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Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course
A structured training program that teaches the language and conversational skills of Speed Seduction .
Speed Seduction is a registered trademark of Ross Jeffries, used with permission.
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course
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Page No. Title Page Legal Notices Table of Contents Product Content Product Protection and User Consent Formatting and Conventions Acknowledgements Forward Registration Important Note About Exercises and Assignments 1.0 INTRODUCTION AND GETTING STARTED i ii iii vi vi vii ix x xii xii 1 D1-T1 Disk and Track No.*
1.2 1.3 1.4 1.5 1.6 2.0 2.1 2.1.1 2.1.2 2.1.3 2.1.4 2.2 2.2.1 2.2.2 2.2.3 2.2.4 2.2.5 2.2.6 2.3 2.3.1 2.3.2 2.3.3 2.3.4 2.4 3.0 3.1 3.1.1
Why Is This Course Needed? What We Will Handle, and How Investing In Yourself, Or Not Can We Change The Way You Speak? Manipulation and Ethics Concerns SPEAKING AND LANGUAGE
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Speaking Pointers 7 The "Cool" Factor 7 Voice Tone and Tonality 7 Pacing and Pausing 9 Energy and Enthusiasm 10 Language Tools and Details 12 Adjectives and Adverbs 12 Trance Words 13 Weasel Phrases 15 Embedded Commands 17 Linking 19 Easy-Linking (This, That, These, Those) 21 More Tools 23 Pointing and Gestures 24 Linking Gestures (Towards and Away) 25 Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This, That, These, Those ...) 26 Easy Anchoring - Point Or Touch, On Positive 27 Review 29 LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES Pace and Lead General Pace and Lead Techniques 31 31 32
* Disk and Track Numbers References to the CDs and the tracks on them are shown in a format such as "D2-T4", which in this example refers to Disk 2, Track 4.
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Page No. 3.1.2 3.1.3 3.1.4 3.2 3.3 3.3.1 3.3.2 3.3.3 3.3.4 3.3.5 3.4 3.5 3.6 3.6.1 3.6.2 3.7 3.7.1 3.7.2 3.7.3 3.7.4 3.8 3.9 4.0 4.1 4.1.1 4.1.2 4.1.3 4.1.4 4.2 4.2.1 4.2.2 4.2.3 4.3 4.3.1 4.3.2 4.3.3 4.3.4 4.3.5 4.4 4.4.1 4.4.2 4.4.3 4.4.4 4.4.5 4.5 4.5.1 4.5.2 Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects Pace and Lead-Mindset Or Frame Of Mind Pace and Lead - Current Reality Give Them a Reason Listing General Listing Listing - At The End Listing - Burying Items Listing, Pauses, and Emphasis.. Listing Review More and More Compare and Contrast Parts Parts of a Subject Parts of a Person Opportunities and Challenges Using Their Own Processes What Do People Want? Mini-Challenges Opportunities and Challenges Ambiguities Summary CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT Challenges Detailed and Specific Plans Are Just Not Workable Navigation Example Navigational Strategies Are Needed She Must Be Engaged In The Conversation! How Conversations Happen Conversational Dynamics Conversational Model Topic Turning Point General Conversational Management Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Want How To Steer Conversations, Moment To Moment The Model With Strategy and Tactics In Place Exercises and Assignments Summary Advanced Conversational Management Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Really Want Steering Conversations Moment To Moment The Model With Advanced Strategy and Tactics In Place Exercises and Assignments Summary More Advanced Conversational Management More About Getting The Conversation To Go Steering Conversations Using More Advanced 33 35 38 39 41 41 43 45 48 48 48 51 54 54 58 61 62 62 63 64 69 69 71 71 71 71 72 72 72 72 73 77 79 79 81 82 83 86 86 86 88 88 91 93 93 93 94 Disk a n d Track N o . * D5-T12 D5-T20 D5-T29 D5-T32 D6-T1 D6-T4 D6-T15 D6-T24 D6-T36 D6-T37 D6-T38 D6-T54 D7-T1 D7-T4 D7-T15 D7-T34 D7-T36 D7-T38 D7-T40 D7-T43 D7-T64 D7-T66 D8-T1 D8-T1 D8-T3 D8-T4 D8-T5 D8-T10 D8-T12 D8-T13 D8-T14 D8-T15 D8-T16 D8-T16 D8-T19 D8-T23 D8-T25 D8-T32 D8-T33 D8-T33 D8-T35 D8-T38 D8-T39 D8-T46 D8-T47 D8-T47 D8-T49
.6.4 4.7. 94 96 96 97 97 98 99 99 99 99 101 101 102 104 109 111 115 115 115 116 116 119 119 119 119 119 119 121 Disk a n d Track N o .3 5. APPENDICES I II III Course "Cheat Sheet" Speaking and Language Tools "Cheat Sheet" The Complete Conversational Management Model 123 131 133 Page v .0 7.6.5. Conversational Fractionation The 1-Shot Beeline Fallacy How Fractionation Works Using Conversational Fractionation Dead Ends Come Back To Life! Conversational Overview and Review Conversational Management Approach What If The Outcome Is Not What You Expected? Summary TOPICS Topics Of Enthusiasm and Passion Seduction Oriented Topics Expanded Seduction Oriented Topics .4 5. EXAMPLES v i e w .7.1 4.7.1 4.1 5. EXAMPLES.6. Do The Exercises.1 6.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Table of Contents (continued) Page No. .0 6.SOTXs Conversational Model With SOTXs The Complete Conversational Model PATTERNS Pattern O v e r Pattern Formula Canned Patterns Pattern Riffing In Real-Time REVIEW AND SUMMARY Review Summary Listen.4 7.2 4.5 6.. .. 4.5 8.7 4. .. .3 5.1 7.2 4.3 4.0 5.6.4 7.2 6.0 The Model With More Advanced Strategy and Tactics In Place. * D8-T52 D9-T1 D9-T2 D9-T3 D9-T5 D9-T6 D9-T7 D9-T8 D9-T9 D9-T10 D9-T11 D9-T14 D9-T15 D9-T24 D9-T32 D9-T33 D10-T1 D10-T1 D10-T7 D10-T12 D10-T13 D10-T18 D10-T18 D10-T26 D10-T27 D10-T28 D10-T29 D11 .3 4.3 7.6 4. and Follow The Course Be Willing and Prepared To Put Energy Into Congratulations! Well Done! EXAMPLES.2 7.3 6..2 5.
CD Location References are shown using terms such as "D3-T5" in the text. a "sans-serif typeface). Text within graphics. graphic captions.At times. Boldface Text . and the Formulas. If the graphic cannot fit there (due to page breaks) then the graphic is placed on the next available page. D3-T5 CD Track References . graphic titles. There are certain conventions used in the formatting of the workbook. The audio is NOT an exact duplicate of the text shown in the workbook. This shows information that could be considered part of an overall "outline" of what the audio presentation contains. Italics are also used to point the reader towards specific content of the audio CDs. . Not every track number is listed. Therefore most of the track references are shown at the start of major sections.Boldface Text is used to emphasize certain text or passages. Italicized Text . and Assignments are all shown using this typeface (Arial. Page vii . and to make it easier to reference those items at a later time. items are presented in a list-like fashion such as this: • Item 1 • Item 2 • Item 3 • Etc.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Formatting and Conventions The following formatting. Graphics are used in the workbook as well.As shown to the right Towards the right margin of section titles and headings.Italicized Text is used for emphasis in many cases where boldface text may by nearby.. there is not an exact place in the book that correlates to the start of each and every track on the audio CDs. The graphics in the latter sections are significant in that they are an essential part of the understanding and leaning. and the italics are simply used as a way to show a different manner of emphasis.that is simply to show a list of related items. Lists . i. Although there are paragraphs of explanatory text. The written text is NOT a transcript.e. or clarity. Usually the graphic is shown on the page immediately following where that graphic is first mentioned in the text. styles. Samples of the formatting and conventions used: Typefaces . these are in most cases presented as a way to augment the content of the audio presentation. Exercises. This shows (for example) the Disk (3) and the Track number (5) that corresponds to that part of the workbook contents. Listen to the audio where an example is presented. and their use is key to many students' understanding of the concepts presented..A majority of the workbook content is shown in this typeface (Times New Roman. and conventions have been developed and are used throughout this transcript/workbook. It is also used for subject headings so that these stand out and apart from the normal text. there may be instances when the conventions are not used for the sake of emphasis. However these conventions are guidelines. The relationship between these two can be best described by considering the workbook text to be (for the most part) an "outline" of what is presented in the audio. or major points in the workbook. A majority of the workbook is presented in an "outline" form. Since the work book is an "outline" and not a transcript. a "serif typeface).
and Assignments are shown inside boxes such as this. Although the difference between Exercises and Assignments is maintained through most of the workbook. there are cases where text boxes may actually "break" across two pages. The number is in the format of "XYZ-A" where "XYZ" denotes the number of the section where the graphic is placed. Although this is not optimal. Text Boxes . This also may result in some page breaks being in places which are not optimal. This may require that a graphic be placed on the next page after where it is first mentioned (instead of being directly below where the graphic is first mentioned in the text). an Exercise may require interaction with other people. Assignments also call for action on the part of the reader. Each Formula is presented in its own "text box" as shown here. it is required in order for the "flow" of the book content to remain consistent. Most exercises can be done alone. Similarly. Exercises are a series of instructions that call upon the reader to do or perform certain actions.1 . but that is a necessity due to the complexity of the book. This is shown below. Page viii . Formula. Exercises. A Formula is a way to present a concise explanation of some item. Assignments usually requier the reader to go out and interact with other person(s) in order to perform them correctly. and the "A" indicates the number of the graphic within a section itself (i. or technique. then that text is shown immediately below the graphic using an indented paragraph such as this. there are instances where the definitions may be clouded to some degree. or maybe and Assignment can be done alone by the student. fact.e. .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Each graphic has a number and a title of some type. -2.If a graphic has text that helps to further explain that graphic. -3) to account for multiple graphics in one section of text.Text boxes are used for very specific purposes in the workbook. Candidate Topics Figure XYZ-1: Graphic Title Sub-paragraph . Page Breaks .The workbook is laid out to minimize the amount of blank space where reasonably possible. For example.
and have opened the door for me to find many ways of self-improvement and understanding.. Working with these clients was especially instrumental in formulating and perfecting the concepts and teaching methods used in this product. and MD. those who have read what I have written. . but I sincerely hope that the results will prove to have made the wait worthwhile. colleagues. and what is possible in their lives. Dave Riker Page ix . Yates Canipe. Ross's developments have lead not only to helping many men with this part of their lives.. the creator of Speed Seduction . DM. Special thanks to my friends. teachers. EVS. associates. opening the door for many into the world of self improvement.insight and teaching that I think is possible. To all of you. / must apologize to some degree for the time it has taken to finish this product. and students (we are each all of these and more) in the TAGR Group. who have placed their trust in me and allowed me the experience of showing them new and wonderful possibilities for what their lives may have to offer. To those in the original SD Lair group.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Acknowledgements The first and foremost acknowledgement goes out to Ross Jeffries himself. and to all of the Students out there who I have met at Speed Seduction® seminars. and this wait may have annoyed a few people. The main reason is that I do not wish to release any product until I believe that I am able to provide the level of quality. who was the business genius that brought Speed Seduction® to the masses through seminars and products. who helped me by allowing me to help them. and for the assistance they provided with this product. I may miss a few sales because of such a delay. MC. To Dr. but have also shown many the way to a new way of living. SM. JL. and those who have entrusted me to teach you and to guide you. most notably Hypnotica. SP. and to help you in finding the Women or Woman of Your Dreams. To the many experts out there who have augmented the SS teachings by showing me other aspects of the mind. and who has also contributed greatly to helping men change their minds about themselves. mentors. To my coaching clients. Thank you. confidants.
some of the most wonderful moments of life are brought about by people. and set forth upon a path to improve this area of his life. is up to him. There are many such men out there. women. in fact. helps to provide these women with an even better choice. As if the interesting. or "compromise". A woman should never "settle". other people. good-natured and well-intentioned man. So. and decide to move forward. and introducing themselves. They just have not been taught such things. or with that special woman of which they have always dreamed. interesting. or the kind of man. and for those women. there are a lot of great men out there who would like to meet interesting women. as well. and sharing experiences with them. most women will be far better off and have much better chances with the kind of men. learn. or don't know how to present themselves in the best way. intelligent. Page x . that I create products such as this. charming men. From that position. Sadly this is most apparent when it comes to men. Whether a man decides to use this information as way to embark upon a period of his life which involves casual romantic interludes. whether this time has any sort of romantic or seductive component or not. It's for these men. They are the ones that really don't know how to introduce themselves. teachings.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Forward One of the most wonderful things about life is the idea of connecting with others. spending time with them. are the ones that really DO look at this area of their lives. I think that is not correct. so that they really may share wonderful experiences of ALL types with women. At least then he will be in a position of choice. and grow. there are a lot of wonderful women out there who would love to meet interesting men. are NOT in short supply. who was simply deprived of an means to "learn about" how to meet and talk with women. Many men through no fault of their own have grown up to be adults and have had little instruction or assistance in a very important area of their lives. Such men. I think that many men. take action. Having many interesting men available. He will be able to decide for himself which he feels is the best option for him. having and sharing experiences with. should somehow not improve himself. And it's a shame for these women to be wanting for their company. she should decide to be with whom she wants to be with by having opportunities. information. They don't know how to keep a woman's interest. that they will want to spend time with as well. I know of many women who are always distraught that they seem to not be able to meet good men. and in many cases the efforts of men to solve this problem on their own have been met by smallminded criticism and slander. Good. the best men. the idea of simply communicating with and sharing experiences with the other half of the human population. Whether that be as friends or acquaintances. and options. or whether a man uses this information as a means to improve his chances of finding one special woman. And I am here to help correct it. for some reason seem to be in short supply. and showing themselves in the best and most honest light. This is so sad. One of the biggest tragedies of life is that there are things. to make an informed choice. The women of the world will be better off in their own way. (and more importantly a LACK of information in some cases) that can prevent such connections and moments from happening. And.
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We will teach you ways to easily manage conversations so that they go in interesting directions. You will have this way of speaking as a PART of who you are and what you can do! Guys need to be trained. to use these language skills naturally as just a part of the way they speak. you can change the way you speak as well. Listen to it. Provide additional explanation of some points that are covered in the audio program. You are already on your way! This course works on many levels.0 1. Instructions for each are provided. you will do so in the future and use these techniques as well. consciously and subconsciously. pay attention. and get the full benefit of everything this course has to offer. Language Skills What works? What makes the successful guys able to use these technologies? Partly it's the ability to actually "talk" in this manner. 1.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 1. seeing what is needed. Some guys don't need this.2 WHY IS THIS COURSE NEEDED? D1-T10 If you are here. and "reprogrammed" in a way. So even this "intro" section is starting to work for you. then on some level. but this will help you if you are not. and what works in the field. This program is based upon experience with countless students. Conversational Skills The ability to manage conversations is needed as well. You are not going to sound like this or talk like this all of the time! Just in the way that you shift and change how you speak now in different situations. Page 1 . Present a series of exercises and assignments. some people do this naturally. The purpose of this workbook is to: • • • Provide an outline of the material covered in the audio program. If you are her "type" you don't need this. If you follow along and do the exercises. This workbook is meant to studied along with a series of audio lectures that are recorded on CDs. These techniques all need to sound and be "natural" to actually be effective. We will be teaching you the detailed language skills that will really help you. and on you as well. along with spaces for written responses where necessary. Welcome to Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course. there is a need.1 INTRODUCTION AND GETTING STARTED OVERVIEW Dl-Tl Welcome and Thanks.
responding. Guys need to be able to just "do this" and "talk this way" in REAL-TIME. Page 2 . so we need to approach this in many ways.Seduction Oriented Topics Patterns and Riffing Examples Dl-Tl5 What Methods Are Used • Describe and explain the details of the techniques • Explicit examples of how the details work • Examples throughout and within the discussions • Examples section at the end. • Things may seem to "repeat". that is important. many times! • In fact we have already started! Where Does This Material Come From • From SS Teachings. but if you are "thinking" too much.. Other parts of the language tools you may have to "think" about. then you are not actually IN the conversation! You need to be engaged in a conversation. some of the ways that you speak now will be reprogrammed so that speaking in a new way will be natural. some things will sound quite familiar. but that's your left brain talking! We are reprogramming many years of your experience.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course You have to be PROGRAMMED to do this so you can have a conversation.3 Major • • • • • • • • WHAT WE WILL HANDLE. • Exercises to develop understanding and skills • Assignments for you to do in the field." Guys need to stop the worrying about "Doing something wrong" It's only "wrong" if you are TRYING to do or be something you are not. listening. not a "trick".Enthusiasm and Passion Topics . but it's really YOU talking! Guys are too focused on "how can I use this" when in a conversation. In a way.. listen. for a while at least. must react to a steady flow of new information without interruption. how it is learned. respond to input immediately . This is a term that will be used throughout this course. • Other teachings about language. Sure. talking. • Working on several "levels" of you mind at once • Models to arrive at an overall understanding • Left brain and right brain are both addressed • Conscious and subconscious minds are both given what they need for real understanding and retention.. AND HOW Topics Speaking Pointers Language Tools and Details Conversational Management Conversational Fractionation Topics . Real Time "Occurring immediately . interacting. and be a part of it. Not inside your head "thinking" about "how can I use this?"! 1. You need to integrate skills to the degree that they ARE a part of who you ARE. and how people speak. so let's define and explain it for you....
and engagement into your effort to really learn and use these materials. In addition. listening multiple times in any setting also has a lot of benefit. or not? There are various ways. and engagement. there IS some overlap and duplication with other products and systems. do the assignments over and over! • Be patient. • Is there an "optimal way" to use the product. You will need them because you will have assignments that deal with these. • Having a good social life will help you. The best way to listen to this course is while also reviewing the workbook (especially in the conversational management sections).4 INVESTING IN YOURSELF. the more you put into it. • Follow along in the workbook if you can • Do the exercises and assignments! • Listen over and over. do it! But please. If you need to make your own copies for use in multiple locations. and this is much easier if you have an active life where you can have many conversations. However. • Listen to other products in conjunction with this product. new. The Ways To Study And Use The Product • Listen to the CDs. and being open to what benefits this program can bring. do the exercises over and over. do whatever you need to do to listen to this course a LOT. Many of the assignments will deal with talking to people. However. • Be prepared to have a place to practice for this course! You will need to be able to speak out loud to do many of the exercises. Applying a structured methodology of step-by-step methods. Changing that will take some time. to give you a real roadmap to actually learn the material. effort. From working with clients and seeing what worked and how they were able to change. If they just "try" it. Is this information. By embarking upon this course. both audio and written materials. • Get that "Mind-Momentum" going to help you change and improve. making it a part of YOU.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • From personal experiences and how I used the materials. Page 3 . and this journey. Other SS products will work well. Be wary of those people who may want to "borrow" a copy. effort. or revised? Yes. However. OR NOT D1-T24 Any real change requires you to make an investment in yourself using energy. and who may "try" to listen to the course. So. The Mind-Momentum Principle At Work • Get energy. a concept that was brought up earlier. the emphasis here is training you to do it for yourself. and a few women's magazines as well. they aren't really putting themselves INTO it. see what works for you. you are doing just that. • This may seem complicated but the point is to get you SO familiar with the tools that you become the guy who does this! Some Very Important Points • Find all of your current SS products and inventory them. the more you will get out of it. keep those copies to yourself. that YOU just DO. We are reprogramming years and years of you "speaking" in a certain manner. but in terms of THEM really being willing and ready to change. Also maybe get a romance novel or two. many of these people will be those negative types of people that will then dispute the benefits of this program! Why? Because THEY have not invested anything into it! Not just in terms of dollars. as assigned or as required. 1. • Get some other written material to work with for this course.
You will end up "memorizing" thing to some degree.by hearing others around you speak! You were IMMERSED in language. where you use the skills in the real world. Most people want to approach this by learning bits and pieces • • That's good in a way. Immersion is the key. 1. some structures. hold you back. will not benefit. Those who are not. kids are taught about language. and you started to form the ability to speak and communicate based upon that! Page 4 . etc. You keep trying to "remember" things. Also progressive exercises. Imagine having to "think about" how to talk. its a memorized "thing". Not as congruent. Then it's about a "performance. And actual assignments. at every moment! Some people want to try to memorize. But that's not how you learned to talk! You learned to talk when you were a child . because it addresses that analytical part of your mind. How People Initially Learn How To Speak • • • • Sure in middle school. consequently. • • • • • • • • This might be good as a learning TOOL. paragraphs.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course People must be engaged in the process to get its benefits. but only indirectly. because you will hear it so much! But a LOT of what is being conveyed here is learning by EXAMPLE. at will Engage in conversation Manage conversations Yes. Don't let their lack of willingness to improve themselves. Plus it's not YOU talking. just being YOU. about grammar. its YOU being YOU! You cannot fail at being YOU! The approach in this course is different. It Is Possible! .5 CAN WE CHANGE THE WAY YOU SPEAK? D1-T26 Is this really possible? This sounds difficult. some models. then its easier. there is no "right" way or "wrong" way.But This Is A Different Type Of Learning. sentences. there is a "right" and "wrong" way to do it! But if you are just TALKING. It's less effective. • • • • • • You will get some details. But it's tough to do that. but to then USE it in conversation is difficult. where you learn skills piece by piece. Can we literally change the way you speak? • • • • • • • How you select words Create phrases Form sentences Pick topics Speak passionately. It makes guys nervous. you heard it. trying to "remember" what to say." So. you heard it in context. you heard it a lot.
where I am just DOING these things all during the program. how you communicate. like when I say "here is an example" Implicit examples. "it's not me" or "I am just using a trick or technique". so that you will have more ability and more flexibility to do what is appropriate MANIPULATION AND ETHICS CONCERNS D1-T32 1. Examples • • Explicit examples. We will have you become familiar with the range of ways of speaking and sounding. deep ethics issues and blocks many guy's success. and be more of WHO YOU ARE. which we go over and over. it's not about throwing something AT her.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course This Course Uses Many Techniques To Train You To Have Workable. trade. more a part of YOU. we will change the way you talk so that it will be easier.6 Many guys have been uncomfortable with using many of these skills. more natural. Page 5 . This causes some real. or craft. Various Training Methods • • We use a lot of repetitive training methods so that these techniques have a better chance of becoming "automatic". Exercises and Assignments to Teach You the Skills • Skills Training like any sport. and who and what YOU are! Using these skills will be less of an "act". based upon feelings that when using them. Real-World Skills. With THIS approach HERE. • Break it down into small parts.
Read several paragraphs. that there is a "fire" beneath the surface. and even goes a bit over-the-top to really help you to understand what is being discussed. something you are interested in. how calm you are. Page 7 . etc. even some of the materials from other products. Too many guys "try" to be cool but actually come off as COLD or even worse.1 SPEAKING AND LANGUAGE SPEAKING POINTERS The "Cool" Factor D2-T1 D2-T1 Guys want to sound "cool". 2. 2) Read some more of that material out loud. but because it's appropriate to the situation. That's the "allure". BORING. but if you really want to work on this even more. We will work on this here in this course. That "cool" feeling comes from being calm and speaking in a relaxed fashion. and this time focus on speaking by generating the sound from within your mouth (or.1 2. 1) Take some of that reading material.1. That's what women like. calm. Your tone of voice really conveys a lot about who you are. Cool does NOT mean to be boring and to put people to sleep while talking! The coolest people are the ones that are FUN to talk to and fun to be with! You don't have to be cold.0 2. to be cool. how they sound. Examples: One way to think of this is to consider "where" your voice is generated from in your body. Why is this important? • Great voice tone conveys comfort. The audio section demonstrates these options quite well.1. reserved. but giving the impression that there IS more. and says a lot about you. and read it aloud. "Cool" comes from being calm and sure of yourself.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. If this is a challenge for you. there are great products and examples of this elsewhere. not out of nervousness. how they make you feel. how interesting you are. Listen as the examples demonstrate: • Speaking through the nose • Speaking through the mouth • Speaking from the chest Exercises for Speaking Pointers Grab some reading material of some type. there ARE products that focus JUST on this area and you may want to invest in those.2 Voice Tone and Tonality D2-T2 Listen to some examples of different tones of voice. focusing on generating your voice from your nose. a sense of being relaxed and calm • It also allows you to express some energy and excitement at different times. and what people like in general. do this for several minutes. This is good as long as it's not BORING. focusing on the back of your throat might make this easier to do).
1) Over the next few days when speaking to anyone. Can you recall how you spoke? Did the way you sound in that situation sound like any of the examples you just did? See the similarity? Assignments for Speaking Pointers These are your first real assignments in the course. really make a note to speak lower.in the real world! To get the most benefit from this course. Relax. and make them a part of who you are. Real-world experience will really help you to not just "know" the skills. but this time really focus upon generating the sound from deep within your chest. it's important that you do what you can to REALLY make a point of doing these assignments. and recall some time in the recent past when you were kind of nervous or fearful. make a note to yourself as to how you are speaking. Also. comfortable. but to actually HAVE the skills. and where you are speaking from (your nose. Focus on dropping your voice down from your nose/mouth. Make notes below as to when it happened.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 3) Now read some of the material. 2) In the next few conversations you have with people. SOUND relaxed. with whom. Make notes below for some of the conversations and see if you can see a correlation between these items. make note of how you felt (nervous. and whether or not you DID it! Day/Time Who you spoke to Situation (Where) Did you DO it? Page 8 . and really focus on having that voice generated from your chest. Assignments are where you are given a real task to go out and do . relaxed-confident). mouth. or chest). See how relaxed it actually makes you feel and how you really need to BE relaxed to do this! 4) Take a moment. where you were. Day/Time Who you spoke to Speaking from? How you felt.
powerful. comfortable manner. Something you are interested in. Focus on reading in a very hurried fashion as if you are very nervous. but go ahead and convey excitement in your voice! 3) Now read some of the material. Why is • • • this important? Correct pacing and speed of delivery conveys comfort. but this time read it slowly. as we discussed in the past section. in a manner that makes you sound as if you are very confused. Being able to vary your pacing and pausing can help a lot to convey a sense of intrigue and create interest. There are many variations: Listen as these are demonstrated • Hurried showing nervousness • Hurried showing excitement • Slow as in hesitant and/or confused • Slow in a way that is deliberate and relaxed Exercises for Pacing and Pausing Grab some reading material of some type. 1) Take some of that reading material and read it aloud. 2. or don't quite understand the content. (Maybe even be aware of where your voice is coming from.1. 2) Read some more of that material out loud.3 Pacing and Pausing D2-T15 Listen to the examples where some various pacing is demonstrated. Read several paragraphs and do this for several minutes. and then far far too slow. and shows that the speaker is relaxed.) Assignments for Pacing and Pausing 1) Over the next few days when speaking to anyone. make a note to yourself as to how you are speaking in terms of your pacing and pausing.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Strategic Formula for Speaking Pointers Use your best tone of voice (speaking from your chest) to convey a relaxed. even some of the materials from other products. Too fast? Too slow? Hurried-nervous? Hurried-excited? Slow-confused? Page 9 . and this time focus on reading in a quick and hurried fashion. relaxed. Speaking too quickly can show tension. deliberate. and charismatic presence. 4) Now read some of the material. but this time read it in a slow. first very very fast. or almost a sense of panic.
. and excitement when appropriate. you get stuck in fewer boring. Page 10 . By doing this. and if you DID it! Day/Time Who you spoke to Situation (Where) Did you DO it? Strategic Formula for Pacing and Pausing Use variations in pace.4 Energy and Enthusiasm D2-T26 Listen to some examples of how this can sound . then you can show more enthusiasm. It's good to have the ability and range to display passion. to convey a sense of drama and intrigue in what you are saying in a way that "captivates" people and makes them want to listen to you. or bored. just make a note of this after-the-fact and write that down below. Who cares? Why does this matter? • Most guys are just TOO BORING. • This also allows YOU to convey how interesting someone ELSE is as well.1. • If someone else is being interesting. Day/Time Who you spoke to What type of pacing and pausing? 2) For the next few days. energy.. If they do or say something that is interesting to YOU. Make note of when. to convey a more relaxed and deliberate manner. YOU can show an appropriate amount of energy and enthusiasm. dead-end conversations. 2. start to focus on changing your pacing and pausing. where. and well-placed pauses.. who.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Slow-relaxed? You don't have to change it yet. YOU act boring. enthusiasm. When someone else is being boring.
Again. other products.. Note how even if the material is something you do NOT care about. Page 11 . Again. taped lectures. their tone. how you listen. their pace. go ahead and SHOW your enthusiasm! Be energetic in how you speak. and BE BORING. your car. that a good speaker can really grab your attention with their energy and enthusiasm. Really pay attention to how they speak.. and how much (or little) energy is conveyed. Watch on either TV. 2) For the next few conversations you have with people where you ARE interested in the subject. 2) Watch and listen to some speakers who use a lot of energy and enthusiasm when they are talking! Really pay attention to how they speak. whatever it is. your work. Read it OUT LOUD in an exciting. 6) Take that earlier written material about the subject that you are NOT interested in and that really bores you. and how much (or little) energy is conveyed. When you respond or talk back. Think as if YOU are convincing a group of people how great this is! Maybe your Dream Job of a lifetime is dependant upon YOU speaking well and showing how passionate YOU are about this! Do that for a good 10-15 minutes. bland voice with no energy or enthusiasm. BE BORING and show no enthusiasm at all.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course The audio section demonstrates more details about sounding boring/bored and also sounding as if you have energy and enthusiasm. 1) Watch and listen to some speakers talk about a boring.. 5) Take that written material that really does interest you. energetic voice. and that are excited about.. etc. women. something you are interested in. and read THAT aloud in a way that DOES show energy and enthusiasm! Make that sound as convincing as #4 above. technical presentations. and read that aloud in a boring. dry topic. go ahead. and how your respond. 4) Get some written material that really DOES interest you. monotone. Assignments for Energy and Enthusiasm 1) Over the next few days. Exercises for Energy and Enthusiasm Grab some reading material of some type. whenever someone is talking about something boring. bland. do that for 10-15 minutes. their pace. Strategic Formula for Energy and Enthusiasm Using energy and enthusiasm when speaking so that people can become energized and enthusiastic about listening to and being with you. their tone. do that for 10-15 minutes. maybe sports. Read it OUT LOUD in a boring. monotone voice. make sure it is something that YOU are passionate about. even some of the materials from . 3) Get some written material that you have NO interest in. which bores you. animated. Do this for a good 10-15 minutes.
Maybe say those adjectives or adverbs and put more energy into those words and emphasize them in some manner. Remember. feelings. Most men could be helped by having more descriptive speech. they are not things that can be measured or specified. Do this for each of the conversations listed above.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. not the logical side of a person. you should be able to do this for at least 3-5 minutes each. boring.1 Adjectives and Adverbs D2-T40 Listen to an example where many of these are used in descriptive language. • Their use must be automatic. and make note of the adjectives and adverbs in it. but this time. talk about each thing or subject again. Who you spoke to Subject 5) Now. use more Adjectives and Adverbs. and the subject you were talking about. Note whom you were talking to.2 LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS D2-T39 These are the Bit And Pieces • These are the sort of things that can be powerful. and uninteresting. Re-live it. because to have to "think about" using them is almost impossible! • You need to be TRAINED TO USE THEM automatically. If you really like this subject. They sound cold. Most guys are too dry in their speech.. movies. and stress the adjectives and adverbs in it..) 3) Read that text OUT LOUD. (Maybe highlight them in some manner. we are working to appeal to the emotions.2. Day. and more ways of talking about processes. add more descriptive terms to it. nouns and verbs. 2. Most Adjectives and Adverbs are qualitative. Adjectives will describe THINGS (nouns). These words modify or in some way describe. while Adverbs will describe ACTIONS (verbs). Page 12 . out loud. 4) Think of three recent conversations you had when you talked to someone about something that you REALLY liked. or they are too factual and leftbrained. whatever. talk about it in a descriptive way. 2) Read it. Examples • Car reviews • Movie Reviews • This course! Exercises for Adjectives and Adverbs 1) Find some written material that deals with something where people are speaking passionately about some subject. Cars. sports. but must be done over and over. and sensations. It's good if YOU are also interested in it.
"paint a picture" with your words.2. Write down what the subject was. Start with just a few of them. b. 3) Practice out loud how you would have said those things in each of the three conversations. 4) The next several times any of those subjects come up in conversation. 2. factual.2 Trance Words D3-T1 Listen to an example where many of these are used. Strategic Formula for Adjectives and Adverbs Use more adjectives and adverbs in your speech to appeal to and excite the emotional side of the listener. make sure to use some of those adjectives and adverbs in your descriptions. or objective manner. and with whom you spoke. Trance words help to "open the person up" so that their subconscious. Day Who you spoke to Subject 2) Write down a few adjectives and adverbs that you could have used in each discussion (refer to a. Trance words are words that "call upon" the subconscious mind in order for them to be processed and understood. so that their feelings. and c above). that you are passionate about. They are not "analyzed" in a conscious. is listening and more engaged in the conversation. Trance • • • • • Word List Instantaneously Suddenly Find Yourself Convince Yourself Suppose Page 13 . emotions. that you really enjoy. their emotional side. Be descriptive. and then maybe add some more as time goes on. Act like you are really having the conversation again. and processes awaken.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Assignments for Adjectives and Adverbs 1) Make note of the next 3 times you are having a conversation which deals with something that YOU are really into.
4) Get your SS audio materials and listen for Trance Words (maybe even THIS course here). see and hear if you can pick out when the speaker is using Trance Words. With that list of Trance Words (above) in hand. Look at the Trance Word List above. and make it more interesting? Well. or school. See how many you can notice. and see how many of those Trance Words you can use. political speakers. Trance Word List 2) Watch or listen to some material where people are speaking passionately about something. See how many you can find and notice how they are used in context. 3) Get out your written SS materials and look for Trance Words (maybe even use THIS course here). Highlight or circle the Trance Words in a few sections. Subject b. sportscasters. Boring Subject Page 14 . that's the point! Exercises for Trance Words 1) Make a full list of Trance Words. like advertisements. placing an emphasis on the Trance Words when you see them. Maybe play one tape or CD. Write them down below. 5) Take the written text from an SS product (maybe from #3 above) and read it out loud. 7) Pick a subject that bores you. 6) Pick two subjects in which you are interested. Now speak OUT LOUD about that subject. but also see if you can add some to the list. You can copy the ones you saw listed earlier. and see if you can pick these out. Doesn't that make it sound kind of "mysterious"? Maybe more exciting? Maybe you can take some normal. Maybe refer to some of your other SS products and see how many more you can find. something that you think is dull. talk about it. work.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • Imagine Mysterious (-ly) Wonder (-ous) (-ously) Think of any subject. talk OUT LOUD about that subject and see how many times you can use those Trance Words! Subject a. almost boring or mundane thing. Looking at the list of Trance Words above. Think for a moment about using those trance words to describe that subject. or religious speakers. even something concrete like your job.
What's it like when .3 Weasel Phrases D3-T14 Listen to an example where many of these are used.2. Subject a.. and using more and more as time goes on.. The next time you are speaking with anyone about those subjects (in the real world guys!). Use them when talking to different people. Subject b.. How do you talk about something without REALLY talking about it? How do you bring something up that may be a bit different. Just do whatever you can to start using some of them at first. more interesting. Page 15 . doesn't that make it-sound more "exciting"..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Even though that may seem a bit strange. and more fascinating? Assignments for Trance Words 1) Pick two subjects in which you are interested.. If you were to . maybe even a bit odd? Maybe even a different topic or change of subject? Or maybe something that you were worried about bringing up. Practice working with those subjects out loud some more and see if you can get even more comfortable using Trance Words when talking about those subjects. If I were to ... As you .. Strategic Formula for Trance Words Using Trance Words will help to get the subconscious mind of the listener to be more of a part of your conversation. • • • • • Have you ever . These also work as transitional phrases. that's what Weasel Phrases are for! Weasel Phrase List (see if you can add to the list by listening to the audio). because it may be a bit too forward? Well. make a point to use at least one of the Trance Words in the conversation. to get from one subject to another.. 2. 2) Integrate a few more of these words into your every-day description of those subjects..
3) Take the written SS materials you had earlier. Maybe play one tape or CD. Maybe pausing for a moment before one. etc. See if you can pick these out. 2) Note the subject that you used earlier for doing some exercises with Weasel Phrases (exercise 4 above). and then use one of the Weasel Phrases and the bring up another "aspect". that it makes more sense. Try it again. and see if you can string things together so that they sound better. Subject Page 16 . the experience of it. the subject might be "going to a ball game" (pick your own. saying one slowly or quickly. don't use that one!) Now talk about one of these 4-5 aspects for 1-2 sentences. etc. and read some of this material out loud. (Weasel Phrases tend to provide ways to connect sentences and paragraphs that talk about how something is felt and experienced. Pick 3 of them that seem the most natural to you. see if you can use some or all of your favorite weasel phrases when talking about it. While doing it. Do this until you use all 4-5 of the attributes that you listed. 5) Did that sound weird? Strange? Ok .. we want you to talk about how it FEELS. after another. This is necessary to have the kind of words and subjects that lend themselves to Weasel Phrases. 4) Pick a subject in which you are interested. and do so with an awareness on some level that you are saying and using weasel phrases when they are in the text. doing it.) Pick 4-5 different aspects of this "experience" that you will talk about. that seem as if they fit best into your way of speaking about subjects that you may like. Talk about THAT one for a few sentences. Take a moment and try to emphasize them in a way. It will get easier.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Exercises for Weasel Phrases 1) Get some of your written SS materials and look for some Weasel Phrases in the text. sensing it. getting into it. For example. but selecting different Phrases to link the aspects together. then use another Weasel Phrase. In a moment.. Just read the SS material out loud. Assignments for Weasel Phrases 1) Look at the list of Weasel Phrases that you wrote earlier. 2) Get your SS audio materials and listen for some Weasel Phrases. The next several times that you talk about that subject with anyone. make note of the weasel phrases. Use different Phrases.
just general things that would cause a person to be interested in something. Subject Strategic Formula for Weasel Phrases Use Weasel Phrases to keep the conversation going. feel.. See if you can pick out embedded commands while listening. or "you want this" (car). Pick something that excites you! Maybe the subject is sports. Write down a list of embedded commands.). Just say this stuff out loud. maybe pausing for a moment before one. Maybe play one tape or CD. "get into it".4 Embedded Commands D3-T25 Listen to an example where many of these are used. 4) Pick a topic that YOU are very interested in. Page 17 . after another. your job. or experience while they are thinking about that subject. Write down things that would make someone interested. Take a moment and try to emphasize them in some way. on some level. when separated from the context. your car. lets say you were selling something to someone. 2) Get your SS audio materials and listen for these. but just general things (feelings or states). or feel a certain way. once. intrigued.2. Again not "you like that color". Make a point to "lean on it" a bit. things you would like a listener to think about. its about multiple usage (bombardment)! Exercises for Embedded Commands 1) Get our your written SS materials (written) and look for embedded commands in a few pages of the text. 3) Take the written SS materials. or more quickly. and where the person's emotions or feelings are somehow active (This "context" issue is discussed later in the product in great detail in Conversational Management sections. "see how fascinated" . and to "soften" the way in which something is said. saying one slowly. Two key aspects of the use of Embedded Commands are often overlooked. and do so with an awareness. While doing it.It's very important that the command be brought up in the context of a conversation that is interesting.It's not just about using one.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Select another subject that really interests you. allowing you to say more (and maybe more provocative things) about a subject. Think of general statements. etc. "get excited". make note of the embedded commands. "this is what you have imagined having for yourself. a place you have traveled. maybe a car.. These are small snippets of words and phrases which. • Context . etc. To make it easy. instead "you like this" (car). Like "feel excited". excited by something. think of it like this. issue a "command" or statement that instructs someone do something. feelings. that you are saying and using embedded commands at the time. These are not to be sexual or suggestive. and incorporate Weasel Phrases into the next several discussions you have about that subject as well. and read some of this material out loud. 2. • Repetition . that you want them to experience.
See how natural you can make them sound. in the context of talking about that subject. make some effort to use some of these commands in the context of a real discussion. work on just saying them and finding a way to bring them up. Page 18 . or maybe it has to deal with your job. out loud. Assignments for Embedded Commands 1) Look at the list of Commands that you wrote and practiced that deal with a subject in which you are interested (exercise 4 above). Maybe it's not a passion or real interest. start using a few of these commands when speaking.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 5) Start talking about that topic out loud. 2) Select another subject that is a part of your life. to create a compelling will on the part of the listener follow you and listen to you. or school. and make it sound natural. just enough to put the emphasis on the command. changing your voice. Write down a list of at least 5 commands that work well in that subject. 6) Do the same thing again. The next several times that you talk about that subject with anyone. but now focus more on "leaning" on the embedded commands a bit. Subject Embedded Commands 3) Practice the use of those commands. but something where being influential may help. Strategic Formula for Embedded Commands Use embedded commands repeatedly and in the proper context. pausing. Start to place some emphasis on the command itself. and with that list that YOU wrote in hand. 4) The next several times that subject comes up in your life. Maybe slowing down slightly. see just how many of the embedded commands in that list that YOU can say! First. that would assist you in being more influential. Maybe you work in sales.
as long as there is good rapport). change in voice tone.2. However. and make this "link" even more effective. etc. Linking Phrases . the linking tools and techniques will add to this. you become more associated with those feelings. on some level. The most common linking phrase/tool that guys think about is the phrase "now with me". For example. she has to actually feel it to some extent. she has to feel it on some level (and she will. when you say "this feeling". 2) Get your SS audio materials and listen for these.While listening to the audio. non-specific. • However. • In order for her to understand the feeling being discussed. while looking at you. make note of where linking is taking place. and then making an ambiguous reference to that feeling using your words. ALL of those possible definitions apply! Then. recall. also "this" and "these" as in "this feeling" of "these feelings". What is this based upon? • When talking. then to the deeper levels of her mind. Maybe play one tape or CD. In some ways. it's easier than you think! Just talking about a subject and getting her to be a part of the discussion. and feel emotions. If she is experiencing these feelings in your presence. and read some of this material aloud. you are talking "about" a feeling or sensation. While doing so.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. "this interest". and getting her to experience. emotions. and talking to you. then on some level that is creating this "link". which is ambiguous (non-exact). Are you talking about the "feeling" she had at some time in the past? Are you talking about the feeling she is having right now? • Because you are using terms like "this". see if you can add more phrases to the list below. and inexact. you speak of "this feeling". and experiences that are being discussed and associate or "link" them to you. you are being ambiguous.5 Linking D3-T42 Linking is a way to take the feelings. will "link" them to you. if you are talking about a great feeling of excitement that a woman has had or is having. "in myself. You can also make reference to "in me". See if you can pick out Linking Phrases while listening.) Page 19 . etc. • • • • • • • Now with me In me In myself with this these this belief these feelings Exercises for Linking 1) Get our your written SS materials (written) and look for examples of Linking in the text. Just to "process" what is being discussed. using some of the techniques that have been discussed in this course (pausing. Take a moment and try to emphasize the linking in some way. which is an ambiguous way of referencing what she is thinking about. 3) Take the written SS materials.
Plus the next section will make this much easier! Strategic Formula for Linking After getting someone to experience good feelings and emotions. where you listed "feel excited".) For example. Start talking about that topic out loud. Assignments for Linking No separate assignment for this. it's much better if picked up along-the-way. but now focus more on "leaning" a bit on the Linkage Phrases. work on just saying them and finding a way to bring them up. etc. Doing linking in an exercise like this is difficult and hard to make it sound "natural". pause. Another example would be to take the phrase "Get excited" and turn that into "get excited by THESE things".4). this will come to you much more easily. and see if you can "add" text to each to link them to you in some way.2. Page 20 . A quick way of doing this is to simply add "this feeling". Write down the list of commands and an associated linkage phrase for each below. That's ok.4). "this person or thing". (Again.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4) Take the list of embedded commands that you created in an earlier exercise (Exercise #4 in section 2. This may seem strange and sound a bit "off". and using the list above. "these feelings". you could say "feel excited by this" or "feel excited now" (you can also link things by putting in a reference to NOW). 6) Now do the same thing again. see just how many of the Embedded Commands and Linkage Phrases that you can use in your dialog. First.2. Maybe slow down slightly. the linking is ambiguous and doesn't reference you directly. You can even add the ever-popular "now. just enough to put emphasis on the Linkage Phrase. with me" after one of more of the commands in your list. As you hear more and more examples of this throughout the course. In some manner. This will sound easier for you as we go on. Embedded Command Linkage Phrase 5) Pick a topic that YOU are interested in as we did before (it can be the same one you used in Exercise #4 in section 2. link them to you so that YOU become something and someone that they feel good about. or change your voice.
for that multiple-instance bombardment that we spoke of before! The idea of linking wild. who cares? Well these are almost interchangeable! You can switch this/that in sentences as you wish. but that will be quite obvious when you try to do that).Non-Possessive (seems to reference something "else" or something "away") Consider these and those. This and that tend to refer to singular items. or not there at the time. one "thing". • This person. These. those feelings • These sensations. with you. there are times when they cannot be switched.Possessive • Those . and "that" is not. they reference a "thing". but do so in a general manner. use the possessive form when saying or talking about ANYTHING POSITIVE and use the non-possessive form when saying anything negative! Page 21 . and included. that direction • This feeling. In this case. This means they are ambiguous! Consider this and that. that person • This direction.Non-Possessive For example. (In some cases.6 Easy-Linking (This.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. So. that sensation They differ though in that "this" seems possessive. and one is not. those people • These directions. Consider four words in the English language: • This • That • These • Those These are forms of pronouns. in general. • These people. these and those are plural • These .2. seductive feelings to you may be great but. This is a new and very effective way to do linking that is easy to learn and master. those sensations So.Possessive (sort of "includes" something) • That . Whereas "that person" refers to someone "away" some "other" person who is not in the immediate area. a GREAT strategy is to link anything and everything positive to you (and link negative things away from yourself. So. that feeling • This sensation. with "these" being the possessive form. For example. and it can be done a LOT. "this person" tends to sound like the person that is there. Those) D4-T1 Listen to an example where many of these are used. those directions • These feelings. Given that one type is possessive. so you are not using a name or specific reference. That. this & that are singular • This . these refer to plural items. exciting.
Use "That" and "Those" when referring to anything negative. out loud. and those depending on whether the item is positive or negative. for a good ten minutes. Exercises for Easy-Linking 1) Say the lines below. Those people are not. write a small sentence for each. That person is not. and the correct form of This. That. Write down (below) ten attributes. For each of these attributes or things. or singular/plural. Those Page 22 . This is good. or "things about" that subject. using the correct versions of That. These. 2) Say the lines below. This person is good. you have discussed a subject (and written a lot of text about it) that is important to you. These are good. for a good ten minutes. Subject: Attributes or "things about" that subject. These people are good. Small sentence that includes that attribute. That. out loud. Those are not.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • This That These Those Singular possessive Singular non-possessive Plural possessive Plural non-possessive Anything Anything Anything Anything Positive Negative Positive Negative You can learn to do this (to choose which of these words to use) in real-time through training! Tactical Formula for Easy-Linking Use "This" and "These" when referring to anything positive. These. ' 3) Earlier in the workbook. That is not.
D4-T13 Page 23 . and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. and then write a small sentence for each. That.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4) Talk out loud about that subject for a good 5-10 minutes. and the correct form of This. and Those. These sections help to train you in these types of techniques. Subject: Attributes or "things about" that subject. and once again. Great speakers use movement to their advantage.3 MORE TOOLS D4-T12 Now we are getting into a different area. using the appropriate form of This. Small sentence that includes that attribute. That. and their movement becomes a part of their communication. These. list ten attributes or things about that subject. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. These. Anchoring Anchoring is associating a feeling or emotional state to a sensory experience. beyond the small bits and pieces of language. 5) Pick another subject. 2. Those 6) Talk out loud about the subject mentioned above for a good 5-10 minutes.
maybe a motivational speaker. Use your hands to accentuate certain points. Get your hands OUT of your pockets and AWAY from your body! Act excited. towards. They may be a bit over-the-top (speaking to an audience is different than speaking one-on-one) but just watch them for a while. and that are very very easy to do. talking about a subject that YOU are interested in. We will break down many of the component parts of this into skills that we will teach you bit by bit. Watch how they move. etc. 2. to help make their point. Pick something YOU are interested in. How often are they in your pockets? How often do they just lie by your side and never move? Make note of this after-the-fact. embedded commands. political speaker. and then we can work on deliberate movement such as • Pointing towards and away from things • Towards yourself and away from yourself Exercises for Pointing and Gestures 1) Find a good speaker on TV. have energy. so that the use of these becomes automatic. make note of where your hands are when speaking. so these techniques discussed here will help. Subjects Page 24 . and way from your sides. Move! We will start by generating SOME movement. Most guys are too boring and too reserved when talking. or even a preacher.1 Pointing and Gestures D4-T14 Good speakers use their hands. after the conversation has ended. passionate. and some gestures. and to do multiple times. Don't flail about wildly. etc. and away from yourself. How to • • • do this: Get your hands out of your pockets. Assignments for Pointing and Gestures 1) For the next few days. and that you end up talking about with people quite often. BE excited! Use your hands and arms for emphasis. etc). 2) List 3 subjects that you really enjoy. down. 2) Get one of the text lists from an earlier exercise (weasel phrases. and that you are passionate about. and hopefully the conversations are interesting. Then later on see if you can start to become aware of what your hands are doing WHILE you are in the conversation. However we will focus on things that can create a LOT of effectiveness.3. point up.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Many different types of anchoring can be done and we are only going to cover some very basic tools. Read some of that text (from an earlier exercise) out loud.
These. These. using the appropriate form of This. Subject: Attributes or "things about" that subject. D4-T13 Page 23 . and Those. and then write a small sentence for each. Small sentence that includes that attribute. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. That. That. 5) Pick another subject. and their movement becomes a part of their communication. These sections help to train you in these types of techniques. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. and once again. and the correct form of This.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4) Talk out loud about that subject for a good 5-10 minutes. list ten attributes or things about that subject. Anchoring Anchoring is associating a feeling or emotional state to a sensory experience. Those 6) Talk out loud about the subject mentioned above for a good 5-10 minutes. beyond the small bits and pieces of language.3 MORE TOOLS D4-T12 Now we are getting into a different area. Great speakers use movement to their advantage. 2.
This technique allows you to do this many many times. Good. gesture. ANYTHING. towards.2 Linking Gestures (Towards And Away) D4-T22 This is a fast and easy way to link positive states to you.) 2) Grab some of your written SS materials. and accentuate what you are saying in order to be more compelling as a speaker and to get even more attention from your listener or audience. 3) With these three subjects in mind. recall a recent time when you had such a discussion. just start to MOVE. Bad. Do something. no need to WILDLY gesture! • You can do this many many times.. motion. gesture. and when anything negative is mentioned. Say the following out loud while gesturing in the correct direction: Good. but this time use your hands. make a point to get your hands OUT of your pockets. etc. Strategic Formula for Pointing and Gestures Move. point towards yourself. Read that out loud. or at least be able to move. and AWAY from your sides and MOVE when talking about these subjects.). away. 2. Exercises for Linking Gestures 1) Stand up. and send Negative things away • You can point towards or away from yourself. point or gesture towards yourself. Do your best to re-enact that discussion (say what you said. away. Page 25 . and to send negative things "away" from yourself. and the repetition works for you! • Can do in various contexts. Tactical Formula for Linking Gestures Whenever you say something negative. Bring Positive things toward yourself. very easily. arms. and MOVE! Do this out loud.3.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course For each of these subjects. and animate to some extent the next time you talk about them. As you get more comfortable with this. Bad (gesture towards. and MOVE. point or gesture away.. Whenever you say something positive. many people move when talking This technique is most powerful when used at a time when emotions and/or imagination are engaged in the conversation. make a note to go ahead and move. etc. and every time something positive is being talked about. and others. point away. • Or hold your hand away from yourself (to send things "away") How to use it • Good to do in the context of being a person that already MOVES when talking! • Make this subtle. or • You can place your hand on your chest or abdomen in a subtle manner (to link things to you) .
and MOVE. but this time when you are speaking of anything good or positive. or at least sit where you can move. point away. Linking Gestures and Easy-Linking together: • • • Use the pointing/gestures on Positive and Negative things (point towards and away). Point to you Negative statement. (yes. and every time something positive is being talked about.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Remember the text we used in an earlier example here in the workbook? Read that out loud. have energy. That. When you say These or Those. That. etc. Subjects Do your best to re-enact that discussion.. 2) With these three subjects in mind. Say "that". Do the following out loud: Page 26 . and that you end up talking about with people quite often. start with a few. These.3. passionate. etc. These. point towards yourself and when anything negative is mentioned. but you don't have to do it every time! That will seem strange! Tactical Formula for Easy Linking Expanded Positive statement. Point away. and hopefully the conversations are interesting. Pick something that YOU are interested in. recall a recent time when you had such a discussion. Exercises for Easy Linking Expanded 1) Stand up. Assignments for Linking Gestures 1) List 3 subjects that you really enjoy. Point to you Negative Say "those". Conversely. Say "these". points towards yourself. Point away Positive statement.3 Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This. Do this out loud. motion away or place your hands/arms away.. Those . gesture towards yourself or place your hand(s) on yourself. Say "this". 2.) D4-T30 Now we bring together Linking Gestures and Easy Linking. make a note to go ahead and use these Linking Gestures to some extent the next time you talk about them. Start subtle. when anything negative is mentioned. For each of these subjects. This is veryeasy to do over and over for that repetitive effect. Those" correctly Combine these and use them at the same time! When you say This or These. point away. Use "This. say what you said. it will become easier and easier. these can be the same as the last set of assignments).
etc.Point or Touch. Use the correct versions of This. we are doing that already by pointing "towards" on positive things and "away" on negative things using Linking.4 Easy Anchoring . It may be good to anchor feelings. a realization. trying to add in more instances of This. but actually. That. specific states. That. it's more difficult.) with Easy Linking (using This. Can we apply this to anchoring? Yes! • We need a way to do some basic anchoring that is very simple.3.. and emotions to yourself. the more effective it tends to be. The more that "emotions" are being accessed. These. touch them • they smile. Point away. touch them • they seem to go into a pleasant state. Point back to yourself and say "these". Page 27 . Those in the correct ways) to associate even more positive feelings. If you are head-on directly in front of a person. or when the person you are talking to goes into a Positive state. and say "this". On Positive D4-T35 Let's look at anchoring in light of the 80/20 rule (where 80% of the results come from 20% of the effort). and Those if you can. But to get even more effectiveness when anything positive happens. it's good to be close enough (within arms-length) so that the "touch" is easy to do. a laugh. touch them This is best done in a "moment" with some emotion. These..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Point to yourself. you are anchoring them in a subtle way. That. and thoughts to you but in a general sense. and able to be done many many times. it's very useful to Anchor anything and everything positive to you! In some ways. it will become automatic. and say "that". states. Practice it enough and in connection with earlier exercises. an expression. Do this in a way that maybe makes it seem like you are doing it for emphasis. 2. Point away and say "those" Repeat! This WILL help to train you! 2) Remember the text we used in an earlier example? Speak that text out loud. These. and away when negative. Strategic Formula for Easy Linking Expanded Combine the use of Linking Gestures (towards yourself when positive. touch them! This "Easy Anchoring" works in any context: • they laugh. This is more easily done if you are standing at the side or at an angle. and Those. while pointing towards or away from yourself in the correct manner. Also.
and the situation or topic being discussed. maybe pat on the back.) Maybe a handshake Maybe a pat on the back Maybe a funny gesture Make a note of the person.. A laugh A moment of recognition or realization When someone starts talking quietly. Also note the degree of eye contact. just a touch. See if you can recall how it was. you grab their upper arm as well. This is the same type of thing. but in many cases.. • Think about when you greet a friend. laugh. and note to yourself the correlation between how long the touch lasted and the level of rapport. intrigue.. such as. but a bit more "deliberate". What do you do? You shake their hand. Person '" Situation. Page 28 . (Not romantically. maybe someone who you have heard about). directly to you. Exercises for Easy Anchoring 1) Think about the last 5 times where you touched someone in this type of way. etc. Write those down. also make a point to make and maintain eye contact as well. 2) Spend some time looking for moments (positive ones) where a touch would be appropriate. a smile. • Think about when you meet and are introduced to someone. make a point to hold it just slightly longer than usual. • When joking with someone. Tactical Formula for Easy Anchoring When the person you are talking with displays a positive feeling of some type. vividly.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course You probably do this already in certain situations. or Topic being discussed 2) Recall those 5 times. Assignments for Easy Anchoring 1) The next several times you shake someone's hand. without really thinking about it. you just touch his or her upper arm or upper back. touch them to help anchor it to you. interest. but yet have some degree of rapport already (maybe this is a friend-of-a-friend.
but as you notice these moments.. Fast • • • Pause o Energy And Enthusiasm • Passionate or Boring? LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS o Adjectives And Adverbs • Be descriptive o Trance Words • Instantaneously. Suddenly. that a touch is appropriate. • SPEAKING POINTERS o The "Cool" Factor • You don't have to be cold. o Easy-Linking • This. Those Page 29 . That. Mouth. These. Those MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures • Move! Point! o Linking Gestures • Towards And Away o Easy Linking Expanded • Pointing With This. when you have the chance. That. and movement skills that will be used later in the course. 3) Now that you have started to notice these "moments" where a touch would be appropriate. 2.4 REVIEW D4-T46 We are well on our way. You are noticing this after-the-fact. language. and you have already learned a LOT of the detailed speaking. to be cool o Voice Tone And Tonality • Nose.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course At first.. anchoring and associating yourself to positive and intriguing feelings in other people helps to make them feel positive towards and intrigued by you. Chest o Pacing And Pausing • Slow. DO IT! Strategic Formula for Easy Anchoring In general.. o Embedded Commands • Can you do this now. o Linking " with me. maybe you don't touch them. think "I could have touched them THEN".. Find Yourself o Weasel Phrases • If I were to . we want you to actually DO IT! So. Then.. in-the-moment. see if you can have at least 5 instances of knowing. These.
and later to Conversational Management techniques.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o Easy Anchoring • Point Or Touch On Positive And Negative With these parts behind you. Page 30 . we will move onwards to work on Language Structures.
Can you just knock someone into agreeing with you? Can you be that bold? Yes. Fast and abrupt changes . you might bring up a new way of looking at it. Challenges • Can't you just bluntly offer a different view? Yes. the sort of things that you need to get used to doing automatically. and then take them in some direction.. Are they useful and possible? • • • Trying to knock or jar someone into a different direction or way of thinking can be risky. Now we are moving "up" a level.. 3. Don't argue! . and more influential in general. you might make comments (some that agree and some that may not) but the key is that you are "Taking part in" the conversation and topics at hand. You might disagree. be able to just "do". things that you should not even have to really "think about". all of the time. or to try to "impress" them. You almost NEVER impress people that way! To pace/lead well. move with them conversationally for a while. etc. The minute you do anything like that to get someone else's "approval". It can mean this.. you are lost.. or "bigger chucks" as we say..0 LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES D5-T1 We have been working on bits and pieces of language. acknowledge what the other person is saying.1 PACE AND LEAD D5-T2 Pace and Lead . incorrect. move them . These techniques give you ways to use and arrive at languaging in a manner that will make you more persuasive. Changing Topics and Subjects . then and give them another way of looking at it.. it's best to meet or join someone in some way. These were tactical details. o That's one way to see it o I understand your point Page 31 • • . For example. Changing the Viewpoint or Frame if Mind . however you can break rapport.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3.. telling someone they are wrong.Some people misunderstand and think that to "Pace" means to "agree".. but agreeing is just a special case. but you need a lot of power to do it and you risk breaking rapport. You MAY be able to do that. show understanding (does not have to be agreement necessarily) and then . Pace and Lead allows us to "join" someone.Can you just abruptly jerk a conversation towards where you want it to go? Maybe. into higher-level stuff.A way to change directions • In someone's way of thinking • In the conversation To make a change in direction in some manner. towards where you want things to go. but will hopefully at some point. To "Pace" means to just BE a part of the conversation. but you must do so powerfully and do NOT look for "acceptance". say things such as. Agree or not agree? . but you can break rapport in the process.Some people try to display higher knowledge or value by "arguing".
as if you "need" their approval. acknowledgement. • Alright.. I get it. and/or interest.. The point here is not to memorize these "lines". if you attempt to do that.. it makes YOU look bad.) • Yes.BE IMPRESSIVE! People really don't like to be proven dumb or wrong! Most people are offended or "put off by such attempts. a way that you want. what you are saying is .. Arguing! Many smart guys study these techniques and technologies.. • Well.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o o That's interesting I see what you are saying. 3.. Then start to move or shift things in a different way.. Let them know you are listening and understand (using wording such as shown below.. Tactical Formula for Pacing and Leading Show agreement. So.. Strategic Formula for Pacing and Leading Pacing and Leading allows you "be" in the conversation for a while and gain rapport and information.. To TRY to IMPRESS is bad. have you thought about this . Let me make sure I understand . Ok. I read/saw/heard the same thing .. the implication is that you NEED someone's approval. In addition. • Ok .. but to really get a sense of being IN the conversation. That hardly ever works. So if I understand this .1..... or.. and then moving things forward in some manner. Then start to direct things in a different way . showing that you are a part of it.. Impressing someone with your knowledge... Instead . understanding. and some of then want to go out and "impress" people with their newfound knowledge...it's like this... .1 General Pace and Lead Techniques D5-T9 Here are some examples of ways to do these steps with example wording for each. I also think you can see . I see • That's interesting • I get it • Hmmmmm ..... Maybe • • • • • • continue showing an understanding or interest So what you mean is .. allowing you to move things more in your favor later on. Page 32 .
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I hear you, and what else is interesting is .... •-. That's a good way of looking at it, something else that is important is ....
The Formula for Pacing and Leading is ... acknowledge and then start to shift things ... Maybe you want to shift things more and/or bring up another issue or viewpoint entirely (or maybe you actually disagree) • That's one way of looking at it, however I think ... • Yes, I understand, I have also heard ... • Ok, that makes sense, another way of thinking about it is .. • Alright, but on the other hand... Some general methods you can use to introduce the "leading" aspect, you can talk about... • What you know, believe, understand • What a friend or colleague has said • What you heard • What you read • etc. 3.1.2 Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects D5-T12
Lets say you find some people talking about a topic. Do you walk up, interrupt, and start an entirely new topic? No. (Well, you can, but that takes a lot of power and has a lot of risk.) A better way is to enter the conversation, talk about it (Pace), and then move the conversation into areas that you want it to go (Lead). Examples: • You are in a conversation and the topic is cars. People are talking about prices, loans, etc. You acknowledge what is being said, contribute to that conversation (pace), and then start to bring in the idea of how a car handles, how it feels, and how exciting it is to drive certain cars (lead). • People are discussing clothes, various brands, types, etc. You talk about that with them (pace) for a while, and then start to bring up the idea of how clothes make you feel, how you feel differently when wearing different things ... etc (lead)
Tactical Formula for Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects Show agreement, understanding, acknowledgement, and/or interest in the topic or subject. Then start to move or shift topic or subject in a different way, a way that you want.
Exercises for Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects 1) Think about some recent conversations you have had with people about different topics, hopefully these conversations and/or this topic is something that occurs a lot for you (based on interests you have, people you know, etc). Recall a specific "moment" in each conversation. Note what was being discussed, and what point was being talked about. Make a note of each of them. Also note, where did that actual conversation go next?
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course What were you talking about in this "moment"?
Conversation with whom?
Where did it go next?
2) Pace and Lead Gently Out loud, practice as if you were talking in each of the discussions above, and paced the conversation and topic, and then lead it in some direction. In this exercise, simply show agreement, understanding, and/or interest, and then lead in the same general direction. Maybe bring up a new example, new point, new issue, but just sort of "take over" the conversation. 3) Pace and Lead in a New Direction Next, for each of those instances, provide an example where you show agreement, understanding, and/or interest, but now start to "move" things in a new direction. Maybe the conversation that you had started at this one "point" and went in a specific direction ... Now, for this exercise, practice taking it in a new and different direction. Maybe introduce a different aspect of the topic or subject, something not mentioned before, or not normally talked about. The key is to first show agreement, understanding, and/or interest and THEN do this "shift", and you LEAD things in a different way.
Assignments for Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects 1) Make note of three conversations that you tend to have with people on a regular basis. Person or People Subjects we discuss
2) The next times these conversations happen, make a point to "Show agreement, understanding, and/or interest" (Pace). Then "Then start to move things" (Lead) in your own way, Do this by introducing a different aspect of that topic, or a related topic/subject. Don't make this shift or change really abrupt or different, just make a point to sort of "direct" where things move, even if that direction is close to where it was going anyway. Just make sure YOU are the one that moves it. Note the text and examples given earlier as a way to do that. 3) Once you can do the above, now make a point to have your "Lead" incorporate a real change of some type.
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Normally, even without your input, the conversation tends to go in a certain way. The earlier exercise had you just keep thing moving in that same direction. Now you are to "take" the conversation somewhere else towards a different or related topic. Just introduce a new aspect of the topic, a different thing, a different direction, so that you are really "leading" where things go. Remember the language that you were shown earlier. Use languaging like... You know what ELSE is interesting You know what * l * have found (seen, felt) Another way of doing this would be .. You know what ELSE can happen ... is ...
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You can change the way people look at things, their mindset, and their "frame of mind". For example, imagine you are having a discussion and people are talking in a certain "frame of mind" (not directly, it's just their way of seeing things). The point here is to acknowledge that frame, and then introduce another way of seeing things, another "frame", or another "mindset". What is • • • • a "frame"? In general it's ... A way someone "sees" something. What it "means" to them. The way they "feel" about it. The significance or meaning that it has.
Looking at the formula for Pace and Lead, you apply that by first acknowledging the current Frame, and then start to lead by bringing up another way of thinking about it and/or looking at it. You bring a new "frame" into the discussion. (This is a way of shifting that way people LOOK at things, the significance that it has, or their mindset regarding certain topics or behaviours). In the earlier example of Pacing and Leading of Topics and Subjects, we were talking just about a thing, a topic, or subject. Now we are talking about a feeling, or the way things are "seen" or what they "mean". For example, people may be talking about: • Taking risks • Feeling good or bad • Having a good day or a bad day • Making choices • What an event "meant" to them • How someone else actions affected them • How a decision affected them. There is a "frame" (of mind) behind each of these discussions and with proper technique, that frame and mindset may be changed. Look back at the "Methods" section earlier for some details and examples of how to introduce this pacing and leading (there are some lists of languaging examples provided). Examples: • You enter a conversation where people are talking about risks, Risks at work, risks in finances, risks in life. You Pace by discussing this for a while. The frame or mindset here is that risks are bad, dangerous,
and the "frame" that was in use. the people. Exercises for Pace and Lead . she talks about what their professions are. then lead in the same general direction. a new meaning.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course have consequences.Mindset or Frame of Mind 1) Think about some recent conversations you have had with people about different topics. and how anyone of quality . The way they "feel" about it. looks for more. Then start to move or shift the frame by introducing another way of looking at things.. weight. and then lead it in some direction. and paced it. who is like 5 lbs overweight. What it "means" to them. understanding. understanding. etc). and/or interest in the mindset or frame of mind ... the viewpoint. You agree on some level (pace) and chat about that. Page 36 . The frame you are bring up is how superficial it is to judge based on numbers and details.. and/or interest in the Mindset or Frame of mind. or provide a relevant example.. now its being framed as exciting). some risks make you feel alive. Recall a specific "moment" in the conversation. then start to move into talking about how men do this as well.. Then you start to lead by bringing up the idea that some risks are fun and interesting. In this exercise simply Show agreement. some risks have good rewards. (You are shifting her frame so that she may start to look at different things in men. etc. • Another conversation has a woman talking about what she looks for in men.. and you are working to change the way she screens out guys. With whom? Topic? Mindset / Frame of Mind 2) Pace and Lead Gently Practice as if you were talking in that discussion. what point was being talked about. and what "kind" of man she likes (height. The frame here is that she has her "standards" and that this is good for her. Towards a way that you want. What was the "frame". (Risk was framed as dangerous. Just sort of "take over" the conversation. Maybe bring up a similar way of looking at it.) Tactical Formula for Pace and Lead . Note what was being discussed. etc. the frame of mind or mindset is the focus here. where the point of the discussion in that moment was: The way they "see" something.Mindset or Frame of Mind Show agreement. the assumption? What is the frame of mind behind the viewpoints that they had? Write down the topic. Again. Make a note of each of them. Do this OUT LOUD. acknowledgement. or may be perfect but with the wrong hair color (lead). some men will just "write off a woman that is a certain size...
understanding. make a point to "Show agreement. The key is to first Show agreement.Mindset or Frame of Mind 1) Make note of three conversations that you tend to have with people on a regular basis. and HE is the one with the limitation someone complains about work and the managers. Maybe acknowledge and then bring up an opposing view. Do this by introducing a "way of looking at it" that is similar to the one that is already being used. A good way to do it is to show agreement and understanding. understanding. Don't make this really abrupt or different. and says they are cheap. Then "start to move things" (Lead) in your own way. Assignments for Pace and Lead . Basically. for each of those instances. Do this OUT LOUD for each example. what it "means" that is not really in agreement with what was said. you are just acknowledging the Mindset or Frame in this example. but just make a point to sort of "direct" where things move. and/or interest" (Pace). and you LEAD things in a different way. provide an example where you Show agreement. etc someone looks at a political issue. some way. to find a positive way of looking at the situation. and makes assumptions (has a certain frame) about people or groups. and their motivations etc. Maybe bring up a different viewpoint or way of looking at it. a frame of reference. or something someone said. but really his mindset is the problem someone talks about wanting something different. and/or interest. Maybe bring up a way of looking at things that is totally different. Page 37 . or something you heard or read. and THEN do this "shift". and/or interest in the Mindset or Frame of Mind but now start to "move" things in a new direction. maybe even limiting beliefs or beliefs that really hold them back. These should be of a type where THE "frame" or mindset is something of which you are aware. and maybe point out a similar example from your own life. understanding. and they are the one not taking risks someone is prejudiced or judges other people. Maybe find a way. Write down these subjects. Examples: someone complains a lot. With whom? Subject/Topic? Mindset / Frame of Mind 2) Pace and Lead Gently The next times these conversations happen. and the frame associated with each. Think about discussions where YOU can see that these people involved are working on a certain set of assumptions.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 3) Pace and Lead in a New Direction Next. even if that direction is close to where it was going anyway.
3.. another way of looking at it is . but it can work well and adds to the power of the languaging. A friend of mine used to feel the same way and they. A "safe" way to do this would be to find a positive way to look at the situation. Some ways to do that is by saying things such as. Just introduce a new frame.... • At least it's not like XYZ. using words such as) o As you are ... o While you see . o After you have . (for example... This is a small-chunk detail and technique.. there was a certain "frame" being discussed. What is done here is that you Pace based on something that is obvious (obvious in their "current reality").. or used by very powerful speakers. and new way of looking at things. o While you think . and/or express what is on their mind. o As you realize . Meaning... or assumed by the people involved. and then use that to lead someone somewhere.... Well.. a new aspect of "what it means".... a new mindset.. o As you see . The general way to approach this is: • Start by pacing something that is obvious about their current reality . Continue to Pace by maybe stating an obvious point about their current reality o seeing XYZ o feeling XYZ o thinking about XYZ o etc.. o You are probably wondering Page 38 • • .. now make a point to have your "Lead" incorporate a real change of some type.. even without your input..... This may be different from the way the subject or belief WAS framed or thought of.. o While you are .Current Reality D5-T29 If you look at the languaging used in things like hypnosis.. these techniques are used a LOT. it could be .1. "Pace" their mindset.. You know. focus on the Mindset or Frame. The earlier exercise had you just sort of "run" with that.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Pace and Lead In a New Direction Once you can do the above.4 Pace and Lead . o While you are . Now you are to "take" the conversation somewhere else and bring up a new mindset or frame of mind.. point towards a specific Mindset or Frame that is of YOUR choosing.. it might not be that bad.. and allow the conversation to continue with the same frame of mind in place. o etc. o As you feel. but just find a positive way to look at what is being discussed. Again.
. o another thing you will see/feel/notice is . Page 39 .. Warning . what you are hearing. "as you are watching this presentation . it starts to become annoying to the listener. etc...Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • o As you are thinking about o I know you are concerned about o The issue that may be on your mind is o The question you may have is Begin to lead ..Current Reality 1) Listen to this section again. Rewind or go back a few tracks. and do.Pacing Reality too much can seem arrogant... the more it will "sink in". o state what you want them to see/feel/hear/realize Examples: • As you are listening to this program . then you are probably wondering . Studies have been done with persuasive language that show that giving a reason will make people more apt to do things for you and agree with you. The more you hear this. o notice what its like as .. what you are reading..... Point them to where you want to lead them ." • Physical demos use this a lot....2 GIVE THEM A REASON D5-T32 Give someone a reason for someone to listen ..... 3. o you will then .". thoughts." • You will hear a LOT of this in this course (which is part of your re-programming!) Tactical Formula for Pace and Lead ... you will begin to notice this . • You are talking to someone at work ... Really pay attention and see how many times I have done pacing and leading in this manner.... what you are thinking. Make note of how many times I have paced your current reality. and "As that feeling builds.Current Reality As (while ) you) are "X" (Pace) Where "X" is something that is true in their current reality (perceptions... o you will start to notice o you may realize o you may start to think o you may see how ....) • Then you will "Y" Where "Y" is something you want them to experience (Lead) Exercises for Pace and Lead . If you spend too much time saying things similar to "I know what you are thinking". "As you feel this.
• You are talking to someone and you would like to pull her aside and make the conversation more private. requesting something. However. Write these down. just providing a reason. but put in a reason of some type. Page 40 . if you say "Is it ok if I make copies next. it just helps to make people more agreeable (and there are statistics to support that as well). or asked someone to do something. However. It could be asking for coffee. or at least people that are not close friends of yours. If you just say. remarkably. the addition of this small "reason" will make people much more agreeable and apt to let you do what you would like. come up with another reason. asking "can I pay by credit card".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Don't worry about "losing your power" or being too "nice". and out loud. You are not being apologetic or anything. This technique does not provide a 100% guarantee. Tactical Formula for Give Them a Reason Request X because (of) Y Exercises for Give Them a Reason 1) Make note of the last five times you asked someone for something. anything. they may go with you. you don't need to be concerned about these things. lets move over there". 3) Go through the same list again. then it may be difficult to get people to agree. Assignments for Give Them A Reason 1) Make note of five routine situations that you have in your life where you are asking for something. if you say "Let's move over there because it's more quiet" you will be amazed at how much more agreeable the person may be. The examples will be better if these are people you do not know. If you say. "hey. Write these down. because I am really in a hurry" then. "Is it ok if I make copies next". Person What did you ask for? 2) Practice out loud how you might "ask" for that favor or make that request again. Examples: • You walk up to a copier at work and there are three people in line.
or make a point. • Training for sales people use this quite a bit. • When you give several reasons at once. "List" several things or examples which support your point. • For the sake of a conversation. the items that you will "list" need to be brief points. provide several. or giving an example. 3) The next times these situations come up in your day-to-day life. go ahead and mention the "reason". in order to provide more power to what you are saying. Tactical Formula for General Listing When making a point. • When you give a reason.1 General Listing D6-T4 Strategic Formula for General Listing General Listing is a way to quickly provide several reasons. • This is somewhat similar to a "pace and lead". People) What do you ask for? 2) Practice out loud some "reasons" that you could give in these situations. or excuse. or make a statement. and flow easily. This technique has been developed based on observing how many good and influential people speak: • Successful sales people • Charismatic speakers • Good debaters • Component of hypnotic languaging « Very important. you get someone to agree and then lead them 3.3 LISTING D6-T1 Listen to an example where many of these are used. Power in Numbers . and quite well. 3. statement. which support your point.3. so that your one "opportunity" in a conversation to make "a" point. it's difficult to debate them all or object to them all (not to be combative. point.Repetition in a way that serves you. actually ends up being several points. Page 41 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Situation (Place. just as an example) • Hypnotists use this technique a LOT. don't just provide one reason. See if you can make it automatic.
3. as a list." and mention those three different ways.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Example (see the listed items shown as 1. In many ways.. Activity that you like or do often List a particular part of aspect of that activity What are three "ways" that can go? " 4) Now describe "What its like to do your activity . make them brief. and maybe 3 different things that support your "point". maybe trying to convince someone of something (NOT an argument-just that you were making a point and would like to be more persuasive). what are three ways that can go? Good? Bad? Indifferent? Exciting? Boring? Pick three and write these down What are three "ways" that the experience of "meeting people" can go? 2) Now practice out loud by saying something like "Isn't it interesting how you can meet people and it happens in different ways? I mean sometimes . sometimes . where each lasts several minutes. partying. you may begin to agree... and the types of things to which no one would object. really recall listing to good speakers (2). Y. the third item may tend to "lead" someone in some way. Listing can be short. Maybe your first two items in a list are obvious. so that you don't just say "X. 5) Think of three recent conversations you have had with people where you were making a point. and somewhat new (3). Then. what point you were trying to make.. Now. but instead you talk ' about each for a few moments. Now try again by expounding on each of the items. Z". and start to think about in a positive way (3). Write them down. true.each of which lasts just a few seconds. doing some type of work. Mention the first item. Select a particular aspect of that activity. strange (2). as in saying three items . and still. a. playing a game... maybe watching sports. Z (selecting your items listed above). listing is like pacing and leading. etc. Pick three ways that can go . Who you were talking to Page 42 . write down who it was with. Y.. but as you listen to it (1).... For each conversation. etc.. Each of the items in a list can also be much longer. etc. briefly.2.X and then other times . Something you are interested in. 3) Pick an example of an activity that you do often. then the second. talk about it for a sentence or two.. and/or what it's like to meet people. Do that out loud. Exercises for General Listing 1) Lets say you are talking to someone about "Meeting people".) • I know this may sound a bit different (1)..
and tends to make THAT point the most important one. Here is a way to think about it. Now practice. suggestion. the other. You weren't trying to emphasize one point vs.2 Listing . you were just listing several things in a list. Normally. at times you want to use listing as a way to highlight or focus upon one item. it sticks in the listener's head more. 3. Placing that particular item at the end of a list can have that effect. it makes it seem as if you are being fair. etc) By doing that. the one that comes to mind the easiest is the one that YOU want someone to agree with. and just providing a series of options. Maybe you want to list several options or examples. we were talking about three points in a list that all were similar. or different types of alternatives (to a thought. you put more emphasis on it.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Point you were trying to make Three items that support your "point" b. activity. by placing YOUR preferred item at the end. how you could bring up these three points in a list-like manner. However. Maybe you want your list to contain many options. it's easy to think of that Page 43 . Therefore. Who you were talking to Point you were trying to make Three items that support your "point" 6) Recall a specific moment in each conversation. Who you were talking to Point you were trying to make Three items that support your "point" c. out loud.At The End D6-T15 If several items are mentioned in a list (for example a car. However. and an elephant) what tends to "stick" in your mind? (The Elephant!) The last item! By hanging an item at the end of a list. In the earlier Listing examples. Do that for each of the three examples above. a table.3.
you meet someone. how they can almost become a blur. Again let's bring up this example of "meeting people". they are nice. I have had to do that myself at times. b. In general.. It's interesting though. they sort of fell into several groups o There are some people that. They are not all the same. you know .. and the third one "eventually find this person" was the one I wanted to really "stick". or instances FIRST.. examples.. interesting. See? Not only did I have a list of three (1. Page 44 . c)! • • • • • • Strategic Formula for Listing . you know that those people are NOT qualified (1) o Others you maybe have thought were ok at first. but you spend some time with that person (2) and the more that person talks.. one after another.. I mean..A t The End Listing at The End is a way to provide several options (which may differ) but to emphasize the option that YOU want... It's just a matter of getting to this person. but even when describing that person. Now those are different ways of seeing it. o And other times ... etc . this is one of those subtle but very powerful things that many persuasive speakers do a LOT. or it could really be fun. o It could suck. you just know . but by placing "it could be fun" last. I put another list within THAT description (a. or maybe you are really seeing the power of all of this! I think you can tell which option I was going for! Meeting People.. This course.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course one. you just really click and you feel this connection . and then finish with YOUR preferred item. Again. right away. it could be boring. I know. the more convinced you are that that person is NOT the one! o Hopefully though. Say that one LAST and bring up two other options. Sometimes there is nothing special. 3).. you know? See how I did that? See how the item which I really wanted them to think about.2. o You know what it's like when you meet someone . It may be because you like the resume (a).. Examples • • Fun activity. and there is just something about this person. was said that at the end? By the way. you eventually find this person that on some level.. or they just have the right answers (c). o Other times you get that sort of a "friend" vibe with that person. you put more emphasis on it and it tends to make that one "stick" more. or this person presents himself really well (b). those people doesn't mean much either way .that is the one (3). did you notice the use of the words this/that/these/those? Also where do you think I might have been pointing and gesturing during those examples? Job interview o Have you talked to many candidates? Yes. maybe it's boring. When I have interviewed a lot of people.. lets say you are talking about doing some activity. o May be frustrating to you.
or giving an example. Issue or Option What do you want? 5) Now. Maybe you want to suggest something very direct or quite controversial and you do NOT want to give it too much prominence. and therefore you do NOT want it to stick out too much. etc. Maybe add a small "list" within that last item (because it's inexpensive. and what the result is that YOU want. and they are haggling or objecting a bit.At The End 1) Lets say you are going to spend a day or evening with some friends..). In that case. it can be TOO obvious.. and seem too direct. agree to some point.Let say you arc trying to get someone to buy something.At The End When making a point. mentioning all of these in a list. out loud. it makes sense to "bury" that item in the middle of a list. Maybe pause when saying it. and we always have fun . If you say Page 45 .? Write down what the "issue" is. Go ahead and suggest that item. At times however. but bury it inside a list. You may want to "test" to see how the person will react to it. Exercises for Listing . where you are trying to convince people to do something. statement. However. but place some more emphasis on that last item. LAST. placing something at the end can add to its power and make it stand out. maybe controversial.3.3 Listing . 3) Do that again. List three possible things that you could do and write these down. and bring up at least two other "options" BEFORE you mention the one option that you want. go somewhere. close. make sure that the one that YOU want to do. and you are all figuring out how you are going to spend your time. out loud. Examples: • Sales . is the item you mention LAST. talk about the issue.Burying Items D6-T24 When using a List. but mention the one which YOU want to put the most emphasis on. "List" several things briefly in order. etc. Maybe add an embedded command of some type. You want to mention or suggest something that is quite strong. 4) What is an example from your life (recently). Here is a way to think about it. Three things that you and your friends could do (activity) 2) Practice. buy some thing. 3.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Tactical Formula for Listing .
that you will just seize this chance and get it while you can! That sounds almost TOO forceful. maybe it IS too direct. However.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • "Well. just suggesting. seems to "lighten" it up somehow.. you can get away with an outrageous or very direct option by burying that option in the middle of a List. bury it inside a list." Doesn't that sound better? Meeting at a Party . For example. and you are talking about you two getting together sometime. more "appropriate" items to lighten it up. or to maybe see if you can get someone to agree to it! Tactical Formula for Listing .Burying Items Listing . If she gasps and has a look of shock and horror when you make that suggestion. There are several options but. it seems too obvious. Instead. or maybe I'll call you tomorrow". we can leave together right now. you don't just say "we can slip the deadline". Very direct. o "well. or maybe you want it so much. that may be a GOOD sign. But if you switch the order. and maybe there is a possibility of you even spending that night together. and when you say it at the end like that. it seems a bit easier for you to say it. Sometimes you have that "direct" item in mind and you surround it with other. maybe you aren't ready to buy this now. maybe you aren't ready to buy this now. lets say that you want to say something or suggest something that is very direct... that you are almost "worried" about how the listener may react. we can talk in a few days.. lets say you are working on a project and things are behind schedule. This is also a good way of testing someone's response. its your choice.. it's your choice.. more powerful and direct statement in the middle. • Instead of thinking about it in terms of a list. honestly. or possibly you just still want to negotiate .Burying Items When giving examples or options to someone.. So maybe you say something like o "Well. Lets say your idea is so controversial and over-the-top. It also allows you a chance to watch the persons reaction to it. or possibly you still want to negotiate. one of them is to just slip the deadline.Lets say you have met a women at a party. The idea of " seize this chance and get it while you can" is something rather challenging to say (as the seller) that directly.Burying Items is a way to mention an outrageous or very direct option for "testing" purposes. But of she smiles and seems interested.. See? Putting that one. Page 46 . maybe you seize this chance and get it while you can . "let's slip the deadline" might be a problem in some circles! So when people are talking about options to help the project. Strategic Formula for Listing .
Try it out loud. but see if you CAN say it. see if it seems easier to say.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Exercises for Listing . but do it by burying it in a list. 3) Think of some recent situations where you would have liked to mention a quite outrageous or direct suggestion. if you do it TOO much or too blatantly. it can stand out too much and be annoying. or the most direct item. you may even want to say it in a joking way. See if you can make it sound natural. Try saying it with the strongest item at the end. After these situations occur. Situation Outrageous or Direct Suggestion you could have made. go ahead and do so. Page 47 . as any opportunities come up where you would like to make an outrageous or quite direct suggestion.Burying Items 1) As you go out and live your life. 2) Practice out loud how you would say that list in the situation you used in the previous exercise. If there is not one. Go ahead and change the order of the list that you used earlier. suggesting a List of options but burying that outrageous option in a list. Look at the items that were listed and see if one of them maybe seemed very "strong" or "direct". Assignments for Listing . Listing can be powerful. Situation Outrageous or Direct Suggestion 4) For each of those examples (above) go ahead and practice out loud. in the middle and see if it is a bit easier to imagine saying that list. and then trying saying that item in the middle. write down an outrageous or very direct suggestion that you would have liked to make (for each). make a point (afterward) to think about that outrageous option. you will probably encounter some situations where you might want to suggest something quite outrageous or direct. Bury the strongest item. go ahead and create a new item that is very outrageous or direct.Burying Items 1) Go back to the previous exercises where you said some "lists" out loud. 2) In the near future. by burying it in a list. but as with any technique. and go ahead and practice how you COULD have said it. For three different situations that have come up in your life recently.
think.. and the more Y.How do you think of them quickly? How do you make them sound natural? Don't worry! It is ok to have pauses! Pauses make things sound more natural and gives you time to come up with options! We talked about the use of pauses as a way to convey some drama and to make things interesting. D6-T38 You have heard language like "The more X. and Emphasis D6-T36 You may be worried about coming up with three things in a list . really. 3. the more Y Page 48 . Maybe one or more of the items actually has an embedded command in it. consider this: • We talked about listing . changing tone. emphasis... In a way. then present it buried within a List of options. as in . "the more YOU FEEL this .3.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3. If you must suggest several different examples or options.. I gave an example (in the audio) of several things I wanted someone to do. to "pull" the listener in. this is just a way of bringing together many of the things we have learned. etc. then.4 Listing. the more Z". thinking about languaging such as "The more X. or experience. in a List. o See how that is being used here? • We have discuss language details . Maybe you want to stress one item more or less. o See how we are listing several items? • We discuss Pace and Lead . In a way. and see how. then the more Y. then mention several of your points or examples that support what YOU want." "More and More" is just a way to use these and bring them together... can help to alter how the options (and you) are perceived.. we are pacing and leading.. but have ONE that YOU really want to emphasize or get people to agree to.... etc". The general structure here is: • • The more X o where X is something that is hopefully quite obvious and true to the listener .3... so this all works in your favor! Just be interesting enough to keep their attention. Using pauses. Or. Pauses.5 Listing Review D6-T37 If you want to get your point across. Lets use this as a chance to really step back for a moment and look at this structure. if it's a VERY outrageous option. then the more Y. 3. remember to use emphasis and change your voice tone with the items. and using lists.4 MORE AND MORE. and they WILL stay through the pauses! As you are saying various items in a list. while incorporating the language tools we have already discussed. and provide many examples to support it.. o See how they are incorporated. place that item at the END of the List for more power.. and I just strung those together . So. you are walking someone through a series of steps or thoughts.
THEN make the next item (more. and then use More and More to lead them forward . or a new "pattern". etc How to use it. or "as you notice X". which is more of an example of using Pace and Lead of their current reality.. the more Z. the More Y. present.. As you X. as you feel this. That's a general version of it. future) can be altered to make it fit well. o walk someone through though process .. the More Z.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course • • o Where Y is something that is a logical extension of what the listener knows and they see this as something that makes sense . 3. like a series of successive steps (things you do. • Sell TV sets. more and more. step 1. or thoughts) use "More and More" as a way to string them together (and increase your chances of that happening... towards what YOU want. or realize Y. etc... then. Instead of seeing this as a new type of language. or as Y is happening . The more Y. you notice this.. You can even start by "pacing" a bit more... the more you can notice Y . . • • • • As you (or while you) X . and the more Y happens .. The More Z. and even more so with the next (more.) or thoughts (things you experience or think about. agreeable. with "as X is happening". see it as just a way of using many of the things we have already covered! More and More tends to be best thought of as a "List"...... The best way to do this is to start off with the first item as quite general.... and something obvious. from a general item towards something that YOU want.) specific. and as Y happens o or as you sense Y. Page 49 .. As an alternative. Strategic Formula for More and More If you want to lead someone through a series of steps (actions. the More Y. Tactical Formula for More and More The more X. You are "leading" someone. you can use "as you" or "while you" as a way to bridge between sections as well. etc Examples • Convincing friends to go do something that you want to do.. 2. then. then just list them but use "more" as a way to go from one to the next. o You can start off with something obvious as a statement to kind of pace them.. etc). then the more Z starts to happen. the more Y. experiences.) item. The small words and verb tenses (past. If you have something that you want to lead someone through.
what to buy. or something you want to lead people to do somehow. The next is another step in the series. a trip. that would "walk" the other people through the process of agreeing with you. Exercises for More and More 1) Consider the idea of convincing some friends of going to a movie. 2) Think of the last time you were trying to convince a friend to do something. a plan. what project to work on.. or have them experience. work around it and make it sound natural. etc . they would end up doing what you wanted. something simple.. What do you want to convince someone to do Three steps. (Agree where to go to dinner. You may start with "As you" or "while you" for the first one. a series of thoughts or actions that. practice saying those in series. o Walk her through the process. Think of three "steps". "as you" or "while you". something you convince people to do (or wish you could). or series of thoughts or actions. Do the series several times.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • Talking to a woman . that start off in general. Think about a series of steps. and bridging between them as we discussed earlier (More. more in your direction. maybe an activity. etc.. something. using "More". and string them together using "more". 5) Out loud. to get towards doing what you want. Don't just say "more". Think of all of the things you can do tonight Realize that going to a movie would be a good idea Going to see the latest XYZ movie (use whatever movie you wish) See how that is a series of steps? Of thoughts? Like leading someone down a path? Now out loud. practice saying those three steps. a movie.) Write down three steps. something with which you are familiar. as you. if the person followed them. What you were trying to convince a friend to do Three steps. or as alternatives. who should do what.. 3) Now out loud. while you. 4) Think of another series from your life. of what you want to have happen. Write these down. The first should be obvious. more and more. The first should be obvious.) Page 50 . what to do. etc. but more and more get closer to what YOU want. the second. etc. Think of three "steps". more leading.. practice and see if you can talk about these one by one. as if in a conversation.. Do that several times. to get towards doing what you want.
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Assignments for More and More 1) In the exercises. How to use it.. Just make sure that with that subject.. 2) With that "More and More" sequence practiced. the more you will understand how they fit together. it's just a good way to think about discussing a subject. and even change the specifics of that sequence. etc. You will see that the more you get these bits and pieces. • It's not magical in a persuasive sense. But get to the point where you can flow easily through the 3 in a series. and piece them together and have it sound natural. and move a conversation. This Compare and Contrast method here gives you a way to talk about and around the subjects at hand. seductive.White • Right . we had you think of something from your life. Maybe just try 2 of the 3 steps once or twice. exciting.. This method provides a way to keep the conversation going. the more things like "knowing what to say" and "what pattern to use" will become easier and easier for you! Notice how we are not doing these examples necessarily with women? Wonder why? 3.) • Too many guys focus on standard lines such as "So what do you like about X". look for opportunities to use that in your life.. or else have the person you are speaking with mention it. • You are just comparing and contrasting things.5 COMPARE AND CONTRAST D6-T54 Listen to an example where many of these are used. and you discuss these two aspects using Compare and Contrast. Maybe add or change some of the reasoning. or several different subjects. you have two (or more) aspects of a topic. • It also a great way to get information about the person with which you are speaking. There are various means of doing this. Practice that series more! Get very familiar with it. • • Take a subject and either mention another aspect of that subject.Left Page 51 . to continue. or various aspects of a subject. you are able to easily go through such a "sequence". becoming more and more convinced. • This works especially well if the subject of the discussion is one that "works" for our purposes (fun. So. • How two things are similar • How two things are different • Good . where you could have a series of "states" lead someone through the process of doing what you want. you can talk about. A Tactic for Talking • Too many guys let a good conversational subject finish far too quickly.Bad • One option .another option • Black . The more that happens. this is a means to keep speaking.
then discuss these by comparing and contrasting. link away. what they do not. better-worse. o You select two items. • Anything bad. etc. Then discuss the other car. you can anchor and link positive things to you! o While talking about things she does not like. and incorporate the language tools. idea. and talk about its attributes as well. How do these differ How are they the same Which is good-bad. or point in a discussion . and to let the person think about. Tactical Formula for Compare And Contrast Take any subject. or its power. keep the discussion focused on a topic that serves your purposes. Page 52 .. What is different about each? How are they the same? How are they experienced? What is good? What is bad? etc. another brand. you can use all of the other tools we have discussed. taking a position with a more promising future. • Decisions about a career or job. and this situation that you are sharing. you can anchor those away from yourself.. easy-difficult. • Link anything good to you. states.another attribute As you are talking. • Notice what is liked and not liked • Notice any reactions. the offense or the defense. idea. o While talking about what she does like. this meeting. or point in a discussion. • Maybe what is more important to a sports team. that are good for you. and contrast these things. her. Use the other language tools during the discussion. and you start to talk about something she likes and enjoys doing. • You may talk to a woman. team sports. compare. feelings. and start to compare and contrast the two. you can talk about one car. Strategic Formula for Compare And Contrast Use this technique to keep the conversation going. and feel those states and emotions for a while as well. associate them with things other than you. o Maybe you start to ask her about it (have a discussion with her . etc. and discuss whether the handling makes it better. what they like.another aspect -. As you are talking. Examples • One brand of car vs. or individual sports vs.about her) and she mentions various things about that subject. good or bad. • You talk to someone for a while and she say she likes scuba diving. experience. You discuss this. deciding to focus on making a good living now. two facets of that subject. This all provides a good way to allow the discussion to continue for a while.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • One aspect . Select another subject. • • Use opportunities to use commands and trance words to create thoughts. One attribute . vs. you can take note of how the person is responding.
She says she likes the aspect of it being very quiet and serene under water. that within that may be attributes that are good. then I KNOW that you would NOT like THIS .same type of thing (another car. she mentions various things about it. Be aware of your language! Throw in adjectives and adverbs. Use compare and contrast to talk about each of the attributes that your friend would say they like about that subject. peace. somewhere else. and compare/contrast the two. Be mindful of that and anchor/link appropriately. Familiarity vs. and this time. etc. etc.."Oh. o So we talk about the feeling of quiet. change your tone of voice. different style of clothing. bike. Subject or thing that they like Attributes (things about) that. and those that are not good. and anchor/link/point appropriately. Be vary aware that even when you are discussing the thing you "Like". Something New Control vs. and serenity on one hand o and compare and contrast that to the feeling of something new and different on the other. your pacing. etc).Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Maybe you ask about it. Now think of what is opposite to that . clothes. different computer.". Now talk out loud about each. that they do like Do the re-enactment again. Not-Like" set of things to compare and contrast. This example uses a very obvious "Like vs. In addition. the same holds true even when discussing what you do NOT like. etc. and put effort into correct linking/anchoring/pointing to associate positive things to you. Something that you like Something that is opposite 2) Now take that same topic.. 4) Select two of the following 4 topics. and negative things .. so if you like THAT. be very aware of the positive and negative things that are being said.. etc). but this time put some effort into being very aware of the positive and negative things that are being said. she finds the experience of seeing new and different things to be interesting as well. and talk about it again... computer. 3) Recall a recent conversation with someone you know. Re-enact that conversation again. Page 53 .(because)." or .. Letting Go Safety and Excitement Liking someone mentally and/or physically o • • • • Exercises for Compare And Contrast 1) Pick some possession that you have that you REALLY like (car. Maybe some of the language that you are using that may lend itself to be embedded commands. Also.. where they were really describing or talking about something they like. offer the compare-contrast ways of discussing it. and this time. Be descriptive! Use pauses.. and various things about that subject or topic that they like... As in "so let me make sure I understand this .
link them to you • If the bad or boring parts some up..6 PARTS D7-T1 Listen to an example where these are used. you can show someone how that can be possible. then talk about all of the various aspects and parts of it. Something New Now do your best to speak out loud and "talk" about these for a while using a Compare and Contrast structure. Who knows. it's too weak. some are bad • Talk about the good parts. By comparing and contrasting them. People tend to think you have one OR the other. There ARE many things that people tend to THINK of in an "either-or" way. and that's ALL you discuss. 3. if you are asking many questions about something that is NOT of interest to you.. of having all of the positive aspects of Safety. it is GOOD to focus on the positive aspects of what she likes. and get them to talk about what THEY are interested in.6. topic.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Control vs.Who wants to talk about something that you are NOT interested in? However. Safety vs. However there ARE ways to have BOTH. etc. link away Now this may seem tough . BOTH linked and anchored to YOU. Some are good. Parts. exciting. you may end up liking the subject and find a new activity for yourself! Don't worry that you will "give the wrong impression" by inquiring and discussing these "parts".. Two types of parts we can work with . and the positive aspects of excitement. If you are talking about an interesting subject. YOU are then showing someone how BOTH of these things can be experienced. but when you go STRAIGHT for the BEST thing that she likes the MOST. this provides a good way to train you to be able to talk and ask questions of people. etc.1 Parts Of A Subject D7-T4 This is a variation on the contrast principle. Letting Go Safety and Excitement Liking someone mentally and/or physically Familiarity vs. theme. For even more Power There IS a very powerful aspect of this technique that is important to mention. together. this just helps to keep things moving in a conversation. Think about the possibilities. this doesn't necessarily show that you Page 54 ." and that's ALL they talk about! Yes.. and parts of a person 3. Excitement. For example. and you lose out on spending a LOT of time having them discuss something that she REALLY likes! This is just a way to have a discussion. and say (for example) "what do you like most about scuba diving" or "what is the most fascinating thing about. Too many guys just blow things to quickly. Meaning. that is fun. Parts of a subject.
don't just ask "What is the most exciting thing about Scuba Diving?" That IS a good question. etc. just say "I like learning about people. sport. maybe a hobby. This isn't just a way for you to ask ask ask HER about things. idea. area of interest.many of which can be linked to you.Don't just "talk about" Scuba Diving! Or. like.. If she LIKES scuba diving. but if you start there.. This is a great way to build rapport with a person as well. 1) Pick a subject that you like. what people do. Page 55 . o Where have they dived? o How did they get into it? o What's their favorite place? o Do they have their own equipment? o Do they use different types of equipment for different locations? o How long have they dived? o Have they ever been in danger? o Have they taken photos? o Have they met interesting people? o Has this exposed them to any other cool sports or activities? o etc. etc. feelings and emotions to yourself. Exercises for Parts of a Subject . You are just asking. etc. know about. that an opportunity to talk for a WHILE about something she likes. or point in a discussion. Tactical Formula for Parts of a Subject Take any subject. and she may have a lot of positive emotions and feeling associated with that . Now. just curious. and enjoys. be comfortable talking about all of the parts of that subject. list various "things" about that subject. Strategic Formula for Parts of a Subject Discussing many of the parts of a subject keeps the conversation going. Examples • Scuba Diving . that you know. artistic endeavor.." This technique makes it easier to have conversations with people because THEY are giving you information and ideas for new things to ask about. activity. topics come up. feelings and emotions. Link good thoughts. Break it down into its component parts and discuss them. new things. If someone asks you about this. allowing you time to gather information and link yourself to good thoughts. Use the language tools in the discussion. don't like.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course are interested in it (the subject). Subjects come up. it's hard to talk about that subject for a while.
what parts about football would you want them to ask about? For your chosen subject. someone you met at a party. Page 56 . Subject: Parts. etc. Person: Subject: Parts. but hopefully this "subject" is something you are not really into. like a co-worker.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course For example. make a list of these parts. if your subject was football. Now. etc. You should easily be able to come up with 10-20 items. maybe a cousin you hardly see or talk to. Write these down. or Things About. and you were going to have someone (who knows very little about the subject) interview you and learn all about football. if you were going to talk to them for like 30 minutes about that subject and were really going to ask them about it. passion. That Subject: 3) Now think of someone who you are NOT close to (that you do not know that well). If you have trouble. This should be someone you know well. a job they like. or maybe someone in your life that you don't know very well. Someone that you recently met. maybe pick a different "person" as your subject. what would you ask about? What are all of the various things and aspects of it that YOU could inquire about or that could come up in a discussion? These are the "parts" of that subject. and you have heard him or her talk about this. That Subject: 2) Think of one of your friends or family members and some activity or topic that THEY are really into. Maybe their hobby. Now think of something that THAT person is interested in or they are involved with. or Things About. You should be able to come up with at least 10 items.
but with which you are NOT familiar. don't know really well. The subject they are interested in is something with which you are NOT familiar. while YOU are there And you are linking and anchoring things to yourself Using all of the language tools and details And that person is finding YOU so fascinating and charismatic . you should be able to list at least 10 items. off the "top of your head". They are talking about something THEY like Thinking about it. make a point to have a good 10-15 minute conversation about a subject that THEY are really interested in. when you are speaking with a friend or family member that you know well. And of course the entire time. mention like 10-15 different things you could ask or inquire about that subject. and were really going to ask them about it. You know the person but you are not real close to them. Make a point to ask about many different parts of that subject. Page 57 . make a point to have a good 10-15 minute conversation about a subject that THEY are really interested in. Now. Person: Subject: Parts. who is interested in something that you are NOT familiar with. like the exercise above. Person: Subject: Assignments for Parts of a Subject 1) Sometime soon.. and feeling it.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course The key here is that this is someone you don't see often. but with which you are NOT familiar. experiencing it. 2) Sometime in the future.. Make a point to ask about many different parts of that subject. If you were going to talk to them for like 30 minutes about that subject. That Subject: " 4) Think of another person and subject. what would you ask about? What are all of the various things and aspects of it that YOU could inquire about? What are the PARTS you could ask about? Write these down. or Things About. out loud. when you are speaking with a person you do not know hardly at all (yet you feel you will be able to talk to them for 10-15 minutes). Again.
"parts" are meant as in a personality trait.. In this context. their way of walking through and looking at the world..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3. • What if it is not? What if they say they are shy.. or part of a person. Because you are discussing several things... there is a more decisive. and they feel that way. more spontaneous side to them. Discuss. (where XYZ is a different or maybe the opposite behavior. This can be VERY powerful. a way of acting or being is being discussed (and one that does not necessarily work in your favor) .. great. they hold back. Let's say you are in a discussion with someone. etc. make it be experienced.. link it to you. that is more . etc.. their reactions. exciting part of a person is being discussed. if a personality trait. or view.." o "You may have (or do have) another part (or side. Page 58 . etc)" o "I know someone similar who as this other part to themselves. fun. Don't Confront.. and then say (for example)." • Bring up and acknowledge the fact that there is "another" part.. or reserved.. Let's break this down. or way of looking at it." o "Many people like that also have another side to themselves... they are quiet. • If a person is shy. another part hidden away. we are also reframing! We are changing the way they look at things. or parts. adventurous . or normally don't "do" certain things? • Then talk about that first (shy) part." • There will be a lot of this shown in examples here in this section and at the end of the program. and I have found she has this other side. and start to discuss and validate that OTHER part. in a way you are also using Compare and Contrast as well. In many ways. that part of the person or type of behavior that DOES agree with you). if the person is shy o "I understand how some people are shy. In a discussion. A key concept to think about is to ALWAYS assume that there is a part of someone that does agree with you. a way of thinking. there is a more adventurous part to themselves • If a person is outspoken. • If an adventurous. o "When you start to listen to this adventurous side . or has the same wishes that you do. that adventurous side is just waiting to come out. verify it. etc. just looking for the right time. lean more on the language and linking tools to bring it out.." • If this new or other "side" works more in your favor. what she did . a "side" to the person. experiencing it. or side. In fact a friend of mine is very shy and one time. • Acknowledge the first part that is being discussed. "you may have the other side" o or by example "I know someone like that. there is a more quiet side • If a person is well-thought-out (thinks things through and takes time). o Either in general like "there may be another side" o or more directly.. that XYZ part". directly or indirectly o For example. etc... You do not want to appear to challenge or invalidate and personality trait that is being shown.6.2 Parts Of A Person D7-T15 Listen to an example where this concept is used.. etc" • Discuss this new or other "part" o "With many people. • "That's because there is another part.
discuss. or part of the person by discussing or addressing it Think about a personality trait. o "I was reading somewhere about things like that and what it was saying was. deep down. Well. they like to play things safe. etc etc etc.) Exercises for Parts of a Person 1) What if someone says.. was also "Y". I understand you have that side to you. People have many sides to themselves. • Maybe someone says they can be jealous. so be careful. (not good in a person. Traits similar to "Being Boring" Page 59 . assume there is a part that will work WITH you.. Remember. and beliefs. What personality traits (or what other parts or ways of thinking) are similar? Which are somewhat opposite? Write down 3 that are similar. way of thinking. too confrontational. and 3 that are opposite.... This one side .. even when the other person claims or demonstrates that such parts are NOT there. and evoke favorable states.. etc. but it can be handled . Tactical Formula for Parts of a Person For every part of a person that will work against you. • Maybe someone lies .. You can work around this issue (of possible confrontation) by saying things like o "I think another way of looking at that trait is .. Examples: • Lets say that a person says they are not into taking challenges. that can work in your favor. • Maybe someone is secretive.. o "I have a friend who was "X" (where X is the trait being discussed). or part of the person that is somehow related (which works in your favor) or somewhat opposite.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • Many times you don't want to say "because there is another part" because that seems too direct. feelings.. that may be true but also there is another part of them .. .. and she realized that she. way of thinking. "I am boring"... Introduce and discuss that "other part" in a way that works to your advantage.. it may sound like you are arguing or challenging the person.. way of thinking. or part of the person (mostly something which has a negative connotation) Acknowledge that personality trait. There are also other sides to people .. o "Well.. o "A friend of mine does that as well. "you are wrong" or to show how smart you are! You are just talking. Find a personality trait. having a conversation. you are NOT discussing this as to say... and what I noticed about her is that she also has this other side to her." Strategic Formula for Parts of a Person Use Parts of a Person as a way to find.
and then bring up this other "part" that you selected. maybe do some linking an anchoring. and some of the variations mentioned for language examples. Look at the formula earlier. be aware of opportunities to maybe mark off an embedded command or two (or more).. Practice this out loud. but this time. and then bring up this other "part" that you selected.. Now do a similar exercise again out loud.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Traits opposite to "Being Boring" Of those that you listed. which could you maybe "use" in a good way? 2) Think about how you would discuss the boring part. pick another part or trait. 6) Lets say someone says "I am not into meeting any new people right now" . Traits similar to "not into meeting any new people" Traits opposite to "not into meeting any new people" Practice out loud how you might first discuss "I am not into meeting any new people right now" and then transition into the other parts or traits that you selected. etc. Traits similar to "Being Shy" Traits opposite to "Being Shy" Of those that you listed. What personality traits (or what other parts. Look at the formula earlier.. use this/that/these/those . 3) What if someone says that they are shy? What personality traits (or what other parts or ways of thinking) are similar? Which are somewhat opposite? Write down 3 that are similar. Practice this out loud. Imagine a conversation and how you might do this. Page 60 . and some of the variations mentioned for language examples. which could you maybe "use" in a good way? 4) Think about how you would discuss that shy part. or ways of thinking) are similar? Which are somewhat opposite? Think about 1-2 that you could use. Imagine a conversation and how you might do this. and 3 that are opposite. 5) From the list you just made (and selected from)..
9) Lets say someone says "I only like dating my TYPE"? What other part. See if you can note that "part" of who they are. trait. but ROW see how many of the speaking and language tools you can use. and offer challenges to you on the audio. etc could you discuss? Try that out loud. You don't have to discuss them (yet) just make a point to note these traits. or mentions a "way of thinking"). make a note of these traits or parts. After the conversation. See if what they are saying describes or is pointing out any personality traits (or a "part" of themselves. trusting their own judgment. being open. etc could you discuss? Try that out loud. Opposite (or similar?) trait or part that might actually work in your favor Conversation with Traits or parts that were discussed. See if you can arrive at a similar part or trait that you can discuss that could be used in your favor.. see if you could maybe think of an opposite one that could be discussed. make note of when you are having a personal conversation with anyone.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 7) Do the above example again. Or. acknowledge it. WHILE talking to someone. 3) Now that you can recognize these traits when talking to someone. or parts. and then find a way to discuss another part that is more favorable or positive. and then point out some other trait or part that might work in your favor somehow. Use the formula and the variations mentioned earlier. or putting him or herself down for some reason.? What other part. Just notice the trait or part being mentioned. 8) Lets say someone says they have trouble meeting new people.7 OPPORTUNITIES AND CHALLENGES D7-T34 Listen to an example where I structure opportunities. start to bring them up IN the conversation. and offer challenges" many times when studying these materials. and has been a bit difficult for many to really understand Page 61 . 2) After you have become more comfortable noticing such traits after-the-fact. Assignments for Parts of a Person 1) For the next week or two. An easy way to do this is when a friend or acquaintance is being self-deprecating in some manner. see if you can notice them WHILE talking to someone. You have probably heard the phrase "structure opportunities.. 3. This area has caused some confusion. trait.
and wants to be seen as intelligent. Strategic Formula for Opportunities And Challenges Find or assume what someone wants Create an opportunity for them to get it or demonstrate they have it Make that "demonstration" work in your favor. "You may be beautiful. this can be very effective. is a way for them to show their intelligence.2 What do people want? - D7-T38 "Universal Wants" = Good. Challenge them to demonstrate it. Why this matters. do it. then they already have mechanisms for that in their mind. If you can somehow frame or map yourself as being a way for a person to fulfill things that someone already wants. 3.7. and that you believe in yourself. Universal Wants • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control • Excitement Page 62 . 3. you are using processes that they ALREADY have in their minds. For example if someone is intelligent.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course and utilize. • Show that you have standards. or like to be perceived as having." • This is NOT about arrogance. o You are saying in a way. using motivations that a person already has.1 Using Their Own Processes D7-T36 If you know what people want to have. these concepts are broken down and offered to you in a way that will truly help you to be able to use these powerful techniques. but may not be the most effective strategy. In this section.7. • Show that you are qualifying and screening to some extent. Work with universal things that people would like to have. you are just showing that YOU have standards. o This is the opposite of pleading and the "pedestal" scenario. It's good to somehow work with structures and things that are already in someone's mind. effect. • These are also good and convenient for practicing and examples. You then find some way to set things up so that choosing to listen to you. or be with you. then by using their existing desires. You are in. • It's easy. but I am looking for more. or want to be perceived as having. or show it. • Use these general things and assume they are there.
or want to be perceived as having? Mini-Challenges D7-T40 3. o Talk about what she does.. along with the Universal Wants listed earlier! • We assume here that with a mini-challenge. by listening to me or agreeing with me". what she likes to do... o You seem cool enough . o If you are able to .7. o You seem like you may have good taste o etc.This technique can be overused..... can (use smart. o The smart people I know.. o I wonder if you can . o You seem smart enough . • Mini-Challenges o You might get this . o You might see . o Try using some of the above items. o Are you able to .. Mini-Challenge Cheat Sheet o You seem .... or an image she wants other people to have of her.. o Always have the question below in mind. we are using one of these sort of "universal" wants. or want to be perceived as having.... Warning . "you can show me that you have the thing you desire.. etc • Finding these particular wants and desires o These "wants" can be possessions. o Talk to her and find out what she wants or needs. or adventurous.. o You might. etc). o You may .. wants to have. and discusses what is important to her She mentions something she likes or dislikes about a past boyfriend. You are challenging an ASSUMED desire (a "Universal Want"). o etc. o You seem like . or maybe a value.. but if you can find or work with specific wants or desires. her interests. You can imply a "test" for these things by issuing a mini-challenge. that's even better.... or be seen as having "X".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course "Particular Wants" = Better! What does THIS person want? • Notice o o o particular things that this individual would like to have or be perceived as having She mentions wanting respect She defends her position...3 There are certain things you can assume that most people may want to have. o If you can . and it can really annoy people if you do! Page 63 . and challenging them in a way that says. o You seem as if.. What does she want to have.. o Maybe you can . o Talk about some of yours and see how she reacts... or fun..
"By listening to and/or agreeing with me. and Mini-Challenge Cheat Sheet. (and again. here we have to "assume" things for the sake of teaching) . What does someone Want? Assume. Exercises for Mini-Challenges 1) Try piecing together items from the Universal Wants List. Challenge the person to do "Y". in a way.. • Create an opportunity for them to get that • Make it so that them "getting" that works in your favor. or been seen as having You can assume based on normal things that people want (Universal Want) or Get information from talking (Particular Want) Create an opportunity for them to get or demonstrate "X". Make a statement that says. and see how many combinations you can come up with.7. or hopefully find.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Tactical Formula for Mini Challenges Assume something she wants to have. Creating Them Consider the wants and needs that a person may have . you will show me you have that". • Universal Wants • Particular Wants Opportunities. 3. by doing "Y" Make "Y" something that works in your favor..4 Opportunities and Challenges D7-T43 Think of it like this. • Find what someone "wants". what someone wants. Tactical Formula for Opportunities and Challenges Find something "X" that the person wants to have.. or be seen as having. "Show me you have that thing by listening and/or agreeing with me" or. • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control • Excitement Page 64 .. • Challenge them to see if they will follow through and take action to get it.
Talk about those things. or want to be seen as having Structure this so that it is something that YOU would like them to do. o Talk about how confident people can make their own choices. something they want. where this opportunity benefits you (and hopefully pertains to the situation). by meeting this "challenge".. o Mention how confident people can meet someone new. • Here is a way a friend of mine showed that they have or was able to get X. Examples. o Let the person demonstrate how confident they are. and see how doing Y would demonstrate it?> • Does she have what it takes to get X. Create the opportunity for them to show or demonstrate that they have or are perceived as having. even if their friends don't approve.. talk about DOING them. • Mention something that you have read. and how the confident ones are able to take chances and have fun. or some way for this person to capture the opportunity • Provide an example of something she can say or do. Challenges Are they ready to take advantage of that (this) opportunity? Challenge them to get what they want. and/or HAVING them.. by doing Y? Page 65 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course You need to create an "opportunity" for each of these. o .Think about maturity .How can you create an opportunity for someone to appear confident (that works in your favor)? o Discuss people that YOU know.. o They can do exciting things. • Provide a way to demonstrate that they DO have what they want. what does a mature person do? How are they seen? How do they react? o They make their own decisions o They trust their own judgment o They can decide to do something NOW. Maturity . on their own. • Provide an example from your own life.. • Here is how I read/heard that someone else had or was able to get X. How can you make that sound like a way for them to "show" something? How to create an opportunity? • Here is a way for you to show me that you really have or was able to get X. o They can go against the grain.. • Confidence . Provide an example of someone. Examples: • Does she really want X and see how Y can get that? • Does she really have X. or show what they have.... and feel very comfortable with that. • Maybe point out something a friend did ..
You discuss success for a while. Assumed Wants 2) Write a Mini Challenge for each if the above items. Some examples are shown below.. Is she ready to take chances? Take risks? Do something different? Maybe not .. • Find out what someone wants. and do Y to get it? Can she do Y and make it happen? Can she see that Y will get her what she wants? Can she trust herself enough to do Y? etc. Are they ready to do Y.. I don't know if you are adventurous enough for this.. Later. You talk about that for a while. Can she see an opportunity to have "X".. They want X.. as long as you trust yourself enough to feel that is OK . Exercises and Assignments for Opportunities and Challenges 1) Make a list of some assumed things that many people may want to have. It's NOT about creating an argument! Again. These are your "Assumed Wants". It's different from the way most guys think. • • I know this is tricky. you mention "We should get together sometime. I mean. she may have to do Y to prove that. what this means to her. or be perceived as having. to show or demonstrate that? Examples: • Security o Say she wants to feel secure. Page 66 . Then at some point you talk about you and her getting together. • Challenge them to do that.. • Find a way to map what YOU want. and say something like "well. to be a way for them to get what they want.. their own intuition. but." Adventurous o Maybe she wants to feel adventurous.... and mention that you read somewhere that successful people tend to be able to trust their own judgment. she actually felt more secure about being able to take care of herself. how she may be adventurous. Success o Maybe "success" is important to her. then . and she found that by taking chances and risks. there are others shown earlier.".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • • • Does she want you to THINK she has X. You talk about a friend who has always wanted to feel secure.
quite unique. Write down these "Wants".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course "you seem like . "lets see if this makes sense to you "see if you can follow this . "you might... and NOT just things from the "assumed" list. For each person. write down something that each wants to have.. out loud 4) Make a note of some of the ones you practiced that seem closest to something you could easily say or do with people in your life. or be perceived as having Page 67 ... and go out and actually USE them for a while. etc.. co-workers. "you may . 5) Think about some people that you know quite well like family. friends." Mini Challenges 3) Practice the list of Mini Challenges you just created. or wants to be perceived as having. and focus on using these. Practice these more.. Person What they want to have. Hopefully these are specific to them. Note some of your favorites ones below.
Is there a way to create an "opportunity" for them to get or achieve that? Can you somehow create an opportunity that can be "mapped" in some way towards yourself. and write them down. are they ready? Can they take action? Can they DO this? Write down these "Challenges". etc? Give that some thought. Person Opportunity for them to get what they "want" that somehow works in your favor 7) For each "want". Page 68 . You are "mapping" it to you because by doing what you discuss. and they spend a LOT of time practicing. Example . What is the opportunity.) So you challenge their dedication to their sport by saying "I was reading about really good athletes and one thing that was pointed out was that a lot of them really can get burned out. or that in some way could be interpreted.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 6) Consider the "want" that you identified from each of those persons above... See if you can make it sound natural. The good athletes find a way to relax and have fun." The "opportunity" is for them to be a better athlete. want to do what you wish. and how can you "map" it to yourself? Write down these "Opportunities". Some way that questions . and that allows them to be better at their sport. see if you can create a "challenge". and "opportunity". even subconsciously.A friend wants to be really good at a sport. Person Challenge 8) Practice each of those "Challenges" out loud. as making them look at you more positively. (You want that friend to lighten up and be able to spend more time going out and having fun. they will be doing something that YOU want.
that these become familiar. listen.. 10) While you are talking to people for the next 1-2 weeks. to do things that you would want. These are those words or phrases that can mean more than one thing.. What do they "want".8 AMBIGUITIES D7-T64 If you have studied this material for a while. but now also start to look for "opportunities and challenges" in a way that directs their desires towards you.Point Or Touch On Positive And Negative LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES o Pace And Lead " Topics and Subjects * Mindset of Frame • Current Reality o Give Them A Reason • • • Page 69 . 11) For the next 1-2 weeks. They may have one meaning in one context. they mean something different. Do what you can to bring these up while in the conversation if you can. 3.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 9) As you become more familiar with these practiced challenges and opportunities. see if you can bring them up in conversations over the next few weeks. do the same in terms of observing desires. given that this IS an area that many guys are able to do (with enough listening) and given the many OTHER areas that really DO need the assistance of a program like this. This is one area that many guys actually ARE able to pick up and use easily if they have listened to the materials enough. 3. That. but in another context. • SPEAKING POINTERS o The "Cool" Factor o Voice Tone And Tonality o Pacing And Pausing o Energy And Enthusiasm LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS o Adjectives And Adverbs o Trance Words o Weasel Phrases o Embedded Commands o Linking o Easy-Linking (This. you no doubt have heard many examples of "ambiguities". so that you have heard them SO MANY TIMES. we will not be doing any specific work on Ambiguities.. Although there could be a section in this course that deals with these areas. Try to guess.9 SUMMARY D7-T66 Bringing it together. look at how many items we have covered so far. Listen. listen. Those) MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures o Linking Gestures (Towards And Away) o Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This. really focus on what each person desires.) o Easy Anchoring . but also ask some questions and get into a discussion about it if possible.. These. listen. That.
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These are the building blocks for good Language skills. These are the sorts of skills that are most workable when they are truly "wired in" to someone, so that they are able to be used automatically. To try to "remember" to do such things can be very difficult. That approach would make having a conversation far too difficult and too much work! The best way is to work with these techniques SO much that these truly are just a part of "how you talk". With enough practice, and hearing these enough, you CAN have these become a part of how. YOU talk! So listen, practice, do the exercises, do the assignments, and do that all again, until these really do become a part of you, and a part of how you speak.
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D8-T1 A key aspect of making these tools work is getting the conversation into topic areas that will really work for you. The language tools you studied earlier are best used in the proper context, and in this section, we will learn how to get the conversation into areas that will create that context. Have you had these problems? • You JUMP too quickly into a pattern or topic, and it sounds really strange? • You just THROW a pattern AT her, and get a weird reaction? When you use these tools, or even use "patterns", it's not enough to just "say it", there has to be the correct CONTEXT for what is said! It's a process that she needs to go on and through with you. It's not enough to just find a conversational excuse to "throw" a pattern (or language tool) AT her! This section is about finding ways to just get into an interesting conversation and then towards and onto good topics. We want this to seem natural, and with some understanding, practice, and a few key strategies and tactics it will BE natural and automatic! 4.1 4.1.1 CHALLENGES -a Detailed And Specific Plans Are Just Not Workable. D8-T3
It's good to theorize to "say this", and then "say that", and then to use "this pattern", and "that pattern". However, the problem is that a lot of time the proper context is not presented well enough. The examples you may have seen in other products are just that, examples. The problem is that too many guys have taken them literally! Guys try to do "X, Y, Z," exactly, in order, with no sense of calibration, or being able to work and re-direct things in real time. Therefore, detailed tactical plans are not realistic. 4.1.2 Navigation Example D8-T4
Think of moving a conversation to a certain point, like taking a trip somewhere. Say you are in Chicago, and want to go to Los Angeles. You could have a detailed map of every turn and road, exact route numbers and lengths, etc. The problem is... what do you do if there is a detour? What if the road is changed, what if the map is wrong? You are lost! What if, instead, we teach you how to drive the car, and give you a general set of directions like "keep driving west, until you see the ocean, then turn left (south)". That way, you can handle just about any turns, roads, or detours that you may encounter! Conversations are different from roads too, because people are all unique, situations, times, surroundings etc. are unique and change from moment to moment. Therefore, if you want to get a conversation to go a certain way, then detailed plans made ahead of time are hard to work with. There are too many variables! We need a workable set of strategies and tactics that allows you, in real-time, to direct things the way that you want them to go. They need to be easy to follow, and easy to use, and something that you don't need to "think about", but can just DO easily.
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So we need a general set of guidelines, some overall strategies and tactics, so that you can have this good, intuitive sense of how to "steer" things, and get conversations to where you want them to go. As long as you are engaging a woman's emotions, capturing & leading her imagination, then you are moving in the right direction. Then, in that situation and in that context, linking all the positive & powerful things to you becomes more workable. Instead of a map, we are giving you a "compass". We need a strategy for managing conversations that can to do this gradually, in a way that seems natural! If it's too abrupt or makes the conversation strained, it will sound weird. The strategy must LEAD the conversation towards good topics and subjects in a way that seems natural, and is not TOO abrupt. Examples: (Listen to the audio.) • Talking about a printer o Moving TOO quickly towards emotional topics o Can sound strange • Driving a car and taking a turn (Analogy) o Think of driving down freeway and needing to switch to different direction. o You can't make a hard, right angle turn on a dime! o You need to turn the car, slowly, on a ramp to go in a different direction. When we control conversions, we need to find a way to take it gradually in a new direction. Many guys try to do the hard and fast switch, and they crash in the process! We will learn to move things in a way that makes it seem natural, but it will be deliberate. 4.1.4 She Must Be Engaged In The Conversation! D8-T10
It's important to get conversations into the right area and have HER go along with you. Not just "bring it up" (a topic or pattern), but it must be natural and she must "go along" with it and be a PART of it. She must be actually THINKING about what you are discussing! It has to happen naturally. No weird jumps. It's not enough to just talk; she must BE a part of the conversation! So, don't just "jump" to a topic. Don't find an "excuse" to bring it up. Take the conversation there, take her WITH you, and have her be a part of it! What really helps is to have a genuine interest (or at least curiosity) in her and the conversation, not just thinking to yourself; "How can I use this?" 4.2 HOW CONVERSATIONS HAPPEN D8-T12
How does this really occur? We will break this down so that we have a way to really affect this process. 4.2.1 Conversational Dynamics D8-T13
How do conversations happen? Most of them occur somewhat randomly as the conversation flows from topic to topic over time, and can end up almost anywhere after a while. By the time YOU move from one topic to the next,
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you may end up in a very different place from where you began. However, there is a series of steps as things move forward, as shown in Figure 4.2.1-1.
Figure 4.2.1-1: Conversations Move Through Many Topics
Each of these steps between topics tends to be related. Topic 1 relates to Topic 2. Topic 2 relates to Topic 3, etc. For example, you can start to talk about Cars, and then move to one aspect of that topic, Car Seats. Then it's easy to move to some aspect of that topic, which maybe something that seats are made of, like Leather. Then maybe you talk about Leather Furniture, etc. (See Figure 4.2.1-2.)
Figure 4.2.1-2: Each Topic Flows To the Next Topic In most cases, each Topic is related to the one before.
After a series of such steps, you can be at a quite different topic (like an apartment that you used to live in) even though you started at a quite different topic (Cars). In most cases, it's very difficult to predict where a conversation will go after many of these steps. As you go through a few topic shifts (as shown in the diagrams), although each individual shift relates to the topic before and after that shift, after a series of shifts you can end up talking about almost anything! Therefore, even if you start the conversation at a great topic, you can get off-track and into topics that will not work in your favor. Conversely, what is needed is a way to start at almost any topic at all, and by steering that process (of moving from Topic 1, to Topic 2, Topic 3, etc) take the conversation into better and better topic areas that will serve your purposes. 4.2.2 Conversational Model D8-T14
We introduce a model to assist in discussion, understanding, and control of conversations. If you start at a topic, how do you go to another one? This process happens all of the time very easily. The key is that the movement from one topic to the next takes places easily because there are so many options involved. From any topic (Topic 1) it is easy to flow to any of 6-8 other, related topics (Topic 2 Candidates). People usually just "talk" and naturally the conversation moves from the first topic to the next one. Since the "next" topic is related, this process seems natural and is easy to do. In fact, you do this all the time without really knowing about it. (We are creating a model to describe a process that happens naturally, so that we can teach you a way to have an affect on that process). Figure 4.2.2-1 shows how from one topic, the conversation can flow easily to many related topics.
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Car you own Seats in it Interior of your car How Powerful it is What Gas does it use How Fast it is Feel of Driving Places you have gone Where you bought it
Topic 2 Candidates
Figure 4.2.2-1: From One Topic to many Candidate Topics The topic of Cars is discussed, and from there are many ways the conversation can easily move.
Once the conversation moves to one of these eight topics, it's easy to move to one of eight more. For example if in Figure 4.2.2-1, the conversation flows from "Cars" to "Where you bought it" (as in, where you bought the car), then now we have a situation like that shown in Figure 4.2.2-2.
Where you bought it
That car dealer The salesman Part of town Other car dealers Who went with you How you bought it The Loan you used etc. Topic 3 Candidates
Figure 4.2.2-2: From A Second Topic, Another Group of Candidates If "Cars" was discussed first, and then "Where you bought it" was discussed next, there are now many ways to go in the next step. In the figure, you see how the conversation moves from Cars, to "Where you bought it". After that, there are many "candidate" topics where the conversation can flow. Perhaps it moves to the "Part of town" where the car was purchased.
Now from the topic of "Where you bought it" (a car), there are easily eight places that you can go from there, shown as the "Topic 3 candidates". This process continues throughout a conversation. This process happens regardless of the specific topics being discussed. Conversations flow from topic to topic, as shown in a general manner in Figure 4.2.2-3.
there is no way to know exactly where it will end up by the time you have moved forward a few steps! Imagine trying to predict ahead-of-time exactly where you may arrive (among those 512 options). This results in easily over 500 topics that could be selected by the time we arrive at Topic 4! In only three shifts of the topic ("topic shifts" as shown in the figure) we end up with many many possibilities of where the conversation might end up.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Topic 1 Topic 2 Topic 3 Topic 4 Figure 4. When this happens in succession. With some skill and technique. you can end up with the conversation going almost anywhere! Figure 4. In many ways. you can affect this process (and we will teach that to you). when talking to some random person. If Topic 1 can lead to eight different candidates for Topic 2. then talk about Y. the plans that many guys try to use to "Talk about X. then talk about Z" are very difficult to really work with. However. then EACH of the eight different candidates for Topic 2 can then lead to their own eight. you can have up to eight different ways to go at EACH step. and the conversation flows along in this manner. an so on. and at each step after that. because there are SO many ways that things can go! Page 75 . the Figures that have been shown so far only show a small portion of the total topics towards which a conversation can flow.2-3: Topics Flow from One to the Next Each topic in a conversation can easily lead to 6-8 others.2. In general.2.2-4 shows what happens when all the topics are considered. Do you see why the pre-planned approaches can be difficult?! Even if you ARE able to have the conversation start from a specific place (Topic 1). since it's so easy to go from any topic to 6-8 others.
2.2-5).2. and so on. As seen in the diagram. then after only three shifts in the topic.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 1st Topic Shift 2nd Topic Shift 3rd Topic Shift Figure 4.2-4: Topic Candidates and Topic Shifts If each topic can flow to eight others. It then can flow easily to maybe 6-8 others (the diagram shows fewer for the sake of clarity). Page 76 . a conversation may start from one topic or subject (Topic 1). it can flow from there. you can end up in over 500 different topic areas! We can create a general Conversation Model that shows this process (Figure 4. Once Topic 2 has been discussed.
2-5: Conversation Model The "Tree of Subjects" showing how thousands of subjects can be reached in just a few steps of the conversation.2. There are SO many ways it can flow. In fact.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Figure 4.2. This process of moving from the first topic to one of 6-8 relevant topics is the process of moving through a "Topic Turning Point" as shown in Figure 4. Page 77 .3-1. is an awareness of this phenomenon that is called the "Topic Turning Point".3 Topic Turning Point D8-T15 The KEY concept the needs to be understood to gain the ability to manage conversations. that they become far too many to shown in the diagram. If you are discussing one specific topic. (The figure only shows a portion of how many subjects and topics can be reached). it is quite easy to move from that onto 6-8 related topics. if you assume that from any topic you could go to any of 8 other topics.2. The diagram only shows a small fraction of them (so that the diagram is not even more cluttered than it already is!). then for that diagram to be really accurate it would have to show over 30.000 different subjects or topics that could be discussed by the time you are at "Level 6" in the conversation!! 4.
introduce an idea.3-2: How TTP Selections Effect the Conversation The selections made at each TTP are what actually "steer" the conversation in a certain direction. the overall flow of a conversation comes about due to many of these TTP choices being made.3-1: The Topic Turning Point (TTP) When discussing any topic (First Topic) there are easily 6-8 different topics to which the conversation can be moved (Candidate Topics). Page 78 .3-2 Topic Turning Points Figure 4. make a statement. However.2. Therefore. Someone might make a comment. A general way of looking at this process is shown in Figure 4. the conversation can then move to another topic.2. after one topic has been discussed for a short while. the conversation "shifts" slightly. etc. ask a question. The key thing to realize is that this process of Topic Turning Point (TTP) selection occurs over and over. For example. and throughout a conversation. as long as the new topic is "related" to the first (this is shown in the diagram by the "candidates") then this change is easy to do.2.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Candidate Topics Figure 4.
and some training (which . very quickly. positive way to look at anything. fun. conversations tend to go in one of several ways.) Page 79 . The flow of the conversation starts. positive aspects of every topic being discussed. • Other people able to direct conversations based on their own beliefs and their own political motivations as well.1 GENERAL CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Want.3. • Other people direct conversations based upon their own moral or religious values. By manipulating TTPs from moment to moment. you can direct where the overall conversation goes. As you have probably guessed by now.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Normally. 4. and they quick steer the conversation in that manner. conversations are one of four types: • • • • Fun. and interesting. positive.1-1. we are going to later teach you a way to be able to make these TTP selections. Many people do this "TTP selection" process automatically. D8-T16 D8-T16 So how can you actually affect the flow of a conversation. easily and naturally? That IS the point. choices are made moment to moment. with some awareness of this process. depressing Confrontational . fun. No matter WHAT you talk to them about... So to start our process of learning how to manage conversations. isn't it? In general... Sometimes this can be VERY apparent. and imagine if you had a general way to manipulate these TTPs.Those are just general examples. but you will have some control over the overall direction. fun. we want to first start to steer things in the best general manner. no one is "deciding" the TTPs. That ability alone is enough for our purposes. and do so in a way that sounds VERY natural. IMPORTANT: The overall direction of a conversation comes about due to a successive selection of TTPs.3. moment-to-moment. • Other people may do the opposite.3 4. interesting Mundane and uninteresting Negative.. to "route" conversations so that they end up being the kinds of conversations that YOU want to have. However. we want the conversation to be positive. (See Figure 4. Can you see how you may be able to affect where a conversation goes? You might not be able to predict EXACTLY where it ends up. Look in the diagrams. The overall strategy at the beginning is then to "talk about positive. In a very broad sense.) then you CAN direct how a conversation flows. no matter WHAT is discussed. and that work in YOUR favor. These types of people are making TTP selections based on a strategy of finding things that are negative to talk about.. is coming soon. they somehow see it in terms how in effects their beliefs. This selection just "happens". For example: • Maybe someone always finds a fun. they Good Boring Bad Argument could be more specific (and we will get there). and the conversation tend to into one of four general areas. they find a way to point out something negative. These people are able to automatically make TTP choices based on a strategy of finding good. interesting things".
Positive. Positive. interesting things. Positive. Introduce topics that are fun. fun. Don't engage in conversations when it's NOT about positive.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course General Conversational Management Conversations tend to flow in one of four major ways. steer towards Fun. No matter what is brought up. How do you do that? • • • Show interest when someone discusses positive. Strategic Formula for General Conversational Management To steer the conversation in a good direction. fun. positive and interesting.3. fun. If you break that down into 4 main directions. so from the earliest stages. Page 80 . bring up positive. Figure 4. you can still "steer" back towards "Fun. and Interesting" things. interesting things. interesting things. and Interesting". you see that you want to focus the conversation onto topics that are "Fun.1-1: General Conversational Management Consider all of the ways a conversation can go. Even if things move towards other areas. and Interesting topics and subjects. do what you can to steer in that direction.
• Etc. the TTP. For any subject. Positive.3. Which Of these are Fun.2 How To Steer Conversations. Positive. and Interesting". as long as it moves things in a way that answers the question "Where can I go that is fun."Where can I go that is fun. and then steer things in the correct direction.2-1.3. positive. positive.. positive. and interesting"? Moment-to-moment. By manipulating TTPs from moment to moment. and Interesting? That is the direction to go! Candidate Topics Figure 4.2-1: Topic Turning Point Navigation for General Conversational Management No matter what subject you start talking about. you make note of where you are in the conversation.The overall direction of a conversation comes about due to a successive selection of TTPs. move things towards the related topics that are "Fun. as we discussed earlier.Where can I go that is "fun. Moment To Moment D8-T19 Look at the overall flow of a conversation and break it down to its smallest point that we can affect. You think of the "candidates" (the related topics or subjects that you can discuss) that serve you at the time. How do you move things in that direction? You can: • Ask a question • Make a comment • Make a joke • Quote someone you heard. and interesting" (See Figure 4.3. TTP Mantra . . or something you read. Repeat. the topic "candidates" that were shown earlier).. positive. and interesting" and just move things in that direction.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4. TTP options. You then think of several ways you can go (the related topics. and then you move things in that direction! Remember . you can always think of 6-8 other related topics or subjects. and interesting?" Move the conversation in that direction. Page 81 . So you just think to yourself "Where can I go that is fan.) Tactical Formula for General Conversational Management Keep thinking . you can direct where the overall conversation goes.
3 The Model With Strategy And Tactics In Place D8-T23 As you make TTP choice after TTP choice (See Figure 4.3. Positive. 4.. "fun. positive.3.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Later in the conversation.3.) Keep things moving in the direction of Fun. Page 82 . the most important thing to do is to focus on moving thing in a direction that is .3. You are steering things towards the direction that you want the conversation to go. and Interesting! Figure 4.3-2. but in the early part of the conversation. just keep thinking about where you can go that is "Fun. and interesting". (See Figure 4.. you can work more towards certain topic areas. and Interesting". Positive.).3-1: Moving Through Topics Using General Conversational Management Early in a conversation.3-1. you get to an overall "area" that will work. Do this for a while.
3.4 Exercises and Assignments D8-T25 Exercises for General Conversational Management 1) Think of some conversations that you have been in recently.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course General Conversational Mgt Model No matter where you start. and Interesting topics and subjects. and Interesting!/ Figure 4. always move towards topics and subjects that are Fun. keep steering in the right direction and in many cases you WILL get towards the right area soon enough (and if not. what was the main topic? Topics Page 83 . maybe that person is not someone that you want to talk to anyway). and write down the topic for each. At some particular moment early in the conversation. or where you are. is towards Fun.3.3-2: General Conversational Management Model The most important direction to go. 4. Even if you temporarily move away from that direction or end up in an area that is not very positive or interesting. especially early in a conversation. Positive. Positive.
For each of those Topics. list 6-8 different ways you could go. directions you could "take" the conversation (these are the TTP Options. things you could comment on.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 2) Based on each of those topics. Topic TTP Options (Candidate Topics') Page 84 . or Candidate Topics). Write each of those down. ask about. consider it a topic that leads to a TTP (copy each item above into the "Topic" area below).
4) For each Topic. maybe by making a comment. etc. Positive..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Of the 6-8 different TTP Options you have written above for each Topic. Page 85 . what would it have been like to have moved the conversation in the direction of the first item you circled? Practice that out loud for each Topic above. which are the best? Which of these would move the conversation in a way that is best for you (think of "Fun. making a statement. 5) Practice again on each by moving things in the direction of the second item that was circled. and Interesting")? Select two "candidates" and circle or highlight those two. asking a question. whatever it might take to move things in that direction.
Positive. and positive conversation. Just do what you can so that the TTP shifts in a direction that is fun.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Assignments for General Conversational Management 1) For the next week or so. the more YOU can and will become that guy! 4. D8-T33 D8-T33 We want the conversation to be more than just positive.Is that the sort of person you want to talk to and spend time with? Maybe not. don't worry. • By moving things in this way. When talking to anyone." 4. You may start to find however. 2) Now that you are able to quickly find 1 or 2 good TTP options. Maybe start out by looking at conversation after the fact. positive. whatever it takes. where COULD I have taken things". positive and interesting topics.5 Summary D8-T32 Remember what was said earlier: • The overall direction of a conversation comes about due to a successive selection of TTPs (which normally occur at random. It WILL get easier. but the REAL key is to at least get to the point where you can very quickly think of at least 1 or 2 ways to go that are Fun. If this is a challenge for you. We want to focus the aim of our conversational management skills even more. really be aware of the TTP opportunities in your day-to-day life. Make it so that it becomes easy for you to come up with a list of "options" very quickly. the conversation becomes more enjoyable for everyone. Instead of the more general area of fun. that no matter WHAT you do with some people. At any moment you should be able to think "Where can I go with this?". we are turning you into someone that people LIKE to talk to! You know the type of person that people enjoy talking to. we can start to direct the conversation into an even BETTER area. and spending time with? The type of guy that people seek out to spend time with? The more you do these types of exercises. fascinating. start to take the conversation there! Ask a question. Interesting. the imagination moving.4 4.4. By manipulating TTPs from moment to moment. we want to work with topics that get the emotions involved. having conversations with. make a comment. After a while. interesting. Do this for a while until the process of finding 1 or 2 good "Ways to go" in a conversation (good TTP options) can happen very rapidly for you. interesting. you may have to think of 6-8 options. they will not go down a path of having a fun. inquire about something. You then have to wonder . or without an overall strategy in mind). we want things to get even more Page 86 . and people REALLY interested. even at the start of a conversation. thinking "what COULD I have done. maybe offer an opinion.1 ADVANCED CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Really Want. At first. In general.3. etc. Building on what we learned in the last section. look for moments where things can be "steered" in a certain way. we want it to be really interesting. you can direct where the overall conversation goes. engaging.
Now from that point. more excitement. we were able to move things in the direction of Fun.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course interesting. Positive. we now shift our strategy of "steering" things to direct the topics in a more focused manner using Advanced Conversational Management. So we narrow our focus. you move it in ways that engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way.4. (See Figure 4. From there. and Interesting. Strategic Formula for Advanced Conversational Management To direct the conversation into even BETTER areas. To move the conversation into more interesting areas. there are many ways to go. to "steer" things even more towards what we want. there are many ways the conversation can move. how do we work that in what we are doing moment-to-moment? How can we do things that will make that happen? Page 87 . steer the conversation towards directions that engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way. there were 4 main directions towards which a conversation may go.4. and steer using Advanced Conversational Management Figure 4. With that as a general strategy. Interesting area. Positive. We use our strategy of working with the TTPs. We move forward and want to get a more emotional tone. So.1-1: Advanced Conversational Management Focuses the Steering From the start of a conversation. and more involvement of the imagination.) General Conversational Management takes the conversation into the Fun. Using General Conversational Management.1-1.
4. Interesting Topics Which of these "Engage the Emotions and imagination in a Positive Way"? That is the direction to go! Candidate Topics Figure 4.) Page 88 . and with that strategy in mind. we need to change the way the model is shown. Repeat. See Figure 4. and explain a bit more as to its meaning and interpretation.3-1 for an explanation. 4. we look at the concept of the TTP. and Interesting" area. TTP Fun.4.2-1. (See Figure 4.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4. Positive. With that established.3 The Model With Advanced Strategy And Tactics In Place D8-T38 (Before we move on to looking at the model.4.) TTP Mantra " Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Tactical Formula for Advanced Conversational Management Keep thinking .4.2-1: Topic Turning Point Navigation for Advanced Conversational Management After using General Conversational Management for a while.2 Steering Conversations Moment To Moment using Advanced Conversational Management D8-T35 Again. Positive. but now think "where can I go that will engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". we can assume that we are talking about subjects which fit into the "Fun.Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Move the conversation in that direction.4. we need to use the TTP as a way to move things in the right direction. we shift the focus of how we navigate TTPs.
When starting from ANY topic (1) to a place where you are firmly established for a period of time in a Fun. The locations of points (1). it may take ten. Positive. the graphics we will use will show an even more "condensed" version of this process. It may happen in ten minutes. with thousands upon thousands of possible possible routes and outcomes. Figure 4. or thirty. Positive. But after using the general techniques (Fun.4.3-1: Understanding the Conversational Management Model The "levels" shown in the models are not meant to be exact. etc. (2). For example. and (3) in the figure above (and in the next figure) helps to show this. and Interesting conversation (2) may take four steps. Page 89 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Understanding the Conversational Management Model The model attempts to show a process that has many many steps. there can be a whole "tree" of possibilities leading from there. For example.) the conversation moves on for a while. From now on in the course. we are not showing that there are exactly "four steps" between points (1) and (2). so that the various stages of a conversation can be easily illustrated. not an exact number of steps or outcomes. where every "step" (TTP. once again ending up with thousands of topics that could be discussed by the time you get through more topic shifts (3). At that point. In practice. but a way to show a "trend". or topic shift) shown on the digram may represent many steps in an actual conversation. This can result in so many possibilities (many thousands within a few steps) that it's important to look at these diagrams as a way to show "trend". the model above is what we used to show a starting point (1). and it ends up at a certain area (2). these diagrams will indicate a VERY condensed version of the number of steps involved.
the conversation will get more and more of an "emotional" tone to it.4. Then a shift is made towards focusing the conversation even more using Advanced Conversational Management. This is shown from point (1) to point (2) in the diagram. For a while.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course We started at one topic. only a few of which are shown in the diagram. you can see how General Conversational Management. 8. if you use the language tools which we learned about earlier in the course. we now focus more on moving in a direction that will "Engage the Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way". and Interesting conversation (2). until it is firmly established that the conversation has engaged the emotions and imagination of the participant. This too can take any number of steps. This also is followed for a series of steps and a period of time. Page 90 . If you refer to Figure 4. are used together to move forward in a conversation. subjects. After that has been established. If you follow these two simple strategies together (and the tactical approach of simply watching the TTPs and moving things in the right way). Positive. 20. As time goes on. 10 topic shifts. Now the emphasis is on ways to "Engage the Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way". exciting. This is shown between points (2) and (3). you end up linking and associating many fascinating. General Conversational Management techniques are used. 10. and states. the conversation will get better and better.3-2: Advanced Conversational Management Model Early in the conversation. to yourself! Advanced Conversational Management Model Figure 4. we focused the conversation towards moving things in a direction that is "Fun Positive and Interesting. And of course while doing that. in practice it may be good to follow a series of topics for 5. emotional topics.4. and then Advanced Conversational Management. The subjects will get more and more fascinating.3-2. feelings. and could be at any of thousands of topics after 6. or 30 minutes. or however long it takes to be firmly established in a Fun. Although the diagram shows only 2 steps (for simplicity).
list 6-8 different ways you could go. ask about.4 Exercises and Assignments D8-T39 Exercises for Advanced Conversational Management 1) Think of some conversations that you have been in recently.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4. what was the main topic? Topics 2) Based on each of those topics. For each of those Topics. directions you could "take" the conversation (these are the TTP Options. TTP Options (Candidate Topics') Page 91 .4. consider it a topic that leads to a TTP (copy each above into the "Topic" areas below). positive. These should be conversations where it is already obvious that it is a fun. or Candidate Topics). things you could comment on. and interesting conversation. At some particular moment in that conversation. and write down the topic for each. Write each of those down. Topic a.
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thinking "what COULD I have done. positive. we are "steering" things more and more in a direction that we wish to go.5 4. making a statement.. Do this for a while. but the REAL key is to at least get to the point where you can very quickly think of at least 1 or 2 ways to go that "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way".. 2) Now that you are able to quickly find 1 or 2 good TTP options for yourself that "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". until the process of finding 1 or 2 ways to go that "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way" in a conversation can happen very rapidly for you. really be aware of the TTP opportunities in your day-to-day life. make a comment. asking a question. etc. we focus further on the TTP options! Page 93 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Of the 6-8 different TTP Options you have written above for each Topic. you may have to think of 6-8 options. seductive things. 4) For each Topic. Maybe start out by looking at conversation after the fact. 5) Practice again on each by moving things in the direction of the second item that was circled. don't worry. At first. This is best when applied to a conversation that is ALREADY fun. Just do what you can so that the TTP shifts in a direction that can "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". but be especially aware of wanting to move things to "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". once again. whatever it might take to move things in that direction. start to take the conversation there! Ask a question. Assignments for Advanced Conversational Management 1) For the next week or so.5.4.1 Summary MORE ADVANCED CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT More About Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Really Want. we want to steer things more towards romantic. fascinating. If this is a challenge for you. which 1 or 2 would tend to "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way"? Which ones move things in a way that is best for you? Select two "candidates" and circle or highlight these two. So. It WILL get easier. 4. D8-T46 D8-T47 D8-T47 As you can see.. and interesting. even things with some degree of sensual connotation to them. maybe by making a comment. what would it have been like to have moved the conversation in the direction of the first item you circled? Practice that out loud for each Topic above. So. whatever it takes. inquire about something.5 4. where COULD I have taken things". maybe offer an opinion. what next? At some point in the conversation.
4. Moving towards romantic. and then topics that engage the emotions and imagination. fascinating. and followed the other strategies and tactics shown earlier. seductive things is much easier after you have first move towards fun.5.3 The Model With More Advanced Strategy And Tactics In Place D8-T52 We are just closing in.) Page 94 . fascinating. steer the conversation towards romantic. The focus now is upon topics that get you closer towards Romantic. if you have been in a conversation for a while. Fascinating. Repeat.5. fascinating."Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. then the focus shifts again towards directing things in a specific way. seductive things?" Figure 4. and seductive things.2 Steering Conversations Using More Advanced Conversational Management D8-T49 TTP Mantra (See Figure 4. This gets her mind into thinking more and more about these things. and associating YOU with them! (See Figure 4. fascinating. This may seem odd or hard to do.2-1: Topic Turning Point Navigation for More Advanced Conversational Management After using General and Advanced Conversational Management. However. 4.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Strategic Formula for More Advanced Conversational Management To further direct the conversation into even BETTER areas. you will have taken things in the right direction and this will be much easier.5.) "Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic.3-1.5.2-1. Seductive things Tactical Formula for More Advanced Conversational Management Keep thinking . positive and interesting thing. seductive things?" Move the conversation in that direction. and focusing more and more towards areas and topics that work.5.
and Seductive. there is a different focus at each stage. which targets topics and subjects that are Romantic. moving to point (4) Page 95 . and Interesting. Positive. After that type of conversation has been established (3). Fascinating. Then the Advanced Conversational Management Techniques place the focus more upon items that involve the Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way. shown from point (1) to (2). General Conversational Management techniques place the focus on selecting items that are Fun.3-1: More Advanced Conversational Management Model As the conversation progresses.5.. moving to point (3).Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course More Advanced Conversational Management Model Figure 4. Early on. the focus moves towards selecting items based on More Advanced Conversational Management.
6 CONVERSATIONAL FRACTIONATION D9-T1 Using these Conversational Management skills in the real world may be quite different in practice from the way most guys "think" it will happen. then a sensual one. (See Figure 4. This hardly ever ever happens.6.1-1: The Dream of a 1-Shot Path To Success! A common misperception is that many guys think that if they can just move a conversation from the start. Moreover.1-1. to a positive one. 4. that they will get an AMAZING reaction in their first movement across the Model. will work in your favor.1 The 1-Shot Beeline Fallacy D9-T2 Guys assume that they will travel from a general topic. Page 96 .6. and then .6. and get things to be more and more fascinating and exciting.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4. and then an emotional one. Too many guys are too caught up in this one-shot dream of traveling once across the model and getting an amazing result.) The Dream that Does Not Happen! Figure 4.MAGIC! However that is NOT the way it works in the real world. the way it really DOES happen.
When we say "go back". You just start the process again. Then at some point. This actually works better! We are actually using Fractionation. Just start the process again. This actually ADDS to the power and effectiveness of what you are doing. So.. Maybe several times. Then you "back up" to some extent (even all the way back to a very general topic area) and then move forward across the model again. the conversation ends up being very interesting and fascinating! 4. you go back towards something more "normal". stay there and talk about it for a while.. You might do that on your own.3 Using Conversational Fractionation D9-T5 Start at some normal topic and move through the model towards the right.. and then at some point. No problem. In this way. You back up to a more general topic. you take a conversation from the early stages through the process. no matter where you start.31. This is where a process is done repeatedly over and over. So. you may jump back just several steps in our Conversational Management Process. starts. (See Figure 4. If you get to a very good place.6. And again.6. you are always moving towards positive topics. g) Do the whole process over and over. e) Then move back (towards the left side of the model) This may happen because: • The person you are talking to does that (she asks a question) • Or maybe you do it (just to lighten things up) f) Then start again. restarts.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4. The conversation starts. No problem. Start at any topic (you are on the far left side of the Model) Move forward towards the right. you back off.. emotional and imaginative topics. moving through the model towards the right.. Maybe you start from a very general topic and get all the way through the model towards a very very fascinating topic or subject.2 How Fractionation Works D9-T3 The real world has stops. and fascinating and seductive topics.) a) b) c) d) Page 97 . Use the language tools. Because no matter where you start from.. Of if you can't seem to get to a good place. Have fun. using the Conversational Management techniques Get as far through the model as you can.6. here is how this works. and then . goes for some distance through the model (maybe all the way through). Great! Talk about that for a while. no matter how the conversation jumps around.. or maybe the conversation shifts back to that place due to something she says.. etc. move on to the next step.. Maybe you move all the way back to a very "normal" topic (which would be all the way on the left side of the model)..
6. that no matter WHAT you talk about. simply back up (3) and then try moving into a better direction (4). at times maybe they move towards an area that is not too good (2). You become one of those fascinating guys. Fractionation happens at times because even when you may be at a fairly good place for a while (8). it ends up being fun.3-1: How Conversation Fractionation Works on the Model Follow the conversation as it moves from (1) to (12). it's not a bad idea to back up a bit (9) and then move forward again. and fascinating! 4.6. As time goes on (5-12) the conversation gets into better and better areas. interesting. The overall trend is that. over time. there is a continued movement up and into better and better areas of conversation. As things move forward from (1).4 Dead Ends Come Back To Life! D9-T6 With this new strategy of using Conversational Fractionation. This is not a problem. there is no such thing as a conversational "Dead End"! Page 98 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Conversational Fractionation at Work Figure 4.
No problem. and the person becomes interested and fascinated. have more material to use in conversations in the future! 4. you just back up. Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. use the language tools as much as possible! D9-T8 • • • • • • • • • Keep moving the conversation into these interesting fascinating areas . Where can I go that is fun.. —* The entire time: o If you hit a "dead end". stay there for a while. use the language tools. back up a few steps. o If you get to a good subject or topic. with you! 4.7...Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course If you happen to take a "wrong turn" somehow and get into an area of discussion that is boring. and go down another path! 4. this can happen. • What if you can't make the conversation positive? • What if she always points out the negative aspect? • What if there is NO emotional engagement at ALL? Well. or what you both have in common Move forward with the Strategies and Tactics in mind. and use the Strategy and Tactics of the Conversational Management techniques! Look at "Dead Ends" as being just like a bad turn on a road.7 CONVERSATIONAL OVERVIEW AND REVIEW D9-T7 So. and interesting? Move things in that direction. and get the effect. seductive things? Move things in that direction.2 What If The Outcome Is Not What You Expected? D9-T9 Despite your best efforts..7. (think of your TTP options). how do we pull this together? 4. Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Move things in that direction.3 Summary D9-T10 Go have fun with these tools! Page 99 ..1 • Conversational Management Approach Start on just about ANY subject. o Comment on what is around o Mention common items. Do that for a while and then think .. you might have just found out that they are NOT someone you want to spend time with! That's not a total loss because you STILL learned more. fascinating.. uninteresting.. Just back up.. Do that for a while and then think . or maybe negative. positive. talked more. When on good topics.7. etc.
However. and that statement (regarding having actually talked to someone about the topics) will be TRUE! So. so that YOU have some material. and THEY said. and while talking about subjects and topics that YOU are really passionate about. yes! How well can you talk about topics that YOU are passionate about while using many of the language tools we talked about in the earlier parts of the course? If you can do that very well . Now we want you to become familiar with topics that will really work well for you! We are going to work with some of these topics. to get the best effect you will have to be a PART of that conversation and familiar with the topics that may come up. Most men may not be very familiar with many of the topics that we REALLY want to get into. the easier it will get. What do you talk about? There is no substitute for experience. and some familiarity with this type of thing. and closer towards the subjects that will really serve your intent. fun. Topics • • 5. what can we do here in this course to help you? We have talked about the way to talk and use language.great! It's easier to use the language tools if you are discussing topics with which you are familiar. and then the more "material" you will have.. The more experience you get. Talking about these topics may be a challenge for many men.. You will be able to say things like "I was talking to someone about this the other day. if using those language tools is problem for you. Can you talk passionately about something? Anything? Hopefully. You want to be able to discuss these topics easily.) Before you can use the language tools with new subjects that you are learning about.0 TOPICS D9-T11 What do you talk about? As the conversation gets more interesting. this is something we can and will work on with you. the more you talk to people about such things.1 Themes are a way through a discussion or through the "tree of subjects" that we showed earlier. A topic is a particular area of discussion that is taking place in a moment. the more familiar you will be with these topics.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 5. In the meantime. However.". Themes vs. TOPICS OF ENTHUSIASM AND PASSION D9-T14 What are you passionate about? Few things are more compelling in a person than for them to be passionate about something (hopefully many things) in life. you should be able to use them with subjects in which you are already interested! Page 101 . some practice. then you may want to go back in those earlier sections. fascinating. we have talked about managing conversations. fascinating. especially as they get more interesting. and it's even better if you are passionate about those topics. go ahead and practice! (Or maybe do that the next time you go through the course.
) Page 102 . Topics that access emotions.2 SEDUCTION ORIENTED TOPICS D9-T15 In the context of this course (and your intent in talking with . How good are you at the earlier sections that dealt with the language tools? It may be a good idea to go back over those sections. or topics that are very close to that concept.. These are called "Seduction Oriented Topics". or the office. at least.. stay there as long as you can! Talk about it. can create an AMAZING effect! When you do get a conversation into an area near an SOT. (Every guy has his favorites and ones that work best for him. and seductive. judge for yourself. in some ways.. but doing so while using the language tools. someone) some topics are easier to work with than others. feelings. You may talk about cars. a topic that is an SOT. The conversational management sections will help you to move the conversation in a way that will get you near these topics areas... in the right way Use the language tools! You want to be familiar with these topics (SOTs) and able to discuss them easily: maybe not ALL of them. and emphasize discussing topics in which YOU are interested and passionate about. or. Examples of SOTs • Connections • Going for it • Making good decisions • Surrendering to feelings • Getting excited • Feeling excited • Trusting your judgment • Taking chances • Indulgence • Maturity • Good decisions • .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course So. but a good number of them. or sports.just TALKING about these can create a good effect.Topics that bring up images and thoughts that are romantic. 5. excitement. or cleaning the toilet. Seduction Oriented Topics (SOTs) . Your point is to get to. sensual.. etc. and link it to you! When • • • • • you are at or near an SOT: Use the correct tone of Voice Pace and Lead correctly Link things to you Point at the right times. but how effective are those as subjects given the "purpose" of the discussion? You want to discuss topics and things which deal with seduction. or near. You want to be able to discuss topics that deal on some level with Seduction. work it. SOTs are the "end goals" when it comes to managing or directing a conversation.
read. or seduction per se. Exercises for Seduction Oriented Topics 1) Build your own list of SOTs. ask about them. hopefully some way that involves you and your own life. you JUST need to be able to talk.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course These topics may seem foreign to you. or in movies.. the more you work with the materials. Eventually. and hopefully add some of your own. the more you practice using the tools. or anything like that. Assignments for Seduction Oriented Topics 1) Pay attention to conversations in your life (even things you hear on the radio. and without "thinking" about the language tools.. have stories about them.. Don't worry about talking to women. or comment on them! Talk aloud for several minutes about each. talk about something you heard. the easier it will be to "riff" on these using the language tools. or ask questions. Get the conversation there. or on TV. but the more you think about them. bring up images and thoughts that may work for you. and also topics that you have heard in other materials and products that you have. Meaning. or overhear from others) and listen for when any of these SOTs come up in conversation. and while there. the more you practice. Page 103 . or even watched in a movie! (Or heard in a course that you took . Or. by there very nature. and the more you talk to and with people about them. keep it there. the easier it will get! Strategic Formula for Seduction Oriented Topics SOTs are topics that. use as many of the language tools as you can. using as many of the language tools as you can. Or are taking!) .Are you able to somehow relate to these in your own life? Maybe something you read or heard? Maybe questions you can ask? ANYTHING?!?!? You do not need to "know" a lot about these topics or be an expert. you will be able to just "talk" about the subject while using the tools that are available. and discuss these subjects. easily. You can use some of those that were listed earlier if you wish. 3) Practice talking about each aloud. Write down your list of SOTs. Seduction Oriented Topics 2) You must become familiar with these! You must be able to talk about them. Think of SOME way to discuss these. Think about other topics you have heard mentioned in this program. or joke about them.
it WILL get easier. See? We are working on a process to get you to become more comfortable and familiar with these things. Page 104 . the more you listen. ask an opinion. However. etc. or even when anything CLOSE to one of your SOTs is discussed. this process must start somewhere. Really! Learning to discuss such things may start out slowly. 5. They did it.SOTXs D9-T24 What if you had not just 10 ways of discussing "Seduction Oriented" subjects. this is one of the key challenges that many guys face. and makes it easier for you to talk about them. or even just TRY to do so.. You listen more to when they are discussed.").Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Listen to what is being said. what is said. "the other day I heard someone talking about. However. but had even more? Maybe 50? What if that was easy and familiar for you? Think back to how we looked at topics earlier.. but this time with SOTs. These are called Expanded SOTs (SOTXs). and easily come up with 6-8 related topics. SOT Summary I KNOW that these topics may seem foreign to you. (As in.. it gets easier to enter into more conversations that deal with these topics. We learned how you can move from any topic. That is understandable. That gives YOU more familiarity with discussing them. ask. and move through these exercises and assignments. Maybe ask some questions about things that deal with your SOTs. It may start a bit slowly and awkwardly. then the more material YOU will have to talk about. That's what we want to do here. ask what something means. Because of that. That makes you really think about them. You do a few exercises to talk about them. So can you. and start to get your brain working on them. The more you hear. Make special note of topics that are CLOSE or similar to these SOTs in some way. I can tell you that it DOES get easier and easier to be able to talk about these things. They started and became more and more familiar with these topics. after having worked with hundreds of guys.Talk about these subjects and topics! Make a point to enter into a discussion when one of your SOTs is mentioned. but as long as you start it. show interest. And that gives you MORE material to talk about! Which make it easier for you to enter into more conversations about these subjects and topics. but we are walking you through (at least the first steps of) the process to make this easier: • • • • • • • • • • • You have made a list of SOTs.3 EXPANDED SEDUCTION ORIENTED TOPICS . You start to listen and take notice of when these are discussed. Use as many of the language tools as you can. anything at all! Talk. quote. Then you get to hear MORE people talk about them. Many guys who can now talk about these things VERY easily and comfortably started from a place of having NO idea of what to say! They changed. and frankly. discuss. what people think. 2) Now . make a comment.
. places.. They think of only one way of talking about that subject. how we discussed a Topic Turning Point?) If Connections is a particular subject. comes up in a conversation. how easy would it be to talk about how you CONNECT with those? And if you talk about Page 105 .with a girlfriend . you now have 6-8 ways to discuss it. you can take any SOT. the SOTX list consists of all of these items shown in the diagram and listed below.. family.. but can you think of 6-8 different aspects of this? (Remember what we did in the earlier sections.. etc. you can talk about that for while. Then.. That just makes it easier for our example below).Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Expanding on a Topic Area "Connections" is an SOT.with pets . . (You do not really need to list "connections with" for each.with friends .with coworkers .3-1: How SOTs are related to an SOTXs.. For any given SOT. That is one subject.with family . (Does that diagram look familiar?) If "Connections" is an SOT. Instead of worrying about getting to that one topic (SOT) in a certain way.. Look at the list above.. or only one aspect of that to discuss (connections in a romantic or sensual context). see Figure 5. it's easy to think of several different aspects of that topic or related topics.with music ....3-1.... there are many different types or examples of connecting to people. and things that can be discussed. pets. SOT Connections SOTX Connections with family Connections with friends Connections with coworkers Connections with pets Connections with a girlfriend Connections with someone you just met Connections with someone while on vacation Connections with music Connections with your teammates Many guys worry about talking about something like "Connections". coworkers.. and build a whole list of very similar things to talk about -which are SOTXs! For example.with someone you just met .with someone while on vacation . However as we see here.with your teammates Figure 5. can you think of different aspects of that? Parts of Connections? Questions about Connections? Ways of experiencing Connections? People or things with which you can experience Connections? By asking those types of questions (to yourself). if friends..
or how that topic can be experienced. it's very easy to then shift. if someone is talking about pets.to .. c. a. you can be as close as one step away from an SOT. ask a question.) and for each SOT. how to connect with people.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course THAT (how you connect in that manner) for a while. This is your SOTX list. or a special person. that you just met! When you expand SOTs in this way. or maybe even someone. then you can shift towards ANOTHER type of "connection" very easily! (See Figure 5. b... (Yes.3-2: SOTXs Can Lead Into SOTs If any of the topics in the SOTX list comes up in conversation. or different aspects of that topic. and how you (or someone else) can connect with a pet. you are to list 5 (at least) related topics.. If you talk about that for a while.) Family Friends Coworkers Pets Connections A girlfriend Someone you just met Someone met on vacation Music Teammates Figure 5. all of a sudden there are many MORE ways to get to these really GREAT topics! Exercises f o r Expanded Seduction Oriented T o p i c s 1) Take the SOT list you had earlier (copy those down into the first column below. then you can shift to talking about "how you can connect with a pet" fairly easily.. etc. point out an example regarding pets.3-2. this is a TTP diagram in reverse!) For example. Just make a comment.. SOTs " SOTXs List Page 106 .
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then about connecting in general. (Like the earlier example. You have 50 SOTXs that you are now familiar with as well.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 2) Now for each SOTX. practice talking about it out loud. you talk about pets. and see if you can then focus what you are saying towards the SOT itself. Step back and look at what you have done! You have 10 SOTs with which YOU are familiar. Talk about that SOTX for a moment or two. but now do so while using the language tools. That gives you a LOT of flexibility in conversations! Page 108 . then about connecting with pets.) 3) Do the same thing again.
with pets Connections . that process can work both ways. It ALL gets easier! 2) Start to "direct" the conversations you encounter where your SOTXs are mentioned.with friends .. The more you work with this.with someone while on vacation ..with a girlfriend . The techniques that you have learned are the sort of things that many people do naturally.with coworkers .. concept of "topics related to a topic" in many many places. it is easy to then move the conversation towards topics that will work better for you (SOTs).. In addition. but it IS related to an SOT that I have worked with".with your teammates Family Friends Coworkers Pets A girlfriend Someone you just met Someone met on vacation Music Teammates Connections This is how we developed SOTXs This is the most useful way of thinking of SOTXs Figure 5.4 CONVERSATIONAL MODEL WITH SOTXs. "I didn't list that SOTX. Maybe you will even start to notice SOTXs that were not even ON your list. If anything like an SOTX comes up in a conversation. use such techniques a LOT. See if you can move the conversation a bit towards the SOT itself. 5. You may think. You will start to notice this. We have broken these down. modeled the process arid the steps involved. broke it into bits and pieces that you can learn and do as exercises... However. ..with music .. The more familiar you are with these subjects. Summary You now have MORE material to work with than you ever thought possible! This is not about memorizing....with family ..with someone you just met . use the language tools if and whenever you can.. and then built upon that step by step.. especially politicians and activists. the easier it will be to notice SOTXs. spotting these opportunities get easier and easier.4-1.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Assignments for Expanded Seduction Oriented Topics 1) Look at all of your SOTXs! That's a LOT of subjects! Pay attention in your life to see how often any of those items come up in conversation (or maybe you just hear them somewhere). it's about getting YOU comfortable and familiar with these topics. and move the conversation towards SOTs.. The real usefulness of this is when you reverse the order as shown in Figure 5.4-1: SOTXs Are The Pathways To SOTs SOTXs are an easy way to get towards SOTs. Page 109 . you know that you are very close to getting near a subject area that will work very well for you. if you hear any of them mentioned. or anything like them mentioned. . SOTXs are now like "conversational landmarks" for you in terms of navigating a conversation.. Good speakers... D9-T32 We discussed how to develop an SOTX list from an SOT.
and 50 SOTXs (in the earlier exercises) you now have many many SOTXs with which YOU are familiar! More importantly. that is not an abbreviation or exaggeration. and then towards SOTs. you now see how easy it can be to move over to an SOT! In fact. In many of the diagrams. SOTXs SOTs Figure 5..without "thinking" about them. However in the figure above. to be able to notice when you are talking about things which are "close to" topics that will work well for you. As the topics get better and better. this will start to happen for you.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course So whenever you are having a conversation. If you have followed the program. After all. you have practiced with so many of these SOTXs.4-2. and done the exercises and assignments. Figure 5. you have started to train yourself to "recognize" these landmarks. or the SOTXs. we have had to compress or simplify them quite a bit and show only a fraction of the actual steps and numbers involved so that the diagrams do not become too large or complex. and for you to just start to "recognize" these things on your own . there are really 50 SOTXs and 10 SOTs shown . you have already worked with 10 SOTs and 50 SOTXs as shown in Figure 5. and anything like an SOTX comes up in the discussion. that this process will now be easier than you may have imagined. you will get closer and closer to SOTXs. we can then show them as part of our Conversational Model. The point here (again) is not to memorize the SOTs.the number that YOU have actually worked with so far! Since SOTXs and SOTs are the "goals" in terms of managing a conversation. It's to have you practice and become familiar with them.4-3 shows this in the model itself. Page 110 .4-2: Your Multiple Pathways to SOTs! Now that you have worked with 10 SOTs.
Move towards SOTs. Period. Then move the conversation towards an SOT! This works.5 THE COMPLETE CONVERSATIONAL MODEL D9-T33 Start from any topic and get to where you want! Yes.5-1. When you get to an SOTx.) Page 111 . and topics that are close to that (SOTXs). then start to pay attention for SOTXs. and ANY TOPIC. or as close as you can towards SOTs. or anything that is "related" to an SOT.. you start to "listen" for topics that are SOTXs. just follow the steps listed earlier in the Conversational Management sections. it's that you have trained yourself to recognize things that are SOTs. and using this type of approach you will have fascinating conversations with people that lead to where YOU want to go! (See Figure 5.4-3: SOTs Are THE Goals in Conversational Management As you move through a conversation. SOTXs SOTs Listen for SOTXs Anything near or related to an SOT. then you can simply move things towards a topic that is very seduction-oriented! The point is not to have a "list" in mind. Stay there for a while if you can! Figure 5. which are topics near or related to seduction (a step or two away from SOTs). 5.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course SOTs in the Conversational Management Model The end goal is to get to. You can start from almost ANYWHERE. SOTXs are a pathway to make that easier. you can start from just about ANY topic and get to GREAT topics! It's easy.
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Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Figure 5.Romantic.Engaging the emotions and imagination in a positive way .. or very close! Page 113 . start over! Assignment! 1) Try it! Start directing conversations using the conversational management model.. and see how easy it is to get to some good topic that is an SOT...Fun. interesting . Fractionate If you take a wrong turn. Steer towards . back up! If you move back to a general topic. Steer towards . seductive things Direct the Conversation Pay attention when Good Subjects come up (SOTXs) Listen for anything a step or two away from an SOT Move towards SOTs Stay there as long as you can Use The Language Tools! As much as possible.5-1: The Complete Conversational Management Model (continued) Start a Conversation Manage the Conversation Move the Conversation in a Good Direction Steer towards . exciting. Especially when at or near SOTXs and SOTs. or SOTX.. fascinating..
It's best to just think of patterns as examples. THAT ends up being a very effective way to create "patterns". These smaller skills become automatic and you focus instead of driving. handling the gas pedal. • Instead. think about having a conversation (and managing it correctly). that's the key. Use the language tools.0 6. In the same manner. The navigation is handled through our use of Conversational Management techniques. you make decisions on-the-spot as to what to do and how to proceed. 6. A New way of thinking about the use of patterns • The wrong way is to talk to someone and to keep thinking. Its just a "type" of talking that you can (and will be able to) use when you feel it is appropriate. or model to be followed in making things.You don't play the entire game ahead of time. asking. Examples/Analogies: • Sports . The Pattern Formula in detail. or "how can I bring up a pattern that I know". "how can I get to my pattern". and as "a way of speaking". or series of actions. or navigation. the clutch. • While talking to a woman. With this new approach to learning and using these tools.1 PATTERNS PATTERN OVERVIEW D10-T1 What is a pattern? • A plan. Patterns are just examples of the use of these tools. get her to "experience" good feelings and states o Use the Conversational Management Techniques to get there o Get her to think about good and/or exciting feelings Page 115 . A representative sample.Many of the details of driving a car are things you just "do". or could say. • An example of what you can say. Amplify these feelings and states by talking. Don't think of "how can I get to the pattern". "A plan" or "model". we have practiced the small details (language skills) so that these are automatic. You practice bits and pieces of the sport. She may take the conversation into better places that you could have predicted. You don't have to think about moving the wheel. diagram. and being aware of when you DO get to an area of conversation that does allow you to use a pattern. get her to "experience" good feelings and states. • Driving . we work in that manner. • Maybe talk to a woman and allow HER to bring up things that end up working well in pattern-like language. We practice specific parts of areas of the skills we wish to use later on. Once you actually play the game though. Link and associate these feelings to you. certain actions. etc. clarifying.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 6. Present a Call to action.2 PATTERN FORMULA D10-T7 Tactical Formula for Patterns While talking to a woman. or "how can I bring this pattern up". plus these areas will work for HER because SHE selected them (in a manner of speaking) • Talk and manage the conversation into an area that DOES work for you.
etc Link and associate those feelings to you o Use the Language Tools o Use linkage phrases like "now with me".. "Canned" patterns. asking. Their best use is when you use the Conversational Management techniques and then find that the conversation just happens to get to or near a pattern that you DO happen to know already. canned patterns are good. what you need to do is to look at.. pre-written patterns that you have seen and heard. sound quite strange. if you just "drop" a pattern into the conversation. Some times that does happen. don't focus TOO much on them. The problem is if you are SO focused on just "getting to the pattern" that you know (or even one of many that you know) then it's difficult to have a good conversation.these pre-written or canned patterns can work very well. and real-time "Riffing". Pre-written.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • o Get her feeling good and/or exciting feelings o Get her experiencing (or recall the experience of) good and/or exciting feelings o Get her to think about things that she wants or desires Amplify these feelings and states by talking. But. • The interesting topic that she and you are discussing o what is happening o what you know Page 116 . these canned patterns DO have some usefulness. or things you have read. Therefore it is best to maybe have some of these memorized. However. and to use what is needed in the moment. many times it does not. 6. In the real world. clarifying o Use the Language Tools o Asking her for info. o Use "this" and "these" (be aware of that and those as well) o Point and mark appropriately Present a Call to action o "Do it now" language o Create a Challenge o Create an Opportunity o Talk about the chance to "Seize the moment" o A simple add-on to the Language Tools There are two main ways of doing patterns. and do. "this person. and the proper context is not created. when you are talking to a woman. pre-rehearsed. So.3 CANNED PATTERNS D10-T12 These are the pre-rehearsed. because doing so may work against you. but they assume that you are in a conversation where they will work and be somewhat "appropriate" to what is being discussed. In THAT case .4 PATTERN RIFFING IN REAL-TIME D10-T13 This is the ability to just create pattern language on-the-fly. for her to elaborate and describe o Repeating back what she has said o Provide examples from your own life o Provide examples from friends. and have them there for your use if and when the correct situation comes up. they can. and that the woman will react to what the patterns is about. 6. The good ways to use these are as teaching and learning tools.." etc.
. it really IS that easy! look for: Positive emotions and feeling Positive sensations (as in physical ones) Exciting feelings. looking and listening for positive feelings.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • o what she is reacting to o and discuss things which are appropriate. exciting. interesting. states. and sensual things.. • Use some "act now" languaging. Yes. and and use the language tools. Wanting to take action or seize an opportunity Always • • • • See the pattern here? We are in general. Use the language tools so that YOU become associated with those things. using the tools. and actions in the conversation. Then you have a conversation and. Page 117 . get her to. Then we use those as a basis for discussion. • Talk about these things or listen to you talk about these things • get her to think about these things • get her to feel these things • get her to link them to you. emotions. THE BEST PATTERN IS THIS: • • Get her to talk and think about positive.
7.5 CONGRATULATIONS! WELL DONE! D10-T29 Page 119 . Now we can look from the "top-down". of fourteenth time through.4 BE WILLING AND PREPARED TO PUT ENERGY INTO THIS COURSE. Direct and/or link those feelings towards you. you will benefit. DO THE EXERCISES. but the method of approaching it is very different. -' d. Fractionate if and when needed. 7. Use the Language Tools 5. and then building up to bigger and bigger pieces. Whether its your first. focusing first on small details. Create a willingness. fifth. Keep her there and keep talking! a. 7.0 7. Engage her emotions and imagination in a positive way. D10-T28 The more energy and effort you put into this. a. and the more engaged you are in the process. Use the Language Tools 7. comfort in. and really take the time to do the exercises. D10-T27 Listen to the full explanations. Use the conversational management techniques b. It really is up to you. the greater your results will be.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 7. 1. Talk about something positive and interesting c. and how you speak. We really are focused upon changing you. Direct the conversation in a way that takes you toward good topics a. SOTs) 4.2 SUMMARY D10-T26 This may be similar to information you have heard in the past. Both you and her talk! 2. AND FOLLOW THE COURSE. Use the conversational management techniques b.1 REVIEW AND SUMMARY REVIEW D10-T18 The course has followed a "bottom-up" approach to training. and/or compulsion to act a.3 LISTEN. 3. Get the conversation into good subjects (SOTXs. a. and view an overall strategy. Keep the conversation going.
EXAMPLES Dll-Tl The discussions presented on the audio for this section are intentionally "casual" to familiarize you even more with the use of these tools.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 8. and provide you with some real-world examples of their use. Page 121 .0 EXAMPLES. EXAMPLES.
. Pause? Energy And Enthusiasm Using energy and enthusiasm when speaking so that people can become energized and enthusiastic about listening to and being with you. " As you. so that their feelings... • Be descriptive.. • Nose... and well-placed pauses. • Slow. to be cool. and processes awaken. Fast. • If you were to . Voice Tone And Tonality Use your best tone of voice (speaking from your chest) to convey a relaxed. • Passionate or Boring? o o o • LANGUAGE TOOLS A N T D E T A I L S o Adjectives And Adverbs Use more adjectives and adverbs in your speech to appeal to and excite the emotional side of the listener. • What's it like when . and charismatic presence. emotions. to convey a sense of drama and intrigue in what you are saying in a way that "captivates "people and makes them want to listen to you. • Have you ever . allowing you to say more (and maybe more provocative things) about a subject... • If I were to . Mouth. or Chest? Pacing And Pausing Use variations in pace. and to "soften " the way in which something is said. powerful.. o o Page 123 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course APPENDIX 1 Course "Cheat Sheet" • SPEAKING POINTERS o The "Cool" Factor You don't have to be cold. use Adjectives And Adverbs Trance Words Help to get the subconscious mind of the listener to be more of apart of your conversation. • Instantaneously " Suddenly • Find Yourself • Convince Yourself • Suppose • Imagine " Mysterious (-ly) • Wonder (-ous) (-ously) Weasel Phrases Use Weasel Phrases to keep the conversation going..
motion. • Use "That" and "Those" when referring to anything negative. interest. link them to you so that YOU become something and someone that they feel good about • Now with me • In me • In myself • with this • these • this belief • these feelings Easy-Linking • Use "This" and "These" when referring to anything positive.. and accentuate what you are saying in order to be more compelling as a speaker and to get even more attention from your listener or audience. allowing you to move things more in your favor later on Page 124 . a smile. touch them to help anchor it to you. Say "these". • Point Or Touch On Positive —* o o o • LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES o Pace And Lead Pacing and Leading allows you "be " in the conversation for a while and gain rapport and information. Point to you • Negative Say "those". intrigue. Those • Positive statement. Linking After getting someone to experience good feelings and emotions. • Move! Point! Linking Gestures Towards And Away • Whenever you say something negative. o o • MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures Move. Point away. • Can you do this now. etc. point or gesture away. Point to you • Negative statement. That. Say "this". point or gesture towards yourself.. Easy Linking Expanded Pointing With This. These.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o Embedded Commands Use embedded commands repeatedly and in the proper context. Easy Anchoring When the person you are talking with displays a positive feeling of some type. laugh. Point away • Positive statement. gesture. • Whenever you say something positive.. Say "that". to create a compelling will on the part of the listener follow you and listen to you.
b. etc. or giving an example. but mention the one which YOU want to put the most emphasis on. experiences. • a. statement. or to maybe see if you can get someone to agree to it! • a. • Request X because (of) Y. and C When making a point. the More Y.Bad • One option . More And More If you want to lead someone through a series of steps (actions. Compare And Contrast Use this technique to keep the conversation going. • As you X. or giving an example.Burying Items is a way to mention an outrageous or very direct option for "testing" purposes. and/or interest. keep the discussion focused on a topic that serves your purposes. statement.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Show agreement. "List" several things briefly in order. B. and incorporate the language tools • This thing vs that thing • How two things are similar • How two things are different • Good . • Topics and Subjects • Mindset or Frame of Mind • Current Reality • As (while) you are "X" (Pace) Where "X" is something that is true in their current reality (perceptions. understanding. which support your point • A. the more Y. the More Y.another option o o o Page 125 . The more Y. the More Z. "List" several things or examples which support your point. you can get away with an outrageous or very direct option by burying that option in the middle of a List. in order to provide more power to what you are saying • At The End Listing at The End is a way to provide several options (which may differ) but to emphasize the option that YOU want.) • Then you will "Y" Where "Y" is something you want them to experience (Lead) o Give Them A Reason Giving a reason will make people more apt to do things for you and agree with you. etc. The More Z. LAST • Burying Items Listing . B. thoughts. Then start to move or shift things in a different way. etc. a way that you want. and c When giving examples or options to someone. Listing • General Listing General Listing is a way to quickly provide several reason. or thoughts) use "More and More " as a way to string them together (and increase your chances of that happening • The more X. acknowledgement. and C When making a point.
and evoke favorable states... idea. or adventurous. • You seem like .. • You might. or fun. • Take any subject. Parts Of A Person Use Parts of a Person as a way to find.. or show it. • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control Particular Wants What does she want to have... • Challenge them to do that.. to be a way for them to get what they want. or point in a discussion. discuss.. • You may . • If you can . • Using Their Own Processes • Find or assume what someone wants • Create an opportunity for them to get it or demonstrate they have it • Make that "demonstration" work in your favor... even when the other person claims or demonstrates that such parts are NOT there • For every part of a person that will work against you. etc). and beliefs. • Break it down into its component parts and discuss them. feelings and emotions to yourself. • etc.... or want to be perceived as having? • Talk to them and find out. feelings. • Find a way to map what YOU want. Mini-Challenges • You seem.. • Are you able to . assume there is a part that will work WITH you. • The smart people I know.... • You might see .. allowing you time to gather information and link yourself to good thoughts. • Link good thoughts. • Maybe you can . can (use smart. • If you are able to . • You seem as if. • Challenge them to demonstrate it.. • I wonder if you can .. feelings and emotions. do it.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o Parts • • Parts Of A Subject Discussing many of the parts of a subject keeps the conversation going.. —* • • • Page 126 ... o Opportunities And Challenges • Find out what someone wants..\ Universal Wants You can assume that most people want these. • Use the language tools in the discussion.
• Introduce topics that are fun. • Can she see an opportunity to have "X".. fun.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • Opportunities. • Topic Turning Point The process of moving from one topic to one of 6-8 relevant topics • In general.. interesting things. Creating Them -. Advanced Conversational Management To direct the conversation into even BETTER areas. Consider the wants and needs that a person may have . she may have to do Y to prove that. steer the conversation towards directions that engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way o o Page 127 . fun. positive and interesting. interesting things • Keep thinking . by doing Y? • Does she want you to THINK she has X. • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control " • Excitement Challenges Challenge them to get what they want. think of general navigation • She Must Be Engaged In The Conversation! You need her to talk."Where can I go that is fun. General Conversational Management To steer the conversation in a good direction. listen and be IN the conversation! • Conversational Dynamics Topics flow from one to the next. and interesting?" " Move the conversation in that direction. and see how doing Y would demonstrate it?> • Does she have what it takes to get X. or show what they have. interesting things.... • Navigation Don't think of an exact plan. • Repeat. positive. then . • Don't engage in conversations when it's NOT about positive.. bring up positive.. Are they ready to take advantage of that (this) opportunity? • Does she really want X and see how Y can get that? • Does she really have X. fun...-and do Y to get it? • Can she do Y and make it happen? • Can she see that Y will get her what she wants? • Can she trust herself enough to do Y? o • Ambiguities — CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT o General . •• Show interest when someone discusses positive.
use the language tools. bring up images and thoughts that may work for you. and while there. back up a few steps. More Advanced Conversational Management To further direct the conversation into even BETTER areas. Seduction Oriented Topics SOTs are topics that. keep it there. seductive tilings? • The entire time: o If you hit a "dead end". and get the effect. use as many of the language tools as you can.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • o Keep thinking . fascinating. positive. by there very nature. • Keep thinking . • When on good topics. steer the conversation towards romantic. stay there for a while. and interesting? • Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? • Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. Conversational Fractionation • Using Conversational Fractionation • Start • Move • Back Up • Repeat • Dead Ends Come Back To Life! • Just back up and start over! Conversational Overview and Review • General Flow • Start on just about ANY subject. • Where can I go that is fun. • Repeat."Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. and seductive things. seductive things?" " Move the conversation in that direction. fascinating.Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Move the conversation in that direction. Repeat. fascinating. Get the conversation there. use the language tools as much as possible! • What If The Outcome Is Not What You Expected? • Move on! o o • TOPICS o Topics Of Enthusiasm and Passion Few things are more compelling in a person than for them to be passionate about something (hopefully many things) in life. • Connections • Going for it • Making good decisions Page 128 o . o If you get to a good subject or topic.
• Manage . asking. and • Look for: o Positive emotions and feeling o Positive sensations (as in physical ones) o Exciting feelings. o Canned Patterns .Use the conversational Management Techniques.. Pattern Riffing In Real-Time • Use the Conversational Management techniques to get to good subjects • Look at the interesting topic that she and you are discussing o what is happening o what you know o what she is reacting to o and discuss things which are appropriate. • Direct . • Get her to.Look out for SOTXs • Direct 0 Move towards SOTs..Great as EXAMPLES • Learn and know some of them they may be useful. clarifying.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • • • • • o Surrendering to feelings Getting excited Feeling excited Trusting your judgment Taking chances Indulgence Maturity Good decisions Expanded Seduction Oriented Topics . Amplify these feelings and states by talking. o Wanting to take action or seize an opportunity • Use the language tools. Present a Call to action.SOTXs For each SOT. o Talk about these things or listen to you talk about these things o get her to think about these things o get her to feel these things o get her to link them to you. Page 129 o . Conversational Model With SOTXs. The Complete Conversational Model See Appendix 2 o o • PATTERNS o Pattern • • • • Formula While talking to a woman. Those are STOXs. there are easily 6-8 variations on that SOT that you can talk about. Link and associate these feelings to you. get her to "experience" good feelings and states.
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • Use some "act now" languaging. interesting. • Use the language tools so that YOU become associated with those things Page 130 . and sensual things. exciting. o The Best Pattern Is This: • Get her to talk and think about positive.
. These.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course APPENDIX II Speaking and Language Tools "Cheat Sheet" • SPEAKING POINTERS o Voice Tone And Tonality o Pacing And Pausing o Energy And Enthusiasm LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS o Adjectives And Adverbs o Trance Words o Weasel Phrases o Embedded Commands o Linking o Easy-Linking (This. That.) o Easy Anchoring . Those) MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures o Linking Gestures (Towards And Away) o Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This.At the End • Burying Items o More And More o Compare And Contrast o Parts " Parts of a Subject • Parts of a Person o Opportunities And Challenges • Mini Challenges " Opportunities And Challenges o Ambiguities • • • Page 131 . That..Point Or Touch On Positive And Negative LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES o Pace And Lead • Topics and Subjects • Mindset of Frame • Current Reality o Give Them A Reason o Listing " General .
Positive. Fun. and Interesting Advanced Mgt.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course APPENDIX III The Complete Conversational Management Model The Complete Conversational Management Model General Mgt. Seductive SOTXs SOTs The Complete Conversational Management Model Page 133 . Fascinating. Romantic. Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way More Advanced Mgt.
Fun.. fascinating. positive. Steer towards . seductive things Direct the Conversation Pay attention when Good Subjects come up (SOTXs) Listen for anything a step or two away from an SOT Move towards SOTs Stay there as long as you can Use The Language Tools! As much as possible.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course The Complete Conversational Management Model (continued) Start a Conversation Manage the Conversation Move the Conversation in a Good Direction Steer towards . back up! If you move back to a general topic. interesting . Steer towards . Especially when at or near SOTXs and SOTs..Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way . start over! Page 134 ....Romantic.. Fractionate If you take a wrong turn.
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