? Like leading someone down a path? Now out loud. Think of three "steps". The next is another step in the series. of what you want to have happen. while you. a plan. what to do. something with which you are familiar. and string them together using "more". Think about a series of steps.. the second. if the person followed them. using "More". (Agree where to go to dinner. more and more. a series of thoughts or actions that. that would "walk" the other people through the process of agreeing with you. o Walk her through the process.

and move a conversation.) • Too many guys focus on standard lines such as "So what do you like about X". • This works especially well if the subject of the discussion is one that "works" for our purposes (fun. This method provides a way to keep the conversation going.. this is a means to keep speaking. How to use it. The more that happens. Maybe just try 2 of the 3 steps once or twice. the more you will understand how they fit together. you are able to easily go through such a "sequence". seductive. There are various means of doing this. or else have the person you are speaking with mention it. Just make sure that with that subject. • It also a great way to get information about the person with which you are speaking. So. or various aspects of a subject. becoming more and more convinced. or several different subjects.. to continue. 2) With that "More and More" sequence practiced. But get to the point where you can flow easily through the 3 in a series. A Tactic for Talking • Too many guys let a good conversational subject finish far too quickly. it's just a good way to think about discussing a subject.5 COMPARE AND CONTRAST D6-T54 Listen to an example where many of these are used. Practice that series more! Get very familiar with it. where you could have a series of "states" lead someone through the process of doing what you want. etc. you have two (or more) aspects of a topic. and you discuss these two aspects using Compare and Contrast. exciting.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Assignments for More and More 1) In the exercises.Bad • One option . and piece them together and have it sound natural. You will see that the more you get these bits and pieces.Left Page 51 . Maybe add or change some of the reasoning. you can talk about.. This Compare and Contrast method here gives you a way to talk about and around the subjects at hand. • • Take a subject and either mention another aspect of that subject..another option • Black . the more things like "knowing what to say" and "what pattern to use" will become easier and easier for you! Notice how we are not doing these examples necessarily with women? Wonder why? 3.White • Right . • It's not magical in a persuasive sense. look for opportunities to use that in your life. we had you think of something from your life. • You are just comparing and contrasting things. and even change the specifics of that sequence. • How two things are similar • How two things are different • Good .

As you are talking. and discuss whether the handling makes it better. or point in a discussion . two facets of that subject. You discuss this. what they do not. What is different about each? How are they the same? How are they experienced? What is good? What is bad? etc. and contrast these things. • • Use opportunities to use commands and trance words to create thoughts. Page 52 . • Decisions about a career or job. you can anchor those away from yourself. • Link anything good to you. Examples • One brand of car vs. How do these differ How are they the same Which is good-bad. and talk about its attributes as well. what they like. the offense or the defense. compare. Select another subject. • Maybe what is more important to a sports team.about her) and she mentions various things about that subject. o You select two items. better-worse. easy-difficult. or individual sports vs. Strategic Formula for Compare And Contrast Use this technique to keep the conversation going. taking a position with a more promising future. Use the other language tools during the discussion. idea. and feel those states and emotions for a while as well. her. states. and incorporate the language tools.. Then discuss the other car.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • One aspect . or point in a discussion. • You may talk to a woman. good or bad. o While talking about what she does like.another attribute As you are talking. team sports. and to let the person think about. • Anything bad. feelings. • You talk to someone for a while and she say she likes scuba diving. experience. etc.. this meeting. you can talk about one car. and start to compare and contrast the two. This all provides a good way to allow the discussion to continue for a while. One attribute . Tactical Formula for Compare And Contrast Take any subject.another aspect -. you can use all of the other tools we have discussed. that are good for you. another brand. deciding to focus on making a good living now. o Maybe you start to ask her about it (have a discussion with her . and you start to talk about something she likes and enjoys doing. you can take note of how the person is responding. idea. vs. • Notice what is liked and not liked • Notice any reactions. associate them with things other than you. etc. then discuss these by comparing and contrasting. or its power. keep the discussion focused on a topic that serves your purposes. link away. and this situation that you are sharing. you can anchor and link positive things to you! o While talking about things she does not like.

". Something New Control vs. and talk about it again. Use compare and contrast to talk about each of the attributes that your friend would say they like about that subject. Subject or thing that they like Attributes (things about) that. different computer.. be very aware of the positive and negative things that are being said.. 3) Recall a recent conversation with someone you know.same type of thing (another car. Maybe some of the language that you are using that may lend itself to be embedded commands. and various things about that subject or topic that they like. and compare/contrast the two. etc).. offer the compare-contrast ways of discussing it. change your tone of voice. Be vary aware that even when you are discussing the thing you "Like".. and anchor/link/point appropriately. etc). Be aware of your language! Throw in adjectives and adverbs. then I KNOW that you would NOT like THIS .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Maybe you ask about it. Page 53 . Be descriptive! Use pauses. she mentions various things about it. and this time. etc. computer. that they do like Do the re-enactment again.(because)."Oh. Now think of what is opposite to that ." or .. peace... somewhere else... and negative things . but this time put some effort into being very aware of the positive and negative things that are being said.. Now talk out loud about each. etc. etc. 4) Select two of the following 4 topics. Not-Like" set of things to compare and contrast. She says she likes the aspect of it being very quiet and serene under water. Familiarity vs. As in "so let me make sure I understand this . Also. she finds the experience of seeing new and different things to be interesting as well. Letting Go Safety and Excitement Liking someone mentally and/or physically o • • • • Exercises for Compare And Contrast 1) Pick some possession that you have that you REALLY like (car. bike. and those that are not good. and this time. Re-enact that conversation again. This example uses a very obvious "Like vs. In addition. o So we talk about the feeling of quiet. clothes. Something that you like Something that is opposite 2) Now take that same topic. and put effort into correct linking/anchoring/pointing to associate positive things to you. your pacing.. so if you like THAT. and serenity on one hand o and compare and contrast that to the feeling of something new and different on the other. the same holds true even when discussing what you do NOT like. that within that may be attributes that are good. different style of clothing. where they were really describing or talking about something they like. Be mindful of that and anchor/link appropriately.

etc. of having all of the positive aspects of Safety. that is fun. etc.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Control vs. then talk about all of the various aspects and parts of it. it's too weak. and say (for example) "what do you like most about scuba diving" or "what is the most fascinating thing about. There ARE many things that people tend to THINK of in an "either-or" way. Parts. theme. this doesn't necessarily show that you Page 54 .Who wants to talk about something that you are NOT interested in? However. some are bad • Talk about the good parts. Excitement. link them to you • If the bad or boring parts some up.. For example. you may end up liking the subject and find a new activity for yourself! Don't worry that you will "give the wrong impression" by inquiring and discussing these "parts".1 Parts Of A Subject D7-T4 This is a variation on the contrast principle. and you lose out on spending a LOT of time having them discuss something that she REALLY likes! This is just a way to have a discussion. this provides a good way to train you to be able to talk and ask questions of people. link away Now this may seem tough . Something New Now do your best to speak out loud and "talk" about these for a while using a Compare and Contrast structure. Two types of parts we can work with . it is GOOD to focus on the positive aspects of what she likes. 3.. and that's ALL you discuss. Meaning. Parts of a subject.6. Think about the possibilities.6 PARTS D7-T1 Listen to an example where these are used.. but when you go STRAIGHT for the BEST thing that she likes the MOST. BOTH linked and anchored to YOU. and get them to talk about what THEY are interested in.. If you are talking about an interesting subject. People tend to think you have one OR the other. Who knows. However there ARE ways to have BOTH. topic." and that's ALL they talk about! Yes. exciting. By comparing and contrasting them. and parts of a person 3. YOU are then showing someone how BOTH of these things can be experienced. together. if you are asking many questions about something that is NOT of interest to you. Safety vs. For even more Power There IS a very powerful aspect of this technique that is important to mention. and the positive aspects of excitement. Letting Go Safety and Excitement Liking someone mentally and/or physically Familiarity vs. Too many guys just blow things to quickly. this just helps to keep things moving in a conversation. you can show someone how that can be possible. Some are good.

. etc. Exercises for Parts of a Subject . allowing you time to gather information and link yourself to good thoughts. Break it down into its component parts and discuss them. This is a great way to build rapport with a person as well. sport. or point in a discussion. This isn't just a way for you to ask ask ask HER about things. etc. that an opportunity to talk for a WHILE about something she likes." This technique makes it easier to have conversations with people because THEY are giving you information and ideas for new things to ask about. artistic endeavor. Link good thoughts.Don't just "talk about" Scuba Diving! Or. feelings and emotions.. what people do. that you know. Page 55 . be comfortable talking about all of the parts of that subject. etc. You are just asking. Examples • Scuba Diving . feelings and emotions to yourself. area of interest. don't like. 1) Pick a subject that you like. Tactical Formula for Parts of a Subject Take any subject. like. just curious. Now. know about. o Where have they dived? o How did they get into it? o What's their favorite place? o Do they have their own equipment? o Do they use different types of equipment for different locations? o How long have they dived? o Have they ever been in danger? o Have they taken photos? o Have they met interesting people? o Has this exposed them to any other cool sports or activities? o etc. Use the language tools in the discussion. maybe a hobby. list various "things" about that subject. Subjects come up. and she may have a lot of positive emotions and feeling associated with that . it's hard to talk about that subject for a while. activity. idea. topics come up. but if you start there. don't just ask "What is the most exciting thing about Scuba Diving?" That IS a good question. new things. If she LIKES scuba diving..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course are interested in it (the subject). If someone asks you about this. Strategic Formula for Parts of a Subject Discussing many of the parts of a subject keeps the conversation going. and enjoys. just say "I like learning about people.many of which can be linked to you.

but hopefully this "subject" is something you are not really into. If you have trouble. Now. and you have heard him or her talk about this. or Things About. a job they like. Now think of something that THAT person is interested in or they are involved with. or maybe someone in your life that you don't know very well. passion. if your subject was football. like a co-worker. maybe pick a different "person" as your subject. Person: Subject: Parts. Someone that you recently met. Maybe their hobby. etc. what parts about football would you want them to ask about? For your chosen subject. maybe a cousin you hardly see or talk to. You should easily be able to come up with 10-20 items. Subject: Parts.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course For example. and you were going to have someone (who knows very little about the subject) interview you and learn all about football. Page 56 . make a list of these parts. what would you ask about? What are all of the various things and aspects of it that YOU could inquire about or that could come up in a discussion? These are the "parts" of that subject. someone you met at a party. This should be someone you know well. if you were going to talk to them for like 30 minutes about that subject and were really going to ask them about it. You should be able to come up with at least 10 items. or Things About. etc. That Subject: 2) Think of one of your friends or family members and some activity or topic that THEY are really into. Write these down. That Subject: 3) Now think of someone who you are NOT close to (that you do not know that well).

and were really going to ask them about it. And of course the entire time. Page 57 . like the exercise above. don't know really well. off the "top of your head". or Things About. Person: Subject: Parts. Again. but with which you are NOT familiar.. you should be able to list at least 10 items. who is interested in something that you are NOT familiar with. Now. out loud. That Subject: " 4) Think of another person and subject. Person: Subject: Assignments for Parts of a Subject 1) Sometime soon. while YOU are there And you are linking and anchoring things to yourself Using all of the language tools and details And that person is finding YOU so fascinating and charismatic . but with which you are NOT familiar. They are talking about something THEY like Thinking about it. Make a point to ask about many different parts of that subject. and feeling it.. when you are speaking with a person you do not know hardly at all (yet you feel you will be able to talk to them for 10-15 minutes). when you are speaking with a friend or family member that you know well. The subject they are interested in is something with which you are NOT familiar. make a point to have a good 10-15 minute conversation about a subject that THEY are really interested in. experiencing it.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course The key here is that this is someone you don't see often. make a point to have a good 10-15 minute conversation about a subject that THEY are really interested in. Make a point to ask about many different parts of that subject. 2) Sometime in the future. what would you ask about? What are all of the various things and aspects of it that YOU could inquire about? What are the PARTS you could ask about? Write these down. You know the person but you are not real close to them. mention like 10-15 different things you could ask or inquire about that subject. If you were going to talk to them for like 30 minutes about that subject.

In many ways. etc. This can be VERY powerful. (where XYZ is a different or maybe the opposite behavior. "parts" are meant as in a personality trait. etc. more spontaneous side to them. just looking for the right time. fun.. etc. • Acknowledge the first part that is being discussed..." • There will be a lot of this shown in examples here in this section and at the end of the program. that adventurous side is just waiting to come out. a way of acting or being is being discussed (and one that does not necessarily work in your favor) . directly or indirectly o For example. there is a more adventurous part to themselves • If a person is outspoken...6. or view. a "side" to the person. In fact a friend of mine is very shy and one time. verify it. "you may have the other side" o or by example "I know someone like that." o "You may have (or do have) another part (or side.. • If a person is shy. and then say (for example).. their reactions. their way of walking through and looking at the world. adventurous . a way of thinking. or parts. they are quiet." • Bring up and acknowledge the fact that there is "another" part. etc" • Discuss this new or other "part" o "With many people. In a discussion." • If this new or other "side" works more in your favor. we are also reframing! We are changing the way they look at things.. there is a more decisive. or part of a person. there is a more quiet side • If a person is well-thought-out (thinks things through and takes time). and they feel that way. if the person is shy o "I understand how some people are shy. Page 58 . if a personality trait.. that XYZ part". Discuss. or way of looking at it. that part of the person or type of behavior that DOES agree with you). make it be experienced. or has the same wishes that you do. o Either in general like "there may be another side" o or more directly. experiencing it.. in a way you are also using Compare and Contrast as well. and I have found she has this other side." o "Many people like that also have another side to themselves. A key concept to think about is to ALWAYS assume that there is a part of someone that does agree with you. great.2 Parts Of A Person D7-T15 Listen to an example where this concept is used. another part hidden away. that is more . You do not want to appear to challenge or invalidate and personality trait that is being shown. Don't Confront. or normally don't "do" certain things? • Then talk about that first (shy) part. link it to you. Let's break this down.. lean more on the language and linking tools to bring it out. o "When you start to listen to this adventurous side . Let's say you are in a discussion with someone. they hold back.. exciting part of a person is being discussed... etc.. or reserved. Because you are discussing several things. etc)" o "I know someone similar who as this other part to themselves.. what she did .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3. or side. • What if it is not? What if they say they are shy. and start to discuss and validate that OTHER part. • "That's because there is another part. In this context.... • If an adventurous.

. you are NOT discussing this as to say.. and what I noticed about her is that she also has this other side to her. deep down.. they like to play things safe. • Maybe someone says they can be jealous. or part of the person (mostly something which has a negative connotation) Acknowledge that personality trait.. Introduce and discuss that "other part" in a way that works to your advantage. too confrontational. so be careful. This one side ... • Maybe someone is secretive. Remember. having a conversation. etc etc etc. and 3 that are opposite.. but it can be handled . assume there is a part that will work WITH you. People have many sides to themselves. or part of the person that is somehow related (which works in your favor) or somewhat opposite.. There are also other sides to people .) Exercises for Parts of a Person 1) What if someone says..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • Many times you don't want to say "because there is another part" because that seems too direct. was also "Y". "you are wrong" or to show how smart you are! You are just talking. even when the other person claims or demonstrates that such parts are NOT there. way of thinking. ." Strategic Formula for Parts of a Person Use Parts of a Person as a way to find. and beliefs. (not good in a person. Traits similar to "Being Boring" Page 59 . "I am boring". it may sound like you are arguing or challenging the person. Well. Find a personality trait... discuss. o "Well... I understand you have that side to you.. o "I have a friend who was "X" (where X is the trait being discussed). Tactical Formula for Parts of a Person For every part of a person that will work against you... feelings. that can work in your favor. • Maybe someone lies . You can work around this issue (of possible confrontation) by saying things like o "I think another way of looking at that trait is . way of thinking. o "A friend of mine does that as well... way of thinking. Examples: • Lets say that a person says they are not into taking challenges. and she realized that she. o "I was reading somewhere about things like that and what it was saying was. etc... or part of the person by discussing or addressing it Think about a personality trait. What personality traits (or what other parts or ways of thinking) are similar? Which are somewhat opposite? Write down 3 that are similar.. and evoke favorable states. that may be true but also there is another part of them .

5) From the list you just made (and selected from). and some of the variations mentioned for language examples. 6) Lets say someone says "I am not into meeting any new people right now" . use this/that/these/those . or ways of thinking) are similar? Which are somewhat opposite? Think about 1-2 that you could use. Page 60 . pick another part or trait. and some of the variations mentioned for language examples. and 3 that are opposite. Imagine a conversation and how you might do this.. and then bring up this other "part" that you selected. but this time. Now do a similar exercise again out loud. maybe do some linking an anchoring.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Traits opposite to "Being Boring" Of those that you listed. 3) What if someone says that they are shy? What personality traits (or what other parts or ways of thinking) are similar? Which are somewhat opposite? Write down 3 that are similar. which could you maybe "use" in a good way? 4) Think about how you would discuss that shy part. which could you maybe "use" in a good way? 2) Think about how you would discuss the boring part. Practice this out loud. etc. Practice this out loud.. Traits similar to "not into meeting any new people" Traits opposite to "not into meeting any new people" Practice out loud how you might first discuss "I am not into meeting any new people right now" and then transition into the other parts or traits that you selected. Imagine a conversation and how you might do this.. be aware of opportunities to maybe mark off an embedded command or two (or more). What personality traits (or what other parts. Look at the formula earlier. Look at the formula earlier. and then bring up this other "part" that you selected. Traits similar to "Being Shy" Traits opposite to "Being Shy" Of those that you listed..

see if you can notice them WHILE talking to someone. Just notice the trait or part being mentioned. Opposite (or similar?) trait or part that might actually work in your favor Conversation with Traits or parts that were discussed. make a note of these traits or parts.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 7) Do the above example again. You have probably heard the phrase "structure opportunities. make note of when you are having a personal conversation with anyone. An easy way to do this is when a friend or acquaintance is being self-deprecating in some manner. acknowledge it. etc could you discuss? Try that out loud. See if you can note that "part" of who they are. Assignments for Parts of a Person 1) For the next week or two. and has been a bit difficult for many to really understand Page 61 . WHILE talking to someone. trait. This area has caused some confusion. but ROW see how many of the speaking and language tools you can use. start to bring them up IN the conversation.7 OPPORTUNITIES AND CHALLENGES D7-T34 Listen to an example where I structure opportunities. trusting their own judgment. 8) Lets say someone says they have trouble meeting new people. or parts. 3. 2) After you have become more comfortable noticing such traits after-the-fact. 9) Lets say someone says "I only like dating my TYPE"? What other part. and offer challenges" many times when studying these materials. You don't have to discuss them (yet) just make a point to note these traits.? What other part.. Or. being open. etc could you discuss? Try that out loud. or mentions a "way of thinking"). and then find a way to discuss another part that is more favorable or positive. and offer challenges to you on the audio. see if you could maybe think of an opposite one that could be discussed.. 3) Now that you can recognize these traits when talking to someone. and then point out some other trait or part that might work in your favor somehow. See if what they are saying describes or is pointing out any personality traits (or a "part" of themselves. trait. See if you can arrive at a similar part or trait that you can discuss that could be used in your favor. After the conversation. or putting him or herself down for some reason. Use the formula and the variations mentioned earlier.

" • This is NOT about arrogance. and wants to be seen as intelligent. Challenge them to demonstrate it. You then find some way to set things up so that choosing to listen to you. • Use these general things and assume they are there. or want to be perceived as having. but may not be the most effective strategy.7.1 Using Their Own Processes D7-T36 If you know what people want to have. For example if someone is intelligent. o You are saying in a way. You are in. In this section.7. you are just showing that YOU have standards. 3. or be with you. you are using processes that they ALREADY have in their minds. then they already have mechanisms for that in their mind. Why this matters. Strategic Formula for Opportunities And Challenges Find or assume what someone wants Create an opportunity for them to get it or demonstrate they have it Make that "demonstration" work in your favor. • These are also good and convenient for practicing and examples. then by using their existing desires. o This is the opposite of pleading and the "pedestal" scenario. • Show that you are qualifying and screening to some extent. It's good to somehow work with structures and things that are already in someone's mind. • Show that you have standards. these concepts are broken down and offered to you in a way that will truly help you to be able to use these powerful techniques.2 What do people want? - D7-T38 "Universal Wants" = Good. or like to be perceived as having. do it. Universal Wants • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control • Excitement Page 62 . and that you believe in yourself. using motivations that a person already has.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course and utilize. effect. this can be very effective. "You may be beautiful. Work with universal things that people would like to have. or show it. • It's easy. is a way for them to show their intelligence. If you can somehow frame or map yourself as being a way for a person to fulfill things that someone already wants. 3. but I am looking for more.

o The smart people I know... or be seen as having "X"... Mini-Challenge Cheat Sheet o You seem .. What does she want to have. o If you are able to ..3 There are certain things you can assume that most people may want to have.. what she likes to do... o Maybe you can . o If you can . You are challenging an ASSUMED desire (a "Universal Want"). her interests..... You can imply a "test" for these things by issuing a mini-challenge. o Talk about some of yours and see how she reacts. o Talk about what she does. along with the Universal Wants listed earlier! • We assume here that with a mini-challenge.. or adventurous. o You seem like . o You seem cool enough . etc • Finding these particular wants and desires o These "wants" can be possessions.. o You seem as if. • Mini-Challenges o You might get this . etc). o Try using some of the above items. that's even better. but if you can find or work with specific wants or desires. o etc. or want to be perceived as having.. o You may . can (use smart.. or maybe a value.. by listening to me or agreeing with me".. o I wonder if you can . o You might. or an image she wants other people to have of her... or fun. o Always have the question below in mind. and challenging them in a way that says. wants to have... and discusses what is important to her She mentions something she likes or dislikes about a past boyfriend..7.. o You seem like you may have good taste o etc.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course "Particular Wants" = Better! What does THIS person want? • Notice o o o particular things that this individual would like to have or be perceived as having She mentions wanting respect She defends her position.... o You seem smart enough .This technique can be overused. and it can really annoy people if you do! Page 63 ... "you can show me that you have the thing you desire. o You might see . Warning . or want to be perceived as having? Mini-Challenges D7-T40 3. we are using one of these sort of "universal" wants. o Are you able to . o Talk to her and find out what she wants or needs.

. Creating Them Consider the wants and needs that a person may have . or be seen as having. or been seen as having You can assume based on normal things that people want (Universal Want) or Get information from talking (Particular Want) Create an opportunity for them to get or demonstrate "X". "Show me you have that thing by listening and/or agreeing with me" or. (and again. • Challenge them to see if they will follow through and take action to get it. • Create an opportunity for them to get that • Make it so that them "getting" that works in your favor.. and Mini-Challenge Cheat Sheet.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Tactical Formula for Mini Challenges Assume something she wants to have. • Universal Wants • Particular Wants Opportunities. • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control • Excitement Page 64 . here we have to "assume" things for the sake of teaching) . "By listening to and/or agreeing with me.7. • Find what someone "wants". you will show me you have that". or hopefully find. What does someone Want? Assume.. by doing "Y" Make "Y" something that works in your favor. in a way. 3. Make a statement that says. and see how many combinations you can come up with. Exercises for Mini-Challenges 1) Try piecing together items from the Universal Wants List. what someone wants..4 Opportunities and Challenges D7-T43 Think of it like this. Tactical Formula for Opportunities and Challenges Find something "X" that the person wants to have. Challenge the person to do "Y".

.. even if their friends don't approve.. or some way for this person to capture the opportunity • Provide an example of something she can say or do. Create the opportunity for them to show or demonstrate that they have or are perceived as having. o Mention how confident people can meet someone new. on their own.. by meeting this "challenge". • Maybe point out something a friend did . o They can go against the grain. • Confidence . • Here is how I read/heard that someone else had or was able to get X. Examples. or want to be seen as having Structure this so that it is something that YOU would like them to do.How can you create an opportunity for someone to appear confident (that works in your favor)? o Discuss people that YOU know. and how the confident ones are able to take chances and have fun.. by doing Y? Page 65 . talk about DOING them. Talk about those things.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course You need to create an "opportunity" for each of these. or show what they have.. o Talk about how confident people can make their own choices. o Let the person demonstrate how confident they are. • Mention something that you have read. • Provide a way to demonstrate that they DO have what they want. where this opportunity benefits you (and hopefully pertains to the situation). • Here is a way a friend of mine showed that they have or was able to get X. and/or HAVING them. o . Provide an example of someone. • Provide an example from your own life. How can you make that sound like a way for them to "show" something? How to create an opportunity? • Here is a way for you to show me that you really have or was able to get X. Challenges Are they ready to take advantage of that (this) opportunity? Challenge them to get what they want... Maturity . Examples: • Does she really want X and see how Y can get that? • Does she really have X. something they want... and feel very comfortable with that. what does a mature person do? How are they seen? How do they react? o They make their own decisions o They trust their own judgment o They can decide to do something NOW.Think about maturity . o They can do exciting things. and see how doing Y would demonstrate it?> • Does she have what it takes to get X.

". I don't know if you are adventurous enough for this. and say something like "well. their own intuition. then . Page 66 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • • • Does she want you to THINK she has X." Adventurous o Maybe she wants to feel adventurous. • Find a way to map what YOU want. These are your "Assumed Wants". They want X. You discuss success for a while.. how she may be adventurous. Some examples are shown below... Is she ready to take chances? Take risks? Do something different? Maybe not .. Success o Maybe "success" is important to her. Can she see an opportunity to have "X". as long as you trust yourself enough to feel that is OK .. You talk about a friend who has always wanted to feel secure. or be perceived as having. you mention "We should get together sometime.. It's different from the way most guys think. Assumed Wants 2) Write a Mini Challenge for each if the above items. It's NOT about creating an argument! Again. • Find out what someone wants. Exercises and Assignments for Opportunities and Challenges 1) Make a list of some assumed things that many people may want to have. she may have to do Y to prove that. to be a way for them to get what they want. and do Y to get it? Can she do Y and make it happen? Can she see that Y will get her what she wants? Can she trust herself enough to do Y? etc.. Later. she actually felt more secure about being able to take care of herself. but. what this means to her. • Challenge them to do that. and mention that you read somewhere that successful people tend to be able to trust their own judgment. I mean. • • I know this is tricky. Then at some point you talk about you and her getting together.. and she found that by taking chances and risks. to show or demonstrate that? Examples: • Security o Say she wants to feel secure.... Are they ready to do Y. You talk about that for a while. there are others shown earlier.

friends. write down something that each wants to have. and focus on using these. Practice these more. quite unique. Person What they want to have. Hopefully these are specific to them.. and NOT just things from the "assumed" list. co-workers. 5) Think about some people that you know quite well like family.. or wants to be perceived as having. out loud 4) Make a note of some of the ones you practiced that seem closest to something you could easily say or do with people in your life.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course "you seem like ." Mini Challenges 3) Practice the list of Mini Challenges you just created. or be perceived as having Page 67 .. For each person. etc... and go out and actually USE them for a while. "lets see if this makes sense to you "see if you can follow this . Write down these "Wants".. "you may .. Note some of your favorites ones below. "you might.

etc? Give that some thought. and they spend a LOT of time practicing. are they ready? Can they take action? Can they DO this? Write down these "Challenges". Is there a way to create an "opportunity" for them to get or achieve that? Can you somehow create an opportunity that can be "mapped" in some way towards yourself. and write them down. Person Opportunity for them to get what they "want" that somehow works in your favor 7) For each "want". want to do what you wish. You are "mapping" it to you because by doing what you discuss.A friend wants to be really good at a sport. Example .. and how can you "map" it to yourself? Write down these "Opportunities". Some way that questions . they will be doing something that YOU want.. What is the opportunity.) So you challenge their dedication to their sport by saying "I was reading about really good athletes and one thing that was pointed out was that a lot of them really can get burned out. Person Challenge 8) Practice each of those "Challenges" out loud. The good athletes find a way to relax and have fun. or that in some way could be interpreted. see if you can create a "challenge".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 6) Consider the "want" that you identified from each of those persons above. and that allows them to be better at their sport." The "opportunity" is for them to be a better athlete. even subconsciously. See if you can make it sound natural. (You want that friend to lighten up and be able to spend more time going out and having fun. Page 68 . as making them look at you more positively. and "opportunity".

These are those words or phrases that can mean more than one thing. Although there could be a section in this course that deals with these areas.) o Easy Anchoring .. 3. These. • SPEAKING POINTERS o The "Cool" Factor o Voice Tone And Tonality o Pacing And Pausing o Energy And Enthusiasm LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS o Adjectives And Adverbs o Trance Words o Weasel Phrases o Embedded Commands o Linking o Easy-Linking (This. listen. that these become familiar. That. 10) While you are talking to people for the next 1-2 weeks. look at how many items we have covered so far. but in another context. 3. That. you no doubt have heard many examples of "ambiguities". Try to guess. Listen.8 AMBIGUITIES D7-T64 If you have studied this material for a while.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 9) As you become more familiar with these practiced challenges and opportunities.. really focus on what each person desires. What do they "want". 11) For the next 1-2 weeks. do the same in terms of observing desires. see if you can bring them up in conversations over the next few weeks. but now also start to look for "opportunities and challenges" in a way that directs their desires towards you.Point Or Touch On Positive And Negative LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES o Pace And Lead " Topics and Subjects * Mindset of Frame • Current Reality o Give Them A Reason • • • Page 69 . listen. to do things that you would want. Those) MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures o Linking Gestures (Towards And Away) o Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This. so that you have heard them SO MANY TIMES. they mean something different. This is one area that many guys actually ARE able to pick up and use easily if they have listened to the materials enough.9 SUMMARY D7-T66 Bringing it together.. listen. we will not be doing any specific work on Ambiguities. Do what you can to bring these up while in the conversation if you can. given that this IS an area that many guys are able to do (with enough listening) and given the many OTHER areas that really DO need the assistance of a program like this.. but also ask some questions and get into a discussion about it if possible. They may have one meaning in one context.

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These are the building blocks for good Language skills. These are the sorts of skills that are most workable when they are truly "wired in" to someone, so that they are able to be used automatically. To try to "remember" to do such things can be very difficult. That approach would make having a conversation far too difficult and too much work! The best way is to work with these techniques SO much that these truly are just a part of "how you talk". With enough practice, and hearing these enough, you CAN have these become a part of how. YOU talk! So listen, practice, do the exercises, do the assignments, and do that all again, until these really do become a part of you, and a part of how you speak.

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D8-T1 A key aspect of making these tools work is getting the conversation into topic areas that will really work for you. The language tools you studied earlier are best used in the proper context, and in this section, we will learn how to get the conversation into areas that will create that context. Have you had these problems? • You JUMP too quickly into a pattern or topic, and it sounds really strange? • You just THROW a pattern AT her, and get a weird reaction? When you use these tools, or even use "patterns", it's not enough to just "say it", there has to be the correct CONTEXT for what is said! It's a process that she needs to go on and through with you. It's not enough to just find a conversational excuse to "throw" a pattern (or language tool) AT her! This section is about finding ways to just get into an interesting conversation and then towards and onto good topics. We want this to seem natural, and with some understanding, practice, and a few key strategies and tactics it will BE natural and automatic! 4.1 4.1.1 CHALLENGES -a Detailed And Specific Plans Are Just Not Workable. D8-T3

It's good to theorize to "say this", and then "say that", and then to use "this pattern", and "that pattern". However, the problem is that a lot of time the proper context is not presented well enough. The examples you may have seen in other products are just that, examples. The problem is that too many guys have taken them literally! Guys try to do "X, Y, Z," exactly, in order, with no sense of calibration, or being able to work and re-direct things in real time. Therefore, detailed tactical plans are not realistic. 4.1.2 Navigation Example D8-T4

Think of moving a conversation to a certain point, like taking a trip somewhere. Say you are in Chicago, and want to go to Los Angeles. You could have a detailed map of every turn and road, exact route numbers and lengths, etc. The problem is... what do you do if there is a detour? What if the road is changed, what if the map is wrong? You are lost! What if, instead, we teach you how to drive the car, and give you a general set of directions like "keep driving west, until you see the ocean, then turn left (south)". That way, you can handle just about any turns, roads, or detours that you may encounter! Conversations are different from roads too, because people are all unique, situations, times, surroundings etc. are unique and change from moment to moment. Therefore, if you want to get a conversation to go a certain way, then detailed plans made ahead of time are hard to work with. There are too many variables! We need a workable set of strategies and tactics that allows you, in real-time, to direct things the way that you want them to go. They need to be easy to follow, and easy to use, and something that you don't need to "think about", but can just DO easily.
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So we need a general set of guidelines, some overall strategies and tactics, so that you can have this good, intuitive sense of how to "steer" things, and get conversations to where you want them to go. As long as you are engaging a woman's emotions, capturing & leading her imagination, then you are moving in the right direction. Then, in that situation and in that context, linking all the positive & powerful things to you becomes more workable. Instead of a map, we are giving you a "compass". We need a strategy for managing conversations that can to do this gradually, in a way that seems natural! If it's too abrupt or makes the conversation strained, it will sound weird. The strategy must LEAD the conversation towards good topics and subjects in a way that seems natural, and is not TOO abrupt. Examples: (Listen to the audio.) • Talking about a printer o Moving TOO quickly towards emotional topics o Can sound strange • Driving a car and taking a turn (Analogy) o Think of driving down freeway and needing to switch to different direction. o You can't make a hard, right angle turn on a dime! o You need to turn the car, slowly, on a ramp to go in a different direction. When we control conversions, we need to find a way to take it gradually in a new direction. Many guys try to do the hard and fast switch, and they crash in the process! We will learn to move things in a way that makes it seem natural, but it will be deliberate. 4.1.4 She Must Be Engaged In The Conversation! D8-T10

It's important to get conversations into the right area and have HER go along with you. Not just "bring it up" (a topic or pattern), but it must be natural and she must "go along" with it and be a PART of it. She must be actually THINKING about what you are discussing! It has to happen naturally. No weird jumps. It's not enough to just talk; she must BE a part of the conversation! So, don't just "jump" to a topic. Don't find an "excuse" to bring it up. Take the conversation there, take her WITH you, and have her be a part of it! What really helps is to have a genuine interest (or at least curiosity) in her and the conversation, not just thinking to yourself; "How can I use this?" 4.2 HOW CONVERSATIONS HAPPEN D8-T12

How does this really occur? We will break this down so that we have a way to really affect this process. 4.2.1 Conversational Dynamics D8-T13

How do conversations happen? Most of them occur somewhat randomly as the conversation flows from topic to topic over time, and can end up almost anywhere after a while. By the time YOU move from one topic to the next,
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Figure 4.2.1-1: Conversations Move Through Many Topics

Each of these steps between topics tends to be related. Topic 1 relates to Topic 2. Topic 2 relates to Topic 3, etc. For example, you can start to talk about Cars, and then move to one aspect of that topic, Car Seats. Then it's easy to move to some aspect of that topic, which maybe something that seats are made of, like Leather. Then maybe you talk about Leather Furniture, etc. (See Figure 4.2.1-2.)

Figure 4.2.1-2: Each Topic Flows To the Next Topic In most cases, each Topic is related to the one before.

After a series of such steps, you can be at a quite different topic (like an apartment that you used to live in) even though you started at a quite different topic (Cars). In most cases, it's very difficult to predict where a conversation will go after many of these steps. As you go through a few topic shifts (as shown in the diagrams), although each individual shift relates to the topic before and after that shift, after a series of shifts you can end up talking about almost anything! Therefore, even if you start the conversation at a great topic, you can get off-track and into topics that will not work in your favor. Conversely, what is needed is a way to start at almost any topic at all, and by steering that process (of moving from Topic 1, to Topic 2, Topic 3, etc) take the conversation into better and better topic areas that will serve your purposes. 4.2.2 Conversational Model D8-T14

We introduce a model to assist in discussion, understanding, and control of conversations. If you start at a topic, how do you go to another one? This process happens all of the time very easily. The key is that the movement from one topic to the next takes places easily because there are so many options involved. From any topic (Topic 1) it is easy to flow to any of 6-8 other, related topics (Topic 2 Candidates). People usually just "talk" and naturally the conversation moves from the first topic to the next one. Since the "next" topic is related, this process seems natural and is easy to do. In fact, you do this all the time without really knowing about it. (We are creating a model to describe a process that happens naturally, so that we can teach you a way to have an affect on that process). Figure 4.2.2-1 shows how from one topic, the conversation can flow easily to many related topics.

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Once the conversation moves to one of these eight topics, it's easy to move to one of eight more. For example if in Figure 4.2.2-1, the conversation flows from "Cars" to "Where you bought it" (as in, where you bought the car), then now we have a situation like that shown in Figure 4.2.2-2.

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Figure 4.2.2-2: From A Second Topic, Another Group of Candidates If "Cars" was discussed first, and then "Where you bought it" was discussed next, there are now many ways to go in the next step. In the figure, you see how the conversation moves from Cars, to "Where you bought it". After that, there are many "candidate" topics where the conversation can flow. Perhaps it moves to the "Part of town" where the car was purchased.

Now from the topic of "Where you bought it" (a car), there are easily eight places that you can go from there, shown as the "Topic 3 candidates". This process continues throughout a conversation. This process happens regardless of the specific topics being discussed. Conversations flow from topic to topic, as shown in a general manner in Figure 4.2.2-3.
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you can end up with the conversation going almost anywhere! Figure 4. there is no way to know exactly where it will end up by the time you have moved forward a few steps! Imagine trying to predict ahead-of-time exactly where you may arrive (among those 512 options). an so on. you can have up to eight different ways to go at EACH step. In many ways. When this happens in succession. because there are SO many ways that things can go! Page 75 . then talk about Z" are very difficult to really work with. With some skill and technique. when talking to some random person. However.2-3: Topics Flow from One to the Next Each topic in a conversation can easily lead to 6-8 others. you can affect this process (and we will teach that to you). then EACH of the eight different candidates for Topic 2 can then lead to their own eight.2-4 shows what happens when all the topics are considered. Do you see why the pre-planned approaches can be difficult?! Even if you ARE able to have the conversation start from a specific place (Topic 1). the Figures that have been shown so far only show a small portion of the total topics towards which a conversation can flow. and at each step after that. since it's so easy to go from any topic to 6-8 others.2. then talk about Y.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Topic 1 Topic 2 Topic 3 Topic 4 Figure 4.2. the plans that many guys try to use to "Talk about X. This results in easily over 500 topics that could be selected by the time we arrive at Topic 4! In only three shifts of the topic ("topic shifts" as shown in the figure) we end up with many many possibilities of where the conversation might end up. and the conversation flows along in this manner. If Topic 1 can lead to eight different candidates for Topic 2. In general.

2. Once Topic 2 has been discussed.2-5). a conversation may start from one topic or subject (Topic 1).Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 1st Topic Shift 2nd Topic Shift 3rd Topic Shift Figure 4. Page 76 . It then can flow easily to maybe 6-8 others (the diagram shows fewer for the sake of clarity). you can end up in over 500 different topic areas! We can create a general Conversation Model that shows this process (Figure 4. then after only three shifts in the topic. As seen in the diagram. it can flow from there.2. and so on.2-4: Topic Candidates and Topic Shifts If each topic can flow to eight others.

Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Figure 4. In fact.2. it is quite easy to move from that onto 6-8 related topics. If you are discussing one specific topic. that they become far too many to shown in the diagram. (The figure only shows a portion of how many subjects and topics can be reached).3-1. if you assume that from any topic you could go to any of 8 other topics.000 different subjects or topics that could be discussed by the time you are at "Level 6" in the conversation!! 4.2-5: Conversation Model The "Tree of Subjects" showing how thousands of subjects can be reached in just a few steps of the conversation.2. This process of moving from the first topic to one of 6-8 relevant topics is the process of moving through a "Topic Turning Point" as shown in Figure 4. then for that diagram to be really accurate it would have to show over 30. Page 77 . is an awareness of this phenomenon that is called the "Topic Turning Point".2.3 Topic Turning Point D8-T15 The KEY concept the needs to be understood to gain the ability to manage conversations. There are SO many ways it can flow. The diagram only shows a small fraction of them (so that the diagram is not even more cluttered than it already is!).

Therefore.2. For example. after one topic has been discussed for a short while. The key thing to realize is that this process of Topic Turning Point (TTP) selection occurs over and over. However. as long as the new topic is "related" to the first (this is shown in the diagram by the "candidates") then this change is easy to do. A general way of looking at this process is shown in Figure 4. introduce an idea. the conversation can then move to another topic. Someone might make a comment.3-2 Topic Turning Points Figure 4.3-1: The Topic Turning Point (TTP) When discussing any topic (First Topic) there are easily 6-8 different topics to which the conversation can be moved (Candidate Topics). the conversation "shifts" slightly.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Candidate Topics Figure 4.2.2. Page 78 . the overall flow of a conversation comes about due to many of these TTP choices being made. ask a question. and throughout a conversation. make a statement.3-2: How TTP Selections Effect the Conversation The selections made at each TTP are what actually "steer" the conversation in a certain direction. etc.

1 GENERAL CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Want.) Page 79 . we are going to later teach you a way to be able to make these TTP selections. 4..3. D8-T16 D8-T16 So how can you actually affect the flow of a conversation. conversations are one of four types: • • • • Fun. conversations tend to go in one of several ways. Sometimes this can be VERY apparent. Many people do this "TTP selection" process automatically. depressing Confrontational . • Other people able to direct conversations based on their own beliefs and their own political motivations as well. positive. and do so in a way that sounds VERY natural. you can direct where the overall conversation goes. positive way to look at anything. (See Figure 4. These types of people are making TTP selections based on a strategy of finding things that are negative to talk about. As you have probably guessed by now. isn't it? In general. No matter WHAT you talk to them about. • Other people direct conversations based upon their own moral or religious values. we want the conversation to be positive. to "route" conversations so that they end up being the kinds of conversations that YOU want to have. is coming soon. and some training (which . with some awareness of this process. By manipulating TTPs from moment to moment. and imagine if you had a general way to manipulate these TTPs. However. no matter WHAT is discussed. they somehow see it in terms how in effects their beliefs. The overall strategy at the beginning is then to "talk about positive. So to start our process of learning how to manage conversations.) then you CAN direct how a conversation flows.Those are just general examples. That ability alone is enough for our purposes. no one is "deciding" the TTPs. they Good Boring Bad Argument could be more specific (and we will get there). and that work in YOUR favor.3. fun. Can you see how you may be able to affect where a conversation goes? You might not be able to predict EXACTLY where it ends up.. moment-to-moment.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Normally. fun. • Other people may do the opposite. The flow of the conversation starts. positive aspects of every topic being discussed.3 4. choices are made moment to moment.1-1. These people are able to automatically make TTP choices based on a strategy of finding good. but you will have some control over the overall direction. and they quick steer the conversation in that manner. easily and naturally? That IS the point. This selection just "happens".. they find a way to point out something negative. and the conversation tend to into one of four general areas.. IMPORTANT: The overall direction of a conversation comes about due to a successive selection of TTPs. and interesting. Look in the diagrams. For example: • Maybe someone always finds a fun. fun.. interesting things". we want to first start to steer things in the best general manner. interesting Mundane and uninteresting Negative. In a very broad sense.. very quickly.

No matter what is brought up. If you break that down into 4 main directions. you can still "steer" back towards "Fun. fun. and Interesting topics and subjects. Introduce topics that are fun. Even if things move towards other areas. bring up positive.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course General Conversational Management Conversations tend to flow in one of four major ways. Page 80 . and Interesting" things. Positive. positive and interesting. steer towards Fun. Strategic Formula for General Conversational Management To steer the conversation in a good direction. Figure 4. do what you can to steer in that direction. you see that you want to focus the conversation onto topics that are "Fun. How do you do that? • • • Show interest when someone discusses positive.1-1: General Conversational Management Consider all of the ways a conversation can go.3. interesting things. interesting things. so from the earliest stages. interesting things. and Interesting". Positive. Positive. fun. Don't engage in conversations when it's NOT about positive. fun.

So you just think to yourself "Where can I go that is fan. TTP options. or something you read. positive. and interesting" (See Figure 4. For any subject. Positive.3. positive. • Etc. and Interesting? That is the direction to go! Candidate Topics Figure 4..3.. the TTP. Repeat.) Tactical Formula for General Conversational Management Keep thinking . as we discussed earlier. and Interesting". You think of the "candidates" (the related topics or subjects that you can discuss) that serve you at the time.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4. and interesting?" Move the conversation in that direction. Positive. Page 81 . TTP Mantra . the topic "candidates" that were shown earlier). . By manipulating TTPs from moment to moment. move things towards the related topics that are "Fun.3. you can direct where the overall conversation goes. and interesting"? Moment-to-moment.The overall direction of a conversation comes about due to a successive selection of TTPs. and interesting" and just move things in that direction. How do you move things in that direction? You can: • Ask a question • Make a comment • Make a joke • Quote someone you heard. and then you move things in that direction! Remember . and then steer things in the correct direction. Moment To Moment D8-T19 Look at the overall flow of a conversation and break it down to its smallest point that we can affect.Where can I go that is "fun. you can always think of 6-8 other related topics or subjects.2 How To Steer Conversations. positive. you make note of where you are in the conversation.2-1: Topic Turning Point Navigation for General Conversational Management No matter what subject you start talking about. You then think of several ways you can go (the related topics."Where can I go that is fun. as long as it moves things in a way that answers the question "Where can I go that is fun. positive. Which Of these are Fun.2-1.

3. You are steering things towards the direction that you want the conversation to go. and interesting".3. the most important thing to do is to focus on moving thing in a direction that is . positive. just keep thinking about where you can go that is "Fun. but in the early part of the conversation. "fun. and Interesting! Figure 4. Positive.). 4. you can work more towards certain topic areas. (See Figure 4.3-2.3.) Keep things moving in the direction of Fun. you get to an overall "area" that will work.3-1. Positive.3 The Model With Strategy And Tactics In Place D8-T23 As you make TTP choice after TTP choice (See Figure 4..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Later in the conversation. and Interesting".3. Do this for a while..3-1: Moving Through Topics Using General Conversational Management Early in a conversation. Page 82 .

3-2: General Conversational Management Model The most important direction to go. and write down the topic for each.3. and Interesting!/ Figure 4.4 Exercises and Assignments D8-T25 Exercises for General Conversational Management 1) Think of some conversations that you have been in recently. 4. and Interesting topics and subjects. what was the main topic? Topics Page 83 . especially early in a conversation. maybe that person is not someone that you want to talk to anyway). Positive. or where you are. keep steering in the right direction and in many cases you WILL get towards the right area soon enough (and if not.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course General Conversational Mgt Model No matter where you start. At some particular moment early in the conversation. Positive. is towards Fun. Even if you temporarily move away from that direction or end up in an area that is not very positive or interesting. always move towards topics and subjects that are Fun.3.

Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 2) Based on each of those topics. directions you could "take" the conversation (these are the TTP Options. For each of those Topics. things you could comment on. Write each of those down. consider it a topic that leads to a TTP (copy each item above into the "Topic" area below). or Candidate Topics). Topic TTP Options (Candidate Topics') Page 84 . list 6-8 different ways you could go. ask about.

etc. Positive. which are the best? Which of these would move the conversation in a way that is best for you (think of "Fun.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Of the 6-8 different TTP Options you have written above for each Topic. 4) For each Topic. whatever it might take to move things in that direction. asking a question. Page 85 . 5) Practice again on each by moving things in the direction of the second item that was circled. what would it have been like to have moved the conversation in the direction of the first item you circled? Practice that out loud for each Topic above. and Interesting")? Select two "candidates" and circle or highlight those two. maybe by making a comment.. making a statement.

5 Summary D8-T32 Remember what was said earlier: • The overall direction of a conversation comes about due to a successive selection of TTPs (which normally occur at random. At first. Instead of the more general area of fun." 4. they will not go down a path of having a fun. At any moment you should be able to think "Where can I go with this?". thinking "what COULD I have done. we are turning you into someone that people LIKE to talk to! You know the type of person that people enjoy talking to. interesting. we want things to get even more Page 86 . positive. but the REAL key is to at least get to the point where you can very quickly think of at least 1 or 2 ways to go that are Fun. we can start to direct the conversation into an even BETTER area. interesting. Building on what we learned in the last section. Do this for a while until the process of finding 1 or 2 good "Ways to go" in a conversation (good TTP options) can happen very rapidly for you.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Assignments for General Conversational Management 1) For the next week or so. positive and interesting topics.Is that the sort of person you want to talk to and spend time with? Maybe not. or without an overall strategy in mind). D8-T33 D8-T33 We want the conversation to be more than just positive. By manipulating TTPs from moment to moment. You then have to wonder . whatever it takes. really be aware of the TTP opportunities in your day-to-day life. the conversation becomes more enjoyable for everyone. having conversations with. You may start to find however. In general. Just do what you can so that the TTP shifts in a direction that is fun. etc. Make it so that it becomes easy for you to come up with a list of "options" very quickly. make a comment. maybe offer an opinion.1 ADVANCED CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Really Want. 2) Now that you are able to quickly find 1 or 2 good TTP options. Interesting. the imagination moving. where COULD I have taken things". Maybe start out by looking at conversation after the fact. and positive conversation. don't worry. you can direct where the overall conversation goes. If this is a challenge for you. the more YOU can and will become that guy! 4.4.3. we want it to be really interesting. look for moments where things can be "steered" in a certain way. we want to work with topics that get the emotions involved. and spending time with? The type of guy that people seek out to spend time with? The more you do these types of exercises. It WILL get easier. Positive.4 4. fascinating. even at the start of a conversation. After a while. inquire about something. start to take the conversation there! Ask a question. that no matter WHAT you do with some people. and people REALLY interested. We want to focus the aim of our conversational management skills even more. • By moving things in this way. you may have to think of 6-8 options. engaging. When talking to anyone.

how do we work that in what we are doing moment-to-moment? How can we do things that will make that happen? Page 87 .4. Positive. We use our strategy of working with the TTPs. to "steer" things even more towards what we want. (See Figure 4. Interesting area. you move it in ways that engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way. and steer using Advanced Conversational Management Figure 4. and Interesting. From there. there were 4 main directions towards which a conversation may go. Positive. more excitement. So.) General Conversational Management takes the conversation into the Fun. To move the conversation into more interesting areas.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course interesting. we were able to move things in the direction of Fun. and more involvement of the imagination.4.1-1: Advanced Conversational Management Focuses the Steering From the start of a conversation. With that as a general strategy. steer the conversation towards directions that engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way.1-1. We move forward and want to get a more emotional tone. there are many ways to go. we now shift our strategy of "steering" things to direct the topics in a more focused manner using Advanced Conversational Management. Strategic Formula for Advanced Conversational Management To direct the conversation into even BETTER areas. Using General Conversational Management. So we narrow our focus. there are many ways the conversation can move. Now from that point.

4. 4.2-1: Topic Turning Point Navigation for Advanced Conversational Management After using General Conversational Management for a while. Interesting Topics Which of these "Engage the Emotions and imagination in a Positive Way"? That is the direction to go! Candidate Topics Figure 4.4. we need to change the way the model is shown.3 The Model With Advanced Strategy And Tactics In Place D8-T38 (Before we move on to looking at the model.4. Repeat. we can assume that we are talking about subjects which fit into the "Fun. we shift the focus of how we navigate TTPs.Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Move the conversation in that direction. Positive. See Figure 4. and Interesting" area. and explain a bit more as to its meaning and interpretation.4. we need to use the TTP as a way to move things in the right direction. we look at the concept of the TTP.2-1. but now think "where can I go that will engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4.) Page 88 .4.) TTP Mantra " Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Tactical Formula for Advanced Conversational Management Keep thinking . Positive. (See Figure 4.2 Steering Conversations Moment To Moment using Advanced Conversational Management D8-T35 Again. and with that strategy in mind.3-1 for an explanation. TTP Fun. With that established.

so that the various stages of a conversation can be easily illustrated. these diagrams will indicate a VERY condensed version of the number of steps involved.4. But after using the general techniques (Fun. and (3) in the figure above (and in the next figure) helps to show this. It may happen in ten minutes. or topic shift) shown on the digram may represent many steps in an actual conversation. Figure 4. At that point. or thirty. it may take ten. we are not showing that there are exactly "four steps" between points (1) and (2). the model above is what we used to show a starting point (1). Positive. and Interesting conversation (2) may take four steps. and it ends up at a certain area (2). but a way to show a "trend". Positive. the graphics we will use will show an even more "condensed" version of this process. This can result in so many possibilities (many thousands within a few steps) that it's important to look at these diagrams as a way to show "trend". For example. etc.) the conversation moves on for a while. where every "step" (TTP.3-1: Understanding the Conversational Management Model The "levels" shown in the models are not meant to be exact. From now on in the course. When starting from ANY topic (1) to a place where you are firmly established for a period of time in a Fun. there can be a whole "tree" of possibilities leading from there.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Understanding the Conversational Management Model The model attempts to show a process that has many many steps. The locations of points (1). In practice. not an exact number of steps or outcomes. (2). with thousands upon thousands of possible possible routes and outcomes. For example. once again ending up with thousands of topics that could be discussed by the time you get through more topic shifts (3). Page 89 .

General Conversational Management techniques are used.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course We started at one topic. only a few of which are shown in the diagram. This is shown between points (2) and (3). After that has been established. 20. are used together to move forward in a conversation.4. and then Advanced Conversational Management. emotional topics. For a while. and could be at any of thousands of topics after 6. the conversation will get more and more of an "emotional" tone to it. This too can take any number of steps. Then a shift is made towards focusing the conversation even more using Advanced Conversational Management. and Interesting conversation (2). subjects. The subjects will get more and more fascinating. or however long it takes to be firmly established in a Fun. This also is followed for a series of steps and a period of time. Although the diagram shows only 2 steps (for simplicity). the conversation will get better and better. Page 90 . 10. And of course while doing that. to yourself! Advanced Conversational Management Model Figure 4. If you follow these two simple strategies together (and the tactical approach of simply watching the TTPs and moving things in the right way). 8. you can see how General Conversational Management. 10 topic shifts. If you refer to Figure 4.4. feelings. and states. Now the emphasis is on ways to "Engage the Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way". exciting. As time goes on. if you use the language tools which we learned about earlier in the course. we focused the conversation towards moving things in a direction that is "Fun Positive and Interesting.3-2: Advanced Conversational Management Model Early in the conversation. Positive. in practice it may be good to follow a series of topics for 5. This is shown from point (1) to point (2) in the diagram. until it is firmly established that the conversation has engaged the emotions and imagination of the participant. we now focus more on moving in a direction that will "Engage the Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way". or 30 minutes.3-2. you end up linking and associating many fascinating.

These should be conversations where it is already obvious that it is a fun. things you could comment on.4. For each of those Topics. and write down the topic for each. TTP Options (Candidate Topics') Page 91 . Write each of those down.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4. ask about. and interesting conversation. list 6-8 different ways you could go. consider it a topic that leads to a TTP (copy each above into the "Topic" areas below). Topic a. or Candidate Topics). what was the main topic? Topics 2) Based on each of those topics. At some particular moment in that conversation. directions you could "take" the conversation (these are the TTP Options. positive.4 Exercises and Assignments D8-T39 Exercises for Advanced Conversational Management 1) Think of some conversations that you have been in recently.

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what next? At some point in the conversation. what would it have been like to have moved the conversation in the direction of the first item you circled? Practice that out loud for each Topic above. maybe offer an opinion. Assignments for Advanced Conversational Management 1) For the next week or so. making a statement. whatever it takes.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Of the 6-8 different TTP Options you have written above for each Topic. thinking "what COULD I have done. maybe by making a comment. 4. we are "steering" things more and more in a direction that we wish to go. which 1 or 2 would tend to "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way"? Which ones move things in a way that is best for you? Select two "candidates" and circle or highlight these two. we want to steer things more towards romantic. whatever it might take to move things in that direction. don't worry. 2) Now that you are able to quickly find 1 or 2 good TTP options for yourself that "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". until the process of finding 1 or 2 ways to go that "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way" in a conversation can happen very rapidly for you. but the REAL key is to at least get to the point where you can very quickly think of at least 1 or 2 ways to go that "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way".1 Summary MORE ADVANCED CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT More About Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Really Want. but be especially aware of wanting to move things to "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". really be aware of the TTP opportunities in your day-to-day life.. once again. If this is a challenge for you. This is best when applied to a conversation that is ALREADY fun. Do this for a while..5 4. start to take the conversation there! Ask a question.. and interesting. seductive things. we focus further on the TTP options! Page 93 . etc. even things with some degree of sensual connotation to them. positive.5 4. So. At first. Just do what you can so that the TTP shifts in a direction that can "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". asking a question.5.4. make a comment. It WILL get easier. 5) Practice again on each by moving things in the direction of the second item that was circled. where COULD I have taken things". you may have to think of 6-8 options. 4) For each Topic. fascinating. inquire about something. So. Maybe start out by looking at conversation after the fact. D8-T46 D8-T47 D8-T47 As you can see.

Moving towards romantic.5. if you have been in a conversation for a while.5. This may seem odd or hard to do. fascinating.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Strategic Formula for More Advanced Conversational Management To further direct the conversation into even BETTER areas. and followed the other strategies and tactics shown earlier. and focusing more and more towards areas and topics that work. then the focus shifts again towards directing things in a specific way. The focus now is upon topics that get you closer towards Romantic.5."Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. seductive things?" Move the conversation in that direction. seductive things?" Figure 4.3-1. However. you will have taken things in the right direction and this will be much easier. positive and interesting thing. fascinating. Repeat. Fascinating. Seductive things Tactical Formula for More Advanced Conversational Management Keep thinking .) Page 94 . steer the conversation towards romantic. fascinating. seductive things is much easier after you have first move towards fun.3 The Model With More Advanced Strategy And Tactics In Place D8-T52 We are just closing in.2-1: Topic Turning Point Navigation for More Advanced Conversational Management After using General and Advanced Conversational Management.2-1. and then topics that engage the emotions and imagination. fascinating. 4.5. 4. This gets her mind into thinking more and more about these things. and seductive things.5. and associating YOU with them! (See Figure 4.2 Steering Conversations Using More Advanced Conversational Management D8-T49 TTP Mantra (See Figure 4.) "Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic.

the focus moves towards selecting items based on More Advanced Conversational Management.3-1: More Advanced Conversational Management Model As the conversation progresses.5. shown from point (1) to (2). which targets topics and subjects that are Romantic. Fascinating. moving to point (4) Page 95 . moving to point (3). there is a different focus at each stage. and Interesting. After that type of conversation has been established (3). Positive. Then the Advanced Conversational Management Techniques place the focus more upon items that involve the Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way. General Conversational Management techniques place the focus on selecting items that are Fun.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course More Advanced Conversational Management Model Figure 4. Early on.. and Seductive.

6.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4. Too many guys are too caught up in this one-shot dream of traveling once across the model and getting an amazing result. that they will get an AMAZING reaction in their first movement across the Model.1-1.1-1: The Dream of a 1-Shot Path To Success! A common misperception is that many guys think that if they can just move a conversation from the start. and then an emotional one. Page 96 .6. the way it really DOES happen.1 The 1-Shot Beeline Fallacy D9-T2 Guys assume that they will travel from a general topic. to a positive one. and then . will work in your favor. then a sensual one. (See Figure 4. Moreover.MAGIC! However that is NOT the way it works in the real world. and get things to be more and more fascinating and exciting. This hardly ever ever happens. 4.6.6 CONVERSATIONAL FRACTIONATION D9-T1 Using these Conversational Management skills in the real world may be quite different in practice from the way most guys "think" it will happen.) The Dream that Does Not Happen! Figure 4.

In this way. move on to the next step. and then at some point. you are always moving towards positive topics. When we say "go back". here is how this works. or maybe the conversation shifts back to that place due to something she says. g) Do the whole process over and over.6. This is where a process is done repeatedly over and over.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4. restarts. Because no matter where you start from. So..) a) b) c) d) Page 97 . Of if you can't seem to get to a good place. You just start the process again..6. goes for some distance through the model (maybe all the way through). Maybe several times. The conversation starts. Then you "back up" to some extent (even all the way back to a very general topic area) and then move forward across the model again. No problem. Start at any topic (you are on the far left side of the Model) Move forward towards the right. no matter how the conversation jumps around. Great! Talk about that for a while. you may jump back just several steps in our Conversational Management Process..6. Maybe you start from a very general topic and get all the way through the model towards a very very fascinating topic or subject. (See Figure 4. If you get to a very good place. moving through the model towards the right.. Just start the process again. the conversation ends up being very interesting and fascinating! 4. etc... stay there and talk about it for a while. You back up to a more general topic.3 Using Conversational Fractionation D9-T5 Start at some normal topic and move through the model towards the right. Have fun. This actually ADDS to the power and effectiveness of what you are doing.2 How Fractionation Works D9-T3 The real world has stops. and then . e) Then move back (towards the left side of the model) This may happen because: • The person you are talking to does that (she asks a question) • Or maybe you do it (just to lighten things up) f) Then start again. using the Conversational Management techniques Get as far through the model as you can. starts. And again.31. You might do that on your own. and fascinating and seductive topics. you back off... you go back towards something more "normal". Use the language tools.. you take a conversation from the early stages through the process.. This actually works better! We are actually using Fractionation. Maybe you move all the way back to a very "normal" topic (which would be all the way on the left side of the model). no matter where you start. emotional and imaginative topics. So. No problem. Then at some point.

The overall trend is that.4 Dead Ends Come Back To Life! D9-T6 With this new strategy of using Conversational Fractionation. As things move forward from (1). there is a continued movement up and into better and better areas of conversation. As time goes on (5-12) the conversation gets into better and better areas. over time. You become one of those fascinating guys. that no matter WHAT you talk about. Fractionation happens at times because even when you may be at a fairly good place for a while (8).6.3-1: How Conversation Fractionation Works on the Model Follow the conversation as it moves from (1) to (12). interesting. there is no such thing as a conversational "Dead End"! Page 98 . at times maybe they move towards an area that is not too good (2). it ends up being fun. This is not a problem.6. and fascinating! 4. it's not a bad idea to back up a bit (9) and then move forward again. simply back up (3) and then try moving into a better direction (4).Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Conversational Fractionation at Work Figure 4.

have more material to use in conversations in the future! 4. and the person becomes interested and fascinated. this can happen. Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic.1 • Conversational Management Approach Start on just about ANY subject.. use the language tools.7. and get the effect. talked more. you might have just found out that they are NOT someone you want to spend time with! That's not a total loss because you STILL learned more. uninteresting. No problem. use the language tools as much as possible! D9-T8 • • • • • • • • • Keep moving the conversation into these interesting fascinating areas . Do that for a while and then think . When on good topics. and use the Strategy and Tactics of the Conversational Management techniques! Look at "Dead Ends" as being just like a bad turn on a road.3 Summary D9-T10 Go have fun with these tools! Page 99 . you just back up.7. and go down another path! 4. Do that for a while and then think .7 CONVERSATIONAL OVERVIEW AND REVIEW D9-T7 So. seductive things? Move things in that direction. and interesting? Move things in that direction. Just back up. Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Move things in that direction. Where can I go that is fun.. back up a few steps.. —* The entire time: o If you hit a "dead end".2 What If The Outcome Is Not What You Expected? D9-T9 Despite your best efforts.. o Comment on what is around o Mention common items. fascinating.. o If you get to a good subject or topic... stay there for a while.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course If you happen to take a "wrong turn" somehow and get into an area of discussion that is boring. positive.. with you! 4.7.. • What if you can't make the conversation positive? • What if she always points out the negative aspect? • What if there is NO emotional engagement at ALL? Well. how do we pull this together? 4. (think of your TTP options). or maybe negative. etc. or what you both have in common Move forward with the Strategies and Tactics in mind.

great! It's easier to use the language tools if you are discussing topics with which you are familiar.) Before you can use the language tools with new subjects that you are learning about. then you may want to go back in those earlier sections. yes! How well can you talk about topics that YOU are passionate about while using many of the language tools we talked about in the earlier parts of the course? If you can do that very well . Can you talk passionately about something? Anything? Hopefully. Most men may not be very familiar with many of the topics that we REALLY want to get into. this is something we can and will work on with you. However. if using those language tools is problem for you. the more familiar you will be with these topics. You will be able to say things like "I was talking to someone about this the other day.. and some familiarity with this type of thing. and while talking about subjects and topics that YOU are really passionate about. the easier it will get. so that YOU have some material. go ahead and practice! (Or maybe do that the next time you go through the course. The more experience you get. we have talked about managing conversations. Talking about these topics may be a challenge for many men. You want to be able to discuss these topics easily. and THEY said. you should be able to use them with subjects in which you are already interested! Page 101 . the more you talk to people about such things. especially as they get more interesting. TOPICS OF ENTHUSIASM AND PASSION D9-T14 What are you passionate about? Few things are more compelling in a person than for them to be passionate about something (hopefully many things) in life. fascinating.. fun. Now we want you to become familiar with topics that will really work well for you! We are going to work with some of these topics. What do you talk about? There is no substitute for experience. and it's even better if you are passionate about those topics. to get the best effect you will have to be a PART of that conversation and familiar with the topics that may come up. and that statement (regarding having actually talked to someone about the topics) will be TRUE! So. A topic is a particular area of discussion that is taking place in a moment. what can we do here in this course to help you? We have talked about the way to talk and use language. In the meantime. fascinating.0 TOPICS D9-T11 What do you talk about? As the conversation gets more interesting. and then the more "material" you will have. Themes vs.1 Themes are a way through a discussion or through the "tree of subjects" that we showed earlier. and closer towards the subjects that will really serve your intent. However. some practice. Topics • • 5.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 5.".

work it. or sports. a topic that is an SOT. at least.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course So. feelings. SOTs are the "end goals" when it comes to managing or directing a conversation. in some ways. and seductive. etc. (Every guy has his favorites and ones that work best for him.. and emphasize discussing topics in which YOU are interested and passionate about. but how effective are those as subjects given the "purpose" of the discussion? You want to discuss topics and things which deal with seduction.2 SEDUCTION ORIENTED TOPICS D9-T15 In the context of this course (and your intent in talking with . You may talk about cars. Your point is to get to. 5.. someone) some topics are easier to work with than others. The conversational management sections will help you to move the conversation in a way that will get you near these topics areas. and link it to you! When • • • • • you are at or near an SOT: Use the correct tone of Voice Pace and Lead correctly Link things to you Point at the right times.. These are called "Seduction Oriented Topics". or the office. Examples of SOTs • Connections • Going for it • Making good decisions • Surrendering to feelings • Getting excited • Feeling excited • Trusting your judgment • Taking chances • Indulgence • Maturity • Good decisions • .. Topics that access emotions..just TALKING about these can create a good effect. but doing so while using the language tools. You want to be able to discuss topics that deal on some level with Seduction. sensual. or cleaning the toilet. but a good number of them. or near.. or. can create an AMAZING effect! When you do get a conversation into an area near an SOT. How good are you at the earlier sections that dealt with the language tools? It may be a good idea to go back over those sections. excitement. stay there as long as you can! Talk about it.) Page 102 . in the right way Use the language tools! You want to be familiar with these topics (SOTs) and able to discuss them easily: maybe not ALL of them. Seduction Oriented Topics (SOTs) .Topics that bring up images and thoughts that are romantic. judge for yourself. or topics that are very close to that concept.

or even watched in a movie! (Or heard in a course that you took . bring up images and thoughts that may work for you. and while there. and also topics that you have heard in other materials and products that you have. Page 103 . the easier it will be to "riff" on these using the language tools. Think about other topics you have heard mentioned in this program. ask about them. and the more you talk to and with people about them. Write down your list of SOTs. Or. You can use some of those that were listed earlier if you wish. or joke about them. Exercises for Seduction Oriented Topics 1) Build your own list of SOTs. keep it there. or comment on them! Talk aloud for several minutes about each.. Assignments for Seduction Oriented Topics 1) Pay attention to conversations in your life (even things you hear on the radio. Think of SOME way to discuss these. Meaning. or anything like that. the more you practice using the tools. you JUST need to be able to talk.. hopefully some way that involves you and your own life. Don't worry about talking to women. Or are taking!) . you will be able to just "talk" about the subject while using the tools that are available. the more you work with the materials. read.Are you able to somehow relate to these in your own life? Maybe something you read or heard? Maybe questions you can ask? ANYTHING?!?!? You do not need to "know" a lot about these topics or be an expert. or seduction per se. and discuss these subjects. but the more you think about them. Get the conversation there. and hopefully add some of your own. or overhear from others) and listen for when any of these SOTs come up in conversation..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course These topics may seem foreign to you. the easier it will get! Strategic Formula for Seduction Oriented Topics SOTs are topics that. easily. and without "thinking" about the language tools. Seduction Oriented Topics 2) You must become familiar with these! You must be able to talk about them. using as many of the language tools as you can. 3) Practice talking about each aloud. the more you practice. or on TV. have stories about them. by there very nature. Eventually. or ask questions. use as many of the language tools as you can. talk about something you heard. or in movies.

but we are walking you through (at least the first steps of) the process to make this easier: • • • • • • • • • • • You have made a list of SOTs. 5. ask what something means. That is understandable. And that gives you MORE material to talk about! Which make it easier for you to enter into more conversations about these subjects and topics. then the more material YOU will have to talk about. That gives YOU more familiarity with discussing them. However. discuss. and easily come up with 6-8 related topics. but this time with SOTs. However. These are called Expanded SOTs (SOTXs). anything at all! Talk. Really! Learning to discuss such things may start out slowly..Talk about these subjects and topics! Make a point to enter into a discussion when one of your SOTs is mentioned. Make special note of topics that are CLOSE or similar to these SOTs in some way. SOT Summary I KNOW that these topics may seem foreign to you. or even just TRY to do so. the more you listen. "the other day I heard someone talking about. The more you hear."). So can you. quote. You listen more to when they are discussed. Many guys who can now talk about these things VERY easily and comfortably started from a place of having NO idea of what to say! They changed. etc. Use as many of the language tools as you can. They started and became more and more familiar with these topics. it gets easier to enter into more conversations that deal with these topics. but as long as you start it. after having worked with hundreds of guys.3 EXPANDED SEDUCTION ORIENTED TOPICS . what people think. ask an opinion. this is one of the key challenges that many guys face. ask. this process must start somewhere. You do a few exercises to talk about them. Then you get to hear MORE people talk about them. show interest. That's what we want to do here. They did it. We learned how you can move from any topic. Page 104 . It may start a bit slowly and awkwardly. make a comment. it WILL get easier. I can tell you that it DOES get easier and easier to be able to talk about these things. but had even more? Maybe 50? What if that was easy and familiar for you? Think back to how we looked at topics earlier. (As in. Because of that. and frankly.SOTXs D9-T24 What if you had not just 10 ways of discussing "Seduction Oriented" subjects.. and makes it easier for you to talk about them. That makes you really think about them. what is said. and start to get your brain working on them.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Listen to what is being said. and move through these exercises and assignments. Maybe ask some questions about things that deal with your SOTs. You start to listen and take notice of when these are discussed. 2) Now . See? We are working on a process to get you to become more comfortable and familiar with these things.. or even when anything CLOSE to one of your SOTs is discussed.

Instead of worrying about getting to that one topic (SOT) in a certain way..3-1: How SOTs are related to an SOTXs. Then. places.with friends . you now have 6-8 ways to discuss it. Look at the list above. For any given SOT.with a girlfriend .with someone you just met ..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Expanding on a Topic Area "Connections" is an SOT.. can you think of different aspects of that? Parts of Connections? Questions about Connections? Ways of experiencing Connections? People or things with which you can experience Connections? By asking those types of questions (to yourself). However as we see here.. etc.. That just makes it easier for our example below). That is one subject.with pets .with someone while on vacation . how we discussed a Topic Turning Point?) If Connections is a particular subject. or only one aspect of that to discuss (connections in a romantic or sensual context)... comes up in a conversation.. (Does that diagram look familiar?) If "Connections" is an SOT.3-1. and things that can be discussed.. you can talk about that for while.with your teammates Figure 5.. there are many different types or examples of connecting to people. coworkers.. (You do not really need to list "connections with" for each.with family ... how easy would it be to talk about how you CONNECT with those? And if you talk about Page 105 .... it's easy to think of several different aspects of that topic or related topics. They think of only one way of talking about that subject. .with coworkers . you can take any SOT. but can you think of 6-8 different aspects of this? (Remember what we did in the earlier sections.with music . see Figure 5. pets. the SOTX list consists of all of these items shown in the diagram and listed below.. family. and build a whole list of very similar things to talk about -which are SOTXs! For example. SOT Connections SOTX Connections with family Connections with friends Connections with coworkers Connections with pets Connections with a girlfriend Connections with someone you just met Connections with someone while on vacation Connections with music Connections with your teammates Many guys worry about talking about something like "Connections". if friends.

. how to connect with people. ask a question. or a special person. or different aspects of that topic..3-2. this is a TTP diagram in reverse!) For example..) Family Friends Coworkers Pets Connections A girlfriend Someone you just met Someone met on vacation Music Teammates Figure 5.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course THAT (how you connect in that manner) for a while... that you just met! When you expand SOTs in this way. SOTs " SOTXs List Page 106 . If you talk about that for a while.) and for each SOT. it's very easy to then shift. then you can shift to talking about "how you can connect with a pet" fairly easily.to . all of a sudden there are many MORE ways to get to these really GREAT topics! Exercises f o r Expanded Seduction Oriented T o p i c s 1) Take the SOT list you had earlier (copy those down into the first column below. you can be as close as one step away from an SOT.3-2: SOTXs Can Lead Into SOTs If any of the topics in the SOTX list comes up in conversation. you are to list 5 (at least) related topics. a. if someone is talking about pets. This is your SOTX list. etc. Just make a comment. c. (Yes. or how that topic can be experienced. b. point out an example regarding pets. and how you (or someone else) can connect with a pet.. then you can shift towards ANOTHER type of "connection" very easily! (See Figure 5. or maybe even someone.

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you talk about pets. Step back and look at what you have done! You have 10 SOTs with which YOU are familiar. Talk about that SOTX for a moment or two. but now do so while using the language tools. then about connecting with pets. then about connecting in general.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 2) Now for each SOTX.) 3) Do the same thing again. You have 50 SOTXs that you are now familiar with as well. That gives you a LOT of flexibility in conversations! Page 108 . and see if you can then focus what you are saying towards the SOT itself. (Like the earlier example. practice talking about it out loud.

. that process can work both ways. You will start to notice this. especially politicians and activists. However.. If anything like an SOTX comes up in a conversation.with family ...with pets Connections . and move the conversation towards SOTs.with a girlfriend . use such techniques a LOT. We have broken these down.. or anything like them mentioned.with someone while on vacation . SOTXs are now like "conversational landmarks" for you in terms of navigating a conversation.4-1. if you hear any of them mentioned.with friends . It ALL gets easier! 2) Start to "direct" the conversations you encounter where your SOTXs are mentioned. Maybe you will even start to notice SOTXs that were not even ON your list.with music .with your teammates Family Friends Coworkers Pets A girlfriend Someone you just met Someone met on vacation Music Teammates Connections This is how we developed SOTXs This is the most useful way of thinking of SOTXs Figure 5. "I didn't list that SOTX..with someone you just met .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Assignments for Expanded Seduction Oriented Topics 1) Look at all of your SOTXs! That's a LOT of subjects! Pay attention in your life to see how often any of those items come up in conversation (or maybe you just hear them somewhere). D9-T32 We discussed how to develop an SOTX list from an SOT.4-1: SOTXs Are The Pathways To SOTs SOTXs are an easy way to get towards SOTs... . In addition. spotting these opportunities get easier and easier. . Page 109 . the easier it will be to notice SOTXs. Good speakers. use the language tools if and whenever you can.with coworkers . The techniques that you have learned are the sort of things that many people do naturally. it is easy to then move the conversation towards topics that will work better for you (SOTs). 5. concept of "topics related to a topic" in many many places. See if you can move the conversation a bit towards the SOT itself.4 CONVERSATIONAL MODEL WITH SOTXs.. you know that you are very close to getting near a subject area that will work very well for you.. The more you work with this. but it IS related to an SOT that I have worked with".... You may think. it's about getting YOU comfortable and familiar with these topics. broke it into bits and pieces that you can learn and do as exercises. The more familiar you are with these subjects. The real usefulness of this is when you reverse the order as shown in Figure 5.. and then built upon that step by step..... Summary You now have MORE material to work with than you ever thought possible! This is not about memorizing. modeled the process arid the steps involved.

and for you to just start to "recognize" these things on your own . As the topics get better and better. to be able to notice when you are talking about things which are "close to" topics that will work well for you. SOTXs SOTs Figure 5. and done the exercises and assignments. you have already worked with 10 SOTs and 50 SOTXs as shown in Figure 5.4-2: Your Multiple Pathways to SOTs! Now that you have worked with 10 SOTs. that this process will now be easier than you may have imagined. and then towards SOTs. After all. you will get closer and closer to SOTXs. In many of the diagrams. Figure 5. we have had to compress or simplify them quite a bit and show only a fraction of the actual steps and numbers involved so that the diagrams do not become too large or complex. this will start to happen for you.without "thinking" about them. Page 110 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course So whenever you are having a conversation. It's to have you practice and become familiar with them. that is not an abbreviation or exaggeration. you have practiced with so many of these SOTXs. there are really 50 SOTXs and 10 SOTs shown . you have started to train yourself to "recognize" these landmarks. or the SOTXs. and anything like an SOTX comes up in the discussion.4-2. and 50 SOTXs (in the earlier exercises) you now have many many SOTXs with which YOU are familiar! More importantly. you now see how easy it can be to move over to an SOT! In fact.4-3 shows this in the model itself..the number that YOU have actually worked with so far! Since SOTXs and SOTs are the "goals" in terms of managing a conversation. If you have followed the program. we can then show them as part of our Conversational Model. The point here (again) is not to memorize the SOTs. However in the figure above.

then start to pay attention for SOTXs. just follow the steps listed earlier in the Conversational Management sections. When you get to an SOTx.4-3: SOTs Are THE Goals in Conversational Management As you move through a conversation. 5.5 THE COMPLETE CONVERSATIONAL MODEL D9-T33 Start from any topic and get to where you want! Yes..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course SOTs in the Conversational Management Model The end goal is to get to. then you can simply move things towards a topic that is very seduction-oriented! The point is not to have a "list" in mind.) Page 111 .5-1. Period. SOTXs are a pathway to make that easier. and ANY TOPIC. Move towards SOTs. SOTXs SOTs Listen for SOTXs Anything near or related to an SOT. it's that you have trained yourself to recognize things that are SOTs. and topics that are close to that (SOTXs). Then move the conversation towards an SOT! This works. which are topics near or related to seduction (a step or two away from SOTs). Stay there for a while if you can! Figure 5. or as close as you can towards SOTs. or anything that is "related" to an SOT. you start to "listen" for topics that are SOTXs. You can start from almost ANYWHERE. you can start from just about ANY topic and get to GREAT topics! It's easy. and using this type of approach you will have fascinating conversations with people that lead to where YOU want to go! (See Figure 5.

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. interesting . start over! Assignment! 1) Try it! Start directing conversations using the conversational management model.5-1: The Complete Conversational Management Model (continued) Start a Conversation Manage the Conversation Move the Conversation in a Good Direction Steer towards . Steer towards .Engaging the emotions and imagination in a positive way . exciting.. Especially when at or near SOTXs and SOTs. Steer towards . and see how easy it is to get to some good topic that is an SOT..Romantic.. seductive things Direct the Conversation Pay attention when Good Subjects come up (SOTXs) Listen for anything a step or two away from an SOT Move towards SOTs Stay there as long as you can Use The Language Tools! As much as possible.. back up! If you move back to a general topic.. or SOTX. or very close! Page 113 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Figure 5.Fun. Fractionate If you take a wrong turn. fascinating.

"A plan" or "model". think about having a conversation (and managing it correctly). A New way of thinking about the use of patterns • The wrong way is to talk to someone and to keep thinking. You practice bits and pieces of the sport. • While talking to a woman. handling the gas pedal. we work in that manner. The navigation is handled through our use of Conversational Management techniques. or model to be followed in making things. Use the language tools. • Driving . asking. diagram. Examples/Analogies: • Sports . Patterns are just examples of the use of these tools. A representative sample. In the same manner. • An example of what you can say. etc. or could say. "how can I get to my pattern". THAT ends up being a very effective way to create "patterns".1 PATTERNS PATTERN OVERVIEW D10-T1 What is a pattern? • A plan. the clutch. that's the key.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 6.You don't play the entire game ahead of time. These smaller skills become automatic and you focus instead of driving. or series of actions. Link and associate these feelings to you. or "how can I bring up a pattern that I know".0 6.Many of the details of driving a car are things you just "do". It's best to just think of patterns as examples. and as "a way of speaking". Once you actually play the game though. Its just a "type" of talking that you can (and will be able to) use when you feel it is appropriate. Don't think of "how can I get to the pattern". you make decisions on-the-spot as to what to do and how to proceed. or "how can I bring this pattern up". We practice specific parts of areas of the skills we wish to use later on.2 PATTERN FORMULA D10-T7 Tactical Formula for Patterns While talking to a woman. certain actions. You don't have to think about moving the wheel. clarifying. and being aware of when you DO get to an area of conversation that does allow you to use a pattern. get her to "experience" good feelings and states o Use the Conversational Management Techniques to get there o Get her to think about good and/or exciting feelings Page 115 . • Maybe talk to a woman and allow HER to bring up things that end up working well in pattern-like language. plus these areas will work for HER because SHE selected them (in a manner of speaking) • Talk and manage the conversation into an area that DOES work for you. Present a Call to action. 6. • Instead. get her to "experience" good feelings and states. With this new approach to learning and using these tools. Amplify these feelings and states by talking. The Pattern Formula in detail. we have practiced the small details (language skills) so that these are automatic. She may take the conversation into better places that you could have predicted. or navigation.

"Canned" patterns. The problem is if you are SO focused on just "getting to the pattern" that you know (or even one of many that you know) then it's difficult to have a good conversation. However. etc Link and associate those feelings to you o Use the Language Tools o Use linkage phrases like "now with me". but they assume that you are in a conversation where they will work and be somewhat "appropriate" to what is being discussed. because doing so may work against you. The good ways to use these are as teaching and learning tools. for her to elaborate and describe o Repeating back what she has said o Provide examples from your own life o Provide examples from friends. "this person.3 CANNED PATTERNS D10-T12 These are the pre-rehearsed. and have them there for your use if and when the correct situation comes up. But.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • o Get her feeling good and/or exciting feelings o Get her experiencing (or recall the experience of) good and/or exciting feelings o Get her to think about things that she wants or desires Amplify these feelings and states by talking. pre-rehearsed. what you need to do is to look at. Therefore it is best to maybe have some of these memorized. clarifying o Use the Language Tools o Asking her for info. if you just "drop" a pattern into the conversation. • The interesting topic that she and you are discussing o what is happening o what you know Page 116 . don't focus TOO much on them. or things you have read.. 6. and do. and the proper context is not created. In THAT case . they can. when you are talking to a woman." etc. o Use "this" and "these" (be aware of that and those as well) o Point and mark appropriately Present a Call to action o "Do it now" language o Create a Challenge o Create an Opportunity o Talk about the chance to "Seize the moment" o A simple add-on to the Language Tools There are two main ways of doing patterns.. In the real world. and to use what is needed in the moment. So. these canned patterns DO have some usefulness. 6. Pre-written. many times it does not. Their best use is when you use the Conversational Management techniques and then find that the conversation just happens to get to or near a pattern that you DO happen to know already. Some times that does happen.4 PATTERN RIFFING IN REAL-TIME D10-T13 This is the ability to just create pattern language on-the-fly.these pre-written or canned patterns can work very well. and that the woman will react to what the patterns is about. pre-written patterns that you have seen and heard.. sound quite strange. canned patterns are good. and real-time "Riffing". asking.

Wanting to take action or seize an opportunity Always • • • • See the pattern here? We are in general. states. and sensual things. Yes. Page 117 . • Use some "act now" languaging. exciting. and and use the language tools. Then you have a conversation and. • Talk about these things or listen to you talk about these things • get her to think about these things • get her to feel these things • get her to link them to you.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • o what she is reacting to o and discuss things which are appropriate. THE BEST PATTERN IS THIS: • • Get her to talk and think about positive. and actions in the conversation. looking and listening for positive feelings. get her to. emotions. using the tools. interesting.. Then we use those as a basis for discussion. it really IS that easy! look for: Positive emotions and feeling Positive sensations (as in physical ones) Exciting feelings. Use the language tools so that YOU become associated with those things..

you will benefit. Whether its your first. It really is up to you. Use the Language Tools 5.3 LISTEN. D10-T28 The more energy and effort you put into this. 7. of fourteenth time through. Use the conversational management techniques b. SOTs) 4. a. Create a willingness. but the method of approaching it is very different. and the more engaged you are in the process. Use the Language Tools 7. and then building up to bigger and bigger pieces. the greater your results will be. and really take the time to do the exercises. DO THE EXERCISES. Keep her there and keep talking! a. Get the conversation into good subjects (SOTXs. 1. Both you and her talk! 2. Now we can look from the "top-down". Talk about something positive and interesting c. 7.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 7. Use the conversational management techniques b. D10-T27 Listen to the full explanations. 7. Engage her emotions and imagination in a positive way. Keep the conversation going. and how you speak. AND FOLLOW THE COURSE. fifth.4 BE WILLING AND PREPARED TO PUT ENERGY INTO THIS COURSE. Fractionate if and when needed. 3. We really are focused upon changing you. and/or compulsion to act a.2 SUMMARY D10-T26 This may be similar to information you have heard in the past.1 REVIEW AND SUMMARY REVIEW D10-T18 The course has followed a "bottom-up" approach to training. a. Direct the conversation in a way that takes you toward good topics a. comfort in.0 7.5 CONGRATULATIONS! WELL DONE! D10-T29 Page 119 . -' d. and view an overall strategy. Direct and/or link those feelings towards you. focusing first on small details.

EXAMPLES. and provide you with some real-world examples of their use.0 EXAMPLES. Page 121 . EXAMPLES Dll-Tl The discussions presented on the audio for this section are intentionally "casual" to familiarize you even more with the use of these tools.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 8.

• If I were to . or Chest? Pacing And Pausing Use variations in pace. • Nose... • What's it like when . powerful. Fast. and processes awaken.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course APPENDIX 1 Course "Cheat Sheet" • SPEAKING POINTERS o The "Cool" Factor You don't have to be cold. and well-placed pauses. and to "soften " the way in which something is said. emotions. • Instantaneously " Suddenly • Find Yourself • Convince Yourself • Suppose • Imagine " Mysterious (-ly) • Wonder (-ous) (-ously) Weasel Phrases Use Weasel Phrases to keep the conversation going. so that their feelings... • If you were to . " As you. • Be descriptive.. Mouth. use Adjectives And Adverbs Trance Words Help to get the subconscious mind of the listener to be more of apart of your conversation. • Passionate or Boring? o o o • LANGUAGE TOOLS A N T D E T A I L S o Adjectives And Adverbs Use more adjectives and adverbs in your speech to appeal to and excite the emotional side of the listener. o o Page 123 .. allowing you to say more (and maybe more provocative things) about a subject... Pause? Energy And Enthusiasm Using energy and enthusiasm when speaking so that people can become energized and enthusiastic about listening to and being with you. to be cool. to convey a sense of drama and intrigue in what you are saying in a way that "captivates "people and makes them want to listen to you.. • Slow. and charismatic presence.. • Have you ever . Voice Tone And Tonality Use your best tone of voice (speaking from your chest) to convey a relaxed.

allowing you to move things more in your favor later on Page 124 . Point to you • Negative statement. Easy Anchoring When the person you are talking with displays a positive feeling of some type. Linking After getting someone to experience good feelings and emotions. That. • Can you do this now. to create a compelling will on the part of the listener follow you and listen to you. • Whenever you say something positive. Point away • Positive statement. touch them to help anchor it to you.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o Embedded Commands Use embedded commands repeatedly and in the proper context. motion.. etc. a smile. interest.. Those • Positive statement. Easy Linking Expanded Pointing With This. point or gesture towards yourself. and accentuate what you are saying in order to be more compelling as a speaker and to get even more attention from your listener or audience. gesture. intrigue.. These. Say "these". Point to you • Negative Say "those". laugh. • Point Or Touch On Positive —* o o o • LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES o Pace And Lead Pacing and Leading allows you "be " in the conversation for a while and gain rapport and information. point or gesture away. o o • MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures Move. link them to you so that YOU become something and someone that they feel good about • Now with me • In me • In myself • with this • these • this belief • these feelings Easy-Linking • Use "This" and "These" when referring to anything positive. • Move! Point! Linking Gestures Towards And Away • Whenever you say something negative. Say "that". • Use "That" and "Those" when referring to anything negative. Point away. Say "this".

you can get away with an outrageous or very direct option by burying that option in the middle of a List. the More Z. B. and c When giving examples or options to someone. and/or interest. etc. B. in order to provide more power to what you are saying • At The End Listing at The End is a way to provide several options (which may differ) but to emphasize the option that YOU want. which support your point • A. • As you X. • Request X because (of) Y. but mention the one which YOU want to put the most emphasis on. "List" several things briefly in order. or giving an example. statement.) • Then you will "Y" Where "Y" is something you want them to experience (Lead) o Give Them A Reason Giving a reason will make people more apt to do things for you and agree with you. Listing • General Listing General Listing is a way to quickly provide several reason. keep the discussion focused on a topic that serves your purposes. etc. and C When making a point. the More Y. • Topics and Subjects • Mindset or Frame of Mind • Current Reality • As (while) you are "X" (Pace) Where "X" is something that is true in their current reality (perceptions.Burying Items is a way to mention an outrageous or very direct option for "testing" purposes. Then start to move or shift things in a different way. The More Z. More And More If you want to lead someone through a series of steps (actions. understanding. LAST • Burying Items Listing . b. a way that you want. and C When making a point. • a. experiences.another option o o o Page 125 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Show agreement. or to maybe see if you can get someone to agree to it! • a. etc. The more Y. or thoughts) use "More and More " as a way to string them together (and increase your chances of that happening • The more X. "List" several things or examples which support your point.Bad • One option . Compare And Contrast Use this technique to keep the conversation going. the More Y. and incorporate the language tools • This thing vs that thing • How two things are similar • How two things are different • Good . the more Y. acknowledgement. statement. thoughts. or giving an example.

. • Maybe you can .. Mini-Challenges • You seem. idea. or adventurous. feelings and emotions. • Break it down into its component parts and discuss them.. • Use the language tools in the discussion.. • Challenge them to demonstrate it. • If you can .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o Parts • • Parts Of A Subject Discussing many of the parts of a subject keeps the conversation going. feelings. or show it. • Are you able to . etc)........ • I wonder if you can . • You might see . or fun. • You seem as if. or point in a discussion.. allowing you time to gather information and link yourself to good thoughts... • Link good thoughts.. • etc. o Opportunities And Challenges • Find out what someone wants. —* • • • Page 126 .. • Take any subject. • You might. • Find a way to map what YOU want..\ Universal Wants You can assume that most people want these. or want to be perceived as having? • Talk to them and find out. feelings and emotions to yourself... and evoke favorable states.. • You may .. and beliefs. Parts Of A Person Use Parts of a Person as a way to find. • Challenge them to do that. can (use smart.. • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control Particular Wants What does she want to have. discuss. • If you are able to . • Using Their Own Processes • Find or assume what someone wants • Create an opportunity for them to get it or demonstrate they have it • Make that "demonstration" work in your favor. to be a way for them to get what they want. assume there is a part that will work WITH you.. even when the other person claims or demonstrates that such parts are NOT there • For every part of a person that will work against you. • The smart people I know. • You seem like .. do it.

or show what they have. she may have to do Y to prove that. by doing Y? • Does she want you to THINK she has X. • Navigation Don't think of an exact plan. • Repeat. positive. fun.. Creating Them -. interesting things.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • Opportunities. positive and interesting. • Introduce topics that are fun.. interesting things.. • Can she see an opportunity to have "X". • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control " • Excitement Challenges Challenge them to get what they want. fun. and interesting?" " Move the conversation in that direction... Are they ready to take advantage of that (this) opportunity? • Does she really want X and see how Y can get that? • Does she really have X. steer the conversation towards directions that engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way o o Page 127 . and see how doing Y would demonstrate it?> • Does she have what it takes to get X.. interesting things • Keep thinking . listen and be IN the conversation! • Conversational Dynamics Topics flow from one to the next. fun.-and do Y to get it? • Can she do Y and make it happen? • Can she see that Y will get her what she wants? • Can she trust herself enough to do Y? o • Ambiguities — CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT o General . Consider the wants and needs that a person may have .. General Conversational Management To steer the conversation in a good direction.."Where can I go that is fun. think of general navigation • She Must Be Engaged In The Conversation! You need her to talk. •• Show interest when someone discusses positive. then .. • Don't engage in conversations when it's NOT about positive. bring up positive. • Topic Turning Point The process of moving from one topic to one of 6-8 relevant topics • In general. Advanced Conversational Management To direct the conversation into even BETTER areas.

positive. Conversational Fractionation • Using Conversational Fractionation • Start • Move • Back Up • Repeat • Dead Ends Come Back To Life! • Just back up and start over! Conversational Overview and Review • General Flow • Start on just about ANY subject. and seductive things. • Repeat. fascinating. Repeat.Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Move the conversation in that direction. fascinating. keep it there. • When on good topics. seductive things?" " Move the conversation in that direction. back up a few steps. by there very nature. • Keep thinking . steer the conversation towards romantic. and get the effect. fascinating. and interesting? • Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? • Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. bring up images and thoughts that may work for you. seductive tilings? • The entire time: o If you hit a "dead end". and while there.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • o Keep thinking ."Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. Seduction Oriented Topics SOTs are topics that. Get the conversation there. • Connections • Going for it • Making good decisions Page 128 o . use the language tools as much as possible! • What If The Outcome Is Not What You Expected? • Move on! o o • TOPICS o Topics Of Enthusiasm and Passion Few things are more compelling in a person than for them to be passionate about something (hopefully many things) in life. o If you get to a good subject or topic. stay there for a while. • Where can I go that is fun. use as many of the language tools as you can. use the language tools. More Advanced Conversational Management To further direct the conversation into even BETTER areas.

. Link and associate these feelings to you. Those are STOXs. o Canned Patterns . • Manage . clarifying. o Talk about these things or listen to you talk about these things o get her to think about these things o get her to feel these things o get her to link them to you. The Complete Conversational Model See Appendix 2 o o • PATTERNS o Pattern • • • • Formula While talking to a woman. and • Look for: o Positive emotions and feeling o Positive sensations (as in physical ones) o Exciting feelings. get her to "experience" good feelings and states. asking. Present a Call to action. • Get her to.SOTXs For each SOT. Page 129 o . Pattern Riffing In Real-Time • Use the Conversational Management techniques to get to good subjects • Look at the interesting topic that she and you are discussing o what is happening o what you know o what she is reacting to o and discuss things which are appropriate. there are easily 6-8 variations on that SOT that you can talk about.Use the conversational Management Techniques.Great as EXAMPLES • Learn and know some of them they may be useful. o Wanting to take action or seize an opportunity • Use the language tools. • Direct .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • • • • • o Surrendering to feelings Getting excited Feeling excited Trusting your judgment Taking chances Indulgence Maturity Good decisions Expanded Seduction Oriented Topics ..Look out for SOTXs • Direct 0 Move towards SOTs. Conversational Model With SOTXs. Amplify these feelings and states by talking.

interesting. o The Best Pattern Is This: • Get her to talk and think about positive. and sensual things.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • Use some "act now" languaging. exciting. • Use the language tools so that YOU become associated with those things Page 130 .

At the End • Burying Items o More And More o Compare And Contrast o Parts " Parts of a Subject • Parts of a Person o Opportunities And Challenges • Mini Challenges " Opportunities And Challenges o Ambiguities • • • Page 131 .) o Easy Anchoring . That. Those) MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures o Linking Gestures (Towards And Away) o Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course APPENDIX II Speaking and Language Tools "Cheat Sheet" • SPEAKING POINTERS o Voice Tone And Tonality o Pacing And Pausing o Energy And Enthusiasm LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS o Adjectives And Adverbs o Trance Words o Weasel Phrases o Embedded Commands o Linking o Easy-Linking (This. That.. These..Point Or Touch On Positive And Negative LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES o Pace And Lead • Topics and Subjects • Mindset of Frame • Current Reality o Give Them A Reason o Listing " General .

and Interesting Advanced Mgt.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course APPENDIX III The Complete Conversational Management Model The Complete Conversational Management Model General Mgt. Fun. Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way More Advanced Mgt. Positive. Fascinating. Romantic. Seductive SOTXs SOTs The Complete Conversational Management Model Page 133 .

Romantic... seductive things Direct the Conversation Pay attention when Good Subjects come up (SOTXs) Listen for anything a step or two away from an SOT Move towards SOTs Stay there as long as you can Use The Language Tools! As much as possible. Especially when at or near SOTXs and SOTs. Steer towards . interesting . back up! If you move back to a general topic. fascinating.Fun. Steer towards .Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course The Complete Conversational Management Model (continued) Start a Conversation Manage the Conversation Move the Conversation in a Good Direction Steer towards . positive.. start over! Page 134 . Fractionate If you take a wrong turn....

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