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Dave Riker's

Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course

A structured training program that teaches the language and conversational skills of Speed Seduction .

Workbook
Speed Seduction is a registered trademark of Ross Jeffries, used with permission.

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Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course

Table of Contents
Page No. Title Page Legal Notices Table of Contents Product Content Product Protection and User Consent Formatting and Conventions Acknowledgements Forward Registration Important Note About Exercises and Assignments 1.0 INTRODUCTION AND GETTING STARTED i ii iii vi vi vii ix x xii xii 1 D1-T1 Disk and Track No.*

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Overview
Why Is This Course Needed? What We Will Handle, and How Investing In Yourself, Or Not Can We Change The Way You Speak? Manipulation and Ethics Concerns SPEAKING AND LANGUAGE

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Speaking Pointers 7 The "Cool" Factor 7 Voice Tone and Tonality 7 Pacing and Pausing 9 Energy and Enthusiasm 10 Language Tools and Details 12 Adjectives and Adverbs 12 Trance Words 13 Weasel Phrases 15 Embedded Commands 17 Linking 19 Easy-Linking (This, That, These, Those) 21 More Tools 23 Pointing and Gestures 24 Linking Gestures (Towards and Away) 25 Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This, That, These, Those ...) 26 Easy Anchoring - Point Or Touch, On Positive 27 Review 29 LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES Pace and Lead General Pace and Lead Techniques 31 31 32

* Disk and Track Numbers References to the CDs and the tracks on them are shown in a format such as "D2-T4", which in this example refers to Disk 2, Track 4.

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Page No. 3.1.2 3.1.3 3.1.4 3.2 3.3 3.3.1 3.3.2 3.3.3 3.3.4 3.3.5 3.4 3.5 3.6 3.6.1 3.6.2 3.7 3.7.1 3.7.2 3.7.3 3.7.4 3.8 3.9 4.0 4.1 4.1.1 4.1.2 4.1.3 4.1.4 4.2 4.2.1 4.2.2 4.2.3 4.3 4.3.1 4.3.2 4.3.3 4.3.4 4.3.5 4.4 4.4.1 4.4.2 4.4.3 4.4.4 4.4.5 4.5 4.5.1 4.5.2 Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects Pace and Lead-Mindset Or Frame Of Mind Pace and Lead - Current Reality Give Them a Reason Listing General Listing Listing - At The End Listing - Burying Items Listing, Pauses, and Emphasis.. Listing Review More and More Compare and Contrast Parts Parts of a Subject Parts of a Person Opportunities and Challenges Using Their Own Processes What Do People Want? Mini-Challenges Opportunities and Challenges Ambiguities Summary CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT Challenges Detailed and Specific Plans Are Just Not Workable Navigation Example Navigational Strategies Are Needed She Must Be Engaged In The Conversation! How Conversations Happen Conversational Dynamics Conversational Model Topic Turning Point General Conversational Management Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Want How To Steer Conversations, Moment To Moment The Model With Strategy and Tactics In Place Exercises and Assignments Summary Advanced Conversational Management Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Really Want Steering Conversations Moment To Moment The Model With Advanced Strategy and Tactics In Place Exercises and Assignments Summary More Advanced Conversational Management More About Getting The Conversation To Go Steering Conversations Using More Advanced 33 35 38 39 41 41 43 45 48 48 48 51 54 54 58 61 62 62 63 64 69 69 71 71 71 71 72 72 72 72 73 77 79 79 81 82 83 86 86 86 88 88 91 93 93 93 94 Disk a n d Track N o . * D5-T12 D5-T20 D5-T29 D5-T32 D6-T1 D6-T4 D6-T15 D6-T24 D6-T36 D6-T37 D6-T38 D6-T54 D7-T1 D7-T4 D7-T15 D7-T34 D7-T36 D7-T38 D7-T40 D7-T43 D7-T64 D7-T66 D8-T1 D8-T1 D8-T3 D8-T4 D8-T5 D8-T10 D8-T12 D8-T13 D8-T14 D8-T15 D8-T16 D8-T16 D8-T19 D8-T23 D8-T25 D8-T32 D8-T33 D8-T33 D8-T35 D8-T38 D8-T39 D8-T46 D8-T47 D8-T47 D8-T49

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EXAMPLES. .0 The Model With More Advanced Strategy and Tactics In Place. Do The Exercises.3 6.0 6.5 6. .7 4. APPENDICES I II III Course "Cheat Sheet" Speaking and Language Tools "Cheat Sheet" The Complete Conversational Management Model 123 131 133 Page v .4 7. 94 96 96 97 97 98 99 99 99 99 101 101 102 104 109 111 115 115 115 116 116 119 119 119 119 119 119 121 Disk a n d Track N o . Conversational Fractionation The 1-Shot Beeline Fallacy How Fractionation Works Using Conversational Fractionation Dead Ends Come Back To Life! Conversational Overview and Review Conversational Management Approach What If The Outcome Is Not What You Expected? Summary TOPICS Topics Of Enthusiasm and Passion Seduction Oriented Topics Expanded Seduction Oriented Topics .3 7.2 6..4 4.6. .6 4.3 5.SOTXs Conversational Model With SOTXs The Complete Conversational Model PATTERNS Pattern O v e r Pattern Formula Canned Patterns Pattern Riffing In Real-Time REVIEW AND SUMMARY Review Summary Listen.5 8.1 4.1 5.6.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Table of Contents (continued) Page No. 4.2 7.3 4..2 5.4 5. * D8-T52 D9-T1 D9-T2 D9-T3 D9-T5 D9-T6 D9-T7 D9-T8 D9-T9 D9-T10 D9-T11 D9-T14 D9-T15 D9-T24 D9-T32 D9-T33 D10-T1 D10-T1 D10-T7 D10-T12 D10-T13 D10-T18 D10-T18 D10-T26 D10-T27 D10-T28 D10-T29 D11 .0 7. EXAMPLES v i e w .7.7.6.6.1 7.2 4.2 4..4 7.3 5. .1 4.5. and Follow The Course Be Willing and Prepared To Put Energy Into Congratulations! Well Done! EXAMPLES.1 6.0 5..7. .3 4.

styles.A majority of the workbook content is shown in this typeface (Times New Roman. Usually the graphic is shown on the page immediately following where that graphic is first mentioned in the text. Not every track number is listed. If the graphic cannot fit there (due to page breaks) then the graphic is placed on the next available page. Listen to the audio where an example is presented. Samples of the formatting and conventions used: Typefaces .As shown to the right Towards the right margin of section titles and headings.Italicized Text is used for emphasis in many cases where boldface text may by nearby. or major points in the workbook. there may be instances when the conventions are not used for the sake of emphasis. Text within graphics. items are presented in a list-like fashion such as this: • Item 1 • Item 2 • Item 3 • Etc. Graphics are used in the workbook as well. graphic titles. A majority of the workbook is presented in an "outline" form. and to make it easier to reference those items at a later time. Italics are also used to point the reader towards specific content of the audio CDs. a "sans-serif typeface). and the italics are simply used as a way to show a different manner of emphasis. Lists .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Formatting and Conventions The following formatting. The audio is NOT an exact duplicate of the text shown in the workbook. Exercises.Boldface Text is used to emphasize certain text or passages. It is also used for subject headings so that these stand out and apart from the normal text. graphic captions. D3-T5 CD Track References . and Assignments are all shown using this typeface (Arial. The written text is NOT a transcript. This shows (for example) the Disk (3) and the Track number (5) that corresponds to that part of the workbook contents. Italicized Text . and the Formulas. CD Location References are shown using terms such as "D3-T5" in the text.. there is not an exact place in the book that correlates to the start of each and every track on the audio CDs. a "serif typeface). these are in most cases presented as a way to augment the content of the audio presentation. The relationship between these two can be best described by considering the workbook text to be (for the most part) an "outline" of what is presented in the audio. or clarity. Therefore most of the track references are shown at the start of major sections..that is simply to show a list of related items.e.At times. The graphics in the latter sections are significant in that they are an essential part of the understanding and leaning. Although there are paragraphs of explanatory text. There are certain conventions used in the formatting of the workbook. Boldface Text . and their use is key to many students' understanding of the concepts presented. Page vii . Since the work book is an "outline" and not a transcript. This shows information that could be considered part of an overall "outline" of what the audio presentation contains. . However these conventions are guidelines. i. and conventions have been developed and are used throughout this transcript/workbook.

and Assignments are shown inside boxes such as this. or technique. fact.If a graphic has text that helps to further explain that graphic. This may require that a graphic be placed on the next page after where it is first mentioned (instead of being directly below where the graphic is first mentioned in the text). -3) to account for multiple graphics in one section of text. or maybe and Assignment can be done alone by the student. -2. .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Each graphic has a number and a title of some type. Each Formula is presented in its own "text box" as shown here. an Exercise may require interaction with other people. Candidate Topics Figure XYZ-1: Graphic Title Sub-paragraph . Similarly. Assignments usually requier the reader to go out and interact with other person(s) in order to perform them correctly. there are instances where the definitions may be clouded to some degree. Page viii . then that text is shown immediately below the graphic using an indented paragraph such as this. it is required in order for the "flow" of the book content to remain consistent.e. but that is a necessity due to the complexity of the book. The number is in the format of "XYZ-A" where "XYZ" denotes the number of the section where the graphic is placed. Formula. For example. and the "A" indicates the number of the graphic within a section itself (i. Assignments also call for action on the part of the reader. Most exercises can be done alone. Exercises. Text Boxes . This is shown below.The workbook is laid out to minimize the amount of blank space where reasonably possible. Although the difference between Exercises and Assignments is maintained through most of the workbook. Exercises are a series of instructions that call upon the reader to do or perform certain actions. A Formula is a way to present a concise explanation of some item. Page Breaks .1 . there are cases where text boxes may actually "break" across two pages. This also may result in some page breaks being in places which are not optimal. Although this is not optimal.Text boxes are used for very specific purposes in the workbook.

/ must apologize to some degree for the time it has taken to finish this product. To Dr. who was the business genius that brought Speed Seduction® to the masses through seminars and products. but I sincerely hope that the results will prove to have made the wait worthwhile. but have also shown many the way to a new way of living. and to all of the Students out there who I have met at Speed Seduction® seminars. To those in the original SD Lair group. who have placed their trust in me and allowed me the experience of showing them new and wonderful possibilities for what their lives may have to offer. most notably Hypnotica. opening the door for many into the world of self improvement. The main reason is that I do not wish to release any product until I believe that I am able to provide the level of quality.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Acknowledgements The first and foremost acknowledgement goes out to Ross Jeffries himself. MC. and who has also contributed greatly to helping men change their minds about themselves. DM. To my coaching clients. Ross's developments have lead not only to helping many men with this part of their lives. those who have read what I have written. the creator of Speed Seduction .. and for the assistance they provided with this product. mentors. . I may miss a few sales because of such a delay. SP. who helped me by allowing me to help them. EVS. Working with these clients was especially instrumental in formulating and perfecting the concepts and teaching methods used in this product. and to help you in finding the Women or Woman of Your Dreams. Thank you. JL. Dave Riker Page ix . Yates Canipe. teachers. To all of you. SM. and MD.. Special thanks to my friends. and this wait may have annoyed a few people.insight and teaching that I think is possible. and students (we are each all of these and more) in the TAGR Group. To the many experts out there who have augmented the SS teachings by showing me other aspects of the mind. and have opened the door for me to find many ways of self-improvement and understanding. colleagues. and what is possible in their lives. associates. and those who have entrusted me to teach you and to guide you. confidants.

I know of many women who are always distraught that they seem to not be able to meet good men. charming men. Such men. who was simply deprived of an means to "learn about" how to meet and talk with women. as well. and introducing themselves. And I am here to help correct it. that they will want to spend time with as well. most women will be far better off and have much better chances with the kind of men. having and sharing experiences with. I think that is not correct. are NOT in short supply. and in many cases the efforts of men to solve this problem on their own have been met by smallminded criticism and slander. are the ones that really DO look at this area of their lives. Good. As if the interesting. information. Page x . or don't know how to present themselves in the best way. the best men. The women of the world will be better off in their own way. and set forth upon a path to improve this area of his life. There are many such men out there. One of the biggest tragedies of life is that there are things. take action. Whether a man decides to use this information as way to embark upon a period of his life which involves casual romantic interludes. there are a lot of great men out there who would like to meet interesting women. And it's a shame for these women to be wanting for their company. teachings. for some reason seem to be in short supply. Whether that be as friends or acquaintances. and sharing experiences with them. or "compromise". whether this time has any sort of romantic or seductive component or not. or with that special woman of which they have always dreamed. Many men through no fault of their own have grown up to be adults and have had little instruction or assistance in a very important area of their lives. should somehow not improve himself. intelligent. is up to him. They are the ones that really don't know how to introduce themselves. He will be able to decide for himself which he feels is the best option for him. This is so sad. or whether a man uses this information as a means to improve his chances of finding one special woman. At least then he will be in a position of choice. the idea of simply communicating with and sharing experiences with the other half of the human population. From that position. in fact. or the kind of man. A woman should never "settle". some of the most wonderful moments of life are brought about by people. that I create products such as this. and for those women. They don't know how to keep a woman's interest. (and more importantly a LACK of information in some cases) that can prevent such connections and moments from happening. she should decide to be with whom she wants to be with by having opportunities. helps to provide these women with an even better choice. to make an informed choice. interesting. learn. Having many interesting men available. So. other people. spending time with them. It's for these men. and grow.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Forward One of the most wonderful things about life is the idea of connecting with others. And. and options. and showing themselves in the best and most honest light. Sadly this is most apparent when it comes to men. good-natured and well-intentioned man. and decide to move forward. women. so that they really may share wonderful experiences of ALL types with women. there are a lot of wonderful women out there who would love to meet interesting men. They just have not been taught such things. I think that many men.

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Listen to it.0 1. Instructions for each are provided. Provide additional explanation of some points that are covered in the audio program.1 INTRODUCTION AND GETTING STARTED OVERVIEW Dl-Tl Welcome and Thanks. Language Skills What works? What makes the successful guys able to use these technologies? Partly it's the ability to actually "talk" in this manner. The purpose of this workbook is to: • • • Provide an outline of the material covered in the audio program. and get the full benefit of everything this course has to offer. Some guys don't need this. and what works in the field. Conversational Skills The ability to manage conversations is needed as well. You are already on your way! This course works on many levels. 1. seeing what is needed. you can change the way you speak as well. We will teach you ways to easily manage conversations so that they go in interesting directions. pay attention. Present a series of exercises and assignments. Welcome to Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course. and "reprogrammed" in a way. This program is based upon experience with countless students. along with spaces for written responses where necessary. You will have this way of speaking as a PART of who you are and what you can do! Guys need to be trained. We will be teaching you the detailed language skills that will really help you. you will do so in the future and use these techniques as well. consciously and subconsciously. This workbook is meant to studied along with a series of audio lectures that are recorded on CDs. If you are her "type" you don't need this. These techniques all need to sound and be "natural" to actually be effective. So even this "intro" section is starting to work for you. but this will help you if you are not.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 1. there is a need. to use these language skills naturally as just a part of the way they speak. and on you as well. then on some level. You are not going to sound like this or talk like this all of the time! Just in the way that you shift and change how you speak now in different situations. Page 1 . If you follow along and do the exercises. some people do this naturally.2 WHY IS THIS COURSE NEEDED? D1-T10 If you are here.

You need to integrate skills to the degree that they ARE a part of who you ARE. some of the ways that you speak now will be reprogrammed so that speaking in a new way will be natural.. respond to input immediately . responding... but it's really YOU talking! Guys are too focused on "how can I use this" when in a conversation. talking. AND HOW Topics Speaking Pointers Language Tools and Details Conversational Management Conversational Fractionation Topics . Sure. but if you are "thinking" too much. but that's your left brain talking! We are reprogramming many years of your experience. Page 2 . Other parts of the language tools you may have to "think" about. • Working on several "levels" of you mind at once • Models to arrive at an overall understanding • Left brain and right brain are both addressed • Conscious and subconscious minds are both given what they need for real understanding and retention. • Exercises to develop understanding and skills • Assignments for you to do in the field. Guys need to be able to just "do this" and "talk this way" in REAL-TIME.Enthusiasm and Passion Topics . and how people speak. • Things may seem to "repeat". must react to a steady flow of new information without interruption. some things will sound quite familiar. that is important. interacting. so we need to approach this in many ways. so let's define and explain it for you.. • Other teachings about language. many times! • In fact we have already started! Where Does This Material Come From • From SS Teachings. Real Time "Occurring immediately .3 Major • • • • • • • • WHAT WE WILL HANDLE. Not inside your head "thinking" about "how can I use this?"! 1. and be a part of it." Guys need to stop the worrying about "Doing something wrong" It's only "wrong" if you are TRYING to do or be something you are not..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course You have to be PROGRAMMED to do this so you can have a conversation. then you are not actually IN the conversation! You need to be engaged in a conversation. listening. for a while at least.. This is a term that will be used throughout this course. listen. In a way.Seduction Oriented Topics Patterns and Riffing Examples Dl-Tl5 What Methods Are Used • Describe and explain the details of the techniques • Explicit examples of how the details work • Examples throughout and within the discussions • Examples section at the end. how it is learned. not a "trick".

However. as assigned or as required. • Is there an "optimal way" to use the product. Page 3 . and who may "try" to listen to the course. making it a part of YOU. • Be prepared to have a place to practice for this course! You will need to be able to speak out loud to do many of the exercises. the more you will get out of it. the emphasis here is training you to do it for yourself. that YOU just DO.4 INVESTING IN YOURSELF. However. and a few women's magazines as well. The Ways To Study And Use The Product • Listen to the CDs.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • From personal experiences and how I used the materials. So. they aren't really putting themselves INTO it. keep those copies to yourself. Many of the assignments will deal with talking to people. do whatever you need to do to listen to this course a LOT. a concept that was brought up earlier. If they just "try" it. By embarking upon this course. • Having a good social life will help you. Other SS products will work well. do it! But please. do the exercises over and over. Changing that will take some time. • Listen to other products in conjunction with this product. listening multiple times in any setting also has a lot of benefit. • Follow along in the workbook if you can • Do the exercises and assignments! • Listen over and over. and this is much easier if you have an active life where you can have many conversations. new. We are reprogramming years and years of you "speaking" in a certain manner. effort. However. to give you a real roadmap to actually learn the material. OR NOT D1-T24 Any real change requires you to make an investment in yourself using energy. and engagement into your effort to really learn and use these materials. • Get some other written material to work with for this course. the more you put into it. From working with clients and seeing what worked and how they were able to change. or revised? Yes. many of these people will be those negative types of people that will then dispute the benefits of this program! Why? Because THEY have not invested anything into it! Not just in terms of dollars. and engagement. Also maybe get a romance novel or two. In addition. both audio and written materials. You will need them because you will have assignments that deal with these. there IS some overlap and duplication with other products and systems. • This may seem complicated but the point is to get you SO familiar with the tools that you become the guy who does this! Some Very Important Points • Find all of your current SS products and inventory them. but in terms of THEM really being willing and ready to change. Be wary of those people who may want to "borrow" a copy. effort. Applying a structured methodology of step-by-step methods. or not? There are various ways. see what works for you. If you need to make your own copies for use in multiple locations. The best way to listen to this course is while also reviewing the workbook (especially in the conversational management sections). • Get that "Mind-Momentum" going to help you change and improve. do the assignments over and over! • Be patient. and this journey. you are doing just that. and being open to what benefits this program can bring. Is this information. 1. The Mind-Momentum Principle At Work • Get energy.

you heard it in context. where you use the skills in the real world. paragraphs. you heard it. then its easier. And actual assignments. 1. Not as congruent. Plus it's not YOU talking. It Is Possible! . Don't let their lack of willingness to improve themselves. there is a "right" and "wrong" way to do it! But if you are just TALKING. where you learn skills piece by piece. It makes guys nervous.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course People must be engaged in the process to get its benefits. hold you back. You keep trying to "remember" things. But it's tough to do that. Immersion is the key. How People Initially Learn How To Speak • • • • Sure in middle school. but to then USE it in conversation is difficult. and you started to form the ability to speak and communicate based upon that! Page 4 .But This Is A Different Type Of Learning. kids are taught about language. at every moment! Some people want to try to memorize.5 CAN WE CHANGE THE WAY YOU SPEAK? D1-T26 Is this really possible? This sounds difficult. Also progressive exercises. there is no "right" way or "wrong" way. some models." So. some structures. • • • • • • • • This might be good as a learning TOOL. will not benefit. you heard it a lot. But that's not how you learned to talk! You learned to talk when you were a child . Most people want to approach this by learning bits and pieces • • That's good in a way. • • • • • • You will get some details. Those who are not. Can we literally change the way you speak? • • • • • • • How you select words Create phrases Form sentences Pick topics Speak passionately. trying to "remember" what to say. because it addresses that analytical part of your mind. its a memorized "thing". because you will hear it so much! But a LOT of what is being conveyed here is learning by EXAMPLE. at will Engage in conversation Manage conversations Yes. its YOU being YOU! You cannot fail at being YOU! The approach in this course is different. about grammar. sentences. You will end up "memorizing" thing to some degree. Imagine having to "think about" how to talk. Then it's about a "performance. but only indirectly. It's less effective.by hearing others around you speak! You were IMMERSED in language. just being YOU. etc. consequently.

"it's not me" or "I am just using a trick or technique". • Break it down into small parts. like when I say "here is an example" Implicit examples. With THIS approach HERE. Various Training Methods • • We use a lot of repetitive training methods so that these techniques have a better chance of becoming "automatic". or craft.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course This Course Uses Many Techniques To Train You To Have Workable. Real-World Skills. We will have you become familiar with the range of ways of speaking and sounding. it's not about throwing something AT her. Page 5 .6 Many guys have been uncomfortable with using many of these skills. based upon feelings that when using them. we will change the way you talk so that it will be easier. where I am just DOING these things all during the program. more natural. This causes some real. Examples • • Explicit examples. and who and what YOU are! Using these skills will be less of an "act". more a part of YOU. deep ethics issues and blocks many guy's success. how you communicate. so that you will have more ability and more flexibility to do what is appropriate MANIPULATION AND ETHICS CONCERNS D1-T32 1. and be more of WHO YOU ARE. Exercises and Assignments to Teach You the Skills • Skills Training like any sport. trade. which we go over and over.

to be cool. BORING.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. 2. there ARE products that focus JUST on this area and you may want to invest in those.1. That "cool" feeling comes from being calm and speaking in a relaxed fashion. but because it's appropriate to the situation. Cool does NOT mean to be boring and to put people to sleep while talking! The coolest people are the ones that are FUN to talk to and fun to be with! You don't have to be cold. there are great products and examples of this elsewhere. The audio section demonstrates these options quite well. This is good as long as it's not BORING. reserved. Page 7 . 2) Read some more of that material out loud. Your tone of voice really conveys a lot about who you are. how they make you feel.2 Voice Tone and Tonality D2-T2 Listen to some examples of different tones of voice. but if you really want to work on this even more. Why is this important? • Great voice tone conveys comfort. We will work on this here in this course. focusing on the back of your throat might make this easier to do). and even goes a bit over-the-top to really help you to understand what is being discussed. 1) Take some of that reading material. not out of nervousness. focusing on generating your voice from your nose. how interesting you are. Read several paragraphs. and read it aloud. even some of the materials from other products.0 2. "Cool" comes from being calm and sure of yourself.1 SPEAKING AND LANGUAGE SPEAKING POINTERS The "Cool" Factor D2-T1 D2-T1 Guys want to sound "cool". Listen as the examples demonstrate: • Speaking through the nose • Speaking through the mouth • Speaking from the chest Exercises for Speaking Pointers Grab some reading material of some type. etc. how they sound. and says a lot about you. calm. Too many guys "try" to be cool but actually come off as COLD or even worse. a sense of being relaxed and calm • It also allows you to express some energy and excitement at different times. Examples: One way to think of this is to consider "where" your voice is generated from in your body. but giving the impression that there IS more. If this is a challenge for you. that there is a "fire" beneath the surface. something you are interested in. and what people like in general.1.1 2. do this for several minutes. That's what women like. how calm you are. That's the "allure". and this time focus on speaking by generating the sound from within your mouth (or.

but this time really focus upon generating the sound from deep within your chest. and whether or not you DID it! Day/Time Who you spoke to Situation (Where) Did you DO it? Page 8 . Focus on dropping your voice down from your nose/mouth. Also. but to actually HAVE the skills.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 3) Now read some of the material. and really focus on having that voice generated from your chest. mouth. Day/Time Who you spoke to Speaking from? How you felt. where you were. 2) In the next few conversations you have with people. and make them a part of who you are. Make notes below for some of the conversations and see if you can see a correlation between these items. 1) Over the next few days when speaking to anyone. with whom. See how relaxed it actually makes you feel and how you really need to BE relaxed to do this! 4) Take a moment. make note of how you felt (nervous. relaxed-confident). Real-world experience will really help you to not just "know" the skills. Relax. make a note to yourself as to how you are speaking. or chest). and where you are speaking from (your nose. Can you recall how you spoke? Did the way you sound in that situation sound like any of the examples you just did? See the similarity? Assignments for Speaking Pointers These are your first real assignments in the course. Assignments are where you are given a real task to go out and do . Make notes below as to when it happened. really make a note to speak lower. and recall some time in the recent past when you were kind of nervous or fearful.in the real world! To get the most benefit from this course. comfortable. it's important that you do what you can to REALLY make a point of doing these assignments. SOUND relaxed.

but this time read it in a slow. Too fast? Too slow? Hurried-nervous? Hurried-excited? Slow-confused? Page 9 . in a manner that makes you sound as if you are very confused. 4) Now read some of the material. Read several paragraphs and do this for several minutes. There are many variations: Listen as these are demonstrated • Hurried showing nervousness • Hurried showing excitement • Slow as in hesitant and/or confused • Slow in a way that is deliberate and relaxed Exercises for Pacing and Pausing Grab some reading material of some type.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Strategic Formula for Speaking Pointers Use your best tone of voice (speaking from your chest) to convey a relaxed. Focus on reading in a very hurried fashion as if you are very nervous. 1) Take some of that reading material and read it aloud. but this time read it slowly. and this time focus on reading in a quick and hurried fashion. Speaking too quickly can show tension. comfortable manner. even some of the materials from other products. relaxed. first very very fast.) Assignments for Pacing and Pausing 1) Over the next few days when speaking to anyone. (Maybe even be aware of where your voice is coming from. and shows that the speaker is relaxed.3 Pacing and Pausing D2-T15 Listen to the examples where some various pacing is demonstrated. Why is • • • this important? Correct pacing and speed of delivery conveys comfort. deliberate.1. powerful. and then far far too slow. or don't quite understand the content. 2) Read some more of that material out loud. make a note to yourself as to how you are speaking in terms of your pacing and pausing. as we discussed in the past section. or almost a sense of panic. but go ahead and convey excitement in your voice! 3) Now read some of the material. Being able to vary your pacing and pausing can help a lot to convey a sense of intrigue and create interest. Something you are interested in. 2. and charismatic presence.

4 Energy and Enthusiasm D2-T26 Listen to some examples of how this can sound . and well-placed pauses.. to convey a sense of drama and intrigue in what you are saying in a way that "captivates" people and makes them want to listen to you. energy. Make note of when. who. start to focus on changing your pacing and pausing. to convey a more relaxed and deliberate manner. By doing this. enthusiasm. It's good to have the ability and range to display passion. then you can show more enthusiasm.. where.1. When someone else is being boring. Who cares? Why does this matter? • Most guys are just TOO BORING.. and if you DID it! Day/Time Who you spoke to Situation (Where) Did you DO it? Strategic Formula for Pacing and Pausing Use variations in pace. 2. Page 10 . YOU can show an appropriate amount of energy and enthusiasm. and excitement when appropriate. • If someone else is being interesting.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Slow-relaxed? You don't have to change it yet. dead-end conversations. If they do or say something that is interesting to YOU. you get stuck in fewer boring. or bored. just make a note of this after-the-fact and write that down below. Day/Time Who you spoke to What type of pacing and pausing? 2) For the next few days. YOU act boring. • This also allows YOU to convey how interesting someone ELSE is as well.

and how much (or little) energy is conveyed. something you are interested in. maybe sports. monotone voice. their tone. Read it OUT LOUD in a boring. Do this for a good 10-15 minutes. and how much (or little) energy is conveyed. dry topic. When you respond or talk back. go ahead. their pace. 3) Get some written material that you have NO interest in. Page 11 . Watch on either TV. BE BORING and show no enthusiasm at all. Really pay attention to how they speak. Strategic Formula for Energy and Enthusiasm Using energy and enthusiasm when speaking so that people can become energized and enthusiastic about listening to and being with you.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course The audio section demonstrates more details about sounding boring/bored and also sounding as if you have energy and enthusiasm. Exercises for Energy and Enthusiasm Grab some reading material of some type. 5) Take that written material that really does interest you. 1) Watch and listen to some speakers talk about a boring. Note how even if the material is something you do NOT care about. other products. that a good speaker can really grab your attention with their energy and enthusiasm. bland voice with no energy or enthusiasm. and read THAT aloud in a way that DOES show energy and enthusiasm! Make that sound as convincing as #4 above. do that for 10-15 minutes. 4) Get some written material that really DOES interest you. which bores you. even some of the materials from . their pace. Assignments for Energy and Enthusiasm 1) Over the next few days. Again. your car. Again. and how your respond. your work. go ahead and SHOW your enthusiasm! Be energetic in how you speak.. and read that aloud in a boring. their tone. Think as if YOU are convincing a group of people how great this is! Maybe your Dream Job of a lifetime is dependant upon YOU speaking well and showing how passionate YOU are about this! Do that for a good 10-15 minutes. etc. energetic voice. Read it OUT LOUD in an exciting. and that are excited about. women. do that for 10-15 minutes. taped lectures. 6) Take that earlier written material about the subject that you are NOT interested in and that really bores you. 2) Watch and listen to some speakers who use a lot of energy and enthusiasm when they are talking! Really pay attention to how they speak. animated.. technical presentations. whenever someone is talking about something boring.. how you listen. make sure it is something that YOU are passionate about. whatever it is.. 2) For the next few conversations you have with people where you ARE interested in the subject. and BE BORING. bland. monotone.

Re-live it. feelings. use more Adjectives and Adverbs. Note whom you were talking to. but must be done over and over. while Adverbs will describe ACTIONS (verbs). • Their use must be automatic. and stress the adjectives and adverbs in it. Adjectives will describe THINGS (nouns). whatever.. or they are too factual and leftbrained. If you really like this subject. 4) Think of three recent conversations you had when you talked to someone about something that you REALLY liked. Most Adjectives and Adverbs are qualitative. (Maybe highlight them in some manner. These words modify or in some way describe.) 3) Read that text OUT LOUD. we are working to appeal to the emotions.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. 2. and the subject you were talking about. boring.. they are not things that can be measured or specified. movies. Cars. Do this for each of the conversations listed above. add more descriptive terms to it. talk about it in a descriptive way. nouns and verbs. because to have to "think about" using them is almost impossible! • You need to be TRAINED TO USE THEM automatically. They sound cold. and make note of the adjectives and adverbs in it. Remember. Most men could be helped by having more descriptive speech. sports.1 Adjectives and Adverbs D2-T40 Listen to an example where many of these are used in descriptive language. and more ways of talking about processes. Who you spoke to Subject 5) Now. and uninteresting. 2) Read it. out loud.2 LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS D2-T39 These are the Bit And Pieces • These are the sort of things that can be powerful.2. talk about each thing or subject again. Examples • Car reviews • Movie Reviews • This course! Exercises for Adjectives and Adverbs 1) Find some written material that deals with something where people are speaking passionately about some subject. you should be able to do this for at least 3-5 minutes each. Maybe say those adjectives or adverbs and put more energy into those words and emphasize them in some manner. Most guys are too dry in their speech. It's good if YOU are also interested in it. Page 12 . not the logical side of a person. Day. but this time. and sensations.

Be descriptive. emotions. Act like you are really having the conversation again. 3) Practice out loud how you would have said those things in each of the three conversations. or objective manner. is listening and more engaged in the conversation. Strategic Formula for Adjectives and Adverbs Use more adjectives and adverbs in your speech to appeal to and excite the emotional side of the listener. Write down what the subject was. that you are passionate about. so that their feelings. "paint a picture" with your words. Trance • • • • • Word List Instantaneously Suddenly Find Yourself Convince Yourself Suppose Page 13 .2. and with whom you spoke. and processes awaken. Trance words help to "open the person up" so that their subconscious.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Assignments for Adjectives and Adverbs 1) Make note of the next 3 times you are having a conversation which deals with something that YOU are really into. Day Who you spoke to Subject 2) Write down a few adjectives and adverbs that you could have used in each discussion (refer to a. Trance words are words that "call upon" the subconscious mind in order for them to be processed and understood. factual. that you really enjoy. Start with just a few of them.2 Trance Words D3-T1 Listen to an example where many of these are used. their emotional side. 2. and then maybe add some more as time goes on. b. 4) The next several times any of those subjects come up in conversation. They are not "analyzed" in a conscious. make sure to use some of those adjectives and adverbs in your descriptions. and c above).

5) Take the written text from an SS product (maybe from #3 above) and read it out loud. You can copy the ones you saw listed earlier. See how many you can notice. Boring Subject Page 14 . Doesn't that make it sound kind of "mysterious"? Maybe more exciting? Maybe you can take some normal. sportscasters. almost boring or mundane thing.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • Imagine Mysterious (-ly) Wonder (-ous) (-ously) Think of any subject. Subject b. Looking at the list of Trance Words above. and see if you can pick these out. 6) Pick two subjects in which you are interested. Now speak OUT LOUD about that subject. Think for a moment about using those trance words to describe that subject. talk about it. Maybe play one tape or CD. but also see if you can add some to the list. With that list of Trance Words (above) in hand. Look at the Trance Word List above. see and hear if you can pick out when the speaker is using Trance Words. like advertisements. work. something that you think is dull. that's the point! Exercises for Trance Words 1) Make a full list of Trance Words. talk OUT LOUD about that subject and see how many times you can use those Trance Words! Subject a. Trance Word List 2) Watch or listen to some material where people are speaking passionately about something. Highlight or circle the Trance Words in a few sections. or school. and see how many of those Trance Words you can use. 7) Pick a subject that bores you. Maybe refer to some of your other SS products and see how many more you can find. placing an emphasis on the Trance Words when you see them. Write them down below. 3) Get out your written SS materials and look for Trance Words (maybe even use THIS course here). even something concrete like your job. and make it more interesting? Well. or religious speakers. 4) Get your SS audio materials and listen for Trance Words (maybe even THIS course here). See how many you can find and notice how they are used in context. political speakers.

Practice working with those subjects out loud some more and see if you can get even more comfortable using Trance Words when talking about those subjects. that's what Weasel Phrases are for! Weasel Phrase List (see if you can add to the list by listening to the audio).. 2. and more fascinating? Assignments for Trance Words 1) Pick two subjects in which you are interested. more interesting. If you were to .. • • • • • Have you ever .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Even though that may seem a bit strange. make a point to use at least one of the Trance Words in the conversation.. If I were to .. and using more and more as time goes on. to get from one subject to another.. Strategic Formula for Trance Words Using Trance Words will help to get the subconscious mind of the listener to be more of a part of your conversation.. doesn't that make it-sound more "exciting". Subject a.. Page 15 .2. maybe even a bit odd? Maybe even a different topic or change of subject? Or maybe something that you were worried about bringing up. Use them when talking to different people. because it may be a bit too forward? Well. Subject b. As you . How do you talk about something without REALLY talking about it? How do you bring something up that may be a bit different.. 2) Integrate a few more of these words into your every-day description of those subjects.3 Weasel Phrases D3-T14 Listen to an example where many of these are used. Just do whatever you can to start using some of them at first. What's it like when . The next time you are speaking with anyone about those subjects (in the real world guys!)... These also work as transitional phrases.

and then use one of the Weasel Phrases and the bring up another "aspect".) Pick 4-5 different aspects of this "experience" that you will talk about. etc. The next several times that you talk about that subject with anyone. 2) Get your SS audio materials and listen for some Weasel Phrases. but selecting different Phrases to link the aspects together. don't use that one!) Now talk about one of these 4-5 aspects for 1-2 sentences. and read some of this material out loud. 5) Did that sound weird? Strange? Ok . Pick 3 of them that seem the most natural to you. While doing it. 3) Take the written SS materials you had earlier. that seem as if they fit best into your way of speaking about subjects that you may like. See if you can pick these out.. and do so with an awareness on some level that you are saying and using weasel phrases when they are in the text. Take a moment and try to emphasize them in a way. make note of the weasel phrases. For example. This is necessary to have the kind of words and subjects that lend themselves to Weasel Phrases. getting into it. Use different Phrases. Talk about THAT one for a few sentences. then use another Weasel Phrase. Try it again. It will get easier. doing it. see if you can use some or all of your favorite weasel phrases when talking about it. the experience of it. (Weasel Phrases tend to provide ways to connect sentences and paragraphs that talk about how something is felt and experienced. 4) Pick a subject in which you are interested. saying one slowly or quickly. 2) Note the subject that you used earlier for doing some exercises with Weasel Phrases (exercise 4 above). Assignments for Weasel Phrases 1) Look at the list of Weasel Phrases that you wrote earlier. after another. Maybe play one tape or CD. sensing it. Maybe pausing for a moment before one. the subject might be "going to a ball game" (pick your own. and see if you can string things together so that they sound better. In a moment.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Exercises for Weasel Phrases 1) Get some of your written SS materials and look for some Weasel Phrases in the text. Do this until you use all 4-5 of the attributes that you listed. we want you to talk about how it FEELS. that it makes more sense. Just read the SS material out loud. etc. Subject Page 16 ..

or more quickly. maybe pausing for a moment before one.). To make it easy. on some level. 3) Take the written SS materials. Make a point to "lean on it" a bit. that you want them to experience. make note of the embedded commands.. and where the person's emotions or feelings are somehow active (This "context" issue is discussed later in the product in great detail in Conversational Management sections. Think of general statements. etc. once. Pick something that excites you! Maybe the subject is sports. or feel a certain way. "get excited". or "you want this" (car). See if you can pick out embedded commands while listening. things you would like a listener to think about. 2) Get your SS audio materials and listen for these. Two key aspects of the use of Embedded Commands are often overlooked. Maybe play one tape or CD. your car. your job. and read some of this material out loud. excited by something. feelings.It's very important that the command be brought up in the context of a conversation that is interesting. instead "you like this" (car). intrigued.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Select another subject that really interests you.2. feel. Write down a list of embedded commands. maybe a car. its about multiple usage (bombardment)! Exercises for Embedded Commands 1) Get our your written SS materials (written) and look for embedded commands in a few pages of the text. Page 17 . Again not "you like that color". after another. lets say you were selling something to someone. allowing you to say more (and maybe more provocative things) about a subject. These are small snippets of words and phrases which. "see how fascinated" . or experience while they are thinking about that subject.4 Embedded Commands D3-T25 Listen to an example where many of these are used. but just general things (feelings or states). Subject Strategic Formula for Weasel Phrases Use Weasel Phrases to keep the conversation going. While doing it. and to "soften" the way in which something is said. etc. that you are saying and using embedded commands at the time. • Repetition . issue a "command" or statement that instructs someone do something. • Context . Just say this stuff out loud. when separated from the context. 4) Pick a topic that YOU are very interested in. Like "feel excited". and incorporate Weasel Phrases into the next several discussions you have about that subject as well. Write down things that would make someone interested. saying one slowly. These are not to be sexual or suggestive. "get into it". Take a moment and try to emphasize them in some way. think of it like this. 2.. and do so with an awareness.just general things that would cause a person to be interested in something.It's not just about using one. "this is what you have imagined having for yourself. a place you have traveled.

but now focus more on "leaning" on the embedded commands a bit. changing your voice. The next several times that you talk about that subject with anyone. see just how many of the embedded commands in that list that YOU can say! First. Maybe slowing down slightly. or maybe it has to deal with your job. Page 18 . or school. Strategic Formula for Embedded Commands Use embedded commands repeatedly and in the proper context. Maybe it's not a passion or real interest. See how natural you can make them sound.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 5) Start talking about that topic out loud. Write down a list of at least 5 commands that work well in that subject. pausing. 2) Select another subject that is a part of your life. that would assist you in being more influential. Start to place some emphasis on the command itself. out loud. Subject Embedded Commands 3) Practice the use of those commands. Assignments for Embedded Commands 1) Look at the list of Commands that you wrote and practiced that deal with a subject in which you are interested (exercise 4 above). and with that list that YOU wrote in hand. just enough to put the emphasis on the command. 6) Do the same thing again. make some effort to use some of these commands in the context of a real discussion. work on just saying them and finding a way to bring them up. and make it sound natural. start using a few of these commands when speaking. in the context of talking about that subject. 4) The next several times that subject comes up in your life. but something where being influential may help. Maybe you work in sales. to create a compelling will on the part of the listener follow you and listen to you.

you speak of "this feeling". • However.5 Linking D3-T42 Linking is a way to take the feelings. 2) Get your SS audio materials and listen for these. as long as there is good rapport). In some ways. change in voice tone. 3) Take the written SS materials. and inexact. and talking to you. For example. and experiences that are being discussed and associate or "link" them to you. Linking Phrases . etc. which is ambiguous (non-exact). and then making an ambiguous reference to that feeling using your words. make note of where linking is taking place. • • • • • • • Now with me In me In myself with this these this belief these feelings Exercises for Linking 1) Get our your written SS materials (written) and look for examples of Linking in the text. you are talking "about" a feeling or sensation. You can also make reference to "in me". If she is experiencing these feelings in your presence. Maybe play one tape or CD.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. and read some of this material aloud. you are being ambiguous. non-specific. What is this based upon? • When talking. she has to feel it on some level (and she will.2. then on some level that is creating this "link". "in myself. and feel emotions. also "this" and "these" as in "this feeling" of "these feelings". when you say "this feeling". etc. while looking at you. she has to actually feel it to some extent. While doing so. if you are talking about a great feeling of excitement that a woman has had or is having. See if you can pick out Linking Phrases while listening.While listening to the audio. ALL of those possible definitions apply! Then. • In order for her to understand the feeling being discussed. using some of the techniques that have been discussed in this course (pausing. you become more associated with those feelings. will "link" them to you. Take a moment and try to emphasize the linking in some way.) Page 19 . it's easier than you think! Just talking about a subject and getting her to be a part of the discussion. recall. on some level. which is an ambiguous way of referencing what she is thinking about. then to the deeper levels of her mind. However. emotions. Are you talking about the "feeling" she had at some time in the past? Are you talking about the feeling she is having right now? • Because you are using terms like "this". see if you can add more phrases to the list below. The most common linking phrase/tool that guys think about is the phrase "now with me". the linking tools and techniques will add to this. and make this "link" even more effective. "this interest". and getting her to experience. Just to "process" what is being discussed.

That's ok. This may seem strange and sound a bit "off". In some manner. and using the list above.4). A quick way of doing this is to simply add "this feeling". Doing linking in an exercise like this is difficult and hard to make it sound "natural". Write down the list of commands and an associated linkage phrase for each below. with me" after one of more of the commands in your list. "these feelings". the linking is ambiguous and doesn't reference you directly. and see if you can "add" text to each to link them to you in some way. just enough to put emphasis on the Linkage Phrase. Embedded Command Linkage Phrase 5) Pick a topic that YOU are interested in as we did before (it can be the same one you used in Exercise #4 in section 2. where you listed "feel excited". Page 20 . etc. or change your voice. but now focus more on "leaning" a bit on the Linkage Phrases. Another example would be to take the phrase "Get excited" and turn that into "get excited by THESE things". Assignments for Linking No separate assignment for this. it's much better if picked up along-the-way. you could say "feel excited by this" or "feel excited now" (you can also link things by putting in a reference to NOW). pause. work on just saying them and finding a way to bring them up.4). As you hear more and more examples of this throughout the course.2. link them to you so that YOU become something and someone that they feel good about. (Again. Start talking about that topic out loud. This will sound easier for you as we go on. First. You can even add the ever-popular "now. Maybe slow down slightly.2. Plus the next section will make this much easier! Strategic Formula for Linking After getting someone to experience good feelings and emotions. 6) Now do the same thing again. "this person or thing".) For example.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4) Take the list of embedded commands that you created in an earlier exercise (Exercise #4 in section 2. see just how many of the Embedded Commands and Linkage Phrases that you can use in your dialog. this will come to you much more easily.

So. and "that" is not. one "thing". exciting.Possessive (sort of "includes" something) • That . • These people. this & that are singular • This . In this case. that feeling • This sensation. with "these" being the possessive form. • This person. These. Given that one type is possessive. those people • These directions. that direction • This feeling. So. (In some cases. or not there at the time. This and that tend to refer to singular items. for that multiple-instance bombardment that we spoke of before! The idea of linking wild. That. and included. those directions • These feelings. Consider four words in the English language: • This • That • These • Those These are forms of pronouns. For example. "this person" tends to sound like the person that is there. they reference a "thing". This means they are ambiguous! Consider this and that.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. there are times when they cannot be switched. those feelings • These sensations. Those) D4-T1 Listen to an example where many of these are used. and it can be done a LOT. but that will be quite obvious when you try to do that). these refer to plural items.6 Easy-Linking (This. in general. so you are not using a name or specific reference. who cares? Well these are almost interchangeable! You can switch this/that in sentences as you wish. but do so in a general manner.Non-Possessive For example. This is a new and very effective way to do linking that is easy to learn and master. with you. these and those are plural • These . and one is not.Possessive • Those . Whereas "that person" refers to someone "away" some "other" person who is not in the immediate area. that person • This direction.Non-Possessive (seems to reference something "else" or something "away") Consider these and those. that sensation They differ though in that "this" seems possessive. seductive feelings to you may be great but. use the possessive form when saying or talking about ANYTHING POSITIVE and use the non-possessive form when saying anything negative! Page 21 . those sensations So. a GREAT strategy is to link anything and everything positive to you (and link negative things away from yourself.2.

or "things about" that subject. out loud. write a small sentence for each. That. Use "That" and "Those" when referring to anything negative. This person is good.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • This That These Those Singular possessive Singular non-possessive Plural possessive Plural non-possessive Anything Anything Anything Anything Positive Negative Positive Negative You can learn to do this (to choose which of these words to use) in real-time through training! Tactical Formula for Easy-Linking Use "This" and "These" when referring to anything positive. These. or singular/plural. This is good. Write down (below) ten attributes. That is not. using the correct versions of That. Small sentence that includes that attribute. These are good. and those depending on whether the item is positive or negative. These people are good. 2) Say the lines below. That person is not. ' 3) Earlier in the workbook. and the correct form of This. for a good ten minutes. Those people are not. for a good ten minutes. Those Page 22 . you have discussed a subject (and written a lot of text about it) that is important to you. Subject: Attributes or "things about" that subject. Those are not. out loud. Exercises for Easy-Linking 1) Say the lines below. That. For each of these attributes or things. These.

2. That. That.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4) Talk out loud about that subject for a good 5-10 minutes. Those 6) Talk out loud about the subject mentioned above for a good 5-10 minutes. and then write a small sentence for each. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. and Those. and once again. beyond the small bits and pieces of language.3 MORE TOOLS D4-T12 Now we are getting into a different area. These sections help to train you in these types of techniques. Anchoring Anchoring is associating a feeling or emotional state to a sensory experience. Small sentence that includes that attribute. Subject: Attributes or "things about" that subject. and their movement becomes a part of their communication. using the appropriate form of This. These. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. list ten attributes or things about that subject. Great speakers use movement to their advantage. D4-T13 Page 23 . and the correct form of This. These. 5) Pick another subject.

How often are they in your pockets? How often do they just lie by your side and never move? Make note of this after-the-fact.3. etc).1 Pointing and Gestures D4-T14 Good speakers use their hands. Watch how they move. political speaker. Then later on see if you can start to become aware of what your hands are doing WHILE you are in the conversation. so these techniques discussed here will help. and that are very very easy to do. Assignments for Pointing and Gestures 1) For the next few days. Move! We will start by generating SOME movement. make note of where your hands are when speaking. to help make their point. and that you end up talking about with people quite often. They may be a bit over-the-top (speaking to an audience is different than speaking one-on-one) but just watch them for a while. point up. Don't flail about wildly. 2. and to do multiple times. so that the use of these becomes automatic. etc. BE excited! Use your hands and arms for emphasis. or even a preacher. and away from yourself. after the conversation has ended. We will break down many of the component parts of this into skills that we will teach you bit by bit. and way from your sides. How to • • • do this: Get your hands out of your pockets. and some gestures. 2) Get one of the text lists from an earlier exercise (weasel phrases. etc. maybe a motivational speaker. and hopefully the conversations are interesting. and then we can work on deliberate movement such as • Pointing towards and away from things • Towards yourself and away from yourself Exercises for Pointing and Gestures 1) Find a good speaker on TV. passionate. Most guys are too boring and too reserved when talking. Subjects Page 24 . embedded commands. towards. Use your hands to accentuate certain points. Get your hands OUT of your pockets and AWAY from your body! Act excited. Pick something YOU are interested in. talking about a subject that YOU are interested in. and that you are passionate about. down. have energy.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Many different types of anchoring can be done and we are only going to cover some very basic tools. However we will focus on things that can create a LOT of effectiveness. Read some of that text (from an earlier exercise) out loud. 2) List 3 subjects that you really enjoy.

Small sentence that includes that attribute. and the correct form of This. and once again. using the appropriate form of This. beyond the small bits and pieces of language. Those 6) Talk out loud about the subject mentioned above for a good 5-10 minutes. That. These. 2.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4) Talk out loud about that subject for a good 5-10 minutes. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. Great speakers use movement to their advantage.3 MORE TOOLS D4-T12 Now we are getting into a different area. and their movement becomes a part of their communication. Anchoring Anchoring is associating a feeling or emotional state to a sensory experience. D4-T13 Page 23 . Subject: Attributes or "things about" that subject. and then write a small sentence for each. 5) Pick another subject. list ten attributes or things about that subject. These. That. and Those. These sections help to train you in these types of techniques. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking.

gesture. Read that out loud. recall a recent time when you had such a discussion. Say the following out loud while gesturing in the correct direction: Good. and send Negative things away • You can point towards or away from yourself. and MOVE! Do this out loud. Whenever you say something positive. etc. towards. Bad. point or gesture away.. or at least be able to move. point or gesture towards yourself. very easily. ANYTHING.2 Linking Gestures (Towards And Away) D4-T22 This is a fast and easy way to link positive states to you. and accentuate what you are saying in order to be more compelling as a speaker and to get even more attention from your listener or audience. away. many people move when talking This technique is most powerful when used at a time when emotions and/or imagination are engaged in the conversation. • Or hold your hand away from yourself (to send things "away") How to use it • Good to do in the context of being a person that already MOVES when talking! • Make this subtle. make a point to get your hands OUT of your pockets.3. and AWAY from your sides and MOVE when talking about these subjects. and animate to some extent the next time you talk about them. Bad (gesture towards. just start to MOVE. 2. and every time something positive is being talked about.. Do something. and MOVE. make a note to go ahead and move. and when anything negative is mentioned.).) 2) Grab some of your written SS materials. Do your best to re-enact that discussion (say what you said. Exercises for Linking Gestures 1) Stand up. Tactical Formula for Linking Gestures Whenever you say something negative. and the repetition works for you! • Can do in various contexts. Strategic Formula for Pointing and Gestures Move. This technique allows you to do this many many times. but this time use your hands. Good. no need to WILDLY gesture! • You can do this many many times. and others. away. point away.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course For each of these subjects. etc. Page 25 . As you get more comfortable with this. motion. point towards yourself. and to send negative things "away" from yourself. arms. 3) With these three subjects in mind. or • You can place your hand on your chest or abdomen in a subtle manner (to link things to you) . Bring Positive things toward yourself. gesture.

Point away Positive statement. Do this out loud. Those" correctly Combine these and use them at the same time! When you say This or These. motion away or place your hands/arms away. Pick something that YOU are interested in. these can be the same as the last set of assignments). Say "this". start with a few. have energy. points towards yourself.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Remember the text we used in an earlier example here in the workbook? Read that out loud. Use "This. Say "that". That. say what you said. Point to you Negative statement.) D4-T30 Now we bring together Linking Gestures and Easy Linking. Do the following out loud: Page 26 . but this time when you are speaking of anything good or positive. Point to you Negative Say "those".. and every time something positive is being talked about.. make a note to go ahead and use these Linking Gestures to some extent the next time you talk about them. This is veryeasy to do over and over for that repetitive effect. point away. 2.3 Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This. point towards yourself and when anything negative is mentioned. or at least sit where you can move. etc. Conversely. passionate. when anything negative is mentioned. (yes. point away. recall a recent time when you had such a discussion. These. Subjects Do your best to re-enact that discussion. it will become easier and easier. and that you end up talking about with people quite often. For each of these subjects. Exercises for Easy Linking Expanded 1) Stand up. Assignments for Linking Gestures 1) List 3 subjects that you really enjoy. Say "these". etc. That. gesture towards yourself or place your hand(s) on yourself. When you say These or Those. These.3. and MOVE. Start subtle. Those . Point away. Linking Gestures and Easy-Linking together: • • • Use the pointing/gestures on Positive and Negative things (point towards and away). 2) With these three subjects in mind. and hopefully the conversations are interesting. but you don't have to do it every time! That will seem strange! Tactical Formula for Easy Linking Expanded Positive statement.

a realization. an expression. Use the correct versions of This. and Those. touch them • they seem to go into a pleasant state. But to get even more effectiveness when anything positive happens. Can we apply this to anchoring? Yes! • We need a way to do some basic anchoring that is very simple. and thoughts to you but in a general sense. It may be good to anchor feelings. The more that "emotions" are being accessed. Point away and say "those" Repeat! This WILL help to train you! 2) Remember the text we used in an earlier example? Speak that text out loud.3. etc. and Those if you can.4 Easy Anchoring . it's good to be close enough (within arms-length) so that the "touch" is easy to do. we are doing that already by pointing "towards" on positive things and "away" on negative things using Linking. Do this in a way that maybe makes it seem like you are doing it for emphasis. On Positive D4-T35 Let's look at anchoring in light of the 80/20 rule (where 80% of the results come from 20% of the effort). it will become automatic. 2.. Those in the correct ways) to associate even more positive feelings. Practice it enough and in connection with earlier exercises. it's more difficult. touch them This is best done in a "moment" with some emotion. while pointing towards or away from yourself in the correct manner. or when the person you are talking to goes into a Positive state. These. trying to add in more instances of This. That. Point back to yourself and say "these".. but actually. touch them! This "Easy Anchoring" works in any context: • they laugh. states. it's very useful to Anchor anything and everything positive to you! In some ways. and say "this". and say "that". Page 27 .Point or Touch. That. Also. If you are head-on directly in front of a person. Strategic Formula for Easy Linking Expanded Combine the use of Linking Gestures (towards yourself when positive. These. specific states. touch them • they smile. and emotions to yourself.) with Easy Linking (using This. and able to be done many many times. These. a laugh. you are anchoring them in a subtle way. the more effective it tends to be. and away when negative. That. Point away.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Point to yourself. This is more easily done if you are standing at the side or at an angle.

but a bit more "deliberate". directly to you. Page 28 . • Think about when you greet a friend. maybe someone who you have heard about). and the situation or topic being discussed. make a point to hold it just slightly longer than usual. What do you do? You shake their hand.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course You probably do this already in certain situations. vividly. See if you can recall how it was. intrigue. A laugh A moment of recognition or realization When someone starts talking quietly. a smile. or Topic being discussed 2) Recall those 5 times. but in many cases. • Think about when you meet and are introduced to someone. (Not romantically. and note to yourself the correlation between how long the touch lasted and the level of rapport. maybe pat on the back. interest. etc. just a touch.. also make a point to make and maintain eye contact as well. laugh. touch them to help anchor it to you. such as. This is the same type of thing.) Maybe a handshake Maybe a pat on the back Maybe a funny gesture Make a note of the person. Write those down. 2) Spend some time looking for moments (positive ones) where a touch would be appropriate. you grab their upper arm as well. • When joking with someone. without really thinking about it. Tactical Formula for Easy Anchoring When the person you are talking with displays a positive feeling of some type. you just touch his or her upper arm or upper back. but yet have some degree of rapport already (maybe this is a friend-of-a-friend. Assignments for Easy Anchoring 1) The next several times you shake someone's hand... Also note the degree of eye contact. Exercises for Easy Anchoring 1) Think about the last 5 times where you touched someone in this type of way. Person '" Situation.

o Linking " with me. see if you can have at least 5 instances of knowing. to be cool o Voice Tone And Tonality • Nose. that a touch is appropriate.. and you have already learned a LOT of the detailed speaking.. That. 3) Now that you have started to notice these "moments" where a touch would be appropriate. These. 2.. o Embedded Commands • Can you do this now. and movement skills that will be used later in the course. o Easy-Linking • This. maybe you don't touch them. Find Yourself o Weasel Phrases • If I were to .. Suddenly. but as you notice these moments. Mouth. You are noticing this after-the-fact. language. think "I could have touched them THEN". Those MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures • Move! Point! o Linking Gestures • Towards And Away o Easy Linking Expanded • Pointing With This. Fast • • • Pause o Energy And Enthusiasm • Passionate or Boring? LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS o Adjectives And Adverbs • Be descriptive o Trance Words • Instantaneously. we want you to actually DO IT! So. anchoring and associating yourself to positive and intriguing feelings in other people helps to make them feel positive towards and intrigued by you.. Those Page 29 . in-the-moment. Then.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course At first. DO IT! Strategic Formula for Easy Anchoring In general. Chest o Pacing And Pausing • Slow. • SPEAKING POINTERS o The "Cool" Factor • You don't have to be cold. These. That.4 REVIEW D4-T46 We are well on our way. when you have the chance.

Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o Easy Anchoring • Point Or Touch On Positive And Negative With these parts behind you. Page 30 . and later to Conversational Management techniques. we will move onwards to work on Language Structures.

it's best to meet or join someone in some way. move with them conversationally for a while. you are lost. Now we are moving "up" a level. Don't argue! . For example. be able to just "do".A way to change directions • In someone's way of thinking • In the conversation To make a change in direction in some manner. but will hopefully at some point.. move them . You might disagree. say things such as.. The minute you do anything like that to get someone else's "approval". telling someone they are wrong. show understanding (does not have to be agreement necessarily) and then .0 LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES D5-T1 We have been working on bits and pieces of language. things that you should not even have to really "think about". acknowledge what the other person is saying. towards where you want things to go.1 PACE AND LEAD D5-T2 Pace and Lead . These were tactical details. To "Pace" means to just BE a part of the conversation. Are they useful and possible? • • • Trying to knock or jar someone into a different direction or way of thinking can be risky. but you need a lot of power to do it and you risk breaking rapport.Can you just abruptly jerk a conversation towards where you want it to go? Maybe. but you must do so powerfully and do NOT look for "acceptance". however you can break rapport. You almost NEVER impress people that way! To pace/lead well.Can you just knock someone into agreeing with you? Can you be that bold? Yes.. etc. into higher-level stuff.Some people try to display higher knowledge or value by "arguing". you might bring up a new way of looking at it. but agreeing is just a special case. but you can break rapport in the process. o That's one way to see it o I understand your point Page 31 • • .. and more influential in general. Pace and Lead allows us to "join" someone. These techniques give you ways to use and arrive at languaging in a manner that will make you more persuasive. Fast and abrupt changes . It can mean this..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3. Agree or not agree? . 3. Challenges • Can't you just bluntly offer a different view? Yes. Changing the Viewpoint or Frame if Mind ... Changing Topics and Subjects . you might make comments (some that agree and some that may not) but the key is that you are "Taking part in" the conversation and topics at hand. all of the time.. or to try to "impress" them. and then take them in some direction.Some people misunderstand and think that to "Pace" means to "agree". then and give them another way of looking at it. incorrect. the sort of things that you need to get used to doing automatically. or "bigger chucks" as we say. You MAY be able to do that.

. So. and/or interest. have you thought about this . showing that you are a part of it.. I also think you can see . That hardly ever works. I get it. I read/saw/heard the same thing ..... the implication is that you NEED someone's approval. what you are saying is . but to really get a sense of being IN the conversation. Maybe • • • • • • continue showing an understanding or interest So what you mean is . understanding.) • Yes.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o o That's interesting I see what you are saying... and then moving things forward in some manner... The point here is not to memorize these "lines". Ok.. • Well... Tactical Formula for Pacing and Leading Show agreement. Strategic Formula for Pacing and Leading Pacing and Leading allows you "be" in the conversation for a while and gain rapport and information.. it makes YOU look bad. or. Then start to direct things in a different way . Instead . as if you "need" their approval... I see • That's interesting • I get it • Hmmmmm .it's like this... allowing you to move things more in your favor later on... Then start to move or shift things in a different way.. In addition. Page 32 . Let them know you are listening and understand (using wording such as shown below... if you attempt to do that. a way that you want.. So if I understand this . • Alright.. acknowledgement.. Let me make sure I understand .. Arguing! Many smart guys study these techniques and technologies. To TRY to IMPRESS is bad.1.. • Ok .BE IMPRESSIVE! People really don't like to be proven dumb or wrong! Most people are offended or "put off by such attempts. .. 3. Impressing someone with your knowledge.1 General Pace and Lead Techniques D5-T9 Here are some examples of ways to do these steps with example wording for each. and some of then want to go out and "impress" people with their newfound knowledge.

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I hear you, and what else is interesting is .... •-. That's a good way of looking at it, something else that is important is ....

The Formula for Pacing and Leading is ... acknowledge and then start to shift things ... Maybe you want to shift things more and/or bring up another issue or viewpoint entirely (or maybe you actually disagree) • That's one way of looking at it, however I think ... • Yes, I understand, I have also heard ... • Ok, that makes sense, another way of thinking about it is .. • Alright, but on the other hand... Some general methods you can use to introduce the "leading" aspect, you can talk about... • What you know, believe, understand • What a friend or colleague has said • What you heard • What you read • etc. 3.1.2 Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects D5-T12

Lets say you find some people talking about a topic. Do you walk up, interrupt, and start an entirely new topic? No. (Well, you can, but that takes a lot of power and has a lot of risk.) A better way is to enter the conversation, talk about it (Pace), and then move the conversation into areas that you want it to go (Lead). Examples: • You are in a conversation and the topic is cars. People are talking about prices, loans, etc. You acknowledge what is being said, contribute to that conversation (pace), and then start to bring in the idea of how a car handles, how it feels, and how exciting it is to drive certain cars (lead). • People are discussing clothes, various brands, types, etc. You talk about that with them (pace) for a while, and then start to bring up the idea of how clothes make you feel, how you feel differently when wearing different things ... etc (lead)

Tactical Formula for Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects Show agreement, understanding, acknowledgement, and/or interest in the topic or subject. Then start to move or shift topic or subject in a different way, a way that you want.

Exercises for Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects 1) Think about some recent conversations you have had with people about different topics, hopefully these conversations and/or this topic is something that occurs a lot for you (based on interests you have, people you know, etc). Recall a specific "moment" in each conversation. Note what was being discussed, and what point was being talked about. Make a note of each of them. Also note, where did that actual conversation go next?

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Conversation with whom?

Where did it go next?

2) Pace and Lead Gently Out loud, practice as if you were talking in each of the discussions above, and paced the conversation and topic, and then lead it in some direction. In this exercise, simply show agreement, understanding, and/or interest, and then lead in the same general direction. Maybe bring up a new example, new point, new issue, but just sort of "take over" the conversation. 3) Pace and Lead in a New Direction Next, for each of those instances, provide an example where you show agreement, understanding, and/or interest, but now start to "move" things in a new direction. Maybe the conversation that you had started at this one "point" and went in a specific direction ... Now, for this exercise, practice taking it in a new and different direction. Maybe introduce a different aspect of the topic or subject, something not mentioned before, or not normally talked about. The key is to first show agreement, understanding, and/or interest and THEN do this "shift", and you LEAD things in a different way.

Assignments for Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects 1) Make note of three conversations that you tend to have with people on a regular basis. Person or People Subjects we discuss

2) The next times these conversations happen, make a point to "Show agreement, understanding, and/or interest" (Pace). Then "Then start to move things" (Lead) in your own way, Do this by introducing a different aspect of that topic, or a related topic/subject. Don't make this shift or change really abrupt or different, just make a point to sort of "direct" where things move, even if that direction is close to where it was going anyway. Just make sure YOU are the one that moves it. Note the text and examples given earlier as a way to do that. 3) Once you can do the above, now make a point to have your "Lead" incorporate a real change of some type.

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Normally, even without your input, the conversation tends to go in a certain way. The earlier exercise had you just keep thing moving in that same direction. Now you are to "take" the conversation somewhere else towards a different or related topic. Just introduce a new aspect of the topic, a different thing, a different direction, so that you are really "leading" where things go. Remember the language that you were shown earlier. Use languaging like... You know what ELSE is interesting You know what * l * have found (seen, felt) Another way of doing this would be .. You know what ELSE can happen ... is ...

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You can change the way people look at things, their mindset, and their "frame of mind". For example, imagine you are having a discussion and people are talking in a certain "frame of mind" (not directly, it's just their way of seeing things). The point here is to acknowledge that frame, and then introduce another way of seeing things, another "frame", or another "mindset". What is • • • • a "frame"? In general it's ... A way someone "sees" something. What it "means" to them. The way they "feel" about it. The significance or meaning that it has.

Looking at the formula for Pace and Lead, you apply that by first acknowledging the current Frame, and then start to lead by bringing up another way of thinking about it and/or looking at it. You bring a new "frame" into the discussion. (This is a way of shifting that way people LOOK at things, the significance that it has, or their mindset regarding certain topics or behaviours). In the earlier example of Pacing and Leading of Topics and Subjects, we were talking just about a thing, a topic, or subject. Now we are talking about a feeling, or the way things are "seen" or what they "mean". For example, people may be talking about: • Taking risks • Feeling good or bad • Having a good day or a bad day • Making choices • What an event "meant" to them • How someone else actions affected them • How a decision affected them. There is a "frame" (of mind) behind each of these discussions and with proper technique, that frame and mindset may be changed. Look back at the "Methods" section earlier for some details and examples of how to introduce this pacing and leading (there are some lists of languaging examples provided). Examples: • You enter a conversation where people are talking about risks, Risks at work, risks in finances, risks in life. You Pace by discussing this for a while. The frame or mindset here is that risks are bad, dangerous,

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some risks have good rewards. where the point of the discussion in that moment was: The way they "see" something. then start to move into talking about how men do this as well. What was the "frame". Maybe bring up a similar way of looking at it. • Another conversation has a woman talking about what she looks for in men. and/or interest in the Mindset or Frame of mind. What it "means" to them. Make a note of each of them. the assumption? What is the frame of mind behind the viewpoints that they had? Write down the topic.) Tactical Formula for Pace and Lead . Do this OUT LOUD. and/or interest in the mindset or frame of mind . Just sort of "take over" the conversation. acknowledgement. looks for more. and how anyone of quality . Towards a way that you want. who is like 5 lbs overweight. now its being framed as exciting). then lead in the same general direction. some men will just "write off a woman that is a certain size.... understanding. etc.. etc). etc. a new meaning.. and what "kind" of man she likes (height. The frame here is that she has her "standards" and that this is good for her. understanding. (Risk was framed as dangerous. Recall a specific "moment" in the conversation. and then lead it in some direction.. some risks make you feel alive. (You are shifting her frame so that she may start to look at different things in men.Mindset or Frame of Mind Show agreement. In this exercise simply Show agreement. Then you start to lead by bringing up the idea that some risks are fun and interesting. or may be perfect but with the wrong hair color (lead). Note what was being discussed. weight. Again.Mindset or Frame of Mind 1) Think about some recent conversations you have had with people about different topics. With whom? Topic? Mindset / Frame of Mind 2) Pace and Lead Gently Practice as if you were talking in that discussion. what point was being talked about. the frame of mind or mindset is the focus here. The way they "feel" about it. she talks about what their professions are.. Then start to move or shift the frame by introducing another way of looking at things. The frame you are bring up is how superficial it is to judge based on numbers and details. the people. or provide a relevant example. and you are working to change the way she screens out guys. and paced it. Page 36 . the viewpoint. You agree on some level (pace) and chat about that.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course have consequences.. Exercises for Pace and Lead .. and the "frame" that was in use.

Mindset or Frame of Mind 1) Make note of three conversations that you tend to have with people on a regular basis. Maybe find a way. and says they are cheap. A good way to do it is to show agreement and understanding. understanding. maybe even limiting beliefs or beliefs that really hold them back.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 3) Pace and Lead in a New Direction Next. and you LEAD things in a different way. With whom? Subject/Topic? Mindset / Frame of Mind 2) Pace and Lead Gently The next times these conversations happen. and HE is the one with the limitation someone complains about work and the managers. make a point to "Show agreement. and their motivations etc. understanding. and the frame associated with each. Basically. Do this OUT LOUD for each example. These should be of a type where THE "frame" or mindset is something of which you are aware. Think about discussions where YOU can see that these people involved are working on a certain set of assumptions. understanding. and makes assumptions (has a certain frame) about people or groups. etc someone looks at a political issue. but really his mindset is the problem someone talks about wanting something different. Don't make this really abrupt or different. Write down these subjects. and THEN do this "shift". Page 37 . Maybe bring up a different viewpoint or way of looking at it. and they are the one not taking risks someone is prejudiced or judges other people. Maybe bring up a way of looking at things that is totally different. for each of those instances. provide an example where you Show agreement. a frame of reference. Do this by introducing a "way of looking at it" that is similar to the one that is already being used. to find a positive way of looking at the situation. but just make a point to sort of "direct" where things move. Assignments for Pace and Lead . The key is to first Show agreement. some way. and/or interest. or something you heard or read. Maybe acknowledge and then bring up an opposing view. even if that direction is close to where it was going anyway. what it "means" that is not really in agreement with what was said. and/or interest" (Pace). or something someone said. you are just acknowledging the Mindset or Frame in this example. Examples: someone complains a lot. and/or interest in the Mindset or Frame of Mind but now start to "move" things in a new direction. Then "start to move things" (Lead) in your own way. and maybe point out a similar example from your own life.

o As you realize . another way of looking at it is . Again. and allow the conversation to continue with the same frame of mind in place. You know.. a new mindset. Now you are to "take" the conversation somewhere else and bring up a new mindset or frame of mind. but just find a positive way to look at what is being discussed. Well.Current Reality D5-T29 If you look at the languaging used in things like hypnosis. or used by very powerful speakers.. Continue to Pace by maybe stating an obvious point about their current reality o seeing XYZ o feeling XYZ o thinking about XYZ o etc. Meaning... "Pace" their mindset. The earlier exercise had you just sort of "run" with that. point towards a specific Mindset or Frame that is of YOUR choosing. and/or express what is on their mind...1. This may be different from the way the subject or belief WAS framed or thought of.. there was a certain "frame" being discussed. focus on the Mindset or Frame.4 Pace and Lead .. What is done here is that you Pace based on something that is obvious (obvious in their "current reality"). A friend of mine used to feel the same way and they. o As you see . it could be .. o While you are . o etc..... A "safe" way to do this would be to find a positive way to look at the situation....Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Pace and Lead In a New Direction Once you can do the above. but it can work well and adds to the power of the languaging. even without your input.. (for example. a new aspect of "what it means". these techniques are used a LOT..... • At least it's not like XYZ.. o While you see . o As you feel.. This is a small-chunk detail and technique. The general way to approach this is: • Start by pacing something that is obvious about their current reality . 3.. o You are probably wondering Page 38 • • . o While you think . o After you have . and then use that to lead someone somewhere. now make a point to have your "Lead" incorporate a real change of some type. Some ways to do that is by saying things such as. o While you are . and new way of looking at things.... or assumed by the people involved. it might not be that bad. using words such as) o As you are ....... Just introduce a new frame.

Pacing Reality too much can seem arrogant. what you are thinking.2 GIVE THEM A REASON D5-T32 Give someone a reason for someone to listen ........... it starts to become annoying to the listener.. Page 39 ." • Physical demos use this a lot..... Point them to where you want to lead them .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • o As you are thinking about o I know you are concerned about o The issue that may be on your mind is o The question you may have is Begin to lead . Really pay attention and see how many times I have done pacing and leading in this manner. Studies have been done with persuasive language that show that giving a reason will make people more apt to do things for you and agree with you.. o state what you want them to see/feel/hear/realize Examples: • As you are listening to this program ..Current Reality As (while ) you) are "X" (Pace) Where "X" is something that is true in their current reality (perceptions. thoughts.... o notice what its like as ... and do. "as you are watching this presentation . Make note of how many times I have paced your current reality....". the more it will "sink in".. o you will start to notice o you may realize o you may start to think o you may see how .. Warning . o you will then ." • You will hear a LOT of this in this course (which is part of your re-programming!) Tactical Formula for Pace and Lead .. etc. "As you feel this. 3. • You are talking to someone at work . you will begin to notice this .. and "As that feeling builds. then you are probably wondering ..Current Reality 1) Listen to this section again. Rewind or go back a few tracks.) • Then you will "Y" Where "Y" is something you want them to experience (Lead) Exercises for Pace and Lead . what you are hearing. If you spend too much time saying things similar to "I know what you are thinking". o another thing you will see/feel/notice is .. what you are reading. The more you hear this.

lets move over there". it just helps to make people more agreeable (and there are statistics to support that as well). "hey. if you say "Let's move over there because it's more quiet" you will be amazed at how much more agreeable the person may be. and out loud. come up with another reason. or at least people that are not close friends of yours. Assignments for Give Them A Reason 1) Make note of five routine situations that you have in your life where you are asking for something. The examples will be better if these are people you do not know. 3) Go through the same list again. Person What did you ask for? 2) Practice out loud how you might "ask" for that favor or make that request again. requesting something. This technique does not provide a 100% guarantee. or asked someone to do something. remarkably. the addition of this small "reason" will make people much more agreeable and apt to let you do what you would like. If you say. If you just say. "Is it ok if I make copies next". Tactical Formula for Give Them a Reason Request X because (of) Y Exercises for Give Them a Reason 1) Make note of the last five times you asked someone for something. Examples: • You walk up to a copier at work and there are three people in line. because I am really in a hurry" then. but put in a reason of some type. Write these down. you don't need to be concerned about these things. asking "can I pay by credit card". Page 40 . It could be asking for coffee. However.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Don't worry about "losing your power" or being too "nice". Write these down. anything. However. • You are talking to someone and you would like to pull her aside and make the conversation more private. You are not being apologetic or anything. they may go with you. just providing a reason. then it may be difficult to get people to agree. if you say "Is it ok if I make copies next.

point. just as an example) • Hypnotists use this technique a LOT. Power in Numbers . • This is somewhat similar to a "pace and lead".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Situation (Place. 3. statement. "List" several things or examples which support your point. • Training for sales people use this quite a bit. 3) The next times these situations come up in your day-to-day life.Repetition in a way that serves you. • When you give a reason. actually ends up being several points.3 LISTING D6-T1 Listen to an example where many of these are used. See if you can make it automatic. or make a point. and quite well. which support your point. provide several. don't just provide one reason. This technique has been developed based on observing how many good and influential people speak: • Successful sales people • Charismatic speakers • Good debaters • Component of hypnotic languaging « Very important. or excuse. it's difficult to debate them all or object to them all (not to be combative.1 General Listing D6-T4 Strategic Formula for General Listing General Listing is a way to quickly provide several reasons. so that your one "opportunity" in a conversation to make "a" point. People) What do you ask for? 2) Practice out loud some "reasons" that you could give in these situations. in order to provide more power to what you are saying. the items that you will "list" need to be brief points. go ahead and mention the "reason". Tactical Formula for General Listing When making a point. and flow easily. • When you give several reasons at once. Page 41 . or giving an example. or make a statement.3. • For the sake of a conversation. you get someone to agree and then lead them 3.

really recall listing to good speakers (2). true.X and then other times . then the second. so that you don't just say "X... talk about it for a sentence or two. sometimes . doing some type of work.. what point you were trying to make. Who you were talking to Page 42 . Listing can be short. Activity that you like or do often List a particular part of aspect of that activity What are three "ways" that can go? " 4) Now describe "What its like to do your activity . Mention the first item. briefly. and somewhat new (3). Do that out loud....each of which lasts just a few seconds. Exercises for General Listing 1) Lets say you are talking to someone about "Meeting people". but instead you talk ' about each for a few moments. Now.. listing is like pacing and leading. Select a particular aspect of that activity. the third item may tend to "lead" someone in some way. etc. and the types of things to which no one would object." and mention those three different ways. a. where each lasts several minutes. 3) Pick an example of an activity that you do often. etc. Now try again by expounding on each of the items.. write down who it was with.) • I know this may sound a bit different (1). but as you listen to it (1). 5) Think of three recent conversations you have had with people where you were making a point. For each conversation. Pick three ways that can go .. as in saying three items . In many ways. Y. 3. Z (selecting your items listed above). as a list.. playing a game. and start to think about in a positive way (3). Z". and/or what it's like to meet people. what are three ways that can go? Good? Bad? Indifferent? Exciting? Boring? Pick three and write these down What are three "ways" that the experience of "meeting people" can go? 2) Now practice out loud by saying something like "Isn't it interesting how you can meet people and it happens in different ways? I mean sometimes . strange (2). you may begin to agree. Maybe your first two items in a list are obvious. Write them down. maybe trying to convince someone of something (NOT an argument-just that you were making a point and would like to be more persuasive). Then. make them brief..2. Y.. partying. Each of the items in a list can also be much longer. and still.. etc.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Example (see the listed items shown as 1. maybe watching sports. Something you are interested in. and maybe 3 different things that support your "point".

Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Point you were trying to make Three items that support your "point" b. Placing that particular item at the end of a list can have that effect. and just providing a series of options. the other. Normally. Maybe you want to list several options or examples. and tends to make THAT point the most important one. it makes it seem as if you are being fair. 3. However. activity. Who you were talking to Point you were trying to make Three items that support your "point" c. In the earlier Listing examples. etc) By doing that. you put more emphasis on it. we were talking about three points in a list that all were similar.At The End D6-T15 If several items are mentioned in a list (for example a car. it sticks in the listener's head more. Do that for each of the three examples above. it's easy to think of that Page 43 . out loud. a table. or different types of alternatives (to a thought. Who you were talking to Point you were trying to make Three items that support your "point" 6) Recall a specific moment in each conversation. Therefore. Now practice. Maybe you want your list to contain many options. by placing YOUR preferred item at the end. However. You weren't trying to emphasize one point vs. suggestion.3. at times you want to use listing as a way to highlight or focus upon one item. how you could bring up these three points in a list-like manner. Here is a way to think about it. and an elephant) what tends to "stick" in your mind? (The Elephant!) The last item! By hanging an item at the end of a list.2 Listing . you were just listing several things in a list. the one that comes to mind the easiest is the one that YOU want someone to agree with.

. It may be because you like the resume (a). and there is just something about this person.. they are nice. See? Not only did I have a list of three (1. it could be boring. Now those are different ways of seeing it. you know that those people are NOT qualified (1) o Others you maybe have thought were ok at first. you know? See how I did that? See how the item which I really wanted them to think about. I put another list within THAT description (a. interesting. Page 44 .... right away. or instances FIRST.. etc . Again let's bring up this example of "meeting people". It's just a matter of getting to this person.. but by placing "it could be fun" last. o Other times you get that sort of a "friend" vibe with that person. Again. Examples • • Fun activity.A t The End Listing at The End is a way to provide several options (which may differ) but to emphasize the option that YOU want. I have had to do that myself at times. but you spend some time with that person (2) and the more that person talks. I know.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course one. or maybe you are really seeing the power of all of this! I think you can tell which option I was going for! Meeting People... the more convinced you are that that person is NOT the one! o Hopefully though.. you just know . and the third one "eventually find this person" was the one I wanted to really "stick". but even when describing that person. you put more emphasis on it and it tends to make that one "stick" more... 3). this is one of those subtle but very powerful things that many persuasive speakers do a LOT. you eventually find this person that on some level.. was said that at the end? By the way. In general. o You know what it's like when you meet someone . lets say you are talking about doing some activity. o It could suck. o May be frustrating to you. Say that one LAST and bring up two other options.. When I have interviewed a lot of people.. I mean. you know . you just really click and you feel this connection . Sometimes there is nothing special. They are not all the same. This course. b. o And other times .that is the one (3). how they can almost become a blur.2. they sort of fell into several groups o There are some people that. those people doesn't mean much either way . you meet someone. did you notice the use of the words this/that/these/those? Also where do you think I might have been pointing and gesturing during those examples? Job interview o Have you talked to many candidates? Yes. or they just have the right answers (c). or it could really be fun. It's interesting though. maybe it's boring. or this person presents himself really well (b). c)! • • • • • • Strategic Formula for Listing .. and then finish with YOUR preferred item. one after another. examples.

Let say you arc trying to get someone to buy something. Three things that you and your friends could do (activity) 2) Practice. Maybe add a small "list" within that last item (because it's inexpensive. In that case. etc. 4) What is an example from your life (recently). You want to mention or suggest something that is quite strong. At times however. List three possible things that you could do and write these down.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Tactical Formula for Listing . "List" several things briefly in order. and they are haggling or objecting a bit.. out loud. agree to some point. 3) Do that again. Here is a way to think about it. out loud. and therefore you do NOT want it to stick out too much. talk about the issue. However. it can be TOO obvious. Maybe add an embedded command of some type. and bring up at least two other "options" BEFORE you mention the one option that you want. but bury it inside a list. LAST. and you are all figuring out how you are going to spend your time. Exercises for Listing .3. go somewhere. make sure that the one that YOU want to do. 3. but place some more emphasis on that last item.3 Listing . close.At The End 1) Lets say you are going to spend a day or evening with some friends. and seem too direct. but mention the one which YOU want to put the most emphasis on. etc. If you say Page 45 .). and we always have fun . placing something at the end can add to its power and make it stand out.At The End When making a point. Maybe pause when saying it. buy some thing.Burying Items D6-T24 When using a List. where you are trying to convince people to do something. Examples: • Sales . it makes sense to "bury" that item in the middle of a list. is the item you mention LAST. and what the result is that YOU want.? Write down what the "issue" is. or giving an example.. Maybe you want to suggest something very direct or quite controversial and you do NOT want to give it too much prominence. maybe controversial. Issue or Option What do you want? 5) Now. Go ahead and suggest that item. You may want to "test" to see how the person will react to it. mentioning all of these in a list. statement.

lets say you are working on a project and things are behind schedule. you can get away with an outrageous or very direct option by burying that option in the middle of a List.Burying Items is a way to mention an outrageous or very direct option for "testing" purposes. maybe you aren't ready to buy this now. you don't just say "we can slip the deadline"..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • "Well. Very direct. • Instead of thinking about it in terms of a list.. we can talk in a few days.. that you are almost "worried" about how the listener may react." Doesn't that sound better? Meeting at a Party .Burying Items When giving examples or options to someone.. But if you switch the order. and maybe there is a possibility of you even spending that night together. it seems a bit easier for you to say it. more powerful and direct statement in the middle.Lets say you have met a women at a party. "let's slip the deadline" might be a problem in some circles! So when people are talking about options to help the project. and you are talking about you two getting together sometime.. This is also a good way of testing someone's response. maybe you seize this chance and get it while you can .. one of them is to just slip the deadline. The idea of " seize this chance and get it while you can" is something rather challenging to say (as the seller) that directly. maybe it IS too direct. or possibly you still want to negotiate. o "well. However. it's your choice. See? Putting that one. Sometimes you have that "direct" item in mind and you surround it with other. But of she smiles and seems interested. and when you say it at the end like that. There are several options but. For example. So maybe you say something like o "Well. maybe you aren't ready to buy this now. more "appropriate" items to lighten it up. Lets say your idea is so controversial and over-the-top. lets say that you want to say something or suggest something that is very direct. that may be a GOOD sign.. its your choice.Burying Items Listing . just suggesting. bury it inside a list. or possibly you just still want to negotiate . it seems too obvious. Instead. or to maybe see if you can get someone to agree to it! Tactical Formula for Listing . or maybe I'll call you tomorrow". seems to "lighten" it up somehow. It also allows you a chance to watch the persons reaction to it. Strategic Formula for Listing . or maybe you want it so much.. If she gasps and has a look of shock and horror when you make that suggestion. that you will just seize this chance and get it while you can! That sounds almost TOO forceful. we can leave together right now. Page 46 . honestly.

you will probably encounter some situations where you might want to suggest something quite outrageous or direct. or the most direct item. and then trying saying that item in the middle. Try saying it with the strongest item at the end. if you do it TOO much or too blatantly. in the middle and see if it is a bit easier to imagine saying that list. and go ahead and practice how you COULD have said it. see if it seems easier to say. make a point (afterward) to think about that outrageous option. See if you can make it sound natural.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Exercises for Listing . Listing can be powerful. suggesting a List of options but burying that outrageous option in a list. 2) Practice out loud how you would say that list in the situation you used in the previous exercise. Bury the strongest item. Situation Outrageous or Direct Suggestion you could have made.Burying Items 1) Go back to the previous exercises where you said some "lists" out loud. but see if you CAN say it. Situation Outrageous or Direct Suggestion 4) For each of those examples (above) go ahead and practice out loud. Look at the items that were listed and see if one of them maybe seemed very "strong" or "direct". but as with any technique. Go ahead and change the order of the list that you used earlier. For three different situations that have come up in your life recently. 3) Think of some recent situations where you would have liked to mention a quite outrageous or direct suggestion. but do it by burying it in a list. by burying it in a list. If there is not one. you may even want to say it in a joking way. go ahead and do so. go ahead and create a new item that is very outrageous or direct. Try it out loud. it can stand out too much and be annoying. After these situations occur. Assignments for Listing . as any opportunities come up where you would like to make an outrageous or quite direct suggestion. write down an outrageous or very direct suggestion that you would have liked to make (for each).Burying Items 1) As you go out and live your life. 2) In the near future. Page 47 .

place that item at the END of the List for more power. Maybe one or more of the items actually has an embedded command in it. Lets use this as a chance to really step back for a moment and look at this structure.How do you think of them quickly? How do you make them sound natural? Don't worry! It is ok to have pauses! Pauses make things sound more natural and gives you time to come up with options! We talked about the use of pauses as a way to convey some drama and to make things interesting. o See how that is being used here? • We have discuss language details .... remember to use emphasis and change your voice tone with the items.. etc.4 MORE AND MORE. while incorporating the language tools we have already discussed. think. 3. but have ONE that YOU really want to emphasize or get people to agree to. o See how we are listing several items? • We discuss Pace and Lead . we are pacing and leading. to "pull" the listener in. and I just strung those together . then the more Y..5 Listing Review D6-T37 If you want to get your point across. changing tone. and Emphasis D6-T36 You may be worried about coming up with three things in a list . the more Z". Or. In a way.3. and provide many examples to support it. emphasis. If you must suggest several different examples or options.. this is just a way of bringing together many of the things we have learned." "More and More" is just a way to use these and bring them together. and they WILL stay through the pauses! As you are saying various items in a list. really. and the more Y. as in . D6-T38 You have heard language like "The more X. so this all works in your favor! Just be interesting enough to keep their attention.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3. if it's a VERY outrageous option... thinking about languaging such as "The more X... etc". can help to alter how the options (and you) are perceived. The general structure here is: • • The more X o where X is something that is hopefully quite obvious and true to the listener . o See how they are incorporated. in a List. you are walking someone through a series of steps or thoughts. consider this: • We talked about listing . and using lists. or experience. 3.. then mention several of your points or examples that support what YOU want. Using pauses. So. Maybe you want to stress one item more or less.4 Listing. In a way.3. then.. I gave an example (in the audio) of several things I wanted someone to do.. then the more Y. "the more YOU FEEL this .. Pauses.. then present it buried within a List of options. the more Y Page 48 . and see how.

. Instead of seeing this as a new type of language.) or thoughts (things you experience or think about.... or as Y is happening . or "as you notice X".. If you have something that you want to lead someone through. you notice this. As an alternative. THEN make the next item (more. or a new "pattern". Tactical Formula for More and More The more X. the more you can notice Y .. Page 49 . You can even start by "pacing" a bit more.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course • • o Where Y is something that is a logical extension of what the listener knows and they see this as something that makes sense . from a general item towards something that YOU want. present.. towards what YOU want.. and something obvious. Strategic Formula for More and More If you want to lead someone through a series of steps (actions. The best way to do this is to start off with the first item as quite general..) specific.... or thoughts) use "More and More" as a way to string them together (and increase your chances of that happening.. As you X. • • • • As you (or while you) X . You are "leading" someone. then.. the More Z.. and the more Y happens . see it as just a way of using many of the things we have already covered! More and More tends to be best thought of as a "List". and as Y happens o or as you sense Y. and then use More and More to lead them forward . agreeable. as you feel this. which is more of an example of using Pace and Lead of their current reality. the more Z. or realize Y. . • Sell TV sets. the More Y. 2. The More Z. then the more Z starts to happen. etc). step 1. then. the more Y. etc How to use it. like a series of successive steps (things you do.. and even more so with the next (more... future) can be altered to make it fit well.) item. o You can start off with something obvious as a statement to kind of pace them. experiences. etc. etc Examples • Convincing friends to go do something that you want to do. o walk someone through though process . The small words and verb tenses (past. The more Y..... then just list them but use "more" as a way to go from one to the next. 3. with "as X is happening". That's a general version of it. the More Y. you can use "as you" or "while you" as a way to bridge between sections as well. more and more.

etc. a movie. maybe an activity. "as you" or "while you". Think of three "steps". what project to work on.. as you. Exercises for More and More 1) Consider the idea of convincing some friends of going to a movie. 4) Think of another series from your life. Write these down. something.) Write down three steps.) Page 50 . Don't just say "more".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • Talking to a woman .. practice saying those three steps. to get towards doing what you want. of what you want to have happen. (Agree where to go to dinner. a trip. more in your direction. Do that several times. more leading. practice and see if you can talk about these one by one. Think about a series of steps.. if the person followed them. but more and more get closer to what YOU want. o Walk her through the process. more and more. Think of three "steps". as if in a conversation. What you were trying to convince a friend to do Three steps.. The first should be obvious. while you. they would end up doing what you wanted. What do you want to convince someone to do Three steps. 2) Think of the last time you were trying to convince a friend to do something. something simple. something you convince people to do (or wish you could). The first should be obvious. what to do. practice saying those in series. who should do what. to get towards doing what you want. work around it and make it sound natural. You may start with "As you" or "while you" for the first one. a plan. or as alternatives.. or have them experience. or something you want to lead people to do somehow. and string them together using "more". 3) Now out loud.. using "More". etc . Think of all of the things you can do tonight Realize that going to a movie would be a good idea Going to see the latest XYZ movie (use whatever movie you wish) See how that is a series of steps? Of thoughts? Like leading someone down a path? Now out loud. etc. what to buy. 5) Out loud. Do the series several times. or series of thoughts or actions. that would "walk" the other people through the process of agreeing with you. etc. a series of thoughts or actions that. that start off in general. The next is another step in the series. the second. and bridging between them as we discussed earlier (More. something with which you are familiar.

this is a means to keep speaking. you have two (or more) aspects of a topic. it's just a good way to think about discussing a subject. we had you think of something from your life.White • Right .) • Too many guys focus on standard lines such as "So what do you like about X". Just make sure that with that subject.5 COMPARE AND CONTRAST D6-T54 Listen to an example where many of these are used. • How two things are similar • How two things are different • Good .another option • Black . you can talk about..Bad • One option . There are various means of doing this. This Compare and Contrast method here gives you a way to talk about and around the subjects at hand..Left Page 51 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Assignments for More and More 1) In the exercises. This method provides a way to keep the conversation going. A Tactic for Talking • Too many guys let a good conversational subject finish far too quickly. You will see that the more you get these bits and pieces. becoming more and more convinced. and you discuss these two aspects using Compare and Contrast.. and even change the specifics of that sequence. seductive. or else have the person you are speaking with mention it. to continue. or several different subjects. But get to the point where you can flow easily through the 3 in a series. 2) With that "More and More" sequence practiced. • It's not magical in a persuasive sense. and move a conversation. where you could have a series of "states" lead someone through the process of doing what you want. • It also a great way to get information about the person with which you are speaking. The more that happens. So. exciting. the more things like "knowing what to say" and "what pattern to use" will become easier and easier for you! Notice how we are not doing these examples necessarily with women? Wonder why? 3. and piece them together and have it sound natural. or various aspects of a subject. Maybe add or change some of the reasoning. etc.. the more you will understand how they fit together. How to use it. Maybe just try 2 of the 3 steps once or twice. you are able to easily go through such a "sequence". • You are just comparing and contrasting things. Practice that series more! Get very familiar with it. • • Take a subject and either mention another aspect of that subject. look for opportunities to use that in your life. • This works especially well if the subject of the discussion is one that "works" for our purposes (fun.

• Decisions about a career or job. that are good for you. this meeting. etc. and talk about its attributes as well. states. better-worse. two facets of that subject. experience. • You talk to someone for a while and she say she likes scuba diving. and you start to talk about something she likes and enjoys doing. or individual sports vs. As you are talking. easy-difficult. vs. the offense or the defense. Tactical Formula for Compare And Contrast Take any subject.another attribute As you are talking. taking a position with a more promising future. Use the other language tools during the discussion.. and incorporate the language tools. associate them with things other than you. and feel those states and emotions for a while as well.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • One aspect . • • Use opportunities to use commands and trance words to create thoughts. • Notice what is liked and not liked • Notice any reactions. and this situation that you are sharing. • Anything bad. One attribute . Page 52 . and start to compare and contrast the two. • Maybe what is more important to a sports team. o Maybe you start to ask her about it (have a discussion with her . and discuss whether the handling makes it better. • You may talk to a woman. Select another subject. How do these differ How are they the same Which is good-bad. and to let the person think about. You discuss this. o While talking about what she does like. and contrast these things. What is different about each? How are they the same? How are they experienced? What is good? What is bad? etc.. team sports. link away. or point in a discussion . you can use all of the other tools we have discussed. • Link anything good to you. or point in a discussion. you can anchor and link positive things to you! o While talking about things she does not like. you can anchor those away from yourself. Examples • One brand of car vs. then discuss these by comparing and contrasting. good or bad. etc. idea. This all provides a good way to allow the discussion to continue for a while. feelings. keep the discussion focused on a topic that serves your purposes. idea. what they like. what they do not. her.another aspect -. compare. o You select two items. or its power. deciding to focus on making a good living now. you can talk about one car.about her) and she mentions various things about that subject. Then discuss the other car. you can take note of how the person is responding. Strategic Formula for Compare And Contrast Use this technique to keep the conversation going. another brand.

etc. In addition. o So we talk about the feeling of quiet. This example uses a very obvious "Like vs. change your tone of voice. and negative things ... so if you like THAT. and serenity on one hand o and compare and contrast that to the feeling of something new and different on the other... somewhere else. Something that you like Something that is opposite 2) Now take that same topic. your pacing. Be descriptive! Use pauses. etc). Not-Like" set of things to compare and contrast. and compare/contrast the two. etc). Something New Control vs. Subject or thing that they like Attributes (things about) that. Use compare and contrast to talk about each of the attributes that your friend would say they like about that subject. 3) Recall a recent conversation with someone you know. and this time. computer. the same holds true even when discussing what you do NOT like. and those that are not good. offer the compare-contrast ways of discussing it. but this time put some effort into being very aware of the positive and negative things that are being said. where they were really describing or talking about something they like. As in "so let me make sure I understand this .". Re-enact that conversation again. clothes. and various things about that subject or topic that they like.. and anchor/link/point appropriately. and talk about it again.. peace.(because). Also.. be very aware of the positive and negative things that are being said.. that within that may be attributes that are good. etc.. Page 53 . Familiarity vs. and put effort into correct linking/anchoring/pointing to associate positive things to you. 4) Select two of the following 4 topics. different computer. bike. Letting Go Safety and Excitement Liking someone mentally and/or physically o • • • • Exercises for Compare And Contrast 1) Pick some possession that you have that you REALLY like (car. Now think of what is opposite to that . Maybe some of the language that you are using that may lend itself to be embedded commands. etc. Now talk out loud about each.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Maybe you ask about it."Oh. she finds the experience of seeing new and different things to be interesting as well. Be aware of your language! Throw in adjectives and adverbs. She says she likes the aspect of it being very quiet and serene under water.same type of thing (another car.." or .. Be vary aware that even when you are discussing the thing you "Like". and this time. then I KNOW that you would NOT like THIS . she mentions various things about it. Be mindful of that and anchor/link appropriately. different style of clothing. that they do like Do the re-enactment again.

then talk about all of the various aspects and parts of it. but when you go STRAIGHT for the BEST thing that she likes the MOST. Letting Go Safety and Excitement Liking someone mentally and/or physically Familiarity vs. together.Who wants to talk about something that you are NOT interested in? However. If you are talking about an interesting subject. some are bad • Talk about the good parts. topic. this provides a good way to train you to be able to talk and ask questions of people. it is GOOD to focus on the positive aspects of what she likes. 3. and that's ALL you discuss. and get them to talk about what THEY are interested in. Who knows. People tend to think you have one OR the other. Meaning. Think about the possibilities. YOU are then showing someone how BOTH of these things can be experienced. exciting. if you are asking many questions about something that is NOT of interest to you.6 PARTS D7-T1 Listen to an example where these are used. this just helps to keep things moving in a conversation. Some are good. this doesn't necessarily show that you Page 54 . and say (for example) "what do you like most about scuba diving" or "what is the most fascinating thing about. Something New Now do your best to speak out loud and "talk" about these for a while using a Compare and Contrast structure. BOTH linked and anchored to YOU. and you lose out on spending a LOT of time having them discuss something that she REALLY likes! This is just a way to have a discussion. and the positive aspects of excitement. etc. Parts of a subject. However there ARE ways to have BOTH. For example.6.. link them to you • If the bad or boring parts some up. etc. theme. Parts. For even more Power There IS a very powerful aspect of this technique that is important to mention.1 Parts Of A Subject D7-T4 This is a variation on the contrast principle. link away Now this may seem tough . of having all of the positive aspects of Safety. and parts of a person 3." and that's ALL they talk about! Yes. Safety vs.. you may end up liking the subject and find a new activity for yourself! Don't worry that you will "give the wrong impression" by inquiring and discussing these "parts".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Control vs. By comparing and contrasting them. that is fun. Excitement. There ARE many things that people tend to THINK of in an "either-or" way.. you can show someone how that can be possible. it's too weak. Too many guys just blow things to quickly. Two types of parts we can work with ..

Subjects come up. don't just ask "What is the most exciting thing about Scuba Diving?" That IS a good question. Tactical Formula for Parts of a Subject Take any subject. feelings and emotions. Page 55 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course are interested in it (the subject). just say "I like learning about people. feelings and emotions to yourself.. or point in a discussion. area of interest. topics come up.. don't like. new things." This technique makes it easier to have conversations with people because THEY are giving you information and ideas for new things to ask about. This is a great way to build rapport with a person as well. artistic endeavor. like. but if you start there. If someone asks you about this. etc. Exercises for Parts of a Subject . list various "things" about that subject. Use the language tools in the discussion. activity. it's hard to talk about that subject for a while. and enjoys. know about. Examples • Scuba Diving . idea. that an opportunity to talk for a WHILE about something she likes. etc. and she may have a lot of positive emotions and feeling associated with that . If she LIKES scuba diving. that you know. just curious. o Where have they dived? o How did they get into it? o What's their favorite place? o Do they have their own equipment? o Do they use different types of equipment for different locations? o How long have they dived? o Have they ever been in danger? o Have they taken photos? o Have they met interesting people? o Has this exposed them to any other cool sports or activities? o etc. sport. etc.many of which can be linked to you.. maybe a hobby. This isn't just a way for you to ask ask ask HER about things. Link good thoughts.Don't just "talk about" Scuba Diving! Or. 1) Pick a subject that you like. be comfortable talking about all of the parts of that subject. Break it down into its component parts and discuss them. allowing you time to gather information and link yourself to good thoughts. Strategic Formula for Parts of a Subject Discussing many of the parts of a subject keeps the conversation going. what people do. You are just asking. Now.

Page 56 . a job they like. etc. what would you ask about? What are all of the various things and aspects of it that YOU could inquire about or that could come up in a discussion? These are the "parts" of that subject. passion. maybe pick a different "person" as your subject. You should be able to come up with at least 10 items. Now. That Subject: 3) Now think of someone who you are NOT close to (that you do not know that well). Maybe their hobby. Now think of something that THAT person is interested in or they are involved with. Someone that you recently met. This should be someone you know well. maybe a cousin you hardly see or talk to. etc. what parts about football would you want them to ask about? For your chosen subject. That Subject: 2) Think of one of your friends or family members and some activity or topic that THEY are really into. if you were going to talk to them for like 30 minutes about that subject and were really going to ask them about it. or Things About. if your subject was football. Subject: Parts. Person: Subject: Parts. You should easily be able to come up with 10-20 items. but hopefully this "subject" is something you are not really into. someone you met at a party. If you have trouble. and you have heard him or her talk about this. Write these down. like a co-worker. or Things About. and you were going to have someone (who knows very little about the subject) interview you and learn all about football. make a list of these parts.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course For example. or maybe someone in your life that you don't know very well.

while YOU are there And you are linking and anchoring things to yourself Using all of the language tools and details And that person is finding YOU so fascinating and charismatic . experiencing it. but with which you are NOT familiar. You know the person but you are not real close to them. And of course the entire time.. make a point to have a good 10-15 minute conversation about a subject that THEY are really interested in. don't know really well. If you were going to talk to them for like 30 minutes about that subject. The subject they are interested in is something with which you are NOT familiar. like the exercise above. mention like 10-15 different things you could ask or inquire about that subject. They are talking about something THEY like Thinking about it. Page 57 . Make a point to ask about many different parts of that subject. Make a point to ask about many different parts of that subject. and were really going to ask them about it. who is interested in something that you are NOT familiar with. out loud. off the "top of your head". Again. Now. what would you ask about? What are all of the various things and aspects of it that YOU could inquire about? What are the PARTS you could ask about? Write these down. That Subject: " 4) Think of another person and subject. 2) Sometime in the future.. Person: Subject: Assignments for Parts of a Subject 1) Sometime soon.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course The key here is that this is someone you don't see often. or Things About. but with which you are NOT familiar. when you are speaking with a person you do not know hardly at all (yet you feel you will be able to talk to them for 10-15 minutes). you should be able to list at least 10 items. and feeling it. when you are speaking with a friend or family member that you know well. make a point to have a good 10-15 minute conversation about a subject that THEY are really interested in. Person: Subject: Parts.

o Either in general like "there may be another side" o or more directly. they are quiet. Let's say you are in a discussion with someone.. in a way you are also using Compare and Contrast as well." o "You may have (or do have) another part (or side. • Acknowledge the first part that is being discussed. Page 58 . there is a more quiet side • If a person is well-thought-out (thinks things through and takes time). etc" • Discuss this new or other "part" o "With many people. experiencing it.. and start to discuss and validate that OTHER part. etc.. etc. In fact a friend of mine is very shy and one time. another part hidden away." o "Many people like that also have another side to themselves. • What if it is not? What if they say they are shy. there is a more decisive. their way of walking through and looking at the world. • If a person is shy. and I have found she has this other side. "you may have the other side" o or by example "I know someone like that. if a personality trait. more spontaneous side to them." • Bring up and acknowledge the fact that there is "another" part. if the person is shy o "I understand how some people are shy. This can be VERY powerful. their reactions. just looking for the right time. there is a more adventurous part to themselves • If a person is outspoken.. that adventurous side is just waiting to come out. Discuss.. make it be experienced.2 Parts Of A Person D7-T15 Listen to an example where this concept is used. A key concept to think about is to ALWAYS assume that there is a part of someone that does agree with you.. • "That's because there is another part. a way of thinking. or has the same wishes that you do. a "side" to the person.. and they feel that way. directly or indirectly o For example... Let's break this down. or way of looking at it.. "parts" are meant as in a personality trait.. In a discussion. and then say (for example). a way of acting or being is being discussed (and one that does not necessarily work in your favor) .6. etc. that is more . o "When you start to listen to this adventurous side . etc)" o "I know someone similar who as this other part to themselves. or parts. (where XYZ is a different or maybe the opposite behavior.. that part of the person or type of behavior that DOES agree with you). link it to you." • There will be a lot of this shown in examples here in this section and at the end of the program. Don't Confront.. or view. we are also reframing! We are changing the way they look at things. In many ways. You do not want to appear to challenge or invalidate and personality trait that is being shown. exciting part of a person is being discussed.. fun.. adventurous . etc. great. lean more on the language and linking tools to bring it out. or side. that XYZ part"." • If this new or other "side" works more in your favor. • If an adventurous. verify it. or reserved... or normally don't "do" certain things? • Then talk about that first (shy) part. or part of a person..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3. In this context. they hold back.. what she did . Because you are discussing several things.

. Introduce and discuss that "other part" in a way that works to your advantage.. "I am boring". You can work around this issue (of possible confrontation) by saying things like o "I think another way of looking at that trait is .. Remember. • Maybe someone lies . and evoke favorable states. it may sound like you are arguing or challenging the person. I understand you have that side to you. o "Well. but it can be handled . even when the other person claims or demonstrates that such parts are NOT there. way of thinking.. and she realized that she. you are NOT discussing this as to say. or part of the person (mostly something which has a negative connotation) Acknowledge that personality trait. they like to play things safe. There are also other sides to people . "you are wrong" or to show how smart you are! You are just talking. Find a personality trait.. etc etc etc. This one side . Well. People have many sides to themselves... • Maybe someone is secretive. or part of the person that is somehow related (which works in your favor) or somewhat opposite. too confrontational. deep down.. way of thinking." Strategic Formula for Parts of a Person Use Parts of a Person as a way to find. having a conversation. etc. and what I noticed about her is that she also has this other side to her. (not good in a person.. • Maybe someone says they can be jealous. and 3 that are opposite. Tactical Formula for Parts of a Person For every part of a person that will work against you.. feelings.... so be careful... assume there is a part that will work WITH you.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • Many times you don't want to say "because there is another part" because that seems too direct. What personality traits (or what other parts or ways of thinking) are similar? Which are somewhat opposite? Write down 3 that are similar. . discuss. Examples: • Lets say that a person says they are not into taking challenges. that can work in your favor.. Traits similar to "Being Boring" Page 59 . o "A friend of mine does that as well.... or part of the person by discussing or addressing it Think about a personality trait.. and beliefs. was also "Y". o "I was reading somewhere about things like that and what it was saying was. that may be true but also there is another part of them .. way of thinking. o "I have a friend who was "X" (where X is the trait being discussed).) Exercises for Parts of a Person 1) What if someone says.

use this/that/these/those .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Traits opposite to "Being Boring" Of those that you listed. but this time.. and then bring up this other "part" that you selected. which could you maybe "use" in a good way? 2) Think about how you would discuss the boring part. 3) What if someone says that they are shy? What personality traits (or what other parts or ways of thinking) are similar? Which are somewhat opposite? Write down 3 that are similar. which could you maybe "use" in a good way? 4) Think about how you would discuss that shy part. Look at the formula earlier. 6) Lets say someone says "I am not into meeting any new people right now" . and some of the variations mentioned for language examples. or ways of thinking) are similar? Which are somewhat opposite? Think about 1-2 that you could use. Page 60 . be aware of opportunities to maybe mark off an embedded command or two (or more). and then bring up this other "part" that you selected.. Practice this out loud. Traits similar to "not into meeting any new people" Traits opposite to "not into meeting any new people" Practice out loud how you might first discuss "I am not into meeting any new people right now" and then transition into the other parts or traits that you selected. 5) From the list you just made (and selected from). Imagine a conversation and how you might do this. and 3 that are opposite. and some of the variations mentioned for language examples. Look at the formula earlier. Practice this out loud.. maybe do some linking an anchoring.. Traits similar to "Being Shy" Traits opposite to "Being Shy" Of those that you listed. etc. pick another part or trait. Imagine a conversation and how you might do this. Now do a similar exercise again out loud. What personality traits (or what other parts.

trait. An easy way to do this is when a friend or acquaintance is being self-deprecating in some manner. being open. You don't have to discuss them (yet) just make a point to note these traits.. trusting their own judgment. make note of when you are having a personal conversation with anyone. and has been a bit difficult for many to really understand Page 61 . See if you can arrive at a similar part or trait that you can discuss that could be used in your favor. trait. After the conversation.. but ROW see how many of the speaking and language tools you can use. and offer challenges" many times when studying these materials. Opposite (or similar?) trait or part that might actually work in your favor Conversation with Traits or parts that were discussed.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 7) Do the above example again. See if what they are saying describes or is pointing out any personality traits (or a "part" of themselves. start to bring them up IN the conversation. and then point out some other trait or part that might work in your favor somehow. WHILE talking to someone. and offer challenges to you on the audio. Use the formula and the variations mentioned earlier. and then find a way to discuss another part that is more favorable or positive. You have probably heard the phrase "structure opportunities. acknowledge it. Just notice the trait or part being mentioned. This area has caused some confusion. or parts. see if you could maybe think of an opposite one that could be discussed. 9) Lets say someone says "I only like dating my TYPE"? What other part. See if you can note that "part" of who they are. make a note of these traits or parts. 2) After you have become more comfortable noticing such traits after-the-fact. Or. or putting him or herself down for some reason.7 OPPORTUNITIES AND CHALLENGES D7-T34 Listen to an example where I structure opportunities. etc could you discuss? Try that out loud.? What other part. see if you can notice them WHILE talking to someone. 3) Now that you can recognize these traits when talking to someone. 3. etc could you discuss? Try that out loud. or mentions a "way of thinking"). Assignments for Parts of a Person 1) For the next week or two. 8) Lets say someone says they have trouble meeting new people.

Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course and utilize. 3. do it. and wants to be seen as intelligent. o You are saying in a way.7. • It's easy. or show it. is a way for them to show their intelligence. If you can somehow frame or map yourself as being a way for a person to fulfill things that someone already wants. this can be very effective. using motivations that a person already has. In this section. Challenge them to demonstrate it. then by using their existing desires. You then find some way to set things up so that choosing to listen to you." • This is NOT about arrogance. o This is the opposite of pleading and the "pedestal" scenario. • Show that you have standards. Universal Wants • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control • Excitement Page 62 . and that you believe in yourself. or be with you. It's good to somehow work with structures and things that are already in someone's mind. 3. • Show that you are qualifying and screening to some extent. you are using processes that they ALREADY have in their minds. Why this matters. Work with universal things that people would like to have. but I am looking for more.1 Using Their Own Processes D7-T36 If you know what people want to have. or want to be perceived as having. "You may be beautiful. then they already have mechanisms for that in their mind. Strategic Formula for Opportunities And Challenges Find or assume what someone wants Create an opportunity for them to get it or demonstrate they have it Make that "demonstration" work in your favor. • These are also good and convenient for practicing and examples. you are just showing that YOU have standards. You are in. • Use these general things and assume they are there. or like to be perceived as having.2 What do people want? - D7-T38 "Universal Wants" = Good. effect. For example if someone is intelligent. but may not be the most effective strategy. these concepts are broken down and offered to you in a way that will truly help you to be able to use these powerful techniques.7.

and discusses what is important to her She mentions something she likes or dislikes about a past boyfriend.. o I wonder if you can .. o If you are able to . or fun. along with the Universal Wants listed earlier! • We assume here that with a mini-challenge.This technique can be overused.. • Mini-Challenges o You might get this . o You may . o Talk to her and find out what she wants or needs. You can imply a "test" for these things by issuing a mini-challenge.7.... wants to have.. o You seem smart enough . o etc. or want to be perceived as having.. and it can really annoy people if you do! Page 63 .... o Talk about some of yours and see how she reacts. or want to be perceived as having? Mini-Challenges D7-T40 3.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course "Particular Wants" = Better! What does THIS person want? • Notice o o o particular things that this individual would like to have or be perceived as having She mentions wanting respect She defends her position. You are challenging an ASSUMED desire (a "Universal Want"). can (use smart. or an image she wants other people to have of her. o You might see . o Talk about what she does. or be seen as having "X". we are using one of these sort of "universal" wants.. o The smart people I know. o You seem like . o Try using some of the above items.. but if you can find or work with specific wants or desires... o If you can . her interests.. by listening to me or agreeing with me".. o You might. o You seem like you may have good taste o etc.. o You seem cool enough . or adventurous.. that's even better. Mini-Challenge Cheat Sheet o You seem .. What does she want to have.. o Are you able to .. Warning . o You seem as if. etc • Finding these particular wants and desires o These "wants" can be possessions... and challenging them in a way that says... o Always have the question below in mind. o Maybe you can . "you can show me that you have the thing you desire. what she likes to do.3 There are certain things you can assume that most people may want to have.. or maybe a value.. etc)...

. Exercises for Mini-Challenges 1) Try piecing together items from the Universal Wants List. what someone wants. Challenge the person to do "Y". 3.. "Show me you have that thing by listening and/or agreeing with me" or.. • Challenge them to see if they will follow through and take action to get it.4 Opportunities and Challenges D7-T43 Think of it like this. • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control • Excitement Page 64 . here we have to "assume" things for the sake of teaching) . and Mini-Challenge Cheat Sheet. What does someone Want? Assume. • Create an opportunity for them to get that • Make it so that them "getting" that works in your favor. (and again. • Find what someone "wants". Creating Them Consider the wants and needs that a person may have . "By listening to and/or agreeing with me. • Universal Wants • Particular Wants Opportunities.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Tactical Formula for Mini Challenges Assume something she wants to have. Make a statement that says. Tactical Formula for Opportunities and Challenges Find something "X" that the person wants to have.. or be seen as having. or hopefully find. or been seen as having You can assume based on normal things that people want (Universal Want) or Get information from talking (Particular Want) Create an opportunity for them to get or demonstrate "X". by doing "Y" Make "Y" something that works in your favor. you will show me you have that".7. and see how many combinations you can come up with. in a way.

Examples: • Does she really want X and see how Y can get that? • Does she really have X.. Examples. and/or HAVING them. o Let the person demonstrate how confident they are. and feel very comfortable with that. or want to be seen as having Structure this so that it is something that YOU would like them to do. on their own. what does a mature person do? How are they seen? How do they react? o They make their own decisions o They trust their own judgment o They can decide to do something NOW. • Here is how I read/heard that someone else had or was able to get X.. or some way for this person to capture the opportunity • Provide an example of something she can say or do. Maturity . Talk about those things.. where this opportunity benefits you (and hopefully pertains to the situation). o Mention how confident people can meet someone new.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course You need to create an "opportunity" for each of these. talk about DOING them. even if their friends don't approve. • Maybe point out something a friend did ...How can you create an opportunity for someone to appear confident (that works in your favor)? o Discuss people that YOU know. Challenges Are they ready to take advantage of that (this) opportunity? Challenge them to get what they want. How can you make that sound like a way for them to "show" something? How to create an opportunity? • Here is a way for you to show me that you really have or was able to get X. by meeting this "challenge".. Create the opportunity for them to show or demonstrate that they have or are perceived as having.. something they want. • Provide a way to demonstrate that they DO have what they want.. Provide an example of someone.. o .Think about maturity . • Confidence .. or show what they have. o They can do exciting things. o Talk about how confident people can make their own choices. and see how doing Y would demonstrate it?> • Does she have what it takes to get X. o They can go against the grain. • Mention something that you have read. • Here is a way a friend of mine showed that they have or was able to get X. • Provide an example from your own life. and how the confident ones are able to take chances and have fun. by doing Y? Page 65 .

. Can she see an opportunity to have "X". Page 66 .. Some examples are shown below. • Find a way to map what YOU want. Assumed Wants 2) Write a Mini Challenge for each if the above items.. It's different from the way most guys think. how she may be adventurous.. It's NOT about creating an argument! Again. Exercises and Assignments for Opportunities and Challenges 1) Make a list of some assumed things that many people may want to have. she may have to do Y to prove that. and she found that by taking chances and risks. there are others shown earlier. to show or demonstrate that? Examples: • Security o Say she wants to feel secure. Is she ready to take chances? Take risks? Do something different? Maybe not . their own intuition. Then at some point you talk about you and her getting together. she actually felt more secure about being able to take care of herself. Are they ready to do Y. and mention that you read somewhere that successful people tend to be able to trust their own judgment. They want X. These are your "Assumed Wants". I don't know if you are adventurous enough for this... • Challenge them to do that. • Find out what someone wants. You discuss success for a while. you mention "We should get together sometime.. as long as you trust yourself enough to feel that is OK . what this means to her. but. or be perceived as having.". Success o Maybe "success" is important to her... and say something like "well.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • • • Does she want you to THINK she has X. and do Y to get it? Can she do Y and make it happen? Can she see that Y will get her what she wants? Can she trust herself enough to do Y? etc. • • I know this is tricky. to be a way for them to get what they want. I mean. You talk about a friend who has always wanted to feel secure. You talk about that for a while." Adventurous o Maybe she wants to feel adventurous. Later. then ...

out loud 4) Make a note of some of the ones you practiced that seem closest to something you could easily say or do with people in your life. or wants to be perceived as having. 5) Think about some people that you know quite well like family. Hopefully these are specific to them. Write down these "Wants". Note some of your favorites ones below. etc. and go out and actually USE them for a while." Mini Challenges 3) Practice the list of Mini Challenges you just created..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course "you seem like .. and NOT just things from the "assumed" list.. "you may . quite unique. friends... Person What they want to have. "you might. "lets see if this makes sense to you "see if you can follow this . For each person. Practice these more. write down something that each wants to have. and focus on using these. or be perceived as having Page 67 .. co-workers..

Example . want to do what you wish. even subconsciously. and "opportunity". and write them down. What is the opportunity. See if you can make it sound natural. or that in some way could be interpreted.A friend wants to be really good at a sport. etc? Give that some thought. Person Opportunity for them to get what they "want" that somehow works in your favor 7) For each "want"." The "opportunity" is for them to be a better athlete. The good athletes find a way to relax and have fun. they will be doing something that YOU want. Person Challenge 8) Practice each of those "Challenges" out loud..) So you challenge their dedication to their sport by saying "I was reading about really good athletes and one thing that was pointed out was that a lot of them really can get burned out.. and they spend a LOT of time practicing. and that allows them to be better at their sport. (You want that friend to lighten up and be able to spend more time going out and having fun. Some way that questions . see if you can create a "challenge". and how can you "map" it to yourself? Write down these "Opportunities". as making them look at you more positively. You are "mapping" it to you because by doing what you discuss. Is there a way to create an "opportunity" for them to get or achieve that? Can you somehow create an opportunity that can be "mapped" in some way towards yourself.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 6) Consider the "want" that you identified from each of those persons above. Page 68 . are they ready? Can they take action? Can they DO this? Write down these "Challenges".

look at how many items we have covered so far. listen. listen. so that you have heard them SO MANY TIMES.. This is one area that many guys actually ARE able to pick up and use easily if they have listened to the materials enough... you no doubt have heard many examples of "ambiguities". 3.) o Easy Anchoring . 3.Point Or Touch On Positive And Negative LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES o Pace And Lead " Topics and Subjects * Mindset of Frame • Current Reality o Give Them A Reason • • • Page 69 .. but now also start to look for "opportunities and challenges" in a way that directs their desires towards you. Those) MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures o Linking Gestures (Towards And Away) o Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This.9 SUMMARY D7-T66 Bringing it together. listen. What do they "want". Listen. really focus on what each person desires. These. do the same in terms of observing desires. but in another context. Try to guess. That. They may have one meaning in one context. • SPEAKING POINTERS o The "Cool" Factor o Voice Tone And Tonality o Pacing And Pausing o Energy And Enthusiasm LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS o Adjectives And Adverbs o Trance Words o Weasel Phrases o Embedded Commands o Linking o Easy-Linking (This. Do what you can to bring these up while in the conversation if you can. Although there could be a section in this course that deals with these areas. These are those words or phrases that can mean more than one thing. but also ask some questions and get into a discussion about it if possible. that these become familiar. 10) While you are talking to people for the next 1-2 weeks. 11) For the next 1-2 weeks.8 AMBIGUITIES D7-T64 If you have studied this material for a while. to do things that you would want. given that this IS an area that many guys are able to do (with enough listening) and given the many OTHER areas that really DO need the assistance of a program like this. That. we will not be doing any specific work on Ambiguities. see if you can bring them up in conversations over the next few weeks. they mean something different.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 9) As you become more familiar with these practiced challenges and opportunities.

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These are the building blocks for good Language skills. These are the sorts of skills that are most workable when they are truly "wired in" to someone, so that they are able to be used automatically. To try to "remember" to do such things can be very difficult. That approach would make having a conversation far too difficult and too much work! The best way is to work with these techniques SO much that these truly are just a part of "how you talk". With enough practice, and hearing these enough, you CAN have these become a part of how. YOU talk! So listen, practice, do the exercises, do the assignments, and do that all again, until these really do become a part of you, and a part of how you speak.

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D8-T1 A key aspect of making these tools work is getting the conversation into topic areas that will really work for you. The language tools you studied earlier are best used in the proper context, and in this section, we will learn how to get the conversation into areas that will create that context. Have you had these problems? • You JUMP too quickly into a pattern or topic, and it sounds really strange? • You just THROW a pattern AT her, and get a weird reaction? When you use these tools, or even use "patterns", it's not enough to just "say it", there has to be the correct CONTEXT for what is said! It's a process that she needs to go on and through with you. It's not enough to just find a conversational excuse to "throw" a pattern (or language tool) AT her! This section is about finding ways to just get into an interesting conversation and then towards and onto good topics. We want this to seem natural, and with some understanding, practice, and a few key strategies and tactics it will BE natural and automatic! 4.1 4.1.1 CHALLENGES -a Detailed And Specific Plans Are Just Not Workable. D8-T3

It's good to theorize to "say this", and then "say that", and then to use "this pattern", and "that pattern". However, the problem is that a lot of time the proper context is not presented well enough. The examples you may have seen in other products are just that, examples. The problem is that too many guys have taken them literally! Guys try to do "X, Y, Z," exactly, in order, with no sense of calibration, or being able to work and re-direct things in real time. Therefore, detailed tactical plans are not realistic. 4.1.2 Navigation Example D8-T4

Think of moving a conversation to a certain point, like taking a trip somewhere. Say you are in Chicago, and want to go to Los Angeles. You could have a detailed map of every turn and road, exact route numbers and lengths, etc. The problem is... what do you do if there is a detour? What if the road is changed, what if the map is wrong? You are lost! What if, instead, we teach you how to drive the car, and give you a general set of directions like "keep driving west, until you see the ocean, then turn left (south)". That way, you can handle just about any turns, roads, or detours that you may encounter! Conversations are different from roads too, because people are all unique, situations, times, surroundings etc. are unique and change from moment to moment. Therefore, if you want to get a conversation to go a certain way, then detailed plans made ahead of time are hard to work with. There are too many variables! We need a workable set of strategies and tactics that allows you, in real-time, to direct things the way that you want them to go. They need to be easy to follow, and easy to use, and something that you don't need to "think about", but can just DO easily.
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So we need a general set of guidelines, some overall strategies and tactics, so that you can have this good, intuitive sense of how to "steer" things, and get conversations to where you want them to go. As long as you are engaging a woman's emotions, capturing & leading her imagination, then you are moving in the right direction. Then, in that situation and in that context, linking all the positive & powerful things to you becomes more workable. Instead of a map, we are giving you a "compass". We need a strategy for managing conversations that can to do this gradually, in a way that seems natural! If it's too abrupt or makes the conversation strained, it will sound weird. The strategy must LEAD the conversation towards good topics and subjects in a way that seems natural, and is not TOO abrupt. Examples: (Listen to the audio.) • Talking about a printer o Moving TOO quickly towards emotional topics o Can sound strange • Driving a car and taking a turn (Analogy) o Think of driving down freeway and needing to switch to different direction. o You can't make a hard, right angle turn on a dime! o You need to turn the car, slowly, on a ramp to go in a different direction. When we control conversions, we need to find a way to take it gradually in a new direction. Many guys try to do the hard and fast switch, and they crash in the process! We will learn to move things in a way that makes it seem natural, but it will be deliberate. 4.1.4 She Must Be Engaged In The Conversation! D8-T10

It's important to get conversations into the right area and have HER go along with you. Not just "bring it up" (a topic or pattern), but it must be natural and she must "go along" with it and be a PART of it. She must be actually THINKING about what you are discussing! It has to happen naturally. No weird jumps. It's not enough to just talk; she must BE a part of the conversation! So, don't just "jump" to a topic. Don't find an "excuse" to bring it up. Take the conversation there, take her WITH you, and have her be a part of it! What really helps is to have a genuine interest (or at least curiosity) in her and the conversation, not just thinking to yourself; "How can I use this?" 4.2 HOW CONVERSATIONS HAPPEN D8-T12

How does this really occur? We will break this down so that we have a way to really affect this process. 4.2.1 Conversational Dynamics D8-T13

How do conversations happen? Most of them occur somewhat randomly as the conversation flows from topic to topic over time, and can end up almost anywhere after a while. By the time YOU move from one topic to the next,
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you may end up in a very different place from where you began. However, there is a series of steps as things move forward, as shown in Figure 4.2.1-1.

Figure 4.2.1-1: Conversations Move Through Many Topics

Each of these steps between topics tends to be related. Topic 1 relates to Topic 2. Topic 2 relates to Topic 3, etc. For example, you can start to talk about Cars, and then move to one aspect of that topic, Car Seats. Then it's easy to move to some aspect of that topic, which maybe something that seats are made of, like Leather. Then maybe you talk about Leather Furniture, etc. (See Figure 4.2.1-2.)

Figure 4.2.1-2: Each Topic Flows To the Next Topic In most cases, each Topic is related to the one before.

After a series of such steps, you can be at a quite different topic (like an apartment that you used to live in) even though you started at a quite different topic (Cars). In most cases, it's very difficult to predict where a conversation will go after many of these steps. As you go through a few topic shifts (as shown in the diagrams), although each individual shift relates to the topic before and after that shift, after a series of shifts you can end up talking about almost anything! Therefore, even if you start the conversation at a great topic, you can get off-track and into topics that will not work in your favor. Conversely, what is needed is a way to start at almost any topic at all, and by steering that process (of moving from Topic 1, to Topic 2, Topic 3, etc) take the conversation into better and better topic areas that will serve your purposes. 4.2.2 Conversational Model D8-T14

We introduce a model to assist in discussion, understanding, and control of conversations. If you start at a topic, how do you go to another one? This process happens all of the time very easily. The key is that the movement from one topic to the next takes places easily because there are so many options involved. From any topic (Topic 1) it is easy to flow to any of 6-8 other, related topics (Topic 2 Candidates). People usually just "talk" and naturally the conversation moves from the first topic to the next one. Since the "next" topic is related, this process seems natural and is easy to do. In fact, you do this all the time without really knowing about it. (We are creating a model to describe a process that happens naturally, so that we can teach you a way to have an affect on that process). Figure 4.2.2-1 shows how from one topic, the conversation can flow easily to many related topics.

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Once the conversation moves to one of these eight topics, it's easy to move to one of eight more. For example if in Figure 4.2.2-1, the conversation flows from "Cars" to "Where you bought it" (as in, where you bought the car), then now we have a situation like that shown in Figure 4.2.2-2.

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Figure 4.2.2-2: From A Second Topic, Another Group of Candidates If "Cars" was discussed first, and then "Where you bought it" was discussed next, there are now many ways to go in the next step. In the figure, you see how the conversation moves from Cars, to "Where you bought it". After that, there are many "candidate" topics where the conversation can flow. Perhaps it moves to the "Part of town" where the car was purchased.

Now from the topic of "Where you bought it" (a car), there are easily eight places that you can go from there, shown as the "Topic 3 candidates". This process continues throughout a conversation. This process happens regardless of the specific topics being discussed. Conversations flow from topic to topic, as shown in a general manner in Figure 4.2.2-3.
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This results in easily over 500 topics that could be selected by the time we arrive at Topic 4! In only three shifts of the topic ("topic shifts" as shown in the figure) we end up with many many possibilities of where the conversation might end up. there is no way to know exactly where it will end up by the time you have moved forward a few steps! Imagine trying to predict ahead-of-time exactly where you may arrive (among those 512 options).2-3: Topics Flow from One to the Next Each topic in a conversation can easily lead to 6-8 others. and at each step after that. you can have up to eight different ways to go at EACH step. and the conversation flows along in this manner. you can end up with the conversation going almost anywhere! Figure 4. an so on. you can affect this process (and we will teach that to you). Do you see why the pre-planned approaches can be difficult?! Even if you ARE able to have the conversation start from a specific place (Topic 1). since it's so easy to go from any topic to 6-8 others. then EACH of the eight different candidates for Topic 2 can then lead to their own eight. With some skill and technique.2. then talk about Y. the Figures that have been shown so far only show a small portion of the total topics towards which a conversation can flow. because there are SO many ways that things can go! Page 75 . In general. However. If Topic 1 can lead to eight different candidates for Topic 2. When this happens in succession. then talk about Z" are very difficult to really work with.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Topic 1 Topic 2 Topic 3 Topic 4 Figure 4. In many ways.2-4 shows what happens when all the topics are considered. the plans that many guys try to use to "Talk about X. when talking to some random person.2.

Once Topic 2 has been discussed. As seen in the diagram.2-4: Topic Candidates and Topic Shifts If each topic can flow to eight others. and so on. then after only three shifts in the topic.2. you can end up in over 500 different topic areas! We can create a general Conversation Model that shows this process (Figure 4. Page 76 . It then can flow easily to maybe 6-8 others (the diagram shows fewer for the sake of clarity).2.2-5).Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 1st Topic Shift 2nd Topic Shift 3rd Topic Shift Figure 4. a conversation may start from one topic or subject (Topic 1). it can flow from there.

it is quite easy to move from that onto 6-8 related topics. In fact. (The figure only shows a portion of how many subjects and topics can be reached). that they become far too many to shown in the diagram. If you are discussing one specific topic.000 different subjects or topics that could be discussed by the time you are at "Level 6" in the conversation!! 4.3 Topic Turning Point D8-T15 The KEY concept the needs to be understood to gain the ability to manage conversations.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Figure 4. There are SO many ways it can flow.2.2-5: Conversation Model The "Tree of Subjects" showing how thousands of subjects can be reached in just a few steps of the conversation. This process of moving from the first topic to one of 6-8 relevant topics is the process of moving through a "Topic Turning Point" as shown in Figure 4.3-1. is an awareness of this phenomenon that is called the "Topic Turning Point". if you assume that from any topic you could go to any of 8 other topics. then for that diagram to be really accurate it would have to show over 30. The diagram only shows a small fraction of them (so that the diagram is not even more cluttered than it already is!). Page 77 .2.2.

The key thing to realize is that this process of Topic Turning Point (TTP) selection occurs over and over. the conversation can then move to another topic. introduce an idea. make a statement. etc. Therefore. after one topic has been discussed for a short while.3-2: How TTP Selections Effect the Conversation The selections made at each TTP are what actually "steer" the conversation in a certain direction.3-2 Topic Turning Points Figure 4. A general way of looking at this process is shown in Figure 4. the overall flow of a conversation comes about due to many of these TTP choices being made.2. ask a question.2.2. However. as long as the new topic is "related" to the first (this is shown in the diagram by the "candidates") then this change is easy to do. Page 78 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Candidate Topics Figure 4. Someone might make a comment. and throughout a conversation.3-1: The Topic Turning Point (TTP) When discussing any topic (First Topic) there are easily 6-8 different topics to which the conversation can be moved (Candidate Topics). the conversation "shifts" slightly. For example.

we are going to later teach you a way to be able to make these TTP selections. positive way to look at anything. However. As you have probably guessed by now. we want the conversation to be positive.) then you CAN direct how a conversation flows. These people are able to automatically make TTP choices based on a strategy of finding good. conversations tend to go in one of several ways. That ability alone is enough for our purposes. • Other people able to direct conversations based on their own beliefs and their own political motivations as well.. fun. moment-to-moment. (See Figure 4. In a very broad sense. These types of people are making TTP selections based on a strategy of finding things that are negative to talk about.) Page 79 . • Other people direct conversations based upon their own moral or religious values.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Normally. fun. we want to first start to steer things in the best general manner. is coming soon. and that work in YOUR favor. easily and naturally? That IS the point. D8-T16 D8-T16 So how can you actually affect the flow of a conversation. This selection just "happens". they somehow see it in terms how in effects their beliefs. The overall strategy at the beginning is then to "talk about positive. and some training (which . choices are made moment to moment. The flow of the conversation starts.3. No matter WHAT you talk to them about. you can direct where the overall conversation goes. For example: • Maybe someone always finds a fun. IMPORTANT: The overall direction of a conversation comes about due to a successive selection of TTPs. but you will have some control over the overall direction. isn't it? In general. Look in the diagrams... and imagine if you had a general way to manipulate these TTPs.1 GENERAL CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Want. they find a way to point out something negative. with some awareness of this process. 4. Can you see how you may be able to affect where a conversation goes? You might not be able to predict EXACTLY where it ends up.3 4. interesting things". no matter WHAT is discussed. very quickly.. conversations are one of four types: • • • • Fun. to "route" conversations so that they end up being the kinds of conversations that YOU want to have. Sometimes this can be VERY apparent.3. no one is "deciding" the TTPs. positive aspects of every topic being discussed.Those are just general examples. and the conversation tend to into one of four general areas.1-1. So to start our process of learning how to manage conversations. and interesting. they Good Boring Bad Argument could be more specific (and we will get there). • Other people may do the opposite. and do so in a way that sounds VERY natural. By manipulating TTPs from moment to moment. interesting Mundane and uninteresting Negative. and they quick steer the conversation in that manner. fun. depressing Confrontational .. positive. Many people do this "TTP selection" process automatically..

so from the earliest stages. interesting things. interesting things. and Interesting" things. bring up positive. fun. and Interesting topics and subjects. Introduce topics that are fun. do what you can to steer in that direction. Even if things move towards other areas. steer towards Fun. Positive.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course General Conversational Management Conversations tend to flow in one of four major ways. fun. fun. If you break that down into 4 main directions. Page 80 . and Interesting". you see that you want to focus the conversation onto topics that are "Fun. How do you do that? • • • Show interest when someone discusses positive. Don't engage in conversations when it's NOT about positive. Figure 4.1-1: General Conversational Management Consider all of the ways a conversation can go. positive and interesting. you can still "steer" back towards "Fun. No matter what is brought up.3. Strategic Formula for General Conversational Management To steer the conversation in a good direction. Positive. interesting things. Positive.

and Interesting? That is the direction to go! Candidate Topics Figure 4. You then think of several ways you can go (the related topics."Where can I go that is fun. you can always think of 6-8 other related topics or subjects. By manipulating TTPs from moment to moment.3. You think of the "candidates" (the related topics or subjects that you can discuss) that serve you at the time. TTP Mantra . Positive. Repeat. TTP options. you can direct where the overall conversation goes. and interesting" and just move things in that direction.2-1: Topic Turning Point Navigation for General Conversational Management No matter what subject you start talking about. or something you read.Where can I go that is "fun.3.2 How To Steer Conversations. How do you move things in that direction? You can: • Ask a question • Make a comment • Make a joke • Quote someone you heard. as we discussed earlier. move things towards the related topics that are "Fun. Page 81 .3. Moment To Moment D8-T19 Look at the overall flow of a conversation and break it down to its smallest point that we can affect. positive.2-1. • Etc. So you just think to yourself "Where can I go that is fan. Which Of these are Fun.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4. and interesting"? Moment-to-moment. and interesting" (See Figure 4. you make note of where you are in the conversation.The overall direction of a conversation comes about due to a successive selection of TTPs. and interesting?" Move the conversation in that direction. and then you move things in that direction! Remember . as long as it moves things in a way that answers the question "Where can I go that is fun. Positive. the topic "candidates" that were shown earlier). the TTP... and then steer things in the correct direction. positive. For any subject. and Interesting". .) Tactical Formula for General Conversational Management Keep thinking . positive. positive.

and Interesting".3. (See Figure 4..3.3.. but in the early part of the conversation.3-1. and Interesting! Figure 4.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Later in the conversation. you get to an overall "area" that will work. the most important thing to do is to focus on moving thing in a direction that is . positive.3-1: Moving Through Topics Using General Conversational Management Early in a conversation. you can work more towards certain topic areas. Do this for a while.3.3 The Model With Strategy And Tactics In Place D8-T23 As you make TTP choice after TTP choice (See Figure 4. You are steering things towards the direction that you want the conversation to go. 4. Positive. Positive.). just keep thinking about where you can go that is "Fun.3-2. Page 82 . "fun. and interesting".) Keep things moving in the direction of Fun.

what was the main topic? Topics Page 83 . and write down the topic for each. and Interesting topics and subjects.3.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course General Conversational Mgt Model No matter where you start. 4.3-2: General Conversational Management Model The most important direction to go. Positive.4 Exercises and Assignments D8-T25 Exercises for General Conversational Management 1) Think of some conversations that you have been in recently. Even if you temporarily move away from that direction or end up in an area that is not very positive or interesting.3. and Interesting!/ Figure 4. always move towards topics and subjects that are Fun. Positive. especially early in a conversation. is towards Fun. or where you are. At some particular moment early in the conversation. keep steering in the right direction and in many cases you WILL get towards the right area soon enough (and if not. maybe that person is not someone that you want to talk to anyway).

Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 2) Based on each of those topics. list 6-8 different ways you could go. or Candidate Topics). consider it a topic that leads to a TTP (copy each item above into the "Topic" area below). directions you could "take" the conversation (these are the TTP Options. For each of those Topics. things you could comment on. Write each of those down. Topic TTP Options (Candidate Topics') Page 84 . ask about.

asking a question.. which are the best? Which of these would move the conversation in a way that is best for you (think of "Fun. 5) Practice again on each by moving things in the direction of the second item that was circled. maybe by making a comment. etc. and Interesting")? Select two "candidates" and circle or highlight those two. Positive. making a statement. 4) For each Topic. what would it have been like to have moved the conversation in the direction of the first item you circled? Practice that out loud for each Topic above.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Of the 6-8 different TTP Options you have written above for each Topic. Page 85 . whatever it might take to move things in that direction.

you may have to think of 6-8 options.1 ADVANCED CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Really Want. Positive. engaging. make a comment. they will not go down a path of having a fun. Interesting. whatever it takes." 4. In general. we want to work with topics that get the emotions involved.3. having conversations with. look for moments where things can be "steered" in a certain way. and positive conversation. but the REAL key is to at least get to the point where you can very quickly think of at least 1 or 2 ways to go that are Fun. we are turning you into someone that people LIKE to talk to! You know the type of person that people enjoy talking to. you can direct where the overall conversation goes. interesting. By manipulating TTPs from moment to moment. and people REALLY interested. the imagination moving. Make it so that it becomes easy for you to come up with a list of "options" very quickly. Just do what you can so that the TTP shifts in a direction that is fun.4 4. the conversation becomes more enjoyable for everyone. Instead of the more general area of fun. where COULD I have taken things". It WILL get easier. don't worry. positive. and spending time with? The type of guy that people seek out to spend time with? The more you do these types of exercises. inquire about something. we can start to direct the conversation into an even BETTER area.5 Summary D8-T32 Remember what was said earlier: • The overall direction of a conversation comes about due to a successive selection of TTPs (which normally occur at random. If this is a challenge for you. You then have to wonder . really be aware of the TTP opportunities in your day-to-day life. At first. we want things to get even more Page 86 .Is that the sort of person you want to talk to and spend time with? Maybe not. At any moment you should be able to think "Where can I go with this?".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Assignments for General Conversational Management 1) For the next week or so. 2) Now that you are able to quickly find 1 or 2 good TTP options. thinking "what COULD I have done. • By moving things in this way. we want it to be really interesting. When talking to anyone. maybe offer an opinion. even at the start of a conversation. or without an overall strategy in mind).4. the more YOU can and will become that guy! 4. Building on what we learned in the last section. Do this for a while until the process of finding 1 or 2 good "Ways to go" in a conversation (good TTP options) can happen very rapidly for you. After a while. fascinating. start to take the conversation there! Ask a question. positive and interesting topics. We want to focus the aim of our conversational management skills even more. etc. that no matter WHAT you do with some people. D8-T33 D8-T33 We want the conversation to be more than just positive. interesting. Maybe start out by looking at conversation after the fact. You may start to find however.

Interesting area. (See Figure 4. To move the conversation into more interesting areas. to "steer" things even more towards what we want. and steer using Advanced Conversational Management Figure 4. Using General Conversational Management. more excitement. and Interesting. Positive. we now shift our strategy of "steering" things to direct the topics in a more focused manner using Advanced Conversational Management. Now from that point. With that as a general strategy. you move it in ways that engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way. there are many ways to go. steer the conversation towards directions that engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way. we were able to move things in the direction of Fun.1-1: Advanced Conversational Management Focuses the Steering From the start of a conversation. We use our strategy of working with the TTPs.4. From there.4.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course interesting. and more involvement of the imagination. Strategic Formula for Advanced Conversational Management To direct the conversation into even BETTER areas. So we narrow our focus. there were 4 main directions towards which a conversation may go. there are many ways the conversation can move. So.) General Conversational Management takes the conversation into the Fun. We move forward and want to get a more emotional tone.1-1. how do we work that in what we are doing moment-to-moment? How can we do things that will make that happen? Page 87 . Positive.

we need to change the way the model is shown.4.3-1 for an explanation.) TTP Mantra " Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Tactical Formula for Advanced Conversational Management Keep thinking . we can assume that we are talking about subjects which fit into the "Fun.4.3 The Model With Advanced Strategy And Tactics In Place D8-T38 (Before we move on to looking at the model.2-1. (See Figure 4.Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Move the conversation in that direction. and Interesting" area.2 Steering Conversations Moment To Moment using Advanced Conversational Management D8-T35 Again. we look at the concept of the TTP. Repeat.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4. With that established. Positive. and with that strategy in mind. we shift the focus of how we navigate TTPs. Interesting Topics Which of these "Engage the Emotions and imagination in a Positive Way"? That is the direction to go! Candidate Topics Figure 4. but now think "where can I go that will engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". TTP Fun.2-1: Topic Turning Point Navigation for Advanced Conversational Management After using General Conversational Management for a while.4.4. we need to use the TTP as a way to move things in the right direction. Positive.4. See Figure 4. 4.) Page 88 . and explain a bit more as to its meaning and interpretation.

these diagrams will indicate a VERY condensed version of the number of steps involved. with thousands upon thousands of possible possible routes and outcomes. and it ends up at a certain area (2). For example. For example. This can result in so many possibilities (many thousands within a few steps) that it's important to look at these diagrams as a way to show "trend". When starting from ANY topic (1) to a place where you are firmly established for a period of time in a Fun. (2). It may happen in ten minutes. Positive. but a way to show a "trend". and (3) in the figure above (and in the next figure) helps to show this. there can be a whole "tree" of possibilities leading from there. From now on in the course. the model above is what we used to show a starting point (1). At that point. where every "step" (TTP. Positive. or topic shift) shown on the digram may represent many steps in an actual conversation. Page 89 . Figure 4. it may take ten.) the conversation moves on for a while. and Interesting conversation (2) may take four steps.4. or thirty. we are not showing that there are exactly "four steps" between points (1) and (2). the graphics we will use will show an even more "condensed" version of this process.3-1: Understanding the Conversational Management Model The "levels" shown in the models are not meant to be exact.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Understanding the Conversational Management Model The model attempts to show a process that has many many steps. once again ending up with thousands of topics that could be discussed by the time you get through more topic shifts (3). In practice. etc. The locations of points (1). so that the various stages of a conversation can be easily illustrated. But after using the general techniques (Fun. not an exact number of steps or outcomes.

we now focus more on moving in a direction that will "Engage the Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way". if you use the language tools which we learned about earlier in the course. the conversation will get more and more of an "emotional" tone to it. Then a shift is made towards focusing the conversation even more using Advanced Conversational Management.3-2: Advanced Conversational Management Model Early in the conversation. only a few of which are shown in the diagram. and Interesting conversation (2). until it is firmly established that the conversation has engaged the emotions and imagination of the participant. and then Advanced Conversational Management. Although the diagram shows only 2 steps (for simplicity). 8. feelings. If you refer to Figure 4. emotional topics. Positive. subjects. or however long it takes to be firmly established in a Fun. This is shown between points (2) and (3). This also is followed for a series of steps and a period of time. After that has been established.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course We started at one topic.3-2. you can see how General Conversational Management. 20. we focused the conversation towards moving things in a direction that is "Fun Positive and Interesting. exciting. As time goes on. If you follow these two simple strategies together (and the tactical approach of simply watching the TTPs and moving things in the right way). to yourself! Advanced Conversational Management Model Figure 4.4. This too can take any number of steps. you end up linking and associating many fascinating. and states. This is shown from point (1) to point (2) in the diagram. 10. Page 90 . For a while. The subjects will get more and more fascinating. and could be at any of thousands of topics after 6. General Conversational Management techniques are used. or 30 minutes. And of course while doing that. Now the emphasis is on ways to "Engage the Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way".4. 10 topic shifts. are used together to move forward in a conversation. the conversation will get better and better. in practice it may be good to follow a series of topics for 5.

At some particular moment in that conversation. things you could comment on. or Candidate Topics).4. TTP Options (Candidate Topics') Page 91 . consider it a topic that leads to a TTP (copy each above into the "Topic" areas below). Topic a. For each of those Topics.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4. and interesting conversation. Write each of those down. list 6-8 different ways you could go. ask about. directions you could "take" the conversation (these are the TTP Options. These should be conversations where it is already obvious that it is a fun. and write down the topic for each.4 Exercises and Assignments D8-T39 Exercises for Advanced Conversational Management 1) Think of some conversations that you have been in recently. what was the main topic? Topics 2) Based on each of those topics. positive.

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4) For each Topic. Assignments for Advanced Conversational Management 1) For the next week or so. fascinating. Just do what you can so that the TTP shifts in a direction that can "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way".5 4. So. which 1 or 2 would tend to "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way"? Which ones move things in a way that is best for you? Select two "candidates" and circle or highlight these two. whatever it takes. So.5 4. D8-T46 D8-T47 D8-T47 As you can see.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Of the 6-8 different TTP Options you have written above for each Topic. maybe by making a comment.5. where COULD I have taken things". It WILL get easier. we focus further on the TTP options! Page 93 . but be especially aware of wanting to move things to "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". positive. This is best when applied to a conversation that is ALREADY fun. 4. what next? At some point in the conversation. don't worry. seductive things.4. until the process of finding 1 or 2 ways to go that "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way" in a conversation can happen very rapidly for you. 5) Practice again on each by moving things in the direction of the second item that was circled. If this is a challenge for you. 2) Now that you are able to quickly find 1 or 2 good TTP options for yourself that "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". make a comment. thinking "what COULD I have done. even things with some degree of sensual connotation to them. really be aware of the TTP opportunities in your day-to-day life.1 Summary MORE ADVANCED CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT More About Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Really Want. start to take the conversation there! Ask a question. making a statement. At first.. and interesting. but the REAL key is to at least get to the point where you can very quickly think of at least 1 or 2 ways to go that "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". Do this for a while. maybe offer an opinion. we want to steer things more towards romantic.. whatever it might take to move things in that direction. you may have to think of 6-8 options. Maybe start out by looking at conversation after the fact. once again.. etc. what would it have been like to have moved the conversation in the direction of the first item you circled? Practice that out loud for each Topic above. inquire about something. asking a question. we are "steering" things more and more in a direction that we wish to go.

4. fascinating.5. 4. Moving towards romantic.2-1: Topic Turning Point Navigation for More Advanced Conversational Management After using General and Advanced Conversational Management. you will have taken things in the right direction and this will be much easier.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Strategic Formula for More Advanced Conversational Management To further direct the conversation into even BETTER areas. fascinating. and associating YOU with them! (See Figure 4. Repeat."Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. This gets her mind into thinking more and more about these things. Seductive things Tactical Formula for More Advanced Conversational Management Keep thinking . However. seductive things is much easier after you have first move towards fun. if you have been in a conversation for a while.) Page 94 .) "Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. fascinating. and focusing more and more towards areas and topics that work. steer the conversation towards romantic.3 The Model With More Advanced Strategy And Tactics In Place D8-T52 We are just closing in. The focus now is upon topics that get you closer towards Romantic. and then topics that engage the emotions and imagination.5.3-1. fascinating. and followed the other strategies and tactics shown earlier. Fascinating. positive and interesting thing.5.5. seductive things?" Move the conversation in that direction.5. This may seem odd or hard to do.2-1. seductive things?" Figure 4. and seductive things.2 Steering Conversations Using More Advanced Conversational Management D8-T49 TTP Mantra (See Figure 4. then the focus shifts again towards directing things in a specific way.

3-1: More Advanced Conversational Management Model As the conversation progresses. there is a different focus at each stage. After that type of conversation has been established (3). which targets topics and subjects that are Romantic. and Seductive. Then the Advanced Conversational Management Techniques place the focus more upon items that involve the Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way.5.. moving to point (3). General Conversational Management techniques place the focus on selecting items that are Fun. and Interesting. Early on. the focus moves towards selecting items based on More Advanced Conversational Management. Positive. moving to point (4) Page 95 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course More Advanced Conversational Management Model Figure 4. Fascinating. shown from point (1) to (2).

and get things to be more and more fascinating and exciting. and then an emotional one. to a positive one. (See Figure 4.6.6 CONVERSATIONAL FRACTIONATION D9-T1 Using these Conversational Management skills in the real world may be quite different in practice from the way most guys "think" it will happen. that they will get an AMAZING reaction in their first movement across the Model.1-1.) The Dream that Does Not Happen! Figure 4.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4. Too many guys are too caught up in this one-shot dream of traveling once across the model and getting an amazing result. then a sensual one. Moreover. the way it really DOES happen.6. and then .MAGIC! However that is NOT the way it works in the real world. This hardly ever ever happens.1 The 1-Shot Beeline Fallacy D9-T2 Guys assume that they will travel from a general topic. Page 96 .1-1: The Dream of a 1-Shot Path To Success! A common misperception is that many guys think that if they can just move a conversation from the start. 4.6. will work in your favor.

and fascinating and seductive topics. Then you "back up" to some extent (even all the way back to a very general topic area) and then move forward across the model again. In this way.. Start at any topic (you are on the far left side of the Model) Move forward towards the right. emotional and imaginative topics.. Great! Talk about that for a while. (See Figure 4. This actually ADDS to the power and effectiveness of what you are doing. moving through the model towards the right.6. No problem... And again.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4.. here is how this works. and then at some point. no matter where you start. you go back towards something more "normal". Just start the process again. So. you take a conversation from the early stages through the process. restarts. When we say "go back". g) Do the whole process over and over. you may jump back just several steps in our Conversational Management Process. goes for some distance through the model (maybe all the way through). you back off.. the conversation ends up being very interesting and fascinating! 4. Have fun. So. Maybe you move all the way back to a very "normal" topic (which would be all the way on the left side of the model). This is where a process is done repeatedly over and over. If you get to a very good place. Because no matter where you start from. You just start the process again. Of if you can't seem to get to a good place.31. Then at some point. The conversation starts.6.. and then . etc. e) Then move back (towards the left side of the model) This may happen because: • The person you are talking to does that (she asks a question) • Or maybe you do it (just to lighten things up) f) Then start again. Maybe you start from a very general topic and get all the way through the model towards a very very fascinating topic or subject.3 Using Conversational Fractionation D9-T5 Start at some normal topic and move through the model towards the right. move on to the next step. or maybe the conversation shifts back to that place due to something she says... This actually works better! We are actually using Fractionation. starts. Use the language tools. using the Conversational Management techniques Get as far through the model as you can. stay there and talk about it for a while. No problem. You might do that on your own.6. You back up to a more general topic.) a) b) c) d) Page 97 .. no matter how the conversation jumps around.2 How Fractionation Works D9-T3 The real world has stops. you are always moving towards positive topics. Maybe several times.

interesting. Fractionation happens at times because even when you may be at a fairly good place for a while (8). simply back up (3) and then try moving into a better direction (4).3-1: How Conversation Fractionation Works on the Model Follow the conversation as it moves from (1) to (12). there is a continued movement up and into better and better areas of conversation. it's not a bad idea to back up a bit (9) and then move forward again. As things move forward from (1). As time goes on (5-12) the conversation gets into better and better areas. You become one of those fascinating guys. there is no such thing as a conversational "Dead End"! Page 98 .4 Dead Ends Come Back To Life! D9-T6 With this new strategy of using Conversational Fractionation.6. that no matter WHAT you talk about.6. over time. This is not a problem. The overall trend is that. it ends up being fun.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Conversational Fractionation at Work Figure 4. and fascinating! 4. at times maybe they move towards an area that is not too good (2).

fascinating. • What if you can't make the conversation positive? • What if she always points out the negative aspect? • What if there is NO emotional engagement at ALL? Well. or what you both have in common Move forward with the Strategies and Tactics in mind. and go down another path! 4..7.7 CONVERSATIONAL OVERVIEW AND REVIEW D9-T7 So. and the person becomes interested and fascinated.. o Comment on what is around o Mention common items. you might have just found out that they are NOT someone you want to spend time with! That's not a total loss because you STILL learned more. Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic..3 Summary D9-T10 Go have fun with these tools! Page 99 . o If you get to a good subject or topic. Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Move things in that direction. back up a few steps.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course If you happen to take a "wrong turn" somehow and get into an area of discussion that is boring. use the language tools. or maybe negative... uninteresting. and use the Strategy and Tactics of the Conversational Management techniques! Look at "Dead Ends" as being just like a bad turn on a road. Do that for a while and then think .7. No problem. how do we pull this together? 4. with you! 4. have more material to use in conversations in the future! 4. and get the effect.. (think of your TTP options). and interesting? Move things in that direction. this can happen.. positive. Just back up.. etc.1 • Conversational Management Approach Start on just about ANY subject. stay there for a while.2 What If The Outcome Is Not What You Expected? D9-T9 Despite your best efforts.7. Where can I go that is fun. talked more. seductive things? Move things in that direction.. —* The entire time: o If you hit a "dead end". use the language tools as much as possible! D9-T8 • • • • • • • • • Keep moving the conversation into these interesting fascinating areas . When on good topics. Do that for a while and then think . you just back up.

this is something we can and will work on with you. You will be able to say things like "I was talking to someone about this the other day. TOPICS OF ENTHUSIASM AND PASSION D9-T14 What are you passionate about? Few things are more compelling in a person than for them to be passionate about something (hopefully many things) in life. and some familiarity with this type of thing. so that YOU have some material. Most men may not be very familiar with many of the topics that we REALLY want to get into. and closer towards the subjects that will really serve your intent. if using those language tools is problem for you. Topics • • 5. Now we want you to become familiar with topics that will really work well for you! We are going to work with some of these topics. some practice. Can you talk passionately about something? Anything? Hopefully. The more experience you get.. fun. and then the more "material" you will have. we have talked about managing conversations. A topic is a particular area of discussion that is taking place in a moment. What do you talk about? There is no substitute for experience. and that statement (regarding having actually talked to someone about the topics) will be TRUE! So. go ahead and practice! (Or maybe do that the next time you go through the course. Talking about these topics may be a challenge for many men.1 Themes are a way through a discussion or through the "tree of subjects" that we showed earlier. fascinating. However. and THEY said. fascinating. However. and it's even better if you are passionate about those topics. the more familiar you will be with these topics. you should be able to use them with subjects in which you are already interested! Page 101 . the more you talk to people about such things.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 5. and while talking about subjects and topics that YOU are really passionate about. to get the best effect you will have to be a PART of that conversation and familiar with the topics that may come up.great! It's easier to use the language tools if you are discussing topics with which you are familiar. You want to be able to discuss these topics easily.0 TOPICS D9-T11 What do you talk about? As the conversation gets more interesting. the easier it will get. what can we do here in this course to help you? We have talked about the way to talk and use language. then you may want to go back in those earlier sections..) Before you can use the language tools with new subjects that you are learning about. In the meantime. yes! How well can you talk about topics that YOU are passionate about while using many of the language tools we talked about in the earlier parts of the course? If you can do that very well . Themes vs. especially as they get more interesting.".

and emphasize discussing topics in which YOU are interested and passionate about. sensual. and link it to you! When • • • • • you are at or near an SOT: Use the correct tone of Voice Pace and Lead correctly Link things to you Point at the right times. These are called "Seduction Oriented Topics". work it.. in the right way Use the language tools! You want to be familiar with these topics (SOTs) and able to discuss them easily: maybe not ALL of them. You want to be able to discuss topics that deal on some level with Seduction.. or near. Topics that access emotions. feelings.. or. can create an AMAZING effect! When you do get a conversation into an area near an SOT. or cleaning the toilet. You may talk about cars. How good are you at the earlier sections that dealt with the language tools? It may be a good idea to go back over those sections. or the office. Seduction Oriented Topics (SOTs) . SOTs are the "end goals" when it comes to managing or directing a conversation. excitement.. someone) some topics are easier to work with than others. but how effective are those as subjects given the "purpose" of the discussion? You want to discuss topics and things which deal with seduction. etc. stay there as long as you can! Talk about it.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course So. The conversational management sections will help you to move the conversation in a way that will get you near these topics areas. and seductive.. at least.just TALKING about these can create a good effect.) Page 102 . (Every guy has his favorites and ones that work best for him. a topic that is an SOT. judge for yourself. or topics that are very close to that concept. but doing so while using the language tools. 5. Your point is to get to.2 SEDUCTION ORIENTED TOPICS D9-T15 In the context of this course (and your intent in talking with .Topics that bring up images and thoughts that are romantic.. or sports. but a good number of them. Examples of SOTs • Connections • Going for it • Making good decisions • Surrendering to feelings • Getting excited • Feeling excited • Trusting your judgment • Taking chances • Indulgence • Maturity • Good decisions • . in some ways.

the more you practice. or even watched in a movie! (Or heard in a course that you took . and discuss these subjects. or overhear from others) and listen for when any of these SOTs come up in conversation. Or are taking!) . or anything like that. Assignments for Seduction Oriented Topics 1) Pay attention to conversations in your life (even things you hear on the radio. Think about other topics you have heard mentioned in this program.Are you able to somehow relate to these in your own life? Maybe something you read or heard? Maybe questions you can ask? ANYTHING?!?!? You do not need to "know" a lot about these topics or be an expert. or comment on them! Talk aloud for several minutes about each. use as many of the language tools as you can. the easier it will be to "riff" on these using the language tools. but the more you think about them. or in movies.. easily. read. Eventually. and hopefully add some of your own. and the more you talk to and with people about them. Get the conversation there. Exercises for Seduction Oriented Topics 1) Build your own list of SOTs. Write down your list of SOTs. have stories about them. using as many of the language tools as you can. the more you work with the materials. Page 103 . the easier it will get! Strategic Formula for Seduction Oriented Topics SOTs are topics that. you will be able to just "talk" about the subject while using the tools that are available. You can use some of those that were listed earlier if you wish.. 3) Practice talking about each aloud. you JUST need to be able to talk. Don't worry about talking to women. bring up images and thoughts that may work for you. or ask questions. the more you practice using the tools. and without "thinking" about the language tools. ask about them. talk about something you heard.. or on TV.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course These topics may seem foreign to you. Think of SOME way to discuss these. by there very nature. or joke about them. or seduction per se. and also topics that you have heard in other materials and products that you have. hopefully some way that involves you and your own life. Seduction Oriented Topics 2) You must become familiar with these! You must be able to talk about them. keep it there. and while there. Meaning. Or.

but as long as you start it. So can you. then the more material YOU will have to talk about. (As in.. ask what something means. Make special note of topics that are CLOSE or similar to these SOTs in some way. Use as many of the language tools as you can.3 EXPANDED SEDUCTION ORIENTED TOPICS . or even just TRY to do so. this process must start somewhere. but we are walking you through (at least the first steps of) the process to make this easier: • • • • • • • • • • • You have made a list of SOTs.. Maybe ask some questions about things that deal with your SOTs. That gives YOU more familiarity with discussing them. 2) Now . but had even more? Maybe 50? What if that was easy and familiar for you? Think back to how we looked at topics earlier. make a comment. That's what we want to do here.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Listen to what is being said.Talk about these subjects and topics! Make a point to enter into a discussion when one of your SOTs is mentioned. You start to listen and take notice of when these are discussed. They did it. Because of that. However. I can tell you that it DOES get easier and easier to be able to talk about these things. and move through these exercises and assignments. It may start a bit slowly and awkwardly. The more you hear. but this time with SOTs. However. what people think. and start to get your brain working on them. These are called Expanded SOTs (SOTXs). what is said. show interest. the more you listen. You listen more to when they are discussed. discuss. You do a few exercises to talk about them. and easily come up with 6-8 related topics. "the other day I heard someone talking about. and makes it easier for you to talk about them. quote."). That makes you really think about them. after having worked with hundreds of guys.SOTXs D9-T24 What if you had not just 10 ways of discussing "Seduction Oriented" subjects. ask. etc. Page 104 . And that gives you MORE material to talk about! Which make it easier for you to enter into more conversations about these subjects and topics. it WILL get easier. We learned how you can move from any topic. That is understandable. or even when anything CLOSE to one of your SOTs is discussed. See? We are working on a process to get you to become more comfortable and familiar with these things. Many guys who can now talk about these things VERY easily and comfortably started from a place of having NO idea of what to say! They changed. Really! Learning to discuss such things may start out slowly. and frankly. They started and became more and more familiar with these topics. this is one of the key challenges that many guys face. ask an opinion. 5. anything at all! Talk. Then you get to hear MORE people talk about them.. it gets easier to enter into more conversations that deal with these topics. SOT Summary I KNOW that these topics may seem foreign to you.

SOT Connections SOTX Connections with family Connections with friends Connections with coworkers Connections with pets Connections with a girlfriend Connections with someone you just met Connections with someone while on vacation Connections with music Connections with your teammates Many guys worry about talking about something like "Connections".with someone while on vacation . For any given SOT.. (You do not really need to list "connections with" for each. it's easy to think of several different aspects of that topic or related topics. family. you can take any SOT. Then.with pets .. but can you think of 6-8 different aspects of this? (Remember what we did in the earlier sections.with friends . etc. and build a whole list of very similar things to talk about -which are SOTXs! For example. Instead of worrying about getting to that one topic (SOT) in a certain way.. you now have 6-8 ways to discuss it.... see Figure 5. or only one aspect of that to discuss (connections in a romantic or sensual context). pets. places.with a girlfriend .. the SOTX list consists of all of these items shown in the diagram and listed below..with your teammates Figure 5. how we discussed a Topic Turning Point?) If Connections is a particular subject.with someone you just met .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Expanding on a Topic Area "Connections" is an SOT. how easy would it be to talk about how you CONNECT with those? And if you talk about Page 105 .. and things that can be discussed..with music .. if friends. Look at the list above... you can talk about that for while. That just makes it easier for our example below).with coworkers ..3-1.. comes up in a conversation. (Does that diagram look familiar?) If "Connections" is an SOT. However as we see here. . That is one subject. can you think of different aspects of that? Parts of Connections? Questions about Connections? Ways of experiencing Connections? People or things with which you can experience Connections? By asking those types of questions (to yourself).. there are many different types or examples of connecting to people..3-1: How SOTs are related to an SOTXs. They think of only one way of talking about that subject. coworkers.with family .

or a special person. b. you are to list 5 (at least) related topics. Just make a comment. then you can shift to talking about "how you can connect with a pet" fairly easily.. SOTs " SOTXs List Page 106 .. ask a question. etc.) Family Friends Coworkers Pets Connections A girlfriend Someone you just met Someone met on vacation Music Teammates Figure 5. you can be as close as one step away from an SOT. point out an example regarding pets. how to connect with people.3-2: SOTXs Can Lead Into SOTs If any of the topics in the SOTX list comes up in conversation. a... this is a TTP diagram in reverse!) For example. all of a sudden there are many MORE ways to get to these really GREAT topics! Exercises f o r Expanded Seduction Oriented T o p i c s 1) Take the SOT list you had earlier (copy those down into the first column below. or maybe even someone. then you can shift towards ANOTHER type of "connection" very easily! (See Figure 5. or how that topic can be experienced.. or different aspects of that topic. This is your SOTX list. (Yes.to . if someone is talking about pets. c. that you just met! When you expand SOTs in this way. it's very easy to then shift.3-2.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course THAT (how you connect in that manner) for a while. If you talk about that for a while. and how you (or someone else) can connect with a pet..) and for each SOT.

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then about connecting with pets. (Like the earlier example. and see if you can then focus what you are saying towards the SOT itself. Step back and look at what you have done! You have 10 SOTs with which YOU are familiar. Talk about that SOTX for a moment or two. you talk about pets.) 3) Do the same thing again. That gives you a LOT of flexibility in conversations! Page 108 . practice talking about it out loud. but now do so while using the language tools.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 2) Now for each SOTX. You have 50 SOTXs that you are now familiar with as well. then about connecting in general.

... Summary You now have MORE material to work with than you ever thought possible! This is not about memorizing. If anything like an SOTX comes up in a conversation. D9-T32 We discussed how to develop an SOTX list from an SOT. The more you work with this.with someone while on vacation . The techniques that you have learned are the sort of things that many people do naturally. Page 109 .with someone you just met . You will start to notice this. that process can work both ways.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Assignments for Expanded Seduction Oriented Topics 1) Look at all of your SOTXs! That's a LOT of subjects! Pay attention in your life to see how often any of those items come up in conversation (or maybe you just hear them somewhere). and then built upon that step by step.. modeled the process arid the steps involved. Good speakers.. use the language tools if and whenever you can.. It ALL gets easier! 2) Start to "direct" the conversations you encounter where your SOTXs are mentioned. You may think.4-1: SOTXs Are The Pathways To SOTs SOTXs are an easy way to get towards SOTs..4 CONVERSATIONAL MODEL WITH SOTXs... and move the conversation towards SOTs.. if you hear any of them mentioned.. ..with a girlfriend . See if you can move the conversation a bit towards the SOT itself. Maybe you will even start to notice SOTXs that were not even ON your list. SOTXs are now like "conversational landmarks" for you in terms of navigating a conversation..with family .4-1.with coworkers . "I didn't list that SOTX.. but it IS related to an SOT that I have worked with". concept of "topics related to a topic" in many many places..with music .with your teammates Family Friends Coworkers Pets A girlfriend Someone you just met Someone met on vacation Music Teammates Connections This is how we developed SOTXs This is the most useful way of thinking of SOTXs Figure 5. The more familiar you are with these subjects. the easier it will be to notice SOTXs. broke it into bits and pieces that you can learn and do as exercises.with friends . use such techniques a LOT.. especially politicians and activists. However. you know that you are very close to getting near a subject area that will work very well for you. . spotting these opportunities get easier and easier. The real usefulness of this is when you reverse the order as shown in Figure 5. it is easy to then move the conversation towards topics that will work better for you (SOTs). 5. or anything like them mentioned. We have broken these down..with pets Connections .. In addition. it's about getting YOU comfortable and familiar with these topics.

and for you to just start to "recognize" these things on your own . you have practiced with so many of these SOTXs. and done the exercises and assignments. The point here (again) is not to memorize the SOTs. or the SOTXs. we can then show them as part of our Conversational Model. SOTXs SOTs Figure 5.without "thinking" about them. However in the figure above. If you have followed the program. this will start to happen for you. After all. In many of the diagrams. Figure 5. to be able to notice when you are talking about things which are "close to" topics that will work well for you. and 50 SOTXs (in the earlier exercises) you now have many many SOTXs with which YOU are familiar! More importantly. that this process will now be easier than you may have imagined. that is not an abbreviation or exaggeration. you now see how easy it can be to move over to an SOT! In fact. Page 110 . you have already worked with 10 SOTs and 50 SOTXs as shown in Figure 5.4-2: Your Multiple Pathways to SOTs! Now that you have worked with 10 SOTs.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course So whenever you are having a conversation.4-2. It's to have you practice and become familiar with them.. and then towards SOTs. you will get closer and closer to SOTXs. As the topics get better and better.4-3 shows this in the model itself. we have had to compress or simplify them quite a bit and show only a fraction of the actual steps and numbers involved so that the diagrams do not become too large or complex. you have started to train yourself to "recognize" these landmarks. and anything like an SOTX comes up in the discussion.the number that YOU have actually worked with so far! Since SOTXs and SOTs are the "goals" in terms of managing a conversation. there are really 50 SOTXs and 10 SOTs shown .

just follow the steps listed earlier in the Conversational Management sections.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course SOTs in the Conversational Management Model The end goal is to get to. Period. or as close as you can towards SOTs.. and topics that are close to that (SOTXs).4-3: SOTs Are THE Goals in Conversational Management As you move through a conversation. SOTXs SOTs Listen for SOTXs Anything near or related to an SOT.5-1. which are topics near or related to seduction (a step or two away from SOTs). then start to pay attention for SOTXs. 5. or anything that is "related" to an SOT. and using this type of approach you will have fascinating conversations with people that lead to where YOU want to go! (See Figure 5. then you can simply move things towards a topic that is very seduction-oriented! The point is not to have a "list" in mind. Move towards SOTs.) Page 111 . You can start from almost ANYWHERE. Then move the conversation towards an SOT! This works. Stay there for a while if you can! Figure 5. SOTXs are a pathway to make that easier. it's that you have trained yourself to recognize things that are SOTs. you start to "listen" for topics that are SOTXs.5 THE COMPLETE CONVERSATIONAL MODEL D9-T33 Start from any topic and get to where you want! Yes. When you get to an SOTx. and ANY TOPIC. you can start from just about ANY topic and get to GREAT topics! It's easy.

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seductive things Direct the Conversation Pay attention when Good Subjects come up (SOTXs) Listen for anything a step or two away from an SOT Move towards SOTs Stay there as long as you can Use The Language Tools! As much as possible.5-1: The Complete Conversational Management Model (continued) Start a Conversation Manage the Conversation Move the Conversation in a Good Direction Steer towards . Steer towards . back up! If you move back to a general topic. exciting. interesting . start over! Assignment! 1) Try it! Start directing conversations using the conversational management model. or very close! Page 113 . Fractionate If you take a wrong turn... or SOTX.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Figure 5.. and see how easy it is to get to some good topic that is an SOT..Engaging the emotions and imagination in a positive way .Fun. Especially when at or near SOTXs and SOTs..Romantic.. Steer towards . fascinating.

With this new approach to learning and using these tools. • Instead. you make decisions on-the-spot as to what to do and how to proceed. or "how can I bring this pattern up".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 6. we have practiced the small details (language skills) so that these are automatic. • Driving . A New way of thinking about the use of patterns • The wrong way is to talk to someone and to keep thinking. In the same manner. Don't think of "how can I get to the pattern". plus these areas will work for HER because SHE selected them (in a manner of speaking) • Talk and manage the conversation into an area that DOES work for you. She may take the conversation into better places that you could have predicted. • While talking to a woman. Amplify these feelings and states by talking. and as "a way of speaking". The Pattern Formula in detail. or navigation. or could say.2 PATTERN FORMULA D10-T7 Tactical Formula for Patterns While talking to a woman. A representative sample. get her to "experience" good feelings and states. It's best to just think of patterns as examples. think about having a conversation (and managing it correctly). 6.Many of the details of driving a car are things you just "do". Present a Call to action. we work in that manner. Use the language tools. and being aware of when you DO get to an area of conversation that does allow you to use a pattern. that's the key. Once you actually play the game though. "A plan" or "model". get her to "experience" good feelings and states o Use the Conversational Management Techniques to get there o Get her to think about good and/or exciting feelings Page 115 . These smaller skills become automatic and you focus instead of driving.0 6. or series of actions. "how can I get to my pattern". diagram.1 PATTERNS PATTERN OVERVIEW D10-T1 What is a pattern? • A plan. We practice specific parts of areas of the skills we wish to use later on. • Maybe talk to a woman and allow HER to bring up things that end up working well in pattern-like language. etc. Its just a "type" of talking that you can (and will be able to) use when you feel it is appropriate.You don't play the entire game ahead of time. You practice bits and pieces of the sport. Link and associate these feelings to you. handling the gas pedal. or "how can I bring up a pattern that I know". Examples/Analogies: • Sports . THAT ends up being a very effective way to create "patterns". Patterns are just examples of the use of these tools. The navigation is handled through our use of Conversational Management techniques. or model to be followed in making things. certain actions. asking. You don't have to think about moving the wheel. clarifying. the clutch. • An example of what you can say.

3 CANNED PATTERNS D10-T12 These are the pre-rehearsed. what you need to do is to look at. because doing so may work against you. and the proper context is not created. So. and have them there for your use if and when the correct situation comes up. these canned patterns DO have some usefulness. pre-written patterns that you have seen and heard. many times it does not. they can. when you are talking to a woman. pre-rehearsed. or things you have read. However. canned patterns are good. but they assume that you are in a conversation where they will work and be somewhat "appropriate" to what is being discussed. clarifying o Use the Language Tools o Asking her for info. don't focus TOO much on them. Pre-written. asking. if you just "drop" a pattern into the conversation. o Use "this" and "these" (be aware of that and those as well) o Point and mark appropriately Present a Call to action o "Do it now" language o Create a Challenge o Create an Opportunity o Talk about the chance to "Seize the moment" o A simple add-on to the Language Tools There are two main ways of doing patterns. "Canned" patterns. and do. Therefore it is best to maybe have some of these memorized.. Some times that does happen. for her to elaborate and describe o Repeating back what she has said o Provide examples from your own life o Provide examples from friends.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • o Get her feeling good and/or exciting feelings o Get her experiencing (or recall the experience of) good and/or exciting feelings o Get her to think about things that she wants or desires Amplify these feelings and states by talking.. etc Link and associate those feelings to you o Use the Language Tools o Use linkage phrases like "now with me". • The interesting topic that she and you are discussing o what is happening o what you know Page 116 . and to use what is needed in the moment. In THAT case . The problem is if you are SO focused on just "getting to the pattern" that you know (or even one of many that you know) then it's difficult to have a good conversation. But. The good ways to use these are as teaching and learning tools. 6. "this person. 6.these pre-written or canned patterns can work very well." etc. and real-time "Riffing".4 PATTERN RIFFING IN REAL-TIME D10-T13 This is the ability to just create pattern language on-the-fly. Their best use is when you use the Conversational Management techniques and then find that the conversation just happens to get to or near a pattern that you DO happen to know already.. and that the woman will react to what the patterns is about. sound quite strange. In the real world.

and and use the language tools. and sensual things. • Talk about these things or listen to you talk about these things • get her to think about these things • get her to feel these things • get her to link them to you. THE BEST PATTERN IS THIS: • • Get her to talk and think about positive. and actions in the conversation. Yes. interesting. Page 117 . Use the language tools so that YOU become associated with those things. get her to.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • o what she is reacting to o and discuss things which are appropriate. Then we use those as a basis for discussion. it really IS that easy! look for: Positive emotions and feeling Positive sensations (as in physical ones) Exciting feelings. exciting. looking and listening for positive feelings. Then you have a conversation and. • Use some "act now" languaging.. states. emotions. Wanting to take action or seize an opportunity Always • • • • See the pattern here? We are in general.. using the tools.

Use the Language Tools 5. DO THE EXERCISES. Talk about something positive and interesting c. SOTs) 4. and/or compulsion to act a. comfort in. Use the conversational management techniques b. 7. We really are focused upon changing you. and how you speak.2 SUMMARY D10-T26 This may be similar to information you have heard in the past. a. Both you and her talk! 2.3 LISTEN. Now we can look from the "top-down". but the method of approaching it is very different. 7. and view an overall strategy.0 7. Keep the conversation going. 3.5 CONGRATULATIONS! WELL DONE! D10-T29 Page 119 . Direct the conversation in a way that takes you toward good topics a. of fourteenth time through. Whether its your first. focusing first on small details.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 7. 7. and really take the time to do the exercises. Engage her emotions and imagination in a positive way. D10-T28 The more energy and effort you put into this. Get the conversation into good subjects (SOTXs. -' d. Create a willingness. Direct and/or link those feelings towards you. fifth. and then building up to bigger and bigger pieces.4 BE WILLING AND PREPARED TO PUT ENERGY INTO THIS COURSE. Use the Language Tools 7. the greater your results will be. a. you will benefit. Use the conversational management techniques b. and the more engaged you are in the process. D10-T27 Listen to the full explanations. It really is up to you. AND FOLLOW THE COURSE. 1. Fractionate if and when needed. Keep her there and keep talking! a.1 REVIEW AND SUMMARY REVIEW D10-T18 The course has followed a "bottom-up" approach to training.

Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 8. Page 121 . EXAMPLES Dll-Tl The discussions presented on the audio for this section are intentionally "casual" to familiarize you even more with the use of these tools. and provide you with some real-world examples of their use. EXAMPLES.0 EXAMPLES.

o o Page 123 .. • Have you ever .. use Adjectives And Adverbs Trance Words Help to get the subconscious mind of the listener to be more of apart of your conversation. so that their feelings. • Be descriptive. and to "soften " the way in which something is said... and charismatic presence. Voice Tone And Tonality Use your best tone of voice (speaking from your chest) to convey a relaxed. Pause? Energy And Enthusiasm Using energy and enthusiasm when speaking so that people can become energized and enthusiastic about listening to and being with you. powerful.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course APPENDIX 1 Course "Cheat Sheet" • SPEAKING POINTERS o The "Cool" Factor You don't have to be cold.. emotions... • Passionate or Boring? o o o • LANGUAGE TOOLS A N T D E T A I L S o Adjectives And Adverbs Use more adjectives and adverbs in your speech to appeal to and excite the emotional side of the listener. Mouth. to convey a sense of drama and intrigue in what you are saying in a way that "captivates "people and makes them want to listen to you. allowing you to say more (and maybe more provocative things) about a subject. • What's it like when ... • If you were to . and well-placed pauses. • Instantaneously " Suddenly • Find Yourself • Convince Yourself • Suppose • Imagine " Mysterious (-ly) • Wonder (-ous) (-ously) Weasel Phrases Use Weasel Phrases to keep the conversation going. • Nose. " As you. to be cool. or Chest? Pacing And Pausing Use variations in pace. Fast. • Slow. • If I were to . and processes awaken..

etc. allowing you to move things more in your favor later on Page 124 . Say "that". point or gesture towards yourself. and accentuate what you are saying in order to be more compelling as a speaker and to get even more attention from your listener or audience. interest. laugh. • Whenever you say something positive. Say "these". • Point Or Touch On Positive —* o o o • LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES o Pace And Lead Pacing and Leading allows you "be " in the conversation for a while and gain rapport and information. motion. link them to you so that YOU become something and someone that they feel good about • Now with me • In me • In myself • with this • these • this belief • these feelings Easy-Linking • Use "This" and "These" when referring to anything positive. • Can you do this now. a smile. That. Say "this".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o Embedded Commands Use embedded commands repeatedly and in the proper context. Easy Anchoring When the person you are talking with displays a positive feeling of some type.. point or gesture away. Point away • Positive statement. • Move! Point! Linking Gestures Towards And Away • Whenever you say something negative. Point to you • Negative Say "those". Point to you • Negative statement. intrigue.. to create a compelling will on the part of the listener follow you and listen to you.. Point away. Linking After getting someone to experience good feelings and emotions. Easy Linking Expanded Pointing With This. These. Those • Positive statement. o o • MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures Move. • Use "That" and "Those" when referring to anything negative. gesture. touch them to help anchor it to you.

which support your point • A. acknowledgement. Compare And Contrast Use this technique to keep the conversation going. the more Y. or thoughts) use "More and More " as a way to string them together (and increase your chances of that happening • The more X. "List" several things or examples which support your point. B. • Request X because (of) Y. etc. etc. experiences. b. and/or interest.) • Then you will "Y" Where "Y" is something you want them to experience (Lead) o Give Them A Reason Giving a reason will make people more apt to do things for you and agree with you. and c When giving examples or options to someone. the More Z. More And More If you want to lead someone through a series of steps (actions. keep the discussion focused on a topic that serves your purposes. Then start to move or shift things in a different way. or giving an example. a way that you want. in order to provide more power to what you are saying • At The End Listing at The End is a way to provide several options (which may differ) but to emphasize the option that YOU want. thoughts. understanding. • As you X. or giving an example.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Show agreement. the More Y.another option o o o Page 125 . and C When making a point.Burying Items is a way to mention an outrageous or very direct option for "testing" purposes. LAST • Burying Items Listing .Bad • One option . and C When making a point. or to maybe see if you can get someone to agree to it! • a. you can get away with an outrageous or very direct option by burying that option in the middle of a List. The More Z. The more Y. B. • a. the More Y. statement. and incorporate the language tools • This thing vs that thing • How two things are similar • How two things are different • Good . Listing • General Listing General Listing is a way to quickly provide several reason. etc. but mention the one which YOU want to put the most emphasis on. "List" several things briefly in order. statement. • Topics and Subjects • Mindset or Frame of Mind • Current Reality • As (while) you are "X" (Pace) Where "X" is something that is true in their current reality (perceptions.

feelings and emotions to yourself. • Link good thoughts.. • Are you able to . • Maybe you can . assume there is a part that will work WITH you. • Challenge them to demonstrate it... to be a way for them to get what they want. • You may . • If you are able to . feelings.. or show it.. • Find a way to map what YOU want. allowing you time to gather information and link yourself to good thoughts.. discuss. can (use smart... • Using Their Own Processes • Find or assume what someone wants • Create an opportunity for them to get it or demonstrate they have it • Make that "demonstration" work in your favor. • You might. or fun. even when the other person claims or demonstrates that such parts are NOT there • For every part of a person that will work against you. and beliefs. and evoke favorable states. • You seem as if. • You seem like . idea.. • The smart people I know.. feelings and emotions.. • Take any subject.... • I wonder if you can . Mini-Challenges • You seem.. Parts Of A Person Use Parts of a Person as a way to find.. etc). do it.\ Universal Wants You can assume that most people want these. • If you can .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o Parts • • Parts Of A Subject Discussing many of the parts of a subject keeps the conversation going... • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control Particular Wants What does she want to have. —* • • • Page 126 .. or point in a discussion.. • etc.... • Challenge them to do that. • Break it down into its component parts and discuss them.. or want to be perceived as having? • Talk to them and find out. • You might see . or adventurous. • Use the language tools in the discussion. o Opportunities And Challenges • Find out what someone wants.

Advanced Conversational Management To direct the conversation into even BETTER areas... General Conversational Management To steer the conversation in a good direction. • Topic Turning Point The process of moving from one topic to one of 6-8 relevant topics • In general.. Are they ready to take advantage of that (this) opportunity? • Does she really want X and see how Y can get that? • Does she really have X.. fun. •• Show interest when someone discusses positive. then . fun. • Navigation Don't think of an exact plan.. positive. and interesting?" " Move the conversation in that direction.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • Opportunities. bring up positive. she may have to do Y to prove that. by doing Y? • Does she want you to THINK she has X. listen and be IN the conversation! • Conversational Dynamics Topics flow from one to the next."Where can I go that is fun. • Introduce topics that are fun.. interesting things • Keep thinking . • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control " • Excitement Challenges Challenge them to get what they want. • Can she see an opportunity to have "X".. interesting things. interesting things. Creating Them -. and see how doing Y would demonstrate it?> • Does she have what it takes to get X.-and do Y to get it? • Can she do Y and make it happen? • Can she see that Y will get her what she wants? • Can she trust herself enough to do Y? o • Ambiguities — CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT o General .. • Repeat. positive and interesting. fun. or show what they have. Consider the wants and needs that a person may have . • Don't engage in conversations when it's NOT about positive. steer the conversation towards directions that engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way o o Page 127 .. think of general navigation • She Must Be Engaged In The Conversation! You need her to talk.

back up a few steps. Seduction Oriented Topics SOTs are topics that. • When on good topics. More Advanced Conversational Management To further direct the conversation into even BETTER areas. steer the conversation towards romantic. • Keep thinking . and while there."Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. fascinating. keep it there. • Connections • Going for it • Making good decisions Page 128 o . bring up images and thoughts that may work for you. and seductive things. fascinating. use as many of the language tools as you can. stay there for a while. o If you get to a good subject or topic. seductive things?" " Move the conversation in that direction. • Where can I go that is fun. by there very nature. use the language tools as much as possible! • What If The Outcome Is Not What You Expected? • Move on! o o • TOPICS o Topics Of Enthusiasm and Passion Few things are more compelling in a person than for them to be passionate about something (hopefully many things) in life. Get the conversation there. and interesting? • Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? • Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. Repeat. seductive tilings? • The entire time: o If you hit a "dead end". fascinating. use the language tools. Conversational Fractionation • Using Conversational Fractionation • Start • Move • Back Up • Repeat • Dead Ends Come Back To Life! • Just back up and start over! Conversational Overview and Review • General Flow • Start on just about ANY subject. • Repeat. and get the effect.Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Move the conversation in that direction.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • o Keep thinking . positive.

get her to "experience" good feelings and states. • Manage . o Talk about these things or listen to you talk about these things o get her to think about these things o get her to feel these things o get her to link them to you. Amplify these feelings and states by talking... Page 129 o . and • Look for: o Positive emotions and feeling o Positive sensations (as in physical ones) o Exciting feelings. The Complete Conversational Model See Appendix 2 o o • PATTERNS o Pattern • • • • Formula While talking to a woman.Use the conversational Management Techniques. o Wanting to take action or seize an opportunity • Use the language tools. • Direct .Great as EXAMPLES • Learn and know some of them they may be useful.Look out for SOTXs • Direct 0 Move towards SOTs. Pattern Riffing In Real-Time • Use the Conversational Management techniques to get to good subjects • Look at the interesting topic that she and you are discussing o what is happening o what you know o what she is reacting to o and discuss things which are appropriate.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • • • • • o Surrendering to feelings Getting excited Feeling excited Trusting your judgment Taking chances Indulgence Maturity Good decisions Expanded Seduction Oriented Topics . Link and associate these feelings to you. Conversational Model With SOTXs. • Get her to.SOTXs For each SOT. o Canned Patterns . clarifying. Those are STOXs. asking. there are easily 6-8 variations on that SOT that you can talk about. Present a Call to action.

o The Best Pattern Is This: • Get her to talk and think about positive. interesting.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • Use some "act now" languaging. and sensual things. exciting. • Use the language tools so that YOU become associated with those things Page 130 .

Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course APPENDIX II Speaking and Language Tools "Cheat Sheet" • SPEAKING POINTERS o Voice Tone And Tonality o Pacing And Pausing o Energy And Enthusiasm LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS o Adjectives And Adverbs o Trance Words o Weasel Phrases o Embedded Commands o Linking o Easy-Linking (This. That. That. Those) MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures o Linking Gestures (Towards And Away) o Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This..Point Or Touch On Positive And Negative LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES o Pace And Lead • Topics and Subjects • Mindset of Frame • Current Reality o Give Them A Reason o Listing " General .) o Easy Anchoring .At the End • Burying Items o More And More o Compare And Contrast o Parts " Parts of a Subject • Parts of a Person o Opportunities And Challenges • Mini Challenges " Opportunities And Challenges o Ambiguities • • • Page 131 . These..

Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way More Advanced Mgt. Positive. and Interesting Advanced Mgt. Fun. Romantic. Fascinating.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course APPENDIX III The Complete Conversational Management Model The Complete Conversational Management Model General Mgt. Seductive SOTXs SOTs The Complete Conversational Management Model Page 133 .

interesting . start over! Page 134 .Fun. seductive things Direct the Conversation Pay attention when Good Subjects come up (SOTXs) Listen for anything a step or two away from an SOT Move towards SOTs Stay there as long as you can Use The Language Tools! As much as possible. Steer towards . Fractionate If you take a wrong turn.. Steer towards ... Especially when at or near SOTXs and SOTs.. positive.Romantic.Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way . fascinating...Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course The Complete Conversational Management Model (continued) Start a Conversation Manage the Conversation Move the Conversation in a Good Direction Steer towards . back up! If you move back to a general topic.

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