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Almost half of the children in the U.S.

deprived of the lifelong benefits of two par- FICTION FACT
ents who share the parenting throughout the
first 18 years of their children’s lives. Who
SHARED Most children are satisfied with the amount The vast majority of children say they want –
are children living with?
PARENTING © of time they spend (or spent) with their fa- or wanted - more time with their fathers after
thers after their parents divorce. their parents stopped living together. Kids
55% mother & father - 4% unmarried want more shared parenting. 1-16
21% single mother - half divorced & FACTS AND As long as the mother has enough money, Kids with too little fathering are more likely
half never married children don’t pay a price for having too lit- to have problems throughout their lives re-
14% mom & stepdad FICTION tle or no contact with their father. lated to father absence than kids whose fa-
5% neither parent thers remained actively involved after the
parents stop living together. 1-17
2% mom & her boyfriend
2% single dad Research Brochure by Most divorced or never married parents are Parents generally cooperate more after at-
1% dad & stepmom too hostile to share parenting or to benefit tending shared parenting programs. Only 10-
DR. LINDA NIELSEN from programs on co-parenting.
.5% dad & his girlfriend 15% are in high conflict. 18-22
Professor of Women’s Studies Very young children should not be away
Wake Forest University Shared parenting is bad for infants or young from either parent for more than a few days
Only 15%- 20% of parents share parenting ACFC President 2008 children because they should not be sepa-
6,9,15 & are able to spend nights in each parent’s
after divorce. Existing legal pro- rated overnight from their mother.
cedures & attitudes of people who influence Nielsen@wfu.ed
the decisions about children’s living arrange- Fathers who share parenting are the most
ments often make shared parenting harder to When parents share parenting, children are
likely to pay child support, spend additional
achieve.25, 26,33,43-47 worse off financially because their dad pays
money on their kids, & contribute to college
much less child support.
educations. 27, 28, 33, 9
Research brochure by Dr. Nielsen © Fathers contribute as much as mothers to
Shared parenting is less important than good
mothering because fathers know so much children’s well-being, even if their ways of
less about raising kids than moms do. parenting are different. 12, 17, 29-31

The overwhelming majority of divorced fa-

American Coalition for Fathers & Children thers want more time with their children &
American Coalition for Fathers & Children Most divorced fathers are not interested in
32- 39
sharing more of the parenting. more shared parenting.
Michael McCormick, Exec. Dir. ACFC. ORG
Michael McCormick, Exec. Dir. Children dislike shared parenting if they ac- Kids who live part time with each parent af-
1-800-978-3237 tually have to live part time in both parents’ ter divorce prefer this to living only with one homes, moving back & forth. parent.2, 10, 40, 41
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