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One Girls Story - Janey Lang Fashion - Party Dresses Personal Profile - Winter Care Centrefold - Tina Steier Personal Profile - Teeth Centrefold Update Fashion 2 - Bags Cherlone - Advert Dont be a Xmas Part Victim
Contents Letters To Editor I Think, therefore I BLOG Question Of The Month Next Months QOTM Tammi’s Torments Emerald Spirit - New Book! How Many Candles? Hororscope As Voted - Schoolie As Voted - Time To Vote Helplines Quiz Answers Conversion Tables Adverts And Now..... Rogues Gallery
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Play Safe In The Papers revisited Aging And Transgender Health Ask The Girls A Personal tale In The Papers
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Just for Fun
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Womans World Christmas Time Is near (Poem) Christmas Cheer TV Santa (Poem) Frosty The Snowman (Poem) Enough of that sissy crap! Not a lot of people know that! Thats Gotta HURT!
Attention! Isn’t She Glovely - Competition Entries Black & White Competition Style Council Style Council Challenge Sexy Secretary Winner - Donna Out & About Winner - Donna Basque in Glory Competition Belle Of The Ball - Competition Entries
Well then. some of the more observant of you ‘may’ have noticed a slight difference in the set-up where Competitions are concerned, not much, but let me explain. The pictures of competitors will still appear here, in the magazine, and also on my Yahoo group ( http:// groups.yahoo.com/group/lilboutique/ ). The only real difference is that now you vote HERE! You will find the voting section on this site , so no more need to troupe off to lilboutique to vote - easy huh?! All pictures for the subsequent competitions can still be sent to me at email@example.com as well as any enquiries, so get entering/voting/etc etc hehe
to the Editor
Dearest Mandy, Thank you so much for including my story and my outing in your magazine. The power of the net is awesome. I had not checked on your latest magazine and I had a phone call from my friend in Nova Scotia. She had had a call from a friend in California to tell her that Janey in Newfoundland had a story in Mandy’s Magazine. Needless to say I checked as soon as I got off the phone, and there I was. :o) Great Magazine as usual. I don’t know how you do it. Oh and I noticed that you sneaked me in among the secretaries. Not that I can compare myself with all those gorgeous ladies, yourself included, but thanks anyway. BIG HUGS, Janey
Hi Readers , I just wanted to tell everyone that although the magazine is for designed for TG’s- it’s also a great read for the rest of us too!! Mandy’s a friend of mine and she suggested that I take a butchers- so glad I did. I perused the mag from cover to cover- absolutely fab!! Picked up a few hint’s and tips myself. The mag is all about entertainment- which it covers beautifully. It’s sometimes quite saucy- and I love that!! The only thing I get a bit miffed at, is that Mandy often looks better than me- damn her hahaha ) Mandy and co are approachable and really friendly- so if you need to be in the know about anything- drop them a line. Tell you’re chums to take a gander too-they’ll love it. Take care you beautiful people and stay gorgeous, all my love, Jules XXX
Dearest Mandy, Thank you so much for including my story and my outing in your magazine. The power of the net is awesome. I had not checked on your latest magazine and I had a phone call from my friend in Nova Scotia. She had had a call from a friend in California to tell her that Janey in Newfoundland had a story in Mandy’s Magazine. Needless to say I checked as soon as I got off the phone, and there I was. :o) Great Magazine as usual. I don’t know how you do it.
Now THATS what you call communication!!!! (Ed)
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Do not reveal information which could expose your identity until you are confident that it is safe. Be cautious revealing your name, address, phone number, email address, place of work, website address, etc. Do not allow anyone to pressure you into revealing details before you are ready. If they are overly aggressive in asking for identifying information, cut off communication. Do not feel obligated to be more open than you are comfortable being. Contact the administrator of the website if you have concerns.
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Be sure that someone knows where you’re going and when to expect you back.
LWAYS TAKE A PHONE AND YOUR FARE HOME
If you have a cellular phone, take it along, and have a friend call periodically. You may wish to take along some form of personal protection just in case. If someone tries to get you into a situation you are not comfortable with, don’t hesitate refuse, leave, or do whatever is necessary to protect yourself. Nothing that anyone else does can obligate you to compromise your own safety.
OUR SAFER IN A CROWD
member, there is safety in numbers!
intimate one on one meetings put you at a huge risk, re-
TAY IN PUBLIC PLACES erm...................DUH!!!!
VOID TOO MUCH ALCOHOL
All drinks can be spiked, but it only takes a few too many drinks for you to lose your inhibitions and agree to things you will later regret, a clear head nearly always lead to a clear conscience.
EELINGS MAY SAVE YOUR LIFE, TRUST INTUITION If you feel
uneasy about someone you’ve met online, err on the side of caution. It’s probably better to miss a few good experiences than to have one bad one.
NJOY!!! 99% of the time you will be safe and have a great time, but for the sake of that 1% always err
on the side of caution, remember, if they are serious they will arrange to meet again, if they dont , it wasnt worth the risk! xxxx7
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Now heres an odd thing, here I am in Taylor Towers, surrounded by a minagi.........minnaje......min........loads of animals, that seem to have crept seamlessly into my abode like a spring mist or sunday morning fart. You see, I’m pretty sure I never ‘actually’ agreed to house any of the blighters. The list now stands at Mollie the ancient and extremely soppy Border Collie, Sox, the evil Tabby Cat that makes Garfield look an angel, Lily, the feline trash can, Goldie, Sunshine, Longtail & Rainbow, the fish (plus Redhead, now dearly departed via the toilet) and Smokey the rabid rabbit. Now, I put my hands up to Mollie, I remember bringing home a lil black and white ball of fur ( or was that a new top? I digress ) and I ‘sort of’ remember Sox, I even remember putting up a token resistance of sorts, along the lines of “ Not another bloody animal” BUT The rest? I therefore set forth on a quest to cross-examine my immediate family and ascertaining how I managed to accumulate such a wide variety of ‘extended family’. First i tackled the wife, well, not ‘tackled’ more pinned to the sofa and demanded answers on penalty of chocolate removal. “ You agreed!” she innocently protested “Since when?!!!” I retorted
“Well” she said “ remember when you agreed to let Lily stay ‘ for a lil while?” “.............vaguely” “ Well, she just .......hasnt...gone........back yet” “ And the fish?” “ You said he could!” “When??!!” “After you said that we weren’t keeping Lily” “Oh!” “.........................................and the rabbit?” “ That was because the fish died “ “..................................................................................” I think we’ll call that a draw Next, I tackled my son.... “ Boy.....animals...... how......when.........go!” Reply?
“ MUM SAID!”
You cant win, can you?
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Yeah, but, think of all the shoes!
THE FEMALE THEORY OF EVOLUTION
One Girl’s Story....
I was born in August 1936 (you can do the math, girls ) in an industrial town on the river Clyde in Scotland. The main industry was ship building and related industries. By 1939 a little upstart by the name of Adolph Hitler was doing nasty things and by 1940 he was dropping bombs on me.My earliest recolection of the beginnings of my desires was stealing a pair of my sister’s panties. She was a year older than me and still remember the silky feel of them as I snuggled up in bed with them on. To this day I don’t know how I didn’t get caught.
We were lucky and survived the war. I had started school and found myself admiring the girls in my class. Some high lights stick out in my mind from those far off days. A girl telling me I had lovely pink nails like a girl’s. My neighbour’s daughter coming to the door one time wearing a coat over a slip and I could just see the frilly lace of her slip showing. The kids from across the street coming to the door at Hallowe’en for trick or treat and one of the boys was dressed in a little white silk dress and wearing a French beret and looking oh so girly. Something stabbed my heart at that moment.
Fast forward a couple of years, I would be about eight years old. Our teacher, Miss Brown, decided to enter our class in a competition. Several schools were asked to put on a short play and they would be judged to see who was the best. I don’t remember much about the play itself, but I was to be a wood elf in a fairy story. All the costumes and scenery etc had to be made by the class. Unable to make very elaborate costumes, the teacher asked the girls if they had brownie uniforms that could be used as elf costumes. I was given a little brown dress to wear and in spite of all the giggling and embarassment and pretended reluctance, truth be told, I could hardly wait for dress rehearsals. We put on the play at the auditorium of another school. We didn’t win, but I got to perform in a dress and I was in heaven. Forward again a couple of years. I was about ten, I guess. Strangely enough I had hardly bothered with my sister and I don’t recall being at all interested in her clothes. I had by now started taking an interest in my mother’s clothes. I have vague memories of being hugged and being held close to her wonderful skirts or dresses. The turning point came around this time. I was alone at home and I sneaked into my mother’s bedroom. I started looking through her things. In those days ladies wore corsets and it was before the days of pantyhose. Nylon stockings were the thing. I suspect that this is when the imprinting took place. I found a lovely lace up corset, a pair of nylon stockings, and pair of white panties and joy of joy, a full slip. White and silky and so wonderfuly smooth. The corset had hooks and eyes up one side, so that once the laces were tied to your satisfaction, the corset could be put and without having to lace up all the time.
I lost no time in wrapping the corset round myself and fastening the hooks all the way up until I was snugly wrapped. I then put on the nylon stockings and fastened them to the tabs of the corset. I still remeber the feeling of euforia. Next I pulled on the panties and picked up the slip. I put up my arms and slid the slip down over my head. It slipped right down over the corset and now in the mirror I could see myself dressed in this wonderful underwear and feeling this overpowering feeling of something that I had no words for. From then on I was hooked. Every chance I got I would raid my mother’s wardrobe and dressing table and borrow something to wear. I’ll by pass the next number of years. A disasterous marriage, a divorce, a seven year stint in the army doing the macho thing. I can hear you all say, “Been there, done that.” I came out of the army in 1965, but before that, there was one incident that was significant. I had met my wife while on leave waiting to go to Germany. While in Germany I befriended a girl who worked in the camp canteen. We were just friends, she had a boy friend. She spoke fluent German and I asked her to help me buy some nice lingerie to take home to my girl friend. She agreed and we went down town together and went shopping for lingerie. I was in heaven although I had to pretend not to be too interested.
The result was an all black outfit. Garter belt, panties, bra, full slip and stockings. Back at camp, I was doing camp duty while almost everyone else was out on maneuvers. The place was almost deserted. This was my chance to try on the lingerie. It had been years since I had had any contact with women’s clothes, although the fantasies were always on my mind. I put on the garter belt, stockings, panties, bra and slip. This was no pre-pubescent adventure in Mum’s underwear. This was a full blown gut wrenching orgasm the like of which I had never experienced. There are no words to describe the intensity of the feeling. Even after, when the physical need had been satisfied, there was still a feeling of euphoria and more, a feeling of “rightness” about it all.
Later when I was back home in Scotland I had managed to buy myself a black skirt, sweater, slip, panties and garter belt and stockings. These was my only possesions at this time and at night I would drive out on a country road onto the desolate Scottish moors, park my van and change into my outfit. I had one pair of medium heel shoes. I would nervously change in the back of my van, tentatively open the door and sneak out and then nervously walk up and down a short distance, never going too far from my van in case I had to make a dash for safety.
These night time excursions were such a strange mixture. The sheer joy of being dressed, the fear of being discovered, the guilty feeling of doing something wrong and the feeling of loss when I had to remove my femme things and go drab again, wishing it would never end. When it became obvious that my relationship was becoming serious, I came out to my wife. I had never told my first wife about my cross dressing, although I used to wear her clothes every chance I got. I instinctively knew that she was the sort of person who would use it against me and probably out me if it was to her advantage.
sort of person who would use it against me and probably out me if it was to her advantage. My wife accepted my CDing and over the years has put up with my pushing the envelop. Now as I write this in September 2008, I look back and think how lucky I have been with my wife. We just had our 40th anniversary. I am now 72 years young. The burning fires have diminished considerably and I have promised my wife that no one here where I live in Canada will know about Janey. I do, however, still live with Janey very much a part of me. My hair has not been cut for 10 years and is now down to my shoulders. I have pierced ears and my current earings are double hoops made made of white and yellow gold. I am wearing ladies slacks (no fly in front, dark blue) a ladies sweater light blue, pantyhose, pink panties, a white camisole, a white bra with small silicone breast forms. My shoes are femme but very plain. My glasses have plain gold rims and are very androgenous. In other words, although no one notices, I am in stealth drag all the time, so if you meet me on the street, you will be looking at “Janey” without realising it. I can not remember when I last bought any “guy” clothes. When my wife goes out of town, Janey goes out in public. So far I have never been read. Getting older is an advantage. I can now look like an elegant middle aged lady (I hope) but I could never have passed when I was younger. If you read my coming out story in an earlier edition of Mandy’s magazine it may give you an insight as to the thrill of being out. My little story is probably not much different from so many others, but I hope you found it interesting. My femail address is hear from anyone. HUGS, Janey Elizabeth Lang. firstname.lastname@example.org and I would be delighted to
We all seem to have a pretty vivid memory of when we can first remember being ‘special’, whether it was the soft caress of a special garment, incentive from a sibling, or just the deep ‘knowing’ that we were a lil different . The ages that we knew this seem varied, but following a pattern, here are some of your stories.....
“ At what age did you realise you were ‘special’ and what are your earliest memories of acting on it “
I remember that I was 6 years old. My older sister was supposed to “baby-sit” me. She had a girl friend over. The two of them decided to play dress up with me. I was thinking that it sounded fun but was afraid that they would think I was not right if I went along so I said, “No!” and ran away. They chased and caught me. They decided to tie me to a chair and do make up first. I struggled. They won. I was bound to the chair and they put lipstick and eye shadow on me ( my sister was 14 at the time). Next they gave me a leotard and tights. They said that if I cooperated and put them on they would not tell my mother that I was wearing make up. So I put them on... and in that moment something clicked within me and I knew that this was right. I felt right for the first time in my life. I really did. I was balanced, at peace, happy. They then changed my clothes several times - a tutu, white tights and toe shoes, a sundress and black mary janes, and so on. I really loved it. After the session was over, a few days later, I stole the leotard and tights and wore them often when I could. And I have never been the same since. Love, Tawni VC #371`
I was 6 and my sister 3. I played with her tea set and got caught by my parents at different times. They both each loving-leigh explained that I was a boy and boys don’t do such. My father said, “Son, you are a boy and will have to be a boy all your life, so you’d better start acting like a boy.” Thus, I had no recourse but to begin my acting career. It lasted 50 years. I’m still waiting for my academy award. I didn’t know not to listen to him. In the society, that I lived in, in those early years, it was good advice, but it was not the “right” advice. I am now a firm believer in the saying, “Life is too short”, I’m trying desperate-leigh to cram a second life in with the first one. It’s getting rather cramped in here. Leigh Smythe
I first found that the feel of soft clothing was very pleasurable at about the age of 10(1955). I also would rather play, at recess, with the Girls rather than the boys. During Jr. High, I got to wondering if I might be Gay. I did some experimenting and soon realized that that was not my thing. I started collecting my Mother’s throwaway clothes and hiding them in my bedroom. I would lock the door and try the dresses on. I went so far as altering them so that they would fit better. During my senior year in High School, I was dating a girl that spent a lot of time with me. We went to the lake, one day, and after we returned home, I discovered that she had left a pair of shorts in my car. That was the first piece of female clothing, other than my Mother’s , that I had ever had. Needless to say I did not offer to return them. I finally left High School and joined the military. During the next 4 years I started collecting more Women’s clothes. I would hide them in a box and keep it stored up high and out of sight. I did not experiment with make-up, boobs or wigs until several years later. By the time I was 30 I was married and both of us were working. We worked opposite shifts, so I had good opportunity to play in the closet. I fabricated some boobs from a Nerf Ball and acquired a wig from a mail order catalog. I also started experimenting with some drugstore make-up. I was a frightful sight at first, but I eventually started to get things figured out, after several years of experimenting. By the time I hit 40 I was feeling pretty confident that I was making progress with my presentation. I was still very deep in the closet. I had been through 2 marriages by then and a couple of purges. Since I am also an amateur photographer, I started taking self portraits, to get an “unbiased view” of what I was looking like. I was shocked to see that the camera view was much less acceptable to look at compared my mind’s eye. Since that early 80’s time I have kept a photographic record of my progress. I have to say that I am very happy with my current look. In the mid 90’s (98 actually) I discovered that I was not the only person that was cross dressing. Since that day I have been out and working on a quality wardrobe and presentation. You can see the transformation by visiting my personal website, www.jamierenae.com. Jamie Renae
I was too young to remember according to Mom, but she cought me trying to shave with her Pink Circular razor, i am sure she screamed because of the sharp object but she also mentioned that i was a boy and boys don’t use that type of Razor. The 2nd time i admitted to myself was Halloween when i was eleven. When the girls “Got me back” snapping my bra i really really liked it. Kristen Rose Channing
Well if I could put an early date on being a bit different perhaps? I would have been 4 or 5, a hot day, no “cossie” so my ever practical mother told me to wear my sister’s swimsuite, navy with ruffles which I seemed to remember liking! then when the other kids saw me, I was laughed out of the place obviously, about this same time I seem to remember taking some pleasure didn’t quite know why, by hiding under the sideboard and putting my mother’s lipstick on, that one’s just come back to me! whether this was the sstart I can’t say for sure, but at the same time I seemed to have a fascination with metamorphosis and had fantasies about being able to change into anything, later on maybe this is what crystalised into crossdressing? Anyone else had that one about being able to “morph” into anything when they were young? love to all angela x
Mandy ! At what age does cognizance of ‘self’ start ? In my case its so long ago, its really very hard to pin down a particular year. In my very early years we lived in one of those ‘tropical paradises’ otherwise known as a ‘crown colony’ so I have no doubt that in deference to the heat my baby clothing consisted of a (washable) diaper and perhaps a very light cotton ‘shift’. At some early stage I can recall sharing baths with an older sister and becoming aware that she was much more ‘streamlined’ below the waist than I was. That discovery immediately prompted my own ‘streamlining’ by way of a very successful ‘baby tucking’. My best guess is that this was more than likely at around the age of four (4). It could have been before that, but certainly no later. The first ‘clothing rebellion’ occurred at around that age too. Once a year we received a shipment of ‘goodies’ from the UK, which was usually the highlight of my family’s year. I got a white sailor suit while my sister got this beautiful pink frock with bowed short sleeves and waist . My memory is quite clear on the point that I raised eternal hell at the ‘mistake’..that dress was MINE. I can not recall exactly whether or not I’d already been into my sisters stuff prior to this, but certainly thereafter anything she owned was MINE to wear. I do not recall ever having been scolded , but there came a time , (because she was shipped off to boarding school ) when the only feminine clothing readily available that fit, belonged to two little girl friends (sisters) that lived down the street. I soon grew out of their size, but nicely into my Mothers, and that was when ‘trouble’ started. She did not take kindly to having her things ‘borrowed’. But, you know, the good Lord provides. In this instance the ‘provision’ was a lady boarder, and hard on her heels, not one , but two school girl boarders. (my Dad was Headmaster of a school) . My bed room was sandwiched between the lady’s and the girl’s, and I was in seventh heaven with more female stuff than I knew what to do with. With all that availability, why on earth you may ask, did I find it necessary to try on the dress of a much older brothers girlfriend whom happened to be visiting for a long weekend ? because it was a gorgeous dress and was simply ‘me’. I realized it was a bit snug going on over my head, but what the hell ! Hell is what happened when I couldn’t get the dress off !! Not sure I should be answering this QOTM at all, since I do not ever remember feeling ‘special’ . I was and still am , ‘just me’..why would a girl NOT want to dress in girls clothing ? What I suppose I did have was a feeling of pride in that I was the only person I knew who could appear, at will, as ‘streamlined’ below the waist as any girl. This natural tendency would eventually cause a bit of a problem much later when I got married since it was difficult to remember to ‘let it all hang out’. In closing, it is with a warm feeling of gratitude that I can relate that those two little sisters from so long ago, are to this day, (70 + years later) still my best friends.... Hugs Gina vc439
I was very young (3ish) when I thought that I might like to dress like a girl. There was a life-sized doll in my closet for some reason, and I really liked it’s dress. My dream came true shortly thereafter when my mother wanted me to dress as her little girl for a mother-daughter banquet!!! I was the only child at the time. I protested (mostly for the sake of my father) but ended up going dressed in that doll’s dress to make mommy (and me) happy anyways!! The only other manifestations for a long time was that I got into my mothers things every chance I got (which wasn’t really very often). If she only knew...how might it have been different?! Rachelle
Who WOULD YOU SAY HAS INFLUENCED YOUR DRESSING/ STYLE THE MOST OVER THE YEARS? Send your replies to :- QOTM at email@example.com
Christmas Time is Near.
We just got over Hallowe’en, And what do you suppose, Someone’s looking for a poem, Or maybe even prose. It seems that Christmas must be planned, A long time in advance, And when you mention this to folk, They give a look askance. Did you know the Christmas song, (a song that’s very cool) Was done in California, While sitting by the pool. So every year the ether sings, With Christmas songs galore, But did you know that they were done, Oh, several months before. So, Mandy is being smart, She’s keeping well ahead, She’s doing up the Christmas mag, And putting it to bed. So here am I, November two, Trying out my best, Sitting here in panties, And camisole for vest. Trying to come up with verse, That’s in the proper mood, Thinking now of Santa, And children very good. I have to think of something, To start my little rhyme, Something soft and wistful, To get you every time. Now, wait, I think I’ve got it, An idea comes to mind, Something about Christmas eve, And Santa being kind. ‘Twas the night before Christmas, And all through the house, Nothing was stirring, Not even a mouse.” No, that sounds too corny, I’ll tell you why, No one would remember , In the sweet by and by. So back to the drawing board, In panties and hose, Trying to think, Though my mind is all froze. Oh, please, oh please, Mandy, Please won’t you say, “I need your poem, Janey, On next new years day.” Janey Lang. 2nd.Nov 1997.
It’s Party Time once again and time to gaze longingly at the beautiful array of stunning frocks available, but not ALL cost a re-mortgage. So, lets get ready to PAR-TY!!!
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Following our article concerning toilet facilities for the TG community, it seems that a few countries have taken it onboard
Thai school offers transsexual toilet
By Jonathan Head BBC News, north-east Thailand With its spacious, tree-lined grounds and slightly threadbare classrooms, there is nothing obviously unusual about the Kampang Secondary School.
It is situated in Thailand’s impoverished north-east, and most of the pupils are the children of farmers. Every morning at 0800 they all gather outside to sing the national anthem and watch the flag being raised. Then they have a chance to use the toilets, before heading off the first classes of the day. Kampang is proud of its toilets. Spotless, and surrounded by flowering tropical plants, they have won national awards for cleanliness. But there is something else about them too. Between the girls’ toilet and the boys’, there is one signposted with a half-man, half-woman figure in blue and red. This is the transsexual toilet, and outside, in front of the mirrors, some decidedly girly-looking teenage boys preen their hair and apply face cream.
A new toilet sign has been created at this Thai school
‘Uncomfortable’ The headteacher, Sitisak Sumontha, estimates that in any year between 10% and 20% of his boys consider themselves to be transgender - boys who would rather be girls. “They used to be teased every time they used the boys’ toilets,” he said, “so they started using the girls’ toilets instead. But that made the girls feel uncomfortable. It made these boys unhappy, and started to affect their work.” So the school offered to build the transgender boys their own facility, and they welcomed it. Triwate Phamanee is a slightly built 13-year-old who is adamant that he will one day change his gender. “We’re not boys,” he told me, “so we don’t want to use the boys’ toilet - we want them to know we are transsexuals.” The transsexual pupils are delighted with their own facilities Normal treatment The transgender boys in Kampang tend to stick together as a group, practising their somewhat exaggerated feminine mannerisms together and generally camping it up. They still have to wear male uniforms, make-up is not allowed (although some manage to sneak in a touch of lipstick and mascara), and of course sex-change surgery is out of the question at this age - the youngest selfdeclared transsexual is 12. But they appear to be treated perfectly normally by other pupils and teachers alike. Vichai Saengsakul, 15, agrees. “People need to know that being a transsexual is not a joke,” he says, “it’s the way we want to live our lives. That’s why we’re grateful for what the school has done.”
I asked the headmaster whether they were not too young to be making decisions about their gender. He said that, in his 35 years of working in the Thai education system, he had come across many boys like this, and they never changed. Many go on as adults to have sex-change surgery, while others will live as gay men, he said. Thailand is well known for its tolerance of transgender men, and they are very visible in everyday life. Sex-change surgery has become a speciality of the Thai health industry, and it is relatively inexpensive; patients come here from all over the world for the operation. The pupils have to wear boys’ uniforms, but use feminine accessories 35
‘Sweet and soft’ The Kampang school’s initiative, far from stirring up controversy, has instead prompted a discussion in other schools over whether they should be providing the same facilities. A ratio of 10% to 20% of boys calling themselves transsexual in a provincial high school does seem very high, but Mr Sitisak assured me that in his experience it was not unusual. Which brought up a question that has been rattling around my head ever since I first lived in Thailand seven years ago: Why do so many Thai men want to become women? I asked Suttirat Simsiriwong, who became a campaigner for transgender rights after she was barred entry to a nightclub at an international hotel in Bangkok last year. Poised, articulate and very feminine, it is hard to tell that she was not born a woman. “Maybe the numbers of gays, of people with sexual identity issues, might be the same as in other countries,” said Suttirat, “but because Thai society and culture tend to be very sweet, very soft, and the men can be really feminine, if we tend to be gay, many of us tend to be transgender.”
When [the pupils grow up] they So does building a special toilet in school advance the cause of won’t want to go into a transgender winning wider acceptance for transsexuals? toilet because they will want to be accepted as a woman - so they will go “At that age it’s good for them to have a specific place,” she said. to the women’s toilet Suttirat Simsiriwong Transgender campaigner
“But when they graduate from school or university, they will know how to have medical treatment. They won’t want to go into a transgender toilet because they will want to be accepted as a woman - so they will go to the women’s toilet.”
Discrimination remains Tolerance, said Suttirat, is not the same thing as acceptance. Despite their high profile in Thailand, transsexuals complain that they are still stereotyped - they can find work easily enough as entertainers, in the beauty industry, the media, or as prostitutes, but it is much harder to become a transgender lawyer or investment banker. And their biggest complaint is that they cannot change their legal status. Despite a proposal during the drafting of a new constitution last year, to allow them to change the gender on their identity cards, this has not yet been approved. ________________________________________
University renames ‘gents’ as ‘toilets with urinals’ - to avoid upsetting transgender students
By Daily Mail Reporter Last updated at 3:30 AM on 01st October 2008 Anyone caught short at Manchester University will have to decide whether to use the ‘toilets’ or the ‘toilets with urinals’ after the women’s and men’s were re-named to avoided offending transgender students. The change was made in the university’s Students’ Union after a number of transgender women claimed they were uncomfortable using men’s loos. A sign reading ‘Toilets with urinals’ was duly placed over the traditional ‘stick man’ symbol while a ‘Toilets’ sign replaced the women’s graphic. The university’s women’s officer Jennie Killip told the student newspaper, Student Direct: ‘Toilets are very much, you know, for boys and for girls, so we’ve taken away that overtly gendered aspect. ‘A trans-student who does not identify themselves as a man would have to face abuse and violence if they used the “other” toilet.’ Speaking to the BBC, she said: ‘If you were born female, still present quite feminine, but define as a man you should be able to go into the men’s toilets - if that’s
The gents sign on the toilets in Manchester University’s Students Union building (below) has been plastered with a temporary sign to make it ‘gender-neutral’
‘You don’t necessarily have had to have gender reassignment surgery, but you could just define yourself as a man, feel very masculine in yourself, feel that in fact being a woman is not who you are.’But some female students said they were unhappy with the decision. One said: ‘Girls might not want to use the same toilets as boys, so then you just end up with people complaining about that - so you can’t really win.’ Another said: ‘I personally wouldn’t want to be in the same toilet as a man.” The university’s newspaper last week criticised the new ‘gender-neutral’ facilities.Almost 60 people, including Ms Killip, have signed a letter to the student newspaper criticising the editorial. Newspaper spokeswoman Susannah Birkwood said: ‘The toilets have been provided for men who don’t self identify as men and women who don’t think of themselves as women. ‘Whether or not this is political correctness gone mad… it certainly seems that way to some members of our student community.’Writing on the paper’s website one angry student said:‘I agree that this is a complete waste of time and money. I am sure the Union will now be flooded with complains from its female students about the state the toilets are left in by the men.’ It is unknown how many transgender or transexual students attend the university, nor how many had complained
Late home after a night out, a youngster attempted to climb into his home down the chimney. He did not to want to wake other residents in the Judson Center social services agency; also he had broken his curfew and wanted no trouble. In best Santa Claus mode he climbed onto the roof and let himself down the chimney; unfortunately he was too large, and he became stuck. The 17 year old began moaning and was heard and rescued. Fire fighters and police officers from the City of Royal Oak, Michigan, USA, had to pull him out. The youth suffered from minor scrapes and bruises.
Two Idiotic reactions to freezing weather: [Don’t try these at home]
1) This is a true story about John Porter, from New York State, USA, whose pipes in his home froze one winter. Anxious to unfreeze them, Mr Porter backed his car up to an open window so that the exhaust would warm up the house. A little while later and Porter, his wife and their three children had to be rushed to hospital suffering from carbon monoxide poisoning. 2) George Gibbs, 23, suffered second and thirddegree burns on his head in Columbus, Ohio one freezing cold winter. Unable to start his car, he diagnosed the problem as a frozen fuel line which he thought he could correct by running warm petrol through it. He then tried to heat a two-gallon can of petrol on his gas stove in the kitchen.
Try Before You Buy
Myra was going to the Christmas office party but needed a new party dress. In the clothing store she asked, ‘May I try on that dress in the window, please?’ ‘Certainly not, madam,’ responded the salesgirl, ‘You’ll have to use the fitting room like everyone else.’
Traditional Christmas Pudding
Martha decided to move with the times and try the delights of microwave cooking. Whereupon, her devoted husband Archie went out and bought her a brand new top-of-the range Sharp Microwave oven. Christmas approached and Martha got out her Christmas pudding recipe and assembled the ingredients. She proceeded along traditional lines and even got the each member of the family to stir the mixture ‘for luck’. When Martha consulted the microwave’s manual for the cooking time, she could not believe that ten minutes would be enough for a traditional Christmas pudding. Consequently she decided to substitute her normal cooking time of 50 minutes. As Martha was in the lounge watching her favourite T.V. programme she did not see the pudding spitting in the microwave oven, nor did she hear the mini-explosions. When she finally extracted the pudding from the microwave after nearly an hour of cooking on ‘High’, it smelt of burnt sugar and looked like a ball of tar. Naturally, the Christmas pudding was a disaster, so much so, that Martha could not even prod it with a fork. In fact the black ball stuck to the bottom of the bowl and Archie had to get a screwdriver to prize it from its base. In a fit of pique, Martha threw the shrivelled Christmas pudding to Togo her St Bernard puppy. After a few days she could see the funny side, and Togo loved his new indestructible toy, which amused him until the next Christmas. 40
The Christmas Hold-up
It was Christmas Eve; the department store manager was in his office just paying off Father Christmas. All of a sudden a teenager and ordered the manager to hand-over the not inconsiderable takings. The manager was wondering what to do, so the teenager attempted to fire his gun in order to make the manager’s mind, and open the till and hand over the money. Although the robber pulled the trigger, nothing happened, so unbelievably, he peered down the barrel and then fired again. This time it worked.
Grandpa’s Christmas Story
Grandpa decided that shopping for Christmas presents had become too difficult. All his grandchildren had everything they needed, so he decided to send them each a cheque (checks). On each card he wrote: ‘Happy Christmas Grandpa’ P.S. ‘Buy your own present!’ While Grandpa enjoyed the family festivities, he thought that his grandchildren were just slightly distant. It preyed on his mind into the New Year. Then one day he was sorting out his study and under a pile of magazines, he found a little pile of cheques for his grandchildren. He had completely forgotten to put them in with the Christmas cards.
Continuing the current trend of large-scale mergers and acquisitions, it was announced today at a press conference that Christmas and Hanukkah will merge. An industry source said that the deal had been in the works for about 1300 years. While details were not available at press time, it is believed that the overhead cost of having twelve days of Christmas and eight days of Hanukkah was becoming prohibitive for both sides. By combining forces, we’re told, the world will be able to enjoy consistently high-quality service during the Fifteen Days of Chrismukkah, as the new holiday is being called. Massive layoffs are expected, with lords a-leaping and maids a-milking being the hardest hit. As part of the conditions of the agreement, the letters on the dreydl, currently in Hebrew, will be replaced by Latin, thus becoming unintelligible to a wider audience. Also, instead of translating to “A great miracle happened there,” the message on the dreydl will be the more generic “Miraculous stuff happens.” In exchange, it is believed that Jews will be allowed to use Santa Claus and his vast merchandising resources for buying and delivering their gifts. One of the sticking points holding up the agreement for at least three hundred years was the question of whether Jewish children could leave milk and cookies for Santa even after having eaten meat for dinner. A breakthrough came last year, when Oreos were finally declared to be Kosher. All sides appeared happy about this. A spokesman for Christmas, Inc., declined to say whether a takeover of Kwanzaa might not be in the works as well. He merely pointed out that, were it not for the independent existence of Kwanzaa, the merger between Christmas and Chanukah might indeed be seen as an unfair cornering of the holiday market. Fortunately for all concerned, he said, Kwanzaa will help to maintain the competitive balance. He then closed the press conference by leading all present in a rousing rendition of “Oy Vey, All Ye Faithful.”
A LETTER TO SANTA FROM MOM
Dear Santa, I’ve been a good mom all year. I’ve fed, cleaned and cuddled my two children on demand, visited the doctor’s office more than my doctor, sold sixty-two cases of candy bars to raise money to plant a shade tree on the school playground and figured out how to attach nine patches onto my daughter’s girl scout sash with staples and a glue gun. I was hoping you could spread my list out over several Christmases, since I had to write this letter with my son’s red crayon, on the back of a receipt in the laundry room between cycles, and who knows when I’ll find anymore free time in the next 18 years. Here are my Christmas wishes: I’d like a pair of legs that don’t ache after a day of chasing kids (in any color, except purple, which I already have) and arms that don’t flap in the breeze but are strong enough to carry a screaming toddler out of the candy aisle in the grocery store. I’d also like a waist, since I lost mine somewhere in the seventh month of my last pregnancy. If you’re hauling big ticket items this year I’d like a car with fingerprint resistant windows and a radio that only plays adult music; a television that doesn’t broadcast any programs containing talking animals; and a refrigerator with a secret compartment behind the crisper where I can hide to talk on the phone. On the practical side, I could use a talking daughter doll that says, “Yes, Mommy” to boost my parental confidence, along with one potty-trained toddler, two kids who don’t fight and three pairs of jeans that will zip all the way up without the use of power tools. I could also use a recording of Tibetan monks chanting, “Don’t eat in the living room” and ‘Take your hands off your brother,’ because my voice seems to be just out of my children’s hearing range and can only be heard by the dog. And please don’t forget the Playdoh Travel Pack, the hottest stocking stuffer this year for mothers of preschoolers. It comes in three fluorescent colors and is guaranteed to crumble on any carpet making the in-laws’ house seem just like mine. If it’s too late to find any of these products, I’d settle for enough time to brush my teeth and comb my hair in the same morning, or the luxury of eating food warmer than room temperature without it being served in a Styrofoam container. If you don’t mind I could also use a few Christmas miracles to brighten the holiday season. Would it be too much trouble to declare ketchup a vegetable? It will clear my conscience immensely. It would be helpful if you could coerce my children to help around the house without demanding payment as if they were the bosses of an organized crime family; or if my toddler didn’t look so cute sneaking downstairs to eat contraband ice cream in his pajamas at midnight. Well, Santa, the buzzer on the dryer is ringing and my son saw my feet under the laundry room door. I think he wants his crayon back. Have a safe trip and remember to leave your wet boots by the chimney and come in and dry off by the fire so you don’t catch a cold. Help yourself to cookies on the table but don’t eat too many or leave crumbs on the carpet. Yours Always...Mom. P.S. - One more thing...you can cancel all my requests if you can keep my children young enough to believe in Santa.
It’s a topic that hasn’t really come to the fore until recent years, simply because of the fact that, although we existed, we were not catered for in our later years as a trans-community. Health is a major concern due to the high level of drugs prescribed to the TS, prolonged hormone treatment, but also many other concerns, such as Will writing, pensions, etc. Here I have pooled together a few articles written in recent years that, hopefully, will be of some help.
Aging in Transgender People: An Annotated Bibliography
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The experiences of transgender people are sorely lacking in the literature on aging and the life course. Research on older populations rarely account for gay and lesbian people, let alone those that are transgender. To complicate this issue further, older people themselves rarely identify as transgender because this term has only recently entered the mainstream discourse on queer experiences. Consequently, it can be challenging to provide adequate services for the gender-different elderly. The following annotated bibliography introduces readers to materials available that relate to the topic of transgender experiences with aging.
The bibliography is grouped into five interrelated themes. The first theme deals with theory and history. This section provides readers with a background and context for understanding transgender experiences. The next theme contains autobiographies and other literature related to the process of transitioning from one gender to another. These stories provide insight into the aging experience as affected by hormones and surgery, and offer readers an intimate and personal perspective from the point of view of transgender people themselves. After reflections on the lives of transpeople, the following section deals with transgender health issues. This section highlights the primary health concerns that affect transpeople as they age. Health issues inform the subsequent section that describes the broader aging issues affecting transpeople. It serves to briefly acquaint readers with the specific issues affecting older transgender people. The final section includes references that deal with the political and social aspects of transgender aging. These references address policy measures and advocacy on the behalf of transgender people. In this section, readers will encounter issues like elder abuse, discrimination, relationships, and building community. This final section serves to tie all the issues together, forming a comprehensive understanding of the variety of issues that affect aging transpeople.
These themed sections should not be used in isolation from each other. Rather, they are meant to provide an integrated understanding of the topic. While these references deal with transgender experiences of aging, they are not inclusive of every experience. Notably lacking are the experiences of older transgender people of color and those from non-Western cultures. There is also a lack of information on issues related to disability, sexuality, leisure, long-term care, and assisted living. This bibliography provides a framework for an initial understanding of the lives of older transpeople. Hopefully, others interested in the field will expand upon the issues presented here.
Theory and History
In order to understand transgender experiences with aging, it is important to first become familiar with transgender history and theories on gender. Through theory and history, one is able to place discussions on transgender aging in a broader context. The following references briefly introduce readers to larger issues affecting transgender people. Butler, Judith. 2001. “Doing Justice to Someone— Sex Reassignment and Allegories of Transsexuality.” GLQA Journal of Lesbian and Gay Studies 7:621-36. Butler is recognized as a leader in postmodern and poststructuralist gender theory. Her perspective on transgender experiences presents gender as a social construction. This article is not as dense as some of her other work, but tends to look at trans issues in an impersonal manner. It is of interest to readers seeking to become familiar with scholarly takes on transgender experiences. Feinberg, Leslie. 1996. Transgender Warriors: Making History from Joan of Arc to RuPaul. Boston: Beacon Press. Feinberg details a comprehensive and cross-cultural history of transgender people. This book is extremely informative and written in an enlightening manner. She makes use of pictures and photographs throughout the text. This is an essential and pioneering book for anyone interested in understanding transgender history. Hausman, Bernice L. 2001. “Recent Transgender Theory.” Feminist Studies 27:465-91. Hausman reviews the predominant theoretical discussions on transgender experiences and discusses its overlaps with queer and feminist theories. This is a thorough examination of available theories that frame the transgender discourse and provides readers with a good introduction. It is most useful if scholarly connections are of interest.
Autobiographies and Transitioning
An important aspect of the transgender aging experience is the actual transition from one gender to another. Many transitioning individuals experience what has been described as a second puberty period, coming out process, or coming of age experience. Through the examination of transpeople’s personal stories, readers are able to understand and relate to transgender experiences through an intimate lens. Davis, Kate. 2000. Southern Comfort. New York: Q-Ball Productions. This documentary film chronicles the life of Robert Eads, a female-to-male transsexual living in the rural South. His relationships with family, friends, and partner are highlighted. Viewers witness his battle with cancer and the obstacles he faces in accessing health care. It is a touching and insightful look at the struggles endured in Eads’ last years. The film offers audiences access into one man’s personal story. Davis, Sharon. 1985. A Finer Specimen of Womanhood: A Transsexual Speaks Out. New York: Vantage. The author, an African American transsexual woman, offers an account of her transition and details her consequent role in the public spotlight. The book offers readers a personal look into her life, and is one of the few books highlighting the story of a transwoman of color.
Hunt, Nancy. 1978. Mirror Image: The Odyssey of a Male-to-Female Transsexual. New York: Holt, Rinehart Winston. This book describes how one person transitioned from a crossdressing man into a transsexual woman. It highlights how this transition affected her relationship with a woman partner over time, an aspect of transitioning relevant to many people who partner with transwomen. Martino, Mario. 1977. Emergence: A Transsexual Autobiography. New York: Crown Publishers. This book describes one of the first accounts of a female-to-male transsexual. It provides insight into the aging process of one person when instances like this were presumed to be rare. Rudd, P. 1990. Crossdressing with Dignity: The Case for Transcending Gender Lines. Katy, TX: PM Publishers. This book’s insights stem from research on a large number of crossdressers. It chronicles how men become more comfortable with their gender expression as they age. It also embraces a perspective of gender fluidity. It is useful for service providers and analysts interested in how research informs professional practice.
Historically, transgender experiences have been excluded and misrepresented from research on health. For example, no studies have examined the long-term effects of hormone use, nor have any attempted to describe transgender experiences with sexual health. This section contains references that highlight the available information related to transgender health. Cascio, Justin. 2001. “Cancer Risks in the Trans Community.” Trans-Health.com 3. www.trans-health.com/ Iss3Vol1/cancer.htm. Retrieved November 16, 2002. This article mostly describes cancer risks for transwomen and recommendations for mammography. Suggestions for age-appropriate cancer screenings are given. Although short in length, the article highlights a neglected issue in the transgender aging population. Every transwoman undergoing hormone therapy should read this. Lombardi, Emilia L. and G. van Servellen. 2000. “Building Culturally Sensitive Substance Use Prevention and Treatment Programs for Transgendered Populations.” Journal of Substance Abuse Treatment 19:291-96. This article focuses exclusively on substance problems in the transgender community. The authors advocate for transgender inclusion in substance abuse treatment programs. They suggest ways for providers to become more sensitive and inclusive of transgender clients. It is a useful guide for providers that service transgender clients in diverse settings. Lombardi, Emilia. 2001. “Enhancing Transgender Health Care.” American Journal of Public Health 91:86973. This article serves to encourage providers and researchers to understand the specific needs of transgender clients. It discusses obstacles transpeople have been confronted with in accessing health services and provides suggestions for improvement. The author effectively and clearly communicates the issue, providing a catalyst for change within the professional field.
Tully, Brian. 1992. Accounting for Transsexualism and Transhomosexuality: The Gender Identity Careers of Over 200 Men and Women Who Have Petitioned for Surgical Reassignment. London: Whiting and Birch. This book examines the lives of transsexuals from a variety of genders, classes, and ages. It discusses obstacles encountered by transpeople in accessing health services related to transitioning. It is useful for transpeople interested in avoiding common mistakes in dealing with health systems. Wilkerson, George J. (aka Bobbi Williams). 2001. “What We Don’t Know: The Unaddressed Health Concerns of the Transgendered.” Trans-Health.com 1. http://www.trans-health.com/displayarticle.php?aid=7. Retrieved November 16, 2002. Wilkerson includes issues of aging transpeople within a larger context of transgender health issues. This inclusion places aging issues on equal par with other more visible health concerns for this community. The article provides a comprehensive summary of health issues that affect the transgender community.
Aging Issues for Older Transpeople
Within the body of knowledge on transgender experiences, there is a lack of information about aging and the life course. The following references describe an underrepresented faction of the transgender community, and pinpoint an important aspect of this bibliography. Bockting, Walter O. and Charles Cesaretti. 2001. “Spirituality, Transgender Identity, and Coming Out.” Journal of Sex Education and Therapy 26:291-301. This article begins to describe the topic of transgender spiritualities. For such an intimate subject, it tends to focus on the more impersonal aspects of transgender experiences, but is useful for transpeople interested in exploring accessible spiritual paths. Cahill, Sean and Ken South. 2002. “Policy Issues Affecting Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender People in Retirement.” Generations 26:49-54. This article is a groundbreaking peek into the issues faced by LGBT people in retirement. It provides a framework for understanding the unique needs of older LGBT people. Transgender issues are discussed, but the majority of information pertains to lesbians and gays. Cascio, Justin. 2002. “Growing Older and Being Trans.” Trans-Health.com 4. www.trans-health.com/Iss4Vol1/ older.htm. Retrieved November 16, 2002. Based on a workshop given at the True Spirit Conference, the author initiates discussion with the presenters to elaborate on concerns specific to older transpeople. The article discusses medical and legal issues, developing community, working for change, and viewing aging positively. The interview-type format places the voices of older transpeople into the forefront. Witten, Tarynn M. and Loree Cook-Daniels. 1999. “Transgender Aging: Introduction to an Emerging Field.” Gerontologist 39:79-81. This piece introduces readers within the field of gerontology to issues of transgender aging. The study discussed was presented to the Gerontological Society of America and is intended to spark interest on transgender experiences within the discipline
www.forge-forward.org. 2000-02. Retrieved November 16, 2002. It is necessary to reference this entire website because it contains so much relevant material concerning transgender experiences with aging. Some exceptional pieces are described below. Loree Cook-Daniels’ contributions permeate this website. In “Growing Old Transgendered,” she briefly introduces readers to the issues facing older transgender people. She describes activism within the LGBT community in “Ageism.” “Elder Abuse” is an abbreviated version of a larger report and describes occurrences of violence against the elderly. It is written in an informal and accessible manner. “Lesbian, Gay Male, Bisexual and Transgendered Elders: Elder Abuse and Neglect Issues” is an exceptional article that contextualizes elder abuse in the LGBT communities. Concerning transgendered elders, providers are cautioned to be sensitive, noting that the term “transgender” is relatively new and that many older people will not identify as such. The author discusses issues around legal realities, intimate relationships, and providerclient relationships. Cook-Daniels discusses issued related to SOFFAs (significant others, family, friends, and allies) as well. In “FTM Post Mortem,” this personal story describes the transphobic situations encountered by a partner of an FtM transsexual after he died. It provides a human look into the reality of transgender discrimination as it affects partners. “Transgender Elders and SOFFAs: A Primer for Service Providers and Advocates” is a comprehensive and informative article that defines and explains terms used in describing the transgender population. It details issues of transitioning in later life, health concerns for aging populations, legal and economic issues, and issues faced by SOFFAs. The intended audiences are service providers and policy-makers, and the article succeeds in clearly outlining the pressing concerns of transgender elders. Other articles of interest include Joseph M. Schreiber’s “Slow Learner,” a story of an FtM who transitioned within a marriage to a man. This article provides an interesting account of a perspective rarely vocalized in the FtM community. Shannon Minter provides a brief summary of legal issues transgender people may face concerning marriage in “Transgender Elders and Marriage: The Importance of Legal Planning.” This article specifically focuses on how these issues pertain to older transpeople. Any transgender people interested in learning about how transitioning affects marriage privileges should read this article.
Making It Political
The following articles put transgender aging issues in a broader context of advocacy and political activism. They highlight some of the specific issues confronted by this community and provide suggestions to improve the quality of life for transpeople. Edwards, Douglas J. 2001. “Outing the Issue.” Nursing Homes Long Term Care Management 50:40-44. This article discusses retirement and long-term care for LGBT populations. Geared mostly to service providers, it provides ways to make LGBT people feel accepted within integrated communities. It does not go into specific needs for transgender people in great detail, but offers supportive resources for more information. Lombardi, Emilia L., Riki Anne Wilchins, D. Priesing, and D. Malouf. 2001. “Gender Violence: Transgender Experiences with Violence and Discrimination.” Journal of Homosexuality 42:89-101. This article is a collective effort to highlight an unfortunately common experience of transgender people. The information contained within this article is moving and is effective in arguing for increased legal protection for transpeople. Anyone interested in political advocacy for transgender people should read this article.
Namaste, Vivian K. and Sharon E. Preves. 2001. “Invisible Lives: The Erasure of Transsexual and Transgendered People.” Journal of Sex Research 38:269-71. This article discusses the lack of information about transgender experiences in research. It calls for more inclusion and integration of transgender experiences to provide for better services. It successfully places trans issues at the forefront of sex research and is of concern to researchers in the field. Thomas, S. and G. Mason. 2001. Engendering Homophobia: Violence, Sexuality and Gender Conformity.” British Journal of Sociology 37:257-73. This article discusses issues faced by transgender people in Europe. It details the connections between homophobia and sexism and how they relate to transgender oppression. Although academic in tone, it is useful for readers interested in how different oppressions intersect. Witten, Tarynn M. and Evan A. Eyler. 1999. “Hate Crimes and Violence Against the Transgendered.” Peace Review 11:461-69. This article describes the transgender population and focuses on how transpeople have been targeted with violence. This provides one of the first looks into the problem of violence against transpeople.
In compiling this bibliography, it is clear that a lot of work still needs to be done. Many voices of transgender elders remain unheard, and transpeople are underrepresented in the available gerontological literature. In addition, the references cited above will appeal to different audiences in terms of content and accessibility. Some readings are most useful for transgender people in processes of self-discovery or for personal knowledge and information. Other resources will be helpful for SOFFAs. Finally, many of the references will appeal to those with academic or professional interests. It is my sincere hope that these references serve as a catalyst for future exploration of the topic of transgender aging experiences.
Plenty of useful and thought provoking reading there, here are some more helpful places to visit.
Growing Old Transgendered
by Loree Cook-Daniels Are FTMs who have been on testosterone for 30 years more likely to develop blood problems? Are there heart medications older MTFs should steer clear of? Is 65 too late to have a phalloplasty? How comfortable will the partner of 55-year-old, “new FTM” feel in the local support group? What have been others’ experiences telling grandchildren that grandpa’s going to become grandma? How does one go about using a parent’s power of attorney when the name on the paper is “Judy Smith” and you’re now “James Smith”? When it’s time to enter a nursing home, who is available to help educate the nurses’ aides about how to handle a man with “female” genitals? If the nursing home refuses to accept the new resident, does he have any recourse? Does he have any rights if the nursing home refuses to let him have private time alone with his male spouse? 51
If most of these questions stump you, you’re in good company. Although transgendered persons have always existed, we will be the first generations to reach old age in sufficient numbers to be able to start forging the answers to these - and hundreds of other - aging-related questions. In 1998 the Transgender Aging Network (TAN) and ElderTG were founded to start answering these questions. TAN networks and supports the “professionals” - researchers, health care professionals, service providers, advocates, educators, and others - who are interested in transgender aging issues. ElderTG is an e-mail list that networks and supports transsexual, transgender, and intersex persons aged 50 and older, and the SOFFAs involved with such persons. The range of issues and persons that are of interest to both TAN and ElderTG is huge. There are at least three generations encompassed within the targeted agespan, for instance. One generation, roughly 50 to 65, is still dealing with workforce issues while simultaneously planning retirement, providing eldercare to older relatives, and finishing raising and launching children. The middle generation, approximately 65 to 85, is coping with the challenges of retirement; the loss of loved ones, income, and routines; the threat of isolation; and, possibly, increasing health concerns. The oldest generation, those 85 and older, is concerned about its legacies, arranging for long term care, and making end of life decisions. Another way of dividing this population is by stage of transition. An FTM transitioning at age 63 has questions quite different from those facing his age peer who transitioned 25 years before, for instance. Yet all those who are aging or who are working with older transgendered persons and SOFFAs share concerns and, more importantly, knowledge and experience that others can use and build upon. Some of the areas that we hope to work on include: · Models of transgendered aging. (It’s always helpful to know that others have forged the path in front of you.) · Healthy transgender aging. (What are the implications of long-term hormone use? How does testosterone react when mixed with three or four or six other medications for chronic conditions? Should hormone dosages be reduced once one becomes 60, 70, or 80?) · Healthy transgender aging interactions. (Are the issues and support needs of older transgendered persons and SOFFAs different from those of their younger peers?) · System advocacy. (How do we educate the hundreds of thousands of aging services providers first that transgender elders exist and, then, how to appropriately serve them? Who can help transgendered elders get Medicare to pay for surgery? ) · Integration into the transgender community. (Do older transgender persons and SOFFAs feel welcome in existing transgender organizations? Are these organizations meeting their needs?) TAN has undertaken a number of advocacy efforts, including: · Answered a request from SAGE (Senior Action in a Gay Environment - the oldest Lesbian and Gay aging services organization in the country) to assist them in understanding what they’d need to do to incorporate transgender aging issues into their programs. (It’s not clear what they’ve done as a result of this, but we’ve certainly been circulating copies of that letter!)
· Lobbied the sponsors of a Washington, D.C. conference on Lesbian and Gay aging to include at least a mention of transgendered elders and TAN. (This letter and packet of materials was also sent to Congressman Barney Frank, who was keynoting the conference.) · Worked with LGAIN, the Lesbian and Gay Aging Interests Network, of the American Society on Aging - the largest professional group in the country concerned with Lesbian and Gay aging - to include transgendered issues on its website and in its newsletter. This work has resulted in a decision to devote a whole edition of their newsletter to transgender aging issues during 1999! TAN will help plan, write, and distribute this newsletter. · Advocated that the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force (NGLTF) expand its public policy paper on “LGBT” aging issues to actually include information on transgender aging public policy issues. Although organizations concerned with Lesbian and Gay aging issues may be the most likely to also begin looking at transgender aging issues, they are certainly not the only ones TAN members are working with. For instance, one TAN member has been including transgender aging issues in workshops she gives nationally to adult protective services and aging services professionals. Another has begun including “out” transgendered elders in a traveling photography and essays exhibit she has created. If you are interested in transgendered aging issues, we encourage you to join either (or both) TAN or ElderTG. To join ElderTG, e-mail moderator Loree Cook-Daniels (LoreeCD@aol.com) a short message explaining who you are and why you are interested in ElderTG. TAN’s sole membership requirement is that every member answer the following short questionnaire to facilitate networking among members. Answers can be e-mailed, faxed or snailmailed per instructions at the end of the questions. Those requesting additional information about either TAN or ElderTG should also direct their questions or requests to Loree Cook-Daniels via any of the means below. Transgender Aging Network Member Questionnaire Loree Cook-Daniels 6990 N. Rockledge Avenue Glendale, WI 53209 Voice: 414/540-6456 Fax: 414/540-6489 Email: LoreeCD@aol.com
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Winter-proof your skin
by Rebecca Barnes Studies at the International Dermal Institute have shown that 59 per cent of women over the age of 18 rank dry, dehydrated skin as their main concern during winter. So if your skin starts to misbehave when the weather turns, our essential tips will ensure you are prepared for the onslaught
‘Exfoliation will buff away the dead cells that might otherwise dull our complexion,’ explains skincare guru Bharti Vyas. ‘The very act of removing this redundant top layer appears to stimulate cell production lower down in the epidermis. ‘However, although any skin will benefit from gentle weekly exfoliation, take care as over-enthusiastic scrubbing can undermine the skin’s barrier function.’ Try a soft facecloth or flannel as a DIY alternative to a facial scrub, although avoid using one with a harsh, scratchy surface. After cleansing, massage gently to loosen any dead cells on the skin’s surface. If skin is especially dry, massage a little cream cleanser onto damp skin, then massage with your facecloth.
A few adjustments to your skincare regime will pay dividends when its cold. Hannah Cowell, skincare manager at U.R Beautiful, Kingston-upon-Thames, says: ‘Swap your foaming or liquid cleanser for a luxurious cream version, which will feel richer while nourishing and balancing the skin. ‘Most peoples’ skin demands a richer moisturiser during the winter months but you need to choose the right one for you – just because a product is creamier or more expensive, doesn’t necessarily mean that it’s more effective (see our expert tips below for ingredients to look out for). Hannah Cowell says: ‘A hydrating serum used underneath your moisturiser will penetrate deep into the skin, nourishing the bottom layer of cells so when they come to the surface they will be hydrated, plumper and brighter.’ Sun protection is not just for the beach – the UV rays that can cause lines and wrinkles are in the atmosphere 365 days of the year. So if you are concerned about premature ageing, invest in a moisturiser that contains sunscreens or UV filters.
Beat the heating
Save the planet as well as your skin by turning the central heating down a degree or two. Central heating creates a low humidity environment that literally strips skin of its natural moisture, while low outdoor temperatures provide a harsh contrast, meaning skin can become more sensitive. ‘It is estimated that at optimum saturation our skin requires a minimum of 10 per cent water in the uppermost layers,’ says Sally Penfold of The International Dermal Institute. ‘Should the relative humidity of our environment drop below 60 per cent, our skin will start to become dehydrated. To put this into perspective, the average office building has a relative humidity of 40 per cent and an aircraft cabin has 10-20 per cent relative humidity. Central heating is renowned for drying the atmosphere and altering humidity.’ You can counteract the drying effects of your home or office central heating by placing a bowl of water near the radiator to put more moisture back into the air.
Love your lips
It’s not just skin that suffers when it’s chilly, lips also need looking after to ensure they stay super-smooth. To deflake dry lips, massage with a generous amount of petroleum jelly. Allow to sink in for a couple of minutes, then gently rub lips with a warm, damp facecloth. As the jelly is removed, flakes of skin will come with it. Slick on a good lip balm morning and night, and switch to a nourishing lip colour to prevent that unattractive parched look during the day. ‘Look for a lip balm containing pomegranate or shea butter, as both of these ingredients will give maximum moisturisation,’ suggests Hannah Cowell.
And according to the experts...
‘During the winter months you may need to give your skin a little extra TLC to combat the combined damaging and drying effects of the cold weather and central heating. Look for natural, organic face and body products containing oils rich in essential fatty acids to help replace lost moisture. Regular facial massage brings much-needed nutrients to the skin: try gently massaging seven drops of rosehip seed oil, and one drop of Frankincense essential oil into the skin morning and evening to restore smoothness and radiance. Emma Thomson, Head of Natural Beauty and Aromatherapy, Neal’s Yard Remedies ‘The cause of Acne Rosacea is not known. However it has been recognised that it is mostly found on fair skin types which have a natural sensitivity to changes in temperature, causing redness and flushing, which in turn weakens the capillary walls. Keeping the skin at a regular temperature will help and can be achieved by reducing hot drinks, hot spicy food, excessive sun exposure, alcohol, strenuous exercise and stressful situations. The use of tepid water when cleansing will also help maintain a regular temperature. Organic rose oil has an anti- inflammatory effect.’ Susan Harmsworth, founder and CEO, ESPA 56
‘Most of us identify a change in suppleness and moisture during winter, which leaves our skins feeling uncomfortably tight. This is due to our skins normal protective barrier becoming affected. We have studied the impact of various ingredients on dehydrated and dry skin, and have found that the first step would be to restore the components of the natural barrier layer. To replace lost lipids, ingredients such as shea butter and evening primrose oil will relieve the driest of skins. The use of humectants or water binding agents is equally important; hyaluronic acid is the most beneficial humectant for the skin as it can hold a thousand times its weight in water.’ Sally Penford, education manager, International Dermal Institute Brought to you by Johnson’s® Dreamy Skin bath, body and moisturisers
Winter Sun Protection
by Dr Barbara Reed Q. How do I protect my skin from the sun when I’m exposed to the winter wind? A. In winter, the humidity inside houses, offices and schools is low because of heating systems. Forced-air heating is probably the most drying (radiator heat is a little less so). When skin is dry and itchy, winter itch can occur - especially in the elderly because their skin produces less oil. And it’s even worse for those of us who enjoy outdoor activities in snowy climates - there’s the problem of increased exposure to ultraviolet rays. For every 1,000 feet of elevation, ultraviolet exposure increases by about 2 percent. And snow reflects about 80 per cent of the ultraviolet light, compounding the problem. Those who are indoors often think that they don’t need sunscreen. In fact, it is important for people to wear sunscreen all year long. Even if you are indoors, ultraviolet exposure can occur through car windows and cause skin problems over the years. Many people have extra sun damage on the left side of the face because of sun exposure through the car window. If you are outside, be sure to apply sunscreen at least 30 minutes before sun exposure to ensure that it absorbs into the skin. Reapply every two hours. Keep a lip balm or protector of SPF 15 or higher, and re-use it every half hour
10 ways to winterproof your hair
by Caroline Hogg
Dull, lifeless, unmanageable locks? Here’s how to turn your hair into your crowning glory this winter.
Surprisingly, the air in winter is drier than in summer and, coupled with central heating, it can make hair drier, too - but at least it’s less inclined to flop. If you switch to a moisturising shampoo that won’t strip your hair and the right styling products, you’ll probably be able to squeeze in an extra day between washes. That means you won’t need to blast your hair with a dryer as often, which is good news for your hair.
Extra conditioning is essential
Stop hair drying out like straw with a richer conditioner. If the ends are really dry, rinse out your normal conditioner in the usual way and follow with a leave-in conditioning spray where you need it to help soften and seal the ends. Treat your hair to an intensive conditioning treatment once a week to increase elasticity, strength and shine. Some of the best work in under three minutes.
Fight the frizz
Top hairdresser, Richard Ward, advises using nourishing and smoothing shampoos and conditioners to help put moisture back into the hair. He says, ‘Use a straightening balm on the mid-lengths to the ends and divide your hair into sections so that you can blow-dry or flat-iron one area at a time. Always point your hairdryer down the hairshaft to keep the cuticles lying flat and try to keep your hair out of the rain.
Treat your scalp
Freezing cold weather, warm homes and a generally drier atmosphere can take their toll on your scalp. It becomes drier, flakier and can feel tight and itchy. First give your scalp the gentle brush off to loosen flaky bits, before using a soothing moisturising shampoo, like Nizoral’s. Stimulate the circulation by massaging your scalp daily before reaching for stronger, anti-dandruff alternatives.
When hair strands are dry and brushing has caused friction, the ions that are produced repel each other, causing static and annoying flyaways. The newest Ionic hairdryers - from Nicky Clarke Electric and Revlon - release streams of conditioning opposite ions that surround each hair, to help remove static build-up. Mia McCarthy, at top South Wales hairdressers, McCarthy’s, says: ‘Static is often a problem for fine hair and using a good hairspray after styling will help flatten those short strands that refuse to lie down.’
Control wild locks
Curls often need coaxing into a smooth, defined shape. ‘To get control of your hair you need to smooth and coat it with a product that tames but adds flexibility,’ says celebrity and Royal hairdresser, Denise McAdam. ‘Work a small amount of serum or anti-frizz cream through half-dry hair before blow drying or winding onto Velcro rollers. Remove them when you’re hair’s dry, or try twisting sections of hair into shape and letting it dry naturally. Really unruly locks may need the heat of a curling gadget to really get that tousled look.
At war with the elements
‘If your hair fluffs up at the first sign of rain, use a product that will seal the hair shaft and help prevent moisture from getting in,’ says Charles Worthington, who recommends his Q&A Frizz Humidity Block Hairspray, to keep your hair smooth and frizz-free. For short hair that needs texturising or sculpting and won’t flatten completely in the wind, try using a firm hold gel or waxy pomade. And, apart from securing your hair back into a smooth J-Lo bun or a side plait, a gel spray will help keep curl, body or shape in longer styles.
Hair should shine
Colour doesn’t fade as fast in winter but as your skin is paler, you should go for slightly richer shades. Colour expert, Lisa Shepherd, advises going for shades you would find in a chocolate box, from caramel to bitter brown. And use a colour enhancing shampoo/conditioner once a week with a spritz of shine spray to add a gloss to your hair on gloomy days.
Check your diet
Don’t give in to excessive sweet and stodgy comfort foods, which won’t do much for your hair. Protein and certain fats are essential for the growth of strong hair that’s in good condition, so include more dairy products, oily fish such as sardines and salmon; chicken, cereals and vegetable oils. Top hairdresser, Andrew Jose says: ‘Up your zinc, iron and B, C and E vitamins with fresh fruit, green vegetables, wholewheat pasta, brown rice and pulses’.
Water, that is. Since 70 per cent of the body is made of water we have to keep it stocked up, so rehydrate your hair from the inside by drinking eight glasses a day. Sadly, tea, coffee and alcohol have a dehydrating effect, so remember to have a glass of water to compensate for each time you have one of them. Brought to you by iVilliage.co.uk
Autumn 2008 will see a return to sophistication and to almost unbridled creativity, so it’s time to
update your make-up bags and make-up techniques accordingly for the new season. The good news for beauty junkies is that the key to this season’s look is your imagination. Nude bases are showing no signs of going out, so keep it pale and interesting to flatter your complexion naturally and you can have fun experimenting with your eyes and lips: red lips in gloss, matte or satin shades to bring a touch of vibrant colour to lips through the cold months and colourful eyes on show. Play with multiple colours for a doe-eyed or bird of paradise look, and use your imagination to create a work of art with your make-up brush.
After years of neutral chic, this autumn screams sophistication with a capital S, with strong shades of pink, gold, grey, black, plum and red, and sophisticated beauty mixed with a rock’n’roll feel.... Dark, captivating and mysterious, black is this season’s colour.
Smoky eyes combined with a flawless complexion and shiny lips create a sophisticated rock look. Dramatic black is powerfully glam, and though easy to use it does precise application and some carefully chosen shades of grey to soften it. This year, the focus is on darker shades of red than classic lippy shades: aubergine, cherry, crimson and copper, and at the other end of the colour spectrum, candy pink is also in. Textures are swinging between ultra matte and super shiny. The only rule is whichever you go for, don’t do it by halves! And make sure your application technique is up to scratch as these bold colours don’t leave much room for error...
It’s a big year for mascaras! With high-tech designs and brand new formulas, the latest generation of mascaras is a real treat for our lashes. New application techniques and completely redesigned brushes mean that there’s a whole load of technology now involved. Last spring saw mineral make-up take off in the form of powder and foundation, and now it’s branching out into mascara and gloss. These advanced skin-friendly products contain neither fragrances nor preservatives, respect your skin and give perfectly even coverage. Nothing short of perfect!
This season the focus is on highlighting cheekbones in pink, but not like a Russian doll. Use your blusher to sculpt your face and create cheekbones. Go for blusher with a light, soft texture. Apply first with a large brush all over the cheek area, then with a bevel-edged brush on the cheekbones for an up-to-date look.
This season sees make up that is as bold as you imagination, or as sophisticated as black and white movie stars. Which ever look you are going for a few basic rules apply. Leave the summer bronze and light pinks behind and bring on the bold and the confident winter colours. Bases are nude and matte, cheeks are pale peach or a matte pink, lips are red or plump coloured gloss and eyes are smoky or colourful. A little powder to set the look but not too much. Brows are prominent this season. Keep a natural shape to them and darken their effect with a brow filler, stronger than pencils these come in wax, gel or cream alternatives. For lighter haired people keep to a light medium brown, darker haired people have the option of dark brown.
Smokey grey eyes.
Not black but just as sophisticated this season sees grey eyes. This look is best achieved with four tones but three will do just as well. To ensure you get matching tones go for one of the many palettes on the market. The tones range from charcoal to pale grey highlighter. The lighter base shade is applied to the entire lid. The darker base is added through the crease. The darkest tone is kept at the outer corner and the brow line is highlighted, as is the centre of the lid to open the eye. Blend well. A grey liner works well, black is bolder depending on your look, do the upper and lower lash lines, smudge to soften. If you choose add a little of the second lightest tone under the eye.
For a bold look choose a liquid or gel liner, kohl works for a more subtle effect, apply as close as possible to the upper lash line. Create the cat effect by applying the shadow in an upward sweeping motion away from the eyes then complete the rest of the lid. Apply lots of mascara.
This season is seeing a fantastic range of bright colours that are subtle metallics. The choice of colour is endless but again go for a pallet if you are unsure of matching the tones. For a bolder look experiment with multiple colours on the eyes. Remember the golden rule that if you have bright eyes then less on the lips and vice versa. This is classic fro the rock chick look, non-traditional colours with thin liquid liner, heavy brows, matte skin so as not to clash with the colour and paler lips. Rock chick look can also be achieved without the bold colours by focusing on the eyes with grey tones and pink lips.
The retro chic look cries out red lips. With many products on the market choose a red to match your colouring. Glossy red is difficult to maintain but makes the strongest statement. To keep precision in the look go for a red close to your natural colour so that when it wears away it will not appear messy and smudged. Also lip liner works well with this look. If going for the red lips keep the rest of your make up minimal.
VOTE #1 - Kristen
VOTE #2 - Marla
VOTE #3 - Abbi
VOTE #4 - Lynda
VOTE #5 - Wanda
VOTE #6 - Daphne
Any time can be a difficult time, but the holiday season can prove a lil too much, this year i hope to give a lil help. This line will be open over the holiday period if you just feel the need to hear a friendly voice. I’ll keep the line open as long and as often as i can (work permitting!) so please call if you feel the need - PLEASE do not abuse this service, you may be stopping another girl getting help - Many Thanks, Mandy Taylor
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W H I T E
T.V.SANTA. When Santa came to face this year, He would not mess about, “I will not wear that Santa suit, ‘Cos I am coming out. He went into the workshop, Where the elves were making clothes, And said, “I want a Santa skirt, And some matching hose.” “Make me a pretty jacket, Now, elves, you must behave. You must do just what I say, While I go for a shave. And taking up his razor, He shaved off every hair. And picking up a girdle, He said, “That’s what I’ll wear. The elves were duly summonsed, And brought to him his suit. And stood around in horror, As he tried a high heeled boot. He tried the skirt and jacket, Put on the other boot. And he really looked a treat, With his new Santa suit. “I’ll call my nephew, Sydney, The one who is TV. And when he sees my outfit, He will be proud of me.” “I’ll fill my sleigh with goodies, For all transgendered folk. When they wake up at Christmas, Oh, what a lovely joke.”
Now, Sydney, known as Cindy, Was a cross dressers dream, And she came to help Santa, With perfumes, lotions, cream. And when she was all finished, And the makeup was all on, There was no trace of Santa, Saint Nicholas was gone. A pretty lady stood there, Stood in Santa’s place, With pretty skirt and jacket, And makeup on her face. And so, the two cross dressers, They loaded up the sleigh. For they were in a hurry, To be going on their way. They filled the sleigh with goodies, Like wigs and bras and breasts, All things for folks transgendered, Who were travelling on their quests. Trying to be female, In every kind of way. But now no need to worry, Help is on the way. While Cindy did the driving, Santa sat in back. Smoothing down her skirt, And clutching at the sack. When Christmas eve was over, And they had done their rounds, Cindy was exhausted, And Santa had lost pounds. But in all the whole world over, Transgendered people found, That Santa’d been a’ callin’ And never made a sound. As well as wigs and clothing, I’ll bet you’d never guess, Every single person, Had been given SRS. 73 Merry Christmas from Janey. 1996.
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OK, at last , the long awaited results..... You voted in your......10’s....... The premise was a simple one... We’ve had man against machine....... but NEVER in human History have we had........ ( A TOTALLY friendly, warm, cuddly and not at all threatening.........)
GG v TG Fashion Showdown!!!
The premise is simple, each issue ONE garment is chosen, from which each gurl has to ensemble an entire outfit, submit their selection to an independant writer, who then creates the article, no cheating!, no conspiring.... just pure, raw......fashion savvy! Last issue a pair of GORGEOUS long black dress chosen, and from it two UNIQUE interpretations were created... you came.... you voted...... you knew not which was the (gulp) Mans and which was the TG’s...... and so....by
The starting point this issue is this quirky lil bag, styled in the shape of a stiletto heel and in perky PVC where will this lil number take our two competitors?.....
Our first stylist has chosen full on glamour for their make-up with strongly made-up eyes and deep red lips, a timeless look.
The outfit kicks off proper with this gorgeous 50’s inspired black and white dress, ultra feminine and belted for a modern twist
The quirkiness of the bag is then followed in the eye department with ultra-retro 50’s glasses, mirroring the ruby red lips and adding contrast to the black and white theme.
Red follows on with these cute, chunky heels and retro jewellery
And finally, stylist A goes full on with the 50’s theme with some classy retro underwear to make you feel a full on glamour-puss.
Now heres a look that can only be called Biker-chic! Stylist B has kicked off with some seriously sexy leather trousers that will cling to your every curve like a Harley to a freeway
Teaming this with a busom-busting bustierre that will have eyes-apopping, all in the sexiest black satin....
.....and kinky black leather boots with stunning silver buckle and heel detail.
Again, the make-up is full-on, but with a slight Goth edge to bring the biker look together
But finishing it all off with a touch of class by adding some girly bling!
So there you have it , two fantastic designs, but which one tickles your fancy, get voting NOW!!!
CALLING ALL GG’S!!
Think your good? Think you have Style? Fancy a lil.................. Wager? You know the deal, if you would like to pit your wits against our TG Style Guru then get in touch. This months challenge is to develope an outfit with these SNAZZY boots as the starting point.
Write to me at mandytaylor6662000 titling your mail “Bring It On!!” and let battle commence!!!
Frosty the Snowman. Frosty the snowman , Was a very happy chap, The children who had built him up, Gave him a scarf and cap. But here’s what they did, To make him laugh and shout, They put an extra piece on him, And it was sticking out. There must have been some magic there, The kids had learned at school, “Cos when he looked between his legs, He smiled and said, “ That’s cool.”, Frosty the snowman, Was very proud of it, He went around to show it off, Embarrassed not one bit. --------------Frosty the snowman, Was running round the town, And everyone who looked at him, Stopped and gave a frown. Frosty the snowman, He did not really care, “Up to the convent I will go, And give the nuns a scare.” It seems that he was tempting fate, The sun came out just then, It melted all his “outy” bit, And then went in again. Frosty the snowman, As you can likely guess, Is quite a different person now, Since he’s had SRS. Janey Lang. 3rd.Nov. 1997.
Ask The Girls
I do so hate the term ‘Agony Aunt’, to me it lends itself to a matronly figure tut-tutting at you and unleashing their ‘wisdom’ in a oneway torrent. So, this isn’t an Agony Aunt column, this is you, chewing the fat with a few friends, sounding out your buddies over a glass or three of Chardonney. I have had the great fortune over the years to have had such a diverse group of friends, that if I ever had a problem I knew there was SOMEONE out there I could ask....this has ranged from the mundane ( what lippy goes with that top? ) to the more complex like..... “ i’ve just taken a PVC dress out the packet and it looks like an inner-tube!!! how on earth do I get it shiny??!! “ ( I do not lie!!!!! ) So, now I felt that it might be an idea to get a few friends together and see if we might be able to help you iron out the creases in your lives. and I do mean ANY creases!! to this end I thought it might pay to have a small spectrum of views, so each issue you can ask advise from a TG, a TS AND a GG!!! so if they cant solve it NO-ONE can ( I even have a few suitable guys to hand if the need arises! ) so come one, come all..... so......need a top up?........
Hi Girls, I wondered if you could help me. I consider myself a female illusionist rather than a TV , but my problem is probably universal. My partner has recently found out about my dressing and, although not completely against it, is finding it pretty hard to get her head round. She has known now for several months , but things are still strained. Do the girls think I should stop dressing to please my partner?
There seems to be a trend in the community for those that dress to be in denial. They concoct new ‘labels’ for themselves just so they don’t have to admit they are TV. Sorry, female illusionist is just another such label. If you cannot accept who you are, how can you expect your partner too? Tell her you are a tranny and like to dress up, bottom line. She can probably get her head round that. Whereas female illusionist, what the hell is that? I am sorry if you think I am being too hard but sometime we need the hard truth. Once she knows exactly what you are, then see if she is willing speak to you about it. Tell her why you like it and how far you want to go with it. She may well have loads of worst case scenario’s going round in her head and you need to put her straight. Be truthful. I have lived by the following all my life ‘always tell the truth, that way you don’t have to remember which lie you told’. Tell lies and you will get caught out and any trust/respect she may have for you will be gone, possibly for ever.
As for you trying to stop dressing to please you partner, then that will never work. You know you cannot do that. You may stop for a while but you will be drawn back to it again and you’ll hide till you get caught. Besides we are all entitled to have some enjoyment out of life. If you enjoy it why should you stop? If she truly loves then she should accept everything about you. Expressing this female side is just part of who you are. Restrict that part and you become someone else. Best of luck.
Hi there, Hmmm, difficult one this but deep down in your heart I think you already know that if you stopped dressing just to please someone else no matter how much they meant to you, you’d regret it in the long run.
You have a starting point that your partner already knows about your dressing and has done for some time now. Naturally, this is going to take some adjustment for her but you have a point that you can both work from. I assume you’ve both already spoken about this matter together but maybe by talking about it together and trying to find out exactly what her concerns might be you may be able to alleviate some of them by answering them honestly and openly. I think this is just going to be a case of slowly, slowly, day by day and see what the future holds. I wish you both every luck and happiness in your journey forwards.
Now then, here is a situation that myself and many girls have been in, and a very scary and insecure time it is too. What you have to take into account is the total turn-around in your relationship that your wife is faced with, my own wife didn’t speak to me for 3 whole days! and she calls this her ‘thinking’ time, the time she needed just to get her head round the facts, after that it was many YEARS not months that the trust had to be rebuilt. It will take her a long while, but she is still there, and that is a HUGE start, many just up and go, but one issue that doesnt seem to cross peoples minds, and one that, after asking around, seems to be pretty universal. The hurt in many cases is not the dressing side of our Transgenderism, but the fact we felt we could not trust them with our secret that hurts them the most, so that is one issue you should work on first and foremost, get the trust back in your relationship. Secondly, I know this sounds a lil harsh , but DONT tell your girlfriend EVERYTHING. Its a shock enough learning you are a crossdresser without you giving her every little detail. I dont mean lie, but ‘some’ details dont need to be shared, if you know what I mean! But, in answer to your main question, my advice would be NOT to stop dressing, at the height of my problems at home I too considered this , and it drove me the nearest I have ever been to suicide, I just couldnt do it, and you would probably find that it would end your relationship a lot sooner than your crossdressing ever would. You are you, your partner is with you because they love you, bones and all. I get asked many times how my wife copes with my dressing, the simple answer is, I am still the same person she married, just look a hell of a lot prettier! So, still dress, but discuss some rules that would make you both more comfortable, get her to voice her fears and work WITH them , not against them, its a long journey, but , hell girl, its worth it!
So, there ya go, a simple premise, you have a problem, why not ask the girls? Any problems, large or small ( and always confidential ) send them to:
“ASK THE GIRLS”
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T S T E I E R N A
My name is Tina Steier. I am a 45 year-old CDer from Cincinnati, Ohio. I have been cross dressing since I was 5 years old but I have been Tina since I was born. True story. My parents named me Tina. When I was born, my mother was knocked out and my dad was in the waiting room. The nurse accidentally put a pink bracelet on me after I was born, so, when my parents first saw me, they thought I was a girl and named me Tina. It wasn’t until later that they discovered the mistake. My mom and dad always told me that story. I knew it was DESTINY. I have been on the web now since 1998. Getting online was a liberating experience for me. I only knew how I felt about cross dressing, what I read in clinical books and what I saw on shows like Maury Povich and Gerri Springer. I really thought I was alone. I was shocked to find a world with people dealing with the same issues I was, that totally accepted me for who I was. I was helped IMMENSELY with my first website by Vicki Rene and Tiffany Michelle, both of whom I owe a great debt of gratitude, as well as my friend from Cincinnati Amlou, who gave me a place to dress and a place to store my clothes for years. Since then, I feel as if I have gotten better as I’ve gotten older.
I have had the pleasure of meeting many wonderful people as Tina. Many of them I have found though my experiences with the Vanity Club and friends I have made from TG Chat and Flickr. I am always looking to help someone like I was back in 1998; lonely, confused and not knowing how to deal with your feelings. I hope that I can make a difference in their lives just as others have in mine. I have been married for 21 years. My spouse does NOT know about Tina. I know it sounds impossible, but it is not something that she would be happy with. Tina remains a part-time endeavor, but a fulltime life in my heart. I will always be Tina, just as I was when I was born.
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BAD BREATH!! Are you worried about this in a moment of an intimate embrace or do you fear compromising the success of closing that very important business deal? These are genuine concerns and it is good to know that health care professionals now understand the causes of halitosis (Bad breath). Like yourself, many people are genuinely concerned about having bad breath and probably for good reason! The problem is, even your best friend will probably not tell you that you have this problem through fear of causing personal offence. 97
Brushing twice a day with fluoride toothpaste is essential to keep your teeth and mouth healthy.
Your mouth contains bacteria, which live on your teeth, gums, lips and tongue. Some bacteria can be healthy in the right place, at the right time and in the right numbers. Our body needs this ‘friendly bacteria’. But other bacteria can be harmful and cause problems, especially if they attach themselves to the enamel that covers your teeth in the form of plaque. Plaque is a film of bacteria that coats the teeth. The bacteria then feed on the sugars in our food and drink and produce acids that can destroy tooth enamel and cause decay. If you don’t brush your teeth properly or look after your gums, these bacteria can multiply to form plaque. Plaque is the enemy of healthy teeth, contributing to gum disease, tooth decay and cavities.
Should I use an electric or manual toothbrush?
The type of toothbrush you use is important. For most adults a brush with a small head and a compact, angled arrangement of long and short, round-end bristles (filaments) is fine. Medium or soft bristles are best for most people. If in doubt ask your dentist. An electric brush with an oscillating or rotating head will reduce plaque and the risk of developing gum disease more effectively.
What type of toothpaste should I use?
The cleansing agents and particles in toothpaste help to remove the plaque from your teeth, keeping them clean and healthy. Most toothpastes contain fluoride, which helps to prevent and control cavities. It’s important to use one with the right concentration of fluoride for you, or your child. Check the packaging to find out how much fluoride each brand contains. Children aged up to three: use a smear of toothpaste containing no less than 1,000ppm fluoride. This means you can use the family toothpaste, not a special baby toothpaste, even at this age. Children aged three to six: use a pea-sized amount of toothpaste containing 1,350-1,500ppm fluoride. Adults: use a toothpaste containing at least 1,350ppm fluoride.
The British Dental Health Foundation gives the following advice on how to brush your teeth. Place the head of your toothbrush against your teeth, then tilt the bristle tips to a 45 degree angle against the gum line. Move the brush in small circular movements, several times, on all the surfaces of every tooth. Brush the outer surfaces of each tooth, upper and lower, keeping the bristles angled against the gum line. Use the same method on the inside surfaces of all your teeth. Brush the chewing surfaces of the teeth. To clean the inside surfaces of the front teeth, tilt the brush vertically and make several small circular strokes with the toe (the front part) of the brush. Brushing your tongue will help freshen your breath and will clean your mouth by removing bacteria.
Flossing isn’t just a way to dislodge food wedged between your teeth. Regular flossing may help to reduce gum disease and bad breath by helping to remove the bacterial film (plaque) that forms along the gum line.
How to floss:
Take 12 to 18 inches of floss and grasp it so that you have a couple inches of floss taut between your hands. Slip the floss between the teeth and into the area between your teeth and gums as far as it will go. Floss with eight to 10 strokes, up and down between each tooth, to dislodge food and plaque. Floss at least once a day. The most important time to floss is before going to bed. You can floss either before or after brushing.
Should I use mouthwash?
Mouthwashes containing fluoride can be beneficial. Some may contain chlorhexidine or other antiseptic chemicals. These may be effective in improving plaque control and gum health when used as well as tooth brushing, or alone if you are unable to brush your teeth for some reason. But mouthwashes containing essential oils or other chemicals aren’t as effective. Also remember that many mouthwashes may contain alcohol, so they aren’t suitable for children who could swallow it by accident. If you use a mouthwash with alcohol you may notice you get a very dry mouth and dry, cracked lips. This is due to the drying effect of the alcohol and can be remedied by using an alcohol-free mouthwash instead and by applying lip balm or vaseline to the lips.
The little extras
Toothpicks Avoid using toothpicks as you may cause your gums to bleed and cause an infection. Floss is more gentle on teeth and gums. Interdental brushes These offer a better way to clean between your teeth than toothpicks. Plaque disclosing tablets These work by dyeing plaque either blue or red. Because they dye all bacteria and your mouth contains a lot of ‘friendly’ bacteria the tongue and gums also get dyed. You don’t need to clean this off, but as the staining can last for some hours, it’s best to use these tablets at bedtime, or when you aren’t expecting visitors. Replace your brush, or the brush attachment, every three months. Never share your toothbrush, as this can spread infections. Brush twice daily for at least two minutes, using fluoride toothpaste.
Teeth whitening tips
Learning as many teeth whitening tips as you can will only help to make sure that your teeth are perfectly white and you have a great smile. But obviously just knowing the tips won’t make your teeth white unless you actually put some of them into practice! The easiest and most cost effective way people use to make their teeth a whiter colour is to use teeth whitening kits which you can buy off-the-shelf from most chemists or pharmacies. Even supermarkets are now starting to stock a wide range of teeth whitening products due to the popularity of this new health regime. Many teeth whitening products to will simply bleach your teeth so that they appear to be a much whiter colour than they actually are. This is quite often the only way especially if you have been smoking or drinking hot drinks for a long period of time. The teeth get stained quite easily and over time this staining simply cannot be easily reversed. So people bleach their teeth every so often to cover up these stains. This is an ongoing process depending on which typr of whitening product you are using. Teeth whitening mouthpieces are becoming quite popular and involve placing a mouthpiece filled with whitening gel into your mouth for at least an hour a day. This method works well but can be time consuming and simply not practical if you lead a busy lifestyle. The simplest of all systems is to have laser teeth whitening. This is just a one off procedure you have which gives you instant white teeth that will stay that way for many months. You should ask your dentist if they can carry out this procedure for you. For more teeth whitening tips, why not have a look online. You’ll find lots of great websites that will teach you all you need to know about teeth whitening and teeth whitening products.
Having teeth whitening treatment
If you are serious about making your teeth whiter then maybe having teeth whitening treatment is the answer to your prayers. This type of treatment is the easiest and quickest way you will improve the colour of your teeth. It involves bleaching the teeth to make them more naturally lighter in colour. It also helps to remove any stains that have built up over time. Having teeth whitening treatment will be the most expensive way to make your teeth whiter. It must be performed by a suitably qualified person, usually your regular dentist can perform such treatment and it will last for a few weeks in total. The first treatment will involve a sitting with your dentist who will apply teeth whitening gel to your teeth and then use a special light or laser to ensure the gel sets and will last for the duration. You will then probably be given a special mouthpiece that you can use from home to keep applying the gel. You will normally do this at least once a day and it helps to make sure the gel starts to bleach the teeth correctly. A cheaper form of teeth whitening treatment can be purchased over the counter from your chemist. This usually consists of whitening gel that is applied the same way and maybe even toothpaste which contains whitening gel which is used twice a day. These strong bleaches will cover up any stains on your teeth but due to the amount of strong chemicals in them, many dentists do not recommend the over the counter styles. They say they are a short term fix which may lead to long term problems with tooth decay. So you should choose wisely which treatment you have and do as much research as you can.
Using teeth whitening gel
Having a great smile can really make a difference in your life. Not only in your personal life but also in your business life too. Let’s face it, no-one likes to look at someone’s smile if their teeth are dark and stained. It simply just gives the wrong impression. But if your teeth are white and sparkling then that will do you a lot of favors in your everyday life. Imagine what a difference it will make if you didn’t have to shy away from smiling anymore but you had the confidence to have a big grin and really light the room up! OK, not literally but it really makes a difference. Teeth whitening gel is one of the fastest methods of getting a bright white gleaming smile. You can purchase teeth whitening gel off the shelf from your local chemist or pharmacy. Some of them are used daily to increase the whiteness of your teeth over time. This breaks down the stains and allows for a more natural colour of your teeth. Many types of toothpaste now contain whitening gel and this is a relatively cheap way of improving the colour of your teeth. Although it won’t happen overnight and you’ll probably not see any changes for at least a few weeks. But it does work as long as you are strict with following the instructions to the letter on the packet. If you forget to brush your teeth or don’t use that particular toothpaste, then don’t expect to see any changes. Simple as that! He may even be able to provide laser teeth whitening which is a more instant and permanent solution. Just ask them and they are sure to give you a full list of what they can provide.You can talk to your dentist about which treatment would suit you best.
R Out and E N N bout IA W
By a MASSIVE
As is tradition here at Narcisse, at the end of each year we catch up on a few close friends, namely, the Centrefold beauties, and see what the year held for them.
U P D A T E
A N D R E A N I C O L E B A K E R
Been busy with work and expanding my modeling career. Also had a wonderful time at SCC 2008 visiting with old friends and making new ones. Here is a recent photo from a photoshoot at Stone Mountain in Atlanta.
C A R O L L Y N O L S O
For Carollyn Olson, the last 12 months has been a whirlwind. “It’s been the most exciting time of my life,” said Carollyn. “I never thought so many positive things would happen to little ol’ me.” Carollyn, the Narcisse Magazine July/August Centerfold, was bubbling with excitement during a recent interview. “Being named Centerfold was such a surprise and honor,” said Carollyn, a Northern California resident, who is also an author, founder of the Mature Woman Group and Post Mistress for the prestigious Vanity Club. “I’ve been so fortunate to do so many things. I’ve written one book and co-authored another and have made so many friends in person and on the internet from around the world. I’m still overwhelmed with all this.” Carollyn, who recently celebrated her 56th birthday, has been cross dressing for more than 25 years. For years Carollyn, also known by her nickname “CC”, was semi-closeted, but broke out of her cocoon about 15 years ago. “I never knew there were so many other girls like me until I went on the internet,” said Carollyn. “For years I just dressed at home and never had the nerve to go out. But, after getting encouragement from others and with the assistance from two wonder friends, I said ‘to heck with it’ and went out. I haven’t stopped.” Carollyn usually goes out during the day, visiting or shopping with both GG and CD friends, or having lunch with the girls. “I just love to look the best I can and to get out like any other lady,” Carollyn added. “I also enjoy helping others fulfill their dreams. If I can do it, anybody can. Earlier this year, Carollyn released her first book “Deception: A Novel of Cross Dressing and Espionage” and recently completed a three author paperback “TG Short Stories.” She has started on a third book, which should be completed by the end of the year. “I never thought I would write a book on cross dressing,” said Carollyn. “A had an idea and with the insistance of a few friends, I decided to give it a try. I published the book myself and have sold about 100 copies. I still have a few left, if anybody is interested. “Stephanie Marie and Silke Loretta Martin collaborated with me in ‘Short Stories.’ We each wrote completely different stories. Mine story was semi-fiction. I got the idea from a friend who writes me from time to time. I think it turned out well. “The next book will have even more twists and turns than ‘Deception.’ All I can tell you is that it’s based in Texas and Washington DC and involves a small town football hero who has a very unusual life. Is that enough of a tease?” Three years ago, Carollyn and friend Linda Holmes founded the Mature Women Group, an internet club for “those of us over 50, or so” laughed Carollyn. “Linda did lots of work and discovered the lack of groups for the older cross dresser. So we decided to start something new. Now we have close to 700 members.” Carollyn has also served for two years as the Post Mistress for the Vanity Club. “I love the job,” she said. “I get to answer e-mail to the group and help prospective members with information and applications.” What does the future hold? “I’m not sure,” said Carollyn, who recently attended the Sparkle Gala in Sacramento and had her first public book signing. “I would like to retire in a few years and that could put a limit on my life as a female. But, I plan to just take one step at a time and continue to enjoy my ‘hobby’ as long as I can.”
C H R Y S S K O H L M A N N
It has been a busy year. I have traveled quite a lot to some far away, exotic destinations and I have also remained in the States and had the opportunity to meet several of my Vanity Club girlfriends before our annual get-together at SCC and after SCC as well. When VC girls get together, we always enjoy talking, dancing, shopping, dining and just catching up. It doesn’t get better than that. With 2009 rapidly approaching, and summer concluded, I am looking forward to the fall season and wearing some beautiful, colorful fall clothes and indulging my lust for new shoes by acquiring a few pair of colorful fall stilettos and wearing all to holiday parties. Love, Chryss
J E N N I F E R N E L S O N
Lots hasw been going on with this girl in 2008. Some of it I have blogged about at MySpace: <www.myspace.com/ jenniferannnelson> and some of it I’ve written as correspondence to my Vanity Club sisters. Here is bits and pieces of it that I hope you will find interesting. I sure enjoyed living it. Flying. As Jennifer I haven’t flown in 20 years but here I am flying from LAX to DTW. On the outbound (in drab) I talked to a TSA supervisor. I told him I was transitioning to become a woman but I would still be in my male ID for some time. He took it like it was no big deal, no problem, just show two pieces of picture ID like your drivers license and your passport. (He also mentioned Social Security card which is not a picture ID.) ��On the return, as Jennifer, I used my drivers license and a photocopy of my DL with a picture of me as Jennifer attached and the note that, “the person hereon is transgendered and is not dressed in this manner for fraudulent or deceptive purposes.” I also carried a letter from my transgender councilor which I did not have to use. I look nothing like my picture in male mode. (The first time I visited my transgender councilor as Jennifer she comment that she wouldn’t have recognized me if she hadn’t seen pictures of me as Jennifer.)� �For the trip I was dressed much like my pictures, red hair, face lightly made up, wearing a green, low cut sweater that showed lots of cleavage a white, 17 inch, mini skirt and white heels. I saw one of my VC girl friends, Espy Lopez, while I was in LA and she thought I looked great in this outfit. ��When I went through TSA security I was wearing an underbust corset. (I had decided that my figure was a first priority.) I knew I would flunk the metal detector but, so what. I flunked. ��ID security passed me with my two pieces of picture ID but I did have to go through a wanding and pat down. The lady who did me was very polite and treated me like a lady. ��I had been upgraded to Business Class and enjoyed the pampering all the way to Detroit. At all points of the trip I was treated as a lady and often received smiles from other women. My biggest problem was having to wrestle my luggage into and out of the airports. I pack way too much stuff. � I cherish my time as Jennifer and love to put myself in challenging (but safe) situations. I am a better woman for it. I’m going to be flying as Jennifer a lot more often. SCC ’08. I’ve just returned from the Southern Comfort Conference. Ahead of SCC, I flew as Jennifer to Florida and spent several days with Chryss, a dear friend and TG sister in the Vanity Club. All told, I spent 9 days 24/7 as Jennifer. I flew from Austin, TX to Jacksonville, FL in two flights as Jennifer. I felt totally at home as my female self and had no problems with TSA or anyone else. As best I can tell, I am perceived as a female, which makes me very happy. 108
T A W N I K A T H E R I N E B O N D S
I have been traveling the world as a cared for pet! Africa, The French Rivera, London, New York, New Zealand and points inbetween! I have also been enjoying be bound and tied as well as doing a bit of it myself! Life is good! Love, Tawni
V I C K I E C O L L I N S
Altough Vickie was unable, for a number of reasons, to go to Southern Comfort (a tradition of 9 years) this year, she had been able to get out and socialize at her local nightclub about once a month or so. Busy with work, that is about the extent of her outings right now.
J E N N I F E R W I L L I A M S
Although I wasn’t able to get out as many times in 2008 as I would have liked (There aren’t enough days in the year!) I did manage some very memorable soirees. In May I had my first chance to walk the streets of Paris with my French Vanity Club sister Jocelyne. It was her first time out in public and although the logistics were formidable, we had a wonderful time. During the same trip, I came out to the first person (aside from my wife) who knew me first in my male life. A very dear Belgian GG friend was so wonderful and supportive I was moved to (lots of) tears. As a matter of fact, we are planning an evening out together with me en femme later this month while she is visiting us in California! In addition to (far too few) visits with my best friend Lisah Aubergine in San Jose, I had two other particularly pleasant outings this year. The first was a lovely (if altogether too short) afternoon out of shopping and lunch in Sacramento with my good friend Carollyn Olson. The other was a recent get together with the lovely and wonderful Miranda Skye in San Francisco. This visit was long delayed from earlier when I foolishly spent most of the night before my scheduled visit in an extended photoshoot and was subsequently too exhausted after two hours sleep to go to “The City By The Bay”! Needless to say, I received a great deal of (well deserved) grief for that one! Miranda was a perfectly gracious hostess when I finally did make it up and introduced me to several of the local beauties (as well as the dangerously seductive martinis at Martunis!)
G I N A B R O W N
What I’ve been up to this year. jeeze..mainly trying to keep from drowning in debt , barely keeping my head above water cos of the vagaries of this country’s mad economy. Even so, there have been a couple ‘highlights..help make life worth living :) Back in April I took off for a week to Las Vegas (actually my Birthday week) and linked up with a gang of other girls there for the annual ‘Viva Las Vegas’ . Not a TG convention, more of a decentralized TG holiday with daily link-ups with other girls for outings, night life etc. We had an All TG Golf ‘Tournament’ one day which was a lot of fun. One of the evenings a group of us visited a famous whorehouse way out in the desert..the ‘Chicken Ranch’..used to be the ‘Best lil Whorehouse in Texas’ till Texas threw them out. Every one of the House ladies was ‘drop dead’ gorgeous, and the evening was primarily to provide a fun break for the girls. We played silly games like ‘pass the boob’ and ‘pass the dildo’. Write me if you want details on how the games are played. Las Vegas is Disneyworld for grownups. Once is enough, but I’ll probably go back with my wife so she can go crazy in some super shops (after we win the lottery) Back home after that hectic week, it was time to get the surgery done on my ageing eyes . New lens’ implanted in each eye. Every thing is back in ‘technicolour’ now. The annual Southern Comfort Conference is just over, a ton of fun and hard work. Hard work cos I’m on the planning committee and responsible for organizing a bunch of vendors selling goods and services in the SCC ‘Marketplace’. SCC is the largest trans conference in the world and attracts girls from all over the US and often from all over the world. Nothing much on for the rest of the year, Halloween is a biggish deal over here, so I’ll probably join friends for a bash that evening. You’d think it would be easy to find a nice fitting leather bra (38D) to go with black leather pants and jacket, but no. All I’ve found so far are two sizes, way too big and ridiculously small. Next thing we know it’ll be Christmas, and I’ll probably, against my better judgment, give in and send out ‘Gina under the Christmas Tree’ pictures. 10 years ago I swore I’d never bother again. Now I wish I’d kept each years ‘under the tree’ picture...on second thoughts , perhaps just as well I did’nt. Love and Hugs Gina
S T E P H A N I E G R E Y
“ I spent a great week in Las Vegas this summer , despite the 105F temps. Theres nothing like being out at 11pm and its still 80deg though, just begs to wear a nice summer top and skirt. Vegas is such a fun place night or day although I prefer the night :-) “ Stephanie
A Personal Tale
By Mandy Taylor
We all have a list of firsts, our first skirt, first full day dressed, for some of us our first time out, but this month was a ‘biggy’ for me. As some of you know, a fair few of my work collegues know about me, some have even seen pics , read Narcisse, etc, but an opportunity came up this month that was half forced/half craved, so I went for it, allow me to explain. We have , at work, a new Personel Manager, Jackie, wife of one of the other managers. Straight away we hit it off, and it was pretty obvious that she ‘knew’ about me. We got to chatting about this and that, and specifically about a new notice board that she had put up in the canteen. Some of my collegues had already put pictures of their kids, pets, holidays etc on it, and thats when she said the immortal words.......
I DARE YOU!_
Hmmm, could I? should I? How could I not!!! So, next morning I took in a small selection to show her. Without pausing for breath she grabbed two and pinned them up, the deed was done. After a rather ‘distracted’ morning I ventured into the canteen at lunch, a few of my driends were there ( who know ) and they were already agog and giggling. “Your brave!” was the general concensus of opinion , but once i told them the tale they were all for it. A steady stream of people came and went, many of them pausing to look at the board and the reactions were AMAZING! “ Who’s that?”.......” Who’s daughter is that?”.....”WOW!” to name but a few, my friends and I were in hysterics! Over the course of the day word got about and all my fears drizzled out as, to a man/woman, the reaction was BITCH - from the girls, BLOODY HELL - from the guys, and from everybody a need to know more. In one fell swoop I got the opportunity to ‘educate’ another 50+ people, all of who we interested, non-judgemental, and now, a lot more understanding of the TG community. The overall feedback was, 1 - you look amazing 2 - good on you 3 - who does your make-up! I know I’m fortunate, dont get me wrong, its not ‘all’ plain sailing, but out of 100 people there is only one bad apple, who is now making herself look extremely stupid and isolated, and I personally have found this to be the case. Nowadays more and more want to be educated rather than have an immediate knee-jerk reaction, there are fewer and fewer bigots and it is now getting to be the case that THEY are the minority, not us!
But, thats not the end of the tale, by any means, for it just so happened that all this happened but a few short weeks before that date in the calendar when a lot of trans-girls grab the opportunity to dress with both hands, I talk, of course of Halloween! The talk around store was now centred on ‘will you wont you’ and if so....WHAT IN!!! The main concencus of opinion went with me going as a She-Devil, and so the hard work began - working on my wife! After much wrangling, pleading and generally wearing her down, she finally agreed to it, so next was the outfit. As you know , I am very subtle, so decided upon, red thigh-hi 4” boots, red skinny jeans ( a mini just wasnt practical alas ) tight red T, red shrug, ponytail, and full make-up. All this was well and good, but one problem arose and that was ‘ boobs or no boobs ?’ Do I scare the general public any more than is necessary? But that was something I would decide on the day, take them and see. ________________________________ 31st October soon came, I had packed my bag the night before, so set off nice and early. I was meant to start work at 11am, so got there for 9.15am, plenty of time to get dressed AND have a cuppa and a chat before work. It didnt take long before I realised that only one other girl had dressed!! The seeds of doubt began to set in , not only was this to be the first time my collegues had seen me dressed, but also I was going to stand out like a sore thumb as I would be the only one on the shop floor dressed for halloween!!! One EXTREMELY deep breath later I decided to go for it, I grabbed my bag, gave a “ Tonight Matthew I’m going to be.....” to my friends, and off i trotted to the Mensroom.
The rest is a kind of a blur, only once, right at the beginning , when the outfit was on and I was doing my hair did I think “ What the bloody hell are you doing?” but that passed and soon I was fully dressed, a few friends had popped in to use the loo, this drew a few gasps, a few giggles, one ‘oh sorry’ ( he wondered why there was a woman in the Gents! ) and ( my favorite) my friend Les, who walked in , said “ only 11 cages of delivery today mate “ and left as if it was just a normal day! Another HUGE intake of breath later I emerge from the Mensroom and made my way to the Canteen, a very surreal experience, being the first time from the perspective of 4” stiletto heels! Once in the canteen all hell broke loose!!! My close friends just grinned, the rest swore, gaped, and more than a few took a while to get who I was. The whole reaction was 100% positive, everyone thought I looked great, and quite a few of the girls called me a bitch ( which can only be good!!!) __________________________________________ Now came the BIGGY! Meeting the public, our store houses an average of 1000 people, plus the fact that it was Friday, PLUS the fact that the kids were on holiday ( I couldnt have picked a busier day!) My plan of action was to walk out, down aisle 14 then walk the full length of the store in front of Check-outs, i.e. where the most people would be - if your going to do it, then get it over with asap!!! The trick, I have found, for situations like this is - dont look people in the eye - makes you less nervous - so off I trotted, periferal vision told me all I needed to know as I strutted my stuff and wiggling my red PVC tail from one end of the store to the other.. WHAT A BUZZ!!!!!!!!!!!
The day was a resounding success, the reactions were amazing, and i put a smile on so many faces it was worth all the effort, I had such an amazing time, I would recommend it to ANYONE! Sadly, at 6.00pm it was time to dress down, and so Mandy was packed away till the end of the shift. Next day the positive vibes continued, from my friends was a chorus of well done, from the public, the same, and from management, the most overwhelming response of all! They asked me did I want to come to work full-time as mandy and if so to let them know so they can order me a new uniform!! Alas, this can never be, my wife puts up with enough already, and this would be a step too far, but......if only!! __________________________________________________ The highlight of my day? My great friend jules telling me she was so proud of me and that I was an ambassador. I have tears in my eyes just writing it...............
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B A S Q U E In Glory
OK, the rules are simple, just enter ONE picture of you in a Basque/Corset to the usual address, and lets see you in all your glory!
Torment’s QUIZ CHRISTMAS SPECIAL
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1. In which film did the song White Christmas first feature? 2. In the song `The Twelve Days Of Christmas`, how what did my true love give to me on the 12th day? 3. In what year was the first Christmas card produced? 4. In which year did Alabama become the first American state to recognise Christmas as an official holiday? 5. In `The Twelve Days Of Christmas`, what does the partridge in the pear tree represent? God, Jesus or Love?
To which country does the territory of Christmas Island belong? Which European country began the tradition of exchanging gifts at Christmas time? Which English novel has been portrayed on screen more than any other? Which Cliff Richard single was at number one over Christmas in the UK in 1988? Which famous ballet is about a young girl`s broken Christmas present?
W H IC H ?? ?
1. What word associated with Christmas could be illustratied by `ABCDEFGHIJKMNOPQRSTUVWXYZ`? 2. What was the biggest selling single in the UK in the 1980s? 3. What is the name of the dog in `The Grinch Who Stole Christmas`? Ben, Max or Rod? 4. What was the name of Scrooge`s deceased business partner in Charles Dickens` `A Christmas Carol`? 5. What is the traditional Christmas flower?
1. Who had a hit single in the seventies with `I Wish It Could Be Christmas Everyday`? 2. Who wrote the song `White Christmas`? 3. Who wrote the Christmas story, `The Snowman`? 4. Who`s was the first voice on the original Band Aid single `Do They Know It`s Christmas`? 5. Who sang the christmas song `Driving Home For Christmas`?
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Enough of that Sissy Crap!
Are you tired of those sissy ‘friendship‛ poems that always sound good, but never actually come close to reality? Well, here is a series of promises that actually speak of true friendship. You will see no cutesy little smiley faces just the stone cold truth 1. When you are sad -I will help you get drunk and plot revenge against the sorry bastard who made you sad. 2. When you are blue -I will try to dislodge whatever is choking you. 3. When you smile -I will know you are plotting something that I must be involved in. 4. When you are scared -I will rag on you about it every chance I get. 5. When you are worried -I will tell you horrible stories about how much worse it could be, until you quit whining. 6. When you are confused -I will only use little words. 7. When you are sick -I will tell you to stay the hell away from me until you are well again. I don‛t want whatever you have. 8. When you fall -I will point and laugh at your clumsy ass. This is my oath.... I pledge it to the end. ‘Why?‛ you may ask. ‘Because you‛re my friend!‛
Friendship is like peeing your pants: Everyone can see it, but only you can feel the true warmth
Not a Lot of People Know That!!
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In a lifetime, the average cleanshaven man will spend five months shaving and will remove 28ft of hair.
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Before the 1800, there were no separately designed shoes for left and right feet
Walt Disney World generates about 120,000 pounds of garbage every day.
On average women speak 7000 words per day, where as men speak just over 2000
Barbie’s full name is Barbara Millicent Roberts.
Turtles can breath through their bottoms.
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Beethoven was extremely particular about his coffee , he always counted 60 beans per cup.
The distance between cities are actually the distances between city halls. When you see a sign “Sheffield - 40 miles” it means it is 40 miles to the city hall of that city sign
The longest non-medical word in the English language is floccipausinihilipilification (29 letters), which means “the act of estimating as worthless.”
Four out of every ten people who come to a party in your home will look in your bathroom cabinet
In Shakespeare’s time, mattresses were secured on bed frames by ropes when you pulled on the ropes the mattress tightened, making the bed firmer to sleep on. Hence the phrase, “Goodnight, sleep tight.”
Wilma Flintstone’s maiden name was Shaghoopal
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BRITS undergoing a sex change are to be allowed two national ID cards, one male and one female.
The Government yesterday revealed they are making special provisions for people with a “dual-gendered life” — like Big Brother’s Nadia Almada. The 31-year-old Portuguese bank clerk, originally named Carlos, had a sex-swap op to become a woman before entering the Channel 4 house in 2004. Under the rules, one card will record the holder’s old identity, the other their new one. But those midway through the process must pay twice for the £30 cards. Draft legislation published by the Home Office said pre-op transsexuals “can hold a National Identity card which can be used for travel in one gender, as well as an Identification Card which is not valid for travel but can be used to prove their identity in a second gender reliably and securely and reflects a different name, signature and photograph”. Foreign nationals living in Britain will begin receiving the cards next week, and trials at two airports start next month. Britons and citizens from Europe will start to receive the cards from autumn 2009. Large-scale issuing of cards — at a cost of £4.78billion over ten years — begins in 2011 or 2012. The new rules also say that women who marry and fail to change their name on their card could be fined up to £1,000. Penalties will also apply to people who fail to report their cards lost or stolen. Fines starting at £125 for the first infringement will normally only be imposed on those persistently refusing to have their data updated. A Home Office spokesman said the civil penalties are not intended to be severe or revenue-raising. He added: “We would always encourage people to update their information voluntarily but in some cases we would apply a basic penalty.” However shadow home secretary Dominic Grieve said: “At a time of economic hardship, the public will be dismayed the Government plans to fine innocent people for inaccuracies on the Government’s own database, using summary powers.” Homeless people wanting ID cards may be able to give their address as a bench, bus stop or park where they are often found. Addresses will be recorded on the register but will not appear on the card. email@example.com
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The Top 15 TRANSEXUAL KILLER MOVIES
Published by Gary Gaymon October 14th, 2008 in Gary G’s Archives and TOP TEN LIST Horroryearbook’ s list of The Top 15 TRANSEXUAL KILLER MOVIES By GARY G.
Alfred Hitchcock’s Psycho not only jumpstarted the modern horror film, it also introduced a new kind of villain to movie audiences – the transexual killer. The climactic image of a crazed, knife wielding Norman Bates, dressed up like mommy was a perverse shock for the conservative movies audiences of the early sixties. Infused with the kind of psycho-sexual undercurrents that shockmeister filmmakers love to exploit, the Trans-Killer sub-genre grew out of the matchbook psychobabble on serial killers that began to proliferate after Psycho’s success and the sensational true life crimes of crazy fuckers like Ed Gein and the Zodiac Killer. So movie villains of classic bygone horror films, the mischievous dandies, megalomaniacal super villains and supernatural creatures , were no longer effective. The modern day boogeyman was the next door neighbor that volunteered at the church picnic but kept a collection of prostitute torsos in his basement freezer. This idea of the duality of the psycho killer is what Psycho wrought and it is what the Trans-Killer subgenre is, essentially, powered by. What better way to dramatize the split mind of the psychopath than to have a killer who cant even reconcile their own gender. PSYCHO opened the door and suddenly villainous trannies became very popular. One of the earliest, and best transsexual villains was in the 1968 Japanese cult film BLACK LIZARD. Drag Artist Akihiro Miwa made a grand super villain, dressed in flowing chiffon and twirling about with every dramatic gesture. The Hammer film DR. JEYKLL AND SISTER HYDE (1971) had Ralph Bates turning into Martine Beswick with the aide of an elixir made from the female hormones of murdered prostitutes. Naturally, Sister Hyde is even more evil and sadistic than her crazed alter ego. 147
Audiences also had to endure the horrifying sight of Rod Steiger dressed in drag in the brilliant black comic thriller, NO WAY TO TREAT A LADY (1968). Steiger’s drag act was just one of his serial killers’ hammy disguises. But the truly brutal psycho tranny started to appear in movies like BEYOND THE VALLEY OF THE DOLLS (1970), and FREEBIE AND THE BEAN (1974). In Dolls, the flamboyant record producer Z-MAN, played with vile glee by John LaZar, goes on a sudden, shockingly violent rampage and murders everyone at a sleazy Hollywood orgy when his “secret” is exposed. And Richard Rush’s Freebie and the Bean has James Caan getting his ass whooped in a ladies restroom by a vicious, cross dressing killer played by Christopher Morley. Most often the transsexual killer is revealed in a cheap twist at a films climax. As in one of my favorite bad slasher movies FATAL GAMES (1984), where a conveniently placed newspaper reveals the killers true identity to his/her final victim. And sometimes the tranny killer twist can be a complete surprise as in one of Roger Corman’s best, cheap, late night cable thrillers STRIPPED TO KILL (1987). The films in this sub-genre span the varying levels of the cinematic quality. Oscar winning filmmakers, schlock purveyors and many a nobody have all had a go at the tranny killer theme. Admitedly, these films are not politically correct and in some cases they are downright offensive to transgender people. But, political correctness aside, they do, in some cases, successfully exploit the uncomfortable feelings most people still have about gender and sexuality. For the lazy writer the transsexual angle is an easy way to dramatize a killers dual personality and exploit an audiences ingrained prejudicesand fears and touch on certain undercurrents of misogyny and homophobia that are uncomfortable but can also make for disturbing and gripping filmmaking. So, though no one asked or was looking for it, here is Horroryearbook’ s list of the TOP 15 TRANSEXUAL KILLER MOVIES as decided by me, Gary G, the worlds foremost transsexual killer movie expert. SPOLIER ALERT: Be advised that the transsexual angle in some of these films comprises that films twist ending. Most of the listed titles are well known to the casual horror fan but some titles are relatively obscure. I won’t reveal any clues to the identity of the trans-killer in any movie but if you see a title listed here you will know that the film has a transsexual twist to it. Fair-Warning. 15. TERROR FIRMER (1999) Sick. Twisted. Perverted. Disgusting. It’s Troma. The venerable Lloyd Kaufman directs one of Troma’s best latter year films. A psychopathic tranny, played with no shame by Wil Keenan, is slaughtering the crew of some crappy low-budget movie. Dismemberments, castrations, genital mutilations, fetus’ ripped from the womb and every conceivable bodily fluid are just some of the cinematic offenses offered up by Kaufman and team, which includes co-screenwriter Douglas Buck who is known more for his artsy short horror films Home and Cutting Moments. Terror Firmer is total gross-out splatstick so it’s in no way scary but that’s not the point. The trans-killer here is just part of the perverted wallpaper. But he/she remains one of the most vile villains in recent memory. Not for the squeamish, as if I had to say that. 148
14. UNHINGED (1982) Three stupid college coeds’ car breaks down in the middle of nowhere and they end up taking shelter in a huge, dark, rambling mansion inhabited by an elderly, aristocratic snob and her tightly wound daughter. Those coeds end up in an unfortunate way. But I saw that coming. It’s an early eighties slasher movie! What I didn’t see coming was the suddenly out of nowhere transsexual twist that ends this crazy fucking movie. Once one of Britain’s Video Nasties, Unhinged had a small rep overseas but sat mostly ignored on video store shelves in the states. So this films transsexual twist was well guarded when I finally found my way to it in the mid nineties. The murders are nasty and bloody and director Don Gronquist gives the film a nice, poverty row, gothic feel but, to be honest, this movie is as slow as a geriatric bowel movement. So the trans twist at the films end is a nice jolt after the nap you will invariably wake up from. The definite whiff of misogyny in the final brutal murder gives the ending a shocking punch. You simply aren’t expecting it from what has been aby the numbers slasher. 13. VULTURES (1983) An utterly forgotten camp fest with sub tv movie production values, unintentional comedy, horribly benumbed acting and starring the trashhorror- movie tri-fecta of Stuart Whitman, Yvonne DeCarlo, and Aldo Ray. Vultures still manages to be one of the most entertaining crappy slasher movies on this list. A wealthy old man dies and the heirs to his fortune start to get butchered one by one. Like Unhinged this movie is filled with very bloody murders, and it’s trans twist is a big surprise but Vultures is fun in a way that Unhinged never is. While it kind of looks like an old episode of Colombo, the mystery of WHO is killing off the heirs to the family fortune is very good, resulting in an ending that is as hilarious as it is surprising. And a very well known entertainer makes a cameo that you won’t forget. 12. William Castle’s HOMICIDAL (1961) was the first post-Psycho rip-off. Castle shamelessly borrows the Hitchcock films prologue of the icy blond temptress on the run from the law. But here it is the blond temptress, played by Jean Arliss, who is the psycho, murdering anyone who comes between her and her horrible secret. Can you figure out that secret? Huh. I’ll give you TWO guesses. While the secret may be utterly obvious to anyone with halfway decent eyesight Castle’s film is totally enjoyable and quite spooky at times. Castle was a huckster but he was good at crafting a successful suspense scene. You should also check out his underrated spookfest The Night Walker. No trannies in it but its scary as hell anyway. 11. REFLECTION OF FEAR (1973) An atmospheric, sad, disturbing, 70’s psychothriller that has been overlooked for decades. There is a trans-twist here that, like many of these films, seems to come out of nowhere. But that does not distract from what is such an unsettling and suspenseful horror-thriller. Robert Shaw returns to his home town with his new wife, played by Sally Kellerman. His ex-wife and mother in law are raising the daughter he barely knows in relative cloister in a huge, dark, mansion. A series are of shocking murders follows. Filled with shadowy cinematography by the great Lazlo Kovacs, great performances, eerie atmosphere and loaded with all kinds of Freudian psycho-drama, Reflections of Fear is a film that should have a bigger following than it does. 10. Dario Argento’s 4 FLIES ON GREY VELVET (1971) is the typical Psychoinspired, Italian giallo. It also offers up one of the most stupid motives in a sub-genre brimming with dumb motives. The trans-killer element is actually well hidden so it’s revelation is kind of a surprise but, again, the killers excuse for his rampage is all 149
kinds of WTF. But Argento’s stylistic command and grotesque flourishes make this a very strong giallo. Shamefully 4 Flies remains unseen to many horror fans because it has never had an official video or DVD release in the states. It’s pretty easy to find a bootleg and I’m sure it will find it’s way to DVD eventually. 9. THE SILENCE OF THE LAMBS (1990) This now classic, Oscar winning thriller is an arguable choice for this list. The trans twist is a minor point of the story of Buffalo Bill, the hulking, retarded, psycho who is making a lady suit out of real female flesh. We never really see Bill wearing that suit or even really see him kill anyone. But Silence of the Lambs is on this list because of one scene and one scene only. You know which one I’m talking about. It has haunted my own personal nightmares for years and I’m sure I’m not the only one. BUFFALO BILL’S DRESS UP SCENE! As the senator’s daughter tries to lure Precious, the dog, into the pit where she’s imprisoned, Buffalo Bill pretties himself up; fingering his pierced nipples, coloring his chapped lips, whispering “will you FUCK ME”, prancing around with his dick tucked between his legs, while wearing sheer light blue stockings and a giant multicolored cape, dancing to the techno thump of the song “Goodbye Horses” by Q Lazzarus. A sequence of such derange brilliance that it alone justified Jonathan Demme’s Oscar for Best Director. EWWWWWWWWWWWWW. 8. PRIVATE PARTS (1972) Here is some more cinematic EWWWWWWWWWW. Paul Bartel’s creepy, intensely weird, perverted comic-thriller Private Parts. A slutty runaway ends up at her crazy Aunt Martha’s Skid Row flop house. A macabre assortment of oddballs and lowlifes and one vicious slasher killer also reside at the decrepit flea pit. It ends with one of the most depraved sex encounters I’ve ever seen in a non-porno. Bartel does wonders in creating a kinky, debased world of cretins and the bizarre world they live in. Although black comedy reigns Private Parts nevertheless left me feeling disgusted and horrified. The trans killer twist is one of the odd surprises of this film so I’ll let you figure it out. See it NOW. 7. DEADLY BLESSING (1981) Set among the Hittite clan of the Amish Wes Craven’s Deadly Blessing concerns an Incubus, or evil sprit, that seems to be responsible for several grisly murders. Ernest Borgnine, as the patriarch of a Hittite family, believes the Incubus is the widow of his recently deceased son, who left the clan to marry her. The widows girlfriends, one played by a young, pre-insanity Sharon Stone, arrive to offer their support to their bereaved friend. They end up terrorized by The Incubus as well. What, or who, The Incubus, is a real surprise. Yes there is a trans-killer twist involved here but you just have to experience the shocking revelation for yourself. It’s pretty out there but that shouldn’t detract from what is a very scary, suspenseful early shocker from Craven. He is a master at building terror filled atmosphere and he does that quite admirably in this film. Don’t let the bad reviews deter you. 6. HE LIVES BY NIGHT (1982) This Hong Kong film is an odd duck because not only is it a bloody, slasher film but it’s also a pretty funny slapstick romantic comedy on top of it. It also features one of the most brutal trans killers in any movie. The trans-killer here is slashing any woman he/she sees wearing white stockings for a reason that is as dumb as any in these movies. His/her weapon of choice, a box cutter. And he/she uses it with a sickeningly brutality that may make some uncomfortable 150
Director Po-Chich Leong has obviously modeled the kill scenes in his film after many Italian giallo. The first murder has the victim walking down a dark alley and getting caught up in silk sheets that are hanging out to dry. Suddenly the trans-killer starts slicing through the sheets with that box cutter until he/she gets to the screaming victim, slices her to shreds then rips her white stockings off and strangles her with them. The best sequence, though, has the killer following two dippy girls home. While one of the girls takes a bath the other finds herself attacked by the killer. While the bathing girl is singing in the tub she fails to hear the screams of her girlfriend who is being sliced by that box cutter. The victim manages to get to the bathroom and collapses inside the doorway. The killer finishes her off as her friend lies cowering behind the shower curtain. The killer then enters the bathroom and the bathing girl slinks under the bath water as the killer then approaches the tub and…..washes his/ her hands in the water the girl is hiding under. This sequence alone is worth it but He Lives By Night is one of the few films that actually manages to handle it’s horror elements and the comedic bits evenly. For every horrific, brutal murder there is some slapstick nonsense involving the overweight detective investigating the murders and the radio DJ that he has a crush on who will eventually end up attracting the transkiller. For an example don’t miss the scene towards the end where the villain tries to kill someone with a 7Up vending machine. Seriously. It may be hard to track down but definitely put this one on your TO FIND list. 5. SEED OF CHUCKY (2004) I am still smarting about the fact that Don Mancini’s brilliantly over the top, perverse, black comic reinvention of his own Chucky franchise was completely misunderstood by it’s critics and passed over by the mass audience who would’ve loved it. But it’s also completely understandable for a movie starring a psychopathic, split personality, gender confused, murderous doll to get overlooked. For those of us who got Mancini’s acerbic spoof on Hollywood, horror movies, serial killers and family drama, Seed of Chucky was a indelible experience. Full of gross out comedy, gory violence, and the performance of a lifetime by the great Jennifer Tilly, Seed was a complete delight because you never really knew where it was going. So when Chucky’s “seed” Glen suddenly turned into Glenda it was not only a shock but fucking hilarious. Every time Glen’s eye twitched as he slowly went bat-shit crazy I was on the floor in hysterics. But then I love twisted comedy. Seed is such a departure from the original Child’s Play that maybe folks just did not get that Mancini was in no way trying to scare anybody but was just trying to make fun of the genre itself. I and my friends Will, Lance and Andrew got it Mr. Mancini. Good job. The rest of you fuckers need to get with it. 4. TERROR TRAIN (1980) & GIRLS NITE OUT (1984) Two slasher films from the early eighties. One is now considered a classic of the genre. The other is derided by almost everyone. But both contain climactic trans-killer twists that are a total shock. Terror Train’s tranny twist is just that, a twist. The fact the killer’s identity doesn’t exactly match their disguise is simply used to throw the audience off track. There is none of the stunning misogyny of other films on this list- like GIRLS NITE OUT. Wow. Somebody really hates sluts. That’s the uncomfortable feeling you have after a viewing of Girls Nite Out. Set at a small mid-western college during an all night scavenger hunt, Girls Nite Out follows a bunch of sexually voracious cheerleaders who are viciously slaughtered by an intensely bloodthirsty killer, who is disguised as the dancing bear mascot that’s supposed to be cheering the scavengers on. 151
I’ll repeat just incase the retardedness of it didn’t sink in. The killer is disguised as a giant bear, complete with long, sharp, metal claws. And those claws do some damage. The murders here are incredibly nasty. The bear suited killer, snarling and growling, ripping into his victims while screaming “slut” and “whore” at them, just sick, I tell ya. And that’s what gives this movie it’s power. The misogyny in other Trans-killer movies is either indirect or just under the surface. In Girls Nite Out that misogyny is a focal point of the killers anger and the twist that caps this movie off. I believe that this is what turns many of this movies haters off. The movie is no slower paced or more ridiculous than any other classic slasher but the dancing bear angle doesn’t help. But Girls Nite Out is tense and scary and silly and sick. My Kind of movie. Terror Train, on the other hand, is simply one of the best early eighties slasher movies. We all know the story, some frat jerks pull a stupid prank on some nerd and a year later, on board a New Years Eve Party train the responsible party get picked off. And Jamie Lee Curtis is along for the ride. The trans twist at this films climax remains one of the best surprise killer reveals ever. It may not have any of the icky comparison between transsexuality and psychopathy that defines other trans killer movies but Terror Train still delivers all these years later. Its the kind of straight up old school American horror slasher film that NOBODY KNOWS HOW TO MAKE ANYMORE, no matter what they say on the video box, and yes I’m talking about Hatchet. 3. BLADE IN THE DARK (1983) & DELIRIUM (1987) Lamberto Bava’s twin gialli Blade in The Dark and Delirium, one at the start of the eighties and the other towards decades end, were essentially bookends for the giallos last act. Blade in the Dark is, in my opinion, the best giallo from the genres latter years.
Set in an isolated cottage where a film composer is writing the score for a horror movie, Blade is filled with the sadistically violent murders of several beautiful young women who come calling on our composers attention. Bava does a great job of creating an atmospherically tense and genuinely scary thriller. The final murderous chase through the isolated villa is one of the most edge of the seat sequences in the genre. But what really comes through in Blade is its dark thread of misogyny. The killers hatred of the female victims is unmistakable and it makes the film that much more disturbing. Blade is a classic. Delirium, on the other hand, is an hilariously entertaining fart of a movie. The star of the show are the giant titties of Italian porno actress Serena Grandi, who “acts” the part of Gloria, the obscenely rich publisher of a glossy porno mag called PUSSYCAT. Her models are being slaughtered by a vengeful psychopath who then mails Gloria a photo of the murdered models posed in the same positions of her old porno pictures. It’s all a pretty sleazy, skuzzy affair. Filled with copious nudity, ridiculous dialogue, crippled perverts making obscene phone calls and more gaudy late eighties fashion than one set of eyeballs should ever have to endure Delirium has always been Lamberto Bava’s most ridiculous excuses for a mortgage payment. Of course, I love it. But unlike Blade, Delirium is never scary or suspenseful although the killers identity and motives are whole bowl full of woman-hate. While Blades misogynistic undertones create a unsettling atmosphere, Deliriums’ misogyny comes off as scummy and exploitative. The finale, which has the killer ripping Gloria clothes off and puking blood up on her couldn’t be more twisted. Mind you, I’m not complaining. It’s just that Blade In The Dark leaves an impression whereas Delirium is an unintentional camp delight. 152
2. DRESSED TO KILL (1980) Brian DePalma’s sleek, stylish, suspenseful ode to, or rip-off of, Psycho is really the absolute epitome of the trans-killer subgenre. It really should be number one but it’s achievements have been extolled elsewhere ad nauseum. It’s simply one of the best thrillers of the eighties. But what really sets Dressed to Kill apart is that it possess the absolute most, pardon the expression, killer, He-He!, looking trans-killer of the entire genre. Six feet tall, high heeled black leather boots, long blond wig, black leather gloves, dark shades and the slickest, sharpest looking full length, black, natch, leather coat. This tranny is fierce. The image of her hiding just behind poor defenseless Angie Dickinson as the elevator doors shut continue to send chills down my spine. And like that bear in Girls Nite Out, this tranny really hates sluts. As in Psycho, the explanatory denouement fills in the blanks for us. Because Dressed To Kill is so well made it ceases to appear as hateful as movies like Unhinged. But make no mistake, without it’s lush trappings Dressed To Kill is as darkly woman hating as any of these movies. 1. SLEEPAWAY CAMP (1983) Sleepaway Camp is not the best film on the list. It’s not even the scariest. It’s certainly not the most accomplished technically. And on list of great slasher films it’s just about a notch above MADMAN and below HELL NIGHT. But no one, and I mean NO ONE, who saw Sleepaway Camp back in the day, before the sequels and the internet ruined the twist ending, no one can say that they did not jump out of their seat, either with shock or laughter at that now infamous final image of Angela, our innocent heroine, brandishing an ax, her cheating boyfriends decapitated had on the ground, growling like a feral animal, with her dick hanging out. It seemed so out of left field. So retarded, in fact.
The shot itself lends much to the shock and disorientation of the moment. Felissa Rose’s head digitally added onto the body of some unfortunately underdeveloped young man is really shitty looking. Sleepaway Camp is also the most ridiculous representation of an idea inherent in many of these trans killer films. That is the idea that simply because this “girl” Angela is really a male forced to appear as a girl, that he/she has automatic psycho killer leanings. There is no evidence anywhere in the film, and especially in Felissa Rose’s deer-in-the headlights performance, that Angela would even squash a bee if it landed on her arm let alone slaughter, like, ten people. The curious viewer then has to think back, the gay parents whose death begins the movie, the abundance of naked male flesh and the complete absence of any female nudity, the weird, insane, possibly transsexual herself, aunt who makes that poor little hairless boy into Angela because she “already has a boy”, the weird allusions to sexual molestation. What was writer, director Robert Hiltzik Thinking? Hmmmm? What is the point? Maybe there is no point except as a cheap thrill. But clearly the mind who came up with this had something on their mind. And that my friends is essentially where the trans-killer movie gets it’s uncomfortable power from, the ripples of misogyny and homophobia that keep bubbling up from under the surface. They may be crude, ridiculous and ignorant but the trans-killer and the transsexual killer movie do get under your skin. FIN
Do’s & Don’ts
Dos and Don’ts for the Office Christmas Party
Paul MacKenzie-Cummins for CareerBuilder.co.uk The office Christmas party conjures up images of drunk colleagues, uncomfortable ‘secret Santas’ and business banter with the office bore. So is it any wonder that so many people start looking for a job in the New Year? And why does the line ‘What I don’t like about office Christmas parties is looking for a job the next day’ sound so familiar to you? The annual office party can boost your career but, it can also break it. Here are some dos and don’ts of office Christmas party etiquette aimed to keep your job, reputation and dignity in one piece.
Do attend. Your office party is not an optional
event. Even if you despise the thought of spending a whole evening with the people you work with every day, it’s a good idea to make an appearance. It shows that you are part of the team.
Don’t dress inappropriately. And do dress
professionally. The venue will determine the dress code so make sure you know what it is. “Women are advised to stay away from slinky dresses, lowplunging necklines, short-short skirts or tight-fitting trousers”, according to workplace etiquette expert Pamela Holland. And, men “should refrain from unbuttoning more than two buttons on their shirts and wearing overly fitted shirts that show off their muscles”.
Do some schmoozing. This is a good
time to talk to people you wouldn’t normally come across and, of course, the boss. This could help you in the long term in terms of forging alliances, helping to get things done or just raising your profile. But…
… Don’t talk shop. Do you want to be seen
as the office bore? The office party gives you the chance to get to know people as people not just ‘Julie from accounts’.
Do drink in moderation. Excessive
drinking is the number one cause of office party ‘incidents’. Remember, it is a marathon not a sprint and it is likely that you will have a long evening ahead of you. But, by the time you realise this you may have already consumed enough alcohol to sink a battleship and not quite be with it. Stick to your limit, drink slowly or alternate between alcohol and water and, if it’s too late for that, then switch to soft drinks and mince pies. And resist the temptation to indulge in tequila shots or flaming drambuie or you may end up losing more than your inhibitions!
Don’t make a move on a colleague.
After a few hours and a few beers even Barbara from credit control can look like a goddess. A poll by Tickbox.net commissioned by Quatro Wilkjnson Sword revealed that 41% of workers admit to having a sexual liaison with a co-worker at an office party. But, before you make a bee-line for the person you’ve had your eye on all year, do yourself a favour, stay put and think, ‘Is this a good idea?’ ‘Probably not’, is the likely answer. What’s more, in a survey conducted by ContractorUK 13% of female workers who have had a pass made on them by a male coworker end up lodging an official complaints about their colleagues’ conduct.
Do watch your language.
Remember the reason why you are at the Christmas party in the first place is because you have a job. Avoid saying things you wouldn’t say on a normal office day. A former (note use of the word ‘former’) colleague of mine told our CEO that his speech was “crap” and he could do his job blindfolded. Consequently, the Christmas card from the boss contained his P-45. And, for ****’s sake, don’t swear!
Don’t leave too soon. Tequila slammers
with the girls from HR may be more appealing than your department’s party. But, unless you have made a holy show of yourself, stay for at least a couple of hours even if it is the most boring party ever. After all, it’s your boss that you need to impress when it comes to getting a promotion.
Above all, enjoy the party. Strive to be remembered for the right reasons and not for your lustful antics or David Brent dancing. And, in the words of the great man himself from “The Office”, when asked how he would like to be remembered, he replied: “Simply, as, the man who put a smile on the face of all who he met.”
How Many Candles???
Aries (The Ram) It is the end of yet another year for you beautiful rams, but how will you choose to end it? Will your choice be to be selfish or will it be to make others laugh. Either way do not be the butt of others jokes
Taurus (The Bull) Here we are ready to turn the light off on what has been a never-ending year of change for you, you have made sure this year that you haven’t used your bullish anger against people but you still made sure that they got the point you were putting across.
Gemini (The Twins) Have you got everything ready for the holiday season ahead? Have you made sure that aunt Mary’s sherry isn’t cold like last year? Do not get to flustered over that and pull both the soft and hard sides of you together so that Christmas goes with a bang for you.
Cancer (The Crab) It has been a difficult year for you my dearest crabs and you have had big highs and big lows, but just remember that just because it still may look grey it does not always mean that it will be bad for you.
Leo (The Lion) Roar Lion’s let the world hear what you have to say bring the new joy in your hearts out and spread some of the luck you have had, just remember though that even the mighty lion can be felled by the humble thorn so do not get to cocky and stay well rooted.
Virgo (The Virgin) Winters veil is descending upon you and now you will see the joys of staying fit and away from all the so called fun, just because you may not be out every night and weekend up to your knees in drink and hilarities doesn’t mean that you aren’t any fun. This Christmas will be one to put you out into the world.
Libra (The Scales) Oh dear! The holiday season again where we all never quite get the balance between having fun and eating and drinking to much, it may just turn out this year that you are the designated driver for one and all.
Scorpio (The Scorpion) So how many people have you been giving the sting in the tail to of late? Not to worry as life carries on and this year as it draws to a close will help you to let go of al the bad and to start the new one afresh with no hang ups.
Sagittarius (The Archer) My archers here you all are, you have hit every mark so far this year and have helped many to succeed where otherwise they would not have if not for your help. Relax a little put aside your bow and let everyone else run about for you for once.
Capricorn (The Sea-Goat) So here, we are fellow goats the end of yet another year for us that started awful and has now ended with some good and some bad news in some cases, but we are still standing still strong and most important of all we are getting back onto our feet and bettering ourselves.
Aquarius (The Water Carrier) This year has been good to you brought you all the things you need to get where you want to be, to get to that little haven whether it be a new home or a new job or even just a break away. Just remember you cannot let up just yet, as more is around the corner for you all.
Pisces (The Fishes) So did love treat you well this year? did you find the new love you wanted? Alternatively, did you just relight that old spark? What ever happened for you not to worry as the old saying goes there is plenty more fish in the sea and you are the pick of the whole ocean.
So, here we go then , the winner of this months “As Voted” is.... Biker Chick Gypsy Fairy Goth/Emo 8% 12% 12% 32%
Ok, Hope you liked them! Now then, what gorgeous outfit for the next issue? Send your votes for either 1. Gypsy 2. Ring Mistress 3. Ballerina 4. Indian Squaw 5. Super hero to firstname.lastname@example.org marking your mail ‘As Voted...’ or you can vote online at http://groups.yahoo.com/group/lilboutique/ or VOTE HERE!!! in the new voting section!
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Here at Narcisse we all know too well how bad life can get for you and can understand how lonely or scared you may get. So here, just for you, we have compiled a list of help lines and websites from around the world to help you out if you get in any form of strife. If you are having problems seeking help from any of the sites or you can’t find anything for your country please feel free to e-mail any of the following e-mail addresses and we will try our hardest to help any question or queries you may have: email@example.com
(Outside the UK add +44) 08457 90 90 90 (24hrs) Confidential support for suicide, suicidal thoughts, feelings of despair or distress. The Samaritans http://www.samaritans.org.uk/ email: firstname.lastname@example.org Beaumont Society - The 24 Hour Info Line : 01582 412220 An established transgendered support group in the UK, with a support network for the Transgender (TG), Transvestite (TV), Transsexual (TS) and Cross Dressing (CD), community in the UK. The Beaumont Society 27 Old Gloucester Street London WC1N 3XX http:// www.beaumontsociety.org.uk Beaumont Trust - 07000 - 287878 (07000 BTRUST) Is run by a team of volunteers on Tuesdays & Thursdays between 1900 and 2300 hours (UK time). http://members.aol.com/bmonttrust/ Gender Trust - 07000 790347 http://www.gendertrust.org.uk/ Rubicon Society - 020 8252 2623 Transexual Support Group P.O. Box 637 Dagenham Essex RM10 7GG. Mermaids is for children and teenagers under 19 years of age, who have gender identity issues. Mermaids Helpline - 07020 935066 - 12 noon until 9pm only, UK Time http://www.mermaids.freeuk.com/ Gayline Wales Helpline for LGBT covering north wales operating from bangor. Monday nights from 7.00 - 10.00 Tel. 01248 363431 http://www.gayline.co.uk We also work with two other groups to provide a Saturday afternoon drop-in from 1.30 - 4.00 pm for 16 - 25 on the second saturday in the month and all ages on the last saturday in the month at the abbey road centre, abbey road, Bangor North Wales.
The support is out there! So just make that Call!!!
WOBS (Women of the Beaumont Society) These numbers are SPECIFICALLY for wives, partners or family members of someone who Cross Dresses. The Wobs Website WOBSMatters@aol.com http://www.gender.org.uk/WOBSMatters There are four numbers which can be called: DIANA -- 01223 441246, Jenny -- 01684 578281 Depend A support group for the partners, and ex partners, the parents and the children, the family members and the friends ... the 'significant others' of transsexual people in the UK. http://www.depend.org.uk/support.html
THE T-ZONE CRISIS DIRECTORY Apnar Ghar - Asian Women's Domestic Violence project - 020 7474 1574 24 hour helpline offering advice, counselling and practical help for women suffering from domestic violence and other related issues. British Association of Counselling - 0870 443 5252 web site: www.counselling.co.uk Can give details of counsellors and organisations in your area. 1 Regent Place Rugby Warwickshire CV21 2PJ Broken Rainbow - 07812 644 914 A 24 hour referral service for lesbians, gay men, bisexuals and transgender people experiencing all forms of domestic violence. This includes counselling services and help with housing problems. Careline - 020 8514 1177 10am - 4pm and 7 - 10pm Monday - Friday Confidential telephone counselling for children, young people and adults for any problem. Childline - 0800 1111 web site: www.childline.org.uk Crimestoppers - 0800 555 111 web site: www.crimestoppers-uk.org Drug Rape Trust - 01702 31 76 95 (service currently suspended) web site: www.drugrapetrust.org (not currently operational) Provides help, advice and support if you think you may have been drugged and may have been attacked. East Kent Homophobic Incident Reporting Line Freephone - 0800 328 9162 Family Planning Association - 020 7837 4044 (Monday - Friday 9am-7pm) For advice and details of local sexual health clinics. Jewish Women's Aid - 0800 591 203 (Mon, Wed, Thurs 9.30am - 9.30pm) Outside these hours there is an answerphone system and an emergency pager number 07644 002 776
Juniper Lodge - Sexual Assault Response Centre based in Leicester. Helpline - 0116 2733330 (Monday 6.30-9.30pm) Offers a free and confidential service for adults who have experienced rape or sexual assault. Provides face to face and telephone support, medical support and advice. Mankind - a registered charity that deal specifically with the issues for men that have been raped or are suffering from the continuing trauma of sexual abuse. It presently covers East and West Sussex and provides open ended person centred couselling for survivors. Helpline:: 01273 510447 (9.30am - 5.30pm Mon-Fri) Po Box 124 Newhaven BN9 9TQ MPower Helpline - 0808 8084321 (Thursdays 8-10pm) Helpline for male victims of rape and sexual abuse. National Association for People Abused in Childhood Helpline - 0800 085 3330 (Mon - Fri 12 noon - 8pm, Sat 9am - 12 noon ) A free telephone help/information line for adult survivors of child abuse (including sexual abuse). Newham Asian Women's Project Advice Line - 020 8552 5524 (Monday - Friday 9.30am-9.30pm) General enquiries - 020 8472 0528 (Monday - Friday 9.30am-9.30pm) Offers counselling, advice and assistance with accommodation for women suffering from domestic violence and othe related issues. Rape Crisis Rape Crisis UK & Ireland web site: www.rapecrisis.org.uk Provides details of your local Rape Crisis Centre and offers practical advice and counselling for victims of rape and sexual assault. Rape and Sexual Abuse Support Centre - 020 8683 3300 web site: www.rasasc.org.uk email: email@example.com For women and girls, but will refer male victims on. PO Box 383 Croydon Surrey CR9 2AW weekdays: 12.00pm - 2.30pm & 7.00 - 5.00pm weekends: 2.30pm - 5.00pm Refuge - 0870 599 5443 - 24 Hour National Crisis Line email: firstname.lastname@example.org Support and practical help, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, to women experiencing domestic violence. SARA Clinic - 020 7886 1940 - (Jeffers Wing, St. Mary's Hospital) STD clinic that provides long-term counselling etc. For youths and adults. Shelterline - 0808 800 4444 24 hour confidential helpline to assist with housing problems whatever the reason for becoming homeless.
SHOC Project (Sexual Health On Call) A confidential free and non-judgemental outreach service for female sex workers in Enfield, Haringey and Barnet offering a number of services and advice on a variety of issues. For information, clinic times, appointments, and outreach timetable please call the following numbers - stating you are a SHOC client: St Ann's Sexual Health Clinic, St Ann's Hospital, Tottenham Clare Simpson Clinic, Barnet General Hospital, Barnet Michelle Jennifer 020 8442 6536 020 8216 4110 07976 566537 (mobile) 07976 707553 (mobile)
Southall Black Sisters - 0208 571 9595 10am - 12.30pm & 1.30 - 4pm Mon, Tues, Thurs, Fri Information and advice for black and Asian women on domestic violence and related issues. Specialist Sex Workers Projects Open Doors Working Womens Outreach 07050 328128 or 07976 566537 Services: (mobiles) Praed Street Project, Paddington: Tues, Weds, & Thurs 2-5pm (drop in) or telephone for clinic or 1-1 appointments Working Womens Project, Streatham: Every Tuesday 6-11pm 020 7886 1549 020 8 243 2200 or 07930 324111 (mobile)
Streetwise Youth (SW5) SW5 is the new operating name of Streetwise Youth, an agency working with male and transgender sex workers. We have a cafe service at our centre in earls Court open Monday 5-7pm, Weds and Fri 1-3pm. There is no need for an appointment at these times, otherwise staff will arrange to meet clients for advice, support and assistance with a wide range of issues including housing, safer sex and benefits. Address: 11 Eardley Crescent, London SW5 9JS. Nearest tube is Earls Court (Warwick Rd exit). Tel: 020 7370 0406 Fax: 020 7244 0037 E-Mail: email@example.com Website: www.swy.info Survivors Swindon - Supporting Adult Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse Telephone Helpline:0845 430 9371 ADMIN No. 0870 950 3567 (Wednesday 7.00pm ~ 9.00pm) Website: www.survivorsswindon Survivors UK - 020 7317 6677 (Helpline open Tuesday between 7-10pm) web site: www.survivorsuk.org Supports and provides resources for men who have experienced any form of sexual violence Terence Higgins Trust Direct Helpline - 0845 1221200 (Mon - Fri 10am -10pm Sat & Sun 12 noon -6pm). For information on sexually transmitted diseases. web site: www.tht.org.uk email: firstname.lastname@example.org
Women’s Aid - 08457 023468 24 Hour Domestic Violence Helpline for women and children experiencing physical, sexual or emotional abuse at home.
Women’s Counselling (formerly the Hounslow Rape and Crisis Support Group ) - 020 8572 0100 (Monday 6.30pm - 9.00pm) web site: Hounslow Rape and Crisis Support Group email: email@example.com address: PO Box 315, Hounslow, TW3 1QF A confidential and non-judgemental support service specifically for women of all ages who are suffering/have suffered from any form of physical, sexual, emotional or psychological abuse/ violence. The service includes a telephone helpline, counselling, information, support and resources.
Befrineders An on-line based organisation that can put you in touch with local help organisations almost anywhere in the world. www.befrienders.org The American Suicide Hotline 1-800-784-2433 S.A.F.E (SELF ABUSE FINALLY ENDS) www.selfinjury.com An American based self harm hot line and website with numerous options for help for American residents. U.S.A SUICIDE AND RAPE HOT LINE 1-800-333-4444
Quiz answers from Sept/Oct issue
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First Event 2009 to be held at Boston Marriott Peabody, January 1418th 2009; Call for Presenters Made.
Summary: Tiffany Club of New England’s 29th annual “First Event 2009 Transgender Conference”, to be held January 14 to the 18th 2009 at the Boston Marriott Peabody in Peabody, Massachusetts, seeks presenters for workshops and seminars of interest to the transgender community. Single page proposals are needed by December 15, 2008 for inclusion. Waltham, MA (OpenPress) October xx, 2008 -- Tiffany Club of New England’s (TCNE) 29th annual “First Event 2009 Transgender Conference”, one of the largest Transgender conferences in the United States, has again chosen the Boston Marriott Peabody, in Peabody Massachusetts as it’s location for it’s annual transgender conference. The event will be held January 14 to 18, 2009. “Tiffany Club was delighted to work in partnership with the Marriott last year in hosting First Event 2008”, said Jamie Haley, First Event 2009 Chair, “We chose to return to the Boston Marriott Peabody as our attendees were so openly welcomed in 2008 and the Marriott did an outstanding job on all facets of our event”. TCNE is also seeking proposals for presentations and workshops that would address the needs and interests of all segments of the transgender community. “The transgender community is vibrant, diverse and alive and we welcome workshops, presentations, panel discussions, book signings and more” said June Casad, Director, First Event 2009 Programs/Workshops. Workshop topics have included topics on: Crossdressing, FtM concerns, MtF issues, Family/SO’s, transition support, Medical/surgical information, standards of care, emotional support, dressing for success, makeup, deportment, spirituality, employment and career issues, and legal rights topics. This is not meant to be a complete or exclusive list and First Event 2009 is open to suggestions on tracks or topics that presenters believe would be of interest to the transgender community. Please submit a single page proposal to First Event by December 15, 2009. For the convenience of prospective presenters, a proposal form is also available on the Tiffany Club of New England First Event Website (http://www.tcne.org). You may submit your proposal via surface mail, fax or email. First Event 2009 is anticipating over 600 attendees this year and will feature daytime workshops from across the gender spectrum and of interest to the entire transgender community, spouses, partners and allies.
Evening entertainment is being scheduled including a new talent show, annual fashion show featuring the band Temptress, awards banquet and a number of other social activities. For those interested in venturing out at night the local Salem/North Shore area is welcoming and boasts excellent shopping and cultural events. Both Boston and Cambridge are only a 30 minute ride away for an even wider variety of activities. Registration forms and information for Tiffany Club’s First Event 2009 are located at the club’s web site at http:// www.tcne.org or by calling the First Event 2009 Program Office from 10am until 9pm at 802-356-4582. Email for inquiries and information may be sent to firstname.lastname@example.org Tiffany Club of New England,, the sponsor of First Event 2009, is a 5013C corporation and an open resource and support organization for all parts of the transgender community from cross dressers to transsexuals, both Male-toFemale and Female-to-Male, allies and all intersexed persons.
For more information, submit your workshop proposal, or for questions the contact information is: Jamie Haley First Event 2009 Chair Tiffany Club of New England http://www.tcne.org Email: email@example.com First Event 2009 Program Office Phone: 802-356-4582 First Event 2009 Program Office Fax: 802-296-3749
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“ Hi Mandy, I have a review for you, Wigsrus ltd in Southport. Recently been there for a new style they are great. Hugs Julie Hi Ladies, After asking around for some advice on wigs I plucked up the courage to go and try a new style and I decided to have it fitted. I took the advise of an Angel and looked up www.wigsrusltd.com at Southport. This meant going out en femme for the first time and having a stranger see me as Julie. I made an appointment with Jennie and ventured out into the world as Julie. Jennie is a fantastic understanding lady; she puts you at ease straight away. All appointments are one to one and you can try as many styles on as you like. Jennie will give you advise on styles and colour. After you have chosen your new hair, Jennie will do the final styling and trim if required. The service was excellent and Jennie was wonderful, highly recommended. I felt so good and confident With my new style I had a walk around Southport, then decided to drive over to the Trafford centre and had a walk around the shops not bad for my first day out.” Hugs Julie “ www.frillys.co.uk is a friendly dressing service in Droylsden a town about 4miles from the centre and gay village in Manchester. The owner is called Julie and she now offers self catering accommodation above her shop. HOTELS- I use Travelodge and the special offers of £10 & £26 a night per room are great value. I have never had any problems at these hotels. The only problem I have had at an hotel was at a gay hotel in Torquay where I got a really frosty welcome to say the least. MAKEUP- I don’t use Dermablend because it is expensive and difficult to apply so I use a Boots No17 cover stick or a Rimmel cover stick both are on sale at about £2.50. “ Raquel Hi Mandy! I order make-up from http://www.blushedcosmetics.co.uk/ . They are very reliable and discreet with their deliveries even to Holland. And you know the all in price straight away, no need to email asking for price of postage. And they have a 50p and GBP1.00 corner! Kirsty
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