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1 Company Overview 2 What We Can Do For You 3 Our 3.1 3.2 3.3 3.4 3.5 3.6 II Programs theApproach StandardTM Oﬃcial Workshop . . theApproach StreetGameTM Oﬃcial Workshop theApproach BootcampTM Intensive Workshop theApproach Phone Coaching . . . . . . . . . theApproach Personal Coaching . . . . . . . . Ebooks, Audio Programs and DVDs . . . . . .
Creating An Attractive Identity
4 Getting Started 4.1 Five Things For Success In Life . . . . . . . . . . . . . 5 Becoming More Attractive 5.1 What Is Atractive? . . . . . . . . . . 5.2 How Do People Know If Something Is 5.3 Beliefs And Filters . . . . . . . . . . 5.4 Some Practical Advice . . . . . . . . 6 Body Language 7 Attitudes 8 Commanding Presence 9 Vocal Tonality 10 Image and Stereotypes 11 The Next Step . . . . . . . Attractive? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
theApproach: An Introduction By Dan Rose
1 Company Overview
theApproach is Vincent DiCarlo and Sebastian Dimitri Drake. Talk about masters. I’ve actually had the opportunity to spend some time learning from these guys in person. The things I have seen are unreal. Their methods of teaching are phenomenal, and their system is polished to a very high level of sophistication. They’ve spent years perfecting this discipline as both an art and science, and they’ve been teaching guys professionally for quite some time now. I will try and pass on some of their basic introductory topics to you right now. This book is not only meant to be an introduction to their concepts and techniques, but also as a prepatory guide for prospective students, so that they can maximize the learnings and improvements made on an actual live program. Vincent and Sebastian have written hundreds of articles on the topic of dating and seduction, and have given informal lectures in various cities around the world. Vincent is known in particular for systematizing and breaking down ’Natural Game’ and being able to transfer those qualities possessed by guys who are naturally good with women to his students. He was also the ﬁrst to break down and outline the exact process of how to develop spontaneity from scratch. He has just ﬁnished working out various intention maps which lay out all of the key moments that shape and deﬁne the future development of a given sexual relationship, and is currently teaching these exclusively at live theApproach programs. Sebastian is known for his highly social and playful approach to the
He is currently interested in something he calls The Array of Possibilities. Extremely satisﬁed and grateful. most of my friends had trou4 . I had been going out speciﬁcally to meet women a few nights a week. I wasn’t sure what to expect. When I ﬁrst joined theApproach team in late 2004. and is in the process of designing methods for tapping into ANY woman’s given ideal fantasy. Keep an eye out for his upcoming full length ebook! Sebastian has turned out an extremely high percentage of successful students.400% more than they were pre-workshop. This was an area of my life that I was working on very dilligently. is ’How do you want to use this material?’ 2 What We Can Do For You We change men’s lives for the better in a dramatic way. I knew they had an amazing track record with their students. and to be honest I was a bit skeptical.game and empowering his students with spectactular attitudes and beliefs. Boy. Part of my job is to keep in touch with ex-students and track their progress. It’s all possible. most are currently getting laid anywhere from 100% . Nothing too spectacular. and together they’ve got plenty of mindsets. The real question however. tips and techniques for every possible situation. seduction and dating. I mean. And I was doing alright. Seriously. I thought I was doing pretty good. Both Vincent and Sebastian are literal walking encyclopedias of everything related to pick-up. At the time. And they’ve also helped men ﬁnd the women of their dreams. and I really felt I had reached the limit of how much progress was possible. I was getting plenty of phone numbers. They have turned guys who were once shy virgins into complete playboys ’living the lifestyle’. and even had a few short ﬂings. And they produce results. was I wrong.
They gave me better ways of doing things. And everything changed. It’s genuinely a blast. And it was only the beginning. They made the impossible look easy. Spend an upwards of 30-35 hours with two 5 . Therefore both workshop and seminar space is limited. which allows you the greatest opportunity to get personalized attention and make major and paradigm-shifting changes and realizations. We witness tremendous change in our students. but I began to subconsciously absorb their attitudes and beliefs. 3 3. And then I saw Vincent and Sebastian. The seminars are designed to be highly personalized and interactive. The StandardTM has proven itself time and time again with the remarkable success of every client who completes the training. and it feels great helping others. seduction and dating instruction. Just watching them that ﬁrst day not only shattered my reality of what it truly means to be a ’pick-up artist’. Now I am part of the team. Seminars are taught exclusively by theApproach founders Vincent DiCarlo and Sebastian Drake. I’ve never had so much fun doing anything else. They started correcting my mistakes. And I got better. Carefree. theApproach live program consists of small-group classroom style seminars and in-ﬁeld workshops. They pointed out subtle behaviors of mine that were holding me back.ble even talking to women they didn’t know.1 Our Programs theApproach StandardTM Oﬃcial Workshop theApproach’s World-Class Small Group Workshops represent the highest level of integrity when it comes to live pick-up. Eﬀortless. MUCH better.
wishing. Introducing: theApproach StreetGameTM Oﬃcial Workshop Learn what it takes to enter the world of women’s fantasy. Workshops take place almost entirely in the ﬁeld with intensive real- 6 . night after night. coffee shops or anywhere for that matter? Would you like to have your pick of these same women for a romantic encounter? Did you know that these women are wanting. destroy negative thinking and eliminate self-imposed limitations. they are eagerly anticipating it! theApproach StreetGameTM Workshops are exclusive workshops aimed at the advanced level students who want to take their daytime pick-up skills to top level. or even bookstores? Do you see them in train stations. Workshop groups are limited to a 3:1 student to instructor ratio. Realize that 90% of the women you see are not only open to having a sameday intimate connection. but we will improve your attitude and mindsets using interactive exercises which streamline your thought patterns. Their teaching methods are just as reﬁned as their skills with women. walking down the street. In addition.of the top recognized pickup gurus in the world.. and hoping for the exact same thing? Only in the movies? Think again. Not only will we provide you with the neccessary tools for the tricky situations and challenges you will encounter. and they continue to develop and systematize them further. 3. you will receive highly constructive feedback in order to address those things that are currently holding you back from your desired success. in malls..2 theApproach StreetGameTM Oﬃcial Workshop Do you see beautiful women in the daytime. theApproach programs zero in and focus on each student to determine what your inherent personality traits are and develop them in the most attractive way possible.
3 theApproach BootcampTM Intensive Workshop If you theApproach Standard and StreetGame Workshops sound great. help is still available via theApproach Phone Coaching. all the ﬁeld work will take place in the venues YOU prefer. check out our Bootcamp program.time coaching and training. Malls. Keep up on all the latest concepts and ideas or even get tailored advice to a speciﬁc situation. you youll get a massive amount of experience in one weekend. Phone coaching is completely personalized to the individual student. which will in turn make you even more conﬁdent. which will lead to more success in the future. Bookstores. and we’ll never share your information with anyone. and we can track your progress over the long term. conﬁdential and secure. The bootcamp takes place almost entirely in-ﬁeld. You can work on any area of your game for as long as you feel you need to. Phone coaching is completely personal. Workshop students can even follow up their programs to stay sharp.Train Stations are all fair game! 3. This is for the guys who are really serious about taking their game to the next level youll be working one-on-one with an instructor at all times. Youll get incredibly detailed feedback on your interactions. You can customize the bootcamp entirely to what you want.4 theApproach Phone Coaching Even if you can’t make it to one of our personalized workshops. and youll see each group of women which you engage becoming progressively more attracted to you than the last. Speak directly with either Vincent or Sebastian and get advice right before your important date. 3. Busy Streets. the ultimate in personalized attention. but youd like to do even MORE to improve your game. • Get Coaching to Attract that Special Girl 7 . Youll become more conﬁdent and achieve more success with women that weekend. Grocery Stores. learn all the newest techniques and even get speciﬁc exercises to stay on the path to mastery.
We understand our clients are busy people with a lot going on in their lives. personal coaching is now available to the general public. Audio Programs and DVDs Expect a complete line of Ebooks. 3.5 theApproach Personal Coaching Once oﬀered as an additional option to our workshop clients. theApproach personal coaching is held to the same standard as our other workshop programs and has turned out some highly successful clients.6 Ebooks. Audio Programs and DVD’s from theApproach. get critiqued on your body language. and is a great way to keep your skills sharp after taking a full program. Be sure to sign up for our newsletter list and stay current with not only our newest tips and techniques but also our important announcments! 8 . Brush up on your conversational skills. Spend a day with Vincent or Sebastian any time your schedule will allow.• Learn All the Latest Concepts and Techniques • Follow Up On Your Workshop Program to Stay Sharp • Take your Existing Game to the Next Level • Get Personalized Coaching Even If You Can’t Make A Workshop • Talk Directly with Vincent and Sebastian • Get Speciﬁc Exercises and Assignments Custom Tailored 3. theApproach Personal Coaching is currently oﬀered in Boston or New York City. or even get a fashion makeover.
1 Five Things For Success In Life If you truly believe you are attractive. after a solid base in those ﬁve things. Now. the next two are also very useful. you’ll be able to achieve an incredible social and sex life. and throw in a some advanced 9 . 5) Learn. With those three. you can do anything. Those are things we aim to develop through our behaviors and actions. Techniques are used as a way of emulating a person who truly believes he is attractive. However. 4. Those are the ﬁrst three. you will do the following three things. you go out and start actively socializing. 1) Like yourself. If.Part II Creating An Attractive Identity 4 Getting Started When it comes down to it. The essentials. and just those three. 3) Have fun. The criticals. which are necessary for success in dating or any other area of your life. If you can manage those ﬁve things. you’ll be on your way. while those ﬁrst three are critical for just about all parts of a good life. all of your success in attracting women is dependent on having both positive beliefs about yourself and proper execution of techniques. let me break them down a little. 4) Stay open-minded. 2) Be conﬁdent. with the goal of eventually becoming a person who truly believes he is attractive. That’s it.
Alright. and people are told to be never satisﬁed. Here in the U. but so diﬃcult. but it’s an idea.’ The media constantly draws and redraws a fake norm that people should strive to achieve. Consider that. a better razor. which is promptly mocked and satirized. In countries based around consumption. For all you emotional folk: Your whole life will be better and you will feel stronger and more alive if you like yourself. 1) Like yourself: The root cause of everything good that can ever happen. the idea of non-satiation rules supreme. even the parts you don’t like (which doesn’t mean don’t try to change for the better!) For all you analytical folk: There is not a single advantage to disliking yourself. Parents. we’re given a double standard from birth. In short. Here’s some random points I’m just going to throw out. and authorities often turn a blind eye to bullying. They’re constantly taught to seek validation. You’ll be happier with a faster car. What do I mean by ’like yourself?’ It’s so simple. Basics of self-esteem are taught throughout school and by parents..discussion. reasoning it oﬀ as ’kid stuﬀ. people are often put down. the new soda that’s got a great taste while being very low in carbs. I’m an American. people are given a billion reasons not to like themselves.S. and are ostracized if they deviate from it. but at the same time. It’s not allencompassing. You need to like yourself as a person.. teachers. and insecurities are played upon on a daily basis.. You need to accept every part of yourself. People are told they can’t be happy without stuﬀ. There’s a happy feel-good message of ’Everyone is a special and unique snowﬂake’ that’s said in elementary school. the most fashionable suit. and 10 .
you’re the only you you’ve got. many good things about myself. everything from business to family to relationships to (yes) pickup will go more smoothly. but you’ll know it. I know I’ll do the best job possible. I know that anything I don’t know or can’t do. Conﬁdence. but it’s convoluted. It’s about using my abilities as well as I can.. I’d say it so much without even recognizing it. but like and accept yourself. I used to say things like. so why 11 . I hate myself. how to do that? There are many ways. For me. most people think they like themselves when asked. ’Damn. I can’t tell you exactly what conﬁdence will be to you. with teaching. Most of it’s right. I move decisively. in fact.. I really did believe it. Now you’re aware of some of what’s going on. It precedes and precludes almost all good things in life. but after I’m trying my best. I genuinely came to like myself. But more importantly. It’s critical. including good relationships with other people and good sex with beautiful women. but when I caught on.. one way is to realize that there is no reason not to like yourself. Now. I screwed up again. I know I’ve got skills that I’ve honed to a precise degree and I can use them decisively. I think people trying to explain conﬁdence is where a lot of the rhetoric out there came from. and often can’t realize that they. Strive for improvement. and defeating them. Arguably the single most important interpersonal skill. some of which are included in this guide. My breakthrough came when I realized there were many. it’s about ﬁghting my fears when they come up. don’t. 2) Be conﬁdent: The world is yours for the taking. What is conﬁdence for me? It’s knowing that I have lots of ability and inﬁnite potential. it became sickening. I didn’t even realize I was doing it for so long. If you act conﬁdently. At the same time.. I could.told not to decide for themselves.’ in my head. With practice.
Your results will be inﬁnitely better if you’re having fun. To truly be good at attracting and seducing women. you’ve got to have fun going out to nightclubs. you’ve got to like him and like spending time with him..’ I think that those three mindsets are pretty much necessary for a truly happy life. or that you like going out with your friends that came with you. be conﬁdent. you’ll have enjoyed yourself. you should always 12 . or you like self-improvement. those are my ’primary three. it doesn’t matter. Just have fun. 3) Have fun: If you’re not having fun doing something. From the ﬁrst approach to full sexual intimacy. you’ve got to have fun doing the whole process.. So. Open-mindedness is considering and reconsidering anything and everything. This is key to true success in anything. There is no failure: There is only success and learning. It doesn’t matter how or what’s fun about what you’re doing. and have fun. If you go out with a friend whos acting as your wingman. If you want to do work in nightclubs. It could be that you like the music of where you’re at. decisively after I’ve picked the best course. This is as much a life skill as a pickup skill.. So remember: Like yourself. you’ve got enjoy what you’re doing and spending time with women and people.. you’ve got to enjoy bars. and improvement in any of those three areas will translate to improvements EVERYWHERE else in your life. Aside from the fact that your time is valuable. You’ve got to have fun socializing. 4) Stay open-minded: Consider and reconsider everything.doubt myself? I act quickly. and no matter what happens. This is because I know I have ability and inﬁnite potential. Anyone can improve in those three areas. or you like karaoke at the place you’re at. If you want to do bars.
Try to 13 . and even if you can’t accept some things at this time. The students who see the most dramatic changes in their lives as a result of our programs are the ones who came into the programs with the greatest commitment to learn everything they could. though. I can think in diﬀerent ways about diﬀerent things. regardless of who they are and what they do. and come up with interesting conclusions. On the whole. which doesn’t mean you should allow people to walk all over you. Be kind whenever possible. Part of open-mindedness. Even fundamental beliefs of yours may change from time to time. Strive to be better and improve. Learn things in general. Why not? When I say learn.be willing to consider a new point of view or rethink an old one. is actually unrelated to true kindness and tolerance. and will beneﬁt you in pickup and in other aspects of your life. I like learning about anything and everything. I like to live and a promote a live-and-let-live philosophy. and my life is better for it. I’m not going to go on a feel-good. 5) Learn: Learn about anything and everything. because it’s useful to you. Secondly. so don’t get them confused. like buying a woman dinner. learn from it. When you do not achieve what you set out to achieve. Kindness is not subservience or supplication. because I’ve got some unresolved views on tolerance myself. to anyone. Be willing to rethink what kindness really is from time to time: It’s possible that some things the media raises you to think are good and kind acts. politically correct trip right now. learn as you do. and to solidify that knowledge by practicing it afterwards. and can talk to them about it. You can repair mistakes you’ve been making with practice and guidance. and I think it’s invaluable to me. is tolerance. don’t be afraid to rethink them later. I can relate to many. there’s two things I’m driving at. Note that I said ’whenever possible’. many diﬀerent people on diﬀerent levels. for me. I know about all sorts of little interesting things.
Anyone can apply them successfully.Which can be downright confusing if you don’t know what that means. or guys who are naturally good at attracting women. 5 Becoming More Attractive An attractive person does a lot of things: Some consciously. many unconsciously. one of the best ways to ground your newfound pickup and dating skills in your reality is to hang out with other men who are good with women. Whether these guys are also former students of ours. • Explain how beliefs and thought processes aﬀect the snap evaluation. Seek out sources that can aid you.. and to be happy in all of your life. Work on them and your life will improve.. some people believe that they could never be attractive: Which might be the craziest thing I’ve ever heard.think of creative solutions. Those are my ﬁve ﬁrst things. and base proﬁciency are required in all ﬁve of these skills to truly succeed in this endeavor. And then you hear things like. Attractiveness is inﬂuenced by a great deal of things. Here’s what I want to do in this section: • Deﬁne what attractiveness is. • Give some practical examples and advice on how to become more attractive. ’Realize you’re already attractive and you’ll be attractive’ . In fact. and that can cause a lot of confusion for some people on ’How to be attractive’. • Identify how people initially evaluate another’s attractiveness on a snap judgement. they will continue to aid you and teach you as you continue to improve your skills. After taking one of our programs. Anyone can grasp these concepts. you will improve your life and your ability to pick up and date women. as will results in all skill-based endeavors. and ask for help when appropriate. 14 . At any time. if you go back and pick one of those and work actively on improving it. These alone can improve your life.
if that’s what you’re after) . a man who will stick around and be a father ﬁgure for her children. the ﬁrst interesting thing I’ll note from this: There are things that are not sexually or romantically attractive at all to women. her boyfriend isn’t a very attractive guy. she might look for a man who is very gentle and nurturing. That is.’ Now. healthy relationship (or having enjoyable casual encounters. and he recently oﬀered to ﬂy into Boston and get a hotel just to meet up 15 . but I’m going to focus on what can cause sexual or romantic attraction. but can be very attractive on a level to a woman with an agenda of getting married and settling it down. They’ve been broken up quite a while. Let’s look at one of those deﬁnitions of attract: To draw by appeal to natural or excited interest. if a woman is ready to settle down.. These qualities of stability aren’t universally attractive. or aesthetic sense. yet these characteristics ARE attractive to women with a very speciﬁc preogative (such as getting married. 2. her ex-boyfriend in California. My girlfriend lives on the East Coast. He still wants to marry me. I’m referring to things that are attractive in a way that leads to sex and relationships. That doesn’t quite do it. Arousing interest or pleasure. and he’s yet to move on. emotion. For purposes of this book. My general deﬁnition of attractive is something that is desirable on some level. a man that is less willing to take large risks for potentially large rewards. Having or relating to the power to attract. I’d marry my last ex-boyfriend. raising a family). I’m going to deal with the kind of attraction that’s most relevant to dating and socializing: When I refer to something or someone as being attractive from this point on. that won’t help in building a good.5. by all accounts and measures. By that. Now. One of my girlfriends said it best: ’If I was going to get married right now. a lot of things can be attractive on a lot of diﬀerent levels.1 What Is Atractive? Merriam-Webster gives two deﬁnitions: 1. I mean.. settling down. Now we’re getting somewhere.
and my gal’s nothing if not pragmatic. or even the best way to get her in bed. 5. it all starts with the senses. An attractive person is just a person with a lot of those traits. The working deﬁnition of attractive for the rest of the post is something that is desirable on some level. and sometimes on what she hears (if she hears him before or simultaneous with seeing him).2 How Do People Know If Something Is Attractive? Of course. While wealth is rarely unattractive. At 16 . Another great example would be a female ’gold-digger’: Something very attractive to her would be mass amounts of wealth. that’d be useful for establishing solid relationships and/or getting quality sex. When a woman sees a man. but can be attractive in certain situations. she almost always makes a quick snap judgement about him. If no other information about the guy is available. it’s usually on what she sees with her eyes. That little aside there explains something major: There are many qualities that are not universally attractive. For physical beauty. She could marry many more attractive men than him. Unless otherwise noted. but his loyalty (bordering on obsession with her) and his low-risk lifestyle would make him a pretty good husband.with her: And that’s after she’d told him she wouldn’t have sex with him ever again! He’s not particularly attractive. a lot of behavior that’d turn oﬀ many girls would make a gold digger downright giddy. as do scent and taste. objectively. Hearing also matters. That DOES NOT mean that throwing money around and spending it on these girls is building a solid relationship. but few men that she’d feel so secure in his job and faithfulness. the person needs to be seen or touched. Money is attractive by itself to most people. anything I write about as being an attractive characteristic will be a trait that is desirable on an interpersonal level. it does not necessarily make the holder of the wealth more attractive except to people with certain agendas.
Seriously. What’s that mean? Something we’ve all known for quite a while: Improve your physical appearance. The fact is.. You don’t need to do 30 things at once: One little change makes a little diﬀerence. and it’s a lot easier to go from (at least) a neutral initial impression to a positive one than it is to go from a negative initial impression to a positive one. adjusting your clothing and playing around to ﬁnd a cool style (including tucking or untucking shirt tails. within a few more seconds. taking a shower.. turning your collar up or down as appropriate. washing your face. There’s probably at least a dozen little things you could do easily in the next week to become more physically attractive. And a quick note on dress: Just coordinating the clothes you already own can make you look 10. Any small. etc). This is daunting to a lot of guys.it could give you a signiﬁcant edge. within reason. buttoning or unbuttoning cuﬀs. ’I’m too unattractive to. 17 .that point. you can change a person’s initial perceptions of you with time. very little if any conscious thought has been made. and. yes. ﬁguring out how many buttons on the top and bottom of a button-down shirt to unbutton. positive adjustments are good. styling your hair (even really quickly with your hands). many men do not want to hear this. Whatever you do. cleaning your shoes (even if they’re sneakers or sandals). washing / cleaning your hands.’. cutting your ﬁngernails. Many. well. But the matter stands: People quickly size you up. applying something like Chapstick or lip balm. putting on clean clothes. in fact. putting on clothes that ﬁt your ﬁgure well. try taking a 10 minute break to do even one small thing to up your appearance . lots of other things. shaving or trimming / styling a beard or mustache. then get oﬀ the self-pity kick and make one small change.. and yet she’s made an immediate impression.000 times more well-dressed. as much as you can. check this out: You don’t need to completely overhaul yourself in one day.. and if you’re spending a lot of time reading articles on dating. Any one of: Doing your hair. don’t play into a victim mentality: If you ﬁnd yourself thinking.
I’ll address what a good tonality is momentarily. I hope. Whether you want to provoke conscious thought with your touch or not in a given situa18 . so I’m constantly battling that. you’ll be kissing the girl of your dreams. and breathmints are a good quick ﬁx. you’re ﬁne. or by consciously focusing on it and adjusting it to its best level. Taste: Eventually. and then forget about it. can provoke conscious thought on her part. the tone of your voice has huge impact on what you’re saying. don’t smell bad. but because there’s not too much conscious eﬀort that we should or could put into it. regardless of how nonchalant. if you’ve been waiting). In this department. either method will work perfectly. by being and feeling comfortable. Of the ﬁve senses. You don’t want to taste poorly. I’m not going to talk about taste and smell for the rest of this article: Make sure you’re not bad in those departments. you’re in conversation with her. or pleasant smelling soap and shampoo. then get it oﬀ your mind. with either a good cologne or aftershave. Not a problem: A little fruit at the end of a meal goes a long way towards ﬁxing your breath. brush your teeth and take care in that department. too. make a little eﬀort to be good. but within moments. Be assured that touch is a huge part of the equation. Before any of your words even register. Thus. western world has done a strange thing with touching: They’ve made it often more of a big deal than it really is. And of course. I’ve laid out the base idea behind four of them. it’s nothing you should sweat. This is why socially learned people advocate having a strong tonality: Either naturally. and I’ve notably not mentioned touch much so far. and don’t sweat this. and applied perfectly. As long as you don’t smell bad.Physical appearance largely dominates the initial ﬁrst impression. when I talk about how the information you’re giving oﬀ is processed (that’s when we’ll talk about body language. not because it isn’t huge. many touches. but again. but the modern. I eat a lot of onions. Between the kind of ethnic foods that I like and regular salads. It can be a plus to smell ’good’. maybe make a little eﬀort to smell good. Either method can work. Smell is something that’s easy to cover.
3 Beliefs And Filters If I got together a bunch of guys and asked them. After that. The guys he’s sharing with weren’t there for every girl he’s interacted with. he needs to break them down in a way that they can be understood. They’ll be pretty complicated. or right. and don’t have his frame of reference. and based on his unique experiences. he’ll have a lot of insights. This is where things get complicated. his conception of ’being alpha’ and ’being a man’ 19 . from acting like he’s acted like with women all his life.’ And so on. • The very ﬁrst. And this is where the confusion comes in: If a cool guy spends a lot of time socializing with women. But he’s saying that from the perspective he’s got. Those are catchphrases that have some truth to them. ’What makes a woman attracted to a man?’ I’d get lots of diﬀerent answers. and that’s attractive. the information from our senses is ﬁltered. What we’ve established so far: • Attractive is something that’s desirable on some level to someone. So if he wants to share them.tion is something worth a little thought. Not bad at all. If the man giving advice is a 35-year-old businessman in Italy. but aren’t the whole picture. so he needs to ’sum it up’ for them. we’re largely dealing with being attractive in a way that’s going to help our romantic and sex livses.’ I might hear: ’Acting like a man is attractive. 5. None of those are wrong. knee-jerk reactions about whether a person is attractive or not come from our senses. • Things can be attractive in diﬀerent ways.’ I might hear: ’People want what they can’t have. but in a scene like this one. by and of themselves.’ I might hear: ’An attractive guy doesn’t need her. and has some relationships.’ Not bad advice. from the places he’s been. and we’ll get to it momentarily. I might hear. ’Making her feel good is attractive. So he says something like: ’Be alpha. Be a man.
. which you now are. or hear it. Everything you perceive is ﬁltered through your beliefs. literally. as crazy as it sounds in a diverse nation. very. 20 . Some things are going to be the same.. Like.. in many areas it was completely assumed as a fundamental truth that women stayed home and raised children. So unless you come into something with an open mind. myself. or smell it. let’s look beyond dating and sex: I. underlying core beliefs that were similar.. very diﬀerent from a 17-year-old Canadian high school kid’s idea if ’being alpha’ and ’being a man’. it’s very. THEN you can consciously think about it. Can you see how it’d be diﬃcult to change your beliefs? To get to an idea.. or your beliefs are wired in a very good way as to allow you to make constant adjustments to them. it’s largely true. I’m repulsed when I hear about governments censoring their citizens. for it to even become conscious thought. but the guys that the 17 year old Canadian is going to look up to is going to be very diﬀerent from the Italian guy. it can be very hard to change them. it has to go through my beliefs: And I. feel physically repulsed at that idea. If someone were to tell me that that’s the way the whole world should be run. almost everyone raised in that area had some deep. To illustrate the example. very unlikely I could ever come to that belief: Because to even think about that idea. It goes like this: Sensory Input =⇒ Belief Filters =⇒ Conscious Thought You see something. So let’s get to the heart of it: In every place I’ve been to. In the 1950’s in America. and men worked. you wind up ﬁltering what you’re sensing through your beliefs.until you’re aware of the pattern. you ﬁlter it through your beliefs.is very. deeply hold the belief that I should be free to share my opinions and logically debate them with whomever would like to hear and debate with me. and that that is never wrong. That’s just how it was. Telling a woman that being a ’working mother’ was an option for her would be as alien as telling a Manhattan woman today that she needs to get married and start having children by 20.
The arms thing is just a very. very small piece of an overall attractive 21 . After you consciously adjust your walk for a short while. largely by your upbringing and experiences. too) has a belief about what’s attractive. and aside from basic knowledge. but they’re a lot more ﬂexible than you might imagine. nor an exercise scientist. I can’t really tell you how anatomy works. far before I logically convince him of the (relatively) simple fact the he’s attractive. I’m not a biologist. If a woman (or man. a bit diﬀerently than guys with smaller upper arms.Another example would be telling a devout religious person that God does not exist. but the idea can’t make it through his beliefs without me making him recognize that his beliefs need changing. which is a good thing.4 Some Practical Advice Here’s an example: Guys that have large biceps and triceps move their arms. But one thing I CAN tell you is that if you adjust your walk ever-so-slightly. What does this mean? You need to recognize any negative beliefs you may have about yourself. but just the way guys with larger arms move. but a well-muscled guy’s arms seem ’pushed out’ more than normal . I’ve observed the pattern and even felt it myself when I was lifting weights. The diﬀerence is very small.not just in terms of muscle mass. Don’t let your beliefs stand in your own way. and at least isolate yourself from them long enough to consider the ideas. I have no idea why this is. they’ll often parse over little details if they see that piece of the equation. when they walk. The belief in what’s attractive is interesting. 5. Many times I’ll tell a student of mine that he’s attractive. it’ll become natural and you’ll need no more conscious thought in that department. It’s quite possible that they could never come to that belief. because the idea couldn’t even make it past their beliefs to be thought about. then you’re walking like a guy who has ripped muscles. They’re ingrained in you.
it gives you plenty of time to screen the girl if she’s compatible. wait. stand. People’s ﬁlters react based on what they’ve seen already. It’s interesting. But more than anything. Consciously manipulating your body language and movements slightly. If every attractive guy a woman’s ever known has walked and talked a certain way. smile. the belief that you’re attractive will smooth things down and make you more cool. you’ll be in with lots of women.presence. and if she is. really. But the fact stands: If you emulate a good behavior and that gets you in with one woman. that’s great. they’ll have similarities between them. can be a good thing while you get the hang of it. have written a couple articles you might check out on having a good walk. that so much of the game is based around getting ﬁve minutes of a woman’s attention so that you can show her who you really are. If you watch attractive guys. This is true for tonality. And it’s cyclical. sit. and move like an attractive guy. you’ll look more attractive. myself. If you only ’turn your walk on’ when you’re out looking to meet women. she’ll be attractive. If you synthesize a good behavior and make it who you are. While there isn’t ONE correct way to do any of these. This is a good thing. you’ll have had plenty of time to attract her via more conscious processes that it won’t matter any more. and comfortable: Being relaxed and knowing you’re attractive will make you have the body language of someone who is relaxed and attractive. almost universally. on a casual glance. it might not stick over a long course. Even still. and carries herself like an attractive girl. calm. If you walk. The emphasis on being cool. and style. an okay-looking guy walking and talking that way will appear attractive to her. I. body language. Something I’ve noticed: If an average-looking girl wears an attractive girl’s clothes. there are ways that are attractive. too: She’ll start getting more attention. and the 22 . for a while. People who feel they’re of high value carry themselves with their shoulders broad and their head up.
regardless of what the societal deﬁnition of attractive is. so she’ll feel more attractive. This is true regardless of what the ﬁrst thing you like to say to a girl is. and start truly acting attractive. what should they guy do? Should he try to act the way she’d ﬁnd attractive? Or should he just BE attractive and KNOW he’s attractive? I ﬁnd the second way much easier. Learning to be attractive. most women at least exercise their free23 . that you’re attractive. in the Western world. This could be any race of man and woman. if you will. Faking can’t really work. And since she’ll feel more attractive. Regardless of what you want to say. Any woman he meets will assess him based on her beliefs. That knowledge alone will make you act like an attractive person. Health is universally attractive on an instinctual level. and then they REALLY believe it. Then their success REALLY takes OFF! The beliefs a guy carries with him translates into how he acts. a guy will have gone through a lot of frustration. she might let her societal ﬁlters override it.attention will be more positive. this is largely being done away with: Though racism is still around plenty. you won’t be. Racist beliefs can be used as ﬁlters to ﬁlter guys out. Then something just clicks on program and they start to really feel it. ﬁnally. you should know. if you don’t believe you are attractive. Filters: We all have instincts as to what’s attractive and not. and they get that ﬁrst positive spark. Even if the guy is physically ﬁt with shows all other signs of health and strength. But someone’s ﬁlters can override that: Let’s say a woman from an upper-class family sees a man of a race other than her own. It’s a cool thing I get to see when I teach: Often prior to taking a program. So. They worked hard. she’ll carry herself well. though: If you believe you’re faking. The same is true of men. Emulation is okay. (Thankfully. deep down.
and many. The sleeves on your white cotton t-shirt can make the diﬀerence between you looking like you have biceps or not. most ﬁlters aren’t as hard-line as the race one. and even though styles of clothing can look very similar. and I’ve got small shirts with big sleeves that make my arms look tiny. but he’d look rather skinny in a baggy sweatshirt. a boat with oars and such? I’m not sure exactly how the sport works. He shared an interesting observation with me. But more important 24 . many cuts are going to make her look not so good. many. like. because he was right.) That’s a simple example of a negative ﬁlter. dress is a really simple thing to help you stand out and be represented as physically ﬁt. Instead. at the beach. and thus attractive. That little thing can appeal to a mostly unconscious ﬁlter. If you need to prove this.. Arms Bulging On Sleeves = Muscles = Healthy = Attractive It’s why even though you look similar on most days. and said. but didn’t have large muscles the way a bodybuilder would. most ﬁlters can be used to your advantage.. say. You know. ’Always try to get T-shirts that the sleeves are tight around your biceps. but thankfully. have a girl you know try on a few diﬀerent cuts of the ’classic little black skirt’ at a department store. I have no idea why women enjoy shopping so much. Anyway. a very small cut of cloth can make you look more attractive. He was wearing a white T-shirt one day. and he pointed something out to me: He showed me the sleeve on his T-shirt.dom to try dating outside their race a few times in their lives. He looked very toned.’ It was funny. One cut of it is going to make her look elegant. I’ve got large T-shirts with small sleeves and I look ripped in them. but it was interesting to look at him: He was very toned and in shape. I remember. I once had a friend who rowed. A little eﬀort into your clothes can make you much more attractive. with as diﬃcult as it must be for them. another is going to make her look hot.
Had I been completely sure that I was invincible. There’s conﬁdence in actions. and the beliefs they come from. on a belief level. This makes me appear conﬁdent in my actions. even if you’re just emulating it. It’s very fun and a little dangerous. I had no conﬁdence in the action. I’m going to make a diﬀerentiation here: There’s conﬁdence as a belief. The action itself is a slightly exaggerated walk. Even if you don’t have internal conﬁdence. speak clearly. and command attention. and it reﬂects your internal conﬁdence. I’m so conﬁdent about where I’m going and where I’ve been in my life that I don’t even really fear death (at least in the abstract form. will translate into conﬁdence in your actions. Right now. I’d have been completely conﬁdent jumping oﬀ that cliﬀ (literally). I stand strong. A few more dives jumps later and I was totally conﬁdent. a woman sees a man walking like he’s conﬁdent. Conﬁdence as a belief is conﬁdence in yourself and yourself and your abilities. Now. 25 . Conﬁdence is attractive. and she thinks he IS conﬁdent. it might change depending on the situation). you’ll appear to have internal conﬁdence (the belief). This ties into the bodylanguage piece: By moving like someone with conﬁdent bodylanguage. It manifests itself in actions. Conﬁdence in yourself. that’s ﬂuid and cool. the belief. It’s knowing your value is high and you’re awesome. This is a conﬁdent action. I’m so conﬁdent in myself (belief) that I rarely get afraid of anything. and. I muttered a quick prayer and just jumped oﬀ. can’t be seen by itself: But it translates into your actions. Conﬁdence in yourself. The ﬁrst time I did it. Have you ever been cliﬀ-diving? It’s where you jump oﬀ a cliﬀ of some height into very deep water.t han clothes are attitudes. But I wasn’t quite at that point in my life. and I wasn’t sweating it at all.
drink. that’s good. and I need to cultivate a strong. reworking your beliefs can take a while. you can start to create a cycle where you get more respect. can you see what beliefs I should start to develop? I want to develop open-mindedness for my knowledge. I need to believe I’m attractive. I want to live a life that’s comfortable without being excessive. 26 .. help myself. and so on. perseverance for getting better. he becomes attractive to her. and be a good person by my standards. What you want to do. and it’s good to take action right away. It’s the same for any attractive action: You can pinpoint what the action is and do it. able to speak with anyone. These little things will be seen when a person meets me. you can work on emulating the behaviors someone with that belief would do. as you grasp and REALLY REALLY believe your beliefs. eat.. always be getting better in everything I do. walk. The ﬁrst step is ﬁguring out two things: Who you want to be. talk. As for what your beliefs should be. and I want a woman for me to be loyal to me. and I want to form relationships with people where we can enrich each other’s lives. What I want to do is help people. shrug. and in helping people. I want to be someone who is knowledgeable about many things. They’ll see the way I smile. you need to take it to the next level and ﬁnd the BELIEF that that action comes from.Thus. worth knowing. able to bring other people up. But to really become good at the game. BUT. and so on. Me. intelligent set of morals I can live by. and make it one of YOUR beliefs. In the meantime. I want my relationships with women to be with women who are everything a man can ask for. Just reading my list. so you feel more attractive. and. that’s up for you to decide. The best thing you can do to help yourself reach a goal is ﬁnd a suitable belief. Simply by walking attractive.
many sincere people make eye contact. you’re walking like a cool guy and you’re smiling like the guy that owns the place. But as an example. and then a cycle has begun. So you could focus on your listening. 2. You’re well on your way to becoming attractive. You will: 27 . and the cycle continues. you’ll feel more attractive. Then you get more respect and more attention. And in doing so. If you walk like an attractive guy. Likewise. And suddenly. let’s say you want to be more sincere: What’s a quick thing many sincere people do? Listen. because you felt attractive. Big and Open. start with one behavior they do. and that’d make you a bit more sincere. you’d feel more sincere. and watch as it sparks a cycle. As such. you’ll get more respect from men and more attention from women.This article is about becoming more attractive. If you are relaxed and conﬁdent you will naturally take on certain nuances of body language. 6 Body Language The main charactersistics you want your body language to have are: 1. Put your intentions out in the open for all to see. Relaxed and Slow. and what’ll you do? I’m going to bet you’ll smile like you own whatever place you’re in.. No weird jerky movements. naturally. Modelling your behavior after the behaviors of people you want to be like can be helpful. guess what? You just did another behavior that attractive people do. As such. so you could try making eye contact more. That doesn’t mean try to pretend like you’re them: Instead.. No hesitation.
Look at her steadily are warmly. but do this only after she is receptive to kino on safe places. then she will. Of course. and appearing asexual. just lean back slightly onto it. Similarly. or staring. There are a few technical speciﬁcs to touching a woman. eventually you want to escalate to non-safe places. or too late. You will have to set aside your ego to do this. Many more guys turn women oﬀ by not touching them at all. a touch should be spontaneous and you should not think about it. The proper time to touch a woman is largely determined by your frame. and eventually women will crave your touch. While you are learning. or looking at the ﬂoor it signals that you are insecure. Dont slouch. if you do it with the conﬁdent expectation that she will enjoy the touch. When you are seated. Bad posture is a sign of low self-esteem. Ideally. warm eye contact. You can improve your looks tremendously just by improving your posture. err on the side of touching a woman too much rather than too little. because at ﬁrst your touches will often be rejected. • Stand up straight. on her back. her arm. lean back in your chair. This is part of the learning process learn from the experience. just lean back slightly. 28 . touch a woman in safe places. The same with when youre standing against something. only of relaxation. • Dont touch too early. You want to make your touch slow and conﬁdent: No tentativeness. Leaning back is not incongruent with direct game because it is not a sign of disinterest.• Lean back. • Make steady. It is an invitation for her to follow you into your comfortable reality. but mainly it is your frame. Of course there are also factors speciﬁc to the girl. You want to avoid hard eye contact. or her hand. Good posture is a sign of conﬁdence and is attractive to women. Some guys turn women oﬀ by touching them before the woman is comfortable with their touch. Leaning back shows that you are relaxed and comfortable with yourself and with the girl and her group. you want to avoid darting eyes and looking around the room. At ﬁrst. but a touch that you have to think about is better than no touching at all.
Assume that you will be successful in everything you do. you shouldnt be controlled by what they think. Too many guys think. This attitude should be your end goal in your journey of self-improvement. If you really believe a woman is attracted to you. assume that every girl who you talk to is attracted to you. This should be the attitude you strive towards. so will conform to your rules.’ You are an alpha male you set the social rules. than she will be. and you should act accordingly. and that every single person in the world likes you and wants to see you succeed. An alpha male does what he wants. You should assume that you own the world. Our main focus in our programs is establishing these attitudes in our clients. Second of all. Dont be concerned about ’Following social rules. but they are literally the key to everything with women. so they can attract women regardless of what techniques they use. so why do you care what they think about you? And even if they are people who you do see again. Like leaning back. It cant just be a insincere little aﬃrmation you repeat three times before you talk to a woman you really have to believe it. ’Bbut what if other people see me talk to her?’ Who cares? Most of these people you are not ever going to see again. Attitudes take time to develop. this shows that you are relaxed and comfortable. one hundred percent. All the others will want to be like you. You are enriching the lives of every woman you approach. First of all.• Be completely relaxed. with no uptight or ﬁdgety movements. you should not care what other people think when they see you approaching. 29 . And most importantly for dating and seduction. since you believe you are an attractive male. you should not see your approaching women as something you should be sneaky and ashamed about. 7 Attitudes Your attitude should be that of an alpha male. This is ridiculous. not what others think he should do. not the other way around.
and other guys. or even just walking in the other direction on the street. your presence will in 30 . They are not powerful enough to draw the woman away from whatever activity she was already engaged in. People can pick up on this instantly. For a woman in a loud club. you need to be more commanding than the activity which she is engaged in. You will notice as you improve your commanding presence that you can open women in situations which previously you thought were impossible. Because you are so sure that you can command a womans attention. and are repelled by it. without even listening to what they have to say. For a woman on a cell phone. In order for a woman to stop and talk to you. This is because they lack commanding presence. you will command the attention and of women with increasing ease. guys who know sophisticated techniques will not have success with women because they dont have commanding presence women instantly write them oﬀ as losers. Many guys have problems opening girls on cold approaches . ﬂashing lights. As you become more and more conﬁdent and dominant. For a woman shopping. they are unsure of whether or not people will listen to them and attach importance to what they say. you must command her attention more than the person who she is talking to. your presence must be more commanding of her attention than shopping. or techniques at all. Commanding Presence is the ability to make people listen to and obey you because you project dominance and conﬁdence.especially girls who are in diﬃcult logistical situations.8 Commanding Presence What is a commanding presence? First of all. tactics. such as talking on a cell phone. They dont project dominance. dancing in a loud club. commanding presence has nothing to do with gimmicks. Commanding presence is extremely important in pickup and dating. friendly woman would not give you her attention. So often. you must command her attention more than the music. to the point where you do not even consider the possibility that a normal.
Here are some things you can do to improve your commanding presence: • Improve your tonality. relax. This conveys that you think you are not attractive. and look down towards to ﬂoor? If so. If your tonality is not good. • Improve your image.turn become more and more commanding because of this. Find cool. 9 Vocal Tonality Another very important factor which will make a man more attractive is his vocal tonality. tasteful clothes which give you a tight image and show that you treat yourself well. Do you stand in a hunched over. then she will sense the conﬁdence and authority in your voice. you want to avoid overcompensating and dressing like a clown. including improving your body language. loudly and conﬁdently? • Improve your body language. with bad posture. Dont dress in a generic way. are you saying it slowly. even the smoothest. and that you dont think its worth spending time making yourself look the best that they can. friendly eye contact. timid voice? Or. most genuine. 31 .. You can also improve your beliefs directly through various exercise to reframe your experiences positively. take up space. which are taught in our workshops and bootcamps. Make warm. you can make anything seductive just by virtue of you saying it. If not. then she will sense that you really dont expect her to stop. but also. lean back. image. however. and by repeated successful experiences in social situations. she wont stop. • Most important: Improve your beliefs. and she will stop. Thus. Are delivering your opener to stop her in a weak. do you conﬁdently believe that she will talk to you? If you do. Dont dress like someone who doesnt pay attention to their looks. and look people straight in the eye. If your tonality it is great. Theres many things you can do to improve your beliefs. opening lines are not going to work for you. tonality. and all the other things recommended in the body language section of this guide. and will get a weird vibe from you. When you attempt to stop a woman and get her in a conversation.
Once you have gotten into the habit or projecting your voice well. Again. This is especially important in the nighttime. In a high-energy. slow down the pace of your voice. At ﬁrst it will seem ridiculous. In an intimate moment before a kiss. but a too quiet voice is easily ignored. you will become habituated to the new. Another important aspect of your voice is its pitch. In order to make your voice more attractive. err on the side of being too quiet. where youre competing with loud music. Similarly.First. Most guys. You want to convey complete relaxation and dominance. just a little high enough to be audible. With time. you want to make your voice deep and resonant. This is because if you talk overly deeply in a club. party atmosphere you want to talk slightly faster. While your old. A well-projected voice lets everyone around you know you think what you have to say is important. You should also calibrate the pace of your speech to the situation. In the daytime. in a daytime situation you want your voice to be loud. a too loud voice is seen as overcompensation. but most guys talk too fast. slow. you need to project your voice loudly enough to be heard clearly. A high voice is viewed by women as weak and feminine. your tone should be slightly higher than in the daytime. He draws you in with his slow rhythm and mesmerizing deep voice. however. there is an optimum speed to be most seductive. and nobody will be able to hear you. This is what you should be aiming for in quiet situations. conﬁdent and relaxed pace of speech. In loud club situations. loudly and powerfully. like you are talking in slow motion. 32 . You want to strike a balance between being loud enough to be clearly heard. relaxed pace of your voice. your voice will be drowned in the bass. So. fast-talking voice conveyed that you were hurried and uncomfortable. Think of the tone of a hypnotists voice. women will be drawn in and entranced by your new. you want to talk especially slowly. Project your voice from your diaphragm. deep and resonant. Your tone still should not be ridiculously high. you now want to work on the speed of your speech. however. and not being overly loud.
Regardless of your height. also insert every race . conveying energy and playfulness. Read that again. Insert any of ’short’. No. and give them feedback on their voice. and become even more loud.. what you care about is bedding beautiful women and getting plenty of respect out of everyone you meet.yes. you want to make your voice slightly higher and faster. Who does? Hopefully you’re trying to work past the things you don’t like and become the best person you can be. ’old’.. ’skinny’. will see diﬀerent parts of who we are. captivating and fun tonality in the nighttime. we coach all our clients in-ﬁeld. You probably don’t like every single thing about yourself.. and have very hot girlfriends.. 10 Image and Stereotypes We’re all a mix of many diﬀerent things. We use tonality exercises in each one of our programs to achieve a seductive tonality in the daytime. and a well-projected. In addition. ’young’. and the ways that they can improve on it.. ’tall’. Something Very Important: The image you put forward has to be stronger than any negative stereotypes about you. ’fat’. I’ve seen guys of all races get nervous and wonder if they can succeed.In a loud club situation. and people in general. I shake my head.. But what if you’re short? What can be done about that? Well your height isn’t going to change. This is a common problem. 33 . But I don’t think that’s really what you care about. Girls. So when I get the question ’Can I get success even though I’m ?’ . you can bed plenty of beautiful women.
but he had to have a stronger image than something generic. When a 20-year old woman sees Mel Gibson. but his image is one of a certiﬁed. can I get race of woman?’ Just last weekend. ’He’s old’ ? No way! She thinks he’s a rockstar. good style. Instead. then I’d be in trouble. and seems fun and cool and successful. My image is not ’white’. Hugh is a bazillion years old. you don’t want people to think ’Wow. And successful businessman and very cool and fun guy to socialize with. He was a cool guy. I’d be superboring. ’Can I get white women even though I’m Asian?’ I was blown away . he’s a short guy’ when they meet you. And yet he asked me. full-on playboy. ’I’m race.and I told him of course he could. You don’t want to give oﬀ a ’short vibe’. If the ﬁrst thing a woman thought when she saw me was ’This guy is white’. legitimate.The image you put forward has to be stronger than any negative stereotypes about you. 34 . If you’re short. even. decent looks. I had a student ask an interesting question. What does this mean to you? The image you put forward has to be stronger than any negative stereotypes about you. you want to have some sort of powerful and positive image. Look at Hugh Hefner. A common question I get is. does she think.
it might be a stronger image. This guy had women all over him . I used to work out at a gym that had guys that looked to be Triads in them. They called him ’the bull’. If you’re Caucasian in America. and of course Asian as well. so women would lump him into the category of ’asexual Asian guy’ . ’He’s Asian. very respectfully. One went to that gym. latin.’ As an example. Muscles upon muscles. The thing is. Whereas if you’re another race. Here’s what you need: The image you put forward has to be stronger than any negative stereotypes about you. Y’know. white. This works for and against some races that are stereotypical as being powerful and masculine. any image is stronger than the fact you’re white. she didn’t think. I don’t have a suburban guy image. Chinese maﬁa.They’d buy into the stereotype that he’s asexual. Caucasian is the majority in America. Ripped. but he was *jacked*. On the other hand. He had thick glasses and wore frumpled clothing and slouched over. No joke.black. dragon-tattooed guys.’ She thought ’He’s powerful’ or ’He’s a gangster’ or ’He’s buﬀ.Think typical ’suburban guy’. 35 . I called him ’el toro’ very. He was about 5’5. hot girlfriends and luxury cars and nice clothes and a ’Don’t mess with me’ look. I knew a Chinese computer-programmer. let’s compare two Chinese guys I knew. But what if you’re not one of those? The sad reality is that some races have stereotypes attached to them in certain places. He had no image. When any woman looked at one of these guys. shaved heads.
everyone knew I was white. he didn’t identify with being a ’short guy’. I’ve had students at short as 5’2. That means I was doing something right . he acted like a highrollin’ playboy type.I didn’t put oﬀ the negative vibe associated with Americans in France. ’Am I too short?’ . Thing was. Tom Cruise is pretty short. No. You can bet your last nickel that I didn’t want people to think ’American’ right oﬀ the bat. something. By the end of his program. and yeah. he was picking up girls of various races normally. 36 . Hell. ’Italy’. I was getting a lot of ’Amsterdam’. what a stylish powerful guy. I’ve been to parties where I was the only person in the room that didn’t speak ﬂuent Mandrin.. and ’Russia’. Think on that. If you have a weak image.because The image he put forward was not stronger than the negative stereotypes around him. Everybody’s got something that’s unappealing to some group of women. Spanish. But it wasn’t what I put forward. or Creole. If you’re wondering.’ When women would ask where I was from.. then think of if you put oﬀ a short vibe. In fact.. You’re either young or old or too skinny or too fat or too short or too tall or.. I’m still American. When I told this to my Asian student last weekend. I wanted women to think ’Wow. I’d tell them to guess. I’ve been to parties where I was the only white person in the room. then people will pick something arbitrary about you and assume the stereotypes.. the shortest student I’ve ever had slept with 3 women within 2 months of meeting with me.. I got to make a brief pass through France recently. and the women bought right into that. he started to ’get it’. but I wasn’t ’the white guy’. But I’d keep a warm smile and a good vibe. He didn’t have a ’short vibe’. Cultivate an image for yourself.
which are essential 37 . race. and it is. height. you will undoubtedly be well on your way. how you could ever possibly change into a truly attractive guy who can get any woman he wants? We believe in order to make such a change. The internet can help. but in order to make a real change. if you are not currently having any success with woman. with her afterwards. you need to master much more than this to escalate an interaction with a woman all the way to sex. Such a change may seem drastic to you. At best. reports like this are only complements to our real-life programs. and all those other things you have no control over . In the classroom seminar.They fade to black. and take your game to the next level. But. image and style. By learning the attitudes and behaviors in this article. Learning how to meet women eﬀectively is important. your age. you need real-life experience in the ﬁeld. exclusive or open. and also to establish a good relationship. you are given the tools you need which will give you an edge on all other guys. vibing. youll work with instructors Vincent and Sebastian in a small group setting. You may even want personalized attention from real masters of pickup and dating. You may be asking yourself. Youll hear two of the worlds best pick-up artists and dating masters teach you about the basics of body language.If you have a solid image. 11 The Next Step This article is not a complete guide to pickup and dating it is only the beginning. At our Seminars and In-Field Workshops. and all the other topics mentioned above. tonality. information you read on the internet is not a complete solution. And you get the girls you want. as they coach you through diﬃculties you are having in all stages of your interactions with women.
After weve supercharged your game in the seminar. If you have any questions. Well work with you on any component of the game where you need work. be sure to check out our soon to be released e-book. If you check out our reviews. You can beneﬁt instantly from our collective years of experience. anytime. we change your core identity through working directly with your inner beliefs. kissing a girl. visit our website. If youre interested in learning more about our programs. we will take you out into the ﬁeld and coach you interacting with women in real time. Also. and years of frustration and loneliness from going home alone. Well even work with you on phone game. number closing. Yours Truly.net. but also some brand new advanced concepts not found anywhere else. You will still need motivation and hard work to achieve success. and give you targeted feedback. http://www. We wont just give you a bunch of techniques.for attracting women. be it opening. We will point out your mistakes and sticking points. detailing not only our fundamental methods of generating attraction and escalation. or holding an interesting conversation. Vincent DiCarlo and Sebastian Drake Founders. feel free to drop us a line at our website. providing you with the skills to meet and attract women anywhere. and boost your game to the next level in one weekend. The ﬁeld work will take place in both daytime and nighttime venues. you will see we care about your success and will give you personalized attention every step of the way. but if you have them the skills that you learn in the workshop can save you literally years of crashing and burning with women.the-approach. night after night. theApproach 38 . The groups are kept small as the student to instructor ratio is limited.
the proof is in the pudding. He knows all about the learning process. If I did not do this I may or may not have gotten to the level of where I want to be. I dont think there is many things as valuable as this. TX ’Sebastian and Vincent have completely diﬀerent styles from one another. but if I ever did get there.his game is top-notch in all ways. but the list is way too long! LOL Well as far as results. I came to the bootcamp with a completely open mind.’ -Brian K. and both get the same amazing results using theApproach framework and concepts. I always remember back . of New York City ’Sebastian is one of the best pick-up artists I’ve had the pleasure of meeting .. I realized how easy it was to pick up girls who already had boyfriends or were married even .’ -Chad of Austin. I still correspond with them through email.one time watching Vincent. if nothing else. so that they can’t steal my girlfriend!’ -Tim S. Highly recommended...their former clients. It’s like you become a part of this exclusive secret society or something. and I could not be happier. of San Fransisco. It was great and I learned so much. And there’s a whole underground network of guys they’ve trained in every city . it will save me years of my time. we share secrets and all the latest tricks of the trade and so on. I have on my todo list since the seminar to email you a testimonial.I mean it was eﬀortless! Just knowing that these guys exist was enough to convince me to sign up. CA ’Yoooo Vince! Wasup big man! You wont believe. Attached to this email are the pics in my car of the chick I met while we were ’in the 39 .12 Testimonials ’I was literally trusting these guys with my life..
but its made me more successful in business too.ﬁeld’ at the mall. no other method has made me learn more than yours of making us actually do the work out in the ﬁeld in real life situations. It truly is a wonderful feeling that when a girl cancels on me now. They actually pointed out many advantages we as older men have with younger women. For example.worked!’ -Raj of New York City ’I feel I am in a unique situation.. I was blown away at how well their method works for someone like me. young women love older men if they have class and sophistication. who have a man. I dont even sweat it. and the conversation exercises when I meet prospects (for business and pleasure!). They also reminded me of all the positive things I have personality wise to oﬀer women. cause I have others in the pipeline waiting to meet me anyway. They identify with me and understand all of my concerns. my wife loves the changes she has seen in me. Now I have that buﬀer of ladies I can call on to hook up with. I can’t say enough great things about Vincent and Sebastian. since I am 45 years old and married. I took theApproach Bootcamp a few months ago and just recently did a one day refresher of personal coaching in Boston. And Im amazed with how those couple lines you advised me to say to past exs. Not only did the workshop help me in going after any female I desire in my path. J so as u can see Im a happy camper. It took me the 2nd date to get in there. in my humble but accurate opinion. You can use anything I say in this email as my testimonial. And if you saw me. but still keep them as a bootycall. Their very smooth and subtle approach is well suited for older men. Like the pauses between the ﬂow of my words when I do seminars. Although both guys are in their twenties. In addition. not just theory. LOL.. you might not believe I pick up girls half my age. The hardest part was making the time with my schedule to hook up with her. You guys are Hitch to the extreme! Forget reading books on this stuﬀ. and is 40 .
but I was serious about improving. I was a fat. dating beautiful and amazing women. and living my dream of teaching people to do better things. He went on. but you’ll never reach the highest levels with your attitude. I was determined to get better.convinced the program has strengthened our relationship. I told Sebastian I wanted to practice all night before I saw him tomorrow. and told me how he once was worse oﬀ than me in a lot of ways. Sebastian related his story to me. I said she wouldn’t. Sebastian taught me about the ’Lottery of Attitudes’ and how where we’re born and stuﬀ that happens when we’re very little shape most people’s entire lives. Are you willing to change?’ I said yes. He 41 . ’I can teach you all the tech in the world. and it’s all golden. When I met Sebastian for my bootcamp. then told me: ’I can tell you’re serious about success. I said I didn’t. he started going through Attitudes with me. I was feeling better.’ -Vlad G of Boston. Which made me happy and which didn’t. I can’t guarantee you’ll have the results I did. poorly dressed loser. He asked me why any woman would be lucky to have me. He asked me if I liked myself. Now. ’Chance hasn’t been easy on you. At the end of the ﬁrst day. Before I took the program. we started looking at which of my attitudes were good and which weren’t. Do you want the truth?’ I did. I found it unbelieveable when he told me how he used to look and act. It wasn’t on me either and I’m here right now before you. He taught me for a bit longer. I took a bootcamp with two additional days of personal coaching and it paid oﬀ huge. Are you willing to change how you think?’ I was! The ﬁrst day. MA ’I’m really glad I took theApproach.
The next day. then handed the phone to me. As we were wrapping up day 3 Vin got a call and answered it. but Vin took good care of me and said it’s natural for it to take a while to seep in. of course I do. but I felt good. The next morning. I said hell yes. I practiced solo and women were opening up to me. I ﬂew through day 2. 42 . It hurt a lot but it felt good too. Things were going well. Sebastian asked if I wanted to work out in the morning. That night. I was a bit frustrated at this part of the program since there’s so many skills. I met up with Vincent and we went shopping for clothes for me. I was pretty sore still from the gym. I showered and came to day 2 of the program. Vincent TOTALLY changed up my style. I said goodbye to Vin’s girlfriend at mid-day and we worked all on conversational skills. I got a new haircut and Vin brought in his girlfriend of the time who worked in the fashion industry to help me get the most cutting edge style and ﬁnd good bargains at the same time. and Sebastian said I was really talented for going at such a good pace. Sebastian reinforced some of the attitudes he’d already worked on with me. then started into the basics of approaching and initiating conversation. I liked what I saw. I went to the gym with him and lifted weights and broke up a big sweat. and called a friend of his who is both a personal trainer and a former student. taking me from beyond bad to looking really really sharp. I was really happy with how I got dressed up and I was feeling really good in my new clothes.told me to hold on and got on his cell phone. I felt very comfortable with him the whole time and he made me feel really good. I went out with Sebastian’s trainer friend and we practiced after the program hours were over. then more ﬁeldwork.
After we broke. and was doing much better. and Sebastian said he needed a nap. We covered a wide range of subjects and then got out there. He went and got some sleep. I got her number when I had to leave for the start of the program! I met Sebastian and Vincent actually came along as well free of charge. It was also cool to see how they worked together and got things going. I got four phone numbers and a kiss! Amazing! I felt better. and attitudes. I called one of my female friends and she said I sounded totally diﬀerent 43 .He told me to get plenty of sleep that night and eat a good breakfast in the morning. At this point. looked better. Things were coming together great. they’ll go two instructors to one student. I learned a lot of advanced techniques but I was able to start doing a lot right away. We broke from the gym a few hours before the program was going to start. Now it was time for the heavy stuﬀ. He told me he’s happy to match the dedication level of the student and I was being very dedicated. Vin had explained to me when I signed up that you can get 1:1 personal coaching time. I met Sebastian before the program and we worked out together. It was pretty cool to have him do that for me. I got to see a couply demonstrations with Sebastian or Vincent explaining what the other was doing in real time. but I couldn’t help but go practice my developing skills in a bookstore. cold reading. and other skills. I had already improved my health. but a lot of times if Sebastian or he is free and in the same area. qualifying. I went in with Sebastian’s favorite opener on a girl in the cafe and we talked for two hours. The got into screening. Well it was very cool having both guys. I had learned how to approach and the execution behind good conversation. touching. style.
I invited this beautiful beautiful blond girl back to my place for dinner and drinks. then Sebastian saw a really hot blond chick as we were ready to break. I came to the last of day of my personal coaching program. and they went over the full structure of a pickup together. Vin taught relationship skills.’ As per Sebastian’s recommendation. A lot of women in my life that were looking right past me and taking me for granted now are trying to get with me. I felt tired but energized.’ I went in and started running my game. Sebastian taught the basics of good sex.on the phone. she’s all yours. We did a little more ﬁeld work and things were going really well. I asked how and she said ’Totally alive. and I’m meeting so many more women.. It’s been three weeks and I’ve slept with three women. I moved a bit stiﬄy from the weights yesterday but it was all good. I called the girl I met in the bookstore earlier that night. I was sore and I felt like my movements might’ve been kind of jerky from lifting weights but it didn’t even matter. Vin and Sebastian were both there again. I looked great in my new clothes. I got a gym membership and I’m doing full body workouts three times a week. and gave me exercises to do to keep getting better. I’m actually looking to settle down once I ﬁnd the right woman. answered all my remaining questions. I got a few more numbers and another kiss. I feel so much more happy and successful. They covered miscellaneous skills. but right now I’m going to have some fun before I do. The program has been amazing to me. not a chasing way. including the girl from the bookstore and the blond girl. Haha too late! 44 . He said ’Go. They did my ﬁnal debrief. I was really sore but it was a good sore. At the end. Things were so ﬂuid it was out of this world. The last day of my custom program.. I used some of the storytelling and screening techniques I had learned and demonstrated my interest in a good way.
’ -Phil Anderson. motivating. Vincent. empowering. Newton. You are gods among men. it’s worth every penny. thank you. but if everyone can get even 1/10th of what I did. Life-changing.I’m so glad I took theApproach and I can’t thank Vincent and Sebastian enough. MA 45 . amazing performance. Sebastian. I don’t know if everyone can have my results.
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