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Life lessons you can learn from children
May 8th, 2008 | life | Posted by Nirbhasa Magee -
It’s rather amazing that as children we perpetually look forward to the time when we grow up and can do anything we want, but then once we grow up and become laden with responsibilities, we wistfully look back to those carefree childhood days! Certainly we ‘miss’ out on some things as we make the transition to adulthood; by looking at how children see the world, we can certainly learn (or relearn) some things to introduce in our own lives….
and the older brother pushed him away. if that happened between adults we’d be still feeling aggrieved about it days later! A perpetual sense of discovery I know not how I may seem to others. as adults. this constant questioning and discovery of children sometimes irritates us because we have ‘much more important’ things to do! We have the privilege of living on such a beautiful planet. our thoughts become increasingly focused on either the past or the future instead of the now.Sri Chinmoy It is not until we reach early adolescence that our minds become fully developed. out of the corner of his eye he spotted a spare shuttlecock lying around – the tears soon dried up. negative qualities such as doubt. we seem to pick up the art of nursing grievances about things that happened and worrying about things that may never happen. hesitation. and one way of truly appreciating that is seeing it through the eyes of someone who is discovering everything for the very first time. touched. I remember a very interesting experience about a year ago when I was playing badminton with some young friends of mine. The four year old youngest brother wanted his older brother to give him the badminton racket. and experienced. Everything – even the most ordinary objects – has to be investigated. whereupon he promptly say down and started to cry.Patrick Kavanagh As we grow older. However. Ordinary things like a dog barking in the street or the postman delivering post through the letterbox often have children pointing in openmouthed wonder. God-dreamt and full of birds… . and our actions . and feelings of inferiority or superiority also become ensconced in the human psyche. . But for a child.Living in the moment … The world began this morning. I was totally amazed at how quickly his focus had switched from crying to playing with the toy. every now and then finding a small bright pebble to content myself with” . the word ‘routine’ is pure anathema. he has not yet learnt the art of being consumed by past or future. Living in the heart To lose one’s child-heart Is to lose everything. but to myself I am but a small child wandering upon the vast shores of knowledge. And yet as little as thirty years later. everything is unfolding in real time before his eyes. and in no time he was totally absorbed in his new plaything.Plato For a child. It is no coincidence that with the mind’s ascendancy.
there can be a great deal of disappointment. and when we give this love to others our own deepest part is fulfilled. the heart has no inhibitions. it is a pure expression of who he is. we imbibe very fixed ideas and conventions about what we can and cannot do. and you get a great deal back. his love is unconditional. empathetic part of our being that does not plan or calculate. Photos by Prabhakar. and also increased cynicism about the whole business of love in general. and when he smiles at you can feel it beaming from him like the rays of a sunbeam. the heart is to the fore – the spontaneous. the same question asked to adults might not raise any hands at all! As we grow up. but just spontaneously acts. to empathize. but children have no such restrictions – life for them is just one long play session. If you asked a bunch of six year old children “who can paint?” all hands would shoot up. without preconditions or expectations. hurt. Sri Chinmoy Centre galleries . But when a child loves. -John Ruskin When we give our love to someone.are more likely to be determined by the pushes and pulls of society than our inner feelings. Unlike the mind. we often do it with the subtle expectations of what the other person should do. creates and discovers. It is a kind of love that comes straight from the heart. The secret of unconditional love Give a little to love a child. Then when the other person doesn’t fulfill those expectations. This kind of love is something that we can still access as adults – inside the deepest part of our being there is an instinctive yearning to reach out to people. However before the mind starts dominating.