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Getting things organized on time is the key to minimize your stress. If you are the kind of a person who keeps things pending for the last minute and then end up in a mess, then perhaps it is the right time to gear up and get things organized to avoid those last minute scrambling. It can be often challenging to get things organized if you are doing that for the first time. However, if you are ready to take some extra efforts, you can help reduce your stress level to a great extent. But, what is actually meant by getting organized and from where to start are the two obvious questions that come to mind when it comes to getting organized. If you too are contemplating on where to get started and to become more organized in day to day life then here are some tips to help you get started. Getting Organized Time Management Are you always in hurry and rushing for your daily chores? Do you find yourself in a mess and do you find it difficult to remember things? If yes, then perhaps you need to organize your time more efficiently. Maintain a To Do list and schedule all your appointments in a notebook. Stick to only one notebook instead on using multiple calendars to schedule your appointments. Check the notebook regularly so that you don’t miss any appointments. This way you can avoid overtaxing your brain with preoccupying thoughts. Do not overbook yourself with tasks, find some time for relaxation too. Catch up with friends and spend time with families so that you don’t overstress yourself. Organizing Home Do you live in a cluttered home filled with unnecessary things? Does cleaning home sound a herculean task to you? A cluttered home can drain both your time and finances. A nicely organized home not only creates an abode of peace, but also impresses your guests. If you too want your home to look simple and organized, why wait for the springs? Any time is the right time to create a soothing, simple, and organized home to return to. If you are living in a messy home, set a schedule for your home cleaning agenda. Hire help if required. If you have the money to invest, call a gardener, a decorator, or a professional organizer to get things in order. This will also help you save a lot of time so that you can do some productive work. Make
cleaning a fun activity so that you don’t get bored and give up the task. Include your kids and other family members to help you in the job. Take a break at intervals, sit back, and relax. Making things in order is great but maintaining things in place are difficult. Take necessary steps so that your cleaning doesn’t go in vain. Getting Workplace Organized Is your work desk always filled with clutters and old stationeries? If yes, then try getting your workplace more organized. Check your pen holder and get rid of old pens that do not write any more. Don’t feel bad to throw out unnecessary items. The more you dispose out clutters, the more organized will be your workplace. Organize your desk drawers and make room for subtle items. If you don’t have a drawer, use the place below your monitor to give home to your calculator, PDA, wallet, keys, phones, etc. Organize your files and folders and label them appropriately so than you don’t have to hunt for them. Do you grab an envelope to scribble telephone numbers and addresses and then couldn’t find them when needed? Rather maintain a notebook for this purpose so that you don’t have difficulty finding them
Psychosocial Stages Of Development
It is quite fascinating to grasp and understand how a person grows into an individual with a set of responsibilities from infancy to adulthood. This developmental process in a human being is explained and defined by many psychoanalysts and social scientists. One such definition comes from a Danish-German-American developmental psychologist Erik Erikson. Erikson is famous for his theory on the stages of psychosocial development in a person. Erikson’s theory holds and explains eight stages of development through which an individual passes, namely from infancy to late adulthood. These stages defined by Erikson throw new challenges for an individual which he/she hopefully masters towards the next stage of development. Each stage depends on the successful completion of the previous stages, and if a person fails to master a particular stage, then
he/she might experience problems in later stages. Let us discuss in detail Erikson’s psychosocial stages of development here in the sections to follow. Erikson’s Psychosocial Stages Of Development Basic Trust Vs Mistrust This is the stage which starts with the birth of the child when he/she has no knowledge of the world and is completely dependent on his/her parents, especially the mother. The parents become the basis of their existence and it is the type of environment they are brought up in, which influence their behaviour later in life. This is a stage where the child develops the value of hope and learns to love and trust people because of the loving and caring environment the child receives. This stage lasts till two years of age. Autonomy Vs Shame And Doubt The second stage in the psychosocial development of a person is when the dependent infant grows up into a toddler. This is the time when the child learns to move around freely, and with this freedom of movement he/she explores the things around them, make choices of food, toys, games etc. If the parents grant this freedom to their child and encourage their child’s independence, then the child will grow up to become a competent person. However, if parents become overprotective and keep a check on all the movements of the child, then the child will lack in confidence and competence to take risks in life. Initiative Vs Guilt This stage begins when a child turns 3 yrs of age and continues till the age of 5. This is the first social experience of the child where they attend preschool and make friends, interact with them, and explore his/her power and control over peers while playing. This is the time when the child should be encouraged to socialize and stay in the social environment so that they can develop a sense of purpose to achieve something. This stage also develops the leadership quality in the kid, who if discouraged will lack these qualities and will find it guilty to take initiatives. Industry Vs Inferiority The fourth stage of development starts from 5 yrs of age and continues till the child is 13. This is the stage where children start attending school, experiences a greater degree of independence, start understanding and differentiating between people and cultures, learn reading, writing and presenting amidst other skills which they try to master. Children should get full support in this stage not only from their parents, but from their teachers also. They should be encouraged to participate, learn and take failures in a positive way and not get demotivated by them. If the kids don’t get enough
careers etc. . Identity Vs Role Confusion This is the stage of adolescence and is the most crucial stage among all the stages of development. This is the stage when the person is in the middle of adulthood and has his/her set career and family. This is a stage where teenagers are confused because they are expected to act neither like kids nor like adults. This is a stage when the teenagers need to cope with his/her physical changes and understand gender roles. The environment in the previous stages has a great role to play in judging a person’s behaviour in this stage. Intimacy Vs Isolation This stage encompasses people between the age group of 20-40. society. Ego Integrity Vs Despair This is the last stage in the stages of psychosocial development where a person’s ego identity is fully developed. They develop a sense of faithfulness and start attaching importance to relationships. If people fail to achieve this sense of care. it will affect their growth in later stages of development. The parents in this stage needs to be very careful in handling the behavioural changes of the growing teenagers for them to grow into confident and responsible individuals. The teenagers in this stage try and develop their individuality in relationships. This is the stage where a person becomes an adult. This is a stage where a person reflects back on his/her life and analyzes the achievements and failures. especially friendship. if a person has experienced failures then he/she develops a sense of despair for his/her life. This is the stage where a person learns to care for others and give back to the society what he/she has received from it. Generativity Vs Stagnation This stage is totally dependent on the success of the other stages of development. A person who is scared of commitment and intimacy will stay isolated and depressed.support and guidance in this stage. they get stagnated and experience a life without any meaning to it. If a person has achieved success in all the earlier stages he/she develops a sense of integrity and wisdom. However. has his/her own identity and is ready to share their sense of identity with others by forming intimate relationships based on love and commitment.
Master the art of pottery or photoshop. Most of us can barely survive an hour without a cell phone. living alone is no sane person’s fantasy.“Every Cloud has a silver lining”. death of a partner and isolated job transfers are typical case scenarios that exemplify the birth of loneliness. Change Is Good Obama said it and was soon after crowned the president of United States. let alone live a week in solitary confinement. There are countless remedies to combating loneliness. Experience the inexperienced as you are now privileged with the liberty whatever your heart desires. . Of course. A Marriage annulment. a select few would leap out in joy at the mere prospect of solitude while some just have no choice. In fact. by the time you arrive at the bottom of this page you might find yourself whispering. Accept the change that is your state of aloneness and bask in the novelty of it. Pick a paintbrush and paint the world! The clock will tick its way to the next week and you may not even feel the pinch of loneliness. So why don’t you drown your entire state of mind into a hobby? Take advantage of your solitude to be productive. Re-discover the real you! You never know where you really belong. Silence impregnates their surroundings and threatens to slaughter all scope for joy. You will soon encounter your new companion that fails to blabber like a fool. certainly yearn for the warmth of a human being. No external factors to dissuade you. others desperately try to fill the void.“I lived in solitude in the country and noticed how the monotony of a quiet life stimulates the creative mind” Who wouldn’t want to follow the footstep of the genius that discovered the Theory of Relativity? No doubt. it is foolish to think that finding happiness alone is impossible. Learn an Instrument and form a garage band. Fly a kite. the absence of a separate human entity can land a devastating effect on a lonely soul. However. Ways To Be Happy Alone Get a Hobby Wonder why Einstein loved his solitude? The only logical justification would the fact that he occupied himself with all those creatively stimulating experiments. mind and soul. Explore deep into the confines of your body. And for those that aren’t. Nevertheless. Not everybody is Einstein. While some people choose loneliness.How To Be Happy Alone The world’s most popular scientist Albert Einstein once wisely confessed.
consider buying or adopting a pet of your choice. Register yourself and get to know more people. Whether you are brimming with energy for an important presentation. relinquish all thoughts of discontentment. your social life and more importantly. Strong interpersonal communication skills are . chairing a conference or simply running for a plum job offer. Exercise in your spare time and release the endorphins that reward you with bouts of ecstasy. then even the toughest opposition can become a pushover for you. if you can’t cope with loneliness. Get A Pet Do you miss the comfort of having your sibling or roommates breathing heavily before you fall into a slumber? Find solace in the warmth and compassion provided a fuzzy little dog. people can act difficult and can cold shoulder your views and opinion. Volunteer your time to those less fortunate than yourself. Interpersonal Communication Skills You may have the most impressive line-up of degrees and may boast of refined skills.Join A Community It could be a book club. Now you certainly aren’t bound by family or social obligations. Remember. Joining a gym would benefit your health. Take long silent walks along the beach or jog around the neighborhood. even a goldfish encircling a tiny circular bowl vanquishes the gloom triggered by lack of companionship. you cannot expect to get ahead without good people skills. you are pretty much a lost case. Nevertheless. So. Browse the internet or scan the yellow pages and you will stumble upon a group activity that inexorably will grab your attention. Dance or sing to any background music. cat or rabbit! Irrespective of the breed or size. Allow the music to reverberate within you. Absorb yourself in new tasks and get accustomed to news ways of living. You know you will always have somebody to welcome you home! Be Physically Active Learn to be happy and comfortable with your solitude. yoga classes or a trekking camp. a social service community. but if you do not have the right interpersonal skills to complement your credentials. if you know the art to convey your message clearly.
But. The cue is to pay attention to people and make them feel worthy. Read on to know more on effective interpersonal communication skills. If you cannot respect others and make them feel comfortable. Listening is deemed as one of the crucial parameters of all interpersonal dealings. but if you do not have ears for your audience. Remember. Get A Grip! You may possess the daintiest of demeanors and may be the suavest of talkers. views. you are definitely on the losing end. you will be deemed as a schmuck who blows out lots of smoke. it also encourages others to revert to you with concentrated attention and zeal. then your soft skills are pretty much a bummer. effective communication begins with effective listening and one of the best ways to make the most of it is to belt up and listen. loud. Remember. opinions and ideas. In case you do not have the required interpersonal skills. but can be easier said than done! It is easy to bump into people with different opinions and ideas. you better buck up your tone. One of the most endearing traits of successful interpersonal skills is deference. rude and snob person. posture and gesture to convey the right message. The key objective is to interact with others in a positive way and ultimately get them to know you better and appreciate you. Mind Your Body Language! Your body blurts out oodles about you. nobody fancies an aggressive. Be On The Ball Handing criticisms is an impressive quality.a necessary tool to evade workplace conflicts and even stub away personal miscommunications. . you better buck up to make the most of your abilities. so you better mind what it says! Body language is one of the crucial parameters of non-verbal communication and an effective instrument of interpersonal communication. Not only does it leave you with a fair idea of others’ feelings. Imagine being turned off a job or a deal just because your body language did not respond convincingly or worse did not back your words! So. but if you cannot connect to your audience and appreciate their views. Effective Interpersonal Communication Skills Listen Up! You may have a million-dollar look and mouth a million worth words.
sit and walk right. Remember. Who knows it may be aimed at your betterment! The mantra is to adapt to the situation and learn to toy the dynamics of the conversation. but you would also get high on confidence. just by holding your body in the right posture. The right posture will not only leave you feeling fit. Now. Just take criticisms with a pinch of salt. you aren’t vying for a robot-like body! So. In all cases. in case you are putting in all that extra effort to eat right and exercise right. stay calm and preserve your dignity. dump the myth and work towards a more perfectly coordinated posture. So. Take a heed and get trotting! . Do away with that spare tire and flaunt a more silhouetted figure.that doesn’t really have to bog you down. confidence and interpersonal relationships is not worth it! Stop being a walkover and assert your worth by learning to say ‘no’ and expressing yourself ardently. right posture doesn’t have to mean that you carry a poker-straight body every time. Remember. you might just as well put in some effort to stand. Stop Being A Pushover While it is good to be perceived as a nice guy. while handing out criticisms. you may have the skills and abilities. Remember. How To Improve Posture How often have you romanced the idea of losing your paunch without having to toil hours on the treadmill or guzzling gallons of carrot juice? Nothing underlines an unwanted paunch like a sloppy stance. Asserting is a sign of the winner! So. understand that being treated like a pushover at the expense of your career. Also. without offending anybody’s sentiments. Here are some ways on how to improve your posture. erect posture can have on you. but if you cannot stitch a few words to assert your worth and make yourself appear valuable. roll your tongue and speak out your worth. make sure you do it tactfully. you put undue strain on your spine that not only escalates your chronic back pain. You will be amazed to see what a slimming effect a tall. then your deeds and feats are useless. everywhere. but also causes your body to stoop over time. criticisms can be constructive too. When you let your body sag.
always make sure that your spine is in sync with the backrest. getting the right lumbar support can make a big difference. trying to heave you upwards. However. Heels tend to non-align the body posture and alter body’s center of . If you are caught in a desk job. Strenuous hours on your chair can get the better of your spine and get it slouching. Nonetheless. When seated. when expected to stand tall. While you inadvertently filed away the flak then. which is wrong. Always rest the soles of your feet flat on the floor while seated. Walking once in every thirty minutes will save your muscles from tiring out and also save you from the hump later on in life! • Doesn’t matter if you are hanging out with your friends in the club or reclining in your office cafeteria . While it is easy to sit erect. heave your chest and draw your head back to the chest. • This one is especially for the high-heeled ladies out there! Heels are indeed the worse affliction women can subject themselves too. if not get you flying! All you have to do is stand straight and imagine a balloon tied to your head.always ensure that your posture is correct! It’s important for your body to stand in perfect alignment. without unnecessarily stressing your spine. your nanny and even your teacher for bending over your desk when expected to sit erect. Try this little mind trick every day to do away with the hunch and sport a fitter you! • Do you remember being snubbed by your mom. Ensure that your chair’s backrest has a natural curve that fits into the hollow of your back. Kick the bad habit and dump the chair and get moving. All you need to do is to make sure that your ears are aligned with your shoulders and you are done. the simple balloon trick can elevate your posture. Thinking so will get you posing upright naturally. shoulders and hips in complete coordination.Improving Posture • How often have you slouched in your couch and pinned about your flagging gait? Correct posture is something that doesn’t come easy to most of us and it definitely deserves an all-out effort to stop one from slumping.Standing straight doesn’t have to mean that you tense up your back. there is indeed no escape from lot of slumping around. Always hold your ears. • The way you sit often makes a difference on the way you stand and how you carry yourself. it is never too late to work towards a healthy body. you definitely regret now about not having taken a stand then.
• • Importance Of Confidence • Confidence is to life. You will never be able to touch the high points of life. it’s suggested that you settle for a more modest kitten heels than perch yourself on the stilettos. The more you flex your spine. if you are unable to find the self-reliance required for it.gravity. • Last but not the least. Just bend your knees. but in personal life too. If you are a heel freak and can’t do without your high-heeled footwear. confidence helps us in going ahead and choosing the subjects and sports that we prefer. Life without confidence is like a racing car. • • Imagine a situation wherein you are supposed to hit the court to play an important basketball game and just when you are dressing for the impending match. instead of leaving us on the mercy of our own grades or teachers. the more likely you are to be left with a curve posture. dearth of self-belief can take away all the fun in the roller-coaster ride named life. people who are low on confidence are seen to falter in future. Confidence is related to your mental well-being and determines the actual course taken by your life. those who are low on confidence will be affected badly and their game will deteriorate further. In true sense. if not more. when you bend to lift anything. Not only in scholastic or professional life. Sometimes we are . running on a 100 cc engine. don’t crouch or bend from your waist. The common conditions like stage-fright and nervousness also occur due to the lack of confidence. we have provided detailed information about the significance of self confidence in the various stages of life. • • Significance Of Self Confidence In Life • • Role Of Confidence During Education • In school and college life. if you have to bend at all. The cue is to never bend your spine. someone tells you that your shooting hasn’t been too good recently? Though confident players would just ignore such a comment and move on. what testosterone is to a man. Confidence is something that is inculcated in you through your own efforts and unlike physical strength cannot be attained by brutish training. In the following lines.
Confidence is like that steel back bone. a person’s growth in his life. Right from your first baseball game to your marriage. personal. further increasing our confidence levels. if you leave fear. Without confidence. Just stop worrying about failure and afraid of picking up something. everything depends on the amount of confidence you instill in yourself. Keep in mind that confidence can be yours. This is vital for enabling us to learn new things and becoming better at known things. Remember. • • Significance Of Confidence • In personal life. confidence is your ticket to success. Right from getting selected for a better job to winning the coveted promotion. . you are bound to break and fall apart. then confidence is the first weapon you need to have in your repertoire. Self confidence becomes more important for people who are self employed. Leading a successful life is a bigger challenge in today’s world than ever before. in which we are not good enough. Achieving pleasing results for newer things gives us a new high. Confidence is also vital for coming out victorious during crucial times such as exams. • • Confidence is the growth hormone for an individual’s personality development. Confidence helps us in choosing what we want and not the least that we are eligible for. friend. professional and social remains stunted.• • Role Of Confidence In Professional Life • In professional life. If you lack confidence. Important decisions regarding your career at a crucial phase can only be made if you have confidence in your self. which keeps you standing through all the whirlwinds in life. confidence is the key to success. partner and protector. confidence plays the role of a leader. Lack of confidence will lead to missed opportunities. A lot of young people suffer emotional stress and mental disorders due to the lack of self believe and eventually get detached from their surroundings. If you wish to become a pioneer of sorts by leading your field of work. run businesses and corporate houses as each decision of theirs affects multiple people and enterprises. remorse and even wrong decisions taken out of misguidance. In such situations we need confidence to do things we are not accustomed to and improve in them. life is going to throw new challenges towards you at every turn and corner.
his only client. and I will not sleep until that happens. leading a far more decent life. you surely vividly remember the scene where Jerry talks to Rod Tidwell and says “I will not rest until I have you holding a Coke. playing a Sega game featuring you. staying motivated all through is all that is required to achieve success. a contract worth $11. This single word can help you overcome insurmountable obstacles and garner your life just the way you want. A chartered accountant thinks that the job of a financial analyst is better while a school teacher might think that a job of a researcher is more fulfilling.2 million! This is nothing but motivation. in a game that you are winning. getting more perks and the chain of thoughts in neverending. Whether you wish to be famous or rich. broadcast during the Super bowl. Believing in yourself can be the key to success. winners do not do anything different from you. while singing your own song in a new commercial starring you. it will do you no good but sink you in grave . can you guess what he replied? “Drive” was the word.work towards you goals. Staying Motivated • Remember that the grass is not always greener on the other side. wearing your own shoe. you can say that they do the same things with confidence How to Stay Motivated Have you people seen the film “Jerry McGuire”? If you have. This article gives an insight as to how can you stay motivated and benefit your life by achieving long cherished goals. they just do the same things you do but in a different fashion. “ Jerry aka Tom Cruise manages to stay afloat through all his miseries and finally secures Rod. In simple words. working in a better office. If you continue to think the other way. But how can you be so sure of the fact? You have chosen your own career path and every form of work is pious and satisfying if you believe so. When a reporter asked Arnold Schwarzenegger how he managed to top the charts in bodybuilding. Remember. Quite often we jump down to conclusions thinking that our neighbors are doing better than us.
After all. Keep repeating to yourself that no one else but you can do it. you need to have a healthy competitive vibe. Also. conviction and stability and you are sure to gain success.depression. negating your own weakness and stay optimistic that you would surely win at the end. you are liable to your children back home. If you become such a weakling and plan to give up easily without striving hard and giving your best shot to achieve what you want. remember that your dreams are not yours alone. Mould yourself accordingly. Do not succumb to them and keep in mind that nothing in this world is impossible to achieve. Even someone as close as your mother can be your inspiration. It is not necessary that your idol should be world figures specifically. Put in your heart and soul into the task or a situation and stay firm and undeterred till your last breath. there would be magic. • Always have an inspiration in life. And once this thought triggers your subconscious. • Ignite the competitive streak within you. For instance. This thought would prevent you from taking any wrong step in life and you would stick to the path carved out for your own well-being Importance Of Time . Do not sidetrack yourself as a loser who is fond of giving up. you have not lived your life fully and in turn cheating yourself and the one who has created you. while competing with someone. In order to gain things in life and March forward instead of sliding back. • To surrender is the last thing that should strike your mind. Shed your instincts to keep comparing and instead work with diligence. Your close ones are counting on you and every crucial step you take in life matters to them as well. It is just that the seemingly impossible tasks take a bit more time than the rest. Constantly gear up yourself and see what your competitor’s weak and strong points are. by considering your children to be your inspiration. you surely don’t want to experience the humiliation of defeat. you would always have this thing throbbing in your mind that whatever you do. And how exactly do you stimulate yourself for this? Find someone worthy in your class or office to compete with. Have enough strength to hit back to the challenges.
If one sits and waits for the right time to achieve his set goal or waits for some free time to get his work done. involving ourselves in learning new things every minute. Time is a scarce and finite resource and the very foundation of proper time management begins with setting up your personal goal and developing your priorities. it all depends on our time management skills.Benjamin Franklin rightly said "Dost thou love life? Then do not squander time . Importance Of Time Management • You should keep reminding yourself that time is limited. • No matter what you want in life. If you don’t utilize your time wisely. Quite often. It is a special resource which cannot be stored and saved for later usage. It is something which cannot be replenished again. Whether we want to effectively utilize time or lead a haywire life without purpose. Like a ticking clock. time management can help you utilize your time in a better way so that all your tasks of primary. Anything worthwhile in life needs time to be achieved. skills. However. but a serious waste of time. practices and tools which when rightfully applied can help you utilize your precious time and accomplish what you want. Every man on earth gets the same amount of time each day and how each person utilizes this given time determines his or her eventual success. you can never get it back again. do we actually understand the coded meaning of it? It is ultimately a choice we make for ourselves. each small task that you do without wasting time counts in achieving your long term bigger goal in life. • Time is scarce and you must have had a feeling like there is so much left to do.for it is the stuff life is made out of". Time management is a compact set of established principles. secondary and tertiary importance can be accomplished within a specific limit. we should keep moving. With a limited time . you need time to get it. poor finances and even our inability to get enough exercise to the lack of time. Almost always. This article deals with the importance of time management in our day-to-day living and framing our overall personality. How often do we sit back and ponder upon the importance of time in our life? Though we all are acquainted with the oft repeated affirmations such as “time and tide wait for none”. Just like each minute contributes to an hour and each hour combine to form an entire day. but very little or no time left to do it. we take time for granted and indulge in activities which are simply nothing. unpleasant relationships. he has lost the game already. we go on to blame our unachieved goals.
The best would be to get rid of inferiority complex as soon as possible. as it can otherwise lead to depression.span of 24 hours in each day. Time management helps you by making conscious choices so that you can spend quality time doing important things that in turn add value to your life Inferiority Complex Symptoms “Gosh. Since you have a finite amount of time. mental limitations and social differences. these things embarrass few of us more than others. In order to attain success. While all of us have physical defects. This not only allows you to indulge in a wide range of activities. he is so intelligent and successful!” “She is so attractive!” “Why am I not like them?” “I’m not that good enough”. This leaves you with more productive time throughout the day which you can utilize in some other task. While most of us do comprehend the underlying problem of why we are always dissatisfied with ourselves. you end up accomplishing more with less effort. but makes your life a balanced one. Now that you know that time management is in a way a type of self management. you hone yourself in such a way so as to reduce the amount of time you usually wasted. an intelligent planning on how to utilize the given time needs to be done. You need to learn to utilize time in a way so that you find enough time for things that are important to you. • Once you begin to use the improved time management skills and tools. you can spend time in a multiple possible ways. time management is all about managing your activities in relation to time and ultimately achieving what you want at the end. it is advisable to choose activities that are of the highest priority to you first. few of us do not even realize that we have an inferiority complex that should be treated. Do these questions keep haunting you within? Are you always dissatisfied and constantly blaming yourself? You probably have an inferiority complex. or a sad and unfulfilled life. Given here are some symptoms that . • In today’s world. before it amplifies.
chances are that you discourage yourself saying that you can never achieve it even in your wildest dreams. You feel that the positive comments are not justified. you do not want to be complimented or appreciated simply because you feel the comments aren’t from the heart. how you worked on that article. If you are not able universe responsible for it. The Universe is the Cause Any mistake or failure committed on external factors. On rare occasions. As such. such as poor luck. you start pouring in questions in order to receive compliments. general. Rather. you are complex. it is just a way to make you feel better.can help you identify whether or not you are a victim of inferiority complex. If you lose competitions. You do not take any step towards achieving success. you are constantly finding ways to point out their imperfections and making them feel bad about themselves. you cannot accept others feeling happy as well. Finding Faults As you cannot keep yourself happy. Different Signs Of Inferiority Complex Love to Hear Compliments You always want others to compliment you for even the smallest of the achievements like how you look. such as “Do you think I did great?” or “Do I look good tonight?” Avoiding Compliments While some people love to get complimented. In case you are one . Read on. where we pull others down as well. You are so desperate to hear that even if you do not get any comments. what you have or what great work you have done. Even if you have done well. since you are not worth getting them. you feel you are not good enough to compete with anyone. the environment in to accept your mistake and hold the definitely suffering from inferiority Lack of Sportsmanship Competitions where you are required to test your abilities against the others are always kept at bay. and so on. when you take in that step. This is known as crab mentality. some prefer to refrain from receiving any accolades. your part is simply put on various bad company.
achievements. they prefer to stay back alone keeping the world unknown about their flaws.of such people. since they think they will make a laughing stock out of themselves. be sure not to attach too much importance to your external appearance. If you are also one amongst those. We all mentally construct a self image based on our abilities. looks. A good reflection in the mirror will always make you feel good about yourself. Low self esteem can affect the way we perceive ourselves and the world around us. Agree or disagree. unless you stop competing with others. interaction with people and our experience. How To Boost Self Esteem Self esteem is based on how much a person feels valued and appreciated. there is no denying the fact that looking good definitely does make you feel good. Dress up with extra care and make an effort to look nice. warmth and social skills are far more influential than looks. debates and forums. meetings. Boosting Self Esteem Groom Yourself As clichéd as it may sound. Avoiding The World People with inferiority complex often avoid social gatherings. Kill Negative Thoughts Most people focus on their shortcomings than their positives. This self image contributes to our self esteem. Rather. Attributes like confidence. All efforts trying to make this person speak fail. The feeling that they are not smart and as interesting as others pulls them to a corner unnoticed by anyone. Read the article to know how you can give a boost to your self esteem and live your life to the fullest. it is high time you start thinking about your positive . all of us have been a victim of low self esteem at some point or another in our life. However. know for sure that you can never feel confident and superior.
Celebrate Achievements Give yourself full credit for your achievements and reward yourself. Decide what you want to achieve at your personal and professional front and slowly work towards these goals. Tell yourself repeatedly that you have tackled this obstacle in an appropriate way and that you can deal with other bigger and more demanding projects as well. Don’t be too critical of yourself. Accomplishing these goals will give your self esteem a big boost. A personal goal defines who you truly are and what you intend to accomplish in life. you are one step closer to achieving your goal. but that doesn’t mean that you won’t be successful. You may get upset when things don’t go your way. Each day is a new beginning. everyone has strengths and weaknesses. Stand up for what you believe in. Don’t distort your. Pat yourself on the back every time you achieve a goal. The key to success is not to overcome your weakness. Steer clear of negative self talk. self image based on other person’s negative belief. Stand Up For Yourself There may be times when other people misjudge you and let their own insecurities get in the way of their reaction. Voice your opinion and thoughts. Don’t write-off the achievement as minor. but to develop your strengths to an extent that they can outweigh your weakness completely. just go to bed and wake up next morning with a fresh and focussed mind. It will give a sense of purpose to your life. Set Personal Goals Living an aimless life will make you feel empty and confused. Invest some effort into developing your interests and skills into your strengths. If you had a bad day. don’t let it stop you from achieving your goals. Realize Your Limits You may not become an Olympic medalist or a pop singer.aspects. However. Realize that nobody is perfect. . Remember. everybody is good at something. Putting yourself down as a loser or failure will only hamper your ability to achieve your goals. Also. no matter how minor it may be. because it may be a part of your bigger plans. Never allow others to make you feel inferior. Experiment with different activities that will help you get in touch with your talents. know that with that achievement in your kitty.
There may be period of setbacks when everything will not work out the way you have planned. Hence. Remember that life is governed by factors which aren’t entirely in your control. However. whether on the phone or in public. Join clubs or groups of similar interests. Don’t fret over what you don’t have and what you haven’t accomplished. Being part of a community big or small will give you a sense of belonging and acceptance. causing anxiety and distress. Volunteering will help you improve your perception of self-worth. if we are unable to control our fears. mentally and physically as well. eventually they start taking complete control on us. Socialize People with high self esteem generally have a large social circle and a busy social life. The fear of talking results in delay in picking up important calls and delivering speeches in public. the best way to overcome our fear is by mastering it and preventing it from controlling us.Get Active Doing something is always better than doing nothing. Be Thankful For What You Have Attributing considerable importance to certain goals and aspirations may also pose a problem. Take out that list of resolutions you gave up on and start working on them. fear of the unexpected or the fear of losing a loved one. Take up new hobbies .learn to dance or take up painting lessons. in general. Does the problem sound . thereby giving a boost to your self esteem. Volunteer Make a contribution to the society. has become a common problem seen in most people nowadays. Volunteering will give you a sense of being part of a noble cause. Keeping yourself active will give you no time for negative self talk. Fear. thereby weakening us emotionally. Keep yourself busy. Appreciate and acknowledge what you do have and be thankful for it Fear Of Talking Fear in any form can be terrifying and paralyzing. be it the fear of failure. is unhealthy. Start off by keeping yourself involved in activities that interests you. Join a volunteering organization to help the less privileged. The fear of talking. it also blocks work and business opportunities. Not only does it stop the person from contacting loved ones. Frequently plan outing with your friends and family members. The feeling of being appreciated and valued can do wonders for your self esteem.
similar to what you are facing? Looking for ways to overcome this problem? Scroll these lines to find tips on overcoming the fear of talking on the phone as well as in public. Overcoming Fear Of Talking Phone Calls • Make a note of all the conversation that you would be talking on the phone. Most people are scared about forgetting what they intend to say to the other person on the phone. The best way to deal with this is to write down all that you will speak. This would help ease all your worries. Most people panic when they receive a rude phone call, as they do not know how to react to such calls. In such a case, ask your friend to behave like one of those people. He/she might enact the way your boss or the bill collector does. Practice your responses in order to better behave when the actual call rings. If you are into a marketing job where you have to promote various products to strangers, it is natural to get anxious about the questions that the customers would pour in. Hence, gather all the possible knowledge about your product to speak confidently and answer the questions accordingly. While making calls to an unknown person, some people fear that the person on the other end would respond negatively or start cross questioning. To overcome such a situation, prepare for the negative reaction in advance. Always make a call when you feel comfortable rather than talking when the person feels better. Do not worry about the time that you would be calling, simply focus on your comfort level. For example, if you are a morning person, it is best to make calls in the morning rather than when you are dull.
Public Speaking • Always pick up a topic that you are comfortable with, such as sports, television, fashion or anything that interests you and puts you on the front. Gather all the possible extensive knowledge on that subject. • While speaking, always look at the audience and make eye contact. Though this is the basic rule of public speaking, it takes considerable time for a person to get adjusted. Many new speakers always look over the heads of the audience or at the floor or ceiling. Never ever converse with the first friendly face that you find in a gathering. Try and make efforts to talk to everyone present. Eye contact plays a vital role here in keeping the audience glued to your talk. Practice speaking by recording your speech in a small tape player and listening to it later on. Initially, you will be surprised to hear to your voice but with time, you will love to hear it. While recording your voice, start looking into a mirror reflecting how you project yourself in front of the audience. This will give you an idea of what gestures and expressions you pose to your listeners and how you can work on them so as to improve
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Positive Self Talk
Self talk is nothing but the constant process of thoughts that goes on inside us. Every moment of our lives, we affirm a string of thoughts and these very thoughts create and frame our life experience. They grow with us and end up being our beliefs, our prime source of existence, and our definition of life. Few beliefs that have stayed with us since childhood may work well for us, while others may be working against us and depriving us from achieving what we want. So, we should keep in mind that our thought pattern is not formed from a skewed perspective, but has a solid foundation base. It is thus essential to stress on positive self talk. It is the fuel for your success and good health and can take you to new level of ecstasy altogether. Positive self talk involves positive statements, which when repeated several times trigger your subconscious to indulge in a positive action. If you repeat these statements with a lot of conviction and desire, you are sure to succeed. It is all about challenging and undermining the burgeoning negative thoughts within you and getting them transformed into a positive flow of energy. It helps you to focus on your inner self; constantly reminding you to have control on your thoughts and words, thereby modifying your inner selves all through. So, whether you want to transform your life on a personal level or want to gain a competitive edge by applying this technique professionally, a positive mindset can do the trick. In the following lines, we have discussed why do positive affirmations work. Why Positive Self Talk Works Positive self talk or affirmations do work, but the question is why do they work? Here is an explanation. When you think of a positive affirmation, your subconscious responds to it in two ways—either by avoiding the entire concept or going for a reappraisal. The bigger the issue, the bigger is the gap between the positive affirmation and your own perceived inner truth. In most cases, instead of challenging your inner truth, the subconscious sticks to it. However, there are times when your mind instantly responds to the affirmation and you feel a sense of well-being within. When this happens, know that the positive self affirmation has finally started working. Believe it or not, more than often, we keep repeating negative statements and eventually fall into undesirable situations. Negative thoughts like, “I am too lazy for this task”, “I am surely going to fail in this paper” or “I don’t have enough inner strength to overcome this pain” make our subconscious mind accept them as truth. Consequently, the corresponding events in our life happen just the way we thought they would, i.e. negatively. We should always remember that words and statements work both ways and help in building as well as ruining our life. So, it is the way we use them that matters. Remember, it’s all a mind game. Your mind is what you are.
So, why don’t you choose positive affirmations for yourself instead? These thoughts have the power to wisp away even the strongest resistance. Your subconscious would re-examine the core thought pattern and very soon the troubling dysfunctional thoughts would get replaced by your own reformed inner truth. Positive affirmations reform your thought pattern in totality and completely change the way you think and feel. Now that the stringent dysfunctional beliefs would be replaced by positive ones, there would be a positive vibe all around you. Getting reflected on the exterior, your life would be experiencing seismic changes in all aspects. Here are a few examples of positive affirmations, which you can repeat to yourself to lead a gratifying life. Positive Self Affirmations • • • • • • • • • • • •
I am healthy and happy. Wealth is pouring into my life. I am sailing on the river of wealth. I am getting wealthier each day. My body is healthy and functioning in a very good way. I have a lot of energy. I study and comprehend fast. My mind is calm. I am calm and relaxed in every situation. My thoughts are under my control. I radiate love and happiness. I am surrounded by love. I have the perfect job for me. I am living in the house of my dreams. I have good and loving relations with my wife/husband. I have a wonderful and satisfying job. I have the means to travel abroad, whenever I want to. I am successful in whatever I do. Everything is getting better every day
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How To Overcome Fear Of Heights
fear of heights is an irrational fear. Psychotherapy The root cause of the fear of heights is extracted through psychotherapy treatment. the person suffering from acrophobia is taken through different stages of height. However. Browse through the following lines to get some tips for overcoming the fear of heights. this is a problem that most people are facing. huh? However. this therapeutic treatment has one drawback. which is important for the treatment. hypnosis renders the mind free from the phobia. nausea and dizziness. Medications. It is not successful in cases where a person is suffering from extreme cases of acrophobia. This eventually helps in desensitizing the fear and getting comfortable to varied heights. but with time. Indulge yourself into a light massage along with some relaxing music. Since agitation and anxiety follows fear. Nonetheless. However. this treatment has a very low success rate. Hypnotherapy creates a relaxed atmosphere. as it focuses on complete relaxation of the body. they may not be required as the person recovers from them. Friends and Family . there are a number of therapies that can help overcome the fear of heights. By discarding the deep-rooted fears from the subconscious mind. or acrophobia. With the right approach and the guidance of professionals. thereby eliminating the unwanted thoughts. the fear can be reduced to a great extent over a period of time. the person is allowed to experience virtual reality views of high places and then graduated towards real heights. acrophobia successfully gets reduced and replaces the fear with confidence. wherein people experience a panic attack at a high place and become too restless to come down immediately. This fear increases with time thereby leading to acrophobia. Also known as acrophobia. such as tranquilizers and antidepressants are used in the initial stages.Do you avoid accepting job offers for the simply reason that the office is located on the 15th floor of the building? Sounds funny. At times. the fear of heights is the most common of them all. Psychotherapy aims at identifying that single traumatic event and taking steps to heal it. it can even induce panic attack. Your unwanted emotions are transformed into positive thoughts that make you feel relaxed and comfortable. Aromatherapy The symptoms of fear of heights can be reduced through aromatherapy as well to a great extent. While there are many phobias. By following a few weeks of hypnotherapy. At first. Exposure Therapy Guided by professionals. Tips For Overcoming Fear Of Heights Hypnosis Hypnosis is a treatment used at bedtime. it is significant to overcome stress and comprehension first. there are past events which lead to fear of heights in people. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy This therapy alters your way of thinking. In extreme cases.
Simply. make a note of all the goals that you intend to achieve. as the patient is likely to hesitate initially. Do Not Procrastinate Once you have set goals for yourself. Never let procrastination come in your way of . being by the side of the person can be a great help. take those bad feelings as a challenge and make efforts to minimize them. Hence. relationship. get even”. Self motivation is required in every aspect of life. thereby creating bad feelings that are worthless and rubbish. a look at the notepad would remind you of the targets. Self motivation is the most efficient way of improving your confidence and self-esteem. make realistic goals that can be achieved. As the popular saying goes. However. Though there are numerous ways to improve your self motivation. Often. but hesitate to act on? Do you find yourself subject to lack of self motivation at times? Although you are a motivated person in general. Every morning when you wake up. you have a hard time working on an important task. work twice hard and prove them wrong. it brings about a change in your personality and character as well. only a few are highly useful. Moreover. social life. Whenever you feel someone is trying to pull you back. “Don’t get mad. people try to divert you from your goal. And anything out of mind turns out to be out of sight. spirituality or personality development. They can come to rescue the victim struggling from acrophobia. else you will never be able to achieve them. Apart from giving you strength to achieve your goals. do not make excuses to delay them. Unset goal in life is like starting a business without having a capital to invest. they should continue to support even if the symptoms worsen during the treatment Self Motivation Techniques Are you one of those often caught daydreaming at work? Why is it that you have a number of ways to improve. before you sleep in anotepad and place it right in front of you. at times.While treating any ailment. Hence. these friends and family should be really patient and ready for setbacks. friends and family form an integral part. health. Nonetheless. This is where self motivation techniques come to your rescue. be it career. Secrets Of Self Motivation Set Goals A major mistake made by most people is that they set their goals only in “mind”. Given here are some secrets of self motivation that can help you accomplish your goals and tasks in a more effective manner. Stay Focused Another problem with most people is that they get influenced by other people easily.
By sharing your dreams and aspirations to your near and dear ones. Share Your Goals Family and friends are the best motivators to look on. you will be motivating yourself to achieve the set goals since you would never want to let down these people. This article deals with ways as to how you can lead a healthy life even under stressful conditions. The situation has worsened further by noon and you are finding it difficult to hold back. Through rewarding and congratulating yourself. . you need to confront such negative emotions with enough strength. Spend adequate time with family and friends who themselves are positive and motivated. How long can you save things from falling apart you wonder? How long can you withstand the constant conflict between the mind and heart? Although such emotions are an inevitable part of your life. Conquering small battles is the best motivation secret for moving on to the next goal. The best way of keeping it at bay is to start working on the goals immediately. the best way is to stay optimistic and positive towards reaching the final line. People who are discouraging and pessimistic should be kept at distance. Break down the goals into small bits to make them easily achievable. Hence. at times you tend to simply give up and lose it. Tips For Staying Calm • The first and foremost step to keep your calm is to take a deep breath. tell and discuss about your goals with these people. Stay Positive In case you are finding it hard to stay focused on your goals. self motivation gets easier and attainable How To Be Calm You have got up on the wrong side of the bed and everything seems to be going wrong since morning. Very soon. you are increasing your self-esteem. Confidence and optimism serve as your best friends in your tough and rough times. Breathing deeply can ease your tense muscles and reduce your stress level like nothing else. This will allow you to respond in a controlled fashion.accomplishing the tasks. Thus. You need to keep your calm even when your life seems all turbulent. in order to succeed in life. Reward Yourself The best and perfect way to keep motivating yourself is by rewarding yourself on completing a particular task. you say. as they help you to continuously stay inspired and dedicated. However. Enough.
If the person you are confronting with raises his/her voice. concentrating on these sounds can keep you calm. Listening to music is another such activity you can choose to indulge in to help you calm down. It is enough to distract you for the moment and regain your calmness. remember to keep your voice mellow and modulated under such stressful situations. Close your eyes and try recalling some happy and amusing memories of the past. Feel the coolness of the water all over your body and relax. Take a nature walk. Be it the mundane sound of the swirling fan above you or the chirping crickets. Whenever you feel at complete loss and it seems like you had enough of life. your natural response is to do the same. Take a quick nap. • Relax for around five long minutes doing simply nothing. Nothing better than this can bring your senses back to normalcy. For instance. How about visiting a beauty salon? Get a nice head massage done. All that would result out of it is irreversible damage. Seeing you behave well. Moreover. Avoid thinking of anything in particular and simply catch up with some sleep. A long. Try planning for your next vacation even if the plan is shelved for months away. For some. Visit your nearest mall and pamper yourself with clothes and accessories. These will help your mind to get distracted from those depressing thoughts. But this is no solution to win the game or even come down to a solution. You can also try eating your favorite dish. Or try viewing things in a positive perspective. This would enliven your senses and calm you from within. all that you require is your I-pod. be calm thinking you at least have the job when everyone around is losing theirs. if you got a bashing by your boss in front of your colleagues and you are filled with anger and shame. going out on a shopping spree is a great remedy to shed anger and remain calm. This will take you places you’ve always wanted to be. Let your nerves ease and relax. Even facials can help soothe your tensed nerves. A spa-treatment is another option to rejuvenate yourself from the stress and calm down. Try listening to the natural sounds around you. even if it is a virtual pleasure. • • • • • • • • • . Easier said than done. So. know for sure that this is the only way to win the war. Stand under the shower. Plug in the headphone. Or think of the day you got a promotion and your boss wholeheartedly appreciated your abilities. calmness is contagious. nice shower can also help you regain your peaceful state of mind. close your eyes and drench in your favorite melodies.the waves of epinephrine running through your veins will become manageable and soothe you from within. Do not yell. Tracing a butterfly’s trail or noticing a woodpecker peeping out of the tree trunk hole can be sheer joy. the other person might switch over to your state of control. Give your disturbed state of mind some amount of rest.
Causes Of Low Self Esteem
Have you ever met a person who felt that he is worth nothing and could do nothing right? If you have, then you should know that it is possible that the person is suffering from a case of low self esteem. Now, before we get deeper into what causes this, we need to understand what self esteem is. Self esteem is a character trait that psychologists feel is the most enduring of all other traits. Self esteem is an assessment of how you feel about yourself and can also be referred to as self-worth or self-regard. There are theories which associate self esteem to motivation in a person and are a related to the need for respect from others and the need for self respect. However, more modern theories suggest that self esteem is a way to measure our acceptance in our social environments. Some of the most common symptoms of low self esteem are an inability to express ones feelings, lack of personal boundaries, denial and blaming others for everything. Low Self Esteem Causes Now that we know what low self esteem is and how one can recognize the symptoms for it, it’s time to explore the causes of low self esteem. • The most common cause of low self esteem is neglect and it is most prevalent in children. When parents fail to pay attention to their children and help them by providing them with support and affection, it causes them to feel abandoned. This eventually will lead them to find it difficult to assimilate in a society. You must have heard of positive reinforcement? It is the practice of encouraging a person to do better by praising what he or she has done so far. If you were to do the exact opposite of it and try to motivate someone just by pointing out their faults and mistakes then you are bound to be successful in DESTROYING their self esteem. There are times when a person may suffer from low self esteem as a result of ridicule. This ridicule can be based on anything from the person’s weight to his or her features and looks. Being ridiculed over habits or interests can also result in low self esteem. Since most of the times low self esteem is something that develops in childhood, abuse during childhood can also led to low self esteem. This abuse includes verbal, physical and sexual abuse as well.
Since it was mentioned earlier that self esteem can be seen as a measure of acceptance in a society, there can be times when a person will develop a low self esteem as a result of impairment in leading a normal life, like being out of a job or not being able to exercise the same financial freedom as others close to you. Unfortunately there is nothing you can do about all the bullies of the world, but there is something you can do about yourself. Whatever you do, don’t ever let yourself feel like you are lesser than others or not good enough. Do your best at everything and be satisfied with the results of your efforts
How To Develop Habits
Human heart and mind is like a stone slab which was used in ancient times for writing inscriptions. The inscription started to be carved from the day we opened our eyes and since then there were new things written, erased and re-written every day. Human habits are the part of these inscriptions and they need constant changing and re-writing. The quandary situation here is that the positive habits won’t get inscribed on their own unlike the negative one’s which come as a compliment of human experiences. Good habits require a writer, and the writer is the person himself. Now it depends on the writer how he/she goes about carving out the good habits on the slab which will become the input for the body to function. This makes it clear that instilling a good or eradicating a bad habit is a conscious effort that needs to be carried out with great deal of discipline, determination and thoughtfulness. To grab the tips on developing conscious habits read on. Developing Good Habits Self Talk Self talking is the best way in which you can instill any good habit and give up a bad habit. Keep speaking to yourself about the change which you want to see in yourself. Repeat the statements which will help affirm the particular new habit which you want to create a part of your daily life. Directed Imagination Another effective way in which you can incorporate a new habit consciously is by imagining yourself performing the action relating to the new habit. Visualize yourself performing the new activity or a role and see how good you sound and look. This visual imaginative role that you will see yourself in, will help you easily make the habit a part of your daily routine. One Habit For 30 Days It can so happen that you want to bring about a number of changes in your behavior at a time. In such a case take up a single change that you want to see in yourself and start practicing it daily consciously for 30 days at a stretch. After 30 days you will realize that you no more need to practice the change you want to be because it has now become a habit. After 30 days you can take up the next endeavor. Use A Trigger A trigger is a small ritual which you perform before getting used to a habit. A simple habit which you want to inculcate like not watching excess of television, can be
triggered by setting a self-timer in the television. The time you want the television to get switched off, set the timer to that time so that the T.V will get switched off, forcing you to engage yourself in something more productive. You can use such small triggers to consciously develop a habit. Replacement Replacement is the key word to develop a new habit. In order to remove something from the system without damaging the other files it is necessary to fill in the gap which was created due to the removal of a file. Similarly if you are giving up a habit you need to fill up the free space by a habit that fulfill the same requirement as the old habit. For eg. giving up watching television means you need to find some other relaxation medium for yourself. This approach will make it simpler for you to get used to the change you want to be. “But” To Kill Bad Thoughts A prominent habit changing step can be to force out all the negative thoughts from your mind. The moment you think negative about yourself and find yourself incapable of taking a strong stand, use the word ‘but’ and bring in the positive about yourself. This negative positive game will help develop your self-confidence and will make you believe in the change you are going to make. Write It Down You can even write down a particular habit in a piece of paper and stick it to a place where it will be visible to you. This will keep reminding you about the commitment you made to your brain and will help you in working towards living that change you wished for. Get Leverage Catch hold of your sibbling or a friend and hand them over a 100 rupee note. Instruct them to return you the note only if you successfully cross all the hurdles to reach your goal. Make a public commitment in front of everyone you know that you will stick to your plan. The necessity to keep up your words and dignity will force you to consciously work towards developing the new habit. Keep It Simple Changing for the good is beneficial both to your personality and to others as well. But, you should keep in mind that changing is a small process and your body and mind should first get used to the new introduction. Therefore, don’t get too harsh on yourself and keep only one or two rules simple rules and not a dozen rules regarding the new habit. Simple rules will help you create habits, whereas complex rules will just put you in a more complex puzzle. Consistency Is Key The point of a habit is that it doesn’t require thought. Make sure that your habit is consistently being followed everyday without fail. This consistent performance will drill in the habit in you instead of multiple habits loosely conditioned.
• • . A healthy personality allows the person to be a good listener and a better advisor. A person with a healthy personality will not follow convention without due cause. a healthy personality allows a person to overcome the tragedy without falling prey to depression and contempt. A person with a healthy personality will have a lot of common sense and will display presence of mind when it comes to solving problems (big and small). Having a healthy personality plays a key role in defining the person who wields it.Characteristics Of A Healthy Personality We often hear people comment that a certain person has a great personality or that he needs to develop one. Traits Of A Health Personality • • • • • • • A person with a healthy personality has the ability to adapt to his or her social environment. A healthy personality will enable a person to think clearly and with reason when everyone else is following a convention. The key to having a healthy personality is to strike a balance with all the elements that make up day to day life. The greatest plus point about having a healthy personality is that it allows for a fulfilling and meaningful life. It also allows people to be able to express themselves without hesitation or offence. If a person displays a healthy personality. A healthy personality is magnetic and attracts other to it. People with a healthy personality have strength of character and have individuality of their own. A healthy personality ensures that a person takes great care of his outward appearance and always presents himself with dignity. It also enables a person to be able to understand others easily. A personality is a combination of all the small factors that add up to make a person’s mental constitution. A healthy personality allows a person to function well independently and as part of a team. The healthy personality enables a person to see others for who they are to be able to handle them accordingly. When faced with a personal tragedy. On the face of it. a person with a healthy personality is cheerful and does not get stressed easily. The healthy personality lets the person be comfortable with whom they are and the way they look. it indicates that he or she is in good mental health and can be trusted to conduct themselves in a respectable manner and set good examples to follow. Healthy personalities are also indicative of emotional stability. A person with a healthy personality will always display a positive attitude and be cheerful.
Look for traits that you would like to change in yourself and remind yourself occasionally to change that particular character flaw. Different people in different environments require different changes or makeovers to their images to suit the environment they are in. Here are a few tips to keep in mind when you go about an image makeover: How To Change Your Image • You need to have an image of you in your head and zero in on the traits that make you feel uncomfortable on the inside or the outside. it is recommended that you first ascertain what type of a makeover you would prefer. added. especially when it can help in your personal growth. The right way to go about would be to look within you and determine what characteristics require to be polished and what needs to be changed. Opting for a softer or a tougher outlook on life. to be a more compelling personality or to be less imposing are all examples of what you could want to change in yourself. be it a student’s profile or that of a professional in a work force. • • • . You need to look for people with strong traits and whether any of those traits appeal to you. It is not impossible and never too late to develop a healthy personality. which need not always work in your favor. A healthy personality is also displayed in a person’s desire to stay healthy (physically). It is recommended that before emulating be absolutely certain that the particular trait is a desirable one.• • People with health personalities do not feel the need to make everyone conform to their views. An image makeover does not work overnight unless you are only thinking of a fabulous hairdo when you’re talking about an image makeover. If the change is sudden and drastic. Easy Ways To Change Your Image Ever thought about changing certain undesirable characteristics that have become part of your personality or appearance? Changing an image that has been inculcated over the years requires a certain amount of determination and will power. Look for traits in people you admire. or suppressed to make you feel more confident and good about yourself. Therefore. and try to emulate these characteristics into your personality. you will come across as someone who is trying too hard to change the way they are. You also need to figure out how you would like to feel on the inside before you start thinking about changes you could make on the outside.
be it your makeup. step out and look for clothes you feel comfortable in and that will boost your self esteem. If you feel that. always keep in mind that you are a more attractive and sophisticated person than you previously were • • • Benefits Of Anger Management The problem is more rampant than we all imagine – an alarming number of men and women find it extremely hard to deal with their anger and end up blowing situations out of proportions. and might even change attitudes that others have towards you. Look for those particular traits that you are particularly dissatisfied with and opt for a change. It impairs judgment. which are the most valued part of a human being’s existence. You never know what wonders it might do for your social life. and causing other forms of damage too. at least. There are several benefits of learning to give one’s anger a better route than by breaking the vase (literally). Here are some ways in which anger control can prove to be advantageous for us. There is no point in changing your hairstyle and your wardrobe if you still maintain your old image in your mind.• The way you look on the outside can influence the way you feel on the inside. Sometimes a simple hairdo or a change in wardrobe can make you more confident. make sure you walk with confidence. There are many who keep away from or maintain distance from loved ones. and remember what you are trying to change about yourself. only for the fear of hurting them in anger. Many of them do not know when to give up the fight and almost none can take a joke on themselves. How you look on the outside will almost always mirror the reactions towards you. Advantages Of Anger Management Here are some ways in which controlling anger can be advantageous: Judgment We all know that anger makes us incapable of being able to take stock of the situation . your clothes don’t do justice to the rest of your personality. learn to channelize it in better ways – in ways that are constructive rather than destructive and harmful to the individual. Once you have changed certain characteristics of your old self. can make a person violent and could even cause the person to lose out on his/her relationships. In a situation like this. make sure the eyes of the person in front of you sweep up to your face and stay there. After you have followed all the above steps. it is best to learn to control one’s anger or. Anger is cited in ancient texts as one of the biggest enemies of a human being’s body and soul – it can have grievous consequences for the way the body functions too. the blood pressure. wardrobe or something as complex as the pattern of your conversation. hairdo. Choose clothes that flatter your body type. increasing stress.
impairing our better judgment. Empathy Training in anger management is extremely beneficial for developing empathy for the other party. caused by faulty communication between the two parties involved. By doing so.well. A lot of anger and the stress that it causes can be avoided by opening up communication lines and making oneself available to dialogue. which are expressed rather aggressively. Bullies look for weak people and prey on them. there will be no room for conflict at all. stay away from their loved ones when they realise that they are hurting people with their anger. Closer And More Healthy Relationships Many people who have serious anger related issues. you can often find yourself as the target of bullies. Controlling anger and channelizing anger better will make the person concerned more capable of leading a life that is relatively free of ugly scenes or outbursts of anger How To Avoid Bullying Whether on the school playground or at the professional workplace. Since the people we love are closest to us. which would decrease chances of further conflicts and disputes. and making us prone to making mistakes in sound reasoning. which are. anger builds up because the party involved refuses to see the situation from the other person’s point of view. This can only be done when one is able to treat differences in opinion as just opinions rather than personal attacks on someone’s belief. Being able to control anger will definitely help avoid silly disputes. Better Communication Anger is often caused by misunderstandings. When you begin to develop empathy for the other person and try to see life from their perspective. Fewer Disputes Disputes are conflicts that go out of control and conflicts are differences of opinion. Bullying has increasingly become a widespread problem haunting people across the globe. in turn. Many a times. This would in turn. they also cause you bodily harm and injuries. Not only do they frighten you by shaking your confidence levels. Exercises in anger management are often aimed at channelizing the anger better so that you do not lose control when you lose temper. help you analyse situations better and make you capable of taking stock of situations. It is important for us to see where it begins and be able to nip a possible dispute in the bud. it makes them feel strong and . they are often the first victims when we lose control. Controlling and channelizing one’s anger in a constructive and non stressful way will not only open up lines of communication further but will also turn you into someone who is approachable and easy to talk to. which helps one party understand the other better.
such people bully those who do not stand for themselves. remember. You can also have some other people standing by your side to tell the bully to stop teasing or scaring people. Stand Up For Yourself Be brave and confident and stand up for yourself. push back or get into a heated argument. Talk To An Adult Let an adult know about you being bullied. report to the concerned authorities and let them handle accordingly. kick. Do Not Show Your Feelings Getting angry or showing that you are upset by the behavior of the bully will only induce him/her to take further steps in bullying you. can stop the bullies from portraying such a behavior. Acting as though you haven’t noticed or do not care would be like giving out no reaction. in turn. since they are afraid of being punished by their parents. Students are likely to stop bullying when teachers come to know about it. do not hit. In case you are facing bullying at work. stand up and say “No”. Raise your voice and speak out to let the bully know that you are not weak. satisfying the bully. Do Not Bully Back If someone is bullying you or your friends. While avoiding bullies is not easy. Hope these tips come to your rescue! Tips For Avoiding Bullying Ignore The Bully Try your level best to ignore the bully’s threats. seek help from teachers. Since bullies are expecting you to react largely to their teasing and meanness. simply ignore and walk past them to a place of safety. you are likely to face more bullying ahead. At school or college. This. Keep in mind that the person wants you to react. parents or friends. If you agree to the bully’s terms. stay safe and take help from an adult in an out-of-hand situation. taking certain steps can help you avoid situations. Moreover. If you counterattack or retort. Find a person who is trustworthy and can come to your rescue. Usually. Read on further to find tips for avoiding bullying. to avoid thinking about the bully. Hence. it is best to stay with others. thereby escaping an attack. it is important to distract yourself and keep your mind occupied. How To Improve Working Memory .powerful. If he/she is demanding something. you would be solving his/her purpose and thus. principal. Hence. Keep yourself busy until you are out of the situation or at a safe place where you can show your feelings. soft spoken and weak people become the prime targets. There are chances of getting hurt in the fight as well.
It is just that of all the things and facts you tend to take in all throughout a day. Just like a car. chances are that you might very well recall what those things were. but can’t manage to remember easy things. This might help you to remember things better. can put you in a better position. address and more. If you can just manage to cue the things. tune in to your beat box. It will help you sort out your work and life in a better way. but due to poor attention. spinach. such as where you left your car keys last night or where you kept your wallet? Most of us counter countless facts daily. it is important to keep your brain boosted with wholesome diet that is rich in omega-3 fats and antioxidants. Listen carefully and try to retain the information in mind. next time you fail to remember where you left your keys. one can boost retention capacities to the hilt. which isn’t very good news for your memory. That possibly explains why you usually miss out on that one or two grocery items. Read on for more on this. when away at the departmental stores. However. don’t despair. If you wish to remember more things at work. music certainly ranks high. especially classical music. however. Also. phone numbers. which explains why we tend to forget name. you can fight away the memory blues. Here are some interesting tips on how to improve your day to day working memory. names. that feeds on fuel to run. It is found that higher levels of stress can freeze your brain and cause your mind to go blank. Even minor stress can impair your cognitive skills and cause brain block. Most often we tend to skip things not because of frail memory. Just try this simple mental exercise and experience the difference. only to remember a handful of things at the end of the day. Tips On Improving Working Memory • Eating right to think straight! Surprised! Here’s is how it works. which explains why we fail to recall a certain item while on a grocery shopping. your brain too needs fuel to think and process. How often you have landed up in a grocery shop and gone blank wondering at the list of items you wished to buy? This is a common symptom that plagues many. just after we have met someone. It’s confirmed that with a little extra care and effort. Brain filters information randomly. it is important to eat more often to keep the brain from starving out of energy. A deliberate attempt to remember things. preps up brainpower and enhances retention abilities. So.Do you find it a cinch to remember long pin numbers and passwords. just dump the stress and relax. • • • • . A little bit of brain exercise can go a long way to save your memory from passing out. • Of all the things that can possibly boost your retention. However with a little care. So. such as memorizing passwords. Working memory is something that we use in our every day life to accomplish our daily tasks. only a part of it gets filtered through the brain box. and broccoli for a shot of extra memory. If you are one of those few people who tend to have a problem remembering day to day things. Thus. Experts have found that music. that does not necessarily imply that you have got a frail memory. generously gorge on berries. despite of much brain racking.
When meeting new people. cordial smile that arrests all interest and gives one an edge over any situation. . This simpleaerobic workout can help your brain get rid of the clutter and think and retain more clearly • How To Make Powerful First Impression While it is wrong to judge a person just by his/her dress or demeanor.The trick is to calm down completely while reclining on a couch and start your exercise by paying attention to yourself. it is important that you put your best self across. Tips To Make Great First Impression • There comes a time when our destiny rides high on the impression we make and little else succeeds in making that power-packed quick impression like a 1000-watt smile. it is true that first impression does count. What's more. unfeigned. • Another interesting way to improve your memory is to enhance your senses. Read on to get smart. hippie. For this you essentially need to have a pleasant demeanor. it helps to break the ice. punk. or hottie in the very first look? Good or bad. set all differences straight. Try to recall back all the activities of the day and remember as many things. This is a simple task that is likely to leave you with great memory. A brisk walk can leave your brain with more than one reason to thank for! Walking is known to boostblood flow to the brain. not many of us can resist the temptation of overplaying our aptitude and tagging someone as posh. and no matter how much we may deny going with the cliché. Keep repeating this exercise. Nothing makes a more sure-footed statement than a warm. just remember to wear that smile on. Sometimes a quick three seconds is all it takes to build or kill credibility and create that first big impression. Doing so will make your mind more agile. Dig more on how to make powerful first impression with the following tips. If you don’t have one. This will heighten the sensitivity of your senses and boost retention. All you have to do is sensitize your senses by doing simple activities like eating. events. the next time you head for a quick appointment or an interview. at least you can learn to feign it convincingly to make a compelling impression. names. we all tend to get swayed by the first impression. faces as possible. So. Thus. it is important to put your best foot forward to get the game going in your favor. More blood would mean more oxygen and more energy in your brain. washing or even dressing up with eyes closed. creates an aura of ease and comfort and puts one in a win-win situation.
it is important to underplay your fashion sense at time and be sensible with what you wear for an interview. thus. He . He was also the smallest kids in his school and was bullied and racially abused by his school mates. Eye-contact is one of the few things that extend an indelible impression. Pitch your tone properly. Paying heed to others can put you up in the ladder and create a good name. Dress to impress is the new age adage to that fabulous first impression.• As it is rightly said. golden browns and rich ivory. People with warm coloring look best in yellow-based colors like gold. current F1 World Champion Lewis Hamilton was an exceptionally talented kid at school. Your eye. Not to take the circumstances as a victim. A warm pleasantry may not be pleasant if done in the wrong way. which would further assist you in determining what colors look best on you! When looking to make that first big impression. Dress modestly. Wear colors compatible with your basic coloring. warm reds. wrinkled shirt and worn-out fabrics at all costs. steer clear of mindless babblings. People with cool coloring look best in blue-based colors like blues. a business meeting or just a casual date. but also adds to one’s charm and opens channels of communication. Also. And yes. make sure you never interrupt the person. greens and winter white. slangs or too much of a colloquial verve. he dealt with it with extraordinary strength of character at that young age. to avoid leaving a wrong impression. and yes strictly avoid jaded jeans. A punch line can make or mar your impression. A strong stare or looking away when interacting with the other person can leave one in a sticky situation. it is important to choose your words correctly. be polite at all costs! It’s easy to be a good speaker. Also. The right colors can be flattering to your persona and can make a killer impression. remember to ask questions to reveal signs of authentic interest. Human beings are one of two colorations: warm or cool. you cannot afford to look away when the opportunity strikes. However. when he/she is speaking • • • • Self Confidence Exercises As a gifted five year old. Thus. but it takes some skills to be a listener. it’s only wise that you put your best foot forward and get your outfit right. Remember to nod or chime your head in agreement. you never get a second chance to make a first impression. a gesture that is likely to be appreciated by the speaker. hair and skin tone would help you determine whether you are cool or warm. An eye-to-eye interaction not only testifies one’s confidence and reliability. While evolving fashion has left us with plenty of options to dabble with. hot pants. enunciate rightly and speak fluently and clearly to make a deep-seated impression.
travel to new places and gain experience. Some people have naturally high levels of self confidence. Avoid writing anything negative about yourself. “It was a horrible time but I told my dad I wanted to start karate so I could learn to protect myself. • • • • • • . Meditate for at least 10 minutes a day and exercise for 30 minutes daily. Your work might suffer. make an effort to schedule one interview. social life can become painful. you have won even before you have started. meeting new people can become a struggle and can have terrifying experience facing stressful situations. If your boss appreciates you for your work. I developed self confidence. Face the situation that you have been avoiding for a long time. Pen down observations about your advancement. ‘I am improving every day’ or ‘I deserve to be happy and successful’ or ‘I am confident in handling whatever comes up today’. Gain knowledge and experience by reading current happenings. Marcus Garve stated that. Imagine yourself as a victorious public speaker. Think of the positive things that you have done right be it big or small. Repeat these positive statements several times in the day. Diversify your interest. At the end of each day. In a nutshell you might be struggling to live a life of your own.took lessons in martial arts and went on to become a black belt holder by the age of twelve. When you start your day make positive statements about yourself. With confidence. Exercises For Building Self Confidence • Self confidence gets affected when you think too much about your past failures and negative events. jot it down on paper. you are twice defeated in the race of life. develop new skills. reflect on your positive things.” Self confidence gives you that freedom to make mistakes and deal with failure without feeling guilty or hopeless about the situation. magazines and updating yourself with latest developments. “If you have no confidence in self. your mind also requires exercises. Remove self doubts from your mind. At least record one positive thing about yourself each day and acquire the habit of praising yourself. if your mother tells you that you are the best child write it down in your diary. and perform your work efficiently. Challenge yourself and take risks. For instance if you have stage fear. You can say to yourself. The bullying stopped and more importantly. write down any experience in which you have received positive responses and compliments. Later on he reported. visualize and imagine yourself as effectively performing a task which you fear doing. This helps to develop self confidence and personality. Instead. This can have devastating effects in your life and result in lower self esteem. For instance. if you were contemplating a job change for a long time and not doing it for fear of interviews. But as you require physical exercises to keep your body healthy. People who are uncertain about themselves lack in self confidence. while others can definitely develop it. remind yourself of the past occasions that you have faced successfully and handled well. books.
Make changes to your physical environment. Rearrange and redecorate the furniture of the room. Paste quotes and pictures of successful people and keep reading them again and again. Read autobiographies of successful people. Keep your body language positive, look and feel confident. Always walk straight, with your shoulders straight, chin up and chest out. Have an authentic, warm and friendly smile on your face. A positive body language sends out positive signals. List all the goals that you want to accomplish in life and then take one step at a time. Break these goals into smaller reachable goals. Concentrate on self improvement and self development. Keep your cool and calm in every situation in life. Too much of emotional outburst can spoil the situation and make things difficult to handle. Hence take things in your stride and handle it smoothly. Do not think or worry about what others think about you. Stop imagining and bothering about unreal things and situations and blaming yourself for being wrong so often.
You can follow this confidence building exercise by writing these things. Fill in the blanks in the following sentences: • • • • • The best thing that I can do is … Something that I have accomplished is … One of my best character traits is… I am proud of myself for…. I am working to improve…
Confidence Building Exercises
“I am not a has-been. I am a will be.”Lauren Bacall. Yes it is the ‘I’ factor that makes that difference. No one can beat a person who strongly believes in himself and has made an identity for himself. Why do you think Mahatma Gandhi had so many followers and why did they follow him blindly to give their lives believing in non-violence! It’s nothing but his confidence and actions that inspired millions to join him. Success is the synonym of confidence. Never will a person with a low confidence can dream to make it big in his life for he loses the battle in the beginning itself. But the one who considers every failure as the stepping stone to success will cut a path for himself. It is always a
pleasure to watch someone speak with his/her head held high, answering questions assuredly. Ratan Tata, Azim Premji or Narayan Murthy are nothing less than living legends only because they have the confidence to face anything and everything that comes their way. They consider every new problem not as an obstacle but as a new objective. Here are a few tips on how you can go about boosting your confidence. Exercises For Boosting Confidence Think Positive Optimism is the word that has to be circled in the dictionary. An extremely positive mind is what you need to gift yourself. ‘I can’ should rule your mind when you are not able to cope up with negative things that come as hurdles on your way. Know how to love yourself and be proud of whatever achievements you have made in life, big or small. You can stick a few posters with quotes on success and confidence on the walls of your room and get inspired by those words each time you read them. Life becomes exciting only with things that you can do and not with the ones you dare not try. Learn to say ‘I Can’ aloud. Find Right Objectives Be sure about the objectives that you set. Set each goal as per your strengths and your abilities. Categorize the objectives as per your skills and talents and at the end of the day you will be able to harvest the fruit of your confidence through these fulfilled objectives. Prioritize each goal, like go for the easier tasks first then slowly raise the challenges. Remember failures can interrupt you but take it as a challenge and march forward. You have to reach the final lap to take the trophy of success securely in your hands. Meditation Listen to yourself. Meditate each day for a new beginning and a fresher day that is in the offering. Consult yourself for taking decisions and persuade your mind to make the best of the decisions. Body Language There are many things that boost confidence in a person from the file that he is holding to the tie that he is wearing. Choose the best outfit that gives you that comfort zone and elevate your confidence. Walk straight with your head held high. This itself exhibits the confidence that is abundant in you. Make the first impression the best one. From a good hand shake to a beautiful smile, everything counts.. Breathe Properly Whenever you feel that you are low in confidence, try taking some deep breaths. This is a great exercise to tackle nervousness and can revitalize you
How To Develop Self Discipline
The term ‘self discipline’ is defined as the behavior which is guided by the ‘mind’, rather than by the ‘heart’. The selfdisciplinarian attitude is very much essential to become successful in life, as it entails foregoing the momentary enjoyments and gratifications in order to achieve something big in the long term. But this sort of self-monitoring attitude has to come from within each person, as it cannot be heaped upon by any external force. That voluntary spirit or will power will help you in setting and accomplishing your goals. Some people think that discipline is linked to liberty. On the contrary, those who are disorderly are deficient in enjoying liberties that accompany those who have the talent and dexterity required to execute certain tasks such as adventure sports or learning new things. Many people know the importance of practicing self discipline but are still unable to do so. This socalled ‘inability’ is nothing else but the lack of will and purpose to achieve the goal. The secret to overcome this hindrance lies in the person’s strong sense of determination, which should be inculcated to really become successful. As they say, “Success does not come easy”, you have got to strive hard to gain what you really want in your lives, and the first step is to cultivate self discipline. Fortunately, for those who desire to build self-discipline, there is a way out. By adopting the tips given in the article below, you can instill self-discipline in yourself. Tips To Develop Self Discipline Getting To Know Yourselves When you act according to what you know is right rather than what you feel like doing is known as discipline. For that, you need to delve deep into yourself, and know yourself better. This can yield optimum results when you put your thoughts in a written format. Doing this, will provide you a thorough perception of what you are and what your mission in life is, and what you have to do to fulfill your ambition. Dedication By,just writing down your resolutions, you cannot hope for miracles to occur and that too overnight. A concerted and sustained effort over a period of time is required to help you gain self-discipline. If you find it tough to stick to your resolutions then you have got to ensure that you abide first by what you have planned, and then follow them one by one; not all at once. In this way, you can surely adhere to your resolution, and implement them dedicatedly. Boldness Usually, disciplining the self is by no means an easy task. It requires you to overcome your desires, temper, temptations, and a host of other stimulations, both internal and external. And, it is easier said than done. But, it can indeed be done through a series of constant auto-suggestions, which are capable of continuously reminding you of your goals, ambitions, and aims. You can never hope to escape from these distractions, but you can steel your guts to confront and tackle them. This can make you stronger mentally.
Pronunciation Pronunciation is perhaps one sticky ground where most language learners tend to bungle. associate it with your every day life and practice it more often. Thus. To avert these kinds of hitches. will boost your determination and thereby enhance your focus to accomplish the seemingly difficult jobs with relative ease. you can always fall back on yourselves by reliving certain positive moments. Read on for more. as he has trained up his mind to overrule his heart. Not only does it give one an upper hand when travelling to foreign territories. The biggest impediment towards mastering a new language perhaps lies on one’s take on it. A person who is self-disciplined can achieve whatever he sets out to. acquainting yourself with some of the most common problems which come in the way of mastering a language will help. which makes it worth a try. Most languages come with irregular rules that may not make much sense to you. which forms an integral part of our lives. This is the foremost reason as to why many of us find it extremely difficult to pick up an alien language and even before we learn to mumble a few new words. However. The following points are geared to help you identify with some of the most common problems in learning a new language. we can definitely develop selfdiscipline. When you find the going tough. by diligently implementing the above techniques. Treading an unfamiliar territory doesn't come easy. Today. The biggest blooper most people tend to commit when trying to learn a new language is that they often fail to take it seriously. . loads of practice. more so when you are new to an alien tongue. we fumble and give up. Remember. Difficulties In Learning A Language Doing It The Right Way! Learning a new language is not easy and getting to master one often requires more than just will power.Auto Tutoring Talking to yourself can do wonders to your self confidence. the number of professional benefits attached to learning a foreign language. before you get down to the learning experience. and also motivate you to pursue your tasks with renewed vigor. Doing so. fluency is a skill that only comes with the right kind of intonation and accent. there are others for whom picking up a new lingo may be a jaw breaking deal. Problems In Learning A Language The tongue trying a new taste is similar to the brain grasping a new language. While learning a new language can be a cinch for some.Learning a language isn’t an easy bet. you need to be extra attentive in what you learn. it is also known to boost one’s cognitive skill highly. Add to this. the need for learning a new language extends more than just a hobby. and developing it requires a little skill and not to forget.
Try to speak the new language as much as possible. let this thing not be deterrent to your efforts. it is important to choose your words carefully. Nearly every language relies heavily on words to convey the right meaning. as said before. Well. perseverance pays. often quit it midway after months of pointless struggle.However. Getting a grasp on the words will help you in coming up with a meaningful sentence! Grammar Getting the grammar right can put one in a fix. learning a new language never comes easy to many. A person is likely to commit major bloopers. Thus. Visual Reinforcement Visualize everything you hear and you are likely to remember it for long. Things do not just end with learning the right pronunciation. if not rightly arranged. remember. A good grasp over grammar is perhaps the cornerstone for a successful learning experience. While it is likely for you to fumble when trying to speak a new language. The extra effort that you put in would help you sail out of all the problems and difficulties. it is important to rise above your reservations and understand how a word is perfectly pronounced. in some languages the verb comes before the subject. Visual reinforcement is one tried-and-tested way of effective learning and it stands true for learning new languages too. Nearly all language has its own set of rules that may be befuddling to one’s general grammatical sense. it will also give you an edge over the other speakers and help you to evolve as a fluent spokesperson. At times of failure and disappointment. can come across as a puzzling jumble to others and mar communication. Voice it! Do not fear to lend your voice to the new language. The idea is to connect the words with the objects and establish a basic relation between the two. it is important to get your words right! Words. while in some others it is reversed. more so when you are trying to tame the grammatical rules of a foreign tongue. Not only will this make you into a confident speaker. Next would be to clearly fit them into a sentence to make more sense and less confusion. Word Order When mastering a new language. without the knowledge of the same. unintentional though. who struggle to learn a new language. it is important to hold your reigns and put in your efforts in mastering a language as diligently as possible. You need to practice it on your own to get a grasp of it. For instance. How To Grow Old Gracefully . Thus. Patience! Most people.
deteriorating brains and. Follow What You Left Behind You must have always had a hobby or interest that you used as a stress buster or to unwind and rejuvenate. If you are still alive and do not have any major life-threatening ailment. you could develop a new interest that could keep you busy and happy. Learn anything new. physical ailments. making crochet. However. this is the right time for you to pursue them once again. inspite of all the problems that we face. It is easier said than done to adhere to the ‘why-afraid-of-death-when-it-is-certain’ saying but it is best not to think about it. especially if you haven’t kept in excellent health with regular exercise. You could teach your grandchildren to sew. In any case. which are often the cause of your complaints with life. from operating the CD player so that you can watch movies or play music CDs. they should be told to your doctor or physician and not to anybody among your friend circle. Since you have fewer responsibilities now. or writing. especially if it is not too hard on your eyesight. Tips On Ageing Gracefully Here’s what you can do to age gracefully: Thou Shalt Not Sulk Or Complain Sulking or complaining about what you do not have will never let you come out of the past and will prevent you from being happy and your true self. Is Knowledge Learning something new will bring back the life that you think you were losing. It will also serve to bring back a purpose into your life. or teach them a few home remedies. . It will give a purpose to your life and also take away the bitterness that you feel. What’s New. at 60 you cannot hope to go mountaineering. Here are some tips on ageing gracefully. people have so many problems of their own and need not carry the burden of your problems too. cook. wrinkles. You may have all the valid reasons to sulk and complain but you must remember that people like to be around happy and cheerful people and not around wet dishrags who constantly complain that life is being unfair to them. you will live. Of course. you should take care of your body and mind. Women can also take the liberty of knitting. there is very little that can stop you from either listening to music or reading or watching your favourite films on DVDs. Many of us waste our lives – especially by treating our bodies badly – and end up fearing each day because we know that we have played havoc with ourselves. Defying age is not as much about the body as it is about the attitude and the outlook towards life. studies say that if you have the will to live. If you are suffering from physical ailments. Also. there are ways by which we can age gracefully.Ageing is something that people fear – it brings with it the natural decay of the human form and mind. You could also learn to use the computer and keep in touch with family members – grandchildren or even other family members who live abroad and you cannot contact them ever so often over the phone. However. weakening bones. If your mobility is limited. finally death.
We tend to randomly rush into a mirage of the mythical pot of gold at the end of an illusory rainbow. extraordinary vision and the irrepressible desire to make it happen. and the pursuit of prosperity sends most of us into quite a tizzy. Tips To Achieve Entrepreneurial Success Striking it rich on one’s own. success eludes most of us because the passion. and learn to strike that elusive gold on your own steam in the process. exceptional passion. Bill Gates. Walt Disney and Oprah Winfrey – have more in common than just being names on the ‘Rich and Famous’ list to most of us at first glance. Rupert Murdoch. Nothing sells like the business of getting rich. which sets those successful entrepreneurs apart from the rest of the teeming millions is woefully missing in most of the aspiring entrepreneurs. Characteristics Of Successful Entrepreneurs The road to entrepreneurial success is typically characterized by an incredibly intricate labyrinth of hardships and setbacks. You need to laugh together. why go through the wringer if you can do it right from the start. is often the next best thing in life to inheriting a fortune. lies at the core of most entrepreneurial success stories. sincere effort. Persistence. so take heart. you. share experiences together and inspire each other to come out of the sulking modes. and that is that they are all very successful entrepreneurs. with a little help from those who have it down pat from close personal encounters with adversity in the pursuit of their own dream? The characteristics most successful . and help yourself to a sampling of some of the outstanding traits that make an entrepreneur truly successful. However. and your friends will only end up spending your quality time complaining rather than being happy. Donald Trump. People of your age may also tell you how best to deal with your problems – physical or otherwise The Traits Of Successful Entrepreneurs Most of us can confess to being quite sold out to the idea of getting rich someday. Joyce Hall. However. History bears ample testimony to several such stories of entrepreneurial success.Friends Are There… Make friends who share the same interests rather than those who share the same ailments! If latter is the case. Friends should pull you out of your complaining spell instead of only feeding into it. clarity of purpose. And since few successful entrepreneurs are naturally born. they say. overcome only by the relentless perseverance of the inspired few.
andThreats. and save up the rest as contingency for unexpected setbacks. Weaknesses. Make an impact with a well-timed. Adapting and adjusting are the mantras to stay in the reckoning. While some get it naturally right from the word go. Entrepreneurial success is often determined as much by one’s past achievement patterns as by adherence to a smart blueprint. without altering the original game-plan too much. some learn from trial and error. but it is in the individual application of these tried and tested formulae wherein the fate of an ingenious venture lies. ideally all year round. It is a quick assessment of your Strengths. Make your venture count with clever promotions and advertising. the traits of successful entrepreneurs may appear rather easy to emulate on the face of it. Reinvest earned revenue back into an appropriate sector of your business for better future returns. The spirit of enterprise is what these shining examples from history have made a habit of living up to. well-placed launch strategy. even before your plans have gone to the drawing board. Stick To The Master Plan Do not stray from a well designed venture plan unless it is to keep course with market dynamics. The Unique Selling Point (USP) of your venture makes all the difference. It is a simple but very authentic exercise done quickly by jotting down honest observations under each section.entrepreneurs exhibit and which have been briefly explained below. and identify untapped audiences and buyers. To sum it up. and it won’t be long before one can justifiably earn the title of a “self-made” person. translating lessons from past failures into future successes. but it should also has a solid and sound economic ground. thereby helping one identify the best possible way to approach his/her dream for entrepreneurship. Make The Economics Work A venture has to not only be financially viable. and drawing up a conclusive overall assessment of one’s plus points and areas of development. Opportunities. are the best known ways to get there. So make sure that your venture fills a much felt void. Success comes at the end of hard labor and a little bit of luck. Characteristics Of A Leader . Conduct A SWOT Analysis A SWOT analysis is the quickest peep you will get into your entrepreneurial prospects. Chalk Out A Realistic Launch Plan Visibility matters most in the launch of a new venture. Survey The Market There is no magic potion to ensure success.
A leader should be a visionary. in the present times. a leader’s plan is useless. which is the price which all of us must pay to achieve any goal that is worthwhile. While most of the characteristics are acquired through learning. a leader. possessing good communication skills is important. . which can be done through good communication only. development and experience. He must possess different characteristics to help him show others the way to success. Thus. should be in a position to think quickly and make the most of a given situation. However. one must have a vision to take his team and society further. Good Communication Skills Without communicating the plan of action to the team members.Vince Lombardi. Given here are some leadership traits and characteristics that define a leader in today’s world. becoming a good leader is not easy for a person. Quick Thinking Thanks to the stiff economic competition faced by businessmen and professionals alike. accomplishing it with confidence is equally important. It so happens that prompt decisions without knowledge turn out to be erroneous for the future of the organization." . They are made by hard effort. a leader would not be able to take proper decisions to lead his group. He is a hope who can bring about change and improve the field to which he belongs. A leader when chosen is expected to accomplish all the tasks and duties as stated and anticipated. Without confidence. they are not born. who has set his goals and knows how to achieve them. Knowledge Quick thinking will not be appropriate if a leader does not have the right knowledge. being aware of all the developments taking place and having a proper knowledge of the field in which a person is working is essential for becoming a successful leader. for the betterment of the entire organization. Confident While having a set vision is quintessential."Leaders are made. some people are born with them. Hence. Whether the characteristics are natural or developed. A good leader must have confidence and be able to fulfill the set targets. a great leader will always work upon the best of these traits to achieve excellence. quick action is essential for a great leader. A team of efficient members is ineffective if it does not have an envisioned leader. opportunities and challenges change unpredictably and hence. Leadership Traits And Characteristics Vision To be a great leader. training. for communicating. Markets. Additionally. a leader should be able to motivate people around him effectively.
This will make communication between a leader and his team better. no one will. He should know what to do and plan out an organized approach to accomplish the tasks. All this is just due to the lack of confidence. Let out that side of yourself that you had always been too afraid to examine. Talking about shyness. A frightened and apprehensive leader takes the team no where. Hence. then fret not. If you are also one amongst them. a leader has to be disciplined in order to handle all such situations patiently. Enough democracy should be permitted to allow people to think freely and come up with new and innovative ideas. a leader must be approachable for his people. Remember. who knows you might end up losing your dream girl to some other guy. Thus. a leader should first set an example through his character. Read on further to find some tips to help you overcome your shyness among women and build your confidence. which is very essential while approaching a woman. This would also pave the way for the team members to chip in valuable suggestions. wherein you sit back in the shadows and wait for life to happen to you rather than making a life of your own. Humility The qualities of a leader make him stand apart from the rest. best left to ‘little’ girls. Risk Taking A leader must be courageous enough to take risks as every opportunity comes along with some amount of risk. Democratic A leader should not start leading his team in an autocratic style. Often. allowing the leader to know about the problems faced by his people. men take a step backward and prefer to admire the girl from miles behind rather than going ahead and talking to them. Shyness is a way of avoiding conflicts. having a good moral character is one of the most important qualities of a great leader How To Overcome Shyness With Women Shyness is a wasted emotion. Have Character To motivate his people. This increases the chances of a team being successful tremendously. Do you have a constant fear of being rejected by the woman of your dreams? If yes. . Thus.Discipline A leader is one who leads a team of individuals and looks after more than one area. if you do not take charge of the events that happen in your life. one of the most popular situations wherein shyness dominates the scenario is when a guy wants to talk to a girl.
Socialize Socializing can be another way of improving your self esteem and confidence. This will help you in getting rid of your shyness and will increase your confidence level. this is simply not acceptable by women folks and they are likely to find it boring. You can look up to women from different age groups at different places. handsome guys have experienced failure. remember that you are likely to be rejected many a times. friends. a hobby club. Gradually. You can question them on their family. etc.Tips For Overcoming Shyness With Girls Emphasize Your Positives Most shy guys focus on things that they do not possess. You will also find girls that share similar interests as yours. You can start off with questioning her something that will trigger some response from her side. Instead. Accept this situation of being rejected as a learning experience. This would give a boost to your confidence and self-esteem. Proceed Steadily Take small steps to approach girls to overcome your shyness. Have small conversations without focusing on whether they will talk to you or ignore you. so you are no exception. they often end up talking about themselves most of the times. grocery shop. while approaching women. to get them involved in the conversation. participate in team activities or become a part of large groups. improve your learning skills and figure out different topics to talk with them. thereby overcoming shyness. try to figure out what incorrect actions of yours made them take such a step. like library. do not expect to get their personal contacts or convince them to come on a date at the very first meeting. Hence. Note. get hold of some topics to talk with girls and begin your conversation with her. . New hobbies add a new dimension to your personality thereby enhancing your overall being. which you should accept with honor. do not get depressed. Also. A simple way to overcome shyness would be by concentrating on your positive attributes. Even the jaw-dropping. At such places. such as a foreign language or a new sport. Be Prepared To Be Rejected On the road to overcoming shyness. Learn To Listen Since shy men do not know what to talk about with women. You have just spotted a cute girl in your college and are dying to talk to her. Practice Talking to Women The best way to overcome shyness with women is to practice talking to them. Try your hand at learning new things. Concentrate on your conversation and overcome your shyness with them initially. Since women have their personal reasons for rejecting men. Make the most of this opportunity and talk to them. you will meet a number of people where you can interact with them. etc. but do not have the courage to do so! Pass a simple smile and say a “hi”. Join a gym. interests. thereby ignoring their positive qualities.
Many of us who have gone through a failed relationship tend to forget how many men and women go through life without ever experiencing love at all and have to lie to themselves to say that it is unimportant. Also. but how you judiciously you spend the money is completely up to you. no amount of regretting will change that fact. if you find out that what you are regretting was beyond your control. Take Charge It would really serve you best if you realise that what you seem to think “went wrong with you” was really your own choice and the sooner you accept that. for there is no lesson to be learnt out of it. Wake Up. Forget the Poison Ivy Another major problem with regret and regretful feelings is the fact that they do not let one enjoy and appreciate what is good. Also. just to make a living. all those who are trying to enter the show business in our country often end up working as waiters at popular restaurants. you must snap out of it as quickly as possible. you may not have a job that pays you well. Regret not only lets a person wallow in the complacent mud-pool of self-pity. in a country like India. what we can do with what is available to us. A serious reality check will throw . For instance. it is all the more important to get rid of such feelings of regret. It is pointless to blame oneself for what is beyond our control. People who do not have satisfying jobs often forget that. that man has ever known – regret. is definitely under our control. only in that case there is a lesson that can be learnt out of it.” Those two words signal one of the biggest enemies residing within one’s psyche. jobs or friends – make us incapable of appreciating what we do have and can do. Thus. If. Here are ways in which you can get rid of regretful feelings Ways To Rid Yourself Of Regret Here are some ways in which you can get rid of regretful feelings: Is It In My Control? You must never forget that not everything is in our control – many a times not even how many years we shall get to live. there are thousands who cannot afford a decent meal in a day. In fact. So. the better it is. what went wrong with you was something you could have helped.How To Get Rid Of Regret Someone rightly said “’If Only’ are the two saddest words in the world. It is for this reason that we have to train our minds to get rid of such feelings of guilt and self-pity. However. but also stops one from moving ahead with life. Smell The Tulips. and would not hesitate to take up any job that others would consider ‘menial’. the same regretful feelings – of having lost money. many a times.
doing daily affirmations and finding out new ways of keeping you on your toes and dealing with approaching problems.some light over the fact that you were the cause of what has happened to you. No task can be mastered at one go. Hence. Since many of us nowadays are in a position to make the choices that we want instead of what we have to do or what is available to us. it will only leave you back with a feeling of guilt. adversity. On the road to success. Instead. It is seen as an act of cowardice to not accept one’s mistake. you would be tempted with the thought of quitting the task. Never Give Up To continue working towards your ambition and prevent from falling down on the numerous bumps on the road. In case you are unable to observe yourself. the journey towards success is not an easy one. Inculcate a habit of writing down your goals.Martha Graham. one must also remember that the time that is lost will not come back and that it is worthless to think about it. Success is just like a ladder. to find tips on how to quit quitting and achieve the success you had long been aspiring for. Perseverance forms the most significant key to achieving success in any field. as you are likely to face a number of pitfalls and obstructions. What you do with the time that lies in front of you is what you must focus on How To Quit Quitting “Fire is the test of gold. being perseverant is essential to achieve the keys to the door of success. of strong men” . Bear in mind that perseverance is what distinguishes the average person from a genius. you have to regularly motivate yourself. Observe the situations when you are looking for excuses. where a person steps onto it and undergoes a lot of hard work to finally reach the top. However. ask your friends to observe the same and help you out. A lot of heartache will vanish once one has learnt to accept one’s fate and mistake too. but you need to realize that quitting will not make your task any easier. the end fruit would surely be a sweet one. Close friends are more likely to know you better and will definitely come to your rescue. Tips To Quit Quitting Keep Yourself Aware Do not let your laziness or fear urge you to quit or procrastinate. remember. Analyze The Cost & Benefit . Nonetheless. Go through the lines. It requires absolute will power and determination to be successful. instead of telling the truth. it is important to stick to those choices or accept one’s fault and make amends.
taking all the factors into consideration. Concentrate on a single bad habit at one time so that you can deal with the problems in a much better way. Most of the time the pain the person feels due to rejection conditions his or her mind where the person tends to withdraw into a shell fearing future rejection. They also tend to develop a reluctance to ask anything. cannot flourish in a negative environment. Perseverance. on the other hand. Happy thoughts build up the self-esteem. When you create your own happiness. which in turn helps you to overcome the fear of rejection. Stress Management Stress management and level of perseverance are highly related. So. Tips On Getting Rid Of The Fear Of Rejection • The fear of rejection leaves a very depressing mood. . That is why it is very necessary that in order to maintain a stress free life the fear of rejection should be overcome. Stress overwhelms a person. This state of mind can harm the relationship that he or she has with other people. One way to counter it is to create happy thoughts. thinking that their advance will be rejected. There is no use to move ahead and try to accomplish an ambition that is likely to cost you and your family the entire life. to achieve success and quit the habit of quitting. Stay Away from Bad Habits Do everything possible to put a complete stop to all your bad habits. They tend to focus more and more on other people’s reaction to their actions that they tend to become paranoid and miserable.Observe and calculate the cost and benefit of what you are planning to achieve. Comparisons and competition is fairly common among children and this result in one or other form of rejection. Try to get rid of any behavior that is stopping you from achieving your goals. Most people have felt rejection and the way they tackle it after being snubbed determines if they would develop a fear of rejection. To know more read the article below for the various tips on getting rid of the fear of rejection. even if it is for help. you need to first overcome stress in order to achieve your goals in a better way How To Get Rid Of Fear Of Rejection The fear of rejection most commonly has its roots in childhood incidences. Think practically and make an honest and positive decision. you will be less dependent on others and also develop a confident outlook. These bad habits could be either simple negative thinking or fighting procrastination. The person can become over dependent and may always look for loyalty signs in others. clouding his/her current thinking and forcing the person to think negatively.
The main fear of rejection stems from feeling of helplessness that stems from being unable to control the external outcomes. • • • • • • How To Be Assertive Most people who consider being assertive to be a difficult task often assume that others who are assertive find it easy to be one. when and where it all went wrong and then address the issue. Let your mistakes be your teacher. so much that it hampers your growth and productivity. get influenced by the aggressiveness of the people. the fear of rejection won’t be so profound. While aggressive people do not respect others’ perspective and can hurt others when influencing them. If you are in a shaky relationship then it is better to end it before you start developing the symptoms of rejection phobia. However. when you are independent you will also develop a better ability to take care of yourself. Set an attitude where you give unconditionally. . Indulging in hobbies will take your mind away from the problem.• • Be optimistic. If you do not expect anything. The fear of rejection can only be conquered steadily. aggressive and docile. Find out how. Set goals that you can reach. While expectation is good. Cultivate hobbies. Assertive people. Also. people who are docile are unable to defend their own state of being and hence. people confuse between being assertive and being aggressive. you be yourself rather than what others wish you to be. You will have to go slow and adopt a systematic approach. In fact there is a thin line between being assertive. While you are in the relationship it is better that. Almost everyone feels anxious or wrong footed in some situations or the other. Self-sufficiency will ensure that you do not get helpless when you experience the signs of separation. With a little bit of practice. Often. reality has another story to narrate. Depending on people will enhance your rejection phobia. Learn to appreciate things even if you are not interested in it. on the other hand. don’t expect too much. you will be better able to rectify them. Your focus should be on your actions rather than how people will react. Try to be as independent as possible. Being independent will also teach you to address your needs on your own. This is the best way to do things that you truly enjoy. Don’t rely on your friends and family. you can appear confident and speak assertively as well. A cheerful disposition and positive outlook will help you create happy thoughts and a cheerful atmosphere that will uplift your spirits. Learning from mistakes will also teach you to be more careful later. Acting confidently is what makes the difference. When you know your mistakes.
whining. Start off with a positive statement to set the tone for the conversation. Tips For Being Assertive Expectation Prepare yourself mentally and set your expectations clear to others. This will incline the people to put themselves out again in the future. Create Rapport Connect with the group that you are speaking to during the introduction itself. A sense of gratitude and a smile on the face can do wonders for you. This way. simply state your message in a matter of fact voice. smile and feel in control of the situation. you will be better able to take control of the situation and achieve your expectations. others too would be nervous andanxious. to acknowledge the other person’s feelings or situation and stand up for your rights. you will speak with more authority and be better able to deal with things coming up. Given here are some tips on being assertive and confident. Also. acknowledge their efforts by thanking them. respect the other individual’s views and opinions. Think Of The Language You Use The language that you use while conversing is extremely important. This would give a boost to your confidence levels and make you feel positive and secured. Always use a voice that can be heard and should be interesting in pitch and delivery. Use Of Voice The tone of voice has a major impact on whether you will be heard or not. For a positive impact on the person or group. Do not expect others to read what is on your mind. Always hold your head up high to show that you are a force to be reckoned with. Articulate exactly what you expect from others and the reason behind your expectations. .are balanced individuals who though pour out their mind at the time of influencing others. make sure that you do not intimidate others. Do not raise your voice in manner of shouting. friendly. Creating a good rapport would ensure effective communication. If you look intimidated. Sustain your voice by taking a deep breath and think about the message that you would be conveying. nagging. be open. When speaking to a group of people. Instead. Physical Presence Your body language plays a major role in determining what others feel about you. Never ask people to do you a favor else they will consider doing a favor as part of their job. Remember To Thank If people have done as expected by you. plan in advance your speech. Be Prepared When you are prepared. Use the “I” language. such as “I want” or “I feel”. and so on. Create positive boundaries to know what you are most comfortable at.
You can eliminate your unwanted thoughts by indulging in an activity that keeps you away from thinking them. cook. maybe a bad experience. Unwanted thoughts can orbit around anything. as soon as you realize that you’ve been thinking those ‘unwanted thoughts’ – Open fire! Get rid of your unwanted thoughts. read a book. Getting Rid Of Unwanted Thoughts Shoot At Sight You’ve got to be quick here. Binge on an activity that does not see you thinking the thoughts you shouldn’t be thinking. Your thoughts play a big role here and regular meditation can help you get rid of your unwanted thoughts. you’ve got to be quick. A nap or a good night’s rest can help you get . watch a good movie. a distasteful relationship. Make up your mind and read on ways to get rid of your unwanted thoughts. persistent and stay in control. It’s not really easy to stop these thoughts from popping in your head. Remember. Basically. Sleep It Away Sleep is a great doctor. do not threaten.If You Do Not Get What You Want If you are not able to achieve success. learn to destroy it. Be calm. Start thinking of something else. your work and maybe even your life. the thoughts that nag. there’s a way”. They are such an issue because they tend to have a negative influence on your personality and psyche and at times can even take a toll on your health. annoy. Distract yourself. How To Get Rid Of Unwanted Thoughts What are unwanted thoughts and why are they such an issue? Unwanted thoughts are the thoughts that shouldn’t be a part of your thinking process. bully or shout. an enemy. a healer. but it’s also not impossible to eliminate them from your mental space. in fact. Indulge In An Activity A sure shot way to deal with unnecessary thoughts is to sail away from them. before the thought envelops your mind. something that makes you feel good as this will help do away with your unwanted thoughts. or simply go on a walk. and do not complement your overall sense of well-being can safely be considered as unwanted and unhealthy. exercise. the thoughts that are derogatory to you and your life. Meditate Meditation is a discipline through which the patron can exercise control over the mind and dwell in a state of relaxation and heightened awareness. you don’t want to be caught in a web of derogatory thoughts. Remember the timeless adage – “where there’s a will. Repeat yourself again and ask your audience to consider the implications of not doing as requested by you. play a game.
Most people may not be too proud about a visit to a psychiatrist. The thoughts on these issues may lose themselves while you sleep. get yourself some. The unwanted thoughts syndrome is a common disorder and a fair amount of people have been plagued with the same. An effective leader is one who guides his followers in the right direction and helps them attain the desired goal. but developed. A leader. you can sleep over it. Apart from being committed towards his/her work. go ahead. A leader’s keenness. if you think. should have an undying and enduring . Sleep is a great weapon against pestering thoughts. Only then will the words be effective.rid of your superfluous thoughts. This change has lead to an alteration in the required qualities of a good leader as well. Bear in mind that leadershipskills are not inherited. you need to get a few things straight. making sure of the completion of the work and meeting the deadlines and targets. When you’ve had your eight hours of sleep. Some unwanted thoughts may be an issue. enthusiasm and openmindedness assists in encouraging his/her followers to take more efforts towards the goals and achieve them. Leadership is all about daring. you feel better and refreshed. How To Be A Good Leader With people and organizations changing drastically. hence. but there is nothing to be ashamed of. in order to be a good leader. The best way to lead subordinates or juniors is by setting an example through his/her life and actions. and when you feel refreshed. The interest that he takes in realizing the goals motivates his followers to work effectively. This is when you need to be going in for some expert advice. Be Enthusiastic A good leader should be enthusiastic. as they would be accompanied by action. you need help. dreaming and devoting oneself towards the fulfillment of the dreams. This comprises of delegating work to others. What Makes A Good Leader Set An Example A person has to be trustworthy and possess a good character. before going down to the qualities. Read on further to know the traits and qualities which make a good leader. If you’re troubled by something and if someone’s getting to you and you’re feeling a bit obsessed. and can vary from a temperate to a serious psychological disorder. However. Consult A Psychiatrist If you’ve tried the above remedies and have still failed to get rid of your unwanted thoughts. a good leader should also be concerned for his people. effective leadership styles too has undergone immense change. you think better and healthier. So. You need a psychiatrist who can help you deal with your unwanted thoughts. maybe the issue is a lot more serious than you think it is.
which leads to repentance. By sorting out the weaknesses and lauding the strengths. it can be safely assumed that it is the people who make a person a leader. Be Confident A true leader is undoubtedly confident. The right leadership style is required in every walk of professional life. Hence. understand the potential of your people and allocate duties accordingly. All the circumstances should be handled with a cool mind. For proper execution of your work. whether you own a business. especially in case of critical situations. While calmness and composure helps in taking the right decision. Effective leadership skills cannot just be stumbled upon. By effectively executing the tasks. Keep Your Cool An important characteristic of a good leader is the ability to keep cool in all kinds of situations. it is rightly . A leader should not lose his control in such situations. at the right time. manage it or are an employee looking to make your way up to the corporate ladder. And remember. A confident leader is in a better position to take the right decisions and effective actions. In fact leadership skills are much more than speaking confidently and carrying a serious demeanor. which would otherwise result in incorrect decisions. it is the success of subordinates and juniors that makes a leader successful Effective Leadership Skills The secret to great leadership is about having the leadership skills to be able to deal with people in a delicate yet powerful manner. Know Thy People Know and understand your people to become a good leader. one must possess an exclusive set of human relations and interpersonal skills. a leader can take the subordinates and juniors to the path of success. A leader should be self-confident. Make good selections. the leader achieves excellence which is a key determinant for a good leader. To be an effective leader. without which he would not be able to earn the trust and respect from his followers.enthusiasm about the work or specified goal in order to give the subordinates a boost to attain or meet the targets. hasty decisions are often the result of stress and anxiety. delegate them responsibilities and choose people who will implement your decisions successfully. they requireinvestment of time and energy to perfect and craft your skills. Therefore. A good leader is judged by fair and right choices that he makes. Hence. Be Reasonable & Understanding A leader is mostly chosen as a result of unanimous decision by the people or the group. leader should not overlook the expectations and problems of his people.
a leader must be low in sentimental attachments and insensitive to hardship. High Energy A leader should be highly energetic since he would have to invest in long hours of work to raise the company. Tough-mindedness A good leader should be practical.said. Conscientiousness Since leaders are dominated by a sense of duty. logical and to-the-point. Read to know the different traits of an effective leader. well-honed leadership skill is the most important component for being successful in the businessworld. Maturity Personal power and recognition should be put aside to focus on the development of the employees in order to be a good leader. An effective leader must be optimistic and open to changes coming across him. more emphasis is laid upon team work by business leaders. A leader should possess a never-say-die-spirit and should always to ready for challenges. Traits Of An Effective Leader Emotional Stability A good leader should be capable of tolerating frustration and stress. The person must be able to adjust well and have the psychological maturity to deal with anything that he/she is likely to face. A good leader establishes an adult-adult relationship with his employees to encourage and motivate . free of guilt and unaffected by prior mistakes or failures. he should also be quick and alert while doing so. rather than ruling them. However. a successful leader should be very self-disciplined and have a need for order and a high standard of excellence. Team Orientation These days. A leader should be secure. One must be mature enough to recognize that more can be accomplished by empowering others. while dealing with other people. Hence. Self-assurance Other common characteristics of an effective leader are self-confidence and resiliency. while being a leader. they tend to be demanding in character. He/she should have an undying spirit and enduring enthusiasm about the work and should be capable of inducing the same attitude into his team. He should be competitive and capable of taking decisions on behalf of his entire team. Since he/she has to face lots of risks and criticism. Enthusiasm Leaders are assumed to be active and expressive. Dominance An effective leader must be assertive in his thinking style and have a confident attitude.
this is considered as the most unimpressive handshakes among all. Read on further to know what our handshake says about us. It conveys power. rather than an adult-child relationship. meet new people or close a deal or agreement. Did you know that a lot can be deduced about a person from a single handshake? While a firm handshake with the hand facing downwards and arm extended shows that you are confident. This simply shows that the person is simply not interested and is indifferent towards you. Prison Handshake A person making a prison handshake will offer a firm hand keeping your hand in his for a long duration. confidence. Also known as a limp-fish handshake. thereby unifying and captivating them. What Your Handshake Says About You Body language is one of the forms of communication that makes use of various body areas or parts to convey a message. Through this vision.them. resulting in personal rewards and values. Jackhammer Handshake . A handshake is one such gesture that is used to greet others. Charisma Since leaders are perceived larger than life by most people. Charismatic leaders are better capable of arousing strong emotions among the employees by defining a vision. The way we shake hands shows the kind of a person we are. uncomfortable or nervous. a hand pointing upwards is a weak handshake thereby indicating that you are shy. not willing to give it back to you. a leader better motivates employees to achieve their future goals. wherein the former orders and the latter obeys. What Does Your Handshake Mean Flabby Handshake A flabby handshake is made by a person who is a pessimist. charisma plays an integral role in gaining the trust of the employees. Robot Handshake A robot handshake is one that is offered automatically without any noticeable thought or feeling. People making such a handshake seem to be expecting something from your side. character and professionalism.
Some people assume this handshake to be a sexual connotation. Queen’s Handshake A person who offers his fingers. this is the best handshake to execute. maintaining too much eye contact can make the other person uncomfortable. communicates your confidence and translates your sincerity. with an exception of very few people mastering this technique. Also. looking elsewhere while in a conversation with someone is actually considered to be an insult. This is done to cover up their feelings of diffidence. Also. While avoiding eye contact during the conversation can indicate that you are nervous or trustworthy. In case you are one of those who feel uncomfortable at looking directly into a person’s eyes. instead of his palm for making a handshake is said to be making a Queen’s handshake. Normal Handshake A normal handshake is one that is made briefly and firmly. Next-to-the-body Handshake People who are not willing to take risks. It is also advisable not to stare directly into the eyes of a person. such as politicians. this is what you can do. How To Use Eye Contact For Conversation Success Eyes have been the windows to the soul. it is difficult to lie while looking directly into a person’s eyes. Read on further to find tips for using eye contact for successful conversation. How To Use Eye Contact Properly In Conversations • Make a good balance between making eye contact and looking away. Do not look into the person’s eyes • . Making an eye contact while conversing signals your presence. making eye contact with another person provides a feeling of intimacy and openness.People who are a little inflexible tend to make a jackhammer handshake as they think that their way is the right one. come what may. At some places across the world. This is made by keeping the arm close to the body and bending it only at the elbow to perform a handshake. A lot can be conveyed from a person’s eyes. Using eye contact effectively proves to be boon for establishing close relationships with people. Squeezing Handshake People who tend to show their strength and power make a squeezing handshake. This handshake indicates a sense of superiority. make a next-to-the-body handshake. To convey confidence and professionalism. They will make a dynamic and forceful handshake indicating their power and determination. it might reflect over-confidence and impudence. For most people.
Include facial expressions. While some are born with this trait. like smiling. Glancing too much towards the room or looking at other people around makes the person feel dejected or ignored. In some cultures. make sure that you make only the required eye contact.directly. While you are conversing with a person. which is highly regarded. making contact is not allowed for a woman towards a man who is not related to her. Here are some pointers. soften the stare by glancing away from the person at a gap of few seconds. Every culture has its own rules with regard to eye contact. Mastering the art of public speaking is easy for some. a woman making eye contact is considered to be sign of an unrespectable woman • • • • Public Speaking Skills King of bollywood. instead. It’s the ability to inform and keep the audience interested. allowing your eyes go a little bit out of focus. invoke emotions. “My first rule of public speaking…if you don’t strike oil in 3 minutes…stop boring!” The ability to deliver a great speech in public is the skill. others can develop it by acquiring certain skills. nodding and gazing. which will help you understand and acquire the skills needed for public speaking. necessary for making it memorable for audience. make sure that you bring back your attention to the person’s face with whom you are conversing. A great public speaker has the power to spellbind the audience. Essential Public Speaking Skills . which marks the success of speech. Shahrukh Khan gave tips on public speaking to all. While Caucasian people living in North America prefer making a lot of eye contact. and even trigger reactions from them. Show keen interest by gazing at his/her face every now and then. with the change of the conversation. Hence. This would help you remain in your comfort zone without showing that you are nervous. • Some people stare too intently into the eyes of the person without looking away. look gently at the eye area. Keep your facial muscles relaxed and change your facial expressions. Think of the last memorable talk or presentation you attended. In case you are one of them. Just the knowledge of the subject is not enough to make your speech a success. while it’s a challenge for others. such as the eyebrows or bridge of the nose. In other cultures. thereby making the other person uncomfortable. This makes you look friendly. most talks are easy to forget because they lack the impact. There are many more ingredients to it. So. while conversing with such people. people from Oriental countries avoid doing so. by saying. However. to let the person know that you are interested in the conversation. do you have to rack your brains to remember one? Sadly. let him/her know that you are listening intently.
When? It is important for you to develop a sense of timing. For your audience to grasp the idea easily.Who here stands for audience. like causes. and the end of the content. If you are speaking about air pollution then it’s important to make audience aware about its causes before jumping to effects. If you are using slides in your presentation then limit the content of each slide to a few bullet points. and statistics. They should effectively complement your ideas. Use language. less is always more. it’s important to keep in mind the following: Who? .Understand What You Want To Achieve Before you start working on your speech or presentation. Stories are easy to understand and are loved by all. What? – What here stands for what you wish to communicate via your talk or speech? If you are giving a talk on air pollution then you should mark down the topics you would like to cover under this. middle. why you are speaking on the topic. and remedies of air pollution. to your speech. While giving a speech. just don’t include them for the sake of using. Add facts. In this. it’s a good idea to add humor. which connect well to your core idea. quotations. If your audience consists of school students. it is important to research the topic well. your priority should be to keep the content of your speech simple and interesting so that your audience can grasp it well. stories. that what you are speaking is being heard and absorbed by the audience.Your audience should understand. • • . when delivering a speech. the kind of language you will use will play an important role. you need to know why they should listen to you. effects. that what you are speaking is something valuable and will be useful for them. • When it comes to wording your message. There might be a variety of aspects to the topic you are dealing with but you can’t cover all in your short speech so give main points or highlights of the topic to your audience. you will determine the objective of your talk keeping in perspective the audience. Or convey your idea wrapped in the form of story. which is simple and easy to grasp by your audience. The next important step. Why? In order to convert your audience into dedicated listeners. Good speakers always research before conveying their message. and why it’s important for them to listen. How? – How here stands for understanding the best way you can communicate your message. However. take effective pauses to make sure. You should communicate to your audience. Vital Public Speaking Skills • Before beginning on a topic on which you have to give a speech. you need to do is to plan a beginning. What kind of audience you are addressing to? By answering this question. whenever you are speaking on a topic. You should follow a logical pattern.
It’s essential to keep your body up-beat. Here’s how to bring in the ‘feel good’ factor about yourself. afraid of what we might see ourselves as – since we tend to define ‘successes and ‘failure’ in extremely conventional ways.• Always remember that your opening words and closing words make the most of the impact on the audience. pay as much attention to opening and closing words as you pay to the body of the speech. Use a variety of vocal pace. but by the straitjacket. • Unforgettable Delivery You can make your speech or presentation unforgettable. Your second step should be to interact with the audience. No wonder most of us never feel good about ourselves. yet. this will open the channel of discussion and your audience will get involved. Be precise and concise. Don't stay stuck behind a podium. Use examples to bring key points of your speech to life. but what we ought to be. Easy Ways To Feel Good About Yourself Here’s what you must do to feel good about yourself: Life’s No Enemy . voice. So. when we look at ourselves in the mirror. Ask questions to your audience. Nevertheless. While making a speech or presentation. the decision of ‘what we ought to be’ is not decided by the standards we set for ourselves. there are some simple rules that you can follow if you wish to feel good about yourself. we see ourselves not for what we are. and volume. Ways To Feel Good About Yourself Most of the times. Don't talk too fast. fall right back into the very trap. the society carelessly throws us into. when delivering the speech. Same is the case with the closing words. They should make an impact on the audience and force them to think on the topic you have just spoken about. tone. Pauses play an effective role. However. it’s very important to connect with the audience. We long to break free from all such pretentions. when given the opportunity to do the same. while making a presentation. Many of us do not like to see ourselves in the mirror at all. if you follow these useful tips: • • • • • • Understand the purpose of presentation. If your opening words are unable to bind the audience then you lose half the battle. Your first step is to maintain an eye contact with the audience while delivering the speech. This will make your speech effective.
Recall the face of the poorest and the weakest man [woman] whom you may have seen. Likewise. “Whenever you are in doubt. it is best if you try to feel out the people around you before you start joking around. you'll keep people at arm's length and never make new friends or improve the friendships you already have. No matter how much you may try to match up to the lifestyle of someone else. there may be situation where making light of the situation could actually prove to be rather inappropriate. some people are out to get us. or at the very least. If you are constantly suspicious of others' motives and keep believing that they have some hidden agenda that involves hurting you. apply the following test. the result is that they make any excuse to not go out in the world with a positive outlook. for this reason. Having a sense of humor can make it easier to be friendly even with strangers and makes tough situations less stressful. Also. much to our chagrin.just don't let them hinder your chance of happiness along the way. there are people not far from you who are far worse off than you are! . humor has the potential to last far longer than physical traits.Most of us often feel that everyone on this earth. we find that it hasn’t. Remember the talisman Gandhi ji gave. there will always be something else that would fall short. The problem with the desire to have what others have. Look around you and appreciate the things you do have instead of focusing on those you don't. For the person who's trapped in his or her own shell of negativity. while “You are pretty or good looking” is a compliment that is as carelessly thrown around as any pleasantry. will it lead to swaraj [freedom] for the hungry and spiritually starving millions? Then you will find your doubts and your self melt away. Will he [she] gain anything by it? Will it restore him [her] to a control over his [her] own life and destiny? In other words. Most people appreciate a sense of humor more anyway. had a baby. Meeting people would require them to be friendly. To inculcate a more positive outlook on life you need to understand that most people are way too busy managing their own lives to take the pains to hurt you. Don't fall for it! If you get the things. The only problem with being too humorous is that not everyone will have the same sense of humor as you and can get offended. or when the self becomes too much with you. Being friends is far more pleasant than being enemies so why would they want to put so much energy into something they'd have nothing to gain from? The ‘Ha! Ha!’ Is On Me A good sense of humor is more important than being what most people consider "beautiful" in the conventional sense. if the step you contemplate is going to be of any use to him [her]. which you believe you too have a right to possess is that those wishes never diminish. then good for you . What we refuse to acknowledge is that there is always something that will make you feel better than you are right now. you'd like to have.” No matter how little you think you have. is not a compliment that people give anyone. and ask yourself. which they consider to be not worth taking the pain. “Your sense of humour is wonderful”. been on a foreign holiday or re-decorated the living room. Green Isn’t Good Though most of us might believe that life will improve once we've bought a bigger house. Therefore.
It is only through enough • • • • • . phrases. Learning English and speaking it fluently is an easy task. as you cannot learn everything.How To Speak English Flu ently Language is the tool used for conveying and expressing feelings and emotions. as you have your own comfort zone with them. then learning becomes easier. It is just a matter of your dedication and sincere efforts. Try and avoid any form of grammatical errors when speaking. and slangs depending on the situation. which you as a beginner cannot expect to do. English has become the most common language and widely spoken language in the world today. Having a person who knows English to speak to will help you improvise your usage of words and formation of sentences. Try and learn even the antonyms and the synonyms of each word and the correct structure in which you can use the word. It takes years of exposure to the language for someone to modify the language according to the situation. good command over English has become a necessity. decide and put aside the vocabulary and the sentence construction which is ideal for you to learn. Language helps in communicating and conversing with one another. Knowledge of English will help a person develop his/her self confidence by giving them the power to take part in conversations. The trick here will be to use simple recognized version of English by keeping the usage correct. Pick up around ten words and sentences from the particular area everyday and practice them thoroughly. Practice using new words in real situations by integrating them into conversations. It becomes easier to express and communicate with others. Practice is the only key here. People who know the language well modify their language by using idioms. Depending on your need of the language choose the version or level you will have to master. If the person you choose is your good friend. English is quiet easy to follow as it has aspects of several languages in it. In fact in the present era. if the conversation is in common language. Grammar is the basic of any language which need to be mastered in order to speak the language accurately. Tips To Speak English Fluently • The first and foremost step towards speaking English fluently is to decide the purpose of learning the language. Determine whether you want to learn the language just for day to day use or for a specific purpose. Choose a friend or a partner with whom you can practice speaking the language. Do not try and use any such phrases or idioms till the time you are confident of their correct usage. Depending on your use of the language. therefore only little bit of hard work and dedication will make you fluent in the language. even if English is not someone’s mother tongue.
forget about family and friends. It is an undeniable fact that clearing out what you no longer want makes life easier. say an aromatic bath or a bunch of flowers and • • • • .practice that you will be able to get the grammar correct. A spontaneous hug or a chubby little hand in yours will bring joy and add life to that moment. They will make you love your life. There might be some worries bothering us every now and then. everyone is so busy and preoccupied with living life that they hardly take out time for even his/her own self. One can make use of any such facility and get professionally trained in the language How To Cheer Yourself Up Almost all of us have faced a bleak moment or some kind of depression at one point of time or the other. If you think that you cannot dance. This will help in getting rid of the negative energy from your work place as well as your home and give space for some positive energy to flow in. Once you are done with the task. This lifestyle is but natural to bring along with it lots of worries and tensions for people. leaving them with moments of gloominess. Spend some time with children. might be continuously nagging you. even if you don’t feel like smiling. leaving us with no time to smile and relax. you will start feeling happy and be able to get rid of any worries. it will surely make you feel good. Finish any such pending work. Push back all your worries by forcing a smile. This will trick your brain into thinking that you are happy. This article will provide you with a few tips on how to get away from worries and cheer yourself up. which will help you become fluent in its usage. reward yourself with something that you love. instead of putting it off. which you hate to do. • There are many institutions that provide both classes and online education for oral and written English. Put aside or clear out all the clutter around you. This is a proven fact that if you think and act as if you are happy. Turn the music loud and dance to the beats. At such times. in the present world. do not let that stop you having fun. Best Ways Of Cheering Yourself Up • Put on your favorite music and dance out your worries. Some unaccomplished project or a simple household work. Getting rid of your past and all your worries will give you an immense sense of freedom and will give you the confidence that the future holds only happiness for you. Sing at the top of your voice instead and continue to enjoy yourself. Their natural zest for life is infectious and will cheer you up as well. it becomes very necessary to them to make efforts to perk up and have some fun. In fact. in our life.
• • • • • • Dealing With Setbacks You have worked long and hard towards that right moment to propose to the girl of your dreams.chocolate. Play games. narrate your experiences. It will help you release the “feel good chemicals” called endorphins. or paint a landscape. take music lessons or do something you always wanted to do. this will help reduce your burden and give you space to think logically. learn a new game. This will help you come out of your worries. especially when everything else seems to be so right and perfect! Just taking life with a pinch of salt. Visualize yourself successfully completing the new project and the benefits it will bring to your life. get rid of it. plan a garden. sketch a portrait. Needless to say. Visit an old friend. setbacks are not something we like to put up with. my day is going to be great. it is going to be a lot of fun’. Or.just to find that your colleague has got that much awaited promotion! Do such scenarios sound familiar to you? If they do. Have fun when you are down. The peace of mind that comes from having got the job done will be the greatest relief and reward of all. • Think positive and keep repeating to yourself whenever you leave the house that ‘today. Almost all of us have faced setbacks at some or the other point of time in our life. rather visualize it with some new excitement waiting for you. but will help develop high self-confidence and self-esteem. Indulge in exercise or perform yoga whenever you feel you are down with a worry. put on the daily jokes option on your mailbox or simply throw a party. Learn a language. Take up something new. watch comedies. trace your family history. redecorate your room. Share jokes. Try and talk out your problem to one of your friends. This will not only occupy your mind. The reality is often less stressful than sitting alone worrying about it. Never think that your day is going to be boring and lethargic. Plan out a day with him/her and have a blast. only to find out that she is engaged to someone else. Having fun and getting involved with friends will help cheer you up. you put your heart and soul into your work . Let your feelings flow out in a painting or a drawing. Make something! Be a bit creative and bake a cake. might get the ball back in your court! . Endorphins induce a feeling of euphoria and change your mood from sad and dark to happy and bright. there is no need to despair and think that someone has jinxed you. however. in your body. Spending some time with your old friend will bring back the young and cheerful person in you. If there is a situation that is worrying you the whole day long. and go in for a drink. rather than thinking negatively about it.
If you have suffered a slowdown in life. smart enough to profit from them. “when life gives you lemon. Look for opportunities to come out of it and work your way to success. The next step is to understand the cause behind the setback. It is likely to get you nowhere. a misunderstanding with your spouse. in order to gain an accurate perspective. By the . A bad day at work. An objective consideration of the situation may help you to assess it better and take the right corrective measures. Once you have done so. and strong enough to correct them’. look towards tomorrow. The low would soon disappear. Remember. Holding yourself in the midst of adversity and fighting out of it will just make you a wiser. better person. including ourselves. evaluate. Once you have a smile back on your face and are feeling good about yourself. consider and act. at times. Instead. Instead of concentrating on wrongs. Don’t be harsh on yourself.Remember. Stay positive. a street-brawl. try to think of all the right things you have done. Here are some boosters for you to take heed of. there is hardly any reason to despair. It will give you a chance to start over once again and do things in the right way. distress and dejection in yourself. your own fault anything that might have caused the setback needs to be figured out. At such times. When the situations seem drab. Don’t sit and cry over your failures. The only thing that overcomes hard luck is hard work. assess. Think before taking the escape route. it is better to distance yourself from them. Often. you can start making lemonade. Keep a tab over your feelings and look out for possible signs of despair. things may not be as bad as they seem. Remember. we conjure up impressions of things that are far beyond the reality. rather your unwillingness to accept it and refuse to give things a try is. when suffering from setback. Doing this can go a long way in helping you dissipate your anxiety. Running away from your problems is no way to deal with them! Acknowledging your problems is the first big step towards solving them. Just let go off all feelings. failure is not a setback. Failures can make our reasons go for a toss.says Maxwell. setback is just a phase of life that is likely to get over soon. hold your ground. we join a competition and end up competing with everyone around.” • • • • Personal Goals In Life The moment we are born. Read on and know all about dealing with the setbacks that have been plaguing for life for sometime now. How To Deal With Setbacks • ‘A man must be big enough to admit his mistakes. accept them and then take steps to rid your system of these feelings.
Education This refers to any kind of knowledge that you may want to acquire. when you can do it or when you can devote time to it and how long would it take you to do so. Some people might decide to get a certain degree or attend classes after many years of having worked just to keep themselves updated about what is happening in the industry. Also. we feel that something is missing. Financial When you set out to work and began to work. It is like asking yourself the very typical interview question – where do you see yourself after a stipulated amount of time. we are asked to set our goals. You should have a clear idea about where you wish to reach in your life. you may have to plan ahead as to how much money you will have to save for it. You may want to keep track of your daily expenditure to know how much money is going in which direction. what all you will need for it and so on. and by the time we think we have achieved all our goals. Even as a person aims to reach to a certain level in their career. they might want to get a six pack abs! Here are a few personal goals that will make your lives worthwhile. That is because we reach stagnation after that. If you plan to buy or build a house or acquire other assets. Many of us do not know that goals are to be changed and ‘updated’ from time to time.time we are old enough to boast of surging hormones. You should know when it is time for you to enhance your knowledge or acquire some new skills. you could set your goals with first priority on something else – you must remember that these are not in the order of importance or significance. Though education features first on the list. How To Set Personal Goals In Life Here are some ways to decide upon various personal goals that you may want to set for yourself. support many causes that may touch a chord with them – some of them may want to associate themselves with AIDS . You might also want to know what you do with that money. you must have thought of the amount of money you will need to build a home of your own. There is no point in reaching stagnation in your career and studies prove that people cannot be satisfied with their jobs or professions until it offers them challenges and more responsibilities at regular intervals. so that you can cut down on wasteful expenditure. Others may want to start with the profession only after they have acquired that knowledge. So many of us set goals at a time when we should be enjoying. Career You must have set goals about the profession that you are following. Employers also invest more in people who know where they are headed. You could device your own priority list. Goals are supposed provide a definite direction to our lives and help us identify our final destinations. even as they work and earn. It is one goal that you cannot afford to lose track of. which will decide the way we live our lives. goals are all-encompassing and are also include the personal and familial life of a person. most of us might think that goals are only associated with career. contrary to that notion. Community Service Many youngsters.
. Trying to curb these cravings could. as well as. parents-in-law too. because there might be something that you might be trying to resist for quite sometime. such as smoking. and face frequent relapses. Read on to explore how to deal with cravings. no matter what the craving is for. When you have decided to take active steps. following some simple tips to control it will help you win the fight against your inner drives and desires.” This quip might strike a responsive chord in you. your siblings.awareness or may spend some time taking care of differently abled children or some others may want to lend a hand at the Helpage India Foundation. It is something that your heart longs for and as long as the longing remains unfulfilled. make sure you stick to it. Family Men and women have responsibilities towards their families. be painful and even exhausting. You have to know how much time and energy to devote for the family. remember that there is a big difference between desire to fight the craving and actually taking steps to fight it. your parents. which is your prime reason for earning a living How To Deal With Cravings Do you. This is especially true when you are trying to fight a bad habit. but to no avail. at times. your children. sometimes even parents-in-law. your spouse. How To Control Your Cravings • No matter what you are craving for. It could be in ways like helping your child with his physics lessons or helping your wife cook lunch every day because she is going through a painful menopause! It could also be in the form of taking care of ageing parents or. it is better to chalk out an action plan as well. the families that they build. preparing to lend services as a volunteer for various activities or so on. You should also know why you are associating yourself with the cause and how much time you can devote to the cause as a volunteer and in which way you can contribute to the cause that is close to your heart – whether it is spending some time with homeless veterans at Helpage homes. you tend to go through emotional turmoil. I know because I’ve done it thousands of times. Whatever be the cause that you want to associate yourself with. a desire that you feel you just can’t control? This desire is called a craving. such as drugs and tobacco. Mark Twain once said: “Giving up smoking is the easiest thing in the world. the ones they were a part of. These responsibilities are not only in the material sense and go beyond the monetary duties. You will need to ask yourself what kind of responsibilities you have towards your family members. at times. These cravings could range from something as simple as food to bigger things. However. have a strong desire to do or to get something.
which are associated with earlier memories. If there were relapses. You will find that. you will need to give yourself time to get over them completely. For example. Thoughts are tiny packets of energy. the chances of your mind relapsing into an idle state are less. You may have heard that there are two kinds of thoughts. Positive thinking has worked miracles in the life of terminally ill people. The mind takes time to heal and so do the cravings. They can be included among the triggers and you can try your best to avoid those circumstances. if you concentrate to control your thought process. There might be triggers that set them off. so that you do not come across these triggers. You can achieve the whole world if your mind is in your control and if you feed it with . if you feel that you cannot handle your cravings on your own. when you gave in to cravings. Inform your family and friends about how you are trying to deal with them. pizzas and foods with high caloric content will get you craving for them. This will help them avoid. Good thoughts are called as positive thoughts and bad ones as negative thoughts. as you keep yourself busy. analyze situations that you can avoid. Write down the triggers besides each individual craving. Take a few minutes everyday to reflect on how successful you have been. write down the circumstances led to them.• Write down the cravings that tend to overtake you most frequently. Each of your thoughts have immense energy that can empower you to achieve whatever you want to. until you have better control over yourself. self esteem and sound health while your bad thoughts can ruin you gradually. If you feed your mind with good thoughts. In time. even unwittingly. habits or desires. Therefore. if you are on a diet. Keep yourself busy. Remember that you will not be able to overcome your cravings overnight. in time. Be realistic and balanced. Get the help of others. at fighting off the craving. they will give you peace of mind. He is one author who wrote many books about the power of positive thinking. high confidence. you will be able to have better control over them and fight them completely • • • • • How To Utilize The Positive Power Of Thinking Norman Vincent Peal may be the first person who comes to your mind when somebody talks about ‘the power of positive thinking’. Once you have identified the triggers. You will find that. Some of them might stem from habits that have been developed over years. if you give in to cravings periodically. you will find that the intensity of cravings has reduced. reading recipes of burgers. Monitor your progress. being the cause of aggravating or triggering off your cravings. Expect relapses and do not be too hard on yourself.
Never wear a posture of a tired and inferior person in your life. they can affect you adversely. which you never dreamt of. This image will help you to gain more confidence and it will reflect when you talk things. mind is almost like a garden. It can be a reason for failure in life. If you put seeds of virtue and peace. it would lead you to high guilty conscious which can burn your inner peace forever. If your listener isn’t able to grasp your wittiness. Think of the good things your neighbor or your friend did in life. It is the lack of control on your mind which makes the weed of negative thought grown in your mind. Never keep a bad image about yourself in your mind. it is an effective way to impress. Tips To Build & Use Power Of Positive Thinking • You should feed your mind with positive thoughts and good things will happen in your life. you might end up being a snob. Your new confident personality can achieve you more friends in your work place or in college. On other hand. It can prove to be an impressive tool for flirting as well. network and ease the tension. you will also feel good about yourself. Never think of the negative things which you happened to commit in your life. Read on the article to know more about how to utilize the positive power of thinking. It takes high stress to convince yourself that you are doing well but you should take burden for being a person with positive thinking. This limitless thinking will provide you more richness in material and spiritual sense. have a good time and feel comfortable at parties. You should think of yourself as the best person ever born on the face of earth. If you think of those things. You should walk like a king. • One effective exercise that can help one to develop a good attitude is giving more compliments to people. Nonetheless. compliment them for it from heart. You should think borderless and limitless. . This will give you more confidence and will reflect in your body language. Think of the good things you commit in your life. Basically a compliment is a chicken soup for a human soul. There is a mentality in majority of the human beings that they think themselves as very bad people which in fact they are not. People will start listening to you when you talk things with an air of confidence and authenticity. humor and knowledge to your listeners. Compliment yourself as much as possible. a witty conversation is best when your audience too is an intellectual match. You will gradually become darling of the masses • • • How To Have A Witty Conversation Being witty in your conversation is a significant way to showcase your intelligence. If done rightly. According to ancient sages. When you shower people with compliments. if you put the seeds of negative thoughts in your mind. they would grow in your mind’s soil.good and beautiful thoughts. It helps you make friends. This will make you feel better about yourself and that will reflect in every activity you do in life. They will feel better and they will treat you better.
The wittiness not only demands creativeness on how you link ideas and draw comparisons. wherever applicable. physical humor such as props can also be appropriate. Be a good listener. Use relevant quotations from various books. Observe the speakers and pick up humorous comments that other people would probably not notice. You would be respected. Keep your witty remarks in a casual tone. Do not laugh unless the opposite participant makes an equal witty or funny comment. In case you are talking to someone from another country. be sure that the other person too understands your reference. A commonly known. as you have spoken other people's mind. Be quick as well as creative in your replies. How To Be Witty While Conversing • • • • • • • • • Do not laugh at yourself. A beret or another hat will also help in. Maintain a straight face. Be attentive. in responding. Use puns wherever required. Be careful on jokes. the better you look. In some situations. it would do good to use phrases from his/her language. Be careful on your witty gestures. Although this will make the statement wittier. Read on further to know how you can be witty. since every person has a different sense of humor. This will also show that you have been listening to the person. . Familiarize yourself with words and sharpen your vocabulary. Your witnesses will start doubting your wittiness and intelligence. to make it look like saying them comes naturally to you. intelligent people are often stereotyped as wearing glasses. while in a conversation. A playful smile and a raised eyebrow could add on a nice touch. but also how quick you are. Reflect the words of the other person in a different way. Do not hesitate to make comments that may not be typical to you.or just plain weird. Use of the right body language will be an added advantage. by comparing his/her statement to something else. Be sure to match your speech with the person who is conversing with you. The more trendy and up-to-date you are. Study and notice your audience. Dress yourself to enhance your wit. • • • • • Tips • Do not make the same references over and over again. movies or significant and famous personalities.
temporary and self destructive. Tips To Maintain A Positive Outlook Here are some things that will help you develop and maintain a positive outlook: Humour It isn’t necessary to take life too seriously all the time – you can let go and laugh away life’s little miseries like missing a bus or train or spilling coffee on your dress. What are the character traits of those who think positive or maintain a positive outlook? Do they just go around saying “Aall Izzz Well” like the refrain from the runway hit 3 Idiots? What makes them so chirpy all the time? Why does negativity not affect them like it does to others? How would they handle a news or situation that normally invokes feelings of negativity from others? These are some of the questions that people ask themselves when they think about those who always seem to find something positive about everything. It makes you feel like you are perpetually the victim and never lets you think about what you could do to improve the situation. be thankful he did not hurt you. we are often told by our friends and loved ones. Now that we all accept that tragedy can affect the most happy-go-lucky people and it is only in the perspective wherein the difference lies. however. It may give you temporary relief to think of yourself as a victim. If a chain snatcher snatched your gold chain. we must explore some of the traits and tricks that such people possess to get over all negativity. If you start by taking these little things less seriously. Gratitude It is important to be thankful to God for everything that you have. This way. In any circumstance that may elicit a negative response from you. instead of fretting about what you do not have.• • Do not use your wittiness to put people down. Here are some tricks that could lead us straight to positive outlook. many of whom do not know what it really means. Getting Rid Of Self Pity Wallowing too much in self pity and feelings that hold you back from progressing in the right direction are detrimental to your development as a person. you may also take the bigger challenges that life throws at you with minimum negativity or anger. not to mention to your natural state of happiness. try to be thankful for what you did not lose. This is considered low and insensitive. . you will appreciate what you do have and will value it better. try to think about and concentrate on what you could have lost and did not. No matter how big the tragedy is. Do not try too hard to be witty. the relief is. Not all people would like wittiness in their everyday conversations about work and other nuances Positive Thinking Tips And Tricks “Be Positive”.
don’t let it become a reason for your arrogance as everyone is unique in some way. anxiety. However. Develop Positive Affirmations Make positive affirmations and statements about yourself that make you feel good and better about yourself. Never lose the faith with which you began your life with – a child does not know mistrust. Self Esteem Building Activities Most people think bad about themselves from time to time. You can also add your achievements in life and your simple accomplishments. disbelief or cynicism.Reaching Out Many people who were often plagued by negative thoughts and self destructive behaviour and thoughts. psychosis. belief in your abilities and in the fact that everything will be alright in the end will heal you of all the negativity and self destructive behaviour. Make sure to leave all your own negativity behind when you reach out to the other person or else your negativity might transfer to them too. Your feeling of low esteem may be triggered by a critical remark or being treated badly by others. I am a good person. Be childlike in your belief in yourself but at the same time be realistic about your goals and achievements. by far the most powerful positive feeling that has the capacity to heal any emotional wound. delusional thinking may also accompany them as all these issues are interrelated. Low self-esteem is a constant companion for some. Belief is. Depression. negativity. belief in yourself. Ways To Build Self Esteem Create Affirming Lists Making a list about your strengths and positive aspects and rereading them often will make you feel better and positive about yourself. . phobias. Find inexpensive and simple ways to reward yourself for all your achievements and accomplishments. find all their negativity melting away when they reach out and help someone and make that person feel better about themselves. It is very important to find something in you that you can be proud of. Belief No matter what the situation is. Think of ways you would like to feel about yourself and make such statements to yourself. That it happens to majority of us doesn’t imply that it need not be worked upon. Some such positive affirmations can be: • • I feel god about myself. try and reach out to someone who may need you and try to help them see the better side of their situation. List some of your strengths and a few things that you admire about yourself. malice. read the article to find some activities to help you on the same. who are simply too judgmental about themselves. In case you wish to know how to build self esteem and thwart negative thoughts about yourself. You follow it too.
Loneliness is a state of mind. Some people fall into a depression because of loneliness while some nurture their creativity through it. I am taking good care of myself. One of the main reasons for people staying lonely is that they don’t have the strength or the inclination to move away from it. This can make you feel under-confident. This is all fine when loneliness is voluntary and there are options from breaking away from it. Read Inspirational Books Read books that inspire and motivate you to look at yourself in a positive light. which will help you to cultivate self belief and selfesteem. I eat right and healthy. You may find many such books in stores. Try To Reinforce A Positive Self-Image Instead of feeling low and demeaning yourself over some of your drawbacks. a means of self discovery. You can also share the points mentioned in the list with others whenever you feel like it. loneliness is the path to oneself. talents and achievements are the reasons you should be confident and selfassured. Make copies of the list and keep them at several places. I spend time with people who make me feel good about myself and are nice to me. There is a whole range of inspirational books that thrust upon the fact that being judgmental about oneself brings down the self-esteem of a person. Sometimes.• • • There are many people who like me. To look at it constructively. Remember that n body is perfect and people can just strive to achieve perfection. You might as well find some solution to help yourself through these books How To Cure Loneliness A thin line separates the distance between being lonely and being alone. you will definitely find something adorable about yourself. do exercise and do other things that I enjoy doing. . you can feel lonely in a crowd and at other times you busy with yourself even while you are alone. Loneliness mean different for different people. Most people tend to be someone else and their self identity becomes the first casualty in the process. However when people are forced to loneliness they experience extreme emptiness and unworthiness. Though there might be many things that you don’t like about yourself. You can also create a list of positive affirmations and keep it handy and read it whenever you feel low on confidence or indulge in self-pity. Your special attributes. Books can be great source of motivation and inspirational books can serve to foster positive thinking and encourage one to think and feel better about oneself. you should focus on your positives. so that whenever you chance upon reading it your selfesteem gets a high.
Go for a peaceful neighborhood where you will have more chance of making friends. So. strike a friendship with them . Sometimes the environment around you can drive you to loneliness. instead they make you even lonelier. being near them will lift your spirits up. Don’t do things that make you feel lonely like reading depressing books and watching sad movies. Cultivate a hobby. To constantly dwell on the fact that you are lonely won’t help you in curing it. Just go out and do something. Help people who feel lonely and you would cure yourself of loneliness. Being happy and cheerful is the sure shot way of driving away loneliness. Boredom breeds loneliness. • Get involved in your neighborhood activities.It becomes a part of their lives. Take a house that is airy and full of light. Don’t withdraw yourself when you can go out and have fun. These are no solution for loneliness. Try P. How To Handle Loneliness • The best way to cure loneliness is to keep yourself busy. If your house is bright your mood will be light. Find something that interests you so that it keeps your mind away from your loneliness. Read books and watch movies that lighten up your mood • • • • • • • • How To Get Out Of A Bad Mood . There are many people who are lonely and trying to cope with it. In this way you can be more active and also get to meet other people. if you are one of those people who consider loneliness a burden then read the article below to know how to cure loneliness. If you are working then lose yourself in the work. Indulge in sports or go gyming. If you can. Your work will be the best antidote to medicine. Try to organize neighborhood get together and charity events.G Wodehouse and you will see time flying by. Even if you are unacquainted with any of the people. In order for you to get involved it would require some time and a lot more attention from your part. like a cramped house or an unhealthy neighborhood. Try to stay near people as much as possible. Cultivate the habit of reading as it is the best solution against boredom. Don’t fall into the drug or alcohol trap. You can join a club or volunteer for some nonprofit organization. Remember that loneliness is a choice and you always have the option of choosing otherwise.
they write blogs. However. give that non-judgmental third person point of view. not all of us have such a strong personality. Ways To Snap Out Of A Bad Mood Quickly • When you are in a bad mood. ‘fatigue. we tend to lash out at others (through blatant or passive aggression) or become self destructive. you feel that talking to someone about your personal thoughts is not possible. through blogs. which is very much required to get out of a bad mood. If you have close family members or friends. when we are in a bad mood. Discussed ahead are a few ways on how to get out of bad mood. We have to inculcate in ourselves the ability to redirect our negative feelings.he performed. what you need is a ‘sounding board’. someone who is neutral and will listen to you without giving judgment. as the competitive spirit would be too intense. This will not only help us become more relaxed. as you get to travel through the melody that pleases your ears as well as your mind. he said there are three things that make him mad and put him in a bad mood. was a world champion swimmer who won eight gold medals in the 2000 Olympics. it is best to divert your thoughts. But. It is a known fact that a person’s true personality comes out during bad moments. diverted them to positive actions of achievement. but will also provide a less stressful environment for the people around. Comments from strangers on your thoughts. Playing your favorite tune is relaxing and tends to calm nerves as well. In the 2008 Olympics in Beijing. Take a walk or change the scene. When Phelps was asked about this comment. While some people maintain diaries. Music is known to be one of the best ways to relax. towards positive thoughts and actions. a whole mental paradigm shift has to take place. This negative reaction is harmful for us as well as our loved ones and a conscious effort has to be made to change the mindset. Cleaning. In order to deal with a bad mood. he participated in eight events and won gold medals in each one of them! It is great to see the sportsmanship with which Phelps dealt with his negative feelings and constructively. It is bad to bottle up your negative feelings and speaking them loud in front of a loved one will surely help you feel better. In case. When you are in a bad mood. you could write them down. He had commented that the upcoming champion. Occupy yourself with something else. also known as ‘Thorpedo’. Michael Phelps did have incredible ability. It helps you be positive. but would not be able to win eight gold medals at the Beijing Olympics. Phelps did not let Thorpe get the better of him .Ian Thorpe. until your mood improves. you could also vent out your frustration. in today’s Internet age. In most situations. Being in the place or in front of the person who put you in a bad mood will only rekindle the negative feelings that you are • • • • . muscle soreness and taunts from Ian Thorpe’. Any activity that is mechanical or mundane will help in getting you immersed into thinking of nothing in particular. doing paperwork or watching a movie will divert your thoughts for a while.
Shadows hold the darkest secrets. • It is also good to exercise. And say . See In The Dark Since darkness is the best friend of fear it is always better to locate a source of light. If you can’t switch on the lights then throw something at it. You are alone in a room and suddenly the lights go out. More often than not you will manage to drive out a cat or your sibling. Getting some fresh air or maybe a cup of coffee will give you space to distract yourself and clear your head. but when the fear starts leading towards the irrational then it is classed as a phobia called nyctophobia. Fair enough. start picturing to yourself the various object near you. naturally. creative outlets like pottery. Read the article below to know how you can overcome the fear of the dark. its very necessary to get rid of this fear. overdoing physical activities when you are down may not be advisable. Gradually the victim must be taught to apply logic to the situation. That’s the power the dark has over us. Children. Try activities like dance. When we are in fear we tend to see images and the best way to drive these is to counter it. Tips For Overcoming Fear Of Dark Logic Fear may be emotional but in most cases it is not logical. It affects both children and adults alike. However. Since you cannot see anything in the dark. Suddenly some stories and incidents come to mind that shouldn’t be thought in the dark.trying to divert. So. In case you cannot find any. Instead of sitting. The problem is that fear numbs the mind so much that the person cannot exercise his or her logical faculties. It is a tendency inherent in man to fear that which is not known. the unknown. You are confronted with unknown terrors that cannot be banished through rational thought. The fear that something indescribable “is always near” is forever in the mind. the mind conjures up images that reflect our greatest fear. In this way you can counter your fear with facts. like a pillow. fear the dark and it shouldn’t be any cause for worry. painting or anything that interests you and lets you retain your peace of mind How To Overcome Fear Of The Dark Everyone has faced this. Investigate You see a shadow in the corner and curl up on the bed not daring to go to the next room. In that case some other person must take the responsibility of explaining that the fear is illogical. but after sometime a sinking feeling sets in. when you are in a bad mood. In situations like this investigation can drive away your fears. switch on the lights and see what the shadow is.
In this way when you are faced with fear you can relax your selves and think about these things. Like you can say that “on my right is the TV”. goes a long way in driving it. it is equally important to be aware of one’s potential as this acts like the motivation or the driving force to keep one going. In therapy the root cause of the fear is analyzed and the patient is slowly brought to terms with it. You also need to keep yourself inspired and motivated . Thrillers and mystery novels are great as they engage your complete attention. Tips To Develop Natural Leadership Qualities • Constant or periodic evaluation of one’s strength and weaknesses is very essential to set the foundations of leadership.them aloud. At the same time. Read inspirational books or anything that warms the heart. you also need to get yourself acquainted with different situations and conditions. “on my left is the cupboard” and so on and so forth till you can visualize everything. Psychotherapy If the fear is extreme then psychotherapy is advised. You need to be focused and completely dedicated to frame yourself as a leader. act as if you are not alone. For most of us this is just a popular phrase and often we tend to overlook the inner meaning of these words. . The therapy goes on or an extended period of time and varies from individual to individual. From afar it might look like a privilege to lead the masses but reality is something else. In addition to that. One will be able to perform better only when one is aware of one’s drawbacks and shortcomings. The trick is not to remind yourself of the fear. Relax Learn to relax. It requires a combination of a number of qualities and skills. Also remember that silence heightens the fear and so hearing your own voice. Sing Or Talk Sounds funny but when you are alone and fear grips you. How To Be A Natural Leader One very often comes across this phrase from the popular movie ‘The Spiderman’ – With great power comes great responsibility. Better still sing as you can make yourself oblivious to the fear. It is truly a great responsibility to lead and direct people in life and in any situation. Talk to yourself like you would talk to a friend. you won’t have fear. To know more about how to develop leadership skills go through the info given below. As long as you don’t realize fear. either in singing or in talking.
It is only through such constructive criticism that one can aim to inculcate and adopt the inherent characteristics of a natural leader. Learn to judge a situation in terms of both pros and cons and act accordingly. All you need to do is establish a fine connection between your own ideas and the already established ones of proven natural leaders. Leadership is not a quality that is absolute and complete. suspicions and worries. buckling under stress and anxiety. Knowledge is the key to all answers and one can only gain information through regular and constant reading. However. it is but natural that you will come across qualms. both mental and physical poise more beautifully. Rather. It should be kept in mind that a leader never dilly-dallies or puts off issues. It is only through a better understanding of your surrounding environment can you aspire to influence them with your words and actions. It is only when you truly assess a situation can you think of leading others in a particular situation. Try to follow the example of other leaders and if possible.• Natural leaders take in-depth information about their surroundings and assess people around them. poise is the control that the mind has over the body and reversely the body over the mind. This synchronization leads towards a faultless balance that is called poise. and for poise. It requires frequent appraisals and refurbishing. and physical poise through health andfitness of the body. Being human. it is not necessary that you actually mimic their actions. You may . • • • • • How To Improve Poise “For beautiful eyes. Consider every obstacle. they try to come to a conclusion in a timely manner. It totally depends on you how you gain control over your anxieties and lead a life that is inspiring for others. Learn to gain control over your fears. pursue mentors to help you in the process. speak only words of kindness. Yes. every failure as a stepping stone which will lead you closer to your goal as a leader. and nothing sums. where the mind and body is in perfect coordination. It is not mandatory that you agree to and follow each and every instruction jotted on paper.” This line was said by Audrey Hepburn. Books are a great way to come across different kinds of opinions and ideas and get different types of outlooks about a particular issue. In our day to day life we come across people. The ability to make quick and sensible decisions is very important for a leader. for beautiful lips. Mental poise is achieved through calmness and the strength of will power of the mind. You can also critically evaluate these issues either personally or with a group. walk with the knowledge that you are never alone. look for the good in others. losing complete control over their body and mind. It is extremely vital that you understand how such people think and act in order to inculcate their ways. You can either seek the direct help of the mentors or try to figure out their line of thoughts and actions.
Now bend and place the hands on either side of the right leg. Have a clear purpose and a strong desire. Slowly stretch the legs behind. Stay calm and composed. Put your palms on the ground and placing the stomach on the elbows lean forward slowly till your forehead touches the ground. Don’t see your flaws through the magnifying glass and criticize yourself constantly. Repeat a few times relaxing in between. • This is known as the flying bird pose (panshee). This is known as the crane pose (bakasana). Sit on your knees with the heels spread apart. Bring your right foot to the front and bend it at the knee. Mental Poise Improvement Concentration • • Be comfortable with what you are doing and give your hundred percent attention. This will help you to make peace with yourself and be more confident. Now point the palm backwards. This results in a balance against gravity creating a state of extreme lightness. and lift the left leg and straighten it. Tips For Improving Poise Physical Poise Improvement • To improve the physical poise the bird yoga poses are especially good for creating a lightness of the body. Then lend a little more and breathe evenly. This will help you to utilize all your mental faculties. with the palms facing backward spread the arms out. in solving the problem. • This is known as the swan pose (hamsasana). Focus on a place in the ground and hold the breath for some time. Release and repeat for the left leg. one at a time.ask why poise is so necessary. Above all show your commitment and belief. read the article below so that you can know how you can improve your poise. Keep your feet together and stand straight. Think of the benefits and interest yourself in your work. Poise is necessary so that we can eliminate negative and destructive thoughts and focus on the positive and constructive ones. Spread the legs while standing up straight. towards the ground and bend the elbows. This makes the life calm and composed. • • • • Don’t Judge Yourself Relax • Hold Your Head High . Now straighten the right leg. and rise on your toes and then inhale and exhale. If you constantly get freaked out your poise is going to suffer. Lead forward. At the shoulder level. So. Don’t take undue panic.
One of the most precious things. Know Your Priorities Place the most important things at the top of your list and give yourself time to get these things done. You need to organize yourself to achieve your goals and do the things that you want and need to do. be it in terms of your career or your family. Thus. time is required to accomplish goals. organizing time is essential for success. It is important to use the right resources and stay focused on what you have to do. Read on further to explore tips on organizing your time. In case. as you will know where you have kept everything. you will realize that the things did not have the right deadline or they weren’t really important. as you cannot speed it up or slow it down. you can experience failure. Compare this with the time you have in hand and try to organize the tasks properly. How To Organize Your Time Plan Ahead Plan your tasks for the day and know the time frame within which you have to complete them. On accomplishing the tasks. it will help you know how to get back on the task. This will help you see what you have to do and how much time you will need to do it. Have a Routine Trying sticking to a certain time frame everyday. Stay Organized Stay organized by managing files on your computer as well as organizing household or office itmes. You will have a far more effective influence if you hold your gaze strong and make eye contact. in order to successfully implement propertime management.• Show your confidence by standing tall and head held high. Follow these simple guidelines to easily and efficiently manage time and reach your goals successfully. That is why timid people have such a bad poise as they do not make eye contact Tips On Organizing Time Time cannot be managed per se. You can use this time to do other imortant tasks. If something unexpected happens or some sort of interruptions take place. This will help you save time that you would have otherwise spent on looking out for items you will require. The only thing you can do is manage the way your spend your time. you haven’t completed them. you will feel that you have done a good job of managing your time. This will keep you organized and it will be easier to manage time each day. else. Always Have a Plan .
which you can use to relax or have a meal. Such a criticism is an integral part of our lives. Save time by setting goals and how much time you will need to accomplish these goals. Read on further to know how to utilize constructive criticism. Constructive criticism is important as the feedback and support of others helps us to fully develop our talents. You will find plenty of people around you who are willing to support you in your tasks. since you will be wasting time in accomplishing your goals. Eventually. Do not spend too much time searching for something new. For an author. Track Your Time Keep a track of how much time you are spending doing certain tasks. as our work is incomplete beyond a certain limit. yet vital requirements for any person. It often happens that you are not spending enough time doing something or the goals are requiring more time than you had estimated. without constructive feedback to guide us. How To Use Constructive Criticism . ask for help from someone. Stay focused and do not let these interruptions influence you.Always know what your need to do and outline the time you need to do the task in. it is significant to receive advice for improvement and follow it without losing the soul of his or her writing. Don’t Waste Time It is possible that procrastination and low motivation can come in the way of your accomplishing the goals internally. For example. to accomplish your goals. it is not possible for a writer to be both author and editor to his or her own work. Ask For Help In case you have lots of goals to accomplish and you are unable to find a way out to get them done. Use Right Resources Find and stick to one type of system or process that works best for you. this will help you prevent problems and even the complaint that you didn’t have enough time to complete the task. Have Extra Personal Time Whenever you plan out the day. This will help you focus and find more energy for the rest of the day. refocus your goals and tasks for the next time. Externally. friends and extended conversations can end you off schedule. keep time for yourself as well. Utilizing Constructive Criticism Criticism is one of the most overlooked.
However. Read the article to find some useful tips on how to be more thankful and enjoy your life. note down scrupulous notes on everything they point out and jot down your own reactions. Avoid interrupting or challenging until they have completed airing their views. you would be able to make the best possible use of constructive criticism How To Be More Thankful Life may seem unfair to most of us and the feeling of discontentment can raise its ugly head at the slightest provocation. who reject criticism at the first instance. Keep Quiet Often. Stay Open Avoid behaving like most other people. However. To be a good critic taker. Undue comparisons. Try to keep an open mind and do not respond to comments instantly. Perhaps. First is. to listen openly to everything that is being said about your work and second is to ask for clarification on anything that you may have not understood. the idea behind constructive criticism is to let your reviewer tell you what they think of that aspect. you want to jump in and defend yourself. but it should be noted that the discussion is not to convince him/her of your point of view. a bad day at the workplace or a petty fight with your spouse can make you feel distressed and dejected. If you can do so. If you interrupt your friends or reviewers while they are giving their honest thoughts. The following approaches will help you to receive and utilize criticism in an easier and productive manner. Listen to your critics carefully. behavior. Question your reviewer on why he disliked your stated views or work and how he would suggest you to improve your views/work found undesirable. If you can utilize your critic’s advice in your life without losing your own perception. without compromising on your original being. or anything else. you have to craft a compromise between your intent and your criticizer’s views. Make notes of all the reviews as they will help you summarize the feedback and rectify yourself accordingly. remember that you are the ultimate authority on yourself. when you get responses to a particular aspect of your life. Stay True To Yourself & Your Character Although constructive criticism is important. . explaining the way you have set up a particular point. this will sabotage the chances of your improving. you have to fight such negative vibes and look at the brighter side of life. then only go ahead. personality. a great deal of it is triggered by our tendency to not to be thankful enough for the good things we posses in life. Your criticizer’s remarks may often be helpful to you.Receiving constructive criticism includes two parts. Receiving constructive criticism is often difficult for any person at all levels of experience. Learning to be thankful about the simple joys of life will make your life better and more fruitful. in order to learn to be more thankful. but to know how you can improve the clarity and impact of your work.
informing.Tips To Be More Thankful Appreciate Your Good Health No matter what your physical or mental health is like. Consider yourself lucky to have things going your way. for there are many who continue to struggle all their lives. whenever so happened. but don’t disown the fact that you have a safe roof over your head. influence. food to eat and other necessities. you should always appreciate the fact that it could have been worse. Don’t forget to be thankful to your friends and family just because they are always there. influencing. Value The Material Benefits You Enjoy You may dream about owning a palatial home one day. We realize the value of certain things when we know that we can’t have them forever. deliberate manner intended to inform. When was the last time when you thanked your family and friends for their constant support? They have always been around and have been your pillar of strength standing by your side in the toughest of problems. but it is always better than the worst. Value Your Family & Friends The tendency to take people for granted equates to devaluing them. Be grateful for what you have than cribbing over that it could have been better. To a certain extent. even as you feel disheartened for some of your dreams not being fulfilled The Art Of Public Speaking One can define public speaking as “the process of speaking to a group of people in a structured. Be grateful for the numerous exciting opportunities that might have come your way and helped you to become what you are today. Public speaking is also one of the human race’s greatest fears. You just have to realize that you have so much to thank for. The very thought of forgetting the lines or saying something entirely wrong boils down to the fear of being publicly ridiculed. You should be thankful for the current status of your health. What you have in life may not be in proportion to your expectations. Be Grateful For The Opportunities You Got Appreciate the opportunities that you have had in life. but too much of the . for whom a meal per day is a luxury they can’t afford. Look at people who have a poorer health than yours and you will realize how you are better off than a lot of people. or entertain the listeners. translating to.” It is a powerful tool used for motivating. rejected and humiliated. or simply entertaining the audience. but it should not stop you from being pleased with whatever you have got. feeling nervous before giving a speech is natural. You may be suffering from a dozen ailments. This is not to say that always draw such comparisons that make you feel better. persuading. There are millions of people around.
This will surely give a boost to your confidence. to attain the right flow and comfort level. You can start with greeting some of the members when they enter. informative and entertaining. Include humor and personal stories in your speech and use a conversational language. This will make you feel more confident. Practice many times. by your own doing. so let it go off. rather than strangers. These tips will help make the art of public speaking less stressful and create a more relaxed and confident you. clear and confident. as it can help you tailor what you will be speaking. Concentrate On The Message . Visualize Yourself Imagine yourself speaking loud. arrive at the location early and walk around the speaking area. This will help you remember what to say. Practice while taking breaks. Given below are some tips to control your butterflies and help you give better presentations. Practice Arrange all the equipment that you would be using and rehearse out loud. smile and count to three before saying anything. as this will give you time to calm your nerves. Visualize the audience clapping and agreeing to what you are saying. Do not make people criticize you. Remember. Get Acquainted With The Venue The day you have to indulge in public speaking. It is important to know about the group you would be talking to. Relax Begin your speech by addressing the audience. Do Not Apologize In case you have committed a mistake. Pause. Set atimer and allow time for the unexpected. Tips For Speaking In Public Know Your Material The first step towards mastering public speaking is choosing a topic of your interest. do not apologize for any nervousness or problem. Practice using the microphone and other visual aids. Ease yourself by speaking to a group of friends.same can prove to be detrimental. the audience always wants its speakers to be interesting. Explore The Audience Most people overlook this strategy. It might be possible that the audience hasn’t even noticed it. Transform your nervous energy into enthusiasm. You can get a family member or friend to observe your rehearsal and give a constructive feedback. Gather more information about the topic than what you are including in the speech. stimulating.
Learn Something New Though the old saying was “Diamonds are a girl’s best friend”. they may even enter into the destructive habit of self-pity. Many of them begin to sink into depression and blame their husbands or grown up children for their mood swings. This will help make you successful. Since you need to be at peace now more than at any other time. In this context. Now is the time. whereas a happy woman equals a happy family. they often feel wasted and purposeless. or perhaps. How To Stay Happy At Home Women. Diamonds cannot teach you . just the circumstances that are responsible for you having to stay at home. often get addicted to the newfound independence that comes with pursuing a career. in fact. and not according to terms defined by their man. taking pictures. Read on to learn how to stay happy even at home. It is not only vulgar but also destructive. It will turn you against the whole world. imperative for a woman to stay happy. or cooking. experience will help you build confidence. It teaches them a lot about life. It is thus. you may have loved to paint but never found time to. This emotional downturn affects their daily interactions with people within and outside the family circle. while it is only you. Or. when they take a hiatus or after retirement. when they turn mothers. If such women are to be made to sit at home. Stay focused on your material and consider the audience as your friend. even as she is at home. In any case. you have all the time in the world to pursue your interests. If you do not love yourself. especially those who are professionally inclined. Gain Experience Your speech should characterize you as an authority as well as an individual. it is well said that a happy man is just one happy person. giving you the false notion that everyone else is responsible for your condition. painting. you cannot expect others to love you. as these were the things that gave you peace of mind. Hobbies You may have been a good singer but never found time to practice music all the while you worked. the modern refrain is to replace the word “diamonds” with the word “internet” (!). you must pursue your interests. which is the key to effective public speaking as well. Do not ever forget just how happy you felt singing. Ways To Stay Happy At Home No Pity The first thing to do is to come out of this apparently comfortable habit of pitying oneself. after getting married into a different state.Divert your attention from your own anxieties to your message and audience. but also gives back a lot in terms of independent thought process and the ability to define themselves in their own terms. during a lay-off.
. you need more energy to worry and fret. and then discover healthy coping mechanisms to overcome the same. you can find humor even when some things go awry. than what is required to remain optimistic and hopeful. Rightly said. Remember. Choose to talk about your progress and not your troubles and set boundaries for yourself wherever necessary. Increase Self-esteem Think wisely and speak more positively about yourself. You need to have a positive attitude towards people and life. or learn a new language that would help you better your prospects when looking for a job. This strengthens our resiliency to bounce back when we are confronted by hefty problems and issues. all that matters is the choice you make. if you feel the need to pamper yourself. Diamonds cannot teach you how to make pepper rasam that you love but could never make. Reduce Stress Firstly. Staying mentally strong is not difficult. Ways To Stay Mentally Sharp & Strong Exercise Your Mind Sharpen up your brain by doing simple tricks. Eliminate unnecessary stressors and accept situations that you have no control over. Study ahead and gain a few more qualifications. How To Become A Mentally Stronger Person Just as we exercise our physical body.because if you can laugh at yourself. View all challenging situations coming your way as opportunities. or even reading a book on a new subject. Apply for an MBA or some other qualification. such as using your less dominant hand. “laughter is the best medicine” . it was not your money but your knowledge that gave you all that power. Read on further to know how you can become a mentally stronger person and stay mentally fit. detect the source of your stress. bypass the diamonds and give yourself an internet connection. Study Contrary to what you might have thought. You will feel more worthy and will have something to do through the day. writing a short story. be proactive and decisive about your life and engage in active listening. Thus. Develop and implement relaxation techniques that will work for you. it is essential to make efforts to improve our mental and emotional health too.how to use Adobe Photoshop so that you can design birthday cards and other such things. solving puzzles and riddles.
do not avoid it. Tap Into Your Creative Genius Start thinking out of the box and view situations from different perspectives. How To Keep From Having A Judgmental Attitude It is in human nature to be judgmental. smell. Appeal To All Your Senses When dealing with new material in your life. and renting funny movies. believe in yourself and create your life well. and so on. researching. Analyze and work on a challenge by drawing pictures. Just because you do not want to deal with something. instead face it and feel the importance of what you are doing. dancing. writing. Build Strong Support System Engage with or choose people who have a positive attitude and keep away from the ones who drain your energy. Use your imagination and instincts to examine problems and solutions. Be Resilient Make it a habit to bounce back from negative situations and throw out thoughts that no longer serve your purpose or are of no use to you. Try strengthening the relationship you have with yourself. drawing. You can try downtime activities that are inexpensive. Frequently compare yourself with your own progress in the past and not with someone else’s. Develop a network of people that help you remain motivated and aligned with passion and purpose. such as bike-riding. going to the library. Maintain a sense of humor and work on your productivity. knitting or woodworking. before narrowing down to a decision. Enjoy Leisure Activities Engage yourself in fun activities that bring you joy. passion and abilities by indulging into writing. Spend Some Time Alone Spend some positive time in solitude. Honor your natural talents. Many people often look down on others as if they are much better than everyone around and this starts the creation of division . touch.Improve Coping Skills Have a positive attitude. do a life review and determine what’s out of balance and what can be done to correct it. sight and hearing. by scheduling out time from your routine. not loneliness. Analyze yourself. use your abilities. of taste.
Avoid spending days and nights worrying about others. Close Your Eyes To Judgment We think of what other people are doing and judge them on that basis. Often. No effort is made to know the person or understand them either. as this will only cause a lot of stress to you. their habits. Know Judging Is Not Healthy Stressing yourself by thinking what you cannot change is simply risking your health. Reserve your energy for your own future use. it will save us from being critical. this is not at all something that affects us in one way or the other. Learn To Love . remember that not everyone would agree with you either. This only tends to increase differences between two human beings. their way of life on others. Hence. they find it difficult to keep from having a judgmental attitude. as in what they do or think. faith. class. While judging other. A combination of these factors make the world seems alive. Tips To Avoid Being Judgmental Remember Everyone Is Unique You need to remember that not every person you meet will be like you. Read on further to know how you can keep from having a judgmental attitude. Consider yourself being in that situation and then narrow down to a conclusion. Avoid having a judgmental attitude of what others think and do in their private time. but you should learn to respect their right to feel and speak. if we keep in mind that even we don’t feel good about being judged. etc. Remember and celebrate the fact that everyone is unique and not the same. People who have a judgmental nature often wish their beliefs. Put yourself in their shoes and try to imagine their background. sexual orientations. Just as you would want to feel free. it is essential to avoid being judgmental and build a bridge instead.between people. let others too enjoy their right of being free. Free Yourself It is not necessary to agree with the decision of other people. Open Your Eyes To Truth When you find yourself looking at something that you don’t agree with. They see people and pass judgment based on their looks or actions and often the opinion is not completely objective. Close your eyes to all the unnecessary stuff and try to notice only what concerns you. we step back from expressing something different. Try To Be In Other’s Shoes We often have our own ideas that make us happy. And most of the time. This will help you in being critical of other people’s actions. People come from different cultures. but we shrink thinking what someone else would think or feel about us. assuming that we might end up losing our loved one’s respect. To top it all. Live your life to the fullest and let others find own peace in their life.
but very few who actually make it big. People who have made astronomical sums of money have worked hard to climb the monetary ladder. If your goal is to retire as a millionaire. Train your mind to ask for more. you will have trouble making heaps of money. you need to adjust your daily behavior accordingly to ensure that those goals are achieved well in time. If you have hated him/her in the past. Read on to know what it takes to have a millionaire’s mind. Delay Gratification The feeling of fulfillment doesn’t come easy to millionaires or they would have never made millions in the first place. it is important that you don’t feel satiated with what you have achieved so far. While you should not lose yourself in the quest of success or money. rich or poor and find the world becoming a much better place to live in How To Think Like A Millionaire What separates extremely successful people from the unsuccessful ones is nothing but. change your hatred to love. Millionaires make millions not by some sheer stroke of good fortune. their different thinking. Always remember that there are miles to go before you sleep! Discipline Your Thought-Process Thinking like a millionaire involves disciplining your mind and thought process. you will have to train your mind to think like the big shots.Once you have accepted a person for what he/she is. male or female. Think Positive & Be Confident Have you ever tried to find out how many skeptics have become millionaires? Just a handful! People who believe in themselves know how to take calculated risks and failures do not thwart their way. There are many people who think big. The biggest difference between successful and normal people is a positive thinking mind and a confident personality. try loving and understanding him/her. Smart minds know when to hit the nail right on the head. Once a long term goal or objective has been visualized. light skinned or dark. Be a positive thinker and plan you strategies while calculating the risks. You have to think of the long term consequences of the decision that you are taking at the moment and then take a final call. This is where . This article brings you some valuable tips on how to think like a millionaire. Unless you really learn what millionaires think and how they strategize. Express your love to old or young. Thinking Like A Millionaire Think Long Term Successful people have a tendency to think long term and invest in the future. but by their superior thinking and strategic planning. Don’t allow yourself to gloat on the initial gains and feel gratified.
Ways To Get Someone Off Your Mind Busy Bee The busier you are. In the long run. although you are certainly not bound by them. all by themselves? Of course. it would be good. can turn you into a victim. A disciplined mind will delay gratification and keep you focused on your goals. Even if it is completely clichéd a sentence to utter. purposefully or unknowingly. No one. it is the surest way to get someone off your mind. or at least till their near and dear ones allow them to. “To err is human. save you. however. . as there are a few things that your own mind will tell you better How To Get Someone Off Your Mind It is a commonly seen phenomenon – of people who cannot get over someone who has hurt them. The moment we stop seeking solace in being a victim. just the way millionaires have it! Decide The Limit Your mind knows your limitations.” Make sure there are no traces of any memories of the hurt and all negative feelings towards that person have been completely dispelled. A structured and well-organized thought process will help you to develop a futuristic perspective. Here are some other ways to get someone off your mind. Think over where you want to set the limit and to what extent will you stretch yourself to realize your dreams. you will find it easier to rid the memory of the person who caused it too. In such cases. Thinking like a millionaire doesn’t imply that you will have millions in your treasury in just a matter of days. Keeping yourself busy with anything and everything that needs your attention is the best way to keep negative thoughts from plaguing you repeatedly. and the person who caused them that hurt. everyone loves the comfort it provides. the person who has had to bear the hurt is seen to wallow in self-pity for as long as they can. Success will come hard and you will have to face testing situations. No Pity! It is very convenient to wallow in the sewer called ‘self pity’. When you do not carry the negative feeling and have done away with it. the less time you have to think. this attitude will bring more ruin as it does you no good and only deepens the feeling of hurt. we will accept any positive change in others and ourselves that we may encounter.disciplining your mind is factored in. especially about something or someone who left you with negative feelings. Would it not be better if they found a way to get over the hurt. to forgive divine. Forgive And Forget Though this may seem easier said than done. Stop pitying yourself and come out the cycle of self-pity. The best way to do it is to stop loving the image of victim that we have created for ourselves. You don’t need to think like a millionaire to set your limit.
The more you get to interact with that person. no pain or no difficulties. better to plan a little and take action on it. High procrastinators find it difficult to do even a single task. However. Don’t Blow A Task Out Of Proportion You would not be protecting yourself from pain if you overthink and put off things for later time. but not in case of everything. for a later time. Invest in a punching bag and hang it in a place in your house. this way. decrease your interaction with the person who hurt you. Start Doing It is necessary to plan a little bit to achieve want you want. They assume that they cannot manage time well and hence. It is. If the person is your colleague. You are bound to make mountains out of molehills. However. A procrastinator is someone who puts off the work that he/she is supposed to do. end up doing only little work. which is usually not visited much. You will feel great and you would not have hurt anybody at all.Punch It Out It is always easier to hurl blows on a punching bag than a human being. Tips For Stopping Procrastinating Stop Thinking. as long as you keep working on your plan. Do not try to think a lot. Even if you do not have a plan. Less Interaction As far as possible. the more will be the hurt and resentment that will plague you. but you need to shift your focus to today and the present . who you cannot avoid for very long. Read through the following lines to know how you can stop procrastination. There is no plan that is foolproof and will lead to no mistakes. say a huge storeroom or your study! Imagine the punching bag to be the person who hurt you and punch it with all your strength. It is fine to plan for the future. to come up with the perfect plan. the bag will not hit you back like a person would. thus. Take The First Step Any task or project can seem to be impossible if you start looking too far into the future. Some of them are true procrastinators and do not get any work done. Light procrastinators procrastinate. you’ll have to find other ways to get him/her off your mind – the most effective of which is to forgive How To Stop Procrastination One of the biggest problems that people today suffer from is procrastination. a lot of thinking and planning can result in opposite effects. There are light procrastinators and heavy procrastinators. avoid thinking too much and simply do the task in the way you feel that it will come out the best. Do what you feel is right. you can protect yourself from failures.
Start With The Hardest Task Start your day by doing the most important and toughest tasks. Go . By taking an action over and over again. However. So. dreams do turn true. Learn to accept that failures do take place occasionally. no matter how hard they seem. it is better to complete the tasks and projects that you are currently involved in. so that you can start afresh again How To Reinvent Yourself Are you tired of living the same old mundane life? Why not throw off old habits and customs and embrace new ones! Reinventing yourself is never easy. The rest of your day will be a lot lighter and easier to get through. answering big piles of emails or completing the last pages of your paper. cool”. but only if you are willing to make the needed efforts. While procrastinating. but you need to overcome them and work towards success once again. Reinvent yourself and discover ways to bring new meaning and joy to your life. effort and patience. Make A Decision It is natural to be decisive and take action. Be affirmative on your decision. You will become more positive and the subsequent steps will follow on their own. but you do not know the reason behind it. Face Your Fear It is hard to face your fear of looking like a fool or making mistakes or take responsibility of your own life. they also bring along a vague sense of being unfulfilled and pangs of regret for all things you never dared to do. but not finishing what you have started can leave you in a sort of negative funk. generate confidence within you and take action. You always wonder what would have been the result had you taken more chances.moment. you would be building self-confidence and a self-image of you being a confident person. it makes you feel bad. with determination. Remember. Try finishing them as soon as possible. Though easy choices come with a sense of comfort and a certain level of success. By doing so. Whatever be the task. give yourself a new look and a new identity. you will be lowering your self esteem and signaling back to yourself that you are a lame and indecisive person. you will feel relaxed and relieved for the simpler tasks. as you would be going against patterns that have been established for years. You are stressed and feel fatigued. Finish It Not taking the first step towards accomplishing something can only make you feel bad. Simply take the first step today and you will notice the change in your mental state from resistant to “hey. Since sitting idle and not taking action is unnatural. With a new day. such as making important calls. doing so is possible and the rewards will surely be positive and unexpected. I’m doing this. just get it out by doing it first.
View the world with a new eye and different vision • • • • • • • • How To Increase Word Power To express with clarity and to communicate coherently and logically requires only one thing and that is words. You cannot stop thoughts from entering the mind. try a new hairstyle or adopt a new wardrobe to give you a fresh outlook on life. Join a church. Words are the bricks that build up the foundation of any . speed up your walk. You can choose the spiritual path. Change your thinking and transform yourself. take an evening walk. riding a bicycle or tinkering with car parts. Discover a new hobby or an activity. learn how to paint or mold a pot. could work well. Throw and flush out old behaviors. The most important part of reinventing yourself is attitude. Saturate yourself and learn everything possible about what you want to become. take action and enjoy the whole new you. shop at a different store. set your goals. You will have to start thinking the same way as the person you want to be like. reactions and words. bible study or prayer group. smile more. such as collecting coins. why not try a new opportunity and field? There are unlimited opportunities waiting for you in the industry. German. mindsets. You can take a new route to your office. With a new day. Ways Of Reinventing Yourself Now • Have a make over and change your appearance. read through the following lines. have new reactions to different things. you are a new creature. or even take up piano or guitar classes. like platinum blonde from a mousy brunette or auburn red. knitting. Spanish. Make sure to find one that matches your interests. Create a new personality. To know more on how you can reinvent yourself and become a completely new person. try a new restaurant or a new drink. Japanese or Italian. but you can surely deal with them powerfully. Take a chance to see the other side of the city or your neighborhood. In case you are bored and unsatisfied with your current job. You can opt for learning a new language such as French. Even a new hair color. Join a health club. Schedule a new routine or change one aspect of your routine. Change your career. Choose to volunteer for your favorite charity once every week.ahead. life affirming ones. reading. Make use of new words. Discard all negative thoughts and replace them with positive. Join a new class to learn something new.
Every year thousands of new words are added to the human lexicon and hundreds of other words get ‘extinct’. and then commit it to memory. When you listen. which you find out by listening are also easy to remember. Cultivate a habit of reading regularly. So. Reading also keeps the words rotating through your mind. Check Unfamiliar Words Don’t bypass any unfamiliar words.language and so a good word power is not only a necessity but also an obligation. and also you can get an idea in which context it was used. great orators enthrall the audience not only with the content of their speech. when you see any unfamiliar word. in many words. Thus. You can encounter unfamiliar words every day. but also with the quality of their language. Newspapers and magazines use a limited vocabulary to facilitate the lay reader. Lack of an efficient vocabulary hinders effective communication and spreads misunderstanding. which you have forgotten due to non-usage. It gives us the freedom to choose how we express ourselves. . you may come across some words that you don’t know. if you want to increase your word power. In this way. Note these down so that you can look it up later. Words. when you have developed the habit of reading. particularly English classics. Etymology Every word has a history. make a note of the context in which it is used. Newspapers and magazines are a good way to start but later graduate to more exclusive readings. Listen Listening is the key to any good conversation. you will automatically learn the word. because you are sure to encounter the words many times. Try using alternative words and see if the effect is as good. This is also a good way to keep the words in your fingertips and not somewhere in the mind where you cannot find it. Moreover. you can realize the exact usage of a particular word. Listen to the speeches of great orators and learn how various words were used. So. Listening carefully will also throw up many words. Increasing the word power is a very interesting journey and the added advantage is the power it gives in our hands. that word would have been ingrained in your mind. No doubt. Because in the English language. Studying the etymology of words will also familiarize you with the other words of its family. Involve yourself in finding out the origin and history of words and by the time you finish. In addition. Tips For Increasing Your Word Power Read Extensively Reading is the most effective and efficient way to develop excellent word power. Read widely so that you encounter a variety of words. read the article below to know more on how to get started on it. and magazines like the ‘Reader’s Digest’ and ‘The New Yorker’. when you know the story of the word. shift to reading novels. the meaning changes according to the context in which it is used. and checking and using them can increase your word power to a great extent. Make a note of any unfamiliar words you find and then check the usage and meaning. Solve Crosswords Crosswords are word games that stimulate the brain and give you an understanding on how to use them. it is also important to keep oneself updated.
Record your speech and play it back. Tips For Giving A Great Speech • • Choose a subject for which you have a passion. Using words will also make you take interests in the words. It is better to know the usage of twenty words then to know two hundred words and not know how to use them. For example. Be truthful. Abraham Lincoln’s famous Gettysburg Address is very well known speech and has made history. practice. While you might not be able to give a speech that makes history. If you find yourself dropping off to sleep listening to your own voice. you will be perceived as a real speaker and not just another stereotype. you can give a great speech that will be remembered by your audience for a long time to come. Speak from your heart and be completely authentic. Share your mishaps and foibles. Remember that you will not become a great speaker overnight. Be persistent. Practice. You can do a good job of your topic only if you care about it. However. Patience and persistence go hand in hand. A great speech is the product of hard work and creativity. Practice your speech. Persistence is what defines whether you are going to be perceived as a person with expertise in speaking. If you don’t. Get as much support as possible so that you can succeed. then it’s very easy to forget them. don’t throw high flowing words simply for the sake of showing off. your audience will not trust what you are saying. practice. • • • • . If you try to sound bombastic. Move toward your goal with a willingness to make adjustment along the way. You will only be open to ridicule. Remember that a good speaker is more than a good talker. And make sure that you have a complete understanding of the words you are using. You should be open to taking risks and get into a routine of daily action to make your speech come out great. you use your life experiences and research to customize your material. ensure that depending on the topic and situation. Only then. How To Give A Great Speech There are many famous speeches that are remembered over time and some of these are even included in school curriculums. When speaking.Use The Words You Learn Adopt the words you learn into your daily vocabulary. then it’s time to make some changes. Overconfidence never helped anyone make a great speech. The mark of a good speaker is not just to do all the right things all the time. Read on to know the tips for giving a great speech.
Consider your fear like a room that is to be painted or some similar task. View your opportunity to give a speech as a privilege.• When you are making a speech. but don’t include sarcasm. Know your audience. . Avoid using jokes. and chronic anxiety which is better known as phobia. will help you present the material in a way that will appeal to your audience. Ensure that your introduction arouses interest. Modulate your voice when speaking and speak with warmth and enthusiasm. Speaking is an art and your idea can best be propounded when you are creative. It can be of two types. Include illustrations in your speech. Overcoming the fear of abandonment requires full determination on the part of the person experiencing such things. Use visual aids when speaking. Fear of abandonment can well be described as a psychological disorder wherein the person feels uncontrolled fear and anxiety when he/ she encounters situations that require facing the difficulties of life alone and without any support. is just like any other challenge to be dealt with. Pay attention to your opening statements. Your enemy. namely. Your speech should not be a rhetorical address. How To Overcome Fear Of Abandonment • • Identify your fear in detail and name it. broken relationships. This process helps you in getting closer to the fear each time you are around it. You can also include auditory and kinesthetic aids which will keep your audience’s attention riveted to you and which will get the message across. Given below are some ways and tips to overcome the fear of abandonment. once identified. This is what. wholesome. People learn best from these and tend to respond and retain information better. and innovative • • • • • • Overcoming Fear Of Abandonment Fear can be termed as a necessary part of life. Add in a bit of humor. Some possible causes of fear of abandonment can be loss of a near one. short quotation or a funny story that is relevant to your speech. Get used to the way the fear makes you feel. disturbed childhood and some social or personal trauma. you have just 30 seconds to connect with your audience. rational fear that is based on logical premise. You could go with a good. A process known as systematic desensitization is often used by most psychologists.
“Oh. Old fears raise their head from time to time. jealousy and attachments. Examine your fears and see how foolish or crazy they are. That is the importance that graciousness can have in a person’s life. Read the article below to know more on how to be gracious. . You’ll feel free from fear. Mistakes are part of life and so are bad experiences. Stop over-analyzing any situation. Pleasing and affectionate are the hallmarks of a gracious person. Do not waste your energy fearing too much. Stop being obsessed with anyone and anything. Graciousness is all about how you make the people around you feel. Gracious behavior. Turn off unwanted thoughts in the same impersonal way as you may think of your stomachrumbling. Although this is challenging but it is very necessary. Graciousness is a treasure that people throng to. it must be taught and absorbed. it can be inculcated into your way of life. Overcoming the fear is a time-consuming process but the reward is worth it. • • • • • • • • • How To Be Gracious Francis bacon said. hence. People are not born with gracious behavior. Through graciousness. Avoid thinking too much. as self-interest is not its characteristic. Worrying is a slow poison that eats you up daily. Forget the past and start moving ahead. Sometimes.” You may often think that fear can rage like an inferno. any situation can be resolved. it can be stubborn and determined. peace and serenity will manifest your life. there goes my brain rumbling again. As you become rich inside yourself. where as in reality it may be nothing but a little more than a candle flame. it shows he is a citizen of the world”. Pen down the reasons why you are paralyzing yourself by those fears. Be patient and determined and let yourself be exposed to the change. Gracious behavior depends on the upbringing and the environment. Develop a habit of taking every experience positively. so do not be too hard on yourself. Through constant practice. “If a man be gracious and courteous to strangers. do not carry the burden and delete them from the memory. Laugh out your troubles and let life free for sometime.• • Do no try to get rid of the fear. Inculcate healthy habits like yoga and meditation. if taught from the childhood can lead towards the development of a successful human being. This can be practiced on a daily basis. Do not preoccupy yourself with fearful or troubling thoughts. Prepare yourself well and be committed as fears become more uncontrollable at first when you challenge their hold on you. so a gracious person is never short of people near him or her.
patience. In the face of criticism. etc. Better articulation results in better understanding. To help when asked is good. Sounds are shaped by various articulatory organs whose proper coordination makes one speak in a lucid manner. empathy. it is better to wait and cool off. then it is considered gracious behavior. Timidity or lack of confidence can embarrass or deter the other person. The content and the significance are lost in misunderstanding. And. More often than not. being on the right is not that important. Therefore.Learning To Be Gracious • Take compliment with a smile. emotions and other sensibilities. Don’t wait for anyone to ask you for it. it will automatically teach you to be gracious. make these good qualities a part of you. When you understand a person. Kindness. respect. More often as not. and he will consider you a gracious person. A smile and saying ‘thank you’ will be a good return for the compliment. Practicing these positive traits will make graciousness a part of your character. so. but when discovered will hurt more than if you had been honest. hurting anyone is not graciousness. which will be ungracious. but to help when not even asked is better. and also accept the reasons for someone who is unable to come. Remember that graciousness should come unintentionally. Do not fake. . That is if you keep the interests of others in front of you. • • • • • • • • Articulation Exercises Clarity is the hallmark of a good speaker. as these are the sign of gracious character. “I think sometimes it’s more important to be gracious than to win” said Dorothy Kilgallen. Sometimes and with some people. if the person is criticizing you for your own good. Offering your help will always make the other person remember your graciousness. Faking your feelings. will carry you for a short time. While accepting an invitation. articulation exercises are very necessary as they hone the verbal communication exercises. the impulse to ‘shoot off’ is very great. you will fill him or her with a good feeling. Waiting allows you to collect your thoughts and makes the other person feel the depth of your maturity. If your being wrong. can do immense good to some people. Make the other person feel that he or she is acknowledged. from the subconscious and not as a forced entity. Small acts of understanding lead to greater acts of graciousness. are all signs of graciousness. Similarly. be sure to thank the host or convey your reasons for not accepting the invitation. Be forward with your help. when you invite someone. the message is lost in pronouncing and accent barriers. thank him or her for accepting the invitation.
Practicing the articulation exercises regularly will make you more understandable to your audience. Types Of Articulation Exercises Articulation exercises must be spoken slowly and carefully and must be practiced regularly without fail. Articulation For ‘D’ Type Words: Did Doug dig Dick's garden or did Dick dig Doug's garden? Articulation For ‘S’ Type Words: Moses supposes his toes are roses. The reading should be done aloud. articulation exercises will make him or her a clear speaker. Speech imperfection does not only result from speech impediment. The board bill bored Bill. . Bill also had a board bill. Neither did he have his billboard! Articulation For ‘F’ Type Words: Four furious friends fought for the phone Articulation For ‘H’ Type Words: How was Harry hastened so hurriedly from the hunt? Articulation For ‘J’ Type Words: Jack the jailbird jacked a jeep. But though he had no board bill. Articulation For ‘B’ Type Words: Bill had a billboard. However. So Bill sold his billboard And paid his board bill. As Moses supposes his toes to be. Regular practice will strengthen the articulatory organs by developing the face and body muscles. Then the board bill No longer bored Bill. But Moses supposes erroneously. because of language and cultural differences fail to speak with clarity. and speak smoothly. Articulation is often the thin line. as most people. For nobody’s toes are posies of roses. which divides a speaker from an orator. Read the article below to know more on how you can straighten your voice. through these articulation exercises. Gradually repeat faster till a level of clarity and lucidity is reached. since everyone is not blessed with a coherent speech. Good articulation always has an impact on the listeners.
Articulation For ‘K’ Type Words: My cutlery cuts keenly and cleanly. While some psychologists may claim that anger outburst is a good way to give an outlet to the negative energies. You need New York. most of you would agree that more than often. As such. Quickest kiss. Articulation For ‘N’ And ‘U’ Type Words: You know New York. How To Control Anger Outbursts Life is full of meeting unwelcome people and facing unwanted and annoying circumstances. even the calmest of person would agree having faced a situation. Controlling temper is the first step to ensure reduced stress levels and improved relationships. Articulation Of ‘V’ Type Words: Vincent vowed vengeance very vehemently. resort to any of the following ways listed below and relieve yourself . Just when you feel that you would be gripped in temper tantrum. Articulation For ‘P’ Type Words: Peter piper picked a peck of pickled peppers. Quicker kiss. when he/she lost temper and experienced an anger outburst. If Peter piper picked a peck of pickled peppers. Articulation For ‘R’ Type Words: Round the rugged rocks the ragged rascal ran. Articulation For ‘T’ Type Words: Ten tame tadpoles tucked tightly in a thin tall tin. You know you need unique New York. Where's the peck of pickled peppers that Peter Piper picked? Articulation For ‘L’ Type Words: Larry sent the latter a letter later Articulation For ‘Q’ Type Words: Quick kiss. it makes us land up in embarrassing position.
deep breathing. Energy Conversion Does this sound physics or mathematics to you? Well.you can either use it negatively or make it as a stepping stone to overcome the stimulus that caused anger in the first place. explained in the following lines. we mostly take things or arguments personally. but using the FLOW technique is the best way to deal with anger outbursts.your anger would be heavily subsided!! Tune To Music Did you know that music has healing properties? If no. Music goes a long way in dipping the rising anger levels. all you need to do is just close your eyes. When we are angry. However. relax your mind and take a deep breath. is one of the most beneficial ways to avoid anger outburst. would help you know how to control anger outbursts. regular indulgence in the two ensures better mind control. This way you would instantly dip your anger or rage and get back to the normal state of mind. It helps soothe your negative energies and provides a relaxing and calming feeling. Meditation & Yoga Experts have claimed the benefits of meditation and yoga for the mind. A sixty second indulgence in this technique and swoosh . Once this is done. energy conversion is the phrase given to convert the negative energies produced by anger into positive driving force. Just when you think that you might get trapped into a pool of bad mood and anger. think objectively as this will help you understand the situation in a mature way. The last step would be to ‘Wait’ for the right time. Most people . thereby helping in anger management.e. the next step would be to listen to the other’s point of view and try to rationalize it. Anger mostly arises due to conflict or disagreement. undoubtedly.from the anger outbursts. Believe in FLOW This might seem French to you. do not get scared as herein. The techniques. soul and the body. switch on the music system and listen to some of your favorite songs. ‘Listen’. No matter what is the intensity of your anger. Tell yourself that you would not explode your anger. you need to first ‘Focus’ at your mental state. go onto the next level. you might be able to control your anger outbursts as well?Meditation and yoga have positive effect on the mental and physical being of a person. Many people have claimed that anger outbursts are best dealt with this technique. Also. This way you can curb the anger outburst and at the same time conquer your flaws. did you know that by indulging in regular meditation or yoga. Instead. i. Next step would be to act ‘Objectively’. Ways For Controlling Anger Outbursts Deep Breathing Though you might have heard it a number a times. Repeat this for several times until the message has sunk deep into your mind. There are two ways to use the energy created by anger . So. For this. then you are definitely in for a revelation. thereby cooling both the mind and the body.
Apart from developing your mind.S president. you are able to make better guesses and determine the course of the stories or fictional novels you read. Develops One’s Creative Side Reading is one of the best ways to give a creative orientation to one’s mind. when your power to imagine develops. which should ideally be the other way round. When you read a story. This often makes you imagine a sequence of events in your mind on how the story will unfold further. broadens your horizon. Reading involves creative imaginations thereby promoting ingenious thinking. Expands Knowledge-Base Irrespective of how much knowledge your mind can store. Reading the written word and developing an understanding of it is a skill that is cultivated overtime by the habit of reading. The Importance Of Reading Develops The Mind Our mind needs regular exercise to develop and reading is the most effective way to do that. Reading enlightens your mind. You should wait and reflect for sometime about the consequences of angry outburst. Gradually. you are constantly wondering what will happen next. our mind also seeks nourishment that comes through reading. Waiting is the best indicator for anger management. expands your knowledge and opens up new avenues for you. The more you read. Abraham Lincoln. and there is no denying the fact that ‘Knowledge is Power’. Just as our body needs its daily dose of nutrients. the scope to feed it with new things. A well-read person is a reservoir of knowledge as reading helps one to know about new things and analyze them in his/her own inventive way. reading also develops your listening ability. Gaining knowledge empowers you mind and broadens its range. always remain wide. Why Reading Is Important “A capacity and taste for reading gives access to whatever has already been discovered by others” is a famous perspective on the importance of reading by the erstwhile U. Most people tend to speak more and listen less. It keeps your mind active and dynamic. Reading books also help to develop one’s listening ability which is very important to succeed in every aspect of life. Activates The Flow Of Ideas .would agree that instant reaction is the main problem for angermanagement. the more enlightened you are. The article dwells at length on the importance of reading. Read on to know why it is so important.
you will stay committed to it. Knowing things makes you feel self-assured and gives you the confidence to voice your opinions and be assertive about them. This will help you organize what is to done on immediate basis and what can wait. Also. It conveys more about your ability of being organized and dependable. A well-read person is always oozing with confidence for “he/she knows”. Ways For Becoming More Dependable Watch Your Promises Never make promises unless you are ready to fulfill them. it is very difficult to juggle out your schedule and personal life. it is good to be precautionary by not being wrapped up into the belief that you can solve all the problems of everyone. A dynamic flow of ideas also makes you an interesting person to be with as your mind is not static and you will always have something vital to contribute to every discussion. which you can use in just about every aspect of your life. If you are already preoccupied with some commitments. without letting things overload and backfire on you. Also. try not to lock yourself into anymore of them. arrogant or disrespectful as a person. Improve At Conveying A ‘No’ We all love to make a good impression on people around us. Active reading ignites your mind and arms it with new and creative ideas.It is rather interesting to note that people who are fond of reading soon transform into a bubbling cauldron of fresh ideas. Lack of reliability does not necessarily mean that you are deliberately careless. a learned person knows that he maintains a slight edge over other people. And then. Rather. by making them happy. Taking up only the required number of tasks will help you deliver great results and people will appreciate your reliability as well. as it usually produces opposite results. there are great chances of none of the commitments being fulfilled. Nonetheless. reliability means that if you have accepted something. Overpowering yourself with excessive commitments will only lead to unnecessary stress and tension. you should not agree to compromise on your precious time and happiness to do such a task. There are different ways through which you can become a more reliable person. Read on further to know you can be more reliable and dependable. Boosts Your Confidence Ever wondered why erudite people are so confident? Since knowledge empowers your mind. You will then realize what it feels like to have gained someone’s trust. no matter how talented they are. How To Become A More Reliable Person In today’s world. Prioritize your tasks and plan accordingly. it will enable you to . It is not mandatory to volunteer for everything and also. the desire of making every single person happy is often misguided.
In case you are already besieged by worries and stress. in turn. So. External factors will contribute a great deal to hinder you. the excitement coming from the unpredictability that life throws up. This would definitely be hard to do. Most of the time people ‘jump the bus’ midway due to lack of commitment on their part. in view of the other person. he is sure to get it back. they follow a strict pattern. while not compromising on his/ her reliability. The secret of a daily routine is to lead a balanced life and to have everything in balance. whenever he needs a favor or a little leeway. but prove to be more helpful than you can think. lead a very balanced life. After all. who follow a daily routine. they generally have all their complexities worked out. of the serious need for a daily routine. . They remain untouched by the rush and bustle in life. Adopting a daily routine is tedious but once the habit sets in. It is better to do what you perform best. try to shift the burden a bit. and live like a recluse. will enable you to remain focused and motivated towards being your best. There are times when you have to move forward only by taking a few steps back and reevaluating the situation. This. People. Many people consider having a daily routine as boring. It is always better to maintain a daily routine from as early as possible in life. Read the article below to know how you can start a daily routine. so you must be resolute. as it takes a long time. a daily routine should not be a burden. in order to take control of the situation. Since. A person knows himself better than anyone else does. Try To Bring Out The Best Most people have the tendency to perform all the tasks by themselves. Tips To Help You Start A Daily Routine • To start a daily routine the first thing to be done is to prepare oneself mentally. This is not to say that you leave everything behind. How To Start A Daily Routine A daily routine is a part and parcel of a disciplined life. It is likely possible that he may not get it back at the same moment. but the next time. it rolls on.arrange time to enjoy with people and the things that are more close and important to you. to show that they can never be wrong. people willing to start a daily routine must have patience. Flexibility A person willing to be flexible with other people will receive the same flexibility from them in return.
Without a plan. or a social gathering? In fact. then over the years. With these tenets in mind. If you can cultivate a habit. Daily routine is all about leading a disciplined life. or gardening. people will be drawn to those who take a sincere interest in them. to adopt a daily routine. in front of whom. Most people. it would develop into a strong habit. they flow from small talk to hard talk. they seem to know exactly what to talk about. . See if your spiritual. In this way. sex or race. Develop a habit that is constructive and stimulating. Most good conversations start with small talk. These are the people.• • • • Set a goal. while others just stare in awe and envy. mastery of the art of conversation is regarded. you will have little idea of what and when to do. and habitual aspirations. and end up making many more friends in a day. Have a plan. • • • Mastering The Art Of Conversation Have you ever found yourself wondering how some people effortlessly strike up conversations. rather than those who try hard to gain the interest of others. That is the reason daily routine should be flexible. people want less to do with how much you know. It will show you the road ahead. emotional. where you can measure your success by the target reached. A goal. and reach your target. emotion. you develop a routine. for reading. you will know what and how to achieve every day. who have mastered this art. as a buffer for accommodating sudden calls. so that in the end. who seem to relate to everyone. so. Without a goal. Once you are on your way to a daily routine. as a sign of success. Flexibility in your daily timetable allows you to indulge in breaks. have benefitted from the daily routine. which would anchor you to the routine. Read on to know how to effectively make powerful conversations with just about anybody. every now and then. what kind of reaction to give and so on. You can have both a long term and a short-term plan. Leave an hour or two every day. love to talk about themselves. you don’t have to rush things up. writing. say. It encourages you to accomplish. Unforeseen events may disrupt your daily routine. irrespective of age. it is good to be prepared. Adopt a vision. be it at a date. without turning your routine upside down. then review your routine to include those aspects that satisfies your spirit. If not. keep in mind these tenets – people. Have a daily target. and having a clear vision is one of its tenets. and more to do with how much you care. than others seem to make in a lifetime. will be the lighthouse that will show you the direction. you won’t have any idea or motivation. what you need to do every day. In this way. Setting a goal will also make you stick to your routine. in short. check your development. and habit.
This gesture will prove that you give people respect for who they are and are not unnecessarily judgmental. most leaders swear by. what is spoken by others. rather than running the risk of opening it to all kinds of meanings. part of making effective conversation. In the third part. express it freely.How To Master The Art Of Conversation Free Expression Freely express yourself. consequently. even if they sound ambivalent. Expressing one’s opinion in a positive. be it business or sharing of personal views. will you strike up an interesting debate. The second part will merge all small talk into the main topic or purpose of the conversation. we may also find ourselves being swallowed by the feeling of guilt. This may be because we have been conditioned to own up for our mistakes and errors in judgment. even if it might seem like they’re trying to be offensive. full of right wing conservative people. less misunderstanding. Holding ourselves culpable only adds to the misery of committing the mistake in the first place. It will lead to less misinterpretation and. The article brings you some valuable tips on how to forgive yourself and stop feeling guilty. You may be sitting in a room. as most of us have not been taught how to forgive our own mistakes. Read on and learn how to move on in life. by making us forlorn and sad. Not only. Benefit Of Doubt Most people don’t really mean to harm anybody new with their words. So. The first part of is the small talks. to make effective conversations effortlessly. One-Two-Three Keep in mind the flow that a conversation is supposed to follow. How To Forgive Your Own Mistakes Forgiving your own self can prove to be more daunting that pardoning others. If you listen to people with sincere interest you will understand the true meaning of what they are saying. nonthreatening. opinions and so on will flow into a satisfying end. intended and unintended. non-patronising manner is a quality that. Since people don’t come across honesty very often. . In such a case. ending up losing thefriends. all these views. when they see it. inquiring about family members and others. Many a times. which includes exchanging pleasantries. people who are none the wiser about art of conversation misinterpret. not being able to forgive our faults can make our life miserable. they have instead of making any new ones. give them the benefit of doubt for their words. Follow this flowchart. you will perhaps also be regarded highly. acceptable to all parties involved. whatever it may be. for having had the courage to be different from the crowd. but if you support the labor party. for whom the Communist Revolution was the dance of the Devil. Worse. most of them welcome it. often overlooked. All Ears Listening is also an integral and.
Encourage Yourself To Move On Realize that your life is not going to end or stagnate just because of a mistake of yours. but repeating it. whose guidance you trust and value. A guilt-free existence is only possible when your mistakes are not perpetually weighing on your conscience. surely is! We learn from our mistakes. not being overwhelmed by your errors. which are generic. as we have to pay a price for them. Remember that your mistakes always add to your experience. If at all you want to grade yourself. as life is a continuous learning process. And. Probably. You will also get a chance to vent out your frustration in a more constructive way. Don’t Judge Yourself The worst people can do is to judge themselves by their mistakes. Remember that committing a mistake is not a crime. speak up and lift that burden off your heart. it gets worse when we are disapproving of your own self. A reflection of what you have learnt from your mistakes would be a perceptible change in your behavior. Being judgmental equals to being disapproving. Always remember that you are not a reflection of your mistakes. Disembark yourself from past mistakes and march ahead! Share your mistakes Holding things to yourself will make it increasingly difficult to forgive yourself and stop feeling guilty. Confess your mistake in front of a close friend. Languishing in past will not give you an opportunity to time-travel to the bygone times and change things. You can’t afford to keep wallowing in guilt over your wrongdoings. Pardon yourself by pouring your heart out before someone you know will make you feel better.How To Forgive Yourself & Stop Feeling Guilty Learn From Your Mistakes Trying to learn from your mistakes is a very healthy way of dealing with them. but a manifestation of the good things that you do in life. Active Listening Activities . do that in a balanced way. Forgive yourself completely and look forward to the future. the biggest lesson life teaches us is to move on. To err is human and to learn how to avoid the same mistake in the future is also within human capacity. Unburden Your Heart If you believe that your mistake is too big to be forgiven and keeping it to yourself is killing you. which is always brighter and full of hope. You can always share your mistakes with others and warn them of the consequence that you suffered from. rather dismissive of the subject of our judgment.
On a simple note. Each member of the group is supposed to go to the front of the room. and one of the fundamentals of communicating well. Active Listening Activity Ideas For Students Group Juggle This activity requires a large space as physical activity is involved. The first topic could be fun and easy to speak on. who will pass it to another student. Active Listening Discussion The group of participants is to be divided into pairs and each pair is to have a listener and a speaker. In this activity. The participant group has to arrange itself in a circle. The speaker is then given a topic to speak on and the listener has to listen to the speaker actively. The other participants will ask three questions relating to themselves. The article brings you some active listening activities that will help improve your listening skills. is to listen carefully. The supervisor will make a note of the answers given by each of the participant as their turn comes. the supervisor will ask the members to recall which member had given what answer.Active listening helps one improve his/her ability to understand and grasp verbal information. and is supposed to be debated upon by them. Once everyone gets a hang of the activity. to the one standing in the front. It is then that the supervisor will reveal it to the participants that they were part of a quiz. the teacher will stop the speaker in the middle and ask any other student to continue the discussion from the same point where it has been left by the previous speaker. Group Discussion This activity just requires a common topic that will be given to a group of students. to check whether they listened carefully or not. Once the discussion ensues. After the speaker is through. It is a communication skill that facilitates effective communication of your ideas and concepts. which can then be followed by more difficult ones. The teacher can also participate in this game. Then. It is no secret that good listeners also make good communicators. the teacher will call out someone’s name and pass a soft toy/ball to him/her. Then. The element of surprise in the game will make the students listen with attention and carefully watch out for their name. The toy/ball will continue to be passed till all the students are covered. For Adults Quiz This activity is to be performed indoors and requires a supervisor. the teacher can randomly pick any of the students and ask him/her to continue speaking. a communication process actively involves a speaker and a listener. all the students become alert as they are supposed to catch the ball as soon as their name is called. gradually. after calling his/her name. the listener will have to recall .
Do not stereotype other people. the next time. A simple act of kindness can show your respect towards others. It also shows your lack of respect for the person. if you don’t respect yourself. Good behavior automatically earns the respect of others. Showing kindness towards others is the best way to endear you to them. will convey your respect to others.and rephrase the speaker’s content. Merely saying ‘please’ and ‘thank you’ doesn’t mean that you are being respectful. cultivate good manners. To put other peoples need before yours. as people get a sense of respect. This exercise helps improve the business communication skills of the participants and the ability to coordinate with one another How To Be Respectful Towards Others Treat others. he or she also won’t give any attention to you. you are stereotyping. Then the speaker and listener can critically analyze and review each other’s performance. you are not taking him or her seriously. Tips To Be Respectful • • Be kind. Many a times. Stereotyping makes. then it’s a life well lived as it is the hardest thing to get. even taking up an entire lifetime. So. give respect and give it to yourself too. Good manners are the essential quality to show respect. Respect can never be forced as it comes straight from the heart. Respect is the pillar that supports the bridge called relationship. So. If you can earn the respect of your peers and fellows. To earn respect you must first. not showing attention. In the daily grind and stress of everyday life. The listener is supposed to interpret speaker’s content and offer solutions and feedback to the supervisor accordingly. A person may respect another because of fear but that is not true respect. This can be configured as lack of respect as the person may think that you do not consider him or her at par with you. no one else will respect you. we have forgotten the moral obligation of respecting others so that we are also respected in turn. True respect only comes when you empathize with the other person. which will make him or her feel respected and so return the favor. Listen attentively and show interest in whatever is said. as. as you want them to treat you. This can also be followed by a swapping of roles among the two. you come across as a narrow-minded person. when they interact with a wellmannered person. makes the other person feel that. • • . Given below are tips to help you be more respectable towards others.
So. You must show your understanding of his or her opinion. the more it grows and the harder it becomes. The fear of being dominated by the other person also develops. don’t pressurize anyone to do something which he or she is not willing to do. is to face the fact that you have a fear of getting intimate with people.• • • Understand other peoples. you must also respect his choice and free will. Hiding behind emotional barriers will only weaken you. It is not only ill mannered. The fear of intimacy stems from the fear of getting hurt from a relationship. to overcome. When you apologize for a mistake or a hurt you caused. It can be due to a traumatic childhood. This inability to act after the supposed betrayal. emotional trauma. . gives rise to the fear of intimacy. To show respect. A person suffering from the fear of intimacy is always faced. you will gradually develop the sense of respecting everyone. conveys your sincere regret and the person will appreciate your sense of love and respect for him or her. religion. So. tease or backbite. When you give priority to someone’s right to choose. or loss of a loved one. you show him or her respect. It is the other side of the fear of rejection. can show how much you respect the other person. Given below are tips to help you overcome your fear of intimacy. Don’t dictate or belittle anyone because of his or her background. you used to back bite or tease. rejection. and steel yourself to come out of it. like and dislikes. with the question ‘What if’ this or that happens. You cannot respect anyone whom you mock. value other people’s opinion. Apologizing for your mistake. The causes are varied. and then present your reasons for agreement or disagreement. • • • Overcoming Fear Of Intimacy The fear of intimacy is a psychological disorder that hinders a person from forming a relationship with another person. the person withdraws into a shell. hurt. As a result. When you respect someone. The fear of intimacy can also be due to the fear of losing. This shows your commitment to them. abusive relationship. How To Overcome The Fear Of Intimacy • The more you bottle up your fear of intimacy. Once you start respecting the people. Throw these out and you will feel respect for people. a fear of getting intimate. the first task in order to get over this fear. which leads to emotional stagnation. This does not mean blindly follow whatever they say. but also signals bad breeding. He or she is unable to develop a connection with other people and feels lonely and isolated. or social status. and not knowing how to cope later.
Seek out areas. fear. This will help you to be transparent. Be honest. Do things. That is why. By talking. in overcoming your fear of intimacy. and gradually move on to the difficult. However. The most difficult task is to get it out. It is more than difficult to forget things and move on. as they are subconsciously ashamed to face others. you can’t afford to let the anger remain within you. Moving on in life is the key to forgetting the hurt caused to you. as if nothing has happened. other than an understanding and honest partner. to get over it. or to a restaurant. Don’t be ashamed of yourself. the fear tends to dissolve. since it doesn’t come easy. • • • • • • How To Forgive And Forget When Someone Hurts You Dealing with hurt and anger is important and the one who is not able to do so ends up becoming a bitter person. Develop a friendship with your partner. Stacking up . where you both are compatible. step by step. hiding nothing. or simply go for a movie. and nurture those. keeping nothing hidden. In case you need some help in this regard. holding feelings of resentment can affect your peace of mind and ruin your happiness. like cooking. Share and discuss your pain. Most people with a fear of intimacy have a feeling of worthlessness. So don’t get disheartened and withdraw to your shell. Forgiving Someone Who Has Hurt You Forget What Happened Hostility and bitterness survives in people who find it difficult to forget the past. Go one. Share and exchange your thoughts and personal experiences. which they do not want other people to find out. This shame for the self can cause people to develop a fear of intimacy. in between. Start from simple ones. Overcoming the fear of intimacy is a long process. and so they gradually begin to develop a fear of getting intimate. Therefore. gardening.• • Bare your heart to your partner. by other people. Follow the article to find some tips on how to forgive and forget when someone has hurt you. and have a determination. so that you get your hidden fear out. which will give you self-satisfaction and a creative boost. Pardoning others and putting a hurtful incident off your mind needs to be worked upon. at a time. and experiences. Be honest to face your fear. to overcome this fear a person must value his or her self. Value yourself. no matter how important it is to do the same. This is perhaps the only requirement. Involve your partner in day-to-day activities. we are at your service. deep down themselves.
Eventually. never forget that time is the biggest healer. Remind yourself that even you would have hurt others at one point of time. Many people tend to keep things to themselves. for all the comprehensible reasons. it becomes easier to forgive him/her. you should communicate your feelings to the one who has hurt you. for sadistic reasons. but the glory of forgiving remains forever”. Therefore. forgiving and forgetting will become a lot more easier. look forward to the future and bury the bad memories of the past. If you can accept this premise. How To Impress People Look around you and you would be surprised to find that even dorky-looking guys and gals can have the crowd eyeing them. to be the talk of the town. intentionally or unintentionally. and it makes them averse to communication. Allow Others To Apologize Sometimes. leave the healing on time. It is important to realize that conversation will allow the other person to offer an explanation for his/her hurtful behavior and help you overcome the same. Live in the present. even after you have forgiven the other person.hard feelings for someone who has hurt you will not allow you to bury the hatchet and you will constantly find yourself dwelling on something that cannot be changed now. you will be able to put it out of your mind. Wonder how? All that you need to do. is to master the art of making the right impression. we are so infuriated and hurt over an incident that we do not allow the other person to buy time and come up with an apology when things cool down. Communicate The Hurt Rather than holding a grudge and allowing it to thrive. If forgetting a hurtful incident is impossible for you. It is a popular myth that people are only born with the gift or ability of impressing others. it is important to remember that “the joy of revenge is only for a day. Once you get a heart-felt apology from the person who has hurt you. The choice is yours! Let Time Heal There are times when the hurt is simply impossible to forget. but cannot acquire . make sure that you do not shut down the lines of communication completely. Bitterness and bad memories pertaining to an incident will fade away with the passage of time. Realize That Everyone Is Human Realize that it is only human to make mistakes and most of us don’t hurt others intentionally. While moving on is easier said than done. While some people believe that revenge is the sweetest joy. Would you want others to hold that against you forever? Allowing others to apologize will save you from becoming bitter to them. especially if the person is close to you.
the same. you need to bear in mind that impressing others is no gift. but just an art. Just being attractive or extremely genius is sure to goof up your persona. the best way to do so would be to learn to replace the words ‘I can't’ with ‘I can’. Rather. all you want to do is run away. One such tip is that you need to groom yourself. For the other half. you would have people following you. having striking looks is the task half done. Each one of us executes certain vibes to the people around. The secret is to radiate positive and healthy vibes and within the twinkling of an eye. did you know that it’s your very own aura that can make much of a difference in making you an impressive person? Believe it or not. intelligence and humor. Imagine meeting a person who is shabbily dressed. physically. However. if you lack the other parts. If you really want to impress someone. However. . it's never about what happened. Get that killing look and you would surely have the eyes rolling!! The Right Mix Most of you would agree to meeting a lot of people who look charming. you need to have the right mix of beauty. which you can master by following the right tips. Remember. This would reflect much about your personality and make you a notable person wherever you go. you would be the most-talked about person in the society. Rather. prefer to look like a prince/princess and talk like a scholar. it is always about your reaction towards what took place and how well you were able to cope with it. Remember. And if someone denies the fact. has unruly hair and scruffy looks! The only expression that comes to your mind is ‘aaghh’! Isn’t it? Remember. Impressing People Around You The Aura Much is said and discussed about the aura that each person has. emotionally and psychologically and voila. you would be amazed to see people talking about you. In case you are still wondering how to impress people. Get That Killing Look Ask anyone and you would know that looks do matter. but with a tinge of humor and wittiness added. the trick is to balance the bad emotions and act as if nothing bothers you at all. your aura can make you the most arresting person in a crowd of hundred as well. This would give a tremendous boost to your personality and in no time. know for sure that he/she is the biggest believer of the same. And remember. the tips given below would surely be of help. the more you find yourself running into them. you need to look striking as well. to be impressive. Dare To Do Did you know that most people are bowled over by people who dare to ‘do’? Confused! Look around you and you would be surprised to find that almost every other person you meet has words like ‘can’t’ and ‘impossible’ in his/her vocabulary. the one who is talked about the most is naturally impressive!! Balance Bad Emotions It is a well-accepted fact that the more you run away from unpleasant situations and people. but when they open their mouth to speak. Instead.
relationship. Take time and clear it out. financial. health etc. which range from missed opportunities. is to get clear ideas on what you want to do in life. Believe In Yourself . Procrastination is the habit of putting off any work to the last minute. doing it on a regular basis can pose serious problems to your career and personal life. which would help you reach your goal. In addition. when there was no food. Sometimes we procrastinate simply because we don’t have any schedule for the day. Don’t make a very huge list as it might get too overwhelming for you. which will keep you alert and away from procrastination. how the grasshopper wasted his time hopping and singing in the summer while the ants toiled and moiled. In addition. Most people procrastinate because they have no goals. There are various effects of procrastination. Make goals in various fields of your life. the grasshopper found itself at the mercy of ants. Make short term and long-term goals. if there are some works which you don’t like to do but are important in order to achieve your goal. and even resentment. With no goals. link those tasks to your goals. It will help you stick to your program. Work On Achieving The Goals Remove all the tasks. like career. which you have to do. And how in winter. Plan Your Day The best way to keep yourself away from procrastination is by planning the day. people don’t have the will to move ahead in life. Does it sound like a familiar story and not because you have heard it over a million times but because you find the grasshopper as your alter ego.How To Overcome Procrastination You may remember the story of ants and grasshopper. Read on the article to know some practical tools to overcome it. Sometimes it can occur because of laziness. Set a time for whatever chore you are taking for the day. to guilt. stress. Keep your eyes on the things. or because you want to escape something or at times you are too overwhelmed by a task that you put it off. Although almost every one of us procrastinate one or the other time in our life. which you can do without and which will not obstruct you in reaching your goals. It will clear your mindset and would not even take more than your ten minutes. It will motivate you to do the tasks and to reach your goals and you would be happy to do that afterwards. the causes for procrastinating may or may not be same. Tips For Overcoming Procrastination Get A Goal The most important thing.
you won’t be able to do much. as it will keep you in for long haul. the tough gets going’ and the driving force behind tough souls is a positive thinking mind. Sometimes we get too involved in a thing. you would snap. First. Problems in life are generic and affect everyone in almost the same way. Break down the big tasks but schedule it in your time limit so that you don’t spend too much time on a smaller task. The article brings you some exercises and activities which will help you to think optimistic. discouraged and feeling negative. Break Down Big Tasks Breaking down big tasks in smaller components would help you concentrate on that particular task for the moment. And that may put you off from the whole idea itself. Respect Your Values Almost every one of us wants to do several things. frustrated. and if you are too hard on yourself. Remember that failure is just a stepping-stone to success. Don’t Overdo It Don’t put too much pressure on yourself. . Read on and know how to become a positive thinker. Stick to your time management but allow for little cheats. have a clear idea about your values and then use them as a navigational compass in all the decisions you make. only positive thinkers know how to overcome the most testing of situations. Take Breaks Take breaks when you feel less motivated and are tired. Delete the ‘impossible’ word out of your dictionary and remember that you can do it. Challenging situations can leave you harassed. but actually how many of us do it? The problem is that we don’t respect ourselves and we don’t respect our values. If in childhood. you wouldn’t have been able to walk itself. As the habit of not procrastinating will take time to cultivate.The most important thing to achieve success is the belief in oneself. Follow your inner desires and success would follow you. will provide better results and will not overwhelm you. You don’t have to be too hard on yourself. Even if you do procrastinate. that we don’t even know when we start getting frustrated and take unnecessary stress. which will improve your working ability. However. This will keep you focused. Have faith in your abilities and the power to turn things around. you wouldn’t have walked because of the fear of falling. recognize that you are doing it and thrive to change it. Unless you believe in yourself. Positive Thinking Exercises It has been rightly said that ‘when going gets tough.
Forgive Yourself Remember that you are human too! It is important to realize that you don’t run the world and there are things beyond your control as well. Try To Forget Negative reminiscences of something that has passed over and can’t be changed now can take you down the memory lane and hamper a forward-looking positive approach. It is also the only thing. but keeping yourself happy is completely a matter of choice. The best part is that you don’t have to necessarily meditate in a static body posture.Activities For Positive Thinking Early Morning Walk An early morning walk can be of immense help in keeping you in a positive frame of mind throughout the day. Inspire Yourself It is important to inspire yourself. Believe In Yourself Most negative thinkers are those who suffer from a lack of self belief and continue to nurse doubts about their abilities. Write inspirational quotes and place them at your office desk or at home. Listen to inspirational songs when you are driving and lift up your spirits. The moment you start forgiving yourself. There is no denying the fact that you will keep finding yourself in trying circumstances. Holding yourself responsible for everything is not going to alter a situation for the better. If you are in a happy state of mind. where you get a chance to read them as often as you can. Make sure that you take a walk early in the morning and take time out to appreciate the beauty of nature. which probably requires the least effort on your part. Just sit in a comfortable chair and listen to soothing music or perform deep breathing exercises that are good for relaxing your mind. . to conquer any negativity in your mind. which can occasionally go wrong. you will automatically think positive. Always remember that one should remember only the good things of the past and drop the bad memories from the mental landscape. Confidence and self-assurance is the cornerstone of positive thinking and you will notice the difference instantly. you will begin to feel positive. yet the most powerful techniques to foster positive thinking. Forgetting the negatives of life encourages positive thinking. more so from your successes in the past. Be Happy The easiest way to think positive is to be happy. once you build faith in yourself. It will work as a great stress buster and ward off any negative emotions trying to overpower your mind. Meditation Meditation is one of the simplest.
which you want to achieve. Never think of yourself as a loser or a joker. Even if he does a mistake. Confidence Building Exercises • • • • • Imagine yourself as the perfect person. you can use confidence-building techniques to increase and enhance your confidence. A person without confidence is like a ship without a captain. This is the greatest teaching of Zen. Just make a list of positive traits. You imagine yourself as an epitome of talent and virtue. are you like the wobbly doctor? Do you struggle to take decisions? If yes. Focus on the positive things about yourself. When you are feeling very less confident. imagine yourself as the wise man on earth. Your subconscious gets designed in a positive way when you accept the compliments from others. Do not hurt yourself by complaining about your weakness and negative traits. Use positive motivational quotes from the good books you have ever read. Think about how a wise. and find out what a beautiful personality you are. Self-confidence is of utmost importance in every aspect of our lives and unless we are confident. Treat yourself as if you were your own best friend. unless he is confident. Analyze those qualities from roots. Would you want him to operate on you? The answer certainly is ‘no’ by all means. you will never have confidence in him and better say you are off without him. When you reach a • • • . Be kind to yourself with your words and actions. Gracefully accept the compliments of others. Now come to think of it. Write them down on a book or in a laptop. confident person would have handled the situation? Study your favorite personalities and analyze their activities and behavior pattern and act like them. Never let you down in any case. You never want to hurt your best friend. Just refer it again and again when you feel so frustrated. If you feel you lack in confidence. Treat yourself with the same approach. Even though the doctor may be very experienced and good. So what are you waiting for? Go on read for yourself the techniques for confidence building. it is cultivated and it is never too late to cultivate it. You already have things. Nobody is by birth a confident man/woman. we would not be able to achieve anything in our life. There is nothing wrong in accepting the compliments from others.Confidence Building Techniques Imagine a scene where you are on an operation table and the doctor who is doing your surgery is bathed with sweats and is wobbly with apprehensions. then you might as well be suffering from lack of self-confidence. you pamper him and convince him that he didn’t commit any.
Always keep a lot of friends. • • Praise yourself million times a day if possible. . • • • • • How To Avoid Being Rushed In The Morning The knack of parenting does not come easily. Imagine your life is already fulfilled and full of joy. It comes with a detailed course of action that is to be followed regularly. This will prepare your children to assist you in the growing years. which is designed to shock you. Explore this article to know tips on how to avoid being rushed in the morning and route your day to a smooth. It is better to make your mornings a smooth drive rather than a mad dash. Tips To Avoid The Morning Rush • Prepare all the clothes and outfits for yourself and your children before hitting the pillow. Try to help others honestly. sent to school. You will feel more contented and relaxed. for a long’s days work. calm and joyful beginning. Don’t be too pushy on success. Do not watch. The morning alarm signals the start of a race for most of the parents. praise yourself to the Himalayan heights. The children are to be fed and dressed. Never shut the door to people. it gradually turns into reality. coats. you don’t need other’s compliments to feel contented. There is a saying “look for the silver lining in every cloud” which means see positive traits in whatever happens even if that is a negative thing in a normal sense. Instead of exposing yourself to bad news. dress and set off to the office. Then it’s the turn of the parents to eat.higher level of confidence. in the night. listen to. News is polished version of facts. gloves. Do some weight training exercises and build yourself a good physique. Whenever you achieve a minor goal. and music. etc. • Set out shoes. hair accessories. Most of news. If you can think of your imagination as the reality. Schedule and start off a routine when the kids are still young. So avoid the habit of reading the newspaper in night before you sleep. Practice meditation and yoga. or read the news just before bed. A strong physique is the foundation of good mind. to breeze out the process of getting ready in the morning. you can find in any newspaper are negative. fun. It also requires a great deal of planning and scheduling the next day’s routine. recall the entire positive experiences of the day.
• • • Designate one place to keep your keys. you will not only be able to move ahead in life. Pack your children’s bags in the night. Prepare the office briefcase in the evening. to clear up your head. This will enable you to start the day with a few peaceful and quiet moments and help you tackle the needs of others. Get up early and before the rest of family members. notebooks and other supplies in the night itself. Put in their lunch money. Pen down all the necessary things to do on a sticky note. It is only those people who stand . Charge your cell phones the night before. Lack of sleep will make you sluggish and not help getting up in the morning. to save time and the frustration of searching for the things in the morning. Once you are sure about your opinions. This will help manage each child’s routine and keep everyone move along and keep the pace. For this. fill them up before going to bed and do not leave them for the morning. you should be focused and extremely determined and should have a strong mind set. Remember “Early to bed. In every stream of life there are millions of people struggling to carve a niche for themselves. Pen down the duties and divide them among the family members. but will also be able to bring a change with your thoughts and ideas. Set your alarm 15 minutes before the regular time. This way. it is vital to take the lead. This will give you more time to do the necessities and make you fell less hurried. It totally depends on you whether you want to be just another face in the crowd or stand out as strong independent character. wallet and cell phones and make a habit of keeping them at that place only. Start your morning with some upbeat music to keep you on your toes. then only will you be able to voice out your thoughts and convince people regarding the same. to avoid rushing in the morning. In case any forms are to be filled in. papers. • • • • • • • • How To Lead A Discussion It is often said that if you want to make yourself heard and your presence felt. Discuss the short-cuts to ease the burden of time constraints. This statement is true for each and every aspect of life. in case one of them has a habit of staggering in the bathroom. to reminder you of the same in the morning. early to rise makes a person healthy and wise”. particularly during a gathering or discussion. Be sure that you and your family members are well-rested by calling the night early. Have your children get up at different times.
as this is the only way you can come to meaningful conclusions. the more confident you will feel. • The phrase “practice makes a man perfect” would probably sound like a cliché to some. without grounds to explain them. To start a discussion and keep it going. Make it a point that everybody gives proper reason and backup for his or her opinions. They should never be limited to ones that can be answered by a simple “yes” or “no”. Such people are able to do so only because they can forward their thoughts among millions of others and lead discussions. You can even use a recorder to visualize how you present yourself and how much more you have to improve.up for their beliefs and rights who bring about a change in the society. • • • How To Achieve Success . but history has proved it time and again that the more you practice. which allows the listeners to follow up with answers or further questions. Leading Group Discussions • Whether in school or at office. These questions should always be open-ended in nature. give a summary or conclusion for the discussion. while facing the crowd. you should frame the correct questions for the participants. the more perfect you get with your presentation. Jot down the important things or make a mental note and find out all the probable questions that you would probably face during the discussion. Particularly emphasize on the quieter participants and try to get them involved as much as the other members. read on. We have provided some very interesting tips on how you can lead a discussion and progress in life. Judge the pros and cons of every side. the discussion should also have several smaller ones for each main question. Try to infuse arguments. you should be well prepared with a list of questions. Try to find a balance between the different types of personalities and give every person involved in the discussion a chance to speak out his or her thoughts. Apart from the big questions. Finally. • • As a leader. one after the other. do your homework well and explore the topic of discussion in detail. wherein you make your speech in front of an imaginary crowd. to shoot at the participants. In case you want to be one of them. to keep the fire within the discussion burning. The more you know about the subject matter. The main idea is for a constructive solution after a prolonged period of discussion. Nobody should give blank statements. based on evidences and verifications provided by the members. You can even have an imaginary presentation.
but taking care of your health will ensure that you are in good shape to pursue success. Build your long term goals upon the short term ones. However. True success lies in reaching your goals. Look after your physical and emotional health. good exercise. Ensure that you get proper food.What does success really mean to you? To many. and to turn them around and use them to create a new path to help you reach your goals. you would need to be creative as well as flexible. without wavering. staying positive will help you be more successful in the end. If you have a negative attitude. There might be a lot of things that come in the way of reaching your goals. which might make you stray off course. Be positive. When you approach your goals to success. This might seem to be a strange tip. the lives of many people have proves that success is more than just materialism and the quest for wealth. Read on to know how to achieve success. Tips To Be Successful • Have goals – long-term goals as well as short-term ones. and filling their homes with the latest gadgets. you will find that the obstacles become more difficult to surmount. make sure that these are practical. Be focused on your goals. Contrary to a prevalent attitude. Some visualize themselves in huge mansions. Trying to aim for the moon will only result in failure. Viewing your goals as a chore will not lead to success. To this end. When you set goals. Goals and the path to success cannot be trodden upon singlehandedly. Creativity is needed in order to make the best of the changed circumstances. Steadfastness is required here in order that you do not give up once obstacles come your way. you do not need to trample on others in order to reach out to success. This will help you greatly when dealing with others. Things may not always work out the way you wanted them to. driving the latest cars. However. The following steps will help you understand what you would need to do in order to be a successful person. it is essential to communicate well and effectively. You might have to change your plans or the way that you wanted to work towards a goal. Be committed towards your goals. the words success invokes the idea of dollar signs glinting before their eyes. Have a list of short-term goals (for the day or for the week) and work towards achieving them. and adequate sleep. If the road to success gets rough. There will definitely be obstacles in your path to success. Flexibility is needed in order to allow you to keep yourself open to changes that come along with changed circumstances. defining who you are by what you choose in life. • • • • • • • How To Be Assertive Without Being Arrogant . Therefore. be like a horse with blinkers and look straight ahead at your goal. your attitude counts a lot.
at least in the professional arena. You will find some valuable tips on how to balance your aggression and be assertive without being arrogant or pushy. it makes sense to keep your options open. Reaching a compromise. no matter what. It is such a fine combination that you would never be associated with elitism and snobbery. Tips To Be Assertive Without Being Aggressive Use Assertive Communication Appropriately Those who are not assertive don’t speak their usual self and those who are. Be Modest & Unassuming Modesty and an unassuming demeanor gel very well with assertiveness. if you don’t want to be written off as an aggressive freak. which is deemed appropriate. Look For A Middle Path There are certain situations where it becomes imperative to work out a middle path. it also involves listening to the other party patiently. In case. ‘Being polite yet firm’ is the golden rule and you would do well to remember that. There is a bright possibility that you may come across as arrogant. Those who don’t listen to what others have to say epitomize arrogance in the most apparent way. which is very important to succeed. almost blurred. However. Assertiveness is a remarkably positive trait and selfassured people are sure to succeed.Being assertive is often equated with being arrogant and bigheaded. . It’s just that others should not feel that you are self-absorbed and only concerned with yourself. rudeness coupled with assertiveness is naturally seen as arrogance. Be humble and civil with others in your dealings. Listen to others. Imagine if the other party is as forceful and pushy as assertive are you! Under such circumstances. The plain dichotomization between assertiveness and arrogance is that assertive people climb the ladder without stepping on other people’s rights and arrogant people simply fail to see that others exist. It doesn’t imply that you are giving others a chance to convince you when you have to be assertive. tend to over do it at times. rather than incessantly locking horns with others by being too assertive. Your insolence can make you feel alone. but stand solid on your position. in certain circumstances. where you have to communicate your needs without bending. Conversely. benefits more than hoisting your own flag. sometimes. often brand assertiveness as a mere reflection of superciliousness. You have to guard against this tendency. Be An Active Listener Being assertive is not only about conveying your point across in a firm way. The dividing line between the two can appear to be very thin. some insecure people. Identify such situations and be willing to work for a compromise when required. The idea is to strike a fine balance and use your assertive communication skills in a manner. who do not possess this brazenness. read on. you don’t want this to happen. Only you can tame your over aggressiveness.
conversation is all about understanding what your partner is trying to say and convey to you. Be friendly. give your introduction. else. Conversations give you an excellent opportunity to learn from the speakers. Observe people carefully and put in more questions. Be sure to ask them politely and do not sound like a stalker. Hence. It is more concerned about listening as well listing. once the wrong shot has been fired. Listen well. In other words. speak politely and maintain good eye contact. Read on and know how to have a great conversation. practice and patience to converse effectively with anyone. Make the right movements and noises to specify that you are listening and very much involved in the conversation. smile and ask questions that probe answers. they will feel that you are interrogating them and this can result in closed off relationships. Space out your questions well. They often lead to personal stories and anecdotes. Do not hesitate to compliment him/her as it can prove to be beneficial in terms of beginning a talk. Simply relax. first impression is the last impression. meaningful and entertaining conversation. more than just a yes or no. Practice Active Listening Skills . Following are some tips that could prove beneficial for a good. rather than convincing them to get interested in you. shake hands and focus on the conversation. Having A Good Conversation First Impression As said. guard against offending others and try to be modest and gracious. Other Person’s Interest Study and research on some significant points about the person with whom you would be conversing.as no one will one come to your rescue. Listen Listening to the speaker forms the most significant part of any conversation. How To Have A Great Conversation The art of conversation has very little to do with talking. in advance. Forget Yourself Get yourself interested in people. Compliments can prove to be ice-breakers. Do not think too much about yourself and what the person might be thinking about you. These topics often result in limitless conversation and reveal about the character of a person. It just requires a little knowledge. Ask Questions Prepare some questions in advance.
Take interest in knowing about the person and his/ her hobbies. Some even suggest that the best way to win an argument is to irritate the opponent into exaggerating. So how do you win an argument? There are many write-ups available for reading. Ask Clarifying Questions If you find the topic of the conversation is interesting and appealing. make sure that the person also knows that you are listening. Use Your Words To Paraphrase Back What You Have Heard Conversation happens in a process wherein each person is given a chance to listen and then speak up or respond. Mention that you would be delighted to talk to them over time. . etc to tell them that you are involved in the conversation and are not diverted. However. You find a person interesting only when he/ she is a bit like you and a bit different from you. You can use phrases like ‘yes’. you need to build good eye contact and make comments wherever required. not completely truthful. Do Not Panic Over Lulls When a particular topic has taken exit. Use significant points from other people’s talk in your speech. oftentimes. Know When The Conversation Is Over Every conversation has an end to it. dislikes. ‘I see’. to let them know that you had been actually listening. At the same time. to leave a good impression on the other person. you would be knocking down their communication blocks to the point where communication can occur – and you have won the argument. Remember to smile while leaving and end on a positive note. use the time gap to think over and introduce a new topic or put in a question based on the previous conversation. This will help you better your understanding and affirm it. and. do not end up agreeing on everything as well. the best way to win an argument is to win the person as well and not to out-argue them. ‘that’s interesting’. For this. and then trapping them. By using the following tips. etc. likes. who reminds you of a bull in a Spanish bull-fighting arena? He/she seems to be breathing fire down your neck and there’s nothing you can say or do that would stop them from jumping down your throat each time you open your mouth. which suggest that the reader should be rough. ruthless. How To Win An Argument Have you found yourself in a situation where you are confronted by an angry person. Judge Your Response Before Disagreeing Do not disagree on a point merely to set apart yourself.When you listen. put forward questions to clarify about their thinking and feeling. calculating.
Aim To Reach A Goal Aim to reach a goal. This gets them into rough waters quite often. do not retaliate. Similarly. but by means of strategy. How To Learn When To Say No Saying ‘No’ can be a very difficult thing to do. if you do not accept the gift. then the price you might have to pay is your relationship with the other person. Remember that the best battles are won. Also. The key to succeed in meeting our priorities dot on time and not bother ourselves with other people’s work when we really don’t want to. Imagine a person who is in a boxing ring and swinging his arms around trying to hit out at you – but you are not there fighting him. never take things personally. The article brings you some very useful tips. but that you are right. If a person gets you a gift and offers it to you. let the arguer run out of steam and then handle the situation. Therefore. not that he/she is wrong. you’re right you will most often end up provoking the other person. Similarly. as they compromise on their own priorities. There are many people who simply can’t say ‘No’ to anyone’s request. The other person’s resolve will only be strengthened further and the argument will never end. It’s similar to verbal martial arts. Since the goal is to win the arguments. which will help you to learn when to say ‘No’ . You would also want to convince the other person. no matter who was the more dominant arguer. You cannot win an argument with resistance. He will get tired after a while. is to know how to say ‘No’ and more importantly. don’t concentrate on bandying words. Never attack – when they attack you just redirect the attack back to them. rather than aiming to convince the other person that you are right. not by means of a frontal attack. If you wish to win the argument at any cost. so as to meet the requests made by others to them. This will make both of you more deeply fixed on your own views. This is about getting your opponent to shut up – and then using the facts with logic to win the argument. they will still own the item that they purchased for you. when you do not accept the verbal attack. Focus on the other person’s behavior and words. but what is even more difficult is to determine when to say ‘No’. the sting of the attack wears off. when to say ‘No’. Use Strategy If you try to prove that. go in for an entirely different goal. Just repeatedly deflect the person’s arguments back to him/her.Ways To Win Arguments Tips And Tricks Start Off With The Right Attitude Do not start off trying to prove yourself right and your opponent wrong. Do Not Retaliate No matter what happens.
You will also need others once in a while. but finds it difficult to accept them. learning how to say it is equally vital. but know where the threshold is. When you know that the other person is simply taking advantage of your feebleness in saying ‘NO’. get on with your work without a second thought. when you react to their compliment. Factoring in your convenience is not to say that you should abstain from helping or saying ‘Yes’ to others. In the professional arena. disallowing you to heed to his/her request. In fact. if you think that you are really needed in a particular situation and it just can’t work without you. Be polite and gracious when refusing something and you will never fall in anybody’s bad books. This is a common problem with most of us. Determine Whether You Are Really Needed If your mind is not conditioned to know when you are indispensable. People will try hard to convince you to get their job done. if they know that you find it difficult to say ‘No’. it only pitches in your priorities. it is obvious that you are a sweet person who receives compliments. A ‘No’ should always be polite. it is the time to firmly refuse to oblige him/her. you should certainly consider helping the other person. you can simply cite some other tasks that you have at hand. it . On the contrary. which you can’t compromise on. you should always go ahead. Somewhere down the line. you simply can’t say ‘No’ in a crude manner. there is no reason why he/she can’t be refused. However. you will have to train your mind to learn that. You need to ensure that you are not taken advantage of. is also the criterion to decide whether its’ time to say ‘No’. Do what you possibly can for others. Don’t Let Others Take Advantage Of You Some people just make it a habit to fall back on others for their tasks and people who are ‘pushovers’ are obviously the softest targets around. Learning How To Say ‘No’ As much as learning when to say ‘No’ is important. unless your intention is to deliberately snap back at the other person. for any of your random jobs. You have been observing since long that people always take it other way round. Determining whether you are really needed for a particular task or not. it has to be the key if you don’t want to upset the tasks on your agenda. How To Take A Compliment Since you have landed on this article. if you think that you don’t have the required time for others.Learning When To Say No See Your Convenience While it may sound a little self-centered. instead of saying ‘No’ right on the face of a senior. If you can conveniently help others at the expense of some of your time. If you think that the concerned person is in a capacity to the job that he/she is entrusting upon you.
Never give a sarcastic grunt or an eye-roll. ‘Thank You’ come out very genuinely and make the other person feel that you have accepted the compliment. practice receiving compliments in mirror and saying thanks with smile. Make an eye contact and give a smile. when you receive a compliment. Taking A Compliment Gracefully • The first and foremost thing to do when you are complimented is to acknowledge it. Compliments should make you feel special and bring a smile on your face. Avoid looking here and there. So quickly brush up with the tips given below and be a dear amongst all. To gain confidence. It should also make the other person feel that you have accepted it whole-heartedly and value it. but never focus on how much you shelled out to buy that one. This is taken as an insult by the person who is giving the compliment and he/ she will definitely re-think before complimenting you in future. if you have received a compliment for your good work or the accomplishment of a task. who might not be looking as great as you are. So. avoid doing it. especially when you are receiving a compliment. You can also say that the compliment means a lot to you or something along the same lines. by infusing a negative remark. Even if you feel that the compliment is in a sarcastic tone. We are here to help you out on the task of how to take compliments gracefully and bring sunshine in your life. Your body posture should not over shadow your confidence. as it is considered highly rude. after you have taken the compliment. don’t let the other person know how bad you have felt about it. if the compliment is from someone you love or admire). Avoid the temptation of bragging about yourself. it will confuse the admirer and make you come across as a rude person. egoistic and impolite person. Never do the mistake of underestimating yourself. This will go extremely rude and depict you as proud. don’t change the topic. When someone compliments you. Immediately say ‘thank you’ with a kind smile and it will turn into a compliment. The two words. This will only show that you are too self-obsessed. This will again reflect you as a negative person and close doors for further compliments. without acknowledging it. • • • • • • • • • . Be confident (you can blush too. else it will depict as if you don’t believe in the compliment or aren’t confident about it.always comes across as either you lack confidence or are a proud person. If you are complimented upon the way you are dressed. Don’t argue with your admirer or compare yourself with another person. acknowledge it and initiate the conversation by letting them know the place you bought it from or how great the shop was.
Make an impression on the speaker that you are interested in his speech. to get this positive trait in you. These can encourage the speaker to convey his point further to you. be patient and lend a listening ear. Listening skills can also be developed and nurtured during the life time. We bring you some effective tips how to improve effective listening skills. Avoid your temptation to interrupt in the middle of the conversation. be careful not to use these expressions to start a speech from your end. Always wear a positive body language towards the speaker. Remember that your task is to be an • • • • • • . Look at the vocal tone of the speaker. It is an effective tool in building up a relationship. Make your environment free of barriers that can cause a hindrance in the proper communication system. says Wilson Mizner. First. The common environmental barriers include TV or music system. Suppose the speaker is angry. Read on and practice the tips consistently. Choose proper solutions for overcoming these barriers and ensure that the messages are well conveyed. etc. you can help him focus on his message. You can use such verbal expressions like “I understand what you mean”. In case the speaker looks tired and exhausted. rather than indulging in finding debatable issues in the conversation. Proper listening enables a person to know and understand the matter efficiently. Listening is a skill that not many a people are gifted with. You need to listen to the speaker. Interference will only make the speaker frustrated and lose the track of what he was saying. which will make him feel that you are actually listening to him. Avoid pseudo-listening and try to actually focus on what the speaker has to say. but after a while he knows something”. Smile wherever necessary and show gestures like holding hands or offering a hug. However. Let him vent out his feelings and relax himself. sound of moving vehicles. An effective listener is equally praiseworthy as a powerful speaker. which will help you in many walks of life. Show appropriate actions that go well with the conversation. Improving Your Listening Skills • • Pay proper attention to what the speaker wants to convey. rather than conveying your own view point. to know his mood. as a listener. conversation among other groups. Concentrate on the words of the speaker.How To Improve Listening Skills “A good listener is not only popular everywhere. Always remember to maintain eye contact with the speaker. let the speaker complete and then give your feedback or opinion. Free your mind from all other things and concentrate only on what he wants to say. You can ask brief questions in between his conversation.
you should have a fusion of both the characters. there are others who lack confidence and yet others who do not havep98 mannerism and etiquettes. you might just turn out to be the ‘apple’ of the social meets. Be Open & Approachable Imagine talking to a person who is an absolute introvert or extrovert! Extremes of personality often turn off people. but the question is. does everyone possess social skills? Most of the people do not know the art of speaking. Be Responsible One of the vital components of social interaction is to know that art of carrying yourself.effective listener. If you also face difficulty in interacting. It would take some time. Improving Social Skills Be Yourself Only when you are your own self do you feel comfortable. humans have this innate quality of discovering whether a person is real or fake. but believe me. Having sound social skills is extremely important in the present times. A person behaving in an undesirable and unacceptable manner is usually avoided by people. While being too shy and withdrawn is enough to repel people immediately. we have provided tips on how to improve social skills. • At the end of the conversation. This will be highly inspiring and encouraging for the speaker. In the following lines. Do not change your inner self for anything in the world. Ideally. It is very important for you to know what to do and how to behave in a social gathering. being too loud and outgoing would not do much good either. So. Remember. In case you pretend to be someone you are not. While some are just inept and incompetent. be responsible for your actions and act according to the situation. just for you. However. Just strike a delicate . it would be worth the wait. You can improve your social skills by just putting in a little effort. Just focus on qualities listed below and who knows. a human being is a social animal. rather than proving yourself to be a winner in a debate competition. you would be lonelier than ever before. trust me. from being ineffectual. it is not the end of the world. you can use expansion statements like “This is very interesting”. Find out the points on which you mutually agree with the speaker and present them occasionally in between the conversation. remember. you cannot be perfect overnight. This will encourage the speaker to further elaborate on the conversation How To Improve Your Social Skills They say. given to the fact that interaction and conversation forms the basis for everything we do. And it is when you are in utmost comfort that you indulge in free conversation and interaction.
do not interrupt or chip in a piece of advice or suggestion just when the other person is in the middle of a subject. the first impression would go a long way in establishing and imprinting your position in the mind of the person you are meeting. Be Polite Being humble and down-to-earth is an excellent way to break the ice. Be Cautious It is advisable to keep your senses active. Be Aware It is very important to be aware and observant of people’s behavior. In case he/she is not interested in talking to you completely. sugarcoating the truth is very necessary at times. Be Attentive The art of listening is a stepping stone for conversation and interaction. the first date or the first day at work. For instance. so that the person has positive feelings or thoughts of you. impressive conduct. close your ears and numb your senses at the time of interacting. the trick is to be an attentive listener and people would definitely talk to you. If you would have attended a social gathering. it is very necessary that you create a great impact. While being honest and forthright definitely pays. “first impression is the last impression”. it is also advisable to be diplomatic. Also. Making A Strong First Impression Right on Time . Great styling. How To Make A Great First Impression The phrase. So. personality and confidence. keep reading the article.balance between both the personalities and you would be the ‘star’ of the social gathering. Do not shut your eyes. watch if the person you are talking to is comfortable with the specific topic. As such. Keep a keen eye on who are your friends and who are your enemies. oozing confidence and a winning smile are some of the determining factors for making a striking first impression. has struck a note in the minds of all people alike. Be it a business meeting. Do not confront everything to someone you have just met. Apart from being polite. If you want to arm yourself with all the tips on how to make a great first impression. It would speak miles about your manners. Alas! Not many have it in them. just move on to the next topic. It sheds off all the apprehensions and nervousness and gives a good impression. you will know that everyone wants to talk. but no one is ready to listen. which is why most of us long to make a great first impact on people. If he looks uncomfortable or is simply disinterested. the best bet would be to move out of the scene.
Remember. Style Yourself Well Believe it or not. For men.confusion and nervousness!! To avoid such a scenario. (I’m sure the other person does not want to know how many teeth you have or how big your tonsils are!!) Oozing Confidence Did you know that your body language contributes more than 90% of your communication? Thus. Dress appropriately before stepping out of the house. going clean shaven is a must. Since you are meeting a person for the first time. Winning Smile George Eliot rightly said “Wear a smile and have friends. grooming and styling should be the mantra for you. wear a scowl and have wrinkles”. untidy clothes and messy hair-do is enough to make you look under confident and sheepish! Impressive Introduction While looks would create the 50% of the first impression. making you look all the more stunning and stylish. you would be utmost confident and completely at ease. the trick is to smile and win the heart and mind of the other person. If you are projecting your own personality to the person you are meeting. In such a case. the other person would automatically feel relaxed. An impressive introduction is one that is short and crisp. standing tall with the head held high. Nothing can be more depressing than to meet a person who is dressed up without a smile. Remember. Smartly introduce yourself and fill in the other person with all the necessary details that he/she should know about. Plan your day in such a way that you reach the assigned location. a warm smile can shed off all the initial apprehensions and make both of you at ease. the rest depends on how impressive is your introduction. chances are that the two of you barely know each other. So. Result . do not lengthen it. However. even he/she is meeting you for the first time. However. so apprehensions and nervousness would be common between the two of you. Remember. keep the nervousness locked in your cupboard. it would be best if you start off with a bang. Make sure your hair-do serves as an add-on to your look. Remember. the deal is to be yourself. if you want to create an impressive impression. Small things like eye contact. Just be Yourself Most of the people go way beyond their individuality to create a good first impression. And if you are calm and confident. it is very necessary to project appropriate body language. . do not go overboard and laugh with your mouth open.Imagine meeting a person for the first time and opening your introduction with a sorry or an excuse for being late? What a loser you would look like! Being on time is the first step towards making a great first impression. Here. at least 5 to 10 minutes prior to the preset time. the first look can go a long way in making an impressive first impression. with all the details. a winning smile and a firm handshake would talk a lot about your personality and the person you are. Make sure that the attire you are wearing gives a boost to your personality.
you are here to create a good impression on the person you are meeting and not on the person whom you are talking to!! Positive Communication Techniques Did you know that communication is the key to opening the doors of success and victory? However. men and chivalry should go hand in hand. For those of you who want to arm themselves with all the information about positive communication techniques. Positive Communication Skills Proper Attention Being attentive is one of most vital components to engage in positive communication. the results are far from being positive. communication should be carefully conducted. Correct Translation In case you are talking to a person who comes from a different country or follows a different language. try to introduce positive words in your communication and second. it is best to translate the information in a language that the receiver can interpret correctly. Words that mean good in our language need not necessarily mean the same in other language. reading this article is a great idea. This can be done if you follow two simple tips . such messages make way for easier learning. Good manners and courteous behavior lay the foundation for any relationship. communicate in a way that it leads to positive outcomes.first. Sometimes. It makes the communicator lose the trail of thoughts. Remember. but also make way for better communication. negative or corrective messages are necessary to communicate. Effective communications are those that bring in positive results. However. but also formulate the right opinion. As such. thereby disrupting the whole process of communication. creating the best first impression. when topped with healthy doses of positive comments. This would not only help you understand the other person’s point of view. you not only build a healthy relationship. most of the times. people do not engage in healthy communications. Listening sets the base for any communication and it is when your listen attentively that perfect communication takes place.switch off your mobile while you are with the person.Chivalry at Best Do we need to elucidate on this point? Needless to say. Do not interrupt a person while talking. Respect & Kindness . In such circumstances. This way. Talking in a common language is best advised. A rule of the thumb . Starting On Positive Note Starting your communication on a positive note sets the pace for effective messages later on.
S president Barack Obama. which is why it becomes crucial to time the communication well. Pose forward a right body language and you would surely have the most positive communication. It negates chances of positive things in the communication. However. it is best advised to respect each other's viewpoints and opinions. The article gives some excellent tips on how to become a good speaker and enthrall your audience. Right Body Language Did you know that almost 90% of the communication is done by your body? Sounds unbelievable. hands and body posture communicate more than you ever thought.Every individual is an entity and has opinions and view of his own. you can only indulge in positive communication when both the speaker and the listener are in a calm mood. Well Timed Communication By this. imagine you are in an important board meeting and someone suddenly yawns – it’s a perfect give away that he/she is bored to death. who has continued to win laurels for his tremendous potential as a speaker. Remember. when two individuals communicate. How To Be A Good Speaker It is certainly a great honor to be heard by people and only a good speaker can manage to bring that honor upon him/her. Such communications do not result in a positive outcome. The magnetic qualities that a successful speaker possesses draw the masses towards him/her. It is not feasible to have important discussion in the middle of a hallway or office corridor or around nosy co-workers. As such. In such circumstances. Do not compel the other person to agree to your school of thought. The present U. while you are in a conversation. it is normal to face a situation wherein there is a difference of opinion. but it is true!! Your eyes. Arrange for the time that is favorable for both of you and a place that allows positive communication between the two of you. we mean that the time and the place of communication should be proper. Playing the blame game would take you nowhere. For instance. No Blame Game It is very important not to play the blame game. is a shining example of phenomenal oration skills. making it extremely unconstructive and pessimistic. Become A Good Speaker Sound Sincere With What You Say . not everyone is endowed with these attributes and this is where the tips given below will come handy. Use tact and good judgment to come to a common solution.
An excellent content laced with humor and an equally witty disposition to carry it off will work as icing on the cake. This habit can be very off-putting for the audience and the speaker will fail to garner enough attention for himself/herself. One of the greatest qualities a good speaker should posses is the ability to modulate his/her voice to for effect. a drab content will soon wither away the interest of the audience. Cultivate Knowledge On The Subject For a good speaker. Voice modulation may call for some practice. You need to make the session interesting by adding a dash of humor in your content. you are suffering from performance anxiety. Add Humor To Your Content No matter how great an orator you are. People appreciate knowledgeable speakers and delivering substantial and interesting information will hold you in high esteem with your listeners. content is extremely important to stand out as someone who is intently heard by his/her audience. will always go prepared for the speech. A lot of people have a tendency to look anywhere. If you already know the subject you have to speak on. for a good speaker. just like a good professor. Hitting the nail right on the head is all about being able to convey your thoughts and make the audience feel what you are saying. to strike a chord with your audience. but it can be easily mastered over time. A good speaker. if they feel you are for real. Apart from the novices. but also come across as genuine. Holding the interest of the audience for long is a great art that can be perfected over time.to-day life. try to cultivate an insight into the subject and expand your knowledge base. How To Get Rid Of Performance Anxiety If you begin to sweat profusely and tremble at the very thought of your scheduled performance. People will pay heed to what you are saying. it can grip even those who own a wealth of experience. but in the eyes of the person or the group they are addressing. Speak in a way you talk to people in your day. Exploit your confidence to the limit and maintain constant eye contact with the audience. Learn To Modulate Your Voice Every word that one says carries a different emotion and these emotions need to be transmitted to the audience in an expressive way. The key to appear sincere is to speak in a conversationalist tone. Maintain Eye Contact With The Audience The golden rule to be a successful speaker is to maintain eye contact with the audience all through your speech. as if you are talking to your audience. to keep the audience amused.Sincerity in your words tops the order among the attributes of a good speaker. in all likeliness. as far as performing in front of an audience is . as you speak. Excellent speakers are those who are not just good orators. Performance anxiety is also called ‘choking’ by some people.
In the instances of social phobia. to make it flawless and feel confident about your ability to make it successful. However. The idea is to have fun when you perform and in this context. Practice your performance as much as possible. Get Familiar With Performance Venue This is one of the most successful tricks that work pretty well to bring your anxiety levels down. with all the props. Get Your Mind Off It It is important to keep reminding yourself that it’s just a performance and not the end of your life. you can try the idea in case you are doing a skit or a play. Always remember that hard work and practice is the key to success and you can conquer your anxiety very well with mock sessions and rehearsals. The article brings you some valuable tips on how to get rid of performance anxiety.concerned. How To Stay Mentally Sharp . get the worries off your mind and have a blast on stage. This will surely help you cope up with nervousness and make you feel self-assured before your performance. Try to get familiar with the venue of your performance and the stage where you are going to perform. it is advisable that you consult a professional for the right recommendation. It is important to remember that the more potent drugs can lead you towards a tendency to depend on them every time you have to give a performance. You can simply reach the venue before time and rehearse on the stage once. many of the seasoned performers suffer from anxiety and nervousness as they set on to perform another time. Your anxiousness may be the result of your under-preparedness for the performance that you have to deliver. when nothing else is working out. Read on to know how to perform your way to glory. the ‘devil may care attitude’ can help in bringing down your anxiety levels dramatically. Tips For Overcoming Performance Anxiety Practice Your Performance It has been rightly said that practice makes a man perfect. Self-doubt and a lack of confidence are the most common reasons accounting for performance anxiety. Keep Anti-Anxiety Drugs As Last Option Anti-anxiety drugs should always be kept as a last option. sometimes. In fact. So. clinical anxiety is often treated with the help of drugs. While it may not be possible if you have to give an office presentation. If you have decided upon taking anti-anxiety drugs before setting on to perform. The worst thing that can happen is that your performance will get blotched and this is certainly is not going to ruin your life forever. it can just be a simple case of stage-fright.
which in turn makes it difficult to concentrate well. It helps revitalize our mind and body. It may not be easily possible to achieve a razor sharp mind. Eat Right It has been very aptly said that in a healthy body. engage in activities that are mentally testing. Meditate The benefits of mediation are known to all and sundry. Try to observe the things around you keenly and rest your mind. like iron. Drink 8-10 glasses of water in a day. you may do with some helpful tips on how to stay mentally sharp. 30 minutes of yoga and 30 minutes of meditation in a day are enough to keep your mind healthy and increase its sharpness.While mental sharpness and alertness is a natural gift for some. This will give your mind the much needed invigoration and refresh it to stay as sharp as ever. Observing the nature is also a good way to be in touch with your spiritual side. chess. If you are facing concentration problems and forgetting important things on the agenda. resides a sound mind. but it’s certainly within your power to sharpen your mental faculties and utilize them in a more competent way. there are many who struggle to keep their brain active and responsive all the time. Water makes up to one-half to four-fifths of your body weight and accounts for 85% of your brain. which will help your brain as well. Interacting with others is also a fitting mental exercise. to rejuvenate it. Our eating habits have a profound impact on our mental abilities. it also helps our mind function in a better way. Playing scrabble. to keep our brain working sharp. magnesium and essential vitamins. Mediation helps banish negative energies from your mind. it is important to constantly challenge your mind. An ideal diet should include all the important minerals. attempting crossword puzzles or doing Sudoku is a good way to give a workout to your brain. keen observation is also one of the best tricks. Drink Lots Of Water Drinking lots of water is not only healthy for the body. Intelligent conversations sharpen your thinking and analytical abilities and endow your mind with alertness. once in a while. potassium. Follow the article and know what it takes to keep your mind functioning proficiently. like yoga. . Researches have well established that physical exercise also enhances mental activity and bears a positive effect on our mind. Tips To Keep Your Mind Sharp Challenge Your Mind For enhanced mental sharpness. To cut the long story short. Be An Observer As much as striking intelligent conversations is important for an alert mind. Paucity of water in the body can lead to dehydration. You can also couple it with some form of physical exercise. A healthy and nutritious diet is not just important for our over all well-being. it is also essential to keep your mind active and sharp. to keep your body hydrated and your mind energetic.
Peer pressure can be understood as the pressure among any age group of children. this crisis continues throughout one’s life. Be Comfortable With Your Choices Peer pressure may force you to alter your original choices and that’s exactly where it becomes problematic. due to their tender age. Only a confident person can make others follow his/her footsteps. Read on to know how to best combat peer pressure. building self-confidence is the best way to counter peer pressure in a successful way. Lead yourself and act according to your diktats. This article dwells on peer pressure at length and suggests tips to get rid of it. to conform to a group norm or act in a certain way. Be Your Leader Instead of being led by your friends. provided you train yourself the right way. while others follow them? People look forward to those who are self assured and confident and try to be in their shoes. be your own leader. which may confuse the child as to what he/she really wants to be. but you will have to be assertive to resist their influence on the options you choose in life. Therefore. in consonance with the friend’s circle. In some cases. You need to remind yourself that you have a unique personality. This is. You are a different individual with a separate identity. if you anticipate a situation which may force you to behave in a particular way. teens are known to be more vulnerable to peer-pressure. Tips To Combat Peer Pressure Be Confident Of Yourself No matter how clichéd it sounds. the key to combat and avoid peer pressure. You can be what you are and still be an integral part of your friends’ circle. though it may seem.How To Get Rid Of Peer Pressure Every one has to deal with peer pressure at some point in his/her life. . As long as you remain a part of the crowd. They can be your inspiration. after all. undoubtedly. Build The Mental Toughness To Resist Not every one is gifted with the kind of mental toughness required to resist the pressure or avoid the temptation to be one of ‘them’. you will tend to give into peer pressure. For instance. You will have to be very headstrong to resist peer pressure and this is very much possible. Hard. you can avoid it by constantly reminding yourself that you won’t fall into such traps. The biggest threat posed by peer-pressure is a burgeoning crisis of identity. practice is known to make a man perfect. Mostly. just as everyone is different from others. Always remember that you have to live with the choices that you make in life and you can’t let your peers dictate what you choose. try to set the norm and stop feeling undue pressure to fit in a given group. Have you ever wondered why is it that only some people set the norms.
which contains not just written words. Sign language flash cards carry pictures of either a hand or a person forming the sign. before you begin to memorize the signs. The range of sign language books may advance from ‘survival’ level to ‘upper intermediate’ level. explore this article to find some useful tips on how to learn sign language. In case you need any help. Along with books. Finding a good teacher or taking good sign language lessons is the key to learning the language in right way. There is also an option to learn sign language from books. by Juan Pablo de Bonet. it is important to • • • • • • . with the help of arrows depicting hand and arm movements. Practice what you have learnt. using sign language. Private language schools and community college also offers sign language courses and you can choose accordingly.How To Learn Sign Language Sign language is the means of communication used by deaf people. You can also watch sign language users on TV. A school or organization for the deaf is also the right institution to get in touch with. you can also get yourself a sign language dictionary. Flash cards can be of great help and are offer a realistic and effective way to practice sign language. Learning sign language involves learning gestures. Since then. join it for greater interaction with sign language users. This will help you in improving your hand movements. to learn and understand this elegant language. it is important for someone trying to learn sign language to understand these differences in the first place. Instructional videos will be of great help. If you can find a local sign language club near your place. but sign pictures as well. Learning Sign Language • Since the methods of learning sign language are different from those used to learn spoken languages. for learning the sign language. The grammar system of sign language is unique and it’s better to get a hang of the sign grammar. you will have to be a patient and mature student. Try to interact with the users of sign language. hand signs and finger spellings and using them effectively to communicate with those who have lost their hearing ability. However. Although it may be a little difficult to find someone you can communicate with. You can arrange for them quite easily as well. when trying to communicate in sign language. which consisted of manual alphabets. The first book for teaching sign language was published in 1620. A video or DVD course or an online course with animations may also suit your purpose. sign language has gradually grown and evolved to suit the needs of the deaf people. by choosing some basic books on sign language to start with.
Listen to other people peacefully. Your confidence is to be your weapon and it has been witnessed that confident people sail through the roughest waters smoothly. As much as a natural ability ‘convincing’ is. How To Convince Others The ability to convince others is a rare talent and not every one is gifted with this valued asset. so that you two can practice sign language together. Be supremely confident of your opinions and make sure that you don’t doubt what you are saying. discussions are impromptu and you may not have the time to gather information to substantiate your claims. . You can even try to find someone with similar interests. scroll through the article. even in the least. once they get started. quick thinking will work. The key to convincing others is to display a positive and assertive body language. as it does not leave the listener with much option.practice the language. However. Persuading others is all about succeeding in changing their opinions on a particular issue or being able to induce a change in their belief patterns. Interviews are known to be grilling and it is always better to improve on your knowledge quotient. Be Assertive & Confident The more confident and assertive you are in presenting your ideas. Remember. Tips For Convincing Others Hear Them Out If you really want to end up convincing your subject. the ball is in your court. to present sensible arguments. ‘practice makes a man perfect’. This is an excellent idea if you are set to appear for an interview. the less time it will take you to shake the existing beliefs of your subject. Here. Many people tend to be over-aggressive and do not let the listener speak. you have already won half the battle and you are most likely to convince your subject. be it any sphere of learning. many times. when it comes to convincing others. In case you want to learn some more valuable tips on how to convince others. Acquire Knowledge On The Subject Acquiring a profound knowledge on the subject of discussion will make the convincing part a cakewalk for you. One should never assume that the person he/she is trying to convince knows nothing on the topic of discussion. Come up with realistic examples to back your point of view. it can also be acquired and mastered over time. give him/her an opportunity to present his/her point of view as well. Give Examples If you can support your argument with meaningful examples. by putting forward strong arguments against the existing notions in their mind. without interrupting them and once they are through.
Explore the article to know how to change your attitude. The more desperate you sound to convince others. You have to present your case strongly and firmly. which distinguishes humans from other animals. our life becomes directionless. All the people develop an attitude while growing up. as it helps in shaking other person’s beliefs. indifferent or something else. you would roam like the aimless ship. every one of us can learn so many things every day if we keep our senses alert. It may be positive. there are many other things to learn from this life. Tips For Changing Your Attitude Have An Aim A life without an aim is like a ship in the sea without knowing where it is going. you don’t have anything to learn from this life then you are living with a wrong attitude. Be Ready To Learn Nobody is perfect and if you think. Right attitude can be developed with the help of certain things. attitude is kind of one’s expression towards life and others. We keep on living without an aim and complain about life. Remember that aim is a fuel of life and unless you have a goal. Even if you are brilliant and you have never failed in your life. you may have no idea about how to go about it. However. the more skeptical they will become. Think of what you want to do with your life. It may be done to maintain a standing or sometimes to preserve ourselves from certain outward “harm”. if the person on the other side is too smart or skeptical. but avoid trying to dominate or impose your line of thought. Listen to your heart and then head towards your goal.other than accepting what you are saying. Actually. Actually. whether you . Therefore. It is attitude. it may take you some time before you succeed in your efforts. You can repeat your point of view for added effect. how Ranbir Kapoor’s character Sid. didn’t have a goal in life and how his life changed when he found his goal. Have you seen the movie “Wake up Sid”. but the impression of desperation has to be strictly avoided. Actually. Attitude will follow you. Without the right attitude. Actually. many of us are like Sid.” ~ John N. negative. there remains no difference between us and other animals. How To Change Your Attitude “Our attitude toward life determines life's attitude towards us. attitude is the driving force in our life and without right attitude. A positive attitude is very important for generating a successful and satisfying life. However. Don’t Appear Too Desperate Don’t come across as someone who just wants to convince others at any cost. in reality too. Mitchell May be you have heard this quote and you really want to change your attitude towards life.
It will not only help you understand yourself properly. Be Self-Sufficient You may have all the positive attitude. Your shyness and introvert attitude can have varied manifestations and can be rooted in your insecurity. Confidence helps us sail through bad times. home or anywhere else. to change your attitude you need to develop confidence. Be Positive Positivity is the drive of life. you are a very shy person. estimates show that almost three out of every ten people are overtly shy. In fact. confidence and everything else. sure of yourself how are you going to chase your dream? A right attitude can come only to confident people. Lack of self-respect almost always results in lack of aim. enthusiasm and sense of purpose. Try to keep yourself self-sufficient. be ready to learn and you would feel so much satisfied. It is about being happy and content. A positive attitude is a choice of being positive with oneself and others. Confidence will help you change the way you look at things and you would perceive things positively. shyness can just be a by-product of your lack of self-belief and confidence in your personality. then in all likeliness. physically. inferiority complex and hidden fears. How To Cope With Shyness Do you always experience an adrenaline rush and feel self-conscious when you have to interact with strangers? If the answer is yes. your life will not be in your hand. Unless you are. Shyness is a common trait. However. Have Self-Respect Self-respect is deemed as self worth and if you don’t value yourself. Therefore. how will you make other people value you? Self-respect is not only necessary for self-development but it is also important for inner peace. People who are self-respecting generally keep a calm front even in the time of crisis. This article brings you some valuable tips on how to cope with your shyness and bring out your confident side. A positive attitude will inspire and will help you deal with anything positively. found in many people. unless you are self-sufficient. To cut the long story short. it will let you understand others too. Ways To Combat Shyness Be Proud Of What You Are .are at work. mentally and psychologically. face it with positivity. be ready to help others and rather than ignoring any crisis. Develop Confidence Confidence is the key to right attitude and to success. It can alter your life for good almost magically. It doesn’t only affect you psychologically but also helps you mentally and physically.
Find things you are good at and focus on grooming that talent.Nothing explains shyness better than a lack of self-confidence. Ensure that your mock sessions yield good results. Nothing works better than self-discovery. Observe your thoughts. Take inspiration from the people who are proud of what they are and are always brimming with confidence. try to turn this awareness inwards. a shy person should pounce upon every given opportunity to interact with other people. your opinions may not be valued. It takes very little. Instead of being so aware of people. by developing belief in yourself. it won't be long before you overcome your shyness. Practice Though it may sound a little far-fetched. It is a demanding process. it is important to recognize and determine whether you are really . your edge over others. You may be feeling that you don’t match up to other people and therefore. It seems that feelings of jealousy have been very intricately woven in the behavioral pattern of women. You can ask your friends to help you out and conduct practice sessions on how you will converse with a new person or a group of strangers. to trigger off a jealous explosion and they are known to be very competitive in their own way. the shyer you will become. The more you avoid meeting people. You need to realize that people have different personalities and you are unique in your own way. However. in combating shyness. Try To Socialize Shy people tend to avoid socializing and boosting contacts with other people. Identifying your talents will help you develop self esteem and conquer your shy attitude positively. seek answers as to why you are shy and try to overcome your coyness. but practicing social interactions can work well for you. Remember your strengths are your advantage. Transform Your Self-Consciousness Into Self-Awareness Just remember that people are too busy looking at themselves and they are not trying to screen you wherever you go. but if you bring yourself to succeed. Your practice should basically include how to volunteer to talk. How To Know You Are Jealous Of Her One of the basic traits that are often associated with a woman is her enviousness. in most of the women. Feelings of jealousy can be deep rooted in your hidden fears. especially if other things are failing to bring the desired results. Ideally. Meeting new people will make you more confident and the plus point is you get to learn new things as well. so that socializing becomes a habit and he/she doesn’t always end up looking ways to overcome his/her shyness. Discover Your Strengths The ability to discover your strengths is probably one of the most crucial abilities a person can posses. which is the reason why they struggle in their interactions. insecurities or have varied other reasons.
” . what else can it be. Determine Whether You Compete With Her Or Not We have heard of healthy competition n-number of times and we also know that it is not fostered by jealousy. If you find yourself scheming on how to establish your self superior to her. in a lot of women. this just proves you are envying her secretly. This is when we may not know that we are actually envious of the person we are trying to compete with. Buscaglia. Tips to Know You Are Feeling Jealous Of Her Know Your True Feelings Towards Her Do you try to compete with her for no real reason? Do you wish you were in her place? Do you greet her with a fake smile almost always? Your reactions and behavior towards a particular woman are an important determinant of your jealousy. because without you the rest of us are without a source of many wonderful things.Leo F. If she has been weighing on your mind unnecessarily. What they don’t realize is that we become what we think. It is actually your covert insecurity that is bothering you and you can't even accept that you really are insecure. so that the strife within your mind could be handled well. they are not happy with their job.jealous of any other woman. This article comes up with some valuable tips that will help you to know if you are jealous of her. And. their appearance and their life. How To Accept Yourself “Love yourself—accept yourself—forgive yourself—and be good to yourself. If you have been trying to compete with a woman in almost about every field. They want to become somebody else and live all their life in misery and anonymity. other than plain jealousy? Know If You Are Threatened By Her If you feel threatened by her and keep dreading that she will prove herself to be better than you. Know If She Is Weighing On Your Mind You may be subconsciously thinking about her always. Your feelings may be continuous. is even visible to others. And to . even on things that should concern you the least. you are right in determining that what you are feeling is jealousy towards her. which haunt you even when your competition is not around. if you don’t want to believe in her positive traits. it is a sure sign of your jealousy. without even realizing how much time you are devoting to let this green eyed monster prosper. to say harsh things about their subject of jealousy. If you don’t find favor with this quote then you may be among people who cringe on seeing themselves in mirror. This is precisely the reason behind the tendency. which is fierce in nature and many a times. You will say harsh things about her and will try to de-credit her from everything. it is a sign of your jealousy being rooted deep in your insecurities. Jealousy always results in unhealthy competition. You find her presence threatening due to your jealousy.
Accepting oneself is important to live a happy and content life. You would soon start to feel important and accept yourself. You can also write all about yourself. happiness lies in one’s mind otherwise all the millionaires in the world would be happy. Stand in front of the mirror and focus on all the features you like about yourself. which you feel. Find Happiness In The Basics Happiness or sadness largely depends on oneself. Get Real Remember that you will have to work towards the goal of accepting yourself. After you have gained your self-confidence. Explore the following pointers to know the ways for accepting yourself. think about the root cause of it and work towards bettering it. and you would soon start to accept yourself. . because of negative thinking or because of other people’s opinions. If you feel that you are not able to focus on your career. work on it to do away with it. Work on inculcating self-confidence and you would soon see the opinions of others changing towards you. if you feel you are too emotional and get hurt easily. work towards something.become a successful person we need to accept ourselves. Remember that happiness doesn’t lie in earning millions. Restore Your Self-Confidence Self-confidence is essential element for accepting oneself. Remember that nothing is more important than your opinion. You always find yourself not good enough and by saying that you were not just being humble. Focus on all the positive qualities you possess and you would soon start to see yourself in good light. Keep in mind that you are a unique person and unless you accept yourself. the world will not accept you. Write all the qualities no matter how trivial they may be and then read them. Better Your Life It is important to accept you as you are but it is also important to strive to better yourself. which you want to do. or possessing all the luxuries. Develop self-confidence by telling yourself constantly that you are a unique and beautiful person. focus on what you have achieved and be happy. Jot It Down Writing all your qualities will help you. work on eliminating them. Take pride in your success and see yourself as successful. After you have written. are negative. So instead of focusing on the greener grass on the other side. you would soon find change in your outlook towards life. Ways Of Accepting Yourself See Yourself As Success It may be very difficult for you especially if you have grown up disliking everything about you. It will help you understand your uniqueness. and you would start accepting yourself. It will not happen overnight. For instance. It may be because of some flaws.
Keep A Positive Frame Of Mind Don’t let difficult people affect your mental peace. Therefore. or they will start taking more liberty with you. you need to remember that you can't let the conflict escalate. You can confront them on important issues. Tips For Handling Difficult People Confront Them Without Fighting It is important to confront difficult people. However. but you have to deal with them in a positive way. Some people have a hard time adjusting with others and going easy in life. This article provides you some proven tactics to handle difficult people. Don’t Be Defensive Let the attacks of a difficult person wash over you. if someone is trying to ruin your reputation in office by spreading malignant rumors. There is absolutely no need to be defensive in turn. Don’t Take Them Personally It is important to remember that difficult people do things habitually and you are certainly not their only target. it's not wise to take them personally. You will have to devise strategies to deal with hostile people in a successful way. better to just ignore them. You just need to acknowledge that they have a personality and perception different from that of yours and they need to be handled tactfully. Don’t let their negative attitude weigh constantly on your mind. constantly fretting over someone who is getting under your skin is not going to help. It is. it is only going to weaken your position and allow them to throw their weight around. Do Not Give Up . rather than paying them undue attention. It's natural for a person to end up meeting difficult people once in a while.How To Handle Difficult People We often complain that some people are just too difficult to handle. you have to deal with them almost on a regular basis. In case you are amongst the unlucky ones. They have the same freakish behavior with everyone and trouble everyone they know. It's apparent that people with a hostile attitude will irritate you with their behavior. Read on and know how to deal with the people immune to the usual methods of communication. For instance. you should ask the person straight on if he/she has anything personal against you. However. be it at work or home. Do not allow their verbal attacks to shake your confidence. but defending yourself on everything is certainly not the right way to handle them. Stand up to the situation and confront the person confidently. Just keep your mind calm when you deal with them. sometimes. If you argue with them on pettiest of things.
The moment you feel your losses gaining over your mind. People meditate for different reasons . twists and turns! At times. someone who has oodles of confidence (but not over confidence) and believes that he canachieve something in life will most likely become successful as well. in the outcome of our efforts. the best bet would be to turn your imagination creative. This would go a long way in helping you overcome the pessimism. Best Ways To Stop Negative Thinking Get Creative Whenever you feel that negative thoughts are creeping up on you. but your tactics will show results with practice. which can be mastered over a period of time. Think of a wonderful situation. How To Avoid Negative Thinking ‘If you think you will win. On the other hand. where everything is happening as you planned or as you want. You will get success in your efforts sooner or later. You may face some difficulties in the beginning. feeling one with the god.Tackling difficult people is very much an art. you are wrong. while the losses are something from which you need to learn. you win even without trying and during others. then check out the tips given below and know how to avoid negative thinking.developing their concentration. they just limit their ability to interfere in your life. Look Back Into The Past Life is never the same. A person who considers himself to be a loser and feels that he is worth nothing will hardly be able to achieve anything in his life. you definitely will. The wins have to be taken seriously. If you think you will lose. Are you one of those who always end up thinking about the negative side. See yourself becoming successful in your endeavors. Keep practicing your art and don't loose hope. try to think of those situations where success kissed your feet. Rather. Remember the sense of accomplishments and vow to make them happen again. You need to remember that these strategies don’t change difficult people. much before the positive? Do you want to get rid of this habit? If yes. Indulge In Meditation In case you are thinking meditation is only for those who want to lead a spiritual life and stay away from the materialistic world. you lose even when you make a lot of effort. being loved by your near and dear ones or even getting appreciated from all the quarters. it is full of surprises.’ This quote aptly describes the important of our thinking. having a control over . there are chances you can.
It is the last purpose that you have to solve with meditation. For instance. ‘I have to think about the positive things happening in my life’. Occasionally. while it is very much possible to do so. The article explores the subject and comes up with profound insights on how to develop your psychic abilities. Tips To Develop Psychic Abilities Acknowledge That Psychic Abilities Exist Only the one who realizes and rightly acknowledges the importance of a psychic capacity among humans can be able to expand his/her psychic powers. Negative thinking and skepticism to a certain extent. log on to the sites that list jokes. If one aims to achieve his/her full psychic potential. funny quotes or even funny SMS and start smiling! How To Develop Psychic A bilities Though we all posses psychic abilities to a certain extent. we never wait to ponder the reason behind such possibilities. ‘I will not let negative thoughts come into my mind and affect me in any way’. you can rent the DVD of your favorite comic flick and laugh your heart out. Our hunches and premonitions come out to be true not due to some bizarre coincidence but. can hamper or block the expansion of one’s psychic potential. As soon as you feel that negative thoughts are trying to creep into your mind. will be of great help. and so on. all of us mention about our intuitions coming true. If you have internet at home. buy some from the nearest bookstore and start reading. by indulging in activities that you enjoy or that make your laugh. However. Consciously Block Out Negative Thoughts If you want to stop being pessimistic and think about the brighter side of life. It will help you remain in a balanced state of mind and keep you away from the negativity. Read on to benefit from some valuable tips. Most of us never realize our full psychic ability. because of our intuitive powers which are the result of a developed psychic capacity. Keep A Positive Mind frame A positive mindset is the first pre-requisite to develop your psychic ability. Make Yourself Feel Happy One of the best ways to get over negativity is to make yourself feel happy. etc. It is therefore. It has been established by psychological researches that a positive state of mind enhances the psychic abilities of an individual. accepting that psychic abilities exist and can be developed overtime with practice and effort. it is very important to become conscious of your drift towards negativity.their thoughts. If you are fond of comics. it is equally possible to develop your psychic potential even further. important . start telling yourself ‘I do not have to think negatively’.
Mention your strong intuitions to your close ones and keep check on whether they come out to be true or not. While some habits take the form of physical addictions. Try to evolve and practice ways through which your psychic potential could be furthered. Your inquisitiveness will eventually lead you towards surprising results. for instance inspirational movies or literature. it means you are on the right track. Involuntary actions. we have provided useful tips on how to break bad habits. Initially. This will also help you in finding connecting links to a problem. A calm mind has the potential to act as a fertilizer for the development of an improved sixth sense and psychic abilities when accompanied by some other measures such as developing the faculty of imagination. are what make our habit. The power of imaginations assists you in visualizing possibilities and happenings and mediation will help you to nail down the right meaning of your imaginations. and finally solving it. habits are definitely under our control (if we really want them to be). squirts of discipline and loads of patience. Think about things which generate your curiosity in an unusual way. but with dollops of will power. In the following lines. Remember. it might even embarrass you but gradually. Breaking a bad habit is like coming out from a tangle or a web. then you are at the right place.that one maintains a positive thinking mind and keep feeding it with uplifting doses which could be in any form. you will definitely be able to get rid of a bad habit. How To Break Bad Habits Trapped in a bad habit? Want an escape from it? If yes. you would be surprised to know that even the most pious of people would tell you they had a bad habit in the past. If your assumptions about your imaginations are coming out to be true. Test yourself with your imaginations and their meanings. Breaking A Bad Habit Self-Evaluation . others have simple social habits that make tick people off. Evolve Ways To Utilize Psychic Abilities Remember that regular practice will assist in the development of your psychic abilities. Talking about bad habits. which we perform regularly. you will realize that your feelings hold a certain meaning in a specific context. Though automatic behaviors. Ignoring your gut feelings can even get you into trouble. Trust your sixth sense rather than ignoring it Meditation Meditation helps you to attain concentration and peace of mind. it will not be easy to do so. Pursue Your Feelings Don’t neglect your feelings and instincts for the fear of being mocked at.
Who knows. Being Disciplined Remember.The first step to get rid of a bad habit would be to be practical and realize the number of times your bad habit wins over your will. it is the time to figure out how the bad habit initiated in the first place. they might be able to provide some advice or encouragement that you normally wouldn't get otherwise. you can beat the habit. Weigh the negatives against the positives. asking for support. Replacement Remember. If you fall back to the bad habit.Was it peer pressure? Was it depression? Was it just for a 'try'? Was it to be 'in vogue'? Was it an escape from some life condition? Once you get hold of the reason for the action. to get over a bad habit. There needs to be a replacement of the bad habit. say you will become a better individual or have enough time to look into important matters. remember. the advantages of leaving the habit. changes do not just happen. You have to work hard and bring in a lot of discipline in your being. it is the time to focus on the negative repercussions of the same. it would act as a motivation to modify your behavior and get out of the web. giving into the impulses or being carried away would be extremely easy. Positives Of Dropping Once you have realized the negative impacts. All you need is willpower.e. Analyze why did you start the bad habit . or even start becoming sociable. do not pity yourself and say that the habit has got the better of you. This would help you keep a record of it and also analyze the cause of the same. Patience Patience is the key to achieve your resolution. Negative Impact While you have determined the cause of the bad habit. Instead. The moment you realize the cost of a bad habit and what it is depriving you of. discipline and patience!! . you just cannot leave a bad habit and force yourself into doing nothing in its place. Remember. List the negative impacts and the cost they are charging you. the best bet would be to maintain a journal and note down every time your bad habit gets the better of you. by a good one. rise up and get back to your healthy behavior. Supporting Role Do not hesitate to call friends or family members. Believe me. they would be more than happy to help you move out of the bad behavior. it is time to look towards the optimistic side i. Just get comfortable and talk to them about your decision. If yours is such as well. Consider the positive ways of meeting the same needs through a good habit and start practicing. For this. The Cause Now that you have evaluated yourself. Most of the bad habits provide a person with instant gratification. you would realize that it is not logical and does not make any sense.
make sure not to get angry at the person or start fighting with him/her.How To Get Rid of A Bad Reputation Your reputation is nothing. your reputation is formed. then it is the time to take some action in the regard. try to go out of your way to help them. untrue rumors or a bad company. you will not be able to trace its very roots and solve it. Unless and until you acknowledge that a problem exists. If they are known for being rogue and outlandish. you will first have to look at yourself and seek the reality. talk amicably. take some action. Change Your Company There is an adage that goes 'you are known by the company you keep'. We can help you know how to get rid of a bad reputation. If you are aware of the source of all the gossip. Dispel The Rumors If you have to fix your bad reputation. If you are a big shot. it is advisable to seek new company right now. call a press conference to dispel the rumors. Rather. In case people have raised a finger on your character. be it because of you own faults. In other words. try to change your habits. Whether you want to excel in your career or win the affection of the person you are in love with. If you are infamous as someone who has a very nasty temper. How To Fix Your Bad Reputation Know The Truth If you want to get rid of a bad reputation. through the tips given below. In other words. . whether you are like them or not. dressing style. and resolve the issue. it is the time to get rid of the same. try to bring your anger under control. In case you have been stuck with a notorious reputation. in case you feel that your group is largely responsible for your infamy. etc. it represents what kind of an image you have. confront the person and set the record straight. in the eyes of others. Is there any truth in what the people say about you? Have you really done something to make people form such an opinion about you? If you want to be objective. by the type of friends you have. In case you come across as uncooperative to other people. In other words. Having a good reputation is very important in each and every sphere of life. people are bound to form a similar opinion about you as well. seek a second opinion from close friends or family members as well. it is very important to dispel the rumors that are working against you. in a non-threatening way. Take Action If you feel that there is some truth in what people think about you. to a major extent. a bad reputation will only take you closer to failure. Such a behavior would only cement your bad reputation. So. However. but the public opinion about you.
how many of us really know how to sweet talk? Our tolerance level has gone so low that even a small provocation is enough for us to start hurling abuses (even at a complete stranger). as human beings. However. lift from a total stranger and sometimes. you are in least danger of hurting him/her and there is the score for you. Integrate humor in your life and try to search the sunnyside up in everything. are given the power of understanding and if we don’t integrate it in our life. the world will also be happy for you. Tell jokes. Don’t lose hope midway. We all know the power of sweet talk. However. So. the best treatment at a restaurant. pleasant one. don’t be a miser for words and let people know that you care. just keep on making efforts and soon. stick to this motto and see the world changing around you. Moreover. how can we expect to justify our humane side. poke harmless fun. Give a bright smile to your colleagues as well as the others around you. Don’t you love it when your friend sympathizes with your grilling schedule at work? So. Just ask yourself a question . Remember 'impossible' itself says 'I m possible'. Sweet Talking Tips Give Respect Give respect to everyone.who you think will get your help first. especially when he/she has gone through a really bad phase in life. if you make yourself consciously aware of the benefits of even little sweet-talking. help from a colleague. How To Sweet Talk According to Rig Veda. It will take time for people to remove your old. the latter. you would wonder why you didn’t integrate it in your life earlier. even a raise or promotion. and see the gloomy mood changing in an instant. A sweet talk can get you the window-seat in a plane. You would start feeling the change from the next day itself. The answer is pretty clear. when he opens the door of your car.Exercise Patience Your bad reputation has built over a period of time. an acid tongue lasher or a sweet talker. When you are happy. So. So. Humor Mechanism Everyone likes funny people. Never forget to thank the liftman when he opens the lift for you. Be Sympathetic We. bad image from their mind and replace it with the new. . Sometimes. why not incorporate it in your life! Read on to learn the mechanism of sweet talking. but incorporating it in our respective life is a completely different ball game altogether. You would soon find the ultimate secret of being happy. Now. when you respect someone. So. Everyone wants sympathy. a simple smile from you can make the entire day of someone. a person who talks sweet spends all his/her days in happiness. or your chauffeur. you need to exercise a lot of patience and stick to your efforts. people will get used to the image of the 'new you'. Do not expect to get rid of it within a few hours or days.
you need to respect others. cold words. You can practice with your friends and family members and then employ it elsewhere too. as respect is directly proportional to reputation. Want to explore them? If yes. who doesn’t talk much. Help others when they need you. Stick to light humor instead. However. Be Spontaneous Whenever you say something. However. However. we need to build up respect to get ahead in life. Don't give anyone a chance to take advantage of you or typecasting you a patsy or a softy. being sympathetic alone is not enough. you have come to the right place. Don’t discriminate amongst people and refrain from using harsh.refrain from sarcasm. . You also need confidence. There are many ways to speed up the process of earning respect from others. as only a few of us can really pull it off without hurting someone’s feeling. Congratulate your colleagues on successfully finishing a project. make sure that it doesn't look like a prepared speech or something well thought of (in advance). A little flirting with your client can help seal yoursuccess. Period! Treat everyone with respect and you will get respect too. as the world will start using you then. to educe immense respect from the people around you. if your colleague is donning a new shirt. giving a genuine appearance to your words. Apply this in your life. Flirt A Little A little flattery never hurts! Be the first one to notice the positive change in a person and compliment on it. it’s time for you to open up. For instance. In case you are among those who cannot understand how some people get all the respect they want. If you want to know how to gain respect. who knows what he/she is doing. don’t forget to shower an admiring compliment on him/her. Be a confident and levelheaded person. Getting Respect From Others Respect Others To get respected. never ever give a cheap remark or go over the top in flattery. If you are a serious person. It should come out in a spontaneous manner. then read on and find the best way of getting people to respect you. while others get sidelined. Be Confident For sweet talking. How To Get Respect Let’s admit it! We all want to get respect from others. The age-old adage of 'reaping what you sow' is true to its core. rather it is earned. Don’t let yourself be cast out as too mellow or pushover. you will have to first know that respect cannot be taken. Make sure the world knows it too. only a few of us are actually able to evoke respect for ourselves.
if asked for. in our life. Have a good body posture. Handling criticism is never easy. Powerful people smile only when it is needed. Although almost everyone in this world is criticized. then it’s your turn to switch off the grin and smile only when it’s needed. A well fitting. while a crumpled tee. People may like a person who wants to share all his details in the first meeting itself. but they won’t respect him. Keep Your Mouth Shut It doesn’t mean that you should play dumb. if you have been showing your pearly whites from long and people dismiss you for being childish. but is not able to do so. mannerism. then you are wrong. kindness and be self-effacing. A person of respect is a person of caution. Be serious and speak only when it is necessary. Are you a well-dressed person? Do you dress according to occasion? If you dismiss dressing well as an act of showing off. we have listed a few of them. However. It just means that whatever you wear should compliment you and up your position in other people's eye. it is directly proportional to failure. people will think you are mellow. a ripped jeans or a dirty shirt is bound to give a bad impression. so stick to this axiom. and ironed dress shows that you take yourself seriously. However. Rather. However. especially when at workplace. when we are bombarded with criticism all the time. and you will extract respect from even an otherwise reserved person. clean. as for most of us. And certainly. It’s true too that smiling or not smiling is all the matter of perspective and depends on the environment where you work. If you smile at anyone and anything.Malcolm X This quote aptly describes how important criticism is. but excess smile is bad for repute. take a good look at yourself in the mirror. A confident person attracts respect like a moth to a flame. failure is nobody’s favorite word. you'll likely have no success. Be A Miser Smiler Smiling is good. we hardly think of being successful. Silence is gold in true sense. .” . Be Humble But Confident Be humble enough to be a shoulder to cry on. there are and in the following lines. The best way to get people to respect you is to respect yourself. only a few of us how know to accept it with grace. And the best way to respect yourself is to have confidence in you. give your opinion or suggestions. speak only when you are spoken to. Read on and know how to handle criticism. How To Handle Criticism “If you have no critics. honesty.Dress The Part If you are a person who is trying to get respect. Is there some techniques of handling criticism? Indeed. However. dressing the part doesn’t mean that you need to wear a Cavalli suit or Prada shoes. but not so much that you become a tissue paper for people to sniff their snots.
A justified criticism may urge you to better something. you are in hands of a bully. from almost any conversation. Feedback is something given to you to improve your performance. but it . until you allow them to. Draw The Points To Help You The most important trait of successful people is that they are able to draw out the points that are useful to them. if it’s something that will help you be successful. They may be plain jealous of your success or they might full of negativity. be calm and listen to the person. you need to try to get versatility. then it might be possible that something is wrong with them. It’s Not Always About You It’s the truth. It may be harsh and you may have trouble adjusting to the words. If someone is going the dirty road.Tips For Handling Criticism Distinguish Between Feedback & Criticism It is very important thing for you to understand the difference between feedback and criticism. Don’t Let Anyone Insult You Criticism is okay. It is enlightening only when you want it to enlighten you. Learn From Criticism Listening to something won’t help you. if someone criticizes you. Don’t jump up the gun and starts hurling abuses on him/her. If you work in a firm and you’re always criticized of not being able to create rapport with your colleagues. It’s not essential that the feedback comes to you in sweet and encouraging words. but it is eventually true and will help you if you work on those areas. but never ever let anyone bully you. but getting over the top is not. Don’t leave something because other people want you to. try to focus on points that are common in all the criticisms that you encounter. There are people who cannot find good in anything or anyone and you should not let such people worry you. If. instead of you. Remember. When you’re criticized. urging you to stop doing whatever you’re doing now. are angry with yourself and your critic has convinced you to leave the thing you are pursuing. criticism is downright negative. On the other hand. Make a mental note of them and mend your ways accordingly. until you’re ready to perform on it. Let It Go Never let a criticism decide what you want to do next. And it’s also not necessary that feedback is always enlightening. If a person is always negative about you. If you’re a singer and people say that you cannot sing different kinds of songs. make sure that you’re not going with them. Don’t let him/ her harm or insult you. No matter what you’re criticized for. Getting excited when someone attributes praise to you is natural. Similarly. So. try to incorporate it in your life. try to be friendly. at the end of a conversation. you find yourself loser. A criticism is mostly negative. Take Criticism In Your Stride It’s very important to remain composed in any situation. no one can make you feel bad about yourself. never let yourself feel down.
Tell A Story When you tell a story preferably. To be a good speaker you have to be first a good listener. That is why it’s important to be a good listener to be a good speaker. you may lose them altogether. frown. Read on to acquire the quality of a good speaker to whom people listen. You can even get much knowledge just by keenly watching everything around you. a personal one. Most of the people just want others to listen to them but are themselves not ready to do so. Acquire proper body language like alert body. Forget what is being said about you. Then this article is for you. If you wonder how some people have so much influence over others that makes people listen to them and you want to be like them. . Therefore. smiling eyes. Prepare yourself for your subjects. Good or bad. Watch Your Body Language Shaky hands. A little knowledge and beating around the bush will not attract listeners. Speak With Authority When you want someone to listen to you. Don’t shout or scream but be audible and confidence. tense eyes. and parted legs are all the gestures. you will have to make sure that you know your subject well. Have eye contacts with as many people you can and look pleasant. make sure that you listen to people if you think they have some valid points. be aware of the current situation. Then they don’t remain audiences but become participants. Eat. Everyone here thinks that he or she can speak better and sometimes even they speak altogether to make matters worse. you possess the quality of a good listening. Articulate powerfully and clearly and modulate your sound according to your speech. Be authoritative on whatever you are speaking on. unless it’s something you can improve. sleep. then you make your audience a part of you after sharing your narrative and that interest them.will never advocate for you to leave it. How To Make People Listen To You How to make people listen to you is a million dollar question in our society. and do your work the same way you were doing. these things are meant to be forgotten. before the criticism popped your way. Also. where everyone just wants to speak and not listen. and be a voracious reader. which give poor impression of a speaker and divert the audience much before you start speaking. be interesting and discuss it too. and confidence and you are bound to attract audience. Be Interesting Most of us are very impatient and if you are not able to attract the audience in few minutes from the start. If you think. you are at the right place. Add in some jokes and ask questions and you will surely attract people’s attention.
Now. evidences and assumptions present in the information. What is the use if you don’t get anything from all that listening? So. Developing Critical Thinking Skills Critical thinking is a process that involves the analytical evaluation of a situation. Take a comprehensive passage. you will be able to discriminate the different points of view associated with a situation. So always. If you do not know much about developing critical thinking skill. To give shape and support to your idea. Assess the arguments. which unfolds few sequences of a story. After assimilating the information. The skill will enable you to find every possible way of solving the problem. Learn from the greatest speakers of the world. Make a point and support it with examples. by weighing the substantial and insubstantial as well as concrete and abstract factors governing a situation. How To Develop Critical Thinking Skills Process The Information While reading something. to figure out their similarities and dissimilarities. After reading the . However. Listen You may be a good listener but being an active listener is very important. Compare And Construct An Idea It is very important to analyze the key components first and then compare each of them. Know Your Audience Before speaking. based on the facts that you have compared. the following lines will surely prove to be of help. try to form an idea. So. try to comprehend the key points. wherever you go try to imbibe some of the good qualities of a speaker. If you are speaking in a boardroom and people are interested in numbers. for a casual discussion you need not present charts. Don’t beat around the bush as it’s an audience repellent. Analyze Text By analyzing a given text. The aim is to derive the best possible solution for a particular problem. If it’s a casual discussion then wearing a power suit will only make you the odder one. try to make logical connections between the facts.dress according to the event and let your clothes reflect your sincerity. you will be able to develop the critical thinking skills. it is very essential to know your audience. the best way to learn it and register it in mind is to process it first in your mind. then stating statistics will pull you through.Dress Appropriately “Clothes maketh a man” and it’s true in any society. By thinking critically. wear powerful clothes according to your society and your audience. from Mahatma Gandhi to Nelson Mandela and from Steeve Jobs to Barack Obama.
One of the most effective ways to develop critical thinking skill is to answer the questions based on a few hypothetical problems. Do not hide your hands inside your pocket. You should exude confidence through your body language. Motivational Speaking Tips Practise To motivate people with your speech you need to practise a lot. Solve Puzzles Solving a puzzle can help you learn how to develop critical thinking skills. because lack of research will be reflected in the speech.passage carefully. which can be acquired only after practice. This could be a simple exercise of connecting a number of dots in a predefined manner. Maintain good eye-contact with the audience during the speech. before formulating the speech. Mind Your Body Language A good speaker is identified with the way he/she presents himself/herself on the stage. How To Become A Motivational Speaker While a good speaker 'just' conveys his/her intended message. this exercise will help you to think out of the box. A motivational speech includes all the elements that can create impact on the people listening to it. Maintain an equanimity in your speech. Answer Questions Disciplined questioning also promotes critical thinking. give stress to the voice modulation. Motivating people through speech is not as easy as it seems. while speaking. Learning to become a motivational speaker is a systematic process. To improve the analyzing skill further. create a logical link between the events of the story. family member or a colleague. Be certain about what you have to say. . Apart from connecting the dots. While doing this. you will be able to analyze the concepts. you will be able to distinguish between the facts and the assumptions. Research You must have the thorough knowledge of the subject that you are going to address. before presenting it in front of the audience. Being well prepared before the speech reduces the stage fear as well. try to assign a title for the passage. it is an effective way to gain the skill of critical thinking. It requires special skills. it makes the audience 'think' for a positive change. Study the subject well. Make use of gestures to emphasize your point. Even if you fail to answer all the questions. Moreover. to form an image. Complicated and challenging though. Explore the tips given in this article to know how to excel in motivational speaking. a better speaker 'moves' the audience through his words. Rehearse your speech with your friend. This will make the session even more interactive. Apart from being interesting.
Develop Positive Attitude An important step towards socializing with people is to develop a positive attitude. Some of them may even be ready to initiate a conversation with you. Give A Good Conclusion You should summarize your speech in the most convincing way. do not worry. A prior knowledge about the people will help you with the purpose. if you want to create the maximum impact on the audience. If you are one of the people who find it difficult to go out and make friends with people. This is perhaps because of the fact that they lack the characteristics required to socialize with the people around them. which will help you learn how to socialize with people. your speech should be interesting as well. Conversing with the audience will also help make the speech an interesting one. You should bring about a positive change in them. See how people respond to this. wear a pleasant smile on your face. We are here to help you with some tips. They will smile back. with an effective conclusion. Socializing With People Smile Your million dollar smile can act as a gesture to show that you wish to socialize with others. You may ask questions to them in between the speech. However. we often find loners in the society. without mingling with others. while preparing the speech. This is due to the fact that our ancestors used to hunt in groups for food and even worked together. Generate Interest Apart from being motivating. Make use of metaphors. A good conclusion will always leave an impact on the audience. Be positive and live in high spirits. spending their lives in solitude. analogies and anecdotes to make the speech interesting. Create interest in your audience by making the speech interactive. When . in today's world. When you are with a group of people. Learn about their age group. Consider the taste of the audience. It will surely be a positive response. because the choice of words depends a lot upon the mental level of the people listening to the speech. cultural background and lifestyle. They should feel satisfied after listening to your speech. their education. Make an eye-contact while smiling.Know The Audience Know how your audience needs to be motivated. How To Socialize With People Socializing with people is a behavior that is innate to human beings. You should have an optimisticoutlook towards life.
which you need to control. Right from angry flare-ups to disgust. there are numerous emotional displays that you might need to restrict. . try to find a common interest. You should be able to relate to people. is what you do with those feelings. Communicate Effectively Share your views. do not worry. listening to their as well. Find A Common Point When you are with people at a party or a social get-together. it is not what you feel that counts. making them feel neither inferior nor superior to you. Be a good listener. by listening to their words carefully.bad behavior. leave all your tensions back home and fit into the environment of the place. The habit of listening to others will also give you an idea about the level of sophistication of the people around you and present yourself according to the situation. How To Control Your Emotions How many times have you goofed-up a particular situation or a scene because of your anger? Almost all of us have faced such an incidence in life. Controlling emotions is essential when you are in a public place or in your place of work. You should present yourself as an approachable person. Controlling Emotions • The first step would be to identify those emotions. If you have been facing problems in controlling your emotion. unhealthy relationships and sometimes even termination letter. In the process.communication skills. you need to build a rapport with them. However. problem occurs when it comes to expression. as we have provided below some of the effective ways and methods to manage your intense emotions. When you are with a group of people.you go out and meet people. If you succeed in finding similar taste or interests. you should share your point of view with others. it will be easier for you to proceed further and develop familiarity with them. when you are in a social circle. This will make you more knowledgeable about the people surrounding you. Build Rapport To socialize with people. You will be able to judge them better. One must understand that there is nothing wrong in feeling strongly about something. Remember. Result . what matters. who has many things (or at least few things) common with others. This will give you a chance to open up yourself to others. do not be aggressive while presenting your viewpoint. when our emotions had completely taken over our mind. when it comes to public places. This brings out another quality needed to socialize with people . you have to lend your ears first and speak your mind later on.
It needs observation and analysis of one’s own self. the tips provided in the following lines will surely come handy. it just needs to be useful in a positive way. In such circumstances. the best bet would be to focus all the energies towards breathing. it gets very difficult to suppress your emotion. So. ask yourself the reason for the anger. in turn. react less. moonlight and so on. reduces heart rate and accentuates the oxygen flow in the brain. Finding Your Hidden Talent Find Your Interests • • • • . when you come across similar situations. Not every talent requires being profitable. Remember. It can be a snapshot of a beach. just pick up a glass of water and slowly gulp it down. Visualization is yet another great way to control the angry flare-ups or stress. You would realize that it is generally the negative feelings that you want to control. You will surely feel relaxed! • • • • • • • • How To Find Your Talents Talent need not to be related only with intellect. Remember. It can be artistic. technical and physical as well. Finding the talent that sets us apart from the crowd can be a long process. Another popular way would be to count backwards from 20 to 1. Drinking lots of water is a good way to rule out the negative emotions. often tricky also. Another effective technique would be to acknowledge or recognize the emotions you were feeling at the time of emotional outbursts. the mind gets diverted from the emotions and feelings. This is found effective in controlling the heighten emotions.• • • • For instance. Many of us are still in search of the talents that are hidden within us. Give vent to your feelings and then return to the scene. Try to picture something that would produce a soothing image in your mind. Breathing in and out a number of times. So. be actively attentive of your feelings and emotions. In such a situation. This might come as a surprise to you. but directing all the energies towards a far-off stable object does a lot. You would. Knowing the reason is likely to help you in future. Trust me. if you get easily angered. If you want to learn how to find your talents. It would also benefit you in terms of health. Believe it or not this would be a great way to escape from the stressful or high-anxiety times. excuse yourself from the group of people you are with and go to a lonely place. a candle. mindfulness holds the key for controlling emotions. in terms of relieving a person off his intense emotions. when you are focusing your attention towards breathing. At times. you would feel much better.
In this process.• • • • The first step towards finding your talents is to know your interests. Ways To Make People Like You Be Cheerful • • . Know Your Limits In the process of finding your strengths or talents. Know your limits. Some people have the inherent quality to make others be fond of them. Read lots of books and learn from people. This will help increase your depth of knowledge. Carry out experiments and explore things. you will be able to discover all your hidden talents and skills. Locate a safe environment. Improve Yourself After you come to know about the areas of your interest. You will then come to know about your talents as well as the areas that you need to work on. watch or do? What are your favorite shows on television? Which column of the newspaper and magazines do you like to read? Try Out Different Things If you want to find out your dexterity in each of the things that interest you. What sorts of things do you like to read about. However. Find Your Passion You may be a person of various interests. which you are passionate about. with utmost enthusiasm? Get the answer for the question and you will come to know what exactly you are passionate about. where you can try out different things without anybody’s interference. Therefore. it is the time to improve yourself. Go through the following and know how to get people to like you. What is the one thing that you love to do the most. The mere feeling of being liked and loved by others fills the heart with warmth and happiness. One of the best ways to learn something is to teach. you should not ignore your weaknesses as well. If you are one amongst the latter type of people and are looking for ways to make others like you. but there will be only a thing or two. teach what you have learnt. Know what makes you struggle. Find out the things in which you are not a pro or lag behind. we should know that not every one is born with this knack. • • • • • • • • • • • • How To Get People To Like You • • The world seems to be a wonderful place when every one around you likes you. the guidance given here will come handy. then try them out.
feeling the pain of others is even better. Moreover. if you act happily. • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • How To Look Gorgeous Every girl wants to be noticed. will help you win their confidence as well. In addition. you are able to engender closeness with them. Devoting time to people will help you a great deal in developing a good relationship with them.• • • • People would always like to accompany a smiling and cheerful person. rather be the first person who helps them. although it seems 'easier said than done'. It is always nice to show kindness. then pay attention whenever they are talking to you. Be Helpful One of the best ways to get people like you is to go out of the way whenever they are in need. Being kind means speaking politely. Every act of yours should show that you care for others and are considerate about their feelings. However. It is a quality that very few of us have. You should not be their last resort. This act will show that you care for them. be ready to turn heads and have more than expected eyeballs running in your . If you have this quality in you. is good. Empathize Feeling bad for someone who is going through troubled times. Empathizing is not as easy as showing sympathy. you will surely become a person whom almost everyone likes. Remember. this will show that you are reliable and a person to depend upon. Doing good things. Therefore. you will feel happy as well and make other feel good with your presence. in a soft tone and never shouting at people when you are angry. This kind of behavior will project you as a kind-hearted person and get people to like you. such as helping others without being asked to. If you are tired of looking plain and simple. When you carefully listen to what others say and respond to them appropriately. If you want others to like you. Devote Time A majority of people would like someone in their life who gives time and attention to them. People will begin to open up to you more. who spreads positive energy around him/her. as they will be sure that you will always be there to lend an ear. they will treat you much more warmly. Listen Listening to others is a great thing to establish a rapport among them. be a person who is always optimistic and upbeat. Be Kind Do not frown at others’ wrong deeds or misbehaviors.
one needs to look healthy. Besides this. Always wear a smile and be natural.Drink a lot of water.Be super stylish keeping with the latest fashion trends. It does not imply that you have to indulge yourself in heavy exercises or count each calorie you consume. Wear anything that looks cute on you and make you look trendy. Looking Beautiful Healthy Skin and Body . but some precautionary steps will do. Keep up with the latest trend and get a hairstyle from a good hairstylist. It can cost you some more. Use right products that are of better quality and work on your hair until you get it right. Get a flat iron. Now this is what you hear from every second person. Next is choosing right shade for eye shadow. Jeans and T-shirts are something that can never go out of fashion. a curly iron and straightener and make sure you apply mousse and hairspray after styling your hair. The truth is that a healthy body and proper diet are the primary factor for the attainment of a gorgeous look as it brings radiance and glow on your face. Make up is a must and a foremost factor for the attainment of a gorgeous look.Whatever hairstyle you wear. concealer. Wear a glossy lipstick to that glamorous and gorgeous look. as water will rid the body of impurities. A proper coat of mascara and black eyeliner will define your eyes. you have to apply some tricky make up that enhances your features and cover-up the flaws. Apply foundation. It goes well with every dress and suits all skin complexions. you have to know the right styling and make up to enhance what you are blessed with. if any. Just eat proper diet and exercise regularly to keep your body in a good shape. make sure that it looks good on you. • • • • • • How To Ignore Rude Comments . but the extra money is all worth it.Sometimes you will hear that you do not need the blusher or eye shadow. A multi-layered make up is not what will make you look gorgeous unless you look beautiful and healthy. Scroll down to find some more tips that can make you look beautiful and gorgeous. To look gorgeous. If you hear it very often. but make sure not to wear clothes that are too revealing and leave nothing to imagine. If you can choose nothing. Don’t starve yourself or become anorexic in order to look thinner. Hairstyle . Brush regularly and clean you hair clean and conditioned. Highlight your eyes and lips. bronzer and blusher for a smooth looking and radiant skin. a basic fact that many of us tend to ignore. go for a shiny pink. Dressing Style and Right Attitude . but this is the most effective way to get beautiful skin and great body. The way you carry yourself is what you need to add magic to your looks and personality. it is something people will remember more than how you look. it can result in severe consequences. Shop a lot and watch out for the hottest fashion trends.• • • • direction. Correct Make-Up . making it look natural at the same time.
You first need to figure out what happiness means to you and then. Remember this always! When somebody behaves rudely with you. answer them back politely. Stay away from such people as far as possible.The people who live in this world differ on a number of factors. How To Be Happy . In the following. just greet them politely and go your away. This would make the person shut up. If you want to get some more tips on being happy in life. Today. right from their nationality. In fact. by their rude comments. though there might be some major similarities. Almost all the people who say rude things to others are suffering from inferiority complex. React as if you didn't even hear his/her comment or it makes no difference to you what he/she thinks. Never ever let the rude comments of others belittle you or make you feel inferior. How To Be Happy Happiness holds the key to lead a successfullife. the latter two differences are much more enhanced than the former. If things become worst. we will tell you how to handle rude comments. so don't even try. this basic element of life has lost its meaning. Amidst the different types of people. there is one particular category that comprises of discourteous and insensitive people. they will slowly start backing away. so don't let other people's opinions affect you. People pass rude comments to make you angry and get an agitated response. You will hardly find two people who have exactly same personality. If they don't get that. go through the lines below. with busy schedules and the need to get to the top of the ladder. Do you want to know the secret of staying happy all the time? Happiness means different things to different people. They don't have the slightest idea on how to make polite conversation and often end up hurting the people around. not pass rude comments. If it is not possible to avoid them altogether. don't reply back. you can work out steps to seek the joy and bliss for yourself. Never ever try to justify yourself. How To Ignore Rude Comments • • • • • • Believe in yourself. They are only trying to hide their own insecurity behind the rudeness. race and religion to their nature and temperament. Most of you would agree that it feels good when you see someone smiling. nothing you say will make a different. A person who wants to hear your side of the story will come and talk to you. it is much easier to find a frowning face than a smiling one. If he/she resorts to comments. while watching someone grimacing acts as dampener on your spirit as well. However. You know what you are and what you are not.
you first need to find what is important in your life. job. once you know the right ways to start the discussions. but most of the people face difficulty when they have to start up a conversation. • • • • • • How To Start Up A Conversation Starting a conversation is not everyone's cup of tea.was it the place you were in or the person you were with. etc. interacting with people is easy. music and your hobby. They criticize and grumble about everything which happens in life and fail to see what good things they have in life. What was the particular thinking or feeling that made you feel happy? Be with the person or visit the place again and experience the same emotions. indulge in having one. You need to realize what holds the key to your happiness. The ability to start a conversation effortlessly and to carry it out is a quality which is inherent only in a few people. your partner and life in general. Make happiness your priority in life. such as health. work your way ahead. Start small and then. For such people. Lastly. Be optimistic in life and shoo away any negativity. If you are also one of those who keep looking for ways of starting a conversation. smile always. Think positive things about yourself. you can make others happy as well. family. By smiling yourself. Think of what made you happy . If you love ice creams. like going for a walk. How To Start Up A Conversation . If you were once a movie buff. you will see the people around you smiling as well. is extremely stressful. Read it often. It might sound strange. reading a book. friends. talking to friends. maintain a diary where you write all the good things. money. love life. but can be developed by almost everyone. It would help you get rid of the pessimism.• To be happy. go through the following lines. and bring a smile to your face. like values. Take 15 minutes off from the routine life and do things that make you smile. when you were very happy. friends. etc. Given below are tips to help you with the problem. However. It is often noted that people who are of the complaining sorts are mostly unhappy. it is the time to catch up with old pals on a movie date. Make it a habit and soon. It might not be possible to immediately start doing everything that makes you happy. In no time. you would realize that you are feeling happy all the time. Be appreciative of the main aspects of life. family. Recollect old times. It's easier to put up a smile on your face than to have a frown on. to come up with something to talk about. There are certain things which take a prime concern in your life. You need to take time out of your busy schedules to do things which are important to you and make you feel elated. If pessimistic thoughts creep easily into your mind.
Take initiative to talk to people when you are stuck up at different situations.• To start a conversation. Even if you are not confident. You should be positive about yourself. • • • • • • • How To Be Funny Being funny is not a joke (pun intended!). You can make others cry in just fraction of a minute. Be confident about yourself.conversation has started. take it as an opportunity to talk further. act as if you are. you need to know many things related to humor. their ambitions. If some opinion has been expressed by the other person. but are not marked as clown. we have provided a number of tips that will help you in being funny. Don't put too much pressure on yourself. With practice. Practice conversing with people. How To Be Funny • Just Relax: The first and foremost requirement of being funny is to have a relaxed mind. you will have a lot of things to talk about and can knowledgeably participate in discussions. Compliment if you like something about the person. but make sure that you offer a sincere one. The best way to start a conversation is to be well-rehearsed. but to make them laugh is a hard nut to crack. Start the conversation with a compliment. It requires a lot of skill to bring that 'million dollar smile' on the face of a person. Crack jokes that make people laugh out loudly and not PJs that might make them stifle a yawn. timing. Many people think that humor can be dealt with very easily. like the situation. play it safe and do not compliment on the looks or body of someone. When you are up-to-date with the current affairs. you should be aware of what is happening around you. in case he/she thinks it as derogatory. This is not true. etc. You also need to make sure that you come across as hilarious. In both the cases. Use this as a conversation starter. or at least smile. However. the deal is struck . Observance is very essential for a communication to take place. You might agree or disagree with it. but do not let go of the opportunity. Always try to be cool. etc. you are sure to get better at starting conversations. their life. if you want make others laugh. It is noted that people love to talk about themselves their success. Put questions to them. This would make you appear relaxed and calm. In the following lines. . Be inquisitive in nature. You can either ask a question about it or offer an opinion. To be funny. Look around to find something interesting or unusual to talk about. It is good to prepare in front of the mirror. Have a smile on your face and look into the eyes of the person while talking. at your presence. taking care not to get too intrusive or personal.
which is achieved when other people laugh at their jokes. this leads to insensitivity towards others. forget about making other people smile. You should know whom you are talking to and what the situation is. Be animated and alive when you are talking . Know Your Audience & Situation: This is another important thing to take into consideration. A secureperson is more likely to achieve success. A reserve of jokes can come handy. one should try to be confident of himself. He tries to surround himself with possessions. • • • • Signs Of An Insecure Person Security is something. Signs of Insecurity • • • • • • An insecure person becomes overly selfish. It gives pain. so be always ready. Try to find humor especially in the situations that do not turn in your favor. insecure people find it very difficult to manage things in every aspect of their lives. Insecure people tend to be very defensive and cannot handle criticism. They need validation from other people for their actions and qualities. On the contrary. which is desired by everyone. However. They are not comfortable with their own-self. accolades and attention. attitude and the way you project yourself also count. analyze the situation well before introducing humor into it. read on. Falling down on a banana peel is the best example. Nobody would like to get witty at a mourning ceremony. if you want to know what are signs of an insecure person. Be Ready For All Situations: You never know when a situation calls for humor. Just make sure that you crack the jokes with good amount of humor. have meaningful relationships and be respected by others. isn't it? So. Insecure people are self promoting and constantly talk about themselves. if you can't' make yourself laugh. For this. Learn Timing & Mannerism: Being funny is not just about delivering great jokes.this can make a dull story funny and interesting. Your mannerism. Crack some jokes and humor yourself. An insecure person craves for other people's attention. That is why it is important for all of us to be comfortable with ourselves.• Take It Easy! Don't get too serious or tensed at tough situations. Insecure people can't enjoy silence and they try to fill it with unnecessary chatter. Though it is impossible to be completely free of doubt. An insecure person becomes overly accommodating and tries to gain other people's approval. but humor is written all over the scenario! Humor Yourself: Put a pause to your dull routine life. Ease up on life and yourself. That is perhaps the best way to be in 'good humor'! In fact. keep checking yourself to eliminate any signs of insecurity that might creep in. . It is about cracking them at the right time. Excessive joking is also a mechanism for coping with insecurity.
Popular people are generally friendly with almost everyone around. To be precise. people often remain clueless on the topic. If you receive a response. friendly conversation with anyone in the room. don't • • • • . It is very necessary for you to interact with people to gain their attention. nothing will come easily to you. you will have to come out of your shell in order to become popular. Don't be nosy and clingy. This is visible in constant questioning. who crosses your path. As everybody does not acquire the talent of being popular. This is because if you do not believe in yourself. make a small conversation. Insecure people tent to be overly authoritative as they tend to compensate for their lack of confidence by taking out their frustrations on their subordinates. who desperately wish to don the spotlight but do not how to become popular. just smile and give greetings. here we are with some valuable tips to relive you off your worries. Over jealousy is yet another sign of insecure people as they lack trust in their partners. Try to decipher people's body language to understand their signals. restraining from any sort of controversy. So. In effect. Be friendly and social. make sure you just attempt a small talk with people you are not well aware of. Keep your attitude casual. one of the basic things to remember here is that it is very necessary to be self confident to become popular. Being materialistic also shows that person is insecure because he feels that by acquiring material wealth and showing it off he will be able to gain people's attention and acknowledgement. Insecure people even become abusive if they fail to control their partners. Make it a habit to know people around you. However. Try to talk to everyone. They are scared of losing and so they always keep themselves at the edge. On the contrary. be in good enough terms so that you are able to hold a short.• • • • • • • How To Be Popular Insecure people are even threatened by others and therefore by bullying they try to crush their opinion. Even if you are a shy and introvert person. Over competitiveness is also a sign of insecurity. wondering how others do it. Everyone wants to be popular and win the praise and attention of all. in case you belong to the category of people. Be polite and respectful towards people's privacy. Also make sure you choose light and safe topics to talk about. mistrust and altercations with the members of the opposite sex. Overly sexual behavior also portrays insecurity as the person treats his or her sexuality as a crutch to get other's attention. Tips on How to Be Popular • Be bold enough and step out of your comfort zone. In effect. do not be a bugger.
• Stop thinking too much about yourself. Try to relate to people around you and be interested in them. but soon you will get used to it. when you meet them for the first time. One of the easiest ways of building rapport is by listening to people. Try to remember people's names. don't interrupt and most importantly. On the other hand. don't brag. be yourself. • • How To Be Charming Being charming is the quality of an attractive personality. don't be annoying. To know more on how to be charming. read on. exuding a subdued joy. try to lend out a helping hand. through practice and patience. Talk to them on common grounds so that they find you compatible. there are others who vie to attain that charm. Some people have an inherent charm to their personality. it is the most important prerequisite for being popular. Nod and smile subtly. It may feel awkward or overpowering in the beginning. While walking. but at the same time. Not to forget. One of the basic ways to become charming is by putting effort and careful attention to the needs and desires of others. For popular people. shoulders thrown back and head at level with the ground. pleasant expression fixed there. Maintain eye contact when you interact with other people. Tell them that you wish the best for them. Empathy is a virtue you cannot do without if you want to be popular. Don't be hesitant. it's not only necessary to know everyone but also equally important to be in good terms with them. Though it's not necessary to be attractive and talented to be popular. which reflects in their conduct. You can definitely mould these as per the situation you are in. However. this characteristic can be achieved over a period of time. when they talk and offer to help somehow. Ways to Be Charming • To start with. avoid overdoing it. to bring them to a point where you have a natural. but find themselves clueless. Try to make a connection when you meet people. to make things work for you. It will not only make it easy for you to remember that person. Keep your spine straight. • • • . Relax your facial muscles. Whenever possible. instilling the above qualities certainly is. but also send signals across that you like them and they would warm up to you. Though it might sound cliché. remain relaxed and maintain an upright posture.invite yourself anywhere. improve your body posture. which will give an impression of self confidence.
Show your feeling of gaiety on receiving the compliment. everybody will find it easy to trust you and confide in you. As a result. In case you want to master the art of socialization. enjoying people’s attention almost all the time. you will be an outgoing person. etc. Being outgoing is a necessary quality to possess. Even when you are meeting a new acquaintance. talk about a game or a sports team. Be affable in accepting compliments. We have listed a number of tips for being more outgoing. in the lines below. Appreciating other people's efforts and helping them in improving upon their skills will increase your importance. who either have a subdued personality or are extremely shy. • • • • • • Tips For Being More Outgoing There are a number of people in world. find out about their immediate family and interests. Be warm and genuine when interacting with people. Focus on being purely interested and impressed by other people. especially when you feel there can be evidence floating around in the open. Follow restrain and do not talk much about yourself. apart from improving your social relationships. while talking to them. This will make you a charming personality. as it will make them feel uncomfortable. who will be adored by others around. Praise others. Your voice should reflect your sincerity. However. In case there is something negative that pops up about the other person. they find it difficult to mingle around with other people and do not get to socialize much. at don't be too nosy. This will help you move ahead in your career as well. Remember that everyone wants to be liked and complimented. It just requires a little effort on your part to change your attitude and soon. mention something positive that is likeable about him. your reputation will be in shatters and people will shun you. if you are in a sporty crowd. Keep a control on the tone of your voice. so that the person finds his effort worthy. read on. The content should be in accordance with the surrounding. This way. it does not mean that others cannot be the same. Initiate conversations on topics that would interest the people around you. like a coworker. a classmate. Once the truth is reveled. Give generous compliments to people and raise their self esteem. Try to be interesting and open while conversing.• Show interest in people. How to Become More Outgoing . Try not to lie while talking to someone. Though some people are born with an innate quality of leadership and turning things in their way. especially in today’s competitive world. For instance.
the fact remains that all of us make efforts to look best every time we are seen by someone else. Remember. You must feel worthy of yourself and then only you would be able to project this outside. Do not be afraid of failure. you will feel charged to meet people and mingle with them.• • To begin with. make new friends as well. This will boost your self-esteem and you will feel better about yourself. start initiating conversation on your own. Once there. make sure you pursue what you want to do. People who love themselves always stand out in the crowd. When someone approaches you. so that you can be at ease. Make more friends. The more nervous you are. . Give yourself credit for doing things. Avoiding people’s gaze is taken as a sign of boredom or a lack of attention and might make people pull away from you. Maintain eye contact while talking to other people. as it shows your respect and interest towards them. as it will help you build self-confidence. A pinch of confidence and an ounce of smile would make you look your best even in the most unfavorable conditions. How to Look Your Best • The first step towards looking good is to feel good about yourself. the more you will tend to avoid mixing up with others! If you feel you are too shy. if you do not try for the fear of failing. With time. try again. Read on to find ways and tips on looking your best all the time. Your friends might also introduce you to some more people. you look great. you cannot learn how to be more outgoing.‘try. One fact that almost all of us overlook is that ‘looking best’ factor is more on the inside than on the outside. So. you should try to be more social and interact with people. you need to avoid uncomfortable situations as much as you can. Unless and until you meet people. Be positive about life and be in the company of people who make you feel positive. When you feel happy. • • • • • • How To Look Your Best We have always heard that ‘beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder’. Do not avoid going to parties. until you succeed’. This will make them take interest in you too. expanding your social circle to quite an extent. Keep the motto in mind . for the fear that you would not be able to mix up with people. try. However. give a pleasant smile and show that you are interested. as there is not going to be any success. This will reflect in your conversations and interactions as well. no one likes to move around a pessimist. try to interact with others and if possible. who is full of negative views about life. Most of us are unhappy about something or the other in ourselves and wish to have the perfect look and be adored by others. When you will feel you can do things as per your own wish.
which cannot be generalized. So. Wear a warm smile on your face and move out with your chin raised high. it can surely be enhanced to a great extent. Avoid being out in sun for a long period of time and put on a sunscreen whenever you go out during the day. Select attires that suit you and accentuate your complexion and figure. better take care. weight or structure. Given below are some tips on how to be beautiful and attractive. Make sure you take good care of your skin. one just needs to pay attention on his or her appearance as well his character. pelvic tilts. Tips to Look Beautiful • • In order to look beautiful one should know how to define beauty. while subduing others is the best mantra to follow. Wear clothes that fit you. Do not indulge in insensitive buying. Though it is believed that beauty is god gifted. notice the people you find beautiful. which would enhance your best feature. Loose fitting clothes. So. will make you fat and clumsy. look good! • • • • • • How To Be Beautiful Being beautiful is a desire that almost everyone wishes to see getting accomplished. On your everyday encounters. Selecting footwear is an important task. for being attractive. beauty is something subjective. Simple make up. Look for colors which would enhance the beauty in you. instead of something really fashionable that would make you look bad. it would show on the outside. Spend time in front of the mirror and search for the beauty in your features. Wear colors that match your skin tone. Wear footwear you are comfortable in and don’t plunge into the fashion race uselessly. Take notice of the beauty in yourself. you can go for make up only if you feel it’s necessary. Devote at least 10-15 minutes each day to exercise. which need to be looked for.• • • Stop cribbing about your height. being healthy is also a prime requisite for looking beautiful. push ups and skipping. Everyone in this world has at least one unique quality and you must be proud about your own. as they will make you uncomfortable and you will also end up showing all the bulges that you wanted to hide. This is because beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. Overconfidence kills. Do not follow the fashion fiesta blindly and look atrocious at the end of it. This will help your body look and feel its very best. tummy tucks. Thus. on the other hand. Do not wear too-tight clothes. Most of the times. but confidence makes you swiftly sweep past the crowd and look outstanding!! Feel good. Simple exercises include crunches. If you are uncomfortable. While natural look is always in. look for your . the prettiest things in life are often subtle and hidden. Moreover. by working upon one’s persona. In addition.
Happiness exudes natural beauty. you should keep a check on how they perceive you. then people surely want to seek his company and admire him. thereby making yourself beautiful both on the inside and on the outside. Thus. Have a positive outlook towards life and stay happy. This is what makes the beauty last forever. So build your character honestly. Wear minimum makeup. Most of us are always concerned about what other people think of us. Read on for some tips on how to be cool. So. A cool person is generally referred to as someone. make sure you try to acquire as much knowledge as you can • • • • • How To Be Cool Being stated cool is the hippest statement amongst guys and gals. Remember that it’s not possible to please everyone. For inspiration. Brush your teeth daily and floss them when required. If the person is wise. remember your inner beauty will always radiate and never get faded. perfectly-shaped shoulders. Follow a regular hygiene routine. which is very essential in order to look beautiful. So. with the help of make up. Tips on Being Cool • Do not care about what people think of you. Avoid applying heavy make up in public places and try to look natural and composed. who does things in his own distinct way and does not care much about the world. Though many people feel it is difficult to achieve the milestone. Cool people have a charismatic personality and are popular amongst their social community. It just takes a little effort to look beautiful. but carries significance. which can be achieved by emphasizing your attractive features. one needs to have a beautiful inner self as well. Bathe regularly and smell good. Keep experimenting until you feel you have given your best features the representation they deserve. it should be noted that being cool just requires a bit of attitude change. giving preference to your innate good looks. Just highlighting your features. Though you should be immune to other people’s opinion about you. which actually implies that to be beautiful. Keep your finger and toe nails trimmed. It is said that beauty is not skin deep. Being cool is all about learning how to perceive yourself • .beauty. it becomes a secret wish for everyone to be termed as cool. Another thing that makes someone attractive is his intelligence. Wisdom always gives your beauty a boost. This might sound contradictory. flawless forehead. etc. which can be in the form of smooth and well-proportioned hands. so avoid being sad at trivial things and enjoy life. rather than bothering about the world. • One you have realized your beauty. rejoice in it. The next thing to do is to develop your inner beauty. is the best way to look pretty. it is better if you live your life the way you like. Make efforts to enhance your physical beauty.
You will not only gain respect for it. Be friendly and social. being smart is the need of the hour. Don't shy away from being different. music. to fight and sustain in the rat race of the contemporary world. Though some people are born with such qualities. At times. Everyone can become smart by acquiring the required skills. this does not mean chattering uselessly. Remember being cool essentially states finding humor in moments of clumsiness and discomfort. etc. but not excessively eager and clingy. Cultivate the habit of laughing at yourself. Find your talent in terms of sports. that too with a good pace. you need to look and feel positive. However. In terms of body language. Make sure you say what you mean and vice versa. and end up losing your temper. art and the like and pursue it with excellence. It’s good to be outgoing. For acquiring the respect of others. defending someone else or taking interest in something that no one else dares to do. Being cool is all about staying relaxed and comfortable in any and every situation. Cool people usually speak confidently and clearly. bursting into tears or losing control. but do not be overly excited. Real friends respect you for what you are and cherish the time spent with you. Do not force yourself on people. but people will like you for being so earthly. With regard to physical appearance. making you feel positive and happy. Don't be disruptive and annoying or have unpredictable mood changes. make sure to maintain a good posture and look them in the eye. etc. • • Present yourself in the most comfortable and confident way. one has to follow some simple tips. People who break against the tide and question the status quo are quite often regarded as the coolest. Another thing to be remembered is that for being cool. it should not be considered a norm. one should create his own identity. look and feel confident. whether it means standing up for yourself. stand/sit up straight. While interacting with people.better. • • • • • • How To Be Smart Everybody wants to become smart in today’s world as it does not remain that easy to survive any more. For this. Speak your mind. smile generously. From kids in school to adults in corporate world. If at times you do feel vulnerable. take a deep breath and mellow down. do not stare. Be confident about what you speak and don't bother if people disagree with your opinion. beware of bad breath. Your serenity and steadfastness shows your coolness. Smile and be genuine. Find real friends and stay in their company. it is good to be respected for what you believe in. body odor. Being known for your passion is certainly deemed cool. which will bring about a .
change in his/her lifestyle and personality, eventually making them smart enough. To know how to become smart, read the tips given below. Tips to Become Smart •
To become smart set important goals for yourself once a week. Make sure you do the important things first. Try to improve your vocabulary by reading good books. This will make your language rich, enhancing your skills. You can even read one word at a time in the dictionary and grow intellectually gradually. Excel in your education by getting good grades. Excellence in your educational field gives you confidence as well as knowledge. Watch news and be aware about the recent events taking place around the world. This will increase your general knowledge and current affairs. Grab more information on subjects like interesting facts, funny and inspiring quotations, good books and movies, scientific studies and interesting inventions. This will give you information to help you in interacting with other people and sound interesting and intelligent. Be organized and plan each day. For remembering your schedule, keep a notebook or small digital planner and maintain a record of the due dates for important events. A weekly planner or a monthly calendar can also be used, wherein you can note down birthdays and big events. Being a good listener is very important, when it comes to being smart. Listen carefully to others' opinions on controversial things or otherwise. It’s not necessary to agree with them but try to extract the maximum knowledge from others. Keep an open mind and socialize freely. Be nice to people around and show genuine care towards their well being. It is a sign of maturity, class and intelligence, which will make people to look up to you. It’s a good way to feel confident. Be friendly with people you find smart and who follow the above practices. It will help you in following the path with determination. Exercise your brain by solving puzzles. This will make you sharp and your reflexes quick. Practice math sums mentally to increase your speed. Learn varied tricks for doing complicated things to keep yourself ahead of others. Try as much as possible to feel in control of your life. Be happy for others on their achievement and encourage them by congratulating.
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Effective Leadership Qualities And Skills
Whenever group activities are required, the emergence of a leader becomes imminent. A group always works effectively when there is a leader to guide the members and keep them motivated on their way to success. Without a good leader, a group will not be able to perform to the best of its abilities. However, as much is it necessary to have a leader, it is also essential that he has all the right qualities and skills. Having a bad leader is even worse than having no leader at all. In case you want to be a leader, that too an effective one, you need to cultivate certain skills and qualities in you, some of which have been listed below. Effective Leadership Qualities and Skills • In order to become a leader, a person should be aware of nitty-gritty of the work that his team has to handle. Unless and until he knows about the work, he will not be able to lead the team in the right direction. • • • • An effective leader needs to set example for his team members and become a role model for them. If he is lazy, dishonest and shirks from responsibilities, how can he expect others to be meticulous and sincere! A leader should be totally unbiased. He should not have personal favorites in his team, to whom he gives more authority or less work. All the members in a team should be treated equally. Patience is one of the most essential qualities needed in a leader. Since he has to guide his team, he must have the patience to make them learn what they need to and get the work done from them. Constructive feedback is one of the skills that a leader should possess. He should always praise his team members if they perform well. At the same time, if they do wrong, he should be there to tell them where they went wrong and how can they put things back in order! However, the criticism should always be constructive and not demeaning. A leader needs to motivate his team, so that they happily contribute towards the team work. He should be aware of the stimuli of different members and make judicious use of them. When a person becomes a leader, he needs to delegate his duties as well as responsibilities amongst his team members. For this, he should be aware of their strengths and weaknesses and delegate accordingly. Leader is the one who sets goal for the team and help them achieve it. He should possess the vision to aim right and at the same time, be able to mobilize people towards those goals. A leader should always be receptive to new ideas. Just because he is the leader doesn’t mean that the suggestions made by others will be useless. He must accept the useful ideas of his team members. An effective leader should have loads of understanding and always focus on the betterment of the group, as a whole, and not individual members. At the same time, he should be honest, trustworthy and easily approachable.
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How To Control My Feelings When Upset
Feeling upset is quite natural. It comes to you automatically when things do not favor you or do not turn out to be the way you thought that they would. However, the phase should be temporary and not something that stretches over to a long period of time. It is very essential to learn how to control one’s feeling of being upset over matters or things, because being too depressed could hamper your behavior and thus, affect your regular mode of living. Read on further to find some tips for controlling your disappointment and depression. Tips For Controlling Anger • The best way is control anger to take a deep breath and count the numbers backwards, from 10 to 1. It would make you feel calmer in no time. Now, pick up the phone and talk to the person whom you are upset with and clarify all the issues. Write a list of things that make you upset and irritate you. Now, tear the page and throw it in the dustbin or even go for burning the page up! This might just give you some mental respite, as you are venting out your frustration by tearing or burning the paper. Do things that you enjoy. Indulge in your favorite past time activities, like singing, dancing, cooking, listening to music, reading or going for a walk. Do things that make you happy, as they will help you to take your mind off a particularly upsetting instance. Play a game or a sport you love. It would lighten your heart and would give a boost to your spirit. Exerciseand sports are very rightly considered to be stress busters. They will also help you to distract you mind. Call your friends. Have long chats with them or even plan the day out. Catch up with them and do things that you love doing. Having fun with friends will not give you the time to think over things that make you feel upset. If you have the habit of maintaining a diary, write all that you are feeling in it right now. You might realize that you are feeling 10 times better after doing it. Make a list of things that you are good at and enjoy doing. Try refreshing your mind with your own positive qualities and things which you are best at. This would help you regain your spirit. If you are upset and angry about something, the best you can do is give yourself some space. Get out of the particular situation that you find unbearable and try to soothe your nerves. This will also help you avoid instant reactions to situations that irritate you. Analyze whether the matter is even worth being upset about or not. Many a times, we simply worry too much and waste a lot of time fretting over things that are just not important. Try to dispassionately analyze the situation that is bothering you. Most of the times, you will not be able to figure out any credible reason to be upset!
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Start going out and meeting new people. They feel they can’t talk as others do and often have low confidence due to that. Ask them to analyze how you speak and tell you which places need improvement. It will help you become an emotionally stable and fun-loving person. That way. you will start building a positive image about life and yourself which will ultimately lead to a better personality. the more will you be able to talk to new people. It could be something traumatic or something that may have left a bad impact on your ability to open up. However. As a result. Analyze yourself and see if you have a personal issue that has been bothering you for a while. Indulge in things that make you happy and feel light. you will know your weak points and you can always strive to work on them in order to open up. Do whatever it takes to respect yourself and think good of yourself. The more places you go. It helps a lot to open up when you are in public. no one else will think the same way. share ideas and experiences. This finally leads to inferiority complex and that individual cannot help but feel miserable forever. This way. try talking it out to a counselor. you will become confident of yourself in no time. It will be very helpful talking about this to a professional as it will help you gain a good insight into your problems and also find a solution. Talk about what happened during the day. one must realize that there is a solution to every problem and this issue can be tackled too. You know yourself more than anyone else. If you think you can’t discuss with anyone. Start by talking openly to your family and closest friends. Tips for Opening up to People • The first and foremost step is to be confident of yourself. they are unable to cope up normally in a situation where talking and speaking out is essential.How To Open Up To People Many people have a problem with opening up to people or even talking freely in a gang of friends. Check out how to open up with people. Talk about it to your closest confidante. That way. Unless you think you are good. Have a attitude in your personality and believe in yourself. smile and laugh or get angry if anything unpleasant incident took place. you will be able to gauge your expressions and reactions and have a fair idea as to how would you look while talking in front of people. All it needs is a bit of perseverance and dedicated efforts from you. • • • • • How To Be More Social • . Practice talking to yourself. Just stand in front of the mirror and have an impromptu conversation with yourself.
Try to be friendlier. Always speak confidently and listen to what people around you have to say. by being genuinely interested in what he/she has to say. interests. how to talk to others and how to be more assertive. It does take a lot of energy. Watch TV . Initiate conversations. Now.Take a step forward and perform in front of an audience. Listen . likes. show interest in the conversation. we present some tips and techniques to get more social and gain back that confidence. Be Interested In People . While talking to someone. dislikes. Be Friendly .Converse with people. with people who you make you feel comfortable and gradually move on to others. their • • • • • • • • • • • • • • . Smiling relaxes you and makes you more approachable. the easier it would be for you to open up in front of strangers. Mostly. as this would improve your social skills.Yes. and classmates. Mute the button when it is his/ her turn to speak. This way. but for some of us. Most of them loveto speak about themselves. The more you present yourself in front of yourfriends. The simple act of listening can help you being more social with the people around you. To help you a bit more in this regard. etc. Perform . by asking them about their life. Tips To Become Social & Overcome Shyness Practice . you can build it into an automatic part of your life. The world around you is not bad. Converse . self consciousness is the reason for shyness and loneliness.• • • • • People often wonder how to be more social. by being truly interested in them. Smile .This is perhaps the first step towards being social. Do not try to imitate the character. but with a small start. Start small.Switch to your favorite show and pretend to be one of the characters. it’s really amazing how a simple act like smiling can go a long way in reducing the stress of dealing with people. so smile and be happy. Similar to other skills in life. Just be natural and speak up what comes to your mind. it just doesn't go away. If you are not chatty at that moment or are reserved in general. but that is the way to build up your conversation skills. say hi to people and make the first move.People who are great at socializing make other people feel comfortable around them.Be a good listener and talk only when it is your time to talk. practice makes a man perfect in this case as well. make up your lines and speak loud. you just can't flip a switch and be loving and friendly towards everyone instantly. colleagues. It usually vanishes as we mature. you will gain confidence and the attention will be on you. It sounds a little strange.
• • • preferences. Attend Seminars on Self Confidence You can also attend seminars themed on building self-confidence. just remember that you do not deserve this and don’t have to live like this your whole life! While lacking confidence is one thing. How To Gain Confidence Do you cringe each time you view yourself in the mirror and sadly wish you were someone else? Do you get tongue-tied and nervous when you have to. Try to draw out common aspects between the two of you and move on with the conversation. Second that it’s okay to feel scared because confidence doesn’t mean not feeling scared. See what and how you can incorporate these tips in your daily lifestyle. First that in this case.Remember that each one of us has the capability to be the most social person out there. only you can help yourself. confidence means overcoming your fears! Tips on How to Build Confidence Like Yourself The very first key to becoming self confident is by liking yourself. But remember that you can definitely turn around the tables if you so want. etc. Compliment . If attending conferences is not possible. libraries and other such sources. However. Last Tip . for any reason. Infact. interact with strangers? Do you keep criticizing yourself constantly for doing things the wrong way? All these traits just point one thing – that you majorly lack in self confidence. where you can get important tips and guidance in this aspect from experts.Who Moved My Cheese and The Alchemist can also help you. make sure that you are genuine while doing so. being courteous. Be ready to do your extra bit. Encourage / Motivate yourself . Compliments prove to be great conversation starters. Remember two things on the onset of this mission. just see this list and remind yourself that you too possess praise-worthy qualities like others. When ever you feel dejected. Reading famous inspirational books like . their dreams. It is a feeling that will slowly start getting mirrored once you begin appreciating yourself truly. While there can be varied reasons behind your lack of confidence. This could be things like cooking well. All you need is the willingness and determination to overcome your flaws. this can also lead to one having low self. It’s just that some of us have to take those extra steps.esteem with the passage of time. then try searching for information / reading up on this issue on the internet. So list down all the positive traits you have in yourself. etc.Never forget to compliment people on various suitable occasions.
So failure is not all that bad as many label it. accept it and move on. Try Overcoming Fears Some people nurture a secret fear that they will not success at anything they do. It is just that you have to take it in a positive way. It teaches you to survive when things are not going smooth. It is as much a part of life as success is. . Though maybe in varying degree. but success is bound to come to you sooner or later. Think positive and put your 100 per cent in what ever you do. It keeps you grounded. One should try to do away with such negative thinking first of all. it makes you crave for success more strongly and it also teaches you to appreciate success in the true way when it finally comes.Whether you have to appear for an interview or make a presentation. Another way to motivate yourself is by jotting down three to four things on the paper that you did well each day. tell yourself repeatedly that you can do it and do it well. Encourage or motivate yourself each and every day and you are bound to find your self confidence blossoming. Accept Failures Failures teach you more than success does. This will make you feel good about yourself and boost confidence.