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Getting things organized on time is the key to minimize your stress. If you are the kind of a person who keeps things pending for the last minute and then end up in a mess, then perhaps it is the right time to gear up and get things organized to avoid those last minute scrambling. It can be often challenging to get things organized if you are doing that for the first time. However, if you are ready to take some extra efforts, you can help reduce your stress level to a great extent. But, what is actually meant by getting organized and from where to start are the two obvious questions that come to mind when it comes to getting organized. If you too are contemplating on where to get started and to become more organized in day to day life then here are some tips to help you get started. Getting Organized Time Management Are you always in hurry and rushing for your daily chores? Do you find yourself in a mess and do you find it difficult to remember things? If yes, then perhaps you need to organize your time more efficiently. Maintain a To Do list and schedule all your appointments in a notebook. Stick to only one notebook instead on using multiple calendars to schedule your appointments. Check the notebook regularly so that you don’t miss any appointments. This way you can avoid overtaxing your brain with preoccupying thoughts. Do not overbook yourself with tasks, find some time for relaxation too. Catch up with friends and spend time with families so that you don’t overstress yourself. Organizing Home Do you live in a cluttered home filled with unnecessary things? Does cleaning home sound a herculean task to you? A cluttered home can drain both your time and finances. A nicely organized home not only creates an abode of peace, but also impresses your guests. If you too want your home to look simple and organized, why wait for the springs? Any time is the right time to create a soothing, simple, and organized home to return to. If you are living in a messy home, set a schedule for your home cleaning agenda. Hire help if required. If you have the money to invest, call a gardener, a decorator, or a professional organizer to get things in order. This will also help you save a lot of time so that you can do some productive work. Make
cleaning a fun activity so that you don’t get bored and give up the task. Include your kids and other family members to help you in the job. Take a break at intervals, sit back, and relax. Making things in order is great but maintaining things in place are difficult. Take necessary steps so that your cleaning doesn’t go in vain. Getting Workplace Organized Is your work desk always filled with clutters and old stationeries? If yes, then try getting your workplace more organized. Check your pen holder and get rid of old pens that do not write any more. Don’t feel bad to throw out unnecessary items. The more you dispose out clutters, the more organized will be your workplace. Organize your desk drawers and make room for subtle items. If you don’t have a drawer, use the place below your monitor to give home to your calculator, PDA, wallet, keys, phones, etc. Organize your files and folders and label them appropriately so than you don’t have to hunt for them. Do you grab an envelope to scribble telephone numbers and addresses and then couldn’t find them when needed? Rather maintain a notebook for this purpose so that you don’t have difficulty finding them
Psychosocial Stages Of Development
It is quite fascinating to grasp and understand how a person grows into an individual with a set of responsibilities from infancy to adulthood. This developmental process in a human being is explained and defined by many psychoanalysts and social scientists. One such definition comes from a Danish-German-American developmental psychologist Erik Erikson. Erikson is famous for his theory on the stages of psychosocial development in a person. Erikson’s theory holds and explains eight stages of development through which an individual passes, namely from infancy to late adulthood. These stages defined by Erikson throw new challenges for an individual which he/she hopefully masters towards the next stage of development. Each stage depends on the successful completion of the previous stages, and if a person fails to master a particular stage, then
he/she might experience problems in later stages. Let us discuss in detail Erikson’s psychosocial stages of development here in the sections to follow. Erikson’s Psychosocial Stages Of Development Basic Trust Vs Mistrust This is the stage which starts with the birth of the child when he/she has no knowledge of the world and is completely dependent on his/her parents, especially the mother. The parents become the basis of their existence and it is the type of environment they are brought up in, which influence their behaviour later in life. This is a stage where the child develops the value of hope and learns to love and trust people because of the loving and caring environment the child receives. This stage lasts till two years of age. Autonomy Vs Shame And Doubt The second stage in the psychosocial development of a person is when the dependent infant grows up into a toddler. This is the time when the child learns to move around freely, and with this freedom of movement he/she explores the things around them, make choices of food, toys, games etc. If the parents grant this freedom to their child and encourage their child’s independence, then the child will grow up to become a competent person. However, if parents become overprotective and keep a check on all the movements of the child, then the child will lack in confidence and competence to take risks in life. Initiative Vs Guilt This stage begins when a child turns 3 yrs of age and continues till the age of 5. This is the first social experience of the child where they attend preschool and make friends, interact with them, and explore his/her power and control over peers while playing. This is the time when the child should be encouraged to socialize and stay in the social environment so that they can develop a sense of purpose to achieve something. This stage also develops the leadership quality in the kid, who if discouraged will lack these qualities and will find it guilty to take initiatives. Industry Vs Inferiority The fourth stage of development starts from 5 yrs of age and continues till the child is 13. This is the stage where children start attending school, experiences a greater degree of independence, start understanding and differentiating between people and cultures, learn reading, writing and presenting amidst other skills which they try to master. Children should get full support in this stage not only from their parents, but from their teachers also. They should be encouraged to participate, learn and take failures in a positive way and not get demotivated by them. If the kids don’t get enough
The parents in this stage needs to be very careful in handling the behavioural changes of the growing teenagers for them to grow into confident and responsible individuals. it will affect their growth in later stages of development. society. They develop a sense of faithfulness and start attaching importance to relationships.support and guidance in this stage. if a person has experienced failures then he/she develops a sense of despair for his/her life. careers etc. If a person has achieved success in all the earlier stages he/she develops a sense of integrity and wisdom. especially friendship. A person who is scared of commitment and intimacy will stay isolated and depressed. This is a stage where a person reflects back on his/her life and analyzes the achievements and failures. If people fail to achieve this sense of care. This is a stage where teenagers are confused because they are expected to act neither like kids nor like adults. The environment in the previous stages has a great role to play in judging a person’s behaviour in this stage. has his/her own identity and is ready to share their sense of identity with others by forming intimate relationships based on love and commitment. they get stagnated and experience a life without any meaning to it. However. This is the stage where a person learns to care for others and give back to the society what he/she has received from it. This is the stage where a person becomes an adult. Identity Vs Role Confusion This is the stage of adolescence and is the most crucial stage among all the stages of development. Ego Integrity Vs Despair This is the last stage in the stages of psychosocial development where a person’s ego identity is fully developed. This is the stage when the person is in the middle of adulthood and has his/her set career and family. . Generativity Vs Stagnation This stage is totally dependent on the success of the other stages of development. This is a stage when the teenagers need to cope with his/her physical changes and understand gender roles. Intimacy Vs Isolation This stage encompasses people between the age group of 20-40. The teenagers in this stage try and develop their individuality in relationships.
In fact. So why don’t you drown your entire state of mind into a hobby? Take advantage of your solitude to be productive. Not everybody is Einstein. Re-discover the real you! You never know where you really belong. the absence of a separate human entity can land a devastating effect on a lonely soul.“I lived in solitude in the country and noticed how the monotony of a quiet life stimulates the creative mind” Who wouldn’t want to follow the footstep of the genius that discovered the Theory of Relativity? No doubt. Accept the change that is your state of aloneness and bask in the novelty of it. death of a partner and isolated job transfers are typical case scenarios that exemplify the birth of loneliness.“Every Cloud has a silver lining”. There are countless remedies to combating loneliness. mind and soul. living alone is no sane person’s fantasy. a select few would leap out in joy at the mere prospect of solitude while some just have no choice. Master the art of pottery or photoshop. You will soon encounter your new companion that fails to blabber like a fool. Explore deep into the confines of your body. However. by the time you arrive at the bottom of this page you might find yourself whispering. Change Is Good Obama said it and was soon after crowned the president of United States. Experience the inexperienced as you are now privileged with the liberty whatever your heart desires. certainly yearn for the warmth of a human being. Most of us can barely survive an hour without a cell phone. let alone live a week in solitary confinement. Nevertheless. Silence impregnates their surroundings and threatens to slaughter all scope for joy. A Marriage annulment. . others desperately try to fill the void. Pick a paintbrush and paint the world! The clock will tick its way to the next week and you may not even feel the pinch of loneliness. Of course. No external factors to dissuade you. it is foolish to think that finding happiness alone is impossible. Fly a kite. And for those that aren’t. While some people choose loneliness. Learn an Instrument and form a garage band.How To Be Happy Alone The world’s most popular scientist Albert Einstein once wisely confessed. Ways To Be Happy Alone Get a Hobby Wonder why Einstein loved his solitude? The only logical justification would the fact that he occupied himself with all those creatively stimulating experiments.
So. Interpersonal Communication Skills You may have the most impressive line-up of degrees and may boast of refined skills. Nevertheless. Get A Pet Do you miss the comfort of having your sibling or roommates breathing heavily before you fall into a slumber? Find solace in the warmth and compassion provided a fuzzy little dog.Join A Community It could be a book club. relinquish all thoughts of discontentment. Take long silent walks along the beach or jog around the neighborhood. chairing a conference or simply running for a plum job offer. Remember. Absorb yourself in new tasks and get accustomed to news ways of living. Volunteer your time to those less fortunate than yourself. You know you will always have somebody to welcome you home! Be Physically Active Learn to be happy and comfortable with your solitude. your social life and more importantly. then even the toughest opposition can become a pushover for you. if you know the art to convey your message clearly. Now you certainly aren’t bound by family or social obligations. you cannot expect to get ahead without good people skills. if you can’t cope with loneliness. Strong interpersonal communication skills are . Allow the music to reverberate within you. Whether you are brimming with energy for an important presentation. Exercise in your spare time and release the endorphins that reward you with bouts of ecstasy. people can act difficult and can cold shoulder your views and opinion. Register yourself and get to know more people. even a goldfish encircling a tiny circular bowl vanquishes the gloom triggered by lack of companionship. you are pretty much a lost case. a social service community. cat or rabbit! Irrespective of the breed or size. Browse the internet or scan the yellow pages and you will stumble upon a group activity that inexorably will grab your attention. yoga classes or a trekking camp. but if you do not have the right interpersonal skills to complement your credentials. Dance or sing to any background music. consider buying or adopting a pet of your choice. Joining a gym would benefit your health.
posture and gesture to convey the right message. opinions and ideas. nobody fancies an aggressive. loud. you better buck up your tone. so you better mind what it says! Body language is one of the crucial parameters of non-verbal communication and an effective instrument of interpersonal communication. In case you do not have the required interpersonal skills. Effective Interpersonal Communication Skills Listen Up! You may have a million-dollar look and mouth a million worth words. then your soft skills are pretty much a bummer. you better buck up to make the most of your abilities.a necessary tool to evade workplace conflicts and even stub away personal miscommunications. but if you cannot connect to your audience and appreciate their views. Remember. effective communication begins with effective listening and one of the best ways to make the most of it is to belt up and listen. The key objective is to interact with others in a positive way and ultimately get them to know you better and appreciate you. it also encourages others to revert to you with concentrated attention and zeal. Listening is deemed as one of the crucial parameters of all interpersonal dealings. . Read on to know more on effective interpersonal communication skills. The cue is to pay attention to people and make them feel worthy. If you cannot respect others and make them feel comfortable. Mind Your Body Language! Your body blurts out oodles about you. rude and snob person. One of the most endearing traits of successful interpersonal skills is deference. you are definitely on the losing end. Imagine being turned off a job or a deal just because your body language did not respond convincingly or worse did not back your words! So. Remember. you will be deemed as a schmuck who blows out lots of smoke. Get A Grip! You may possess the daintiest of demeanors and may be the suavest of talkers. but can be easier said than done! It is easy to bump into people with different opinions and ideas. but if you do not have ears for your audience. Not only does it leave you with a fair idea of others’ feelings. views. But. Be On The Ball Handing criticisms is an impressive quality.
that doesn’t really have to bog you down. Just take criticisms with a pinch of salt. without offending anybody’s sentiments. How To Improve Posture How often have you romanced the idea of losing your paunch without having to toil hours on the treadmill or guzzling gallons of carrot juice? Nothing underlines an unwanted paunch like a sloppy stance. Do away with that spare tire and flaunt a more silhouetted figure. make sure you do it tactfully. Remember. stay calm and preserve your dignity. In all cases. Stop Being A Pushover While it is good to be perceived as a nice guy. understand that being treated like a pushover at the expense of your career. you might just as well put in some effort to stand. erect posture can have on you. Take a heed and get trotting! . everywhere. then your deeds and feats are useless. Now. dump the myth and work towards a more perfectly coordinated posture. but also causes your body to stoop over time. roll your tongue and speak out your worth. So. you aren’t vying for a robot-like body! So. you put undue strain on your spine that not only escalates your chronic back pain. but you would also get high on confidence. criticisms can be constructive too. You will be amazed to see what a slimming effect a tall. Who knows it may be aimed at your betterment! The mantra is to adapt to the situation and learn to toy the dynamics of the conversation. Remember. Also. Here are some ways on how to improve your posture. The right posture will not only leave you feeling fit. right posture doesn’t have to mean that you carry a poker-straight body every time. while handing out criticisms. but if you cannot stitch a few words to assert your worth and make yourself appear valuable. just by holding your body in the right posture. sit and walk right. confidence and interpersonal relationships is not worth it! Stop being a walkover and assert your worth by learning to say ‘no’ and expressing yourself ardently. When you let your body sag. you may have the skills and abilities. in case you are putting in all that extra effort to eat right and exercise right. Asserting is a sign of the winner! So. Remember.
getting the right lumbar support can make a big difference. it is never too late to work towards a healthy body. when expected to stand tall. Try this little mind trick every day to do away with the hunch and sport a fitter you! • Do you remember being snubbed by your mom. Ensure that your chair’s backrest has a natural curve that fits into the hollow of your back. your nanny and even your teacher for bending over your desk when expected to sit erect. Thinking so will get you posing upright naturally. you definitely regret now about not having taken a stand then. if not get you flying! All you have to do is stand straight and imagine a balloon tied to your head. trying to heave you upwards. there is indeed no escape from lot of slumping around. always make sure that your spine is in sync with the backrest. Kick the bad habit and dump the chair and get moving.always ensure that your posture is correct! It’s important for your body to stand in perfect alignment. However. While it is easy to sit erect. All you need to do is to make sure that your ears are aligned with your shoulders and you are done. • The way you sit often makes a difference on the way you stand and how you carry yourself. without unnecessarily stressing your spine. Always hold your ears. Heels tend to non-align the body posture and alter body’s center of . Walking once in every thirty minutes will save your muscles from tiring out and also save you from the hump later on in life! • Doesn’t matter if you are hanging out with your friends in the club or reclining in your office cafeteria . If you are caught in a desk job. • This one is especially for the high-heeled ladies out there! Heels are indeed the worse affliction women can subject themselves too. Nonetheless.Standing straight doesn’t have to mean that you tense up your back. When seated. which is wrong. Strenuous hours on your chair can get the better of your spine and get it slouching. Always rest the soles of your feet flat on the floor while seated. While you inadvertently filed away the flak then. the simple balloon trick can elevate your posture. heave your chest and draw your head back to the chest. shoulders and hips in complete coordination.Improving Posture • How often have you slouched in your couch and pinned about your flagging gait? Correct posture is something that doesn’t come easy to most of us and it definitely deserves an all-out effort to stop one from slumping.
You will never be able to touch the high points of life. the more likely you are to be left with a curve posture. don’t crouch or bend from your waist. but in personal life too. those who are low on confidence will be affected badly and their game will deteriorate further. someone tells you that your shooting hasn’t been too good recently? Though confident players would just ignore such a comment and move on. Confidence is related to your mental well-being and determines the actual course taken by your life. In the following lines. • • Imagine a situation wherein you are supposed to hit the court to play an important basketball game and just when you are dressing for the impending match. • Last but not the least. Just bend your knees. what testosterone is to a man. it’s suggested that you settle for a more modest kitten heels than perch yourself on the stilettos. • • Importance Of Confidence • Confidence is to life. when you bend to lift anything. people who are low on confidence are seen to falter in future. Confidence is something that is inculcated in you through your own efforts and unlike physical strength cannot be attained by brutish training. The common conditions like stage-fright and nervousness also occur due to the lack of confidence. If you are a heel freak and can’t do without your high-heeled footwear. Life without confidence is like a racing car. if you have to bend at all. In true sense. The more you flex your spine. • • Significance Of Self Confidence In Life • • Role Of Confidence During Education • In school and college life. confidence helps us in going ahead and choosing the subjects and sports that we prefer. if not more. The cue is to never bend your spine. running on a 100 cc engine. Sometimes we are . Not only in scholastic or professional life. if you are unable to find the self-reliance required for it.gravity. dearth of self-belief can take away all the fun in the roller-coaster ride named life. we have provided detailed information about the significance of self confidence in the various stages of life. instead of leaving us on the mercy of our own grades or teachers.
Keep in mind that confidence can be yours. personal. confidence is your ticket to success. life is going to throw new challenges towards you at every turn and corner. • • Significance Of Confidence • In personal life. partner and protector. If you lack confidence. a person’s growth in his life. Leading a successful life is a bigger challenge in today’s world than ever before. friend. confidence plays the role of a leader. This is vital for enabling us to learn new things and becoming better at known things. In such situations we need confidence to do things we are not accustomed to and improve in them. Achieving pleasing results for newer things gives us a new high. if you leave fear. Without confidence.• • Role Of Confidence In Professional Life • In professional life. which keeps you standing through all the whirlwinds in life. Lack of confidence will lead to missed opportunities. everything depends on the amount of confidence you instill in yourself. then confidence is the first weapon you need to have in your repertoire. Confidence is also vital for coming out victorious during crucial times such as exams. • • Confidence is the growth hormone for an individual’s personality development. Right from getting selected for a better job to winning the coveted promotion. A lot of young people suffer emotional stress and mental disorders due to the lack of self believe and eventually get detached from their surroundings. Self confidence becomes more important for people who are self employed. . confidence is the key to success. Just stop worrying about failure and afraid of picking up something. run businesses and corporate houses as each decision of theirs affects multiple people and enterprises. Important decisions regarding your career at a crucial phase can only be made if you have confidence in your self. If you wish to become a pioneer of sorts by leading your field of work. in which we are not good enough. Remember. Confidence is like that steel back bone. you are bound to break and fall apart. Right from your first baseball game to your marriage. further increasing our confidence levels. remorse and even wrong decisions taken out of misguidance. professional and social remains stunted. Confidence helps us in choosing what we want and not the least that we are eligible for.
broadcast during the Super bowl.2 million! This is nothing but motivation. while singing your own song in a new commercial starring you. you surely vividly remember the scene where Jerry talks to Rod Tidwell and says “I will not rest until I have you holding a Coke. Believing in yourself can be the key to success. This single word can help you overcome insurmountable obstacles and garner your life just the way you want. “ Jerry aka Tom Cruise manages to stay afloat through all his miseries and finally secures Rod. Staying Motivated • Remember that the grass is not always greener on the other side. This article gives an insight as to how can you stay motivated and benefit your life by achieving long cherished goals. it will do you no good but sink you in grave . a contract worth $11. But how can you be so sure of the fact? You have chosen your own career path and every form of work is pious and satisfying if you believe so. you can say that they do the same things with confidence How to Stay Motivated Have you people seen the film “Jerry McGuire”? If you have. When a reporter asked Arnold Schwarzenegger how he managed to top the charts in bodybuilding. Quite often we jump down to conclusions thinking that our neighbors are doing better than us. wearing your own shoe. In simple words. they just do the same things you do but in a different fashion. Whether you wish to be famous or rich.work towards you goals. working in a better office. getting more perks and the chain of thoughts in neverending. and I will not sleep until that happens. staying motivated all through is all that is required to achieve success. A chartered accountant thinks that the job of a financial analyst is better while a school teacher might think that a job of a researcher is more fulfilling. Remember. leading a far more decent life. can you guess what he replied? “Drive” was the word. playing a Sega game featuring you. winners do not do anything different from you. in a game that you are winning. his only client. If you continue to think the other way.
Do not succumb to them and keep in mind that nothing in this world is impossible to achieve. Keep repeating to yourself that no one else but you can do it. while competing with someone. Have enough strength to hit back to the challenges. In order to gain things in life and March forward instead of sliding back. you are liable to your children back home. Mould yourself accordingly. Put in your heart and soul into the task or a situation and stay firm and undeterred till your last breath. Your close ones are counting on you and every crucial step you take in life matters to them as well. Do not sidetrack yourself as a loser who is fond of giving up. For instance. there would be magic. you would always have this thing throbbing in your mind that whatever you do. conviction and stability and you are sure to gain success. It is not necessary that your idol should be world figures specifically. Constantly gear up yourself and see what your competitor’s weak and strong points are. It is just that the seemingly impossible tasks take a bit more time than the rest. After all. you have not lived your life fully and in turn cheating yourself and the one who has created you. Even someone as close as your mother can be your inspiration. And how exactly do you stimulate yourself for this? Find someone worthy in your class or office to compete with.depression. negating your own weakness and stay optimistic that you would surely win at the end. remember that your dreams are not yours alone. by considering your children to be your inspiration. you surely don’t want to experience the humiliation of defeat. • To surrender is the last thing that should strike your mind. you need to have a healthy competitive vibe. • Ignite the competitive streak within you. Also. If you become such a weakling and plan to give up easily without striving hard and giving your best shot to achieve what you want. Shed your instincts to keep comparing and instead work with diligence. • Always have an inspiration in life. And once this thought triggers your subconscious. This thought would prevent you from taking any wrong step in life and you would stick to the path carved out for your own well-being Importance Of Time .
This article deals with the importance of time management in our day-to-day living and framing our overall personality. we should keep moving. It is a special resource which cannot be stored and saved for later usage. time management can help you utilize your time in a better way so that all your tasks of primary. • Time is scarce and you must have had a feeling like there is so much left to do. • No matter what you want in life. If one sits and waits for the right time to achieve his set goal or waits for some free time to get his work done. With a limited time . involving ourselves in learning new things every minute. However. Whether we want to effectively utilize time or lead a haywire life without purpose. poor finances and even our inability to get enough exercise to the lack of time. we take time for granted and indulge in activities which are simply nothing. skills. unpleasant relationships. Time is a scarce and finite resource and the very foundation of proper time management begins with setting up your personal goal and developing your priorities.for it is the stuff life is made out of". you can never get it back again. you need time to get it. do we actually understand the coded meaning of it? It is ultimately a choice we make for ourselves. each small task that you do without wasting time counts in achieving your long term bigger goal in life. Like a ticking clock.Benjamin Franklin rightly said "Dost thou love life? Then do not squander time . Almost always. practices and tools which when rightfully applied can help you utilize your precious time and accomplish what you want. Importance Of Time Management • You should keep reminding yourself that time is limited. Anything worthwhile in life needs time to be achieved. Time management is a compact set of established principles. If you don’t utilize your time wisely. It is something which cannot be replenished again. it all depends on our time management skills. Quite often. but a serious waste of time. Just like each minute contributes to an hour and each hour combine to form an entire day. he has lost the game already. we go on to blame our unachieved goals. but very little or no time left to do it. Every man on earth gets the same amount of time each day and how each person utilizes this given time determines his or her eventual success. secondary and tertiary importance can be accomplished within a specific limit. How often do we sit back and ponder upon the importance of time in our life? Though we all are acquainted with the oft repeated affirmations such as “time and tide wait for none”.
but makes your life a balanced one. before it amplifies. While most of us do comprehend the underlying problem of why we are always dissatisfied with ourselves. Now that you know that time management is in a way a type of self management. Since you have a finite amount of time. as it can otherwise lead to depression. This leaves you with more productive time throughout the day which you can utilize in some other task. it is advisable to choose activities that are of the highest priority to you first. The best would be to get rid of inferiority complex as soon as possible. you hone yourself in such a way so as to reduce the amount of time you usually wasted. mental limitations and social differences. or a sad and unfulfilled life. few of us do not even realize that we have an inferiority complex that should be treated. Time management helps you by making conscious choices so that you can spend quality time doing important things that in turn add value to your life Inferiority Complex Symptoms “Gosh. You need to learn to utilize time in a way so that you find enough time for things that are important to you. • Once you begin to use the improved time management skills and tools. he is so intelligent and successful!” “She is so attractive!” “Why am I not like them?” “I’m not that good enough”. Given here are some symptoms that . In order to attain success. • In today’s world. While all of us have physical defects. you can spend time in a multiple possible ways. time management is all about managing your activities in relation to time and ultimately achieving what you want at the end. an intelligent planning on how to utilize the given time needs to be done. Do these questions keep haunting you within? Are you always dissatisfied and constantly blaming yourself? You probably have an inferiority complex.span of 24 hours in each day. these things embarrass few of us more than others. This not only allows you to indulge in a wide range of activities. you end up accomplishing more with less effort.
the environment in to accept your mistake and hold the definitely suffering from inferiority Lack of Sportsmanship Competitions where you are required to test your abilities against the others are always kept at bay. Even if you have done well. since you are not worth getting them.can help you identify whether or not you are a victim of inferiority complex. and so on. you are complex. some prefer to refrain from receiving any accolades. The Universe is the Cause Any mistake or failure committed on external factors. If you are not able universe responsible for it. you are constantly finding ways to point out their imperfections and making them feel bad about themselves. You are so desperate to hear that even if you do not get any comments. In case you are one . Finding Faults As you cannot keep yourself happy. general. On rare occasions. This is known as crab mentality. If you lose competitions. what you have or what great work you have done. where we pull others down as well. such as poor luck. you start pouring in questions in order to receive compliments. You do not take any step towards achieving success. As such. you feel you are not good enough to compete with anyone. it is just a way to make you feel better. chances are that you discourage yourself saying that you can never achieve it even in your wildest dreams. how you worked on that article. Rather. you do not want to be complimented or appreciated simply because you feel the comments aren’t from the heart. you cannot accept others feeling happy as well. your part is simply put on various bad company. when you take in that step. Read on. such as “Do you think I did great?” or “Do I look good tonight?” Avoiding Compliments While some people love to get complimented. You feel that the positive comments are not justified. Different Signs Of Inferiority Complex Love to Hear Compliments You always want others to compliment you for even the smallest of the achievements like how you look.
they prefer to stay back alone keeping the world unknown about their flaws. Dress up with extra care and make an effort to look nice. unless you stop competing with others. However. since they think they will make a laughing stock out of themselves. Kill Negative Thoughts Most people focus on their shortcomings than their positives. warmth and social skills are far more influential than looks. looks. interaction with people and our experience. If you are also one amongst those. Read the article to know how you can give a boost to your self esteem and live your life to the fullest. The feeling that they are not smart and as interesting as others pulls them to a corner unnoticed by anyone. be sure not to attach too much importance to your external appearance. Agree or disagree. know for sure that you can never feel confident and superior. all of us have been a victim of low self esteem at some point or another in our life. it is high time you start thinking about your positive . Boosting Self Esteem Groom Yourself As clichéd as it may sound. Low self esteem can affect the way we perceive ourselves and the world around us. debates and forums. This self image contributes to our self esteem. We all mentally construct a self image based on our abilities. How To Boost Self Esteem Self esteem is based on how much a person feels valued and appreciated. Attributes like confidence.of such people. meetings. A good reflection in the mirror will always make you feel good about yourself. All efforts trying to make this person speak fail. Avoiding The World People with inferiority complex often avoid social gatherings. Rather. achievements. there is no denying the fact that looking good definitely does make you feel good.
Experiment with different activities that will help you get in touch with your talents.aspects. everyone has strengths and weaknesses. Each day is a new beginning. Don’t distort your. just go to bed and wake up next morning with a fresh and focussed mind. However. Tell yourself repeatedly that you have tackled this obstacle in an appropriate way and that you can deal with other bigger and more demanding projects as well. You may get upset when things don’t go your way. Voice your opinion and thoughts. Celebrate Achievements Give yourself full credit for your achievements and reward yourself. everybody is good at something. Never allow others to make you feel inferior. . no matter how minor it may be. Stand Up For Yourself There may be times when other people misjudge you and let their own insecurities get in the way of their reaction. Steer clear of negative self talk. Stand up for what you believe in. Also. Invest some effort into developing your interests and skills into your strengths. The key to success is not to overcome your weakness. Remember. self image based on other person’s negative belief. know that with that achievement in your kitty. It will give a sense of purpose to your life. A personal goal defines who you truly are and what you intend to accomplish in life. but that doesn’t mean that you won’t be successful. don’t let it stop you from achieving your goals. Accomplishing these goals will give your self esteem a big boost. Realize that nobody is perfect. Don’t be too critical of yourself. Don’t write-off the achievement as minor. but to develop your strengths to an extent that they can outweigh your weakness completely. because it may be a part of your bigger plans. you are one step closer to achieving your goal. Set Personal Goals Living an aimless life will make you feel empty and confused. If you had a bad day. Realize Your Limits You may not become an Olympic medalist or a pop singer. Pat yourself on the back every time you achieve a goal. Putting yourself down as a loser or failure will only hamper your ability to achieve your goals. Decide what you want to achieve at your personal and professional front and slowly work towards these goals.
learn to dance or take up painting lessons. causing anxiety and distress. be it the fear of failure. eventually they start taking complete control on us. Join a volunteering organization to help the less privileged. The feeling of being appreciated and valued can do wonders for your self esteem. Volunteering will help you improve your perception of self-worth. The fear of talking. Does the problem sound . mentally and physically as well. Socialize People with high self esteem generally have a large social circle and a busy social life. Volunteer Make a contribution to the society. Don’t fret over what you don’t have and what you haven’t accomplished. Start off by keeping yourself involved in activities that interests you. Be Thankful For What You Have Attributing considerable importance to certain goals and aspirations may also pose a problem. is unhealthy. has become a common problem seen in most people nowadays. Take up new hobbies . thereby weakening us emotionally. Join clubs or groups of similar interests. Fear. fear of the unexpected or the fear of losing a loved one. Keeping yourself active will give you no time for negative self talk. Hence. Frequently plan outing with your friends and family members. whether on the phone or in public. However. thereby giving a boost to your self esteem. it also blocks work and business opportunities. Being part of a community big or small will give you a sense of belonging and acceptance. The fear of talking results in delay in picking up important calls and delivering speeches in public. if we are unable to control our fears. There may be period of setbacks when everything will not work out the way you have planned. Volunteering will give you a sense of being part of a noble cause.Get Active Doing something is always better than doing nothing. Appreciate and acknowledge what you do have and be thankful for it Fear Of Talking Fear in any form can be terrifying and paralyzing. in general. the best way to overcome our fear is by mastering it and preventing it from controlling us. Keep yourself busy. Remember that life is governed by factors which aren’t entirely in your control. Not only does it stop the person from contacting loved ones. Take out that list of resolutions you gave up on and start working on them.
similar to what you are facing? Looking for ways to overcome this problem? Scroll these lines to find tips on overcoming the fear of talking on the phone as well as in public. Overcoming Fear Of Talking Phone Calls • Make a note of all the conversation that you would be talking on the phone. Most people are scared about forgetting what they intend to say to the other person on the phone. The best way to deal with this is to write down all that you will speak. This would help ease all your worries. Most people panic when they receive a rude phone call, as they do not know how to react to such calls. In such a case, ask your friend to behave like one of those people. He/she might enact the way your boss or the bill collector does. Practice your responses in order to better behave when the actual call rings. If you are into a marketing job where you have to promote various products to strangers, it is natural to get anxious about the questions that the customers would pour in. Hence, gather all the possible knowledge about your product to speak confidently and answer the questions accordingly. While making calls to an unknown person, some people fear that the person on the other end would respond negatively or start cross questioning. To overcome such a situation, prepare for the negative reaction in advance. Always make a call when you feel comfortable rather than talking when the person feels better. Do not worry about the time that you would be calling, simply focus on your comfort level. For example, if you are a morning person, it is best to make calls in the morning rather than when you are dull.
Public Speaking • Always pick up a topic that you are comfortable with, such as sports, television, fashion or anything that interests you and puts you on the front. Gather all the possible extensive knowledge on that subject. • While speaking, always look at the audience and make eye contact. Though this is the basic rule of public speaking, it takes considerable time for a person to get adjusted. Many new speakers always look over the heads of the audience or at the floor or ceiling. Never ever converse with the first friendly face that you find in a gathering. Try and make efforts to talk to everyone present. Eye contact plays a vital role here in keeping the audience glued to your talk. Practice speaking by recording your speech in a small tape player and listening to it later on. Initially, you will be surprised to hear to your voice but with time, you will love to hear it. While recording your voice, start looking into a mirror reflecting how you project yourself in front of the audience. This will give you an idea of what gestures and expressions you pose to your listeners and how you can work on them so as to improve
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Positive Self Talk
Self talk is nothing but the constant process of thoughts that goes on inside us. Every moment of our lives, we affirm a string of thoughts and these very thoughts create and frame our life experience. They grow with us and end up being our beliefs, our prime source of existence, and our definition of life. Few beliefs that have stayed with us since childhood may work well for us, while others may be working against us and depriving us from achieving what we want. So, we should keep in mind that our thought pattern is not formed from a skewed perspective, but has a solid foundation base. It is thus essential to stress on positive self talk. It is the fuel for your success and good health and can take you to new level of ecstasy altogether. Positive self talk involves positive statements, which when repeated several times trigger your subconscious to indulge in a positive action. If you repeat these statements with a lot of conviction and desire, you are sure to succeed. It is all about challenging and undermining the burgeoning negative thoughts within you and getting them transformed into a positive flow of energy. It helps you to focus on your inner self; constantly reminding you to have control on your thoughts and words, thereby modifying your inner selves all through. So, whether you want to transform your life on a personal level or want to gain a competitive edge by applying this technique professionally, a positive mindset can do the trick. In the following lines, we have discussed why do positive affirmations work. Why Positive Self Talk Works Positive self talk or affirmations do work, but the question is why do they work? Here is an explanation. When you think of a positive affirmation, your subconscious responds to it in two ways—either by avoiding the entire concept or going for a reappraisal. The bigger the issue, the bigger is the gap between the positive affirmation and your own perceived inner truth. In most cases, instead of challenging your inner truth, the subconscious sticks to it. However, there are times when your mind instantly responds to the affirmation and you feel a sense of well-being within. When this happens, know that the positive self affirmation has finally started working. Believe it or not, more than often, we keep repeating negative statements and eventually fall into undesirable situations. Negative thoughts like, “I am too lazy for this task”, “I am surely going to fail in this paper” or “I don’t have enough inner strength to overcome this pain” make our subconscious mind accept them as truth. Consequently, the corresponding events in our life happen just the way we thought they would, i.e. negatively. We should always remember that words and statements work both ways and help in building as well as ruining our life. So, it is the way we use them that matters. Remember, it’s all a mind game. Your mind is what you are.
So, why don’t you choose positive affirmations for yourself instead? These thoughts have the power to wisp away even the strongest resistance. Your subconscious would re-examine the core thought pattern and very soon the troubling dysfunctional thoughts would get replaced by your own reformed inner truth. Positive affirmations reform your thought pattern in totality and completely change the way you think and feel. Now that the stringent dysfunctional beliefs would be replaced by positive ones, there would be a positive vibe all around you. Getting reflected on the exterior, your life would be experiencing seismic changes in all aspects. Here are a few examples of positive affirmations, which you can repeat to yourself to lead a gratifying life. Positive Self Affirmations • • • • • • • • • • • •
I am healthy and happy. Wealth is pouring into my life. I am sailing on the river of wealth. I am getting wealthier each day. My body is healthy and functioning in a very good way. I have a lot of energy. I study and comprehend fast. My mind is calm. I am calm and relaxed in every situation. My thoughts are under my control. I radiate love and happiness. I am surrounded by love. I have the perfect job for me. I am living in the house of my dreams. I have good and loving relations with my wife/husband. I have a wonderful and satisfying job. I have the means to travel abroad, whenever I want to. I am successful in whatever I do. Everything is getting better every day
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How To Overcome Fear Of Heights
This eventually helps in desensitizing the fear and getting comfortable to varied heights. they may not be required as the person recovers from them. fear of heights is an irrational fear. or acrophobia. hypnosis renders the mind free from the phobia. this is a problem that most people are facing. Hypnotherapy creates a relaxed atmosphere. Your unwanted emotions are transformed into positive thoughts that make you feel relaxed and comfortable. this treatment has a very low success rate. In extreme cases. thereby eliminating the unwanted thoughts. At times. Exposure Therapy Guided by professionals. acrophobia successfully gets reduced and replaces the fear with confidence. there are past events which lead to fear of heights in people. such as tranquilizers and antidepressants are used in the initial stages. the person suffering from acrophobia is taken through different stages of height. While there are many phobias. as it focuses on complete relaxation of the body. At first. Since agitation and anxiety follows fear. Also known as acrophobia. However. nausea and dizziness. By following a few weeks of hypnotherapy. which is important for the treatment. Friends and Family . Indulge yourself into a light massage along with some relaxing music. the person is allowed to experience virtual reality views of high places and then graduated towards real heights. Browse through the following lines to get some tips for overcoming the fear of heights. By discarding the deep-rooted fears from the subconscious mind. the fear of heights is the most common of them all. huh? However. Aromatherapy The symptoms of fear of heights can be reduced through aromatherapy as well to a great extent. However.Do you avoid accepting job offers for the simply reason that the office is located on the 15th floor of the building? Sounds funny. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy This therapy alters your way of thinking. wherein people experience a panic attack at a high place and become too restless to come down immediately. Psychotherapy aims at identifying that single traumatic event and taking steps to heal it. this therapeutic treatment has one drawback. Nonetheless. It is not successful in cases where a person is suffering from extreme cases of acrophobia. there are a number of therapies that can help overcome the fear of heights. Tips For Overcoming Fear Of Heights Hypnosis Hypnosis is a treatment used at bedtime. With the right approach and the guidance of professionals. Medications. but with time. This fear increases with time thereby leading to acrophobia. it is significant to overcome stress and comprehension first. it can even induce panic attack. Psychotherapy The root cause of the fear of heights is extracted through psychotherapy treatment. the fear can be reduced to a great extent over a period of time.
work twice hard and prove them wrong. Every morning when you wake up. relationship. but hesitate to act on? Do you find yourself subject to lack of self motivation at times? Although you are a motivated person in general. before you sleep in anotepad and place it right in front of you. Given here are some secrets of self motivation that can help you accomplish your goals and tasks in a more effective manner.While treating any ailment. Do Not Procrastinate Once you have set goals for yourself. Never let procrastination come in your way of . only a few are highly useful. at times. make realistic goals that can be achieved. They can come to rescue the victim struggling from acrophobia. As the popular saying goes. a look at the notepad would remind you of the targets. be it career. Whenever you feel someone is trying to pull you back. spirituality or personality development. Secrets Of Self Motivation Set Goals A major mistake made by most people is that they set their goals only in “mind”. take those bad feelings as a challenge and make efforts to minimize them. people try to divert you from your goal. Simply. as the patient is likely to hesitate initially. However. make a note of all the goals that you intend to achieve. “Don’t get mad. else you will never be able to achieve them. these friends and family should be really patient and ready for setbacks. Nonetheless. being by the side of the person can be a great help. social life. get even”. they should continue to support even if the symptoms worsen during the treatment Self Motivation Techniques Are you one of those often caught daydreaming at work? Why is it that you have a number of ways to improve. thereby creating bad feelings that are worthless and rubbish. Self motivation is required in every aspect of life. you have a hard time working on an important task. This is where self motivation techniques come to your rescue. Apart from giving you strength to achieve your goals. Moreover. Stay Focused Another problem with most people is that they get influenced by other people easily. health. Hence. And anything out of mind turns out to be out of sight. Often. Self motivation is the most efficient way of improving your confidence and self-esteem. it brings about a change in your personality and character as well. Though there are numerous ways to improve your self motivation. Hence. Unset goal in life is like starting a business without having a capital to invest. do not make excuses to delay them. friends and family form an integral part.
self motivation gets easier and attainable How To Be Calm You have got up on the wrong side of the bed and everything seems to be going wrong since morning. Reward Yourself The best and perfect way to keep motivating yourself is by rewarding yourself on completing a particular task. Hence. The situation has worsened further by noon and you are finding it difficult to hold back. However. Enough. you need to confront such negative emotions with enough strength. . the best way is to stay optimistic and positive towards reaching the final line. Spend adequate time with family and friends who themselves are positive and motivated. People who are discouraging and pessimistic should be kept at distance. Stay Positive In case you are finding it hard to stay focused on your goals. at times you tend to simply give up and lose it. Thus. Confidence and optimism serve as your best friends in your tough and rough times. in order to succeed in life. as they help you to continuously stay inspired and dedicated. you are increasing your self-esteem. Through rewarding and congratulating yourself. How long can you save things from falling apart you wonder? How long can you withstand the constant conflict between the mind and heart? Although such emotions are an inevitable part of your life. You need to keep your calm even when your life seems all turbulent. Share Your Goals Family and friends are the best motivators to look on. tell and discuss about your goals with these people. Conquering small battles is the best motivation secret for moving on to the next goal. Breathing deeply can ease your tense muscles and reduce your stress level like nothing else. you say. By sharing your dreams and aspirations to your near and dear ones. The best way of keeping it at bay is to start working on the goals immediately. Very soon. This article deals with ways as to how you can lead a healthy life even under stressful conditions. Tips For Staying Calm • The first and foremost step to keep your calm is to take a deep breath. This will allow you to respond in a controlled fashion. Break down the goals into small bits to make them easily achievable. you will be motivating yourself to achieve the set goals since you would never want to let down these people.accomplishing the tasks.
Whenever you feel at complete loss and it seems like you had enough of life. Be it the mundane sound of the swirling fan above you or the chirping crickets. • • • • • • • • • .the waves of epinephrine running through your veins will become manageable and soothe you from within. Feel the coolness of the water all over your body and relax. nice shower can also help you regain your peaceful state of mind. But this is no solution to win the game or even come down to a solution. For instance. This will take you places you’ve always wanted to be. concentrating on these sounds can keep you calm. if you got a bashing by your boss in front of your colleagues and you are filled with anger and shame. know for sure that this is the only way to win the war. Nothing better than this can bring your senses back to normalcy. • Relax for around five long minutes doing simply nothing. Or try viewing things in a positive perspective. This would enliven your senses and calm you from within. A long. Plug in the headphone. So. Give your disturbed state of mind some amount of rest. Moreover. Try planning for your next vacation even if the plan is shelved for months away. close your eyes and drench in your favorite melodies. Tracing a butterfly’s trail or noticing a woodpecker peeping out of the tree trunk hole can be sheer joy. Listening to music is another such activity you can choose to indulge in to help you calm down. calmness is contagious. going out on a shopping spree is a great remedy to shed anger and remain calm. Take a nature walk. Do not yell. You can also try eating your favorite dish. Take a quick nap. If the person you are confronting with raises his/her voice. A spa-treatment is another option to rejuvenate yourself from the stress and calm down. Let your nerves ease and relax. the other person might switch over to your state of control. Even facials can help soothe your tensed nerves. your natural response is to do the same. Visit your nearest mall and pamper yourself with clothes and accessories. For some. All that would result out of it is irreversible damage. all that you require is your I-pod. Avoid thinking of anything in particular and simply catch up with some sleep. Seeing you behave well. Close your eyes and try recalling some happy and amusing memories of the past. Stand under the shower. Or think of the day you got a promotion and your boss wholeheartedly appreciated your abilities. How about visiting a beauty salon? Get a nice head massage done. remember to keep your voice mellow and modulated under such stressful situations. Try listening to the natural sounds around you. These will help your mind to get distracted from those depressing thoughts. Easier said than done. even if it is a virtual pleasure. be calm thinking you at least have the job when everyone around is losing theirs. It is enough to distract you for the moment and regain your calmness.
Causes Of Low Self Esteem
Have you ever met a person who felt that he is worth nothing and could do nothing right? If you have, then you should know that it is possible that the person is suffering from a case of low self esteem. Now, before we get deeper into what causes this, we need to understand what self esteem is. Self esteem is a character trait that psychologists feel is the most enduring of all other traits. Self esteem is an assessment of how you feel about yourself and can also be referred to as self-worth or self-regard. There are theories which associate self esteem to motivation in a person and are a related to the need for respect from others and the need for self respect. However, more modern theories suggest that self esteem is a way to measure our acceptance in our social environments. Some of the most common symptoms of low self esteem are an inability to express ones feelings, lack of personal boundaries, denial and blaming others for everything. Low Self Esteem Causes Now that we know what low self esteem is and how one can recognize the symptoms for it, it’s time to explore the causes of low self esteem. • The most common cause of low self esteem is neglect and it is most prevalent in children. When parents fail to pay attention to their children and help them by providing them with support and affection, it causes them to feel abandoned. This eventually will lead them to find it difficult to assimilate in a society. You must have heard of positive reinforcement? It is the practice of encouraging a person to do better by praising what he or she has done so far. If you were to do the exact opposite of it and try to motivate someone just by pointing out their faults and mistakes then you are bound to be successful in DESTROYING their self esteem. There are times when a person may suffer from low self esteem as a result of ridicule. This ridicule can be based on anything from the person’s weight to his or her features and looks. Being ridiculed over habits or interests can also result in low self esteem. Since most of the times low self esteem is something that develops in childhood, abuse during childhood can also led to low self esteem. This abuse includes verbal, physical and sexual abuse as well.
Since it was mentioned earlier that self esteem can be seen as a measure of acceptance in a society, there can be times when a person will develop a low self esteem as a result of impairment in leading a normal life, like being out of a job or not being able to exercise the same financial freedom as others close to you. Unfortunately there is nothing you can do about all the bullies of the world, but there is something you can do about yourself. Whatever you do, don’t ever let yourself feel like you are lesser than others or not good enough. Do your best at everything and be satisfied with the results of your efforts
How To Develop Habits
Human heart and mind is like a stone slab which was used in ancient times for writing inscriptions. The inscription started to be carved from the day we opened our eyes and since then there were new things written, erased and re-written every day. Human habits are the part of these inscriptions and they need constant changing and re-writing. The quandary situation here is that the positive habits won’t get inscribed on their own unlike the negative one’s which come as a compliment of human experiences. Good habits require a writer, and the writer is the person himself. Now it depends on the writer how he/she goes about carving out the good habits on the slab which will become the input for the body to function. This makes it clear that instilling a good or eradicating a bad habit is a conscious effort that needs to be carried out with great deal of discipline, determination and thoughtfulness. To grab the tips on developing conscious habits read on. Developing Good Habits Self Talk Self talking is the best way in which you can instill any good habit and give up a bad habit. Keep speaking to yourself about the change which you want to see in yourself. Repeat the statements which will help affirm the particular new habit which you want to create a part of your daily life. Directed Imagination Another effective way in which you can incorporate a new habit consciously is by imagining yourself performing the action relating to the new habit. Visualize yourself performing the new activity or a role and see how good you sound and look. This visual imaginative role that you will see yourself in, will help you easily make the habit a part of your daily routine. One Habit For 30 Days It can so happen that you want to bring about a number of changes in your behavior at a time. In such a case take up a single change that you want to see in yourself and start practicing it daily consciously for 30 days at a stretch. After 30 days you will realize that you no more need to practice the change you want to be because it has now become a habit. After 30 days you can take up the next endeavor. Use A Trigger A trigger is a small ritual which you perform before getting used to a habit. A simple habit which you want to inculcate like not watching excess of television, can be
triggered by setting a self-timer in the television. The time you want the television to get switched off, set the timer to that time so that the T.V will get switched off, forcing you to engage yourself in something more productive. You can use such small triggers to consciously develop a habit. Replacement Replacement is the key word to develop a new habit. In order to remove something from the system without damaging the other files it is necessary to fill in the gap which was created due to the removal of a file. Similarly if you are giving up a habit you need to fill up the free space by a habit that fulfill the same requirement as the old habit. For eg. giving up watching television means you need to find some other relaxation medium for yourself. This approach will make it simpler for you to get used to the change you want to be. “But” To Kill Bad Thoughts A prominent habit changing step can be to force out all the negative thoughts from your mind. The moment you think negative about yourself and find yourself incapable of taking a strong stand, use the word ‘but’ and bring in the positive about yourself. This negative positive game will help develop your self-confidence and will make you believe in the change you are going to make. Write It Down You can even write down a particular habit in a piece of paper and stick it to a place where it will be visible to you. This will keep reminding you about the commitment you made to your brain and will help you in working towards living that change you wished for. Get Leverage Catch hold of your sibbling or a friend and hand them over a 100 rupee note. Instruct them to return you the note only if you successfully cross all the hurdles to reach your goal. Make a public commitment in front of everyone you know that you will stick to your plan. The necessity to keep up your words and dignity will force you to consciously work towards developing the new habit. Keep It Simple Changing for the good is beneficial both to your personality and to others as well. But, you should keep in mind that changing is a small process and your body and mind should first get used to the new introduction. Therefore, don’t get too harsh on yourself and keep only one or two rules simple rules and not a dozen rules regarding the new habit. Simple rules will help you create habits, whereas complex rules will just put you in a more complex puzzle. Consistency Is Key The point of a habit is that it doesn’t require thought. Make sure that your habit is consistently being followed everyday without fail. This consistent performance will drill in the habit in you instead of multiple habits loosely conditioned.
People with a healthy personality have strength of character and have individuality of their own. It also allows people to be able to express themselves without hesitation or offence. It also enables a person to be able to understand others easily. a person with a healthy personality is cheerful and does not get stressed easily. The healthy personality enables a person to see others for who they are to be able to handle them accordingly. A healthy personality allows a person to function well independently and as part of a team. The greatest plus point about having a healthy personality is that it allows for a fulfilling and meaningful life. Having a healthy personality plays a key role in defining the person who wields it.Characteristics Of A Healthy Personality We often hear people comment that a certain person has a great personality or that he needs to develop one. Healthy personalities are also indicative of emotional stability. A person with a healthy personality will have a lot of common sense and will display presence of mind when it comes to solving problems (big and small). On the face of it. When faced with a personal tragedy. A personality is a combination of all the small factors that add up to make a person’s mental constitution. it indicates that he or she is in good mental health and can be trusted to conduct themselves in a respectable manner and set good examples to follow. • • . A healthy personality allows the person to be a good listener and a better advisor. The key to having a healthy personality is to strike a balance with all the elements that make up day to day life. If a person displays a healthy personality. A person with a healthy personality will not follow convention without due cause. The healthy personality lets the person be comfortable with whom they are and the way they look. A healthy personality will enable a person to think clearly and with reason when everyone else is following a convention. A person with a healthy personality will always display a positive attitude and be cheerful. a healthy personality allows a person to overcome the tragedy without falling prey to depression and contempt. A healthy personality is magnetic and attracts other to it. A healthy personality ensures that a person takes great care of his outward appearance and always presents himself with dignity. Traits Of A Health Personality • • • • • • • A person with a healthy personality has the ability to adapt to his or her social environment.
An image makeover does not work overnight unless you are only thinking of a fabulous hairdo when you’re talking about an image makeover. or suppressed to make you feel more confident and good about yourself. A healthy personality is also displayed in a person’s desire to stay healthy (physically). Look for traits in people you admire. you will come across as someone who is trying too hard to change the way they are. You also need to figure out how you would like to feel on the inside before you start thinking about changes you could make on the outside. which need not always work in your favor. to be a more compelling personality or to be less imposing are all examples of what you could want to change in yourself. especially when it can help in your personal growth.• • People with health personalities do not feel the need to make everyone conform to their views. it is recommended that you first ascertain what type of a makeover you would prefer. It is recommended that before emulating be absolutely certain that the particular trait is a desirable one. added. Therefore. and try to emulate these characteristics into your personality. Easy Ways To Change Your Image Ever thought about changing certain undesirable characteristics that have become part of your personality or appearance? Changing an image that has been inculcated over the years requires a certain amount of determination and will power. The right way to go about would be to look within you and determine what characteristics require to be polished and what needs to be changed. be it a student’s profile or that of a professional in a work force. You need to look for people with strong traits and whether any of those traits appeal to you. Different people in different environments require different changes or makeovers to their images to suit the environment they are in. If the change is sudden and drastic. Here are a few tips to keep in mind when you go about an image makeover: How To Change Your Image • You need to have an image of you in your head and zero in on the traits that make you feel uncomfortable on the inside or the outside. • • • . Opting for a softer or a tougher outlook on life. Look for traits that you would like to change in yourself and remind yourself occasionally to change that particular character flaw. It is not impossible and never too late to develop a healthy personality.
In a situation like this.• The way you look on the outside can influence the way you feel on the inside. and causing other forms of damage too. Once you have changed certain characteristics of your old self. learn to channelize it in better ways – in ways that are constructive rather than destructive and harmful to the individual. Here are some ways in which anger control can prove to be advantageous for us. which are the most valued part of a human being’s existence. It impairs judgment. Many of them do not know when to give up the fight and almost none can take a joke on themselves. at least. There are many who keep away from or maintain distance from loved ones. it is best to learn to control one’s anger or. There is no point in changing your hairstyle and your wardrobe if you still maintain your old image in your mind. Sometimes a simple hairdo or a change in wardrobe can make you more confident. make sure the eyes of the person in front of you sweep up to your face and stay there. After you have followed all the above steps. You never know what wonders it might do for your social life. your clothes don’t do justice to the rest of your personality. and remember what you are trying to change about yourself. Advantages Of Anger Management Here are some ways in which controlling anger can be advantageous: Judgment We all know that anger makes us incapable of being able to take stock of the situation . the blood pressure. and might even change attitudes that others have towards you. Look for those particular traits that you are particularly dissatisfied with and opt for a change. Choose clothes that flatter your body type. increasing stress. wardrobe or something as complex as the pattern of your conversation. If you feel that. Anger is cited in ancient texts as one of the biggest enemies of a human being’s body and soul – it can have grievous consequences for the way the body functions too. only for the fear of hurting them in anger. There are several benefits of learning to give one’s anger a better route than by breaking the vase (literally). be it your makeup. make sure you walk with confidence. can make a person violent and could even cause the person to lose out on his/her relationships. How you look on the outside will almost always mirror the reactions towards you. always keep in mind that you are a more attractive and sophisticated person than you previously were • • • Benefits Of Anger Management The problem is more rampant than we all imagine – an alarming number of men and women find it extremely hard to deal with their anger and end up blowing situations out of proportions. hairdo. step out and look for clothes you feel comfortable in and that will boost your self esteem.
By doing so. it makes them feel strong and . Closer And More Healthy Relationships Many people who have serious anger related issues. which helps one party understand the other better. anger builds up because the party involved refuses to see the situation from the other person’s point of view. Since the people we love are closest to us. which are. Being able to control anger will definitely help avoid silly disputes. stay away from their loved ones when they realise that they are hurting people with their anger. caused by faulty communication between the two parties involved. impairing our better judgment. Empathy Training in anger management is extremely beneficial for developing empathy for the other party. which are expressed rather aggressively. This would in turn. in turn. When you begin to develop empathy for the other person and try to see life from their perspective. Bullying has increasingly become a widespread problem haunting people across the globe. there will be no room for conflict at all. Controlling and channelizing one’s anger in a constructive and non stressful way will not only open up lines of communication further but will also turn you into someone who is approachable and easy to talk to. Better Communication Anger is often caused by misunderstandings. Controlling anger and channelizing anger better will make the person concerned more capable of leading a life that is relatively free of ugly scenes or outbursts of anger How To Avoid Bullying Whether on the school playground or at the professional workplace. Bullies look for weak people and prey on them. Not only do they frighten you by shaking your confidence levels. A lot of anger and the stress that it causes can be avoided by opening up communication lines and making oneself available to dialogue. you can often find yourself as the target of bullies.well. Many a times. help you analyse situations better and make you capable of taking stock of situations. and making us prone to making mistakes in sound reasoning. Exercises in anger management are often aimed at channelizing the anger better so that you do not lose control when you lose temper. Fewer Disputes Disputes are conflicts that go out of control and conflicts are differences of opinion. they also cause you bodily harm and injuries. they are often the first victims when we lose control. which would decrease chances of further conflicts and disputes. It is important for us to see where it begins and be able to nip a possible dispute in the bud. This can only be done when one is able to treat differences in opinion as just opinions rather than personal attacks on someone’s belief.
Hence. report to the concerned authorities and let them handle accordingly. soft spoken and weak people become the prime targets. thereby escaping an attack. such people bully those who do not stand for themselves. kick. Do Not Bully Back If someone is bullying you or your friends. Keep in mind that the person wants you to react. Find a person who is trustworthy and can come to your rescue. Hence. Talk To An Adult Let an adult know about you being bullied. Read on further to find tips for avoiding bullying. since they are afraid of being punished by their parents. Raise your voice and speak out to let the bully know that you are not weak. principal. you would be solving his/her purpose and thus.powerful. How To Improve Working Memory . Moreover. remember. Students are likely to stop bullying when teachers come to know about it. stand up and say “No”. simply ignore and walk past them to a place of safety. to avoid thinking about the bully. While avoiding bullies is not easy. Acting as though you haven’t noticed or do not care would be like giving out no reaction. you are likely to face more bullying ahead. it is important to distract yourself and keep your mind occupied. satisfying the bully. Since bullies are expecting you to react largely to their teasing and meanness. If you counterattack or retort. In case you are facing bullying at work. do not hit. seek help from teachers. Keep yourself busy until you are out of the situation or at a safe place where you can show your feelings. in turn. Hope these tips come to your rescue! Tips For Avoiding Bullying Ignore The Bully Try your level best to ignore the bully’s threats. If he/she is demanding something. You can also have some other people standing by your side to tell the bully to stop teasing or scaring people. Stand Up For Yourself Be brave and confident and stand up for yourself. push back or get into a heated argument. stay safe and take help from an adult in an out-of-hand situation. Do Not Show Your Feelings Getting angry or showing that you are upset by the behavior of the bully will only induce him/her to take further steps in bullying you. Usually. At school or college. can stop the bullies from portraying such a behavior. There are chances of getting hurt in the fight as well. it is best to stay with others. taking certain steps can help you avoid situations. This. parents or friends. If you agree to the bully’s terms.
such as where you left your car keys last night or where you kept your wallet? Most of us counter countless facts daily. it is important to eat more often to keep the brain from starving out of energy. It is just that of all the things and facts you tend to take in all throughout a day. • • • • . next time you fail to remember where you left your keys. however. can put you in a better position. How often you have landed up in a grocery shop and gone blank wondering at the list of items you wished to buy? This is a common symptom that plagues many. spinach.Do you find it a cinch to remember long pin numbers and passwords. when away at the departmental stores. Just like a car. Listen carefully and try to retain the information in mind. address and more. If you can just manage to cue the things. • Of all the things that can possibly boost your retention. If you are one of those few people who tend to have a problem remembering day to day things. Read on for more on this. It is found that higher levels of stress can freeze your brain and cause your mind to go blank. preps up brainpower and enhances retention abilities. generously gorge on berries. such as memorizing passwords. chances are that you might very well recall what those things were. Here are some interesting tips on how to improve your day to day working memory. So. which explains why we tend to forget name. This might help you to remember things better. which explains why we fail to recall a certain item while on a grocery shopping. Working memory is something that we use in our every day life to accomplish our daily tasks. If you wish to remember more things at work. only to remember a handful of things at the end of the day. phone numbers. Just try this simple mental exercise and experience the difference. Thus. However. Most often we tend to skip things not because of frail memory. that feeds on fuel to run. only a part of it gets filtered through the brain box. especially classical music. Tips On Improving Working Memory • Eating right to think straight! Surprised! Here’s is how it works. just dump the stress and relax. names. Also. but can’t manage to remember easy things. That possibly explains why you usually miss out on that one or two grocery items. one can boost retention capacities to the hilt. music certainly ranks high. and broccoli for a shot of extra memory. you can fight away the memory blues. don’t despair. So. A deliberate attempt to remember things. It will help you sort out your work and life in a better way. Brain filters information randomly. Even minor stress can impair your cognitive skills and cause brain block. it is important to keep your brain boosted with wholesome diet that is rich in omega-3 fats and antioxidants. which isn’t very good news for your memory. A little bit of brain exercise can go a long way to save your memory from passing out. just after we have met someone. that does not necessarily imply that you have got a frail memory. but due to poor attention. Experts have found that music. However with a little care. tune in to your beat box. your brain too needs fuel to think and process. It’s confirmed that with a little extra care and effort. despite of much brain racking.
creates an aura of ease and comfort and puts one in a win-win situation. A brisk walk can leave your brain with more than one reason to thank for! Walking is known to boostblood flow to the brain. just remember to wear that smile on. it is true that first impression does count. Try to recall back all the activities of the day and remember as many things. Read on to get smart. set all differences straight. Doing so will make your mind more agile. Sometimes a quick three seconds is all it takes to build or kill credibility and create that first big impression. it helps to break the ice. So. When meeting new people. For this you essentially need to have a pleasant demeanor. cordial smile that arrests all interest and gives one an edge over any situation. All you have to do is sensitize your senses by doing simple activities like eating. washing or even dressing up with eyes closed.The trick is to calm down completely while reclining on a couch and start your exercise by paying attention to yourself. the next time you head for a quick appointment or an interview. not many of us can resist the temptation of overplaying our aptitude and tagging someone as posh. . Thus. punk. hippie. Dig more on how to make powerful first impression with the following tips. What's more. and no matter how much we may deny going with the cliché. at least you can learn to feign it convincingly to make a compelling impression. we all tend to get swayed by the first impression. Tips To Make Great First Impression • There comes a time when our destiny rides high on the impression we make and little else succeeds in making that power-packed quick impression like a 1000-watt smile. This simpleaerobic workout can help your brain get rid of the clutter and think and retain more clearly • How To Make Powerful First Impression While it is wrong to judge a person just by his/her dress or demeanor. Keep repeating this exercise. events. names. or hottie in the very first look? Good or bad. More blood would mean more oxygen and more energy in your brain. This is a simple task that is likely to leave you with great memory. faces as possible. If you don’t have one. This will heighten the sensitivity of your senses and boost retention. it is important that you put your best self across. • Another interesting way to improve your memory is to enhance your senses. unfeigned. it is important to put your best foot forward to get the game going in your favor. Nothing makes a more sure-footed statement than a warm.
He was also the smallest kids in his school and was bullied and racially abused by his school mates. slangs or too much of a colloquial verve. remember to ask questions to reveal signs of authentic interest. Human beings are one of two colorations: warm or cool. Remember to nod or chime your head in agreement. it is important to choose your words correctly. golden browns and rich ivory. you never get a second chance to make a first impression. a business meeting or just a casual date. enunciate rightly and speak fluently and clearly to make a deep-seated impression. steer clear of mindless babblings. thus. hot pants. which would further assist you in determining what colors look best on you! When looking to make that first big impression. An eye-to-eye interaction not only testifies one’s confidence and reliability. wrinkled shirt and worn-out fabrics at all costs. Eye-contact is one of the few things that extend an indelible impression. Dress to impress is the new age adage to that fabulous first impression. A punch line can make or mar your impression. current F1 World Champion Lewis Hamilton was an exceptionally talented kid at school. A warm pleasantry may not be pleasant if done in the wrong way. Dress modestly.• As it is rightly said. Also. but also adds to one’s charm and opens channels of communication. Wear colors compatible with your basic coloring. Also. it is important to underplay your fashion sense at time and be sensible with what you wear for an interview. warm reds. People with cool coloring look best in blue-based colors like blues. when he/she is speaking • • • • Self Confidence Exercises As a gifted five year old. you cannot afford to look away when the opportunity strikes. but it takes some skills to be a listener. Not to take the circumstances as a victim. However. make sure you never interrupt the person. And yes. and yes strictly avoid jaded jeans. he dealt with it with extraordinary strength of character at that young age. People with warm coloring look best in yellow-based colors like gold. Thus. hair and skin tone would help you determine whether you are cool or warm. The right colors can be flattering to your persona and can make a killer impression. Paying heed to others can put you up in the ladder and create a good name. to avoid leaving a wrong impression. Pitch your tone properly. Your eye. it’s only wise that you put your best foot forward and get your outfit right. be polite at all costs! It’s easy to be a good speaker. a gesture that is likely to be appreciated by the speaker. greens and winter white. He . A strong stare or looking away when interacting with the other person can leave one in a sticky situation. While evolving fashion has left us with plenty of options to dabble with.
Meditate for at least 10 minutes a day and exercise for 30 minutes daily. you are twice defeated in the race of life. But as you require physical exercises to keep your body healthy. Think of the positive things that you have done right be it big or small. With confidence. if your mother tells you that you are the best child write it down in your diary. Some people have naturally high levels of self confidence. Diversify your interest. jot it down on paper. Remove self doubts from your mind. In a nutshell you might be struggling to live a life of your own. write down any experience in which you have received positive responses and compliments. At the end of each day. develop new skills. ‘I am improving every day’ or ‘I deserve to be happy and successful’ or ‘I am confident in handling whatever comes up today’. • • • • • • . Marcus Garve stated that. People who are uncertain about themselves lack in self confidence. Challenge yourself and take risks. Pen down observations about your advancement. books. if you were contemplating a job change for a long time and not doing it for fear of interviews. Avoid writing anything negative about yourself. you have won even before you have started. visualize and imagine yourself as effectively performing a task which you fear doing. When you start your day make positive statements about yourself. while others can definitely develop it. If your boss appreciates you for your work. You can say to yourself. make an effort to schedule one interview.took lessons in martial arts and went on to become a black belt holder by the age of twelve. Repeat these positive statements several times in the day. For instance. For instance if you have stage fear. travel to new places and gain experience. At least record one positive thing about yourself each day and acquire the habit of praising yourself. meeting new people can become a struggle and can have terrifying experience facing stressful situations. I developed self confidence.” Self confidence gives you that freedom to make mistakes and deal with failure without feeling guilty or hopeless about the situation. Later on he reported. “If you have no confidence in self. reflect on your positive things. Gain knowledge and experience by reading current happenings. Imagine yourself as a victorious public speaker. your mind also requires exercises. Face the situation that you have been avoiding for a long time. Instead. “It was a horrible time but I told my dad I wanted to start karate so I could learn to protect myself. This can have devastating effects in your life and result in lower self esteem. This helps to develop self confidence and personality. social life can become painful. remind yourself of the past occasions that you have faced successfully and handled well. and perform your work efficiently. Exercises For Building Self Confidence • Self confidence gets affected when you think too much about your past failures and negative events. Your work might suffer. magazines and updating yourself with latest developments. The bullying stopped and more importantly.
Make changes to your physical environment. Rearrange and redecorate the furniture of the room. Paste quotes and pictures of successful people and keep reading them again and again. Read autobiographies of successful people. Keep your body language positive, look and feel confident. Always walk straight, with your shoulders straight, chin up and chest out. Have an authentic, warm and friendly smile on your face. A positive body language sends out positive signals. List all the goals that you want to accomplish in life and then take one step at a time. Break these goals into smaller reachable goals. Concentrate on self improvement and self development. Keep your cool and calm in every situation in life. Too much of emotional outburst can spoil the situation and make things difficult to handle. Hence take things in your stride and handle it smoothly. Do not think or worry about what others think about you. Stop imagining and bothering about unreal things and situations and blaming yourself for being wrong so often.
You can follow this confidence building exercise by writing these things. Fill in the blanks in the following sentences: • • • • • The best thing that I can do is … Something that I have accomplished is … One of my best character traits is… I am proud of myself for…. I am working to improve…
Confidence Building Exercises
“I am not a has-been. I am a will be.”Lauren Bacall. Yes it is the ‘I’ factor that makes that difference. No one can beat a person who strongly believes in himself and has made an identity for himself. Why do you think Mahatma Gandhi had so many followers and why did they follow him blindly to give their lives believing in non-violence! It’s nothing but his confidence and actions that inspired millions to join him. Success is the synonym of confidence. Never will a person with a low confidence can dream to make it big in his life for he loses the battle in the beginning itself. But the one who considers every failure as the stepping stone to success will cut a path for himself. It is always a
pleasure to watch someone speak with his/her head held high, answering questions assuredly. Ratan Tata, Azim Premji or Narayan Murthy are nothing less than living legends only because they have the confidence to face anything and everything that comes their way. They consider every new problem not as an obstacle but as a new objective. Here are a few tips on how you can go about boosting your confidence. Exercises For Boosting Confidence Think Positive Optimism is the word that has to be circled in the dictionary. An extremely positive mind is what you need to gift yourself. ‘I can’ should rule your mind when you are not able to cope up with negative things that come as hurdles on your way. Know how to love yourself and be proud of whatever achievements you have made in life, big or small. You can stick a few posters with quotes on success and confidence on the walls of your room and get inspired by those words each time you read them. Life becomes exciting only with things that you can do and not with the ones you dare not try. Learn to say ‘I Can’ aloud. Find Right Objectives Be sure about the objectives that you set. Set each goal as per your strengths and your abilities. Categorize the objectives as per your skills and talents and at the end of the day you will be able to harvest the fruit of your confidence through these fulfilled objectives. Prioritize each goal, like go for the easier tasks first then slowly raise the challenges. Remember failures can interrupt you but take it as a challenge and march forward. You have to reach the final lap to take the trophy of success securely in your hands. Meditation Listen to yourself. Meditate each day for a new beginning and a fresher day that is in the offering. Consult yourself for taking decisions and persuade your mind to make the best of the decisions. Body Language There are many things that boost confidence in a person from the file that he is holding to the tie that he is wearing. Choose the best outfit that gives you that comfort zone and elevate your confidence. Walk straight with your head held high. This itself exhibits the confidence that is abundant in you. Make the first impression the best one. From a good hand shake to a beautiful smile, everything counts.. Breathe Properly Whenever you feel that you are low in confidence, try taking some deep breaths. This is a great exercise to tackle nervousness and can revitalize you
How To Develop Self Discipline
The term ‘self discipline’ is defined as the behavior which is guided by the ‘mind’, rather than by the ‘heart’. The selfdisciplinarian attitude is very much essential to become successful in life, as it entails foregoing the momentary enjoyments and gratifications in order to achieve something big in the long term. But this sort of self-monitoring attitude has to come from within each person, as it cannot be heaped upon by any external force. That voluntary spirit or will power will help you in setting and accomplishing your goals. Some people think that discipline is linked to liberty. On the contrary, those who are disorderly are deficient in enjoying liberties that accompany those who have the talent and dexterity required to execute certain tasks such as adventure sports or learning new things. Many people know the importance of practicing self discipline but are still unable to do so. This socalled ‘inability’ is nothing else but the lack of will and purpose to achieve the goal. The secret to overcome this hindrance lies in the person’s strong sense of determination, which should be inculcated to really become successful. As they say, “Success does not come easy”, you have got to strive hard to gain what you really want in your lives, and the first step is to cultivate self discipline. Fortunately, for those who desire to build self-discipline, there is a way out. By adopting the tips given in the article below, you can instill self-discipline in yourself. Tips To Develop Self Discipline Getting To Know Yourselves When you act according to what you know is right rather than what you feel like doing is known as discipline. For that, you need to delve deep into yourself, and know yourself better. This can yield optimum results when you put your thoughts in a written format. Doing this, will provide you a thorough perception of what you are and what your mission in life is, and what you have to do to fulfill your ambition. Dedication By,just writing down your resolutions, you cannot hope for miracles to occur and that too overnight. A concerted and sustained effort over a period of time is required to help you gain self-discipline. If you find it tough to stick to your resolutions then you have got to ensure that you abide first by what you have planned, and then follow them one by one; not all at once. In this way, you can surely adhere to your resolution, and implement them dedicatedly. Boldness Usually, disciplining the self is by no means an easy task. It requires you to overcome your desires, temper, temptations, and a host of other stimulations, both internal and external. And, it is easier said than done. But, it can indeed be done through a series of constant auto-suggestions, which are capable of continuously reminding you of your goals, ambitions, and aims. You can never hope to escape from these distractions, but you can steel your guts to confront and tackle them. This can make you stronger mentally.
Learning a language isn’t an easy bet. will boost your determination and thereby enhance your focus to accomplish the seemingly difficult jobs with relative ease. fluency is a skill that only comes with the right kind of intonation and accent. associate it with your every day life and practice it more often. and also motivate you to pursue your tasks with renewed vigor. To avert these kinds of hitches. Today. A person who is self-disciplined can achieve whatever he sets out to. Not only does it give one an upper hand when travelling to foreign territories. This is the foremost reason as to why many of us find it extremely difficult to pick up an alien language and even before we learn to mumble a few new words. Doing so. loads of practice. you need to be extra attentive in what you learn. The biggest blooper most people tend to commit when trying to learn a new language is that they often fail to take it seriously. While learning a new language can be a cinch for some. However. which makes it worth a try. and developing it requires a little skill and not to forget. Most languages come with irregular rules that may not make much sense to you. the need for learning a new language extends more than just a hobby. the number of professional benefits attached to learning a foreign language. as he has trained up his mind to overrule his heart. Remember. .Auto Tutoring Talking to yourself can do wonders to your self confidence. Treading an unfamiliar territory doesn't come easy. Thus. When you find the going tough. Difficulties In Learning A Language Doing It The Right Way! Learning a new language is not easy and getting to master one often requires more than just will power. there are others for whom picking up a new lingo may be a jaw breaking deal. more so when you are new to an alien tongue. by diligently implementing the above techniques. Read on for more. it is also known to boost one’s cognitive skill highly. acquainting yourself with some of the most common problems which come in the way of mastering a language will help. we fumble and give up. The following points are geared to help you identify with some of the most common problems in learning a new language. we can definitely develop selfdiscipline. Pronunciation Pronunciation is perhaps one sticky ground where most language learners tend to bungle. which forms an integral part of our lives. Problems In Learning A Language The tongue trying a new taste is similar to the brain grasping a new language. Add to this. before you get down to the learning experience. The biggest impediment towards mastering a new language perhaps lies on one’s take on it. you can always fall back on yourselves by reliving certain positive moments.
Thus. can come across as a puzzling jumble to others and mar communication. it will also give you an edge over the other speakers and help you to evolve as a fluent spokesperson. as said before. A good grasp over grammar is perhaps the cornerstone for a successful learning experience. Voice it! Do not fear to lend your voice to the new language. The idea is to connect the words with the objects and establish a basic relation between the two. it is important to get your words right! Words. Things do not just end with learning the right pronunciation. At times of failure and disappointment. How To Grow Old Gracefully . it is important to rise above your reservations and understand how a word is perfectly pronounced. remember. who struggle to learn a new language. it is important to hold your reigns and put in your efforts in mastering a language as diligently as possible. Patience! Most people. While it is likely for you to fumble when trying to speak a new language. often quit it midway after months of pointless struggle. Next would be to clearly fit them into a sentence to make more sense and less confusion. Word Order When mastering a new language. Visual Reinforcement Visualize everything you hear and you are likely to remember it for long. perseverance pays. in some languages the verb comes before the subject.However. it is important to choose your words carefully. more so when you are trying to tame the grammatical rules of a foreign tongue. You need to practice it on your own to get a grasp of it. if not rightly arranged. while in some others it is reversed. Try to speak the new language as much as possible. Getting a grasp on the words will help you in coming up with a meaningful sentence! Grammar Getting the grammar right can put one in a fix. learning a new language never comes easy to many. Well. let this thing not be deterrent to your efforts. unintentional though. without the knowledge of the same. Visual reinforcement is one tried-and-tested way of effective learning and it stands true for learning new languages too. Nearly every language relies heavily on words to convey the right meaning. The extra effort that you put in would help you sail out of all the problems and difficulties. For instance. A person is likely to commit major bloopers. Not only will this make you into a confident speaker. Thus. Nearly all language has its own set of rules that may be befuddling to one’s general grammatical sense.
especially if you haven’t kept in excellent health with regular exercise. Tips On Ageing Gracefully Here’s what you can do to age gracefully: Thou Shalt Not Sulk Or Complain Sulking or complaining about what you do not have will never let you come out of the past and will prevent you from being happy and your true self. physical ailments. or writing. Since you have fewer responsibilities now. Learn anything new. this is the right time for you to pursue them once again. Is Knowledge Learning something new will bring back the life that you think you were losing. or teach them a few home remedies. there is very little that can stop you from either listening to music or reading or watching your favourite films on DVDs. Many of us waste our lives – especially by treating our bodies badly – and end up fearing each day because we know that we have played havoc with ourselves. finally death. you should take care of your body and mind. However. Follow What You Left Behind You must have always had a hobby or interest that you used as a stress buster or to unwind and rejuvenate. Of course. making crochet. It will also serve to bring back a purpose into your life. You could teach your grandchildren to sew. You could also learn to use the computer and keep in touch with family members – grandchildren or even other family members who live abroad and you cannot contact them ever so often over the phone. wrinkles. Here are some tips on ageing gracefully. Women can also take the liberty of knitting. inspite of all the problems that we face. If you are still alive and do not have any major life-threatening ailment. from operating the CD player so that you can watch movies or play music CDs. It will give a purpose to your life and also take away the bitterness that you feel. you could develop a new interest that could keep you busy and happy. It is easier said than done to adhere to the ‘why-afraid-of-death-when-it-is-certain’ saying but it is best not to think about it. . people have so many problems of their own and need not carry the burden of your problems too. What’s New. Also. cook. You may have all the valid reasons to sulk and complain but you must remember that people like to be around happy and cheerful people and not around wet dishrags who constantly complain that life is being unfair to them. If you are suffering from physical ailments. Defying age is not as much about the body as it is about the attitude and the outlook towards life. which are often the cause of your complaints with life. at 60 you cannot hope to go mountaineering. If your mobility is limited. especially if it is not too hard on your eyesight. However. studies say that if you have the will to live.Ageing is something that people fear – it brings with it the natural decay of the human form and mind. weakening bones. they should be told to your doctor or physician and not to anybody among your friend circle. you will live. there are ways by which we can age gracefully. In any case. deteriorating brains and.
Tips To Achieve Entrepreneurial Success Striking it rich on one’s own. Persistence. clarity of purpose. People of your age may also tell you how best to deal with your problems – physical or otherwise The Traits Of Successful Entrepreneurs Most of us can confess to being quite sold out to the idea of getting rich someday. However. Joyce Hall. Nothing sells like the business of getting rich. Characteristics Of Successful Entrepreneurs The road to entrepreneurial success is typically characterized by an incredibly intricate labyrinth of hardships and setbacks. is often the next best thing in life to inheriting a fortune. and the pursuit of prosperity sends most of us into quite a tizzy. Donald Trump. And since few successful entrepreneurs are naturally born. Friends should pull you out of your complaining spell instead of only feeding into it. Rupert Murdoch. share experiences together and inspire each other to come out of the sulking modes. they say. exceptional passion. and help yourself to a sampling of some of the outstanding traits that make an entrepreneur truly successful. extraordinary vision and the irrepressible desire to make it happen. We tend to randomly rush into a mirage of the mythical pot of gold at the end of an illusory rainbow. Bill Gates. success eludes most of us because the passion. Walt Disney and Oprah Winfrey – have more in common than just being names on the ‘Rich and Famous’ list to most of us at first glance. You need to laugh together. sincere effort. you. and learn to strike that elusive gold on your own steam in the process. with a little help from those who have it down pat from close personal encounters with adversity in the pursuit of their own dream? The characteristics most successful . lies at the core of most entrepreneurial success stories. why go through the wringer if you can do it right from the start.Friends Are There… Make friends who share the same interests rather than those who share the same ailments! If latter is the case. However. History bears ample testimony to several such stories of entrepreneurial success. which sets those successful entrepreneurs apart from the rest of the teeming millions is woefully missing in most of the aspiring entrepreneurs. overcome only by the relentless perseverance of the inspired few. so take heart. and that is that they are all very successful entrepreneurs. and your friends will only end up spending your quality time complaining rather than being happy.
are the best known ways to get there. Stick To The Master Plan Do not stray from a well designed venture plan unless it is to keep course with market dynamics. Chalk Out A Realistic Launch Plan Visibility matters most in the launch of a new venture. Conduct A SWOT Analysis A SWOT analysis is the quickest peep you will get into your entrepreneurial prospects. To sum it up. the traits of successful entrepreneurs may appear rather easy to emulate on the face of it.entrepreneurs exhibit and which have been briefly explained below. It is a quick assessment of your Strengths. some learn from trial and error. Reinvest earned revenue back into an appropriate sector of your business for better future returns. andThreats. While some get it naturally right from the word go. and identify untapped audiences and buyers. even before your plans have gone to the drawing board. The Unique Selling Point (USP) of your venture makes all the difference. translating lessons from past failures into future successes. Opportunities. So make sure that your venture fills a much felt void. Success comes at the end of hard labor and a little bit of luck. thereby helping one identify the best possible way to approach his/her dream for entrepreneurship. and drawing up a conclusive overall assessment of one’s plus points and areas of development. The spirit of enterprise is what these shining examples from history have made a habit of living up to. well-placed launch strategy. Make an impact with a well-timed. and save up the rest as contingency for unexpected setbacks. but it is in the individual application of these tried and tested formulae wherein the fate of an ingenious venture lies. Entrepreneurial success is often determined as much by one’s past achievement patterns as by adherence to a smart blueprint. and it won’t be long before one can justifiably earn the title of a “self-made” person. It is a simple but very authentic exercise done quickly by jotting down honest observations under each section. Adapting and adjusting are the mantras to stay in the reckoning. but it should also has a solid and sound economic ground. Survey The Market There is no magic potion to ensure success. Characteristics Of A Leader . Make The Economics Work A venture has to not only be financially viable. Make your venture count with clever promotions and advertising. ideally all year round. Weaknesses. without altering the original game-plan too much.
they are not born. a leader would not be able to take proper decisions to lead his group. Additionally. who has set his goals and knows how to achieve them. possessing good communication skills is important. a leader should be able to motivate people around him effectively. some people are born with them. Without confidence. becoming a good leader is not easy for a person. A good leader must have confidence and be able to fulfill the set targets. A leader when chosen is expected to accomplish all the tasks and duties as stated and anticipated. which is the price which all of us must pay to achieve any goal that is worthwhile. a leader. development and experience. Quick Thinking Thanks to the stiff economic competition faced by businessmen and professionals alike. a great leader will always work upon the best of these traits to achieve excellence. opportunities and challenges change unpredictably and hence. should be in a position to think quickly and make the most of a given situation. which can be done through good communication only. for the betterment of the entire organization. accomplishing it with confidence is equally important. in the present times. Leadership Traits And Characteristics Vision To be a great leader." . They are made by hard effort. training. a leader’s plan is useless. Thus. Markets."Leaders are made. for communicating. Hence. Whether the characteristics are natural or developed. However. He is a hope who can bring about change and improve the field to which he belongs. being aware of all the developments taking place and having a proper knowledge of the field in which a person is working is essential for becoming a successful leader. Knowledge Quick thinking will not be appropriate if a leader does not have the right knowledge. one must have a vision to take his team and society further. A leader should be a visionary. Confident While having a set vision is quintessential. A team of efficient members is ineffective if it does not have an envisioned leader.Vince Lombardi. While most of the characteristics are acquired through learning. . quick action is essential for a great leader. Good Communication Skills Without communicating the plan of action to the team members. Given here are some leadership traits and characteristics that define a leader in today’s world. He must possess different characteristics to help him show others the way to success. It so happens that prompt decisions without knowledge turn out to be erroneous for the future of the organization.
Hence. if you do not take charge of the events that happen in your life. wherein you sit back in the shadows and wait for life to happen to you rather than making a life of your own. best left to ‘little’ girls. Often. Have Character To motivate his people. which is very essential while approaching a woman. Read on further to find some tips to help you overcome your shyness among women and build your confidence. Democratic A leader should not start leading his team in an autocratic style. Do you have a constant fear of being rejected by the woman of your dreams? If yes. He should know what to do and plan out an organized approach to accomplish the tasks. Remember. allowing the leader to know about the problems faced by his people. Humility The qualities of a leader make him stand apart from the rest. All this is just due to the lack of confidence. Let out that side of yourself that you had always been too afraid to examine. men take a step backward and prefer to admire the girl from miles behind rather than going ahead and talking to them. Thus. Talking about shyness. . a leader has to be disciplined in order to handle all such situations patiently. Shyness is a way of avoiding conflicts.Discipline A leader is one who leads a team of individuals and looks after more than one area. no one will. This will make communication between a leader and his team better. A frightened and apprehensive leader takes the team no where. This increases the chances of a team being successful tremendously. one of the most popular situations wherein shyness dominates the scenario is when a guy wants to talk to a girl. Thus. Risk Taking A leader must be courageous enough to take risks as every opportunity comes along with some amount of risk. Enough democracy should be permitted to allow people to think freely and come up with new and innovative ideas. then fret not. This would also pave the way for the team members to chip in valuable suggestions. a leader should first set an example through his character. having a good moral character is one of the most important qualities of a great leader How To Overcome Shyness With Women Shyness is a wasted emotion. who knows you might end up losing your dream girl to some other guy. If you are also one amongst them. a leader must be approachable for his people.
Learn To Listen Since shy men do not know what to talk about with women. Try your hand at learning new things. thereby overcoming shyness. This will help you in getting rid of your shyness and will increase your confidence level. Instead. You have just spotted a cute girl in your college and are dying to talk to her. Hence. try to figure out what incorrect actions of yours made them take such a step. A simple way to overcome shyness would be by concentrating on your positive attributes. like library. etc. such as a foreign language or a new sport. You can look up to women from different age groups at different places. At such places. handsome guys have experienced failure. to get them involved in the conversation. Be Prepared To Be Rejected On the road to overcoming shyness. Proceed Steadily Take small steps to approach girls to overcome your shyness. . remember that you are likely to be rejected many a times. etc. improve your learning skills and figure out different topics to talk with them. Practice Talking to Women The best way to overcome shyness with women is to practice talking to them. Gradually. a hobby club. so you are no exception. This would give a boost to your confidence and self-esteem. this is simply not acceptable by women folks and they are likely to find it boring. You can start off with questioning her something that will trigger some response from her side. do not get depressed. Make the most of this opportunity and talk to them. New hobbies add a new dimension to your personality thereby enhancing your overall being. they often end up talking about themselves most of the times. Even the jaw-dropping. Have small conversations without focusing on whether they will talk to you or ignore you. Concentrate on your conversation and overcome your shyness with them initially. grocery shop. You can question them on their family. Accept this situation of being rejected as a learning experience. Note. interests. thereby ignoring their positive qualities. participate in team activities or become a part of large groups. while approaching women.Tips For Overcoming Shyness With Girls Emphasize Your Positives Most shy guys focus on things that they do not possess. Since women have their personal reasons for rejecting men. but do not have the courage to do so! Pass a simple smile and say a “hi”. which you should accept with honor. get hold of some topics to talk with girls and begin your conversation with her. Also. Socialize Socializing can be another way of improving your self esteem and confidence. Join a gym. friends. do not expect to get their personal contacts or convince them to come on a date at the very first meeting. You will also find girls that share similar interests as yours. you will meet a number of people where you can interact with them.
It is for this reason that we have to train our minds to get rid of such feelings of guilt and self-pity. Also. for there is no lesson to be learnt out of it. all those who are trying to enter the show business in our country often end up working as waiters at popular restaurants. jobs or friends – make us incapable of appreciating what we do have and can do. what went wrong with you was something you could have helped. Thus. the better it is. you may not have a job that pays you well. there are thousands who cannot afford a decent meal in a day. Also.How To Get Rid Of Regret Someone rightly said “’If Only’ are the two saddest words in the world. only in that case there is a lesson that can be learnt out of it. no amount of regretting will change that fact.” Those two words signal one of the biggest enemies residing within one’s psyche. in a country like India. Many of us who have gone through a failed relationship tend to forget how many men and women go through life without ever experiencing love at all and have to lie to themselves to say that it is unimportant. Take Charge It would really serve you best if you realise that what you seem to think “went wrong with you” was really your own choice and the sooner you accept that. Regret not only lets a person wallow in the complacent mud-pool of self-pity. Here are ways in which you can get rid of regretful feelings Ways To Rid Yourself Of Regret Here are some ways in which you can get rid of regretful feelings: Is It In My Control? You must never forget that not everything is in our control – many a times not even how many years we shall get to live. you must snap out of it as quickly as possible. what we can do with what is available to us. but how you judiciously you spend the money is completely up to you. If. People who do not have satisfying jobs often forget that. For instance. the same regretful feelings – of having lost money. is definitely under our control. and would not hesitate to take up any job that others would consider ‘menial’. A serious reality check will throw . many a times. but also stops one from moving ahead with life. it is all the more important to get rid of such feelings of regret. So. just to make a living. Wake Up. Smell The Tulips. In fact. Forget the Poison Ivy Another major problem with regret and regretful feelings is the fact that they do not let one enjoy and appreciate what is good. if you find out that what you are regretting was beyond your control. It is pointless to blame oneself for what is beyond our control. However. that man has ever known – regret.
Go through the lines. being perseverant is essential to achieve the keys to the door of success. adversity. you would be tempted with the thought of quitting the task. ask your friends to observe the same and help you out. Bear in mind that perseverance is what distinguishes the average person from a genius. In case you are unable to observe yourself. Tips To Quit Quitting Keep Yourself Aware Do not let your laziness or fear urge you to quit or procrastinate. On the road to success. it will only leave you back with a feeling of guilt. Nonetheless. you have to regularly motivate yourself. where a person steps onto it and undergoes a lot of hard work to finally reach the top. Instead. Inculcate a habit of writing down your goals. Observe the situations when you are looking for excuses. Never Give Up To continue working towards your ambition and prevent from falling down on the numerous bumps on the road. Perseverance forms the most significant key to achieving success in any field. It is seen as an act of cowardice to not accept one’s mistake.Martha Graham. Close friends are more likely to know you better and will definitely come to your rescue. one must also remember that the time that is lost will not come back and that it is worthless to think about it. the journey towards success is not an easy one. as you are likely to face a number of pitfalls and obstructions. Since many of us nowadays are in a position to make the choices that we want instead of what we have to do or what is available to us. doing daily affirmations and finding out new ways of keeping you on your toes and dealing with approaching problems. No task can be mastered at one go. to find tips on how to quit quitting and achieve the success you had long been aspiring for. Hence. What you do with the time that lies in front of you is what you must focus on How To Quit Quitting “Fire is the test of gold. the end fruit would surely be a sweet one. it is important to stick to those choices or accept one’s fault and make amends. However. of strong men” . It requires absolute will power and determination to be successful. remember. Success is just like a ladder. instead of telling the truth.some light over the fact that you were the cause of what has happened to you. Analyze The Cost & Benefit . A lot of heartache will vanish once one has learnt to accept one’s fate and mistake too. but you need to realize that quitting will not make your task any easier.
. Tips On Getting Rid Of The Fear Of Rejection • The fear of rejection leaves a very depressing mood. to achieve success and quit the habit of quitting. Stress Management Stress management and level of perseverance are highly related. Most people have felt rejection and the way they tackle it after being snubbed determines if they would develop a fear of rejection. When you create your own happiness. on the other hand. cannot flourish in a negative environment. thinking that their advance will be rejected. clouding his/her current thinking and forcing the person to think negatively.Observe and calculate the cost and benefit of what you are planning to achieve. So. Concentrate on a single bad habit at one time so that you can deal with the problems in a much better way. They tend to focus more and more on other people’s reaction to their actions that they tend to become paranoid and miserable. taking all the factors into consideration. Happy thoughts build up the self-esteem. Stay Away from Bad Habits Do everything possible to put a complete stop to all your bad habits. Stress overwhelms a person. Think practically and make an honest and positive decision. To know more read the article below for the various tips on getting rid of the fear of rejection. One way to counter it is to create happy thoughts. Perseverance. Most of the time the pain the person feels due to rejection conditions his or her mind where the person tends to withdraw into a shell fearing future rejection. The person can become over dependent and may always look for loyalty signs in others. you will be less dependent on others and also develop a confident outlook. even if it is for help. which in turn helps you to overcome the fear of rejection. This state of mind can harm the relationship that he or she has with other people. you need to first overcome stress in order to achieve your goals in a better way How To Get Rid Of Fear Of Rejection The fear of rejection most commonly has its roots in childhood incidences. Comparisons and competition is fairly common among children and this result in one or other form of rejection. They also tend to develop a reluctance to ask anything. These bad habits could be either simple negative thinking or fighting procrastination. That is why it is very necessary that in order to maintain a stress free life the fear of rejection should be overcome. Try to get rid of any behavior that is stopping you from achieving your goals. There is no use to move ahead and try to accomplish an ambition that is likely to cost you and your family the entire life.
Find out how. reality has another story to narrate. you be yourself rather than what others wish you to be. Assertive people. . When you know your mistakes. If you are in a shaky relationship then it is better to end it before you start developing the symptoms of rejection phobia. • • • • • • How To Be Assertive Most people who consider being assertive to be a difficult task often assume that others who are assertive find it easy to be one. Set goals that you can reach. aggressive and docile. Indulging in hobbies will take your mind away from the problem. However. Being independent will also teach you to address your needs on your own. you can appear confident and speak assertively as well. Depending on people will enhance your rejection phobia. don’t expect too much. The fear of rejection can only be conquered steadily. when and where it all went wrong and then address the issue. Learn to appreciate things even if you are not interested in it. The main fear of rejection stems from feeling of helplessness that stems from being unable to control the external outcomes. Acting confidently is what makes the difference. Your focus should be on your actions rather than how people will react. so much that it hampers your growth and productivity. A cheerful disposition and positive outlook will help you create happy thoughts and a cheerful atmosphere that will uplift your spirits. Try to be as independent as possible. In fact there is a thin line between being assertive. on the other hand. people who are docile are unable to defend their own state of being and hence. Often. Set an attitude where you give unconditionally. Almost everyone feels anxious or wrong footed in some situations or the other.• • Be optimistic. While expectation is good. Cultivate hobbies. Let your mistakes be your teacher. While aggressive people do not respect others’ perspective and can hurt others when influencing them. Also. people confuse between being assertive and being aggressive. Self-sufficiency will ensure that you do not get helpless when you experience the signs of separation. get influenced by the aggressiveness of the people. you will be better able to rectify them. Don’t rely on your friends and family. With a little bit of practice. Learning from mistakes will also teach you to be more careful later. when you are independent you will also develop a better ability to take care of yourself. If you do not expect anything. While you are in the relationship it is better that. the fear of rejection won’t be so profound. You will have to go slow and adopt a systematic approach. This is the best way to do things that you truly enjoy.
. Be Prepared When you are prepared. others too would be nervous andanxious. you will speak with more authority and be better able to deal with things coming up. If you look intimidated. friendly. Use Of Voice The tone of voice has a major impact on whether you will be heard or not. Articulate exactly what you expect from others and the reason behind your expectations. This will incline the people to put themselves out again in the future. such as “I want” or “I feel”. you will be better able to take control of the situation and achieve your expectations. This would give a boost to your confidence levels and make you feel positive and secured. nagging. This way. be open. Do not raise your voice in manner of shouting. Create Rapport Connect with the group that you are speaking to during the introduction itself. Instead. and so on. simply state your message in a matter of fact voice.are balanced individuals who though pour out their mind at the time of influencing others. Do not expect others to read what is on your mind. Tips For Being Assertive Expectation Prepare yourself mentally and set your expectations clear to others. Think Of The Language You Use The language that you use while conversing is extremely important. Also. For a positive impact on the person or group. smile and feel in control of the situation. Physical Presence Your body language plays a major role in determining what others feel about you. A sense of gratitude and a smile on the face can do wonders for you. Always hold your head up high to show that you are a force to be reckoned with. Never ask people to do you a favor else they will consider doing a favor as part of their job. Always use a voice that can be heard and should be interesting in pitch and delivery. respect the other individual’s views and opinions. Sustain your voice by taking a deep breath and think about the message that you would be conveying. acknowledge their efforts by thanking them. whining. When speaking to a group of people. Remember To Thank If people have done as expected by you. Creating a good rapport would ensure effective communication. Start off with a positive statement to set the tone for the conversation. Given here are some tips on being assertive and confident. Use the “I” language. make sure that you do not intimidate others. Create positive boundaries to know what you are most comfortable at. plan in advance your speech. to acknowledge the other person’s feelings or situation and stand up for your rights.
but it’s also not impossible to eliminate them from your mental space. and do not complement your overall sense of well-being can safely be considered as unwanted and unhealthy. A nap or a good night’s rest can help you get . something that makes you feel good as this will help do away with your unwanted thoughts. do not threaten. Remember the timeless adage – “where there’s a will. play a game. cook. Meditate Meditation is a discipline through which the patron can exercise control over the mind and dwell in a state of relaxation and heightened awareness. as soon as you realize that you’ve been thinking those ‘unwanted thoughts’ – Open fire! Get rid of your unwanted thoughts. Indulge In An Activity A sure shot way to deal with unnecessary thoughts is to sail away from them.If You Do Not Get What You Want If you are not able to achieve success. Make up your mind and read on ways to get rid of your unwanted thoughts. you don’t want to be caught in a web of derogatory thoughts. before the thought envelops your mind. an enemy. a healer. your work and maybe even your life. Your thoughts play a big role here and regular meditation can help you get rid of your unwanted thoughts. Sleep It Away Sleep is a great doctor. Distract yourself. bully or shout. in fact. the thoughts that nag. Unwanted thoughts can orbit around anything. annoy. Start thinking of something else. read a book. learn to destroy it. Getting Rid Of Unwanted Thoughts Shoot At Sight You’ve got to be quick here. It’s not really easy to stop these thoughts from popping in your head. watch a good movie. persistent and stay in control. They are such an issue because they tend to have a negative influence on your personality and psyche and at times can even take a toll on your health. the thoughts that are derogatory to you and your life. How To Get Rid Of Unwanted Thoughts What are unwanted thoughts and why are they such an issue? Unwanted thoughts are the thoughts that shouldn’t be a part of your thinking process. maybe a bad experience. there’s a way”. Be calm. Remember. Basically. you’ve got to be quick. exercise. You can eliminate your unwanted thoughts by indulging in an activity that keeps you away from thinking them. a distasteful relationship. or simply go on a walk. Binge on an activity that does not see you thinking the thoughts you shouldn’t be thinking. Repeat yourself again and ask your audience to consider the implications of not doing as requested by you.
Sleep is a great weapon against pestering thoughts. before going down to the qualities. making sure of the completion of the work and meeting the deadlines and targets. A leader’s keenness. enthusiasm and openmindedness assists in encouraging his/her followers to take more efforts towards the goals and achieve them. Apart from being committed towards his/her work. Be Enthusiastic A good leader should be enthusiastic. You need a psychiatrist who can help you deal with your unwanted thoughts. The thoughts on these issues may lose themselves while you sleep. Consult A Psychiatrist If you’ve tried the above remedies and have still failed to get rid of your unwanted thoughts. but there is nothing to be ashamed of. a good leader should also be concerned for his people. This comprises of delegating work to others. The interest that he takes in realizing the goals motivates his followers to work effectively. If you’re troubled by something and if someone’s getting to you and you’re feeling a bit obsessed. you need to get a few things straight. How To Be A Good Leader With people and organizations changing drastically. go ahead. you think better and healthier.rid of your superfluous thoughts. When you’ve had your eight hours of sleep. Some unwanted thoughts may be an issue. you can sleep over it. dreaming and devoting oneself towards the fulfillment of the dreams. Leadership is all about daring. you feel better and refreshed. The best way to lead subordinates or juniors is by setting an example through his/her life and actions. So. The unwanted thoughts syndrome is a common disorder and a fair amount of people have been plagued with the same. you need help. Bear in mind that leadershipskills are not inherited. effective leadership styles too has undergone immense change. However. but developed. maybe the issue is a lot more serious than you think it is. What Makes A Good Leader Set An Example A person has to be trustworthy and possess a good character. Read on further to know the traits and qualities which make a good leader. This change has lead to an alteration in the required qualities of a good leader as well. This is when you need to be going in for some expert advice. get yourself some. as they would be accompanied by action. if you think. in order to be a good leader. should have an undying and enduring . Most people may not be too proud about a visit to a psychiatrist. and when you feel refreshed. An effective leader is one who guides his followers in the right direction and helps them attain the desired goal. A leader. and can vary from a temperate to a serious psychological disorder. hence. Only then will the words be effective.
Hence. which would otherwise result in incorrect decisions. A good leader is judged by fair and right choices that he makes. For proper execution of your work. By effectively executing the tasks. In fact leadership skills are much more than speaking confidently and carrying a serious demeanor. it is rightly . Be Confident A true leader is undoubtedly confident. Be Reasonable & Understanding A leader is mostly chosen as a result of unanimous decision by the people or the group. without which he would not be able to earn the trust and respect from his followers. To be an effective leader. understand the potential of your people and allocate duties accordingly. While calmness and composure helps in taking the right decision. they requireinvestment of time and energy to perfect and craft your skills. manage it or are an employee looking to make your way up to the corporate ladder. a leader can take the subordinates and juniors to the path of success. delegate them responsibilities and choose people who will implement your decisions successfully. By sorting out the weaknesses and lauding the strengths. leader should not overlook the expectations and problems of his people. Therefore. All the circumstances should be handled with a cool mind. The right leadership style is required in every walk of professional life. Keep Your Cool An important characteristic of a good leader is the ability to keep cool in all kinds of situations. And remember. the leader achieves excellence which is a key determinant for a good leader. Hence.enthusiasm about the work or specified goal in order to give the subordinates a boost to attain or meet the targets. Make good selections. it is the success of subordinates and juniors that makes a leader successful Effective Leadership Skills The secret to great leadership is about having the leadership skills to be able to deal with people in a delicate yet powerful manner. whether you own a business. at the right time. it can be safely assumed that it is the people who make a person a leader. hasty decisions are often the result of stress and anxiety. A leader should be self-confident. which leads to repentance. especially in case of critical situations. A confident leader is in a better position to take the right decisions and effective actions. A leader should not lose his control in such situations. Know Thy People Know and understand your people to become a good leader. Effective leadership skills cannot just be stumbled upon. one must possess an exclusive set of human relations and interpersonal skills.
Enthusiasm Leaders are assumed to be active and expressive.said. Team Orientation These days. He/she should have an undying spirit and enduring enthusiasm about the work and should be capable of inducing the same attitude into his team. while being a leader. A leader should possess a never-say-die-spirit and should always to ready for challenges. Tough-mindedness A good leader should be practical. Dominance An effective leader must be assertive in his thinking style and have a confident attitude. they tend to be demanding in character. well-honed leadership skill is the most important component for being successful in the businessworld. Traits Of An Effective Leader Emotional Stability A good leader should be capable of tolerating frustration and stress. more emphasis is laid upon team work by business leaders. An effective leader must be optimistic and open to changes coming across him. A leader should be secure. A good leader establishes an adult-adult relationship with his employees to encourage and motivate . Since he/she has to face lots of risks and criticism. Read to know the different traits of an effective leader. Conscientiousness Since leaders are dominated by a sense of duty. Hence. while dealing with other people. free of guilt and unaffected by prior mistakes or failures. rather than ruling them. High Energy A leader should be highly energetic since he would have to invest in long hours of work to raise the company. However. a successful leader should be very self-disciplined and have a need for order and a high standard of excellence. he should also be quick and alert while doing so. One must be mature enough to recognize that more can be accomplished by empowering others. Self-assurance Other common characteristics of an effective leader are self-confidence and resiliency. He should be competitive and capable of taking decisions on behalf of his entire team. logical and to-the-point. a leader must be low in sentimental attachments and insensitive to hardship. The person must be able to adjust well and have the psychological maturity to deal with anything that he/she is likely to face. Maturity Personal power and recognition should be put aside to focus on the development of the employees in order to be a good leader.
The way we shake hands shows the kind of a person we are. this is considered as the most unimpressive handshakes among all. confidence. Through this vision. A handshake is one such gesture that is used to greet others. thereby unifying and captivating them. charisma plays an integral role in gaining the trust of the employees. wherein the former orders and the latter obeys. rather than an adult-child relationship. character and professionalism. Did you know that a lot can be deduced about a person from a single handshake? While a firm handshake with the hand facing downwards and arm extended shows that you are confident. Jackhammer Handshake . Charisma Since leaders are perceived larger than life by most people.them. People making such a handshake seem to be expecting something from your side. Read on further to know what our handshake says about us. a leader better motivates employees to achieve their future goals. Also known as a limp-fish handshake. uncomfortable or nervous. resulting in personal rewards and values. This simply shows that the person is simply not interested and is indifferent towards you. not willing to give it back to you. What Does Your Handshake Mean Flabby Handshake A flabby handshake is made by a person who is a pessimist. a hand pointing upwards is a weak handshake thereby indicating that you are shy. It conveys power. What Your Handshake Says About You Body language is one of the forms of communication that makes use of various body areas or parts to convey a message. Charismatic leaders are better capable of arousing strong emotions among the employees by defining a vision. Robot Handshake A robot handshake is one that is offered automatically without any noticeable thought or feeling. Prison Handshake A person making a prison handshake will offer a firm hand keeping your hand in his for a long duration. meet new people or close a deal or agreement.
Read on further to find tips for using eye contact for successful conversation. looking elsewhere while in a conversation with someone is actually considered to be an insult. This handshake indicates a sense of superiority. Also. It is also advisable not to stare directly into the eyes of a person. maintaining too much eye contact can make the other person uncomfortable. instead of his palm for making a handshake is said to be making a Queen’s handshake. They will make a dynamic and forceful handshake indicating their power and determination. This is done to cover up their feelings of diffidence. Making an eye contact while conversing signals your presence. come what may. Using eye contact effectively proves to be boon for establishing close relationships with people. Squeezing Handshake People who tend to show their strength and power make a squeezing handshake. it might reflect over-confidence and impudence. Next-to-the-body Handshake People who are not willing to take risks. While avoiding eye contact during the conversation can indicate that you are nervous or trustworthy. make a next-to-the-body handshake. making eye contact with another person provides a feeling of intimacy and openness. with an exception of very few people mastering this technique. This is made by keeping the arm close to the body and bending it only at the elbow to perform a handshake. A lot can be conveyed from a person’s eyes. this is what you can do. For most people. it is difficult to lie while looking directly into a person’s eyes. How To Use Eye Contact Properly In Conversations • Make a good balance between making eye contact and looking away. Also. this is the best handshake to execute. Queen’s Handshake A person who offers his fingers. Some people assume this handshake to be a sexual connotation. How To Use Eye Contact For Conversation Success Eyes have been the windows to the soul. At some places across the world.People who are a little inflexible tend to make a jackhammer handshake as they think that their way is the right one. To convey confidence and professionalism. Normal Handshake A normal handshake is one that is made briefly and firmly. In case you are one of those who feel uncomfortable at looking directly into a person’s eyes. Do not look into the person’s eyes • . communicates your confidence and translates your sincerity. such as politicians.
Glancing too much towards the room or looking at other people around makes the person feel dejected or ignored. necessary for making it memorable for audience. allowing your eyes go a little bit out of focus. Just the knowledge of the subject is not enough to make your speech a success. So. making contact is not allowed for a woman towards a man who is not related to her. make sure that you bring back your attention to the person’s face with whom you are conversing. look gently at the eye area.directly. nodding and gazing. while it’s a challenge for others. instead. people from Oriental countries avoid doing so. invoke emotions. and even trigger reactions from them. Include facial expressions. others can develop it by acquiring certain skills. Show keen interest by gazing at his/her face every now and then. by saying. a woman making eye contact is considered to be sign of an unrespectable woman • • • • Public Speaking Skills King of bollywood. Think of the last memorable talk or presentation you attended. with the change of the conversation. • Some people stare too intently into the eyes of the person without looking away. while conversing with such people. such as the eyebrows or bridge of the nose. let him/her know that you are listening intently. like smiling. which is highly regarded. While you are conversing with a person. most talks are easy to forget because they lack the impact. do you have to rack your brains to remember one? Sadly. There are many more ingredients to it. Here are some pointers. Shahrukh Khan gave tips on public speaking to all. thereby making the other person uncomfortable. In some cultures. However. In other cultures. Keep your facial muscles relaxed and change your facial expressions. which marks the success of speech. Essential Public Speaking Skills . This makes you look friendly. While some are born with this trait. In case you are one of them. A great public speaker has the power to spellbind the audience. While Caucasian people living in North America prefer making a lot of eye contact. This would help you remain in your comfort zone without showing that you are nervous. Hence. Mastering the art of public speaking is easy for some. “My first rule of public speaking…if you don’t strike oil in 3 minutes…stop boring!” The ability to deliver a great speech in public is the skill. which will help you understand and acquire the skills needed for public speaking. soften the stare by glancing away from the person at a gap of few seconds. Every culture has its own rules with regard to eye contact. to let the person know that you are interested in the conversation. make sure that you make only the required eye contact. It’s the ability to inform and keep the audience interested.
However. take effective pauses to make sure. What? – What here stands for what you wish to communicate via your talk or speech? If you are giving a talk on air pollution then you should mark down the topics you would like to cover under this. You should communicate to your audience. You should follow a logical pattern. just don’t include them for the sake of using. In this. While giving a speech.Your audience should understand. to your speech. it’s important to keep in mind the following: Who? . that what you are speaking is being heard and absorbed by the audience. For your audience to grasp the idea easily. If your audience consists of school students. Stories are easy to understand and are loved by all.Who here stands for audience. the kind of language you will use will play an important role. Or convey your idea wrapped in the form of story. Good speakers always research before conveying their message. • • . What kind of audience you are addressing to? By answering this question. quotations. How? – How here stands for understanding the best way you can communicate your message. If you are using slides in your presentation then limit the content of each slide to a few bullet points. There might be a variety of aspects to the topic you are dealing with but you can’t cover all in your short speech so give main points or highlights of the topic to your audience. and statistics. and the end of the content. effects. you need to know why they should listen to you. whenever you are speaking on a topic. and remedies of air pollution. When? It is important for you to develop a sense of timing. Add facts. Use language. when delivering a speech. which is simple and easy to grasp by your audience. Vital Public Speaking Skills • Before beginning on a topic on which you have to give a speech. your priority should be to keep the content of your speech simple and interesting so that your audience can grasp it well. and why it’s important for them to listen. like causes. stories. They should effectively complement your ideas. that what you are speaking is something valuable and will be useful for them. which connect well to your core idea. middle.Understand What You Want To Achieve Before you start working on your speech or presentation. why you are speaking on the topic. If you are speaking about air pollution then it’s important to make audience aware about its causes before jumping to effects. it’s a good idea to add humor. it is important to research the topic well. you will determine the objective of your talk keeping in perspective the audience. Why? In order to convert your audience into dedicated listeners. The next important step. • When it comes to wording your message. you need to do is to plan a beginning. less is always more.
So. Don't stay stuck behind a podium. if you follow these useful tips: • • • • • • Understand the purpose of presentation. However. fall right back into the very trap. Don't talk too fast. and volume. when delivering the speech. Your second step should be to interact with the audience. but what we ought to be. Many of us do not like to see ourselves in the mirror at all. afraid of what we might see ourselves as – since we tend to define ‘successes and ‘failure’ in extremely conventional ways. No wonder most of us never feel good about ourselves. • Unforgettable Delivery You can make your speech or presentation unforgettable. when we look at ourselves in the mirror. the decision of ‘what we ought to be’ is not decided by the standards we set for ourselves. but by the straitjacket. Same is the case with the closing words. we see ourselves not for what we are. They should make an impact on the audience and force them to think on the topic you have just spoken about. While making a speech or presentation. Use a variety of vocal pace. it’s very important to connect with the audience. It’s essential to keep your body up-beat. the society carelessly throws us into. Ways To Feel Good About Yourself Most of the times. voice. tone. there are some simple rules that you can follow if you wish to feel good about yourself. when given the opportunity to do the same. Pauses play an effective role. Your first step is to maintain an eye contact with the audience while delivering the speech. We long to break free from all such pretentions. If your opening words are unable to bind the audience then you lose half the battle. Easy Ways To Feel Good About Yourself Here’s what you must do to feel good about yourself: Life’s No Enemy . pay as much attention to opening and closing words as you pay to the body of the speech. Use examples to bring key points of your speech to life. This will make your speech effective. Be precise and concise. while making a presentation. Nevertheless. this will open the channel of discussion and your audience will get involved. Ask questions to your audience. Here’s how to bring in the ‘feel good’ factor about yourself.• Always remember that your opening words and closing words make the most of the impact on the audience. yet.
” No matter how little you think you have. apply the following test. had a baby. Look around you and appreciate the things you do have instead of focusing on those you don't. Therefore. or at the very least. What we refuse to acknowledge is that there is always something that will make you feel better than you are right now. To inculcate a more positive outlook on life you need to understand that most people are way too busy managing their own lives to take the pains to hurt you.Most of us often feel that everyone on this earth. No matter how much you may try to match up to the lifestyle of someone else. there may be situation where making light of the situation could actually prove to be rather inappropriate. Being friends is far more pleasant than being enemies so why would they want to put so much energy into something they'd have nothing to gain from? The ‘Ha! Ha!’ Is On Me A good sense of humor is more important than being what most people consider "beautiful" in the conventional sense. The only problem with being too humorous is that not everyone will have the same sense of humor as you and can get offended. If you are constantly suspicious of others' motives and keep believing that they have some hidden agenda that involves hurting you. will it lead to swaraj [freedom] for the hungry and spiritually starving millions? Then you will find your doubts and your self melt away. Most people appreciate a sense of humor more anyway. humor has the potential to last far longer than physical traits. Will he [she] gain anything by it? Will it restore him [her] to a control over his [her] own life and destiny? In other words. which they consider to be not worth taking the pain. Meeting people would require them to be friendly. there will always be something else that would fall short. if the step you contemplate is going to be of any use to him [her]. you'll keep people at arm's length and never make new friends or improve the friendships you already have. Having a sense of humor can make it easier to be friendly even with strangers and makes tough situations less stressful. or when the self becomes too much with you. Green Isn’t Good Though most of us might believe that life will improve once we've bought a bigger house. Remember the talisman Gandhi ji gave. Recall the face of the poorest and the weakest man [woman] whom you may have seen. For the person who's trapped in his or her own shell of negativity. we find that it hasn’t. Likewise. Don't fall for it! If you get the things. is not a compliment that people give anyone. for this reason. the result is that they make any excuse to not go out in the world with a positive outlook. Also. and ask yourself. you'd like to have. The problem with the desire to have what others have. then good for you . “Whenever you are in doubt. been on a foreign holiday or re-decorated the living room.just don't let them hinder your chance of happiness along the way. “Your sense of humour is wonderful”. which you believe you too have a right to possess is that those wishes never diminish. much to our chagrin. there are people not far from you who are far worse off than you are! . while “You are pretty or good looking” is a compliment that is as carelessly thrown around as any pleasantry. some people are out to get us. it is best if you try to feel out the people around you before you start joking around.
If the person you choose is your good friend. People who know the language well modify their language by using idioms. as you cannot learn everything. if the conversation is in common language. Knowledge of English will help a person develop his/her self confidence by giving them the power to take part in conversations. It takes years of exposure to the language for someone to modify the language according to the situation. Practice using new words in real situations by integrating them into conversations. English is quiet easy to follow as it has aspects of several languages in it. Try and learn even the antonyms and the synonyms of each word and the correct structure in which you can use the word. In fact in the present era. decide and put aside the vocabulary and the sentence construction which is ideal for you to learn. English has become the most common language and widely spoken language in the world today. Do not try and use any such phrases or idioms till the time you are confident of their correct usage. Tips To Speak English Fluently • The first and foremost step towards speaking English fluently is to decide the purpose of learning the language. Language helps in communicating and conversing with one another. and slangs depending on the situation. phrases. Choose a friend or a partner with whom you can practice speaking the language. Having a person who knows English to speak to will help you improvise your usage of words and formation of sentences. then learning becomes easier. Try and avoid any form of grammatical errors when speaking.How To Speak English Flu ently Language is the tool used for conveying and expressing feelings and emotions. as you have your own comfort zone with them. Depending on your use of the language. Learning English and speaking it fluently is an easy task. It is only through enough • • • • • . even if English is not someone’s mother tongue. Determine whether you want to learn the language just for day to day use or for a specific purpose. Pick up around ten words and sentences from the particular area everyday and practice them thoroughly. Depending on your need of the language choose the version or level you will have to master. The trick here will be to use simple recognized version of English by keeping the usage correct. Practice is the only key here. It is just a matter of your dedication and sincere efforts. It becomes easier to express and communicate with others. Grammar is the basic of any language which need to be mastered in order to speak the language accurately. therefore only little bit of hard work and dedication will make you fluent in the language. good command over English has become a necessity. which you as a beginner cannot expect to do.
Best Ways Of Cheering Yourself Up • Put on your favorite music and dance out your worries. Getting rid of your past and all your worries will give you an immense sense of freedom and will give you the confidence that the future holds only happiness for you. which will help you become fluent in its usage. leaving them with moments of gloominess. Some unaccomplished project or a simple household work. A spontaneous hug or a chubby little hand in yours will bring joy and add life to that moment. it becomes very necessary to them to make efforts to perk up and have some fun. do not let that stop you having fun. This lifestyle is but natural to bring along with it lots of worries and tensions for people. If you think that you cannot dance. They will make you love your life. might be continuously nagging you. Finish any such pending work. Spend some time with children. even if you don’t feel like smiling. forget about family and friends. leaving us with no time to smile and relax. Turn the music loud and dance to the beats. This will help in getting rid of the negative energy from your work place as well as your home and give space for some positive energy to flow in. One can make use of any such facility and get professionally trained in the language How To Cheer Yourself Up Almost all of us have faced a bleak moment or some kind of depression at one point of time or the other. This article will provide you with a few tips on how to get away from worries and cheer yourself up. • There are many institutions that provide both classes and online education for oral and written English. everyone is so busy and preoccupied with living life that they hardly take out time for even his/her own self. in our life. Push back all your worries by forcing a smile. in the present world. It is an undeniable fact that clearing out what you no longer want makes life easier. Once you are done with the task. This is a proven fact that if you think and act as if you are happy. which you hate to do. In fact. reward yourself with something that you love.practice that you will be able to get the grammar correct. it will surely make you feel good. you will start feeling happy and be able to get rid of any worries. say an aromatic bath or a bunch of flowers and • • • • . This will trick your brain into thinking that you are happy. instead of putting it off. Put aside or clear out all the clutter around you. Their natural zest for life is infectious and will cheer you up as well. Sing at the top of your voice instead and continue to enjoy yourself. There might be some worries bothering us every now and then. At such times.
chocolate. Try and talk out your problem to one of your friends. Make something! Be a bit creative and bake a cake. however. Take up something new. especially when everything else seems to be so right and perfect! Just taking life with a pinch of salt. The reality is often less stressful than sitting alone worrying about it. rather than thinking negatively about it. Needless to say. learn a new game. watch comedies. The peace of mind that comes from having got the job done will be the greatest relief and reward of all. Having fun and getting involved with friends will help cheer you up. setbacks are not something we like to put up with. my day is going to be great. Visit an old friend. Have fun when you are down. Plan out a day with him/her and have a blast. there is no need to despair and think that someone has jinxed you. This will not only occupy your mind. If there is a situation that is worrying you the whole day long. and go in for a drink. rather visualize it with some new excitement waiting for you. Visualize yourself successfully completing the new project and the benefits it will bring to your life. but will help develop high self-confidence and self-esteem. narrate your experiences. redecorate your room. Or. this will help reduce your burden and give you space to think logically. plan a garden. Endorphins induce a feeling of euphoria and change your mood from sad and dark to happy and bright. only to find out that she is engaged to someone else. in your body. Indulge in exercise or perform yoga whenever you feel you are down with a worry. • • • • • • Dealing With Setbacks You have worked long and hard towards that right moment to propose to the girl of your dreams. might get the ball back in your court! . Share jokes.just to find that your colleague has got that much awaited promotion! Do such scenarios sound familiar to you? If they do. Play games. put on the daily jokes option on your mailbox or simply throw a party. Never think that your day is going to be boring and lethargic. get rid of it. Learn a language. sketch a portrait. or paint a landscape. Almost all of us have faced setbacks at some or the other point of time in our life. It will help you release the “feel good chemicals” called endorphins. • Think positive and keep repeating to yourself whenever you leave the house that ‘today. it is going to be a lot of fun’. Spending some time with your old friend will bring back the young and cheerful person in you. take music lessons or do something you always wanted to do. This will help you come out of your worries. you put your heart and soul into your work . Let your feelings flow out in a painting or a drawing. trace your family history.
Keep a tab over your feelings and look out for possible signs of despair. At such times. accept them and then take steps to rid your system of these feelings. we conjure up impressions of things that are far beyond the reality. setback is just a phase of life that is likely to get over soon. It will give you a chance to start over once again and do things in the right way. a misunderstanding with your spouse.Remember. The low would soon disappear. try to think of all the right things you have done. when suffering from setback. Look for opportunities to come out of it and work your way to success. better person. look towards tomorrow. Doing this can go a long way in helping you dissipate your anxiety. Holding yourself in the midst of adversity and fighting out of it will just make you a wiser. things may not be as bad as they seem. and strong enough to correct them’. at times. The only thing that overcomes hard luck is hard work. your own fault anything that might have caused the setback needs to be figured out.says Maxwell. consider and act. Often. An objective consideration of the situation may help you to assess it better and take the right corrective measures. it is better to distance yourself from them. Running away from your problems is no way to deal with them! Acknowledging your problems is the first big step towards solving them. there is hardly any reason to despair. Once you have a smile back on your face and are feeling good about yourself. How To Deal With Setbacks • ‘A man must be big enough to admit his mistakes.” • • • • Personal Goals In Life The moment we are born. Just let go off all feelings. evaluate. Instead. Stay positive. a street-brawl. assess. distress and dejection in yourself. If you have suffered a slowdown in life. smart enough to profit from them. Think before taking the escape route. By the . hold your ground. Remember. including ourselves. in order to gain an accurate perspective. Remember. Once you have done so. Here are some boosters for you to take heed of. we join a competition and end up competing with everyone around. you can start making lemonade. A bad day at work. When the situations seem drab. Instead of concentrating on wrongs. “when life gives you lemon. Failures can make our reasons go for a toss. It is likely to get you nowhere. Don’t be harsh on yourself. rather your unwillingness to accept it and refuse to give things a try is. The next step is to understand the cause behind the setback. failure is not a setback. Read on and know all about dealing with the setbacks that have been plaguing for life for sometime now. Don’t sit and cry over your failures.
even as they work and earn. Many of us do not know that goals are to be changed and ‘updated’ from time to time. It is like asking yourself the very typical interview question – where do you see yourself after a stipulated amount of time. If you plan to buy or build a house or acquire other assets. when you can do it or when you can devote time to it and how long would it take you to do so. You should know when it is time for you to enhance your knowledge or acquire some new skills. Goals are supposed provide a definite direction to our lives and help us identify our final destinations. There is no point in reaching stagnation in your career and studies prove that people cannot be satisfied with their jobs or professions until it offers them challenges and more responsibilities at regular intervals. Financial When you set out to work and began to work. You should have a clear idea about where you wish to reach in your life. which will decide the way we live our lives. Some people might decide to get a certain degree or attend classes after many years of having worked just to keep themselves updated about what is happening in the industry. How To Set Personal Goals In Life Here are some ways to decide upon various personal goals that you may want to set for yourself. what all you will need for it and so on. we feel that something is missing. contrary to that notion. You might also want to know what you do with that money. most of us might think that goals are only associated with career. That is because we reach stagnation after that. So many of us set goals at a time when we should be enjoying. You could device your own priority list. Others may want to start with the profession only after they have acquired that knowledge. you could set your goals with first priority on something else – you must remember that these are not in the order of importance or significance.time we are old enough to boast of surging hormones. you must have thought of the amount of money you will need to build a home of your own. you may have to plan ahead as to how much money you will have to save for it. so that you can cut down on wasteful expenditure. we are asked to set our goals. Community Service Many youngsters. Career You must have set goals about the profession that you are following. support many causes that may touch a chord with them – some of them may want to associate themselves with AIDS . they might want to get a six pack abs! Here are a few personal goals that will make your lives worthwhile. Employers also invest more in people who know where they are headed. It is one goal that you cannot afford to lose track of. and by the time we think we have achieved all our goals. Even as a person aims to reach to a certain level in their career. Education This refers to any kind of knowledge that you may want to acquire. goals are all-encompassing and are also include the personal and familial life of a person. Though education features first on the list. Also. You may want to keep track of your daily expenditure to know how much money is going in which direction.
These cravings could range from something as simple as food to bigger things. parents-in-law too. you tend to go through emotional turmoil. a desire that you feel you just can’t control? This desire is called a craving. the ones they were a part of. be painful and even exhausting. no matter what the craving is for. preparing to lend services as a volunteer for various activities or so on. at times. it is better to chalk out an action plan as well. I know because I’ve done it thousands of times. How To Control Your Cravings • No matter what you are craving for. but to no avail. You have to know how much time and energy to devote for the family. at times. your spouse. It is something that your heart longs for and as long as the longing remains unfulfilled. However. It could be in ways like helping your child with his physics lessons or helping your wife cook lunch every day because she is going through a painful menopause! It could also be in the form of taking care of ageing parents or. . your siblings. These responsibilities are not only in the material sense and go beyond the monetary duties. such as smoking. Read on to explore how to deal with cravings. because there might be something that you might be trying to resist for quite sometime. your children. Mark Twain once said: “Giving up smoking is the easiest thing in the world.” This quip might strike a responsive chord in you. make sure you stick to it. as well as. Trying to curb these cravings could. You should also know why you are associating yourself with the cause and how much time you can devote to the cause as a volunteer and in which way you can contribute to the cause that is close to your heart – whether it is spending some time with homeless veterans at Helpage homes. When you have decided to take active steps. Family Men and women have responsibilities towards their families. remember that there is a big difference between desire to fight the craving and actually taking steps to fight it. have a strong desire to do or to get something. You will need to ask yourself what kind of responsibilities you have towards your family members. your parents. Whatever be the cause that you want to associate yourself with. following some simple tips to control it will help you win the fight against your inner drives and desires. sometimes even parents-in-law. This is especially true when you are trying to fight a bad habit. and face frequent relapses.awareness or may spend some time taking care of differently abled children or some others may want to lend a hand at the Helpage India Foundation. which is your prime reason for earning a living How To Deal With Cravings Do you. such as drugs and tobacco. the families that they build.
if you concentrate to control your thought process. You will find that. reading recipes of burgers. You may have heard that there are two kinds of thoughts. If you feed your mind with good thoughts. There might be triggers that set them off. Each of your thoughts have immense energy that can empower you to achieve whatever you want to. in time. so that you do not come across these triggers. He is one author who wrote many books about the power of positive thinking. you will need to give yourself time to get over them completely. analyze situations that you can avoid. Inform your family and friends about how you are trying to deal with them. Write down the triggers besides each individual craving. Some of them might stem from habits that have been developed over years. Once you have identified the triggers. habits or desires. Therefore. pizzas and foods with high caloric content will get you craving for them. Keep yourself busy. Remember that you will not be able to overcome your cravings overnight. as you keep yourself busy. if you are on a diet. Expect relapses and do not be too hard on yourself. if you feel that you cannot handle your cravings on your own. if you give in to cravings periodically. Take a few minutes everyday to reflect on how successful you have been. If there were relapses. write down the circumstances led to them. self esteem and sound health while your bad thoughts can ruin you gradually. Good thoughts are called as positive thoughts and bad ones as negative thoughts.• Write down the cravings that tend to overtake you most frequently. being the cause of aggravating or triggering off your cravings. You can achieve the whole world if your mind is in your control and if you feed it with . which are associated with earlier memories. Positive thinking has worked miracles in the life of terminally ill people. you will find that the intensity of cravings has reduced. For example. Monitor your progress. Thoughts are tiny packets of energy. high confidence. they will give you peace of mind. when you gave in to cravings. the chances of your mind relapsing into an idle state are less. You will find that. The mind takes time to heal and so do the cravings. at fighting off the craving. you will be able to have better control over them and fight them completely • • • • • How To Utilize The Positive Power Of Thinking Norman Vincent Peal may be the first person who comes to your mind when somebody talks about ‘the power of positive thinking’. In time. They can be included among the triggers and you can try your best to avoid those circumstances. Get the help of others. Be realistic and balanced. even unwittingly. This will help them avoid. until you have better control over yourself.
have a good time and feel comfortable at parties. It can prove to be an impressive tool for flirting as well. You should walk like a king. If you think of those things. you might end up being a snob. Read on the article to know more about how to utilize the positive power of thinking. People will start listening to you when you talk things with an air of confidence and authenticity.good and beautiful thoughts. You should think of yourself as the best person ever born on the face of earth. You will gradually become darling of the masses • • • How To Have A Witty Conversation Being witty in your conversation is a significant way to showcase your intelligence. they would grow in your mind’s soil. If you put seeds of virtue and peace. a witty conversation is best when your audience too is an intellectual match. If done rightly. Compliment yourself as much as possible. humor and knowledge to your listeners. According to ancient sages. This limitless thinking will provide you more richness in material and spiritual sense. Think of the good things you commit in your life. It is the lack of control on your mind which makes the weed of negative thought grown in your mind. On other hand. If your listener isn’t able to grasp your wittiness. It helps you make friends. if you put the seeds of negative thoughts in your mind. It takes high stress to convince yourself that you are doing well but you should take burden for being a person with positive thinking. Basically a compliment is a chicken soup for a human soul. mind is almost like a garden. you will also feel good about yourself. Never wear a posture of a tired and inferior person in your life. • One effective exercise that can help one to develop a good attitude is giving more compliments to people. There is a mentality in majority of the human beings that they think themselves as very bad people which in fact they are not. Tips To Build & Use Power Of Positive Thinking • You should feed your mind with positive thoughts and good things will happen in your life. it is an effective way to impress. Nonetheless. they can affect you adversely. They will feel better and they will treat you better. compliment them for it from heart. . which you never dreamt of. It can be a reason for failure in life. it would lead you to high guilty conscious which can burn your inner peace forever. When you shower people with compliments. You should think borderless and limitless. Think of the good things your neighbor or your friend did in life. network and ease the tension. This will make you feel better about yourself and that will reflect in every activity you do in life. Never keep a bad image about yourself in your mind. Never think of the negative things which you happened to commit in your life. This image will help you to gain more confidence and it will reflect when you talk things. This will give you more confidence and will reflect in your body language. Your new confident personality can achieve you more friends in your work place or in college.
Be sure to match your speech with the person who is conversing with you. You would be respected. This will also show that you have been listening to the person. Familiarize yourself with words and sharpen your vocabulary. A commonly known. intelligent people are often stereotyped as wearing glasses. Do not laugh unless the opposite participant makes an equal witty or funny comment. Be a good listener. Use of the right body language will be an added advantage. physical humor such as props can also be appropriate. Study and notice your audience. as you have spoken other people's mind. A playful smile and a raised eyebrow could add on a nice touch. wherever applicable. by comparing his/her statement to something else. be sure that the other person too understands your reference. Do not hesitate to make comments that may not be typical to you. The wittiness not only demands creativeness on how you link ideas and draw comparisons. Reflect the words of the other person in a different way. Read on further to know how you can be witty. Observe the speakers and pick up humorous comments that other people would probably not notice. the better you look. to make it look like saying them comes naturally to you. Be quick as well as creative in your replies. Be careful on your witty gestures. In some situations. Use relevant quotations from various books. it would do good to use phrases from his/her language. Keep your witty remarks in a casual tone. Use puns wherever required. in responding.or just plain weird. In case you are talking to someone from another country. The more trendy and up-to-date you are. How To Be Witty While Conversing • • • • • • • • • Do not laugh at yourself. . Although this will make the statement wittier. Be careful on jokes. but also how quick you are. Be attentive. • • • • • Tips • Do not make the same references over and over again. A beret or another hat will also help in. movies or significant and famous personalities. Dress yourself to enhance your wit. since every person has a different sense of humor. Maintain a straight face. while in a conversation. Your witnesses will start doubting your wittiness and intelligence.
instead of fretting about what you do not have. Here are some tricks that could lead us straight to positive outlook. temporary and self destructive. we are often told by our friends and loved ones. It may give you temporary relief to think of yourself as a victim. Tips To Maintain A Positive Outlook Here are some things that will help you develop and maintain a positive outlook: Humour It isn’t necessary to take life too seriously all the time – you can let go and laugh away life’s little miseries like missing a bus or train or spilling coffee on your dress. It makes you feel like you are perpetually the victim and never lets you think about what you could do to improve the situation. In any circumstance that may elicit a negative response from you. try to think about and concentrate on what you could have lost and did not. the relief is. This is considered low and insensitive. you may also take the bigger challenges that life throws at you with minimum negativity or anger. If you start by taking these little things less seriously. Getting Rid Of Self Pity Wallowing too much in self pity and feelings that hold you back from progressing in the right direction are detrimental to your development as a person. Now that we all accept that tragedy can affect the most happy-go-lucky people and it is only in the perspective wherein the difference lies. This way.• • Do not use your wittiness to put people down. many of whom do not know what it really means. If a chain snatcher snatched your gold chain. we must explore some of the traits and tricks that such people possess to get over all negativity. you will appreciate what you do have and will value it better. . however. try to be thankful for what you did not lose. Gratitude It is important to be thankful to God for everything that you have. Do not try too hard to be witty. be thankful he did not hurt you. Not all people would like wittiness in their everyday conversations about work and other nuances Positive Thinking Tips And Tricks “Be Positive”. No matter how big the tragedy is. not to mention to your natural state of happiness. What are the character traits of those who think positive or maintain a positive outlook? Do they just go around saying “Aall Izzz Well” like the refrain from the runway hit 3 Idiots? What makes them so chirpy all the time? Why does negativity not affect them like it does to others? How would they handle a news or situation that normally invokes feelings of negativity from others? These are some of the questions that people ask themselves when they think about those who always seem to find something positive about everything.
Develop Positive Affirmations Make positive affirmations and statements about yourself that make you feel good and better about yourself. That it happens to majority of us doesn’t imply that it need not be worked upon.Reaching Out Many people who were often plagued by negative thoughts and self destructive behaviour and thoughts. Low self-esteem is a constant companion for some. You can also add your achievements in life and your simple accomplishments. find all their negativity melting away when they reach out and help someone and make that person feel better about themselves. You follow it too. try and reach out to someone who may need you and try to help them see the better side of their situation. negativity. Self Esteem Building Activities Most people think bad about themselves from time to time. Depression. read the article to find some activities to help you on the same. List some of your strengths and a few things that you admire about yourself. Never lose the faith with which you began your life with – a child does not know mistrust. Belief No matter what the situation is. In case you wish to know how to build self esteem and thwart negative thoughts about yourself. It is very important to find something in you that you can be proud of. However. anxiety. Find inexpensive and simple ways to reward yourself for all your achievements and accomplishments. I am a good person. Be childlike in your belief in yourself but at the same time be realistic about your goals and achievements. disbelief or cynicism. Belief is. belief in your abilities and in the fact that everything will be alright in the end will heal you of all the negativity and self destructive behaviour. Your feeling of low esteem may be triggered by a critical remark or being treated badly by others. malice. Make sure to leave all your own negativity behind when you reach out to the other person or else your negativity might transfer to them too. by far the most powerful positive feeling that has the capacity to heal any emotional wound. Ways To Build Self Esteem Create Affirming Lists Making a list about your strengths and positive aspects and rereading them often will make you feel better and positive about yourself. Some such positive affirmations can be: • • I feel god about myself. psychosis. belief in yourself. don’t let it become a reason for your arrogance as everyone is unique in some way. delusional thinking may also accompany them as all these issues are interrelated. phobias. . who are simply too judgmental about themselves. Think of ways you would like to feel about yourself and make such statements to yourself.
I spend time with people who make me feel good about myself and are nice to me. Books can be great source of motivation and inspirational books can serve to foster positive thinking and encourage one to think and feel better about oneself. You can also share the points mentioned in the list with others whenever you feel like it. To look at it constructively. You may find many such books in stores. do exercise and do other things that I enjoy doing. . you will definitely find something adorable about yourself. Remember that n body is perfect and people can just strive to achieve perfection. You might as well find some solution to help yourself through these books How To Cure Loneliness A thin line separates the distance between being lonely and being alone. However when people are forced to loneliness they experience extreme emptiness and unworthiness. Though there might be many things that you don’t like about yourself. so that whenever you chance upon reading it your selfesteem gets a high. Read Inspirational Books Read books that inspire and motivate you to look at yourself in a positive light.• • • There are many people who like me. This can make you feel under-confident. Loneliness is a state of mind. a means of self discovery. I am taking good care of myself. Make copies of the list and keep them at several places. There is a whole range of inspirational books that thrust upon the fact that being judgmental about oneself brings down the self-esteem of a person. You can also create a list of positive affirmations and keep it handy and read it whenever you feel low on confidence or indulge in self-pity. I eat right and healthy. Some people fall into a depression because of loneliness while some nurture their creativity through it. Your special attributes. Sometimes. talents and achievements are the reasons you should be confident and selfassured. you should focus on your positives. Most people tend to be someone else and their self identity becomes the first casualty in the process. Try To Reinforce A Positive Self-Image Instead of feeling low and demeaning yourself over some of your drawbacks. One of the main reasons for people staying lonely is that they don’t have the strength or the inclination to move away from it. loneliness is the path to oneself. Loneliness mean different for different people. This is all fine when loneliness is voluntary and there are options from breaking away from it. which will help you to cultivate self belief and selfesteem. you can feel lonely in a crowd and at other times you busy with yourself even while you are alone.
Your work will be the best antidote to medicine. If you can. Don’t do things that make you feel lonely like reading depressing books and watching sad movies. instead they make you even lonelier. In this way you can be more active and also get to meet other people. Don’t withdraw yourself when you can go out and have fun. Sometimes the environment around you can drive you to loneliness. Boredom breeds loneliness. If you are working then lose yourself in the work. like a cramped house or an unhealthy neighborhood. Just go out and do something. Indulge in sports or go gyming. Cultivate the habit of reading as it is the best solution against boredom. Cultivate a hobby. Find something that interests you so that it keeps your mind away from your loneliness. Being happy and cheerful is the sure shot way of driving away loneliness. These are no solution for loneliness. If your house is bright your mood will be light. Remember that loneliness is a choice and you always have the option of choosing otherwise. Read books and watch movies that lighten up your mood • • • • • • • • How To Get Out Of A Bad Mood . Help people who feel lonely and you would cure yourself of loneliness.G Wodehouse and you will see time flying by. strike a friendship with them . being near them will lift your spirits up. There are many people who are lonely and trying to cope with it. Go for a peaceful neighborhood where you will have more chance of making friends. So. Don’t fall into the drug or alcohol trap. Try to stay near people as much as possible. You can join a club or volunteer for some nonprofit organization. if you are one of those people who consider loneliness a burden then read the article below to know how to cure loneliness. • Get involved in your neighborhood activities. In order for you to get involved it would require some time and a lot more attention from your part. To constantly dwell on the fact that you are lonely won’t help you in curing it. Take a house that is airy and full of light. Try to organize neighborhood get together and charity events. How To Handle Loneliness • The best way to cure loneliness is to keep yourself busy.It becomes a part of their lives. Even if you are unacquainted with any of the people. Try P.
It helps you be positive. doing paperwork or watching a movie will divert your thoughts for a while. when we are in a bad mood. When you are in a bad mood. Music is known to be one of the best ways to relax. as the competitive spirit would be too intense. If you have close family members or friends. a whole mental paradigm shift has to take place. Cleaning. it is best to divert your thoughts. This will not only help us become more relaxed. was a world champion swimmer who won eight gold medals in the 2000 Olympics. Discussed ahead are a few ways on how to get out of bad mood. you feel that talking to someone about your personal thoughts is not possible. In order to deal with a bad mood. In case. While some people maintain diaries. This negative reaction is harmful for us as well as our loved ones and a conscious effort has to be made to change the mindset. When Phelps was asked about this comment. he said there are three things that make him mad and put him in a bad mood. also known as ‘Thorpedo’. He had commented that the upcoming champion. but will also provide a less stressful environment for the people around. Ways To Snap Out Of A Bad Mood Quickly • When you are in a bad mood. you could also vent out your frustration. muscle soreness and taunts from Ian Thorpe’. they write blogs. It is bad to bottle up your negative feelings and speaking them loud in front of a loved one will surely help you feel better. towards positive thoughts and actions. Occupy yourself with something else. Comments from strangers on your thoughts. ‘fatigue. In most situations. someone who is neutral and will listen to you without giving judgment. diverted them to positive actions of achievement. as you get to travel through the melody that pleases your ears as well as your mind. not all of us have such a strong personality.he performed. he participated in eight events and won gold medals in each one of them! It is great to see the sportsmanship with which Phelps dealt with his negative feelings and constructively. In the 2008 Olympics in Beijing. Phelps did not let Thorpe get the better of him . which is very much required to get out of a bad mood. give that non-judgmental third person point of view. we tend to lash out at others (through blatant or passive aggression) or become self destructive.Ian Thorpe. Any activity that is mechanical or mundane will help in getting you immersed into thinking of nothing in particular. but would not be able to win eight gold medals at the Beijing Olympics. It is a known fact that a person’s true personality comes out during bad moments. Take a walk or change the scene. Michael Phelps did have incredible ability. But. through blogs. Being in the place or in front of the person who put you in a bad mood will only rekindle the negative feelings that you are • • • • . However. in today’s Internet age. until your mood improves. what you need is a ‘sounding board’. Playing your favorite tune is relaxing and tends to calm nerves as well. you could write them down. We have to inculcate in ourselves the ability to redirect our negative feelings.
When we are in fear we tend to see images and the best way to drive these is to counter it. Suddenly some stories and incidents come to mind that shouldn’t be thought in the dark. painting or anything that interests you and lets you retain your peace of mind How To Overcome Fear Of The Dark Everyone has faced this. Fair enough. You are alone in a room and suddenly the lights go out. The problem is that fear numbs the mind so much that the person cannot exercise his or her logical faculties. In situations like this investigation can drive away your fears. In this way you can counter your fear with facts. If you can’t switch on the lights then throw something at it. See In The Dark Since darkness is the best friend of fear it is always better to locate a source of light. switch on the lights and see what the shadow is. start picturing to yourself the various object near you. However. In that case some other person must take the responsibility of explaining that the fear is illogical. More often than not you will manage to drive out a cat or your sibling. Children. its very necessary to get rid of this fear. overdoing physical activities when you are down may not be advisable. It affects both children and adults alike. fear the dark and it shouldn’t be any cause for worry. In case you cannot find any. Shadows hold the darkest secrets. creative outlets like pottery. Getting some fresh air or maybe a cup of coffee will give you space to distract yourself and clear your head. Since you cannot see anything in the dark. Instead of sitting. It is a tendency inherent in man to fear that which is not known. the unknown. but after sometime a sinking feeling sets in. Gradually the victim must be taught to apply logic to the situation. Try activities like dance. You are confronted with unknown terrors that cannot be banished through rational thought. when you are in a bad mood. And say . Investigate You see a shadow in the corner and curl up on the bed not daring to go to the next room. like a pillow. Read the article below to know how you can overcome the fear of the dark. The fear that something indescribable “is always near” is forever in the mind. So. That’s the power the dark has over us. naturally. the mind conjures up images that reflect our greatest fear. • It is also good to exercise. Tips For Overcoming Fear Of Dark Logic Fear may be emotional but in most cases it is not logical. but when the fear starts leading towards the irrational then it is classed as a phobia called nyctophobia.trying to divert.
act as if you are not alone. Better still sing as you can make yourself oblivious to the fear. In this way when you are faced with fear you can relax your selves and think about these things. From afar it might look like a privilege to lead the masses but reality is something else. You need to be focused and completely dedicated to frame yourself as a leader. Tips To Develop Natural Leadership Qualities • Constant or periodic evaluation of one’s strength and weaknesses is very essential to set the foundations of leadership. . To know more about how to develop leadership skills go through the info given below. You also need to keep yourself inspired and motivated . How To Be A Natural Leader One very often comes across this phrase from the popular movie ‘The Spiderman’ – With great power comes great responsibility. As long as you don’t realize fear. In therapy the root cause of the fear is analyzed and the patient is slowly brought to terms with it. Like you can say that “on my right is the TV”. Read inspirational books or anything that warms the heart. goes a long way in driving it. For most of us this is just a popular phrase and often we tend to overlook the inner meaning of these words. Relax Learn to relax. you won’t have fear. either in singing or in talking. you also need to get yourself acquainted with different situations and conditions. One will be able to perform better only when one is aware of one’s drawbacks and shortcomings. In addition to that. At the same time. Psychotherapy If the fear is extreme then psychotherapy is advised. The therapy goes on or an extended period of time and varies from individual to individual.them aloud. It requires a combination of a number of qualities and skills. Also remember that silence heightens the fear and so hearing your own voice. Thrillers and mystery novels are great as they engage your complete attention. The trick is not to remind yourself of the fear. It is truly a great responsibility to lead and direct people in life and in any situation. Talk to yourself like you would talk to a friend. it is equally important to be aware of one’s potential as this acts like the motivation or the driving force to keep one going. Sing Or Talk Sounds funny but when you are alone and fear grips you. “on my left is the cupboard” and so on and so forth till you can visualize everything.
it is not necessary that you actually mimic their actions. In our day to day life we come across people. walk with the knowledge that you are never alone. You can either seek the direct help of the mentors or try to figure out their line of thoughts and actions. It is only through such constructive criticism that one can aim to inculcate and adopt the inherent characteristics of a natural leader. You may . However. It is only when you truly assess a situation can you think of leading others in a particular situation. It totally depends on you how you gain control over your anxieties and lead a life that is inspiring for others. it is but natural that you will come across qualms. Consider every obstacle. Books are a great way to come across different kinds of opinions and ideas and get different types of outlooks about a particular issue. This synchronization leads towards a faultless balance that is called poise. for beautiful lips.” This line was said by Audrey Hepburn. Learn to judge a situation in terms of both pros and cons and act accordingly. Learn to gain control over your fears. suspicions and worries. • • • • • How To Improve Poise “For beautiful eyes. speak only words of kindness. Yes. Mental poise is achieved through calmness and the strength of will power of the mind. It is extremely vital that you understand how such people think and act in order to inculcate their ways. they try to come to a conclusion in a timely manner. and nothing sums. All you need to do is establish a fine connection between your own ideas and the already established ones of proven natural leaders. Rather. buckling under stress and anxiety. It requires frequent appraisals and refurbishing. The ability to make quick and sensible decisions is very important for a leader.• Natural leaders take in-depth information about their surroundings and assess people around them. It should be kept in mind that a leader never dilly-dallies or puts off issues. Knowledge is the key to all answers and one can only gain information through regular and constant reading. and for poise. losing complete control over their body and mind. poise is the control that the mind has over the body and reversely the body over the mind. pursue mentors to help you in the process. where the mind and body is in perfect coordination. It is not mandatory that you agree to and follow each and every instruction jotted on paper. It is only through a better understanding of your surrounding environment can you aspire to influence them with your words and actions. Being human. every failure as a stepping stone which will lead you closer to your goal as a leader. Leadership is not a quality that is absolute and complete. look for the good in others. Try to follow the example of other leaders and if possible. You can also critically evaluate these issues either personally or with a group. both mental and physical poise more beautifully. and physical poise through health andfitness of the body.
Sit on your knees with the heels spread apart. Then lend a little more and breathe evenly. Don’t take undue panic. • This is known as the swan pose (hamsasana). If you constantly get freaked out your poise is going to suffer. in solving the problem. with the palms facing backward spread the arms out. • • • • Don’t Judge Yourself Relax • Hold Your Head High . This will help you to utilize all your mental faculties. At the shoulder level. Don’t see your flaws through the magnifying glass and criticize yourself constantly. Have a clear purpose and a strong desire. Repeat a few times relaxing in between. This results in a balance against gravity creating a state of extreme lightness. one at a time. This will help you to make peace with yourself and be more confident. Now bend and place the hands on either side of the right leg. and rise on your toes and then inhale and exhale. Spread the legs while standing up straight. Lead forward. Mental Poise Improvement Concentration • • Be comfortable with what you are doing and give your hundred percent attention. Release and repeat for the left leg.ask why poise is so necessary. Focus on a place in the ground and hold the breath for some time. Think of the benefits and interest yourself in your work. and lift the left leg and straighten it. Stay calm and composed. This is known as the crane pose (bakasana). Now straighten the right leg. Bring your right foot to the front and bend it at the knee. Tips For Improving Poise Physical Poise Improvement • To improve the physical poise the bird yoga poses are especially good for creating a lightness of the body. Keep your feet together and stand straight. read the article below so that you can know how you can improve your poise. Slowly stretch the legs behind. Poise is necessary so that we can eliminate negative and destructive thoughts and focus on the positive and constructive ones. towards the ground and bend the elbows. This makes the life calm and composed. Now point the palm backwards. • This is known as the flying bird pose (panshee). Put your palms on the ground and placing the stomach on the elbows lean forward slowly till your forehead touches the ground. Above all show your commitment and belief. So.
That is why timid people have such a bad poise as they do not make eye contact Tips On Organizing Time Time cannot be managed per se. This will help you see what you have to do and how much time you will need to do it. Follow these simple guidelines to easily and efficiently manage time and reach your goals successfully. Thus. You will have a far more effective influence if you hold your gaze strong and make eye contact. you will feel that you have done a good job of managing your time. it will help you know how to get back on the task. time is required to accomplish goals. Stay Organized Stay organized by managing files on your computer as well as organizing household or office itmes. On accomplishing the tasks. be it in terms of your career or your family. in order to successfully implement propertime management. How To Organize Your Time Plan Ahead Plan your tasks for the day and know the time frame within which you have to complete them. It is important to use the right resources and stay focused on what you have to do. Have a Routine Trying sticking to a certain time frame everyday. as you cannot speed it up or slow it down. One of the most precious things. In case. This will help you save time that you would have otherwise spent on looking out for items you will require. This will keep you organized and it will be easier to manage time each day. Always Have a Plan . Compare this with the time you have in hand and try to organize the tasks properly. If something unexpected happens or some sort of interruptions take place. The only thing you can do is manage the way your spend your time. you haven’t completed them. you can experience failure. you will realize that the things did not have the right deadline or they weren’t really important. Know Your Priorities Place the most important things at the top of your list and give yourself time to get these things done. Read on further to explore tips on organizing your time. organizing time is essential for success. You can use this time to do other imortant tasks. You need to organize yourself to achieve your goals and do the things that you want and need to do. else.• Show your confidence by standing tall and head held high. as you will know where you have kept everything.
this will help you prevent problems and even the complaint that you didn’t have enough time to complete the task. Don’t Waste Time It is possible that procrastination and low motivation can come in the way of your accomplishing the goals internally. to accomplish your goals. It often happens that you are not spending enough time doing something or the goals are requiring more time than you had estimated. Save time by setting goals and how much time you will need to accomplish these goals. keep time for yourself as well. Do not spend too much time searching for something new. Have Extra Personal Time Whenever you plan out the day. For example. Track Your Time Keep a track of how much time you are spending doing certain tasks. How To Use Constructive Criticism . Use Right Resources Find and stick to one type of system or process that works best for you. refocus your goals and tasks for the next time. it is not possible for a writer to be both author and editor to his or her own work. Such a criticism is an integral part of our lives. Eventually. You will find plenty of people around you who are willing to support you in your tasks. ask for help from someone. Stay focused and do not let these interruptions influence you.Always know what your need to do and outline the time you need to do the task in. This will help you focus and find more energy for the rest of the day. which you can use to relax or have a meal. For an author. since you will be wasting time in accomplishing your goals. Constructive criticism is important as the feedback and support of others helps us to fully develop our talents. Utilizing Constructive Criticism Criticism is one of the most overlooked. as our work is incomplete beyond a certain limit. friends and extended conversations can end you off schedule. it is significant to receive advice for improvement and follow it without losing the soul of his or her writing. Externally. yet vital requirements for any person. Read on further to know how to utilize constructive criticism. Ask For Help In case you have lots of goals to accomplish and you are unable to find a way out to get them done. without constructive feedback to guide us.
but it should be noted that the discussion is not to convince him/her of your point of view. personality. . but to know how you can improve the clarity and impact of your work. Question your reviewer on why he disliked your stated views or work and how he would suggest you to improve your views/work found undesirable. a great deal of it is triggered by our tendency to not to be thankful enough for the good things we posses in life. The following approaches will help you to receive and utilize criticism in an easier and productive manner. If you can utilize your critic’s advice in your life without losing your own perception. you want to jump in and defend yourself. Make notes of all the reviews as they will help you summarize the feedback and rectify yourself accordingly. in order to learn to be more thankful. Learning to be thankful about the simple joys of life will make your life better and more fruitful. However. Try to keep an open mind and do not respond to comments instantly. Undue comparisons. this will sabotage the chances of your improving. behavior. the idea behind constructive criticism is to let your reviewer tell you what they think of that aspect. First is. Perhaps. Listen to your critics carefully. Read the article to find some useful tips on how to be more thankful and enjoy your life. you would be able to make the best possible use of constructive criticism How To Be More Thankful Life may seem unfair to most of us and the feeling of discontentment can raise its ugly head at the slightest provocation. to listen openly to everything that is being said about your work and second is to ask for clarification on anything that you may have not understood. Stay True To Yourself & Your Character Although constructive criticism is important. who reject criticism at the first instance. explaining the way you have set up a particular point. without compromising on your original being. Stay Open Avoid behaving like most other people. then only go ahead.Receiving constructive criticism includes two parts. If you interrupt your friends or reviewers while they are giving their honest thoughts. when you get responses to a particular aspect of your life. or anything else. note down scrupulous notes on everything they point out and jot down your own reactions. However. To be a good critic taker. remember that you are the ultimate authority on yourself. Your criticizer’s remarks may often be helpful to you. you have to fight such negative vibes and look at the brighter side of life. Receiving constructive criticism is often difficult for any person at all levels of experience. you have to craft a compromise between your intent and your criticizer’s views. Avoid interrupting or challenging until they have completed airing their views. a bad day at the workplace or a petty fight with your spouse can make you feel distressed and dejected. If you can do so. Keep Quiet Often.
feeling nervous before giving a speech is natural. You may be suffering from a dozen ailments. Be Grateful For The Opportunities You Got Appreciate the opportunities that you have had in life. but it is always better than the worst. Be grateful for what you have than cribbing over that it could have been better. persuading. or simply entertaining the audience. rejected and humiliated. but too much of the . even as you feel disheartened for some of your dreams not being fulfilled The Art Of Public Speaking One can define public speaking as “the process of speaking to a group of people in a structured. Look at people who have a poorer health than yours and you will realize how you are better off than a lot of people. translating to. but don’t disown the fact that you have a safe roof over your head. influencing. The very thought of forgetting the lines or saying something entirely wrong boils down to the fear of being publicly ridiculed. You just have to realize that you have so much to thank for. food to eat and other necessities. This is not to say that always draw such comparisons that make you feel better. Value Your Family & Friends The tendency to take people for granted equates to devaluing them. What you have in life may not be in proportion to your expectations. Don’t forget to be thankful to your friends and family just because they are always there. There are millions of people around. influence. Public speaking is also one of the human race’s greatest fears. for whom a meal per day is a luxury they can’t afford. Value The Material Benefits You Enjoy You may dream about owning a palatial home one day. informing. Be grateful for the numerous exciting opportunities that might have come your way and helped you to become what you are today. Consider yourself lucky to have things going your way. When was the last time when you thanked your family and friends for their constant support? They have always been around and have been your pillar of strength standing by your side in the toughest of problems. deliberate manner intended to inform. or entertain the listeners. whenever so happened.” It is a powerful tool used for motivating. You should be thankful for the current status of your health. you should always appreciate the fact that it could have been worse. We realize the value of certain things when we know that we can’t have them forever.Tips To Be More Thankful Appreciate Your Good Health No matter what your physical or mental health is like. but it should not stop you from being pleased with whatever you have got. To a certain extent. for there are many who continue to struggle all their lives.
clear and confident. Pause. as this will give you time to calm your nerves. informative and entertaining. You can get a family member or friend to observe your rehearsal and give a constructive feedback. These tips will help make the art of public speaking less stressful and create a more relaxed and confident you. so let it go off. as it can help you tailor what you will be speaking. Visualize Yourself Imagine yourself speaking loud. Practice using the microphone and other visual aids. This will surely give a boost to your confidence. Include humor and personal stories in your speech and use a conversational language. Practice many times. It is important to know about the group you would be talking to. Transform your nervous energy into enthusiasm. Set atimer and allow time for the unexpected. Ease yourself by speaking to a group of friends. do not apologize for any nervousness or problem. Visualize the audience clapping and agreeing to what you are saying. Relax Begin your speech by addressing the audience. Tips For Speaking In Public Know Your Material The first step towards mastering public speaking is choosing a topic of your interest. by your own doing. You can start with greeting some of the members when they enter. Practice Arrange all the equipment that you would be using and rehearse out loud. Do Not Apologize In case you have committed a mistake. It might be possible that the audience hasn’t even noticed it. Concentrate On The Message . Gather more information about the topic than what you are including in the speech. arrive at the location early and walk around the speaking area. Explore The Audience Most people overlook this strategy. Given below are some tips to control your butterflies and help you give better presentations. Do not make people criticize you. This will help you remember what to say. Get Acquainted With The Venue The day you have to indulge in public speaking. smile and count to three before saying anything. rather than strangers. stimulating. Practice while taking breaks. This will make you feel more confident. to attain the right flow and comfort level.same can prove to be detrimental. the audience always wants its speakers to be interesting. Remember.
or perhaps. If such women are to be made to sit at home. or cooking. Or. they may even enter into the destructive habit of self-pity. Hobbies You may have been a good singer but never found time to practice music all the while you worked. when they take a hiatus or after retirement. and not according to terms defined by their man. after getting married into a different state. especially those who are professionally inclined. It is thus. you may have loved to paint but never found time to. but also gives back a lot in terms of independent thought process and the ability to define themselves in their own terms. you must pursue your interests. painting. Now is the time. giving you the false notion that everyone else is responsible for your condition. Do not ever forget just how happy you felt singing. as these were the things that gave you peace of mind. Diamonds cannot teach you . which is the key to effective public speaking as well. It will turn you against the whole world. it is well said that a happy man is just one happy person. often get addicted to the newfound independence that comes with pursuing a career. In any case. they often feel wasted and purposeless. you have all the time in the world to pursue your interests. while it is only you. In this context. just the circumstances that are responsible for you having to stay at home. This emotional downturn affects their daily interactions with people within and outside the family circle. Since you need to be at peace now more than at any other time. If you do not love yourself. when they turn mothers. This will help make you successful. imperative for a woman to stay happy. experience will help you build confidence. even as she is at home. Many of them begin to sink into depression and blame their husbands or grown up children for their mood swings. Read on to learn how to stay happy even at home. the modern refrain is to replace the word “diamonds” with the word “internet” (!). Stay focused on your material and consider the audience as your friend.Divert your attention from your own anxieties to your message and audience. It is not only vulgar but also destructive. Gain Experience Your speech should characterize you as an authority as well as an individual. taking pictures. Ways To Stay Happy At Home No Pity The first thing to do is to come out of this apparently comfortable habit of pitying oneself. during a lay-off. Learn Something New Though the old saying was “Diamonds are a girl’s best friend”. whereas a happy woman equals a happy family. It teaches them a lot about life. How To Stay Happy At Home Women. you cannot expect others to love you. in fact.
than what is required to remain optimistic and hopeful. Diamonds cannot teach you how to make pepper rasam that you love but could never make. “laughter is the best medicine” . be proactive and decisive about your life and engage in active listening. View all challenging situations coming your way as opportunities. you can find humor even when some things go awry. Thus. you need more energy to worry and fret. Apply for an MBA or some other qualification. detect the source of your stress. You need to have a positive attitude towards people and life. bypass the diamonds and give yourself an internet connection. solving puzzles and riddles. Increase Self-esteem Think wisely and speak more positively about yourself. Choose to talk about your progress and not your troubles and set boundaries for yourself wherever necessary. Develop and implement relaxation techniques that will work for you. Study Contrary to what you might have thought. Study ahead and gain a few more qualifications. Reduce Stress Firstly. Staying mentally strong is not difficult. Remember. or even reading a book on a new subject.how to use Adobe Photoshop so that you can design birthday cards and other such things. . writing a short story. it was not your money but your knowledge that gave you all that power. Eliminate unnecessary stressors and accept situations that you have no control over. or learn a new language that would help you better your prospects when looking for a job. such as using your less dominant hand. This strengthens our resiliency to bounce back when we are confronted by hefty problems and issues. Read on further to know how you can become a mentally stronger person and stay mentally fit. You will feel more worthy and will have something to do through the day. if you feel the need to pamper yourself.because if you can laugh at yourself. it is essential to make efforts to improve our mental and emotional health too. How To Become A Mentally Stronger Person Just as we exercise our physical body. Rightly said. and then discover healthy coping mechanisms to overcome the same. Ways To Stay Mentally Sharp & Strong Exercise Your Mind Sharpen up your brain by doing simple tricks. all that matters is the choice you make.
Analyze and work on a challenge by drawing pictures. believe in yourself and create your life well. not loneliness. Many people often look down on others as if they are much better than everyone around and this starts the creation of division . dancing. smell. before narrowing down to a decision. researching. Be Resilient Make it a habit to bounce back from negative situations and throw out thoughts that no longer serve your purpose or are of no use to you. instead face it and feel the importance of what you are doing. by scheduling out time from your routine.Improve Coping Skills Have a positive attitude. knitting or woodworking. such as bike-riding. and renting funny movies. of taste. You can try downtime activities that are inexpensive. Appeal To All Your Senses When dealing with new material in your life. sight and hearing. Just because you do not want to deal with something. Build Strong Support System Engage with or choose people who have a positive attitude and keep away from the ones who drain your energy. do a life review and determine what’s out of balance and what can be done to correct it. Tap Into Your Creative Genius Start thinking out of the box and view situations from different perspectives. use your abilities. Frequently compare yourself with your own progress in the past and not with someone else’s. and so on. going to the library. Use your imagination and instincts to examine problems and solutions. writing. Spend Some Time Alone Spend some positive time in solitude. Maintain a sense of humor and work on your productivity. Develop a network of people that help you remain motivated and aligned with passion and purpose. Honor your natural talents. Analyze yourself. do not avoid it. Enjoy Leisure Activities Engage yourself in fun activities that bring you joy. drawing. passion and abilities by indulging into writing. How To Keep From Having A Judgmental Attitude It is in human nature to be judgmental. Try strengthening the relationship you have with yourself. touch.
Tips To Avoid Being Judgmental Remember Everyone Is Unique You need to remember that not every person you meet will be like you. People who have a judgmental nature often wish their beliefs. Avoid having a judgmental attitude of what others think and do in their private time. Hence. Often. assuming that we might end up losing our loved one’s respect. as in what they do or think. Know Judging Is Not Healthy Stressing yourself by thinking what you cannot change is simply risking your health. Close your eyes to all the unnecessary stuff and try to notice only what concerns you. Free Yourself It is not necessary to agree with the decision of other people. class. let others too enjoy their right of being free. Consider yourself being in that situation and then narrow down to a conclusion. it is essential to avoid being judgmental and build a bridge instead. we step back from expressing something different. Open Your Eyes To Truth When you find yourself looking at something that you don’t agree with. Read on further to know how you can keep from having a judgmental attitude. etc. This will help you in being critical of other people’s actions. While judging other. To top it all. but we shrink thinking what someone else would think or feel about us. they find it difficult to keep from having a judgmental attitude. if we keep in mind that even we don’t feel good about being judged. this is not at all something that affects us in one way or the other. This only tends to increase differences between two human beings. but you should learn to respect their right to feel and speak. their way of life on others. Avoid spending days and nights worrying about others. No effort is made to know the person or understand them either. Live your life to the fullest and let others find own peace in their life. Put yourself in their shoes and try to imagine their background. And most of the time. Reserve your energy for your own future use. Try To Be In Other’s Shoes We often have our own ideas that make us happy. it will save us from being critical. sexual orientations. remember that not everyone would agree with you either. A combination of these factors make the world seems alive. Close Your Eyes To Judgment We think of what other people are doing and judge them on that basis.between people. People come from different cultures. as this will only cause a lot of stress to you. Just as you would want to feel free. Remember and celebrate the fact that everyone is unique and not the same. their habits. They see people and pass judgment based on their looks or actions and often the opinion is not completely objective. faith. Learn To Love .
Millionaires make millions not by some sheer stroke of good fortune. Train your mind to ask for more. People who have made astronomical sums of money have worked hard to climb the monetary ladder. Smart minds know when to hit the nail right on the head. Think Positive & Be Confident Have you ever tried to find out how many skeptics have become millionaires? Just a handful! People who believe in themselves know how to take calculated risks and failures do not thwart their way. you need to adjust your daily behavior accordingly to ensure that those goals are achieved well in time.Once you have accepted a person for what he/she is. their different thinking. Unless you really learn what millionaires think and how they strategize. rich or poor and find the world becoming a much better place to live in How To Think Like A Millionaire What separates extremely successful people from the unsuccessful ones is nothing but. change your hatred to love. Be a positive thinker and plan you strategies while calculating the risks. Once a long term goal or objective has been visualized. While you should not lose yourself in the quest of success or money. it is important that you don’t feel satiated with what you have achieved so far. light skinned or dark. There are many people who think big. Don’t allow yourself to gloat on the initial gains and feel gratified. The biggest difference between successful and normal people is a positive thinking mind and a confident personality. Always remember that there are miles to go before you sleep! Discipline Your Thought-Process Thinking like a millionaire involves disciplining your mind and thought process. This article brings you some valuable tips on how to think like a millionaire. Thinking Like A Millionaire Think Long Term Successful people have a tendency to think long term and invest in the future. you will have trouble making heaps of money. If you have hated him/her in the past. Express your love to old or young. you will have to train your mind to think like the big shots. try loving and understanding him/her. Read on to know what it takes to have a millionaire’s mind. but very few who actually make it big. If your goal is to retire as a millionaire. You have to think of the long term consequences of the decision that you are taking at the moment and then take a final call. but by their superior thinking and strategic planning. male or female. Delay Gratification The feeling of fulfillment doesn’t come easy to millionaires or they would have never made millions in the first place. This is where .
disciplining your mind is factored in. the less time you have to think. we will accept any positive change in others and ourselves that we may encounter.” Make sure there are no traces of any memories of the hurt and all negative feelings towards that person have been completely dispelled. No one. however. it is the surest way to get someone off your mind. A structured and well-organized thought process will help you to develop a futuristic perspective. . Would it not be better if they found a way to get over the hurt. The moment we stop seeking solace in being a victim. The best way to do it is to stop loving the image of victim that we have created for ourselves. Ways To Get Someone Off Your Mind Busy Bee The busier you are. Forgive And Forget Though this may seem easier said than done. especially about something or someone who left you with negative feelings. you will find it easier to rid the memory of the person who caused it too. and the person who caused them that hurt. No Pity! It is very convenient to wallow in the sewer called ‘self pity’. Think over where you want to set the limit and to what extent will you stretch yourself to realize your dreams. Even if it is completely clichéd a sentence to utter. or at least till their near and dear ones allow them to. to forgive divine. save you. In the long run. purposefully or unknowingly. it would be good. When you do not carry the negative feeling and have done away with it. Here are some other ways to get someone off your mind. everyone loves the comfort it provides. although you are certainly not bound by them. You don’t need to think like a millionaire to set your limit. “To err is human. this attitude will bring more ruin as it does you no good and only deepens the feeling of hurt. just the way millionaires have it! Decide The Limit Your mind knows your limitations. the person who has had to bear the hurt is seen to wallow in self-pity for as long as they can. Stop pitying yourself and come out the cycle of self-pity. as there are a few things that your own mind will tell you better How To Get Someone Off Your Mind It is a commonly seen phenomenon – of people who cannot get over someone who has hurt them. can turn you into a victim. Keeping yourself busy with anything and everything that needs your attention is the best way to keep negative thoughts from plaguing you repeatedly. Success will come hard and you will have to face testing situations. Thinking like a millionaire doesn’t imply that you will have millions in your treasury in just a matter of days. A disciplined mind will delay gratification and keep you focused on your goals. In such cases. all by themselves? Of course.
better to plan a little and take action on it. end up doing only little work. Light procrastinators procrastinate. The more you get to interact with that person. Less Interaction As far as possible. There are light procrastinators and heavy procrastinators. However. the bag will not hit you back like a person would. decrease your interaction with the person who hurt you. Don’t Blow A Task Out Of Proportion You would not be protecting yourself from pain if you overthink and put off things for later time. as long as you keep working on your plan. Do not try to think a lot. avoid thinking too much and simply do the task in the way you feel that it will come out the best. Even if you do not have a plan. High procrastinators find it difficult to do even a single task. no pain or no difficulties. However. Take The First Step Any task or project can seem to be impossible if you start looking too far into the future. you’ll have to find other ways to get him/her off your mind – the most effective of which is to forgive How To Stop Procrastination One of the biggest problems that people today suffer from is procrastination. It is fine to plan for the future. who you cannot avoid for very long. you can protect yourself from failures. Do what you feel is right. the more will be the hurt and resentment that will plague you.Punch It Out It is always easier to hurl blows on a punching bag than a human being. You will feel great and you would not have hurt anybody at all. for a later time. Read through the following lines to know how you can stop procrastination. a lot of thinking and planning can result in opposite effects. but not in case of everything. It is. Start Doing It is necessary to plan a little bit to achieve want you want. Invest in a punching bag and hang it in a place in your house. There is no plan that is foolproof and will lead to no mistakes. A procrastinator is someone who puts off the work that he/she is supposed to do. this way. Some of them are true procrastinators and do not get any work done. If the person is your colleague. say a huge storeroom or your study! Imagine the punching bag to be the person who hurt you and punch it with all your strength. but you need to shift your focus to today and the present . They assume that they cannot manage time well and hence. which is usually not visited much. to come up with the perfect plan. You are bound to make mountains out of molehills. thus. Tips For Stopping Procrastinating Stop Thinking.
it makes you feel bad. such as making important calls. Make A Decision It is natural to be decisive and take action. dreams do turn true. By taking an action over and over again. I’m doing this. as you would be going against patterns that have been established for years. but only if you are willing to make the needed efforts. You are stressed and feel fatigued. With a new day. answering big piles of emails or completing the last pages of your paper. Since sitting idle and not taking action is unnatural. you will be lowering your self esteem and signaling back to yourself that you are a lame and indecisive person. effort and patience. just get it out by doing it first. no matter how hard they seem. Though easy choices come with a sense of comfort and a certain level of success. you will feel relaxed and relieved for the simpler tasks. give yourself a new look and a new identity. with determination. So. While procrastinating. Go . Whatever be the task. By doing so.moment. doing so is possible and the rewards will surely be positive and unexpected. but you need to overcome them and work towards success once again. Remember. generate confidence within you and take action. but not finishing what you have started can leave you in a sort of negative funk. You always wonder what would have been the result had you taken more chances. However. Finish It Not taking the first step towards accomplishing something can only make you feel bad. Be affirmative on your decision. The rest of your day will be a lot lighter and easier to get through. Reinvent yourself and discover ways to bring new meaning and joy to your life. it is better to complete the tasks and projects that you are currently involved in. Learn to accept that failures do take place occasionally. you would be building self-confidence and a self-image of you being a confident person. You will become more positive and the subsequent steps will follow on their own. Try finishing them as soon as possible. Simply take the first step today and you will notice the change in your mental state from resistant to “hey. so that you can start afresh again How To Reinvent Yourself Are you tired of living the same old mundane life? Why not throw off old habits and customs and embrace new ones! Reinventing yourself is never easy. cool”. but you do not know the reason behind it. Face Your Fear It is hard to face your fear of looking like a fool or making mistakes or take responsibility of your own life. Start With The Hardest Task Start your day by doing the most important and toughest tasks. they also bring along a vague sense of being unfulfilled and pangs of regret for all things you never dared to do.
Even a new hair color. Japanese or Italian. Make use of new words. bible study or prayer group. German. set your goals. Change your thinking and transform yourself. Choose to volunteer for your favorite charity once every week. You cannot stop thoughts from entering the mind. Change your career. Ways Of Reinventing Yourself Now • Have a make over and change your appearance. such as collecting coins. View the world with a new eye and different vision • • • • • • • • How To Increase Word Power To express with clarity and to communicate coherently and logically requires only one thing and that is words. Discover a new hobby or an activity. try a new hairstyle or adopt a new wardrobe to give you a fresh outlook on life. Take a chance to see the other side of the city or your neighborhood. learn how to paint or mold a pot. but you can surely deal with them powerfully. Join a church.ahead. smile more. or even take up piano or guitar classes. Discard all negative thoughts and replace them with positive. Schedule a new routine or change one aspect of your routine. To know more on how you can reinvent yourself and become a completely new person. knitting. could work well. You will have to start thinking the same way as the person you want to be like. Create a new personality. mindsets. speed up your walk. In case you are bored and unsatisfied with your current job. reading. With a new day. take action and enjoy the whole new you. You can opt for learning a new language such as French. Spanish. you are a new creature. Make sure to find one that matches your interests. You can choose the spiritual path. like platinum blonde from a mousy brunette or auburn red. read through the following lines. You can take a new route to your office. take an evening walk. reactions and words. Words are the bricks that build up the foundation of any . have new reactions to different things. Join a health club. Join a new class to learn something new. try a new restaurant or a new drink. Saturate yourself and learn everything possible about what you want to become. The most important part of reinventing yourself is attitude. shop at a different store. riding a bicycle or tinkering with car parts. Throw and flush out old behaviors. why not try a new opportunity and field? There are unlimited opportunities waiting for you in the industry. life affirming ones.
Newspapers and magazines are a good way to start but later graduate to more exclusive readings. Note these down so that you can look it up later. Listening carefully will also throw up many words. when you know the story of the word. In this way. In addition. particularly English classics. Listen to the speeches of great orators and learn how various words were used. which you have forgotten due to non-usage. Solve Crosswords Crosswords are word games that stimulate the brain and give you an understanding on how to use them. Reading also keeps the words rotating through your mind. Lack of an efficient vocabulary hinders effective communication and spreads misunderstanding. you can realize the exact usage of a particular word. It gives us the freedom to choose how we express ourselves. because you are sure to encounter the words many times. you will automatically learn the word. Newspapers and magazines use a limited vocabulary to facilitate the lay reader. the meaning changes according to the context in which it is used. You can encounter unfamiliar words every day. shift to reading novels. Try using alternative words and see if the effect is as good. Increasing the word power is a very interesting journey and the added advantage is the power it gives in our hands. Words. great orators enthrall the audience not only with the content of their speech. Listen Listening is the key to any good conversation. it is also important to keep oneself updated. and then commit it to memory. and magazines like the ‘Reader’s Digest’ and ‘The New Yorker’. Studying the etymology of words will also familiarize you with the other words of its family. Involve yourself in finding out the origin and history of words and by the time you finish. When you listen. and also you can get an idea in which context it was used. Etymology Every word has a history. Make a note of any unfamiliar words you find and then check the usage and meaning. which you find out by listening are also easy to remember. Cultivate a habit of reading regularly. read the article below to know more on how to get started on it. Because in the English language. but also with the quality of their language. This is also a good way to keep the words in your fingertips and not somewhere in the mind where you cannot find it. So. Every year thousands of new words are added to the human lexicon and hundreds of other words get ‘extinct’. Moreover. when you have developed the habit of reading. when you see any unfamiliar word. . and checking and using them can increase your word power to a great extent. if you want to increase your word power.language and so a good word power is not only a necessity but also an obligation. in many words. that word would have been ingrained in your mind. you may come across some words that you don’t know. Tips For Increasing Your Word Power Read Extensively Reading is the most effective and efficient way to develop excellent word power. Thus. make a note of the context in which it is used. Check Unfamiliar Words Don’t bypass any unfamiliar words. Read widely so that you encounter a variety of words. No doubt. So.
don’t throw high flowing words simply for the sake of showing off. Remember that a good speaker is more than a good talker. And make sure that you have a complete understanding of the words you are using. If you find yourself dropping off to sleep listening to your own voice. Be truthful. Using words will also make you take interests in the words. Tips For Giving A Great Speech • • Choose a subject for which you have a passion. If you don’t.Use The Words You Learn Adopt the words you learn into your daily vocabulary. you will be perceived as a real speaker and not just another stereotype. Record your speech and play it back. If you try to sound bombastic. Speak from your heart and be completely authentic. While you might not be able to give a speech that makes history. Persistence is what defines whether you are going to be perceived as a person with expertise in speaking. you can give a great speech that will be remembered by your audience for a long time to come. ensure that depending on the topic and situation. Be persistent. then it’s very easy to forget them. practice. Overconfidence never helped anyone make a great speech. You should be open to taking risks and get into a routine of daily action to make your speech come out great. • • • • . How To Give A Great Speech There are many famous speeches that are remembered over time and some of these are even included in school curriculums. you use your life experiences and research to customize your material. Only then. Remember that you will not become a great speaker overnight. Practice. then it’s time to make some changes. It is better to know the usage of twenty words then to know two hundred words and not know how to use them. You will only be open to ridicule. The mark of a good speaker is not just to do all the right things all the time. When speaking. Share your mishaps and foibles. Practice your speech. Patience and persistence go hand in hand. For example. A great speech is the product of hard work and creativity. Move toward your goal with a willingness to make adjustment along the way. Abraham Lincoln’s famous Gettysburg Address is very well known speech and has made history. your audience will not trust what you are saying. You can do a good job of your topic only if you care about it. Read on to know the tips for giving a great speech. Get as much support as possible so that you can succeed. practice. However.
Use visual aids when speaking. How To Overcome Fear Of Abandonment • • Identify your fear in detail and name it. Speaking is an art and your idea can best be propounded when you are creative. Overcoming the fear of abandonment requires full determination on the part of the person experiencing such things. short quotation or a funny story that is relevant to your speech. Some possible causes of fear of abandonment can be loss of a near one. and chronic anxiety which is better known as phobia. rational fear that is based on logical premise. Consider your fear like a room that is to be painted or some similar task. A process known as systematic desensitization is often used by most psychologists. namely. Add in a bit of humor. . It can be of two types. Avoid using jokes. Your enemy. you have just 30 seconds to connect with your audience. Know your audience. Fear of abandonment can well be described as a psychological disorder wherein the person feels uncontrolled fear and anxiety when he/ she encounters situations that require facing the difficulties of life alone and without any support. View your opportunity to give a speech as a privilege. Get used to the way the fear makes you feel. Ensure that your introduction arouses interest. This is what. is just like any other challenge to be dealt with. Modulate your voice when speaking and speak with warmth and enthusiasm. once identified. will help you present the material in a way that will appeal to your audience. broken relationships. You can also include auditory and kinesthetic aids which will keep your audience’s attention riveted to you and which will get the message across. Given below are some ways and tips to overcome the fear of abandonment.• When you are making a speech. This process helps you in getting closer to the fear each time you are around it. You could go with a good. wholesome. disturbed childhood and some social or personal trauma. and innovative • • • • • • Overcoming Fear Of Abandonment Fear can be termed as a necessary part of life. Include illustrations in your speech. People learn best from these and tend to respond and retain information better. but don’t include sarcasm. Your speech should not be a rhetorical address. Pay attention to your opening statements.
“Oh. Examine your fears and see how foolish or crazy they are. Worrying is a slow poison that eats you up daily. You’ll feel free from fear. Avoid thinking too much.” You may often think that fear can rage like an inferno. Graciousness is all about how you make the people around you feel. do not carry the burden and delete them from the memory. Old fears raise their head from time to time. so a gracious person is never short of people near him or her. “If a man be gracious and courteous to strangers. there goes my brain rumbling again. Stop over-analyzing any situation. if taught from the childhood can lead towards the development of a successful human being. Sometimes. Graciousness is a treasure that people throng to. Gracious behavior. This can be practiced on a daily basis. it shows he is a citizen of the world”. Through constant practice. As you become rich inside yourself. Inculcate healthy habits like yoga and meditation. where as in reality it may be nothing but a little more than a candle flame. Laugh out your troubles and let life free for sometime. Mistakes are part of life and so are bad experiences. Pleasing and affectionate are the hallmarks of a gracious person. . • • • • • • • • • How To Be Gracious Francis bacon said. as self-interest is not its characteristic. Turn off unwanted thoughts in the same impersonal way as you may think of your stomachrumbling. so do not be too hard on yourself. Gracious behavior depends on the upbringing and the environment. Do not preoccupy yourself with fearful or troubling thoughts. Do not waste your energy fearing too much. jealousy and attachments. peace and serenity will manifest your life. Pen down the reasons why you are paralyzing yourself by those fears. it can be inculcated into your way of life. Stop being obsessed with anyone and anything. Although this is challenging but it is very necessary. hence. Prepare yourself well and be committed as fears become more uncontrollable at first when you challenge their hold on you. Develop a habit of taking every experience positively. Be patient and determined and let yourself be exposed to the change. it can be stubborn and determined. it must be taught and absorbed. any situation can be resolved. Forget the past and start moving ahead.• • Do no try to get rid of the fear. Through graciousness. Read the article below to know more on how to be gracious. Overcoming the fear is a time-consuming process but the reward is worth it. People are not born with gracious behavior. That is the importance that graciousness can have in a person’s life.
Similarly. That is if you keep the interests of others in front of you. the impulse to ‘shoot off’ is very great. Don’t wait for anyone to ask you for it. Faking your feelings. as these are the sign of gracious character. but to help when not even asked is better. Make the other person feel that he or she is acknowledged. Timidity or lack of confidence can embarrass or deter the other person. it will automatically teach you to be gracious. To help when asked is good. Remember that graciousness should come unintentionally. While accepting an invitation. patience. And. can do immense good to some people. and he will consider you a gracious person. Waiting allows you to collect your thoughts and makes the other person feel the depth of your maturity. will carry you for a short time. In the face of criticism. you will fill him or her with a good feeling. but when discovered will hurt more than if you had been honest. . emotions and other sensibilities. Small acts of understanding lead to greater acts of graciousness. Better articulation results in better understanding. then it is considered gracious behavior.Learning To Be Gracious • Take compliment with a smile. hurting anyone is not graciousness. are all signs of graciousness. and also accept the reasons for someone who is unable to come. the message is lost in pronouncing and accent barriers. which will be ungracious. from the subconscious and not as a forced entity. A smile and saying ‘thank you’ will be a good return for the compliment. respect. so. Do not fake. Offering your help will always make the other person remember your graciousness. being on the right is not that important. Sounds are shaped by various articulatory organs whose proper coordination makes one speak in a lucid manner. More often than not. if the person is criticizing you for your own good. Be forward with your help. • • • • • • • • Articulation Exercises Clarity is the hallmark of a good speaker. Practicing these positive traits will make graciousness a part of your character. make these good qualities a part of you. be sure to thank the host or convey your reasons for not accepting the invitation. “I think sometimes it’s more important to be gracious than to win” said Dorothy Kilgallen. Therefore. etc. when you invite someone. If your being wrong. it is better to wait and cool off. When you understand a person. articulation exercises are very necessary as they hone the verbal communication exercises. Sometimes and with some people. Kindness. The content and the significance are lost in misunderstanding. empathy. More often as not. thank him or her for accepting the invitation.
Bill also had a board bill. because of language and cultural differences fail to speak with clarity. Articulation For ‘B’ Type Words: Bill had a billboard. Types Of Articulation Exercises Articulation exercises must be spoken slowly and carefully and must be practiced regularly without fail. Neither did he have his billboard! Articulation For ‘F’ Type Words: Four furious friends fought for the phone Articulation For ‘H’ Type Words: How was Harry hastened so hurriedly from the hunt? Articulation For ‘J’ Type Words: Jack the jailbird jacked a jeep. as most people. Read the article below to know more on how you can straighten your voice. Gradually repeat faster till a level of clarity and lucidity is reached. But Moses supposes erroneously. For nobody’s toes are posies of roses.Practicing the articulation exercises regularly will make you more understandable to your audience. . The reading should be done aloud. since everyone is not blessed with a coherent speech. The board bill bored Bill. which divides a speaker from an orator. Good articulation always has an impact on the listeners. Articulation is often the thin line. through these articulation exercises. As Moses supposes his toes to be. Then the board bill No longer bored Bill. So Bill sold his billboard And paid his board bill. and speak smoothly. Articulation For ‘D’ Type Words: Did Doug dig Dick's garden or did Dick dig Doug's garden? Articulation For ‘S’ Type Words: Moses supposes his toes are roses. However. articulation exercises will make him or her a clear speaker. But though he had no board bill. Regular practice will strengthen the articulatory organs by developing the face and body muscles. Speech imperfection does not only result from speech impediment.
Controlling temper is the first step to ensure reduced stress levels and improved relationships. even the calmest of person would agree having faced a situation. Articulation Of ‘V’ Type Words: Vincent vowed vengeance very vehemently. How To Control Anger Outbursts Life is full of meeting unwelcome people and facing unwanted and annoying circumstances. resort to any of the following ways listed below and relieve yourself . most of you would agree that more than often. Just when you feel that you would be gripped in temper tantrum. Articulation For ‘R’ Type Words: Round the rugged rocks the ragged rascal ran. As such. Quickest kiss. when he/she lost temper and experienced an anger outburst. Where's the peck of pickled peppers that Peter Piper picked? Articulation For ‘L’ Type Words: Larry sent the latter a letter later Articulation For ‘Q’ Type Words: Quick kiss.Articulation For ‘K’ Type Words: My cutlery cuts keenly and cleanly. You know you need unique New York. Articulation For ‘P’ Type Words: Peter piper picked a peck of pickled peppers. You need New York. While some psychologists may claim that anger outburst is a good way to give an outlet to the negative energies. If Peter piper picked a peck of pickled peppers. it makes us land up in embarrassing position. Articulation For ‘N’ And ‘U’ Type Words: You know New York. Quicker kiss. Articulation For ‘T’ Type Words: Ten tame tadpoles tucked tightly in a thin tall tin.
This way you would instantly dip your anger or rage and get back to the normal state of mind. Anger mostly arises due to conflict or disagreement. So.you can either use it negatively or make it as a stepping stone to overcome the stimulus that caused anger in the first place. The last step would be to ‘Wait’ for the right time. When we are angry. explained in the following lines. you need to first ‘Focus’ at your mental state. then you are definitely in for a revelation. soul and the body. Believe in FLOW This might seem French to you. thereby helping in anger management. Next step would be to act ‘Objectively’. would help you know how to control anger outbursts. you might be able to control your anger outbursts as well?Meditation and yoga have positive effect on the mental and physical being of a person. Instead. It helps soothe your negative energies and provides a relaxing and calming feeling. i. Just when you think that you might get trapped into a pool of bad mood and anger. the next step would be to listen to the other’s point of view and try to rationalize it. we mostly take things or arguments personally. Many people have claimed that anger outbursts are best dealt with this technique.from the anger outbursts. Tell yourself that you would not explode your anger. did you know that by indulging in regular meditation or yoga. ‘Listen’. Most people . is one of the most beneficial ways to avoid anger outburst. Ways For Controlling Anger Outbursts Deep Breathing Though you might have heard it a number a times.e. regular indulgence in the two ensures better mind control. Energy Conversion Does this sound physics or mathematics to you? Well. Meditation & Yoga Experts have claimed the benefits of meditation and yoga for the mind. Also. The techniques. Repeat this for several times until the message has sunk deep into your mind. go onto the next level. deep breathing. switch on the music system and listen to some of your favorite songs. However. undoubtedly. think objectively as this will help you understand the situation in a mature way. This way you can curb the anger outburst and at the same time conquer your flaws. relax your mind and take a deep breath. There are two ways to use the energy created by anger . A sixty second indulgence in this technique and swoosh . but using the FLOW technique is the best way to deal with anger outbursts.your anger would be heavily subsided!! Tune To Music Did you know that music has healing properties? If no. all you need to do is just close your eyes. Once this is done. do not get scared as herein. No matter what is the intensity of your anger. Music goes a long way in dipping the rising anger levels. For this. energy conversion is the phrase given to convert the negative energies produced by anger into positive driving force. thereby cooling both the mind and the body.
Develops One’s Creative Side Reading is one of the best ways to give a creative orientation to one’s mind. This often makes you imagine a sequence of events in your mind on how the story will unfold further. The Importance Of Reading Develops The Mind Our mind needs regular exercise to develop and reading is the most effective way to do that. reading also develops your listening ability. always remain wide. Activates The Flow Of Ideas . Gaining knowledge empowers you mind and broadens its range. When you read a story. Reading the written word and developing an understanding of it is a skill that is cultivated overtime by the habit of reading. Waiting is the best indicator for anger management. when your power to imagine develops. you are able to make better guesses and determine the course of the stories or fictional novels you read. Abraham Lincoln. and there is no denying the fact that ‘Knowledge is Power’. A well-read person is a reservoir of knowledge as reading helps one to know about new things and analyze them in his/her own inventive way. Just as our body needs its daily dose of nutrients. Apart from developing your mind. our mind also seeks nourishment that comes through reading. which should ideally be the other way round. Read on to know why it is so important.S president. The more you read. Reading involves creative imaginations thereby promoting ingenious thinking. It keeps your mind active and dynamic. expands your knowledge and opens up new avenues for you. Most people tend to speak more and listen less. Reading enlightens your mind. you are constantly wondering what will happen next. broadens your horizon. the more enlightened you are. Gradually. Reading books also help to develop one’s listening ability which is very important to succeed in every aspect of life. You should wait and reflect for sometime about the consequences of angry outburst. Why Reading Is Important “A capacity and taste for reading gives access to whatever has already been discovered by others” is a famous perspective on the importance of reading by the erstwhile U. Expands Knowledge-Base Irrespective of how much knowledge your mind can store. the scope to feed it with new things.would agree that instant reaction is the main problem for angermanagement. The article dwells at length on the importance of reading.
no matter how talented they are. you should not agree to compromise on your precious time and happiness to do such a task. by making them happy. There are different ways through which you can become a more reliable person. there are great chances of none of the commitments being fulfilled. Ways For Becoming More Dependable Watch Your Promises Never make promises unless you are ready to fulfill them. Nonetheless. reliability means that if you have accepted something. it is very difficult to juggle out your schedule and personal life. arrogant or disrespectful as a person. Prioritize your tasks and plan accordingly. you will stay committed to it. Knowing things makes you feel self-assured and gives you the confidence to voice your opinions and be assertive about them. Rather. And then.It is rather interesting to note that people who are fond of reading soon transform into a bubbling cauldron of fresh ideas. Boosts Your Confidence Ever wondered why erudite people are so confident? Since knowledge empowers your mind. it is good to be precautionary by not being wrapped up into the belief that you can solve all the problems of everyone. Active reading ignites your mind and arms it with new and creative ideas. If you are already preoccupied with some commitments. Read on further to know you can be more reliable and dependable. the desire of making every single person happy is often misguided. try not to lock yourself into anymore of them. Overpowering yourself with excessive commitments will only lead to unnecessary stress and tension. Taking up only the required number of tasks will help you deliver great results and people will appreciate your reliability as well. It is not mandatory to volunteer for everything and also. Improve At Conveying A ‘No’ We all love to make a good impression on people around us. a learned person knows that he maintains a slight edge over other people. A well-read person is always oozing with confidence for “he/she knows”. It conveys more about your ability of being organized and dependable. This will help you organize what is to done on immediate basis and what can wait. Also. Lack of reliability does not necessarily mean that you are deliberately careless. it will enable you to . Also. How To Become A More Reliable Person In today’s world. which you can use in just about every aspect of your life. without letting things overload and backfire on you. You will then realize what it feels like to have gained someone’s trust. as it usually produces opposite results. A dynamic flow of ideas also makes you an interesting person to be with as your mind is not static and you will always have something vital to contribute to every discussion.
A person knows himself better than anyone else does. After all. This is not to say that you leave everything behind. while not compromising on his/ her reliability. It is better to do what you perform best. and live like a recluse. the excitement coming from the unpredictability that life throws up. to show that they can never be wrong. will enable you to remain focused and motivated towards being your best. Try To Bring Out The Best Most people have the tendency to perform all the tasks by themselves. Adopting a daily routine is tedious but once the habit sets in. whenever he needs a favor or a little leeway. people willing to start a daily routine must have patience.arrange time to enjoy with people and the things that are more close and important to you. So. in order to take control of the situation. They remain untouched by the rush and bustle in life. it rolls on. but prove to be more helpful than you can think. in view of the other person. People. In case you are already besieged by worries and stress. Since. Many people consider having a daily routine as boring. who follow a daily routine. they generally have all their complexities worked out. he is sure to get it back. It is likely possible that he may not get it back at the same moment. of the serious need for a daily routine. Tips To Help You Start A Daily Routine • To start a daily routine the first thing to be done is to prepare oneself mentally. lead a very balanced life. External factors will contribute a great deal to hinder you. in turn. Flexibility A person willing to be flexible with other people will receive the same flexibility from them in return. Most of the time people ‘jump the bus’ midway due to lack of commitment on their part. How To Start A Daily Routine A daily routine is a part and parcel of a disciplined life. Read the article below to know how you can start a daily routine. so you must be resolute. but the next time. This. they follow a strict pattern. The secret of a daily routine is to lead a balanced life and to have everything in balance. as it takes a long time. try to shift the burden a bit. a daily routine should not be a burden. . It is always better to maintain a daily routine from as early as possible in life. This would definitely be hard to do. There are times when you have to move forward only by taking a few steps back and reevaluating the situation.
Develop a habit that is constructive and stimulating. than others seem to make in a lifetime. what you need to do every day. they flow from small talk to hard talk. then over the years. so that in the end. without turning your routine upside down. That is the reason daily routine should be flexible. or a social gathering? In fact. Daily routine is all about leading a disciplined life. be it at a date. It will show you the road ahead. sex or race. it would develop into a strong habit. In this way. mastery of the art of conversation is regarded. If you can cultivate a habit. Most people. who seem to relate to everyone. love to talk about themselves. and habit. you develop a routine. In this way. people want less to do with how much you know. you don’t have to rush things up. Once you are on your way to a daily routine. Setting a goal will also make you stick to your routine. and reach your target. in short. It encourages you to accomplish. they seem to know exactly what to talk about. say. keep in mind these tenets – people. irrespective of age. Adopt a vision. . See if your spiritual. Flexibility in your daily timetable allows you to indulge in breaks. With these tenets in mind.• • • • Set a goal. and end up making many more friends in a day. you will know what and how to achieve every day. These are the people. Without a plan. and habitual aspirations. Have a plan. Have a daily target. people will be drawn to those who take a sincere interest in them. to adopt a daily routine. will be the lighthouse that will show you the direction. Read on to know how to effectively make powerful conversations with just about anybody. and having a clear vision is one of its tenets. Without a goal. emotional. as a buffer for accommodating sudden calls. A goal. then review your routine to include those aspects that satisfies your spirit. Unforeseen events may disrupt your daily routine. while others just stare in awe and envy. where you can measure your success by the target reached. and more to do with how much you care. what kind of reaction to give and so on. every now and then. for reading. have benefitted from the daily routine. it is good to be prepared. who have mastered this art. you won’t have any idea or motivation. If not. check your development. you will have little idea of what and when to do. so. You can have both a long term and a short-term plan. as a sign of success. rather than those who try hard to gain the interest of others. emotion. or gardening. which would anchor you to the routine. Leave an hour or two every day. writing. • • • Mastering The Art Of Conversation Have you ever found yourself wondering how some people effortlessly strike up conversations. Most good conversations start with small talk. in front of whom.
Read on and learn how to move on in life. In the third part. for having had the courage to be different from the crowd. Follow this flowchart. This may be because we have been conditioned to own up for our mistakes and errors in judgment. full of right wing conservative people. Not only. people who are none the wiser about art of conversation misinterpret. You may be sitting in a room. part of making effective conversation. intended and unintended. Many a times. what is spoken by others. The second part will merge all small talk into the main topic or purpose of the conversation. One-Two-Three Keep in mind the flow that a conversation is supposed to follow. opinions and so on will flow into a satisfying end. by making us forlorn and sad. less misunderstanding. So. rather than running the risk of opening it to all kinds of meanings.How To Master The Art Of Conversation Free Expression Freely express yourself. as most of us have not been taught how to forgive our own mistakes. often overlooked. even if they sound ambivalent. you will perhaps also be regarded highly. will you strike up an interesting debate. It will lead to less misinterpretation and. when they see it. whatever it may be. nonthreatening. most leaders swear by. non-patronising manner is a quality that. for whom the Communist Revolution was the dance of the Devil. Expressing one’s opinion in a positive. In such a case. consequently. give them the benefit of doubt for their words. Worse. acceptable to all parties involved. most of them welcome it. If you listen to people with sincere interest you will understand the true meaning of what they are saying. to make effective conversations effortlessly. The first part of is the small talks. which includes exchanging pleasantries. not being able to forgive our faults can make our life miserable. we may also find ourselves being swallowed by the feeling of guilt. The article brings you some valuable tips on how to forgive yourself and stop feeling guilty. All Ears Listening is also an integral and. but if you support the labor party. ending up losing thefriends. be it business or sharing of personal views. express it freely. This gesture will prove that you give people respect for who they are and are not unnecessarily judgmental. even if it might seem like they’re trying to be offensive. inquiring about family members and others. all these views. . How To Forgive Your Own Mistakes Forgiving your own self can prove to be more daunting that pardoning others. Since people don’t come across honesty very often. Holding ourselves culpable only adds to the misery of committing the mistake in the first place. they have instead of making any new ones. Benefit Of Doubt Most people don’t really mean to harm anybody new with their words.
Confess your mistake in front of a close friend. Active Listening Activities . Languishing in past will not give you an opportunity to time-travel to the bygone times and change things. If at all you want to grade yourself. but repeating it. You can’t afford to keep wallowing in guilt over your wrongdoings. but a manifestation of the good things that you do in life. A reflection of what you have learnt from your mistakes would be a perceptible change in your behavior. Always remember that you are not a reflection of your mistakes. Being judgmental equals to being disapproving. Don’t Judge Yourself The worst people can do is to judge themselves by their mistakes. Remember that committing a mistake is not a crime. Disembark yourself from past mistakes and march ahead! Share your mistakes Holding things to yourself will make it increasingly difficult to forgive yourself and stop feeling guilty. surely is! We learn from our mistakes. Encourage Yourself To Move On Realize that your life is not going to end or stagnate just because of a mistake of yours. Remember that your mistakes always add to your experience. which are generic. the biggest lesson life teaches us is to move on. as life is a continuous learning process. do that in a balanced way. not being overwhelmed by your errors. which is always brighter and full of hope. Forgive yourself completely and look forward to the future. Probably. Pardon yourself by pouring your heart out before someone you know will make you feel better. whose guidance you trust and value.How To Forgive Yourself & Stop Feeling Guilty Learn From Your Mistakes Trying to learn from your mistakes is a very healthy way of dealing with them. as we have to pay a price for them. it gets worse when we are disapproving of your own self. A guilt-free existence is only possible when your mistakes are not perpetually weighing on your conscience. And. Unburden Your Heart If you believe that your mistake is too big to be forgiven and keeping it to yourself is killing you. rather dismissive of the subject of our judgment. You can always share your mistakes with others and warn them of the consequence that you suffered from. To err is human and to learn how to avoid the same mistake in the future is also within human capacity. You will also get a chance to vent out your frustration in a more constructive way. speak up and lift that burden off your heart.
Once everyone gets a hang of the activity. Group Discussion This activity just requires a common topic that will be given to a group of students. It is no secret that good listeners also make good communicators. The toy/ball will continue to be passed till all the students are covered. The first topic could be fun and easy to speak on. The other participants will ask three questions relating to themselves. to the one standing in the front. Then. and one of the fundamentals of communicating well. In this activity. The element of surprise in the game will make the students listen with attention and carefully watch out for their name. to check whether they listened carefully or not.Active listening helps one improve his/her ability to understand and grasp verbal information. is to listen carefully. and is supposed to be debated upon by them. After the speaker is through. a communication process actively involves a speaker and a listener. On a simple note. who will pass it to another student. Then. the teacher can randomly pick any of the students and ask him/her to continue speaking. It is a communication skill that facilitates effective communication of your ideas and concepts. gradually. which can then be followed by more difficult ones. The article brings you some active listening activities that will help improve your listening skills. the listener will have to recall . It is then that the supervisor will reveal it to the participants that they were part of a quiz. The teacher can also participate in this game. the teacher will call out someone’s name and pass a soft toy/ball to him/her. The speaker is then given a topic to speak on and the listener has to listen to the speaker actively. Active Listening Activity Ideas For Students Group Juggle This activity requires a large space as physical activity is involved. Active Listening Discussion The group of participants is to be divided into pairs and each pair is to have a listener and a speaker. all the students become alert as they are supposed to catch the ball as soon as their name is called. after calling his/her name. The participant group has to arrange itself in a circle. Each member of the group is supposed to go to the front of the room. the supervisor will ask the members to recall which member had given what answer. Once the discussion ensues. For Adults Quiz This activity is to be performed indoors and requires a supervisor. the teacher will stop the speaker in the middle and ask any other student to continue the discussion from the same point where it has been left by the previous speaker. The supervisor will make a note of the answers given by each of the participant as their turn comes.
Respect is the pillar that supports the bridge called relationship. as. the next time. Then the speaker and listener can critically analyze and review each other’s performance. if you don’t respect yourself. cultivate good manners. Good manners are the essential quality to show respect. Good behavior automatically earns the respect of others. This can be configured as lack of respect as the person may think that you do not consider him or her at par with you. The listener is supposed to interpret speaker’s content and offer solutions and feedback to the supervisor accordingly. even taking up an entire lifetime. To put other peoples need before yours. no one else will respect you. Given below are tips to help you be more respectable towards others. not showing attention. give respect and give it to yourself too.and rephrase the speaker’s content. Merely saying ‘please’ and ‘thank you’ doesn’t mean that you are being respectful. Many a times. you come across as a narrow-minded person. Listen attentively and show interest in whatever is said. you are not taking him or her seriously. Showing kindness towards others is the best way to endear you to them. Respect can never be forced as it comes straight from the heart. he or she also won’t give any attention to you. which will make him or her feel respected and so return the favor. A simple act of kindness can show your respect towards others. This can also be followed by a swapping of roles among the two. This exercise helps improve the business communication skills of the participants and the ability to coordinate with one another How To Be Respectful Towards Others Treat others. To earn respect you must first. A person may respect another because of fear but that is not true respect. So. Do not stereotype other people. Tips To Be Respectful • • Be kind. makes the other person feel that. So. True respect only comes when you empathize with the other person. If you can earn the respect of your peers and fellows. In the daily grind and stress of everyday life. • • . Stereotyping makes. will convey your respect to others. you are stereotyping. It also shows your lack of respect for the person. as you want them to treat you. when they interact with a wellmannered person. then it’s a life well lived as it is the hardest thing to get. as people get a sense of respect. we have forgotten the moral obligation of respecting others so that we are also respected in turn.
The causes are varied. The fear of intimacy can also be due to the fear of losing. religion. to overcome. or loss of a loved one. It is not only ill mannered. hurt. • • • Overcoming Fear Of Intimacy The fear of intimacy is a psychological disorder that hinders a person from forming a relationship with another person. It is the other side of the fear of rejection. is to face the fact that you have a fear of getting intimate with people. conveys your sincere regret and the person will appreciate your sense of love and respect for him or her. The fear of intimacy stems from the fear of getting hurt from a relationship. you show him or her respect. When you respect someone. which leads to emotional stagnation. you will gradually develop the sense of respecting everyone. and not knowing how to cope later. This shows your commitment to them. but also signals bad breeding. Once you start respecting the people. Don’t dictate or belittle anyone because of his or her background. It can be due to a traumatic childhood. with the question ‘What if’ this or that happens. . or social status. Hiding behind emotional barriers will only weaken you. A person suffering from the fear of intimacy is always faced. How To Overcome The Fear Of Intimacy • The more you bottle up your fear of intimacy. gives rise to the fear of intimacy. don’t pressurize anyone to do something which he or she is not willing to do. So. you must also respect his choice and free will. emotional trauma. tease or backbite. When you give priority to someone’s right to choose. Given below are tips to help you overcome your fear of intimacy. You must show your understanding of his or her opinion. a fear of getting intimate. Apologizing for your mistake. and steel yourself to come out of it. value other people’s opinion. the person withdraws into a shell. abusive relationship. can show how much you respect the other person. Throw these out and you will feel respect for people.• • • Understand other peoples. You cannot respect anyone whom you mock. you used to back bite or tease. This does not mean blindly follow whatever they say. As a result. To show respect. When you apologize for a mistake or a hurt you caused. So. He or she is unable to develop a connection with other people and feels lonely and isolated. The fear of being dominated by the other person also develops. like and dislikes. the first task in order to get over this fear. and then present your reasons for agreement or disagreement. rejection. This inability to act after the supposed betrayal. the more it grows and the harder it becomes.
Do things. Moving on in life is the key to forgetting the hurt caused to you. no matter how important it is to do the same. Pardoning others and putting a hurtful incident off your mind needs to be worked upon. and experiences. as if nothing has happened.• • Bare your heart to your partner. to overcome this fear a person must value his or her self. This is perhaps the only requirement. so that you get your hidden fear out. where you both are compatible. Overcoming the fear of intimacy is a long process. and so they gradually begin to develop a fear of getting intimate. Most people with a fear of intimacy have a feeling of worthlessness. gardening. and have a determination. Be honest. keeping nothing hidden. Seek out areas. By talking. Therefore. The most difficult task is to get it out. In case you need some help in this regard. This will help you to be transparent. Involve your partner in day-to-day activities. which will give you self-satisfaction and a creative boost. Forgiving Someone Who Has Hurt You Forget What Happened Hostility and bitterness survives in people who find it difficult to forget the past. like cooking. at a time. or simply go for a movie. or to a restaurant. and nurture those. It is more than difficult to forget things and move on. So don’t get disheartened and withdraw to your shell. you can’t afford to let the anger remain within you. as they are subconsciously ashamed to face others. Share and discuss your pain. This shame for the self can cause people to develop a fear of intimacy. since it doesn’t come easy. Follow the article to find some tips on how to forgive and forget when someone has hurt you. Stacking up . Start from simple ones. to get over it. and gradually move on to the difficult. • • • • • • How To Forgive And Forget When Someone Hurts You Dealing with hurt and anger is important and the one who is not able to do so ends up becoming a bitter person. Be honest to face your fear. However. we are at your service. by other people. holding feelings of resentment can affect your peace of mind and ruin your happiness. That is why. other than an understanding and honest partner. Value yourself. which they do not want other people to find out. in between. Don’t be ashamed of yourself. fear. deep down themselves. Go one. Share and exchange your thoughts and personal experiences. in overcoming your fear of intimacy. step by step. Develop a friendship with your partner. hiding nothing. the fear tends to dissolve.
especially if the person is close to you. look forward to the future and bury the bad memories of the past. Eventually. leave the healing on time. for all the comprehensible reasons. you should communicate your feelings to the one who has hurt you. but the glory of forgiving remains forever”. Communicate The Hurt Rather than holding a grudge and allowing it to thrive. The choice is yours! Let Time Heal There are times when the hurt is simply impossible to forget. forgiving and forgetting will become a lot more easier. Once you get a heart-felt apology from the person who has hurt you. If forgetting a hurtful incident is impossible for you.hard feelings for someone who has hurt you will not allow you to bury the hatchet and you will constantly find yourself dwelling on something that cannot be changed now. never forget that time is the biggest healer. it is important to remember that “the joy of revenge is only for a day. Therefore. How To Impress People Look around you and you would be surprised to find that even dorky-looking guys and gals can have the crowd eyeing them. Allow Others To Apologize Sometimes. make sure that you do not shut down the lines of communication completely. Would you want others to hold that against you forever? Allowing others to apologize will save you from becoming bitter to them. it becomes easier to forgive him/her. It is a popular myth that people are only born with the gift or ability of impressing others. Live in the present. If you can accept this premise. even after you have forgiven the other person. to be the talk of the town. While moving on is easier said than done. Wonder how? All that you need to do. Many people tend to keep things to themselves. for sadistic reasons. you will be able to put it out of your mind. Bitterness and bad memories pertaining to an incident will fade away with the passage of time. While some people believe that revenge is the sweetest joy. but cannot acquire . we are so infuriated and hurt over an incident that we do not allow the other person to buy time and come up with an apology when things cool down. Realize That Everyone Is Human Realize that it is only human to make mistakes and most of us don’t hurt others intentionally. Remind yourself that even you would have hurt others at one point of time. is to master the art of making the right impression. and it makes them averse to communication. It is important to realize that conversation will allow the other person to offer an explanation for his/her hurtful behavior and help you overcome the same. intentionally or unintentionally.
to be impressive. For the other half. having striking looks is the task half done. intelligence and humor. the tips given below would surely be of help. the more you find yourself running into them. Each one of us executes certain vibes to the people around. it is always about your reaction towards what took place and how well you were able to cope with it. but with a tinge of humor and wittiness added. However. which you can master by following the right tips. Remember. but just an art. Rather. Remember. Instead. Impressing People Around You The Aura Much is said and discussed about the aura that each person has. Imagine meeting a person who is shabbily dressed. you would be amazed to see people talking about you. you need to bear in mind that impressing others is no gift. Just being attractive or extremely genius is sure to goof up your persona. your aura can make you the most arresting person in a crowd of hundred as well. prefer to look like a prince/princess and talk like a scholar. the trick is to balance the bad emotions and act as if nothing bothers you at all. know for sure that he/she is the biggest believer of the same. The secret is to radiate positive and healthy vibes and within the twinkling of an eye. . you would be the most-talked about person in the society. you need to look striking as well. Get that killing look and you would surely have the eyes rolling!! The Right Mix Most of you would agree to meeting a lot of people who look charming. emotionally and psychologically and voila. Rather. And remember. but when they open their mouth to speak. the one who is talked about the most is naturally impressive!! Balance Bad Emotions It is a well-accepted fact that the more you run away from unpleasant situations and people. physically. And if someone denies the fact.the same. One such tip is that you need to groom yourself. if you lack the other parts. In case you are still wondering how to impress people. If you really want to impress someone. all you want to do is run away. you need to have the right mix of beauty. did you know that it’s your very own aura that can make much of a difference in making you an impressive person? Believe it or not. However. Get That Killing Look Ask anyone and you would know that looks do matter. This would give a tremendous boost to your personality and in no time. you would have people following you. the best way to do so would be to learn to replace the words ‘I can't’ with ‘I can’. Dare To Do Did you know that most people are bowled over by people who dare to ‘do’? Confused! Look around you and you would be surprised to find that almost every other person you meet has words like ‘can’t’ and ‘impossible’ in his/her vocabulary. it's never about what happened. This would reflect much about your personality and make you a notable person wherever you go. has unruly hair and scruffy looks! The only expression that comes to your mind is ‘aaghh’! Isn’t it? Remember.
Tips For Overcoming Procrastination Get A Goal The most important thing. the causes for procrastinating may or may not be same. how the grasshopper wasted his time hopping and singing in the summer while the ants toiled and moiled. Sometimes we procrastinate simply because we don’t have any schedule for the day. to guilt. Set a time for whatever chore you are taking for the day. which you can do without and which will not obstruct you in reaching your goals. the grasshopper found itself at the mercy of ants. Work On Achieving The Goals Remove all the tasks. Although almost every one of us procrastinate one or the other time in our life. link those tasks to your goals. With no goals. Plan Your Day The best way to keep yourself away from procrastination is by planning the day. stress. It will motivate you to do the tasks and to reach your goals and you would be happy to do that afterwards. Sometimes it can occur because of laziness. and even resentment. Procrastination is the habit of putting off any work to the last minute. It will clear your mindset and would not even take more than your ten minutes. Most people procrastinate because they have no goals. when there was no food. or because you want to escape something or at times you are too overwhelmed by a task that you put it off. Believe In Yourself . doing it on a regular basis can pose serious problems to your career and personal life. Make goals in various fields of your life. Don’t make a very huge list as it might get too overwhelming for you. There are various effects of procrastination. Take time and clear it out. if there are some works which you don’t like to do but are important in order to achieve your goal. financial. people don’t have the will to move ahead in life.How To Overcome Procrastination You may remember the story of ants and grasshopper. Does it sound like a familiar story and not because you have heard it over a million times but because you find the grasshopper as your alter ego. In addition. which range from missed opportunities. which you have to do. relationship. like career. And how in winter. which would help you reach your goal. Read on the article to know some practical tools to overcome it. Keep your eyes on the things. In addition. health etc. which will keep you alert and away from procrastination. Make short term and long-term goals. It will help you stick to your program. is to get clear ideas on what you want to do in life.
Read on and know how to become a positive thinker. Don’t Overdo It Don’t put too much pressure on yourself. Follow your inner desires and success would follow you. Break down the big tasks but schedule it in your time limit so that you don’t spend too much time on a smaller task. Remember that failure is just a stepping-stone to success. have a clear idea about your values and then use them as a navigational compass in all the decisions you make. frustrated. Respect Your Values Almost every one of us wants to do several things. However. but actually how many of us do it? The problem is that we don’t respect ourselves and we don’t respect our values. The article brings you some exercises and activities which will help you to think optimistic. If in childhood. you won’t be able to do much. First. that we don’t even know when we start getting frustrated and take unnecessary stress. discouraged and feeling negative. you wouldn’t have been able to walk itself.The most important thing to achieve success is the belief in oneself. Have faith in your abilities and the power to turn things around. Delete the ‘impossible’ word out of your dictionary and remember that you can do it. Positive Thinking Exercises It has been rightly said that ‘when going gets tough. only positive thinkers know how to overcome the most testing of situations. Unless you believe in yourself. Problems in life are generic and affect everyone in almost the same way. you would snap. You don’t have to be too hard on yourself. . And that may put you off from the whole idea itself. you wouldn’t have walked because of the fear of falling. Challenging situations can leave you harassed. which will improve your working ability. Take Breaks Take breaks when you feel less motivated and are tired. will provide better results and will not overwhelm you. and if you are too hard on yourself. recognize that you are doing it and thrive to change it. As the habit of not procrastinating will take time to cultivate. as it will keep you in for long haul. the tough gets going’ and the driving force behind tough souls is a positive thinking mind. Even if you do procrastinate. Sometimes we get too involved in a thing. Break Down Big Tasks Breaking down big tasks in smaller components would help you concentrate on that particular task for the moment. This will keep you focused. Stick to your time management but allow for little cheats.
once you build faith in yourself. The moment you start forgiving yourself. The best part is that you don’t have to necessarily meditate in a static body posture. which probably requires the least effort on your part. Inspire Yourself It is important to inspire yourself. Listen to inspirational songs when you are driving and lift up your spirits. but keeping yourself happy is completely a matter of choice. . It will work as a great stress buster and ward off any negative emotions trying to overpower your mind.Activities For Positive Thinking Early Morning Walk An early morning walk can be of immense help in keeping you in a positive frame of mind throughout the day. Always remember that one should remember only the good things of the past and drop the bad memories from the mental landscape. Write inspirational quotes and place them at your office desk or at home. you will begin to feel positive. yet the most powerful techniques to foster positive thinking. It is also the only thing. Try To Forget Negative reminiscences of something that has passed over and can’t be changed now can take you down the memory lane and hamper a forward-looking positive approach. Make sure that you take a walk early in the morning and take time out to appreciate the beauty of nature. more so from your successes in the past. Meditation Meditation is one of the simplest. where you get a chance to read them as often as you can. Holding yourself responsible for everything is not going to alter a situation for the better. Be Happy The easiest way to think positive is to be happy. Forgetting the negatives of life encourages positive thinking. Just sit in a comfortable chair and listen to soothing music or perform deep breathing exercises that are good for relaxing your mind. you will automatically think positive. Forgive Yourself Remember that you are human too! It is important to realize that you don’t run the world and there are things beyond your control as well. to conquer any negativity in your mind. which can occasionally go wrong. Believe In Yourself Most negative thinkers are those who suffer from a lack of self belief and continue to nurse doubts about their abilities. Confidence and self-assurance is the cornerstone of positive thinking and you will notice the difference instantly. There is no denying the fact that you will keep finding yourself in trying circumstances. If you are in a happy state of mind.
Be kind to yourself with your words and actions. confident person would have handled the situation? Study your favorite personalities and analyze their activities and behavior pattern and act like them. Never let you down in any case. you can use confidence-building techniques to increase and enhance your confidence. When you reach a • • • . unless he is confident. Just refer it again and again when you feel so frustrated. Analyze those qualities from roots. we would not be able to achieve anything in our life. You never want to hurt your best friend. There is nothing wrong in accepting the compliments from others. Just make a list of positive traits. Gracefully accept the compliments of others. it is cultivated and it is never too late to cultivate it. If you feel you lack in confidence. which you want to achieve. are you like the wobbly doctor? Do you struggle to take decisions? If yes.Confidence Building Techniques Imagine a scene where you are on an operation table and the doctor who is doing your surgery is bathed with sweats and is wobbly with apprehensions. Treat yourself with the same approach. Even if he does a mistake. Treat yourself as if you were your own best friend. This is the greatest teaching of Zen. Do not hurt yourself by complaining about your weakness and negative traits. Self-confidence is of utmost importance in every aspect of our lives and unless we are confident. A person without confidence is like a ship without a captain. Would you want him to operate on you? The answer certainly is ‘no’ by all means. you pamper him and convince him that he didn’t commit any. Nobody is by birth a confident man/woman. Your subconscious gets designed in a positive way when you accept the compliments from others. Write them down on a book or in a laptop. When you are feeling very less confident. and find out what a beautiful personality you are. You already have things. then you might as well be suffering from lack of self-confidence. Never think of yourself as a loser or a joker. Even though the doctor may be very experienced and good. Use positive motivational quotes from the good books you have ever read. Focus on the positive things about yourself. Think about how a wise. So what are you waiting for? Go on read for yourself the techniques for confidence building. You imagine yourself as an epitome of talent and virtue. you will never have confidence in him and better say you are off without him. Now come to think of it. imagine yourself as the wise man on earth. Confidence Building Exercises • • • • • Imagine yourself as the perfect person.
in the night. Do some weight training exercises and build yourself a good physique. listen to. Imagine your life is already fulfilled and full of joy. There is a saying “look for the silver lining in every cloud” which means see positive traits in whatever happens even if that is a negative thing in a normal sense. you can find in any newspaper are negative. It is better to make your mornings a smooth drive rather than a mad dash. Do not watch. Don’t be too pushy on success. you don’t need other’s compliments to feel contented. which is designed to shock you. It also requires a great deal of planning and scheduling the next day’s routine. Tips To Avoid The Morning Rush • Prepare all the clothes and outfits for yourself and your children before hitting the pillow. Try to help others honestly. The morning alarm signals the start of a race for most of the parents. Whenever you achieve a minor goal. etc. praise yourself to the Himalayan heights. Never shut the door to people. Always keep a lot of friends. • • Praise yourself million times a day if possible. Schedule and start off a routine when the kids are still young. it gradually turns into reality. fun. You will feel more contented and relaxed. to breeze out the process of getting ready in the morning. gloves.higher level of confidence. hair accessories. It comes with a detailed course of action that is to be followed regularly. Most of news. • • • • • How To Avoid Being Rushed In The Morning The knack of parenting does not come easily. calm and joyful beginning. • Set out shoes. So avoid the habit of reading the newspaper in night before you sleep. If you can think of your imagination as the reality. coats. The children are to be fed and dressed. Practice meditation and yoga. . sent to school. A strong physique is the foundation of good mind. Then it’s the turn of the parents to eat. News is polished version of facts. recall the entire positive experiences of the day. for a long’s days work. and music. dress and set off to the office. Explore this article to know tips on how to avoid being rushed in the morning and route your day to a smooth. Instead of exposing yourself to bad news. or read the news just before bed. This will prepare your children to assist you in the growing years.
notebooks and other supplies in the night itself. early to rise makes a person healthy and wise”. wallet and cell phones and make a habit of keeping them at that place only. in case one of them has a habit of staggering in the bathroom. This will give you more time to do the necessities and make you fell less hurried. In every stream of life there are millions of people struggling to carve a niche for themselves. Once you are sure about your opinions. to avoid rushing in the morning. Have your children get up at different times. Start your morning with some upbeat music to keep you on your toes. • • • • • • • • How To Lead A Discussion It is often said that if you want to make yourself heard and your presence felt. For this. Get up early and before the rest of family members. Set your alarm 15 minutes before the regular time. you will not only be able to move ahead in life. particularly during a gathering or discussion. Charge your cell phones the night before. This will help manage each child’s routine and keep everyone move along and keep the pace. Remember “Early to bed. papers. This statement is true for each and every aspect of life. Pen down all the necessary things to do on a sticky note. it is vital to take the lead. then only will you be able to voice out your thoughts and convince people regarding the same. Pack your children’s bags in the night. Pen down the duties and divide them among the family members. This way.• • • Designate one place to keep your keys. to clear up your head. Put in their lunch money. In case any forms are to be filled in. Be sure that you and your family members are well-rested by calling the night early. you should be focused and extremely determined and should have a strong mind set. Prepare the office briefcase in the evening. to save time and the frustration of searching for the things in the morning. Lack of sleep will make you sluggish and not help getting up in the morning. This will enable you to start the day with a few peaceful and quiet moments and help you tackle the needs of others. It totally depends on you whether you want to be just another face in the crowd or stand out as strong independent character. to reminder you of the same in the morning. fill them up before going to bed and do not leave them for the morning. It is only those people who stand . Discuss the short-cuts to ease the burden of time constraints. but will also be able to bring a change with your thoughts and ideas.
They should never be limited to ones that can be answered by a simple “yes” or “no”. • • • How To Achieve Success . one after the other. without grounds to explain them. wherein you make your speech in front of an imaginary crowd. Such people are able to do so only because they can forward their thoughts among millions of others and lead discussions. Leading Group Discussions • Whether in school or at office. Make it a point that everybody gives proper reason and backup for his or her opinions. Particularly emphasize on the quieter participants and try to get them involved as much as the other members. you should be well prepared with a list of questions. based on evidences and verifications provided by the members. Apart from the big questions. the discussion should also have several smaller ones for each main question. Try to find a balance between the different types of personalities and give every person involved in the discussion a chance to speak out his or her thoughts. do your homework well and explore the topic of discussion in detail. the more perfect you get with your presentation. Jot down the important things or make a mental note and find out all the probable questions that you would probably face during the discussion. Finally. • • As a leader. The more you know about the subject matter. • The phrase “practice makes a man perfect” would probably sound like a cliché to some. To start a discussion and keep it going.up for their beliefs and rights who bring about a change in the society. These questions should always be open-ended in nature. to keep the fire within the discussion burning. as this is the only way you can come to meaningful conclusions. Nobody should give blank statements. which allows the listeners to follow up with answers or further questions. but history has proved it time and again that the more you practice. In case you want to be one of them. while facing the crowd. read on. You can even use a recorder to visualize how you present yourself and how much more you have to improve. Judge the pros and cons of every side. You can even have an imaginary presentation. to shoot at the participants. The main idea is for a constructive solution after a prolonged period of discussion. the more confident you will feel. We have provided some very interesting tips on how you can lead a discussion and progress in life. Try to infuse arguments. you should frame the correct questions for the participants. give a summary or conclusion for the discussion.
The following steps will help you understand what you would need to do in order to be a successful person. Look after your physical and emotional health. This will help you greatly when dealing with others. Goals and the path to success cannot be trodden upon singlehandedly. staying positive will help you be more successful in the end. Steadfastness is required here in order that you do not give up once obstacles come your way. Therefore. When you approach your goals to success. which might make you stray off course. good exercise. Have a list of short-term goals (for the day or for the week) and work towards achieving them. it is essential to communicate well and effectively. driving the latest cars. To this end. you do not need to trample on others in order to reach out to success. Tips To Be Successful • Have goals – long-term goals as well as short-term ones. However. However. the lives of many people have proves that success is more than just materialism and the quest for wealth. You might have to change your plans or the way that you wanted to work towards a goal. • • • • • • • How To Be Assertive Without Being Arrogant .What does success really mean to you? To many. Ensure that you get proper food. If the road to success gets rough. be like a horse with blinkers and look straight ahead at your goal. Be positive. make sure that these are practical. without wavering. and filling their homes with the latest gadgets. but taking care of your health will ensure that you are in good shape to pursue success. This might seem to be a strange tip. Viewing your goals as a chore will not lead to success. When you set goals. Read on to know how to achieve success. There will definitely be obstacles in your path to success. Contrary to a prevalent attitude. and adequate sleep. Things may not always work out the way you wanted them to. Be committed towards your goals. the words success invokes the idea of dollar signs glinting before their eyes. your attitude counts a lot. Build your long term goals upon the short term ones. Creativity is needed in order to make the best of the changed circumstances. and to turn them around and use them to create a new path to help you reach your goals. Flexibility is needed in order to allow you to keep yourself open to changes that come along with changed circumstances. Be focused on your goals. True success lies in reaching your goals. If you have a negative attitude. defining who you are by what you choose in life. you will find that the obstacles become more difficult to surmount. There might be a lot of things that come in the way of reaching your goals. you would need to be creative as well as flexible. Some visualize themselves in huge mansions. Trying to aim for the moon will only result in failure.
if you don’t want to be written off as an aggressive freak. The dividing line between the two can appear to be very thin. Imagine if the other party is as forceful and pushy as assertive are you! Under such circumstances. read on. in certain circumstances. It is such a fine combination that you would never be associated with elitism and snobbery. Be An Active Listener Being assertive is not only about conveying your point across in a firm way. Be Modest & Unassuming Modesty and an unassuming demeanor gel very well with assertiveness. Only you can tame your over aggressiveness. Those who don’t listen to what others have to say epitomize arrogance in the most apparent way. at least in the professional arena. Be humble and civil with others in your dealings. Assertiveness is a remarkably positive trait and selfassured people are sure to succeed. but stand solid on your position. You will find some valuable tips on how to balance your aggression and be assertive without being arrogant or pushy. Conversely. Reaching a compromise. It doesn’t imply that you are giving others a chance to convince you when you have to be assertive. it also involves listening to the other party patiently. where you have to communicate your needs without bending. The plain dichotomization between assertiveness and arrogance is that assertive people climb the ladder without stepping on other people’s rights and arrogant people simply fail to see that others exist. ‘Being polite yet firm’ is the golden rule and you would do well to remember that. Listen to others. It’s just that others should not feel that you are self-absorbed and only concerned with yourself. sometimes. Identify such situations and be willing to work for a compromise when required. benefits more than hoisting your own flag. tend to over do it at times. Look For A Middle Path There are certain situations where it becomes imperative to work out a middle path. rudeness coupled with assertiveness is naturally seen as arrogance. it makes sense to keep your options open. who do not possess this brazenness. which is very important to succeed. Your insolence can make you feel alone. you don’t want this to happen. no matter what. .Being assertive is often equated with being arrogant and bigheaded. There is a bright possibility that you may come across as arrogant. almost blurred. Tips To Be Assertive Without Being Aggressive Use Assertive Communication Appropriately Those who are not assertive don’t speak their usual self and those who are. However. You have to guard against this tendency. rather than incessantly locking horns with others by being too assertive. often brand assertiveness as a mere reflection of superciliousness. The idea is to strike a fine balance and use your assertive communication skills in a manner. some insecure people. which is deemed appropriate. In case.
Having A Good Conversation First Impression As said. rather than convincing them to get interested in you. Observe people carefully and put in more questions. Space out your questions well. Do not think too much about yourself and what the person might be thinking about you. Simply relax. Listen Listening to the speaker forms the most significant part of any conversation. they will feel that you are interrogating them and this can result in closed off relationships. Do not hesitate to compliment him/her as it can prove to be beneficial in terms of beginning a talk. give your introduction. smile and ask questions that probe answers.as no one will one come to your rescue. Be friendly. first impression is the last impression. How To Have A Great Conversation The art of conversation has very little to do with talking. In other words. Make the right movements and noises to specify that you are listening and very much involved in the conversation. else. in advance. shake hands and focus on the conversation. Other Person’s Interest Study and research on some significant points about the person with whom you would be conversing. They often lead to personal stories and anecdotes. These topics often result in limitless conversation and reveal about the character of a person. Be sure to ask them politely and do not sound like a stalker. more than just a yes or no. Read on and know how to have a great conversation. guard against offending others and try to be modest and gracious. Hence. Compliments can prove to be ice-breakers. conversation is all about understanding what your partner is trying to say and convey to you. once the wrong shot has been fired. Conversations give you an excellent opportunity to learn from the speakers. Practice Active Listening Skills . Ask Questions Prepare some questions in advance. meaningful and entertaining conversation. practice and patience to converse effectively with anyone. Forget Yourself Get yourself interested in people. Following are some tips that could prove beneficial for a good. Listen well. speak politely and maintain good eye contact. It just requires a little knowledge. It is more concerned about listening as well listing.
Judge Your Response Before Disagreeing Do not disagree on a point merely to set apart yourself. dislikes. etc. You can use phrases like ‘yes’. ruthless. to leave a good impression on the other person. Some even suggest that the best way to win an argument is to irritate the opponent into exaggerating. calculating. put forward questions to clarify about their thinking and feeling. oftentimes. which suggest that the reader should be rough. who reminds you of a bull in a Spanish bull-fighting arena? He/she seems to be breathing fire down your neck and there’s nothing you can say or do that would stop them from jumping down your throat each time you open your mouth. This will help you better your understanding and affirm it. ‘that’s interesting’. not completely truthful. However. Use significant points from other people’s talk in your speech. At the same time. etc to tell them that you are involved in the conversation and are not diverted. ‘I see’. You find a person interesting only when he/ she is a bit like you and a bit different from you. How To Win An Argument Have you found yourself in a situation where you are confronted by an angry person. make sure that the person also knows that you are listening. you need to build good eye contact and make comments wherever required. By using the following tips. and then trapping them. Do Not Panic Over Lulls When a particular topic has taken exit. So how do you win an argument? There are many write-ups available for reading.When you listen. For this. the best way to win an argument is to win the person as well and not to out-argue them. Use Your Words To Paraphrase Back What You Have Heard Conversation happens in a process wherein each person is given a chance to listen and then speak up or respond. Ask Clarifying Questions If you find the topic of the conversation is interesting and appealing. use the time gap to think over and introduce a new topic or put in a question based on the previous conversation. likes. Know When The Conversation Is Over Every conversation has an end to it. Mention that you would be delighted to talk to them over time. . and. Remember to smile while leaving and end on a positive note. Take interest in knowing about the person and his/ her hobbies. do not end up agreeing on everything as well. to let them know that you had been actually listening. you would be knocking down their communication blocks to the point where communication can occur – and you have won the argument.
they will still own the item that they purchased for you. Therefore. Also. How To Learn When To Say No Saying ‘No’ can be a very difficult thing to do. rather than aiming to convince the other person that you are right. which will help you to learn when to say ‘No’ . if you do not accept the gift. You would also want to convince the other person. Imagine a person who is in a boxing ring and swinging his arms around trying to hit out at you – but you are not there fighting him. but that you are right. no matter who was the more dominant arguer. don’t concentrate on bandying words. when to say ‘No’. never take things personally. Similarly. Since the goal is to win the arguments. go in for an entirely different goal. This will make both of you more deeply fixed on your own views. If you wish to win the argument at any cost. There are many people who simply can’t say ‘No’ to anyone’s request. do not retaliate. Focus on the other person’s behavior and words. You cannot win an argument with resistance.Ways To Win Arguments Tips And Tricks Start Off With The Right Attitude Do not start off trying to prove yourself right and your opponent wrong. as they compromise on their own priorities. Never attack – when they attack you just redirect the attack back to them. not by means of a frontal attack. so as to meet the requests made by others to them. It’s similar to verbal martial arts. is to know how to say ‘No’ and more importantly. Do Not Retaliate No matter what happens. The key to succeed in meeting our priorities dot on time and not bother ourselves with other people’s work when we really don’t want to. then the price you might have to pay is your relationship with the other person. but by means of strategy. He will get tired after a while. when you do not accept the verbal attack. The article brings you some very useful tips. Use Strategy If you try to prove that. Similarly. Aim To Reach A Goal Aim to reach a goal. This is about getting your opponent to shut up – and then using the facts with logic to win the argument. but what is even more difficult is to determine when to say ‘No’. This gets them into rough waters quite often. you’re right you will most often end up provoking the other person. If a person gets you a gift and offers it to you. Remember that the best battles are won. let the arguer run out of steam and then handle the situation. not that he/she is wrong. The other person’s resolve will only be strengthened further and the argument will never end. the sting of the attack wears off. Just repeatedly deflect the person’s arguments back to him/her.
In the professional arena. for any of your random jobs. A ‘No’ should always be polite. If you think that the concerned person is in a capacity to the job that he/she is entrusting upon you. Determining whether you are really needed for a particular task or not. it is the time to firmly refuse to oblige him/her.Learning When To Say No See Your Convenience While it may sound a little self-centered. is also the criterion to decide whether its’ time to say ‘No’. instead of saying ‘No’ right on the face of a senior. which you can’t compromise on. when you react to their compliment. This is a common problem with most of us. if they know that you find it difficult to say ‘No’. disallowing you to heed to his/her request. if you think that you are really needed in a particular situation and it just can’t work without you. you will have to train your mind to learn that. Somewhere down the line. you should certainly consider helping the other person. you can simply cite some other tasks that you have at hand. if you think that you don’t have the required time for others. How To Take A Compliment Since you have landed on this article. Be polite and gracious when refusing something and you will never fall in anybody’s bad books. it has to be the key if you don’t want to upset the tasks on your agenda. but know where the threshold is. You need to ensure that you are not taken advantage of. but finds it difficult to accept them. it is obvious that you are a sweet person who receives compliments. However. get on with your work without a second thought. When you know that the other person is simply taking advantage of your feebleness in saying ‘NO’. you simply can’t say ‘No’ in a crude manner. learning how to say it is equally vital. Don’t Let Others Take Advantage Of You Some people just make it a habit to fall back on others for their tasks and people who are ‘pushovers’ are obviously the softest targets around. unless your intention is to deliberately snap back at the other person. You have been observing since long that people always take it other way round. If you can conveniently help others at the expense of some of your time. Determine Whether You Are Really Needed If your mind is not conditioned to know when you are indispensable. You will also need others once in a while. People will try hard to convince you to get their job done. you should always go ahead. there is no reason why he/she can’t be refused. On the contrary. Factoring in your convenience is not to say that you should abstain from helping or saying ‘Yes’ to others. Do what you possibly can for others. Learning How To Say ‘No’ As much as learning when to say ‘No’ is important. it only pitches in your priorities. In fact. it .
When someone compliments you. Never do the mistake of underestimating yourself. but never focus on how much you shelled out to buy that one. We are here to help you out on the task of how to take compliments gracefully and bring sunshine in your life. • • • • • • • • • . don’t let the other person know how bad you have felt about it.always comes across as either you lack confidence or are a proud person. It should also make the other person feel that you have accepted it whole-heartedly and value it. when you receive a compliment. This will go extremely rude and depict you as proud. This is taken as an insult by the person who is giving the compliment and he/ she will definitely re-think before complimenting you in future. by infusing a negative remark. Never give a sarcastic grunt or an eye-roll. Taking A Compliment Gracefully • The first and foremost thing to do when you are complimented is to acknowledge it. as it is considered highly rude. The two words. avoid doing it. after you have taken the compliment. So quickly brush up with the tips given below and be a dear amongst all. Avoid looking here and there. else it will depict as if you don’t believe in the compliment or aren’t confident about it. Compliments should make you feel special and bring a smile on your face. egoistic and impolite person. Your body posture should not over shadow your confidence. To gain confidence. ‘Thank You’ come out very genuinely and make the other person feel that you have accepted the compliment. it will confuse the admirer and make you come across as a rude person. if the compliment is from someone you love or admire). Even if you feel that the compliment is in a sarcastic tone. practice receiving compliments in mirror and saying thanks with smile. This will only show that you are too self-obsessed. who might not be looking as great as you are. If you are complimented upon the way you are dressed. acknowledge it and initiate the conversation by letting them know the place you bought it from or how great the shop was. Make an eye contact and give a smile. So. Immediately say ‘thank you’ with a kind smile and it will turn into a compliment. without acknowledging it. You can also say that the compliment means a lot to you or something along the same lines. if you have received a compliment for your good work or the accomplishment of a task. Don’t argue with your admirer or compare yourself with another person. Be confident (you can blush too. especially when you are receiving a compliment. don’t change the topic. This will again reflect you as a negative person and close doors for further compliments. Avoid the temptation of bragging about yourself.
Remember that your task is to be an • • • • • • . but after a while he knows something”. rather than indulging in finding debatable issues in the conversation. Listening is a skill that not many a people are gifted with. be careful not to use these expressions to start a speech from your end. Choose proper solutions for overcoming these barriers and ensure that the messages are well conveyed. You can ask brief questions in between his conversation. Proper listening enables a person to know and understand the matter efficiently. Listening skills can also be developed and nurtured during the life time. However. as a listener. Free your mind from all other things and concentrate only on what he wants to say. says Wilson Mizner. These can encourage the speaker to convey his point further to you. Avoid your temptation to interrupt in the middle of the conversation. Avoid pseudo-listening and try to actually focus on what the speaker has to say. let the speaker complete and then give your feedback or opinion. you can help him focus on his message. Always wear a positive body language towards the speaker. Read on and practice the tips consistently. Look at the vocal tone of the speaker. conversation among other groups. You need to listen to the speaker. Make an impression on the speaker that you are interested in his speech. which will make him feel that you are actually listening to him. Always remember to maintain eye contact with the speaker. to get this positive trait in you. etc. sound of moving vehicles. In case the speaker looks tired and exhausted. be patient and lend a listening ear. Smile wherever necessary and show gestures like holding hands or offering a hug. Concentrate on the words of the speaker. which will help you in many walks of life. Show appropriate actions that go well with the conversation. Improving Your Listening Skills • • Pay proper attention to what the speaker wants to convey. Let him vent out his feelings and relax himself. to know his mood. rather than conveying your own view point. Make your environment free of barriers that can cause a hindrance in the proper communication system. Interference will only make the speaker frustrated and lose the track of what he was saying. You can use such verbal expressions like “I understand what you mean”. Suppose the speaker is angry. We bring you some effective tips how to improve effective listening skills.How To Improve Listening Skills “A good listener is not only popular everywhere. The common environmental barriers include TV or music system. First. An effective listener is equally praiseworthy as a powerful speaker. It is an effective tool in building up a relationship.
from being ineffectual. This will be highly inspiring and encouraging for the speaker. However. rather than proving yourself to be a winner in a debate competition. Find out the points on which you mutually agree with the speaker and present them occasionally in between the conversation. humans have this innate quality of discovering whether a person is real or fake. You can improve your social skills by just putting in a little effort. Just strike a delicate . does everyone possess social skills? Most of the people do not know the art of speaking. • At the end of the conversation. being too loud and outgoing would not do much good either. A person behaving in an undesirable and unacceptable manner is usually avoided by people. trust me. In case you pretend to be someone you are not. Remember. a human being is a social animal. but the question is. Having sound social skills is extremely important in the present times. given to the fact that interaction and conversation forms the basis for everything we do. you cannot be perfect overnight. you might just turn out to be the ‘apple’ of the social meets. In the following lines. This will encourage the speaker to further elaborate on the conversation How To Improve Your Social Skills They say. Do not change your inner self for anything in the world. it is not the end of the world. While some are just inept and incompetent. you should have a fusion of both the characters. Just focus on qualities listed below and who knows. you can use expansion statements like “This is very interesting”. Ideally. So. If you also face difficulty in interacting. we have provided tips on how to improve social skills. there are others who lack confidence and yet others who do not havep98 mannerism and etiquettes. just for you. remember. you would be lonelier than ever before. Be Open & Approachable Imagine talking to a person who is an absolute introvert or extrovert! Extremes of personality often turn off people. While being too shy and withdrawn is enough to repel people immediately.effective listener. Be Responsible One of the vital components of social interaction is to know that art of carrying yourself. Improving Social Skills Be Yourself Only when you are your own self do you feel comfortable. it would be worth the wait. It would take some time. And it is when you are in utmost comfort that you indulge in free conversation and interaction. be responsible for your actions and act according to the situation. but believe me. It is very important for you to know what to do and how to behave in a social gathering.
Alas! Not many have it in them. it is very necessary that you create a great impact. watch if the person you are talking to is comfortable with the specific topic. “first impression is the last impression”. Making A Strong First Impression Right on Time . just move on to the next topic. Keep a keen eye on who are your friends and who are your enemies. Be Aware It is very important to be aware and observant of people’s behavior. As such. It would speak miles about your manners. Do not shut your eyes. so that the person has positive feelings or thoughts of you.balance between both the personalities and you would be the ‘star’ of the social gathering. While being honest and forthright definitely pays. Do not confront everything to someone you have just met. If you would have attended a social gathering. but no one is ready to listen. has struck a note in the minds of all people alike. keep reading the article. Be Attentive The art of listening is a stepping stone for conversation and interaction. impressive conduct. sugarcoating the truth is very necessary at times. the first date or the first day at work. Great styling. In case he/she is not interested in talking to you completely. you will know that everyone wants to talk. the first impression would go a long way in establishing and imprinting your position in the mind of the person you are meeting. the best bet would be to move out of the scene. Also. Be Polite Being humble and down-to-earth is an excellent way to break the ice. Be it a business meeting. So. close your ears and numb your senses at the time of interacting. For instance. If you want to arm yourself with all the tips on how to make a great first impression. it is also advisable to be diplomatic. which is why most of us long to make a great first impact on people. If he looks uncomfortable or is simply disinterested. Apart from being polite. do not interrupt or chip in a piece of advice or suggestion just when the other person is in the middle of a subject. Be Cautious It is advisable to keep your senses active. the trick is to be an attentive listener and people would definitely talk to you. It sheds off all the apprehensions and nervousness and gives a good impression. How To Make A Great First Impression The phrase. oozing confidence and a winning smile are some of the determining factors for making a striking first impression. personality and confidence.
Remember. If you are projecting your own personality to the person you are meeting. Plan your day in such a way that you reach the assigned location. For men. you would be utmost confident and completely at ease. the trick is to smile and win the heart and mind of the other person. do not go overboard and laugh with your mouth open. untidy clothes and messy hair-do is enough to make you look under confident and sheepish! Impressive Introduction While looks would create the 50% of the first impression. with all the details. So. going clean shaven is a must. Remember. standing tall with the head held high. However. making you look all the more stunning and stylish. Just be Yourself Most of the people go way beyond their individuality to create a good first impression. the first look can go a long way in making an impressive first impression. the rest depends on how impressive is your introduction. In such a case. do not lengthen it. Since you are meeting a person for the first time. so apprehensions and nervousness would be common between the two of you. even he/she is meeting you for the first time.Imagine meeting a person for the first time and opening your introduction with a sorry or an excuse for being late? What a loser you would look like! Being on time is the first step towards making a great first impression. Here. Remember. Smartly introduce yourself and fill in the other person with all the necessary details that he/she should know about. a warm smile can shed off all the initial apprehensions and make both of you at ease. Remember. the deal is to be yourself. Small things like eye contact. a winning smile and a firm handshake would talk a lot about your personality and the person you are.confusion and nervousness!! To avoid such a scenario. Style Yourself Well Believe it or not. However. Winning Smile George Eliot rightly said “Wear a smile and have friends. An impressive introduction is one that is short and crisp. wear a scowl and have wrinkles”. at least 5 to 10 minutes prior to the preset time. chances are that the two of you barely know each other. (I’m sure the other person does not want to know how many teeth you have or how big your tonsils are!!) Oozing Confidence Did you know that your body language contributes more than 90% of your communication? Thus. it is very necessary to project appropriate body language. the other person would automatically feel relaxed. grooming and styling should be the mantra for you. it would be best if you start off with a bang. Nothing can be more depressing than to meet a person who is dressed up without a smile. if you want to create an impressive impression. Make sure your hair-do serves as an add-on to your look. keep the nervousness locked in your cupboard. . Dress appropriately before stepping out of the house. Result . And if you are calm and confident. Make sure that the attire you are wearing gives a boost to your personality.
Remember. Do not interrupt a person while talking. such messages make way for easier learning. For those of you who want to arm themselves with all the information about positive communication techniques. Words that mean good in our language need not necessarily mean the same in other language. A rule of the thumb . it is best to translate the information in a language that the receiver can interpret correctly.Chivalry at Best Do we need to elucidate on this point? Needless to say. communication should be carefully conducted. negative or corrective messages are necessary to communicate. when topped with healthy doses of positive comments. Positive Communication Skills Proper Attention Being attentive is one of most vital components to engage in positive communication. most of the times. Respect & Kindness . As such. It makes the communicator lose the trail of thoughts. you are here to create a good impression on the person you are meeting and not on the person whom you are talking to!! Positive Communication Techniques Did you know that communication is the key to opening the doors of success and victory? However. you not only build a healthy relationship. This would not only help you understand the other person’s point of view. creating the best first impression. Correct Translation In case you are talking to a person who comes from a different country or follows a different language.first. reading this article is a great idea. In such circumstances. try to introduce positive words in your communication and second. However. the results are far from being positive. Starting On Positive Note Starting your communication on a positive note sets the pace for effective messages later on. Talking in a common language is best advised. Effective communications are those that bring in positive results. This way. Sometimes. thereby disrupting the whole process of communication. but also formulate the right opinion. communicate in a way that it leads to positive outcomes. people do not engage in healthy communications. Listening sets the base for any communication and it is when your listen attentively that perfect communication takes place. men and chivalry should go hand in hand. Good manners and courteous behavior lay the foundation for any relationship. but also make way for better communication.switch off your mobile while you are with the person. This can be done if you follow two simple tips .
when two individuals communicate. The magnetic qualities that a successful speaker possesses draw the masses towards him/her.Every individual is an entity and has opinions and view of his own. it is normal to face a situation wherein there is a difference of opinion. Arrange for the time that is favorable for both of you and a place that allows positive communication between the two of you. Right Body Language Did you know that almost 90% of the communication is done by your body? Sounds unbelievable. As such. The present U. we mean that the time and the place of communication should be proper. making it extremely unconstructive and pessimistic. The article gives some excellent tips on how to become a good speaker and enthrall your audience. Well Timed Communication By this. while you are in a conversation. but it is true!! Your eyes. which is why it becomes crucial to time the communication well. who has continued to win laurels for his tremendous potential as a speaker. It negates chances of positive things in the communication. Become A Good Speaker Sound Sincere With What You Say . Such communications do not result in a positive outcome. Use tact and good judgment to come to a common solution. For instance. It is not feasible to have important discussion in the middle of a hallway or office corridor or around nosy co-workers. In such circumstances. Playing the blame game would take you nowhere. How To Be A Good Speaker It is certainly a great honor to be heard by people and only a good speaker can manage to bring that honor upon him/her. you can only indulge in positive communication when both the speaker and the listener are in a calm mood. No Blame Game It is very important not to play the blame game.S president Barack Obama. Do not compel the other person to agree to your school of thought. imagine you are in an important board meeting and someone suddenly yawns – it’s a perfect give away that he/she is bored to death. However. is a shining example of phenomenal oration skills. Remember. it is best advised to respect each other's viewpoints and opinions. Pose forward a right body language and you would surely have the most positive communication. not everyone is endowed with these attributes and this is where the tips given below will come handy. hands and body posture communicate more than you ever thought.
just like a good professor. in all likeliness. you are suffering from performance anxiety. Hitting the nail right on the head is all about being able to convey your thoughts and make the audience feel what you are saying. Speak in a way you talk to people in your day. as you speak. An excellent content laced with humor and an equally witty disposition to carry it off will work as icing on the cake. How To Get Rid Of Performance Anxiety If you begin to sweat profusely and tremble at the very thought of your scheduled performance. to strike a chord with your audience. Voice modulation may call for some practice. but also come across as genuine. content is extremely important to stand out as someone who is intently heard by his/her audience. but in the eyes of the person or the group they are addressing. A lot of people have a tendency to look anywhere. People appreciate knowledgeable speakers and delivering substantial and interesting information will hold you in high esteem with your listeners.Sincerity in your words tops the order among the attributes of a good speaker.to-day life. to keep the audience amused. One of the greatest qualities a good speaker should posses is the ability to modulate his/her voice to for effect. try to cultivate an insight into the subject and expand your knowledge base. as if you are talking to your audience. will always go prepared for the speech. If you already know the subject you have to speak on. Learn To Modulate Your Voice Every word that one says carries a different emotion and these emotions need to be transmitted to the audience in an expressive way. Apart from the novices. as far as performing in front of an audience is . for a good speaker. Maintain Eye Contact With The Audience The golden rule to be a successful speaker is to maintain eye contact with the audience all through your speech. Cultivate Knowledge On The Subject For a good speaker. a drab content will soon wither away the interest of the audience. Holding the interest of the audience for long is a great art that can be perfected over time. Performance anxiety is also called ‘choking’ by some people. Exploit your confidence to the limit and maintain constant eye contact with the audience. People will pay heed to what you are saying. Add Humor To Your Content No matter how great an orator you are. This habit can be very off-putting for the audience and the speaker will fail to garner enough attention for himself/herself. Excellent speakers are those who are not just good orators. but it can be easily mastered over time. The key to appear sincere is to speak in a conversationalist tone. if they feel you are for real. it can grip even those who own a wealth of experience. A good speaker. You need to make the session interesting by adding a dash of humor in your content.
Always remember that hard work and practice is the key to success and you can conquer your anxiety very well with mock sessions and rehearsals. when nothing else is working out. Practice your performance as much as possible. While it may not be possible if you have to give an office presentation. You can simply reach the venue before time and rehearse on the stage once. Keep Anti-Anxiety Drugs As Last Option Anti-anxiety drugs should always be kept as a last option. many of the seasoned performers suffer from anxiety and nervousness as they set on to perform another time.concerned. Self-doubt and a lack of confidence are the most common reasons accounting for performance anxiety. Read on to know how to perform your way to glory. This will surely help you cope up with nervousness and make you feel self-assured before your performance. The article brings you some valuable tips on how to get rid of performance anxiety. Your anxiousness may be the result of your under-preparedness for the performance that you have to deliver. you can try the idea in case you are doing a skit or a play. In fact. In the instances of social phobia. Get Your Mind Off It It is important to keep reminding yourself that it’s just a performance and not the end of your life. If you have decided upon taking anti-anxiety drugs before setting on to perform. clinical anxiety is often treated with the help of drugs. with all the props. How To Stay Mentally Sharp . it can just be a simple case of stage-fright. the ‘devil may care attitude’ can help in bringing down your anxiety levels dramatically. The idea is to have fun when you perform and in this context. get the worries off your mind and have a blast on stage. Get Familiar With Performance Venue This is one of the most successful tricks that work pretty well to bring your anxiety levels down. to make it flawless and feel confident about your ability to make it successful. However. It is important to remember that the more potent drugs can lead you towards a tendency to depend on them every time you have to give a performance. sometimes. So. Tips For Overcoming Performance Anxiety Practice Your Performance It has been rightly said that practice makes a man perfect. Try to get familiar with the venue of your performance and the stage where you are going to perform. it is advisable that you consult a professional for the right recommendation. The worst thing that can happen is that your performance will get blotched and this is certainly is not going to ruin your life forever.
chess. If you are facing concentration problems and forgetting important things on the agenda. Follow the article and know what it takes to keep your mind functioning proficiently. keen observation is also one of the best tricks. Intelligent conversations sharpen your thinking and analytical abilities and endow your mind with alertness. attempting crossword puzzles or doing Sudoku is a good way to give a workout to your brain. An ideal diet should include all the important minerals. Researches have well established that physical exercise also enhances mental activity and bears a positive effect on our mind. Observing the nature is also a good way to be in touch with your spiritual side. to rejuvenate it. resides a sound mind. Be An Observer As much as striking intelligent conversations is important for an alert mind. Try to observe the things around you keenly and rest your mind. It may not be easily possible to achieve a razor sharp mind. Eat Right It has been very aptly said that in a healthy body. This will give your mind the much needed invigoration and refresh it to stay as sharp as ever. Our eating habits have a profound impact on our mental abilities. it is also essential to keep your mind active and sharp. Mediation helps banish negative energies from your mind. A healthy and nutritious diet is not just important for our over all well-being. Drink 8-10 glasses of water in a day. there are many who struggle to keep their brain active and responsive all the time. you may do with some helpful tips on how to stay mentally sharp. engage in activities that are mentally testing. once in a while. . it is important to constantly challenge your mind. potassium. which will help your brain as well. 30 minutes of yoga and 30 minutes of meditation in a day are enough to keep your mind healthy and increase its sharpness. Water makes up to one-half to four-fifths of your body weight and accounts for 85% of your brain. magnesium and essential vitamins. Meditate The benefits of mediation are known to all and sundry. Tips To Keep Your Mind Sharp Challenge Your Mind For enhanced mental sharpness. Paucity of water in the body can lead to dehydration. You can also couple it with some form of physical exercise. Drink Lots Of Water Drinking lots of water is not only healthy for the body. like yoga. which in turn makes it difficult to concentrate well. It helps revitalize our mind and body.While mental sharpness and alertness is a natural gift for some. like iron. to keep your body hydrated and your mind energetic. but it’s certainly within your power to sharpen your mental faculties and utilize them in a more competent way. Interacting with others is also a fitting mental exercise. Playing scrabble. it also helps our mind function in a better way. To cut the long story short. to keep our brain working sharp.
Lead yourself and act according to your diktats. be your own leader. to conform to a group norm or act in a certain way. which may confuse the child as to what he/she really wants to be. Be Your Leader Instead of being led by your friends. You can be what you are and still be an integral part of your friends’ circle. but you will have to be assertive to resist their influence on the options you choose in life. teens are known to be more vulnerable to peer-pressure. Mostly. You are a different individual with a separate identity. the key to combat and avoid peer pressure. while others follow them? People look forward to those who are self assured and confident and try to be in their shoes. In some cases. if you anticipate a situation which may force you to behave in a particular way. This article dwells on peer pressure at length and suggests tips to get rid of it. As long as you remain a part of the crowd. after all. This is. you will tend to give into peer pressure. Have you ever wondered why is it that only some people set the norms. provided you train yourself the right way. practice is known to make a man perfect. The biggest threat posed by peer-pressure is a burgeoning crisis of identity. you can avoid it by constantly reminding yourself that you won’t fall into such traps. Only a confident person can make others follow his/her footsteps. Hard. Peer pressure can be understood as the pressure among any age group of children. though it may seem. They can be your inspiration.How To Get Rid Of Peer Pressure Every one has to deal with peer pressure at some point in his/her life. try to set the norm and stop feeling undue pressure to fit in a given group. Always remember that you have to live with the choices that you make in life and you can’t let your peers dictate what you choose. in consonance with the friend’s circle. Build The Mental Toughness To Resist Not every one is gifted with the kind of mental toughness required to resist the pressure or avoid the temptation to be one of ‘them’. building self-confidence is the best way to counter peer pressure in a successful way. Tips To Combat Peer Pressure Be Confident Of Yourself No matter how clichéd it sounds. due to their tender age. just as everyone is different from others. . Be Comfortable With Your Choices Peer pressure may force you to alter your original choices and that’s exactly where it becomes problematic. You need to remind yourself that you have a unique personality. You will have to be very headstrong to resist peer pressure and this is very much possible. undoubtedly. Therefore. Read on to know how to best combat peer pressure. For instance. this crisis continues throughout one’s life.
A school or organization for the deaf is also the right institution to get in touch with. by Juan Pablo de Bonet. join it for greater interaction with sign language users. which contains not just written words. using sign language. You can also watch sign language users on TV. The grammar system of sign language is unique and it’s better to get a hang of the sign grammar. Practice what you have learnt. However. it is important to • • • • • • . Private language schools and community college also offers sign language courses and you can choose accordingly. before you begin to memorize the signs. it is important for someone trying to learn sign language to understand these differences in the first place. There is also an option to learn sign language from books. Although it may be a little difficult to find someone you can communicate with. Instructional videos will be of great help. A video or DVD course or an online course with animations may also suit your purpose. Sign language flash cards carry pictures of either a hand or a person forming the sign. you can also get yourself a sign language dictionary. If you can find a local sign language club near your place. Learning Sign Language • Since the methods of learning sign language are different from those used to learn spoken languages. hand signs and finger spellings and using them effectively to communicate with those who have lost their hearing ability. This will help you in improving your hand movements. for learning the sign language. you will have to be a patient and mature student. by choosing some basic books on sign language to start with. explore this article to find some useful tips on how to learn sign language.How To Learn Sign Language Sign language is the means of communication used by deaf people. Try to interact with the users of sign language. but sign pictures as well. Finding a good teacher or taking good sign language lessons is the key to learning the language in right way. Since then. Learning sign language involves learning gestures. when trying to communicate in sign language. Along with books. Flash cards can be of great help and are offer a realistic and effective way to practice sign language. which consisted of manual alphabets. The range of sign language books may advance from ‘survival’ level to ‘upper intermediate’ level. You can arrange for them quite easily as well. In case you need any help. with the help of arrows depicting hand and arm movements. sign language has gradually grown and evolved to suit the needs of the deaf people. The first book for teaching sign language was published in 1620. to learn and understand this elegant language.
However. Tips For Convincing Others Hear Them Out If you really want to end up convincing your subject. you have already won half the battle and you are most likely to convince your subject. quick thinking will work. even in the least.practice the language. In case you want to learn some more valuable tips on how to convince others. Be Assertive & Confident The more confident and assertive you are in presenting your ideas. Remember. Your confidence is to be your weapon and it has been witnessed that confident people sail through the roughest waters smoothly. Many people tend to be over-aggressive and do not let the listener speak. Persuading others is all about succeeding in changing their opinions on a particular issue or being able to induce a change in their belief patterns. give him/her an opportunity to present his/her point of view as well. it can also be acquired and mastered over time. As much as a natural ability ‘convincing’ is. How To Convince Others The ability to convince others is a rare talent and not every one is gifted with this valued asset. Be supremely confident of your opinions and make sure that you don’t doubt what you are saying. once they get started. Here. Interviews are known to be grilling and it is always better to improve on your knowledge quotient. by putting forward strong arguments against the existing notions in their mind. Give Examples If you can support your argument with meaningful examples. to present sensible arguments. . Come up with realistic examples to back your point of view. Listen to other people peacefully. The key to convincing others is to display a positive and assertive body language. One should never assume that the person he/she is trying to convince knows nothing on the topic of discussion. when it comes to convincing others. ‘practice makes a man perfect’. be it any sphere of learning. many times. Acquire Knowledge On The Subject Acquiring a profound knowledge on the subject of discussion will make the convincing part a cakewalk for you. so that you two can practice sign language together. the ball is in your court. the less time it will take you to shake the existing beliefs of your subject. You can even try to find someone with similar interests. This is an excellent idea if you are set to appear for an interview. as it does not leave the listener with much option. without interrupting them and once they are through. scroll through the article. discussions are impromptu and you may not have the time to gather information to substantiate your claims.
A positive attitude is very important for generating a successful and satisfying life. as it helps in shaking other person’s beliefs. you would roam like the aimless ship. negative. All the people develop an attitude while growing up. Listen to your heart and then head towards your goal. It may be positive. Actually. Explore the article to know how to change your attitude. Be Ready To Learn Nobody is perfect and if you think. Attitude will follow you. Tips For Changing Your Attitude Have An Aim A life without an aim is like a ship in the sea without knowing where it is going. every one of us can learn so many things every day if we keep our senses alert. there remains no difference between us and other animals. attitude is kind of one’s expression towards life and others. indifferent or something else. You have to present your case strongly and firmly. in reality too. Actually. It is attitude. but the impression of desperation has to be strictly avoided. Remember that aim is a fuel of life and unless you have a goal. Actually. Even if you are brilliant and you have never failed in your life. it may take you some time before you succeed in your efforts. Without the right attitude. didn’t have a goal in life and how his life changed when he found his goal. but avoid trying to dominate or impose your line of thought. Actually. if the person on the other side is too smart or skeptical. you don’t have anything to learn from this life then you are living with a wrong attitude. Have you seen the movie “Wake up Sid”. However. Don’t Appear Too Desperate Don’t come across as someone who just wants to convince others at any cost. Think of what you want to do with your life. you may have no idea about how to go about it. How To Change Your Attitude “Our attitude toward life determines life's attitude towards us.other than accepting what you are saying. attitude is the driving force in our life and without right attitude. many of us are like Sid. the more skeptical they will become. Mitchell May be you have heard this quote and you really want to change your attitude towards life. However. Right attitude can be developed with the help of certain things. The more desperate you sound to convince others.” ~ John N. how Ranbir Kapoor’s character Sid. our life becomes directionless. We keep on living without an aim and complain about life. there are many other things to learn from this life. You can repeat your point of view for added effect. Therefore. whether you . It may be done to maintain a standing or sometimes to preserve ourselves from certain outward “harm”. which distinguishes humans from other animals.
Shyness is a common trait. estimates show that almost three out of every ten people are overtly shy. enthusiasm and sense of purpose. Your shyness and introvert attitude can have varied manifestations and can be rooted in your insecurity. Confidence helps us sail through bad times. you are a very shy person. How To Cope With Shyness Do you always experience an adrenaline rush and feel self-conscious when you have to interact with strangers? If the answer is yes.are at work. Confidence will help you change the way you look at things and you would perceive things positively. how will you make other people value you? Self-respect is not only necessary for self-development but it is also important for inner peace. Try to keep yourself self-sufficient. This article brings you some valuable tips on how to cope with your shyness and bring out your confident side. Ways To Combat Shyness Be Proud Of What You Are . A positive attitude is a choice of being positive with oneself and others. Be Positive Positivity is the drive of life. Be Self-Sufficient You may have all the positive attitude. It can alter your life for good almost magically. home or anywhere else. Lack of self-respect almost always results in lack of aim. To cut the long story short. confidence and everything else. In fact. It is about being happy and content. It doesn’t only affect you psychologically but also helps you mentally and physically. However. People who are self-respecting generally keep a calm front even in the time of crisis. physically. inferiority complex and hidden fears. face it with positivity. be ready to help others and rather than ignoring any crisis. then in all likeliness. Develop Confidence Confidence is the key to right attitude and to success. your life will not be in your hand. Have Self-Respect Self-respect is deemed as self worth and if you don’t value yourself. mentally and psychologically. It will not only help you understand yourself properly. Therefore. unless you are self-sufficient. it will let you understand others too. to change your attitude you need to develop confidence. A positive attitude will inspire and will help you deal with anything positively. found in many people. sure of yourself how are you going to chase your dream? A right attitude can come only to confident people. be ready to learn and you would feel so much satisfied. Unless you are. shyness can just be a by-product of your lack of self-belief and confidence in your personality.
Feelings of jealousy can be deep rooted in your hidden fears. it won't be long before you overcome your shyness. Meeting new people will make you more confident and the plus point is you get to learn new things as well. but practicing social interactions can work well for you. in combating shyness. You may be feeling that you don’t match up to other people and therefore. You need to realize that people have different personalities and you are unique in your own way. your edge over others. in most of the women. It takes very little. Nothing works better than self-discovery. It seems that feelings of jealousy have been very intricately woven in the behavioral pattern of women. the shyer you will become. to trigger off a jealous explosion and they are known to be very competitive in their own way. try to turn this awareness inwards. Ideally. Find things you are good at and focus on grooming that talent. The more you avoid meeting people. It is a demanding process. your opinions may not be valued. Transform Your Self-Consciousness Into Self-Awareness Just remember that people are too busy looking at themselves and they are not trying to screen you wherever you go.Nothing explains shyness better than a lack of self-confidence. Take inspiration from the people who are proud of what they are and are always brimming with confidence. Ensure that your mock sessions yield good results. Discover Your Strengths The ability to discover your strengths is probably one of the most crucial abilities a person can posses. a shy person should pounce upon every given opportunity to interact with other people. which is the reason why they struggle in their interactions. it is important to recognize and determine whether you are really . How To Know You Are Jealous Of Her One of the basic traits that are often associated with a woman is her enviousness. Try To Socialize Shy people tend to avoid socializing and boosting contacts with other people. by developing belief in yourself. especially if other things are failing to bring the desired results. Practice Though it may sound a little far-fetched. However. but if you bring yourself to succeed. You can ask your friends to help you out and conduct practice sessions on how you will converse with a new person or a group of strangers. Remember your strengths are your advantage. insecurities or have varied other reasons. Observe your thoughts. seek answers as to why you are shy and try to overcome your coyness. Your practice should basically include how to volunteer to talk. Instead of being so aware of people. so that socializing becomes a habit and he/she doesn’t always end up looking ways to overcome his/her shyness. Identifying your talents will help you develop self esteem and conquer your shy attitude positively.
which haunt you even when your competition is not around. this just proves you are envying her secretly. what else can it be. Buscaglia. You will say harsh things about her and will try to de-credit her from everything. If you don’t find favor with this quote then you may be among people who cringe on seeing themselves in mirror. so that the strife within your mind could be handled well.jealous of any other woman. other than plain jealousy? Know If You Are Threatened By Her If you feel threatened by her and keep dreading that she will prove herself to be better than you. they are not happy with their job. which is fierce in nature and many a times. you are right in determining that what you are feeling is jealousy towards her.” . If you find yourself scheming on how to establish your self superior to her. because without you the rest of us are without a source of many wonderful things. even on things that should concern you the least. This is precisely the reason behind the tendency. is even visible to others. if you don’t want to believe in her positive traits. Determine Whether You Compete With Her Or Not We have heard of healthy competition n-number of times and we also know that it is not fostered by jealousy. What they don’t realize is that we become what we think. Jealousy always results in unhealthy competition. Your feelings may be continuous. their appearance and their life. This is when we may not know that we are actually envious of the person we are trying to compete with. It is actually your covert insecurity that is bothering you and you can't even accept that you really are insecure. it is a sure sign of your jealousy. This article comes up with some valuable tips that will help you to know if you are jealous of her. to say harsh things about their subject of jealousy. without even realizing how much time you are devoting to let this green eyed monster prosper. And to . it is a sign of your jealousy being rooted deep in your insecurities. How To Accept Yourself “Love yourself—accept yourself—forgive yourself—and be good to yourself. If you have been trying to compete with a woman in almost about every field. Tips to Know You Are Feeling Jealous Of Her Know Your True Feelings Towards Her Do you try to compete with her for no real reason? Do you wish you were in her place? Do you greet her with a fake smile almost always? Your reactions and behavior towards a particular woman are an important determinant of your jealousy. in a lot of women. They want to become somebody else and live all their life in misery and anonymity. And. If she has been weighing on your mind unnecessarily.Leo F. Know If She Is Weighing On Your Mind You may be subconsciously thinking about her always. You find her presence threatening due to your jealousy.
Write all the qualities no matter how trivial they may be and then read them. After you have gained your self-confidence. Explore the following pointers to know the ways for accepting yourself. Better Your Life It is important to accept you as you are but it is also important to strive to better yourself. You would soon start to feel important and accept yourself. Ways Of Accepting Yourself See Yourself As Success It may be very difficult for you especially if you have grown up disliking everything about you. which you feel. Stand in front of the mirror and focus on all the features you like about yourself.become a successful person we need to accept ourselves. work on it to do away with it. Take pride in your success and see yourself as successful. You always find yourself not good enough and by saying that you were not just being humble. are negative. if you feel you are too emotional and get hurt easily. . happiness lies in one’s mind otherwise all the millionaires in the world would be happy. Remember that happiness doesn’t lie in earning millions. It may be because of some flaws. and you would start accepting yourself. and you would soon start to accept yourself. which you want to do. focus on what you have achieved and be happy. After you have written. It will help you understand your uniqueness. Work on inculcating self-confidence and you would soon see the opinions of others changing towards you. Find Happiness In The Basics Happiness or sadness largely depends on oneself. the world will not accept you. Remember that nothing is more important than your opinion. you would soon find change in your outlook towards life. work on eliminating them. because of negative thinking or because of other people’s opinions. Accepting oneself is important to live a happy and content life. You can also write all about yourself. Restore Your Self-Confidence Self-confidence is essential element for accepting oneself. It will not happen overnight. For instance. or possessing all the luxuries. So instead of focusing on the greener grass on the other side. Jot It Down Writing all your qualities will help you. work towards something. Develop self-confidence by telling yourself constantly that you are a unique and beautiful person. If you feel that you are not able to focus on your career. Keep in mind that you are a unique person and unless you accept yourself. Focus on all the positive qualities you possess and you would soon start to see yourself in good light. think about the root cause of it and work towards bettering it. Get Real Remember that you will have to work towards the goal of accepting yourself.
It's apparent that people with a hostile attitude will irritate you with their behavior. You just need to acknowledge that they have a personality and perception different from that of yours and they need to be handled tactfully. you need to remember that you can't let the conflict escalate. constantly fretting over someone who is getting under your skin is not going to help. However. Don’t Take Them Personally It is important to remember that difficult people do things habitually and you are certainly not their only target. Don’t Be Defensive Let the attacks of a difficult person wash over you. You will have to devise strategies to deal with hostile people in a successful way.How To Handle Difficult People We often complain that some people are just too difficult to handle. This article provides you some proven tactics to handle difficult people. Tips For Handling Difficult People Confront Them Without Fighting It is important to confront difficult people. it's not wise to take them personally. be it at work or home. if someone is trying to ruin your reputation in office by spreading malignant rumors. Therefore. Stand up to the situation and confront the person confidently. you have to deal with them almost on a regular basis. sometimes. better to just ignore them. Just keep your mind calm when you deal with them. You can confront them on important issues. It is. but defending yourself on everything is certainly not the right way to handle them. Keep A Positive Frame Of Mind Don’t let difficult people affect your mental peace. Read on and know how to deal with the people immune to the usual methods of communication. It's natural for a person to end up meeting difficult people once in a while. but you have to deal with them in a positive way. In case you are amongst the unlucky ones. or they will start taking more liberty with you. rather than paying them undue attention. For instance. If you argue with them on pettiest of things. They have the same freakish behavior with everyone and trouble everyone they know. Some people have a hard time adjusting with others and going easy in life. you should ask the person straight on if he/she has anything personal against you. Do Not Give Up . There is absolutely no need to be defensive in turn. it is only going to weaken your position and allow them to throw their weight around. Don’t let their negative attitude weigh constantly on your mind. However. Do not allow their verbal attacks to shake your confidence.
but your tactics will show results with practice. Rather. in the outcome of our efforts.Tackling difficult people is very much an art.’ This quote aptly describes the important of our thinking. Indulge In Meditation In case you are thinking meditation is only for those who want to lead a spiritual life and stay away from the materialistic world. you win even without trying and during others. This would go a long way in helping you overcome the pessimism. twists and turns! At times. where everything is happening as you planned or as you want. How To Avoid Negative Thinking ‘If you think you will win. Best Ways To Stop Negative Thinking Get Creative Whenever you feel that negative thoughts are creeping up on you. If you think you will lose. Think of a wonderful situation. they just limit their ability to interfere in your life. much before the positive? Do you want to get rid of this habit? If yes. You may face some difficulties in the beginning. then check out the tips given below and know how to avoid negative thinking. The wins have to be taken seriously. The moment you feel your losses gaining over your mind. feeling one with the god. you definitely will. Are you one of those who always end up thinking about the negative side. Remember the sense of accomplishments and vow to make them happen again. you are wrong. You will get success in your efforts sooner or later. People meditate for different reasons . which can be mastered over a period of time. Keep practicing your art and don't loose hope. having a control over . you lose even when you make a lot of effort. the best bet would be to turn your imagination creative. try to think of those situations where success kissed your feet. while the losses are something from which you need to learn. On the other hand. See yourself becoming successful in your endeavors. Look Back Into The Past Life is never the same. someone who has oodles of confidence (but not over confidence) and believes that he canachieve something in life will most likely become successful as well. being loved by your near and dear ones or even getting appreciated from all the quarters. You need to remember that these strategies don’t change difficult people. it is full of surprises.developing their concentration. A person who considers himself to be a loser and feels that he is worth nothing will hardly be able to achieve anything in his life. there are chances you can.
It is the last purpose that you have to solve with meditation. etc. start telling yourself ‘I do not have to think negatively’. accepting that psychic abilities exist and can be developed overtime with practice and effort. will be of great help. Our hunches and premonitions come out to be true not due to some bizarre coincidence but. it is very important to become conscious of your drift towards negativity. Make Yourself Feel Happy One of the best ways to get over negativity is to make yourself feel happy. The article explores the subject and comes up with profound insights on how to develop your psychic abilities. we never wait to ponder the reason behind such possibilities. Keep A Positive Mind frame A positive mindset is the first pre-requisite to develop your psychic ability. ‘I will not let negative thoughts come into my mind and affect me in any way’. Occasionally. It has been established by psychological researches that a positive state of mind enhances the psychic abilities of an individual. it is equally possible to develop your psychic potential even further. can hamper or block the expansion of one’s psychic potential. ‘I have to think about the positive things happening in my life’. important . However. Consciously Block Out Negative Thoughts If you want to stop being pessimistic and think about the brighter side of life. buy some from the nearest bookstore and start reading. because of our intuitive powers which are the result of a developed psychic capacity. while it is very much possible to do so. For instance. If one aims to achieve his/her full psychic potential. you can rent the DVD of your favorite comic flick and laugh your heart out. Most of us never realize our full psychic ability. log on to the sites that list jokes. Negative thinking and skepticism to a certain extent.their thoughts. all of us mention about our intuitions coming true. funny quotes or even funny SMS and start smiling! How To Develop Psychic A bilities Though we all posses psychic abilities to a certain extent. by indulging in activities that you enjoy or that make your laugh. Tips To Develop Psychic Abilities Acknowledge That Psychic Abilities Exist Only the one who realizes and rightly acknowledges the importance of a psychic capacity among humans can be able to expand his/her psychic powers. It will help you remain in a balanced state of mind and keep you away from the negativity. As soon as you feel that negative thoughts are trying to creep into your mind. It is therefore. Read on to benefit from some valuable tips. and so on. If you are fond of comics. If you have internet at home.
If your assumptions about your imaginations are coming out to be true. Your inquisitiveness will eventually lead you towards surprising results. Ignoring your gut feelings can even get you into trouble. then you are at the right place. others have simple social habits that make tick people off. which we perform regularly. Breaking A Bad Habit Self-Evaluation . but with dollops of will power. Talking about bad habits. Mention your strong intuitions to your close ones and keep check on whether they come out to be true or not. Think about things which generate your curiosity in an unusual way. This will also help you in finding connecting links to a problem. squirts of discipline and loads of patience. and finally solving it. Evolve Ways To Utilize Psychic Abilities Remember that regular practice will assist in the development of your psychic abilities. The power of imaginations assists you in visualizing possibilities and happenings and mediation will help you to nail down the right meaning of your imaginations. you would be surprised to know that even the most pious of people would tell you they had a bad habit in the past. In the following lines. it will not be easy to do so. How To Break Bad Habits Trapped in a bad habit? Want an escape from it? If yes. Though automatic behaviors. you will realize that your feelings hold a certain meaning in a specific context. are what make our habit. habits are definitely under our control (if we really want them to be).that one maintains a positive thinking mind and keep feeding it with uplifting doses which could be in any form. A calm mind has the potential to act as a fertilizer for the development of an improved sixth sense and psychic abilities when accompanied by some other measures such as developing the faculty of imagination. you will definitely be able to get rid of a bad habit. While some habits take the form of physical addictions. Try to evolve and practice ways through which your psychic potential could be furthered. it means you are on the right track. Breaking a bad habit is like coming out from a tangle or a web. we have provided useful tips on how to break bad habits. Trust your sixth sense rather than ignoring it Meditation Meditation helps you to attain concentration and peace of mind. Remember. Test yourself with your imaginations and their meanings. for instance inspirational movies or literature. Pursue Your Feelings Don’t neglect your feelings and instincts for the fear of being mocked at. it might even embarrass you but gradually. Involuntary actions. Initially.
it would act as a motivation to modify your behavior and get out of the web. discipline and patience!! . All you need is willpower. Negative Impact While you have determined the cause of the bad habit. changes do not just happen. Just get comfortable and talk to them about your decision. to get over a bad habit. Analyze why did you start the bad habit . you just cannot leave a bad habit and force yourself into doing nothing in its place. There needs to be a replacement of the bad habit. you would realize that it is not logical and does not make any sense. by a good one. For this. it is time to look towards the optimistic side i. the best bet would be to maintain a journal and note down every time your bad habit gets the better of you. Who knows. you can beat the habit. giving into the impulses or being carried away would be extremely easy. do not pity yourself and say that the habit has got the better of you. You have to work hard and bring in a lot of discipline in your being. Consider the positive ways of meeting the same needs through a good habit and start practicing. The moment you realize the cost of a bad habit and what it is depriving you of. This would help you keep a record of it and also analyze the cause of the same. Believe me. say you will become a better individual or have enough time to look into important matters. The Cause Now that you have evaluated yourself. Positives Of Dropping Once you have realized the negative impacts. Being Disciplined Remember. the advantages of leaving the habit. or even start becoming sociable. If you fall back to the bad habit. Patience Patience is the key to achieve your resolution. Most of the bad habits provide a person with instant gratification. If yours is such as well. it is the time to focus on the negative repercussions of the same. Replacement Remember.The first step to get rid of a bad habit would be to be practical and realize the number of times your bad habit wins over your will. rise up and get back to your healthy behavior. Weigh the negatives against the positives. they would be more than happy to help you move out of the bad behavior. Supporting Role Do not hesitate to call friends or family members.Was it peer pressure? Was it depression? Was it just for a 'try'? Was it to be 'in vogue'? Was it an escape from some life condition? Once you get hold of the reason for the action. List the negative impacts and the cost they are charging you. asking for support. it is the time to figure out how the bad habit initiated in the first place.e. Remember. Instead. they might be able to provide some advice or encouragement that you normally wouldn't get otherwise. remember.
If you are a big shot. by the type of friends you have. it is very important to dispel the rumors that are working against you. Is there any truth in what the people say about you? Have you really done something to make people form such an opinion about you? If you want to be objective. untrue rumors or a bad company. call a press conference to dispel the rumors. In other words. in case you feel that your group is largely responsible for your infamy. whether you are like them or not. dressing style. then it is the time to take some action in the regard. Take Action If you feel that there is some truth in what people think about you. and resolve the issue. in the eyes of others. it is the time to get rid of the same. In case you come across as uncooperative to other people. If you are aware of the source of all the gossip. a bad reputation will only take you closer to failure. to a major extent. In case you have been stuck with a notorious reputation. try to go out of your way to help them. Rather.How To Get Rid of A Bad Reputation Your reputation is nothing. We can help you know how to get rid of a bad reputation. but the public opinion about you. it is advisable to seek new company right now. seek a second opinion from close friends or family members as well. make sure not to get angry at the person or start fighting with him/her. be it because of you own faults. try to change your habits. . you will first have to look at yourself and seek the reality. Change Your Company There is an adage that goes 'you are known by the company you keep'. How To Fix Your Bad Reputation Know The Truth If you want to get rid of a bad reputation. In other words. confront the person and set the record straight. people are bound to form a similar opinion about you as well. your reputation is formed. Unless and until you acknowledge that a problem exists. through the tips given below. Dispel The Rumors If you have to fix your bad reputation. it represents what kind of an image you have. Having a good reputation is very important in each and every sphere of life. Such a behavior would only cement your bad reputation. talk amicably. try to bring your anger under control. If they are known for being rogue and outlandish. you will not be able to trace its very roots and solve it. In other words. Whether you want to excel in your career or win the affection of the person you are in love with. However. take some action. If you are infamous as someone who has a very nasty temper. in a non-threatening way. etc. In case people have raised a finger on your character. So.
However. However. Tell jokes.Exercise Patience Your bad reputation has built over a period of time. how many of us really know how to sweet talk? Our tolerance level has gone so low that even a small provocation is enough for us to start hurling abuses (even at a complete stranger).who you think will get your help first. just keep on making efforts and soon. you need to exercise a lot of patience and stick to your efforts. when you respect someone. and see the gloomy mood changing in an instant. Integrate humor in your life and try to search the sunnyside up in everything. are given the power of understanding and if we don’t integrate it in our life. the best treatment at a restaurant. even a raise or promotion. Don’t lose hope midway. Be Sympathetic We. . if you make yourself consciously aware of the benefits of even little sweet-talking. How To Sweet Talk According to Rig Veda. A sweet talk can get you the window-seat in a plane. Sometimes. people will get used to the image of the 'new you'. Sweet Talking Tips Give Respect Give respect to everyone. Just ask yourself a question . You would soon find the ultimate secret of being happy. don’t be a miser for words and let people know that you care. You would start feeling the change from the next day itself. stick to this motto and see the world changing around you. you are in least danger of hurting him/her and there is the score for you. or your chauffeur. an acid tongue lasher or a sweet talker. Everyone wants sympathy. Moreover. a simple smile from you can make the entire day of someone. how can we expect to justify our humane side. Now. the latter. why not incorporate it in your life! Read on to learn the mechanism of sweet talking. We all know the power of sweet talk. So. Do not expect to get rid of it within a few hours or days. a person who talks sweet spends all his/her days in happiness. So. pleasant one. Don’t you love it when your friend sympathizes with your grilling schedule at work? So. especially when he/she has gone through a really bad phase in life. So. bad image from their mind and replace it with the new. The answer is pretty clear. the world will also be happy for you. you would wonder why you didn’t integrate it in your life earlier. So. Never forget to thank the liftman when he opens the lift for you. poke harmless fun. Humor Mechanism Everyone likes funny people. when he opens the door of your car. When you are happy. help from a colleague. but incorporating it in our respective life is a completely different ball game altogether. as human beings. lift from a total stranger and sometimes. It will take time for people to remove your old. Give a bright smile to your colleagues as well as the others around you. Remember 'impossible' itself says 'I m possible'.
Be Spontaneous Whenever you say something. Want to explore them? If yes. make sure that it doesn't look like a prepared speech or something well thought of (in advance). then read on and find the best way of getting people to respect you. Don't give anyone a chance to take advantage of you or typecasting you a patsy or a softy. who doesn’t talk much. Congratulate your colleagues on successfully finishing a project. It should come out in a spontaneous manner. If you want to know how to gain respect. However. as respect is directly proportional to reputation. being sympathetic alone is not enough. Don’t discriminate amongst people and refrain from using harsh. The age-old adage of 'reaping what you sow' is true to its core. You can practice with your friends and family members and then employ it elsewhere too. Don’t let yourself be cast out as too mellow or pushover. However. it’s time for you to open up. cold words. you have come to the right place. who knows what he/she is doing. Period! Treat everyone with respect and you will get respect too. A little flirting with your client can help seal yoursuccess. to educe immense respect from the people around you. we need to build up respect to get ahead in life. you will have to first know that respect cannot be taken.refrain from sarcasm. How To Get Respect Let’s admit it! We all want to get respect from others. as only a few of us can really pull it off without hurting someone’s feeling. You also need confidence. There are many ways to speed up the process of earning respect from others. Apply this in your life. Stick to light humor instead. as the world will start using you then. Flirt A Little A little flattery never hurts! Be the first one to notice the positive change in a person and compliment on it. don’t forget to shower an admiring compliment on him/her. For instance. Getting Respect From Others Respect Others To get respected. you need to respect others. rather it is earned. giving a genuine appearance to your words. while others get sidelined. never ever give a cheap remark or go over the top in flattery. Be a confident and levelheaded person. In case you are among those who cannot understand how some people get all the respect they want. Be Confident For sweet talking. . Make sure the world knows it too. If you are a serious person. if your colleague is donning a new shirt. only a few of us are actually able to evoke respect for ourselves. However. Help others when they need you.
mannerism. And certainly. If you smile at anyone and anything. then it’s your turn to switch off the grin and smile only when it’s needed. Is there some techniques of handling criticism? Indeed. only a few of us how know to accept it with grace. Be A Miser Smiler Smiling is good. a ripped jeans or a dirty shirt is bound to give a bad impression. People may like a person who wants to share all his details in the first meeting itself.” . it is directly proportional to failure. However. but excess smile is bad for repute. honesty. then you are wrong. The best way to get people to respect you is to respect yourself. Be Humble But Confident Be humble enough to be a shoulder to cry on. A person of respect is a person of caution. Handling criticism is never easy. failure is nobody’s favorite word. if asked for. However. dressing the part doesn’t mean that you need to wear a Cavalli suit or Prada shoes. take a good look at yourself in the mirror. people will think you are mellow. Have a good body posture. when we are bombarded with criticism all the time. A confident person attracts respect like a moth to a flame. speak only when you are spoken to. Read on and know how to handle criticism. How To Handle Criticism “If you have no critics. as for most of us. we have listed a few of them. in our life. However.Dress The Part If you are a person who is trying to get respect. Rather. you'll likely have no success. kindness and be self-effacing. so stick to this axiom. there are and in the following lines. . if you have been showing your pearly whites from long and people dismiss you for being childish. Be serious and speak only when it is necessary. It just means that whatever you wear should compliment you and up your position in other people's eye. A well fitting. and you will extract respect from even an otherwise reserved person. especially when at workplace. Although almost everyone in this world is criticized. Are you a well-dressed person? Do you dress according to occasion? If you dismiss dressing well as an act of showing off. Keep Your Mouth Shut It doesn’t mean that you should play dumb. give your opinion or suggestions. but they won’t respect him. and ironed dress shows that you take yourself seriously. but is not able to do so.Malcolm X This quote aptly describes how important criticism is. but not so much that you become a tissue paper for people to sniff their snots. And the best way to respect yourself is to have confidence in you. while a crumpled tee. clean. Silence is gold in true sense. Powerful people smile only when it is needed. It’s true too that smiling or not smiling is all the matter of perspective and depends on the environment where you work. we hardly think of being successful. However.
It’s not essential that the feedback comes to you in sweet and encouraging words. try to incorporate it in your life. A justified criticism may urge you to better something. If someone is going the dirty road. No matter what you’re criticized for. Remember. Don’t let him/ her harm or insult you. until you’re ready to perform on it. Don’t Let Anyone Insult You Criticism is okay. When you’re criticized. criticism is downright negative. try to be friendly. make sure that you’re not going with them. if it’s something that will help you be successful. urging you to stop doing whatever you’re doing now. Draw The Points To Help You The most important trait of successful people is that they are able to draw out the points that are useful to them. be calm and listen to the person. A criticism is mostly negative. So. Make a mental note of them and mend your ways accordingly. If. If a person is always negative about you. And it’s also not necessary that feedback is always enlightening. but getting over the top is not. no one can make you feel bad about yourself. try to focus on points that are common in all the criticisms that you encounter. Learn From Criticism Listening to something won’t help you. if someone criticizes you.Tips For Handling Criticism Distinguish Between Feedback & Criticism It is very important thing for you to understand the difference between feedback and criticism. until you allow them to. If you work in a firm and you’re always criticized of not being able to create rapport with your colleagues. Feedback is something given to you to improve your performance. If you’re a singer and people say that you cannot sing different kinds of songs. On the other hand. you need to try to get versatility. It may be harsh and you may have trouble adjusting to the words. Take Criticism In Your Stride It’s very important to remain composed in any situation. Let It Go Never let a criticism decide what you want to do next. It’s Not Always About You It’s the truth. instead of you. from almost any conversation. then it might be possible that something is wrong with them. you are in hands of a bully. Getting excited when someone attributes praise to you is natural. never let yourself feel down. They may be plain jealous of your success or they might full of negativity. you find yourself loser. Don’t jump up the gun and starts hurling abuses on him/her. but it . There are people who cannot find good in anything or anyone and you should not let such people worry you. at the end of a conversation. Similarly. are angry with yourself and your critic has convinced you to leave the thing you are pursuing. It is enlightening only when you want it to enlighten you. but never ever let anyone bully you. Don’t leave something because other people want you to. but it is eventually true and will help you if you work on those areas.
you will have to make sure that you know your subject well. Then this article is for you. these things are meant to be forgotten. Good or bad. and confidence and you are bound to attract audience. You can even get much knowledge just by keenly watching everything around you. sleep. That is why it’s important to be a good listener to be a good speaker. and do your work the same way you were doing. unless it’s something you can improve. you are at the right place. frown. you possess the quality of a good listening. Then they don’t remain audiences but become participants. make sure that you listen to people if you think they have some valid points. Add in some jokes and ask questions and you will surely attract people’s attention. Eat. Watch Your Body Language Shaky hands. Be authoritative on whatever you are speaking on. A little knowledge and beating around the bush will not attract listeners. Acquire proper body language like alert body. Articulate powerfully and clearly and modulate your sound according to your speech. Prepare yourself for your subjects. Be Interesting Most of us are very impatient and if you are not able to attract the audience in few minutes from the start. Don’t shout or scream but be audible and confidence. then you make your audience a part of you after sharing your narrative and that interest them. Therefore. Tell A Story When you tell a story preferably. and be a voracious reader. which give poor impression of a speaker and divert the audience much before you start speaking. be interesting and discuss it too. a personal one. Everyone here thinks that he or she can speak better and sometimes even they speak altogether to make matters worse. Forget what is being said about you. . before the criticism popped your way. smiling eyes. where everyone just wants to speak and not listen. If you wonder how some people have so much influence over others that makes people listen to them and you want to be like them. and parted legs are all the gestures. If you think. Read on to acquire the quality of a good speaker to whom people listen. How To Make People Listen To You How to make people listen to you is a million dollar question in our society. To be a good speaker you have to be first a good listener. Most of the people just want others to listen to them but are themselves not ready to do so. be aware of the current situation. Have eye contacts with as many people you can and look pleasant.will never advocate for you to leave it. Speak With Authority When you want someone to listen to you. Also. you may lose them altogether. tense eyes.
If you do not know much about developing critical thinking skill. for a casual discussion you need not present charts. Take a comprehensive passage. How To Develop Critical Thinking Skills Process The Information While reading something. To give shape and support to your idea.Dress Appropriately “Clothes maketh a man” and it’s true in any society. the best way to learn it and register it in mind is to process it first in your mind. based on the facts that you have compared. Analyze Text By analyzing a given text. After reading the . try to make logical connections between the facts. By thinking critically. try to form an idea. Listen You may be a good listener but being an active listener is very important. try to comprehend the key points. it is very essential to know your audience. Assess the arguments. So always. evidences and assumptions present in the information. to figure out their similarities and dissimilarities. If you are speaking in a boardroom and people are interested in numbers. The skill will enable you to find every possible way of solving the problem. which unfolds few sequences of a story. The aim is to derive the best possible solution for a particular problem. Now. from Mahatma Gandhi to Nelson Mandela and from Steeve Jobs to Barack Obama. So. then stating statistics will pull you through. by weighing the substantial and insubstantial as well as concrete and abstract factors governing a situation. wear powerful clothes according to your society and your audience. Developing Critical Thinking Skills Critical thinking is a process that involves the analytical evaluation of a situation. If it’s a casual discussion then wearing a power suit will only make you the odder one. Don’t beat around the bush as it’s an audience repellent.dress according to the event and let your clothes reflect your sincerity. After assimilating the information. However. you will be able to develop the critical thinking skills. wherever you go try to imbibe some of the good qualities of a speaker. the following lines will surely prove to be of help. Know Your Audience Before speaking. you will be able to discriminate the different points of view associated with a situation. Learn from the greatest speakers of the world. Compare And Construct An Idea It is very important to analyze the key components first and then compare each of them. What is the use if you don’t get anything from all that listening? So. Make a point and support it with examples.
this exercise will help you to think out of the box. Motivational Speaking Tips Practise To motivate people with your speech you need to practise a lot. while speaking. a better speaker 'moves' the audience through his words. Solve Puzzles Solving a puzzle can help you learn how to develop critical thinking skills. How To Become A Motivational Speaker While a good speaker 'just' conveys his/her intended message. Moreover. Apart from connecting the dots. it is an effective way to gain the skill of critical thinking. try to assign a title for the passage. One of the most effective ways to develop critical thinking skill is to answer the questions based on a few hypothetical problems. Even if you fail to answer all the questions. Apart from being interesting. give stress to the voice modulation. family member or a colleague. Make use of gestures to emphasize your point. to form an image. before formulating the speech. Being well prepared before the speech reduces the stage fear as well. before presenting it in front of the audience. Explore the tips given in this article to know how to excel in motivational speaking. Learning to become a motivational speaker is a systematic process. You should exude confidence through your body language. you will be able to distinguish between the facts and the assumptions. To improve the analyzing skill further. Answer Questions Disciplined questioning also promotes critical thinking. Maintain an equanimity in your speech. This will make the session even more interactive. . it makes the audience 'think' for a positive change. This could be a simple exercise of connecting a number of dots in a predefined manner. because lack of research will be reflected in the speech. Motivating people through speech is not as easy as it seems. Do not hide your hands inside your pocket. Be certain about what you have to say. you will be able to analyze the concepts. which can be acquired only after practice. Research You must have the thorough knowledge of the subject that you are going to address. Rehearse your speech with your friend. Study the subject well. Maintain good eye-contact with the audience during the speech. create a logical link between the events of the story. A motivational speech includes all the elements that can create impact on the people listening to it. Mind Your Body Language A good speaker is identified with the way he/she presents himself/herself on the stage. Complicated and challenging though.passage carefully. It requires special skills. While doing this.
Conversing with the audience will also help make the speech an interesting one. without mingling with others. See how people respond to this. cultural background and lifestyle. Learn about their age group. Be positive and live in high spirits. if you want to create the maximum impact on the audience. We are here to help you with some tips. your speech should be interesting as well. Socializing With People Smile Your million dollar smile can act as a gesture to show that you wish to socialize with others. You should have an optimisticoutlook towards life. Some of them may even be ready to initiate a conversation with you. This is perhaps because of the fact that they lack the characteristics required to socialize with the people around them. Give A Good Conclusion You should summarize your speech in the most convincing way. we often find loners in the society. A prior knowledge about the people will help you with the purpose. Consider the taste of the audience. Create interest in your audience by making the speech interactive. Make an eye-contact while smiling. in today's world. Develop Positive Attitude An important step towards socializing with people is to develop a positive attitude. spending their lives in solitude. which will help you learn how to socialize with people. analogies and anecdotes to make the speech interesting. How To Socialize With People Socializing with people is a behavior that is innate to human beings. They will smile back. It will surely be a positive response. while preparing the speech.Know The Audience Know how your audience needs to be motivated. You may ask questions to them in between the speech. They should feel satisfied after listening to your speech. However. wear a pleasant smile on your face. When you are with a group of people. because the choice of words depends a lot upon the mental level of the people listening to the speech. You should bring about a positive change in them. their education. with an effective conclusion. If you are one of the people who find it difficult to go out and make friends with people. This is due to the fact that our ancestors used to hunt in groups for food and even worked together. Generate Interest Apart from being motivating. Make use of metaphors. A good conclusion will always leave an impact on the audience. do not worry. When .
Find A Common Point When you are with people at a party or a social get-together. do not worry. In the process. unhealthy relationships and sometimes even termination letter. try to find a common interest. listening to their as well. Be a good listener. there are numerous emotional displays that you might need to restrict. You should present yourself as an approachable person. making them feel neither inferior nor superior to you. If you have been facing problems in controlling your emotion. This will give you a chance to open up yourself to others.you go out and meet people. what matters. You will be able to judge them better. Remember. which you need to control. leave all your tensions back home and fit into the environment of the place. you should share your point of view with others. you have to lend your ears first and speak your mind later on. Result . This will make you more knowledgeable about the people surrounding you. problem occurs when it comes to expression. If you succeed in finding similar taste or interests.communication skills. Build Rapport To socialize with people. Controlling emotions is essential when you are in a public place or in your place of work. The habit of listening to others will also give you an idea about the level of sophistication of the people around you and present yourself according to the situation.bad behavior. who has many things (or at least few things) common with others. When you are with a group of people. You should be able to relate to people. This brings out another quality needed to socialize with people . you need to build a rapport with them. it is not what you feel that counts. However. as we have provided below some of the effective ways and methods to manage your intense emotions. Communicate Effectively Share your views. when it comes to public places. by listening to their words carefully. How To Control Your Emotions How many times have you goofed-up a particular situation or a scene because of your anger? Almost all of us have faced such an incidence in life. do not be aggressive while presenting your viewpoint. One must understand that there is nothing wrong in feeling strongly about something. when our emotions had completely taken over our mind. it will be easier for you to proceed further and develop familiarity with them. when you are in a social circle. is what you do with those feelings. . Controlling Emotions • The first step would be to identify those emotions. Right from angry flare-ups to disgust.
the tips provided in the following lines will surely come handy. Remember. In such a situation. If you want to learn how to find your talents. You would. Believe it or not this would be a great way to escape from the stressful or high-anxiety times. moonlight and so on. in terms of relieving a person off his intense emotions. It can be a snapshot of a beach. excuse yourself from the group of people you are with and go to a lonely place. Try to picture something that would produce a soothing image in your mind. often tricky also. So. you would feel much better. Another effective technique would be to acknowledge or recognize the emotions you were feeling at the time of emotional outbursts. Visualization is yet another great way to control the angry flare-ups or stress. Give vent to your feelings and then return to the scene. You will surely feel relaxed! • • • • • • • • How To Find Your Talents Talent need not to be related only with intellect. At times. Not every talent requires being profitable. You would realize that it is generally the negative feelings that you want to control. Breathing in and out a number of times. technical and physical as well.• • • • For instance. just pick up a glass of water and slowly gulp it down. It needs observation and analysis of one’s own self. the mind gets diverted from the emotions and feelings. Trust me. Finding the talent that sets us apart from the crowd can be a long process. a candle. This is found effective in controlling the heighten emotions. ask yourself the reason for the anger. It would also benefit you in terms of health. It can be artistic. the best bet would be to focus all the energies towards breathing. if you get easily angered. Knowing the reason is likely to help you in future. but directing all the energies towards a far-off stable object does a lot. in turn. This might come as a surprise to you. Remember. be actively attentive of your feelings and emotions. Drinking lots of water is a good way to rule out the negative emotions. reduces heart rate and accentuates the oxygen flow in the brain. when you come across similar situations. So. it gets very difficult to suppress your emotion. Finding Your Hidden Talent Find Your Interests • • • • . mindfulness holds the key for controlling emotions. react less. In such circumstances. Many of us are still in search of the talents that are hidden within us. Another popular way would be to count backwards from 20 to 1. when you are focusing your attention towards breathing. it just needs to be useful in a positive way.
Read lots of books and learn from people. Know what makes you struggle. then try them out. Know Your Limits In the process of finding your strengths or talents. Ways To Make People Like You Be Cheerful • • . One of the best ways to learn something is to teach. Go through the following and know how to get people to like you. Carry out experiments and explore things. teach what you have learnt. • • • • • • • • • • • • How To Get People To Like You • • The world seems to be a wonderful place when every one around you likes you. it is the time to improve yourself. watch or do? What are your favorite shows on television? Which column of the newspaper and magazines do you like to read? Try Out Different Things If you want to find out your dexterity in each of the things that interest you. Know your limits. we should know that not every one is born with this knack. where you can try out different things without anybody’s interference. Find out the things in which you are not a pro or lag behind. Find Your Passion You may be a person of various interests. you will be able to discover all your hidden talents and skills. What sorts of things do you like to read about. This will help increase your depth of knowledge.• • • • The first step towards finding your talents is to know your interests. but there will be only a thing or two. the guidance given here will come handy. Improve Yourself After you come to know about the areas of your interest. which you are passionate about. Therefore. However. you should not ignore your weaknesses as well. Some people have the inherent quality to make others be fond of them. You will then come to know about your talents as well as the areas that you need to work on. Locate a safe environment. with utmost enthusiasm? Get the answer for the question and you will come to know what exactly you are passionate about. If you are one amongst the latter type of people and are looking for ways to make others like you. What is the one thing that you love to do the most. The mere feeling of being liked and loved by others fills the heart with warmth and happiness. In this process.
Listen Listening to others is a great thing to establish a rapport among them. such as helping others without being asked to. If you are tired of looking plain and simple. • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • How To Look Gorgeous Every girl wants to be noticed. who spreads positive energy around him/her. be a person who is always optimistic and upbeat. Be Kind Do not frown at others’ wrong deeds or misbehaviors. This act will show that you care for them. However. Devote Time A majority of people would like someone in their life who gives time and attention to them. this will show that you are reliable and a person to depend upon. if you act happily. then pay attention whenever they are talking to you. It is always nice to show kindness. they will treat you much more warmly. If you have this quality in you. will help you win their confidence as well. You should not be their last resort. in a soft tone and never shouting at people when you are angry. you will feel happy as well and make other feel good with your presence. Every act of yours should show that you care for others and are considerate about their feelings. you are able to engender closeness with them. People will begin to open up to you more. as they will be sure that you will always be there to lend an ear. When you carefully listen to what others say and respond to them appropriately. Doing good things. rather be the first person who helps them. Therefore. If you want others to like you. you will surely become a person whom almost everyone likes. In addition. be ready to turn heads and have more than expected eyeballs running in your . Devoting time to people will help you a great deal in developing a good relationship with them. Being kind means speaking politely. Empathize Feeling bad for someone who is going through troubled times.• • • • People would always like to accompany a smiling and cheerful person. Empathizing is not as easy as showing sympathy. Be Helpful One of the best ways to get people like you is to go out of the way whenever they are in need. Moreover. is good. It is a quality that very few of us have. This kind of behavior will project you as a kind-hearted person and get people to like you. Remember. feeling the pain of others is even better. although it seems 'easier said than done'.
but make sure not to wear clothes that are too revealing and leave nothing to imagine. Looking Beautiful Healthy Skin and Body . Wear anything that looks cute on you and make you look trendy. it is something people will remember more than how you look. It does not imply that you have to indulge yourself in heavy exercises or count each calorie you consume. Shop a lot and watch out for the hottest fashion trends.Drink a lot of water. Just eat proper diet and exercise regularly to keep your body in a good shape.• • • • direction.Whatever hairstyle you wear. Hairstyle . It goes well with every dress and suits all skin complexions. but the extra money is all worth it. Make up is a must and a foremost factor for the attainment of a gorgeous look. one needs to look healthy. Dressing Style and Right Attitude . • • • • • • How To Ignore Rude Comments . it can result in severe consequences. Jeans and T-shirts are something that can never go out of fashion. A multi-layered make up is not what will make you look gorgeous unless you look beautiful and healthy. Correct Make-Up . If you hear it very often.Be super stylish keeping with the latest fashion trends. a curly iron and straightener and make sure you apply mousse and hairspray after styling your hair. Keep up with the latest trend and get a hairstyle from a good hairstylist. Besides this. concealer. Wear a glossy lipstick to that glamorous and gorgeous look.Sometimes you will hear that you do not need the blusher or eye shadow. Get a flat iron. Use right products that are of better quality and work on your hair until you get it right. making it look natural at the same time. It can cost you some more. a basic fact that many of us tend to ignore. go for a shiny pink. you have to know the right styling and make up to enhance what you are blessed with. The way you carry yourself is what you need to add magic to your looks and personality. Scroll down to find some more tips that can make you look beautiful and gorgeous. if any. The truth is that a healthy body and proper diet are the primary factor for the attainment of a gorgeous look as it brings radiance and glow on your face. but some precautionary steps will do. Now this is what you hear from every second person. Apply foundation. bronzer and blusher for a smooth looking and radiant skin. make sure that it looks good on you. To look gorgeous. Highlight your eyes and lips. Don’t starve yourself or become anorexic in order to look thinner. Next is choosing right shade for eye shadow. If you can choose nothing. but this is the most effective way to get beautiful skin and great body. you have to apply some tricky make up that enhances your features and cover-up the flaws. as water will rid the body of impurities. Always wear a smile and be natural. Brush regularly and clean you hair clean and conditioned. A proper coat of mascara and black eyeliner will define your eyes.
Almost all the people who say rude things to others are suffering from inferiority complex. If things become worst. right from their nationality. Never ever try to justify yourself. don't reply back. race and religion to their nature and temperament. it is much easier to find a frowning face than a smiling one. you can work out steps to seek the joy and bliss for yourself. Today. React as if you didn't even hear his/her comment or it makes no difference to you what he/she thinks. Stay away from such people as far as possible. You first need to figure out what happiness means to you and then. In fact. If they don't get that. we will tell you how to handle rude comments. nothing you say will make a different. If you want to get some more tips on being happy in life. You know what you are and what you are not. there is one particular category that comprises of discourteous and insensitive people. so don't let other people's opinions affect you. Never ever let the rude comments of others belittle you or make you feel inferior. You will hardly find two people who have exactly same personality. they will slowly start backing away. How To Be Happy . the latter two differences are much more enhanced than the former. though there might be some major similarities. They don't have the slightest idea on how to make polite conversation and often end up hurting the people around. go through the lines below. this basic element of life has lost its meaning. This would make the person shut up. while watching someone grimacing acts as dampener on your spirit as well. If he/she resorts to comments. so don't even try. just greet them politely and go your away. How To Be Happy Happiness holds the key to lead a successfullife. by their rude comments. not pass rude comments. However. A person who wants to hear your side of the story will come and talk to you. If it is not possible to avoid them altogether. with busy schedules and the need to get to the top of the ladder. People pass rude comments to make you angry and get an agitated response. Most of you would agree that it feels good when you see someone smiling. Amidst the different types of people.The people who live in this world differ on a number of factors. In the following. Do you want to know the secret of staying happy all the time? Happiness means different things to different people. answer them back politely. Remember this always! When somebody behaves rudely with you. How To Ignore Rude Comments • • • • • • Believe in yourself. They are only trying to hide their own insecurity behind the rudeness.
love life. maintain a diary where you write all the good things. How To Start Up A Conversation . It's easier to put up a smile on your face than to have a frown on. You need to realize what holds the key to your happiness. work your way ahead. family. job. Lastly. you can make others happy as well. Recollect old times. family. you first need to find what is important in your life. The ability to start a conversation effortlessly and to carry it out is a quality which is inherent only in a few people. but can be developed by almost everyone. It is often noted that people who are of the complaining sorts are mostly unhappy. money. By smiling yourself. you will see the people around you smiling as well. Start small and then. For such people. If pessimistic thoughts creep easily into your mind. Given below are tips to help you with the problem. etc.was it the place you were in or the person you were with. You need to take time out of your busy schedules to do things which are important to you and make you feel elated. Make happiness your priority in life. It would help you get rid of the pessimism. However. etc. but most of the people face difficulty when they have to start up a conversation. when you were very happy. It might sound strange. reading a book. Take 15 minutes off from the routine life and do things that make you smile. talking to friends.• To be happy. once you know the right ways to start the discussions. is extremely stressful. and bring a smile to your face. smile always. interacting with people is easy. go through the following lines. If you are also one of those who keep looking for ways of starting a conversation. friends. In no time. Think positive things about yourself. it is the time to catch up with old pals on a movie date. Read it often. indulge in having one. friends. such as health. • • • • • • How To Start Up A Conversation Starting a conversation is not everyone's cup of tea. It might not be possible to immediately start doing everything that makes you happy. There are certain things which take a prime concern in your life. your partner and life in general. Think of what made you happy . you would realize that you are feeling happy all the time. Make it a habit and soon. Be optimistic in life and shoo away any negativity. music and your hobby. like going for a walk. Be appreciative of the main aspects of life. What was the particular thinking or feeling that made you feel happy? Be with the person or visit the place again and experience the same emotions. to come up with something to talk about. If you love ice creams. like values. They criticize and grumble about everything which happens in life and fail to see what good things they have in life. If you were once a movie buff.
• To start a conversation. You should be positive about yourself. How To Be Funny • Just Relax: The first and foremost requirement of being funny is to have a relaxed mind. etc. or at least smile. we have provided a number of tips that will help you in being funny. but do not let go of the opportunity. Compliment if you like something about the person. you will have a lot of things to talk about and can knowledgeably participate in discussions. Be confident about yourself. but make sure that you offer a sincere one. Look around to find something interesting or unusual to talk about. When you are up-to-date with the current affairs. You also need to make sure that you come across as hilarious. but are not marked as clown. Even if you are not confident. With practice. It requires a lot of skill to bring that 'million dollar smile' on the face of a person. It is noted that people love to talk about themselves their success. Have a smile on your face and look into the eyes of the person while talking. Many people think that humor can be dealt with very easily. you need to know many things related to humor. Always try to be cool. etc. This is not true. Put questions to them. You can either ask a question about it or offer an opinion. in case he/she thinks it as derogatory. at your presence. like the situation. The best way to start a conversation is to be well-rehearsed. Crack jokes that make people laugh out loudly and not PJs that might make them stifle a yawn. It is good to prepare in front of the mirror. Use this as a conversation starter. Take initiative to talk to people when you are stuck up at different situations. Don't put too much pressure on yourself. Be inquisitive in nature. their ambitions. However. You can make others cry in just fraction of a minute. In the following lines. act as if you are. Start the conversation with a compliment. but to make them laugh is a hard nut to crack. if you want make others laugh. In both the cases. Observance is very essential for a communication to take place. you are sure to get better at starting conversations.conversation has started. To be funny. timing. If some opinion has been expressed by the other person. take it as an opportunity to talk further. . Practice conversing with people. • • • • • • • How To Be Funny Being funny is not a joke (pun intended!). the deal is struck . You might agree or disagree with it. taking care not to get too intrusive or personal. This would make you appear relaxed and calm. their life. play it safe and do not compliment on the looks or body of someone. you should be aware of what is happening around you.
It gives pain. isn't it? So. On the contrary. this leads to insensitivity towards others. accolades and attention. Be Ready For All Situations: You never know when a situation calls for humor. It is about cracking them at the right time.• Take It Easy! Don't get too serious or tensed at tough situations. That is perhaps the best way to be in 'good humor'! In fact. forget about making other people smile. which is achieved when other people laugh at their jokes. They need validation from other people for their actions and qualities. A secureperson is more likely to achieve success. Your mannerism. Know Your Audience & Situation: This is another important thing to take into consideration. They are not comfortable with their own-self. However. if you can't' make yourself laugh.this can make a dull story funny and interesting. Though it is impossible to be completely free of doubt. Insecure people can't enjoy silence and they try to fill it with unnecessary chatter. . Signs of Insecurity • • • • • • An insecure person becomes overly selfish. if you want to know what are signs of an insecure person. A reserve of jokes can come handy. insecure people find it very difficult to manage things in every aspect of their lives. analyze the situation well before introducing humor into it. one should try to be confident of himself. • • • • Signs Of An Insecure Person Security is something. He tries to surround himself with possessions. so be always ready. but humor is written all over the scenario! Humor Yourself: Put a pause to your dull routine life. Nobody would like to get witty at a mourning ceremony. Learn Timing & Mannerism: Being funny is not just about delivering great jokes. For this. which is desired by everyone. Excessive joking is also a mechanism for coping with insecurity. Insecure people are self promoting and constantly talk about themselves. That is why it is important for all of us to be comfortable with ourselves. read on. keep checking yourself to eliminate any signs of insecurity that might creep in. have meaningful relationships and be respected by others. Try to find humor especially in the situations that do not turn in your favor. attitude and the way you project yourself also count. An insecure person craves for other people's attention. Ease up on life and yourself. You should know whom you are talking to and what the situation is. Be animated and alive when you are talking . Just make sure that you crack the jokes with good amount of humor. An insecure person becomes overly accommodating and tries to gain other people's approval. Insecure people tend to be very defensive and cannot handle criticism. Falling down on a banana peel is the best example. Crack some jokes and humor yourself.
This is because if you do not believe in yourself. be in good enough terms so that you are able to hold a short. Popular people are generally friendly with almost everyone around. They are scared of losing and so they always keep themselves at the edge. who desperately wish to don the spotlight but do not how to become popular. Over competitiveness is also a sign of insecurity. mistrust and altercations with the members of the opposite sex. here we are with some valuable tips to relive you off your worries. As everybody does not acquire the talent of being popular. Even if you are a shy and introvert person.• • • • • • • How To Be Popular Insecure people are even threatened by others and therefore by bullying they try to crush their opinion. Try to talk to everyone. nothing will come easily to you. Try to decipher people's body language to understand their signals. do not be a bugger. In effect. Insecure people tent to be overly authoritative as they tend to compensate for their lack of confidence by taking out their frustrations on their subordinates. On the contrary. However. Insecure people even become abusive if they fail to control their partners. To be precise. So. Also make sure you choose light and safe topics to talk about. you will have to come out of your shell in order to become popular. one of the basic things to remember here is that it is very necessary to be self confident to become popular. Don't be nosy and clingy. Being materialistic also shows that person is insecure because he feels that by acquiring material wealth and showing it off he will be able to gain people's attention and acknowledgement. who crosses your path. people often remain clueless on the topic. If you receive a response. friendly conversation with anyone in the room. Keep your attitude casual. don't • • • • . Make it a habit to know people around you. just smile and give greetings. restraining from any sort of controversy. Tips on How to Be Popular • Be bold enough and step out of your comfort zone. in case you belong to the category of people. Over jealousy is yet another sign of insecure people as they lack trust in their partners. This is visible in constant questioning. Be polite and respectful towards people's privacy. In effect. It is very necessary for you to interact with people to gain their attention. make sure you just attempt a small talk with people you are not well aware of. Everyone wants to be popular and win the praise and attention of all. Be friendly and social. Overly sexual behavior also portrays insecurity as the person treats his or her sexuality as a crutch to get other's attention. make a small conversation. wondering how others do it.
instilling the above qualities certainly is. • • • . but find themselves clueless. don't brag. Relax your facial muscles. Maintain eye contact when you interact with other people. You can definitely mould these as per the situation you are in. Don't be hesitant. but also send signals across that you like them and they would warm up to you. Nod and smile subtly. It may feel awkward or overpowering in the beginning. when they talk and offer to help somehow. to make things work for you. Empathy is a virtue you cannot do without if you want to be popular. Try to remember people's names. Try to make a connection when you meet people. To know more on how to be charming. It will not only make it easy for you to remember that person. there are others who vie to attain that charm. don't be annoying. improve your body posture. try to lend out a helping hand. Some people have an inherent charm to their personality. avoid overdoing it. exuding a subdued joy. it is the most important prerequisite for being popular. Tell them that you wish the best for them. which reflects in their conduct. when you meet them for the first time. shoulders thrown back and head at level with the ground.invite yourself anywhere. but soon you will get used to it. Though it might sound cliché. For popular people. Ways to Be Charming • To start with. it's not only necessary to know everyone but also equally important to be in good terms with them. Though it's not necessary to be attractive and talented to be popular. On the other hand. Keep your spine straight. pleasant expression fixed there. don't interrupt and most importantly. However. which will give an impression of self confidence. Not to forget. One of the easiest ways of building rapport is by listening to people. • • How To Be Charming Being charming is the quality of an attractive personality. to bring them to a point where you have a natural. While walking. One of the basic ways to become charming is by putting effort and careful attention to the needs and desires of others. Whenever possible. remain relaxed and maintain an upright posture. Try to relate to people around you and be interested in them. be yourself. through practice and patience. read on. • Stop thinking too much about yourself. but at the same time. Talk to them on common grounds so that they find you compatible. this characteristic can be achieved over a period of time.
Praise others. in the lines below. if you are in a sporty crowd. Follow restrain and do not talk much about yourself.• Show interest in people. Though some people are born with an innate quality of leadership and turning things in their way. Remember that everyone wants to be liked and complimented. it does not mean that others cannot be the same. We have listed a number of tips for being more outgoing. they find it difficult to mingle around with other people and do not get to socialize much. This will make you a charming personality. Try to be interesting and open while conversing. This way. who either have a subdued personality or are extremely shy. especially in today’s competitive world. This will help you move ahead in your career as well. find out about their immediate family and interests. However. Initiate conversations on topics that would interest the people around you. everybody will find it easy to trust you and confide in you. Appreciating other people's efforts and helping them in improving upon their skills will increase your importance. read on. Even when you are meeting a new acquaintance. In case you want to master the art of socialization. Give generous compliments to people and raise their self esteem. Be affable in accepting compliments. you will be an outgoing person. Once the truth is reveled. talk about a game or a sports team. Try not to lie while talking to someone. mention something positive that is likeable about him. • • • • • • Tips For Being More Outgoing There are a number of people in world. Be warm and genuine when interacting with people. Show your feeling of gaiety on receiving the compliment. your reputation will be in shatters and people will shun you. like a coworker. Keep a control on the tone of your voice. Focus on being purely interested and impressed by other people. How to Become More Outgoing . For instance. Being outgoing is a necessary quality to possess. As a result. while talking to them. at don't be too nosy. enjoying people’s attention almost all the time. etc. It just requires a little effort on your part to change your attitude and soon. who will be adored by others around. so that the person finds his effort worthy. a classmate. especially when you feel there can be evidence floating around in the open. as it will make them feel uncomfortable. In case there is something negative that pops up about the other person. apart from improving your social relationships. The content should be in accordance with the surrounding. Your voice should reflect your sincerity.
Remember. Avoiding people’s gaze is taken as a sign of boredom or a lack of attention and might make people pull away from you. try again. However. This will reflect in your conversations and interactions as well. try to interact with others and if possible. Once there. you look great. Your friends might also introduce you to some more people. With time. make new friends as well. Give yourself credit for doing things. • • • • • • How To Look Your Best We have always heard that ‘beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder’. Do not be afraid of failure. Maintain eye contact while talking to other people. the fact remains that all of us make efforts to look best every time we are seen by someone else. as it will help you build self-confidence. for the fear that you would not be able to mix up with people. as it shows your respect and interest towards them. Do not avoid going to parties. you should try to be more social and interact with people. One fact that almost all of us overlook is that ‘looking best’ factor is more on the inside than on the outside. so that you can be at ease. The more nervous you are. if you do not try for the fear of failing. When someone approaches you. So. How to Look Your Best • The first step towards looking good is to feel good about yourself. Most of us are unhappy about something or the other in ourselves and wish to have the perfect look and be adored by others. This will make them take interest in you too. no one likes to move around a pessimist. . the more you will tend to avoid mixing up with others! If you feel you are too shy. Be positive about life and be in the company of people who make you feel positive. until you succeed’. expanding your social circle to quite an extent. who is full of negative views about life. Unless and until you meet people. When you feel happy. make sure you pursue what you want to do. try. This will boost your self-esteem and you will feel better about yourself. You must feel worthy of yourself and then only you would be able to project this outside. Make more friends. you need to avoid uncomfortable situations as much as you can. you cannot learn how to be more outgoing. A pinch of confidence and an ounce of smile would make you look your best even in the most unfavorable conditions. as there is not going to be any success.‘try. Keep the motto in mind . Read on to find ways and tips on looking your best all the time. give a pleasant smile and show that you are interested. People who love themselves always stand out in the crowd.• • To begin with. start initiating conversation on your own. When you will feel you can do things as per your own wish. you will feel charged to meet people and mingle with them.
it would show on the outside. This is because beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. Everyone in this world has at least one unique quality and you must be proud about your own. the prettiest things in life are often subtle and hidden. beauty is something subjective. on the other hand. Wear clothes that fit you. Make sure you take good care of your skin. Overconfidence kills. pelvic tilts. Look for colors which would enhance the beauty in you. which would enhance your best feature. for being attractive. Simple exercises include crunches. Do not wear too-tight clothes. On your everyday encounters. look for your . Most of the times. but confidence makes you swiftly sweep past the crowd and look outstanding!! Feel good. Thus. While natural look is always in. which cannot be generalized. Avoid being out in sun for a long period of time and put on a sunscreen whenever you go out during the day. tummy tucks. one just needs to pay attention on his or her appearance as well his character. as they will make you uncomfortable and you will also end up showing all the bulges that you wanted to hide. being healthy is also a prime requisite for looking beautiful. Select attires that suit you and accentuate your complexion and figure. better take care. push ups and skipping. will make you fat and clumsy.• • • Stop cribbing about your height. Given below are some tips on how to be beautiful and attractive. Spend time in front of the mirror and search for the beauty in your features. while subduing others is the best mantra to follow. Wear colors that match your skin tone. Do not indulge in insensitive buying. by working upon one’s persona. Devote at least 10-15 minutes each day to exercise. In addition. look good! • • • • • • How To Be Beautiful Being beautiful is a desire that almost everyone wishes to see getting accomplished. Wear footwear you are comfortable in and don’t plunge into the fashion race uselessly. Wear a warm smile on your face and move out with your chin raised high. weight or structure. Take notice of the beauty in yourself. Selecting footwear is an important task. it can surely be enhanced to a great extent. So. So. This will help your body look and feel its very best. Do not follow the fashion fiesta blindly and look atrocious at the end of it. Moreover. Simple make up. If you are uncomfortable. instead of something really fashionable that would make you look bad. Loose fitting clothes. which need to be looked for. you can go for make up only if you feel it’s necessary. Tips to Look Beautiful • • In order to look beautiful one should know how to define beauty. notice the people you find beautiful. Though it is believed that beauty is god gifted.
Avoid applying heavy make up in public places and try to look natural and composed. thereby making yourself beautiful both on the inside and on the outside. Bathe regularly and smell good. giving preference to your innate good looks. Though you should be immune to other people’s opinion about you. which can be achieved by emphasizing your attractive features. rejoice in it. perfectly-shaped shoulders. Cool people have a charismatic personality and are popular amongst their social community. Keep your finger and toe nails trimmed. etc. This might sound contradictory. which can be in the form of smooth and well-proportioned hands. This is what makes the beauty last forever.beauty. Keep experimenting until you feel you have given your best features the representation they deserve. but carries significance. It is said that beauty is not skin deep. then people surely want to seek his company and admire him. remember your inner beauty will always radiate and never get faded. For inspiration. Follow a regular hygiene routine. Brush your teeth daily and floss them when required. which actually implies that to be beautiful. which is very essential in order to look beautiful. Make efforts to enhance your physical beauty. is the best way to look pretty. Read on for some tips on how to be cool. So. So build your character honestly. who does things in his own distinct way and does not care much about the world. flawless forehead. It just takes a little effort to look beautiful. so avoid being sad at trivial things and enjoy life. Tips on Being Cool • Do not care about what people think of you. • One you have realized your beauty. Happiness exudes natural beauty. Wear minimum makeup. make sure you try to acquire as much knowledge as you can • • • • • How To Be Cool Being stated cool is the hippest statement amongst guys and gals. it is better if you live your life the way you like. Though many people feel it is difficult to achieve the milestone. one needs to have a beautiful inner self as well. Wisdom always gives your beauty a boost. So. it becomes a secret wish for everyone to be termed as cool. Another thing that makes someone attractive is his intelligence. it should be noted that being cool just requires a bit of attitude change. you should keep a check on how they perceive you. A cool person is generally referred to as someone. Have a positive outlook towards life and stay happy. with the help of make up. Just highlighting your features. Remember that it’s not possible to please everyone. If the person is wise. rather than bothering about the world. Being cool is all about learning how to perceive yourself • . Thus. Most of us are always concerned about what other people think of us. The next thing to do is to develop your inner beauty.
Though some people are born with such qualities. bursting into tears or losing control. Cool people usually speak confidently and clearly. look and feel confident. Cultivate the habit of laughing at yourself. Don't shy away from being different. one should create his own identity. People who break against the tide and question the status quo are quite often regarded as the coolest. Real friends respect you for what you are and cherish the time spent with you. this does not mean chattering uselessly. to fight and sustain in the rat race of the contemporary world. Be confident about what you speak and don't bother if people disagree with your opinion. If at times you do feel vulnerable. Make sure you say what you mean and vice versa. make sure to maintain a good posture and look them in the eye. body odor. smile generously. For acquiring the respect of others. Speak your mind. At times. From kids in school to adults in corporate world. whether it means standing up for yourself. Find real friends and stay in their company. that too with a good pace. With regard to physical appearance. You will not only gain respect for it. However. beware of bad breath.better. defending someone else or taking interest in something that no one else dares to do. it is good to be respected for what you believe in. Be friendly and social. etc. Your serenity and steadfastness shows your coolness. Smile and be genuine. Being cool is all about staying relaxed and comfortable in any and every situation. In terms of body language. Another thing to be remembered is that for being cool. music. art and the like and pursue it with excellence. • • • • • • How To Be Smart Everybody wants to become smart in today’s world as it does not remain that easy to survive any more. one has to follow some simple tips. Remember being cool essentially states finding humor in moments of clumsiness and discomfort. While interacting with people. making you feel positive and happy. Do not force yourself on people. etc. Don't be disruptive and annoying or have unpredictable mood changes. For this. but not excessively eager and clingy. It’s good to be outgoing. being smart is the need of the hour. stand/sit up straight. but people will like you for being so earthly. but do not be overly excited. take a deep breath and mellow down. • • Present yourself in the most comfortable and confident way. you need to look and feel positive. Everyone can become smart by acquiring the required skills. Find your talent in terms of sports. it should not be considered a norm. and end up losing your temper. which will bring about a . do not stare. Being known for your passion is certainly deemed cool.
change in his/her lifestyle and personality, eventually making them smart enough. To know how to become smart, read the tips given below. Tips to Become Smart •
To become smart set important goals for yourself once a week. Make sure you do the important things first. Try to improve your vocabulary by reading good books. This will make your language rich, enhancing your skills. You can even read one word at a time in the dictionary and grow intellectually gradually. Excel in your education by getting good grades. Excellence in your educational field gives you confidence as well as knowledge. Watch news and be aware about the recent events taking place around the world. This will increase your general knowledge and current affairs. Grab more information on subjects like interesting facts, funny and inspiring quotations, good books and movies, scientific studies and interesting inventions. This will give you information to help you in interacting with other people and sound interesting and intelligent. Be organized and plan each day. For remembering your schedule, keep a notebook or small digital planner and maintain a record of the due dates for important events. A weekly planner or a monthly calendar can also be used, wherein you can note down birthdays and big events. Being a good listener is very important, when it comes to being smart. Listen carefully to others' opinions on controversial things or otherwise. It’s not necessary to agree with them but try to extract the maximum knowledge from others. Keep an open mind and socialize freely. Be nice to people around and show genuine care towards their well being. It is a sign of maturity, class and intelligence, which will make people to look up to you. It’s a good way to feel confident. Be friendly with people you find smart and who follow the above practices. It will help you in following the path with determination. Exercise your brain by solving puzzles. This will make you sharp and your reflexes quick. Practice math sums mentally to increase your speed. Learn varied tricks for doing complicated things to keep yourself ahead of others. Try as much as possible to feel in control of your life. Be happy for others on their achievement and encourage them by congratulating.
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Effective Leadership Qualities And Skills
Whenever group activities are required, the emergence of a leader becomes imminent. A group always works effectively when there is a leader to guide the members and keep them motivated on their way to success. Without a good leader, a group will not be able to perform to the best of its abilities. However, as much is it necessary to have a leader, it is also essential that he has all the right qualities and skills. Having a bad leader is even worse than having no leader at all. In case you want to be a leader, that too an effective one, you need to cultivate certain skills and qualities in you, some of which have been listed below. Effective Leadership Qualities and Skills • In order to become a leader, a person should be aware of nitty-gritty of the work that his team has to handle. Unless and until he knows about the work, he will not be able to lead the team in the right direction. • • • • An effective leader needs to set example for his team members and become a role model for them. If he is lazy, dishonest and shirks from responsibilities, how can he expect others to be meticulous and sincere! A leader should be totally unbiased. He should not have personal favorites in his team, to whom he gives more authority or less work. All the members in a team should be treated equally. Patience is one of the most essential qualities needed in a leader. Since he has to guide his team, he must have the patience to make them learn what they need to and get the work done from them. Constructive feedback is one of the skills that a leader should possess. He should always praise his team members if they perform well. At the same time, if they do wrong, he should be there to tell them where they went wrong and how can they put things back in order! However, the criticism should always be constructive and not demeaning. A leader needs to motivate his team, so that they happily contribute towards the team work. He should be aware of the stimuli of different members and make judicious use of them. When a person becomes a leader, he needs to delegate his duties as well as responsibilities amongst his team members. For this, he should be aware of their strengths and weaknesses and delegate accordingly. Leader is the one who sets goal for the team and help them achieve it. He should possess the vision to aim right and at the same time, be able to mobilize people towards those goals. A leader should always be receptive to new ideas. Just because he is the leader doesn’t mean that the suggestions made by others will be useless. He must accept the useful ideas of his team members. An effective leader should have loads of understanding and always focus on the betterment of the group, as a whole, and not individual members. At the same time, he should be honest, trustworthy and easily approachable.
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How To Control My Feelings When Upset
Feeling upset is quite natural. It comes to you automatically when things do not favor you or do not turn out to be the way you thought that they would. However, the phase should be temporary and not something that stretches over to a long period of time. It is very essential to learn how to control one’s feeling of being upset over matters or things, because being too depressed could hamper your behavior and thus, affect your regular mode of living. Read on further to find some tips for controlling your disappointment and depression. Tips For Controlling Anger • The best way is control anger to take a deep breath and count the numbers backwards, from 10 to 1. It would make you feel calmer in no time. Now, pick up the phone and talk to the person whom you are upset with and clarify all the issues. Write a list of things that make you upset and irritate you. Now, tear the page and throw it in the dustbin or even go for burning the page up! This might just give you some mental respite, as you are venting out your frustration by tearing or burning the paper. Do things that you enjoy. Indulge in your favorite past time activities, like singing, dancing, cooking, listening to music, reading or going for a walk. Do things that make you happy, as they will help you to take your mind off a particularly upsetting instance. Play a game or a sport you love. It would lighten your heart and would give a boost to your spirit. Exerciseand sports are very rightly considered to be stress busters. They will also help you to distract you mind. Call your friends. Have long chats with them or even plan the day out. Catch up with them and do things that you love doing. Having fun with friends will not give you the time to think over things that make you feel upset. If you have the habit of maintaining a diary, write all that you are feeling in it right now. You might realize that you are feeling 10 times better after doing it. Make a list of things that you are good at and enjoy doing. Try refreshing your mind with your own positive qualities and things which you are best at. This would help you regain your spirit. If you are upset and angry about something, the best you can do is give yourself some space. Get out of the particular situation that you find unbearable and try to soothe your nerves. This will also help you avoid instant reactions to situations that irritate you. Analyze whether the matter is even worth being upset about or not. Many a times, we simply worry too much and waste a lot of time fretting over things that are just not important. Try to dispassionately analyze the situation that is bothering you. Most of the times, you will not be able to figure out any credible reason to be upset!
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one must realize that there is a solution to every problem and this issue can be tackled too. you will know your weak points and you can always strive to work on them in order to open up. As a result. Analyze yourself and see if you have a personal issue that has been bothering you for a while. All it needs is a bit of perseverance and dedicated efforts from you. Talk about it to your closest confidante. It helps a lot to open up when you are in public. Practice talking to yourself. Check out how to open up with people. It will help you become an emotionally stable and fun-loving person. Talk about what happened during the day. Start going out and meeting new people. They feel they can’t talk as others do and often have low confidence due to that. Have a attitude in your personality and believe in yourself. That way. It could be something traumatic or something that may have left a bad impact on your ability to open up. you will become confident of yourself in no time. The more places you go. Do whatever it takes to respect yourself and think good of yourself. It will be very helpful talking about this to a professional as it will help you gain a good insight into your problems and also find a solution. If you think you can’t discuss with anyone. Unless you think you are good. You know yourself more than anyone else. Tips for Opening up to People • The first and foremost step is to be confident of yourself. the more will you be able to talk to new people. • • • • • How To Be More Social • . share ideas and experiences. Indulge in things that make you happy and feel light. Ask them to analyze how you speak and tell you which places need improvement. Just stand in front of the mirror and have an impromptu conversation with yourself. you will start building a positive image about life and yourself which will ultimately lead to a better personality. no one else will think the same way. smile and laugh or get angry if anything unpleasant incident took place. Start by talking openly to your family and closest friends. This way. try talking it out to a counselor. they are unable to cope up normally in a situation where talking and speaking out is essential.How To Open Up To People Many people have a problem with opening up to people or even talking freely in a gang of friends. That way. However. This finally leads to inferiority complex and that individual cannot help but feel miserable forever. you will be able to gauge your expressions and reactions and have a fair idea as to how would you look while talking in front of people.
by asking them about their life. make up your lines and speak loud.Switch to your favorite show and pretend to be one of the characters. The simple act of listening can help you being more social with the people around you. you just can't flip a switch and be loving and friendly towards everyone instantly. Initiate conversations. The world around you is not bad. practice makes a man perfect in this case as well. say hi to people and make the first move. Listen . This way. colleagues.Yes. the easier it would be for you to open up in front of strangers. Do not try to imitate the character. Perform . It sounds a little strange. Converse .• • • • • People often wonder how to be more social. Watch TV . Now. Be Friendly .Try to be friendlier.People who are great at socializing make other people feel comfortable around them. by being truly interested in them. To help you a bit more in this regard. Be Interested In People . it just doesn't go away. as this would improve your social skills. so smile and be happy. but for some of us. with people who you make you feel comfortable and gradually move on to others. show interest in the conversation. self consciousness is the reason for shyness and loneliness. Mute the button when it is his/ her turn to speak. Start small. but with a small start. It usually vanishes as we mature. it’s really amazing how a simple act like smiling can go a long way in reducing the stress of dealing with people. dislikes. by being genuinely interested in what he/she has to say. Most of them loveto speak about themselves. While talking to someone. etc. we present some tips and techniques to get more social and gain back that confidence.Take a step forward and perform in front of an audience. interests. Similar to other skills in life. you can build it into an automatic part of your life. you will gain confidence and the attention will be on you. The more you present yourself in front of yourfriends. Smile . Tips To Become Social & Overcome Shyness Practice . Smiling relaxes you and makes you more approachable.Be a good listener and talk only when it is your time to talk. their • • • • • • • • • • • • • • .Converse with people. It does take a lot of energy. Always speak confidently and listen to what people around you have to say. If you are not chatty at that moment or are reserved in general.This is perhaps the first step towards being social. Mostly. Just be natural and speak up what comes to your mind. but that is the way to build up your conversation skills. likes. how to talk to others and how to be more assertive. and classmates.
esteem with the passage of time. Second that it’s okay to feel scared because confidence doesn’t mean not feeling scared. Attend Seminars on Self Confidence You can also attend seminars themed on building self-confidence. It is a feeling that will slowly start getting mirrored once you begin appreciating yourself truly. If attending conferences is not possible.Never forget to compliment people on various suitable occasions. their dreams. It’s just that some of us have to take those extra steps. Compliments prove to be great conversation starters. This could be things like cooking well. etc. interact with strangers? Do you keep criticizing yourself constantly for doing things the wrong way? All these traits just point one thing – that you majorly lack in self confidence. confidence means overcoming your fears! Tips on How to Build Confidence Like Yourself The very first key to becoming self confident is by liking yourself. Try to draw out common aspects between the two of you and move on with the conversation. just remember that you do not deserve this and don’t have to live like this your whole life! While lacking confidence is one thing. just see this list and remind yourself that you too possess praise-worthy qualities like others. First that in this case. See what and how you can incorporate these tips in your daily lifestyle. then try searching for information / reading up on this issue on the internet. How To Gain Confidence Do you cringe each time you view yourself in the mirror and sadly wish you were someone else? Do you get tongue-tied and nervous when you have to. being courteous. Encourage / Motivate yourself . etc. However. When ever you feel dejected. All you need is the willingness and determination to overcome your flaws. where you can get important tips and guidance in this aspect from experts. make sure that you are genuine while doing so. While there can be varied reasons behind your lack of confidence. only you can help yourself.Who Moved My Cheese and The Alchemist can also help you. Compliment . Be ready to do your extra bit. Reading famous inspirational books like .Remember that each one of us has the capability to be the most social person out there. Remember two things on the onset of this mission. Infact. this can also lead to one having low self. Last Tip .• • • preferences. But remember that you can definitely turn around the tables if you so want. libraries and other such sources. for any reason. So list down all the positive traits you have in yourself.
Encourage or motivate yourself each and every day and you are bound to find your self confidence blossoming. accept it and move on. it makes you crave for success more strongly and it also teaches you to appreciate success in the true way when it finally comes. One should try to do away with such negative thinking first of all. It is as much a part of life as success is. It teaches you to survive when things are not going smooth. Think positive and put your 100 per cent in what ever you do. Though maybe in varying degree. It is just that you have to take it in a positive way. So failure is not all that bad as many label it. Try Overcoming Fears Some people nurture a secret fear that they will not success at anything they do. This will make you feel good about yourself and boost confidence. Another way to motivate yourself is by jotting down three to four things on the paper that you did well each day. . It keeps you grounded.Whether you have to appear for an interview or make a presentation. Accept Failures Failures teach you more than success does. tell yourself repeatedly that you can do it and do it well. but success is bound to come to you sooner or later.
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