Homeschool Helpers

Issue 171, December 21, 2010 From Homeschool Helpers In association with Pass It On Ministries
By Dan L. White Subscribe to this free e-newsletter. In Kansas City, a father drove up to a bus station in a pickup truck. He told his little six year old boy, "Get out." The little boy did and in his small hands he clutched some papers. The father told his little boy that the papers were a bus ticket to California, where the little boy would live with his mother. We can surmise there that the mother did not want her little boy, since he was living with the father. Usually when a family is destroyed, it is the mother who sues for divorce and it is the mother who gets the children, if she wants them. When a child is with the father instead of the mother, that is because either the mother doesn't want him or is in no condition to keep a child. So the little boy was dropped off at the bus station to go live with a mother who doesn't want him. The father did not get out of the pickup and wait with the little boy for the bus, or even go into the building with him. He just put him out of the truck in front of the bus station and then drove off. A woman saw the little boy get out by himself and went over to him. The papers in the boy's hand were not a bus ticket to California at all. There was no bus ticket. His father had just dumped him; left him all alone, in a run down bus station, in a big city. How big is a six year old boy? About three and a half feet tall, a yardstick and a hand. So this yardstick and a hand tall little boy, at his daddy's instruction which he humbly obeys, gets out of his daddy's truck, shuts the door, and then his daddy drives off. He watches the truck speed away, sees the back of his daddy's head get smaller and smaller, and then he stands there, all alone, and turns his small head this way and that, all alone, and clutches tightly the wad of worthless papers

that his daddy had given him in his tiny little hand, all alone. It has often been said that the family is the foundation of society. Break down the family and you break down the society, and that is what we are seeing in America and the western affluent world. A recent study on marriage was released by the National Marriage Project, titled When Marriage Disappears: The Retreat from Marriage in Middle America. Black families in America were the first group to suffer mass destruction. We know that it is common to have black families headed by mothers, with no fathers around. Their families have often been destroyed. This study, When Marriage Disappears, maintains that the destruction of marriage and the family has now moved from black America into white Middle America. About six in ten Americans have a high school education. About three in ten have a college education. This report classifies those with only a high school education as Middle America and those with a college education as upper America. In the last thirty years the percentage of children born out of wedlock – although marriage is not really considered wed-lock any more, is it? – soared from 13% to 44% among Middle Americans. In that same three decades the percentage of Middle American adults in an original first marriage dropped from 73% to 45%. Conclusion? Family destruction has now moved from the blacks and the lowest economic class into white, middle class America. Less than half the families there are original intact marriages. Among those with college degrees, which is the most affluent segment, the percentage of intact original families dropped from 73% to 56%, still a terrible figure. Notice that thirty years ago intact families were the same among those two groups. During the last three decades, both suffered enormously, with the middle class being destroyed slightly more. I think I recall that in the 2000 census, about one third of families were not original, so much of that family destruction has occurred in the last ten years. The net sum of these figures is that about half the families in America have been destroyed. That's just a statistic, but what does that mean?

It means that little six year old boy got left at the bus station in Kansas City because neither his mommy nor his daddy wanted him. They are no longer a family and he has no family at all. And that is repeated over and over, so many kids with only half a family, or no family at all. When I was young I had a friend who had been given to the grandparents by the parents when she was just a baby. The parents had divorced at that time, and instead of one of them taking the baby girl they gave her to one set of grandparents. Later that couple got back together and then stayed together, but they never took their little baby girl back from the grandparents. There were other siblings in the family, all living at home with the parents, but that one girl was never moved back into the home with her immediate family. In talking with her, that was the overriding factor in her life. She did not feel that anybody loved her. She got herself pregnant at a young age, so that she could have a baby that would love her, she said. She died from cancer before the age of fifty. How many children today will be hurt for their whole lives because they lost their families and in their own way, were left alone at the bus station? Christian homeschooling is about the restoration of the family. It is where children learn to be loved, and where parents learn how to love. It is where six year old girls learn how to read, sitting on a couch with Mommy. It is where six year old boys ride with their daddies in their pickup trucks, and they know that Daddy will never leave them, will always love them, and would even die for them. Please, do everything you can to support this family restoration, for the sake of the little boys and girls a yardstick and a hand tall.

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