Creating An Attractive Identity

September 20, 2005

I theApproach: An Introduction By Dan Rose 3 3 4 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 5 5 6 7 7 8 8 8 9 9 14 15 16 19 21 27 29 30 31 33 37

1 Company Overview 2 What We Can Do For You 3 Our 3.1 3.2 3.3 3.4 3.5 3.6 II Programs theApproach StandardTM Official Workshop . . theApproach StreetGameTM Official Workshop theApproach BootcampTM Intensive Workshop theApproach Phone Coaching . . . . . . . . . theApproach Personal Coaching . . . . . . . . Ebooks, Audio Programs and DVDs . . . . . .

Creating An Attractive Identity

4 Getting Started 4.1 Five Things For Success In Life . . . . . . . . . . . . . 5 Becoming More Attractive 5.1 What Is Atractive? . . . . . . . . . . 5.2 How Do People Know If Something Is 5.3 Beliefs And Filters . . . . . . . . . . 5.4 Some Practical Advice . . . . . . . . 6 Body Language 7 Attitudes 8 Commanding Presence 9 Vocal Tonality 10 Image and Stereotypes 11 The Next Step . . . . . . . Attractive? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .


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Part I

theApproach: An Introduction By Dan Rose
1 Company Overview
theApproach is Vincent DiCarlo and Sebastian Dimitri Drake. Talk about masters. I’ve actually had the opportunity to spend some time learning from these guys in person. The things I have seen are unreal. Their methods of teaching are phenomenal, and their system is polished to a very high level of sophistication. They’ve spent years perfecting this discipline as both an art and science, and they’ve been teaching guys professionally for quite some time now. I will try and pass on some of their basic introductory topics to you right now. This book is not only meant to be an introduction to their concepts and techniques, but also as a prepatory guide for prospective students, so that they can maximize the learnings and improvements made on an actual live program. Vincent and Sebastian have written hundreds of articles on the topic of dating and seduction, and have given informal lectures in various cities around the world. Vincent is known in particular for systematizing and breaking down ’Natural Game’ and being able to transfer those qualities possessed by guys who are naturally good with women to his students. He was also the first to break down and outline the exact process of how to develop spontaneity from scratch. He has just finished working out various intention maps which lay out all of the key moments that shape and define the future development of a given sexual relationship, and is currently teaching these exclusively at live theApproach programs. Sebastian is known for his highly social and playful approach to the


and even had a few short flings. When I first joined theApproach team in late 2004. I knew they had an amazing track record with their students. most are currently getting laid anywhere from 100% . This was an area of my life that I was working on very dilligently. is ’How do you want to use this material?’ 2 What We Can Do For You We change men’s lives for the better in a dramatic way. most of my friends had trou4 . They have turned guys who were once shy virgins into complete playboys ’living the lifestyle’. Boy. tips and techniques for every possible situation. I thought I was doing pretty good. Seriously. I was getting plenty of phone numbers. and together they’ve got plenty of mindsets. Extremely satisfied and grateful. And they produce results. It’s all possible. and to be honest I was a bit skeptical. was I wrong. He is currently interested in something he calls The Array of Possibilities. and is in the process of designing methods for tapping into ANY woman’s given ideal and empowering his students with spectactular attitudes and beliefs. And they’ve also helped men find the women of their dreams. And I was doing alright. At the time. Keep an eye out for his upcoming full length ebook! Sebastian has turned out an extremely high percentage of successful students. I mean. Part of my job is to keep in touch with ex-students and track their progress. Nothing too spectacular. Both Vincent and Sebastian are literal walking encyclopedias of everything related to pick-up. I wasn’t sure what to expect. and I really felt I had reached the limit of how much progress was possible. The real question however. seduction and dating. I had been going out specifically to meet women a few nights a week.400% more than they were pre-workshop.

Effortless. And everything changed. Therefore both workshop and seminar space is limited. and it feels great helping others. The StandardTM has proven itself time and time again with the remarkable success of every client who completes the training. Spend an upwards of 30-35 hours with two 5 . They gave me better ways of doing things. And then I saw Vincent and Sebastian. seduction and dating instruction. And it was only the beginning. MUCH better. I’ve never had so much fun doing anything else. but I began to subconsciously absorb their attitudes and beliefs. We witness tremendous change in our students.1 Our Programs theApproach StandardTM Official Workshop theApproach’s World-Class Small Group Workshops represent the highest level of integrity when it comes to live pick-up. They made the impossible look easy. And I got better. It’s genuinely a blast. Just watching them that first day not only shattered my reality of what it truly means to be a ’pick-up artist’. Now I am part of the team. which allows you the greatest opportunity to get personalized attention and make major and paradigm-shifting changes and realizations. 3 3. They started correcting my mistakes. The seminars are designed to be highly personalized and interactive. They pointed out subtle behaviors of mine that were holding me back.ble even talking to women they didn’t know. Seminars are taught exclusively by theApproach founders Vincent DiCarlo and Sebastian Drake. theApproach live program consists of small-group classroom style seminars and in-field workshops. Carefree.

night after night. or even bookstores? Do you see them in train stations. Workshops take place almost entirely in the field with intensive real- 6 . Workshop groups are limited to a 3:1 student to instructor ratio.of the top recognized pickup gurus in the world. Introducing: theApproach StreetGameTM Official Workshop Learn what it takes to enter the world of women’s fantasy. and they continue to develop and systematize them further. walking down the street.2 theApproach StreetGameTM Official Workshop Do you see beautiful women in the daytime. wishing. and hoping for the exact same thing? Only in the movies? Think again. Their teaching methods are just as refined as their skills with women.. they are eagerly anticipating it! theApproach StreetGameTM Workshops are exclusive workshops aimed at the advanced level students who want to take their daytime pick-up skills to top level. you will receive highly constructive feedback in order to address those things that are currently holding you back from your desired success. destroy negative thinking and eliminate self-imposed limitations. theApproach programs zero in and focus on each student to determine what your inherent personality traits are and develop them in the most attractive way possible. but we will improve your attitude and mindsets using interactive exercises which streamline your thought patterns. In addition. in malls. Not only will we provide you with the neccessary tools for the tricky situations and challenges you will encounter.. 3. coffee shops or anywhere for that matter? Would you like to have your pick of these same women for a romantic encounter? Did you know that these women are wanting. Realize that 90% of the women you see are not only open to having a sameday intimate connection.

help is still available via theApproach Phone Coaching. Bookstores. Phone coaching is completely personal. which will lead to more success in the future. Keep up on all the latest concepts and ideas or even get tailored advice to a specific situation. which will in turn make you even more confident. Phone coaching is completely personalized to the individual student.4 theApproach Phone Coaching Even if you can’t make it to one of our personalized workshops. Malls. • Get Coaching to Attract that Special Girl 7 . you youll get a massive amount of experience in one weekend. Busy Streets. You can work on any area of your game for as long as you feel you need to.time coaching and training. You can customize the bootcamp entirely to what you want. Speak directly with either Vincent or Sebastian and get advice right before your important date.3 theApproach BootcampTM Intensive Workshop If you theApproach Standard and StreetGame Workshops sound great. learn all the newest techniques and even get specific exercises to stay on the path to mastery. and we’ll never share your information with anyone. the ultimate in personalized attention.Train Stations are all fair game! 3. and we can track your progress over the long term. and youll see each group of women which you engage becoming progressively more attracted to you than the last. Youll become more confident and achieve more success with women that weekend. Youll get incredibly detailed feedback on your interactions. but youd like to do even MORE to improve your game. check out our Bootcamp program. Grocery Stores. This is for the guys who are really serious about taking their game to the next level youll be working one-on-one with an instructor at all times. confidential and secure. all the field work will take place in the venues YOU prefer. The bootcamp takes place almost entirely in-field. Workshop students can even follow up their programs to stay sharp. 3.

6 Ebooks. personal coaching is now available to the general public. Be sure to sign up for our newsletter list and stay current with not only our newest tips and techniques but also our important announcments! 8 . Audio Programs and DVDs Expect a complete line of Ebooks. theApproach personal coaching is held to the same standard as our other workshop programs and has turned out some highly successful clients. get critiqued on your body language.5 theApproach Personal Coaching Once offered as an additional option to our workshop clients.• Learn All the Latest Concepts and Techniques • Follow Up On Your Workshop Program to Stay Sharp • Take your Existing Game to the Next Level • Get Personalized Coaching Even If You Can’t Make A Workshop • Talk Directly with Vincent and Sebastian • Get Specific Exercises and Assignments Custom Tailored 3. theApproach Personal Coaching is currently offered in Boston or New York City. Spend a day with Vincent or Sebastian any time your schedule will allow. 3. We understand our clients are busy people with a lot going on in their lives. Brush up on your conversational skills. and is a great way to keep your skills sharp after taking a full program. Audio Programs and DVD’s from theApproach. or even get a fashion makeover.

The criticals. you will do the following three things. 4) Stay open-minded.Part II Creating An Attractive Identity 4 Getting Started When it comes down to it.1 Five Things For Success In Life If you truly believe you are attractive. However. If you can manage those five things. The essentials. 5) Learn. all of your success in attracting women is dependent on having both positive beliefs about yourself and proper execution of techniques. after a solid base in those five things. Those are the first three. Now. you go out and start actively socializing. 1) Like yourself. let me break them down a little. which are necessary for success in dating or any other area of your life. 3) Have fun. while those first three are critical for just about all parts of a good life. you’ll be on your way. and throw in a some advanced 9 . 4. With those three. you can do anything. If. you’ll be able to achieve an incredible social and sex life. the next two are also very useful. That’s it. with the goal of eventually becoming a person who truly believes he is attractive. Those are things we aim to develop through our behaviors and actions. and just those three. Techniques are used as a way of emulating a person who truly believes he is attractive. 2) Be confident.

a better razor. I’m an American. people are often put down. They’re constantly taught to seek validation. but at the same time. but so difficult. people are given a billion reasons not to like themselves.discussion.’ The media constantly draws and redraws a fake norm that people should strive to achieve. Consider that. You need to accept every part of yourself. You need to like yourself as a person. Basics of self-esteem are taught throughout school and by parents. the new soda that’s got a great taste while being very low in carbs. In short. the most fashionable suit. You’ll be happier with a faster car. Here’s some random points I’m just going to throw out. reasoning it off as ’kid stuff.. There’s a happy feel-good message of ’Everyone is a special and unique snowflake’ that’s said in elementary school. and are ostracized if they deviate from it. Parents. People are told they can’t be happy without stuff. and insecurities are played upon on a daily basis. we’re given a double standard from birth. It’s not allencompassing. and authorities often turn a blind eye to bullying. 1) Like yourself: The root cause of everything good that can ever happen. which is promptly mocked and satirized. Here in the U. In countries based around consumption. even the parts you don’t like (which doesn’t mean don’t try to change for the better!) For all you analytical folk: There is not a single advantage to disliking yourself. but it’s an idea.. the idea of non-satiation rules supreme.S. What do I mean by ’like yourself?’ It’s so simple. and people are told to be never satisfied. and 10 . Alright. For all you emotional folk: Your whole life will be better and you will feel stronger and more alive if you like yourself. teachers..

At the same time. but when I caught on. I know that anything I don’t know or can’t do. ’Damn. If you act confidently. Confidence. But more importantly. I think people trying to explain confidence is where a lot of the rhetoric out there came from. I can’t tell you exactly what confidence will be to you. Arguably the single most important interpersonal skill. It precedes and precludes almost all good things in life.. I could. it became sickening. and often can’t realize that they. how to do that? There are many ways. Strive for improvement. I used to say things like. and defeating them. I really did believe it. you’re the only you you’ve got. With practice.told not to decide for themselves.. in fact. I didn’t even realize I was doing it for so long. it’s about fighting my fears when they come up. some of which are included in this guide. 2) Be confident: The world is yours for the taking. I genuinely came to like myself. I hate myself. Now you’re aware of some of what’s going on. but it’s convoluted. For me. most people think they like themselves when asked. I screwed up again. but after I’m trying my best. I’d say it so much without even recognizing it.’ in my head. It’s about using my abilities as well as I can. including good relationships with other people and good sex with beautiful women. I know I’ll do the best job possible. everything from business to family to relationships to (yes) pickup will go more smoothly. many good things about myself. so why 11 . What is confidence for me? It’s knowing that I have lots of ability and infinite potential. with teaching. I know I’ve got skills that I’ve honed to a precise degree and I can use them decisively. It’s critical. My breakthrough came when I realized there were many. Most of it’s right. Now. I move decisively. but you’ll know it. don’t... but like and accept yourself. one way is to realize that there is no reason not to like yourself.

you’ve got enjoy what you’re doing and spending time with women and people.’ I think that those three mindsets are pretty much necessary for a truly happy life. Your results will be infinitely better if you’re having fun. So remember: Like yourself. So. If you want to do bars. you’ve got to have fun doing the whole process. Aside from the fact that your time is valuable. This is key to true success in anything. you should always 12 . If you go out with a friend whos acting as your wingman. or you like self-improvement.. This is as much a life skill as a pickup skill. you’ve got to enjoy bars. those are my ’primary three. you’ve got to like him and like spending time with him. You’ve got to have fun socializing. it doesn’t matter. decisively after I’ve picked the best course. To truly be good at attracting and seducing women. From the first approach to full sexual intimacy.doubt myself? I act quickly. and improvement in any of those three areas will translate to improvements EVERYWHERE else in your life. Anyone can improve in those three areas.. and no matter what happens. If you want to do work in nightclubs.. 4) Stay open-minded: Consider and reconsider everything. Open-mindedness is considering and reconsidering anything and everything. and have fun. 3) Have fun: If you’re not having fun doing something. be confident. There is no failure: There is only success and learning.. you’ve got to have fun going out to nightclubs. This is because I know I have ability and infinite potential. It could be that you like the music of where you’re at. or you like karaoke at the place you’re at. or that you like going out with your friends that came with you. you’ll have enjoyed yourself. Just have fun. It doesn’t matter how or what’s fun about what you’re doing.

because I’ve got some unresolved views on tolerance myself. though. 5) Learn: Learn about anything and everything. and come up with interesting conclusions. for me. On the whole. is actually unrelated to true kindness and tolerance. Why not? When I say learn. Strive to be better and improve. Try to 13 . like buying a woman dinner. Kindness is not subservience or supplication. to anyone. I can think in different ways about different things. don’t be afraid to rethink them later. The students who see the most dramatic changes in their lives as a result of our programs are the ones who came into the programs with the greatest commitment to learn everything they could. there’s two things I’m driving at. which doesn’t mean you should allow people to walk all over you. many different people on different levels. I like learning about anything and everything. You can repair mistakes you’ve been making with practice and guidance. Be kind whenever possible. When you do not achieve what you set out to achieve. is tolerance. and my life is better for it. learn from it. I’m not going to go on a feel-good. and to solidify that knowledge by practicing it afterwards. learn as you do. I like to live and a promote a live-and-let-live philosophy. Learn things in general. I know about all sorts of little interesting things. Be willing to rethink what kindness really is from time to time: It’s possible that some things the media raises you to think are good and kind acts. and will benefit you in pickup and in other aspects of your willing to consider a new point of view or rethink an old one. Even fundamental beliefs of yours may change from time to time. and can talk to them about it. and even if you can’t accept some things at this time. I can relate to many. Part of open-mindedness. Secondly. regardless of who they are and what they do. and I think it’s invaluable to me. so don’t get them confused. Note that I said ’whenever possible’. because it’s useful to you. politically correct trip right now.

and ask for help when appropriate. Here’s what I want to do in this section: • Define what attractiveness is. ’Realize you’re already attractive and you’ll be attractive’ . Anyone can grasp these concepts. Attractiveness is influenced by a great deal of things. • Identify how people initially evaluate another’s attractiveness on a snap judgement. one of the best ways to ground your newfound pickup and dating skills in your reality is to hang out with other men who are good with women. 14 . Those are my five first things. In fact. you will improve your life and your ability to pick up and date women.. At any time. Whether these guys are also former students of ours. or guys who are naturally good at attracting women. if you go back and pick one of those and work actively on improving it. • Give some practical examples and advice on how to become more attractive.Which can be downright confusing if you don’t know what that means. and base proficiency are required in all five of these skills to truly succeed in this endeavor. 5 Becoming More Attractive An attractive person does a lot of things: Some consciously.. as will results in all skill-based endeavors. some people believe that they could never be attractive: Which might be the craziest thing I’ve ever heard. After taking one of our programs. • Explain how beliefs and thought processes affect the snap evaluation. Anyone can apply them successfully. Seek out sources that can aid you. they will continue to aid you and teach you as you continue to improve your skills. Work on them and your life will improve. and to be happy in all of your life. And then you hear things like. and that can cause a lot of confusion for some people on ’How to be attractive’. These alone can improve your life.think of creative solutions. many unconsciously.

He still wants to marry me.1 What Is Atractive? Merriam-Webster gives two definitions: 1. healthy relationship (or having enjoyable casual encounters. settling down. These qualities of stability aren’t universally attractive.5. a lot of things can be attractive on a lot of different levels. I’d marry my last ex-boyfriend. her ex-boyfriend in California. and he’s yet to move on. a man who will stick around and be a father figure for her children. she might look for a man who is very gentle and nurturing. Arousing interest or pleasure. a man that is less willing to take large risks for potentially large rewards. I’m referring to things that are attractive in a way that leads to sex and relationships. I’m going to deal with the kind of attraction that’s most relevant to dating and socializing: When I refer to something or someone as being attractive from this point on. I mean. raising a family).’ Now. if that’s what you’re after) . if a woman is ready to settle down. but I’m going to focus on what can cause sexual or romantic attraction. and he recently offered to fly into Boston and get a hotel just to meet up 15 . That is. They’ve been broken up quite a while. but can be very attractive on a level to a woman with an agenda of getting married and settling it down.. Having or relating to the power to attract. For purposes of this book. the first interesting thing I’ll note from this: There are things that are not sexually or romantically attractive at all to women. That doesn’t quite do it. My general definition of attractive is something that is desirable on some level. My girlfriend lives on the East Coast. Let’s look at one of those definitions of attract: To draw by appeal to natural or excited interest. By that. One of my girlfriends said it best: ’If I was going to get married right now. by all accounts and measures. that won’t help in building a good. 2. or aesthetic sense. Now.. Now we’re getting somewhere. emotion. yet these characteristics ARE attractive to women with a very specific preogative (such as getting married. her boyfriend isn’t a very attractive guy.

When a woman sees a man. Unless otherwise noted. anything I write about as being an attractive characteristic will be a trait that is desirable on an interpersonal level. it all starts with the senses. and my gal’s nothing if not pragmatic. she almost always makes a quick snap judgement about him. While wealth is rarely unattractive. At 16 . Money is attractive by itself to most people. That little aside there explains something major: There are many qualities that are not universally attractive. a lot of behavior that’d turn off many girls would make a gold digger downright giddy. For physical beauty.2 How Do People Know If Something Is Attractive? Of course. That DOES NOT mean that throwing money around and spending it on these girls is building a solid relationship. it’s usually on what she sees with her eyes. and sometimes on what she hears (if she hears him before or simultaneous with seeing him). Hearing also matters. but his loyalty (bordering on obsession with her) and his low-risk lifestyle would make him a pretty good husband. but can be attractive in certain situations. An attractive person is just a person with a lot of those traits. it does not necessarily make the holder of the wealth more attractive except to people with certain agendas. objectively. Another great example would be a female ’gold-digger’: Something very attractive to her would be mass amounts of wealth. If no other information about the guy is available. the person needs to be seen or touched. She could marry many more attractive men than him. as do scent and taste. The working definition of attractive for the rest of the post is something that is desirable on some level. that’d be useful for establishing solid relationships and/or getting quality sex.with her: And that’s after she’d told him she wouldn’t have sex with him ever again! He’s not particularly attractive. or even the best way to get her in bed. but few men that she’d feel so secure in his job and faithfulness. 5.

But the matter stands: People quickly size you up. Seriously. within reason. putting on clothes that fit your figure well. and it’s a lot easier to go from (at least) a neutral initial impression to a positive one than it is to go from a negative initial impression to a positive one.000 times more well-dressed. ’I’m too unattractive could give you a significant edge. washing / cleaning your hands. yes. The fact is. Whatever you do. There’s probably at least a dozen little things you could do easily in the next week to become more physically attractive.. many men do not want to hear this. This is daunting to a lot of guys. What’s that mean? Something we’ve all known for quite a while: Improve your physical appearance. cutting your fingernails.’. turning your collar up or down as appropriate. and yet she’s made an immediate impression. washing your face. then get off the self-pity kick and make one small change. Any small. shaving or trimming / styling a beard or mustache. cleaning your shoes (even if they’re sneakers or sandals). taking a shower. positive adjustments are good. And a quick note on dress: Just coordinating the clothes you already own can make you look 10. check this out: You don’t need to completely overhaul yourself in one day. figuring out how many buttons on the top and bottom of a button-down shirt to unbutton. as much as you can.that point. very little if any conscious thought has been made. buttoning or unbuttoning cuffs. you can change a person’s initial perceptions of you with time.. styling your hair (even really quickly with your hands). applying something like Chapstick or lip balm. and if you’re spending a lot of time reading articles on dating. lots of other things. try taking a 10 minute break to do even one small thing to up your appearance . You don’t need to do 30 things at once: One little change makes a little difference... 17 . well. in fact. adjusting your clothing and playing around to find a cool style (including tucking or untucking shirt tails. etc). don’t play into a victim mentality: If you find yourself thinking. putting on clean clothes. within a few more seconds. Any one of: Doing your hair. Many. and.

make a little effort to be good. can provoke conscious thought on her part. Whether you want to provoke conscious thought with your touch or not in a given situa18 . with either a good cologne or aftershave. I hope. so I’m constantly battling that. brush your teeth and take care in that department. I’m not going to talk about taste and smell for the rest of this article: Make sure you’re not bad in those departments. if you’ve been waiting). but again. regardless of how nonchalant. when I talk about how the information you’re giving off is processed (that’s when we’ll talk about body language. maybe make a little effort to smell good. and I’ve notably not mentioned touch much so far. Between the kind of ethnic foods that I like and regular salads. it’s nothing you should sweat. you’re in conversation with her. You don’t want to taste poorly. I eat a lot of onions. but within moments.Physical appearance largely dominates the initial first impression. As long as you don’t smell bad. or by consciously focusing on it and adjusting it to its best level. you’ll be kissing the girl of your dreams. then get it off your mind. And of course. Be assured that touch is a huge part of the equation. Not a problem: A little fruit at the end of a meal goes a long way towards fixing your breath. Taste: Eventually. too. you’re fine. many touches. In this department. by being and feeling comfortable. Of the five senses. western world has done a strange thing with touching: They’ve made it often more of a big deal than it really is. and don’t sweat this. It can be a plus to smell ’good’. either method will work perfectly. the tone of your voice has huge impact on what you’re saying. and then forget about it. Either method can work. but because there’s not too much conscious effort that we should or could put into it. Smell is something that’s easy to cover. but the modern. Thus. and breathmints are a good quick fix. I’ll address what a good tonality is momentarily. This is why socially learned people advocate having a strong tonality: Either naturally. Before any of your words even register. or pleasant smelling soap and shampoo. I’ve laid out the base idea behind four of them. don’t smell bad. not because it isn’t huge. and applied perfectly.

but in a scene like this one. If the man giving advice is a 35-year-old businessman in Italy. and don’t have his frame of reference. • The very first. They’ll be pretty complicated. The guys he’s sharing with weren’t there for every girl he’s interacted with. he’ll have a lot of insights. ’Making her feel good is attractive. and has some relationships. ’What makes a woman attracted to a man?’ I’d get lots of different answers. from acting like he’s acted like with women all his life.’ I might hear: ’Acting like a man is attractive. and based on his unique experiences. or right. So if he wants to share them.’ I might hear: ’People want what they can’t have. and we’ll get to it momentarily. What we’ve established so far: • Attractive is something that’s desirable on some level to someone. and that’s attractive. This is where things get complicated.tion is something worth a little thought. And this is where the confusion comes in: If a cool guy spends a lot of time socializing with women. Not bad at all. Those are catchphrases that have some truth to them.’ Not bad advice. • Things can be attractive in different ways. by and of themselves. After that. I might hear.’ And so on. But he’s saying that from the perspective he’s got. we’re largely dealing with being attractive in a way that’s going to help our romantic and sex livses.’ I might hear: ’An attractive guy doesn’t need her. knee-jerk reactions about whether a person is attractive or not come from our senses. so he needs to ’sum it up’ for them. from the places he’s been. but aren’t the whole picture. None of those are wrong. the information from our senses is filtered.3 Beliefs And Filters If I got together a bunch of guys and asked them. 5. Be a man. So he says something like: ’Be alpha. he needs to break them down in a way that they can be understood. his conception of ’being alpha’ and ’being a man’ 19 .

you wind up filtering what you’re sensing through your beliefs. or smell it. as crazy as it sounds in a diverse nation. for it to even become conscious thought. it’s very. in many areas it was completely assumed as a fundamental truth that women stayed home and raised children. underlying core beliefs that were similar. or your beliefs are wired in a very good way as to allow you to make constant adjustments to them. myself.. let’s look beyond dating and sex: I. feel physically repulsed at that idea. and that that is never wrong. Can you see how it’d be difficult to change your beliefs? To get to an idea.. THEN you can consciously think about it. but the guys that the 17 year old Canadian is going to look up to is going to be very different from the Italian guy. very unlikely I could ever come to that belief: Because to even think about that idea. It goes like this: Sensory Input =⇒ Belief Filters =⇒ Conscious Thought You see something. it’s largely true. literally. which you now are. So unless you come into something with an open mind. In the 1950’s in America. deeply hold the belief that I should be free to share my opinions and logically debate them with whomever would like to hear and debate with me. Everything you perceive is filtered through your beliefs.. Like. very. 20 . To illustrate the example. you filter it through your beliefs. almost everyone raised in that area had some deep. If someone were to tell me that that’s the way the whole world should be run. it has to go through my beliefs: And I..until you’re aware of the pattern. Some things are going to be the same. Telling a woman that being a ’working mother’ was an option for her would be as alien as telling a Manhattan woman today that she needs to get married and start having children by 20. very different from a 17-year-old Canadian high school kid’s idea if ’being alpha’ and ’being a man’. it can be very hard to change them. or hear it. So let’s get to the heart of it: In every place I’ve been to. and men worked. I’m repulsed when I hear about governments censoring their citizens. That’s just how it was.

Another example would be telling a devout religious person that God does not exist.not just in terms of muscle mass. The belief in what’s attractive is interesting. After you consciously adjust your walk for a short while. But one thing I CAN tell you is that if you adjust your walk ever-so-slightly. very small piece of an overall attractive 21 . but they’re a lot more flexible than you might imagine. too) has a belief about what’s attractive. and aside from basic knowledge. Many times I’ll tell a student of mine that he’s attractive. The difference is very small. nor an exercise scientist. I’m not a biologist. I’ve observed the pattern and even felt it myself when I was lifting weights. What does this mean? You need to recognize any negative beliefs you may have about yourself. it’ll become natural and you’ll need no more conscious thought in that department. I have no idea why this is. far before I logically convince him of the (relatively) simple fact the he’s attractive. they’ll often parse over little details if they see that piece of the equation. 5. It’s quite possible that they could never come to that belief. which is a good thing.4 Some Practical Advice Here’s an example: Guys that have large biceps and triceps move their arms. but just the way guys with larger arms move. and at least isolate yourself from them long enough to consider the ideas. but a well-muscled guy’s arms seem ’pushed out’ more than normal . because the idea couldn’t even make it past their beliefs to be thought about. Don’t let your beliefs stand in your own way. I can’t really tell you how anatomy works. If a woman (or man. then you’re walking like a guy who has ripped muscles. They’re ingrained in you. largely by your upbringing and experiences. The arms thing is just a very. a bit differently than guys with smaller upper arms. but the idea can’t make it through his beliefs without me making him recognize that his beliefs need changing. when they walk.

body language. And it’s cyclical. stand. People’s filters react based on what they’ve seen already. you’ll look more attractive. there are ways that are attractive. an okay-looking guy walking and talking that way will appear attractive to her. and style. sit. can be a good thing while you get the hang of it. and comfortable: Being relaxed and knowing you’re attractive will make you have the body language of someone who is relaxed and attractive. Something I’ve noticed: If an average-looking girl wears an attractive girl’s clothes. you’ll have had plenty of time to attract her via more conscious processes that it won’t matter any more. that so much of the game is based around getting five minutes of a woman’s attention so that you can show her who you really are. she’ll be attractive. and move like an attractive guy. But the fact stands: If you emulate a good behavior and that gets you in with one woman. But more than anything. have written a couple articles you might check out on having a good walk. Consciously manipulating your body language and movements slightly. myself. the belief that you’re attractive will smooth things down and make you more cool. If you synthesize a good behavior and make it who you are. you’ll be in with lots of women. that’s great. It’s interesting. and carries herself like an attractive girl. smile. it gives you plenty of time to screen the girl if she’s compatible. and the 22 . they’ll have similarities between them. If you walk. The emphasis on being cool. If you watch attractive guys. If you only ’turn your walk on’ when you’re out looking to meet women. really. it might not stick over a long course. on a casual glance. and if she is. calm. too: She’ll start getting more attention.presence. for a while. wait. This is a good thing. Even still. I. almost universally. People who feel they’re of high value carry themselves with their shoulders broad and their head up. While there isn’t ONE correct way to do any of these. This is true for tonality. If every attractive guy a woman’s ever known has walked and talked a certain way.

(Thankfully. Emulation is okay. you won’t be. you should know. Learning to be attractive. what should they guy do? Should he try to act the way she’d find attractive? Or should he just BE attractive and KNOW he’s attractive? I find the second way much easier. Any woman he meets will assess him based on her beliefs. if you don’t believe you are attractive. Filters: We all have instincts as to what’s attractive and not. This is true regardless of what the first thing you like to say to a girl is. and then they REALLY believe it. though: If you believe you’re faking. So. in the Western world. And since she’ll feel more attractive. That knowledge alone will make you act like an attractive person. It’s a cool thing I get to see when I teach: Often prior to taking a program. Even if the guy is physically fit with shows all other signs of health and strength. most women at least exercise their free23 . and start truly acting attractive. that you’re attractive. so she’ll feel more attractive. The same is true of men. This could be any race of man and woman. if you will.attention will be more positive. she might let her societal filters override it. and they get that first positive spark. Regardless of what you want to say. Racist beliefs can be used as filters to filter guys out. she’ll carry herself well. But someone’s filters can override that: Let’s say a woman from an upper-class family sees a man of a race other than her own. Then their success REALLY takes OFF! The beliefs a guy carries with him translates into how he acts. Then something just clicks on program and they start to really feel it. finally. deep down. Health is universally attractive on an instinctual level. Faking can’t really work. a guy will have gone through a lot of frustration. regardless of what the societal definition of attractive is. They worked hard. this is largely being done away with: Though racism is still around plenty.

but it was interesting to look at him: He was very toned and in shape. One cut of it is going to make her look elegant.dom to try dating outside their race a few times in their lives. He shared an interesting observation with me. a very small cut of cloth can make you look more attractive. because he was right. I remember. many. with as difficult as it must be for them. I have no idea why women enjoy shopping so much. but didn’t have large muscles the way a bodybuilder would. dress is a really simple thing to help you stand out and be represented as physically fit. Arms Bulging On Sleeves = Muscles = Healthy = Attractive It’s why even though you look similar on most days. like. and many.) That’s a simple example of a negative filter.’ It was funny. You know. at the beach. and even though styles of clothing can look very similar. and thus attractive. say. A little effort into your clothes can make you much more attractive.. but thankfully. I once had a friend who rowed. That little thing can appeal to a mostly unconscious filter. and I’ve got small shirts with big sleeves that make my arms look tiny. most filters can be used to your advantage. most filters aren’t as hard-line as the race one. another is going to make her look hot. and he pointed something out to me: He showed me the sleeve on his T-shirt. Instead.. The sleeves on your white cotton t-shirt can make the difference between you looking like you have biceps or not. many cuts are going to make her look not so good. have a girl you know try on a few different cuts of the ’classic little black skirt’ at a department store. I’ve got large T-shirts with small sleeves and I look ripped in them. He was wearing a white T-shirt one day. If you need to prove this. But more important 24 . Anyway. He looked very toned. but he’d look rather skinny in a baggy sweatshirt. ’Always try to get T-shirts that the sleeves are tight around your biceps. a boat with oars and such? I’m not sure exactly how the sport works. and said.

This makes me appear confident in my actions. even if you’re just emulating it. 25 . I muttered a quick prayer and just jumped off. It manifests itself in actions. I’d have been completely confident jumping off that cliff (literally). Right now. it might change depending on the situation). I had no confidence in the action. I’m so confident about where I’m going and where I’ve been in my life that I don’t even really fear death (at least in the abstract form. Confidence is attractive. Now. you’ll appear to have internal confidence (the belief). The action itself is a slightly exaggerated walk. Even if you don’t have internal confidence. A few more dives jumps later and I was totally confident. Confidence in yourself. a woman sees a man walking like he’s confident. and the beliefs they come from. speak clearly. Confidence as a belief is confidence in yourself and yourself and your abilities. This is a confident action. I’m so confident in myself (belief) that I rarely get afraid of anything. It’s knowing your value is high and you’re awesome. Have you ever been cliff-diving? It’s where you jump off a cliff of some height into very deep water. and. and it reflects your internal confidence. can’t be seen by itself: But it translates into your actions. the belief. that’s fluid and cool. The first time I did it. and she thinks he IS confident. on a belief level. I stand strong. will translate into confidence in your actions. It’s very fun and a little dangerous. I’m going to make a differentiation here: There’s confidence as a belief. This ties into the bodylanguage piece: By moving like someone with confident bodylanguage. and command attention.t han clothes are attitudes. and I wasn’t sweating it at all. Had I been completely sure that I was invincible. But I wasn’t quite at that point in my life. There’s confidence in actions. Confidence in yourself.

intelligent set of morals I can live by. able to speak with anyone. and be a good person by my standards. and make it one of YOUR beliefs.Thus. But to really become good at the game. that’s up for you to decide. I want to be someone who is knowledgeable about many things. The best thing you can do to help yourself reach a goal is find a suitable belief. perseverance for getting better. What you want to do. It’s the same for any attractive action: You can pinpoint what the action is and do it. that’s good. you can work on emulating the behaviors someone with that belief would do. shrug. I need to believe I’m attractive. you need to take it to the next level and find the BELIEF that that action comes from. worth knowing. and in helping people. and. can you see what beliefs I should start to develop? I want to develop open-mindedness for my knowledge. and I want a woman for me to be loyal to me. and so on. walk. as you grasp and REALLY REALLY believe your beliefs. I want to live a life that’s comfortable without being excessive. Me. able to bring other people up.. reworking your beliefs can take a while. Just reading my list. talk. and I need to cultivate a strong. help myself. I want my relationships with women to be with women who are everything a man can ask for. They’ll see the way I smile. and it’s good to take action right away. BUT. As for what your beliefs should be. Simply by walking attractive. The first step is figuring out two things: Who you want to be.. 26 . drink. and I want to form relationships with people where we can enrich each other’s lives. In the meantime. always be getting better in everything I do. you can start to create a cycle where you get more respect. so you feel more attractive. he becomes attractive to her. These little things will be seen when a person meets me. and so on. What I want to do is help people. eat.

Likewise. and the cycle continues. No weird jerky movements. guess what? You just did another behavior that attractive people do. If you are relaxed and confident you will naturally take on certain nuances of body language. Then you get more respect and more attention. you’ll get more respect from men and more attention from women. And suddenly. and that’d make you a bit more sincere. No hesitation. let’s say you want to be more sincere: What’s a quick thing many sincere people do? Listen. naturally. you’ll feel more attractive. Modelling your behavior after the behaviors of people you want to be like can be helpful. That doesn’t mean try to pretend like you’re them: Instead. If you walk like an attractive guy. 6 Body Language The main charactersistics you want your body language to have are: 1. So you could focus on your listening. You will: 27 . many sincere people make eye contact. Big and Open. 2. and watch as it sparks a cycle. Put your intentions out in the open for all to see. and then a cycle has begun. because you felt attractive. you’d feel more sincere. and what’ll you do? I’m going to bet you’ll smile like you own whatever place you’re in. And in doing so. so you could try making eye contact more. You’re well on your way to becoming attractive.. As such. Relaxed and Slow. you’re walking like a cool guy and you’re smiling like the guy that owns the place.. start with one behavior they do. But as an example.This article is about becoming more attractive. As such.

28 . on her back. or too late. You will have to set aside your ego to do this. Many more guys turn women off by not touching them at all. err on the side of touching a woman too much rather than too little. Look at her steadily are warmly. only of relaxation. but a touch that you have to think about is better than no touching at all. because at first your touches will often be rejected. if you do it with the confident expectation that she will enjoy the touch. There are a few technical specifics to touching a woman. or her hand. At first. The same with when youre standing against something. Of course. eventually you want to escalate to non-safe places. This is part of the learning process learn from the experience. just lean back slightly. and eventually women will crave your touch. The proper time to touch a woman is largely determined by your frame. Ideally. • Stand up straight. Some guys turn women off by touching them before the woman is comfortable with their touch. • Dont touch too early. warm eye contact. but mainly it is your frame. Of course there are also factors specific to the girl. then she will. Leaning back is not incongruent with direct game because it is not a sign of disinterest. Similarly. just lean back slightly onto it. You can improve your looks tremendously just by improving your posture. touch a woman in safe places. her arm. You want to make your touch slow and confident: No tentativeness.• Lean back. you want to avoid darting eyes and looking around the room. While you are learning. or staring. Leaning back shows that you are relaxed and comfortable with yourself and with the girl and her group. a touch should be spontaneous and you should not think about it. It is an invitation for her to follow you into your comfortable reality. • Make steady. and appearing asexual. Good posture is a sign of confidence and is attractive to women. You want to avoid hard eye contact. Bad posture is a sign of low self-esteem. Dont slouch. but do this only after she is receptive to kino on safe places. When you are seated. or looking at the floor it signals that you are insecure. lean back in your chair.

Dont be concerned about ’Following social rules. This should be the attitude you strive towards. and that every single person in the world likes you and wants to see you succeed. this shows that you are relaxed and comfortable. It cant just be a insincere little affirmation you repeat three times before you talk to a woman you really have to believe it. not what others think he should do. You are enriching the lives of every woman you approach. you shouldnt be controlled by what they think. First of all.’ You are an alpha male you set the social rules. but they are literally the key to everything with women. so will conform to your rules. Assume that you will be successful in everything you do. All the others will want to be like you. than she will be. You should assume that you own the world. and you should act accordingly. Like leaning back. assume that every girl who you talk to is attracted to you. If you really believe a woman is attracted to you. Too many guys think. you should not see your approaching women as something you should be sneaky and ashamed about. And most importantly for dating and seduction. so they can attract women regardless of what techniques they use. Our main focus in our programs is establishing these attitudes in our clients. since you believe you are an attractive male. not the other way around.• Be completely relaxed. with no uptight or fidgety movements. Second of all. This is ridiculous. This attitude should be your end goal in your journey of self-improvement. so why do you care what they think about you? And even if they are people who you do see again. 7 Attitudes Your attitude should be that of an alpha male. 29 . Attitudes take time to develop. An alpha male does what he wants. ’Bbut what if other people see me talk to her?’ Who cares? Most of these people you are not ever going to see again. one hundred percent. you should not care what other people think when they see you approaching.

For a woman in a loud club. They are not powerful enough to draw the woman away from whatever activity she was already engaged in. they are unsure of whether or not people will listen to them and attach importance to what they say. People can pick up on this instantly. you must command her attention more than the person who she is talking to. Because you are so sure that you can command a womans attention. Many guys have problems opening girls on cold approaches . As you become more and more confident and dominant.especially girls who are in difficult logistical situations. without even listening to what they have to say. and are repelled by it. you must command her attention more than the music. your presence must be more commanding of her attention than shopping. For a woman on a cell phone. guys who know sophisticated techniques will not have success with women because they dont have commanding presence women instantly write them off as losers. This is because they lack commanding presence. For a woman shopping. So often. and other guys. You will notice as you improve your commanding presence that you can open women in situations which previously you thought were impossible. Commanding Presence is the ability to make people listen to and obey you because you project dominance and confidence. tactics. In order for a woman to stop and talk to you. They dont project dominance. such as talking on a cell phone. flashing lights. you need to be more commanding than the activity which she is engaged in. you will command the attention and of women with increasing ease. friendly woman would not give you her attention. commanding presence has nothing to do with gimmicks. or techniques at all. Commanding presence is extremely important in pickup and dating.8 Commanding Presence What is a commanding presence? First of all. to the point where you do not even consider the possibility that a normal. or even just walking in the other direction on the street. your presence will in 30 . dancing in a loud club.

even the smoothest. image.. Do you stand in a hunched over. opening lines are not going to work for you. with bad posture. If your tonality is not good. This conveys that you think you are not attractive. most genuine. and that you dont think its worth spending time making yourself look the best that they can. • Improve your image. Dont dress like someone who doesnt pay attention to their looks. Find cool. Here are some things you can do to improve your commanding presence: • Improve your tonality. If not. she wont stop. Thus. which are taught in our workshops and bootcamps.turn become more and more commanding because of this. but also. you can make anything seductive just by virtue of you saying it. loudly and confidently? • Improve your body language. then she will sense that you really dont expect her to stop. If your tonality it is great. and will get a weird vibe from you. You can also improve your beliefs directly through various exercise to reframe your experiences positively. Dont dress in a generic way. friendly eye contact. and all the other things recommended in the body language section of this guide. you want to avoid overcompensating and dressing like a clown. When you attempt to stop a woman and get her in a conversation. and look people straight in the eye. and she will stop. 9 Vocal Tonality Another very important factor which will make a man more attractive is his vocal tonality. however. tasteful clothes which give you a tight image and show that you treat yourself well. including improving your body language. do you confidently believe that she will talk to you? If you do. then she will sense the confidence and authority in your voice. Make warm. are you saying it slowly. • Most important: Improve your beliefs. and by repeated successful experiences in social situations. tonality. and look down towards to floor? If so. timid voice? Or. 31 . relax. take up space. lean back. Are delivering your opener to stop her in a weak. Theres many things you can do to improve your beliefs.

you now want to work on the speed of your speech. Project your voice from your diaphragm. slow. in a daytime situation you want your voice to be loud. Another important aspect of your voice is its pitch. A well-projected voice lets everyone around you know you think what you have to say is important. Once you have gotten into the habit or projecting your voice well. like you are talking in slow motion. you want to make your voice deep and resonant. fast-talking voice conveyed that you were hurried and uncomfortable. your tone should be slightly higher than in the daytime. In order to make your voice more attractive. you need to project your voice loudly enough to be heard clearly. Again. slow down the pace of your voice. In a high-energy. You should also calibrate the pace of your speech to the situation. This is what you should be aiming for in quiet situations. and not being overly loud. deep and resonant. but most guys talk too fast. So. With time. confident and relaxed pace of speech. just a little high enough to be audible. This is because if you talk overly deeply in a club. A high voice is viewed by women as weak and feminine. loudly and powerfully. This is especially important in the nighttime. and nobody will be able to hear you. party atmosphere you want to talk slightly faster. there is an optimum speed to be most seductive. Your tone still should not be ridiculously high. you will become habituated to the new. In an intimate moment before a kiss. 32 . Similarly. At first it will seem ridiculous. While your old. your voice will be drowned in the bass. however. Most guys. but a too quiet voice is easily ignored. a too loud voice is seen as overcompensation. err on the side of being too quiet. In loud club situations. however. You want to strike a balance between being loud enough to be clearly heard. Think of the tone of a hypnotists voice. where youre competing with loud music. women will be drawn in and entranced by your new.First. In the daytime. you want to talk especially slowly. He draws you in with his slow rhythm and mesmerizing deep voice. You want to convey complete relaxation and dominance. relaxed pace of your voice.

and give them feedback on their voice.. I shake my head. and people in general. 33 . and become even more loud. will see different parts of who we are.. we coach all our clients in-field.. Something Very Important: The image you put forward has to be stronger than any negative stereotypes about you. Who does? Hopefully you’re trying to work past the things you don’t like and become the best person you can be. ’skinny’.. This is a common problem. So when I get the question ’Can I get success even though I’m ?’ . I’ve seen guys of all races get nervous and wonder if they can succeed.. Regardless of your height. you can bed plenty of beautiful women. Insert any of ’short’. But what if you’re short? What can be done about that? Well your height isn’t going to change. But I don’t think that’s really what you care about. 10 Image and Stereotypes We’re all a mix of many different things. ’tall’. No. and have very hot girlfriends. ’old’. captivating and fun tonality in the nighttime.. also insert every race . ’young’. Read that again. conveying energy and playfulness. and the ways that they can improve on it. and a well-projected. ’fat’. We use tonality exercises in each one of our programs to achieve a seductive tonality in the daytime. you want to make your voice slightly higher and faster. what you care about is bedding beautiful women and getting plenty of respect out of everyone you meet.yes. You probably don’t like every single thing about yourself. Girls. In addition.In a loud club situation.

And yet he asked me. ’I’m race. legitimate. What does this mean to you? The image you put forward has to be stronger than any negative stereotypes about you. I’d be superboring. good style. He was a cool guy. you don’t want people to think ’Wow. but his image is one of a certified. You don’t want to give off a ’short vibe’. he’s a short guy’ when they meet you. 34 . then I’d be in trouble. ’Can I get white women even though I’m Asian?’ I was blown away . but he had to have a stronger image than something generic. ’He’s old’ ? No way! She thinks he’s a rockstar. A common question I get is. can I get race of woman?’ Just last weekend. If the first thing a woman thought when she saw me was ’This guy is white’. Hugh is a bazillion years old. And successful businessman and very cool and fun guy to socialize with. you want to have some sort of powerful and positive image. and seems fun and cool and successful. decent looks. My image is not ’white’. When a 20-year old woman sees Mel Gibson. Look at Hugh Hefner. even.and I told him of course he could. full-on playboy. If you’re short. does she think. Instead. I had a student ask an interesting question.The image you put forward has to be stronger than any negative stereotypes about you.

I don’t have a suburban guy image. The thing is. They called him ’the bull’.’ She thought ’He’s powerful’ or ’He’s a gangster’ or ’He’s buff.’ As an example. On the other hand. He had thick glasses and wore frumpled clothing and slouched over. ’He’s Asian. any image is stronger than the fact you’re white. and of course Asian as well. white. He was about 5’5. very respectfully.Think typical ’suburban guy’.black. but he was *jacked*. Whereas if you’re another race. Ripped. Caucasian is the majority in America. When any woman looked at one of these guys. No joke. Chinese mafia. One went to that gym. I called him ’el toro’ very. 35 . This guy had women all over him . I knew a Chinese computer-programmer. it might be a stronger image. If you’re Caucasian in America. latin.They’d buy into the stereotype that he’s asexual. so women would lump him into the category of ’asexual Asian guy’ . Y’know. Here’s what you need: The image you put forward has to be stronger than any negative stereotypes about you. I used to work out at a gym that had guys that looked to be Triads in them. This works for and against some races that are stereotypical as being powerful and masculine. shaved heads. she didn’t think. hot girlfriends and luxury cars and nice clothes and a ’Don’t mess with me’ look. let’s compare two Chinese guys I knew. Muscles upon muscles. dragon-tattooed guys. He had no image. But what if you’re not one of those? The sad reality is that some races have stereotypes attached to them in certain places.

By the end of his program. When I told this to my Asian student last weekend. If you’re wondering. I’ve been to parties where I was the only white person in the room. Cultivate an image for yourself. Everybody’s got something that’s unappealing to some group of women. 36 ... I’ve had students at short as 5’2. You’re either young or old or too skinny or too fat or too short or too tall or. and yeah. and ’Russia’. But it wasn’t what I put forward.. You can bet your last nickel that I didn’t want people to think ’American’ right off the bat. If you have a weak image.because The image he put forward was not stronger than the negative stereotypes around him. he didn’t identify with being a ’short guy’. or Creole. the shortest student I’ve ever had slept with 3 women within 2 months of meeting with me.I didn’t put off the negative vibe associated with Americans in France. I’ve been to parties where I was the only person in the room that didn’t speak fluent Mandrin. I was getting a lot of ’Amsterdam’. Tom Cruise is pretty short. then think of if you put off a short vibe. Spanish. That means I was doing something right . everyone knew I was white. No. I’d tell them to guess.. Thing was. something. I’m still American.’ When women would ask where I was from. He didn’t have a ’short vibe’. he started to ’get it’. but I wasn’t ’the white guy’. ’Italy’. In fact. and the women bought right into that. Think on that. he was picking up girls of various races normally. I got to make a brief pass through France recently. ’Am I too short?’ . I wanted women to think ’Wow. But I’d keep a warm smile and a good vibe. what a stylish powerful guy. he acted like a highrollin’ playboy type. Hell... then people will pick something arbitrary about you and assume the stereotypes.

if you are not currently having any success with woman.They fade to black. how you could ever possibly change into a truly attractive guy who can get any woman he wants? We believe in order to make such a change. Such a change may seem drastic to you. You may even want personalized attention from real masters of pickup and dating. By learning the attitudes and behaviors in this article. Learning how to meet women effectively is important. 11 The Next Step This article is not a complete guide to pickup and dating it is only the beginning. and it is. exclusive or open. At our Seminars and In-Field Workshops. height. In the classroom seminar. you need real-life experience in the field. and all the other topics mentioned above. You may be asking yourself. which are essential 37 . race. And you get the girls you want. you will undoubtedly be well on your way.If you have a solid image. image and style. vibing. you need to master much more than this to escalate an interaction with a woman all the way to sex. but in order to make a real change. your age. information you read on the internet is not a complete solution. But. youll work with instructors Vincent and Sebastian in a small group setting. with her afterwards. as they coach you through difficulties you are having in all stages of your interactions with women. reports like this are only complements to our real-life programs. you are given the tools you need which will give you an edge on all other guys. At best. Youll hear two of the worlds best pick-up artists and dating masters teach you about the basics of body language. tonality. and all those other things you have no control over . and take your game to the next level. The internet can help. and also to establish a good relationship.

we change your core identity through working directly with your inner beliefs. Yours Truly. If you check out our reviews. feel free to drop us a line at our website. but also some brand new advanced concepts not found anywhere else. We will point out your mistakes and sticking points. you will see we care about your success and will give you personalized attention every step of the way. Well work with you on any component of the game where you need work. night after night. or holding an interesting conversation. Well even work with you on phone game. anytime. and boost your game to the next level in one weekend. The groups are kept small as the student to instructor ratio is limited. providing you with the skills to meet and attract women anywhere. If you have any questions. visit our website.for attracting women. http://www. After weve supercharged your game in the seminar. You will still need motivation and hard work to achieve success. detailing not only our fundamental methods of generating attraction and escalation. but if you have them the skills that you learn in the workshop can save you literally years of crashing and burning with women. we will take you out into the field and coach you interacting with women in real time.the-approach. theApproach 38 . be sure to check out our soon to be released e-book. number closing. Vincent DiCarlo and Sebastian Drake Founders. We wont just give you a bunch of techniques. kissing a girl. If youre interested in learning more about our be it opening. You can benefit instantly from our collective years of experience. The field work will take place in both daytime and nighttime venues. and give you targeted feedback. and years of frustration and loneliness from going home alone. Also.

CA ’Yoooo Vince! Wasup big man! You wont believe. and both get the same amazing results using theApproach framework and concepts. He knows all about the learning process. I have on my todo list since the seminar to email you a testimonial. of New York City ’Sebastian is one of the best pick-up artists I’ve had the pleasure of meeting . I came to the bootcamp with a completely open mind. of San Fransisco.’ -Brian K. the proof is in the pudding. and I could not be happier. TX ’Sebastian and Vincent have completely different styles from one another. I realized how easy it was to pick up girls who already had boyfriends or were married even . And there’s a whole underground network of guys they’ve trained in every city . if nothing else. but the list is way too long! LOL Well as far as results.his game is top-notch in all ways. it will save me years of my time... It’s like you become a part of this exclusive secret society or something. Attached to this email are the pics in my car of the chick I met while we were ’in the 39 .I mean it was effortless! Just knowing that these guys exist was enough to convince me to sign up. I always remember back . Highly recommended. It was great and I learned so much. but if I ever did get there.their former time watching Vincent. If I did not do this I may or may not have gotten to the level of where I want to be.. I dont think there is many things as valuable as this.12 Testimonials ’I was literally trusting these guys with my life. so that they can’t steal my girlfriend!’ -Tim S. we share secrets and all the latest tricks of the trade and so on.’ -Chad of Austin. I still correspond with them through email..

It truly is a wonderful feeling that when a girl cancels on me now. You can use anything I say in this email as my testimonial. The hardest part was making the time with my schedule to hook up with her.. young women love older men if they have class and sophistication. Like the pauses between the flow of my words when I do seminars. Their very smooth and subtle approach is well suited for older men. I dont even sweat it. and is 40 . I can’t say enough great things about Vincent and Sebastian. Not only did the workshop help me in going after any female I desire in my path. For example. I took theApproach Bootcamp a few months ago and just recently did a one day refresher of personal coaching in Boston. no other method has made me learn more than yours of making us actually do the work out in the field in real life situations. but still keep them as a bootycall. Although both guys are in their twenties. in my humble but accurate opinion. J so as u can see Im a happy camper. cause I have others in the pipeline waiting to meet me anyway. and the conversation exercises when I meet prospects (for business and pleasure!). who have a man. You guys are Hitch to the extreme! Forget reading books on this stuff. not just theory. And if you saw me. They actually pointed out many advantages we as older men have with younger women. Now I have that buffer of ladies I can call on to hook up with. They also reminded me of all the positive things I have personality wise to offer women. It took me the 2nd date to get in there. since I am 45 years old and married. LOL.field’ at the mall.worked!’ -Raj of New York City ’I feel I am in a unique situation. In addition. you might not believe I pick up girls half my age.. They identify with me and understand all of my concerns. I was blown away at how well their method works for someone like me. but its made me more successful in business too. And Im amazed with how those couple lines you advised me to say to past exs. my wife loves the changes she has seen in me.

He 41 . I found it unbelieveable when he told me how he used to look and act. I was determined to get better.convinced the program has strengthened our relationship. but I was serious about improving. He went on. Do you want the truth?’ I did. I was a fat. I took a bootcamp with two additional days of personal coaching and it paid off huge. Now. When I met Sebastian for my bootcamp. I told Sebastian I wanted to practice all night before I saw him tomorrow. poorly dressed loser. I can’t guarantee you’ll have the results I did. Are you willing to change?’ I said yes. Are you willing to change how you think?’ I was! The first day. He asked me why any woman would be lucky to have me. and it’s all golden. Sebastian related his story to me. Which made me happy and which didn’t. ’Chance hasn’t been easy on you. Sebastian taught me about the ’Lottery of Attitudes’ and how where we’re born and stuff that happens when we’re very little shape most people’s entire lives. and told me how he once was worse off than me in a lot of ways. then told me: ’I can tell you’re serious about success. MA ’I’m really glad I took theApproach. He asked me if I liked myself. At the end of the first day.’ -Vlad G of Boston. It wasn’t on me either and I’m here right now before you. dating beautiful and amazing women. he started going through Attitudes with me. ’I can teach you all the tech in the world. I said I didn’t. Before I took the program. He taught me for a bit longer. and living my dream of teaching people to do better things. I said she wouldn’t. we started looking at which of my attitudes were good and which weren’t. I was feeling better. but you’ll never reach the highest levels with your attitude.

It hurt a lot but it felt good too. then more fieldwork. then handed the phone to me. I met up with Vincent and we went shopping for clothes for me. Sebastian reinforced some of the attitudes he’d already worked on with me. The next morning. I showered and came to day 2 of the program. I went out with Sebastian’s trainer friend and we practiced after the program hours were over. Vincent TOTALLY changed up my style. I said hell yes. Sebastian asked if I wanted to work out in the morning.told me to hold on and got on his cell phone. Things were going well. I practiced solo and women were opening up to me. I said goodbye to Vin’s girlfriend at mid-day and we worked all on conversational skills. then started into the basics of approaching and initiating conversation. I liked what I saw. 42 . but Vin took good care of me and said it’s natural for it to take a while to seep in. I was pretty sore still from the gym. I went to the gym with him and lifted weights and broke up a big sweat. and Sebastian said I was really talented for going at such a good pace. I was a bit frustrated at this part of the program since there’s so many skills. I got a new haircut and Vin brought in his girlfriend of the time who worked in the fashion industry to help me get the most cutting edge style and find good bargains at the same time. The next day. I flew through day 2. I felt very comfortable with him the whole time and he made me feel really good. taking me from beyond bad to looking really really sharp. That night. I was really happy with how I got dressed up and I was feeling really good in my new clothes. of course I do. but I felt good. and called a friend of his who is both a personal trainer and a former student. As we were wrapping up day 3 Vin got a call and answered it.

and attitudes. looked better. I had already improved my health. Vin had explained to me when I signed up that you can get 1:1 personal coaching time. I had learned how to approach and the execution behind good conversation. At this point. but I couldn’t help but go practice my developing skills in a bookstore. and other skills. After we broke. style. I got to see a couply demonstrations with Sebastian or Vincent explaining what the other was doing in real time. qualifying. We covered a wide range of subjects and then got out there. Well it was very cool having both guys. I got her number when I had to leave for the start of the program! I met Sebastian and Vincent actually came along as well free of charge. It was also cool to see how they worked together and got things going. cold reading. It was pretty cool to have him do that for me. and Sebastian said he needed a nap. The got into screening. I called one of my female friends and she said I sounded totally different 43 .He told me to get plenty of sleep that night and eat a good breakfast in the morning. He told me he’s happy to match the dedication level of the student and I was being very dedicated. I met Sebastian before the program and we worked out together. they’ll go two instructors to one student. touching. I went in with Sebastian’s favorite opener on a girl in the cafe and we talked for two hours. He went and got some sleep. Now it was time for the heavy stuff. and was doing much better. We broke from the gym a few hours before the program was going to start. Things were coming together great. I got four phone numbers and a kiss! Amazing! I felt better. but a lot of times if Sebastian or he is free and in the same area. I learned a lot of advanced techniques but I was able to start doing a lot right away.

Haha too late! 44 . Sebastian taught the basics of good sex. I invited this beautiful beautiful blond girl back to my place for dinner and drinks. Things were so fluid it was out of this world.on the phone. I called the girl I met in the bookstore earlier that night. including the girl from the bookstore and the blond girl. I was sore and I felt like my movements might’ve been kind of jerky from lifting weights but it didn’t even matter. A lot of women in my life that were looking right past me and taking me for granted now are trying to get with me.. It’s been three weeks and I’ve slept with three women. then Sebastian saw a really hot blond chick as we were ready to break. I felt tired but energized.’ As per Sebastian’s recommendation. but right now I’m going to have some fun before I do. I used some of the storytelling and screening techniques I had learned and demonstrated my interest in a good way. I was really sore but it was a good sore. Vin taught relationship skills.. The last day of my custom program. not a chasing way. I’m actually looking to settle down once I find the right woman. They covered miscellaneous skills. I asked how and she said ’Totally alive. I moved a bit stiffly from the weights yesterday but it was all good. Vin and Sebastian were both there again. They did my final debrief. and I’m meeting so many more women. I feel so much more happy and successful. The program has been amazing to me. I looked great in my new clothes. I came to the last of day of my personal coaching program. We did a little more field work and things were going really well.’ I went in and started running my game. and gave me exercises to do to keep getting better. answered all my remaining questions. At the end. and they went over the full structure of a pickup together. she’s all yours. I got a few more numbers and another kiss. He said ’Go. I got a gym membership and I’m doing full body workouts three times a week.

I don’t know if everyone can have my results. Sebastian.I’m so glad I took theApproach and I can’t thank Vincent and Sebastian enough. but if everyone can get even 1/10th of what I did. amazing performance. thank you.’ -Phil Anderson. Newton. You are gods among men. motivating. Vincent. MA 45 . empowering. Life-changing. it’s worth every penny.

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