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Getting things organized on time is the key to minimize your stress. If you are the kind of a person who keeps things pending for the last minute and then end up in a mess, then perhaps it is the right time to gear up and get things organized to avoid those last minute scrambling. It can be often challenging to get things organized if you are doing that for the first time. However, if you are ready to take some extra efforts, you can help reduce your stress level to a great extent. But, what is actually meant by getting organized and from where to start are the two obvious questions that come to mind when it comes to getting organized. If you too are contemplating on where to get started and to become more organized in day to day life then here are some tips to help you get started. Getting Organized Time Management Are you always in hurry and rushing for your daily chores? Do you find yourself in a mess and do you find it difficult to remember things? If yes, then perhaps you need to organize your time more efficiently. Maintain a To Do list and schedule all your appointments in a notebook. Stick to only one notebook instead on using multiple calendars to schedule your appointments. Check the notebook regularly so that you don’t miss any appointments. This way you can avoid overtaxing your brain with preoccupying thoughts. Do not overbook yourself with tasks, find some time for relaxation too. Catch up with friends and spend time with families so that you don’t overstress yourself. Organizing Home Do you live in a cluttered home filled with unnecessary things? Does cleaning home sound a herculean task to you? A cluttered home can drain both your time and finances. A nicely organized home not only creates an abode of peace, but also impresses your guests. If you too want your home to look simple and organized, why wait for the springs? Any time is the right time to create a soothing, simple, and organized home to return to. If you are living in a messy home, set a schedule for your home cleaning agenda. Hire help if required. If you have the money to invest, call a gardener, a decorator, or a professional organizer to get things in order. This will also help you save a lot of time so that you can do some productive work. Make
cleaning a fun activity so that you don’t get bored and give up the task. Include your kids and other family members to help you in the job. Take a break at intervals, sit back, and relax. Making things in order is great but maintaining things in place are difficult. Take necessary steps so that your cleaning doesn’t go in vain. Getting Workplace Organized Is your work desk always filled with clutters and old stationeries? If yes, then try getting your workplace more organized. Check your pen holder and get rid of old pens that do not write any more. Don’t feel bad to throw out unnecessary items. The more you dispose out clutters, the more organized will be your workplace. Organize your desk drawers and make room for subtle items. If you don’t have a drawer, use the place below your monitor to give home to your calculator, PDA, wallet, keys, phones, etc. Organize your files and folders and label them appropriately so than you don’t have to hunt for them. Do you grab an envelope to scribble telephone numbers and addresses and then couldn’t find them when needed? Rather maintain a notebook for this purpose so that you don’t have difficulty finding them
Psychosocial Stages Of Development
It is quite fascinating to grasp and understand how a person grows into an individual with a set of responsibilities from infancy to adulthood. This developmental process in a human being is explained and defined by many psychoanalysts and social scientists. One such definition comes from a Danish-German-American developmental psychologist Erik Erikson. Erikson is famous for his theory on the stages of psychosocial development in a person. Erikson’s theory holds and explains eight stages of development through which an individual passes, namely from infancy to late adulthood. These stages defined by Erikson throw new challenges for an individual which he/she hopefully masters towards the next stage of development. Each stage depends on the successful completion of the previous stages, and if a person fails to master a particular stage, then
he/she might experience problems in later stages. Let us discuss in detail Erikson’s psychosocial stages of development here in the sections to follow. Erikson’s Psychosocial Stages Of Development Basic Trust Vs Mistrust This is the stage which starts with the birth of the child when he/she has no knowledge of the world and is completely dependent on his/her parents, especially the mother. The parents become the basis of their existence and it is the type of environment they are brought up in, which influence their behaviour later in life. This is a stage where the child develops the value of hope and learns to love and trust people because of the loving and caring environment the child receives. This stage lasts till two years of age. Autonomy Vs Shame And Doubt The second stage in the psychosocial development of a person is when the dependent infant grows up into a toddler. This is the time when the child learns to move around freely, and with this freedom of movement he/she explores the things around them, make choices of food, toys, games etc. If the parents grant this freedom to their child and encourage their child’s independence, then the child will grow up to become a competent person. However, if parents become overprotective and keep a check on all the movements of the child, then the child will lack in confidence and competence to take risks in life. Initiative Vs Guilt This stage begins when a child turns 3 yrs of age and continues till the age of 5. This is the first social experience of the child where they attend preschool and make friends, interact with them, and explore his/her power and control over peers while playing. This is the time when the child should be encouraged to socialize and stay in the social environment so that they can develop a sense of purpose to achieve something. This stage also develops the leadership quality in the kid, who if discouraged will lack these qualities and will find it guilty to take initiatives. Industry Vs Inferiority The fourth stage of development starts from 5 yrs of age and continues till the child is 13. This is the stage where children start attending school, experiences a greater degree of independence, start understanding and differentiating between people and cultures, learn reading, writing and presenting amidst other skills which they try to master. Children should get full support in this stage not only from their parents, but from their teachers also. They should be encouraged to participate, learn and take failures in a positive way and not get demotivated by them. If the kids don’t get enough
The parents in this stage needs to be very careful in handling the behavioural changes of the growing teenagers for them to grow into confident and responsible individuals. Ego Integrity Vs Despair This is the last stage in the stages of psychosocial development where a person’s ego identity is fully developed.support and guidance in this stage. This is a stage where teenagers are confused because they are expected to act neither like kids nor like adults. society. A person who is scared of commitment and intimacy will stay isolated and depressed. it will affect their growth in later stages of development. This is the stage when the person is in the middle of adulthood and has his/her set career and family. If people fail to achieve this sense of care. . They develop a sense of faithfulness and start attaching importance to relationships. Generativity Vs Stagnation This stage is totally dependent on the success of the other stages of development. However. If a person has achieved success in all the earlier stages he/she develops a sense of integrity and wisdom. especially friendship. has his/her own identity and is ready to share their sense of identity with others by forming intimate relationships based on love and commitment. This is the stage where a person learns to care for others and give back to the society what he/she has received from it. careers etc. This is a stage where a person reflects back on his/her life and analyzes the achievements and failures. The environment in the previous stages has a great role to play in judging a person’s behaviour in this stage. This is a stage when the teenagers need to cope with his/her physical changes and understand gender roles. Identity Vs Role Confusion This is the stage of adolescence and is the most crucial stage among all the stages of development. This is the stage where a person becomes an adult. they get stagnated and experience a life without any meaning to it. if a person has experienced failures then he/she develops a sense of despair for his/her life. The teenagers in this stage try and develop their individuality in relationships. Intimacy Vs Isolation This stage encompasses people between the age group of 20-40.
Pick a paintbrush and paint the world! The clock will tick its way to the next week and you may not even feel the pinch of loneliness. Change Is Good Obama said it and was soon after crowned the president of United States. However. Accept the change that is your state of aloneness and bask in the novelty of it. There are countless remedies to combating loneliness. While some people choose loneliness. Ways To Be Happy Alone Get a Hobby Wonder why Einstein loved his solitude? The only logical justification would the fact that he occupied himself with all those creatively stimulating experiments. it is foolish to think that finding happiness alone is impossible. certainly yearn for the warmth of a human being. In fact. mind and soul. Not everybody is Einstein. Master the art of pottery or photoshop. living alone is no sane person’s fantasy. Of course. Learn an Instrument and form a garage band. No external factors to dissuade you. Silence impregnates their surroundings and threatens to slaughter all scope for joy. Most of us can barely survive an hour without a cell phone. Re-discover the real you! You never know where you really belong. Explore deep into the confines of your body. by the time you arrive at the bottom of this page you might find yourself whispering. let alone live a week in solitary confinement. Fly a kite. a select few would leap out in joy at the mere prospect of solitude while some just have no choice.“Every Cloud has a silver lining”. So why don’t you drown your entire state of mind into a hobby? Take advantage of your solitude to be productive. Nevertheless. the absence of a separate human entity can land a devastating effect on a lonely soul. You will soon encounter your new companion that fails to blabber like a fool. And for those that aren’t. Experience the inexperienced as you are now privileged with the liberty whatever your heart desires. A Marriage annulment.“I lived in solitude in the country and noticed how the monotony of a quiet life stimulates the creative mind” Who wouldn’t want to follow the footstep of the genius that discovered the Theory of Relativity? No doubt. others desperately try to fill the void.How To Be Happy Alone The world’s most popular scientist Albert Einstein once wisely confessed. death of a partner and isolated job transfers are typical case scenarios that exemplify the birth of loneliness. .
consider buying or adopting a pet of your choice. even a goldfish encircling a tiny circular bowl vanquishes the gloom triggered by lack of companionship. Register yourself and get to know more people. yoga classes or a trekking camp. Get A Pet Do you miss the comfort of having your sibling or roommates breathing heavily before you fall into a slumber? Find solace in the warmth and compassion provided a fuzzy little dog. but if you do not have the right interpersonal skills to complement your credentials. if you can’t cope with loneliness. relinquish all thoughts of discontentment. Whether you are brimming with energy for an important presentation. then even the toughest opposition can become a pushover for you. Take long silent walks along the beach or jog around the neighborhood. you cannot expect to get ahead without good people skills. people can act difficult and can cold shoulder your views and opinion. Volunteer your time to those less fortunate than yourself. Remember. if you know the art to convey your message clearly. cat or rabbit! Irrespective of the breed or size. Allow the music to reverberate within you. Joining a gym would benefit your health. your social life and more importantly. You know you will always have somebody to welcome you home! Be Physically Active Learn to be happy and comfortable with your solitude. Exercise in your spare time and release the endorphins that reward you with bouts of ecstasy. Strong interpersonal communication skills are . a social service community.Join A Community It could be a book club. chairing a conference or simply running for a plum job offer. Now you certainly aren’t bound by family or social obligations. Interpersonal Communication Skills You may have the most impressive line-up of degrees and may boast of refined skills. Browse the internet or scan the yellow pages and you will stumble upon a group activity that inexorably will grab your attention. So. Absorb yourself in new tasks and get accustomed to news ways of living. Dance or sing to any background music. you are pretty much a lost case. Nevertheless.
The key objective is to interact with others in a positive way and ultimately get them to know you better and appreciate you. it also encourages others to revert to you with concentrated attention and zeal. Remember. posture and gesture to convey the right message. loud. you will be deemed as a schmuck who blows out lots of smoke. But. opinions and ideas. but if you cannot connect to your audience and appreciate their views. rude and snob person. you are definitely on the losing end. so you better mind what it says! Body language is one of the crucial parameters of non-verbal communication and an effective instrument of interpersonal communication. Not only does it leave you with a fair idea of others’ feelings. then your soft skills are pretty much a bummer. Listening is deemed as one of the crucial parameters of all interpersonal dealings. views. . Remember. One of the most endearing traits of successful interpersonal skills is deference. If you cannot respect others and make them feel comfortable. Mind Your Body Language! Your body blurts out oodles about you. Get A Grip! You may possess the daintiest of demeanors and may be the suavest of talkers. Effective Interpersonal Communication Skills Listen Up! You may have a million-dollar look and mouth a million worth words. The cue is to pay attention to people and make them feel worthy. but if you do not have ears for your audience. but can be easier said than done! It is easy to bump into people with different opinions and ideas. Be On The Ball Handing criticisms is an impressive quality. you better buck up to make the most of your abilities.a necessary tool to evade workplace conflicts and even stub away personal miscommunications. nobody fancies an aggressive. In case you do not have the required interpersonal skills. Read on to know more on effective interpersonal communication skills. you better buck up your tone. effective communication begins with effective listening and one of the best ways to make the most of it is to belt up and listen. Imagine being turned off a job or a deal just because your body language did not respond convincingly or worse did not back your words! So.
in case you are putting in all that extra effort to eat right and exercise right. you may have the skills and abilities. When you let your body sag. but also causes your body to stoop over time. Stop Being A Pushover While it is good to be perceived as a nice guy. The right posture will not only leave you feeling fit. but you would also get high on confidence. Here are some ways on how to improve your posture. then your deeds and feats are useless.that doesn’t really have to bog you down. Remember. So. How To Improve Posture How often have you romanced the idea of losing your paunch without having to toil hours on the treadmill or guzzling gallons of carrot juice? Nothing underlines an unwanted paunch like a sloppy stance. You will be amazed to see what a slimming effect a tall. roll your tongue and speak out your worth. everywhere. Who knows it may be aimed at your betterment! The mantra is to adapt to the situation and learn to toy the dynamics of the conversation. dump the myth and work towards a more perfectly coordinated posture. Now. while handing out criticisms. criticisms can be constructive too. Take a heed and get trotting! . sit and walk right. Do away with that spare tire and flaunt a more silhouetted figure. Asserting is a sign of the winner! So. just by holding your body in the right posture. Also. Remember. right posture doesn’t have to mean that you carry a poker-straight body every time. Remember. erect posture can have on you. you put undue strain on your spine that not only escalates your chronic back pain. stay calm and preserve your dignity. you aren’t vying for a robot-like body! So. make sure you do it tactfully. but if you cannot stitch a few words to assert your worth and make yourself appear valuable. Just take criticisms with a pinch of salt. you might just as well put in some effort to stand. understand that being treated like a pushover at the expense of your career. confidence and interpersonal relationships is not worth it! Stop being a walkover and assert your worth by learning to say ‘no’ and expressing yourself ardently. without offending anybody’s sentiments. In all cases.
• This one is especially for the high-heeled ladies out there! Heels are indeed the worse affliction women can subject themselves too. Ensure that your chair’s backrest has a natural curve that fits into the hollow of your back. Always hold your ears. always make sure that your spine is in sync with the backrest. there is indeed no escape from lot of slumping around. Try this little mind trick every day to do away with the hunch and sport a fitter you! • Do you remember being snubbed by your mom. it is never too late to work towards a healthy body. While it is easy to sit erect. Strenuous hours on your chair can get the better of your spine and get it slouching. without unnecessarily stressing your spine.always ensure that your posture is correct! It’s important for your body to stand in perfect alignment.Improving Posture • How often have you slouched in your couch and pinned about your flagging gait? Correct posture is something that doesn’t come easy to most of us and it definitely deserves an all-out effort to stop one from slumping. However. Heels tend to non-align the body posture and alter body’s center of . when expected to stand tall. If you are caught in a desk job. which is wrong. When seated. All you need to do is to make sure that your ears are aligned with your shoulders and you are done. While you inadvertently filed away the flak then. Thinking so will get you posing upright naturally. trying to heave you upwards. Nonetheless. Kick the bad habit and dump the chair and get moving. Always rest the soles of your feet flat on the floor while seated.Standing straight doesn’t have to mean that you tense up your back. you definitely regret now about not having taken a stand then. your nanny and even your teacher for bending over your desk when expected to sit erect. shoulders and hips in complete coordination. Walking once in every thirty minutes will save your muscles from tiring out and also save you from the hump later on in life! • Doesn’t matter if you are hanging out with your friends in the club or reclining in your office cafeteria . getting the right lumbar support can make a big difference. • The way you sit often makes a difference on the way you stand and how you carry yourself. the simple balloon trick can elevate your posture. if not get you flying! All you have to do is stand straight and imagine a balloon tied to your head. heave your chest and draw your head back to the chest.
Just bend your knees. Life without confidence is like a racing car. if you are unable to find the self-reliance required for it. The cue is to never bend your spine. You will never be able to touch the high points of life. if you have to bend at all. people who are low on confidence are seen to falter in future. In the following lines. Sometimes we are . Confidence is related to your mental well-being and determines the actual course taken by your life. we have provided detailed information about the significance of self confidence in the various stages of life. but in personal life too. those who are low on confidence will be affected badly and their game will deteriorate further. instead of leaving us on the mercy of our own grades or teachers. In true sense. if not more. • • Importance Of Confidence • Confidence is to life. the more likely you are to be left with a curve posture. The common conditions like stage-fright and nervousness also occur due to the lack of confidence. If you are a heel freak and can’t do without your high-heeled footwear. it’s suggested that you settle for a more modest kitten heels than perch yourself on the stilettos. what testosterone is to a man. don’t crouch or bend from your waist. • Last but not the least. Not only in scholastic or professional life. • • Significance Of Self Confidence In Life • • Role Of Confidence During Education • In school and college life. The more you flex your spine. running on a 100 cc engine.gravity. Confidence is something that is inculcated in you through your own efforts and unlike physical strength cannot be attained by brutish training. confidence helps us in going ahead and choosing the subjects and sports that we prefer. dearth of self-belief can take away all the fun in the roller-coaster ride named life. when you bend to lift anything. • • Imagine a situation wherein you are supposed to hit the court to play an important basketball game and just when you are dressing for the impending match. someone tells you that your shooting hasn’t been too good recently? Though confident players would just ignore such a comment and move on.
• • Role Of Confidence In Professional Life • In professional life. life is going to throw new challenges towards you at every turn and corner. Self confidence becomes more important for people who are self employed. Keep in mind that confidence can be yours. confidence plays the role of a leader. partner and protector. Right from getting selected for a better job to winning the coveted promotion. Confidence is also vital for coming out victorious during crucial times such as exams. If you wish to become a pioneer of sorts by leading your field of work. . personal. a person’s growth in his life. which keeps you standing through all the whirlwinds in life. This is vital for enabling us to learn new things and becoming better at known things. run businesses and corporate houses as each decision of theirs affects multiple people and enterprises. Just stop worrying about failure and afraid of picking up something. Confidence helps us in choosing what we want and not the least that we are eligible for. Without confidence. confidence is your ticket to success. confidence is the key to success. In such situations we need confidence to do things we are not accustomed to and improve in them. professional and social remains stunted. Achieving pleasing results for newer things gives us a new high. • • Significance Of Confidence • In personal life. Confidence is like that steel back bone. Remember. you are bound to break and fall apart. in which we are not good enough. further increasing our confidence levels. A lot of young people suffer emotional stress and mental disorders due to the lack of self believe and eventually get detached from their surroundings. Important decisions regarding your career at a crucial phase can only be made if you have confidence in your self. Right from your first baseball game to your marriage. Lack of confidence will lead to missed opportunities. Leading a successful life is a bigger challenge in today’s world than ever before. friend. If you lack confidence. everything depends on the amount of confidence you instill in yourself. • • Confidence is the growth hormone for an individual’s personality development. if you leave fear. then confidence is the first weapon you need to have in your repertoire. remorse and even wrong decisions taken out of misguidance.
work towards you goals. But how can you be so sure of the fact? You have chosen your own career path and every form of work is pious and satisfying if you believe so. “ Jerry aka Tom Cruise manages to stay afloat through all his miseries and finally secures Rod. and I will not sleep until that happens. working in a better office. it will do you no good but sink you in grave . leading a far more decent life. his only client. Quite often we jump down to conclusions thinking that our neighbors are doing better than us. Believing in yourself can be the key to success. can you guess what he replied? “Drive” was the word. When a reporter asked Arnold Schwarzenegger how he managed to top the charts in bodybuilding.2 million! This is nothing but motivation. playing a Sega game featuring you. while singing your own song in a new commercial starring you. broadcast during the Super bowl. staying motivated all through is all that is required to achieve success. winners do not do anything different from you. getting more perks and the chain of thoughts in neverending. wearing your own shoe. they just do the same things you do but in a different fashion. If you continue to think the other way. a contract worth $11. In simple words. This article gives an insight as to how can you stay motivated and benefit your life by achieving long cherished goals. in a game that you are winning. A chartered accountant thinks that the job of a financial analyst is better while a school teacher might think that a job of a researcher is more fulfilling. you surely vividly remember the scene where Jerry talks to Rod Tidwell and says “I will not rest until I have you holding a Coke. you can say that they do the same things with confidence How to Stay Motivated Have you people seen the film “Jerry McGuire”? If you have. Whether you wish to be famous or rich. Remember. Staying Motivated • Remember that the grass is not always greener on the other side. This single word can help you overcome insurmountable obstacles and garner your life just the way you want.
remember that your dreams are not yours alone. by considering your children to be your inspiration. It is just that the seemingly impossible tasks take a bit more time than the rest. conviction and stability and you are sure to gain success. It is not necessary that your idol should be world figures specifically. • Ignite the competitive streak within you. Keep repeating to yourself that no one else but you can do it. Even someone as close as your mother can be your inspiration. you have not lived your life fully and in turn cheating yourself and the one who has created you. If you become such a weakling and plan to give up easily without striving hard and giving your best shot to achieve what you want. you would always have this thing throbbing in your mind that whatever you do. After all. Have enough strength to hit back to the challenges. In order to gain things in life and March forward instead of sliding back. Constantly gear up yourself and see what your competitor’s weak and strong points are. you are liable to your children back home. Also. Put in your heart and soul into the task or a situation and stay firm and undeterred till your last breath.depression. Your close ones are counting on you and every crucial step you take in life matters to them as well. • To surrender is the last thing that should strike your mind. negating your own weakness and stay optimistic that you would surely win at the end. Mould yourself accordingly. Shed your instincts to keep comparing and instead work with diligence. • Always have an inspiration in life. you need to have a healthy competitive vibe. while competing with someone. you surely don’t want to experience the humiliation of defeat. And once this thought triggers your subconscious. there would be magic. Do not succumb to them and keep in mind that nothing in this world is impossible to achieve. This thought would prevent you from taking any wrong step in life and you would stick to the path carved out for your own well-being Importance Of Time . Do not sidetrack yourself as a loser who is fond of giving up. And how exactly do you stimulate yourself for this? Find someone worthy in your class or office to compete with. For instance.
This article deals with the importance of time management in our day-to-day living and framing our overall personality. but very little or no time left to do it. With a limited time . It is a special resource which cannot be stored and saved for later usage. Quite often. secondary and tertiary importance can be accomplished within a specific limit. involving ourselves in learning new things every minute.Benjamin Franklin rightly said "Dost thou love life? Then do not squander time . it all depends on our time management skills. Importance Of Time Management • You should keep reminding yourself that time is limited. each small task that you do without wasting time counts in achieving your long term bigger goal in life. Whether we want to effectively utilize time or lead a haywire life without purpose. unpleasant relationships. we take time for granted and indulge in activities which are simply nothing. Time management is a compact set of established principles. • No matter what you want in life. poor finances and even our inability to get enough exercise to the lack of time. we should keep moving. Time is a scarce and finite resource and the very foundation of proper time management begins with setting up your personal goal and developing your priorities. skills. However. we go on to blame our unachieved goals. It is something which cannot be replenished again. but a serious waste of time. practices and tools which when rightfully applied can help you utilize your precious time and accomplish what you want. Just like each minute contributes to an hour and each hour combine to form an entire day. How often do we sit back and ponder upon the importance of time in our life? Though we all are acquainted with the oft repeated affirmations such as “time and tide wait for none”. • Time is scarce and you must have had a feeling like there is so much left to do. If one sits and waits for the right time to achieve his set goal or waits for some free time to get his work done. Every man on earth gets the same amount of time each day and how each person utilizes this given time determines his or her eventual success. If you don’t utilize your time wisely. Like a ticking clock. you can never get it back again. time management can help you utilize your time in a better way so that all your tasks of primary. do we actually understand the coded meaning of it? It is ultimately a choice we make for ourselves.for it is the stuff life is made out of". he has lost the game already. you need time to get it. Anything worthwhile in life needs time to be achieved. Almost always.
• Once you begin to use the improved time management skills and tools. but makes your life a balanced one. it is advisable to choose activities that are of the highest priority to you first. Do these questions keep haunting you within? Are you always dissatisfied and constantly blaming yourself? You probably have an inferiority complex. Time management helps you by making conscious choices so that you can spend quality time doing important things that in turn add value to your life Inferiority Complex Symptoms “Gosh. In order to attain success. While all of us have physical defects. This not only allows you to indulge in a wide range of activities. This leaves you with more productive time throughout the day which you can utilize in some other task. time management is all about managing your activities in relation to time and ultimately achieving what you want at the end. as it can otherwise lead to depression. you hone yourself in such a way so as to reduce the amount of time you usually wasted. Given here are some symptoms that .span of 24 hours in each day. or a sad and unfulfilled life. While most of us do comprehend the underlying problem of why we are always dissatisfied with ourselves. these things embarrass few of us more than others. you can spend time in a multiple possible ways. an intelligent planning on how to utilize the given time needs to be done. Now that you know that time management is in a way a type of self management. Since you have a finite amount of time. he is so intelligent and successful!” “She is so attractive!” “Why am I not like them?” “I’m not that good enough”. few of us do not even realize that we have an inferiority complex that should be treated. mental limitations and social differences. The best would be to get rid of inferiority complex as soon as possible. • In today’s world. You need to learn to utilize time in a way so that you find enough time for things that are important to you. you end up accomplishing more with less effort. before it amplifies.
Different Signs Of Inferiority Complex Love to Hear Compliments You always want others to compliment you for even the smallest of the achievements like how you look. such as poor luck. it is just a way to make you feel better. how you worked on that article. you feel you are not good enough to compete with anyone. some prefer to refrain from receiving any accolades.can help you identify whether or not you are a victim of inferiority complex. The Universe is the Cause Any mistake or failure committed on external factors. and so on. In case you are one . Even if you have done well. You are so desperate to hear that even if you do not get any comments. you are constantly finding ways to point out their imperfections and making them feel bad about themselves. Read on. As such. If you are not able universe responsible for it. when you take in that step. This is known as crab mentality. general. chances are that you discourage yourself saying that you can never achieve it even in your wildest dreams. what you have or what great work you have done. such as “Do you think I did great?” or “Do I look good tonight?” Avoiding Compliments While some people love to get complimented. Finding Faults As you cannot keep yourself happy. You do not take any step towards achieving success. you do not want to be complimented or appreciated simply because you feel the comments aren’t from the heart. where we pull others down as well. You feel that the positive comments are not justified. On rare occasions. Rather. the environment in to accept your mistake and hold the definitely suffering from inferiority Lack of Sportsmanship Competitions where you are required to test your abilities against the others are always kept at bay. If you lose competitions. you are complex. you start pouring in questions in order to receive compliments. since you are not worth getting them. you cannot accept others feeling happy as well. your part is simply put on various bad company.
interaction with people and our experience. Low self esteem can affect the way we perceive ourselves and the world around us. since they think they will make a laughing stock out of themselves. Boosting Self Esteem Groom Yourself As clichéd as it may sound. The feeling that they are not smart and as interesting as others pulls them to a corner unnoticed by anyone. Agree or disagree. know for sure that you can never feel confident and superior. Kill Negative Thoughts Most people focus on their shortcomings than their positives. However. Avoiding The World People with inferiority complex often avoid social gatherings. debates and forums. unless you stop competing with others. meetings. This self image contributes to our self esteem. We all mentally construct a self image based on our abilities. If you are also one amongst those. Read the article to know how you can give a boost to your self esteem and live your life to the fullest.of such people. Attributes like confidence. Rather. warmth and social skills are far more influential than looks. Dress up with extra care and make an effort to look nice. achievements. looks. How To Boost Self Esteem Self esteem is based on how much a person feels valued and appreciated. A good reflection in the mirror will always make you feel good about yourself. it is high time you start thinking about your positive . be sure not to attach too much importance to your external appearance. there is no denying the fact that looking good definitely does make you feel good. All efforts trying to make this person speak fail. all of us have been a victim of low self esteem at some point or another in our life. they prefer to stay back alone keeping the world unknown about their flaws.
self image based on other person’s negative belief. Putting yourself down as a loser or failure will only hamper your ability to achieve your goals. Remember. but that doesn’t mean that you won’t be successful. If you had a bad day. Don’t write-off the achievement as minor. Stand up for what you believe in. Tell yourself repeatedly that you have tackled this obstacle in an appropriate way and that you can deal with other bigger and more demanding projects as well. Experiment with different activities that will help you get in touch with your talents. just go to bed and wake up next morning with a fresh and focussed mind. Steer clear of negative self talk. Pat yourself on the back every time you achieve a goal. Set Personal Goals Living an aimless life will make you feel empty and confused. everybody is good at something. but to develop your strengths to an extent that they can outweigh your weakness completely. because it may be a part of your bigger plans. Accomplishing these goals will give your self esteem a big boost. Each day is a new beginning. Invest some effort into developing your interests and skills into your strengths.aspects. Never allow others to make you feel inferior. Decide what you want to achieve at your personal and professional front and slowly work towards these goals. Also. It will give a sense of purpose to your life. you are one step closer to achieving your goal. don’t let it stop you from achieving your goals. You may get upset when things don’t go your way. The key to success is not to overcome your weakness. However. A personal goal defines who you truly are and what you intend to accomplish in life. know that with that achievement in your kitty. no matter how minor it may be. . Don’t distort your. Don’t be too critical of yourself. Stand Up For Yourself There may be times when other people misjudge you and let their own insecurities get in the way of their reaction. Celebrate Achievements Give yourself full credit for your achievements and reward yourself. Voice your opinion and thoughts. Realize Your Limits You may not become an Olympic medalist or a pop singer. Realize that nobody is perfect. everyone has strengths and weaknesses.
Keeping yourself active will give you no time for negative self talk. The feeling of being appreciated and valued can do wonders for your self esteem. causing anxiety and distress. is unhealthy.learn to dance or take up painting lessons. be it the fear of failure. Be Thankful For What You Have Attributing considerable importance to certain goals and aspirations may also pose a problem. Frequently plan outing with your friends and family members. Fear. The fear of talking results in delay in picking up important calls and delivering speeches in public.Get Active Doing something is always better than doing nothing. if we are unable to control our fears. it also blocks work and business opportunities. the best way to overcome our fear is by mastering it and preventing it from controlling us. Remember that life is governed by factors which aren’t entirely in your control. eventually they start taking complete control on us. There may be period of setbacks when everything will not work out the way you have planned. Join clubs or groups of similar interests. mentally and physically as well. Start off by keeping yourself involved in activities that interests you. Hence. thereby giving a boost to your self esteem. Volunteering will help you improve your perception of self-worth. Take up new hobbies . has become a common problem seen in most people nowadays. However. Being part of a community big or small will give you a sense of belonging and acceptance. thereby weakening us emotionally. Keep yourself busy. Volunteer Make a contribution to the society. Take out that list of resolutions you gave up on and start working on them. Does the problem sound . Socialize People with high self esteem generally have a large social circle and a busy social life. Not only does it stop the person from contacting loved ones. The fear of talking. whether on the phone or in public. in general. Appreciate and acknowledge what you do have and be thankful for it Fear Of Talking Fear in any form can be terrifying and paralyzing. Join a volunteering organization to help the less privileged. fear of the unexpected or the fear of losing a loved one. Volunteering will give you a sense of being part of a noble cause. Don’t fret over what you don’t have and what you haven’t accomplished.
similar to what you are facing? Looking for ways to overcome this problem? Scroll these lines to find tips on overcoming the fear of talking on the phone as well as in public. Overcoming Fear Of Talking Phone Calls • Make a note of all the conversation that you would be talking on the phone. Most people are scared about forgetting what they intend to say to the other person on the phone. The best way to deal with this is to write down all that you will speak. This would help ease all your worries. Most people panic when they receive a rude phone call, as they do not know how to react to such calls. In such a case, ask your friend to behave like one of those people. He/she might enact the way your boss or the bill collector does. Practice your responses in order to better behave when the actual call rings. If you are into a marketing job where you have to promote various products to strangers, it is natural to get anxious about the questions that the customers would pour in. Hence, gather all the possible knowledge about your product to speak confidently and answer the questions accordingly. While making calls to an unknown person, some people fear that the person on the other end would respond negatively or start cross questioning. To overcome such a situation, prepare for the negative reaction in advance. Always make a call when you feel comfortable rather than talking when the person feels better. Do not worry about the time that you would be calling, simply focus on your comfort level. For example, if you are a morning person, it is best to make calls in the morning rather than when you are dull.
Public Speaking • Always pick up a topic that you are comfortable with, such as sports, television, fashion or anything that interests you and puts you on the front. Gather all the possible extensive knowledge on that subject. • While speaking, always look at the audience and make eye contact. Though this is the basic rule of public speaking, it takes considerable time for a person to get adjusted. Many new speakers always look over the heads of the audience or at the floor or ceiling. Never ever converse with the first friendly face that you find in a gathering. Try and make efforts to talk to everyone present. Eye contact plays a vital role here in keeping the audience glued to your talk. Practice speaking by recording your speech in a small tape player and listening to it later on. Initially, you will be surprised to hear to your voice but with time, you will love to hear it. While recording your voice, start looking into a mirror reflecting how you project yourself in front of the audience. This will give you an idea of what gestures and expressions you pose to your listeners and how you can work on them so as to improve
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Positive Self Talk
Self talk is nothing but the constant process of thoughts that goes on inside us. Every moment of our lives, we affirm a string of thoughts and these very thoughts create and frame our life experience. They grow with us and end up being our beliefs, our prime source of existence, and our definition of life. Few beliefs that have stayed with us since childhood may work well for us, while others may be working against us and depriving us from achieving what we want. So, we should keep in mind that our thought pattern is not formed from a skewed perspective, but has a solid foundation base. It is thus essential to stress on positive self talk. It is the fuel for your success and good health and can take you to new level of ecstasy altogether. Positive self talk involves positive statements, which when repeated several times trigger your subconscious to indulge in a positive action. If you repeat these statements with a lot of conviction and desire, you are sure to succeed. It is all about challenging and undermining the burgeoning negative thoughts within you and getting them transformed into a positive flow of energy. It helps you to focus on your inner self; constantly reminding you to have control on your thoughts and words, thereby modifying your inner selves all through. So, whether you want to transform your life on a personal level or want to gain a competitive edge by applying this technique professionally, a positive mindset can do the trick. In the following lines, we have discussed why do positive affirmations work. Why Positive Self Talk Works Positive self talk or affirmations do work, but the question is why do they work? Here is an explanation. When you think of a positive affirmation, your subconscious responds to it in two ways—either by avoiding the entire concept or going for a reappraisal. The bigger the issue, the bigger is the gap between the positive affirmation and your own perceived inner truth. In most cases, instead of challenging your inner truth, the subconscious sticks to it. However, there are times when your mind instantly responds to the affirmation and you feel a sense of well-being within. When this happens, know that the positive self affirmation has finally started working. Believe it or not, more than often, we keep repeating negative statements and eventually fall into undesirable situations. Negative thoughts like, “I am too lazy for this task”, “I am surely going to fail in this paper” or “I don’t have enough inner strength to overcome this pain” make our subconscious mind accept them as truth. Consequently, the corresponding events in our life happen just the way we thought they would, i.e. negatively. We should always remember that words and statements work both ways and help in building as well as ruining our life. So, it is the way we use them that matters. Remember, it’s all a mind game. Your mind is what you are.
So, why don’t you choose positive affirmations for yourself instead? These thoughts have the power to wisp away even the strongest resistance. Your subconscious would re-examine the core thought pattern and very soon the troubling dysfunctional thoughts would get replaced by your own reformed inner truth. Positive affirmations reform your thought pattern in totality and completely change the way you think and feel. Now that the stringent dysfunctional beliefs would be replaced by positive ones, there would be a positive vibe all around you. Getting reflected on the exterior, your life would be experiencing seismic changes in all aspects. Here are a few examples of positive affirmations, which you can repeat to yourself to lead a gratifying life. Positive Self Affirmations • • • • • • • • • • • •
I am healthy and happy. Wealth is pouring into my life. I am sailing on the river of wealth. I am getting wealthier each day. My body is healthy and functioning in a very good way. I have a lot of energy. I study and comprehend fast. My mind is calm. I am calm and relaxed in every situation. My thoughts are under my control. I radiate love and happiness. I am surrounded by love. I have the perfect job for me. I am living in the house of my dreams. I have good and loving relations with my wife/husband. I have a wonderful and satisfying job. I have the means to travel abroad, whenever I want to. I am successful in whatever I do. Everything is getting better every day
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How To Overcome Fear Of Heights
By discarding the deep-rooted fears from the subconscious mind. This fear increases with time thereby leading to acrophobia. Psychotherapy The root cause of the fear of heights is extracted through psychotherapy treatment. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy This therapy alters your way of thinking. Hypnotherapy creates a relaxed atmosphere. this treatment has a very low success rate. acrophobia successfully gets reduced and replaces the fear with confidence. Exposure Therapy Guided by professionals. the person is allowed to experience virtual reality views of high places and then graduated towards real heights. Your unwanted emotions are transformed into positive thoughts that make you feel relaxed and comfortable. Also known as acrophobia. However. hypnosis renders the mind free from the phobia. Browse through the following lines to get some tips for overcoming the fear of heights. fear of heights is an irrational fear. they may not be required as the person recovers from them. or acrophobia. huh? However. At times. However. there are past events which lead to fear of heights in people. wherein people experience a panic attack at a high place and become too restless to come down immediately. By following a few weeks of hypnotherapy. nausea and dizziness. Psychotherapy aims at identifying that single traumatic event and taking steps to heal it.Do you avoid accepting job offers for the simply reason that the office is located on the 15th floor of the building? Sounds funny. this therapeutic treatment has one drawback. In extreme cases. Since agitation and anxiety follows fear. this is a problem that most people are facing. it can even induce panic attack. Aromatherapy The symptoms of fear of heights can be reduced through aromatherapy as well to a great extent. thereby eliminating the unwanted thoughts. there are a number of therapies that can help overcome the fear of heights. Indulge yourself into a light massage along with some relaxing music. While there are many phobias. It is not successful in cases where a person is suffering from extreme cases of acrophobia. Medications. the fear of heights is the most common of them all. Nonetheless. This eventually helps in desensitizing the fear and getting comfortable to varied heights. the fear can be reduced to a great extent over a period of time. as it focuses on complete relaxation of the body. Tips For Overcoming Fear Of Heights Hypnosis Hypnosis is a treatment used at bedtime. but with time. Friends and Family . At first. such as tranquilizers and antidepressants are used in the initial stages. which is important for the treatment. the person suffering from acrophobia is taken through different stages of height. With the right approach and the guidance of professionals. it is significant to overcome stress and comprehension first.
only a few are highly useful. Given here are some secrets of self motivation that can help you accomplish your goals and tasks in a more effective manner. get even”. it brings about a change in your personality and character as well. Whenever you feel someone is trying to pull you back. Nonetheless. be it career. Often. Apart from giving you strength to achieve your goals. Unset goal in life is like starting a business without having a capital to invest. And anything out of mind turns out to be out of sight. Never let procrastination come in your way of . social life. being by the side of the person can be a great help. health. at times. Hence. Stay Focused Another problem with most people is that they get influenced by other people easily. Moreover. thereby creating bad feelings that are worthless and rubbish. a look at the notepad would remind you of the targets. Hence. you have a hard time working on an important task. Simply. Do Not Procrastinate Once you have set goals for yourself. make a note of all the goals that you intend to achieve. They can come to rescue the victim struggling from acrophobia. take those bad feelings as a challenge and make efforts to minimize them. these friends and family should be really patient and ready for setbacks. else you will never be able to achieve them.While treating any ailment. Secrets Of Self Motivation Set Goals A major mistake made by most people is that they set their goals only in “mind”. as the patient is likely to hesitate initially. before you sleep in anotepad and place it right in front of you. Self motivation is required in every aspect of life. do not make excuses to delay them. Self motivation is the most efficient way of improving your confidence and self-esteem. but hesitate to act on? Do you find yourself subject to lack of self motivation at times? Although you are a motivated person in general. work twice hard and prove them wrong. they should continue to support even if the symptoms worsen during the treatment Self Motivation Techniques Are you one of those often caught daydreaming at work? Why is it that you have a number of ways to improve. relationship. This is where self motivation techniques come to your rescue. people try to divert you from your goal. friends and family form an integral part. As the popular saying goes. spirituality or personality development. Every morning when you wake up. However. “Don’t get mad. make realistic goals that can be achieved. Though there are numerous ways to improve your self motivation.
Reward Yourself The best and perfect way to keep motivating yourself is by rewarding yourself on completing a particular task. the best way is to stay optimistic and positive towards reaching the final line. Thus. in order to succeed in life. People who are discouraging and pessimistic should be kept at distance. Share Your Goals Family and friends are the best motivators to look on. you are increasing your self-esteem. Very soon. This will allow you to respond in a controlled fashion. However. tell and discuss about your goals with these people. . By sharing your dreams and aspirations to your near and dear ones. self motivation gets easier and attainable How To Be Calm You have got up on the wrong side of the bed and everything seems to be going wrong since morning. you need to confront such negative emotions with enough strength. Stay Positive In case you are finding it hard to stay focused on your goals. Enough.accomplishing the tasks. This article deals with ways as to how you can lead a healthy life even under stressful conditions. The best way of keeping it at bay is to start working on the goals immediately. Conquering small battles is the best motivation secret for moving on to the next goal. Spend adequate time with family and friends who themselves are positive and motivated. at times you tend to simply give up and lose it. as they help you to continuously stay inspired and dedicated. Breathing deeply can ease your tense muscles and reduce your stress level like nothing else. Hence. How long can you save things from falling apart you wonder? How long can you withstand the constant conflict between the mind and heart? Although such emotions are an inevitable part of your life. you say. Confidence and optimism serve as your best friends in your tough and rough times. Break down the goals into small bits to make them easily achievable. You need to keep your calm even when your life seems all turbulent. Through rewarding and congratulating yourself. you will be motivating yourself to achieve the set goals since you would never want to let down these people. Tips For Staying Calm • The first and foremost step to keep your calm is to take a deep breath. The situation has worsened further by noon and you are finding it difficult to hold back.
Try listening to the natural sounds around you. nice shower can also help you regain your peaceful state of mind. Avoid thinking of anything in particular and simply catch up with some sleep. Or think of the day you got a promotion and your boss wholeheartedly appreciated your abilities. How about visiting a beauty salon? Get a nice head massage done. going out on a shopping spree is a great remedy to shed anger and remain calm. calmness is contagious. Feel the coolness of the water all over your body and relax. Let your nerves ease and relax. Close your eyes and try recalling some happy and amusing memories of the past. You can also try eating your favorite dish. Tracing a butterfly’s trail or noticing a woodpecker peeping out of the tree trunk hole can be sheer joy.the waves of epinephrine running through your veins will become manageable and soothe you from within. So. Moreover. Even facials can help soothe your tensed nerves. For instance. • • • • • • • • • . Easier said than done. But this is no solution to win the game or even come down to a solution. It is enough to distract you for the moment and regain your calmness. Seeing you behave well. If the person you are confronting with raises his/her voice. Visit your nearest mall and pamper yourself with clothes and accessories. This would enliven your senses and calm you from within. Stand under the shower. This will take you places you’ve always wanted to be. the other person might switch over to your state of control. your natural response is to do the same. all that you require is your I-pod. concentrating on these sounds can keep you calm. know for sure that this is the only way to win the war. Listening to music is another such activity you can choose to indulge in to help you calm down. A long. Try planning for your next vacation even if the plan is shelved for months away. remember to keep your voice mellow and modulated under such stressful situations. A spa-treatment is another option to rejuvenate yourself from the stress and calm down. even if it is a virtual pleasure. close your eyes and drench in your favorite melodies. Take a quick nap. These will help your mind to get distracted from those depressing thoughts. Do not yell. Plug in the headphone. Be it the mundane sound of the swirling fan above you or the chirping crickets. • Relax for around five long minutes doing simply nothing. Nothing better than this can bring your senses back to normalcy. For some. be calm thinking you at least have the job when everyone around is losing theirs. All that would result out of it is irreversible damage. Whenever you feel at complete loss and it seems like you had enough of life. Take a nature walk. if you got a bashing by your boss in front of your colleagues and you are filled with anger and shame. Give your disturbed state of mind some amount of rest. Or try viewing things in a positive perspective.
Causes Of Low Self Esteem
Have you ever met a person who felt that he is worth nothing and could do nothing right? If you have, then you should know that it is possible that the person is suffering from a case of low self esteem. Now, before we get deeper into what causes this, we need to understand what self esteem is. Self esteem is a character trait that psychologists feel is the most enduring of all other traits. Self esteem is an assessment of how you feel about yourself and can also be referred to as self-worth or self-regard. There are theories which associate self esteem to motivation in a person and are a related to the need for respect from others and the need for self respect. However, more modern theories suggest that self esteem is a way to measure our acceptance in our social environments. Some of the most common symptoms of low self esteem are an inability to express ones feelings, lack of personal boundaries, denial and blaming others for everything. Low Self Esteem Causes Now that we know what low self esteem is and how one can recognize the symptoms for it, it’s time to explore the causes of low self esteem. • The most common cause of low self esteem is neglect and it is most prevalent in children. When parents fail to pay attention to their children and help them by providing them with support and affection, it causes them to feel abandoned. This eventually will lead them to find it difficult to assimilate in a society. You must have heard of positive reinforcement? It is the practice of encouraging a person to do better by praising what he or she has done so far. If you were to do the exact opposite of it and try to motivate someone just by pointing out their faults and mistakes then you are bound to be successful in DESTROYING their self esteem. There are times when a person may suffer from low self esteem as a result of ridicule. This ridicule can be based on anything from the person’s weight to his or her features and looks. Being ridiculed over habits or interests can also result in low self esteem. Since most of the times low self esteem is something that develops in childhood, abuse during childhood can also led to low self esteem. This abuse includes verbal, physical and sexual abuse as well.
Since it was mentioned earlier that self esteem can be seen as a measure of acceptance in a society, there can be times when a person will develop a low self esteem as a result of impairment in leading a normal life, like being out of a job or not being able to exercise the same financial freedom as others close to you. Unfortunately there is nothing you can do about all the bullies of the world, but there is something you can do about yourself. Whatever you do, don’t ever let yourself feel like you are lesser than others or not good enough. Do your best at everything and be satisfied with the results of your efforts
How To Develop Habits
Human heart and mind is like a stone slab which was used in ancient times for writing inscriptions. The inscription started to be carved from the day we opened our eyes and since then there were new things written, erased and re-written every day. Human habits are the part of these inscriptions and they need constant changing and re-writing. The quandary situation here is that the positive habits won’t get inscribed on their own unlike the negative one’s which come as a compliment of human experiences. Good habits require a writer, and the writer is the person himself. Now it depends on the writer how he/she goes about carving out the good habits on the slab which will become the input for the body to function. This makes it clear that instilling a good or eradicating a bad habit is a conscious effort that needs to be carried out with great deal of discipline, determination and thoughtfulness. To grab the tips on developing conscious habits read on. Developing Good Habits Self Talk Self talking is the best way in which you can instill any good habit and give up a bad habit. Keep speaking to yourself about the change which you want to see in yourself. Repeat the statements which will help affirm the particular new habit which you want to create a part of your daily life. Directed Imagination Another effective way in which you can incorporate a new habit consciously is by imagining yourself performing the action relating to the new habit. Visualize yourself performing the new activity or a role and see how good you sound and look. This visual imaginative role that you will see yourself in, will help you easily make the habit a part of your daily routine. One Habit For 30 Days It can so happen that you want to bring about a number of changes in your behavior at a time. In such a case take up a single change that you want to see in yourself and start practicing it daily consciously for 30 days at a stretch. After 30 days you will realize that you no more need to practice the change you want to be because it has now become a habit. After 30 days you can take up the next endeavor. Use A Trigger A trigger is a small ritual which you perform before getting used to a habit. A simple habit which you want to inculcate like not watching excess of television, can be
triggered by setting a self-timer in the television. The time you want the television to get switched off, set the timer to that time so that the T.V will get switched off, forcing you to engage yourself in something more productive. You can use such small triggers to consciously develop a habit. Replacement Replacement is the key word to develop a new habit. In order to remove something from the system without damaging the other files it is necessary to fill in the gap which was created due to the removal of a file. Similarly if you are giving up a habit you need to fill up the free space by a habit that fulfill the same requirement as the old habit. For eg. giving up watching television means you need to find some other relaxation medium for yourself. This approach will make it simpler for you to get used to the change you want to be. “But” To Kill Bad Thoughts A prominent habit changing step can be to force out all the negative thoughts from your mind. The moment you think negative about yourself and find yourself incapable of taking a strong stand, use the word ‘but’ and bring in the positive about yourself. This negative positive game will help develop your self-confidence and will make you believe in the change you are going to make. Write It Down You can even write down a particular habit in a piece of paper and stick it to a place where it will be visible to you. This will keep reminding you about the commitment you made to your brain and will help you in working towards living that change you wished for. Get Leverage Catch hold of your sibbling or a friend and hand them over a 100 rupee note. Instruct them to return you the note only if you successfully cross all the hurdles to reach your goal. Make a public commitment in front of everyone you know that you will stick to your plan. The necessity to keep up your words and dignity will force you to consciously work towards developing the new habit. Keep It Simple Changing for the good is beneficial both to your personality and to others as well. But, you should keep in mind that changing is a small process and your body and mind should first get used to the new introduction. Therefore, don’t get too harsh on yourself and keep only one or two rules simple rules and not a dozen rules regarding the new habit. Simple rules will help you create habits, whereas complex rules will just put you in a more complex puzzle. Consistency Is Key The point of a habit is that it doesn’t require thought. Make sure that your habit is consistently being followed everyday without fail. This consistent performance will drill in the habit in you instead of multiple habits loosely conditioned.
The key to having a healthy personality is to strike a balance with all the elements that make up day to day life. When faced with a personal tragedy.Characteristics Of A Healthy Personality We often hear people comment that a certain person has a great personality or that he needs to develop one. The greatest plus point about having a healthy personality is that it allows for a fulfilling and meaningful life. Healthy personalities are also indicative of emotional stability. • • . A person with a healthy personality will have a lot of common sense and will display presence of mind when it comes to solving problems (big and small). A healthy personality is magnetic and attracts other to it. a healthy personality allows a person to overcome the tragedy without falling prey to depression and contempt. If a person displays a healthy personality. A person with a healthy personality will not follow convention without due cause. A person with a healthy personality will always display a positive attitude and be cheerful. It also allows people to be able to express themselves without hesitation or offence. Traits Of A Health Personality • • • • • • • A person with a healthy personality has the ability to adapt to his or her social environment. A healthy personality ensures that a person takes great care of his outward appearance and always presents himself with dignity. A healthy personality will enable a person to think clearly and with reason when everyone else is following a convention. A healthy personality allows the person to be a good listener and a better advisor. People with a healthy personality have strength of character and have individuality of their own. The healthy personality enables a person to see others for who they are to be able to handle them accordingly. it indicates that he or she is in good mental health and can be trusted to conduct themselves in a respectable manner and set good examples to follow. The healthy personality lets the person be comfortable with whom they are and the way they look. It also enables a person to be able to understand others easily. a person with a healthy personality is cheerful and does not get stressed easily. Having a healthy personality plays a key role in defining the person who wields it. A healthy personality allows a person to function well independently and as part of a team. On the face of it. A personality is a combination of all the small factors that add up to make a person’s mental constitution.
Look for traits in people you admire. You also need to figure out how you would like to feel on the inside before you start thinking about changes you could make on the outside. An image makeover does not work overnight unless you are only thinking of a fabulous hairdo when you’re talking about an image makeover. Therefore. It is not impossible and never too late to develop a healthy personality. and try to emulate these characteristics into your personality. A healthy personality is also displayed in a person’s desire to stay healthy (physically). or suppressed to make you feel more confident and good about yourself. added.• • People with health personalities do not feel the need to make everyone conform to their views. You need to look for people with strong traits and whether any of those traits appeal to you. Different people in different environments require different changes or makeovers to their images to suit the environment they are in. especially when it can help in your personal growth. Opting for a softer or a tougher outlook on life. you will come across as someone who is trying too hard to change the way they are. Look for traits that you would like to change in yourself and remind yourself occasionally to change that particular character flaw. which need not always work in your favor. Easy Ways To Change Your Image Ever thought about changing certain undesirable characteristics that have become part of your personality or appearance? Changing an image that has been inculcated over the years requires a certain amount of determination and will power. be it a student’s profile or that of a professional in a work force. • • • . It is recommended that before emulating be absolutely certain that the particular trait is a desirable one. If the change is sudden and drastic. Here are a few tips to keep in mind when you go about an image makeover: How To Change Your Image • You need to have an image of you in your head and zero in on the traits that make you feel uncomfortable on the inside or the outside. The right way to go about would be to look within you and determine what characteristics require to be polished and what needs to be changed. to be a more compelling personality or to be less imposing are all examples of what you could want to change in yourself. it is recommended that you first ascertain what type of a makeover you would prefer.
only for the fear of hurting them in anger. at least. learn to channelize it in better ways – in ways that are constructive rather than destructive and harmful to the individual. your clothes don’t do justice to the rest of your personality. Sometimes a simple hairdo or a change in wardrobe can make you more confident. make sure you walk with confidence. It impairs judgment. Choose clothes that flatter your body type. make sure the eyes of the person in front of you sweep up to your face and stay there. If you feel that. Many of them do not know when to give up the fight and almost none can take a joke on themselves. which are the most valued part of a human being’s existence. can make a person violent and could even cause the person to lose out on his/her relationships. Advantages Of Anger Management Here are some ways in which controlling anger can be advantageous: Judgment We all know that anger makes us incapable of being able to take stock of the situation . and causing other forms of damage too. be it your makeup. Anger is cited in ancient texts as one of the biggest enemies of a human being’s body and soul – it can have grievous consequences for the way the body functions too. Here are some ways in which anger control can prove to be advantageous for us. After you have followed all the above steps. wardrobe or something as complex as the pattern of your conversation. and might even change attitudes that others have towards you. In a situation like this. step out and look for clothes you feel comfortable in and that will boost your self esteem. Once you have changed certain characteristics of your old self. always keep in mind that you are a more attractive and sophisticated person than you previously were • • • Benefits Of Anger Management The problem is more rampant than we all imagine – an alarming number of men and women find it extremely hard to deal with their anger and end up blowing situations out of proportions. There are many who keep away from or maintain distance from loved ones. How you look on the outside will almost always mirror the reactions towards you. it is best to learn to control one’s anger or. There is no point in changing your hairstyle and your wardrobe if you still maintain your old image in your mind. Look for those particular traits that you are particularly dissatisfied with and opt for a change. hairdo. There are several benefits of learning to give one’s anger a better route than by breaking the vase (literally).• The way you look on the outside can influence the way you feel on the inside. increasing stress. You never know what wonders it might do for your social life. and remember what you are trying to change about yourself. the blood pressure.
anger builds up because the party involved refuses to see the situation from the other person’s point of view. Closer And More Healthy Relationships Many people who have serious anger related issues. A lot of anger and the stress that it causes can be avoided by opening up communication lines and making oneself available to dialogue. help you analyse situations better and make you capable of taking stock of situations. It is important for us to see where it begins and be able to nip a possible dispute in the bud. Many a times. Empathy Training in anger management is extremely beneficial for developing empathy for the other party. Since the people we love are closest to us. it makes them feel strong and . When you begin to develop empathy for the other person and try to see life from their perspective. This would in turn. in turn. caused by faulty communication between the two parties involved. which would decrease chances of further conflicts and disputes. Not only do they frighten you by shaking your confidence levels. they also cause you bodily harm and injuries. which are expressed rather aggressively. and making us prone to making mistakes in sound reasoning. Being able to control anger will definitely help avoid silly disputes. impairing our better judgment. By doing so. which helps one party understand the other better. you can often find yourself as the target of bullies. Bullies look for weak people and prey on them. This can only be done when one is able to treat differences in opinion as just opinions rather than personal attacks on someone’s belief. Bullying has increasingly become a widespread problem haunting people across the globe. Exercises in anger management are often aimed at channelizing the anger better so that you do not lose control when you lose temper. Fewer Disputes Disputes are conflicts that go out of control and conflicts are differences of opinion.well. Controlling and channelizing one’s anger in a constructive and non stressful way will not only open up lines of communication further but will also turn you into someone who is approachable and easy to talk to. there will be no room for conflict at all. stay away from their loved ones when they realise that they are hurting people with their anger. Better Communication Anger is often caused by misunderstandings. Controlling anger and channelizing anger better will make the person concerned more capable of leading a life that is relatively free of ugly scenes or outbursts of anger How To Avoid Bullying Whether on the school playground or at the professional workplace. they are often the first victims when we lose control. which are.
taking certain steps can help you avoid situations. such people bully those who do not stand for themselves. Do Not Show Your Feelings Getting angry or showing that you are upset by the behavior of the bully will only induce him/her to take further steps in bullying you. Moreover. At school or college. Talk To An Adult Let an adult know about you being bullied. Stand Up For Yourself Be brave and confident and stand up for yourself. You can also have some other people standing by your side to tell the bully to stop teasing or scaring people. you would be solving his/her purpose and thus. Hence. thereby escaping an attack. Read on further to find tips for avoiding bullying. This. Do Not Bully Back If someone is bullying you or your friends. Usually. principal. to avoid thinking about the bully. push back or get into a heated argument. If you agree to the bully’s terms. Students are likely to stop bullying when teachers come to know about it. In case you are facing bullying at work. you are likely to face more bullying ahead. Raise your voice and speak out to let the bully know that you are not weak. There are chances of getting hurt in the fight as well. it is important to distract yourself and keep your mind occupied. parents or friends. since they are afraid of being punished by their parents. If you counterattack or retort. it is best to stay with others. do not hit. Hope these tips come to your rescue! Tips For Avoiding Bullying Ignore The Bully Try your level best to ignore the bully’s threats. kick. can stop the bullies from portraying such a behavior. Hence. satisfying the bully. report to the concerned authorities and let them handle accordingly. seek help from teachers.powerful. in turn. While avoiding bullies is not easy. Keep yourself busy until you are out of the situation or at a safe place where you can show your feelings. stay safe and take help from an adult in an out-of-hand situation. Keep in mind that the person wants you to react. Since bullies are expecting you to react largely to their teasing and meanness. soft spoken and weak people become the prime targets. If he/she is demanding something. Acting as though you haven’t noticed or do not care would be like giving out no reaction. stand up and say “No”. simply ignore and walk past them to a place of safety. Find a person who is trustworthy and can come to your rescue. remember. How To Improve Working Memory .
Just try this simple mental exercise and experience the difference. such as memorizing passwords. only a part of it gets filtered through the brain box. • • • • . preps up brainpower and enhances retention abilities. Also.Do you find it a cinch to remember long pin numbers and passwords. Working memory is something that we use in our every day life to accomplish our daily tasks. which isn’t very good news for your memory. when away at the departmental stores. It is just that of all the things and facts you tend to take in all throughout a day. don’t despair. which explains why we tend to forget name. that does not necessarily imply that you have got a frail memory. address and more. next time you fail to remember where you left your keys. generously gorge on berries. If you wish to remember more things at work. A little bit of brain exercise can go a long way to save your memory from passing out. Here are some interesting tips on how to improve your day to day working memory. one can boost retention capacities to the hilt. it is important to eat more often to keep the brain from starving out of energy. can put you in a better position. Even minor stress can impair your cognitive skills and cause brain block. especially classical music. Tips On Improving Working Memory • Eating right to think straight! Surprised! Here’s is how it works. despite of much brain racking. How often you have landed up in a grocery shop and gone blank wondering at the list of items you wished to buy? This is a common symptom that plagues many. • Of all the things that can possibly boost your retention. However. it is important to keep your brain boosted with wholesome diet that is rich in omega-3 fats and antioxidants. However with a little care. Most often we tend to skip things not because of frail memory. that feeds on fuel to run. your brain too needs fuel to think and process. you can fight away the memory blues. such as where you left your car keys last night or where you kept your wallet? Most of us counter countless facts daily. It is found that higher levels of stress can freeze your brain and cause your mind to go blank. phone numbers. chances are that you might very well recall what those things were. It’s confirmed that with a little extra care and effort. If you can just manage to cue the things. Listen carefully and try to retain the information in mind. however. just after we have met someone. but can’t manage to remember easy things. It will help you sort out your work and life in a better way. Thus. spinach. which explains why we fail to recall a certain item while on a grocery shopping. A deliberate attempt to remember things. tune in to your beat box. Read on for more on this. So. This might help you to remember things better. only to remember a handful of things at the end of the day. and broccoli for a shot of extra memory. but due to poor attention. Brain filters information randomly. Experts have found that music. names. That possibly explains why you usually miss out on that one or two grocery items. So. If you are one of those few people who tend to have a problem remembering day to day things. Just like a car. music certainly ranks high. just dump the stress and relax.
Keep repeating this exercise. A brisk walk can leave your brain with more than one reason to thank for! Walking is known to boostblood flow to the brain. Try to recall back all the activities of the day and remember as many things. it helps to break the ice. . More blood would mean more oxygen and more energy in your brain. Dig more on how to make powerful first impression with the following tips. washing or even dressing up with eyes closed. If you don’t have one. Doing so will make your mind more agile. So. unfeigned. it is true that first impression does count. When meeting new people. For this you essentially need to have a pleasant demeanor.The trick is to calm down completely while reclining on a couch and start your exercise by paying attention to yourself. This simpleaerobic workout can help your brain get rid of the clutter and think and retain more clearly • How To Make Powerful First Impression While it is wrong to judge a person just by his/her dress or demeanor. • Another interesting way to improve your memory is to enhance your senses. we all tend to get swayed by the first impression. just remember to wear that smile on. not many of us can resist the temptation of overplaying our aptitude and tagging someone as posh. This will heighten the sensitivity of your senses and boost retention. names. at least you can learn to feign it convincingly to make a compelling impression. punk. Tips To Make Great First Impression • There comes a time when our destiny rides high on the impression we make and little else succeeds in making that power-packed quick impression like a 1000-watt smile. creates an aura of ease and comfort and puts one in a win-win situation. This is a simple task that is likely to leave you with great memory. All you have to do is sensitize your senses by doing simple activities like eating. faces as possible. the next time you head for a quick appointment or an interview. What's more. it is important that you put your best self across. Thus. Sometimes a quick three seconds is all it takes to build or kill credibility and create that first big impression. Read on to get smart. cordial smile that arrests all interest and gives one an edge over any situation. and no matter how much we may deny going with the cliché. hippie. set all differences straight. or hottie in the very first look? Good or bad. events. it is important to put your best foot forward to get the game going in your favor. Nothing makes a more sure-footed statement than a warm.
However. hair and skin tone would help you determine whether you are cool or warm. a gesture that is likely to be appreciated by the speaker. He was also the smallest kids in his school and was bullied and racially abused by his school mates. it is important to choose your words correctly. Thus. be polite at all costs! It’s easy to be a good speaker. golden browns and rich ivory. Paying heed to others can put you up in the ladder and create a good name. you cannot afford to look away when the opportunity strikes. People with cool coloring look best in blue-based colors like blues. A punch line can make or mar your impression. slangs or too much of a colloquial verve. People with warm coloring look best in yellow-based colors like gold. thus. Your eye. it’s only wise that you put your best foot forward and get your outfit right. Eye-contact is one of the few things that extend an indelible impression. Wear colors compatible with your basic coloring. And yes. Also. he dealt with it with extraordinary strength of character at that young age. wrinkled shirt and worn-out fabrics at all costs. it is important to underplay your fashion sense at time and be sensible with what you wear for an interview. but it takes some skills to be a listener. a business meeting or just a casual date.• As it is rightly said. enunciate rightly and speak fluently and clearly to make a deep-seated impression. Remember to nod or chime your head in agreement. but also adds to one’s charm and opens channels of communication. which would further assist you in determining what colors look best on you! When looking to make that first big impression. An eye-to-eye interaction not only testifies one’s confidence and reliability. steer clear of mindless babblings. you never get a second chance to make a first impression. Also. make sure you never interrupt the person. Dress modestly. Human beings are one of two colorations: warm or cool. The right colors can be flattering to your persona and can make a killer impression. and yes strictly avoid jaded jeans. current F1 World Champion Lewis Hamilton was an exceptionally talented kid at school. greens and winter white. Pitch your tone properly. While evolving fashion has left us with plenty of options to dabble with. remember to ask questions to reveal signs of authentic interest. when he/she is speaking • • • • Self Confidence Exercises As a gifted five year old. warm reds. Not to take the circumstances as a victim. hot pants. A warm pleasantry may not be pleasant if done in the wrong way. A strong stare or looking away when interacting with the other person can leave one in a sticky situation. He . to avoid leaving a wrong impression. Dress to impress is the new age adage to that fabulous first impression.
meeting new people can become a struggle and can have terrifying experience facing stressful situations. Gain knowledge and experience by reading current happenings. Marcus Garve stated that. while others can definitely develop it. Think of the positive things that you have done right be it big or small. With confidence. Imagine yourself as a victorious public speaker. you are twice defeated in the race of life. magazines and updating yourself with latest developments. Diversify your interest. This helps to develop self confidence and personality. For instance if you have stage fear. reflect on your positive things. Repeat these positive statements several times in the day. The bullying stopped and more importantly. you have won even before you have started. “If you have no confidence in self. People who are uncertain about themselves lack in self confidence. remind yourself of the past occasions that you have faced successfully and handled well. if your mother tells you that you are the best child write it down in your diary. Face the situation that you have been avoiding for a long time. For instance. Meditate for at least 10 minutes a day and exercise for 30 minutes daily. Instead. Some people have naturally high levels of self confidence. • • • • • • . books. In a nutshell you might be struggling to live a life of your own. This can have devastating effects in your life and result in lower self esteem. At least record one positive thing about yourself each day and acquire the habit of praising yourself. But as you require physical exercises to keep your body healthy. your mind also requires exercises. if you were contemplating a job change for a long time and not doing it for fear of interviews. Later on he reported. If your boss appreciates you for your work. and perform your work efficiently. Your work might suffer. Pen down observations about your advancement. Avoid writing anything negative about yourself. social life can become painful. develop new skills. Remove self doubts from your mind. “It was a horrible time but I told my dad I wanted to start karate so I could learn to protect myself. Challenge yourself and take risks. ‘I am improving every day’ or ‘I deserve to be happy and successful’ or ‘I am confident in handling whatever comes up today’. write down any experience in which you have received positive responses and compliments. Exercises For Building Self Confidence • Self confidence gets affected when you think too much about your past failures and negative events. When you start your day make positive statements about yourself. You can say to yourself. visualize and imagine yourself as effectively performing a task which you fear doing. I developed self confidence.” Self confidence gives you that freedom to make mistakes and deal with failure without feeling guilty or hopeless about the situation. travel to new places and gain experience. jot it down on paper. At the end of each day. make an effort to schedule one interview.took lessons in martial arts and went on to become a black belt holder by the age of twelve.
Make changes to your physical environment. Rearrange and redecorate the furniture of the room. Paste quotes and pictures of successful people and keep reading them again and again. Read autobiographies of successful people. Keep your body language positive, look and feel confident. Always walk straight, with your shoulders straight, chin up and chest out. Have an authentic, warm and friendly smile on your face. A positive body language sends out positive signals. List all the goals that you want to accomplish in life and then take one step at a time. Break these goals into smaller reachable goals. Concentrate on self improvement and self development. Keep your cool and calm in every situation in life. Too much of emotional outburst can spoil the situation and make things difficult to handle. Hence take things in your stride and handle it smoothly. Do not think or worry about what others think about you. Stop imagining and bothering about unreal things and situations and blaming yourself for being wrong so often.
You can follow this confidence building exercise by writing these things. Fill in the blanks in the following sentences: • • • • • The best thing that I can do is … Something that I have accomplished is … One of my best character traits is… I am proud of myself for…. I am working to improve…
Confidence Building Exercises
“I am not a has-been. I am a will be.”Lauren Bacall. Yes it is the ‘I’ factor that makes that difference. No one can beat a person who strongly believes in himself and has made an identity for himself. Why do you think Mahatma Gandhi had so many followers and why did they follow him blindly to give their lives believing in non-violence! It’s nothing but his confidence and actions that inspired millions to join him. Success is the synonym of confidence. Never will a person with a low confidence can dream to make it big in his life for he loses the battle in the beginning itself. But the one who considers every failure as the stepping stone to success will cut a path for himself. It is always a
pleasure to watch someone speak with his/her head held high, answering questions assuredly. Ratan Tata, Azim Premji or Narayan Murthy are nothing less than living legends only because they have the confidence to face anything and everything that comes their way. They consider every new problem not as an obstacle but as a new objective. Here are a few tips on how you can go about boosting your confidence. Exercises For Boosting Confidence Think Positive Optimism is the word that has to be circled in the dictionary. An extremely positive mind is what you need to gift yourself. ‘I can’ should rule your mind when you are not able to cope up with negative things that come as hurdles on your way. Know how to love yourself and be proud of whatever achievements you have made in life, big or small. You can stick a few posters with quotes on success and confidence on the walls of your room and get inspired by those words each time you read them. Life becomes exciting only with things that you can do and not with the ones you dare not try. Learn to say ‘I Can’ aloud. Find Right Objectives Be sure about the objectives that you set. Set each goal as per your strengths and your abilities. Categorize the objectives as per your skills and talents and at the end of the day you will be able to harvest the fruit of your confidence through these fulfilled objectives. Prioritize each goal, like go for the easier tasks first then slowly raise the challenges. Remember failures can interrupt you but take it as a challenge and march forward. You have to reach the final lap to take the trophy of success securely in your hands. Meditation Listen to yourself. Meditate each day for a new beginning and a fresher day that is in the offering. Consult yourself for taking decisions and persuade your mind to make the best of the decisions. Body Language There are many things that boost confidence in a person from the file that he is holding to the tie that he is wearing. Choose the best outfit that gives you that comfort zone and elevate your confidence. Walk straight with your head held high. This itself exhibits the confidence that is abundant in you. Make the first impression the best one. From a good hand shake to a beautiful smile, everything counts.. Breathe Properly Whenever you feel that you are low in confidence, try taking some deep breaths. This is a great exercise to tackle nervousness and can revitalize you
How To Develop Self Discipline
The term ‘self discipline’ is defined as the behavior which is guided by the ‘mind’, rather than by the ‘heart’. The selfdisciplinarian attitude is very much essential to become successful in life, as it entails foregoing the momentary enjoyments and gratifications in order to achieve something big in the long term. But this sort of self-monitoring attitude has to come from within each person, as it cannot be heaped upon by any external force. That voluntary spirit or will power will help you in setting and accomplishing your goals. Some people think that discipline is linked to liberty. On the contrary, those who are disorderly are deficient in enjoying liberties that accompany those who have the talent and dexterity required to execute certain tasks such as adventure sports or learning new things. Many people know the importance of practicing self discipline but are still unable to do so. This socalled ‘inability’ is nothing else but the lack of will and purpose to achieve the goal. The secret to overcome this hindrance lies in the person’s strong sense of determination, which should be inculcated to really become successful. As they say, “Success does not come easy”, you have got to strive hard to gain what you really want in your lives, and the first step is to cultivate self discipline. Fortunately, for those who desire to build self-discipline, there is a way out. By adopting the tips given in the article below, you can instill self-discipline in yourself. Tips To Develop Self Discipline Getting To Know Yourselves When you act according to what you know is right rather than what you feel like doing is known as discipline. For that, you need to delve deep into yourself, and know yourself better. This can yield optimum results when you put your thoughts in a written format. Doing this, will provide you a thorough perception of what you are and what your mission in life is, and what you have to do to fulfill your ambition. Dedication By,just writing down your resolutions, you cannot hope for miracles to occur and that too overnight. A concerted and sustained effort over a period of time is required to help you gain self-discipline. If you find it tough to stick to your resolutions then you have got to ensure that you abide first by what you have planned, and then follow them one by one; not all at once. In this way, you can surely adhere to your resolution, and implement them dedicatedly. Boldness Usually, disciplining the self is by no means an easy task. It requires you to overcome your desires, temper, temptations, and a host of other stimulations, both internal and external. And, it is easier said than done. But, it can indeed be done through a series of constant auto-suggestions, which are capable of continuously reminding you of your goals, ambitions, and aims. You can never hope to escape from these distractions, but you can steel your guts to confront and tackle them. This can make you stronger mentally.
Pronunciation Pronunciation is perhaps one sticky ground where most language learners tend to bungle. The biggest impediment towards mastering a new language perhaps lies on one’s take on it. there are others for whom picking up a new lingo may be a jaw breaking deal. and developing it requires a little skill and not to forget. However. associate it with your every day life and practice it more often. you need to be extra attentive in what you learn. you can always fall back on yourselves by reliving certain positive moments. Add to this. we fumble and give up. it is also known to boost one’s cognitive skill highly. The biggest blooper most people tend to commit when trying to learn a new language is that they often fail to take it seriously. and also motivate you to pursue your tasks with renewed vigor. When you find the going tough. To avert these kinds of hitches. more so when you are new to an alien tongue. acquainting yourself with some of the most common problems which come in the way of mastering a language will help. While learning a new language can be a cinch for some.Auto Tutoring Talking to yourself can do wonders to your self confidence. The following points are geared to help you identify with some of the most common problems in learning a new language. Doing so. Remember. Today. loads of practice. will boost your determination and thereby enhance your focus to accomplish the seemingly difficult jobs with relative ease. Read on for more. we can definitely develop selfdiscipline. Thus. Not only does it give one an upper hand when travelling to foreign territories. by diligently implementing the above techniques. the need for learning a new language extends more than just a hobby. which forms an integral part of our lives. Difficulties In Learning A Language Doing It The Right Way! Learning a new language is not easy and getting to master one often requires more than just will power. A person who is self-disciplined can achieve whatever he sets out to.Learning a language isn’t an easy bet. which makes it worth a try. the number of professional benefits attached to learning a foreign language. before you get down to the learning experience. as he has trained up his mind to overrule his heart. Treading an unfamiliar territory doesn't come easy. fluency is a skill that only comes with the right kind of intonation and accent. This is the foremost reason as to why many of us find it extremely difficult to pick up an alien language and even before we learn to mumble a few new words. . Most languages come with irregular rules that may not make much sense to you. Problems In Learning A Language The tongue trying a new taste is similar to the brain grasping a new language.
The extra effort that you put in would help you sail out of all the problems and difficulties. it is important to hold your reigns and put in your efforts in mastering a language as diligently as possible. more so when you are trying to tame the grammatical rules of a foreign tongue. At times of failure and disappointment. Visual Reinforcement Visualize everything you hear and you are likely to remember it for long. For instance. Nearly all language has its own set of rules that may be befuddling to one’s general grammatical sense. Try to speak the new language as much as possible. Visual reinforcement is one tried-and-tested way of effective learning and it stands true for learning new languages too. it will also give you an edge over the other speakers and help you to evolve as a fluent spokesperson. it is important to get your words right! Words. While it is likely for you to fumble when trying to speak a new language. Thus. without the knowledge of the same. while in some others it is reversed. Things do not just end with learning the right pronunciation. perseverance pays.However. often quit it midway after months of pointless struggle. if not rightly arranged. it is important to choose your words carefully. in some languages the verb comes before the subject. Thus. unintentional though. Word Order When mastering a new language. who struggle to learn a new language. How To Grow Old Gracefully . The idea is to connect the words with the objects and establish a basic relation between the two. A person is likely to commit major bloopers. Getting a grasp on the words will help you in coming up with a meaningful sentence! Grammar Getting the grammar right can put one in a fix. let this thing not be deterrent to your efforts. remember. can come across as a puzzling jumble to others and mar communication. Not only will this make you into a confident speaker. Next would be to clearly fit them into a sentence to make more sense and less confusion. as said before. Voice it! Do not fear to lend your voice to the new language. learning a new language never comes easy to many. A good grasp over grammar is perhaps the cornerstone for a successful learning experience. Nearly every language relies heavily on words to convey the right meaning. You need to practice it on your own to get a grasp of it. Well. it is important to rise above your reservations and understand how a word is perfectly pronounced. Patience! Most people.
However. there is very little that can stop you from either listening to music or reading or watching your favourite films on DVDs. Learn anything new. making crochet. You could also learn to use the computer and keep in touch with family members – grandchildren or even other family members who live abroad and you cannot contact them ever so often over the phone. at 60 you cannot hope to go mountaineering. If you are still alive and do not have any major life-threatening ailment. Follow What You Left Behind You must have always had a hobby or interest that you used as a stress buster or to unwind and rejuvenate. or teach them a few home remedies.Ageing is something that people fear – it brings with it the natural decay of the human form and mind. you should take care of your body and mind. If you are suffering from physical ailments. Of course. It is easier said than done to adhere to the ‘why-afraid-of-death-when-it-is-certain’ saying but it is best not to think about it. You may have all the valid reasons to sulk and complain but you must remember that people like to be around happy and cheerful people and not around wet dishrags who constantly complain that life is being unfair to them. However. What’s New. you will live. It will give a purpose to your life and also take away the bitterness that you feel. wrinkles. If your mobility is limited. Defying age is not as much about the body as it is about the attitude and the outlook towards life. this is the right time for you to pursue them once again. Women can also take the liberty of knitting. especially if you haven’t kept in excellent health with regular exercise. . people have so many problems of their own and need not carry the burden of your problems too. which are often the cause of your complaints with life. Since you have fewer responsibilities now. you could develop a new interest that could keep you busy and happy. In any case. physical ailments. Many of us waste our lives – especially by treating our bodies badly – and end up fearing each day because we know that we have played havoc with ourselves. deteriorating brains and. Here are some tips on ageing gracefully. from operating the CD player so that you can watch movies or play music CDs. Tips On Ageing Gracefully Here’s what you can do to age gracefully: Thou Shalt Not Sulk Or Complain Sulking or complaining about what you do not have will never let you come out of the past and will prevent you from being happy and your true self. You could teach your grandchildren to sew. cook. they should be told to your doctor or physician and not to anybody among your friend circle. Also. Is Knowledge Learning something new will bring back the life that you think you were losing. finally death. It will also serve to bring back a purpose into your life. inspite of all the problems that we face. especially if it is not too hard on your eyesight. weakening bones. studies say that if you have the will to live. there are ways by which we can age gracefully. or writing.
clarity of purpose. which sets those successful entrepreneurs apart from the rest of the teeming millions is woefully missing in most of the aspiring entrepreneurs. However. Friends should pull you out of your complaining spell instead of only feeding into it. they say. lies at the core of most entrepreneurial success stories. Donald Trump. you. is often the next best thing in life to inheriting a fortune. overcome only by the relentless perseverance of the inspired few. and that is that they are all very successful entrepreneurs. Joyce Hall.Friends Are There… Make friends who share the same interests rather than those who share the same ailments! If latter is the case. and help yourself to a sampling of some of the outstanding traits that make an entrepreneur truly successful. and learn to strike that elusive gold on your own steam in the process. success eludes most of us because the passion. We tend to randomly rush into a mirage of the mythical pot of gold at the end of an illusory rainbow. History bears ample testimony to several such stories of entrepreneurial success. exceptional passion. Tips To Achieve Entrepreneurial Success Striking it rich on one’s own. Nothing sells like the business of getting rich. so take heart. You need to laugh together. And since few successful entrepreneurs are naturally born. Persistence. People of your age may also tell you how best to deal with your problems – physical or otherwise The Traits Of Successful Entrepreneurs Most of us can confess to being quite sold out to the idea of getting rich someday. Bill Gates. with a little help from those who have it down pat from close personal encounters with adversity in the pursuit of their own dream? The characteristics most successful . share experiences together and inspire each other to come out of the sulking modes. Characteristics Of Successful Entrepreneurs The road to entrepreneurial success is typically characterized by an incredibly intricate labyrinth of hardships and setbacks. However. and the pursuit of prosperity sends most of us into quite a tizzy. Walt Disney and Oprah Winfrey – have more in common than just being names on the ‘Rich and Famous’ list to most of us at first glance. and your friends will only end up spending your quality time complaining rather than being happy. Rupert Murdoch. why go through the wringer if you can do it right from the start. sincere effort. extraordinary vision and the irrepressible desire to make it happen.
andThreats. While some get it naturally right from the word go. Success comes at the end of hard labor and a little bit of luck. Conduct A SWOT Analysis A SWOT analysis is the quickest peep you will get into your entrepreneurial prospects. Make your venture count with clever promotions and advertising. So make sure that your venture fills a much felt void. and it won’t be long before one can justifiably earn the title of a “self-made” person. Survey The Market There is no magic potion to ensure success. some learn from trial and error. Make The Economics Work A venture has to not only be financially viable. even before your plans have gone to the drawing board. Chalk Out A Realistic Launch Plan Visibility matters most in the launch of a new venture. To sum it up. It is a quick assessment of your Strengths. translating lessons from past failures into future successes. Adapting and adjusting are the mantras to stay in the reckoning. Make an impact with a well-timed. The spirit of enterprise is what these shining examples from history have made a habit of living up to. well-placed launch strategy. Weaknesses. but it is in the individual application of these tried and tested formulae wherein the fate of an ingenious venture lies. and identify untapped audiences and buyers. Reinvest earned revenue back into an appropriate sector of your business for better future returns. It is a simple but very authentic exercise done quickly by jotting down honest observations under each section. Opportunities. Entrepreneurial success is often determined as much by one’s past achievement patterns as by adherence to a smart blueprint. ideally all year round. The Unique Selling Point (USP) of your venture makes all the difference. are the best known ways to get there. Stick To The Master Plan Do not stray from a well designed venture plan unless it is to keep course with market dynamics. and drawing up a conclusive overall assessment of one’s plus points and areas of development. and save up the rest as contingency for unexpected setbacks.entrepreneurs exhibit and which have been briefly explained below. without altering the original game-plan too much. but it should also has a solid and sound economic ground. Characteristics Of A Leader . the traits of successful entrepreneurs may appear rather easy to emulate on the face of it. thereby helping one identify the best possible way to approach his/her dream for entrepreneurship.
a leader’s plan is useless. Knowledge Quick thinking will not be appropriate if a leader does not have the right knowledge. Good Communication Skills Without communicating the plan of action to the team members. quick action is essential for a great leader. While most of the characteristics are acquired through learning. Quick Thinking Thanks to the stiff economic competition faced by businessmen and professionals alike. which can be done through good communication only. Leadership Traits And Characteristics Vision To be a great leader. It so happens that prompt decisions without knowledge turn out to be erroneous for the future of the organization. who has set his goals and knows how to achieve them. Whether the characteristics are natural or developed. Additionally. becoming a good leader is not easy for a person."Leaders are made. A leader should be a visionary.Vince Lombardi. They are made by hard effort. a great leader will always work upon the best of these traits to achieve excellence. . one must have a vision to take his team and society further. Thus. Without confidence. However. a leader would not be able to take proper decisions to lead his group. Hence. which is the price which all of us must pay to achieve any goal that is worthwhile. should be in a position to think quickly and make the most of a given situation. Markets. they are not born. a leader. He must possess different characteristics to help him show others the way to success. A good leader must have confidence and be able to fulfill the set targets. training. Given here are some leadership traits and characteristics that define a leader in today’s world. A team of efficient members is ineffective if it does not have an envisioned leader. a leader should be able to motivate people around him effectively. being aware of all the developments taking place and having a proper knowledge of the field in which a person is working is essential for becoming a successful leader. development and experience. Confident While having a set vision is quintessential. accomplishing it with confidence is equally important. for the betterment of the entire organization." . He is a hope who can bring about change and improve the field to which he belongs. in the present times. for communicating. some people are born with them. A leader when chosen is expected to accomplish all the tasks and duties as stated and anticipated. opportunities and challenges change unpredictably and hence. possessing good communication skills is important.
a leader should first set an example through his character. Talking about shyness. Humility The qualities of a leader make him stand apart from the rest. Read on further to find some tips to help you overcome your shyness among women and build your confidence. Often. Democratic A leader should not start leading his team in an autocratic style. This will make communication between a leader and his team better. Let out that side of yourself that you had always been too afraid to examine. . a leader has to be disciplined in order to handle all such situations patiently. a leader must be approachable for his people. If you are also one amongst them. best left to ‘little’ girls. Thus. one of the most popular situations wherein shyness dominates the scenario is when a guy wants to talk to a girl. which is very essential while approaching a woman. men take a step backward and prefer to admire the girl from miles behind rather than going ahead and talking to them. A frightened and apprehensive leader takes the team no where. He should know what to do and plan out an organized approach to accomplish the tasks. if you do not take charge of the events that happen in your life. Do you have a constant fear of being rejected by the woman of your dreams? If yes. Shyness is a way of avoiding conflicts. wherein you sit back in the shadows and wait for life to happen to you rather than making a life of your own.Discipline A leader is one who leads a team of individuals and looks after more than one area. allowing the leader to know about the problems faced by his people. Risk Taking A leader must be courageous enough to take risks as every opportunity comes along with some amount of risk. Thus. Hence. This increases the chances of a team being successful tremendously. Remember. no one will. All this is just due to the lack of confidence. then fret not. This would also pave the way for the team members to chip in valuable suggestions. having a good moral character is one of the most important qualities of a great leader How To Overcome Shyness With Women Shyness is a wasted emotion. who knows you might end up losing your dream girl to some other guy. Have Character To motivate his people. Enough democracy should be permitted to allow people to think freely and come up with new and innovative ideas.
handsome guys have experienced failure. Practice Talking to Women The best way to overcome shyness with women is to practice talking to them. remember that you are likely to be rejected many a times. Note. You have just spotted a cute girl in your college and are dying to talk to her. etc. thereby overcoming shyness. Accept this situation of being rejected as a learning experience. while approaching women. You can question them on their family. Learn To Listen Since shy men do not know what to talk about with women. At such places. like library. This will help you in getting rid of your shyness and will increase your confidence level. improve your learning skills and figure out different topics to talk with them. Instead. Also. A simple way to overcome shyness would be by concentrating on your positive attributes. friends. Since women have their personal reasons for rejecting men. Even the jaw-dropping. grocery shop. do not expect to get their personal contacts or convince them to come on a date at the very first meeting. Concentrate on your conversation and overcome your shyness with them initially. New hobbies add a new dimension to your personality thereby enhancing your overall being. You will also find girls that share similar interests as yours. to get them involved in the conversation. which you should accept with honor. Join a gym. Hence. Have small conversations without focusing on whether they will talk to you or ignore you. but do not have the courage to do so! Pass a simple smile and say a “hi”. this is simply not acceptable by women folks and they are likely to find it boring. a hobby club. etc. get hold of some topics to talk with girls and begin your conversation with her. thereby ignoring their positive qualities. they often end up talking about themselves most of the times. . You can start off with questioning her something that will trigger some response from her side. Try your hand at learning new things. Be Prepared To Be Rejected On the road to overcoming shyness. such as a foreign language or a new sport. so you are no exception. participate in team activities or become a part of large groups. do not get depressed. Gradually. You can look up to women from different age groups at different places. you will meet a number of people where you can interact with them. Make the most of this opportunity and talk to them. This would give a boost to your confidence and self-esteem. try to figure out what incorrect actions of yours made them take such a step. interests. Proceed Steadily Take small steps to approach girls to overcome your shyness. Socialize Socializing can be another way of improving your self esteem and confidence.Tips For Overcoming Shyness With Girls Emphasize Your Positives Most shy guys focus on things that they do not possess.
It is for this reason that we have to train our minds to get rid of such feelings of guilt and self-pity. you may not have a job that pays you well. Take Charge It would really serve you best if you realise that what you seem to think “went wrong with you” was really your own choice and the sooner you accept that. only in that case there is a lesson that can be learnt out of it. So. many a times. Here are ways in which you can get rid of regretful feelings Ways To Rid Yourself Of Regret Here are some ways in which you can get rid of regretful feelings: Is It In My Control? You must never forget that not everything is in our control – many a times not even how many years we shall get to live. However. there are thousands who cannot afford a decent meal in a day. Also. It is pointless to blame oneself for what is beyond our control. you must snap out of it as quickly as possible. that man has ever known – regret. For instance. all those who are trying to enter the show business in our country often end up working as waiters at popular restaurants. A serious reality check will throw . Regret not only lets a person wallow in the complacent mud-pool of self-pity. what went wrong with you was something you could have helped. Wake Up. but also stops one from moving ahead with life. for there is no lesson to be learnt out of it. People who do not have satisfying jobs often forget that. what we can do with what is available to us. the better it is. if you find out that what you are regretting was beyond your control. it is all the more important to get rid of such feelings of regret. If. the same regretful feelings – of having lost money. Also. Smell The Tulips. Forget the Poison Ivy Another major problem with regret and regretful feelings is the fact that they do not let one enjoy and appreciate what is good.How To Get Rid Of Regret Someone rightly said “’If Only’ are the two saddest words in the world. Thus. no amount of regretting will change that fact. in a country like India. Many of us who have gone through a failed relationship tend to forget how many men and women go through life without ever experiencing love at all and have to lie to themselves to say that it is unimportant. and would not hesitate to take up any job that others would consider ‘menial’. jobs or friends – make us incapable of appreciating what we do have and can do. just to make a living. In fact. is definitely under our control. but how you judiciously you spend the money is completely up to you.” Those two words signal one of the biggest enemies residing within one’s psyche.
Go through the lines. remember. where a person steps onto it and undergoes a lot of hard work to finally reach the top. Observe the situations when you are looking for excuses. Never Give Up To continue working towards your ambition and prevent from falling down on the numerous bumps on the road. It is seen as an act of cowardice to not accept one’s mistake.some light over the fact that you were the cause of what has happened to you. Bear in mind that perseverance is what distinguishes the average person from a genius. to find tips on how to quit quitting and achieve the success you had long been aspiring for. Instead.Martha Graham. the journey towards success is not an easy one. In case you are unable to observe yourself. of strong men” . the end fruit would surely be a sweet one. you have to regularly motivate yourself. A lot of heartache will vanish once one has learnt to accept one’s fate and mistake too. but you need to realize that quitting will not make your task any easier. being perseverant is essential to achieve the keys to the door of success. Success is just like a ladder. Nonetheless. you would be tempted with the thought of quitting the task. No task can be mastered at one go. one must also remember that the time that is lost will not come back and that it is worthless to think about it. doing daily affirmations and finding out new ways of keeping you on your toes and dealing with approaching problems. Close friends are more likely to know you better and will definitely come to your rescue. as you are likely to face a number of pitfalls and obstructions. What you do with the time that lies in front of you is what you must focus on How To Quit Quitting “Fire is the test of gold. Tips To Quit Quitting Keep Yourself Aware Do not let your laziness or fear urge you to quit or procrastinate. Hence. ask your friends to observe the same and help you out. It requires absolute will power and determination to be successful. it is important to stick to those choices or accept one’s fault and make amends. it will only leave you back with a feeling of guilt. On the road to success. Analyze The Cost & Benefit . Inculcate a habit of writing down your goals. Since many of us nowadays are in a position to make the choices that we want instead of what we have to do or what is available to us. Perseverance forms the most significant key to achieving success in any field. However. adversity. instead of telling the truth.
even if it is for help. Tips On Getting Rid Of The Fear Of Rejection • The fear of rejection leaves a very depressing mood. . cannot flourish in a negative environment. Stress Management Stress management and level of perseverance are highly related. Try to get rid of any behavior that is stopping you from achieving your goals. taking all the factors into consideration. Most people have felt rejection and the way they tackle it after being snubbed determines if they would develop a fear of rejection. There is no use to move ahead and try to accomplish an ambition that is likely to cost you and your family the entire life. That is why it is very necessary that in order to maintain a stress free life the fear of rejection should be overcome. This state of mind can harm the relationship that he or she has with other people. They tend to focus more and more on other people’s reaction to their actions that they tend to become paranoid and miserable. So. you will be less dependent on others and also develop a confident outlook. When you create your own happiness. thinking that their advance will be rejected. on the other hand. One way to counter it is to create happy thoughts. The person can become over dependent and may always look for loyalty signs in others. to achieve success and quit the habit of quitting. Concentrate on a single bad habit at one time so that you can deal with the problems in a much better way. Most of the time the pain the person feels due to rejection conditions his or her mind where the person tends to withdraw into a shell fearing future rejection. Stay Away from Bad Habits Do everything possible to put a complete stop to all your bad habits.Observe and calculate the cost and benefit of what you are planning to achieve. Comparisons and competition is fairly common among children and this result in one or other form of rejection. Think practically and make an honest and positive decision. which in turn helps you to overcome the fear of rejection. They also tend to develop a reluctance to ask anything. you need to first overcome stress in order to achieve your goals in a better way How To Get Rid Of Fear Of Rejection The fear of rejection most commonly has its roots in childhood incidences. Happy thoughts build up the self-esteem. These bad habits could be either simple negative thinking or fighting procrastination. Perseverance. clouding his/her current thinking and forcing the person to think negatively. Stress overwhelms a person. To know more read the article below for the various tips on getting rid of the fear of rejection.
Acting confidently is what makes the difference. Self-sufficiency will ensure that you do not get helpless when you experience the signs of separation. Find out how. don’t expect too much. Learn to appreciate things even if you are not interested in it. The main fear of rejection stems from feeling of helplessness that stems from being unable to control the external outcomes. when and where it all went wrong and then address the issue. Depending on people will enhance your rejection phobia. However. people confuse between being assertive and being aggressive. Your focus should be on your actions rather than how people will react. Indulging in hobbies will take your mind away from the problem. Also. Being independent will also teach you to address your needs on your own. you be yourself rather than what others wish you to be. If you are in a shaky relationship then it is better to end it before you start developing the symptoms of rejection phobia. you will be better able to rectify them.• • Be optimistic. Learning from mistakes will also teach you to be more careful later. Let your mistakes be your teacher. Don’t rely on your friends and family. Try to be as independent as possible. While aggressive people do not respect others’ perspective and can hurt others when influencing them. Almost everyone feels anxious or wrong footed in some situations or the other. Assertive people. when you are independent you will also develop a better ability to take care of yourself. While you are in the relationship it is better that. A cheerful disposition and positive outlook will help you create happy thoughts and a cheerful atmosphere that will uplift your spirits. You will have to go slow and adopt a systematic approach. Set goals that you can reach. the fear of rejection won’t be so profound. . • • • • • • How To Be Assertive Most people who consider being assertive to be a difficult task often assume that others who are assertive find it easy to be one. The fear of rejection can only be conquered steadily. so much that it hampers your growth and productivity. Often. get influenced by the aggressiveness of the people. aggressive and docile. When you know your mistakes. Set an attitude where you give unconditionally. This is the best way to do things that you truly enjoy. While expectation is good. Cultivate hobbies. In fact there is a thin line between being assertive. With a little bit of practice. on the other hand. reality has another story to narrate. people who are docile are unable to defend their own state of being and hence. you can appear confident and speak assertively as well. If you do not expect anything.
This way.are balanced individuals who though pour out their mind at the time of influencing others. make sure that you do not intimidate others. Do not raise your voice in manner of shouting. Create Rapport Connect with the group that you are speaking to during the introduction itself. Tips For Being Assertive Expectation Prepare yourself mentally and set your expectations clear to others. Always hold your head up high to show that you are a force to be reckoned with. whining. respect the other individual’s views and opinions. Never ask people to do you a favor else they will consider doing a favor as part of their job. simply state your message in a matter of fact voice. Sustain your voice by taking a deep breath and think about the message that you would be conveying. If you look intimidated. and so on. acknowledge their efforts by thanking them. This would give a boost to your confidence levels and make you feel positive and secured. Think Of The Language You Use The language that you use while conversing is extremely important. Use Of Voice The tone of voice has a major impact on whether you will be heard or not. For a positive impact on the person or group. plan in advance your speech. such as “I want” or “I feel”. Be Prepared When you are prepared. . others too would be nervous andanxious. smile and feel in control of the situation. A sense of gratitude and a smile on the face can do wonders for you. to acknowledge the other person’s feelings or situation and stand up for your rights. This will incline the people to put themselves out again in the future. Create positive boundaries to know what you are most comfortable at. Remember To Thank If people have done as expected by you. Do not expect others to read what is on your mind. Physical Presence Your body language plays a major role in determining what others feel about you. Given here are some tips on being assertive and confident. Instead. Start off with a positive statement to set the tone for the conversation. Articulate exactly what you expect from others and the reason behind your expectations. be open. you will be better able to take control of the situation and achieve your expectations. Use the “I” language. When speaking to a group of people. you will speak with more authority and be better able to deal with things coming up. nagging. Also. Always use a voice that can be heard and should be interesting in pitch and delivery. friendly. Creating a good rapport would ensure effective communication.
Be calm. and do not complement your overall sense of well-being can safely be considered as unwanted and unhealthy. maybe a bad experience. Repeat yourself again and ask your audience to consider the implications of not doing as requested by you.If You Do Not Get What You Want If you are not able to achieve success. Getting Rid Of Unwanted Thoughts Shoot At Sight You’ve got to be quick here. Remember the timeless adage – “where there’s a will. you don’t want to be caught in a web of derogatory thoughts. bully or shout. read a book. Sleep It Away Sleep is a great doctor. It’s not really easy to stop these thoughts from popping in your head. Remember. A nap or a good night’s rest can help you get . the thoughts that are derogatory to you and your life. Meditate Meditation is a discipline through which the patron can exercise control over the mind and dwell in a state of relaxation and heightened awareness. you’ve got to be quick. play a game. They are such an issue because they tend to have a negative influence on your personality and psyche and at times can even take a toll on your health. the thoughts that nag. persistent and stay in control. a healer. before the thought envelops your mind. an enemy. a distasteful relationship. Your thoughts play a big role here and regular meditation can help you get rid of your unwanted thoughts. Distract yourself. learn to destroy it. or simply go on a walk. Binge on an activity that does not see you thinking the thoughts you shouldn’t be thinking. in fact. annoy. watch a good movie. Make up your mind and read on ways to get rid of your unwanted thoughts. Start thinking of something else. Indulge In An Activity A sure shot way to deal with unnecessary thoughts is to sail away from them. there’s a way”. How To Get Rid Of Unwanted Thoughts What are unwanted thoughts and why are they such an issue? Unwanted thoughts are the thoughts that shouldn’t be a part of your thinking process. something that makes you feel good as this will help do away with your unwanted thoughts. exercise. as soon as you realize that you’ve been thinking those ‘unwanted thoughts’ – Open fire! Get rid of your unwanted thoughts. your work and maybe even your life. Basically. Unwanted thoughts can orbit around anything. cook. but it’s also not impossible to eliminate them from your mental space. You can eliminate your unwanted thoughts by indulging in an activity that keeps you away from thinking them. do not threaten.
but developed. dreaming and devoting oneself towards the fulfillment of the dreams. When you’ve had your eight hours of sleep.rid of your superfluous thoughts. You need a psychiatrist who can help you deal with your unwanted thoughts. you need help. and can vary from a temperate to a serious psychological disorder. you can sleep over it. The interest that he takes in realizing the goals motivates his followers to work effectively. This comprises of delegating work to others. Leadership is all about daring. If you’re troubled by something and if someone’s getting to you and you’re feeling a bit obsessed. Consult A Psychiatrist If you’ve tried the above remedies and have still failed to get rid of your unwanted thoughts. enthusiasm and openmindedness assists in encouraging his/her followers to take more efforts towards the goals and achieve them. Bear in mind that leadershipskills are not inherited. Sleep is a great weapon against pestering thoughts. This change has lead to an alteration in the required qualities of a good leader as well. An effective leader is one who guides his followers in the right direction and helps them attain the desired goal. you feel better and refreshed. Only then will the words be effective. Apart from being committed towards his/her work. you think better and healthier. you need to get a few things straight. hence. before going down to the qualities. However. This is when you need to be going in for some expert advice. maybe the issue is a lot more serious than you think it is. but there is nothing to be ashamed of. Read on further to know the traits and qualities which make a good leader. So. a good leader should also be concerned for his people. in order to be a good leader. The unwanted thoughts syndrome is a common disorder and a fair amount of people have been plagued with the same. making sure of the completion of the work and meeting the deadlines and targets. Be Enthusiastic A good leader should be enthusiastic. The thoughts on these issues may lose themselves while you sleep. Most people may not be too proud about a visit to a psychiatrist. get yourself some. if you think. The best way to lead subordinates or juniors is by setting an example through his/her life and actions. A leader’s keenness. and when you feel refreshed. A leader. Some unwanted thoughts may be an issue. go ahead. effective leadership styles too has undergone immense change. What Makes A Good Leader Set An Example A person has to be trustworthy and possess a good character. How To Be A Good Leader With people and organizations changing drastically. should have an undying and enduring . as they would be accompanied by action.
a leader can take the subordinates and juniors to the path of success. manage it or are an employee looking to make your way up to the corporate ladder. By sorting out the weaknesses and lauding the strengths. While calmness and composure helps in taking the right decision. Hence.enthusiasm about the work or specified goal in order to give the subordinates a boost to attain or meet the targets. Be Confident A true leader is undoubtedly confident. To be an effective leader. it is rightly . The right leadership style is required in every walk of professional life. the leader achieves excellence which is a key determinant for a good leader. understand the potential of your people and allocate duties accordingly. whether you own a business. A leader should be self-confident. one must possess an exclusive set of human relations and interpersonal skills. For proper execution of your work. Make good selections. they requireinvestment of time and energy to perfect and craft your skills. By effectively executing the tasks. Effective leadership skills cannot just be stumbled upon. Be Reasonable & Understanding A leader is mostly chosen as a result of unanimous decision by the people or the group. which would otherwise result in incorrect decisions. leader should not overlook the expectations and problems of his people. A good leader is judged by fair and right choices that he makes. Keep Your Cool An important characteristic of a good leader is the ability to keep cool in all kinds of situations. hasty decisions are often the result of stress and anxiety. Hence. at the right time. which leads to repentance. Know Thy People Know and understand your people to become a good leader. Therefore. especially in case of critical situations. A confident leader is in a better position to take the right decisions and effective actions. All the circumstances should be handled with a cool mind. In fact leadership skills are much more than speaking confidently and carrying a serious demeanor. A leader should not lose his control in such situations. And remember. it is the success of subordinates and juniors that makes a leader successful Effective Leadership Skills The secret to great leadership is about having the leadership skills to be able to deal with people in a delicate yet powerful manner. delegate them responsibilities and choose people who will implement your decisions successfully. without which he would not be able to earn the trust and respect from his followers. it can be safely assumed that it is the people who make a person a leader.
The person must be able to adjust well and have the psychological maturity to deal with anything that he/she is likely to face. A leader should be secure. Team Orientation These days. A good leader establishes an adult-adult relationship with his employees to encourage and motivate . logical and to-the-point. a successful leader should be very self-disciplined and have a need for order and a high standard of excellence. he should also be quick and alert while doing so. well-honed leadership skill is the most important component for being successful in the businessworld. Tough-mindedness A good leader should be practical. Self-assurance Other common characteristics of an effective leader are self-confidence and resiliency.said. Hence. One must be mature enough to recognize that more can be accomplished by empowering others. He should be competitive and capable of taking decisions on behalf of his entire team. more emphasis is laid upon team work by business leaders. free of guilt and unaffected by prior mistakes or failures. Dominance An effective leader must be assertive in his thinking style and have a confident attitude. Maturity Personal power and recognition should be put aside to focus on the development of the employees in order to be a good leader. Since he/she has to face lots of risks and criticism. rather than ruling them. An effective leader must be optimistic and open to changes coming across him. Enthusiasm Leaders are assumed to be active and expressive. a leader must be low in sentimental attachments and insensitive to hardship. Conscientiousness Since leaders are dominated by a sense of duty. He/she should have an undying spirit and enduring enthusiasm about the work and should be capable of inducing the same attitude into his team. High Energy A leader should be highly energetic since he would have to invest in long hours of work to raise the company. However. while dealing with other people. while being a leader. they tend to be demanding in character. Read to know the different traits of an effective leader. A leader should possess a never-say-die-spirit and should always to ready for challenges. Traits Of An Effective Leader Emotional Stability A good leader should be capable of tolerating frustration and stress.
What Does Your Handshake Mean Flabby Handshake A flabby handshake is made by a person who is a pessimist. a leader better motivates employees to achieve their future goals. thereby unifying and captivating them. rather than an adult-child relationship. Did you know that a lot can be deduced about a person from a single handshake? While a firm handshake with the hand facing downwards and arm extended shows that you are confident. Read on further to know what our handshake says about us.them. a hand pointing upwards is a weak handshake thereby indicating that you are shy. uncomfortable or nervous. The way we shake hands shows the kind of a person we are. Also known as a limp-fish handshake. meet new people or close a deal or agreement. This simply shows that the person is simply not interested and is indifferent towards you. charisma plays an integral role in gaining the trust of the employees. People making such a handshake seem to be expecting something from your side. this is considered as the most unimpressive handshakes among all. It conveys power. Robot Handshake A robot handshake is one that is offered automatically without any noticeable thought or feeling. not willing to give it back to you. What Your Handshake Says About You Body language is one of the forms of communication that makes use of various body areas or parts to convey a message. wherein the former orders and the latter obeys. Prison Handshake A person making a prison handshake will offer a firm hand keeping your hand in his for a long duration. resulting in personal rewards and values. Through this vision. Jackhammer Handshake . character and professionalism. Charisma Since leaders are perceived larger than life by most people. confidence. Charismatic leaders are better capable of arousing strong emotions among the employees by defining a vision. A handshake is one such gesture that is used to greet others.
Also. It is also advisable not to stare directly into the eyes of a person. This is made by keeping the arm close to the body and bending it only at the elbow to perform a handshake. To convey confidence and professionalism. Do not look into the person’s eyes • . looking elsewhere while in a conversation with someone is actually considered to be an insult. Some people assume this handshake to be a sexual connotation. Making an eye contact while conversing signals your presence. This is done to cover up their feelings of diffidence. maintaining too much eye contact can make the other person uncomfortable. come what may. it is difficult to lie while looking directly into a person’s eyes. this is the best handshake to execute. How To Use Eye Contact Properly In Conversations • Make a good balance between making eye contact and looking away. Next-to-the-body Handshake People who are not willing to take risks. make a next-to-the-body handshake. This handshake indicates a sense of superiority. it might reflect over-confidence and impudence. At some places across the world. How To Use Eye Contact For Conversation Success Eyes have been the windows to the soul. Squeezing Handshake People who tend to show their strength and power make a squeezing handshake. communicates your confidence and translates your sincerity.People who are a little inflexible tend to make a jackhammer handshake as they think that their way is the right one. They will make a dynamic and forceful handshake indicating their power and determination. Also. In case you are one of those who feel uncomfortable at looking directly into a person’s eyes. such as politicians. instead of his palm for making a handshake is said to be making a Queen’s handshake. Read on further to find tips for using eye contact for successful conversation. For most people. While avoiding eye contact during the conversation can indicate that you are nervous or trustworthy. with an exception of very few people mastering this technique. making eye contact with another person provides a feeling of intimacy and openness. A lot can be conveyed from a person’s eyes. Using eye contact effectively proves to be boon for establishing close relationships with people. this is what you can do. Normal Handshake A normal handshake is one that is made briefly and firmly. Queen’s Handshake A person who offers his fingers.
While Caucasian people living in North America prefer making a lot of eye contact. nodding and gazing. • Some people stare too intently into the eyes of the person without looking away. allowing your eyes go a little bit out of focus. to let the person know that you are interested in the conversation. which will help you understand and acquire the skills needed for public speaking. Hence. Shahrukh Khan gave tips on public speaking to all. people from Oriental countries avoid doing so. Think of the last memorable talk or presentation you attended. Every culture has its own rules with regard to eye contact. instead. others can develop it by acquiring certain skills. a woman making eye contact is considered to be sign of an unrespectable woman • • • • Public Speaking Skills King of bollywood. This would help you remain in your comfort zone without showing that you are nervous. which is highly regarded. let him/her know that you are listening intently. So. while it’s a challenge for others. In other cultures.directly. and even trigger reactions from them. while conversing with such people. Here are some pointers. look gently at the eye area. There are many more ingredients to it. Show keen interest by gazing at his/her face every now and then. thereby making the other person uncomfortable. necessary for making it memorable for audience. such as the eyebrows or bridge of the nose. Mastering the art of public speaking is easy for some. A great public speaker has the power to spellbind the audience. However. by saying. like smiling. make sure that you make only the required eye contact. It’s the ability to inform and keep the audience interested. soften the stare by glancing away from the person at a gap of few seconds. Just the knowledge of the subject is not enough to make your speech a success. with the change of the conversation. Essential Public Speaking Skills . Glancing too much towards the room or looking at other people around makes the person feel dejected or ignored. In some cultures. Keep your facial muscles relaxed and change your facial expressions. While some are born with this trait. which marks the success of speech. most talks are easy to forget because they lack the impact. make sure that you bring back your attention to the person’s face with whom you are conversing. making contact is not allowed for a woman towards a man who is not related to her. Include facial expressions. While you are conversing with a person. do you have to rack your brains to remember one? Sadly. In case you are one of them. invoke emotions. This makes you look friendly. “My first rule of public speaking…if you don’t strike oil in 3 minutes…stop boring!” The ability to deliver a great speech in public is the skill.
you need to know why they should listen to you. For your audience to grasp the idea easily. just don’t include them for the sake of using. In this. which is simple and easy to grasp by your audience. How? – How here stands for understanding the best way you can communicate your message. If your audience consists of school students. What kind of audience you are addressing to? By answering this question. less is always more.Understand What You Want To Achieve Before you start working on your speech or presentation. The next important step. like causes. why you are speaking on the topic. What? – What here stands for what you wish to communicate via your talk or speech? If you are giving a talk on air pollution then you should mark down the topics you would like to cover under this. If you are speaking about air pollution then it’s important to make audience aware about its causes before jumping to effects. and statistics. stories. which connect well to your core idea. you need to do is to plan a beginning. They should effectively complement your ideas. and why it’s important for them to listen.Your audience should understand. However. • • . There might be a variety of aspects to the topic you are dealing with but you can’t cover all in your short speech so give main points or highlights of the topic to your audience. You should follow a logical pattern. Why? In order to convert your audience into dedicated listeners. Good speakers always research before conveying their message.Who here stands for audience. Use language. While giving a speech. to your speech. Stories are easy to understand and are loved by all. If you are using slides in your presentation then limit the content of each slide to a few bullet points. it is important to research the topic well. Vital Public Speaking Skills • Before beginning on a topic on which you have to give a speech. whenever you are speaking on a topic. • When it comes to wording your message. take effective pauses to make sure. and remedies of air pollution. effects. quotations. it’s important to keep in mind the following: Who? . middle. When? It is important for you to develop a sense of timing. your priority should be to keep the content of your speech simple and interesting so that your audience can grasp it well. the kind of language you will use will play an important role. when delivering a speech. and the end of the content. You should communicate to your audience. Or convey your idea wrapped in the form of story. it’s a good idea to add humor. you will determine the objective of your talk keeping in perspective the audience. that what you are speaking is being heard and absorbed by the audience. that what you are speaking is something valuable and will be useful for them. Add facts.
the society carelessly throws us into. while making a presentation. We long to break free from all such pretentions. when given the opportunity to do the same. Nevertheless. Ways To Feel Good About Yourself Most of the times. While making a speech or presentation. but what we ought to be. but by the straitjacket. Use examples to bring key points of your speech to life. Pauses play an effective role. Easy Ways To Feel Good About Yourself Here’s what you must do to feel good about yourself: Life’s No Enemy . • Unforgettable Delivery You can make your speech or presentation unforgettable. we see ourselves not for what we are.• Always remember that your opening words and closing words make the most of the impact on the audience. Use a variety of vocal pace. Don't talk too fast. Be precise and concise. They should make an impact on the audience and force them to think on the topic you have just spoken about. However. it’s very important to connect with the audience. this will open the channel of discussion and your audience will get involved. afraid of what we might see ourselves as – since we tend to define ‘successes and ‘failure’ in extremely conventional ways. If your opening words are unable to bind the audience then you lose half the battle. yet. when we look at ourselves in the mirror. voice. Many of us do not like to see ourselves in the mirror at all. if you follow these useful tips: • • • • • • Understand the purpose of presentation. Don't stay stuck behind a podium. the decision of ‘what we ought to be’ is not decided by the standards we set for ourselves. when delivering the speech. fall right back into the very trap. there are some simple rules that you can follow if you wish to feel good about yourself. Here’s how to bring in the ‘feel good’ factor about yourself. pay as much attention to opening and closing words as you pay to the body of the speech. So. This will make your speech effective. It’s essential to keep your body up-beat. and volume. Your first step is to maintain an eye contact with the audience while delivering the speech. Ask questions to your audience. No wonder most of us never feel good about ourselves. Same is the case with the closing words. tone. Your second step should be to interact with the audience.
much to our chagrin. there may be situation where making light of the situation could actually prove to be rather inappropriate. then good for you . we find that it hasn’t. you'll keep people at arm's length and never make new friends or improve the friendships you already have. Most people appreciate a sense of humor more anyway. had a baby. The problem with the desire to have what others have.Most of us often feel that everyone on this earth. Remember the talisman Gandhi ji gave. Green Isn’t Good Though most of us might believe that life will improve once we've bought a bigger house. for this reason. apply the following test.just don't let them hinder your chance of happiness along the way. Will he [she] gain anything by it? Will it restore him [her] to a control over his [her] own life and destiny? In other words. Don't fall for it! If you get the things. there are people not far from you who are far worse off than you are! . some people are out to get us.” No matter how little you think you have. Therefore. is not a compliment that people give anyone. which you believe you too have a right to possess is that those wishes never diminish. “Whenever you are in doubt. or at the very least. there will always be something else that would fall short. “Your sense of humour is wonderful”. Being friends is far more pleasant than being enemies so why would they want to put so much energy into something they'd have nothing to gain from? The ‘Ha! Ha!’ Is On Me A good sense of humor is more important than being what most people consider "beautiful" in the conventional sense. Look around you and appreciate the things you do have instead of focusing on those you don't. and ask yourself. Recall the face of the poorest and the weakest man [woman] whom you may have seen. the result is that they make any excuse to not go out in the world with a positive outlook. while “You are pretty or good looking” is a compliment that is as carelessly thrown around as any pleasantry. will it lead to swaraj [freedom] for the hungry and spiritually starving millions? Then you will find your doubts and your self melt away. if the step you contemplate is going to be of any use to him [her]. Likewise. you'd like to have. which they consider to be not worth taking the pain. Meeting people would require them to be friendly. What we refuse to acknowledge is that there is always something that will make you feel better than you are right now. The only problem with being too humorous is that not everyone will have the same sense of humor as you and can get offended. For the person who's trapped in his or her own shell of negativity. it is best if you try to feel out the people around you before you start joking around. Having a sense of humor can make it easier to be friendly even with strangers and makes tough situations less stressful. Also. been on a foreign holiday or re-decorated the living room. To inculcate a more positive outlook on life you need to understand that most people are way too busy managing their own lives to take the pains to hurt you. humor has the potential to last far longer than physical traits. No matter how much you may try to match up to the lifestyle of someone else. If you are constantly suspicious of others' motives and keep believing that they have some hidden agenda that involves hurting you. or when the self becomes too much with you.
Practice is the only key here. It becomes easier to express and communicate with others. therefore only little bit of hard work and dedication will make you fluent in the language. decide and put aside the vocabulary and the sentence construction which is ideal for you to learn. Practice using new words in real situations by integrating them into conversations. English is quiet easy to follow as it has aspects of several languages in it. and slangs depending on the situation. Learning English and speaking it fluently is an easy task. which you as a beginner cannot expect to do. even if English is not someone’s mother tongue. People who know the language well modify their language by using idioms. Tips To Speak English Fluently • The first and foremost step towards speaking English fluently is to decide the purpose of learning the language. Choose a friend or a partner with whom you can practice speaking the language. Determine whether you want to learn the language just for day to day use or for a specific purpose. If the person you choose is your good friend. Language helps in communicating and conversing with one another. Try and learn even the antonyms and the synonyms of each word and the correct structure in which you can use the word. Knowledge of English will help a person develop his/her self confidence by giving them the power to take part in conversations. English has become the most common language and widely spoken language in the world today. then learning becomes easier. It is just a matter of your dedication and sincere efforts. Having a person who knows English to speak to will help you improvise your usage of words and formation of sentences.How To Speak English Flu ently Language is the tool used for conveying and expressing feelings and emotions. The trick here will be to use simple recognized version of English by keeping the usage correct. Depending on your need of the language choose the version or level you will have to master. Pick up around ten words and sentences from the particular area everyday and practice them thoroughly. as you cannot learn everything. Depending on your use of the language. as you have your own comfort zone with them. Do not try and use any such phrases or idioms till the time you are confident of their correct usage. It takes years of exposure to the language for someone to modify the language according to the situation. phrases. Try and avoid any form of grammatical errors when speaking. good command over English has become a necessity. Grammar is the basic of any language which need to be mastered in order to speak the language accurately. It is only through enough • • • • • . if the conversation is in common language. In fact in the present era.
This lifestyle is but natural to bring along with it lots of worries and tensions for people. say an aromatic bath or a bunch of flowers and • • • • . If you think that you cannot dance. leaving them with moments of gloominess. One can make use of any such facility and get professionally trained in the language How To Cheer Yourself Up Almost all of us have faced a bleak moment or some kind of depression at one point of time or the other. Some unaccomplished project or a simple household work. A spontaneous hug or a chubby little hand in yours will bring joy and add life to that moment. which will help you become fluent in its usage. instead of putting it off. even if you don’t feel like smiling. Finish any such pending work. forget about family and friends. which you hate to do. Their natural zest for life is infectious and will cheer you up as well. Sing at the top of your voice instead and continue to enjoy yourself. Best Ways Of Cheering Yourself Up • Put on your favorite music and dance out your worries. It is an undeniable fact that clearing out what you no longer want makes life easier. it becomes very necessary to them to make efforts to perk up and have some fun. At such times. do not let that stop you having fun. you will start feeling happy and be able to get rid of any worries. in the present world. This will help in getting rid of the negative energy from your work place as well as your home and give space for some positive energy to flow in. Getting rid of your past and all your worries will give you an immense sense of freedom and will give you the confidence that the future holds only happiness for you. might be continuously nagging you. They will make you love your life. Once you are done with the task. In fact. There might be some worries bothering us every now and then. Push back all your worries by forcing a smile. This is a proven fact that if you think and act as if you are happy. Put aside or clear out all the clutter around you. everyone is so busy and preoccupied with living life that they hardly take out time for even his/her own self. Spend some time with children.practice that you will be able to get the grammar correct. Turn the music loud and dance to the beats. it will surely make you feel good. • There are many institutions that provide both classes and online education for oral and written English. in our life. reward yourself with something that you love. leaving us with no time to smile and relax. This will trick your brain into thinking that you are happy. This article will provide you with a few tips on how to get away from worries and cheer yourself up.
Let your feelings flow out in a painting or a drawing. take music lessons or do something you always wanted to do. Visit an old friend. learn a new game. • • • • • • Dealing With Setbacks You have worked long and hard towards that right moment to propose to the girl of your dreams. put on the daily jokes option on your mailbox or simply throw a party. this will help reduce your burden and give you space to think logically. Learn a language. rather visualize it with some new excitement waiting for you. you put your heart and soul into your work . This will not only occupy your mind. and go in for a drink. plan a garden. Needless to say. Or. or paint a landscape. however.chocolate. Spending some time with your old friend will bring back the young and cheerful person in you. but will help develop high self-confidence and self-esteem. watch comedies. Share jokes. Make something! Be a bit creative and bake a cake. narrate your experiences. there is no need to despair and think that someone has jinxed you. setbacks are not something we like to put up with. sketch a portrait. might get the ball back in your court! .just to find that your colleague has got that much awaited promotion! Do such scenarios sound familiar to you? If they do. Having fun and getting involved with friends will help cheer you up. Never think that your day is going to be boring and lethargic. it is going to be a lot of fun’. in your body. Try and talk out your problem to one of your friends. • Think positive and keep repeating to yourself whenever you leave the house that ‘today. Have fun when you are down. If there is a situation that is worrying you the whole day long. The reality is often less stressful than sitting alone worrying about it. Almost all of us have faced setbacks at some or the other point of time in our life. especially when everything else seems to be so right and perfect! Just taking life with a pinch of salt. Visualize yourself successfully completing the new project and the benefits it will bring to your life. only to find out that she is engaged to someone else. redecorate your room. Play games. get rid of it. Endorphins induce a feeling of euphoria and change your mood from sad and dark to happy and bright. Plan out a day with him/her and have a blast. Indulge in exercise or perform yoga whenever you feel you are down with a worry. Take up something new. rather than thinking negatively about it. The peace of mind that comes from having got the job done will be the greatest relief and reward of all. This will help you come out of your worries. my day is going to be great. It will help you release the “feel good chemicals” called endorphins. trace your family history.
The next step is to understand the cause behind the setback. Running away from your problems is no way to deal with them! Acknowledging your problems is the first big step towards solving them. including ourselves. setback is just a phase of life that is likely to get over soon. we conjure up impressions of things that are far beyond the reality. Holding yourself in the midst of adversity and fighting out of it will just make you a wiser.Remember. Think before taking the escape route. a street-brawl. A bad day at work. look towards tomorrow.says Maxwell. things may not be as bad as they seem. When the situations seem drab. distress and dejection in yourself. smart enough to profit from them. Often. Don’t sit and cry over your failures. The only thing that overcomes hard luck is hard work. better person. Once you have done so. “when life gives you lemon. The low would soon disappear. try to think of all the right things you have done. we join a competition and end up competing with everyone around. An objective consideration of the situation may help you to assess it better and take the right corrective measures. Look for opportunities to come out of it and work your way to success. Just let go off all feelings. Remember. and strong enough to correct them’. It is likely to get you nowhere. Don’t be harsh on yourself. Once you have a smile back on your face and are feeling good about yourself. rather your unwillingness to accept it and refuse to give things a try is. By the . you can start making lemonade. it is better to distance yourself from them. It will give you a chance to start over once again and do things in the right way. Doing this can go a long way in helping you dissipate your anxiety. Instead of concentrating on wrongs. evaluate. Failures can make our reasons go for a toss.” • • • • Personal Goals In Life The moment we are born. Keep a tab over your feelings and look out for possible signs of despair. At such times. How To Deal With Setbacks • ‘A man must be big enough to admit his mistakes. Stay positive. a misunderstanding with your spouse. If you have suffered a slowdown in life. your own fault anything that might have caused the setback needs to be figured out. at times. Read on and know all about dealing with the setbacks that have been plaguing for life for sometime now. when suffering from setback. failure is not a setback. Here are some boosters for you to take heed of. there is hardly any reason to despair. consider and act. assess. Remember. hold your ground. in order to gain an accurate perspective. Instead. accept them and then take steps to rid your system of these feelings.
Even as a person aims to reach to a certain level in their career. You may want to keep track of your daily expenditure to know how much money is going in which direction. There is no point in reaching stagnation in your career and studies prove that people cannot be satisfied with their jobs or professions until it offers them challenges and more responsibilities at regular intervals. you may have to plan ahead as to how much money you will have to save for it. Others may want to start with the profession only after they have acquired that knowledge. It is one goal that you cannot afford to lose track of. You should have a clear idea about where you wish to reach in your life. you could set your goals with first priority on something else – you must remember that these are not in the order of importance or significance. Financial When you set out to work and began to work. You might also want to know what you do with that money. what all you will need for it and so on. How To Set Personal Goals In Life Here are some ways to decide upon various personal goals that you may want to set for yourself. and by the time we think we have achieved all our goals. Career You must have set goals about the profession that you are following. Education This refers to any kind of knowledge that you may want to acquire. It is like asking yourself the very typical interview question – where do you see yourself after a stipulated amount of time. Employers also invest more in people who know where they are headed. If you plan to buy or build a house or acquire other assets. most of us might think that goals are only associated with career. support many causes that may touch a chord with them – some of them may want to associate themselves with AIDS . You could device your own priority list. That is because we reach stagnation after that. Community Service Many youngsters. Also. Though education features first on the list. So many of us set goals at a time when we should be enjoying. so that you can cut down on wasteful expenditure. which will decide the way we live our lives. Goals are supposed provide a definite direction to our lives and help us identify our final destinations. Many of us do not know that goals are to be changed and ‘updated’ from time to time. You should know when it is time for you to enhance your knowledge or acquire some new skills. we are asked to set our goals. goals are all-encompassing and are also include the personal and familial life of a person. they might want to get a six pack abs! Here are a few personal goals that will make your lives worthwhile. Some people might decide to get a certain degree or attend classes after many years of having worked just to keep themselves updated about what is happening in the industry. even as they work and earn.time we are old enough to boast of surging hormones. contrary to that notion. we feel that something is missing. you must have thought of the amount of money you will need to build a home of your own. when you can do it or when you can devote time to it and how long would it take you to do so.
These responsibilities are not only in the material sense and go beyond the monetary duties. and face frequent relapses.awareness or may spend some time taking care of differently abled children or some others may want to lend a hand at the Helpage India Foundation. Whatever be the cause that you want to associate yourself with. following some simple tips to control it will help you win the fight against your inner drives and desires. . How To Control Your Cravings • No matter what you are craving for. as well as. You have to know how much time and energy to devote for the family. which is your prime reason for earning a living How To Deal With Cravings Do you. the ones they were a part of. This is especially true when you are trying to fight a bad habit. sometimes even parents-in-law. Read on to explore how to deal with cravings. make sure you stick to it. Mark Twain once said: “Giving up smoking is the easiest thing in the world. When you have decided to take active steps. It is something that your heart longs for and as long as the longing remains unfulfilled. the families that they build. your siblings. your parents. You will need to ask yourself what kind of responsibilities you have towards your family members. Family Men and women have responsibilities towards their families. parents-in-law too. you tend to go through emotional turmoil. it is better to chalk out an action plan as well. a desire that you feel you just can’t control? This desire is called a craving. because there might be something that you might be trying to resist for quite sometime. It could be in ways like helping your child with his physics lessons or helping your wife cook lunch every day because she is going through a painful menopause! It could also be in the form of taking care of ageing parents or. such as smoking. These cravings could range from something as simple as food to bigger things. at times. remember that there is a big difference between desire to fight the craving and actually taking steps to fight it. Trying to curb these cravings could. be painful and even exhausting. such as drugs and tobacco. have a strong desire to do or to get something.” This quip might strike a responsive chord in you. at times. your spouse. You should also know why you are associating yourself with the cause and how much time you can devote to the cause as a volunteer and in which way you can contribute to the cause that is close to your heart – whether it is spending some time with homeless veterans at Helpage homes. no matter what the craving is for. your children. preparing to lend services as a volunteer for various activities or so on. I know because I’ve done it thousands of times. However. but to no avail.
If there were relapses. You may have heard that there are two kinds of thoughts. Keep yourself busy. If you feed your mind with good thoughts. habits or desires. This will help them avoid. For example. which are associated with earlier memories. you will find that the intensity of cravings has reduced. Remember that you will not be able to overcome your cravings overnight. analyze situations that you can avoid. The mind takes time to heal and so do the cravings. In time. so that you do not come across these triggers. if you feel that you cannot handle your cravings on your own.• Write down the cravings that tend to overtake you most frequently. even unwittingly. the chances of your mind relapsing into an idle state are less. You can achieve the whole world if your mind is in your control and if you feed it with . Good thoughts are called as positive thoughts and bad ones as negative thoughts. you will be able to have better control over them and fight them completely • • • • • How To Utilize The Positive Power Of Thinking Norman Vincent Peal may be the first person who comes to your mind when somebody talks about ‘the power of positive thinking’. if you concentrate to control your thought process. There might be triggers that set them off. Some of them might stem from habits that have been developed over years. Once you have identified the triggers. Write down the triggers besides each individual craving. Get the help of others. self esteem and sound health while your bad thoughts can ruin you gradually. reading recipes of burgers. Positive thinking has worked miracles in the life of terminally ill people. Take a few minutes everyday to reflect on how successful you have been. in time. as you keep yourself busy. Be realistic and balanced. They can be included among the triggers and you can try your best to avoid those circumstances. being the cause of aggravating or triggering off your cravings. until you have better control over yourself. if you give in to cravings periodically. write down the circumstances led to them. Each of your thoughts have immense energy that can empower you to achieve whatever you want to. Expect relapses and do not be too hard on yourself. if you are on a diet. at fighting off the craving. you will need to give yourself time to get over them completely. Therefore. You will find that. He is one author who wrote many books about the power of positive thinking. Thoughts are tiny packets of energy. they will give you peace of mind. pizzas and foods with high caloric content will get you craving for them. Inform your family and friends about how you are trying to deal with them. Monitor your progress. You will find that. high confidence. when you gave in to cravings.
Compliment yourself as much as possible. If done rightly. they can affect you adversely. it would lead you to high guilty conscious which can burn your inner peace forever. humor and knowledge to your listeners. mind is almost like a garden. Nonetheless. If your listener isn’t able to grasp your wittiness. This image will help you to gain more confidence and it will reflect when you talk things. It is the lack of control on your mind which makes the weed of negative thought grown in your mind. This will give you more confidence and will reflect in your body language. Read on the article to know more about how to utilize the positive power of thinking. You should think borderless and limitless. you will also feel good about yourself. . Never wear a posture of a tired and inferior person in your life. It can prove to be an impressive tool for flirting as well. When you shower people with compliments. Your new confident personality can achieve you more friends in your work place or in college. Think of the good things your neighbor or your friend did in life. It takes high stress to convince yourself that you are doing well but you should take burden for being a person with positive thinking. It can be a reason for failure in life. People will start listening to you when you talk things with an air of confidence and authenticity. a witty conversation is best when your audience too is an intellectual match. They will feel better and they will treat you better. have a good time and feel comfortable at parties. Never think of the negative things which you happened to commit in your life. which you never dreamt of. This limitless thinking will provide you more richness in material and spiritual sense. Think of the good things you commit in your life. If you think of those things. • One effective exercise that can help one to develop a good attitude is giving more compliments to people. If you put seeds of virtue and peace. You will gradually become darling of the masses • • • How To Have A Witty Conversation Being witty in your conversation is a significant way to showcase your intelligence. compliment them for it from heart. network and ease the tension. Basically a compliment is a chicken soup for a human soul. It helps you make friends. you might end up being a snob. This will make you feel better about yourself and that will reflect in every activity you do in life. Tips To Build & Use Power Of Positive Thinking • You should feed your mind with positive thoughts and good things will happen in your life.good and beautiful thoughts. they would grow in your mind’s soil. There is a mentality in majority of the human beings that they think themselves as very bad people which in fact they are not. You should walk like a king. On other hand. it is an effective way to impress. You should think of yourself as the best person ever born on the face of earth. if you put the seeds of negative thoughts in your mind. Never keep a bad image about yourself in your mind. According to ancient sages.
The more trendy and up-to-date you are. Be careful on your witty gestures. A commonly known. by comparing his/her statement to something else. Study and notice your audience. . Do not laugh unless the opposite participant makes an equal witty or funny comment. movies or significant and famous personalities. as you have spoken other people's mind. Be attentive. Maintain a straight face. A playful smile and a raised eyebrow could add on a nice touch. A beret or another hat will also help in. How To Be Witty While Conversing • • • • • • • • • Do not laugh at yourself. Dress yourself to enhance your wit. while in a conversation. since every person has a different sense of humor. Be sure to match your speech with the person who is conversing with you. Reflect the words of the other person in a different way. In some situations. Do not hesitate to make comments that may not be typical to you. In case you are talking to someone from another country. physical humor such as props can also be appropriate. be sure that the other person too understands your reference. You would be respected. Read on further to know how you can be witty. Use puns wherever required. but also how quick you are. Although this will make the statement wittier. Be careful on jokes.or just plain weird. Use of the right body language will be an added advantage. Be quick as well as creative in your replies. • • • • • Tips • Do not make the same references over and over again. intelligent people are often stereotyped as wearing glasses. Your witnesses will start doubting your wittiness and intelligence. Familiarize yourself with words and sharpen your vocabulary. Be a good listener. it would do good to use phrases from his/her language. in responding. Keep your witty remarks in a casual tone. This will also show that you have been listening to the person. Observe the speakers and pick up humorous comments that other people would probably not notice. Use relevant quotations from various books. to make it look like saying them comes naturally to you. the better you look. The wittiness not only demands creativeness on how you link ideas and draw comparisons. wherever applicable.
instead of fretting about what you do not have. we must explore some of the traits and tricks that such people possess to get over all negativity. Getting Rid Of Self Pity Wallowing too much in self pity and feelings that hold you back from progressing in the right direction are detrimental to your development as a person. This is considered low and insensitive. In any circumstance that may elicit a negative response from you. It makes you feel like you are perpetually the victim and never lets you think about what you could do to improve the situation. however. Do not try too hard to be witty. many of whom do not know what it really means.• • Do not use your wittiness to put people down. Now that we all accept that tragedy can affect the most happy-go-lucky people and it is only in the perspective wherein the difference lies. try to be thankful for what you did not lose. temporary and self destructive. What are the character traits of those who think positive or maintain a positive outlook? Do they just go around saying “Aall Izzz Well” like the refrain from the runway hit 3 Idiots? What makes them so chirpy all the time? Why does negativity not affect them like it does to others? How would they handle a news or situation that normally invokes feelings of negativity from others? These are some of the questions that people ask themselves when they think about those who always seem to find something positive about everything. you may also take the bigger challenges that life throws at you with minimum negativity or anger. Gratitude It is important to be thankful to God for everything that you have. It may give you temporary relief to think of yourself as a victim. be thankful he did not hurt you. If a chain snatcher snatched your gold chain. we are often told by our friends and loved ones. not to mention to your natural state of happiness. . No matter how big the tragedy is. try to think about and concentrate on what you could have lost and did not. Not all people would like wittiness in their everyday conversations about work and other nuances Positive Thinking Tips And Tricks “Be Positive”. Here are some tricks that could lead us straight to positive outlook. Tips To Maintain A Positive Outlook Here are some things that will help you develop and maintain a positive outlook: Humour It isn’t necessary to take life too seriously all the time – you can let go and laugh away life’s little miseries like missing a bus or train or spilling coffee on your dress. you will appreciate what you do have and will value it better. the relief is. This way. If you start by taking these little things less seriously.
List some of your strengths and a few things that you admire about yourself. delusional thinking may also accompany them as all these issues are interrelated. Self Esteem Building Activities Most people think bad about themselves from time to time. read the article to find some activities to help you on the same. anxiety. It is very important to find something in you that you can be proud of. That it happens to majority of us doesn’t imply that it need not be worked upon. Develop Positive Affirmations Make positive affirmations and statements about yourself that make you feel good and better about yourself. belief in your abilities and in the fact that everything will be alright in the end will heal you of all the negativity and self destructive behaviour. Depression. malice. who are simply too judgmental about themselves. Find inexpensive and simple ways to reward yourself for all your achievements and accomplishments. Belief is. You follow it too. Your feeling of low esteem may be triggered by a critical remark or being treated badly by others. In case you wish to know how to build self esteem and thwart negative thoughts about yourself. I am a good person. Belief No matter what the situation is. negativity. However. belief in yourself. Never lose the faith with which you began your life with – a child does not know mistrust. try and reach out to someone who may need you and try to help them see the better side of their situation. phobias. Make sure to leave all your own negativity behind when you reach out to the other person or else your negativity might transfer to them too. by far the most powerful positive feeling that has the capacity to heal any emotional wound. You can also add your achievements in life and your simple accomplishments. Ways To Build Self Esteem Create Affirming Lists Making a list about your strengths and positive aspects and rereading them often will make you feel better and positive about yourself. find all their negativity melting away when they reach out and help someone and make that person feel better about themselves. Think of ways you would like to feel about yourself and make such statements to yourself. . psychosis. Be childlike in your belief in yourself but at the same time be realistic about your goals and achievements. don’t let it become a reason for your arrogance as everyone is unique in some way. disbelief or cynicism. Some such positive affirmations can be: • • I feel god about myself.Reaching Out Many people who were often plagued by negative thoughts and self destructive behaviour and thoughts. Low self-esteem is a constant companion for some.
You might as well find some solution to help yourself through these books How To Cure Loneliness A thin line separates the distance between being lonely and being alone. This can make you feel under-confident. However when people are forced to loneliness they experience extreme emptiness and unworthiness. You may find many such books in stores. Loneliness mean different for different people. Books can be great source of motivation and inspirational books can serve to foster positive thinking and encourage one to think and feel better about oneself. You can also share the points mentioned in the list with others whenever you feel like it. which will help you to cultivate self belief and selfesteem. There is a whole range of inspirational books that thrust upon the fact that being judgmental about oneself brings down the self-esteem of a person. Most people tend to be someone else and their self identity becomes the first casualty in the process. One of the main reasons for people staying lonely is that they don’t have the strength or the inclination to move away from it. Sometimes. Loneliness is a state of mind. you should focus on your positives. you can feel lonely in a crowd and at other times you busy with yourself even while you are alone. I eat right and healthy. I am taking good care of myself. you will definitely find something adorable about yourself. You can also create a list of positive affirmations and keep it handy and read it whenever you feel low on confidence or indulge in self-pity. To look at it constructively. Read Inspirational Books Read books that inspire and motivate you to look at yourself in a positive light.• • • There are many people who like me. I spend time with people who make me feel good about myself and are nice to me. so that whenever you chance upon reading it your selfesteem gets a high. Remember that n body is perfect and people can just strive to achieve perfection. This is all fine when loneliness is voluntary and there are options from breaking away from it. Try To Reinforce A Positive Self-Image Instead of feeling low and demeaning yourself over some of your drawbacks. Your special attributes. do exercise and do other things that I enjoy doing. loneliness is the path to oneself. Though there might be many things that you don’t like about yourself. a means of self discovery. . Make copies of the list and keep them at several places. Some people fall into a depression because of loneliness while some nurture their creativity through it. talents and achievements are the reasons you should be confident and selfassured.
Just go out and do something. How To Handle Loneliness • The best way to cure loneliness is to keep yourself busy. There are many people who are lonely and trying to cope with it. If you are working then lose yourself in the work. Take a house that is airy and full of light. Go for a peaceful neighborhood where you will have more chance of making friends. Boredom breeds loneliness. if you are one of those people who consider loneliness a burden then read the article below to know how to cure loneliness. You can join a club or volunteer for some nonprofit organization. To constantly dwell on the fact that you are lonely won’t help you in curing it. Find something that interests you so that it keeps your mind away from your loneliness. Try P. like a cramped house or an unhealthy neighborhood. In this way you can be more active and also get to meet other people. Read books and watch movies that lighten up your mood • • • • • • • • How To Get Out Of A Bad Mood . Cultivate a hobby. If you can. Don’t do things that make you feel lonely like reading depressing books and watching sad movies. Indulge in sports or go gyming. Don’t withdraw yourself when you can go out and have fun. Sometimes the environment around you can drive you to loneliness. • Get involved in your neighborhood activities. Try to organize neighborhood get together and charity events. Help people who feel lonely and you would cure yourself of loneliness. Your work will be the best antidote to medicine. These are no solution for loneliness. If your house is bright your mood will be light. Even if you are unacquainted with any of the people. being near them will lift your spirits up. Try to stay near people as much as possible. Cultivate the habit of reading as it is the best solution against boredom. In order for you to get involved it would require some time and a lot more attention from your part. So. strike a friendship with them . Being happy and cheerful is the sure shot way of driving away loneliness. Don’t fall into the drug or alcohol trap. instead they make you even lonelier.G Wodehouse and you will see time flying by.It becomes a part of their lives. Remember that loneliness is a choice and you always have the option of choosing otherwise.
If you have close family members or friends. he said there are three things that make him mad and put him in a bad mood. until your mood improves. muscle soreness and taunts from Ian Thorpe’. Take a walk or change the scene. He had commented that the upcoming champion. Being in the place or in front of the person who put you in a bad mood will only rekindle the negative feelings that you are • • • • . also known as ‘Thorpedo’. as you get to travel through the melody that pleases your ears as well as your mind. In case. Comments from strangers on your thoughts. In most situations. was a world champion swimmer who won eight gold medals in the 2000 Olympics. However. Phelps did not let Thorpe get the better of him . In the 2008 Olympics in Beijing. in today’s Internet age. we tend to lash out at others (through blatant or passive aggression) or become self destructive.he performed. someone who is neutral and will listen to you without giving judgment. But. ‘fatigue. but would not be able to win eight gold medals at the Beijing Olympics. It helps you be positive. as the competitive spirit would be too intense. what you need is a ‘sounding board’. When Phelps was asked about this comment. you could write them down. it is best to divert your thoughts. This will not only help us become more relaxed. Music is known to be one of the best ways to relax. Playing your favorite tune is relaxing and tends to calm nerves as well. through blogs. It is a known fact that a person’s true personality comes out during bad moments. not all of us have such a strong personality. While some people maintain diaries. diverted them to positive actions of achievement. you could also vent out your frustration. when we are in a bad mood. Ways To Snap Out Of A Bad Mood Quickly • When you are in a bad mood. When you are in a bad mood. a whole mental paradigm shift has to take place. he participated in eight events and won gold medals in each one of them! It is great to see the sportsmanship with which Phelps dealt with his negative feelings and constructively. This negative reaction is harmful for us as well as our loved ones and a conscious effort has to be made to change the mindset. Occupy yourself with something else. you feel that talking to someone about your personal thoughts is not possible. which is very much required to get out of a bad mood. towards positive thoughts and actions. Discussed ahead are a few ways on how to get out of bad mood. We have to inculcate in ourselves the ability to redirect our negative feelings. doing paperwork or watching a movie will divert your thoughts for a while.Ian Thorpe. Any activity that is mechanical or mundane will help in getting you immersed into thinking of nothing in particular. give that non-judgmental third person point of view. they write blogs. In order to deal with a bad mood. It is bad to bottle up your negative feelings and speaking them loud in front of a loved one will surely help you feel better. Michael Phelps did have incredible ability. but will also provide a less stressful environment for the people around. Cleaning.
It is a tendency inherent in man to fear that which is not known. Investigate You see a shadow in the corner and curl up on the bed not daring to go to the next room.trying to divert. You are confronted with unknown terrors that cannot be banished through rational thought. painting or anything that interests you and lets you retain your peace of mind How To Overcome Fear Of The Dark Everyone has faced this. Suddenly some stories and incidents come to mind that shouldn’t be thought in the dark. When we are in fear we tend to see images and the best way to drive these is to counter it. Read the article below to know how you can overcome the fear of the dark. Gradually the victim must be taught to apply logic to the situation. creative outlets like pottery. the unknown. overdoing physical activities when you are down may not be advisable. when you are in a bad mood. And say . See In The Dark Since darkness is the best friend of fear it is always better to locate a source of light. naturally. Since you cannot see anything in the dark. More often than not you will manage to drive out a cat or your sibling. Shadows hold the darkest secrets. You are alone in a room and suddenly the lights go out. switch on the lights and see what the shadow is. start picturing to yourself the various object near you. fear the dark and it shouldn’t be any cause for worry. Fair enough. its very necessary to get rid of this fear. like a pillow. In this way you can counter your fear with facts. The fear that something indescribable “is always near” is forever in the mind. Children. Try activities like dance. In case you cannot find any. That’s the power the dark has over us. However. The problem is that fear numbs the mind so much that the person cannot exercise his or her logical faculties. the mind conjures up images that reflect our greatest fear. Instead of sitting. but after sometime a sinking feeling sets in. In that case some other person must take the responsibility of explaining that the fear is illogical. In situations like this investigation can drive away your fears. Tips For Overcoming Fear Of Dark Logic Fear may be emotional but in most cases it is not logical. Getting some fresh air or maybe a cup of coffee will give you space to distract yourself and clear your head. If you can’t switch on the lights then throw something at it. • It is also good to exercise. So. It affects both children and adults alike. but when the fear starts leading towards the irrational then it is classed as a phobia called nyctophobia.
Like you can say that “on my right is the TV”. Relax Learn to relax.them aloud. At the same time. As long as you don’t realize fear. In addition to that. The therapy goes on or an extended period of time and varies from individual to individual. goes a long way in driving it. you also need to get yourself acquainted with different situations and conditions. you won’t have fear. The trick is not to remind yourself of the fear. either in singing or in talking. Also remember that silence heightens the fear and so hearing your own voice. it is equally important to be aware of one’s potential as this acts like the motivation or the driving force to keep one going. One will be able to perform better only when one is aware of one’s drawbacks and shortcomings. Tips To Develop Natural Leadership Qualities • Constant or periodic evaluation of one’s strength and weaknesses is very essential to set the foundations of leadership. In therapy the root cause of the fear is analyzed and the patient is slowly brought to terms with it. Psychotherapy If the fear is extreme then psychotherapy is advised. It is truly a great responsibility to lead and direct people in life and in any situation. It requires a combination of a number of qualities and skills. Better still sing as you can make yourself oblivious to the fear. act as if you are not alone. “on my left is the cupboard” and so on and so forth till you can visualize everything. . You need to be focused and completely dedicated to frame yourself as a leader. For most of us this is just a popular phrase and often we tend to overlook the inner meaning of these words. You also need to keep yourself inspired and motivated . In this way when you are faced with fear you can relax your selves and think about these things. To know more about how to develop leadership skills go through the info given below. Talk to yourself like you would talk to a friend. How To Be A Natural Leader One very often comes across this phrase from the popular movie ‘The Spiderman’ – With great power comes great responsibility. From afar it might look like a privilege to lead the masses but reality is something else. Sing Or Talk Sounds funny but when you are alone and fear grips you. Read inspirational books or anything that warms the heart. Thrillers and mystery novels are great as they engage your complete attention.
It is only through such constructive criticism that one can aim to inculcate and adopt the inherent characteristics of a natural leader. It should be kept in mind that a leader never dilly-dallies or puts off issues. where the mind and body is in perfect coordination. losing complete control over their body and mind. buckling under stress and anxiety. It totally depends on you how you gain control over your anxieties and lead a life that is inspiring for others. Mental poise is achieved through calmness and the strength of will power of the mind. It is not mandatory that you agree to and follow each and every instruction jotted on paper. Being human. for beautiful lips. every failure as a stepping stone which will lead you closer to your goal as a leader. Leadership is not a quality that is absolute and complete. It is extremely vital that you understand how such people think and act in order to inculcate their ways. it is not necessary that you actually mimic their actions. Try to follow the example of other leaders and if possible. Knowledge is the key to all answers and one can only gain information through regular and constant reading. and nothing sums. • • • • • How To Improve Poise “For beautiful eyes. All you need to do is establish a fine connection between your own ideas and the already established ones of proven natural leaders. This synchronization leads towards a faultless balance that is called poise. You can either seek the direct help of the mentors or try to figure out their line of thoughts and actions. It is only when you truly assess a situation can you think of leading others in a particular situation. Learn to gain control over your fears. both mental and physical poise more beautifully. You can also critically evaluate these issues either personally or with a group. Learn to judge a situation in terms of both pros and cons and act accordingly. Rather. it is but natural that you will come across qualms.” This line was said by Audrey Hepburn. and physical poise through health andfitness of the body. they try to come to a conclusion in a timely manner. Books are a great way to come across different kinds of opinions and ideas and get different types of outlooks about a particular issue.• Natural leaders take in-depth information about their surroundings and assess people around them. In our day to day life we come across people. and for poise. You may . Consider every obstacle. Yes. pursue mentors to help you in the process. However. look for the good in others. speak only words of kindness. walk with the knowledge that you are never alone. The ability to make quick and sensible decisions is very important for a leader. poise is the control that the mind has over the body and reversely the body over the mind. It requires frequent appraisals and refurbishing. It is only through a better understanding of your surrounding environment can you aspire to influence them with your words and actions. suspicions and worries.
and lift the left leg and straighten it. Now point the palm backwards.ask why poise is so necessary. • This is known as the swan pose (hamsasana). Don’t see your flaws through the magnifying glass and criticize yourself constantly. Tips For Improving Poise Physical Poise Improvement • To improve the physical poise the bird yoga poses are especially good for creating a lightness of the body. Spread the legs while standing up straight. Put your palms on the ground and placing the stomach on the elbows lean forward slowly till your forehead touches the ground. This will help you to utilize all your mental faculties. • This is known as the flying bird pose (panshee). At the shoulder level. Above all show your commitment and belief. Think of the benefits and interest yourself in your work. in solving the problem. towards the ground and bend the elbows. Release and repeat for the left leg. • • • • Don’t Judge Yourself Relax • Hold Your Head High . Mental Poise Improvement Concentration • • Be comfortable with what you are doing and give your hundred percent attention. Stay calm and composed. read the article below so that you can know how you can improve your poise. Keep your feet together and stand straight. and rise on your toes and then inhale and exhale. with the palms facing backward spread the arms out. So. Now straighten the right leg. Now bend and place the hands on either side of the right leg. This results in a balance against gravity creating a state of extreme lightness. Have a clear purpose and a strong desire. Don’t take undue panic. Repeat a few times relaxing in between. Slowly stretch the legs behind. Lead forward. one at a time. If you constantly get freaked out your poise is going to suffer. This is known as the crane pose (bakasana). Sit on your knees with the heels spread apart. Focus on a place in the ground and hold the breath for some time. Then lend a little more and breathe evenly. This makes the life calm and composed. This will help you to make peace with yourself and be more confident. Bring your right foot to the front and bend it at the knee. Poise is necessary so that we can eliminate negative and destructive thoughts and focus on the positive and constructive ones.
That is why timid people have such a bad poise as they do not make eye contact Tips On Organizing Time Time cannot be managed per se. One of the most precious things. How To Organize Your Time Plan Ahead Plan your tasks for the day and know the time frame within which you have to complete them. The only thing you can do is manage the way your spend your time. you will realize that the things did not have the right deadline or they weren’t really important. You can use this time to do other imortant tasks. you haven’t completed them. you will feel that you have done a good job of managing your time. Have a Routine Trying sticking to a certain time frame everyday. Read on further to explore tips on organizing your time. You need to organize yourself to achieve your goals and do the things that you want and need to do. be it in terms of your career or your family. This will help you see what you have to do and how much time you will need to do it.• Show your confidence by standing tall and head held high. as you will know where you have kept everything. If something unexpected happens or some sort of interruptions take place. organizing time is essential for success. time is required to accomplish goals. it will help you know how to get back on the task. as you cannot speed it up or slow it down. else. Stay Organized Stay organized by managing files on your computer as well as organizing household or office itmes. Follow these simple guidelines to easily and efficiently manage time and reach your goals successfully. Compare this with the time you have in hand and try to organize the tasks properly. This will help you save time that you would have otherwise spent on looking out for items you will require. This will keep you organized and it will be easier to manage time each day. Know Your Priorities Place the most important things at the top of your list and give yourself time to get these things done. you can experience failure. In case. You will have a far more effective influence if you hold your gaze strong and make eye contact. in order to successfully implement propertime management. It is important to use the right resources and stay focused on what you have to do. Always Have a Plan . On accomplishing the tasks. Thus.
For example. Constructive criticism is important as the feedback and support of others helps us to fully develop our talents. without constructive feedback to guide us. It often happens that you are not spending enough time doing something or the goals are requiring more time than you had estimated. ask for help from someone. For an author. friends and extended conversations can end you off schedule. keep time for yourself as well. Ask For Help In case you have lots of goals to accomplish and you are unable to find a way out to get them done. Externally. this will help you prevent problems and even the complaint that you didn’t have enough time to complete the task. to accomplish your goals. You will find plenty of people around you who are willing to support you in your tasks. since you will be wasting time in accomplishing your goals. it is significant to receive advice for improvement and follow it without losing the soul of his or her writing. Do not spend too much time searching for something new. it is not possible for a writer to be both author and editor to his or her own work. Utilizing Constructive Criticism Criticism is one of the most overlooked. Have Extra Personal Time Whenever you plan out the day. How To Use Constructive Criticism . Eventually. This will help you focus and find more energy for the rest of the day.Always know what your need to do and outline the time you need to do the task in. Don’t Waste Time It is possible that procrastination and low motivation can come in the way of your accomplishing the goals internally. Stay focused and do not let these interruptions influence you. Use Right Resources Find and stick to one type of system or process that works best for you. as our work is incomplete beyond a certain limit. Save time by setting goals and how much time you will need to accomplish these goals. yet vital requirements for any person. which you can use to relax or have a meal. Such a criticism is an integral part of our lives. Read on further to know how to utilize constructive criticism. refocus your goals and tasks for the next time. Track Your Time Keep a track of how much time you are spending doing certain tasks.
Read the article to find some useful tips on how to be more thankful and enjoy your life. However. If you interrupt your friends or reviewers while they are giving their honest thoughts. Try to keep an open mind and do not respond to comments instantly. without compromising on your original being. If you can do so. personality. Your criticizer’s remarks may often be helpful to you. in order to learn to be more thankful. you would be able to make the best possible use of constructive criticism How To Be More Thankful Life may seem unfair to most of us and the feeling of discontentment can raise its ugly head at the slightest provocation. The following approaches will help you to receive and utilize criticism in an easier and productive manner. who reject criticism at the first instance. remember that you are the ultimate authority on yourself.Receiving constructive criticism includes two parts. However. explaining the way you have set up a particular point. to listen openly to everything that is being said about your work and second is to ask for clarification on anything that you may have not understood. or anything else. you want to jump in and defend yourself. Undue comparisons. Stay True To Yourself & Your Character Although constructive criticism is important. Receiving constructive criticism is often difficult for any person at all levels of experience. Make notes of all the reviews as they will help you summarize the feedback and rectify yourself accordingly. then only go ahead. when you get responses to a particular aspect of your life. behavior. the idea behind constructive criticism is to let your reviewer tell you what they think of that aspect. First is. Stay Open Avoid behaving like most other people. you have to craft a compromise between your intent and your criticizer’s views. . Listen to your critics carefully. a great deal of it is triggered by our tendency to not to be thankful enough for the good things we posses in life. but to know how you can improve the clarity and impact of your work. Avoid interrupting or challenging until they have completed airing their views. Question your reviewer on why he disliked your stated views or work and how he would suggest you to improve your views/work found undesirable. note down scrupulous notes on everything they point out and jot down your own reactions. If you can utilize your critic’s advice in your life without losing your own perception. this will sabotage the chances of your improving. To be a good critic taker. Perhaps. a bad day at the workplace or a petty fight with your spouse can make you feel distressed and dejected. Keep Quiet Often. but it should be noted that the discussion is not to convince him/her of your point of view. Learning to be thankful about the simple joys of life will make your life better and more fruitful. you have to fight such negative vibes and look at the brighter side of life.
influence. Be Grateful For The Opportunities You Got Appreciate the opportunities that you have had in life. This is not to say that always draw such comparisons that make you feel better. feeling nervous before giving a speech is natural. Value The Material Benefits You Enjoy You may dream about owning a palatial home one day. Value Your Family & Friends The tendency to take people for granted equates to devaluing them. deliberate manner intended to inform. or simply entertaining the audience. We realize the value of certain things when we know that we can’t have them forever. persuading. When was the last time when you thanked your family and friends for their constant support? They have always been around and have been your pillar of strength standing by your side in the toughest of problems. but it is always better than the worst. or entertain the listeners. but don’t disown the fact that you have a safe roof over your head. Don’t forget to be thankful to your friends and family just because they are always there. for there are many who continue to struggle all their lives. You should be thankful for the current status of your health. Look at people who have a poorer health than yours and you will realize how you are better off than a lot of people.” It is a powerful tool used for motivating. but it should not stop you from being pleased with whatever you have got.Tips To Be More Thankful Appreciate Your Good Health No matter what your physical or mental health is like. Public speaking is also one of the human race’s greatest fears. There are millions of people around. translating to. for whom a meal per day is a luxury they can’t afford. The very thought of forgetting the lines or saying something entirely wrong boils down to the fear of being publicly ridiculed. whenever so happened. What you have in life may not be in proportion to your expectations. Consider yourself lucky to have things going your way. rejected and humiliated. You may be suffering from a dozen ailments. Be grateful for what you have than cribbing over that it could have been better. even as you feel disheartened for some of your dreams not being fulfilled The Art Of Public Speaking One can define public speaking as “the process of speaking to a group of people in a structured. You just have to realize that you have so much to thank for. informing. influencing. To a certain extent. but too much of the . Be grateful for the numerous exciting opportunities that might have come your way and helped you to become what you are today. food to eat and other necessities. you should always appreciate the fact that it could have been worse.
stimulating. Practice using the microphone and other visual aids. You can get a family member or friend to observe your rehearsal and give a constructive feedback. as it can help you tailor what you will be speaking. Practice Arrange all the equipment that you would be using and rehearse out loud. Remember. so let it go off. informative and entertaining. This will help you remember what to say. You can start with greeting some of the members when they enter. arrive at the location early and walk around the speaking area.same can prove to be detrimental. smile and count to three before saying anything. Visualize the audience clapping and agreeing to what you are saying. Concentrate On The Message . It might be possible that the audience hasn’t even noticed it. Relax Begin your speech by addressing the audience. as this will give you time to calm your nerves. This will surely give a boost to your confidence. Explore The Audience Most people overlook this strategy. clear and confident. Transform your nervous energy into enthusiasm. Practice while taking breaks. It is important to know about the group you would be talking to. Set atimer and allow time for the unexpected. Ease yourself by speaking to a group of friends. rather than strangers. do not apologize for any nervousness or problem. Given below are some tips to control your butterflies and help you give better presentations. Pause. Get Acquainted With The Venue The day you have to indulge in public speaking. Visualize Yourself Imagine yourself speaking loud. Do not make people criticize you. Practice many times. Do Not Apologize In case you have committed a mistake. This will make you feel more confident. the audience always wants its speakers to be interesting. Gather more information about the topic than what you are including in the speech. Include humor and personal stories in your speech and use a conversational language. These tips will help make the art of public speaking less stressful and create a more relaxed and confident you. by your own doing. Tips For Speaking In Public Know Your Material The first step towards mastering public speaking is choosing a topic of your interest. to attain the right flow and comfort level.
Gain Experience Your speech should characterize you as an authority as well as an individual. Read on to learn how to stay happy even at home. It is thus. This will help make you successful. the modern refrain is to replace the word “diamonds” with the word “internet” (!).Divert your attention from your own anxieties to your message and audience. painting. This emotional downturn affects their daily interactions with people within and outside the family circle. Learn Something New Though the old saying was “Diamonds are a girl’s best friend”. Now is the time. you may have loved to paint but never found time to. or perhaps. you must pursue your interests. How To Stay Happy At Home Women. giving you the false notion that everyone else is responsible for your condition. and not according to terms defined by their man. during a lay-off. Do not ever forget just how happy you felt singing. If you do not love yourself. it is well said that a happy man is just one happy person. Or. often get addicted to the newfound independence that comes with pursuing a career. which is the key to effective public speaking as well. whereas a happy woman equals a happy family. Since you need to be at peace now more than at any other time. while it is only you. but also gives back a lot in terms of independent thought process and the ability to define themselves in their own terms. experience will help you build confidence. just the circumstances that are responsible for you having to stay at home. It is not only vulgar but also destructive. If such women are to be made to sit at home. after getting married into a different state. in fact. Diamonds cannot teach you . or cooking. they often feel wasted and purposeless. they may even enter into the destructive habit of self-pity. especially those who are professionally inclined. imperative for a woman to stay happy. In any case. taking pictures. Many of them begin to sink into depression and blame their husbands or grown up children for their mood swings. It teaches them a lot about life. Ways To Stay Happy At Home No Pity The first thing to do is to come out of this apparently comfortable habit of pitying oneself. Hobbies You may have been a good singer but never found time to practice music all the while you worked. when they take a hiatus or after retirement. you cannot expect others to love you. when they turn mothers. you have all the time in the world to pursue your interests. as these were the things that gave you peace of mind. In this context. It will turn you against the whole world. even as she is at home. Stay focused on your material and consider the audience as your friend.
how to use Adobe Photoshop so that you can design birthday cards and other such things. This strengthens our resiliency to bounce back when we are confronted by hefty problems and issues. than what is required to remain optimistic and hopeful. . it was not your money but your knowledge that gave you all that power. “laughter is the best medicine” . Diamonds cannot teach you how to make pepper rasam that you love but could never make. you can find humor even when some things go awry. Read on further to know how you can become a mentally stronger person and stay mentally fit. all that matters is the choice you make. Apply for an MBA or some other qualification. Study ahead and gain a few more qualifications. Rightly said. Reduce Stress Firstly. and then discover healthy coping mechanisms to overcome the same. Increase Self-esteem Think wisely and speak more positively about yourself. You need to have a positive attitude towards people and life. detect the source of your stress. or even reading a book on a new subject. Choose to talk about your progress and not your troubles and set boundaries for yourself wherever necessary. Thus. View all challenging situations coming your way as opportunities. How To Become A Mentally Stronger Person Just as we exercise our physical body. it is essential to make efforts to improve our mental and emotional health too. be proactive and decisive about your life and engage in active listening. Remember. if you feel the need to pamper yourself. You will feel more worthy and will have something to do through the day.because if you can laugh at yourself. Develop and implement relaxation techniques that will work for you. or learn a new language that would help you better your prospects when looking for a job. Eliminate unnecessary stressors and accept situations that you have no control over. bypass the diamonds and give yourself an internet connection. writing a short story. such as using your less dominant hand. Ways To Stay Mentally Sharp & Strong Exercise Your Mind Sharpen up your brain by doing simple tricks. Staying mentally strong is not difficult. solving puzzles and riddles. Study Contrary to what you might have thought. you need more energy to worry and fret.
such as bike-riding.Improve Coping Skills Have a positive attitude. Just because you do not want to deal with something. smell. do not avoid it. Analyze and work on a challenge by drawing pictures. sight and hearing. Enjoy Leisure Activities Engage yourself in fun activities that bring you joy. of taste. dancing. You can try downtime activities that are inexpensive. believe in yourself and create your life well. drawing. Build Strong Support System Engage with or choose people who have a positive attitude and keep away from the ones who drain your energy. Maintain a sense of humor and work on your productivity. Develop a network of people that help you remain motivated and aligned with passion and purpose. use your abilities. instead face it and feel the importance of what you are doing. knitting or woodworking. do a life review and determine what’s out of balance and what can be done to correct it. touch. Appeal To All Your Senses When dealing with new material in your life. Analyze yourself. Try strengthening the relationship you have with yourself. before narrowing down to a decision. and renting funny movies. passion and abilities by indulging into writing. Use your imagination and instincts to examine problems and solutions. researching. going to the library. writing. Spend Some Time Alone Spend some positive time in solitude. and so on. not loneliness. Tap Into Your Creative Genius Start thinking out of the box and view situations from different perspectives. Many people often look down on others as if they are much better than everyone around and this starts the creation of division . Be Resilient Make it a habit to bounce back from negative situations and throw out thoughts that no longer serve your purpose or are of no use to you. Frequently compare yourself with your own progress in the past and not with someone else’s. by scheduling out time from your routine. Honor your natural talents. How To Keep From Having A Judgmental Attitude It is in human nature to be judgmental.
faith. Put yourself in their shoes and try to imagine their background. Close your eyes to all the unnecessary stuff and try to notice only what concerns you. it will save us from being critical. No effort is made to know the person or understand them either. Try To Be In Other’s Shoes We often have our own ideas that make us happy. Open Your Eyes To Truth When you find yourself looking at something that you don’t agree with. assuming that we might end up losing our loved one’s respect. Free Yourself It is not necessary to agree with the decision of other people. this is not at all something that affects us in one way or the other. Avoid having a judgmental attitude of what others think and do in their private time. To top it all. Just as you would want to feel free. And most of the time. let others too enjoy their right of being free. This only tends to increase differences between two human beings. Learn To Love . Avoid spending days and nights worrying about others. Tips To Avoid Being Judgmental Remember Everyone Is Unique You need to remember that not every person you meet will be like you. People come from different cultures. Close Your Eyes To Judgment We think of what other people are doing and judge them on that basis. class. etc. Know Judging Is Not Healthy Stressing yourself by thinking what you cannot change is simply risking your health. Reserve your energy for your own future use. as in what they do or think. it is essential to avoid being judgmental and build a bridge instead. People who have a judgmental nature often wish their beliefs. While judging other. their way of life on others. but we shrink thinking what someone else would think or feel about us. Consider yourself being in that situation and then narrow down to a conclusion. They see people and pass judgment based on their looks or actions and often the opinion is not completely objective. Remember and celebrate the fact that everyone is unique and not the same. if we keep in mind that even we don’t feel good about being judged. but you should learn to respect their right to feel and speak. This will help you in being critical of other people’s actions. Live your life to the fullest and let others find own peace in their life. sexual orientations. Read on further to know how you can keep from having a judgmental attitude. remember that not everyone would agree with you either. as this will only cause a lot of stress to you. A combination of these factors make the world seems alive. they find it difficult to keep from having a judgmental attitude. Often.between people. their habits. Hence. we step back from expressing something different.
Smart minds know when to hit the nail right on the head. you will have trouble making heaps of money. you need to adjust your daily behavior accordingly to ensure that those goals are achieved well in time. Train your mind to ask for more. their different thinking. Express your love to old or young. rich or poor and find the world becoming a much better place to live in How To Think Like A Millionaire What separates extremely successful people from the unsuccessful ones is nothing but. Unless you really learn what millionaires think and how they strategize. Once a long term goal or objective has been visualized. Don’t allow yourself to gloat on the initial gains and feel gratified. There are many people who think big. Always remember that there are miles to go before you sleep! Discipline Your Thought-Process Thinking like a millionaire involves disciplining your mind and thought process. While you should not lose yourself in the quest of success or money. The biggest difference between successful and normal people is a positive thinking mind and a confident personality. People who have made astronomical sums of money have worked hard to climb the monetary ladder.Once you have accepted a person for what he/she is. you will have to train your mind to think like the big shots. This article brings you some valuable tips on how to think like a millionaire. Be a positive thinker and plan you strategies while calculating the risks. male or female. but very few who actually make it big. it is important that you don’t feel satiated with what you have achieved so far. try loving and understanding him/her. change your hatred to love. Read on to know what it takes to have a millionaire’s mind. Millionaires make millions not by some sheer stroke of good fortune. If you have hated him/her in the past. Delay Gratification The feeling of fulfillment doesn’t come easy to millionaires or they would have never made millions in the first place. You have to think of the long term consequences of the decision that you are taking at the moment and then take a final call. If your goal is to retire as a millionaire. light skinned or dark. but by their superior thinking and strategic planning. Think Positive & Be Confident Have you ever tried to find out how many skeptics have become millionaires? Just a handful! People who believe in themselves know how to take calculated risks and failures do not thwart their way. Thinking Like A Millionaire Think Long Term Successful people have a tendency to think long term and invest in the future. This is where .
save you. we will accept any positive change in others and ourselves that we may encounter. although you are certainly not bound by them. When you do not carry the negative feeling and have done away with it. as there are a few things that your own mind will tell you better How To Get Someone Off Your Mind It is a commonly seen phenomenon – of people who cannot get over someone who has hurt them. Stop pitying yourself and come out the cycle of self-pity. this attitude will bring more ruin as it does you no good and only deepens the feeling of hurt. No one. Even if it is completely clichéd a sentence to utter. just the way millionaires have it! Decide The Limit Your mind knows your limitations. Thinking like a millionaire doesn’t imply that you will have millions in your treasury in just a matter of days. or at least till their near and dear ones allow them to. A disciplined mind will delay gratification and keep you focused on your goals. especially about something or someone who left you with negative feelings. Forgive And Forget Though this may seem easier said than done. You don’t need to think like a millionaire to set your limit. The moment we stop seeking solace in being a victim. the person who has had to bear the hurt is seen to wallow in self-pity for as long as they can. you will find it easier to rid the memory of the person who caused it too.disciplining your mind is factored in. everyone loves the comfort it provides.” Make sure there are no traces of any memories of the hurt and all negative feelings towards that person have been completely dispelled. In the long run. In such cases. purposefully or unknowingly. and the person who caused them that hurt. however. Would it not be better if they found a way to get over the hurt. can turn you into a victim. The best way to do it is to stop loving the image of victim that we have created for ourselves. all by themselves? Of course. the less time you have to think. to forgive divine. Think over where you want to set the limit and to what extent will you stretch yourself to realize your dreams. it would be good. “To err is human. Keeping yourself busy with anything and everything that needs your attention is the best way to keep negative thoughts from plaguing you repeatedly. Success will come hard and you will have to face testing situations. Here are some other ways to get someone off your mind. No Pity! It is very convenient to wallow in the sewer called ‘self pity’. A structured and well-organized thought process will help you to develop a futuristic perspective. it is the surest way to get someone off your mind. . Ways To Get Someone Off Your Mind Busy Bee The busier you are.
Do not try to think a lot. decrease your interaction with the person who hurt you. Read through the following lines to know how you can stop procrastination. High procrastinators find it difficult to do even a single task. There is no plan that is foolproof and will lead to no mistakes. a lot of thinking and planning can result in opposite effects. you can protect yourself from failures. A procrastinator is someone who puts off the work that he/she is supposed to do. Take The First Step Any task or project can seem to be impossible if you start looking too far into the future. no pain or no difficulties. Even if you do not have a plan. Don’t Blow A Task Out Of Proportion You would not be protecting yourself from pain if you overthink and put off things for later time. If the person is your colleague. for a later time. this way. you’ll have to find other ways to get him/her off your mind – the most effective of which is to forgive How To Stop Procrastination One of the biggest problems that people today suffer from is procrastination. which is usually not visited much. but you need to shift your focus to today and the present . avoid thinking too much and simply do the task in the way you feel that it will come out the best. to come up with the perfect plan. Some of them are true procrastinators and do not get any work done. However. However. who you cannot avoid for very long. thus. You are bound to make mountains out of molehills. say a huge storeroom or your study! Imagine the punching bag to be the person who hurt you and punch it with all your strength. the bag will not hit you back like a person would.Punch It Out It is always easier to hurl blows on a punching bag than a human being. but not in case of everything. Do what you feel is right. Tips For Stopping Procrastinating Stop Thinking. The more you get to interact with that person. better to plan a little and take action on it. It is. You will feel great and you would not have hurt anybody at all. There are light procrastinators and heavy procrastinators. Less Interaction As far as possible. Light procrastinators procrastinate. as long as you keep working on your plan. the more will be the hurt and resentment that will plague you. end up doing only little work. It is fine to plan for the future. Invest in a punching bag and hang it in a place in your house. Start Doing It is necessary to plan a little bit to achieve want you want. They assume that they cannot manage time well and hence.
but not finishing what you have started can leave you in a sort of negative funk. give yourself a new look and a new identity. Though easy choices come with a sense of comfort and a certain level of success. with determination. it is better to complete the tasks and projects that you are currently involved in. Finish It Not taking the first step towards accomplishing something can only make you feel bad. doing so is possible and the rewards will surely be positive and unexpected. Go . no matter how hard they seem. You always wonder what would have been the result had you taken more chances. they also bring along a vague sense of being unfulfilled and pangs of regret for all things you never dared to do. Face Your Fear It is hard to face your fear of looking like a fool or making mistakes or take responsibility of your own life. but only if you are willing to make the needed efforts. you would be building self-confidence and a self-image of you being a confident person. such as making important calls. Learn to accept that failures do take place occasionally. With a new day. However. You will become more positive and the subsequent steps will follow on their own. The rest of your day will be a lot lighter and easier to get through. but you do not know the reason behind it. By doing so. I’m doing this. Simply take the first step today and you will notice the change in your mental state from resistant to “hey. you will feel relaxed and relieved for the simpler tasks. Reinvent yourself and discover ways to bring new meaning and joy to your life. Start With The Hardest Task Start your day by doing the most important and toughest tasks. so that you can start afresh again How To Reinvent Yourself Are you tired of living the same old mundane life? Why not throw off old habits and customs and embrace new ones! Reinventing yourself is never easy. Try finishing them as soon as possible. So. effort and patience. but you need to overcome them and work towards success once again. Since sitting idle and not taking action is unnatural. generate confidence within you and take action. as you would be going against patterns that have been established for years. Be affirmative on your decision. you will be lowering your self esteem and signaling back to yourself that you are a lame and indecisive person. answering big piles of emails or completing the last pages of your paper.moment. just get it out by doing it first. cool”. Make A Decision It is natural to be decisive and take action. While procrastinating. it makes you feel bad. By taking an action over and over again. You are stressed and feel fatigued. Remember. Whatever be the task. dreams do turn true.
Saturate yourself and learn everything possible about what you want to become. try a new restaurant or a new drink. learn how to paint or mold a pot. could work well. or even take up piano or guitar classes. Words are the bricks that build up the foundation of any . why not try a new opportunity and field? There are unlimited opportunities waiting for you in the industry. Japanese or Italian. With a new day. Ways Of Reinventing Yourself Now • Have a make over and change your appearance. riding a bicycle or tinkering with car parts. take an evening walk. knitting. try a new hairstyle or adopt a new wardrobe to give you a fresh outlook on life. smile more. You can opt for learning a new language such as French. Change your thinking and transform yourself. Change your career. life affirming ones. set your goals. reactions and words. speed up your walk. have new reactions to different things. Discard all negative thoughts and replace them with positive. Schedule a new routine or change one aspect of your routine. Join a health club. bible study or prayer group. reading. You will have to start thinking the same way as the person you want to be like.ahead. such as collecting coins. Join a church. In case you are bored and unsatisfied with your current job. View the world with a new eye and different vision • • • • • • • • How To Increase Word Power To express with clarity and to communicate coherently and logically requires only one thing and that is words. To know more on how you can reinvent yourself and become a completely new person. You cannot stop thoughts from entering the mind. but you can surely deal with them powerfully. Take a chance to see the other side of the city or your neighborhood. Create a new personality. Spanish. Make use of new words. You can take a new route to your office. Even a new hair color. The most important part of reinventing yourself is attitude. like platinum blonde from a mousy brunette or auburn red. Make sure to find one that matches your interests. read through the following lines. shop at a different store. take action and enjoy the whole new you. you are a new creature. Choose to volunteer for your favorite charity once every week. Discover a new hobby or an activity. Throw and flush out old behaviors. mindsets. You can choose the spiritual path. German. Join a new class to learn something new.
Try using alternative words and see if the effect is as good. because you are sure to encounter the words many times. When you listen. Listen Listening is the key to any good conversation. the meaning changes according to the context in which it is used. . when you see any unfamiliar word. Because in the English language. and also you can get an idea in which context it was used. Lack of an efficient vocabulary hinders effective communication and spreads misunderstanding. but also with the quality of their language. if you want to increase your word power. Words. So. great orators enthrall the audience not only with the content of their speech. In this way. Etymology Every word has a history. Newspapers and magazines are a good way to start but later graduate to more exclusive readings. Studying the etymology of words will also familiarize you with the other words of its family. it is also important to keep oneself updated. Tips For Increasing Your Word Power Read Extensively Reading is the most effective and efficient way to develop excellent word power. Moreover. This is also a good way to keep the words in your fingertips and not somewhere in the mind where you cannot find it. Involve yourself in finding out the origin and history of words and by the time you finish. you may come across some words that you don’t know. read the article below to know more on how to get started on it. Note these down so that you can look it up later. in many words. In addition. Make a note of any unfamiliar words you find and then check the usage and meaning. and magazines like the ‘Reader’s Digest’ and ‘The New Yorker’. and checking and using them can increase your word power to a great extent. No doubt. which you have forgotten due to non-usage.language and so a good word power is not only a necessity but also an obligation. Newspapers and magazines use a limited vocabulary to facilitate the lay reader. Reading also keeps the words rotating through your mind. Read widely so that you encounter a variety of words. Increasing the word power is a very interesting journey and the added advantage is the power it gives in our hands. you will automatically learn the word. Solve Crosswords Crosswords are word games that stimulate the brain and give you an understanding on how to use them. Check Unfamiliar Words Don’t bypass any unfamiliar words. Listen to the speeches of great orators and learn how various words were used. Every year thousands of new words are added to the human lexicon and hundreds of other words get ‘extinct’. Cultivate a habit of reading regularly. particularly English classics. Thus. when you have developed the habit of reading. which you find out by listening are also easy to remember. that word would have been ingrained in your mind. you can realize the exact usage of a particular word. and then commit it to memory. Listening carefully will also throw up many words. make a note of the context in which it is used. You can encounter unfamiliar words every day. So. It gives us the freedom to choose how we express ourselves. shift to reading novels. when you know the story of the word.
Overconfidence never helped anyone make a great speech. you will be perceived as a real speaker and not just another stereotype. then it’s time to make some changes. You will only be open to ridicule. Remember that a good speaker is more than a good talker. When speaking. Share your mishaps and foibles. ensure that depending on the topic and situation. Practice your speech. Get as much support as possible so that you can succeed. Tips For Giving A Great Speech • • Choose a subject for which you have a passion. Patience and persistence go hand in hand. If you try to sound bombastic. Using words will also make you take interests in the words. If you find yourself dropping off to sleep listening to your own voice. Speak from your heart and be completely authentic. You should be open to taking risks and get into a routine of daily action to make your speech come out great.Use The Words You Learn Adopt the words you learn into your daily vocabulary. If you don’t. How To Give A Great Speech There are many famous speeches that are remembered over time and some of these are even included in school curriculums. then it’s very easy to forget them. Only then. Be persistent. practice. However. Record your speech and play it back. don’t throw high flowing words simply for the sake of showing off. you use your life experiences and research to customize your material. The mark of a good speaker is not just to do all the right things all the time. Abraham Lincoln’s famous Gettysburg Address is very well known speech and has made history. Read on to know the tips for giving a great speech. Move toward your goal with a willingness to make adjustment along the way. practice. While you might not be able to give a speech that makes history. Remember that you will not become a great speaker overnight. Practice. you can give a great speech that will be remembered by your audience for a long time to come. A great speech is the product of hard work and creativity. your audience will not trust what you are saying. • • • • . You can do a good job of your topic only if you care about it. And make sure that you have a complete understanding of the words you are using. It is better to know the usage of twenty words then to know two hundred words and not know how to use them. Persistence is what defines whether you are going to be perceived as a person with expertise in speaking. For example. Be truthful.
Your speech should not be a rhetorical address. Add in a bit of humor. It can be of two types. is just like any other challenge to be dealt with. but don’t include sarcasm. Modulate your voice when speaking and speak with warmth and enthusiasm. This process helps you in getting closer to the fear each time you are around it. Given below are some ways and tips to overcome the fear of abandonment. How To Overcome Fear Of Abandonment • • Identify your fear in detail and name it. Ensure that your introduction arouses interest. Pay attention to your opening statements. Consider your fear like a room that is to be painted or some similar task. A process known as systematic desensitization is often used by most psychologists. Know your audience. Fear of abandonment can well be described as a psychological disorder wherein the person feels uncontrolled fear and anxiety when he/ she encounters situations that require facing the difficulties of life alone and without any support. Use visual aids when speaking. rational fear that is based on logical premise. Overcoming the fear of abandonment requires full determination on the part of the person experiencing such things. Your enemy. You can also include auditory and kinesthetic aids which will keep your audience’s attention riveted to you and which will get the message across.• When you are making a speech. This is what. View your opportunity to give a speech as a privilege. People learn best from these and tend to respond and retain information better. Get used to the way the fear makes you feel. and innovative • • • • • • Overcoming Fear Of Abandonment Fear can be termed as a necessary part of life. Speaking is an art and your idea can best be propounded when you are creative. you have just 30 seconds to connect with your audience. You could go with a good. namely. short quotation or a funny story that is relevant to your speech. will help you present the material in a way that will appeal to your audience. Avoid using jokes. broken relationships. wholesome. and chronic anxiety which is better known as phobia. once identified. . Some possible causes of fear of abandonment can be loss of a near one. Include illustrations in your speech. disturbed childhood and some social or personal trauma.
Stop being obsessed with anyone and anything. “Oh. Forget the past and start moving ahead.” You may often think that fear can rage like an inferno. Graciousness is all about how you make the people around you feel. . Overcoming the fear is a time-consuming process but the reward is worth it. Avoid thinking too much. there goes my brain rumbling again. it shows he is a citizen of the world”. it can be inculcated into your way of life. so do not be too hard on yourself.• • Do no try to get rid of the fear. Sometimes. This can be practiced on a daily basis. Laugh out your troubles and let life free for sometime. Read the article below to know more on how to be gracious. That is the importance that graciousness can have in a person’s life. Old fears raise their head from time to time. You’ll feel free from fear. do not carry the burden and delete them from the memory. it can be stubborn and determined. as self-interest is not its characteristic. Inculcate healthy habits like yoga and meditation. where as in reality it may be nothing but a little more than a candle flame. hence. Prepare yourself well and be committed as fears become more uncontrollable at first when you challenge their hold on you. Although this is challenging but it is very necessary. • • • • • • • • • How To Be Gracious Francis bacon said. jealousy and attachments. Mistakes are part of life and so are bad experiences. People are not born with gracious behavior. any situation can be resolved. Through graciousness. Pen down the reasons why you are paralyzing yourself by those fears. peace and serenity will manifest your life. Do not preoccupy yourself with fearful or troubling thoughts. Gracious behavior depends on the upbringing and the environment. Pleasing and affectionate are the hallmarks of a gracious person. Be patient and determined and let yourself be exposed to the change. As you become rich inside yourself. Turn off unwanted thoughts in the same impersonal way as you may think of your stomachrumbling. Develop a habit of taking every experience positively. Do not waste your energy fearing too much. Graciousness is a treasure that people throng to. Gracious behavior. if taught from the childhood can lead towards the development of a successful human being. it must be taught and absorbed. Worrying is a slow poison that eats you up daily. Stop over-analyzing any situation. so a gracious person is never short of people near him or her. “If a man be gracious and courteous to strangers. Examine your fears and see how foolish or crazy they are. Through constant practice.
That is if you keep the interests of others in front of you. Remember that graciousness should come unintentionally. Sounds are shaped by various articulatory organs whose proper coordination makes one speak in a lucid manner. etc. as these are the sign of gracious character. “I think sometimes it’s more important to be gracious than to win” said Dorothy Kilgallen. Do not fake. When you understand a person. respect. articulation exercises are very necessary as they hone the verbal communication exercises. but when discovered will hurt more than if you had been honest. Kindness. The content and the significance are lost in misunderstanding. it is better to wait and cool off. In the face of criticism. emotions and other sensibilities. but to help when not even asked is better. A smile and saying ‘thank you’ will be a good return for the compliment. Practicing these positive traits will make graciousness a part of your character.Learning To Be Gracious • Take compliment with a smile. thank him or her for accepting the invitation. . hurting anyone is not graciousness. To help when asked is good. Sometimes and with some people. Timidity or lack of confidence can embarrass or deter the other person. the message is lost in pronouncing and accent barriers. And. and he will consider you a gracious person. the impulse to ‘shoot off’ is very great. be sure to thank the host or convey your reasons for not accepting the invitation. you will fill him or her with a good feeling. More often than not. it will automatically teach you to be gracious. are all signs of graciousness. Don’t wait for anyone to ask you for it. which will be ungracious. Better articulation results in better understanding. and also accept the reasons for someone who is unable to come. Offering your help will always make the other person remember your graciousness. from the subconscious and not as a forced entity. being on the right is not that important. when you invite someone. While accepting an invitation. Small acts of understanding lead to greater acts of graciousness. Waiting allows you to collect your thoughts and makes the other person feel the depth of your maturity. • • • • • • • • Articulation Exercises Clarity is the hallmark of a good speaker. then it is considered gracious behavior. If your being wrong. Similarly. Faking your feelings. Make the other person feel that he or she is acknowledged. patience. will carry you for a short time. can do immense good to some people. so. Be forward with your help. make these good qualities a part of you. empathy. Therefore. if the person is criticizing you for your own good. More often as not.
Practicing the articulation exercises regularly will make you more understandable to your audience. Gradually repeat faster till a level of clarity and lucidity is reached. Speech imperfection does not only result from speech impediment. Good articulation always has an impact on the listeners. Regular practice will strengthen the articulatory organs by developing the face and body muscles. Types Of Articulation Exercises Articulation exercises must be spoken slowly and carefully and must be practiced regularly without fail. So Bill sold his billboard And paid his board bill. But Moses supposes erroneously. Read the article below to know more on how you can straighten your voice. But though he had no board bill. as most people. For nobody’s toes are posies of roses. However. which divides a speaker from an orator. because of language and cultural differences fail to speak with clarity. through these articulation exercises. The board bill bored Bill. The reading should be done aloud. Then the board bill No longer bored Bill. Bill also had a board bill. Neither did he have his billboard! Articulation For ‘F’ Type Words: Four furious friends fought for the phone Articulation For ‘H’ Type Words: How was Harry hastened so hurriedly from the hunt? Articulation For ‘J’ Type Words: Jack the jailbird jacked a jeep. and speak smoothly. . since everyone is not blessed with a coherent speech. Articulation is often the thin line. Articulation For ‘D’ Type Words: Did Doug dig Dick's garden or did Dick dig Doug's garden? Articulation For ‘S’ Type Words: Moses supposes his toes are roses. Articulation For ‘B’ Type Words: Bill had a billboard. As Moses supposes his toes to be. articulation exercises will make him or her a clear speaker.
Quickest kiss. Just when you feel that you would be gripped in temper tantrum. Articulation For ‘R’ Type Words: Round the rugged rocks the ragged rascal ran. You need New York. How To Control Anger Outbursts Life is full of meeting unwelcome people and facing unwanted and annoying circumstances. If Peter piper picked a peck of pickled peppers. Where's the peck of pickled peppers that Peter Piper picked? Articulation For ‘L’ Type Words: Larry sent the latter a letter later Articulation For ‘Q’ Type Words: Quick kiss. Controlling temper is the first step to ensure reduced stress levels and improved relationships. Quicker kiss. it makes us land up in embarrassing position. even the calmest of person would agree having faced a situation.Articulation For ‘K’ Type Words: My cutlery cuts keenly and cleanly. Articulation For ‘T’ Type Words: Ten tame tadpoles tucked tightly in a thin tall tin. most of you would agree that more than often. As such. Articulation For ‘N’ And ‘U’ Type Words: You know New York. While some psychologists may claim that anger outburst is a good way to give an outlet to the negative energies. Articulation For ‘P’ Type Words: Peter piper picked a peck of pickled peppers. You know you need unique New York. Articulation Of ‘V’ Type Words: Vincent vowed vengeance very vehemently. resort to any of the following ways listed below and relieve yourself . when he/she lost temper and experienced an anger outburst.
do not get scared as herein. Ways For Controlling Anger Outbursts Deep Breathing Though you might have heard it a number a times. Next step would be to act ‘Objectively’. Just when you think that you might get trapped into a pool of bad mood and anger. energy conversion is the phrase given to convert the negative energies produced by anger into positive driving force. relax your mind and take a deep breath. It helps soothe your negative energies and provides a relaxing and calming feeling. the next step would be to listen to the other’s point of view and try to rationalize it.your anger would be heavily subsided!! Tune To Music Did you know that music has healing properties? If no. you might be able to control your anger outbursts as well?Meditation and yoga have positive effect on the mental and physical being of a person.you can either use it negatively or make it as a stepping stone to overcome the stimulus that caused anger in the first place. deep breathing. thereby cooling both the mind and the body. There are two ways to use the energy created by anger . Many people have claimed that anger outbursts are best dealt with this technique. is one of the most beneficial ways to avoid anger outburst. Tell yourself that you would not explode your anger. This way you would instantly dip your anger or rage and get back to the normal state of mind. Believe in FLOW This might seem French to you. For this. regular indulgence in the two ensures better mind control.e. However. Meditation & Yoga Experts have claimed the benefits of meditation and yoga for the mind. Energy Conversion Does this sound physics or mathematics to you? Well. switch on the music system and listen to some of your favorite songs. Most people . Music goes a long way in dipping the rising anger levels. thereby helping in anger management. Repeat this for several times until the message has sunk deep into your mind. you need to first ‘Focus’ at your mental state. This way you can curb the anger outburst and at the same time conquer your flaws. So. then you are definitely in for a revelation. ‘Listen’. No matter what is the intensity of your anger. soul and the body. The techniques. go onto the next level. Once this is done. did you know that by indulging in regular meditation or yoga. all you need to do is just close your eyes. A sixty second indulgence in this technique and swoosh . Instead. undoubtedly. The last step would be to ‘Wait’ for the right time. explained in the following lines. think objectively as this will help you understand the situation in a mature way. When we are angry. Also. Anger mostly arises due to conflict or disagreement. we mostly take things or arguments personally.from the anger outbursts. would help you know how to control anger outbursts. i. but using the FLOW technique is the best way to deal with anger outbursts.
This often makes you imagine a sequence of events in your mind on how the story will unfold further. A well-read person is a reservoir of knowledge as reading helps one to know about new things and analyze them in his/her own inventive way. Read on to know why it is so important. Apart from developing your mind. Reading involves creative imaginations thereby promoting ingenious thinking. broadens your horizon. the scope to feed it with new things. always remain wide. It keeps your mind active and dynamic. our mind also seeks nourishment that comes through reading. when your power to imagine develops. which should ideally be the other way round. Develops One’s Creative Side Reading is one of the best ways to give a creative orientation to one’s mind. The Importance Of Reading Develops The Mind Our mind needs regular exercise to develop and reading is the most effective way to do that. Gaining knowledge empowers you mind and broadens its range. Just as our body needs its daily dose of nutrients. Reading enlightens your mind. When you read a story. Activates The Flow Of Ideas . Waiting is the best indicator for anger management.would agree that instant reaction is the main problem for angermanagement. expands your knowledge and opens up new avenues for you. Reading the written word and developing an understanding of it is a skill that is cultivated overtime by the habit of reading. Most people tend to speak more and listen less. You should wait and reflect for sometime about the consequences of angry outburst. you are able to make better guesses and determine the course of the stories or fictional novels you read. Abraham Lincoln. Reading books also help to develop one’s listening ability which is very important to succeed in every aspect of life. The article dwells at length on the importance of reading. The more you read. Expands Knowledge-Base Irrespective of how much knowledge your mind can store. reading also develops your listening ability. and there is no denying the fact that ‘Knowledge is Power’. the more enlightened you are. Gradually.S president. Why Reading Is Important “A capacity and taste for reading gives access to whatever has already been discovered by others” is a famous perspective on the importance of reading by the erstwhile U. you are constantly wondering what will happen next.
A well-read person is always oozing with confidence for “he/she knows”. arrogant or disrespectful as a person. a learned person knows that he maintains a slight edge over other people. Prioritize your tasks and plan accordingly. Lack of reliability does not necessarily mean that you are deliberately careless. Also. without letting things overload and backfire on you. it will enable you to . by making them happy. A dynamic flow of ideas also makes you an interesting person to be with as your mind is not static and you will always have something vital to contribute to every discussion. it is good to be precautionary by not being wrapped up into the belief that you can solve all the problems of everyone.It is rather interesting to note that people who are fond of reading soon transform into a bubbling cauldron of fresh ideas. And then. Improve At Conveying A ‘No’ We all love to make a good impression on people around us. Ways For Becoming More Dependable Watch Your Promises Never make promises unless you are ready to fulfill them. Rather. Boosts Your Confidence Ever wondered why erudite people are so confident? Since knowledge empowers your mind. Read on further to know you can be more reliable and dependable. try not to lock yourself into anymore of them. Knowing things makes you feel self-assured and gives you the confidence to voice your opinions and be assertive about them. there are great chances of none of the commitments being fulfilled. There are different ways through which you can become a more reliable person. as it usually produces opposite results. Nonetheless. If you are already preoccupied with some commitments. Also. It is not mandatory to volunteer for everything and also. which you can use in just about every aspect of your life. This will help you organize what is to done on immediate basis and what can wait. You will then realize what it feels like to have gained someone’s trust. you will stay committed to it. the desire of making every single person happy is often misguided. It conveys more about your ability of being organized and dependable. Overpowering yourself with excessive commitments will only lead to unnecessary stress and tension. How To Become A More Reliable Person In today’s world. no matter how talented they are. Taking up only the required number of tasks will help you deliver great results and people will appreciate your reliability as well. reliability means that if you have accepted something. it is very difficult to juggle out your schedule and personal life. you should not agree to compromise on your precious time and happiness to do such a task. Active reading ignites your mind and arms it with new and creative ideas.
and live like a recluse. . people willing to start a daily routine must have patience. in turn. they generally have all their complexities worked out. it rolls on. he is sure to get it back. the excitement coming from the unpredictability that life throws up. Read the article below to know how you can start a daily routine. It is always better to maintain a daily routine from as early as possible in life. How To Start A Daily Routine A daily routine is a part and parcel of a disciplined life. Since. It is better to do what you perform best. but prove to be more helpful than you can think. People. Try To Bring Out The Best Most people have the tendency to perform all the tasks by themselves. so you must be resolute. Adopting a daily routine is tedious but once the habit sets in. This would definitely be hard to do. Flexibility A person willing to be flexible with other people will receive the same flexibility from them in return. Tips To Help You Start A Daily Routine • To start a daily routine the first thing to be done is to prepare oneself mentally. The secret of a daily routine is to lead a balanced life and to have everything in balance.arrange time to enjoy with people and the things that are more close and important to you. while not compromising on his/ her reliability. to show that they can never be wrong. in order to take control of the situation. in view of the other person. but the next time. a daily routine should not be a burden. In case you are already besieged by worries and stress. whenever he needs a favor or a little leeway. will enable you to remain focused and motivated towards being your best. So. There are times when you have to move forward only by taking a few steps back and reevaluating the situation. After all. They remain untouched by the rush and bustle in life. as it takes a long time. This. Most of the time people ‘jump the bus’ midway due to lack of commitment on their part. It is likely possible that he may not get it back at the same moment. try to shift the burden a bit. This is not to say that you leave everything behind. they follow a strict pattern. of the serious need for a daily routine. lead a very balanced life. Many people consider having a daily routine as boring. A person knows himself better than anyone else does. External factors will contribute a great deal to hinder you. who follow a daily routine.
It will show you the road ahead. be it at a date. Read on to know how to effectively make powerful conversations with just about anybody. keep in mind these tenets – people. emotion. Without a plan. and reach your target. See if your spiritual. . check your development. who seem to relate to everyone. you don’t have to rush things up. If not. Have a plan. or a social gathering? In fact. people want less to do with how much you know. without turning your routine upside down. you will know what and how to achieve every day. • • • Mastering The Art Of Conversation Have you ever found yourself wondering how some people effortlessly strike up conversations. rather than those who try hard to gain the interest of others. and having a clear vision is one of its tenets. irrespective of age. what kind of reaction to give and so on. you will have little idea of what and when to do. as a sign of success. which would anchor you to the routine. sex or race. Without a goal. You can have both a long term and a short-term plan. and habit. Develop a habit that is constructive and stimulating. Leave an hour or two every day. so. Have a daily target. will be the lighthouse that will show you the direction. emotional. as a buffer for accommodating sudden calls. say. who have mastered this art. it would develop into a strong habit. you won’t have any idea or motivation. people will be drawn to those who take a sincere interest in them. every now and then. and end up making many more friends in a day. Flexibility in your daily timetable allows you to indulge in breaks. That is the reason daily routine should be flexible. in front of whom. These are the people. where you can measure your success by the target reached. they flow from small talk to hard talk. and more to do with how much you care. to adopt a daily routine. If you can cultivate a habit. have benefitted from the daily routine. In this way. Most people. in short. while others just stare in awe and envy. Once you are on your way to a daily routine. then over the years. then review your routine to include those aspects that satisfies your spirit. they seem to know exactly what to talk about. or gardening. love to talk about themselves. It encourages you to accomplish. Adopt a vision. Most good conversations start with small talk. and habitual aspirations. than others seem to make in a lifetime. what you need to do every day.• • • • Set a goal. Setting a goal will also make you stick to your routine. writing. mastery of the art of conversation is regarded. A goal. Unforeseen events may disrupt your daily routine. it is good to be prepared. so that in the end. In this way. Daily routine is all about leading a disciplined life. you develop a routine. With these tenets in mind. for reading.
The second part will merge all small talk into the main topic or purpose of the conversation. This may be because we have been conditioned to own up for our mistakes and errors in judgment. It will lead to less misinterpretation and. most leaders swear by. people who are none the wiser about art of conversation misinterpret. inquiring about family members and others. part of making effective conversation. So. but if you support the labor party. for having had the courage to be different from the crowd. In the third part. whatever it may be. Many a times. which includes exchanging pleasantries. when they see it. Since people don’t come across honesty very often. as most of us have not been taught how to forgive our own mistakes. they have instead of making any new ones. express it freely. . consequently. Worse. be it business or sharing of personal views. intended and unintended. If you listen to people with sincere interest you will understand the true meaning of what they are saying. nonthreatening. not being able to forgive our faults can make our life miserable. Holding ourselves culpable only adds to the misery of committing the mistake in the first place. all these views. even if it might seem like they’re trying to be offensive. full of right wing conservative people. Follow this flowchart. Benefit Of Doubt Most people don’t really mean to harm anybody new with their words. ending up losing thefriends. The article brings you some valuable tips on how to forgive yourself and stop feeling guilty. This gesture will prove that you give people respect for who they are and are not unnecessarily judgmental. even if they sound ambivalent. All Ears Listening is also an integral and. we may also find ourselves being swallowed by the feeling of guilt. rather than running the risk of opening it to all kinds of meanings. You may be sitting in a room. In such a case. what is spoken by others. you will perhaps also be regarded highly. non-patronising manner is a quality that. will you strike up an interesting debate. to make effective conversations effortlessly. opinions and so on will flow into a satisfying end. give them the benefit of doubt for their words. for whom the Communist Revolution was the dance of the Devil. acceptable to all parties involved.How To Master The Art Of Conversation Free Expression Freely express yourself. Expressing one’s opinion in a positive. by making us forlorn and sad. less misunderstanding. One-Two-Three Keep in mind the flow that a conversation is supposed to follow. most of them welcome it. often overlooked. Read on and learn how to move on in life. Not only. The first part of is the small talks. How To Forgive Your Own Mistakes Forgiving your own self can prove to be more daunting that pardoning others.
it gets worse when we are disapproving of your own self. Being judgmental equals to being disapproving. You can always share your mistakes with others and warn them of the consequence that you suffered from. A reflection of what you have learnt from your mistakes would be a perceptible change in your behavior. do that in a balanced way. You can’t afford to keep wallowing in guilt over your wrongdoings. Always remember that you are not a reflection of your mistakes. And. Active Listening Activities . as we have to pay a price for them. the biggest lesson life teaches us is to move on. Don’t Judge Yourself The worst people can do is to judge themselves by their mistakes. Pardon yourself by pouring your heart out before someone you know will make you feel better. Disembark yourself from past mistakes and march ahead! Share your mistakes Holding things to yourself will make it increasingly difficult to forgive yourself and stop feeling guilty. which is always brighter and full of hope. as life is a continuous learning process.How To Forgive Yourself & Stop Feeling Guilty Learn From Your Mistakes Trying to learn from your mistakes is a very healthy way of dealing with them. whose guidance you trust and value. Confess your mistake in front of a close friend. To err is human and to learn how to avoid the same mistake in the future is also within human capacity. not being overwhelmed by your errors. speak up and lift that burden off your heart. Remember that your mistakes always add to your experience. Forgive yourself completely and look forward to the future. A guilt-free existence is only possible when your mistakes are not perpetually weighing on your conscience. If at all you want to grade yourself. Languishing in past will not give you an opportunity to time-travel to the bygone times and change things. rather dismissive of the subject of our judgment. but a manifestation of the good things that you do in life. which are generic. but repeating it. Encourage Yourself To Move On Realize that your life is not going to end or stagnate just because of a mistake of yours. You will also get a chance to vent out your frustration in a more constructive way. Probably. Remember that committing a mistake is not a crime. Unburden Your Heart If you believe that your mistake is too big to be forgiven and keeping it to yourself is killing you. surely is! We learn from our mistakes.
On a simple note. It is a communication skill that facilitates effective communication of your ideas and concepts. the supervisor will ask the members to recall which member had given what answer. Each member of the group is supposed to go to the front of the room. and is supposed to be debated upon by them. The element of surprise in the game will make the students listen with attention and carefully watch out for their name. the teacher will call out someone’s name and pass a soft toy/ball to him/her. For Adults Quiz This activity is to be performed indoors and requires a supervisor. gradually. the teacher can randomly pick any of the students and ask him/her to continue speaking. Once everyone gets a hang of the activity. and one of the fundamentals of communicating well. the listener will have to recall . Then. The other participants will ask three questions relating to themselves. It is then that the supervisor will reveal it to the participants that they were part of a quiz. It is no secret that good listeners also make good communicators. to check whether they listened carefully or not. a communication process actively involves a speaker and a listener. Then. In this activity. The toy/ball will continue to be passed till all the students are covered. The speaker is then given a topic to speak on and the listener has to listen to the speaker actively. which can then be followed by more difficult ones. after calling his/her name. all the students become alert as they are supposed to catch the ball as soon as their name is called. The supervisor will make a note of the answers given by each of the participant as their turn comes. Group Discussion This activity just requires a common topic that will be given to a group of students. the teacher will stop the speaker in the middle and ask any other student to continue the discussion from the same point where it has been left by the previous speaker.Active listening helps one improve his/her ability to understand and grasp verbal information. The participant group has to arrange itself in a circle. who will pass it to another student. is to listen carefully. After the speaker is through. The first topic could be fun and easy to speak on. The article brings you some active listening activities that will help improve your listening skills. The teacher can also participate in this game. Active Listening Discussion The group of participants is to be divided into pairs and each pair is to have a listener and a speaker. Active Listening Activity Ideas For Students Group Juggle This activity requires a large space as physical activity is involved. Once the discussion ensues. to the one standing in the front.
In the daily grind and stress of everyday life. when they interact with a wellmannered person. even taking up an entire lifetime. as people get a sense of respect. you are not taking him or her seriously. Respect is the pillar that supports the bridge called relationship. A simple act of kindness can show your respect towards others. It also shows your lack of respect for the person. So. Do not stereotype other people. you come across as a narrow-minded person. as. This exercise helps improve the business communication skills of the participants and the ability to coordinate with one another How To Be Respectful Towards Others Treat others. Given below are tips to help you be more respectable towards others. Good manners are the essential quality to show respect. Good behavior automatically earns the respect of others. If you can earn the respect of your peers and fellows. not showing attention. he or she also won’t give any attention to you. makes the other person feel that. Then the speaker and listener can critically analyze and review each other’s performance. To put other peoples need before yours. A person may respect another because of fear but that is not true respect. no one else will respect you. This can be configured as lack of respect as the person may think that you do not consider him or her at par with you. To earn respect you must first. which will make him or her feel respected and so return the favor. cultivate good manners. This can also be followed by a swapping of roles among the two. as you want them to treat you. Showing kindness towards others is the best way to endear you to them. So. will convey your respect to others. The listener is supposed to interpret speaker’s content and offer solutions and feedback to the supervisor accordingly. Many a times. we have forgotten the moral obligation of respecting others so that we are also respected in turn. Respect can never be forced as it comes straight from the heart. Merely saying ‘please’ and ‘thank you’ doesn’t mean that you are being respectful. True respect only comes when you empathize with the other person. give respect and give it to yourself too. Tips To Be Respectful • • Be kind. Listen attentively and show interest in whatever is said. then it’s a life well lived as it is the hardest thing to get.and rephrase the speaker’s content. if you don’t respect yourself. the next time. you are stereotyping. • • . Stereotyping makes.
When you respect someone. Apologizing for your mistake. Once you start respecting the people. It is not only ill mannered. with the question ‘What if’ this or that happens. Don’t dictate or belittle anyone because of his or her background. You must show your understanding of his or her opinion. The fear of being dominated by the other person also develops. or loss of a loved one. religion. When you apologize for a mistake or a hurt you caused. like and dislikes. . As a result. This does not mean blindly follow whatever they say. you used to back bite or tease. It can be due to a traumatic childhood. you must also respect his choice and free will. So. The fear of intimacy can also be due to the fear of losing. How To Overcome The Fear Of Intimacy • The more you bottle up your fear of intimacy. is to face the fact that you have a fear of getting intimate with people.• • • Understand other peoples. don’t pressurize anyone to do something which he or she is not willing to do. rejection. To show respect. you will gradually develop the sense of respecting everyone. hurt. tease or backbite. the person withdraws into a shell. He or she is unable to develop a connection with other people and feels lonely and isolated. The fear of intimacy stems from the fear of getting hurt from a relationship. Given below are tips to help you overcome your fear of intimacy. or social status. • • • Overcoming Fear Of Intimacy The fear of intimacy is a psychological disorder that hinders a person from forming a relationship with another person. gives rise to the fear of intimacy. and not knowing how to cope later. the more it grows and the harder it becomes. Throw these out and you will feel respect for people. the first task in order to get over this fear. which leads to emotional stagnation. When you give priority to someone’s right to choose. conveys your sincere regret and the person will appreciate your sense of love and respect for him or her. to overcome. It is the other side of the fear of rejection. You cannot respect anyone whom you mock. you show him or her respect. The causes are varied. abusive relationship. emotional trauma. A person suffering from the fear of intimacy is always faced. a fear of getting intimate. So. This shows your commitment to them. can show how much you respect the other person. value other people’s opinion. This inability to act after the supposed betrayal. and steel yourself to come out of it. but also signals bad breeding. Hiding behind emotional barriers will only weaken you. and then present your reasons for agreement or disagreement.
Therefore. other than an understanding and honest partner. hiding nothing. Don’t be ashamed of yourself. This will help you to be transparent. Be honest. and gradually move on to the difficult. Stacking up . This is perhaps the only requirement. keeping nothing hidden. It is more than difficult to forget things and move on. to get over it. and so they gradually begin to develop a fear of getting intimate. so that you get your hidden fear out. Be honest to face your fear.• • Bare your heart to your partner. However. Develop a friendship with your partner. or simply go for a movie. That is why. Involve your partner in day-to-day activities. By talking. we are at your service. which they do not want other people to find out. • • • • • • How To Forgive And Forget When Someone Hurts You Dealing with hurt and anger is important and the one who is not able to do so ends up becoming a bitter person. or to a restaurant. Start from simple ones. fear. step by step. Share and exchange your thoughts and personal experiences. gardening. Go one. the fear tends to dissolve. Do things. Forgiving Someone Who Has Hurt You Forget What Happened Hostility and bitterness survives in people who find it difficult to forget the past. to overcome this fear a person must value his or her self. and experiences. Pardoning others and putting a hurtful incident off your mind needs to be worked upon. This shame for the self can cause people to develop a fear of intimacy. Most people with a fear of intimacy have a feeling of worthlessness. holding feelings of resentment can affect your peace of mind and ruin your happiness. since it doesn’t come easy. in between. at a time. In case you need some help in this regard. as if nothing has happened. by other people. in overcoming your fear of intimacy. Overcoming the fear of intimacy is a long process. as they are subconsciously ashamed to face others. where you both are compatible. which will give you self-satisfaction and a creative boost. and nurture those. Follow the article to find some tips on how to forgive and forget when someone has hurt you. Share and discuss your pain. The most difficult task is to get it out. no matter how important it is to do the same. Moving on in life is the key to forgetting the hurt caused to you. Seek out areas. Value yourself. deep down themselves. So don’t get disheartened and withdraw to your shell. and have a determination. like cooking. you can’t afford to let the anger remain within you.
especially if the person is close to you. forgiving and forgetting will become a lot more easier. intentionally or unintentionally. you will be able to put it out of your mind. and it makes them averse to communication. Realize That Everyone Is Human Realize that it is only human to make mistakes and most of us don’t hurt others intentionally. for all the comprehensible reasons. we are so infuriated and hurt over an incident that we do not allow the other person to buy time and come up with an apology when things cool down. it becomes easier to forgive him/her. Once you get a heart-felt apology from the person who has hurt you. it is important to remember that “the joy of revenge is only for a day. Many people tend to keep things to themselves. It is important to realize that conversation will allow the other person to offer an explanation for his/her hurtful behavior and help you overcome the same. Remind yourself that even you would have hurt others at one point of time. Therefore. How To Impress People Look around you and you would be surprised to find that even dorky-looking guys and gals can have the crowd eyeing them. Would you want others to hold that against you forever? Allowing others to apologize will save you from becoming bitter to them. but the glory of forgiving remains forever”. but cannot acquire .hard feelings for someone who has hurt you will not allow you to bury the hatchet and you will constantly find yourself dwelling on something that cannot be changed now. The choice is yours! Let Time Heal There are times when the hurt is simply impossible to forget. is to master the art of making the right impression. make sure that you do not shut down the lines of communication completely. even after you have forgiven the other person. look forward to the future and bury the bad memories of the past. for sadistic reasons. While some people believe that revenge is the sweetest joy. If you can accept this premise. It is a popular myth that people are only born with the gift or ability of impressing others. Communicate The Hurt Rather than holding a grudge and allowing it to thrive. to be the talk of the town. leave the healing on time. Wonder how? All that you need to do. Eventually. If forgetting a hurtful incident is impossible for you. Allow Others To Apologize Sometimes. Live in the present. Bitterness and bad memories pertaining to an incident will fade away with the passage of time. you should communicate your feelings to the one who has hurt you. never forget that time is the biggest healer. While moving on is easier said than done.
prefer to look like a prince/princess and talk like a scholar. the trick is to balance the bad emotions and act as if nothing bothers you at all. you would be the most-talked about person in the society. the one who is talked about the most is naturally impressive!! Balance Bad Emotions It is a well-accepted fact that the more you run away from unpleasant situations and people. your aura can make you the most arresting person in a crowd of hundred as well. However. but with a tinge of humor and wittiness added.the same. Get That Killing Look Ask anyone and you would know that looks do matter. Rather. the more you find yourself running into them. it's never about what happened. emotionally and psychologically and voila. Rather. intelligence and humor. And if someone denies the fact. to be impressive. In case you are still wondering how to impress people. Just being attractive or extremely genius is sure to goof up your persona. . And remember. which you can master by following the right tips. physically. This would give a tremendous boost to your personality and in no time. Instead. if you lack the other parts. but just an art. Remember. the best way to do so would be to learn to replace the words ‘I can't’ with ‘I can’. has unruly hair and scruffy looks! The only expression that comes to your mind is ‘aaghh’! Isn’t it? Remember. you would have people following you. you need to bear in mind that impressing others is no gift. did you know that it’s your very own aura that can make much of a difference in making you an impressive person? Believe it or not. Each one of us executes certain vibes to the people around. The secret is to radiate positive and healthy vibes and within the twinkling of an eye. One such tip is that you need to groom yourself. This would reflect much about your personality and make you a notable person wherever you go. having striking looks is the task half done. If you really want to impress someone. you need to have the right mix of beauty. you would be amazed to see people talking about you. it is always about your reaction towards what took place and how well you were able to cope with it. you need to look striking as well. However. Imagine meeting a person who is shabbily dressed. but when they open their mouth to speak. Impressing People Around You The Aura Much is said and discussed about the aura that each person has. For the other half. all you want to do is run away. Get that killing look and you would surely have the eyes rolling!! The Right Mix Most of you would agree to meeting a lot of people who look charming. the tips given below would surely be of help. Dare To Do Did you know that most people are bowled over by people who dare to ‘do’? Confused! Look around you and you would be surprised to find that almost every other person you meet has words like ‘can’t’ and ‘impossible’ in his/her vocabulary. know for sure that he/she is the biggest believer of the same. Remember.
financial. Work On Achieving The Goals Remove all the tasks. Make short term and long-term goals. Sometimes it can occur because of laziness. Procrastination is the habit of putting off any work to the last minute. Tips For Overcoming Procrastination Get A Goal The most important thing. Believe In Yourself . Take time and clear it out. It will clear your mindset and would not even take more than your ten minutes. Set a time for whatever chore you are taking for the day. which would help you reach your goal. health etc. It will help you stick to your program. Read on the article to know some practical tools to overcome it. which you have to do. to guilt. how the grasshopper wasted his time hopping and singing in the summer while the ants toiled and moiled. which you can do without and which will not obstruct you in reaching your goals.How To Overcome Procrastination You may remember the story of ants and grasshopper. In addition. when there was no food. relationship. which range from missed opportunities. Plan Your Day The best way to keep yourself away from procrastination is by planning the day. Make goals in various fields of your life. people don’t have the will to move ahead in life. if there are some works which you don’t like to do but are important in order to achieve your goal. which will keep you alert and away from procrastination. In addition. and even resentment. or because you want to escape something or at times you are too overwhelmed by a task that you put it off. Although almost every one of us procrastinate one or the other time in our life. There are various effects of procrastination. link those tasks to your goals. Most people procrastinate because they have no goals. stress. And how in winter. Does it sound like a familiar story and not because you have heard it over a million times but because you find the grasshopper as your alter ego. is to get clear ideas on what you want to do in life. It will motivate you to do the tasks and to reach your goals and you would be happy to do that afterwards. like career. the grasshopper found itself at the mercy of ants. Sometimes we procrastinate simply because we don’t have any schedule for the day. Keep your eyes on the things. Don’t make a very huge list as it might get too overwhelming for you. doing it on a regular basis can pose serious problems to your career and personal life. With no goals. the causes for procrastinating may or may not be same.
And that may put you off from the whole idea itself. . Even if you do procrastinate. Don’t Overdo It Don’t put too much pressure on yourself. You don’t have to be too hard on yourself. Challenging situations can leave you harassed. you would snap. as it will keep you in for long haul. Respect Your Values Almost every one of us wants to do several things. have a clear idea about your values and then use them as a navigational compass in all the decisions you make. and if you are too hard on yourself. will provide better results and will not overwhelm you. As the habit of not procrastinating will take time to cultivate. Stick to your time management but allow for little cheats. that we don’t even know when we start getting frustrated and take unnecessary stress. Break Down Big Tasks Breaking down big tasks in smaller components would help you concentrate on that particular task for the moment. but actually how many of us do it? The problem is that we don’t respect ourselves and we don’t respect our values. only positive thinkers know how to overcome the most testing of situations. Follow your inner desires and success would follow you. you won’t be able to do much. discouraged and feeling negative. However. the tough gets going’ and the driving force behind tough souls is a positive thinking mind. you wouldn’t have walked because of the fear of falling. Take Breaks Take breaks when you feel less motivated and are tired. Break down the big tasks but schedule it in your time limit so that you don’t spend too much time on a smaller task. Delete the ‘impossible’ word out of your dictionary and remember that you can do it. Read on and know how to become a positive thinker. recognize that you are doing it and thrive to change it. you wouldn’t have been able to walk itself. The article brings you some exercises and activities which will help you to think optimistic. Sometimes we get too involved in a thing. Have faith in your abilities and the power to turn things around. First. frustrated. If in childhood. Remember that failure is just a stepping-stone to success. Unless you believe in yourself. which will improve your working ability. This will keep you focused. Positive Thinking Exercises It has been rightly said that ‘when going gets tough.The most important thing to achieve success is the belief in oneself. Problems in life are generic and affect everyone in almost the same way.
Believe In Yourself Most negative thinkers are those who suffer from a lack of self belief and continue to nurse doubts about their abilities. but keeping yourself happy is completely a matter of choice. Meditation Meditation is one of the simplest. The moment you start forgiving yourself. Forgive Yourself Remember that you are human too! It is important to realize that you don’t run the world and there are things beyond your control as well. you will begin to feel positive. Inspire Yourself It is important to inspire yourself. Write inspirational quotes and place them at your office desk or at home. which probably requires the least effort on your part. Listen to inspirational songs when you are driving and lift up your spirits. Just sit in a comfortable chair and listen to soothing music or perform deep breathing exercises that are good for relaxing your mind. There is no denying the fact that you will keep finding yourself in trying circumstances. you will automatically think positive. .Activities For Positive Thinking Early Morning Walk An early morning walk can be of immense help in keeping you in a positive frame of mind throughout the day. which can occasionally go wrong. It will work as a great stress buster and ward off any negative emotions trying to overpower your mind. Try To Forget Negative reminiscences of something that has passed over and can’t be changed now can take you down the memory lane and hamper a forward-looking positive approach. more so from your successes in the past. Make sure that you take a walk early in the morning and take time out to appreciate the beauty of nature. It is also the only thing. Be Happy The easiest way to think positive is to be happy. If you are in a happy state of mind. Confidence and self-assurance is the cornerstone of positive thinking and you will notice the difference instantly. Holding yourself responsible for everything is not going to alter a situation for the better. where you get a chance to read them as often as you can. yet the most powerful techniques to foster positive thinking. to conquer any negativity in your mind. once you build faith in yourself. The best part is that you don’t have to necessarily meditate in a static body posture. Forgetting the negatives of life encourages positive thinking. Always remember that one should remember only the good things of the past and drop the bad memories from the mental landscape.
Write them down on a book or in a laptop. it is cultivated and it is never too late to cultivate it. you will never have confidence in him and better say you are off without him. Treat yourself with the same approach. You imagine yourself as an epitome of talent and virtue. Be kind to yourself with your words and actions. Confidence Building Exercises • • • • • Imagine yourself as the perfect person. Focus on the positive things about yourself. you can use confidence-building techniques to increase and enhance your confidence. Would you want him to operate on you? The answer certainly is ‘no’ by all means. unless he is confident. So what are you waiting for? Go on read for yourself the techniques for confidence building. which you want to achieve. Never let you down in any case. When you reach a • • • . Just refer it again and again when you feel so frustrated. There is nothing wrong in accepting the compliments from others. Now come to think of it. Nobody is by birth a confident man/woman. If you feel you lack in confidence. you pamper him and convince him that he didn’t commit any. imagine yourself as the wise man on earth. we would not be able to achieve anything in our life. Never think of yourself as a loser or a joker. Analyze those qualities from roots. Use positive motivational quotes from the good books you have ever read. This is the greatest teaching of Zen.Confidence Building Techniques Imagine a scene where you are on an operation table and the doctor who is doing your surgery is bathed with sweats and is wobbly with apprehensions. Self-confidence is of utmost importance in every aspect of our lives and unless we are confident. A person without confidence is like a ship without a captain. are you like the wobbly doctor? Do you struggle to take decisions? If yes. Gracefully accept the compliments of others. confident person would have handled the situation? Study your favorite personalities and analyze their activities and behavior pattern and act like them. You never want to hurt your best friend. Do not hurt yourself by complaining about your weakness and negative traits. Even though the doctor may be very experienced and good. You already have things. Think about how a wise. Just make a list of positive traits. Your subconscious gets designed in a positive way when you accept the compliments from others. and find out what a beautiful personality you are. Treat yourself as if you were your own best friend. When you are feeling very less confident. Even if he does a mistake. then you might as well be suffering from lack of self-confidence.
Most of news. It also requires a great deal of planning and scheduling the next day’s routine. sent to school. fun. • • • • • How To Avoid Being Rushed In The Morning The knack of parenting does not come easily. praise yourself to the Himalayan heights. for a long’s days work. Imagine your life is already fulfilled and full of joy. • • Praise yourself million times a day if possible. If you can think of your imagination as the reality. A strong physique is the foundation of good mind. and music. Don’t be too pushy on success. in the night. you can find in any newspaper are negative. Then it’s the turn of the parents to eat. • Set out shoes. which is designed to shock you. Schedule and start off a routine when the kids are still young. gloves. . Tips To Avoid The Morning Rush • Prepare all the clothes and outfits for yourself and your children before hitting the pillow. News is polished version of facts. Always keep a lot of friends. The morning alarm signals the start of a race for most of the parents. calm and joyful beginning. So avoid the habit of reading the newspaper in night before you sleep. There is a saying “look for the silver lining in every cloud” which means see positive traits in whatever happens even if that is a negative thing in a normal sense.higher level of confidence. It is better to make your mornings a smooth drive rather than a mad dash. Explore this article to know tips on how to avoid being rushed in the morning and route your day to a smooth. You will feel more contented and relaxed. This will prepare your children to assist you in the growing years. Do not watch. you don’t need other’s compliments to feel contented. Practice meditation and yoga. to breeze out the process of getting ready in the morning. Do some weight training exercises and build yourself a good physique. recall the entire positive experiences of the day. etc. Never shut the door to people. it gradually turns into reality. The children are to be fed and dressed. Instead of exposing yourself to bad news. hair accessories. It comes with a detailed course of action that is to be followed regularly. Try to help others honestly. Whenever you achieve a minor goal. dress and set off to the office. or read the news just before bed. coats. listen to.
It is only those people who stand . Pen down the duties and divide them among the family members. to reminder you of the same in the morning. It totally depends on you whether you want to be just another face in the crowd or stand out as strong independent character. This will help manage each child’s routine and keep everyone move along and keep the pace. Prepare the office briefcase in the evening. This statement is true for each and every aspect of life. This will give you more time to do the necessities and make you fell less hurried. Start your morning with some upbeat music to keep you on your toes. in case one of them has a habit of staggering in the bathroom. In every stream of life there are millions of people struggling to carve a niche for themselves. notebooks and other supplies in the night itself. Lack of sleep will make you sluggish and not help getting up in the morning. Be sure that you and your family members are well-rested by calling the night early. Have your children get up at different times. particularly during a gathering or discussion. Remember “Early to bed. fill them up before going to bed and do not leave them for the morning. it is vital to take the lead. Get up early and before the rest of family members. In case any forms are to be filled in. to clear up your head. Once you are sure about your opinions. to save time and the frustration of searching for the things in the morning. early to rise makes a person healthy and wise”. Pack your children’s bags in the night. Discuss the short-cuts to ease the burden of time constraints. papers. but will also be able to bring a change with your thoughts and ideas. wallet and cell phones and make a habit of keeping them at that place only. you will not only be able to move ahead in life. Pen down all the necessary things to do on a sticky note. This will enable you to start the day with a few peaceful and quiet moments and help you tackle the needs of others. Charge your cell phones the night before. to avoid rushing in the morning. you should be focused and extremely determined and should have a strong mind set. This way. Put in their lunch money.• • • Designate one place to keep your keys. • • • • • • • • How To Lead A Discussion It is often said that if you want to make yourself heard and your presence felt. Set your alarm 15 minutes before the regular time. For this. then only will you be able to voice out your thoughts and convince people regarding the same.
We have provided some very interesting tips on how you can lead a discussion and progress in life. while facing the crowd. which allows the listeners to follow up with answers or further questions. Nobody should give blank statements. based on evidences and verifications provided by the members. The main idea is for a constructive solution after a prolonged period of discussion. the more confident you will feel. Judge the pros and cons of every side. do your homework well and explore the topic of discussion in detail. without grounds to explain them. These questions should always be open-ended in nature. • • • How To Achieve Success . The more you know about the subject matter. In case you want to be one of them. the more perfect you get with your presentation.up for their beliefs and rights who bring about a change in the society. Particularly emphasize on the quieter participants and try to get them involved as much as the other members. give a summary or conclusion for the discussion. to shoot at the participants. • The phrase “practice makes a man perfect” would probably sound like a cliché to some. Leading Group Discussions • Whether in school or at office. one after the other. read on. You can even have an imaginary presentation. Finally. you should frame the correct questions for the participants. • • As a leader. You can even use a recorder to visualize how you present yourself and how much more you have to improve. Jot down the important things or make a mental note and find out all the probable questions that you would probably face during the discussion. Apart from the big questions. To start a discussion and keep it going. to keep the fire within the discussion burning. wherein you make your speech in front of an imaginary crowd. Try to infuse arguments. the discussion should also have several smaller ones for each main question. Try to find a balance between the different types of personalities and give every person involved in the discussion a chance to speak out his or her thoughts. but history has proved it time and again that the more you practice. Make it a point that everybody gives proper reason and backup for his or her opinions. as this is the only way you can come to meaningful conclusions. They should never be limited to ones that can be answered by a simple “yes” or “no”. Such people are able to do so only because they can forward their thoughts among millions of others and lead discussions. you should be well prepared with a list of questions.
True success lies in reaching your goals. Flexibility is needed in order to allow you to keep yourself open to changes that come along with changed circumstances. be like a horse with blinkers and look straight ahead at your goal. Creativity is needed in order to make the best of the changed circumstances. Trying to aim for the moon will only result in failure. but taking care of your health will ensure that you are in good shape to pursue success. driving the latest cars. the lives of many people have proves that success is more than just materialism and the quest for wealth. The following steps will help you understand what you would need to do in order to be a successful person. you will find that the obstacles become more difficult to surmount. and to turn them around and use them to create a new path to help you reach your goals. Steadfastness is required here in order that you do not give up once obstacles come your way. You might have to change your plans or the way that you wanted to work towards a goal. Ensure that you get proper food. Build your long term goals upon the short term ones. you do not need to trample on others in order to reach out to success. If the road to success gets rough. your attitude counts a lot. To this end. There will definitely be obstacles in your path to success. make sure that these are practical. without wavering. There might be a lot of things that come in the way of reaching your goals. Read on to know how to achieve success. However. Therefore. staying positive will help you be more successful in the end. and adequate sleep. Viewing your goals as a chore will not lead to success. you would need to be creative as well as flexible. Be committed towards your goals. Contrary to a prevalent attitude. When you set goals. it is essential to communicate well and effectively. Things may not always work out the way you wanted them to. Tips To Be Successful • Have goals – long-term goals as well as short-term ones. Goals and the path to success cannot be trodden upon singlehandedly. Be focused on your goals. However. This will help you greatly when dealing with others. which might make you stray off course. Look after your physical and emotional health. When you approach your goals to success.What does success really mean to you? To many. good exercise. and filling their homes with the latest gadgets. Have a list of short-term goals (for the day or for the week) and work towards achieving them. This might seem to be a strange tip. Some visualize themselves in huge mansions. the words success invokes the idea of dollar signs glinting before their eyes. If you have a negative attitude. Be positive. defining who you are by what you choose in life. • • • • • • • How To Be Assertive Without Being Arrogant .
no matter what. Your insolence can make you feel alone. The plain dichotomization between assertiveness and arrogance is that assertive people climb the ladder without stepping on other people’s rights and arrogant people simply fail to see that others exist. There is a bright possibility that you may come across as arrogant. Tips To Be Assertive Without Being Aggressive Use Assertive Communication Appropriately Those who are not assertive don’t speak their usual self and those who are. it makes sense to keep your options open. The dividing line between the two can appear to be very thin. who do not possess this brazenness. if you don’t want to be written off as an aggressive freak. in certain circumstances. which is deemed appropriate. Be humble and civil with others in your dealings. tend to over do it at times. rather than incessantly locking horns with others by being too assertive. often brand assertiveness as a mere reflection of superciliousness. However. you don’t want this to happen. Identify such situations and be willing to work for a compromise when required. some insecure people. benefits more than hoisting your own flag. Listen to others. ‘Being polite yet firm’ is the golden rule and you would do well to remember that. You will find some valuable tips on how to balance your aggression and be assertive without being arrogant or pushy. Assertiveness is a remarkably positive trait and selfassured people are sure to succeed. Be An Active Listener Being assertive is not only about conveying your point across in a firm way. Be Modest & Unassuming Modesty and an unassuming demeanor gel very well with assertiveness. rudeness coupled with assertiveness is naturally seen as arrogance. where you have to communicate your needs without bending. Reaching a compromise. It is such a fine combination that you would never be associated with elitism and snobbery.Being assertive is often equated with being arrogant and bigheaded. sometimes. The idea is to strike a fine balance and use your assertive communication skills in a manner. Look For A Middle Path There are certain situations where it becomes imperative to work out a middle path. at least in the professional arena. Only you can tame your over aggressiveness. read on. It doesn’t imply that you are giving others a chance to convince you when you have to be assertive. Those who don’t listen to what others have to say epitomize arrogance in the most apparent way. which is very important to succeed. but stand solid on your position. Imagine if the other party is as forceful and pushy as assertive are you! Under such circumstances. In case. Conversely. You have to guard against this tendency. it also involves listening to the other party patiently. . It’s just that others should not feel that you are self-absorbed and only concerned with yourself. almost blurred.
Hence. Ask Questions Prepare some questions in advance. give your introduction. Space out your questions well. they will feel that you are interrogating them and this can result in closed off relationships. Observe people carefully and put in more questions. Listen well. guard against offending others and try to be modest and gracious. meaningful and entertaining conversation. Do not think too much about yourself and what the person might be thinking about you. Be sure to ask them politely and do not sound like a stalker. Read on and know how to have a great conversation. Practice Active Listening Skills . rather than convincing them to get interested in you. Do not hesitate to compliment him/her as it can prove to be beneficial in terms of beginning a talk. smile and ask questions that probe answers. Having A Good Conversation First Impression As said. It just requires a little knowledge. shake hands and focus on the conversation. once the wrong shot has been fired. Forget Yourself Get yourself interested in people. These topics often result in limitless conversation and reveal about the character of a person. first impression is the last impression. Simply relax. Be friendly. else. Make the right movements and noises to specify that you are listening and very much involved in the conversation. They often lead to personal stories and anecdotes. speak politely and maintain good eye contact. Following are some tips that could prove beneficial for a good. Other Person’s Interest Study and research on some significant points about the person with whom you would be conversing. Compliments can prove to be ice-breakers. How To Have A Great Conversation The art of conversation has very little to do with talking. practice and patience to converse effectively with anyone. Conversations give you an excellent opportunity to learn from the speakers. more than just a yes or no. It is more concerned about listening as well listing. in advance. conversation is all about understanding what your partner is trying to say and convey to you.as no one will one come to your rescue. Listen Listening to the speaker forms the most significant part of any conversation. In other words.
Know When The Conversation Is Over Every conversation has an end to it. Use significant points from other people’s talk in your speech. not completely truthful. calculating. Ask Clarifying Questions If you find the topic of the conversation is interesting and appealing. This will help you better your understanding and affirm it. ‘I see’. However. . Use Your Words To Paraphrase Back What You Have Heard Conversation happens in a process wherein each person is given a chance to listen and then speak up or respond. At the same time. the best way to win an argument is to win the person as well and not to out-argue them. you need to build good eye contact and make comments wherever required. ruthless. which suggest that the reader should be rough. Some even suggest that the best way to win an argument is to irritate the opponent into exaggerating. you would be knocking down their communication blocks to the point where communication can occur – and you have won the argument. likes. and. and then trapping them. dislikes. For this. By using the following tips. Judge Your Response Before Disagreeing Do not disagree on a point merely to set apart yourself. You find a person interesting only when he/ she is a bit like you and a bit different from you. How To Win An Argument Have you found yourself in a situation where you are confronted by an angry person.When you listen. do not end up agreeing on everything as well. make sure that the person also knows that you are listening. Mention that you would be delighted to talk to them over time. Remember to smile while leaving and end on a positive note. who reminds you of a bull in a Spanish bull-fighting arena? He/she seems to be breathing fire down your neck and there’s nothing you can say or do that would stop them from jumping down your throat each time you open your mouth. ‘that’s interesting’. Do Not Panic Over Lulls When a particular topic has taken exit. You can use phrases like ‘yes’. etc to tell them that you are involved in the conversation and are not diverted. Take interest in knowing about the person and his/ her hobbies. put forward questions to clarify about their thinking and feeling. to let them know that you had been actually listening. etc. oftentimes. So how do you win an argument? There are many write-ups available for reading. use the time gap to think over and introduce a new topic or put in a question based on the previous conversation. to leave a good impression on the other person.
never take things personally.Ways To Win Arguments Tips And Tricks Start Off With The Right Attitude Do not start off trying to prove yourself right and your opponent wrong. but that you are right. is to know how to say ‘No’ and more importantly. when you do not accept the verbal attack. The article brings you some very useful tips. if you do not accept the gift. not by means of a frontal attack. You cannot win an argument with resistance. when to say ‘No’. This will make both of you more deeply fixed on your own views. It’s similar to verbal martial arts. If a person gets you a gift and offers it to you. don’t concentrate on bandying words. so as to meet the requests made by others to them. as they compromise on their own priorities. which will help you to learn when to say ‘No’ . not that he/she is wrong. There are many people who simply can’t say ‘No’ to anyone’s request. The other person’s resolve will only be strengthened further and the argument will never end. The key to succeed in meeting our priorities dot on time and not bother ourselves with other people’s work when we really don’t want to. Remember that the best battles are won. rather than aiming to convince the other person that you are right. Aim To Reach A Goal Aim to reach a goal. Therefore. Just repeatedly deflect the person’s arguments back to him/her. If you wish to win the argument at any cost. Do Not Retaliate No matter what happens. no matter who was the more dominant arguer. You would also want to convince the other person. This is about getting your opponent to shut up – and then using the facts with logic to win the argument. Focus on the other person’s behavior and words. the sting of the attack wears off. do not retaliate. This gets them into rough waters quite often. they will still own the item that they purchased for you. Imagine a person who is in a boxing ring and swinging his arms around trying to hit out at you – but you are not there fighting him. but what is even more difficult is to determine when to say ‘No’. then the price you might have to pay is your relationship with the other person. Similarly. Never attack – when they attack you just redirect the attack back to them. How To Learn When To Say No Saying ‘No’ can be a very difficult thing to do. you’re right you will most often end up provoking the other person. Use Strategy If you try to prove that. Since the goal is to win the arguments. Also. go in for an entirely different goal. let the arguer run out of steam and then handle the situation. He will get tired after a while. but by means of strategy. Similarly.
In the professional arena. If you think that the concerned person is in a capacity to the job that he/she is entrusting upon you. How To Take A Compliment Since you have landed on this article. A ‘No’ should always be polite. it is the time to firmly refuse to oblige him/her. However. which you can’t compromise on. You need to ensure that you are not taken advantage of.Learning When To Say No See Your Convenience While it may sound a little self-centered. you simply can’t say ‘No’ in a crude manner. This is a common problem with most of us. Determine Whether You Are Really Needed If your mind is not conditioned to know when you are indispensable. you will have to train your mind to learn that. If you can conveniently help others at the expense of some of your time. it . instead of saying ‘No’ right on the face of a senior. get on with your work without a second thought. it only pitches in your priorities. but finds it difficult to accept them. you should certainly consider helping the other person. if they know that you find it difficult to say ‘No’. Do what you possibly can for others. Be polite and gracious when refusing something and you will never fall in anybody’s bad books. Somewhere down the line. is also the criterion to decide whether its’ time to say ‘No’. it is obvious that you are a sweet person who receives compliments. People will try hard to convince you to get their job done. if you think that you don’t have the required time for others. Factoring in your convenience is not to say that you should abstain from helping or saying ‘Yes’ to others. You have been observing since long that people always take it other way round. you should always go ahead. disallowing you to heed to his/her request. In fact. it has to be the key if you don’t want to upset the tasks on your agenda. On the contrary. you can simply cite some other tasks that you have at hand. when you react to their compliment. Determining whether you are really needed for a particular task or not. You will also need others once in a while. Learning How To Say ‘No’ As much as learning when to say ‘No’ is important. When you know that the other person is simply taking advantage of your feebleness in saying ‘NO’. for any of your random jobs. unless your intention is to deliberately snap back at the other person. if you think that you are really needed in a particular situation and it just can’t work without you. learning how to say it is equally vital. but know where the threshold is. Don’t Let Others Take Advantage Of You Some people just make it a habit to fall back on others for their tasks and people who are ‘pushovers’ are obviously the softest targets around. there is no reason why he/she can’t be refused.
We are here to help you out on the task of how to take compliments gracefully and bring sunshine in your life. It should also make the other person feel that you have accepted it whole-heartedly and value it. else it will depict as if you don’t believe in the compliment or aren’t confident about it. it will confuse the admirer and make you come across as a rude person. Taking A Compliment Gracefully • The first and foremost thing to do when you are complimented is to acknowledge it. You can also say that the compliment means a lot to you or something along the same lines. who might not be looking as great as you are. When someone compliments you. The two words. don’t change the topic. but never focus on how much you shelled out to buy that one. If you are complimented upon the way you are dressed. avoid doing it. Be confident (you can blush too.always comes across as either you lack confidence or are a proud person. ‘Thank You’ come out very genuinely and make the other person feel that you have accepted the compliment. To gain confidence. Never give a sarcastic grunt or an eye-roll. Avoid looking here and there. practice receiving compliments in mirror and saying thanks with smile. So. This is taken as an insult by the person who is giving the compliment and he/ she will definitely re-think before complimenting you in future. This will only show that you are too self-obsessed. So quickly brush up with the tips given below and be a dear amongst all. Make an eye contact and give a smile. if you have received a compliment for your good work or the accomplishment of a task. by infusing a negative remark. egoistic and impolite person. Your body posture should not over shadow your confidence. Don’t argue with your admirer or compare yourself with another person. This will again reflect you as a negative person and close doors for further compliments. Compliments should make you feel special and bring a smile on your face. don’t let the other person know how bad you have felt about it. Avoid the temptation of bragging about yourself. Never do the mistake of underestimating yourself. acknowledge it and initiate the conversation by letting them know the place you bought it from or how great the shop was. This will go extremely rude and depict you as proud. especially when you are receiving a compliment. Immediately say ‘thank you’ with a kind smile and it will turn into a compliment. • • • • • • • • • . when you receive a compliment. Even if you feel that the compliment is in a sarcastic tone. as it is considered highly rude. if the compliment is from someone you love or admire). without acknowledging it. after you have taken the compliment.
These can encourage the speaker to convey his point further to you. Choose proper solutions for overcoming these barriers and ensure that the messages are well conveyed. Look at the vocal tone of the speaker. Make an impression on the speaker that you are interested in his speech. let the speaker complete and then give your feedback or opinion. You can ask brief questions in between his conversation. The common environmental barriers include TV or music system. which will help you in many walks of life. Make your environment free of barriers that can cause a hindrance in the proper communication system. to know his mood. We bring you some effective tips how to improve effective listening skills. Interference will only make the speaker frustrated and lose the track of what he was saying. Remember that your task is to be an • • • • • • . says Wilson Mizner. It is an effective tool in building up a relationship. be careful not to use these expressions to start a speech from your end. Improving Your Listening Skills • • Pay proper attention to what the speaker wants to convey. Show appropriate actions that go well with the conversation. etc. rather than conveying your own view point. Smile wherever necessary and show gestures like holding hands or offering a hug. Free your mind from all other things and concentrate only on what he wants to say. you can help him focus on his message. rather than indulging in finding debatable issues in the conversation. First. Listening skills can also be developed and nurtured during the life time. conversation among other groups. to get this positive trait in you. You need to listen to the speaker. but after a while he knows something”. Avoid pseudo-listening and try to actually focus on what the speaker has to say. Always remember to maintain eye contact with the speaker. Concentrate on the words of the speaker. Avoid your temptation to interrupt in the middle of the conversation. In case the speaker looks tired and exhausted. as a listener. Read on and practice the tips consistently. Listening is a skill that not many a people are gifted with. You can use such verbal expressions like “I understand what you mean”. which will make him feel that you are actually listening to him. However. Suppose the speaker is angry. be patient and lend a listening ear. Proper listening enables a person to know and understand the matter efficiently.How To Improve Listening Skills “A good listener is not only popular everywhere. Always wear a positive body language towards the speaker. sound of moving vehicles. An effective listener is equally praiseworthy as a powerful speaker. Let him vent out his feelings and relax himself.
you would be lonelier than ever before. humans have this innate quality of discovering whether a person is real or fake. from being ineffectual. it would be worth the wait. Having sound social skills is extremely important in the present times. Ideally. but believe me. you might just turn out to be the ‘apple’ of the social meets. remember. Just strike a delicate . Improving Social Skills Be Yourself Only when you are your own self do you feel comfortable. you can use expansion statements like “This is very interesting”. Be Open & Approachable Imagine talking to a person who is an absolute introvert or extrovert! Extremes of personality often turn off people. given to the fact that interaction and conversation forms the basis for everything we do. Just focus on qualities listed below and who knows. does everyone possess social skills? Most of the people do not know the art of speaking. This will be highly inspiring and encouraging for the speaker. It is very important for you to know what to do and how to behave in a social gathering. Find out the points on which you mutually agree with the speaker and present them occasionally in between the conversation. Remember. A person behaving in an undesirable and unacceptable manner is usually avoided by people. It would take some time. While being too shy and withdrawn is enough to repel people immediately. we have provided tips on how to improve social skills. trust me. a human being is a social animal. you cannot be perfect overnight. rather than proving yourself to be a winner in a debate competition. This will encourage the speaker to further elaborate on the conversation How To Improve Your Social Skills They say. there are others who lack confidence and yet others who do not havep98 mannerism and etiquettes. just for you. In case you pretend to be someone you are not. it is not the end of the world. And it is when you are in utmost comfort that you indulge in free conversation and interaction. If you also face difficulty in interacting. Be Responsible One of the vital components of social interaction is to know that art of carrying yourself. being too loud and outgoing would not do much good either. So. You can improve your social skills by just putting in a little effort. In the following lines. • At the end of the conversation. Do not change your inner self for anything in the world. you should have a fusion of both the characters. While some are just inept and incompetent.effective listener. be responsible for your actions and act according to the situation. but the question is. However.
the trick is to be an attentive listener and people would definitely talk to you. Be it a business meeting. If you want to arm yourself with all the tips on how to make a great first impression. oozing confidence and a winning smile are some of the determining factors for making a striking first impression. If you would have attended a social gathering. It would speak miles about your manners. Be Attentive The art of listening is a stepping stone for conversation and interaction. Be Aware It is very important to be aware and observant of people’s behavior. It sheds off all the apprehensions and nervousness and gives a good impression. Making A Strong First Impression Right on Time . Great styling. the first impression would go a long way in establishing and imprinting your position in the mind of the person you are meeting. just move on to the next topic. As such. it is very necessary that you create a great impact. keep reading the article. For instance. sugarcoating the truth is very necessary at times. impressive conduct. personality and confidence. Be Polite Being humble and down-to-earth is an excellent way to break the ice. Alas! Not many have it in them. the first date or the first day at work. While being honest and forthright definitely pays. Do not confront everything to someone you have just met. Apart from being polite. do not interrupt or chip in a piece of advice or suggestion just when the other person is in the middle of a subject. close your ears and numb your senses at the time of interacting. “first impression is the last impression”. So. Also. has struck a note in the minds of all people alike. If he looks uncomfortable or is simply disinterested. Do not shut your eyes.balance between both the personalities and you would be the ‘star’ of the social gathering. How To Make A Great First Impression The phrase. Be Cautious It is advisable to keep your senses active. In case he/she is not interested in talking to you completely. Keep a keen eye on who are your friends and who are your enemies. you will know that everyone wants to talk. it is also advisable to be diplomatic. but no one is ready to listen. so that the person has positive feelings or thoughts of you. watch if the person you are talking to is comfortable with the specific topic. the best bet would be to move out of the scene. which is why most of us long to make a great first impact on people.
untidy clothes and messy hair-do is enough to make you look under confident and sheepish! Impressive Introduction While looks would create the 50% of the first impression. grooming and styling should be the mantra for you. Remember. Plan your day in such a way that you reach the assigned location.confusion and nervousness!! To avoid such a scenario. In such a case. if you want to create an impressive impression. making you look all the more stunning and stylish. even he/she is meeting you for the first time. so apprehensions and nervousness would be common between the two of you. However. a warm smile can shed off all the initial apprehensions and make both of you at ease. it is very necessary to project appropriate body language. So. Just be Yourself Most of the people go way beyond their individuality to create a good first impression. do not go overboard and laugh with your mouth open. standing tall with the head held high. the trick is to smile and win the heart and mind of the other person. If you are projecting your own personality to the person you are meeting. Style Yourself Well Believe it or not. . However. at least 5 to 10 minutes prior to the preset time. keep the nervousness locked in your cupboard. chances are that the two of you barely know each other. the other person would automatically feel relaxed. Small things like eye contact. Result . you would be utmost confident and completely at ease. a winning smile and a firm handshake would talk a lot about your personality and the person you are. with all the details. the rest depends on how impressive is your introduction. Make sure your hair-do serves as an add-on to your look. the deal is to be yourself. (I’m sure the other person does not want to know how many teeth you have or how big your tonsils are!!) Oozing Confidence Did you know that your body language contributes more than 90% of your communication? Thus. going clean shaven is a must. Make sure that the attire you are wearing gives a boost to your personality. it would be best if you start off with a bang. And if you are calm and confident. Dress appropriately before stepping out of the house. Here. Since you are meeting a person for the first time. Remember.Imagine meeting a person for the first time and opening your introduction with a sorry or an excuse for being late? What a loser you would look like! Being on time is the first step towards making a great first impression. do not lengthen it. Nothing can be more depressing than to meet a person who is dressed up without a smile. An impressive introduction is one that is short and crisp. Remember. wear a scowl and have wrinkles”. Remember. the first look can go a long way in making an impressive first impression. Winning Smile George Eliot rightly said “Wear a smile and have friends. For men. Smartly introduce yourself and fill in the other person with all the necessary details that he/she should know about.
Remember. This would not only help you understand the other person’s point of view. communication should be carefully conducted. As such.Chivalry at Best Do we need to elucidate on this point? Needless to say. you are here to create a good impression on the person you are meeting and not on the person whom you are talking to!! Positive Communication Techniques Did you know that communication is the key to opening the doors of success and victory? However. Listening sets the base for any communication and it is when your listen attentively that perfect communication takes place. Talking in a common language is best advised.first.switch off your mobile while you are with the person. For those of you who want to arm themselves with all the information about positive communication techniques. the results are far from being positive. Words that mean good in our language need not necessarily mean the same in other language. most of the times. Starting On Positive Note Starting your communication on a positive note sets the pace for effective messages later on. creating the best first impression. men and chivalry should go hand in hand. In such circumstances. Do not interrupt a person while talking. you not only build a healthy relationship. Sometimes. Positive Communication Skills Proper Attention Being attentive is one of most vital components to engage in positive communication. Respect & Kindness . Correct Translation In case you are talking to a person who comes from a different country or follows a different language. thereby disrupting the whole process of communication. try to introduce positive words in your communication and second. people do not engage in healthy communications. This can be done if you follow two simple tips . Good manners and courteous behavior lay the foundation for any relationship. but also make way for better communication. Effective communications are those that bring in positive results. A rule of the thumb . However. it is best to translate the information in a language that the receiver can interpret correctly. but also formulate the right opinion. such messages make way for easier learning. reading this article is a great idea. negative or corrective messages are necessary to communicate. communicate in a way that it leads to positive outcomes. when topped with healthy doses of positive comments. It makes the communicator lose the trail of thoughts. This way.
Well Timed Communication By this. Such communications do not result in a positive outcome. As such. Right Body Language Did you know that almost 90% of the communication is done by your body? Sounds unbelievable. The magnetic qualities that a successful speaker possesses draw the masses towards him/her.Every individual is an entity and has opinions and view of his own. For instance. Do not compel the other person to agree to your school of thought. making it extremely unconstructive and pessimistic. Playing the blame game would take you nowhere. it is best advised to respect each other's viewpoints and opinions. when two individuals communicate. No Blame Game It is very important not to play the blame game. you can only indulge in positive communication when both the speaker and the listener are in a calm mood. Use tact and good judgment to come to a common solution. hands and body posture communicate more than you ever thought. Remember. it is normal to face a situation wherein there is a difference of opinion. while you are in a conversation. How To Be A Good Speaker It is certainly a great honor to be heard by people and only a good speaker can manage to bring that honor upon him/her. which is why it becomes crucial to time the communication well. The article gives some excellent tips on how to become a good speaker and enthrall your audience. we mean that the time and the place of communication should be proper. not everyone is endowed with these attributes and this is where the tips given below will come handy. In such circumstances. imagine you are in an important board meeting and someone suddenly yawns – it’s a perfect give away that he/she is bored to death. Arrange for the time that is favorable for both of you and a place that allows positive communication between the two of you. is a shining example of phenomenal oration skills. but it is true!! Your eyes. who has continued to win laurels for his tremendous potential as a speaker. Become A Good Speaker Sound Sincere With What You Say . However. Pose forward a right body language and you would surely have the most positive communication. It negates chances of positive things in the communication.S president Barack Obama. It is not feasible to have important discussion in the middle of a hallway or office corridor or around nosy co-workers. The present U.
Hitting the nail right on the head is all about being able to convey your thoughts and make the audience feel what you are saying. just like a good professor. to keep the audience amused. Performance anxiety is also called ‘choking’ by some people. Apart from the novices. a drab content will soon wither away the interest of the audience. One of the greatest qualities a good speaker should posses is the ability to modulate his/her voice to for effect. If you already know the subject you have to speak on. Learn To Modulate Your Voice Every word that one says carries a different emotion and these emotions need to be transmitted to the audience in an expressive way. Holding the interest of the audience for long is a great art that can be perfected over time. will always go prepared for the speech. This habit can be very off-putting for the audience and the speaker will fail to garner enough attention for himself/herself. A good speaker. People appreciate knowledgeable speakers and delivering substantial and interesting information will hold you in high esteem with your listeners. The key to appear sincere is to speak in a conversationalist tone. Voice modulation may call for some practice. Exploit your confidence to the limit and maintain constant eye contact with the audience. but it can be easily mastered over time. to strike a chord with your audience. People will pay heed to what you are saying. in all likeliness.Sincerity in your words tops the order among the attributes of a good speaker. content is extremely important to stand out as someone who is intently heard by his/her audience. Excellent speakers are those who are not just good orators. as far as performing in front of an audience is . try to cultivate an insight into the subject and expand your knowledge base. You need to make the session interesting by adding a dash of humor in your content. Add Humor To Your Content No matter how great an orator you are. but in the eyes of the person or the group they are addressing. Maintain Eye Contact With The Audience The golden rule to be a successful speaker is to maintain eye contact with the audience all through your speech. as you speak. you are suffering from performance anxiety.to-day life. Cultivate Knowledge On The Subject For a good speaker. An excellent content laced with humor and an equally witty disposition to carry it off will work as icing on the cake. as if you are talking to your audience. for a good speaker. it can grip even those who own a wealth of experience. but also come across as genuine. if they feel you are for real. Speak in a way you talk to people in your day. How To Get Rid Of Performance Anxiety If you begin to sweat profusely and tremble at the very thought of your scheduled performance. A lot of people have a tendency to look anywhere.
In fact. Try to get familiar with the venue of your performance and the stage where you are going to perform. The idea is to have fun when you perform and in this context. Read on to know how to perform your way to glory. Get Your Mind Off It It is important to keep reminding yourself that it’s just a performance and not the end of your life. Your anxiousness may be the result of your under-preparedness for the performance that you have to deliver. many of the seasoned performers suffer from anxiety and nervousness as they set on to perform another time. The article brings you some valuable tips on how to get rid of performance anxiety. This will surely help you cope up with nervousness and make you feel self-assured before your performance. sometimes. Tips For Overcoming Performance Anxiety Practice Your Performance It has been rightly said that practice makes a man perfect.concerned. How To Stay Mentally Sharp . In the instances of social phobia. when nothing else is working out. the ‘devil may care attitude’ can help in bringing down your anxiety levels dramatically. with all the props. Get Familiar With Performance Venue This is one of the most successful tricks that work pretty well to bring your anxiety levels down. to make it flawless and feel confident about your ability to make it successful. You can simply reach the venue before time and rehearse on the stage once. you can try the idea in case you are doing a skit or a play. While it may not be possible if you have to give an office presentation. If you have decided upon taking anti-anxiety drugs before setting on to perform. The worst thing that can happen is that your performance will get blotched and this is certainly is not going to ruin your life forever. get the worries off your mind and have a blast on stage. it can just be a simple case of stage-fright. clinical anxiety is often treated with the help of drugs. It is important to remember that the more potent drugs can lead you towards a tendency to depend on them every time you have to give a performance. Practice your performance as much as possible. Keep Anti-Anxiety Drugs As Last Option Anti-anxiety drugs should always be kept as a last option. Self-doubt and a lack of confidence are the most common reasons accounting for performance anxiety. Always remember that hard work and practice is the key to success and you can conquer your anxiety very well with mock sessions and rehearsals. it is advisable that you consult a professional for the right recommendation. However. So.
Researches have well established that physical exercise also enhances mental activity and bears a positive effect on our mind. Tips To Keep Your Mind Sharp Challenge Your Mind For enhanced mental sharpness. to keep our brain working sharp. Drink 8-10 glasses of water in a day. resides a sound mind. it also helps our mind function in a better way. It may not be easily possible to achieve a razor sharp mind. chess. like iron. 30 minutes of yoga and 30 minutes of meditation in a day are enough to keep your mind healthy and increase its sharpness. . to keep your body hydrated and your mind energetic. but it’s certainly within your power to sharpen your mental faculties and utilize them in a more competent way.While mental sharpness and alertness is a natural gift for some. magnesium and essential vitamins. you may do with some helpful tips on how to stay mentally sharp. An ideal diet should include all the important minerals. engage in activities that are mentally testing. Our eating habits have a profound impact on our mental abilities. Follow the article and know what it takes to keep your mind functioning proficiently. it is important to constantly challenge your mind. which in turn makes it difficult to concentrate well. to rejuvenate it. This will give your mind the much needed invigoration and refresh it to stay as sharp as ever. there are many who struggle to keep their brain active and responsive all the time. A healthy and nutritious diet is not just important for our over all well-being. You can also couple it with some form of physical exercise. Try to observe the things around you keenly and rest your mind. it is also essential to keep your mind active and sharp. Paucity of water in the body can lead to dehydration. Observing the nature is also a good way to be in touch with your spiritual side. keen observation is also one of the best tricks. Eat Right It has been very aptly said that in a healthy body. If you are facing concentration problems and forgetting important things on the agenda. Be An Observer As much as striking intelligent conversations is important for an alert mind. which will help your brain as well. Mediation helps banish negative energies from your mind. like yoga. potassium. Intelligent conversations sharpen your thinking and analytical abilities and endow your mind with alertness. once in a while. attempting crossword puzzles or doing Sudoku is a good way to give a workout to your brain. To cut the long story short. Interacting with others is also a fitting mental exercise. Meditate The benefits of mediation are known to all and sundry. Playing scrabble. Water makes up to one-half to four-fifths of your body weight and accounts for 85% of your brain. It helps revitalize our mind and body. Drink Lots Of Water Drinking lots of water is not only healthy for the body.
Be Your Leader Instead of being led by your friends. This is. You are a different individual with a separate identity. Have you ever wondered why is it that only some people set the norms. be your own leader. teens are known to be more vulnerable to peer-pressure. You can be what you are and still be an integral part of your friends’ circle. Tips To Combat Peer Pressure Be Confident Of Yourself No matter how clichéd it sounds. Be Comfortable With Your Choices Peer pressure may force you to alter your original choices and that’s exactly where it becomes problematic. Only a confident person can make others follow his/her footsteps. while others follow them? People look forward to those who are self assured and confident and try to be in their shoes. You need to remind yourself that you have a unique personality. try to set the norm and stop feeling undue pressure to fit in a given group. to conform to a group norm or act in a certain way. this crisis continues throughout one’s life. They can be your inspiration. This article dwells on peer pressure at length and suggests tips to get rid of it. Therefore. which may confuse the child as to what he/she really wants to be. . Mostly. Lead yourself and act according to your diktats. practice is known to make a man perfect. after all. You will have to be very headstrong to resist peer pressure and this is very much possible. Always remember that you have to live with the choices that you make in life and you can’t let your peers dictate what you choose. The biggest threat posed by peer-pressure is a burgeoning crisis of identity. Hard. For instance. provided you train yourself the right way. Read on to know how to best combat peer pressure. just as everyone is different from others.How To Get Rid Of Peer Pressure Every one has to deal with peer pressure at some point in his/her life. in consonance with the friend’s circle. the key to combat and avoid peer pressure. Peer pressure can be understood as the pressure among any age group of children. In some cases. you can avoid it by constantly reminding yourself that you won’t fall into such traps. due to their tender age. Build The Mental Toughness To Resist Not every one is gifted with the kind of mental toughness required to resist the pressure or avoid the temptation to be one of ‘them’. building self-confidence is the best way to counter peer pressure in a successful way. but you will have to be assertive to resist their influence on the options you choose in life. though it may seem. you will tend to give into peer pressure. As long as you remain a part of the crowd. undoubtedly. if you anticipate a situation which may force you to behave in a particular way.
to learn and understand this elegant language. There is also an option to learn sign language from books. You can arrange for them quite easily as well. Learning Sign Language • Since the methods of learning sign language are different from those used to learn spoken languages. using sign language. You can also watch sign language users on TV. A video or DVD course or an online course with animations may also suit your purpose. with the help of arrows depicting hand and arm movements. hand signs and finger spellings and using them effectively to communicate with those who have lost their hearing ability. Finding a good teacher or taking good sign language lessons is the key to learning the language in right way. The grammar system of sign language is unique and it’s better to get a hang of the sign grammar. by Juan Pablo de Bonet. for learning the sign language. by choosing some basic books on sign language to start with. when trying to communicate in sign language. explore this article to find some useful tips on how to learn sign language. you will have to be a patient and mature student.How To Learn Sign Language Sign language is the means of communication used by deaf people. However. Although it may be a little difficult to find someone you can communicate with. The first book for teaching sign language was published in 1620. join it for greater interaction with sign language users. which contains not just written words. This will help you in improving your hand movements. it is important to • • • • • • . If you can find a local sign language club near your place. Along with books. In case you need any help. Private language schools and community college also offers sign language courses and you can choose accordingly. Try to interact with the users of sign language. before you begin to memorize the signs. Flash cards can be of great help and are offer a realistic and effective way to practice sign language. you can also get yourself a sign language dictionary. The range of sign language books may advance from ‘survival’ level to ‘upper intermediate’ level. Instructional videos will be of great help. Sign language flash cards carry pictures of either a hand or a person forming the sign. A school or organization for the deaf is also the right institution to get in touch with. sign language has gradually grown and evolved to suit the needs of the deaf people. which consisted of manual alphabets. Since then. but sign pictures as well. Practice what you have learnt. it is important for someone trying to learn sign language to understand these differences in the first place. Learning sign language involves learning gestures.
once they get started. the less time it will take you to shake the existing beliefs of your subject. You can even try to find someone with similar interests. This is an excellent idea if you are set to appear for an interview. One should never assume that the person he/she is trying to convince knows nothing on the topic of discussion.practice the language. so that you two can practice sign language together. scroll through the article. give him/her an opportunity to present his/her point of view as well. ‘practice makes a man perfect’. by putting forward strong arguments against the existing notions in their mind. Persuading others is all about succeeding in changing their opinions on a particular issue or being able to induce a change in their belief patterns. to present sensible arguments. However. Give Examples If you can support your argument with meaningful examples. you have already won half the battle and you are most likely to convince your subject. it can also be acquired and mastered over time. In case you want to learn some more valuable tips on how to convince others. quick thinking will work. without interrupting them and once they are through. Be Assertive & Confident The more confident and assertive you are in presenting your ideas. when it comes to convincing others. discussions are impromptu and you may not have the time to gather information to substantiate your claims. Listen to other people peacefully. Tips For Convincing Others Hear Them Out If you really want to end up convincing your subject. . As much as a natural ability ‘convincing’ is. The key to convincing others is to display a positive and assertive body language. Come up with realistic examples to back your point of view. Remember. Your confidence is to be your weapon and it has been witnessed that confident people sail through the roughest waters smoothly. the ball is in your court. many times. be it any sphere of learning. even in the least. as it does not leave the listener with much option. Interviews are known to be grilling and it is always better to improve on your knowledge quotient. Acquire Knowledge On The Subject Acquiring a profound knowledge on the subject of discussion will make the convincing part a cakewalk for you. Here. How To Convince Others The ability to convince others is a rare talent and not every one is gifted with this valued asset. Be supremely confident of your opinions and make sure that you don’t doubt what you are saying. Many people tend to be over-aggressive and do not let the listener speak.
the more skeptical they will become. every one of us can learn so many things every day if we keep our senses alert. there remains no difference between us and other animals. Actually. you don’t have anything to learn from this life then you are living with a wrong attitude. How To Change Your Attitude “Our attitude toward life determines life's attitude towards us. Right attitude can be developed with the help of certain things. Actually. You have to present your case strongly and firmly. in reality too. Have you seen the movie “Wake up Sid”. you would roam like the aimless ship. as it helps in shaking other person’s beliefs. Be Ready To Learn Nobody is perfect and if you think. Mitchell May be you have heard this quote and you really want to change your attitude towards life. Actually. but avoid trying to dominate or impose your line of thought.” ~ John N. Explore the article to know how to change your attitude. there are many other things to learn from this life. A positive attitude is very important for generating a successful and satisfying life. if the person on the other side is too smart or skeptical. attitude is the driving force in our life and without right attitude. it may take you some time before you succeed in your efforts. Don’t Appear Too Desperate Don’t come across as someone who just wants to convince others at any cost. how Ranbir Kapoor’s character Sid. Even if you are brilliant and you have never failed in your life.other than accepting what you are saying. Actually. Therefore. Think of what you want to do with your life. We keep on living without an aim and complain about life. didn’t have a goal in life and how his life changed when he found his goal. Tips For Changing Your Attitude Have An Aim A life without an aim is like a ship in the sea without knowing where it is going. indifferent or something else. attitude is kind of one’s expression towards life and others. However. It may be done to maintain a standing or sometimes to preserve ourselves from certain outward “harm”. but the impression of desperation has to be strictly avoided. whether you . you may have no idea about how to go about it. You can repeat your point of view for added effect. Without the right attitude. Listen to your heart and then head towards your goal. However. our life becomes directionless. Remember that aim is a fuel of life and unless you have a goal. Attitude will follow you. many of us are like Sid. which distinguishes humans from other animals. The more desperate you sound to convince others. negative. It may be positive. All the people develop an attitude while growing up. It is attitude.
However. shyness can just be a by-product of your lack of self-belief and confidence in your personality. Lack of self-respect almost always results in lack of aim. Have Self-Respect Self-respect is deemed as self worth and if you don’t value yourself. It will not only help you understand yourself properly.are at work. face it with positivity. your life will not be in your hand. Try to keep yourself self-sufficient. Shyness is a common trait. Your shyness and introvert attitude can have varied manifestations and can be rooted in your insecurity. Confidence helps us sail through bad times. Develop Confidence Confidence is the key to right attitude and to success. Be Self-Sufficient You may have all the positive attitude. it will let you understand others too. It doesn’t only affect you psychologically but also helps you mentally and physically. Confidence will help you change the way you look at things and you would perceive things positively. Ways To Combat Shyness Be Proud Of What You Are . be ready to learn and you would feel so much satisfied. In fact. Be Positive Positivity is the drive of life. mentally and psychologically. you are a very shy person. found in many people. home or anywhere else. estimates show that almost three out of every ten people are overtly shy. be ready to help others and rather than ignoring any crisis. How To Cope With Shyness Do you always experience an adrenaline rush and feel self-conscious when you have to interact with strangers? If the answer is yes. A positive attitude will inspire and will help you deal with anything positively. to change your attitude you need to develop confidence. People who are self-respecting generally keep a calm front even in the time of crisis. inferiority complex and hidden fears. Therefore. enthusiasm and sense of purpose. Unless you are. This article brings you some valuable tips on how to cope with your shyness and bring out your confident side. sure of yourself how are you going to chase your dream? A right attitude can come only to confident people. It can alter your life for good almost magically. how will you make other people value you? Self-respect is not only necessary for self-development but it is also important for inner peace. A positive attitude is a choice of being positive with oneself and others. unless you are self-sufficient. It is about being happy and content. confidence and everything else. then in all likeliness. physically. To cut the long story short.
Identifying your talents will help you develop self esteem and conquer your shy attitude positively. seek answers as to why you are shy and try to overcome your coyness. in most of the women. Ensure that your mock sessions yield good results. try to turn this awareness inwards. Find things you are good at and focus on grooming that talent. by developing belief in yourself. Take inspiration from the people who are proud of what they are and are always brimming with confidence. especially if other things are failing to bring the desired results. The more you avoid meeting people. Ideally. Your practice should basically include how to volunteer to talk. but practicing social interactions can work well for you. insecurities or have varied other reasons. Discover Your Strengths The ability to discover your strengths is probably one of the most crucial abilities a person can posses. Remember your strengths are your advantage. Instead of being so aware of people. It seems that feelings of jealousy have been very intricately woven in the behavioral pattern of women. your edge over others. a shy person should pounce upon every given opportunity to interact with other people. Meeting new people will make you more confident and the plus point is you get to learn new things as well. so that socializing becomes a habit and he/she doesn’t always end up looking ways to overcome his/her shyness. You need to realize that people have different personalities and you are unique in your own way. Practice Though it may sound a little far-fetched. which is the reason why they struggle in their interactions. your opinions may not be valued. Observe your thoughts. the shyer you will become. in combating shyness. However. Try To Socialize Shy people tend to avoid socializing and boosting contacts with other people. Nothing works better than self-discovery. to trigger off a jealous explosion and they are known to be very competitive in their own way. it is important to recognize and determine whether you are really . Feelings of jealousy can be deep rooted in your hidden fears. it won't be long before you overcome your shyness. It is a demanding process. You can ask your friends to help you out and conduct practice sessions on how you will converse with a new person or a group of strangers. You may be feeling that you don’t match up to other people and therefore. Transform Your Self-Consciousness Into Self-Awareness Just remember that people are too busy looking at themselves and they are not trying to screen you wherever you go. How To Know You Are Jealous Of Her One of the basic traits that are often associated with a woman is her enviousness. but if you bring yourself to succeed. It takes very little.Nothing explains shyness better than a lack of self-confidence.
Tips to Know You Are Feeling Jealous Of Her Know Your True Feelings Towards Her Do you try to compete with her for no real reason? Do you wish you were in her place? Do you greet her with a fake smile almost always? Your reactions and behavior towards a particular woman are an important determinant of your jealousy. Jealousy always results in unhealthy competition. How To Accept Yourself “Love yourself—accept yourself—forgive yourself—and be good to yourself. without even realizing how much time you are devoting to let this green eyed monster prosper. If she has been weighing on your mind unnecessarily. What they don’t realize is that we become what we think. You will say harsh things about her and will try to de-credit her from everything. This article comes up with some valuable tips that will help you to know if you are jealous of her. Know If She Is Weighing On Your Mind You may be subconsciously thinking about her always. they are not happy with their job. You find her presence threatening due to your jealousy. to say harsh things about their subject of jealousy. This is precisely the reason behind the tendency. If you find yourself scheming on how to establish your self superior to her. because without you the rest of us are without a source of many wonderful things. you are right in determining that what you are feeling is jealousy towards her. Buscaglia. this just proves you are envying her secretly. so that the strife within your mind could be handled well. And to . their appearance and their life. which is fierce in nature and many a times. Determine Whether You Compete With Her Or Not We have heard of healthy competition n-number of times and we also know that it is not fostered by jealousy.Leo F. other than plain jealousy? Know If You Are Threatened By Her If you feel threatened by her and keep dreading that she will prove herself to be better than you. it is a sign of your jealousy being rooted deep in your insecurities. Your feelings may be continuous.jealous of any other woman. It is actually your covert insecurity that is bothering you and you can't even accept that you really are insecure. If you have been trying to compete with a woman in almost about every field.” . And. This is when we may not know that we are actually envious of the person we are trying to compete with. If you don’t find favor with this quote then you may be among people who cringe on seeing themselves in mirror. if you don’t want to believe in her positive traits. which haunt you even when your competition is not around. it is a sure sign of your jealousy. even on things that should concern you the least. what else can it be. They want to become somebody else and live all their life in misery and anonymity. is even visible to others. in a lot of women.
the world will not accept you. Stand in front of the mirror and focus on all the features you like about yourself. You always find yourself not good enough and by saying that you were not just being humble. and you would start accepting yourself. Jot It Down Writing all your qualities will help you. because of negative thinking or because of other people’s opinions. Write all the qualities no matter how trivial they may be and then read them.become a successful person we need to accept ourselves. Work on inculcating self-confidence and you would soon see the opinions of others changing towards you. happiness lies in one’s mind otherwise all the millionaires in the world would be happy. and you would soon start to accept yourself. are negative. It will not happen overnight. work towards something. focus on what you have achieved and be happy. Ways Of Accepting Yourself See Yourself As Success It may be very difficult for you especially if you have grown up disliking everything about you. After you have gained your self-confidence. You can also write all about yourself. Take pride in your success and see yourself as successful. After you have written. work on eliminating them. which you want to do. For instance. Restore Your Self-Confidence Self-confidence is essential element for accepting oneself. Better Your Life It is important to accept you as you are but it is also important to strive to better yourself. Remember that nothing is more important than your opinion. Keep in mind that you are a unique person and unless you accept yourself. Focus on all the positive qualities you possess and you would soon start to see yourself in good light. It may be because of some flaws. think about the root cause of it and work towards bettering it. which you feel. if you feel you are too emotional and get hurt easily. Accepting oneself is important to live a happy and content life. or possessing all the luxuries. Get Real Remember that you will have to work towards the goal of accepting yourself. You would soon start to feel important and accept yourself. It will help you understand your uniqueness. . work on it to do away with it. Explore the following pointers to know the ways for accepting yourself. If you feel that you are not able to focus on your career. So instead of focusing on the greener grass on the other side. Remember that happiness doesn’t lie in earning millions. you would soon find change in your outlook towards life. Find Happiness In The Basics Happiness or sadness largely depends on oneself. Develop self-confidence by telling yourself constantly that you are a unique and beautiful person.
you have to deal with them almost on a regular basis. Some people have a hard time adjusting with others and going easy in life. It is. sometimes. Don’t Be Defensive Let the attacks of a difficult person wash over you. or they will start taking more liberty with you. Stand up to the situation and confront the person confidently. constantly fretting over someone who is getting under your skin is not going to help. Keep A Positive Frame Of Mind Don’t let difficult people affect your mental peace. it's not wise to take them personally. You will have to devise strategies to deal with hostile people in a successful way. It's apparent that people with a hostile attitude will irritate you with their behavior. However. Don’t let their negative attitude weigh constantly on your mind. rather than paying them undue attention. if someone is trying to ruin your reputation in office by spreading malignant rumors. If you argue with them on pettiest of things. However. you need to remember that you can't let the conflict escalate. be it at work or home. Do not allow their verbal attacks to shake your confidence. better to just ignore them. It's natural for a person to end up meeting difficult people once in a while. Therefore. There is absolutely no need to be defensive in turn. Just keep your mind calm when you deal with them. In case you are amongst the unlucky ones. You can confront them on important issues. For instance. but you have to deal with them in a positive way. it is only going to weaken your position and allow them to throw their weight around. They have the same freakish behavior with everyone and trouble everyone they know. you should ask the person straight on if he/she has anything personal against you.How To Handle Difficult People We often complain that some people are just too difficult to handle. but defending yourself on everything is certainly not the right way to handle them. Tips For Handling Difficult People Confront Them Without Fighting It is important to confront difficult people. You just need to acknowledge that they have a personality and perception different from that of yours and they need to be handled tactfully. Read on and know how to deal with the people immune to the usual methods of communication. This article provides you some proven tactics to handle difficult people. Do Not Give Up . Don’t Take Them Personally It is important to remember that difficult people do things habitually and you are certainly not their only target.
Remember the sense of accomplishments and vow to make them happen again. People meditate for different reasons . See yourself becoming successful in your endeavors. you definitely will. while the losses are something from which you need to learn. Keep practicing your art and don't loose hope. Are you one of those who always end up thinking about the negative side. If you think you will lose. You may face some difficulties in the beginning. you lose even when you make a lot of effort. A person who considers himself to be a loser and feels that he is worth nothing will hardly be able to achieve anything in his life. where everything is happening as you planned or as you want. The wins have to be taken seriously. then check out the tips given below and know how to avoid negative thinking. This would go a long way in helping you overcome the pessimism. much before the positive? Do you want to get rid of this habit? If yes. you are wrong. you win even without trying and during others. in the outcome of our efforts. Look Back Into The Past Life is never the same. Rather. On the other hand. having a control over .’ This quote aptly describes the important of our thinking. it is full of surprises. someone who has oodles of confidence (but not over confidence) and believes that he canachieve something in life will most likely become successful as well. How To Avoid Negative Thinking ‘If you think you will win. try to think of those situations where success kissed your feet. You will get success in your efforts sooner or later. Best Ways To Stop Negative Thinking Get Creative Whenever you feel that negative thoughts are creeping up on you. they just limit their ability to interfere in your life. twists and turns! At times. but your tactics will show results with practice. which can be mastered over a period of time.Tackling difficult people is very much an art.developing their concentration. The moment you feel your losses gaining over your mind. the best bet would be to turn your imagination creative. feeling one with the god. Indulge In Meditation In case you are thinking meditation is only for those who want to lead a spiritual life and stay away from the materialistic world. Think of a wonderful situation. there are chances you can. You need to remember that these strategies don’t change difficult people. being loved by your near and dear ones or even getting appreciated from all the quarters.
buy some from the nearest bookstore and start reading. we never wait to ponder the reason behind such possibilities.their thoughts. all of us mention about our intuitions coming true. ‘I have to think about the positive things happening in my life’. However. important . etc. and so on. it is equally possible to develop your psychic potential even further. For instance. It will help you remain in a balanced state of mind and keep you away from the negativity. start telling yourself ‘I do not have to think negatively’. The article explores the subject and comes up with profound insights on how to develop your psychic abilities. Read on to benefit from some valuable tips. Tips To Develop Psychic Abilities Acknowledge That Psychic Abilities Exist Only the one who realizes and rightly acknowledges the importance of a psychic capacity among humans can be able to expand his/her psychic powers. Our hunches and premonitions come out to be true not due to some bizarre coincidence but. If you are fond of comics. Most of us never realize our full psychic ability. log on to the sites that list jokes. Keep A Positive Mind frame A positive mindset is the first pre-requisite to develop your psychic ability. you can rent the DVD of your favorite comic flick and laugh your heart out. while it is very much possible to do so. As soon as you feel that negative thoughts are trying to creep into your mind. If one aims to achieve his/her full psychic potential. Make Yourself Feel Happy One of the best ways to get over negativity is to make yourself feel happy. by indulging in activities that you enjoy or that make your laugh. If you have internet at home. it is very important to become conscious of your drift towards negativity. It has been established by psychological researches that a positive state of mind enhances the psychic abilities of an individual. accepting that psychic abilities exist and can be developed overtime with practice and effort. It is therefore. It is the last purpose that you have to solve with meditation. Consciously Block Out Negative Thoughts If you want to stop being pessimistic and think about the brighter side of life. funny quotes or even funny SMS and start smiling! How To Develop Psychic A bilities Though we all posses psychic abilities to a certain extent. ‘I will not let negative thoughts come into my mind and affect me in any way’. will be of great help. Negative thinking and skepticism to a certain extent. because of our intuitive powers which are the result of a developed psychic capacity. Occasionally. can hamper or block the expansion of one’s psychic potential.
it might even embarrass you but gradually. you will definitely be able to get rid of a bad habit. The power of imaginations assists you in visualizing possibilities and happenings and mediation will help you to nail down the right meaning of your imaginations. Initially. habits are definitely under our control (if we really want them to be). Though automatic behaviors. Trust your sixth sense rather than ignoring it Meditation Meditation helps you to attain concentration and peace of mind. but with dollops of will power. Test yourself with your imaginations and their meanings. This will also help you in finding connecting links to a problem. Breaking a bad habit is like coming out from a tangle or a web. Evolve Ways To Utilize Psychic Abilities Remember that regular practice will assist in the development of your psychic abilities. Ignoring your gut feelings can even get you into trouble. Pursue Your Feelings Don’t neglect your feelings and instincts for the fear of being mocked at. A calm mind has the potential to act as a fertilizer for the development of an improved sixth sense and psychic abilities when accompanied by some other measures such as developing the faculty of imagination. we have provided useful tips on how to break bad habits.that one maintains a positive thinking mind and keep feeding it with uplifting doses which could be in any form. it will not be easy to do so. Your inquisitiveness will eventually lead you towards surprising results. Try to evolve and practice ways through which your psychic potential could be furthered. If your assumptions about your imaginations are coming out to be true. Remember. you will realize that your feelings hold a certain meaning in a specific context. then you are at the right place. Talking about bad habits. Involuntary actions. are what make our habit. it means you are on the right track. While some habits take the form of physical addictions. Mention your strong intuitions to your close ones and keep check on whether they come out to be true or not. for instance inspirational movies or literature. you would be surprised to know that even the most pious of people would tell you they had a bad habit in the past. In the following lines. squirts of discipline and loads of patience. others have simple social habits that make tick people off. How To Break Bad Habits Trapped in a bad habit? Want an escape from it? If yes. and finally solving it. Think about things which generate your curiosity in an unusual way. Breaking A Bad Habit Self-Evaluation . which we perform regularly.
it is time to look towards the optimistic side i. Instead. Positives Of Dropping Once you have realized the negative impacts. All you need is willpower. by a good one. they might be able to provide some advice or encouragement that you normally wouldn't get otherwise. Remember. Patience Patience is the key to achieve your resolution. Being Disciplined Remember. Who knows. Just get comfortable and talk to them about your decision. asking for support. You have to work hard and bring in a lot of discipline in your being.Was it peer pressure? Was it depression? Was it just for a 'try'? Was it to be 'in vogue'? Was it an escape from some life condition? Once you get hold of the reason for the action. discipline and patience!! . you can beat the habit. remember. it is the time to figure out how the bad habit initiated in the first place. you just cannot leave a bad habit and force yourself into doing nothing in its place. Most of the bad habits provide a person with instant gratification. There needs to be a replacement of the bad habit. If you fall back to the bad habit. changes do not just happen. Supporting Role Do not hesitate to call friends or family members. Negative Impact While you have determined the cause of the bad habit. or even start becoming sociable. Replacement Remember.The first step to get rid of a bad habit would be to be practical and realize the number of times your bad habit wins over your will. to get over a bad habit. For this. they would be more than happy to help you move out of the bad behavior. If yours is such as well. the best bet would be to maintain a journal and note down every time your bad habit gets the better of you. giving into the impulses or being carried away would be extremely easy. Consider the positive ways of meeting the same needs through a good habit and start practicing. say you will become a better individual or have enough time to look into important matters. rise up and get back to your healthy behavior. it would act as a motivation to modify your behavior and get out of the web. The Cause Now that you have evaluated yourself. Analyze why did you start the bad habit . Weigh the negatives against the positives. The moment you realize the cost of a bad habit and what it is depriving you of. it is the time to focus on the negative repercussions of the same. the advantages of leaving the habit. List the negative impacts and the cost they are charging you.e. do not pity yourself and say that the habit has got the better of you. you would realize that it is not logical and does not make any sense. Believe me. This would help you keep a record of it and also analyze the cause of the same.
In case you have been stuck with a notorious reputation. Change Your Company There is an adage that goes 'you are known by the company you keep'. but the public opinion about you. it represents what kind of an image you have. then it is the time to take some action in the regard. in a non-threatening way. In case people have raised a finger on your character. it is advisable to seek new company right now. people are bound to form a similar opinion about you as well. However. seek a second opinion from close friends or family members as well. talk amicably. to a major extent. If you are a big shot. confront the person and set the record straight. by the type of friends you have.How To Get Rid of A Bad Reputation Your reputation is nothing. We can help you know how to get rid of a bad reputation. you will not be able to trace its very roots and solve it. it is the time to get rid of the same. try to go out of your way to help them. Dispel The Rumors If you have to fix your bad reputation. Whether you want to excel in your career or win the affection of the person you are in love with. a bad reputation will only take you closer to failure. How To Fix Your Bad Reputation Know The Truth If you want to get rid of a bad reputation. in the eyes of others. in case you feel that your group is largely responsible for your infamy. . try to change your habits. and resolve the issue. Unless and until you acknowledge that a problem exists. try to bring your anger under control. you will first have to look at yourself and seek the reality. dressing style. whether you are like them or not. it is very important to dispel the rumors that are working against you. untrue rumors or a bad company. Take Action If you feel that there is some truth in what people think about you. So. take some action. In case you come across as uncooperative to other people. etc. make sure not to get angry at the person or start fighting with him/her. Rather. Having a good reputation is very important in each and every sphere of life. Is there any truth in what the people say about you? Have you really done something to make people form such an opinion about you? If you want to be objective. your reputation is formed. If you are aware of the source of all the gossip. In other words. Such a behavior would only cement your bad reputation. In other words. call a press conference to dispel the rumors. be it because of you own faults. In other words. through the tips given below. If they are known for being rogue and outlandish. If you are infamous as someone who has a very nasty temper.
Everyone wants sympathy. but incorporating it in our respective life is a completely different ball game altogether. How To Sweet Talk According to Rig Veda. people will get used to the image of the 'new you'. as human beings. Don’t lose hope midway. So. you need to exercise a lot of patience and stick to your efforts. don’t be a miser for words and let people know that you care. the best treatment at a restaurant. just keep on making efforts and soon. if you make yourself consciously aware of the benefits of even little sweet-talking. and see the gloomy mood changing in an instant. the latter. especially when he/she has gone through a really bad phase in life. We all know the power of sweet talk. So. when he opens the door of your car. The answer is pretty clear. bad image from their mind and replace it with the new. Sometimes. help from a colleague. the world will also be happy for you. Tell jokes. when you respect someone. you would wonder why you didn’t integrate it in your life earlier. even a raise or promotion. Humor Mechanism Everyone likes funny people. A sweet talk can get you the window-seat in a plane. Just ask yourself a question . However. Sweet Talking Tips Give Respect Give respect to everyone. However. You would soon find the ultimate secret of being happy. a simple smile from you can make the entire day of someone.who you think will get your help first. Integrate humor in your life and try to search the sunnyside up in everything. Remember 'impossible' itself says 'I m possible'. You would start feeling the change from the next day itself. or your chauffeur. a person who talks sweet spends all his/her days in happiness. you are in least danger of hurting him/her and there is the score for you. Be Sympathetic We. an acid tongue lasher or a sweet talker. are given the power of understanding and if we don’t integrate it in our life. It will take time for people to remove your old. When you are happy. Never forget to thank the liftman when he opens the lift for you. how can we expect to justify our humane side. lift from a total stranger and sometimes. Give a bright smile to your colleagues as well as the others around you. why not incorporate it in your life! Read on to learn the mechanism of sweet talking. Moreover. Don’t you love it when your friend sympathizes with your grilling schedule at work? So. So. . how many of us really know how to sweet talk? Our tolerance level has gone so low that even a small provocation is enough for us to start hurling abuses (even at a complete stranger). stick to this motto and see the world changing around you. Now.Exercise Patience Your bad reputation has built over a period of time. pleasant one. So. Do not expect to get rid of it within a few hours or days. poke harmless fun.
only a few of us are actually able to evoke respect for ourselves. In case you are among those who cannot understand how some people get all the respect they want. Don’t let yourself be cast out as too mellow or pushover. then read on and find the best way of getting people to respect you. Want to explore them? If yes. it’s time for you to open up. Make sure the world knows it too. For instance. Congratulate your colleagues on successfully finishing a project. being sympathetic alone is not enough. The age-old adage of 'reaping what you sow' is true to its core. Don’t discriminate amongst people and refrain from using harsh. Apply this in your life. Don't give anyone a chance to take advantage of you or typecasting you a patsy or a softy. as only a few of us can really pull it off without hurting someone’s feeling. we need to build up respect to get ahead in life. Period! Treat everyone with respect and you will get respect too. How To Get Respect Let’s admit it! We all want to get respect from others. who knows what he/she is doing. who doesn’t talk much. Getting Respect From Others Respect Others To get respected. rather it is earned. However. Stick to light humor instead. as the world will start using you then. you will have to first know that respect cannot be taken. Help others when they need you. You can practice with your friends and family members and then employ it elsewhere too. don’t forget to shower an admiring compliment on him/her. A little flirting with your client can help seal yoursuccess. Be a confident and levelheaded person. You also need confidence. If you want to know how to gain respect. never ever give a cheap remark or go over the top in flattery. while others get sidelined. It should come out in a spontaneous manner. make sure that it doesn't look like a prepared speech or something well thought of (in advance). cold words. Be Confident For sweet talking. you need to respect others. Flirt A Little A little flattery never hurts! Be the first one to notice the positive change in a person and compliment on it. as respect is directly proportional to reputation. If you are a serious person. if your colleague is donning a new shirt.refrain from sarcasm. giving a genuine appearance to your words. you have come to the right place. However. Be Spontaneous Whenever you say something. to educe immense respect from the people around you. However. There are many ways to speed up the process of earning respect from others. .
honesty. and you will extract respect from even an otherwise reserved person. However. and ironed dress shows that you take yourself seriously. if asked for. mannerism. we hardly think of being successful.Malcolm X This quote aptly describes how important criticism is. but they won’t respect him. there are and in the following lines. but is not able to do so. if you have been showing your pearly whites from long and people dismiss you for being childish. speak only when you are spoken to. Have a good body posture. It just means that whatever you wear should compliment you and up your position in other people's eye. A person of respect is a person of caution. you'll likely have no success. Be A Miser Smiler Smiling is good. then it’s your turn to switch off the grin and smile only when it’s needed. dressing the part doesn’t mean that you need to wear a Cavalli suit or Prada shoes. Although almost everyone in this world is criticized. in our life. Read on and know how to handle criticism. failure is nobody’s favorite word. a ripped jeans or a dirty shirt is bound to give a bad impression. clean.” . take a good look at yourself in the mirror. However. Rather. especially when at workplace. However. we have listed a few of them.Dress The Part If you are a person who is trying to get respect. but excess smile is bad for repute. Be serious and speak only when it is necessary. so stick to this axiom. It’s true too that smiling or not smiling is all the matter of perspective and depends on the environment where you work. If you smile at anyone and anything. while a crumpled tee. Silence is gold in true sense. then you are wrong. when we are bombarded with criticism all the time. give your opinion or suggestions. it is directly proportional to failure. However. How To Handle Criticism “If you have no critics. . only a few of us how know to accept it with grace. Handling criticism is never easy. Is there some techniques of handling criticism? Indeed. Keep Your Mouth Shut It doesn’t mean that you should play dumb. A confident person attracts respect like a moth to a flame. And the best way to respect yourself is to have confidence in you. as for most of us. And certainly. but not so much that you become a tissue paper for people to sniff their snots. The best way to get people to respect you is to respect yourself. Are you a well-dressed person? Do you dress according to occasion? If you dismiss dressing well as an act of showing off. people will think you are mellow. People may like a person who wants to share all his details in the first meeting itself. Powerful people smile only when it is needed. A well fitting. Be Humble But Confident Be humble enough to be a shoulder to cry on. kindness and be self-effacing.
Don’t Let Anyone Insult You Criticism is okay. try to be friendly. but getting over the top is not. Don’t let him/ her harm or insult you. It’s Not Always About You It’s the truth. They may be plain jealous of your success or they might full of negativity. If. if it’s something that will help you be successful. try to focus on points that are common in all the criticisms that you encounter. never let yourself feel down. It is enlightening only when you want it to enlighten you. Similarly. at the end of a conversation. There are people who cannot find good in anything or anyone and you should not let such people worry you. No matter what you’re criticized for. Let It Go Never let a criticism decide what you want to do next. make sure that you’re not going with them. Getting excited when someone attributes praise to you is natural. be calm and listen to the person. Don’t leave something because other people want you to. Don’t jump up the gun and starts hurling abuses on him/her. you are in hands of a bully. then it might be possible that something is wrong with them. Remember. Take Criticism In Your Stride It’s very important to remain composed in any situation. but it . Learn From Criticism Listening to something won’t help you. Draw The Points To Help You The most important trait of successful people is that they are able to draw out the points that are useful to them. And it’s also not necessary that feedback is always enlightening. criticism is downright negative. urging you to stop doing whatever you’re doing now. if someone criticizes you. On the other hand. If you’re a singer and people say that you cannot sing different kinds of songs. are angry with yourself and your critic has convinced you to leave the thing you are pursuing. Feedback is something given to you to improve your performance. It may be harsh and you may have trouble adjusting to the words. A criticism is mostly negative. no one can make you feel bad about yourself. So. If you work in a firm and you’re always criticized of not being able to create rapport with your colleagues. If someone is going the dirty road. you need to try to get versatility. try to incorporate it in your life. but never ever let anyone bully you. until you’re ready to perform on it. It’s not essential that the feedback comes to you in sweet and encouraging words. until you allow them to. Make a mental note of them and mend your ways accordingly. but it is eventually true and will help you if you work on those areas. A justified criticism may urge you to better something. When you’re criticized. from almost any conversation. you find yourself loser. If a person is always negative about you.Tips For Handling Criticism Distinguish Between Feedback & Criticism It is very important thing for you to understand the difference between feedback and criticism. instead of you.
Be authoritative on whatever you are speaking on. Have eye contacts with as many people you can and look pleasant. Forget what is being said about you. and do your work the same way you were doing. Watch Your Body Language Shaky hands. then you make your audience a part of you after sharing your narrative and that interest them. If you think. Most of the people just want others to listen to them but are themselves not ready to do so. Good or bad. To be a good speaker you have to be first a good listener. before the criticism popped your way. where everyone just wants to speak and not listen. Also. Speak With Authority When you want someone to listen to you. Prepare yourself for your subjects. That is why it’s important to be a good listener to be a good speaker. tense eyes. Don’t shout or scream but be audible and confidence. these things are meant to be forgotten. Then they don’t remain audiences but become participants. Eat. you are at the right place. smiling eyes. a personal one. make sure that you listen to people if you think they have some valid points. and parted legs are all the gestures. be aware of the current situation. you may lose them altogether.will never advocate for you to leave it. frown. sleep. and be a voracious reader. Acquire proper body language like alert body. Add in some jokes and ask questions and you will surely attract people’s attention. Read on to acquire the quality of a good speaker to whom people listen. you will have to make sure that you know your subject well. and confidence and you are bound to attract audience. You can even get much knowledge just by keenly watching everything around you. Everyone here thinks that he or she can speak better and sometimes even they speak altogether to make matters worse. Therefore. Be Interesting Most of us are very impatient and if you are not able to attract the audience in few minutes from the start. A little knowledge and beating around the bush will not attract listeners. be interesting and discuss it too. . which give poor impression of a speaker and divert the audience much before you start speaking. you possess the quality of a good listening. Articulate powerfully and clearly and modulate your sound according to your speech. Then this article is for you. If you wonder how some people have so much influence over others that makes people listen to them and you want to be like them. How To Make People Listen To You How to make people listen to you is a million dollar question in our society. unless it’s something you can improve. Tell A Story When you tell a story preferably.
for a casual discussion you need not present charts. try to form an idea. then stating statistics will pull you through. Don’t beat around the bush as it’s an audience repellent. What is the use if you don’t get anything from all that listening? So. So always. By thinking critically. Compare And Construct An Idea It is very important to analyze the key components first and then compare each of them.Dress Appropriately “Clothes maketh a man” and it’s true in any society.dress according to the event and let your clothes reflect your sincerity. Make a point and support it with examples. which unfolds few sequences of a story. Know Your Audience Before speaking. After reading the . So. If you are speaking in a boardroom and people are interested in numbers. If it’s a casual discussion then wearing a power suit will only make you the odder one. Learn from the greatest speakers of the world. wherever you go try to imbibe some of the good qualities of a speaker. evidences and assumptions present in the information. you will be able to discriminate the different points of view associated with a situation. wear powerful clothes according to your society and your audience. Developing Critical Thinking Skills Critical thinking is a process that involves the analytical evaluation of a situation. by weighing the substantial and insubstantial as well as concrete and abstract factors governing a situation. it is very essential to know your audience. To give shape and support to your idea. After assimilating the information. try to comprehend the key points. Take a comprehensive passage. Assess the arguments. The aim is to derive the best possible solution for a particular problem. you will be able to develop the critical thinking skills. to figure out their similarities and dissimilarities. If you do not know much about developing critical thinking skill. Analyze Text By analyzing a given text. from Mahatma Gandhi to Nelson Mandela and from Steeve Jobs to Barack Obama. However. based on the facts that you have compared. the best way to learn it and register it in mind is to process it first in your mind. the following lines will surely prove to be of help. How To Develop Critical Thinking Skills Process The Information While reading something. The skill will enable you to find every possible way of solving the problem. Now. try to make logical connections between the facts. Listen You may be a good listener but being an active listener is very important.
You should exude confidence through your body language. Rehearse your speech with your friend. Make use of gestures to emphasize your point. While doing this. Learning to become a motivational speaker is a systematic process.passage carefully. while speaking. it makes the audience 'think' for a positive change. Do not hide your hands inside your pocket. Explore the tips given in this article to know how to excel in motivational speaking. give stress to the voice modulation. create a logical link between the events of the story. A motivational speech includes all the elements that can create impact on the people listening to it. Motivational Speaking Tips Practise To motivate people with your speech you need to practise a lot. Mind Your Body Language A good speaker is identified with the way he/she presents himself/herself on the stage. this exercise will help you to think out of the box. you will be able to analyze the concepts. Being well prepared before the speech reduces the stage fear as well. a better speaker 'moves' the audience through his words. which can be acquired only after practice. Complicated and challenging though. family member or a colleague. before presenting it in front of the audience. Answer Questions Disciplined questioning also promotes critical thinking. Even if you fail to answer all the questions. Motivating people through speech is not as easy as it seems. This could be a simple exercise of connecting a number of dots in a predefined manner. to form an image. This will make the session even more interactive. because lack of research will be reflected in the speech. Solve Puzzles Solving a puzzle can help you learn how to develop critical thinking skills. it is an effective way to gain the skill of critical thinking. before formulating the speech. try to assign a title for the passage. To improve the analyzing skill further. How To Become A Motivational Speaker While a good speaker 'just' conveys his/her intended message. Maintain an equanimity in your speech. Be certain about what you have to say. Apart from connecting the dots. you will be able to distinguish between the facts and the assumptions. . Research You must have the thorough knowledge of the subject that you are going to address. One of the most effective ways to develop critical thinking skill is to answer the questions based on a few hypothetical problems. Maintain good eye-contact with the audience during the speech. Apart from being interesting. Study the subject well. Moreover. It requires special skills.
Some of them may even be ready to initiate a conversation with you. if you want to create the maximum impact on the audience. with an effective conclusion. wear a pleasant smile on your face. See how people respond to this. This is due to the fact that our ancestors used to hunt in groups for food and even worked together. It will surely be a positive response.Know The Audience Know how your audience needs to be motivated. Learn about their age group. When . Socializing With People Smile Your million dollar smile can act as a gesture to show that you wish to socialize with others. This is perhaps because of the fact that they lack the characteristics required to socialize with the people around them. because the choice of words depends a lot upon the mental level of the people listening to the speech. Create interest in your audience by making the speech interactive. do not worry. We are here to help you with some tips. If you are one of the people who find it difficult to go out and make friends with people. without mingling with others. we often find loners in the society. A good conclusion will always leave an impact on the audience. A prior knowledge about the people will help you with the purpose. their education. which will help you learn how to socialize with people. You may ask questions to them in between the speech. spending their lives in solitude. Generate Interest Apart from being motivating. How To Socialize With People Socializing with people is a behavior that is innate to human beings. Conversing with the audience will also help make the speech an interesting one. Develop Positive Attitude An important step towards socializing with people is to develop a positive attitude. Be positive and live in high spirits. You should have an optimisticoutlook towards life. Make an eye-contact while smiling. When you are with a group of people. analogies and anecdotes to make the speech interesting. However. They should feel satisfied after listening to your speech. in today's world. Consider the taste of the audience. You should bring about a positive change in them. Make use of metaphors. cultural background and lifestyle. your speech should be interesting as well. while preparing the speech. They will smile back. Give A Good Conclusion You should summarize your speech in the most convincing way.
You should be able to relate to people. This will make you more knowledgeable about the people surrounding you. leave all your tensions back home and fit into the environment of the place. However. Right from angry flare-ups to disgust. you have to lend your ears first and speak your mind later on. In the process. Controlling Emotions • The first step would be to identify those emotions. One must understand that there is nothing wrong in feeling strongly about something. it is not what you feel that counts. If you succeed in finding similar taste or interests. as we have provided below some of the effective ways and methods to manage your intense emotions. problem occurs when it comes to expression. Remember. making them feel neither inferior nor superior to you. do not worry. unhealthy relationships and sometimes even termination letter. Be a good listener. who has many things (or at least few things) common with others. when our emotions had completely taken over our mind. The habit of listening to others will also give you an idea about the level of sophistication of the people around you and present yourself according to the situation. there are numerous emotional displays that you might need to restrict.communication skills. when it comes to public places. Find A Common Point When you are with people at a party or a social get-together. Build Rapport To socialize with people. Controlling emotions is essential when you are in a public place or in your place of work. Communicate Effectively Share your views.bad behavior. which you need to control. You should present yourself as an approachable person. Result . listening to their as well. This brings out another quality needed to socialize with people . by listening to their words carefully. it will be easier for you to proceed further and develop familiarity with them. is what you do with those feelings. you need to build a rapport with them. do not be aggressive while presenting your viewpoint. When you are with a group of people. You will be able to judge them better. If you have been facing problems in controlling your emotion.you go out and meet people. . This will give you a chance to open up yourself to others. try to find a common interest. you should share your point of view with others. what matters. How To Control Your Emotions How many times have you goofed-up a particular situation or a scene because of your anger? Almost all of us have faced such an incidence in life. when you are in a social circle.
you would feel much better. Remember. in turn. excuse yourself from the group of people you are with and go to a lonely place. Remember. when you come across similar situations. You would. Trust me. when you are focusing your attention towards breathing. Finding the talent that sets us apart from the crowd can be a long process. Many of us are still in search of the talents that are hidden within us. Not every talent requires being profitable. Breathing in and out a number of times. it gets very difficult to suppress your emotion. Drinking lots of water is a good way to rule out the negative emotions. So. it just needs to be useful in a positive way. So. be actively attentive of your feelings and emotions. if you get easily angered. in terms of relieving a person off his intense emotions. but directing all the energies towards a far-off stable object does a lot. the best bet would be to focus all the energies towards breathing. It can be a snapshot of a beach. If you want to learn how to find your talents. It needs observation and analysis of one’s own self. reduces heart rate and accentuates the oxygen flow in the brain. You would realize that it is generally the negative feelings that you want to control. Believe it or not this would be a great way to escape from the stressful or high-anxiety times. technical and physical as well. Another popular way would be to count backwards from 20 to 1. mindfulness holds the key for controlling emotions. It would also benefit you in terms of health.• • • • For instance. just pick up a glass of water and slowly gulp it down. This might come as a surprise to you. This is found effective in controlling the heighten emotions. moonlight and so on. In such a situation. react less. Give vent to your feelings and then return to the scene. often tricky also. It can be artistic. In such circumstances. the tips provided in the following lines will surely come handy. Another effective technique would be to acknowledge or recognize the emotions you were feeling at the time of emotional outbursts. Visualization is yet another great way to control the angry flare-ups or stress. Try to picture something that would produce a soothing image in your mind. At times. Finding Your Hidden Talent Find Your Interests • • • • . ask yourself the reason for the anger. You will surely feel relaxed! • • • • • • • • How To Find Your Talents Talent need not to be related only with intellect. a candle. Knowing the reason is likely to help you in future. the mind gets diverted from the emotions and feelings.
However. If you are one amongst the latter type of people and are looking for ways to make others like you. with utmost enthusiasm? Get the answer for the question and you will come to know what exactly you are passionate about. Go through the following and know how to get people to like you.• • • • The first step towards finding your talents is to know your interests. we should know that not every one is born with this knack. Therefore. You will then come to know about your talents as well as the areas that you need to work on. where you can try out different things without anybody’s interference. Find Your Passion You may be a person of various interests. you should not ignore your weaknesses as well. Find out the things in which you are not a pro or lag behind. but there will be only a thing or two. Know Your Limits In the process of finding your strengths or talents. you will be able to discover all your hidden talents and skills. The mere feeling of being liked and loved by others fills the heart with warmth and happiness. watch or do? What are your favorite shows on television? Which column of the newspaper and magazines do you like to read? Try Out Different Things If you want to find out your dexterity in each of the things that interest you. Improve Yourself After you come to know about the areas of your interest. which you are passionate about. This will help increase your depth of knowledge. • • • • • • • • • • • • How To Get People To Like You • • The world seems to be a wonderful place when every one around you likes you. One of the best ways to learn something is to teach. it is the time to improve yourself. Ways To Make People Like You Be Cheerful • • . then try them out. Some people have the inherent quality to make others be fond of them. Locate a safe environment. In this process. Know your limits. Carry out experiments and explore things. What sorts of things do you like to read about. Know what makes you struggle. teach what you have learnt. What is the one thing that you love to do the most. the guidance given here will come handy. Read lots of books and learn from people.
Moreover. Remember. you are able to engender closeness with them. If you have this quality in you. will help you win their confidence as well. feeling the pain of others is even better. in a soft tone and never shouting at people when you are angry. Devoting time to people will help you a great deal in developing a good relationship with them. be a person who is always optimistic and upbeat. It is a quality that very few of us have. Doing good things. they will treat you much more warmly. although it seems 'easier said than done'. rather be the first person who helps them. This act will show that you care for them. who spreads positive energy around him/her. Empathizing is not as easy as showing sympathy. However. you will feel happy as well and make other feel good with your presence. Listen Listening to others is a great thing to establish a rapport among them. If you want others to like you. Devote Time A majority of people would like someone in their life who gives time and attention to them. If you are tired of looking plain and simple. such as helping others without being asked to. Be Helpful One of the best ways to get people like you is to go out of the way whenever they are in need. this will show that you are reliable and a person to depend upon. When you carefully listen to what others say and respond to them appropriately. as they will be sure that you will always be there to lend an ear. This kind of behavior will project you as a kind-hearted person and get people to like you. • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • How To Look Gorgeous Every girl wants to be noticed. be ready to turn heads and have more than expected eyeballs running in your . People will begin to open up to you more. is good. if you act happily. In addition. Empathize Feeling bad for someone who is going through troubled times. Be Kind Do not frown at others’ wrong deeds or misbehaviors. Being kind means speaking politely. Therefore. you will surely become a person whom almost everyone likes. Every act of yours should show that you care for others and are considerate about their feelings. It is always nice to show kindness. then pay attention whenever they are talking to you. You should not be their last resort.• • • • People would always like to accompany a smiling and cheerful person.
Use right products that are of better quality and work on your hair until you get it right. go for a shiny pink. Keep up with the latest trend and get a hairstyle from a good hairstylist. Don’t starve yourself or become anorexic in order to look thinner. Now this is what you hear from every second person. a curly iron and straightener and make sure you apply mousse and hairspray after styling your hair. Make up is a must and a foremost factor for the attainment of a gorgeous look.Drink a lot of water. bronzer and blusher for a smooth looking and radiant skin. The way you carry yourself is what you need to add magic to your looks and personality. it is something people will remember more than how you look. It can cost you some more. Just eat proper diet and exercise regularly to keep your body in a good shape. as water will rid the body of impurities. Correct Make-Up . but this is the most effective way to get beautiful skin and great body. Hairstyle .Whatever hairstyle you wear. one needs to look healthy. If you hear it very often. Always wear a smile and be natural. Looking Beautiful Healthy Skin and Body . Scroll down to find some more tips that can make you look beautiful and gorgeous. make sure that it looks good on you. making it look natural at the same time. Next is choosing right shade for eye shadow. A multi-layered make up is not what will make you look gorgeous unless you look beautiful and healthy. Shop a lot and watch out for the hottest fashion trends.• • • • direction. but the extra money is all worth it. Wear a glossy lipstick to that glamorous and gorgeous look. concealer. Wear anything that looks cute on you and make you look trendy. The truth is that a healthy body and proper diet are the primary factor for the attainment of a gorgeous look as it brings radiance and glow on your face. if any. Highlight your eyes and lips. It goes well with every dress and suits all skin complexions.Sometimes you will hear that you do not need the blusher or eye shadow.Be super stylish keeping with the latest fashion trends. Apply foundation. It does not imply that you have to indulge yourself in heavy exercises or count each calorie you consume. but some precautionary steps will do. If you can choose nothing. To look gorgeous. Dressing Style and Right Attitude . Brush regularly and clean you hair clean and conditioned. but make sure not to wear clothes that are too revealing and leave nothing to imagine. you have to know the right styling and make up to enhance what you are blessed with. Get a flat iron. Besides this. Jeans and T-shirts are something that can never go out of fashion. it can result in severe consequences. a basic fact that many of us tend to ignore. A proper coat of mascara and black eyeliner will define your eyes. • • • • • • How To Ignore Rude Comments . you have to apply some tricky make up that enhances your features and cover-up the flaws.
so don't let other people's opinions affect you. In the following. People pass rude comments to make you angry and get an agitated response. we will tell you how to handle rude comments. the latter two differences are much more enhanced than the former. they will slowly start backing away. nothing you say will make a different. You know what you are and what you are not. Almost all the people who say rude things to others are suffering from inferiority complex. How To Be Happy Happiness holds the key to lead a successfullife. right from their nationality. this basic element of life has lost its meaning. Today. Never ever let the rude comments of others belittle you or make you feel inferior. Amidst the different types of people. race and religion to their nature and temperament. If it is not possible to avoid them altogether. don't reply back. so don't even try. How To Ignore Rude Comments • • • • • • Believe in yourself. If he/she resorts to comments. though there might be some major similarities. They don't have the slightest idea on how to make polite conversation and often end up hurting the people around. In fact. If they don't get that. go through the lines below. Remember this always! When somebody behaves rudely with you. just greet them politely and go your away. If you want to get some more tips on being happy in life. by their rude comments. not pass rude comments. This would make the person shut up. React as if you didn't even hear his/her comment or it makes no difference to you what he/she thinks. However.The people who live in this world differ on a number of factors. there is one particular category that comprises of discourteous and insensitive people. Do you want to know the secret of staying happy all the time? Happiness means different things to different people. Never ever try to justify yourself. while watching someone grimacing acts as dampener on your spirit as well. You first need to figure out what happiness means to you and then. They are only trying to hide their own insecurity behind the rudeness. You will hardly find two people who have exactly same personality. you can work out steps to seek the joy and bliss for yourself. Most of you would agree that it feels good when you see someone smiling. answer them back politely. with busy schedules and the need to get to the top of the ladder. it is much easier to find a frowning face than a smiling one. Stay away from such people as far as possible. A person who wants to hear your side of the story will come and talk to you. How To Be Happy . If things become worst.
How To Start Up A Conversation . your partner and life in general. like values. Start small and then. like going for a walk. They criticize and grumble about everything which happens in life and fail to see what good things they have in life. money.was it the place you were in or the person you were with. In no time. it is the time to catch up with old pals on a movie date. Make happiness your priority in life. Think positive things about yourself. Think of what made you happy . Make it a habit and soon. However. music and your hobby. friends. is extremely stressful. If you were once a movie buff. If you are also one of those who keep looking for ways of starting a conversation. when you were very happy. smile always. interacting with people is easy. What was the particular thinking or feeling that made you feel happy? Be with the person or visit the place again and experience the same emotions. family. work your way ahead.• To be happy. etc. By smiling yourself. etc. Take 15 minutes off from the routine life and do things that make you smile. love life. You need to take time out of your busy schedules to do things which are important to you and make you feel elated. Be appreciative of the main aspects of life. friends. and bring a smile to your face. It's easier to put up a smile on your face than to have a frown on. family. It would help you get rid of the pessimism. but can be developed by almost everyone. such as health. If you love ice creams. but most of the people face difficulty when they have to start up a conversation. you would realize that you are feeling happy all the time. Be optimistic in life and shoo away any negativity. talking to friends. • • • • • • How To Start Up A Conversation Starting a conversation is not everyone's cup of tea. You need to realize what holds the key to your happiness. indulge in having one. you can make others happy as well. reading a book. It might sound strange. If pessimistic thoughts creep easily into your mind. you first need to find what is important in your life. Given below are tips to help you with the problem. Read it often. go through the following lines. you will see the people around you smiling as well. It is often noted that people who are of the complaining sorts are mostly unhappy. Lastly. It might not be possible to immediately start doing everything that makes you happy. The ability to start a conversation effortlessly and to carry it out is a quality which is inherent only in a few people. job. There are certain things which take a prime concern in your life. maintain a diary where you write all the good things. once you know the right ways to start the discussions. Recollect old times. to come up with something to talk about. For such people.
Start the conversation with a compliment. It is noted that people love to talk about themselves their success. • • • • • • • How To Be Funny Being funny is not a joke (pun intended!). etc. . Even if you are not confident. Be confident about yourself.• To start a conversation. Crack jokes that make people laugh out loudly and not PJs that might make them stifle a yawn. It requires a lot of skill to bring that 'million dollar smile' on the face of a person. You also need to make sure that you come across as hilarious. the deal is struck . taking care not to get too intrusive or personal. play it safe and do not compliment on the looks or body of someone. Many people think that humor can be dealt with very easily. or at least smile.conversation has started. but to make them laugh is a hard nut to crack. if you want make others laugh. However. etc. With practice. take it as an opportunity to talk further. Compliment if you like something about the person. In the following lines. at your presence. You can make others cry in just fraction of a minute. Take initiative to talk to people when you are stuck up at different situations. This is not true. You should be positive about yourself. You might agree or disagree with it. their ambitions. This would make you appear relaxed and calm. Use this as a conversation starter. Have a smile on your face and look into the eyes of the person while talking. Practice conversing with people. The best way to start a conversation is to be well-rehearsed. but make sure that you offer a sincere one. their life. you need to know many things related to humor. Be inquisitive in nature. It is good to prepare in front of the mirror. timing. In both the cases. we have provided a number of tips that will help you in being funny. If some opinion has been expressed by the other person. act as if you are. you will have a lot of things to talk about and can knowledgeably participate in discussions. in case he/she thinks it as derogatory. Always try to be cool. To be funny. Observance is very essential for a communication to take place. but do not let go of the opportunity. you should be aware of what is happening around you. You can either ask a question about it or offer an opinion. When you are up-to-date with the current affairs. but are not marked as clown. How To Be Funny • Just Relax: The first and foremost requirement of being funny is to have a relaxed mind. Put questions to them. like the situation. you are sure to get better at starting conversations. Look around to find something interesting or unusual to talk about. Don't put too much pressure on yourself.
Insecure people are self promoting and constantly talk about themselves. They are not comfortable with their own-self. A reserve of jokes can come handy. That is perhaps the best way to be in 'good humor'! In fact. forget about making other people smile. However. so be always ready. • • • • Signs Of An Insecure Person Security is something. Learn Timing & Mannerism: Being funny is not just about delivering great jokes. Signs of Insecurity • • • • • • An insecure person becomes overly selfish. For this. Nobody would like to get witty at a mourning ceremony. Though it is impossible to be completely free of doubt. An insecure person becomes overly accommodating and tries to gain other people's approval. isn't it? So. have meaningful relationships and be respected by others. keep checking yourself to eliminate any signs of insecurity that might creep in. They need validation from other people for their actions and qualities. analyze the situation well before introducing humor into it. Excessive joking is also a mechanism for coping with insecurity. Know Your Audience & Situation: This is another important thing to take into consideration. Ease up on life and yourself. which is desired by everyone. if you want to know what are signs of an insecure person. which is achieved when other people laugh at their jokes. . Be Ready For All Situations: You never know when a situation calls for humor. Insecure people can't enjoy silence and they try to fill it with unnecessary chatter. Falling down on a banana peel is the best example. attitude and the way you project yourself also count. It is about cracking them at the right time. Insecure people tend to be very defensive and cannot handle criticism. It gives pain. That is why it is important for all of us to be comfortable with ourselves. A secureperson is more likely to achieve success. Your mannerism. You should know whom you are talking to and what the situation is. Try to find humor especially in the situations that do not turn in your favor. Just make sure that you crack the jokes with good amount of humor. one should try to be confident of himself.this can make a dull story funny and interesting. but humor is written all over the scenario! Humor Yourself: Put a pause to your dull routine life. He tries to surround himself with possessions. read on. Be animated and alive when you are talking . accolades and attention. An insecure person craves for other people's attention. insecure people find it very difficult to manage things in every aspect of their lives.• Take It Easy! Don't get too serious or tensed at tough situations. On the contrary. if you can't' make yourself laugh. this leads to insensitivity towards others. Crack some jokes and humor yourself.
Everyone wants to be popular and win the praise and attention of all. friendly conversation with anyone in the room.• • • • • • • How To Be Popular Insecure people are even threatened by others and therefore by bullying they try to crush their opinion. Tips on How to Be Popular • Be bold enough and step out of your comfort zone. in case you belong to the category of people. Being materialistic also shows that person is insecure because he feels that by acquiring material wealth and showing it off he will be able to gain people's attention and acknowledgement. Try to talk to everyone. Even if you are a shy and introvert person. Popular people are generally friendly with almost everyone around. here we are with some valuable tips to relive you off your worries. make a small conversation. Also make sure you choose light and safe topics to talk about. don't • • • • . In effect. do not be a bugger. Try to decipher people's body language to understand their signals. be in good enough terms so that you are able to hold a short. Insecure people tent to be overly authoritative as they tend to compensate for their lack of confidence by taking out their frustrations on their subordinates. Be friendly and social. Make it a habit to know people around you. However. Keep your attitude casual. who crosses your path. Insecure people even become abusive if they fail to control their partners. In effect. It is very necessary for you to interact with people to gain their attention. just smile and give greetings. This is visible in constant questioning. who desperately wish to don the spotlight but do not how to become popular. To be precise. As everybody does not acquire the talent of being popular. make sure you just attempt a small talk with people you are not well aware of. people often remain clueless on the topic. restraining from any sort of controversy. This is because if you do not believe in yourself. So. wondering how others do it. Over jealousy is yet another sign of insecure people as they lack trust in their partners. On the contrary. you will have to come out of your shell in order to become popular. They are scared of losing and so they always keep themselves at the edge. Be polite and respectful towards people's privacy. Over competitiveness is also a sign of insecurity. Don't be nosy and clingy. nothing will come easily to you. one of the basic things to remember here is that it is very necessary to be self confident to become popular. If you receive a response. Overly sexual behavior also portrays insecurity as the person treats his or her sexuality as a crutch to get other's attention. mistrust and altercations with the members of the opposite sex.
when they talk and offer to help somehow. Don't be hesitant. which will give an impression of self confidence. Talk to them on common grounds so that they find you compatible. pleasant expression fixed there. there are others who vie to attain that charm. Maintain eye contact when you interact with other people. Though it might sound cliché. On the other hand. To know more on how to be charming. Ways to Be Charming • To start with. Empathy is a virtue you cannot do without if you want to be popular. don't interrupt and most importantly. You can definitely mould these as per the situation you are in. but also send signals across that you like them and they would warm up to you. when you meet them for the first time. but soon you will get used to it. which reflects in their conduct. improve your body posture. don't be annoying. Keep your spine straight. • • • .invite yourself anywhere. instilling the above qualities certainly is. Though it's not necessary to be attractive and talented to be popular. Nod and smile subtly. avoid overdoing it. Try to remember people's names. to bring them to a point where you have a natural. Tell them that you wish the best for them. Whenever possible. It may feel awkward or overpowering in the beginning. but at the same time. Try to relate to people around you and be interested in them. be yourself. read on. this characteristic can be achieved over a period of time. don't brag. Not to forget. Try to make a connection when you meet people. through practice and patience. While walking. • Stop thinking too much about yourself. to make things work for you. but find themselves clueless. it is the most important prerequisite for being popular. it's not only necessary to know everyone but also equally important to be in good terms with them. try to lend out a helping hand. Some people have an inherent charm to their personality. However. remain relaxed and maintain an upright posture. One of the basic ways to become charming is by putting effort and careful attention to the needs and desires of others. exuding a subdued joy. • • How To Be Charming Being charming is the quality of an attractive personality. shoulders thrown back and head at level with the ground. Relax your facial muscles. One of the easiest ways of building rapport is by listening to people. For popular people. It will not only make it easy for you to remember that person.
Be affable in accepting compliments. It just requires a little effort on your part to change your attitude and soon. apart from improving your social relationships. read on. while talking to them. The content should be in accordance with the surrounding. you will be an outgoing person. How to Become More Outgoing . However. Keep a control on the tone of your voice. at don't be too nosy. everybody will find it easy to trust you and confide in you. like a coworker. enjoying people’s attention almost all the time. This will help you move ahead in your career as well. Your voice should reflect your sincerity. it does not mean that others cannot be the same. Initiate conversations on topics that would interest the people around you. We have listed a number of tips for being more outgoing. mention something positive that is likeable about him. Being outgoing is a necessary quality to possess. they find it difficult to mingle around with other people and do not get to socialize much. so that the person finds his effort worthy. a classmate. In case you want to master the art of socialization. especially in today’s competitive world. find out about their immediate family and interests. Remember that everyone wants to be liked and complimented. etc. your reputation will be in shatters and people will shun you.• Show interest in people. In case there is something negative that pops up about the other person. especially when you feel there can be evidence floating around in the open. • • • • • • Tips For Being More Outgoing There are a number of people in world. As a result. Once the truth is reveled. Follow restrain and do not talk much about yourself. in the lines below. Praise others. Give generous compliments to people and raise their self esteem. Be warm and genuine when interacting with people. who either have a subdued personality or are extremely shy. This will make you a charming personality. Appreciating other people's efforts and helping them in improving upon their skills will increase your importance. Focus on being purely interested and impressed by other people. as it will make them feel uncomfortable. talk about a game or a sports team. Try not to lie while talking to someone. This way. Try to be interesting and open while conversing. if you are in a sporty crowd. For instance. Though some people are born with an innate quality of leadership and turning things in their way. Show your feeling of gaiety on receiving the compliment. Even when you are meeting a new acquaintance. who will be adored by others around.
With time. When someone approaches you. Do not be afraid of failure. you should try to be more social and interact with people. Once there. However. as it shows your respect and interest towards them. Most of us are unhappy about something or the other in ourselves and wish to have the perfect look and be adored by others. you need to avoid uncomfortable situations as much as you can. Be positive about life and be in the company of people who make you feel positive. make new friends as well. you look great. you will feel charged to meet people and mingle with them. give a pleasant smile and show that you are interested. When you will feel you can do things as per your own wish. Read on to find ways and tips on looking your best all the time. no one likes to move around a pessimist. as there is not going to be any success.‘try. When you feel happy. try. the more you will tend to avoid mixing up with others! If you feel you are too shy. expanding your social circle to quite an extent. The more nervous you are. This will boost your self-esteem and you will feel better about yourself. This will make them take interest in you too. you cannot learn how to be more outgoing.• • To begin with. One fact that almost all of us overlook is that ‘looking best’ factor is more on the inside than on the outside. Remember. for the fear that you would not be able to mix up with people. You must feel worthy of yourself and then only you would be able to project this outside. as it will help you build self-confidence. Unless and until you meet people. until you succeed’. make sure you pursue what you want to do. So. Do not avoid going to parties. start initiating conversation on your own. Keep the motto in mind . Give yourself credit for doing things. who is full of negative views about life. the fact remains that all of us make efforts to look best every time we are seen by someone else. How to Look Your Best • The first step towards looking good is to feel good about yourself. Maintain eye contact while talking to other people. try again. . People who love themselves always stand out in the crowd. so that you can be at ease. • • • • • • How To Look Your Best We have always heard that ‘beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder’. A pinch of confidence and an ounce of smile would make you look your best even in the most unfavorable conditions. try to interact with others and if possible. This will reflect in your conversations and interactions as well. Your friends might also introduce you to some more people. if you do not try for the fear of failing. Make more friends. Avoiding people’s gaze is taken as a sign of boredom or a lack of attention and might make people pull away from you.
• • • Stop cribbing about your height. you can go for make up only if you feel it’s necessary. Do not wear too-tight clothes. by working upon one’s persona. Select attires that suit you and accentuate your complexion and figure. which cannot be generalized. On your everyday encounters. Simple exercises include crunches. while subduing others is the best mantra to follow. Thus. So. Moreover. If you are uncomfortable. look good! • • • • • • How To Be Beautiful Being beautiful is a desire that almost everyone wishes to see getting accomplished. which need to be looked for. weight or structure. Most of the times. Though it is believed that beauty is god gifted. Overconfidence kills. on the other hand. Wear footwear you are comfortable in and don’t plunge into the fashion race uselessly. which would enhance your best feature. notice the people you find beautiful. better take care. Tips to Look Beautiful • • In order to look beautiful one should know how to define beauty. Look for colors which would enhance the beauty in you. Do not follow the fashion fiesta blindly and look atrocious at the end of it. Simple make up. Devote at least 10-15 minutes each day to exercise. pelvic tilts. for being attractive. push ups and skipping. Wear a warm smile on your face and move out with your chin raised high. Take notice of the beauty in yourself. Selecting footwear is an important task. Do not indulge in insensitive buying. In addition. Avoid being out in sun for a long period of time and put on a sunscreen whenever you go out during the day. it would show on the outside. Loose fitting clothes. look for your . but confidence makes you swiftly sweep past the crowd and look outstanding!! Feel good. instead of something really fashionable that would make you look bad. Everyone in this world has at least one unique quality and you must be proud about your own. one just needs to pay attention on his or her appearance as well his character. the prettiest things in life are often subtle and hidden. Make sure you take good care of your skin. it can surely be enhanced to a great extent. will make you fat and clumsy. So. Wear colors that match your skin tone. While natural look is always in. being healthy is also a prime requisite for looking beautiful. This will help your body look and feel its very best. Wear clothes that fit you. Spend time in front of the mirror and search for the beauty in your features. beauty is something subjective. tummy tucks. as they will make you uncomfortable and you will also end up showing all the bulges that you wanted to hide. This is because beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. Given below are some tips on how to be beautiful and attractive.
then people surely want to seek his company and admire him. it becomes a secret wish for everyone to be termed as cool. Wisdom always gives your beauty a boost. giving preference to your innate good looks. • One you have realized your beauty. Though many people feel it is difficult to achieve the milestone. Brush your teeth daily and floss them when required. but carries significance. Avoid applying heavy make up in public places and try to look natural and composed. remember your inner beauty will always radiate and never get faded. Another thing that makes someone attractive is his intelligence. So. The next thing to do is to develop your inner beauty. it is better if you live your life the way you like. which actually implies that to be beautiful. perfectly-shaped shoulders. This is what makes the beauty last forever. so avoid being sad at trivial things and enjoy life. So build your character honestly. Bathe regularly and smell good. For inspiration. which can be achieved by emphasizing your attractive features. rejoice in it. Have a positive outlook towards life and stay happy. Being cool is all about learning how to perceive yourself • . Keep experimenting until you feel you have given your best features the representation they deserve. Read on for some tips on how to be cool. is the best way to look pretty. So. It just takes a little effort to look beautiful. Cool people have a charismatic personality and are popular amongst their social community. with the help of make up. Just highlighting your features.beauty. Tips on Being Cool • Do not care about what people think of you. Happiness exudes natural beauty. which is very essential in order to look beautiful. make sure you try to acquire as much knowledge as you can • • • • • How To Be Cool Being stated cool is the hippest statement amongst guys and gals. which can be in the form of smooth and well-proportioned hands. Make efforts to enhance your physical beauty. who does things in his own distinct way and does not care much about the world. one needs to have a beautiful inner self as well. This might sound contradictory. Keep your finger and toe nails trimmed. etc. Wear minimum makeup. A cool person is generally referred to as someone. It is said that beauty is not skin deep. it should be noted that being cool just requires a bit of attitude change. Thus. Remember that it’s not possible to please everyone. Though you should be immune to other people’s opinion about you. you should keep a check on how they perceive you. flawless forehead. rather than bothering about the world. Follow a regular hygiene routine. Most of us are always concerned about what other people think of us. If the person is wise. thereby making yourself beautiful both on the inside and on the outside.
which will bring about a . but people will like you for being so earthly. etc. Real friends respect you for what you are and cherish the time spent with you. it is good to be respected for what you believe in. etc. Another thing to be remembered is that for being cool. Don't shy away from being different. Do not force yourself on people. take a deep breath and mellow down. smile generously. Find your talent in terms of sports. but do not be overly excited. Your serenity and steadfastness shows your coolness. Be friendly and social. stand/sit up straight. one should create his own identity. Speak your mind. Be confident about what you speak and don't bother if people disagree with your opinion. beware of bad breath. Find real friends and stay in their company. Smile and be genuine. Being cool is all about staying relaxed and comfortable in any and every situation. look and feel confident. You will not only gain respect for it. being smart is the need of the hour. Don't be disruptive and annoying or have unpredictable mood changes. Being known for your passion is certainly deemed cool. People who break against the tide and question the status quo are quite often regarded as the coolest. one has to follow some simple tips. However. • • Present yourself in the most comfortable and confident way. whether it means standing up for yourself. to fight and sustain in the rat race of the contemporary world. that too with a good pace. bursting into tears or losing control. • • • • • • How To Be Smart Everybody wants to become smart in today’s world as it does not remain that easy to survive any more. and end up losing your temper. you need to look and feel positive. Cool people usually speak confidently and clearly. In terms of body language. do not stare. If at times you do feel vulnerable. defending someone else or taking interest in something that no one else dares to do. For acquiring the respect of others. making you feel positive and happy. Remember being cool essentially states finding humor in moments of clumsiness and discomfort. this does not mean chattering uselessly. music. It’s good to be outgoing. With regard to physical appearance. At times. Everyone can become smart by acquiring the required skills. Cultivate the habit of laughing at yourself. make sure to maintain a good posture and look them in the eye. Though some people are born with such qualities. body odor. From kids in school to adults in corporate world. but not excessively eager and clingy.better. While interacting with people. Make sure you say what you mean and vice versa. For this. it should not be considered a norm. art and the like and pursue it with excellence.
change in his/her lifestyle and personality, eventually making them smart enough. To know how to become smart, read the tips given below. Tips to Become Smart •
To become smart set important goals for yourself once a week. Make sure you do the important things first. Try to improve your vocabulary by reading good books. This will make your language rich, enhancing your skills. You can even read one word at a time in the dictionary and grow intellectually gradually. Excel in your education by getting good grades. Excellence in your educational field gives you confidence as well as knowledge. Watch news and be aware about the recent events taking place around the world. This will increase your general knowledge and current affairs. Grab more information on subjects like interesting facts, funny and inspiring quotations, good books and movies, scientific studies and interesting inventions. This will give you information to help you in interacting with other people and sound interesting and intelligent. Be organized and plan each day. For remembering your schedule, keep a notebook or small digital planner and maintain a record of the due dates for important events. A weekly planner or a monthly calendar can also be used, wherein you can note down birthdays and big events. Being a good listener is very important, when it comes to being smart. Listen carefully to others' opinions on controversial things or otherwise. It’s not necessary to agree with them but try to extract the maximum knowledge from others. Keep an open mind and socialize freely. Be nice to people around and show genuine care towards their well being. It is a sign of maturity, class and intelligence, which will make people to look up to you. It’s a good way to feel confident. Be friendly with people you find smart and who follow the above practices. It will help you in following the path with determination. Exercise your brain by solving puzzles. This will make you sharp and your reflexes quick. Practice math sums mentally to increase your speed. Learn varied tricks for doing complicated things to keep yourself ahead of others. Try as much as possible to feel in control of your life. Be happy for others on their achievement and encourage them by congratulating.
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Effective Leadership Qualities And Skills
Whenever group activities are required, the emergence of a leader becomes imminent. A group always works effectively when there is a leader to guide the members and keep them motivated on their way to success. Without a good leader, a group will not be able to perform to the best of its abilities. However, as much is it necessary to have a leader, it is also essential that he has all the right qualities and skills. Having a bad leader is even worse than having no leader at all. In case you want to be a leader, that too an effective one, you need to cultivate certain skills and qualities in you, some of which have been listed below. Effective Leadership Qualities and Skills • In order to become a leader, a person should be aware of nitty-gritty of the work that his team has to handle. Unless and until he knows about the work, he will not be able to lead the team in the right direction. • • • • An effective leader needs to set example for his team members and become a role model for them. If he is lazy, dishonest and shirks from responsibilities, how can he expect others to be meticulous and sincere! A leader should be totally unbiased. He should not have personal favorites in his team, to whom he gives more authority or less work. All the members in a team should be treated equally. Patience is one of the most essential qualities needed in a leader. Since he has to guide his team, he must have the patience to make them learn what they need to and get the work done from them. Constructive feedback is one of the skills that a leader should possess. He should always praise his team members if they perform well. At the same time, if they do wrong, he should be there to tell them where they went wrong and how can they put things back in order! However, the criticism should always be constructive and not demeaning. A leader needs to motivate his team, so that they happily contribute towards the team work. He should be aware of the stimuli of different members and make judicious use of them. When a person becomes a leader, he needs to delegate his duties as well as responsibilities amongst his team members. For this, he should be aware of their strengths and weaknesses and delegate accordingly. Leader is the one who sets goal for the team and help them achieve it. He should possess the vision to aim right and at the same time, be able to mobilize people towards those goals. A leader should always be receptive to new ideas. Just because he is the leader doesn’t mean that the suggestions made by others will be useless. He must accept the useful ideas of his team members. An effective leader should have loads of understanding and always focus on the betterment of the group, as a whole, and not individual members. At the same time, he should be honest, trustworthy and easily approachable.
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How To Control My Feelings When Upset
Feeling upset is quite natural. It comes to you automatically when things do not favor you or do not turn out to be the way you thought that they would. However, the phase should be temporary and not something that stretches over to a long period of time. It is very essential to learn how to control one’s feeling of being upset over matters or things, because being too depressed could hamper your behavior and thus, affect your regular mode of living. Read on further to find some tips for controlling your disappointment and depression. Tips For Controlling Anger • The best way is control anger to take a deep breath and count the numbers backwards, from 10 to 1. It would make you feel calmer in no time. Now, pick up the phone and talk to the person whom you are upset with and clarify all the issues. Write a list of things that make you upset and irritate you. Now, tear the page and throw it in the dustbin or even go for burning the page up! This might just give you some mental respite, as you are venting out your frustration by tearing or burning the paper. Do things that you enjoy. Indulge in your favorite past time activities, like singing, dancing, cooking, listening to music, reading or going for a walk. Do things that make you happy, as they will help you to take your mind off a particularly upsetting instance. Play a game or a sport you love. It would lighten your heart and would give a boost to your spirit. Exerciseand sports are very rightly considered to be stress busters. They will also help you to distract you mind. Call your friends. Have long chats with them or even plan the day out. Catch up with them and do things that you love doing. Having fun with friends will not give you the time to think over things that make you feel upset. If you have the habit of maintaining a diary, write all that you are feeling in it right now. You might realize that you are feeling 10 times better after doing it. Make a list of things that you are good at and enjoy doing. Try refreshing your mind with your own positive qualities and things which you are best at. This would help you regain your spirit. If you are upset and angry about something, the best you can do is give yourself some space. Get out of the particular situation that you find unbearable and try to soothe your nerves. This will also help you avoid instant reactions to situations that irritate you. Analyze whether the matter is even worth being upset about or not. Many a times, we simply worry too much and waste a lot of time fretting over things that are just not important. Try to dispassionately analyze the situation that is bothering you. Most of the times, you will not be able to figure out any credible reason to be upset!
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Indulge in things that make you happy and feel light. you will be able to gauge your expressions and reactions and have a fair idea as to how would you look while talking in front of people. Do whatever it takes to respect yourself and think good of yourself.How To Open Up To People Many people have a problem with opening up to people or even talking freely in a gang of friends. This finally leads to inferiority complex and that individual cannot help but feel miserable forever. • • • • • How To Be More Social • . Just stand in front of the mirror and have an impromptu conversation with yourself. Check out how to open up with people. you will start building a positive image about life and yourself which will ultimately lead to a better personality. However. If you think you can’t discuss with anyone. Have a attitude in your personality and believe in yourself. That way. they are unable to cope up normally in a situation where talking and speaking out is essential. The more places you go. you will know your weak points and you can always strive to work on them in order to open up. Talk about what happened during the day. You know yourself more than anyone else. It could be something traumatic or something that may have left a bad impact on your ability to open up. That way. you will become confident of yourself in no time. smile and laugh or get angry if anything unpleasant incident took place. They feel they can’t talk as others do and often have low confidence due to that. Ask them to analyze how you speak and tell you which places need improvement. try talking it out to a counselor. Start going out and meeting new people. It will help you become an emotionally stable and fun-loving person. Unless you think you are good. It helps a lot to open up when you are in public. one must realize that there is a solution to every problem and this issue can be tackled too. It will be very helpful talking about this to a professional as it will help you gain a good insight into your problems and also find a solution. Practice talking to yourself. Talk about it to your closest confidante. All it needs is a bit of perseverance and dedicated efforts from you. the more will you be able to talk to new people. share ideas and experiences. As a result. This way. Start by talking openly to your family and closest friends. Tips for Opening up to People • The first and foremost step is to be confident of yourself. Analyze yourself and see if you have a personal issue that has been bothering you for a while. no one else will think the same way.
Perform . you can build it into an automatic part of your life.This is perhaps the first step towards being social. dislikes. we present some tips and techniques to get more social and gain back that confidence. This way. Do not try to imitate the character. say hi to people and make the first move. practice makes a man perfect in this case as well. Converse . Most of them loveto speak about themselves. Mute the button when it is his/ her turn to speak. Tips To Become Social & Overcome Shyness Practice . To help you a bit more in this regard. The simple act of listening can help you being more social with the people around you. likes. Mostly.Converse with people. It sounds a little strange. It usually vanishes as we mature.Take a step forward and perform in front of an audience. Similar to other skills in life. show interest in the conversation.Try to be friendlier. but with a small start. etc.Switch to your favorite show and pretend to be one of the characters. interests. Be Interested In People . The world around you is not bad. by being truly interested in them. by being genuinely interested in what he/she has to say. It does take a lot of energy. While talking to someone. with people who you make you feel comfortable and gradually move on to others. you just can't flip a switch and be loving and friendly towards everyone instantly. but that is the way to build up your conversation skills. Listen . The more you present yourself in front of yourfriends. Initiate conversations.People who are great at socializing make other people feel comfortable around them. by asking them about their life.Yes. it just doesn't go away.Be a good listener and talk only when it is your time to talk. Be Friendly . as this would improve your social skills. their • • • • • • • • • • • • • • . colleagues.• • • • • People often wonder how to be more social. Always speak confidently and listen to what people around you have to say. Smiling relaxes you and makes you more approachable. self consciousness is the reason for shyness and loneliness. If you are not chatty at that moment or are reserved in general. it’s really amazing how a simple act like smiling can go a long way in reducing the stress of dealing with people. Now. the easier it would be for you to open up in front of strangers. you will gain confidence and the attention will be on you. and classmates. Start small. Watch TV . how to talk to others and how to be more assertive. but for some of us. Smile . so smile and be happy. Just be natural and speak up what comes to your mind. make up your lines and speak loud.
this can also lead to one having low self. Infact. Try to draw out common aspects between the two of you and move on with the conversation. This could be things like cooking well. their dreams. Remember two things on the onset of this mission. for any reason.esteem with the passage of time. just see this list and remind yourself that you too possess praise-worthy qualities like others. make sure that you are genuine while doing so. Attend Seminars on Self Confidence You can also attend seminars themed on building self-confidence.Never forget to compliment people on various suitable occasions. However.Who Moved My Cheese and The Alchemist can also help you. then try searching for information / reading up on this issue on the internet. just remember that you do not deserve this and don’t have to live like this your whole life! While lacking confidence is one thing. It is a feeling that will slowly start getting mirrored once you begin appreciating yourself truly. First that in this case. etc. being courteous. It’s just that some of us have to take those extra steps. only you can help yourself. libraries and other such sources. where you can get important tips and guidance in this aspect from experts.Remember that each one of us has the capability to be the most social person out there.• • • preferences. confidence means overcoming your fears! Tips on How to Build Confidence Like Yourself The very first key to becoming self confident is by liking yourself. interact with strangers? Do you keep criticizing yourself constantly for doing things the wrong way? All these traits just point one thing – that you majorly lack in self confidence. If attending conferences is not possible. All you need is the willingness and determination to overcome your flaws. See what and how you can incorporate these tips in your daily lifestyle. Second that it’s okay to feel scared because confidence doesn’t mean not feeling scared. Compliments prove to be great conversation starters. But remember that you can definitely turn around the tables if you so want. While there can be varied reasons behind your lack of confidence. When ever you feel dejected. So list down all the positive traits you have in yourself. How To Gain Confidence Do you cringe each time you view yourself in the mirror and sadly wish you were someone else? Do you get tongue-tied and nervous when you have to. Compliment . Encourage / Motivate yourself . etc. Last Tip . Be ready to do your extra bit. Reading famous inspirational books like .
it makes you crave for success more strongly and it also teaches you to appreciate success in the true way when it finally comes. . Try Overcoming Fears Some people nurture a secret fear that they will not success at anything they do. So failure is not all that bad as many label it. tell yourself repeatedly that you can do it and do it well. Encourage or motivate yourself each and every day and you are bound to find your self confidence blossoming. Think positive and put your 100 per cent in what ever you do. It teaches you to survive when things are not going smooth. but success is bound to come to you sooner or later. Though maybe in varying degree. One should try to do away with such negative thinking first of all. Accept Failures Failures teach you more than success does. Another way to motivate yourself is by jotting down three to four things on the paper that you did well each day. It is as much a part of life as success is. accept it and move on. This will make you feel good about yourself and boost confidence. It is just that you have to take it in a positive way.Whether you have to appear for an interview or make a presentation. It keeps you grounded.
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