Real answers to The Meaning of Life and finding Happiness

Real answers to The Meaning of Life and finding Happiness
Timothy Tang

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Real answers to The Meaning of Life and finding Happiness
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Contents

Introduction . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . vii What is The Meaning of Life question really asking?. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1 What is Reality and Balance?. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 2 What is Meaning or Purpose? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 5 What is Human Life? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 7 Formulating the answer to The Meaning of Life . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 8 What can be achieved by seeking The Meaning of Life? . . . . . . . . . . . . 10 What is the meaning of one’s life? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 12 Why do people mess up their lives? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 15 Hints of The Meaning of Life from Religion. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 17 Can Morality exist without Religion? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 21 Asking the ‘What if?’ guilt question. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 23 Having the will to live vs. Death . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 25 Positive and Negative people. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 27 Negativity in bullies . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 30 Stalking and preserving Positivity . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 32 How are people good or evil? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 34 Positive Emotions . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 35 What is Fear? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 37

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What is Anger and Hatred? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 38 What is Happiness and how to find it? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 40 What is Beauty? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 44 What is Love? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 45 What is Perversion? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 46 What is Addiction? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 48 Temptation and Greed . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 51 Positivity and Negativity in Learning . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 53 Positivity and Negativity in the family . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 54 Hiding of identities in Relationships . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 56 How to deal with Negativity . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 58 References . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 61

Introduction

The topic of the meaning of life is undoubtedly the most discussed as well as the most profound that has left countless people puzzled and troubled across the ages. Man has been searching for an answer to this mystery in the hope of finding direction in his life and to understand the ultimate purpose of his existence. The quest to answer this ultimate question is still very much alive today. Browse through bookstores and do a search on the internet and one can find many people discussing this topic. Many people, including philosophers, book authors, as well as bloggers have stated views that such an ultimate question as well as its answer, is open to interpretation that makes it very subjective. The most common answers to the meaning of life include finding happiness, love or doing tasks that gives one a great sense of fulfillment upon completion. Some people even feel that the answer to the meaning of life is too profound to be known and understood. Some even feel that life or human existence has no real meaning or purpose because they think that human existence occurred out of a random chance in nature, and that anything that exists by chance has no intended purpose. Such a mass of subjective and conflicting views about the most important question of human existence would no doubt continue to leave people confused, troubled and frustrated at finding purpose and motivation to lead their lives. As I go along with my explanation of the meaning of life in this book, I will explain how anything that exists in reality has a crucial, fundamental purpose that gave rise to its creation. This book is the result of an extraordinary attempt to discover what the meaning of life question is really asking, and goes to formulate the real objective answer to such an ultimate question of existence.

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The topic of my first book was intended to be on consciousness and its enhancement. I researched on consciousness so that I could help people enhance their consciousness, better navigate through their lives and avoid many of life’s problems. I theorized there is a consciousness mechanism in the mind that I named as ‘CMech’, which is crucial for the interpretation and awareness of Reality. I theorize that it is this consciousness mechanism that gets affected when we realize people are staring at us. Before I could finish my manuscript on the topic, the many books dealing with the meaning of life and happiness topics in the bookstores I visited overwhelmed me. The interest of people to understand the meaning of life and to find happiness in these books were so great I felt I had to provide my own contribution towards their understanding. I have spent the last few years of my life researching and understanding the mind’s consciousness, also called awareness. The intention of my consciousness research was to discover methods of enhancing consciousness so that people can use them to enhance their understanding of the world, improve life’s navigation and overcome many of its obstacles. Since enhancing consciousness has similar results towards helping people finding their direction in life as well as happiness, I was able to integrate the findings of my consciousness research into this book. My thoughts on the meaning of life and happiness were influenced by many religions and cultures. In this book, the reader can expect to find many references from religion such as Buddhism, Zen Buddhism, Taoism and the Bible. Examples from American and Japanese cultures are also used for explanations. The audience focus of this book is directed towards youth such as children and teenagers besides adults. Therefore, I have tried my best to present my ideas in clear and simple English as far as possible. I would like to remind readers that my understanding of the meaning of life and happiness does not represent the absolute fact on the matter. They are strongly encouraged to keep an open and critical mind and question everything written. Younger readers are encouraged to increase their understanding of various terms and topics in this book by doing their own research and coming up with their own deliberated views. I hope readers can find helpful answers towards finding their meaning of life and happiness from reading this book, good luck.

What is The Meaning of Life question really asking?

Before an objective answer to the meaning of life question can be formulated, an objective definition to the ultimate question has to be formulated. We must firstly understand what the meaning of life question is really asking. The English language is very rich in meanings and words often mean differently in different contexts. To understand what the meaning of life question is really asking, we have to find out what the individual words of the question would accurately mean in their context. What is the meaning of life? What is meaning in the first place? What does it mean for something to mean anything? The word meaning is used interchangeably with the word purpose in the context of the meaning of life question. To ask what is the meaning of life is also to ask what the purpose of life is. What is the explanation of meaning or purpose, and human life? To find their explanation, certain aspects of reality have to be re-examined in the next chapter.

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What is Reality and Balance?

Reality and Nature are made of positive and negative energies. To interpret reality and be conscious requires us to realize these two opposing forces. We live in a reality that goes by the natural flow of motion. Causes lead to their effects. Matter is slower dormant forms of energy. Energy has both positive freeflowing and negative opposing qualities. Positive flow of the mind promotes freedom of self-identity and negative flow restricts one’s real identity. Positivity promotes the flow of knowledge and negativity causes ignorance. Negativity in the flow of thoughts restricts the flow of thoughts in the mind and causes the famed writer’s block. People do not like negative qualities because it restricts them in many ways. Negativity in the form of restrictions in punishments is often used to dissuade people from committing certain actions. We can sense positive and negative flow in the environment and objects. Sometimes we feel that the atmosphere of some places have a positive free-flowing quality while other places can feel heavy with tension that can be cut with a knife. Foods such as beautiful Japanese sweets and attractive art forms display many positive aesthetic qualities that make people feel positive by interpreting their qualities. Positivity in taste is felt in sweetness and negativity is felt in bitterness. Since reality contains both positive and negative qualities, we can describe life like a box of bittersweet chocolates. We are more comfortable and can think and function better in positive places than negative ones. Positive and negative flow can be felt in people. We usually prefer the company of positive people to negative ones. Reality is the manifestation of positive and negative energies. Interpreting our reality and anything real therefore requires us to realize both the positive and negative qualities in the fast and dormant forms of energy that we see.

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When we touch an object in our hands, it feels real to us because of the opposing reaction of the force we exert on it, which provides us with the feedback of its properties. We daydream and fantasize when we think of a scenario in our minds made up mostly of positive qualities where we can express great freedom of identity in the absence of restricting negative qualities. When we walk on the street, we experience the cause and effect of motion and the opposing friction on the ground. When we taste a piece of tasty food in our mouths, we interpret and experience its positive and negative qualities to get its real taste. The true character of a person is known from his positive and negative qualities, from how he reacts to both positive and negative situations. We require these crucial feedbacks from interpreting both positive and negative forces in order to distinguish reality from illusion. People do high-risk sports because they can bring one lots of intense positive flow that is felt as excitement. Have you ever experienced a dream where you were in some place indistinguishable from actual reality and the objects around you felt very real? The main reason why we feel some dreams can be real is due to the brain’s mental representation that re-creates our interpretation of reality as we sleep. Negativity disturbances in the flow of our mind are what we subconsciously use to keep track of time as it passes. Since an experience of a negative situation would contain many disturbances to the mind, we would perceive the movement of time in negative experiences as moving very slow as compared to those in positive experiences. Time passes very slow when we are experiencing something we deem as negative and threatening and time is forgotten when we experience something very pleasant and unthreatening. Change is constant as energy travels or changes form. Forms of energy in the natural system have their unique positive and negative qualities to affect other forms of energy as well as to be affected by them in different magnitudes. This gives them their qualities to balance or imbalance other forms of energy. The dual opposing forces of Positivity and Negativity have manifested into many forms in reality. The human mind is one of the forms of energy in reality that often clearly displays the rich characteristics of the positive and negative forces. Much of the dual forces and reality is understood by understanding the mind and its emotions.

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Balance
To gain balance is to gain positive and negative energies in the right amounts. Since nature requires balance to sustain itself, we can observe balance in many areas in reality. We practice balance in our lives by doing our favorite activities such as listening to music and singing to remove tension and restore balance to our emotions. Since pleasant music is made of positive flow, it is very effective to countering negative tension. We like to listen to uplifting music when we are depressed and feeling negative. The positive flow of our favorite songs provides balance by resolving the negative blockages in our minds. Sports are popular activities that give the individual the chance to restore the positive flow in his body and mind. Food preparation or cooking are said to have therapeutic effects because it helps the person to focus on enhancing a positive flow of thought by focusing on the instructions in recipes (My recipe on vegan pancakes can be found online). Even the need for balance is present in the person asking the meaning of life question, he hopes to seek balance from his curiosity by finding answers to gain closure. People sometimes feel that resolving whichever personal imbalances is their main direction in life. Maintaining balance in our lives is very important. If we disregard the balance of our bodily requirements such a, hunger and thirst, we would lose our existence very quickly.

What is Meaning or Purpose?

The dynamics of nature through cause and effect work to instill balance in the universe. When we question the characteristics of any specific active or dormant form of energy in the universe, we are actually asking how it can affect or be affected by other energies, in playing its role for nature's need for balance in the universe. Balance is crucial in nature and for Man. Without good balance in body and mind, a person would quickly lose his life and mind. Balance is crucial for survival. The meaning or purpose of a form of energy can be discovered by examining how it’s positive and negative qualities work together to balance or imbalance other energies. And finding out what other forms of energies it can affect or be affected by, will give it its real-life meaning or purpose. Meaning or purpose have subjective qualities to them. This is because the mind’s perception of meaning or purpose is affected positively and negatively. A person with a positive perception would recognize more of an object’s positive purposes while a person with a negative perception would recognize more of an object’s negative purposes. People often feel that tasks are meaningless if they do not lead to positivity. They often steer away from meaningless tasks as they do not promote the freedom of their identity. People give us more respect when we wear functional clothes that makes us seem to have more purpose and importance. We thus feel more confident. Any form of fast or dormant forms of energy has its own crucial role for balance in the universe. The living and non-living things on our planet’s ecosystem provide us with the balance that we require to sustain our existence. We built tools to

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assist us in survival, to give us the balance between comfort and suffering. Man is a balancing agent. Many objects in our world have their own designated purpose when they were created to assist us. However, the purpose of man’s existence in this reality has been the mystery that plagued the minds of countless people throughout humanity. If dormant forms of energy that is matter have their own role in balance in the physical universe, then what is the balancing role of man and his existence? What is the real meaning and purpose of his life? To understand the meaning of life question, we have to understand what human life is.

What is Human Life?

Any form of matter is but a dormant form of energy. The body of man is also a dormant form of energy. It renews its body through cell renewal. A living body replenishes itself with energy through the consumption of food in order to sustain its own dormant energy state. It does this to prevent its own disintegration of bodily cells that can change and reduce its dormant energy state into more basic energy states such as water and carbon, thereby destroying its created purpose it had when it was still alive. The life of Man is different from lower forms of life such as plants. Man has the ability to be self-aware, to be conscious of his reality. Man’s high-level consciousness ability to interpret his reality makes him very different from lower life forms. It allows him the intelligence to adapt to changes in his environment and to overcome threats to his survival. Consciousness is therefore the core of human life and distinguishes him from other lower life forms.

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Now that the explanations of meaning, purpose and human life have been covered, the answer to the question of what is the meaning of life can be formulated by re-examining individual word meanings of the meaning of life question.

What is the meaning of life?
The inclusion of ‘the’ in the ultimate question implies an ultimate value. Meaning or purpose of something is known from how it can affect or be affected by other energies in playing its role for nature's need for balance in the universe. Life as in human life has the fundamental ability of high-level consciousness, which allows a person to interpret reality and adapt to it. Therefore, when we ask what is the meaning or purpose of life, we are asking what is the fundamental, ultimate balance or imbalance that would lie in a living being with the ability to interpret Reality. The fundamental, ultimate imbalance that lies in a human being comes from his consciousness ability that is the core of human life. The crucial innate desire of his consciousness ability to interpret and understand the nature of reality contains the fundamental and ultimate imbalance of his life. Although meanings or purposes is subjected to the positive and negative perception of people to hold positive and negative meanings or purposes, the consciousness mechanism has an objective purpose, which is to interpret reality from its positive and negative qualities. Fundamental and ultimate desires or tasks require similarly fundamental and ultimate knowledge and understanding to fulfill them. Resolving a fundamental and ultimate imbalance from such a crucial innate desire to interpret and understand

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the nature of reality would give him the fundamental and ultimate meaning or purpose of his existence. Suffering is to experience many blockages in the flow of the mind and body that restricts a person to live his life. Sufferings are often caused by ignorance of the nature of reality. It results in the mind seeking out ways to restore balance and peace of mind, which is the basis for desire, motivation and temptation to occur. The most effective ways for a person to find balance and peace would be to understand the nature of reality. The more one understands something, the more he would be able to understand how it works and use such knowledge to his benefit. Fulfilling the meaning of life by understanding the nature of reality would prevent a person from facing many problems of life. It would also reduce a lot of suffering and bring great peace. As a person gains the understanding of the nature of reality, he would be able to understand much of how it works and he would be in more control of how it affects him as well as how he affects it. Positive people who naturally bring positivity to people would naturally assist others in such understanding. The ultimate motivation for fulfilling the meaning of life would therefore come from reducing ignorance and suffering for oneself as well as for others.

Is the answer to the meaning of life so simple?
Perhaps you would doubt whether the meaning of life can be known so easily, with an answer that does not provide the kind of dramatic effect anticipated for knowing such an ultimate question of life. Sometimes the mystery to an ultimate question can carry a very fundamental answer. It is ultimately up to one’s positive or negative perception to believe anything. Knowing the answer to a greatly desired question is not the end, the real difficulty of the answer lies in giving up unnecessary complexity and taking up simplicity for an ultimate purpose of life.

What can be achieved by seeking The Meaning of Life?

Very much of human suffering is caused by Man’s ignorance of the nature of reality. The ignorance of how nature and reality function causes him to be kept in mystery of why things happen the way they are. The lack of reason and understanding causes him to be too affected emotionally. In addition, he displaces such negative emotions into the world and causes suffering to others as well as to himself. If the fundamental and ultimate purpose of Man’s existence is seek for the goal of its fulfillment, much suffering that is caused by the ignorance of the nature of reality can be resolved and prevented from occurring. The world would be a much more understanding and peaceful place. Through the understanding of how nature and reality function, Man would be able to better navigate through reality and avoid many of the obstacles that plague him. Having a deep understanding of the nature of reality would give a person resolution of many of life’s mysteries. He would also not be so affected and disturbed by many of the Unknowns that arise from his consciousness. His negative perceptions would be straighter. Mundane desires and their resolutions would then be perceived as superficial and simplistic ways to resolve imbalances that comes from the ignorance of the nature of reality. The person would then be able to detach and separate himself from the mundane desires of life. Seeking and fulfilling the meaning of life at a very deep level may give one a sense of a spiritual or religious experience. The existence in the present reality may seem too mundane and superficial for one’s state of understanding or enlightenment and one seeks to attain to a higher reality for a more fulfilling existence. This makes life similar to being a game. If one can understand the nature of reality, he would be able to overcome or ‘win’ over many of the obstacles.

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The ultimate understanding of the nature of reality would lead to many possibilities. The ultimate achievement that one can gain from life is ultimately limited by his beliefs. If he believes in an existence after his current one, then he may believe that his ‘soul’ can leave this dimension and ascend to a higher dimension by gaining an ultimate understanding of reality and detaching himself from it. However, this view is not totally influenced by religion. Science has already stated the possibility of many other dimensions possible for existence. Therefore, views that used to seem spiritual and supernatural to us may after all be more natural than we think. There are many paths in the journey of life. Which path a person chooses to take is ultimately up to his own specific need for balance, and what he believes to be possible.

What is the meaning of one’s life?

Many people who ask about the meaning of life often got confused by asking the meaning of life with the meaning of their own personal life. One question is asking about the ultimate purpose of human existence while the other question is asking about the specific role of balance a human being plays in his real-life environment. Many people feel that what they want in life is to be happy, comfortable, and do enjoyable and fulfilling tasks. Therefore, people desire to find love, obtain material wealth, seek pleasure and get their dream jobs. However, these basic and somewhat mundane desires do not carry the ultimate meaning or purpose of life. They usually require immediate and not ultimate resolution as fulfilling the meaning of life does. The meaning of one’s life is the specific kind of balance or imbalance that one can play in real-life, based on abilities or disabilities. A person can find or give his life meaning and purpose by studying reality and understanding the specific kinds of personal or social imbalances he feels inclined to resolve. Tasks that seem mundane or meaningless can have new meaning or purpose if they are perceived as contributing towards fulfilling greater meaning or purpose in one’s life. When we encounter a situation of disaster where the victims are experiencing great negativity in suffering, we could feel instinctively motivated to correct the negative imbalance in people’s suffering by providing positive actions to alleviate it. People who do volunteer or charity work feel the need to correct the negativity felt in disabled or needy people. They get a sense of happiness or fulfillment doing it. We care for people because we want to preserve their positivity and prevent them from experiencing negative experiences. Many people feel that the sense of loving others and preserving their positivity gives them the motivation and meaning to life.

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People can choose to resolve imbalances from their own capacity or from the choice of occupations, and seek to resolve them. Doing so allows the person to discover the identity and the self. If a person seeks to understand the nature of reality, it would assist him in resolving his own personal meanings of life, or may even allow him to recognize their superficial mundane quality and give up desiring after them. Many people feel that life is meaningless or purposeless if they are forced to conform to other people’s expectations of them. This constricts their personal freedom to express their own life’s purpose, causes their desires to be unfulfilled and brings great conflict, frustration and sadness. Many people quickly lose their meaning of life upon fulfilling certain goals they have set for themselves. They then ask what else is there to life after they have accomplished them. They feel lost of what to do because they have resolved an imbalance that also fulfilled their desire and motivation. They then feel that life is empty and meaningless when they could not find other imbalances to resolve. Since people are affected differently and in different degrees by different types of negativity, their manifested desires from resolving imbalance are also different. This is the reason why people have vastly different tastes in songs, food or hobbies. Some people are easily contented with resolving simple things in life while others are contented by resolving complex imbalances.

Personal imbalances affect occupation choice
Every person is exposed to different types of imbalances in their own lives. Sometimes such experience of encountering imbalances provides the inspiration for a person to select what he wants to do in his occupation later on in life. We look up to certain famous role models in our lives because of the great contribution they have brought to society, which resulted in resolving many imbalances. People who have won Nobel prizes are those who have made such great contributions. Many people hope to model such great people by accomplishing something positively great in their lives that can resolve some great kind of imbalance to themselves or to others. What do people hope to be when they grow up from their childhood? Some people want to be doctors to heal others because they have experienced the negative effects of health problems and they hope to correct such negative imbalances in

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their future. Some people hope to become law enforcers so that they can resolve injustice. Different occupations require different kinds of balance to be resolved. When I was young, I wanted to be a great psychologist so that I could resolve many of the world’s greatest problems. Those who have fulfilled their own need for balance would naturally help others gain theirs. If we are affected by the imbalance faced by needy people, we may choose to do volunteer work in our free time. Sometimes the kind of balance we wish to restore conflicts with our limitations such as time or money, or people’s expectations of us. Therefore, the path to restoring balance is faced with many obstacles to overcome.

Why do people mess up their lives?

The lack of a good answer to the meaning of life question left many people feel that life has little or no meaning. Such a lack of direction in people’s lives made them feel confused and hopeless. Some people chose to end their lives due to their accumulated misery, others chose to continue leading their lives as comfortably or as freely as they can. Sometimes such freedom of behavior can lead to negative consequences. Nowadays, many teenagers do not feel that conforming to their parents’ expectations of them gives them great fulfillment in their lives. They try to seek outlets they can escape to gaining their own freedom of identity and to discover more of themselves and the world. Many teenagers are often quite clueless about their own purpose in life therefore the common alternative of not being lost in their life’s direction is to follow popular social norms of what people their age often do in terms of behavior, fashion and lifestyle. Since pleasure and happiness feelings takes a person away from negative emotions, pleasure and happiness has become one of the most popular and sought after goals in life. Personal desires of pleasure and happiness have become so important to people that they have sometimes been mistaken as the fundamental ultimate meaning or purpose of life. Since many people did not know what direction to take or what to do with their lives, they feel that their lives’ direction come from doing things that feel natural to them, which is to seek pleasure and happiness in whichever positive or negative ways they are accustomed or influenced to. Some people feel that volunteering their time for good social causes gives them great satisfaction and fulfillment. Others feel that seeking bodily pleasure in the form of alcohol, drug or sex abuse takes away their negative feelings and makes
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them feel better. Some even feel that doing bad things gives them the release of negativity that they so needed. In the lack of knowing the meaning or purpose of life, people do what they know in order to seek some sort of a direction in their lives, whether it may lead to positive or negative consequences. People often mess up their lives out of frustration in understanding their lives’ direction. They are caught in releasing their negativity instead of resolving them and these usually get them caught up in endless self-destructive cycles of addictions that can ruin their lives.

Hints of The Meaning of Life from Religion

Many religious people believe that the meaning of life comes from religion. Buddhism preaches to do good and minimize suffering, overcome our karma of negativity, gain nirvana and end the need for reincarnations. It teaches concepts of losing desires of material obsession to gain happiness. It teaches detachment of false happiness from lavish materials. It is also taught that holding onto the negative flow of desires brings suffering. To have many unneeded desires is to hold onto pain and suffering. Christianity teaches similar ideas of doing good so that a person can enter the kingdom of heaven. It teaches that man is born out of sin, sin being another term for negativity. Both religions have great emphasis on the concept of duality, yin and yang, the male and female, light and darkness, good and evil. They are similar in the sense that both of them list positivity as the necessary value in the path of life.

Wide interpretation of religion
Since the interpretation of religious teachings is open to positive and negative interpretations by positive and negative people, religion can be used to promote positive good will or twisted to promote negative hatred. People can have a good picture of religion if they view it positively with an open mind or view it negatively if they associate it with negativity. The teachings of religion can be interpreted based on people’s varying levels of understanding. Therefore, religious teachings are interpreted literally or metaphorically. I personally do not believe in any religion that truly promotes negativity. Any religion which does this is not worthy of being a religion.

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Why do bad things happen to good people?
Many people do not follow religion and believe in a higher intelligence because they question why bad things can happen to good people. They also find no purpose in their lives and they have experienced “unfair” negativity in the form of suffering. The reason bad things can happen to good people is due to the presence of negativity in the world that affects people. Many good people can be affected by bad circumstance if the amount of negativity in the world becomes too rampant and too much for them to handle. However, the presence of negativity presents the opportunity for people to resolve them, and understand the nature of reality and fulfill the meaning of life. Perhaps a higher intelligence does not intervene in negative situations that require man himself to face and resolve. A well-known example of how negativity could co-exist with positivity in religion is the many cases where priests physically take advantage of young children. Their negative distorted perception of gaining positivity from children is not resolved. In the Bible, taking out the plank in one’s eye refers to the removal of negativity that clouds a person’s judgment.

Positivity and Negativity in the Bible
Christian theology uses the method of typology for the interpretation of the Bible. Various forms of negativity are mentioned in the Bible as sin, and we are said to be born out of sin by the Bible. Since every person has committed some form of negative actions, it is accurate to say that we have all sinned and we should repent from negative ways into positive ones. In the Bible, having faith is to perceive positively. Various allegories are present in the Bible. For example in the book of Genesis, there is a Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil. Good and evil corresponds to the values of positivity and negativity. When Eve was tempted by Satan to eat the fruit from the tree, she gained the ability to perceive positivity and negativity. This gave her the ability of consciousness, to interpret reality. People who perceive very negatively in the Bible are described as being blind and having hardened hearts. Also in the book of Genesis, Lot’s wife turned into a pillar of salt because she turned back to look at the sinful cities of Sodom and Gomorrah as they were being destroyed. In Chinese Feng Shui, salt is used to absorb the negative vibra-

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tions in the house. Sin that is mentioned in the Bible are actions done with negativity, therefore for a person to have sinned is to have fallen into negativity. Based on my understanding, I think Lot’s wife turning into a pillar of salt was an allegory for representing the absorption of negativity that prevents a person from moving away from it. The people of the two cities wanted to have sex with the visiting angels in Lot’s home as a perverted way to gain their positivity. The narrow perception of negative people is shown by how Jesus was accused of being a glutton and drunkard in addition to being evil. Jesus described the negativity of the Pharisees that can spread like yeast in bread. Good and evil deeds of man are represented as the good fruits borne of good trees and bad fruits borne of corrupted trees. Jesus is the symbol of positivity in the Bible. In the Book of Romans in the Bible, the characteristics of temptation are clearly explained. It is written that the person is dragged away and enticed by his own evil desire. Evil desire is the person’s negative form of resolving his mind’s imbalance caused by negativity. Desire then leads to sin, sin representing negative actions. The distorting ability of temptation does not come from external source but from the person’s own weakness to allow negativity to affect him.

The Bible mentions the purpose of life
From the New Testament of the Bible, the Christian’s purpose of life is quite clearly stated. Jesus said that unless Man change and become like children, he would not be able to enter the kingdom of heaven. Children are the symbol of great positivity as Jesus also is. This is why corrupting children with negativity is strongly warned against. Unless people can adopt a positive nature of perception like children do, they would not be able to go to heaven carrying great negativity. Heaven and hell in the Bible represents places of positivity and negativity. It is therefore logical to say that only positive people are suitable to go to heaven and negative people to hell. In the book of Romans, people are instructed to put away darkness and to put on an armor of light, light representing positivity. People are also instructed not to take revenge that is to overcome evil with evil, but to overcome the caging negativity of evil with positive freedom. People feel angry enough to take revenge because they get affected by negativity and they desire to resolve the imbalance by performing their own sense of justice in revenge.

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We all seek balance in the different things we do. If there is a higher intelligence that judges our actions, then it would be based on how we seek balance in our different ways, whether they are seeked positively or negatively. Jesus also said that it would be difficult for a rich man to enter the kingdom of heaven. My interpretation of this is not that all rich people with lots of money would find it difficult to enter heaven rather it is the obsession of finding happiness in materials or from pleasure that distorts a person with negativity and prevents him from realizing the true immaterial nature of positivity. If a person mistakes the nature of happiness and does not recognize positivity as an immaterial form, his perception would not lead him to a place of positivity. Therefore, Jesus was not actually asking the man with many materials to give them up but to change his perception of where to seek positivity. The Bible tells its listeners to purify themselves, of what I believe is the negativity in a person’s mind. In the book of Revelation, people are reminded to remember their first love, their first state of mind when they were younger perhaps as a child, when they were experiencing the world in a positive light. Almost every child has been asked the question of what he wishes to be when he grows up. The usual answer is the different kind of well-meaning occupations that can satisfy the child’s need to restore the necessary balance in his own life or in the world of negativity. I believe the path to salvation as mentioned in the bible refers to the saving of people from the negativities in the world. If there is a second coming of a messiah who is the savior, then he should possess such ability.

Can Morality exist without Religion?

Philosophy has wide-ranging discussions on morals and ethics. One of its discussions is why should a person choose to be good rather than being evil. To be good or to be evil depends on a person’s perception and respective embodiment of positivity and negativity qualities. A person is good or evil based on the positive or negative flow of his mind, whether it promotes positivity or negativity. A positive person who practices positivity would get positive effects in return. A negative person who practices negativity would get negative results in return. The positive person would be able to resolve his own imbalances and gain happiness. The negative person would be distorted by his own negativity and be led in circles to seek the balance he desires. Therefore being good or evil would clearly have its respective benefits and disbenefits. People may think that if they commit something negative, they can get away with the effects. However, every cause has an effect. The putting out of negativity by a negative person is caused by the negativity in his mind and further practices of unresolved negativity would eventually lead to deeper falseness. The balance and peace he desires will be further from his grasp. The negative person is also constantly living in mental pain and suffering caused by the negativity plaguing his mind. The continual practice of negativity would eventually result in fatal negative repercussions. People who hold onto lots of negativity may eventually lose control of their minds and identity due to the immense negative blockages. Why should a person choose good over evil and be moral? It is because the person who chooses positivity would be able to gain the peace and balance that he seeks. Is it right to do something just because it feels natural doing it? Negativity and positivity are both equally natural forces present in reality. Therefore, it is not entirely justifiable to say that a person can do any negative action to correct the imbalance of his urge. Sometimes people do things to remove their emotional
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imbalance instead of resolving the real cause of their desires. An action done based on gaining personal balance has to be carefully considered whether it would bring positive or negative re-enforcements towards gaining true positivity of the mind. We do not need to base the definition of what is good or evil from Religion; it is possible to realize it ourselves. The dynamics of positivity and negativity are present in reality. Every religious or atheist person seeks peace and balance and he can choose to practice positive goodness to fulfill his meaning of life whether or not a higher intelligence exists to him.

Asking the ‘What if?’ guilt question

Asking the dreaded “what if” guilt question has been one of the most powerful obstructions for a person to move on from negativity. The “what if” question has often been used in self-blaming to question the self of why a person or someone else did something that caused a negative consequence or did not do something in another way that could have avoided a negative consequence. Some self-blamers even wish that they could go back in time and change a past event to alter their present circumstance. They hope to use the knowledge and understanding that they possess in the present, which they did not possess in the past, to go back in time and avoid the negative event in their past, so that their present circumstance could be in a better state. The person experiences guilt when he realizes in the present that he has done some past action based on previous wrong judgment. He feels guilt and performs self-destructing cycles of self-blame because he does not understand why he did something that is so clearly negative in his present perception? Guilt is an emotion that is caused if one does not realize that bad judgment is caused by the negativity that was distorting and clouding one’s judgment in the time of error but since has been cleared by present positivity. We commit mistakes from time to time because of the negativity that clouds and distorts our consciousness. People often ask why a past event did not go the way that they desire, or ask, “Why did I do something like that?” Events that resulted in negative consequences already contain negativity that affected a person from making the right judgment, or obstructing him from receiving the knowledge to avoid a negative consequence.

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Past realities cannot be changed. Therefore, it is only reasonable if the person would stop trapping himself in the negativity of guilt and self-blame. He should learn from his mistake and move on with the purpose of his life. He should courageously face and overcome new negativities with the understanding he has gained from experiences. Just as being trapped in past negativity is not enough for a person to handle, there is also the possibility of being trapped from the future. A person who is trying to move on from experiences of negativity may doubt his worthiness in receiving positivity from new positive experiences. He would doubt whether he is “good” or positively capable enough to integrate and blend into a new positive life full of positive people. The doubt comes from a negative perception. This is the reason why negative experiences present great challenges to overcome. I am sure many of us have wished that our lives could have been perfect and negativity was kept away from affecting us. We wish that we were not deceived by negative people or practiced negativity on others. However, this is again going back to fantasizing of a “what if” scenario that prevents one from facing up to reality in the present. The world is not perfect and neither are the people living in it. What we did in the past was based on what we thought could provide us with happiness at the time, however we now know better. The imbalance in the world is not going to get any better if we keep on wishing for things to change without putting in effort. We cannot change the past but we can change the future by resolving negativity with positivity.

Having the will to live vs. Death

Many people commit suicide when they feel that their life circumstance or just life in general has become too miserable for them to continue living. They get disappointed at Reality because they do not understand it well. Many of them become depressed and feel that there is no more meaning or purpose in existing in such heavy negativity when they can take the easy way out by ending their experiencing of life. There are many reasons why people commit suicide. A few of these reasons include victims of bullies, poverty, relationship failures, depression, lack of living purpose etc Many suicide victims are often too affected by their negatively distorted perception to consider the meaning of life. They do not consider the positive contributions they can still offer to others but are too trapped in their feelings of negative emotions. Overcoming negativity to achieve positivity is crucial to achieving balance. However, if people who intend to take their lives are too caught up in their feelings of negativity, they would not find the strength to understand the negativity they are facing to realize that there is still meaning to life. We have heard of folklores that people who take their own lives cannot ascend to Heaven. The reason might be that they carry great negativity from their intended self-destruction. The same goes for people who curse others and wish them harm. The person who wants to take his own life has to carefully consider whether he wants to continue fulfilling his meaning of life or to put an end to such a purpose. We should not determine the continuity of our lives just because we have experienced something of great negativity that has fallen upon us. Sometimes it is the presence of negativity in a person’s life that offers him the chance to resolve it and allow him to better understand the nature of reality and fulfill the meaning of life.

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Every person faces his own type of negativity and seeks the required balance. Since we live in a world of duality, negativity can be resolved by its opposite positivity. Every person facing great negativity would always be able to find the positivity needed for balance, as long as there is the patience and will to find it. The reason we all choose to continue our living existence is because we have positive hope in life. I don’t think there is much meaning in life if there is only negativity in store for every person’s future. If a person has such positivity in the form of faith or hope as encouragement to continue living, then the negativity he faces will not be strong enough to distort his perception enough for him to take his own life. A person has to be facing lots of negativity, lack of positivity or meaninglessness in his life in order to be considering suicide. If a person successfully commits suicide, it would prove that he has been influenced by the negativity around him and unable to resolve them with a positive perception. If a person chooses not to commit suicide, it would mean that he still holds on to positivity and it has neutralized the thought of committing a negative action. Positivity in the form of faith or hope is the value that prevents us from giving up our lives every time we face a negative situation. Why continue to live on and face negativity when we can simply escape and give up our lives? We continue to live on because positivity gives us the hope and motivational strength to live on and the courage to face future negativity. Loving people can be a great motivation for living because we gain positivity from loving others that can overcome our negativity and bring us happiness. And the need to preserve their positivity gives us the reason to continue living. We also choose to live our lives in our quest to understand the nature of our reality and to fulfill life’s ultimate imbalance that would give us ultimate meaning or purpose.

Positive and Negative people

Great understanding of nature and reality is required for people to remain positive in their thinking. A positive person is able to resolve negative unknowns that can lead to negative emotions. Negative people do not understand nature and reality as well as positive people do, their great confusion about it often leads to their negative and erratic emotions. People can be separated into two groups based on the positive and negative qualities they possess in order to be seen as being overly positive or overly negative. Positive people are logical, reasonable, optimistic and respectful of others, since they follow the laws of reality and recognize people’s good qualities in order to respect them. It is in their positive nature to be kind and generous. Respectful behavior and sensitivity towards others can be observed especially in many Japanese people who possess great positivity. The qualities of positive people bring out the positive qualities of others and attract the making of friends. This is also the reason why we usually look for people with positive qualities when we need help. A person who can resolve many of society's imbalances is well respected for his strong positive qualities. Negative people are often illogical, unreasonable and disrespectful of others. And they often assume negatively of people's intentions, whether or not that would be the case. They often disregard the laws of nature and reality, disregard people’s good qualities to respect and make up their own rules to follow. They are negative because they were affected by others’ negativity but did not know how to handle it, thus they become negative. They are also easily affected by negativity. They are too restricted by their own negativity in order to help others; they are the ones who need the help to resolve their own negativity. Whereas positive people liberate others from negativity, it is in the nature of negative people to restrict the freedom of people by getting in their way such as jumping queues, gaining resources from others and in other uncivilized anti-social behaviors. They do so in their desperation to regain a positive flow in their identity. This makes them
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self-conscious and selfish. They feel natural to emit negativity from their identity and gain control over people by restricting their identities with negativity. They also feel natural to gain negativity from the foods or drinks they consume, or from negative activities. They often treat others as dumping ground to release their negativity. These thus give them the qualities of being evil. These qualities of negative people bring out negative qualities of people and cause others to avoid them like the plague. The force of negativity can cloud and distort judgment and cause people to displace logic and original meaning. The flow of positivity is not a trapping force as negativity is. Negativity is clearly observed in negative emotions such as sadness, depression, anger, hatred, which traps the flow of positivity in a person. Too much negativity in the mind and body causes pain. Negativity causes one to feel stress. Since people do not like to feel negative or be trapped by such emotions in order to feel freedom of their identity, negativity have often been used by negative people to intimidate others to get what they want. This is the reason negative people often appear fierce and intimidating. Negative people do not understand negativity enough to resolve it. They often displace their negativity in the form of negative emotions onto other people. Laughter releases negativity, which is why negative people often like to laugh as they gain pleasure at others’ misfortunes. While displacing such negative blockages in their system onto other people such as bullies may feel positively “good” to them, the people who receive such negativity would feel “bad” and suffer for it. Many negative people often hold great negativity in their speech and behavior. Having freedom of speech does not justify a person to shower others with negativity such as rudeness or sarcasm in speech. Even if what a person says is true, the way it is brought out is an important factor whether people would listen or shun away. Views can be positively constructive or being overly negative and faultfinding. If there is the intention is to bring out people’s negative qualities and to denigrate them, then such views can be seen as being negatively personal. There are proper ways of doing or saying things in people interactions and nobody likes to be faced with other people’s negative attitude. It is therefore important for people to express themselves in a positive manner and not be deemed difficult or negative.

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There can be times when negative people temporarily fake the appearance of being positive such as being kind, generous or cheerful. Very often, these are false appearances staged to manipulate other people to get things that they selfishly want, often at the expense of others. These negative hypocrites can appear differently to different people, based on their specific agendas they want to achieve at different times. These are the reasons why we do not like the qualities of negative people and why we avoid them like the plague. However, we should be understanding by putting ourselves in their shoes.

Negativity in bullies

I feel the reason why bullying is such a big problem is because the act of traumatizing fellow classmates has been used as a outlet to release the negativity stored up in young bullies. Bullies often make fun of their victims in order to gain more control of reality and to boost the freedom of their identity. They do so by restricting their victims’ freedom of identity by inflicting negativity onto them. Bullies with negative perception usually find faults with people in order to use such reasons as justification to ‘punish’ others. Japan has such serious problems of bullying in schools that many victims of bullies end up taking their own lives. Victims of bullies often internalize the negativity put out by bullies and suffer from the strong negativity. Resolving the problem of bullies has to start by helping bullies resolve their negativity instead of releasing it. Bullies who do not resolve their negative behavior continue their negative release onto others when they leave school. Due to differences of self-expression in cultures, there are distinct ways in how victims of bullies handle their situation in the countries of Japan and the United States. Many bully victims in Japan seek escapism from suicide because they could not handle such negativity from bullies whereas the victims of bullies in the United States have killed their tormentors to physically remove the negativity source. Such negative aggression of bullies could have been accumulated from the negativity they experienced from home, from parents who torment their children with negativity. The home is where children are heavily influenced. If parents displace the negativity they received from work or from marital stress onto their child, the child would be conditioned into releasing negativity from his behavior in school. Negative people such as bullies would often pick on people who are suited to receiving their outpouring of negativity, they feel that if their victim is more affected by their negativity, it would seem like they have released more of their
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negativity and feel more in control of people and reality. They often choose people who do not display negative behavior or would retaliate by returning back more negativity. Naturally, bullies would pick on easy targets that could facilitate their release of negativity easily. Negative people are full of negativity and their emotions are erratic. They are sensitive to receiving negativity and would find any opportunity to release their heavy burden of negativity unto others. Bullies are among the negative people who displace their negativity onto others because they seek to release negativity they stored in their minds to restore balance. Even negative people are seeking the peace of a positive flow of mind. They release their negativity onto others because it is the only way they know how to deal with negativity. And they only know how to deal with their own negativity by releasing it to others through negative behavior. Positive people know how to deal with negativity by not being affected by the negative flow displayed in negative people’s behavior towards them. They recognize other people’s negativity and do not allow the peaceful flow of their mind to be disordered by it. They use positive reasoning to understand negative people’s bad behavior and steer clear away from them as much as possible. Teaching young kids to handle bullies would be a challenge because negative flow is not something that can be easily dealt with by a young inexperienced mind. It requires cooperation from school psychologists, parents, older senior schoolmates and the classmates of bullies to correct the behavior of a bully.

Stalking and preserving Positivity

Stalking positivity
The stalker problem is a problem in society. Stalking after a person is to be obsessed after the positive qualities of a person. We usually look up to positive people who display positive qualities that we could want for ourselves. Positivity is a quality that people value and is something many people are always searching to gain. This act of looking for positivity is obvious in people who admire attractive people. Stalkers personify the qualities of positivity onto a person, and think that being in close proximity with someone positive would bring them the positive qualities they desire, in order to experience positive feelings of identity and happiness. Sometimes they mimic what their idols do in order to have a sense of his or her identity. Stalking is the more extreme form of people-watching, where people are observed for their positive qualities. Like all other people, stalkers value positivity, however they are usually too caught up in their obsession to gain positive flow of identity and fail to recognize how they are displacing the real sources of positivity. People who molest others’ bodies do so in order to gain their positivity through touch. It is a great error to mistake positivity as something that can be readily taken or received like a gift. Positivity is found in the flow of the mind and obstructing that flow would result in a negative flow. In order to truly gain positivity, a person must resolve his own negative blockages in his mind to create his own positivity in his identity.

The preservation of positivity in society
Positivity is not a quality that can be given or taken by demand. Children are the symbol of great positivity in any society. We usually feel disturbed when we hear in the news that children have been mistreated, because we find the restriction of positivity by great negativity to be an injustice. Many societies in the world con32

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demn child violence and child sex abuse. The strong reaction of the public towards such acts is based on viewing the corruption of positivity with negativity to be unjustified and unethical. In societies around the world, underage people such as adolescents and children are prohibited to be exposed to adult-oriented material such as films, bad language, drugs, cigarettes and alcohol. Such negativity that adults can handle physically and psychologically is deemed unsuitable for young innocent and positive minds. Preservation of children’s innocent positive minds are of utmost concern seriously enough to warrant the flouting of the rule to be punished with legal action in many parts of the world. Children are the symbol of positivity in international cultures and adults do not wish them to be overexposed to negativity.

How are people good or evil?

How much positivity or negativity that is within a person’s consciousness depends on how well he balances negativity with his innate positivity by resolving them through understanding, which would determine whether he promotes positive or negative flow. This would determine whether he is good or evil. If a person balances negativity and positivity well, he would achieve a peacefully balanced and pleasant personality. Such a positive personality would also promote positive flow of freedom in others. Otherwise, he would have a personality overflowing with unresolved negativity that promotes conflict and negativity in others. A person who traumatizes others with too much negativity that traps the freedom of their identity would be deemed evil. A person who helps others by liberating them from their negativity would be deemed as good. Change is constant in the universe so are people. Some people are seemingly negative because they have been affected by little positivity in their lives. There are also seemingly good people who seem positive because they have yet to be affected by negativity. There is a possibility of negative people turning good as they learn to overcome their negativity by thinking positively. Similarly, positive people can become negative if they cannot handle negativity in bad situations. Sometimes the true nature of a person is yet to be realized until they are tested by reality. A person’s identity or character changes through time as he is affected by new kinds of imbalances. His identity would then react to such new imbalances and adapt to deal with the new kinds of negative and positive qualities. As people overcome new types of challenges in their lives, their perception of reality also widens and changes.

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Positive Emotions

Positive emotions are caused by positive flow and negative emotions are caused by the blockages of negativity, due to blockages in logic and reasoning. Negative emotions are caused by negative blockages leading to an imbalance in the understanding of reality. Lots of negative blockages in the flow of mind cause physical pain and suffering. People can also be influenced to feel positive or negative emotions if they allow other people’s positive or negative flow of thought to affect their own. Emotions can change with the increase of positivity and negativity. Fear can turn to phobias, joy can turn to ecstasy. Whether positive or negative emotions would emerge in our consciousness depends on how our minds balance positive and negative influences. Our emotions are what spurs and motivates our actions. If we hold on to great negativity in our thoughts, it would manifest into negative actions and behavior. If the negative thoughts are resolved, we would gain understanding of it. To experience positive emotions and the positive flow of identity is important because it is the basis of good mental health. Just as the body requires positive flow, the mind also requires it. Here are some explanations of positive emotions based from the perspective of positivity and negativity.

Smiling
Smiling is a common positive emotion. We smile because of the overflow of positive freedom in our identity that stimulates the Central Nervous System of our body that makes us smile.

Laughing
The act of laughing is to release the sudden surge of positivity in one’s mind. In comedies, actors can be seen as funny if they display over-exaggerated positive
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flow of their identity in the dealing with seemingly small and mundane negative problems. We can also laugh at others if we feel great boost of positivity and freedom to our identity in light of others’ misfortune with negativity that restricts the freedom of their identity. Such evil laughter is usually done by negative people who feel heightened in the suffering of others. Sometimes people laugh for no reason as the body’s reaction to remove negativity in their system.

Hope
To have hope is to have a positive perception towards the future, whatever might be in store for us. It is to dwell in the positive strength of understanding that can help us overcome any negative situation we might face in the future.

Trust
We trust people with hope because we understand that they would not commit negative actions. Trust is not possible with negative people, their negativity affects proper reasoning and behavior, therefore distrust and doubts about behavior would be plentiful.

What is Fear?

Fear is an emotion that consists of having a negative quality. To fear something is to recognize how a certain form of energy would be able to restrict and trap the flow of one’s identity. People’s fears vary as they recognize differently the negativity that can trap their identity in varying dormant energies. Intense negativity in fear blocks the positive flow of the mind and traps it within mental blockages like barriers, restricting mental and physical freedom. People do not like to fear because they value the positivity of mental freedom that brings out their own identity. If a person allows the trapping quality of negativity to affect him, he would be immensely trapped by his fears. As we become more conscious of negativity, their positivity-restricting strength increases. To fear is to be very conscious of negativity’s restricting effects on our positive flow of identity. Being too conscious of the effects will allow negativity to grip one’s positive flow of identity very tightly. Phobias and worries are formed when sufferers become overly conscious of their fears. If fear is to be overcome, courage in the form of positivity through reasoning and understanding of the specific form of negativity is needed to overcome it and restore positive flow of mind. We have to re-examine our fears and phobias to question whether or not they are legitimate or reasonable for us to be so fearful of them. Feeling the sensation of shock is a much shorter version of feeling fear. Shock is caused by the sudden exposure to the trappings of negativity. The flow of a person’s identity would temporarily freeze as it is temporarily blocked and trapped by large amounts of negativity and his mind would not be able to function in that short period of time.

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What is Anger and Hatred?

When a person’s positive flow of identity is trapped by negativity, he feels caged by such negative forces and cannot exert his freedom of identity and control. This causes the person to feel negative and experience suffering. If the person is able to understand the nature of his circumstance, he would be able to free himself from such suffering. If he continues to be affected by his misery and ignorance of his circumstance, he would feel lots of frustration as the negativity closes up his mind from clearly understanding reality and the reason for his circumstance. If the negativity causes him to displace his frustration onto the causes of his circumstance such as people or even a higher intelligence as a form of negativity release, the frustration in his close-up mind would turn into anger and hatred of others. He may seek revenge as a way to release his negativity by trapping other’s freedom of identity in order to punish them. He feels the justification in trapping others with negativity that has also trapped him in the past. He may also have very negative denigrating thoughts of them that can be expressed with words of swearing. Since anger consists of a negative quality, it is usually people with negative perception who often get angry. They become unreasonable when they overly perceived the negativity in situations or in people instead of looking at the bigger positive picture. They personify the negativity received and target a person for such a cause. We may get angry when people take advantage of our positive nature and bully us, because we feel we have become targeted outlets of people’s need for negativity release. When our freedom is threatened, we may become angry if we get affected by negativity and we might use the motivation from anger to resolve the cause of the threat to our freedom by returning negativity to the source as revenge, to regain the balance to our freedom.

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Negativity in the form of intimidation in anger is used to frighten and threaten people to give in to one’s way. Anger can be a great driving force because it is caused by the built-up of a person’s repressed desire for identity freedom. If the built-up negativity gets released into physical actions, it becomes actions of violence. Violent people are often the ones who personify negativity onto people. Physical violence such as murder is an act to physically remove negativity by targeting physical sources of negativity and ending the lives of people. The perception that negativity in people can be resolved by killing them is the main justification for War. However in such instances, negativity is only further displaced onto others and is not resolved.

Hatred
Hatred is the opposite of liking people. People who are able to like others are being positive in their perception to recognize the positive qualities in others. A person, who hates someone, has a negative closed perception and he only recognizes the negative qualities in the person he hates and overlooks all other possible positive qualities. Hatred would involve anger, which is the blaming of a hated person for the release of negativity. To resolve anger and hatred, one must be less affected by emotions and think more to understand cause and effect in Reality.

What is Happiness and how to find it?

Before we can understand ways to find happiness, we have to understand the meaning of happiness. Happiness involves positivity; the opposite of happiness is sadness that involves negativity. When we are happy, the Central Nervous System (CNS) of our body is positively stimulated and we have the feel-good feelings of being happy. We also receive the same feel-good feelings when we have exercised that cleared away the toxins and energy blockages in our body. We feel happy whenever we eat our favorite foods or do our favorite activities. People also display tears of joy when they release negativity, which gives them great feelings of ease and contentment. However, is being happy all about positively stimulating the CNS in our body? Some people feel that happiness is the feelings of satisfaction or fulfillment in the completion of a task. The real-life imbalance that affects the mind is resolved, leading to the feelings of satisfaction or fulfillment. To be happy, a certain condition has to be continuously present, which is positivity. A positive flow of identities has to be present in any situation in order for the people involved to feel the positive feelings of happiness. Therefore, the effect of the happiness feeling in people is the result of having a positive flow of identities. For positive flow of identities to exist in any situation, negativities have to be resolved. The positive feelings of happiness are gained while the negativity in the flow of the mind is being removed or resolved. To experience happiness is to also experience a feeling that is continuous. The feelings would end when the imbalance in the mind is fully resolved. To experience continuous happiness requires continual positivity to be achieved.

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Material happiness
A person’s desire for happiness may stem from expressing his freedom of identity by having what he feels he needs to fully express himself, whether it is money, a big house or a fast car. After a long while that his feelings of positivity has sufficiently boost his freedom of identity, he may lose the happiness feeling of using the objects. Such occurrences happen when people seek happiness from the possession of objects or people. They would then have to search for other negativities to resolve to experience feelings of happiness again. A person, who overly places the source of happiness in materials, may find such material sources of happiness moving from material to material as he gains them and then loses their interests. The desires of objects can move from one to another as we realize how one object can provide one with more positive freedom of identity than the others. It is not happiness that moves within materials, rather, it is our flawed perception that sees happiness as being storable in objects.

Negativity in perception prevents happiness
Whether a person is able to experience the feelings of happiness also depends on his perception to perceive the flow of positivity. This is similar to the idea of positive and negative thinking. If he thinks positively, he can perceive positive flow. If he is very negative in his perception, he would be full of negative thoughts. Negative people with lots of negativity obstructing their perception would find it difficult to find real happiness. This is because happiness is gained by overcoming negativity and restoring balance and flow to the mind. How do you change the perception of a negative person into a positive one? Negative people are generally very stubborn to expand their point of view since their negative ego would always negatively perceive that other people’s points of view are wrong. The only way for negative people to change their perception into a positive one is to allow their minds’ perception to be affected positively.

How to find true happiness
The key to finding true happiness is simple; the key is to resolve the real sources of negativity that we encounter in our daily lives. Once most of the negativity in our environment is resolved with positive understanding, we would experience the positive flow that is the basis of feeling happiness.

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What is fun?
The positive feelings gained from people’s favorite activities are the reason why they like doing them frequently. Anything deemed as ‘fun’ must be able to promote and strengthen the positive flow of the identity. Anything that is not fun restricts the flow of the identity. Hobbies bring out people’s flow of identity. This is why we ask people about their hobbies or interests in order to get to know them better.

Displacing true happiness
Many people concentrate on gaining the feelings of happiness and pleasure in their lives. However, feelings and emotions of the mind are like indicators of the quality of flow that is present. If we are too caught up in regulating the kind of flow that we desire in our feelings, we may neglect and overlook the real source of the imbalances. In the long term of such neglect, the true sources of our perceived negativity would remain unresolved and would keep coming back to affect us. People who displace the source of true happiness displace it to other sources such as money, materials and people. If a person experiences negativity and tries to resolve his negative imbalance from other areas such as gaining materials or money, he may become materialistic and money-hungry. People who are too extreme in seeking the comfort of people to balance out their negativity and feel happy may turn sexually promiscuous. A person who thinks that a certain material or person can bring him happiness would be devastated if such material or person is no longer available to provide positive feelings. The person would then feel lost at finding happiness. People who practice negativity displacing would continually experience negativity while they drift further away from the real source. Their perception would be influenced by negativity and distorted to perceive sources of happiness superficially. Physical or mental insecurities would be covered up by lavish and expensive materials. Such people who are obsessed in their escapism from negativity to seek happiness may go broke as they desperately spend every single cent they have to gain positivity.

What is Happiness and how to find it?

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Why being rich is not the sure way to happiness
Many people think that money is the gateway to happiness. Money can indeed resolve many negativities present in poverty that restricts freedom of identity. Money can prevent hunger, increase physical freedom, and buy beautiful clothes. It can buy materials that have the meaning of positivity associated with them that can bring the buyer some form of happiness. Many people focus on getting good grades so as to find ideal jobs that can earn lots of money. However, occupations that can earn one lots of money may not necessarily go hand-in-hand in resolving the negative imbalances that is crucial for the positive flow of the identity. While some people in high-paying jobs may not feel happy and fulfilled, others in less well-paying and prestigious jobs may find lots of meaning and fulfillment, because their jobs offer them lots of opportunity to resolve their desired negative imbalances. The rich man may feel happy with the materials he own but he still feels unhappy. Money is just like any other physical tools, it can assist a person to resolve negativity but it is definitely not something that can automatically resolve negativity. Although the rich man may not fear for the sustainability of his life, he still feel negative imbalances manifested from the negativity in his environment. If the rich man wishes to be happier, he could help resolve some of the negativity that affects him. Resolving negativity and restoring balance is the key to happiness. The way to provide happiness for another person is to share positivity by promoting the flow of their identity. If providing positivity is the goal of gift-giving, then getting or making things that can provide great flow of identity to the receiver would make a great gift.

What is Beauty?

Beauty and ugliness are two opposite values similar to the concept of duality. Positive flow would therefore be found in beauty and negativity be found in ugliness. A beautiful face can possess positive flow in its features and an ugly face can possess lots of negative ones. The mind can also contain similar positive and negative qualities, therefore the mind can also be deemed beautiful. A person can use make-up to mask the negative flaws on her face or undergo surgery to look beautiful but she may not be able to change her negative character that easily. Changing a person’s identity or personality requires changing a person’s perception. Superficial positivity from physical beauty may be able to hide superficial negativity, but it cannot hide internal negativity. Many people who overly value superficial positivity overlook the nurturing of internal positivity. This may also cause their perception to be superficial. They may then use superficial positivity to make up for their lack of internal positivity. People can be rich and very good-looking but still ugly on the insides. A person with a beautiful exterior may behave in a negative manner towards others. And a person with less beautiful appearances may behave more positively. The positive flow of beauty is present physically as well as mentally. So it is really up to the individual for which type of beauty he or she would perceive and relate to. The positive flow that deems things or people to be beautiful is ultimately up to the observer to perceive.

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What is Love?

The real meanings of Love is said to be a mystery. However, from the understanding of positivity and negativity, Love’s meaning can be better understood. To hate a person, one has to have a negatively distorted perception of the person to only consider his negative qualities. Since Hate is usually deemed the opposite of Love, to love someone is to hold his positive qualities even with the presence of negative qualities. This is what I feel is the real meaning of Love. To overly consider a person’s positive qualities and to ignore his negative ones is often the cause of Blind Love. The Bible advises people to love others, even their enemies. I feel that the definition of love explained from recognizing a person’s positivity gives it a universal quality and allows such an instance to be possible. If we consider the positive qualities of our enemies, hate can lessen and turn into love and understanding. Love often has the association with heterosexual relationships. However, to think that real Love would only exist in sexual relationships is for a person to perceive with negative understanding. Love is not necessary to co-exist with sexual desires or lust for a person. The universal quality of Love by recognizing and holding a person’s positivity allows it to be possible with any human relationship. Love is based on positivity perception, not physical desire such as lust. When we recognize a person’s positive qualities, the positivity can affect us and enhances our own flow of identity. People want to protect the ones they love because their loved ones are a great source of positivity. This is why Love is often said to give people great motivation and desire to live their lives and for others.

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What is Perversion?

Forms of energy in reality have their meaning or purpose in exerting balance in the universe. When people misuse the purpose of a specific dormant form of energy, they distort and pervert its purpose and meaning. The word perversion is not only used for describing sexual perversion, it also carries the meaning of meaning or purpose distortion. Just as our eyesight can be distorted, our perception can also be distorted. Negativity can cloud or distort judgment and cause people to displace logic and meaning. People clouded by negativity often fail to recognize the correct purpose of a dormant form of energy, or a task. People clouded by much negativity often commit crimes of perversion that disgusts people who can recognize the negative distortion of purpose. Sometimes when we experience great negativity such as in the perversions people commit, we may feel like vomiting to expel the negativity felt in the body. As people get used to their mind’s distortion by negativity, they fall deeper and deeper into displacing logic and meaning and commit greater perversions. Their heavily distorted perception of reality continues to let them think that their acts of perversion seem logical and natural to commit. If we allow our minds to be distorted by perversions, our minds’ perception would be distorted. Either we reject negative perversions or we would get affected by them. A good example of perversion is seen in people with much negativity who seeks positivity from people without respect for their well-being. Many adults sexually abuse young children to ‘gain’ their positive and free childlike qualities as a way to balance the great negativity that clouds their minds. Their minds were distorted or perverted by negativity in order to perceive their crimes as legitimate ways to effectively gain positivity. The rest of us who can clearly recognize how meaning and purpose of young children were distorted in the minds of the child sexual abusers would no doubt express condemnation at such acts.

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Subtle forms of distorting meaning and purpose of dormant energies can be seen in how people abuse drugs, alcohol, gambling, gaming, food, money, music, opposite and same gender sex and even pleasure. Drugs and alcohol can distort the mind’s perception from experiencing negativity. Gambling and gaming gives one the freedom to express the flow of the self identity in the casino and at the gaming arcade. The arcade is where people often seek their identity flow in countering obstacles in car racing or displacing their aggression by beating up another gaming character. People worship, good food, gaming, music, opposite and same gender sex and pleasure allows one to experience the flow of positivity by doing what one feels natural towards identity expression. People turn to being materialistic to seek material happiness in the lack of knowing what to do with their lives, and use dormant forms of energy to help release their feelings of negativity instead of resolving them. As people allow the distortion or perversion of recognizing meaning and purpose to cloud their perception, they get used to such perversion and become somewhat more “perverted” in interpreting meaning and purpose of objects or tasks. Pornography negatively distorts the meaning or purpose of the reproductive organs. As people condition their minds into such negative usage of the reproductive organs, the negativity would distort their minds into thinking that casual promiscuous sex is normal. The dangers in negative mind distortion is why we should not allow ourselves to be affected and conformed or pressured into sharing people’s distorted sense of purpose and reality.

What is Addiction?

Addictions have negative qualities to them as they are seemed as ‘unhealthy’ habits. This is because they are the habits of negativity release instead of resolution. Addictions therefore are perversions; they are the resultant actions of people whose minds are distorted by negativity. Such negativity release in addictions traps people in endless self-destructive cycles of negative behaviors. An addict is addicted to the comfort gained from fulfilling his addiction. He would release negativity and feel positively better with less negativity in him. Addictions are almost impossible to stop because it is difficult to motivate a person out of the positive feelings gained from releasing negativity, and addicts are usually in dire need of positivity. The outlets of negativity release in addictions are difficult to stop but they can be channeled into other proper forms of seeking positivity. Many people are addicted to the releasing of negativity through masturbation. Although the feelings of orgasm release negativity such as tension or stress, it does not resolve the root of their causes. This gives masturbation the distorted negative quality. Since masturbation is a distorted usage of the reproductive organs, it is often seen to be negative. A person may initially feel guilt when he started practicing masturbation in his early childhood. His negativity distorts his mind to seek masturbation as a form of negativity release. But after the negativity that distorted his mind is released from orgasm, he gains the required balance and he loses interest in it. His mind gains a wider positive perception and he may realize the improper misuse of his reproductive organs. Thus, he may experience the guilt emotion. If he gradually conditions himself to the idea that masturbation is a natural and normal way to release stress or tension, he may lose the guilt feeling and it becomes a form of addiction.

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Resolving addictions
People become addicted to addictions because they feel that specific tasks or objects would lessen their negativity and bring them positive feelings. People fulfill their addictions to resolve their feelings of discomfort, but it does not resolve the real causes of problems that led to their feelings of discomfort. Our emotions or feelings are the reflection of the presence of positivity of negativity in our Central Nervous System. Resolving negative feelings from addictions do not necessary resolve their real causes. As an addict’s feelings of negativity increases, so does his need for stronger abuse in addictions. To resolve an addiction, a person has to rely less on feelings and think more to interpret more logic and reason to make judgments. Thinking is vastly different from feeling. Feelings of the Central Nervous System in the body can be conditioned and even displaced from time to time therefore making it unreliable to reflect truth and falseness in real-life situations. Many objects in reality can also be imitated from the real copies and deceive our emotional judgment of their genuine properties. What we eat or drink can cause emotions that also emerge from other real-life situations. The presence of negativity in the mind can also distort the emergence of accurate emotions. People can even experience erratic emotions or hallucinate because they have psychological disorders or brain damage. People can also feel vastly differently in the same situation. A person with a phobia of an object can feel more fear than a person without. Therefore we should not based our judgment totally on what we feel all the time but also use our thinking abilities such as reasoning and logic to get accurate information of our reality. People who are too caught up or desperate in feeling better from the heavy negativity in their minds would often neglect being well-conscious of reality and its proper sources of gaining positivity. The obsession in interpreting feelings keeps them distracted from interpreting the facts in reality. They are often too focused in releasing negativity and neglect resolving their real-life causes. It is the great need in releasing negativity and experiencing the great feelings of positive comfort from the release that keeps addicts addicted to their addictions. People who are too trapped by their negativity find many ways to resolve the unease feelings of imbalance and discomfort and to gain the positive feelings of closure. The usual addictions are of alcohol and drug abuse, the uncommon

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addictions are seen in Obsessive Compulsive Disorders (OCDs), where people perform rituals with their body such as repeated hand-washing to feel better. OCDs often require repetition because a single act is not effective in releasing all the negativity felt by the sufferer. Actions in OCDs can be seen by others to be strange and have little real purpose in actual reality. Some OCDs can be very extreme because sufferers desire perfect balance. Interpreting too much of feelings and emotions in reality would not provide a person with the positive wide perception to help him find the logical or reasonable ways to resolve negative feelings from their real causes and put an end to their recurrence. He may then desperately displace and release them through outlets such as cycles of negativity release through addictions. Negativity distortions such as from fear or trauma in OCD sufferers’ perceptions detaches them from reality, prevents them from being properly conscious to find and experience the feelings of closure. A person must gain the right balance of thinking and feeling by using more of logic and reasoning to resolve imbalances rather than relying too much on what he feels from his emotions or feelings.

Temptation and Greed

Temptation
A person is tempted by certain materials or tasks when his perception is negatively distorted and influenced to the idea that possessing or fulfilling them could resolve the negative imbalances in the mind to bring him happiness. We often find ourselves tempted by social norms to follow them. Our temptations will always come back to tempt us if we cannot positively resolve such a distorted perception. If we think that gaining more of a certain object or fulfilling some task would fulfill our intense need for happiness, it is possible that we would become greedy, materialistic or even lusty. When one feels excited of a specific way that can very effectively release one’s negativity, one experiences the feelings of temptation such as cravings for objects and sexual desire. The appearance of negativity release outlets would tempt us to pursue them to release our negativity.

Greed
We are satisfied when our desires have been fulfilled. Greedy people have a lot of negativity that blocks them from sufficiently appreciating what they gain from their desired objects. When a person is unable to utilize the qualities of the desired object to resolve the flow of imbalance that caused the desire in his mind, he would be obsessed with desiring more of it. This is the main reason why many people end up broke, they try to find the happiness in lavish material goods and allow their desperation to take over. There can also be obsession in the need to save money in order to prevent losing it. Many people with lots of negativity are distracted by advertisements of great savings in sales from realizing what they really need or don’t need to buy. Their over-compensating obsession to save money may cloud their judgment from realizing that something of great value is not suitable for them to buy, but they buy it anyway because it fulfills their obsession to save money. If such items come with a
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big price, then they would lose a lot of money instead of saving it. Such describes the saying ‘penny wise pound foolish’. Since appreciation requires positivity, people who are overly negative cannot appreciate the qualities in fine objects or people. Sometimes it is not the volume of music that needs to be raised in order for us to better appreciate the music but the amount of background noise that needs to be removed.

Positivity and Negativity in Learning

The best learning experience for students has always been ‘fun’. Making learning fun is to fill the learning environment with positivity that opens up the students’ minds that is to encourage the true flow of students’ identity. This allows their real identities to emerge and allows their minds to absorb the various meanings from information. Many teachers use negativity in the form of intimidation and in the error correction of their students, instead of using reason and being positively constructive. Perhaps they think that using a fearsome approach would help their students score good grades. Since learning is to be influenced in some way and no one likes to be influenced by negativity, using great negative emotions in a learning environment only puts off students. Since negativity causes barriers in a person's interpretation of reality, it seriously restricts interpretation and assimilation of information in learning. It closes up the minds of inquisitive students, stuns learning, hampers creativity and self-expression and puts them off from seeing education as a positive experience. It is often the positive students that do well in their studies and the negative students who do badly in class. Students who do well in their studies are often less affected by negativity than those who are. Students who do badly in their studies have a lot of negativity that clouds their minds, which prevents them from having a good learning experience. The balance of positivity and negativity is a crucial factor towards optimal learning in the classroom. The kind of positive or negative learning experience educators choose to provide their students would determine the kind of results they get.

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Positivity and Negativity in the family

Young children are very easily influenced by their parents’ behavior. Children would be affected by the influence of their parents, whether it is positive or negative. Stress from the workplace and at home is one of the most common forms of negativity. If parents use physical punishment and verbal abuse in their parenting, their heavy negativity would be absorbed by the child and he will grow up to hold the negative behavior instilled by his parents. If the child makes a mistake, the negative parents would release negativity onto the child and this will affect the child’s mind. Nobody likes to be faced with negativity and we all tuned out from it. So if a parent uses a very negative manner to instruct his child to do something, the child would tune out and not listen to his parent’s instructions because it contains negativity that can close up his mind, even if it contains positive instructions to correct bad behavior. As the child grows up, he would practice closing his mind from his parents’ negativity along with what they say. This reduces parent and child communication and both child and parent would drift further apart from each other. If parents use a positive approach towards teaching their child, the child would be in the optimal positive environment to learn life skills from his parents. He would listen with an open mind to instructions given in a positive form. The child would enter a fun friendship-like relationship with his parents and learn all that his parents can teach him about life. Parent and child communication would be free-flowing and each would understand the other well. Each could recognize the positivity in the other. Both sides would enhance and assist each other’s life learning experience. It is very important to instill the positive influence in a child right from the start. Sometimes parents can be very negative in their parenting because they are
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merely conforming to what their parents did and they see no other positive ways to parent their child.

Why parents divorce
Divorce is very common in marriages. Sometimes spouses cannot tolerate living with their partner and both choose to end their relationship. I would like to think that divorces are caused by the heavy negativity in marriage that prevents harmonious living from being possible. Unresolved negativity can accumulate throughout the years and if it becomes serious, it can affect the relationship between couples and their children. If marriage life eventually becomes less tolerable to live, it can easily lead to divorce. The husband who returns home from work probably has faced negativity from his work and releases it onto his wife and children. The people on the receiving end of the husband’s negativity don’t know how to properly deal with the negative situation and choose to shut their minds and distant themselves away from him. Family communication would thus suffer because of the presence of negativity. Children who dislike their negative parents may eventually lead them to mistreat or abandon their old parents. The negative situation would intensify if the wife responses with similar levels of negativity and engage in a verbal abuse with her spouse. The wife distance herself away from her spouse. The loud husband-wife arguments would thus affect their children. This sort of negative family relationship is a common basis for many marital problems leading to divorce. The husband, who is not getting the love and affection from his wife, decides to start an affair and cheats on his wife. The wife, who stops having a loving relationship with her husband, takes out her frustration on her children. When her kids grow up with all the negativity in the family and do not receive the love, support and communication skills they require, they will always be ‘going out’ from the negativity they face at home to seek positivity outside. Children of negative families may resort to many ways to receive the positivity they want, with little consideration for their negative effects. Then they might get into many kinds of trouble. The negativity affecting the family unit would work its way into the social level leading to various social problems.

Hiding of identities in Relationships

People choose their friends and relationship partners based on the compatible positive and also negative qualities they can detect in others. However, people are sometimes too caught up with hiding their negative qualities and would only display positive ones. Some people go to the extent of faking positive qualities to get people to like them. Many dating couples are often obsessed with hiding their flaws from their partners, they are afraid that the display of their flaws will put them in a negative light that can risk their chance for happiness. When such couples get married, their attempts to hide their negative side are hindered by the challenges of marital life. Their character flaws are then revealed to their spouses. Many couples divorce because couples feel that their partners have changed too much. I feel that divorce in marriages would not be so rampant if dating couples would not hide so much of their character flaws, so that the compatibility of couples can be better recognized. Many vibes that are sent between people take place very subtly on the subconscious level. Negative people are not very good at balancing their emotional state and hiding their negative qualities from people. It is therefore quite easy to determine whether a person is faking his positive personality. Good friends can turn into enemies as soon as real negative qualities are realized. Sometimes friendships and relationships become unstable because the people involved begin losing their positive cover. They then start to view others with negativity and they become irritable, fault-finding, blame-shifting, impatient and easily angered. Such a situation would then spur the friendship to end.

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Even though many people have the habit of tidying their house and hiding negative traits from guests, we should not overdo the hiding of negativity by deceiving others and ourselves of our true identity.

How to deal with Negativity

Negativity can distort the mind’s perception from recognizing a dormant energy’s purpose or meaning. It can even close the mind’s perception well enough to cause the person to experience feelings of meaninglessness of tasks and of life. It can also cause the mind’s perception to be superficial by restricting its learning and understanding of the nature of reality. Doubt is experienced when our perception of reality is clouded by negativity and we cannot be sure of what we know. Too much negativity can restrict the mind’s understanding of reality and cause a person to feel so miserable and meaningless that he takes his own life, to prevent himself from experiencing more suffering. Too much negativity causes great disturbances to the mind and body and can affect the health. Negativity can cause a range of negative emotions to emerge simultaneously. A person can feel mixed emotions of embarrassment, fear, worry, doubt and anger all at the same time. We have to resolve our mind’s negativity in order to better understand the nature of reality and to fulfill the meaning of life. To resolve negativity and straighten perception, one must firstly find and return to one’s positive flow of mind and identity through meditation.

Clearing the mind’s negativity with meditation
We cannot accept the outcome of things because we cannot see the links between causes and their effects. Such a lack of understanding causes great ignorance in the mind. Meditation can help us in deep understanding of why things happen as they are. Meditation can help the person achieve peace. However, I feel that many people are not meditating in the right way to achieve balance and peace of mind. Many people’s idea of meditating is simply to clear the mind of any thoughts and maintain a stable flow of breath for as long as possible. However, such a method is to chaste away negativity from the mind which is similar to escapism. It only provides short term peace of mind and does not allow the mind to resolve negativity
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and prevent them from coming back in future to affect the mind. Clearing the mind of any disturbing negative thoughts is more associated with the method to sleep. The proper way to achieve long term peace and balance is to resolve negativity. Negativity has to be recognized for what it is. The mind can only separate and deny negativity if it can recognize the conflicts and negative influences it poses to the mind’s positive flow. Therefore detachment is also part of meditation. If the person meditating can recognize the true nature of negativity that is clouding his mind, he can choose to detach himself from it. Peace and balance would then be achieved from such meditation. The reason why people hold onto bad habits is because the negativity in them is too infused into their identity; they cannot distinguish and separate the negativity from their own identity. They get too affected and controlled by its erratic effects. Buddhists monks who meditate practice abstaining from eating meat or spicy foods. For those who believe that negativity can result in the killing and suffering of animals may also believe that negativity is a form of energy vibration that can be stored in matter such as meat. The stored negativity in meat could affect the balance in a person’s mind and thus its consumption is avoided. Many emotional people with a lot of negativity in their minds would find sitting still and having a peaceful mind to be quite impossible. The reason is because a lasting peaceful, balanced mind is not the effect of shutting out the mind’s thoughts. A true balanced and peaceful mind can only result from properly resolving and clearing the mind of unresolved negativity that manifests into erratic emotions. A proper meditation would include having the person thinking in a quiet setting about his accumulated negativity and resolving them with proper knowledge and logic. If the negativity that prevents the mind from having a peaceful and balanced flow can be cleared to a certain level, the mind would be peacefully still and balanced as the water of a pond. Negative dreams can be reduced and sleep is improved. Meditation is an important practice as it prevents negativity from clouding one’s perception in judgment. People with a lot of negativity in them would find it difficult to be disciplined, because the negativity distracts the mind from focusing on a task, making concentration difficult. A person facing a lot of negativity would have to suppress the erratic emotional disturbances in his mind continually and it can be an exhaust-

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ing process. This is why tasks which require deep concentration such as meditation would be given up easily by such people, they give up suppressing negativity as well as the original task.

A person has to detach from negativity
As a person grows from a child into an adult and ventures into the world, his mind is affected by accumulated negativity that he absorbed into his identity. His consciousness would be affected with the flow of negativity that manifests into imbalances that give rise to the need for balance through various desires. If one can effectively recognize negativity around him and practice separation from them, he would be able to prevent desires from attaching to his consciousness. In order to deal and overcome negativity, we must recognize and understand how and where negativity is restricting our identity. Then we should resolve the weak points in our identity vulnerable to negativity’s grip in order to free ourselves from its restrictions.

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