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Our life is what our thoughts make it. Life is neither good or evil, but only a place for good and evil.
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It seems surprising that we tend to resist change. Finally. You can read the chapters in any order.How to Use this Book Why? The essence of life is change. but pretty soon everything s different. I have always subscribed to the dripping tap approach to selfimprovement. In a year from now. But it can only help if you are ready and willing to change. It is going to happen to us in one form or another. so why not take control of it and proactively shape ourselves? We are always moving either in the direction of growth or the direction of decay. it can give you ideas and support you. and reading a book (however good it is!) will not do it. You can read the whole book from cover to cover. Nothing seems to change much from day to day. the more exciting and interesting the journey. and the more we will be glad when we see how much we have achieved. Just a little each day and. So why not decide to grow and become better than we are? I do not suggest that we berate ourselves for not being perfect a healthy self esteem is essential for proper growth. How? There is only one way to change your life. just as you would a novel. . In fact. I came across a notice recently. You might like to make a short summary of each chapter as you go. it can send you off down new avenues. you will have changed a great deal. in a surprisingly short time. The more interactive you can make the experience of reading. the less perfect we are. but this isn t the best way to approach it. Read slowly and let the message sink in. Change is the only constant. A book can help you. Many drips fill a bucket. It simply said. As Charlie Brown so wisely said. you may wish that you had started today. The best thing is to read one chapter per day for a month. Only you can do it. the better. but the first five days form a sequence so I suggest you read these first. Don t be tempted to go onto the next chapter. but I believe that we should embrace it. This book contains thirty short chapters. It seemed to capture the essence of what self improvement is all about.
.So why not start today? It s the only day you have.
It was many years ago and I was browsing through the shelves when I came across Awareness by Anthony de Mello. Eckhart Tolle tells a similar story in The Power of Now. You are more wonderful than anything in the universe. because that s hat he thought he was. It learns to peck the dust for food. The stranger tells the old man that his wooden box is full of money and treasure. A chicken incubates the egg with all her others and when it hatches. Or of reading. servile life. The eagle lived like a chicken and died like a chicken. and says to himself. how beautiful to be like that and have such a life. The first page tells the story. The book struck a chord in me and I loved what I was reading so much that I bought it there and then and read it from cover to cover sitting in the city center. she rears the eaglet as if it were one of her own chicks. for that matter. The little eagle looks up and sees this. to flap its wings and to strut around the farmyard. and the above stories are supposed to shock you into realizing that you are not what people have brainwashed you into believing you are. and he s been sitting there for years he sits on it on the street and begs for money. One day. One day someone walks past and tells the old beggar that he has nothing to give except a piece of information. It goes something like this: There s a beggar sitting on an old wooden box. The old man laughs and soon forgets what the stranger told him. doing a job you hate. spiritually whole and abundant by nature. so you contain all the spiritual properties of the universe. I wish I were an eagle how majestic.Day One: Who are you? There is a story I never tire of telling. scrimping and scratching around for a pittance. He dies without ever opening the box. . You don t need to live a cowering. how free. cow-towing to a boss you dislike. of God. Just as a drop of water contains all the properties of the ocean. an eagle flies by overhead. here it is (paraphrased by me). I firs t found it quite by accident in a bookshop in Birmingham. England. An eagle lays an egg but somehow the egg finds its way into a chicken coup. The American write Henry David Thoreau said most men live lives of quiet desperation.
but without a clear and basic understanding that you are the eagle. you will be building a house on the sand.Before you realize this. But your foundation needs to be solid. say affirmations. set goals. Abraham Lincoln said If I had six hours to chop down a tree. I'd spend the first four hours sharpening the axe. you cannot amount to anything. a mansion! You can have it all. These are not bad things. and the edifice will fall apart when the wind blows or when the tide comes in. go to seminars and buy self-help books. that you have the treasure inside you. meditate and visualize. You can try all the techniques. all the programs. You can have a wonderful house. so why not spend some time getting to know who you really are? .
Day Two: Why are you here?
Henry David Thorea said that most men lead lives of quiet desperation, and Miguel Torga, the great Portuguese writer, said that life has the meaning we give it -- our richness, our enthusiasm, our pride -- or our cowardice.
Once we have seen that we can change our own life and construct our own experience, we are able to orchestrate things so that we experience greater meaning. But what gives meaning to our lives? Is it money, property, a successful career, a big car, an attractive spouse or partner? I m sure most people would agree that these things in themselves do not add lasting and profound meaning to us.
Albert Einstein said that only a life lived for others is a life worthwhile, and I believe that a life of service to others is what truly brings meaning. I prefe r to use the term adding value, since this describes what I mean more accurately.
The term service suggests that we have to give up our jobs and money to go help the poor and destitute. I know several people who have done just this, and they have certainly found happiness and peace in their choice of lifestyle. But a life of adding value does not mean abandoning your own needs and desires. It is not the same as sacrifice. Far from it when we truly add value to the lives of others, we cannot help but receive value ourselves.
Examples of this kind of synergy abound in nature. For example, tree roots are often surrounded by fungal growths that take nutrients from the trees. Having no chloroplasts of their own, the fungi cannot synthesize the precursors of respiration, and so they piggyback on the trees ability to do this. In return, the tree gets to use the fungi s vast subterranean network, extending its own reach and sucking in more nutrients from the soil. The soil, of course, gets this all back and more when the tree dies.
Adding value is the only real way to live a meaningful life. But the question remains, how can we add value? I believe the answer to this is surprisingly simple.
In a commencement speech delivered in 2005, Steve Jobs said that your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven t found it yet, keep looking.
Through Apple, Steve Jobs has undoubtedly added immense value to the world. He did it by following his heart and has been richly rewarded for it. The same can be said for many famous, successful and wealthy people.
The formula is simple. Find what you love. Do it. Add vale. Be a success. Perhaps the first step is the hardest. Do you know what you love? There is little more important in life than finding out.
Finally, some food for thought. In Making a Life, Making a Living, Mark Albion cites a study carried out by Srully Blotnick. The careers of 1,500 business school graduates were tracked from 1969 to 1980 and were split into two groups: group A said they wanted to make money first so they could do what they really wanted later, and group B said they would follow their interests first, regardless of financial considerations. At the end of the study, there were 101 millionaires. All but one came from group B.
the power of our habits is strong and keeps pulling us back. Many perhaps most people go through life on autopilot. We are pulling our own strings and when the stimulus comes we can take control. we are ignoring the gap and abdicating our freedom. and over time we can expand the gap and become more free. change our response and hence change our life. we are free to choose our responses to the things that come our way. even after a long lifetime of unconscious behavior. When we react defensively to a criticism. . often rehearsing the scripts they developed as children. In The Seven Habits of Highly Successful People. Steven Covey calls this being proactive.Day Three: You are pulling the strings Austrian psychiatrist and survivor of the holocaust Victor Frankl tells us in Man s Search for Meaning that between stimulus and response there is a gap. but we need to realize this before can move on. Unlike Pavlov s dogs. many of these scripts are maladaptive and only serve to impoverish our experience and damage us and those we love. But the truth is that we are free we are not robots. when we keep on smoking despite knowing how bad it is. Of course. In adult life. the first step towards a life of meaning. we have always been in control. reacting in the same habituated ways they have learned over the course of their life. we are not like dogs salivating when a bell rings. In truth. but the gap is always there. and in that gap lies the whole of our experience. when we start to get angry because we are stuck in a traffic jam.
and Covey tells us that paying attention to the development of self in the greater perspective of improving one s ability to serve. and once in the world. and we do this by honoring the fact that all life is about giving and receiving. I am reminded here of the story of the goose who laid the golden eggs. Although this idea that thoughts become things (to use Earl Nightingale s expression) has been widely disseminated by self-development books and movies such as The Secret in recent months and years. and it is this life is all about flow. but there is another. It is happening all the time. in The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. to produce. Successful people are conscious of this process and use it more deliberately. we will continue to drift along. to contribute in meaningful ways will enable us to create in a sustainable way. once in the mind. Covey. . vital aspect to our ability to orchestrate our own experience. like a pool with no outlet stagnates and dies. We need to give and we need to receive. friends and society at large. but most of us simply create our experience by default through reactive and habitual thought patterns that we have picked up from parents. most people do this without any conscious awareness of the process. The farmer focused too much on the eggs and. and that we must work with the flow of life brings us to the point where we must think deeply about what we want and where we are going in life.Day four: Everything is created in the mind first Steven R. either experiencing by default (as most people do) or creating our life in a way which ultimately leads to stagnation and decay. If we fail to engage at this point. tells us that all things are created twice. To ignore this give and take is to cause stagnation and decay. Bringing these two basic truths together that we create twice. in his greed. We need the eggs (what we create) but we also need to keep the engine of creation going. killed the goose.
. They go straight from stimulus to response without a thought. At least your conscious. Viktor Frankl. In truth. he wanted to do everything consciously. we have tremendous power. thinking mind can t. In our response lies our growth and our freedom. Through its interaction with the conscious. We know a case in which a violinist always tried to play as consciously as possible. Where we are now is a result of the activity of our subconscious mind. reacting in the old. recounts an interesting story. Treatment had to give back to the patient his trust in the unconscious. the Austrian psychiatrist and holocaust survivor. decade after decade. You can t do it through effort and control and work.Day five: You can only change form the inside You can have anything. and you have the power to change I must into I choose. But this is the reality you have free will. habitual way over and over again. never seeming to realize that they have a choice. From putting his violin in place on his shoulder to the most trifling technical detail. thinking mind on one side and the vast universal intelligence which pervades the universe on the other. In that space is our power to choose our response. You can be anything. you are responsible for how you react. we must realize that we are in the driving seat. Know who is in control Between stimulus and response there is a space. The Austrian psychiatrist and survivor of the holocaust Viktor Frankl wrote that between stimulus and response there is a gap. But you can t do it. to perform in full self-reflection. It amazes me that people go through life running the same script for year after year. Most people have given that power away. it orchestrates our experience of life. Viktor Frankl First. Unlike Pavlov s dogs or other animals who respond only by instinct. we humans have the power of choice. This led to a complete artistic breakdown . When we realize that this gap exists and that we can use it. and inside that gap lies all of our experience. The subconscious mind does everything. You can do anything. by having him realize how much more musical his unconscious was than his conscious. It creates your whole world.
. But suddenly you will remember what happened to you yesterday or last week (good or bad) and your internal talk will begin. We see ourselves in certain scenarios in our mind s eye. and so they attract this experience. Start visualizing what you want to achieve. to choose one s own way. you can replace the default visualizations (of being a victim. The way we act. you can start to replace to old script with a self-talk based on conscious choice. of course. In reality. If you re not very conscious about it. We are free to control our thoughts and change our own perception of things. Poor people often tend to think about lack. The other is our visualization. But if you can become aware that this is happening. It makes sense that changing what we believe will alter the way we behave. you re not thinking anything in particular. Changing our beliefs is not instantaneous. depends on what we believe. this script will just run in the background all day and you will react to situations in your usual conditioned manner. You can often catch the moment shortly after you wake up when the script kicks in for a short while after you wake up. who believe that thoughts happen to them. One is our self-talk. your mind is blank. Viktor Frankl The most important area in which we operate our freedom is our own mind. We talk to ourselves all day long. being poor etc. but our beliefs do change throughout our lives and we can be active in controlling this process. Rich people tend naturally to think about money and abundance and so they tend to attract more money by naturally acting in accordance with their beliefs. This is a revelation to many people.) with new ones about abundance. Again. you generate your own thoughts all day long and you can be the master of them. how you want to feel and what sort of person you want to be. if you are conscious. happiness. confidence and control.It all starts in the mind Everything can be taken from a man or a woman but one thing: the last of human freedoms to choose one s attitude in any given set of circumstances. The inside-out We create our own reality in two ways.
These words and images will be turned into reality as sure as day follows night. So we need to be careful what we think about and talk to ourselves about.The subconscious ensures that our images are translated into reality. self-talking. In the end. Our subconscious mind believes what it is told by the thinking. A change in our mind will work its way out. visualizing mind and does not recognize any difference between a real experience and an imaginary one. we see the world as we are. . and what we see in our mind s eye.
If you have a poverty mentality. get your hair done at an expensive salon. The harvest will be a life of poverty and struggle or one of ease and comfort. except that they are talking about the lack of it. I have noticed that the rich spend a lot of time talking about money. and so long as you are sensible. Having an abundance mentality means spending money and enjoying it. What do youy find when you open your wallet? I used to withdraw money from the ATM only when I needed it and I was habitually running short of money. and it will bring forth whatever you sow in it. Which one would you prefer? The answer is obvious. you can go out and treat yourself. if you are jealous about the success and wealth of others. the boss at work or a guy who lives down the road. These things will send out signals to your subconscious mind (and . So sure enough. and what we focus on will expand and push its way out into the physical world. The rich have sown an abundance mentality. as soon as you get some money you will spend it. but if we concentrate on wealth. you re never going to be rich. If we focus on lack and poverty. You need to admire these kind of people and ask yourself what can I learn from them? The best way to learn from the wealthy. you are never going to attract it into your own life. People who think like this cannot trust themselves with cash. You can sow a mentality of lack and poverty or a mentality of abundance. Think more about money. this is what we will experience. Admire people who have money and associate with the wealthy. Your money is there to be enjoyed. Go to a nice restaurant. but it is surprising how many people choose the former. buy a designer suit or bag. Our experience of the world starts in our mind. if you can t trust yourself with cash on the hip. fertile soil. The message an empty wallet sends to your subconscious is got no money.Day six: Making money Being rich is a state of mind. in fact. so you should try to associate yourself with successful and wealthy people. How do you feel when you see someone who you know is rich? Whether it be a movie star. is to be around them. of course. Your mind is like a garden which contains rich. and here are ten ways you can start to tend your own garden of riches. So do the poor. Be comfortable carrying money around. Maybe you say to yourself I can t carry money around or else I ll spend it! Well. but it s also important not to scrimp and save. this will play out in your life. it will start to appear in our lives. Get used to spending money and buying nice things. It does not mean living above your means and getting into debt.
They use phrases like filthy rich and associate making money with dishonest practices and unsavory ways of living. If you win $100 in a competition. money as well as all other things cannot sit still. And there s no more or less reason to acquire it than there is a reason to be happy. Hoarding money is also symptom of a poverty mentality. There s an important difference. since it can allow you to experience more of life and to help other people. Because everything in life is in flux. Many people have been deeply scripted in a mentality that equates money with guilt. healthy or successful. But the reality is that money is not bad: it s just money. but giving a person with a poverty mentality a large sum of money will not make that person rich. It cannot lie dormant. in a matter of months. Many people think that money is tainted. what s the point? Feel that you deserve to be rich. Associate money with a healthy. It has to move. spend some of it on nice things. There are other people in that same situation who are making it! . above all. until I realized the truth: if all the money in the world were redistributed equally. Money is like a living thing it has to move and it to grow. and the universe) that you have an abundance mentality and that you are comfortable with money. How can the rich live with themselves when there are starving people in the world? Why don t they give their money way to help others? These are the things I used to say to myself.other people. And this is because poverty is a disease of the mind. Don t feel guilty about it. be generous and. But growing money is at the heart of an abundance mentality. balanced life. Of course we should support the needy. there would once again be massive inequality. Don t be too attached to money. their subconscious autopilot will find a way of bringing them back to poverty. a car or house repair that needs to be paid for so keep your money flowing. The poor would just spend it or bury it. If you try to hoard it. Hoarding money and spending all your money are signs of a poverty mentality. because so long as the poverty mentality is running. the sick and the hungry. Either you can move it or it will move of its own accord. Money is good and necessary. enjoy it! Otherwise. Get into the habit of investing. Don t blame anyone or anything for your situation. Put it to work in investments. Take responsibility. the homeless. Both cause stagnation and an end to wealth. it will find a way of moving on anyway an unexpected bill or other expense. what would you do with it? The rich would think about how to turn it into $1000.
People have come from abject poverty and made billions. Henry Ford said. None of these things have stopped others from getting rich. When you have done this. It s not your age or education. Believe that anything is possible. So start believing it! . Others have started at the top and lost it all. Anything is possible in this world.It is not your parent s fault that you are poor. stop making excuses and take responsibility. you re probably right. it clears the way for amazing things to happen. It is not the government s fault. But if you truly want to be rich. Whether you believe you can or believe you can t. Many people just stay poor because it s easier they don t have to face up to their part in creating their own reality.
But now I have come to the conclusion that if all the money in the world were divided equally between everyone. an unshakeable collection of positive thoughts and convictions which free you from worry and lack. As in all spheres of life. not our master. Why? Simply put money is a symptom or an effect. fertile soil where the crop can grow strong and healthy. Most people have got this the wrong way round. not the cause. within a short time. turns around and devours them. and he will have an abundance. We create our own financial condition. Some people s minds are like rich. and our self-image. and those thoughts get built on and expanded until eventually they become a huge and terrifying monster which. Where we are now is a result of what we have thought and how we have acted in the past. we control it money is our servant. Our thoughts create our reality and if we sow good. We must take responsibility for this. spend their life building a powerful and obedient genie. the genie does your bidding and you are always rich. our thoughts. positive thoughts. even what he has shall be taken away from him Jesus of Nazareth (Matthew 13:12) When I was a child. Others. eventually. and the poor would be poor again. to him more shall be given. Many people spend their lives building a money monster. The cause of money is our attitude. If we sow thoughts of poverty and lack. Being rich is the effect of our thoughts. thoughts of abundance. teachers and other influential figures which they were exposed to when young. these thoughts will yield a harvest of money and abundance. what we sow is what we reap. the rich would be rich again. however. We attract more of what we focus on.Day seven: Why the rich get richer For whoever has. We must accept this. Either we are responsible or we are not which is it to be? Do you want to carry on feeling that you re at the mercy of chance? Maybe you do maybe you get something out of that. I used to look out at the world. Many of these thoughts came from parents. but whoever does not have. We must realize that money doesn t control us. and think to myself how unfair it is that some people are so rich and others so poor. we will manifest that in our lives. But know this if you do not accept . made up of the negative thoughts about money and wealth. others minds are more like rocks and dust which will not support a good harvest. watch the news.
that you are responsible for your financial condition. and will orchestrate events in a marvelous and unexpected way to . keep your money flowing. it will find a way of moving on a big tax bill. If you try to hoard money. it will stagnate. it means don t let your money stagnate and die don t kill the goose that lays the golden egg. and these will be played out in real life. Know that whatever your beliefs. the clouds release water as rain. you will always be poor. the rain falls into streams and rivers. Haanel (1866-1949) Many people have self-defeating beliefs about money (which I have written about elsewhere). since that is its nature. an unexpected expense so keep things moving. and creating financial abundance should be top of our list of priorities. like a pool with no inlet or outlet. That more gathers more is true on every plane of existence and that loss leads to greater loss is equally true. Charles E. it forms clouds. money flows whether we like it or not. If you try to hoard it. the world will support them so think positive and abundant thoughts. a drop in the ocean! Another reason the ocean never runs dry is that water is constantly on the move. Clear out your old ideas about wealth and fill your mind with new and positive thoughts about money. We cannot be wealthy if we think of money in a negative way. does that mean the ocean will run dry? Hardly! There is so much of it that it can never run out! Even the wealth of the richest person in the world is just. Money is just a way to be free. Water evaporates. In fact. Flaunting wealth is a sign of insecurity and tells of a poverty mentality. does that mean there is less water for everyone else? If I pump water from the sea night and day. there is not a limited supply of wealth and abundance if I go out in a boat and fill a few buckets with water. it will grow. the more you know. but to wish and strive for financial freedom is a good thing as someone once said. Just like water. It s also important that you don t try to control the process who knows through which wonderful channels money and wealth will come to you? Your subconscious mind is wiser than you can know. just as a pool with a constant flow of fresh water sparkles and teems with life. well. and the rivers flow back into the sea. But if you keep money circulating. That doesn t mean give all your money away or keep buying and selling investments. the less you need to show. money needs to flow. One of these self-defeating beliefs is that there is a shortage of money. But in reality.
Sailing against the wind is madness it will take all your energy and you ll stand still (at best). . It is also important that you be ready to receive. So sail with the wind. So be ready and be open to all possibilities. go with the flow of life.bring you what you desire. not against it. and you can be effortlessly abundant. Making money is not hard work it s easy when you do it right. Like all things in life. Sometimes you don t get what you want you get something better. see which way the wind is blowing and sail with the wind.
Day eight: The importance of your beliefs Do not try and bend the spoon. then all well and good. However. it is only yourself. then I can t see how they can be called beliefs. by year end. for example. and by all means present and discuss your beliefs but beliefs should be held strongly and with power. Needless to say. This doesn t mean you should arrogantly try to foist your beliefs on other people if you re right. You Are Right. For years. people being buried for days and coming out alive and well. let others find out in their own way. Norton & Co. Examples of the empowering effect of belief are found everywhere. 1994) reports several instances of the mind appearing to have amazing control over the body. The examples are endless. who found that skin from his patients actually reacted chemically when Backster simply thought of damaging the skin. She also mentions Clove Backster. then it is. . the floodgates opened and within two years. That's impossible. the other personality has no sign of illness. As Henry Ford famously said. When people really believe that something is possible. Dr. This study from researchers at Stanford University suggests that pain can be controlled by thought. different teachers were told that their classes consisted of under performers or bright students and.. there was a significant difference in the quality of the classes work. Instead. in her book Imagery for Getting Well. For example. that it is not the spoon that bends. people not eating for weeks or even years and appearing to be in normal health.. They have the ability to empower you or limit you. Madeline Daniels has written about studies of the self fulfilling prophecy where. I read recently that beliefs are neither tight nor wrong. only try to realize the truth Then you'll see. people tried and tried to run a mile in under four minutes but just kept failing. Or You Can't. as soon as Roger Banister did it in 1954. about 350 others had done the same.W. From The Matrix The story of the four-minute mile is one of those things that tells us about the way the world works. Whether You Believe You Can. There are many documented instances of individuals appearing to defy nature because of belief people walking over hot coals. I disagree if you don t think that your beliefs are right. Deirdre Davis Brigham (W. She cites some cases of people with multiple personality one personality has flu symptoms or even diabetes. the students ability was the same in all classes.
feeling insecure and threatened. many years carrying this belief. Then something happened I was openly criticized and. I had to recognize that I had been carrying this belief around with me all those years and consciously decide to change it. .I read somewhere recently that a belief is nothing but the generalization of a past incident. And so I spent many. This seems to ring true. When I was a child. generalizing this experience. terrified of public speaking. I started to see those around me as hostile and unwelcoming. I was outgoing and gregarious.
You need to separate what you have done. we become what we think about. try to realize that we are spiritually whole. eventually. but your subconscious still sees you as a smoker. you must start the process in your mind first. we have each created ourself from our own mental image. in a very real sense. then not smoking will be easy and natural. Whoever you are now. and eventually. from who you are. you have chosen it. If you want to change. How to change Many people think that the only way to do something worthwhile is by sheer hard work. the things you own. as Earl Nightingale observed. If you keep saying to yourself. Since this is so.Day nine: The importance of self-image The image we have of ourselves is the most important thing in determining what we experience in the world. If I see myself as unfit. I will stop going to the gym and I will start eating the wrong kind of food again. Who we are First. how much you earn. . Self-acceptance is the first step and the most important part of choosing your experience and being successful. I m going to give up smoking. and I will remain unfit. Whatever we have done or failed to do does not change what we are and what we are is perfect. When you see yourself for what you truly are. If you see yourself as a non-smoker. you can experience your own magnificence right now and then you can choose your life. so we contain all the spiritual properties of the universe. When you see yourself as being fit and healthy. Rejecting yourself or a part of yourself or hating yourself for something you have done is pointless. or you can choose again and become someone different. you can be the same person. And in a year. of God. five years. we should love ourselves with no strings attached. and everything else about you. We spend our days acting out the kind of person we think we are. then going to the gym and eating well will be natural and easy. then no amount of going to the gym and trying to eat well is going to change that image and. And we can recreate ourselves from a new mental image if we choose. But no amount of willpower can change us into something we think we are not. Just as a drop of water contains all the properties of the ocean. ten years from now. We experience what we are convinced is true and so.
This is how you learn about yourself. and you seem to make some others shrink they don t understand why you are difference. some people will have values which conflict with yours. You can never get the approval you seek from others. so just relax. and so you must take responsibility for your life. The only authority you need is within yourself. they don t see themselves as being in control and they wonder what you have that they don t.then you re going to fail because you always live up to your subconscious expectations. Don t be afraid to expose a weakness and make yourself vulnerable. you will not be threatened by the beliefs of others. . and so they may feel threatened and try to attack you or control you or turn you into something else. The right kind of selfishness Why is it wrong to have things just because others don t? Will it help the poor if you are poor yourself? You are naturally and effortlessly abundant. love yourself and decide who you want to become. When you accept this and you take control of your life. it s how to change and grow. Learn from them and admire them. You are in control. You are becoming more powerful. Your growth will cause others pain. support them in what they have and more abundance will come to you. When you decide to change your life. Don t fear or resent others for being wealthy or successful. Don t worry about whether you re perfect you re like a house under construction. you are pulling the strings. If you know that you are spiritually perfect. and so is everyone else. There s nothing wrong with this it s the way things are and people who criticize you are only throwing stones at themselves. Isn t this what s behind some people s attempts to convert you to their religion? Don t be afraid You don t need permission from others to change your life. this is bound to make some people unhappy.
I believe that nothing happens to us that we don t permit at a deep.You are powerfully orchestrating of your own experience. subconscious level. .
choose the abundant. So delve inside. . and then you cannot help but become that person.What is happening within us is in deep alignment with our outside experiences. prosperous and successful life. And the best part of all it will happen effortlessly. choose what you want to become. hold on to that image of yourself.
why they are going there. power. Thirdly. In Man s Search for Meaning. First is security. family. what really moves us. then we can live out each day deliberately creating an experience which leads to sustainable growth and happiness. so it is worth spending some time seriously reflecting on what values we live by. our sense of direction. Covey identifies four features which flow from this center and which need to be in harmony in a truly creative and successful life. Here. This sense of direction is a compass which keeps them on track. Covey. our ability to achieve. our sense of worth and emotional anchorage. we become what we think about. and it is often expressed in a mission statement. Successful people have a clear direction. those basic principles which are most important to you. a sense of where they are going and. guidance. Fourthly. The most important step is to identify your values. change should seen as an exciting adventure and an opportunity to learn and grow Secondly. In a value-centered life. money. If these values can be distilled and concretized into a personal mission statement (what you want to be and do. Viktor Frankl suggests that we detect our meaning in life. as Earl Nightingale observed.Day Ten: The Importance of a Mission statement The image we have of ourselves is the most important thing in determining what we experience in the world. and eventually. we should recognize that what we achieve is . We spend our days acting out the kind of person we think we are. People have many focuses work. friends and so on but the truly creative person has his or her core values at the center of life. or how we respond to events. In an valuecentered life. Steven R. Do we like what we are hearing? What do we want to hear? How have we been remembered? We need to identify what is deeply important to us. We need to decide where the focus of our life is located. Steven R. not being acted on by others but acting independently and skillfully in the world. we do not respond reactively to the vicissitudes of life but proactively make decisions. Here. as importantly. in The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. wisdom. suggests that we imagine ourselves attending our own funeral and listen as we hear the eulogies being reads out about us. we should be detached from life s changing landscape and guided internally by our core values. based on your personal values).
Here are the elements of a good mission statement. There s nothing here about sales targets. In this sense. For example. and a mission statement can be a powerful way of achieving this. your goal is to be the best sales person in your company you will achieve this goal by giving outstanding service to every customer. When you start to get bogged down in the details of daily life. it s a definite statement of intent. They just drift along. He also presented a six step plan by which anyone could achieve financial success. If you want to find out about the plan. They don t have a clear idea of where they are going in life. it provides you with a wide angle lens through which you can keep the bigger picture in view. think back to your mission statement it will act as a compass to keep you on track. however unbelievable or unrealistic it is. in his famous book Think and Grow Rich wrote that most people did not have a goal. etc. . it s your order from the menu of the universe.. the universe will do the rest. Napoleon Hill. but the key element in the plan is clear statement of purpose. decade after decade. This plan does not involve a lot of effort. detailed plan. They don t know what they want to achieve. did not now where they were going. realistic etc. It should indicate how you are going to achieve your goals this does not contradict the previous statement. Your goals should be specific and clear What are your values? What do you stand for? What are you going to achieve? What are you going to contribute to the world? This isn t about what you want to achieve it s not a wish list. year after year. your decisions and actions will be guided by it. Once you have written down the how in general terms. but a statement about what you are going to offer in exchange for meeting your goal. Most individuals don t have a mission statement. Most people live like that and they die like that. it s presented in chapter 2 of the book. Your goals do not need to be (SHOULD not be) realistic or attainable we ve all heard about SMART targets which have to be measurable. A mission statement cannot just be thrown together. it s what is going to happen.our own responsibility and is not determined by the beliefs and behavior of others. how many clients you need to see. It needs to be carefully crafted. how many sales you need to make etc. The point here is that the universe can do anything. You must not include a specific. incidentally it s essentially a method for clear about what you seek to achieve.
Just as if you are sailing somewhere on a ship you know you ll get to your destination and in the meantime you re enjoying the view. you re not going to do this if it s going to take twenty minutes. you ll live a life of eager anticipation and joy.It should be short some organizations produce long rambling mission statements which nobody ever reads! Napoleon Hill suggests you read through your mission statement every morning and evening. the ship s moving) whilst living in the present moment (you re looking out at a wonderful sunrise. And the ideas aren t going to be as powerful if they re not focused. you need a crew. focused and powerful. Next time you get bogged down in the day-to-day detail of life. busily working away to keep afloat and keep moving. enjoying the view) is. So keep it short. This attitude of anticipating a future you have already chosen (you bought the ticket. Without them. Taking time to write and regularly review your mission statement is one of the most important things you can do in life. your ship just won t get anywhere. but even more importantly. . it will clarify your vision and i t will keep you moving on the right course. It will keep things in perspective. you need a map. It should make you feel good If you know where you re going. to me. Your life is like a ship of course. stop and think about your mission statement. the only sensible way to live. like a laser beam. you need a compass and you need a captain. you got on the ship.
we re not being want to discuss a few ideas which may help consciously and also introduce a practical achieved. Written goals send out a powerful message to the universe. we all set goals all the time. The ourselves all the time. it s just that usually we do it unconsciously. and most of the goals people set are pretty odd. In some ways. And we all set them for usually we don t know it . Goals written down are like a compass that guides you through the chaos of daily life. It s the first step in a process that will lead you wherever you want to go. In this article I you to set goals more way to actually get them . it s your thoughts and feelings that draw events and circumstances into your life. But very conscious. I m going to be exhausted by the end of the week. this is certainly right. So you need to start acting as if you already have what you aim to achieve in order to draw it into your life. Create specific goals I don t think I ve ever read a self-improvement book or anything on the law of attraction that didn t emphasize in some way the importance of goal setting. I m never going to get through all this work and so on. Start to achieve your goals right NOW! The law of attraction works in the following way: thoughts lead to feelings. This meeting is going to be boring. In fact. The young couple that buys a house that s too expensive for them and fills it with push furnishings and all mod cons is going to get into desperate trouble with their credit line because they couldn t wait. Most people think that events and circumstances are reflected in your thoughts and feelings. Why would anyone set these goals? Your goals don t have to be like this so stop doing it! You need to try to be more conscious about your goals. and to this end it helps to write them down. Actually. We ve been taught that we all good things come to those who wait and that delayed gratification is better than having it all now.Day eleven: Goals Did you make any new years resolutions in January? How many of them are you still on track with? We all have goals. feelings lead to things.
But what we re taking about here is not putting off your goals any more we re talking about getting them achieved. is making a $1000 deposit into your savings account each month. decide on the date each month when you will make the deposit and go right ahead but you don t have to deposit $1000: you can make it $25 or even $1 just get into the habit of doing it. and calling it a $1000 deposit. Occasionally you will be able to make that $1000 deposit. This is how the LOA works you need to give the universe something to work with. This is a goal. . or as many times as you can. maybe you want a chauffeur that s your goal but you can t achieve that right now. Because you have built up certain habits. before you know it. Keep on doing it. You can have what you want immediately. An example given by Raymond Aaron in his book Double Your Income Doing What You Love. Examples are endless. but it just won t be the whole thing. What you have has got to be real. keep holding the thought and the universe will move to attract a wonderful new home into your life. You need to start acting as if it s already happening. So. As another example. I rarely use public transport these days and I do not drive. as far as you can. This is something I have done when I travel. What will happen is that the real thing the full. So start by taking a taxi once a week. So go looking around new places every month spend an afternoon looking at luxury homes and show flats. imagine that it s yours. In order to achieve this goal you need to give the law of attraction something to work with. Telling people about it will also help. but the point is to start behaving as if your goal has already been achieved.child (or the adult!) who stuffs his face with chocolate instead of waiting for dinner is going to suffer as a result. to build up a habit and to keep thinking of it as a $1000 deposit. unabridged version will start to appear in your life. you ll be living in a different way. This kind of delayed gratification is a necessary and healthy thing. I usually get a driver to take me from the airport to wherever I am staying and I take taxis to and from work. But the main thing is to do it every month without fail. Maybe you want an extravagantly expensive new home. but not in full perhaps one might say that you can have the quality but not the quantity. so start behaving as if you already have what you want and pretty soon it will be yours.
It is a game. having a great marriage.Small things can make all the difference When you change your life in a small way and keep on doing things in this different way. persistently acting in a small way is key . writing a book. So go out there and start playing! . A boat that changes its rudder by one degree will soon enough be headed in the opposite direction. after a surprisingly short time. your life will be different. as is all of life (in a sense). Whether its learning a language. building a website.a dripping tap soon fills the bucket! This isn t just a mind trick. building a career or getting rich. Intentionally changing little things will be the start o f a process that will radically change your life.
Day twelve: Wu Wei You ve always been told that making no effort is bad.don t push and pull too hard. counterintuitive . he said . An interesting and very accessible introduction to this idea. right? Perhaps at school you got a grade for effort and were berated by teachers and parents for being lazy. They just sort of happen. But there is a certain way of doing things . If you don t exercise because you can t be bothered.but it just means going with the flow. It s like water or electricity moving . We ve all heard things like this a million times. Just How do you do it. But we should distinguish between effortlessness and doing nothing or being lazy. and it is powerful motion because energy is not being used to overcome. just hold loosely and let the saw be your guide. or if you don t revise for your exam because it s too much trouble. always finding the easiest route.or rather a certain way of getting things done . You ll never make anything of yourself if you don t put in more effort. or if you eat junk food because it s to much effort to cook something healthy. then of course you re heading for an impoverished life. and then let the saw do the work . The Tao of Pooh. I remember my dad telling me how to saw a piece of wood: he said you had to follow the wood s natural grain. I don t do much of anything. there is action. he said. Become so Effortless. the path of least resistance . It sounds wrong. but it is effortless motion. if possible. The ancient Chinese philosophy of Wu Wei is the best description of this kind of achievement without effort.it travels easily and effortlessly. almost as if the saw is an extension of your arm.by which an excellent result is achieved with the expenditure of very little energy. There s no such thing as a free lunch. are contained in Benjaminn Hoff s excellent book.there is motion. But all those things of yours get done. Pooh? Do What? asked Pooh. along with many others which will crop up time and again in this blog.
that s what . of course. you can add value or you can take it away. but it s a fact when you give you receive. the rewards start rolling in. but when you really try to add value with no expectation of reward. 4. There are two kinds of person. Which are you seen as? You future success could depend on being in the right category. But why would anyone want to do this? Here are my top seven reasons. When you help someone. This is not the reason for doing it. It brings opportunity. Do you want to grow. always tries to find a solution. If you re not adding value.Day thirteen: Adding value to the world Many of us have been brought up to think that there is only so much to go around and we must grab what we can before other people get our share. Steven Covey. This is called adding value. Whether you re teacher who helps a student to pass an exam or encourages him to apply for university. giving something of ourselves and helping out wherever we can. you make the world better for all of us. 6. my friend (can you guess the movie?).we have been schooled in the ethic of me first. speaks about an inner darkness which is created when you live a life without integrity. When you add value. 1. you add value to their life and you make the world a better place. the pie gets bigger and there is more for us all. 2. you ll win friends and influence people. Life is strange like that! 5. It makes you feel good. It makes the world a better place for all of us. If you become known as someone who always helps. Unlike the not enough pie to go round paradigm. or do you want to die? you have to choose. It s the meaning of life. you re taking it away. the whole that you produce is greater than the sum of the parts which produced it. You cannot stand still you can grow or die. Living a life of integrity and value is the only way to truly feel good about yourself. You re going to get a whole lot in return. problem people and solution people. Maybe not in the way you think. the adding-value paradigm insists that when you enrich the life of someone else. the teacher who is unenthusiastic about his classes is damaging the students education. The doctor who learns no new skills is falling behind and being carried by her colleagues. But there is another paradigm which insists on helping others. 3. in The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. including yourself. 7. Competition and selfishness pervade our world . The bottom line is that adding value is the whole point of being alive that s what we re all here for. or an author who writes a book that helps thousands of people.
adding value is all about being creative in situations and seeing how you can use your skills to make a difference. put together a website. Go on a course. This will keep you in alignment with your true purpose in life and will. If you have a choice of two or more paths. . pick yourself up and keep going. you ll start to improve and eventually you ll be good at what you re doing. 6. 4. Make sure you know what you can do. This is how you learn more skills which will enable you to add more value. When you do the things you love. Encourage other people. Look at Bill Gates. Try to get the best out of people encourage them to be the best they can be. do a part time degree. 3. Adding value will guide you to the right job or enterprise. the best way to do what you re good at is to 2. tangible and intangible. Mostly. When you do something new. Don t be sacred to fail. bring you greater happiness and greater reward. Do what you love. Now. or it s time to quit. adding value comes naturally. ultimately. you ll do it badly and you might even be afraid to do it at all. If you re not adding value. This will inspire them to take their own risks and add their own value to the world. But if you push through that initial failure. write a novel but do something new. If and when you do fail. or any number of rich and successful people: what do they have ion common? They do what they love! And they are successful because they add value naturally. here are seven ways of making sure you are adding value in every situation as much as you can. Adding value is what you were put on this earth to do. get out! If you re in a job where you don t feel you re systematically adding something. 5.it s all about. You can do better. Keep on learning new things and expanding your comfort zone. always choose the one that allows you to add the most value. Madonna. Steve Jobs. you might not want to go through the experience again. Ever wonder about the meaning of life? Adding value that s it! The rewards that come from adding value are immense and unpredictable. What are your skills? What are you good at? These are the tools which will allow you to add value. be they career paths or anything else. 1. wither you need to change the way you re doing things. 7. Of course.
If you take all of this stuff seriously. We live in an age where people live longer. but worry is a truly pointless activity. But worry robs you of your power to be proactive. never eat. worry makes no sense at all. Things never happen the way you imagine. The truth is that you are in control and you can choose how to react to situations. but worry magnifies these disproportionately and blinds us to the wonders of our age. greater access to information and lifelong education. You are saying I know that things will turn out badly. the cows have got BSE. it s likely that you ll never go out. you are predicting the future. Here are some reasons why worry really is a pointless and damaging activity. Some people are so entrenched in worry that they cannot see any other way to live. have more opportunity for personal and professional growth. though I suspect we all know this deep down. But this just isn t the case. Why waste your energy doing something that gets you nowhere. there are risks and potential dangers. except to say that it will not be what you think it will be. So why worry? Worry means you give away your power. When you worry. more chance to travel. You have no idea how the future is going to turn out. On a treadmill at least you get some exercise. so why choose to give that power away so easily and so unconsciously? Worrying is completely unproductive. Worry is not a normal state of mind. physical changes are happening in your body which are very . but it gets you nowhere. Worry distorts reality. it gives you something to do. Spend your time and energy on something more useful. a new super-flu is coming. Glenn Turner We live in a culture where everyone seems to worry. there s mercury in the fish we eat. have better access to health care. and it adversely affects your health. never travel.Day fourteen: Don t worry Worrying is like a rocking chair. Yes. On and on it goes. When you worry. even your physical health. or never take any kind of risk at all. Worrying is bad for your health. terrorists are regrouping. But in fact. and many other wonderful things. Turn on the news someone got shot.
try to recall what you were worrying about one year ago today. it is within the sphere of our own influence. Are you still worrying about those things? Will all this stuff matter in 100 years from now? Face your fears. there is a momentum to worry. Do little children worry? Do animals worry? Do all adults worry? There is nothing inherent in being human that means you have to worry. Steven Covey tells us that the first step to a better life is the realization that we are free to choose how to react to circumstances. Worry is a choice it s inside our own head and. When you face Nelson DeMille said that Somehow our devils are never quite what we expect when we meet them face to face. You don t have to be religious to realize that this is good advice. Like all habits. healthy state. especially if you ve been a worrier all your life.damaging. you ll probably find it wasn t as bad as you thought. After you do something that scares you. and it might not be easy to break away from this. Stop trying to be in control of everything. among many other things. So how can we break out of this worry habit? Like all habits. but I ve seen estimates between 100 and 366 times. it might not be easy to do. Recognize that worry is a habit. cause muscle tension and headaches. it is not love one another or love God or anything like that. as such. Worry is not natural. a distortion of our natural. but there are some clear. and so do . all your worry will dissipate. simple and effective steps you can take to eliminate worry from your life. But it s possible to change any habit. E. You cannot control the whole world. Worry is a pathology. In The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. Things happen that are truly outside our circle of influence. It increases stress which can increase blood pressure. Realize that you are in control. It is simple not be afraid. Do you know the most frequent instruction given in the Bible? Surprisingly. cause higher levels of stomach acid. Joseph Crossman said. If you want to test your memory. With time. I don t know how many times it appears. Keep things in perspective.
This is part of life. but most of them never happened. I am an old man and have known a great many troubles. If you fail. Worry is a dangerous and poisonous thing. and worry will not change it one little bit.we need to relax and accept that sometimes things just happen as they will. one of my favorite quotes from the master of quotes. You must not let it eat away at you. so what? If you screw up. Finally. Stop taking yourself so seriously. Mark Twain. . is it the end of the world? Are you really so important that the world will stop turning if you get things wrong? Life is not that serious.
Michael Jordan was cut from his school basketball team because of lack of skill. But if you look back over you life. we should embrace it. Failure teaches us how to succeed. Now virtually every office in the world has a machine. when were the times you really learned? Which were the situations through which you grew the most? Like much of our conditioning. When Albert Einstein was young. never--in nothing. Never yield to force. his parents thought he was mentally retarded. Einstein. you will never amount to . His grades in school were so bad that a teacher asked him to leave.Day fifteen: Never give up Never give in. Thomas Edison was told by his teachers that he was too stupid to learn anything. Colonel Sanders talked to 1005 people before he could find one person willing to try his recipe. large or petty--never give in. never. never. Never give in. Never. because failure is the necessary precursor of success. He failed 9000 times before successfully inventing the light bulb. we have got this one all wrong. Not only should we not fear failure. A newspaper editor fired Walt Disney for having no good ideas Winston Churchill was a failure at school. An unknown Harvard dropout bought a piece of computer technology from an unknown person for $50 and started a bunsiness. He is widely regarded to be one of the most important figures in modern world history. something to be embarrassed about or ashamed of. His work on gravitation secured him a place as one of the greatest Scientists in history. except to convictions of honor and good sense. Never yield to the apparently overwhelming might of the enemy. great or small. writing. The first Xerox copier was a flop. something to be avoided. His name is Bill Gates. Just look at this list of famous failures. Isaac Newton was regarded as stupid by his teachers. Winston Churchill Have you ever failed? Did you feel bad about it? We are usually conditioned to think of failure as a bad thing.
No matter. J K Rowling s first Harry Potter book was rejected by a publisher who said there s no money in children s books. Ever failed. We could go on (and on. and on. Fail better. Henry Ford s first two automobile companies failed. ) The absurdity of seeing failure as a bad thing and taking other people s opinions about us too seriously is clear. Einstein was one of the greatest scientists who ever lived. . Fail again. Try again. His wife rescued it and sent it to a publisher. Stephen King was so disillusioned with his first novel Carrie that he threw it in the bin. He became one of the richest men in the world.anything! Of course. Take the advice of Samuel Becket: Ever tried.
We learned this way of being so well that. Second. it makes us feel good. First. their lives a mimicry. We learned this way of operating when we were very young. it makes us feel bad and so we try to avoid this. we are afraid of disapproval. Just as drug addicts and alcoholics live impoverished lives to keep getting their fix. We didn t want to be singled out by the crowd for being different because this wasn t such a nice feeling. we continue mostly through mutual peer pressure to keep each other in check. We crave this good feeling like a drug we are addicted to it and seek it out wherever we can. We are so desperate for the approval of others that we live unhappy and limited lives. we all want to feel important and so we crave the positive attention of others. How to Win Friends and Influence People. Like sheep without any need for a sheepdog. This is one of our basic needs. author of the multi-million best seller. so we impoverish our own existence to get our own constant fix of approval.Day sixteen: Don t let other people run your life for you Why you shouldn t care what other people think about you (and why you shouldn t expect anyone else to care about you) Most people are other people. it s other people society. we keep each other in line. We discovered that feeling important and feeling accepted was a nice experience and so we learned to do everything we could to make other people like us. their passions a quotation. It works both ways. of course. denying huge swathes of ourselves and failing to do the things we really want to do because we re worried about what other people will think. And so when people stroke our ego and tell us how wonderful we are. according to Dale Carnegie. Oscar Wilde Who is in control of your life? Who s pulling your strings? For the majority of us. as adults. church or other religious community. Am I dressed right? Will people laugh at my accent? Will I look stupid? Will I make a mistake? When we feel that others think badly of us. We were brainwashed. Their thoughts are someone else's opinions. colleagues and friends. The drug is so addictive that most people will not give it up they will keep . family.
just as with any .looking for approval because the hit is so intense. But.
they re more interested in themselves than in you. I have written before about guiding your life by means of a set of values not values imposed from the outside by others. People have their own agenda. So how can we take back control? If we are truly ready to give up the drug of approval and importance (which most people are not). If you want to pull your own strings. We will be actualized and successful. Only one question remains do you really want to be free? . you need to stop giving away your power you need to genuinely stop caring what other people think about you. I think there s only one way make a conscious decision to stop caring what other people think. and people change their opinions all the time. step on them or use them. Everyone has a different way of thinking. in fact. but innate values which come from within. If we are driven by these values and not by the changing opinions and value systems of others. as Carnegie wrote. This doesn t mean that you should start to treat people badly. in the end. there is a price to pay. But why so? We all know what s right and wrong. Why would it? I read somewhere recently that the world would be terrible if nobody cared what other people thought of them. we will live a more authentic. Do you want your drug or do you want to be free? You cannot have both. noon and after dinner. The price of the approval drug is freedom the freedom to be ourselves. they come with their own baggage and. effective. we will build our life on sinking sand. The person who tries to please everyone will only end up getting exhausted and probably pleasing no one in the process. If we try to live by the opinions of others. The truth is that it s all an illusion anyway you cannot control what other people think.drug. purposeful and happy life. they re thinking about themselves morning.
through the power of your subconscious. the picture of the world you have created came mainly from your childhood. It is here that we keep a picture of the world. Unless you have worked deliberately to change it. I will be exploring these three techniques. here lies our happiness. One of the best reads is Joseph Murphy s classic book. largely. For example. So an affirmation is simply a verbal statement which you regard to be true. Our views about it are entirely our own creation. some people see money as a wonderful. Our view of the world (and of ourselves) springs from our subconscious. In a series of articles. passive. you are saying that it is true or a fact. It has been there for a long time and you will believe that it is the truth. The first technique is the proper use of affirmations. our success. but I believe that there are three techniques which have more power and are more effective than the rest. But the real truth is that you are projecting your image of the world onto the world which is. Murphy sets out how. I am absolutely convinced that the subconscious is the key to everything . . as I believe it has done in my own life. you can (to use Murphy s slightly old fashioned language!) Win riches and prosperity Regain former youthfulness and vigor Work real miracles in the lives of others Find new peace of mind There are many ways to tap into the power of your subconscious mind. neutral. In the book. I have read dozens of books and read many accounts of how thing the subconscious mind has led to untold benefits. and in the (many!) years since then I have been an avid reader on the subject. But money is just money inanimate. The Power of Your Subconscious Mind. beautiful thing.Day seventeen: Affirmations I first came across the idea that our subconscious mind is the key to fulfilling our dreams when I was a teenager.the strangest. a neutral environment to be interpreted. What is an affirmation? When you affirm something. here lies all our truth whether we think the world is a caring and nurturing place or lonely and cruel it all comes from our subconscious mind. most powerful and most misunderstood thing in the universe. while others see it as filthy lucre. our confidence.
If you make affirmations which are incongruent with the picture of the word you have created in your subconscious. which will teach you more about affirmations and manifesting techniques. You might keep repeating your affirmations with no apparent results. but being candid with yourself is important. Think carefully about this and be honest with yourself. say I am wealthy. You could. It s a kind of conscious brainwashing. and write down positive. But as you keep repeating positive affirmations. You might like to try the Sculptor 3 Affirmation Program. First. you will experience some resistance and may feel foolish saying things to yourself which you do not believe to be true. you will chip away at this resistance. affirming statements. First. Say I am well. I am not poor. There can be a period of time when nothing seems to be happening. But this period is like a plant growing under the surface if the earth it takes time to grow. There are many ways to work with affirmations. but eventually it erupts from the soil and. You don t have to share this or discuss it with anyone. growth happens in fits and starts. After a fallow time. present tense descriptions of the picture which emerges. write down several positive. soon. and many people will get discouraged and give up. Second. think about your life and write down the areas you would like to improve. affirmations must be in the present tense. the results of affirmations can be sudden and startling. Don t say I am not sick. and eventually your inner picture of yourself and the world will change accordingly. . Think about what you want your life in these areas to be like. Second. You get the idea. there is a riot of color and growth. affirmations must be positive. for each area. don t say I want to be happy or I am going to be happy. go through the following simple process to construct your own affirmations. work with subliminal affirmations. affirming. Instead of saying. As with many things. you will experience abundance flowing into your life in an effortless way. For example. With these two things in mind. Say. for example. When you consciously re-script yourself by using techniques such as this. So what makes a good affirmation? There are two simple things to remember. I am happy.
it is vital that we have the right belief systems operating at this deep level. the dimples in the skin. like me. you are still visualizing all the time. and our subconscious programming dictates our experience of life. Can you taste that? By now. For this reason. This one might seem obvious. Go to a quiet place.Day eighteen: The power of visualization Imagine a lemon. the smooth shape that tapers off at either end. Feel the waxy texture. But many people respond better to visual cues. we need to change ourselves first. And who said thoughts can t influence reality? In order to change the world. Even ten minutes is fine. It s a much stronger smell. close your eyes and relax. bring yourself gently back to the object of your visualization. you are not a very visual person. subconscious level shapes our reality. Visualize the object or situation that you desire. not too bright. . Smell it take in that faint lemon smell coming through the skin. Don t berate yourself if you lose concentration just come back to your image. and affirmations are an excellent way to take control of this process. If you find your mind wondering off into more mundane or negative images. Bring it up to your nose and smell it again. Our mind has been programmed over the years. some important things to remember. Now imagine you re cutting it open. We are constantly creating pictures in our head playing back things that happened to use earlier in the day and imagining what things are going to be like in the future. however. and for this reason visualization is another important tool which can be used to change our experience. Bite deep into the flesh of the lemon. There are. Now bite into it. usually without our being aware of it. but only visualize what you really want. It s best to set aside a time for this. Some of us (myself included) are verbal learners and we respond well to linguistic cues. Use a knife and cut into the flesh. Look at it the color. What we believe to be true at a deep. Even if. Sit or lie comfortably. A visualization is simply a mental image of what we want to achieve. so the process is not difficult or esoteric. your mouth should be watering.
Try to get really worked up about the experience. but it does get you to really be in the moment. Sometimes things don t happen exactly as we expect and imagine. I personally use these because I always think my imagination is weak and I need a bit of help. Smell that new car interior. not just sight. Put as much feeling as possible into your image.Be as detailed as possible. keep an open mind. Use every sense. Strange. You can download visualization MP3s and buy CDs with nice sound tracks. I even read somewhere about imagining licking the leather upholstery. Use them if you need to. Hear the door close behind you. but you ll be amazed at the results of this if you practice regularly. . Otherwise. what you re imagining might come true. Put yourself in the picture. but you won t be there! Use soundtracks. This is a key ingredient. Finally.
. you live it. But keeping our mortality in mind can greatly enrich our life. Anthony de Mello suggests a meditation where you imagine you are lying in your coffin or your grave. Everyone over the age of about ten knows that. and says that to think of it as anything less than lovely is a sign that you are hiding from reality. and we are largely insulated and protected from it dead bodies are quickly swept away into mortuaries and funeral parlors and encased in coffins. Only two things re certain: one day we ll be one of those numbers. Of course you are. Worldometers.Day nineteen: What death can teach us Look at everything as though you were seeing it either for the first or last time. novelist (1896-1972) Today as I was eating lunch. Last week we were further away. then your time on earth will be filled with glory. Not a pleasant thing to say. You re going to die. We don t know when death will come to greet us. He calls this a lovely. And today we are nearer to our own death than ever before. a shiver ran through my body. It s quite possible that today will be our last day on this Earth. and we have no idea when that will be. Lovely meditation. What s your reaction to this? Is this morbid? Why dwell on death? Shouldn t we think about more happy and positive things? Part of our reaction comes form the fact that our Western society tends to look at death as a negative thing.com maintains a meter which clicks up how many people are dying all over the world I can t keep up with it: it s more than one per second anyway. but it got me thinking (again) about death. But today is the closest we have ever been to that moment when life finally gets snuffed out. Imagine today is your last day on Earth. When you re ready to loose your life. something I haven t done for a very long time. My mother used to say that when this happens. someone has walked over your grave. Betty Smith. He even suggests imagining your body decaying and rotting away. Yesterday we were further away. you might imagine. he writes. In his wonderful book Awareness.
more meaningful? Wouldn t you be more grateful? Strangely.So what would your life look like if this were your last day on earth? What would you do? How would you treat people? Would you take more risks? How would you see things? Wouldn t they be more vivid. clearer. our reason for living! . as John Hegley writes in Dog. thinking about death can make us more alive: it is.
It works both ways. as adults. We are so desperate for the approval of others that we live unhappy and limited lives. colleagues and friends.Day twenty: Why you shouldn t care what other people think about you Most people are other people. And so when people stroke our ego and tell us how wonderful we are. This is one of our basic needs. We discovered that feeling important and feeling accepted was a nice experience and so we learned to do everything we could to make other people like us. it makes us feel good. Oscar Wilde Who is in control of your life? Who s pulling your strings? For the majority of us. We didn t want to be singled out by the crowd for being different because this wasn t such a nice feeling. Just as drug addicts and alcoholics live impoverished lives to keep getting their fix. We learned this way of being so well that. Their thoughts are someone else s opinions. it s other people society. there the freedom so addictive that most people will not give it up they will keep approval because the hit is so intense. denying huge swathes of ourselves and failing to do the things we really want to do because we re worried about what other people will think. so we impoverish our own existence to get our own constant fix of approval. it makes us feel bad and so we try to avoid this. of course. their passions a quotation. we are afraid of disapproval. First. we all want to feel important and so we crave the positive attention of others. Am I dressed right? Will people laugh at my accent? Will I look stupid? Will I make a mistake? When we feel that others think badly of us. How to Win Friends and Influence People. according to Dale Carnegie. family. We crave this good feeling like a drug we are addicted to it and seek it out wherever we can. church or other religious community. But. Second. author of the multi-million best seller. Like sheep without any need for a sheepdog. We learned this way of operating when we were very young. we keep each other in line. their lives a mimicry. just as with any is a price to pay. we continue mostly through mutual peer pressure to keep each other in check. The drug is looking for drug. We were brainwashed. Do you want your drug or do you want to be . The price of the approval drug is freedom to be ourselves.
we will live a more authentic. purposeful and happy life. This doesn t mean that you should start to treat people badly. People have their own agenda. If we try to live by the opinions of others. noon and after dinner. But why so? We all know what s right and wrong. they re more interested in themselves than in you.free? You cannot have both. Why would it? I read somewhere recently that the world would be terrible if nobody cared what other people thought of them. Check it out for free here. in the end. effective. tried and tested method to take back control. step on them or use them. Everyone has a different way of thinking. Check out the Silva Method. but innate values which come from within. we will build our life on sinking sand. and people change their opinions all the time. they re thinking about themselves morning. . you need to stop giving away your power you need to genuinely stop caring what other people think about you. I have written before about guiding your life by means of a set of values not values imposed from the outside by others. There are many excellent self-help pro grammes available. I think there s only one way make a conscious decision to stop caring what other people think. they come with their own baggage and. in fact. We will be actualized and successful. So how can we take back control? If we are truly ready to give up the drug of approval and importance (which most people are not). If you want to pull your own strings. Countless people from all walks of life have been benefiting for decades. The truth is that it s all an illusion anyway you cannot control what other people think. It s a world famous. Only one question remains do you really want to be free? We are so socially conditioned that we often need some help in becoming more authentically ourselves. as Carnegie wrote. The person who tries to please everyone will only end up getting exhausted and probably pleasing no one in the process. If we are driven by these values and not by the changing opinions and value systems of others.
Political parties compete for power. your own body is a vast system of complex. although we are asking the same questions. Democrats compete to become the presidential candidate. which lures luminescent bacteria into chambers inside its body and then uses the cultures to light its way through the dark ocean and signal other flashlighters about sex and danger. less showy. and that successful businesses no longer think in terms of competing but of simply being unique. perhaps not least of all because it promulgated the idea that competition was a natural and normal part of life. to the extent that we now live in a culture of competition. Sports teams compete for the trophy or cup. reflecting a different paradigm. while the plants use the vast underground networks of fungi to increase the amount of territory they occupy and hence the amount of nutrients they can absorb. . Universities compete for the brightest students. Examples of cooperation in nature abound. In a provocative talk. in particular the subterranean network of roots and fungi which support each other. compete for grades and try to get into the best universities. A striking example cited by Anne Fausto-Sterling is the case of the flashlight fish. and this way of thinking has impregnated our culture at every level. that nature was red in tooth and claw. not competition. Kids at school sit exams. She goes on to describe many other. This paradigm is focused on cooperation. where 1 + 1 = 3. symbiosis is essential to life on Earth without this form of cooperation. Businesses compete for customers and market share. The fungi have no chloroplasts of their own and so feed off material manufactured by the the plants to which the roots belong. We think in these terms all the time. It s case of the whole being greater than the sun of the parts. the answers have changed. but widespread examples of such symbiotic systems. there would simply be no life at all. Tom Asaker argues that. interconnecting and mutually cooperating systems. Perhaps most obviously. You get the picture. Darwin s Origin of the Species has been very influential.Day twenty-one: Cooperation The world seems to be full of competition. Indeed. though a change seems to be taking place we are starting to see a new way of thinking. the true win-win situation. all working together to produce a truly amazing entity.
but from the win-win solution. a hearty stew was made. so I ll get more traffic. What benefits others. But I have a cabbage. The very next . Readers might add both Sites to their social bookmarks. As the two men sat by the fire. benefits me! I leave you with a wonderful story I heard as a child. a young boy asked the travelers But why are you boiling a stone? One of the travelers replied. and camaraderie throughout the night.This principle applies in social and business activity. and not even from compromise. shared their tales. which will add some flavor! And I. who turned out to be quite friendly. upon which the entire village and the weary travelers dined and while doing so. they come to a small. that blog gets more content. village. I will (obviously) link to the blog which will. shared their tales of the ands and people they had met throughout their journey and pilgrimage with the local villagers. where they decide to rest by the side of the road. even when starting from apparently opposing positions. several townsfolk decide to investigate the matter and approach the two travelers to engage them in conversation. There exists a tale. Some potatoes! offered another. of two travelers on a pilgrimage. get more traffic. there was heard the sound of merriment. In The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. Steven Covey tells us that the best results come not from competition. too. The online community is. Finally. having drawn water from the town well filled the pot and placed into it a simple stone. the potential for cooperation and the benefits to be derived form it have become enormous and transparent. which will add color! said another villager. where both parties get a result which is better than either could have achieved alone. impoverished. If I submit an article to another blog. as the visitors. Hungry and tired from a long day s journey. Shortly thereafter. Eventually. In the end. With the event of online social communities and blogging. and we should approach it with this mentality of cooperation. talents. by the contribution of a little by many. while the other. bringing their stone soup to a boil. One of the travelers built a small fire upon which he placed a large pot. until. a huge symbiotic network. we both benefit. too. It must be terribly bland! said an old woman. the local villagers became inquisitive of the curious antics of these strangers. handed down from times long ago. therefore. So we may eat stone soup. in fact. some carrots. shortly. traffic coming to the blog where my article is posted will probably visit my own blog.
behind. In fact.day. because he townsfolk never forgot how to make stone soup. and its people. that little village thrived. . during the hardest of times. and the lesson they had learned. in such a time as this tale. continued their journey. leaving the little town. the travelers (who by now could be called strangers no more). But the villagers never forgot them.
health. If you value something very highly. and within that gap is our whole experience of life. I never understood why it was so important. If you think you are missing out on something. You will not see the significance in certain things coming your way. there are genuine problems in my life. and I am not seeking to demean your problems or trivialize the difficulties you are having. As a kid. they say. for what we are about to receive may the lord make us truly grateful. And this is just another way of saying we need to adopt an attitude of gratitude. Is the glass half empty or is it half full? Viktor Frankl said that between stimulus and response there is a gap. Showing gratitude. If it is your belief that you lack things. You might say. So in order to attract good things. The only sensible thing to do is to see the positive things see what is good. so he does have some credibility! So what s it to be? What will you focus on today? . But why is gratitude such a powerful thing? Life tends to give us what we subconsciously expect. for example. And I guess many adults still don t. Our experience of life is a reflection of our inner world. it lies within. which I used to recite parrot fashion as a child. if you treasure it and are grateful for it.Day twenty-two: Be grateful Many others have written on the subject of being grateful. this may be true. then that will be your experience of the world. then it is likely that it will grow and become more powerful. goes. But life is what it is a t the moment. Well. we need to feel that we already have them. then you will not attract opportunities into your life. All the great spiritual teachers have shown us that we need to be grateful for what we have. And this is a man who lived as a prisoner in a Nazi death camp. is a way to true happiness and peace of mind. He discovered that happiness does not lie outside in the world. You will fail to be in the right place at the right time. This is true of everything in life friendships. I really don t have XYZ. happiness and wealth. You cannot have it any other way and to kick against it just causes more pain. The grace before meals.
As a teenager in the 1980s. but David does subscribe to a set of beliefs about the nature of reality which are becoming more and more accepted. If we try to change . colour and brightness. All very fine and sensible. Why am I telling you this? I don t believe most of it. here s a potted history. I remember him presenting the snooker. The whole world lies within us. The phrase combing the mirror reminds us that if we want to make a difference in our lives. I met him on the street. pitch and volume. David had a mystical experience and started saying that he was the son of God and took to wearing a turquoise tracksuit because he believed this color brought him closer to heaven. but it is essentially inaccessible to us as except through our limited senses. and so on. he says. although I wasn t old enough to vote. and his name became synonymous with all that was loony and new-age. And the only thing we can change is ourselves. is essentially an illusion. He believes we are being controlled by the illuminati. just by chance. Everyone started to laugh at him. He then joined the Green Party and campaigned to become an MP in the British parliament. But then something odd happened. Reality. we have to change ourselves. UK. David grew up as a working class boy in the midlands. and was briefly a goalkeeper at Coventry City soccer club. We can change the way we see the world we can change our own experience of life. sound. But not by trying to change that which is outside of ourselves. The universe is what it is. shadowy figures who are enslaving humanity for their own ends. We can perceive certain energy frequencies as light. We perceive the world as we do because of the way we are made up physiologically. I remember he shook my hand and told me that. As this time he came to the little town where I lived and. I could influence those around me. He is quite famous now (or should that be infamous?) but in case you don t know him. He has since developed a big following and speaks to large crowds.Day twenty-three: Combing the mirror I owe this wonderful expression to David Icke. He left the sport due to ill health and became a well-respected sports commentator on the BBC.
reality, we are only going to be frustrated. If you want to comb your hair, you don t try to comb the image of yourself in the mirror the image is just a reflection of yourself. The image will change naturally when you work on yourself.
This is a view which many people fail to understand. But until we learn to change ourselves, we will always have the same experience.
To quote the spoon bender in The Matrix, Don t try to bend the spoon that s impossible. Only try to realize the truth. Then the whole universe will bend.
Day Twenty Four: Be Yourself
How to be yourself
He who trims himself to suit everyone will soon whittle himself away. ~Raymond Hull
Be yourself! This is a common piece of advice, often given before an interview or a date or some other occasion when we need to impress. Sounds like a strange piece of advice, though. How could you not be yourself?
Strange at is seems, we have been conditioned all our lives to behave according to other people s expectations, to dance to their tune, to let them pull our stings. The truth is that most of us unless we have really thought about it and made an effort to change are puppets, controlled by the world around us. We crave approval. We need to fit in. In many ways, this is just a characteristic of being human we are social animals and need to fit into the group to survive. But this natural and healthy tendency has taken over our lives to such an extent that we are often paralyzed by a fear of the outside world and obsessed by how others see us.
But what would things look life if you could really
be yourself ?
Don t give away your power
The King is angry. See, he gnaws his lip ~Shakespeare, Richard III
It is impossible to really be yourself when you are worried about how other people perceive you. We all care (at least a little bit) what other people think we have been raised to believe that the approval of others is important. And in some ways it is other people do have power over us. But the truth is that it doesn t matter as much as you think; usually it doesn t matter at all. Sometimes you ll be flavor of the month; other times you might be public enemy number one. But you cannot control what other people think of you, so why even try? Let them think what they will. To give the opinions and thoughts of others so much importance is to make your own life a misery. When you stop giving your power away to other people like this, your life will be so much lighter and easier. To genuinely not care what others think is an amazing and enlightening experience. Try it.
if you hide part of yourself. honest person. full of crazy things that make no sense at all. You might be able to succeed in some senses by being dishonest and duplicitous. Remember the old saying: laugh and the world laughs with you. which is usually a sign of an inferiority complex but because you shouldn t hide what you believe. you are free. you say the opposite of what you feel. ten year. you will create what I have heard called an inner darkness. It is what it is. the world is a ridiculous place. If you are not true to yourself if you are dishonest. So relax. Will any of this matter in a year. 100 years? In many ways. or anticipate troubles. one of the most widely read and influential self-improvement books or f all time. but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly. and if you cannot look in the mirror with a clear conscience. It means saying what you think not in an arrogant. if you grovel before what you dislike. steering their lives by means of a clear compass of integrity. Your health is bound to be affected if. ~ Gautama Siddharta (Buddha) . Don t worry: accept things as they are The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past. and will do so long after you re gone. the world got along fine without you for millions of years. worry about the future. day after day. and rejoice at what brings you nothing but misfortune.Live with integrity The great majority of us are required to live a life of constant duplicity. You can t make sense of it all however hard you try. and this will haunt you. but in the end you will be unable to face yourself. So keep things in perspective. how can you be yourself? Don t take yourself so seriously When you can laugh at yourself. Steven Covey writes that truly successful people operate from a principle-centered paradigm. and so are you. In The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. ~Boris Pasternak Living with integrity means being an open. lighten up. ~ Ted Loder Will the world stop turning if you screw up? Believe it or not. conceited way. with all your contradictions and faults and failings. either as a defense mechanism or to get a promotion or make money. don t get things out of proportion.
you only have yourself to blame. then you will. In the end. and if you don t follow your dreams. many things which are outside our control and. ~Eleanor Roosevelt Finally. I read somewhere recently that life is no about avoiding the storm but about learning to dance in the rain. learn not only to live with it. don t let other people tell you what to do and how to live. You re a long time dead as the saying goes. If you are true to yourself and live with integrity. Don t be a puppet don t let the world around you pull your strings. If the rain is coming. Accept the se many. and I think this is a wonderful truth. to love it to live any other way is madness. but to embrace it. perhaps. so don t let it control you either. if the sun is setting. but in reality we can only change ourselves. you are responsible for your experience of life. You cannot control it. it will set. honesty and without fear. and perhaps most importantly. Do what you love The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams. it will come. whatever comes along. begin to see the answer to that most perplexing of questions: Who am I? . so don t waste time with worry or regret . But the truth is that there are surprisingly few things we can influence directly. We spend so much time trying to change our world.We have a tendency to think we are in control.
Plan. but not important enough to be worried about if not done. No one is going to force you to do it . 3. include all the MUST do s in your list. Wasn t it John Lennon who said that life is what happens to you while you re making other plans? These days I find it alot easier to get things done. the more important ones taking precedence over the less important. When it does come to deadlines.Day twenty-five: dealing with procrastination Procrastination is putting off living your life now. some people seem to like stress. preferably. I don t use quite this approach myself. but it can be a good idea if you habitualy procrastinate . often by planning for the future. I work in an environment where people are constantly talking about the future will look like and how they are going to make it happen. There s nothing wrong with having a vision of course.whenever something came across her desk. she dealt with it immediately. Set up the activities in order of importance. This also relates to the idea of proactively spending more time on important activities than on urgent ones. and you can do the same. Get into the habit of starting things before the deadline. you will most likely feel stressed and do a worse job. Begin. 2. But we must not allow planning to become the primary focus of our life. 1. Even if the deadline is a month from now. Steven Covey writes about this in his Seven Habits. weekly and daily must-do activities. Prioritize. Having said that we can get obsessed with planning. There are a few simple pointers to remember. even if there is no deadline. And. Say you want to starg a business. it is still a necessary activity. These are things that must be done today. Plan your monthly. write it down or set up a spreadsheet.you need to be a self-starter. either herself or by delegation. but I m not one of them. Starting out on an important project will help you avoid stress and do it well. Period. put them below the important ones. When you start a major project just the day of the deadline. If there are urgent things to do. The idea is based on the established principle that 80% of rewards come from 20% of effort directed towards accomplishing important work. one of my mentors told me about her one touch approach . When I was a trainee teacher. Draw up a to-do list.
You can learn more about getting rid of procrastination and how to manage your time to achieve all your goals by checking out the Time Manual. Of course. Stop procrastinating right now and start achieving your goals. we can go into much more detail. what seems like huge mountain at first can be climbed one step at a time. Just start working on the project or task on hand and don t worry about getting it perfect.4. . You still have a lot of time to iron out the details. Trying to get everything right on first attempt is the best excuse used by procrastinators! Procrastination is a deadly disease and it not only kills motivation but also your chances of success. Start small. Remember to start well before the deadline so you can focus on finishing the task and then ironing out the details.
there is a choice we are not Pavlov s dogs. our freedom. conditioned by our upbringing to respond automatically to our environment. family or any other area will either fail or be temporary and reversible. or any of a million other things. we are the creators of our own reality. of course. when we have this foundation. we happen to life. Between what goes on around us and how we respond. we need not fear change. our ability to consciously orchestrate our own experience of life. blaming our past. we cannot make progress. you must have a good foundation. we must accept that we are. our business. One of the greatest human attributes is our freedom to choose our response we are not robots! and. but it is a tragedy that so many of us go through life acting out the old scripts we learnt when we were young. and must take responsibility for where we are in life. we need to realize that we are in control. We are in the driving seat. as such. our background. comes responsibility. True. What Are These Twin Foundations? First. The sign of living an ineffective life is the abdication of responsibility to someone or something else. In truth. in the words of A Course in Miracles. With this power. Without practicing these habits we build our life on quicksand. Stephen Covey gives some timeless insights into living a truly effective life. and all our attempts at success in business. But when we have mastered ourselves. Indeed. This foundation is twofold. consisting of habits which constitute the cornerstone of our lives. we are pulling our own strings. If we cannot get to this point.Day twenty six: Live with integrity In The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. integrating new learning and insight into our lives. . we can embrace it and use it creatively. building greater synergy and reaching higher peaks of personal and social achievement. we have been shaped by our childhood and those who were dominant in our lives at the time we have learned to respond in certain ways to certain stimuli. on the shifting. Life does not happen to us. a self-mastery which comes before the success we aspire to achieve in our interdependent social environments our work. So before all else. our spouse. we are the captains of our lives. our parents. our family. uncertain tides of a complex and ever changing world. powerful beyond measure. The key is. before anythin g else. our kids. To play the victim is to give away our very humanity. This foundation is a private victory.
We possess them. though this centre often changes as we are buffeted around by the changing course of our lives and as we react to the emotional demands made on us by our significant others. . and this is one thing we must do for ourselves there are no off the peg solutions here. This compass is a clear set of values. possessions. When we recognize that we are the captain of our soul. by being generous. a nice house or a great relationship. decay and death. we need a sense of direction. but unless we are anchored in a value based paradigm. to cause stagnation. We need a clear and constant paradigm out of which to operate. so long as it s alright for you and it feels good. let the mud and chaos of daily life settle and identify what really matters most to us. and by valuing others. To focus on self is to hang on. By giving. to become acquisitive and miserly and. we reap isolation and defensiveness. money or family as our centre. anything you want the universe is a smorgasbord of delights and we need only choose our experience. What is missing here is the maxim.Second. Much modern self-help material emphasizes the cult of self. This is true. All of us has a centre from which we operate. This statement gives us a centre around which to construct our life. Things come our way money. suggesting implicitly that. guiding principles by which we live. what comes around. and all that but we de not need to cling to them. Mission Statements A mission statement is a good way to crystallize these values. But when they are achieved from an ego-centered paradigm. to some extent we do control our experiences and there is nothing wrong with money. the natural flow continues and more comes our way. We reap what we sow. goes around. then go for it! You can have money. The Ego The most pernicious of all centers is the self or the ego. we naturally need a compass to navigate through the world. We can let go and. Far from it. a great relationship. they do not give us satisfaction and lasting happiness. and the very act of writing such a document can force us to look deeply inside ourselves. these things are intrinsically good. ultimately. and if we sow the cult of self. they do not possess us. a car. in so doing. we can never truly achieve anything. we tap into the natural flow of the universe. houses. Many of us inadvertently take work. cars. and no number of self-help books and courses will do us any good unless we take this message to heart.
in themselves. impotent and stationary. Without them. . we will be like a ship caught between a thousand lighthouses.A knowledge of our own creative nature and a clear. values based compass will not. but without them we cannot even begin. not knowing which way to turn. Real change. make us successful. real growth is possible only with this foundation in place.
since your . harmony and ease prevail and things work out as if by magic and as long as you relax and allow yourself to align with Easy World. Doing all thee simple things will probably add years to your life. You must decide to get up and do something! Live in Easy World Easy World is a phrase I have borrowed from Julia Rogers Hamrick. so you must pay attention to this area. it is the fist step to a successful. Yes. We can assume manual control and take charge of our own experience of life. This will build muscle and increase your metabolic rate. too! As with all things. Realizing this can be frightening. when you are in the Easy World reality. but it is also immensely liberating and. Effortlessness is our natural state and. Here are ten simple things anyone can do to make a real difference to your level of health and fitness. your success or your relationships. there is a choice. acting in a natural and easy way to achieve our goals.Day twenty-seven: Be healthy Without your health. ultimately. Between what happens around us and our response to it. good health starts in the mind and then takes form in the real world . In her blog. whatever our circumstances. but we can unhook from our scripting and switch off the autopilot. This is a nice way of saying that life should not be a struggle. You will be less prone to diabetes and. The benefits of exercise are astonishing. but out of a realization that to swim against the tide is tiring and futile there is a grain to the universe and we should go with it.opportunities arise naturally and we must take them. and within this gap lies all our happiness. not out of laziness and apathy. you cannot enjoy your career. abundant and healthy life. Exercise three times per week It s vital that you take some time to exercise several times per week. we have been scripted through our childhood to respond automatically in certain ways to certain events. healthier lives. Know that you are in control In The Seven Habits of Highly Successful People. Do some weights and then either some cardio or interval work. she writes. you are there. Steven Covey tells us that between stimulus and response there is a gap. The benefits of a low stress life are enormous and scientifically validated those of us with less stress in our lives live longer. we should relax and go with the flow of things.
according to a recent study. folic acid as well as manganese and plant sterols. but by doing this you will always get the amount of sleep you need. Eat a handful of mixed nuts every day Eating 30-60 grams of nuts per day can do wonders for your health.000 deaths are caused each year because of tired drivers. diabetes. Regular meditation can reduce back pain. One helpful suggestion for getting enough sleep is to always get up at the same time but to go to bed when you are tired. and some less. and nut eaters do not put on weight from consumption of nuts. magnesium. Nit eaters live two years longer than the rest of us. but eating them regularly will do wonders for you. It can lower blood pressure and boost the immune system. One study recently suggested that the reason women live longer than men is because they sleep better. They contain a lot of unsaturated fat and very little saturated fat. How much sleep you need is a very individual thing. but not getting enough can damage your health and even reduce your life expectancy. Meditate Like sleep. People who don t get enough sleep have twice the risk of being injured at work and The National Highway Traffic Safety Administration estimates that 100. above all. . Sort out your sleeping habits Not getting enough sleep gives you a poorer quality of life. It can help improve sleep quality and. macular degeneration and heart disease. dementia. it promotes a relaxed and restful state of mind and helps with concentration and focus. Nuts contain vitamin E. boron. Nobody knows why nuts are so good for you. Of course. headaches and depression. Exercise strengthens bone making you les prone to osteoporosis and you will also be less likely to suffer lower back pain. it makes you feel groggy and tired. People who exercise regularly live several years longer than those who do no exercise. It also increases your HDL (good) cholesterol and lowers your blood pressure.gastrointestinal transit time will be reduced. copper. taking time regularly to relax and unwind is very beneficial to health. Some days you will get more sleep. it lowers your risk of colon cancer. Regularly eating nuts reduces the risk of stroke. but it also affects your memory and cognitive functioning your ability to process information.
1 years longer. Coming down from a sugar high can make you really tired. especially. so staying away from sugar can keep you alert. However. Salad provides many important vitamins and minerals. such as those found in fruit. I also recommend having caffeine-free days. tea and coke. I have found that having sugar-free days to be a very useful way of cutting back. I have found personally that it is just a lot easier to be very clearcut and decide that you will never drink under any circumstances. Stop drinking alcohol The health benefits of drinking small amounts of alcohol on a regular basis have been well documented. Once or twice a week I will have a sugar day. only have one or two cups. Even on days when you do drink coffee. Cut down sugar and caffeine Again. maple syrup. Try to go for less refined sugars. green leafy vegetables (not iceberg lettuce which doesn t contain much by way of nutrients). most people who drink alcohol tend to drink too much and there are many negative health effects of this kind of drinking. when I allow myself to eat sugar. but a black and white rule makes life a lot easier. you probably don t want to be too evangelical about this.8 and 3. but it s worth cutting down on refined sugar and caffeine. and even better news is that salad dressing contains chemicals which help the body absorb cancer-fighting nutrients called free radical scavengers more effectively. This will improve your quality of sleep and make you less tense.Eat a salad every day A recent study by the UCLA School of Public Health/LSU Health Sciences Center found that eating a salad every day has significant health benefits (as if we didn t know already!) Try to go for a mixture of dark. Go to church! Recent research has shown that people who attend church or some other form of corporate religious activity on a regular basis live between 1. So you ll need to wait a couple more years before getting your reward in paradise! . too. honey and. you need not be too evangelical about this eating a tiramisu or some brandy sauce won t hurt you. I don t binge. but I allow myself a small amount of chocolate or desert. Of course.
You can download these from the Internet for a few dollars or buy them from a shop. is then susceptible to suggestion. when we daydream. then hypnosis is a must. You can also record your own scripts. So do you need to go and make an appointment with a professional hypnotherapist? Well you can do. It is fairly easy to put yourself into a trance state and make hypnotic suggestions to yourself. The best products have music. Like anything. and our subconscious is able to take over to a much greater extent. hypnosis might conjure up images of stage shows or thoughts of people being forced to do crazy things against their will. Hypnosis is simply the deliberate induction of this trance state. subconscious level have been scripted into us by a process of which we are largely unaware. I have personally used these and can attest to their effectiveness. But when we relax. . which contains subliminal messages to reinforce the hypnotic suggestions. and if you have serious problems I would suggest you seek out a properly qualified therapist. In the alpha state. we enter another kind of consciousness called alpha. sometimes called a trance. our mind is in a state called beta quite active. and the beliefs under which we operate at a deep. hypnosis can be abused. with the conscious part of the mind in the driving seat. but in hypnosis we can go more deeply and directly to the place we need to work on. and we can take advantage of this openness to introduce new beliefs directly into our mind. This is a different state.Day twenty-eight: Hypnosis It is my belief that hypnosis is the most powerful technique for changing our subconscious programming. If we are to seriously change our experience of life. Affirmations and visualizations are good. Even a very light alpha state will have benefits. We have been conditioned since childhood to see the world in a certain way. where all our beliefs and scripting lie. The subconscious. but in fact it is the most natural and normal thing in the world. our conscious mind is less to the fore. To some people. Personally I like to use hypnosis scripts on CDs and MP3s. Normally. as we drift off to sleep. But there is a lot you can do to without the help of such a person.
we should dwell on thoughts about the things we love and trust the universe to take care of it. effortless even. Taking action is important without it you will probably never achieve anything. It starts dancing to your tune it becomes your puppet. But the action must be easy. Viktor Frankl When you do what you love. . Our future depends on what we are thinking about right now. The way we are now is a result of our past thoughts. thus. When you are doing the thing you love. Therein he cannot be replaced.Day twenty-nine: Take action Everyone has his own specific vocation or mission in life. But every moment is a new beginning. the whole world comes alive. So to create the life we desire. To do a job you hate is to swim against the tide. And action can only be effortless when you are in the flow of the universal stream. nor can his life be repeated. you will naturally draw the right people and resources towards yourself to ensure that you accomplish your goals. everyone must carry out a concrete assignment that demands fulfillment. everyone s task is unique as his specific opportunity to implement it. to get up every day and go to a job you feel no enthusiasm for is a waste of life. our self-talk and visualizations.
or our cowardice. I believe that meaning can only be found in the way we add something to the world. When we truly add value to the lives of others. Whatever you are doing. I believe that a life of service to others is what truly brings meaning. keep looking. To quote Steve Jobs in a speech he gave in 2005: Your work is going to fill a large part of your life. The same can be said for many famous. we cannot help but receive value ourselves. right now. I know several people who have done just this. said that 'life has the meaning we give it -. the great Portuguese writer. a big car. you can start to love it. The search for meaning is a constant theme in our lives and we try to find it in many different ways. and . Love what you do So the question remains: How can we add value? I believe the answer to this is surprisingly simple. Loving what you do means starting right here. partner. and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. far from it. Albert Einstein said that only a life lived for others is a life worthwhile. property. an attractive spouse. But in the end. Money. The term service may suggest that we have to give up our jobs and money to go help the poor and destitute. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. a successful career. But I m sure most people would agree that these things in themselves do not add lasting and profound meaning to us. successful and wealthy people. Through Apple. He did it by following his heart and has been richly rewarded for it. What is adding value? Ask 100 people what they think gives meaning to their lives and you will get 100 different responses. our pride -. our enthusiasm. Adding value is the only real way to live a meaningful life.our richness. But a life of adding value does not mean abandoning your own needs and desires. If you haven t found it yet. It is not the same as sacrifice.Day thirty: The meaning of life Miguel Torga. Steve Jobs has undoubtedly added immense value to the world. and they have certainly found happiness and peace in their choice of lifestyle.
Making a Living. The careers of 1. Mark Albion cites a study carried out by Srully Blotnick. He said love what you do. then you ll be adding value in some way. there were 101 millionaires. The trick is to identify these good bits and focus on them.Of course. In fact. You don t have to quit your dull nine-to-five job and start all over again. All but one came from group B. . making them more central to your experience. But doing what you truly love certainly has its rewards. At the end of the study. But it s unlikely that there is no aspect of your job that you like. In Making a Life.500 business school graduates were tracked from 1969 to 1980 and were split into two groups: group A said they wanted to make money first so they could do what they really wanted later. if you hate your job so much then you probably ought to leave. And the things you don t like? Can you find any redeeming qualitative in these things? Can you change your attitude so that you see these tasks as useful or meaningful? If you can start to love what you re doing. Steve Jobs didn t say do what you love. you re not suddenly going to love a job you ve hated for years. and group B said they would follow their interests first. regardless of financial considerations. Do What You Love Interestingly.
because we will always want to have something else or something more ~Brother David Steindl-Rast In the end. Happiness is the meaning and the purpose of life. somewhere where they can be quiet. alone with the heavens. and I hope it amused.A final word: Real happiness I hope you have learned something from this little book. because if we are not grateful. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life ~Albert Camus I don't know what your destiny will be. amidst the simple beauty of nature ~Anne Frank Gratefulness is the key to a happy life that we hold in our hands. then no matter how much we have we will not be happy -. the whole aim and end of human existence ~Aristotle You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. We can learn a lot from other people. nature and God. It won t change your life. entertained or enriched you in some small way. Because only then does one feel that all is as it should be and that God wishes to see people happy. but one thing I do know: the only ones among you who will be really happy are those who have sought and found how to serve ~Albert Schweitzer The best remedy for those who are afraid. It was a labor of love. of course. That s why I m going to end with a selection of my favorite quotes about happiness from my favorite famous people. So the most . Only one thing can do that your own decision to keep improving. lonely or unhappy is to go outside. life cannot be reduced to a formula or a quotation. I encourage you to learn a little more every day improve slightly every day and soon the dripping tap will have filled the bucket.
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