You got the date with the girl you wanted. She said yes.

You’re avoiding the Fir st Date Blunders. But what DO you do for first date success for you and your da te? First Date Tip for Guys #1. Do Spiff Up Do wear a suit or a sports jacket. If you are not a coat and tie kinda guy, I’m n ot suggesting you be false. However, do dress up a bit. Do make an effort to l ook good. Trust me, women on a first date will be dolling up. She’ll be wearing make up and perfume and likely a skirt or dress. She wants to feel you are a ma n. By dressing up a bit you communicate your confidence and powerful masculinit y. If you dress down while she is dressing up, you will disappoint her and leav e her with the impression you are just a guy when what she desires is to date a man. First Date Tip for Guys #2. Do Arrive a Little Early

One of the hallmarks of dating etiquette is that a man picks up a woman for the date. The still rings true today. However, often for a First Date in the 21st century women have to take a number of additional precautions than before becaus e of the preponderance of personal information available on the internet for ins tance with social networking sites. So, even if you are acquainted with her fro m in-person offline life, she might not want to give you her home address quite yet. In person to her home: Arrive early but wait until the date time to go to her d oor. Most women are getting ready and are not 100% viewable until the time of t he date. Don’t go up to her door early. If she’s not ready, it can leave her feeli ng uncomfortable to have to stop what she’s doing to get the door for you. At the Date Venue: If you are meeting her at the location where you two will en joy your first date, do aim to arrive anywhere from 15-5 minutes early. Give yo urself extra time. There’s always an accident and there’s always traffic. You want buffer time in case things happen. It can take awhile to get from the parking lot to the restaurant area where you are meeting. Go ahead and get the table fo r you and wait for her. By arriving early and waiting for her, you subtly demon strate your masculine protectiveness and provision. Subtly you just communicate d that you are a man who can be relied upon by her. Women crave that in a man! First Date Tip for Guys #3. Do Be a Gentleman Beautiful women are used to be treated like ladies by men. Display that you are a gentleman. The concrete ways to do this is to do the social niceties: * Do Open Doors for Her * Do Stand for Her When She Gets Up and Down from the Table These are the ways a gentleman honors a woman’s femininity. She will adore it in you. First Date Tip for Guys #4. Do Make Small Talk Conversation Women are often willing to banter in a conversation and get things going. And y ou as a shy guy might be that way as an expression of your being an introvert. However, she does want you to converse with her. No woman wants to have to carr y the whole conversation for the whole evening. Come prepared to make small tal k with her. Be prepared to converse lightly about your job, the education you a re pursuing, your career, and your hobbies and interests. First Date Tip for Guys #5. Do Ask After Her

Ask About Her day Ask About Her job Ask About Her career Ask About Her Interests Modern women want to respect and admire you as a man. And we want it all. We w ant you to be interested in us and to share our lives with someone. She knows y ou think she is beautiful and that you admire her beauty. However, as a beauty, she craves to be desired for herself as well. Demonstrate that you are a man w ho appreciates her beauty and is interested in the woman as well by asking after her life. First Date Tip for Guys #6. Do Flirt with Her

Body Language Flirting Signals First Date Tips Shy Guys Shy Guy Flirting on a First Date Do go ahead and insert flirtation and humor in your date. For goodness sake, th e point is to have a fun and enjoyable evening together. Do avoid moving too fa st and too quickly physically. Don’t touch her legs with your hands on a first da te. Instead, use humor and your teasing sense of fun in your words and your voc al tone to communicate your flirting with her. First Date Tip for Guys #7. Do Pay When you want to demonstrate that you are a man and distinguish yourself from th e rest of the pack of guys. Some gurus recommend that you don’t pay. However, yo u want to embrace your masculine essence and demonstrate your protection and pro vision by paying for the date. If she is a feminine woman as well as beautiful, she will sweetly tell you, “Thank you for a lovely evening!” First Date Tip for Guys #8. Do State Your Intentions at the End of the Date How was the date? Was it a match? Or was the flow of conversation awkward the entire evening? Was she beautiful but you two just did not resonate and connect at all? If you don’t want to see her again, do tell her! If you two met at an online dating site: “Thanks Susan. I enjoyed getting to know you better. But, I just felt that we ar e not a match. Good luck in search.” If you two met in person: “Thanks Jessica. I enjoyed getting to know you better and your goals after colleg e. But, I just felt that we are not a match. Good evening.” Do be gracious in the words and demeanor you use. Just do also be clear about y our intention to go on another date, or not. You will impress her either way! First Date Tip for Guys #9. Do Ask for a Second Date If you two hit it off and the conversation flowed easily and comfortably between you two and you’re interested in seeing her again, then by all means: Do tell her: I really enjoyed this evening. I want to see you again. Do ask her for a second date: How is next Friday evening for you? At 7 pm? Warning About Saturday Night: She’s a beautiful girl. If you want to get on her s ocial calendar, you better get a slot in her calendar now or it could be another few weeks. However, Saturday night Date Night is a special evening. She might not want to give you the privileged access to her Saturday Night quite yet unti l after 2 or 3 dates with you. On a subtle level, you have to earn that access with her. So to set yourself up for First Date Success, do ask for a second dat e on another night. Ask for a Friday night date, Sunday evening date, or a Sund ay brunch date. First Date Tip for Guys #10. Do Kiss Her!

If you enjoyed the date and want to see her again, do go ahead and kiss her! Happy Dating and Relationships, April Braswell For more information on Dating and Relationships visit