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Yesteryear for Today’s Brides
By SAMANTHA CRITCHELL AP Fashion Writer NEW YORK (AP) — To talk about bridal fashion trends is almost moot: Yes, there are subtle differences from season to season but, in the end, the gowns are almost always white, feminine and pretty. A subtle shift away from floaty, ethereal gowns toward more fitted, glamorous ones — as in Vera Wang’s newest collection — actually is a notable change. “The shape I was feeling for was extremely fitted. It’s not something I’ve been doing a lot of,” says Wang. A slinky, sexy silhouette is often easier to pull off in bridal than in everyday clothes or even eveningwear because the market for show-stopping wedding gowns tends to be a specific demographic: youthful women eager to have all eyes on themselves. “It’s a finite group,” the designer says. “In ready-to-wear, it’s from my daughters all the way up to someone who is 60 — and I’m headed in that direction myself.” (Wang, 58, won the Council of Fashion Designers of America award as the industry’s top womenswear designer for her ready-to-wear collections in 2005.) If the silhouette was going to hug the body, Wang says, it became important to her to make the surface details, including cabbage-rose corsages,interesting. That led to a look that seemed rooted in the 1950s and early ’60s on the Upper East Side of Manhattan, though modern enough to be worn by the granddaughters of that era’s famed socialites. “Once I saw a little Jackie Kennedy in it, I knew we were heading in a very sophisticated direction. It reminded me of women who were the predecessors of Jackie: Babe Paley and the other women Truman Capote ran with,” Wang says. “That formality looks very new to me. The glamour was fresh to me.” It’s also a classic American look, notes Wang. “It’s sweet and racy. ... The women from the ’40s to the early ’60s had a polish and a thoroughbred good look. They were just to me what American glamour was about.”
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“ T r a s h ” Your Wedding Dress!
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you wouldn’t normally go. Not worrying about it too much,” said photographer Adam Hudson of Ridgeland, Miss., who has shot recent dress-trashes in the mud and at the State Fair. “I think a lot of brides are getting tired of the stand-in-front-of-the-altar shots,” he said. Vicksburg-based photographer Racheal Hollowell agrees. “‘Trash the dress’ is such a harsh term,” she said, adding that most brides opt
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The U.S. site features pages of photos from around the country. David Baxter of Ohana Photography in San Diego wrote on the site that such shoots are “about letting a bride express her beauty in the dress she has dreamt of wearing for so long, but will put away all too quickly.” Limelight Photography in Tampa, Fla., started offering “Trash the Dress” shoots four months ago at a bride’s request, said owner Rebecca Zoumberos. That shoot was on the beach and ended with the couple having a sand fight. Since then, Limelight has shot four “trash” shoots and plans a dozen more. Zoumberos likened trashing a wedding gown to bra-burning. “For the brides, it is really liberating,” she said. And potentially costly. In 2007, the research group The Wedding Report said the average bride spends $1,564 on her gown, and another $285 on veils and head-
pieces. Jessica Sanders said her parents bought her dress, and her mother “wasn’t thrilled” with the idea of trashing it. But her father, John Toney, of Tallulah, La., showed up to help. “This is going to open up a whole new thing for people when they see all they can do,” Toney said. ‹‹‹‹ On the Net: Trash the Dress: http://trashthedress.wordpress.com/ Trash the Dress Europe: http://trashthedress.eu/ Trash the Dress Australia: http://trashthedressaustralia.wordpress.com/ Photos courtesy of Trystram Portrait Artistry, Roseburg, OR
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By SAMANTHA CRITCHELL AP Fashion Writer NEW YORK — Brides probably don’t know exactly why they’re wearing something blue on their wedding day, but they’ve been doing it for so long few want to break with tradition. Research traces an early printed version of the good-luck poem, “Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue,” back to at least 1883. (Back then, there was another line attached to the end: “And a sixpence in her shoe.”) Superstition, yes, but why take a risk on such an important day? “I guess I do believe in it — I did it,” says Theresa DiMasi, editor-inchief of Brides.com, who wore blue toenail polish at her wedding. “There’s something that feels sort of solid about it. But I also believe it’s a personal thing — you can do it your way or not do it all.” The most common way to add blue these days is a blue garter, DiMasi says, but there are more options than one might think: makeup, flowers, jewelry, a sash, or a little blue lace around the dress’ hem, she suggests. At the most recent round of bridal fashion shows, there were some lovely pale blue dresses that have a hint of color but maintain the cool look of a true white. DiMasi particularly liked the Reem Acra blue gowns, but she also acknowledges that it’s easier to incorporate just a splash of blue. Bianca Alexander, director of makeup artistry for MAC Cosmetics, would reach for blue eye shadow. (Yes, blue eye shadow!) A powder-blue matte shadow works well for a 1960s-inspired, doe-eyed look, she says, and will photograph nicely whether the pictures are in color or black and white. “It’ll just be a pop of color on the lid.” The rest of the bride’s makeup should be natural and neutral, with just a light color on the cheeks and lips and a coat of mascara — not
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The Slice of Life!
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flowers draping from the top and "fabric" swirled around the base. "The couple got engaged in Italy, so the theme is important," Lastick says. Perhaps you'd like to share the story of your relationship with your guests. You can capture that in a cake as well, says Lininger. She recalls one bride's request for a cake that was a cross between a prehistoric monument and a Smurf. "The bride loved the stone archway of Stonehenge, so I did it in fondant as the cake top. I added a Smurf because the bride loved Smurfs," Lininger says. More often, cakes signal some romantic episode in the relationship. "Couples pull ideas from where they met. One couple met in a lighthouse, so the cake was designed to look like a lighthouse," says Lininger. Ladybugs were a significant symbol of love to another couple, so the black-and-red "bugs" made their way onto one of Lininger's cakes. Biography cakes may be the
ultimate in personalized wedding cakes. "They tell the story of the couple at a wedding," says Elisa Strauss of Confetti Cakes, New York. Strauss starts with a three-tiered cake in the flavors and colors the couple prefers. Then she gets a list of the couple's interests that she turns into three-dimensional murals on the cake, limiting the options to 12 different pieces. Designs can range from fishing scenes to landscapes of the schools or colleges the couple attended. "Some sculptures take more time than you imagine. When I did a backgammon set, I made little leather stitches on the pieces," says Strauss, author of "The Confetti Cakes Cookbook" (Little, Brown and Co., 2007). Personalized wedding cakes are edible sculptures and, as such, require equal parts artistry and culinary skill. Don't expect a baker to create the cake of your dreams on short notice. It took Lastick a week to design two sugar-based cranes that sat on
top of a Japanese-inspired wedding cake. "I did a stucco technique with a sponge. It had to be done over a week's time because I had to keep adding layers to build up the wings," she says. Strauss puts similar time into her cakes and will only accept three to five orders per week. Top bakers fill their calendars from four months to two years in advance. If you have your heart set on an intricate cake, choose your baker when you choose the venue for the reception. Anticipate paying more. Fees depend on the amount of work involved and the going rates in various parts of the country. For example, Strauss, a New Yorker, prices her cakes at about $12 per serving for starters; Lininger, who lives in an area with a lower cost of living, charges about $3 per serving. As captivating as personalized cakes are, the drawback is that couples are reluctant to destroy the masterpieces.
"Not so much with the wedding cakes, but I have had clients say that they want to preserve their cakes, not cut into them," says Strauss. Don't forget the groom! When Christine Costello prepared for her husband Kevin's wedding, she put her stamp on every aspect of the ceremony and reception. "There was nothing that represented the groom," says Costello, a television producer in New York. "I wanted to surprise him during the rehearsal dinner with something that celebrated him and his qualities." After conferring with baker Elisa Strauss, who designed the couple's more traditional wedding cake, she presented her fiancé with a biography groom's cake. And, as Costello intended, everything that drew her to her husbandto-be, from his passion for the Boston Red Sox to the car he drove on their first date, was reflected in three tiers of cake. "It was a couple's cake because it
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represents our courtship," says Costello. Picture-perfect Even a traditional wedding cake can incorporate unique accents. Consider edible versions of the wedding invitation or photographs imprinted onto the wedding cake. To create edible images, baker Margaret Lastick starts with a computer image of a printed page or photograph. She prints it on sugar-coated paper. Then she melts white chocolate and pours it onto
the paper. After the paper goes through a freezing process, the paper is separated from the chocolate, which is imprinted with the image. "I can do the bride and groom's baby pictures in a photo-quality finish," she says. Other accents that make a cake unique include edible versions of the flowers in the bride's bouquet and fondant tinted in the colors of the bridesmaids' dresses.
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she says. Stephanie Clarke, a wedding planner at the resort at which we stayed, the Sheraton Grand Bahama Island Our Lucaya, recommends going for the full-family affair if the location calls for it. “It’s an island atmosphere with sand, sun and sea, and it’s not just about the wedding,” she says. “It’s about relaxation and fun for the kids, too.” Many guests with kids might just R.S.V.P. “no” to a far-off wedding because of expensive or complicated travel arrangements. Amy Swedberg and Michael Hagen of Minneapolis found that many of their invitees - including Swedberg’s sister - couldn’t attend their wedding in the Bahamas. “I’m going to be 37, and all my friends had babies recently,” Swedberg says. “Three years ago, it would have been one big party.” The couple is planning a reception at home to accommodate friends kids included - who can’t make the trip.
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children in the ceremony, Senning says. “They could freeze - or have a tantrum. Some adults almost pass out from the anxiety of being in a wedding, so it’s no wonder that kids will have screaming fits.” Parents should be prepared to walk down the aisle with their child, if need be. And even if kids aren’t directly involved in the event, it’s parents’ responsibility to make sure they don’t wreck it, Senning says. Some advice for parents: • Plan an escape route: Sit near an exit and be prepared to use it. • Designate an adult companion for each child: Especially if you’re in the wedding party, make sure your child has a trusted adult with whom to sit, and play if need be. Hand the friend a bag of small (quiet!) treats, like Cheerios or hard candy, with instructions to dole them out slowly. • Or, find a baby sitter: Kristin Benson of Minneapolis left her todFamily Affair continued on page 15
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Planning your honeymoon getaway?
Come to Reedsport, Gardiner, and Winchester Bay for:
• Romantic moonlit walks on the beach • Charter ﬁshing on the Umpqua River • Crabbing and Clamming • Wine and oysters by a roaring ﬁre • ATV rides to a secluded hideaway on the dunes • Jet boat rides along the picturesque Umpqua River
For FREE visitor information, contact:
Reedsport/Winchester Bay Chamber of Commerce
www.reedsportcc.org • www.winchesterbay.org
Honeymoon Packages Available
Private deck & patios ◆ Beach houses ◆ Indoor pool/spa ◆ Fireplaces ◆ Gift certificates
1865 Beach Loop Drive
Bandon-by-the-Sea, Oregon 97411
Rm Eclectic. Affordable. Eclectic. Romantic. R fo t bl ti lectic. Romanti le
Three reasons to hold your reception with us!
Umpqua Valley Arts Center’s Gallery II 541-672-2532
1624 W. Harvard • Roseburg
Call for reservation information. www.uvarts.com
Bridal Showcase 2008
Super Bowl Sunday 11am - 4pm
Memory Makers Bridal & Formal Wear
Formally Yours Tuxedos
BeautiControl Independant Consulant
Fly Boy Naturals
Community Conference Hall Douglas County Fairgrounds
Merle Norman Cosmetics
Modern Trends Salon
Purple Iris Event and Floral Design
Sleep Inn & Suites
Bridal Fashions and Prom Previews Show begins at 1:30 pm
Concessions by Aromatica’s Feast
GRAND PRIZED DRAWINGS!
$500 Gift Certiﬁcate Toward A Wedding Gown of Your Dreams
Courtesy of Memory Makers Bridal
DOOR PRIZE DRAWINGS THROUGHOUT THE SHOW!
Must be present to win
Featuring Gowns from Memory Makers Bridal and Tuxedos from Formally Yours Tuxedos, Inc.
Platinum DJ Service
Tamara Hamilton Photography
Terry Day’s Studio Werner Creative
The Perfect Occasion Event Consulting
Touch of Class Limousine
White Wing Dove Release
Windmill Inn of Roseburg
Bridal & Formal Wear
KCD Dance Studio Modern
(Just to name a few)
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