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All Rights Reserved E-Mail Scot McKay: scot@deservewhatyouwant. they react with shock that guys would be too scared to talk to them…as if they’re so “dangerous” in their dresses. I’ve been spending quite a bit of time lately talking to women about what it’s like for them to interact with guys these days. But it’s no joke. So how do these same women tend to explain away the fact that like 97% of all men can barely manage a “hit and run” compliment. 2) Women Are Literally Stir-Crazy Because You Won’t Approach Them Somewhere along the line we as guys developed what can only be described as an “us vs. them” mentality when it comes to women. I’ve pulled together some SHOCKING CONCLUSIONS regarding any fear of approaching women you may be suffering from.com Get The Man’s Approach: www. high heels and French manicures.As always. I thought she had to be joking. Seriously. if they even talk to them AT ALL? Simple…they assume guys aren’t really interested in them. including several “lady guru” dating experts. I have the distinct pleasure of hanging out with Emily every day—and reading e-mails sent to us by literally thousands of women on her list. Generally. The first time I ever heard that most women are COMPLETELY OBLIVIOUS to the fact that men are generally afraid to approach women was from Emily. This. the idea of any man being “afraid” of them flat out doesn’t compute. But in addition to that.com .themansapproach. Taking ALL OF THAT information from SO MANY WOMEN into consideration. and nearly all confirmed what other women like Emily have reported. is the kind of information that could prove mission-critical to you when the chips are down and it’s time to meet a woman you find attractive. of course. © 2010 X & Y Communications LLC. I’ve asked a whole lot of women about this. for most women. That’s right…they think most guys AREN’T ATTRACTED TO THEM. So let’s just get right to the list: 1) Women Usually Have No Idea That Guys Deal With Approach Anxiety This was a revelation that seriously fried my circuits.
she’s at a total lost as to why you aren’t introducing yourself to you. etc. I hope it comes as no surprise to you that as you lead in ANY SITUATION. Which brings us to the next point… 3) You Pretty Much Control The Tone Of The Interaction That’s right. And she WANTS TO MEET a guy like you EVERY BIT AS MUCH as you want to meet a woman like her. If her dog runs away. here’s the disarmingly simple truth: Really. every woman is VERY HUMAN. if you think women are ever going to start “making the first move” on your behalf. Oh. women not only respond POWERFULLY to leadership from a man.themansapproach. she’ll be happy. perhaps?) who are hard-wired to make life difficult for men. But as much as we pretend that women are some “alien” creatures (from Venus. Thinking of women as some sort of “non human” species who can’t be figured out may soften the blow of rejection a bit by giving us an easy excuse. then it somehow doesn’t hurt as bad when that social interaction doesn’t end well. and YOU’RE masculine. In other words. just like you. by the way. but even in the moment a woman is ALWAYS looking to you to TAKE THE LEAD. © 2010 X & Y Communications LLC. And sure. women look at how much ambition you have as an indicator of your long term leadership skills. she’ll be sad. you’ve still got to learn about how women DEMAND a guy who can LEAD. the highest quality women DEMAND IT.com Get The Man’s Approach: www.com . All Rights Reserved E-Mail Scot McKay: scot@deservewhatyouwant. requiring that we “target” them with various tactical schemes. if you don’t see a woman as simply another human being to be social with. In fact. women follow. the only REAL differences are based on the fact that that SHE’S feminine. In fact. If she wins the lottery.All over the Seduction Community you read subtle communication that MOTOS (members of the opposite sex) are somehow the “enemy”.
And it has almost invariably gone very well. SHE is going to start feeling insecure also. And that leads to this… 4) Most Women Are Only Rude To Guys Who Are Rude To Them First…Unless They’re Not Worth Meeting Anyway.themansapproach.com . Here’s the crazy part. If you’re nervous and awkward. Sure. And yet. she’s going to respond to you in kind. © 2010 X & Y Communications LLC. I recently heard there are at least a few pickup artists out there teaching that if a woman DOESN’T respond to you with a look of total shock and/or disdain when you approach her. if you are confident socially and EXPECT to be treated well by any woman you meet. She’s likely to think that’s how you ALWAYS ARE in social settings. though. So what is she thinking when you’re completely freaked out? She’s likely to assume that’s your AUTHENTIC self. women might expect some “nervous energy” when meeting you.So it follows logically that if you are all wadded up in nerves and tripping all over yourself when meeting a woman for the first time. and treat you in the manner you feel you deserve. it’s amazingly predictable how often women will be COMFORTABLE WITH YOU. you’re probably doing something “wrong”. Meanwhile. Go figure. NOT EVEN ONCE. My first thought upon hearing this advice was that I haven’t experienced that scenario since about tenth grade. sort of in line with that anticipatory adrenaline rush that goes with meeting someone exciting and new.com Get The Man’s Approach: www. And raise you hand if you already know that making a woman feel INSECURE in your presence is basically the fast-track to getting NOWHERE with her. All Rights Reserved E-Mail Scot McKay: scot@deservewhatyouwant. women generally are OBLIVIOUS to approach anxiety’s basic existence. I’ve met PLENTY of women. But remember.
expect to be responded to in kind. it is NOT going to end well for you…especially if it’s a high quality woman you are dealing with.com . or even what others think of him AT ALL who ends up being the one guy in fifty who actually APPROACHES any particular woman. But what keeps us from EVER EVEN TRYING to overcome that fear is that we want to be POLITE. my educated guess is you can see this one coming.themansapproach. women). once again women are HUMAN. most of us are extra careful not to “bother women”. This is not rocket science. All Rights Reserved E-Mail Scot McKay: scot@deservewhatyouwant. Why do so many women think so many guys are “I/Js” (“Idiot/Jerks”)? Because those are the ONLY GUYS who sack up and approach them. It’s really as simple as that. Meanwhile? It’s often the guy without any regard for social constraint. If you approach women in an overbearing. Seriously.com Get The Man’s Approach: www. © 2010 X & Y Communications LLC. It’s that brash disregard for social skill that causes such a guy to not give a rip about outcomes. It’s basically the logical conclusion to the discussion. We may be utterly scared of rejection at our core. obnoxious or flat-out arrogant manner. “sensitivity training”. 5) There’s A VERY GOOD Reason Why Many Women Think Most Guys Are Jerks Having read the previous four points.e. sexual harassment manuals. We don’t want to alarm or startle women by being a “stranger” who approaches. Want to engage in some playful banter if she seems to have that kind of personality? That’s different. So then. what happens? Some of the most well meaning guys are literally “hidden” from a woman’s social experience. He may even THRIVE on getting negative reactions from people (i. We tell ourselves we’re being respectful to women by honoring their space and their privacy. And they respond to YOUR LEADERSHIP. If you’re rude to them. So guess what? Women tend to meet a LOT of guys like that. But don’t expect to insult a woman’s person OR her intelligence and create attraction. sure enough.Guys.
com . That’s the guy they so very much crave sharing a MOVIE MOMENT with when they first meet him. Yet. The difference here. Almost invariably. But it’s YOU—and ONLY YOU—who ultimately makes the decision to jump out of the plane.themansapproach. is that when it comes to interacting with women. So you can stand at the doorway and stare with wide-eyed terror at the Wild Blue Yonder. Don’t do that to yourself…or to the terrific women who might very well like to meet you. that’s the ONE GUY they ALL DREAM ABOUT meeting. yet MAN enough to make her feel secure in his presence. reach and pull”. Will this information empower you to meet MORE women while feeling LESS anxious about it? It most definitely should. Basically. But as I often say to guys on coaching calls. however. You’re the only moving part that can “fail to deploy” in this case. I can pack your parachute and teach you how to “arch. VERY few guys who can pull off that magical balance of being BOLD enough to approach her. look. Be Good. All Rights Reserved E-Mail Scot McKay: firstname.lastname@example.org Get The Man’s Approach: www. or you can take the leap…and feel the rush that goes with it. © 2010 X & Y Communications LLC. most great women suspect there’s MORE. women encounter VERY. After all. they simply want the high-quality guys to MAKE THEMSELVES KNOWN. there’s no parachute involved. it’s what most guys who THEY MEET are like! But even so.And it can’t help but cause women to feel as if that’s what MOST guys must truly be like.
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