I LOVE TO HATE, BUT I HATE WHEN I DO NOT LOVE
Copyright A. Vishwanath
TO MY FATHER AND MOTHER WHO NEVER TAUGHT ME HOW TO LOVE, BUT WHOSE BLESSINGS AND CARE NEVER LEFT ME SHORT OF LOVE.
Is it not so that the birds, the wind, the sea and all nature speak with the music of praise for their creator? Cannot I speak with the same music to his children? OG MANDINO
Love comes unseen we only see it go. I have written this little book to help you recognize the various forms of love in your day-to-day life. Carry this book wherever you go and you will experience its warmth and affection all day long. Browse through any of these pages and you will find yourself sitting on top of love every moment. Love is all that you need and this little book, I LOVE TO HATE BUT I HATE WHEN I DO NOT LOVE will help you achieve this. Life is short. Today you are there, tomorrow gone… The belief in the power of love alone endures and stays forever. This book will take you by the hand and guide you all the way towards strengthening this faith. Trust the divine power in you and watch your life blossom in peace and happiness. Love You All.
I will love the ambitious for they can inspire me! I will love the failures for they can teach me. I will love the beautiful for their eyes of sadness. I will love the meek for they are divine. I will love the kings for they are but human. I will greet this day with love in my heart.A
PRAYER OF LOVE
BY OG MANDINO
. I will love the rich for they are yet lonely. I will love the young for the faith they hold. I will love the ugly for their souls of peace.
Ye four questions about Love and Thy will answer those for you”
“Is real love personal or impersonal in nature. O Lord”
The wind blew back. yet what stops us from loving every individual?
Why are we not able to transform our love from the formless to the one in form and structure?
A soft little voice echoed through the hills and valleys. Nature spoke but silently. “Teach me love. “Ask. O Lord?”
We all love you in your divine form but why do we find it so difficult to love every other fellow human being?
We know for certain that every being is a child of God. The heavens opened up.
death of a loved one could radically alter the mindset of an individual. The person’s future experiences and attitude towards the world might undergo a complete sea change as a result. experiences are subject to change. Does it still make sense to mix love with experiences?
Love is eternal.
When you bring love to the personal level. you degrade love and your own being in the process.And thus spake the Lord: Love is impersonal and that is the way it ought to be. hatred. Try not to mix both of them. Your love is then based on the quality of past experiences you had with the individual. Does it make real sense to mix love with experiences?
Experiences are deceptive.
Aren’t jealousy. and selfishness born out of experiences? Why hold on to experiences then?
. A life changing event like a major accident. They are subject to change based on the quality of your future experience.
it does not judge.
The formless is the observer in you and not the experiencer. The experiencer in you only judges. The formless is not bound by emotions. Love the formless in every human being. Do you think you would still worship them if they come down and start judging you?
. your soul and heart is the observer. That is the reason you worship them daily. The way to do so is to love the formless in you first. If you can visualize an aura of a formless structure around you. you can picture it in every other human being too. how do we let go the element of experience in true love? Is it possible to love people whom you hate? And the Answer is YES.You might ask. The observer in you only sees.
Have I ever judged and commented about your life so far? Jesus. it is bound by the language of love. Krishna and Prophet Mohammed were called God because they only observed and never judged. Your mind is the experiencer.
“And what is the formless?” asked the little voice.
The formless is nothing but observing the events as it unfolds without blaming the event or the persons involved in the event.
Second. Base your decisions on the love for the being.
“Why not? If you know how to play the Game of Love. There are three easy steps which will help you win the game of Love. One.
The Game of Love is very simple. his voice shall be as sweet as the murmur of the brook and the rustle of the corn. O children of the world and your life will be transformed. seeing him/her as a child of God without judging the person based on one’s past experiences. Third. visualize yourself having two hats. you will find it very easy to enact this role” said the Lord. O Lord. Both love and God are present within you. First.Understand this truth. always make sure you wear the cap of an observer before you proceed to act. I(God) am the observer and love is the expression of an observer. proceed to wear the cap of the experiencer above that of
“Do you think. it is really possible for a human being to play the role of an observer in real life?” queried the gentle creature.
When a man lives with God (nay the observer). of an Observer and the other of an Experiencer.
Who else can? Answer me these five questions. with God. Can love really rule the world? ” asked the human form. O Lord.
“That was brilliant! I’ve one final question to you. which humbles even the mighty Ego?
.” said the Lord. Your action and decision would then be definitely in harmony with nature. Watch how your life gets quickly transformed.
What is that one sweet little word which every human being longs for?
What is that one economy every individual in the world dreams of?
What is that one character. Practice being an observer in life first and then an experiencer.
Once you have donned the hat of an Observer every action of yours as an Experiencer would always be balanced and correct.the observer. and you will be convinced of the same.
“Love is all that you need. my son.” replied the human form.
. Put each of them into practice and the world will be yours. Eleven Dimensions of Love. O Lord.
“Pass on to me the secrets of practicing true Love.What is that one emotion which can turn an enemy into a friend?
What is that one language that people do not speak.” said the heavenly voice.” said the Lord. Every other aspect of your life will grow in abundance once you play the game of Love. my dear. yet they enjoy it the most?
“It is a four-letter word called Love. I am convinced of the unlimited and mystic power of Love.
try looking into the mirror and ask the same.
If you like your own personality. Simply sitting on the floor will give you more joy than being interested in the coverage of events across the globe. you will adore every other one in the world. You will have only your own body. If you are unable to do so.
. everyday events. Try to figure out the reason for your existence. So take care of yourself first.
Once you start loving yourself. Think it over.DIMENSION No 1 Born to Love
You are a special person born with a secret mission in this planet earth.
Looking into the mirror say “ I love me” five times a day. and not the external objects. you will find more time to love people close to you. and human flesh to drown yourself into. say that ten times a day. mind and soul to love. If that causes you problems. start loving yourself as you are and not as the world wants you to be.
and this forms the entry point for the external world to dominate and control us.
The faster you become rich the better you understand the real need for true love.
If you are given a choice between love and money.We start with the basic assumption that we are incomplete. Starting today. drop that assumption.
If you were gifted with two lives. You have paid a very high price for that assumption. If that does not work out. what would be your strategy?
Make money the first half of your life and do what you love the rest of your life. lacking in something. If you had only one life though. love for the whole of your life. choose the latter. you may spend the first one going after all the material comforts in the world and may not mind sacrificing the next one to accommodate the silent desires of your heart.
you went to school. nor did the Lord give you any chance to do so. married and had children. got a job. You were always in a hurry to move one step ahead. Love is the only reality. Reflect. When you grew up you pursued your higher education. Every other aspect of your life is a myth.
You are born to love.
I will greet this day with love in my heart…
. You never figured out what you really wanted.When you were a child.
The journey from the mind to the heart is the toughest. Those who fail to understand on both these occasions eventually understand love at the time of their death. Pose this question to the Lord today.
. when you choose your life partner.DIMENSION No 2 Philosophy of Love
When did you first experience Love?
Mothers were the first to teach you love but you were too young to understand it. But nobody questions how we reached the mind in the first place. Fast forward. it is said. Flash back. the Lord introduced puberty.
The Lord gives you two chances to understand love. The moment you could make some sense of it. First. and the second when you become a parent.
to seek a soul mate and not a flesh mate. We forget the fact that we set out into this external world to pamper our heart and not our body. everything that you asked for was halfhearted. If you return home empty handed it is your mistake. events. not His. Starting today. You wanted to become rich and creative but you also wanted to retain your poor character. and human bodies.
The Lord has enough stock of love.Love becomes poor when you put conditions onto it. drop the begging bowls of security and wear the confidence of love in your dreams.
All one needs is human love and affection.
If you look closely. Drop all of them. but we end up loving material objects.
Love is the tender milk that fills an adult’s mind. that is all he needs. When he does not get Love. He stops crying and cribbing from that position. he tries to look for it in his job and relationships.
There is no greater philosophy in the world than love.
Teach your children the art of loving.
I will greet this day with love in my heart…
. Preach and practice it all day. and then gets frustrated. in fact.
You hear yourself saying so many times.
Stick a picture of the rising sun in your bedroom . “ This guy does not deserve to be loved. So start your day with a beautiful mind.DIMENSION No 3 Attitude of Love
The first thought that crosses your mind in the morning is the last thought that you end your day with.
.” The reality is love is to be given to people who are lost and who act in a reckless manner. Start loving one person every day and increase the number to two from the second month.
It is very easy to drive hatred out of your life. Let this be the first object you gaze your eyes upon.
Reflect. Let the love in you flow freely.
Love everyone when they least deserve it because that's when they really need it. every moment you get a chance to. Do it at every instance. Even love unreturned has its rainbow.People who are arrogant and violent in life are people who badly need love. The others can wait but these people cannot. So why bother when the opposite person does not reciprocate your goodwill.
If you are a very egoistic person you might feel love is deceiving you and making you lose your self-esteem. Notice how as a child you played in the arms of Love before the cryptic Ego snatched you away from the tender heart.
. During such moments step aside for a while and focus on how you got started very early on in your life.
Do not wait for the right occasion to show your appreciation and gratitude to others.
You do not become poor by parting with love.
We miss the final leap. drive the most beautiful car you dream of.They say it takes only 17 muscles to smile and 43 to frown. The attitude of love is the fastest and easiest way of reaching God and finding true happiness.
I will greet this day with love in my heart…. so keep smiling. wear the best suits and dresses you adore.
. Once you have done all this. switch your focus from the material objects to the human ones. Love is very simple you see.
Eat the best food you love.
Visualize the light of the Lord in every single expression of love.
But how much time do we spend with them each day?
. work and some limited entertainment with your family or close friends at the end of the week.
If you look into your daily routine.
We take our loved ones for a vacation. It is always work. Budget some time for love. buy them gifts. and genuinely care for them. All the miseries and tragedies you see around is a direct reflection of the hatred that people carry outside their house.DIMENSION No 4 Love Begins at Home
If love flows in every household the world will be a better place to live in. love does not figure in any of your schedules.
Your mother worked 12 hours a day. What stops you from doing the same to your children and your loved ones?
A better world of relationships would prevail if all working parents take time out from their busy schedule for their dear children.
I will greet this day with love in my heart….
. Love begins at home. but she never forgot to love and take care of you.
Place your family photo and fresh flowers in that area. do not ridicule your spouse every moment. no relationship in this world will ever break. Pure Love can destroy ages of frustration in seconds.
South-west corner of your house represents marriage and the color is pink. Place that enormous weight on your own shoulders. embrace your mate.
Kiss your partner on your forehead to experience true love. All you need to do is to believe in its power and work towards a better relationship. and allow a major portion of your love to enter into your companion’s dark areas. and jealousy that you want him/her to do away with. anger.
If one of the partners understands love.DIMENSION No 5 Love in Relationships
If your partner has the characteristics of selfishness.
Do not commit this mistake. Have sex only when you are in a cheerful and happy mood.
You can always say that you have only one life and you deserve a better partner than your current one.
. The universe has played its role in connecting you to your mate. Your partner has come into your life for a special purpose. in external events and immoral associations. but you should also be aware that marriages were made in heaven and divorces existed only in the earth.
Work your way towards a better relationship.
Sex is the best bet to redeem love.Hang a picture of flying birds in the entrance of your bedroom. Try to figure out the creative intelligence of the universe in doing so. All broken relationships are a result of this fatal error.
Love comes with a price when you try to seek it outside of you.
So don’t despair.
The Lord takes care of those who are not fortunate enough to be loved by their partner. and the new partner you have in your mind will over a period of time fall into the category of your current partner. try to improve your partner’s and you will find miracles happening every day in your house.”
Be hard on your dreams. Do not try to improve your life for some time. soft on your partner. my child “Your current partner isn’t all that bad.
. Why worry then?
Listen to me.Even the most horrifying relationships have a divine light at the end of the dark tunnel. No one returns home empty handed.
Imagine and think about all the good things which have happened in your life. b) Second.
Never go to bed without making up with your partner. to the Higher Power that guides all your footsteps.
Kiss and hug your child the moment the little one gets up.
Use the power of the subconscious mind to visualize a healthy relationship with your spouse. however bad the fight might be. do the same with your partner. d) If you find difficulty practicing this formula buy John Harricharan’s best selling book “The Power Pause”
Never criticize your partner even in your mind. feel the way you would feel if your problems were solved. try to apply The Three Step Power Pause formula: a) First. breathe a quiet. If you are not so lucky. break focus with your problem. Practice creative visualization every morning and before going to bed. heartfelt “ Thank You “ to the universe. c) Third.When your relationship goes sour.
. the partner who frowned will take his/her father-in-law/mother-in-law for dinner.Starting today play a new game with your partner.
I will greet this day with love in my heart…. Every time that either of you frown or hate each other.
Love is the seed which blossoms the flower of every relationship.
just as loving minds cannot get angry.DIMENSION No 6 Love and Anger
Every human being is beautiful. Look how fresh and elegant you were in your childhood photos.
. Every time that you are angry call out for the Lord. it is the anger inside which makes them look ugly.
Let us make a deal. You will invariably end up calling the Lord very frequently
Angry minds cannot love.
Pull out the best photo of your childhood memories and place it at a prominent position in your house.
You can live in a paradise of love if you stop holding on to love. It is a brilliant opportunity to experience true love. Once you taste this.
Love is a stone’s throw away from anger. Done consistently over a period of time. Call this the lava of love.
Anger can never be suppressed. Let the love in you flow freely.
Anger is love in a violent form. Duck the heat waves and let it go by. nor can it ever be forgotten. and appeal to it to calm down. life changes forever. it gives way. and a wave of serenity flows from within. but you can roll your tender hand over its heated surface. you only have to change directions to experience it.
. that is what you do when you get angry at someone.
Anger is hot. while love is cool.Could you ever visualize yourself eating poison and wanting some other person to die? Well.
Anger kills our own being. Let the breeze of love in you flow all day.
Drop the anger by the wayside. not the one to whom it is directed at.
I will greet this day with love in my heart….
DIMENSION No 7 Love for the world
You do not have to be rich to love. Love is a universal responsibility and not the prerogative of a few. Cut aside twelve postdated checks at the start of the year.5 billion people who pray to Him daily. Consistently put aside five percent of your income to be distributed to the poor and needy. but we want the Lord to love us unconditionally. His load will be lightened if you love a few of these people.
You do not need to be the President of the country to take care of the world.
We cannot think outside of ourself. Just imagine how difficult it would be for Him to take care of the 6.
. rather you become rich by spreading love.
The beggar on the pavement has lost all self-esteem. you let go the control money exercises over you. It is time we visualise the same about love too. You have as much role to play as the creator. Who benefits? You or he?
The donor benefits more then the receipient. You pity him and give him money. Spread it. Experience it.
We cannot imagine a world without economy.
When you donate blood. Every time that you give. There is a greater joy in giving.
The world is your extended home. Do not neglect it. fresh blood is recouped in your body within 24 hours. When you love others.
. the joy is instantaneous and multifold.
Love is contagious.
and to every person you meet.
I will greet this day with love in my heart…. Guess what it does not carry!
Make it a point to express your love in every place that you visit. the Lord above would have no option but to descend onto this planet earth. The future humanity would then be made to believe that the Mother Earth and not the blue heaven is His dwelling house.
If all actions spring from the heart.Visiting cards carry your name and contact details.
Embrace the creativity within. Nor do the birds. You will never ever repent this decision.
Everything in nature is asymmetrical. flowers and wind speak of goals. So is love. Nature is beautiful.
You might have traversed thousands of miles in your life. But did you ever bother to make the crossover of one feet from the mind to the heart?
Take the leap today. as it grows at its own pace. animals. Be a part of nature.DIMENSION No 8 Follow Love
Mountains and oceans do not have careers.
Follow Love. Your choice at the end of the day determines where you land up.
I will greet this day with love in my heart…. and goals all look cheap in comparison once you play the game of love. Confidence.
The combination of the finite mind and the love for the infinite universe will help you traverse the road to heaven even as you leave your imprints on this world of success.Miracles are nothing but the power of love and faith.
Let’s get this right then. Love stems from your heart and reasoning intelligence develops from your mind. success.
events made it happen. maybe with a smile.
. but it takes lot of guts to end up where you had first started with them. But the other ninety-nine are love. It will help you wade through most of the problems you encounter in life.DIMENSION No 9 Love in Action
Human beings can build and destroy and re-build again. These people might end up being your relative or your work colleague. They have the capacity to be friends. Do not leave the last leg incomplete.
One of my friends is hatred.
Helplessness is one of the qualities you have to get used to. fight with each other.
All those people with whom you carry a grudge were not waiting to pick up a fight with you. The wheel of life gets completed only with the third action. of re-building or patching up again. and also to patch up later. with a hand-shake or with a simple nod of your head.
Everything that has gone wrong can be corrected.
It is not important that the person who blundered with the relationship has to say apologize first and seek forgiveness. If necessary. This is called love in action. and commit yourself for the best solution ahead. you have to forgive yourself and other people too.
I will greet this day with love in my heart…. Follow this and the heavens will bow before you. It can be the other way around too.
Mark this as the best solution for bitterness. Leave out the last meeting you had with him/her and include the first meeting you enjoyed with the individual as a stranger. the Lord forgives your mistakes too. Forgive people without any strings attached. The person hurt can also take the first step forward.
Give one good reason why you cannot forgive any person. So work this piece of wisdom to your advantage. every mistake that has happened can be rectified. shed a lot of ego. All you need to do is to take responsibility for the act done.
When you forgive other people. That will glorify the person and make them more powerful.
Animals do not celebrate Mothers day/Fathers day.
Love speaks silently. Guess which one is least spoken of . they try their best to express it.DIMENSION No 10 Silence in Love
Eight thousand different languages are spoken around the world. They practice love silently all day. They do not speak the language of love. yet desired by one and all.
Why do animals understand love better than human beings?
Animals do not have the intelligence to devour their own breed.
Why do you think people go to churches.
If you were told to describe love. Try to steal some moments of silence every day. but to seek peace of mind. silence in the mind of the people. temples and mosques? Not to find God.
I will greet this day with love in my heart…. In all such places love exists.
Peace of mind exists where there is silence in the atmosphere around. which portrait would you paint or refer to?
Hang that portrait in your living room.
the latter by the Lord from the blue heavens.” The former call is made by the chair umpire from the earth.Love … Game. This will open you up for brighter things in life. Life however begins and ends with “Love All.
A tennis match starts with “ Love All” .
Holding on to petty issues and ordinary wants increases the clutter around you. moves to 15.
.DIMENSION No 11 Love for Sale
If you need big gifts to come your way you need to let go of the smaller ones. and love blossoms all over when you embrace people. 30Love. 40. Letting them go will release the negative energy out of your body and bring in the much-needed spark in your life.Love. winter turns into spring.
The ice is broken.
Life will be never be the same for you.
Love is the way of life. a tide which will help you cross the ocean of life.
.Once you start loving people as they are. You will be surprised at the way Nature opens its door of celestial wisdom and creativity to you. a belief in the goodness of the universe. rewarding. It is not a character you develop. and see the formless structure of the Lord in each one of them. your life will be transformed.
Love All. it is a stance. Each day would be enriching. and more powerful.
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Vish-writer is a financial expert and has been a top management consultant to Fortune 500 companies across the world for about ten years. India as he pursues his vocation as well as his avocation.vish-writer. subconscious meditation and has combined his reasoning intelligence with the divine power to bring out this masterpiece. He divides his time between The United States of America and Bombay. He is also an avid practioner of creative visualization.com
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