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Over-thinking is a common mental disease among urban people, because of the busy lifestyle.

People are thinking about many things at the same time. But when we look into further details, there's really no point in most of our thoughts. All these thoughts prevent us from enjoying the present moment. Do you wish to get rid of the mental illness? There is a very simple way to get rid of it immediately. Just do it, and stop thinking now. Yes, that's it. The mere attempt to stop thinking will only make you think. You cannot try in order to stop thinking. But definitely this answer cannot satisfy most of us. Here is a little exercise you can do to get rid of your unnecessary thoughts. 1. Take a deep breathe, and as you inhale, concentrate your awareness at the top of your head. 2. As you exhale, slowly move the awareness downward to your navel. 3. Repeat until you find yourself free of thoughts. This exercise helps shift your awareness throughout your body, thereby pulling yourself from thinking. Concentration is one of the key aspect you wish to put efforts to build. If you look for long-term solution, you may find it useful to conduct a meditation session. Meditation is one of the most useful exercise for mental health. In fact, reducing the degree of thoughts in your mind can be a life-long goal. Thoughts are considered blockages to experience the beauty of presence in spiritual ideas. Devote some time for mental exercises and you'll experience changes gradually. ================================================================== ================================================================== ================================================================== There are times when you wish you were thinking of something else other than that nagging, annoying thought running through your head. Maybe it's something serious, like debts or a sick family member. Maybe it's something funny, like what would happen if you said the word “underwear” out loud 10 times. Or maybe it's the really memory of a really bad experience you had when you were a kid. It can even be a song stuck in your head. As much as you try to, you just can't let the unwanted thought out of your mind. Unwanted thoughts and memories are like tattoos. While it's difficult to get rid of them, they're not impossible to eliminate. Thoughts tattooed on your mind can distract you from your daily tasks and responsibilities. Often, unwanted thoughts can just be extremely annoying. The good news is that you don't have to put up with annoying, nagging, unwanted thoughts anymore. Here are some tips to help you free your mind.

Distract Yourself
When it comes to unwanted thoughts, you have to fight fire with fire. You can get rid of a distracting thought by distracting yourself with engaging activities that make the best use of free or idle time. You can try some of the following activities to prevent yourself from getting preoccupied with unwanted thoughts:

Watch a movie. The movie may be a Hollywood blockbuster, a rented DVD, or a nice movie on cable TV. The trick is to see a movie that does not remind you of your unwanted thought. Preoccupied with bad romantic experiences? Watch an action flick. Have a song stuck in your head? Watch a musical. Play sports. Sports that challenge both the body and the mind can help clear your mind of unwanted, negative thoughts. A few frames of bowling, half-court basketball, racquetball, or a few rounds of badminton can help you focus your energies and thoughts somewhere else. Read a book. Books, magazines, or even the backs of breakfast cereal boxes are a great help for eliminating persistent unwanted thoughts. Instead of unwanted thoughts, feed your mind some valuable and interesting food for thought. Take a walk. Nature is a great way to get rid of unwanted thoughts. Tall trees, fresh air, and the chirping of birds in the air have a soothing and calming effect. The great outdoors can help you take a break and think of positive thoughts for a change.

Clear Your Mind of Worry

Most of the time, persistent unwanted thoughts are caused by stress. Worrisome thoughts like debt and mortgage payments can get really stuck in your head. You may even be worried about deadlines. It's okay to worry about a lot of needs, but not when they start to interfere with your daily routines and work. If you're a compulsive or constant worrier, you may have far too many unwanted and unnecessary thoughts. There's no need to worry if you failed to meet the payment deadlines, or if you just started the week at work. Worry is never helpful in accomplishing tasks and meet deadlines. Self-discipline and positive thinking can help you overcome your worry, and help get rid of your unwanted thoughts.

Take some quiet time. and let those bad memories flow out and away from your mind. Think of writing as a way to transfer your unwanted thoughts from your mind to paper. It will take a bit of time before you can really get rid of a bad song. Let your thoughts flow freely into what you write. Deep sleep shuts down your thought processes. Whenever you write about your unwanted thoughts. your unwanted thoughts may be gone for good. Consult a Psychiatrist Some unwanted thoughts may be serious. especially for those who are preoccupied by unwanted thoughts. Have a few moments of silence. grammatical errors. Keep singing the song. You may need to spend some money on a psychiatric . or a song that gets stuck in your head no matter how much you want to forget about it. Write to express. If the song is already stuck in your head. childhood experience. The less opportunities you have to listen to bad. especially if you feel a bit obsessed and delirious about negative thoughts. Getting Rid of Last Song Syndrome Some unwanted thoughts need not be as serious as financial or health worries. Here are some ways to get rid of an annoying episode of LSS: • • • Listen to other songs. and allows you to regain and recover some lost energy from thinking and worrying too much. You can get rid of LSS by bringing along a portable music player (like a portable CD player or an MP3 player). Persistent unwanted thoughts syndrome is often associated with childhood trauma. but it beats the thought of listening to the song over and over again. It may be the catchy melody or the bad lyrics. Writing on a diary or a notebook is very soothing and relaxing. Sleep is also a good way to spend eight hours of time. like a walk in the park or reading a book in peace and quiet. After a night of good rest and peaceful relaxation. write as freely as you can. Sleep Through It A nap or a good night's sleep is often enough to get rid of unwanted and pestering thoughts. or an imbalance in chemicals found in the brain. or a love that was not meant to be. One of the most common unwanted thoughts is Last Song Syndrome (LSS).Keep a Journal Writing is good therapy. Don't mind making too many erasures. Chances are you got LSS because you heard a quirky or extremely popular song on public radio. and listen to songs you like. or mistakes. Writing is especially effective if you have bad memories of a previous relationship. emotional instability. the more you can get the song out of your head. you might as well keep humming or singing the song out of your head. and not to impress. but you end up singing that song over and over again. Psychologists and psychiatrists may diagnose your obsessive thoughts as a mild or even a serious mental disorder. irritating music.

like: • • • • Medication Hypnosis Group therapy Individual counseling. your emotions. Many remedies are available to get rid of your persistent unwanted thoughts. and Cope with Stress It may seem that there’s nothing you can do about your stress level. relationships.appointment or a session with a psychoanalyst. In fact. they don't have to get in the way of everyday routines. and the way you deal with problems. there will never be more hours in the day for all your errands. . because persistent unwanted thoughts syndrome is a relatively common disorder. your schedule. You don't need to be ashamed to go to a psychiatrist for help. Stress Management How to Reduce. Treatments for a disorder can be expensive. Managing stress is all about taking charge: taking charge of your thoughts. and fun – plus the resilience to hold up under pressure and meet challenges head on. The ultimate goal is a balanced life. Now that you know how to get rid of unwanted thoughts. While there are things you can't help but think about. your environment. with time for work. the simple realization that you’re in control of your life is the foundation of stress management. and your career or family responsibilities will always be demanding. The bills aren’t going to stop coming. you can think of thoughts that make your life happier and much more productive. relaxation. prevent. But you have a lot more control than you might think.

that’s all”). Sure. Start a stress journal A stress journal can help you identify the regular stressors in your life and the way you deal with them. What you did to make yourself feel better. or view it as entirely normal and unexceptional? Until you accept responsibility for the role you play in creating or maintaining it. you may know that you’re constantly worried about work deadlines. look closely at your habits. feelings. attitude. How you acted in response. Do you blame your stress on other people or outside events. Each time you feel stressed. How you felt. This isn’t as easy as it sounds. To identify your true sources of stress. Your true sources of stress aren’t always obvious. As you keep a daily log. your stress level will remain outside your control. both physically and emotionally. keep track of it in your journal. But maybe it’s your procrastination. and it’s all too easy to overlook your own stress-inducing thoughts.In This Article: • • • • • • • • • Identify sources of stress Look at how you cope with stress Avoid unnecessary stress Alter the situation Adapt to the stressor Accept the things you can’t change Make time for fun and relaxation Adopt a healthy lifestyle Related links Authors Print Text Size Identify the sources of stress in your life Stress management starts with identifying the sources of stress in your life. you will begin to see patterns and common themes. rather than the actual job demands. Look at how you currently cope with stress . that leads to deadline stress. Write down: • • • • What caused your stress (make a guess if you’re unsure). and behaviors. and excuses: • • • Do you explain away stress as temporary (“I just have a million things going on right now”) even though you can’t remember the last time you took a breather? Do you define stress as an integral part of your work or home life (“Things are always crazy around here”) or as a part of your personality (“I have a lot of nervous energy.

Your stress journal can help you identify them. Whether in your personal or professional life. When deciding which option to choose. Adapt to the stressor. it’s helpful to think of the four As: avoid. refuse to accept added responsibilities when you’re close to reaching them. limit the amount of time you spend with that person or end the relationship entirely. family. Are your coping strategies healthy or unhealthy. there is no “one size fits all” solution to managing it. Focus on what makes you feel calm and in control. Unhealthy ways of coping with stress These coping strategies may temporarily reduce stress. Taking on more than you can handle is a surefire recipe for stress. Stress management strategy #1: Avoid unnecessary stress Not all stress can be avoided. so experiment with different techniques and strategies. or accept. Avoid people who stress you out – If someone consistently causes stress in your life and you can’t turn the relationship around. many people cope with stress in ways that compound the problem. • • Learn how to say “no” – Know your limits and stick to them. and it’s not healthy to avoid a situation that needs to be addressed. angry outbursts. but they cause more damage in the long run: • • • • • Smoking Drinking too much Overeating or undereating Zoning out for hours in front of the TV or computer Withdrawing from friends. adapt. Accept the stressor. There are many healthy ways to manage and cope with stress. by the number of stressors in your life that you can eliminate. No single method works for everyone or in every situation. and activities • • • • • Using pills or drugs to relax Sleeping too much Procrastinating Filling up every minute of the day to avoid facing problems Taking out your stress on others (lashing out. but they all require change. however. You can either change the situation or change your reaction. Dealing with Stressful Situations: The Four A’s Change the situation: • • Change your reaction: • • Avoid the stressor. Since everyone has a unique response to stress. . it’s time to find healthier ones.Think about the ways you currently manage and cope with stress in your life. Alter the stressor. helpful or unproductive? Unfortunately. You may be surprised. alter. physical violence) Learning healthier ways to manage stress If your methods of coping with stress aren’t contributing to your greater emotional and physical health.

or enjoy some alone time. Poor time management can cause a lot of stress. and learn to be okay with “good enough. When you’re stretched too thin and running behind. this involves changing the way you communicate and operate in your daily life. Stress management strategy #3: Adapt to the stressor If you can’t change the stressor. Ask yourself how important it will be in the long run. If you repeatedly argue about the same subject with the same people. Avoid hot-button topics – If you get upset over religion or politics. you can alter the amount of stress you’re under. Look at the big picture. resentment will build and the situation will likely remain the same. and daily tasks. If traffic’s got you tense. say up front that you only have five minutes to talk. When stress is getting you down. .• • • Take control of your environment – If the evening news makes you anxious. Deal with problems head on. If going to the market is an unpleasant chore. including your own positive qualities and gifts. Don’t take a backseat in your own life. Take perspective of the stressful situation. turn the TV off. Be more assertive. be willing to do the same. distinguish between the “shoulds” and the “musts. Adjust your standards. If you’ve got an exam to study for and your chatty roommate just got home.” Drop tasks that aren’t truly necessary to the bottom of the list or eliminate them entirely. try to alter it. doing your best to anticipate and prevent them. take a longer but less-traveled route. you’ll have a good chance of finding a happy middle ground. Manage your time better. Set reasonable standards for yourself and others. • • • • Reframe problems. change yourself. If you’ve got too much on your plate. Will it matter in a month? A year? Is it really worth getting upset over? If the answer is no. Try to view stressful situations from a more positive perspective. Rather than fuming about a traffic jam.” Focus on the positive. This simple strategy can help you keep things in perspective. Stop setting yourself up for failure by demanding perfection. look at it as an opportunity to pause and regroup. • • • • Express your feelings instead of bottling them up. You can adapt to stressful situations and regain your sense of control by changing your expectations and attitude. listen to your favorite radio station. If you both are willing to bend at least a little. Pare down your to-do list – Analyze your schedule. responsibilities. But if you plan ahead and make sure you don’t overextend yourself. When you ask someone to change their behavior. stop bringing it up or excuse yourself when it’s the topic of discussion. communicate your concerns in an open and respectful way. Often. Stress management strategy #2: Alter the situation If you can’t avoid a stressful situation. cross them off your conversation list. If you don’t voice your feelings. do your grocery shopping online. Figure out what you can do to change things so the problem doesn’t present itself in the future. Be willing to compromise. take a moment to reflect on all the things you appreciate in your life. it’s hard to stay calm and focused. If something or someone is bothering you. Perfectionism is a major source of avoidable stress. focus your time and energy elsewhere.

As the saying goes.Adjusting Your Attitude How you think can have a profound effect on your emotional and physical well-being. even if there’s nothing you can do to alter the stressful situation. In such cases. Look for the upside. • • • • Don’t try to control the uncontrollable. Stress management strategy #5: Make time for fun and relaxation Beyond a take-charge approach and a positive attitude. Let go of anger and resentments." and "must. focus on the things you can control such as the way you choose to react to problems. • Take a long bath. Many things in life are beyond our control— particularly the behavior of other people. If you see good things about yourself. Learn to forgive. Acceptance may be difficult. Expressing what you’re going through can be very cathartic. Talk to a trusted friend or make an appointment with a therapist. the reverse is also true. reflect on them and learn from your mistakes. the best way to cope with stress is to accept things as they are. Play with a pet. Free yourself from negative energy by forgiving and moving on. Accept the fact that we live in an imperfect world and that people make mistakes. you can reduce stress in your life by nurturing yourself. If you regularly make time for fun and relaxation. • Call a good friend. or a national recession. • Spend time in nature. “What doesn’t kill us makes us stronger.” When facing major challenges. your body reacts as if it were in the throes of a tension-filled situation. a serious illness. Eliminate words such as "always. Rather than stressing out over them. Stress management strategy #4: Accept the things you can’t change Some sources of stress are unavoidable. Healthy ways to relax and recharge • Go for a walk. • Light scented candles • • • • • • • Savor a warm cup of coffee or tea." "never. Watch a comedy ." "should. Share your feelings. Curl up with a good book. but in the long run. • Write in your journal. You can’t prevent or change stressors such as the death of a loved one. Each time you think a negative thought about yourself. you’ll be in a better place to handle life’s stressors when they inevitably come. you are more likely to feel good. it’s easier than railing against a situation you can’t change." These are telltale marks of self-defeating thoughts. • Sweat out tension with a good workout. Work in your garden. If your own poor choices contributed to a stressful situation. Listen to music. try to look at them as opportunities for personal growth. Get a massage.

Self-medicating with alcohol or drugs may provide an easy escape from stress. A strong support system will buffer you from the negative effects of stress. Nothing beats aerobic exercise for releasing pent-up stress and tension. Feeling tired will increase your stress because it may cause you to think irrationally. or working on your bike. Avoid alcohol.Don’t get so caught up in the hustle and bustle of life that you forget to take care of your own needs. you’ll feel more relaxed and you’ll sleep better. • • • • • Exercise regularly. Regularly practicing these techniques will build your physical and emotional resilience. The temporary "highs" caffeine and sugar provide often end in with a crash in mood and energy. Well-nourished bodies are better prepared to cope with stress. The act of laughing helps your body fight stress in a number of ways. • • • • Set aside relaxation time. Don’t avoid or mask the issue at hand. Get enough sleep. and keep your energy up and your mind clear with balanced. nutritious meals throughout the day. cigarettes. Reduce caffeine and sugar. Read Stress Relief: Relaxation Practices That Reduce Stress Stress management strategy #6: Adopt a healthy lifestyle You can increase your resistance to stress by strengthening your physical health. deal with problems head on and with a clear mind. Do something you enjoy every day. Include rest and relaxation in your daily schedule. but the relief is only temporary. Make time for leisure activities that bring you joy. Related Articles . and sugar snacks in your diet. This includes the ability to laugh at yourself. Keep your sense of humor. Make time for at least 30 minutes of exercise. Physical activity plays a key role in reducing and preventing the effects of stress. a state of restfulness that is the opposite of the stress response. as well as your body. chocolate. Adequate sleep fuels your mind. not a luxury. soft drinks. By reducing the amount of coffee. playing the piano. three times per week. Connect with others. This is your time to take a break from all responsibilities and recharge your batteries. whether it be stargazing. so be mindful of what you eat. Don’t allow other obligations to encroach. and boost your overall feelings of joy and equanimity. Learn the relaxation response You can control your stress levels with relaxation techniques that evoke the body’s relaxation response. Spend time with positive people who enhance your life. Start your day right with breakfast. Nurturing yourself is a necessity. Eat a healthy diet. and drugs. heal your body.

(Mayo Clinic) Stress Management for Parents – Stress management suggestions for stressed-out parents. Causes. and Coping Strategies Stress at Work: How to Reduce and Manage Workplace and Job Stress How to Stop Worrying: Self-Help Strategies for Anxiety Relief Need More Help? Bring Your Life Into Balance: Emotional Skills Toolkit Feeling overwhelmed by stress and the pressures of daily life? This toolkit can help you regain your emotional balance. reducing. (Child Development Institute) . Symptoms. and coping with stress. (University Health Center.Understanding Stress Signs. Symptoms. including fifty-two proven stress reducers. and Effects Quick Stress Relief How to Manage and Relieve Stress in the Moment More Helpguide Articles: • • • • Improving Emotional Health: Strategies and Tips for Good Mental Health Preventing Burnout: Signs. University of Georgia) Stress Management: How Do You React During Stressful Situations? – Evaluate the way you react to stress and learn how to transform your negative responses. Go to Toolkit » Related links for stress management General information about managing and coping with stress Managing Stress: A Guide for College Students – Offers a total wellness lifestyle plan for managing. Causes.

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With your birthdate I can tell. Clinical Hypnotherapist. o o Spend a little time writing with clarity about the past in your timeline. being yourself will be hard. The first step is always the hardest. but after that hill. you will be smooth sailing to discovering who you are. look to the positive learning message in it and don't dwell on the mistakes or the negatives. Finding yourself is not easy. so is making peace with the past. edit Steps 1. How do you know you have found yourself? When you are able to help others find themselves. You can look a them as formation blocks and as changing experiences along your timeline without imbuing them with too much emotion (as would occur within a diary account). write down the events in your life that have already happened that you believe have affected you and have made you who you are now. A timeline is an incredibly objective method for marking down past occurrences in your life that you consider to have been major. real and condensed to the major effect or lesson learned from each past incident. When analyzing negative past experiences. This isn't an exercise in wallowing but one about clarification and identification of issues that might be hampering your present potential and the blossoming of your true sense of self.com/Free_love_2011 Or who'll fall in love with you. Write down all of your major goals in your life that you feel you want to achieve. you will savor and enjoy both life's pain and pleasures. When you love yourself and who you are. Keep it simple. 1 Create your own life's life timeline. If you have never felt connected to who you are. Ads by Google Overcome Depression HypnosisOneOnOne. Everyone has these blips in their . and you want to find whatever makes you you. In turn. Ads by Google Who loves you in 2011 ? pasqualina.time of harmony because you develop that philosophy or belief system that will carry you throughout the rest of your life.com/Depression Achieve Result With Nancy. As much as where you're headed is important.

sticking to it. people close to you. Remember. Smoking. 2 Prepare to recommence with a clean slate Develop your own moral conduct and practice slate. aptly summed up by Raymond Hull who once said: "He who trims himself to suit everyone will soon whittle himself away. you can't drive your hard life forward if you are always gazing through your rear rear-view mirror! 3. 2. it's important to forget about what everyone else thinks because you cannot please everyone. or overwhelmed when a person . over-eating. This may take some major rehabilitation for some individuals but putting it into the too-hard basket won't make it go away. The reality of life is that whatever you decide about forging ahead in a different way that is more focused on the person you see yourself as.timeline but pretending they are either worse than they were or non non-existent won't do you any favors. And while you might not want to disappoint the . some people won't be prepared to see you in a different or more forgiving light. over . Instead. It's a threat of changing relationship patterns and it can sometimes cause them to have to face their own ip . Remove vice from your life. recognize that if it had not been for those past experiences you would not be where or who you are today." o Realize that some people are jealous. changes their usual habits and becomes more enlightened. they should want you to be happy. 3 You can't please everyone Let go of the need to be loved by all and accept that some people still think you stink. Yet. and addictive-drinking are examples of lapses or habits drinking that will prevent you from functioning at your peak while letting you "off the hook" of the from hard internal analysis as to why you use these crutches instead of finding better ways to brighten your existence. vices are any actions or habits that curtail your true self and involve escaping having to think about the harder questions and finding your true ping sense of self. As long as you continue to exist to want fulfill other people's ideas of who you should be. you'll never know your true talents. afraid.

and they may come around in time. When the self sense of others envelops your own self sense.foibles that they've been trying to escape. At the heart of finding yourself is believing and relying on yourself. leave them be. Sure. you don't need them to shore up your sense of self. right. learning. you will be inclined to listen to what others have to say all the time and to be swayed by their insistence on what is wrong. 5. Start trusting your own judgment and decision-making processes. People who lack a sense of self tend to dispense with the "details" of life with a carefree attitude that things will all sort out. If they don't. They're not going to go away on their own account and they are probably coloring your approach to daily life now. o o o If you have been victimized in the past. 5 . and appropriate. If you don't have a solid foundational sense of your self. 4 Learn to rely on yourself. and reaching into your real sense of self. Taking responsibility pulls you back from the precipice and lets you be self-reliant and self-determined. confront the issues created for you. you're going to make mistakes from time to time but so does everyone else and it's through mistakes that you will find yourself growing. But things don't sort themselves out and not taking an interest in serious planning for your future is akin to sticking your head in the sand and letting life carry you along wherever it will. no longer carried along by the waves of fate. you're caught up in the maze of otherness and you're not likely to find yourself any time soon. household matters. 4. Start taking responsibility for budgeting. Give these people space and compassion. causing you to live up to other people's expectations and not your own. and planning about where you want to be in a few years time.

6 Immerse yourself in solitude. you'll need to work out a work-life balance that lets you pursue your "true self" more outside the confines of the workplace. Along the way. the conversations. If you're meandering all over the place looking for the right "fit". that work may not be where your "calling" is. shoulds. Take some time . and expectations. Give yourself some time and space to get away from the expectations. and the pressure. chances are that you're not content within and are using the job-changing as an excuse for not fully realizing your true aptitudes. It is all possible.Sort out your career path. moved.[1] Bear in mind however. knowing what you're truly good at and knowing how to make the most of the talents you have. Think about what you like and don't like and think beyond those things to associated ideas that simply occur as you're working through the likes and dislikes. the media. Keep a record of these things. this exercise is one in looking for "beeps of joy" amid the cacophony of must-dos. budgeting. even if this means less hours and less income. especially if it's in the pursuit of finding and sustaining your true sense of self. What type of career seems to gel most with the things that excited. Finding yourself is in part about self-recognition. And less income means facing the means to give you that freedom through better planning. Then. money and prestige tend to override aptitude and can detour you from making the right choice for you. come back to the career question and look at the free associations. the noise. and acceptance of a frugal way of living. o o Spend some time free-associating. and really energized you from the freeassociation exercise? As Alain de Botton says. If that is the case. 6.

fears. or exploring the Amazon rain forest. solitude can restore your sense of balance and inner calm. it's updates your understanding and acceptance .if I didn't need to make money . Even pole dancing is becoming a hobby! Don't wash your clothes much? Try camping. that dare to look at the big pictures. by asking this question. "What do I want to look back on in my life and say that I never regretted?" Would you regret never having traveled abroad? Would you regret never having asked that person out. Don't be afraid to choose words that are considered negative because that proves you're a whole and not a lopsided amassing of only those parts you'd like to be known for. needy or afraid. even if it meant risking rejection? Would you regret not spending enough time with your family when you could? This question can be particularly difficult. 7. If the banter of co-workers.what would I be doing with my day to day life and why?" Perhaps you'd be painting. o Every person needs time out.each day to go for a long walk and think. Ask yourself the questions that are difficult. 7 Ask yourself every question in the book. for utter peace and for realizing that purposeful "aloneness" is not a bad place to be but rather. young or old. Sometimes your traits that your (or others) don't like become useful only in emergency situations (like being bossy) or are valuable to the job you're meant to perform (like being nitpicking). you should feel independent and self-sufficient. Maybe you'll like it? "Who am I?" This question is not static and should be one you continue to ask yourself throughout your life. Don't hold back. parents. or farming. a liberating part of your overall existence. or writing. and hearsay of other people. thoughtful road trip. Solitude is time for rejuvenation and self-talk. A healthy person continues to reinvent themselves through life. If you do have a truly negative trait. In solitude. Exercising compensates for many bad habits and there are hobbies for almost every vice. Whatever you do. Plant yourself on a park bench and look. not to the worries. "If you had to choose three words to describe the kind of person I'd love to be. what would those words be? Adventurous? Loving? Open? Honest? Hilarious? Optimistic? Realistic? Motivated? Resilient? Don't be afraid to pick up a thesaurus. move away from anything that distracts you from contemplating your life and where you want it to go. whether you're an introvert or extrovert. reminding you that you have a trajectory in life mapped out and that you're marching to it. such as: o o o o "If I had all the resources in the world . or strangers is getting you down. not lonely. friends. acknowledging it openly can give you the impetus to work on redirecting that energy to something positive. single or in a relationship. Take a long.

Start planning what you really . it's easy for these purpose-focused thoughts to slip to the back of your mind and be forgotten. "family responsibilities". Plan a trip to Mombasa. Instead of using these as excuses. 9 Act upon your newly discovered knowledge. Start cracking jokes. because in all likelihood that's a very good answer. Have dinner with a family member. o You may shake your head and come up with excuses such as "no time". keep it focused on who you actually are. "no money". Write a short story. Do the things that you want to do! Pick up those watercolors. then every time you reflect.of personal change. start planning around the realities in your life. If you have them written down. Beyond your time spent in solitude (something that's important to indulge in regularly). Keep them in a notebook that's both easy to access and update wherever you happen to be. 8. it will be a source of sustaining you and by which you can continue to measure your growth through life. Mt Kenya. instead of answering the same questions all over again. you can review your notes and take it a step further. 8 Keep a written record of your answers to the series of questions in the former step. And instead of answering who you think you ought to be. You can free up time. and get a break from duties if you make time how to plan and pluck up the courage to ask for these things. etc. a walk at Nairobi Safari Walk. find money. Whatever it is that you've decided you want to be or do. Tell the truth. Open up. sometimes. the real you is too afraid to face the practicalities because it'd mean facing up to what you've limited yourself by. warts and all. 9. start being and doing it now.

Service to other people. to other species and your planet is the ultimate way to find purpose and a sense of your place in the world. A lot of it is trial and . it's often a wake up call that puts your own worries. Be prepared to understand and accept that this is a part of the process. concerns. and petty wake-up issues into perspective. Mahatma Gandhi once said that "the best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others" All introspection and no reaching out to others can cause others". Best of all. 11 . When you get to see how hard life can be for those in greater f need than you. then you'll find yourself. 10. you to navel-gaze and shut yourself off from others. not a destination. you will always feel good about yourself and this will reflect out onto others. fulfillment and security in your pursuit. see as a need to turn around and try again dead-end. 11. helping you to see what you do have and the opportuni opportunities you've been able to seize through life. That's the price you pay in return for the satisfaction you receive: More often than not. 10 Don't see it as a dead end. You'll like it. Serve others. Try it. Finding yourself is a journey. error. to the gaze community. Be ready for dead ends. It's not going to be easy – it never has been for anybody – but if you learn to see that as a chance to prove how much you want to find yourself. When you are yourself. And that can fuel a great sense of self because suddenly things fall into place for you and you just know what really matters most. making them feel even more certain about your sense of self.want to do and investigating what needs to be done to get you to that point instead of flinging final excuses at them that stop the desired activities and achievements linging dead in their tracks. and sometimes you fall flat on your face. everyone will respect you more and treat you kindly. Ads by Google . and commit to getting right back up and starting over. you hit a bump in the road.

it will make finding yourself even harder since people are influencing who you think you are. by all means listen to others and learn from them but let the final choices. and only I. Make sure no one influences who you are.org/life Book contains best advice for your success in life. decisions. I was looking for myself and asking everyone except myself questions which I. do something different. Resist the urge to feel like you're the only one going through this. Although it's a cliche.ucg. and you'll be more likely to make good ones if your mind is calm and rested. the term Be yourself really does count when it comes to finding yourself. edit Warnings .com Improve yourself. become a yourmightyself edit Video This video shows you how to challenge yourself so that you think outside the box. In Invisible Man. though they were often in contradiction and even self-contradictory. and everywhere I turned someone tried to tell me what it was. Ralph Ellison once summed this up well: All my life I had been looking for something. and acceptances be your own.com/Self-Confident Let Hypnosis Increase Your Confidence.blogspot. edit Tips • • • • • You're never as bad or as good as people say. Don't be afraid to sleep on it. Order now free.Improve Self-Confidence OneOnOneHypnosis. and achieve more personal growth. There's no hurry in making decisions. I accepted their answers too. Call +65 9636 8098 Now! Free Book: Make Life Work library. If you simply capitulate to what others think. It took me a long time and much painful boomeranging of my expectations to achieve a realization everyone else appears to have been born with: that I am nobody but myself. Be forgiving and learn to let go. could answer. I was naive. Your Mighty Self yourmightyself.

Don't feel you have to prove your worth to the world. . it is also important not to let society and the media push you in a certain direction. Remember this is about being yourself. you might not immediately like who you find. Knocking others down is not the path to self-knowledge. It only compromises your dignity as a human being and makes others dislike you. Don't let yourself get caught up in a habit of constantly changing who you are or how you act just to fit in. Don't lie to yourself and try to be someone you are not.• • • • • • • Don't spread bad gossip or otherwise speak ill about other people. Do not let others decide for you what you are destined to do. What works for one person may not work for the next. Their path may not be the correct path for you. especially when it comes to your physical appearance. Be careful. As it is important to not let family members decide. Don't over analyze everything! Don't think about how you should act – just be yourself and the rest will come.