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Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course
A structured training program that teaches the language and conversational skills of Speed Seduction .
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Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course
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Page No. Title Page Legal Notices Table of Contents Product Content Product Protection and User Consent Formatting and Conventions Acknowledgements Forward Registration Important Note About Exercises and Assignments 1.0 INTRODUCTION AND GETTING STARTED i ii iii vi vi vii ix x xii xii 1 D1-T1 Disk and Track No.*
1.2 1.3 1.4 1.5 1.6 2.0 2.1 2.1.1 2.1.2 2.1.3 2.1.4 2.2 2.2.1 2.2.2 2.2.3 2.2.4 2.2.5 2.2.6 2.3 2.3.1 2.3.2 2.3.3 2.3.4 2.4 3.0 3.1 3.1.1
Why Is This Course Needed? What We Will Handle, and How Investing In Yourself, Or Not Can We Change The Way You Speak? Manipulation and Ethics Concerns SPEAKING AND LANGUAGE
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Speaking Pointers 7 The "Cool" Factor 7 Voice Tone and Tonality 7 Pacing and Pausing 9 Energy and Enthusiasm 10 Language Tools and Details 12 Adjectives and Adverbs 12 Trance Words 13 Weasel Phrases 15 Embedded Commands 17 Linking 19 Easy-Linking (This, That, These, Those) 21 More Tools 23 Pointing and Gestures 24 Linking Gestures (Towards and Away) 25 Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This, That, These, Those ...) 26 Easy Anchoring - Point Or Touch, On Positive 27 Review 29 LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES Pace and Lead General Pace and Lead Techniques 31 31 32
* Disk and Track Numbers References to the CDs and the tracks on them are shown in a format such as "D2-T4", which in this example refers to Disk 2, Track 4.
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Page No. 3.1.2 3.1.3 3.1.4 3.2 3.3 3.3.1 3.3.2 3.3.3 3.3.4 3.3.5 3.4 3.5 3.6 3.6.1 3.6.2 3.7 3.7.1 3.7.2 3.7.3 3.7.4 3.8 3.9 4.0 4.1 4.1.1 4.1.2 4.1.3 4.1.4 4.2 4.2.1 4.2.2 4.2.3 4.3 4.3.1 4.3.2 4.3.3 4.3.4 4.3.5 4.4 4.4.1 4.4.2 4.4.3 4.4.4 4.4.5 4.5 4.5.1 4.5.2 Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects Pace and Lead-Mindset Or Frame Of Mind Pace and Lead - Current Reality Give Them a Reason Listing General Listing Listing - At The End Listing - Burying Items Listing, Pauses, and Emphasis.. Listing Review More and More Compare and Contrast Parts Parts of a Subject Parts of a Person Opportunities and Challenges Using Their Own Processes What Do People Want? Mini-Challenges Opportunities and Challenges Ambiguities Summary CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT Challenges Detailed and Specific Plans Are Just Not Workable Navigation Example Navigational Strategies Are Needed She Must Be Engaged In The Conversation! How Conversations Happen Conversational Dynamics Conversational Model Topic Turning Point General Conversational Management Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Want How To Steer Conversations, Moment To Moment The Model With Strategy and Tactics In Place Exercises and Assignments Summary Advanced Conversational Management Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Really Want Steering Conversations Moment To Moment The Model With Advanced Strategy and Tactics In Place Exercises and Assignments Summary More Advanced Conversational Management More About Getting The Conversation To Go Steering Conversations Using More Advanced 33 35 38 39 41 41 43 45 48 48 48 51 54 54 58 61 62 62 63 64 69 69 71 71 71 71 72 72 72 72 73 77 79 79 81 82 83 86 86 86 88 88 91 93 93 93 94 Disk a n d Track N o . * D5-T12 D5-T20 D5-T29 D5-T32 D6-T1 D6-T4 D6-T15 D6-T24 D6-T36 D6-T37 D6-T38 D6-T54 D7-T1 D7-T4 D7-T15 D7-T34 D7-T36 D7-T38 D7-T40 D7-T43 D7-T64 D7-T66 D8-T1 D8-T1 D8-T3 D8-T4 D8-T5 D8-T10 D8-T12 D8-T13 D8-T14 D8-T15 D8-T16 D8-T16 D8-T19 D8-T23 D8-T25 D8-T32 D8-T33 D8-T33 D8-T35 D8-T38 D8-T39 D8-T46 D8-T47 D8-T47 D8-T49
6.5 8.0 5. Do The Exercises. EXAMPLES.1 5.2 5.0 6.6 4.7 4.3 7.4 5. .2 7.2 6. EXAMPLES v i e w .0 7.7.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Table of Contents (continued) Page No. . .3 5. 94 96 96 97 97 98 99 99 99 99 101 101 102 104 109 111 115 115 115 116 116 119 119 119 119 119 119 121 Disk a n d Track N o .4 4.2 4.1 7.1 4. * D8-T52 D9-T1 D9-T2 D9-T3 D9-T5 D9-T6 D9-T7 D9-T8 D9-T9 D9-T10 D9-T11 D9-T14 D9-T15 D9-T24 D9-T32 D9-T33 D10-T1 D10-T1 D10-T7 D10-T12 D10-T13 D10-T18 D10-T18 D10-T26 D10-T27 D10-T28 D10-T29 D11 .6..3 5.4 7.2 126.96.36.199..1 6.SOTXs Conversational Model With SOTXs The Complete Conversational Model PATTERNS Pattern O v e r Pattern Formula Canned Patterns Pattern Riffing In Real-Time REVIEW AND SUMMARY Review Summary Listen.5 6.0 The Model With More Advanced Strategy and Tactics In Place. APPENDICES I II III Course "Cheat Sheet" Speaking and Language Tools "Cheat Sheet" The Complete Conversational Management Model 123 131 133 Page v .3 4. Conversational Fractionation The 1-Shot Beeline Fallacy How Fractionation Works Using Conversational Fractionation Dead Ends Come Back To Life! Conversational Overview and Review Conversational Management Approach What If The Outcome Is Not What You Expected? Summary TOPICS Topics Of Enthusiasm and Passion Seduction Oriented Topics Expanded Seduction Oriented Topics .5.4 7.1 4. . 4.6.3 4.. and Follow The Course Be Willing and Prepared To Put Energy Into Congratulations! Well Done! EXAMPLES..3 6. .
and the Formulas. i. and Assignments are all shown using this typeface (Arial. and their use is key to many students' understanding of the concepts presented. Listen to the audio where an example is presented. The graphics in the latter sections are significant in that they are an essential part of the understanding and leaning. and the italics are simply used as a way to show a different manner of emphasis. Text within graphics. Exercises. Not every track number is listed. Although there are paragraphs of explanatory text. Italicized Text . Lists .. or clarity. Usually the graphic is shown on the page immediately following where that graphic is first mentioned in the text.Italicized Text is used for emphasis in many cases where boldface text may by nearby. a "serif typeface). The audio is NOT an exact duplicate of the text shown in the workbook. D3-T5 CD Track References . graphic captions. Graphics are used in the workbook as well.e.A majority of the workbook content is shown in this typeface (Times New Roman. The written text is NOT a transcript.that is simply to show a list of related items. a "sans-serif typeface). Boldface Text . styles. This shows (for example) the Disk (3) and the Track number (5) that corresponds to that part of the workbook contents. and conventions have been developed and are used throughout this transcript/workbook.As shown to the right Towards the right margin of section titles and headings. CD Location References are shown using terms such as "D3-T5" in the text. This shows information that could be considered part of an overall "outline" of what the audio presentation contains. items are presented in a list-like fashion such as this: • Item 1 • Item 2 • Item 3 • Etc. Italics are also used to point the reader towards specific content of the audio CDs. There are certain conventions used in the formatting of the workbook. Page vii .At times. and to make it easier to reference those items at a later time. The relationship between these two can be best described by considering the workbook text to be (for the most part) an "outline" of what is presented in the audio.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Formatting and Conventions The following formatting. Samples of the formatting and conventions used: Typefaces . graphic titles. there is not an exact place in the book that correlates to the start of each and every track on the audio CDs. there may be instances when the conventions are not used for the sake of emphasis.. or major points in the workbook. Therefore most of the track references are shown at the start of major sections. A majority of the workbook is presented in an "outline" form. . However these conventions are guidelines. If the graphic cannot fit there (due to page breaks) then the graphic is placed on the next available page. Since the work book is an "outline" and not a transcript. these are in most cases presented as a way to augment the content of the audio presentation. It is also used for subject headings so that these stand out and apart from the normal text.Boldface Text is used to emphasize certain text or passages.
Although this is not optimal. For example. The number is in the format of "XYZ-A" where "XYZ" denotes the number of the section where the graphic is placed.Text boxes are used for very specific purposes in the workbook.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Each graphic has a number and a title of some type. Exercises. Assignments usually requier the reader to go out and interact with other person(s) in order to perform them correctly. Text Boxes . Assignments also call for action on the part of the reader. This may require that a graphic be placed on the next page after where it is first mentioned (instead of being directly below where the graphic is first mentioned in the text).If a graphic has text that helps to further explain that graphic.1 . and the "A" indicates the number of the graphic within a section itself (i. it is required in order for the "flow" of the book content to remain consistent. Similarly. Formula. A Formula is a way to present a concise explanation of some item. Page Breaks . -2. or technique. . Although the difference between Exercises and Assignments is maintained through most of the workbook. or maybe and Assignment can be done alone by the student. then that text is shown immediately below the graphic using an indented paragraph such as this. there are instances where the definitions may be clouded to some degree. fact. there are cases where text boxes may actually "break" across two pages. Candidate Topics Figure XYZ-1: Graphic Title Sub-paragraph . an Exercise may require interaction with other people.e. This also may result in some page breaks being in places which are not optimal. Exercises are a series of instructions that call upon the reader to do or perform certain actions. but that is a necessity due to the complexity of the book. -3) to account for multiple graphics in one section of text. This is shown below.The workbook is laid out to minimize the amount of blank space where reasonably possible. and Assignments are shown inside boxes such as this. Most exercises can be done alone. Page viii . Each Formula is presented in its own "text box" as shown here.
who was the business genius that brought Speed Seduction® to the masses through seminars and products. and to all of the Students out there who I have met at Speed Seduction® seminars.. Yates Canipe. and for the assistance they provided with this product. the creator of Speed Seduction . and who has also contributed greatly to helping men change their minds about themselves.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Acknowledgements The first and foremost acknowledgement goes out to Ross Jeffries himself. / must apologize to some degree for the time it has taken to finish this product. confidants. I may miss a few sales because of such a delay. who helped me by allowing me to help them. Ross's developments have lead not only to helping many men with this part of their lives. To those in the original SD Lair group. Working with these clients was especially instrumental in formulating and perfecting the concepts and teaching methods used in this product. and what is possible in their lives. who have placed their trust in me and allowed me the experience of showing them new and wonderful possibilities for what their lives may have to offer. SM. JL.insight and teaching that I think is possible. To my coaching clients. associates. SP. Thank you. To Dr. colleagues. The main reason is that I do not wish to release any product until I believe that I am able to provide the level of quality. and those who have entrusted me to teach you and to guide you. and this wait may have annoyed a few people. but I sincerely hope that the results will prove to have made the wait worthwhile.. and have opened the door for me to find many ways of self-improvement and understanding. EVS. those who have read what I have written. and MD. but have also shown many the way to a new way of living. mentors. MC. To the many experts out there who have augmented the SS teachings by showing me other aspects of the mind. Special thanks to my friends. most notably Hypnotica. . DM. and students (we are each all of these and more) in the TAGR Group. teachers. Dave Riker Page ix . and to help you in finding the Women or Woman of Your Dreams. To all of you. opening the door for many into the world of self improvement.
It's for these men. and showing themselves in the best and most honest light. and set forth upon a path to improve this area of his life. to make an informed choice. There are many such men out there. So. or the kind of man. she should decide to be with whom she wants to be with by having opportunities.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Forward One of the most wonderful things about life is the idea of connecting with others. Such men. and decide to move forward. And. I think that is not correct. and in many cases the efforts of men to solve this problem on their own have been met by smallminded criticism and slander. teachings. I know of many women who are always distraught that they seem to not be able to meet good men. are the ones that really DO look at this area of their lives. (and more importantly a LACK of information in some cases) that can prevent such connections and moments from happening. women. some of the most wonderful moments of life are brought about by people. information. should somehow not improve himself. most women will be far better off and have much better chances with the kind of men. and grow. who was simply deprived of an means to "learn about" how to meet and talk with women. or "compromise". and introducing themselves. intelligent. or with that special woman of which they have always dreamed. the idea of simply communicating with and sharing experiences with the other half of the human population. charming men. are NOT in short supply. whether this time has any sort of romantic or seductive component or not. and options. good-natured and well-intentioned man. so that they really may share wonderful experiences of ALL types with women. helps to provide these women with an even better choice. Good. The women of the world will be better off in their own way. At least then he will be in a position of choice. As if the interesting. there are a lot of wonderful women out there who would love to meet interesting men. And it's a shame for these women to be wanting for their company. They don't know how to keep a woman's interest. and for those women. having and sharing experiences with. And I am here to help correct it. and sharing experiences with them. A woman should never "settle". learn. as well. interesting. take action. that I create products such as this. Whether a man decides to use this information as way to embark upon a period of his life which involves casual romantic interludes. spending time with them. or don't know how to present themselves in the best way. Having many interesting men available. in fact. that they will want to spend time with as well. I think that many men. Whether that be as friends or acquaintances. there are a lot of great men out there who would like to meet interesting women. They are the ones that really don't know how to introduce themselves. the best men. other people. Page x . Many men through no fault of their own have grown up to be adults and have had little instruction or assistance in a very important area of their lives. One of the biggest tragedies of life is that there are things. He will be able to decide for himself which he feels is the best option for him. Sadly this is most apparent when it comes to men. or whether a man uses this information as a means to improve his chances of finding one special woman. for some reason seem to be in short supply. This is so sad. They just have not been taught such things. is up to him. From that position.
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2 WHY IS THIS COURSE NEEDED? D1-T10 If you are here. you will do so in the future and use these techniques as well. and "reprogrammed" in a way. 1. Provide additional explanation of some points that are covered in the audio program. You are not going to sound like this or talk like this all of the time! Just in the way that you shift and change how you speak now in different situations. you can change the way you speak as well. Instructions for each are provided. If you follow along and do the exercises. and get the full benefit of everything this course has to offer. The purpose of this workbook is to: • • • Provide an outline of the material covered in the audio program.1 INTRODUCTION AND GETTING STARTED OVERVIEW Dl-Tl Welcome and Thanks. Present a series of exercises and assignments. We will be teaching you the detailed language skills that will really help you. consciously and subconsciously. along with spaces for written responses where necessary. Welcome to Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course. We will teach you ways to easily manage conversations so that they go in interesting directions.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 1. Conversational Skills The ability to manage conversations is needed as well. You will have this way of speaking as a PART of who you are and what you can do! Guys need to be trained. Page 1 . Language Skills What works? What makes the successful guys able to use these technologies? Partly it's the ability to actually "talk" in this manner. You are already on your way! This course works on many levels. to use these language skills naturally as just a part of the way they speak. So even this "intro" section is starting to work for you. then on some level. This program is based upon experience with countless students. and what works in the field. seeing what is needed. and on you as well. pay attention. If you are her "type" you don't need this. Some guys don't need this. This workbook is meant to studied along with a series of audio lectures that are recorded on CDs. but this will help you if you are not. some people do this naturally. there is a need.0 1. Listen to it. These techniques all need to sound and be "natural" to actually be effective.
• Other teachings about language.. Guys need to be able to just "do this" and "talk this way" in REAL-TIME. You need to integrate skills to the degree that they ARE a part of who you ARE. how it is learned.. • Things may seem to "repeat". some of the ways that you speak now will be reprogrammed so that speaking in a new way will be natural. then you are not actually IN the conversation! You need to be engaged in a conversation. interacting. Real Time "Occurring immediately .. for a while at least.3 Major • • • • • • • • WHAT WE WILL HANDLE. so let's define and explain it for you. Not inside your head "thinking" about "how can I use this?"! 1. that is important. In a way. listening. some things will sound quite familiar. so we need to approach this in many ways. but if you are "thinking" too much.Enthusiasm and Passion Topics .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course You have to be PROGRAMMED to do this so you can have a conversation. must react to a steady flow of new information without interruption.." Guys need to stop the worrying about "Doing something wrong" It's only "wrong" if you are TRYING to do or be something you are not. not a "trick". Page 2 . and how people speak. responding. AND HOW Topics Speaking Pointers Language Tools and Details Conversational Management Conversational Fractionation Topics . and be a part of it. but it's really YOU talking! Guys are too focused on "how can I use this" when in a conversation. many times! • In fact we have already started! Where Does This Material Come From • From SS Teachings. respond to input immediately . talking. This is a term that will be used throughout this course.. • Working on several "levels" of you mind at once • Models to arrive at an overall understanding • Left brain and right brain are both addressed • Conscious and subconscious minds are both given what they need for real understanding and retention.. listen. Sure. but that's your left brain talking! We are reprogramming many years of your experience.Seduction Oriented Topics Patterns and Riffing Examples Dl-Tl5 What Methods Are Used • Describe and explain the details of the techniques • Explicit examples of how the details work • Examples throughout and within the discussions • Examples section at the end. Other parts of the language tools you may have to "think" about. • Exercises to develop understanding and skills • Assignments for you to do in the field.
However. In addition. • This may seem complicated but the point is to get you SO familiar with the tools that you become the guy who does this! Some Very Important Points • Find all of your current SS products and inventory them. do the exercises over and over. listening multiple times in any setting also has a lot of benefit. many of these people will be those negative types of people that will then dispute the benefits of this program! Why? Because THEY have not invested anything into it! Not just in terms of dollars. So. do whatever you need to do to listen to this course a LOT. The Mind-Momentum Principle At Work • Get energy. Changing that will take some time. keep those copies to yourself. making it a part of YOU. and engagement into your effort to really learn and use these materials. both audio and written materials. that YOU just DO. Applying a structured methodology of step-by-step methods. • Be prepared to have a place to practice for this course! You will need to be able to speak out loud to do many of the exercises.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • From personal experiences and how I used the materials. If they just "try" it. Many of the assignments will deal with talking to people. the more you put into it. effort. or revised? Yes. Other SS products will work well. and who may "try" to listen to the course. If you need to make your own copies for use in multiple locations. The Ways To Study And Use The Product • Listen to the CDs. there IS some overlap and duplication with other products and systems. but in terms of THEM really being willing and ready to change. Also maybe get a romance novel or two. 1. We are reprogramming years and years of you "speaking" in a certain manner. OR NOT D1-T24 Any real change requires you to make an investment in yourself using energy. new. Be wary of those people who may want to "borrow" a copy. • Is there an "optimal way" to use the product. as assigned or as required. However. You will need them because you will have assignments that deal with these. By embarking upon this course. do the assignments over and over! • Be patient. the emphasis here is training you to do it for yourself. and this journey. However. a concept that was brought up earlier. do it! But please. they aren't really putting themselves INTO it. • Having a good social life will help you. Page 3 . the more you will get out of it. • Get some other written material to work with for this course. and engagement.4 INVESTING IN YOURSELF. and being open to what benefits this program can bring. • Get that "Mind-Momentum" going to help you change and improve. Is this information. and this is much easier if you have an active life where you can have many conversations. effort. • Follow along in the workbook if you can • Do the exercises and assignments! • Listen over and over. and a few women's magazines as well. see what works for you. you are doing just that. The best way to listen to this course is while also reviewing the workbook (especially in the conversational management sections). From working with clients and seeing what worked and how they were able to change. to give you a real roadmap to actually learn the material. or not? There are various ways. • Listen to other products in conjunction with this product.
• • • • • • • • This might be good as a learning TOOL. at will Engage in conversation Manage conversations Yes. just being YOU. then its easier. Can we literally change the way you speak? • • • • • • • How you select words Create phrases Form sentences Pick topics Speak passionately. Those who are not. but to then USE it in conversation is difficult. because it addresses that analytical part of your mind. etc. kids are taught about language. you heard it a lot. but only indirectly. You keep trying to "remember" things. 1. because you will hear it so much! But a LOT of what is being conveyed here is learning by EXAMPLE. Immersion is the key. But that's not how you learned to talk! You learned to talk when you were a child . and you started to form the ability to speak and communicate based upon that! Page 4 . How People Initially Learn How To Speak • • • • Sure in middle school. where you learn skills piece by piece." So. trying to "remember" what to say. its YOU being YOU! You cannot fail at being YOU! The approach in this course is different. some models. its a memorized "thing". sentences. at every moment! Some people want to try to memorize. there is a "right" and "wrong" way to do it! But if you are just TALKING. paragraphs. And actual assignments. Plus it's not YOU talking. Not as congruent. It's less effective. consequently. • • • • • • You will get some details. But it's tough to do that. It Is Possible! .But This Is A Different Type Of Learning.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course People must be engaged in the process to get its benefits. It makes guys nervous. you heard it in context. there is no "right" way or "wrong" way. about grammar.5 CAN WE CHANGE THE WAY YOU SPEAK? D1-T26 Is this really possible? This sounds difficult. you heard it. Most people want to approach this by learning bits and pieces • • That's good in a way. some structures. Also progressive exercises. Imagine having to "think about" how to talk.by hearing others around you speak! You were IMMERSED in language. will not benefit. hold you back. Then it's about a "performance. where you use the skills in the real world. You will end up "memorizing" thing to some degree. Don't let their lack of willingness to improve themselves.
"it's not me" or "I am just using a trick or technique". Examples • • Explicit examples. Real-World Skills. Various Training Methods • • We use a lot of repetitive training methods so that these techniques have a better chance of becoming "automatic". more a part of YOU. it's not about throwing something AT her. more natural. We will have you become familiar with the range of ways of speaking and sounding.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course This Course Uses Many Techniques To Train You To Have Workable. or craft. how you communicate. like when I say "here is an example" Implicit examples. • Break it down into small parts. and be more of WHO YOU ARE. which we go over and over. Exercises and Assignments to Teach You the Skills • Skills Training like any sport. so that you will have more ability and more flexibility to do what is appropriate MANIPULATION AND ETHICS CONCERNS D1-T32 1. we will change the way you talk so that it will be easier. trade.6 Many guys have been uncomfortable with using many of these skills. Page 5 . deep ethics issues and blocks many guy's success. and who and what YOU are! Using these skills will be less of an "act". This causes some real. where I am just DOING these things all during the program. based upon feelings that when using them. With THIS approach HERE.
reserved. Too many guys "try" to be cool but actually come off as COLD or even worse. and this time focus on speaking by generating the sound from within your mouth (or. there are great products and examples of this elsewhere. and even goes a bit over-the-top to really help you to understand what is being discussed. 2) Read some more of that material out loud. calm. focusing on the back of your throat might make this easier to do). Listen as the examples demonstrate: • Speaking through the nose • Speaking through the mouth • Speaking from the chest Exercises for Speaking Pointers Grab some reading material of some type. something you are interested in. That's the "allure". Examples: One way to think of this is to consider "where" your voice is generated from in your body. focusing on generating your voice from your nose. but giving the impression that there IS more. there ARE products that focus JUST on this area and you may want to invest in those.2 Voice Tone and Tonality D2-T2 Listen to some examples of different tones of voice. That "cool" feeling comes from being calm and speaking in a relaxed fashion. that there is a "fire" beneath the surface. The audio section demonstrates these options quite well.1 2. and says a lot about you. That's what women like.1. to be cool. even some of the materials from other products. Why is this important? • Great voice tone conveys comfort. how they make you feel. This is good as long as it's not BORING. 1) Take some of that reading material. etc. do this for several minutes.0 2. BORING. If this is a challenge for you. Page 7 . "Cool" comes from being calm and sure of yourself. but because it's appropriate to the situation.1. Cool does NOT mean to be boring and to put people to sleep while talking! The coolest people are the ones that are FUN to talk to and fun to be with! You don't have to be cold.1 SPEAKING AND LANGUAGE SPEAKING POINTERS The "Cool" Factor D2-T1 D2-T1 Guys want to sound "cool". and read it aloud.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. how they sound. and what people like in general. Read several paragraphs. how calm you are. not out of nervousness. how interesting you are. a sense of being relaxed and calm • It also allows you to express some energy and excitement at different times. but if you really want to work on this even more. 2. We will work on this here in this course. Your tone of voice really conveys a lot about who you are.
with whom. really make a note to speak lower. or chest). Day/Time Who you spoke to Speaking from? How you felt. it's important that you do what you can to REALLY make a point of doing these assignments. Make notes below as to when it happened. 1) Over the next few days when speaking to anyone.in the real world! To get the most benefit from this course. and make them a part of who you are. Can you recall how you spoke? Did the way you sound in that situation sound like any of the examples you just did? See the similarity? Assignments for Speaking Pointers These are your first real assignments in the course. and whether or not you DID it! Day/Time Who you spoke to Situation (Where) Did you DO it? Page 8 . relaxed-confident). where you were. Make notes below for some of the conversations and see if you can see a correlation between these items.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 3) Now read some of the material. Real-world experience will really help you to not just "know" the skills. Focus on dropping your voice down from your nose/mouth. Assignments are where you are given a real task to go out and do . Also. mouth. make note of how you felt (nervous. SOUND relaxed. but to actually HAVE the skills. comfortable. and really focus on having that voice generated from your chest. 2) In the next few conversations you have with people. See how relaxed it actually makes you feel and how you really need to BE relaxed to do this! 4) Take a moment. make a note to yourself as to how you are speaking. but this time really focus upon generating the sound from deep within your chest. and recall some time in the recent past when you were kind of nervous or fearful. and where you are speaking from (your nose. Relax.
1. Why is • • • this important? Correct pacing and speed of delivery conveys comfort. and this time focus on reading in a quick and hurried fashion. 2) Read some more of that material out loud. 4) Now read some of the material. but this time read it slowly. Focus on reading in a very hurried fashion as if you are very nervous.3 Pacing and Pausing D2-T15 Listen to the examples where some various pacing is demonstrated. in a manner that makes you sound as if you are very confused. Read several paragraphs and do this for several minutes. 2. but this time read it in a slow. Too fast? Too slow? Hurried-nervous? Hurried-excited? Slow-confused? Page 9 . or don't quite understand the content.) Assignments for Pacing and Pausing 1) Over the next few days when speaking to anyone. Something you are interested in. comfortable manner. relaxed. Speaking too quickly can show tension. deliberate. but go ahead and convey excitement in your voice! 3) Now read some of the material. make a note to yourself as to how you are speaking in terms of your pacing and pausing. Being able to vary your pacing and pausing can help a lot to convey a sense of intrigue and create interest. powerful. There are many variations: Listen as these are demonstrated • Hurried showing nervousness • Hurried showing excitement • Slow as in hesitant and/or confused • Slow in a way that is deliberate and relaxed Exercises for Pacing and Pausing Grab some reading material of some type. (Maybe even be aware of where your voice is coming from. and charismatic presence. or almost a sense of panic. first very very fast. and shows that the speaker is relaxed. even some of the materials from other products.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Strategic Formula for Speaking Pointers Use your best tone of voice (speaking from your chest) to convey a relaxed. 1) Take some of that reading material and read it aloud. as we discussed in the past section. and then far far too slow.
just make a note of this after-the-fact and write that down below. • This also allows YOU to convey how interesting someone ELSE is as well.4 Energy and Enthusiasm D2-T26 Listen to some examples of how this can sound . By doing this.. and excitement when appropriate. It's good to have the ability and range to display passion.1. YOU can show an appropriate amount of energy and enthusiasm. 2. energy. then you can show more enthusiasm. Page 10 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Slow-relaxed? You don't have to change it yet. Who cares? Why does this matter? • Most guys are just TOO BORING. When someone else is being boring. and if you DID it! Day/Time Who you spoke to Situation (Where) Did you DO it? Strategic Formula for Pacing and Pausing Use variations in pace. and well-placed pauses. YOU act boring. • If someone else is being interesting. dead-end conversations.. Day/Time Who you spoke to What type of pacing and pausing? 2) For the next few days. Make note of when. you get stuck in fewer boring. to convey a more relaxed and deliberate manner. where. enthusiasm.. or bored. If they do or say something that is interesting to YOU. to convey a sense of drama and intrigue in what you are saying in a way that "captivates" people and makes them want to listen to you. start to focus on changing your pacing and pausing. who.
and how much (or little) energy is conveyed. which bores you. monotone. Again. whatever it is.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course The audio section demonstrates more details about sounding boring/bored and also sounding as if you have energy and enthusiasm. do that for 10-15 minutes. When you respond or talk back. women. maybe sports. energetic voice. do that for 10-15 minutes. your work. Really pay attention to how they speak. Read it OUT LOUD in a boring.. animated. your car. Do this for a good 10-15 minutes. Watch on either TV. Read it OUT LOUD in an exciting. 6) Take that earlier written material about the subject that you are NOT interested in and that really bores you. etc. 1) Watch and listen to some speakers talk about a boring.. something you are interested in. 4) Get some written material that really DOES interest you. Strategic Formula for Energy and Enthusiasm Using energy and enthusiasm when speaking so that people can become energized and enthusiastic about listening to and being with you. 2) For the next few conversations you have with people where you ARE interested in the subject. bland voice with no energy or enthusiasm.. other products. taped lectures. go ahead. how you listen. Note how even if the material is something you do NOT care about. make sure it is something that YOU are passionate about. Exercises for Energy and Enthusiasm Grab some reading material of some type. and that are excited about. dry topic. and read THAT aloud in a way that DOES show energy and enthusiasm! Make that sound as convincing as #4 above. their tone. their tone. go ahead and SHOW your enthusiasm! Be energetic in how you speak. their pace. Page 11 . monotone voice. Think as if YOU are convincing a group of people how great this is! Maybe your Dream Job of a lifetime is dependant upon YOU speaking well and showing how passionate YOU are about this! Do that for a good 10-15 minutes. even some of the materials from . BE BORING and show no enthusiasm at all. 3) Get some written material that you have NO interest in. Again. and BE BORING. technical presentations. whenever someone is talking about something boring. 5) Take that written material that really does interest you. and how your respond. and how much (or little) energy is conveyed. bland. and read that aloud in a boring. that a good speaker can really grab your attention with their energy and enthusiasm. their pace. 2) Watch and listen to some speakers who use a lot of energy and enthusiasm when they are talking! Really pay attention to how they speak.. Assignments for Energy and Enthusiasm 1) Over the next few days.
Most men could be helped by having more descriptive speech. Examples • Car reviews • Movie Reviews • This course! Exercises for Adjectives and Adverbs 1) Find some written material that deals with something where people are speaking passionately about some subject.) 3) Read that text OUT LOUD. and more ways of talking about processes. whatever. and the subject you were talking about. Who you spoke to Subject 5) Now. (Maybe highlight them in some manner. Note whom you were talking to. boring. Do this for each of the conversations listed above. Most guys are too dry in their speech.1 Adjectives and Adverbs D2-T40 Listen to an example where many of these are used in descriptive language. 2) Read it. and make note of the adjectives and adverbs in it.. talk about it in a descriptive way. Re-live it. and uninteresting. you should be able to do this for at least 3-5 minutes each. movies. they are not things that can be measured or specified. but this time. It's good if YOU are also interested in it. nouns and verbs. while Adverbs will describe ACTIONS (verbs).. we are working to appeal to the emotions. These words modify or in some way describe. Most Adjectives and Adverbs are qualitative. Page 12 . because to have to "think about" using them is almost impossible! • You need to be TRAINED TO USE THEM automatically.2 LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS D2-T39 These are the Bit And Pieces • These are the sort of things that can be powerful. Remember. talk about each thing or subject again. but must be done over and over.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. Day. add more descriptive terms to it. not the logical side of a person. or they are too factual and leftbrained. use more Adjectives and Adverbs. • Their use must be automatic. out loud. and stress the adjectives and adverbs in it. and sensations. feelings. 2. If you really like this subject. Adjectives will describe THINGS (nouns). They sound cold. Maybe say those adjectives or adverbs and put more energy into those words and emphasize them in some manner.2. 4) Think of three recent conversations you had when you talked to someone about something that you REALLY liked. Cars. sports.
Write down what the subject was. and c above). make sure to use some of those adjectives and adverbs in your descriptions.2. 2. Trance words are words that "call upon" the subconscious mind in order for them to be processed and understood. Day Who you spoke to Subject 2) Write down a few adjectives and adverbs that you could have used in each discussion (refer to a. Strategic Formula for Adjectives and Adverbs Use more adjectives and adverbs in your speech to appeal to and excite the emotional side of the listener. their emotional side. Trance words help to "open the person up" so that their subconscious. and processes awaken. and with whom you spoke. that you really enjoy. Act like you are really having the conversation again. 4) The next several times any of those subjects come up in conversation. or objective manner. b. They are not "analyzed" in a conscious.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Assignments for Adjectives and Adverbs 1) Make note of the next 3 times you are having a conversation which deals with something that YOU are really into. factual. "paint a picture" with your words.2 Trance Words D3-T1 Listen to an example where many of these are used. Be descriptive. that you are passionate about. so that their feelings. is listening and more engaged in the conversation. 3) Practice out loud how you would have said those things in each of the three conversations. Start with just a few of them. and then maybe add some more as time goes on. emotions. Trance • • • • • Word List Instantaneously Suddenly Find Yourself Convince Yourself Suppose Page 13 .
Write them down below. and see how many of those Trance Words you can use. 3) Get out your written SS materials and look for Trance Words (maybe even use THIS course here). like advertisements.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • Imagine Mysterious (-ly) Wonder (-ous) (-ously) Think of any subject. Looking at the list of Trance Words above. political speakers. Now speak OUT LOUD about that subject. Highlight or circle the Trance Words in a few sections. talk about it. something that you think is dull. almost boring or mundane thing. see and hear if you can pick out when the speaker is using Trance Words. or religious speakers. With that list of Trance Words (above) in hand. placing an emphasis on the Trance Words when you see them. 5) Take the written text from an SS product (maybe from #3 above) and read it out loud. talk OUT LOUD about that subject and see how many times you can use those Trance Words! Subject a. or school. 7) Pick a subject that bores you. Maybe play one tape or CD. that's the point! Exercises for Trance Words 1) Make a full list of Trance Words. Look at the Trance Word List above. and make it more interesting? Well. Doesn't that make it sound kind of "mysterious"? Maybe more exciting? Maybe you can take some normal. You can copy the ones you saw listed earlier. Trance Word List 2) Watch or listen to some material where people are speaking passionately about something. 6) Pick two subjects in which you are interested. Maybe refer to some of your other SS products and see how many more you can find. Boring Subject Page 14 . Think for a moment about using those trance words to describe that subject. See how many you can find and notice how they are used in context. work. Subject b. See how many you can notice. but also see if you can add some to the list. even something concrete like your job. sportscasters. and see if you can pick these out. 4) Get your SS audio materials and listen for Trance Words (maybe even THIS course here).
3 Weasel Phrases D3-T14 Listen to an example where many of these are used. and using more and more as time goes on. • • • • • Have you ever . Page 15 .. How do you talk about something without REALLY talking about it? How do you bring something up that may be a bit different. more interesting. to get from one subject to another. maybe even a bit odd? Maybe even a different topic or change of subject? Or maybe something that you were worried about bringing up. These also work as transitional phrases. and more fascinating? Assignments for Trance Words 1) Pick two subjects in which you are interested... Strategic Formula for Trance Words Using Trance Words will help to get the subconscious mind of the listener to be more of a part of your conversation. If you were to . What's it like when . because it may be a bit too forward? Well. 2. If I were to .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Even though that may seem a bit strange. Practice working with those subjects out loud some more and see if you can get even more comfortable using Trance Words when talking about those subjects. Use them when talking to different people.. that's what Weasel Phrases are for! Weasel Phrase List (see if you can add to the list by listening to the audio). Just do whatever you can to start using some of them at first... make a point to use at least one of the Trance Words in the conversation. As you . Subject a.2. The next time you are speaking with anyone about those subjects (in the real world guys!). Subject b.. doesn't that make it-sound more "exciting".... 2) Integrate a few more of these words into your every-day description of those subjects.
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Exercises for Weasel Phrases 1) Get some of your written SS materials and look for some Weasel Phrases in the text. This is necessary to have the kind of words and subjects that lend themselves to Weasel Phrases. and read some of this material out loud. In a moment. the experience of it. Talk about THAT one for a few sentences. Do this until you use all 4-5 of the attributes that you listed. Maybe pausing for a moment before one. 5) Did that sound weird? Strange? Ok . 2) Note the subject that you used earlier for doing some exercises with Weasel Phrases (exercise 4 above). Use different Phrases. etc.) Pick 4-5 different aspects of this "experience" that you will talk about. that seem as if they fit best into your way of speaking about subjects that you may like. It will get easier. Pick 3 of them that seem the most natural to you. that it makes more sense. Subject Page 16 .. While doing it. doing it. then use another Weasel Phrase. Maybe play one tape or CD. the subject might be "going to a ball game" (pick your own. 4) Pick a subject in which you are interested. etc. and then use one of the Weasel Phrases and the bring up another "aspect". make note of the weasel phrases. sensing it. and see if you can string things together so that they sound better. For example. we want you to talk about how it FEELS. but selecting different Phrases to link the aspects together. The next several times that you talk about that subject with anyone. don't use that one!) Now talk about one of these 4-5 aspects for 1-2 sentences. getting into it. 2) Get your SS audio materials and listen for some Weasel Phrases.. Assignments for Weasel Phrases 1) Look at the list of Weasel Phrases that you wrote earlier. and do so with an awareness on some level that you are saying and using weasel phrases when they are in the text. Try it again. (Weasel Phrases tend to provide ways to connect sentences and paragraphs that talk about how something is felt and experienced. Just read the SS material out loud. Take a moment and try to emphasize them in a way. saying one slowly or quickly. see if you can use some or all of your favorite weasel phrases when talking about it. 3) Take the written SS materials you had earlier. See if you can pick these out. after another.
that you are saying and using embedded commands at the time. feelings.It's not just about using one. Page 17 . Think of general statements. and do so with an awareness.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Select another subject that really interests you. saying one slowly. make note of the embedded commands. think of it like this. allowing you to say more (and maybe more provocative things) about a subject. maybe pausing for a moment before one.It's very important that the command be brought up in the context of a conversation that is interesting. See if you can pick out embedded commands while listening. While doing it. 2. instead "you like this" (car).2. • Repetition . on some level. maybe a car.). or more quickly. To make it easy. or "you want this" (car).. Subject Strategic Formula for Weasel Phrases Use Weasel Phrases to keep the conversation going. Like "feel excited". your job. your car. Just say this stuff out loud. intrigued. 2) Get your SS audio materials and listen for these. or experience while they are thinking about that subject.. 3) Take the written SS materials. issue a "command" or statement that instructs someone do something. Take a moment and try to emphasize them in some way. etc. and read some of this material out loud. excited by something. and to "soften" the way in which something is said. These are not to be sexual or suggestive. when separated from the context. feel. • Context . etc. Write down things that would make someone interested. once. lets say you were selling something to someone. but just general things (feelings or states). and incorporate Weasel Phrases into the next several discussions you have about that subject as well. "this is what you have imagined having for yourself.4 Embedded Commands D3-T25 Listen to an example where many of these are used. a place you have traveled. that you want them to experience. These are small snippets of words and phrases which. and where the person's emotions or feelings are somehow active (This "context" issue is discussed later in the product in great detail in Conversational Management sections. "get excited". Two key aspects of the use of Embedded Commands are often overlooked. "get into it". 4) Pick a topic that YOU are very interested in. Pick something that excites you! Maybe the subject is sports. things you would like a listener to think about. Write down a list of embedded commands. Make a point to "lean on it" a bit. after another.just general things that would cause a person to be interested in something. Maybe play one tape or CD. or feel a certain way. Again not "you like that color". its about multiple usage (bombardment)! Exercises for Embedded Commands 1) Get our your written SS materials (written) and look for embedded commands in a few pages of the text. "see how fascinated" .
see just how many of the embedded commands in that list that YOU can say! First. The next several times that you talk about that subject with anyone. Assignments for Embedded Commands 1) Look at the list of Commands that you wrote and practiced that deal with a subject in which you are interested (exercise 4 above). Page 18 . in the context of talking about that subject. Start to place some emphasis on the command itself. that would assist you in being more influential. or maybe it has to deal with your job. and with that list that YOU wrote in hand. make some effort to use some of these commands in the context of a real discussion. Maybe it's not a passion or real interest. 4) The next several times that subject comes up in your life. or school. Maybe you work in sales. Maybe slowing down slightly. pausing. just enough to put the emphasis on the command.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 5) Start talking about that topic out loud. Subject Embedded Commands 3) Practice the use of those commands. start using a few of these commands when speaking. and make it sound natural. out loud. but something where being influential may help. 6) Do the same thing again. Strategic Formula for Embedded Commands Use embedded commands repeatedly and in the proper context. but now focus more on "leaning" on the embedded commands a bit. See how natural you can make them sound. 2) Select another subject that is a part of your life. to create a compelling will on the part of the listener follow you and listen to you. Write down a list of at least 5 commands that work well in that subject. work on just saying them and finding a way to bring them up. changing your voice.
on some level. it's easier than you think! Just talking about a subject and getting her to be a part of the discussion. etc. • In order for her to understand the feeling being discussed. and make this "link" even more effective. will "link" them to you. using some of the techniques that have been discussed in this course (pausing. and inexact. emotions.While listening to the audio. and talking to you. ALL of those possible definitions apply! Then. Maybe play one tape or CD. and feel emotions. make note of where linking is taking place. which is ambiguous (non-exact). as long as there is good rapport). while looking at you. change in voice tone. See if you can pick out Linking Phrases while listening. Are you talking about the "feeling" she had at some time in the past? Are you talking about the feeling she is having right now? • Because you are using terms like "this". if you are talking about a great feeling of excitement that a woman has had or is having.2. What is this based upon? • When talking. You can also make reference to "in me". • • • • • • • Now with me In me In myself with this these this belief these feelings Exercises for Linking 1) Get our your written SS materials (written) and look for examples of Linking in the text. Linking Phrases . etc. see if you can add more phrases to the list below. and then making an ambiguous reference to that feeling using your words. she has to actually feel it to some extent. the linking tools and techniques will add to this. and getting her to experience.5 Linking D3-T42 Linking is a way to take the feelings. 3) Take the written SS materials. 2) Get your SS audio materials and listen for these.) Page 19 . then on some level that is creating this "link". you are talking "about" a feeling or sensation. also "this" and "these" as in "this feeling" of "these feelings".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. which is an ambiguous way of referencing what she is thinking about. recall. However. In some ways. you speak of "this feeling". • However. The most common linking phrase/tool that guys think about is the phrase "now with me". Just to "process" what is being discussed. "this interest". If she is experiencing these feelings in your presence. non-specific. and experiences that are being discussed and associate or "link" them to you. she has to feel it on some level (and she will. "in myself. you are being ambiguous. Take a moment and try to emphasize the linking in some way. and read some of this material aloud. For example. you become more associated with those feelings. then to the deeper levels of her mind. While doing so. when you say "this feeling".
4). the linking is ambiguous and doesn't reference you directly. Plus the next section will make this much easier! Strategic Formula for Linking After getting someone to experience good feelings and emotions. with me" after one of more of the commands in your list. This may seem strange and sound a bit "off". but now focus more on "leaning" a bit on the Linkage Phrases. A quick way of doing this is to simply add "this feeling".2. see just how many of the Embedded Commands and Linkage Phrases that you can use in your dialog. it's much better if picked up along-the-way. "this person or thing". or change your voice. link them to you so that YOU become something and someone that they feel good about. this will come to you much more easily. 6) Now do the same thing again. "these feelings". Assignments for Linking No separate assignment for this. and see if you can "add" text to each to link them to you in some way. etc.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4) Take the list of embedded commands that you created in an earlier exercise (Exercise #4 in section 2. where you listed "feel excited".4). Embedded Command Linkage Phrase 5) Pick a topic that YOU are interested in as we did before (it can be the same one you used in Exercise #4 in section 2.) For example. Start talking about that topic out loud. just enough to put emphasis on the Linkage Phrase.2. In some manner. and using the list above. (Again. First. you could say "feel excited by this" or "feel excited now" (you can also link things by putting in a reference to NOW). Doing linking in an exercise like this is difficult and hard to make it sound "natural". Write down the list of commands and an associated linkage phrase for each below. Page 20 . You can even add the ever-popular "now. This will sound easier for you as we go on. As you hear more and more examples of this throughout the course. Another example would be to take the phrase "Get excited" and turn that into "get excited by THESE things". That's ok. Maybe slow down slightly. pause. work on just saying them and finding a way to bring them up.
this & that are singular • This .2. for that multiple-instance bombardment that we spoke of before! The idea of linking wild. so you are not using a name or specific reference. For example. a GREAT strategy is to link anything and everything positive to you (and link negative things away from yourself.Possessive • Those . or not there at the time. • These people. Given that one type is possessive. Those) D4-T1 Listen to an example where many of these are used. there are times when they cannot be switched. but do so in a general manner. Consider four words in the English language: • This • That • These • Those These are forms of pronouns. seductive feelings to you may be great but.6 Easy-Linking (This. one "thing". This and that tend to refer to singular items. those feelings • These sensations. That. these refer to plural items. So. that sensation They differ though in that "this" seems possessive. So. that person • This direction. those sensations So.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 2. those people • These directions. and included. and "that" is not. "this person" tends to sound like the person that is there. with "these" being the possessive form. that feeling • This sensation. These. these and those are plural • These . This means they are ambiguous! Consider this and that. but that will be quite obvious when you try to do that). they reference a "thing".Possessive (sort of "includes" something) • That . who cares? Well these are almost interchangeable! You can switch this/that in sentences as you wish. use the possessive form when saying or talking about ANYTHING POSITIVE and use the non-possessive form when saying anything negative! Page 21 .Non-Possessive For example. This is a new and very effective way to do linking that is easy to learn and master. Whereas "that person" refers to someone "away" some "other" person who is not in the immediate area. and one is not.Non-Possessive (seems to reference something "else" or something "away") Consider these and those. • This person. exciting. those directions • These feelings. (In some cases. that direction • This feeling. and it can be done a LOT. In this case. in general. with you.
you have discussed a subject (and written a lot of text about it) that is important to you. ' 3) Earlier in the workbook. write a small sentence for each. These people are good. Subject: Attributes or "things about" that subject. Those are not. These. Write down (below) ten attributes. out loud. Those people are not. using the correct versions of That. Use "That" and "Those" when referring to anything negative. For each of these attributes or things. That. out loud. These are good. These. That. That person is not. This person is good. for a good ten minutes. This is good. and those depending on whether the item is positive or negative. Small sentence that includes that attribute. 2) Say the lines below. That is not. or "things about" that subject. for a good ten minutes. Exercises for Easy-Linking 1) Say the lines below. and the correct form of This. Those Page 22 . or singular/plural.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • This That These Those Singular possessive Singular non-possessive Plural possessive Plural non-possessive Anything Anything Anything Anything Positive Negative Positive Negative You can learn to do this (to choose which of these words to use) in real-time through training! Tactical Formula for Easy-Linking Use "This" and "These" when referring to anything positive.
These. That.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4) Talk out loud about that subject for a good 5-10 minutes. These. and Those. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. Great speakers use movement to their advantage. list ten attributes or things about that subject. and their movement becomes a part of their communication.3 MORE TOOLS D4-T12 Now we are getting into a different area. Anchoring Anchoring is associating a feeling or emotional state to a sensory experience. 5) Pick another subject. Small sentence that includes that attribute. and once again. Subject: Attributes or "things about" that subject. 2. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. using the appropriate form of This. and the correct form of This. and then write a small sentence for each. beyond the small bits and pieces of language. Those 6) Talk out loud about the subject mentioned above for a good 5-10 minutes. D4-T13 Page 23 . These sections help to train you in these types of techniques. That.
2. Watch how they move. and that you are passionate about. However we will focus on things that can create a LOT of effectiveness. etc). and away from yourself.1 Pointing and Gestures D4-T14 Good speakers use their hands.3. passionate. Move! We will start by generating SOME movement. down. point up. and to do multiple times. etc. after the conversation has ended. BE excited! Use your hands and arms for emphasis. to help make their point. talking about a subject that YOU are interested in. and hopefully the conversations are interesting. How often are they in your pockets? How often do they just lie by your side and never move? Make note of this after-the-fact. and that you end up talking about with people quite often. towards. We will break down many of the component parts of this into skills that we will teach you bit by bit.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Many different types of anchoring can be done and we are only going to cover some very basic tools. Pick something YOU are interested in. How to • • • do this: Get your hands out of your pockets. 2) List 3 subjects that you really enjoy. Use your hands to accentuate certain points. make note of where your hands are when speaking. 2) Get one of the text lists from an earlier exercise (weasel phrases. Don't flail about wildly. Read some of that text (from an earlier exercise) out loud. Get your hands OUT of your pockets and AWAY from your body! Act excited. maybe a motivational speaker. They may be a bit over-the-top (speaking to an audience is different than speaking one-on-one) but just watch them for a while. or even a preacher. political speaker. and that are very very easy to do. Subjects Page 24 . etc. Assignments for Pointing and Gestures 1) For the next few days. and then we can work on deliberate movement such as • Pointing towards and away from things • Towards yourself and away from yourself Exercises for Pointing and Gestures 1) Find a good speaker on TV. and way from your sides. have energy. Most guys are too boring and too reserved when talking. Then later on see if you can start to become aware of what your hands are doing WHILE you are in the conversation. and some gestures. so that the use of these becomes automatic. embedded commands. so these techniques discussed here will help.
and Those. 5) Pick another subject. and once again.3 MORE TOOLS D4-T12 Now we are getting into a different area. Subject: Attributes or "things about" that subject. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. These. list ten attributes or things about that subject. Those 6) Talk out loud about the subject mentioned above for a good 5-10 minutes. and the correct form of This. beyond the small bits and pieces of language. These. 2.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4) Talk out loud about that subject for a good 5-10 minutes. D4-T13 Page 23 . and then write a small sentence for each. Small sentence that includes that attribute. and their movement becomes a part of their communication. These sections help to train you in these types of techniques. That. and use as many of the sentences (above) as you can while talking. Great speakers use movement to their advantage. Anchoring Anchoring is associating a feeling or emotional state to a sensory experience. That. using the appropriate form of This.
very easily. etc. and to send negative things "away" from yourself. and accentuate what you are saying in order to be more compelling as a speaker and to get even more attention from your listener or audience. Good. 2. ANYTHING.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course For each of these subjects. recall a recent time when you had such a discussion. Bad. and send Negative things away • You can point towards or away from yourself. no need to WILDLY gesture! • You can do this many many times. just start to MOVE. point towards yourself.). and animate to some extent the next time you talk about them. 3) With these three subjects in mind. and MOVE. and the repetition works for you! • Can do in various contexts. and others. point away. and when anything negative is mentioned. Say the following out loud while gesturing in the correct direction: Good. arms. Exercises for Linking Gestures 1) Stand up. Read that out loud. make a note to go ahead and move.. or at least be able to move. point or gesture towards yourself. Bring Positive things toward yourself. many people move when talking This technique is most powerful when used at a time when emotions and/or imagination are engaged in the conversation. etc. Whenever you say something positive. As you get more comfortable with this. Do something. • Or hold your hand away from yourself (to send things "away") How to use it • Good to do in the context of being a person that already MOVES when talking! • Make this subtle. point or gesture away. Do your best to re-enact that discussion (say what you said. but this time use your hands. Page 25 . Tactical Formula for Linking Gestures Whenever you say something negative.) 2) Grab some of your written SS materials. make a point to get your hands OUT of your pockets. gesture.2 Linking Gestures (Towards And Away) D4-T22 This is a fast and easy way to link positive states to you. Bad (gesture towards. towards. and MOVE! Do this out loud. gesture. away. or • You can place your hand on your chest or abdomen in a subtle manner (to link things to you) .. This technique allows you to do this many many times. motion.3. and every time something positive is being talked about. away. and AWAY from your sides and MOVE when talking about these subjects. Strategic Formula for Pointing and Gestures Move.
Use "This. and MOVE. Subjects Do your best to re-enact that discussion. it will become easier and easier. and that you end up talking about with people quite often. or at least sit where you can move. Point to you Negative statement. Point away. point towards yourself and when anything negative is mentioned. but you don't have to do it every time! That will seem strange! Tactical Formula for Easy Linking Expanded Positive statement. 2) With these three subjects in mind. Conversely. but this time when you are speaking of anything good or positive. These. (yes. when anything negative is mentioned. etc. passionate. Do the following out loud: Page 26 .. Do this out loud.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Remember the text we used in an earlier example here in the workbook? Read that out loud.) D4-T30 Now we bring together Linking Gestures and Easy Linking. Assignments for Linking Gestures 1) List 3 subjects that you really enjoy. start with a few. Say "that". These. point away. motion away or place your hands/arms away. This is veryeasy to do over and over for that repetitive effect. When you say These or Those. Say "this". recall a recent time when you had such a discussion. make a note to go ahead and use these Linking Gestures to some extent the next time you talk about them. Start subtle. and every time something positive is being talked about. these can be the same as the last set of assignments). Linking Gestures and Easy-Linking together: • • • Use the pointing/gestures on Positive and Negative things (point towards and away). Say "these". have energy. For each of these subjects. Point away Positive statement. point away. Pick something that YOU are interested in..3 Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This. Exercises for Easy Linking Expanded 1) Stand up. Those" correctly Combine these and use them at the same time! When you say This or These. That. gesture towards yourself or place your hand(s) on yourself. etc. say what you said. 2. Point to you Negative Say "those".3. That. Those . points towards yourself. and hopefully the conversations are interesting.
specific states. we are doing that already by pointing "towards" on positive things and "away" on negative things using Linking. Point away. touch them! This "Easy Anchoring" works in any context: • they laugh. touch them • they seem to go into a pleasant state. These. That.Point or Touch. and say "this". but actually.) with Easy Linking (using This. But to get even more effectiveness when anything positive happens.4 Easy Anchoring . states. This is more easily done if you are standing at the side or at an angle. it's very useful to Anchor anything and everything positive to you! In some ways. it will become automatic. These.3. and away when negative. Page 27 . Point back to yourself and say "these". These. it's more difficult. or when the person you are talking to goes into a Positive state. etc. and thoughts to you but in a general sense. Strategic Formula for Easy Linking Expanded Combine the use of Linking Gestures (towards yourself when positive. Those in the correct ways) to associate even more positive feelings.. and Those. a laugh. Use the correct versions of This. 2. That. It may be good to anchor feelings. touch them This is best done in a "moment" with some emotion.. and emotions to yourself. a realization. The more that "emotions" are being accessed. If you are head-on directly in front of a person. and able to be done many many times. touch them • they smile. an expression. Do this in a way that maybe makes it seem like you are doing it for emphasis. and Those if you can. it's good to be close enough (within arms-length) so that the "touch" is easy to do.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Point to yourself. Can we apply this to anchoring? Yes! • We need a way to do some basic anchoring that is very simple. That. Also. Practice it enough and in connection with earlier exercises. Point away and say "those" Repeat! This WILL help to train you! 2) Remember the text we used in an earlier example? Speak that text out loud. On Positive D4-T35 Let's look at anchoring in light of the 80/20 rule (where 80% of the results come from 20% of the effort). trying to add in more instances of This. while pointing towards or away from yourself in the correct manner. the more effective it tends to be. you are anchoring them in a subtle way. and say "that".
without really thinking about it. Page 28 . just a touch. • Think about when you greet a friend. make a point to hold it just slightly longer than usual. vividly.. (Not romantically. Also note the degree of eye contact. touch them to help anchor it to you. you just touch his or her upper arm or upper back. Exercises for Easy Anchoring 1) Think about the last 5 times where you touched someone in this type of way. but a bit more "deliberate". a smile. maybe pat on the back.. 2) Spend some time looking for moments (positive ones) where a touch would be appropriate. etc. intrigue. also make a point to make and maintain eye contact as well. What do you do? You shake their hand. you grab their upper arm as well. See if you can recall how it was. laugh. Tactical Formula for Easy Anchoring When the person you are talking with displays a positive feeling of some type. maybe someone who you have heard about). but in many cases. or Topic being discussed 2) Recall those 5 times. Person '" Situation. and the situation or topic being discussed.. A laugh A moment of recognition or realization When someone starts talking quietly. directly to you. interest. • When joking with someone. Write those down. • Think about when you meet and are introduced to someone.) Maybe a handshake Maybe a pat on the back Maybe a funny gesture Make a note of the person.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course You probably do this already in certain situations. such as. This is the same type of thing. and note to yourself the correlation between how long the touch lasted and the level of rapport. Assignments for Easy Anchoring 1) The next several times you shake someone's hand. but yet have some degree of rapport already (maybe this is a friend-of-a-friend.
That. Those Page 29 . in-the-moment. o Embedded Commands • Can you do this now. and movement skills that will be used later in the course. Fast • • • Pause o Energy And Enthusiasm • Passionate or Boring? LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS o Adjectives And Adverbs • Be descriptive o Trance Words • Instantaneously. These. • SPEAKING POINTERS o The "Cool" Factor • You don't have to be cold. Then.. maybe you don't touch them. Suddenly. Those MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures • Move! Point! o Linking Gestures • Towards And Away o Easy Linking Expanded • Pointing With This. Find Yourself o Weasel Phrases • If I were to . You are noticing this after-the-fact. language. o Easy-Linking • This.. That. Chest o Pacing And Pausing • Slow. that a touch is appropriate. o Linking " with me. and you have already learned a LOT of the detailed speaking. we want you to actually DO IT! So. Mouth.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course At first. see if you can have at least 5 instances of knowing.. 3) Now that you have started to notice these "moments" where a touch would be appropriate. anchoring and associating yourself to positive and intriguing feelings in other people helps to make them feel positive towards and intrigued by you. to be cool o Voice Tone And Tonality • Nose. DO IT! Strategic Formula for Easy Anchoring In general. 2.4 REVIEW D4-T46 We are well on our way. These.. think "I could have touched them THEN". but as you notice these moments.. when you have the chance.
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o Easy Anchoring • Point Or Touch On Positive And Negative With these parts behind you. we will move onwards to work on Language Structures. Page 30 . and later to Conversational Management techniques.
Challenges • Can't you just bluntly offer a different view? Yes. Don't argue! .Some people try to display higher knowledge or value by "arguing". You might disagree. Are they useful and possible? • • • Trying to knock or jar someone into a different direction or way of thinking can be risky. Agree or not agree? . telling someone they are wrong. then and give them another way of looking at it. To "Pace" means to just BE a part of the conversation.1 PACE AND LEAD D5-T2 Pace and Lead . or "bigger chucks" as we say. the sort of things that you need to get used to doing automatically. it's best to meet or join someone in some way. The minute you do anything like that to get someone else's "approval".. into higher-level stuff. Fast and abrupt changes . Changing the Viewpoint or Frame if Mind .. however you can break rapport. you might bring up a new way of looking at it.. and more influential in general. but will hopefully at some point.. You MAY be able to do that. 3.. These techniques give you ways to use and arrive at languaging in a manner that will make you more persuasive. be able to just "do". etc. but you need a lot of power to do it and you risk breaking rapport. For example. Now we are moving "up" a level. You almost NEVER impress people that way! To pace/lead well. you are lost. but you must do so powerfully and do NOT look for "acceptance".. move them .. say things such as. o That's one way to see it o I understand your point Page 31 • • .0 LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES D5-T1 We have been working on bits and pieces of language.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3.. These were tactical details. things that you should not even have to really "think about". but you can break rapport in the process. or to try to "impress" them. Pace and Lead allows us to "join" someone. all of the time. you might make comments (some that agree and some that may not) but the key is that you are "Taking part in" the conversation and topics at hand. Changing Topics and Subjects . show understanding (does not have to be agreement necessarily) and then .Can you just knock someone into agreeing with you? Can you be that bold? Yes. move with them conversationally for a while. incorrect. but agreeing is just a special case. acknowledge what the other person is saying.Can you just abruptly jerk a conversation towards where you want it to go? Maybe. towards where you want things to go.Some people misunderstand and think that to "Pace" means to "agree". It can mean this. and then take them in some direction.A way to change directions • In someone's way of thinking • In the conversation To make a change in direction in some manner.
Then start to move or shift things in a different way.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o o That's interesting I see what you are saying. understanding... To TRY to IMPRESS is bad. the implication is that you NEED someone's approval...) • Yes. and some of then want to go out and "impress" people with their newfound knowledge.. a way that you want... if you attempt to do that.. as if you "need" their approval.. but to really get a sense of being IN the conversation. and then moving things forward in some manner. So..... Arguing! Many smart guys study these techniques and technologies.. • Ok . Then start to direct things in a different way . I see • That's interesting • I get it • Hmmmmm . and/or interest. I get it. The point here is not to memorize these "lines"... • Well... Instead . Maybe • • • • • • continue showing an understanding or interest So what you mean is . acknowledgement.BE IMPRESSIVE! People really don't like to be proven dumb or wrong! Most people are offended or "put off by such attempts.it's like this. have you thought about this . showing that you are a part of it.. . Strategic Formula for Pacing and Leading Pacing and Leading allows you "be" in the conversation for a while and gain rapport and information. I read/saw/heard the same thing . Tactical Formula for Pacing and Leading Show agreement.. it makes YOU look bad... Let them know you are listening and understand (using wording such as shown below.. • Alright. Let me make sure I understand . I also think you can see .1 General Pace and Lead Techniques D5-T9 Here are some examples of ways to do these steps with example wording for each.. 3. allowing you to move things more in your favor later on. Page 32 ...1.. In addition. Impressing someone with your knowledge.. Ok.. or. what you are saying is . So if I understand this . That hardly ever works.
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I hear you, and what else is interesting is .... •-. That's a good way of looking at it, something else that is important is ....
The Formula for Pacing and Leading is ... acknowledge and then start to shift things ... Maybe you want to shift things more and/or bring up another issue or viewpoint entirely (or maybe you actually disagree) • That's one way of looking at it, however I think ... • Yes, I understand, I have also heard ... • Ok, that makes sense, another way of thinking about it is .. • Alright, but on the other hand... Some general methods you can use to introduce the "leading" aspect, you can talk about... • What you know, believe, understand • What a friend or colleague has said • What you heard • What you read • etc. 3.1.2 Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects D5-T12
Lets say you find some people talking about a topic. Do you walk up, interrupt, and start an entirely new topic? No. (Well, you can, but that takes a lot of power and has a lot of risk.) A better way is to enter the conversation, talk about it (Pace), and then move the conversation into areas that you want it to go (Lead). Examples: • You are in a conversation and the topic is cars. People are talking about prices, loans, etc. You acknowledge what is being said, contribute to that conversation (pace), and then start to bring in the idea of how a car handles, how it feels, and how exciting it is to drive certain cars (lead). • People are discussing clothes, various brands, types, etc. You talk about that with them (pace) for a while, and then start to bring up the idea of how clothes make you feel, how you feel differently when wearing different things ... etc (lead)
Tactical Formula for Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects Show agreement, understanding, acknowledgement, and/or interest in the topic or subject. Then start to move or shift topic or subject in a different way, a way that you want.
Exercises for Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects 1) Think about some recent conversations you have had with people about different topics, hopefully these conversations and/or this topic is something that occurs a lot for you (based on interests you have, people you know, etc). Recall a specific "moment" in each conversation. Note what was being discussed, and what point was being talked about. Make a note of each of them. Also note, where did that actual conversation go next?
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course What were you talking about in this "moment"?
Conversation with whom?
Where did it go next?
2) Pace and Lead Gently Out loud, practice as if you were talking in each of the discussions above, and paced the conversation and topic, and then lead it in some direction. In this exercise, simply show agreement, understanding, and/or interest, and then lead in the same general direction. Maybe bring up a new example, new point, new issue, but just sort of "take over" the conversation. 3) Pace and Lead in a New Direction Next, for each of those instances, provide an example where you show agreement, understanding, and/or interest, but now start to "move" things in a new direction. Maybe the conversation that you had started at this one "point" and went in a specific direction ... Now, for this exercise, practice taking it in a new and different direction. Maybe introduce a different aspect of the topic or subject, something not mentioned before, or not normally talked about. The key is to first show agreement, understanding, and/or interest and THEN do this "shift", and you LEAD things in a different way.
Assignments for Pace and Lead - Topics and Subjects 1) Make note of three conversations that you tend to have with people on a regular basis. Person or People Subjects we discuss
2) The next times these conversations happen, make a point to "Show agreement, understanding, and/or interest" (Pace). Then "Then start to move things" (Lead) in your own way, Do this by introducing a different aspect of that topic, or a related topic/subject. Don't make this shift or change really abrupt or different, just make a point to sort of "direct" where things move, even if that direction is close to where it was going anyway. Just make sure YOU are the one that moves it. Note the text and examples given earlier as a way to do that. 3) Once you can do the above, now make a point to have your "Lead" incorporate a real change of some type.
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Normally, even without your input, the conversation tends to go in a certain way. The earlier exercise had you just keep thing moving in that same direction. Now you are to "take" the conversation somewhere else towards a different or related topic. Just introduce a new aspect of the topic, a different thing, a different direction, so that you are really "leading" where things go. Remember the language that you were shown earlier. Use languaging like... You know what ELSE is interesting You know what * l * have found (seen, felt) Another way of doing this would be .. You know what ELSE can happen ... is ...
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You can change the way people look at things, their mindset, and their "frame of mind". For example, imagine you are having a discussion and people are talking in a certain "frame of mind" (not directly, it's just their way of seeing things). The point here is to acknowledge that frame, and then introduce another way of seeing things, another "frame", or another "mindset". What is • • • • a "frame"? In general it's ... A way someone "sees" something. What it "means" to them. The way they "feel" about it. The significance or meaning that it has.
Looking at the formula for Pace and Lead, you apply that by first acknowledging the current Frame, and then start to lead by bringing up another way of thinking about it and/or looking at it. You bring a new "frame" into the discussion. (This is a way of shifting that way people LOOK at things, the significance that it has, or their mindset regarding certain topics or behaviours). In the earlier example of Pacing and Leading of Topics and Subjects, we were talking just about a thing, a topic, or subject. Now we are talking about a feeling, or the way things are "seen" or what they "mean". For example, people may be talking about: • Taking risks • Feeling good or bad • Having a good day or a bad day • Making choices • What an event "meant" to them • How someone else actions affected them • How a decision affected them. There is a "frame" (of mind) behind each of these discussions and with proper technique, that frame and mindset may be changed. Look back at the "Methods" section earlier for some details and examples of how to introduce this pacing and leading (there are some lists of languaging examples provided). Examples: • You enter a conversation where people are talking about risks, Risks at work, risks in finances, risks in life. You Pace by discussing this for a while. The frame or mindset here is that risks are bad, dangerous,
(You are shifting her frame so that she may start to look at different things in men.) Tactical Formula for Pace and Lead . some risks make you feel alive. The way they "feel" about it. looks for more. and you are working to change the way she screens out guys... Exercises for Pace and Lead . The frame here is that she has her "standards" and that this is good for her. then lead in the same general direction. understanding.. some men will just "write off a woman that is a certain size. and paced it. What was the "frame". Just sort of "take over" the conversation.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course have consequences. and the "frame" that was in use. Maybe bring up a similar way of looking at it. etc. etc. With whom? Topic? Mindset / Frame of Mind 2) Pace and Lead Gently Practice as if you were talking in that discussion. and how anyone of quality .Mindset or Frame of Mind Show agreement. weight. • Another conversation has a woman talking about what she looks for in men. and/or interest in the mindset or frame of mind .. acknowledgement. the frame of mind or mindset is the focus here. some risks have good rewards. and what "kind" of man she likes (height. Note what was being discussed. (Risk was framed as dangerous. then start to move into talking about how men do this as well. where the point of the discussion in that moment was: The way they "see" something. Make a note of each of them. Then you start to lead by bringing up the idea that some risks are fun and interesting. or may be perfect but with the wrong hair color (lead). In this exercise simply Show agreement. etc). Towards a way that you want. Page 36 . Then start to move or shift the frame by introducing another way of looking at things. and/or interest in the Mindset or Frame of mind. The frame you are bring up is how superficial it is to judge based on numbers and details. understanding. now its being framed as exciting). Again.Mindset or Frame of Mind 1) Think about some recent conversations you have had with people about different topics. What it "means" to them. You agree on some level (pace) and chat about that. she talks about what their professions are... who is like 5 lbs overweight... the assumption? What is the frame of mind behind the viewpoints that they had? Write down the topic. the people. the viewpoint. and then lead it in some direction.. what point was being talked about. a new meaning. Do this OUT LOUD. Recall a specific "moment" in the conversation. or provide a relevant example.
and maybe point out a similar example from your own life. to find a positive way of looking at the situation.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 3) Pace and Lead in a New Direction Next. what it "means" that is not really in agreement with what was said. and/or interest. but just make a point to sort of "direct" where things move. Do this by introducing a "way of looking at it" that is similar to the one that is already being used. The key is to first Show agreement. understanding. and they are the one not taking risks someone is prejudiced or judges other people. and/or interest in the Mindset or Frame of Mind but now start to "move" things in a new direction. Write down these subjects. provide an example where you Show agreement. Think about discussions where YOU can see that these people involved are working on a certain set of assumptions. some way. or something someone said. understanding. Basically. make a point to "Show agreement. and their motivations etc. maybe even limiting beliefs or beliefs that really hold them back. Do this OUT LOUD for each example. even if that direction is close to where it was going anyway. a frame of reference. understanding. or something you heard or read. These should be of a type where THE "frame" or mindset is something of which you are aware. Then "start to move things" (Lead) in your own way.Mindset or Frame of Mind 1) Make note of three conversations that you tend to have with people on a regular basis. A good way to do it is to show agreement and understanding. Page 37 . and THEN do this "shift". and says they are cheap. Examples: someone complains a lot. etc someone looks at a political issue. for each of those instances. Maybe bring up a different viewpoint or way of looking at it. you are just acknowledging the Mindset or Frame in this example. and/or interest" (Pace). With whom? Subject/Topic? Mindset / Frame of Mind 2) Pace and Lead Gently The next times these conversations happen. and makes assumptions (has a certain frame) about people or groups. Maybe bring up a way of looking at things that is totally different. Maybe find a way. Don't make this really abrupt or different. but really his mindset is the problem someone talks about wanting something different. and you LEAD things in a different way. Assignments for Pace and Lead . and HE is the one with the limitation someone complains about work and the managers. and the frame associated with each. Maybe acknowledge and then bring up an opposing view.
Meaning. • At least it's not like XYZ. a new aspect of "what it means". Continue to Pace by maybe stating an obvious point about their current reality o seeing XYZ o feeling XYZ o thinking about XYZ o etc. The earlier exercise had you just sort of "run" with that. o While you are .. there was a certain "frame" being discussed. but it can work well and adds to the power of the languaging... (for example.. o etc.. focus on the Mindset or Frame. o You are probably wondering Page 38 • • .. Now you are to "take" the conversation somewhere else and bring up a new mindset or frame of mind. o As you realize .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Pace and Lead In a New Direction Once you can do the above. Again. point towards a specific Mindset or Frame that is of YOUR choosing.. o While you think .. or used by very powerful speakers... o While you are .Current Reality D5-T29 If you look at the languaging used in things like hypnosis. it might not be that bad... The general way to approach this is: • Start by pacing something that is obvious about their current reality .. o As you see .. but just find a positive way to look at what is being discussed. even without your input.. and new way of looking at things. This may be different from the way the subject or belief WAS framed or thought of.. A "safe" way to do this would be to find a positive way to look at the situation. This is a small-chunk detail and technique. Just introduce a new frame... and then use that to lead someone somewhere... o While you see . it could be .. now make a point to have your "Lead" incorporate a real change of some type..1. and allow the conversation to continue with the same frame of mind in place. "Pace" their mindset... using words such as) o As you are . Some ways to do that is by saying things such as. 3. a new mindset.. You know..4 Pace and Lead .. or assumed by the people involved. o As you feel.. Well.. A friend of mine used to feel the same way and they. these techniques are used a LOT.. another way of looking at it is .. What is done here is that you Pace based on something that is obvious (obvious in their "current reality")... o After you have . and/or express what is on their mind.
o you will then . then you are probably wondering .... • You are talking to someone at work .. If you spend too much time saying things similar to "I know what you are thinking". 3.... the more it will "sink in". o notice what its like as .Pacing Reality too much can seem arrogant. Studies have been done with persuasive language that show that giving a reason will make people more apt to do things for you and agree with you..".. etc. and do.." • Physical demos use this a lot. o state what you want them to see/feel/hear/realize Examples: • As you are listening to this program .. o another thing you will see/feel/notice is .. it starts to become annoying to the listener. Make note of how many times I have paced your current reality. what you are hearing.Current Reality As (while ) you) are "X" (Pace) Where "X" is something that is true in their current reality (perceptions. what you are reading. The more you hear this.Current Reality 1) Listen to this section again...Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • o As you are thinking about o I know you are concerned about o The issue that may be on your mind is o The question you may have is Begin to lead .... Rewind or go back a few tracks. and "As that feeling builds. Point them to where you want to lead them . "As you feel this.. o you will start to notice o you may realize o you may start to think o you may see how ." • You will hear a LOT of this in this course (which is part of your re-programming!) Tactical Formula for Pace and Lead .. what you are thinking....) • Then you will "Y" Where "Y" is something you want them to experience (Lead) Exercises for Pace and Lead ..... "as you are watching this presentation .. Warning .... Page 39 . you will begin to notice this .. Really pay attention and see how many times I have done pacing and leading in this manner.2 GIVE THEM A REASON D5-T32 Give someone a reason for someone to listen . thoughts.
• You are talking to someone and you would like to pull her aside and make the conversation more private. Assignments for Give Them A Reason 1) Make note of five routine situations that you have in your life where you are asking for something. Write these down. you don't need to be concerned about these things. "hey. anything. remarkably. if you say "Is it ok if I make copies next. lets move over there". but put in a reason of some type. If you just say. because I am really in a hurry" then. If you say. The examples will be better if these are people you do not know. Page 40 . or at least people that are not close friends of yours. Person What did you ask for? 2) Practice out loud how you might "ask" for that favor or make that request again. just providing a reason. or asked someone to do something. You are not being apologetic or anything. 3) Go through the same list again. then it may be difficult to get people to agree. if you say "Let's move over there because it's more quiet" you will be amazed at how much more agreeable the person may be. Write these down.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Don't worry about "losing your power" or being too "nice". the addition of this small "reason" will make people much more agreeable and apt to let you do what you would like. come up with another reason. Examples: • You walk up to a copier at work and there are three people in line. they may go with you. it just helps to make people more agreeable (and there are statistics to support that as well). However. It could be asking for coffee. asking "can I pay by credit card". However. This technique does not provide a 100% guarantee. and out loud. Tactical Formula for Give Them a Reason Request X because (of) Y Exercises for Give Them a Reason 1) Make note of the last five times you asked someone for something. "Is it ok if I make copies next". requesting something.
you get someone to agree and then lead them 3. go ahead and mention the "reason". Page 41 .3. actually ends up being several points. • When you give several reasons at once. statement. provide several. don't just provide one reason. just as an example) • Hypnotists use this technique a LOT.1 General Listing D6-T4 Strategic Formula for General Listing General Listing is a way to quickly provide several reasons. the items that you will "list" need to be brief points.3 LISTING D6-T1 Listen to an example where many of these are used. or make a point. or excuse. and quite well. • For the sake of a conversation. which support your point. point. • Training for sales people use this quite a bit. This technique has been developed based on observing how many good and influential people speak: • Successful sales people • Charismatic speakers • Good debaters • Component of hypnotic languaging « Very important. in order to provide more power to what you are saying.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Situation (Place. and flow easily. Power in Numbers . 3) The next times these situations come up in your day-to-day life. "List" several things or examples which support your point. • This is somewhat similar to a "pace and lead". or giving an example. it's difficult to debate them all or object to them all (not to be combative. • When you give a reason. or make a statement.Repetition in a way that serves you. 3. so that your one "opportunity" in a conversation to make "a" point. People) What do you ask for? 2) Practice out loud some "reasons" that you could give in these situations. See if you can make it automatic. Tactical Formula for General Listing When making a point.
. strange (2). and somewhat new (3). sometimes . then the second. so that you don't just say "X. For each conversation. In many ways. you may begin to agree. Now.. Y. write down who it was with.each of which lasts just a few seconds. but as you listen to it (1). true. make them brief.X and then other times . Each of the items in a list can also be much longer. Now try again by expounding on each of the items. Then. Listing can be short. Mention the first item. and/or what it's like to meet people. 5) Think of three recent conversations you have had with people where you were making a point.. what are three ways that can go? Good? Bad? Indifferent? Exciting? Boring? Pick three and write these down What are three "ways" that the experience of "meeting people" can go? 2) Now practice out loud by saying something like "Isn't it interesting how you can meet people and it happens in different ways? I mean sometimes . doing some type of work. etc. etc. the third item may tend to "lead" someone in some way. and maybe 3 different things that support your "point". Select a particular aspect of that activity. 3.. Activity that you like or do often List a particular part of aspect of that activity What are three "ways" that can go? " 4) Now describe "What its like to do your activity . Y. partying.. Who you were talking to Page 42 . listing is like pacing and leading.. maybe watching sports... a. and still. really recall listing to good speakers (2). what point you were trying to make.." and mention those three different ways.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Example (see the listed items shown as 1. 3) Pick an example of an activity that you do often. etc. as in saying three items . Something you are interested in. briefly..2. and the types of things to which no one would object... Do that out loud. as a list. playing a game.. Z". Z (selecting your items listed above). talk about it for a sentence or two. where each lasts several minutes.) • I know this may sound a bit different (1). but instead you talk ' about each for a few moments. Write them down. maybe trying to convince someone of something (NOT an argument-just that you were making a point and would like to be more persuasive). Pick three ways that can go . Exercises for General Listing 1) Lets say you are talking to someone about "Meeting people". Maybe your first two items in a list are obvious. and start to think about in a positive way (3).
out loud. at times you want to use listing as a way to highlight or focus upon one item. Placing that particular item at the end of a list can have that effect. or different types of alternatives (to a thought. it's easy to think of that Page 43 . and tends to make THAT point the most important one. Therefore. activity. In the earlier Listing examples. it makes it seem as if you are being fair. However.At The End D6-T15 If several items are mentioned in a list (for example a car. by placing YOUR preferred item at the end. you put more emphasis on it. Do that for each of the three examples above. and an elephant) what tends to "stick" in your mind? (The Elephant!) The last item! By hanging an item at the end of a list.3. Maybe you want your list to contain many options. Here is a way to think about it. the one that comes to mind the easiest is the one that YOU want someone to agree with. Maybe you want to list several options or examples. a table. the other. 3. we were talking about three points in a list that all were similar. However. You weren't trying to emphasize one point vs. Who you were talking to Point you were trying to make Three items that support your "point" 6) Recall a specific moment in each conversation. etc) By doing that. it sticks in the listener's head more. you were just listing several things in a list. suggestion. and just providing a series of options.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Point you were trying to make Three items that support your "point" b. Who you were talking to Point you were trying to make Three items that support your "point" c. Now practice. how you could bring up these three points in a list-like manner. Normally.2 Listing .
.. I have had to do that myself at times. This course. I mean. did you notice the use of the words this/that/these/those? Also where do you think I might have been pointing and gesturing during those examples? Job interview o Have you talked to many candidates? Yes..that is the one (3). but even when describing that person.... When I have interviewed a lot of people. and the third one "eventually find this person" was the one I wanted to really "stick"... was said that at the end? By the way. they are nice. right away. It may be because you like the resume (a).. c)! • • • • • • Strategic Formula for Listing . Page 44 . o And other times . It's just a matter of getting to this person. Examples • • Fun activity. you know? See how I did that? See how the item which I really wanted them to think about. those people doesn't mean much either way . or maybe you are really seeing the power of all of this! I think you can tell which option I was going for! Meeting People. They are not all the same. how they can almost become a blur. the more convinced you are that that person is NOT the one! o Hopefully though. it could be boring. or this person presents himself really well (b). you put more emphasis on it and it tends to make that one "stick" more. or they just have the right answers (c). interesting.. Now those are different ways of seeing it. etc . you know .. o Other times you get that sort of a "friend" vibe with that person. you meet someone. you just really click and you feel this connection .. one after another. lets say you are talking about doing some activity.A t The End Listing at The End is a way to provide several options (which may differ) but to emphasize the option that YOU want.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course one. b. Say that one LAST and bring up two other options. 3). you just know .. Again let's bring up this example of "meeting people". In general. but by placing "it could be fun" last. this is one of those subtle but very powerful things that many persuasive speakers do a LOT. you eventually find this person that on some level. they sort of fell into several groups o There are some people that. and there is just something about this person. I know. o You know what it's like when you meet someone . examples. or instances FIRST. Sometimes there is nothing special. o May be frustrating to you. but you spend some time with that person (2) and the more that person talks... o It could suck.2. Again. maybe it's boring. and then finish with YOUR preferred item.. you know that those people are NOT qualified (1) o Others you maybe have thought were ok at first. or it could really be fun. It's interesting though. See? Not only did I have a list of three (1. I put another list within THAT description (a.
Exercises for Listing .3 Listing . mentioning all of these in a list. and seem too direct. However. buy some thing. close. agree to some point. 3) Do that again. maybe controversial. Maybe pause when saying it. it can be TOO obvious. placing something at the end can add to its power and make it stand out. and therefore you do NOT want it to stick out too much. talk about the issue. At times however. make sure that the one that YOU want to do. If you say Page 45 . and what the result is that YOU want.? Write down what the "issue" is. but bury it inside a list. 4) What is an example from your life (recently). Maybe add an embedded command of some type. In that case. Three things that you and your friends could do (activity) 2) Practice. Examples: • Sales .Let say you arc trying to get someone to buy something. go somewhere. it makes sense to "bury" that item in the middle of a list. Go ahead and suggest that item. Issue or Option What do you want? 5) Now. but mention the one which YOU want to put the most emphasis on.).At The End 1) Lets say you are going to spend a day or evening with some friends. List three possible things that you could do and write these down. Maybe add a small "list" within that last item (because it's inexpensive. out loud.. and you are all figuring out how you are going to spend your time. is the item you mention LAST. Here is a way to think about it..3. where you are trying to convince people to do something.At The End When making a point. LAST. Maybe you want to suggest something very direct or quite controversial and you do NOT want to give it too much prominence. and we always have fun . "List" several things briefly in order. etc. out loud. or giving an example. etc.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Tactical Formula for Listing .Burying Items D6-T24 When using a List. and they are haggling or objecting a bit. statement. 3. You may want to "test" to see how the person will react to it. but place some more emphasis on that last item. You want to mention or suggest something that is quite strong. and bring up at least two other "options" BEFORE you mention the one option that you want.
Burying Items When giving examples or options to someone... So maybe you say something like o "Well. "let's slip the deadline" might be a problem in some circles! So when people are talking about options to help the project. we can leave together right now. and when you say it at the end like that.. lets say that you want to say something or suggest something that is very direct. bury it inside a list. Instead. more "appropriate" items to lighten it up." Doesn't that sound better? Meeting at a Party . See? Putting that one.. honestly. that you will just seize this chance and get it while you can! That sounds almost TOO forceful. just suggesting.. you can get away with an outrageous or very direct option by burying that option in the middle of a List.Burying Items Listing . But of she smiles and seems interested. This is also a good way of testing someone's response. The idea of " seize this chance and get it while you can" is something rather challenging to say (as the seller) that directly. and you are talking about you two getting together sometime. maybe you aren't ready to buy this now.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • "Well. Lets say your idea is so controversial and over-the-top. Very direct. maybe you seize this chance and get it while you can . However. Page 46 . it's your choice. one of them is to just slip the deadline.. maybe you aren't ready to buy this now.Burying Items is a way to mention an outrageous or very direct option for "testing" purposes. or maybe you want it so much.. more powerful and direct statement in the middle.Lets say you have met a women at a party. For example. Sometimes you have that "direct" item in mind and you surround it with other. it seems too obvious. But if you switch the order. we can talk in a few days. it seems a bit easier for you to say it. There are several options but. that you are almost "worried" about how the listener may react. or possibly you still want to negotiate. seems to "lighten" it up somehow. that may be a GOOD sign. lets say you are working on a project and things are behind schedule. and maybe there is a possibility of you even spending that night together. • Instead of thinking about it in terms of a list. It also allows you a chance to watch the persons reaction to it. o "well. or maybe I'll call you tomorrow".. or to maybe see if you can get someone to agree to it! Tactical Formula for Listing . you don't just say "we can slip the deadline". its your choice. If she gasps and has a look of shock and horror when you make that suggestion. or possibly you just still want to negotiate . Strategic Formula for Listing . maybe it IS too direct.
Look at the items that were listed and see if one of them maybe seemed very "strong" or "direct". See if you can make it sound natural. Go ahead and change the order of the list that you used earlier. if you do it TOO much or too blatantly. as any opportunities come up where you would like to make an outrageous or quite direct suggestion. go ahead and do so. Page 47 . in the middle and see if it is a bit easier to imagine saying that list. see if it seems easier to say. and then trying saying that item in the middle. make a point (afterward) to think about that outrageous option. Situation Outrageous or Direct Suggestion 4) For each of those examples (above) go ahead and practice out loud. Situation Outrageous or Direct Suggestion you could have made. it can stand out too much and be annoying. Assignments for Listing . go ahead and create a new item that is very outrageous or direct. but as with any technique. 2) Practice out loud how you would say that list in the situation you used in the previous exercise. write down an outrageous or very direct suggestion that you would have liked to make (for each).Burying Items 1) Go back to the previous exercises where you said some "lists" out loud.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Exercises for Listing . by burying it in a list. but do it by burying it in a list. but see if you CAN say it. For three different situations that have come up in your life recently. or the most direct item. If there is not one. 3) Think of some recent situations where you would have liked to mention a quite outrageous or direct suggestion. suggesting a List of options but burying that outrageous option in a list. Try it out loud. Try saying it with the strongest item at the end. Listing can be powerful.Burying Items 1) As you go out and live your life. Bury the strongest item. you will probably encounter some situations where you might want to suggest something quite outrageous or direct. After these situations occur. and go ahead and practice how you COULD have said it. 2) In the near future. you may even want to say it in a joking way.
you are walking someone through a series of steps or thoughts. 3. and I just strung those together . then mention several of your points or examples that support what YOU want.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3. can help to alter how the options (and you) are perceived. emphasis. then present it buried within a List of options. and see how. If you must suggest several different examples or options.. Maybe you want to stress one item more or less. Pauses. then the more Y.3. D6-T38 You have heard language like "The more X." "More and More" is just a way to use these and bring them together. o See how we are listing several items? • We discuss Pace and Lead .. and the more Y. Lets use this as a chance to really step back for a moment and look at this structure. so this all works in your favor! Just be interesting enough to keep their attention. In a way. changing tone.... the more Y Page 48 ... etc". but have ONE that YOU really want to emphasize or get people to agree to. and they WILL stay through the pauses! As you are saying various items in a list. we are pacing and leading.. thinking about languaging such as "The more X. really.. The general structure here is: • • The more X o where X is something that is hopefully quite obvious and true to the listener . etc. "the more YOU FEEL this ..4 MORE AND MORE. as in .. then the more Y. and using lists. consider this: • We talked about listing .4 Listing. Or. to "pull" the listener in. in a List. place that item at the END of the List for more power. 3. I gave an example (in the audio) of several things I wanted someone to do. the more Z". or experience.. think. o See how they are incorporated.5 Listing Review D6-T37 If you want to get your point across... then. o See how that is being used here? • We have discuss language details . and Emphasis D6-T36 You may be worried about coming up with three things in a list . this is just a way of bringing together many of the things we have learned. Using pauses. Maybe one or more of the items actually has an embedded command in it. and provide many examples to support it. while incorporating the language tools we have already discussed. if it's a VERY outrageous option. remember to use emphasis and change your voice tone with the items.3.How do you think of them quickly? How do you make them sound natural? Don't worry! It is ok to have pauses! Pauses make things sound more natural and gives you time to come up with options! We talked about the use of pauses as a way to convey some drama and to make things interesting.. In a way. So.
. etc.. Instead of seeing this as a new type of language.... 3. and as Y happens o or as you sense Y. the more Y.) item. then. The best way to do this is to start off with the first item as quite general.. You can even start by "pacing" a bit more. and then use More and More to lead them forward .. then the more Z starts to happen. see it as just a way of using many of the things we have already covered! More and More tends to be best thought of as a "List". As you X. or a new "pattern". more and more. future) can be altered to make it fit well. • • • • As you (or while you) X . etc). or "as you notice X". and even more so with the next (more. agreeable. with "as X is happening". then just list them but use "more" as a way to go from one to the next. Tactical Formula for More and More The more X. You are "leading" someone... the More Z. experiences. The more Y. you notice this. as you feel this.. towards what YOU want.... step 1. etc How to use it. That's a general version of it.. or realize Y. etc Examples • Convincing friends to go do something that you want to do. o You can start off with something obvious as a statement to kind of pace them. The small words and verb tenses (past. the more you can notice Y . you can use "as you" or "while you" as a way to bridge between sections as well.. present. THEN make the next item (more.. then. or as Y is happening . As an alternative. and something obvious. . or thoughts) use "More and More" as a way to string them together (and increase your chances of that happening...) specific.. If you have something that you want to lead someone through. Strategic Formula for More and More If you want to lead someone through a series of steps (actions. the more Z.. 2. The More Z. the More Y. like a series of successive steps (things you do.) or thoughts (things you experience or think about.. which is more of an example of using Pace and Lead of their current reality.. o walk someone through though process . • Sell TV sets. Page 49 . the More Y. from a general item towards something that YOU want.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course • • o Where Y is something that is a logical extension of what the listener knows and they see this as something that makes sense . and the more Y happens .
a movie. o Walk her through the process.. more in your direction.. 5) Out loud. what to buy. work around it and make it sound natural. a series of thoughts or actions that. 3) Now out loud. etc . Write these down. using "More". Think about a series of steps. Don't just say "more". Think of three "steps". You may start with "As you" or "while you" for the first one. maybe an activity. Think of three "steps". or as alternatives. that would "walk" the other people through the process of agreeing with you.. a trip. What do you want to convince someone to do Three steps. who should do what. something you convince people to do (or wish you could). a plan.) Write down three steps. while you.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • Talking to a woman . more and more. practice and see if you can talk about these one by one. something. and string them together using "more".. Think of all of the things you can do tonight Realize that going to a movie would be a good idea Going to see the latest XYZ movie (use whatever movie you wish) See how that is a series of steps? Of thoughts? Like leading someone down a path? Now out loud.. as if in a conversation. what to do. etc. or series of thoughts or actions. Exercises for More and More 1) Consider the idea of convincing some friends of going to a movie. "as you" or "while you"..) Page 50 . 2) Think of the last time you were trying to convince a friend to do something. or something you want to lead people to do somehow. (Agree where to go to dinner. practice saying those three steps. but more and more get closer to what YOU want. practice saying those in series. Do that several times. as you. 4) Think of another series from your life. of what you want to have happen. something with which you are familiar. The next is another step in the series. The first should be obvious. more leading. to get towards doing what you want. they would end up doing what you wanted. something simple. etc. that start off in general. What you were trying to convince a friend to do Three steps. to get towards doing what you want. the second. Do the series several times. The first should be obvious. and bridging between them as we discussed earlier (More. if the person followed them. or have them experience. what project to work on. etc.
Bad • One option . or else have the person you are speaking with mention it.. This method provides a way to keep the conversation going. or various aspects of a subject. you are able to easily go through such a "sequence". to continue. where you could have a series of "states" lead someone through the process of doing what you want.another option • Black . • You are just comparing and contrasting things.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Assignments for More and More 1) In the exercises. exciting. The more that happens. Maybe add or change some of the reasoning.. • It also a great way to get information about the person with which you are speaking. and piece them together and have it sound natural.. You will see that the more you get these bits and pieces. But get to the point where you can flow easily through the 3 in a series. 2) With that "More and More" sequence practiced. becoming more and more convinced. the more you will understand how they fit together.White • Right . you have two (or more) aspects of a topic. or several different subjects. • How two things are similar • How two things are different • Good . and even change the specifics of that sequence. This Compare and Contrast method here gives you a way to talk about and around the subjects at hand. Just make sure that with that subject. A Tactic for Talking • Too many guys let a good conversational subject finish far too quickly. you can talk about. How to use it. • This works especially well if the subject of the discussion is one that "works" for our purposes (fun.5 COMPARE AND CONTRAST D6-T54 Listen to an example where many of these are used. Practice that series more! Get very familiar with it. etc. There are various means of doing this. Maybe just try 2 of the 3 steps once or twice. seductive. and you discuss these two aspects using Compare and Contrast. and move a conversation. this is a means to keep speaking. it's just a good way to think about discussing a subject..Left Page 51 . • It's not magical in a persuasive sense.) • Too many guys focus on standard lines such as "So what do you like about X". we had you think of something from your life. the more things like "knowing what to say" and "what pattern to use" will become easier and easier for you! Notice how we are not doing these examples necessarily with women? Wonder why? 3. So. look for opportunities to use that in your life. • • Take a subject and either mention another aspect of that subject.
Page 52 . that are good for you. • Maybe what is more important to a sports team. another brand. you can take note of how the person is responding.another aspect -.. o Maybe you start to ask her about it (have a discussion with her . this meeting. or point in a discussion. taking a position with a more promising future.. or point in a discussion . you can anchor those away from yourself.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • One aspect . the offense or the defense. Strategic Formula for Compare And Contrast Use this technique to keep the conversation going. One attribute . easy-difficult. Then discuss the other car. deciding to focus on making a good living now. and start to compare and contrast the two. What is different about each? How are they the same? How are they experienced? What is good? What is bad? etc. etc. vs. link away. etc. • Notice what is liked and not liked • Notice any reactions. o You select two items. As you are talking. what they do not. Select another subject. two facets of that subject. • • Use opportunities to use commands and trance words to create thoughts. Use the other language tools during the discussion. compare. you can talk about one car.about her) and she mentions various things about that subject. o While talking about what she does like. idea. team sports. and incorporate the language tools. • Link anything good to you. experience.another attribute As you are talking. good or bad. what they like. • You may talk to a woman. you can anchor and link positive things to you! o While talking about things she does not like. • You talk to someone for a while and she say she likes scuba diving. her. keep the discussion focused on a topic that serves your purposes. associate them with things other than you. and to let the person think about. and you start to talk about something she likes and enjoys doing. Tactical Formula for Compare And Contrast Take any subject. and this situation that you are sharing. How do these differ How are they the same Which is good-bad. This all provides a good way to allow the discussion to continue for a while. You discuss this. and contrast these things. feelings. • Decisions about a career or job. states. and feel those states and emotions for a while as well. and talk about its attributes as well. • Anything bad. you can use all of the other tools we have discussed. better-worse. or individual sports vs. and discuss whether the handling makes it better. or its power. Examples • One brand of car vs. then discuss these by comparing and contrasting. idea.
She says she likes the aspect of it being very quiet and serene under water. different style of clothing. peace.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Maybe you ask about it. Now think of what is opposite to that . your pacing. she mentions various things about it. etc.. and compare/contrast the two. Be vary aware that even when you are discussing the thing you "Like". offer the compare-contrast ways of discussing it. and put effort into correct linking/anchoring/pointing to associate positive things to you. etc. different computer. As in "so let me make sure I understand this . Letting Go Safety and Excitement Liking someone mentally and/or physically o • • • • Exercises for Compare And Contrast 1) Pick some possession that you have that you REALLY like (car. In addition. and negative things . and serenity on one hand o and compare and contrast that to the feeling of something new and different on the other.(because). Subject or thing that they like Attributes (things about) that. Be aware of your language! Throw in adjectives and adverbs. computer.. 3) Recall a recent conversation with someone you know. and various things about that subject or topic that they like. clothes. but this time put some effort into being very aware of the positive and negative things that are being said.. Be mindful of that and anchor/link appropriately. Page 53 .". This example uses a very obvious "Like vs. and this time. change your tone of voice. and this time. Something New Control vs. she finds the experience of seeing new and different things to be interesting as well. Also. somewhere else. that within that may be attributes that are good.same type of thing (another car. Maybe some of the language that you are using that may lend itself to be embedded commands. and those that are not good..."Oh.. o So we talk about the feeling of quiet. and anchor/link/point appropriately. Something that you like Something that is opposite 2) Now take that same topic." or . 4) Select two of the following 4 topics. the same holds true even when discussing what you do NOT like.. and talk about it again.. Not-Like" set of things to compare and contrast. be very aware of the positive and negative things that are being said. etc). where they were really describing or talking about something they like. Re-enact that conversation again.. etc. bike... Now talk out loud about each. etc). Familiarity vs. Use compare and contrast to talk about each of the attributes that your friend would say they like about that subject. then I KNOW that you would NOT like THIS . Be descriptive! Use pauses. that they do like Do the re-enactment again. so if you like THAT.
Meaning. it's too weak.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Control vs. People tend to think you have one OR the other. Letting Go Safety and Excitement Liking someone mentally and/or physically Familiarity vs. exciting. together. Too many guys just blow things to quickly. YOU are then showing someone how BOTH of these things can be experienced. of having all of the positive aspects of Safety. and say (for example) "what do you like most about scuba diving" or "what is the most fascinating thing about. some are bad • Talk about the good parts.6 PARTS D7-T1 Listen to an example where these are used.. There ARE many things that people tend to THINK of in an "either-or" way. that is fun. BOTH linked and anchored to YOU. Parts of a subject. you may end up liking the subject and find a new activity for yourself! Don't worry that you will "give the wrong impression" by inquiring and discussing these "parts". if you are asking many questions about something that is NOT of interest to you.Who wants to talk about something that you are NOT interested in? However. it is GOOD to focus on the positive aspects of what she likes. link away Now this may seem tough .. etc. this doesn't necessarily show that you Page 54 . etc.1 Parts Of A Subject D7-T4 This is a variation on the contrast principle. For example. theme. Parts. For even more Power There IS a very powerful aspect of this technique that is important to mention. Who knows. and the positive aspects of excitement. Excitement.6. Something New Now do your best to speak out loud and "talk" about these for a while using a Compare and Contrast structure. then talk about all of the various aspects and parts of it. Two types of parts we can work with . Some are good. link them to you • If the bad or boring parts some up. However there ARE ways to have BOTH. this provides a good way to train you to be able to talk and ask questions of people.. you can show someone how that can be possible. this just helps to keep things moving in a conversation. topic. but when you go STRAIGHT for the BEST thing that she likes the MOST. Safety vs. and parts of a person 3. Think about the possibilities. and get them to talk about what THEY are interested in. and that's ALL you discuss.. By comparing and contrasting them. 3." and that's ALL they talk about! Yes. and you lose out on spending a LOT of time having them discuss something that she REALLY likes! This is just a way to have a discussion. If you are talking about an interesting subject.
like. and she may have a lot of positive emotions and feeling associated with that . that you know. You are just asking. allowing you time to gather information and link yourself to good thoughts. If someone asks you about this. Subjects come up. just say "I like learning about people. it's hard to talk about that subject for a while. feelings and emotions. and enjoys. o Where have they dived? o How did they get into it? o What's their favorite place? o Do they have their own equipment? o Do they use different types of equipment for different locations? o How long have they dived? o Have they ever been in danger? o Have they taken photos? o Have they met interesting people? o Has this exposed them to any other cool sports or activities? o etc. but if you start there. etc. 1) Pick a subject that you like. area of interest. list various "things" about that subject.. If she LIKES scuba diving. or point in a discussion. Link good thoughts. sport. Tactical Formula for Parts of a Subject Take any subject.. Exercises for Parts of a Subject .many of which can be linked to you.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course are interested in it (the subject). maybe a hobby. feelings and emotions to yourself. don't like. know about. activity. Use the language tools in the discussion. idea. topics come up.. artistic endeavor. etc." This technique makes it easier to have conversations with people because THEY are giving you information and ideas for new things to ask about. Now. This is a great way to build rapport with a person as well. new things. just curious. don't just ask "What is the most exciting thing about Scuba Diving?" That IS a good question. Examples • Scuba Diving .Don't just "talk about" Scuba Diving! Or. Strategic Formula for Parts of a Subject Discussing many of the parts of a subject keeps the conversation going. what people do. Break it down into its component parts and discuss them. Page 55 . be comfortable talking about all of the parts of that subject. etc. that an opportunity to talk for a WHILE about something she likes. This isn't just a way for you to ask ask ask HER about things.
if your subject was football. etc. Page 56 . That Subject: 2) Think of one of your friends or family members and some activity or topic that THEY are really into. Now. what parts about football would you want them to ask about? For your chosen subject. maybe pick a different "person" as your subject. Now think of something that THAT person is interested in or they are involved with. etc. Subject: Parts. or Things About. Write these down. You should easily be able to come up with 10-20 items. That Subject: 3) Now think of someone who you are NOT close to (that you do not know that well). You should be able to come up with at least 10 items. and you have heard him or her talk about this. If you have trouble. make a list of these parts. passion. a job they like. what would you ask about? What are all of the various things and aspects of it that YOU could inquire about or that could come up in a discussion? These are the "parts" of that subject. and you were going to have someone (who knows very little about the subject) interview you and learn all about football. maybe a cousin you hardly see or talk to. or Things About. Maybe their hobby. Person: Subject: Parts. but hopefully this "subject" is something you are not really into. or maybe someone in your life that you don't know very well. like a co-worker.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course For example. someone you met at a party. if you were going to talk to them for like 30 minutes about that subject and were really going to ask them about it. This should be someone you know well. Someone that you recently met.
but with which you are NOT familiar. You know the person but you are not real close to them. out loud. don't know really well.. experiencing it. who is interested in something that you are NOT familiar with. but with which you are NOT familiar.. If you were going to talk to them for like 30 minutes about that subject. you should be able to list at least 10 items. They are talking about something THEY like Thinking about it. Make a point to ask about many different parts of that subject. and were really going to ask them about it. Again. The subject they are interested in is something with which you are NOT familiar. or Things About. make a point to have a good 10-15 minute conversation about a subject that THEY are really interested in. and feeling it. 2) Sometime in the future. And of course the entire time. what would you ask about? What are all of the various things and aspects of it that YOU could inquire about? What are the PARTS you could ask about? Write these down. mention like 10-15 different things you could ask or inquire about that subject. like the exercise above. off the "top of your head". Make a point to ask about many different parts of that subject. when you are speaking with a friend or family member that you know well. Now. Person: Subject: Parts. while YOU are there And you are linking and anchoring things to yourself Using all of the language tools and details And that person is finding YOU so fascinating and charismatic . when you are speaking with a person you do not know hardly at all (yet you feel you will be able to talk to them for 10-15 minutes). make a point to have a good 10-15 minute conversation about a subject that THEY are really interested in. That Subject: " 4) Think of another person and subject.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course The key here is that this is someone you don't see often. Person: Subject: Assignments for Parts of a Subject 1) Sometime soon. Page 57 .
etc. verify it. o Either in general like "there may be another side" o or more directly.." • Bring up and acknowledge the fact that there is "another" part. lean more on the language and linking tools to bring it out.. or normally don't "do" certain things? • Then talk about that first (shy) part. Let's break this down. experiencing it. there is a more decisive. This can be VERY powerful. or view. • What if it is not? What if they say they are shy. • If an adventurous.. Let's say you are in a discussion with someone.6. their way of walking through and looking at the world. "parts" are meant as in a personality trait." • There will be a lot of this shown in examples here in this section and at the end of the program." o "Many people like that also have another side to themselves. that adventurous side is just waiting to come out.. if a personality trait.. etc. they are quiet. directly or indirectly o For example. great. Because you are discussing several things. there is a more adventurous part to themselves • If a person is outspoken. just looking for the right time. if the person is shy o "I understand how some people are shy. make it be experienced.. exciting part of a person is being discussed.... a way of thinking.." • If this new or other "side" works more in your favor.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3. in a way you are also using Compare and Contrast as well. Discuss. or side. In many ways." o "You may have (or do have) another part (or side. another part hidden away. A key concept to think about is to ALWAYS assume that there is a part of someone that does agree with you. link it to you. Page 58 ... In fact a friend of mine is very shy and one time.. that XYZ part". etc. etc" • Discuss this new or other "part" o "With many people. fun. "you may have the other side" o or by example "I know someone like that. and I have found she has this other side. that is more . etc... they hold back. what she did . You do not want to appear to challenge or invalidate and personality trait that is being shown. • "That's because there is another part. their reactions. • If a person is shy. and start to discuss and validate that OTHER part.. or reserved. In this context. and then say (for example). (where XYZ is a different or maybe the opposite behavior. and they feel that way. more spontaneous side to them. etc)" o "I know someone similar who as this other part to themselves. or parts. we are also reframing! We are changing the way they look at things. a "side" to the person. or part of a person. a way of acting or being is being discussed (and one that does not necessarily work in your favor) . there is a more quiet side • If a person is well-thought-out (thinks things through and takes time). Don't Confront. or way of looking at it. In a discussion. that part of the person or type of behavior that DOES agree with you). • Acknowledge the first part that is being discussed.. adventurous . o "When you start to listen to this adventurous side ..2 Parts Of A Person D7-T15 Listen to an example where this concept is used. or has the same wishes that you do..
.. even when the other person claims or demonstrates that such parts are NOT there.. I understand you have that side to you. This one side . it may sound like you are arguing or challenging the person. Tactical Formula for Parts of a Person For every part of a person that will work against you. way of thinking.. way of thinking... you are NOT discussing this as to say. People have many sides to themselves. You can work around this issue (of possible confrontation) by saying things like o "I think another way of looking at that trait is . (not good in a person. . Examples: • Lets say that a person says they are not into taking challenges. Find a personality trait.. that can work in your favor.. feelings. o "A friend of mine does that as well.. etc. having a conversation. • Maybe someone says they can be jealous.. What personality traits (or what other parts or ways of thinking) are similar? Which are somewhat opposite? Write down 3 that are similar. "I am boring". • Maybe someone lies . Well.. and 3 that are opposite. way of thinking..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • Many times you don't want to say "because there is another part" because that seems too direct. they like to play things safe. There are also other sides to people . and beliefs. Remember.. and what I noticed about her is that she also has this other side to her. and evoke favorable states." Strategic Formula for Parts of a Person Use Parts of a Person as a way to find... but it can be handled .... assume there is a part that will work WITH you. or part of the person that is somehow related (which works in your favor) or somewhat opposite. • Maybe someone is secretive. or part of the person (mostly something which has a negative connotation) Acknowledge that personality trait. discuss. and she realized that she. Traits similar to "Being Boring" Page 59 . so be careful.) Exercises for Parts of a Person 1) What if someone says. deep down. o "Well. etc etc etc. or part of the person by discussing or addressing it Think about a personality trait. too confrontational. "you are wrong" or to show how smart you are! You are just talking. Introduce and discuss that "other part" in a way that works to your advantage.. that may be true but also there is another part of them . was also "Y". o "I was reading somewhere about things like that and what it was saying was.. o "I have a friend who was "X" (where X is the trait being discussed)..
Traits similar to "Being Shy" Traits opposite to "Being Shy" Of those that you listed. Look at the formula earlier.. Traits similar to "not into meeting any new people" Traits opposite to "not into meeting any new people" Practice out loud how you might first discuss "I am not into meeting any new people right now" and then transition into the other parts or traits that you selected. and then bring up this other "part" that you selected. and 3 that are opposite. 6) Lets say someone says "I am not into meeting any new people right now" . be aware of opportunities to maybe mark off an embedded command or two (or more). 5) From the list you just made (and selected from).. 3) What if someone says that they are shy? What personality traits (or what other parts or ways of thinking) are similar? Which are somewhat opposite? Write down 3 that are similar. use this/that/these/those .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Traits opposite to "Being Boring" Of those that you listed. or ways of thinking) are similar? Which are somewhat opposite? Think about 1-2 that you could use. Look at the formula earlier. which could you maybe "use" in a good way? 4) Think about how you would discuss that shy part.. which could you maybe "use" in a good way? 2) Think about how you would discuss the boring part. Imagine a conversation and how you might do this. etc. but this time. Practice this out loud. and some of the variations mentioned for language examples. Imagine a conversation and how you might do this. and then bring up this other "part" that you selected. and some of the variations mentioned for language examples. What personality traits (or what other parts. pick another part or trait. Page 60 . Practice this out loud.. Now do a similar exercise again out loud. maybe do some linking an anchoring.
Assignments for Parts of a Person 1) For the next week or two. or putting him or herself down for some reason.. make a note of these traits or parts. Just notice the trait or part being mentioned. or parts. and then find a way to discuss another part that is more favorable or positive. trait. Or. trusting their own judgment. start to bring them up IN the conversation. Use the formula and the variations mentioned earlier. Opposite (or similar?) trait or part that might actually work in your favor Conversation with Traits or parts that were discussed. 8) Lets say someone says they have trouble meeting new people. being open. See if you can note that "part" of who they are. and has been a bit difficult for many to really understand Page 61 . make note of when you are having a personal conversation with anyone. etc could you discuss? Try that out loud. and offer challenges" many times when studying these materials. etc could you discuss? Try that out loud. WHILE talking to someone. and offer challenges to you on the audio. 2) After you have become more comfortable noticing such traits after-the-fact..7 OPPORTUNITIES AND CHALLENGES D7-T34 Listen to an example where I structure opportunities. This area has caused some confusion.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 7) Do the above example again.? What other part. You don't have to discuss them (yet) just make a point to note these traits. After the conversation. and then point out some other trait or part that might work in your favor somehow. You have probably heard the phrase "structure opportunities. acknowledge it. but ROW see how many of the speaking and language tools you can use. An easy way to do this is when a friend or acquaintance is being self-deprecating in some manner. 3) Now that you can recognize these traits when talking to someone. or mentions a "way of thinking"). 3. trait. see if you can notice them WHILE talking to someone. See if you can arrive at a similar part or trait that you can discuss that could be used in your favor. see if you could maybe think of an opposite one that could be discussed. See if what they are saying describes or is pointing out any personality traits (or a "part" of themselves. 9) Lets say someone says "I only like dating my TYPE"? What other part.
7. is a way for them to show their intelligence. you are using processes that they ALREADY have in their minds. Challenge them to demonstrate it. • These are also good and convenient for practicing and examples. • Use these general things and assume they are there.1 Using Their Own Processes D7-T36 If you know what people want to have. or show it. using motivations that a person already has. or want to be perceived as having. o You are saying in a way. these concepts are broken down and offered to you in a way that will truly help you to be able to use these powerful techniques. Universal Wants • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control • Excitement Page 62 . but I am looking for more. You then find some way to set things up so that choosing to listen to you. o This is the opposite of pleading and the "pedestal" scenario. "You may be beautiful." • This is NOT about arrogance. • It's easy. In this section. then they already have mechanisms for that in their mind. • Show that you are qualifying and screening to some extent. or like to be perceived as having. For example if someone is intelligent.2 What do people want? - D7-T38 "Universal Wants" = Good. but may not be the most effective strategy. do it. and that you believe in yourself. you are just showing that YOU have standards. Work with universal things that people would like to have.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course and utilize. then by using their existing desires. Strategic Formula for Opportunities And Challenges Find or assume what someone wants Create an opportunity for them to get it or demonstrate they have it Make that "demonstration" work in your favor. this can be very effective. If you can somehow frame or map yourself as being a way for a person to fulfill things that someone already wants. effect. • Show that you have standards. 3. It's good to somehow work with structures and things that are already in someone's mind. or be with you.7. You are in. 3. and wants to be seen as intelligent. Why this matters.
and challenging them in a way that says. or fun.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course "Particular Wants" = Better! What does THIS person want? • Notice o o o particular things that this individual would like to have or be perceived as having She mentions wanting respect She defends her position.. etc).. o You may ... o The smart people I know. etc • Finding these particular wants and desires o These "wants" can be possessions. o Maybe you can . o I wonder if you can . Mini-Challenge Cheat Sheet o You seem . or adventurous. along with the Universal Wants listed earlier! • We assume here that with a mini-challenge. "you can show me that you have the thing you desire.. we are using one of these sort of "universal" wants. that's even better. o You seem as if. o Try using some of the above items... her interests. o You seem cool enough . by listening to me or agreeing with me". • Mini-Challenges o You might get this .... or be seen as having "X". what she likes to do... o Talk to her and find out what she wants or needs.. or want to be perceived as having. and it can really annoy people if you do! Page 63 . o You seem like . o Talk about what she does.. o Always have the question below in mind. o etc. o You seem like you may have good taste o etc.... wants to have. You are challenging an ASSUMED desire (a "Universal Want").. or want to be perceived as having? Mini-Challenges D7-T40 3. You can imply a "test" for these things by issuing a mini-challenge...7.... or an image she wants other people to have of her. o You might... and discusses what is important to her She mentions something she likes or dislikes about a past boyfriend.3 There are certain things you can assume that most people may want to have.. o Talk about some of yours and see how she reacts. o You seem smart enough ... or maybe a value. but if you can find or work with specific wants or desires.. can (use smart. o If you are able to . o If you can .This technique can be overused. o You might see . o Are you able to . Warning . What does she want to have..
• Universal Wants • Particular Wants Opportunities. Creating Them Consider the wants and needs that a person may have . • Find what someone "wants". and see how many combinations you can come up with. "Show me you have that thing by listening and/or agreeing with me" or. here we have to "assume" things for the sake of teaching) . what someone wants. (and again. Exercises for Mini-Challenges 1) Try piecing together items from the Universal Wants List.. What does someone Want? Assume.. 3. Challenge the person to do "Y". in a way. by doing "Y" Make "Y" something that works in your favor. or be seen as having.4 Opportunities and Challenges D7-T43 Think of it like this. • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control • Excitement Page 64 .. Make a statement that says. or been seen as having You can assume based on normal things that people want (Universal Want) or Get information from talking (Particular Want) Create an opportunity for them to get or demonstrate "X".. Tactical Formula for Opportunities and Challenges Find something "X" that the person wants to have. • Challenge them to see if they will follow through and take action to get it. or hopefully find. and Mini-Challenge Cheat Sheet.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Tactical Formula for Mini Challenges Assume something she wants to have. • Create an opportunity for them to get that • Make it so that them "getting" that works in your favor. you will show me you have that". "By listening to and/or agreeing with me.7.
o . and feel very comfortable with that. or some way for this person to capture the opportunity • Provide an example of something she can say or do. • Maybe point out something a friend did .How can you create an opportunity for someone to appear confident (that works in your favor)? o Discuss people that YOU know.... and see how doing Y would demonstrate it?> • Does she have what it takes to get X.. • Provide an example from your own life.. o They can do exciting things. by meeting this "challenge".. Challenges Are they ready to take advantage of that (this) opportunity? Challenge them to get what they want.. Talk about those things.. • Here is how I read/heard that someone else had or was able to get X. Provide an example of someone. and/or HAVING them. o Let the person demonstrate how confident they are. How can you make that sound like a way for them to "show" something? How to create an opportunity? • Here is a way for you to show me that you really have or was able to get X. o They can go against the grain. even if their friends don't approve. Examples: • Does she really want X and see how Y can get that? • Does she really have X. and how the confident ones are able to take chances and have fun. • Confidence . talk about DOING them.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course You need to create an "opportunity" for each of these. or show what they have. where this opportunity benefits you (and hopefully pertains to the situation). o Mention how confident people can meet someone new. Examples. by doing Y? Page 65 . Create the opportunity for them to show or demonstrate that they have or are perceived as having. o Talk about how confident people can make their own choices.. or want to be seen as having Structure this so that it is something that YOU would like them to do. • Here is a way a friend of mine showed that they have or was able to get X. something they want. • Provide a way to demonstrate that they DO have what they want.Think about maturity . • Mention something that you have read. on their own. Maturity .. what does a mature person do? How are they seen? How do they react? o They make their own decisions o They trust their own judgment o They can decide to do something NOW.
They want X. These are your "Assumed Wants". You talk about that for a while. as long as you trust yourself enough to feel that is OK . or be perceived as having. I don't know if you are adventurous enough for this. and do Y to get it? Can she do Y and make it happen? Can she see that Y will get her what she wants? Can she trust herself enough to do Y? etc.. to be a way for them to get what they want. to show or demonstrate that? Examples: • Security o Say she wants to feel secure. she actually felt more secure about being able to take care of herself. Is she ready to take chances? Take risks? Do something different? Maybe not . but. Some examples are shown below. you mention "We should get together sometime. and she found that by taking chances and risks.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • • • Does she want you to THINK she has X. I mean. Can she see an opportunity to have "X".. and mention that you read somewhere that successful people tend to be able to trust their own judgment. Exercises and Assignments for Opportunities and Challenges 1) Make a list of some assumed things that many people may want to have. their own intuition. she may have to do Y to prove that...". Are they ready to do Y. Assumed Wants 2) Write a Mini Challenge for each if the above items. how she may be adventurous.. It's NOT about creating an argument! Again. Success o Maybe "success" is important to her. Then at some point you talk about you and her getting together... • Find a way to map what YOU want. It's different from the way most guys think. • Find out what someone wants.... Page 66 . and say something like "well. • • I know this is tricky." Adventurous o Maybe she wants to feel adventurous. what this means to her. then . You talk about a friend who has always wanted to feel secure.. You discuss success for a while. Later. there are others shown earlier. • Challenge them to do that.
. Person What they want to have. For each person. or be perceived as having Page 67 . Practice these more... "lets see if this makes sense to you "see if you can follow this . Hopefully these are specific to them.. Note some of your favorites ones below. quite unique.. co-workers. write down something that each wants to have. and NOT just things from the "assumed" list. "you might. and go out and actually USE them for a while. friends. etc.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course "you seem like . and focus on using these. Write down these "Wants"." Mini Challenges 3) Practice the list of Mini Challenges you just created. or wants to be perceived as having.. out loud 4) Make a note of some of the ones you practiced that seem closest to something you could easily say or do with people in your life.. 5) Think about some people that you know quite well like family. "you may .
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 6) Consider the "want" that you identified from each of those persons above.. want to do what you wish. (You want that friend to lighten up and be able to spend more time going out and having fun. and they spend a LOT of time practicing.) So you challenge their dedication to their sport by saying "I was reading about really good athletes and one thing that was pointed out was that a lot of them really can get burned out. they will be doing something that YOU want.. See if you can make it sound natural. see if you can create a "challenge". and how can you "map" it to yourself? Write down these "Opportunities".A friend wants to be really good at a sport. Is there a way to create an "opportunity" for them to get or achieve that? Can you somehow create an opportunity that can be "mapped" in some way towards yourself. What is the opportunity. as making them look at you more positively. Example . The good athletes find a way to relax and have fun. even subconsciously. and that allows them to be better at their sport. etc? Give that some thought. Person Opportunity for them to get what they "want" that somehow works in your favor 7) For each "want". and write them down. Person Challenge 8) Practice each of those "Challenges" out loud." The "opportunity" is for them to be a better athlete. and "opportunity". Some way that questions . Page 68 . or that in some way could be interpreted. You are "mapping" it to you because by doing what you discuss. are they ready? Can they take action? Can they DO this? Write down these "Challenges".
given that this IS an area that many guys are able to do (with enough listening) and given the many OTHER areas that really DO need the assistance of a program like this. see if you can bring them up in conversations over the next few weeks. These. we will not be doing any specific work on Ambiguities. to do things that you would want.) o Easy Anchoring . so that you have heard them SO MANY TIMES. This is one area that many guys actually ARE able to pick up and use easily if they have listened to the materials enough. Those) MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures o Linking Gestures (Towards And Away) o Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This.. they mean something different. but now also start to look for "opportunities and challenges" in a way that directs their desires towards you. do the same in terms of observing desires. look at how many items we have covered so far. 11) For the next 1-2 weeks. really focus on what each person desires. • SPEAKING POINTERS o The "Cool" Factor o Voice Tone And Tonality o Pacing And Pausing o Energy And Enthusiasm LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS o Adjectives And Adverbs o Trance Words o Weasel Phrases o Embedded Commands o Linking o Easy-Linking (This. 3. 3. Try to guess. That. Although there could be a section in this course that deals with these areas.. listen. Listen.Point Or Touch On Positive And Negative LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES o Pace And Lead " Topics and Subjects * Mindset of Frame • Current Reality o Give Them A Reason • • • Page 69 . but in another context.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 9) As you become more familiar with these practiced challenges and opportunities.. listen. What do they "want". That. but also ask some questions and get into a discussion about it if possible. listen. Do what you can to bring these up while in the conversation if you can. They may have one meaning in one context. These are those words or phrases that can mean more than one thing. you no doubt have heard many examples of "ambiguities".8 AMBIGUITIES D7-T64 If you have studied this material for a while..9 SUMMARY D7-T66 Bringing it together. that these become familiar. 10) While you are talking to people for the next 1-2 weeks.
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These are the building blocks for good Language skills. These are the sorts of skills that are most workable when they are truly "wired in" to someone, so that they are able to be used automatically. To try to "remember" to do such things can be very difficult. That approach would make having a conversation far too difficult and too much work! The best way is to work with these techniques SO much that these truly are just a part of "how you talk". With enough practice, and hearing these enough, you CAN have these become a part of how. YOU talk! So listen, practice, do the exercises, do the assignments, and do that all again, until these really do become a part of you, and a part of how you speak.
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D8-T1 A key aspect of making these tools work is getting the conversation into topic areas that will really work for you. The language tools you studied earlier are best used in the proper context, and in this section, we will learn how to get the conversation into areas that will create that context. Have you had these problems? • You JUMP too quickly into a pattern or topic, and it sounds really strange? • You just THROW a pattern AT her, and get a weird reaction? When you use these tools, or even use "patterns", it's not enough to just "say it", there has to be the correct CONTEXT for what is said! It's a process that she needs to go on and through with you. It's not enough to just find a conversational excuse to "throw" a pattern (or language tool) AT her! This section is about finding ways to just get into an interesting conversation and then towards and onto good topics. We want this to seem natural, and with some understanding, practice, and a few key strategies and tactics it will BE natural and automatic! 4.1 4.1.1 CHALLENGES -a Detailed And Specific Plans Are Just Not Workable. D8-T3
It's good to theorize to "say this", and then "say that", and then to use "this pattern", and "that pattern". However, the problem is that a lot of time the proper context is not presented well enough. The examples you may have seen in other products are just that, examples. The problem is that too many guys have taken them literally! Guys try to do "X, Y, Z," exactly, in order, with no sense of calibration, or being able to work and re-direct things in real time. Therefore, detailed tactical plans are not realistic. 4.1.2 Navigation Example D8-T4
Think of moving a conversation to a certain point, like taking a trip somewhere. Say you are in Chicago, and want to go to Los Angeles. You could have a detailed map of every turn and road, exact route numbers and lengths, etc. The problem is... what do you do if there is a detour? What if the road is changed, what if the map is wrong? You are lost! What if, instead, we teach you how to drive the car, and give you a general set of directions like "keep driving west, until you see the ocean, then turn left (south)". That way, you can handle just about any turns, roads, or detours that you may encounter! Conversations are different from roads too, because people are all unique, situations, times, surroundings etc. are unique and change from moment to moment. Therefore, if you want to get a conversation to go a certain way, then detailed plans made ahead of time are hard to work with. There are too many variables! We need a workable set of strategies and tactics that allows you, in real-time, to direct things the way that you want them to go. They need to be easy to follow, and easy to use, and something that you don't need to "think about", but can just DO easily.
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So we need a general set of guidelines, some overall strategies and tactics, so that you can have this good, intuitive sense of how to "steer" things, and get conversations to where you want them to go. As long as you are engaging a woman's emotions, capturing & leading her imagination, then you are moving in the right direction. Then, in that situation and in that context, linking all the positive & powerful things to you becomes more workable. Instead of a map, we are giving you a "compass". We need a strategy for managing conversations that can to do this gradually, in a way that seems natural! If it's too abrupt or makes the conversation strained, it will sound weird. The strategy must LEAD the conversation towards good topics and subjects in a way that seems natural, and is not TOO abrupt. Examples: (Listen to the audio.) • Talking about a printer o Moving TOO quickly towards emotional topics o Can sound strange • Driving a car and taking a turn (Analogy) o Think of driving down freeway and needing to switch to different direction. o You can't make a hard, right angle turn on a dime! o You need to turn the car, slowly, on a ramp to go in a different direction. When we control conversions, we need to find a way to take it gradually in a new direction. Many guys try to do the hard and fast switch, and they crash in the process! We will learn to move things in a way that makes it seem natural, but it will be deliberate. 4.1.4 She Must Be Engaged In The Conversation! D8-T10
It's important to get conversations into the right area and have HER go along with you. Not just "bring it up" (a topic or pattern), but it must be natural and she must "go along" with it and be a PART of it. She must be actually THINKING about what you are discussing! It has to happen naturally. No weird jumps. It's not enough to just talk; she must BE a part of the conversation! So, don't just "jump" to a topic. Don't find an "excuse" to bring it up. Take the conversation there, take her WITH you, and have her be a part of it! What really helps is to have a genuine interest (or at least curiosity) in her and the conversation, not just thinking to yourself; "How can I use this?" 4.2 HOW CONVERSATIONS HAPPEN D8-T12
How does this really occur? We will break this down so that we have a way to really affect this process. 4.2.1 Conversational Dynamics D8-T13
How do conversations happen? Most of them occur somewhat randomly as the conversation flows from topic to topic over time, and can end up almost anywhere after a while. By the time YOU move from one topic to the next,
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you may end up in a very different place from where you began. However, there is a series of steps as things move forward, as shown in Figure 4.2.1-1.
Figure 4.2.1-1: Conversations Move Through Many Topics
Each of these steps between topics tends to be related. Topic 1 relates to Topic 2. Topic 2 relates to Topic 3, etc. For example, you can start to talk about Cars, and then move to one aspect of that topic, Car Seats. Then it's easy to move to some aspect of that topic, which maybe something that seats are made of, like Leather. Then maybe you talk about Leather Furniture, etc. (See Figure 4.2.1-2.)
Figure 4.2.1-2: Each Topic Flows To the Next Topic In most cases, each Topic is related to the one before.
After a series of such steps, you can be at a quite different topic (like an apartment that you used to live in) even though you started at a quite different topic (Cars). In most cases, it's very difficult to predict where a conversation will go after many of these steps. As you go through a few topic shifts (as shown in the diagrams), although each individual shift relates to the topic before and after that shift, after a series of shifts you can end up talking about almost anything! Therefore, even if you start the conversation at a great topic, you can get off-track and into topics that will not work in your favor. Conversely, what is needed is a way to start at almost any topic at all, and by steering that process (of moving from Topic 1, to Topic 2, Topic 3, etc) take the conversation into better and better topic areas that will serve your purposes. 4.2.2 Conversational Model D8-T14
We introduce a model to assist in discussion, understanding, and control of conversations. If you start at a topic, how do you go to another one? This process happens all of the time very easily. The key is that the movement from one topic to the next takes places easily because there are so many options involved. From any topic (Topic 1) it is easy to flow to any of 6-8 other, related topics (Topic 2 Candidates). People usually just "talk" and naturally the conversation moves from the first topic to the next one. Since the "next" topic is related, this process seems natural and is easy to do. In fact, you do this all the time without really knowing about it. (We are creating a model to describe a process that happens naturally, so that we can teach you a way to have an affect on that process). Figure 4.2.2-1 shows how from one topic, the conversation can flow easily to many related topics.
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Car you own Seats in it Interior of your car How Powerful it is What Gas does it use How Fast it is Feel of Driving Places you have gone Where you bought it
Topic 2 Candidates
Figure 4.2.2-1: From One Topic to many Candidate Topics The topic of Cars is discussed, and from there are many ways the conversation can easily move.
Once the conversation moves to one of these eight topics, it's easy to move to one of eight more. For example if in Figure 4.2.2-1, the conversation flows from "Cars" to "Where you bought it" (as in, where you bought the car), then now we have a situation like that shown in Figure 4.2.2-2.
Where you bought it
That car dealer The salesman Part of town Other car dealers Who went with you How you bought it The Loan you used etc. Topic 3 Candidates
Figure 4.2.2-2: From A Second Topic, Another Group of Candidates If "Cars" was discussed first, and then "Where you bought it" was discussed next, there are now many ways to go in the next step. In the figure, you see how the conversation moves from Cars, to "Where you bought it". After that, there are many "candidate" topics where the conversation can flow. Perhaps it moves to the "Part of town" where the car was purchased.
Now from the topic of "Where you bought it" (a car), there are easily eight places that you can go from there, shown as the "Topic 3 candidates". This process continues throughout a conversation. This process happens regardless of the specific topics being discussed. Conversations flow from topic to topic, as shown in a general manner in Figure 4.2.2-3.
2. and at each step after that. When this happens in succession. This results in easily over 500 topics that could be selected by the time we arrive at Topic 4! In only three shifts of the topic ("topic shifts" as shown in the figure) we end up with many many possibilities of where the conversation might end up. In many ways. the Figures that have been shown so far only show a small portion of the total topics towards which a conversation can flow. since it's so easy to go from any topic to 6-8 others.2. an so on.2-4 shows what happens when all the topics are considered. then EACH of the eight different candidates for Topic 2 can then lead to their own eight. Do you see why the pre-planned approaches can be difficult?! Even if you ARE able to have the conversation start from a specific place (Topic 1). the plans that many guys try to use to "Talk about X.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Topic 1 Topic 2 Topic 3 Topic 4 Figure 4. If Topic 1 can lead to eight different candidates for Topic 2. you can have up to eight different ways to go at EACH step.2-3: Topics Flow from One to the Next Each topic in a conversation can easily lead to 6-8 others. and the conversation flows along in this manner. you can affect this process (and we will teach that to you). when talking to some random person. because there are SO many ways that things can go! Page 75 . However. you can end up with the conversation going almost anywhere! Figure 4. there is no way to know exactly where it will end up by the time you have moved forward a few steps! Imagine trying to predict ahead-of-time exactly where you may arrive (among those 512 options). With some skill and technique. In general. then talk about Y. then talk about Z" are very difficult to really work with.
2-4: Topic Candidates and Topic Shifts If each topic can flow to eight others. you can end up in over 500 different topic areas! We can create a general Conversation Model that shows this process (Figure 4. and so on. a conversation may start from one topic or subject (Topic 1). Page 76 . then after only three shifts in the topic. it can flow from there.2.2-5). As seen in the diagram. It then can flow easily to maybe 6-8 others (the diagram shows fewer for the sake of clarity).Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 1st Topic Shift 2nd Topic Shift 3rd Topic Shift Figure 4.2. Once Topic 2 has been discussed.
3 Topic Turning Point D8-T15 The KEY concept the needs to be understood to gain the ability to manage conversations. is an awareness of this phenomenon that is called the "Topic Turning Point".2-5: Conversation Model The "Tree of Subjects" showing how thousands of subjects can be reached in just a few steps of the conversation.3-1. There are SO many ways it can flow. This process of moving from the first topic to one of 6-8 relevant topics is the process of moving through a "Topic Turning Point" as shown in Figure 4. if you assume that from any topic you could go to any of 8 other topics. If you are discussing one specific topic. (The figure only shows a portion of how many subjects and topics can be reached). that they become far too many to shown in the diagram. it is quite easy to move from that onto 6-8 related topics. The diagram only shows a small fraction of them (so that the diagram is not even more cluttered than it already is!).000 different subjects or topics that could be discussed by the time you are at "Level 6" in the conversation!! 4. Page 77 .2.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Figure 4.2. In fact.2. then for that diagram to be really accurate it would have to show over 30.
3-2 Topic Turning Points Figure 4. However. as long as the new topic is "related" to the first (this is shown in the diagram by the "candidates") then this change is easy to do. The key thing to realize is that this process of Topic Turning Point (TTP) selection occurs over and over. and throughout a conversation.2. For example. after one topic has been discussed for a short while.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Candidate Topics Figure 4. Page 78 . make a statement.2. introduce an idea.3-2: How TTP Selections Effect the Conversation The selections made at each TTP are what actually "steer" the conversation in a certain direction. ask a question.3-1: The Topic Turning Point (TTP) When discussing any topic (First Topic) there are easily 6-8 different topics to which the conversation can be moved (Candidate Topics). Therefore. Someone might make a comment. the overall flow of a conversation comes about due to many of these TTP choices being made. the conversation can then move to another topic. A general way of looking at this process is shown in Figure 4.2. the conversation "shifts" slightly. etc.
no one is "deciding" the TTPs. they find a way to point out something negative. These types of people are making TTP selections based on a strategy of finding things that are negative to talk about. we want the conversation to be positive. you can direct where the overall conversation goes. interesting things". conversations are one of four types: • • • • Fun.3.) then you CAN direct how a conversation flows.3 4.1 GENERAL CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Want. we want to first start to steer things in the best general manner. (See Figure 4. Can you see how you may be able to affect where a conversation goes? You might not be able to predict EXACTLY where it ends up. and they quick steer the conversation in that manner. By manipulating TTPs from moment to moment. and do so in a way that sounds VERY natural. The overall strategy at the beginning is then to "talk about positive. with some awareness of this process. • Other people able to direct conversations based on their own beliefs and their own political motivations as well. Look in the diagrams. and interesting. 4. Sometimes this can be VERY apparent. fun. choices are made moment to moment.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Normally. This selection just "happens".. moment-to-moment. For example: • Maybe someone always finds a fun. That ability alone is enough for our purposes. Many people do this "TTP selection" process automatically.) Page 79 . conversations tend to go in one of several ways. and imagine if you had a general way to manipulate these TTPs. very quickly. is coming soon.. D8-T16 D8-T16 So how can you actually affect the flow of a conversation. depressing Confrontational . and the conversation tend to into one of four general areas. positive..Those are just general examples. As you have probably guessed by now.. • Other people may do the opposite. In a very broad sense. fun. No matter WHAT you talk to them about. they somehow see it in terms how in effects their beliefs. fun. and some training (which . easily and naturally? That IS the point.1-1. we are going to later teach you a way to be able to make these TTP selections. to "route" conversations so that they end up being the kinds of conversations that YOU want to have. IMPORTANT: The overall direction of a conversation comes about due to a successive selection of TTPs. positive way to look at anything. they Good Boring Bad Argument could be more specific (and we will get there).3. However. interesting Mundane and uninteresting Negative. These people are able to automatically make TTP choices based on a strategy of finding good. positive aspects of every topic being discussed. isn't it? In general. • Other people direct conversations based upon their own moral or religious values... but you will have some control over the overall direction. no matter WHAT is discussed. So to start our process of learning how to manage conversations. The flow of the conversation starts. and that work in YOUR favor.
and Interesting" things. and Interesting". do what you can to steer in that direction. Page 80 .3. so from the earliest stages. fun. Strategic Formula for General Conversational Management To steer the conversation in a good direction.1-1: General Conversational Management Consider all of the ways a conversation can go. Don't engage in conversations when it's NOT about positive. Introduce topics that are fun. bring up positive.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course General Conversational Management Conversations tend to flow in one of four major ways. positive and interesting. fun. interesting things. If you break that down into 4 main directions. fun. interesting things. and Interesting topics and subjects. interesting things. Positive. How do you do that? • • • Show interest when someone discusses positive. Even if things move towards other areas. steer towards Fun. Positive. Figure 4. you see that you want to focus the conversation onto topics that are "Fun. Positive. No matter what is brought up. you can still "steer" back towards "Fun.
and interesting"? Moment-to-moment. Positive.The overall direction of a conversation comes about due to a successive selection of TTPs. and Interesting".3.. positive. Positive. you can always think of 6-8 other related topics or subjects. as we discussed earlier. positive. You think of the "candidates" (the related topics or subjects that you can discuss) that serve you at the time.Where can I go that is "fun. Which Of these are Fun. TTP Mantra . and Interesting? That is the direction to go! Candidate Topics Figure 4. By manipulating TTPs from moment to moment."Where can I go that is fun. How do you move things in that direction? You can: • Ask a question • Make a comment • Make a joke • Quote someone you heard. You then think of several ways you can go (the related topics.. positive. the TTP.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4. and interesting?" Move the conversation in that direction.3. • Etc. Moment To Moment D8-T19 Look at the overall flow of a conversation and break it down to its smallest point that we can affect. For any subject.) Tactical Formula for General Conversational Management Keep thinking . or something you read. the topic "candidates" that were shown earlier). you make note of where you are in the conversation. Repeat. positive. So you just think to yourself "Where can I go that is fan. as long as it moves things in a way that answers the question "Where can I go that is fun. and interesting" and just move things in that direction. and then steer things in the correct direction. and interesting" (See Figure 4. . you can direct where the overall conversation goes. move things towards the related topics that are "Fun.2 How To Steer Conversations. and then you move things in that direction! Remember .3. Page 81 . TTP options.2-1: Topic Turning Point Navigation for General Conversational Management No matter what subject you start talking about.2-1.
and Interesting! Figure 4. Do this for a while. (See Figure 4. just keep thinking about where you can go that is "Fun.).3-1.3-2.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Later in the conversation.) Keep things moving in the direction of Fun.3.. You are steering things towards the direction that you want the conversation to go. and interesting". and Interesting". you get to an overall "area" that will work. but in the early part of the conversation. the most important thing to do is to focus on moving thing in a direction that is .3-1: Moving Through Topics Using General Conversational Management Early in a conversation. positive.3 The Model With Strategy And Tactics In Place D8-T23 As you make TTP choice after TTP choice (See Figure 4. "fun.3. 4.3. Positive. you can work more towards certain topic areas. Positive.. Page 82 .3.
maybe that person is not someone that you want to talk to anyway).3-2: General Conversational Management Model The most important direction to go. and Interesting topics and subjects. always move towards topics and subjects that are Fun.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course General Conversational Mgt Model No matter where you start. is towards Fun.3. and Interesting!/ Figure 4. At some particular moment early in the conversation. Even if you temporarily move away from that direction or end up in an area that is not very positive or interesting. what was the main topic? Topics Page 83 . especially early in a conversation. and write down the topic for each. 4. or where you are. keep steering in the right direction and in many cases you WILL get towards the right area soon enough (and if not. Positive.3. Positive.4 Exercises and Assignments D8-T25 Exercises for General Conversational Management 1) Think of some conversations that you have been in recently.
Topic TTP Options (Candidate Topics') Page 84 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 2) Based on each of those topics. ask about. consider it a topic that leads to a TTP (copy each item above into the "Topic" area below). list 6-8 different ways you could go. directions you could "take" the conversation (these are the TTP Options. things you could comment on. For each of those Topics. or Candidate Topics). Write each of those down.
.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Of the 6-8 different TTP Options you have written above for each Topic. etc. 5) Practice again on each by moving things in the direction of the second item that was circled. 4) For each Topic. whatever it might take to move things in that direction. Positive. and Interesting")? Select two "candidates" and circle or highlight those two. maybe by making a comment. asking a question. making a statement. which are the best? Which of these would move the conversation in a way that is best for you (think of "Fun. what would it have been like to have moved the conversation in the direction of the first item you circled? Practice that out loud for each Topic above. Page 85 .
and positive conversation. Make it so that it becomes easy for you to come up with a list of "options" very quickly. having conversations with. etc. maybe offer an opinion. We want to focus the aim of our conversational management skills even more. positive. You then have to wonder . By manipulating TTPs from moment to moment. or without an overall strategy in mind). make a comment. look for moments where things can be "steered" in a certain way. interesting.3. but the REAL key is to at least get to the point where you can very quickly think of at least 1 or 2 ways to go that are Fun. thinking "what COULD I have done. Do this for a while until the process of finding 1 or 2 good "Ways to go" in a conversation (good TTP options) can happen very rapidly for you. In general. engaging. When talking to anyone. you can direct where the overall conversation goes. 2) Now that you are able to quickly find 1 or 2 good TTP options. start to take the conversation there! Ask a question. the conversation becomes more enjoyable for everyone. we want to work with topics that get the emotions involved. After a while. D8-T33 D8-T33 We want the conversation to be more than just positive. don't worry. At any moment you should be able to think "Where can I go with this?". interesting. fascinating.4. even at the start of a conversation. Building on what we learned in the last section. positive and interesting topics. and spending time with? The type of guy that people seek out to spend time with? The more you do these types of exercises. and people REALLY interested. You may start to find however. Maybe start out by looking at conversation after the fact. they will not go down a path of having a fun." 4. At first. Instead of the more general area of fun. where COULD I have taken things". we can start to direct the conversation into an even BETTER area. we want it to be really interesting. whatever it takes. It WILL get easier. we want things to get even more Page 86 .1 ADVANCED CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Really Want. If this is a challenge for you. Positive. Just do what you can so that the TTP shifts in a direction that is fun.5 Summary D8-T32 Remember what was said earlier: • The overall direction of a conversation comes about due to a successive selection of TTPs (which normally occur at random. the imagination moving.Is that the sort of person you want to talk to and spend time with? Maybe not. we are turning you into someone that people LIKE to talk to! You know the type of person that people enjoy talking to. the more YOU can and will become that guy! 4. inquire about something. • By moving things in this way. you may have to think of 6-8 options.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Assignments for General Conversational Management 1) For the next week or so.4 4. that no matter WHAT you do with some people. really be aware of the TTP opportunities in your day-to-day life. Interesting.
more excitement. there are many ways to go. Positive. We move forward and want to get a more emotional tone. Now from that point. and Interesting. So.1-1. we now shift our strategy of "steering" things to direct the topics in a more focused manner using Advanced Conversational Management. there were 4 main directions towards which a conversation may go. and more involvement of the imagination. Using General Conversational Management. With that as a general strategy. and steer using Advanced Conversational Management Figure 4.4. (See Figure 4.1-1: Advanced Conversational Management Focuses the Steering From the start of a conversation. there are many ways the conversation can move. Interesting area. to "steer" things even more towards what we want. Strategic Formula for Advanced Conversational Management To direct the conversation into even BETTER areas. steer the conversation towards directions that engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course interesting. how do we work that in what we are doing moment-to-moment? How can we do things that will make that happen? Page 87 . We use our strategy of working with the TTPs. we were able to move things in the direction of Fun. From there. So we narrow our focus.4.) General Conversational Management takes the conversation into the Fun. you move it in ways that engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way. To move the conversation into more interesting areas. Positive.
and with that strategy in mind. and explain a bit more as to its meaning and interpretation. Repeat. TTP Fun. Positive.2 Steering Conversations Moment To Moment using Advanced Conversational Management D8-T35 Again. (See Figure 4. we shift the focus of how we navigate TTPs. we can assume that we are talking about subjects which fit into the "Fun. and Interesting" area.4.3-1 for an explanation. 4.4.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4.) TTP Mantra " Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Tactical Formula for Advanced Conversational Management Keep thinking .Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Move the conversation in that direction. we need to use the TTP as a way to move things in the right direction.) Page 88 . Positive. With that established. we look at the concept of the TTP.3 The Model With Advanced Strategy And Tactics In Place D8-T38 (Before we move on to looking at the model. we need to change the way the model is shown. but now think "where can I go that will engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way".4. See Figure 4.2-1.2-1: Topic Turning Point Navigation for Advanced Conversational Management After using General Conversational Management for a while.4. Interesting Topics Which of these "Engage the Emotions and imagination in a Positive Way"? That is the direction to go! Candidate Topics Figure 4.4.
For example.4. so that the various stages of a conversation can be easily illustrated. with thousands upon thousands of possible possible routes and outcomes. it may take ten. we are not showing that there are exactly "four steps" between points (1) and (2). not an exact number of steps or outcomes.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Understanding the Conversational Management Model The model attempts to show a process that has many many steps. Positive. From now on in the course. etc. or topic shift) shown on the digram may represent many steps in an actual conversation. Figure 4.) the conversation moves on for a while. When starting from ANY topic (1) to a place where you are firmly established for a period of time in a Fun. or thirty. but a way to show a "trend". But after using the general techniques (Fun.3-1: Understanding the Conversational Management Model The "levels" shown in the models are not meant to be exact. the model above is what we used to show a starting point (1). once again ending up with thousands of topics that could be discussed by the time you get through more topic shifts (3). Positive. (2). and Interesting conversation (2) may take four steps. In practice. This can result in so many possibilities (many thousands within a few steps) that it's important to look at these diagrams as a way to show "trend". For example. The locations of points (1). there can be a whole "tree" of possibilities leading from there. It may happen in ten minutes. At that point. and it ends up at a certain area (2). and (3) in the figure above (and in the next figure) helps to show this. the graphics we will use will show an even more "condensed" version of this process. Page 89 . these diagrams will indicate a VERY condensed version of the number of steps involved. where every "step" (TTP.
Page 90 . 20. Then a shift is made towards focusing the conversation even more using Advanced Conversational Management. if you use the language tools which we learned about earlier in the course. This is shown from point (1) to point (2) in the diagram. 8. are used together to move forward in a conversation.4.4. until it is firmly established that the conversation has engaged the emotions and imagination of the participant. to yourself! Advanced Conversational Management Model Figure 4.3-2: Advanced Conversational Management Model Early in the conversation. If you refer to Figure 4. As time goes on. and then Advanced Conversational Management. the conversation will get more and more of an "emotional" tone to it. subjects. General Conversational Management techniques are used. If you follow these two simple strategies together (and the tactical approach of simply watching the TTPs and moving things in the right way). you end up linking and associating many fascinating. This also is followed for a series of steps and a period of time. Although the diagram shows only 2 steps (for simplicity). This is shown between points (2) and (3). or however long it takes to be firmly established in a Fun. For a while. 10. Now the emphasis is on ways to "Engage the Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way".Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course We started at one topic. or 30 minutes. in practice it may be good to follow a series of topics for 5. and could be at any of thousands of topics after 6. only a few of which are shown in the diagram. feelings. the conversation will get better and better. and states.3-2. 10 topic shifts. emotional topics. Positive. After that has been established. we now focus more on moving in a direction that will "Engage the Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way". exciting. And of course while doing that. This too can take any number of steps. you can see how General Conversational Management. we focused the conversation towards moving things in a direction that is "Fun Positive and Interesting. and Interesting conversation (2). The subjects will get more and more fascinating.
directions you could "take" the conversation (these are the TTP Options.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4. list 6-8 different ways you could go. For each of those Topics. At some particular moment in that conversation. Topic a. and write down the topic for each. These should be conversations where it is already obvious that it is a fun. ask about.4. Write each of those down. and interesting conversation. consider it a topic that leads to a TTP (copy each above into the "Topic" areas below). what was the main topic? Topics 2) Based on each of those topics. things you could comment on. positive.4 Exercises and Assignments D8-T39 Exercises for Advanced Conversational Management 1) Think of some conversations that you have been in recently. or Candidate Topics). TTP Options (Candidate Topics') Page 91 .
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positive. what next? At some point in the conversation. and interesting. If this is a challenge for you... So. At first. 4. Do this for a while.. 4) For each Topic. until the process of finding 1 or 2 ways to go that "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way" in a conversation can happen very rapidly for you. don't worry. 2) Now that you are able to quickly find 1 or 2 good TTP options for yourself that "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". Maybe start out by looking at conversation after the fact.5.5 4. we are "steering" things more and more in a direction that we wish to go. start to take the conversation there! Ask a question. inquire about something. make a comment. Assignments for Advanced Conversational Management 1) For the next week or so. we want to steer things more towards romantic. whatever it takes. really be aware of the TTP opportunities in your day-to-day life. maybe by making a comment. which 1 or 2 would tend to "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way"? Which ones move things in a way that is best for you? Select two "candidates" and circle or highlight these two.4. but be especially aware of wanting to move things to "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". asking a question.1 Summary MORE ADVANCED CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT More About Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Really Want. It WILL get easier. seductive things. even things with some degree of sensual connotation to them. once again. This is best when applied to a conversation that is ALREADY fun. maybe offer an opinion. making a statement. etc.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 3) Of the 6-8 different TTP Options you have written above for each Topic. but the REAL key is to at least get to the point where you can very quickly think of at least 1 or 2 ways to go that "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". whatever it might take to move things in that direction. what would it have been like to have moved the conversation in the direction of the first item you circled? Practice that out loud for each Topic above. 5) Practice again on each by moving things in the direction of the second item that was circled.5 4. where COULD I have taken things". we focus further on the TTP options! Page 93 . Just do what you can so that the TTP shifts in a direction that can "Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way". So. thinking "what COULD I have done. D8-T46 D8-T47 D8-T47 As you can see. fascinating. you may have to think of 6-8 options.
However. positive and interesting thing. fascinating.5. This may seem odd or hard to do. 4. and followed the other strategies and tactics shown earlier. if you have been in a conversation for a while.2-1. fascinating.3-1.5. This gets her mind into thinking more and more about these things. Seductive things Tactical Formula for More Advanced Conversational Management Keep thinking . The focus now is upon topics that get you closer towards Romantic. fascinating.3 The Model With More Advanced Strategy And Tactics In Place D8-T52 We are just closing in. Repeat. and seductive things. seductive things?" Move the conversation in that direction. and focusing more and more towards areas and topics that work.5.) "Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic.5. you will have taken things in the right direction and this will be much easier. then the focus shifts again towards directing things in a specific way.5. seductive things is much easier after you have first move towards fun. 4.) Page 94 . fascinating. and associating YOU with them! (See Figure 4. Moving towards romantic.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Strategic Formula for More Advanced Conversational Management To further direct the conversation into even BETTER areas.2-1: Topic Turning Point Navigation for More Advanced Conversational Management After using General and Advanced Conversational Management. Fascinating.2 Steering Conversations Using More Advanced Conversational Management D8-T49 TTP Mantra (See Figure 4. steer the conversation towards romantic. seductive things?" Figure 4."Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. and then topics that engage the emotions and imagination.
Positive. which targets topics and subjects that are Romantic. Early on. there is a different focus at each stage. shown from point (1) to (2). the focus moves towards selecting items based on More Advanced Conversational Management. General Conversational Management techniques place the focus on selecting items that are Fun.3-1: More Advanced Conversational Management Model As the conversation progresses. moving to point (3).. Then the Advanced Conversational Management Techniques place the focus more upon items that involve the Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course More Advanced Conversational Management Model Figure 4. and Interesting. After that type of conversation has been established (3). moving to point (4) Page 95 . Fascinating. and Seductive.5.
and then an emotional one. the way it really DOES happen. that they will get an AMAZING reaction in their first movement across the Model.1 The 1-Shot Beeline Fallacy D9-T2 Guys assume that they will travel from a general topic. will work in your favor. and then . (See Figure 4. to a positive one. and get things to be more and more fascinating and exciting.) The Dream that Does Not Happen! Figure 4.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 4. 4.MAGIC! However that is NOT the way it works in the real world.1-1: The Dream of a 1-Shot Path To Success! A common misperception is that many guys think that if they can just move a conversation from the start. then a sensual one. This hardly ever ever happens. Too many guys are too caught up in this one-shot dream of traveling once across the model and getting an amazing result.6.6.6. Page 96 .6 CONVERSATIONAL FRACTIONATION D9-T1 Using these Conversational Management skills in the real world may be quite different in practice from the way most guys "think" it will happen. Moreover.1-1.
you may jump back just several steps in our Conversational Management Process. This actually ADDS to the power and effectiveness of what you are doing. stay there and talk about it for a while. g) Do the whole process over and over. here is how this works. So. Because no matter where you start from. move on to the next step. Then at some point. The conversation starts.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 4. Of if you can't seem to get to a good place.. When we say "go back". no matter where you start. So. and then at some point. moving through the model towards the right. No problem. If you get to a very good place. you are always moving towards positive topics. or maybe the conversation shifts back to that place due to something she says. no matter how the conversation jumps around. Maybe you start from a very general topic and get all the way through the model towards a very very fascinating topic or subject.6. This is where a process is done repeatedly over and over. and then . Then you "back up" to some extent (even all the way back to a very general topic area) and then move forward across the model again. In this way. Great! Talk about that for a while. using the Conversational Management techniques Get as far through the model as you can.. You just start the process again..31. starts. you back off. Maybe you move all the way back to a very "normal" topic (which would be all the way on the left side of the model). restarts. e) Then move back (towards the left side of the model) This may happen because: • The person you are talking to does that (she asks a question) • Or maybe you do it (just to lighten things up) f) Then start again.. you take a conversation from the early stages through the process.) a) b) c) d) Page 97 . the conversation ends up being very interesting and fascinating! 4. you go back towards something more "normal". and fascinating and seductive topics. You might do that on your own. No problem. goes for some distance through the model (maybe all the way through). Use the language tools.2 How Fractionation Works D9-T3 The real world has stops. Maybe several times. Just start the process again. emotional and imaginative topics. This actually works better! We are actually using Fractionation..... etc. Start at any topic (you are on the far left side of the Model) Move forward towards the right. (See Figure 4..6. You back up to a more general topic. And again. Have fun..3 Using Conversational Fractionation D9-T5 Start at some normal topic and move through the model towards the right.6.
over time. it's not a bad idea to back up a bit (9) and then move forward again. that no matter WHAT you talk about.6.4 Dead Ends Come Back To Life! D9-T6 With this new strategy of using Conversational Fractionation. interesting. As things move forward from (1). You become one of those fascinating guys. it ends up being fun.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Conversational Fractionation at Work Figure 4. As time goes on (5-12) the conversation gets into better and better areas. there is no such thing as a conversational "Dead End"! Page 98 . there is a continued movement up and into better and better areas of conversation. at times maybe they move towards an area that is not too good (2). Fractionation happens at times because even when you may be at a fairly good place for a while (8).6. simply back up (3) and then try moving into a better direction (4). and fascinating! 4. The overall trend is that. This is not a problem.3-1: How Conversation Fractionation Works on the Model Follow the conversation as it moves from (1) to (12).
. you just back up. use the language tools as much as possible! D9-T8 • • • • • • • • • Keep moving the conversation into these interesting fascinating areas .1 • Conversational Management Approach Start on just about ANY subject. • What if you can't make the conversation positive? • What if she always points out the negative aspect? • What if there is NO emotional engagement at ALL? Well.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course If you happen to take a "wrong turn" somehow and get into an area of discussion that is boring. When on good topics. back up a few steps.. and go down another path! 4.7 CONVERSATIONAL OVERVIEW AND REVIEW D9-T7 So. or maybe negative. uninteresting. —* The entire time: o If you hit a "dead end".3 Summary D9-T10 Go have fun with these tools! Page 99 . No problem. Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic.7. Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Move things in that direction.7. and the person becomes interested and fascinated. positive. o Comment on what is around o Mention common items. talked more.. stay there for a while. etc. you might have just found out that they are NOT someone you want to spend time with! That's not a total loss because you STILL learned more. and interesting? Move things in that direction. and get the effect.. (think of your TTP options). Do that for a while and then think ..7. Do that for a while and then think .. Just back up. and use the Strategy and Tactics of the Conversational Management techniques! Look at "Dead Ends" as being just like a bad turn on a road. this can happen. with you! 4. Where can I go that is fun. or what you both have in common Move forward with the Strategies and Tactics in mind.. o If you get to a good subject or topic.. how do we pull this together? 4. seductive things? Move things in that direction. fascinating.2 What If The Outcome Is Not What You Expected? D9-T9 Despite your best efforts. use the language tools.. have more material to use in conversations in the future! 4.
The more experience you get. Topics • • 5. this is something we can and will work on with you. Can you talk passionately about something? Anything? Hopefully. However.. what can we do here in this course to help you? We have talked about the way to talk and use language. and while talking about subjects and topics that YOU are really passionate about. You want to be able to discuss these topics easily. Now we want you to become familiar with topics that will really work well for you! We are going to work with some of these topics. fun. we have talked about managing conversations. especially as they get more interesting. if using those language tools is problem for you.0 TOPICS D9-T11 What do you talk about? As the conversation gets more interesting. yes! How well can you talk about topics that YOU are passionate about while using many of the language tools we talked about in the earlier parts of the course? If you can do that very well .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 5. and that statement (regarding having actually talked to someone about the topics) will be TRUE! So. fascinating. fascinating.1 Themes are a way through a discussion or through the "tree of subjects" that we showed earlier. TOPICS OF ENTHUSIASM AND PASSION D9-T14 What are you passionate about? Few things are more compelling in a person than for them to be passionate about something (hopefully many things) in life. A topic is a particular area of discussion that is taking place in a moment. You will be able to say things like "I was talking to someone about this the other day. In the meantime. to get the best effect you will have to be a PART of that conversation and familiar with the topics that may come up. some practice. Talking about these topics may be a challenge for many men. the more familiar you will be with these topics.. and THEY said. go ahead and practice! (Or maybe do that the next time you go through the course. then you may want to go back in those earlier sections. the more you talk to people about such things. Most men may not be very familiar with many of the topics that we REALLY want to get into.) Before you can use the language tools with new subjects that you are learning about. However. Themes vs. What do you talk about? There is no substitute for experience. so that YOU have some material. you should be able to use them with subjects in which you are already interested! Page 101 .great! It's easier to use the language tools if you are discussing topics with which you are familiar. the easier it will get. and closer towards the subjects that will really serve your intent. and it's even better if you are passionate about those topics. and some familiarity with this type of thing.". and then the more "material" you will have.
. excitement. in the right way Use the language tools! You want to be familiar with these topics (SOTs) and able to discuss them easily: maybe not ALL of them. and seductive. a topic that is an SOT.Topics that bring up images and thoughts that are romantic.. You may talk about cars..) Page 102 . How good are you at the earlier sections that dealt with the language tools? It may be a good idea to go back over those sections.. etc. or the office. You want to be able to discuss topics that deal on some level with Seduction. SOTs are the "end goals" when it comes to managing or directing a conversation. and emphasize discussing topics in which YOU are interested and passionate about. feelings. can create an AMAZING effect! When you do get a conversation into an area near an SOT.2 SEDUCTION ORIENTED TOPICS D9-T15 In the context of this course (and your intent in talking with . Topics that access emotions. or near. These are called "Seduction Oriented Topics". Examples of SOTs • Connections • Going for it • Making good decisions • Surrendering to feelings • Getting excited • Feeling excited • Trusting your judgment • Taking chances • Indulgence • Maturity • Good decisions • . but a good number of them. or cleaning the toilet. but doing so while using the language tools. The conversational management sections will help you to move the conversation in a way that will get you near these topics areas. (Every guy has his favorites and ones that work best for him. or topics that are very close to that concept. and link it to you! When • • • • • you are at or near an SOT: Use the correct tone of Voice Pace and Lead correctly Link things to you Point at the right times. work it. Seduction Oriented Topics (SOTs) .just TALKING about these can create a good effect. judge for yourself. but how effective are those as subjects given the "purpose" of the discussion? You want to discuss topics and things which deal with seduction. or sports.. Your point is to get to. sensual. 5. or..Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course So. someone) some topics are easier to work with than others. stay there as long as you can! Talk about it. in some ways. at least.
Assignments for Seduction Oriented Topics 1) Pay attention to conversations in your life (even things you hear on the radio. read. the more you work with the materials. You can use some of those that were listed earlier if you wish. Write down your list of SOTs. Page 103 . you JUST need to be able to talk. talk about something you heard. or comment on them! Talk aloud for several minutes about each. Seduction Oriented Topics 2) You must become familiar with these! You must be able to talk about them. and the more you talk to and with people about them. or in movies. bring up images and thoughts that may work for you. using as many of the language tools as you can. the more you practice using the tools. or seduction per se. but the more you think about them. use as many of the language tools as you can.. the easier it will get! Strategic Formula for Seduction Oriented Topics SOTs are topics that. keep it there. the more you practice. or even watched in a movie! (Or heard in a course that you took . Or. 3) Practice talking about each aloud. Exercises for Seduction Oriented Topics 1) Build your own list of SOTs. hopefully some way that involves you and your own life. and hopefully add some of your own.. by there very nature.Are you able to somehow relate to these in your own life? Maybe something you read or heard? Maybe questions you can ask? ANYTHING?!?!? You do not need to "know" a lot about these topics or be an expert. or anything like that. and without "thinking" about the language tools. or ask questions. Eventually. Don't worry about talking to women. Meaning.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course These topics may seem foreign to you. and also topics that you have heard in other materials and products that you have. Or are taking!) . and discuss these subjects. have stories about them. you will be able to just "talk" about the subject while using the tools that are available. easily.. Think of SOME way to discuss these. or joke about them. Think about other topics you have heard mentioned in this program. and while there. the easier it will be to "riff" on these using the language tools. or on TV. or overhear from others) and listen for when any of these SOTs come up in conversation. ask about them. Get the conversation there.
(As in. You do a few exercises to talk about them. 2) Now .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Listen to what is being said. or even when anything CLOSE to one of your SOTs is discussed. ask an opinion. 5. what people think. make a comment. These are called Expanded SOTs (SOTXs). Then you get to hear MORE people talk about them. I can tell you that it DOES get easier and easier to be able to talk about these things.. show interest. Really! Learning to discuss such things may start out slowly. The more you hear. So can you. this process must start somewhere. anything at all! Talk. However. We learned how you can move from any topic. Many guys who can now talk about these things VERY easily and comfortably started from a place of having NO idea of what to say! They changed. They did it. ask.3 EXPANDED SEDUCTION ORIENTED TOPICS . It may start a bit slowly and awkwardly.. etc. the more you listen. They started and became more and more familiar with these topics. You start to listen and take notice of when these are discussed. That is understandable. That makes you really think about them. SOT Summary I KNOW that these topics may seem foreign to you. or even just TRY to do so. See? We are working on a process to get you to become more comfortable and familiar with these things.SOTXs D9-T24 What if you had not just 10 ways of discussing "Seduction Oriented" subjects. then the more material YOU will have to talk about. and move through these exercises and assignments. ask what something means. "the other day I heard someone talking about. but this time with SOTs. Because of that. and makes it easier for you to talk about them. but as long as you start it. this is one of the key challenges that many guys face. and start to get your brain working on them. That's what we want to do here.. but we are walking you through (at least the first steps of) the process to make this easier: • • • • • • • • • • • You have made a list of SOTs. Use as many of the language tools as you can. Page 104 . Make special note of topics that are CLOSE or similar to these SOTs in some way. and frankly. and easily come up with 6-8 related topics. it gets easier to enter into more conversations that deal with these topics. what is said. it WILL get easier. And that gives you MORE material to talk about! Which make it easier for you to enter into more conversations about these subjects and topics. after having worked with hundreds of guys. Maybe ask some questions about things that deal with your SOTs. However. That gives YOU more familiarity with discussing them. quote. You listen more to when they are discussed. discuss.Talk about these subjects and topics! Make a point to enter into a discussion when one of your SOTs is mentioned. but had even more? Maybe 50? What if that was easy and familiar for you? Think back to how we looked at topics earlier.").
you can take any SOT. Look at the list above.. but can you think of 6-8 different aspects of this? (Remember what we did in the earlier sections. That just makes it easier for our example below). there are many different types or examples of connecting to people.with music . For any given SOT.3-1: How SOTs are related to an SOTXs. you now have 6-8 ways to discuss it.with a girlfriend . see Figure 5....with someone while on vacation . or only one aspect of that to discuss (connections in a romantic or sensual context). can you think of different aspects of that? Parts of Connections? Questions about Connections? Ways of experiencing Connections? People or things with which you can experience Connections? By asking those types of questions (to yourself). if friends. and things that can be discussed. However as we see here. They think of only one way of talking about that subject..with pets .. the SOTX list consists of all of these items shown in the diagram and listed below..with your teammates Figure 5. etc.. places. and build a whole list of very similar things to talk about -which are SOTXs! For example... Then. family..with friends .with family . it's easy to think of several different aspects of that topic or related topics. .with someone you just met . Instead of worrying about getting to that one topic (SOT) in a certain way.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course Expanding on a Topic Area "Connections" is an SOT.. comes up in a conversation.3-1.. pets.. coworkers. how we discussed a Topic Turning Point?) If Connections is a particular subject.. how easy would it be to talk about how you CONNECT with those? And if you talk about Page 105 .. (You do not really need to list "connections with" for each. SOT Connections SOTX Connections with family Connections with friends Connections with coworkers Connections with pets Connections with a girlfriend Connections with someone you just met Connections with someone while on vacation Connections with music Connections with your teammates Many guys worry about talking about something like "Connections". (Does that diagram look familiar?) If "Connections" is an SOT.. That is one subject. you can talk about that for while.with coworkers .
This is your SOTX list.. you are to list 5 (at least) related topics. If you talk about that for a while.. it's very easy to then shift.. and how you (or someone else) can connect with a pet. c. if someone is talking about pets.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course THAT (how you connect in that manner) for a while. that you just met! When you expand SOTs in this way. or maybe even someone. etc. all of a sudden there are many MORE ways to get to these really GREAT topics! Exercises f o r Expanded Seduction Oriented T o p i c s 1) Take the SOT list you had earlier (copy those down into the first column below. this is a TTP diagram in reverse!) For example. b. or different aspects of that topic.. point out an example regarding pets.to . a.. you can be as close as one step away from an SOT. (Yes.. SOTs " SOTXs List Page 106 . or how that topic can be experienced. then you can shift towards ANOTHER type of "connection" very easily! (See Figure 5.3-2: SOTXs Can Lead Into SOTs If any of the topics in the SOTX list comes up in conversation. Just make a comment.) and for each SOT. how to connect with people. or a special person. then you can shift to talking about "how you can connect with a pet" fairly easily. ask a question.) Family Friends Coworkers Pets Connections A girlfriend Someone you just met Someone met on vacation Music Teammates Figure 5.3-2.
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then about connecting with pets.) 3) Do the same thing again.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 2) Now for each SOTX. You have 50 SOTXs that you are now familiar with as well. That gives you a LOT of flexibility in conversations! Page 108 . and see if you can then focus what you are saying towards the SOT itself. but now do so while using the language tools. you talk about pets. Talk about that SOTX for a moment or two. Step back and look at what you have done! You have 10 SOTs with which YOU are familiar. practice talking about it out loud. (Like the earlier example. then about connecting in general.
.with your teammates Family Friends Coworkers Pets A girlfriend Someone you just met Someone met on vacation Music Teammates Connections This is how we developed SOTXs This is the most useful way of thinking of SOTXs Figure 5..with coworkers . and then built upon that step by step. modeled the process arid the steps involved. D9-T32 We discussed how to develop an SOTX list from an SOT. or anything like them mentioned. Good speakers. use the language tools if and whenever you can.. use such techniques a LOT. broke it into bits and pieces that you can learn and do as exercises. "I didn't list that SOTX..with family . You may think.with music . . Summary You now have MORE material to work with than you ever thought possible! This is not about memorizing. SOTXs are now like "conversational landmarks" for you in terms of navigating a conversation.with someone while on vacation .. 5.. you know that you are very close to getting near a subject area that will work very well for you.with friends . concept of "topics related to a topic" in many many places.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Assignments for Expanded Seduction Oriented Topics 1) Look at all of your SOTXs! That's a LOT of subjects! Pay attention in your life to see how often any of those items come up in conversation (or maybe you just hear them somewhere).with a girlfriend ... The more familiar you are with these subjects. if you hear any of them mentioned. Maybe you will even start to notice SOTXs that were not even ON your list.. However. You will start to notice this.with someone you just met . Page 109 . spotting these opportunities get easier and easier. .. the easier it will be to notice SOTXs. and move the conversation towards SOTs. See if you can move the conversation a bit towards the SOT itself..4 CONVERSATIONAL MODEL WITH SOTXs.4-1: SOTXs Are The Pathways To SOTs SOTXs are an easy way to get towards SOTs. We have broken these down. If anything like an SOTX comes up in a conversation.. The techniques that you have learned are the sort of things that many people do naturally.. especially politicians and activists.. it is easy to then move the conversation towards topics that will work better for you (SOTs).. The real usefulness of this is when you reverse the order as shown in Figure 5. but it IS related to an SOT that I have worked with". it's about getting YOU comfortable and familiar with these topics..with pets Connections . In addition. It ALL gets easier! 2) Start to "direct" the conversations you encounter where your SOTXs are mentioned.4-1.. that process can work both ways.. The more you work with this.
In many of the diagrams. you now see how easy it can be to move over to an SOT! In fact.4-3 shows this in the model itself.4-2: Your Multiple Pathways to SOTs! Now that you have worked with 10 SOTs.without "thinking" about them. and anything like an SOTX comes up in the discussion..4-2. that this process will now be easier than you may have imagined. The point here (again) is not to memorize the SOTs. we can then show them as part of our Conversational Model. to be able to notice when you are talking about things which are "close to" topics that will work well for you. If you have followed the program. and 50 SOTXs (in the earlier exercises) you now have many many SOTXs with which YOU are familiar! More importantly. As the topics get better and better. SOTXs SOTs Figure 5. It's to have you practice and become familiar with them. or the SOTXs. However in the figure above. this will start to happen for you. we have had to compress or simplify them quite a bit and show only a fraction of the actual steps and numbers involved so that the diagrams do not become too large or complex. you have practiced with so many of these SOTXs. that is not an abbreviation or exaggeration.the number that YOU have actually worked with so far! Since SOTXs and SOTs are the "goals" in terms of managing a conversation. you will get closer and closer to SOTXs.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course So whenever you are having a conversation. you have already worked with 10 SOTs and 50 SOTXs as shown in Figure 5. you have started to train yourself to "recognize" these landmarks. After all. and then towards SOTs. and for you to just start to "recognize" these things on your own . there are really 50 SOTXs and 10 SOTs shown . Page 110 . and done the exercises and assignments. Figure 5.
Period. you start to "listen" for topics that are SOTXs. When you get to an SOTx.5-1. 5. which are topics near or related to seduction (a step or two away from SOTs).. Then move the conversation towards an SOT! This works. You can start from almost ANYWHERE.4-3: SOTs Are THE Goals in Conversational Management As you move through a conversation. or as close as you can towards SOTs. Move towards SOTs.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course SOTs in the Conversational Management Model The end goal is to get to. and ANY TOPIC. it's that you have trained yourself to recognize things that are SOTs.) Page 111 . and topics that are close to that (SOTXs). and using this type of approach you will have fascinating conversations with people that lead to where YOU want to go! (See Figure 5. SOTXs SOTs Listen for SOTXs Anything near or related to an SOT. or anything that is "related" to an SOT. then you can simply move things towards a topic that is very seduction-oriented! The point is not to have a "list" in mind. you can start from just about ANY topic and get to GREAT topics! It's easy. just follow the steps listed earlier in the Conversational Management sections.5 THE COMPLETE CONVERSATIONAL MODEL D9-T33 Start from any topic and get to where you want! Yes. then start to pay attention for SOTXs. Stay there for a while if you can! Figure 5. SOTXs are a pathway to make that easier.
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seductive things Direct the Conversation Pay attention when Good Subjects come up (SOTXs) Listen for anything a step or two away from an SOT Move towards SOTs Stay there as long as you can Use The Language Tools! As much as possible. start over! Assignment! 1) Try it! Start directing conversations using the conversational management model. or very close! Page 113 . Fractionate If you take a wrong turn.. back up! If you move back to a general topic. Steer towards .Romantic.Fun.. fascinating... Steer towards .Engaging the emotions and imagination in a positive way ..5-1: The Complete Conversational Management Model (continued) Start a Conversation Manage the Conversation Move the Conversation in a Good Direction Steer towards . interesting .. and see how easy it is to get to some good topic that is an SOT.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Figure 5. exciting. or SOTX. Especially when at or near SOTXs and SOTs.
or series of actions. It's best to just think of patterns as examples. The Pattern Formula in detail. Use the language tools.1 PATTERNS PATTERN OVERVIEW D10-T1 What is a pattern? • A plan. you make decisions on-the-spot as to what to do and how to proceed. diagram. In the same manner. We practice specific parts of areas of the skills we wish to use later on. She may take the conversation into better places that you could have predicted. or could say. A New way of thinking about the use of patterns • The wrong way is to talk to someone and to keep thinking. Patterns are just examples of the use of these tools. get her to "experience" good feelings and states o Use the Conversational Management Techniques to get there o Get her to think about good and/or exciting feelings Page 115 . Link and associate these feelings to you. 6. Examples/Analogies: • Sports . certain actions. Its just a "type" of talking that you can (and will be able to) use when you feel it is appropriate. plus these areas will work for HER because SHE selected them (in a manner of speaking) • Talk and manage the conversation into an area that DOES work for you. etc. • Instead. we have practiced the small details (language skills) so that these are automatic. or model to be followed in making things.0 6.2 PATTERN FORMULA D10-T7 Tactical Formula for Patterns While talking to a woman. Present a Call to action. get her to "experience" good feelings and states. "how can I get to my pattern". A representative sample. "A plan" or "model". You practice bits and pieces of the sport. • An example of what you can say. Once you actually play the game though. These smaller skills become automatic and you focus instead of driving. or "how can I bring up a pattern that I know". clarifying. • While talking to a woman. handling the gas pedal. You don't have to think about moving the wheel. • Maybe talk to a woman and allow HER to bring up things that end up working well in pattern-like language. that's the key.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 6. asking. the clutch. • Driving . or "how can I bring this pattern up". With this new approach to learning and using these tools. think about having a conversation (and managing it correctly). THAT ends up being a very effective way to create "patterns". and being aware of when you DO get to an area of conversation that does allow you to use a pattern.You don't play the entire game ahead of time. or navigation. Don't think of "how can I get to the pattern". and as "a way of speaking".Many of the details of driving a car are things you just "do". Amplify these feelings and states by talking. The navigation is handled through our use of Conversational Management techniques. we work in that manner.
.. they can. and real-time "Riffing". But. "this person. asking. and have them there for your use if and when the correct situation comes up. many times it does not. canned patterns are good.. but they assume that you are in a conversation where they will work and be somewhat "appropriate" to what is being discussed. when you are talking to a woman. "Canned" patterns. The problem is if you are SO focused on just "getting to the pattern" that you know (or even one of many that you know) then it's difficult to have a good conversation. if you just "drop" a pattern into the conversation. So. o Use "this" and "these" (be aware of that and those as well) o Point and mark appropriately Present a Call to action o "Do it now" language o Create a Challenge o Create an Opportunity o Talk about the chance to "Seize the moment" o A simple add-on to the Language Tools There are two main ways of doing patterns. • The interesting topic that she and you are discussing o what is happening o what you know Page 116 . 6. In THAT case . Pre-written. what you need to do is to look at. In the real world.4 PATTERN RIFFING IN REAL-TIME D10-T13 This is the ability to just create pattern language on-the-fly. and the proper context is not created. Some times that does happen. and that the woman will react to what the patterns is about. Their best use is when you use the Conversational Management techniques and then find that the conversation just happens to get to or near a pattern that you DO happen to know already. pre-written patterns that you have seen and heard.these pre-written or canned patterns can work very well. pre-rehearsed. etc Link and associate those feelings to you o Use the Language Tools o Use linkage phrases like "now with me". However. clarifying o Use the Language Tools o Asking her for info. Therefore it is best to maybe have some of these memorized.3 CANNED PATTERNS D10-T12 These are the pre-rehearsed. and do. because doing so may work against you. sound quite strange.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • o Get her feeling good and/or exciting feelings o Get her experiencing (or recall the experience of) good and/or exciting feelings o Get her to think about things that she wants or desires Amplify these feelings and states by talking. don't focus TOO much on them. 6. or things you have read. for her to elaborate and describe o Repeating back what she has said o Provide examples from your own life o Provide examples from friends. these canned patterns DO have some usefulness. The good ways to use these are as teaching and learning tools." etc. and to use what is needed in the moment.
exciting. looking and listening for positive feelings. THE BEST PATTERN IS THIS: • • Get her to talk and think about positive. • Talk about these things or listen to you talk about these things • get her to think about these things • get her to feel these things • get her to link them to you.. • Use some "act now" languaging. it really IS that easy! look for: Positive emotions and feeling Positive sensations (as in physical ones) Exciting feelings. Wanting to take action or seize an opportunity Always • • • • See the pattern here? We are in general. emotions. interesting. and actions in the conversation. Then you have a conversation and. states. Page 117 . Then we use those as a basis for discussion. and and use the language tools. Yes. and sensual things.. using the tools.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • o what she is reacting to o and discuss things which are appropriate. Use the language tools so that YOU become associated with those things. get her to.
and the more engaged you are in the process. you will benefit. and/or compulsion to act a. SOTs) 4. Direct the conversation in a way that takes you toward good topics a. but the method of approaching it is very different. 7. Now we can look from the "top-down". Both you and her talk! 2. fifth. Create a willingness. and really take the time to do the exercises. Direct and/or link those feelings towards you. Talk about something positive and interesting c.1 REVIEW AND SUMMARY REVIEW D10-T18 The course has followed a "bottom-up" approach to training. We really are focused upon changing you.3 LISTEN. Keep the conversation going. the greater your results will be.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course 7. focusing first on small details. and view an overall strategy. Use the conversational management techniques b. D10-T28 The more energy and effort you put into this. Use the Language Tools 5. comfort in. and how you speak. DO THE EXERCISES. Use the conversational management techniques b. 1. D10-T27 Listen to the full explanations.2 SUMMARY D10-T26 This may be similar to information you have heard in the past.4 BE WILLING AND PREPARED TO PUT ENERGY INTO THIS COURSE. Whether its your first. Fractionate if and when needed. -' d. and then building up to bigger and bigger pieces. Engage her emotions and imagination in a positive way.5 CONGRATULATIONS! WELL DONE! D10-T29 Page 119 . of fourteenth time through. 7. a. 7. Keep her there and keep talking! a. 3. Use the Language Tools 7. a. It really is up to you. AND FOLLOW THE COURSE. Get the conversation into good subjects (SOTXs.0 7.
Page 121 .0 EXAMPLES. and provide you with some real-world examples of their use.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course 8. EXAMPLES Dll-Tl The discussions presented on the audio for this section are intentionally "casual" to familiarize you even more with the use of these tools. EXAMPLES.
• If you were to . or Chest? Pacing And Pausing Use variations in pace. • Slow. and charismatic presence... • Have you ever . • Passionate or Boring? o o o • LANGUAGE TOOLS A N T D E T A I L S o Adjectives And Adverbs Use more adjectives and adverbs in your speech to appeal to and excite the emotional side of the listener. so that their feelings. powerful. • Nose. • If I were to ... • What's it like when . to be cool. " As you.. and processes awaken. use Adjectives And Adverbs Trance Words Help to get the subconscious mind of the listener to be more of apart of your conversation. allowing you to say more (and maybe more provocative things) about a subject. • Instantaneously " Suddenly • Find Yourself • Convince Yourself • Suppose • Imagine " Mysterious (-ly) • Wonder (-ous) (-ously) Weasel Phrases Use Weasel Phrases to keep the conversation going....Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course APPENDIX 1 Course "Cheat Sheet" • SPEAKING POINTERS o The "Cool" Factor You don't have to be cold. emotions. to convey a sense of drama and intrigue in what you are saying in a way that "captivates "people and makes them want to listen to you. and to "soften " the way in which something is said.. o o Page 123 . Mouth. Voice Tone And Tonality Use your best tone of voice (speaking from your chest) to convey a relaxed. and well-placed pauses. Pause? Energy And Enthusiasm Using energy and enthusiasm when speaking so that people can become energized and enthusiastic about listening to and being with you.. Fast. • Be descriptive.
laugh. Point to you • Negative Say "those". These. Linking After getting someone to experience good feelings and emotions. allowing you to move things more in your favor later on Page 124 . interest.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o Embedded Commands Use embedded commands repeatedly and in the proper context. o o • MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures Move. etc. That. Those • Positive statement. to create a compelling will on the part of the listener follow you and listen to you. Easy Linking Expanded Pointing With This. Point away • Positive statement. motion. touch them to help anchor it to you. a smile. Point away. intrigue.. • Can you do this now. point or gesture towards yourself. Say "this". and accentuate what you are saying in order to be more compelling as a speaker and to get even more attention from your listener or audience.. point or gesture away. Say "that". gesture. • Point Or Touch On Positive —* o o o • LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES o Pace And Lead Pacing and Leading allows you "be " in the conversation for a while and gain rapport and information. link them to you so that YOU become something and someone that they feel good about • Now with me • In me • In myself • with this • these • this belief • these feelings Easy-Linking • Use "This" and "These" when referring to anything positive. • Whenever you say something positive. Easy Anchoring When the person you are talking with displays a positive feeling of some type.. • Move! Point! Linking Gestures Towards And Away • Whenever you say something negative. Point to you • Negative statement. Say "these". • Use "That" and "Those" when referring to anything negative.
More And More If you want to lead someone through a series of steps (actions. or to maybe see if you can get someone to agree to it! • a.another option o o o Page 125 . "List" several things briefly in order. B. acknowledgement. etc. B. or giving an example. a way that you want. • Topics and Subjects • Mindset or Frame of Mind • Current Reality • As (while) you are "X" (Pace) Where "X" is something that is true in their current reality (perceptions. and c When giving examples or options to someone. Listing • General Listing General Listing is a way to quickly provide several reason.Burying Items is a way to mention an outrageous or very direct option for "testing" purposes. but mention the one which YOU want to put the most emphasis on. and C When making a point. or giving an example. Then start to move or shift things in a different way. "List" several things or examples which support your point. • Request X because (of) Y. thoughts. the More Y.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course Show agreement. Compare And Contrast Use this technique to keep the conversation going.Bad • One option . experiences. you can get away with an outrageous or very direct option by burying that option in the middle of a List. and C When making a point. in order to provide more power to what you are saying • At The End Listing at The End is a way to provide several options (which may differ) but to emphasize the option that YOU want. statement. The More Z. the more Y. b. and/or interest. etc. statement. The more Y.) • Then you will "Y" Where "Y" is something you want them to experience (Lead) o Give Them A Reason Giving a reason will make people more apt to do things for you and agree with you. and incorporate the language tools • This thing vs that thing • How two things are similar • How two things are different • Good . which support your point • A. the More Z. understanding. keep the discussion focused on a topic that serves your purposes. the More Y. • a. or thoughts) use "More and More " as a way to string them together (and increase your chances of that happening • The more X. etc. LAST • Burying Items Listing . • As you X.
• Find a way to map what YOU want. allowing you time to gather information and link yourself to good thoughts... Parts Of A Person Use Parts of a Person as a way to find.. • If you are able to .. • You may ... or point in a discussion. • Break it down into its component parts and discuss them. • Link good thoughts.. or show it. • I wonder if you can .. or fun. • You seem like . • Using Their Own Processes • Find or assume what someone wants • Create an opportunity for them to get it or demonstrate they have it • Make that "demonstration" work in your favor. • Use the language tools in the discussion.. feelings. to be a way for them to get what they want. • Take any subject. idea. • The smart people I know.... do it.. • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control Particular Wants What does she want to have. feelings and emotions to yourself.\ Universal Wants You can assume that most people want these.. feelings and emotions. • Challenge them to do that.. • You might see . discuss. or adventurous. • Maybe you can ... • Are you able to . • If you can .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course o Parts • • Parts Of A Subject Discussing many of the parts of a subject keeps the conversation going.. etc).. even when the other person claims or demonstrates that such parts are NOT there • For every part of a person that will work against you. • You seem as if. • Challenge them to demonstrate it. assume there is a part that will work WITH you.. o Opportunities And Challenges • Find out what someone wants. Mini-Challenges • You seem. or want to be perceived as having? • Talk to them and find out. • You might. and evoke favorable states... • etc. can (use smart... —* • • • Page 126 . and beliefs.
Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • Opportunities. • Repeat. Are they ready to take advantage of that (this) opportunity? • Does she really want X and see how Y can get that? • Does she really have X. •• Show interest when someone discusses positive. bring up positive.. by doing Y? • Does she want you to THINK she has X. and see how doing Y would demonstrate it?> • Does she have what it takes to get X.. interesting things... • Introduce topics that are fun. interesting things.. • Topic Turning Point The process of moving from one topic to one of 6-8 relevant topics • In general.. listen and be IN the conversation! • Conversational Dynamics Topics flow from one to the next. positive. fun.-and do Y to get it? • Can she do Y and make it happen? • Can she see that Y will get her what she wants? • Can she trust herself enough to do Y? o • Ambiguities — CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT o General . then . Advanced Conversational Management To direct the conversation into even BETTER areas. positive and interesting. she may have to do Y to prove that. • Confidence • Maturity • Security • Self-Directed • Intelligence • Control " • Excitement Challenges Challenge them to get what they want.. or show what they have. • Can she see an opportunity to have "X". fun.. fun. General Conversational Management To steer the conversation in a good direction. Consider the wants and needs that a person may have ."Where can I go that is fun.. • Navigation Don't think of an exact plan. steer the conversation towards directions that engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way o o Page 127 . • Don't engage in conversations when it's NOT about positive. interesting things • Keep thinking . and interesting?" " Move the conversation in that direction. Creating Them -. think of general navigation • She Must Be Engaged In The Conversation! You need her to talk.
and seductive things. and while there. by there very nature.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • o Keep thinking . use as many of the language tools as you can. Conversational Fractionation • Using Conversational Fractionation • Start • Move • Back Up • Repeat • Dead Ends Come Back To Life! • Just back up and start over! Conversational Overview and Review • General Flow • Start on just about ANY subject. keep it there. Get the conversation there. Repeat. • When on good topics. o If you get to a good subject or topic.Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? Move the conversation in that direction. use the language tools as much as possible! • What If The Outcome Is Not What You Expected? • Move on! o o • TOPICS o Topics Of Enthusiasm and Passion Few things are more compelling in a person than for them to be passionate about something (hopefully many things) in life. bring up images and thoughts that may work for you. fascinating. More Advanced Conversational Management To further direct the conversation into even BETTER areas. • Where can I go that is fun. use the language tools. fascinating. Seduction Oriented Topics SOTs are topics that. and get the effect. • Connections • Going for it • Making good decisions Page 128 o . steer the conversation towards romantic. back up a few steps."Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. • Keep thinking . and interesting? • Where can I go that will engage her emotions and imagination in a positive manner? • Where can I go that will get me closer towards romantic. seductive things?" " Move the conversation in that direction. fascinating. • Repeat. seductive tilings? • The entire time: o If you hit a "dead end". stay there for a while. positive.
• Get her to. • Manage . clarifying. Pattern Riffing In Real-Time • Use the Conversational Management techniques to get to good subjects • Look at the interesting topic that she and you are discussing o what is happening o what you know o what she is reacting to o and discuss things which are appropriate. asking. Amplify these feelings and states by talking.. The Complete Conversational Model See Appendix 2 o o • PATTERNS o Pattern • • • • Formula While talking to a woman. o Wanting to take action or seize an opportunity • Use the language tools. Link and associate these feelings to you. o Talk about these things or listen to you talk about these things o get her to think about these things o get her to feel these things o get her to link them to you. there are easily 6-8 variations on that SOT that you can talk about. get her to "experience" good feelings and states.. Page 129 o .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • • • • • • • • o Surrendering to feelings Getting excited Feeling excited Trusting your judgment Taking chances Indulgence Maturity Good decisions Expanded Seduction Oriented Topics . Conversational Model With SOTXs.Great as EXAMPLES • Learn and know some of them they may be useful.SOTXs For each SOT. o Canned Patterns .Look out for SOTXs • Direct 0 Move towards SOTs.Use the conversational Management Techniques. • Direct . Those are STOXs. Present a Call to action. and • Look for: o Positive emotions and feeling o Positive sensations (as in physical ones) o Exciting feelings.
interesting. o The Best Pattern Is This: • Get her to talk and think about positive. • Use the language tools so that YOU become associated with those things Page 130 . and sensual things. exciting.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course • Use some "act now" languaging.
These.) o Easy Anchoring .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course APPENDIX II Speaking and Language Tools "Cheat Sheet" • SPEAKING POINTERS o Voice Tone And Tonality o Pacing And Pausing o Energy And Enthusiasm LANGUAGE TOOLS AND DETAILS o Adjectives And Adverbs o Trance Words o Weasel Phrases o Embedded Commands o Linking o Easy-Linking (This.Point Or Touch On Positive And Negative LANGUAGE STRUCTURE AND TECHNIQUES o Pace And Lead • Topics and Subjects • Mindset of Frame • Current Reality o Give Them A Reason o Listing " General . That.At the End • Burying Items o More And More o Compare And Contrast o Parts " Parts of a Subject • Parts of a Person o Opportunities And Challenges • Mini Challenges " Opportunities And Challenges o Ambiguities • • • Page 131 . Those) MORE TOOLS o Pointing And Gestures o Linking Gestures (Towards And Away) o Easy Linking Expanded (Pointing With This... That.
Positive. and Interesting Advanced Mgt.Dave Riker's Speed Seduction Language and Conversation Course APPENDIX III The Complete Conversational Management Model The Complete Conversational Management Model General Mgt. Fascinating. Fun. Seductive SOTXs SOTs The Complete Conversational Management Model Page 133 . Emotions and Imagination in a Positive Way More Advanced Mgt. Romantic.
Especially when at or near SOTXs and SOTs. interesting . Steer towards .. Fractionate If you take a wrong turn.Engage the emotions and imagination in a positive way . back up! If you move back to a general topic.Romantic. start over! Page 134 .Dave Riker's Speed Seduction® Language and Conversation Course The Complete Conversational Management Model (continued) Start a Conversation Manage the Conversation Move the Conversation in a Good Direction Steer towards . fascinating.. positive.Fun... seductive things Direct the Conversation Pay attention when Good Subjects come up (SOTXs) Listen for anything a step or two away from an SOT Move towards SOTs Stay there as long as you can Use The Language Tools! As much as possible.. Steer towards ..
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