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1 Company Overview 2 What We Can Do For You 3 Our 3.1 3.2 3.3 3.4 3.5 3.6 II Programs theApproach StandardTM Oﬃcial Workshop . . theApproach StreetGameTM Oﬃcial Workshop theApproach BootcampTM Intensive Workshop theApproach Phone Coaching . . . . . . . . . theApproach Personal Coaching . . . . . . . . Ebooks, Audio Programs and DVDs . . . . . .
Creating An Attractive Identity
4 Getting Started 4.1 Five Things For Success In Life . . . . . . . . . . . . . 5 Becoming More Attractive 5.1 What Is Atractive? . . . . . . . . . . 5.2 How Do People Know If Something Is 5.3 Beliefs And Filters . . . . . . . . . . 5.4 Some Practical Advice . . . . . . . . 6 Body Language 7 Attitudes 8 Commanding Presence 9 Vocal Tonality 10 Image and Stereotypes 11 The Next Step . . . . . . . Attractive? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
theApproach: An Introduction By Dan Rose
1 Company Overview
theApproach is Vincent DiCarlo and Sebastian Dimitri Drake. Talk about masters. I’ve actually had the opportunity to spend some time learning from these guys in person. The things I have seen are unreal. Their methods of teaching are phenomenal, and their system is polished to a very high level of sophistication. They’ve spent years perfecting this discipline as both an art and science, and they’ve been teaching guys professionally for quite some time now. I will try and pass on some of their basic introductory topics to you right now. This book is not only meant to be an introduction to their concepts and techniques, but also as a prepatory guide for prospective students, so that they can maximize the learnings and improvements made on an actual live program. Vincent and Sebastian have written hundreds of articles on the topic of dating and seduction, and have given informal lectures in various cities around the world. Vincent is known in particular for systematizing and breaking down ’Natural Game’ and being able to transfer those qualities possessed by guys who are naturally good with women to his students. He was also the ﬁrst to break down and outline the exact process of how to develop spontaneity from scratch. He has just ﬁnished working out various intention maps which lay out all of the key moments that shape and deﬁne the future development of a given sexual relationship, and is currently teaching these exclusively at live theApproach programs. Sebastian is known for his highly social and playful approach to the
Extremely satisﬁed and grateful. is ’How do you want to use this material?’ 2 What We Can Do For You We change men’s lives for the better in a dramatic way. Keep an eye out for his upcoming full length ebook! Sebastian has turned out an extremely high percentage of successful students. I knew they had an amazing track record with their students. was I wrong. and to be honest I was a bit skeptical. tips and techniques for every possible situation. and I really felt I had reached the limit of how much progress was possible. I thought I was doing pretty good.400% more than they were pre-workshop.game and empowering his students with spectactular attitudes and beliefs. I was getting plenty of phone numbers. I had been going out speciﬁcally to meet women a few nights a week. most of my friends had trou4 . He is currently interested in something he calls The Array of Possibilities. and together they’ve got plenty of mindsets. I wasn’t sure what to expect. seduction and dating. Boy. And they’ve also helped men ﬁnd the women of their dreams. At the time. and even had a few short ﬂings. When I ﬁrst joined theApproach team in late 2004. And they produce results. and is in the process of designing methods for tapping into ANY woman’s given ideal fantasy. This was an area of my life that I was working on very dilligently. Seriously. Nothing too spectacular. I mean. The real question however. It’s all possible. Both Vincent and Sebastian are literal walking encyclopedias of everything related to pick-up. And I was doing alright. They have turned guys who were once shy virgins into complete playboys ’living the lifestyle’. most are currently getting laid anywhere from 100% . Part of my job is to keep in touch with ex-students and track their progress.
Just watching them that ﬁrst day not only shattered my reality of what it truly means to be a ’pick-up artist’. And I got better. MUCH better. They pointed out subtle behaviors of mine that were holding me back. They started correcting my mistakes. It’s genuinely a blast. The seminars are designed to be highly personalized and interactive. And it was only the beginning. They made the impossible look easy. Now I am part of the team. but I began to subconsciously absorb their attitudes and beliefs. The StandardTM has proven itself time and time again with the remarkable success of every client who completes the training. Carefree. I’ve never had so much fun doing anything else. We witness tremendous change in our students. which allows you the greatest opportunity to get personalized attention and make major and paradigm-shifting changes and realizations. seduction and dating instruction. Therefore both workshop and seminar space is limited. 3 3.ble even talking to women they didn’t know. And then I saw Vincent and Sebastian. And everything changed. theApproach live program consists of small-group classroom style seminars and in-ﬁeld workshops. and it feels great helping others. Eﬀortless. They gave me better ways of doing things. Seminars are taught exclusively by theApproach founders Vincent DiCarlo and Sebastian Drake.1 Our Programs theApproach StandardTM Oﬃcial Workshop theApproach’s World-Class Small Group Workshops represent the highest level of integrity when it comes to live pick-up. Spend an upwards of 30-35 hours with two 5 .
Realize that 90% of the women you see are not only open to having a sameday intimate connection. 3. and hoping for the exact same thing? Only in the movies? Think again. theApproach programs zero in and focus on each student to determine what your inherent personality traits are and develop them in the most attractive way possible. Their teaching methods are just as reﬁned as their skills with women. Introducing: theApproach StreetGameTM Oﬃcial Workshop Learn what it takes to enter the world of women’s fantasy. In addition. but we will improve your attitude and mindsets using interactive exercises which streamline your thought patterns.. in malls.2 theApproach StreetGameTM Oﬃcial Workshop Do you see beautiful women in the daytime. destroy negative thinking and eliminate self-imposed limitations.. Workshop groups are limited to a 3:1 student to instructor ratio. night after night. or even bookstores? Do you see them in train stations. coffee shops or anywhere for that matter? Would you like to have your pick of these same women for a romantic encounter? Did you know that these women are wanting.of the top recognized pickup gurus in the world. you will receive highly constructive feedback in order to address those things that are currently holding you back from your desired success. Workshops take place almost entirely in the ﬁeld with intensive real- 6 . and they continue to develop and systematize them further. Not only will we provide you with the neccessary tools for the tricky situations and challenges you will encounter. walking down the street. they are eagerly anticipating it! theApproach StreetGameTM Workshops are exclusive workshops aimed at the advanced level students who want to take their daytime pick-up skills to top level. wishing.
Grocery Stores. Youll get incredibly detailed feedback on your interactions. you youll get a massive amount of experience in one weekend. check out our Bootcamp program. Youll become more conﬁdent and achieve more success with women that weekend. Keep up on all the latest concepts and ideas or even get tailored advice to a speciﬁc situation. Phone coaching is completely personal. Busy Streets. and youll see each group of women which you engage becoming progressively more attracted to you than the last. all the ﬁeld work will take place in the venues YOU prefer. which will lead to more success in the future.time coaching and training. help is still available via theApproach Phone Coaching. and we can track your progress over the long term. Speak directly with either Vincent or Sebastian and get advice right before your important date.4 theApproach Phone Coaching Even if you can’t make it to one of our personalized workshops. learn all the newest techniques and even get speciﬁc exercises to stay on the path to mastery. which will in turn make you even more conﬁdent. Bookstores. Malls. Workshop students can even follow up their programs to stay sharp. 3. Phone coaching is completely personalized to the individual student. the ultimate in personalized attention. You can customize the bootcamp entirely to what you want. but youd like to do even MORE to improve your game.Train Stations are all fair game! 3. and we’ll never share your information with anyone. You can work on any area of your game for as long as you feel you need to. This is for the guys who are really serious about taking their game to the next level youll be working one-on-one with an instructor at all times. conﬁdential and secure. The bootcamp takes place almost entirely in-ﬁeld.3 theApproach BootcampTM Intensive Workshop If you theApproach Standard and StreetGame Workshops sound great. • Get Coaching to Attract that Special Girl 7 .
• Learn All the Latest Concepts and Techniques • Follow Up On Your Workshop Program to Stay Sharp • Take your Existing Game to the Next Level • Get Personalized Coaching Even If You Can’t Make A Workshop • Talk Directly with Vincent and Sebastian • Get Speciﬁc Exercises and Assignments Custom Tailored 3. We understand our clients are busy people with a lot going on in their lives. theApproach Personal Coaching is currently oﬀered in Boston or New York City.5 theApproach Personal Coaching Once oﬀered as an additional option to our workshop clients. Audio Programs and DVD’s from theApproach. 3. Spend a day with Vincent or Sebastian any time your schedule will allow. theApproach personal coaching is held to the same standard as our other workshop programs and has turned out some highly successful clients. get critiqued on your body language. or even get a fashion makeover. and is a great way to keep your skills sharp after taking a full program. Audio Programs and DVDs Expect a complete line of Ebooks. Brush up on your conversational skills. personal coaching is now available to the general public.6 Ebooks. Be sure to sign up for our newsletter list and stay current with not only our newest tips and techniques but also our important announcments! 8 .
while those ﬁrst three are critical for just about all parts of a good life. That’s it. Techniques are used as a way of emulating a person who truly believes he is attractive. The criticals. Those are things we aim to develop through our behaviors and actions.Part II Creating An Attractive Identity 4 Getting Started When it comes down to it. you will do the following three things.1 Five Things For Success In Life If you truly believe you are attractive. 3) Have fun. the next two are also very useful. 4) Stay open-minded. Now. 4. you’ll be able to achieve an incredible social and sex life. which are necessary for success in dating or any other area of your life. 2) Be conﬁdent. let me break them down a little. you can do anything. all of your success in attracting women is dependent on having both positive beliefs about yourself and proper execution of techniques. The essentials. If. and throw in a some advanced 9 . With those three. with the goal of eventually becoming a person who truly believes he is attractive. and just those three. Those are the ﬁrst three. after a solid base in those ﬁve things. 1) Like yourself. you’ll be on your way. 5) Learn. However. If you can manage those ﬁve things. you go out and start actively socializing.
and authorities often turn a blind eye to bullying. and 10 . Consider that. They’re constantly taught to seek validation. and are ostracized if they deviate from it.. Here in the U. and insecurities are played upon on a daily basis.discussion. Parents. In countries based around consumption. In short. You need to accept every part of yourself.. the most fashionable suit.S. I’m an American. the new soda that’s got a great taste while being very low in carbs. For all you emotional folk: Your whole life will be better and you will feel stronger and more alive if you like yourself. teachers. reasoning it oﬀ as ’kid stuﬀ. and people are told to be never satisﬁed. people are often put down. but at the same time. which is promptly mocked and satirized. 1) Like yourself: The root cause of everything good that can ever happen. but it’s an idea. a better razor. we’re given a double standard from birth. People are told they can’t be happy without stuﬀ. What do I mean by ’like yourself?’ It’s so simple. people are given a billion reasons not to like themselves. There’s a happy feel-good message of ’Everyone is a special and unique snowﬂake’ that’s said in elementary school. even the parts you don’t like (which doesn’t mean don’t try to change for the better!) For all you analytical folk: There is not a single advantage to disliking yourself. You need to like yourself as a person.. Here’s some random points I’m just going to throw out. Basics of self-esteem are taught throughout school and by parents. You’ll be happier with a faster car. but so diﬃcult. the idea of non-satiation rules supreme.’ The media constantly draws and redraws a fake norm that people should strive to achieve. Alright. It’s not allencompassing.
most people think they like themselves when asked. but you’ll know it. I really did believe it. I didn’t even realize I was doing it for so long. If you act conﬁdently. including good relationships with other people and good sex with beautiful women. and defeating them. so why 11 . With practice. but like and accept yourself. how to do that? There are many ways. many good things about myself. you’re the only you you’ve got. Now. I know I’ve got skills that I’ve honed to a precise degree and I can use them decisively. I used to say things like. one way is to realize that there is no reason not to like yourself. Strive for improvement. some of which are included in this guide.. ’Damn.. It’s critical. I move decisively. I hate myself. It precedes and precludes almost all good things in life. it’s about ﬁghting my fears when they come up.told not to decide for themselves. But more importantly. but after I’m trying my best. I could. What is conﬁdence for me? It’s knowing that I have lots of ability and inﬁnite potential. I screwed up again. but it’s convoluted. I know that anything I don’t know or can’t do..’ in my head. Most of it’s right. For me. I genuinely came to like myself. I’d say it so much without even recognizing it. Now you’re aware of some of what’s going on. Arguably the single most important interpersonal skill. 2) Be conﬁdent: The world is yours for the taking. don’t. it became sickening.. Conﬁdence. everything from business to family to relationships to (yes) pickup will go more smoothly. I know I’ll do the best job possible. I can’t tell you exactly what conﬁdence will be to you. I think people trying to explain conﬁdence is where a lot of the rhetoric out there came from. It’s about using my abilities as well as I can. with teaching. At the same time. and often can’t realize that they. but when I caught on. in fact. My breakthrough came when I realized there were many.
From the ﬁrst approach to full sexual intimacy. Aside from the fact that your time is valuable. Open-mindedness is considering and reconsidering anything and everything. It could be that you like the music of where you’re at. or you like self-improvement.. be conﬁdent. 4) Stay open-minded: Consider and reconsider everything. If you go out with a friend whos acting as your wingman. those are my ’primary three. or that you like going out with your friends that came with you. You’ve got to have fun socializing.. If you want to do bars. you’ll have enjoyed yourself. There is no failure: There is only success and learning. you’ve got to like him and like spending time with him. To truly be good at attracting and seducing women. decisively after I’ve picked the best course. Your results will be inﬁnitely better if you’re having fun.. This is as much a life skill as a pickup skill.. This is key to true success in anything. So remember: Like yourself. you’ve got to have fun doing the whole process. If you want to do work in nightclubs. you’ve got enjoy what you’re doing and spending time with women and people. you’ve got to enjoy bars. you should always 12 . So.doubt myself? I act quickly. 3) Have fun: If you’re not having fun doing something. you’ve got to have fun going out to nightclubs. Just have fun. and improvement in any of those three areas will translate to improvements EVERYWHERE else in your life. and have fun. This is because I know I have ability and inﬁnite potential.’ I think that those three mindsets are pretty much necessary for a truly happy life. Anyone can improve in those three areas. and no matter what happens. It doesn’t matter how or what’s fun about what you’re doing. or you like karaoke at the place you’re at. it doesn’t matter.
Kindness is not subservience or supplication. there’s two things I’m driving at. though. for me. learn from it. because it’s useful to you. Even fundamental beliefs of yours may change from time to time. When you do not achieve what you set out to achieve. I know about all sorts of little interesting things. I like to live and a promote a live-and-let-live philosophy. 5) Learn: Learn about anything and everything. On the whole.be willing to consider a new point of view or rethink an old one. which doesn’t mean you should allow people to walk all over you. so don’t get them confused. Note that I said ’whenever possible’. don’t be afraid to rethink them later. and can talk to them about it. to anyone. You can repair mistakes you’ve been making with practice and guidance. Try to 13 . Strive to be better and improve. Why not? When I say learn. and my life is better for it. The students who see the most dramatic changes in their lives as a result of our programs are the ones who came into the programs with the greatest commitment to learn everything they could. because I’ve got some unresolved views on tolerance myself. Be kind whenever possible. Learn things in general. regardless of who they are and what they do. I can relate to many. is actually unrelated to true kindness and tolerance. many diﬀerent people on diﬀerent levels. I’m not going to go on a feel-good. Be willing to rethink what kindness really is from time to time: It’s possible that some things the media raises you to think are good and kind acts. and even if you can’t accept some things at this time. learn as you do. I like learning about anything and everything. and come up with interesting conclusions. Secondly. I can think in diﬀerent ways about diﬀerent things. and will beneﬁt you in pickup and in other aspects of your life. and to solidify that knowledge by practicing it afterwards. politically correct trip right now. and I think it’s invaluable to me. Part of open-mindedness. is tolerance. like buying a woman dinner.
Whether these guys are also former students of ours. 5 Becoming More Attractive An attractive person does a lot of things: Some consciously. one of the best ways to ground your newfound pickup and dating skills in your reality is to hang out with other men who are good with women.. Attractiveness is inﬂuenced by a great deal of things. Those are my ﬁve ﬁrst things. some people believe that they could never be attractive: Which might be the craziest thing I’ve ever heard.think of creative solutions. Anyone can apply them successfully. • Explain how beliefs and thought processes aﬀect the snap evaluation. and base proﬁciency are required in all ﬁve of these skills to truly succeed in this endeavor. These alone can improve your life. After taking one of our programs. • Give some practical examples and advice on how to become more attractive. Work on them and your life will improve. In fact.Which can be downright confusing if you don’t know what that means. as will results in all skill-based endeavors. you will improve your life and your ability to pick up and date women. and ask for help when appropriate. and to be happy in all of your life. ’Realize you’re already attractive and you’ll be attractive’ . And then you hear things like.. if you go back and pick one of those and work actively on improving it. At any time. Here’s what I want to do in this section: • Deﬁne what attractiveness is. and that can cause a lot of confusion for some people on ’How to be attractive’. • Identify how people initially evaluate another’s attractiveness on a snap judgement. or guys who are naturally good at attracting women. Seek out sources that can aid you. many unconsciously. Anyone can grasp these concepts. 14 . they will continue to aid you and teach you as you continue to improve your skills.
emotion.5. One of my girlfriends said it best: ’If I was going to get married right now. by all accounts and measures. Arousing interest or pleasure. if a woman is ready to settle down. a man that is less willing to take large risks for potentially large rewards. healthy relationship (or having enjoyable casual encounters. I’d marry my last ex-boyfriend. I mean.1 What Is Atractive? Merriam-Webster gives two deﬁnitions: 1. a man who will stick around and be a father ﬁgure for her children. but I’m going to focus on what can cause sexual or romantic attraction. Having or relating to the power to attract.’ Now. Now we’re getting somewhere. He still wants to marry me. That doesn’t quite do it.. the ﬁrst interesting thing I’ll note from this: There are things that are not sexually or romantically attractive at all to women. For purposes of this book. that won’t help in building a good. and he’s yet to move on. her ex-boyfriend in California. or aesthetic sense. By that. That is.. a lot of things can be attractive on a lot of diﬀerent levels. Now. her boyfriend isn’t a very attractive guy. Let’s look at one of those deﬁnitions of attract: To draw by appeal to natural or excited interest. I’m referring to things that are attractive in a way that leads to sex and relationships. raising a family). My girlfriend lives on the East Coast. if that’s what you’re after) . and he recently oﬀered to ﬂy into Boston and get a hotel just to meet up 15 . but can be very attractive on a level to a woman with an agenda of getting married and settling it down. They’ve been broken up quite a while. settling down. she might look for a man who is very gentle and nurturing. My general deﬁnition of attractive is something that is desirable on some level. I’m going to deal with the kind of attraction that’s most relevant to dating and socializing: When I refer to something or someone as being attractive from this point on. yet these characteristics ARE attractive to women with a very speciﬁc preogative (such as getting married. 2. These qualities of stability aren’t universally attractive.
For physical beauty. as do scent and taste. or even the best way to get her in bed. but can be attractive in certain situations. If no other information about the guy is available. it does not necessarily make the holder of the wealth more attractive except to people with certain agendas. that’d be useful for establishing solid relationships and/or getting quality sex. but his loyalty (bordering on obsession with her) and his low-risk lifestyle would make him a pretty good husband. While wealth is rarely unattractive. it all starts with the senses. Money is attractive by itself to most people. anything I write about as being an attractive characteristic will be a trait that is desirable on an interpersonal level. The working deﬁnition of attractive for the rest of the post is something that is desirable on some level. it’s usually on what she sees with her eyes. the person needs to be seen or touched. She could marry many more attractive men than him. but few men that she’d feel so secure in his job and faithfulness. 5. and my gal’s nothing if not pragmatic. Hearing also matters. When a woman sees a man. That DOES NOT mean that throwing money around and spending it on these girls is building a solid relationship. she almost always makes a quick snap judgement about him.2 How Do People Know If Something Is Attractive? Of course. At 16 . objectively. Unless otherwise noted. a lot of behavior that’d turn oﬀ many girls would make a gold digger downright giddy. and sometimes on what she hears (if she hears him before or simultaneous with seeing him). That little aside there explains something major: There are many qualities that are not universally attractive.with her: And that’s after she’d told him she wouldn’t have sex with him ever again! He’s not particularly attractive. An attractive person is just a person with a lot of those traits. Another great example would be a female ’gold-digger’: Something very attractive to her would be mass amounts of wealth.
you can change a person’s initial perceptions of you with time. putting on clean clothes. within reason. and it’s a lot easier to go from (at least) a neutral initial impression to a positive one than it is to go from a negative initial impression to a positive one. as much as you can. ﬁguring out how many buttons on the top and bottom of a button-down shirt to unbutton. etc). styling your hair (even really quickly with your hands). cleaning your shoes (even if they’re sneakers or sandals). then get oﬀ the self-pity kick and make one small change. The fact is. putting on clothes that ﬁt your ﬁgure well.000 times more well-dressed. Any small. Seriously. try taking a 10 minute break to do even one small thing to up your appearance . ’I’m too unattractive to. and if you’re spending a lot of time reading articles on dating. don’t play into a victim mentality: If you ﬁnd yourself thinking. 17 . applying something like Chapstick or lip balm.’.that point. lots of other things. This is daunting to a lot of guys. in fact.it could give you a signiﬁcant edge. But the matter stands: People quickly size you up. You don’t need to do 30 things at once: One little change makes a little diﬀerence. turning your collar up or down as appropriate.. taking a shower... There’s probably at least a dozen little things you could do easily in the next week to become more physically attractive. yes. shaving or trimming / styling a beard or mustache.. adjusting your clothing and playing around to ﬁnd a cool style (including tucking or untucking shirt tails. check this out: You don’t need to completely overhaul yourself in one day. very little if any conscious thought has been made. And a quick note on dress: Just coordinating the clothes you already own can make you look 10. well. cutting your ﬁngernails. washing / cleaning your hands. Any one of: Doing your hair. within a few more seconds. positive adjustments are good. Whatever you do. and. and yet she’s made an immediate impression. many men do not want to hear this. buttoning or unbuttoning cuﬀs. Many. What’s that mean? Something we’ve all known for quite a while: Improve your physical appearance. washing your face.
don’t smell bad. It can be a plus to smell ’good’. if you’ve been waiting). Between the kind of ethnic foods that I like and regular salads. regardless of how nonchalant. I’ve laid out the base idea behind four of them. and I’ve notably not mentioned touch much so far. it’s nothing you should sweat. Smell is something that’s easy to cover. I eat a lot of onions. This is why socially learned people advocate having a strong tonality: Either naturally. I hope. the tone of your voice has huge impact on what you’re saying. either method will work perfectly. Thus. or pleasant smelling soap and shampoo. I’ll address what a good tonality is momentarily. You don’t want to taste poorly. I’m not going to talk about taste and smell for the rest of this article: Make sure you’re not bad in those departments.Physical appearance largely dominates the initial ﬁrst impression. As long as you don’t smell bad. and then forget about it. with either a good cologne or aftershave. maybe make a little eﬀort to smell good. you’ll be kissing the girl of your dreams. In this department. too. when I talk about how the information you’re giving oﬀ is processed (that’s when we’ll talk about body language. not because it isn’t huge. Before any of your words even register. many touches. and applied perfectly. but again. western world has done a strange thing with touching: They’ve made it often more of a big deal than it really is. and don’t sweat this. by being and feeling comfortable. can provoke conscious thought on her part. or by consciously focusing on it and adjusting it to its best level. Not a problem: A little fruit at the end of a meal goes a long way towards ﬁxing your breath. but because there’s not too much conscious eﬀort that we should or could put into it. Whether you want to provoke conscious thought with your touch or not in a given situa18 . And of course. you’re ﬁne. so I’m constantly battling that. but the modern. brush your teeth and take care in that department. but within moments. you’re in conversation with her. and breathmints are a good quick ﬁx. make a little eﬀort to be good. Either method can work. then get it oﬀ your mind. Of the ﬁve senses. Be assured that touch is a huge part of the equation. Taste: Eventually.
None of those are wrong. so he needs to ’sum it up’ for them. and based on his unique experiences. ’Making her feel good is attractive. Those are catchphrases that have some truth to them. The guys he’s sharing with weren’t there for every girl he’s interacted with. And this is where the confusion comes in: If a cool guy spends a lot of time socializing with women. But he’s saying that from the perspective he’s got.’ Not bad advice. he’ll have a lot of insights. • Things can be attractive in diﬀerent ways. I might hear. by and of themselves. the information from our senses is ﬁltered. his conception of ’being alpha’ and ’being a man’ 19 . knee-jerk reactions about whether a person is attractive or not come from our senses.’ And so on. from the places he’s been.’ I might hear: ’People want what they can’t have.3 Beliefs And Filters If I got together a bunch of guys and asked them. and has some relationships.tion is something worth a little thought. • The very ﬁrst. 5. but in a scene like this one.’ I might hear: ’Acting like a man is attractive. he needs to break them down in a way that they can be understood. from acting like he’s acted like with women all his life. After that. or right. If the man giving advice is a 35-year-old businessman in Italy.’ I might hear: ’An attractive guy doesn’t need her. This is where things get complicated. So he says something like: ’Be alpha. Not bad at all. What we’ve established so far: • Attractive is something that’s desirable on some level to someone. So if he wants to share them. we’re largely dealing with being attractive in a way that’s going to help our romantic and sex livses. and don’t have his frame of reference. ’What makes a woman attracted to a man?’ I’d get lots of diﬀerent answers. and that’s attractive. They’ll be pretty complicated. and we’ll get to it momentarily. but aren’t the whole picture. Be a man.
I’m repulsed when I hear about governments censoring their citizens. deeply hold the belief that I should be free to share my opinions and logically debate them with whomever would like to hear and debate with me.. but the guys that the 17 year old Canadian is going to look up to is going to be very diﬀerent from the Italian guy. feel physically repulsed at that idea. Like. you ﬁlter it through your beliefs. Can you see how it’d be diﬃcult to change your beliefs? To get to an idea. and that that is never wrong. literally. very unlikely I could ever come to that belief: Because to even think about that idea. almost everyone raised in that area had some deep. in many areas it was completely assumed as a fundamental truth that women stayed home and raised children. THEN you can consciously think about it. it has to go through my beliefs: And I.until you’re aware of the pattern. It goes like this: Sensory Input =⇒ Belief Filters =⇒ Conscious Thought You see something. very diﬀerent from a 17-year-old Canadian high school kid’s idea if ’being alpha’ and ’being a man’. In the 1950’s in America. let’s look beyond dating and sex: I. or smell it. Everything you perceive is ﬁltered through your beliefs. So let’s get to the heart of it: In every place I’ve been to.. or your beliefs are wired in a very good way as to allow you to make constant adjustments to them.. and men worked.. 20 . Some things are going to be the same. which you now are. If someone were to tell me that that’s the way the whole world should be run. underlying core beliefs that were similar. it’s largely true.is very. as crazy as it sounds in a diverse nation. So unless you come into something with an open mind.. myself. very. To illustrate the example. you wind up ﬁltering what you’re sensing through your beliefs. Telling a woman that being a ’working mother’ was an option for her would be as alien as telling a Manhattan woman today that she needs to get married and start having children by 20. or hear it. That’s just how it was. it can be very hard to change them. it’s very. for it to even become conscious thought.
But one thing I CAN tell you is that if you adjust your walk ever-so-slightly. largely by your upbringing and experiences. nor an exercise scientist. because the idea couldn’t even make it past their beliefs to be thought about. but just the way guys with larger arms move. After you consciously adjust your walk for a short while. The belief in what’s attractive is interesting. I have no idea why this is. If a woman (or man. but a well-muscled guy’s arms seem ’pushed out’ more than normal . It’s quite possible that they could never come to that belief. a bit diﬀerently than guys with smaller upper arms. far before I logically convince him of the (relatively) simple fact the he’s attractive. which is a good thing. then you’re walking like a guy who has ripped muscles. too) has a belief about what’s attractive. What does this mean? You need to recognize any negative beliefs you may have about yourself. Many times I’ll tell a student of mine that he’s attractive.4 Some Practical Advice Here’s an example: Guys that have large biceps and triceps move their arms. They’re ingrained in you. and aside from basic knowledge. they’ll often parse over little details if they see that piece of the equation. and at least isolate yourself from them long enough to consider the ideas.Another example would be telling a devout religious person that God does not exist. when they walk.not just in terms of muscle mass. I can’t really tell you how anatomy works. it’ll become natural and you’ll need no more conscious thought in that department. but they’re a lot more ﬂexible than you might imagine. The diﬀerence is very small. The arms thing is just a very. I’m not a biologist. Don’t let your beliefs stand in your own way. but the idea can’t make it through his beliefs without me making him recognize that his beliefs need changing. very small piece of an overall attractive 21 . I’ve observed the pattern and even felt it myself when I was lifting weights. 5.
and move like an attractive guy. can be a good thing while you get the hang of it. Even still. Something I’ve noticed: If an average-looking girl wears an attractive girl’s clothes. If you watch attractive guys. It’s interesting. This is true for tonality. myself. for a while. This is a good thing.presence. If you synthesize a good behavior and make it who you are. stand. Consciously manipulating your body language and movements slightly. it might not stick over a long course. and if she is. and style. calm. If every attractive guy a woman’s ever known has walked and talked a certain way. The emphasis on being cool. you’ll look more attractive. But more than anything. and comfortable: Being relaxed and knowing you’re attractive will make you have the body language of someone who is relaxed and attractive. and the 22 . And it’s cyclical. People’s ﬁlters react based on what they’ve seen already. the belief that you’re attractive will smooth things down and make you more cool. that’s great. on a casual glance. have written a couple articles you might check out on having a good walk. they’ll have similarities between them. But the fact stands: If you emulate a good behavior and that gets you in with one woman. smile. really. body language. you’ll be in with lots of women. wait. People who feel they’re of high value carry themselves with their shoulders broad and their head up. she’ll be attractive. an okay-looking guy walking and talking that way will appear attractive to her. If you walk. there are ways that are attractive. it gives you plenty of time to screen the girl if she’s compatible. While there isn’t ONE correct way to do any of these. almost universally. I. If you only ’turn your walk on’ when you’re out looking to meet women. and carries herself like an attractive girl. too: She’ll start getting more attention. that so much of the game is based around getting ﬁve minutes of a woman’s attention so that you can show her who you really are. you’ll have had plenty of time to attract her via more conscious processes that it won’t matter any more. sit.
And since she’ll feel more attractive. deep down. So. Then something just clicks on program and they start to really feel it. Filters: We all have instincts as to what’s attractive and not. most women at least exercise their free23 . she might let her societal ﬁlters override it. and start truly acting attractive. But someone’s ﬁlters can override that: Let’s say a woman from an upper-class family sees a man of a race other than her own.attention will be more positive. It’s a cool thing I get to see when I teach: Often prior to taking a program. if you don’t believe you are attractive. so she’ll feel more attractive. regardless of what the societal deﬁnition of attractive is. in the Western world. Learning to be attractive. you should know. ﬁnally. this is largely being done away with: Though racism is still around plenty. and then they REALLY believe it. Even if the guy is physically ﬁt with shows all other signs of health and strength. Then their success REALLY takes OFF! The beliefs a guy carries with him translates into how he acts. that you’re attractive. if you will. Faking can’t really work. she’ll carry herself well. Regardless of what you want to say. (Thankfully. Health is universally attractive on an instinctual level. Any woman he meets will assess him based on her beliefs. and they get that ﬁrst positive spark. This is true regardless of what the ﬁrst thing you like to say to a girl is. This could be any race of man and woman. Emulation is okay. a guy will have gone through a lot of frustration. what should they guy do? Should he try to act the way she’d ﬁnd attractive? Or should he just BE attractive and KNOW he’s attractive? I ﬁnd the second way much easier. Racist beliefs can be used as ﬁlters to ﬁlter guys out. though: If you believe you’re faking. The same is true of men. you won’t be. That knowledge alone will make you act like an attractive person. They worked hard.
A little eﬀort into your clothes can make you much more attractive..) That’s a simple example of a negative ﬁlter. He was wearing a white T-shirt one day. many cuts are going to make her look not so good. most ﬁlters can be used to your advantage. Anyway. a very small cut of cloth can make you look more attractive. That little thing can appeal to a mostly unconscious ﬁlter. many. I have no idea why women enjoy shopping so much. and he pointed something out to me: He showed me the sleeve on his T-shirt. and even though styles of clothing can look very similar. One cut of it is going to make her look elegant.dom to try dating outside their race a few times in their lives. have a girl you know try on a few diﬀerent cuts of the ’classic little black skirt’ at a department store. because he was right. say. But more important 24 . and I’ve got small shirts with big sleeves that make my arms look tiny. most ﬁlters aren’t as hard-line as the race one. He looked very toned.’ It was funny. He shared an interesting observation with me. ’Always try to get T-shirts that the sleeves are tight around your biceps. and many. If you need to prove this. like. and said. You know. I’ve got large T-shirts with small sleeves and I look ripped in them. but it was interesting to look at him: He was very toned and in shape. another is going to make her look hot. dress is a really simple thing to help you stand out and be represented as physically ﬁt. at the beach. but he’d look rather skinny in a baggy sweatshirt. The sleeves on your white cotton t-shirt can make the diﬀerence between you looking like you have biceps or not. a boat with oars and such? I’m not sure exactly how the sport works. with as diﬃcult as it must be for them. Instead. but didn’t have large muscles the way a bodybuilder would. I once had a friend who rowed. but thankfully. Arms Bulging On Sleeves = Muscles = Healthy = Attractive It’s why even though you look similar on most days.. and thus attractive. I remember.
This ties into the bodylanguage piece: By moving like someone with conﬁdent bodylanguage. But I wasn’t quite at that point in my life. I’m so conﬁdent in myself (belief) that I rarely get afraid of anything. I’m going to make a diﬀerentiation here: There’s conﬁdence as a belief. It’s knowing your value is high and you’re awesome. Conﬁdence in yourself. even if you’re just emulating it. Have you ever been cliﬀ-diving? It’s where you jump oﬀ a cliﬀ of some height into very deep water. Now.t han clothes are attitudes. It manifests itself in actions. and command attention. Even if you don’t have internal conﬁdence. you’ll appear to have internal conﬁdence (the belief). 25 . This is a conﬁdent action. and I wasn’t sweating it at all. I stand strong. can’t be seen by itself: But it translates into your actions. that’s ﬂuid and cool. Right now. and she thinks he IS conﬁdent. a woman sees a man walking like he’s conﬁdent. will translate into conﬁdence in your actions. Conﬁdence as a belief is conﬁdence in yourself and yourself and your abilities. A few more dives jumps later and I was totally conﬁdent. and. I had no conﬁdence in the action. the belief. I muttered a quick prayer and just jumped oﬀ. This makes me appear conﬁdent in my actions. Conﬁdence is attractive. and it reﬂects your internal conﬁdence. The action itself is a slightly exaggerated walk. There’s conﬁdence in actions. Conﬁdence in yourself. and the beliefs they come from. on a belief level. I’m so conﬁdent about where I’m going and where I’ve been in my life that I don’t even really fear death (at least in the abstract form. it might change depending on the situation). It’s very fun and a little dangerous. speak clearly. I’d have been completely conﬁdent jumping oﬀ that cliﬀ (literally). Had I been completely sure that I was invincible. The ﬁrst time I did it.
What I want to do is help people. perseverance for getting better. always be getting better in everything I do. you need to take it to the next level and ﬁnd the BELIEF that that action comes from. and make it one of YOUR beliefs. and. and I need to cultivate a strong.. BUT. The best thing you can do to help yourself reach a goal is ﬁnd a suitable belief. Me. 26 . walk.. as you grasp and REALLY REALLY believe your beliefs. and I want a woman for me to be loyal to me. and it’s good to take action right away. intelligent set of morals I can live by. As for what your beliefs should be. and be a good person by my standards. help myself. he becomes attractive to her. They’ll see the way I smile. It’s the same for any attractive action: You can pinpoint what the action is and do it. eat. In the meantime. I want my relationships with women to be with women who are everything a man can ask for. talk. shrug. I want to live a life that’s comfortable without being excessive. But to really become good at the game. reworking your beliefs can take a while. I want to be someone who is knowledgeable about many things. These little things will be seen when a person meets me. able to bring other people up.Thus. so you feel more attractive. you can work on emulating the behaviors someone with that belief would do. Just reading my list. What you want to do. I need to believe I’m attractive. that’s good. and so on. that’s up for you to decide. and in helping people. drink. The ﬁrst step is ﬁguring out two things: Who you want to be. worth knowing. you can start to create a cycle where you get more respect. Simply by walking attractive. can you see what beliefs I should start to develop? I want to develop open-mindedness for my knowledge. and so on. and I want to form relationships with people where we can enrich each other’s lives. able to speak with anyone.
guess what? You just did another behavior that attractive people do. That doesn’t mean try to pretend like you’re them: Instead. you’ll feel more attractive. So you could focus on your listening. and what’ll you do? I’m going to bet you’ll smile like you own whatever place you’re in. You’re well on your way to becoming attractive. you’re walking like a cool guy and you’re smiling like the guy that owns the place. and that’d make you a bit more sincere. 6 Body Language The main charactersistics you want your body language to have are: 1. Then you get more respect and more attention... No weird jerky movements. Put your intentions out in the open for all to see. many sincere people make eye contact. But as an example. If you walk like an attractive guy. start with one behavior they do. and then a cycle has begun. and watch as it sparks a cycle. Likewise. Modelling your behavior after the behaviors of people you want to be like can be helpful. As such. And in doing so. you’d feel more sincere. so you could try making eye contact more. you’ll get more respect from men and more attention from women. let’s say you want to be more sincere: What’s a quick thing many sincere people do? Listen.This article is about becoming more attractive. If you are relaxed and conﬁdent you will naturally take on certain nuances of body language. No hesitation. naturally. and the cycle continues. because you felt attractive. Relaxed and Slow. 2. And suddenly. As such. You will: 27 . Big and Open.
• Dont touch too early. When you are seated. It is an invitation for her to follow you into your comfortable reality. Of course there are also factors speciﬁc to the girl. You will have to set aside your ego to do this. Good posture is a sign of conﬁdence and is attractive to women. There are a few technical speciﬁcs to touching a woman. just lean back slightly onto it. or too late. Dont slouch. you want to avoid darting eyes and looking around the room. Some guys turn women oﬀ by touching them before the woman is comfortable with their touch. only of relaxation. or looking at the ﬂoor it signals that you are insecure. 28 . then she will. touch a woman in safe places. her arm. • Make steady. Of course. You can improve your looks tremendously just by improving your posture. You want to avoid hard eye contact. eventually you want to escalate to non-safe places. Look at her steadily are warmly. Leaning back is not incongruent with direct game because it is not a sign of disinterest. The same with when youre standing against something. but mainly it is your frame. or her hand. but a touch that you have to think about is better than no touching at all. err on the side of touching a woman too much rather than too little. just lean back slightly. This is part of the learning process learn from the experience. • Stand up straight. The proper time to touch a woman is largely determined by your frame. At ﬁrst. Similarly. Ideally. Bad posture is a sign of low self-esteem. but do this only after she is receptive to kino on safe places. because at ﬁrst your touches will often be rejected. on her back.• Lean back. if you do it with the conﬁdent expectation that she will enjoy the touch. Many more guys turn women oﬀ by not touching them at all. or staring. lean back in your chair. While you are learning. You want to make your touch slow and conﬁdent: No tentativeness. and eventually women will crave your touch. warm eye contact. Leaning back shows that you are relaxed and comfortable with yourself and with the girl and her group. a touch should be spontaneous and you should not think about it. and appearing asexual.
All the others will want to be like you. It cant just be a insincere little aﬃrmation you repeat three times before you talk to a woman you really have to believe it.’ You are an alpha male you set the social rules. and you should act accordingly. Attitudes take time to develop. This attitude should be your end goal in your journey of self-improvement. Our main focus in our programs is establishing these attitudes in our clients.• Be completely relaxed. and that every single person in the world likes you and wants to see you succeed. one hundred percent. ’Bbut what if other people see me talk to her?’ Who cares? Most of these people you are not ever going to see again. You should assume that you own the world. Dont be concerned about ’Following social rules. An alpha male does what he wants. Second of all. you should not see your approaching women as something you should be sneaky and ashamed about. 7 Attitudes Your attitude should be that of an alpha male. this shows that you are relaxed and comfortable. You are enriching the lives of every woman you approach. than she will be. so will conform to your rules. so why do you care what they think about you? And even if they are people who you do see again. not the other way around. you shouldnt be controlled by what they think. not what others think he should do. Too many guys think. so they can attract women regardless of what techniques they use. And most importantly for dating and seduction. First of all. This is ridiculous. This should be the attitude you strive towards. 29 . since you believe you are an attractive male. you should not care what other people think when they see you approaching. Like leaning back. but they are literally the key to everything with women. Assume that you will be successful in everything you do. assume that every girl who you talk to is attracted to you. If you really believe a woman is attracted to you. with no uptight or ﬁdgety movements.
For a woman in a loud club. Because you are so sure that you can command a womans attention. such as talking on a cell phone. guys who know sophisticated techniques will not have success with women because they dont have commanding presence women instantly write them oﬀ as losers.especially girls who are in diﬃcult logistical situations. dancing in a loud club. For a woman on a cell phone. Commanding presence is extremely important in pickup and dating. or techniques at all. ﬂashing lights. Commanding Presence is the ability to make people listen to and obey you because you project dominance and conﬁdence.8 Commanding Presence What is a commanding presence? First of all. you will command the attention and of women with increasing ease. tactics. You will notice as you improve your commanding presence that you can open women in situations which previously you thought were impossible. Many guys have problems opening girls on cold approaches . In order for a woman to stop and talk to you. to the point where you do not even consider the possibility that a normal. your presence will in 30 . So often. you need to be more commanding than the activity which she is engaged in. commanding presence has nothing to do with gimmicks. and other guys. your presence must be more commanding of her attention than shopping. They are not powerful enough to draw the woman away from whatever activity she was already engaged in. you must command her attention more than the person who she is talking to. they are unsure of whether or not people will listen to them and attach importance to what they say. They dont project dominance. People can pick up on this instantly. friendly woman would not give you her attention. This is because they lack commanding presence. For a woman shopping. you must command her attention more than the music. and are repelled by it. or even just walking in the other direction on the street. As you become more and more conﬁdent and dominant. without even listening to what they have to say.
If your tonality is not good. and look people straight in the eye. she wont stop. Make warm. lean back. If your tonality it is great. relax. tasteful clothes which give you a tight image and show that you treat yourself well. however. loudly and conﬁdently? • Improve your body language. timid voice? Or. image. are you saying it slowly. then she will sense that you really dont expect her to stop. and all the other things recommended in the body language section of this guide. do you conﬁdently believe that she will talk to you? If you do. you want to avoid overcompensating and dressing like a clown. including improving your body language. and that you dont think its worth spending time making yourself look the best that they can. and look down towards to ﬂoor? If so. which are taught in our workshops and bootcamps. and she will stop. tonality. Dont dress in a generic way. When you attempt to stop a woman and get her in a conversation. Are delivering your opener to stop her in a weak.turn become more and more commanding because of this. with bad posture. Thus. and will get a weird vibe from you. take up space. Here are some things you can do to improve your commanding presence: • Improve your tonality. friendly eye contact. Do you stand in a hunched over. This conveys that you think you are not attractive. then she will sense the conﬁdence and authority in your voice. most genuine. but also. You can also improve your beliefs directly through various exercise to reframe your experiences positively. Dont dress like someone who doesnt pay attention to their looks. If not. • Most important: Improve your beliefs. 9 Vocal Tonality Another very important factor which will make a man more attractive is his vocal tonality. opening lines are not going to work for you.. 31 . • Improve your image. even the smoothest. and by repeated successful experiences in social situations. Find cool. you can make anything seductive just by virtue of you saying it. Theres many things you can do to improve your beliefs.
Again. Your tone still should not be ridiculously high. Another important aspect of your voice is its pitch. you want to talk especially slowly. This is because if you talk overly deeply in a club. While your old. however. At ﬁrst it will seem ridiculous. women will be drawn in and entranced by your new. a too loud voice is seen as overcompensation. slow down the pace of your voice. Similarly. in a daytime situation you want your voice to be loud. you now want to work on the speed of your speech. In order to make your voice more attractive. With time. A well-projected voice lets everyone around you know you think what you have to say is important. Project your voice from your diaphragm. and nobody will be able to hear you. where youre competing with loud music. In the daytime. your tone should be slightly higher than in the daytime. So. conﬁdent and relaxed pace of speech. but a too quiet voice is easily ignored.First. He draws you in with his slow rhythm and mesmerizing deep voice. A high voice is viewed by women as weak and feminine. This is what you should be aiming for in quiet situations. You want to strike a balance between being loud enough to be clearly heard. err on the side of being too quiet. but most guys talk too fast. your voice will be drowned in the bass. loudly and powerfully. there is an optimum speed to be most seductive. relaxed pace of your voice. This is especially important in the nighttime. party atmosphere you want to talk slightly faster. In an intimate moment before a kiss. Think of the tone of a hypnotists voice. Most guys. In a high-energy. Once you have gotten into the habit or projecting your voice well. you need to project your voice loudly enough to be heard clearly. you want to make your voice deep and resonant. You want to convey complete relaxation and dominance. and not being overly loud. slow. deep and resonant. just a little high enough to be audible. you will become habituated to the new. however. fast-talking voice conveyed that you were hurried and uncomfortable. 32 . You should also calibrate the pace of your speech to the situation. In loud club situations. like you are talking in slow motion.
yes. No. conveying energy and playfulness.. 33 . In addition. But I don’t think that’s really what you care about. and give them feedback on their voice. you can bed plenty of beautiful women. and become even more loud. Who does? Hopefully you’re trying to work past the things you don’t like and become the best person you can be.. you want to make your voice slightly higher and faster. So when I get the question ’Can I get success even though I’m ?’ . ’young’.. captivating and fun tonality in the nighttime. You probably don’t like every single thing about yourself. I’ve seen guys of all races get nervous and wonder if they can succeed. and people in general. Something Very Important: The image you put forward has to be stronger than any negative stereotypes about you... we coach all our clients in-ﬁeld. We use tonality exercises in each one of our programs to achieve a seductive tonality in the daytime. Insert any of ’short’.In a loud club situation. ’fat’. This is a common problem. what you care about is bedding beautiful women and getting plenty of respect out of everyone you meet. Girls. Regardless of your height. ’old’.. and have very hot girlfriends. and the ways that they can improve on it. ’skinny’. ’tall’. also insert every race . But what if you’re short? What can be done about that? Well your height isn’t going to change. will see diﬀerent parts of who we are. and a well-projected. Read that again. I shake my head. 10 Image and Stereotypes We’re all a mix of many diﬀerent things.
I had a student ask an interesting question. If you’re short. And successful businessman and very cool and fun guy to socialize with. My image is not ’white’. And yet he asked me. He was a cool guy. ’I’m race. does she think. can I get race of woman?’ Just last weekend. If the ﬁrst thing a woman thought when she saw me was ’This guy is white’. 34 .and I told him of course he could. he’s a short guy’ when they meet you. ’He’s old’ ? No way! She thinks he’s a rockstar. Look at Hugh Hefner. decent looks. What does this mean to you? The image you put forward has to be stronger than any negative stereotypes about you. good style.The image you put forward has to be stronger than any negative stereotypes about you. A common question I get is. You don’t want to give oﬀ a ’short vibe’. When a 20-year old woman sees Mel Gibson. you don’t want people to think ’Wow. Hugh is a bazillion years old. ’Can I get white women even though I’m Asian?’ I was blown away . and seems fun and cool and successful. then I’d be in trouble. but his image is one of a certiﬁed. full-on playboy. even. Instead. you want to have some sort of powerful and positive image. I’d be superboring. but he had to have a stronger image than something generic. legitimate.
The thing is. This guy had women all over him . she didn’t think.’ She thought ’He’s powerful’ or ’He’s a gangster’ or ’He’s buﬀ. let’s compare two Chinese guys I knew. They called him ’the bull’. If you’re Caucasian in America.They’d buy into the stereotype that he’s asexual. ’He’s Asian. latin. dragon-tattooed guys. This works for and against some races that are stereotypical as being powerful and masculine. I knew a Chinese computer-programmer. One went to that gym. On the other hand.Think typical ’suburban guy’. But what if you’re not one of those? The sad reality is that some races have stereotypes attached to them in certain places. I used to work out at a gym that had guys that looked to be Triads in them. No joke. hot girlfriends and luxury cars and nice clothes and a ’Don’t mess with me’ look. shaved heads.black.’ As an example. I don’t have a suburban guy image. Caucasian is the majority in America. and of course Asian as well. He was about 5’5. any image is stronger than the fact you’re white. He had no image. 35 . Muscles upon muscles. When any woman looked at one of these guys. Whereas if you’re another race. so women would lump him into the category of ’asexual Asian guy’ . it might be a stronger image. very respectfully. but he was *jacked*. I called him ’el toro’ very. white. Ripped. Y’know. Here’s what you need: The image you put forward has to be stronger than any negative stereotypes about you. Chinese maﬁa. He had thick glasses and wore frumpled clothing and slouched over.
If you’re wondering. You can bet your last nickel that I didn’t want people to think ’American’ right oﬀ the bat. then think of if you put oﬀ a short vibe.because The image he put forward was not stronger than the negative stereotypes around him. everyone knew I was white.’ When women would ask where I was from. I wanted women to think ’Wow. That means I was doing something right . and the women bought right into that. what a stylish powerful guy. something. he started to ’get it’. He didn’t have a ’short vibe’.. he acted like a highrollin’ playboy type. ’Am I too short?’ . Think on that. But I’d keep a warm smile and a good vibe. I’ve been to parties where I was the only person in the room that didn’t speak ﬂuent Mandrin. I got to make a brief pass through France recently. I’m still American. or Creole. In fact. I’d tell them to guess. Cultivate an image for yourself. then people will pick something arbitrary about you and assume the stereotypes. ’Italy’. By the end of his program. but I wasn’t ’the white guy’.I didn’t put oﬀ the negative vibe associated with Americans in France. Hell. he didn’t identify with being a ’short guy’.. 36 . I’ve had students at short as 5’2.. I’ve been to parties where I was the only white person in the room. Tom Cruise is pretty short. the shortest student I’ve ever had slept with 3 women within 2 months of meeting with me. Everybody’s got something that’s unappealing to some group of women. I was getting a lot of ’Amsterdam’.. and yeah. You’re either young or old or too skinny or too fat or too short or too tall or. Thing was. he was picking up girls of various races normally. If you have a weak image. No.. But it wasn’t what I put forward. When I told this to my Asian student last weekend.. Spanish. and ’Russia’.
At best. but in order to make a real change. you need real-life experience in the ﬁeld. By learning the attitudes and behaviors in this article. race.They fade to black. height. you are given the tools you need which will give you an edge on all other guys. The internet can help. But. you will undoubtedly be well on your way. Youll hear two of the worlds best pick-up artists and dating masters teach you about the basics of body language. vibing. reports like this are only complements to our real-life programs. youll work with instructors Vincent and Sebastian in a small group setting. with her afterwards. and take your game to the next level. you need to master much more than this to escalate an interaction with a woman all the way to sex. Learning how to meet women eﬀectively is important. if you are not currently having any success with woman. You may even want personalized attention from real masters of pickup and dating. You may be asking yourself. In the classroom seminar. tonality. Such a change may seem drastic to you. exclusive or open. and all those other things you have no control over . information you read on the internet is not a complete solution. image and style. how you could ever possibly change into a truly attractive guy who can get any woman he wants? We believe in order to make such a change. and also to establish a good relationship. as they coach you through diﬃculties you are having in all stages of your interactions with women. At our Seminars and In-Field Workshops.If you have a solid image. which are essential 37 . And you get the girls you want. and it is. your age. and all the other topics mentioned above. 11 The Next Step This article is not a complete guide to pickup and dating it is only the beginning.
you will see we care about your success and will give you personalized attention every step of the way. http://www. Well even work with you on phone game. we will take you out into the ﬁeld and coach you interacting with women in real time. visit our website. feel free to drop us a line at our website. night after night. and years of frustration and loneliness from going home alone. Vincent DiCarlo and Sebastian Drake Founders. but also some brand new advanced concepts not found anywhere else. Yours Truly. If you have any questions. Well work with you on any component of the game where you need work. After weve supercharged your game in the seminar.the-approach. detailing not only our fundamental methods of generating attraction and escalation. You will still need motivation and hard work to achieve success. or holding an interesting conversation.net. kissing a girl. providing you with the skills to meet and attract women anywhere. be it opening. be sure to check out our soon to be released e-book.for attracting women. The groups are kept small as the student to instructor ratio is limited. and boost your game to the next level in one weekend. We wont just give you a bunch of techniques. If you check out our reviews. If youre interested in learning more about our programs. we change your core identity through working directly with your inner beliefs. anytime. theApproach 38 . You can beneﬁt instantly from our collective years of experience. The ﬁeld work will take place in both daytime and nighttime venues. but if you have them the skills that you learn in the workshop can save you literally years of crashing and burning with women. We will point out your mistakes and sticking points. number closing. and give you targeted feedback. Also.
I always remember back .. I came to the bootcamp with a completely open mind.’ -Chad of Austin. It was great and I learned so much. Highly recommended. I still correspond with them through email.. CA ’Yoooo Vince! Wasup big man! You wont believe..their former clients. I realized how easy it was to pick up girls who already had boyfriends or were married even .’ -Brian K. but the list is way too long! LOL Well as far as results. TX ’Sebastian and Vincent have completely diﬀerent styles from one another. and both get the same amazing results using theApproach framework and concepts.12 Testimonials ’I was literally trusting these guys with my life.his game is top-notch in all ways. If I did not do this I may or may not have gotten to the level of where I want to be. He knows all about the learning process. if nothing else. of San Fransisco. I dont think there is many things as valuable as this. I have on my todo list since the seminar to email you a testimonial. so that they can’t steal my girlfriend!’ -Tim S. It’s like you become a part of this exclusive secret society or something.one time watching Vincent. of New York City ’Sebastian is one of the best pick-up artists I’ve had the pleasure of meeting . Attached to this email are the pics in my car of the chick I met while we were ’in the 39 .I mean it was eﬀortless! Just knowing that these guys exist was enough to convince me to sign up. and I could not be happier. And there’s a whole underground network of guys they’ve trained in every city .. it will save me years of my time. the proof is in the pudding. we share secrets and all the latest tricks of the trade and so on. but if I ever did get there.
Their very smooth and subtle approach is well suited for older men. Like the pauses between the ﬂow of my words when I do seminars. Although both guys are in their twenties. They identify with me and understand all of my concerns. I took theApproach Bootcamp a few months ago and just recently did a one day refresher of personal coaching in Boston. The hardest part was making the time with my schedule to hook up with her.worked!’ -Raj of New York City ’I feel I am in a unique situation. I dont even sweat it. cause I have others in the pipeline waiting to meet me anyway. not just theory. Not only did the workshop help me in going after any female I desire in my path. I can’t say enough great things about Vincent and Sebastian. Now I have that buﬀer of ladies I can call on to hook up with. In addition. They actually pointed out many advantages we as older men have with younger women. in my humble but accurate opinion. and the conversation exercises when I meet prospects (for business and pleasure!).. For example.ﬁeld’ at the mall. you might not believe I pick up girls half my age. You can use anything I say in this email as my testimonial. who have a man. but still keep them as a bootycall. And Im amazed with how those couple lines you advised me to say to past exs. LOL. no other method has made me learn more than yours of making us actually do the work out in the ﬁeld in real life situations. young women love older men if they have class and sophistication. It took me the 2nd date to get in there.. since I am 45 years old and married. And if you saw me. I was blown away at how well their method works for someone like me. It truly is a wonderful feeling that when a girl cancels on me now. and is 40 . my wife loves the changes she has seen in me. but its made me more successful in business too. They also reminded me of all the positive things I have personality wise to oﬀer women. J so as u can see Im a happy camper. You guys are Hitch to the extreme! Forget reading books on this stuﬀ.
He asked me why any woman would be lucky to have me. Are you willing to change how you think?’ I was! The ﬁrst day. but you’ll never reach the highest levels with your attitude. I said she wouldn’t. He asked me if I liked myself. I was feeling better. He 41 . Are you willing to change?’ I said yes. but I was serious about improving. ’Chance hasn’t been easy on you. then told me: ’I can tell you’re serious about success. we started looking at which of my attitudes were good and which weren’t. I told Sebastian I wanted to practice all night before I saw him tomorrow.’ -Vlad G of Boston. I was determined to get better. Sebastian related his story to me. and living my dream of teaching people to do better things. I found it unbelieveable when he told me how he used to look and act. Do you want the truth?’ I did. he started going through Attitudes with me. I took a bootcamp with two additional days of personal coaching and it paid oﬀ huge. I can’t guarantee you’ll have the results I did. and it’s all golden. MA ’I’m really glad I took theApproach. I was a fat. He went on. Before I took the program. At the end of the ﬁrst day. Now. I said I didn’t. It wasn’t on me either and I’m here right now before you. ’I can teach you all the tech in the world. poorly dressed loser. Which made me happy and which didn’t. and told me how he once was worse oﬀ than me in a lot of ways. dating beautiful and amazing women. When I met Sebastian for my bootcamp. Sebastian taught me about the ’Lottery of Attitudes’ and how where we’re born and stuﬀ that happens when we’re very little shape most people’s entire lives. He taught me for a bit longer.convinced the program has strengthened our relationship.
I felt very comfortable with him the whole time and he made me feel really good. I went to the gym with him and lifted weights and broke up a big sweat. Sebastian reinforced some of the attitudes he’d already worked on with me. It hurt a lot but it felt good too. I was really happy with how I got dressed up and I was feeling really good in my new clothes. I showered and came to day 2 of the program. The next day. I got a new haircut and Vin brought in his girlfriend of the time who worked in the fashion industry to help me get the most cutting edge style and ﬁnd good bargains at the same time. taking me from beyond bad to looking really really sharp. I liked what I saw. Vincent TOTALLY changed up my style. but I felt good. and called a friend of his who is both a personal trainer and a former student. The next morning. Things were going well.told me to hold on and got on his cell phone. Sebastian asked if I wanted to work out in the morning. I met up with Vincent and we went shopping for clothes for me. I was pretty sore still from the gym. then handed the phone to me. I ﬂew through day 2. That night. and Sebastian said I was really talented for going at such a good pace. As we were wrapping up day 3 Vin got a call and answered it. I said goodbye to Vin’s girlfriend at mid-day and we worked all on conversational skills. I was a bit frustrated at this part of the program since there’s so many skills. 42 . then more ﬁeldwork. but Vin took good care of me and said it’s natural for it to take a while to seep in. I said hell yes. of course I do. I practiced solo and women were opening up to me. I went out with Sebastian’s trainer friend and we practiced after the program hours were over. then started into the basics of approaching and initiating conversation.
Things were coming together great. It was also cool to see how they worked together and got things going. style. He told me he’s happy to match the dedication level of the student and I was being very dedicated. I had learned how to approach and the execution behind good conversation. At this point. I learned a lot of advanced techniques but I was able to start doing a lot right away. qualifying. Well it was very cool having both guys. but I couldn’t help but go practice my developing skills in a bookstore. and Sebastian said he needed a nap. I called one of my female friends and she said I sounded totally diﬀerent 43 . Now it was time for the heavy stuﬀ. and attitudes. touching. cold reading. The got into screening. but a lot of times if Sebastian or he is free and in the same area. We broke from the gym a few hours before the program was going to start. and was doing much better. I met Sebastian before the program and we worked out together. I got her number when I had to leave for the start of the program! I met Sebastian and Vincent actually came along as well free of charge. It was pretty cool to have him do that for me. I had already improved my health. He went and got some sleep. We covered a wide range of subjects and then got out there. Vin had explained to me when I signed up that you can get 1:1 personal coaching time. I went in with Sebastian’s favorite opener on a girl in the cafe and we talked for two hours. and other skills. looked better. they’ll go two instructors to one student.He told me to get plenty of sleep that night and eat a good breakfast in the morning. I got to see a couply demonstrations with Sebastian or Vincent explaining what the other was doing in real time. I got four phone numbers and a kiss! Amazing! I felt better. After we broke.
not a chasing way. I used some of the storytelling and screening techniques I had learned and demonstrated my interest in a good way. I got a few more numbers and another kiss. Vin and Sebastian were both there again. I looked great in my new clothes. We did a little more ﬁeld work and things were going really well. I feel so much more happy and successful. Sebastian taught the basics of good sex. They covered miscellaneous skills. and they went over the full structure of a pickup together. she’s all yours. The program has been amazing to me. It’s been three weeks and I’ve slept with three women. answered all my remaining questions.’ I went in and started running my game. Vin taught relationship skills. I came to the last of day of my personal coaching program.. They did my ﬁnal debrief. The last day of my custom program. I got a gym membership and I’m doing full body workouts three times a week. I asked how and she said ’Totally alive. A lot of women in my life that were looking right past me and taking me for granted now are trying to get with me. I felt tired but energized.on the phone. I invited this beautiful beautiful blond girl back to my place for dinner and drinks. and I’m meeting so many more women. and gave me exercises to do to keep getting better. I was really sore but it was a good sore. I’m actually looking to settle down once I ﬁnd the right woman. I called the girl I met in the bookstore earlier that night. Things were so ﬂuid it was out of this world. then Sebastian saw a really hot blond chick as we were ready to break. At the end. Haha too late! 44 . I was sore and I felt like my movements might’ve been kind of jerky from lifting weights but it didn’t even matter.’ As per Sebastian’s recommendation. including the girl from the bookstore and the blond girl. but right now I’m going to have some fun before I do. He said ’Go. I moved a bit stiﬄy from the weights yesterday but it was all good..
I don’t know if everyone can have my results.I’m so glad I took theApproach and I can’t thank Vincent and Sebastian enough. it’s worth every penny. You are gods among men. MA 45 . amazing performance. but if everyone can get even 1/10th of what I did. Vincent. thank you.’ -Phil Anderson. empowering. Life-changing. motivating. Sebastian. Newton.
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