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D This is a common problem that we see today. It could be a preference of a son over a daughter or the preference of a child more beautiful than the other or simply for no apparent reason at all. It can even be favoritism by simply ignoring one child as compared to the others. Favoritism could be shown to the oldest or the youngest. Favoritism comes in many ways. giving gifts to one child only or giving better. . or excessive praise of one to the neglect of others. And that is the problem of favoritism among children. It could be in the form of showing more affection to a child. more expensive gifts to one child in preference to others. Parents may show their favoritism for many reasons.

 . favoritism is a kind of injustice. The following  shows us how important it is to avoid favoritism when dealing with our kids..º ' ( . Surah an-Nahl:90) Justice must be maintained in everything. even in how often we look at or speak to each of our children. A person is not being just if he shows favoritism. Nu'maan ibn Basheer said: D & &    .2. ‰  ( ( ' &&& &    (Qur'an.  . - .      & *     *   .*'' '& D)     In fact.Islam condemns all kinds of biases and injustices and indeed.  ' 1. The Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) said: A'   &' &3   &  +  And he (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) also said: +( '&   '   . it is one of the rights of our children that we treat them equally.* /*     *    & 0 & *     *    .

And as the experts tell us. it is injustice to the one who is being preferred over the other and it is even injustice to the parent showing the favoritism in the first place. this may lead to various psychological and social problems that can last well into adolescence and adulthood. Showing preferential treatment to one child over the other siblings nurtures a kind of jealousy and even hatred in the heart of the one being neglected. The Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) said: 4' '     '       . G  &11 Showing favoritism is wrong no matter how you look at it. While the one who is always preferred and praised over the other may think he/she is somehow superior or better than others and lead him/her to being arrogant and spoiled. The Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) said: 0  &    & ' &      /    The parent who is showing this favoritism is not being just to himself either since he is supposed to be fair to all his children and is answerable to Allah as to how he treated his family. It is injustice to the child who is being neglected. By showing favoritism. And surely that is not fulfilling our responsibility in raising our children in accordance with the way Islam requires us to raise and educate our kids. he/she is being sinful and not fulfilling his/her duty as a parent according to the teachings of Islam.

 . they will immediately deny it. However. since it is a matter about which one will have to answer to Allah one day. They do so unconsciously and if asked about preferring one child over the other.'     4' '      ')     1 Many mothers and fathers who show preferential treatment to some of their children do so without realizing it. each of us parent has to sincerely look deep into our soul to see if we are guilty of this injustice.   .

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actions and dealings with his children are based upon justice with no degree of discrimination or preference. the Muslim parent is the one who fears Allah in his dealings with his children. one who is just in his speech and judgments.  Therefore. His sayings. 0(    &(    &      '&J   m m   .

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