Premarital Sex - Positives and Negatives "Is it ok to have premarital sex?
" That is a common question among teens and engaged couples. Perhaps you are in a relationship that is progressing in that direction, but you're not sure what to do. In your mind, you are probably weighing the pros and cons of premarital sex. On the positive side of the scale, there is acceptance from your peers, hope for pleasure, and the fulfillment of sexual desires. The negative side of the scale carries the weights of morals, fear of pregnancy or disease, and guilt. How do these scales balance? What is the right decision? Let's take a look at some of the facts. Premarital Sex - Is it Moral? Morality is a factor for many people when deciding whether or not to have premarital sex. Is it a factor for you? After all, the messages we receive from most TV shows and movies these days tells us "everyone is doing it." In light of today's permissive attitude, your peers may think you're weird to even question it. But maybe there is something inside you, like a voice in your head, that is making you uncertain about whether or not sex before marriage is a right or wrong action. Many people refer to this voice as their conscience. How can you know if your "conscience" is right? People all around the world look to the Bible as a moral or religious book, so let's see what it says about premarital sex. The Bible refers to premarital sex as fornication. That's a word we don't hear much these days, so what does it mean? Fornication is sexual intercourse between people who are not married to each other. The only distinction the Bible makes between premarital sex and adultery is that adultery involves married persons while fornication involves those who are unmarried. Premarital sex is just as much of a sin as adultery and all other forms of sexual immorality. They all involve having sexual relations with someone you are not married to. The Bible explains, "«The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body" (1 Corinthians 6:13). Verse 18 of this chapter goes on to say, "Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body." Galatians 5:19 speaks the same, "The acts of the sinful nature are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity«" Ephesians 5:3 says it most plainly, "But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God's holy people." From these verses, we see that the Bible promotes complete and total abstinence from premarital sex. Premarital Sex - Is it Safe Physically and Emotionally? Another consideration when deciding about premarital sex is safety. Did you know that 50% of the people who currently have HIV are between the ages of 15 and 24?1 Using a condom only reduces the risk of contracting HIV by 85%. Condoms do not significantly reduce the risk of contracting other sexually 2 transmitted diseases. Take these statistics into consideration when making your decision. Most people don't consider the emotional effects of premarital sex. You see, sex is an emotional experience and it affects our lives in ways we don't understand. After engaging in premarital sex, many people express feelings of guilt, embarrassment, distrust, resentment, lack of respect, tension, and so much more. As you read the next section, consider God's love for you as a primary reason for sexual purity. God does not want you to experience unnecessary emotional pain! Premarital Sex - Recreation or Re-creation? In discussing premarital sex, we often focus on the "recreation" aspect of it. Yes, sex is pleasurable. God, our Creator, designed it that way. It may be hard to think of God creating sex, but He did! In God's plan, sex was designed for married couples to enjoy the pleasure and excitement of sexual relations. The Bible talks about this in Hebrews 13:4, "Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral." God created sex to be fun, exciting, and pleasurable. At the same time, though, it is clear in the Bible that God restricts sexual activity to married couples. Why is this? Yes, sex is pleasurable, but in God's view, the primary purpose of sex is not recreation, but
"foreplay" is designed to be "before sex" and to get a couple ready for sex. Imagine. The more a married couple has to share exclusively between themselves. Jesus died to pay the penalty for all of our sins. By essence. God commands against premarital sex in order to protect unmarried people from unwanted pregnancies.What If It is Already Too Late? If you have already engaged in premarital sex. how far can we go?" A better question would be "How far should we go?" God's Word does not give us a detailed "list" of things a couple should or shouldn't do before they are married. Abstinence saves lives. if sexual activity and all forms of foreplay should be restricted to married couples. abstinence is God's only policy when it comes to premarital sex. including premarital sex. for a moment. and future. When a person places his or her faith in the Lord Jesus Christ for salvation. your boyfriend/girlfriend."
. Once they are forgiven. And God is faithful. it is important to remember that God can and does forgive the sin of premarital sex. he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it." What we are to do is confess our sins. there would be no abortions. That includes past. "If we confess our sins. Premarital Sex . desiring to turn away from the old life of sin. According to the Bible. and light kissing before marriage. and most importantly abstinence honors God. There would be no sexually-transmitted diseases. But when you are tempted. that does not give us license to do everything up to the borderline of premarital sex. 1 Corinthians 10:13 declares. they are all forgiven. Premarital Sex . as long as you are willing and careful not to put yourself in a place of temptation. what can a premarried couple do? This is to some degree up to the couple and their own relationship with God. just because the Bible does not directly address what a couple should or shouldn't do. Rather. he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. However. sex is for reproduction. Some use this as an excuse to "push the envelope" as close to premarital sex as possible. protects babies. and yourself to remain sexually pure from this point on until marriage. Although sex is pleasurable. there would be no unwanted pregnancies. Remember the Lord's Prayer: "Lead us not into temptation?" That does not mean He will deliver us from the consequences of our own bad choices. 1 John 1:9 says.Where Should We Draw the Line? A frequent question in relation to premarital sex is. "For he has rescued us from the dominion of darkness and brought us into the kingdom of the Son he loves. It is generally recommended that a couple not go past holding hands. Colossians 1:1314 says. he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. and to protect children from parents who are not prepared for them. In other words. a world without premarital sex. Anything that could be considered "foreplay" should be avoided until marriage. all forms of "foreplay" should be restricted to couples who are married. gives sexual relations the proper value. "If we can't have sex. Ask God for help and strength to remain sexually pure until marriage.Conclusion Premarital sex has no moral grounds. etc. it is designed by God to be enjoyed by two married people." It is possible to fight temptation. and it is unsafe physically and emotionally. present. Premarital Sex . there would be no un-wed mothers. Also. it is not because God led you there. Logically then. "No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. So. hugging. If you fall to temptation.rather re-creation. big and small. from children born to parents who do not want them. you should make a commitment with God. in whom we have redemption. all sins are forgiven. it is against God. the more special and unique the sexual relationship becomes. God does not limit sex to married couples to rob pleasure from those who are unmarried. God will provide the strength (Philippians 4:13) and grace to overcome the temptation to have sex. the forgiveness of sins.