Germane: Greetings to everyone. This is Germane. We'd like to thank you all for coming this night.

The title of session is "Fourth-Density Relationships". We would like to encourage you to feel free to ask any questions that are on your mind on the topic. We are going to start out by talking about the transformation from third to fourth density. As you've heard us say many times, one of the characteristics of third density is separation. Whether it be separation from the God source, from each other, or separating aspects of yourselves within yourselves. This idea of separation has been necessary in third density to keep you in the third density experience. We are not saying in any way, shape or form, that the separation that you have been a part of on your world for the last several thousand years is in any way wrong, bad, negative. It is part of the experience that you have all chosen. As you are moving from the 3D into the 4D reality, one of the main qualities of fourth density reality is integration, or reintegration. Therefore, the laws or premises that you have in 3D reality (based on separation) can no longer operate successfully in 4D. If you attempt to carry the premises and beliefs of separation into a 4D reality and refuse to let them go, you can literally tear yourself apart emotionally. A lot of what many of you are feeling in your own growth (whether it be relationships with lovers, family, friends or yourself) is almost a sense of urgency about letting go of certain things that have been carried for quite some time. This feeling of urgency has to do with the idea, literally, that you are moving from one vibrational reality to another. The set of beliefs and premises that were operating in one reality cannot be sustained in the next. So you are feeling that desire to shift beliefs, to shift premises, and therefore shift the way you live. To some degree it is as if someone has handed you a tangled ball of yarn. There it is in your lap, you don't know where to start to untangle it. The only thing you can do is start where the easiest place is to start.

3D Relationships
Bringing this into the topic of relationships, the premises and beliefs of 3D (separation) were necessary to maintain 3D relationships. Let us share with you some of these principles. Principles based on separation can be as follows: Secrecy. This has been a big one in your society. Secrecy is withholding information from your partner or from yourself. Secrecy does not just operate on the level of your interactions with others; secrecy keep you separated from the greater portion of yourself, as well. The idea of secrecy has been very important to maintain relationships in 3D reality, because it is an expression of separation. Fear-based Monogamy. Another expression of separation is the expression of what you would call monogamy, fear-based monogamy. We are not talking about monogamy by choice, we are talking about monogamy through fear. That has been an expression based on separation. The premise basically is that if you can get someone to commit to you, then you thus take yourself out of the flow of having

to deal with relationships and you are safe. You are separate from the rest of the world. Separate and safe. This is monogamy based on fear. Conditional Love. Conditional love has been an expression which has been very vital to maintaining 3D-type relationships. Conditional love means that you will love someone only if they fulfill your needs or conditions that you set out. If they do not fill this, you will withdraw your love. There has been a noncomprehension in 3D reality of the meaning of unconditional love. When you are dealing from a separative framework, the only way you can view everything else is through that framework of separation. And so love therefore (the old definition of love in 3D) is love based on conditions. Expectation. This means that you go into a relationship with someone with expectations in your mind that maybe you are not even aware of. If you are aware of these expectations, you attempt to get the other person to fulfill those expectations. Again, the person is used to satisfy the need of the person seeking the relationship. Manipulation. This is another quality often inherent in 3D relationships. This can be very covert. It is overt in some cases, as well. However, in the classic 3D relationship there can be very deep-seated manipulation plays being done so that each person will get their needs fulfilled or will be protected from their fears. So often the idea of manipulation is carried out to protect you from your own fears. If you manipulate the other person, you can thus not feel your fear. The Need to Control The Need to Control is also a quality inherent in very solidly anchored 3D relationships. This is a mistrust in reality, that everything is happening the way it needs to be, or for your greater good. The need to control says you do not accept that idea. You thus must instead shape the relationship, force it, mold it, because you do not trust it will be what it needs to be by itself. We will stop here because there is literally a lot more we can say on this. It will come out later in the session. Let us go to the 4D idea.

4D Relationships
Since 4D is based on integration or reintegration, the characteristics that were once status quo in 3D relationships can no longer be sustained in 4D. Literally, the vibration cannot sustain separative ideas. Qualities inherent in 4D relationships would be: Honesty (Non-Secrecy). The couple or the unit must have, at all costs, honesty instead of secrecy. This means if you see in your friend or partner that they are doing something that is sabotaging to themselves or to the relationship that you speak that observation instead of withholding it (so you do not hurt the person's feelings), or so that you can continue to control them being in the relationship. Literally we are talking

about polar opposites here. 3D is Secrecy, 4D is honesty. We cannot stress to you enough how important honesty is in a 4D relationship. If there is no honesty, there cannot be a continuation of that relationship in the 4D model. It is that crucial. When we say honesty, we are also talking about honesty with the self. Many of you will at times keep things from yourself to keep you feeling safe. Within a 4D reality, it is very difficult to keep things from the self. You may wake up one morning, and you may suddenly realize that the relationship you are in no longer serves you. That must be recognized for the flow to continue. We are in no way saying, "You need to adopt these characteristics now!" Not at all. You will do this naturally. However, in this transition period now between 3D and 4D, you are being hit with qualities from both. As this happens, you will need to make some choices about how you wish to continue in your relationships. We will state that if you choose the integrative model (the 4D model) and you truly become that idea (not try to become it) you will not feel the pain of loss in any situation, in any relationship. You will only feel pain or loss if you are either in the 3D relationship, or deluding yourself into thinking you are in a 4D relationship. That will be when the pain of loss comes up. Again, we do want to stress to all of you that we are not saying you must do this, and you must move into 4D relationships. Not at all. You have choices. You can make the choices. It is entirely up to you. However, we want to help illustrate for you the package deal you may be signing up for if you make certain choices. It is a package deal. If you make a choice based on separation (a 3D model), and then expect to live in a 4D relationship, it is not going to happen. Recognize where your choices are based. Make your continuing choices from there. Let us go back to the qualities of 3D and 4D relationships. 3D relationships are based on secrecy and 4D on honesty; 3D based on conditional love and 4D based on unconditional love. Every being has the capability of experiencing more unconditional love than they ever have from moment to moment. There is never a limit to unconditional love. From this point, your experience of love has been 3D. Literally, you will need to build your own definitions of unconditional love because it can only be conceived of by experiencing it. We know you've heard definitions. We know that all of you can come up with definitions. But those definitions are partially intellectual. They are not yet 100% brought down to the emotions. Unconditional Love Unconditional love is another vital part of 4D relationships. That means loving someone with no conditions. If they don't fulfill your needs, you still love them. If they do not carry out your expectations, you still love them. You love them for being who they are without attempting to change them. It is an in-the-moment type of experience, whereas conditional love is always based on the past or future, not in the present. Unconditional love is based in the present. Absolute Trust. This is the opposite of the 3D quality of the Need to Control. There is no need or desire to control. It is not as if you must get up each day and say, "I must trust today." It is a beingness. When you wake up each day you are not worried about keeping your spirit in your body. You don't focus on that. It just happens. So, 4D is like that. The trust is there, it just happens. Control vs. trust.

Allowingness. This is the opposite of manipulation. Allow. Allow the other person to be who they need to be. Because only then will you truly see, in fact, who they are. If you attempt to manipulate them, you never see who they really are. You see who you need them to be. Relationships by Choice. This is the opposite of Monogamy from Fear. This means that if you want monogamy, it is by conscious choice. If you want polygamy or polyfidelity, it is by conscious choice. It is perfectly acceptable for you to choose any of these things. All of these things are inherently neutral. They do not have a built in meaning. You ascribe them meaning by judgment. One is "better," one is "worse." All of these choices are neutral, any that you choose can work for you. However, if your conscious choice is to move into a 4D type relationship, you will not be able to do that if you keep holding on to any of the premises from 3D. They will need to be shifted and rearranged. As you shift from a 3D to a 4D perspective, many people will in fact experience fear. Literally you are going through uncharted territory. You can't see necessarily what is over the next ridge. So it is frightening for a lot of people. That is perfectly fine. But if it is something you really want to pursue, let that fear be okay. When you come out on the other side of the ridge, you are going to realize that your identity is not based on another person. Your identity is based on you. You are the only one with whom you can rely on. You will feel that power, that clarity, and that liberation and release that comes form recognizing your own power. It is really interesting, because in 3D type relationships (separation), you have the illusion of separation, but yet you create things that remind you that you are still all connected. For instance, humans use enmeshment in 3D to remind yourself you are still connected. However, the way you've interpreted the idea of connectedness has come out in a way that is detrimental to you rather than supportive. Enmeshment is the 3D version of connectedness in 4D. It really is a matter of the way you look at it. When you feel enmeshed with another person in your life and it hurts, stop for a minute. Take some deep breaths. Remind yourself that the enmeshment is there to remind you that you are never separate from the other person ultimately. Separation is an illusion. No matter how far away you go, you are not separate from the person. If you can begin to emotionally heal the fear that you will no longer be with a person, you are going to start to feel the sense of connectedness that will then replace the 3D enmeshment idea. You will no longer need to create fear through enmeshment. You will thus create connectedness through your expressions in all of your relationships. Many of the dysfunctional symptoms in 3D are your way of reminding yourself of some of the qualities of 4D relationships. But they are translated through the veil of separation. So they come out a little askew. However, they are there as reminders and tools. They are there to help you ease the pain in your interactions with others.

Comments or questions?
What is the energy standpoint from 3D and 4D? We know that integration is occurring on all levels. Seams are coming apart, and other things are forming. We are going to be seeing changes. What do you foresee?

The 4D version of "divorce" will be the recognition of two people that the relationship is going in a different direction. and challenge you until you can come face to face with your own feelings of inadequacy and aloneness and how you have sought relationships to fill that gap. and that is allowed. first level. So. and challenge you. Instead. these things started in the 1960s of your time. That method of gauging can no longer to continue to exist. is inside of you. You've seen the great rise in divorce since the '60s. you are going to start feeling pain. Sex. and never has been. It is a symptom. and that is all change means. If they are vulnerable. That was a tool in 3D. It is an artificial construct that is giving you artificial data generated by you so you don't have to face your fears. then you are going to start to see that maybe you will get more emotional for a while. This will happen if you are not willing to move with the changes that are occurring inside of you and in the mass consciousness. being that it is an expression of vulnerability. Divorce is a 3D solution. at all costs. The buttons are pushed on sex because individuals will frequently ascribe another reason to something as a distraction so they do not have to look at the pain. Energetically you are going to find that as this change occurs. . Change does not mean destroy or divorce. Trust that the two of you are on the same path. Some people are polarizing. If you are resisting change. they are weak and open to attack. maybe even manifest all sorts of physical symptoms. No one seems to really get the point. You started to feel the shift of 3D to 4D in terms of the expressions of your relationships. Energetically you will create less disharmony if you move with it. It is not the issue. It may first manifest outside of you. In 4D. Breaking. pushes people's buttons because they do not want to be vulnerable. no matter what choice happens. Much of this is the resistance of the change until there is a snapping point. Some people are denying them. the reason for that is that you are still using the relationship to make you feel better. they will blame sex. Always.For one thing. you will create more discomfort and pain. first and foremost internally you are all going to go through changes. Separation. Your points of view as a society on sex are symptoms of the greater dysfunction. is to be avoided in their belief. You will see that if you resist claiming your own power. it is going to be very different. you will continually seek relationships to validate your own being. let some things out. You haven't known that you could go with the energy and heal it. because you can never be separate. It is your change inside that you are seeing reflected in your relationship. If you are willing to move with it. That. But you are going to find that this issue is not going to go away. then your relationships are going to start to change. It is going to challenge you. confusion. Some people are swinging the pendulum in the opposite direction. Divorce is the idea of separating oneself to artificially create the illusion that you are not connected to that person. You allow the other person to move in that direction. but you haven't known what was happening. you can seek to help them move through changes at the same time as you do. It is not. You can then move with these changes and if there is a partner in your life. they think all it has to do with is sex. Change means change. Energetically. Some people are going with the flow. you are finding that everyone is touched by these energies. There is no separation. We understand that many people in your society base personal satisfaction or success on how their relationhips are going in their life. That cannot occur in a 4D type relationship. If relationships continue not to work and have conflict all the time. Each person is reacting to them in the only way they know how. Change does not mean they will end. When I talk about these ideas regarding relationships with others. They have nothing to do with the problem. you've tried to resist the change as a mass consciousness. they believe. You may think it is a problem with your relationship. If you create resistance.

All the other issues that you've touched seem to be mutually accepting issues that people can accept totally on their own and then share the fruits of those with another person. whatever) relationship. all of the principles we've outlined for 4D come into play." No. That idea cannot exist in a 4D reality. "I want a monogamous (or polygamous. In 4D you are acting in the moment. Here is an example of what we are not talking about. we apologize. then it is only you who chooses not to have sex with others. if it is your excitement in the moment to conceive a child (and your true excitement. Commitment takes yourself out of the moment. That brings him in to something that is entirely her creation. If you choose monogamy. Let us say that you are in a relationship with a man (or woman) in 4D. So you are trying to act on your excitement. If you choose to be non-monogamous. They have nothing to do with the other person. with trust instead of control. The choices are entirely for you. there is absolute trust and allowance that everything will be perfectly fine. this is reflected in their society's philosophy. not a compulsion). That is what we meant by conscious choice. You say to the person. So you wouldn't think that tomorrow it may not be my excitement to have this child. Let us give you an example of conscious choice. You would just trust. Your mate can do whatever they want.You indicated that the new relationships are by conscious choice. then in 4D thinking you would have absolute trust that everything from there on out would work fine because you followed your excitement in the moment. then that choice is for you. If you have a 4D woman who wants to have a child. You do not have to plan for the future. allowance instead of manipulation. If you stay totally in the moment you are thinking of having a child. You do not demand that the other person reciprocate. How do you act on your excitement and include future commitments? One could decide they want to conceive a child because that is their excitement in the moment. In a 4D type relationship. . if a 4D woman wants to have a child. although your society will change. It placates you into thinking you are secure. Meaning absolute trust. there is no concern for the future because there is a knowingness that it will all take care of itself. If we have explained it incorrectly. Pay attention to when you take yourself out of the moment. If the woman is Pleiadian. They are all part of the same family anyway. she has the child because she wants the child. But that excitement includes a tremendous commitment with it over time. The choices are all for you. You only make the choices for you and no one else. In 4D type relationships. Therefore. she will not have the child based on the hope or desire that the father will be there. and I will continue this relationship with you only if you agree to that. It is trust. Do you understand? So the idea of commitment is a 3D illusion. It is different from what you see here. Absolutely! If you continued to follow your excitement all the time from moment to moment. You don't require the other person to make the same choice. That one seems to imply some sort of conditional acceptance by both people of a mode to indicate a relationship in 4D. there is no reason to think you could ever not trust. Because she wants the child. So. That is the difference. the idea of commitment does not exist. No. What does it really mean? How many people make commitments and they are not followed through? A commitment never insures your security.

There will never be a time where you will say. but any reality that you create. One of the reasons why you've had difficulty owning your creations is because you are not in the moment. Okay. It really depends on the individual. each day. This is a very good question. I don't want to hurt other people. "Oh. Sex is just one of those lids.Exactly. Therefore. and still push people's buttons. We know this is a big one for most people on your world. No effort. It is very hard to see what it is you've created when you are not in the present. That is what I've been finding out." Never. . Not just a child. "Oh." This is why the issue of sex frequently brings up our issues. You can say nice things all the time. in the moment. I always find myself not making certain choices because I am sensitive to others. Very simple. It is an equation that doesn't work. you are in the past or the future. I've finally been making choices for myself. you can love it. Yes. we become dependent on the other person. You've all had experiences like this where you've been totally misunderstood. Some people's issues are not triggered by sex. But I still want these people as friends. you cannot put that outside of yourself. This means that you be absolutely honest in all interactions and not take responsibility for their pain. Is there a way to get at the issues without using sex to trigger them? Sex is only one symptom. In the moment. whatever is there in your reality you recognize as a part of your creation and who you are. You have voiced the mass consciousness here. you got a haircut. Then in 4D. Recognize that there are many lids that cover that box. Dependency cannot exist in 4D because 4D is integration and not separation. express yourself while not taking responsibility for the reaction. there is a recognition of yourself as the creator. then after the baby is born. As near as I can see those extremes have led us into addictions and dependency. and so when that recognition is there. For others. I would rather not cause problems for them. Each person will be able to get at those issues through whatever lid they have that triggers it. so all the issue come crawling out. and people have been getting upset. In the moment. there is that child. You must. One of the greatest gifts that you can give the people in your life is being 100% you. You say. We stuff our issues in a box and seal the box with a lid called "sex. It looks nice. I'll have to state the analogy and then find the question. If you are in the moment. Some of you have walked down the street and you've seen your friend. The dependency we feel is that we want someone to fulfill our needs." The friend then freaks out and think you are patronizing them. sex is a really good trigger. And also there is an inherent love for your creation. You cannot ever be responsible for other people's pain. In 4D. For others it is money. If you are totally 100% in the present. For some people it is sex. and therefore always an excitement for your creation? It is just a matter of recognizing always in the moment that it is your creation. at all costs. Because we open the box and have to lift the lid. Dependency is a quality of separation depending on something outside of you. I made a mistake in having this child. totally and absolutely. In 3D we've been living in polarities and extremes. you clearly and consciously can own every creation that you've ever had. is all dependency gone? Yes.

So he makes sure she never is around anything high. They like the concepts. And let's say that she came into this life to resolve a lifetime where she jumped off a cliff. It prolongs the pain. in the husband's excitement he says. She cannot do that unless the husband gives her the opportunity to face those issues." My partner and I have thought that our excitement would be too much for the other person. But in reality. If she chooses to be hurt. why do you have the right to hurt them? There is a big difference between deliberately hurting someone and being who you know yourself to be. Well. "I want to go hot air ballooning. Those emotions and reactions are never caused by someone else. The outcome is the same. Do you want to come with me?" She may just say yes because she recognizes it is something to move through. You can never hurt another person. and emotions. you may take her to one of those cliffs not knowing about that fear. This is what we mean by enmeshment. In . But there are no victims. How can you protect yourself from doing that? You can't. Good term. Let us give you an example using a fictional model. That is then the way you will see the universe. The greatest gift you can give in a relationship is to not hold back who you really are. They all come from you.You cannot sacrifice your own growth and the growth of others for a relationship based on illusion. How is she easily going to be able to face what she came here to face if the husband keeps steering her away from the heights? It makes it more difficult. then you are manipulating people around you. That is disengaging yourself from the covert connections you have with people. or from guilt that maybe he caused her pain. If you ever believe in any instant that someone else can hurt another person. I don't see there is an exception to that. It is then that each person can take responsibility for their lives. The only thing you can be is fully who you are. You've lost the boundaries between you and other people. and recognizing the greater spiritual connections that you all have that you have always had. So the husband thinks he is protecting his wife from her fear. fears. There cannot ever be victims. You try to protect other people. In your innocence and excitement. disapproval or invalidation. I don't think you have the right to emotionally hurt another person. he is enabling the wife to continue being afraid and avoid her fears. If. I've examined times in my communications with others where I've "softened the blow. This is another one of those topics where we can't stress enough to you that the greatest service you can provide to your neighbor is being fully who you are. It is then that each person will be challenged. What he is really doing is protecting himself from being witness to her pain. If the husband dragged the wife to the top of the cliff and forced her to look over the edge. but they don't want to apply them in their lives. That is empowerment. We might borrow that one. you are really only trying to protect yourself from their anger. Let us also say that her husband recognizes that she is afraid of heights. Never! If you are not being your 100% natural self. most of these people have been part time meta-fizzlers. that is deliberately hurting her. He is protecting himself. when that is what she came here to face! The biggest gift you can give anyone in your life is to be fully 100% who you are. At the same time. Let's say that a woman is afraid of heights. Being who he is naturally is not hurting her. If they don't ask you to be completely honest and hurt them. then you polarize between victims and hurters. There is a big difference between deliberately hurting someone and being fully who you know yourself to be. That is one of my button-pushers here. You may not ever know what will hurt your mate. it is her choice.

You are lying to yourself. They are the ones generating their reality. It starts building painful toxins first on the emotional level. you shut off the very foundation of the energy of your creation. we've always screwed up the communication. the more diseased you get. Externalize them. You will be able to learn to tell when what you have to say is balanced an integrated . This is a no win situation. and all of those lovely things you have on your planet are a result of your own judgment that you are not worthy to be fully who you know yourself to be. If you are continually protected from the anger of another (just like if you are continually protected from the cold). someday you are going to have to go outside and because you've never felt the cold. If they don't agree with you. Stuffing these things can cause tremendous pain throughout your life. it is going to be devastating to you. All That Is is neutral. Get comfortable with who you are. But we don't believe that most of you really know what happens to you inside when you hold back truth. If you look at a Pleiadian. But if you are not even allowing yourself to think these thoughts. Let it be okay to start thinking them. You may tell others that you understand what they are saying. reflecting that which you feel within.second guessing what the other person's reaction would be and then altering our natural self expression. You are lying to the other person. Withholding your excitement for fear of hurting another is a 3D idea. This will naturally teach you to express yourself without the heavy judgment you've had in the past. Your design is built to 100% every moment channel the energy of All That Is. You stuff it. Those judgments eat you up. not necessarily the things they fear. you must store those judgments of who you are inside of you. It throws you into disharmony. Literally. It is. They cannot ever love you for who you are. You judge that only parts of you are worthy and the other parts are not. All That Is is neither positive nor negative. to hell with what the others think. Then they only know you through your lies. Get them outside of your energy field so they don't lodge in your energy body. it submerges itself. It is stasis. heart disease. They cannot be victim of hurt. balance. If you do not express who you are 100%. This is because you do not allow them to ever fully be who they are. This is because they recognize that they create all comments that happen. If you do not express who you are. Many of you don't let yourself think about what you really want to say. Therefore all of your relationships to some degree have disharmony. that is their choice. But in one way. It buries itself into your cells. Cancer. Write it down. it is also insulting. Let yourself think it first. You are all divine portions of the creator. Write them down. in one way. That is an even greater hurt than the truth. but to hold it in would eat you up inside. You cannot withhold any portion of you. To hold this in will be lying to the other person. They do not know who you are. Releasing these things will cause ecstasy. Be truthful. first think what it is you want to say. You protect them from the things that you fear. you are not going to be able to train yourself to speak them. You can retrain yourself to know who you are and the first step is that in a confrontive situation. When you hold back that which you are. because they don't know who you are. they would never be hurt by the comment of another. You stuff it before you can really cognize the idea. You won't know what the thoughts are. and then actually on the physical level. Say it into a tape recorder. You can tell them that. and yet you find that others are telling you that it would hurt them? How do you deal with those situations in the transition we are in now between 3D and 4D? At the risk of sounding really rude. You cannot carry this into 4D if you want to truly express who you are. you are lying. When you deny and shut off any part of yourself. The more you stuff it. What if you find yourself wanting to express following your excitement 100%. honorable that you care about the feelings of another. You compromise your integrity when you withhold.

Okay. We suggest that as you're training yourself to express that you first ask yourself if it's clean or not clean. Get out that pent-up energy. You don't know how they are going to react! They may not be triggered at all. So it's essential for her to express that.. then go ahead and process it however way you want to do it. and that's cool. If they have no issue about being attacked. whether it is attacking or not attacking. I'm just saying that it is our experience that we will not be able to discern. then before you express get yourself centered and feel if what you have to say is balanced and integrated or do you have a desire to be fulfilled by your expression to that person. If that expression is an attack. Sometimes you can see that. you are expressing it to someone who has a belief system that they can be attacked. Other times you cannot. It cannot be any other way. and I don't agree with that. I was just picking hairs because I thought you were saying that we all will be able to discern all the time whether what we wanted to say was clean or not. There is only neutral expression. She can tell me I'm a jerk. If it's not clean and you can recognize it. One of the things I think is so wonderful about relationships is that we can love each other enough to be mirrors for that discernment. All right. Let's also say I have no emotional reaction to it. That wasn't my question." if you feel hurt. I understand that. Sometimes you may find that the desire is to change the other person. In fact. That is not a clean idea. There are no wrong things. and the synchronicity of All That Is. Before you express something. Yes. then that's part of the synchronicity for your own growth. we will not be able to discern what is clean and what is not. There is no reaction that doesn't belong. But by all means at least express it to yourself. and if it is indeed an attack. times when you say to yourself. In the expression.compared to when what you have to say is an attack or is a manipulation. . ask yourself what desire you have in the expression. you provide a way for the other person (the recipient) to learn and to grow. "It is clean as a whistle. whether she thinks it's clean or not. Listen to your thoughts and feelings. then there is a hidden motivation and the expression may not be clean. then express it. Your relationships are going to blossom and change when you stop taking responsibility for the other person's reaction. You will learn how to tell the difference. There are not mistakes in creation. If they believe they can be attacked and that is one of their issues. If you feel you want to take gradual steps into this idea of expressing who you are. The more you practice. Again. they will feel attacked.." and you express your thought. you cannot take responsibility for how the person reacts. If you do (to get them to do something. Know who you are. because that in itself is part of the growth process. So what you are doing is providing for the other person a way for them to heal their belief systems by providing that stimuli. let us clarify. There are times when you cannot see it. We apologize if the language was misleading. That is not what was implied. If you think it's clean. In the addictive state. I'm not saying that it has to be clean. the more you will be able to tell. and she does it after she has thought about it and believes it is clean and is not an attack. Your interactions with each other are choreographed in perfect synchronicity. so it's fine. If she has perceived that she is clean on it. All expressions belong in the context they are expressed. "You are a jerk. they are not going to feel attacked. for instance). Let's say my wife walks up to me and says I'm a jerk. Then she will eventually make the recognition because your lack of reaction will not satisfy her needs. If your wife walks up to you and says. We did not mean to imply that every time you analyze it you'll have the answer.

What if it is your excitement to do something (like go to the movies) that your mate is not excited about? If your excitement is based on another person's cooperation. then you will have matched your vibrations. To do so will actively (if they're in a weakened or unempowered state). If it's your excitement to take your wife to a dance. This in and of itself can be a great freedom. it's not clean. They can choose to feel hurt. You may walk up to your husband one day. but your excitement is based on her cooperation. It is not possible. "You look like a pig today. It will lock your relationship into third density. You cannot hurt another person. every instance must support ultimately that belief. because each of you (like it or not) are totally responsible for your own emotions and reactions. That is the bottomline intention of creation. If you really believe that Creation is Love. third-density relationships often express victimhood. If it's your excitement to go dancing for the sake of dancing (not based on anyone else's excitement). inhibit that growth and actually sabotage their own life's growth and the things their chosen to confront. then every action. and it will not hurt him.to fourth-density relationships model. underneath everything else. You cannot ever know what will hurt another person. Fourth-density expresses self-responsibility and self-empowerment. He may be feeling absolutely joyous and ecstatic. No one else in this room is prepared to accept responsibility for another human being's growth. If you believe that actions can actually hurt. really believe that. Maybe I can help clarify things for the questioner. "If you have dinner with another woman. but we didn't make it a major point. Recognize that the bottomline intention is never to destroy but always to love. because it's the way to take your power back. This was something I was going to ask in direct relation to the earlier question. We are not sure that you are understanding or accepting the concept that we are saying. do you have the right to hurt that person or could you just channel that energy of excitement in another direction? You will never 100% always know what will hurt someone. But if you do. also. No other person knows what is going to hurt me. ever." And if he feels really good about himself. If your husband is 100% in his Godself and in his joy and excitement. then it's clean. And to withhold a comment because it will hurt someone is assuming responsibility for their emotions and thus for their growth. that's not going to hurt him in the least. And every action is based on that intention of learning to love. so don't tell me about it if you do that . you could say the nastiest thing to him in the world. and in your excitement if she is truly excited. What is the fine line of deliberately hurting another individual? If you talk about something with your mate. then there's got to be a belief somewhere in there which says that God or Creation can be hurtful. that hurts me. But you can't know. Well. it's not true excitement. and you may say. You can never hurt another person. Victimhood would come into it. knowing that it will hurt that person emotionally. if you really. Let's say I'm in my relationship with my husband and I say to him. Examine your beliefs. So stop trying to take responsibility for the other person's reactions! Is all this based on a concept of victimhood? I don't think you mentioned victimhood per se in the third. Even the most heinous acts are an outcry to learn love.

But some of you are holding onto some of the third as your are grasping for fourth. You all must start identifying yourselves and sticking together! If I have truly chosen fourth-density relationships or to move into fourth-density relationships which are by choice. so you can't expect a fourth-density relationship if you are choosing third-density interactions. but recognize that's what you're choosing. But if you feel that you're really in fourth but there's still this one thing. and that's quite all right. So it is quite all right to continue to choose third-density principles. and listening to the tape are groundbreaking these ideas. reading this. it's fine. If you choose third density. In letting go from the third density to the fourth density. but it's choosing third density instead of fourth. those in the room. no. honesty versus this and find out which concept I'm holding onto. and you're feeling the pain. However. to remind you that you can still feel. Yes. unconditional love. Right? Yes! So it's fine. correct? If I'm feeling pain in my relationship. It's a significator. you will not feel pain. allowance. exactly. then go back and examine what premise or belief that you have that is based on third-density separation. honesty." That's okay to ask for that. then you're right. many people are choosing to feel the hurt. then actually.. so all the other parts of the package deal go with it. which an indicator that you are making the change. You cannot mix the packages! In all honesty. These are threatening ideas for a lot of people. If you could 100% embrace the fourth-density idea of relationships. Where does the hurt come from and why is it still there if we're in this transition and we should be looking at these fourth-dimensional relationships? Why do we feel third-dimensional hurt? You are looking at the fourth-density relationships. It's one package or another package. . and those who do choose to embrace the fourth-density principles are going to choose to be exposed to the ground breakers. do not expect to choose third-density principles and expect the package deal that comes with fourth density. So whenever I feel pain. Absolutely. But isn't that also expecting conditional love? [Everyone in unison] Third density! You're making a choice based on third density. Almost in the same way as when you're frostbite.. I won't feel any pain.because that hurts me and I don't want to hear about it. You're holding onto something from third density. because the cruise control does not come with third density. It's all equal anyway. but that's secrecy and it's third density. Many people are using it that way. Exactly. then I need to go back and look at this versus that. he has no right to tell me that or to force that upon me. there's nothing wrong with it. and you start getting the feeling back in your feet that it really hurts. secrecy.

as you apply some of the tools that were given to you this evening. Germane gave you quite a lot of information and this information that he's given you are the tools you will now have and carry into the future relationships that you have in this life. but you don't have to manifest pain. The external things will just be symptoms of the change. of course. and those changes will bring ecstasy and joy. Do you follow? So the next 20 years are the most crucial in our estimation. what probabilities do you see? From the probability that we view. absolutely 100% guaranteed. They do not have to bring pain. exactly. we will have a short break. After that. You will see changes if you start to recognize when you are operating from third-density principles and attempting to bring them into a fourth-density relationship. Now. and we're just going to throw out to you that some of you have expressed some interest in the past about knowing personally about some of my relationships. Now.Again. It's simply different. not necessarily in every single relationship. perhaps with the shortage of a certain sex in a certain age group. then it's more than likely you will manifest it. It's a pleasure to be here with you and especially talking about one of our favorite topics. When you start recognizing that and you start changing yourself. necessity meaning single parents. but as you know is a very solid foundation of Pleiadian thought. But you are going to see changes in this lifetime. We cannot stress to you how much we mean what we said about that. Sasha. If you are feeling any pain in a relationship. let me repeat myself. Greeting to all of you. Sasha: All right. Do not be surprised. And that idea is the ability to love more than one person simultaneously. just as a model so that you can be presented with a different way of having relationships. And you will begin to see. Greetings. And within the next 20 years we perceive first more stress in relationships that are fighting change. it really does not. What would you like to talk about? As you look into our future on Earth. So we're going to let you orchestrate this part of the evening. some of the understandings. literally that means two . The actual overall societal change of relationships may externally seem to be a change brought about by necessity. Now. Now. the way we see the changes in relationships happening is that the next 20 years is the crucial point. overall. Third density is the density of polarity. if your belief system says that you must grow with pain. you will begin to see changes in yourself and in your relationships. and that is up to you and your personal choices and your agreements. Yes. what will bring about changes in your relationships will not be these external things but will be the internal momentum of your change of energy. We're going to lighten it a little bit in the second half. but of course within the next 20 years there need to be pioneers and groundbreakers. It doesn't have to be through pain that these changes are brought about. then I am desperately trying to hold onto some third-density concept within that relationship. and many of you will choose to be such pioneers. you are going to see tremendous. this is Sasha. you will begin adapting with less resistance overall. However. with respect to your channel. That information is certainly available tonight if you would like to ask. it's an expression of who we are. we would like to talk about the idea that is threatening to many of you. we'd like to take this opportunity to just be available to you for questions. Our way is not any better or any worse than yours. powerful changes within your life.

I don't feel the one is equal to the other. Period. I get caught in the time factor.comments or ideas or questions on this? In third density it is so hard for me to see past the element of time. Make your choices. back and forth. back and forth. These 4D ideas do not support the idea that a third. The basic structure of fourth density is set up to experience multiplicity. fifth or millionth person entering your relationship can take away from the love that a mate can feel toward you. like two ping-pong paddles with a ball in between. it takes away the love they can have for you. As you start choosing how you want to live. there's a certain amount of time spent with her that in my mind I perceive isn't spent with me. so if I don't have this. If another mate comes into my relationship now with my mate. if you in third-density.ideas are present. again. You are batting this ping-pong back and forth. but it might not necessarily work for you. living in the moment. The dynamics will have to change. and these fears are based in third-density premises so they cannot be applicable in a fourth-density reality. as Germane was not saying. When you're used to having a mate and therefore spending a certain amount of time with that mate. . The basic structure of third-density is set up to support the idea of duality. In a fourth-density structure (which has been outlined by Germane). you're going to find that this rigidity is not necessarily going to work for you. And that is something that we would like to address. and in this mated group. I was also in a mated group. because there are many fears in many of you about the idea of loving more than one person simultaneously. But recognize where the time element comes into it." Do you follow? Now. these things are going to begin coming up. most definitely. So when I spend time with my mate. those of you who have spoken to us at length are aware that presently I have a single mate. It will simply be an adding of another facet through which the energy can travel.. if spending time with your mate is equal to the idea of you not spending time with your mate. so because of the aloneness. I'm not alone. When you love yourself unconditionally. you are going to affect the energy between the two paddles. back and forth. "This is better than this. And that is the difference between thirdand fourth-density relationships when you're talking about the ability to love more than one person. because using the paddle idea. As you move into fourth-density type relationships. honesty. There is a finite amount of energy expended between these two because there's no expansion. There is an inherent inequality within the emotions that is saying. as intense. One of these premises is that if your mate loves another person. back and forth. as equal to the love that is now felt between myself and my one mate. you must just go for it. that you must at all cost heal this. and then you bring in another mate. we're not saying. It is your identification with something that is equal or unequal in your reality. Do you all follow? Thoughts. Now. And so the introduction then of a third or a fourth or a fifth person is going to change the dynamic totally. Now. Well. insert a third variable. it will not be a break in the flow of the energy. there will be no problem here. Absolutely cannot happen. the ideas of unconditional love and trust. are present. It is not time. That is a third-density idea. then the time spent with your mate will be equal to the time spent alone. When I'm not with my mate I'm alone. fourth. etc. I am deprived. It can. It cannot happen. That dynamic cannot be broken in the density of separation and duality. the amount of love is never less in a fourth-density relationship. you have a finite amount of energy that you're batting back and forth with the ping-pong ball. the intensity of the love between the individuals was as strong. So therefore. back and forth.

Now you on your planet. I assume in fourth density that is completely absent. that there is a method by which to communicate with Earth humans that is any more thorough than what we have begun doing with you. So for instance.Exactly. The shift is going to happen. . through who you have been as a species. Sasha. Both are equal. when you lived with a group. And again in fourth density. invited guests you may call it. I was just curious about that because. but the transformation to fourth density is going to happen. Did you each have your own rooms in that dwelling? Yes So that you could be by yourself as much as you could be with someone else. And when you see your mate. Can you help us learn how to share this information with the public and teach a new form of relationships? Just like you cannot be responsible for hurting another. You are it. will develop your own personal way to make this transformation. which is open to all. it is still going to happen. when your mate is not there. It is going to happen quicker as people consciously make choices to pursue these things. it's exciting in the moment. you are excited in the moment with yourself. you cannot be responsible for enlightening another. if you will. It's just a question of when. the recognition is there that you are the generator of your happiness. and the same thing with the Orions. did you all live in one dwelling? I know now you two have separate dwellings. Sasha. Or comment. the Pleiadian viewpoint on the relationship issue came about because of our past and who we were in the past and through this evolution we came to this point. Do what you can. that is when it is equal to be with the mate or to be with yourself because you love yourself as much as you love the mate. We have a lot of barriers in our society toward this information. Either way. because the way that you will heal this is parallel to your identity as a species. The critical mass is going to happen. no. We do not perceive. some of which are religion and societal conditioning. There were basically three different phases of environments. as Germane was saying. And that is up to all of you and whether you choose to take the bull by the horns or whether you choose to run from the bull. But don't start any more crusades! Each way is really different for each civilization. Yes. at least right now. that only we entered. And then the third environment is the entire community environment. Question. And so when that recognition is there. one of the other trouble areas in relationships is that a lot of third-density relationships have been based on really feeling like you own or you possess the other person. Both companies are appreciated. Did you want more on that? Well. One were rooms of privacy. Then there is a secondary room where you enter with a specific group. It will take longer if they resist it. The same thing with the Essassani. We did live in one dwelling that is very similar to the one I live in now only on a larger scale.

And we've discussed before that there were seven members of this group. I would assume synchronistically that your civilization would also going through relationship transformation. And because we had not anchored the past or the future into this relationship. Is there anything further that would be helpful in terms of how and why you left the group? I assume the group itself also disintegrated.. One last question along these lines. let's say there's a species who is so nonhuman that the sexual expression becomes impossible. and therefore for instance.What happened?! Harone was baffled to say the least. So it's that issue. there were no tears or anger. the line of puberty is not as defined as it is in your culture. Several of the individuals wanted to go off the planet and explore. It was a recognition that the next step was to move in this direction. If that's true. very rough. rethinking their entire concept of relationships not based on conflict. but we have often preferred relationships with Pleiadian entities. So you were with the group 10-12 years or so? Equivalent." But when I came back to my planet and built a homebase there. yes. We are opening up possibilities of relationships with all different types of species. one non-Pleiadian and six Pleiadians. you seem to be willing to talk about your own history tonight. it was a natural movement from one state to another. It's a little bit different. that's when I was in the group.. that since the Dawn they will be reevaluating. there was no resistance. Of course! Did you go right into this group from puberty? Again. there was no fighting. Just with a different twist. . You follow? Yes. We knew you would be the one to bring it up. We are learning the expression of that sexuality and that love in other ways. or not even that different. to give you a very dramatic example. but it comprised the greater portion of my relationship experience. and some chose to go into a more quiet time. Yes.That feeling of ownership or possession is the idea that Germane was talking about. not out of a sense of prejudice. We know that the Orion relationships are changing. and the time that you invited Bashar [an Essassani] and Harone [a Zeta] to your dome. Sasha. The change that we are experiencing has more to do with our change in our relationship with other species in that to some degree. So when the excitement to change the relationship was recognized. You know those Zetas. After puberty I did a lot of studying and traveling and had relationships that you might call "flings. having to deal with the need to control. it was simply a recognition that the excitement of the individuals involved in the group had changed. let us say. what is the nature of that transformation that you're experiencing as a culture? We're not so much experiencing a change in relationships as you are in the same way. We are going through relationship transformation.

in your situation you have enough control over your sexual activity that you know when you are being fertilized and when you aren't. but that represents our reaching out to other species more than we ever have. many people have made the comment that they feel the sensual energy from the Pleiadian entities. it can't be used against you. That was not so much of a challenge. but he taught us a thing or two. a different developmental structure. And if you were to live in the moment. there is no sexuality/nonsexuality. it seems like it becomes very important to many of them to find out who their genetic parents are. We're not talking about the sex act. I will be attracted to a certain body type. Does the child always knows who their mother and father are? Does it become important for the child to know? No. someone else will be attracted to this body type. etc.But that's the kind of thing you're discussing. But in the transition that we're going through we have not developed to the point where we're always aware of that. We're talking about the natural flow of energy in creation that is sexual/sensual in its nature. Not only that.. We are therefore threatening to them because perhaps we may gain more attention in a direction they don't want to look at within themselves. The idea of some individuals feeling the desire to know their true parentage is a reflection of the society's or your mass consciousness's need to gain your identity through your past. there is so much emphasis on body types. if people judge their own or others' sexuality. Again. They are very secure in their identity in the present. That was kind of a landmark. that I've ever spoken to about being around your energy. all of a sudden this is the ideal sensual package that they all think they've been searching for. So because the children in our society are literally the children of all¾which is something we do share with the Essassani. Again. and that is simply that we allow that energy to flow.. can it? Exactly. no child feels unwanted. Right now. is there any attention at all on physical body type? . regarding the group that I was involved in for that amount of time¾we've said six Pleiadians and one non-Pleiadian. etc. because literally the past does not hold your answers. and we're not supposed to have extra weight on us. In fourth density or in Pleiadian reality. "Hmm. In third density. sexuality is not sex.. It cannot be used for control or manipulation. What is interesting is that we have had encounters with females in your society (through this channel) who have found us threatening because of the sensual energy perhaps that they are perceiving in us. Now. It is of a creative vibration. If sexuality is allowed to have its natural place which is everywhere in everything you do. Maybe." I mean. we have a situation where when children have been adopted out for example. There is simply one expression. the non-Pleiadian was Essassani. No child feels the need to find their identity through their past. and if that is the case. going to bed with Sasha. they may be very threatened by our type of energy. sex does not become a big deal. A lot of this searching goes on. Now. And we tone it down quite a bit!! [Laughter] Generally. On our planet and in third density. we are all supposed to be skinny body types and physically in shape. but I haven't met a man who hasn't sat here and said. We never said that inviting them to the dome was a sexual experience. any man that I've been around. that becomes irrelevant. the present holds your answers..

When we express ourselves sexually with another entity. You all feel wonderful about yourselves. So basically there is a separation on many levels of ourselves and so we need to keep looking for relationships to fill the void. Do you see what we mean? Enjoyment. Exactly. It is that together we play and we rejoice our own individual connections with the Creator. you would all be "gorgeous" also. if you're all gorgeous. then why make a differentiation! But do you know why we are all gorgeous? Yes. So you come up with wonderful excuses for separation such as. all of your relationships become joyous and ecstatic. so they will have a series of unsatisfying relationships. why is it there is a need to have another individual as a mate? If you are whole and not separate. those symbols will change because you will change." Oh. but we can certainly appreciate those differences when they are there. Exactly. They are natural diversifying characteristics. in the sense that we do not need to seek this idea. "I can't be with that person there because they're too skinny. they're too tall. And that is the cycle. Those symbols have been necessary for you to maintain the third-density identity. It always seems in our society that people have relationships out of needs. Now granted there are not a lot of differences in our bodies. it is not that they fulfill a need for us. If you all felt that way. there is no attention on body type. no one else will ever fulfill their needs. they're too ugly. But one of the reasons why you perceive that you are not all gorgeous is that being in third density you still must create ways to separate each other from each other. Yes. . Separation. Most definitely. But it is not a need in any way. When you move into fourth density. you can enjoy them for who they truly are. When you do not need something from another individual. When you learn that you are the only one who can satisfy yourself.No. If individuals keep looking for someone else to fulfill their needs. you feel vibrant. we may have preferences. That is very accurate. you feel healthy. Now. But those differences are not from the result of trying to keep ourselves separate. Well. So you as Pleiadians can enjoy the differences in each others' bodies? Oh yes. but the preferences are so unimportant. you feel beautiful. that you are the only one who can fulfill yourself. If you are so together and whole. conditions. you would have all that male and female inside your body. Conditional love. that is a third-density idea. Most definitely. So what is the need for a mate? There is no need per se. I know. We may choose to have the idea literally for reasons of enjoyment and fun.

you will not know how to cook the soup. you must first recognize what the recipe requires. we would say. There is a difference. and so the fear will reach out for protection and will often put a wall down. Just visualizing a relationship that wouldn't fulfill my needs would scare me. Fourth density is integration. so for you to recognize those needs will allow you to chop them up and throw them into the pot which will then become the true expression of who you are in an integrated way. But if the person possesses all those things inside of them and is operating from total joy and ecstasy. How can you really tell that it's not out of a need for joy? How can you tell if it's just for joy? It's a good question. Because that's what I'm in it for! Yes. so you cannot imagine it so you cannot be threatened. You see? The needs are important for the eventual outcome of integration. and in no way would we ever say to you that if you discover a relationship is out of need that you should disregard it and throw it away. Do you follow? There is a fine line. why do you think it is so hard for us to visualize the relationships that you are talking about. the ones that we're heading toward? Because the visualization of these relationships¾if you take it past just the intellect. then it is out of need. So your needs in and of themselves again are neutral ideas. If the person is looking for things that they want inside of themselves in someone else and so they have all these different relationships trying to get those things into themselves. How can you judge the carrots being wrong? It is your needs that are those . Living the relationship. It's quite all right to be in a relationship out of need. Can be. Integration is the entire soup itself. The recipe requires carrots and celery. don't swing that opposite way if you discover that. and it will take a lot more energy. they can have a relationship with none or one or many people based on joy. They have no value except what you ascribe to them. pain and struggle to eventually try to make up the recipe in a dark room. Work with it. recognizing your motivation and living it and healing through living it rather than rejecting it is going to be much more helpful. In fact. if you're going from third to fourth and seeking to become whole. Do you follow what we mean? I'm thinking of multiple relationships at one time. Sasha. triggers a tremendous amount of fear. If you do not want to look at your needs. having¾this individual and this individual and this individual¾and finding you're able to love all these individuals. Now. The recipe needs those things. you will not know the recipe. So discovering it in this particular case is not necessarily a way that is going to change it. To use an analogy. Third density is separation. yes. Isn't that being loving out of certain needs and out of the separations inside the person? Does not have to be. exactly. Recognize the need. fun and excitement instead of need.It's almost like a paradox here. Could you offer us an interpretation of these needs as pointing to our eventual evolution into fourth density? Yes. but do not reject it because of the need because you'll keep creating relationships of need that you need to reject. separation is all the ingredients to make a soup sitting separately on the counter. You cannot judge those carrots on the counter as being wrong.

and the anger that is felt from that is not externalized. Then in fourthdensity relationships do you not have anger. You have to be the one to go out and get the carrots. It seems to me that part and parcel of thirddensity relationships has been that the relationship would take precedent over all else and that one of the things that we're going through is the realization that personal growth must take precedence. Exactly. If you want to choose a relationship to be more important than your personal growth. Now again. We are simply saying in terms of your choice. or you don't have that particular expression of anger? We don't have the expression of anger in the sense that we attach it to another person. So neither one is wrong nor right. . then you can use your relationship to enhance that? If you choose personal growth. that perhaps we have not been true to ourselves. In the way that relationships are set up now where it's based on needs. Sasha. everything in your life (including your relationships) will enhance that. As long as the relationship takes precedence.carrots. And the trick is to not expect to get the carrots from your mate. are still eventually part of that soup and therefore very valid and very important that you read those lines in the recipe and chop up those vegetables and make them a part of the creation you are attempting to bring forth. recognize what you get with that choice. but don't expect the fourth-density package deal with that choice. however. I become angry. personal growth will always have to suffer. where we will recognize that we have embraced a reality that we don't prefer. which will eventually become a very valuable thing. we're talking in ways that are different than you. you are choosing to integrate yourself. Do you want to comment on that? Well. Go to your own garden. in the book "Messages from Michael" in the first few pages Michael was discussing the fact that one of his purposes for channeling information was to get us off of this attention on relationships and help redirect our attention on selfimprovement (that's a paraphrase). They are ideas that will eventually be put into the pot. If you choose personal growth over relationships. Nothing exists without a purpose. the way we will comment on it is that in one way there is no must in the sense that you are very welcome to choose relationships over personal growth. if my mate does not provide the needs that I expected my mate to provide. as dysfunctional as they may be. But if you choose personal growth. you are making a fourth-density choice and then you can accept the fourth-density package to go along with it. We do not have that particular expression. You're not attacking someone. There are times when we recognize. and obviously I think I'm angry at him but I'm angry because I'm not getting my needs met through my own efforts. Exactly. then recognize it's a choice of separation and that with that choice comes the package of third density. and your needs.

I have one question. The intention is to maintain the fourth density. and I can tune into it. All you are responsible for is what in your integrity you would like to give to a relationship.Recently my relationship changed with my mate and I went on vacation. Well. And even if I'm able to say. but there is. I follow. pulling yourself back into third density. or do you want to pursue it from the fourth-density relationship and getting the package deal with that? So yes a whole new world has opened up for you which can do nothing but enrich you in the long run. But it came into my life suddenly. I refuse to do that. if that's the case. that need is okay. or just recognizing that her needs exist? Her needs? Yes. . What Sasha is not saying is that you cannot satisfy those needs of another person. the bottomline question with that as a set up is I don't understand why I even feel concerned that I'm depriving them of getting their physical or physiological needs met by another person. But that still doesn't mean that I would then meet those needs? Just recognizing them rather than meeting them. Back in this needs issue. Because you are making the transition from third to fourth. So your seeing that in yourself is very important. That is all you are responsible for. I think you are because you answered it perfectly! You said that when I recognized the need that I would then put them in the pot. but why does it seem to be my choice to feel like I'm doing that? That's my question. from my thirddensity perspective. The last thing on my mind was a new relationship. But does that mean that I would then be physically satisfying those needs. That doesn't matter. and you're recognizing the specific areas that you would like to clear." then I start sometimes feeling guilty that if I'm involving the other person totally at a fourth-density level. You are not responsible for whether her needs are met or not. but would you narrow the question and ask it again. and I feel it's a very good answer. If they feel deprived. It needs to be seen and put in the pot in order to transform into the soup. You have given yourself an opportunity now to make a conscious choice. But you can play out that game. then there's a tendency to think I need to fall into third density and fulfill needs for the other person. then there's no room for them to get their needs met by somebody else if that's their choice. and I find that there's a tendency to go back and forth. I guess. getting the package deal there. Well. And like we say with the soup. and if I don't stay conscious of that intention really clearly. it's their choice. I appreciate that. Ahhh. We're not understanding the exact question. Do you want to pursue this relationship from a third-density perspective. I'm pursuing or engaged in a relationship by intention at the fourth density. "No. You cannot deprive another person. There is a part of you which still needs to feel validated by providing for another. We are sorry.

Seventy-five percent. Now. My husband tried to provide that safety and protection for me. caring and sharing. play. Obviously that is a trap. and that's when the manipulation and the control begins. That's why that sense of ecstasy is there. If you have that need. And just be pure in my own intention. but he would have no idea how I want that provided. You cannot know what the other person's needs are. Literally 75% of anger in relationships stems from one partner or the other believing or being angry that the other person is not fulfilling needs. I expected a few things! If the excitement and the romance does not peter out by its own nature then it's simply sabotaged to death. you cannot know. but he didn't know that that was what I wanted. That is so correct. Exactly. starts setting in. whether you're trying to protect them from their emotions or you're trying to communicate to them. nearly nonexistent. you're not in fourth density. That taken 100-fold deeper is what our relationships are like all the time.which is exactly what I do not want to do. Exactly. So all I can do is present myself at my fourth-density awareness. very low¾hidden anger. Now the Pleiadian relationships framework can be likened to the beginning of your relationships when your expectations were very low and you are truly in the level of enjoyment. and then they will be angry. and let it be whatever it ends up being. and it started out. Is one of the reasons that new relationships are so delightful is because we haven't started manipulating the other person? Yes. In other words. For one thing. If you try to get caught in the game of satisfying those needs. there has not been time yet for the new person to fulfill or not fulfill your needs. Period. as soon as they either start fulfilling you or not fulfilling you. and my two basic needs were safety and protection. One of the things that we ran into was that I finally started examining what I felt my needs were. However. and because the person is seeking to have needs met outside of themselves. ecstasy. But sometimes I seem to feel that I could just get out of the way and she could get her needs satisfied whatever way she wanted but that's depriving the potential of the fourth-density relationship. imagine what a relationship would be like if you did not need to be fulfilled by another. Am I on track? Yes. They will not verbalize them. because I was just thinking about the new relationship I was in. the anger. So this now leaves us with one more need: the need for somebody to be with us that maintains the fourth-density intention also. hostility. sometimes they don't even know themselves on the conscious level. So when you have no expectations . you will get caught because it is a game." and then I realized about two months into it that I couldn't say that anymore. they will never be satisfied. my idea of safety was for him to put his arm around me every time we walked into a room. You are still playing the thirddensity game. You can never second-guess another person. so the only thing that you can do is be 100% who you are. I remember saying. whether covert or overt. "I don't expect anything from it. the level of anger would be very.

And so. they will transform. what a load off your energy. "If you can't feel the pain.about the other person fulfilling your needs. yes. you can truly experience unconditional love. when you stop expecting another person to make you feel whole. and if your needs are not met you don't give that love. what a load off your mind that is. so then you can actually go through it by turning that around to unconditionally loving them in spite of the issue. 1995 by Royal Priest Research." In third density. . yes. whether diving right in or taking it baby steps. It's a gradual movement from third. Much. that you're angry at. The joy will start to grow. is difficult. are so valuable because they make up the soup. and you're going to start feeling changes inside of yourself. and those of you who choose to embrace the fourthdensity idea. and we truly are excited to watch this happen because you will start to begin to see your divine connection. much love to each and every one of you. we would like to close this evening with that acknowledgement and recognition of all that you've chosen. By recognizing when you are conditionally loving someone. the things that you see now that you don't like in yourself. you will soar. for like the analogy of the soup and the carrot. going to start seeing changes.to fourth-density thinking. and we've heard comments that humans have made such as. Much love and goodnight. What wonderful things await all of you! We know that your relationships are painful. that you judge. But we would also like to remind you that if you were incapable of taking the path you never would have chosen it. that idea cannot exist. That love that you will contain will be beyond what you can now conceive. and they will always be an issue. The pain will start to subside. You all have a tremendous amount of love and joy locked within you that will begin to blossom when you stop expecting another person to validate you. Again. It has been an absolute joy to have been a part of your gathering this evening. We would like to honor you and acknowledge you for taking a path that. and it is our sensing that we will speak again on this matter shortly. So we don't have to wait for our needs to be gone for us to experience this love? Correct. you then know there's an issue. Copyright © 1993. it's not a light switch going on and off. The conditional love that is felt in third density is the love you will give if your needs are met. You will start to begin to know truly the beams of love that you really are. It will just automatically start unfolding. Can you begin to experience that love while still having the needs and recognizing them also? Absolutely. you can't feel the ecstasy. In fourth density. Yes. If you judge them. You are moving in that direction. But if you allow them to exist and you take them with you in your growth. they will stay there on the counter. All Rights Reserved. You can enjoy yourself. I know a lot of people right now would chuck the whole fourth-density idea if they thought they had to manually clear all their needs before they got there. much. Once that idea is relinquished. that makes a lot of sense.

it simply means the idea of absorption or being hidden . It took them a very. "Black" is not meant to be negative. we will integrate them together. the belief systems that you as a civilization have been exposed to during your infancy as a species.ET History and Sexuality Category: Channeled. have connections with the Orion civilization and have come here in order to break certain cycles. For any of you who have seen the Star Wars trilogy. the Empire in the movie is kindergarten compared to the actual expression of this Empire energy within the Orion civilization. We're going to begin first with a civilization called Orion . As you know. the Black League Stalemate So you have the active Empire individuals. First. So let us start with Orion.that is how you see it from your Earth plane. neither person is going to win. The Empire vs. Now one was the idea of the sexuality of some of the races that are very close to you. who were the freedom fighters. Orion Civilization . We're going to talk a little bit about how their societal structure affects you on Earth at this time. First of all. certain patterns of conflict. This will also illuminate the particular societal structures that each of these races have so you'll get a little bit of both . This is the energy. The idea .they did not want to be found. That responsibility often meant they would use force and other methods you would perhaps think did not have much integrity. for instance. recognize that these particular civilizations we are talking about represent either your physical forefathers or forefather energies. They were one of the areas of your galactic family that was committed to resolving polarity or conflict. lose your identity or your memory of Orion and start again. If they were found. Basically we'll outline to you the philosophies of the Orion civilization. So the general dynamic is as follows: The Empire was the dominant force within the Orion civilization. incarnationally speaking. Thus you can see the dynamic. they would be annihilated. the Orion civilization was based on the idea of conflict. if the weight is balanced on both sides. you have a good possibility of adopting in adulthood. very long time to realize that all they were doing was holding a balance through the amount of negativity each group placed on the other. whatever energy you are exposed to as infants. in your galactic family and another subject was that of galactic heritage. Many of you on Earth. That's the general dynamic of the Orion civilization. Earth was a place where you could come. Since there were two subject matters advertised for this evening. What we're going to do is to talk about some of the sexual belief systems of several races that are close to you. These individuals we've called the Black League. you have individuals who were the subjects of the Empire and you have a very widespread underground group who resisted the Empire. This is Germane. This Empire took it upon itself to be responsible for its citizens. In a tug-of-war.galactic heritage and sexuality. These resisters were fighting the Empire and both the resisters and the Empire were using the same methodologies with which to bring about their desires.Conflict We might as well begin with the polarized point of view.

You will find that the nature of personal relationships in any society is a product of the dynamics of that society . very close to them. and even a bit scary for some of you. born out of the conflict of their civilization: They have learned through thousands of years not to trust. to release the energy of conflict. There is no "sneaking around. very intense in a certain way. This is why an individual is excited only by the mate because they literally cannot allow themselves to be vulnerable with anyone else. The mate is literally the one person with whom they allow themselves total vulnerability. The Orions have what we could call monogamy. and there's no doubt of that recognition. because this is the energy that you on Earth. but there is an understanding that the surrogate relationship is temporary. because if you had kept your entire memory intact.the relationship becomes as mates. There is no competition between surrogates and primary mates. This surrogate relationship is for the purpose of releasing energy through sexuality. That is the energy dynamic behind how their relationships are structured. the arousal and the excitement come because the person is their mate. During the period of time when one is seeking a mate. Surrogates So. the entire dynamic is a result of the structure of their society. But if someone has to go on a mission or travel away from the mate. This is because of the societal dynamics within the Orion system. but also through nonsexual intimacy. they already have their antennae out looking for a mate.when two people come together who are to be mated. The relationship between Orions and their mate is of number one importance in the lifetime of the individual. When one is chosen as a surrogate in the Orion civilization.of losing your memory has actually been something that's worked for you rather than against you. The relationship dynamic is primarily that of the Black League civilization (the resistance groups). to release emotional energy. So you can imagine that the Orion relationships would be very. This is for a very specific reason. There's a recognition . Very often other forces infiltrate their reality. resonate with the most. for an Orion is not aroused by anyone who is not their mate. but it's not necessarily the way it is on your planet. When you're chosen as a surrogate . there is no (to use a colloquialism) sleeping around. Again. In your civilization you are attracted to someone first and then you decide whether or not to make them your mate. The Orions mate for life. it's a tremendous honor and privilege.your civilization included.an instant recognition . This is the opposite.and you choose to be a surrogate. and so they've learned never to allow themselves to be vulnerable except with individuals who are very. So this is the one we will talk about. it is expected of each of the mates to take a surrogate. at least for now." That is not an idea that is compatible with the Orion philosophy because of the idea of vulnerability. because it's definitely a two-way street . When an Orion is the equivalent of a teenager at puberty. Orion Monogamous Relationships Now let us talk about the relationships in the Orion civilization. This means that the Orion relationships were a product of their dynamic of conflict. to say the least. but from their . So when the mate is finally found. although it's different from the monogamy you have upon your world. So you can see that the entire expression of relationships was from your point of view perhaps a little limiting. is there ever infidelity in the Orion system? It depends on your definition of infidelity. you ask. some of the memories (especially the Orion memories) would be quite intense.

point of view extremely fulfilling. we will compare this idea to that of the Vulcan. That is an undisciplined thought. is that the Orions do not know the concept of sexual fantasy. one is for exchange of intimacy. It is channeled through discipline and released through sexuality. societally speaking. Any fantasy or any thought of intimate expression can only be expressed . Because they did not have the idea of fantasy outside of the idea of mates. However. The Orions have gotten to the point where they are not repressing. yes. There were some situations of group marriage that were usually temporary. When the conflict was eventually resolved and they had to learn to live differently. Now. The Orion civilization was many. so it's not a repression of anything. and those types of thoughts were simply less and less necessary. It's simply the way they are. This is not anything that is imposed on them.it's second nature. Q: Is it totally a cultural thing? Or has it been encoded in their genetics after awhile? It is encoded in their genetics after awhile. They did find it to be extremely satisfying for their civilization.in the direction of the mate. One thing we would like to say here. there was a lot of genetic change. another mated couple may take in the remaining spouse temporarily to act as surrogates until that spouse finds another mate. which also points out the difference between you and the Orions. So it would depend on which period of time. Through eons of time they have been disciplining themselves. they moved very slowly. many thousands of years long. It is simply the way they've rewired themselves to channel emotional energy. But. During the times of the intense conflict. yes. for instance. so it would depend on which era you're talking about as to how genetically coded it was. how they're excited? We have talked in the past about this and Akbar has given the information in the book. it is eventually genetically encoded. etc. it takes a force to repress the emotionality. Q: I was thinking about how they had to learn to control their stress reactions because of the conflict. they repress fantasy. there are basically three different types of sexual expression that the Orions used with their mates: One is for procreation. thinking about how nice it will be to take the mate in her arms. Let's stop for a minute to ask if there's something you have a comment or question about. Because of this. Q: What about their glandular system and the way they react to stress? Does that have anything to do with the way the react to their sexuality. When one is under stress. Experience does change genetics. that is the way the stress is released. So the closest thing to an Orion fantasy would be a female thinking about when her mate is coming home. for instance. Fantasy with someone you saw walking down the street. If one mate was killed. This is why it is of primary . before the conflict was resolved. But generally speaking there is a lot of rigidity. for fantasy simply does not exist. But that was a difficult one. does not exist. they started thinking of different ways to express their relationships. and the other is the expression of sexuality as a raw energy form. They are extremely disciplined in their mentality. those of you who are familiar with some of the Star Trek scenarios.even in thought . The Vulcan is repressing. After awhile it's no longer control .

The difference is that they recognize immediately when it's time to .some from Orion and some from other civilizations. the expression of love and sexuality at that moment is literally so complete and balanced and whole that there is no need to attach themselves to the other person and drag them through eternity. ancient Pleiadian past. This is a direct connection to what we are talking about regarding the channeling of certain primal energies. At this time they did not understand how vital negative energy is when you balance them and channel them. You on your planet have a combination of sexual attitudes . You don't have to be as disciplined. they're monogamous in the moment. pledges at the altar do not guarantee that.importance that each Orion have a mate. If you are in a Pleiadian civilization.and that is how they choose to live their lives. an opposite energy to the Orion civilization." which is simply taking the monogamy idea and expanding it so instead of two people. So they were intent on repressing negativity. Whereas the Orions were very rigid and very disciplined in the expression of their emotion and their vulnerability.what you would call marriage. This brings up a lot of insecurity in some individuals we've talked to. The person they're with at that moment is the only person they are with energetically. very committed to each other. the Pleiadians are much more open and flowing with these positive emotions. to some degree. From their definition of monogamy (and they've kind of twisted the definition a little bit). one on one . This does not necessarily mean that they never live with one person or never have a type of marriage relationship with one person. They are instead pledging and celebrating their love in the moment. There are also married groups. because there are other ways of channeling energy.Positivity Now we're going to go on to another civilization . very connected. but you will find that mated relationships become very important during wartime.in themselves and in their expression of their sexuality. This is. The Pleiadian Civilization . We would consider that to be nonmonogamous according to your definition of monogamous. That's their idea of monogamy. many of them do.but it's a little bit different from what you have here on your Earth. there are three or more. Present-Time Monogamy There are primary relationships within the Pleiadian system . you may do some research. recognize emotionality in the moment . We do not know if this has been studied or not on your planet. So if any of you wish to examine that further. But as you know from the statistics on your planet. So what the Pleiadians have done is to recognize spontaneity. a lot of their relationship structures and their beliefs about relationships and sexuality came from this desire to not look at negativity. But you will find that in history on your planet during wartime. During times of peace other things are looked at. their methodologies of relationships and sexuality was born out of their environmental conditions. which you have here on your world called "polyfidelity. As with the Orions. They have ceremonies. These marriage units are very loving. but when they pledge their love to a person. Because of this focus on positivity. because many individuals on your planet desire the security of having someone that you know is going to be there when you're 80 years old and in your rocking chair. they feel secure . the Pleiadians were very desirous of maintaining positive energy in their reality.the Pleiadian civilization. they're not pledging their love for the future. In the ancient. Because they have so many of these whole and complete interactions. marriage rates increase.

the idea that most people on Earth at this time do not practice true monogamy. And that is not a valid choice for monogamy. Q: What's the definition of monogamy? On what planet? Q: From the definitions I've looked at. my mind thinks of monogamy as not being sexually committed to just one person. When monogamy is chosen consciously instead of as a denial of something else (which we'll talk about in a moment). and there is a disconnection. It's because they do not differentiate between sensuality or sexuality and life.move into something else. you may feel that there's a lot of sensual energy coming from that being.but when it occurs on that basis is where the problems are. as all of you are committing yourselves to your own personal growth. total respect with no personal pain withheld on the part of the other person. 100% of the time when one of you feels the relationship is changed. They express their sexuality only when they're with their mate in a certain disciplined time period. This is changing now. both of you have. etc. it's very. The Pleiadians allow their sexual energy to permeate every aspect of their life.fear and unwillingness to do what you think is right. very safe. So if you have an interaction with a Pleiadian. Monogamy Defined The definition in your society of monogamy is two people committed to each other. however. However. you get used to the partner. Stephen said something very interesting yesterday about true monogamy. This allows relationships to be very fluid and the sexual energy within the partners is not held or blocked but is channeled through their entire body and into their lives. will attempt to latch on to you. That philosophy is brought into their society by how they structure their relationships. The definitions don't even say anything about sex. it's the complete and full channeling of that energy through their embodiment. or may be living in their own type of creation and cannot see what's really happening. It's just that one person may not be recognizing it. certain fears. that would be expressed as true monogamy. you don't have to face certain issues. What he said was that many of us base our decision to be monogamous on insecurity of the moment and of the future . When you are in a monogamous relationship. and you can go about your life focusing your sexuality in a very tight beam. not having sexual relations with another person. there are individuals in your society who choose monogamy for other reasons. Sensuality or sexuality to them is life. "This has been an absolutely wonderfully fulfilling relationship for me.it does . Not that it does not occur here . kind of like the . One interesting contrast is that the Orions do not express sexuality in day-to-day life. Within the Pleiadian system if the woman comes home and says. I feel now that it's time for me to go to the other side of the planet and do something else. On your planet. a conscious choice. will show a lot of pain. instead of your parental or societal conditioning. the mate quite often will be very hurt. They recognize that it must be the time." there's total understanding. When you on your planet are in a relationship and feel that it's time to leave the relationship and you go and tell your mate. We would say that true monogamy is when two people choose that idea of expression from an excitement and a willingness to play off the partner for personal growth.

If you don't choose to expand that beam out of fear. No one here is any better. Many of you are seeing that the divorce rate is going so high. it causes dysfunction or disease in their society. You have parts of them in you because they have been your energetic forefathers. they've taught you a lot. But you are already beginning to create it. True monogamy would mean that the idea of extramarital relationships does not stimulate you on a conscious. will not have pain and fear. it's because the structure of relationships on your planet is changing. Dis-eases. we're giving you bits and pieces of who you are. none of these civilizations are better than yours. In ancient Pleiadian history there was a period of time when they were repressing so much negativity that it had to bleed out in other directions. we'll finish what we're saying. bits and pieces of what is inside of you. This is not because there's disease and terrible things going on in your society. Now. So when we talk about the sexuality of your galactic family. It's very important that we say that. There is no idea of threat or negativity from sexual expression within the Pleiadian civilization. For the Pleiadians. But neither of their expressions are better. We really didn't want to talk about this tonight but. That's what's occurring now. this inner truth is not to stifle sexual energy whenever it is felt just because they have a mate. What they manifested were dis-eases very similar to your AIDS disease. So you're running around and reshifting yourself to see what works for you. to find out what your own inner truth is. yet how many actually have extramarital relationships? The idea of extramarital relationships is not a choice of true monogamy. since we've already opened our mouth. It's simply a matter of choice. It's important that we say this. but will be one that will be birthed from the type of environment you had growing up as a species. then is that true monogamy or is that choosing from fear? You already know that many people on your planet choose monogamy. the Consequences of Repressing Negativity Q: Do the Pleiadians have AIDS? Are they creating AIDS? Very good question! We were telling you a little earlier that the environment that the Pleiadians were birthed out of was an environment of the repression of negativity.when that is actually what they are excited by. True monogamy would be rather Orion-like . The mate is not threatened by expressions of sexuality from their mate. when they are not channeling both positive and negative into their lives and using it for growth. deep level. So what they learned from that is that when they are not being true to themselves. As your consciousness raises. They could no longer hold that well of negativity within them. In your society now. you are going to be able to make some conscious choices for yourself. so that you can choose whether you want to embrace them or not or learn from them and create something for yourself. Eventually. Right now you don't know which direction to go in. You're going to be able to make choices as to whether you want to choose monogamy for reasons of growth or for reasons of hiding fears or latching onto security. So back . any more evolved. you don't know how to do this. because you on Earth will eventually come up with a system of relationships that is perfect for you. as your consciousness is raising. when they are denying and repressing. They are different. that system of relationships will not have denial within it. It will work for you. the structures of your relationships are going to begin changing.Orions.

they separate into two wholes instead of two halves.your own and others'. Because of our inability from time to time to clearly see our own issues. for instance. that does not constitute separation at all. absolute reflection of themselves.you're going to find the motivation is because there's a need for growth and you're following that path. If you try to leave and it's very difficult .how can we tell whether our feeling a need to separate is from ego-generated issues of fear. Whenever there's flow. However.meaning that you get a job on the other side of town or things flow . they're a mirror image of themselves. to understand where your fears. when we feel that a relationship might be over. and only now in the last fifty years are allowing yourself to begin to look at. Leaving a Relationship The way to discover your motivations in wanting to leave a relationship is by examining the flow in your life. is that ultimately the reason it is occurring on your planet now is indicative of the repression you have about sexuality . many dimensions to it. examine your motivation. They recognize that when they separate they are separating into two wholes instead of two halves. think about taking action. you want to leave your wife or husband and it's very easy for you to do so . Correct. because they're giving the opportunity for your planet to heal itself on very. The reason this comes about is that they recognize the other person is a total.levels that you've not wished to look at before. AIDS and cancer. So when they separate. and to release that.it's a partnership. so when you talk about the Pleiadians bringing a relationship to a conclusion and moving on to another one. It was entirely a product of what they were repressing.things just don't happen to assist you in leaving. and anger and pain lie. they recognize their wholeness as separate beings and come together as a whole being as well. Whenever there's resistance. When they are having a relationship. or clear the energy so you can stay. are directly connected to your state of emotionality. If you really feel that . There is an agreement between the two people in the relationship that they are together because they will initiate their own personal growth and help the personal growth of the other person . thinking separation is a solution. But each person who is manifesting it is doing a very great service for your planet. more than any other disease you have on your planet. AIDS. Relationships on your planet are frequently looked at as half a person coming together with another half of a person. There's no competition for one to get something out of it and rip off the other person. If. that you're only whole when you're in a relationship. yes. Q: Separation is never a solution. Repression of Sexuality The issue of AIDS on your planet now has many. what's the first thing they think? Sex! So it's coming up on one level only (there's much more to this) as a way for you to examine your sexual premises.then they did have some disease. There are some people who are choosing to manifest the AIDS virus as symbols for the world instead of ways to let out some of this energy. The dimension we will choose to talk about for now. It's a matter of resistance and flow.then you're going to find that you are not looking at something. very deep levels . with your question. or whether it's a true excitement. Something needs to be resolved which will either clear the energy so that you can leave. if you say AIDS to a roomful of people. We understand it's not necessarily a sexual disease. Q: You've spoken about Pleiadians being able to separate freely. there's no flow .

how much do you want to talk about this? [laughter] Two arms. which is a higher form of sex where the energy is balanced to a certain extent to create a more powerful union. That's a perfect form of birth control. If a Pleiadian were walking down the street. Tantra Q: We have a practice on our planet called tantra. it's olive-colored . you will separate as half a person and you'll seek out another half-person to make yourself whole. two legs. body. Comments or questions? Q: I have a couple of questions: One is about the actual physical manifestation of the sexual act. the difference is that in the males the penis is retractable. You'll only draw to you that which you are. The women have similar control over ovulation. Sexually. Now. then when you separate. so they have four very thick layers of skin to protect them from the harsh environment. two legs. same thing). A couple of other minor differences. the male has complete control over an erection mentally.'" Nobody really means that when they say it. The female breasts are used for lactation and child feeding in both civilizations. Are they divided as we are into male and female? Sexual Anatomy of Pleiadians and Orions Very good. It is humanoid. Their hair has a greenish tinge because they have copper in their blood. anyway. the Orions do not consider the female breasts to be anything sexually arousing although they may use the nerve centers during the ceremonies and during the sex.way inside. and complete control over ejaculation. It is your galactic family. That gives you a general idea of the body types. Thank you. That's how similar physically and genetically they are to you. In terms of getting aroused sexually. Each person is not complete within themselves. You would notice that they're different but wouldn't necessarily consider them alien. Now. this is a terrific thing! You could play baseball without wearing a cup! You can still see it. you would all turn and remark about how they look (they look terrific). You will seek out a half. the Pleiadian ears are somewhat lower than yours. head. but Pleiadians are so much genetically like you that they consider you to be their cousins. You won't be able to seek out a whole person. it doesn't completely disappear. It is in the same location but it retracts back into the body for protection. Ejaculation will occur only when that agreement has been reached. Their skin is very different. so they seek another half to complete and on the cycle continues. It's like some of your animals. The Orions are somewhat taller (two arms. Akbar [the one Lyssa channels] lives on a desert planet.a brown base with a greenish tinge. There is a lot of ceremony on Orion concerning sex. So pregnancy occurs only when there is an agreement between the male and the female that that is what will occur. Unfortunately. . relationships are frequently not completed. There goes another expression I can't use anymore . because the idea of being one and a half is a little bit too much. That is why when they separate."I'd like you to meet my `better half. You will find the two civilizations we've talked about are both anatomically similar to you. Do you follow? Q: Yes.

in a sense as a way to remember your heritage. There are some people on your planet who may use tantra as a way to escape their sexual pain. maybe not visually but emotionally? The situation in Cocoon was that you had two people focused on each other. but for right now you're not choosing to do it except in the context of astral journeying. So it touched you . You see the difference? And again. That's one level of it. Q: In the movie "Cocoon". but it's not a conscious. So when you are on your nonphysical journeys." The Orions are not aware that they are doing anything except their ritual.that rang true on some level as if we'd known it before. because it is a God union. There is a civilization called Essassani who represent (and we don't mean this as being better) a future evolutionary path for Earth. let's do tantra today. That is one way. This doesn't mean you have to study tantra in order to achieve this.it touched a lot of people in your society . when the woman came out of her shell. in her light form and they had that powerful integration . In the Pleiadian civilization it would be the same thing. You would find that within that ritual there would be practices very close to tantra. one for procreation and one for intimacy. Anything on your planet can be used as an escape. So it would depend on the motivations of any given individual.Do they have that also? Is that something we've inherited from them? We would first say that in the Orion civilization the first two forms we were talking about. Another level has to do with other civilizations who do utilize that form of sexual exchange. If you're fantasizing alone you may be doing that and getting the attention of the person you're fantasizing about on another level. none of this is better than . all of you are extremely sexually active in your dream or astral state. so to speak. It's not as if they would say. For instance. eye-toeye recognition. You're also tapping into that understanding that this will be something available to you in your future as you learn about your own sexual nature. The processes that they go through in a sexual exchange can be likened to tantra because it certainly does utilize the chakra system. similar to a Japanese tea ceremony. Q: Can't tantra also be used as an escape? If the consideration is that normal sexuality has something wrong with it. their sexual act is not a tantric exercise as a discipline but an expression that encapsulates the philosophies of tantra without their even having to think about it.deliberately nonphysical. "Well. for the Pleiadians that is occurring but they are still doing it physically. then tantra is better. It's not necessarily considered sex per se as it is what you'd call an integration. Q: Is there any type of nonphysical sexual exchange while we're awake and in the body? Doesn't something like this occur sometimes when people are fantasizing on some level. Well. Their forms of sexuality are both physical and nonphysical . One. But you will find that in the Pleiadian expression. you very often come together for this integration and this sharing. like you saw in Cocoon.because it's something you all know how to do on certain levels. That type of exchange occurs very frequently. But this occurs all the time. yes. It's part of who they are. are both highly ritualized. including chocolate ice cream. On Earth a lot of you are implementing tantric practices. several different levels.

that there was to be a species crisis. Your forefathers. a way to incorporate into ourselves new genetics so that our species will survive. We learned cloning abilities and this was of great excitement to us because we realized that then we could control the conception process. You are learning and growing. At this time most are simply attributing negative scenarios to us. since our environment was going to collapse. we have come to realize that what we wanted to achieve had a lot of forethought. We now have so little variation in our species genetically that it is as if you are taking a photograph and xeroxing it time and time and time again. We needed. it becomes less likely that the original image will continue to exist. We gave much thought to this and chose. We recognized that we were literally having a species crisis and so we prepared ourselves for survival.Group Mind This is Harone. We have much to share with you. and so there were many of what you would call unsuccessful births and stillbirths. and we cannot share this with you from our present state of being. Our females were not able to adapt to this cranial increase. Over a period of generations we recognized that the cranial size of our infants was growing larger at a marked rate. We will tell you briefly about our historical evolution so you can understand some of the orientations we have that you interact with in your present time continuum. It becomes dimmer. It was understood by us. We in turn have agreed to assist you in yours. We will begin by telling you a little about our work with your species. Thus you have the beginning of the race that you have called the Zeta Reticuli. Throughout thousands of years of cloning. Our unique way was to begin preparing underground facilities that we could go into. At this point in time. We had war. We knew this was to occur. Yet we know an agreement has been achieved and we promise you that we will uphold . who we've been talking about. You have been talking about us. so we were called. We were born from conflict. balanced and nonviolent in every way. We adapted ourselves to this crisis in the only way we knew how and thus you have the species that you see in your present day. There is much to share with you. the majority of people on your planet are not aware that we are assisting you. We are Zeta Reticuli consciousness. less complete. as we saw the birth rate decrease. The Human-Reticuli Agreement for Species Transformation It is our understanding that you as a species have agreed to assist us in our transformation. We know you have many questions. are also learning and growing. Within our civilization we had much diversity. we were born from crisis. then. Millennia ago we were a thriving civilization much like you.anything else. First we will say that in no way do we orient ourselves as being negative. Sometimes the birth would even kill the mother. we could control the future of our race. once we were underground. we also knew that we were becoming sterile. The Zeta Reticuli Civilization . but we made great errors in how we went about achieving it. Due to severe radiation. to clone out the wide range of neurochemical responses in our brain so that emotionally our state of being would be consistent. Our definition of negative means that we would have selfserving interests only. and that is not the case. we had differing belief systems and we also eventually had severe toxicity that was brought into our environmental system through individuals on our planet who were progressing technologically at a very rapid rate.

Our end of the agreement is as follows: 1.we are not separate . It is a great honor for us to play this role for you. other extraterrestrial beings who help to facilitate this process. we will have physical facilitators. It is also a great honor for us that you have chosen to play a role for us as well. We have joined hands together with you in order to bring about this species evolution for both of us. We will become much more individualistic. these latent genetic codes. we work with these genetic structures. we will become much more similar. we understand that our interactions with you promote fear in some people. In no way do we perceive we are being intrusive. They would have you think they are much more numerous. Because we have lost this ability for so long. Some of them can be activated from the etheric level. In our work with you. We are very connected and for that we send our gratitude. Zeta Sexual Orientation When we communicate with you in this fashion through a physical channel.males from females. We are infinitely entwined . We are taking a species leap together. we did away with the idea of physical procreation as well as the sexual act.though our realities may say we are. We seek emotional understanding and we also understand that you express your emotions in a sexual nature. That we will assist you in triggering latent genetic codes that will propel you into an accelerated state of genetic evolution. There is a recognition that neither our species nor yours can continue indefinitely the way it is. when we went underground and began cloning. 2. some need activation on the physical level. we will carry out this agreement of assisting in this species triggering. we are made aware that our interactions with you do in fact trigger that fear. Even though we do not understand why. Even though we do not understand the concept of emotion we seek to understand it and we watch you in order to do so. we are told that their numbers are quite small. We have been told by others who interact with us that your species' goal at the present time is in expressing and then integrating your fears. We are also told by other entities that there are others who are genetically connected to us who are deliberately promoting fear in you. It is not our desire to promote fear in you. These codes were placed in you by your forefathers and were designed to be triggered when you achieved a certain vibratory rate. That is what is occurring now. This will provide a way for us to finally open communication so that you may begin unfolding your memories of your species heritage and of the galactic family of which you are a part. but those we interact with who are guardians to you tell us that your confrontation with your fear is of vital importance at this time in your development. So we are fascinated by the sexual act that you have upon your world and the emotional processes that you encounter during these acts. As we have agreed to do millennia ago. However. Our organs began atrophying over many. we also desire to learn how once again to connect with our humanity through the idea you call sexuality. we have joined hands and we are transforming together. when we interact with you either physically or etherically. although on a chromosomal level we are still either XX or XY. for from our point of view we . Recognize that from our point of view and from the point of view of your mass consciousness. This vibratory rate occurs when your consciousness accelerates. you will become more unified. We are told by them that you desire to hear about our sexual orientation or lack thereof. many generations until now you cannot tell us apart . Simply put. You will find that as evolution occurs. Though we do not intentionally desire to trigger your fear.our end of the agreement.

so we have erected a lot of psychological and emotional methods to protect our sexuality. which is a complete and total merging with our one identity. your interactions with us will change dramatically. Q: At the point in time in your history where children's heads were getting too large for birth. this is an equal exchange. as we have stated. Can you speak to us on how you view this? What are you exploring? What are you learning about our sexuality? And what is your intent? First of all. Evolution requires the one evolving to look deeply into the mirror of self and choose what is undesirable for the evolution and to relinquish it. This translates into your consciousness as threat because it requires you to look at yourself and relinquish things you have been carrying as a part of yourself. and we would like to take this opportunity to address those if you would like to ask them. You manifest this now in a way much less dramatic than the way we did. engage those fears and move through them. If you as a species look in these dark corners where you are afraid to look. we did not recognize this until after we had begun cloning. We are not deliberately doing anything to you. It was even more pronounced in our civilization. There are times when we will view you when you are having sexual exchanges in order that we may somehow learn how to initiate this within ourselves. many of you have come to our reality. that this would manifest itself symbolically? Our technological abilities were not paralleling our spiritual progression. you learn what you desire. Unfortunately for our development. recognize we have no intent. what was happening in your culture. In exchange for this gift that you have given us. Our interactions with you push buttons. It has been an honor that you have agreed to come and share this with us. even more than upon your world today. the natural tendency was for the cranium to grow so we would recognize there was a crisis and would then examine this crisis and recognize the gap between spirituality and technology. Q: What did the enlargement of the cranium symbolize? You could have manifested any number of physical difficulties. Our interactions with you represent evolution. to change you.recognize you have given us permission. to our crafts and you have viewed us engaged in what we call our Oneness ritual. Intellect! An imbalance of intellect over spirituality. Our mass consciousness desired a way to communicate the importance of this recognition of the gap. You are resisting . We're afraid of being vulnerable. We learn what we desire. From our point of view. So in terms of symbolic expression. your civilization. Many people experience that idea being violated during an abduction experience. Sexuality in Abductions Q: Can you talk about your interest in our sexuality as experienced by people who are abducted? Our sexuality is something that our species protects. Our interactions with you bring up this in your consciousness. which tends to cause a lot of trauma. Your interactions with us will not be from a fear-based orientation. We recognize there may be questions from you. There became a very marked gap between spirituality and technology. You see this on your planet now when you demand proof for everything rather than recognizing a flow or a connectedness to all. When we interact with you. you feel the tide of evolution.

and until that fear is confronted and released. as you know the term. There is only pain when one chooses to focus on the idea of disempowerment. what is of most interest in viewing the sexual act are the biochemical fluctuations.that is not what is meant . that you are not part of species transformation. into different groups that have different purposes.sperm. you merge with the One and thus become an active force in the tide of evolution.again we speak of the dynamic. We are divided. saying you have not created this somehow.not in the negative sense of weakness . because the emotions are very intense for us. We are extremely curious about your emotional selves. and from their perception puts the person in a powerless situation. or disempowered vulnerability. Are we being too philosophical for you? Do you want to know what we do with you? Q: Yes. I was asking for a description from the point of view of an abductor. So biologically speaking. Q: When you are observing people in the sexual act. you are open to All That Is. energy shielding. Perhaps it would not take too much imagination to know what we seek .but relinquish your resistance and recognize yourself as a co-creator in this. There is a tremendous amount of curiosity in the biochemical secretions in the brain that are occurring during the sexual act. skin samples and also an understanding. Some are interested primarily in genetic research. It is also an opportunity to look at it as being in a vulnerable situation instead of a powerless situation. not of what we intend to do . Well. We may not know how to understand your emotions. When you are lying on an examination table. You cannot connect fully with your Divine Creator or Self unless you become totally vulnerable. you then become vulnerable in an empowering way. secretions from prostate. Vulnerable . samples would be taken from all portions of the body. shall we say. It is not just cold research. to the One.but vulnerable meaning empowerment. It is a matter of shifting perspective. but we do pay attention to them. a mind link. Our way . when you are vulnerable. as you would say. that's what I was getting at. Q: Can you comment on the mechanics of what occurs during an abduction? Many people have their sexual organs examined and probes put inside them and samples taken. eggs. you will feel the pressure of evolution. That is. Very often some of us will have protection. whereas each and every one of you is part of that. those are the ones who work directly with your reproductive functions. it really depends on which group. Some are interested in reproductive research. those groups will focus primarily on the head and the neck areas. how do you personally perceive this? How do you respond to those strong emotions? It's my understanding that you almost can't bear them. This in itself causes a violation of our systems of protection. of what procreation means to the person. If you surrender. and in that case. the choice is to either feel victimized and to hold and repress that pain of victimization in your life or to confront that feeling and then surrender. And you see that in that choice there is no pain. You let your guard down.evolution because of your fear.you are given the opportunity to look at the situation either from a point of empowering vulnerability or from a victimizing vulnerability. When we interact with you in an abduction situation . It penetrates all of them. Some are entirely focused on neurochemical research. There is no arousal. not as if we were invading .

it is the only form that we could say approximates a sexual exchange in our reality. Sometimes when more physical samples are needed. we can enter your reality in a light state. it would be a sensing more than actually seeing the movement in the face. We must deal with data. That is also something of primary interest to us. When we were speaking of our ritual of the One. Each and every one of you have your own gift and we thank and honor you for those gifts. certainly. that can be seen as a light form? And do you use that form to help us trigger some of these genetic memories whose time it is to come forward? Can you project that in various wavelengths or colors through the use of sound? Could it be detected and interacted with? Yes. We are also interested in the physical methods of touching that you use not only in sexual acts but in acts of affection and maternal and paternal demonstrations to your offspring. Sometimes when we are working only with etheric DNA triggering. do you project something that is not as dense in its reality. and your consciousness will translate our energy into a shape that will tell you the identity of the energy that you are sensing. You've done your research well. Q: Do you ever express any countenance other than what we might call deadpan. You would not necessarily see it as a smiling. Q: Would that have a tremendous quality of sweetness to it. But we thank all of you as individuals and as a group and as a planetary society for the roles that you have played in your planetary evolution. At this time we will honor the vehicle and depart. Do not ever underestimate that your coming here has not assisted. We are capable of joy or ecstasy as a group.perhaps many of you would think it is .of understanding emotions is by first understanding biochemically. and could it be radiated forth from your physical face or from your body? Yes. or without emotion? Are you capable of what we would call a smile or would that be too emotional in nature? We would have to explain something. we must densify ourselves. We are not capable of a smile as an individual. Some of you will sense our energy. Now that may be inaccurate . And we thank you for being a part of our gift that we give to you. which is very uncomfortable. We cannot deal with it from an emotional base. Other Zeta Forms Q: Apart from the physical form that you maintain. It is basically standing in a circle with others and holding hands or joining energies. We interact with you on every level we can.but right now that is the only way we know how to do it. and soaring to heights of ecstasy of the One. . Q: Would it be a sensitivity or a connectedness that would come from the energy that you have? Yes. Our love to you and goodnight.

Also. preferably water than is not from the tap but purified or reverse osmosis. Germane through Lyssa Royal. The human electrical system is one that you don't necessarily consciously know is operating all of the time. The electrical field of your body is literally the energy that translates spirit to matter. your showers. Also. Let us first address the physical level. This is rather abstract. the presence of water. All Rights Reserved. but the submersion in it (whether it be your baths. The more . whatever your choice is. allow yourself to feel fluid. Remember to eat foods that have a high water content. the primary change is in the electrical system of the body. Not just the ingesting of it. either in your auric field or in your sacred space (your home) is essential. We have been talking about some of the physical changes that your bodies are going through and will go through as your vibrations accelerate. You are 90 some-odd percent water. So our suggestion then would be that you drink as much water as you can. the voltage is going to be upped. but you will know what is right for you. a current. This means that water will become perhaps more important to you than it ever has. plan accordingly. so the electrical current is always running through your body. but anytime you're feeling fatigued or raw emotionally.Copyright © 1992 by Royal Priest Research. Now. your jacuzzis) is becoming very important. We would recommend distilled or purified. imagine yourself as being a river. Tools for the coming Changes Category: Channeled. That will be fruits and vegetables. So. What kind of physical changes can you expect? What can you do to help facilitate the process in a much more easy way? Well.

Toxins can be seen as electrical interference. The water will then be in your auric field. that's perfectly fine. You may even want to get some fish. Your planet is also going to be doing what it needs to do to get the water that it needs. You're clearing out the toxins of the third density. we guarantee you. again. That's an optimum situation. it helps to release emotional toxins which will then help to keep you clear. on the market there are radiation screens. There is some jewelry. that might be a little bit much in terms of energy. or very specific types of strict diets. So. Your planet is also a consciousness of which you are a part. When you bathe or shower. The closer that you can get to the water when you feel you need recharging will be very. If you feel attracted to that. you see these on your laptops. Actually. (No need to get neurotic about this. So. your planet is somewhat unique to have so much water in a third-density reality. LCD screen. Several of these ideas are ideal if you live in an urban environment. But in the long run. whether it's colonics or juicing or fasting. Many of you already are on programs of detoxification. it's up to you. if you're living under major power lines. The radiation is not going to damage you. If you use a computer a lot. If you are a normal person with a normal television and a normal microwave. wear some of it. so that it feels like a peaceful place to you. the more you're going to facilitate the electrical changes that your body and the planet are going through. and you can feel the environment of that water. That's one idea. there are several options available to you. Along with water comes detoxification. Now. can significantly slow . Approximately four hours at one sitting at the computer (without getting up). It's very beneficial to you to go through some type of detoxification program (whatever one works for you). If you can't do that. it's all connected. You are symbiotic. Even though it looks like you all are creating this horrible hole in the ozone layer. You may want to create in your apartment a small water environment. We cannot tell you how much this will benefit you. because nothing will happen to you if you don't do it). Another suggestion (other than ingestation). We have often been asked if electrical appliances are harmful to human beings. you are in reality assisting the planet to melt the icecaps to get the water it needs. but it can slow the detoxification and healing process if you spend a lot of time in front of the computer every day. if it does any at all. You may also sit by a lake. very helpful for you. The body is going to respond well to this water in your presence and continue the process of cleaning itself out and boosting the voltage of the electrical field. And you reflect each other in your own transformations. it's not going to do enough damage that you would even notice it. Many of the fourth-density planets have very large amounts of water. fill it with water and pretty stones and crystals and whatever you want to put in there. that incorporates water. Use your imagination! You may also use the sound of water. is to keep water close to you if you can. put your feet in the water. and these can be put over your CRT screen and they can significantly reduce the amount of radiation you are exposed to. since your sense of hearing will trigger you in the same way.you can imagine yourself fluidly moving like water. If you want to put crystals in your bath. your planet also recognizes its need for water. You can get one of those fishtanks. The water will clear out the electromagnetic field. for instance. Put it next to your bed or put it somewhere in your home where you can look at it. Showering and bathing is also a wonderful way to get your daily dose of water. it's going to be a tremendous boost to your body and to your electrical system because there will be less interference. You could get a computer that has a liquid crystal display screen. There are foundational qualities of 3D that are going to be transformed into 4D as you become clear. It will be a conversation piece as well. or fill your bathtub. of course.

From our point of view. Information that is fearful and negative allows you to process your own fears. no computer creates that. Now. information to be added to your storehouse. If you really don't believe that you create your reality and you believe you can be a victim. you are faced with an opportunity to think about what you really want to believe in. and that's very important to stress. when this type of fearful information is given. No television. We have always said that information is meant to be taken as information only. and no more sinister plots. We have gotten questions from many people also about the teachings of other channels and health practioners. then absolutely anything can hurt you. Category: Healing. Each entity and each channel has their own belief system through which information comes. where you are the only creator of your reality. As soon as that is recognized and owned. It is not our understanding that you will ever. ever be affected by anything outside of you unless you hold a belief system that it can and that you can be victimized. and the ultimate voice is your own belief system. there will be no more victims. And so this is about processing belief systems. these are guidelines. Many say to throw your TVs. information to make you think. computers and microwave ovens away. and it's certainly not going to do anything. This is about learning sovereignty. Now. . If you truly believe in the idea that you create your reality and no one can be a victim. because it makes you think. instead of listening to an outside source without checking it with your own self. So. Information that we bring through is not channeled so you will believe us. If you truly (on all levels of your being) believe that nothing outside of you can effect your health. we do have to state here that we are talking in generalities and that all of this is dependent on your belief system. And certainly no evil government with a sinister plot! The power is within you. but so you will take what is given and learn to grow from it by discovering your own truth. It's got to be one or the other.your own healing abilities. then you cannot subscribe to the idea of something outside of you affecting you. that is for others to answer. then you can live under a power line and sleep with your computer. as to why that fearful and limiting information is said. Your self-responsibility will set you free! Sacred Sexuality. But what we can say is that it is valuable that it be said. Look at the different things that you have learned in your growth.

was to keep them well in check.Tantra For a thousand years. and generally disavow as best we could any feelings below the waistline.beyond. The most extreme instance is called rape. but concurrent with our everyday existence. It delivers you . . through no other human activity. This is what the west has come to refer to as Tantric love. the world's greatest aphrodisiac is selflessness.body and soul . yet all the while the heart seeks nothing less than to lose itself absolutely in love. The heightened intensity of the sexual experience soon persuades us that it is the most important one in the world. Lust is only a call to love. How to achieve such divine deliverance through one of the most common "animalistic" functions we perform is the secret known to enlightened lovers as the direct path of Love. It inundates your entire being. Yet. transformation and transpersonal realization so prevalent and powerful as in conjugal lovemaking. the Western Judeo-Christian. whether they know it or not. authoritarian male-dominant strategy for handling the emotions. It turns out there's nothing unspiritual about pleasure. the body. People use each other for lust. climaxes as a shared soul-merging experience of Eternity. (Ultimately. What begins as duality and polarization within time.) The high art of making True Love is mystical and miraculous beyond comprehension. It is instructive to ask just how we ever came to feel so bad about even thinking about feeling good. The point of giving her sexual pleasure is to awaken the bliss that she will then . and a gift of Enlightenment. save dying. Freud said that empires were built on the resulting sublimated energy. pleasure. is the opportunity for ego-loss. On the direct path of conscious awareness . The passions are so overwhelmingly powerful that religions have been warning you away from them since the dark ages. It transcends the trap of the ego-self: In effect. and it's good for your health. otherwise rarely known in human existence.By the same acts that cause some men to burn in hell for thousands of years. but the game is over. the Yogin gains his eternal salvation. People get carried away.to unimagined heights of ecstasy. It bestows upon the lovers the experience of a spectacular breakthrough to the Infinite . and many have yet to answer it. ironically.sexual union naturally also means the union of the continuing practice and its realization.The Path With No Obstacles . We may think we are content giving and taking personal gratification. When we can't handle our attachments. The ultimate consummation of physical love-making is complete transcendental Union. and our most basic instincts. they enslave us and we enslave others. thought. and realization becomes spiritual liberation itself. and begin to believe that the next great orgasm is the only important thing in life. No one is better than the Bodhisattva in bed. The discovery of the key to the union of spirituality and sexuality is at once a path to. Spiritual merging in love is the elusive prize that everyone seeks when they lay down with another. and be consumed in ecstatic union with the beloved and the Universe. tantra means more than embracing your physicality: all action. A transformation occurs which evolves from desire and passion to a level of total and perfect bliss.

D. one should certainly refrain from using one's hands (not to mention lips and tongue). and all too often . The essence of this conscious sex approach is to transform the very energy of your appetite for personal pleasure into one of cosmic realization. ceremonial objects. or it is devil-worship. or fame)." Cultures much older than ours have evolved ways for seekers to include their physical bodies within the context of spiritual practice and the enlightened life. how can we transform the trap of addictive physical appetite to the ecstatic realization of Divine Union? It all depends on your true and underlying purpose. Respect for that very danger should make us take care as we take pleasure. after all. A truly relevant and realistic religion would teach us how to consecrate our sexuality. by harnessing your own desire to the happiness. Passionate Enlightenment: Women in Tantric Buddhism . Obviously the Good Lord made this procreational pleasure-drive far more powerful than most individual's (and any church's) power to control. and potent libations have been used to create a special environment and mind-state in which to sanctify sexual union. and the total fulfillment of your partner.despite heroic efforts to curb our "lower appetites" . Why is the divine gift of lovemaking so often little more than a desperate groping for glandular stimulation in dark rooms. . breathing exercises. Let us celebrate and make sacred our natural. power. and conditioning.combine with meditation on emptiness in order to attain enlightenment.Miranda Shaw. as in indigenous tribal customs. Meditation. state of mind." Certain religions contend that sex must be solely for insemination and procreation. Shame is taught by "authorities" who can embrace neither their animal nor their spiritual nature. Sex can drive you either towards or away from Enlightenment. and call this "correct. even as we realize what a guilded cage it could very well become.we find ourselves indulging in what is. not deny it. and get it over with as quickly as possible. the thrill. rituals.(Princeton University Press) SURRENDER The paradox of sex is that the same act can both liberate and imprison. Such careful preparations tend to quiet the neurotic mind and increase sensitivity and sensuality. By that logic.when people use each other uncaringly . But the inherent dangers are hardly reason to avoid the experience. depending upon one's intent. But anti-sex admonitions in turn only give rise to guilt. The great enigma is. money. Of course men and women compromise their morality and good judgment all the time for sex (although probably no more than for love. invocations. accompanied by feelings of hunger and shame? Ironically. the single most compelling human urge after breathing and eating. We need to unlearn our guilt about wanting sex. Copulation as high communion? Is there any better way? SEXUAL SPIRITUALITY Many in today's generation are beginning to re-learn the sacred approach to lovemaking. Ph. They fear one and fake the other. incense. music.this most universally accessible mystical experience of orgasm is debased into something dishonorable and dirty. We might even say that repression of this primal biological imperative creates rapists and pedophiles. candlelight. and post-sexual-revolution "high monogamy. while at the same time engendering the proper reverence. It calls for constancy and commitment to the ultimate goal of Enlightenment. when . innate sexuality. . mystical rituals. Sufi and tantric couples practices.

Begin motionless and in silence. Make it Holy. the heart and the soul in a spectacular shared revelation of the Universal Self. Make love with your whole being. Worship each other's pure essence as Goddess and God.. from passion to compassion. all consuming. animal to divine. Opening all your centers. The transformation from ordinary mechanical. and time stands still. Wait for the perfect moment. all fulfilling. and the climax is an exquisite release of the body. Giving and taking merge. Everything matters. Gaze into each other's eyes. Surrender continuously. die into love. Die as a personality. unconditionally. HOW TO MAKE ENLIGHTENED LOVE. Abandon all gain and control. Spiritualized sex opens you at all centers at once. Touch only in awe. Fall in love. . breathtakingly tender. Give only pleasure and love. Meditate. Decelerate until time stands still. stay in love. Purify yourself in body and mind. the animal/emotional/spiritual crescendo of love lasts forever. engaging all your faculties.Thus you achieve Unity through duality. Be born as pure Love in the Universe. weeks. In slow motion abandonment of time itself. ours. to the sacred fire within. The senses are magnified a thousand times. Move in slow motion. by making her (or his) ecstasy your own. and it all conveys tremendous meaning and potency. Listen for Inner Guidance. confused. Transcendent love is a religious experience. Give voice to your feelings. Transpose taking and giving. all purifying. Trust your body's deepest impulses. Dedicate the experience to your highest purpose. Your partner becomes a Goddess or God. look always to the beginning and keep to the beginning. the passion intense and profound. long and deep. • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • Consecrate the setting. The pleasure is immediately and continuously perfect. and you two become One. Time itself disappears and the Holy Universe becomes self-evident. EXQUISITE LOVE To lose the self in love. The after-glow of such a cosmic physical union endures for days. Foreplay is truly playful. Reside always at the beginning. with reverence. Use all senses Read your beloved's mind/body. You notice everything. The experience is healing and unifying in every way. Every touch is The First. guilt-ridden sex to the profound gift of natural/spiritual lovemaking depends upon a broadening of one's focus from the genitals to the heart. Invoke the Goddesses of Love. whom you worship in awe. letting hers become yours. Worship your lover. Breathe together.

Ph." by Lonny J. Brown. .From "Enlightenment in Our Time.D.

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