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Convert attending his brother’s wedding party

Alhamdulillah, I am a convert to Islam. My family are still, however, christian.
My brother is getting married and this involves a religious service in a church
followed by a meal. I have told my family that I cannot partake in the religious
service. I wish to know if Islam allows me to attend the meal with my wife and
child, where some alcohol may be served to some christians with the meal. If it
is not allowed then what advice can you give me. Please give the answer with
The issue is of great importance since I have been estranged from my father (by
his choice) for 7 years and I am trying to invite them to Islam.
Jazakallah khayran
Praise be to Allaah.
1. We praise Allaah for having guided you to Islam and we ask Him to complete
His favour by helping you to be steadfast and by guiding your family to Islam.
You are doing the right thing by not attending the religious service in the
church, because taking part in religious proceedings of non-Muslims is, at the
very least, a major sin, and could lead to kufr.
With regard to attending your brother’s wedding party where alcohol will be
served with the food, we advise you not to take part as you say. Attending such
parties is haraam and is a major sin. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning
“… then after the remembrance sit not in the company of those people who are the
zaalimoon (polytheists and wrong-doers, etc.)” [al-An’aam 6:68].
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever among you
sees an evil action, let him change it with his hand [by taking action]; if he
cannot, then with his tongue [by speaking out]; and if he cannot, then with his
heart [by feeling that it is wrong] – and that is the weakest of faith.” (Narrated
by Muslim, 49).
When you take part in such events, you will not be able to change the evil
actions with your hand or your tongue – in most cases – so all you can do is
change it with your heart, and you cannot be really doing so if you are taking
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever believes
in Allaah and the Last Day, let him not sit at a table where wine is being drunk
(Narrated by Ahmad, 14241, and classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Irwaa’ al-Ghalee
The reason why it is forbidden – as it appears – is that sitting with them
implies that you condone the evil action.
4. Apart from the fact that these things are forbidden, if the brother makes
these compromises, this will weaken his efforts to call his family to Islam. The
more sincere the daa’iyah is towards himself and to His Lord, the stronger his
efforts to call others will be. But if he compromises and vacillates, this will
make him look less trustworthy in the eyes of others.
And Allaah knows best.
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Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid

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