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1 Company Overview 2 What We Can Do For You 3 Our 3.1 3.2 3.3 3.4 3.5 3.6 II Programs theApproach StandardTM Oﬃcial Workshop . . theApproach StreetGameTM Oﬃcial Workshop theApproach BootcampTM Intensive Workshop theApproach Phone Coaching . . . . . . . . . theApproach Personal Coaching . . . . . . . . Ebooks, Audio Programs and DVDs . . . . . .
Creating An Attractive Identity
4 Getting Started 4.1 Five Things For Success In Life . . . . . . . . . . . . . 5 Becoming More Attractive 5.1 What Is Atractive? . . . . . . . . . . 5.2 How Do People Know If Something Is 5.3 Beliefs And Filters . . . . . . . . . . 5.4 Some Practical Advice . . . . . . . . 6 Body Language 7 Attitudes 8 Commanding Presence 9 Vocal Tonality 10 Image and Stereotypes 11 The Next Step . . . . . . . Attractive? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
theApproach: An Introduction By Dan Rose
1 Company Overview
theApproach is Vincent DiCarlo and Sebastian Dimitri Drake. Talk about masters. I’ve actually had the opportunity to spend some time learning from these guys in person. The things I have seen are unreal. Their methods of teaching are phenomenal, and their system is polished to a very high level of sophistication. They’ve spent years perfecting this discipline as both an art and science, and they’ve been teaching guys professionally for quite some time now. I will try and pass on some of their basic introductory topics to you right now. This book is not only meant to be an introduction to their concepts and techniques, but also as a prepatory guide for prospective students, so that they can maximize the learnings and improvements made on an actual live program. Vincent and Sebastian have written hundreds of articles on the topic of dating and seduction, and have given informal lectures in various cities around the world. Vincent is known in particular for systematizing and breaking down ’Natural Game’ and being able to transfer those qualities possessed by guys who are naturally good with women to his students. He was also the ﬁrst to break down and outline the exact process of how to develop spontaneity from scratch. He has just ﬁnished working out various intention maps which lay out all of the key moments that shape and deﬁne the future development of a given sexual relationship, and is currently teaching these exclusively at live theApproach programs. Sebastian is known for his highly social and playful approach to the
I mean. and to be honest I was a bit skeptical. Boy. I was getting plenty of phone numbers. When I ﬁrst joined theApproach team in late 2004. Nothing too spectacular. At the time. He is currently interested in something he calls The Array of Possibilities. Extremely satisﬁed and grateful. Seriously. tips and techniques for every possible situation. and even had a few short ﬂings. and I really felt I had reached the limit of how much progress was possible. They have turned guys who were once shy virgins into complete playboys ’living the lifestyle’. And they produce results. I wasn’t sure what to expect. I had been going out speciﬁcally to meet women a few nights a week. The real question however. It’s all possible. And I was doing alright. Keep an eye out for his upcoming full length ebook! Sebastian has turned out an extremely high percentage of successful students. most of my friends had trou4 . I thought I was doing pretty good. Part of my job is to keep in touch with ex-students and track their progress. seduction and dating.400% more than they were pre-workshop. most are currently getting laid anywhere from 100% . and is in the process of designing methods for tapping into ANY woman’s given ideal fantasy. is ’How do you want to use this material?’ 2 What We Can Do For You We change men’s lives for the better in a dramatic way. was I wrong.game and empowering his students with spectactular attitudes and beliefs. I knew they had an amazing track record with their students. And they’ve also helped men ﬁnd the women of their dreams. Both Vincent and Sebastian are literal walking encyclopedias of everything related to pick-up. This was an area of my life that I was working on very dilligently. and together they’ve got plenty of mindsets.
Therefore both workshop and seminar space is limited. 3 3. They pointed out subtle behaviors of mine that were holding me back. but I began to subconsciously absorb their attitudes and beliefs. We witness tremendous change in our students. Carefree. And it was only the beginning. It’s genuinely a blast. Just watching them that ﬁrst day not only shattered my reality of what it truly means to be a ’pick-up artist’. MUCH better. and it feels great helping others. The StandardTM has proven itself time and time again with the remarkable success of every client who completes the training. And everything changed. theApproach live program consists of small-group classroom style seminars and in-ﬁeld workshops. And I got better. Now I am part of the team. seduction and dating instruction. Spend an upwards of 30-35 hours with two 5 .1 Our Programs theApproach StandardTM Oﬃcial Workshop theApproach’s World-Class Small Group Workshops represent the highest level of integrity when it comes to live pick-up. They gave me better ways of doing things.ble even talking to women they didn’t know. which allows you the greatest opportunity to get personalized attention and make major and paradigm-shifting changes and realizations. They made the impossible look easy. Eﬀortless. The seminars are designed to be highly personalized and interactive. Seminars are taught exclusively by theApproach founders Vincent DiCarlo and Sebastian Drake. And then I saw Vincent and Sebastian. They started correcting my mistakes. I’ve never had so much fun doing anything else.
. Realize that 90% of the women you see are not only open to having a sameday intimate connection. they are eagerly anticipating it! theApproach StreetGameTM Workshops are exclusive workshops aimed at the advanced level students who want to take their daytime pick-up skills to top level. coffee shops or anywhere for that matter? Would you like to have your pick of these same women for a romantic encounter? Did you know that these women are wanting. and hoping for the exact same thing? Only in the movies? Think again. wishing. 3.of the top recognized pickup gurus in the world. In addition. and they continue to develop and systematize them further. Not only will we provide you with the neccessary tools for the tricky situations and challenges you will encounter. theApproach programs zero in and focus on each student to determine what your inherent personality traits are and develop them in the most attractive way possible. or even bookstores? Do you see them in train stations. you will receive highly constructive feedback in order to address those things that are currently holding you back from your desired success. Introducing: theApproach StreetGameTM Oﬃcial Workshop Learn what it takes to enter the world of women’s fantasy. night after night.. walking down the street. in malls. Workshop groups are limited to a 3:1 student to instructor ratio. destroy negative thinking and eliminate self-imposed limitations.2 theApproach StreetGameTM Oﬃcial Workshop Do you see beautiful women in the daytime. Their teaching methods are just as reﬁned as their skills with women. but we will improve your attitude and mindsets using interactive exercises which streamline your thought patterns. Workshops take place almost entirely in the ﬁeld with intensive real- 6 .
• Get Coaching to Attract that Special Girl 7 . which will in turn make you even more conﬁdent. Malls.4 theApproach Phone Coaching Even if you can’t make it to one of our personalized workshops. check out our Bootcamp program. learn all the newest techniques and even get speciﬁc exercises to stay on the path to mastery. You can work on any area of your game for as long as you feel you need to. you youll get a massive amount of experience in one weekend. Bookstores. but youd like to do even MORE to improve your game. and we can track your progress over the long term. which will lead to more success in the future. 3. Phone coaching is completely personal. help is still available via theApproach Phone Coaching. the ultimate in personalized attention. and we’ll never share your information with anyone. Workshop students can even follow up their programs to stay sharp. Speak directly with either Vincent or Sebastian and get advice right before your important date. Busy Streets. Phone coaching is completely personalized to the individual student. This is for the guys who are really serious about taking their game to the next level youll be working one-on-one with an instructor at all times.Train Stations are all fair game! 3. Grocery Stores.time coaching and training. and youll see each group of women which you engage becoming progressively more attracted to you than the last. Youll get incredibly detailed feedback on your interactions.3 theApproach BootcampTM Intensive Workshop If you theApproach Standard and StreetGame Workshops sound great. all the ﬁeld work will take place in the venues YOU prefer. Keep up on all the latest concepts and ideas or even get tailored advice to a speciﬁc situation. conﬁdential and secure. The bootcamp takes place almost entirely in-ﬁeld. You can customize the bootcamp entirely to what you want. Youll become more conﬁdent and achieve more success with women that weekend.
• Learn All the Latest Concepts and Techniques • Follow Up On Your Workshop Program to Stay Sharp • Take your Existing Game to the Next Level • Get Personalized Coaching Even If You Can’t Make A Workshop • Talk Directly with Vincent and Sebastian • Get Speciﬁc Exercises and Assignments Custom Tailored 3. Brush up on your conversational skills. get critiqued on your body language. or even get a fashion makeover. Spend a day with Vincent or Sebastian any time your schedule will allow. theApproach Personal Coaching is currently oﬀered in Boston or New York City. theApproach personal coaching is held to the same standard as our other workshop programs and has turned out some highly successful clients.6 Ebooks. personal coaching is now available to the general public. 3. We understand our clients are busy people with a lot going on in their lives. Be sure to sign up for our newsletter list and stay current with not only our newest tips and techniques but also our important announcments! 8 . Audio Programs and DVDs Expect a complete line of Ebooks. Audio Programs and DVD’s from theApproach.5 theApproach Personal Coaching Once oﬀered as an additional option to our workshop clients. and is a great way to keep your skills sharp after taking a full program.
Those are things we aim to develop through our behaviors and actions. Now.Part II Creating An Attractive Identity 4 Getting Started When it comes down to it. 5) Learn. all of your success in attracting women is dependent on having both positive beliefs about yourself and proper execution of techniques. If. Techniques are used as a way of emulating a person who truly believes he is attractive.1 Five Things For Success In Life If you truly believe you are attractive. you go out and start actively socializing. With those three. 4. Those are the ﬁrst three. 3) Have fun. after a solid base in those ﬁve things. the next two are also very useful. and just those three. you will do the following three things. 4) Stay open-minded. 1) Like yourself. you’ll be able to achieve an incredible social and sex life. you’ll be on your way. with the goal of eventually becoming a person who truly believes he is attractive. you can do anything. which are necessary for success in dating or any other area of your life. However. let me break them down a little. and throw in a some advanced 9 . 2) Be conﬁdent. If you can manage those ﬁve things. That’s it. while those ﬁrst three are critical for just about all parts of a good life. The criticals. The essentials.
but at the same time. Consider that. They’re constantly taught to seek validation.S. the new soda that’s got a great taste while being very low in carbs. There’s a happy feel-good message of ’Everyone is a special and unique snowﬂake’ that’s said in elementary school.. Parents.’ The media constantly draws and redraws a fake norm that people should strive to achieve. 1) Like yourself: The root cause of everything good that can ever happen. People are told they can’t be happy without stuﬀ. In short. but it’s an idea. and are ostracized if they deviate from it. and 10 . even the parts you don’t like (which doesn’t mean don’t try to change for the better!) For all you analytical folk: There is not a single advantage to disliking yourself. For all you emotional folk: Your whole life will be better and you will feel stronger and more alive if you like yourself.discussion. which is promptly mocked and satirized. teachers. people are given a billion reasons not to like themselves. reasoning it oﬀ as ’kid stuﬀ. Here in the U. and people are told to be never satisﬁed. a better razor. Here’s some random points I’m just going to throw out. You need to like yourself as a person. and authorities often turn a blind eye to bullying. people are often put down.. Basics of self-esteem are taught throughout school and by parents. You’ll be happier with a faster car. I’m an American. we’re given a double standard from birth. In countries based around consumption. It’s not allencompassing. but so diﬃcult. and insecurities are played upon on a daily basis. You need to accept every part of yourself. Alright. the most fashionable suit.. the idea of non-satiation rules supreme. What do I mean by ’like yourself?’ It’s so simple.
I know that anything I don’t know or can’t do. For me. some of which are included in this guide. ’Damn. I’d say it so much without even recognizing it. many good things about myself. What is conﬁdence for me? It’s knowing that I have lots of ability and inﬁnite potential. I think people trying to explain conﬁdence is where a lot of the rhetoric out there came from. so why 11 . I know I’ve got skills that I’ve honed to a precise degree and I can use them decisively. I can’t tell you exactly what conﬁdence will be to you. including good relationships with other people and good sex with beautiful women. It’s critical. it’s about ﬁghting my fears when they come up. I didn’t even realize I was doing it for so long. I used to say things like. don’t.. At the same time. and defeating them. Now you’re aware of some of what’s going on. but after I’m trying my best. I know I’ll do the best job possible. It precedes and precludes almost all good things in life. I move decisively. but you’ll know it. you’re the only you you’ve got.told not to decide for themselves. My breakthrough came when I realized there were many. 2) Be conﬁdent: The world is yours for the taking.’ in my head. I could. but it’s convoluted. It’s about using my abilities as well as I can. most people think they like themselves when asked. in fact. Strive for improvement. Now. how to do that? There are many ways. but like and accept yourself. one way is to realize that there is no reason not to like yourself. and often can’t realize that they.. But more importantly. with teaching. Most of it’s right. I hate myself. With practice. I screwed up again. Conﬁdence.. but when I caught on. everything from business to family to relationships to (yes) pickup will go more smoothly. If you act conﬁdently. I genuinely came to like myself. Arguably the single most important interpersonal skill.. I really did believe it. it became sickening.
doubt myself? I act quickly. you’ve got to like him and like spending time with him. It doesn’t matter how or what’s fun about what you’re doing. So remember: Like yourself. you’ve got to enjoy bars. you’ve got to have fun doing the whole process. To truly be good at attracting and seducing women. Aside from the fact that your time is valuable.. If you want to do work in nightclubs. 3) Have fun: If you’re not having fun doing something.. If you want to do bars. and have fun. From the ﬁrst approach to full sexual intimacy.. This is as much a life skill as a pickup skill. If you go out with a friend whos acting as your wingman. you’ve got to have fun going out to nightclubs. those are my ’primary three. There is no failure: There is only success and learning. and improvement in any of those three areas will translate to improvements EVERYWHERE else in your life. Anyone can improve in those three areas. be conﬁdent. You’ve got to have fun socializing..’ I think that those three mindsets are pretty much necessary for a truly happy life. Just have fun. Your results will be inﬁnitely better if you’re having fun. you’ve got enjoy what you’re doing and spending time with women and people. or you like self-improvement. it doesn’t matter. Open-mindedness is considering and reconsidering anything and everything. decisively after I’ve picked the best course. or you like karaoke at the place you’re at. you’ll have enjoyed yourself. This is because I know I have ability and inﬁnite potential. you should always 12 . So. 4) Stay open-minded: Consider and reconsider everything. or that you like going out with your friends that came with you. This is key to true success in anything. and no matter what happens. It could be that you like the music of where you’re at.
Kindness is not subservience or supplication. is actually unrelated to true kindness and tolerance. learn as you do. When you do not achieve what you set out to achieve. though. Be willing to rethink what kindness really is from time to time: It’s possible that some things the media raises you to think are good and kind acts. Try to 13 . I know about all sorts of little interesting things. I’m not going to go on a feel-good. I like to live and a promote a live-and-let-live philosophy. learn from it. regardless of who they are and what they do. and can talk to them about it. and even if you can’t accept some things at this time.be willing to consider a new point of view or rethink an old one. 5) Learn: Learn about anything and everything. and I think it’s invaluable to me. I can relate to many. Be kind whenever possible. many diﬀerent people on diﬀerent levels. and to solidify that knowledge by practicing it afterwards. there’s two things I’m driving at. I can think in diﬀerent ways about diﬀerent things. Strive to be better and improve. because it’s useful to you. which doesn’t mean you should allow people to walk all over you. and come up with interesting conclusions. don’t be afraid to rethink them later. On the whole. so don’t get them confused. to anyone. You can repair mistakes you’ve been making with practice and guidance. is tolerance. Even fundamental beliefs of yours may change from time to time. I like learning about anything and everything. Note that I said ’whenever possible’. and will beneﬁt you in pickup and in other aspects of your life. like buying a woman dinner. because I’ve got some unresolved views on tolerance myself. Why not? When I say learn. Learn things in general. and my life is better for it. Secondly. Part of open-mindedness. for me. The students who see the most dramatic changes in their lives as a result of our programs are the ones who came into the programs with the greatest commitment to learn everything they could. politically correct trip right now.
Here’s what I want to do in this section: • Deﬁne what attractiveness is. After taking one of our programs. if you go back and pick one of those and work actively on improving it... and base proﬁciency are required in all ﬁve of these skills to truly succeed in this endeavor. • Identify how people initially evaluate another’s attractiveness on a snap judgement. At any time. they will continue to aid you and teach you as you continue to improve your skills. you will improve your life and your ability to pick up and date women. and that can cause a lot of confusion for some people on ’How to be attractive’. some people believe that they could never be attractive: Which might be the craziest thing I’ve ever heard. Attractiveness is inﬂuenced by a great deal of things. Work on them and your life will improve. many unconsciously. Those are my ﬁve ﬁrst things.Which can be downright confusing if you don’t know what that means. ’Realize you’re already attractive and you’ll be attractive’ . one of the best ways to ground your newfound pickup and dating skills in your reality is to hang out with other men who are good with women. as will results in all skill-based endeavors.think of creative solutions. 14 . In fact. • Give some practical examples and advice on how to become more attractive. or guys who are naturally good at attracting women. Seek out sources that can aid you. Anyone can apply them successfully. and to be happy in all of your life. Anyone can grasp these concepts. And then you hear things like. • Explain how beliefs and thought processes aﬀect the snap evaluation. These alone can improve your life. and ask for help when appropriate. 5 Becoming More Attractive An attractive person does a lot of things: Some consciously. Whether these guys are also former students of ours.
but can be very attractive on a level to a woman with an agenda of getting married and settling it down. For purposes of this book. Let’s look at one of those deﬁnitions of attract: To draw by appeal to natural or excited interest. That is. emotion. One of my girlfriends said it best: ’If I was going to get married right now. a man that is less willing to take large risks for potentially large rewards. and he’s yet to move on. she might look for a man who is very gentle and nurturing. her boyfriend isn’t a very attractive guy. That doesn’t quite do it. My girlfriend lives on the East Coast. I’m referring to things that are attractive in a way that leads to sex and relationships. Having or relating to the power to attract. yet these characteristics ARE attractive to women with a very speciﬁc preogative (such as getting married. 2.5.. I mean. or aesthetic sense. He still wants to marry me. Now. I’d marry my last ex-boyfriend. settling down. and he recently oﬀered to ﬂy into Boston and get a hotel just to meet up 15 . by all accounts and measures. Arousing interest or pleasure.’ Now. My general deﬁnition of attractive is something that is desirable on some level. They’ve been broken up quite a while. a man who will stick around and be a father ﬁgure for her children. I’m going to deal with the kind of attraction that’s most relevant to dating and socializing: When I refer to something or someone as being attractive from this point on. These qualities of stability aren’t universally attractive. By that. but I’m going to focus on what can cause sexual or romantic attraction. the ﬁrst interesting thing I’ll note from this: There are things that are not sexually or romantically attractive at all to women. that won’t help in building a good. if a woman is ready to settle down. healthy relationship (or having enjoyable casual encounters. raising a family).. Now we’re getting somewhere. a lot of things can be attractive on a lot of diﬀerent levels. her ex-boyfriend in California.1 What Is Atractive? Merriam-Webster gives two deﬁnitions: 1. if that’s what you’re after) .
and sometimes on what she hears (if she hears him before or simultaneous with seeing him). When a woman sees a man. but can be attractive in certain situations.with her: And that’s after she’d told him she wouldn’t have sex with him ever again! He’s not particularly attractive. Another great example would be a female ’gold-digger’: Something very attractive to her would be mass amounts of wealth. She could marry many more attractive men than him. but few men that she’d feel so secure in his job and faithfulness. she almost always makes a quick snap judgement about him. the person needs to be seen or touched. it all starts with the senses. but his loyalty (bordering on obsession with her) and his low-risk lifestyle would make him a pretty good husband. that’d be useful for establishing solid relationships and/or getting quality sex. it does not necessarily make the holder of the wealth more attractive except to people with certain agendas. That little aside there explains something major: There are many qualities that are not universally attractive. 5. anything I write about as being an attractive characteristic will be a trait that is desirable on an interpersonal level. it’s usually on what she sees with her eyes. or even the best way to get her in bed. objectively. An attractive person is just a person with a lot of those traits. a lot of behavior that’d turn oﬀ many girls would make a gold digger downright giddy. While wealth is rarely unattractive. Hearing also matters. That DOES NOT mean that throwing money around and spending it on these girls is building a solid relationship.2 How Do People Know If Something Is Attractive? Of course. If no other information about the guy is available. and my gal’s nothing if not pragmatic. The working deﬁnition of attractive for the rest of the post is something that is desirable on some level. Unless otherwise noted. Money is attractive by itself to most people. as do scent and taste. For physical beauty. At 16 .
. then get oﬀ the self-pity kick and make one small change. And a quick note on dress: Just coordinating the clothes you already own can make you look 10. within a few more seconds. well. Many.it could give you a signiﬁcant edge. turning your collar up or down as appropriate.000 times more well-dressed. very little if any conscious thought has been made. This is daunting to a lot of guys. positive adjustments are good. cutting your ﬁngernails.. Any small. lots of other things. etc). within reason.that point. as much as you can. Any one of: Doing your hair. and if you’re spending a lot of time reading articles on dating. You don’t need to do 30 things at once: One little change makes a little diﬀerence. many men do not want to hear this. The fact is. and it’s a lot easier to go from (at least) a neutral initial impression to a positive one than it is to go from a negative initial impression to a positive one. styling your hair (even really quickly with your hands). yes. putting on clothes that ﬁt your ﬁgure well. putting on clean clothes. ’I’m too unattractive to.. washing / cleaning your hands. and. check this out: You don’t need to completely overhaul yourself in one day. There’s probably at least a dozen little things you could do easily in the next week to become more physically attractive. ﬁguring out how many buttons on the top and bottom of a button-down shirt to unbutton. you can change a person’s initial perceptions of you with time. don’t play into a victim mentality: If you ﬁnd yourself thinking. buttoning or unbuttoning cuﬀs. washing your face. Whatever you do. taking a shower. cleaning your shoes (even if they’re sneakers or sandals). adjusting your clothing and playing around to ﬁnd a cool style (including tucking or untucking shirt tails. shaving or trimming / styling a beard or mustache.. try taking a 10 minute break to do even one small thing to up your appearance . But the matter stands: People quickly size you up. What’s that mean? Something we’ve all known for quite a while: Improve your physical appearance.’. and yet she’s made an immediate impression. Seriously. in fact. 17 . applying something like Chapstick or lip balm.
Thus. In this department. Of the ﬁve senses. I hope. and I’ve notably not mentioned touch much so far. brush your teeth and take care in that department. I eat a lot of onions. then get it oﬀ your mind. Between the kind of ethnic foods that I like and regular salads. don’t smell bad. I’ll address what a good tonality is momentarily. it’s nothing you should sweat. It can be a plus to smell ’good’. not because it isn’t huge. with either a good cologne or aftershave. and breathmints are a good quick ﬁx. You don’t want to taste poorly. I’m not going to talk about taste and smell for the rest of this article: Make sure you’re not bad in those departments. And of course. Either method can work. and then forget about it. regardless of how nonchalant. you’re in conversation with her. and don’t sweat this. but the modern. when I talk about how the information you’re giving oﬀ is processed (that’s when we’ll talk about body language. many touches. you’ll be kissing the girl of your dreams. western world has done a strange thing with touching: They’ve made it often more of a big deal than it really is. so I’m constantly battling that. Taste: Eventually. or by consciously focusing on it and adjusting it to its best level. you’re ﬁne. This is why socially learned people advocate having a strong tonality: Either naturally. Smell is something that’s easy to cover. and applied perfectly. by being and feeling comfortable. As long as you don’t smell bad. too. but because there’s not too much conscious eﬀort that we should or could put into it. but again. Whether you want to provoke conscious thought with your touch or not in a given situa18 . but within moments. or pleasant smelling soap and shampoo. either method will work perfectly. Not a problem: A little fruit at the end of a meal goes a long way towards ﬁxing your breath. can provoke conscious thought on her part. Be assured that touch is a huge part of the equation. make a little eﬀort to be good. I’ve laid out the base idea behind four of them. maybe make a little eﬀort to smell good. Before any of your words even register. if you’ve been waiting). the tone of your voice has huge impact on what you’re saying.Physical appearance largely dominates the initial ﬁrst impression.
his conception of ’being alpha’ and ’being a man’ 19 .’ Not bad advice.3 Beliefs And Filters If I got together a bunch of guys and asked them. But he’s saying that from the perspective he’s got. Be a man. So if he wants to share them. and that’s attractive. 5. Those are catchphrases that have some truth to them. • Things can be attractive in diﬀerent ways.’ And so on. None of those are wrong. I might hear. and has some relationships. knee-jerk reactions about whether a person is attractive or not come from our senses. ’Making her feel good is attractive. from acting like he’s acted like with women all his life. The guys he’s sharing with weren’t there for every girl he’s interacted with.tion is something worth a little thought. but in a scene like this one. They’ll be pretty complicated. So he says something like: ’Be alpha. the information from our senses is ﬁltered. After that. from the places he’s been. he’ll have a lot of insights. What we’ve established so far: • Attractive is something that’s desirable on some level to someone. or right. And this is where the confusion comes in: If a cool guy spends a lot of time socializing with women.’ I might hear: ’Acting like a man is attractive. so he needs to ’sum it up’ for them.’ I might hear: ’People want what they can’t have. Not bad at all.’ I might hear: ’An attractive guy doesn’t need her. and based on his unique experiences. and we’ll get to it momentarily. by and of themselves. he needs to break them down in a way that they can be understood. we’re largely dealing with being attractive in a way that’s going to help our romantic and sex livses. ’What makes a woman attracted to a man?’ I’d get lots of diﬀerent answers. but aren’t the whole picture. This is where things get complicated. • The very ﬁrst. If the man giving advice is a 35-year-old businessman in Italy. and don’t have his frame of reference.
Everything you perceive is ﬁltered through your beliefs.. which you now are. very. In the 1950’s in America. That’s just how it was. very diﬀerent from a 17-year-old Canadian high school kid’s idea if ’being alpha’ and ’being a man’. THEN you can consciously think about it. To illustrate the example. and men worked.is very. Can you see how it’d be diﬃcult to change your beliefs? To get to an idea. Like. If someone were to tell me that that’s the way the whole world should be run. for it to even become conscious thought. and that that is never wrong. very unlikely I could ever come to that belief: Because to even think about that idea. it’s very. or your beliefs are wired in a very good way as to allow you to make constant adjustments to them. let’s look beyond dating and sex: I. it can be very hard to change them. almost everyone raised in that area had some deep.... but the guys that the 17 year old Canadian is going to look up to is going to be very diﬀerent from the Italian guy. you wind up ﬁltering what you’re sensing through your beliefs. It goes like this: Sensory Input =⇒ Belief Filters =⇒ Conscious Thought You see something. deeply hold the belief that I should be free to share my opinions and logically debate them with whomever would like to hear and debate with me. or hear it. myself. in many areas it was completely assumed as a fundamental truth that women stayed home and raised children. feel physically repulsed at that idea. 20 . I’m repulsed when I hear about governments censoring their citizens.until you’re aware of the pattern. as crazy as it sounds in a diverse nation. you ﬁlter it through your beliefs. So let’s get to the heart of it: In every place I’ve been to. it’s largely true. or smell it. So unless you come into something with an open mind. it has to go through my beliefs: And I. literally.. Telling a woman that being a ’working mother’ was an option for her would be as alien as telling a Manhattan woman today that she needs to get married and start having children by 20. underlying core beliefs that were similar. Some things are going to be the same.
I can’t really tell you how anatomy works. a bit diﬀerently than guys with smaller upper arms. too) has a belief about what’s attractive. After you consciously adjust your walk for a short while. I’ve observed the pattern and even felt it myself when I was lifting weights. they’ll often parse over little details if they see that piece of the equation. and at least isolate yourself from them long enough to consider the ideas. it’ll become natural and you’ll need no more conscious thought in that department. What does this mean? You need to recognize any negative beliefs you may have about yourself. The belief in what’s attractive is interesting. but they’re a lot more ﬂexible than you might imagine. and aside from basic knowledge. I’m not a biologist. which is a good thing. then you’re walking like a guy who has ripped muscles. The diﬀerence is very small. They’re ingrained in you. Don’t let your beliefs stand in your own way. because the idea couldn’t even make it past their beliefs to be thought about.not just in terms of muscle mass. very small piece of an overall attractive 21 . largely by your upbringing and experiences. But one thing I CAN tell you is that if you adjust your walk ever-so-slightly. nor an exercise scientist. The arms thing is just a very. If a woman (or man. but the idea can’t make it through his beliefs without me making him recognize that his beliefs need changing. I have no idea why this is. It’s quite possible that they could never come to that belief. far before I logically convince him of the (relatively) simple fact the he’s attractive. 5.4 Some Practical Advice Here’s an example: Guys that have large biceps and triceps move their arms.Another example would be telling a devout religious person that God does not exist. Many times I’ll tell a student of mine that he’s attractive. but a well-muscled guy’s arms seem ’pushed out’ more than normal . when they walk. but just the way guys with larger arms move.
But more than anything. you’ll look more attractive. the belief that you’re attractive will smooth things down and make you more cool. Consciously manipulating your body language and movements slightly. can be a good thing while you get the hang of it. This is a good thing. it might not stick over a long course. you’ll have had plenty of time to attract her via more conscious processes that it won’t matter any more. have written a couple articles you might check out on having a good walk. stand. I. myself. Even still. If you walk. If you only ’turn your walk on’ when you’re out looking to meet women. on a casual glance. that’s great. Something I’ve noticed: If an average-looking girl wears an attractive girl’s clothes. People who feel they’re of high value carry themselves with their shoulders broad and their head up. People’s ﬁlters react based on what they’ve seen already. calm. and the 22 . But the fact stands: If you emulate a good behavior and that gets you in with one woman. you’ll be in with lots of women. This is true for tonality. If you synthesize a good behavior and make it who you are. If every attractive guy a woman’s ever known has walked and talked a certain way. If you watch attractive guys. really. wait. and if she is. they’ll have similarities between them. it gives you plenty of time to screen the girl if she’s compatible. there are ways that are attractive. and style. and comfortable: Being relaxed and knowing you’re attractive will make you have the body language of someone who is relaxed and attractive. smile. she’ll be attractive. While there isn’t ONE correct way to do any of these. too: She’ll start getting more attention. and move like an attractive guy.presence. body language. The emphasis on being cool. sit. almost universally. that so much of the game is based around getting ﬁve minutes of a woman’s attention so that you can show her who you really are. for a while. and carries herself like an attractive girl. an okay-looking guy walking and talking that way will appear attractive to her. It’s interesting. And it’s cyclical.
Filters: We all have instincts as to what’s attractive and not. Then their success REALLY takes OFF! The beliefs a guy carries with him translates into how he acts. so she’ll feel more attractive. regardless of what the societal deﬁnition of attractive is. Health is universally attractive on an instinctual level. And since she’ll feel more attractive. deep down. if you don’t believe you are attractive. and start truly acting attractive. you won’t be. It’s a cool thing I get to see when I teach: Often prior to taking a program. that you’re attractive. This could be any race of man and woman. though: If you believe you’re faking. and then they REALLY believe it. Emulation is okay.attention will be more positive. That knowledge alone will make you act like an attractive person. Faking can’t really work. she’ll carry herself well. ﬁnally. The same is true of men. Regardless of what you want to say. Then something just clicks on program and they start to really feel it. what should they guy do? Should he try to act the way she’d ﬁnd attractive? Or should he just BE attractive and KNOW he’s attractive? I ﬁnd the second way much easier. Any woman he meets will assess him based on her beliefs. But someone’s ﬁlters can override that: Let’s say a woman from an upper-class family sees a man of a race other than her own. in the Western world. this is largely being done away with: Though racism is still around plenty. if you will. Racist beliefs can be used as ﬁlters to ﬁlter guys out. she might let her societal ﬁlters override it. a guy will have gone through a lot of frustration. and they get that ﬁrst positive spark. This is true regardless of what the ﬁrst thing you like to say to a girl is. They worked hard. you should know. most women at least exercise their free23 . (Thankfully. Learning to be attractive. Even if the guy is physically ﬁt with shows all other signs of health and strength. So.
like. say. but he’d look rather skinny in a baggy sweatshirt. and said. and I’ve got small shirts with big sleeves that make my arms look tiny. most ﬁlters can be used to your advantage. Arms Bulging On Sleeves = Muscles = Healthy = Attractive It’s why even though you look similar on most days. and thus attractive. because he was right. and many.. I remember. A little eﬀort into your clothes can make you much more attractive. He was wearing a white T-shirt one day. dress is a really simple thing to help you stand out and be represented as physically ﬁt. many. and he pointed something out to me: He showed me the sleeve on his T-shirt. a boat with oars and such? I’m not sure exactly how the sport works. Instead. If you need to prove this..dom to try dating outside their race a few times in their lives. One cut of it is going to make her look elegant. but didn’t have large muscles the way a bodybuilder would. have a girl you know try on a few diﬀerent cuts of the ’classic little black skirt’ at a department store. many cuts are going to make her look not so good. ’Always try to get T-shirts that the sleeves are tight around your biceps. I’ve got large T-shirts with small sleeves and I look ripped in them. I have no idea why women enjoy shopping so much. He looked very toned. a very small cut of cloth can make you look more attractive. I once had a friend who rowed. That little thing can appeal to a mostly unconscious ﬁlter. But more important 24 . with as diﬃcult as it must be for them. He shared an interesting observation with me. Anyway. but thankfully. and even though styles of clothing can look very similar.) That’s a simple example of a negative ﬁlter.’ It was funny. The sleeves on your white cotton t-shirt can make the diﬀerence between you looking like you have biceps or not. at the beach. most ﬁlters aren’t as hard-line as the race one. another is going to make her look hot. but it was interesting to look at him: He was very toned and in shape. You know.
I’m so conﬁdent in myself (belief) that I rarely get afraid of anything. on a belief level. I stand strong. A few more dives jumps later and I was totally conﬁdent. can’t be seen by itself: But it translates into your actions. This is a conﬁdent action. I’m going to make a diﬀerentiation here: There’s conﬁdence as a belief. There’s conﬁdence in actions. it might change depending on the situation). I’d have been completely conﬁdent jumping oﬀ that cliﬀ (literally). Now. and command attention. even if you’re just emulating it. This ties into the bodylanguage piece: By moving like someone with conﬁdent bodylanguage. Conﬁdence in yourself. Even if you don’t have internal conﬁdence. It’s very fun and a little dangerous. speak clearly. I had no conﬁdence in the action. 25 . and she thinks he IS conﬁdent. Conﬁdence as a belief is conﬁdence in yourself and yourself and your abilities. and the beliefs they come from. Had I been completely sure that I was invincible. and I wasn’t sweating it at all. I’m so conﬁdent about where I’m going and where I’ve been in my life that I don’t even really fear death (at least in the abstract form. you’ll appear to have internal conﬁdence (the belief). It’s knowing your value is high and you’re awesome. It manifests itself in actions. This makes me appear conﬁdent in my actions. I muttered a quick prayer and just jumped oﬀ. a woman sees a man walking like he’s conﬁdent.t han clothes are attitudes. and it reﬂects your internal conﬁdence. The action itself is a slightly exaggerated walk. Have you ever been cliﬀ-diving? It’s where you jump oﬀ a cliﬀ of some height into very deep water. the belief. that’s ﬂuid and cool. Right now. will translate into conﬁdence in your actions. and. Conﬁdence in yourself. Conﬁdence is attractive. The ﬁrst time I did it. But I wasn’t quite at that point in my life.
able to bring other people up.. that’s good. you can work on emulating the behaviors someone with that belief would do. talk. The best thing you can do to help yourself reach a goal is ﬁnd a suitable belief. and make it one of YOUR beliefs. and. and it’s good to take action right away. What I want to do is help people. and be a good person by my standards.Thus. As for what your beliefs should be. help myself. The ﬁrst step is ﬁguring out two things: Who you want to be.. always be getting better in everything I do. as you grasp and REALLY REALLY believe your beliefs. 26 . I want to be someone who is knowledgeable about many things. In the meantime. and I need to cultivate a strong. eat. reworking your beliefs can take a while. Simply by walking attractive. worth knowing. he becomes attractive to her. I need to believe I’m attractive. These little things will be seen when a person meets me. and so on. you can start to create a cycle where you get more respect. What you want to do. so you feel more attractive. I want to live a life that’s comfortable without being excessive. shrug. drink. intelligent set of morals I can live by. and I want to form relationships with people where we can enrich each other’s lives. can you see what beliefs I should start to develop? I want to develop open-mindedness for my knowledge. perseverance for getting better. It’s the same for any attractive action: You can pinpoint what the action is and do it. and so on. BUT. that’s up for you to decide. Me. able to speak with anyone. Just reading my list. and in helping people. They’ll see the way I smile. you need to take it to the next level and ﬁnd the BELIEF that that action comes from. and I want a woman for me to be loyal to me. walk. But to really become good at the game. I want my relationships with women to be with women who are everything a man can ask for.
you’d feel more sincere. Relaxed and Slow. Likewise. start with one behavior they do. guess what? You just did another behavior that attractive people do. You will: 27 . naturally. you’ll feel more attractive. and that’d make you a bit more sincere. and watch as it sparks a cycle. As such. If you walk like an attractive guy. 2. And in doing so. That doesn’t mean try to pretend like you’re them: Instead. Modelling your behavior after the behaviors of people you want to be like can be helpful. because you felt attractive. If you are relaxed and conﬁdent you will naturally take on certain nuances of body language. you’ll get more respect from men and more attention from women. 6 Body Language The main charactersistics you want your body language to have are: 1. No weird jerky movements. But as an example. And suddenly.. As such. you’re walking like a cool guy and you’re smiling like the guy that owns the place. So you could focus on your listening. Then you get more respect and more attention.. and then a cycle has begun. and the cycle continues. let’s say you want to be more sincere: What’s a quick thing many sincere people do? Listen. No hesitation. many sincere people make eye contact. so you could try making eye contact more. Put your intentions out in the open for all to see. Big and Open.This article is about becoming more attractive. You’re well on your way to becoming attractive. and what’ll you do? I’m going to bet you’ll smile like you own whatever place you’re in.
Bad posture is a sign of low self-esteem. You want to avoid hard eye contact. because at ﬁrst your touches will often be rejected. You want to make your touch slow and conﬁdent: No tentativeness. warm eye contact. It is an invitation for her to follow you into your comfortable reality. • Stand up straight. Dont slouch. Look at her steadily are warmly. just lean back slightly. When you are seated. touch a woman in safe places. or her hand. Of course. Leaning back is not incongruent with direct game because it is not a sign of disinterest. err on the side of touching a woman too much rather than too little. Of course there are also factors speciﬁc to the girl. At ﬁrst. • Make steady. but a touch that you have to think about is better than no touching at all. just lean back slightly onto it. Some guys turn women oﬀ by touching them before the woman is comfortable with their touch. a touch should be spontaneous and you should not think about it. You will have to set aside your ego to do this. Leaning back shows that you are relaxed and comfortable with yourself and with the girl and her group. or too late. on her back. lean back in your chair. and appearing asexual. The same with when youre standing against something. only of relaxation. You can improve your looks tremendously just by improving your posture. but mainly it is your frame. her arm. but do this only after she is receptive to kino on safe places. or staring.• Lean back. eventually you want to escalate to non-safe places. and eventually women will crave your touch. Similarly. • Dont touch too early. The proper time to touch a woman is largely determined by your frame. then she will. you want to avoid darting eyes and looking around the room. Ideally. There are a few technical speciﬁcs to touching a woman. Good posture is a sign of conﬁdence and is attractive to women. 28 . if you do it with the conﬁdent expectation that she will enjoy the touch. This is part of the learning process learn from the experience. or looking at the ﬂoor it signals that you are insecure. Many more guys turn women oﬀ by not touching them at all. While you are learning.
Attitudes take time to develop. This attitude should be your end goal in your journey of self-improvement.’ You are an alpha male you set the social rules. 29 . assume that every girl who you talk to is attracted to you. ’Bbut what if other people see me talk to her?’ Who cares? Most of these people you are not ever going to see again. you should not see your approaching women as something you should be sneaky and ashamed about. Too many guys think.• Be completely relaxed. 7 Attitudes Your attitude should be that of an alpha male. All the others will want to be like you. Like leaning back. and you should act accordingly. and that every single person in the world likes you and wants to see you succeed. Assume that you will be successful in everything you do. since you believe you are an attractive male. Dont be concerned about ’Following social rules. And most importantly for dating and seduction. An alpha male does what he wants. so they can attract women regardless of what techniques they use. This is ridiculous. so why do you care what they think about you? And even if they are people who you do see again. you shouldnt be controlled by what they think. This should be the attitude you strive towards. but they are literally the key to everything with women. You should assume that you own the world. with no uptight or ﬁdgety movements. If you really believe a woman is attracted to you. so will conform to your rules. one hundred percent. you should not care what other people think when they see you approaching. not what others think he should do. Our main focus in our programs is establishing these attitudes in our clients. You are enriching the lives of every woman you approach. than she will be. First of all. It cant just be a insincere little aﬃrmation you repeat three times before you talk to a woman you really have to believe it. this shows that you are relaxed and comfortable. Second of all. not the other way around.
tactics. Many guys have problems opening girls on cold approaches . dancing in a loud club. For a woman in a loud club. your presence must be more commanding of her attention than shopping. and are repelled by it. You will notice as you improve your commanding presence that you can open women in situations which previously you thought were impossible. ﬂashing lights. For a woman on a cell phone. you will command the attention and of women with increasing ease. without even listening to what they have to say. and other guys. you need to be more commanding than the activity which she is engaged in.8 Commanding Presence What is a commanding presence? First of all. This is because they lack commanding presence. For a woman shopping. friendly woman would not give you her attention. People can pick up on this instantly. or even just walking in the other direction on the street. such as talking on a cell phone. or techniques at all. In order for a woman to stop and talk to you. They dont project dominance. guys who know sophisticated techniques will not have success with women because they dont have commanding presence women instantly write them oﬀ as losers. Commanding presence is extremely important in pickup and dating. you must command her attention more than the music. your presence will in 30 . Because you are so sure that you can command a womans attention. Commanding Presence is the ability to make people listen to and obey you because you project dominance and conﬁdence. commanding presence has nothing to do with gimmicks. to the point where you do not even consider the possibility that a normal. you must command her attention more than the person who she is talking to. So often.especially girls who are in diﬃcult logistical situations. They are not powerful enough to draw the woman away from whatever activity she was already engaged in. As you become more and more conﬁdent and dominant. they are unsure of whether or not people will listen to them and attach importance to what they say.
then she will sense that you really dont expect her to stop. 9 Vocal Tonality Another very important factor which will make a man more attractive is his vocal tonality. and look people straight in the eye. with bad posture. even the smoothest. Do you stand in a hunched over. most genuine. friendly eye contact. When you attempt to stop a woman and get her in a conversation. then she will sense the conﬁdence and authority in your voice. which are taught in our workshops and bootcamps. however. 31 . Here are some things you can do to improve your commanding presence: • Improve your tonality. and that you dont think its worth spending time making yourself look the best that they can. do you conﬁdently believe that she will talk to you? If you do. relax.. lean back. you want to avoid overcompensating and dressing like a clown. If not. Dont dress in a generic way. she wont stop. Are delivering your opener to stop her in a weak. This conveys that you think you are not attractive. Make warm. image. you can make anything seductive just by virtue of you saying it. but also. are you saying it slowly. tasteful clothes which give you a tight image and show that you treat yourself well. • Most important: Improve your beliefs. loudly and conﬁdently? • Improve your body language. timid voice? Or. and will get a weird vibe from you. opening lines are not going to work for you. If your tonality is not good. Dont dress like someone who doesnt pay attention to their looks. and by repeated successful experiences in social situations. • Improve your image. Thus. You can also improve your beliefs directly through various exercise to reframe your experiences positively. and she will stop. including improving your body language. and look down towards to ﬂoor? If so. and all the other things recommended in the body language section of this guide. take up space.turn become more and more commanding because of this. If your tonality it is great. Theres many things you can do to improve your beliefs. tonality. Find cool.
but a too quiet voice is easily ignored. err on the side of being too quiet. Another important aspect of your voice is its pitch. slow down the pace of your voice. but most guys talk too fast. women will be drawn in and entranced by your new. At ﬁrst it will seem ridiculous. You should also calibrate the pace of your speech to the situation. party atmosphere you want to talk slightly faster. 32 . in a daytime situation you want your voice to be loud. your voice will be drowned in the bass. deep and resonant. Most guys. In a high-energy. you want to talk especially slowly. you need to project your voice loudly enough to be heard clearly. however. where youre competing with loud music. In loud club situations. In the daytime. your tone should be slightly higher than in the daytime. This is what you should be aiming for in quiet situations. He draws you in with his slow rhythm and mesmerizing deep voice. In an intimate moment before a kiss. In order to make your voice more attractive. a too loud voice is seen as overcompensation.First. You want to strike a balance between being loud enough to be clearly heard. you now want to work on the speed of your speech. like you are talking in slow motion. With time. Again. you want to make your voice deep and resonant. This is because if you talk overly deeply in a club. So. A well-projected voice lets everyone around you know you think what you have to say is important. While your old. Project your voice from your diaphragm. Your tone still should not be ridiculously high. You want to convey complete relaxation and dominance. however. and not being overly loud. Once you have gotten into the habit or projecting your voice well. slow. fast-talking voice conveyed that you were hurried and uncomfortable. loudly and powerfully. and nobody will be able to hear you. relaxed pace of your voice. A high voice is viewed by women as weak and feminine. there is an optimum speed to be most seductive. conﬁdent and relaxed pace of speech. This is especially important in the nighttime. just a little high enough to be audible. Similarly. you will become habituated to the new. Think of the tone of a hypnotists voice.
10 Image and Stereotypes We’re all a mix of many diﬀerent things. No. 33 . But what if you’re short? What can be done about that? Well your height isn’t going to change. and give them feedback on their voice.. we coach all our clients in-ﬁeld. But I don’t think that’s really what you care about. ’tall’. ’young’. ’old’. Regardless of your height. Something Very Important: The image you put forward has to be stronger than any negative stereotypes about you. You probably don’t like every single thing about yourself. and have very hot girlfriends. and become even more loud. and the ways that they can improve on it.. ’skinny’. I shake my head. and a well-projected... captivating and fun tonality in the nighttime. We use tonality exercises in each one of our programs to achieve a seductive tonality in the daytime. Insert any of ’short’.. I’ve seen guys of all races get nervous and wonder if they can succeed. you can bed plenty of beautiful women. Read that again. ’fat’. Girls. So when I get the question ’Can I get success even though I’m ?’ . also insert every race .. what you care about is bedding beautiful women and getting plenty of respect out of everyone you meet. This is a common problem.In a loud club situation.yes. you want to make your voice slightly higher and faster. conveying energy and playfulness. In addition. Who does? Hopefully you’re trying to work past the things you don’t like and become the best person you can be. and people in general. will see diﬀerent parts of who we are.
He was a cool guy. can I get race of woman?’ Just last weekend. even. but his image is one of a certiﬁed. My image is not ’white’. ’He’s old’ ? No way! She thinks he’s a rockstar. then I’d be in trouble. If you’re short. ’Can I get white women even though I’m Asian?’ I was blown away .and I told him of course he could. you want to have some sort of powerful and positive image. Look at Hugh Hefner.The image you put forward has to be stronger than any negative stereotypes about you. I’d be superboring. but he had to have a stronger image than something generic. Hugh is a bazillion years old. A common question I get is. And successful businessman and very cool and fun guy to socialize with. I had a student ask an interesting question. What does this mean to you? The image you put forward has to be stronger than any negative stereotypes about you. 34 . good style. And yet he asked me. legitimate. Instead. decent looks. and seems fun and cool and successful. you don’t want people to think ’Wow. If the ﬁrst thing a woman thought when she saw me was ’This guy is white’. does she think. full-on playboy. he’s a short guy’ when they meet you. ’I’m race. You don’t want to give oﬀ a ’short vibe’. When a 20-year old woman sees Mel Gibson.
He had thick glasses and wore frumpled clothing and slouched over. Chinese maﬁa. One went to that gym. but he was *jacked*. This works for and against some races that are stereotypical as being powerful and masculine. white. On the other hand. dragon-tattooed guys.They’d buy into the stereotype that he’s asexual. I don’t have a suburban guy image. They called him ’the bull’. 35 . I knew a Chinese computer-programmer. Here’s what you need: The image you put forward has to be stronger than any negative stereotypes about you. Y’know. He was about 5’5. This guy had women all over him . He had no image.’ She thought ’He’s powerful’ or ’He’s a gangster’ or ’He’s buﬀ. Muscles upon muscles. ’He’s Asian. No joke. Whereas if you’re another race. The thing is. any image is stronger than the fact you’re white. But what if you’re not one of those? The sad reality is that some races have stereotypes attached to them in certain places.’ As an example.black. it might be a stronger image.Think typical ’suburban guy’. she didn’t think. let’s compare two Chinese guys I knew. and of course Asian as well. If you’re Caucasian in America. When any woman looked at one of these guys. latin. shaved heads. I called him ’el toro’ very. hot girlfriends and luxury cars and nice clothes and a ’Don’t mess with me’ look. Ripped. so women would lump him into the category of ’asexual Asian guy’ . very respectfully. Caucasian is the majority in America. I used to work out at a gym that had guys that looked to be Triads in them.
Thing was. In fact. Everybody’s got something that’s unappealing to some group of women. 36 . You’re either young or old or too skinny or too fat or too short or too tall or. You can bet your last nickel that I didn’t want people to think ’American’ right oﬀ the bat... I’ve been to parties where I was the only person in the room that didn’t speak ﬂuent Mandrin. and yeah. or Creole. he started to ’get it’. he was picking up girls of various races normally. Think on that.because The image he put forward was not stronger than the negative stereotypes around him.. No.’ When women would ask where I was from. something. then people will pick something arbitrary about you and assume the stereotypes. everyone knew I was white. By the end of his program. I’m still American. Tom Cruise is pretty short. then think of if you put oﬀ a short vibe. he didn’t identify with being a ’short guy’.. If you’re wondering. Hell. I’d tell them to guess. he acted like a highrollin’ playboy type. That means I was doing something right . and the women bought right into that. When I told this to my Asian student last weekend. ’Italy’. ’Am I too short?’ . Spanish.. He didn’t have a ’short vibe’. I’ve had students at short as 5’2. the shortest student I’ve ever had slept with 3 women within 2 months of meeting with me. I was getting a lot of ’Amsterdam’. I got to make a brief pass through France recently. I wanted women to think ’Wow. but I wasn’t ’the white guy’.. But I’d keep a warm smile and a good vibe.I didn’t put oﬀ the negative vibe associated with Americans in France. If you have a weak image. Cultivate an image for yourself. what a stylish powerful guy. I’ve been to parties where I was the only white person in the room. and ’Russia’. But it wasn’t what I put forward.
In the classroom seminar. and all the other topics mentioned above. your age.If you have a solid image. vibing. reports like this are only complements to our real-life programs. tonality. exclusive or open. and also to establish a good relationship. information you read on the internet is not a complete solution. You may even want personalized attention from real masters of pickup and dating. you need to master much more than this to escalate an interaction with a woman all the way to sex. Such a change may seem drastic to you. height. you need real-life experience in the ﬁeld. which are essential 37 . 11 The Next Step This article is not a complete guide to pickup and dating it is only the beginning. how you could ever possibly change into a truly attractive guy who can get any woman he wants? We believe in order to make such a change. image and style. Youll hear two of the worlds best pick-up artists and dating masters teach you about the basics of body language. if you are not currently having any success with woman. You may be asking yourself. But. but in order to make a real change. you are given the tools you need which will give you an edge on all other guys. and all those other things you have no control over . you will undoubtedly be well on your way. race. and take your game to the next level. as they coach you through diﬃculties you are having in all stages of your interactions with women. At best. Learning how to meet women eﬀectively is important. youll work with instructors Vincent and Sebastian in a small group setting. with her afterwards. The internet can help. At our Seminars and In-Field Workshops.They fade to black. By learning the attitudes and behaviors in this article. And you get the girls you want. and it is.
and years of frustration and loneliness from going home alone. detailing not only our fundamental methods of generating attraction and escalation. You will still need motivation and hard work to achieve success. If you check out our reviews. Yours Truly. feel free to drop us a line at our website. and boost your game to the next level in one weekend. you will see we care about your success and will give you personalized attention every step of the way. Also. providing you with the skills to meet and attract women anywhere. or holding an interesting conversation. The ﬁeld work will take place in both daytime and nighttime venues.the-approach. The groups are kept small as the student to instructor ratio is limited.for attracting women. We will point out your mistakes and sticking points. kissing a girl. be it opening. we will take you out into the ﬁeld and coach you interacting with women in real time.net. Vincent DiCarlo and Sebastian Drake Founders. Well even work with you on phone game. but also some brand new advanced concepts not found anywhere else. Well work with you on any component of the game where you need work. but if you have them the skills that you learn in the workshop can save you literally years of crashing and burning with women. night after night. visit our website. number closing. and give you targeted feedback. theApproach 38 . If youre interested in learning more about our programs. We wont just give you a bunch of techniques. You can beneﬁt instantly from our collective years of experience. http://www. be sure to check out our soon to be released e-book. anytime. After weve supercharged your game in the seminar. we change your core identity through working directly with your inner beliefs. If you have any questions.
He knows all about the learning process. It’s like you become a part of this exclusive secret society or something.their former clients.’ -Chad of Austin.his game is top-notch in all ways. I still correspond with them through email.. it will save me years of my time. Attached to this email are the pics in my car of the chick I met while we were ’in the 39 . but if I ever did get there. we share secrets and all the latest tricks of the trade and so on. If I did not do this I may or may not have gotten to the level of where I want to be. and I could not be happier.’ -Brian K. I have on my todo list since the seminar to email you a testimonial. CA ’Yoooo Vince! Wasup big man! You wont believe. of San Fransisco. It was great and I learned so much.one time watching Vincent. if nothing else. TX ’Sebastian and Vincent have completely diﬀerent styles from one another. of New York City ’Sebastian is one of the best pick-up artists I’ve had the pleasure of meeting . the proof is in the pudding. I always remember back ..12 Testimonials ’I was literally trusting these guys with my life. I dont think there is many things as valuable as this.I mean it was eﬀortless! Just knowing that these guys exist was enough to convince me to sign up. and both get the same amazing results using theApproach framework and concepts.. I came to the bootcamp with a completely open mind.. And there’s a whole underground network of guys they’ve trained in every city . but the list is way too long! LOL Well as far as results. I realized how easy it was to pick up girls who already had boyfriends or were married even . so that they can’t steal my girlfriend!’ -Tim S. Highly recommended.
And Im amazed with how those couple lines you advised me to say to past exs. It truly is a wonderful feeling that when a girl cancels on me now.ﬁeld’ at the mall. They also reminded me of all the positive things I have personality wise to oﬀer women. Not only did the workshop help me in going after any female I desire in my path. They identify with me and understand all of my concerns.. You can use anything I say in this email as my testimonial. but still keep them as a bootycall. who have a man. in my humble but accurate opinion. The hardest part was making the time with my schedule to hook up with her.. LOL. For example. They actually pointed out many advantages we as older men have with younger women. but its made me more successful in business too.worked!’ -Raj of New York City ’I feel I am in a unique situation. Their very smooth and subtle approach is well suited for older men. and the conversation exercises when I meet prospects (for business and pleasure!). J so as u can see Im a happy camper. Like the pauses between the ﬂow of my words when I do seminars. You guys are Hitch to the extreme! Forget reading books on this stuﬀ. I was blown away at how well their method works for someone like me. I took theApproach Bootcamp a few months ago and just recently did a one day refresher of personal coaching in Boston. In addition. since I am 45 years old and married. And if you saw me. no other method has made me learn more than yours of making us actually do the work out in the ﬁeld in real life situations. I dont even sweat it. you might not believe I pick up girls half my age. It took me the 2nd date to get in there. I can’t say enough great things about Vincent and Sebastian. my wife loves the changes she has seen in me. Now I have that buﬀer of ladies I can call on to hook up with. cause I have others in the pipeline waiting to meet me anyway. Although both guys are in their twenties. young women love older men if they have class and sophistication. not just theory. and is 40 .
but you’ll never reach the highest levels with your attitude. I found it unbelieveable when he told me how he used to look and act. and living my dream of teaching people to do better things. He asked me why any woman would be lucky to have me. he started going through Attitudes with me. I was a fat. Are you willing to change?’ I said yes. I took a bootcamp with two additional days of personal coaching and it paid oﬀ huge. It wasn’t on me either and I’m here right now before you. Which made me happy and which didn’t. dating beautiful and amazing women. Before I took the program. At the end of the ﬁrst day. Sebastian related his story to me. I said I didn’t. but I was serious about improving. He asked me if I liked myself. Are you willing to change how you think?’ I was! The ﬁrst day. I was feeling better. When I met Sebastian for my bootcamp. we started looking at which of my attitudes were good and which weren’t. ’Chance hasn’t been easy on you. He taught me for a bit longer. He 41 . I said she wouldn’t. MA ’I’m really glad I took theApproach. and it’s all golden. I was determined to get better. Now. then told me: ’I can tell you’re serious about success.’ -Vlad G of Boston. Do you want the truth?’ I did. ’I can teach you all the tech in the world. I can’t guarantee you’ll have the results I did. I told Sebastian I wanted to practice all night before I saw him tomorrow. Sebastian taught me about the ’Lottery of Attitudes’ and how where we’re born and stuﬀ that happens when we’re very little shape most people’s entire lives. and told me how he once was worse oﬀ than me in a lot of ways. poorly dressed loser.convinced the program has strengthened our relationship. He went on.
I was a bit frustrated at this part of the program since there’s so many skills. I said goodbye to Vin’s girlfriend at mid-day and we worked all on conversational skills.told me to hold on and got on his cell phone. I got a new haircut and Vin brought in his girlfriend of the time who worked in the fashion industry to help me get the most cutting edge style and ﬁnd good bargains at the same time. I was pretty sore still from the gym. Vincent TOTALLY changed up my style. The next morning. then started into the basics of approaching and initiating conversation. Things were going well. I practiced solo and women were opening up to me. but I felt good. 42 . Sebastian reinforced some of the attitudes he’d already worked on with me. It hurt a lot but it felt good too. As we were wrapping up day 3 Vin got a call and answered it. I liked what I saw. I went out with Sebastian’s trainer friend and we practiced after the program hours were over. and Sebastian said I was really talented for going at such a good pace. I met up with Vincent and we went shopping for clothes for me. I went to the gym with him and lifted weights and broke up a big sweat. I said hell yes. Sebastian asked if I wanted to work out in the morning. I was really happy with how I got dressed up and I was feeling really good in my new clothes. then more ﬁeldwork. I showered and came to day 2 of the program. taking me from beyond bad to looking really really sharp. then handed the phone to me. but Vin took good care of me and said it’s natural for it to take a while to seep in. I ﬂew through day 2. of course I do. and called a friend of his who is both a personal trainer and a former student. The next day. That night. I felt very comfortable with him the whole time and he made me feel really good.
cold reading. and other skills. and was doing much better. I got to see a couply demonstrations with Sebastian or Vincent explaining what the other was doing in real time. and attitudes. they’ll go two instructors to one student. I had learned how to approach and the execution behind good conversation. I called one of my female friends and she said I sounded totally diﬀerent 43 . I had already improved my health. He told me he’s happy to match the dedication level of the student and I was being very dedicated. At this point. and Sebastian said he needed a nap.He told me to get plenty of sleep that night and eat a good breakfast in the morning. We covered a wide range of subjects and then got out there. but a lot of times if Sebastian or he is free and in the same area. We broke from the gym a few hours before the program was going to start. Things were coming together great. I went in with Sebastian’s favorite opener on a girl in the cafe and we talked for two hours. style. qualifying. Vin had explained to me when I signed up that you can get 1:1 personal coaching time. looked better. I got her number when I had to leave for the start of the program! I met Sebastian and Vincent actually came along as well free of charge. I got four phone numbers and a kiss! Amazing! I felt better. touching. I met Sebastian before the program and we worked out together. He went and got some sleep. It was pretty cool to have him do that for me. The got into screening. I learned a lot of advanced techniques but I was able to start doing a lot right away. Well it was very cool having both guys. It was also cool to see how they worked together and got things going. Now it was time for the heavy stuﬀ. but I couldn’t help but go practice my developing skills in a bookstore. After we broke.
I got a few more numbers and another kiss. I moved a bit stiﬄy from the weights yesterday but it was all good. They did my ﬁnal debrief. I got a gym membership and I’m doing full body workouts three times a week. We did a little more ﬁeld work and things were going really well. I called the girl I met in the bookstore earlier that night. she’s all yours. I feel so much more happy and successful. I was really sore but it was a good sore.’ I went in and started running my game. I used some of the storytelling and screening techniques I had learned and demonstrated my interest in a good way. I looked great in my new clothes.. I came to the last of day of my personal coaching program. and they went over the full structure of a pickup together.’ As per Sebastian’s recommendation. answered all my remaining questions. I asked how and she said ’Totally alive. I was sore and I felt like my movements might’ve been kind of jerky from lifting weights but it didn’t even matter. Vin and Sebastian were both there again. He said ’Go. Sebastian taught the basics of good sex. A lot of women in my life that were looking right past me and taking me for granted now are trying to get with me. I’m actually looking to settle down once I ﬁnd the right woman. I felt tired but energized. They covered miscellaneous skills. and gave me exercises to do to keep getting better. At the end. It’s been three weeks and I’ve slept with three women. and I’m meeting so many more women. not a chasing way.. including the girl from the bookstore and the blond girl. The last day of my custom program. but right now I’m going to have some fun before I do. Things were so ﬂuid it was out of this world. Vin taught relationship skills. The program has been amazing to me. Haha too late! 44 .on the phone. I invited this beautiful beautiful blond girl back to my place for dinner and drinks. then Sebastian saw a really hot blond chick as we were ready to break.
motivating. Sebastian.’ -Phil Anderson. Vincent. MA 45 . empowering. You are gods among men. but if everyone can get even 1/10th of what I did. amazing performance.I’m so glad I took theApproach and I can’t thank Vincent and Sebastian enough. I don’t know if everyone can have my results. thank you. Life-changing. Newton. it’s worth every penny.
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