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The 7 habits of highly effective people is written by Stephen R Covey, a husband, father,
grandfather, an internationally respected leadership authority , family expert, teacher,
organizational consultant, founder of the former Covey Leadership Center, and co-
chairman of Franklin Covey Company.
He has made teaching Principal-Centered Living and Principal-Centered Leadership his
life¶s work. Dr. Covey is the author of several acclaimed books.
This book is among one of his best sellers. Stephen, his wife, Sandra, and their family
live in the Rocky Mountains of Utah.
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6o one can persuade another to change. Each of us has to be open to change from our
inside. And when you decide to change, and open yourself for it, first your growth will be
evolutionary with a revolutionary effect. The first three habits will increase your self
confidence, you ll understand yourself in depth and will know about right and Wrong.
6ext three habits will discover and unleash the desire and resources to heal and build
important relationships. Last 7th habit will renew the first six and will make you truly
independent and capable of effective interdependence.
 
People are found to be struggling with an inner hunger for a deep need for personal
effectiveness and personal congruency. A realization occurred over time that if you want
to change the situation, you first have to change yourself and to change our self you first
have to change your perceptions.
While doing research on perception, author immersed himself in an in-depth study of
success.
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First character ethic was considered as the foundation of success, the basic principles of
effective living, and the people can only experience true success and enduring happiness
as they learn them and implement these into their basic character like integrity, courage,
patience, simplicity, modesty etc.
But after World War 1 this view of success shifted to Personality Ethic. Success became
just a part of personality, of public image, attitudes, behavior and skills for human
interaction. This personality ethic has two things: human and public relation techniques
and positive mental attitude.
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Before understanding Seven Habits, we need to understand ³PARADIGMS´ and how to
make a ³PARADIGM SHIFT´.
The word PARDIGM comes from Greek. It means model, theory, assumption,
perception, reference and in general ³it¶s the way we see the world´. Every person has its
own paradigm, to understand paradigm is to see them as maps. Like maps. These maps
are of two types: maps of the way things are and maps of way things should be. We
assume the way we see things is the way they are, or the way they should be. Each of us
think that the way we see the things is the only way or right way. When others disagree
with us, we think that something is wrong with them, not with us. The more we are aware
that what are our paradigms and the extent to which they influence us, our lives, the
more we can take responsibility for the results of paradigms and listen to others and took
their perceptions in view to see a larger picture of one thing.

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Paradigm shift is the shift in your way of seeing things, when you finally see the other
way also apart from your own perception, like an aha! Experience. U says it when you
come to know of other way of seeing the same picture. These shifts maybe positive or
negative, sudden or developmental, but they move you from seeing your only way. These
shifts create powerful change in us, which are the sources of our attitude and behavior.
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There are principles that govern human effectiveness ± natural laws that are real,
unchanging. Principles are like lighthouses. They are the part of every major religion, as
well as social and ethical systems. They are self-evident, and can be validated by any
individual, they are part of every human being, like fairness (concept of equality and
justice), honesty (which is trust), service (idea of making contribution), quality, and
potential (how much one can grow, its talents).
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The personality ethics involve some quick and easy way to achieve quality of life,
personal effectiveness and rich, deep relationships. In life, there are sequential stages of
growth and development. We accept this fact in all phases of physical things but in
emotional areas, we look for a shortcut. Only one step can be taken at a time, but by
using shortcut, one do get a benefit, that is not long term but temporary.
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The way we see the problem is really the problem. If we overcome any problem by being
optimistic enough, that this situation will surely pass, the problem will be minimized or
finish. On the other hand if we see the problem as a huge giant lingering on us, it will
definitely crush us.
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7 Habits of Highly Effective People is based on a new level of thing using inside ±out
approach, which means to start with self, even more fundamentally, to start with the most
inside part of self ± with your paradigms, your character and your motives. Be positive.
Be responsible. Be trustworthy. People think that the problem is ³out there´ and if ³they´
means others ³shift out´ the problem will be solved. The principles of these 7 habits are
already deep within us, they are nothing new, and we just have to recognize and develop
them, use them.
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Our character is a collection of our habits and habits have powerful role in our lives.
Habits have tremendous gravity pull ± more than most people realize or would admit.
Like any natural force the gravity pull of habits may work with us or against us. Habits
consist of knowledge, skill and desire. Knowledge allows us to know WHAT and WHY
to do, Skills us the ability to know HOW to do it and Desire is the Motivation, WA6T to
do.
The 7 habits move us through in three stages:
DEPE6DE6CE ± it is a paradigm of YOU. Relying on others for taking care of u
I6DEPE6DE6CE ± it is the paradigm of I. makes own decisions and take care of
ourselves
I6TERDEPE6DE6CE ± it is the paradigm of US. Co-operate to achieve something that
can¶t be achieved independently.
Dependant people need others to get what they want. Independent people can get what
they want through their own efforts. Interdependent people combine their efforts with
others to achieve greatest success.

 
To make the choice to become interdependent, one must be first independent, rather than
dependent. The Habits 1, 2 and 3 deal with self-mastery. Habits 4, 5 and 6 deal with
teamwork, cooperation, and communication. Habit 7 is the habit of renewal.
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The 7 Habits are habits of effectiveness, as they bring the maximum long-term beneficial
results possible. Effectiveness lies in a balance what author calls it as P/PC balance that is
Production of desired results and production capability ± the ability that produces the
desired results.
    
Be Proactive means freedom to choose and increasing your influence. As humans we are
responsible for our own lives. We are responsible means we are able to choose our
response. Our behaviour is a function of our decision, not our conditions. When you are
proactive, you choose how you want to respond to circumstances instead of automatically
reacting to them. Avoid reactive behaviour and remain calm, practice proactive behaviour
and language. we have the initiative and responsibility to make things happen. Proactive
people focus on their circle of influence, the things which they can control, however
reactive people focus on their circle of concerns.
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2 habit is the habit of vision. The best way to predict your future is to create it This
habit teaches you how to live with vision, mission and purpose. To engage in this habit,
you need to have a dream, define your own vision and get into the practice of setting
goals which will allow you to make measurable progress toward the dream. If you
practice a faith, then you will want to consider how this affects your purpose in life; if
you do not, you will still need to get involved in deep self-examination to find out exactly
what it is that will bring you fulfilment.
Until you have defined your vision - the big dream to which you will be working - you
will be unable to move on to habit 3 which provides a basic framework for you to re-
align your efforts so that you will ultimately achieve your heart's desire.
All things are created twice, which means : a mental or first creation and physical or 2nd
creation. First you make the image in your mind of what you want to do then you start
working on it physically.
       
The third habit is - First Thing First. it is the habit of integrity and execution. It is
important to put the most important things first every minute, every morning, every day.
The concepts of urgency and importance against each other is identified in this habit. you
should define what is important to you. Without first doing it, habit 3 has no power
because you simply cannot separate what is important from what is not important.
Spend time doing what fits in your mission statement, observing the proper balance
between Production and building Production Capability. Identify the key roles that you
take in life and make time for each of them.
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This is the habit of mutual benefit. This habit is an attitude of mind. It concerns fostering
an attitude that is committed to always finding solutions that will truly benefit both sides
of a dispute. This habit is based on the proinciple that effective, long term relationships
require co-operation by seeking mutual benefit ± solutions that allow eveyone to succeed.
Seek agreements and relationships that are mutually beneficial. The more you practice
this habit, the more committed you will become as you find solutions which truly do
benefit both parties, where originally it looked as if no such agreement might be reached.

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Covey has amended the wording of this habit slightly in recent years to read: Think Win-
Win or 6o Deal.
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The fifth habit is - Seek First to Understand. It involves a very deep shift in paragidm.
What most people do, naturally, when involved in some type of discussion, meeting or
dialogue is exactly the reverse - they seek first to be understood. This habit is an
important key to inter-personal relationships. This habit is not just about letting the other
person speak first; it concerns actually making the effort to understand what is being said.
If however, we are prepared to invest the time and effort to really understand the other
person's position; and to get into the habit of spending the first part of the discussion
doing so; then, when it is felt by the other person that you do indeed understand, the
dynamic changes. People become more open, more teachable, more interested in what
you may have to say and with the mutual understanding that flows from this habit, you
are ready to practice habit 6; which concerns finding creative solutions.
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The sixth of the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People is - Synergize. It is the crowning
achevment of all previous habits. It is effectiveness in an interdependent reality. It is
team work, team building, the development of unity and creativity with other human
beings. This habit involves you putting your head together with the other party or parties
in order to creatively brainstorm a synergistic solution to a problem i.e. to find a solution
which contains win-win benefits.
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Finding a synergistic solution means finding a solution which is better than either party
might first propose. Such a solution can only be found if both parties truly understand the
other parties position
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The last habit of the 7 Habits is - Sharpen the Saw. In this habit, you are the saw; and to
Sharpen the Saw is to become better, keener and more effective.   
  always take time to Sharpen the Saw. What is meant by V  V
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regularly engage in the exercise of the three dimensions which make up the human
condition: body, mind and spirit. Covey also adds a fourth dimension - the inter-personal.
To exercise spiritually, I recommend that you consider engaging in some form of
meditation.
Regular aerobic, physical exercise is essential for health, energy and a feeling of well-
being.
Ask yourself these questions. What am I doing to sharpen my mind? Am I engaged in a
programme of education or learning of some kind? What am I doing to improve my
professional knowledge?
Interpersonal is really a commitment, Even if people approach me making use of
language, actions, or behavior which I personally believe to be inappropriate, my
commitment is to not react, but to use my proactive capacity to engage in the exercise of
habits 4, 5 and 6 which I believe will lead to the best possible outcome in such
circumstances.