The 3 Pillars of an Extraordinary Life

Mini Action Book

An extraordinary life: a life of meaning, a magnificent life, a life of joy, happiness, love, passion, success, fulfillment…whatever it means to you. Life experienced on your terms.

We’ve all known or witnessed someone who seems to have mastered an ability to grab life by the horns and realize the completion of their most cherished desires. You may even feel that pure joy at least occasionally if not consistently. However, experiencing the things you want to happen is one thing; being conscious of how you’re doing it is another. So the question is: What creates an extraordinary quality of life? What are the forces that shape the direction of our lives and determine our destiny? Most importantly, how can we harness these forces to create a life of happiness, joy, success, fulfillment, and meaning? The details of what we really want in life are going to be different from person to person, but we’re all after a certain quality of life that will truly make us feel alive. This is not dependant on the economy or any other outside factor. What’s most important is living life on your terms. We all have a gap between where we are and where we want to be. Success and happiness knows no limits. This mini action book is intended to help you bridge that gap. Whether you are wildly successful or facing tough times right now, it is crucial to know where you stand in the areas that matter to you most. These overarching lessons and exercises will help you think about and ultimately define what you want your life to be, and how to maximize your inner resources to manifest that vision—not by anyone else’s standards, but by yours and yours alone.


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. Inc. appreciate. Regardless of your age. This comes from mastering the skills necessary to produce extraordinary results and maximize peak performance in all the areas of life that matter most. .The 2 Master Lessons of Life While achieving can provide many wonderful things. The Science of Achievement: Achievement is based on scientific laws. All rights reserved. the unbridled joy of feeling truly alive. but still feel empty on the inside? Absolutely! Fulfillment is an art form. but still be internally bankrupt? Can you have the perfect body. Lasting fulfillment is attained only through gaining insight into the core of our human nature. but also the magic of the moment. The Science of Achievement is the experience of achieving the things you really want in your life. Reproduction in any form without the express permission of RRI is prohibited. The Art of Fulfillment is the ability to experience not only the thrill of the chase. you will be able to achieve the results you desire. As we travel on the journey of life. background. taking the invisible and making it visible. 2 © 2007 Robbins Research International. the true measure of an extraordinary life is its level of absolute fulfillment: success without fulfillment is failure. unbelievable friends and be in the ideal relationship. The Art of Fulfillment: Can you have all the money and success in the world. unleashing the power to understand. 2.. race. stepping up as a leader and breaking through barriers. and enjoy our lives at the deepest level. Living an extraordinary life means mastering two skills: 1. The Science of Achievement is the destination and the Art of Fulfillment are the experiences along the way that make the journey feel worth it. (RRI). if you understand and master these laws. or experience in life.

you will always be at the mercy of life’s challenges. Time 3. Physical Body 3 © 2007 Robbins Research International. Or. Finances 5. Inc. Similarly. But having all the money in the world is not going to matter if you’re neglecting your physical and mental health—those inner resources that are always within your control and are essential for a life of enjoying love. Relationships 2. meaningful accomplishment. Given the times. (RRI). energy and vitality—all the money. Rather. Spiritual growth and your capacity to celebrate and contribute is at the top because you can’t enjoy the fruits of your labor until you’ve sowed the right seeds. Though there are times when we might need to focus on one or two. They are all interwoven. there is a hierarchy that creates peak performance and fulfillment. but you haven’t even mastered your emotions. While all seven areas of life are important. This is not to say that a person can’t work on their finances and transform their body at the same time. Emotions & Meaning 1. . For example. Reproduction in any form without the express permission of RRI is prohibited. material abundance. it shows the importance and hierarchy of the core areas of life that are necessary to create a magnificent experience of life. you must determine how you focus and spend your time in order to create a successful career. Once you’ve discovered how to add value in your work/career/mission.The Pyramid of Mastery: 7 Areas of Constant Growth for an Extraordinary Life If you want an Extraordinary Life. and letting the others go by the wayside. All rights reserved. Work/Career/Mission 4. career success. Having a firm grasp of your emotions frees you to be proactive rather than reactive to changes you face. doing what you want to do when you want to do it. there are Seven Areas that you have to master. great in another. Fulfillment will not happen by doing okay in some. you can create a plan to grow your wealth. You can’t experience an extraordinary quality of life without the vehicle that’s going to help you create it. if you spend your time trying to solve all your relationship problems. Without mastering meaning and emotion. Mastering these seven areas means living life to its complete fullest. Celebrate & Contribute: Spiritual Sense 6. giving and celebrating. finances can seem like the most important area to concentrate on. if you don’t master your body—your capacity to maximize your health. or contribution in the world will be worthless. each area is never less important than another. 7. it’s a recipe for disaster.

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a ‘5’ in your emotional life. Work/Career/Mission 4. Celebrate & Contribute: Spiritual Sense 6. where you really want to be (‘10’ is where you ultimately want to be). Physical Body 2. Time 3. In each of the 7 areas of Mastery. an ‘8’ in your finances. grade yourself on a scale of ‘0 to 10’ of where you are today vs. a ‘6’ in your spirituality. (RRI). For example. Finances 5. . What did you learn from doing this exercise? 5 © 2007 Robbins Research International. Relationships 2. and a ‘7’ in your physical health. Inc. Emotions & Meaning 1. a ‘9’ in your career. you might rate yourself at a ‘7’ in your family life. Reproduction in any form without the express permission of RRI is prohibited. All rights reserved.Exercise: Get Honest Where Are You in the 7 Areas of Mastery? 1. Physical Body/Health: __________ Emotions/Meaning: __________ Relationships: __________ Time: __________ Work/Career/Mission: __________ Finances: __________ Celebrate & Contribute: A Spiritual Sense: __________ 7.

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Re lat io ns hi ps . Reproduction in any form without the express permission of RRI is prohibited. you might rate yourself at a ‘7’ in your family life. 7 © 2007 Robbins Research International. your time. For example. color in each section to get a true picture of where you really are in each area. an ‘8’ in your finances. your work/career/mission. taking the scores you just identified for each of the 7 Areas of Mastery let’s convert this pyramid to the Wheel of Life. your finances. where you really want to be. Inc. Now. a ‘9’ in your career. taking one area at a time. te bra ute le Ce ntrib o &C 10 10 Ph ys Bo ical dy 10 ns Emotio ing & Mean Financ es 0 10 W er re Ca k/ on or issi M / 10 10 Time 10 Now. your relationships. a ‘6’ in your spirituality. and your spiritual sense. All rights reserved. and a ‘7’ in your physical health. Simply draw a line across the section that represents the number you currently rate yourself at in that section. Look at the wheel below and notice that it’s divided up into different sections corresponding to some of the typical areas of a person’s life: your physical body.Creating Your Life Map Now. (RRI). once you’ve drawn the lines across each section rating yourself on a scale of 0-10. an ‘8’ in your ability to manage time. grade yourself on a scale of ‘0 to 10’ of where you are today vs. The middle of the circle corresponds to ‘0’ and the outside ring of the circle corresponds to ‘10’. your emotions/meaning. a ‘5’ in your emotional life.

If this wheel were a tire on your car called life. joy and happiness you not only desire. You can still achieve your desired destination. Remember. When certain areas of your life are out of balance..Answer This Question. (RRI). 10 ns Emotio ing & Mean Financ es 0 10 10 10 Time 10 8 © 2007 Robbins Research International. how would your car run? How would you do even at 10 mph? How would you do as an achiever going 100 mph? If you are like most people. are happy and where you should truly be acknowledged. there is no right or wrong answer—this exercise is simply designed for you to get a general look at your life and where you might not be experiencing the results. your car is a little out of balance. Reproduction in any form without the express permission of RRI is prohibited. you tend to experience more bumps in the road. congratulations for taking a moment to really follow through and be honest with yourself! What did you learn about yourself in the process? At a minimum level. you should at least have an idea of some areas you might not be maximizing as well as some areas where you really are doing well. Re lat io ns hi ps W er re Ca k/ on or issi M / . but also deserve to have. but it’s going to take you longer and the ride isn’t going to be as smooth or fun! e rat e leb ibut Ce ntr o &C 10 10 Ph ys Bo ical dy What did you learn? First of all. and it’s going to be one heck of a bumpy ride! The same is true of your life. Inc.. All rights reserved.

All rights reserved. However. Anything that you’ve ever accomplished. Reproduction in any form without the express permission of RRI is prohibited. No thoughts. or will accomplish. or change for the better—and succeeded at. This kind of progress did not happen by accident alone. Think about those things you wanted to accomplish. Inc. feelings. First of all. Get Aligned. comes from implementing these 3 Pillars… III. Get Focused and Clear & Make it Compelling The Power of Psychology Unlock What’s Stopping You And Unleash Your Power The Power of Activated Resources The Power of Clear and Compelling Vision What – Why – The Truth 9 © 2007 Robbins Research International. Therein lays the key to reaching any goal. Get Integrated and Get Results II. What were the common elements? The answers are as simple as they are profound. contradictions. Get the Best Tools for Success I.The 3 Pillars of an Extraordinary Life: The Fast Track to Results: The Path of Personal Mastery Chances are that you’ve experienced some level of growth and improvement in at least one of the Seven Areas of Mastery. something that may not be as evident when acknowledging past achievements is that you fully aligned your intentions with your actions. . or obstacles stopped you. (RRI). build upon. you knew what you wanted. and then you developed a strategy to get there.

2. high quality skills. The First Pillar: The Power of Clarity The first step is to clarify the results you desire in your life: what do you want most in the areas of life that are important to you? What is your definition of an extraordinary quality of life for you? What do you need to take your life to the next level? Without a clear and compelling vision for what you want today. you need an effective and efficient game plan to hit it. Inc. we make changes in the moment. (RRI). you won’t be able to even find the target of lasting happiness. you will discover the path to where you want to be. By understanding your personal blueprint—how you create meaning and emotion and what causes you to think. and yet we fail to follow through? Or. Reproduction in any form without the express permission of RRI is prohibited. The Second Pillar: The Power of Activated Resources Once you’ve defined your target. feel. sometimes tools are not enough: you need to unlock what’s blocking you and unleash your power. depends on how honest you can be with yourself. The Third Pillar: The Power of Discovery. but learn how to create lasting change and fulfillment. Alignment. 10 © 2007 Robbins Research International. Your chances of knowing what your bull’s eye looks like. Why is it that sometimes we know what to do. In order to close the “gap” between where you are and where you want to be.1. and training to drive you to take action. and behave the way you do—you can not only gain the answers to these questions. an effective coach to constantly measure your progress and an empowering community to hold you to a higher standard. but they do not last long-term? What’s missing is a practical understanding of human psychology: why we do what we do and how to change it. you are able to channel them so that you naturally move in the direction you desire more—a direction that serves not only you. but also all those you care about. however. we have great motives for change. you need a proven map. an effective mentor. let alone hit it. . All rights reserved. Armed with proven tools. Through the process of discovering. Integration & Action However. If you have the courage to face the truth of where you are. there is no way that you won’t get the results that you deserve! 3. understanding and aligning your internal drives.

Now take a few minutes to fill out your scores on top. Get the Best Tools for Results Now determine the strategies you’ll use to get results. focus on one or two vs. then revise until it is all of these elements! iii. All rights reserved. Peer Group/Community: Do you feel you have a community that supports this emotionally? Who specifically? vii. (RRI).Steps to Completing Your Personal Mastery Plan Grab your Gap Map on Page 13 and complete the following: Step One: Write Down Your Scores 1. 90 days. and indicate where you want to be. six months. Tools/Skills: Do you have some strong skills or tools now that you can use in that area? Can you gain some skills? iv. what score would make you feel truly fulfilled in that area? Step Two: Create Your Checklist to Close the Gap 1. Effective Guide/Mentor: Who can offer you a unique and effective perspective/coaching? Who can you team up with whose been down this road before? iii. simultaneous progress in all areas to prevent burn out and ensure momentum!) ii. Don’t automatically assume that you want a ‘10’ for each area. 2. Daily Action/Constant Measurement: How will you measure your results each day? What’s your daily action plan? 11 © 2007 Robbins Research International. Select a time frame of 30 days. whichever is more compelling to you. Ask yourself: Is your vision specific. iv. clear and compelling to you? If not. Reproduction in any form without the express permission of RRI is prohibited. Inc. First take the scores you wrote down for each area of the Mastery Pyramid and transfer them to the bottom of the Gap Map where it asks “Where are you now?” 2. write down answers to the following questions: i. Standards/Rituals: What ritual can you immediately implement to make a difference in this area? v. For one or two of these areas write a short description of you’re your vision would look like. (Thought it may be tempting to focus on all of these areas. Get Focused and Clear and Make it Compelling i. Give yourself compelling reasons to follow through and make the change. Proven Map: Who or what can you study/learn from that has seen results in this area? What book can you buy? What class can you enroll in? ii. . Get Trained: Have you trained some of those skills today? Have you practiced them today? Have you found them to be effective? Could you train someone else using these tools? vi.

Put your Map in a place that you can come back to with ease as positive reinforcement. Who else will you touch with these changes? iv. (RRI). Get Aligned. All rights reserved. Inc. 3. And don’t forget to celebrate—no win is too small! Gap Map Example: Emotions & Meaning 12 © 2007 Robbins Research International. . 2. Have you found any conflicts in your old beliefs. Share your action plan with someone you know who will hold you to a higher standard.3. What might you need to shift in these beliefs or values to get the results you desire? iii. values or goals? ii. Get Integrated and Get Results Finally. Reproduction in any form without the express permission of RRI is prohibited. How will you reward yourself? Step Three: Share with Someone Who Will Hold You Accountable 1. think about anything that may be holding you back: i.

Physical Body 2.My Personal Mastery Plan: The Gap Map 1. Where do you want to be? 1. a Flexible Approach & Constant Measurement 3. align and achieve. (RRI). . Checklist to Close the Gap 1) Clear & Compelling Vision 2) Strong Reasons to Follow Through 3) Total Honesty about Where You Really Are (the Gap) 2. Reproduction in any form without the express permission of RRI is prohibited. Get Integrated & Get Results 1) Do you have beliefs. Work/Career/ Mission 6. All rights reserved. Emotions & Meaning SCORE Description: Description: Description: Description: Description: 3. Get Focused & Clear III. 3) How will you celebrate? What will you do for yourself and others when you achieve? Who will you touch with your improvement? SCORE Description: SCORE SCORE Description: SCORE Description: SCORE Description: SCORE Description: SCORE Description: Description: I. Finances 7. Celebrate & Contribute SCORE Description: SCORE* Description: II. Get the Best Tools for Success 13 1) 2) 3) 4) Get a Proven Map Get an Expert/Effective Guide/Mentor Principles & Skills Standards/Rituals/Schedule Critical for Success 5) System for Training & Conditioning for Results 6) Get a Team/Peer Group/Community to Call You to a Higher Level 7) Daily Action. Inc. Time 5. Relationships SCORE SCORE SCORE SCORE 4. values and goals in conflict? Do you have conflicts with other people about getting results in this area of your life? 2) What’s your plan to transform these conflicts? Update your BP integrate. *Rate yourself from 0–10 (10 being absolutely where you want to be in this category) . Get Aligned. Where are you now? © 2007 Robbins Research International.

Reproduction in any form without the express permission of RRI is prohibited.Notes “When you want something. Inc. All rights reserved. all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.” —Paulo Coelho 14 © 2007 Robbins Research International. . (RRI).

This community is necessary to not only reinforce your new identity. the clearer you can be about where you want to be. 7. rituals make it real. Standards/rituals/schedule critical for success Standards make change possible. Learn from it and move on to the next one! Also. Measure your progress daily to keep yourself on track. will the change last long-term. Get an expert/effective guide/mentor Once you have a map. If one plan doesn’t work. 2. and serving all that is important to you in life. you cannot manage what you don’t measure. 2. 3. achievable outcomes do you want for that area of your life? Wanting to be thin is vague. 15 © 2007 Robbins Research International. Inc. don’t worry. Total honesty about where you really are (the gap) Don’t say you are big-boned. The skills teach you how to do something. growing. Get the Best Tools for Success 1. Strong reasons to follow through Why do you want it? What emotional juice is going to drive you to achieve your vision. success leaves clues. Reproduction in any form without the express permission of RRI is prohibited. System for training & conditioning for results In any area of life. Clear & compelling vision What specific. . You need a system that will condition your mind and body for peak performance.Closing the Gap: Your Master Checklist to Fast Track Your Results I. Principles and skills Principles show you what to focus on. (RRI). Get a proven map Progress is only possible when you have a map that details how to get from where you are to where you want to be. Find an effective and extraordinary mentor who has already achieved the result you desire. Remember. 5. when you make it a daily discipline to condition the changes and follow through. appreciating. and when you raise your standards so that the changes become part of your identity. but to keep you focused on giving. Get a team / peer group / community to call you to a higher level You need to become part of a community that constantly calls you to a higher level and that you truly want to serve. mastering a set of skills requires training and practice to become proficient in applying them. Daily action. 4. Wanting to drop 30 pounds is a specific result that can be measured. II. a flexible approach & constant measurement Take daily action on your massive action plan and be flexible in your approach. Step up and have the courage to admit you’re fat! The more honest you can be about where you are. you need someone to interpret that map for you and guide you to follow it. no matter what? 3. Get Focused & Clear 1. 6. Only when creating a change becomes a ‘must’ for you. All rights reserved.

III. 16 © 2007 Robbins Research International. Get Aligned. celebrate & pay it forward Once you’ve achieved your outcome. There may be conflicting values in your blueprint that hold you back. but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy. but still fail? Absolutely. Update. 2. Get Integrated & Get Results 1. Inc. Succeed. “The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience. Only when you are aligned. Uncover conflicts in your blueprint Could you have the tools to achieve what you want. inspire those who you love to have the courage to create the life that they deserve. . (RRI). All rights reserved. integrate. align and achieve a new blueprint Install a new blueprint for yourself that is in sync with your goal. will you have the fire to go after what you want. 3.” —Martin Luther King Jr. Reproduction in any form without the express permission of RRI is prohibited.

Life is a paradox. Emotions are the fuel of life. Life is constant change. in the winter. but the meaning that you give to those challenges. Every human being needs to feel like they are making constant progress. Context c. But. 3. All rights reserved. appreciate and believe…in this moment. weeks. How many emotions do you experience on a day-to-day basis? How many of those emotions serve you? How many sabotage you? The quality of your experiences depends on the quality of your emotions. Is your glass of fulfillment half empty or half full? 2. (RRI). The only thing you can be sure of is change. Finally. Perception 6. All aspects of your life go through seasons. everything reaches its peak and begins to fall. . If something doesn’t grow. 5. The quality of your life is found in meaning. their passing makes the next spring possible. because we have a need for certainty. Life is constant growth. things stagnate and pass on. things continue to grow and mature. days or even hours. Inc. Culture b. things are born and begin to grow.The 7 Master Principles of Life: Key Beliefs to Help You on Your Journey 1. Unlike the world. 4. 7. So. Love. In the fall. Our nervous system tricks us into believing that the room is still when everyone knows that the earth is constantly moving. Just know that you need to go through all of the seasons to truly grow. Reproduction in any form without the express permission of RRI is prohibited. happiness and joy are available right now in this moment…and are always available. All of us human beings fight with the illusion that things are always the same. Time Frame d. In the spring. joy and happiness that you experience in this moment is a direct result of what you notice. your seasons can occur over the course of months. it dies. Life is an experience of seasons. 17 © 2007 Robbins Research International. Life is not the challenges that you face. The degree of love. anticipate fluctuating seasons and embrace and learn from the changes that they bring. What’s right is wrong and what’s wrong is right depending on the… a. In the summer.

you will be serving them. but with new good deeds done to three new people. 2. Inc. The day after that.782. In the movie. ask the millions of people that received his gift. February 18. live with passion! “My message is my life. everyone will pay it forward to three more. As you transform your life. use the extraordinary joy and happiness that you create to serve the world. integrate it into your world and ensure that the people around you are holding themselves to a higher standard. The antidote to stress is gratitude. Until then. This spreads to 81 people. making nine people.969 people! Your gift has traveled all over the world. (RRI). Tony Robbins is looking forward to connecting with you during the UPW Webinar on Wednesday.187. Reproduction in any form without the express permission of RRI is prohibited. etc. the long-lasting cure for pain is service. “Pay it Forward”.Pay It Forward Perhaps the best definition of a truly happy and fulfilled person is someone who gives more than they take. All rights reserved. . then 243. Better still. then 729. Does it work? Just ask the parents of the young boy. Be the change that you want to see in the world. a young boy creates a revolutionary way of life—repaying good deeds not with payback. 27 people will pay it forward to another three. Pay it forward to three people and they will pay it on to three more people each.” —Mahatma Gandhi 18 © 2007 Robbins Research International. In two weeks that’s 4. Sounds impossible right? Like how could I affect the lives of millions of people? You can! If you share your transformation. And each day.

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