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Getting things organized on time is the key to minimize your stress. If you are the kind of a person who keeps things pending for the last minute and then end up in a mess, then perhaps it is the right time to gear up and get things organized to avoid those last minute scrambling. It can be often challenging to get things organized if you are doing that for the first time. However, if you are ready to take some extra efforts, you can help reduce your stress level to a great extent. But, what is actually meant by getting organized and from where to start are the two obvious questions that come to mind when it comes to getting organized. If you too are contemplating on where to get started and to become more organized in day to day life then here are some tips to help you get started. Getting Organized Time Management Are you always in hurry and rushing for your daily chores? Do you find yourself in a mess and do you find it difficult to remember things? If yes, then perhaps you need to organize your time more efficiently. Maintain a To Do list and schedule all your appointments in a notebook. Stick to only one notebook instead on using multiple calendars to schedule your appointments. Check the notebook regularly so that you don’t miss any appointments. This way you can avoid overtaxing your brain with preoccupying thoughts. Do not overbook yourself with tasks, find some time for relaxation too. Catch up with friends and spend time with families so that you don’t overstress yourself. Organizing Home Do you live in a cluttered home filled with unnecessary things? Does cleaning home sound a herculean task to you? A cluttered home can drain both your time and finances. A nicely organized home not only creates an abode of peace, but also impresses your guests. If you too want your home to look simple and organized, why wait for the springs? Any time is the right time to create a soothing, simple, and organized home to return to. If you are living in a messy home, set a schedule for your home cleaning agenda. Hire help if required. If you have the money to invest, call a gardener, a decorator, or a professional organizer to get things in order. This will also help you save a lot of time so that you can do some productive work. Make
cleaning a fun activity so that you don’t get bored and give up the task. Include your kids and other family members to help you in the job. Take a break at intervals, sit back, and relax. Making things in order is great but maintaining things in place are difficult. Take necessary steps so that your cleaning doesn’t go in vain. Getting Workplace Organized Is your work desk always filled with clutters and old stationeries? If yes, then try getting your workplace more organized. Check your pen holder and get rid of old pens that do not write any more. Don’t feel bad to throw out unnecessary items. The more you dispose out clutters, the more organized will be your workplace. Organize your desk drawers and make room for subtle items. If you don’t have a drawer, use the place below your monitor to give home to your calculator, PDA, wallet, keys, phones, etc. Organize your files and folders and label them appropriately so than you don’t have to hunt for them. Do you grab an envelope to scribble telephone numbers and addresses and then couldn’t find them when needed? Rather maintain a notebook for this purpose so that you don’t have difficulty finding them
Psychosocial Stages Of Development
It is quite fascinating to grasp and understand how a person grows into an individual with a set of responsibilities from infancy to adulthood. This developmental process in a human being is explained and defined by many psychoanalysts and social scientists. One such definition comes from a Danish-German-American developmental psychologist Erik Erikson. Erikson is famous for his theory on the stages of psychosocial development in a person. Erikson’s theory holds and explains eight stages of development through which an individual passes, namely from infancy to late adulthood. These stages defined by Erikson throw new challenges for an individual which he/she hopefully masters towards the next stage of development. Each stage depends on the successful completion of the previous stages, and if a person fails to master a particular stage, then
he/she might experience problems in later stages. Let us discuss in detail Erikson’s psychosocial stages of development here in the sections to follow. Erikson’s Psychosocial Stages Of Development Basic Trust Vs Mistrust This is the stage which starts with the birth of the child when he/she has no knowledge of the world and is completely dependent on his/her parents, especially the mother. The parents become the basis of their existence and it is the type of environment they are brought up in, which influence their behaviour later in life. This is a stage where the child develops the value of hope and learns to love and trust people because of the loving and caring environment the child receives. This stage lasts till two years of age. Autonomy Vs Shame And Doubt The second stage in the psychosocial development of a person is when the dependent infant grows up into a toddler. This is the time when the child learns to move around freely, and with this freedom of movement he/she explores the things around them, make choices of food, toys, games etc. If the parents grant this freedom to their child and encourage their child’s independence, then the child will grow up to become a competent person. However, if parents become overprotective and keep a check on all the movements of the child, then the child will lack in confidence and competence to take risks in life. Initiative Vs Guilt This stage begins when a child turns 3 yrs of age and continues till the age of 5. This is the first social experience of the child where they attend preschool and make friends, interact with them, and explore his/her power and control over peers while playing. This is the time when the child should be encouraged to socialize and stay in the social environment so that they can develop a sense of purpose to achieve something. This stage also develops the leadership quality in the kid, who if discouraged will lack these qualities and will find it guilty to take initiatives. Industry Vs Inferiority The fourth stage of development starts from 5 yrs of age and continues till the child is 13. This is the stage where children start attending school, experiences a greater degree of independence, start understanding and differentiating between people and cultures, learn reading, writing and presenting amidst other skills which they try to master. Children should get full support in this stage not only from their parents, but from their teachers also. They should be encouraged to participate, learn and take failures in a positive way and not get demotivated by them. If the kids don’t get enough
The teenagers in this stage try and develop their individuality in relationships. This is the stage where a person learns to care for others and give back to the society what he/she has received from it. Ego Integrity Vs Despair This is the last stage in the stages of psychosocial development where a person’s ego identity is fully developed. society. This is a stage where a person reflects back on his/her life and analyzes the achievements and failures. If a person has achieved success in all the earlier stages he/she develops a sense of integrity and wisdom.support and guidance in this stage. . If people fail to achieve this sense of care. A person who is scared of commitment and intimacy will stay isolated and depressed. Intimacy Vs Isolation This stage encompasses people between the age group of 20-40. it will affect their growth in later stages of development. The parents in this stage needs to be very careful in handling the behavioural changes of the growing teenagers for them to grow into confident and responsible individuals. careers etc. This is the stage when the person is in the middle of adulthood and has his/her set career and family. However. This is a stage when the teenagers need to cope with his/her physical changes and understand gender roles. if a person has experienced failures then he/she develops a sense of despair for his/her life. has his/her own identity and is ready to share their sense of identity with others by forming intimate relationships based on love and commitment. This is a stage where teenagers are confused because they are expected to act neither like kids nor like adults. they get stagnated and experience a life without any meaning to it. This is the stage where a person becomes an adult. especially friendship. Generativity Vs Stagnation This stage is totally dependent on the success of the other stages of development. Identity Vs Role Confusion This is the stage of adolescence and is the most crucial stage among all the stages of development. They develop a sense of faithfulness and start attaching importance to relationships. The environment in the previous stages has a great role to play in judging a person’s behaviour in this stage.
by the time you arrive at the bottom of this page you might find yourself whispering. Experience the inexperienced as you are now privileged with the liberty whatever your heart desires. So why don’t you drown your entire state of mind into a hobby? Take advantage of your solitude to be productive. Accept the change that is your state of aloneness and bask in the novelty of it. You will soon encounter your new companion that fails to blabber like a fool. Most of us can barely survive an hour without a cell phone.“Every Cloud has a silver lining”. Nevertheless. And for those that aren’t. Re-discover the real you! You never know where you really belong. Not everybody is Einstein. Of course. death of a partner and isolated job transfers are typical case scenarios that exemplify the birth of loneliness. Learn an Instrument and form a garage band. it is foolish to think that finding happiness alone is impossible. Explore deep into the confines of your body. living alone is no sane person’s fantasy.How To Be Happy Alone The world’s most popular scientist Albert Einstein once wisely confessed. There are countless remedies to combating loneliness. the absence of a separate human entity can land a devastating effect on a lonely soul. Fly a kite. However. others desperately try to fill the void.“I lived in solitude in the country and noticed how the monotony of a quiet life stimulates the creative mind” Who wouldn’t want to follow the footstep of the genius that discovered the Theory of Relativity? No doubt. Pick a paintbrush and paint the world! The clock will tick its way to the next week and you may not even feel the pinch of loneliness. Ways To Be Happy Alone Get a Hobby Wonder why Einstein loved his solitude? The only logical justification would the fact that he occupied himself with all those creatively stimulating experiments. No external factors to dissuade you. let alone live a week in solitary confinement. While some people choose loneliness. Change Is Good Obama said it and was soon after crowned the president of United States. Master the art of pottery or photoshop. Silence impregnates their surroundings and threatens to slaughter all scope for joy. mind and soul. . A Marriage annulment. a select few would leap out in joy at the mere prospect of solitude while some just have no choice. In fact. certainly yearn for the warmth of a human being.
Allow the music to reverberate within you. then even the toughest opposition can become a pushover for you. if you know the art to convey your message clearly. You know you will always have somebody to welcome you home! Be Physically Active Learn to be happy and comfortable with your solitude. So. Whether you are brimming with energy for an important presentation. consider buying or adopting a pet of your choice. if you can’t cope with loneliness. Take long silent walks along the beach or jog around the neighborhood. Remember. Strong interpersonal communication skills are . Register yourself and get to know more people. but if you do not have the right interpersonal skills to complement your credentials. a social service community. Get A Pet Do you miss the comfort of having your sibling or roommates breathing heavily before you fall into a slumber? Find solace in the warmth and compassion provided a fuzzy little dog. your social life and more importantly. Volunteer your time to those less fortunate than yourself. Interpersonal Communication Skills You may have the most impressive line-up of degrees and may boast of refined skills. you are pretty much a lost case. chairing a conference or simply running for a plum job offer. Joining a gym would benefit your health. Dance or sing to any background music. Browse the internet or scan the yellow pages and you will stumble upon a group activity that inexorably will grab your attention. cat or rabbit! Irrespective of the breed or size. relinquish all thoughts of discontentment. Absorb yourself in new tasks and get accustomed to news ways of living. even a goldfish encircling a tiny circular bowl vanquishes the gloom triggered by lack of companionship. yoga classes or a trekking camp. Nevertheless.Join A Community It could be a book club. you cannot expect to get ahead without good people skills. Exercise in your spare time and release the endorphins that reward you with bouts of ecstasy. Now you certainly aren’t bound by family or social obligations. people can act difficult and can cold shoulder your views and opinion.
posture and gesture to convey the right message. Remember. The key objective is to interact with others in a positive way and ultimately get them to know you better and appreciate you. loud. The cue is to pay attention to people and make them feel worthy. but can be easier said than done! It is easy to bump into people with different opinions and ideas. effective communication begins with effective listening and one of the best ways to make the most of it is to belt up and listen. One of the most endearing traits of successful interpersonal skills is deference. you better buck up to make the most of your abilities. rude and snob person. you are definitely on the losing end. Mind Your Body Language! Your body blurts out oodles about you.a necessary tool to evade workplace conflicts and even stub away personal miscommunications. Not only does it leave you with a fair idea of others’ feelings. views. Remember. it also encourages others to revert to you with concentrated attention and zeal. In case you do not have the required interpersonal skills. nobody fancies an aggressive. then your soft skills are pretty much a bummer. Listening is deemed as one of the crucial parameters of all interpersonal dealings. Read on to know more on effective interpersonal communication skills. so you better mind what it says! Body language is one of the crucial parameters of non-verbal communication and an effective instrument of interpersonal communication. Effective Interpersonal Communication Skills Listen Up! You may have a million-dollar look and mouth a million worth words. But. you will be deemed as a schmuck who blows out lots of smoke. but if you cannot connect to your audience and appreciate their views. you better buck up your tone. . but if you do not have ears for your audience. If you cannot respect others and make them feel comfortable. Imagine being turned off a job or a deal just because your body language did not respond convincingly or worse did not back your words! So. Be On The Ball Handing criticisms is an impressive quality. Get A Grip! You may possess the daintiest of demeanors and may be the suavest of talkers. opinions and ideas.
understand that being treated like a pushover at the expense of your career. When you let your body sag. you might just as well put in some effort to stand. Remember. The right posture will not only leave you feeling fit. Also. Just take criticisms with a pinch of salt. make sure you do it tactfully. you may have the skills and abilities. How To Improve Posture How often have you romanced the idea of losing your paunch without having to toil hours on the treadmill or guzzling gallons of carrot juice? Nothing underlines an unwanted paunch like a sloppy stance. then your deeds and feats are useless. without offending anybody’s sentiments. Remember. everywhere. criticisms can be constructive too. Here are some ways on how to improve your posture. confidence and interpersonal relationships is not worth it! Stop being a walkover and assert your worth by learning to say ‘no’ and expressing yourself ardently. while handing out criticisms. Asserting is a sign of the winner! So. you put undue strain on your spine that not only escalates your chronic back pain. in case you are putting in all that extra effort to eat right and exercise right. dump the myth and work towards a more perfectly coordinated posture. but if you cannot stitch a few words to assert your worth and make yourself appear valuable. right posture doesn’t have to mean that you carry a poker-straight body every time. erect posture can have on you. Stop Being A Pushover While it is good to be perceived as a nice guy. just by holding your body in the right posture. Remember. In all cases. but you would also get high on confidence. You will be amazed to see what a slimming effect a tall. Now. Who knows it may be aimed at your betterment! The mantra is to adapt to the situation and learn to toy the dynamics of the conversation. roll your tongue and speak out your worth. Do away with that spare tire and flaunt a more silhouetted figure. So. Take a heed and get trotting! . you aren’t vying for a robot-like body! So. stay calm and preserve your dignity. sit and walk right. but also causes your body to stoop over time.that doesn’t really have to bog you down.
Kick the bad habit and dump the chair and get moving. While it is easy to sit erect. When seated. without unnecessarily stressing your spine. you definitely regret now about not having taken a stand then. heave your chest and draw your head back to the chest. • This one is especially for the high-heeled ladies out there! Heels are indeed the worse affliction women can subject themselves too. Walking once in every thirty minutes will save your muscles from tiring out and also save you from the hump later on in life! • Doesn’t matter if you are hanging out with your friends in the club or reclining in your office cafeteria . Nonetheless.Improving Posture • How often have you slouched in your couch and pinned about your flagging gait? Correct posture is something that doesn’t come easy to most of us and it definitely deserves an all-out effort to stop one from slumping. if not get you flying! All you have to do is stand straight and imagine a balloon tied to your head. All you need to do is to make sure that your ears are aligned with your shoulders and you are done.always ensure that your posture is correct! It’s important for your body to stand in perfect alignment. Strenuous hours on your chair can get the better of your spine and get it slouching. getting the right lumbar support can make a big difference. your nanny and even your teacher for bending over your desk when expected to sit erect. trying to heave you upwards. Always hold your ears. the simple balloon trick can elevate your posture. If you are caught in a desk job. Always rest the soles of your feet flat on the floor while seated. Heels tend to non-align the body posture and alter body’s center of . Ensure that your chair’s backrest has a natural curve that fits into the hollow of your back. always make sure that your spine is in sync with the backrest. However. when expected to stand tall. which is wrong. While you inadvertently filed away the flak then. Thinking so will get you posing upright naturally. there is indeed no escape from lot of slumping around. it is never too late to work towards a healthy body. • The way you sit often makes a difference on the way you stand and how you carry yourself. Try this little mind trick every day to do away with the hunch and sport a fitter you! • Do you remember being snubbed by your mom. shoulders and hips in complete coordination.Standing straight doesn’t have to mean that you tense up your back.
• • Significance Of Self Confidence In Life • • Role Of Confidence During Education • In school and college life. Confidence is related to your mental well-being and determines the actual course taken by your life. Life without confidence is like a racing car. Sometimes we are . dearth of self-belief can take away all the fun in the roller-coaster ride named life. but in personal life too. The cue is to never bend your spine. Just bend your knees. people who are low on confidence are seen to falter in future. In the following lines. if you are unable to find the self-reliance required for it. Confidence is something that is inculcated in you through your own efforts and unlike physical strength cannot be attained by brutish training. instead of leaving us on the mercy of our own grades or teachers. The more you flex your spine. running on a 100 cc engine. If you are a heel freak and can’t do without your high-heeled footwear. don’t crouch or bend from your waist. someone tells you that your shooting hasn’t been too good recently? Though confident players would just ignore such a comment and move on. The common conditions like stage-fright and nervousness also occur due to the lack of confidence. the more likely you are to be left with a curve posture. when you bend to lift anything. if you have to bend at all. what testosterone is to a man.gravity. it’s suggested that you settle for a more modest kitten heels than perch yourself on the stilettos. if not more. we have provided detailed information about the significance of self confidence in the various stages of life. • Last but not the least. • • Imagine a situation wherein you are supposed to hit the court to play an important basketball game and just when you are dressing for the impending match. In true sense. You will never be able to touch the high points of life. • • Importance Of Confidence • Confidence is to life. confidence helps us in going ahead and choosing the subjects and sports that we prefer. those who are low on confidence will be affected badly and their game will deteriorate further. Not only in scholastic or professional life.
professional and social remains stunted. Without confidence. partner and protector. run businesses and corporate houses as each decision of theirs affects multiple people and enterprises. Lack of confidence will lead to missed opportunities. A lot of young people suffer emotional stress and mental disorders due to the lack of self believe and eventually get detached from their surroundings. Remember. Important decisions regarding your career at a crucial phase can only be made if you have confidence in your self. Right from getting selected for a better job to winning the coveted promotion. friend. Right from your first baseball game to your marriage. everything depends on the amount of confidence you instill in yourself. then confidence is the first weapon you need to have in your repertoire. Leading a successful life is a bigger challenge in today’s world than ever before. In such situations we need confidence to do things we are not accustomed to and improve in them. a person’s growth in his life. . life is going to throw new challenges towards you at every turn and corner. Achieving pleasing results for newer things gives us a new high. personal. Just stop worrying about failure and afraid of picking up something. If you lack confidence.• • Role Of Confidence In Professional Life • In professional life. If you wish to become a pioneer of sorts by leading your field of work. in which we are not good enough. • • Confidence is the growth hormone for an individual’s personality development. further increasing our confidence levels. you are bound to break and fall apart. if you leave fear. which keeps you standing through all the whirlwinds in life. Confidence is like that steel back bone. • • Significance Of Confidence • In personal life. Confidence helps us in choosing what we want and not the least that we are eligible for. Keep in mind that confidence can be yours. confidence plays the role of a leader. confidence is your ticket to success. confidence is the key to success. Confidence is also vital for coming out victorious during crucial times such as exams. This is vital for enabling us to learn new things and becoming better at known things. remorse and even wrong decisions taken out of misguidance. Self confidence becomes more important for people who are self employed.
it will do you no good but sink you in grave . Quite often we jump down to conclusions thinking that our neighbors are doing better than us. But how can you be so sure of the fact? You have chosen your own career path and every form of work is pious and satisfying if you believe so. while singing your own song in a new commercial starring you. playing a Sega game featuring you. When a reporter asked Arnold Schwarzenegger how he managed to top the charts in bodybuilding. getting more perks and the chain of thoughts in neverending. This article gives an insight as to how can you stay motivated and benefit your life by achieving long cherished goals. Staying Motivated • Remember that the grass is not always greener on the other side. in a game that you are winning. A chartered accountant thinks that the job of a financial analyst is better while a school teacher might think that a job of a researcher is more fulfilling. you surely vividly remember the scene where Jerry talks to Rod Tidwell and says “I will not rest until I have you holding a Coke. In simple words. If you continue to think the other way. his only client. a contract worth $11. Whether you wish to be famous or rich. This single word can help you overcome insurmountable obstacles and garner your life just the way you want. can you guess what he replied? “Drive” was the word. they just do the same things you do but in a different fashion. wearing your own shoe. and I will not sleep until that happens. winners do not do anything different from you. broadcast during the Super bowl.2 million! This is nothing but motivation. you can say that they do the same things with confidence How to Stay Motivated Have you people seen the film “Jerry McGuire”? If you have. working in a better office.work towards you goals. staying motivated all through is all that is required to achieve success. “ Jerry aka Tom Cruise manages to stay afloat through all his miseries and finally secures Rod. leading a far more decent life. Believing in yourself can be the key to success. Remember.
you would always have this thing throbbing in your mind that whatever you do. you have not lived your life fully and in turn cheating yourself and the one who has created you. Keep repeating to yourself that no one else but you can do it. you are liable to your children back home. If you become such a weakling and plan to give up easily without striving hard and giving your best shot to achieve what you want. conviction and stability and you are sure to gain success. you surely don’t want to experience the humiliation of defeat. Constantly gear up yourself and see what your competitor’s weak and strong points are. In order to gain things in life and March forward instead of sliding back. • To surrender is the last thing that should strike your mind. • Ignite the competitive streak within you. you need to have a healthy competitive vibe. For instance. Shed your instincts to keep comparing and instead work with diligence. Also. Have enough strength to hit back to the challenges. while competing with someone. Mould yourself accordingly. Even someone as close as your mother can be your inspiration. And how exactly do you stimulate yourself for this? Find someone worthy in your class or office to compete with. Put in your heart and soul into the task or a situation and stay firm and undeterred till your last breath. remember that your dreams are not yours alone. It is not necessary that your idol should be world figures specifically. After all. • Always have an inspiration in life. Do not succumb to them and keep in mind that nothing in this world is impossible to achieve. Your close ones are counting on you and every crucial step you take in life matters to them as well. there would be magic. by considering your children to be your inspiration. Do not sidetrack yourself as a loser who is fond of giving up. This thought would prevent you from taking any wrong step in life and you would stick to the path carved out for your own well-being Importance Of Time . And once this thought triggers your subconscious. It is just that the seemingly impossible tasks take a bit more time than the rest.depression. negating your own weakness and stay optimistic that you would surely win at the end.
unpleasant relationships. If you don’t utilize your time wisely. we should keep moving.Benjamin Franklin rightly said "Dost thou love life? Then do not squander time . secondary and tertiary importance can be accomplished within a specific limit. skills. Time management is a compact set of established principles. Just like each minute contributes to an hour and each hour combine to form an entire day. However. but very little or no time left to do it. do we actually understand the coded meaning of it? It is ultimately a choice we make for ourselves.for it is the stuff life is made out of". If one sits and waits for the right time to achieve his set goal or waits for some free time to get his work done. Whether we want to effectively utilize time or lead a haywire life without purpose. How often do we sit back and ponder upon the importance of time in our life? Though we all are acquainted with the oft repeated affirmations such as “time and tide wait for none”. It is something which cannot be replenished again. practices and tools which when rightfully applied can help you utilize your precious time and accomplish what you want. we go on to blame our unachieved goals. It is a special resource which cannot be stored and saved for later usage. he has lost the game already. Anything worthwhile in life needs time to be achieved. Like a ticking clock. poor finances and even our inability to get enough exercise to the lack of time. Every man on earth gets the same amount of time each day and how each person utilizes this given time determines his or her eventual success. it all depends on our time management skills. involving ourselves in learning new things every minute. Quite often. Almost always. Time is a scarce and finite resource and the very foundation of proper time management begins with setting up your personal goal and developing your priorities. • No matter what you want in life. each small task that you do without wasting time counts in achieving your long term bigger goal in life. we take time for granted and indulge in activities which are simply nothing. you need time to get it. • Time is scarce and you must have had a feeling like there is so much left to do. but a serious waste of time. This article deals with the importance of time management in our day-to-day living and framing our overall personality. Importance Of Time Management • You should keep reminding yourself that time is limited. you can never get it back again. time management can help you utilize your time in a better way so that all your tasks of primary. With a limited time .
you end up accomplishing more with less effort. you hone yourself in such a way so as to reduce the amount of time you usually wasted. but makes your life a balanced one. these things embarrass few of us more than others. few of us do not even realize that we have an inferiority complex that should be treated. an intelligent planning on how to utilize the given time needs to be done. before it amplifies. time management is all about managing your activities in relation to time and ultimately achieving what you want at the end. Since you have a finite amount of time. • In today’s world. Now that you know that time management is in a way a type of self management. • Once you begin to use the improved time management skills and tools. While most of us do comprehend the underlying problem of why we are always dissatisfied with ourselves. In order to attain success. Time management helps you by making conscious choices so that you can spend quality time doing important things that in turn add value to your life Inferiority Complex Symptoms “Gosh. or a sad and unfulfilled life. Do these questions keep haunting you within? Are you always dissatisfied and constantly blaming yourself? You probably have an inferiority complex. mental limitations and social differences. as it can otherwise lead to depression. This leaves you with more productive time throughout the day which you can utilize in some other task. You need to learn to utilize time in a way so that you find enough time for things that are important to you. he is so intelligent and successful!” “She is so attractive!” “Why am I not like them?” “I’m not that good enough”. While all of us have physical defects. Given here are some symptoms that . This not only allows you to indulge in a wide range of activities. The best would be to get rid of inferiority complex as soon as possible. you can spend time in a multiple possible ways.span of 24 hours in each day. it is advisable to choose activities that are of the highest priority to you first.
You do not take any step towards achieving success. As such. If you lose competitions. since you are not worth getting them. you feel you are not good enough to compete with anyone. when you take in that step. where we pull others down as well. such as poor luck. the environment in to accept your mistake and hold the definitely suffering from inferiority Lack of Sportsmanship Competitions where you are required to test your abilities against the others are always kept at bay. Read on. The Universe is the Cause Any mistake or failure committed on external factors. your part is simply put on various bad company. you start pouring in questions in order to receive compliments. In case you are one . This is known as crab mentality. and so on. Rather. what you have or what great work you have done. Finding Faults As you cannot keep yourself happy. Even if you have done well. you cannot accept others feeling happy as well. you are complex. it is just a way to make you feel better.can help you identify whether or not you are a victim of inferiority complex. such as “Do you think I did great?” or “Do I look good tonight?” Avoiding Compliments While some people love to get complimented. how you worked on that article. general. you do not want to be complimented or appreciated simply because you feel the comments aren’t from the heart. On rare occasions. you are constantly finding ways to point out their imperfections and making them feel bad about themselves. You feel that the positive comments are not justified. Different Signs Of Inferiority Complex Love to Hear Compliments You always want others to compliment you for even the smallest of the achievements like how you look. some prefer to refrain from receiving any accolades. If you are not able universe responsible for it. chances are that you discourage yourself saying that you can never achieve it even in your wildest dreams. You are so desperate to hear that even if you do not get any comments.
Dress up with extra care and make an effort to look nice. The feeling that they are not smart and as interesting as others pulls them to a corner unnoticed by anyone. All efforts trying to make this person speak fail. Boosting Self Esteem Groom Yourself As clichéd as it may sound. A good reflection in the mirror will always make you feel good about yourself. How To Boost Self Esteem Self esteem is based on how much a person feels valued and appreciated. Rather. it is high time you start thinking about your positive . unless you stop competing with others. Attributes like confidence. all of us have been a victim of low self esteem at some point or another in our life. looks. Agree or disagree. meetings. know for sure that you can never feel confident and superior. there is no denying the fact that looking good definitely does make you feel good. since they think they will make a laughing stock out of themselves. Avoiding The World People with inferiority complex often avoid social gatherings.of such people. Kill Negative Thoughts Most people focus on their shortcomings than their positives. debates and forums. they prefer to stay back alone keeping the world unknown about their flaws. If you are also one amongst those. This self image contributes to our self esteem. However. warmth and social skills are far more influential than looks. interaction with people and our experience. be sure not to attach too much importance to your external appearance. Read the article to know how you can give a boost to your self esteem and live your life to the fullest. Low self esteem can affect the way we perceive ourselves and the world around us. achievements. We all mentally construct a self image based on our abilities.
However. know that with that achievement in your kitty. Tell yourself repeatedly that you have tackled this obstacle in an appropriate way and that you can deal with other bigger and more demanding projects as well. Remember. Never allow others to make you feel inferior. Each day is a new beginning. You may get upset when things don’t go your way. but that doesn’t mean that you won’t be successful. If you had a bad day.aspects. Experiment with different activities that will help you get in touch with your talents. . self image based on other person’s negative belief. Don’t write-off the achievement as minor. Don’t distort your. It will give a sense of purpose to your life. Stand up for what you believe in. don’t let it stop you from achieving your goals. Accomplishing these goals will give your self esteem a big boost. just go to bed and wake up next morning with a fresh and focussed mind. Set Personal Goals Living an aimless life will make you feel empty and confused. you are one step closer to achieving your goal. Realize Your Limits You may not become an Olympic medalist or a pop singer. A personal goal defines who you truly are and what you intend to accomplish in life. everyone has strengths and weaknesses. everybody is good at something. Stand Up For Yourself There may be times when other people misjudge you and let their own insecurities get in the way of their reaction. Celebrate Achievements Give yourself full credit for your achievements and reward yourself. The key to success is not to overcome your weakness. Voice your opinion and thoughts. Putting yourself down as a loser or failure will only hamper your ability to achieve your goals. Decide what you want to achieve at your personal and professional front and slowly work towards these goals. because it may be a part of your bigger plans. Pat yourself on the back every time you achieve a goal. Steer clear of negative self talk. but to develop your strengths to an extent that they can outweigh your weakness completely. Invest some effort into developing your interests and skills into your strengths. Realize that nobody is perfect. no matter how minor it may be. Don’t be too critical of yourself. Also.
Volunteering will give you a sense of being part of a noble cause. Join clubs or groups of similar interests. mentally and physically as well. thereby giving a boost to your self esteem. eventually they start taking complete control on us. thereby weakening us emotionally. The feeling of being appreciated and valued can do wonders for your self esteem. Hence. in general. Be Thankful For What You Have Attributing considerable importance to certain goals and aspirations may also pose a problem. Join a volunteering organization to help the less privileged. Keep yourself busy. whether on the phone or in public. Does the problem sound . There may be period of setbacks when everything will not work out the way you have planned. Keeping yourself active will give you no time for negative self talk. if we are unable to control our fears.learn to dance or take up painting lessons. Take up new hobbies . Socialize People with high self esteem generally have a large social circle and a busy social life. be it the fear of failure. Remember that life is governed by factors which aren’t entirely in your control. Start off by keeping yourself involved in activities that interests you. Take out that list of resolutions you gave up on and start working on them. Being part of a community big or small will give you a sense of belonging and acceptance. Frequently plan outing with your friends and family members. Volunteer Make a contribution to the society. Volunteering will help you improve your perception of self-worth. causing anxiety and distress.Get Active Doing something is always better than doing nothing. The fear of talking. it also blocks work and business opportunities. Don’t fret over what you don’t have and what you haven’t accomplished. However. The fear of talking results in delay in picking up important calls and delivering speeches in public. Appreciate and acknowledge what you do have and be thankful for it Fear Of Talking Fear in any form can be terrifying and paralyzing. Fear. the best way to overcome our fear is by mastering it and preventing it from controlling us. Not only does it stop the person from contacting loved ones. fear of the unexpected or the fear of losing a loved one. has become a common problem seen in most people nowadays. is unhealthy.
similar to what you are facing? Looking for ways to overcome this problem? Scroll these lines to find tips on overcoming the fear of talking on the phone as well as in public. Overcoming Fear Of Talking Phone Calls • Make a note of all the conversation that you would be talking on the phone. Most people are scared about forgetting what they intend to say to the other person on the phone. The best way to deal with this is to write down all that you will speak. This would help ease all your worries. Most people panic when they receive a rude phone call, as they do not know how to react to such calls. In such a case, ask your friend to behave like one of those people. He/she might enact the way your boss or the bill collector does. Practice your responses in order to better behave when the actual call rings. If you are into a marketing job where you have to promote various products to strangers, it is natural to get anxious about the questions that the customers would pour in. Hence, gather all the possible knowledge about your product to speak confidently and answer the questions accordingly. While making calls to an unknown person, some people fear that the person on the other end would respond negatively or start cross questioning. To overcome such a situation, prepare for the negative reaction in advance. Always make a call when you feel comfortable rather than talking when the person feels better. Do not worry about the time that you would be calling, simply focus on your comfort level. For example, if you are a morning person, it is best to make calls in the morning rather than when you are dull.
Public Speaking • Always pick up a topic that you are comfortable with, such as sports, television, fashion or anything that interests you and puts you on the front. Gather all the possible extensive knowledge on that subject. • While speaking, always look at the audience and make eye contact. Though this is the basic rule of public speaking, it takes considerable time for a person to get adjusted. Many new speakers always look over the heads of the audience or at the floor or ceiling. Never ever converse with the first friendly face that you find in a gathering. Try and make efforts to talk to everyone present. Eye contact plays a vital role here in keeping the audience glued to your talk. Practice speaking by recording your speech in a small tape player and listening to it later on. Initially, you will be surprised to hear to your voice but with time, you will love to hear it. While recording your voice, start looking into a mirror reflecting how you project yourself in front of the audience. This will give you an idea of what gestures and expressions you pose to your listeners and how you can work on them so as to improve
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Positive Self Talk
Self talk is nothing but the constant process of thoughts that goes on inside us. Every moment of our lives, we affirm a string of thoughts and these very thoughts create and frame our life experience. They grow with us and end up being our beliefs, our prime source of existence, and our definition of life. Few beliefs that have stayed with us since childhood may work well for us, while others may be working against us and depriving us from achieving what we want. So, we should keep in mind that our thought pattern is not formed from a skewed perspective, but has a solid foundation base. It is thus essential to stress on positive self talk. It is the fuel for your success and good health and can take you to new level of ecstasy altogether. Positive self talk involves positive statements, which when repeated several times trigger your subconscious to indulge in a positive action. If you repeat these statements with a lot of conviction and desire, you are sure to succeed. It is all about challenging and undermining the burgeoning negative thoughts within you and getting them transformed into a positive flow of energy. It helps you to focus on your inner self; constantly reminding you to have control on your thoughts and words, thereby modifying your inner selves all through. So, whether you want to transform your life on a personal level or want to gain a competitive edge by applying this technique professionally, a positive mindset can do the trick. In the following lines, we have discussed why do positive affirmations work. Why Positive Self Talk Works Positive self talk or affirmations do work, but the question is why do they work? Here is an explanation. When you think of a positive affirmation, your subconscious responds to it in two ways—either by avoiding the entire concept or going for a reappraisal. The bigger the issue, the bigger is the gap between the positive affirmation and your own perceived inner truth. In most cases, instead of challenging your inner truth, the subconscious sticks to it. However, there are times when your mind instantly responds to the affirmation and you feel a sense of well-being within. When this happens, know that the positive self affirmation has finally started working. Believe it or not, more than often, we keep repeating negative statements and eventually fall into undesirable situations. Negative thoughts like, “I am too lazy for this task”, “I am surely going to fail in this paper” or “I don’t have enough inner strength to overcome this pain” make our subconscious mind accept them as truth. Consequently, the corresponding events in our life happen just the way we thought they would, i.e. negatively. We should always remember that words and statements work both ways and help in building as well as ruining our life. So, it is the way we use them that matters. Remember, it’s all a mind game. Your mind is what you are.
So, why don’t you choose positive affirmations for yourself instead? These thoughts have the power to wisp away even the strongest resistance. Your subconscious would re-examine the core thought pattern and very soon the troubling dysfunctional thoughts would get replaced by your own reformed inner truth. Positive affirmations reform your thought pattern in totality and completely change the way you think and feel. Now that the stringent dysfunctional beliefs would be replaced by positive ones, there would be a positive vibe all around you. Getting reflected on the exterior, your life would be experiencing seismic changes in all aspects. Here are a few examples of positive affirmations, which you can repeat to yourself to lead a gratifying life. Positive Self Affirmations • • • • • • • • • • • •
I am healthy and happy. Wealth is pouring into my life. I am sailing on the river of wealth. I am getting wealthier each day. My body is healthy and functioning in a very good way. I have a lot of energy. I study and comprehend fast. My mind is calm. I am calm and relaxed in every situation. My thoughts are under my control. I radiate love and happiness. I am surrounded by love. I have the perfect job for me. I am living in the house of my dreams. I have good and loving relations with my wife/husband. I have a wonderful and satisfying job. I have the means to travel abroad, whenever I want to. I am successful in whatever I do. Everything is getting better every day
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How To Overcome Fear Of Heights
such as tranquilizers and antidepressants are used in the initial stages. Tips For Overcoming Fear Of Heights Hypnosis Hypnosis is a treatment used at bedtime. Aromatherapy The symptoms of fear of heights can be reduced through aromatherapy as well to a great extent. there are a number of therapies that can help overcome the fear of heights. This fear increases with time thereby leading to acrophobia. but with time. hypnosis renders the mind free from the phobia. Hypnotherapy creates a relaxed atmosphere. Exposure Therapy Guided by professionals. Indulge yourself into a light massage along with some relaxing music. Friends and Family . huh? However. At first. the person is allowed to experience virtual reality views of high places and then graduated towards real heights. the person suffering from acrophobia is taken through different stages of height. they may not be required as the person recovers from them. this is a problem that most people are facing. acrophobia successfully gets reduced and replaces the fear with confidence. this treatment has a very low success rate. While there are many phobias. thereby eliminating the unwanted thoughts. At times. However. fear of heights is an irrational fear. This eventually helps in desensitizing the fear and getting comfortable to varied heights. By following a few weeks of hypnotherapy. However. Also known as acrophobia. By discarding the deep-rooted fears from the subconscious mind. Your unwanted emotions are transformed into positive thoughts that make you feel relaxed and comfortable. this therapeutic treatment has one drawback. there are past events which lead to fear of heights in people.Do you avoid accepting job offers for the simply reason that the office is located on the 15th floor of the building? Sounds funny. as it focuses on complete relaxation of the body. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy This therapy alters your way of thinking. which is important for the treatment. the fear can be reduced to a great extent over a period of time. or acrophobia. Psychotherapy aims at identifying that single traumatic event and taking steps to heal it. wherein people experience a panic attack at a high place and become too restless to come down immediately. It is not successful in cases where a person is suffering from extreme cases of acrophobia. it can even induce panic attack. Browse through the following lines to get some tips for overcoming the fear of heights. In extreme cases. it is significant to overcome stress and comprehension first. nausea and dizziness. the fear of heights is the most common of them all. Nonetheless. Medications. Since agitation and anxiety follows fear. With the right approach and the guidance of professionals. Psychotherapy The root cause of the fear of heights is extracted through psychotherapy treatment.
Moreover. you have a hard time working on an important task. make realistic goals that can be achieved. Given here are some secrets of self motivation that can help you accomplish your goals and tasks in a more effective manner. Every morning when you wake up. do not make excuses to delay them. health. However. Apart from giving you strength to achieve your goals. This is where self motivation techniques come to your rescue. people try to divert you from your goal. Self motivation is required in every aspect of life. being by the side of the person can be a great help. And anything out of mind turns out to be out of sight. be it career. but hesitate to act on? Do you find yourself subject to lack of self motivation at times? Although you are a motivated person in general. at times. Often. thereby creating bad feelings that are worthless and rubbish. else you will never be able to achieve them. They can come to rescue the victim struggling from acrophobia. these friends and family should be really patient and ready for setbacks. it brings about a change in your personality and character as well. Hence. “Don’t get mad. friends and family form an integral part. Hence. Never let procrastination come in your way of . As the popular saying goes. Nonetheless. only a few are highly useful. as the patient is likely to hesitate initially. social life. spirituality or personality development. work twice hard and prove them wrong. Though there are numerous ways to improve your self motivation. Do Not Procrastinate Once you have set goals for yourself. a look at the notepad would remind you of the targets. make a note of all the goals that you intend to achieve.While treating any ailment. Simply. get even”. Self motivation is the most efficient way of improving your confidence and self-esteem. they should continue to support even if the symptoms worsen during the treatment Self Motivation Techniques Are you one of those often caught daydreaming at work? Why is it that you have a number of ways to improve. Secrets Of Self Motivation Set Goals A major mistake made by most people is that they set their goals only in “mind”. Unset goal in life is like starting a business without having a capital to invest. relationship. Whenever you feel someone is trying to pull you back. before you sleep in anotepad and place it right in front of you. take those bad feelings as a challenge and make efforts to minimize them. Stay Focused Another problem with most people is that they get influenced by other people easily.
You need to keep your calm even when your life seems all turbulent. Stay Positive In case you are finding it hard to stay focused on your goals. as they help you to continuously stay inspired and dedicated. the best way is to stay optimistic and positive towards reaching the final line. Spend adequate time with family and friends who themselves are positive and motivated. Thus. Break down the goals into small bits to make them easily achievable. People who are discouraging and pessimistic should be kept at distance. tell and discuss about your goals with these people. The best way of keeping it at bay is to start working on the goals immediately. Tips For Staying Calm • The first and foremost step to keep your calm is to take a deep breath. you are increasing your self-esteem. Share Your Goals Family and friends are the best motivators to look on. Enough. Hence. you say. at times you tend to simply give up and lose it. By sharing your dreams and aspirations to your near and dear ones. Conquering small battles is the best motivation secret for moving on to the next goal. Confidence and optimism serve as your best friends in your tough and rough times. Reward Yourself The best and perfect way to keep motivating yourself is by rewarding yourself on completing a particular task.accomplishing the tasks. Breathing deeply can ease your tense muscles and reduce your stress level like nothing else. self motivation gets easier and attainable How To Be Calm You have got up on the wrong side of the bed and everything seems to be going wrong since morning. . This article deals with ways as to how you can lead a healthy life even under stressful conditions. This will allow you to respond in a controlled fashion. you will be motivating yourself to achieve the set goals since you would never want to let down these people. Very soon. The situation has worsened further by noon and you are finding it difficult to hold back. However. Through rewarding and congratulating yourself. you need to confront such negative emotions with enough strength. How long can you save things from falling apart you wonder? How long can you withstand the constant conflict between the mind and heart? Although such emotions are an inevitable part of your life. in order to succeed in life.
Nothing better than this can bring your senses back to normalcy. It is enough to distract you for the moment and regain your calmness. remember to keep your voice mellow and modulated under such stressful situations. Tracing a butterfly’s trail or noticing a woodpecker peeping out of the tree trunk hole can be sheer joy. Let your nerves ease and relax. Give your disturbed state of mind some amount of rest. If the person you are confronting with raises his/her voice. even if it is a virtual pleasure. A long. All that would result out of it is irreversible damage. Close your eyes and try recalling some happy and amusing memories of the past. • • • • • • • • • . be calm thinking you at least have the job when everyone around is losing theirs. Try planning for your next vacation even if the plan is shelved for months away. This would enliven your senses and calm you from within. Moreover. going out on a shopping spree is a great remedy to shed anger and remain calm. This will take you places you’ve always wanted to be. Feel the coolness of the water all over your body and relax. These will help your mind to get distracted from those depressing thoughts. close your eyes and drench in your favorite melodies. Or think of the day you got a promotion and your boss wholeheartedly appreciated your abilities. Avoid thinking of anything in particular and simply catch up with some sleep. But this is no solution to win the game or even come down to a solution. Be it the mundane sound of the swirling fan above you or the chirping crickets. your natural response is to do the same. You can also try eating your favorite dish. know for sure that this is the only way to win the war. all that you require is your I-pod. Even facials can help soothe your tensed nerves. For some. the other person might switch over to your state of control. • Relax for around five long minutes doing simply nothing. A spa-treatment is another option to rejuvenate yourself from the stress and calm down. Plug in the headphone. Or try viewing things in a positive perspective. Take a nature walk. Listening to music is another such activity you can choose to indulge in to help you calm down. calmness is contagious. Seeing you behave well. nice shower can also help you regain your peaceful state of mind. Take a quick nap. concentrating on these sounds can keep you calm. Visit your nearest mall and pamper yourself with clothes and accessories.the waves of epinephrine running through your veins will become manageable and soothe you from within. For instance. Do not yell. Easier said than done. Whenever you feel at complete loss and it seems like you had enough of life. Try listening to the natural sounds around you. How about visiting a beauty salon? Get a nice head massage done. So. Stand under the shower. if you got a bashing by your boss in front of your colleagues and you are filled with anger and shame.
Causes Of Low Self Esteem
Have you ever met a person who felt that he is worth nothing and could do nothing right? If you have, then you should know that it is possible that the person is suffering from a case of low self esteem. Now, before we get deeper into what causes this, we need to understand what self esteem is. Self esteem is a character trait that psychologists feel is the most enduring of all other traits. Self esteem is an assessment of how you feel about yourself and can also be referred to as self-worth or self-regard. There are theories which associate self esteem to motivation in a person and are a related to the need for respect from others and the need for self respect. However, more modern theories suggest that self esteem is a way to measure our acceptance in our social environments. Some of the most common symptoms of low self esteem are an inability to express ones feelings, lack of personal boundaries, denial and blaming others for everything. Low Self Esteem Causes Now that we know what low self esteem is and how one can recognize the symptoms for it, it’s time to explore the causes of low self esteem. • The most common cause of low self esteem is neglect and it is most prevalent in children. When parents fail to pay attention to their children and help them by providing them with support and affection, it causes them to feel abandoned. This eventually will lead them to find it difficult to assimilate in a society. You must have heard of positive reinforcement? It is the practice of encouraging a person to do better by praising what he or she has done so far. If you were to do the exact opposite of it and try to motivate someone just by pointing out their faults and mistakes then you are bound to be successful in DESTROYING their self esteem. There are times when a person may suffer from low self esteem as a result of ridicule. This ridicule can be based on anything from the person’s weight to his or her features and looks. Being ridiculed over habits or interests can also result in low self esteem. Since most of the times low self esteem is something that develops in childhood, abuse during childhood can also led to low self esteem. This abuse includes verbal, physical and sexual abuse as well.
Since it was mentioned earlier that self esteem can be seen as a measure of acceptance in a society, there can be times when a person will develop a low self esteem as a result of impairment in leading a normal life, like being out of a job or not being able to exercise the same financial freedom as others close to you. Unfortunately there is nothing you can do about all the bullies of the world, but there is something you can do about yourself. Whatever you do, don’t ever let yourself feel like you are lesser than others or not good enough. Do your best at everything and be satisfied with the results of your efforts
How To Develop Habits
Human heart and mind is like a stone slab which was used in ancient times for writing inscriptions. The inscription started to be carved from the day we opened our eyes and since then there were new things written, erased and re-written every day. Human habits are the part of these inscriptions and they need constant changing and re-writing. The quandary situation here is that the positive habits won’t get inscribed on their own unlike the negative one’s which come as a compliment of human experiences. Good habits require a writer, and the writer is the person himself. Now it depends on the writer how he/she goes about carving out the good habits on the slab which will become the input for the body to function. This makes it clear that instilling a good or eradicating a bad habit is a conscious effort that needs to be carried out with great deal of discipline, determination and thoughtfulness. To grab the tips on developing conscious habits read on. Developing Good Habits Self Talk Self talking is the best way in which you can instill any good habit and give up a bad habit. Keep speaking to yourself about the change which you want to see in yourself. Repeat the statements which will help affirm the particular new habit which you want to create a part of your daily life. Directed Imagination Another effective way in which you can incorporate a new habit consciously is by imagining yourself performing the action relating to the new habit. Visualize yourself performing the new activity or a role and see how good you sound and look. This visual imaginative role that you will see yourself in, will help you easily make the habit a part of your daily routine. One Habit For 30 Days It can so happen that you want to bring about a number of changes in your behavior at a time. In such a case take up a single change that you want to see in yourself and start practicing it daily consciously for 30 days at a stretch. After 30 days you will realize that you no more need to practice the change you want to be because it has now become a habit. After 30 days you can take up the next endeavor. Use A Trigger A trigger is a small ritual which you perform before getting used to a habit. A simple habit which you want to inculcate like not watching excess of television, can be
triggered by setting a self-timer in the television. The time you want the television to get switched off, set the timer to that time so that the T.V will get switched off, forcing you to engage yourself in something more productive. You can use such small triggers to consciously develop a habit. Replacement Replacement is the key word to develop a new habit. In order to remove something from the system without damaging the other files it is necessary to fill in the gap which was created due to the removal of a file. Similarly if you are giving up a habit you need to fill up the free space by a habit that fulfill the same requirement as the old habit. For eg. giving up watching television means you need to find some other relaxation medium for yourself. This approach will make it simpler for you to get used to the change you want to be. “But” To Kill Bad Thoughts A prominent habit changing step can be to force out all the negative thoughts from your mind. The moment you think negative about yourself and find yourself incapable of taking a strong stand, use the word ‘but’ and bring in the positive about yourself. This negative positive game will help develop your self-confidence and will make you believe in the change you are going to make. Write It Down You can even write down a particular habit in a piece of paper and stick it to a place where it will be visible to you. This will keep reminding you about the commitment you made to your brain and will help you in working towards living that change you wished for. Get Leverage Catch hold of your sibbling or a friend and hand them over a 100 rupee note. Instruct them to return you the note only if you successfully cross all the hurdles to reach your goal. Make a public commitment in front of everyone you know that you will stick to your plan. The necessity to keep up your words and dignity will force you to consciously work towards developing the new habit. Keep It Simple Changing for the good is beneficial both to your personality and to others as well. But, you should keep in mind that changing is a small process and your body and mind should first get used to the new introduction. Therefore, don’t get too harsh on yourself and keep only one or two rules simple rules and not a dozen rules regarding the new habit. Simple rules will help you create habits, whereas complex rules will just put you in a more complex puzzle. Consistency Is Key The point of a habit is that it doesn’t require thought. Make sure that your habit is consistently being followed everyday without fail. This consistent performance will drill in the habit in you instead of multiple habits loosely conditioned.
A person with a healthy personality will always display a positive attitude and be cheerful. The healthy personality enables a person to see others for who they are to be able to handle them accordingly. A healthy personality allows a person to function well independently and as part of a team. • • . The greatest plus point about having a healthy personality is that it allows for a fulfilling and meaningful life. Traits Of A Health Personality • • • • • • • A person with a healthy personality has the ability to adapt to his or her social environment. A healthy personality will enable a person to think clearly and with reason when everyone else is following a convention. A healthy personality is magnetic and attracts other to it. If a person displays a healthy personality. Healthy personalities are also indicative of emotional stability. On the face of it. A personality is a combination of all the small factors that add up to make a person’s mental constitution. When faced with a personal tragedy. a person with a healthy personality is cheerful and does not get stressed easily. A person with a healthy personality will not follow convention without due cause. It also enables a person to be able to understand others easily. People with a healthy personality have strength of character and have individuality of their own. The key to having a healthy personality is to strike a balance with all the elements that make up day to day life.Characteristics Of A Healthy Personality We often hear people comment that a certain person has a great personality or that he needs to develop one. Having a healthy personality plays a key role in defining the person who wields it. it indicates that he or she is in good mental health and can be trusted to conduct themselves in a respectable manner and set good examples to follow. It also allows people to be able to express themselves without hesitation or offence. A healthy personality ensures that a person takes great care of his outward appearance and always presents himself with dignity. a healthy personality allows a person to overcome the tragedy without falling prey to depression and contempt. The healthy personality lets the person be comfortable with whom they are and the way they look. A person with a healthy personality will have a lot of common sense and will display presence of mind when it comes to solving problems (big and small). A healthy personality allows the person to be a good listener and a better advisor.
The right way to go about would be to look within you and determine what characteristics require to be polished and what needs to be changed. to be a more compelling personality or to be less imposing are all examples of what you could want to change in yourself. Look for traits in people you admire. and try to emulate these characteristics into your personality. A healthy personality is also displayed in a person’s desire to stay healthy (physically).• • People with health personalities do not feel the need to make everyone conform to their views. which need not always work in your favor. It is recommended that before emulating be absolutely certain that the particular trait is a desirable one. or suppressed to make you feel more confident and good about yourself. Opting for a softer or a tougher outlook on life. especially when it can help in your personal growth. it is recommended that you first ascertain what type of a makeover you would prefer. be it a student’s profile or that of a professional in a work force. You need to look for people with strong traits and whether any of those traits appeal to you. It is not impossible and never too late to develop a healthy personality. Different people in different environments require different changes or makeovers to their images to suit the environment they are in. An image makeover does not work overnight unless you are only thinking of a fabulous hairdo when you’re talking about an image makeover. added. You also need to figure out how you would like to feel on the inside before you start thinking about changes you could make on the outside. you will come across as someone who is trying too hard to change the way they are. Look for traits that you would like to change in yourself and remind yourself occasionally to change that particular character flaw. If the change is sudden and drastic. Easy Ways To Change Your Image Ever thought about changing certain undesirable characteristics that have become part of your personality or appearance? Changing an image that has been inculcated over the years requires a certain amount of determination and will power. Here are a few tips to keep in mind when you go about an image makeover: How To Change Your Image • You need to have an image of you in your head and zero in on the traits that make you feel uncomfortable on the inside or the outside. • • • . Therefore.
be it your makeup. can make a person violent and could even cause the person to lose out on his/her relationships. In a situation like this. Many of them do not know when to give up the fight and almost none can take a joke on themselves. There are several benefits of learning to give one’s anger a better route than by breaking the vase (literally). Choose clothes that flatter your body type. only for the fear of hurting them in anger. Advantages Of Anger Management Here are some ways in which controlling anger can be advantageous: Judgment We all know that anger makes us incapable of being able to take stock of the situation . and might even change attitudes that others have towards you. hairdo. and remember what you are trying to change about yourself. the blood pressure. Anger is cited in ancient texts as one of the biggest enemies of a human being’s body and soul – it can have grievous consequences for the way the body functions too. Here are some ways in which anger control can prove to be advantageous for us. increasing stress. There are many who keep away from or maintain distance from loved ones. learn to channelize it in better ways – in ways that are constructive rather than destructive and harmful to the individual. make sure the eyes of the person in front of you sweep up to your face and stay there. which are the most valued part of a human being’s existence. You never know what wonders it might do for your social life. step out and look for clothes you feel comfortable in and that will boost your self esteem. Once you have changed certain characteristics of your old self. wardrobe or something as complex as the pattern of your conversation. it is best to learn to control one’s anger or. at least. If you feel that. There is no point in changing your hairstyle and your wardrobe if you still maintain your old image in your mind. and causing other forms of damage too.• The way you look on the outside can influence the way you feel on the inside. make sure you walk with confidence. Sometimes a simple hairdo or a change in wardrobe can make you more confident. always keep in mind that you are a more attractive and sophisticated person than you previously were • • • Benefits Of Anger Management The problem is more rampant than we all imagine – an alarming number of men and women find it extremely hard to deal with their anger and end up blowing situations out of proportions. After you have followed all the above steps. It impairs judgment. your clothes don’t do justice to the rest of your personality. How you look on the outside will almost always mirror the reactions towards you. Look for those particular traits that you are particularly dissatisfied with and opt for a change.
Bullying has increasingly become a widespread problem haunting people across the globe. This would in turn. and making us prone to making mistakes in sound reasoning. anger builds up because the party involved refuses to see the situation from the other person’s point of view.well. A lot of anger and the stress that it causes can be avoided by opening up communication lines and making oneself available to dialogue. there will be no room for conflict at all. Closer And More Healthy Relationships Many people who have serious anger related issues. Not only do they frighten you by shaking your confidence levels. This can only be done when one is able to treat differences in opinion as just opinions rather than personal attacks on someone’s belief. which are. which are expressed rather aggressively. When you begin to develop empathy for the other person and try to see life from their perspective. Many a times. Empathy Training in anger management is extremely beneficial for developing empathy for the other party. Bullies look for weak people and prey on them. which helps one party understand the other better. impairing our better judgment. It is important for us to see where it begins and be able to nip a possible dispute in the bud. Controlling and channelizing one’s anger in a constructive and non stressful way will not only open up lines of communication further but will also turn you into someone who is approachable and easy to talk to. caused by faulty communication between the two parties involved. you can often find yourself as the target of bullies. Controlling anger and channelizing anger better will make the person concerned more capable of leading a life that is relatively free of ugly scenes or outbursts of anger How To Avoid Bullying Whether on the school playground or at the professional workplace. Since the people we love are closest to us. Fewer Disputes Disputes are conflicts that go out of control and conflicts are differences of opinion. By doing so. Being able to control anger will definitely help avoid silly disputes. which would decrease chances of further conflicts and disputes. they are often the first victims when we lose control. stay away from their loved ones when they realise that they are hurting people with their anger. in turn. Better Communication Anger is often caused by misunderstandings. it makes them feel strong and . Exercises in anger management are often aimed at channelizing the anger better so that you do not lose control when you lose temper. help you analyse situations better and make you capable of taking stock of situations. they also cause you bodily harm and injuries.
If you counterattack or retort. Raise your voice and speak out to let the bully know that you are not weak. Students are likely to stop bullying when teachers come to know about it. since they are afraid of being punished by their parents. stand up and say “No”. in turn. Hence. you would be solving his/her purpose and thus. Hence. push back or get into a heated argument. soft spoken and weak people become the prime targets. Find a person who is trustworthy and can come to your rescue. Hope these tips come to your rescue! Tips For Avoiding Bullying Ignore The Bully Try your level best to ignore the bully’s threats. How To Improve Working Memory . There are chances of getting hurt in the fight as well. Read on further to find tips for avoiding bullying. If you agree to the bully’s terms. do not hit. Usually. This. Moreover. it is important to distract yourself and keep your mind occupied.powerful. Talk To An Adult Let an adult know about you being bullied. At school or college. it is best to stay with others. parents or friends. While avoiding bullies is not easy. to avoid thinking about the bully. can stop the bullies from portraying such a behavior. Keep in mind that the person wants you to react. kick. Acting as though you haven’t noticed or do not care would be like giving out no reaction. thereby escaping an attack. stay safe and take help from an adult in an out-of-hand situation. taking certain steps can help you avoid situations. seek help from teachers. Since bullies are expecting you to react largely to their teasing and meanness. Do Not Show Your Feelings Getting angry or showing that you are upset by the behavior of the bully will only induce him/her to take further steps in bullying you. Keep yourself busy until you are out of the situation or at a safe place where you can show your feelings. satisfying the bully. remember. In case you are facing bullying at work. simply ignore and walk past them to a place of safety. Stand Up For Yourself Be brave and confident and stand up for yourself. such people bully those who do not stand for themselves. Do Not Bully Back If someone is bullying you or your friends. You can also have some other people standing by your side to tell the bully to stop teasing or scaring people. report to the concerned authorities and let them handle accordingly. If he/she is demanding something. you are likely to face more bullying ahead. principal.
however. but due to poor attention. Tips On Improving Working Memory • Eating right to think straight! Surprised! Here’s is how it works. when away at the departmental stores. If you can just manage to cue the things. your brain too needs fuel to think and process. which explains why we fail to recall a certain item while on a grocery shopping. How often you have landed up in a grocery shop and gone blank wondering at the list of items you wished to buy? This is a common symptom that plagues many. Experts have found that music. Brain filters information randomly. such as memorizing passwords. Read on for more on this. just dump the stress and relax. This might help you to remember things better. can put you in a better position. • Of all the things that can possibly boost your retention. generously gorge on berries. just after we have met someone. Just try this simple mental exercise and experience the difference. but can’t manage to remember easy things. it is important to keep your brain boosted with wholesome diet that is rich in omega-3 fats and antioxidants. It will help you sort out your work and life in a better way. that does not necessarily imply that you have got a frail memory. A little bit of brain exercise can go a long way to save your memory from passing out. Thus. which explains why we tend to forget name. It is just that of all the things and facts you tend to take in all throughout a day. Listen carefully and try to retain the information in mind. However with a little care. Also. So. However. Working memory is something that we use in our every day life to accomplish our daily tasks. only to remember a handful of things at the end of the day. Most often we tend to skip things not because of frail memory. Even minor stress can impair your cognitive skills and cause brain block. phone numbers. preps up brainpower and enhances retention abilities. which isn’t very good news for your memory. It’s confirmed that with a little extra care and effort. That possibly explains why you usually miss out on that one or two grocery items. tune in to your beat box. and broccoli for a shot of extra memory. names. that feeds on fuel to run. one can boost retention capacities to the hilt. address and more. such as where you left your car keys last night or where you kept your wallet? Most of us counter countless facts daily. If you wish to remember more things at work. A deliberate attempt to remember things. • • • • . It is found that higher levels of stress can freeze your brain and cause your mind to go blank. So. Just like a car. chances are that you might very well recall what those things were. next time you fail to remember where you left your keys. it is important to eat more often to keep the brain from starving out of energy. Here are some interesting tips on how to improve your day to day working memory. don’t despair. only a part of it gets filtered through the brain box.Do you find it a cinch to remember long pin numbers and passwords. music certainly ranks high. you can fight away the memory blues. despite of much brain racking. spinach. especially classical music. If you are one of those few people who tend to have a problem remembering day to day things.
hippie. All you have to do is sensitize your senses by doing simple activities like eating. This will heighten the sensitivity of your senses and boost retention. When meeting new people. the next time you head for a quick appointment or an interview. set all differences straight. Dig more on how to make powerful first impression with the following tips. More blood would mean more oxygen and more energy in your brain. Tips To Make Great First Impression • There comes a time when our destiny rides high on the impression we make and little else succeeds in making that power-packed quick impression like a 1000-watt smile. If you don’t have one. . Keep repeating this exercise. it is important to put your best foot forward to get the game going in your favor. Nothing makes a more sure-footed statement than a warm. unfeigned. For this you essentially need to have a pleasant demeanor. Doing so will make your mind more agile. and no matter how much we may deny going with the cliché. punk. it helps to break the ice. This is a simple task that is likely to leave you with great memory. just remember to wear that smile on. it is important that you put your best self across. washing or even dressing up with eyes closed. it is true that first impression does count. So. This simpleaerobic workout can help your brain get rid of the clutter and think and retain more clearly • How To Make Powerful First Impression While it is wrong to judge a person just by his/her dress or demeanor. • Another interesting way to improve your memory is to enhance your senses. creates an aura of ease and comfort and puts one in a win-win situation. not many of us can resist the temptation of overplaying our aptitude and tagging someone as posh. Thus. What's more. names. events. cordial smile that arrests all interest and gives one an edge over any situation. we all tend to get swayed by the first impression. A brisk walk can leave your brain with more than one reason to thank for! Walking is known to boostblood flow to the brain. Sometimes a quick three seconds is all it takes to build or kill credibility and create that first big impression. or hottie in the very first look? Good or bad. Read on to get smart. at least you can learn to feign it convincingly to make a compelling impression. Try to recall back all the activities of the day and remember as many things.The trick is to calm down completely while reclining on a couch and start your exercise by paying attention to yourself. faces as possible.
you never get a second chance to make a first impression. when he/she is speaking • • • • Self Confidence Exercises As a gifted five year old. greens and winter white. Wear colors compatible with your basic coloring. hot pants. Also. People with warm coloring look best in yellow-based colors like gold. Paying heed to others can put you up in the ladder and create a good name. enunciate rightly and speak fluently and clearly to make a deep-seated impression. you cannot afford to look away when the opportunity strikes. The right colors can be flattering to your persona and can make a killer impression. golden browns and rich ivory. A warm pleasantry may not be pleasant if done in the wrong way. While evolving fashion has left us with plenty of options to dabble with. Human beings are one of two colorations: warm or cool. wrinkled shirt and worn-out fabrics at all costs. People with cool coloring look best in blue-based colors like blues. Remember to nod or chime your head in agreement. a gesture that is likely to be appreciated by the speaker. Thus. However. a business meeting or just a casual date. Also. hair and skin tone would help you determine whether you are cool or warm. slangs or too much of a colloquial verve. steer clear of mindless babblings. thus. Your eye. Not to take the circumstances as a victim. but also adds to one’s charm and opens channels of communication. but it takes some skills to be a listener. Pitch your tone properly. he dealt with it with extraordinary strength of character at that young age. An eye-to-eye interaction not only testifies one’s confidence and reliability. be polite at all costs! It’s easy to be a good speaker. to avoid leaving a wrong impression. A strong stare or looking away when interacting with the other person can leave one in a sticky situation. Eye-contact is one of the few things that extend an indelible impression. warm reds. A punch line can make or mar your impression. make sure you never interrupt the person. which would further assist you in determining what colors look best on you! When looking to make that first big impression. it’s only wise that you put your best foot forward and get your outfit right. it is important to underplay your fashion sense at time and be sensible with what you wear for an interview. Dress modestly. remember to ask questions to reveal signs of authentic interest. it is important to choose your words correctly. Dress to impress is the new age adage to that fabulous first impression. and yes strictly avoid jaded jeans. current F1 World Champion Lewis Hamilton was an exceptionally talented kid at school. He was also the smallest kids in his school and was bullied and racially abused by his school mates. He . And yes.• As it is rightly said.
books. visualize and imagine yourself as effectively performing a task which you fear doing. If your boss appreciates you for your work. while others can definitely develop it. Pen down observations about your advancement. Remove self doubts from your mind. Gain knowledge and experience by reading current happenings. jot it down on paper. and perform your work efficiently. if your mother tells you that you are the best child write it down in your diary. Meditate for at least 10 minutes a day and exercise for 30 minutes daily. Repeat these positive statements several times in the day. magazines and updating yourself with latest developments. reflect on your positive things. if you were contemplating a job change for a long time and not doing it for fear of interviews. “If you have no confidence in self. At least record one positive thing about yourself each day and acquire the habit of praising yourself.” Self confidence gives you that freedom to make mistakes and deal with failure without feeling guilty or hopeless about the situation. Face the situation that you have been avoiding for a long time. ‘I am improving every day’ or ‘I deserve to be happy and successful’ or ‘I am confident in handling whatever comes up today’. In a nutshell you might be struggling to live a life of your own. Think of the positive things that you have done right be it big or small. meeting new people can become a struggle and can have terrifying experience facing stressful situations. “It was a horrible time but I told my dad I wanted to start karate so I could learn to protect myself. Avoid writing anything negative about yourself. develop new skills. People who are uncertain about themselves lack in self confidence. Your work might suffer. This helps to develop self confidence and personality. • • • • • • . Later on he reported. write down any experience in which you have received positive responses and compliments. Instead. Marcus Garve stated that. For instance if you have stage fear. remind yourself of the past occasions that you have faced successfully and handled well. travel to new places and gain experience. The bullying stopped and more importantly. Exercises For Building Self Confidence • Self confidence gets affected when you think too much about your past failures and negative events. With confidence. For instance. Challenge yourself and take risks. social life can become painful. You can say to yourself. But as you require physical exercises to keep your body healthy. Diversify your interest. When you start your day make positive statements about yourself. This can have devastating effects in your life and result in lower self esteem. you have won even before you have started. Imagine yourself as a victorious public speaker. your mind also requires exercises. At the end of each day. make an effort to schedule one interview. I developed self confidence. you are twice defeated in the race of life.took lessons in martial arts and went on to become a black belt holder by the age of twelve. Some people have naturally high levels of self confidence.
Make changes to your physical environment. Rearrange and redecorate the furniture of the room. Paste quotes and pictures of successful people and keep reading them again and again. Read autobiographies of successful people. Keep your body language positive, look and feel confident. Always walk straight, with your shoulders straight, chin up and chest out. Have an authentic, warm and friendly smile on your face. A positive body language sends out positive signals. List all the goals that you want to accomplish in life and then take one step at a time. Break these goals into smaller reachable goals. Concentrate on self improvement and self development. Keep your cool and calm in every situation in life. Too much of emotional outburst can spoil the situation and make things difficult to handle. Hence take things in your stride and handle it smoothly. Do not think or worry about what others think about you. Stop imagining and bothering about unreal things and situations and blaming yourself for being wrong so often.
You can follow this confidence building exercise by writing these things. Fill in the blanks in the following sentences: • • • • • The best thing that I can do is … Something that I have accomplished is … One of my best character traits is… I am proud of myself for…. I am working to improve…
Confidence Building Exercises
“I am not a has-been. I am a will be.”Lauren Bacall. Yes it is the ‘I’ factor that makes that difference. No one can beat a person who strongly believes in himself and has made an identity for himself. Why do you think Mahatma Gandhi had so many followers and why did they follow him blindly to give their lives believing in non-violence! It’s nothing but his confidence and actions that inspired millions to join him. Success is the synonym of confidence. Never will a person with a low confidence can dream to make it big in his life for he loses the battle in the beginning itself. But the one who considers every failure as the stepping stone to success will cut a path for himself. It is always a
pleasure to watch someone speak with his/her head held high, answering questions assuredly. Ratan Tata, Azim Premji or Narayan Murthy are nothing less than living legends only because they have the confidence to face anything and everything that comes their way. They consider every new problem not as an obstacle but as a new objective. Here are a few tips on how you can go about boosting your confidence. Exercises For Boosting Confidence Think Positive Optimism is the word that has to be circled in the dictionary. An extremely positive mind is what you need to gift yourself. ‘I can’ should rule your mind when you are not able to cope up with negative things that come as hurdles on your way. Know how to love yourself and be proud of whatever achievements you have made in life, big or small. You can stick a few posters with quotes on success and confidence on the walls of your room and get inspired by those words each time you read them. Life becomes exciting only with things that you can do and not with the ones you dare not try. Learn to say ‘I Can’ aloud. Find Right Objectives Be sure about the objectives that you set. Set each goal as per your strengths and your abilities. Categorize the objectives as per your skills and talents and at the end of the day you will be able to harvest the fruit of your confidence through these fulfilled objectives. Prioritize each goal, like go for the easier tasks first then slowly raise the challenges. Remember failures can interrupt you but take it as a challenge and march forward. You have to reach the final lap to take the trophy of success securely in your hands. Meditation Listen to yourself. Meditate each day for a new beginning and a fresher day that is in the offering. Consult yourself for taking decisions and persuade your mind to make the best of the decisions. Body Language There are many things that boost confidence in a person from the file that he is holding to the tie that he is wearing. Choose the best outfit that gives you that comfort zone and elevate your confidence. Walk straight with your head held high. This itself exhibits the confidence that is abundant in you. Make the first impression the best one. From a good hand shake to a beautiful smile, everything counts.. Breathe Properly Whenever you feel that you are low in confidence, try taking some deep breaths. This is a great exercise to tackle nervousness and can revitalize you
How To Develop Self Discipline
The term ‘self discipline’ is defined as the behavior which is guided by the ‘mind’, rather than by the ‘heart’. The selfdisciplinarian attitude is very much essential to become successful in life, as it entails foregoing the momentary enjoyments and gratifications in order to achieve something big in the long term. But this sort of self-monitoring attitude has to come from within each person, as it cannot be heaped upon by any external force. That voluntary spirit or will power will help you in setting and accomplishing your goals. Some people think that discipline is linked to liberty. On the contrary, those who are disorderly are deficient in enjoying liberties that accompany those who have the talent and dexterity required to execute certain tasks such as adventure sports or learning new things. Many people know the importance of practicing self discipline but are still unable to do so. This socalled ‘inability’ is nothing else but the lack of will and purpose to achieve the goal. The secret to overcome this hindrance lies in the person’s strong sense of determination, which should be inculcated to really become successful. As they say, “Success does not come easy”, you have got to strive hard to gain what you really want in your lives, and the first step is to cultivate self discipline. Fortunately, for those who desire to build self-discipline, there is a way out. By adopting the tips given in the article below, you can instill self-discipline in yourself. Tips To Develop Self Discipline Getting To Know Yourselves When you act according to what you know is right rather than what you feel like doing is known as discipline. For that, you need to delve deep into yourself, and know yourself better. This can yield optimum results when you put your thoughts in a written format. Doing this, will provide you a thorough perception of what you are and what your mission in life is, and what you have to do to fulfill your ambition. Dedication By,just writing down your resolutions, you cannot hope for miracles to occur and that too overnight. A concerted and sustained effort over a period of time is required to help you gain self-discipline. If you find it tough to stick to your resolutions then you have got to ensure that you abide first by what you have planned, and then follow them one by one; not all at once. In this way, you can surely adhere to your resolution, and implement them dedicatedly. Boldness Usually, disciplining the self is by no means an easy task. It requires you to overcome your desires, temper, temptations, and a host of other stimulations, both internal and external. And, it is easier said than done. But, it can indeed be done through a series of constant auto-suggestions, which are capable of continuously reminding you of your goals, ambitions, and aims. You can never hope to escape from these distractions, but you can steel your guts to confront and tackle them. This can make you stronger mentally.
Doing so. Today. The following points are geared to help you identify with some of the most common problems in learning a new language. the need for learning a new language extends more than just a hobby. Read on for more. you need to be extra attentive in what you learn. we fumble and give up. The biggest blooper most people tend to commit when trying to learn a new language is that they often fail to take it seriously. Thus. associate it with your every day life and practice it more often. we can definitely develop selfdiscipline. While learning a new language can be a cinch for some. loads of practice. fluency is a skill that only comes with the right kind of intonation and accent. The biggest impediment towards mastering a new language perhaps lies on one’s take on it. Difficulties In Learning A Language Doing It The Right Way! Learning a new language is not easy and getting to master one often requires more than just will power. as he has trained up his mind to overrule his heart. Problems In Learning A Language The tongue trying a new taste is similar to the brain grasping a new language. Add to this. When you find the going tough. Not only does it give one an upper hand when travelling to foreign territories. and developing it requires a little skill and not to forget. will boost your determination and thereby enhance your focus to accomplish the seemingly difficult jobs with relative ease. Pronunciation Pronunciation is perhaps one sticky ground where most language learners tend to bungle. the number of professional benefits attached to learning a foreign language. Remember.Learning a language isn’t an easy bet. more so when you are new to an alien tongue. before you get down to the learning experience.Auto Tutoring Talking to yourself can do wonders to your self confidence. it is also known to boost one’s cognitive skill highly. by diligently implementing the above techniques. However. there are others for whom picking up a new lingo may be a jaw breaking deal. and also motivate you to pursue your tasks with renewed vigor. Most languages come with irregular rules that may not make much sense to you. To avert these kinds of hitches. Treading an unfamiliar territory doesn't come easy. This is the foremost reason as to why many of us find it extremely difficult to pick up an alien language and even before we learn to mumble a few new words. . you can always fall back on yourselves by reliving certain positive moments. A person who is self-disciplined can achieve whatever he sets out to. which makes it worth a try. which forms an integral part of our lives. acquainting yourself with some of the most common problems which come in the way of mastering a language will help.
it will also give you an edge over the other speakers and help you to evolve as a fluent spokesperson. while in some others it is reversed. The idea is to connect the words with the objects and establish a basic relation between the two. Nearly all language has its own set of rules that may be befuddling to one’s general grammatical sense. remember. Well. How To Grow Old Gracefully . You need to practice it on your own to get a grasp of it. Patience! Most people. let this thing not be deterrent to your efforts. Voice it! Do not fear to lend your voice to the new language. Thus. Visual reinforcement is one tried-and-tested way of effective learning and it stands true for learning new languages too. it is important to hold your reigns and put in your efforts in mastering a language as diligently as possible. in some languages the verb comes before the subject. Things do not just end with learning the right pronunciation. Getting a grasp on the words will help you in coming up with a meaningful sentence! Grammar Getting the grammar right can put one in a fix. who struggle to learn a new language.However. For instance. without the knowledge of the same. Word Order When mastering a new language. The extra effort that you put in would help you sail out of all the problems and difficulties. Visual Reinforcement Visualize everything you hear and you are likely to remember it for long. it is important to get your words right! Words. it is important to rise above your reservations and understand how a word is perfectly pronounced. Nearly every language relies heavily on words to convey the right meaning. unintentional though. A good grasp over grammar is perhaps the cornerstone for a successful learning experience. Try to speak the new language as much as possible. can come across as a puzzling jumble to others and mar communication. if not rightly arranged. as said before. learning a new language never comes easy to many. At times of failure and disappointment. A person is likely to commit major bloopers. Thus. more so when you are trying to tame the grammatical rules of a foreign tongue. Next would be to clearly fit them into a sentence to make more sense and less confusion. often quit it midway after months of pointless struggle. While it is likely for you to fumble when trying to speak a new language. it is important to choose your words carefully. perseverance pays. Not only will this make you into a confident speaker.
Tips On Ageing Gracefully Here’s what you can do to age gracefully: Thou Shalt Not Sulk Or Complain Sulking or complaining about what you do not have will never let you come out of the past and will prevent you from being happy and your true self.Ageing is something that people fear – it brings with it the natural decay of the human form and mind. deteriorating brains and. making crochet. Follow What You Left Behind You must have always had a hobby or interest that you used as a stress buster or to unwind and rejuvenate. especially if it is not too hard on your eyesight. wrinkles. from operating the CD player so that you can watch movies or play music CDs. weakening bones. Is Knowledge Learning something new will bring back the life that you think you were losing. there is very little that can stop you from either listening to music or reading or watching your favourite films on DVDs. However. they should be told to your doctor or physician and not to anybody among your friend circle. What’s New. You could teach your grandchildren to sew. If you are still alive and do not have any major life-threatening ailment. Women can also take the liberty of knitting. or teach them a few home remedies. It is easier said than done to adhere to the ‘why-afraid-of-death-when-it-is-certain’ saying but it is best not to think about it. You could also learn to use the computer and keep in touch with family members – grandchildren or even other family members who live abroad and you cannot contact them ever so often over the phone. Many of us waste our lives – especially by treating our bodies badly – and end up fearing each day because we know that we have played havoc with ourselves. at 60 you cannot hope to go mountaineering. especially if you haven’t kept in excellent health with regular exercise. or writing. It will also serve to bring back a purpose into your life. If your mobility is limited. studies say that if you have the will to live. you should take care of your body and mind. Here are some tips on ageing gracefully. In any case. there are ways by which we can age gracefully. . inspite of all the problems that we face. physical ailments. cook. Also. You may have all the valid reasons to sulk and complain but you must remember that people like to be around happy and cheerful people and not around wet dishrags who constantly complain that life is being unfair to them. However. you could develop a new interest that could keep you busy and happy. you will live. Of course. finally death. this is the right time for you to pursue them once again. If you are suffering from physical ailments. people have so many problems of their own and need not carry the burden of your problems too. Defying age is not as much about the body as it is about the attitude and the outlook towards life. It will give a purpose to your life and also take away the bitterness that you feel. Learn anything new. which are often the cause of your complaints with life. Since you have fewer responsibilities now.
You need to laugh together. you. so take heart. Nothing sells like the business of getting rich. which sets those successful entrepreneurs apart from the rest of the teeming millions is woefully missing in most of the aspiring entrepreneurs. sincere effort. share experiences together and inspire each other to come out of the sulking modes. extraordinary vision and the irrepressible desire to make it happen. Walt Disney and Oprah Winfrey – have more in common than just being names on the ‘Rich and Famous’ list to most of us at first glance. and the pursuit of prosperity sends most of us into quite a tizzy. Tips To Achieve Entrepreneurial Success Striking it rich on one’s own. is often the next best thing in life to inheriting a fortune. and help yourself to a sampling of some of the outstanding traits that make an entrepreneur truly successful. We tend to randomly rush into a mirage of the mythical pot of gold at the end of an illusory rainbow. Rupert Murdoch. And since few successful entrepreneurs are naturally born. exceptional passion. Persistence. they say. However. clarity of purpose. why go through the wringer if you can do it right from the start. People of your age may also tell you how best to deal with your problems – physical or otherwise The Traits Of Successful Entrepreneurs Most of us can confess to being quite sold out to the idea of getting rich someday. History bears ample testimony to several such stories of entrepreneurial success. and learn to strike that elusive gold on your own steam in the process. Bill Gates. Donald Trump. However. overcome only by the relentless perseverance of the inspired few. and your friends will only end up spending your quality time complaining rather than being happy. and that is that they are all very successful entrepreneurs. lies at the core of most entrepreneurial success stories.Friends Are There… Make friends who share the same interests rather than those who share the same ailments! If latter is the case. Joyce Hall. Characteristics Of Successful Entrepreneurs The road to entrepreneurial success is typically characterized by an incredibly intricate labyrinth of hardships and setbacks. success eludes most of us because the passion. Friends should pull you out of your complaining spell instead of only feeding into it. with a little help from those who have it down pat from close personal encounters with adversity in the pursuit of their own dream? The characteristics most successful .
entrepreneurs exhibit and which have been briefly explained below. Success comes at the end of hard labor and a little bit of luck. Conduct A SWOT Analysis A SWOT analysis is the quickest peep you will get into your entrepreneurial prospects. Characteristics Of A Leader . even before your plans have gone to the drawing board. well-placed launch strategy. Opportunities. Chalk Out A Realistic Launch Plan Visibility matters most in the launch of a new venture. thereby helping one identify the best possible way to approach his/her dream for entrepreneurship. It is a quick assessment of your Strengths. are the best known ways to get there. So make sure that your venture fills a much felt void. While some get it naturally right from the word go. the traits of successful entrepreneurs may appear rather easy to emulate on the face of it. andThreats. Entrepreneurial success is often determined as much by one’s past achievement patterns as by adherence to a smart blueprint. Adapting and adjusting are the mantras to stay in the reckoning. The Unique Selling Point (USP) of your venture makes all the difference. Weaknesses. Make The Economics Work A venture has to not only be financially viable. and identify untapped audiences and buyers. and save up the rest as contingency for unexpected setbacks. Stick To The Master Plan Do not stray from a well designed venture plan unless it is to keep course with market dynamics. and it won’t be long before one can justifiably earn the title of a “self-made” person. but it should also has a solid and sound economic ground. The spirit of enterprise is what these shining examples from history have made a habit of living up to. To sum it up. some learn from trial and error. Reinvest earned revenue back into an appropriate sector of your business for better future returns. Survey The Market There is no magic potion to ensure success. Make your venture count with clever promotions and advertising. It is a simple but very authentic exercise done quickly by jotting down honest observations under each section. without altering the original game-plan too much. but it is in the individual application of these tried and tested formulae wherein the fate of an ingenious venture lies. and drawing up a conclusive overall assessment of one’s plus points and areas of development. Make an impact with a well-timed. ideally all year round. translating lessons from past failures into future successes.
quick action is essential for a great leader. a great leader will always work upon the best of these traits to achieve excellence. Without confidence. Hence. training. who has set his goals and knows how to achieve them. development and experience. in the present times. Whether the characteristics are natural or developed. Quick Thinking Thanks to the stiff economic competition faced by businessmen and professionals alike. a leader’s plan is useless. becoming a good leader is not easy for a person. a leader. for the betterment of the entire organization. which can be done through good communication only. While most of the characteristics are acquired through learning. A good leader must have confidence and be able to fulfill the set targets. which is the price which all of us must pay to achieve any goal that is worthwhile."Leaders are made. being aware of all the developments taking place and having a proper knowledge of the field in which a person is working is essential for becoming a successful leader. Additionally. Given here are some leadership traits and characteristics that define a leader in today’s world. He must possess different characteristics to help him show others the way to success. Good Communication Skills Without communicating the plan of action to the team members. possessing good communication skills is important. A leader when chosen is expected to accomplish all the tasks and duties as stated and anticipated. A leader should be a visionary." . opportunities and challenges change unpredictably and hence. a leader would not be able to take proper decisions to lead his group. they are not born. for communicating.Vince Lombardi. one must have a vision to take his team and society further. It so happens that prompt decisions without knowledge turn out to be erroneous for the future of the organization. He is a hope who can bring about change and improve the field to which he belongs. Leadership Traits And Characteristics Vision To be a great leader. Knowledge Quick thinking will not be appropriate if a leader does not have the right knowledge. Thus. should be in a position to think quickly and make the most of a given situation. Confident While having a set vision is quintessential. They are made by hard effort. accomplishing it with confidence is equally important. A team of efficient members is ineffective if it does not have an envisioned leader. Markets. a leader should be able to motivate people around him effectively. some people are born with them. However. .
Have Character To motivate his people. best left to ‘little’ girls. Humility The qualities of a leader make him stand apart from the rest. a leader must be approachable for his people. Thus. Enough democracy should be permitted to allow people to think freely and come up with new and innovative ideas.Discipline A leader is one who leads a team of individuals and looks after more than one area. a leader should first set an example through his character. Thus. This increases the chances of a team being successful tremendously. Democratic A leader should not start leading his team in an autocratic style. Shyness is a way of avoiding conflicts. Read on further to find some tips to help you overcome your shyness among women and build your confidence. having a good moral character is one of the most important qualities of a great leader How To Overcome Shyness With Women Shyness is a wasted emotion. Often. This will make communication between a leader and his team better. Hence. a leader has to be disciplined in order to handle all such situations patiently. Risk Taking A leader must be courageous enough to take risks as every opportunity comes along with some amount of risk. which is very essential while approaching a woman. one of the most popular situations wherein shyness dominates the scenario is when a guy wants to talk to a girl. wherein you sit back in the shadows and wait for life to happen to you rather than making a life of your own. who knows you might end up losing your dream girl to some other guy. allowing the leader to know about the problems faced by his people. Do you have a constant fear of being rejected by the woman of your dreams? If yes. All this is just due to the lack of confidence. . Talking about shyness. A frightened and apprehensive leader takes the team no where. This would also pave the way for the team members to chip in valuable suggestions. If you are also one amongst them. He should know what to do and plan out an organized approach to accomplish the tasks. then fret not. men take a step backward and prefer to admire the girl from miles behind rather than going ahead and talking to them. if you do not take charge of the events that happen in your life. Remember. no one will. Let out that side of yourself that you had always been too afraid to examine.
grocery shop. to get them involved in the conversation. participate in team activities or become a part of large groups. This will help you in getting rid of your shyness and will increase your confidence level. Practice Talking to Women The best way to overcome shyness with women is to practice talking to them. improve your learning skills and figure out different topics to talk with them. At such places. You can question them on their family. You have just spotted a cute girl in your college and are dying to talk to her. You can look up to women from different age groups at different places. This would give a boost to your confidence and self-esteem. which you should accept with honor. You can start off with questioning her something that will trigger some response from her side. Try your hand at learning new things. interests. Proceed Steadily Take small steps to approach girls to overcome your shyness. Join a gym. a hobby club. remember that you are likely to be rejected many a times. such as a foreign language or a new sport. New hobbies add a new dimension to your personality thereby enhancing your overall being. Instead. do not expect to get their personal contacts or convince them to come on a date at the very first meeting. while approaching women. Concentrate on your conversation and overcome your shyness with them initially. Also. Make the most of this opportunity and talk to them. you will meet a number of people where you can interact with them. . Be Prepared To Be Rejected On the road to overcoming shyness. like library. You will also find girls that share similar interests as yours. do not get depressed. etc. Have small conversations without focusing on whether they will talk to you or ignore you. etc. but do not have the courage to do so! Pass a simple smile and say a “hi”. Accept this situation of being rejected as a learning experience. thereby overcoming shyness. Socialize Socializing can be another way of improving your self esteem and confidence. Learn To Listen Since shy men do not know what to talk about with women. friends. they often end up talking about themselves most of the times. this is simply not acceptable by women folks and they are likely to find it boring.Tips For Overcoming Shyness With Girls Emphasize Your Positives Most shy guys focus on things that they do not possess. Since women have their personal reasons for rejecting men. thereby ignoring their positive qualities. so you are no exception. Note. get hold of some topics to talk with girls and begin your conversation with her. Gradually. Even the jaw-dropping. try to figure out what incorrect actions of yours made them take such a step. handsome guys have experienced failure. A simple way to overcome shyness would be by concentrating on your positive attributes. Hence.
and would not hesitate to take up any job that others would consider ‘menial’. It is pointless to blame oneself for what is beyond our control. that man has ever known – regret. but how you judiciously you spend the money is completely up to you. Regret not only lets a person wallow in the complacent mud-pool of self-pity. is definitely under our control. So. Here are ways in which you can get rid of regretful feelings Ways To Rid Yourself Of Regret Here are some ways in which you can get rid of regretful feelings: Is It In My Control? You must never forget that not everything is in our control – many a times not even how many years we shall get to live. However. what went wrong with you was something you could have helped. Thus. you must snap out of it as quickly as possible. in a country like India. If. A serious reality check will throw . Also. no amount of regretting will change that fact. you may not have a job that pays you well. Many of us who have gone through a failed relationship tend to forget how many men and women go through life without ever experiencing love at all and have to lie to themselves to say that it is unimportant. People who do not have satisfying jobs often forget that. It is for this reason that we have to train our minds to get rid of such feelings of guilt and self-pity. for there is no lesson to be learnt out of it.How To Get Rid Of Regret Someone rightly said “’If Only’ are the two saddest words in the world. Wake Up. if you find out that what you are regretting was beyond your control. Take Charge It would really serve you best if you realise that what you seem to think “went wrong with you” was really your own choice and the sooner you accept that. all those who are trying to enter the show business in our country often end up working as waiters at popular restaurants. Forget the Poison Ivy Another major problem with regret and regretful feelings is the fact that they do not let one enjoy and appreciate what is good. For instance. the same regretful feelings – of having lost money. what we can do with what is available to us. Also. In fact. it is all the more important to get rid of such feelings of regret. there are thousands who cannot afford a decent meal in a day. but also stops one from moving ahead with life. many a times. Smell The Tulips. just to make a living. the better it is. jobs or friends – make us incapable of appreciating what we do have and can do. only in that case there is a lesson that can be learnt out of it.” Those two words signal one of the biggest enemies residing within one’s psyche.
some light over the fact that you were the cause of what has happened to you. as you are likely to face a number of pitfalls and obstructions. doing daily affirmations and finding out new ways of keeping you on your toes and dealing with approaching problems. Tips To Quit Quitting Keep Yourself Aware Do not let your laziness or fear urge you to quit or procrastinate. No task can be mastered at one go. you have to regularly motivate yourself. What you do with the time that lies in front of you is what you must focus on How To Quit Quitting “Fire is the test of gold. Analyze The Cost & Benefit . However. Go through the lines. to find tips on how to quit quitting and achieve the success you had long been aspiring for. where a person steps onto it and undergoes a lot of hard work to finally reach the top. Perseverance forms the most significant key to achieving success in any field. Inculcate a habit of writing down your goals. Nonetheless. Never Give Up To continue working towards your ambition and prevent from falling down on the numerous bumps on the road. Hence. A lot of heartache will vanish once one has learnt to accept one’s fate and mistake too. the journey towards success is not an easy one. one must also remember that the time that is lost will not come back and that it is worthless to think about it. In case you are unable to observe yourself. Close friends are more likely to know you better and will definitely come to your rescue. Observe the situations when you are looking for excuses. Since many of us nowadays are in a position to make the choices that we want instead of what we have to do or what is available to us. Success is just like a ladder. It is seen as an act of cowardice to not accept one’s mistake. It requires absolute will power and determination to be successful. but you need to realize that quitting will not make your task any easier. you would be tempted with the thought of quitting the task. of strong men” . Bear in mind that perseverance is what distinguishes the average person from a genius. adversity. Instead.Martha Graham. the end fruit would surely be a sweet one. it will only leave you back with a feeling of guilt. instead of telling the truth. it is important to stick to those choices or accept one’s fault and make amends. On the road to success. ask your friends to observe the same and help you out. being perseverant is essential to achieve the keys to the door of success. remember.
thinking that their advance will be rejected. . Try to get rid of any behavior that is stopping you from achieving your goals. Most of the time the pain the person feels due to rejection conditions his or her mind where the person tends to withdraw into a shell fearing future rejection. When you create your own happiness. Tips On Getting Rid Of The Fear Of Rejection • The fear of rejection leaves a very depressing mood. Stress overwhelms a person. There is no use to move ahead and try to accomplish an ambition that is likely to cost you and your family the entire life. Happy thoughts build up the self-esteem. even if it is for help. Perseverance. That is why it is very necessary that in order to maintain a stress free life the fear of rejection should be overcome. To know more read the article below for the various tips on getting rid of the fear of rejection.Observe and calculate the cost and benefit of what you are planning to achieve. clouding his/her current thinking and forcing the person to think negatively. Stress Management Stress management and level of perseverance are highly related. on the other hand. They also tend to develop a reluctance to ask anything. So. Stay Away from Bad Habits Do everything possible to put a complete stop to all your bad habits. to achieve success and quit the habit of quitting. Most people have felt rejection and the way they tackle it after being snubbed determines if they would develop a fear of rejection. Comparisons and competition is fairly common among children and this result in one or other form of rejection. Concentrate on a single bad habit at one time so that you can deal with the problems in a much better way. which in turn helps you to overcome the fear of rejection. Think practically and make an honest and positive decision. you need to first overcome stress in order to achieve your goals in a better way How To Get Rid Of Fear Of Rejection The fear of rejection most commonly has its roots in childhood incidences. One way to counter it is to create happy thoughts. you will be less dependent on others and also develop a confident outlook. This state of mind can harm the relationship that he or she has with other people. They tend to focus more and more on other people’s reaction to their actions that they tend to become paranoid and miserable. cannot flourish in a negative environment. These bad habits could be either simple negative thinking or fighting procrastination. taking all the factors into consideration. The person can become over dependent and may always look for loyalty signs in others.
If you are in a shaky relationship then it is better to end it before you start developing the symptoms of rejection phobia. Being independent will also teach you to address your needs on your own. aggressive and docile. Also. people confuse between being assertive and being aggressive. When you know your mistakes. you be yourself rather than what others wish you to be. the fear of rejection won’t be so profound. While expectation is good. on the other hand. With a little bit of practice. when and where it all went wrong and then address the issue. While you are in the relationship it is better that. Don’t rely on your friends and family. Self-sufficiency will ensure that you do not get helpless when you experience the signs of separation. don’t expect too much. • • • • • • How To Be Assertive Most people who consider being assertive to be a difficult task often assume that others who are assertive find it easy to be one. people who are docile are unable to defend their own state of being and hence. Indulging in hobbies will take your mind away from the problem. Set goals that you can reach. Cultivate hobbies. reality has another story to narrate. Assertive people. Try to be as independent as possible. However. The fear of rejection can only be conquered steadily. In fact there is a thin line between being assertive. Let your mistakes be your teacher. Your focus should be on your actions rather than how people will react. so much that it hampers your growth and productivity. you can appear confident and speak assertively as well. you will be better able to rectify them. While aggressive people do not respect others’ perspective and can hurt others when influencing them. get influenced by the aggressiveness of the people. This is the best way to do things that you truly enjoy. Set an attitude where you give unconditionally. The main fear of rejection stems from feeling of helplessness that stems from being unable to control the external outcomes. You will have to go slow and adopt a systematic approach. when you are independent you will also develop a better ability to take care of yourself. .• • Be optimistic. Often. Acting confidently is what makes the difference. Almost everyone feels anxious or wrong footed in some situations or the other. Depending on people will enhance your rejection phobia. If you do not expect anything. A cheerful disposition and positive outlook will help you create happy thoughts and a cheerful atmosphere that will uplift your spirits. Learn to appreciate things even if you are not interested in it. Find out how. Learning from mistakes will also teach you to be more careful later.
make sure that you do not intimidate others. Always hold your head up high to show that you are a force to be reckoned with. Use the “I” language. plan in advance your speech. Creating a good rapport would ensure effective communication. friendly. When speaking to a group of people. This will incline the people to put themselves out again in the future. be open. simply state your message in a matter of fact voice. For a positive impact on the person or group. Do not expect others to read what is on your mind. Physical Presence Your body language plays a major role in determining what others feel about you. smile and feel in control of the situation. others too would be nervous andanxious. This way. Create positive boundaries to know what you are most comfortable at.are balanced individuals who though pour out their mind at the time of influencing others. This would give a boost to your confidence levels and make you feel positive and secured. Sustain your voice by taking a deep breath and think about the message that you would be conveying. Tips For Being Assertive Expectation Prepare yourself mentally and set your expectations clear to others. and so on. whining. you will speak with more authority and be better able to deal with things coming up. Be Prepared When you are prepared. Articulate exactly what you expect from others and the reason behind your expectations. Remember To Thank If people have done as expected by you. acknowledge their efforts by thanking them. you will be better able to take control of the situation and achieve your expectations. Do not raise your voice in manner of shouting. such as “I want” or “I feel”. Never ask people to do you a favor else they will consider doing a favor as part of their job. respect the other individual’s views and opinions. . to acknowledge the other person’s feelings or situation and stand up for your rights. Think Of The Language You Use The language that you use while conversing is extremely important. If you look intimidated. Always use a voice that can be heard and should be interesting in pitch and delivery. Use Of Voice The tone of voice has a major impact on whether you will be heard or not. Given here are some tips on being assertive and confident. Start off with a positive statement to set the tone for the conversation. Create Rapport Connect with the group that you are speaking to during the introduction itself. Instead. nagging. Also. A sense of gratitude and a smile on the face can do wonders for you.
do not threaten. a distasteful relationship. play a game. A nap or a good night’s rest can help you get . Your thoughts play a big role here and regular meditation can help you get rid of your unwanted thoughts. cook. you’ve got to be quick. Getting Rid Of Unwanted Thoughts Shoot At Sight You’ve got to be quick here. but it’s also not impossible to eliminate them from your mental space. annoy. the thoughts that are derogatory to you and your life. as soon as you realize that you’ve been thinking those ‘unwanted thoughts’ – Open fire! Get rid of your unwanted thoughts. Be calm. You can eliminate your unwanted thoughts by indulging in an activity that keeps you away from thinking them. Start thinking of something else. the thoughts that nag. bully or shout. in fact.If You Do Not Get What You Want If you are not able to achieve success. and do not complement your overall sense of well-being can safely be considered as unwanted and unhealthy. How To Get Rid Of Unwanted Thoughts What are unwanted thoughts and why are they such an issue? Unwanted thoughts are the thoughts that shouldn’t be a part of your thinking process. or simply go on a walk. They are such an issue because they tend to have a negative influence on your personality and psyche and at times can even take a toll on your health. Meditate Meditation is a discipline through which the patron can exercise control over the mind and dwell in a state of relaxation and heightened awareness. maybe a bad experience. persistent and stay in control. watch a good movie. Binge on an activity that does not see you thinking the thoughts you shouldn’t be thinking. an enemy. Repeat yourself again and ask your audience to consider the implications of not doing as requested by you. you don’t want to be caught in a web of derogatory thoughts. Basically. Indulge In An Activity A sure shot way to deal with unnecessary thoughts is to sail away from them. Distract yourself. Unwanted thoughts can orbit around anything. learn to destroy it. Sleep It Away Sleep is a great doctor. exercise. read a book. a healer. Make up your mind and read on ways to get rid of your unwanted thoughts. your work and maybe even your life. there’s a way”. something that makes you feel good as this will help do away with your unwanted thoughts. It’s not really easy to stop these thoughts from popping in your head. before the thought envelops your mind. Remember. Remember the timeless adage – “where there’s a will.
enthusiasm and openmindedness assists in encouraging his/her followers to take more efforts towards the goals and achieve them. and when you feel refreshed. Be Enthusiastic A good leader should be enthusiastic. you need to get a few things straight. This is when you need to be going in for some expert advice. a good leader should also be concerned for his people. but there is nothing to be ashamed of. you think better and healthier. How To Be A Good Leader With people and organizations changing drastically. Only then will the words be effective. This comprises of delegating work to others. A leader. Most people may not be too proud about a visit to a psychiatrist. The interest that he takes in realizing the goals motivates his followers to work effectively. This change has lead to an alteration in the required qualities of a good leader as well. Some unwanted thoughts may be an issue. However. Sleep is a great weapon against pestering thoughts. in order to be a good leader. So. before going down to the qualities. The thoughts on these issues may lose themselves while you sleep. The unwanted thoughts syndrome is a common disorder and a fair amount of people have been plagued with the same. What Makes A Good Leader Set An Example A person has to be trustworthy and possess a good character. If you’re troubled by something and if someone’s getting to you and you’re feeling a bit obsessed. you need help. Consult A Psychiatrist If you’ve tried the above remedies and have still failed to get rid of your unwanted thoughts. You need a psychiatrist who can help you deal with your unwanted thoughts. hence. Apart from being committed towards his/her work. go ahead. you can sleep over it. Bear in mind that leadershipskills are not inherited. you feel better and refreshed. Read on further to know the traits and qualities which make a good leader. The best way to lead subordinates or juniors is by setting an example through his/her life and actions. effective leadership styles too has undergone immense change. A leader’s keenness. making sure of the completion of the work and meeting the deadlines and targets.rid of your superfluous thoughts. Leadership is all about daring. get yourself some. as they would be accompanied by action. dreaming and devoting oneself towards the fulfillment of the dreams. and can vary from a temperate to a serious psychological disorder. should have an undying and enduring . if you think. maybe the issue is a lot more serious than you think it is. but developed. An effective leader is one who guides his followers in the right direction and helps them attain the desired goal. When you’ve had your eight hours of sleep.
one must possess an exclusive set of human relations and interpersonal skills. By effectively executing the tasks. Hence.enthusiasm about the work or specified goal in order to give the subordinates a boost to attain or meet the targets. delegate them responsibilities and choose people who will implement your decisions successfully. Make good selections. a leader can take the subordinates and juniors to the path of success. at the right time. which would otherwise result in incorrect decisions. Be Reasonable & Understanding A leader is mostly chosen as a result of unanimous decision by the people or the group. they requireinvestment of time and energy to perfect and craft your skills. whether you own a business. hasty decisions are often the result of stress and anxiety. Hence. In fact leadership skills are much more than speaking confidently and carrying a serious demeanor. especially in case of critical situations. All the circumstances should be handled with a cool mind. it is the success of subordinates and juniors that makes a leader successful Effective Leadership Skills The secret to great leadership is about having the leadership skills to be able to deal with people in a delicate yet powerful manner. And remember. Be Confident A true leader is undoubtedly confident. manage it or are an employee looking to make your way up to the corporate ladder. the leader achieves excellence which is a key determinant for a good leader. A leader should be self-confident. To be an effective leader. While calmness and composure helps in taking the right decision. Know Thy People Know and understand your people to become a good leader. A confident leader is in a better position to take the right decisions and effective actions. The right leadership style is required in every walk of professional life. For proper execution of your work. it is rightly . without which he would not be able to earn the trust and respect from his followers. A leader should not lose his control in such situations. understand the potential of your people and allocate duties accordingly. A good leader is judged by fair and right choices that he makes. By sorting out the weaknesses and lauding the strengths. it can be safely assumed that it is the people who make a person a leader. Keep Your Cool An important characteristic of a good leader is the ability to keep cool in all kinds of situations. leader should not overlook the expectations and problems of his people. Therefore. Effective leadership skills cannot just be stumbled upon. which leads to repentance.
High Energy A leader should be highly energetic since he would have to invest in long hours of work to raise the company. he should also be quick and alert while doing so. Hence. Self-assurance Other common characteristics of an effective leader are self-confidence and resiliency. a leader must be low in sentimental attachments and insensitive to hardship. He should be competitive and capable of taking decisions on behalf of his entire team. Since he/she has to face lots of risks and criticism. Traits Of An Effective Leader Emotional Stability A good leader should be capable of tolerating frustration and stress. The person must be able to adjust well and have the psychological maturity to deal with anything that he/she is likely to face. Team Orientation These days. Tough-mindedness A good leader should be practical. He/she should have an undying spirit and enduring enthusiasm about the work and should be capable of inducing the same attitude into his team. Read to know the different traits of an effective leader. Conscientiousness Since leaders are dominated by a sense of duty. well-honed leadership skill is the most important component for being successful in the businessworld. Maturity Personal power and recognition should be put aside to focus on the development of the employees in order to be a good leader. A leader should possess a never-say-die-spirit and should always to ready for challenges. while dealing with other people. a successful leader should be very self-disciplined and have a need for order and a high standard of excellence. rather than ruling them. A leader should be secure. Dominance An effective leader must be assertive in his thinking style and have a confident attitude. free of guilt and unaffected by prior mistakes or failures. logical and to-the-point. Enthusiasm Leaders are assumed to be active and expressive.said. more emphasis is laid upon team work by business leaders. An effective leader must be optimistic and open to changes coming across him. they tend to be demanding in character. One must be mature enough to recognize that more can be accomplished by empowering others. However. while being a leader. A good leader establishes an adult-adult relationship with his employees to encourage and motivate .
Charismatic leaders are better capable of arousing strong emotions among the employees by defining a vision. This simply shows that the person is simply not interested and is indifferent towards you. The way we shake hands shows the kind of a person we are. A handshake is one such gesture that is used to greet others. this is considered as the most unimpressive handshakes among all. Prison Handshake A person making a prison handshake will offer a firm hand keeping your hand in his for a long duration. Did you know that a lot can be deduced about a person from a single handshake? While a firm handshake with the hand facing downwards and arm extended shows that you are confident. character and professionalism. thereby unifying and captivating them. Robot Handshake A robot handshake is one that is offered automatically without any noticeable thought or feeling. a leader better motivates employees to achieve their future goals. resulting in personal rewards and values.them. It conveys power. Jackhammer Handshake . Read on further to know what our handshake says about us. rather than an adult-child relationship. wherein the former orders and the latter obeys. meet new people or close a deal or agreement. confidence. Charisma Since leaders are perceived larger than life by most people. What Does Your Handshake Mean Flabby Handshake A flabby handshake is made by a person who is a pessimist. charisma plays an integral role in gaining the trust of the employees. What Your Handshake Says About You Body language is one of the forms of communication that makes use of various body areas or parts to convey a message. not willing to give it back to you. Also known as a limp-fish handshake. Through this vision. People making such a handshake seem to be expecting something from your side. uncomfortable or nervous. a hand pointing upwards is a weak handshake thereby indicating that you are shy.
For most people. with an exception of very few people mastering this technique. this is what you can do. It is also advisable not to stare directly into the eyes of a person. This is done to cover up their feelings of diffidence. Queen’s Handshake A person who offers his fingers. such as politicians. In case you are one of those who feel uncomfortable at looking directly into a person’s eyes. To convey confidence and professionalism. Also. Do not look into the person’s eyes • . This handshake indicates a sense of superiority. They will make a dynamic and forceful handshake indicating their power and determination. instead of his palm for making a handshake is said to be making a Queen’s handshake. Also. How To Use Eye Contact For Conversation Success Eyes have been the windows to the soul. looking elsewhere while in a conversation with someone is actually considered to be an insult. come what may. How To Use Eye Contact Properly In Conversations • Make a good balance between making eye contact and looking away. Read on further to find tips for using eye contact for successful conversation. Next-to-the-body Handshake People who are not willing to take risks. make a next-to-the-body handshake. maintaining too much eye contact can make the other person uncomfortable.People who are a little inflexible tend to make a jackhammer handshake as they think that their way is the right one. it might reflect over-confidence and impudence. At some places across the world. Normal Handshake A normal handshake is one that is made briefly and firmly. While avoiding eye contact during the conversation can indicate that you are nervous or trustworthy. Squeezing Handshake People who tend to show their strength and power make a squeezing handshake. it is difficult to lie while looking directly into a person’s eyes. communicates your confidence and translates your sincerity. This is made by keeping the arm close to the body and bending it only at the elbow to perform a handshake. Some people assume this handshake to be a sexual connotation. making eye contact with another person provides a feeling of intimacy and openness. Making an eye contact while conversing signals your presence. this is the best handshake to execute. A lot can be conveyed from a person’s eyes. Using eye contact effectively proves to be boon for establishing close relationships with people.
necessary for making it memorable for audience. to let the person know that you are interested in the conversation. While some are born with this trait. by saying. a woman making eye contact is considered to be sign of an unrespectable woman • • • • Public Speaking Skills King of bollywood. let him/her know that you are listening intently. do you have to rack your brains to remember one? Sadly. Essential Public Speaking Skills . This makes you look friendly. Think of the last memorable talk or presentation you attended. Show keen interest by gazing at his/her face every now and then. So. A great public speaker has the power to spellbind the audience. allowing your eyes go a little bit out of focus. In some cultures. Every culture has its own rules with regard to eye contact. which will help you understand and acquire the skills needed for public speaking. most talks are easy to forget because they lack the impact. Include facial expressions. make sure that you make only the required eye contact. while it’s a challenge for others. while conversing with such people. look gently at the eye area. In case you are one of them. invoke emotions. instead. people from Oriental countries avoid doing so. • Some people stare too intently into the eyes of the person without looking away. like smiling. Shahrukh Khan gave tips on public speaking to all. Mastering the art of public speaking is easy for some.directly. There are many more ingredients to it. “My first rule of public speaking…if you don’t strike oil in 3 minutes…stop boring!” The ability to deliver a great speech in public is the skill. While you are conversing with a person. which is highly regarded. However. make sure that you bring back your attention to the person’s face with whom you are conversing. which marks the success of speech. In other cultures. such as the eyebrows or bridge of the nose. Just the knowledge of the subject is not enough to make your speech a success. nodding and gazing. While Caucasian people living in North America prefer making a lot of eye contact. others can develop it by acquiring certain skills. thereby making the other person uncomfortable. and even trigger reactions from them. Hence. Here are some pointers. Glancing too much towards the room or looking at other people around makes the person feel dejected or ignored. making contact is not allowed for a woman towards a man who is not related to her. Keep your facial muscles relaxed and change your facial expressions. soften the stare by glancing away from the person at a gap of few seconds. with the change of the conversation. It’s the ability to inform and keep the audience interested. This would help you remain in your comfort zone without showing that you are nervous.
it is important to research the topic well. and remedies of air pollution. whenever you are speaking on a topic. you need to know why they should listen to you. quotations. stories. In this. you will determine the objective of your talk keeping in perspective the audience. it’s important to keep in mind the following: Who? .Understand What You Want To Achieve Before you start working on your speech or presentation. • • . The next important step. Add facts.Your audience should understand. less is always more. and the end of the content. If you are speaking about air pollution then it’s important to make audience aware about its causes before jumping to effects. middle. why you are speaking on the topic. which is simple and easy to grasp by your audience. For your audience to grasp the idea easily. You should follow a logical pattern. Or convey your idea wrapped in the form of story.Who here stands for audience. While giving a speech. Use language. it’s a good idea to add humor. Good speakers always research before conveying their message. effects. How? – How here stands for understanding the best way you can communicate your message. When? It is important for you to develop a sense of timing. you need to do is to plan a beginning. If your audience consists of school students. If you are using slides in your presentation then limit the content of each slide to a few bullet points. that what you are speaking is something valuable and will be useful for them. and why it’s important for them to listen. However. There might be a variety of aspects to the topic you are dealing with but you can’t cover all in your short speech so give main points or highlights of the topic to your audience. Stories are easy to understand and are loved by all. which connect well to your core idea. They should effectively complement your ideas. the kind of language you will use will play an important role. Vital Public Speaking Skills • Before beginning on a topic on which you have to give a speech. when delivering a speech. • When it comes to wording your message. What kind of audience you are addressing to? By answering this question. to your speech. your priority should be to keep the content of your speech simple and interesting so that your audience can grasp it well. You should communicate to your audience. Why? In order to convert your audience into dedicated listeners. like causes. just don’t include them for the sake of using. and statistics. that what you are speaking is being heard and absorbed by the audience. take effective pauses to make sure. What? – What here stands for what you wish to communicate via your talk or speech? If you are giving a talk on air pollution then you should mark down the topics you would like to cover under this.
We long to break free from all such pretentions. pay as much attention to opening and closing words as you pay to the body of the speech. Ask questions to your audience. Be precise and concise. afraid of what we might see ourselves as – since we tend to define ‘successes and ‘failure’ in extremely conventional ways.• Always remember that your opening words and closing words make the most of the impact on the audience. when delivering the speech. tone. when we look at ourselves in the mirror. Don't stay stuck behind a podium. Pauses play an effective role. No wonder most of us never feel good about ourselves. and volume. Here’s how to bring in the ‘feel good’ factor about yourself. Easy Ways To Feel Good About Yourself Here’s what you must do to feel good about yourself: Life’s No Enemy . Many of us do not like to see ourselves in the mirror at all. this will open the channel of discussion and your audience will get involved. Your first step is to maintain an eye contact with the audience while delivering the speech. While making a speech or presentation. if you follow these useful tips: • • • • • • Understand the purpose of presentation. Use a variety of vocal pace. it’s very important to connect with the audience. Your second step should be to interact with the audience. Don't talk too fast. Nevertheless. They should make an impact on the audience and force them to think on the topic you have just spoken about. It’s essential to keep your body up-beat. However. there are some simple rules that you can follow if you wish to feel good about yourself. we see ourselves not for what we are. voice. Ways To Feel Good About Yourself Most of the times. but by the straitjacket. yet. Use examples to bring key points of your speech to life. the society carelessly throws us into. while making a presentation. the decision of ‘what we ought to be’ is not decided by the standards we set for ourselves. This will make your speech effective. when given the opportunity to do the same. • Unforgettable Delivery You can make your speech or presentation unforgettable. If your opening words are unable to bind the audience then you lose half the battle. but what we ought to be. fall right back into the very trap. So. Same is the case with the closing words.
Remember the talisman Gandhi ji gave. If you are constantly suspicious of others' motives and keep believing that they have some hidden agenda that involves hurting you. For the person who's trapped in his or her own shell of negativity. which they consider to be not worth taking the pain. had a baby. there may be situation where making light of the situation could actually prove to be rather inappropriate. or when the self becomes too much with you. been on a foreign holiday or re-decorated the living room. you'd like to have. Being friends is far more pleasant than being enemies so why would they want to put so much energy into something they'd have nothing to gain from? The ‘Ha! Ha!’ Is On Me A good sense of humor is more important than being what most people consider "beautiful" in the conventional sense. while “You are pretty or good looking” is a compliment that is as carelessly thrown around as any pleasantry. Also. for this reason. then good for you .Most of us often feel that everyone on this earth. there will always be something else that would fall short. apply the following test. the result is that they make any excuse to not go out in the world with a positive outlook. which you believe you too have a right to possess is that those wishes never diminish. What we refuse to acknowledge is that there is always something that will make you feel better than you are right now. Look around you and appreciate the things you do have instead of focusing on those you don't. is not a compliment that people give anyone. will it lead to swaraj [freedom] for the hungry and spiritually starving millions? Then you will find your doubts and your self melt away. much to our chagrin. you'll keep people at arm's length and never make new friends or improve the friendships you already have. some people are out to get us. Recall the face of the poorest and the weakest man [woman] whom you may have seen. we find that it hasn’t. No matter how much you may try to match up to the lifestyle of someone else. “Whenever you are in doubt. it is best if you try to feel out the people around you before you start joking around. if the step you contemplate is going to be of any use to him [her]. Likewise. and ask yourself.” No matter how little you think you have. or at the very least. Green Isn’t Good Though most of us might believe that life will improve once we've bought a bigger house.just don't let them hinder your chance of happiness along the way. Will he [she] gain anything by it? Will it restore him [her] to a control over his [her] own life and destiny? In other words. humor has the potential to last far longer than physical traits. there are people not far from you who are far worse off than you are! . Most people appreciate a sense of humor more anyway. Therefore. Meeting people would require them to be friendly. “Your sense of humour is wonderful”. To inculcate a more positive outlook on life you need to understand that most people are way too busy managing their own lives to take the pains to hurt you. Having a sense of humor can make it easier to be friendly even with strangers and makes tough situations less stressful. Don't fall for it! If you get the things. The problem with the desire to have what others have. The only problem with being too humorous is that not everyone will have the same sense of humor as you and can get offended.
The trick here will be to use simple recognized version of English by keeping the usage correct. Pick up around ten words and sentences from the particular area everyday and practice them thoroughly. Depending on your use of the language. Determine whether you want to learn the language just for day to day use or for a specific purpose. good command over English has become a necessity. Do not try and use any such phrases or idioms till the time you are confident of their correct usage. In fact in the present era. which you as a beginner cannot expect to do. even if English is not someone’s mother tongue. It is just a matter of your dedication and sincere efforts. Choose a friend or a partner with whom you can practice speaking the language. Try and learn even the antonyms and the synonyms of each word and the correct structure in which you can use the word. phrases. Having a person who knows English to speak to will help you improvise your usage of words and formation of sentences. as you have your own comfort zone with them. Depending on your need of the language choose the version or level you will have to master. Tips To Speak English Fluently • The first and foremost step towards speaking English fluently is to decide the purpose of learning the language. Grammar is the basic of any language which need to be mastered in order to speak the language accurately. English is quiet easy to follow as it has aspects of several languages in it. English has become the most common language and widely spoken language in the world today. Practice is the only key here. then learning becomes easier. Try and avoid any form of grammatical errors when speaking. decide and put aside the vocabulary and the sentence construction which is ideal for you to learn. If the person you choose is your good friend. People who know the language well modify their language by using idioms. Practice using new words in real situations by integrating them into conversations. Knowledge of English will help a person develop his/her self confidence by giving them the power to take part in conversations. therefore only little bit of hard work and dedication will make you fluent in the language. Learning English and speaking it fluently is an easy task. as you cannot learn everything. if the conversation is in common language. It becomes easier to express and communicate with others. It takes years of exposure to the language for someone to modify the language according to the situation. and slangs depending on the situation. It is only through enough • • • • • . Language helps in communicating and conversing with one another.How To Speak English Flu ently Language is the tool used for conveying and expressing feelings and emotions.
you will start feeling happy and be able to get rid of any worries. in the present world. One can make use of any such facility and get professionally trained in the language How To Cheer Yourself Up Almost all of us have faced a bleak moment or some kind of depression at one point of time or the other. leaving them with moments of gloominess. Turn the music loud and dance to the beats. At such times. Some unaccomplished project or a simple household work. Getting rid of your past and all your worries will give you an immense sense of freedom and will give you the confidence that the future holds only happiness for you.practice that you will be able to get the grammar correct. This article will provide you with a few tips on how to get away from worries and cheer yourself up. say an aromatic bath or a bunch of flowers and • • • • . it will surely make you feel good. Finish any such pending work. This lifestyle is but natural to bring along with it lots of worries and tensions for people. might be continuously nagging you. instead of putting it off. everyone is so busy and preoccupied with living life that they hardly take out time for even his/her own self. do not let that stop you having fun. which will help you become fluent in its usage. in our life. In fact. This will trick your brain into thinking that you are happy. reward yourself with something that you love. leaving us with no time to smile and relax. Once you are done with the task. A spontaneous hug or a chubby little hand in yours will bring joy and add life to that moment. If you think that you cannot dance. They will make you love your life. This will help in getting rid of the negative energy from your work place as well as your home and give space for some positive energy to flow in. Sing at the top of your voice instead and continue to enjoy yourself. Spend some time with children. forget about family and friends. which you hate to do. Put aside or clear out all the clutter around you. • There are many institutions that provide both classes and online education for oral and written English. It is an undeniable fact that clearing out what you no longer want makes life easier. Best Ways Of Cheering Yourself Up • Put on your favorite music and dance out your worries. even if you don’t feel like smiling. There might be some worries bothering us every now and then. Their natural zest for life is infectious and will cheer you up as well. Push back all your worries by forcing a smile. it becomes very necessary to them to make efforts to perk up and have some fun. This is a proven fact that if you think and act as if you are happy.
It will help you release the “feel good chemicals” called endorphins. This will help you come out of your worries. redecorate your room. you put your heart and soul into your work . and go in for a drink. Almost all of us have faced setbacks at some or the other point of time in our life. this will help reduce your burden and give you space to think logically. learn a new game. it is going to be a lot of fun’. The peace of mind that comes from having got the job done will be the greatest relief and reward of all. Having fun and getting involved with friends will help cheer you up. rather than thinking negatively about it. Needless to say. Never think that your day is going to be boring and lethargic. get rid of it. Spending some time with your old friend will bring back the young and cheerful person in you. Visualize yourself successfully completing the new project and the benefits it will bring to your life. but will help develop high self-confidence and self-esteem. put on the daily jokes option on your mailbox or simply throw a party. Take up something new. my day is going to be great. This will not only occupy your mind. however. watch comedies. sketch a portrait. in your body. might get the ball back in your court! .just to find that your colleague has got that much awaited promotion! Do such scenarios sound familiar to you? If they do. narrate your experiences. Have fun when you are down. The reality is often less stressful than sitting alone worrying about it. If there is a situation that is worrying you the whole day long. Let your feelings flow out in a painting or a drawing. Plan out a day with him/her and have a blast.chocolate. Or. Try and talk out your problem to one of your friends. or paint a landscape. Learn a language. • Think positive and keep repeating to yourself whenever you leave the house that ‘today. rather visualize it with some new excitement waiting for you. especially when everything else seems to be so right and perfect! Just taking life with a pinch of salt. Indulge in exercise or perform yoga whenever you feel you are down with a worry. • • • • • • Dealing With Setbacks You have worked long and hard towards that right moment to propose to the girl of your dreams. there is no need to despair and think that someone has jinxed you. trace your family history. plan a garden. only to find out that she is engaged to someone else. setbacks are not something we like to put up with. Play games. Make something! Be a bit creative and bake a cake. take music lessons or do something you always wanted to do. Endorphins induce a feeling of euphoria and change your mood from sad and dark to happy and bright. Share jokes. Visit an old friend.
rather your unwillingness to accept it and refuse to give things a try is. it is better to distance yourself from them. Holding yourself in the midst of adversity and fighting out of it will just make you a wiser. Once you have a smile back on your face and are feeling good about yourself. Here are some boosters for you to take heed of. at times. A bad day at work. things may not be as bad as they seem. you can start making lemonade. An objective consideration of the situation may help you to assess it better and take the right corrective measures.says Maxwell. By the . look towards tomorrow. Running away from your problems is no way to deal with them! Acknowledging your problems is the first big step towards solving them. The only thing that overcomes hard luck is hard work. Doing this can go a long way in helping you dissipate your anxiety. setback is just a phase of life that is likely to get over soon. Instead. a street-brawl. It is likely to get you nowhere. “when life gives you lemon. Look for opportunities to come out of it and work your way to success. The next step is to understand the cause behind the setback. better person. Instead of concentrating on wrongs. Keep a tab over your feelings and look out for possible signs of despair. Don’t sit and cry over your failures. accept them and then take steps to rid your system of these feelings. consider and act. including ourselves. a misunderstanding with your spouse. in order to gain an accurate perspective. hold your ground. When the situations seem drab. Remember. If you have suffered a slowdown in life. Once you have done so. How To Deal With Setbacks • ‘A man must be big enough to admit his mistakes. At such times. Don’t be harsh on yourself. Read on and know all about dealing with the setbacks that have been plaguing for life for sometime now. we join a competition and end up competing with everyone around. The low would soon disappear. we conjure up impressions of things that are far beyond the reality. there is hardly any reason to despair.” • • • • Personal Goals In Life The moment we are born.Remember. failure is not a setback. when suffering from setback. assess. your own fault anything that might have caused the setback needs to be figured out. try to think of all the right things you have done. Often. It will give you a chance to start over once again and do things in the right way. and strong enough to correct them’. smart enough to profit from them. Think before taking the escape route. distress and dejection in yourself. Just let go off all feelings. Failures can make our reasons go for a toss. evaluate. Stay positive. Remember.
we feel that something is missing. You could device your own priority list. Community Service Many youngsters. You should know when it is time for you to enhance your knowledge or acquire some new skills. you could set your goals with first priority on something else – you must remember that these are not in the order of importance or significance. you must have thought of the amount of money you will need to build a home of your own. you may have to plan ahead as to how much money you will have to save for it. goals are all-encompassing and are also include the personal and familial life of a person. Financial When you set out to work and began to work. So many of us set goals at a time when we should be enjoying. so that you can cut down on wasteful expenditure. even as they work and earn. Others may want to start with the profession only after they have acquired that knowledge. You might also want to know what you do with that money. they might want to get a six pack abs! Here are a few personal goals that will make your lives worthwhile. It is like asking yourself the very typical interview question – where do you see yourself after a stipulated amount of time. we are asked to set our goals. If you plan to buy or build a house or acquire other assets. Career You must have set goals about the profession that you are following. what all you will need for it and so on.time we are old enough to boast of surging hormones. Even as a person aims to reach to a certain level in their career. Also. Employers also invest more in people who know where they are headed. You should have a clear idea about where you wish to reach in your life. when you can do it or when you can devote time to it and how long would it take you to do so. contrary to that notion. Goals are supposed provide a definite direction to our lives and help us identify our final destinations. That is because we reach stagnation after that. It is one goal that you cannot afford to lose track of. and by the time we think we have achieved all our goals. There is no point in reaching stagnation in your career and studies prove that people cannot be satisfied with their jobs or professions until it offers them challenges and more responsibilities at regular intervals. support many causes that may touch a chord with them – some of them may want to associate themselves with AIDS . Education This refers to any kind of knowledge that you may want to acquire. Some people might decide to get a certain degree or attend classes after many years of having worked just to keep themselves updated about what is happening in the industry. You may want to keep track of your daily expenditure to know how much money is going in which direction. How To Set Personal Goals In Life Here are some ways to decide upon various personal goals that you may want to set for yourself. Though education features first on the list. which will decide the way we live our lives. Many of us do not know that goals are to be changed and ‘updated’ from time to time. most of us might think that goals are only associated with career.
This is especially true when you are trying to fight a bad habit. the ones they were a part of. It is something that your heart longs for and as long as the longing remains unfulfilled. However. your spouse. It could be in ways like helping your child with his physics lessons or helping your wife cook lunch every day because she is going through a painful menopause! It could also be in the form of taking care of ageing parents or. You will need to ask yourself what kind of responsibilities you have towards your family members. such as smoking. Family Men and women have responsibilities towards their families. Mark Twain once said: “Giving up smoking is the easiest thing in the world.awareness or may spend some time taking care of differently abled children or some others may want to lend a hand at the Helpage India Foundation. and face frequent relapses. at times. at times. preparing to lend services as a volunteer for various activities or so on. . Trying to curb these cravings could.” This quip might strike a responsive chord in you. no matter what the craving is for. such as drugs and tobacco. You should also know why you are associating yourself with the cause and how much time you can devote to the cause as a volunteer and in which way you can contribute to the cause that is close to your heart – whether it is spending some time with homeless veterans at Helpage homes. which is your prime reason for earning a living How To Deal With Cravings Do you. following some simple tips to control it will help you win the fight against your inner drives and desires. your children. but to no avail. have a strong desire to do or to get something. because there might be something that you might be trying to resist for quite sometime. When you have decided to take active steps. it is better to chalk out an action plan as well. be painful and even exhausting. parents-in-law too. as well as. Whatever be the cause that you want to associate yourself with. sometimes even parents-in-law. These responsibilities are not only in the material sense and go beyond the monetary duties. You have to know how much time and energy to devote for the family. I know because I’ve done it thousands of times. a desire that you feel you just can’t control? This desire is called a craving. make sure you stick to it. Read on to explore how to deal with cravings. your parents. remember that there is a big difference between desire to fight the craving and actually taking steps to fight it. the families that they build. your siblings. How To Control Your Cravings • No matter what you are craving for. These cravings could range from something as simple as food to bigger things. you tend to go through emotional turmoil.
Once you have identified the triggers. Get the help of others. Inform your family and friends about how you are trying to deal with them. If you feed your mind with good thoughts. You will find that. self esteem and sound health while your bad thoughts can ruin you gradually. being the cause of aggravating or triggering off your cravings. you will be able to have better control over them and fight them completely • • • • • How To Utilize The Positive Power Of Thinking Norman Vincent Peal may be the first person who comes to your mind when somebody talks about ‘the power of positive thinking’. so that you do not come across these triggers. the chances of your mind relapsing into an idle state are less. as you keep yourself busy. Therefore. you will need to give yourself time to get over them completely. For example. Be realistic and balanced. which are associated with earlier memories. Write down the triggers besides each individual craving. Keep yourself busy. They can be included among the triggers and you can try your best to avoid those circumstances. if you concentrate to control your thought process. if you feel that you cannot handle your cravings on your own. He is one author who wrote many books about the power of positive thinking. Each of your thoughts have immense energy that can empower you to achieve whatever you want to. high confidence. In time. Take a few minutes everyday to reflect on how successful you have been. in time. Some of them might stem from habits that have been developed over years. Positive thinking has worked miracles in the life of terminally ill people.• Write down the cravings that tend to overtake you most frequently. The mind takes time to heal and so do the cravings. until you have better control over yourself. You may have heard that there are two kinds of thoughts. This will help them avoid. reading recipes of burgers. they will give you peace of mind. There might be triggers that set them off. if you are on a diet. you will find that the intensity of cravings has reduced. You will find that. If there were relapses. Monitor your progress. write down the circumstances led to them. Remember that you will not be able to overcome your cravings overnight. You can achieve the whole world if your mind is in your control and if you feed it with . habits or desires. even unwittingly. Thoughts are tiny packets of energy. if you give in to cravings periodically. Good thoughts are called as positive thoughts and bad ones as negative thoughts. Expect relapses and do not be too hard on yourself. analyze situations that you can avoid. when you gave in to cravings. at fighting off the craving. pizzas and foods with high caloric content will get you craving for them.
if you put the seeds of negative thoughts in your mind. Nonetheless. Tips To Build & Use Power Of Positive Thinking • You should feed your mind with positive thoughts and good things will happen in your life. You will gradually become darling of the masses • • • How To Have A Witty Conversation Being witty in your conversation is a significant way to showcase your intelligence. If your listener isn’t able to grasp your wittiness. This limitless thinking will provide you more richness in material and spiritual sense. which you never dreamt of. Your new confident personality can achieve you more friends in your work place or in college. According to ancient sages. they would grow in your mind’s soil. it would lead you to high guilty conscious which can burn your inner peace forever. Basically a compliment is a chicken soup for a human soul. Never keep a bad image about yourself in your mind. You should think borderless and limitless. You should walk like a king. If done rightly. It can be a reason for failure in life. you will also feel good about yourself.good and beautiful thoughts. it is an effective way to impress. This will give you more confidence and will reflect in your body language. Read on the article to know more about how to utilize the positive power of thinking. . They will feel better and they will treat you better. If you think of those things. Think of the good things your neighbor or your friend did in life. humor and knowledge to your listeners. Think of the good things you commit in your life. compliment them for it from heart. they can affect you adversely. It takes high stress to convince yourself that you are doing well but you should take burden for being a person with positive thinking. network and ease the tension. When you shower people with compliments. On other hand. It can prove to be an impressive tool for flirting as well. You should think of yourself as the best person ever born on the face of earth. have a good time and feel comfortable at parties. There is a mentality in majority of the human beings that they think themselves as very bad people which in fact they are not. mind is almost like a garden. This will make you feel better about yourself and that will reflect in every activity you do in life. Compliment yourself as much as possible. It helps you make friends. • One effective exercise that can help one to develop a good attitude is giving more compliments to people. It is the lack of control on your mind which makes the weed of negative thought grown in your mind. People will start listening to you when you talk things with an air of confidence and authenticity. Never think of the negative things which you happened to commit in your life. you might end up being a snob. This image will help you to gain more confidence and it will reflect when you talk things. Never wear a posture of a tired and inferior person in your life. If you put seeds of virtue and peace. a witty conversation is best when your audience too is an intellectual match.
Do not laugh unless the opposite participant makes an equal witty or funny comment.or just plain weird. Maintain a straight face. Read on further to know how you can be witty. as you have spoken other people's mind. Although this will make the statement wittier. • • • • • Tips • Do not make the same references over and over again. A beret or another hat will also help in. The more trendy and up-to-date you are. Familiarize yourself with words and sharpen your vocabulary. Be attentive. Your witnesses will start doubting your wittiness and intelligence. while in a conversation. . Be a good listener. How To Be Witty While Conversing • • • • • • • • • Do not laugh at yourself. be sure that the other person too understands your reference. but also how quick you are. In some situations. Be quick as well as creative in your replies. Do not hesitate to make comments that may not be typical to you. it would do good to use phrases from his/her language. Be sure to match your speech with the person who is conversing with you. Use of the right body language will be an added advantage. This will also show that you have been listening to the person. Observe the speakers and pick up humorous comments that other people would probably not notice. Keep your witty remarks in a casual tone. Be careful on your witty gestures. in responding. The wittiness not only demands creativeness on how you link ideas and draw comparisons. You would be respected. In case you are talking to someone from another country. since every person has a different sense of humor. by comparing his/her statement to something else. Be careful on jokes. Dress yourself to enhance your wit. physical humor such as props can also be appropriate. A commonly known. to make it look like saying them comes naturally to you. A playful smile and a raised eyebrow could add on a nice touch. intelligent people are often stereotyped as wearing glasses. wherever applicable. Use puns wherever required. Study and notice your audience. the better you look. movies or significant and famous personalities. Use relevant quotations from various books. Reflect the words of the other person in a different way.
In any circumstance that may elicit a negative response from you. the relief is.• • Do not use your wittiness to put people down. be thankful he did not hurt you. This way. you will appreciate what you do have and will value it better. No matter how big the tragedy is. you may also take the bigger challenges that life throws at you with minimum negativity or anger. What are the character traits of those who think positive or maintain a positive outlook? Do they just go around saying “Aall Izzz Well” like the refrain from the runway hit 3 Idiots? What makes them so chirpy all the time? Why does negativity not affect them like it does to others? How would they handle a news or situation that normally invokes feelings of negativity from others? These are some of the questions that people ask themselves when they think about those who always seem to find something positive about everything. Do not try too hard to be witty. Gratitude It is important to be thankful to God for everything that you have. It makes you feel like you are perpetually the victim and never lets you think about what you could do to improve the situation. If you start by taking these little things less seriously. many of whom do not know what it really means. temporary and self destructive. try to think about and concentrate on what you could have lost and did not. It may give you temporary relief to think of yourself as a victim. If a chain snatcher snatched your gold chain. instead of fretting about what you do not have. we are often told by our friends and loved ones. Now that we all accept that tragedy can affect the most happy-go-lucky people and it is only in the perspective wherein the difference lies. not to mention to your natural state of happiness. This is considered low and insensitive. try to be thankful for what you did not lose. Getting Rid Of Self Pity Wallowing too much in self pity and feelings that hold you back from progressing in the right direction are detrimental to your development as a person. Here are some tricks that could lead us straight to positive outlook. Tips To Maintain A Positive Outlook Here are some things that will help you develop and maintain a positive outlook: Humour It isn’t necessary to take life too seriously all the time – you can let go and laugh away life’s little miseries like missing a bus or train or spilling coffee on your dress. we must explore some of the traits and tricks that such people possess to get over all negativity. Not all people would like wittiness in their everyday conversations about work and other nuances Positive Thinking Tips And Tricks “Be Positive”. however. .
malice. disbelief or cynicism. read the article to find some activities to help you on the same. find all their negativity melting away when they reach out and help someone and make that person feel better about themselves. don’t let it become a reason for your arrogance as everyone is unique in some way. Some such positive affirmations can be: • • I feel god about myself. Belief is. try and reach out to someone who may need you and try to help them see the better side of their situation. anxiety. Develop Positive Affirmations Make positive affirmations and statements about yourself that make you feel good and better about yourself. Self Esteem Building Activities Most people think bad about themselves from time to time. belief in yourself. Belief No matter what the situation is. You can also add your achievements in life and your simple accomplishments. Think of ways you would like to feel about yourself and make such statements to yourself. psychosis. You follow it too. List some of your strengths and a few things that you admire about yourself. belief in your abilities and in the fact that everything will be alright in the end will heal you of all the negativity and self destructive behaviour. Ways To Build Self Esteem Create Affirming Lists Making a list about your strengths and positive aspects and rereading them often will make you feel better and positive about yourself. who are simply too judgmental about themselves. Never lose the faith with which you began your life with – a child does not know mistrust. phobias. negativity. Your feeling of low esteem may be triggered by a critical remark or being treated badly by others. . I am a good person.Reaching Out Many people who were often plagued by negative thoughts and self destructive behaviour and thoughts. Be childlike in your belief in yourself but at the same time be realistic about your goals and achievements. It is very important to find something in you that you can be proud of. In case you wish to know how to build self esteem and thwart negative thoughts about yourself. delusional thinking may also accompany them as all these issues are interrelated. Low self-esteem is a constant companion for some. Find inexpensive and simple ways to reward yourself for all your achievements and accomplishments. However. by far the most powerful positive feeling that has the capacity to heal any emotional wound. That it happens to majority of us doesn’t imply that it need not be worked upon. Depression. Make sure to leave all your own negativity behind when you reach out to the other person or else your negativity might transfer to them too.
To look at it constructively. However when people are forced to loneliness they experience extreme emptiness and unworthiness. One of the main reasons for people staying lonely is that they don’t have the strength or the inclination to move away from it. This is all fine when loneliness is voluntary and there are options from breaking away from it.• • • There are many people who like me. talents and achievements are the reasons you should be confident and selfassured. Loneliness mean different for different people. Make copies of the list and keep them at several places. You can also create a list of positive affirmations and keep it handy and read it whenever you feel low on confidence or indulge in self-pity. a means of self discovery. Though there might be many things that you don’t like about yourself. There is a whole range of inspirational books that thrust upon the fact that being judgmental about oneself brings down the self-esteem of a person. which will help you to cultivate self belief and selfesteem. do exercise and do other things that I enjoy doing. I spend time with people who make me feel good about myself and are nice to me. I eat right and healthy. Loneliness is a state of mind. Books can be great source of motivation and inspirational books can serve to foster positive thinking and encourage one to think and feel better about oneself. Remember that n body is perfect and people can just strive to achieve perfection. This can make you feel under-confident. so that whenever you chance upon reading it your selfesteem gets a high. I am taking good care of myself. Most people tend to be someone else and their self identity becomes the first casualty in the process. you can feel lonely in a crowd and at other times you busy with yourself even while you are alone. you will definitely find something adorable about yourself. Some people fall into a depression because of loneliness while some nurture their creativity through it. loneliness is the path to oneself. Sometimes. Your special attributes. you should focus on your positives. . You may find many such books in stores. You might as well find some solution to help yourself through these books How To Cure Loneliness A thin line separates the distance between being lonely and being alone. Read Inspirational Books Read books that inspire and motivate you to look at yourself in a positive light. You can also share the points mentioned in the list with others whenever you feel like it. Try To Reinforce A Positive Self-Image Instead of feeling low and demeaning yourself over some of your drawbacks.
G Wodehouse and you will see time flying by. Even if you are unacquainted with any of the people. If you are working then lose yourself in the work. Cultivate a hobby. Don’t withdraw yourself when you can go out and have fun. To constantly dwell on the fact that you are lonely won’t help you in curing it. If you can. strike a friendship with them . Go for a peaceful neighborhood where you will have more chance of making friends. If your house is bright your mood will be light. Don’t do things that make you feel lonely like reading depressing books and watching sad movies. Find something that interests you so that it keeps your mind away from your loneliness. How To Handle Loneliness • The best way to cure loneliness is to keep yourself busy. In order for you to get involved it would require some time and a lot more attention from your part. You can join a club or volunteer for some nonprofit organization. Your work will be the best antidote to medicine. Boredom breeds loneliness. In this way you can be more active and also get to meet other people. These are no solution for loneliness. Just go out and do something. if you are one of those people who consider loneliness a burden then read the article below to know how to cure loneliness. like a cramped house or an unhealthy neighborhood. Being happy and cheerful is the sure shot way of driving away loneliness. So. • Get involved in your neighborhood activities. Don’t fall into the drug or alcohol trap. Cultivate the habit of reading as it is the best solution against boredom. Try P. Try to organize neighborhood get together and charity events. Take a house that is airy and full of light. being near them will lift your spirits up. Remember that loneliness is a choice and you always have the option of choosing otherwise. Sometimes the environment around you can drive you to loneliness. Read books and watch movies that lighten up your mood • • • • • • • • How To Get Out Of A Bad Mood . Help people who feel lonely and you would cure yourself of loneliness.It becomes a part of their lives. There are many people who are lonely and trying to cope with it. Indulge in sports or go gyming. instead they make you even lonelier. Try to stay near people as much as possible.
he performed. In the 2008 Olympics in Beijing. in today’s Internet age. Playing your favorite tune is relaxing and tends to calm nerves as well. you could also vent out your frustration. However. If you have close family members or friends. Comments from strangers on your thoughts. but will also provide a less stressful environment for the people around. you feel that talking to someone about your personal thoughts is not possible. Occupy yourself with something else. diverted them to positive actions of achievement. he participated in eight events and won gold medals in each one of them! It is great to see the sportsmanship with which Phelps dealt with his negative feelings and constructively. as you get to travel through the melody that pleases your ears as well as your mind. ‘fatigue.Ian Thorpe. He had commented that the upcoming champion. it is best to divert your thoughts. also known as ‘Thorpedo’. Discussed ahead are a few ways on how to get out of bad mood. Music is known to be one of the best ways to relax. what you need is a ‘sounding board’. Phelps did not let Thorpe get the better of him . In order to deal with a bad mood. Take a walk or change the scene. someone who is neutral and will listen to you without giving judgment. as the competitive spirit would be too intense. Michael Phelps did have incredible ability. This will not only help us become more relaxed. In case. Any activity that is mechanical or mundane will help in getting you immersed into thinking of nothing in particular. which is very much required to get out of a bad mood. towards positive thoughts and actions. we tend to lash out at others (through blatant or passive aggression) or become self destructive. Being in the place or in front of the person who put you in a bad mood will only rekindle the negative feelings that you are • • • • . Ways To Snap Out Of A Bad Mood Quickly • When you are in a bad mood. But. It is a known fact that a person’s true personality comes out during bad moments. not all of us have such a strong personality. you could write them down. when we are in a bad mood. When Phelps was asked about this comment. a whole mental paradigm shift has to take place. muscle soreness and taunts from Ian Thorpe’. When you are in a bad mood. Cleaning. until your mood improves. they write blogs. he said there are three things that make him mad and put him in a bad mood. through blogs. but would not be able to win eight gold medals at the Beijing Olympics. give that non-judgmental third person point of view. This negative reaction is harmful for us as well as our loved ones and a conscious effort has to be made to change the mindset. In most situations. We have to inculcate in ourselves the ability to redirect our negative feelings. It helps you be positive. doing paperwork or watching a movie will divert your thoughts for a while. It is bad to bottle up your negative feelings and speaking them loud in front of a loved one will surely help you feel better. While some people maintain diaries. was a world champion swimmer who won eight gold medals in the 2000 Olympics.
The problem is that fear numbs the mind so much that the person cannot exercise his or her logical faculties. The fear that something indescribable “is always near” is forever in the mind. So. Instead of sitting. Shadows hold the darkest secrets. but after sometime a sinking feeling sets in. More often than not you will manage to drive out a cat or your sibling. See In The Dark Since darkness is the best friend of fear it is always better to locate a source of light. fear the dark and it shouldn’t be any cause for worry. the mind conjures up images that reflect our greatest fear. • It is also good to exercise. Tips For Overcoming Fear Of Dark Logic Fear may be emotional but in most cases it is not logical. And say . creative outlets like pottery. However. You are confronted with unknown terrors that cannot be banished through rational thought. Children. Gradually the victim must be taught to apply logic to the situation. You are alone in a room and suddenly the lights go out. It affects both children and adults alike. when you are in a bad mood. switch on the lights and see what the shadow is. Suddenly some stories and incidents come to mind that shouldn’t be thought in the dark. If you can’t switch on the lights then throw something at it. That’s the power the dark has over us. In situations like this investigation can drive away your fears. painting or anything that interests you and lets you retain your peace of mind How To Overcome Fear Of The Dark Everyone has faced this. In case you cannot find any. Read the article below to know how you can overcome the fear of the dark. Fair enough. but when the fear starts leading towards the irrational then it is classed as a phobia called nyctophobia. its very necessary to get rid of this fear. In this way you can counter your fear with facts. It is a tendency inherent in man to fear that which is not known. Getting some fresh air or maybe a cup of coffee will give you space to distract yourself and clear your head. When we are in fear we tend to see images and the best way to drive these is to counter it. Since you cannot see anything in the dark. Try activities like dance. naturally. overdoing physical activities when you are down may not be advisable.trying to divert. In that case some other person must take the responsibility of explaining that the fear is illogical. Investigate You see a shadow in the corner and curl up on the bed not daring to go to the next room. start picturing to yourself the various object near you. the unknown. like a pillow.
Like you can say that “on my right is the TV”. For most of us this is just a popular phrase and often we tend to overlook the inner meaning of these words. Thrillers and mystery novels are great as they engage your complete attention. act as if you are not alone. How To Be A Natural Leader One very often comes across this phrase from the popular movie ‘The Spiderman’ – With great power comes great responsibility. Read inspirational books or anything that warms the heart. Also remember that silence heightens the fear and so hearing your own voice. it is equally important to be aware of one’s potential as this acts like the motivation or the driving force to keep one going. As long as you don’t realize fear. Better still sing as you can make yourself oblivious to the fear. It requires a combination of a number of qualities and skills. In addition to that. either in singing or in talking. It is truly a great responsibility to lead and direct people in life and in any situation. You need to be focused and completely dedicated to frame yourself as a leader. “on my left is the cupboard” and so on and so forth till you can visualize everything.them aloud. Talk to yourself like you would talk to a friend. One will be able to perform better only when one is aware of one’s drawbacks and shortcomings. Relax Learn to relax. At the same time. From afar it might look like a privilege to lead the masses but reality is something else. goes a long way in driving it. you won’t have fear. In therapy the root cause of the fear is analyzed and the patient is slowly brought to terms with it. . To know more about how to develop leadership skills go through the info given below. The trick is not to remind yourself of the fear. Tips To Develop Natural Leadership Qualities • Constant or periodic evaluation of one’s strength and weaknesses is very essential to set the foundations of leadership. The therapy goes on or an extended period of time and varies from individual to individual. Sing Or Talk Sounds funny but when you are alone and fear grips you. In this way when you are faced with fear you can relax your selves and think about these things. you also need to get yourself acquainted with different situations and conditions. You also need to keep yourself inspired and motivated . Psychotherapy If the fear is extreme then psychotherapy is advised.
However. poise is the control that the mind has over the body and reversely the body over the mind. Learn to judge a situation in terms of both pros and cons and act accordingly. pursue mentors to help you in the process. • • • • • How To Improve Poise “For beautiful eyes. both mental and physical poise more beautifully. losing complete control over their body and mind. You may . they try to come to a conclusion in a timely manner. Rather. every failure as a stepping stone which will lead you closer to your goal as a leader. It should be kept in mind that a leader never dilly-dallies or puts off issues. It requires frequent appraisals and refurbishing. It is only through such constructive criticism that one can aim to inculcate and adopt the inherent characteristics of a natural leader. Mental poise is achieved through calmness and the strength of will power of the mind. and for poise.• Natural leaders take in-depth information about their surroundings and assess people around them. It is only when you truly assess a situation can you think of leading others in a particular situation. You can either seek the direct help of the mentors or try to figure out their line of thoughts and actions. Being human. This synchronization leads towards a faultless balance that is called poise. In our day to day life we come across people. Try to follow the example of other leaders and if possible. it is not necessary that you actually mimic their actions. All you need to do is establish a fine connection between your own ideas and the already established ones of proven natural leaders. The ability to make quick and sensible decisions is very important for a leader. It is extremely vital that you understand how such people think and act in order to inculcate their ways. it is but natural that you will come across qualms. It is not mandatory that you agree to and follow each and every instruction jotted on paper. look for the good in others. Learn to gain control over your fears. suspicions and worries. and physical poise through health andfitness of the body. It totally depends on you how you gain control over your anxieties and lead a life that is inspiring for others. for beautiful lips. You can also critically evaluate these issues either personally or with a group. Leadership is not a quality that is absolute and complete.” This line was said by Audrey Hepburn. Knowledge is the key to all answers and one can only gain information through regular and constant reading. where the mind and body is in perfect coordination. and nothing sums. walk with the knowledge that you are never alone. It is only through a better understanding of your surrounding environment can you aspire to influence them with your words and actions. Consider every obstacle. buckling under stress and anxiety. Yes. Books are a great way to come across different kinds of opinions and ideas and get different types of outlooks about a particular issue. speak only words of kindness.
Release and repeat for the left leg. Don’t see your flaws through the magnifying glass and criticize yourself constantly. Keep your feet together and stand straight. Mental Poise Improvement Concentration • • Be comfortable with what you are doing and give your hundred percent attention. Above all show your commitment and belief. This will help you to utilize all your mental faculties. Repeat a few times relaxing in between. Have a clear purpose and a strong desire. Think of the benefits and interest yourself in your work. This will help you to make peace with yourself and be more confident. Don’t take undue panic. Now point the palm backwards. towards the ground and bend the elbows. • • • • Don’t Judge Yourself Relax • Hold Your Head High . and lift the left leg and straighten it. and rise on your toes and then inhale and exhale. At the shoulder level. with the palms facing backward spread the arms out. This makes the life calm and composed. Focus on a place in the ground and hold the breath for some time. Then lend a little more and breathe evenly.ask why poise is so necessary. Now straighten the right leg. • This is known as the swan pose (hamsasana). Spread the legs while standing up straight. Now bend and place the hands on either side of the right leg. Stay calm and composed. This is known as the crane pose (bakasana). • This is known as the flying bird pose (panshee). read the article below so that you can know how you can improve your poise. Sit on your knees with the heels spread apart. Bring your right foot to the front and bend it at the knee. Slowly stretch the legs behind. This results in a balance against gravity creating a state of extreme lightness. Put your palms on the ground and placing the stomach on the elbows lean forward slowly till your forehead touches the ground. Lead forward. So. Tips For Improving Poise Physical Poise Improvement • To improve the physical poise the bird yoga poses are especially good for creating a lightness of the body. Poise is necessary so that we can eliminate negative and destructive thoughts and focus on the positive and constructive ones. If you constantly get freaked out your poise is going to suffer. in solving the problem. one at a time.
organizing time is essential for success. Compare this with the time you have in hand and try to organize the tasks properly. you will realize that the things did not have the right deadline or they weren’t really important. You need to organize yourself to achieve your goals and do the things that you want and need to do. Follow these simple guidelines to easily and efficiently manage time and reach your goals successfully. How To Organize Your Time Plan Ahead Plan your tasks for the day and know the time frame within which you have to complete them. in order to successfully implement propertime management. as you will know where you have kept everything. you can experience failure. On accomplishing the tasks. You will have a far more effective influence if you hold your gaze strong and make eye contact. This will help you save time that you would have otherwise spent on looking out for items you will require. This will help you see what you have to do and how much time you will need to do it. you will feel that you have done a good job of managing your time. If something unexpected happens or some sort of interruptions take place. Thus. You can use this time to do other imortant tasks. be it in terms of your career or your family. Stay Organized Stay organized by managing files on your computer as well as organizing household or office itmes. In case. Always Have a Plan . That is why timid people have such a bad poise as they do not make eye contact Tips On Organizing Time Time cannot be managed per se. The only thing you can do is manage the way your spend your time.• Show your confidence by standing tall and head held high. One of the most precious things. Read on further to explore tips on organizing your time. time is required to accomplish goals. it will help you know how to get back on the task. else. as you cannot speed it up or slow it down. Have a Routine Trying sticking to a certain time frame everyday. It is important to use the right resources and stay focused on what you have to do. Know Your Priorities Place the most important things at the top of your list and give yourself time to get these things done. you haven’t completed them. This will keep you organized and it will be easier to manage time each day.
Track Your Time Keep a track of how much time you are spending doing certain tasks. Such a criticism is an integral part of our lives. Read on further to know how to utilize constructive criticism. yet vital requirements for any person. Use Right Resources Find and stick to one type of system or process that works best for you. It often happens that you are not spending enough time doing something or the goals are requiring more time than you had estimated. Save time by setting goals and how much time you will need to accomplish these goals. which you can use to relax or have a meal. How To Use Constructive Criticism . Stay focused and do not let these interruptions influence you. Do not spend too much time searching for something new. Don’t Waste Time It is possible that procrastination and low motivation can come in the way of your accomplishing the goals internally. this will help you prevent problems and even the complaint that you didn’t have enough time to complete the task. as our work is incomplete beyond a certain limit. since you will be wasting time in accomplishing your goals. You will find plenty of people around you who are willing to support you in your tasks. keep time for yourself as well. For example. Externally. it is not possible for a writer to be both author and editor to his or her own work. refocus your goals and tasks for the next time. Have Extra Personal Time Whenever you plan out the day. to accomplish your goals. Constructive criticism is important as the feedback and support of others helps us to fully develop our talents. Eventually. Ask For Help In case you have lots of goals to accomplish and you are unable to find a way out to get them done. Utilizing Constructive Criticism Criticism is one of the most overlooked. For an author. it is significant to receive advice for improvement and follow it without losing the soul of his or her writing.Always know what your need to do and outline the time you need to do the task in. friends and extended conversations can end you off schedule. ask for help from someone. This will help you focus and find more energy for the rest of the day. without constructive feedback to guide us.
behavior. explaining the way you have set up a particular point. Undue comparisons. However. Your criticizer’s remarks may often be helpful to you. in order to learn to be more thankful. without compromising on your original being. Avoid interrupting or challenging until they have completed airing their views. If you interrupt your friends or reviewers while they are giving their honest thoughts. Keep Quiet Often. If you can utilize your critic’s advice in your life without losing your own perception. but to know how you can improve the clarity and impact of your work. Stay Open Avoid behaving like most other people. Question your reviewer on why he disliked your stated views or work and how he would suggest you to improve your views/work found undesirable. Make notes of all the reviews as they will help you summarize the feedback and rectify yourself accordingly. to listen openly to everything that is being said about your work and second is to ask for clarification on anything that you may have not understood. Listen to your critics carefully. To be a good critic taker. remember that you are the ultimate authority on yourself. a bad day at the workplace or a petty fight with your spouse can make you feel distressed and dejected. Learning to be thankful about the simple joys of life will make your life better and more fruitful.Receiving constructive criticism includes two parts. you have to fight such negative vibes and look at the brighter side of life. a great deal of it is triggered by our tendency to not to be thankful enough for the good things we posses in life. Receiving constructive criticism is often difficult for any person at all levels of experience. you have to craft a compromise between your intent and your criticizer’s views. who reject criticism at the first instance. First is. or anything else. when you get responses to a particular aspect of your life. Read the article to find some useful tips on how to be more thankful and enjoy your life. you want to jump in and defend yourself. However. Stay True To Yourself & Your Character Although constructive criticism is important. personality. the idea behind constructive criticism is to let your reviewer tell you what they think of that aspect. . you would be able to make the best possible use of constructive criticism How To Be More Thankful Life may seem unfair to most of us and the feeling of discontentment can raise its ugly head at the slightest provocation. Try to keep an open mind and do not respond to comments instantly. The following approaches will help you to receive and utilize criticism in an easier and productive manner. this will sabotage the chances of your improving. but it should be noted that the discussion is not to convince him/her of your point of view. If you can do so. then only go ahead. note down scrupulous notes on everything they point out and jot down your own reactions. Perhaps.
There are millions of people around. Be Grateful For The Opportunities You Got Appreciate the opportunities that you have had in life. When was the last time when you thanked your family and friends for their constant support? They have always been around and have been your pillar of strength standing by your side in the toughest of problems. you should always appreciate the fact that it could have been worse. Public speaking is also one of the human race’s greatest fears. even as you feel disheartened for some of your dreams not being fulfilled The Art Of Public Speaking One can define public speaking as “the process of speaking to a group of people in a structured. Don’t forget to be thankful to your friends and family just because they are always there. Be grateful for what you have than cribbing over that it could have been better. feeling nervous before giving a speech is natural. whenever so happened. translating to. To a certain extent.Tips To Be More Thankful Appreciate Your Good Health No matter what your physical or mental health is like. This is not to say that always draw such comparisons that make you feel better. Value Your Family & Friends The tendency to take people for granted equates to devaluing them. but it should not stop you from being pleased with whatever you have got. You should be thankful for the current status of your health. persuading. We realize the value of certain things when we know that we can’t have them forever. but it is always better than the worst. food to eat and other necessities. informing. for there are many who continue to struggle all their lives. rejected and humiliated. influence. Value The Material Benefits You Enjoy You may dream about owning a palatial home one day. for whom a meal per day is a luxury they can’t afford. You may be suffering from a dozen ailments. You just have to realize that you have so much to thank for.” It is a powerful tool used for motivating. deliberate manner intended to inform. influencing. or entertain the listeners. Be grateful for the numerous exciting opportunities that might have come your way and helped you to become what you are today. but don’t disown the fact that you have a safe roof over your head. The very thought of forgetting the lines or saying something entirely wrong boils down to the fear of being publicly ridiculed. Look at people who have a poorer health than yours and you will realize how you are better off than a lot of people. What you have in life may not be in proportion to your expectations. or simply entertaining the audience. Consider yourself lucky to have things going your way. but too much of the .
as this will give you time to calm your nerves. Include humor and personal stories in your speech and use a conversational language. You can start with greeting some of the members when they enter. It is important to know about the group you would be talking to. Visualize the audience clapping and agreeing to what you are saying. so let it go off. Get Acquainted With The Venue The day you have to indulge in public speaking. This will make you feel more confident. rather than strangers. to attain the right flow and comfort level. Given below are some tips to control your butterflies and help you give better presentations. Concentrate On The Message . Do not make people criticize you. Explore The Audience Most people overlook this strategy. stimulating. It might be possible that the audience hasn’t even noticed it. You can get a family member or friend to observe your rehearsal and give a constructive feedback. Practice many times.same can prove to be detrimental. Visualize Yourself Imagine yourself speaking loud. Practice while taking breaks. Ease yourself by speaking to a group of friends. the audience always wants its speakers to be interesting. Transform your nervous energy into enthusiasm. Set atimer and allow time for the unexpected. arrive at the location early and walk around the speaking area. by your own doing. informative and entertaining. as it can help you tailor what you will be speaking. Tips For Speaking In Public Know Your Material The first step towards mastering public speaking is choosing a topic of your interest. Practice using the microphone and other visual aids. These tips will help make the art of public speaking less stressful and create a more relaxed and confident you. This will surely give a boost to your confidence. Relax Begin your speech by addressing the audience. Do Not Apologize In case you have committed a mistake. smile and count to three before saying anything. do not apologize for any nervousness or problem. Practice Arrange all the equipment that you would be using and rehearse out loud. Remember. clear and confident. This will help you remember what to say. Gather more information about the topic than what you are including in the speech. Pause.
after getting married into a different state. Since you need to be at peace now more than at any other time. or perhaps. Do not ever forget just how happy you felt singing. you must pursue your interests. taking pictures. painting. It is not only vulgar but also destructive. experience will help you build confidence. especially those who are professionally inclined. giving you the false notion that everyone else is responsible for your condition. it is well said that a happy man is just one happy person. Or. Many of them begin to sink into depression and blame their husbands or grown up children for their mood swings. but also gives back a lot in terms of independent thought process and the ability to define themselves in their own terms. you cannot expect others to love you. It is thus.Divert your attention from your own anxieties to your message and audience. This will help make you successful. If you do not love yourself. whereas a happy woman equals a happy family. Hobbies You may have been a good singer but never found time to practice music all the while you worked. while it is only you. If such women are to be made to sit at home. It will turn you against the whole world. and not according to terms defined by their man. as these were the things that gave you peace of mind. It teaches them a lot about life. Learn Something New Though the old saying was “Diamonds are a girl’s best friend”. in fact. when they take a hiatus or after retirement. just the circumstances that are responsible for you having to stay at home. Read on to learn how to stay happy even at home. which is the key to effective public speaking as well. Stay focused on your material and consider the audience as your friend. This emotional downturn affects their daily interactions with people within and outside the family circle. Ways To Stay Happy At Home No Pity The first thing to do is to come out of this apparently comfortable habit of pitying oneself. the modern refrain is to replace the word “diamonds” with the word “internet” (!). imperative for a woman to stay happy. you have all the time in the world to pursue your interests. you may have loved to paint but never found time to. during a lay-off. even as she is at home. In any case. Diamonds cannot teach you . they may even enter into the destructive habit of self-pity. or cooking. How To Stay Happy At Home Women. they often feel wasted and purposeless. often get addicted to the newfound independence that comes with pursuing a career. Now is the time. when they turn mothers. In this context. Gain Experience Your speech should characterize you as an authority as well as an individual.
Eliminate unnecessary stressors and accept situations that you have no control over. you need more energy to worry and fret.because if you can laugh at yourself.how to use Adobe Photoshop so that you can design birthday cards and other such things. bypass the diamonds and give yourself an internet connection. be proactive and decisive about your life and engage in active listening. detect the source of your stress. it is essential to make efforts to improve our mental and emotional health too. How To Become A Mentally Stronger Person Just as we exercise our physical body. Choose to talk about your progress and not your troubles and set boundaries for yourself wherever necessary. it was not your money but your knowledge that gave you all that power. Develop and implement relaxation techniques that will work for you. Read on further to know how you can become a mentally stronger person and stay mentally fit. This strengthens our resiliency to bounce back when we are confronted by hefty problems and issues. You need to have a positive attitude towards people and life. you can find humor even when some things go awry. Study ahead and gain a few more qualifications. all that matters is the choice you make. You will feel more worthy and will have something to do through the day. Diamonds cannot teach you how to make pepper rasam that you love but could never make. or learn a new language that would help you better your prospects when looking for a job. Increase Self-esteem Think wisely and speak more positively about yourself. Rightly said. Reduce Stress Firstly. such as using your less dominant hand. Study Contrary to what you might have thought. Remember. View all challenging situations coming your way as opportunities. “laughter is the best medicine” . and then discover healthy coping mechanisms to overcome the same. Ways To Stay Mentally Sharp & Strong Exercise Your Mind Sharpen up your brain by doing simple tricks. or even reading a book on a new subject. Thus. Apply for an MBA or some other qualification. than what is required to remain optimistic and hopeful. if you feel the need to pamper yourself. solving puzzles and riddles. Staying mentally strong is not difficult. writing a short story. .
believe in yourself and create your life well. and so on. How To Keep From Having A Judgmental Attitude It is in human nature to be judgmental. drawing. knitting or woodworking. Use your imagination and instincts to examine problems and solutions. Enjoy Leisure Activities Engage yourself in fun activities that bring you joy. Honor your natural talents. Frequently compare yourself with your own progress in the past and not with someone else’s. such as bike-riding. Many people often look down on others as if they are much better than everyone around and this starts the creation of division . do a life review and determine what’s out of balance and what can be done to correct it. and renting funny movies. going to the library. Tap Into Your Creative Genius Start thinking out of the box and view situations from different perspectives. touch. Appeal To All Your Senses When dealing with new material in your life.Improve Coping Skills Have a positive attitude. smell. Be Resilient Make it a habit to bounce back from negative situations and throw out thoughts that no longer serve your purpose or are of no use to you. Build Strong Support System Engage with or choose people who have a positive attitude and keep away from the ones who drain your energy. passion and abilities by indulging into writing. Maintain a sense of humor and work on your productivity. researching. Analyze yourself. instead face it and feel the importance of what you are doing. of taste. not loneliness. Develop a network of people that help you remain motivated and aligned with passion and purpose. Just because you do not want to deal with something. by scheduling out time from your routine. You can try downtime activities that are inexpensive. Spend Some Time Alone Spend some positive time in solitude. before narrowing down to a decision. sight and hearing. dancing. do not avoid it. Try strengthening the relationship you have with yourself. use your abilities. Analyze and work on a challenge by drawing pictures. writing.
Reserve your energy for your own future use. etc. And most of the time.between people. Know Judging Is Not Healthy Stressing yourself by thinking what you cannot change is simply risking your health. While judging other. remember that not everyone would agree with you either. A combination of these factors make the world seems alive. it is essential to avoid being judgmental and build a bridge instead. No effort is made to know the person or understand them either. their way of life on others. Try To Be In Other’s Shoes We often have our own ideas that make us happy. Free Yourself It is not necessary to agree with the decision of other people. Often. let others too enjoy their right of being free. Read on further to know how you can keep from having a judgmental attitude. they find it difficult to keep from having a judgmental attitude. Close Your Eyes To Judgment We think of what other people are doing and judge them on that basis. People who have a judgmental nature often wish their beliefs. Just as you would want to feel free. They see people and pass judgment based on their looks or actions and often the opinion is not completely objective. faith. it will save us from being critical. assuming that we might end up losing our loved one’s respect. This will help you in being critical of other people’s actions. Remember and celebrate the fact that everyone is unique and not the same. this is not at all something that affects us in one way or the other. Close your eyes to all the unnecessary stuff and try to notice only what concerns you. as in what they do or think. Open Your Eyes To Truth When you find yourself looking at something that you don’t agree with. if we keep in mind that even we don’t feel good about being judged. Put yourself in their shoes and try to imagine their background. Learn To Love . Tips To Avoid Being Judgmental Remember Everyone Is Unique You need to remember that not every person you meet will be like you. but we shrink thinking what someone else would think or feel about us. People come from different cultures. This only tends to increase differences between two human beings. Avoid spending days and nights worrying about others. their habits. Consider yourself being in that situation and then narrow down to a conclusion. but you should learn to respect their right to feel and speak. To top it all. Avoid having a judgmental attitude of what others think and do in their private time. as this will only cause a lot of stress to you. class. sexual orientations. Live your life to the fullest and let others find own peace in their life. we step back from expressing something different. Hence.
This article brings you some valuable tips on how to think like a millionaire. Always remember that there are miles to go before you sleep! Discipline Your Thought-Process Thinking like a millionaire involves disciplining your mind and thought process. Thinking Like A Millionaire Think Long Term Successful people have a tendency to think long term and invest in the future. change your hatred to love. but very few who actually make it big. male or female. There are many people who think big. Once a long term goal or objective has been visualized. but by their superior thinking and strategic planning. You have to think of the long term consequences of the decision that you are taking at the moment and then take a final call. If you have hated him/her in the past. While you should not lose yourself in the quest of success or money. If your goal is to retire as a millionaire. Smart minds know when to hit the nail right on the head. Millionaires make millions not by some sheer stroke of good fortune. This is where . it is important that you don’t feel satiated with what you have achieved so far. Delay Gratification The feeling of fulfillment doesn’t come easy to millionaires or they would have never made millions in the first place. Express your love to old or young. you need to adjust your daily behavior accordingly to ensure that those goals are achieved well in time. you will have trouble making heaps of money.Once you have accepted a person for what he/she is. Unless you really learn what millionaires think and how they strategize. try loving and understanding him/her. you will have to train your mind to think like the big shots. The biggest difference between successful and normal people is a positive thinking mind and a confident personality. Read on to know what it takes to have a millionaire’s mind. rich or poor and find the world becoming a much better place to live in How To Think Like A Millionaire What separates extremely successful people from the unsuccessful ones is nothing but. Train your mind to ask for more. their different thinking. light skinned or dark. People who have made astronomical sums of money have worked hard to climb the monetary ladder. Be a positive thinker and plan you strategies while calculating the risks. Think Positive & Be Confident Have you ever tried to find out how many skeptics have become millionaires? Just a handful! People who believe in themselves know how to take calculated risks and failures do not thwart their way. Don’t allow yourself to gloat on the initial gains and feel gratified.
you will find it easier to rid the memory of the person who caused it too.disciplining your mind is factored in. the person who has had to bear the hurt is seen to wallow in self-pity for as long as they can. can turn you into a victim. Ways To Get Someone Off Your Mind Busy Bee The busier you are. to forgive divine. it is the surest way to get someone off your mind. The moment we stop seeking solace in being a victim. When you do not carry the negative feeling and have done away with it. everyone loves the comfort it provides. purposefully or unknowingly. save you. The best way to do it is to stop loving the image of victim that we have created for ourselves. however. and the person who caused them that hurt. Success will come hard and you will have to face testing situations. Here are some other ways to get someone off your mind. . or at least till their near and dear ones allow them to. just the way millionaires have it! Decide The Limit Your mind knows your limitations. Think over where you want to set the limit and to what extent will you stretch yourself to realize your dreams. You don’t need to think like a millionaire to set your limit. Forgive And Forget Though this may seem easier said than done. it would be good. Thinking like a millionaire doesn’t imply that you will have millions in your treasury in just a matter of days. No Pity! It is very convenient to wallow in the sewer called ‘self pity’. all by themselves? Of course. we will accept any positive change in others and ourselves that we may encounter. Keeping yourself busy with anything and everything that needs your attention is the best way to keep negative thoughts from plaguing you repeatedly. although you are certainly not bound by them. No one. “To err is human.” Make sure there are no traces of any memories of the hurt and all negative feelings towards that person have been completely dispelled. this attitude will bring more ruin as it does you no good and only deepens the feeling of hurt. Even if it is completely clichéd a sentence to utter. Stop pitying yourself and come out the cycle of self-pity. A structured and well-organized thought process will help you to develop a futuristic perspective. especially about something or someone who left you with negative feelings. the less time you have to think. In such cases. A disciplined mind will delay gratification and keep you focused on your goals. In the long run. as there are a few things that your own mind will tell you better How To Get Someone Off Your Mind It is a commonly seen phenomenon – of people who cannot get over someone who has hurt them. Would it not be better if they found a way to get over the hurt.
the more will be the hurt and resentment that will plague you. They assume that they cannot manage time well and hence. There are light procrastinators and heavy procrastinators. you can protect yourself from failures. You are bound to make mountains out of molehills. you’ll have to find other ways to get him/her off your mind – the most effective of which is to forgive How To Stop Procrastination One of the biggest problems that people today suffer from is procrastination. which is usually not visited much. end up doing only little work. You will feel great and you would not have hurt anybody at all. but you need to shift your focus to today and the present . the bag will not hit you back like a person would. However. It is fine to plan for the future. Take The First Step Any task or project can seem to be impossible if you start looking too far into the future. Do not try to think a lot. However. The more you get to interact with that person. who you cannot avoid for very long. Tips For Stopping Procrastinating Stop Thinking. There is no plan that is foolproof and will lead to no mistakes. say a huge storeroom or your study! Imagine the punching bag to be the person who hurt you and punch it with all your strength. as long as you keep working on your plan. avoid thinking too much and simply do the task in the way you feel that it will come out the best. Less Interaction As far as possible. decrease your interaction with the person who hurt you. It is. Start Doing It is necessary to plan a little bit to achieve want you want. A procrastinator is someone who puts off the work that he/she is supposed to do. Light procrastinators procrastinate. this way. for a later time. no pain or no difficulties. a lot of thinking and planning can result in opposite effects. better to plan a little and take action on it.Punch It Out It is always easier to hurl blows on a punching bag than a human being. If the person is your colleague. Even if you do not have a plan. Read through the following lines to know how you can stop procrastination. to come up with the perfect plan. but not in case of everything. thus. Invest in a punching bag and hang it in a place in your house. Don’t Blow A Task Out Of Proportion You would not be protecting yourself from pain if you overthink and put off things for later time. Do what you feel is right. Some of them are true procrastinators and do not get any work done. High procrastinators find it difficult to do even a single task.
Go . cool”. with determination. By doing so. you will be lowering your self esteem and signaling back to yourself that you are a lame and indecisive person. but you need to overcome them and work towards success once again. I’m doing this.moment. Though easy choices come with a sense of comfort and a certain level of success. Since sitting idle and not taking action is unnatural. Simply take the first step today and you will notice the change in your mental state from resistant to “hey. they also bring along a vague sense of being unfulfilled and pangs of regret for all things you never dared to do. give yourself a new look and a new identity. So. Remember. answering big piles of emails or completing the last pages of your paper. While procrastinating. as you would be going against patterns that have been established for years. so that you can start afresh again How To Reinvent Yourself Are you tired of living the same old mundane life? Why not throw off old habits and customs and embrace new ones! Reinventing yourself is never easy. but not finishing what you have started can leave you in a sort of negative funk. However. Face Your Fear It is hard to face your fear of looking like a fool or making mistakes or take responsibility of your own life. doing so is possible and the rewards will surely be positive and unexpected. dreams do turn true. Start With The Hardest Task Start your day by doing the most important and toughest tasks. Reinvent yourself and discover ways to bring new meaning and joy to your life. no matter how hard they seem. effort and patience. Be affirmative on your decision. generate confidence within you and take action. The rest of your day will be a lot lighter and easier to get through. but only if you are willing to make the needed efforts. you would be building self-confidence and a self-image of you being a confident person. With a new day. Finish It Not taking the first step towards accomplishing something can only make you feel bad. You always wonder what would have been the result had you taken more chances. Try finishing them as soon as possible. You will become more positive and the subsequent steps will follow on their own. Whatever be the task. By taking an action over and over again. just get it out by doing it first. such as making important calls. You are stressed and feel fatigued. it makes you feel bad. Learn to accept that failures do take place occasionally. it is better to complete the tasks and projects that you are currently involved in. you will feel relaxed and relieved for the simpler tasks. Make A Decision It is natural to be decisive and take action. but you do not know the reason behind it.
reactions and words. Saturate yourself and learn everything possible about what you want to become. You can opt for learning a new language such as French. take action and enjoy the whole new you. Discard all negative thoughts and replace them with positive. speed up your walk. set your goals. The most important part of reinventing yourself is attitude. but you can surely deal with them powerfully. read through the following lines. take an evening walk. life affirming ones. Even a new hair color. mindsets. smile more. You cannot stop thoughts from entering the mind. Change your thinking and transform yourself. View the world with a new eye and different vision • • • • • • • • How To Increase Word Power To express with clarity and to communicate coherently and logically requires only one thing and that is words. Take a chance to see the other side of the city or your neighborhood. you are a new creature. riding a bicycle or tinkering with car parts. try a new restaurant or a new drink. Schedule a new routine or change one aspect of your routine. or even take up piano or guitar classes. Discover a new hobby or an activity. could work well. You will have to start thinking the same way as the person you want to be like. In case you are bored and unsatisfied with your current job. Change your career. have new reactions to different things. Join a new class to learn something new. bible study or prayer group. like platinum blonde from a mousy brunette or auburn red. With a new day. knitting. Choose to volunteer for your favorite charity once every week. Throw and flush out old behaviors. such as collecting coins. To know more on how you can reinvent yourself and become a completely new person. reading. Make use of new words. Japanese or Italian. You can choose the spiritual path. German. Create a new personality. Ways Of Reinventing Yourself Now • Have a make over and change your appearance. try a new hairstyle or adopt a new wardrobe to give you a fresh outlook on life. learn how to paint or mold a pot. Make sure to find one that matches your interests. Join a health club. Join a church. why not try a new opportunity and field? There are unlimited opportunities waiting for you in the industry. Spanish. shop at a different store. Words are the bricks that build up the foundation of any . You can take a new route to your office.ahead.
In addition. Increasing the word power is a very interesting journey and the added advantage is the power it gives in our hands. which you find out by listening are also easy to remember. Read widely so that you encounter a variety of words. because you are sure to encounter the words many times. and checking and using them can increase your word power to a great extent. great orators enthrall the audience not only with the content of their speech. you may come across some words that you don’t know. Lack of an efficient vocabulary hinders effective communication and spreads misunderstanding. Involve yourself in finding out the origin and history of words and by the time you finish. it is also important to keep oneself updated. So. the meaning changes according to the context in which it is used. you will automatically learn the word. Tips For Increasing Your Word Power Read Extensively Reading is the most effective and efficient way to develop excellent word power. Try using alternative words and see if the effect is as good. In this way. No doubt. Studying the etymology of words will also familiarize you with the other words of its family. This is also a good way to keep the words in your fingertips and not somewhere in the mind where you cannot find it. So. Newspapers and magazines are a good way to start but later graduate to more exclusive readings. and then commit it to memory. shift to reading novels. It gives us the freedom to choose how we express ourselves. when you know the story of the word. Listen Listening is the key to any good conversation. Solve Crosswords Crosswords are word games that stimulate the brain and give you an understanding on how to use them. particularly English classics. Listen to the speeches of great orators and learn how various words were used. Moreover. Note these down so that you can look it up later. Etymology Every word has a history. in many words. Cultivate a habit of reading regularly. when you see any unfamiliar word. Every year thousands of new words are added to the human lexicon and hundreds of other words get ‘extinct’. make a note of the context in which it is used. Words. Reading also keeps the words rotating through your mind. that word would have been ingrained in your mind. read the article below to know more on how to get started on it. . Because in the English language. Listening carefully will also throw up many words. Check Unfamiliar Words Don’t bypass any unfamiliar words. and magazines like the ‘Reader’s Digest’ and ‘The New Yorker’. When you listen. Thus.language and so a good word power is not only a necessity but also an obligation. when you have developed the habit of reading. Newspapers and magazines use a limited vocabulary to facilitate the lay reader. but also with the quality of their language. if you want to increase your word power. which you have forgotten due to non-usage. You can encounter unfamiliar words every day. Make a note of any unfamiliar words you find and then check the usage and meaning. you can realize the exact usage of a particular word. and also you can get an idea in which context it was used.
Be truthful. Practice your speech. Record your speech and play it back. then it’s time to make some changes. A great speech is the product of hard work and creativity. For example. Read on to know the tips for giving a great speech. your audience will not trust what you are saying. • • • • . Move toward your goal with a willingness to make adjustment along the way. The mark of a good speaker is not just to do all the right things all the time. don’t throw high flowing words simply for the sake of showing off. you will be perceived as a real speaker and not just another stereotype. It is better to know the usage of twenty words then to know two hundred words and not know how to use them. Be persistent. However. Remember that a good speaker is more than a good talker. Persistence is what defines whether you are going to be perceived as a person with expertise in speaking.Use The Words You Learn Adopt the words you learn into your daily vocabulary. Get as much support as possible so that you can succeed. Patience and persistence go hand in hand. you use your life experiences and research to customize your material. How To Give A Great Speech There are many famous speeches that are remembered over time and some of these are even included in school curriculums. ensure that depending on the topic and situation. Using words will also make you take interests in the words. While you might not be able to give a speech that makes history. When speaking. And make sure that you have a complete understanding of the words you are using. If you find yourself dropping off to sleep listening to your own voice. If you try to sound bombastic. Speak from your heart and be completely authentic. Tips For Giving A Great Speech • • Choose a subject for which you have a passion. Remember that you will not become a great speaker overnight. you can give a great speech that will be remembered by your audience for a long time to come. You can do a good job of your topic only if you care about it. then it’s very easy to forget them. You will only be open to ridicule. Abraham Lincoln’s famous Gettysburg Address is very well known speech and has made history. Only then. If you don’t. Overconfidence never helped anyone make a great speech. Share your mishaps and foibles. practice. Practice. practice. You should be open to taking risks and get into a routine of daily action to make your speech come out great.
Consider your fear like a room that is to be painted or some similar task. You can also include auditory and kinesthetic aids which will keep your audience’s attention riveted to you and which will get the message across. Your enemy. Your speech should not be a rhetorical address. This is what. View your opportunity to give a speech as a privilege. Overcoming the fear of abandonment requires full determination on the part of the person experiencing such things. namely. wholesome. Ensure that your introduction arouses interest. How To Overcome Fear Of Abandonment • • Identify your fear in detail and name it. . Modulate your voice when speaking and speak with warmth and enthusiasm. disturbed childhood and some social or personal trauma. Pay attention to your opening statements. This process helps you in getting closer to the fear each time you are around it. is just like any other challenge to be dealt with. Fear of abandonment can well be described as a psychological disorder wherein the person feels uncontrolled fear and anxiety when he/ she encounters situations that require facing the difficulties of life alone and without any support. once identified. A process known as systematic desensitization is often used by most psychologists. Get used to the way the fear makes you feel. Given below are some ways and tips to overcome the fear of abandonment. and chronic anxiety which is better known as phobia. but don’t include sarcasm. Some possible causes of fear of abandonment can be loss of a near one. Avoid using jokes. It can be of two types. will help you present the material in a way that will appeal to your audience. Speaking is an art and your idea can best be propounded when you are creative. Use visual aids when speaking. short quotation or a funny story that is relevant to your speech. People learn best from these and tend to respond and retain information better. you have just 30 seconds to connect with your audience. You could go with a good.• When you are making a speech. broken relationships. rational fear that is based on logical premise. Know your audience. and innovative • • • • • • Overcoming Fear Of Abandonment Fear can be termed as a necessary part of life. Include illustrations in your speech. Add in a bit of humor.
Gracious behavior depends on the upbringing and the environment. Graciousness is all about how you make the people around you feel. “If a man be gracious and courteous to strangers. Gracious behavior. it can be inculcated into your way of life. Although this is challenging but it is very necessary. do not carry the burden and delete them from the memory. so a gracious person is never short of people near him or her. Do not waste your energy fearing too much. Old fears raise their head from time to time. it can be stubborn and determined. jealousy and attachments. where as in reality it may be nothing but a little more than a candle flame. peace and serenity will manifest your life. hence. so do not be too hard on yourself. as self-interest is not its characteristic. Do not preoccupy yourself with fearful or troubling thoughts. Overcoming the fear is a time-consuming process but the reward is worth it. Be patient and determined and let yourself be exposed to the change. Pleasing and affectionate are the hallmarks of a gracious person. As you become rich inside yourself. Sometimes. Examine your fears and see how foolish or crazy they are. Mistakes are part of life and so are bad experiences. Through graciousness. any situation can be resolved. Worrying is a slow poison that eats you up daily. Stop over-analyzing any situation. People are not born with gracious behavior. You’ll feel free from fear. • • • • • • • • • How To Be Gracious Francis bacon said. That is the importance that graciousness can have in a person’s life.” You may often think that fear can rage like an inferno. Develop a habit of taking every experience positively. Turn off unwanted thoughts in the same impersonal way as you may think of your stomachrumbling. Avoid thinking too much. it must be taught and absorbed. Graciousness is a treasure that people throng to. . Inculcate healthy habits like yoga and meditation. Read the article below to know more on how to be gracious. Forget the past and start moving ahead. This can be practiced on a daily basis. Through constant practice. Prepare yourself well and be committed as fears become more uncontrollable at first when you challenge their hold on you. “Oh. Laugh out your troubles and let life free for sometime.• • Do no try to get rid of the fear. there goes my brain rumbling again. Stop being obsessed with anyone and anything. if taught from the childhood can lead towards the development of a successful human being. it shows he is a citizen of the world”. Pen down the reasons why you are paralyzing yourself by those fears.
Learning To Be Gracious • Take compliment with a smile. empathy. In the face of criticism. from the subconscious and not as a forced entity. if the person is criticizing you for your own good. can do immense good to some people. . the impulse to ‘shoot off’ is very great. when you invite someone. articulation exercises are very necessary as they hone the verbal communication exercises. • • • • • • • • Articulation Exercises Clarity is the hallmark of a good speaker. which will be ungracious. then it is considered gracious behavior. patience. Do not fake. More often as not. More often than not. will carry you for a short time. Be forward with your help. Timidity or lack of confidence can embarrass or deter the other person. Waiting allows you to collect your thoughts and makes the other person feel the depth of your maturity. Faking your feelings. are all signs of graciousness. While accepting an invitation. it is better to wait and cool off. “I think sometimes it’s more important to be gracious than to win” said Dorothy Kilgallen. And. and he will consider you a gracious person. Kindness. thank him or her for accepting the invitation. etc. but to help when not even asked is better. That is if you keep the interests of others in front of you. be sure to thank the host or convey your reasons for not accepting the invitation. Similarly. Therefore. emotions and other sensibilities. so. To help when asked is good. Sounds are shaped by various articulatory organs whose proper coordination makes one speak in a lucid manner. and also accept the reasons for someone who is unable to come. respect. When you understand a person. Small acts of understanding lead to greater acts of graciousness. If your being wrong. make these good qualities a part of you. Practicing these positive traits will make graciousness a part of your character. it will automatically teach you to be gracious. being on the right is not that important. Don’t wait for anyone to ask you for it. as these are the sign of gracious character. hurting anyone is not graciousness. A smile and saying ‘thank you’ will be a good return for the compliment. the message is lost in pronouncing and accent barriers. but when discovered will hurt more than if you had been honest. Remember that graciousness should come unintentionally. Make the other person feel that he or she is acknowledged. The content and the significance are lost in misunderstanding. Better articulation results in better understanding. Offering your help will always make the other person remember your graciousness. Sometimes and with some people. you will fill him or her with a good feeling.
Bill also had a board bill. Articulation For ‘D’ Type Words: Did Doug dig Dick's garden or did Dick dig Doug's garden? Articulation For ‘S’ Type Words: Moses supposes his toes are roses. However. Articulation For ‘B’ Type Words: Bill had a billboard.Practicing the articulation exercises regularly will make you more understandable to your audience. As Moses supposes his toes to be. . Read the article below to know more on how you can straighten your voice. because of language and cultural differences fail to speak with clarity. Regular practice will strengthen the articulatory organs by developing the face and body muscles. So Bill sold his billboard And paid his board bill. which divides a speaker from an orator. The reading should be done aloud. since everyone is not blessed with a coherent speech. But though he had no board bill. Speech imperfection does not only result from speech impediment. But Moses supposes erroneously. as most people. The board bill bored Bill. articulation exercises will make him or her a clear speaker. and speak smoothly. Then the board bill No longer bored Bill. Neither did he have his billboard! Articulation For ‘F’ Type Words: Four furious friends fought for the phone Articulation For ‘H’ Type Words: How was Harry hastened so hurriedly from the hunt? Articulation For ‘J’ Type Words: Jack the jailbird jacked a jeep. Gradually repeat faster till a level of clarity and lucidity is reached. Types Of Articulation Exercises Articulation exercises must be spoken slowly and carefully and must be practiced regularly without fail. For nobody’s toes are posies of roses. Good articulation always has an impact on the listeners. through these articulation exercises. Articulation is often the thin line.
As such. You need New York. it makes us land up in embarrassing position. even the calmest of person would agree having faced a situation. Articulation For ‘N’ And ‘U’ Type Words: You know New York. Articulation For ‘T’ Type Words: Ten tame tadpoles tucked tightly in a thin tall tin. While some psychologists may claim that anger outburst is a good way to give an outlet to the negative energies. Quickest kiss. Articulation Of ‘V’ Type Words: Vincent vowed vengeance very vehemently. If Peter piper picked a peck of pickled peppers. resort to any of the following ways listed below and relieve yourself . Articulation For ‘P’ Type Words: Peter piper picked a peck of pickled peppers. Where's the peck of pickled peppers that Peter Piper picked? Articulation For ‘L’ Type Words: Larry sent the latter a letter later Articulation For ‘Q’ Type Words: Quick kiss. Just when you feel that you would be gripped in temper tantrum. when he/she lost temper and experienced an anger outburst. Quicker kiss.Articulation For ‘K’ Type Words: My cutlery cuts keenly and cleanly. most of you would agree that more than often. Articulation For ‘R’ Type Words: Round the rugged rocks the ragged rascal ran. How To Control Anger Outbursts Life is full of meeting unwelcome people and facing unwanted and annoying circumstances. You know you need unique New York. Controlling temper is the first step to ensure reduced stress levels and improved relationships.
go onto the next level. When we are angry. For this. soul and the body. you need to first ‘Focus’ at your mental state. Also. think objectively as this will help you understand the situation in a mature way.your anger would be heavily subsided!! Tune To Music Did you know that music has healing properties? If no. Music goes a long way in dipping the rising anger levels. switch on the music system and listen to some of your favorite songs. regular indulgence in the two ensures better mind control. Instead. Ways For Controlling Anger Outbursts Deep Breathing Though you might have heard it a number a times. Believe in FLOW This might seem French to you. There are two ways to use the energy created by anger . explained in the following lines. Meditation & Yoga Experts have claimed the benefits of meditation and yoga for the mind. A sixty second indulgence in this technique and swoosh . all you need to do is just close your eyes. Many people have claimed that anger outbursts are best dealt with this technique. Just when you think that you might get trapped into a pool of bad mood and anger. is one of the most beneficial ways to avoid anger outburst. thereby cooling both the mind and the body.from the anger outbursts.e. Most people . thereby helping in anger management. energy conversion is the phrase given to convert the negative energies produced by anger into positive driving force. Energy Conversion Does this sound physics or mathematics to you? Well. Tell yourself that you would not explode your anger. However.you can either use it negatively or make it as a stepping stone to overcome the stimulus that caused anger in the first place. do not get scared as herein. Once this is done. relax your mind and take a deep breath. i. No matter what is the intensity of your anger. The last step would be to ‘Wait’ for the right time. ‘Listen’. deep breathing. It helps soothe your negative energies and provides a relaxing and calming feeling. Anger mostly arises due to conflict or disagreement. This way you can curb the anger outburst and at the same time conquer your flaws. Repeat this for several times until the message has sunk deep into your mind. The techniques. undoubtedly. the next step would be to listen to the other’s point of view and try to rationalize it. but using the FLOW technique is the best way to deal with anger outbursts. you might be able to control your anger outbursts as well?Meditation and yoga have positive effect on the mental and physical being of a person. did you know that by indulging in regular meditation or yoga. would help you know how to control anger outbursts. then you are definitely in for a revelation. This way you would instantly dip your anger or rage and get back to the normal state of mind. Next step would be to act ‘Objectively’. we mostly take things or arguments personally. So.
A well-read person is a reservoir of knowledge as reading helps one to know about new things and analyze them in his/her own inventive way. you are able to make better guesses and determine the course of the stories or fictional novels you read. Abraham Lincoln. Waiting is the best indicator for anger management. our mind also seeks nourishment that comes through reading. when your power to imagine develops. When you read a story.S president. Why Reading Is Important “A capacity and taste for reading gives access to whatever has already been discovered by others” is a famous perspective on the importance of reading by the erstwhile U. Gaining knowledge empowers you mind and broadens its range. the more enlightened you are. always remain wide. reading also develops your listening ability. Reading books also help to develop one’s listening ability which is very important to succeed in every aspect of life. and there is no denying the fact that ‘Knowledge is Power’. Most people tend to speak more and listen less. The article dwells at length on the importance of reading. the scope to feed it with new things. Read on to know why it is so important. It keeps your mind active and dynamic. You should wait and reflect for sometime about the consequences of angry outburst. This often makes you imagine a sequence of events in your mind on how the story will unfold further. Expands Knowledge-Base Irrespective of how much knowledge your mind can store. Reading involves creative imaginations thereby promoting ingenious thinking. Apart from developing your mind.would agree that instant reaction is the main problem for angermanagement. Just as our body needs its daily dose of nutrients. The Importance Of Reading Develops The Mind Our mind needs regular exercise to develop and reading is the most effective way to do that. you are constantly wondering what will happen next. Develops One’s Creative Side Reading is one of the best ways to give a creative orientation to one’s mind. Activates The Flow Of Ideas . broadens your horizon. Gradually. Reading the written word and developing an understanding of it is a skill that is cultivated overtime by the habit of reading. Reading enlightens your mind. which should ideally be the other way round. expands your knowledge and opens up new avenues for you. The more you read.
without letting things overload and backfire on you. reliability means that if you have accepted something. try not to lock yourself into anymore of them. Active reading ignites your mind and arms it with new and creative ideas. it is good to be precautionary by not being wrapped up into the belief that you can solve all the problems of everyone. arrogant or disrespectful as a person. a learned person knows that he maintains a slight edge over other people. the desire of making every single person happy is often misguided. it is very difficult to juggle out your schedule and personal life. If you are already preoccupied with some commitments. And then. which you can use in just about every aspect of your life. there are great chances of none of the commitments being fulfilled. Also. Knowing things makes you feel self-assured and gives you the confidence to voice your opinions and be assertive about them. How To Become A More Reliable Person In today’s world. Taking up only the required number of tasks will help you deliver great results and people will appreciate your reliability as well. There are different ways through which you can become a more reliable person. no matter how talented they are. as it usually produces opposite results. Improve At Conveying A ‘No’ We all love to make a good impression on people around us. you will stay committed to it. Rather. Lack of reliability does not necessarily mean that you are deliberately careless. you should not agree to compromise on your precious time and happiness to do such a task. A well-read person is always oozing with confidence for “he/she knows”. Prioritize your tasks and plan accordingly. Overpowering yourself with excessive commitments will only lead to unnecessary stress and tension. it will enable you to . You will then realize what it feels like to have gained someone’s trust. Ways For Becoming More Dependable Watch Your Promises Never make promises unless you are ready to fulfill them. A dynamic flow of ideas also makes you an interesting person to be with as your mind is not static and you will always have something vital to contribute to every discussion. It conveys more about your ability of being organized and dependable. by making them happy. This will help you organize what is to done on immediate basis and what can wait. Nonetheless.It is rather interesting to note that people who are fond of reading soon transform into a bubbling cauldron of fresh ideas. It is not mandatory to volunteer for everything and also. Boosts Your Confidence Ever wondered why erudite people are so confident? Since knowledge empowers your mind. Read on further to know you can be more reliable and dependable. Also.
it rolls on. How To Start A Daily Routine A daily routine is a part and parcel of a disciplined life. as it takes a long time. There are times when you have to move forward only by taking a few steps back and reevaluating the situation. will enable you to remain focused and motivated towards being your best. Tips To Help You Start A Daily Routine • To start a daily routine the first thing to be done is to prepare oneself mentally. So. people willing to start a daily routine must have patience. of the serious need for a daily routine. try to shift the burden a bit. Try To Bring Out The Best Most people have the tendency to perform all the tasks by themselves. Many people consider having a daily routine as boring. It is better to do what you perform best. whenever he needs a favor or a little leeway. who follow a daily routine. This. to show that they can never be wrong. People. They remain untouched by the rush and bustle in life. in turn. External factors will contribute a great deal to hinder you. in view of the other person. Most of the time people ‘jump the bus’ midway due to lack of commitment on their part. Read the article below to know how you can start a daily routine. in order to take control of the situation. and live like a recluse. In case you are already besieged by worries and stress. but prove to be more helpful than you can think. Since. This is not to say that you leave everything behind. It is always better to maintain a daily routine from as early as possible in life. Flexibility A person willing to be flexible with other people will receive the same flexibility from them in return. they follow a strict pattern. lead a very balanced life. the excitement coming from the unpredictability that life throws up. but the next time. Adopting a daily routine is tedious but once the habit sets in. A person knows himself better than anyone else does. After all. while not compromising on his/ her reliability. This would definitely be hard to do. so you must be resolute. The secret of a daily routine is to lead a balanced life and to have everything in balance. . a daily routine should not be a burden. he is sure to get it back. It is likely possible that he may not get it back at the same moment. they generally have all their complexities worked out.arrange time to enjoy with people and the things that are more close and important to you.
people want less to do with how much you know. In this way. Without a plan. so. in short. Unforeseen events may disrupt your daily routine. emotion. In this way. and end up making many more friends in a day. what kind of reaction to give and so on. irrespective of age. See if your spiritual. to adopt a daily routine. or gardening. say. who have mastered this art.• • • • Set a goal. Read on to know how to effectively make powerful conversations with just about anybody. Flexibility in your daily timetable allows you to indulge in breaks. sex or race. With these tenets in mind. It will show you the road ahead. Most good conversations start with small talk. you develop a routine. for reading. they seem to know exactly what to talk about. Develop a habit that is constructive and stimulating. and having a clear vision is one of its tenets. as a sign of success. A goal. and reach your target. every now and then. You can have both a long term and a short-term plan. while others just stare in awe and envy. so that in the end. it is good to be prepared. Have a plan. in front of whom. where you can measure your success by the target reached. without turning your routine upside down. If you can cultivate a habit. check your development. rather than those who try hard to gain the interest of others. what you need to do every day. Daily routine is all about leading a disciplined life. they flow from small talk to hard talk. you will know what and how to achieve every day. mastery of the art of conversation is regarded. it would develop into a strong habit. • • • Mastering The Art Of Conversation Have you ever found yourself wondering how some people effortlessly strike up conversations. you will have little idea of what and when to do. be it at a date. you won’t have any idea or motivation. or a social gathering? In fact. These are the people. people will be drawn to those who take a sincere interest in them. and more to do with how much you care. then over the years. which would anchor you to the routine. emotional. will be the lighthouse that will show you the direction. Leave an hour or two every day. who seem to relate to everyone. Without a goal. writing. and habitual aspirations. you don’t have to rush things up. Adopt a vision. Once you are on your way to a daily routine. If not. love to talk about themselves. Setting a goal will also make you stick to your routine. It encourages you to accomplish. . Have a daily target. and habit. as a buffer for accommodating sudden calls. That is the reason daily routine should be flexible. Most people. keep in mind these tenets – people. have benefitted from the daily routine. than others seem to make in a lifetime. then review your routine to include those aspects that satisfies your spirit.
for whom the Communist Revolution was the dance of the Devil. even if they sound ambivalent. consequently. If you listen to people with sincere interest you will understand the true meaning of what they are saying. nonthreatening. part of making effective conversation. for having had the courage to be different from the crowd. but if you support the labor party. You may be sitting in a room. In such a case. The second part will merge all small talk into the main topic or purpose of the conversation. be it business or sharing of personal views. inquiring about family members and others. even if it might seem like they’re trying to be offensive. Expressing one’s opinion in a positive. rather than running the risk of opening it to all kinds of meanings. to make effective conversations effortlessly. when they see it. Not only. what is spoken by others. full of right wing conservative people. all these views. people who are none the wiser about art of conversation misinterpret. not being able to forgive our faults can make our life miserable. which includes exchanging pleasantries. give them the benefit of doubt for their words. Benefit Of Doubt Most people don’t really mean to harm anybody new with their words.How To Master The Art Of Conversation Free Expression Freely express yourself. Since people don’t come across honesty very often. intended and unintended. So. they have instead of making any new ones. The article brings you some valuable tips on how to forgive yourself and stop feeling guilty. you will perhaps also be regarded highly. All Ears Listening is also an integral and. most of them welcome it. non-patronising manner is a quality that. One-Two-Three Keep in mind the flow that a conversation is supposed to follow. This may be because we have been conditioned to own up for our mistakes and errors in judgment. express it freely. The first part of is the small talks. less misunderstanding. most leaders swear by. acceptable to all parties involved. ending up losing thefriends. will you strike up an interesting debate. Worse. Follow this flowchart. opinions and so on will flow into a satisfying end. In the third part. we may also find ourselves being swallowed by the feeling of guilt. whatever it may be. Read on and learn how to move on in life. Holding ourselves culpable only adds to the misery of committing the mistake in the first place. by making us forlorn and sad. . How To Forgive Your Own Mistakes Forgiving your own self can prove to be more daunting that pardoning others. often overlooked. as most of us have not been taught how to forgive our own mistakes. Many a times. It will lead to less misinterpretation and. This gesture will prove that you give people respect for who they are and are not unnecessarily judgmental.
A guilt-free existence is only possible when your mistakes are not perpetually weighing on your conscience. Confess your mistake in front of a close friend. And. Don’t Judge Yourself The worst people can do is to judge themselves by their mistakes. Being judgmental equals to being disapproving. rather dismissive of the subject of our judgment. Remember that committing a mistake is not a crime. as life is a continuous learning process. You will also get a chance to vent out your frustration in a more constructive way. Probably. whose guidance you trust and value. do that in a balanced way. which are generic. Pardon yourself by pouring your heart out before someone you know will make you feel better. speak up and lift that burden off your heart. If at all you want to grade yourself. the biggest lesson life teaches us is to move on. not being overwhelmed by your errors. Encourage Yourself To Move On Realize that your life is not going to end or stagnate just because of a mistake of yours. it gets worse when we are disapproving of your own self. but a manifestation of the good things that you do in life. Languishing in past will not give you an opportunity to time-travel to the bygone times and change things. as we have to pay a price for them. To err is human and to learn how to avoid the same mistake in the future is also within human capacity. Disembark yourself from past mistakes and march ahead! Share your mistakes Holding things to yourself will make it increasingly difficult to forgive yourself and stop feeling guilty. You can’t afford to keep wallowing in guilt over your wrongdoings. Forgive yourself completely and look forward to the future. Remember that your mistakes always add to your experience. surely is! We learn from our mistakes.How To Forgive Yourself & Stop Feeling Guilty Learn From Your Mistakes Trying to learn from your mistakes is a very healthy way of dealing with them. A reflection of what you have learnt from your mistakes would be a perceptible change in your behavior. Always remember that you are not a reflection of your mistakes. Unburden Your Heart If you believe that your mistake is too big to be forgiven and keeping it to yourself is killing you. You can always share your mistakes with others and warn them of the consequence that you suffered from. which is always brighter and full of hope. but repeating it. Active Listening Activities .
a communication process actively involves a speaker and a listener. Once the discussion ensues. On a simple note. which can then be followed by more difficult ones. It is no secret that good listeners also make good communicators. In this activity. the teacher can randomly pick any of the students and ask him/her to continue speaking. Once everyone gets a hang of the activity. and one of the fundamentals of communicating well. the supervisor will ask the members to recall which member had given what answer. The toy/ball will continue to be passed till all the students are covered. is to listen carefully. The element of surprise in the game will make the students listen with attention and carefully watch out for their name. Each member of the group is supposed to go to the front of the room. all the students become alert as they are supposed to catch the ball as soon as their name is called. Active Listening Activity Ideas For Students Group Juggle This activity requires a large space as physical activity is involved. The teacher can also participate in this game. The first topic could be fun and easy to speak on. to the one standing in the front. and is supposed to be debated upon by them. Then. the teacher will stop the speaker in the middle and ask any other student to continue the discussion from the same point where it has been left by the previous speaker. who will pass it to another student. For Adults Quiz This activity is to be performed indoors and requires a supervisor. The supervisor will make a note of the answers given by each of the participant as their turn comes. The article brings you some active listening activities that will help improve your listening skills. The participant group has to arrange itself in a circle.Active listening helps one improve his/her ability to understand and grasp verbal information. Active Listening Discussion The group of participants is to be divided into pairs and each pair is to have a listener and a speaker. after calling his/her name. Then. the teacher will call out someone’s name and pass a soft toy/ball to him/her. gradually. It is then that the supervisor will reveal it to the participants that they were part of a quiz. The other participants will ask three questions relating to themselves. It is a communication skill that facilitates effective communication of your ideas and concepts. Group Discussion This activity just requires a common topic that will be given to a group of students. to check whether they listened carefully or not. After the speaker is through. the listener will have to recall . The speaker is then given a topic to speak on and the listener has to listen to the speaker actively.
This can also be followed by a swapping of roles among the two. Many a times. which will make him or her feel respected and so return the favor. So. Showing kindness towards others is the best way to endear you to them. give respect and give it to yourself too. Good manners are the essential quality to show respect. the next time. In the daily grind and stress of everyday life. This can be configured as lack of respect as the person may think that you do not consider him or her at par with you. he or she also won’t give any attention to you. cultivate good manners. If you can earn the respect of your peers and fellows. if you don’t respect yourself. when they interact with a wellmannered person. you are stereotyping. not showing attention. Tips To Be Respectful • • Be kind. Respect is the pillar that supports the bridge called relationship.and rephrase the speaker’s content. as you want them to treat you. Stereotyping makes. as people get a sense of respect. A simple act of kindness can show your respect towards others. as. you are not taking him or her seriously. will convey your respect to others. To put other peoples need before yours. So. It also shows your lack of respect for the person. makes the other person feel that. Listen attentively and show interest in whatever is said. To earn respect you must first. no one else will respect you. Given below are tips to help you be more respectable towards others. even taking up an entire lifetime. Merely saying ‘please’ and ‘thank you’ doesn’t mean that you are being respectful. Do not stereotype other people. then it’s a life well lived as it is the hardest thing to get. Respect can never be forced as it comes straight from the heart. True respect only comes when you empathize with the other person. we have forgotten the moral obligation of respecting others so that we are also respected in turn. Good behavior automatically earns the respect of others. Then the speaker and listener can critically analyze and review each other’s performance. This exercise helps improve the business communication skills of the participants and the ability to coordinate with one another How To Be Respectful Towards Others Treat others. • • . The listener is supposed to interpret speaker’s content and offer solutions and feedback to the supervisor accordingly. A person may respect another because of fear but that is not true respect. you come across as a narrow-minded person.
• • • Understand other peoples. When you apologize for a mistake or a hurt you caused. This shows your commitment to them. So. but also signals bad breeding. It can be due to a traumatic childhood. This does not mean blindly follow whatever they say. To show respect. This inability to act after the supposed betrayal. or loss of a loved one. Once you start respecting the people. You must show your understanding of his or her opinion. religion. Don’t dictate or belittle anyone because of his or her background. The causes are varied. tease or backbite. you will gradually develop the sense of respecting everyone. like and dislikes. and not knowing how to cope later. Apologizing for your mistake. the first task in order to get over this fear. • • • Overcoming Fear Of Intimacy The fear of intimacy is a psychological disorder that hinders a person from forming a relationship with another person. The fear of intimacy can also be due to the fear of losing. don’t pressurize anyone to do something which he or she is not willing to do. abusive relationship. A person suffering from the fear of intimacy is always faced. The fear of intimacy stems from the fear of getting hurt from a relationship. you used to back bite or tease. or social status. Throw these out and you will feel respect for people. You cannot respect anyone whom you mock. a fear of getting intimate. It is not only ill mannered. It is the other side of the fear of rejection. the more it grows and the harder it becomes. So. and then present your reasons for agreement or disagreement. When you give priority to someone’s right to choose. can show how much you respect the other person. to overcome. Hiding behind emotional barriers will only weaken you. He or she is unable to develop a connection with other people and feels lonely and isolated. which leads to emotional stagnation. you must also respect his choice and free will. The fear of being dominated by the other person also develops. When you respect someone. How To Overcome The Fear Of Intimacy • The more you bottle up your fear of intimacy. the person withdraws into a shell. conveys your sincere regret and the person will appreciate your sense of love and respect for him or her. rejection. gives rise to the fear of intimacy. you show him or her respect. hurt. As a result. is to face the fact that you have a fear of getting intimate with people. Given below are tips to help you overcome your fear of intimacy. value other people’s opinion. . emotional trauma. with the question ‘What if’ this or that happens. and steel yourself to come out of it.
to overcome this fear a person must value his or her self. you can’t afford to let the anger remain within you. Overcoming the fear of intimacy is a long process. in overcoming your fear of intimacy. Involve your partner in day-to-day activities. at a time. step by step. Don’t be ashamed of yourself. like cooking.• • Bare your heart to your partner. • • • • • • How To Forgive And Forget When Someone Hurts You Dealing with hurt and anger is important and the one who is not able to do so ends up becoming a bitter person. in between. the fear tends to dissolve. or simply go for a movie. and experiences. which will give you self-satisfaction and a creative boost. we are at your service. keeping nothing hidden. The most difficult task is to get it out. so that you get your hidden fear out. Seek out areas. Share and discuss your pain. Start from simple ones. as they are subconsciously ashamed to face others. or to a restaurant. deep down themselves. hiding nothing. Follow the article to find some tips on how to forgive and forget when someone has hurt you. So don’t get disheartened and withdraw to your shell. Stacking up . This shame for the self can cause people to develop a fear of intimacy. However. fear. and gradually move on to the difficult. Forgiving Someone Who Has Hurt You Forget What Happened Hostility and bitterness survives in people who find it difficult to forget the past. Be honest. By talking. by other people. Go one. Be honest to face your fear. It is more than difficult to forget things and move on. and so they gradually begin to develop a fear of getting intimate. as if nothing has happened. since it doesn’t come easy. gardening. That is why. no matter how important it is to do the same. other than an understanding and honest partner. and have a determination. and nurture those. Therefore. Moving on in life is the key to forgetting the hurt caused to you. Share and exchange your thoughts and personal experiences. holding feelings of resentment can affect your peace of mind and ruin your happiness. Most people with a fear of intimacy have a feeling of worthlessness. to get over it. This is perhaps the only requirement. Pardoning others and putting a hurtful incident off your mind needs to be worked upon. Develop a friendship with your partner. This will help you to be transparent. which they do not want other people to find out. In case you need some help in this regard. Value yourself. where you both are compatible. Do things.
It is important to realize that conversation will allow the other person to offer an explanation for his/her hurtful behavior and help you overcome the same. Many people tend to keep things to themselves. Once you get a heart-felt apology from the person who has hurt you. Live in the present. It is a popular myth that people are only born with the gift or ability of impressing others. Bitterness and bad memories pertaining to an incident will fade away with the passage of time. While moving on is easier said than done. even after you have forgiven the other person. While some people believe that revenge is the sweetest joy. make sure that you do not shut down the lines of communication completely. The choice is yours! Let Time Heal There are times when the hurt is simply impossible to forget. Remind yourself that even you would have hurt others at one point of time. is to master the art of making the right impression. but the glory of forgiving remains forever”. for sadistic reasons. for all the comprehensible reasons. Communicate The Hurt Rather than holding a grudge and allowing it to thrive. Wonder how? All that you need to do. you should communicate your feelings to the one who has hurt you. Therefore. we are so infuriated and hurt over an incident that we do not allow the other person to buy time and come up with an apology when things cool down. leave the healing on time. but cannot acquire . intentionally or unintentionally. Eventually. If you can accept this premise. forgiving and forgetting will become a lot more easier. Allow Others To Apologize Sometimes. and it makes them averse to communication. to be the talk of the town.hard feelings for someone who has hurt you will not allow you to bury the hatchet and you will constantly find yourself dwelling on something that cannot be changed now. you will be able to put it out of your mind. it is important to remember that “the joy of revenge is only for a day. never forget that time is the biggest healer. If forgetting a hurtful incident is impossible for you. it becomes easier to forgive him/her. Realize That Everyone Is Human Realize that it is only human to make mistakes and most of us don’t hurt others intentionally. How To Impress People Look around you and you would be surprised to find that even dorky-looking guys and gals can have the crowd eyeing them. Would you want others to hold that against you forever? Allowing others to apologize will save you from becoming bitter to them. especially if the person is close to you. look forward to the future and bury the bad memories of the past.
This would reflect much about your personality and make you a notable person wherever you go. it's never about what happened. you would have people following you. One such tip is that you need to groom yourself. The secret is to radiate positive and healthy vibes and within the twinkling of an eye. but just an art. Remember. Get that killing look and you would surely have the eyes rolling!! The Right Mix Most of you would agree to meeting a lot of people who look charming. And remember. but with a tinge of humor and wittiness added. For the other half. the tips given below would surely be of help. . all you want to do is run away. Rather. you need to look striking as well. having striking looks is the task half done. However. Each one of us executes certain vibes to the people around. In case you are still wondering how to impress people. And if someone denies the fact. you would be amazed to see people talking about you. to be impressive. Instead. the one who is talked about the most is naturally impressive!! Balance Bad Emotions It is a well-accepted fact that the more you run away from unpleasant situations and people. Just being attractive or extremely genius is sure to goof up your persona. Get That Killing Look Ask anyone and you would know that looks do matter. Imagine meeting a person who is shabbily dressed. the more you find yourself running into them. emotionally and psychologically and voila. but when they open their mouth to speak. if you lack the other parts. However. which you can master by following the right tips. Impressing People Around You The Aura Much is said and discussed about the aura that each person has. If you really want to impress someone. Remember. This would give a tremendous boost to your personality and in no time. physically. the trick is to balance the bad emotions and act as if nothing bothers you at all. you need to bear in mind that impressing others is no gift. Rather. know for sure that he/she is the biggest believer of the same. intelligence and humor. has unruly hair and scruffy looks! The only expression that comes to your mind is ‘aaghh’! Isn’t it? Remember. you would be the most-talked about person in the society. prefer to look like a prince/princess and talk like a scholar. your aura can make you the most arresting person in a crowd of hundred as well.the same. the best way to do so would be to learn to replace the words ‘I can't’ with ‘I can’. Dare To Do Did you know that most people are bowled over by people who dare to ‘do’? Confused! Look around you and you would be surprised to find that almost every other person you meet has words like ‘can’t’ and ‘impossible’ in his/her vocabulary. did you know that it’s your very own aura that can make much of a difference in making you an impressive person? Believe it or not. it is always about your reaction towards what took place and how well you were able to cope with it. you need to have the right mix of beauty.
Sometimes it can occur because of laziness. Work On Achieving The Goals Remove all the tasks. like career. Don’t make a very huge list as it might get too overwhelming for you. which range from missed opportunities. doing it on a regular basis can pose serious problems to your career and personal life. which you can do without and which will not obstruct you in reaching your goals. In addition. Take time and clear it out. Read on the article to know some practical tools to overcome it. Keep your eyes on the things. Does it sound like a familiar story and not because you have heard it over a million times but because you find the grasshopper as your alter ego. It will motivate you to do the tasks and to reach your goals and you would be happy to do that afterwards. which you have to do. link those tasks to your goals. relationship. It will clear your mindset and would not even take more than your ten minutes. and even resentment. when there was no food. which will keep you alert and away from procrastination. to guilt. Believe In Yourself . Procrastination is the habit of putting off any work to the last minute. is to get clear ideas on what you want to do in life. Set a time for whatever chore you are taking for the day. Sometimes we procrastinate simply because we don’t have any schedule for the day. which would help you reach your goal. health etc.How To Overcome Procrastination You may remember the story of ants and grasshopper. people don’t have the will to move ahead in life. the causes for procrastinating may or may not be same. Make goals in various fields of your life. the grasshopper found itself at the mercy of ants. or because you want to escape something or at times you are too overwhelmed by a task that you put it off. And how in winter. how the grasshopper wasted his time hopping and singing in the summer while the ants toiled and moiled. stress. In addition. Most people procrastinate because they have no goals. Tips For Overcoming Procrastination Get A Goal The most important thing. There are various effects of procrastination. Plan Your Day The best way to keep yourself away from procrastination is by planning the day. It will help you stick to your program. Make short term and long-term goals. With no goals. if there are some works which you don’t like to do but are important in order to achieve your goal. financial. Although almost every one of us procrastinate one or the other time in our life.
And that may put you off from the whole idea itself. Break down the big tasks but schedule it in your time limit so that you don’t spend too much time on a smaller task. will provide better results and will not overwhelm you. recognize that you are doing it and thrive to change it. you would snap. have a clear idea about your values and then use them as a navigational compass in all the decisions you make. Read on and know how to become a positive thinker. you won’t be able to do much. Break Down Big Tasks Breaking down big tasks in smaller components would help you concentrate on that particular task for the moment. You don’t have to be too hard on yourself. Even if you do procrastinate. Unless you believe in yourself. Don’t Overdo It Don’t put too much pressure on yourself. The article brings you some exercises and activities which will help you to think optimistic. Take Breaks Take breaks when you feel less motivated and are tired. Sometimes we get too involved in a thing. Have faith in your abilities and the power to turn things around. you wouldn’t have been able to walk itself.The most important thing to achieve success is the belief in oneself. Follow your inner desires and success would follow you. Remember that failure is just a stepping-stone to success. Respect Your Values Almost every one of us wants to do several things. However. As the habit of not procrastinating will take time to cultivate. and if you are too hard on yourself. . you wouldn’t have walked because of the fear of falling. that we don’t even know when we start getting frustrated and take unnecessary stress. Positive Thinking Exercises It has been rightly said that ‘when going gets tough. but actually how many of us do it? The problem is that we don’t respect ourselves and we don’t respect our values. Problems in life are generic and affect everyone in almost the same way. Stick to your time management but allow for little cheats. discouraged and feeling negative. as it will keep you in for long haul. which will improve your working ability. only positive thinkers know how to overcome the most testing of situations. frustrated. If in childhood. This will keep you focused. Delete the ‘impossible’ word out of your dictionary and remember that you can do it. Challenging situations can leave you harassed. First. the tough gets going’ and the driving force behind tough souls is a positive thinking mind.
more so from your successes in the past. Make sure that you take a walk early in the morning and take time out to appreciate the beauty of nature. to conquer any negativity in your mind. Forgetting the negatives of life encourages positive thinking. . Just sit in a comfortable chair and listen to soothing music or perform deep breathing exercises that are good for relaxing your mind. It will work as a great stress buster and ward off any negative emotions trying to overpower your mind. If you are in a happy state of mind. which probably requires the least effort on your part. Holding yourself responsible for everything is not going to alter a situation for the better. yet the most powerful techniques to foster positive thinking.Activities For Positive Thinking Early Morning Walk An early morning walk can be of immense help in keeping you in a positive frame of mind throughout the day. The best part is that you don’t have to necessarily meditate in a static body posture. you will automatically think positive. Be Happy The easiest way to think positive is to be happy. Listen to inspirational songs when you are driving and lift up your spirits. Write inspirational quotes and place them at your office desk or at home. There is no denying the fact that you will keep finding yourself in trying circumstances. Try To Forget Negative reminiscences of something that has passed over and can’t be changed now can take you down the memory lane and hamper a forward-looking positive approach. you will begin to feel positive. Meditation Meditation is one of the simplest. Believe In Yourself Most negative thinkers are those who suffer from a lack of self belief and continue to nurse doubts about their abilities. The moment you start forgiving yourself. Always remember that one should remember only the good things of the past and drop the bad memories from the mental landscape. but keeping yourself happy is completely a matter of choice. Confidence and self-assurance is the cornerstone of positive thinking and you will notice the difference instantly. once you build faith in yourself. Forgive Yourself Remember that you are human too! It is important to realize that you don’t run the world and there are things beyond your control as well. Inspire Yourself It is important to inspire yourself. where you get a chance to read them as often as you can. which can occasionally go wrong. It is also the only thing.
Nobody is by birth a confident man/woman. Focus on the positive things about yourself. Never let you down in any case. which you want to achieve. Even though the doctor may be very experienced and good. Just make a list of positive traits. This is the greatest teaching of Zen. and find out what a beautiful personality you are. So what are you waiting for? Go on read for yourself the techniques for confidence building. unless he is confident. Think about how a wise. Self-confidence is of utmost importance in every aspect of our lives and unless we are confident.Confidence Building Techniques Imagine a scene where you are on an operation table and the doctor who is doing your surgery is bathed with sweats and is wobbly with apprehensions. we would not be able to achieve anything in our life. When you are feeling very less confident. then you might as well be suffering from lack of self-confidence. imagine yourself as the wise man on earth. it is cultivated and it is never too late to cultivate it. are you like the wobbly doctor? Do you struggle to take decisions? If yes. Analyze those qualities from roots. Now come to think of it. Just refer it again and again when you feel so frustrated. confident person would have handled the situation? Study your favorite personalities and analyze their activities and behavior pattern and act like them. Would you want him to operate on you? The answer certainly is ‘no’ by all means. Even if he does a mistake. There is nothing wrong in accepting the compliments from others. Be kind to yourself with your words and actions. Gracefully accept the compliments of others. You already have things. You never want to hurt your best friend. you pamper him and convince him that he didn’t commit any. A person without confidence is like a ship without a captain. Your subconscious gets designed in a positive way when you accept the compliments from others. You imagine yourself as an epitome of talent and virtue. Confidence Building Exercises • • • • • Imagine yourself as the perfect person. Use positive motivational quotes from the good books you have ever read. Do not hurt yourself by complaining about your weakness and negative traits. When you reach a • • • . Write them down on a book or in a laptop. you will never have confidence in him and better say you are off without him. If you feel you lack in confidence. Never think of yourself as a loser or a joker. Treat yourself with the same approach. you can use confidence-building techniques to increase and enhance your confidence. Treat yourself as if you were your own best friend.
and music. Instead of exposing yourself to bad news. Practice meditation and yoga.higher level of confidence. fun. Explore this article to know tips on how to avoid being rushed in the morning and route your day to a smooth. in the night. Schedule and start off a routine when the kids are still young. to breeze out the process of getting ready in the morning. It is better to make your mornings a smooth drive rather than a mad dash. Always keep a lot of friends. The morning alarm signals the start of a race for most of the parents. coats. sent to school. etc. listen to. If you can think of your imagination as the reality. News is polished version of facts. A strong physique is the foundation of good mind. Then it’s the turn of the parents to eat. This will prepare your children to assist you in the growing years. recall the entire positive experiences of the day. The children are to be fed and dressed. or read the news just before bed. you can find in any newspaper are negative. Do not watch. Whenever you achieve a minor goal. Tips To Avoid The Morning Rush • Prepare all the clothes and outfits for yourself and your children before hitting the pillow. You will feel more contented and relaxed. dress and set off to the office. which is designed to shock you. • • Praise yourself million times a day if possible. you don’t need other’s compliments to feel contented. Most of news. Never shut the door to people. • • • • • How To Avoid Being Rushed In The Morning The knack of parenting does not come easily. Try to help others honestly. There is a saying “look for the silver lining in every cloud” which means see positive traits in whatever happens even if that is a negative thing in a normal sense. Don’t be too pushy on success. So avoid the habit of reading the newspaper in night before you sleep. . calm and joyful beginning. hair accessories. gloves. it gradually turns into reality. Imagine your life is already fulfilled and full of joy. praise yourself to the Himalayan heights. • Set out shoes. Do some weight training exercises and build yourself a good physique. for a long’s days work. It comes with a detailed course of action that is to be followed regularly. It also requires a great deal of planning and scheduling the next day’s routine.
Start your morning with some upbeat music to keep you on your toes.• • • Designate one place to keep your keys. This will give you more time to do the necessities and make you fell less hurried. it is vital to take the lead. Lack of sleep will make you sluggish and not help getting up in the morning. notebooks and other supplies in the night itself. early to rise makes a person healthy and wise”. you will not only be able to move ahead in life. It totally depends on you whether you want to be just another face in the crowd or stand out as strong independent character. you should be focused and extremely determined and should have a strong mind set. particularly during a gathering or discussion. to clear up your head. fill them up before going to bed and do not leave them for the morning. This way. Prepare the office briefcase in the evening. • • • • • • • • How To Lead A Discussion It is often said that if you want to make yourself heard and your presence felt. Pen down all the necessary things to do on a sticky note. Get up early and before the rest of family members. Pack your children’s bags in the night. This will enable you to start the day with a few peaceful and quiet moments and help you tackle the needs of others. In every stream of life there are millions of people struggling to carve a niche for themselves. This statement is true for each and every aspect of life. Once you are sure about your opinions. It is only those people who stand . to avoid rushing in the morning. For this. Be sure that you and your family members are well-rested by calling the night early. Remember “Early to bed. In case any forms are to be filled in. This will help manage each child’s routine and keep everyone move along and keep the pace. Put in their lunch money. to reminder you of the same in the morning. Have your children get up at different times. Pen down the duties and divide them among the family members. Discuss the short-cuts to ease the burden of time constraints. in case one of them has a habit of staggering in the bathroom. papers. but will also be able to bring a change with your thoughts and ideas. Charge your cell phones the night before. to save time and the frustration of searching for the things in the morning. then only will you be able to voice out your thoughts and convince people regarding the same. Set your alarm 15 minutes before the regular time. wallet and cell phones and make a habit of keeping them at that place only.
you should be well prepared with a list of questions. The more you know about the subject matter. give a summary or conclusion for the discussion. based on evidences and verifications provided by the members. The main idea is for a constructive solution after a prolonged period of discussion. We have provided some very interesting tips on how you can lead a discussion and progress in life. Nobody should give blank statements. you should frame the correct questions for the participants. They should never be limited to ones that can be answered by a simple “yes” or “no”. Leading Group Discussions • Whether in school or at office. to keep the fire within the discussion burning. Try to find a balance between the different types of personalities and give every person involved in the discussion a chance to speak out his or her thoughts. one after the other. Try to infuse arguments. wherein you make your speech in front of an imaginary crowd. In case you want to be one of them. Jot down the important things or make a mental note and find out all the probable questions that you would probably face during the discussion. To start a discussion and keep it going. the more confident you will feel. without grounds to explain them. Make it a point that everybody gives proper reason and backup for his or her opinions. • • • How To Achieve Success .up for their beliefs and rights who bring about a change in the society. as this is the only way you can come to meaningful conclusions. do your homework well and explore the topic of discussion in detail. the discussion should also have several smaller ones for each main question. while facing the crowd. Apart from the big questions. You can even use a recorder to visualize how you present yourself and how much more you have to improve. Finally. Such people are able to do so only because they can forward their thoughts among millions of others and lead discussions. read on. to shoot at the participants. • The phrase “practice makes a man perfect” would probably sound like a cliché to some. the more perfect you get with your presentation. Particularly emphasize on the quieter participants and try to get them involved as much as the other members. These questions should always be open-ended in nature. but history has proved it time and again that the more you practice. Judge the pros and cons of every side. You can even have an imaginary presentation. which allows the listeners to follow up with answers or further questions. • • As a leader.
When you set goals. which might make you stray off course. and filling their homes with the latest gadgets. Be focused on your goals. When you approach your goals to success. you would need to be creative as well as flexible. and adequate sleep. • • • • • • • How To Be Assertive Without Being Arrogant . good exercise. Therefore. Build your long term goals upon the short term ones. However. There will definitely be obstacles in your path to success. Tips To Be Successful • Have goals – long-term goals as well as short-term ones. Contrary to a prevalent attitude. defining who you are by what you choose in life. driving the latest cars. Goals and the path to success cannot be trodden upon singlehandedly. Read on to know how to achieve success.What does success really mean to you? To many. Have a list of short-term goals (for the day or for the week) and work towards achieving them. If you have a negative attitude. Viewing your goals as a chore will not lead to success. without wavering. Flexibility is needed in order to allow you to keep yourself open to changes that come along with changed circumstances. This will help you greatly when dealing with others. True success lies in reaching your goals. Be positive. be like a horse with blinkers and look straight ahead at your goal. it is essential to communicate well and effectively. Look after your physical and emotional health. This might seem to be a strange tip. you do not need to trample on others in order to reach out to success. You might have to change your plans or the way that you wanted to work towards a goal. Steadfastness is required here in order that you do not give up once obstacles come your way. Creativity is needed in order to make the best of the changed circumstances. and to turn them around and use them to create a new path to help you reach your goals. staying positive will help you be more successful in the end. the lives of many people have proves that success is more than just materialism and the quest for wealth. If the road to success gets rough. To this end. but taking care of your health will ensure that you are in good shape to pursue success. Some visualize themselves in huge mansions. Trying to aim for the moon will only result in failure. However. The following steps will help you understand what you would need to do in order to be a successful person. you will find that the obstacles become more difficult to surmount. the words success invokes the idea of dollar signs glinting before their eyes. Be committed towards your goals. make sure that these are practical. There might be a lot of things that come in the way of reaching your goals. your attitude counts a lot. Ensure that you get proper food. Things may not always work out the way you wanted them to.
it also involves listening to the other party patiently. Tips To Be Assertive Without Being Aggressive Use Assertive Communication Appropriately Those who are not assertive don’t speak their usual self and those who are. It doesn’t imply that you are giving others a chance to convince you when you have to be assertive. who do not possess this brazenness. . Conversely. tend to over do it at times. almost blurred. It’s just that others should not feel that you are self-absorbed and only concerned with yourself. if you don’t want to be written off as an aggressive freak. Listen to others. The idea is to strike a fine balance and use your assertive communication skills in a manner. ‘Being polite yet firm’ is the golden rule and you would do well to remember that. However. Your insolence can make you feel alone. The plain dichotomization between assertiveness and arrogance is that assertive people climb the ladder without stepping on other people’s rights and arrogant people simply fail to see that others exist. sometimes. Look For A Middle Path There are certain situations where it becomes imperative to work out a middle path. It is such a fine combination that you would never be associated with elitism and snobbery. read on. Those who don’t listen to what others have to say epitomize arrogance in the most apparent way. You have to guard against this tendency. Be humble and civil with others in your dealings. but stand solid on your position. The dividing line between the two can appear to be very thin. In case. some insecure people. You will find some valuable tips on how to balance your aggression and be assertive without being arrogant or pushy. Assertiveness is a remarkably positive trait and selfassured people are sure to succeed. you don’t want this to happen. Imagine if the other party is as forceful and pushy as assertive are you! Under such circumstances.Being assertive is often equated with being arrogant and bigheaded. which is very important to succeed. at least in the professional arena. Reaching a compromise. Only you can tame your over aggressiveness. Be Modest & Unassuming Modesty and an unassuming demeanor gel very well with assertiveness. rather than incessantly locking horns with others by being too assertive. Be An Active Listener Being assertive is not only about conveying your point across in a firm way. often brand assertiveness as a mere reflection of superciliousness. which is deemed appropriate. Identify such situations and be willing to work for a compromise when required. benefits more than hoisting your own flag. where you have to communicate your needs without bending. in certain circumstances. There is a bright possibility that you may come across as arrogant. rudeness coupled with assertiveness is naturally seen as arrogance. no matter what. it makes sense to keep your options open.
as no one will one come to your rescue. Practice Active Listening Skills . conversation is all about understanding what your partner is trying to say and convey to you. These topics often result in limitless conversation and reveal about the character of a person. Be friendly. meaningful and entertaining conversation. Conversations give you an excellent opportunity to learn from the speakers. Following are some tips that could prove beneficial for a good. Ask Questions Prepare some questions in advance. Observe people carefully and put in more questions. practice and patience to converse effectively with anyone. Space out your questions well. It just requires a little knowledge. in advance. Having A Good Conversation First Impression As said. Compliments can prove to be ice-breakers. It is more concerned about listening as well listing. Listen well. How To Have A Great Conversation The art of conversation has very little to do with talking. Hence. In other words. once the wrong shot has been fired. give your introduction. first impression is the last impression. Simply relax. speak politely and maintain good eye contact. shake hands and focus on the conversation. else. Listen Listening to the speaker forms the most significant part of any conversation. more than just a yes or no. they will feel that you are interrogating them and this can result in closed off relationships. Read on and know how to have a great conversation. Do not hesitate to compliment him/her as it can prove to be beneficial in terms of beginning a talk. smile and ask questions that probe answers. They often lead to personal stories and anecdotes. rather than convincing them to get interested in you. Other Person’s Interest Study and research on some significant points about the person with whom you would be conversing. Do not think too much about yourself and what the person might be thinking about you. Make the right movements and noises to specify that you are listening and very much involved in the conversation. Be sure to ask them politely and do not sound like a stalker. guard against offending others and try to be modest and gracious. Forget Yourself Get yourself interested in people.
How To Win An Argument Have you found yourself in a situation where you are confronted by an angry person. For this. By using the following tips. Use significant points from other people’s talk in your speech. not completely truthful. Take interest in knowing about the person and his/ her hobbies. You can use phrases like ‘yes’. you need to build good eye contact and make comments wherever required. make sure that the person also knows that you are listening. Use Your Words To Paraphrase Back What You Have Heard Conversation happens in a process wherein each person is given a chance to listen and then speak up or respond. Some even suggest that the best way to win an argument is to irritate the opponent into exaggerating. oftentimes. the best way to win an argument is to win the person as well and not to out-argue them. ‘that’s interesting’. to leave a good impression on the other person. Do Not Panic Over Lulls When a particular topic has taken exit. ruthless. likes. Know When The Conversation Is Over Every conversation has an end to it. At the same time. You find a person interesting only when he/ she is a bit like you and a bit different from you. calculating. dislikes. So how do you win an argument? There are many write-ups available for reading. . you would be knocking down their communication blocks to the point where communication can occur – and you have won the argument. who reminds you of a bull in a Spanish bull-fighting arena? He/she seems to be breathing fire down your neck and there’s nothing you can say or do that would stop them from jumping down your throat each time you open your mouth. and. ‘I see’. Judge Your Response Before Disagreeing Do not disagree on a point merely to set apart yourself. However. to let them know that you had been actually listening. use the time gap to think over and introduce a new topic or put in a question based on the previous conversation. etc. etc to tell them that you are involved in the conversation and are not diverted. put forward questions to clarify about their thinking and feeling. Ask Clarifying Questions If you find the topic of the conversation is interesting and appealing. Remember to smile while leaving and end on a positive note. do not end up agreeing on everything as well. which suggest that the reader should be rough. This will help you better your understanding and affirm it.When you listen. Mention that you would be delighted to talk to them over time. and then trapping them.
Similarly. not by means of a frontal attack. Never attack – when they attack you just redirect the attack back to them. you’re right you will most often end up provoking the other person. Use Strategy If you try to prove that. when to say ‘No’. which will help you to learn when to say ‘No’ . no matter who was the more dominant arguer. Since the goal is to win the arguments. Also. is to know how to say ‘No’ and more importantly. do not retaliate. when you do not accept the verbal attack. You cannot win an argument with resistance. The article brings you some very useful tips. This will make both of you more deeply fixed on your own views. they will still own the item that they purchased for you. if you do not accept the gift. Do Not Retaliate No matter what happens. never take things personally. This is about getting your opponent to shut up – and then using the facts with logic to win the argument. so as to meet the requests made by others to them. then the price you might have to pay is your relationship with the other person. but that you are right. Focus on the other person’s behavior and words. Therefore. Just repeatedly deflect the person’s arguments back to him/her. If you wish to win the argument at any cost. He will get tired after a while. There are many people who simply can’t say ‘No’ to anyone’s request. but by means of strategy. This gets them into rough waters quite often. If a person gets you a gift and offers it to you. It’s similar to verbal martial arts. let the arguer run out of steam and then handle the situation. You would also want to convince the other person. The other person’s resolve will only be strengthened further and the argument will never end. but what is even more difficult is to determine when to say ‘No’. the sting of the attack wears off. rather than aiming to convince the other person that you are right. as they compromise on their own priorities.Ways To Win Arguments Tips And Tricks Start Off With The Right Attitude Do not start off trying to prove yourself right and your opponent wrong. Remember that the best battles are won. not that he/she is wrong. Similarly. The key to succeed in meeting our priorities dot on time and not bother ourselves with other people’s work when we really don’t want to. don’t concentrate on bandying words. How To Learn When To Say No Saying ‘No’ can be a very difficult thing to do. Aim To Reach A Goal Aim to reach a goal. go in for an entirely different goal. Imagine a person who is in a boxing ring and swinging his arms around trying to hit out at you – but you are not there fighting him.
you simply can’t say ‘No’ in a crude manner. Determining whether you are really needed for a particular task or not. You will also need others once in a while. but finds it difficult to accept them. If you can conveniently help others at the expense of some of your time. instead of saying ‘No’ right on the face of a senior. Do what you possibly can for others. you can simply cite some other tasks that you have at hand. if you think that you don’t have the required time for others. it . it is obvious that you are a sweet person who receives compliments. However. get on with your work without a second thought. If you think that the concerned person is in a capacity to the job that he/she is entrusting upon you. if you think that you are really needed in a particular situation and it just can’t work without you. You have been observing since long that people always take it other way round. for any of your random jobs. learning how to say it is equally vital. Somewhere down the line. Be polite and gracious when refusing something and you will never fall in anybody’s bad books. When you know that the other person is simply taking advantage of your feebleness in saying ‘NO’. You need to ensure that you are not taken advantage of. you should always go ahead. Learning How To Say ‘No’ As much as learning when to say ‘No’ is important. This is a common problem with most of us. which you can’t compromise on. In the professional arena. there is no reason why he/she can’t be refused. In fact. A ‘No’ should always be polite. People will try hard to convince you to get their job done. it has to be the key if you don’t want to upset the tasks on your agenda. Don’t Let Others Take Advantage Of You Some people just make it a habit to fall back on others for their tasks and people who are ‘pushovers’ are obviously the softest targets around. unless your intention is to deliberately snap back at the other person. it is the time to firmly refuse to oblige him/her. it only pitches in your priorities. On the contrary. disallowing you to heed to his/her request. How To Take A Compliment Since you have landed on this article. Determine Whether You Are Really Needed If your mind is not conditioned to know when you are indispensable. if they know that you find it difficult to say ‘No’. you should certainly consider helping the other person. Factoring in your convenience is not to say that you should abstain from helping or saying ‘Yes’ to others. is also the criterion to decide whether its’ time to say ‘No’.Learning When To Say No See Your Convenience While it may sound a little self-centered. when you react to their compliment. you will have to train your mind to learn that. but know where the threshold is.
If you are complimented upon the way you are dressed. egoistic and impolite person. Avoid the temptation of bragging about yourself. Even if you feel that the compliment is in a sarcastic tone.always comes across as either you lack confidence or are a proud person. else it will depict as if you don’t believe in the compliment or aren’t confident about it. The two words. it will confuse the admirer and make you come across as a rude person. This is taken as an insult by the person who is giving the compliment and he/ she will definitely re-think before complimenting you in future. Be confident (you can blush too. but never focus on how much you shelled out to buy that one. practice receiving compliments in mirror and saying thanks with smile. Taking A Compliment Gracefully • The first and foremost thing to do when you are complimented is to acknowledge it. So quickly brush up with the tips given below and be a dear amongst all. We are here to help you out on the task of how to take compliments gracefully and bring sunshine in your life. When someone compliments you. • • • • • • • • • . So. This will only show that you are too self-obsessed. after you have taken the compliment. This will go extremely rude and depict you as proud. This will again reflect you as a negative person and close doors for further compliments. Don’t argue with your admirer or compare yourself with another person. who might not be looking as great as you are. if you have received a compliment for your good work or the accomplishment of a task. don’t let the other person know how bad you have felt about it. avoid doing it. acknowledge it and initiate the conversation by letting them know the place you bought it from or how great the shop was. don’t change the topic. Avoid looking here and there. Compliments should make you feel special and bring a smile on your face. You can also say that the compliment means a lot to you or something along the same lines. especially when you are receiving a compliment. Never do the mistake of underestimating yourself. when you receive a compliment. It should also make the other person feel that you have accepted it whole-heartedly and value it. Never give a sarcastic grunt or an eye-roll. Your body posture should not over shadow your confidence. Immediately say ‘thank you’ with a kind smile and it will turn into a compliment. To gain confidence. without acknowledging it. ‘Thank You’ come out very genuinely and make the other person feel that you have accepted the compliment. by infusing a negative remark. Make an eye contact and give a smile. as it is considered highly rude. if the compliment is from someone you love or admire).
conversation among other groups. You can use such verbal expressions like “I understand what you mean”. Choose proper solutions for overcoming these barriers and ensure that the messages are well conveyed. but after a while he knows something”. In case the speaker looks tired and exhausted. Avoid your temptation to interrupt in the middle of the conversation. be careful not to use these expressions to start a speech from your end. rather than conveying your own view point. Interference will only make the speaker frustrated and lose the track of what he was saying. Listening is a skill that not many a people are gifted with. be patient and lend a listening ear. sound of moving vehicles. Let him vent out his feelings and relax himself. rather than indulging in finding debatable issues in the conversation. Avoid pseudo-listening and try to actually focus on what the speaker has to say. Concentrate on the words of the speaker. let the speaker complete and then give your feedback or opinion. Free your mind from all other things and concentrate only on what he wants to say. Read on and practice the tips consistently. Show appropriate actions that go well with the conversation. to get this positive trait in you. Always wear a positive body language towards the speaker. Look at the vocal tone of the speaker. An effective listener is equally praiseworthy as a powerful speaker. which will make him feel that you are actually listening to him. you can help him focus on his message. The common environmental barriers include TV or music system. Listening skills can also be developed and nurtured during the life time. etc. You can ask brief questions in between his conversation. However. Make an impression on the speaker that you are interested in his speech. Make your environment free of barriers that can cause a hindrance in the proper communication system. Smile wherever necessary and show gestures like holding hands or offering a hug. Improving Your Listening Skills • • Pay proper attention to what the speaker wants to convey. Always remember to maintain eye contact with the speaker. which will help you in many walks of life. Remember that your task is to be an • • • • • • . says Wilson Mizner. You need to listen to the speaker.How To Improve Listening Skills “A good listener is not only popular everywhere. to know his mood. These can encourage the speaker to convey his point further to you. First. It is an effective tool in building up a relationship. Suppose the speaker is angry. We bring you some effective tips how to improve effective listening skills. Proper listening enables a person to know and understand the matter efficiently. as a listener.
you should have a fusion of both the characters. it is not the end of the world. In the following lines. So. being too loud and outgoing would not do much good either. be responsible for your actions and act according to the situation. • At the end of the conversation. Find out the points on which you mutually agree with the speaker and present them occasionally in between the conversation. Ideally. Be Responsible One of the vital components of social interaction is to know that art of carrying yourself.effective listener. Be Open & Approachable Imagine talking to a person who is an absolute introvert or extrovert! Extremes of personality often turn off people. Having sound social skills is extremely important in the present times. just for you. If you also face difficulty in interacting. Do not change your inner self for anything in the world. This will be highly inspiring and encouraging for the speaker. humans have this innate quality of discovering whether a person is real or fake. And it is when you are in utmost comfort that you indulge in free conversation and interaction. remember. does everyone possess social skills? Most of the people do not know the art of speaking. Just strike a delicate . In case you pretend to be someone you are not. While some are just inept and incompetent. it would be worth the wait. we have provided tips on how to improve social skills. there are others who lack confidence and yet others who do not havep98 mannerism and etiquettes. It is very important for you to know what to do and how to behave in a social gathering. It would take some time. from being ineffectual. A person behaving in an undesirable and unacceptable manner is usually avoided by people. Just focus on qualities listed below and who knows. but the question is. Remember. you can use expansion statements like “This is very interesting”. you might just turn out to be the ‘apple’ of the social meets. but believe me. trust me. given to the fact that interaction and conversation forms the basis for everything we do. While being too shy and withdrawn is enough to repel people immediately. However. You can improve your social skills by just putting in a little effort. you cannot be perfect overnight. This will encourage the speaker to further elaborate on the conversation How To Improve Your Social Skills They say. a human being is a social animal. you would be lonelier than ever before. rather than proving yourself to be a winner in a debate competition. Improving Social Skills Be Yourself Only when you are your own self do you feel comfortable.
Great styling.balance between both the personalities and you would be the ‘star’ of the social gathering. Be Polite Being humble and down-to-earth is an excellent way to break the ice. so that the person has positive feelings or thoughts of you. Be Cautious It is advisable to keep your senses active. the best bet would be to move out of the scene. close your ears and numb your senses at the time of interacting. Keep a keen eye on who are your friends and who are your enemies. Be it a business meeting. If he looks uncomfortable or is simply disinterested. Alas! Not many have it in them. So. How To Make A Great First Impression The phrase. Do not confront everything to someone you have just met. Also. the trick is to be an attentive listener and people would definitely talk to you. It sheds off all the apprehensions and nervousness and gives a good impression. has struck a note in the minds of all people alike. the first impression would go a long way in establishing and imprinting your position in the mind of the person you are meeting. Be Attentive The art of listening is a stepping stone for conversation and interaction. keep reading the article. Do not shut your eyes. do not interrupt or chip in a piece of advice or suggestion just when the other person is in the middle of a subject. sugarcoating the truth is very necessary at times. For instance. watch if the person you are talking to is comfortable with the specific topic. the first date or the first day at work. As such. oozing confidence and a winning smile are some of the determining factors for making a striking first impression. impressive conduct. you will know that everyone wants to talk. Apart from being polite. While being honest and forthright definitely pays. which is why most of us long to make a great first impact on people. If you would have attended a social gathering. personality and confidence. Be Aware It is very important to be aware and observant of people’s behavior. If you want to arm yourself with all the tips on how to make a great first impression. it is very necessary that you create a great impact. It would speak miles about your manners. Making A Strong First Impression Right on Time . but no one is ready to listen. In case he/she is not interested in talking to you completely. just move on to the next topic. “first impression is the last impression”. it is also advisable to be diplomatic.
going clean shaven is a must. if you want to create an impressive impression. Nothing can be more depressing than to meet a person who is dressed up without a smile. Make sure that the attire you are wearing gives a boost to your personality. untidy clothes and messy hair-do is enough to make you look under confident and sheepish! Impressive Introduction While looks would create the 50% of the first impression. a warm smile can shed off all the initial apprehensions and make both of you at ease. standing tall with the head held high. the rest depends on how impressive is your introduction. grooming and styling should be the mantra for you. Result . a winning smile and a firm handshake would talk a lot about your personality and the person you are. it is very necessary to project appropriate body language. However. Remember. Since you are meeting a person for the first time. An impressive introduction is one that is short and crisp. even he/she is meeting you for the first time. Winning Smile George Eliot rightly said “Wear a smile and have friends. Here. Remember. keep the nervousness locked in your cupboard. Just be Yourself Most of the people go way beyond their individuality to create a good first impression. For men. the other person would automatically feel relaxed. In such a case. it would be best if you start off with a bang. do not lengthen it. wear a scowl and have wrinkles”. at least 5 to 10 minutes prior to the preset time. you would be utmost confident and completely at ease. Make sure your hair-do serves as an add-on to your look. chances are that the two of you barely know each other. the first look can go a long way in making an impressive first impression. with all the details. Remember. Small things like eye contact. the deal is to be yourself. Plan your day in such a way that you reach the assigned location.Imagine meeting a person for the first time and opening your introduction with a sorry or an excuse for being late? What a loser you would look like! Being on time is the first step towards making a great first impression. Remember. the trick is to smile and win the heart and mind of the other person. However. . Dress appropriately before stepping out of the house. Style Yourself Well Believe it or not. And if you are calm and confident. making you look all the more stunning and stylish. (I’m sure the other person does not want to know how many teeth you have or how big your tonsils are!!) Oozing Confidence Did you know that your body language contributes more than 90% of your communication? Thus. So. do not go overboard and laugh with your mouth open. If you are projecting your own personality to the person you are meeting. Smartly introduce yourself and fill in the other person with all the necessary details that he/she should know about.confusion and nervousness!! To avoid such a scenario. so apprehensions and nervousness would be common between the two of you.
Sometimes. A rule of the thumb . it is best to translate the information in a language that the receiver can interpret correctly. negative or corrective messages are necessary to communicate. the results are far from being positive. It makes the communicator lose the trail of thoughts. reading this article is a great idea. people do not engage in healthy communications. Effective communications are those that bring in positive results. However. when topped with healthy doses of positive comments.first. but also formulate the right opinion. most of the times. you not only build a healthy relationship. For those of you who want to arm themselves with all the information about positive communication techniques. As such.Chivalry at Best Do we need to elucidate on this point? Needless to say.switch off your mobile while you are with the person. but also make way for better communication. This can be done if you follow two simple tips . Starting On Positive Note Starting your communication on a positive note sets the pace for effective messages later on. thereby disrupting the whole process of communication. men and chivalry should go hand in hand. try to introduce positive words in your communication and second. Good manners and courteous behavior lay the foundation for any relationship. Do not interrupt a person while talking. In such circumstances. you are here to create a good impression on the person you are meeting and not on the person whom you are talking to!! Positive Communication Techniques Did you know that communication is the key to opening the doors of success and victory? However. This would not only help you understand the other person’s point of view. Correct Translation In case you are talking to a person who comes from a different country or follows a different language. Remember. Words that mean good in our language need not necessarily mean the same in other language. such messages make way for easier learning. Listening sets the base for any communication and it is when your listen attentively that perfect communication takes place. Positive Communication Skills Proper Attention Being attentive is one of most vital components to engage in positive communication. This way. Respect & Kindness . communicate in a way that it leads to positive outcomes. Talking in a common language is best advised. creating the best first impression. communication should be carefully conducted.
However. Pose forward a right body language and you would surely have the most positive communication. is a shining example of phenomenal oration skills. hands and body posture communicate more than you ever thought. imagine you are in an important board meeting and someone suddenly yawns – it’s a perfect give away that he/she is bored to death. No Blame Game It is very important not to play the blame game. The article gives some excellent tips on how to become a good speaker and enthrall your audience. The present U. Become A Good Speaker Sound Sincere With What You Say . it is best advised to respect each other's viewpoints and opinions. while you are in a conversation. but it is true!! Your eyes. it is normal to face a situation wherein there is a difference of opinion. Use tact and good judgment to come to a common solution. In such circumstances. Well Timed Communication By this. How To Be A Good Speaker It is certainly a great honor to be heard by people and only a good speaker can manage to bring that honor upon him/her. It is not feasible to have important discussion in the middle of a hallway or office corridor or around nosy co-workers. Remember. when two individuals communicate. It negates chances of positive things in the communication. who has continued to win laurels for his tremendous potential as a speaker. we mean that the time and the place of communication should be proper. For instance. Arrange for the time that is favorable for both of you and a place that allows positive communication between the two of you. Right Body Language Did you know that almost 90% of the communication is done by your body? Sounds unbelievable. Do not compel the other person to agree to your school of thought. not everyone is endowed with these attributes and this is where the tips given below will come handy. Playing the blame game would take you nowhere.S president Barack Obama. you can only indulge in positive communication when both the speaker and the listener are in a calm mood.Every individual is an entity and has opinions and view of his own. making it extremely unconstructive and pessimistic. As such. which is why it becomes crucial to time the communication well. The magnetic qualities that a successful speaker possesses draw the masses towards him/her. Such communications do not result in a positive outcome.
Performance anxiety is also called ‘choking’ by some people. to strike a chord with your audience.to-day life. A lot of people have a tendency to look anywhere. if they feel you are for real. a drab content will soon wither away the interest of the audience. Add Humor To Your Content No matter how great an orator you are. just like a good professor. but it can be easily mastered over time. Apart from the novices. Learn To Modulate Your Voice Every word that one says carries a different emotion and these emotions need to be transmitted to the audience in an expressive way. Cultivate Knowledge On The Subject For a good speaker. but in the eyes of the person or the group they are addressing. will always go prepared for the speech. you are suffering from performance anxiety. People will pay heed to what you are saying. Hitting the nail right on the head is all about being able to convey your thoughts and make the audience feel what you are saying. How To Get Rid Of Performance Anxiety If you begin to sweat profusely and tremble at the very thought of your scheduled performance. Holding the interest of the audience for long is a great art that can be perfected over time. Speak in a way you talk to people in your day. it can grip even those who own a wealth of experience. One of the greatest qualities a good speaker should posses is the ability to modulate his/her voice to for effect. to keep the audience amused. as far as performing in front of an audience is . Excellent speakers are those who are not just good orators. This habit can be very off-putting for the audience and the speaker will fail to garner enough attention for himself/herself. but also come across as genuine. content is extremely important to stand out as someone who is intently heard by his/her audience. The key to appear sincere is to speak in a conversationalist tone. If you already know the subject you have to speak on. Voice modulation may call for some practice. An excellent content laced with humor and an equally witty disposition to carry it off will work as icing on the cake. for a good speaker. A good speaker. Exploit your confidence to the limit and maintain constant eye contact with the audience. as you speak. try to cultivate an insight into the subject and expand your knowledge base. in all likeliness. Maintain Eye Contact With The Audience The golden rule to be a successful speaker is to maintain eye contact with the audience all through your speech.Sincerity in your words tops the order among the attributes of a good speaker. as if you are talking to your audience. People appreciate knowledgeable speakers and delivering substantial and interesting information will hold you in high esteem with your listeners. You need to make the session interesting by adding a dash of humor in your content.
Try to get familiar with the venue of your performance and the stage where you are going to perform. to make it flawless and feel confident about your ability to make it successful. The article brings you some valuable tips on how to get rid of performance anxiety. While it may not be possible if you have to give an office presentation. the ‘devil may care attitude’ can help in bringing down your anxiety levels dramatically. Get Your Mind Off It It is important to keep reminding yourself that it’s just a performance and not the end of your life. Get Familiar With Performance Venue This is one of the most successful tricks that work pretty well to bring your anxiety levels down. Tips For Overcoming Performance Anxiety Practice Your Performance It has been rightly said that practice makes a man perfect. In the instances of social phobia. clinical anxiety is often treated with the help of drugs. sometimes. when nothing else is working out. However. Your anxiousness may be the result of your under-preparedness for the performance that you have to deliver. If you have decided upon taking anti-anxiety drugs before setting on to perform. In fact. it can just be a simple case of stage-fright. it is advisable that you consult a professional for the right recommendation. So. Read on to know how to perform your way to glory. This will surely help you cope up with nervousness and make you feel self-assured before your performance. you can try the idea in case you are doing a skit or a play. How To Stay Mentally Sharp . get the worries off your mind and have a blast on stage. You can simply reach the venue before time and rehearse on the stage once. many of the seasoned performers suffer from anxiety and nervousness as they set on to perform another time. Keep Anti-Anxiety Drugs As Last Option Anti-anxiety drugs should always be kept as a last option. The worst thing that can happen is that your performance will get blotched and this is certainly is not going to ruin your life forever. The idea is to have fun when you perform and in this context. It is important to remember that the more potent drugs can lead you towards a tendency to depend on them every time you have to give a performance. with all the props. Always remember that hard work and practice is the key to success and you can conquer your anxiety very well with mock sessions and rehearsals. Self-doubt and a lack of confidence are the most common reasons accounting for performance anxiety. Practice your performance as much as possible.concerned.
which will help your brain as well. keen observation is also one of the best tricks. to keep your body hydrated and your mind energetic. It may not be easily possible to achieve a razor sharp mind. It helps revitalize our mind and body. but it’s certainly within your power to sharpen your mental faculties and utilize them in a more competent way. Drink Lots Of Water Drinking lots of water is not only healthy for the body. once in a while. To cut the long story short. . This will give your mind the much needed invigoration and refresh it to stay as sharp as ever. Playing scrabble. it is also essential to keep your mind active and sharp. it also helps our mind function in a better way. resides a sound mind. Tips To Keep Your Mind Sharp Challenge Your Mind For enhanced mental sharpness. to keep our brain working sharp. Interacting with others is also a fitting mental exercise. Try to observe the things around you keenly and rest your mind. like iron. Paucity of water in the body can lead to dehydration. Be An Observer As much as striking intelligent conversations is important for an alert mind. there are many who struggle to keep their brain active and responsive all the time. An ideal diet should include all the important minerals. 30 minutes of yoga and 30 minutes of meditation in a day are enough to keep your mind healthy and increase its sharpness. to rejuvenate it. Mediation helps banish negative energies from your mind. which in turn makes it difficult to concentrate well. Drink 8-10 glasses of water in a day. If you are facing concentration problems and forgetting important things on the agenda. Researches have well established that physical exercise also enhances mental activity and bears a positive effect on our mind. it is important to constantly challenge your mind. Intelligent conversations sharpen your thinking and analytical abilities and endow your mind with alertness. you may do with some helpful tips on how to stay mentally sharp. Our eating habits have a profound impact on our mental abilities. Eat Right It has been very aptly said that in a healthy body. potassium. like yoga. You can also couple it with some form of physical exercise.While mental sharpness and alertness is a natural gift for some. Meditate The benefits of mediation are known to all and sundry. Follow the article and know what it takes to keep your mind functioning proficiently. engage in activities that are mentally testing. chess. magnesium and essential vitamins. attempting crossword puzzles or doing Sudoku is a good way to give a workout to your brain. A healthy and nutritious diet is not just important for our over all well-being. Water makes up to one-half to four-fifths of your body weight and accounts for 85% of your brain. Observing the nature is also a good way to be in touch with your spiritual side.
As long as you remain a part of the crowd. . Therefore. this crisis continues throughout one’s life. You will have to be very headstrong to resist peer pressure and this is very much possible. if you anticipate a situation which may force you to behave in a particular way. In some cases. Have you ever wondered why is it that only some people set the norms. building self-confidence is the best way to counter peer pressure in a successful way. undoubtedly. Always remember that you have to live with the choices that you make in life and you can’t let your peers dictate what you choose. Be Comfortable With Your Choices Peer pressure may force you to alter your original choices and that’s exactly where it becomes problematic. Read on to know how to best combat peer pressure. Build The Mental Toughness To Resist Not every one is gifted with the kind of mental toughness required to resist the pressure or avoid the temptation to be one of ‘them’. but you will have to be assertive to resist their influence on the options you choose in life. to conform to a group norm or act in a certain way. teens are known to be more vulnerable to peer-pressure. You can be what you are and still be an integral part of your friends’ circle.How To Get Rid Of Peer Pressure Every one has to deal with peer pressure at some point in his/her life. which may confuse the child as to what he/she really wants to be. just as everyone is different from others. after all. For instance. Lead yourself and act according to your diktats. be your own leader. provided you train yourself the right way. This is. the key to combat and avoid peer pressure. You are a different individual with a separate identity. due to their tender age. try to set the norm and stop feeling undue pressure to fit in a given group. you can avoid it by constantly reminding yourself that you won’t fall into such traps. though it may seem. in consonance with the friend’s circle. you will tend to give into peer pressure. You need to remind yourself that you have a unique personality. They can be your inspiration. Tips To Combat Peer Pressure Be Confident Of Yourself No matter how clichéd it sounds. Mostly. Peer pressure can be understood as the pressure among any age group of children. while others follow them? People look forward to those who are self assured and confident and try to be in their shoes. Hard. practice is known to make a man perfect. Be Your Leader Instead of being led by your friends. This article dwells on peer pressure at length and suggests tips to get rid of it. The biggest threat posed by peer-pressure is a burgeoning crisis of identity. Only a confident person can make others follow his/her footsteps.
before you begin to memorize the signs. Although it may be a little difficult to find someone you can communicate with. A school or organization for the deaf is also the right institution to get in touch with. You can arrange for them quite easily as well. A video or DVD course or an online course with animations may also suit your purpose. for learning the sign language. join it for greater interaction with sign language users. which consisted of manual alphabets. The range of sign language books may advance from ‘survival’ level to ‘upper intermediate’ level. There is also an option to learn sign language from books. Private language schools and community college also offers sign language courses and you can choose accordingly. hand signs and finger spellings and using them effectively to communicate with those who have lost their hearing ability.How To Learn Sign Language Sign language is the means of communication used by deaf people. Since then. sign language has gradually grown and evolved to suit the needs of the deaf people. Practice what you have learnt. In case you need any help. Sign language flash cards carry pictures of either a hand or a person forming the sign. Along with books. The grammar system of sign language is unique and it’s better to get a hang of the sign grammar. However. it is important for someone trying to learn sign language to understand these differences in the first place. This will help you in improving your hand movements. Try to interact with the users of sign language. with the help of arrows depicting hand and arm movements. If you can find a local sign language club near your place. you can also get yourself a sign language dictionary. You can also watch sign language users on TV. it is important to • • • • • • . Finding a good teacher or taking good sign language lessons is the key to learning the language in right way. Instructional videos will be of great help. Learning Sign Language • Since the methods of learning sign language are different from those used to learn spoken languages. Learning sign language involves learning gestures. using sign language. when trying to communicate in sign language. by choosing some basic books on sign language to start with. The first book for teaching sign language was published in 1620. to learn and understand this elegant language. you will have to be a patient and mature student. but sign pictures as well. explore this article to find some useful tips on how to learn sign language. Flash cards can be of great help and are offer a realistic and effective way to practice sign language. which contains not just written words. by Juan Pablo de Bonet.
Give Examples If you can support your argument with meaningful examples. be it any sphere of learning. Acquire Knowledge On The Subject Acquiring a profound knowledge on the subject of discussion will make the convincing part a cakewalk for you. many times. by putting forward strong arguments against the existing notions in their mind. You can even try to find someone with similar interests. scroll through the article. to present sensible arguments. Be Assertive & Confident The more confident and assertive you are in presenting your ideas. Interviews are known to be grilling and it is always better to improve on your knowledge quotient. Come up with realistic examples to back your point of view. even in the least. The key to convincing others is to display a positive and assertive body language. Many people tend to be over-aggressive and do not let the listener speak. the less time it will take you to shake the existing beliefs of your subject. it can also be acquired and mastered over time.practice the language. As much as a natural ability ‘convincing’ is. as it does not leave the listener with much option. you have already won half the battle and you are most likely to convince your subject. once they get started. Here. Be supremely confident of your opinions and make sure that you don’t doubt what you are saying. Tips For Convincing Others Hear Them Out If you really want to end up convincing your subject. One should never assume that the person he/she is trying to convince knows nothing on the topic of discussion. so that you two can practice sign language together. Listen to other people peacefully. discussions are impromptu and you may not have the time to gather information to substantiate your claims. In case you want to learn some more valuable tips on how to convince others. Persuading others is all about succeeding in changing their opinions on a particular issue or being able to induce a change in their belief patterns. Your confidence is to be your weapon and it has been witnessed that confident people sail through the roughest waters smoothly. How To Convince Others The ability to convince others is a rare talent and not every one is gifted with this valued asset. ‘practice makes a man perfect’. when it comes to convincing others. . without interrupting them and once they are through. the ball is in your court. quick thinking will work. This is an excellent idea if you are set to appear for an interview. give him/her an opportunity to present his/her point of view as well. Remember. However.
However. Explore the article to know how to change your attitude. Tips For Changing Your Attitude Have An Aim A life without an aim is like a ship in the sea without knowing where it is going. You have to present your case strongly and firmly. but the impression of desperation has to be strictly avoided. Actually. Don’t Appear Too Desperate Don’t come across as someone who just wants to convince others at any cost. Listen to your heart and then head towards your goal. but avoid trying to dominate or impose your line of thought. our life becomes directionless. Even if you are brilliant and you have never failed in your life.other than accepting what you are saying. It is attitude. if the person on the other side is too smart or skeptical. negative. whether you . It may be positive. you don’t have anything to learn from this life then you are living with a wrong attitude. attitude is kind of one’s expression towards life and others. attitude is the driving force in our life and without right attitude. indifferent or something else. the more skeptical they will become. Actually. which distinguishes humans from other animals. there remains no difference between us and other animals. Mitchell May be you have heard this quote and you really want to change your attitude towards life. Actually. It may be done to maintain a standing or sometimes to preserve ourselves from certain outward “harm”. Actually. You can repeat your point of view for added effect.” ~ John N. how Ranbir Kapoor’s character Sid. Therefore. there are many other things to learn from this life. every one of us can learn so many things every day if we keep our senses alert. you may have no idea about how to go about it. you would roam like the aimless ship. in reality too. All the people develop an attitude while growing up. A positive attitude is very important for generating a successful and satisfying life. Without the right attitude. However. Attitude will follow you. We keep on living without an aim and complain about life. How To Change Your Attitude “Our attitude toward life determines life's attitude towards us. it may take you some time before you succeed in your efforts. Remember that aim is a fuel of life and unless you have a goal. as it helps in shaking other person’s beliefs. Think of what you want to do with your life. didn’t have a goal in life and how his life changed when he found his goal. many of us are like Sid. The more desperate you sound to convince others. Be Ready To Learn Nobody is perfect and if you think. Right attitude can be developed with the help of certain things. Have you seen the movie “Wake up Sid”.
People who are self-respecting generally keep a calm front even in the time of crisis. Confidence helps us sail through bad times. This article brings you some valuable tips on how to cope with your shyness and bring out your confident side. unless you are self-sufficient. Ways To Combat Shyness Be Proud Of What You Are . It doesn’t only affect you psychologically but also helps you mentally and physically. then in all likeliness. face it with positivity. confidence and everything else. mentally and psychologically. you are a very shy person. to change your attitude you need to develop confidence. Be Positive Positivity is the drive of life. Be Self-Sufficient You may have all the positive attitude. However. In fact. Confidence will help you change the way you look at things and you would perceive things positively. shyness can just be a by-product of your lack of self-belief and confidence in your personality. inferiority complex and hidden fears. It will not only help you understand yourself properly. Lack of self-respect almost always results in lack of aim. Therefore. estimates show that almost three out of every ten people are overtly shy. Have Self-Respect Self-respect is deemed as self worth and if you don’t value yourself. it will let you understand others too. be ready to learn and you would feel so much satisfied. home or anywhere else. enthusiasm and sense of purpose. how will you make other people value you? Self-respect is not only necessary for self-development but it is also important for inner peace. A positive attitude will inspire and will help you deal with anything positively. be ready to help others and rather than ignoring any crisis. It is about being happy and content. Develop Confidence Confidence is the key to right attitude and to success. your life will not be in your hand. To cut the long story short. found in many people. A positive attitude is a choice of being positive with oneself and others. Unless you are. How To Cope With Shyness Do you always experience an adrenaline rush and feel self-conscious when you have to interact with strangers? If the answer is yes. Try to keep yourself self-sufficient.are at work. physically. Your shyness and introvert attitude can have varied manifestations and can be rooted in your insecurity. sure of yourself how are you going to chase your dream? A right attitude can come only to confident people. It can alter your life for good almost magically. Shyness is a common trait.
which is the reason why they struggle in their interactions. It takes very little. to trigger off a jealous explosion and they are known to be very competitive in their own way. You can ask your friends to help you out and conduct practice sessions on how you will converse with a new person or a group of strangers. Nothing works better than self-discovery. by developing belief in yourself. Identifying your talents will help you develop self esteem and conquer your shy attitude positively. Practice Though it may sound a little far-fetched. You may be feeling that you don’t match up to other people and therefore. Instead of being so aware of people. Meeting new people will make you more confident and the plus point is you get to learn new things as well. seek answers as to why you are shy and try to overcome your coyness. Find things you are good at and focus on grooming that talent.Nothing explains shyness better than a lack of self-confidence. the shyer you will become. Transform Your Self-Consciousness Into Self-Awareness Just remember that people are too busy looking at themselves and they are not trying to screen you wherever you go. Discover Your Strengths The ability to discover your strengths is probably one of the most crucial abilities a person can posses. You need to realize that people have different personalities and you are unique in your own way. Take inspiration from the people who are proud of what they are and are always brimming with confidence. It seems that feelings of jealousy have been very intricately woven in the behavioral pattern of women. but practicing social interactions can work well for you. in most of the women. The more you avoid meeting people. However. Ensure that your mock sessions yield good results. Observe your thoughts. try to turn this awareness inwards. but if you bring yourself to succeed. Ideally. It is a demanding process. Try To Socialize Shy people tend to avoid socializing and boosting contacts with other people. your edge over others. it won't be long before you overcome your shyness. Feelings of jealousy can be deep rooted in your hidden fears. How To Know You Are Jealous Of Her One of the basic traits that are often associated with a woman is her enviousness. insecurities or have varied other reasons. so that socializing becomes a habit and he/she doesn’t always end up looking ways to overcome his/her shyness. especially if other things are failing to bring the desired results. Remember your strengths are your advantage. in combating shyness. your opinions may not be valued. Your practice should basically include how to volunteer to talk. a shy person should pounce upon every given opportunity to interact with other people. it is important to recognize and determine whether you are really .
What they don’t realize is that we become what we think. other than plain jealousy? Know If You Are Threatened By Her If you feel threatened by her and keep dreading that she will prove herself to be better than you. even on things that should concern you the least. This article comes up with some valuable tips that will help you to know if you are jealous of her. Determine Whether You Compete With Her Or Not We have heard of healthy competition n-number of times and we also know that it is not fostered by jealousy. in a lot of women. they are not happy with their job. This is precisely the reason behind the tendency.Leo F. Buscaglia. it is a sure sign of your jealousy. you are right in determining that what you are feeling is jealousy towards her. their appearance and their life. They want to become somebody else and live all their life in misery and anonymity. And to . If she has been weighing on your mind unnecessarily. Tips to Know You Are Feeling Jealous Of Her Know Your True Feelings Towards Her Do you try to compete with her for no real reason? Do you wish you were in her place? Do you greet her with a fake smile almost always? Your reactions and behavior towards a particular woman are an important determinant of your jealousy. It is actually your covert insecurity that is bothering you and you can't even accept that you really are insecure. If you don’t find favor with this quote then you may be among people who cringe on seeing themselves in mirror. If you find yourself scheming on how to establish your self superior to her. This is when we may not know that we are actually envious of the person we are trying to compete with. which is fierce in nature and many a times. to say harsh things about their subject of jealousy. without even realizing how much time you are devoting to let this green eyed monster prosper. And.” . You find her presence threatening due to your jealousy. what else can it be. if you don’t want to believe in her positive traits. so that the strife within your mind could be handled well. is even visible to others. this just proves you are envying her secretly. because without you the rest of us are without a source of many wonderful things. Your feelings may be continuous. How To Accept Yourself “Love yourself—accept yourself—forgive yourself—and be good to yourself. If you have been trying to compete with a woman in almost about every field.jealous of any other woman. You will say harsh things about her and will try to de-credit her from everything. Know If She Is Weighing On Your Mind You may be subconsciously thinking about her always. which haunt you even when your competition is not around. it is a sign of your jealousy being rooted deep in your insecurities. Jealousy always results in unhealthy competition.
After you have gained your self-confidence. .become a successful person we need to accept ourselves. It will not happen overnight. Focus on all the positive qualities you possess and you would soon start to see yourself in good light. work towards something. which you want to do. It will help you understand your uniqueness. Develop self-confidence by telling yourself constantly that you are a unique and beautiful person. Jot It Down Writing all your qualities will help you. because of negative thinking or because of other people’s opinions. After you have written. Better Your Life It is important to accept you as you are but it is also important to strive to better yourself. focus on what you have achieved and be happy. the world will not accept you. or possessing all the luxuries. So instead of focusing on the greener grass on the other side. work on it to do away with it. Accepting oneself is important to live a happy and content life. You can also write all about yourself. Stand in front of the mirror and focus on all the features you like about yourself. which you feel. are negative. Take pride in your success and see yourself as successful. For instance. Write all the qualities no matter how trivial they may be and then read them. and you would start accepting yourself. if you feel you are too emotional and get hurt easily. Keep in mind that you are a unique person and unless you accept yourself. If you feel that you are not able to focus on your career. Remember that happiness doesn’t lie in earning millions. think about the root cause of it and work towards bettering it. You would soon start to feel important and accept yourself. happiness lies in one’s mind otherwise all the millionaires in the world would be happy. Get Real Remember that you will have to work towards the goal of accepting yourself. Find Happiness In The Basics Happiness or sadness largely depends on oneself. you would soon find change in your outlook towards life. You always find yourself not good enough and by saying that you were not just being humble. Restore Your Self-Confidence Self-confidence is essential element for accepting oneself. work on eliminating them. It may be because of some flaws. Ways Of Accepting Yourself See Yourself As Success It may be very difficult for you especially if you have grown up disliking everything about you. Explore the following pointers to know the ways for accepting yourself. Remember that nothing is more important than your opinion. and you would soon start to accept yourself. Work on inculcating self-confidence and you would soon see the opinions of others changing towards you.
Keep A Positive Frame Of Mind Don’t let difficult people affect your mental peace. Tips For Handling Difficult People Confront Them Without Fighting It is important to confront difficult people. you need to remember that you can't let the conflict escalate. be it at work or home.How To Handle Difficult People We often complain that some people are just too difficult to handle. You will have to devise strategies to deal with hostile people in a successful way. Read on and know how to deal with the people immune to the usual methods of communication. Stand up to the situation and confront the person confidently. You just need to acknowledge that they have a personality and perception different from that of yours and they need to be handled tactfully. or they will start taking more liberty with you. constantly fretting over someone who is getting under your skin is not going to help. better to just ignore them. it's not wise to take them personally. It's natural for a person to end up meeting difficult people once in a while. Don’t let their negative attitude weigh constantly on your mind. However. It's apparent that people with a hostile attitude will irritate you with their behavior. Do Not Give Up . However. For instance. If you argue with them on pettiest of things. You can confront them on important issues. There is absolutely no need to be defensive in turn. Do not allow their verbal attacks to shake your confidence. In case you are amongst the unlucky ones. but you have to deal with them in a positive way. It is. but defending yourself on everything is certainly not the right way to handle them. it is only going to weaken your position and allow them to throw their weight around. Therefore. They have the same freakish behavior with everyone and trouble everyone they know. Don’t Be Defensive Let the attacks of a difficult person wash over you. if someone is trying to ruin your reputation in office by spreading malignant rumors. Don’t Take Them Personally It is important to remember that difficult people do things habitually and you are certainly not their only target. rather than paying them undue attention. you should ask the person straight on if he/she has anything personal against you. sometimes. This article provides you some proven tactics to handle difficult people. Just keep your mind calm when you deal with them. you have to deal with them almost on a regular basis. Some people have a hard time adjusting with others and going easy in life.
On the other hand. they just limit their ability to interfere in your life. twists and turns! At times. being loved by your near and dear ones or even getting appreciated from all the quarters. you are wrong. it is full of surprises. Keep practicing your art and don't loose hope. Are you one of those who always end up thinking about the negative side. People meditate for different reasons . You may face some difficulties in the beginning. Remember the sense of accomplishments and vow to make them happen again.Tackling difficult people is very much an art. A person who considers himself to be a loser and feels that he is worth nothing will hardly be able to achieve anything in his life. The wins have to be taken seriously. Look Back Into The Past Life is never the same. See yourself becoming successful in your endeavors. If you think you will lose. much before the positive? Do you want to get rid of this habit? If yes. then check out the tips given below and know how to avoid negative thinking. you win even without trying and during others. where everything is happening as you planned or as you want. while the losses are something from which you need to learn. there are chances you can. but your tactics will show results with practice. in the outcome of our efforts. You will get success in your efforts sooner or later.developing their concentration. which can be mastered over a period of time. you lose even when you make a lot of effort. Indulge In Meditation In case you are thinking meditation is only for those who want to lead a spiritual life and stay away from the materialistic world. the best bet would be to turn your imagination creative.’ This quote aptly describes the important of our thinking. try to think of those situations where success kissed your feet. Best Ways To Stop Negative Thinking Get Creative Whenever you feel that negative thoughts are creeping up on you. You need to remember that these strategies don’t change difficult people. having a control over . How To Avoid Negative Thinking ‘If you think you will win. feeling one with the god. The moment you feel your losses gaining over your mind. Rather. Think of a wonderful situation. someone who has oodles of confidence (but not over confidence) and believes that he canachieve something in life will most likely become successful as well. you definitely will. This would go a long way in helping you overcome the pessimism.
and so on. It has been established by psychological researches that a positive state of mind enhances the psychic abilities of an individual. buy some from the nearest bookstore and start reading. Negative thinking and skepticism to a certain extent. funny quotes or even funny SMS and start smiling! How To Develop Psychic A bilities Though we all posses psychic abilities to a certain extent. However. Tips To Develop Psychic Abilities Acknowledge That Psychic Abilities Exist Only the one who realizes and rightly acknowledges the importance of a psychic capacity among humans can be able to expand his/her psychic powers. can hamper or block the expansion of one’s psychic potential. If one aims to achieve his/her full psychic potential. For instance. ‘I will not let negative thoughts come into my mind and affect me in any way’. all of us mention about our intuitions coming true. start telling yourself ‘I do not have to think negatively’. while it is very much possible to do so. Occasionally. ‘I have to think about the positive things happening in my life’. It will help you remain in a balanced state of mind and keep you away from the negativity. It is therefore. As soon as you feel that negative thoughts are trying to creep into your mind. The article explores the subject and comes up with profound insights on how to develop your psychic abilities. Most of us never realize our full psychic ability. Read on to benefit from some valuable tips. it is equally possible to develop your psychic potential even further. If you are fond of comics. you can rent the DVD of your favorite comic flick and laugh your heart out. log on to the sites that list jokes. important . by indulging in activities that you enjoy or that make your laugh. it is very important to become conscious of your drift towards negativity. If you have internet at home. etc. accepting that psychic abilities exist and can be developed overtime with practice and effort. Our hunches and premonitions come out to be true not due to some bizarre coincidence but. Keep A Positive Mind frame A positive mindset is the first pre-requisite to develop your psychic ability. we never wait to ponder the reason behind such possibilities.their thoughts. Consciously Block Out Negative Thoughts If you want to stop being pessimistic and think about the brighter side of life. because of our intuitive powers which are the result of a developed psychic capacity. will be of great help. It is the last purpose that you have to solve with meditation. Make Yourself Feel Happy One of the best ways to get over negativity is to make yourself feel happy.
but with dollops of will power. The power of imaginations assists you in visualizing possibilities and happenings and mediation will help you to nail down the right meaning of your imaginations. This will also help you in finding connecting links to a problem. Ignoring your gut feelings can even get you into trouble. which we perform regularly. squirts of discipline and loads of patience. Trust your sixth sense rather than ignoring it Meditation Meditation helps you to attain concentration and peace of mind. you would be surprised to know that even the most pious of people would tell you they had a bad habit in the past. Your inquisitiveness will eventually lead you towards surprising results. In the following lines. and finally solving it. Try to evolve and practice ways through which your psychic potential could be furthered. Mention your strong intuitions to your close ones and keep check on whether they come out to be true or not. you will realize that your feelings hold a certain meaning in a specific context. you will definitely be able to get rid of a bad habit. others have simple social habits that make tick people off. If your assumptions about your imaginations are coming out to be true. Though automatic behaviors. Involuntary actions. it will not be easy to do so. then you are at the right place. Pursue Your Feelings Don’t neglect your feelings and instincts for the fear of being mocked at. Initially. Think about things which generate your curiosity in an unusual way. How To Break Bad Habits Trapped in a bad habit? Want an escape from it? If yes. Remember. Evolve Ways To Utilize Psychic Abilities Remember that regular practice will assist in the development of your psychic abilities. for instance inspirational movies or literature.that one maintains a positive thinking mind and keep feeding it with uplifting doses which could be in any form. it means you are on the right track. it might even embarrass you but gradually. Test yourself with your imaginations and their meanings. While some habits take the form of physical addictions. are what make our habit. A calm mind has the potential to act as a fertilizer for the development of an improved sixth sense and psychic abilities when accompanied by some other measures such as developing the faculty of imagination. Breaking A Bad Habit Self-Evaluation . habits are definitely under our control (if we really want them to be). Talking about bad habits. we have provided useful tips on how to break bad habits. Breaking a bad habit is like coming out from a tangle or a web.
For this. Supporting Role Do not hesitate to call friends or family members. Instead. the best bet would be to maintain a journal and note down every time your bad habit gets the better of you. The moment you realize the cost of a bad habit and what it is depriving you of. rise up and get back to your healthy behavior. it is the time to figure out how the bad habit initiated in the first place. Positives Of Dropping Once you have realized the negative impacts. changes do not just happen. Consider the positive ways of meeting the same needs through a good habit and start practicing. remember. Remember. All you need is willpower. or even start becoming sociable. Analyze why did you start the bad habit .Was it peer pressure? Was it depression? Was it just for a 'try'? Was it to be 'in vogue'? Was it an escape from some life condition? Once you get hold of the reason for the action. to get over a bad habit. discipline and patience!! . you just cannot leave a bad habit and force yourself into doing nothing in its place. You have to work hard and bring in a lot of discipline in your being. giving into the impulses or being carried away would be extremely easy. it would act as a motivation to modify your behavior and get out of the web. it is time to look towards the optimistic side i. List the negative impacts and the cost they are charging you. Who knows. say you will become a better individual or have enough time to look into important matters. This would help you keep a record of it and also analyze the cause of the same. by a good one. Being Disciplined Remember. asking for support. The Cause Now that you have evaluated yourself. Weigh the negatives against the positives.The first step to get rid of a bad habit would be to be practical and realize the number of times your bad habit wins over your will. Just get comfortable and talk to them about your decision. they would be more than happy to help you move out of the bad behavior. If yours is such as well. you can beat the habit. Believe me. it is the time to focus on the negative repercussions of the same. you would realize that it is not logical and does not make any sense. Most of the bad habits provide a person with instant gratification. do not pity yourself and say that the habit has got the better of you. Patience Patience is the key to achieve your resolution. they might be able to provide some advice or encouragement that you normally wouldn't get otherwise. If you fall back to the bad habit. There needs to be a replacement of the bad habit. Negative Impact While you have determined the cause of the bad habit. Replacement Remember. the advantages of leaving the habit.e.
If you are a big shot. call a press conference to dispel the rumors. a bad reputation will only take you closer to failure. it is advisable to seek new company right now. How To Fix Your Bad Reputation Know The Truth If you want to get rid of a bad reputation. you will first have to look at yourself and seek the reality. In case you come across as uncooperative to other people. etc. try to change your habits. talk amicably. through the tips given below. in case you feel that your group is largely responsible for your infamy. whether you are like them or not. dressing style. seek a second opinion from close friends or family members as well. In other words. you will not be able to trace its very roots and solve it. be it because of you own faults. try to go out of your way to help them. untrue rumors or a bad company. Rather. by the type of friends you have. and resolve the issue. it is very important to dispel the rumors that are working against you. In case people have raised a finger on your character. Unless and until you acknowledge that a problem exists. Is there any truth in what the people say about you? Have you really done something to make people form such an opinion about you? If you want to be objective. take some action. try to bring your anger under control.How To Get Rid of A Bad Reputation Your reputation is nothing. So. We can help you know how to get rid of a bad reputation. . people are bound to form a similar opinion about you as well. to a major extent. In other words. Such a behavior would only cement your bad reputation. but the public opinion about you. confront the person and set the record straight. If they are known for being rogue and outlandish. then it is the time to take some action in the regard. in the eyes of others. In other words. it represents what kind of an image you have. Dispel The Rumors If you have to fix your bad reputation. If you are aware of the source of all the gossip. However. Having a good reputation is very important in each and every sphere of life. in a non-threatening way. it is the time to get rid of the same. your reputation is formed. make sure not to get angry at the person or start fighting with him/her. Change Your Company There is an adage that goes 'you are known by the company you keep'. Whether you want to excel in your career or win the affection of the person you are in love with. In case you have been stuck with a notorious reputation. If you are infamous as someone who has a very nasty temper. Take Action If you feel that there is some truth in what people think about you.
So. a person who talks sweet spends all his/her days in happiness. Now. when you respect someone. . lift from a total stranger and sometimes. don’t be a miser for words and let people know that you care. You would soon find the ultimate secret of being happy. you would wonder why you didn’t integrate it in your life earlier. the world will also be happy for you.who you think will get your help first. Just ask yourself a question . Give a bright smile to your colleagues as well as the others around you. stick to this motto and see the world changing around you. how many of us really know how to sweet talk? Our tolerance level has gone so low that even a small provocation is enough for us to start hurling abuses (even at a complete stranger). the latter. an acid tongue lasher or a sweet talker. Sometimes. Be Sympathetic We. Everyone wants sympathy. How To Sweet Talk According to Rig Veda. you need to exercise a lot of patience and stick to your efforts. especially when he/she has gone through a really bad phase in life. when he opens the door of your car. bad image from their mind and replace it with the new. why not incorporate it in your life! Read on to learn the mechanism of sweet talking. We all know the power of sweet talk. just keep on making efforts and soon. and see the gloomy mood changing in an instant. Integrate humor in your life and try to search the sunnyside up in everything. Humor Mechanism Everyone likes funny people. Sweet Talking Tips Give Respect Give respect to everyone. The answer is pretty clear. how can we expect to justify our humane side. However. Moreover.Exercise Patience Your bad reputation has built over a period of time. are given the power of understanding and if we don’t integrate it in our life. When you are happy. a simple smile from you can make the entire day of someone. You would start feeling the change from the next day itself. Do not expect to get rid of it within a few hours or days. Tell jokes. Don’t you love it when your friend sympathizes with your grilling schedule at work? So. Remember 'impossible' itself says 'I m possible'. as human beings. pleasant one. So. or your chauffeur. if you make yourself consciously aware of the benefits of even little sweet-talking. However. the best treatment at a restaurant. So. help from a colleague. but incorporating it in our respective life is a completely different ball game altogether. you are in least danger of hurting him/her and there is the score for you. It will take time for people to remove your old. Don’t lose hope midway. even a raise or promotion. A sweet talk can get you the window-seat in a plane. people will get used to the image of the 'new you'. So. poke harmless fun. Never forget to thank the liftman when he opens the lift for you.
Period! Treat everyone with respect and you will get respect too. The age-old adage of 'reaping what you sow' is true to its core. Be Confident For sweet talking. Stick to light humor instead. rather it is earned. then read on and find the best way of getting people to respect you. Be a confident and levelheaded person. it’s time for you to open up. A little flirting with your client can help seal yoursuccess. as the world will start using you then. being sympathetic alone is not enough. as respect is directly proportional to reputation. make sure that it doesn't look like a prepared speech or something well thought of (in advance). Congratulate your colleagues on successfully finishing a project. Be Spontaneous Whenever you say something. who knows what he/she is doing. you will have to first know that respect cannot be taken. In case you are among those who cannot understand how some people get all the respect they want. . only a few of us are actually able to evoke respect for ourselves. Want to explore them? If yes. You can practice with your friends and family members and then employ it elsewhere too. Don’t discriminate amongst people and refrain from using harsh. Help others when they need you. There are many ways to speed up the process of earning respect from others. It should come out in a spontaneous manner. don’t forget to shower an admiring compliment on him/her. who doesn’t talk much. Make sure the world knows it too. Don’t let yourself be cast out as too mellow or pushover. Flirt A Little A little flattery never hurts! Be the first one to notice the positive change in a person and compliment on it. while others get sidelined. we need to build up respect to get ahead in life. However.refrain from sarcasm. you have come to the right place. You also need confidence. Don't give anyone a chance to take advantage of you or typecasting you a patsy or a softy. cold words. never ever give a cheap remark or go over the top in flattery. giving a genuine appearance to your words. Getting Respect From Others Respect Others To get respected. However. If you are a serious person. How To Get Respect Let’s admit it! We all want to get respect from others. However. For instance. to educe immense respect from the people around you. If you want to know how to gain respect. as only a few of us can really pull it off without hurting someone’s feeling. you need to respect others. if your colleague is donning a new shirt. Apply this in your life.
only a few of us how know to accept it with grace. then you are wrong. but not so much that you become a tissue paper for people to sniff their snots. especially when at workplace. . However. we have listed a few of them. Read on and know how to handle criticism. there are and in the following lines. Rather. as for most of us. Is there some techniques of handling criticism? Indeed. kindness and be self-effacing. However. we hardly think of being successful. a ripped jeans or a dirty shirt is bound to give a bad impression. Powerful people smile only when it is needed. mannerism. Have a good body posture. If you smile at anyone and anything. Be serious and speak only when it is necessary. give your opinion or suggestions. Silence is gold in true sense. so stick to this axiom. Be A Miser Smiler Smiling is good. if asked for. However. then it’s your turn to switch off the grin and smile only when it’s needed. and ironed dress shows that you take yourself seriously. A well fitting.” . but they won’t respect him. Handling criticism is never easy. failure is nobody’s favorite word. if you have been showing your pearly whites from long and people dismiss you for being childish. it is directly proportional to failure. but excess smile is bad for repute. speak only when you are spoken to. It’s true too that smiling or not smiling is all the matter of perspective and depends on the environment where you work. And certainly.Malcolm X This quote aptly describes how important criticism is. clean. dressing the part doesn’t mean that you need to wear a Cavalli suit or Prada shoes. when we are bombarded with criticism all the time. Be Humble But Confident Be humble enough to be a shoulder to cry on. but is not able to do so. Are you a well-dressed person? Do you dress according to occasion? If you dismiss dressing well as an act of showing off. However. honesty. And the best way to respect yourself is to have confidence in you. A confident person attracts respect like a moth to a flame. Although almost everyone in this world is criticized. People may like a person who wants to share all his details in the first meeting itself.Dress The Part If you are a person who is trying to get respect. The best way to get people to respect you is to respect yourself. How To Handle Criticism “If you have no critics. while a crumpled tee. A person of respect is a person of caution. take a good look at yourself in the mirror. people will think you are mellow. It just means that whatever you wear should compliment you and up your position in other people's eye. Keep Your Mouth Shut It doesn’t mean that you should play dumb. in our life. you'll likely have no success. and you will extract respect from even an otherwise reserved person.
It’s Not Always About You It’s the truth. When you’re criticized. If you’re a singer and people say that you cannot sing different kinds of songs. but it . until you’re ready to perform on it. but getting over the top is not. If. So. you are in hands of a bully. There are people who cannot find good in anything or anyone and you should not let such people worry you. you find yourself loser. Don’t leave something because other people want you to. On the other hand. Make a mental note of them and mend your ways accordingly. No matter what you’re criticized for. A justified criticism may urge you to better something. if it’s something that will help you be successful. Take Criticism In Your Stride It’s very important to remain composed in any situation. never let yourself feel down. Remember. If you work in a firm and you’re always criticized of not being able to create rapport with your colleagues.Tips For Handling Criticism Distinguish Between Feedback & Criticism It is very important thing for you to understand the difference between feedback and criticism. then it might be possible that something is wrong with them. make sure that you’re not going with them. It’s not essential that the feedback comes to you in sweet and encouraging words. Don’t let him/ her harm or insult you. Feedback is something given to you to improve your performance. if someone criticizes you. are angry with yourself and your critic has convinced you to leave the thing you are pursuing. urging you to stop doing whatever you’re doing now. try to be friendly. criticism is downright negative. Draw The Points To Help You The most important trait of successful people is that they are able to draw out the points that are useful to them. no one can make you feel bad about yourself. A criticism is mostly negative. It is enlightening only when you want it to enlighten you. Similarly. but never ever let anyone bully you. If someone is going the dirty road. at the end of a conversation. Getting excited when someone attributes praise to you is natural. And it’s also not necessary that feedback is always enlightening. Don’t jump up the gun and starts hurling abuses on him/her. They may be plain jealous of your success or they might full of negativity. Don’t Let Anyone Insult You Criticism is okay. try to focus on points that are common in all the criticisms that you encounter. be calm and listen to the person. you need to try to get versatility. until you allow them to. from almost any conversation. Learn From Criticism Listening to something won’t help you. If a person is always negative about you. but it is eventually true and will help you if you work on those areas. It may be harsh and you may have trouble adjusting to the words. Let It Go Never let a criticism decide what you want to do next. instead of you. try to incorporate it in your life.
smiling eyes. Prepare yourself for your subjects. Eat. Articulate powerfully and clearly and modulate your sound according to your speech. sleep. then you make your audience a part of you after sharing your narrative and that interest them. you are at the right place. If you think. Forget what is being said about you. Therefore. If you wonder how some people have so much influence over others that makes people listen to them and you want to be like them. before the criticism popped your way. which give poor impression of a speaker and divert the audience much before you start speaking. Also. you will have to make sure that you know your subject well. be aware of the current situation. frown. and be a voracious reader. Read on to acquire the quality of a good speaker to whom people listen. Acquire proper body language like alert body. Everyone here thinks that he or she can speak better and sometimes even they speak altogether to make matters worse. That is why it’s important to be a good listener to be a good speaker. To be a good speaker you have to be first a good listener. Have eye contacts with as many people you can and look pleasant. Be authoritative on whatever you are speaking on. and confidence and you are bound to attract audience. Be Interesting Most of us are very impatient and if you are not able to attract the audience in few minutes from the start. . Most of the people just want others to listen to them but are themselves not ready to do so. unless it’s something you can improve. Good or bad. a personal one. you may lose them altogether. How To Make People Listen To You How to make people listen to you is a million dollar question in our society. Then they don’t remain audiences but become participants. You can even get much knowledge just by keenly watching everything around you. Don’t shout or scream but be audible and confidence. these things are meant to be forgotten. where everyone just wants to speak and not listen. Watch Your Body Language Shaky hands. and parted legs are all the gestures. Speak With Authority When you want someone to listen to you. Add in some jokes and ask questions and you will surely attract people’s attention.will never advocate for you to leave it. Then this article is for you. and do your work the same way you were doing. make sure that you listen to people if you think they have some valid points. be interesting and discuss it too. you possess the quality of a good listening. A little knowledge and beating around the bush will not attract listeners. tense eyes. Tell A Story When you tell a story preferably.
you will be able to develop the critical thinking skills. the best way to learn it and register it in mind is to process it first in your mind.dress according to the event and let your clothes reflect your sincerity. However. wherever you go try to imbibe some of the good qualities of a speaker. evidences and assumptions present in the information. Make a point and support it with examples. Take a comprehensive passage. Don’t beat around the bush as it’s an audience repellent. If it’s a casual discussion then wearing a power suit will only make you the odder one. from Mahatma Gandhi to Nelson Mandela and from Steeve Jobs to Barack Obama. which unfolds few sequences of a story. The aim is to derive the best possible solution for a particular problem. Compare And Construct An Idea It is very important to analyze the key components first and then compare each of them. So. try to form an idea. If you are speaking in a boardroom and people are interested in numbers. After reading the . by weighing the substantial and insubstantial as well as concrete and abstract factors governing a situation. it is very essential to know your audience. to figure out their similarities and dissimilarities. based on the facts that you have compared. wear powerful clothes according to your society and your audience. So always. the following lines will surely prove to be of help. To give shape and support to your idea. you will be able to discriminate the different points of view associated with a situation. Analyze Text By analyzing a given text. If you do not know much about developing critical thinking skill. By thinking critically. Know Your Audience Before speaking. try to comprehend the key points. What is the use if you don’t get anything from all that listening? So.Dress Appropriately “Clothes maketh a man” and it’s true in any society. How To Develop Critical Thinking Skills Process The Information While reading something. Now. then stating statistics will pull you through. Listen You may be a good listener but being an active listener is very important. Learn from the greatest speakers of the world. Assess the arguments. Developing Critical Thinking Skills Critical thinking is a process that involves the analytical evaluation of a situation. try to make logical connections between the facts. The skill will enable you to find every possible way of solving the problem. After assimilating the information. for a casual discussion you need not present charts.
Rehearse your speech with your friend. it is an effective way to gain the skill of critical thinking. Moreover. because lack of research will be reflected in the speech. create a logical link between the events of the story. Mind Your Body Language A good speaker is identified with the way he/she presents himself/herself on the stage. Study the subject well. family member or a colleague. Research You must have the thorough knowledge of the subject that you are going to address. Learning to become a motivational speaker is a systematic process. give stress to the voice modulation. Maintain an equanimity in your speech. Do not hide your hands inside your pocket. before presenting it in front of the audience. a better speaker 'moves' the audience through his words. It requires special skills. it makes the audience 'think' for a positive change. you will be able to distinguish between the facts and the assumptions. Complicated and challenging though. to form an image. Even if you fail to answer all the questions. which can be acquired only after practice. . This will make the session even more interactive. Apart from being interesting. To improve the analyzing skill further. One of the most effective ways to develop critical thinking skill is to answer the questions based on a few hypothetical problems. Explore the tips given in this article to know how to excel in motivational speaking. Maintain good eye-contact with the audience during the speech. before formulating the speech. A motivational speech includes all the elements that can create impact on the people listening to it. you will be able to analyze the concepts. This could be a simple exercise of connecting a number of dots in a predefined manner. You should exude confidence through your body language. Answer Questions Disciplined questioning also promotes critical thinking. Make use of gestures to emphasize your point. Being well prepared before the speech reduces the stage fear as well.passage carefully. Apart from connecting the dots. How To Become A Motivational Speaker While a good speaker 'just' conveys his/her intended message. Solve Puzzles Solving a puzzle can help you learn how to develop critical thinking skills. Be certain about what you have to say. While doing this. while speaking. try to assign a title for the passage. Motivating people through speech is not as easy as it seems. Motivational Speaking Tips Practise To motivate people with your speech you need to practise a lot. this exercise will help you to think out of the box.
A prior knowledge about the people will help you with the purpose. if you want to create the maximum impact on the audience. Make an eye-contact while smiling. which will help you learn how to socialize with people. cultural background and lifestyle. while preparing the speech. When you are with a group of people. You should have an optimisticoutlook towards life. See how people respond to this. in today's world. Create interest in your audience by making the speech interactive. Develop Positive Attitude An important step towards socializing with people is to develop a positive attitude. They should feel satisfied after listening to your speech. How To Socialize With People Socializing with people is a behavior that is innate to human beings. do not worry. we often find loners in the society. without mingling with others.Know The Audience Know how your audience needs to be motivated. Some of them may even be ready to initiate a conversation with you. wear a pleasant smile on your face. Socializing With People Smile Your million dollar smile can act as a gesture to show that you wish to socialize with others. because the choice of words depends a lot upon the mental level of the people listening to the speech. Be positive and live in high spirits. Make use of metaphors. Consider the taste of the audience. your speech should be interesting as well. A good conclusion will always leave an impact on the audience. spending their lives in solitude. with an effective conclusion. It will surely be a positive response. When . their education. If you are one of the people who find it difficult to go out and make friends with people. They will smile back. This is due to the fact that our ancestors used to hunt in groups for food and even worked together. Give A Good Conclusion You should summarize your speech in the most convincing way. Generate Interest Apart from being motivating. However. We are here to help you with some tips. analogies and anecdotes to make the speech interesting. This is perhaps because of the fact that they lack the characteristics required to socialize with the people around them. You should bring about a positive change in them. Conversing with the audience will also help make the speech an interesting one. You may ask questions to them in between the speech. Learn about their age group.
do not be aggressive while presenting your viewpoint. You should present yourself as an approachable person. One must understand that there is nothing wrong in feeling strongly about something. you need to build a rapport with them. when it comes to public places. as we have provided below some of the effective ways and methods to manage your intense emotions. problem occurs when it comes to expression. If you have been facing problems in controlling your emotion. unhealthy relationships and sometimes even termination letter. when our emotions had completely taken over our mind. try to find a common interest. do not worry. leave all your tensions back home and fit into the environment of the place. which you need to control. When you are with a group of people. what matters. who has many things (or at least few things) common with others. is what you do with those feelings. Find A Common Point When you are with people at a party or a social get-together. making them feel neither inferior nor superior to you. Result . How To Control Your Emotions How many times have you goofed-up a particular situation or a scene because of your anger? Almost all of us have faced such an incidence in life. Remember. you have to lend your ears first and speak your mind later on. This will make you more knowledgeable about the people surrounding you. it will be easier for you to proceed further and develop familiarity with them. Be a good listener. If you succeed in finding similar taste or interests. Build Rapport To socialize with people.you go out and meet people. by listening to their words carefully. However. listening to their as well.bad behavior. Right from angry flare-ups to disgust. The habit of listening to others will also give you an idea about the level of sophistication of the people around you and present yourself according to the situation. there are numerous emotional displays that you might need to restrict. Communicate Effectively Share your views. Controlling Emotions • The first step would be to identify those emotions. you should share your point of view with others. Controlling emotions is essential when you are in a public place or in your place of work. . You should be able to relate to people. This brings out another quality needed to socialize with people .communication skills. In the process. when you are in a social circle. it is not what you feel that counts. You will be able to judge them better. This will give you a chance to open up yourself to others.
So. In such a situation. It needs observation and analysis of one’s own self. excuse yourself from the group of people you are with and go to a lonely place. be actively attentive of your feelings and emotions. but directing all the energies towards a far-off stable object does a lot. Remember. it gets very difficult to suppress your emotion.• • • • For instance. Visualization is yet another great way to control the angry flare-ups or stress. the mind gets diverted from the emotions and feelings. Remember. If you want to learn how to find your talents. Give vent to your feelings and then return to the scene. In such circumstances. ask yourself the reason for the anger. Finding the talent that sets us apart from the crowd can be a long process. You would. reduces heart rate and accentuates the oxygen flow in the brain. It can be a snapshot of a beach. react less. Not every talent requires being profitable. This might come as a surprise to you. Trust me. It can be artistic. Many of us are still in search of the talents that are hidden within us. So. Finding Your Hidden Talent Find Your Interests • • • • . it just needs to be useful in a positive way. You would realize that it is generally the negative feelings that you want to control. often tricky also. Try to picture something that would produce a soothing image in your mind. if you get easily angered. moonlight and so on. This is found effective in controlling the heighten emotions. Knowing the reason is likely to help you in future. a candle. It would also benefit you in terms of health. technical and physical as well. At times. just pick up a glass of water and slowly gulp it down. Drinking lots of water is a good way to rule out the negative emotions. the tips provided in the following lines will surely come handy. in turn. in terms of relieving a person off his intense emotions. Another effective technique would be to acknowledge or recognize the emotions you were feeling at the time of emotional outbursts. Breathing in and out a number of times. the best bet would be to focus all the energies towards breathing. Believe it or not this would be a great way to escape from the stressful or high-anxiety times. You will surely feel relaxed! • • • • • • • • How To Find Your Talents Talent need not to be related only with intellect. Another popular way would be to count backwards from 20 to 1. when you come across similar situations. when you are focusing your attention towards breathing. you would feel much better. mindfulness holds the key for controlling emotions.
What is the one thing that you love to do the most. we should know that not every one is born with this knack. One of the best ways to learn something is to teach. it is the time to improve yourself. Therefore. However. teach what you have learnt. • • • • • • • • • • • • How To Get People To Like You • • The world seems to be a wonderful place when every one around you likes you. Carry out experiments and explore things. Know what makes you struggle. which you are passionate about. you should not ignore your weaknesses as well. This will help increase your depth of knowledge. then try them out. Know your limits. watch or do? What are your favorite shows on television? Which column of the newspaper and magazines do you like to read? Try Out Different Things If you want to find out your dexterity in each of the things that interest you. What sorts of things do you like to read about. Locate a safe environment. Some people have the inherent quality to make others be fond of them. but there will be only a thing or two. Know Your Limits In the process of finding your strengths or talents. In this process. Find Your Passion You may be a person of various interests. Ways To Make People Like You Be Cheerful • • . If you are one amongst the latter type of people and are looking for ways to make others like you. The mere feeling of being liked and loved by others fills the heart with warmth and happiness. Go through the following and know how to get people to like you. Improve Yourself After you come to know about the areas of your interest. Find out the things in which you are not a pro or lag behind. You will then come to know about your talents as well as the areas that you need to work on. the guidance given here will come handy. where you can try out different things without anybody’s interference. Read lots of books and learn from people. you will be able to discover all your hidden talents and skills.• • • • The first step towards finding your talents is to know your interests. with utmost enthusiasm? Get the answer for the question and you will come to know what exactly you are passionate about.
rather be the first person who helps them. Doing good things. In addition. If you want others to like you. then pay attention whenever they are talking to you. • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • How To Look Gorgeous Every girl wants to be noticed. When you carefully listen to what others say and respond to them appropriately. if you act happily. you will feel happy as well and make other feel good with your presence. be ready to turn heads and have more than expected eyeballs running in your . they will treat you much more warmly. as they will be sure that you will always be there to lend an ear. you are able to engender closeness with them. If you have this quality in you. You should not be their last resort. It is a quality that very few of us have. Empathizing is not as easy as showing sympathy. this will show that you are reliable and a person to depend upon. although it seems 'easier said than done'. is good. Being kind means speaking politely. However. People will begin to open up to you more. Devoting time to people will help you a great deal in developing a good relationship with them. This act will show that you care for them. feeling the pain of others is even better. you will surely become a person whom almost everyone likes. Devote Time A majority of people would like someone in their life who gives time and attention to them. Therefore. It is always nice to show kindness. Listen Listening to others is a great thing to establish a rapport among them. Every act of yours should show that you care for others and are considerate about their feelings. This kind of behavior will project you as a kind-hearted person and get people to like you. Be Kind Do not frown at others’ wrong deeds or misbehaviors. If you are tired of looking plain and simple. Empathize Feeling bad for someone who is going through troubled times. Remember. be a person who is always optimistic and upbeat. will help you win their confidence as well. Moreover. in a soft tone and never shouting at people when you are angry. Be Helpful One of the best ways to get people like you is to go out of the way whenever they are in need.• • • • People would always like to accompany a smiling and cheerful person. such as helping others without being asked to. who spreads positive energy around him/her.
Use right products that are of better quality and work on your hair until you get it right. you have to know the right styling and make up to enhance what you are blessed with. Keep up with the latest trend and get a hairstyle from a good hairstylist.Be super stylish keeping with the latest fashion trends.Sometimes you will hear that you do not need the blusher or eye shadow. Always wear a smile and be natural. concealer.Drink a lot of water. If you hear it very often. A proper coat of mascara and black eyeliner will define your eyes. To look gorgeous. but some precautionary steps will do. Wear a glossy lipstick to that glamorous and gorgeous look. it can result in severe consequences. you have to apply some tricky make up that enhances your features and cover-up the flaws. It can cost you some more. Now this is what you hear from every second person. Next is choosing right shade for eye shadow. It goes well with every dress and suits all skin complexions. It does not imply that you have to indulge yourself in heavy exercises or count each calorie you consume. a curly iron and straightener and make sure you apply mousse and hairspray after styling your hair. but make sure not to wear clothes that are too revealing and leave nothing to imagine. Highlight your eyes and lips. • • • • • • How To Ignore Rude Comments . go for a shiny pink. Apply foundation. Dressing Style and Right Attitude .Whatever hairstyle you wear. Wear anything that looks cute on you and make you look trendy.• • • • direction. Just eat proper diet and exercise regularly to keep your body in a good shape. The way you carry yourself is what you need to add magic to your looks and personality. Scroll down to find some more tips that can make you look beautiful and gorgeous. Get a flat iron. Shop a lot and watch out for the hottest fashion trends. make sure that it looks good on you. if any. Correct Make-Up . Don’t starve yourself or become anorexic in order to look thinner. but the extra money is all worth it. If you can choose nothing. A multi-layered make up is not what will make you look gorgeous unless you look beautiful and healthy. as water will rid the body of impurities. one needs to look healthy. The truth is that a healthy body and proper diet are the primary factor for the attainment of a gorgeous look as it brings radiance and glow on your face. but this is the most effective way to get beautiful skin and great body. a basic fact that many of us tend to ignore. Jeans and T-shirts are something that can never go out of fashion. Besides this. bronzer and blusher for a smooth looking and radiant skin. Looking Beautiful Healthy Skin and Body . Hairstyle . it is something people will remember more than how you look. Brush regularly and clean you hair clean and conditioned. making it look natural at the same time. Make up is a must and a foremost factor for the attainment of a gorgeous look.
Remember this always! When somebody behaves rudely with you. it is much easier to find a frowning face than a smiling one. Never ever let the rude comments of others belittle you or make you feel inferior. though there might be some major similarities. If he/she resorts to comments. not pass rude comments. the latter two differences are much more enhanced than the former. race and religion to their nature and temperament. How To Be Happy . They are only trying to hide their own insecurity behind the rudeness. This would make the person shut up. so don't even try. If things become worst. Most of you would agree that it feels good when you see someone smiling. You first need to figure out what happiness means to you and then. with busy schedules and the need to get to the top of the ladder. In the following. If they don't get that. go through the lines below. Almost all the people who say rude things to others are suffering from inferiority complex. How To Be Happy Happiness holds the key to lead a successfullife. People pass rude comments to make you angry and get an agitated response. nothing you say will make a different. while watching someone grimacing acts as dampener on your spirit as well. answer them back politely. However. They don't have the slightest idea on how to make polite conversation and often end up hurting the people around. right from their nationality. they will slowly start backing away. Never ever try to justify yourself. How To Ignore Rude Comments • • • • • • Believe in yourself. you can work out steps to seek the joy and bliss for yourself. Do you want to know the secret of staying happy all the time? Happiness means different things to different people. In fact. If it is not possible to avoid them altogether. by their rude comments. Amidst the different types of people. this basic element of life has lost its meaning. so don't let other people's opinions affect you. don't reply back. just greet them politely and go your away. You know what you are and what you are not. Today. You will hardly find two people who have exactly same personality. we will tell you how to handle rude comments. A person who wants to hear your side of the story will come and talk to you. there is one particular category that comprises of discourteous and insensitive people.The people who live in this world differ on a number of factors. If you want to get some more tips on being happy in life. React as if you didn't even hear his/her comment or it makes no difference to you what he/she thinks. Stay away from such people as far as possible.
talking to friends. money. you can make others happy as well. and bring a smile to your face. but most of the people face difficulty when they have to start up a conversation. like going for a walk. It's easier to put up a smile on your face than to have a frown on. How To Start Up A Conversation . You need to take time out of your busy schedules to do things which are important to you and make you feel elated. Think positive things about yourself. Think of what made you happy . family. such as health. It is often noted that people who are of the complaining sorts are mostly unhappy. like values. family. For such people. indulge in having one. If you were once a movie buff. Lastly. It might sound strange.• To be happy. If you are also one of those who keep looking for ways of starting a conversation. You need to realize what holds the key to your happiness. Recollect old times. By smiling yourself. If pessimistic thoughts creep easily into your mind. Make it a habit and soon. once you know the right ways to start the discussions. However. What was the particular thinking or feeling that made you feel happy? Be with the person or visit the place again and experience the same emotions. Read it often. There are certain things which take a prime concern in your life. go through the following lines. interacting with people is easy. job. Given below are tips to help you with the problem. If you love ice creams. friends. The ability to start a conversation effortlessly and to carry it out is a quality which is inherent only in a few people. In no time. your partner and life in general. but can be developed by almost everyone. • • • • • • How To Start Up A Conversation Starting a conversation is not everyone's cup of tea. you would realize that you are feeling happy all the time. Take 15 minutes off from the routine life and do things that make you smile. love life. Be appreciative of the main aspects of life. etc. is extremely stressful. etc. They criticize and grumble about everything which happens in life and fail to see what good things they have in life. to come up with something to talk about. work your way ahead. friends. when you were very happy. reading a book. Make happiness your priority in life. it is the time to catch up with old pals on a movie date. you first need to find what is important in your life. Be optimistic in life and shoo away any negativity. you will see the people around you smiling as well. Start small and then. It might not be possible to immediately start doing everything that makes you happy. It would help you get rid of the pessimism.was it the place you were in or the person you were with. music and your hobby. smile always. maintain a diary where you write all the good things.
If some opinion has been expressed by the other person. To be funny. You should be positive about yourself. Compliment if you like something about the person. In the following lines. but to make them laugh is a hard nut to crack.• To start a conversation. • • • • • • • How To Be Funny Being funny is not a joke (pun intended!). Observance is very essential for a communication to take place. play it safe and do not compliment on the looks or body of someone. Use this as a conversation starter. but make sure that you offer a sincere one. In both the cases. However. Even if you are not confident. You can make others cry in just fraction of a minute. you need to know many things related to humor. When you are up-to-date with the current affairs. It is noted that people love to talk about themselves their success. take it as an opportunity to talk further. their ambitions. Practice conversing with people. like the situation. but are not marked as clown. in case he/she thinks it as derogatory. if you want make others laugh. Always try to be cool. It requires a lot of skill to bring that 'million dollar smile' on the face of a person. Be inquisitive in nature. Look around to find something interesting or unusual to talk about. taking care not to get too intrusive or personal. How To Be Funny • Just Relax: The first and foremost requirement of being funny is to have a relaxed mind. Don't put too much pressure on yourself. we have provided a number of tips that will help you in being funny. Put questions to them. This is not true. the deal is struck . Have a smile on your face and look into the eyes of the person while talking. you will have a lot of things to talk about and can knowledgeably participate in discussions. etc. You can either ask a question about it or offer an opinion. their life. but do not let go of the opportunity. The best way to start a conversation is to be well-rehearsed. etc. This would make you appear relaxed and calm. at your presence. Start the conversation with a compliment. You also need to make sure that you come across as hilarious. you are sure to get better at starting conversations. timing. With practice. you should be aware of what is happening around you.conversation has started. Many people think that humor can be dealt with very easily. Take initiative to talk to people when you are stuck up at different situations. It is good to prepare in front of the mirror. act as if you are. . Be confident about yourself. You might agree or disagree with it. Crack jokes that make people laugh out loudly and not PJs that might make them stifle a yawn. or at least smile.
That is why it is important for all of us to be comfortable with ourselves. Be animated and alive when you are talking . Insecure people are self promoting and constantly talk about themselves. Ease up on life and yourself. Nobody would like to get witty at a mourning ceremony. Just make sure that you crack the jokes with good amount of humor. which is achieved when other people laugh at their jokes. Though it is impossible to be completely free of doubt. Learn Timing & Mannerism: Being funny is not just about delivering great jokes. An insecure person craves for other people's attention. They are not comfortable with their own-self. this leads to insensitivity towards others. Insecure people can't enjoy silence and they try to fill it with unnecessary chatter. Excessive joking is also a mechanism for coping with insecurity. They need validation from other people for their actions and qualities. Know Your Audience & Situation: This is another important thing to take into consideration. It gives pain. if you can't' make yourself laugh. forget about making other people smile. Your mannerism. analyze the situation well before introducing humor into it. A reserve of jokes can come handy. Try to find humor especially in the situations that do not turn in your favor. Insecure people tend to be very defensive and cannot handle criticism. read on. isn't it? So. However. which is desired by everyone. if you want to know what are signs of an insecure person. have meaningful relationships and be respected by others. Falling down on a banana peel is the best example. That is perhaps the best way to be in 'good humor'! In fact. one should try to be confident of himself. You should know whom you are talking to and what the situation is. insecure people find it very difficult to manage things in every aspect of their lives. but humor is written all over the scenario! Humor Yourself: Put a pause to your dull routine life. . It is about cracking them at the right time. A secureperson is more likely to achieve success. Signs of Insecurity • • • • • • An insecure person becomes overly selfish. Crack some jokes and humor yourself.• Take It Easy! Don't get too serious or tensed at tough situations. On the contrary. attitude and the way you project yourself also count. Be Ready For All Situations: You never know when a situation calls for humor. so be always ready.this can make a dull story funny and interesting. For this. accolades and attention. • • • • Signs Of An Insecure Person Security is something. An insecure person becomes overly accommodating and tries to gain other people's approval. He tries to surround himself with possessions. keep checking yourself to eliminate any signs of insecurity that might creep in.
Insecure people even become abusive if they fail to control their partners. mistrust and altercations with the members of the opposite sex. Insecure people tent to be overly authoritative as they tend to compensate for their lack of confidence by taking out their frustrations on their subordinates. make a small conversation. nothing will come easily to you. Tips on How to Be Popular • Be bold enough and step out of your comfort zone. Everyone wants to be popular and win the praise and attention of all. Be polite and respectful towards people's privacy. So. Also make sure you choose light and safe topics to talk about. However. Try to talk to everyone. Overly sexual behavior also portrays insecurity as the person treats his or her sexuality as a crutch to get other's attention. one of the basic things to remember here is that it is very necessary to be self confident to become popular. If you receive a response. you will have to come out of your shell in order to become popular. Make it a habit to know people around you. They are scared of losing and so they always keep themselves at the edge. restraining from any sort of controversy. In effect. people often remain clueless on the topic. Over jealousy is yet another sign of insecure people as they lack trust in their partners. in case you belong to the category of people. Over competitiveness is also a sign of insecurity. To be precise. friendly conversation with anyone in the room. do not be a bugger. just smile and give greetings. who crosses your path. who desperately wish to don the spotlight but do not how to become popular. In effect. On the contrary.• • • • • • • How To Be Popular Insecure people are even threatened by others and therefore by bullying they try to crush their opinion. make sure you just attempt a small talk with people you are not well aware of. Be friendly and social. don't • • • • . Keep your attitude casual. Try to decipher people's body language to understand their signals. Even if you are a shy and introvert person. Popular people are generally friendly with almost everyone around. This is visible in constant questioning. It is very necessary for you to interact with people to gain their attention. wondering how others do it. Being materialistic also shows that person is insecure because he feels that by acquiring material wealth and showing it off he will be able to gain people's attention and acknowledgement. This is because if you do not believe in yourself. here we are with some valuable tips to relive you off your worries. be in good enough terms so that you are able to hold a short. Don't be nosy and clingy. As everybody does not acquire the talent of being popular.
it is the most important prerequisite for being popular. Relax your facial muscles. On the other hand. Maintain eye contact when you interact with other people. Tell them that you wish the best for them. Try to relate to people around you and be interested in them. which reflects in their conduct. It will not only make it easy for you to remember that person. One of the easiest ways of building rapport is by listening to people.invite yourself anywhere. To know more on how to be charming. Ways to Be Charming • To start with. It may feel awkward or overpowering in the beginning. shoulders thrown back and head at level with the ground. but at the same time. but soon you will get used to it. don't brag. Talk to them on common grounds so that they find you compatible. Try to remember people's names. However. Some people have an inherent charm to their personality. avoid overdoing it. Though it might sound cliché. Not to forget. Whenever possible. Don't be hesitant. Nod and smile subtly. Try to make a connection when you meet people. • • • . don't be annoying. • • How To Be Charming Being charming is the quality of an attractive personality. when they talk and offer to help somehow. • Stop thinking too much about yourself. but find themselves clueless. to bring them to a point where you have a natural. instilling the above qualities certainly is. read on. Keep your spine straight. this characteristic can be achieved over a period of time. While walking. be yourself. pleasant expression fixed there. but also send signals across that you like them and they would warm up to you. to make things work for you. One of the basic ways to become charming is by putting effort and careful attention to the needs and desires of others. exuding a subdued joy. remain relaxed and maintain an upright posture. there are others who vie to attain that charm. For popular people. Though it's not necessary to be attractive and talented to be popular. which will give an impression of self confidence. through practice and patience. don't interrupt and most importantly. it's not only necessary to know everyone but also equally important to be in good terms with them. improve your body posture. Empathy is a virtue you cannot do without if you want to be popular. when you meet them for the first time. try to lend out a helping hand. You can definitely mould these as per the situation you are in.
a classmate. Be affable in accepting compliments. your reputation will be in shatters and people will shun you. especially when you feel there can be evidence floating around in the open. We have listed a number of tips for being more outgoing. while talking to them. Focus on being purely interested and impressed by other people. In case there is something negative that pops up about the other person. you will be an outgoing person. everybody will find it easy to trust you and confide in you. In case you want to master the art of socialization. they find it difficult to mingle around with other people and do not get to socialize much. For instance. find out about their immediate family and interests. apart from improving your social relationships. who will be adored by others around. so that the person finds his effort worthy. Your voice should reflect your sincerity. Being outgoing is a necessary quality to possess. Though some people are born with an innate quality of leadership and turning things in their way. if you are in a sporty crowd. Follow restrain and do not talk much about yourself. Try not to lie while talking to someone. enjoying people’s attention almost all the time. Once the truth is reveled. This way.• Show interest in people. Praise others. Try to be interesting and open while conversing. How to Become More Outgoing . Remember that everyone wants to be liked and complimented. who either have a subdued personality or are extremely shy. especially in today’s competitive world. etc. Keep a control on the tone of your voice. like a coworker. Show your feeling of gaiety on receiving the compliment. Be warm and genuine when interacting with people. Even when you are meeting a new acquaintance. This will help you move ahead in your career as well. at don't be too nosy. Initiate conversations on topics that would interest the people around you. However. in the lines below. Give generous compliments to people and raise their self esteem. As a result. it does not mean that others cannot be the same. This will make you a charming personality. talk about a game or a sports team. Appreciating other people's efforts and helping them in improving upon their skills will increase your importance. The content should be in accordance with the surrounding. as it will make them feel uncomfortable. mention something positive that is likeable about him. • • • • • • Tips For Being More Outgoing There are a number of people in world. read on. It just requires a little effort on your part to change your attitude and soon.
Most of us are unhappy about something or the other in ourselves and wish to have the perfect look and be adored by others. • • • • • • How To Look Your Best We have always heard that ‘beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder’. for the fear that you would not be able to mix up with people. make sure you pursue what you want to do. Unless and until you meet people. When you will feel you can do things as per your own wish. Keep the motto in mind . try again. However. Remember. make new friends as well. you need to avoid uncomfortable situations as much as you can. the fact remains that all of us make efforts to look best every time we are seen by someone else. you look great. Do not be afraid of failure. How to Look Your Best • The first step towards looking good is to feel good about yourself. A pinch of confidence and an ounce of smile would make you look your best even in the most unfavorable conditions. give a pleasant smile and show that you are interested. Do not avoid going to parties. try.‘try. People who love themselves always stand out in the crowd. This will make them take interest in you too. Be positive about life and be in the company of people who make you feel positive. Once there. Maintain eye contact while talking to other people. the more you will tend to avoid mixing up with others! If you feel you are too shy. One fact that almost all of us overlook is that ‘looking best’ factor is more on the inside than on the outside. you will feel charged to meet people and mingle with them. as it shows your respect and interest towards them. no one likes to move around a pessimist.• • To begin with. as it will help you build self-confidence. so that you can be at ease. Make more friends. With time. When you feel happy. Your friends might also introduce you to some more people. Avoiding people’s gaze is taken as a sign of boredom or a lack of attention and might make people pull away from you. The more nervous you are. This will reflect in your conversations and interactions as well. . start initiating conversation on your own. you cannot learn how to be more outgoing. You must feel worthy of yourself and then only you would be able to project this outside. who is full of negative views about life. So. This will boost your self-esteem and you will feel better about yourself. expanding your social circle to quite an extent. try to interact with others and if possible. Give yourself credit for doing things. you should try to be more social and interact with people. if you do not try for the fear of failing. Read on to find ways and tips on looking your best all the time. as there is not going to be any success. When someone approaches you. until you succeed’.
Most of the times. notice the people you find beautiful.• • • Stop cribbing about your height. If you are uncomfortable. Selecting footwear is an important task. but confidence makes you swiftly sweep past the crowd and look outstanding!! Feel good. Wear clothes that fit you. In addition. Spend time in front of the mirror and search for the beauty in your features. as they will make you uncomfortable and you will also end up showing all the bulges that you wanted to hide. Loose fitting clothes. Do not follow the fashion fiesta blindly and look atrocious at the end of it. So. which would enhance your best feature. it can surely be enhanced to a great extent. instead of something really fashionable that would make you look bad. Wear colors that match your skin tone. Wear footwear you are comfortable in and don’t plunge into the fashion race uselessly. tummy tucks. you can go for make up only if you feel it’s necessary. On your everyday encounters. pelvic tilts. Simple make up. which need to be looked for. Select attires that suit you and accentuate your complexion and figure. This is because beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. So. while subduing others is the best mantra to follow. Simple exercises include crunches. one just needs to pay attention on his or her appearance as well his character. by working upon one’s persona. While natural look is always in. the prettiest things in life are often subtle and hidden. look good! • • • • • • How To Be Beautiful Being beautiful is a desire that almost everyone wishes to see getting accomplished. being healthy is also a prime requisite for looking beautiful. push ups and skipping. Overconfidence kills. look for your . Moreover. Do not indulge in insensitive buying. beauty is something subjective. Look for colors which would enhance the beauty in you. Everyone in this world has at least one unique quality and you must be proud about your own. Devote at least 10-15 minutes each day to exercise. This will help your body look and feel its very best. Make sure you take good care of your skin. will make you fat and clumsy. Tips to Look Beautiful • • In order to look beautiful one should know how to define beauty. Do not wear too-tight clothes. Wear a warm smile on your face and move out with your chin raised high. better take care. Avoid being out in sun for a long period of time and put on a sunscreen whenever you go out during the day. it would show on the outside. Given below are some tips on how to be beautiful and attractive. for being attractive. Thus. on the other hand. Take notice of the beauty in yourself. weight or structure. Though it is believed that beauty is god gifted. which cannot be generalized.
Wisdom always gives your beauty a boost. giving preference to your innate good looks. Keep your finger and toe nails trimmed. Thus. but carries significance. it should be noted that being cool just requires a bit of attitude change. The next thing to do is to develop your inner beauty. etc. Tips on Being Cool • Do not care about what people think of you. Keep experimenting until you feel you have given your best features the representation they deserve. Remember that it’s not possible to please everyone. thereby making yourself beautiful both on the inside and on the outside. it is better if you live your life the way you like. Happiness exudes natural beauty. Wear minimum makeup. Brush your teeth daily and floss them when required. rejoice in it. This is what makes the beauty last forever. who does things in his own distinct way and does not care much about the world. This might sound contradictory. If the person is wise. one needs to have a beautiful inner self as well. perfectly-shaped shoulders. Bathe regularly and smell good. A cool person is generally referred to as someone. so avoid being sad at trivial things and enjoy life. Have a positive outlook towards life and stay happy. It is said that beauty is not skin deep. • One you have realized your beauty. So. Most of us are always concerned about what other people think of us. is the best way to look pretty. Follow a regular hygiene routine. which can be in the form of smooth and well-proportioned hands. Just highlighting your features. Though you should be immune to other people’s opinion about you. rather than bothering about the world. flawless forehead. Avoid applying heavy make up in public places and try to look natural and composed. Cool people have a charismatic personality and are popular amongst their social community. Though many people feel it is difficult to achieve the milestone. Make efforts to enhance your physical beauty. it becomes a secret wish for everyone to be termed as cool. which is very essential in order to look beautiful.beauty. It just takes a little effort to look beautiful. For inspiration. So. which can be achieved by emphasizing your attractive features. Another thing that makes someone attractive is his intelligence. you should keep a check on how they perceive you. make sure you try to acquire as much knowledge as you can • • • • • How To Be Cool Being stated cool is the hippest statement amongst guys and gals. then people surely want to seek his company and admire him. which actually implies that to be beautiful. with the help of make up. Being cool is all about learning how to perceive yourself • . remember your inner beauty will always radiate and never get faded. So build your character honestly. Read on for some tips on how to be cool.
Speak your mind. beware of bad breath. but not excessively eager and clingy. You will not only gain respect for it. • • • • • • How To Be Smart Everybody wants to become smart in today’s world as it does not remain that easy to survive any more. take a deep breath and mellow down. Another thing to be remembered is that for being cool. Real friends respect you for what you are and cherish the time spent with you. being smart is the need of the hour. do not stare. art and the like and pursue it with excellence. If at times you do feel vulnerable. etc. and end up losing your temper. body odor. Being known for your passion is certainly deemed cool. stand/sit up straight. to fight and sustain in the rat race of the contemporary world. • • Present yourself in the most comfortable and confident way. Do not force yourself on people. Be confident about what you speak and don't bother if people disagree with your opinion. For acquiring the respect of others. that too with a good pace. defending someone else or taking interest in something that no one else dares to do. this does not mean chattering uselessly. Find your talent in terms of sports. While interacting with people. Make sure you say what you mean and vice versa.better. you need to look and feel positive. Though some people are born with such qualities. etc. Find real friends and stay in their company. one should create his own identity. In terms of body language. However. At times. Everyone can become smart by acquiring the required skills. making you feel positive and happy. Cultivate the habit of laughing at yourself. Cool people usually speak confidently and clearly. From kids in school to adults in corporate world. bursting into tears or losing control. Being cool is all about staying relaxed and comfortable in any and every situation. Be friendly and social. look and feel confident. it is good to be respected for what you believe in. make sure to maintain a good posture and look them in the eye. Your serenity and steadfastness shows your coolness. but people will like you for being so earthly. People who break against the tide and question the status quo are quite often regarded as the coolest. Smile and be genuine. With regard to physical appearance. whether it means standing up for yourself. music. but do not be overly excited. one has to follow some simple tips. which will bring about a . Don't be disruptive and annoying or have unpredictable mood changes. smile generously. Remember being cool essentially states finding humor in moments of clumsiness and discomfort. it should not be considered a norm. Don't shy away from being different. It’s good to be outgoing. For this.
change in his/her lifestyle and personality, eventually making them smart enough. To know how to become smart, read the tips given below. Tips to Become Smart •
To become smart set important goals for yourself once a week. Make sure you do the important things first. Try to improve your vocabulary by reading good books. This will make your language rich, enhancing your skills. You can even read one word at a time in the dictionary and grow intellectually gradually. Excel in your education by getting good grades. Excellence in your educational field gives you confidence as well as knowledge. Watch news and be aware about the recent events taking place around the world. This will increase your general knowledge and current affairs. Grab more information on subjects like interesting facts, funny and inspiring quotations, good books and movies, scientific studies and interesting inventions. This will give you information to help you in interacting with other people and sound interesting and intelligent. Be organized and plan each day. For remembering your schedule, keep a notebook or small digital planner and maintain a record of the due dates for important events. A weekly planner or a monthly calendar can also be used, wherein you can note down birthdays and big events. Being a good listener is very important, when it comes to being smart. Listen carefully to others' opinions on controversial things or otherwise. It’s not necessary to agree with them but try to extract the maximum knowledge from others. Keep an open mind and socialize freely. Be nice to people around and show genuine care towards their well being. It is a sign of maturity, class and intelligence, which will make people to look up to you. It’s a good way to feel confident. Be friendly with people you find smart and who follow the above practices. It will help you in following the path with determination. Exercise your brain by solving puzzles. This will make you sharp and your reflexes quick. Practice math sums mentally to increase your speed. Learn varied tricks for doing complicated things to keep yourself ahead of others. Try as much as possible to feel in control of your life. Be happy for others on their achievement and encourage them by congratulating.
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Effective Leadership Qualities And Skills
Whenever group activities are required, the emergence of a leader becomes imminent. A group always works effectively when there is a leader to guide the members and keep them motivated on their way to success. Without a good leader, a group will not be able to perform to the best of its abilities. However, as much is it necessary to have a leader, it is also essential that he has all the right qualities and skills. Having a bad leader is even worse than having no leader at all. In case you want to be a leader, that too an effective one, you need to cultivate certain skills and qualities in you, some of which have been listed below. Effective Leadership Qualities and Skills • In order to become a leader, a person should be aware of nitty-gritty of the work that his team has to handle. Unless and until he knows about the work, he will not be able to lead the team in the right direction. • • • • An effective leader needs to set example for his team members and become a role model for them. If he is lazy, dishonest and shirks from responsibilities, how can he expect others to be meticulous and sincere! A leader should be totally unbiased. He should not have personal favorites in his team, to whom he gives more authority or less work. All the members in a team should be treated equally. Patience is one of the most essential qualities needed in a leader. Since he has to guide his team, he must have the patience to make them learn what they need to and get the work done from them. Constructive feedback is one of the skills that a leader should possess. He should always praise his team members if they perform well. At the same time, if they do wrong, he should be there to tell them where they went wrong and how can they put things back in order! However, the criticism should always be constructive and not demeaning. A leader needs to motivate his team, so that they happily contribute towards the team work. He should be aware of the stimuli of different members and make judicious use of them. When a person becomes a leader, he needs to delegate his duties as well as responsibilities amongst his team members. For this, he should be aware of their strengths and weaknesses and delegate accordingly. Leader is the one who sets goal for the team and help them achieve it. He should possess the vision to aim right and at the same time, be able to mobilize people towards those goals. A leader should always be receptive to new ideas. Just because he is the leader doesn’t mean that the suggestions made by others will be useless. He must accept the useful ideas of his team members. An effective leader should have loads of understanding and always focus on the betterment of the group, as a whole, and not individual members. At the same time, he should be honest, trustworthy and easily approachable.
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How To Control My Feelings When Upset
Feeling upset is quite natural. It comes to you automatically when things do not favor you or do not turn out to be the way you thought that they would. However, the phase should be temporary and not something that stretches over to a long period of time. It is very essential to learn how to control one’s feeling of being upset over matters or things, because being too depressed could hamper your behavior and thus, affect your regular mode of living. Read on further to find some tips for controlling your disappointment and depression. Tips For Controlling Anger • The best way is control anger to take a deep breath and count the numbers backwards, from 10 to 1. It would make you feel calmer in no time. Now, pick up the phone and talk to the person whom you are upset with and clarify all the issues. Write a list of things that make you upset and irritate you. Now, tear the page and throw it in the dustbin or even go for burning the page up! This might just give you some mental respite, as you are venting out your frustration by tearing or burning the paper. Do things that you enjoy. Indulge in your favorite past time activities, like singing, dancing, cooking, listening to music, reading or going for a walk. Do things that make you happy, as they will help you to take your mind off a particularly upsetting instance. Play a game or a sport you love. It would lighten your heart and would give a boost to your spirit. Exerciseand sports are very rightly considered to be stress busters. They will also help you to distract you mind. Call your friends. Have long chats with them or even plan the day out. Catch up with them and do things that you love doing. Having fun with friends will not give you the time to think over things that make you feel upset. If you have the habit of maintaining a diary, write all that you are feeling in it right now. You might realize that you are feeling 10 times better after doing it. Make a list of things that you are good at and enjoy doing. Try refreshing your mind with your own positive qualities and things which you are best at. This would help you regain your spirit. If you are upset and angry about something, the best you can do is give yourself some space. Get out of the particular situation that you find unbearable and try to soothe your nerves. This will also help you avoid instant reactions to situations that irritate you. Analyze whether the matter is even worth being upset about or not. Many a times, we simply worry too much and waste a lot of time fretting over things that are just not important. Try to dispassionately analyze the situation that is bothering you. Most of the times, you will not be able to figure out any credible reason to be upset!
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Indulge in things that make you happy and feel light. • • • • • How To Be More Social • . The more places you go. However. That way. They feel they can’t talk as others do and often have low confidence due to that. the more will you be able to talk to new people. Have a attitude in your personality and believe in yourself. That way. Ask them to analyze how you speak and tell you which places need improvement. Talk about it to your closest confidante. As a result. Check out how to open up with people. Analyze yourself and see if you have a personal issue that has been bothering you for a while. one must realize that there is a solution to every problem and this issue can be tackled too. Start by talking openly to your family and closest friends. you will be able to gauge your expressions and reactions and have a fair idea as to how would you look while talking in front of people. Do whatever it takes to respect yourself and think good of yourself. Tips for Opening up to People • The first and foremost step is to be confident of yourself. smile and laugh or get angry if anything unpleasant incident took place.How To Open Up To People Many people have a problem with opening up to people or even talking freely in a gang of friends. It will be very helpful talking about this to a professional as it will help you gain a good insight into your problems and also find a solution. All it needs is a bit of perseverance and dedicated efforts from you. You know yourself more than anyone else. Practice talking to yourself. you will start building a positive image about life and yourself which will ultimately lead to a better personality. share ideas and experiences. It will help you become an emotionally stable and fun-loving person. It could be something traumatic or something that may have left a bad impact on your ability to open up. It helps a lot to open up when you are in public. no one else will think the same way. Talk about what happened during the day. they are unable to cope up normally in a situation where talking and speaking out is essential. If you think you can’t discuss with anyone. Just stand in front of the mirror and have an impromptu conversation with yourself. Unless you think you are good. you will become confident of yourself in no time. This finally leads to inferiority complex and that individual cannot help but feel miserable forever. try talking it out to a counselor. Start going out and meeting new people. This way. you will know your weak points and you can always strive to work on them in order to open up.
Most of them loveto speak about themselves. how to talk to others and how to be more assertive. and classmates. While talking to someone. by being genuinely interested in what he/she has to say. say hi to people and make the first move. The simple act of listening can help you being more social with the people around you.Switch to your favorite show and pretend to be one of the characters. Perform . Mute the button when it is his/ her turn to speak. but for some of us. Initiate conversations. but that is the way to build up your conversation skills.• • • • • People often wonder how to be more social. Do not try to imitate the character. as this would improve your social skills. their • • • • • • • • • • • • • • . we present some tips and techniques to get more social and gain back that confidence.Yes. make up your lines and speak loud. etc. by asking them about their life. The more you present yourself in front of yourfriends. Be Interested In People . likes.Be a good listener and talk only when it is your time to talk. Just be natural and speak up what comes to your mind. Mostly. Converse . The world around you is not bad. Listen . If you are not chatty at that moment or are reserved in general.People who are great at socializing make other people feel comfortable around them. the easier it would be for you to open up in front of strangers. but with a small start. interests. dislikes. It usually vanishes as we mature. with people who you make you feel comfortable and gradually move on to others. by being truly interested in them. To help you a bit more in this regard. This way. Similar to other skills in life. you will gain confidence and the attention will be on you. so smile and be happy. it just doesn't go away. you can build it into an automatic part of your life. Start small. Smiling relaxes you and makes you more approachable. self consciousness is the reason for shyness and loneliness.Converse with people. It does take a lot of energy. you just can't flip a switch and be loving and friendly towards everyone instantly. Smile . Tips To Become Social & Overcome Shyness Practice . show interest in the conversation. Be Friendly . It sounds a little strange. Always speak confidently and listen to what people around you have to say.Take a step forward and perform in front of an audience. practice makes a man perfect in this case as well. colleagues. it’s really amazing how a simple act like smiling can go a long way in reducing the stress of dealing with people. Watch TV .Try to be friendlier.This is perhaps the first step towards being social. Now.
Encourage / Motivate yourself . How To Gain Confidence Do you cringe each time you view yourself in the mirror and sadly wish you were someone else? Do you get tongue-tied and nervous when you have to. First that in this case.Remember that each one of us has the capability to be the most social person out there. Last Tip . just see this list and remind yourself that you too possess praise-worthy qualities like others. etc. So list down all the positive traits you have in yourself.Never forget to compliment people on various suitable occasions. make sure that you are genuine while doing so. See what and how you can incorporate these tips in your daily lifestyle. libraries and other such sources.esteem with the passage of time. for any reason. Attend Seminars on Self Confidence You can also attend seminars themed on building self-confidence. But remember that you can definitely turn around the tables if you so want. This could be things like cooking well. interact with strangers? Do you keep criticizing yourself constantly for doing things the wrong way? All these traits just point one thing – that you majorly lack in self confidence. only you can help yourself. where you can get important tips and guidance in this aspect from experts. Second that it’s okay to feel scared because confidence doesn’t mean not feeling scared. etc. being courteous. While there can be varied reasons behind your lack of confidence. just remember that you do not deserve this and don’t have to live like this your whole life! While lacking confidence is one thing. Compliments prove to be great conversation starters. Be ready to do your extra bit. Reading famous inspirational books like . Remember two things on the onset of this mission. If attending conferences is not possible.• • • preferences. All you need is the willingness and determination to overcome your flaws. Compliment . Try to draw out common aspects between the two of you and move on with the conversation. their dreams. When ever you feel dejected. this can also lead to one having low self. It is a feeling that will slowly start getting mirrored once you begin appreciating yourself truly. Infact.Who Moved My Cheese and The Alchemist can also help you. It’s just that some of us have to take those extra steps. confidence means overcoming your fears! Tips on How to Build Confidence Like Yourself The very first key to becoming self confident is by liking yourself. However. then try searching for information / reading up on this issue on the internet.
accept it and move on. Accept Failures Failures teach you more than success does. One should try to do away with such negative thinking first of all. So failure is not all that bad as many label it. but success is bound to come to you sooner or later. Encourage or motivate yourself each and every day and you are bound to find your self confidence blossoming. Think positive and put your 100 per cent in what ever you do. It is just that you have to take it in a positive way.Whether you have to appear for an interview or make a presentation. it makes you crave for success more strongly and it also teaches you to appreciate success in the true way when it finally comes. . tell yourself repeatedly that you can do it and do it well. Try Overcoming Fears Some people nurture a secret fear that they will not success at anything they do. It keeps you grounded. Though maybe in varying degree. This will make you feel good about yourself and boost confidence. Another way to motivate yourself is by jotting down three to four things on the paper that you did well each day. It is as much a part of life as success is. It teaches you to survive when things are not going smooth.
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