Creating An Attractive Identity

September 20, 2005

Contents
I theApproach: An Introduction By Dan Rose 3 3 4 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 5 5 6 7 7 8 8 8 9 9 14 15 16 19 21 27 29 30 31 33 37

1 Company Overview 2 What We Can Do For You 3 Our 3.1 3.2 3.3 3.4 3.5 3.6 II Programs theApproach StandardTM Official Workshop . . theApproach StreetGameTM Official Workshop theApproach BootcampTM Intensive Workshop theApproach Phone Coaching . . . . . . . . . theApproach Personal Coaching . . . . . . . . Ebooks, Audio Programs and DVDs . . . . . .

Creating An Attractive Identity

4 Getting Started 4.1 Five Things For Success In Life . . . . . . . . . . . . . 5 Becoming More Attractive 5.1 What Is Atractive? . . . . . . . . . . 5.2 How Do People Know If Something Is 5.3 Beliefs And Filters . . . . . . . . . . 5.4 Some Practical Advice . . . . . . . . 6 Body Language 7 Attitudes 8 Commanding Presence 9 Vocal Tonality 10 Image and Stereotypes 11 The Next Step . . . . . . . Attractive? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

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Part I

theApproach: An Introduction By Dan Rose
1 Company Overview
theApproach is Vincent DiCarlo and Sebastian Dimitri Drake. Talk about masters. I’ve actually had the opportunity to spend some time learning from these guys in person. The things I have seen are unreal. Their methods of teaching are phenomenal, and their system is polished to a very high level of sophistication. They’ve spent years perfecting this discipline as both an art and science, and they’ve been teaching guys professionally for quite some time now. I will try and pass on some of their basic introductory topics to you right now. This book is not only meant to be an introduction to their concepts and techniques, but also as a prepatory guide for prospective students, so that they can maximize the learnings and improvements made on an actual live program. Vincent and Sebastian have written hundreds of articles on the topic of dating and seduction, and have given informal lectures in various cities around the world. Vincent is known in particular for systematizing and breaking down ’Natural Game’ and being able to transfer those qualities possessed by guys who are naturally good with women to his students. He was also the first to break down and outline the exact process of how to develop spontaneity from scratch. He has just finished working out various intention maps which lay out all of the key moments that shape and define the future development of a given sexual relationship, and is currently teaching these exclusively at live theApproach programs. Sebastian is known for his highly social and playful approach to the

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seduction and dating. I wasn’t sure what to expect. Both Vincent and Sebastian are literal walking encyclopedias of everything related to pick-up. And they produce results. Boy. I had been going out specifically to meet women a few nights a week. Extremely satisfied and grateful. They have turned guys who were once shy virgins into complete playboys ’living the lifestyle’. tips and techniques for every possible situation. and together they’ve got plenty of mindsets. Keep an eye out for his upcoming full length ebook! Sebastian has turned out an extremely high percentage of successful students. I knew they had an amazing track record with their students. I was getting plenty of phone numbers. and even had a few short flings. And I was doing alright. Nothing too spectacular.400% more than they were pre-workshop. Seriously. When I first joined theApproach team in late 2004.game and empowering his students with spectactular attitudes and beliefs. most of my friends had trou4 . The real question however. most are currently getting laid anywhere from 100% . And they’ve also helped men find the women of their dreams. He is currently interested in something he calls The Array of Possibilities. This was an area of my life that I was working on very dilligently. I thought I was doing pretty good. I mean. and I really felt I had reached the limit of how much progress was possible. Part of my job is to keep in touch with ex-students and track their progress. and is in the process of designing methods for tapping into ANY woman’s given ideal fantasy. was I wrong. is ’How do you want to use this material?’ 2 What We Can Do For You We change men’s lives for the better in a dramatic way. At the time. and to be honest I was a bit skeptical. It’s all possible.

We witness tremendous change in our students. It’s genuinely a blast. I’ve never had so much fun doing anything else. 3 3. The seminars are designed to be highly personalized and interactive. Effortless.ble even talking to women they didn’t know. And I got better. And everything changed. Spend an upwards of 30-35 hours with two 5 . And then I saw Vincent and Sebastian. but I began to subconsciously absorb their attitudes and beliefs.1 Our Programs theApproach StandardTM Official Workshop theApproach’s World-Class Small Group Workshops represent the highest level of integrity when it comes to live pick-up. They started correcting my mistakes. which allows you the greatest opportunity to get personalized attention and make major and paradigm-shifting changes and realizations. And it was only the beginning. MUCH better. They made the impossible look easy. Carefree. Therefore both workshop and seminar space is limited. Seminars are taught exclusively by theApproach founders Vincent DiCarlo and Sebastian Drake. The StandardTM has proven itself time and time again with the remarkable success of every client who completes the training. Now I am part of the team. They gave me better ways of doing things. theApproach live program consists of small-group classroom style seminars and in-field workshops. seduction and dating instruction. and it feels great helping others. They pointed out subtle behaviors of mine that were holding me back. Just watching them that first day not only shattered my reality of what it truly means to be a ’pick-up artist’.

. Realize that 90% of the women you see are not only open to having a sameday intimate connection. Workshop groups are limited to a 3:1 student to instructor ratio. walking down the street. destroy negative thinking and eliminate self-imposed limitations. Workshops take place almost entirely in the field with intensive real- 6 . coffee shops or anywhere for that matter? Would you like to have your pick of these same women for a romantic encounter? Did you know that these women are wanting. you will receive highly constructive feedback in order to address those things that are currently holding you back from your desired success. night after night. theApproach programs zero in and focus on each student to determine what your inherent personality traits are and develop them in the most attractive way possible. they are eagerly anticipating it! theApproach StreetGameTM Workshops are exclusive workshops aimed at the advanced level students who want to take their daytime pick-up skills to top level. In addition. but we will improve your attitude and mindsets using interactive exercises which streamline your thought patterns. Their teaching methods are just as refined as their skills with women. 3.of the top recognized pickup gurus in the world. wishing.2 theApproach StreetGameTM Official Workshop Do you see beautiful women in the daytime. in malls.. Not only will we provide you with the neccessary tools for the tricky situations and challenges you will encounter. and they continue to develop and systematize them further. or even bookstores? Do you see them in train stations. and hoping for the exact same thing? Only in the movies? Think again. Introducing: theApproach StreetGameTM Official Workshop Learn what it takes to enter the world of women’s fantasy.

The bootcamp takes place almost entirely in-field.4 theApproach Phone Coaching Even if you can’t make it to one of our personalized workshops. You can customize the bootcamp entirely to what you want. This is for the guys who are really serious about taking their game to the next level youll be working one-on-one with an instructor at all times.3 theApproach BootcampTM Intensive Workshop If you theApproach Standard and StreetGame Workshops sound great. which will lead to more success in the future. all the field work will take place in the venues YOU prefer.time coaching and training. Workshop students can even follow up their programs to stay sharp. Grocery Stores. You can work on any area of your game for as long as you feel you need to. Speak directly with either Vincent or Sebastian and get advice right before your important date. learn all the newest techniques and even get specific exercises to stay on the path to mastery. confidential and secure. check out our Bootcamp program. and we can track your progress over the long term. Bookstores. 3. Phone coaching is completely personalized to the individual student. which will in turn make you even more confident. Youll become more confident and achieve more success with women that weekend. and youll see each group of women which you engage becoming progressively more attracted to you than the last.Train Stations are all fair game! 3. Phone coaching is completely personal. Busy Streets. the ultimate in personalized attention. Youll get incredibly detailed feedback on your interactions. you youll get a massive amount of experience in one weekend. Malls. and we’ll never share your information with anyone. • Get Coaching to Attract that Special Girl 7 . help is still available via theApproach Phone Coaching. but youd like to do even MORE to improve your game. Keep up on all the latest concepts and ideas or even get tailored advice to a specific situation.

theApproach personal coaching is held to the same standard as our other workshop programs and has turned out some highly successful clients. We understand our clients are busy people with a lot going on in their lives. Be sure to sign up for our newsletter list and stay current with not only our newest tips and techniques but also our important announcments! 8 .• Learn All the Latest Concepts and Techniques • Follow Up On Your Workshop Program to Stay Sharp • Take your Existing Game to the Next Level • Get Personalized Coaching Even If You Can’t Make A Workshop • Talk Directly with Vincent and Sebastian • Get Specific Exercises and Assignments Custom Tailored 3. 3.6 Ebooks. theApproach Personal Coaching is currently offered in Boston or New York City. Brush up on your conversational skills.5 theApproach Personal Coaching Once offered as an additional option to our workshop clients. and is a great way to keep your skills sharp after taking a full program. Audio Programs and DVD’s from theApproach. Spend a day with Vincent or Sebastian any time your schedule will allow. Audio Programs and DVDs Expect a complete line of Ebooks. get critiqued on your body language. personal coaching is now available to the general public. or even get a fashion makeover.

If. you can do anything. the next two are also very useful. Now. you’ll be on your way. after a solid base in those five things. The essentials. Those are the first three. you’ll be able to achieve an incredible social and sex life. all of your success in attracting women is dependent on having both positive beliefs about yourself and proper execution of techniques.Part II Creating An Attractive Identity 4 Getting Started When it comes down to it. 1) Like yourself. you go out and start actively socializing. The criticals. and throw in a some advanced 9 .1 Five Things For Success In Life If you truly believe you are attractive. Those are things we aim to develop through our behaviors and actions. 4. However. with the goal of eventually becoming a person who truly believes he is attractive. 2) Be confident. 3) Have fun. 4) Stay open-minded. With those three. let me break them down a little. and just those three. you will do the following three things. while those first three are critical for just about all parts of a good life. 5) Learn. which are necessary for success in dating or any other area of your life. If you can manage those five things. That’s it. Techniques are used as a way of emulating a person who truly believes he is attractive.

and are ostracized if they deviate from it. You need to like yourself as a person. Basics of self-esteem are taught throughout school and by parents. 1) Like yourself: The root cause of everything good that can ever happen. and authorities often turn a blind eye to bullying. teachers. and insecurities are played upon on a daily basis. and people are told to be never satisfied. For all you emotional folk: Your whole life will be better and you will feel stronger and more alive if you like yourself. reasoning it off as ’kid stuff. They’re constantly taught to seek validation. Consider that. Parents. It’s not allencompassing.discussion.. I’m an American. You need to accept every part of yourself. but at the same time. In countries based around consumption. people are given a billion reasons not to like themselves.S. In short.. the most fashionable suit. we’re given a double standard from birth. and 10 . the new soda that’s got a great taste while being very low in carbs.. You’ll be happier with a faster car. people are often put down. What do I mean by ’like yourself?’ It’s so simple. even the parts you don’t like (which doesn’t mean don’t try to change for the better!) For all you analytical folk: There is not a single advantage to disliking yourself. a better razor. but so difficult. There’s a happy feel-good message of ’Everyone is a special and unique snowflake’ that’s said in elementary school. which is promptly mocked and satirized. but it’s an idea. Here’s some random points I’m just going to throw out. Alright. the idea of non-satiation rules supreme. Here in the U. People are told they can’t be happy without stuff.’ The media constantly draws and redraws a fake norm that people should strive to achieve.

Arguably the single most important interpersonal skill. I know I’ve got skills that I’ve honed to a precise degree and I can use them decisively.. I could. What is confidence for me? It’s knowing that I have lots of ability and infinite potential. At the same time. most people think they like themselves when asked. But more importantly. it became sickening. Confidence. It’s about using my abilities as well as I can. ’Damn.. I really did believe it. it’s about fighting my fears when they come up. With practice. I hate myself. My breakthrough came when I realized there were many. I move decisively.. If you act confidently. but you’ll know it. but like and accept yourself.. one way is to realize that there is no reason not to like yourself. with teaching. I know I’ll do the best job possible. It precedes and precludes almost all good things in life. some of which are included in this guide. don’t. 2) Be confident: The world is yours for the taking. and often can’t realize that they. in fact. everything from business to family to relationships to (yes) pickup will go more smoothly. including good relationships with other people and good sex with beautiful women. I know that anything I don’t know or can’t do. I used to say things like. Now you’re aware of some of what’s going on. I screwed up again. Now.’ in my head. It’s critical. I genuinely came to like myself. many good things about myself. For me. I didn’t even realize I was doing it for so long. and defeating them. but after I’m trying my best. how to do that? There are many ways. you’re the only you you’ve got. but when I caught on.told not to decide for themselves. I can’t tell you exactly what confidence will be to you. I’d say it so much without even recognizing it. but it’s convoluted. so why 11 . I think people trying to explain confidence is where a lot of the rhetoric out there came from. Most of it’s right. Strive for improvement.

If you go out with a friend whos acting as your wingman. you should always 12 . 4) Stay open-minded: Consider and reconsider everything.. you’ve got enjoy what you’re doing and spending time with women and people. and no matter what happens. Aside from the fact that your time is valuable. or you like self-improvement. It could be that you like the music of where you’re at. This is as much a life skill as a pickup skill. There is no failure: There is only success and learning. This is key to true success in anything. you’ve got to like him and like spending time with him. To truly be good at attracting and seducing women. and improvement in any of those three areas will translate to improvements EVERYWHERE else in your life. be confident. 3) Have fun: If you’re not having fun doing something. So remember: Like yourself.doubt myself? I act quickly. it doesn’t matter. This is because I know I have ability and infinite potential.. Just have fun. It doesn’t matter how or what’s fun about what you’re doing. you’ve got to have fun doing the whole process.’ I think that those three mindsets are pretty much necessary for a truly happy life. and have fun. decisively after I’ve picked the best course. If you want to do bars. you’ve got to have fun going out to nightclubs. Your results will be infinitely better if you’re having fun.. you’ll have enjoyed yourself. those are my ’primary three. If you want to do work in nightclubs.. From the first approach to full sexual intimacy. Anyone can improve in those three areas. or that you like going out with your friends that came with you. or you like karaoke at the place you’re at. you’ve got to enjoy bars. So. Open-mindedness is considering and reconsidering anything and everything. You’ve got to have fun socializing.

is actually unrelated to true kindness and tolerance. and to solidify that knowledge by practicing it afterwards. there’s two things I’m driving at. though. and come up with interesting conclusions. Try to 13 . Kindness is not subservience or supplication. You can repair mistakes you’ve been making with practice and guidance. because it’s useful to you. regardless of who they are and what they do. is tolerance. Part of open-mindedness. Secondly. learn from it. and will benefit you in pickup and in other aspects of your life. I like to live and a promote a live-and-let-live philosophy. Why not? When I say learn. Strive to be better and improve. Be willing to rethink what kindness really is from time to time: It’s possible that some things the media raises you to think are good and kind acts.be willing to consider a new point of view or rethink an old one. The students who see the most dramatic changes in their lives as a result of our programs are the ones who came into the programs with the greatest commitment to learn everything they could. to anyone. I can think in different ways about different things. which doesn’t mean you should allow people to walk all over you. I can relate to many. because I’ve got some unresolved views on tolerance myself. so don’t get them confused. I know about all sorts of little interesting things. and even if you can’t accept some things at this time. Note that I said ’whenever possible’. Be kind whenever possible. I’m not going to go on a feel-good. When you do not achieve what you set out to achieve. On the whole. learn as you do. and I think it’s invaluable to me. Even fundamental beliefs of yours may change from time to time. don’t be afraid to rethink them later. for me. many different people on different levels. Learn things in general. like buying a woman dinner. 5) Learn: Learn about anything and everything. and can talk to them about it. I like learning about anything and everything. and my life is better for it. politically correct trip right now.

they will continue to aid you and teach you as you continue to improve your skills. Attractiveness is influenced by a great deal of things. and that can cause a lot of confusion for some people on ’How to be attractive’.. ’Realize you’re already attractive and you’ll be attractive’ . In fact. Seek out sources that can aid you. and base proficiency are required in all five of these skills to truly succeed in this endeavor. • Identify how people initially evaluate another’s attractiveness on a snap judgement. Work on them and your life will improve. At any time. • Explain how beliefs and thought processes affect the snap evaluation. many unconsciously. some people believe that they could never be attractive: Which might be the craziest thing I’ve ever heard. 14 . After taking one of our programs. Here’s what I want to do in this section: • Define what attractiveness is.Which can be downright confusing if you don’t know what that means. and to be happy in all of your life. Whether these guys are also former students of ours. These alone can improve your life. Anyone can apply them successfully. Anyone can grasp these concepts.think of creative solutions. you will improve your life and your ability to pick up and date women. And then you hear things like. • Give some practical examples and advice on how to become more attractive. if you go back and pick one of those and work actively on improving it. Those are my five first things. as will results in all skill-based endeavors.. one of the best ways to ground your newfound pickup and dating skills in your reality is to hang out with other men who are good with women. or guys who are naturally good at attracting women. and ask for help when appropriate. 5 Becoming More Attractive An attractive person does a lot of things: Some consciously.

5. emotion.. but can be very attractive on a level to a woman with an agenda of getting married and settling it down.. For purposes of this book. Let’s look at one of those definitions of attract: To draw by appeal to natural or excited interest. or aesthetic sense.’ Now. They’ve been broken up quite a while. Having or relating to the power to attract. I mean. settling down. by all accounts and measures. Arousing interest or pleasure. Now. These qualities of stability aren’t universally attractive. yet these characteristics ARE attractive to women with a very specific preogative (such as getting married. raising a family). My girlfriend lives on the East Coast. I’d marry my last ex-boyfriend. and he recently offered to fly into Boston and get a hotel just to meet up 15 . if that’s what you’re after) . I’m referring to things that are attractive in a way that leads to sex and relationships. but I’m going to focus on what can cause sexual or romantic attraction. and he’s yet to move on. her ex-boyfriend in California. healthy relationship (or having enjoyable casual encounters. she might look for a man who is very gentle and nurturing. a man that is less willing to take large risks for potentially large rewards.1 What Is Atractive? Merriam-Webster gives two definitions: 1. My general definition of attractive is something that is desirable on some level. One of my girlfriends said it best: ’If I was going to get married right now. 2. a lot of things can be attractive on a lot of different levels. By that. I’m going to deal with the kind of attraction that’s most relevant to dating and socializing: When I refer to something or someone as being attractive from this point on. That is. her boyfriend isn’t a very attractive guy. He still wants to marry me. Now we’re getting somewhere. that won’t help in building a good. if a woman is ready to settle down. a man who will stick around and be a father figure for her children. the first interesting thing I’ll note from this: There are things that are not sexually or romantically attractive at all to women. That doesn’t quite do it.

and sometimes on what she hears (if she hears him before or simultaneous with seeing him). but his loyalty (bordering on obsession with her) and his low-risk lifestyle would make him a pretty good husband. a lot of behavior that’d turn off many girls would make a gold digger downright giddy. objectively. the person needs to be seen or touched. At 16 . The working definition of attractive for the rest of the post is something that is desirable on some level. That DOES NOT mean that throwing money around and spending it on these girls is building a solid relationship. An attractive person is just a person with a lot of those traits. That little aside there explains something major: There are many qualities that are not universally attractive. anything I write about as being an attractive characteristic will be a trait that is desirable on an interpersonal level. Money is attractive by itself to most people. it all starts with the senses. If no other information about the guy is available. Another great example would be a female ’gold-digger’: Something very attractive to her would be mass amounts of wealth. She could marry many more attractive men than him. it’s usually on what she sees with her eyes. While wealth is rarely unattractive.2 How Do People Know If Something Is Attractive? Of course. it does not necessarily make the holder of the wealth more attractive except to people with certain agendas. but few men that she’d feel so secure in his job and faithfulness. For physical beauty. 5. When a woman sees a man. Hearing also matters. that’d be useful for establishing solid relationships and/or getting quality sex. as do scent and taste. she almost always makes a quick snap judgement about him. but can be attractive in certain situations.with her: And that’s after she’d told him she wouldn’t have sex with him ever again! He’s not particularly attractive. and my gal’s nothing if not pragmatic. Unless otherwise noted. or even the best way to get her in bed.

try taking a 10 minute break to do even one small thing to up your appearance . adjusting your clothing and playing around to find a cool style (including tucking or untucking shirt tails. Any one of: Doing your hair. But the matter stands: People quickly size you up.. as much as you can. etc). don’t play into a victim mentality: If you find yourself thinking. positive adjustments are good.it could give you a significant edge. yes. styling your hair (even really quickly with your hands). taking a shower. and. putting on clean clothes. well. and yet she’s made an immediate impression. and if you’re spending a lot of time reading articles on dating. What’s that mean? Something we’ve all known for quite a while: Improve your physical appearance. washing / cleaning your hands. Seriously.’.. figuring out how many buttons on the top and bottom of a button-down shirt to unbutton. you can change a person’s initial perceptions of you with time. in fact. within reason. And a quick note on dress: Just coordinating the clothes you already own can make you look 10. ’I’m too unattractive to.000 times more well-dressed. buttoning or unbuttoning cuffs. and it’s a lot easier to go from (at least) a neutral initial impression to a positive one than it is to go from a negative initial impression to a positive one. shaving or trimming / styling a beard or mustache. Many. Whatever you do.. lots of other things. then get off the self-pity kick and make one small change.. within a few more seconds. There’s probably at least a dozen little things you could do easily in the next week to become more physically attractive. cleaning your shoes (even if they’re sneakers or sandals). This is daunting to a lot of guys. cutting your fingernails. many men do not want to hear this. putting on clothes that fit your figure well.that point. The fact is. turning your collar up or down as appropriate. Any small. check this out: You don’t need to completely overhaul yourself in one day. washing your face. 17 . very little if any conscious thought has been made. You don’t need to do 30 things at once: One little change makes a little difference. applying something like Chapstick or lip balm.

either method will work perfectly. You don’t want to taste poorly. too. Before any of your words even register. Between the kind of ethnic foods that I like and regular salads. not because it isn’t huge. when I talk about how the information you’re giving off is processed (that’s when we’ll talk about body language. It can be a plus to smell ’good’. but because there’s not too much conscious effort that we should or could put into it. Of the five senses. western world has done a strange thing with touching: They’ve made it often more of a big deal than it really is. In this department. so I’m constantly battling that. then get it off your mind. don’t smell bad. or pleasant smelling soap and shampoo. and don’t sweat this. you’ll be kissing the girl of your dreams. I eat a lot of onions. but again. it’s nothing you should sweat. This is why socially learned people advocate having a strong tonality: Either naturally. and applied perfectly. Either method can work. and I’ve notably not mentioned touch much so far. but the modern. by being and feeling comfortable. but within moments. or by consciously focusing on it and adjusting it to its best level. brush your teeth and take care in that department. Whether you want to provoke conscious thought with your touch or not in a given situa18 . the tone of your voice has huge impact on what you’re saying. As long as you don’t smell bad. I’m not going to talk about taste and smell for the rest of this article: Make sure you’re not bad in those departments. Not a problem: A little fruit at the end of a meal goes a long way towards fixing your breath. and then forget about it. and breathmints are a good quick fix. Smell is something that’s easy to cover. maybe make a little effort to smell good. many touches. I’ll address what a good tonality is momentarily. I hope. Be assured that touch is a huge part of the equation. you’re fine. Thus. if you’ve been waiting). with either a good cologne or aftershave. I’ve laid out the base idea behind four of them. Taste: Eventually. make a little effort to be good. regardless of how nonchalant. can provoke conscious thought on her part.Physical appearance largely dominates the initial first impression. And of course. you’re in conversation with her.

3 Beliefs And Filters If I got together a bunch of guys and asked them. and that’s attractive. So if he wants to share them. knee-jerk reactions about whether a person is attractive or not come from our senses. After that. Be a man. and has some relationships. Those are catchphrases that have some truth to them. but aren’t the whole picture. the information from our senses is filtered. and based on his unique experiences. This is where things get complicated. ’What makes a woman attracted to a man?’ I’d get lots of different answers. They’ll be pretty complicated. we’re largely dealing with being attractive in a way that’s going to help our romantic and sex livses. from acting like he’s acted like with women all his life. from the places he’s been.’ Not bad advice.’ And so on. he’ll have a lot of insights.’ I might hear: ’Acting like a man is attractive. I might hear. Not bad at all.tion is something worth a little thought. If the man giving advice is a 35-year-old businessman in Italy. What we’ve established so far: • Attractive is something that’s desirable on some level to someone. but in a scene like this one. and we’ll get to it momentarily.’ I might hear: ’People want what they can’t have. or right. so he needs to ’sum it up’ for them. The guys he’s sharing with weren’t there for every girl he’s interacted with. ’Making her feel good is attractive. 5. and don’t have his frame of reference.’ I might hear: ’An attractive guy doesn’t need her. • The very first. • Things can be attractive in different ways. None of those are wrong. But he’s saying that from the perspective he’s got. by and of themselves. And this is where the confusion comes in: If a cool guy spends a lot of time socializing with women. he needs to break them down in a way that they can be understood. So he says something like: ’Be alpha. his conception of ’being alpha’ and ’being a man’ 19 .

That’s just how it was.. but the guys that the 17 year old Canadian is going to look up to is going to be very different from the Italian guy. Everything you perceive is filtered through your beliefs.. feel physically repulsed at that idea. very. very different from a 17-year-old Canadian high school kid’s idea if ’being alpha’ and ’being a man’. It goes like this: Sensory Input =⇒ Belief Filters =⇒ Conscious Thought You see something. THEN you can consciously think about it. it’s largely true.. or smell it. Can you see how it’d be difficult to change your beliefs? To get to an idea. 20 . or your beliefs are wired in a very good way as to allow you to make constant adjustments to them. and that that is never wrong. deeply hold the belief that I should be free to share my opinions and logically debate them with whomever would like to hear and debate with me.is very. as crazy as it sounds in a diverse nation. let’s look beyond dating and sex: I. it’s very.. Like. Some things are going to be the same. you filter it through your beliefs.. almost everyone raised in that area had some deep. very unlikely I could ever come to that belief: Because to even think about that idea. myself. you wind up filtering what you’re sensing through your beliefs. and men worked. Telling a woman that being a ’working mother’ was an option for her would be as alien as telling a Manhattan woman today that she needs to get married and start having children by 20. it can be very hard to change them. So let’s get to the heart of it: In every place I’ve been to.until you’re aware of the pattern. literally. To illustrate the example. which you now are. I’m repulsed when I hear about governments censoring their citizens. or hear it. for it to even become conscious thought. in many areas it was completely assumed as a fundamental truth that women stayed home and raised children. it has to go through my beliefs: And I. So unless you come into something with an open mind. If someone were to tell me that that’s the way the whole world should be run. underlying core beliefs that were similar. In the 1950’s in America.

I can’t really tell you how anatomy works. they’ll often parse over little details if they see that piece of the equation. I’m not a biologist.Another example would be telling a devout religious person that God does not exist. but the idea can’t make it through his beliefs without me making him recognize that his beliefs need changing. After you consciously adjust your walk for a short while. when they walk. a bit differently than guys with smaller upper arms. Don’t let your beliefs stand in your own way. The arms thing is just a very. because the idea couldn’t even make it past their beliefs to be thought about. I’ve observed the pattern and even felt it myself when I was lifting weights. but just the way guys with larger arms move. They’re ingrained in you. But one thing I CAN tell you is that if you adjust your walk ever-so-slightly. and at least isolate yourself from them long enough to consider the ideas. It’s quite possible that they could never come to that belief. nor an exercise scientist.4 Some Practical Advice Here’s an example: Guys that have large biceps and triceps move their arms. but they’re a lot more flexible than you might imagine. and aside from basic knowledge. Many times I’ll tell a student of mine that he’s attractive. it’ll become natural and you’ll need no more conscious thought in that department. What does this mean? You need to recognize any negative beliefs you may have about yourself. too) has a belief about what’s attractive. The difference is very small. far before I logically convince him of the (relatively) simple fact the he’s attractive. which is a good thing. largely by your upbringing and experiences. 5. The belief in what’s attractive is interesting. but a well-muscled guy’s arms seem ’pushed out’ more than normal .not just in terms of muscle mass. I have no idea why this is. If a woman (or man. then you’re walking like a guy who has ripped muscles. very small piece of an overall attractive 21 .

This is true for tonality. If every attractive guy a woman’s ever known has walked and talked a certain way. Something I’ve noticed: If an average-looking girl wears an attractive girl’s clothes. and if she is. Consciously manipulating your body language and movements slightly. can be a good thing while you get the hang of it. too: She’ll start getting more attention. it gives you plenty of time to screen the girl if she’s compatible. calm. If you only ’turn your walk on’ when you’re out looking to meet women. stand. But more than anything. and move like an attractive guy. and style. I. have written a couple articles you might check out on having a good walk. she’ll be attractive. If you watch attractive guys. myself. body language. you’ll have had plenty of time to attract her via more conscious processes that it won’t matter any more. The emphasis on being cool. People who feel they’re of high value carry themselves with their shoulders broad and their head up. almost universally. there are ways that are attractive. you’ll look more attractive.presence. it might not stick over a long course. you’ll be in with lots of women. they’ll have similarities between them. Even still. If you synthesize a good behavior and make it who you are. on a casual glance. People’s filters react based on what they’ve seen already. While there isn’t ONE correct way to do any of these. It’s interesting. that’s great. the belief that you’re attractive will smooth things down and make you more cool. wait. sit. and comfortable: Being relaxed and knowing you’re attractive will make you have the body language of someone who is relaxed and attractive. This is a good thing. If you walk. that so much of the game is based around getting five minutes of a woman’s attention so that you can show her who you really are. smile. really. for a while. But the fact stands: If you emulate a good behavior and that gets you in with one woman. And it’s cyclical. and carries herself like an attractive girl. and the 22 . an okay-looking guy walking and talking that way will appear attractive to her.

that you’re attractive. They worked hard. Learning to be attractive. This is true regardless of what the first thing you like to say to a girl is. This could be any race of man and woman. Even if the guy is physically fit with shows all other signs of health and strength. Filters: We all have instincts as to what’s attractive and not. you should know. Health is universally attractive on an instinctual level. Then their success REALLY takes OFF! The beliefs a guy carries with him translates into how he acts. if you will. in the Western world. Any woman he meets will assess him based on her beliefs. Faking can’t really work. And since she’ll feel more attractive. deep down. That knowledge alone will make you act like an attractive person. So. this is largely being done away with: Though racism is still around plenty. The same is true of men. Regardless of what you want to say. if you don’t believe you are attractive. and then they REALLY believe it. a guy will have gone through a lot of frustration. Emulation is okay. and they get that first positive spark. most women at least exercise their free23 . Then something just clicks on program and they start to really feel it. so she’ll feel more attractive. what should they guy do? Should he try to act the way she’d find attractive? Or should he just BE attractive and KNOW he’s attractive? I find the second way much easier. and start truly acting attractive. But someone’s filters can override that: Let’s say a woman from an upper-class family sees a man of a race other than her own. (Thankfully. It’s a cool thing I get to see when I teach: Often prior to taking a program. Racist beliefs can be used as filters to filter guys out. finally.attention will be more positive. she’ll carry herself well. regardless of what the societal definition of attractive is. though: If you believe you’re faking. she might let her societal filters override it. you won’t be.

. a boat with oars and such? I’m not sure exactly how the sport works. He shared an interesting observation with me.’ It was funny. most filters can be used to your advantage. and I’ve got small shirts with big sleeves that make my arms look tiny. like. That little thing can appeal to a mostly unconscious filter. A little effort into your clothes can make you much more attractive. I have no idea why women enjoy shopping so much. most filters aren’t as hard-line as the race one. He looked very toned. Instead. because he was right. at the beach. but thankfully. many.dom to try dating outside their race a few times in their lives. many cuts are going to make her look not so good. You know. and thus attractive. and many. and said.) That’s a simple example of a negative filter. I once had a friend who rowed. One cut of it is going to make her look elegant. I remember. have a girl you know try on a few different cuts of the ’classic little black skirt’ at a department store. But more important 24 . He was wearing a white T-shirt one day. I’ve got large T-shirts with small sleeves and I look ripped in them. but it was interesting to look at him: He was very toned and in shape. but he’d look rather skinny in a baggy sweatshirt. dress is a really simple thing to help you stand out and be represented as physically fit. The sleeves on your white cotton t-shirt can make the difference between you looking like you have biceps or not. Arms Bulging On Sleeves = Muscles = Healthy = Attractive It’s why even though you look similar on most days. with as difficult as it must be for them. If you need to prove this. and even though styles of clothing can look very similar. ’Always try to get T-shirts that the sleeves are tight around your biceps.. Anyway. and he pointed something out to me: He showed me the sleeve on his T-shirt. a very small cut of cloth can make you look more attractive. another is going to make her look hot. say. but didn’t have large muscles the way a bodybuilder would.

and she thinks he IS confident. you’ll appear to have internal confidence (the belief). and it reflects your internal confidence. I stand strong. It manifests itself in actions. Right now. This makes me appear confident in my actions. will translate into confidence in your actions. on a belief level. and the beliefs they come from. The first time I did it. I’m so confident about where I’m going and where I’ve been in my life that I don’t even really fear death (at least in the abstract form. I had no confidence in the action. The action itself is a slightly exaggerated walk. This ties into the bodylanguage piece: By moving like someone with confident bodylanguage. I’m so confident in myself (belief) that I rarely get afraid of anything. can’t be seen by itself: But it translates into your actions. Now. I muttered a quick prayer and just jumped off. It’s very fun and a little dangerous. and I wasn’t sweating it at all. and command attention. even if you’re just emulating it. Even if you don’t have internal confidence. and. Had I been completely sure that I was invincible. Confidence in yourself. It’s knowing your value is high and you’re awesome. that’s fluid and cool. Confidence is attractive.t han clothes are attitudes. speak clearly. 25 . Confidence in yourself. Have you ever been cliff-diving? It’s where you jump off a cliff of some height into very deep water. Confidence as a belief is confidence in yourself and yourself and your abilities. it might change depending on the situation). a woman sees a man walking like he’s confident. There’s confidence in actions. This is a confident action. But I wasn’t quite at that point in my life. I’m going to make a differentiation here: There’s confidence as a belief. I’d have been completely confident jumping off that cliff (literally). the belief. A few more dives jumps later and I was totally confident.

The first step is figuring out two things: Who you want to be. always be getting better in everything I do. and in helping people. you can work on emulating the behaviors someone with that belief would do. you can start to create a cycle where you get more respect. help myself. worth knowing. The best thing you can do to help yourself reach a goal is find a suitable belief. What I want to do is help people. I want to be someone who is knowledgeable about many things. able to speak with anyone. Just reading my list. talk. It’s the same for any attractive action: You can pinpoint what the action is and do it. and it’s good to take action right away. But to really become good at the game. and so on. and I need to cultivate a strong. I want to live a life that’s comfortable without being excessive. perseverance for getting better. and be a good person by my standards. As for what your beliefs should be.Thus. can you see what beliefs I should start to develop? I want to develop open-mindedness for my knowledge. he becomes attractive to her. shrug. Simply by walking attractive. drink. I want my relationships with women to be with women who are everything a man can ask for. reworking your beliefs can take a while. I need to believe I’m attractive. These little things will be seen when a person meets me. walk. In the meantime. BUT.. intelligent set of morals I can live by. and so on. Me. that’s up for you to decide. and I want a woman for me to be loyal to me. you need to take it to the next level and find the BELIEF that that action comes from. and. What you want to do.. 26 . They’ll see the way I smile. as you grasp and REALLY REALLY believe your beliefs. able to bring other people up. and make it one of YOUR beliefs. and I want to form relationships with people where we can enrich each other’s lives. so you feel more attractive. that’s good. eat.

and the cycle continues. and then a cycle has begun. You’re well on your way to becoming attractive. No hesitation. As such.. you’d feel more sincere. And in doing so.This article is about becoming more attractive. you’re walking like a cool guy and you’re smiling like the guy that owns the place. You will: 27 . because you felt attractive. and that’d make you a bit more sincere. many sincere people make eye contact. That doesn’t mean try to pretend like you’re them: Instead. If you walk like an attractive guy. As such. No weird jerky movements. Put your intentions out in the open for all to see. So you could focus on your listening. you’ll get more respect from men and more attention from women.. Then you get more respect and more attention. Big and Open. But as an example. and watch as it sparks a cycle. and what’ll you do? I’m going to bet you’ll smile like you own whatever place you’re in. And suddenly. Likewise. let’s say you want to be more sincere: What’s a quick thing many sincere people do? Listen. guess what? You just did another behavior that attractive people do. If you are relaxed and confident you will naturally take on certain nuances of body language. you’ll feel more attractive. 6 Body Language The main charactersistics you want your body language to have are: 1. Modelling your behavior after the behaviors of people you want to be like can be helpful. Relaxed and Slow. start with one behavior they do. naturally. so you could try making eye contact more. 2.

and appearing asexual. but mainly it is your frame. lean back in your chair. Leaning back is not incongruent with direct game because it is not a sign of disinterest. or too late. just lean back slightly. or staring. Bad posture is a sign of low self-esteem. Look at her steadily are warmly. or looking at the floor it signals that you are insecure. but do this only after she is receptive to kino on safe places. While you are learning. Leaning back shows that you are relaxed and comfortable with yourself and with the girl and her group. The proper time to touch a woman is largely determined by your frame. The same with when youre standing against something. You can improve your looks tremendously just by improving your posture. touch a woman in safe places. err on the side of touching a woman too much rather than too little. When you are seated. her arm. • Make steady. you want to avoid darting eyes and looking around the room. warm eye contact. because at first your touches will often be rejected. only of relaxation. a touch should be spontaneous and you should not think about it. eventually you want to escalate to non-safe places. if you do it with the confident expectation that she will enjoy the touch. Of course there are also factors specific to the girl.• Lean back. • Stand up straight. You want to avoid hard eye contact. Dont slouch. This is part of the learning process learn from the experience. Many more guys turn women off by not touching them at all. just lean back slightly onto it. • Dont touch too early. Good posture is a sign of confidence and is attractive to women. At first. There are a few technical specifics to touching a woman. You will have to set aside your ego to do this. then she will. and eventually women will crave your touch. but a touch that you have to think about is better than no touching at all. Ideally. Of course. It is an invitation for her to follow you into your comfortable reality. Some guys turn women off by touching them before the woman is comfortable with their touch. or her hand. You want to make your touch slow and confident: No tentativeness. Similarly. on her back. 28 .

An alpha male does what he wants.• Be completely relaxed. You are enriching the lives of every woman you approach. It cant just be a insincere little affirmation you repeat three times before you talk to a woman you really have to believe it. one hundred percent. Like leaning back. assume that every girl who you talk to is attracted to you. Assume that you will be successful in everything you do. not what others think he should do. ’Bbut what if other people see me talk to her?’ Who cares? Most of these people you are not ever going to see again. If you really believe a woman is attracted to you. but they are literally the key to everything with women. than she will be. All the others will want to be like you. 7 Attitudes Your attitude should be that of an alpha male. with no uptight or fidgety movements. and that every single person in the world likes you and wants to see you succeed. you should not care what other people think when they see you approaching. This is ridiculous. Too many guys think. Attitudes take time to develop. Dont be concerned about ’Following social rules. so why do you care what they think about you? And even if they are people who you do see again. not the other way around. and you should act accordingly. you shouldnt be controlled by what they think. You should assume that you own the world. Our main focus in our programs is establishing these attitudes in our clients. 29 . so they can attract women regardless of what techniques they use. First of all. And most importantly for dating and seduction.’ You are an alpha male you set the social rules. This should be the attitude you strive towards. this shows that you are relaxed and comfortable. you should not see your approaching women as something you should be sneaky and ashamed about. This attitude should be your end goal in your journey of self-improvement. since you believe you are an attractive male. Second of all. so will conform to your rules.

you need to be more commanding than the activity which she is engaged in. Commanding presence is extremely important in pickup and dating. For a woman shopping. you must command her attention more than the person who she is talking to. commanding presence has nothing to do with gimmicks. or even just walking in the other direction on the street. guys who know sophisticated techniques will not have success with women because they dont have commanding presence women instantly write them off as losers. or techniques at all.8 Commanding Presence What is a commanding presence? First of all. they are unsure of whether or not people will listen to them and attach importance to what they say. friendly woman would not give you her attention. This is because they lack commanding presence. you must command her attention more than the music. As you become more and more confident and dominant. and are repelled by it. and other guys. Because you are so sure that you can command a womans attention. you will command the attention and of women with increasing ease. Commanding Presence is the ability to make people listen to and obey you because you project dominance and confidence. to the point where you do not even consider the possibility that a normal. They dont project dominance. Many guys have problems opening girls on cold approaches . flashing lights. People can pick up on this instantly. In order for a woman to stop and talk to you. such as talking on a cell phone. So often. your presence must be more commanding of her attention than shopping. your presence will in 30 . dancing in a loud club. You will notice as you improve your commanding presence that you can open women in situations which previously you thought were impossible. For a woman in a loud club. They are not powerful enough to draw the woman away from whatever activity she was already engaged in. For a woman on a cell phone.especially girls who are in difficult logistical situations. without even listening to what they have to say. tactics.

which are taught in our workshops and bootcamps. Make warm. and all the other things recommended in the body language section of this guide. and by repeated successful experiences in social situations. If your tonality is not good. 9 Vocal Tonality Another very important factor which will make a man more attractive is his vocal tonality. loudly and confidently? • Improve your body language. you want to avoid overcompensating and dressing like a clown. Here are some things you can do to improve your commanding presence: • Improve your tonality. lean back. If not. timid voice? Or. Find cool. • Most important: Improve your beliefs. tasteful clothes which give you a tight image and show that you treat yourself well. with bad posture. and look down towards to floor? If so. and will get a weird vibe from you. Thus. do you confidently believe that she will talk to you? If you do. Are delivering your opener to stop her in a weak.. however. You can also improve your beliefs directly through various exercise to reframe your experiences positively. then she will sense that you really dont expect her to stop. even the smoothest. then she will sense the confidence and authority in your voice. but also. and she will stop. Theres many things you can do to improve your beliefs. friendly eye contact. most genuine. 31 . tonality. Dont dress like someone who doesnt pay attention to their looks. and that you dont think its worth spending time making yourself look the best that they can. When you attempt to stop a woman and get her in a conversation. • Improve your image. you can make anything seductive just by virtue of you saying it. are you saying it slowly. take up space. and look people straight in the eye. image. opening lines are not going to work for you.turn become more and more commanding because of this. she wont stop. Dont dress in a generic way. Do you stand in a hunched over. relax. If your tonality it is great. This conveys that you think you are not attractive. including improving your body language.

you need to project your voice loudly enough to be heard clearly. 32 . however. Project your voice from your diaphragm. you now want to work on the speed of your speech. Once you have gotten into the habit or projecting your voice well. but most guys talk too fast. This is especially important in the nighttime. Again. your tone should be slightly higher than in the daytime. like you are talking in slow motion. So. You want to strike a balance between being loud enough to be clearly heard. however. your voice will be drowned in the bass. slow. While your old. Think of the tone of a hypnotists voice. He draws you in with his slow rhythm and mesmerizing deep voice. deep and resonant. where youre competing with loud music. At first it will seem ridiculous. and not being overly loud. This is what you should be aiming for in quiet situations. party atmosphere you want to talk slightly faster. You should also calibrate the pace of your speech to the situation. err on the side of being too quiet. Your tone still should not be ridiculously high. You want to convey complete relaxation and dominance. A high voice is viewed by women as weak and feminine. a too loud voice is seen as overcompensation. A well-projected voice lets everyone around you know you think what you have to say is important. women will be drawn in and entranced by your new. This is because if you talk overly deeply in a club. In the daytime. you will become habituated to the new. there is an optimum speed to be most seductive.First. Most guys. With time. confident and relaxed pace of speech. but a too quiet voice is easily ignored. and nobody will be able to hear you. In loud club situations. In a high-energy. Another important aspect of your voice is its pitch. you want to talk especially slowly. slow down the pace of your voice. just a little high enough to be audible. in a daytime situation you want your voice to be loud. you want to make your voice deep and resonant. In an intimate moment before a kiss. fast-talking voice conveyed that you were hurried and uncomfortable. In order to make your voice more attractive. loudly and powerfully. Similarly. relaxed pace of your voice.

you want to make your voice slightly higher and faster. you can bed plenty of beautiful women. Girls. So when I get the question ’Can I get success even though I’m ?’ ... ’young’. 33 . and give them feedback on their voice. and the ways that they can improve on it. ’fat’. ’skinny’. ’tall’. Insert any of ’short’. 10 Image and Stereotypes We’re all a mix of many different things. Something Very Important: The image you put forward has to be stronger than any negative stereotypes about you. You probably don’t like every single thing about yourself. what you care about is bedding beautiful women and getting plenty of respect out of everyone you meet. and have very hot girlfriends.. But what if you’re short? What can be done about that? Well your height isn’t going to change.yes. will see different parts of who we are. In addition. we coach all our clients in-field. and become even more loud. Who does? Hopefully you’re trying to work past the things you don’t like and become the best person you can be. and a well-projected. Regardless of your height. I shake my head.. ’old’. But I don’t think that’s really what you care about. Read that again. I’ve seen guys of all races get nervous and wonder if they can succeed. captivating and fun tonality in the nighttime. We use tonality exercises in each one of our programs to achieve a seductive tonality in the daytime. No. This is a common problem.. conveying energy and playfulness. and people in general. also insert every race .In a loud club situation..

’Can I get white women even though I’m Asian?’ I was blown away . You don’t want to give off a ’short vibe’. If the first thing a woman thought when she saw me was ’This guy is white’. And yet he asked me. can I get race of woman?’ Just last weekend. does she think. but he had to have a stronger image than something generic. legitimate. you don’t want people to think ’Wow. And successful businessman and very cool and fun guy to socialize with. If you’re short. but his image is one of a certified. I’d be superboring. even. good style. then I’d be in trouble. full-on playboy. ’He’s old’ ? No way! She thinks he’s a rockstar. My image is not ’white’.The image you put forward has to be stronger than any negative stereotypes about you. I had a student ask an interesting question. 34 . A common question I get is. Hugh is a bazillion years old. you want to have some sort of powerful and positive image. What does this mean to you? The image you put forward has to be stronger than any negative stereotypes about you. he’s a short guy’ when they meet you. decent looks. ’I’m race. Instead. When a 20-year old woman sees Mel Gibson. Look at Hugh Hefner. and seems fun and cool and successful.and I told him of course he could. He was a cool guy.

I knew a Chinese computer-programmer. I used to work out at a gym that had guys that looked to be Triads in them. it might be a stronger image. One went to that gym. so women would lump him into the category of ’asexual Asian guy’ . I called him ’el toro’ very. Chinese mafia. Ripped. latin. This works for and against some races that are stereotypical as being powerful and masculine. The thing is. ’He’s Asian. On the other hand. 35 . When any woman looked at one of these guys. No joke. white. He had thick glasses and wore frumpled clothing and slouched over.Think typical ’suburban guy’. Muscles upon muscles. Y’know. shaved heads.’ She thought ’He’s powerful’ or ’He’s a gangster’ or ’He’s buff. she didn’t think. let’s compare two Chinese guys I knew. But what if you’re not one of those? The sad reality is that some races have stereotypes attached to them in certain places. Whereas if you’re another race. This guy had women all over him . Caucasian is the majority in America. He was about 5’5. very respectfully. He had no image. but he was *jacked*. I don’t have a suburban guy image.They’d buy into the stereotype that he’s asexual. If you’re Caucasian in America. and of course Asian as well. hot girlfriends and luxury cars and nice clothes and a ’Don’t mess with me’ look. any image is stronger than the fact you’re white.black. Here’s what you need: The image you put forward has to be stronger than any negative stereotypes about you. dragon-tattooed guys. They called him ’the bull’.’ As an example.

because The image he put forward was not stronger than the negative stereotypes around him. everyone knew I was white. I’ve had students at short as 5’2.. something. ’Italy’. 36 . I’m still American. Spanish. When I told this to my Asian student last weekend.I didn’t put off the negative vibe associated with Americans in France. the shortest student I’ve ever had slept with 3 women within 2 months of meeting with me. I wanted women to think ’Wow.’ When women would ask where I was from. he was picking up girls of various races normally. he acted like a highrollin’ playboy type. You’re either young or old or too skinny or too fat or too short or too tall or. Think on that.. and the women bought right into that. and yeah. If you’re wondering. and ’Russia’. You can bet your last nickel that I didn’t want people to think ’American’ right off the bat. He didn’t have a ’short vibe’. but I wasn’t ’the white guy’. No. That means I was doing something right .. By the end of his program. I’ve been to parties where I was the only white person in the room. then think of if you put off a short vibe. Everybody’s got something that’s unappealing to some group of women. I got to make a brief pass through France recently.. I was getting a lot of ’Amsterdam’. In fact. he started to ’get it’. But I’d keep a warm smile and a good vibe. I’ve been to parties where I was the only person in the room that didn’t speak fluent Mandrin. Hell. what a stylish powerful guy... Tom Cruise is pretty short. I’d tell them to guess. then people will pick something arbitrary about you and assume the stereotypes. or Creole. But it wasn’t what I put forward. If you have a weak image. Cultivate an image for yourself. Thing was. ’Am I too short?’ . he didn’t identify with being a ’short guy’.

In the classroom seminar. if you are not currently having any success with woman. You may even want personalized attention from real masters of pickup and dating. Learning how to meet women effectively is important. with her afterwards. At our Seminars and In-Field Workshops. And you get the girls you want. At best. you need real-life experience in the field. vibing. and also to establish a good relationship. race. and it is. 11 The Next Step This article is not a complete guide to pickup and dating it is only the beginning. and all the other topics mentioned above. height. exclusive or open. youll work with instructors Vincent and Sebastian in a small group setting. but in order to make a real change. You may be asking yourself.If you have a solid image. and all those other things you have no control over . But. information you read on the internet is not a complete solution.They fade to black. as they coach you through difficulties you are having in all stages of your interactions with women. Youll hear two of the worlds best pick-up artists and dating masters teach you about the basics of body language. you will undoubtedly be well on your way. tonality. and take your game to the next level. how you could ever possibly change into a truly attractive guy who can get any woman he wants? We believe in order to make such a change. your age. reports like this are only complements to our real-life programs. you are given the tools you need which will give you an edge on all other guys. By learning the attitudes and behaviors in this article. Such a change may seem drastic to you. image and style. which are essential 37 . you need to master much more than this to escalate an interaction with a woman all the way to sex. The internet can help.

for attracting women. Vincent DiCarlo and Sebastian Drake Founders. be it opening. The field work will take place in both daytime and nighttime venues. If you have any questions. http://www. number closing. and boost your game to the next level in one weekend. We will point out your mistakes and sticking points. detailing not only our fundamental methods of generating attraction and escalation. but also some brand new advanced concepts not found anywhere else. or holding an interesting conversation. After weve supercharged your game in the seminar. Yours Truly.the-approach.net. theApproach 38 . You will still need motivation and hard work to achieve success. Well work with you on any component of the game where you need work. If youre interested in learning more about our programs. anytime. be sure to check out our soon to be released e-book. kissing a girl. You can benefit instantly from our collective years of experience. but if you have them the skills that you learn in the workshop can save you literally years of crashing and burning with women. and give you targeted feedback. and years of frustration and loneliness from going home alone. We wont just give you a bunch of techniques. we change your core identity through working directly with your inner beliefs. If you check out our reviews. we will take you out into the field and coach you interacting with women in real time. Also. you will see we care about your success and will give you personalized attention every step of the way. feel free to drop us a line at our website. Well even work with you on phone game. providing you with the skills to meet and attract women anywhere. night after night. The groups are kept small as the student to instructor ratio is limited. visit our website.

but if I ever did get there.. and I could not be happier. I dont think there is many things as valuable as this. I always remember back . and both get the same amazing results using theApproach framework and concepts.one time watching Vincent.’ -Chad of Austin. we share secrets and all the latest tricks of the trade and so on. I have on my todo list since the seminar to email you a testimonial.. the proof is in the pudding. so that they can’t steal my girlfriend!’ -Tim S. I came to the bootcamp with a completely open mind. It’s like you become a part of this exclusive secret society or something. if nothing else..his game is top-notch in all ways. And there’s a whole underground network of guys they’ve trained in every city . it will save me years of my time. TX ’Sebastian and Vincent have completely different styles from one another.I mean it was effortless! Just knowing that these guys exist was enough to convince me to sign up. of New York City ’Sebastian is one of the best pick-up artists I’ve had the pleasure of meeting . but the list is way too long! LOL Well as far as results. of San Fransisco. Attached to this email are the pics in my car of the chick I met while we were ’in the 39 . I still correspond with them through email. He knows all about the learning process. It was great and I learned so much.. If I did not do this I may or may not have gotten to the level of where I want to be.’ -Brian K. I realized how easy it was to pick up girls who already had boyfriends or were married even . Highly recommended.their former clients.12 Testimonials ’I was literally trusting these guys with my life. CA ’Yoooo Vince! Wasup big man! You wont believe.

and is 40 .. They identify with me and understand all of my concerns. I took theApproach Bootcamp a few months ago and just recently did a one day refresher of personal coaching in Boston. Although both guys are in their twenties. In addition. It truly is a wonderful feeling that when a girl cancels on me now. And if you saw me. And Im amazed with how those couple lines you advised me to say to past exs.field’ at the mall. Not only did the workshop help me in going after any female I desire in my path. Like the pauses between the flow of my words when I do seminars. who have a man. They actually pointed out many advantages we as older men have with younger women. The hardest part was making the time with my schedule to hook up with her. but still keep them as a bootycall. Now I have that buffer of ladies I can call on to hook up with. For example. Their very smooth and subtle approach is well suited for older men. my wife loves the changes she has seen in me. not just theory. young women love older men if they have class and sophistication.worked!’ -Raj of New York City ’I feel I am in a unique situation. I can’t say enough great things about Vincent and Sebastian. no other method has made me learn more than yours of making us actually do the work out in the field in real life situations. I was blown away at how well their method works for someone like me. and the conversation exercises when I meet prospects (for business and pleasure!). since I am 45 years old and married. but its made me more successful in business too. You can use anything I say in this email as my testimonial. cause I have others in the pipeline waiting to meet me anyway. You guys are Hitch to the extreme! Forget reading books on this stuff. in my humble but accurate opinion. It took me the 2nd date to get in there. LOL. J so as u can see Im a happy camper. I dont even sweat it.. you might not believe I pick up girls half my age. They also reminded me of all the positive things I have personality wise to offer women.

He taught me for a bit longer. he started going through Attitudes with me. I can’t guarantee you’ll have the results I did. ’Chance hasn’t been easy on you. but I was serious about improving. poorly dressed loser. I said she wouldn’t. Sebastian taught me about the ’Lottery of Attitudes’ and how where we’re born and stuff that happens when we’re very little shape most people’s entire lives. I was a fat. When I met Sebastian for my bootcamp. I was feeling better. and it’s all golden. He asked me why any woman would be lucky to have me. He went on. He asked me if I liked myself. Now. we started looking at which of my attitudes were good and which weren’t. Do you want the truth?’ I did.convinced the program has strengthened our relationship.’ -Vlad G of Boston. but you’ll never reach the highest levels with your attitude. He 41 . dating beautiful and amazing women. I told Sebastian I wanted to practice all night before I saw him tomorrow. I was determined to get better. Are you willing to change how you think?’ I was! The first day. I said I didn’t. Sebastian related his story to me. It wasn’t on me either and I’m here right now before you. At the end of the first day. and living my dream of teaching people to do better things. I took a bootcamp with two additional days of personal coaching and it paid off huge. and told me how he once was worse off than me in a lot of ways. Before I took the program. ’I can teach you all the tech in the world. I found it unbelieveable when he told me how he used to look and act. Which made me happy and which didn’t. Are you willing to change?’ I said yes. MA ’I’m really glad I took theApproach. then told me: ’I can tell you’re serious about success.

of course I do. As we were wrapping up day 3 Vin got a call and answered it. Vincent TOTALLY changed up my style. I went out with Sebastian’s trainer friend and we practiced after the program hours were over. but Vin took good care of me and said it’s natural for it to take a while to seep in. The next morning. The next day. Things were going well. I was really happy with how I got dressed up and I was feeling really good in my new clothes. but I felt good. then started into the basics of approaching and initiating conversation. I went to the gym with him and lifted weights and broke up a big sweat. I met up with Vincent and we went shopping for clothes for me. I showered and came to day 2 of the program. I was a bit frustrated at this part of the program since there’s so many skills. I felt very comfortable with him the whole time and he made me feel really good. I was pretty sore still from the gym. taking me from beyond bad to looking really really sharp. I liked what I saw. That night. Sebastian asked if I wanted to work out in the morning. and Sebastian said I was really talented for going at such a good pace. and called a friend of his who is both a personal trainer and a former student. Sebastian reinforced some of the attitudes he’d already worked on with me. I said hell yes. then handed the phone to me. I practiced solo and women were opening up to me. 42 . I said goodbye to Vin’s girlfriend at mid-day and we worked all on conversational skills. I flew through day 2. then more fieldwork.told me to hold on and got on his cell phone. I got a new haircut and Vin brought in his girlfriend of the time who worked in the fashion industry to help me get the most cutting edge style and find good bargains at the same time. It hurt a lot but it felt good too.

looked better. but a lot of times if Sebastian or he is free and in the same area. I got her number when I had to leave for the start of the program! I met Sebastian and Vincent actually came along as well free of charge. I got to see a couply demonstrations with Sebastian or Vincent explaining what the other was doing in real time. The got into screening. touching. We broke from the gym a few hours before the program was going to start. It was pretty cool to have him do that for me. but I couldn’t help but go practice my developing skills in a bookstore. they’ll go two instructors to one student. At this point. We covered a wide range of subjects and then got out there. I called one of my female friends and she said I sounded totally different 43 . After we broke. Well it was very cool having both guys. He went and got some sleep. It was also cool to see how they worked together and got things going. Things were coming together great. cold reading. Now it was time for the heavy stuff. style. I went in with Sebastian’s favorite opener on a girl in the cafe and we talked for two hours. and attitudes.He told me to get plenty of sleep that night and eat a good breakfast in the morning. I had learned how to approach and the execution behind good conversation. qualifying. I got four phone numbers and a kiss! Amazing! I felt better. I learned a lot of advanced techniques but I was able to start doing a lot right away. I met Sebastian before the program and we worked out together. and other skills. Vin had explained to me when I signed up that you can get 1:1 personal coaching time. I had already improved my health. and Sebastian said he needed a nap. and was doing much better. He told me he’s happy to match the dedication level of the student and I was being very dedicated.

Vin and Sebastian were both there again. I used some of the storytelling and screening techniques I had learned and demonstrated my interest in a good way. I was really sore but it was a good sore. At the end. answered all my remaining questions. not a chasing way. I feel so much more happy and successful. I came to the last of day of my personal coaching program. and I’m meeting so many more women. Vin taught relationship skills. I asked how and she said ’Totally alive. and gave me exercises to do to keep getting better.’ I went in and started running my game. I got a gym membership and I’m doing full body workouts three times a week.. He said ’Go. Things were so fluid it was out of this world. They did my final debrief. and they went over the full structure of a pickup together.on the phone. Haha too late! 44 . then Sebastian saw a really hot blond chick as we were ready to break. They covered miscellaneous skills. but right now I’m going to have some fun before I do. I looked great in my new clothes. The program has been amazing to me. The last day of my custom program. Sebastian taught the basics of good sex. I called the girl I met in the bookstore earlier that night. I invited this beautiful beautiful blond girl back to my place for dinner and drinks. I moved a bit stiffly from the weights yesterday but it was all good. It’s been three weeks and I’ve slept with three women. I felt tired but energized. We did a little more field work and things were going really well. I’m actually looking to settle down once I find the right woman.. I was sore and I felt like my movements might’ve been kind of jerky from lifting weights but it didn’t even matter. including the girl from the bookstore and the blond girl.’ As per Sebastian’s recommendation. she’s all yours. A lot of women in my life that were looking right past me and taking me for granted now are trying to get with me. I got a few more numbers and another kiss.

You are gods among men. Sebastian. motivating. Life-changing. but if everyone can get even 1/10th of what I did. I don’t know if everyone can have my results. Vincent. empowering. thank you.’ -Phil Anderson.I’m so glad I took theApproach and I can’t thank Vincent and Sebastian enough. amazing performance. MA 45 . Newton. it’s worth every penny.

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