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Don’t you love meeting remarkable people? You know, the kind of person that you exchange a few sentences with and immediately know you’ll be inspired by. You tell your friends about them later, not sure exactly what it was about them that impressed you so much. I make an effort to surround myself with this kind of person because I’ve gained so much from them in the past. Just by living their lives they make me work harder and push myself to achieve more, to be happier, to live a fuller, richer life.
Over the years I’ve picked up a lot of useful pieces of advice from these people, while at the same time observing and trying to figure out what makes them tick. I’ve worked to apply many of these same lessons to my own life and have seen very positive changes as a result. I wrote this book to share some of these tidbits of knowledge with everyone because I firmly believe that if the world has more inspiring, ambitious and remarkable people we’ll all be a lot better off.
In the following pages you’ll find 97 of my favorite pieces of advice that I’ve been told by or gleaned from people who I respect, along with some advice directly from some of the remarkable people in my life. At the bottom of each tip page is a piece of supplementary information, which may include quotes, URLs or factoids. At the bottom of the pages written by others, you’ll find a brief explanation of who the person is. If you’d like to find out more about that person, go to the very back of this book and read their longer biography, or click on their name to go to their website.
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COM .TABLE OF CONTENTS (1/2) 001 Be More 002 Indulge 003 Laugh at Yourself 004 Lose School 005 Upgrade Reality 006 Know Bullshit 007 Make Waves 008 Be Round 009 Scarcity Living 010 Have Fun! 011 Ask Questions 012 Be Confident 013 Be Healthy 014 The Imagists 015 Let Go 016 Relate Well 017 Give Rewards 018 Communicate 019 Be Inspired 020 Respect Opinions 021 The Big Picture 022 Go Away 023 Be GGG 024 Avoid Drama 025 80/20 Principle 026 No Addictions 027 Find Yourself Lost 028 Your Website 029 Be a Sponge 030 Obey (Mostly) 031 Make Bad Good 032 Play Games 033 Automate 034 The Zone 035 Value Beauty 036 Go Local 037 Be Inspirational 038 Be Asymmetrical 039 Public Diplomacy Magazine 040 Create Art 041 Know Your Bias 042 Be Sustainable 043 Break Habits 044 Work Your Mind 045 Know Pop 046 Do It Well 047 Kill Limitations 048 Money? Meh 049 Doubt Destiny 050 Segrave Associates 051 Pay It Forward 052 Greensmith Consulting 053 Reject Honor 054 Relax 055 Be Polite (Please) 056 Be a Hero 057 Wage Slave Rebel 058 Your Ethics 059 Be Open-Minded 060 The Right Crowd 061 Seek Knowledge 062 Don’t Destroy 063 Middle Path 064 The Life Design Project 065 Be a Thinker 066 Do You Love It? HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE.
If you would like to find out about the next ebook I put out.COM .TABLE OF CONTENTS (2/2) 067 Make Habits 068 Tip Well 069 Business Cards 070 Reject Celebrity 071 Be Minimal 072 You First 073 Know Marketing 074 Be Symmetrical 075 Owl Sparks 076 Self-Reflect 077 Be Thrifty 078 Don’t Antagonize 079 Be Sporadic 080 Stand Up 081 The 9 to 5 Alternative 082 Go Résuméless 083 Be a Part 084 Make Mistakes 085 Have Goals 086 Vertu Studio 087 Personal Brand 088 Be a Geek 089 No Baggage 090 Be Optimistic 091 Know History 092 Wake Up Early 093 Jet Set Citizen 094 Be Informed 095 Be Apart 096 Alone Time 097 Location 180 098 Expand Horizons 099 Be Tech-Savvy 100 Jealousy 101 Enjoy Novelty 102 Own Labels 103 Be Naïve 104 Elbow Grease 105 Use School 106 Be Rejected 107 Social Amber 108 Use Limitations 109 Embrace Change 110 Sort of Stoic 111 The Idea is King NOTE Stay tuned after the tips to read more about the remarkable people who contributed to this book and to find out how to get in touch with them. HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. email me here. or just want to stay in the loop. ANOTHER NOTE If you read to the very end you’ll be treated to an extra-special super-secret tip. Ooo! THIRD NOTE If you find an error. sign up for my nifty newsletter by clicking here.
WHAT THIS IS NOT Shakespeare. successful or just plain interesting than me.COM .BRING IN DA’ TIPS BRING IN DA’ FUNK WHAT THIS IS Advice and tips gleaned from people much more knowledgeable. The Bible. Hemmingway. HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE.
Désolé. HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. including their contact information and Twitter/Facebook accounts. WHAT THIS IS NOT Written in French.IT’S BIO TIME! BRING YOUR PARTY PANTS! WHAT THIS IS More information about the people who contributed their advice and writing to this ebook.COM .
” (at music shop) “Feeling tipsy?” (at bar) “Keep your tips up. CLEVER TIP JAR LABELS “Tipping: it’s not just for cows. tipping nothing at all is quite common. The amount you should give obviously varies from region to region. If you want to say ‘thank you’ with your dime. and maybe even get special treatment). you avoid having your food messed with next time you eat out. 1820% is usually more appropriate.COM . and a 10% tip is something to write home about. while I tip this guy. Wherever you happen to be. The more you give the better service you are likely to get the next time you sit down at that establishment. not everyone does it (for various reasons).” (at ski resort) HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. drop closer to 25%. you’re stacking the deck in your favor (in this case.068 TIP WELL Being a good tipper is right up there with brushing your teeth daily and being nice to old ladies. but in most parts of the US it’s customary to tip at least 15% and if the person did a decent job. and honestly the serving staff doesn’t make much except for tips (a few dollars an hour sans tips is standard) so help them out if you can. make an effort to find out what the local tipping customs are.” (at ice cream parlor) “Scuze’ me. I’ve discovered that tipping is quit a bit different in Buenos Aires. but if you do.
especially) and they continue to rip and tear and slice and shoot and all manner of other interesting and active verbs until everyone around them is annoyed or destroyed. posters would be scribbled on (a moustache here.COM . no doubt).” -Winston Churchill HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. This is not good for their reputation or the environment (natural or human). Draw something. a cigarette there). If you find yourself with a destructive urge. Make a cat’s cradle. CREATE instead of DESTROYING. To destroy can be the thoughtless act of a single day. ON DESTRUCTION “To build may have been the laborious task of years. In other words. take a deep breath and occupy your hands with something else. Many people I know never got past the whole destruction thing (guys. soda bottles would have their labels meticulously peeled off. nothing was safe. I’ve lost most of the desire to destroy as I’ve grown older. Pieces of paper would be slowly crinkled and torn.062 DON’T DESTROY I remember more or less destroying anything that came within reach when I was a kid. and mellowing that destructive urge has brought me a great sense of peace (partially because my environment isn’t riddled with shreds of paper and graffitied posters. Destruction is easy and harmful. Creation is more challenging and generally makes the world a better place.
scream at the top of your voice or break the law. 1849 HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE.. for sure. Meet the challenge head on but do not invade other people’s space. never raises your voice too loud and never invades their space. Do what you need to do.’ You will be considered untrustworthy because EVERYTHING that comes out of your mouth is supposedly the most important thing ever. then. You might end up breaking the law.. On the day when something absolutely unfathomable happens. Disagree with what is going on all the time if you must. This must be important! It’s an investment. calculatingly and with great dignity. Think ‘The Boy Who Cried Wolf.” -Henry David Thoreau. ON CIVIL DISOBEDIENCE “If. On the Duty of Civil Disobediance. however. go crazy and let people know what’s what. but do so intelligently. If you are a well-known rabble rouser – someone who is constantly shouting and screaming and biting and clawing about the most recent political news or war or overseas injustice or whatever – it will be much more difficult to get people to pay attention to you when you speak..the machine of government.. I say. When everything is worth rioting over.is of such a nature that it requires you to be the agent of injustice to another. nothing is worth rioting over. Something so horrible will have happened and you will need to incite change by whatever means are necessary.COM . but choose your battles wisely or you will lose them all.030 OBEY (MOSTLY) There will be times when you feel that you can’t keep your silence anymore. In preparation for situations like this: obey the law most of the time. because if the cause is really worth it you will have let everyone know about it and they will listen because you are the person who never overreacts. break the law.
but if you never speak up.mit. he’ll have nothing more to offer you than the homeless person asking you for money on your way out the door. show you the ropes and make sure that the information spreads.com 5min. If you show a genuine interest in what the other person does or cares about.com monkeysee. they will usually be more than willing to open up. Don’t do that to Einstein.COM .com instructables.edu itunes. It’s even more amazing how few people take advantage of it.stanford. making movies and even talking directly to you! Every conversation is a potential lesson in whatever the other person knows about. is allowing all this information to remain unabsorbed or unnoticed.com ocw. FREE INFORMATION LINKS howcast. The alternative.com eHow. People are out there just GIVING it away! They’re writing tutorials and blogs and ebooks. Albert Einstein could be standing next to you at the subway station. giving presentations.029 BE A SPONGE It’s amazing how much free information is out there. To you. of course.edu HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. so ask guiding questions and learn something.
but because of YOUR beliefs. And you know what? Neither of you is right. There is no right and wrong because they are just opinions. Keep an open mind and be willing to change.” -Oscar Wilde HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. that’s all the result of their environment and upbringing…it’s not something they had any say in.020 RESPECT OPINIONS Other people have the right to disagree with you about anything they like. so lay off. your opinions come largely from your experiences. It’s a bit humbling (but true) to remember that they may feel the same discomfort or disdain you feel. That’s not okay. If they believe in a different god or think that a different governmental system is superior or think that one sports team is better than the other. but be willing to defend ideas you believe in strongly (hopefully the other person has an open mind.COM . On the other hand. our adversaries are insane. Remember. OSCAR KNOWS “In all matters of opinion. don’t get offended or intentionally offend someone because of these differences. and no one in the world has had the exact same life experiences as you. No reason to get angry. don’t change just because someone else insists upon it. as well!). It’s up to you to be mature enough to respect those differences and though a friendly conversation or debate can be stimulating.
there’s no telling whether or not the information inside is pertinent to YOU.* EBOOKS? MEH Don’t trust everything you read. That’s all this has been. so the dog was easy to see. many) hours to put it all together doesn’t mean the information is good. Read what you can but there are no real ‘experts’ and all anyone can tell you is what has worked for them and people they know in the past. Or even if it is good. Ebooks can be fun and informative. If you have any comments. but just because someone took the (many. shoot me an email at colin@exilelifestyle. and I hope it’s been useful to you nonetheless. typos or just want to connect. HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. So use a filter.COM . questions.com THE ANSWER TO THE RIDDLE (TIP #44) It took place during the day.
I was free of the greenish-yellow monkey on my back and felt great. but in the long-term any addiction is a bad addiction and can keep you from achieving your goals and the life you wish to have. If you cannot stop yourself from doing something when you really need to. It wasn’t something that anyone would have ever pointed out as an addiction. I had no idea how terrible I felt all that time until I didn’t feel terrible anymore. Why be a slave to anything? It may not be immediately harmful (especially in the case of the positive addictions). after all. but long-term can have serious consequences. but it was definitely holding me back and I’m a much better person for kicking the habit.026 NO ADDICTIONS Obviously it’s not ideal to be addicted to alcohol or drugs or sex or pain. These things can bring momentary joy. even so-called ‘positive addictions’ like working out and cleaning your room should be avoided because they are. no matter whether the narcotic be alcohol or morphine or idealism. it’s time to take a good long look in the mirror and come up with a new plan. ON ADDICTION “Every form of addiction is bad.” -Carl Gustav Jung HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. nausea. shakiness and a general sense of unease. Addictions are a hindrance and should be cast aside as quickly as possible. I was hooked on Mountain Dew (seriously) for a long time (up until Junior year of high school). In fact. an inability to sleep. I would drink so much Mountain Dew every day that when I quit cold turkey I had major withdrawal symptoms. After a few weeks of headaches. addictions.COM .
even the way they shake your hand. Personal Branding (the Least You Need to Know) HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. a brand is easy to understand. attitude and skill set the same way that a marketing team would run the brand of a bag of Doritos or a bottle of shampoo. you have no way of knowing who this person is and what they stand for. Learn all the ins-and-outs by reading my free Personal Branding eBook. Why should you want a brand? For one. style. bossy or a follower.COM . but it does take a little planning. but in reality it’s just being yourself and telling your story. The idea is that you can develop a collection of symbols and associations with yourself.” -Colin Wright. The way that you express that story and the consistency with which you do so is the real determining factor of how successful you are in building yourself into a brand. Building a personal brand is not too difficult. FROM PERSONAL BRANDING EBOOK “Personal branding involves managing your reputation. other than what you can glean from their answers to the questions. face and work the same benefits that companies with solid brand equity (like Coco-Cola or Apple) enjoys. defined personal brand.087 PERSONAL BRAND A personal brand is one of those things that sounds fancy and business-speaky. If a random person comes into an interview. granting your name. the expression on their face and the way they’re dressed adds up. Their copy is written in a particular fashion and the design is done in a way that expresses what they are all about. have a track record and can tell you exactly what you’ll get with each and every transaction. Just by looking at their website or business card or resume you automatically know a lot about them. social or antisocial. Consider now that someone comes into the interview and they have a clear. It’s the difference between buying from Rolex and buying a watch from a guy on the street: it’s a lot less of a risk to go with Rolex because they are established. they could be reliable or unreliable. look.
Googling your name. ‘I take what I do seriously.’ ON PERSONAL WEBSITES “Looking at the proliferation of personal web pages on the Net. you need to create more content pronto.com. even through a free service like Blogger or Wordpress. At the very least. But you won’t know for sure unless you take that space and make it your own. It says to the world. you’ll automatically be in charge of where the conversation about you goes.028 YOUR WEBSITE Okay so-and-so@aol. and there’s never been a better time to make one. As people go window-shopping. Booya. Why would you want a website? It’s the window to who you are that faces the public. A big part of that content is your website. it looks like very soon everyone on Earth will have 15 megabytes of fame. It’s time you got a website.” -MG Sriram HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. a website provides an online base that someone you met at a party or at a business meeting or wherever can find you at after the fact. It’s time to take Brand You to the next level and produce a resource that explains your ins-and-outs. it’s time you got up to date and became an active player in your own life. By creating a website/blog. If your personal website is not on the first page when someone Google’s your name. You can write about what you want and if you stick to topics related to your personal brand you might rank for those as well. Seriously enough to get my own website and beat those uncomfortable newspaper articles down in the rankings. what will come up? Will it be a newspaper article of you being brought in on a DUI? I hope not.COM .
don’t make it tacky (unless that’s your look. with only the necessary information and a market-wise introduction along the top. just make sure you keep some on you at all times. but know that you can turn the ritual of exchanging business cards into a powerful personal brand reinforcing exercise just by making sure your card says something about you and what you stand for. If you don’t have a business card you’ll be forced to 1) awkwardly put their number into your phone right then and there. I found a great letterpress studio that printed my information in a nice vegetable oil ink on super-sustainable paper that is ridiculously thick and expensivefeeling. in which case you should go for it!). Get business cards.COM . I was just starting my studio at the time. Your card doesn’t need to be as much of an investment as mine have been. 99% of the time the recipient comments on it. or 3) tell them your name and hope they Google you. 2) scrawl your name and number down on a napkin or receipt you happen to have in your pocket (ick). When I hand out my business card. Don’t overload the thing. one of them asks you what you do and is in need of your services! What I did when this happened to me was whip out my business card and hand it to the potential client. website URL and email address is all you need). You never know when your next opportunity will arise. Lo and behold. You’re standing there and you strike up a conversation with the other people at the table. My business cards express who I am beautifully. I designed them to be super-simple and minimal. giving me a chance to reinforce my brand in their mind. BUSINESS CARD EXAMPLES 50 Creative Business Cards of 50 Graphic Designers HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. Just have something with your name and contact information (phone number. Even super-simple ones.069 BUSINESS CARDS Consider this: you’re out at a wine bar and your significant other stops on the way out to speak with someone she recognizes. but I made sure before anything else that I had something to take out with me when I networked.
I remember being jealous in my first relationship. It is the green-eyed monster which doth mock The meat it feeds on. and if anything should happen. Jealousy does nothing but hurt you and those around you and the easiest way to be less jealous is to deal with your own self-esteem issues. I would get a knot in my stomach and would get really down on myself. so just aim for control at first) is key to being able to roll with the punches and take life as it comes and that is key to being happy.” -William Shakespeare. The prime thing to take away is that if you are the jealous type. Why should I care if the girl I’m dating talks to other guys? Why should things like this bother me? If there were anything to worry about. SOME WORDS FROM WILLIAM “O! beware. And that’s life. you will have a lot of problems with relationships . Them’s the breaks. you just don’t want to put in the effort). I’d deal with it then. I wasn’t a very confident person back then and I suffered from immense amounts of jealousy because of that deficit. she’d tell me. and there are plenty of fish in the sea.100 JEALOUSY I’m just going to say this to you straight: if you cannot control your jealousy. Being able to control your jealousy (it’s difficult to completely get rid of it.COM . as they say. jealousy stems from low self-confidence. don’t just cop out and live with it (“I’m a jealous person and can’t help it. and yadda yadda yadda. The thing is. of jealousy. Othello HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. the more I’ve realized that most things simply aren’t worth worrying about. Any time I’d see my girlfriend even talking to another guy. my lord. you can. The more confidence I’ve gained.” Sorry.in business and your personal life.
Think about it this way: if you have a really terrible day where everything goes wrong. but one aspect of this philosophy that I find to be incredibly helpful on a day-to-day basis involves tolerating hardship in order to increase the level of happiness I am able to enjoy.” -Seneca HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. This idea transfers and scales really well and if you are able to cope with bad situations without reverting to escapism or victimhood.” “No man is free who is not master of himself. your highs will get higher and your mediums will be pretty darn great..” “How ridiculous and how strange to be surprised at anything which happens in life!” -Marcus Aurelius “That which Fortune has not given. it will be well with me. she cannot take away. Nice! SHORT QUOTES FROM STOICS “Wherever I go.’ you are rid of the hurt itself.” “Virtue is nothing else than right reason.get rid of the ‘I am hurt. Even better. the next day could be just average but will seem great in comparison to the previous day.” -Epictetus “Get rid of the judgement.COM .. every bad situation will turn into a learning experience rather than a day ruiner.110 SORT OF STOIC There is much wisdom to be derived from Stoicism.
I realize my goals have gone from getting a record deal or selling another record to being a better person. Voila! Instant versatility! TRENT REZNOR SAYS “Though I still have no semblance of a life outside of Nine Inch Nails at the moment. A good way to start expanding your reach is to get involved with things related to what you already do. more well-rounded. After a while. for example. If you ARE a scrapbooker. A person of unfortunate proportion. though. but each skill also stands on its own. Take care of yourself. you and everyone you cook for will be sick of that dish. If you look the rest of their body. or get into decoupage.” -Trent Reznor. This will result in a much healthier (and attractive!) you. work your legs. having a relationship with somebody. having friends. These are all related. core and do cardio exercises. lifting lots of weights and flexing in the mirror. in a lot of cases their beer bellies and love handles are like Jello inside their sleeveless shirts. Your friends are already really sick of hearing about your scrapbooks. maybe start painting.COM . it doesn’t really matter how well you do it. or write a book.008 BE ROUND There’s something to be said for having a specialty. sad thing. whether physically or mentally. and you are missing out on a much wider world. a particular dish that you cook really well. What then? It’s like those guys at the gym that work their arms really hard. Being a well-rounded person is a much better goal. is a sad. If all you do is scrapbook. Rather than just focusing on bulking up your arms. Eat well. Nine Inch Nails HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. The same holds true with your skills and activities.
When writing an article for my blog.018 COMMUNICATE They say that communication is the most important part of any relationship. They act impulsively without thinking. or. I could load my arguments down with jargon so that only a select group of people understands what I’m saying (those already ‘in the know’). you may as well be talking to yourself.” -Margaret Chase Smith “I know that you believe you understand what you think I said. and it’s true. ON COMMUNICATION “One of the basic causes for all the trouble in the world today is that people talk too much and think too little.” -Robert McCloskey HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. I always try to think before I talk. acquaintances and strangers. on an international scale. friends. colleagues. war. well-explained industry chatter to keep things flavorful. but I’m not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant. Unclear or imprecise communication with anyone can lead to misunderstandings. This same tactic can be used in real life to great effect. The secret to being a clear communicator is to keep things simple and to find common ground. which can in turn lead to uncomfortable situations. Recognize that your audience is whomever you’re speaking to at that moment.COM . breakups. and if you are saying something that they don’t understand or care about. but usually I keep the slang to a minimum and focus instead on presenting broader ideas with a sprinkling of well-defined. This applies not just to romantic couplings but also your relationships with family.
etc. be able to climb stairs without panting and not have to be as concerned about what I eat. going on dates.’ That’s realistic and won’t set you up for any yo-yo diets or crash exercise routines. the founder of Buddhism HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. If you have trouble getting into a regular workout plan or changing your diet. but health-wise they’re killing themselves. BUDDHA’S HEALTH ADVICE “Every human being is the author of his own health or disease. These are habits I’ve established so that I can look good and feel good (both are important to me) without worrying too much about my off days. It’s all about figuring out what’s important to you and establishing a balance.COM . I keep those two things separate because there is a difference. have corn-yellow teeth and never wash your hair. you’ll still have some issues getting work. There are professional weight lifters that look all ripply and athletic. If you want to make this a permanent thing your goal will need to be ‘I want to be able to slim down. I love my work and there are days when I simply forget to eat and sleep and take care of myself physically because I’m so engrossed in whatever it is I’m doing. but if you smell terrible. too. I’d recommend setting realistic goals. keeping you more motivated.” -Hindu Prince Gautama Siddharta. feel healthy. You can be the most physically fit person in the world. I can afford to do this from time to time because in general I eat a healthy diet and work out every day. It’s also important that you keep up a certain level of personal hygiene. Taking good care of yourself hygienically can actually help you get into a good exercise/diet routine. since your investment in your appearance will frame any gains you see from the health side of things.013 BE HEALTHY I’ve known some very intelligent and self-aware people who just don’t seem to be able to find the time or motivation to keep themselves in good health and good shape. Saying ‘I’m going to lose 20 pounds because I want to fit into my skinny jeans’ is not ideal. There are also some people who look overweight but are actually going to outlive us all because of the high quality of their diet and lifestyle.
bad habits. How could the driver have seen the dog in time? Courtesy of Mindtrapgames.COM . having interesting conversations: these are all things that are good for your mind and are hopefully enjoyable as well (though if they aren’t.com. find something that is mentally taxing but still enjoyable). EXERCISE YOUR MIND A black dog stands in the middle of an intersection in a town painted black. and you’ll need to exercise your mind regularly if you want to get the results you desire out of your mental processes. as they help your mind create relationships between disparate chunks of knowledge.044 WORK YOUR MIND Your mental health is just as important as your physical health. etc. Some of these things are more difficult to cope with than others (depression can be a life long struggle. Mental problems can include but are not limited to things like depression. Getting over something that is mentally debilitating is a great victory. doing math. Crossword puzzles are great for this. and though the road is difficult. mentally jumping up and down all day so that eventually you’ll be able to leap over those hurdles with ease. word problems. which helps you to learn more effectively and swiftly in the future (because its associative abilities will improve over time). Reading. exercising your mind means giving it tasks that are challenging. emotional baggage. answer on the last page HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. an adherence to preconceived notions. but it’s still vital that you keep working your mind muscles. and emotional baggage can be just as tough to get over). None of the street lights are working due to a power failure caused by a local storm. a success can remove all handicaps and allow you to perform on a much higher level. But what’s that MEAN? Well. A car with two broken headlights drives towards the dog but turns in time to avoid hitting him.
If you don’t have goals you’ll be like someone wandering aimlessly through the woods. What if you decide you REALLY want to go to Europe next summer? If you don’t have any goals. Fortunately. and repeat the process until you’ve achieved that goal. it probably means you aren’t financially secure enough to be able to take a vacation to wherever you want whenever you want…that requires planning. until you identify these goals and make them real. You might see some interesting stuff but you won’t have any landmarks to help you find your way out should you change your mind. it doesn’t matter. existing but without a goal in sight. write down what the next step for that goal is. write the very next step you’ll need to take to reach that goal. Try this: take out a sheet of paper (or if you want to be eco-friendly. even Existentialists have goals. though. Your lack of goals in the past will have crippled your personal infrastructure so that cobbling together a plan on short notice will be nearly impossible. MAKE A BUCKET LIST 43 Things (online list) Doomi (Adobe Air list) Things (Get Things Done-style list for Mac/iPhone) HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. Want to be promoted to manager or get a new car or win an online poker tournament? You have a goal. It could be as simple as ‘take out trash’ or as involved as ‘organize closet.085 HAVE GOALS There are few things more depressing than meeting someone who coasts through life. Big.COM . even if they all revolve around having a good time right now. Now. small. Having a goal is not good enough by itself. Make sure you have a few of them. next to each goal. just open up a text editor on your computer and use that instead) and write down a few goals. you’ll have a very difficult time visualizing how to achieve them. Hell. even if we don’t realize it.’ but identifying the next step for each goal allows you to break these larger projects into more digestible chunks. As soon as you perform one step. Now you can systematically go down the list and perform each first step as you’re able. most of us have goals.
WASHINGTON’S WISDOM “Associate yourself with men of good quality if you esteem your own reputation. You’ll need to be an inspiration to the other members of your group. You need people who will be aware of your goals and your progress. and even dating sites like Plenty of Fish and OKCupid (you’d be amazed how easy it is to get motivated when you find someone to date who is worth impressing). people who have similar goals and a similar drive to achieve them. Remember. or aimless. too. and you won’t find many people who are willing to just carry you without getting anything back. This is a very important concept because so many people are being held back from their true potential because the company they keep is lazy. I talk a lot about surrounding yourself with the right kind of crowd. Be ready and willing to make waves and fight the good fight and you’ll find that other people will start coming to you. The Internet has an incredible number of resources. There’s nothing wrong with having a group of people that you hang out with. party with.” -George Washington. etc. go clubbing with. don’t worry because it’s really easy to find one. rather than the other way around. What’s not ideal is ONLY having that crowd and not having a group of people you can grab a cup of coffee with while you talk about your hopes and dreams. 1st US President HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE.060 THE RIGHT CROWD In my ebook on Personal Branding. relationships of any kind are a give and take. including social networks like LinkedIn and Twitter. If you don’t have a group like this. forums like 20 Something Bloggers. for ‘tis better to be alone than in bad company. unmotivated.COM .
” -Steve Jobs. Some people aren’t used to an environment where excellence is expected. There aren’t any simple paths to this. you basically just need to find out as much as possible about what you want to do and then focus on making it so. which is a niche that needs to be filled… But I digress. It’s unlikely that anyone will ever be the ‘best’ at anything (it’s such a relative term as to be useless. intelligent direction and skillful execution. Apple CEO HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. Then again. QUOTES ON QUALITY “Quality is never an accident.” -William A. sincere effort. The point here is that if you’re going to do something. I suppose it could be argued that even the low quality fare is valuable in that it’s cheap and easy. you should aim for that and not accept excuses from yourself. do it as well as you know how. Foster “Quality means doing it right when no one is looking. but being excellent is something worth striving for.COM .046 DO IT WELL Looking at the low quality of products and services on the market these days I can’t help but wonder how we got to where we are now. it represents the wise choice of many alternatives. it is always the result of high intention. anyway).” -Henry Ford “Be a yardstick of quality. Work at it until you really know what you’re doing and then work some more. Whatever quality means to you and your field.
I then sought out more of the kinds of projects that were left over. but I think it’s more likely that you won’t miss them and will enjoy the extra free time a whole lot more.COM . I recommend that you take stock of what time-wasting activities are mucking up your lifestyle and try getting rid of a few. size of sand particles. or prestige. I was able to cut my working week from 60-80 hours all the way down to 10-15 hours using this principle. or whatever you’re working for) while a small bit of what you’re doing is bringing in a lot. If the world starts to crumble you can always bring them back. the value of oil reserves in oil fields. I then applied this same principle to my lifestyle. In doing this. I applied this principle by taking a look at my studio and cutting out the super timeconsuming and low-paying work. This means that a very significant portion of what you are doing is bringing in very little money (or fame. the length distribution in jobs assigned to supercomputers. THE 80/20 PRINCIPLE ALSO APPLIES TO: Frequencies of words in longer texts. cutting some of the time. clusters of BoseEinstein condensate near absolute zero.and emotionally-draining relationships from my life and leaving the ones that really brought me value (whatever that happened to mean in each case).025 80/20 PRINCIPLE If you don’t know what it is. and I continue to make the same amount of money (or more) each month. I was able to reclaim even more time to use in whatever way I see fit. via StateMaster. the standardized price returns on individual stocks. which allowed me to make a lot more money with less time and effort. file size distribution of Internet traffic which uses the TCP protocol. size of meteorites. the premise of the 80/20 Principle is that about 80 percent of your results come from about 20 percent of your effort. the size of human settlements.com HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE.
make conscious decisions and think things through. it is a thing to be achieved. make waves.not chance . Living my destiny-less life encourages me to blaze my own trail.that determines your destiny. then I would feel pretty limited in what I could do. It would happen regardless of whether I put thought and time and effort in. it will take me far away from what I’m supposed to do…better stay put. ‘If I go to so-and-so country.’ Fortunately that’s not the case and whatever I end up doing is the right thing at that moment in time. It also allows me to accept no limitations. try new things. It’s an invigorating thought and one that I cherish greatly. My feeling is that by NOT having a destiny I’m even more inclined to strive and fight my way forward because I feel like what I do matters more.” -Jean Nidetch “Destiny is no matter of chance. Some people who find this out about me think it’s terribly tragic and ask how I can live without feeling that there’s something guiding me…something to live up to. If I believed it was my destiny to do X.049 DOUBT DESTINY I’m not a big believer in anything that can’t be supported by scientific evidence and destiny falls squarely into that category. If events were already predestined then I wouldn’t have to worry about doing the right thing because that right thing would already be locked in.COM . It is a matter of choice: It is not a thing to be waited for.” -William Jennings Bryan HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. ON DESTINY “It’s choice .
When I was a kid. Removing yourself from the familiar allows you to break the chains of habit and try something new. I know.” -Ecclesiastes 1:9 HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. I wasn’t sure). Even if you should find yourself stuck in an uncomfortable position or tedious responsibility.101 ENJOY NOVELTY No situation should ever be boring. it sounds a little hokey when explained like that. It’s an opportunity to change.but they can also be terrible hindrances if you become dependent on them. The lunch you have will be different. I took these experiences to be punishments (for what. reevaluate your situation and implement new habits if necessary or desired. and what you think you know. how everything fits together. I go out of my way to check out small towns and for the very same reasons that I used to hate them. I found myself in small towns with nothing to do a lot more frequently than I would have liked. There were no video games! No friends! No familiar restaurants or stores! Why would anyone do this to their children?! These days. Having an excuse to break habits is a great way to shake things up.they help you establish positive habits like working out regularly and eating well . Every novel experience opens you up and makes you reconsider your place in the world.” -William Makepeace Thackeray “There is nothing new under the sun. you can still get your kicks by acknowledging and celebrating the novelty that is inherent in every moment of every day.COM . the people you meet will be different and the things you do will be different all because you won’t be able to fall into comfortable routines. Routines can be good . and you should pounce on every such chance you come across. IDEAS ABOUT NOVELTY “Novelty has charms that our minds can hardly withstand. but consider this: having lived in the Midwest.
then I work to change my circumstances until I do. because I work hard to design my life so that I can have MORE fun. be crazy. that’s not even a question. be weird. Experience everything. so you might as well enjoy the process. I personally believe that I have a finite amount of time to live and because of this I should make the most of the time I have. It would be a shame to have spent my 100 or so years on Earth quietly trying to improve myself while hating the process and waiting to be finished. Go out and screw up! You’re going to anyway. Have fun. Nay! I enjoy every single hour of every single day. There’s no reason to suffer. and though there are some good arguments in favor of Stoically dealing with bad situations and really experiencing bad things when they happen. Don’t try to be perfect.COM .010 HAVE FUN! A lot of people seem to think lifestyle design and conscious living are terribly boring pursuits. THIS IS IMPORTANT “Live life fully while you’re here.” -Anthony Robbins HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. Why would you want to analyze the fun out of your life? To me. and if I don’t. Take the opportunity to learn from your mistakes: find the cause of your problem and eliminate it. even these coping mechanisms are designed to help you enjoy life more and with greater intensity. just be an excellent example of being human. Take care of yourself and your friends.
TRY NEW THINGS “Everyone has a ‘risk muscle.” -Roger Van Oech “Don’t fear failure so much that you refuse to try new things. Take risks and seek out new opportunities.” -Louis E. might have.098 EXPAND HORIZONS If you spend your life inside a bubble of familiarity. If you don’t like something then you’ll know better the next time. and should have.’ You keep it in shape by trying new things. you will not only miss out on a lot that the world has to offer.” -Jack Handy HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. Boone “I think my new thing will be to try to be a real happy guy. If you don’t. Don’t be that guy. You know that guy who only eats hamburgers and chicken tenders? Won’t eat anything else? Scoffs at the concept of sushi (which he’s never tried)? That guy is living in a very small world and doesn’t even know what he’s missing out on.COM . it atrophies. I’ll just walk around being real happy until some jerk says something stupid to me. you will also be a pretty boring person. Make a point of using it at least once a day. But at least you will have made the effort and had the experience so that you can know your tastes in the future. The saddest summary of a life contains three descriptions: could have.
Heinlein HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. If you are polite. not eating until the other person’s food has arrived. it’s customary to give one quick peck on the cheek of whomever you’re greeting. sure. It’s also very good for your reputation. There IS a point where you can become too proper. What I learned about holding doors and shaking hands that years has been incredibly valuable to me since. but in general be willing to adapt to local customs (I’m currently in Buenos Aires. and though some people here shake hands. Manners are good when one may have to back up his acts with his life. instead). What’s considered polite will be different every place you go. but my grandmother really drilled the lessons into me one summer. or would prefer to hold the door for you. and you should always be willing to bend your manners when it’s clear the that other person would prefer it (some people will insist you start eating so your food doesn’t get cold. etc). My parents taught me. while in the United States a firm handshake is the norm) and be considerate of others (this means holding the door for men and women. relationships. Yay! GUNS AND HANDSHAKES “An armed society is a polite society. you will be more pleasant to be around.COM . Forcing your own ideas and traditions upon others certainly misses this point. and can help you more easily adapt to local customs.” -Robert A. In most cases pulling out chairs for women and the like can be a bit over the top for contemporary times.055 BE POLITE (PLEASE) One of the most important lessons I learned when I was very young was to be polite. Looking for and reading these signs from the people you are with is probably the most important rule of politeness because in the end the real point is to show respect for other people.
COM . but if you do you’ll have a leg up over those who don’t. the better off you and everyone else will be.061 SEEK KNOWLEDGE What do you know about oranges? How about Europa (the moon)? World War II history? Know anything about quantum mechanics or Latin or SEO? You don’t NEED to know about these things. Building these associations doesn’t requiring any studying. which gave me enough money to take some classes and spend more time refining those skills and learning others (social media. There is nothing higher than reason. consulting. sustainability. Knowing about a lot of different fields is fulfilling on a personal level because I am able to make connections between disparate concepts faster than most. and ends with reason. As you read a book. etc). which I’ve also been able to turn into services that I provide to my clients. A big part of the world’s problems exist because of widespread misinformation and ignorance. it just requires that you take learning seriously and read/watch/investigate a lot so that you have a massive backlog of facts and concepts to draw from when you’re taking in new information. This helps you to retain the new information much faster and more efficiently. I was able to leverage these interests into paying work. proceeds then to the understanding.” -Immanuel Kant HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. you take in information and your mind builds relationships between what you already know and what you’re reading. I went to school for design and illustration but also learned some programming and marketing skills in my free time. I can tell you from personal experience that knowing as much as possible about a lot of different fields of study can be personally gratifying and financially beneficial. The more you know. By making yourself a hub of information you can start to chip away at these problems. WHERE KNOWLEDGE LEADS “All our knowledge begins with the senses.
Staying informed can also involve keeping up with what your many friends.” -Thomas Jefferson. Take a little bit of time each day to quickly glance through your friends’ and family’s status updates on Facebook (or wherever your friends tend to frequent) and make note of anything out of the ordinary. that whenever things get so far wrong as to attract their notice. You don’t need to know all about the party your friend from high school was at last night.COM . they may be relied on to set them to rights. A big part of staying informed is simply being a good communicator: if you ask the right questions. family. you’ll be able to find out who’s dating who before you make an ass of yourself or offend someone. colleagues and other connections are up to. knowing the capital of Uruguay (Montevideo!) is knowledge. For example. but you may want to remember that your buddy from college (who you’ll be seeing soon) has just proposed to his girlfriend. but because there’s so MUCH information. while knowing whether or not the girl you’re flirting with at the bar is already seeing someone relates more to being informed. 3rd US President HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE.094 BE INFORMED Being informed is different than being knowledgeable in that what you are trying to learn is not necessarily an historical or scientific fact. they can be trusted with their own government. This information is knowledge that you will hopefully pick up sooner rather than later. it also requires you to filter out the chafe without discarding the really important stuff. IT’S GOOD TO KNOW “Whenever the people are well informed. but rather tidbits of information you can use to plan your actions and lifestyle. This is getting easier and easier to do because of the popularity of online social networks. but because of the direct impact it has on your actions there is a distinction.
it does tend to work: if you put effort into being a good person and treating others as you would like to be treated. their head held high. If someone comes to me with a project I don’t have time for and I recommend a friend of mine who can handle it instead. Now if my friend has the opportunity to give me a recommendation. my friend gets the work and the client gets their project done by someone who has been vouched for. Jerks can make it in the world but they’ll have everyone else fighting against them the whole way. INVISIBLE KARMA “Like gravity.but the chances of my being reward in some way are definitely improved because of the initial kindness. I personally believe that this works so well and consistently because people who are actively trying to be good visually display a certain something that others can pick up on.051 PAY IT FORWARD Do nice things for others and you will have nice things done for you. they’ll likely do so. and a ready grin is present. It’s a simple concept and one that many people consider to be spiritual.” -Sakyong Mipham HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. Whether you believe in karma or not. karma is so basic we often don’t even notice it.COM . whatever your motivation.there are no social or physical contracts that require this kind of tit-for-tat . In other words: they’re the kind of person you want to be friendly to. Their posture is different. their eyes are friendly. I can’t be sure it will happen. you’re stacking the deck in your favor. Help others out when you can. Another reason that this tends to work is because a favor given usually leads to a favor returned. of course .
It IS good to help others out when you can. it means that the good of some men takes precedence over the good of others. their meaning and their costs requires the highest human virtue: Rationality. giving a whole lot more than they are getting back. But think about it rationally: if everyone took care of themselves first and then used whatever they had left to help out others who aren’t able to muster the same energy and strength we’d all be a whole lot better off.” -Ayn Rand HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. when everyone gives of themselves into a ‘pool’ to be divided up between everyone equally. MORE FROM AYN “To know one’s own desires. among other things. it’s beneficial for them and it’s beneficial for you.” In other words. says that one should not live their lives for someone else.COM . Rand once said: “When ‘the common good’ of a society is regarded as something apart from and superior to the individual good of its members. If you wear yourself out trying to help everyone else before yourself.072 YOU FIRST There’s a school of philosophical thought called Objectivism (created by author and philosopher Ayn Rand) that. That’s called slavery. It doesn’t make sense for those people to be coerced into a position where they cannot even support themselves because everyone else has decided that these people of ability should give to others before themselves. with those others consigned to the status of sacrificial animals. you won’t be able to help anyone. This is a simple but often forgotten (or misunderstood) concept. invariably there will be those that are getting a bad deal. though. largely because people don’t tend to like the idea of ‘looking out for Number One’ (yourself) before anyone else.
031 MAKE BAD GOOD Any time I find myself in a really bad situation – whether it’s dangerous or sad or just not great – I tell myself ‘man.” -Louisa May Alcott HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. By facing the worst moments in life without flinching.” -Winston Churchill “I’m not afraid of storms. Self. you’re able to appreciate the good moments even more (and the average moments suddenly become much more noteworthy). Keep this in mind because there will always be bad times.’ In other words. this is going to make a good story someday. today’s tragedies are tomorrow’s comedies. pay attention and make sure you take it all in. I’m going to learn something from this. an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.” -John Heywood “A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity. THE GLASS IS HALF FULL “If you will call your troubles experiences. for I’m learning how to sail my ship.COM . however adverse your circumstances may seem to be. it’s how you respond to them that determines whether they end up being pointless or beneficial. you will grow vigorous and happy. and remember that every experience develops some latent force within you.
since we have a natural tendency to find stability where possible and to lock it down. One thing I’m planning on keeping around. That is change I can depend on (the best of both worlds!). You can see this in many peoples’ relationships. we change. Embracing change can be tough. For example. I find it helpful to have some aspects of my life that are constantly in a flux while others are kept more consistent. Just so long as you are giving your mind a chance to get out of habit-mode and flex a bit you’re doing yourself a service. careers and actions. despite my near-addiction to it.COM . You could change up something as simple as your hair color or the route you take to work or the TV shows you watch from time to time. IT’S YOUR RESPONSIBILITY “Things do not change. new adventure or chance to reinvent myself. Throughout my life change has always brought a next step. Change doesn’t have to be that dramatic. and there’s nothing at all wrong with this way of living (it’s just not very conducive to constant evolution and in fact limits it quite a bit). is change.” -Henry David Thoreau HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. though.109 EMBRACE CHANGE I’m an anti-addiction kind of person and if I find myself getting hooked on something I try to remove whatever it is I’m addicted to from my life. with the Exile Lifestyle project I’m moving to a new country every 4 months.
COM .’ though that’s such a rough term as to be nearly worthless in describing something aesthetically) you start to see the beauty in the lines and the wonderful perfection in the imperfections. LOOK AROUND “Life is full of beauty. Or the color and texture of the rusty pipes in the alleyway. and feel the wind. respectively). that you find a local community college or life drawing group and start going a few times a month. Notice it. In time you’ll begin to see what those artists and poets see and it really does make the walk through life a much more enjoyable one. Or the drop of dew falling from the ivy that’s crawling up and slowly tearing down a wall. Being able to find beauty wherever you look will increase the quality of your life by 472% (approximately). Some people just aren’t attractive in the traditional sense. Notice the bumble bee. but it’s the people with the rolls of fat or scarred face or hair in awkward places or completely asymmetrical features that are the most interesting to draw. Something that really helped me achieve this goal was taking a life drawing class. This carries over easily to non-human objects as you begin to study color and composition (which you can learn a lot about in Color Theory or Photography classes. and the smiling faces. I highly recommend that if you have trouble finding the beauty in anything.035 VALUE BEAUTY Looking to get more out of life? Stop and take a look at the pattern of tiles on the ceiling. the small child. and fight for your dreams. Live your life to the fullest potential.” -Ashley Smith HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. Smell the rain. As you draw someone that would conventionally be considered unattractive (or ‘ugly.
make use of a cheat code. I find that looking at life as a game makes it a whole lot less intimidating and confounding. bypassing the game’s intended course completely). Of my life. A lively game of Twister can be the highlight of an otherwise ho-hum party and turning meeting new people into a game can really increase the size and quality of your network. I make use of games whenever possible. by the way) can make an awkward meeting with a younger sibling more than tolerable. I play games to learn. As I work harder and achieve more. From time to time I come across really difficult scenarios (bosses?) and once I overcome them. I play games for kicks.COM . The storyline of real life is more epic than any game I’ve ever played (which makes it a lot easier to focus on improving myself and playing MY game than. I can move on to the next level. I play games to socialize.032 PLAY GAMES I’m a big fan of games. Games are fun and games tap into our feral desire to achieve a goal that we wouldn’t necessarily care about otherwise (‘Ha! I sunk your battleship!’).” -Shigeru Miyamoto HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. MARIO’S INFLUENCE “Video games are bad for you? That’s what they said about rock and roll. Hell. Anything that gets in my way is just a temporary setback until I can figure out how to get past it (or in some cases. playing a game of Halo (which I’m terrible at. obstacles I encounter and rewards I receive. How I live my life (play the game) determines the types of people I meet. beating Final Fantasy or Warcraft). I gain more experience (points?) and become stronger. say.
at least). sometimes casually and ignorantly and sometimes with active intent. This attitude continued throughout college. My philosophy on this is that one should make as few enemies as possible. You will make enemies as you go through life (if you’re doing anything worth doing. making our common friends very uncomfortable.certain people will just want to hate you. while talking to him at a party (trying very hard not to offend him. I knew a guy in college who clearly hated me even before he met me because I had just started dating his ex-girlfriend (who. Long story short.078 DON’T ANTAGONIZE This seems pretty obvious. or will interpret something you do as being so heinous that you won’t be able to set them straight – but every enemy you make is one more person who wants you to fail and may even actively try to prevent you from succeeding. it’s very difficult to change their mind.COM . I said something that he took the wrong way and he attacked me.” -Joseph Conrad HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. since it was clear he was trying to pick a fight). What I recommend is this: avoid situations that will inevitably lead to making enemies (I should have done this when I realized he was trying to pick a fight when I first met him) and respect everyone the best you can. but I’m truly amazed by the number of people I know who simply couldn’t care less about who they offend and antagonize. REASONABLE PRECAUTIONS “Love your enemies just in case your friends turn out to be a bunch of bastards. I couldn’t stand that things were that way. but the fewer you have the less you’ll have to look over your shoulder. I found out later. he was trying to get back together with). waiting for someone to throw a wrench in your plans. but once someone has it in their head that you’re the bad guy. There’s no avoiding it sometimes .
COM . GOOD ADVICE “Laugh at yourself first. Learn to laugh at your failures. your successes. You’ll be amazed at how much better you feel. Make use of this when you are feeling really down by laughing.” -Elsa Maxwell HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. what you love. and you’ll be able to recover from a boneheaded move and work hard whether you fail or succeed much more easily. It’s been shown (by science!) that the act of smiling and laughing can actually improve your mood.003 LAUGH AT YOURSELF You will make mistakes. You are not perfect. what you hate and what you do. before anyone else can.
it WILL come back to bite us in the ass. Also: our coffers will be much larger as we move closer to a ‘use every part of the buffalo’ attitude. I don’t know that we’re going to have a major ecological disaster any time soon. we’re cutting down all the trees. even if you can only move in baby steps. because seriously folks. A BRAVE NEW WORLD “Modern man no longer regards Nature as in any sense divine and feels perfectly free to behave toward her as an overweening conqueror and tyrant. Anyone who claims it won’t is either 1) lying because they work for an industry that requires a lot of wasteful practices to operate. because honestly sometimes it’s just not possible. I’m not going to preach about recycling and reusing and buying secondhand and such.COM . 2) lying because they’re a politician or person of faith whose political party or religion require them to ignore the painfully obvious consequences of their actions. What do you THINK is going to happen? So do what you can. whether it’s for your business or your personal finances. You SHOULD consider that having a loop you can close usually leads to savings.042 BE SUSTAINABLE It’s easy to be wasteful: easy and irresponsible. polluting the air and filling up every square inch of empty space with waste. and there are plenty of other people preaching it better than I could.” -Aldous Huxley HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. or 3) simply out of touch with reality. And if we keep messing with the planet and building up more and more trash and such. but our quality of life can only improve when we pay more attention to sustainability.
my hopes and dreams.COM . Cramming our calendars full of meetings and projects certainly helps get things done. REST HARD “No rest is worth anything except the rest that is earned. but if you want to get things done WELL you’ll need some time every now and then to space out. What matters is that you give your mind the freedom to just be. I then pick a spot on the opposite wall to stare at. I recommend 20 minutes per day. WORK HARD. motivated and ready to hit the ground running. You might think of different things. things I’ve forgotten to do or write down previously are even more common!) and you’ll feel refreshed. I started out doing 30 minutes a day but found that the last 10 minutes tended to be wasted: I would just sit their wanting to go work and waiting for the timer to run down.065 BE A THINKER It’s easy (especially as a motivated person) to actively utilize every moment of every day for something productive. what I’m going to do the rest of the day. turn off all the music and close the door so that things are as quiet as possible. I sit or lie down in a comfortable position. I use this ‘20 Minutes of Awesome’ a day to let my mind wander a bit. interesting memories from the past. things I need or want to do. unfocus my eyes and let my thoughts go where they will. My thoughts usually center on what I’ve done during the day. adjust it (everyone is different). “ -Jean Paul HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. or philosophical quandaries I’m working on wrapping my mind around. without trying to force it into a particular shape or activity. reformat your mental hard drive and relax. By the time you’re done you’ll likely have a handful of things to write down (good ideas are common. It doesn’t really matter. If you find that the time is too short or long.
080 STAND UP You spend your whole life learning about yourself and the world. you’d better act on what you believe. It’s given me the will to stand up next time I see an unforgiveable wrong occurring.COM . I distributed them all over town. The power plant went in anyway (the coal industry funded a huge campaign that convinced most of the voting population it was for their own good) but I felt good for having at least spoken my piece and convincing at least a handful of people that the power plant was the wrong direction to go. the city I was living in was voting on whether or not a new coal-fired power plant should be built. When I was in college. as well. and it is stultifying to celebrate the rebels of the past while we silence the rebels of the present. I personally believe that burning coal for energy is foolish when we have so many other alternative options. If there ever comes a time where something you truly believe in is being threatened or someone is doing something that just appalls you. I couldn’t believe they were seriously considering this option. most of which are more future-proof than something as destructive and inefficient as a coal power plant. you’re bound to form opinions about many things. ON PROTEST “Our tradition is one of protest and revolt.” -Henry Steele Commager HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. The meek and silent seldom start revolutions. then by all means take a stand and say your piece. and if you really want to live your philosophy. so I put together a zine (DIY-style magazine) that protested the construction in various creative ways.
The alternative is essentially being a bigot. which will allow you to empathize even if you disagree.COM . ON EMPATHY “Compassion automatically invites you to relate with people because you no longer regard people as a drain on your energy. unwilling to consider anyone else’s opinions and needs and living in ignorance.” -Chongyam Trungpa HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. just take a second and make sure you’re on the RIGHT side.016 RELATE WELL You should always do your best to see things from other angles. You don’t need to change sides.
so they never wanted to talk about it. you’re missing out on half of what makes someone else whom they are. ON RELATIONSHIPS “Man is a knot into which relationships are tied. I just read this ebook that said we should talk about our exes/our likes and dislikes in bed/our relationship status…what are we anyway?/ insert thing you’re confused about here. Need a good way to breach the subject? Next time you’re hanging out with them (try to do this in person). A simple way around this is to communicate clearly with everyone. How can you really know someone if you don’t know about where they’ve been? A person is made up of the combination of their genetics and their experiences. but really.COM . say ‘Hey. I’ve dated people who have been made very uncomfortable any time exes came up. if you can’t discuss the past. Here’s my side.024 AVOID DRAMA I find that most relationships between people are a whole lot more complicated than they need to be. what’s yours?’ I’ll gladly take the blame if anything awkward happens. Flight to Arras HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. but especially people whom you have a romantic (or otherwise intimate) relationship with. To some. the kind of relationship they’re in is up for debate (this has become more obvious since the inclusion of ‘It’s Complicated’ as an option in the Relationship Status field on Facebook).” -Antoine de Saint-Exupéry. Talk with them and don’t let any subject be taboo. do you really want to be in a relationship wherein wanting to know more about the other person would lead to conflict? You don’t need that kind of drama…life’s too short.
don’t sit around on the couch all day watching daytime television.063 MIDDLE PATH This is an idea I ganked from Buddhism. Watch a little bit of Springer if you like. of course: if you really think you’ll see positive results from overindulging in something or completely eliminating something from your life. But as a general-purpose.” -Wilhelm von Humboldt HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. The idea is that too much of anything is bad for you. rock n’ roll. fulfilled. and anything else that people generally advise you avoid. default measuring device. but for Christ’s sake. because it makes you happy (too much of it and it will make you unhealthy and it will cease to be as pleasant). This is just a guideline. etc. You don’t want to give it up completely. So have some ice cream. though. do so. THERE’S HOPE FOR EVERYONE “However great an evil immorality may be. we must not forget that it is not without its beneficial consequences. but not too much. the Middle Path works wonders and can keep you from numbing yourself to good things with extremes. so take the Middle Path…have just enough and you’ll be peaceful. Don’t get trashed. better looking. It is only through extremes that men can arrive at the middle path of wisdom and virtue. just tipsy. and too little of anything is bad for you. but it’s a guideline that I very much try to apply to my life whenever possible. The same is true with sex.COM . drugs.
Among these rules is that the best idea is boss. page 13 HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE.COM . which in practice means that the best ideas stand on their own merit regardless of who comes up with it.” -Crispin Porter + Bogusky Employee Handbook. white or black…none of that matters. take it seriously. it’s in your best interest to listen. has a really fantastic set of rules laid out in their employee handbook. The book itself is nothing fancy.’ the meeting ends immediately and everyone has to leave). If the janitor brings the bouillon instead. ON IDEAS “A good idea can come from anywhere. Crispin Porter + Bogusky. that doesn’t matter. but the rules that are included are groundbreaking and in some cases hilarious (if at any point any person involved in a meeting yells out ‘PINEAPPLE. If you’ve been here a long time.111 THE IDEA IS KING One of my favorite ad agencies. When you hear good advice or if someone shares knowledge with you. The point here is that wisdom can come from any source. and make use of it if warranted. And just because a person’s title is associate creative director or management supervisor doesn’t necessarily mean their ideas are automatically weighed more toward the good end of the scale. man or woman. it’s her baby. experienced or naïve. if one wants to keep growing as a person (and ideally we’ll all be students of something forever). young or old. If the Creative Director comes up with gold. Elitism has no place in a student’s mind. from any person in any department at any level. educated or uneducated. then he’s made a part of the process that brings it to fruition. if you’re overdue or if you’ve worked on that account longer than anyone.
for example. create something that makes you happy. you bring into the world something that would never have existed if you hadn’t been there to do it. GOOD NEWS! “An artist cannot fail. event coordinator or architect). “ -Charles Horton Cooley HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE.040 CREATE ART There are few things more fulfilling than stepping back from a canvas/computer screen/piece of parchment/clay wheel and thinking ‘I made this. Artistic endeavors are good for your creativity (keep it exercised!) and can be very relaxing. Not only that. Whatever statement it makes or impact it has on others is a direct result of your actions.COM .’ Creating artwork of any kind is like being able to give birth every day. can be easily utilized by an industrial designer. It’s yours and you created it with your own hands. and most if not all artistic skill sets are transferable in some way to other fields (the visual composition skills you learn while taking photos. but you may just find you have a knack for it. Even if you don’t think you’re any good. it is a success to be one.
ON SENTIMENTALITY “Sentimentality is a superstructure covering brutality. Also: coping this way leads to happy. you may want to try to deal with the memory in a different way. sadness or nostalgia.COM . what you’re doing or what happens in between. positive feelings rather than sad. Further. but allow yourself to let go of the physical manifestations of the good times (or bad). can never be discarded despite the lack of intrinsic value. while memories can be treasured no matter where you are. and is usually associated with a person who gets easily weepy over memories or losing a treasured memento. This can stand in the way of having a happy life.089 NO BAGGAGE This tends to be a touchy subject. for one reason or another. Sentimentality is defined as excessive tenderness. evolve. lost or destroyed. negative thoughts. Start small if you have to. Physical things can be stolen. This leads to accumulation and clutter and when you are surrounded by artifacts of the past it can be very difficult to move forward. Those memories are YOURS and you shouldn’t limit them (or change them) by remembering them only through the lens of a trinket.” -Carl Gustav Jung HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. hanging on to ‘stuff’ that has no practical value but means something only because of a memory associated with it leads to closets and drawers full of junk that. but stick with me here. I personally think that remembering the good rather than the unfortunate end of your cat’s life would be a much better testament to your love for it than mourning. Attaching memories to objects is always a bad idea. Those memories should be in your head instead of imbued in something tangible. If you can be brought to tears at the thought of your cat that died 5 years ago. and be happy.
How would you feel if someone came to your home and did the same? I find that attempting to live as much like a local as possible helps me to get a good idea of what a city. customs and people. etc is all about. go to the grocery store. the kind of people they ignore at home. you’ll end up walking away with a much more authentic experience.COM . If you stay in a hotel.036 GO LOCAL When traveling. attend local classes and interact with and befriend locals. go to tourist attractions and eat out for every meal you’re getting the tourist experience and really only seeing a whitewashed version of wherever you happen to be. trust me. ON TRAVEL “People travel to faraway places to watch. This is just my preference. state. learn as much of the language and jargon as possible. Don’t be the asshat who goes on and on about how things are so much better back home. cook your food. disrespects unfamiliar practices and is rude or inconsiderate to locals. it’s important to respect local laws. country. Runes HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE.” -Dagobert D. rent an apartment. just with accents and slightly different pastries. If you are able to stay a while. but it seems silly to travel so far only to have the exact same experience you could have had back home. in fascination.
Why do you cling to pain? There is nothing you can do about the wrongs of yesterday. Or. you’ll be much more likely to end up at the top of the world and a whole lot less likely to be stuck in a situation you find unfulfilling. If you are confident in yourself and willing to take risks.COM . to take it a step further. NO MORE CLINGING “Let go.015 LET GO If you love something. Far too few people are willing to make the difficult decision to let go of something good in order to pursue something even better. be willing to let go of anything if necessary to be happy. Why hold on to the very thing which keeps you from hope and love?” -Leo Buscaglia HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. be willing to let it go. It is not yours to judge. if you love life.
THE UPSIDE “Every true genius is bound to be naïve. leaving you open to new experiences in familiar territory and increasing your ability to see any situation or from a different perspective. for example) and play laser tag at the park instead of just sitting on the swing. This kind of outside the box thinking will bring value back to things that you have undervalued for a long time. Forget that you know the right way to walk down the trail and make your own trail.103 BE NAÏVE Try to approach the world like a child would. how everything familiar seems new again as you see things through their eyes? All of a sudden that boring old park is amazing. Go to the roller rink at a different time of day or try participating in a group event (roller derby. You know that feeling you get when you’re showing a friend around your home town.” -Friedrich von Schiller HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. the roller rink is a blast and the well-tread hiking trail is fantastic fun. Train yourself to see the world through fresh eyes by letting go of the burden of knowledge from time to time.COM .
COM . of course. Tip that barista well and you’ll have a much better chance of getting high-end service. your significant other to pay more attention to the details of your relationship. Make an effort to keep in better touch with your family when they give you your space. Be a bit more affectionate to your significant other when they take the time to be more aware of those little things that are so important. but can be very effective ON REWARDS “The reward of a thing well done is to have done it. It’s simply Pavlovian psychology.017 GIVE REWARDS Want others to treat you a certain way? Want good service at the local coffee shop.” -Ralph Waldo Emerson HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. or your family to back off a little? Start rewarding others when they act the way you want and slowly but surely you’ll see more of those results. The reward will be different based on the situation.
not the profession of the unemployed.009 SCARCITY LIVING To have a scarcity mentality (as I’m defining it) means that even during periods of great wealth and success you remember what it means to be poor and failing.” -Oscar Wilde HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. including the knowledge that anything can happen and while you might be doing well now. including how you will deal with devastating situations. and you have planned for such an event. job loss. but it does mean that you should keep your future in mind. financially and emotionally. This doesn’t mean that you have to constantly scrimp and save and not live it up.COM . It is better to have a permanent income than to be fascinating. natural disaster. etc). Your future self will thank you for preparing contingency plans. personal injury. ON INCOME “Unless one is wealthy there is no use in being a charming fellow. Romance is the privilege of the rich. The poor should be practical and prosaic. many people have been in the same situation and then suffered a great loss (death of a family member.
as it tends to apply to not-so-pleasant people like Richard Nixon and Newt Gingrich who are a little emotionless. Since we live in the real world.COM . possessor of an intuitive understanding of symbolism and communication.” -Martina Navratilova HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. Just call me Martina. Professionally it doesn’t matter that you are a woman. why not? Of course the ideal is to be recognized for our accomplishments and not our labels. I find that by embracing the positive qualities of the ENTJ title (born leader. The best plan B is to be aware of what labels apply to you and just own the hell out of them. every time I take a Myers-Briggs personality test I end up labeled a strong ENTJ (extraverted. though. but if you’re able to bring more attention and support to your cause by leveraging that fact (‘Youngest Ever Female CEO!’). Case in point. intuitive.102 OWN LABELS Labels and titles can be very limiting and should be avoided at all costs. build communities and other such endeavors. but this is an imperfect world. I don’t like labels. not very sporadic and sometimes difficult to get along with. Labels can also help you establish a niche. so we roll with the punches! ON LABELS “I came to live in a country I love. This isn’t the most flattering thing in the world. I have loved men and women in my life. thinking and judging). Want to know another secret? I’m even ambidextrous. logic seeker. I’ve been labeled ‘the bisexual defector’ in print. there will always be labels and titles to deal with. controller of environment. etc) I can make this label an asset rather than a burden that I can use to apply for jobs. some people label me a defector.
but you just have to roll with the punches. but you can’t plan sporaticism ON SPORADICISM “It’s a terrible situation. Cultivate an attitude that allows you to easily adapt to new situations or you’ll miss out on a lot of opportunities. just roll with it. go with it! Some of the most interesting. I don’t worry about it.” -Otis Williams HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE.COM . Why not? You can always do what you had planned again in the future. If something you planned got nudged out of place by some unforeseen turn of events. There’s nothing you can do about it.079 BE SPORADIC When something unexpected happens. fun and memorable moments of your life will be the ones that you didn’t plan and had no inkling were on the horizon.
This includes unhappiness. I think the pursuit of money is silly. money can help you buy nice things and get you access into interesting social circles and open up all kinds of doors. Or boredom. but if you don’t have that happiness already. This is a myth. The pursuit of things and ideas that bring you money. and the things money can help you do. Sure.” -Will Smith HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. I recognize that money is a means to an end and not an end unto itself. This is an important distinction. But to have money for money’s sake? Nah. and whatever you already feel will become more intense as you get more of it. they merely amplify what is already there. I don’t want to be that bored. It is an amplifier.048 MONEY? MEH I’m a fairly capitalistic person: I enjoy the challenge of making money and of producing value in exchange for that money. At the same time. all money will do is give you more sadness. sure. You know those really unhappy rich people? The ones that get depressed or drink their lives away or kill themselves? They are the people who thought that money would bring them happiness.COM . ON MONEY “Money and success don’t change people. I’d rather earn it my way…through things that make me happy.
It’s unfamiliar! It’s scary! Surely if it worked someone else would have thought of it before now! Blah blah blah! But every once in a while you’ll come across a new idea that’s world changing.059 BE OPEN-MINDED The quickest and easiest response to a new idea is to discard it. but you don’t know everything. Just in case. Kettering HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. You’re a smart person. ON OPEN MINDS “People are very open-minded about new things as long as they’re exactly like the old ones. The only way we learn more is by keeping an open mind and allowing ourselves to take it all in.COM .” -Charles F. familiar or not. It might inspire you to reach new heights or see life a different way or change your perspective on gun control or lead to an appreciation of a new kind of food. Dismissing new ideas offhand is bad form. None of us do.
” -Madonna HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. ON BULLSHIT “Children always understand. They have open minds.006 KNOW BULLSHIT Some things are so clearly untrue that it’s not worth spending your precious free time on. Go play Tetris instead.COM . more than likely there isn’t anything to hide and THAT is what they are hiding). Your time is better spent doing almost anything else. They have built-in shit detectors. that’s usually a pretty good indication that they have different priorities than what they are telling you to your face. Avoid these kinds of tricks. Also watch for false logic (arguments that depends on arguments that don’t make sense in order to be true) and anything with an air of mystery (if you can’t find out everything about a subject fairly easily because someone is standing in your way. Fortunately you can usually identify these kinds of ideas by the company they keep. If someone is asking for money (trying to sell the idea).
This works in a lot of situations. there is no real right thing to do in any situation (it changes based on your perspective)…only what seems to be the MOST right for you in that very specific moment in time Going with your quick.COM . When you have a tough decision to make. gut-reaction to what a hero would think is right can help you figure this out. Of course. As the protagonist of this story what would you do? There’s your answer. because it can make even the most hum-drum days seem like adventures.056 BE A HERO This is a visualization exercise that I’ve found to be quite useful.” -Ralph Waldo Emerson HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. but he is brave five minutes longer. think of yourself as the hero in your own story. ON HEROES “A hero is no braver than an ordinary man. instinctual. but it also helps you stick to your philosophical guns because thinking about what the hero would do in a story makes you quickly analyze of what the RIGHT thing to do is.
Celebrity is just icing. Most people that you meet in LA are connected in some way to the TV and movie industries (even if they are a few steps removed) so the appreciation for everything poppy and gilded runs deep. I’ve known people who couldn’t tell you where France is on a map. but it will make you a much more well rounded person and much more interesting to talk to at parties (and parties ARE important). why not turn to the Discovery Channel? It may not be the same kind of mental candy. it’s all sugar. and one of the big issues that I have with it is the citywide obsession with celebrity. why not read The Economist? Instead of flipping on The Buzz.COM . then wears dark glasses to avoid being recognized. is it bad for you.” -Fred Allen HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. but there is also plenty wrong with that town. but could tell you the most intimate details of Brad and Angelina’s relationship. There’s simply no substance. Ooh la la. It’s easy and can be delicious but man. ON CELEBRITY “A celebrity is a person who works hard all his life to become well known. Instead of reading Perez Hilton. No nutritional value at all.070 REJECT CELEBRITY There’s a lot to love about Los Angeles.
” -Gilbert K. I never realized how many illustration tools I had at my disposal. The most beautiful part of every picture is the frame.COM . It was also just a whole lot more fun to use this approach than to just draw 100 rabbits with a pencil. This meant that I was able to use watercolors for one rabbit. Chesterton HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. charcoal for another. Who’s going to stop you? PRO LIMITATION QUOTE “Art consists of limitation. The assignment was to create 100 rabbits. relationships or projects and see how it turns out. It was amazing. each and every one resulting in a very unique look and texture. If it doesn’t work. The limitation was that we could only use each medium ONCE. Try something similar in your life. The artificial limitations of the project resulted in more interesting products than I would have created had there been no limitations. After 16-20 rabbits my collection of conventional illustration and art supplies were used up and I was forced to really get creative. etc. you can just break your own rules. pens for another. My girlfriend was turned into a rabbit and I shaped a rabbit out of my shoelaces. I made a shadow-bunny with my hands and I drew a rabbit with my own blood. I made a broccoli rabbit and painstakingly shaped a rabbit out of peanut butter.108 USE LIMITATIONS A project I did for one of my illustration classes in college showed me the value of artificial limitations.
there’s no limitation. but that seems a little limiting to me… DEALING WITH LIMITATIONS “In imagination.047 KILL LIMITATIONS Most of the time I find that limitations exist for their own sake.COM .” -Willem Dafoe HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE.” -Mark Victor Hansen “The mask can be a limitation. Break through barriers that don’t make sense! Show people what can be done when you are uninhibited and you’ll find yourself in the position to work without constraints more often. You do get superhuman strength and pumpkin bombs and all this other stuff to express yourself with. but you just deal with it. You can call this outside the box thinking. they perpetuate a bureaucratic system or exist because of some outdated idea that no longer applies.
so every moment that you aren’t doing something you enjoy is wasted time you’ll never get back. do the next one. Write down what you want to be doing. Better to get started now! The clock is ticking! WISDOM FROM A BANKER “The man who does not work for the love of work but only for money is not likely to make money nor find much fun in life. write down what needs to be done to get there.066 DO YOU LOVE IT? If you aren’t doing what you love. Don’t fall prey to the ‘what-if’s’ and ‘but that’s not how it’s dones. Once that’s complete.” -Charles Schwab HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. why are you doing it? Cut it out.’ It’s your life and you only get one time around. and then actively work toward completing the first item on that list.COM . Then the next.
001 BE MORE The last thing you want to be is a rock star. but not so well known that I’m limited by the expectations of others. Billy Idol can’t go to the supermarket. Other musicians. forever. People would want to talk about the rock n’ roll lifestyle. Women. Why would you want to be pigeonholed for life? Doomed to always be the marketing chick or the car salesman? Make sure there is more to you than your job. so keep that in mind and find something worth geeking out about. Be a hula-hoop champion or model train enthusiast. but have hobbies and interests. Billy Idol couldn’t just walk into a party and have a normal conversation with another person about politics or euthanasia or his love of chess. Join a bridge club or play polo. It’s okay to talk about your work. That’s his life. It’s my goal to become known and respected enough in my field to make changes I want to make. Seriously. A rock star will seldom be anything but a rock star to almost everyone. I tend to hop from field to field fairly regularly so this is especially important to me.COM .” -Pablo Picasso HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. especially if you enjoy it. Anyone who is not a geek for something is boring. ON LIVING “It is your work in life that is the ultimate seduction. too. Drugs.
I’ve been able to reduce the amount of pure labor I put into projects by cutting back on the lower-value projects and activities. which requires more management and less direct involvement and elbow-grease. This is something that I battle with a lot. I worked 5 jobs along with my full load of classes in college so I would have the experience I needed when I got out of school to get the kind of job I wanted. It will not always get you to the top. When I started up my own business. ON HARD WORK “I do not know anyone who has gotten to the top without hard work. You don’t need to kill yourself to do well like I did. but sometimes hard work is the best option and your success may depend on whether or not you’re willing to invest that kind of time and energy.104 ELBOW GREASE Something that most entrepreneurs have trouble with is moving from the startup mentality – where they have their fingers in everything and get their hands dirty working on every aspect of every project – to the business mentality. And it worked! Here I am. doing what I want to do and I have that hard work to thank for it. but it will get you pretty near. but I wouldn’t know how to do that if I hadn’t worked so hard starting out. I didn’t have much free time and I would pull all-nighters all weekend. I put in a whole lot more effort than I was being paid for because I wanted to make sure that the relationships I was building would be strong and didn’t want anything to go wrong.” -Margaret Thatcher HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. That is the recipe. because I got where I’m at now by basically being willing to work a lot harder than just about everyone else.COM .
your health. be as strange or awkward or self-conscious as you want. Sigh. I need me-time. Take time for yourself. because he reflects more.096 ALONE TIME I’m a people person and tend to thrive when around other people. It’s also good to take time for yourself because then you can be sure that you won’t be interrupted and can give your full. undivided attention to all those little personal projects that you keep putting off.” -Thomas Jefferson HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. your productivity and your sanity. And you do too. ON BEING ALONE “One travels more usefully when alone. Sounds wonderful. And it’s when you’re alone that you can truly be yourself. There are a million little changes that you undergo when around others compared to when you’re all alone. but I definitely need time to recharge.COM . When you’re around others you constantly have to bend a bit and make room for other peoples’ needs and desires. You can slump in your chair and read a book in your underwear and eat a big bag of Doritos and take a nap.
you can move on to college with a good idea that can then be refined as you learn and take more classes. take full advantage of what you’re being given. Use the time to investigate different areas of interest. if I have any say in the matter). they are doing the best they can with the system they have. YAY FORMAL EDUCATION! “Education is not the answer to the question. Be respectful. Many people I know who are my age or older still don’t know what they want to do for their first career. thank them for helping you expand your mind and do your best to learn for the long-term rather than the short. There are many people in the world who don’t have access to what you can learn in elementary school. If you take a little time to really think about it during high school. Remember that the people teaching you are NOT your enemy. and they are already graduated from college. and though their methods might be generally outdated and less effective than they could be (our generation will be the ones to fix this.105 USE SCHOOL If you have the opportunity to get a formal education (for however long).” -William Allin HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE.COM . so being able to move on through the system and then to college/university is a HUGE gift. Education is the means to the answer to all questions.
BOO FORMAL EDUCATION! “Education is what remains after one has forgotten everything he learned in school. It was a lot of work.” -Albert Einstein HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. English. I also worked as a columnist for the school newspaper (I wrote my articles while working in the lab) and then another design position with Publications at my school (which dealt more with printed materials than my other position).004 LOSE SCHOOL I decided on what I wanted to do for a living early on in college (freshman year) and then got my core (Math. etc) classes out of the way so I would have more free time later to focus on the really difficult classes and take on jobs in my field. each allowed me to hone a skill set. Sophomore year I took my first design job. It did allow me to learn a new skill set (Flash) and also gave me my initial professional experiences in the field (learning to deal with office life. which was relatively simple and didn’t pay as much as the server job I had been working. gave me back time and money to spend on other jobs and class projects. I took on a design job with a local glossy magazine. I prioritized my time so that I would be able to work on my own projects (there were many) and do well in the classes I needed to get into the design program. Finally. but each and every job provided me with more than just a paycheck. communicating clearly with coworkers. you’ll emerge from your formal education ready for the job market or to start up your own business. etc). or provided me with some other benefit. running the design lab and print shop (helping other students with the software and operating the printers). Choose the work you take in college very carefully. I then took a job with the design department.COM . because if you are able to learn at work while you are learning in school (or instead of school).
ON FITTING IN “A round man cannot be expected to fit in a square hole right away.” -Mark Twain HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. Others won’t be fighting you at every turn and you’ll get support from people you don’t even know (because you are. a sterling representation of what they think is important).COM . you’ll have a much easier life. TWAIN. If you can present yourself as someone who is acceptable by mainstream standards. at least externally.’ In nature. so I make sure to take care of myself physically.074 BE SYMMETRICAL In this context I’m using symmetry to represent what is socially ‘correct. to stay well groomed and to be well dressed. symmetry represents something that has good genes. He must have time to modify his shape. This allows me to get away with all the crazy stuff with few repercussions. I’m a pretty weird guy. taking note of local customs and niceties so that I can easily fit in as a respected member of society without too much extra effort. perfect for the standard life cycle and reproductive purposes of the species. Symmetry implies that you can fit in with the status quo and flourish.
but I operate from other countries and write about my experiences. Being asymmetrical also means that you should break traditional lifestyle molds. I run a traditional business in the United States.038 BE ASYMMETRICAL No one ever started a revolution by fitting in. This doesn’t mean that you have to flaunt your opinions in everyone’s face just because you can. and it’s important to maintain a sense of rebellion and question everything. taking on clients like most other businesses do. but rather that you should work steadily toward the changes you wish to make while at the same time fitting in enough so that your voice can be heard (some people call this ‘throwing rocks from inside the establishment’). periodicals. At one point in college I had 5 jobs. militarism. while the other part is untraditional enough to keep people interested and allow me to thrive. If I had spent most of my time at protests and spray-painting the windows of local businesses I wouldn’t have had the same kind of support (who wants to listen to the guy who does nothing but shout?). working primarily as a graphic designer and creating a whole lot of promo materials for family-friendly events.COM . coal power. One part of my model is standard enough to make people comfortable. At the same time I would get up early and stay up late to create zines that were distributed around town with the intent of rabble-rousing and getting people to talk about confrontational subjects (abortion.” -Movie: What a Girl Wants HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. etc). Because I was a respected member of society. my voice was heard and the zines became a great hit. etc. POP MOVIE WISDOM “Stop trying to fit in when you were born to stand out.
a civilization work. including the ability to relate to and help with other peoples’ problems.083 BE A PART Being a part of something that is larger than yourself and your personal concerns can be a great benefit to you individually and to the world as a whole. Some people choose to be involved with religious organizations or school clubs. Whatever the case may be and whatever level of involvement you take on. a company work. but 4 very capable people will always be more effective. ON GROUPS “Individual commitment to a group effort . Or 12. being a part of groups like these can help you develop valuable interpersonal skills. That’s a lot of hands and minds working toward the same goal and there’s little that can’t be accomplished with enough people who are willing to work for it. Or 500.COM . By working with other people who have similar goals you can also make a much larger dent in whatever problems you are trying to solve or changes you are trying to bring to fruition.that is what makes a team work. a society work. You might be a very capable person.” -Vince Lombardi HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. Others opt to really dig in to their work and others join Greenpeace or Doctors Without Borders.
I guess you could say I am a loner.” -Henry Rollins HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. all you have to do is decide to do it and then do it. be willing to accept the results and you’ll take a lot away from every experience. but I feel more lonely in a crowed room with boring people than I feel on my own. that failure is completely on you. If you succeed when working alone. This also means that if you fail. Either way. BEING A LONER “Yes. don’t be afraid to have your own space. time and projects as well. solo projects are much easier and less time consuming to get started. Sometimes being in a group can water down your ideas since you generally have to meet in the middle when working with others. interactive and collaborative. there are no meetings or even discussions necessary.095 BE APART While it’s important to be social.COM . that success is all yours. Fortunately.
but for the time you put in.” -Bo Bennet HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE.082 GO RÉSUMÉLESS If you feel the need for a résumé in the new business marketplace you probably aren’t being hired for the value you can contribute. These days. This is probably not how you want to spend your life. They have you and no matter how hard you work. as well as a wish list of the qualities a person would like to have. This isn’t a good trade because it means you will be stuck working even if you have completed all of your tasks. DEFINITION “Résumé: a written exaggeration of only the good things a person has done in the past. if you’re on your game and motivated and know what you’re doing.COM . not your results. I draw the parallel between these two things because the résumé is antiquated and so is being paid for your time. by making connections and taking advantage of all the resources the modern world has to offer. you’ll catch potential employers’ and clients’ eyes with your personal branding. you’re already getting shafted…make people aware of what you can do for them before they even speak to you. Don’t depend on a résumé. gone above and beyond and given 150%. that time is theirs to waste. social networking. If you have to interview for a position.
Knowing you have value means not having to flaunt it or put down others to feel good about yourself. man/woman. but if you become a confident person that confidence will become self-sustaining. while arrogance is being annoying and destructive (it’s essentially over-confidence…believing you’re the cat’s meow without being able to deliver AND rubbing it in everyone’s face). Part of being confident means not having to prove your value to everyone else.COM . We all have our bad hair days. because confidence is noticed by the world around you and there are few things more attractive or useful to have on your side. and that means that you are improving yourself in some way. Confidence works the same way. Your confidence means being attractive and useful in reality. If you are constantly trying to assert your superiority you’re showing a lack of confidence. Confidence is great.’ those muscles will actually begin to sustain themselves. with your 6-pack popping out and your oblique’s waving ‘hi. ON CONFIDENCE “Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent” -Eleanor Roosevelt HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE.012 BE CONFIDENT You know what? You’re awesome. You will be passively burning more calories and working out those muscles without even having to think about it…they just DO. Act like it. but be sure not to cross the line and become arrogant. Confidence is like working out your abs. which means that you give a damn. Once you get your core to a certain point. That means that even when you’re at your lowest you will be aware of your own value and get out of your pit of despair much faster. Walk tall. You’re reading a really frickin’ long ebook right now.
Stop going out to lunch every day. There are some exceptions. If you are in debt.COM .077 BE THRIFTY Do not spend more than you make. That’s the short and dirty answer to all of your money problems. but it doesn’t have to be. and that means any gains you make saving money and accruing interest will be cancelled out. but until you are you’ve got to buckle down so you have some money to throw at the debt problem each month. When you’re out of debt you can rethink some of this. Stop paying premiums for services that you can just as easily do yourself. Learn to cook or just brown bag it instead of going out to lunch every day. but paying $5 for hand soap when you could pay $1 for something that is just as good is ridiculous. The slightly longer answer is that you need to prioritize and eliminate debt first. ON THRIFTINESS “It is thrifty to prepare today for the wants of tomorrow. stop going out to clubs. Also: keep in mind that in most cases buying brand name products means you are wasting your money. I know it sounds like social suicide. Any debt you have will slowly accumulate more debt.” -Aesop HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. All you’re paying for is the brand name (many of these products are made in the exact same factory and the only reason there is a premium is because that brand pays more for commercials and promotions…the product itself isn’t any better). Buy a cheap bottle of wine and have friends over to your place instead of hitting the clubs (that bottle will cost less than it would cost for you to walk in the door of a club).
I know. I know people who are held back because they keep making the same mistakes at work or in their relationships or with money. so you’ll likely make a friend in the process. It’s astounding how many people don’t do either of these things.COM . Appreciate your mistakes for what they are: precious life lessons that can only be learned the hard way. If you mess up badly. take a moment to really let it sink in. It’s also super-valuable to talk to others frequently and get them talking about their lives. and if they had just paid attention the last time they would know exactly how to stop making the mistakes.084 MAKE MISTAKES Learn from your own mistakes and learn from the mistakes of others. at least. I know. ON MAKING MISTAKES “Mistakes are a part of being human. People also LOVE to talk about themselves. People LOVE to tell stories and dole out advice.” -Al Franken HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. but what you should do is make sure that you understand what went wrong so that it doesn’t happen again. others can learn from. what you want to do is drink a beer and eat an entire box of Girl Scout cookies. which. Unless it’s a fatal mistake.
but you’ll still have a job. Thanks Chopin! ON YOUR MUSE “Spend time every day listening to what your muse is trying to tell you.has been.” -Saint Bartholomew HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. Not only that.done by machines and outsourced . You’d better have something special to offer and in a lot of cases that something will come to you in a flash of inspiration: you hear a piece of classical music and BOOM.019 BE INSPIRED What inspires you? If you see a painting. does it make you want to paint or write or do your taxes? Do you get a thrill every time you see a movie or talk to a stranger or read an ebook (*crossing fingers* oh please oh please oh please!)? You’d better have something to get your creative juices flowing because otherwise you’ll be at a serious disadvantage in the modern workforce.COM . The jobs that are going to be left for you to do will be things that others can’t do more cheaply and in general that means something that requires a bit more creativity than spreadsheet karate. a whole lot of what can be automated . you’ve got new ideas instead of just regurgitating. Already.
Some have started working out more or simply begun to be more aware of their life and what they want to do with it. Many people who have read my blog or heard my story have contacted me a few days or a few months later to tell me that. they really have nothing to do with me. Some people have quit their job to pursue what they really want to do.037 BE INSPIRATIONAL One of the most rewarding things about my Exile Lifestyle project has been the response I’ve gotten from others.” -Plato HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. services and interpersonal relationships will be). I’m no guru on any of these topics. You can do that same! Spread positive change in your wake and you’ll not only feel a greater sense of accomplishment (your presence changed someone’s life! That’s a big deal!). Some have stopped making excuses and gotten out of bad relationships or begun to take night classes in a subject that has always fascinated them. Though these changes happened as a result of people reading or hearing my words. you’ll also be helping to make the world a better place (in the sense that when more people are happy with their situation the better our goods. They saw that I could do what I wanted to do and that inspired them to do what they wanted to do. I was a catalyst. as a direct result of having come into contact with what I was doing.COM . ON BEING INSPIRING “Good actions give strength to ourselves and inspire good actions in others. nothing more and it’s amazing to me that such a small thing could lead to such huge life changes for other people. they’ve begun to make changes in their own lives.
Snoresville. not only for your own mental health (though that’s a big part of it). You just need something you can get real passionate about. then what else is there to talk about? The weather. Don’t be that person…find something that interests you.” -Unknown HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. they aren’t a geek for SOMETHING. Video games from the 1980’s. Act accordingly. Or rather. If they can’t get excited about anything enough to want to talk about it. and those who don’t. Antique teacups. Ponies. That’s it. but also for the sake of those who have to interact with you.088 BE A GEEK You know how every once in a while you’ll meet someone who is just incredibly dull but you can’t quite put your finger on why? I’ll tell you why: they aren’t a geek. Those without interests are not interesting. You don’t even have to like something popular. Anyone who isn’t just crazy interested in something will be a fairly boring person. GEEKY QUOTE “There are 10 types of people in the world: those who understand binary.COM . Birdhouse carpentry.
While traveling I have the opportunity to reinvent myself more frequently and it is incredibly liberating. I have a completely different reputation in my college town than I did in high school. When you leave and put yourself in a new environment you suddenly have a very large opportunity: the chance to start over. They don’t do it consciously. also closing them behind you. it is also leaving behind. That thing that happened at that one party? No one in the new place knows about it. My new friends from college. ON LEAVING “Traveling is not just seeing the new. and I had a completely different one in LA than in my college town. some of my very good friends (including my best friend) were visibly offended. on the other hand. Tabula rasa! Old friends and family . When I started making positive changes in high school. but it does happen. not just who other people think you are.022 GO AWAY When you are around the same people.COM .’ this from people who have always known me to dress fairly tastelessly. Metro.no matter how awesome and well intentioned they might be can hold you back. You pass the same buildings and hang out with the same crowd. Your brain locks those coordinates and has trouble shifting gears. There are the same music venues to attend shows at and the same comic strips in the paper. I stopped dressing like a slob and was taunted with ‘pretty boy’ and ‘Mr.” -Jan Myrdal HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. you begin to form habits that go deep. places and things for a while. would likely be surprised to find out that I ever dressed differently than I do now. Not just opening doors. You can be whomever you want. But the place you have left forever is always there for you to see whenever you shut your eyes. Get away from what you’re accustomed to and figure out who you really are. It’s even worse with friends than with family. Different haircut. Different name. never to return.
what then? Keep things in perspective.COM .021 THE BIG PICTURE Let’s put things in perspective here. no relationships. The rest of the length of your arms and fingers and nails is the amount of time the Earth has been here without humans. apply yourself to thoughts higher than ‘Who will win Dancing with the Stars?’ from time to time and enjoy the hell out of not knowing because it’s not likely we’ll be able to figure it all out any time soon. who created the Creator? And if there’s not. no jobs. Animaniacs HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. And think about this: if you spread your arms as far as they will go out to your sides and straighten your fingers. Who knows what’s out there? And then what’s past that? And do other dimensions overlap our own? And what’s outside of those dimensions? Is there some kind of Creator? And if there is. No buildings. Say you lose your job. They’ve never had the chance to work or have a full meal or known peace. dark matter and dark energy (which is something we THINK exists. no society. no money and no sentience. More: the Universe is incredibly vast and our galaxy is not even a speck of a speck in that vast abysmal stew of matter. CARTOON SONG “It’s a great big universe / And we’re all really puny We’re just tiny little specks / About the size of Mickey Rooney It’s big and black and inky / And we are small and dinky It’s a big universe / And we’re not” -Yakko Warner. that’s really bad and you will be stressed about money and finding a new income stream and some of your relationships might suffer and you’ll most likely be unhappy. but still can’t see or measure…we’re pretty sure we know what about 5% of the Universe is made of but even that’s left open to interpretation). the length of the white line at the end of the nail on your middle finger is the total length of human history. Somewhere in the world someone your age is dying of violence or malnutrition or disease.
we tend to nest. ‘I might not ever use this. I’ll be happy I kept it. What I am saying is that you shouldn’t buy/consume/accumulate more than you need. ‘but if I DO sometime in the future. when you have too much it weighs on you mentally and physically. is not found in seeking more.COM .” -Socrates HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. I don’t miss a thing. you see.’ There’s nothing inherently wrong with possessions. but in developing the capacity to enjoy less. my laptop and a few cables and toiletries. a pair of shoes. a few jeans. The same is true with life in general. I’m not saying you should sell everything like I did…it wouldn’t make sense for most lifestyles. Hard to argue with that. ON MINIMALISM “The secret of happiness. and I haven’t even used everything I brought with me! When we live in one place for a while and have extra space. Keeping things simple allows you to have the best of what you do own AND have less clutter. in fact. It’s stressful to have so many things to store and take care of! If you’ve ever traveled with a bunch of checked luggage you likely know this feeling: you’re not able to do everything you want because you are limited by what you have with you. I really enjoy the possessions I do have and go out of my way to get the best of whatever I’m buying. That being said.071 BE MINIMAL When I decided to leave LA and travel the world I sold or gave away everything that wouldn’t fit inside a carry-on bag. It’s bad for the environment and it’s bad for your stress levels (not to mention your bank account!). which has just enough room for a handful of shirts.’ we think.
One of the most common pieces of advice you’ll hear from the lifestyle design crowd is to automate. Get the stuff you don’t want to do or don’t know how to do off your plate and free up time to enjoy life. Go on a date. Learn to fly fish. Do whatever. Making use of clever software is a fantastic way to gain back lost time, especially if you work or socialize online. I use HootSuite to keep track of my many social media conversations, su.pr to plan, post and track articles that I advertise on Facebook and Twitter, and Adium to keep in touch with people from all the instant messaging services I’m a part of. I use Things as my to-do list, and Evernote serves as my all-purpose notes/ideas/ media/important document depository. Linotype FontXplorer organizes my enormous collection of fonts, while Gmail and Google Calendar allow me to run my business from any computer with Internet access. The time these apps have saved me is IMMENSE and what’s really amazing is that all but one of them (Things) is free. Another way I automate is called batch processing, which means I’ll take a series of similar tasks and do them all at the same time. By doing this, I benefit from a hefty increase in speed (from getting into the ‘zone’ and not being interrupted). Outsourcing has become a very big part of many people’s automation arsenal and though I’ve only dabbled in this, I can already tell you that if you can find the right person, it frees up a LOT of time. You do pay for it, but you also see a big return on your investment, so if you can outsource paying work especially, you could have a winning situation for everyone involved while regaining a nice portion of your day.
“Besides black art, there is only automation and mechanization.“ -Federico Garcia Lorca
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Since I started really getting into design and taking my future seriously, it’s been incredibly tough for me to relax. In some ways this has been beneficial: if you can’t relax, you keep working and when you’re starting out this helps you get a lot of low-paying, low-value work out of the way so you can get up to the big leagues faster. Long-term that kind of schedule can wear you out and I’ve crashed pretty hard a few times because of the intensity and stress. Learning how to relax has been super-valuable for me and though I had to convince myself it was essential for productivity before I could spare the time to learn (and it is!), I have no regrets about making that investment. If you take care of your car you’ll be a whole lot less likely to have your engine fail while on the highway. I was running my engine into the ground without changing the oil or checking the tires or anything preventative like that. Nothing serious happened, thank goodness, but it could have. While on the highway (LIFE is a highway, you know). Not good. If you invest the time and money to change your oil (relax) you’ll be much better off. No one relaxes in the same way and it took me some time to figure out what would really put my mind and body at ease (a good book, a snack, a little exercise and most of my commitments out of the way). You’ll likely have to go through some trial and error before you find the right circumstances for optimal relaxation. Take the time to do it, though; you really don’t want to have to buy a new car (I’m not even sure what that means in the context of the metaphor...body transplant? Yeah, I guess you don’t want to have to try and do that).
IT’S GOOD FOR YOU!
“Take rest; a field that has rested gives a bountiful crop.” -Ovid
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If you don’t ask questions, you won’t learn as quickly as those who do. You won’t benefit from the experience of others, you won’t be able to clarify unclear information and you will be ignorant compared to those who do. Any questions?
What makes a #2 pencil so special? Who’s the AOL ‘You’ve Got Mail!’ guy? Where does nougat come from? Is there a move that’s most likely to win at rock-paper-scissors? Which came first, the can-opener or the can? How does a word become a curse word? Why do battery letters skip from A to C? Was there a B battery? What does McDonald’s have in common with the CIA? Why does Hawaii have interstate highways? Why do most snooze buttons only give you 9 more minutes of sleep? Why do we call them grandfather clocks? Was ‘turkey’ a bird or country first? Who invented sliced bread? Why is it called ‘blackmail’? Is it possible to own property on the Moon? Why can’t you tickle yourself? Is human meat healthy? Can you sense weather with an injured body part? What are Seamonkies? How many pounds of chimpanzee is needed to defeat the average human? -from Mental Floss Magazine, Top 25 Most Important Questions in the Universe
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KNOW YOUR BIAS
I have biases, you have biases; we all have biases. It’s part of the human condition. It helped us survive and evolve into the (mostly) civilized folk we are today. That being said, it’s not really ideal to have a lot of biases because they can keep you from trying new things and being receptive to new ideas. A closed mind is often an ignorant mind and biases can cause a person to slam the door on certain people, cultures, ideas, etc. A good way to deal with personal biases is just to become aware of them. When you find yourself having particularly negative or positive feelings toward something or someone, take note and see if you can determine why. More often than not you’ll be able to come up with some reason why you might feel the way you do (‘I hate cows because cows burnt down my childhood home! Of course!’). Remember that you are viewing the world through tinted lenses and act accordingly.
“To know the true reality of yourself, you must be aware not only of your conscious thoughts, but also of your unconscious prejudices, bias and habits.” -Unknown
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when it comes time to make a decision (or help others make a decision) you very well might do something you regret for the rest of your life. but if you beat your wife while preaching about peace and pacifism you don’t have a moral high ground. If you don’t. but you should know what you ethically believe about as many things as possible. Also: live according to your philosophy.COM . Is it ever okay to kill? Should drugs be illegal? If so. a man with two watches is never quite sure. Or any ground.” -Lee Segall HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. ON PERSONAL PHILOSOPHIES “A man with one watch knows what time it is. It’s great that you think that violence is wrong.058 YOUR ETHICS This can take some serious time (like. That’s a really douchey thing to do. which? Who should decide if your country goes to war? Abortion? Euthanasia? Global climate change? Capitalism? Suicide? These are important subjects that you should know enough about to have an opinion. your whole life) to figure out.
ON FOCUS “The first rule of focus is ‘Wherever you are be there.’” -Unknown HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. You’ll get things done at super-speed and do much higher quality work because your mind is focused and has the right kind of activity for what you need to get done.’ This is like a super-power if you can get it working correctly and when you need it. Next time you get in the zone.034 THE ZONE You should learn how you best get into ‘the zone. Was it a certain routine? Exercise and then read for a few minutes until you feel inspired? A cup of tea and kicking on the A/C? Replicate whatever seems to work and refine it until you can get in the zone at will. super powers. Boom. take a second and think through everything you did to get there.COM .
then openly or clandestinely work to break the current system so that a new one can rise in its stead. I want to note something here in great big letters so that no one misinterprets what I’m saying: THIS DOES NOT MEAN USE VIOLENCE. If this doesn’t work and this change is important enough to continue pursuing. The Iron Law of Oligarchy (a political theory of leadership) essentially says that those in power will do all they can to maintain that power and to gain more power. This means that your boss or the people who are in charge of creating DMV regulations or the city council are all working hard to keep themselves in power. what I’m talking about here is peaceful revolution that brings about positive change. This means going through the channels that currently exist to try and influence change. it’s there to maintain the status quo. but follow the rules as much as possible. ON CHALLENGING AUTHORITY “Unthinking respect for authority is the greatest enemy of truth. effective AND let you sleep at night. This means that the way things currently work is how they will continue to work. irrational or simply inefficient. unless someone forces change upon the system. Your efforts should be constructive.COM . If you want to change something that is unjust. do what you can to work within the existing power structure first. which can impact the way they use the power they currently have.” -Albert Einstein HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE.007 MAKE WAVES Authority isn’t there to be challenged. If that doesn’t work. go around the current structure.
Hilfiger’s marketing journey feeds off the alienation at the heart of America’s race relations: selling white youth on their fetishization of black style.are brands. I say. and black youth on their fetishization of white wealth. I am a juvenile lout. I am handsome. as I put on my Levi jeans. as I pour an extra strong lager.073 KNOW MARKETING The world is one big consumer society.” -Naomi Klein. It’ll help.” -John Kay “Products are made in the factory. and if you are aware of the tactics they use you’ll be a lot less likely to fall for them. I am a merchant banker. I say. as I put on my designer fragrance. as I climb out of my BMW. I say.from charities to businesses to other people . Learn about marketing. No Logo.” -Walter Landor HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. ON BRANDING “Like so much of cool hunting. instead making rational decisions that are right for you. I say. services and ideas. but brands are created in the mind.. pg 78 I am irresistible.COM . They are all trying to sell you things. Everything out there .. And now a word from our sponsor.
076 SELF-REFLECT Take the time to self-reflect. ON REFLECTING “They only babble who practise not reflection. Being aware of what kinds of things make you angry or jealous can help you avoid those situations or cope with the emotions when they arise so that they don’t hold you prisoner. what’s going on in your world. and what steps to take next. It also helps to be in touch with your emotions even though it can be a very difficult and draining task.” -Edward Young HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE.COM . It doesn’t have to be a long time (20 minutes a day will do). but if you do you’ll be a whole lot more aware of who you are. where you want to be. how to get there.
but if you wake up 15 minutes earlier every week. ON SLEEPING IN “If you’re going to do something tonight that you’ll be sorry for tomorrow morning.COM . sleep late.most people get up a whole lot later than 5 . if you prefer.” -Henry Youngman HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE.092 WAKE UP EARLY It’s great waking up at 5am refreshed and ready to start (and maybe finish) your day’s tasks before everyone else gets up. It takes some practice to get to this point . non-productive-but-enjoyable) time to your day. you’ll see results very quickly and add productive (or.
We live in the 21st century and technology is a basic part of everyday life in most countries.” -Steve Ballmer HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. you’re in a good spot. It lets people learn things they didn’t think they could learn before. please. if you understand social networks. If you don’t know how to use a computer. and so in a sense it is all about potential. True. ON TECHNOLOGY “The number one benefit of information technology is that it empowers people to do what they want to do. If you lack a basic knowledge of something so fundamental you’re really crippling your own career and lifestyle possibilities out of ignorance or fear (that stems from ignorance). have a blog. It’s that important. but I still recommend you take a class.first of all kudos for figuring out a way to read this book .COM . know some Photoshop and basic HTML. It lets people be productive.and second get a grip. Knowledge of technology is already a big part of what divides the successful (hell.099 BE TECH-SAVVY If you are afraid of or refuse to use technology for any reason . most young people are the same. It lets people be creative. but at the very least you have a foundation on which you can build many different career structures. If you don’t know how to use social networks or blogs or Microsoft Office or have a working knowledge of how the software and hardware work in your machine you don’t have to stop reading right now. the employable) from the unsuccessful. On the other hand. Just stop reading and sign up for something right now. go take a class right now.
Did you know Archimedes may have built a death ray out of mirrors to set ships ablaze? Even crazier. folks. hard look at the past and how things work today I think a lot of our problems would stop before they start.091 KNOW HISTORY I can’t tell you how frequently I sit and shout at my computer screen while reading political news. take a look at the past and patterns will become clear. “It’s all been done before.” This is true. long. ON HISTORY “Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it” -George Santayana HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. circles. If everyone would just take a good. For serious. As the Barenaked Ladies song of the same name goes. Plus there’s just some really crazy stuff that’s happened. he was killed while his city was pillaged for yelling at an invading soldier ‘Don’t disturb my circles!’ (I guess he was really serious about his circles).COM . so if you want to know where we’re going.
that’s the Nick-at-Night lineup. FAMILY GUY REFERENCE “Lois: Okay. I hope you’re not pregnant. blue. E. Marsha. one more minute. Joanie. and then if there are two pink lines. Chun-Li. belongs there. Among people. Mike Seaver.. Richie. Zangeif.. Greg. Peter: Blanka. Stewey. Mr.. Boner. you simply don’t fit in United States culture… there’s something missing that makes you stand out in a bad way. Honda. Brian: Peter those aren’t your kids..COM . pop culture is kind of ridiculous and fun and though it might not be the most intellectual of pursuits. knowing what’s going on in pop culture can help you see where trends are going and act on them instead of being forced to react. Brian: Those are colors. Peter: Oh god. but understanding pop culture is important for many reasons.. Guile. Jan.045 KNOW POP This is sometimes tough for me because of my disdain for celebrity culture. Carol Seaver. Second. Brian: That’s Street Fighter. episode Sibling Rivalry HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE..” -Family Guy. Furley. Urkel. For one.. Peter: Red. it allows you to participate in society like someone that. but if you don’t know who Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt are. Finally. You don’t have to know every juicy detail of their relationship. We already got Chris. green. Bobby. you know.. we can’t afford another kid. it’s easy-going mind-candy that we could all honestly use a bit of from time to time.
Double-whammy. “It’s not a party if it happens every night. and then not only will you be sick or dead from overindulging but you’ll also hate something you used to love. Not good. Instead. but most of the time find your enjoyment elsewhere. ON INDULGENCE “Every once in awhile.” Even something you love more than anything else will get boring if you do it all the time.002 INDULGE Allow yourself to enjoy life. but only occasionally.” -Sarah Jessica Parker HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. a girl has to indulge herself. do it. If this means going overboard with something. reward yourself when you deserve it. This can also serve as a motivation to get stuff done. As the Postal Service song says.COM .
When trying to start a new habit . once established are just as hard to break as are bad habits. It also helps to tether the new habit to an old habit…say.let’s say doing 25 pushups a day . Habits are great because they allow you to learn and otherwise improve yourself without having to think about it. YAY HABITS! “Good habits.you want to make sure you’ll be able to do 25 pushups per day for at least a month before being interrupted (so if you’ll be traveling a lot or anything like that in between be careful. you’ll be much more likely to build up the habit and make it stick than if you do them at a different time every day. eating breakfast.COM .” -Robert Puller HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. provided you to do it right from the start. that one day where you can’t fit in the pushups could be what ruins the progress you’ve made). If you do your pushups every single day after breakfast.067 MAKE HABITS Developing a new habit can be very easy.
If you watch too much TV. but something that works for me is to make sure that every single time I’m going to perform that habit I’m aware of what I’m doing. especially when the habit is something insidious and hard to lock down (like biting your nails…I had this problem and I would be dead set on stopping. too. we all tend to develop many habits we don’t want. Smoking. KILL THE HABITS “First we form habits then they form us. It’s a bit tougher to break a habit than to start one. This breaks the subconscious cycle and allows you to make a rational decision rather than just falling prey to muscle memory (which is what happens most of the time). or they’ll eventually conquer you. watching TV every day after work. It helps to have a physical reminder.COM . etc. but then I’d start doing it without thinking and wouldn’t become aware of it until 5 minutes later). eating badly.043 BREAK HABITS Unfortunately. Conquer your bad habits. tape a piece of paper over the screen that says ‘Do you REALLY want to be doing this?’ That way you’ll be forced to think about the tradeoffs every time you start to do the activity and you can deal with the consequences of your own conscious actions rather than blaming your reflexive habits.” -Dr. Rob Gilbert HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE.
remember that it’s a learning experience and something to be treasured and remembered. focus on the good and remember that you decide how your life moves forward. Otherwise. You’re stronger for each bad situation you go through.090 BE OPTIMISTIC There’s nothing you can’t do if you really. Seriously. There is every reason to be happy and never any reason to be completely destroyed. besides. Isn’t that great?! ON OPTIMISM “Having a positive mental attitude is asking how something can be done rather than saying it can’t be done. really want to do it.COM . really. If something happens that brings you down.” -Bo Bennett HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. some people have more barriers than others and it may take a great deal of luck to get there. but if you work hard enough and set your sights on a goal. Sure. not something to hold you back or push you down. so focus on that if you must. you’ll take advantage of any luck that does come your way to the utmost and make some of your own.
106 BE REJECTED Rejection happens. And you know what? It’s okay.COM . Rejection of you and of your ideas.” -Sylvester Stallone HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. People have different tastes. rather than retreat. different points of view. take criticism well. Take as much away from the experience as possible and there will be less rejection in the future. You and your work are still great. ON REJECTION “I take rejection as someone blowing a bugle in my ear to wake me up and get going. Have thick skin. and different motivations behind their comments. and if there is any useful advice in that criticism be prepared to accept and utilize it.
honor and pride are just labels for outdated ideas that really have no place in the modern world. Wars are fought over petty. but you’re misguided. tangible aspects of yourself.” -Napoleon Bonaparte HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. Honor won’t get you a job. I’m sorry.COM .’ If you get into a fight because of your pride. HONOR ENSLAVES “A soldier will fight long and hard for a bit of colored ribbon. silly things like this and it’s time we phased them out for good.’ work on real.053 REJECT HONOR In most cases ‘honor’ and ‘pride’ are really just ways of saying ‘I have a sensitive ego so don’t hurt me because I’m trying to be manly. Go learn something. Instead of improving your ‘honor. useful. What does it matter if someone said something to hurt your pride? Who are they? What does their opinion matter? Clearly enough to make you fight them over it (do you think their opinion of you will improve after you beat them? After they beat you?). No.
I’m a big fan of Dan Savage, the advice columnist from Seattle. He came up with a concept that I really like that he applies to relationships, but I think can apply equally well to live in general. The concept is being ‘GGG,’ which means that in your relationship you should be Good, Giving and Game. You should be good at what you do, giving to your partner and game to try new things, especially if they make your partner happy. In life, too, you should try to be a good person…there isn’t really any reason not to be, and being a good person comes with so many benefits (other than just the pure satisfaction of being a good person) even the most hardened Objectivist should be able to find a self-serving reason to do so. Being giving will also help you in your personal and professional life. Take the time to help others out and you’ll be helped out in return. Just helping others out without any compensation from them usually helps you; it solidifies concepts in your mind, gives you more experience with whatever you’re helping them with and builds up an aura of goodwill around your personal brand. To be game in real life, you have to be willing to take things as they come and roll with the punches. When life gives you lemons, set up a lemon gelato stand in LA and make millions of dollars. When your plans are waylaid, find joy in the adventure. Do this, and you’ll never be disappointed and life will be full of exciting surprises
“It doesn’t matter what you’re doing, it matters how you’re doing it.” -Dan Savage
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J.D. BENTLEY WAGE SLAVE REBEL
For this book, I was asked to relate some bit of wisdom regarding how I became remarkable. This, of course, was met with immense confusion and taken with great offense, seeing as how I’ve never claimed to be (nor do I ever expect to be) remarkable. The desire to be remarkable is, itself, a very unremarkable goal. My generation has been bought and sold on such narcissism and I do not wish to perpetuate the myth. You weren’t put on this earth to be remembered. Here’s the short version of my journey. I quit a job that exploited my labor and abused my humanity for the lowest legal wage. I then stumbled into self-employment thanks to my life-long passion for design and technology. Over time, I relegated myself to a life of reasonable expectations, living mostly as a minimalist and attempting to curb my appetite for more and to cultivate the necessary mentality for being content with “enough.” I now have the freedom to do whatever it is I want whenever I want to do it with only what I already have and all for the purpose of achieving the most good possible. In earnest, it’s a learning process, but one I’m happy to meet every day. I don’t regard this lifestyle as remarkable, but as necessary. I didn’t approach it for the purpose of showing off in certain company or having great stories to tell or flaunting my freedom, but because there is most certainly no other way for me to live. The American Dream is not sustainable and it’s a sorry state we’re in that remarkableness is signified by how thoroughly one can escape its grasp. I’m in no position to advise anyone on how to be remarkable, but I do know how to get the most out of life: do what you love, claim the fruits of your work (that is, avoid top-down corporations who profit from your labor at all costs), be content with what you have, buy as little as possible, utilize your skills for meaningful causes, give a good amount of your time to friends and family, and love all people (especially your enemies).
J.D. Bentley runs Wage Slave Rebel, where he writes about dismantling the status quo and liberating the minds of wage slaves everywhere. Follow him on Twitter and Facebook.
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ROBERT GRANHOLM THE LIFE DESIGN PROJECT
“He who is not everyday conquering some fear has not learned the secret of life.” -Ralph Waldo Emerson It takes an unrelenting will to live out those wise words. I may have only read that quote within the last year but my unrelenting will was sparked long before. I went through a series of knee surgeries when I was about seventeen, seven knee surgeries to be exact, each one more frustrating than the next. I remember at one point the doctor giving me an option, to go in for more surgery, or simply stop and be nearly inactive for the rest of my life. I had no choice; I had to fix my leg. I struggled for the next few years with my knees but because of my trials I became someone who could not be beat. I went on to finish several triathlons in the following 6 years. It was in that experience I learned I wanted something more out of life than a cookie cutter job and working for the weekends. Our experiences shape us; find whatever you need in life to make you hungry for experiences. It’s with this hunger I come at being an entrepreneur.
Robert Granholm is the co-founder of The Life Design Project and writes about lifestyle design as it relates to fulfilling your dreams and living the life you want to live. Follow him on Twitter and LinkedIn.
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I have started a successful blog.097 SEAN OGLE LOCATION 180 If there is one thing I have realized over the last few years. Early in 2009 I made a promise to myself that by the end of the year. then that is fantastic. it is that life is too short not to be doing something that makes you happy. I would have made significant steps to doing the things I was really passionate about: entrepreneurship and travel. a big raise isn’t going to fix that. However. for me. as it continues to grow. If you are unhappy now. left my job. but I promise. I learned that you can’t do something just for the paycheck. it is much riskier to do nothing. location independence and the fulfillment of his ‘bucket list. it just wasn’t working.’ Follow him on Twitter and Facebook. It might seem risky to leave something that is comfortable to pursue a greater passion. Since making that decision.COM . My life is filled with more uncertainty than I have ever had. HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. and am getting ready to start traveling early in the new year. it will be harder to make a change. Sean Ogle runs Location 180 where he writes about lifestyle design. If a 9-5 job is what you are looking for. Over time. yet I can’t believe how much happier I am due to the changes I have made. and provides you with happiness and fulfillment.
Follow him on Twitter and Facebook. “I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. yours to live and yours to enjoy. health and enthusiasm for life. And that is why I succeed. Every day is an adventure. It reminds us to never never never give up. It is your life. HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. I’ve lost almost 300 games. You can do anything you put your mind to. Do not be afraid. No matter how many times you fail at something. 26 times I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed.COM . an opportunity to start something new and correct any mistakes you have made in the past.” -Michael Jordan The above quote is my favourite quote in the world. Your perception of reality is reality. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. People can show you the path but you have to walk it. Diggy de Bruin founded Upgrade Reality where he writes about personal development.005 DIGGY DE BRUIN UPGRADE REALITY In your life you have to realize that you alone are responsible for fixing your own problems. Do not limit yourself. it is one step closer to succeeding at it. Do not cut yourself short.
000 hour rule. academia are all the same. HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. Being in the right place at the right time AND working your ass off on only one thing are what super success is about. music. Regardless of how smart or hardworking Bill Gates was. without that mainframe access. There are so many opportunities to do so many different things now.000 hours. John Bardos runs Jet Set Citizen where he muses about location independence and lifestyle design and interviews other remarkable people. Basically. Follow him on Twitter and Facebook.000 hours of productive practice. Great hockey players tend to be born at the beginning of the year because they are bigger. Then again we are all remarkable in our own ways. Do as much as you can for others every day of your life and you will be remarkable enough in the lives you touch. Bill Gates was fortunate enough to have unlimited access to a top end computer while he was in high school. That is why they become music teachers rather than world class performers. He was one of a few high school students in the world that had that opportunity at that time. Most classical musicians who go to top music schools rarely put in more then 5. You can’t be world class at five things at the same time. business. Malcolm Gladwell in his book Outliers. Sports. I am still only at about 2. That is the problem. Look at any person at the top of their field and you will find a steadfast dedication to a single goal. we have so many choices that people are too afraid to choose only one. writes about the 10.000 hours of productive and effective practice to be world class in almost any field. Another factor that Gladwell points out is luck. than those born at the end of the year. Most people can’t make that single choice so they stumble along with the other 99.9% of humanity. It takes 10.093 JOHN BARDOS JET SET CITIZEN There are three secrets to being remarkable: focus.000 or 6. I love to play guitar but even after 25 years of playing. Once you make that single commitment you have to put in 110% effort. You have to choose.COM . there would be no Microsoft today. hard work and luck. That is the cost of greatness. it means 10 years of almost full-time effort. faster and stronger for their age. You don’t have to become a billionaire to make a difference in the world. Of course luck is not enough.
” Stay positive and always look for the good in a given situation.081 ALAN PERLMAN THE 9 TO 5 ALTERNATIVE Generate your own luck. Alan Perlman writes the popular blog The 9 to 5 Alternetive which focuses on travel. like-minded people. Read a lot. One of my favorite mantras is “Attitude almost always determines your altitude in life. some of the wildest. I have chanced upon once-in-a-lifetime opportunities and connected with interesting. Become a unique and noteworthy conversationalist. captivating and remarkable life. Say yes more often than you say no. most memorable encounters and experiences I have had can be traced back to this philosophy. lifestyle design and entrepreneurship. and you are sure to lead a fulfilling. Follow him on Twitter and Facebook. HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE.COM . Surround yourself with creative. engaging people. By exposing myself to new interests and remaining open and flexible in my day-to-day decisions (especially when I travel). From discussing politics with Serbian royalty to buying drinks for a famous British comedian in Ukraine. Take social risks and make mistakes.
an assessment of exactly what was possible given new possibilities and realities allowed the project to become a greater success than it could have before. leaving me a few days to iron out any details. While we still got everything pre assembled. a multidisciplinary. Suddenly everything was custom. I did not specify the exact locations of the holes. I incorporated some of the changes into future installations. sustainabilityfocused architecture and design agency based in Los Angeles. I soon learned that the holes to bolt them together didn’t line up. So good. It was four days from the build and I had just received the steel for the structure. A second vital piece of advice: Never give incomplete instructions. and took all the time we had. we lost our chance to do a test build. HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. Fortunately the overall client made an executive decision to alter the design. I also learned that we would only have 5 hours to construct the gallery for the very first time.COM . An hour from the onslaught of crowds and clearly with no chance to complete the intended design on time. I would need to individually mix and match each piece and custom drill specific holes for them. California. but the client still reveled in praise at each build. abandoning it may be the only path to success. so I had no one but myself to blame. All I had to do was drill some wood and I’d have all the parts for assembly. When our goal was leading to failure. My parts weren’t interchangeable any more. Jenda Michl is the founder of Vertu Studio. and the gallery looked good. My wisest decision of the day was to welcome this usurping of design responsibility. Having a plan is critical. with a hard deadline and failure not an option. It was a wonderful relief. even the first one. I was racking my brain for ways to more efficiently complete an impossible task. Not so fast. The approved and intended design never came close to getting built.086 JENDA MICHL VERTU STUDIO Abandon the Plan From award of design to first build of a pop-up art gallery was two weeks. Follow him on Twitter and Facebook.
even though it required many sacrifices and a great ability to leave things behind. And if you know yourself and your market. you will succeed.COM . no matter how crazy it seems. In order to remain in the United States legally. I graduated with a Master’s degree in law from the University of Paris II. and being honest with your clients and business partners. Do not fear to start over. My edge was simple: no overhead. Due to irreconcilable differences with my business partner. This philosophy allowed me to reduce my prices drastically. I was chomping at the bit. Change directions with the market. At that time. After all those years of successes as my own boss. No salaried employees. My business is meant to generate revenue. But I try to prove everyday that it is possible to do so while having a code of conduct. I decided to explore the realm of personal branding. No expensive offices in Beverly Hills. Individuals are more aware and accepting today that they can be branded and that the way they convey their message is essential. making my services available to clients who would otherwise have to pass on them. but a collaboration with the best freelancers in the country. Sense it before it happens and be ready when the trend hits. Christophe Galland is the owner and creative director of the wildly successful Los Angeles-based communication and branding studio The Imagists. I was entering my third year as communication director and owner of a successful consulting firm implanted in 5 French cities. I moved to Los Angeles to get an MA in Communication Management from the University of Southern California. and a tenacious will to see the world. This branch of my business exceeded all my expectations and confirmed that personal branding is something to be taken into account in tomorrow’s market. Don’t get me wrong: I do not run a non-profit. working for others and with so little responsibilities was the epitome of a humbling experience. I had to quickly find a company that would employ me and sponsor me for an immigrant visa. Use the “economical crisis” and people’s new concern for smart spending to convey the message that you CAN get great services for a reasonable cost. Having an edge is essential to depart from your competition. Follow him on Twitter and Facebook. The Imagists. It was possibly the best decision I ever made. as long as it’s to cultivate your happiness. I ended up accepting in a rush a position as an assistant in a Public Relations agency. With my studio. I wanted to use Hollywood’s frenzy for profit and overcharging to my advantage. HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE.014 CHRISTOPHE GALLAND THE IMAGISTS At age 20.
I had the opportunity to travel to remote villages. take part in civic protests. to one of 2 million people. Follow her on Twitter and LinkedIn. TV producers and film editors.COM . assist with a film that went on to win an award at Tribeca. The frequency at which you’ll bump into new people. and volunteered in Armenia for 6 months. graphic designers. Particularly in a developing. journalists. One of the best decisions I ever made was moving from a country of 300 million. and they can be your tour guide. than in a sprawling place like the States. anthropologists. Each person is like a door that opens up to an entirely new world. and changing. and sometimes the opportunity can evolve into something even more substantial (friends involved in publishing inviting you to contribute or co-author!). diplomats. HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. As long as your interest is in earnest. In those months.” and access various opportunities is much greater in a condensed metropolitan area. write a travel book. If you see a glimmer of madness in their eyes when they speak about what they do. or “in transition.” country there is a sense that it is evolving. I’m particularly drawn to uncommon individuals from different walks of life (animators. glass-blowers…) and it is because of these people that I’m constantly inspired and driven to keep things interesting. The second and most important thing in my life has been meeting passionate and dynamic people—the “mad ones”—and meeting lots of them. photographers. then pull up a chair and let them transport you to their world. Other friends who have spent time in small countries – like in the Baltics or the Caribbean – have tended to agree with me. and land a long-term job which brought me back to Armenia to work for another year and a half. women’s rights activists. and Meet the Mad Ones. teachers. that your presence and involvement there can be part of the molding process. and be happy to grant you access. those kindred “mad ones” will sense it. I left the United States upon graduating from undergrad. rock musicians. sometimes for a short visit (sitting in on a friend’s session at a recording studio). a USC-based print.039 ANOUSH RIMA TATEVOSSIAN PUBLIC DIPLOMACY MAGAZINE People & Places Open Doors: Move to a Small Pond. Anoush Rima Tatevossian was the Editor-in-Chief of Public Diplomacy Magazine.and web-based magazine focused on public diplomacy issues. be welcomed into new “scenes. Pay attention when the new people you meet begin to talk.
It’s increasingly important to continuously learn. With yourself and others. I’ve met some truly amazing people in my time. Let people that you know and/or respect what you like and appreciate about who they are. Twitter provides the space for a hub. Unconstrained by the typical boundaries of what an RSS reader should/can do. Your quality of life matters. To experience someone really seeing. Software hubs that stitch together multiple parts of your on and offline world can make your life a lot easier.COM . Genuinely. A tool called Feedly has become my weapon of choice for this purpose. Create hubs. share. the benefit it brings. serendipity prone. your time? Then choose carefully who you follow on there. and be active on social media channels. is how I’ve been able to create a life of my own design. and when people ask how it is that I’ve managed to connect with so many from so far. Be a hub if you need to. and in the rest of your life. HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. There. Feedly at its core is an RSS reader. so you can best be of service to those around you and those you touch with your actions. but you have to design your own experience. This. more robust. or do I feel compelled to do so by an external (or self created) obligation? You matter. ask yourself. appreciating and expressing it to you is something you don’t quickly forget. in a nutshell. without ulterior motive. One more thing: Don’t hold back praise. Paul Smith is the owner of Greensmith Consulting through which he advises his clients how to spread the word about their commitment to environmentally-friendly practices. And be generous. is inviting this person/circumstance/ environment in something I want. humanizing information. it’s 80% this. what they do. Follow him on Twitter and LinkedIn. But it goes far beyond that. turning it from overwhelm to true engagement.052 PAUL SMITH GREENSMITH CONSULTING Find hubs. Precisely what can help you move from passive receiver of life to proactive engager with it. both as an individual and as a business. Do you value yourself. it’s become a hub for how I interact with and learn from what and who is on the web.
. Become immersed in the world around you and marvel at the beauty. bizarre or seemingly incomprehensible experiences are often the most invigorating. This energy is unlike any other emotion I’ve ever experienced in my life. I call this my intuitive path. Be an explorer. Monitor your behaviors closely and investigate your emotional responses for insight into who you are and where you want to be. It’s addicting. sights and sounds around me. I call it my connection with self. The most strange. This is what makes me remarkable and it’s how I live remarkably. I have many thoughts and ideas racing through my mind at all hours of the day. It’s a combination of appreciating the remarkable world in which I live. For as long as I can remember. This is where I find my calm. My advice to you. meaningful and worthwhile. adventure and ambition. HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. allowing myself to feel the emotions involved with every new experience and moment. The more I explore and focus my attention on the people.COM .. Amber Rae Lambke blogs at Social Amber and works as a social media guru while living a risky life full of travel. Follow her on Twitter and Facebook. Chance discovery is standing before you. and then taking the time to internally investigate and reflect on my feelings for understanding. It’s my life direction. When calm and connected. this is how I’ve approached the world around me and this is how I’ve actively lived my life. design and colors. the more inspired and alive I feel. my racing thoughts become fluid. Be ready and hold on tight.107 AMBER RAE LAMBKE SOCIAL AMBER The speed at which I think overwhelms me sometimes. focused and actionable. Chase these moments until curiosities exhaust or answers are found. It’s the future knocking on the door.
I have stumbled with quite a remarkable life. not caring about what others say and following all the cliché advice about “doing what you love” must have something to do with my remarkable situation. Ever since I’ve done it. no destiny. or in other people’s idea of what my potential is. Follow him on Twitter and Facebook. obligations and safety because I define those things very differently. But many other people do and that doesn’t make them remarkable. But it is still not enough. being curious. somewhat lucky.high grades. There has to be something else. and have most of the social skills that we need to succeed in this world. where he writes inspiring posts that are aimed at ‘sparking’ your creativity and thinking. Because I don’t care about big plans. While I have achieved some of the traditional accomplishments that used to make someone remarkable . despite what your parents may have told you). HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. I know that I must be somewhat smart. I don’t care about society’s meaning of success. Doing things for fun. I don’t care about fitting in with what’s expected of me. Not making sense is what makes ME remarkable. either. degrees and big time jobs . Being in the right place at the right time. established paths or consistency (remarkable people quit a lot. as well. Enjoy the challenge of embracing randomness and just trust that sense will find you eventually. I don’t care about any of that because I know that people who ignore change and the unexpected are doomed to fail. Some people that have accomplished all of these tasks are the most boring and dull individuals I’ve ever met. No purpose.COM .I’m sure that’s not what makes me (or any other person for that matter) a remarkable man. There must be some secret that ties all remarkable people together. no reason.075 CARLOS MICELI OWL SPARKS Explaining what makes me remarkable without sounding pompous is not an easy task. is what will separate you from the rest. Carlos Miceli runs Owl Sparks. So I don’t think this has anything to do with being remarkable. because it challenges you. because you want to work hard on it to feel the self-gratification.
Looking back at the last 67 years of my life. eternal continuing education. mentally.050 CAROL SEGRAVE SEGRAVE ASSOCIATES The main reason I am remarkable is I had a mother who insisted I be remarkable. My Mom was by no means a woman of wealth. traveler. Over time I came to realize that if I didn’t be that for myself. grandchildren. It has included marriage (tried my best for twenty-five years-divorced). When my mother died at ninety the year I turned 52. financially independent. loving and being loved by family and friends. She was simply and totally committed to my Best. I had to choose and choose and choose again to live my life moving forward always to a new level of Best. Okay. It was all I knew how to be. outward bound. small business owner for 30 years. and at the same time sexiest centenarian that has ever walked the earth.COM . more graduate work. it was hard at first to be my own cheerleader. I admit I have an ongoing bet with myself! Here’s the real story. physically and spiritually radiant. adventurer. competitive salsa dancing. HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. children. three different careers. senior Olympics. wouldn’t it? Carol Segrave runs Segrave Associates. I see that around age 21 I made the internal commitment to continue her commitment to being the Best I could be. by letting me know with certainty she loved me and by opening the doors to a myriad of rich and varied learning opportunities—everything from horseback riding to a Master Degree. She did that by being remarkable herself. Now that would really be Best. My life has been and is all about figuring out what does it take to wind up the most highly evolved. Follow her on Twitter and LinkedIn. triathlons. a consultancy through which she helps build teams and make people into better leaders. I would not be being my Best. spiritual seeker.
Kristin. a blog that focuses on tips for practical lifestyle design from the perspective of an emotional. creative person. though. Feel jealous or angry or sad. Major emotional reaction equals major external response.” The trick is to acknowledge your immediate emotional reactions and analyze them rather than judge them. Being messy emotional (complete with gobs of snot and tears – the more disgusting. HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. Follow her on Twitter and Facebook. “Well great. We’re addicted to blowing things out of proportion. give me tears.027 KRISTIN NORRIS FIND YOURSELF LOST You are the unquestionable authority on yourself. let me feel like a human. I’m telling you: keep the emotion. please. Eff that noise. We like to complicate things. it’s really just an awesome word!) on the floor!” Me: (in my most skeezy marketer voice) “You don’t have to. This time it just happens to be true). There’s a lot of noise going around in the world about getting in touch with yourself and making peace with your emotions. personally. relate like a human and reap the productive advancements of a robot. Yes. you’ll be frequently lead right to understanding some discontent you have with yourself. Really it is such a simple concept that most people are unable to train themselves to do it. (Yes. We like drama. And (dusts nails off on lapel) I’m going to tell you how. give me stress. you’re probably thinking. but how do I actually go about being emotionally messy in an effective way? I don’t want to be a puddle of snot (come on. they’re the best keywords to understanding yourself. What should I be doing with my life? What makes me happy? Let’s try pressing the ‘I’m Feeling Lucky’ button right here… oh and there’s the answer… top of the list. If done effectively. my responses have amazing SEO. This is all well and good in theory.) Now.COM . ditch the drama. You can have both the search bar and a successful personal and professional life. When you can step back and analyze these reactions. Kristin Norris runs Find Yourself Lost. probably the better) is like having an owner’s manual that screams instructions at you. (I always liked to think I’m an authority because it feeds my ridiculous ego. it’s like installing a Google search bar in your body.
IT Arsenal. ROBERT GRANHOLM Rob Granholm is a jack of all trades. Follow JD on Twitter and Facebook. and so is his style.B1 JD BENTLEY Mr. then follow Robert on Twitter and LinkedIn. Check out his post on how to Reboot Your Brain and Regain Life Control. entrepreneur and adventurer.COM . where he covers topics ranging from escaping the mainstream work lifestyle to liars. JD writes the blog Wage Slave Rebel. HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. When he’s not custom-building sites for his clients. He builds websites and consults on everything tech with clients through his company. His code is clean. modern aesthetics. and gives back to the community by blogging about lifestyle design at The Life Design Project. Bentley is a freelance web designer and developer who specializes in Wordpress and sexy. a designer.
ALAN PERLMAN Alan has one of the coolest jobs in the world: he travels from country to country collecting local pricing information. down-to-earthedness and impressive bucket list.B2 SEAN OGLE Sean Ogle has made a name for himself in the blogging community for his transparency. This means that he has a lot of opportunities to move around. He has also recently left his 9-to-5 job in order to pursue a location independent career. The 9 to 5 Alternative. which he has been documenting at his blog. Take a gander at Sean’s post on why he’s a hypocrite and then follow him on Twitter and Facebook. try new things and rack up interesting experiences. Alan writes about his travels. Location 180. lifestyle design and progress completing the Personal MBA. Read about Alan’s experiences in Kazakhstan and then follow him on Twitter and Facebook! HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. At his blog.COM .
Mr Michl is LEED accredited and works hard to create structures and products that are functional. poetic and sustainable. Check out his work at Vertu Studio. Vertu Studio. Find out more about Christophe’s studio at The Imagists website.B3 JENDA MICHL Jenda is an extremely talented architect and product designer who hones his craft working with groups like Opportunity Green in Los Angeles and running his business. a communication and branding studio based in Los Angeles. is the owner and creative director of The Imagists. fashion photographer Garet Field Sells.COM . CHRISTOPHE GALLAND Christophe Galland. CA. He resides between West Hollywood and Paris with his partner. then follow him on Twitter and Facebook. HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. then follow Jenda on Twitter and Facebook. 27. iconic.
people. visionary. He’s also the social media strategist for GenGreen Digital Media and one heck of a dancer. writing for a major green company and contributing to Triple Pundit. and can be connected with via Twitter and Facebook! HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE.COM . writer and detective. gives much and smiles often. Find out more about Paul and get in touch with him through Twitter and LinkedIn! AMBER RAE LAMBKE Amber is highly curious and easily inspired. consumer trends. fears little. enjoys change. a blog about social media. where he councils his clients on how best to get the word out about the eco-friendly benefits of their products and services. She’s an explorer. She loves risk. design and technology fascinate her. innovation. energizer. self-reflection and art inspire her. Paul is a widely published scribe.B4 PAUL SMITH Paul Smith is the charismatic head of Greensmith Consulting. Human behavior. entrepreneur. feels deeply. New and unique experiences. Amber runs Social Amber. culture. appreciates the little things. lives for adventure.
COM . she was the Editor-inChief of Public Diplomacy Magazine. Carlos recently quit his high-flying corporate job with a major telecommunications company and will be moving to Perth. HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. where he writes about lifestyle design and explores everything from philosophy to marketing. During her graduate studies at USC. Australia to further his education (in school and life). Say hello to Carlos (and keep up with his heretical discussions) on Twitter and Facebook.B5 ANOUSH RIMA TATEVOSSIAN Anoush Rima Tatevossian is the former Executive Director of the Armenian Volunteer Corps. follow her on Twitter and LinkedIn! CARLOS MICELI Carlos runs Owl Sparks. To find out what Anoush will be up to next.
where she tells stories and gives practical lifestyle design advice for emotional and creative people.COM .B6 CAROL SEGRAVE Carol is the President of Segrave Associates. She was also a Gold and Silver medalist in the Miami Beach and Palm Springs International Salsa Competitions. with billion-dollar clients ranging from IBM to NBC. Check out Kristin’s thoughts on the phrase ‘I Love You’ and then friend her on Twitter and Facebook! HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. a consulting firm that specializes in leadership coaching and team building. She also keeps a blog called Find Yourself Lost. Carol is a triathlete and Senior Olympics Silver Medalist in the 50 yard freestyle. she ran a personal training and massage therapy business and now she runs a design and development studio in Seattle called Dezabulous. KRISTIN NORRIS Kristin is a Jane of All Trades: she has performed at Disneyland and on stage at various theatres. Start a conversation with Carol on Twitter or LinkedIn.
Check out John’s impressive list of interviews with equally impressive people. Bardos is currently working on his one year plan with his wife which will result in their leaving Japan and moving to another country. Mr. modeling and helping people set up their own blog. and then follow him on Twitter and Facebook! HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. then follow Diggy on Twitter and Facebook! JOHN BARDOS John is the mastermind behind Jet Set Citizen. a blog focused on living a more modern lifestyle that includes more experiences and less rampant consumerism.B7 DIGGY DE BRUIN Diggy blogs at Upgrade Reality. where he shares his ideas about lifestyle design. Diggy keeps busy dancing. enthusiasm for martial arts and general upbeatedness with his readers. When he’s not writing.COM . Check out his post on giving and taking value.
philosophy. HOW TO BE REMARKABLE / COLIN WRIGHT / EXILELIFESTYLE. the first was about Personal Branding. He also writes about himself in the third-person when writing his own bio.COM . as if you’ll believe someone else is writing it. sustainability and a whole collection of other long words. minimalism. Colin also uses Exile Lifestyle as an excuse to run his design and development studio. Start a conversation with Colin on Twitter or Facebook.B8 COLIN WRIGHT Colin writes the blog Exile Lifestyle. from a new country every 4 months. Colin Is My Name. Ha! This is Colin’s second free ebook. through which he writes about his experiences and how they relate to lifestyle design.
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