Foreplay, Lovemaking Techniques and Sex Positions

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Foreplay, Sex Positions and Lovemaking Techniques
By Pam Babbitt - SexCoaching.com

Sex is just the beginning, not the end. But if you miss the beginning, you will miss the end also.
Osho

FOREPLAY Lovemaking is a dance of energies, and foreplay is a gentle way of stepping into the dance. Embrace the opportunity to sensually connect with your partner on every level, with no goal or expected outcome. The desire is to allow pleasure to manifest, and when it does “marinate” in it. Keep in mind that your partner’s body may be seeking a relaxing pleasure connection rather than energetic intercourse. Honor those needs and don’t try to re-direct the path. In other words “match their energy.” Take the time to feel the texture of their skin, enjoy their scent, hear the beat of their heart and their breath as it enters and leaves their body, and connect with them through eye gazing. Foreplay allows your energy bodies to get (re)acquainted comfortably and gradually and you may even get a signal of sensation or warmth in specific chakra areas. As you read on, you may be surprised by some of my foreplay suggestions - intended to spark your creativity. You may allow your foreplay to don the mood of the moment - silly and playful, silent and sensuous, bold and bawdy. Or you may choose to create your mood by stepping into an experience or by stepping outside your comfort zone. Does a particular suggestion bring up feelings of “I could never do that. It just isn’t me?" Do some of the options sound too quiet and boring? Do some require too much focus? Too much time? Are some just too hokey or bawdy? Acknowledge those messages and know that you always have the right to be selective, and if you choose to step outside your comfort zone it may bring unexpected gifts into your relationship. The form that your foreplay takes brings an opportunity to experience more of your yin-yang energy. It can also bring transformation and balance to you personally, and to your relationship as well as your lovemaking. The foreplay suggestion that you are most resistant to may be the one carrying the most gifts. (Please note that I am speaking in generalities here. It is not my desire to offend anyone, wherever you are on the gender continuum.) YIN, YANG, AND YOU There is a belief in many Eastern cultures that male and female energies run opposite each other. According to the Taoists energy system, yang is the masculine or active energy and yin is the female or receptive

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As a general rule. To add a tantric kiss to your yab-yum position. Lovemaking is a playground for both sexes to access and embrace their full range of energy. Spend time kissing. and less comfortable relaxing into total surrender which they often equate with submission. You may choose to start your foreplay sitting yab-yum as you breathe together and eye gaze. chanting or partner yoga are other calming ways to start your sensual-spiritual connection. 2 . keep your eyes open when you can. and a corresponding connection between a man’s lower lip and his penis. It unhooks you from all those thoughts cursing through your brain and connects you with your essential life energy (prana. open to surrender and experiencing his yin energy. This synchronizes brain waves and heart beats.Foreplay. simply acknowledge and allow them. Women are often portrayed as either a Goddess or a Seductress. Feel the sensations. Hair brushing. poetry reading.com – Pam Babbitt. There is an energy connection between a woman’s upper lip and her clitoris. gently sucking lips. you are inviting expansion into your life. With willingness. ki). When a woman is on top of her partner in lovemaking. The man pulls his sexual and life energy (yang) up from his feet. etc. and sometimes have difficulty acknowledging both manifestations in one physical body. and focusing on it can anchor you to the present. It gets you out of the staring mode. If these feelings emerge. or simply allow your breathing to synchronize naturally. No biological system is entirely yin or yang and no person is entirely masculine or feminine. Notice the sparkle in your partner’s eyes. The result of these opposing energy systems is – the woman needs a heart connection before she desires sex and the man needs sex before he can feel a heart connection. and close them when you can’t. she is in her yang energy . By staying with the discomfort rather than bailing. and may help foster telepathic communication. feel the arousal build. Breathing together says “I resonate with you. receptivity and surrender these energy systems can harmonize. In being seen we are exposing ourselves and stating that we are fully present in the experience. through his genitals and into his heart. Editor energy. Begin by allowing your eyes to do “soft vision” which is a receptive mode. Breathing creates receptivity in your body and an intimate connection with your partner. Lovemaking Techniques and Sex Positions SexCoaching. possibly even animalistic. When a male is on the bottom. It is the bridge between mind and body. YIN FOREPLAY (feminine – receptive) A sensual bath or water ritual can be very relaxing. If you are accustomed to making love with your eyes shut. Allow your visions to merge. and the added bonus is healing and transformation. Synchronize your breathing. practice a different breathing pattern. Another perspective on yin-yang energy is viewing it as the union of opposites. with your lips being the only body contact. Following this concept. Men are usually more comfortable in their strong warrior mode. and balance as they open the door for incredible bliss. rest your foreheads together in mutual meditation.more adventurous and initiating. powerful and in control. Eye gazing opens a powerful channel for sexual energy.” Breath is the ultimate catalyst for sexual pleasure. so be creative and experiment with little nips. You probably know the basic technique. This allows the practice to support you. you have not been truly available to your lover. Eye gazing can uncover nervousness or embarrassment. Both men and women may find themselves in a role or position that induces discomfort. which is scrutinizing and indicates that your will is in charge. be natural.” but rather an opportunity for you and your partner to expand and become more balanced energetically as you both embrace your yin and yang. not to undermine you. blend. he is being more passive. Let your eyes blink. This is not a “War of the Sexes. foot massage. or embrace in a full body hug. through her heart and then into her genitals. your yin-yang relationship will be influenced by the sexual positions used in your dance of energies. whereas the woman’s energy (yin) starts from the top of her head. chi.

Remember that your hands are extensions of your heart and visualize a melting as your skin touches your partner's. rather than just your physical bodies. or fireman and be open to assuming that role. Place the palm of one hand on the base of your partner’s spine and the palm of the other at the top of the spine near the base of the neck. Now let your floor rolling escalate into a good. you might want to start by massaging each other using only skin sensation items such as a dry body brush. Close your eyes. do so sensually rather than sexually. Try being submissive or dominant. (Safety note: Before engaging in wrestling agree on boundaries and a stop signal. Vary your stroke technique and pressure. your heart pounding. Lovemaking Techniques and Sex Positions SexCoaching. If a position makes you feel vulnerable or exposed. but refrain from going into collapse and abandonment. Consciously send your heart energy through your hands with each touch. Sensuality is the foundation of sexuality and you can also use it to moderate your arousal. then move away and return often. Remain aware and when the body has a spontaneous impulse to change position. rather than releasing the discomfort. healing thoughts with this energy stream. through your left arm. feel it in your body movements. This will bring both you and your partner fully into playfulness. celebrate the newness and the unknown. Visualize loving energy emerging from your heart. Firebreath clears obstructions in your chakra system as it brings balance and provides a clear pathway for your energy to spread throughout your body. If your intuition suggests. This practice can be very energetic and arousing. Use light stroking as you begin to awaken your partner’s body. through your arms and hands and into your partner’s body. Create anticipation as you tease those sensitive areas. Send loving. Consider invigorating your sense of smell using scented body creams. As you begin to massage your partner. Ask your partner to lie face down in a comfortable position. Chakras are very sensitive to sound vibrations. Editor Channeling your energies can assist in breaking through your partner’s body armor and connecting with their energy field. breathe deeply synchronizing with your partner’s breath. You may want to begin in the improvisational mode and later imagine your pelvises glued together. out your right arm and hand and into your partner. Adding PC muscle squeezes ignites your erotic energy and your breathing transports that energy throughout the body. Show up dressed as a dominatrix. or essential oils. all proven ways to increase sexual desire. Sensory deprivation via blindfolds or earplugs can add novelty. allow it to happen. sex kitten. other food items. beginning with the periphery and slowing moving towards the core and the genitals. peppermint. vibrators. so open your throat chakra and let the sound flow. When you are both relaxed. As an alternative. Consider rolling on the floor with your partner. your bodies will be more supple and less fearful. and your autonomic system fired up. Rub your palms together briskly to build up warmth and energy in them. Shift in unison creating a dance of foreplay. and will also stimulate your power and surrender instincts.) Foreplay is an exciting opportunity to test the “clothes make the person” theory. or lemon. feathers and furs. but remember that during sensual massage it is much less important what your hands are doing than how your heart and spirit are engaged.Foreplay. Now imagine sending the stream in a circle from your left hand. as you allow your bodies to explore the possibilities of contact and position. You may want to softly describe this energy flow and ask your partner to feel it with you. clothed or unclothed. into your heart. nurse. and notice what you are evoking in your partner. old-fashioned wrestling match. Wrestling is another way to get your blood pumping. Add some heat or cold with ice cubes or heated massage wraps. give your partner gentle body rocks for further relaxation. YANG FOREPLAY (masculine – active) Sacred sexual exercises that involve Firebreath and PC squeezes will assist you in connecting your energy bodies.com – Pam Babbitt. relax. doctor. Very often energies mold 3 .

4 .Foreplay. It reduces anticipated and expected outcomes. notice your reaction as you read through the options listed here. or you might want to seductively place tidbits on your naked body and invite your lover to indulge. rather than trying to follow a set routine. Another option is a sensual feast which can be enjoyed in either yin or yang mode. Be in tune to the moment.” Dancing moves sexual energy within each of your bodies. Variety keeps you emotionally. consider playing a sexual board game or watching an erotic video. from a shy maiden to the seductress.. and your dance movements direct that energy toward your partner.there’s always strip poker. Gather some of your favorite finger foods and feed them to your partner. INTERCOURSE In the dance of lovemaking. each movement from you creates a response from your partner and the dance begins. Before moving on to intercourse. It is not necessary to structure a “position plan’’ to move away from the old familiar.. Lovemaking Techniques and Sex Positions SexCoaching. Choose positions that work for both of you. Openness. sometimes called “the vertical expression of the horizontal act. Donning a costume is similar to assuming an archetype role in that you are creating a force field waiting to be filled.com – Pam Babbitt. This can be a “no hands” eating experience. the positions will naturally flow. and trusting your body wisdom are all that you need. How about a striptease? This will help in developing the art of seduction as you give yourself full permission to reveal hidden aspects of yourself. Positions may be peaceful for soft arousal. In sacred sexuality. all with numerous variations: 1) 2) 3) 4) 5) 6) sitting man-on-top woman-on-top side-by-side standing rear entry As with foreplay. spiritually and mentally present in each moment as you give and experience new sensations. get creative with body paints.. the heart and soul connection between the partners fuels the blissful dance. Many yoga postures lend themselves to lovemaking as well. If your inner artist wants to play.. depending on your mood and what you like to do with food. There are six basic positions. Arousal thrives on novelty. and fine tunes your body to various sensations as it awakens chakra energies. Editor to match the outside form. Put on some bawdy music and let loose! Speaking of stripping.let’s not forget the DANCE. As you relax and surrender to your life force and body intelligence. It can be free-form or one partner can do a lap dance for the other. Comfort for both partners is essential. Or. and the position is the supporting choreography. Listen to that message and again decide if you would like to stay with the familiar or be open to a new experience. a willingness to be in the moment. from the gentleman to the gigolo. or strip backgammon. or strip scrabble. re-read paragraph 3 on page 1 and be aware of any reactions. while others suggest and support high arousal and strong thrusting. The positions mentioned here are offered as sparks to your creativity and assistance in adding variety to your lovemaking. Speaking of blood pumping.

com – Pam Babbitt. THOUGHTS ON THRUSTING Remember that a penis is not just for penetration. Deep breathing will connect you to your feelings and provide the fuel for sexual energy to travel throughout your body. dominator or submissive aspect of yourselves. A discrepancy in the partners’ size and weight. when to be still. location of the clitoris in proximity to the vagina. an initial slow penetration may be imperative. 1) The initial thrust can be made very slowly as both partners maintain eye contact.an example of adaptability. For both partners. etc. They can be employed initially or enjoyed later as transition poses. Without this vocal feedback. With bent legs and knees closer to her chest. The purpose here is not to indicate incompatibility or limitations. and it also moderates your arousal. or complete sentences. Use your voice to express what you are feeling . length of the vagina. The factors include length and girth of the penis. inner and outer labia configuration. Emotional desires. If either or both partners have high energy sensitivity. A long penis may uncomfortably poke at her cervix when her legs are bent and feet are up. groans. motionlessness has the psychological effect of quieting the mind and reducing anxiety and mind chatter. hold your body still and enjoy the other body sensations that had been camouflaged by the intensity of the thrusting movement. Lovemaking Techniques and Sex Positions SexCoaching. 5 . Editor The three primary keys to moving sexual energy are breath. when to shift position. penetration is not as deep. self-lubrication. whereas a shorter penis may feel great with that leg position . but the clitoris often receives more stimulation. During intense lovemaking. stop the thrusting.via moans. With stillness. You may observe that different positions may trigger different moods. When her legs are close together or her ankles crossed. Honor the wisdom of your bodies throughout your dance of lovemaking. It might send a wave of pleasure throughout your body. The teachings identify which male and female genital types are compatible. and it is usually very deep when she places her feet on her partner’s shoulders. Incorporating all three in your lovemaking will allow ultimate pleasure to happen. and take the time to appreciate the new sensations. and medical conditions are additional factors in determining which intercourse positions will be more comfortable and pleasurable than others. When they are straight. the Kama Sutra and Ananga Ranga involve genital anatomical typing. Let your breath guide your body movements as the sensation and excitement spread in your body and send that erotic energy to your partner. but to move you into considering adaptability. energy levels and needs are other factors. Many women enjoy having a well-lubricated penis move back and forth between their labia. This is a great time to tease! 2) More thrusting does not necessarily mean more pleasure. injuries. Some positions are more suitable for soft style arousal or yin energy. The biggest single variable in the physics of intercourse is the position of the woman’s legs. The coronal ridge around the head of the penis can also feel great as it glides over the clitoris. the side-by-side position suggests psychological equality and is not physically taxing for either partner.Foreplay. a man’s penis will begin to direct him how to make love. the vaginal canal narrows so the penis receives more stimulation and so does the clitoris. as otherwise the merging of energies can be overwhelming. the penetration is deeper. when to move. Now try squeezing your PC muscle. For example. The length and thickness of the man’s penis is often a factor in her leg position preference. Peaceful positions may bring about a feeling of mutual surrender – the willingness to become an empty cup and the anticipation of becoming fulfilled. PHYSICAL FACTORS Teachings from Quodoushka (Native American sacred sexuality). breathe together. sound and movement. while other positions allow you to access the aggressive. your partner may feel a void.

also vary the speed. or tantric yab-yum position. POSITIONS SITTING – YAB-YUM The yab-yum position deserves first mention as it promotes the highest level of engagement and awareness. which provides more stimulation to the clitoral area. Variations 1) Either partner can extend their legs straight out. It also allows for extended lovemaking because it prevents the man from thrusting. etc. and either can also sit on a small cushion. Start with 9 shallow strokes and 1 deep. Also. Gently rock back and forth and with a little cooperative wiggling you can move on to penetration.com – Pam Babbitt. 6 . Both you and your partner can place one hand on your lover’s heart charka and also use your hands to run energy up your partner’s back. deeper thrusting may cause the penis to rub against the cervix which is often a very sensitive spot with women and may bring about cervical orgasms. (But. In this position you can easily eye gaze to initiate the intimacy. and experience the soft arousal of the rocking motion. Partner breathing invites your energy channels to open and become receptive. so modify the position if needed – legs outstretched or cushions to sit on. This works well when partners are in a sitting. This traditional tantric position is a great way to start lovemaking. For the male. I do not recommend this practice as engaging your brain at this time may create a dissociation with your body. shallow thrusting allows constant stimulation of the head of the penis.Foreplay. clothed or unclothed. do not count out loud. the man’s penis can extend straight up and provide stimulation to the woman’s clitoris. You may want to add synchronized breathing. yang energy. As previously mentioned comfort is essential. and try a thrust and hold technique. A penis that is average or long may not adequately stimulate that area with only deep thrusting. Advantages This position is excellent as foreplay and soft arousal. Lovemaking Techniques and Sex Positions SexCoaching. which they associate with powerful. If both partners are unclothed. 6) Taoist masters recommend a thrusting method based on the number 9. masculine. the coronal ridge and the frenulum which are squeezed by the muscles located near the vaginal opening. 5) Deeper thrusting brings the man’s pubic bone in contact with the woman’s clitoral area and also pulls on the inner lips. Editor 3) Consider insertion and then simply rocking back and forth. then 8 shallow and 2 deep. aligned with heaven and earth.) 7) Along with changing the depth and rhythm of penetration. Another variation is thrusting in a circular motion. This is also the snuggest part of the vagina with arousal. Very arousing! 4) Incorporate some shallow thrusting which provides a great deal of mutual stimulation. if you choose to count and thrust. Your chakras are all aligned and your genitals are in proximity. Your body energy and spine are vertical. The male sits cross-legged on the floor and the woman sits on his lap with her legs wrapped around his back. 7 shallow and 3 deep. The most sensitive nerve endings in the vagina are near the opening and 1 to 2 inches inside.

You may want to return to this position before ejaculation as it allows deep penile penetration. This position is probably the most effective for promoting pregnancy as the vagina is an upright cup allowing it to retain semen.Foreplay. MAN-ON-TOP or MISSIONARY The woman lies on her back with her legs spread apart. The higher she raises her legs. Disadvantages The woman’s movements are extremely restricted which means that she is limited to playing a more passive role. The man then lowers himself on top of the woman with his arms supporting his weight. If maintaining an erection is an issue. 7 . Some men enjoy receiving butt squeezes or scratches. When the man is using the strength necessary to hold up his body and thrust. Hard scratching brings an opportunity to experience the pleasure-pain connection. or when a woman wants to feel “taken” by a man. all that muscle expenditure may cause his erection to subside. caress and enjoy the full body contact. this position is not recommended. or grasp the man from behind somewhat controlling his thrusting movements. For this reason you might want to use it towards the end of your lovemaking.In this case the woman raises her legs higher and locks them around her partner. and the woman sits on his lap. The man on top position can fulfill emotional needs when a man wants to feel like he is dominating. Variations 1) Woman’s legs wrapped around the man’s torso . The woman can bend her legs resting them on the mattress or floor and thrust her middle body towards the man using the support of her legs. Some men find that this position often results in hurried orgasms. Editor 2) The man can sit on an armless chair or stool. Advantages Good for starting and ending intercourse. especially if the man starts with shallow thrusting to allow the vagina (or yoni) to relax. the deeper the penetration. From this position the man has the freedom to thrust or make circular movements with his thighs.com – Pam Babbitt. Lovemaking Techniques and Sex Positions SexCoaching. and may intensify an orgasm. This position provides a unique level of closeness and you can kiss.

his arms should cup the woman’s shoulders so that his body falls flat against hers. Editor 2) Woman’s legs on the man’s shoulders . In this position. and initially he may find it difficult to thrust with both legs on his shoulder. The man should always take his cues from his partner and move slowly. This stimulates the side of the vaginal walls. 10) The woman lies on her back on a bed or table with her vagina at the edge. rather than in-and-out thrusting. She has her knees pulled up to her chest. The man slides two to four inches forward from the typical missionary position and rather than resting on his elbows. developed by Edward Eichel. One of the advantages about this position is the range of movement possible for both partners. 4) Assume the missionary position. This is a very popular position! 7) Woman lying on bed or table. Practice brings comfort. 8) Woman lying on bed or table.This narrows the vaginal canal and puts pressure on her clitoris. man standing or kneeling with his penis inside her. feet on his chest.In this position the woman lies on her back.Be aware that this position can allow too deep a penetration. 1993). 3) Woman’s legs together and between the man’s legs . The woman’s legs should be straight out and touching her partner’s while she pushes her pelvis upward about two inches. 5) Pillow under the woman’s hips . The big advantage here is when a man’s penis is small. From here he hoists both of her legs onto one of his shoulders. but the man lies across the woman's pelvis. man standing or kneeling.The elevation of the woman’s body can add excitement and creativity. The man stands between her thighs while she hooks her feet over his shoulders. man standing or kneeling . He should push down gently to give a slight counter-resistance. both lovers are in a deliciously unique position.This is also known as CAT or coital alignment technique.com – Pam Babbitt.This allows deeper penetration and the woman’s clitoris and lips are more exposed. 6) Riding high . while still supporting his weight on his elbows. The man then kneels or stands on the floor between her thighs. author of The Perfect Fit (Signet. slightly askew. Her partner kneels sitting on his ankles close to her buttocks. With a little bit of guidance and caution. This is called the “rolling tickle” and is good for reaching the g-spot. this position allows for maximum sensation. Both spines should be straight and the base of the penis should naturally rub the clitoris. the woman lies on the bed or table with her legs draped over the edge and her feet resting on the floor if possible. A woman has more control over movement as she can press herself against him to add to the penetration or rotate her hips for interesting stimulation and the man has an unparalleled amount of leverage and freedom of movement. woman’s legs on one shoulder of the man . Now do some genital soft rocking. The movement is all up-and-down rocking.Foreplay. causing irritation for the woman. something a woman normally doesn't feel. This position is not one for those who have problems with flexibility. 8 . 9) Woman lying on bed or table. You will be surprised at the unique angle of penetration which many women find delightful. Lovemaking Techniques and Sex Positions SexCoaching. The penis massages the side wall of the vagina which does not get the same attention with other positions. Movement in this position is directed by the man. If the woman wants to try massaging the opposite wall of the vagina then her legs should be moved to the man's other shoulder. The man moves in and out while she rolls her hips up and down.

Another great advantage is that this motion can be very stimulating for both partners. Urologists suggest that the woman be well lubricated and not overly zealous in her thrusting so that the penis does not pop out and then get bent at an unnatural angle with her down stroke. The woman straddles him with her feet placed on the floor as she moves her body up and down for thrusting. Lovemaking Techniques and Sex Positions SexCoaching. while others choose to sit up straight or squat. From this position she can put her hands on his knees. facing forward. SIDE-BY-SIDE Side-by-side lovemaking is often slow. caressing. Editor WOMAN-ON-TOP The man lies on his back while his partner straddles his torso. etc. The sensations are intense and this position will often bring men to orgasm quite quickly. and it also has the advantage of the feeling of deep penetration. His movement is inhibited somewhat by her weight and his lack of leverage. 9 . The man's penis may be massaged by the woman's cervix. more pressure is placed on the penis which can be pleasurable to both men and women. 2) In The Art of Sexual Ecstasy. luxurious. and not physically taxing as neither partner is supporting the other’s weight. Some women prefer to lay forward so she may kiss her mate. Advantages There is more clitoral stimulation this way.Foreplay. Regardless of which you prefer. and she may have cervical orgasms. It is this position that causes more injuries to the penis. The range of motion for both partners is more restricted and therefore it is a good transition pose as the partners stay connected through eye gazing. nurturing. Since this position causes less fatigue to the man it offers increased ejaculatory control. Because her thighs are closed. using her hands to push herself up and down. 3) The man rests his upper torso on the seat of an upholstered chair and his lower torso on a stool or cube with his feet resting on the floor. The man may also do anal massage during this position. Variations 1) The woman sits on the man facing his feet. His hands are free to massage her breasts or clitoris. This position forces the penis into an uncommon angle. an interesting idea is to just rock back and forth or in a circular motion while resting on your partner’s body. Margot Anand describes the Swooping Shakti position. which many women find extremely exciting.com – Pam Babbitt. From here she has leg comfort and total control over all thrusting. giving her the leverage to lift off. lowers herself onto it doing shallow thrusts and then a deep thrust. She controls the rhythm and depth of penetration. Polynesians and Africans before missionaries recruited them into Christianity and told them that they would go to Hell if they made love using any position other than the man-on-top. She then lies on top of him closing her thighs. Disadvantages The man’s movements are restricted which means that he is limited to playing a somewhat passive role. This position is also good for ejaculatory control. which is very arousing to some women. This position was very popular among Hawaiians. The woman squats over the man’s erect penis. kissing.

a man has more room to move and alter the thrusting movements he wishes to make.” Sometimes it is just called “doggie style.Both partners sit on floor. Keep your hands clasped and out to the side. penis inserted. the couple may wish to save the rear entry position as a way to end their lovemaking session. facing in the same direction. Lovemaking Techniques and Sex Positions SexCoaching. From behind. the man's legs can be inside of the women's legs or outside of them. legs extended. Usually the man is standing with his hands under his partner’s buttocks and her legs are wrapped around his torso. rather than making love. By adjusting the lean of your bodies. Editor Variations 1) Spooning . Now lay all the way back so that you are both facing the ceiling. facing each other. Wriggle forever. She can work in tandem with her partner guiding the speed and depth of penetration.” The woman gets either on her hands and knees or lays stomach first on the bed with her lover behind her. It is often associated with brief trysts. Advantages Because of the angle and the depth it is a good way to reach the G-spot. then the man tucks up behind her pelvis so you can enter from behind. Couples may wish to have the woman's legs closer together because it creates more friction between the penis and vagina. and develops leverage by grasping on to her hips. The woman draws her knees up slightly. He is on his knees or his feet. 2) X position . Greater comfort can be gained if he leans against a wall for support. Disadvantages Sometimes it is difficult for the male to keep his penis inside her. Some couples dislike the lack of intimacy because they cannot make eye contact. REAR ENTRY In the Perfumed Garden Tunisian poet Sheikh Nefzawi describes rear-entry intercourse as the “fashion of a ram” or “coitus of a sheep. Most men find that it is difficult to prolong their orgasm while in this position. Likewise the woman has a certain degree of movement that is impossible in other positions. The head of the penis will be stimulating the upper front wall of the vagina and G-spot.Foreplay. Depending on preference.com – Pam Babbitt.Enter the spoon while you're both on one side. you'll vary the angle of entry and your latitude to thrust. Also there is no direct clitoral stimulation unless she uses her hands. Consequently. or sky. STANDING This position requires a strong man and a lighter partner. The stimulation is often too intense or overwhelming. 10 .

Other suggestions are snuggling. and highest around 10 am. head or foot massage. kneeling or sitting. toys. Editor Variations The woman can be entered while you are both standing or laying down flat. It takes time to get into making love and it takes time to get out of it. Consider scented lotions. woman-on-top Woman-on-top. Take some gradual steps to gently move away from the connection rather than abruptly detaching. POSITION SUMMARY Following are positions best suited for – Long. slow. showering together. soft arousal: Ejaculatory control: Delayed or difficulty in ejaculating: G-spot stimulation: Yab-yum. music.Foreplay. missionary position where woman’s legs are on the man’s shoulders. 2) Erotic energy thrives on variety and novelty. in which case it is important to withdraw before detumescence. rear entry. rear entry Missionary with a pillow under the woman’s hips A penis with less than the average length: A penis with less than average girth: A penis with greater than average length: Pregnancy: Impregnation: AFTERPLAY Afterplay is as essential as foreplay. spooning Yab-yum. side-by-side. candles. warming packs. spooning. “rolling tickle” (under missionary). spooning. any position where the woman crosses her ankle Any position where the woman crosses her ankles or puts her legs on one shoulder of the man Any position with greater focus on shallow thrusting Woman-on-top. Lovemaking Techniques and Sex Positions SexCoaching. or your own creation. Foreplay draws us into that “dance of energy” and afterplay is a soft. side-by-side. etc. missionary position with pillows. DID YOU KNOW? 1) Male testosterone levels are lowest from 10 pm to 3 am. incense. or lying side by side. deep thrusting missionary position where the woman’s legs are on the man’s shoulders. 11 . Consider continued penetration unless a condom is used. returning to the yab-yum position and sharing feelings. woman-on-top variations depending on penis length and woman’s position Rear entry. woman-on-top Rear entry. gradual release which shows honor and appreciation while strengthening the bonds of intimacy. 3) Anticipation is the greatest aphrodisiac. woman-on-top variations. 4) During intercourse some women may expel air which has been pushed into the back of the vagina.com – Pam Babbitt.

8) Women do not have a refractory period after orgasms like men do and with additional stimulation they can often have additional orgasms. Editor 5) Be aware that having intercourse in a hot tub or pool can irritate the vagina due to the high levels of chlorine. Your experience on the floor may allow for more sensation and excitement.com™ · All rights reserved 12 . Copyright © 2008-2009 · SexCoaching. Check out Liberator Shapes. 6) Consider making love on the floor with several layers of blankets or a thin mat underneath you.Foreplay. Various shaped pillows can make lovemaking more comfortable and creative as the change in angle increases sensation.com – Pam Babbitt. Bed mattresses absorb and diffuse energy. Lovemaking Techniques and Sex Positions SexCoaching. 7) Do not underestimate the power of a pillow.

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