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.......... 11 Running Personal Ads..................................................................................................................................................................................................... 14 How to Use Your Friends.................................................................................. 24 Where to Meet Single Women During the Holidays .................................................................................................... 23 How to Use Gymnastics and Tumbling Skills to Meet Tons of Hot & Sexy Single Women ......................... 26 MIND TRAINING .................................. 12 Single Women in the Personals ............... 10 METHODS TO MEET WOMEN ....................................................................................... 25 Worst Places to Meet Single Women ...................... Hot & Sexy Businesswomen in Hotels ....................................................................................................................................... 17 How to Flirt With Single Sexy Women in Bars and Nightclubs......................................................27 How to Handle Rejection From Women ...................................................................................................................................... 19 How to Meet & Pick Up Hot & Sexy Single Women at Swimming Pools......................................................................................................................................................... and Seduce Hot & Sexy Single Women...................................... Relatives and Co-Workers to Help You Meet............. 21 How to Meet Lonely.............................. 27 Overcoming Your Fear Of Rejection................................ 11 A Great Letter to Use to Attract .................................................................................Table of Contents TABLE OF CONTENTS .............................................. 28 4 ..........................11 How to Attract Single Women............................... 12 Great personal ads to use to attract single women like crazy..........................................10 The Odds to Meet the Perfect Woman ..................................................... 16 How to Pick Up Hot & Sexy Beautiful Single Women at the Beach ..................................................................................... 15 PLACES WHERE TO MEET WOMEN ......................4 INTRODUCTION .............................................. Acquaintances.............................................................................................. 20 How to Overcome Your Shyness When Approaching Single Women in Nightclubs .................................................................................................................................................................................16 How to Attract Single Women for Romance at Work....... Date........................
........ 29 The Myth of the Line ................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................... 50 Effective Opening Lines ........................................................................................................................ Attracting Single Women for Romance ................................................42 Are You Aware That Bad Breath Can Prevent You From Scoring With Single Women?.................................................................................................................................................................................................................................. 39 Exercise .............. 46 10 Top Negative Body Languages Signs that Single Women Give to Indicate That She is Not Interested in You ..........................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................Your Smile............ 41 HYGENE...................................................Don't be a Weenie .................49 Dating Tips on How to Talk to Single Women.......................................................... 33 You ............................................................................................. 32 Why You Should Not Wear Masks When Meeting Single Women .........................................................................................................................Rejection .................. 55 5 ............................... 48 OPENING LINES............................................................................................................................46 How to Tell if a Single Woman is Really Interested in You..................... 54 Bad Opening Lines ............................................................................................................................................................................................................. 51 Perfecting Your Opening Lines......................................Misconceived Belief of Shy Men When Meeting Single Women .....Why Do People Love Oprah?.............................................................................. 42 Top 10 Colognes that women find irresistible on a man ............................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................. 36 BODY TRAINING ........................................................... Dating............. 49 Some Fall-Backs For Shy Men . 44 BODY LANGUAGE SIGNS ...................... 34 Your Rap .................................................. 30 Style ................................................... 40 Be Civil in Your Suit ............................................ 49 Opening lines........................... 31 Why You Should Consider Dating & Pursuing Relationships ..................................39 Clothing ................Mister Manners Scores Points ................... 35 Why Being Short Should Not Interfere With You Meeting.........................................................................
............................ She Loves You Not .............................................................................. 84 Ways to ask a girl out................................................................................................................. 71 How to Attract Single Women With Fat Jokes......................................84 Getting The First Date ................................................... 78 Dating Tips From a Single Woman's Point of View ...... 79 Single lady giving advice on how to meet and attract single women.............................................................................................................. 63 Advices on Flirting ..................................................................................................................................................................... 81 ASKING A WOMAN OUT ....................................... 88 Ending The Date.................... Incense................................ 74 Tips on How to Use Your Bathroom to Attract Single Women....................... 67 How to Seduce Single Women With Candles........ 85 Asking Someone Out On A Date ............................................................ 86 Week Nights VS Weekends.............................................................................................................................................................................................................................67 How to Seduce Single Women Using Romantic Lighting ................................. 77 Should You Pursue Single Women With Lots of Experience? ............................. 60 Don't Worry.............................................................................................................................................................................. 69 How to Seduce Single Women With Food for Love and Romance . 56 She Loves You........................................................................................................................................................................... and Fireplaces ................................................................................................................ 76 How to Attract Women ............. 73 Why Acting Like You're Married Can Attract Single Women Like Crazy... 63 METHODS TO SEDUCE WOMEN .............................................................................. 80 The ABC'S of Summer Dating ............................................................................................................Conversational Icebreakers .................................................................................. 89 6 ......................................... 68 How to Attract and Seduce Single Women With Poetry for Romance and Love............................................................................................................................................................................................................. 58 Conversing For Maximum Attraction ........................................... 72 How to Attract Single Women for Love and Romance Using Your Shoes..................................... 75 How to Make a Good Impression When Calling Single Women......................................................... Be Happy ............................................................................................... 61 Personal Space .............................................................................................................................................................................
.......................................................................................................................... 94 THINGS TO DO ....................................................................................... 90 The Top 10 Places to Take Single Women on a First Date ............................................................................................................................ 117 Bad Vocabulary Habits That Can Cost You Dates With Single Women .........................................................................Great First Dates ............... 116 Don't Treat Your Date Like One of the Guys.............................................................................................................. 101 The Top 10 Dining Etiquette Tips to Impress Single Women When on a Dining Date............................... 96 The Dating Process .......................................................................................................................................................................96 10 Best Things to Do on a First Date to Attract Single Women ....................................................................................................................................................116 Don't Make These Mistakes When Out on a First Date With Single Women .................................................................................................. 110 What To Say?......................................................... 118 7 ..................................................................................................................................................................................................... 112 How To Go About Kissing Her ................................................................................................................................................................................................................................. 109 Advice on Asking Single Women Personal Questions ................... 92 Cheap Dates: 10 Ways to Impress Her on a Dime........................................................................................................................................................................................................ 103 Pampering Her .................... 105 CONVERSATION ............................................................................. 102 The Importance Of Eye Contact ..................................................... 97 Dating Tips to Help You Succeed With Single Women.................................... 108 Conversing For Maximum Attraction .............................107 Conversation Pitfalls to Avoid When Talking to Single Women.................... 113 MISTAKES MEN MAKE.................................................................................................................112 Art of Kissing Single Women on Your First Date ................................................................ 111 KISSING . 107 How to Talk to Single Women When on a Date.................................. 107 A Good Talk/Listen Ratio................................................................................................................................................... 97 How to Successfully Date Women ..................................................Date Behavior ................ 104 What To Do On Your First Date.
.................135 What turns single women on .................................. 139 Should You Have Sex With Single Women Early in a Relationship?...... 129 Are You Sometimes Confused by Women's Sexual Behavior? ...................................................................................................................................................................... 135 How to Turn Single Women on Sexually................................................................... 121 How Can You Tell if a Woman Likes You or Not? ............................................................................................................... 131 Reading A Single Woman's Sexy Signals ............................................................................................................................................................................................................................................ 124 A Few Words of Advice About Pornography and Dating Single Women ..................................................................................................................................................................................... 126 WOMEN'S SEXUAL BEHAVIOR ..... 139 Sex on the First Date ............................. 125 The Single Man's Astrological Guide to Single Women.............................................. 130 How to Tell When Single Women Are in the Mood For Sex ......................................................121 Dating problems and solutions ........ 145 She's probably not sexually attracted to you................................................................................................................... 132 Women's Sexuality and Sensuality ................................................ 140 Sexual Advice on How to Make Love to Single Women.............................................................................................129 Women's Sexual and Seduction Power Over Single Men ................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................ 133 WHAT TURNS SINGLE WOMEN ON ................................................................................................................................................................................. 120 OTHER STUFF – DATING ............................................139 Sex ................................... 125 Dating Psychology ............................................................................................................................... 135 Excitation Techniques ..............When? ............................ 123 How to Get Phone Numbers From Single Women and How to Tell If She's Giving You a Phony Number............................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................ 136 ABOUT SEX ............The Biggest Mistakes Men Make ......... 146 8 ...................................................................... 119 Dumb Dating Mistakes Men Make ..................................................................................................... 131 Recognizing Arousal..................................................................................................................
............ 162 9 ... 153 RECOGNIZING AND AVOIDING TRAPS .......................................................... 156 Don't Be a Victim of the Pregnancy Trap! ................................................................................... 151 POST BREAKUP ADVICE ................... 148 Breakup Speech ......................................................156 Games Single Women Play to Test You ......................................... 152 Ex Girlfriend Survival Guide ....................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................... 158 Be on the Lookout for Single Women Who Use You for Financial Purposes ................ 160 "I know just the girl for you!" .........................................................................................................................THE WAY TO BREAK UP WITH HER ..........................................................................................................................................147 Breaking Up Is Hard To Do .........................150 She dumps you ............................................................................................................... 150 Getting her back ...................................................................152 Post Breakup Advice .... 159 Freedom.......................... 160 Should You Date Commitaphobic Single Women? ........................................................................................................................................................................................... 157 Are You Staying in a Bad Relationship Just to Have a Woman?.............................................................................................................................. 158 Are You Spoiling Your Chances for Love and Romance?.................. 161 Why You Should Avoid Women Who Flirt & Power Single Women................................................................................................................................... 147 Feelings Of Guilt.................... 148 SHE DUMPS YOU..........................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................
need and circumstance. accepting. rejecting.just to add to the confusion!) Conclusion is that: "The Perfect Woman" doesn't exist. You have one afternoon and about 20.Introduction The Odds to Meet the Perfect Woman The reality is that there are thousands. there must be thousands of single women who have more to offer. you could hope to date less than 100 single girls during your bachelorhood. (We're being generous. 10 .these are just the facts. It is a matter of compromise. it is just a matter of compromise. You must realize that you don't end up with the absolute best choice available for a girlfriend or a wife. Maybe. dating and marrying guys constantly . So with luck. Are you depressed? Don't be . You just don't have the time and resources to meet them all. the average man will experience a dozen or so "relationships" lasting more than a couple weeks. but you get the point. How many can you get to know well enough to ask out for Saturday night? OK. all analogies leak. need and circumstance. If you look at it in statistical terms. perhaps millions of single women who would work out just fine as dates or long term commitments. don't forget that single women are also out there meeting. Picture it as a major event like a college football game. As I said.) With luck. (By the way.000 available women. readiness. Check with your older friends and relatives for verification. One or two of these will result in marriages. readiness.
no dependents. sensitive interior. warm. Try it. HAPPY MOTORING! P. would like to have little Toyotas some day. To arrange test drive. affectionate. here's a little bit about myself: I am a single financially secure businessman.. Available for inspection by female drivers only. Equipped with nice endowment.runs on high-octane fun and romance. Factory equipped package includes stereo. Exterior in mint condition. please write or call me at xxx-xxxx-xxxx (anytime). Bumped a few times. Only driven once a week by little old lady to/from church. self-confident. I come from a close solid family.. never soiled. sincere with sense of humor and full set of tools. eye-catching exterior. 1947 model. imagination and intelligence. In order for you to get to know me better. Proven ability to hug the road and not wander off course. warm.it works like crazy! 11 . lifetime supply included. humor. Your ad really captured my attention and you sound like someone I would really like to get to know better. Feel free to modify this letter to use for yourself. Spacious seats with plenty of room for passenger. but never wrecked. Radio picks up all kinds of rock and classical.Methods to Meet Women How to Attract Single Women Running Personal Ads Here's a letter I used to respond to personal ads to successfully meet and attract women like crazy: Hi! This letter is in response to your recent "personal" ad.S. low mileage.. prefer affectionate woman. depth.. intelligent. high performance.
I am selfsufficient. music.. This letter will really make a good impression on single women and make her want to write you back. A nonsmoker/drinker. And please have good thoughts about our further relationship. Try it. walks on the beach and cozy candlelight dinners. psychologically aware. the desert. chaff and grain together. Let's become good friends. Let me tell you about myself. I enjoy movies. happy.Hope for a beautiful relationship.. keep that which is worth keeping and. clean-cut and a healthy gentleman. sunrises and sunsets. the quietness of the mountains. To me. I feel that before we can have a good relationship. I thank you in advance for allowing me to be that kind of friend to you. books. And when you answer a woman's ad for the first time here's a great letter to use.. love. My desire is to meet a beautiful. then. 12 . sex. I love poetry.A Great Letter to Use to Attract Single Women in the Personals I highly recommend that you play the personals for dating. assertive single lady who wants a friend. Caucasian.. 6' 3". Friendship is one of the most important building blocks of a good relationship. My interpretation of a friend is one to whom you can pour out all the contents of your heart. Just edit it to use for yourself. emotionally and financially secure. it works!: Dear. traveling. handsome. I believe in enjoying the good life and am high on it. knowing that the gentleness of hands will take it all. not into drugs (don't need them. the ocean. I am divorced (four years ago). with a breath of kindness. friends are like flowers in the garden of life. self-confident. sensuous. If you feel it would be good for us to meet. All the flowers of all the tomorrows are in the seed of today. blue eyes. self-employed (businessman). and romance. write and tell me more about yourself. for thoughts are like seeds. warm. I have a healthy attitude about God and the Bible. we must put forth the energy and time it takes to first become good friends. secure. trim 175 lbs. blow the rest away. dark brown hair. television.. sensitive. I am comfortable in jeans or a nice Italian suit. I live in a natural high). sift it.
Well. what do you think? Isn't this a great letter! You could also use this for online personals too. serious. I am an incurable romantic who treasures.. I am looking for a special. talking. I never want personal happiness at the expense of someone else. The next step is up to you. Are you that special lady? All it will take to find out whether or not things might work between you and me is a 32cent stamp and five minutes of your time to write me a letter. laughing. with interests and characteristics similar to mine.Try the personals. sincere.not just a few dates. easygoing. long-term relationship. I will send my recent photo when I answer your letter.. touching. Physical attraction to me is as important as the other things I have mentioned..someone who wants a meaningful. cherishes and appreciates sincerity. affection and physical closeness.. they sure worked for me! 13 . Please send a recent photo (not over one year old) of yourself. slender.. beautiful.. integrity. loving relationship with a unique lady who is affectionate. with a shapely figure.I am not a game player. If we have a single date or a lifetime together. I enjoy picnics. I will never lie to you. A good listener who enjoys mutual spoiling and also I am a one-woman man. honesty and warmth. I would also appreciate you sending your phone number. try to manipulate you or use you in any way.
Have arms. good music of all kinds. Have ears. 6' 2". A lot of good loving is being wasted here. '70 Coupe . romantic and slender to share my carrots with. Lease/Purchase options available. the important word is "sincerity" and a willingness to give 100% in a relationship (as I am). In the meantime. who has as much to give. and long talks by the fireplace. Have imagination. 40.Have hands. Some of life's pleasures for me are cooking. and that you'll be considerate enough to send a recent photo. slender. traveling. Have Life Will Share . What I am is 45 and tired of playing games. In search of SWF. working on cars. openness. on the net. One owner is non-smoking. sensitive. 6'. and remember: Happiness is something we do deserve. etc. 25-35. will listen. It would be nice if you were as beautiful physically as you are emotionally.Sports Sleek White Body. I also act as though I enjoy single life (but I don't). slender Hare seeking cute little bunny 25-35. sending flowers. Have heart.Great personal ads to use to attract single women like crazy I want to share with you some great personal ads to use to attract single women like crazy and increase your responses to personal ads that you place in singles publications. smile. Have mind. I'm looking for that one special lady who shares my respect for honesty. a plus. I feel 35 (but I'm not). looks great at 170. Comes with black flat top. degreed professional male. Big-hearted Teddy Bear . 25-35 who knows an exceptional deal. I hope that we can become friends. will share. I have been told that I am very nice-looking. newspapers. will cuddle. If you like to lay in clover and nibble. will communicate. slender. What I want is to be able to find someone to share those experiences in life which are best when shared. 40. 46. will give. 240 lbs. 200 lbs. fishing. I love holding hands. Good Morning My Lovely. I'm a SWM. and fun to be with. that you're a non-smoker. stands 5' 11" and loaded. with a muscular build. Seeking attractive female buyer. My name is George. will hold. Let's hop all over town and have some good times and have a hare-raising experience.DWM. Write for complete details. 14 . romantic and affectionate. and the need for communication. However. camping. 6' 1". Try these ads (just fill in the blanks for your personal data and the kind of single women you are looking for) guys and I'm sure you will be pleased with the results: Handsome SWM. SWM. communicate well.
......... Here's what you need to do to improve your love and sex life: On a 8 1/2 x 11 sheet of paper.. acquaintances.. sex. Date.... relatives......... make a list of all your friends..Co-Workers 1... The form for your list should look like this: Friends.. 6.. 7..... 9. Now... and co-workers. 5. and romance...... date. Relatives and Co-Workers to Help You Meet. Could you introduce me to some of your single female friends?" 15 . 3.......How to Use Your Friends.. 4.... attract..... and seduce more hot & sexy single women for some love. and Seduce Hot & Sexy Single Women Here's a great networking system for you to meet. 10...... 2.. 8....Acquaintances. Acquaintances..Relatives.... just fill in the blanks on this form and get in touch with these people and simply make this statement: "I am expanding my social circle of female friends...
you can always practice a bit of subtlety. with a supervisor. sex. at the very least.. The advantage of this strategy is that either of you can stop. discretion. It can interfere with the performance of your duties and jeopardize your advancement or even continued tenure on the job. you might make a routine of exchanging smiles each morning and evening. worse yet. Smile at her one day.. Begin to wave 'hello' to her. or. Places Where to Meet Women How to Attract Single Women for Romance at Work At work. 16 . you may get to the point where you actually speak a few words to each other. Lots of marriages have occurred by meeting the opposite sex through other people and you just may find the "love of your life" using this girl-getting system. Finally.Try this networking system and you just might be surprised at all the new sexy single women you will meet for some love. Making an advance toward a fellow employee (or having one made toward you) may destabilize and upset the delicate relationships in your working group. A workplace romance with a subordinate. If you are a bit leery of asking to be introduced to someone you would like to meet. This situation favors the gradual approach to enlarging your circle of single female acquaintances. Exercise caution. can be risky. or. you see the same women. If so. and things may continue from there. See if she returns your smile. and romance. day after day. or even retreat at any point in the progression without undue embarrassment or trauma.
Fill it with beer. Make sure it's clean and attractive and not old and smelly. Take your pick! The beach provides a perfect setting for meeting hot & sexy single women. mixed drinks in a can and soft drinks. You'll use this to offer a girl a drink when you've approached a girl. sex. It's just simply a matter of approaching them and talking to them. while not sunning. "Hi" to women as they walk along. They don't even stop to talk to a girl that catches their eye. So be bold and aggressive and you'll be surprised how easy it is to meet and pick up single women at the beach. What's really sad is that these women are there to have a good time and attract the opposite sex. These are as follows: ICE CHEST . A lot of guys make the mistake of going to the beach and just stare at women and they stroll up and down the beach not even smiling or saying. you'll be all decked out for the beach and you'll stand out from the rest of the ordinary guys. Try on several different styles and select the one that makes you look unique and different. You should bring some very important equipment that you'll use in meeting and picking up single women at the beach. Wear a nice designer bathing suit like you see in Playboy or GQ magazines. Also. wear a shirt or pullover appropriate for the beach such as a tank top or colorful T-shirt. Use them and you can't fail and you will have the summer of your life! It's important how you dress for the beach.Bring a blanket big enough for you and a girl to lay on. They just don't have the guts to approach them. They are there for the taking. Invest in some nice attractive sunglasses (not the cheap kind).This is your most important item. What this means is that you'll attract the attention of all the hot & sexy beautiful women and that's exactly what you are striving for. Now. That's all there is to it. Dress well and don't just wear a pair of old cut-offs with holes in them. BLANKET . It's a casual and relaxed atmosphere and most of the women are friendly. wine. Why do you think they wear those skimpy bathing suits? It's to turn you on and show off their bodies. Now. and romance.How to Pick Up Hot & Sexy Beautiful Single Women at the Beach This is one of the more favorable and popular spots to meet single women for love. 17 . I will describe some important techniques and strategies to use at the beach.
Buy two of them. Invite her over to your blanket and offer her something to drink or you can invite her to go in the water. Stop immediately and start talking to her.FRISBEE. VOLLEYBALL. In conclusion. beach ball. Also. If you pass a girl that you're interested in and she has her eyes closed. whatever you do don't keep walking by. just approach her and say.With these you can approach a girl and ask. "Want to play?" RADIO . If you do surf.This comes in handy. SUNTAN OIL . I hope I've given you some new ideas you have never thought of before on how to meet and pick up hot & sexy beautiful single women at the beach. Approach a girl and ask if she'd like to do some body surfing. "Weren't you on the cover of Cosmo?" She will be flattered and this opens up a conversation. give her a warm smile and say.Here's one that will always work. Some girls are very attracted to surfers. you can ask her if she wants to play some beach sports such as frisbee. "Would you rub some suntan oil on my back?" You'll never get turned down (as a general rule) and it really feels good having a girl rubbing your back. SURFBOARD . While walking on the beach looking for single girls for romance. They are inexpensive and made of styrofoam. all you have to do is approach a girl and ask her. Most girls don't know how to surf and have never even been on a surfboard.These are known as boogie boards. BODY SURFING BOARD . volleyball. FOOTBALL . "What station would you like to hear?" This opens the door for further conversation and opportunities to get to know a girl and make your moves. body surfing. "would you like to learn how to surf?" If you don't know how to surf. BEACH BALL. Happy Hunting! 18 . Then you ask. etc. It will be a lot of fun trying anyway. when a girl catches your eye. "Hi. What to do is lay near a girl or group of single girls and turn on your radio. You can buy these at Toys R' Us.If you do surf this can be an advantage in meeting single women." If she responds. you can always fake it. Approach a girl you are attracted to and ask her.
If you make eye contact with a woman. They just stare into space or look down at the floor. make it a point to stop staring into space and start flirting with women. approach her immediately! This is an opportunity that must not be passed up because it's an open invitation for you to come over and introduce yourself or ask her to dance."Hi. simply say. keep you flirting eyes out for the woman that is alone. So my friend. keep that sexy-looking gleam in your eye. don't stare at a woman. She is there for a reason and you can be the lucky man to fulfill that reason. if you're like this. make sure you give her a friendly smile and if she is close enough to you. If she smiles back. So. Flirt with every woman in sight. Also while walking. If they do accidently catch the eye of a woman. This is impolite and nobody likes to be stared at. don't give up on her. 19 . the art of flirting.How to Flirt With Single Sexy Women in Bars and Nightclubs While you are cruising the nightclub. Literally try to melt women with your eyes. Just look at her long enough to make it quite clear that you see her and then immediately look away. She is usually the easiest to meet and attract. It's a lot of fun and you will be attracting more women than ever before. they look away as quickly as possible and let it go at that. there you have it. "I know you are there and I would not dream of invading your privacy." Just keep looking at her off and on until you establish some meaningful eye contact and exchange smiles. Try to make eye contact again and smile at her. They just don't know what they are missing and what they are missing out on is meeting women the easy way. What really amazes me is these guys at the nightclubs that don't even flirt with women. If you make contact with some woman across the way from you and she turns away. Whatever you do. What you are saying with your eyes when you look at her this way is." That is all it takes and with practice it will come easy.
ask her to rub some suntan oil on your back. When you return ask her. 20 . and a good-sounding radio. Don't forget the plastic bar glasses! Also.How to Meet & Pick Up Hot & Sexy Single Women at Swimming Pools Swimming pools are one of the greatest places to meet all those hot & sexy single women in those skimpy bikinis you've been dreaming about. Make a complete circle around the pool to check out the available women. resorts. keep walking and make a circle and come back to her. "Can I join you?" Most likely she won't mind. Introduce yourself and offer her a drink. sun glasses. and a Hawaiian or surfer shirt. wine. and Penthouse magazines offer some good examples. Your most important item to bring with you is your ice chest. Also. "Hi" or "Hello" or "It sure is a pretty day isn't it?" If you get a response. an unusual hat. While you're walking and you catch the eye of a female you're attracted to. Turn on your radio and ask her if there's any particular station she would like to listen to. I would suggest wearing some nice thongs. Your appearance is also very important and you want to make a good impression upon entering the pool area. If you've played your cards right and turned on your charm and conversational skills. The idea is to create a refined look and not to look like a bum. Here's the techniques I used successfully to meet and pick up hot & sexy beautiful single women at the pool: You're going to need some very important equipment. instantly remark. now you're looking the part and you've got all your attraction ammunition with you. coke. OK. bring your inflatable air mattress and an extra one if possible. Stock it with an assortment of liquor. I'm going to be talking mainly about swimming pools at apartments. condos. you should be on your way to some romance and fun in the sun. To establish some physical contact. hotels and motels. I would suggest wearing a pair of stylish swimming trunks. GQ. Let's take it step-by-step using these proven techniques: You've entered the pool area. and pre-made mixed drinks that come in cans you can purchase at your local liquor store. country clubs. Playboy. I'd suggest some beer.
and seduce women in nightclubs. Accept the fact that you're going to get rejected some of the time. Also. One of the biggest roadblocks to a shy man in picking up women is fear. Sure.How to Overcome Your Shyness When Approaching Single Women in Nightclubs The following is a guide to use in overcoming your shyness with single women at nightclubs. You may never see her again anyway. block them out of your mind immediately and take action and approach that woman right 21 . The fear of being rejected by a woman can paralyze your attempts to pick up women. attract. Keep this in mind if you get rejected by single women at a nightclub. there is nothing to fear but fear itself. many of who would be delighted to know you. postponing. So what if you get rejected. pick up. Fear that he will be rejected. it's not the end of the world. Being rejected by a woman is just a risk you will have to take and if you do get rejected by a woman. Fear and anxiety will produce distinct psychological consequences and if there's anything that's going to hinder your success in picking up single women. Has this ever happen to you? You see this beautiful woman that you would love to meet. the pressure to succeed won't be so great. reconsidering. We all do. Follow these steps and you can overcome your shyness and start picking up women instead of standing on the sidelines watching other men meet. If you find yourself telling yourself these lies and making excuses. Take action! You have got to practice at picking up single women. By practicing. and have an intimate relationship with. To overcome these fears and pick up women. There can be many different reasons why a woman may not be interested in you at any given moment. and fear that he won't know how to act. you have got to approach it like you would if you were going to jump in a cold ocean to go swimming. these are all delaying tactics that impede action. date. No matter how many women are not interested in you. it is going to be fear. fear that he won't know what to say. Most of these reasons have little or nothing to do with you as a person. stalling. you must remember there are many other women at nightclubs. Believe me. you'll get rejected a few times. Hurl yourself into it. you'll build up your confidence. approach." Pondering. You try to build up your nerve to approach her and you make up an excuse not to approach her like. by accepting the fact that you're only practicing picking up women. Just because you get rejected by a woman it does not make you worthless. "I'm too scared" or "I'm too nervous.
then and there. Don't waste any time or you'll see one woman after another walk right out of your life. Get rid of the idea that people are always watching you. The only people who do this are shy people who spend a lot of time fearing that they are being evaluated negatively. The solution to breaking this habit is to stop judging and sizing people up and you will stop thinking that others are doing the same to you. 22 . The reason you think you are being watched is because you do this to others. Don't worry about people evaluating you unfavorably. sizing you up and evaluating you. Don't delay trying to pick up a woman or you might find yourself delaying all your life and depriving yourself of romance with hot & sexy single women. because the reason for this is that they think they are better than you.
. Here's a simple plan to take advantage of these lovely businesswomen who are looking for some action: • • • • • Begin hanging out at the bars and lounges late at night in the most expensive hotels in your town.. why she is in town. In conclusion. These women get lonely on the road and are looking for some love and affection. goals. "Can I join you for some conversation?" Most likely she will welcome your company and you can talk to her about things in general. This is where you come into the picture to satisfy their needs and desires. like her interests. Where is this place that's a hot bed for romance? It's your upscale and expensive hotels. but if you will be persistent and keep hanging out in the bars and lounges. family. after she's had a few drinks and lost her inhibitions. At the end of the night. Maybe it won't happen the first night. There will be golden opportunities to score with some drop-dead gorgeous businesswomen. I can assure you that you will get lucky. career. Hot & Sexy Businesswomen in Hotels How would you like to meet and seduce some hot & sexy businesswomen? Well I've got good news.How to Meet Lonely.Let me turn you on to a place that's filled with these love-hungry horny women looking for love and romance. 23 . try this little known place to score with women that most men aren't even aware of. Late at night you will find these out-of-town businesswomen hanging out in the bars and lounges of these upscale hotels. etc. just approach her and simply ask. don't be surprised if she invites you up to her room (of course you can always ask her if you can come up and tuck her into bed). Just keep talking to her and turn on your best charm and keep having drinks with her. When you spot a special lady you are attracted to that's sitting alone.
as part of your workout/practice/jog/etc.) is just a universally admired conversation piece that cute girls will use to strike up a conversation with you. Gymnastics is easily learned (3-8 weeks is average for learning a flip) so take lessons if you're not already a gymnast (it's about $40 a month) – trust me.) is: Go to the gym/park/beach/etc.). etc. cute girls (most of who did cheerleading/tumbling/or gymnastics) will come up to you and say. Also. where there are women (especially those who are into athletic physiques). wear a tank top to show off your muscles too. Pretty soon.How to Use Gymnastics and Tumbling Skills to Meet Tons of Hot & Sexy Single Women One of the best ways I've found for attracting the admiration of and meeting women (especially cheerleaders/tumblers/gymnasts/etc. 24 . You and the girls will already have something in common (gymnastics/tumbling/cheerleading). "Wow. it's the best for attracting beautiful women (most of whom were also cheerleaders/tumblers/dancers.. splits. were you a gymnast?". Practice/perform gymnastics/tumbling skills such as flips. etc. The gymnastics (flips/splits/etc. etc. etc.
But I had to do it. You know that every woman loves shopping. being a man and all. the idea of going to the mall and spending an hour fighting for a parking spot just to spend all my hard earned money on people like my girlfriend's parents seemed very unappealing to say the least. Almost everyone celebrates some sort of gift giving holiday. stuck with a girlfriend during the best possible time to meet women I could think of. So when I went to the mall the other day to buy gifts and saw all of the amazing women. You could give him a dirty sock and since its from a wonderful person like you he would cherish it forever!" They will be charmed out of their minds! If you go to the mall this holiday season . and so did everyone else that I could think of. (Just don't tell them that you really don't have any sisters!) And the best part about shopping at the malls during the holidays? The single girls will start conversations with you! When they ask. Not only is it packed every single day with hundreds of beautiful women. What a bummer! Now it's time to get straight to the point. and that includes hundreds and thousands of beautiful single women. the best presents you are gonna come home with are dates and phone numbers from fabulous women! And they say guys hate to shop! 25 ."Do you think my brother would like this shirt?" and you say "It doesn't matter if he likes the shirt or not. Would you mind recommending something for me?" are excellent conversation starters and the women feel very at ease and appreciated since they are doing you a favor.Where to Meet Single Women During the Holidays The Holidays are a great time to meet women! What makes it great you say? Because it has never been easier to know where to find and seduce hordes of single women! The secret to knowing where to find them is an obvious one. The mall (during Christmas time) is the most amazing place to meet single women that I have ever encountered. it made me think twice about having a girlfriend during the holidays! Here I was. Lines like "Do you think my sister would like this?" (holding up a random item) to the more involved "Could you help me? I need a really good present for my sister this year and I can tell by what your wearing that you have great taste in clothes. and you know that during the holidays everybody has to shop! Now for me. but the pickup lines come so naturally that I almost feel guilty.
You can invite a lady to join your group if the opportunity presents itself. The best situation is to go with a mixed group of couples and singles. it doesn't work for a number of reasons. which is essential.Worst Places to Meet Single Women Bars. It could happen.how about coming back to my place?" Right. Sorry.stand against the wall with a beer and watch the single girls walk by? Are you hoping one of them will stop and say. NEVER GO TO A BAR BY YOURSELF! You immediately have the word "LOSER" tattooed on your forehead. you really remind me of Brad Pitt . Only go to a bar with a group and for a reason. The music is too loud for decent conversation. the competition is fierce and the mindset of the single women is all wrong. "Hey. You have a crowd to hang with. but luck is not with you. You are talking and enjoying yourself and you will appear much more attractive than the collection of single dolts standing by the ladies' room. You can go with some buddies to watch a game or hear a good band or celebrate Jim's promotion. What are you going to do . 26 . The conditions are horrible.
and you will. and that you should find someone else. 27 . You learn to survive. Continued life experience will desensitize you to the trauma of having doors slammed in your face. You learn to keep trying. rather than taking the grand plunge all at once is a prudent method of risk management. It is part of "the cost of doing business". of course. She may have compelling reasons for her conclusion that you are ill suited for each other. It is the gripping fear that warns you to abandon hope. It is intimately connected with risk taking. she may hint. Rejection is a part of everyday life. Asking a woman you have just met to become intimately involved with you is an enterprise almost certain to fail. Every worthwhile endeavor at some point involves the risk of failure. Tackle tricky situations in small increments. this icy doom fills you with dread. or even let you know outright if she is willing to go farther). Bounce back and try again (presumably with a different woman). Asking her to share five minutes over a cup of coffee is a more modest proposal. one much more likely to meet with her approval (after that. refused promotions. The woman who rejects you might well have sounder judgment in the matter of a possible relationship than you. rejection by the woman. And often enough our faith beforehand in an uncertified result is the only thing that makes the result come true. rejection by a woman. just that she was not meant for you. saving the both of you a great deal of future grief.Mind Training How to Handle Rejection From Women Rejection. Rejection is not ruin.. Simply "scoping the situation out". the woman who has captured your thoughts. the woman whose touch you dream of . proceeding in small steps. Consider a rejection as a "second opinion" of sorts. This does not. You learn to go on. When you do face rejection. Indeed. declined for loans. the woman whose smile sends shivers of warmth down your spine. Rejection is not final. This is what makes life interesting. It happens to everyone. mean you are worthless as a person. It is the utter desolation of helplessness. accept it with good cheer. rejection can be the precursor to eventual success. People are turned down for raises. There are techniques that can remove some of the sting from the fear of rejection. It is the worm of self-doubt. There is nothing personal about rejection.. It is only by risking our persons from one hour to another that we live at all. and passed over for recognition.
You try to move your legs. In a vain attempt to correct matters.. you forget why you got so shit-scared in the first place. Perhaps forever. Imagine. one may well burst out in laughter. You see. that was fun. hoping that she will return. at one point in our lives. you hesitated and threw away the chance to start something together." A gruesome analogy. Boy. She gets up and walks away.. you'll know that you tried and time will heal your soul. According to my friend who served in Korea. you'll be asking yourself "And what if.. read up on the next chapter 28 . but for some reason an invisible force holds you back. You want to kick yourself. You try to get up and walk over. They're as heavy as lead. You'll never get another one again. You'll be able to look back and laugh the whole thing off. "It's the things you don't say that you regret the most" Look at it this way. Okay. Overcoming Your Fear Of Rejection Imagine this. Just imagine yourself unhappy because for one split second. but a truthful one nevertheless. Don't switch off the computer and rush down to ask your one true love out just yet." "If only I had the guts to. If you don't know anything about asking a girl out. Before you go out and do something rash. having nothing to do with good or bad. You see this gorgeous woman sitting at the table next to you. Your whole life down the drain." You'll be miserable as you'll keep questioning yourself. For your whole life. if you had at least asked herself out. acceptance or rejection. "Hah! What an idiot I was back then. thinking of things that might have been. My advice is to just do it and get it over with. You quickly think of what to say to her. leaving you. "Just do it" Sounds easy doesn't it but we all know it isn't since all of us. "Asking women out on a date is just like killing people. you can't possibly hope to succeed. Your heart pumps.. Take a chance. After a few times. your pulse quickens.Since everything in life is but an experience perfect in being what it is." So go. Okay. you wait at that same spot days after. have struggled with overcoming rejection. You curse your inability to overcome your fear of rejection. I dared to ask the Prom Queen out.
don't take that personally either. Also. it doesn't mean that you're not worthwhile or not good enough for her. She may just be tired. move on to the next single woman and you'll find someone who will respond to your advances. She may not even dance.Misconceived Belief of Shy Men When Meeting Single Women If I Ask a Woman to Dance and She Turns Me Down or If I Talk to a Woman and She Ignores Me. you just might not be using the proper social skills. It's Because I'm Not Worthwhile or Good Enough For Her. This irrational belief causes shy men to fear approaching a woman and produces low selfesteem when they are rejected. So if she ignores you. She just may not feel like talking or being bothered. 29 . even real good-looking men. I might add. a lot of guys get turned down to dance. If you approach a woman and try to start up a conversation and she ignores you. So don't take it personally. can I join you for some conversation?" In the mean time just ask other women to dance. Even better. It happens to all men. "Well. This fear of being rejected and turned down prevents shy men from making contact with single women. However. just ask her again later. "Would you like to dance later?" If she says yes. There can be a number of reasons. If you're turned down for a dance. so don't feel that you're the only man in the world that happens to. She just may not feel like dancing at the moment. Perhaps she's tied down to a boyfriend or even married. what to do in a case like this is to ask her. just ask her. Also.
30 . You are in control and your pride is intact. They don't want to hurt anyone. you can gracefully move on. no one is even interested in what just happened. If you are perceptive enough to notice them. Consider yourself lucky. Believe me. "See you later." How could that hurt? At least you don't have to walk across the gym floor while your friends laugh at you.The Myth of the Line Rejection A woman will not usually tell a guy to get lost in the first fifteen seconds. she may be a barracuda and you have lost nothing. If she does. They are all working their own agenda. Most single women will deliver gentle hints and body language and hope you get the message. You get to say.
Allow yourself to express warm and fuzzy feelings by smiling when it feels right. You pet the dog.this sounds fake. you need to relax. People will think you're doing a Jack Nicholson impression if you don't. Of course. They will wonder what you're up to. You have pleasant feelings and thoughts all the time. It's conditioning. you would just enjoy the moment and maintain your typical poker face.Your Smile People just don't smile enough. especially if you are alone.Style . It's easier. You wake up and see a great day outside. (Now we're getting somewhere.) In all these instances. You go the gym and see an empty treadmill next to that cute single redhead you've been interested in. What's the point of working out those facial muscles if no one can see it? Plenty. You find ten dollars in a pair of pants under your bed. when the moment is over. Careful here . You need to turn it on and off at the right time. 31 . The secret is timing. After a while it will become second nature. People will actually begin to catch you at it. You read Doonesbury or Dilbert. You will begin to smile more. Always. We don't mean to make you a grinning idiot or a used car salesman. but allow us explain.
Their life skills uplift shy youthful lovers past barriers of fear and inexperience. "Ugly" single women glow with a serene inner beauty. oh. Their endless flowing curves.all this develops the personality. I hope you don't fall into the trap that thinking you must date single women that look like the naked women in Playboy in order for you to be happy in a relationship. warm and accepting. to become capable of loving and worthy of being loved. they submerge you in their embrace. forces one to grow. just the type of fantasy woman who would turn up her nose at the shy man. express the very essence of femaleness. Their bodies hold promise of hidden delights.These are the "beautiful people.. big-breasted.. to become fully human. Fat single women are round and cuddly. and a touch of the strange lends spice and excitement to the flowering of intimacy. they radiate love. In closing. to endure pain. Shy men are well advised to stay clear of this particular crowd. their embrace.just as you have. to feel the lash of rejection.." a world unto themselves. 32 . Older single women make better lovers. an intricate and convoluted road map of life itself. the source of life. to choke on embarrassment. Lush and sensuous. ever so much more squeezable than their sharp-edged bony sisters. they bestow patience and understanding. Fellow social outcasts. the Primeval Ocean. Their faces are a study in rococo sculpture. nubile blonde as the ideal love partner. impossible to encompass save by caress. rebounding from failure.. so sweet. Women of different races and cultures blend an aura of the exotic with a tinge of the forbidden. they are real people who have had to grapple with life's hardships.Why You Should Consider Dating & Pursuing Relationships With Single Women You Are Not Normally Attracted to Popular culture depicts a sleek. long legged. You would be surprised that by dating women that you are not normally attracted to can bring you happiness and love beyond your wildest dreams. narcissistic. and why not. as she could choose from any number of ruggedly handsome socially adept men. Diversity adds color to a relationship. Unexcelled as nurturers and teachers. an unfamiliar language of landscape and form. Soft and yielding. unapproachable. smug. Consider instead single women outside the mainstream. They care. learning by necessity to fight . Their spirits reach out in too-long denied explosive passion. and far removed from reality... Struggling with problems. as celebrated in song and folklore.
you never really get to know the real person underneath. she still hasn't rejected me. 33 . Wearing masks causes tension. when all the while the real person underneath might be very compatible with you. In other words. When you are genuine and authentic. for this week's tips I am strongly urging you to be yourself when meeting single women. Since we've all been conditioned to start acting in a way that will create the best impression. Wearing masks requires a lot of effort and wastes a lot of time keeping up the front. We're not sure. life gets much easier and is certainly much more fun. You start up a conversation. but at least if she rejects my mask. Yet. masks get in the way! Guessing about what people are really like and what they would like to see in you takes a lot of energy. what if the masks may be perfect for each other. So. both he and she will come out from behind their masks and slip back into being the person they really are! Then. Especially in that "first-meeting" situation. so the logic goes. the relationship is over. In other words. so we try to act like what we guess that other person will consider both acceptable and appealing.Why You Should Not Wear Masks When Meeting Single Women Let's say you do find a hot & sexy single girl you want to meet who wants to meet you too. You're true personality is going to come out in the end and it's best that she is exposed to the true you in the beginning so there will not be any surprises later on in the relationship. putting on a "mask" or facade is virtually unavoidable. We all want to be liked. especially when we first meet people. it's hard for most of us to be ourselves. And here is another problem that wearing masks cause: Suppose you don't like the mask that the other person is wearing. the mask is also a defense. Don't try to be someone you are not. while the people behind them are not truly compatible at all? A serious problem arises if you fall in love with each other's masks because eventually. With a mask being used as a defense.
Give it some time . If she is rude to her friends. Therefore. Weeds grow very quickly. That's okay. Watch for signs of inconsiderate behavior or unkindness. Men are walking around with a key and single women are walking around with a lock. Adults are fully developed and only change on their own terms. This is what makes it so difficult. While it is true that many keys will open many locks. Sometimes men gravitate to single women like this because they are easy conquests and can be controlled. everything required by both parties must be in place beforehand. She may only accept you as a friend at first. On the other hand she should not be meek and easily manipulated. that's the best place to start. 34 .Don't be a Weenie In a good match both partners are interested in pleasing each other.You . Don't tolerate it. You can get a sense for this very early in the dating process. The strongest trees grow very slowly. The best combination is a woman who is receptive to your initiatives. You will not have any respect for a woman who is too meek and has low self-esteem. most of the combinations will not work. family or coworkers . but is still challenging. A successful relationship consists of two people who match on several levels. Actually. It will not change. Don't let this happen to you.you're next.perhaps a couple of months. This is a character flaw on the part of the guy. she will not change and you will regret it when she is clinging to your leg as you try to escape. Again. What is amazing is that so many couples will attempt to match and stay together even if the lock doesn't open.
. Another variation is to ask for verification of your understanding. eye contact and gestures all contribute to the guest's comfort level. I see . huh. . She is a master of conversation. . By the way a side benefit is that is takes a lot of pressure off of you. . Look at her body language.Why Do People Love Oprah? Watch her carefully. Ever notice how little you learn about her while she interviews guests? Is there a lot of laughter? Is the guest relaxed? How does she do it? She asks simple open-ended questions and lets the guest roll. This shows interest and ensures that you understand. From time to time use simple phrases like: • • • • "Yes. you booked this ski trip on a whim? Right out of the blue?" "Let me get this straight. You could ask her to repeat part of what she said or ask if your rephrasing is correct." "Then what?" Learn to rephrase what she has just said. Maintain a pleasant smile and warm eye contact. Take the last event or idea and summarize it in one sentence." "Uh. If a good conversationalist speaks. She is carefully processing what the guest is saying and preparing her next question. 35 . Posture. . This is a very powerful and useful conversational technique. You have three jobs? One full time and two part time?" "You mean you just walked up to your roommate and said you were moving out that night?" You get the idea. She shows sincere interest in what they are saying and participates without going off topic. "So.Your Rap . The conversation rarely shifts to her." "Oh. . it will be to encourage the partner to continue or move them to another topic when the current one is exhausted.
Shorter Is Better You are now thinking. If you are overweight you can go on a diet and lose weight to become more attractive to women. very important to women. who are not interested in shorter men anyway. Wearing shoes with high heels just accentuates your lack of height and telegraphs to both men and women how self conscious you are about your height. That is the way I felt but the solution is to date single women that are the same height as you or shorter. If you are poor you may be able to get a job or gain a promotion to become richer. Women think how can a man who is short protect and shelter me from harm? Taller men are perceived to have more muscle and more strength. Dating. Now before all you short guys go out and commit suicide I will tell you there are still many single women you can date and marry. All a guy needs is a shorter woman and he can provide women with the same feelings a guy 12 inches taller can provide to a taller woman. Easy. Some women feel that this is "natural" and feel more "comfortable" this way. So you get angry at women wanting something in you that you can't change. Don't look at it that way. You can then dress better. Some men also feel like this. shelter and provide for women. Women feel safer snuggling in the arms of a man who can surround them and protect them from outside elements. Protection The reason women enjoy the company of men that are their height or taller goes way back when men were expected to protect. leggy. The good thing is that shorter men can still provide women with all these needs. great. The more astute reader is going to realize that chasing taller women. There is no damn way you are going to get any taller though. You can utilize your time 36 . How tall you are is very. Attracting Single Women for Romance Height What is the secret ingredient that will attract you to single women without you uttering a single word irrespective of what you wear or what you do for a living or how overweight you may be? It is your HEIGHT. Some men also find taller women intimidating. slender single women that I crave for. I prefer to look at it in a more positive way. If you smoke you can give up the cigarettes and if you are an alcoholic you can give up the booze. When you think about height being important I can imagine a lot of you guys getting very angry. is a complete waste of time. A somewhat outdated notion now but elements of this mentality exist subconsciously in women's minds today.Why Being Short Should Not Interfere With You Meeting. now I've got to eliminate all those tall.
Less Competition You'll find that even a lot of the taller men don't bother with women who are a great deal shorter than them. If you have personality you may be able to dazzle her with it and overcome her natural preference for taller men. One of my ex-girlfriends is an example of this as she is 5' 8" and I am 5' 6". Height had nothing to do with our relationship. You will have to work very hard at it though as it is likely she will not be as responsive and open to you as she would be from an approach from a taller man. 37 . If you have a sense of humor she can relate to or some other personality traits she cannot resist you still have a chance. Don't forget to allow for the additional height women gain by wearing high heeled shoes when judging a woman's height.head straight to the nearest women who are the same height as you or shorter. Ask women friends at work or within your family of all the men they have dated and/or married how many have been shorter than them. Believe me they are some very attractive and desirable shorter women around. Dazzle With Personality If you do really fancy a woman who is taller than you there is still hope. if any. If you are 5' 10" then any woman from 5' 4" to 5' 10" is your go. either in the courting or separating stages but I find this is the exception rather than the rule. Not a bad range is it? If you are 5' 6" or less that still leaves you with plenty of women to meet. Some of them are as pretty and as cute as can be and they aren't necessarily overweight. So the next time you enter a nightclub or bar don't even look at the taller women .better by chatting only to single women shorter or the same size as you. Invariably they will say very few. I have observed the taller a woman is the less tolerant she is towards shorter men. There are exceptions to the rule that single women prefer men the same height as them or taller but 9 times out of 10 you will find single women in the company of men who are taller than them. That leaves you with less competition. One thing you should always remember is that men are generally taller than women anyway. Remember that women prefer personality to looks. Another thing you need to know is that the taller the woman the more likely it is that she will prefer the company of a taller man. Tests To prove to yourself height is important there are 4 easy tests you can conduct to prove this. A 6' 0'' woman is more likely to be with a taller man than a woman say 5' 8" or 5' 6". The guys 6' 3" and above are chasing the women 5' 10" or taller. You had better be quick of the mark because if your fantastic personality doesn't come to the fore quickly you'll find she'll soon tire of you and begin to look elsewhere.
You can be mildly overweight or obese or partially or completely bald and have a better chance with a shorter women than any shorter guy has with a taller woman. In most cases the boyfriend or husband will be the taller. Don't waste your time reaching for what you can't have and stick to the attainable. What you need to do is turn that women's "thing" into your favor. It is not you that has a problem with your height. If you look at men's ads height is hardly mentioned as a desirable physical characteristic The final test. It is women who have a "thing" about height. Lastly. You'll find many have such a requirement. It may be a subconscious thing to women but in many cases it is a major concern nevertheless. The best way to do it is to concentrate only on single women who find your height acceptable. Don't carry on about your perceived lack of height as people will only say you are suffering from "Small Man's Syndrome". don't go around complaining about your height.Go to shopping centers or just walk down the street and look at people who are obviously couples and observe who is the taller in the relationship.all to no avail. and the most beneficial to you. 38 . Look at as many personal ads as you can and see how many single women put in a height or height range requirement of the men they would prefer to meet. These guys invariably keep trying using all their best lines and techniques . Shorter women will more likely give you a chance to impress them. They keep on chasing all the tall women all night when all they have to do is turn around and open their eyes to all the shorter women who find them attractive. These single women are hoping these men would give them all the protection. security and shelter they seek. Conclusion So remember that height is important to single women. That is the last thing you want. is to restrict yourself to shorter women and see how much more positive women's responses to you will be. It is sad watching men at nightclubs and bars chasing women 6 inches or more taller than them and continually getting the brush off.
You can use it for a variety of situations including weddings and New Year's Eve. Buy on sale. Buy a good quality white shirt. Learn to tie a double Windsor knot. You will also need a pair of dark dress socks and a pair of good dress shoes. It may take a while to find the right one and pay for it. Invest in an expensive (about forty dollars) silk tie. You will look great. Buy it where they have a good tailor. This is key. It will eventually pay off.Body Training Clothing You need a least one good suit. It should be made of one hundred percent wool and be very dark. Be sure to buy the right neck size. but make it a goal. but spend as much as you can for a top label. It will last for years. Ask around. Your new suit should fit perfectly. These should always be freshly shined and ready to wear. preferably black. Be sure to tip him. 39 . Check with a tape measure.
Follow this for two to six weeks. and do some strength training one day. depending on your time availability. Work to momentary muscle fatigue within 8-12 reps. lengthen one of your walking sessions to include both walking and weights. Your next goal should be to increase your walking time on the your walking only day. It is best to start walking two of those days.Exercise How do you fit all this exercise into your life? If you are not exercising at all. At this time you may feel that you can add another day of exercise or try a yoga class. here is a good starting plan. Next. increase the intensity (weight) of your exercises. Follow this schedule another six weeks. 40 . then increase the volume on this day by adding a second set to your exercises. Increase it in five minutes increments to 45 minutes or one hour. Try to start with 30 minutes of exercise three times each week. on your lifting only day. Target all the major muscle groups with one set each. Always include some stretching at the end of every workout. What is most important first is establishing the habit of exercise! After you have accomplished this for three months. one day of weights and one day of both. This will give you one day of walking. Follow this for up to six weeks.
Waiters. Walk ahead to doors and hold them open for her as she enters or exits.) Always extend an arm to help her in or out of a car or a chair. Always offer to walk her to her door at the end of the evening. When she returns. valets. A gentleman always stands when a lady enters or leaves a room. If it's a formal occasion let her take your right arm. unlock her door and let her in first. rise again and push her chair in as she sits. Push her chair in.Be Civil in Your Suit . If you have to leave say. Rise and pull her chair out as she stands up. Most of your competition won't bother. and cab drivers are all people just like you. Get in the habit of always doing this. "Please excuse me. If the two of you are walking in together she should be on your right. Always hold doors for her when possible. Be polite to everyone consistently and it will come naturally. If there is no assistance." When being escorted to a table or a seat by an usher or hostess. Open doors. but in any case NEVER use one ahead of her. She will notice.Mister Manners Scores Points Please and thank you. the man follows the lady. 41 . Good. On the way back. Your mom was right. Get out of the car. Be very liberal with these two phrases. You would be surprised how much single women appreciate this. It really sets you apart. walk around and open her door. This is especially true at a table. (Don't be staring at her legs as she gets out. the man leads and escorts the lady into the room. Always offer to help her with her coat.
NY. where offensive bacteria collects.50 percent more than just brushing. everyone has bouts of bad breath. drug store. so people who use excessive amounts of mouthwashes with alcohol might end up with worse breath than they started with. this can be a major turn-off when you are trying to meet and pick up single women. "They temporarily help." Dr.Hygene Are You Aware That Bad Breath Can Prevent You From Scoring With Single Women? If you have bad breath. "Over a 24-hour period. And the main problem is that you may not even be aware that you have bad breath which can instantly ruin your chances of attracting and dating all those hot & sexy single women of your dreams. based in Long Island. The American Dental Association estimates that 40 percent of adults . for instance. Richard Haydon. a dental hygienist and president of Personal Breath Consultants Inc. Tooth brushes aren't really designed to clean the tongue. which can irritate the tissues of the mouth.have chronic bad breath. That includes brushing twice daily for at least two minutes each time. especially the back areas of the tongue. Mouthwashes. these are only short-term fixes.85 million Americans . The most common cause of bad breath is bacteria. mints and gums to to make their breath fresher." said Dr. Ironically. "And flossing's the biggest one. "Food gets stuck between the teeth and starts to rot. will last less than an hour. excess alcohol also causes bad breath." Tongue cleaning is also important in eliminating bad breath.. At the end of this article I will show you how to test your breath. Americans spend more than $1 billion each year on rinses. Today. There's only one way for most people to control bad breath: "Immaculate oral hygiene. making sure to hit all areas of every tooth." said Carol Meyer. A University of Toronto study found that tongue cleaning reduced sulfur gases and offensive odor by 75 percent . The best way to clean the tongue is by using tongue cleaners you can purchase from your dentists. Ted Raybould. a University of Kentucky dentist said. and other outlets. 42 . a University of Kentucky ear. trapped food between the teeth. Haydon also cautions that most mouthwashes contain alcohol. and poor dental hygiene. nose and throat specialist. Unfortunately." Raybould said.
Using the advice contained in this article should eliminate any bad breath problems that can affect your dating and love life. then perhaps you have a medical problem that causes bad breath and you should see your doctor. this is the most accurate method of testing your breath. So. I know you may think it's a pain in the ass to take care of your teeth and tongue. how can you tell if you have bad breath? There are three easy ways. Trust me. date. according to Meyer. 43 . a leading breath consultant: • • • Lick your wrist and take a whiff of it. Swab the inside of your cheeks or tongue with a piece of gauze or cotton swab and sniff. but it's worth it because you certainly don't want to become a failure with women because of something that you can easily correct. and seduce single women. Floss with unscented dental floss and smell the floss. If you follow this program for good dental hygiene and you still have bad breath.It is also recommended while brushing your teeth that you gently brush inside the cheeks and gums and the roof of the mouth. attract. I just can't stress to you enough how important it is to not have bad breath when you're trying to meet. Breathing into your cupped hands and taking a whiff is not accurate.
So. So. Tommy by Hilfiger. we sent our research specialists out in the field and interviewed single women and sales clerks at prestigious department stores to find out the "Top 10 Colognes" that women find irresistible on a man. this being the case. It has a hypnotic and seductive effect. and seducing single women. it can make her sexually attracted to you. Gucci Nobile Weekend Burberrys Fahrenheit by Christian Dior. what are these colognes that attract single women like a magnet? Well. you must take advantage of this aphrodisiac. attracting. Claiborne Sport by Liz Claiborne Eternity for Men by Calvin Klein Hugo Safari for Men by Ralph Lauren. It can be so powerful. Here are the "Top 10" Colognes in random order: Liquid Magnet which contains pheromones. I just can't stress to you enough how important it is to smell good when you're trying to pick up girls. I would highly recommend that you buy them all and experiment to find out which works best for you in seducing single women.Top 10 Colognes that women find irresistible on a man Listen up guys! This is one of the most important tips listed so far on meeting. It's a proven fact that women are powerfully attracted to men that are wearing a good-smelling cologne. Polo Sport by Ralph Lauren. 44 .
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If a woman is truly interested in you. When you learn these signs. then a smile usually indicates interest in you. while holding out her other hand. Biting of the lips or showing of the tongue. While talking to you she is slowly stroking her cocktail glass up and down with her thumb and index finger. especially with stroking and pulling motions. or hand while talking to you. shoulder. This indicates that she's thinking about you and her relating in some way. Her skin tone becomes red while being around you. She twirls her hair around her fingers while she is looking at you. speaks. this really increases your chances of scoring with her. She rubs her wrists up and down. she rest an elbow in the palm of one hand. Plays with her jewelry. She rubs her chin or touches her cheek. She puts her fingernail between her teeth. and uses body language around you that indicates that she is romantically or sexually interested in you. Use these guidelines to tell if a single woman is truly interested and attracted to you: • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • Big smiles with upper and lower teeth showing with a relaxed face. palm up. She gazes in your eyes with deep interest and her pupils are dilated (this could be mistaken for being high on drugs). She blows smoke straight out from between her lips and toward you.Body Language Signs How to Tell if a Single Woman is Really Interested in You It's very important to learn how a single woman acts. thigh. She touches your arm. licking her lips or touching of her front teeth. She winks at you while talking to you or winks at you from a distance. She exposes the palms of her hand facing you. Her crossed leg is pointed towards you or if that same leg is rocking back and forth towards you. She laughs in unison with you. She mirrors your body language and body positions. Eyebrows raised and then lowered. She raises or lowers the volume of her voice to match yours. If she is wearing clothes that shows her nipples underneath and you notice they are getting perky and erect. 46 . While talking to you. you can use this to your advantage. She starts sitting straight up and her muscles appear to be firm.
but this will be to your advantage to know if she's interested in you. she blinks more than usual. If she's not truly interested in you. While talking to you.• • • In a crowd she speaks only to you and focuses all of her undivided attention on you. Memorize these positive signs to determine if she's got the "hots" for you and take advantage of the situation accordingly with your charm and seduction techniques. you will just be wasting your time on her. I know this is a lot of signs to look for. She speeds up or slows down her speaking to match yours. 47 . fluttering her eyelashes.
go away. to fuck off! 48 . She doesn't make eye contact with you. She starts turning away from you. Unless she just doesn't feel good or is moody this could indicate that she's not interested in you and you will be wasting your time.10 Top Negative Body Languages Signs that Single Women Give to Indicate That She is Not Interested in You You lean towards her and she leans back away from you. she just come out an tell you to get lost. She folds her arms across her chest. and doesn't ask any questions about yourself. She doesn't reply to any of your comments. her eyes keep glancing at other guys around her. go to hell. A limp or hanging hand can indicate boredom with you. doesn't answer your questions. Double crosses her legs at the ankle. And last. or ever worse. When talking to you. She touches her nose often while she's with you. She makes no effort to talk to you.
See current movies and read current books. and that you'd like to talk about. Read current newspapers and magazines. inoffensive jokes. Be specific. Become knowledgeable about what's going on in your city. so that your conversational partner gets a lot of free information to pick up on. 49 . Practice telling these stories on family or friends. here are sources for conversational fuel: Come up with 3 or 4 interesting or exciting things that have happened to you recently. it helps to be prepared with things to talk about. You're bound to find single women who have seen the same movies or read the same books. Some Fall-Backs For Shy Men If you're shy and have trouble talking to single women. Communicate your enthusiasm.Opening Lines Dating Tips on How to Talk to Single Women Before you'll be meeting new single women for love and romance. and be prepared to talk about events that interest you. People always want to know more about what's happening locally. Disclose some of your feelings and values. take an inventory of the things that are important to you. Besides the things that are most important to you. Collect a couple of sure-fire. What are you excited about now? What changes are taking place in your life? What have been the most important events or people in your life? What future plans are you most enthusiastic about? Why do you feel the way you do about things? What are your concerns? What is your vision for the future? What are your likes and preferences? The answers to these questions tell her how you relate to the world around you. or practice in front of a mirror or with a tape recorder.
remember. "If you don't want to dance. Follow up with."Do you want to dance?" If she says no. whatever you do."Excuse me.Opening lines Work out a personal "opening line" and try it with endless variations. of a definite "line" in approaching and winning a woman. Practice them out loud before a mirror until you get just the phraseology which sounds most natural. "Would you like to go have a drink after dinner?" Beaches ."Would you like to go have a cup of coffee while we're waiting for our clothes?" or "Could you tell me if I should wash these clothes in hot or cold water?" Pick out a successful Don Juan in your crowd and study his style."This is my first time here."What do you think of the band?" Restaurants . give a good deal of thought to this while you're working. But try to go on "womanhunting expeditions" with him. traveling. parties. Try to arrange some double dates together. the crutch. spontaneous and attractive. Here's a few great opening lines to use when you run across a single woman you would like to meet: • • • • • • Bars and nightclubs . which steak looks better to you?" or "How do you tell which one of these cantaloupes is ripe?" Laundromats . do you mind if I join you for some conversation?" Nightclubs with "live" music . If you do. can I bring you back anything?" Supermarkets . but with the freedom and confidence to vary it imaginatively to fit every new situation and woman. Don't ask him questions. every line and gesture in his technique with single women. don't just walk away. Formulate a number of possibly effective opening lines in your mind and then sit down with a pencil and paper and write them down. Some men need the support. Take advantage of every opportunity to watch him in action and study intensively. He probably doesn't know himself how he does it. rehearse in your own mind. smooth. reading. Go out and practice it. What's good on the menu?" Another one you could use is. with him. Go to dances. the beach. 50 . Practice delivering it in private aloud until you can use it as if it has just occurred to you in response to this particular woman."Would you like to play some Frisbee?" or "I'm going to the store.
whatever you do. the list of effective opening lines listed below is nowhere near exhaustive and should only serve as a starting point for you when picking up girls. This will only make you seem overly critical and annoying. mind if I join you for some conversation?" Concerts "What do you think of the band/orchestra?" If you know something about the music playing (ex. It's been a long time since I've heard such beauty. Try and sound as polite as possible. "The quartet's rendition of Vivaldi's Four Seasons is quite extraordinary. Classical).Effective Opening Lines Listed here. do you come here often?" "Would you like to go someplace else after this. as well. Taxi Stands "Hi! What bus are you taking?" <she replies> "Really! I'm taking Service No. "Sure. Could you recommend me something from the menu?" Note: These methods of picking up girls do not work in fast food outlets. 51 . you could add." Never ever insult the music. this might not be such a good idea) "My name's _______. this is my first visit here. don't just give up. perhaps for some coffee?" Bus Stations.) If she says no. 14. Remember. Follow up with. what's yours" <she replies and you initiate a conversation> Nightclubs And Discos "May I have this dance?" (provided of course. "I'm not very familiar with Mexican cuisine. what would you recommend?" "The food tastes delicious. Try and come out with as many of your own as you can as you grow in confidence." (If you don't take the same bus. Restaurants "Pardon me. you know how to. are a few examples of proven lines you can use to introduce yourself when picking up girls.
macho line." "Why don't you surprise your roommate and not come home tonight?" "I'm into astrology.. scrambled. I just felt like I had to tell you. you wanna go out for pizza and screw? *she slaps you* You: What you don't like pizza? 2)If your right leg was Thanksgiving." "The first time I saw you. instead of "Have I seen you somewhere?") "Excuse me. Besides the risk of getting slapped is high. Well on to the lines: 1)You: Hey. but if they answer yes you're screwed)You: Oh really. "Think you can dance in those shoes?" (Nice. would you hold it against me?" "I can sense that you're a terrific lover. well. I could sense that there was a strong emotional bond between the two of us. WARNING!!!! If you use this it is at your own risk! I do not guarantee 100% satisfaction. could I meet you between the holidays? 3)I'd like to wrap your legs around my head and wear you like a feed bag. divide your legs. What's your sign?" "What a lovely dog! Does it have a phone?" Classick lines "If I told you you had a beautiful body. and your left leg was Christmas. Works best on mean women you've seen once or twice before. I'll tutor. but you are the most beautiful woman I have ever seen. I don't want you to think I'm ridiculous or anything.Joke pick up lines This lines are good for joking around if you want a girl that enjoys a good laugh this could be very useful. and multiply. More joke pick up lines "You shouldn't run around looking like that or one of us sex-starved young men might attack you. ah heck I don't even guarantee 1% satisfaction. lets add you and me." Said this with a grin.. or fertilized? 5) You: Are you good at math? Her: No. (this is the typical answer. and it intimidates me a little." 52 . subtract our clothes. first equation. 4)How do you like your eggs: poached.
would you like to come home with me and help me practice oral declinsions?" "Do you wanna fuck or do you have herpes?" "You've got nice tits."Do you believe in love at first sight? How about the synchronocity of multiple orgasms?" "You've got the bluest eyes I've ever seen." "Can you believe that just a few hours ago we'd never even been to bed together?" "Have you ever had sex underwater?" "I know a great way to burn off the 300 calories in that pastry you just ate." "I've just received government funding for a four-hour expedition to find your G-spot. but I'm also being paid for it. wanna fuck?" 53 ." "Not only am I rude and tasteless and trying to get you into bed." "I'm learning Latin.
natural smile. Remember. sex and more sex. Remember. full of confidence and self esteem. listen to your tone of voice and adjust it accordingly. Take time to think through opening lines you could use. Practice delivering it in private aloud until you are able to deliver your opening lines fluently and without hesitation or any sign of nervousness. Most of us need the security offered by effective opening lines. let me try and explain to you why most of us fear using opening lines. Can you imagine Bill Gates using an opening line like. Imagine this: Pete was walking down the boulevard when he saw this stunning figure in black sitting in an outdoor cafe. Something which should be avoided. So long as you are sincere and treat women the way you want to be treated. she was gone by the time he left the lavatory. Use a tape recorder. 54 . Needless to say. opting instead to perhaps not even approach the lady in question at all!. isn't it? Are They For You? Before we go any further. Let's not be him. babe.Perfecting Your Opening Lines Not only is it necessary to work out an opening line. As for the last one. you will avoid being in that category. "You must be pretty tired 'cos you were running around in my head all night. something we can always rely on. let me remind you that flirting is simply being friendly! Those sleazebags that give flirting a bad name are usually looking for sex. the opening lines must suit your personality. it can be downright FUN!. Say your opening lines out loud in front of a mirror until you are able to roll the words of your tongue naturally and without stammering of any sort. Pete was so nervous that he rushed into the nearest gents to practice what opening line he would "try" on her. Remember to accompany your opening line with a good.?" Scary. You must come across as suave. There is a Pete in everyone of us. Commit the opening lines you have formulated down to paper before you forget them. Most of us are dead scared of using opening lines because: They are scared of rejection They are consumed by inadequacies They are afraid of being labeled as a sleazebag The first two reasons will be dealt with in later chapters. We all know Pete. urbane and most importantly. you'll have to strike whenever opportunity knocks and you'll have little or no time to practice it beforehand so get it right in practice.
Bad Opening Lines
You may have heard these lines on TV. This hulky actor bursts into a dimly lit bar and wins the sexy waitresses with these utterly horrible opening lines. Wake up and smell the cappuccino. These don't work any more. Never have, never will. "What's a nice girl like you doing in a place like this" This does many things. Firstly, you are insulting her choice of "Hang outs" Secondly, you are insulting our own choice of "Hang outs". (You're there, aren't you?) Very stupid, very dumb. "Do you want to have my baby?" Not in this lifetime. Get real. What could possibly make her even want a relationship with a psycho like you?
In bars and dance clubs, instead of asking: "Can I buy you a drink" (shows lack of imagination) Ask instead, "Have you ever had (tried) a Tequila Sunrise?" Select the most exotic, unknown drink you can think of. If they say no they have not tried it, ask them if you could get their opinion on it. Why this is better than the first question is because first you are asking their opinion and secondly, because a direct offer to buy implies a return obligation on their part. For the Older Gang: Did you have a color television when you were a kid. What was the baby’s name on The Flintstones or similar question: This will almost always generate further conversation. For the younger gang, a similar question can relate to a more recent TV show or movie. In the produce department, "How can you tell if these things are ripe?" There are all kinds of grocery questions you can ask and you will almost always get a response but taking this to the next level at the supermarket can be tricky. Women do not always wear their wedding band to the grocery and the husband or wife may be merely lurking on the next aisle. If the coast seems clear, direct the conversation towards food - a universal subject of interest. This is too soon to invite them over or out for dinner. It works much better to invite them (especially if the intended date is female) to a group setting and suggest they bring along a friend. You will call them with the date, time and place. At the laundromat: "How much bleach should I put in with my good shirt". Girls can always ask for help from guys in lifting things. This seems to be universally appreciated by guys, being such simple creatures that they are... Meeting someone thru sports: The gym, tennis court, golf course, lake, swimming pool, bowling alley, jogging lane, horseback riding, auto races, horse track, running, etc. The advantage is that both parties already know they have something in common. The disadvantage is that people engage in sports often to unwind and get away from people. If you approach the first time they have seen you there, you will probably get shot down. A simple greeting the first few times may be enough and then extend the conversation every so slightly each time. Of course, if they show no interest in talking to you, don't be
a boob and keep bothering them. They will spread the word about you and you will be dead meat at that location forevermore. Meeting someone in a group at public events. A safe avenue of future contact. In fact, most young people do not initially date anymore; they just meet someone, usually in the company of others. Small groups of people meet at various places and some eventually pair off. This has been going on forever, but this trend is more common now than it has even been in the past. Besides being safer, this phenomenon is very comfortable and effective because the group itself becomes the icebreaker. Date in pairs or in small groups: This is an extension of meeting in small groups. This phenomenon is also very old and used to be referred to as double dating. At the early dating stage, this is very reassuring and it still works. An offer of an informal first date within a small group has a lower chance of rejection than a romantic dinner at an expensive restaurant. The latter is very serious for the initial stage of dating and runs the risk of too many mistakes and mutual embarrassment. Friend to friend contacts: Many dates are actually arranged via the grapevine. Someone who knows someone who knows someone makes a referral or gives a reference, shares a phone number or even makes the arrangements. Women tend to use this method more than men probably because females are by nature more cooperative; whereas, men are more competitive and therefore more reluctant to share contacts. It is also a known fact (so prove us wrong) that males who have more lady friends tend to get more dates than males who have fewer non-romantic lady friends. So, let your friends be your guide. They may not always choose right, but you will get you more dates.
She loves you not If she's not ever returning a single message you leave at work or at home. She is willing to share you with your favorite pastime She may not be a sports fanatic but she's perfectly willing to let you go off and enjoy games with your friends.. She loves you . She never returns your calls . honest job sound more important to others? Does she wear flats only when she's out with you to give the impression to others that you are closer in height? Does she never let you select your own clothes for dates.. so you're not a petal pulling kind of guy.. She Loves You Not Okay. She'll even join you every now and again to cheer on your favorite team. She loves you . but rather. your talents. your ideas? Do others mention that she was just saying the other day how wonderful you are? She avoids public places with you ... She loves you not Does she try to make your good... don't blow it!! She loves you . your job. This is not a subtle hint that her life is super busy. She says "Let's just be friends" . or she recently invested in a caller ID unit and suddenly you can never reach her by phone. But she will enthusiastically listen to you talk about it for hours and is even willing to accompany you to all the conventions that come to town. She loves you not 58 . a blatant effort to avoid you... She brags about you to her family & friends How often do you hear her bragging about you.. She may not understand the almost religious nature of the deep rumble of a true Harley-Davidson.She Loves You. give it up.. This list will help clarify whether or not she truly loves you without having to pluck a daisy.. She shows interest in your work or hobby She may not have an avid interest in the minute details of the circuit board of the latest super computer. not even occasionally? Either you're a really tacky dresser or she's not quite comfortable with people knowing the real you. See which of those below apply to your situation to determine her true feelings! If it turns out that she loves you.
supports your decisions and gives you great backrubs. say good riddance and let her go.If you get that infamous line . if I'm bored on a Saturday night.."I have absolutely no lust for you and am horrified at the thought of swapping spit let alone anything else with you. She loves you . and don't pick me up late." She loves you . of course. even after you've acted like a complete jerk! You. She says so. What she's really saying is .. She is a material girl . sure.. you loser.. She loves you not If she runs out at the mere thought that your money might be running out. but hey.. Oh. This is manipulation at it's absolute finest. You're better off without her.. she encourages your dreams. She is always there for you No matter what's going on in your life (or hers). She loves you . beware. She is an avid follower of "The Rules" .. you can treat me to a movie.. did beg most humbly for her forgiveness and meant it! 59 . She loves you not If she follows "The Rules" with a zealot's fervor..you are dead in the water. She makes an effort to like your friends She may have to grit her teeth but she will make a concerted effort to like your friends because they're important to you. drinks and dinner."I just want to be friends" ..
he's basically just flailing blindly at the wind. You need to have a plan. When your average gent converses with a woman. Maybe you're at the gym or Laundromat. your therapist. Maybe she's someone you know from work. Or maybe. You want to be charming and in control. even. or end one before it even gets started. what would be the "right" thing to say? Do you have a clue? Most guys don't. Maybe you're in bar. something unpredictable. by the way. your plans for the future. you're actually out on a date. 60 . this is not the "Don Juan" way of doing things. what to talk about and what not to talk about. You need to know what definitely works and what doesn't. something with the power to launch a future romantic relationship. You don't want to leave her feelings to chance or to fate. Needless to say. hoping by chance that something he says will "connect" with the woman and make her fall for him. now you've got to do something scary. You've Got To Talk To Her What do you talk about? Should you tell her about your childhood. you've actually met a woman. In any event.Conversing For Maximum Attraction By golly. the wart on your big toe? What if you can't think of anything to say? What if you say the wrong thing? And.
Bob fails. An example: Bob: You come here often? Kim: Actually this is my first time here. Just moved here from Florida. 61 . I come here every week. Seeds refer to subtle hints that women give that point to conversational topics that they would like to or be willing to discuss. This does take a little effort. but it's not something that men "naturally" do.. she mentions that this is her first time in the club and she just moved here from Florida. It's almost as if she's testing him to see if he has the intelligence or social skills to capitalize on what she says. Try to visualize or "feel" what she's saying. Too worried about what to say next to actually listen to what she said. band. Bob could have properly "watered the seeds" by asking a) How does she like the club. It's pretty crowded tonight. Bob is clueless. It's not very hard to do.Don't Worry. Tons of conversational topics that she has indirectly indicated that she'd like to talk about. But Bob was too worried about himself. So what would be the "right" thing to say? Well. etc? b) What brought her here from Florida? c) How long has she been in the area? d) Where in Florida is she from? e) How long was she there? f) What's it like there? Kim's two short sentences gave Bob tons of information to follow up on. Too worried about the impression he was making. You simply have to concentrate. Now when listening you want to pay particular attention to any "seeds" or free information she happens to throw your way. Kim gives him plenty of free information to follow up on.. I love this band. Focus all your attention and energy on listening to what the woman is saying to you. Be Happy So stop worrying about what you're going to say next. Bob: Oh.
In any event. she will give you free information to follow up on. Jim didn't ask a question (this time). You've got to tell her something about yourself. People do like to talk about themselves and they do like those who listen. If you listen you never have to worry about what to say next because the other person is "telling" you exactly what to say. Kim even subtly indicated that she was attracted to Bob (or at least not repulsed by him). she won't give you much of anything and it will be very difficult to maintain a decent conversation with her.. Even thought about moving there myself. So be sure to listen for the topics she'd like to discuss. Bob didn't pick up on it and blew his chances with her. it is desirable to bring yourself into the conversation when you can relate yourself to something she's talking about or make yourself seem similar to her. You do this by making "me-too" statements. Now in order to converse for maximum attraction. Jim is smooth. You may have heard or read somewhere that people like to talk about themselves and that you should spend most of your time listening and asking questions if you want others to like you. If she's not attracted to you. I loved it. She will throw out some seeds for you to water. This is true. to a certain extent. But. you've got to do more than that. Now if Jim has also been listening and asking questions. if you're goal is to charm this lady. ask questions. Keep in mind that if a woman likes you or would like to get to know you better.. For example: Kim: I really miss Miami. She gave him some free information to talk to her about. 62 . if she doesn't "help you out some" you'll eventually have to admit defeat and walk away. then he's probably doing very well with Kim. Specifically. That is. You need to tell her about yourself. This may have been a conscious decision on her part or it may have been a somewhat unconscious act. He told Kim something about himself that made him seem similar to her. I spent two weeks in Miami last summer. How? She didn't blow him off. Jim: I can imagine. No matter how charming you are. and seem interested in what they're saying. you need to keep two other things in mind. And you need to maintain a proper talk/listen ratio. you've got to "tell her" that you two are very much alike.Do you see the importance of listening now? You must concentrate on what she says and block everything else out of your mind.
and if they were interested in me. but really I am. I am absolutely useless at the game. This makes me get nervous. is recognizing that you don't have your skills perfected and you'd like to improve upon them. other than terrorists. This is where you need to be in the initial stages of flirting. Read on for some tips about getting started. Don't worry! You just need practice at the game of flirting! Most of us truly effective flirts have only become so with years of study and practice! The first step. women don't really want to deal with someone who is so into his image. you can move into the intimate zone . single women will not allow anyone this close unless they are very comfortable and very interested. I would not know. Do your best to stay here as long as possible. I am a Picean. and inquisitiveness! 63 . Dear Lorenzo. There's even good advice for experience flirts here. and then asking for the help you need! Sometimes we look in the media and assume that women admire and desire those outwardly-flirtatious men like the charming playboy or the gruff. I just feel that I cannot talk to them properly. If you get to this point it is a very good sign. and I start to stutter. sensitivity. It also has made me go around thinking that I am not interested in checking out girls. Of course. In reality. who is overdone. so could you help? Picean Dear Picean. When signs of success are obvious and you think you are invited. protective hero. So you are actually ahead of the game with your humbleness. what do I do? I don't know how to get girls interested in me. In a business or social setting we expect people to remain two to four feet away to maintain a comfort level. or get worried about saying certain things. We will let anyone. We are effectively ignoring these people. A lot of the time they aren't even aware of the game going on around them.Personal Space We maintain several zones of personal space depending on our comfort level. who is aggressive. and I'm 23. which you've completed. Advices on Flirting I hear all the time from men and women who don't understand the rules of the game. this range may be used for distance flirting. to remain more than five feet out of range. In general. if this helps.an arm's length or less. or who thinks he knows it all.
and I would really like to get to know her better. He knows that little things count – flowers. sir! The lady is indeed interested.. Stop worrying so much about if you're doing it right. I rarely have a chance to "chat" with her. There is a lady at my place of business whom I am interested in. you need to place yourself in environments where you can practice your flirting and find out which techniques work best for you. smile back big.. But I don't know for sure. He knows when to end the flirtation. and talking about rather mundane things. He is curious about a woman and wants to know her opinions. their opinions. she continues to give me long looks and is constantly smiling or giggling around me. so practice with family or friends too! Just get out there and start flirting! Be confident. or simply walk over to her. Treat yourself to a birthday present this month and give yourself the gift of flirtatious fun." Remember that flirting is also used platonically. go grocery shopping or do your laundry at a laundromat on Friday or Saturday night. Would you please help me out. talk. find and visit a singles' group. My bet is that you already possess some of these qualities and didn't realize that you are already a flirt! Now that you know. Join a drama class at the local junior college. PDN Dear PDN Yes. He has good manners. He has a soft voice.Here are ten qualities that describe a successful male flirt (from The Art of Flirting by J. She may be interested in me. have fun! Confidence is the number one turn on for both men and women. He has a real interest in women. If you have not been 64 . or if your flirting is "working. He is honest and can be counted on to do what he says he'll do. He has the ability to tune the world out when he is with his beloved." what other people think. go for it! Dear Lorenzo I am in need of your advice. talk with your friends and go on "group dates. a good-night call. start trying things out! First off. or what sexual orientation you are! Practice makes perfect . Jillson): • • • • • • • • • • He is comfortable in his environment and projects ease and stability. The next time she smiles. He is confident enough to reveal something about himself. Sincerely. with something extra: a nod. etc.
is curious about his love interest. I have been there for a few months and will be going a few more.. but have we formally introduced ourselves? You say you rarely have a chance to chat? Is this because you are at work and there is no time. What other connections or interests do the two of you have in common that would supply you with the perfect excuse to talk with her? Perhaps there is a concept you are not quite grasping. and asks and respects her opinions. How can I "hint" to her that I am interested in her without being too . as an administrator. which she. Getting to the point. there is the trade you are now learning. you'll know it by her response. could help you on. I am going to a technical school to learn a new trade. perhaps you found an article in the paper or magazine last week that discusses your trade and you just knew she would be interested in it. Most importantly. At this stage. forward. Once you are talking with her. I hide my attraction to her. This at least makes it much easier for you to approach her – the ice has already been broken! I recommend you find something that the two of you have in common. in case she may be involved? I don't want to be embarrassed since I still have to go there to finish my education. currently. Obviously. Dear Lorenzo. If she is not interested.. You're in a great position to let your potential love interest know you are interested in her since she has already made the first move by chatting with you a few weeks ago. that she. A successful flirt has good manners. Being shy. I have a question . there is an administrator there who I find very attractive. She approached me last week and we chatted for a few minutes. But I don't want to forget how I feel and let it go either... Are you having a good day?" You must exchange a bit of small talk two or three times.officially introduced. Or. Be honest. then it will be natural to ask her to accompany you on a coffee or lunch break. but I am also very shy. friendly and polite. say something like. has knowledge and some expertise in. "I know we know each other's names. What should I do? Troubled Tom Dear Troubled Tom. you can put some successful male flirting techniques to work. and too many people around? Try these conversation openers. identify what the two of you have in common and discover an excuse to talk to her again. modified as appropriate: "How did work go today?" "How was your weekend? Do anything special?" "I certainly appreciate your friendly smile. you are still getting to know her and 65 . as the expert. listen to her. Whatever it is.
. charisma.letting her get to know you. Have you ever noticed how the most beautiful people seem to become instantly unappealing when their attitude is ugly? There is a magic that makes someone beautiful. A woman may be initially interested in the most handsome man in the room. What one woman considers the most important element of a man's charm may not be the same element that another woman would consider so. and it is impossible to say what that one mysterious element is for everyone. Have fun flirting! 66 . friendliness. what? Thanks for revealing this everlasting mystery for me! Mario Dear Searching for the Mysterious Element Mario. ask her advice.. Perhaps you could suggest having a cup of coffee or tea together to finish that interesting conversation the two of you started. what holds a woman's interest is a man's personality. Each person has their own preferences for their potential love interests.. approachability .) is important to attracting a woman. she has already made the first move! Now she is just waiting for a mutually-flirtatious move back from you! Dear Lorenzo. etc. Besides talk. confidence.. so the way a person looks is not the secret to holding onto love and devotion. she will soon lose interest. Physical appearance (including clothing. I'm a 25-year-old man. and it's found in that person's charm. Julia Ormond does not. but if that man turns out to be a creep. but you must promise to give every woman the space to have her own opinions and decisions as well! You know that some of the most beautiful women in the world have significant others that people may not consider attractive (Paulina and Ric Ocasek).. but it is not the attribute that will keep a woman hooked. Hopefully. Part of the fun and excitement in the game of flirting is the mystery that is involved – almost required – in it. I can tell you what the general agreement is on what the most important element of a man's charm is. Relax and be confident. Marilyn Monroe had that magic. and share interesting things with her.. After all. physical appearance or . It will not take much to give her the hint that you are interested in her if you want to talk with her. hygiene. So that's the secret element: a warm personality . you have already begun to incorporate this into your own flirting techniques. Above all else. what is the most important element of a man's charm? Is it the clothing.. Going out of your way to make contact with her about things that may seem silly or mundane to others is a sure hint that someone is interested in you.
You want just the opposite effect in making her feel relaxed and receptive to your romantic advances towards her. Last but not least. They make a nice romantic fire quickly. What I buy is the artificial logs. Of course. replace all your light switches with dimmer switches. women love candlelight and it's a great way to get them turned on and ready for intimacy.Methods to Seduce Women How to Seduce Single Women Using Romantic Lighting Is your house or apartment romance ready for seducing single women by using seductive lighting? Let me explain what I mean: When you have a girl come over to your place you need to make sure that it is romantically ready with seductive and soft lighting. Trust me guys. This gives you the ultimate control of creating a soft and romantic atmosphere for seducing your date. Those bright 100 watt bulbs will tend to make your date feel more tense. take these steps: Replace all your 100 and 75 watt light bulbs with soft 40 watt bulbs. is a roaring fireplace. If possible. always use it! Even in the summer . To make sure your place has seductive lighting. the ultimate lighting for romance. 67 .just lower the thermostat on your A/C. is the ever popular way of creating romance is with the use of candles. If you have one.
And don't make the mistake of thinking candles and incense are for sissies. Incense. After she has made her selection light them up and the erotic and stimulating scents will fill the air. With this romantic atmosphere you should be irresistible to women. and put on some romantic music. and Fireplaces In this chapter I will focus on how to make your apartment or house more romantic for seducing single women. all you have to do is dim the lights. All you need are three simple things: • • • scented candles incense firewood or artificial logs These powerful aphrodisiacs really turn single women on and put them in a romantic mood for seduction. Now. Women are very attracted to these romantic gestures and the bottom line is preparing single women for your advances. You will need to go to the store and buy an assortment of scented candles and incense.How to Seduce Single Women With Candles. Then when you have the women over at your place. put a log in the fireplace. get her opinion on which scent she likes before you light the candles and incense. 68 .
How to Attract and Seduce Single Women With Poetry for Romance and Love I know what you may be thinking. etc. near closing time at bars and nightclubs. Who happens to be "All Three!" To:______________(her name) 69 . or when you're leaving the club. I used this poem successfully on topless dancers in the topless clubs: To:_____________(her name) Some girls are nice. It takes a wish. I can assure you that if you use poetry on her she won't think that you're a wimp. Also. She will be impressed! When should you give her a poem? Give her a poem to remember you by when you meet women in nightclubs. Here are some good poems to write on a piece of paper (try to avoid using napkins." And some are "Dear as can be. Poetry is for wimps. it takes a "Sweet" and "Lovely" girl like you! * This poem below is my personal favorite poem that worked best for me on single women in bars and nightclubs. Some girls are "Sweet. use nice paper) to give to her: To: ____________(her name) It takes the Sun and the Rain. a girl like _____(her name) comes along. and lots of hard work to make a Dream come true. It takes the Moon and the Stars. And to make my Life really happy. to make the flowers grow. parties." And once in a great while. to make the Heavens glow. at the beach. All single women in general love poetry and one of the fastest ways to a woman's heart is using poetry.
then go ahead and sign your full name. Call me and let's meet for lunch... If you're absolutely sure she doesn't have a boyfriend or husband.You make me feel. It might not be a good idea to sign your full name to these poems.. 70 . because you are.. Be sure and put your name and phone number on the back of the poem with a message such as: I'd like to get to know you better. An angry boyfriend or husband may come looking for you if he finds it. it's an evening for two.. I'll be disappointed if you don't call. like something special. anywhere.with you. To:______________(her name) I'll tell you my fantasy. It's a judgment call.
So lets look at the reasons you would rater cook at home for your date. needs to be established. you meet the perfect mate. It can be done with ease and your results will be rewarded. is very romantic. and delight the oral fixation of the palette. interesting food. This is often done through dining. interact. for the hot tub. visual. encompasses all of your senses. It is like a kiss. do not rush through the meal. Love is only a plate away. the ones we read about. Setting the mood. It allows you get up from the table. the music. which is presented in a manner to tease the senses. it is like a fine wine. So. you make that first connection. do not forget the clean towels. smell. to the wood for the fire place. 71 . relax between course. you want a memorable evening. to develop. from the flowers for the table. As far as what to serve. Romance is wonderful. I would create a check list. get a date. an event. Make each plate look gorgeous it only takes a second longer. date. Time is the most important factor. The first. such excitement. you can establish a relationship which can develop into the long romantic evening. Then the setting. it needs to be done with panache. the act of serving. that can be discussed on an individual basis. taste. so the proper mood is developed. Guys. When. It is a place of comfort and relaxation. and hearing. the chemistry. or hear our friends talk about. make it a dining experience. do it with style. that feeling in your heart. you have all evening. Like. touch. will make the evening. which allows the magic. So. The table is a place to have a conversation that flows like fine wine. even the aroma in your home. your personal touch.How to Seduce Single Women With Food for Love and Romance The art of Dating is similar to the perfect Culinary experience. inlue of dinning out. and make the first date. to make a meal for a date is far more intimate than heading out to your local Bistro. with proper planning. The Art of food includes all of these senses. To do the work. cook at home. savor each course. your mind races. So it is very important to choose the proper wine.
How to Attract Single Women With Fat Jokes Single women love a man with a good sense of humor. Yo mamma so fat the National Weather Bureau has to assign hurricane names to her farts. people yell. If you can make her laugh. "Taxi!" Yo mamma so fat she has to iron her pants on the driveway. However. Yo mamma so fat she puts on her lipstick with a paint-roller. if she is fat I would use these jokes with caution. and romance. Wouldn't you agree these are hilarious? The women will think so too. It may backfire on you and she may kick your ass or even sit on your face and smother you to death! 72 . sex. attracting. Yo mamma so fat she had to go to Sea World to get baptized. Yo mamma so fat that when she sat on a quarter a booger shot out of George Washington's nose. people try to ride her. it can really improve your chances in meeting. They are guaranteed to make her laugh and make her feel that you are a really fun guy to be with and date. she will really be attracted to you. you say you don't know any good jokes? Well. Yo mamma so fat her neck looks like a pair of hot dogs. Try these jokes for some good laughs: • • • • • • • • • • • • Yo mamma so fat when her beeper goes off. Yo mamma so fat that her senior pictures had to be aerial views. Yo mamma so fat she has her own area code. people thought she was backing up. and seducing single women for love. Yo mamma so fat when she goes to an amusement park. Yo mamma so fat when she wears a yellow raincoat. Yo mamma so fat she sets off car alarms when she runs. I've got some real good fat jokes for you to tell single women that you are attracted to. And if you know some good jokes. dating. So.
or out of date shoes.consider it an investment in scoring with single women. Spend the most you can afford for quality name brand shoes. Visit your local shoe boutiques and buy several pair of stylish and sexy shoes. you're going to make a bad impression and that's the last thing you want to do. Replace worn out shoes. unpolished. Even worse. Shoes are very important to single women. Don't do it! I highly recommend these following guidelines for attracting single women with shoes: • • • • • • • Please keep your shoes polished and shiny. they will judge you by the shoes you wear and how they look in appearance. Why? Because women are obsessed with shoes. romance. and spend a lot of time trying to figure out which shoes to wear with each outfit. if you want to really turn single women off. K-Mart.How to Attract Single Women for Love and Romance Using Your Shoes Guys. etc. and a potential relationship is making a good impression on them. I just can't stress to you enough how important it is to a single woman how your shoes look. Part of the art of attracting women for love. They spend a lot of time shopping for them. Replace worn heels. If you wear scuffed. talking about them (especially to other women). Walmart. 73 . (If your shoes look cheap. wear dirty sneakers. Don't buy cheap shoes from Target. Don't worry about the cost . Being that women focus a lot on shoes. Just look in their closets and I'm sure you will find tons of shoes for every occasion. replace them. Make sure your shoes match your belt. this can make an unfavorable impression on women and they may think that since you dress cheap you must be a cheap and miserly person). I even had a friend that used to wear old unsightly golf shoes on dates. If your shoe laces are frayed or discolored.
sensitive. let the women invest at least a little bit of effort to get near you. Staying detached. avoid the behavior patterns of being "on the prowl" (veritably oozing neediness and desperation). He is unavailable. you play the fool. Wear the shining armour of your very own experience and exude an aura of "forbidden fruit". Running after single women. thus be relaxed and confident in your dealings with the opposite sex. thus he tends to be relaxed and confident in his dealings with the opposite sex. So. desirable shy man. He wears the shining armour of his experience and exudes an aura of "forbidden fruit".Why Acting Like You're Married Can Attract Single Women Like Crazy Why are so many single women attracted to married men. This is a deadly combination. You need not "play games" or prove yourself. what can the single guy learn from all this? Act married. with your tongue literally hanging out. you radiate confidence and strength. obsessed by them? The married man has no need to "play games" or prove himself. panting. just a bit distant. 74 . Above all. cool-calmcollected. of being the proud. strong. and his very inaccessibility makes him highly desirable. Do not let yourself be too accessible to the opposite sex. and yes.
pubic hair stuck to the seat. pubic hairs. etc. Single women really relate to this stuff. Women will judge you on how your bathroom looks. If your bathroom looks like a gas station public restroom with piss splattered on the floor or toilet seat. Make sure that you're bathroom is immaculate. Women are turned off by a dirty toilet and this will make a bad impression on her. I just can't express how important it is to have a clean bathroom when you're dating single women. etc. Also. It could even cause her not to want to date you. pungent smell. salon purchased shampoo. 75 . but single women are different and they will judge you on if you keep a clean bathroom. Guys. Here's some tips on bathroom decorating that will really make a good impression on her. you're in big trouble. rings around the commode. extra new toothbrush (still in the package). Always have good brands on display of colognes. algae on the sides of the shower. are going to turn her off and make you look like a slob. Women will check it out while they're using your restroom to see if you have clean habits. two robes. Rings around the tub. hair sprays. keep on hand big fluffy terry-towels.Tips on How to Use Your Bathroom to Attract Single Women This tip is very important. Make damn sure they are spotless. A dirty bathroom may not be a big deal to you. Clinique men's products. dirty shower curtain. A final word on your bathtub and shower. why not just keep it clean and well-stocked so you will make a favorable impression on her and make her attracted to you because you have clean habits. So.
How to Make a Good Impression When Calling Single Women OK. places she likes to go on vacation. This is considered rude when trying to talk to someone. you have just met a new single girl recently and got her phone number. things she likes to do on her days off from work. it can give you some ideas on where to take her for a date. don't call when you're tired or fatigued. Plus. Now its time to make that all important first phone call to her. I would also take notes on our conversation. Don't eat. her personal and career goals. please don't drink 3 or 4 beers to get up your courage to make that first phone call. You won't be able to think straight and you won't be mentally sharp. please. with no distractions. You're really going to make a bad impression by coming across as drunk. When making that first phone call I know you're going to be a little nervous. Plus. Don't start every other sentence with. etc. I would never be at loss for words when talking to her. what questions I wanted to ask her (be sure and don't sound like you are interviewing her for a job). Please.. chew ice. Are you prepared to make a good impression on her so she will be interested in dating you? Guys. Speak clearly . it will show up in your voice too. I would write down things she was interested in. 76 . my last piece of advice is the most important one. What's the purpose of this? This way you'll know what things she likes to talk about. That way. places she like to visit. Turn off any radio or TV in the background. and topics of conversation to discuss. her favorite restaurants."uh. Here's what I would do before calling her: I would get out a note pad and write out what I wanted to say to her. People always love to talk about things that they are interested in. her hobbies.. or smoke while talking to her." And. You're personality is just not at its best when you are tired.don't mumble or whisper. but don't screw it up! Let me give you a few pointers to insure your success in making a favorable first impression when making that first phone call: • • • • • • Whatever you do. I just can't stress to you enough how important that first phone call to a woman is and you will be judged on what you say and how you act towards her. You want her undivided attention.
and that you are a catch and it states all of this without uttering a single word. women are very competitive. to express their sensuality and to test their alluring abilities. there is more than one woman vying for his time. Women love to flirt. or has a steady girlfriend.even when you don't have a girlfriend. He is not out on the prowl. it makes him safe. But women want to be able to do this without being "hit on" or "come on" to. To understand this trait. that you know how to treat a woman. 77 . He must have things going for him or she wouldn't be with him. Though most women will deny it. They love to prove the superiority of their seductive abilities by being the one to catch the man that all the women want. He is going to be hard to get . If a man is with another woman. I will show you many ways to be seen with women and many ways to suggest that women find you attractive . He must know how to treat a woman.a catch. than a man who is safe. So who better to flirt with. The lure of competing for the popular guy is strong indeed. and to feel comfortable with. It says that you have things going for you. Women love to show off their date when they know all of their friends are envious. one has only to look at what it says about a man when he is with a woman. But how does this help you if you don't already have a girlfriend or a date? Throughout the book.Other Stuff How to Attract Women Women are attracted to a man that other women find attractive. After all. Being seen with a woman is probably the single most important thing a man can do to help his image.
PLEASE. When these women hit this THRESHOLD. much better than that. 78 . After "spreading their legs around" and sleeping with one jerk after another. You deserve much. More mileage doesn't make her any better. They had enough pain. What a joke. someone young. So. if you decide to get into a SERIOUS relationship. with low self-esteems and lousy Self-Images. The really SAD part is that there are so many NICE guys out there. If you go to a dealer to buy a car. get married and have children. You deserve the best women on earth. Or the guy who "knows" how to "ignite" those incredibly intense emotions in her. she is at the COMPLETE MERCY of this ancient and useless MATING instinct that totally blinds her and she MUST go after the guys she cannot control. It is your birthright to have any woman you want. a nice guy. Some single women never learn and will continue dating jerks. So. contrary to what you were told. They learned their lesson. fresh. getting involved with jerks and even marrying jerks over and over again for the rest of their lives. When the time comes. ALL THESE WOMEN in the second and third groups will select a NICE GUY to have the DUBIOUS honor of being their husbands and the parents of their children. Since a jerk will never stick around. to protect them. full of life and who still has an APPRECIATIVE and LOVING attitude toward men. they select YOU. And now they decide to settle down and get married. the guys who are hard to get. No more jerks for them. who will marry these women. respect yourself enough that you will select a woman who has "VERY LITTLE MILEAGE" under her hood. Even if she really meant it.Should You Pursue Single Women With Lots of Experience? Here's an interesting article I ran across in one of the newsgroups by an anonymous author several months ago I wanted to pass along to you about dealing with single women: MORE MILEAGE DOES NOT MEAN BETTER . take care of them and PAY FOR THEM.Don't you ever believe any single woman who tells you that she really wants a nice guy. not just LEFTOVERS. And there is a third group who will be worried that their "biological clocks" are ticking away. When getting a woman you should be even more careful and cautious than when buying a car. their Self-Images experience an automatic shift. they decide to settle down. A second group will get to the point where the pain caused by these jerks is so much greater than any pleasure obtained. And guess what?. you would try to get either a "brand" new car or at least one with the least amount of mileage. wouldn't you?. Why?. Their genetic programming was changed.
There are some exceptions to this rule. Clearly if you walk up to a complete stranger and begin talking. If she wants you to touch her breast.. As for the moment just before you kiss a woman. her anything else." Instead.if a woman rubs your ass. do not feel they need to pressure us with sentences like these: "I've been watching you. you don't want to assume anything. I think you're really pretty. And these women will bring into any NEW relationship ALL THAT GARBAGE of their hurtful past. you think this person is attractive. Let the woman lead you when it comes to making out.e. We know when men want to kiss us. be okay with that. used and abused by so many guys in the past and they ERRONEOUSLY start to think that "all men are dogs".. Respect that. if you're not busy Friday night. 79 . revengeful. well. vindictive and real BITCHES. it is not an invitation to grab her ass. They will be resentful. We know when a guy is looking at us because he thinks we are attractive. Be specific and to the point. Duh! Say something like this: "Would you like to dance? Would you like to go to the movies Friday night? Would you like to meet for lunch tomorrow?" Don't be scared to death and don't be overconfident. We can "feel" these things. And just because a woman kisses you. if she wants) is perfect. Single women are intuitive and can pick up on subtle hints. be okay with that too. um. Again.Simply because all these very "experienced" women ALLOWED themselves to be hurt. If she doesn't lead you to anything other than a kiss. "Do you want ot have sex?"). I was wondering if you'd. If a woman is not assertive enough to lead the making out. Dating Tips From a Single Woman's Point of View Subtle flirting. this is not a rejection of you. like to do something. uh. Um.. frustrated. a simple. It is the boundaries that she has set to protect her conscience. but not very many. her breasts. it's a pretty safe bet you can reciprocate. "I'm going to kiss you now" with a slight pause (so she can refuse. Each part of a woman's body holds its own rules. assume the woman knows these things.. In an age of date rape and feminism. you shouldn't be making out with her in the first place. she'll move your hand there or she will give you the go-ahead with what she does to you.(i. If it's at 3rd base that she decides to stop. We know when men want to ask us out. Men who realize this.
Jayda..you are providing a wonderful service ..Single lady giving advice on how to meet and attract single women I would like to share with you an email I received from a single lady giving advice on how to meet and attract single women. Here's her email exactly as I received it: Hi.a semi clean joke memorize at least five .just casual conversation.if she is still a little abrupt ..tell her that she has given you encouragement.leave her alone .If you have ANOTHER joke . Now after a half an hour .then back off .but then who am I to say. such as.Tell the joke .and not a threat..and unfortunately that one attribute generally dictates who does the choosing as callous as it sounds.It seems to me that a man using this slower approach has better chances than an aggressive man . If she keeps talking .again.Hopefully she will giggle . It's always nice to hear a woman's perpective and views on how to meet her.great .travel back her way .I suppose it was rather improper of me as I am a single woman and wanted to know the techniques by men . 80 . may I inquire as to what it is? .she now thinks of you as a friend .my sister has been looking for a unique fragrance" .so I would know when they were interested in me ..get out of her space as quickly as you came into it . I really enjoyed your introduction to your book (Basic Seduction) .you are home free . Now you are "buddies". Good luck on your wonderful accomplishments .do it now . no sexual threats..Go up to a girl and ask her if she thinks this joke is funny as a buddy said he could not stand it . I have found that no man should "hang around" for more than five minutes . In my experience.. "I admire that perfume.dont ask her to dance .the best approach is a joke .I am lucky as I am considered attractive .no matter how good looking .if not .
have a drink (just one). We are uptight. Dating is simply an opportunity to go out and play with someone new. Here are some do's and don'ts for your next date: • • Do get out of your own head and stop analyzing every detail. Wear something decidedly unbusinesslike. This misguided effort to control casual conversation ends up stifling it. loosen up and let yourself go. It doesn't have to raise our blood pressure. Read it once. This is just a reminder that you learned your ABC's many years ago. Do drop your professional persona. So to kindle your personal summer fires. There is no standard of perfection upon which to measure our meager efforts. Take deep breaths. Relax. frustration and performance anxiety. It won't make or break us. We must be seen to be known and to be loved. If it helps to loosen you up. Be playful.The ABC'S of Summer Dating As the weather warms. then no one will see us. hoping to cover up our numerous failings and inadequacies. Always Have Fun Unfortunately. expecting to find answers in our heads. While we can certainly keep our eyes on the prize – a meaningful romantic relationship – dating shouldn't become an intellectualized effort to conquer or prevail. but don't write it down or memorize it. Many singles find themselves wanting a little romance to wile away the long summer nights. and meticulously analyze every detail. As we strive to become the perfect date – the one with the right job. Laugh. 81 . the right wardrobe. so too do our hearts and libidos. dating has become an activity fraught with angst. What follows is some old-fashioned dating advice. Tease a little. something your mother might have whispered into your ear right before a ninth grade dance. Dating isn't rocket science. a stunning intellectual prowess and stellar conversational abilities – we lose some of the spontaneity. charm and personality that is uniquely ours and we aren't much fun. Flirt. You already know everything you need to know about dating. or lower our self-esteem. Pay attention to what you are feeling. dating isn't a game of deceit and manipulation. counter to what the authors of books like "The Rules" may want us to believe. It is seldom our perfection. we carefully steer the email exchanges or face-to-face conversations in another direction. insecure. and. Change your tone of voice. and more likely our humorous idiosyncrasies and imperfections that kindle the fires of chemistry. rather than our hearts. If we relax and let ourselves have a good time. This is a step in the wrong direction because we are a better date and are perceived to be our most attractive when we are laughing and having a good time. On a first date we worry about the impression we are making. And if we suppress who we are. Are we tall enough? Thin enough? Young enough? Hip enough? Since our self-assessments always seem to come up short. dating can be as easy as A-B-C.
Don't steer the conversation. • • • • • Lose the pickup lines. they are always obvious. Remember that people tend to be attracted to those with an intact sense of self. she isn't. or to the beach to fly a kite. Go with your gut instinct and make a move. over time. Don't inflate your accomplishments or try to peddle a bill of goods to your date. Don't date someone you don't trust. If she tells you she isn't ready for sexual intimacy. The quietly confident are perceived to be intriguing. we must do so in a non-demanding manner. all at once on a first date can be overwhelming. We will all save each other a lot of time and unnecessary angst and ambiguity if we simply tell each other the truth. Go see some stand-up comedy. and few of us have to exaggerate our personal histories in order to shine. Dating isn't chess. and tend to label you as a "player. So leave well enough alone. beautiful. see where it takes you. If he tells you he isn't looking for marriage. Here are some guidelines. Take your date rollerblading. Don't over think every possible behavioral choice." Avoid excessive disclosure. Respect your date's truth. Share most of your thoughts and ideas as they come up. There is something very powerful and sexy about someone who knows what they want. Introduce your life gradually. Instead. we should let that person know. That relationship won't take you anywhere you need to go. funny or intriguing. To tell the whole truth. Don't beat around the bush or drop subtle hints. When we aren't attracted to someone who would like to pursue a romantic relationship. Act as though your date was an old friend-someone you can count on to enjoy a good time. Be Genuine We are all more impressive than we imagine. tailored honesty is the best policy. believe him. Take a conversational risk or two. In fact. Ask for what you want. and is willing to ask for it. To tell the truth is important. 82 . even sexy. privately and tactfully. Do something fun and laugh a lot. these efforts at embellishment can diminish us in the eyes of our romantic counterparts. As we convey our interest in someone. when we find someone interesting. Ships do pass in the night. we should say so.• • • Don't self-censure. Guessing games often have unhappy endings. sometimes never to pass that way again. This means that the truth we tell should be delivered in a context that is appropriate to the situation at hand. are perceived as corny. Speak up. Even when they come from a genuine desire to flatter someone. When dating. It's unfair and manipulative to expect someone to reciprocate our feelings. Likewise.
say stupid things and laugh with pieces of broccoli stuck in our teeth. don't let dating scare you. a bad date is no big deal. There are a few heartbreaks out there with our names on them. and we all fall for the occasional cad in angel's clothing. We can't avoid every embarrassing. 83 . but giving up is catastrophic. In the scheme of all things mighty and insignificant.Courage Means Fighting The Fear Finally. or chased by the wrong someone. We all get dumped. We're supposed to make ridiculous mistakes. awkward or regrettable moment and successfully pursue a romantic life. The chances are good we will be turned down and burned now and then. and your romantic clock is once again ticking away to the rhythm of your heart. Time and opportunity wait for no one. just as there are some special people who will bring a light to our hearts and a laugh to our lives that will forever change us. Summer is upon us.
Appearing needy is bad. you would think that date rejection is the same as life imprisonment. Tip 1: Expect rejection. A slight air of nonchalant or independence has an attractive quality to it that appeals to the opposite sex. The more you date. Tip 2: When rejection occurs.. Do not expect high success rates in singles bars and dance clubs. common places instead. subdue bad guys. do not take it personal. Think of it as fishing where you know you will have to put your line in the water many times. The worst consequence can be no more than no. This shows that you are sincere and not shallow. Do not try so hard. Especially grown men who every day fight fires. NA-DA. If you gave up that easily in fishing. rejection. Tip 5: Expand your horizons. you would never catch anything. The holy grail of terror. It will happen. Many girls find it to be a positive trait in guys who date girls who are less than stunningly beautiful. For many of us.. The game is most wary in these places. jump out of airplanes or slay dragons. Actually talking to a girl or guy for the first time and so on. everyday. tame wild animals. next one please. but cower in fear at the thought of asking the girl of their dreams out for a night. 84 . Tip 3: Pick you hunting grounds carefully.. Try normal. your rejection rate is going to be much higher. The most successful date makers laugh in the face of rejection and simply try again. the electric chair or a slow painful death by fireants. If you must date only the best looking guys or prettiest girls. Here are some tips that may help you slay the dragon's fear of rejection. the more skilled you will become and besides. master mega corporations. there is no known correlation between physical appearance and dates that are the most fun.Asking a Woman Out Getting The First Date Getting that first date. Tip 4: Sincere is good. try many different baits and numerous fishing holes before you make a catch. thanks but no thanks. Asking the girl or guy out. Tip 5a: To the Guys.
her facial expression. Memorize these words. Don't pursue it further. If she is interested. If you do get a positive response. while not considering it necessarily negative. You imply a formal date. The pressure is on her." You literally sound like a junior high kid asking a girl out on his first date." or "No. her verbal response may be "no" or it may even be "yes" to save your feelings. I want to go out with you but I'm busy that night. now that you have teased her with talk of a date but offered no specific plans. She may even lead the conversation to making a specific time to do something. you are never sure whether to ask her again for another time. When you do use them. Although those may be possible reasons. you can either pursue the conversation and arrange to meet on a casual date or leave it until the next time you meet. The right way to ask a single girl out is. simply are unable to comprehend why beautiful girls would and do date less than the best looking guys. that females or more likely to consider other positive traits besides physical appearance. No big deal. The bad way to ask a girl out is. "Would you like to go out with me?" By saying this: • • • • • You set yourself up for rejection. you give an impression of a casual meeting. and her desire to drop the subject will let you know she is not interested. She might say no. You are making a move on her. By saying this. I don't want to go out with you.Guys on the other hand. If she does not want to go out with you. Friends getting to know each other. put the sexual references back in the joke can. 85 . Ways to ask a girl out There are good ways and bad ways to ask a single girl out. You are being elusive and playing hard to get. they would get a whole lot more dates. Was it. "No. Tip 6: Use pre-packaged pickup lines sparingly or not at all. Instead of wasting your time on trite pick-up lines. If you say this. her response will let you know whether she wants to date you or not. You know she wants to get together and she will be waiting. If guys would play by the same rules. but also her tone will be positive. Guys usually think the reason is because it is because the guy either has lots of money or is exceptionally good in bed. think of instead of using conversational and situation icebreakers. but her tone. it usually does not occur to the male species. If she says "no". "Let's get together and do something sometime". You imply that she would be doing you a favor by going out with you. she will respond in the positive. Her anticipation works in your favor. Not a formal date. The expression on her face will be positive.
You know for sure whether she wants to date you or not. "Let's get together and do something sometime. Remember it. You are making a statement which says something about you. The implication is that you are doing her a favor. you have not really asked her out. it will also make you lose confidence when asking other girls out to go dating. forget about it. You are throwing out an offer. Remember. The Magic Line Instead. She is not doing you a favor by going out with you. Memorize this opening line. why don't you say this line? It's proven to work. If it's negative. it rarely works." Not only is this very demoralizing. you have not even asked her for a date yet! Now is your chance to observe her reaction. I'm not free" (By far the most popular rejection line) because you haven't set the time yet. I'm not free. she can't say. Never forget it.The beauty of this exact phrase is: • • • • • You are not set up for rejection. After all. not a formal date. This does two things. it sets you up for rejection. what's the best way to go about asking someone out on a date? Here's what NOT to do: "Would you like to go out with me?" This may sound like a logical way to express your interest in her but believe me. unless she already harbors a crush on you. there is no pressure." Now. It's easy for her to say "No. "Hey! I would really like to get together and do something with you sometime. In fact. You aren't asking her. Secondly. fun-loving person who is doing things. Firstly. friendly. Bad flirting technique. you feel scared to ask her out because you know how easy it's for her to reject you. Now re-read that phrase. "Sorry. You've made a statement. It implies a casual get-together to get to know each other." See how much better it is than asking a question that may get you a wrong answer? Asking Someone Out On A Date Now. After all. You are the type of person that likes to do things with friends. and of course she would like to participate. you haven't asked her out yet so you haven't been rejected! Using this method will protect you 86 . You are a confident.
Look. It went something like this. one of the teens that read this book reported that when he used this line on a friend. How about Lunch at Tony Romas on Tuesday?" Firstly. I really cannot make it. like what?" and he was never rejected outright. "No. continue with: "You know. there is no way you can force her to go out on a date. This is much less painful than having. on the plus side. simply ask her when she will be able to make it. Him: What about Saturday? Her: Not free. this method isn't fool proof. I would really like to go out with you when you're free. "Sorry not free. 87 . it is of interest to note that because he said "Hey! I would really like to get together and do something with you sometime" She had to reply with.from rejection and make you more confident the next time you try and ask a single woman out. If she really is not free that day. This method is best used when asking face to face. But if she lights up and says "OK" or if she emits any one of the signals explained earlier." simply because it'll make her sound like a complete idiot since she has already said that she would like to go out with you. she can't say. Him: Next Saturday? Her: Sorry. "Okay. ever." Another method she could have used to dissuade him would be to explain that she already had a boyfriend. For example. By all means try saying it out aloud yourself. However. Him: Sunday? Her: I'm busy. she kept on saying that she was not free. If she does not want to go out with you. And never. He took the hint and ended the conversation. although it did sound pretty awkward. use ICQ (or any other instant messenger). Secondly. she has to be free sometime right? Using this proven technique will ensure that you score when asking single women out. "Would you like to go out?" answered with an outright. It might be easier for you to ask her out on the phone but remember. it is also easier for her to reject you on the phone as well.
If you do get the date. This is because if she is someone popular and much sought after. In other words. 88 . a good atmosphere to get to know her. It indicates that you don't have a date for the weekend with someone else and therefore you may have trouble getting dates. you have an active social life. she would have to turn down other.Week Nights VS Weekends Avoid asking a single girl out on a first date on a Saturday or Friday night. The chances of her being free are greater. if you ask her out during the week. she has no way of knowing whether she is going to have fun or not. And you have turned a dull weeknight into a good time for her. so the pressure to create a lasting relationship is there. After all. and go into the evening regretting having to turn down others. the odds of her being busy are so high that she may have to turn you down. perhaps more desirable offers because of her commitment to you. even if she does want to go out with you on a date which creates feelings of uneasiness straight away. On the other hand. Week nights imply casual dating. you imply that you are busy on the weekend. The last thing you would want to do is scare her. The weekend implies formal dating.
you're not obliged to go out on a second date. Maintain control of the date throughout. thus increasing your confidence level. you should assess how the date went. she will probably say something like. this period will be full of tension as both of you are unsure of what to say. You're more than just attractive. Do you want to go out again? Answer this honestly and truthfully. even till the end. Often. 89 . Give the clear message that you are not desperate for action. when the date is still going well. I enjoyed myself very much this evening and I would really like to see you again. It is of utmost importance that you avoid this awkward period by announcing to your date.hate to end the evening because you've had such a great time. You have a very unique face that's so exotic I can't explain it." Don't push your luck. A good way to express your interest in seeing her again would be. giving yourself a sort of "rarity value". Neither is she. so she will have to step up her efforts if she wants to seduce you. Taking Stock If this is your first date. hoping to get "lucky". "You're a really nice guy but I don't think this will work out between us. you: Set yourself apart from her ex-boyfriends. "You know." Just say this to your date and watch her reaction. Now's the perfect time to ask if she would like to go out again. If she does not want to go out again.Ending The Date Whenever you go dating. that you ".. why? Lack of communication maybe? Stage fright? What? Did she enjoy it? This you can easily tell from the vibes you get from her. you will often encounter that dreadful time when your date announces that she has to get back.. I can guarantee you her face will light up with a smile and she will radiate warmth towards you. but it is getting late and. Answer these three questions truthfully and honestly: Did the date go well at all? Did you have fun? If not." This will surely take her by surprise since most people.. By ending the date.. and certainly most of her former boyfriends would try and hang on. Remember. There's something very special about you I noticed you the second I first saw you. There's something very unique and original about your look.
keep your clothes on during a first date. choose an activity in which you don't have to strip down to participate. and the quiet and privacy of being out on a trail provides a perfect environment to get to know someone.She's already gone out with you and drained your money so don't throw more money down the drain. my boyfriend took me hiking and packed a lunch with all my favorite foods. And picnics are always romantic. and sometimes even foot the bill for dinner and a movie. You have to risk embarrassment. If the date isn't going well. But first. It was totally sweet considering that he went out and bought the ingredients to make my favorite sandwich (none of which were on his usual grocery list): tomato. Great Dates Elizabeth: "On our first date. you don't want to be stuck with someone all day. don't go somewhere so isolated that you can't take off when you've had enough. as you'll see. • • • Make it short. obsess over fresh breath. and Swiss cheese on whole wheat bread. for example. Choose an activity that can be accomplished in two or three hours. avocado. What's the takeaway: While hiking can be a great first date. your only recourse is to jump overboard. to be on the safe side. all that privacy might not be a great idea if it's a blind date or a date with someone who isn't already part of your social scene. I've hounded some very good friends and gotten them to cough up their best first dates. here are some guidelines for a planning a first date. it's a low-cost activity. Ouch! We feel your pain. alfalfa sprouts. Forget about that all-day cruise around the city. If you're self-conscious about your bod. Do you really need to show your potential partner all the merchandise immediately? Unless you're completely confident about your body (and who really is?). Places to go Great First Dates First dates are rough. Hey. Here's the good news: a first date doesn't have to be a pins and needles experience. Stay away from beaches and pools. It doesn't even have to cost very much. If there's no chemistry." Why it's a great date: Hiking is not only great exercise. Use common sense before heading out into the woods with a complete 90 . avoid any body of water. We hope they inspire you. For the same reason.
S. Jennifer: "When I was in college. [Side note: at the time she was a practicing vegetarian. she's been eating meat ever since." Why it's a great date: Scary rides provide ample opportunities for spontaneous cuddling. Try to schedule your date on an off-peak day or time. 2 Dodger dogs and a couple of ice cream bars sealed the deal. Vanessa: "I once spent Valentine's Day at the Huntington Gardens in San Marino. What's the takeaway: Singles aren't the only ones who enjoy amusement parks. we did get in a couple months of wine on his roof (among other things). the weather didn't cooperate and we ended up soaked and freezing cold from walking around in the rain. museum. are the best. [a 207-acre estate. CA. and you've got the makings of a great date. silently resenting each other. What's the takeaway: Even a ball game can be romantic if you're with the right person. we climbed on his roof with a bottle of wine to watch the stars. we ended up in front of a fireplace.A. or you risk ending up sweltering on a never-ending line. and botanical garden] with a date. Although we didn't turn out to be lovers for life. It might have been a disaster. Isaac: "Go to an amusement park.]" Why it's a great date: A sporting event provides great people watching and a guaranteed source of conversation if you find yourself tongue-tied. Plus. Unfortunately. P. why not check out the tourist sites that are right under your nose? What's the takeaway: Check the weather report. Marc: "For our first date. We shopped for all the food together." 91 .stranger! Make sure someone knows where you're going and whom you're going with. And don't forget the sunscreen. Summer nights in L. Let's do the numbers: 9 innings. this cute skater asked me to make dinner with him at his place." Why it's a great date: Sometimes it's fun to be a tourist in your hometown. I took the woman I would eventually marry to a Dodger Game. 4 beers. and taking in views of the downtown skyline at sundown while watching America's favorite pastime is pretty close to perfection. Instead of letting the out-of-town relatives have the local attractions to themselves. you might spot Micky or Goofy. We ate by candlelight on the floor of his living room. and I helped him make a gourmet veggie pasta dish. and afterwards. getting all warm and cozy. but there was a surprise payoff: afterwards. Add the crucial first date element of being with someone who was already a great friend (but we both knew that there was something more than a friendship going on). but that night I coaxed her into trying her first Dodger Dog.
Kite Flying . I do all the cooking and wait on my date hand and foot. Head for your local park. Your date will really be impressed and this is one of my top choices to take a date to. So. Kites are 92 . beach. etc.One of my favorite things to do is to invite a date over for a candlelight steak dinner and champagne. and it's all too easy to end up horizontal. if you really want to make someone feel special and have a romantic evening. so I attempted an olly and broke my arm. you can hide any awkward silences by chopping those carrots a little harder or stirring the pasta sauce.This really makes for a fun date. What's the takeaway: Wear protective gear. Dinner Theatre . The Top 10 Places to Take Single Women on a First Date If you really want to impress single women on a first date and make her fall for you. We were with a bunch of friends skateboarding and I thought I was cool. Add a little wine and some good music on the stereo. Also." Why it's a great date: Group activities are a low-pressure way to get to know someone. What's the takeaway: The only drawback to these kinds of dates is your proximity to a bedroom. you'll stand out among the other guys she's dated and she will want to be with you again and again. By being unique and creative. Dinner at Your Place . Just keep taking a single woman you're attracted to on one fun and creative date after another and she's bound to fall for you and want to make mad passionate love to you. do this for a very special date. I really make my date feel special. And you get a chance to check out your date's CD collection. take her on a unique date she will never forget. Jenny: "My first date with my present boyfriend took place at the hospital. Boom! I fell in love. or any wide open space.Stop by any toy store and pick up a kite and go on a kite date. even if you hadn't planned on it.Why it's a great date: When you cook dinner together. Try it.There's nothing like good entertainment while you're eating. He stayed with me all night. especially if you both enjoy thrill-seeking rides such as roller coasters. It works! Here's a gold mine of creative dating ideas for taking women on a first date that will make a lasting impression make them crave to be with you: Amusement Parks . don't forget to try and win her a teddy bear or other keepsake.
get your date and go fly a kite. scenic views while you're eating. spice up your love-life or impress a date by going to a romantic restaurant. So. Theatre (Live) . It's a fun experience for all ages and it's kind of romantic. or even better just pick up some fried chicken and potato salad.This is tops on my list for first dates. It's even better if they have a piano bar or live entertainment or soft music. Moonlight Strolls . Zoo . It's so romantic to take your shoes off and wade along the shore with the full moon gleaming on the water. dim lighting.Most larger towns offer live theatre performances that can be just as good as a Broadway play in New York City. Picnics .If you really want to make a good impression on your date. dinner cruises.not just for kids. 93 . gambling cruises. Romantic Restaurants . etc. Attending live theatre on a date ranks at the top of the list for things to do on a date in my opinion. cheese and crackers. head for any lake or seashore. roaring fireplaces. or just any kind of cruise) don't pass up this opportunity for one of the best ways to impress single women on a first date. Just bring a bottle of wine. sunset cruises. So. take her to a cozy and romantic restaurant.A popular and enjoyable way to spend the day on a date.If there are any cruises in your area (riverboat. Don't forget the blanket and radio! Cruises .When there's a full moon and clear skies. yacht cruises.
not THAT aisle). Fill up the fridge for less than 20 bucks and retire your date in the recliner while you do your best damage in the kitchen. you’ll score extra points if you bone up on relevant trivia before going (mating season for monkeys. 94 . it’s got the makings for a great dinner date. It doesn’t take a wad of cash to wow a gal.Cheap Dates: 10 Ways to Impress Her on a Dime So Uncle Sam paid a visit and left you strapped for cash. aquarium. Strap on those sandals. find your datebook. Even us landlocked folks have access to local beaches on the lake. Sun of a Beach . Work up a sweat together and explore the great outdoors. salsa and disco together. Abba or any other Karaoke favorite. lifespan of the seahorse. and that’s typically available for a very low price. unique positions each of you discover. load up a few snacks. the latest controversial display). and end the evening with a slow serenade. or museum offers hours of entertainment at minimal cost. The spicier the better! Hit the Trails . seek out more secluded trails and discover a little animal attraction! Bowl Her Over . And the best way to do that is with a little careful planning on your part. Get the balls rolling! Sing a Song . taking to the dirt makes for a great workout AND a great date. there’s little that beats watching your loved one heave a hefty 12-pounder at a pile of pins. Not only does the farmer’s market offer fun while shopping for fresh produce (a truly entertaining combination). Take turns singing popular solo selections. Don’t Forget the Standbys . and get ready for love! Get Fresh Together .You needn’t live on the coast to enjoy the water. Best for afternoon gettogethers. you say you’re out of the dating scene? Buck up little camper! You couldn’t be more wrong.By bike or by boot.For sheer entertainment value. Alternate: take to the dance floor and discover swing.A trip to the zoo. So stash that wallet. and spend a day on the sand with your loved one. What’s required is a good ole dose of genuine interest to get our hearts pounding. For the truly adventurous and advanced.Grab your date’s hand and make your way down the aisle (no.It costs little or nothing to stand in front of strangers and belt your best impersonation of Elvis. A touch of romance is key. Now without that extra coin. opt for a couple duets. Strut your stuff down the lane and have a laugh at the new.
a few rays. then lead her to a night of outdoor seduction! The fuller the moon the better! 95 . Take your date to the nearest lake and stake your claim on a prime camping spot. Wait until nightfall when the moon is full and the stars are bright. Start a fire. lots of action. Light a few candles and grill up your gal’s favorite outdoor dinner. Rough It . (Don’t forget to put that fire out!) Park it . Blindfold those baby blues. and .Take to the tennis courts and bounce those balls around. Lack of athletic ability is no excuse .more than likely .Grab the hacky-sack. Dine Out . What could make for a better date? How about a blanket and beverages for a little after-play rest and relaxation. Fresh air.it takes little talent to lob a yellow ball back and forth. Then make a day of it at your local park. sizzle up a few snacks. Frisbee. softball and mitts.No need for fancy sleeping bags and pricey tents when camping (Hint: that’s why it’s called roughing it).plenty of laughs.Surprise is a key element here.Make a Racquet . Bonus: awkward attempts to reach the tough shots will help to melt the ice. as is timing. and spend a little quality time under the stars.
rehearse telling some funny stories. This will give you some good topics for conversation. Also. especially on your first date. she will really look down on you for tipping cheaply or not at all. Act like you are genuinely interested in what she is saying. Revolve most of your conversation around her interests. 96 . hobbies. goals. Be sure and bring your business card with you and give it to her at the end of the date. A good smile has a very seductive effect on single women. Maintain good eye contact throughout the date and wear a smile on your face. Act carefree and light-hearted and don't give a long and boring monologue about yourself. Also. You will be judged on how you look and your behavior. Before going on your date. if she has ever been a waitress. etc. no tip at all. vacations. She will be impressed that you're such a good listener. it will make you feel comfortable and help eliminate any first date nervousness or anxiety on your part. Even to the point when you have to fake it. Single women are attracted to men who can make them laugh.Things to do 10 Best Things to Do on a First Date to Attract Single Women Read the newspaper and listen to the news on the day of your date. This will make a very favorable impression on her. If you leave a cheap tip or even worse. but a lot of single women will judge you by the way that you tip. Act as if you've known her all of your life. And be on your very best behavior! You may not think this is fair. wear your best-looking clothes and be immaculately groomed. career. Waiters and waitresses depend heavily on good tips to make a decent living. So. It will make her feel that she's important to you. Don't act too serious. she will judge you as a cheap person. Forget about yourself and focus on her. This will make her feel comfortable around you. Always tip generously.
" Just as in any other phase of the relationship. You imply a formal date. you just need to act as though you have everything under control. How long does it take to drive to that party? She needs to know exactly what time you will pick her up. You've met her or already know her. If you are too early. SHOW UP ON THE DOT. We have a lot of good tips to make your dates a success. You don't have to reveal everything.Date Behavior The purpose of a first date is to get a second date. She might say no. Are you eating at a place that doesn't take them? Eat somewhere else. Do you know exactly what time that movie starts? Will there be a line. The pressure is on her. While you don't have every minute planned.bad start. But since you are now going to be spending hours together. she is all dressed up with no where to go and nothing to do and you're an idiot . You are making a move on her. there is a definite flow to the evening. Be a man of decision. When you invite a single woman out for an evening it is like throwing a small party where she is the only guest. You imply that she would be doing you a favor by going out with you. Tip #1 . If you show up late. You come now to that phase of a relationship affectionately referred to as "dating. "Would you like to out with me?" By saying this: You set yourself up for rejection. Make careful plans and execute Always make reservations. because it's opening night? Pick up tickets ahead of time if possible. Think James Bond. you are being judged. She is only expected to show up and look gorgeous. You are responsible for everything. the pressure is really on.The Dating Process . The bad way to ask a girl out is. How to Successfully Date Women You've chosen a girl who is interested in you. 97 . she will not be ready.There are good ways and bad ways to ask a girl out.
not a formal date. which creates bad vibes right off. "Let's get together and do something sometime. fun-loving person who is doing things." You literally sound like a junior high kid asking a girl out on his first date. No big deal. you can either pursue the conversation and arrange to meet on a casual date or leave it until the next time you meet. The right way to ask a girl out is. her response will let you know whether she wants to date you or not. If you do get a positive response. You know she wants to get together and she will be waiting. "No. I want to go out with you but I'm busy that night." Memorize these words! By saying this. friendly. you give the impression of a casual meeting. there is not pressure. 98 . avoid asking a girl out for the first time for a Friday or Saturday night. You aren't asking her. It implies a casual get-together to get to know each other. Was it. She is not doing you a favor by going out with you. Her anticipation works in your favor. You are being elusive and playing hard to get. The expression on her face will be positive. You are making a statement which says something about you. You've made a statement. After all. but also her tone will be positive.If she says "No. If she is interested. "Let's get together and do something sometime. You are the type of person that likes to do things with friends. Not a formal date." you are never sure whether to ask her again for another time. The implication is that you are doing her a favor. you have not really asked her out. Now re-read that phrase. She may even lead the conversation to making a specific time to do something. she will respond in the positive. The beauty of using this exact phrase is: You are not set up for rejection. If you say this. You know for sure whether she wants to date you or not." See how much better it is than asking a question that may get you a wrong answer? Tip #2 . I don't want to go out with you. You are a confident. You are throwing out an offer. and of course she would like to participate. Why?: The odds of her being busy are high so she may have to turn you down. Friends getting to know each other. After all." or "No. now that you have teased her with talk of a date but offered no specific plans.If possible.
On the other hand. It's very informal. she will communicate this. and go into the evening regretting having to turn down others. so the pressure is on. After all. I can make it some other time.. "That's too bad. "Oh.For the first dates. Why he arbitrarily picked three. informal gatherings. This can imply to the girl that she is being taken for granted. You may even do something during the day rather than in the evening. Tip #5 . she will make herself unavailable. Make sure you are mentally and emotionally prepared to be "up" and positive for the date.good vibes right off the bat. 99 . a good atmosphere to get to know her. In this case. Probably because in baseball you get three strikes before you are out. Come and join us.Make the first dates with a girl casual. try to go for spontaneous. you are involved with other girls. If you do get the date." If she is uninterested. The weekend implies formal dating. I don't know. You only make matters worse for yourself if you pursue it. Tip #3 . she has no way of knowing whether she is going to have a good time with you or not. the dates become more and more casual. she may have to turn down other offers because of her commitment to you. Save formal dates for later on when you are more comfortable with her.not to be serious. Weeknights imply casual-no pressure. some friends are coming over for dinner tonight. Our rule of thumb is once. Formal dates at first. Most men do the opposite. You have turned a dull weeknight into a good time for her . rather than dates arranged days in advance." If she can't you say. The odds of her being available are greater.People go on dates to have a good time . and then as the relationship develops. Example: "By the way. Tip #4 . I'd love to. but I just can't.. You'd have enjoyed it. In other words. Tip #6 .How many times should you ask a girl out for a date before you give up? A friend mine told me that he would ask a girl three times before he would give up. Keep this in mind when you plan the activities. If she legitimately has other plans and wants to do something with you.It tells her that you don't have a date for the weekend with someone else so you may have trouble getting dates. drop it. if you ask her out during the week: You imply that you are busy on the weekend.
is when the handwriting is on the wall. and there is no future with a girl. So if she hasn't given you the signals. Even go to movies you've seen before so you know it's a good one. assure her that you had a great time. And believe me. you are in a great position to present your best side to her.Maybe some other time. you surprise her and set yourself apart. "By the way. Take her home and say.A friend of mine that is a very quick thinker told me this story: He was out with a girl and throughout the evening it was obvious that she had no intention of going to bed with him. if the girl is interested in going to bed. Wrong! Instead you alertly perceive that the evening is still going well and positive. was thinking that he was bored with her. Tip #8 . she gave the impression that she thought she was a real hot item and the type that enjoyed saying "no" to men. Tip #10 . of course. and said. Hanging around." He said that she stood in the doorway watching him leave in disbelief. for at best a good night kiss. hung up the phone. You imply that you are hard to get. so you politely explain that you have to go.End the date before she does. and tell her you'll have to get together again. 100 . but not crowding or threatening. if she is having a good time.Make sure your body language is inviting to her during the date and not a turnoff. but make it seem spontaneous. you'll know it. Tip #7 ." Most men seem to think that if they prolong the date enough." If she does join you. cut your losses and get out as cleanly as you can. See you again. and not desperate. So he let the evening run its course and when he drove into her driveway (just when things would be awkward). It's pretty obvious that you aren't going to "get lucky" this night. Try to go somewhere familiar to you so you'll know what to expect. Convincingly. She. Example: The evening is winding down. "good night. She'll be giving you the signals someday soon. he said. may I use your phone?" Then. Your eye contact and closeness should be open to her. "I enjoyed the evening. they'll get the girl in bed. Remember. Tip #9 . walked past her to the door as if he had somewhere to go. the mood of the date starts to drop and the girl ends up having to announce it's time for her to go.Have every detail of the date planned. As the evening drags on. She will make her interest known to you. Again. The lesson. but you hang on until the bitter end hoping that the chance in a million shot will come through. of course. went to the phone. isn't worth the loss of your dignity. and was going to see her. He said it was the only way he could think of to get out of the situation with his dignity. he came into her house. By ending the date before she does. better for you to make your exit and beat her at her own game. called another girl. women enjoy sensuality. faked a phone call (making sure that she could not hear the conversation). she will be open to contact.
Tip #11 - Don't forget that you are on trial. Always be aware of your image. Be aware of how she is perceiving you.
Dating Tips to Help You Succeed With Single Women
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Regarding "pick-up lines," unless the lines are well-executed, no pick-up line in the world will achieve the desired results. Timing and demeanor are critical factors. You need to keep girls guessing. Don't give them too much, too quickly about yourself. Be aware that some single women will play hard-to-get intentionally, because they don't want to appear to be too easy. Always do everything you can to make a women feel special. Also, tell her she's very special. Single women love to feel wanted, respected, and appreciated. The more you try to pick up single women the more used to it you'll become. This will help you gain confidence and practice makes perfect. Don't ever assume because a woman looks like she's right out of the pages of Playboy that she has a boyfriend. This is not necessarily true and if she is seeing someone, maybe it's not serious or she's not happy with him. Don't overlook average-looking single women. They are a lot of fun and they can become quite beautiful in your own eyes once you get to know them. Always remember that "beauty is in the eye of the beholder." Attractive single women get complimented all the time about how beautiful they are. Be a little different and compliment her on things she's not used to hearing such as: eyebrows, nose, ears, kissable lips, eyes, dimples, fingernails, etc.
Remember that single women get horny too. Some single women are looking for sex too. If they haven't had sex in awhile they crave sex. Maybe you'll be the luck guy that satisfies their sexual needs!
The Top 10 Dining Etiquette Tips to Impress Single Women When on a Dining Date
1. Whatever you do, don't use curse words in your dining conversations. This can really turn women off and can even spoil your chances for dating her again and your potential relationship goes right down the drain. 2. Don't bring your cell phone on your dining date. You don't want any interruptions and you want to give her your undivided attention. Also, you may mistakenly think that cell phones impress women by thinking that you are a important businessman or something. The women are going to be impressed by how you treat them, not because you have a cell phone. 3. I highly recommend that you bring some dental floss and tic tacs with you on your date. After you complete your meal, excuse yourself and go to the restroom and floss your teeth and take a breath mint. The reason for this is that you don't want any food stuck on your teeth while talking to her (this can be very embarrassing and you won't even be aware of it and of course you don't want to have bad breath either. 4. Don't bore your date by constantly talking about yourself, what material possessions you have, important people you know, your fancy car, your money, etc. In other words, stay away from your ego trip, just focus on her and revolve your conversation around her and her interests. 5. Never bite your nails while you are dining. 6. Please, whatever you do, don't light up a cigar while you are eating. It will not only turn her off, but will annoy other patrons with the foul odor of a cigar. 7. Refrain from chewing gum while dining. 8. When asked how you are doing. Always reply, "I'm doing great, how about yourself?" Don't reply with how bad you are feeling or discussing any ailments. 9. If there are other people in your party, be sure and include them in your conversations. In other words, don't ignore the other people at your table, especially if they are her friends. 10. Whenever she reaches for a cigarette, be sure and light it for her.
The Importance Of Eye Contact
They say the eyes are mirrors to the soul. And you can use the power of eye contact to seduce and attract single women with your eyes by simply following the simple guidelines listed below. Winking while smiling coyly gives an unmistakable come-hither look. You could also gaze deeply into her eyes while talking to her to make your words seem that much more personal. To show that you agree with her occasionally raise and lower your eyebrows. The beauty about using eye contact is that even though you are not paying attention, you will see like you are listening and hanging on to her every word. When she is the one talking, it is important to listen with your eyes (maintaining eye contact) so that she does not get the impression that you are not interested in what she has to say. If you look away, you may signify, "I'm bored" or "I don't agree." The result will usually be a short conversation lacking substance, leaving both parties unsatisfied. Caution When Using Eye Contact Be cautious lest your attempts at eye contact be misunderstood. Avoiding eye contact can make both parties feel uncomfortable. If you avert your eyes out of shyness, you may be misinterpreted as saying, "I'm not being totally open with you" or "I'm not interested in you." Too much eye contact is as bad as too little since it is impolite to stare. As a rule of thumb, you should not look steadily at a woman for longer than a few seconds - unless she gives him "permission" with a smile, a backward glance, or a direct meeting of eyes. If this happens, do not "chicken out" and turn away, you might dishearten her. Instead, smile and mouth a "hi". When a man looks steadily without smiling, women may think, "He's undressing me with his eyes." So smile. If you roll your eyes upward, she might think you are yawning, "Ho hum!" and are not interested in what she has to say. If you glare at someone under arched eyebrows, most women will hear you growl: "I'm angry".
you should order for your date. by the front or back door. Ask her in advance what she wants and when the waiter or waitress comes.Pampering Her When being seated don't allow them to place you in "bad" spots such as noisy areas. it will only make you look cheap." don't bother arguing and making a scene." Here's an easy way to do it mentally. perhaps in the corner. here is your chance. If the price is a bit too steep.12 + $2.20. Be sure to leave at least a 15% tip (unless the service is bad).68 in your head and this will give you a 15% tip. The aim of all these actions is to pamper her and make a good impression on her. This makes a good impression on women and lets you remain in control throughout. Now divide $5. there?" If he says.56. Single women will judge you on your tipping habits. don't whip out a pen and paper or calculator to calculate the tip. "no. If a piece of food happens to have gotten itself stuck on the chin or near the mouth of your date. remove it for her with a clean napkin or serviette.12 which is 10% of the bill). 104 . Move the decimal point one place to the left ( this will come to $5. Do this only if you feel confident enough with her. Let's say that your bill comes to $51. Tell the waiter who is seating you. Now add $5. "Is it possible if we can sit somewhere else. areas with a bad atmosphere. Use your napkin to swipe the area around your mouth every few minutes in case some glob of food remains. next to the restrooms. order for her. it could leave an impression on her that you are "cheap. If you are cheap it can make a bad impression on them. etc. Don't just tell her that something is on her face. very politely.12 by 2 which will give you $2.56 = $7. If you are at a classy restaurant. please don't complain.
105 . the way to decide which movie to watch is like this. Holding a conversation in a cinema is downright rude. Just to be sure. not drive yourself bankrupt. Other Options You could of course. Food For Thought Depending on your schedule. These are generally classier and quieter so you can talk undisturbed. Saving Private Ryan.What To Do On Your First Date So you've asked her out. The reason I would recommend you watch a movie on your first date is because the cinema is the easiest way for both of you to have fun. This way. Fast food outlets give the impression that you are cheap. you need to make a good first impression. Go to a family restaurant. Rule of thumb: Don't choose cheap horror flicks. or on any first date. you want to make a good first impression. Another option would be to eat first and after the movie. That much is true. Now what? The most popular way of starting out on your first date. In other words. bring at least a hundred bucks." Believe me. this saves loads of complications afterwards. Some experts argue that movies inhibit social interaction between the two parties leading to a break in communication. On this first date. movie tickets and pop corn included. The average meal there should cost $15 so for the whole outing. That's why a movie date must be accompanied by having a meal somewhere so that you can make eye contact and talk. you should never choose one of those fast food joints like Macdonald's or Taco Bell. She said yes. Remember. why don't we go and see it on our date tomorrow. you should strive to eat only after the movie. stop for coffee and ice cream somewhere. both of you don't talk much. is by going to a movie. Tell her. Some words of advice regarding the type of movie to watch. do other things on your first date besides seeing a movie. adult movies (NEVER choose adult xxx movies) and movies which critics say suck. You should always book the tickets or risk having a miserable first date. Choose romantic comedies or Disney animated movies instead. "What movie would you like to see? I'm open to suggestions There's this good movie in town. They may be more expensive but remember. For the first date. you can talk about the movie when both of you are eating should conversation dry up. don't expect to spend more than $50.
A fun outing.One option would be to go roller blading or cycling. 106 .) Another thing you could do on your first date would be to attend a concert or classical performance. be sure to bring along drinks and the proper clothing. These events do require more formality in terms of dressing and are generally more expensive. (tights. shorts etc.
she will be more receptive and open to your ideas. rather than overly specific details. he probably tells everyone. You can give her an inside look at what excites you about the topic. "If he tells me such personal things right off. Be receptive to her point of view and listen to what she has to say. when it's your turn to give your opinion. it's quite natural to ask questions to get to know her better. the person is likely to think. Of course." Wait until the time is right. regardless of how strongly you believe in it or how important you feel it is. Then. It's alright to let her know what turns you on. but they don't necessarily wish to be converted to your point of view. but if this is early on in a friendship. Don't try to override her point of view with your superior knowledge of a subject. and you've established trust. How to Talk to Single Women When on a Date When you're out on your first date with a single woman. here are some pitfalls you'll want to avoid: Don't dominate the conversation with your own enthusiasms. Be careful not to lecture or try to "sell" her on what you believe in. However. there's an art to asking questions and I will teach you how. 107 . it's flattering to her to be told something confidential. but be aware that she may not necessarily want to hear everything you have to say about that topic. Be sensitive to how much time you devote to your own subject without hearing again from the other person.Conversation Conversation Pitfalls to Avoid When Talking to Single Women When talking about things that excite and interest you. Don't tell personal secrets in the early stages of a friendship with a woman. Avoid Jargon or technical terms when discussing topics with her and she isn't familiar with the subject. She may want to learn more about a subject that interests you.
. which will make a bad impression on your date. On the other hand. Plus. After the date she's going to go home and think about the date. And she's going to think about you. imagine you'd spent the entire two hours together sitting there. And she likes that. She still has no idea if she should be interested in you or not. That is. Listening To Her 108 . Then you can weave in some more questions using the same technique. Using this technique will be non-threatening and not so obtrusive. You haven't told her anything about yourself. But that's not enough to spark any kind of emotion in her..Here's what not to do. In other words. because she has nothing to think about. make her answer a topic of conversation. If you monopolized the conversation and spent most of the time telling her how "wonderful" you are.. and asking her questions. Let's assume you just went on a dinner date with a lady you like very much. This will make her feel like she is being interrogated or interviewed for a job. she will admire your conversational skills by you expressing interest in her answers. She knows you don't monopolize the conversation and you're a good listener. The best way to ask questions is to let her answer. And you should spend as much of that 30 to 40 percent as possible in the "metoo zone. But still. then add additional comments and conversation around her answer. She did seem to enjoy the conversation. Whatever you do. and about 60 to 70 percent of the time listening. A Good Talk/Listen Ratio A good talk/listen ratio would be around 40/60 or 30/70. I hope you can understand this.. you can pretty much expect there won't be a second date. don't ask one question after another. You probably did much better.. listening. She's going to think about whether she should spend more time with you or not. She did seem happy." Think about it this way. The fact that you haven't said much of anything all evening is going to be your downfall. you want to spend around 30 or 40 percent of the time talking..
But only under certain situations. Maybe you're at the gym or Laundromat. and likeable. You should always go for the similarity angle during the first part of a relationship. Conversing For Maximum Attraction By golly. You must be. Specifically. This time when she goes home. It's a simple 1.Now imagine you'd spent 60 to 70 percent of the date listening to her (really listening and asking questions). or end one before it even gets started. And because you spent a substantial amount of time pointing out how similar the two of you are. even. I will see you as clever.) People always like others who are similar to themselves. On the other hand. and starts reminiscing about the date (and you). she's going to have something substantial to think about. 2. or the health of your colon. By being similar to me. grabs something to drink. If you play your cards right during the first few conversations or dates.. You didn't monopolize the conversation. similars almost always attract. intelligent. Or maybe. You'll can reveal to her your "unique" qualities later. Maybe she's someone you know from work. (After all. now you've got to do something scary. charming. you're actually out on a date.. and making "me too" statements. something unpredictable. asking interested questions. 109 . sits down. She's going to think what a wonderful conversationalist you are. something with the power to launch a future romantic relationship. telling her about yourself in a way that makes the two of you seem very similar. because you're like me. The first few conversations (dates) are critical and you have to "play" them right. 3. you're just like her. In any event. It's true that opposites do sometimes attract. You didn't bore her with details of your job. That means listening for free info. you'll have plenty of time later on to bore her with all your "interesting" stories. And don't worry or feel cheated because you don't get to talk about the things you want to talk about. your childhood. and about 30 to 40 percent of the time telling her about yourself. you essentially validate my perceptions of the world. you've actually met a woman. Maybe you're in bar. she's going to think that you are very special.
?" or "If you don't mind telling me. straight-forward questions when they first meet guys. What's more.You've Got To Talk To Her What do you talk about? Should you tell her about your childhood. You are not interviewing her and if you continuously ask one question after another. your therapist. When your average gent converses with a woman." or "I hope I'm not being too personal.. If you have any doubts about whether a question is appropriate. You don't want to leave her feelings to chance or to fate. what would be the "right" thing to say? Do you have a clue? Most guys don't.... they'll usually respond cordially to the extent they're comfortable. hoping by chance that something he says will "connect" with the woman and make her fall for him. You need to know what definitely works and what doesn't.. Just keep your conversation with her flowing and after you ask her a question.and determine if you'd like to pursue the contact. You want to be charming and in control. you can get to know each other quickly . focus your conversation towards her answers.. Needless to say. you can go on to discuss personal backgrounds and interests. I would advise you to not ask too many questions.. by the way. Don't follow it up with just another question. 110 . Advice on Asking Single Women Personal Questions Most single women expect to answer easy. preface it with a statement like: "May I ask if. this is not the "Don Juan" way of doing things. perhaps. Such questions are part of the ritual of becoming acquainted." If she doesn't feel pressured to reply... he's basically just flailing blindly at the wind. You need to have a plan. the wart on your big toe? What if you can't think of anything to say? What if you say the wrong thing? And. From initial. your plans for the future. she will tire of your questions and lose interest in you. she's likely to be complimented by your show of genuine interest. what to talk about and what not to talk about. By exchanging details about yourselves. impersonal topics. When might a question be too personal? Practice will help you develop sensitivity to what sort of questions single women are glad to answer in various stages of a relationship.
droning on and on about topics that bore women to tears. Now there are many many aspects of a conversation. They think they're "impressing" the women when. They often monopolize conversations. People will talk to you about themselves for as long as you will listen. 111 . they're "depressing" the women.. Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you're saying doesn't necessarily mean she really is.What To Say? And that's what we're going to discuss right now. the first thing to remember is that men frequently get it wrong by talking too much. Topics which will leave you in complete charge of the conversation. She might just be acting polite while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end.. So key number one is don't talk too much! Try not to monopolize the conversation and try to listen to what she has to say. and which will leave you the option. This particular chapter focuses on the conversational topics that you should focus on when wooing a beautiful lady. Those topics which will almost guarantee increased interpersonal attraction. or that you would go away. Are you getting excited? Okay. or an intense romantic relationship. in reality. and never come back. so what exactly do you talk about? Well. Almost everyone is incredibly interested in what they themselves have to say. of future conversations. if you desire. dates.
If you don't know how to kiss properly. but some single women will judge you on your first kiss as to whether she would be attracted to you want to date you again. don't try to gag her with your tongue. 112 . If you are a lousy kisser. do these things: • • • • • Drooling all over her mouth while kissing. If they are hard as a rock it will feel like kissing a rock to her. you're going to turn her on and have an edge on the other guys that date her that are lousy kissers. She needs to be able to feel your lips. And most importantly. you keep your lips stiff and rigid. In other words.. You could also practice kissing yourself on the mirror. Give it to her and play tongue hockey with her. Keeping your lips closed. if you do kiss her it had better be good to make a favorable impression.Kissing Art of Kissing Single Women on Your First Date At the end of a first date comes that awkward moment when you must decide if you want to kiss her or not. Whatever you do. Just use it gently and don't try to stick it down her throat. Let her suck on your tongue if that's what she likes. just exactly what makes a good kisser and kisses that single women that you go out with won't forget? The key is to be soft and gentle and follow her lead. open your lips! Women don't enjoy kissing just a slit on a guys face. Is chemistry important on a first date? You bet it is! And if you're a great kisser. then you're going to be a failure at creating good chemistry between you and your date. Women don't like wet or sloppy kisses. she must feel some chemistry when she kisses you. If you really want to turn her off and blow your chances for more romance and future dates with her. Pretend that you are kissing a hot & sexy beautiful woman that you're dying to become intimate with. It may not be fair. So. Please guys.that's all there is to it. You've got to keep your lips soft and sensuous. While kissing. don't be stingy with your tongue. Also.. I would suggest practicing on the back of your hand.
you must be a good kisser. a gentle caress of her cheek. Finding Her Comfort level This involves gauging whether she is ready for the kiss. a quick peck. there's the kiss. there are many ways of getting into a good position for a satisfying kissing session. there are always other options. "I just want to see you up safely". but a handshake!?) Well. That saves face. The kissing experience is different for each of us but the basic fundamentals of kissing remain the same. A pat on the shoulder perhaps. Most men do this (Even I am guilty of this one. If she does not cringe away from you or push your arm off her. a good handshake (although personally. If you are going to tell her you are going to call her just to have something to say. If she declines. I leave that to your imagination. But I digress. it just means she will call me and gripe about it. Now. appearing to rest it. and accompany her to her porch/apartment door. Remember. a nice bow with a flourish. walk over to the other side. Next lean your head against hers. kissing is an art form. place your arm around her in a gentle. really. kiss her hand. And of course. the last step… well. do remember to call. You could avoid kissing altogether: a little gesture to remember the occasion with. The second step is called "Finding her comfort level" and the last step. just tell her that. If you are driving her home. You could make it a neutral kiss: throw her a kiss. if you really want to succeed with single women in the love and romance department. The keyword here is flexibility. back to the kissing stuff… When you are alone with her on her porch/door. open the passenger door. kiss her cheek. Never mind.In closing. I guess it is a matter of taste. you can proceed to the next step. At least then we will have something to talk about) and it drives girls crazy because guys never do call. it feels really weird shaking your date’s hand. a wave goodbye. kiss your finger and touch it to her lips. it is a good idea to get out of your driver’s seat. 113 . How To Go About Kissing Her Yes. The first step in kissing is known as "Getting into position". non-threatening way. Getting Into Position Now.
You could wrap them around her waist. kissing just for the sake of kissing can be just as exciting as you absorb her very essence into your cells. I was in the middle of this intoxicating kiss with my girlfriend and I opened my eyes and saw two huge brown eyes staring right back. don't think. Wherever your hands are. You can always end things is by giving her a nice big hug. Then take your hand from hers. use them to clutch her back or massage her scalp. DON'T whatever you do.) When kissing. use them. Kiss as though you have all the time in the world. A lot of people ask me if it is advisable to open your eyes when kissing. Americans seem to have become a nation of huggers (why not a nation of kisses like in France? They kiss for everything there. She will remember it better if you do it slow.She should do the same. one time. life is so unfair. Let your mind blank out while you delight in the absorption of her drugging nectar. Then we can get down to the nice stuff" As a result. Begin kissing with your lips slightly parted. kiss. Place the tip of your index finger ( the tip = the joint farthest from you hand ) under her chin and lift her head to your mouth. Don't rush it. drugging. But don't prolong a kiss beyond its natural life. with your mouth wide open and you're tongue sticking out. they rush through their kissing and do not get to fully enjoy the delightfulness of a long. Do not push your luck and never ever push your way hoping to get "lucky". Well. the arms. Sometimes. pretend it's the first time you have ever kissed this person. she is just not ready. make a shape like you were going to pull the trigger on a gun. "Let's hurry up. Many men think of kissing as a a prelude to sex. firm your hand. like the back. Do not start wet. A Real Eye Opener Once in a while. the shoulders. 114 . Let it flow. think about absolutely nothing. Many people simply waste them when kissing by using them only as some form of supporting themselves. they kiss to say hello. Better still. not zipped shut. They keep thinking. Remember to relax them and don't let them freeze up. Using Your Hands Use your hands when kissing. If she pushes you away. Do all this in slow motion. That will really dampen the kissing experience. You should not use every kissing session as a prelude to sex. Slowly increase pressure or graze gently but in non-erotic zones. relax. They kiss to say good morning.
the tongue does in fact enter. but not explorative in the way that some people stuff their tongues in your mouth as though they were searching for buried treasure or something! One last thing. is a matter of preference. so far I have gone through all the basic aspects of kissing. conclude the session by drawing your lips away and giving a series of shorter." Now. lose out on the whole rhythm and motion of a kiss. contrary to popular belief. only to dart quickly out thus ending the kiss. My advice to you is that you should only open your eyes when kissing if you can stand the intimacy. otherwise known as "lip" kissing. ever-changing. and technically. draw away and just hold her. unifying your souls and thoughts with the mouth. By the way. Okay. your kissing life will be very dull indeed. you have the type of tongue which. You may even have dabbled in using your tongue while kissing. the kiss can be defined as falling under the classification of "French Kiss. Lip kissing is only the tip of the iceberg! If you do not widen your repertoire. on the other end of the spectrum. It should be something dynamic and explorative. Caution Men that just clamp their lips on their girlfriends when kissing and never move their lips or alter the angle of the kiss. you should never prolong a kiss beyond it's natural life. What you do with it.It was pretty scary and we both laughed and I guess that helped break the tension. After the final one. 115 . "goes boldly where no tongue has ever gone before". to borrow a cliché from Star Trek. STDs cannot be transmitted via French kissing. but more intense kisses. The French kiss is the essence of kissing: capturing her mouth with desperate urgency. gently rocking your body against hers. At the most cautious level. The French "Soul" Kiss French kissing involves the tongue. When you feel it is time to stop kissing (after a few hours is fine by me). and what she does with yours. The function was performed.
Don't talk about anything negative at all. Keep it light-hearted and don't act as if you are auditioning for a lifetime commitment. This is not appropriate with someone you hardly know. it will come across to her as phony. dumped you. or a potential relationship. so much for love. and what time. You see a couple of your buddies and you leave her to go talk to them. You ignore her and just leave her hanging while you shoot the bull with your buddies. On a first date. After all you are out on a date with her. Whatever you do. don't say. took you to the cleaners on child support. Don't get drunk! This really turns women off and makes a bad impression. be specific about the date. Listed here are what not to do when out on a first date with single women: • • • • • • • • • • • • Do not talk about any of your personal problems. The proper thing to do is just introduce your buddies and keep your conversation with them brief. don't go to a nightclub or loud bar. This is very inconsiderate and downright rude. Don't bitch about your previous girlfriends or ex-wives on how they mistreated you. Don't cling to her and talk about your future relationship with her. Don't discuss any of your family or monetary problems. Don't try to analyze her problems. Don't act desperate. For a first date.Mistakes Men Make Don't Make These Mistakes When Out on a First Date With Single Women In this chapter we will focus on what not to do and say when out on a first date with single women. "Would you like to get together next week and do something. Keep everything you talk about upbeat and positive. not your buddies. And if there is no second date. cheated on you. This date is just for fun and getting to know each other. When. If you are making these mistakes. etc. don't tell her how broke you are and how you are heavily in debt. If you are putting on an act. They are too noisy for conversation and it's hard to get to know each other if you can't hear each other. 116 . If you ask for a second date. where." Instead. romance. it can hurt your chances for getting a second date. Don't drink at all or limit your drinking to a couple of drinks. Don't pretend to be funny or humorous. Here's a real no no. sex. This is no time to wear any provocative or sleazy clothes. dress conservatively.
make offensive remarks all in fun at your date guess what happens? If she's the sensitive type. staring is going to make her feel uncomfortable and she will get the impression that all you are interested in is taking her to bed.• • • • • • Never. and romance. But. she will get very offended. but trust me guys. degrade. You tend to joke around with each other. poke fun at. tease each other with insulting comments that are meant to be humorous. It's ok to act this way when you're around your buddies. sex. She will remember all your teasing and insults and take it personally. 117 . get involved in horseplay. I just can't stress to you enough how important it is to not treat single women you date like one of the guys. Focus on her and her interests. Don't Treat Your Date Like One of the Guys I'm sure that you are aware of how you act when you're around your buddies. You may think this behavior is no big deal because you're used to acting this way around your buddies. etc. but don't do it when you're on a date. Don't brag about yourself and your accomplishments. but I can assure you. I know it's going to hard for you not to glance down at her breasts. Don't stare at her breasts. It's just a guy thing. while you're making all these meant to be funny comments. In closing. if you avoid making these mistakes it greatly increases your chances of making a favorable impression on your first date with single women and she will be interested in going on more dates with you which can lead to lots of fun. If you are taking medication. And the score is not in you favor my friend. If she has nice breasts and wearing a tight-fitting top or revealing some nice cleavage. she won't appreciate it and hold it against you. are you?" Don't focus on your health problems or ailments. Don't pick your nose or scratch or readjust your crotch. This is all done in fun and not meant to offend anyone. You will just end up hurting her feelings. Don't take them in front of her. she is keeping score. I know this is a rather long list of things to remember. You see. One surefire way to ruin a potential relationship is to treat her like one of the guys. never ask for a second date like this: "I'm not doing anything on Saturday night. Don't do it! When you tease. excuse yourself and go to the bathroom and take your pills.
This makes matters much worse because you will be offending her in front of others and this will really alienate her. By being labeled a creep. What I'm talking about is repeating these phases in almost every other sentence. I'm sure you know people that have these annoying conversation habits. What are these words that men mistakenly repeat over and over that are a source of annoyment and can actually make you appear to be stupid because you lack a vocabulary? Here are the main ones and you must try to eliminate them from you vocabulary when speaking to single women: • • • • • • • • • • • you know you know what I mean you know what I'm saying do you understand what I'm saying using the word "like" to begin a sentence I know that I already knew that umm yep nope and dah These phrases are ok to use every once in awhile. Wouldn't you agree? Bad Vocabulary Habits That Can Cost You Dates With Single Women I would like to focus on some vocabulary habits that can turn single women off and hurt your chances for getting women attracted to you for love and romance. don't treat your date like one of the guys when you're on a double date. Some women will judge you by how you talk to them and what you say. Also. Maybe this is even you? 118 .S. this sure isn't going to help you get a second date. much more success with single women if you will take this approach.Do this instead: Make her feel good about herself and be as romantic and affectionate towards her as possible. And when they go to the restroom together they may make comments to each other about what a creep you are. You will have much. Plus. Unfortunately some men have a very small vocabulary and use certain words over and over again between sentences that can become very annoying to women. the other girl won't appreciate it either. P.
if the girl you're with makes these same vocabulary blunders you do.Also. So to increase your odds of scoring with more women. take heed and stop making the same old mistakes and faux pas that most men make. "What are the biggest mistakes men make?" each woman answered with a list she seemed to have prepared in advance. The Biggest Mistakes Men Make While much of what follows is common sense. the more a consensus began to show up. What follows is a discussion of the most common as well as the biggest mistakes men make. and not knowing it is costing us getting laid. this can turn her off to the point that she will have no interest in dating you. I might add that you should never use cuss words in your conversation when you first get to know a woman. some of it will probably be news to you. No doubt about it. And of course. When I asked women. If she's offended by foul language.In all fairness. Evidently. if not disgusted. every one of us in one way or another is making a mistake in our interactions with women. LEERING AT WOMEN Many men simply "look" at women the wrong way. Monique explained. with men's behavior.S. I would not take them seriously. "If someone is obviously looking at my tits or my ass as I walk by. so you will know WHAT NOT TO DO the next time you're out picking up women. women give a lot of thought to how they wish men would behave. . And the more I inquired into the biggest mistakes men make. Speak clearly and don't talk with your hand over your mouth. On each list was each particular woman's pet peeve. What is important here is to understand a woman's point of view. don't talk with your mouth full." Men who make this error are already off on the wrong foot before they have even said a 119 . One woman told me that a test should be given that men should have to pass before they could begin dating women! I was surprised to discover that practically every woman I spoke with was frustrated. most men are committing the same errors over and over and over again. Without a doubt. P. Please don't mumble your words either. if you're out on a lunch or dinner date. This will clue you in to what you should and should not do to communicate more effectively to achieve the results you desire. then you will share something in common and your blunders are not likely to turn her off.
it is imperative that you call your date by her name! Most people ignore this and end up not knowing why their date dumped them. So be careful how you look at her. Like Toni said. she might end up so disgusted with your behavior that she may not want to go dating with you ever. her hair and eyes. her shoes. She wants you to appreciate her body. but she doesn't want you to let on that you do. The following are some common mistakes men make when dating single women that turn women off: Calling them babes. they would still be turned off if they take offense at how you treat them. Dumb Dating Mistakes Men Make When dating. Not only is this downright rude. 120 . you will severely handicap yourself with a look of prurient intent. 'Women don't want to feel like you just want to go to bed with them.s If you keep eyeing other women on your date. this simply shows that you have no self control and have no respect for your date. or something even more repulsive? Continually eyeing other women while on dates? Being overly sexually aggressive by pawing at her body? Staring at her breasts?! Bragging/complaining about your ex-girlfriends? Explanation When dating. Even if they find you physically attractive.word! If you are seriously interested in meeting a woman. Not only will she notice. broads. chicks. they like it to be more discreet. and even if that's what's on their mind. one must know what single women find offensive. The rule to follow is: Look at and appreciate her clothes. her jewelry. it also reflects badly on yourself. Even if that's what's on your mind. especially in the early stages of dating. You must be able to know what they want and then give it to her without sounding phony. but don't let her know how much you love her beautiful body. Another error most men make when dating is continually staring at her breasts. Do not think for one moment that your partner will not notice your actions.
You are nevertheless overwhelmed and grateful to be near her. Problem: The woman you are going with consistently shows up late for dates. who constantly criticizes you. Solution: You are a low priority with her. while others require careful attention and a great deal of patience. Problem: After meeting a single woman. but then she loses interest in you. and if you could only get her to return your love. Some problems have a relatively simple "fix". attracting. it would make your life complete. things usually go well for the first few dates. Do you attach yourself to the woman. Reconsider how important she is in your life. Consider problems as challenges and learning experiences.Other Stuff – Dating Dating problems and solutions You can expect difficulties and setbacks in the course of meeting. and makes you feel that this is what you owe her for being with her. If you cannot communicate. "smothering'" her? Do your constant attentions allow her to take you for granted? Problem: You are going out with a woman who shows you no affection at all. and seducing single women. who shows no interest in the things that are important to you. Solution: This does not bode well for your relationship. She permits you to take her to dinner and entertain her. Develop your talents and explore the depths of your potential. Here are some common problems you will face in relationships and a trouble shooting guide to fix them: Dating Problem: As long as the two of you are doing something. • • • • • Become a more interesting person. but when you are alone with each other you seem to have nothing to say. dating. you may not have much in common. Review basic conversational skills. rather than as painful failures and doors slammed in your face. everything is fine. 121 . Solution: This seems to be a repeating pattern in your relationships.
Start work on your novel. Join clubs. learn. If you are in a permanent state of depression. Wake up fortified with a teeny bit of optimism. don't walk. perhaps a month or two. You might not yet be ready for one. Solution: • • • • • • • • • • Try a change of pace. a vacation from looking for a girlfriend. and be patient.Solution: If it is your life's ambition to be abused and exploited. Deliberately act out of character occasionally. Problem: You are tired of making a fool of yourself over women. Fill up your free time with activities. run. Solution: • • • Get a good night's sleep. to the nearest exit. Do volunteer work. 122 . Your life has settled into a dull routine of loneliness and even the prospect of a close relationship hardly excites you any more. Step out of the role. Forget about girlfriend hunting for a few weeks. consider professional counseling. Enlarge your circle of acquaintances. Grow. and less predictable in your behavior. Otherwise. You don't know where you'll find the courage to go on looking for your love. Treat yourself to a six month's breather. and concentrate on improving your relationships with your family and friends. Be a bit more flexible. Problem: Absolutely nothing seems to work. then you have found your soul mate. Problem: You seem to be stuck in a rut. Develop new interests. Devote yourself to a hobby. tired of being humiliated and rejected. and smile at the people you meet on the way to work. Solution: • • • • • • Perhaps it is not a good time in your life to be seeking a relationship. Take classes.
The following are three of the most obvious and telling. 123 . A great deal of eye contact with you usually signals that she's more interested in YOU than in the topic you're discussing. In fact she may laugh so much that you begin thinking that you must be pretty darn funny. she will laugh at anything you say that is even mildly amusing. Eye Contact If she likes you she'll engage in elevated levels of direct eye contact when talking with you. Laughing Does she laugh at your jokes and witty remarks? If she is attracted to you.. if your humorous attempts draw blank or bored stares. She'll look more directly into your eyes and hold it a little longer than normal. then you're probably not oozing too much charm. then you might want to get movin' along.How Can You Tell if a Woman Likes You or Not? There are tons and tons of little signs that women often give off that can help you to judge how well you're doing. if she's avoiding your eyes. if you're doing things right. If they're pointed in a different direction. this has more to do with your presence eliciting a positive state of emotional arousal in her than in your wild sense of humor.. If you're talking to her and her shoulders are pointed directly at you then she's probably somewhat attracted to you. She "points" them at what she's interested in. Keep these in mind when you're attempting to charm that beauty. she's probably not (at the moment). On the other hand. On the other hand. But watch them. Shoulder Orientation Think of her shoulders as a pointer. (Why hasn't anyone told you this before?) In actuality. She may change their focus and begin moving in your direction.
instead of just declining to give you their number. carry around a expensive-looking pen to make a favorable impression on her. the best way to ask her for her phone is say. can I have your phone number?" Hopefully. Because.How to Get Phone Numbers From Single Women and How to Tell If She's Giving You a Phony Number After you have made contact with a hot & sexy single woman you are attracted to and have talked and gotten to know each other. "Excuse me. always carry a pen with you to write down her phone number. I will know she's lying. 124 . "Let's meet for lunch or dinner sometime. they may live with a boyfriend or husband and would rather lie to you instead of saying no. you will get an immediate response. This is very important! Even better. Plus. tell her you don't appreciate her giving you a phony number and ask her to leave or just walk away. Also. she will just throw your number away. could you repeat that number again?" If this number is different from the first number she gave me. I can't tell you how many times this has happened to me in meeting women in nightclubs and topless clubs. they give you a phony number for fear of hurting your feelings. "Why don't you give me your number?" A lot of times this turns out to be just a slick trick on her part. After I write her number down I will pause while I'm writing and say. Some girls. Be aware that she might give you the old line of. Don't waste your time with her! Before I forget. you must be aware that she may give you a phony number. Here's a trick I play on women when they give me their phone number. If this happens. which could hurt your feelings.
etc. Offended to the point that she will not want to date you anymore. If she has nothing against pornography then you don't have to be so discreet. Dating Psychology Time can work for you or against you. So. etc. So what's the point of all this? If a girl you're dating is disgusted and offended by porno and she accidently or purposely discovers pornographic materials in your apartment or house. rape. file cabinet. They become strong and resistant to the destructive effects of the environment. sex toys. magazines. to be on the safe side early in a relationship with a woman. oaks and some evergreens. Consider nature. etc. from her. just keep your stuff hidden (you can always break it out when she's not around). You'd be surprised how women will snoop around while you're not looking. You can't ramp up too fast. Common weeds are a good example . gone in October. guess what message that sends to her? She may think that you're some kind of pervert and may be very offended. So guys. videos. But. causes moral decay. weeds are crushed underfoot.A Few Words of Advice About Pornography and Dating Single Women You need to be aware that a lot of single women are offended by pornography and think it is demeaning to women. sex toys. keep your porno out of sight until you get to know a woman better and her viewpoints on pornography. I would advise hiding it in a good place like the attic or locked up in a trunk. if she is dead set against porno even after you have established a serious relationship.here in May. Don't hide it under your mattress or under the bed or in your closet.the redwoods. some over hundreds of years. On the other hand. It's your choice. All develop very slowly. They complete their life cycles in a matter of weeks or months. etc. you will find that it ends as quickly. Some plants grow very quickly. If you expect to develop a relationship very quickly with single women. it would be wise to hide any pornographic photos. Now think about the most successful plants . 125 . prostitution. The species survives by being numerous.
May 20) . in the bath tub or shower. so if you're the jealous and possessive type this can cause problems. She's a very social person and loves to be on the go. She's very emotional and romantic. you're not the man for her.June 21) . so be sure to compliment her often.). so be sure and give her a sensual massage. Don't try to tie this woman down. has lots of sex appeal. She loves to travel.The Single Man's Astrological Guide to Single Women ARIES (March 21 . You must keep her mind stimulated to keep her from getting bored with you. this woman loves a challenge. If you want some "hot" sex. dynamic men who are often a bit eccentric. You must be well-dressed and treat 126 . She's very intelligent and the best way to her heart is through her mind.August 22) . flowers.This woman will want to baby and take care of you. Attracted to unusual. etc.They don't call this the sign of the bull for nothing! This woman is bull-headed and she likes to get her own way and can be very stubborn. Let her do it. TAURUS (April 20 . dynamic. Shower her with plants. and loves to party. this is the girl for you. Don't be a wimp.July 22) . She makes a good sex partner because she will do anything to please her man. and money. she likes her freedom and doesn't like to be smothered. Very passionate and affectionate and has lots of love to give to the right guy. CANCER (June 22 . in an open field.This woman is a big flirt. by all means. She loves to be stroked. on the kitchen counter. so take her for weekend get-aways out-of-town. so be sure and try different positions and make love in different settings (in front of the fireplace. She soaks up compliments like a sponge.She's aggressive with men. because its part of her maternal instincts. They love variety in their sex life. This woman is very sensual in bed and likes to make love slowly. and very bossy. She can literally make love for hours! I hope you have a lot of sexual stamina to keep up with her! GEMINI (May 21 . LEO (July 23 . If you're a couch potato. She attracts men quiet easily and can discard them just as easily. hot-tempered. so you can really capture this woman's heart by doing anything romantic. so be sure and go along with letting her mother you.This woman is very charming. She's very down-to-earth and loves to take care of her man. They are very energetic and aggressive in bed and reach orgasm very quickly. You must be very strong-willed with this woman and don't let her boss you around.April 19) .
and charming. so plan you're activities outside and play sports and attend sporting events. 127 . Very intense in bed and probably the best lover in the Zodiac. LIBRA (September 23 . SAGITTARIUS (November 22 . If you try to pin her down and you're the jealous and possessive type. Be sure and appeal to her romantic nature and she's all yours! SCORPIO (October 24 . It takes her awhile to warm up to you because of her cautious nature. Very faithful and devoted. Appeal to her by talking about making money and attaining goals. Take it slow with this woman. VIRGO (August 23 . Very picky about men and you must meet her high standards.This is one of the most beautiful signs in the Zodiac. She wants everything to be perfect.She's very independent and loves her freedom. so take her places to capture her heart. Move slow with this woman. She can be a very moody and emotional person. Very critical nature. She's so sexy. seductive. You must have a good sense of humor and be happy-go-lucky like her.(December 22 . so you must not be sexually aggressive with this woman. She doesn't like long-term commitments. It's worth it in the end because once she's yours she's yours to keep. She's a real tiger in bed and rules the bedroom. She's very feminine and her good looks attracts a lot of men. She loves the outdoors and sports. She makes an ideal mate because she's so giving and loves peace and harmony.This woman is very reserved in the beginning but once you have broken down her barriers. she will love you with all her heart with lots of intensity. She may even scare you away with her intensity. She doesn't do anything half-hearted and when she sets her sights on a man she will pursue him with relentless intensity. CAPRICORN .September 22) . A very social creature and very romantic and sentimental.her like royalty because she has a strong ego. and possessiveness.This is a very intense and mysterious woman. She's not into casual sex. jealousy.Very intellectual and a bit cool and acts aloof. Can be very exacting in bed and wants to follow a set routine. She loves to travel.October 23) .November 21) . She's very ambitious and career-oriented.January 19) . you will scare this woman away. Enjoy her while she's around because her heart is known to wander. You must become her friend first before you can get her in the sack.December 21) . Don't get on the wrong side of this woman because she can make a dangerous enemy and will stop at nothing to get even with you.
She's very emotional and moody.March 20) . Can be very elusive and afraid of commitment.Very intelligent and you must appeal to her mind.If you want a loving. PISCES (February 19 .February 18) . affectionate. then you may be disappointed. This woman need lots of affection and attention. The more romance you can give her the better! She's got lots of love to give in return. There are a lot of bachelorettes born under this sign and they usually marry late in life. Keep in mind that they can be a little cold-natured. so if you're expecting a hot & sexy passionate sex-goddess. devoted. this is the woman for you. so you will have to help keep her balanced emotionally. She's a strong believer in friendship and will remain your friend even after you have broken up. 128 . sympathetic woman to cater to your every need.AQUARIUS (January 20 .
Women's Sexual Behavior Women's Sexual and Seduction Power Over Single Men The power of seduction is perhaps one of woman's strongest instincts. But it doesn't even take a promise of sex . in the same way. They love a chase. So. She will be bored with this man and go after one who stimulates her desire for a challenge. This is something that every man must remember when dealing with single women. some women grow up finding so much success using their "charms" that seduction becomes second nature to them. A man who makes himself easy denies a woman her desire to prove her powers of seduction. 129 . so that from an early age these women learned how to get what they wanted.merely the hint or suggestion of sex is enough to manipulate or seduce a man into doing what a woman wants him to do. the man trying to understand single women. Single women are very stimulated by an opportunity to affirm that power. they are not even aware that they are doing it. Most often. Of course. the attention that single women use translates to sexuality. if money is important to a man because with it he can get what he wants. the power of seduction is important to a single woman because with it she too can get things she wants. This drive probably goes back to ancient times when a woman seduced a man to gain protection and food in order to survive. Over the centuries this drive has evolved to become more subtle. is that women like to know they have that power of seduction. We see today even pre-school girls "seducing" their fathers to get what they want. but certainly not weaker. Girls learn at an early age that men can be manipulated with nothing more than a little female attention. Usually these women grew up around men who were very susceptible to female attention. What all this means to you. As a matter of fact. They love a man who is a "catch" someone who is hard to get.
Take time for you to get to know each other and develop chemistry. I'm sure you're getting the picture. communication. Most of them aren't into casual sex. Men will go to bed with women at the drop of a hat.Are You Sometimes Confused by Women's Sexual Behavior? For example. So. When she has had casual sex in the past she feels empty and ashamed of herself the next morning. She only has sex with someone that she is in love with and being that you have just met she has not had time to get to know you and feel love for you. She is concerned that she might get pregnant or even worse. has this ever happened to you? You meet this really hot & sexy single girl at a nightclub and the sexual chemistry between you is incredible. You start to undress her and she reluctantly pulls back and says. men and women are different when it comes to hoping in bed with someone." This really frustrates you after getting all worked up and you're totally confused about what's going on here. She is concerned that if she has sex with you so soon in the relationship you will think she is nothing but a promiscuous cheap whore and you won't see her again. kissing. my advice is to take things slow with a single woman. Women are different. even if they have only known each other a couple of hours. Believe me. If sex is going to happen. They want to get to know you and develop feelings for you before they give their body to you. she feels uncomfortable repeated the same empty and unfulfilling experience. you will really make a favorable impression 130 . and feelings for each other. "not tonight. So. It's getting late and you invite her over to your place for a drink. Plus. etc. the woman will really respect you and admire you for not rushing her into a sexual relationship. Then after she comes over you sit on the couch and start making out. it's going to happen naturally anyway. kissing each others neck. Things really start to get hot and heavy. what is the lesson to be learned from this? First of all. You really don't even have to rush sex. You're wondering why she seemed ready to make love but got cold feet. these are the most likely reasons why she chickened out: Mother nature has made her monthly call and she's on her period. While slow-dancing you are rubbing each others back. grinding your crotches. contract a sexual disease. So. Before you jump to conclusions and consider her a prude or a prick-teaser.
it would be to your advantage to monitor the menstrual cycle of the woman you're with so you'll know when she's mostly likely to be horny and receptive to your sexual advances and when she is most likely to turn into a sexual volcano.on her because you're different than the other men she's used to who come on all hot and horny acting like a dog in heat. Men are ready to have sex at anytime and don't really have to wait to be in the mood for sex. All you have to know is when her menstrual period begins and when it is about to start. be sure and have a heart to heart talk with her about you are not getting your needs met in the relationship. If you're a shy guy. So. Let me explain why: Researchers have discovered that a woman's sex drive is strongest on the sixth and seventh day after her period begins. Live with it or move on someone who can meet your physical needs. you can use this to your advantage to seduce single women for some really "hot and passionate" sex. Also. In conclusion. my friend. If she refuses to compromise. Single women's sex drive is much more complicated and her moods are subject to change. ready to explode! Reading A Single Woman's Sexy Signals It takes two to tango. How to Tell When Single Women Are in the Mood For Sex As you probably know. men and women's sex drives are different. if a woman continues to reject your advances. another time when her sexual appetite peaks is the three days just before she starts her menstrual period. shy can be very sexy! 131 . then it's a simple choice. Remember. If you know when she's more likely to be in the mood for sex. learn how to read a single woman's seductive signals before you ask her to dance.
followed by a rapid lowering to the normal position. she moves in time to the music. 7) Primping: She pats or smoothes her clothing. combined with a downward gaze or very brief eye contact. her body language should be taken into consideration when trying to decide if the lady you are with is genuinely interested in you. easy smiles accompanied with a relaxed face. while others run the tongue around the entire lip area. 5) Coy smile: She gives you a sort of half-smile. This can be one hand movement or more of a stroking motion. 10) Solitary dance: While seated. She maintains eye contact throughout and her pupils are dilated (they become larger). 2) Lip lick: Very common. even if it doesn't need any adjusting.Here are the top ten flirting gestures. The flash is often combined with a smile and some eye contact. just like in junior high school. showing little if any tooth. for example the sparkle in her eyes. 6) Whisper: She leans over and speaks into her friend's ear. playing with toys or other things on the table. she will exhibit certain signs of attraction and arousal. body language. Recognizing Arousal If the girl you are with is interested in you. 9) Object caress: Fondling keys. with her eyes on you. with an average of three glances each. sliding hands up and down a glass. 8) Skirt hike: The hem goes up to expose a little more leg. Some women use only a single-lip lick. Very sensual. 3) Short darting glances: Usually occurs in sets. She blushes frequently and her skin tone become redder. She would often blink more frequently than usual and her eye lashes flutter. and actions that let you know a single woman is interested in you: 1) Eyebrow flash: She raises both eyebrows exaggeratedly for a couple of seconds. Each little mannerism. her tone of voice. Signs Of Arousal Wide. wetting the upper or lower lip. 4) Hair flip: She pushes her fingers through her hair. You might even 132 .
She adjusts the tone and pitch of her voice to match yours. In fact. There are many subtle ways a man can add an element of sensuality to his personality. Be it because he is a good dancer.not afraid to offer sexual connotation to their dancing. while the women are very expressive with their bodies.notice a sparkle in her eye. In later chapters we will give you ideas on how this can be done. if you get my meaning) She might also be fiddling with her jewelry. The men are usually very conservative. or is into yoga and massage. laughing in unison or crossing her legs if you've crossed yours. If her crossed leg is pointing in your general direction and rocking back and forth. Even exposing the palms of her hand facing you show that she might be interested in you as it has been proven to be a subconscious sign telling you that she has nothing to hide. and are attracted to a man who offers that opportunity. she is slowly stroking her cocktail glass (or any cylindrical object) up and down with her thumb and index finger. The eyes are windows to the soul and are one of the most accurate ways of telling if she is attracted to you. Now this does not mean that you'll have to go out and become an Elvis Presley clone to attract women. She twirls her hair around her fingers or perhaps strokes her hair lightly with her hand while maintaining eye contact. or is a photographer looking for a model. While talking. She starts sitting up and her arms aren't limp. For example. The important thing here is that women love an opportunity to express their sensuality. any sigh that she is mimicking you can be taken as a sign of interest. and love opportunities to express it. She winks at you in the middle of a conversation or even from a distance. bobbing back and forth. This means she really is interested in you. a woman is drawn to a man that is comfortable with sensuality. Subconscious biting of the lips or showing of the tongue. Women's Sexuality and Sensuality Women have a much higher level of sexuality and sensuality than men do. What Women Want From Sex 133 . wetting her lips or even chewing her fingernails. making exaggerated moves . One only need observe a dance floor to confirm this. (reveals what she is thinking of.
To be more correct, women don't want sex - they want good sex. Women's sexual desires are much greater than most men realize. But, unlike men, who are just after sex, women are looking for great sexual experiences. Women are very discriminating and choosy in picking partners. They are only interested in having a sexual encounter with a partner that: 1. sexually arouses them and 2. promises, by his manner or image or personality, to be "good in bed". Women want exciting, provocative, imaginative partners who will lead them through great sexual experiences. Though their sexual desire may be very high, they will pass up just any sexual encounter waiting to find the one that promises to be special. The fact that women are choosy about who they go to bed with is a dilemma for men, but there is one good aspect to this trait. Women, once they do choose, tend to stay with him, and are reluctant to change partners. Women know that good sex is hard to find, so once they have it, they would rather hang on to that relationship than go back out into the market place. Keep in mind this propensity to stay in a relationship because of sex exists only as long as the sex is good. The last thought in this section is something that I have come to realize is a cardinal rule to be used in reading women. That is: WOMEN HAVE SEX WITH MEN WHO THEY WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH. At first, this phrase may sound too simple and obvious to have any wisdom to it, but let me expand on it. The meaning behind it is, that if a woman decides that she would like to sleep with someone, she will pursue that person relentlessly. And on the other hand, if a woman has decided that she is not interested in sleeping with someone, no amount of pursuit or persuasion is going to move her. Many men have wasted their precious time and energy by ignoring this reality. We will show you how you can read women well enough to know whether or not to continue interest in her, or to bow out and put your energies into women where the odds are greater.
What Turns Single Women On
What turns single women on
It's very important to know these things so you will know what to do to attract and turn women on. Listed here are things about men that turns on single women, according to hundreds of single women surveyed:
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Meeting men in a public place naturally and by accident Honest men Nice men who treat them with respect Men in tight jeans A man with a good sense of humor Men with a outgoing and friendly personality A man who is ambitious and knows where he is going in life Men who have the ability to be himself and not try to put on an act Men who listen to them and try to get to know them
How to Turn Single Women on Sexually
Did you know you can drive single women wild in bed just by talking sexy and making sexual moans and groans? Sex sounds are a good way to enhance a woman's lovemaking pleasure. By making sounds, you exchange energy with your partner and let her know how much she's turning you on. So, what are these sounds to turn single women on while involved in foreplay and lovemaking? Try these: "Ummmmmmmm!" "I love the way you do that!"
"Oh, baby you're so good!" "Oooooooooh!" "Oh, God, oh, oh" "I love this!" "Aaaaaaaaah!" And one of the ultimate sounds you can make is a simple, "Oh,____________"(her name) during the heat of passion. Be sure it's her name though.....you're going to be up shit creek if you call out another girl's name during lovemaking. Moans and groans are very effective in arousing passion in single women. Just start out making soft moans and groans and increase the volume when she's nearing an orgasm. In closing, follow these tips that will let her know that she is pleasing you and will turn you into a sexual Super Stud.
Whispering Techniques If body language communicates 90% of what is said during courting, then talking to them in their ear (or whispering) should be responsible for about 50% of that. The ear is a very erogenous zone. AND WOMEN LOVE IT WHEN THEY ARE WHISPERED TO. Everyone does. If a below average chick says something remotely sexy in your ear, you will be way more turned on than if she said it to you face to face. The same goes for women. So if the bar is loud ( and you should look for above average loudness bars) you have every right to use this technique: she wont ask you "why are you whispering in my ear" because she knows it's loud. When you start talking to her, immediately reach for getting your lips around 9 inches or so from her ear. Then if she is responding by letting you talk to her in that manner, try to get closer and closer as the dialog develops. If she isn't backing away every time you are responding to something you are saying, and if she keeps asking you questions or is trying to make conversation, you know you are good and can go on with this method. Within five minutes you should be talking to her IN her ear, as your lips should be almost touching her ear. While you are carrying out the whisper technique, you should be also working on the second seduction method called "boob touch".
so within twenty minutes of talking via the "boob touch" method. access to her tits while reaching over to talk to her. you can easily use the "subliminal leg touch technique" Subliminal leg touch technique If you are both sitting. Keep this up for as long as you feel like it. you can take it to the next level. You can't be reaching over to accidentally be brushing against her breast. but because you have to reach over to her ear. This is a standard "I'm just socializing" position. Stand next to her (next to her legs) in a way that you can have easy. you have already approached her. If you are both sitting at a table. facing each other. after all. By having your gin and tonic (or what have you) right in front of your chest. Don't bring attention to it. you hold your drink with both hands in front of your chest and stand very close to her. the situation gets slightly different. where you run your ankle along her leg. perpendicular to each other. at least your ankles should touch. hopefully proceeding to a footsie. The boob touch can also work if she is sitting by the bar: lets say she is on a stool and you want to hit on her: approach her from the side. you try to ever so slightly touch her boobs (not the nipples just yet) while you are whispering to her. So in this case. and while talking (whispering) to her. quickly brushing against her nipples. Proceed to repeat this throughout your conversation. it is happening merely as an unintentional accident: you are trying to make sure she hears what you are saying by talking to her in her ear. Sometimes you will notice that they just start asking the most bland and pathetic questions.Boob touch The boob touch technique works like this: You are both standing in a club or bar. If you are both sitting at a table. if she keeps making conversation it means she is enjoying it (green light). your knees can touch. your knuckles are accidentally brushing against her boobs and nipples. as in. If you are both on bar stools and you are facing each other. 137 . you can make both of your legs softly interlock with hers during an attempt to reach over and better hear what she is saying. We do recommend changing gears while they are still wet. meaning. you can use other parts of you body to make contact with hers. " don't stop cause I love it". Again. sparked a conversation. don't stand in front of her knees (since you wont be able to reach over to her breasts. If you two are both sitting. its about the physical contact.
and she comes around but doesn't have a seat. legs and knees can come in contact. After you carry out the whispering. you will notice that she will be enjoying it as much as you are. Then. offer yours. That's good! This means that you only are two steps from bringing her back. if you are both standing up. claiming you sat too much at the office. your elbows. the boob touch or the leg touch techniques for twenty minutes or so. 138 . If she says no ( they usually do) then stand up any way. you can carry out the boob touch.If you are both in a booth. next to each other. If you are sitting on a bar stool.
This hurts. any guy and thinks that sex is the quickest way to get it. Do you want to spend more time with her? Are you ready to introduce her to your friends? What about the second date. well . She may be extremely desperate for attention from a guy. Should You Have Sex With Single Women Early in a Relationship? Becoming physically intimate too soon can be fatal to a relationship. but work with me here. Obviously. All relationships are going to move at different rates and intensities. The question is . there is no magic number. but it's important that her expectations are properly focused. dummy.About SEX Sex . clouds judgment. Maybe she does this with every guy she goes out with. . you wouldn't be reading this book and your mail would be addressed: Brad Pitt. Do you think for one minute that you are so irresistible that any single woman will throw herself at you after three hours of pasta and Merlot? Right.is this what you want? Not the sex. the time to reveal that is before you hit the sack. there's something else going on. If that were the case. and superimposes cruel reality on hopes and dreams ("Is that all there is?"). It narrows options and introduces tensions and pressures into what was a 139 . If you make the decision that you want to move to a physical relationship. the woman. If that's still OK. what you need is a reality check. If you are not ready to commit to an exclusive relationship. It can shatter the slowly developing friendship and trust between the two of you. and the two of you want to proceed. She may ask you for $100 when it's over! It may be some combination of the above. CA. No. this could get silly. or the third? OK.When? So when is it the appropriate time? This is a tough one. It magnifies and distorts feelings. Talk to her! Do you actually have a relationship going here? Is she part of your life? Do you share a lot? Do you trust her? Are you close enough that you can have an honest discussion about having sex? If you can't talk to her about it how are you going to get naked with her? We don't want to remove the passion and make this sound too clinical. I can tell you that the first date is not the time. She might be drunk. Hollywood. It will vary greatly from couple to couple. .
It damns you for lack of respect for the woman. the respondents shared opinions that ran from permissive to monastic. I posted a question from a reader named Sally who wrote: Men often indicate they would like a sexual encounter on the first date. Sex should never be undertaken lightly. than by sleeping together. by becoming one in music and lyrics and poetry. or are they asking deeper questions? In a column.. Are they serious or do they think it is expected they will ask. and consequences. without a full understanding of its implications. come back for part two. we'll take a look at the reasons men might ask for or hint at sex on the first date. such as a hug or a kiss. You can get a deeper sense of communion by sharing a meal than by sharing a bed. and for lack of discipline on your part. Physical contact at the wrong time can intrude. Getting to know a woman. in two weeks. But what they do with those thoughts and how they act on them is a different matter entirely. The reasons might not be what you'd expect. Sally's questions really cut to the heart of what men and women readers think about: sex.. Physical intimacy implies commitment. Then. block communication. You can learn more about each other by joining your voices in song. Sex on the First Date Part I What does it mean when a man asks for sex on the first date? Is it appropriate? Does it affect the outcome of a relationship? Do guys really want sex. if the scores of opinions from Tools readers that have been filling my email box can be taken as any indication of the importance of the issue. These guys want reassurance that their 140 . helps show a woman is at least interested in them.. The two of you should be fully committed to each other before you seal the bond with lovemaking. It is begging for trouble.joyous and carefree acquaintanceship. Survey Says: "Men Need a Sign You're Interested" Many men wrote in saying that some physical sign of affection. hinder real understanding. where you'll see men and women's opinions on whether you actually should have sex on the first date. the focus of this column. a sense of permanence.and what answer do they really anticipate? Sally's question really hit a nerve. It is a promise. In part one of this two-part series.. responsibility. Despite being overwhelmingly male. But one opinion that nearly all writers shared was this: men think about sex on the first date. No big surprise there. "touching" her is critically important in a relationship. Just holding hands or a gentle kiss can easily be more explosively effective in linking the two of you than having sex.
If you're interested. many men said that they might not pursue a second date. JB sums up this view: "If I were to ask a women for sex on the first date I would hope for the answer to be no. or even a goodnight kiss – but a hug goes a **long** way toward making me more interested in someone. asking for sex on the first date is really a test: if she says yes." LobsterHunter says sex on the first date can lead to second thoughts: "I think that most of us men have thoughts of wanting sex on the first date. but wonders about women who want it too soon: "If a woman indicates that she wants to hit the sack on date number one (and I've met a few that have done this) I'm usually turned off big time. could say something like 'I think you are terrific and I'm enjoying getting to know you. makes all the difference in the world when the guy is deciding 'how the date went' later on.] The woman. Just something – ANYTHING – that hints the woman is interested physically in the guy is a helping hand towards the date and the relationship. if a girl will sleep with me on the first date and she really doesn't even know me that well. I mean seriously. She will likely get a second date and a third." EVermin wants a sign: "It's not necessarily sex that men seek on the first date. Please call me again. these guys lose respect for her and won't pursue anything long term! If she says. even as they try to get you into bed.dates find them attractive.' That tone is positive and reassuring and gives the man hope. more than a handshake is necessary to get me to call you for a second date. a firm handshake conveys that nicely. This doesn't mean sex.. If you're not interested. how many other men has she been with??" 141 . I also think that we do not expect it.if she continues to show such understanding and skill in the emotional dance.." Lets_b_friends doesn't ask for sex. "let's wait. and we can all part friends. the male may be seeking affirmation of his attractiveness. DoctorTom said: "I've never had a second date with a woman who was afraid to touch me on the first date. soon. if interested. A little physical affection. If there's no sign of affection. because I would have so much more respect for her. even if it seems a bit extreme to you." Survey Says: "Saying No Increases A Guy's Respect!" Who said that men who ask for sex really want it right away? For many of the men who wrote in. I'm interested in all aspects of a relationship with you but think we need to take some time to let the relationship grow." many men express increased respect and interest in pursuing a relationship! These guys want to know you're a woman with principles." Phantom9 said be positive and reassuring: "One level. [The woman has a few options if she doesn't want to have sex right away. I have slept with first dates in the past. and always left the experience with negative feelings about my partner even if I enjoyed the sex.
these questions were raised by a reader named Sally.An Old Fashioned Stud Muffin wants a challenge: "I frequently engage in what might be regarded as 'seductive' behavior. This time out. you should act interested in the man and pay attention to him. many men said that when they ask for sex they're looking for an acknowledgment that their partner finds them attractive and wants to continue dating. men didn't always want sex. cuddling and kissing are their own rewards. In fact. but would then rule her out for more than a purely physical relationship. Several times woman have assumed this meant I wanted to have sex with them. but men will usually value you more highly if they perceive you to be more of a challenge. The surprising. To me. even on first dates. actually it is always disappointing to a man when a woman gives in so easily! Yes. That is definitely not an attractive quality in a lady. men think about and ask for sex on the first date. and what it means to actually have it on the first date. that asking for sex on the first date was not always what it seemed. responses fell into two camps: • those who said sex should wait (anywhere from three dates to years). even when they say so directly. Could such men pass over women who would be fine long term partners. With guys. "Should you have sex on the first date?" Part II Men and Women Respond What does sex on the first date mean? Do you have it? Do you want to? In Part I of this two part exploration into the mating habits of men and women. we take a look at readers' views on sex. but often don't expect it. and most popular response said. only because they agreed to his initial request for sex? How can women know beforehand what the longer term consequences of saying "yes" are? And what if the women had a similar test for they guys? Would anyone pass? In Part II we'll hear the most common responses from men and women who answer the question. What's more." Perflode said: "Surely no one looking to build a relationship would want a woman who is willing to sleep with a man after just meeting him." So what's a man or a woman to do in these situations? If what many of these guys have written is any indication. What sort of dilemma does that create for the woman? Several other men who wrote in said they would sleep with a woman on the first date. That is. 142 . Those provocative answers bring us to Part II of our sex-on-the-first-date chronicles. as well as the many Tools readers who responded to her question. at least in part. guys said that many of them won't enter into a long-term relationship with women who have sex on the first date. when to have it.
"Act Today!" Troublewandre says women can't have it both ways: "Would you prefer it if men expressed no interest in sex with you at all? Haven't you. it can be a sign that the relationship is off to a good start. If I approached the first date entertaining the notion of having sex. Speaking as a male (and only for myself) I would consider this whole business of having sex on the first date. There are better people out there and they are more worthy of your time and presence. sex on the first date is expected and required! If the date went well. and the sanctity of this mystery. all the guys who are right for you will respect your wishes. ever met anyone you'd just like to throw down on the ground and do it with. if not more so. that if it happens on the first date. These guys don't see any problem with first date sex. you honor yourself. In one form or another. then that person is not worth your time and soul. then it's a great way for him to show he cares and might 143 . I would suspect that I had fallen down some adolescent (and/or Freudian) mine shaft." Who. Opinion One: Sex is Too Sacred to Rush A large number of guys said avoid the quick sexual fix and wait until you get to know a bit more about your partner. you're respecting yourself and respecting her. right then and there? Sometimes you just feel the attraction. as a serious case of self-delusion. says mrwookie: "Those who desire and pursue sex on a first and second date are in my opinion abandoning their self respect and regard the other as nothing more than cheap meat. their motto is. They ridicule all that is wondrous and unique about making love. whether they say so or not. there's no denying that men think about sex a lot. especially if you want to wait until you know each other better. Sally. For them. Me? tells women not to overreact: "We certainly have nothing to lose by asking." Honor yourself and wait." Opinion Two: "We're in the 90s. If your date persists on sex too soon." The name JoeStud says it all: "By all means. Cigueno says the importance of sex fades: "I am middle aged and there was a time of youthful exuberance wherein the spiritual (or psychological) aspect of sexuality held much less sway. To those who resist having sex on a first date. if a woman is such a prude that she's offended by the question. Then there is the small collection of responses from women: Many wrote in to say that whether you wait or not. The way they see it. who and what a woman is 'spiritually' or 'psychologically' is as important.• men who said sex is sex. Don't Be So Uptight!" Call this group of male respondents the Free Love gang. But now. your body. as her figure or her face ever was to me. it's a sure bet that we'd never get anything out of the relationship but headaches anyway.
I've found saying I am not going to sleep with you because I don't know you well enough. even if they ask for it! How's that for confusing? According to what these guys say. if you laugh at his jokes. if you have the willpower." Women Say: "He'll Wait If He's the Right Guy" I've already mentioned that few women respond to Sally's question. your life. many want merely a sign of affection from their dates. long term relationship then give yourself better odds by waiting until you know him and he knows you a little better.' and women who say 'the right guy for you is the one who respects your wishes. this shows he really is only looking for the sexual quick fix.. he wants to know things about you as well. a small gesture that shows she's interested. Get with it Sally." Take your time. and your decision. Part I showed us that when men ask." couldn't they ask their question a little more directly? When a guy asks for sex.' And on top of all that. but means." We've got men who say 'wait. out of their dates.. they might not be asking for sex.' men who 'go for it. On your first date with a new guy.. Never forget this will most likely form the basis of a lasting relationship if this part of the date is successful. "Are you attracted to me?" he might not get the answer he wants. and some men are spoiled by how readily sex is available. but if you want a more serious. says PrettyRtist: "If he's attracted to you sex will always be on his mind. But don't be disappointed if after a few dates and refusing his advances he stops calling you. at least you're being honest about what you want. but I really like you and hope we can continue dating. and only sex. right? The guy is doing the same thing... like how you look. Is there any way out of this tangle of mixed messages and psychological one upmanship? Why do some men admittedly put women up to a test by indicating they want sex right away? If the answer men really want to their advances is a very polite "no. how he acts and how he treats you. but what isn't natural is demanding sex from you when you don't want to be intimate with him so early..most importantly he wants to know whether you will be compatible in bed.want another date. If the date went badly. Take your time and get to know him and if his intentions are honorable he will wait until you're ready. at least he can salvage a sexual conquest and a story he can tell his buddies. Should women have to refuse men's advances in order to prove that they're relationship material? To the small portion of male readers who made it clear that some guys want sex. do what feels right for you. 144 . I say. the right guy is willing to wait. it's only natural. you are checking him out to see how he presents himself. daisydontgo says wait if you want more: "I think that if you sleep with a man on the first date that is fine. Those who did said that Sally should do what she wants.. too. but you can stay and I'll hug you all night if you want' can be mutually beneficial. It's your body. while keeping in mind that if she'd rather wait. after all this is the 90's!" Babemaster says lust is a two way street: "Think about your question from both sides.
They would be left with desire. In other words. rather than using the occasion to test a potential mate. Practice different positions and activities. here are my tips: TIP #1 . She will remember you as being special if you are the first person she ever saw ejaculate. Just take your time and do it gently. her fulfillment. but they are certainly not expected to fill your entire needs for sexual education. Your primary goal should be her pleasure. or masturbate. that denial is something to be done occasionally and it is only effective when the sex she is being denied is the best sex of her life. but there may be lots of sexual activities that she has never experienced. they are always quite educational in terms of technique. you never know whether you're getting the answer you want. we recommend that you see some X-rated movies. especially when you remove her bra and panties. It makes her feel sexy and turned on.Don't forget that each girls is an opportunity for practice. Sexual Advice on How to Make Love to Single Women I do not intend for this chapter to be an abbreviated sex manual. Stop messing with heads! If you ask a convoluted question. with lots of tenderness. Also. or had oral sex with. and imagination. however. or get her to reveal her interest in you. her orgasm. A friend once told me that he always left his women "one screw short" so that they would always be coming back for more. there is a lot of material available and I strongly suggest that you obtain some.To all the guys who ask for sex. there are sex manuals on the market. Entire books are devoted to the topic of female sexuality. But now to get your educational process started. I have compiled a list of tips about sex. and observe her reaction and level of pleasure from them.You may not be the first lover in her life. TIP #3 . Its purpose is to introduce you to some basic principles and philosophies of the sexual fulfillment of single women. Single women love it when guys take off her clothes. and desires. positions. slowly. magazines have sections devoted to educating men in the art of making love. here's my advice: concentrate more on what you're really trying to say and say it directly. 145 . TIP #2 . and to encourage you to learn as much as you can about a single woman's sexual needs. want. Though often poorly produced and acted. TIP #4 .Sexual denial by the man can be very effective for a woman's long term dependence on you.Take off her clothes when making love. Don't forget. but really want something else.
TIP #5 - Light a candle before making love. A candle is the perfect lighting for lovemaking. It creates a romantic atmosphere and makes a woman feel sexier and more relaxed. TIP #6 - This final tip - Be the best you can be sexually. Single women want to be satisfied sexually by a good lover. If you're not good in bed she may lose interest in you and find someone else who can satisfy her needs. If you are a good lover and bring her immense pleasure and passionate orgasms, she will literally be begging to have sex with you again and again. She won't be able to get enough of you!
She's probably not sexually attracted to you
If a single woman is not as sexually interested in you for romance as you are in her, then your relationship has a basic weakness that may be an insolvable problem. In other words, if you are the only one making sexual advances, if you feel as though it's a battle to get her interested or aroused, if she never takes the initiative to make the right time and place for sex to occur, if she's not interested in exploring new positions or locations, if she's never interested in round 2 or 3, or if she never initiates spur of the moment sex, then she's probably not sexually attracted to you. Oh, she likes you fine, and you are convenient to her at this time in her life. You provide security, you are safe, or for any of a thousand reasons she is with you, but she's not sexually interested in you. And that makes your hold on her very weak. When you are no longer convenient to her, or she meets someone who does turn her on, you have no further hold on her and she's gone. Don't fall for her excuses. The specific ones: This isn't the right time; I don't feel well; not here, someone might come by; that hurts me; I just took a shower; we don't have time. Or the general ones: I'm still suffering from a bad relationship and need time; I have a lot of important things on my mind; I'm overweight and self-conscious about my body. These are just that, excuses. She may actually believe them but don't you fall for them. If she was really sexually attracted to you, then there would be no need for excuses. Things aren't going to get better. There will always be an excuse. This situation is bad for you not only because of your frustration, but because of your self-esteem. Constantly being told by someone's actions that you are not sexy is not good for your self-image. So when there is no sexual magic, start looking for her replacement. Don't dump her until you've found one because your search is easier when you have a girl - but start looking today. 146
The Way To Break Up With Her
Breaking Up Is Hard To Do
There is only one way to break up with someone. Tell it to her in person. Some books and web sites suggest and encourage the use of devices such as electronic greeting cards or even ICQ to break the news of your breakup to her. If you do, you are a cowardly man who obviously neither has the integrity nor the sincerity to tell her that your relationship is over. Using an electronic medium is not only insensitive, it also simply means that you will have to tell it to her in person yourself at a later date. You are merely postponing the inevitable as well as losing whatever shred of respect she had for you. Where To Go? I strongly suggest that when breaking up, you invite her out for lunch or dinner at the very same place you first met or had a date together. The symbolic significance of your relationship having come full circle will not be lost on both of you during your breakup. When telling her the awful truth, you should have a solemn face and say the words like you mean them. I really hope you do. Telling her in person is never easy, breaking up never is, and you owe it to her to tell the news of your breakup to her personally. Not on the phone, definitely not over e-mail, but in the flesh. The Breakup Due to the fact that she might get emotional when you tell her the sad truth, you might want to breakup with her somewhere hidden from the public eye. When breaking up, come clean. There is no room for any white washing or delaying. That will only make matters worse and further prolong your agony. Think of breaking up not only as the end to a bad relationship, but rather as an end to the beginning. New doors will be opened and new opportunities will come by. You are closing a chapter of your life and at the same one, starting a new one as well. Each person thinks that their own breakup is unique and must have been the most traumatic in all history. The truth of the matter is that breakups always follow the same pattern and somehow, life goes on. You will meet new people, go new places and your breakup will be but a distant memory, a signpost in your checkered and colorful life.
Feelings Of Guilt
If you are the one initiating the breakup, you will feel at least some guilt. To break up with someone is one of the meanest things you can possibly do to anyone, ever. Breaking up with someone is not just rejection, it is much more than that. To be rejected by someone you have shared your thoughts with, someone who you love deeply, is heart wrenching indeed. It is just like saying, "I've seen the kind of person who you are and I don't think you're the one for me. Go away." Why Feel Guilty? In order to exorcise these feelings of guilt during your breakup, just tell yourself that: You are actually helping her because you have avoided a messy divorce if both of you had been married. You are the one that is bringing her happiness as she does not deserve a jerk like you. You are giving her independence and she no longer will be trapped in a relationship doomed to failure. She can now concentrate on building a successful career and when she is a billionaire, she will thank you for it. These suggestions are all rather extreme but believe me, they work wonders getting rid of those pesky feelings of guilt I have whenever I'm about to break up with someone. The bottom line is this. You are the one who is doing her a favor and so you should not feel guilty at all. Of course, this is only from the dumper's perspective. The dumpee does not view it this way at all.
Dear ________,(her name) I know this is hard for you but our relationship is really not working out and I feel we cannot go on like this. I think you are a wonderful person and that you really do not deserve a jerk like me.
I strongly suggest that you break the news to her personally. but face to face.I have felt this way for a long time now and I thought we would be able to work things out. I hate myself for doing this to you but we have to move on. For maximum effectiveness. I am so sorry that I have to hurt you like this and you deserve better. you must customize your breakup speech to suit your relationship. It's over but don't worry. 149 . The Breakup Speech should only be used as a template. not on the phone. we can still be friends. It is not your fault and I will always cherish the time spent with you.
the jokes you shared with her. Upon realizing the futility of their efforts. the reason why she is breaking up with you is never clear cut. "You can't leave me!" "I cannot live without you!". are gone forever. Cry if you like. most men are stunned into silence.She Dumps You She dumps you The Bomb "I'm leaving you. the times when you would whisper sweet nothings into her ear. but with a whimper. 150 . There is a time delay of about 3. You did something that angered her (cheated on her. Normally." Upon hearing those three dreaded words. At this point. maybe three of the above. So this is how it ends. not with a bang. to get her to tell you why she broke up with you in the first place. Crises of circumstance. "I'm sure we can work things out!" "Give me a second chance!". She simply lost interest in you (does not necessarily mean there is someone else). lied to her etc). Maybe she wants to go for a career. There are mainly 4 reasons why people go through a breakup. It is natural to let loose your emotions but never lose sight of your primary goal. It could be a combination of two. the parents discourage the relationship (common in Asian countries) etc.3467 seconds before the brain starts working again and the grim realization that whatever you once had. Why Me? All good things come to an end. they try to resort to begging. Your job is stop your pathetic whimpering and identify them. roughly 6. What You Should Do Instead Identify the reason(s) for the breakup. There is someone else.342 seconds after she said those three dreaded words. the moments you enjoyed together. most people go into denial.
preferably the day after she broke up with you and tell her that you would like to talk to her. Once you have identified the reasons. These things happen. Your whole plan is based on the assumption that she feels unhappy. both of you would be left miserable. Imply that if she left you. Before you decide to go any further. tough luck. A word of caution here. stop. If you do succeed. Cutting corners will not do here. my sincere congratulations to you. 151 .. Time is of the essence so you must act fast. Do not forget to add that she looks absolutely stunning.The simple. Call her up. "Could you please honestly tell me why you are breaking up with me?" should work since she most likely has prepared a list of answers for you. Praise her. Plan Of Action Your whole strategy involves trying to persuade her to listen to your reasons why breaking up is a mistake. tell her that you love her very much and that you hope she will forgive her for whatever you have done wrong (even if you have not done anything at all). Make clear that if both of you were to break up. Since your whole plan is based on the assumption that she is unhappy. You either go all out or don't bother at all. both parties think breaking up is for the best and go their separate ways peacefully. Whatever it takes to get her back. flatter her. If there is already someone else in her life. make reservations at a fancy restaurant and order a large bouquet of red roses. Tell her that you know deep down inside that if both of you were to work really hard to get this relationship back on track. well. If not. the past 2 years (or whatever time you both spent together) would go to waste. the rewards will be worth reaping. Getting her back Getting her back after the breakup is going to cost you time and money. it's time to formulate a plan of action as suggested in the next chapter on getting her back. Do you really want to get back together again? Occasionally. When she agrees. Having determined which factors caused your breakup as explained in the previous chapter. they usually do. your plan will most likely fail since she already is happy and therefore does not need you anymore. commend her. you can now develop a plan of action. Think. At the restaurant.. That you were very lucky to find such a wonderful person and that never in a million years will you find someone like her again. and a little bit guilty after the breakup and that she is undecided about jumping in a new relationship just yet.
life looks bleak indeed. "Yeah. if this is your first breakup. the average US citizen goes through around five breakups before entering marriage. but after the 3 months. Mope around all day if you want to. you'll feel a whole lot better inside and a lot more confident because you know your friends are behind you all the way. They will encourage you and tell you that she was a waste of time anyway and that you deserve better. I would suggest giving yourself a mourning period of about 2-3 months to wallow in your depression. At this point of time. If I hadn't. even to cry. it's okay to feel sad.Post Breakup Advice Post Breakup Advice So you have been dumped. Moving On With Your Life If you're still feeling depressed. Mourning Life is like a bed of roses. Some people take over a year to get over their lost loves. Their subconscious tells them that they are betraying her. I'd still be stuck with so and so" Having gone through your previous relationship. Most people hesitate to find a new girlfriend after their breakup because they feel guilty inside. get on with your life. Chances are. there will be many more to follow. Welcome to the club! You and about a zillion other people. Full of thorns everywhere. get your friends over and talk about it. After a year or so. Face it. Directly after the breakup. you might begin to see the wisdom in breaking up and look back and say. I am not suggesting that it is okay to break up with your girlfriend. The only way to overcome this is to go out and meet new people. you will be able to handle future relationships with more confidence and maturity. something which should come easy to you if you have gone through the rest of this book. I am just trying to make clear that breaking up is a fact of life and you will probably be going through a lot more breakups before settling down. Good thing I broke up then. This is completely natural since you still are thinking about her. 152 . After that.
an ex-girlfriend will normally not call you for the simple reason she hates you. I began hunting down for a girlfriend. life was good. I want her". but also fuel the myth of all men being scum. but that's another story. I didn't know any better. On a more positive side. I decided to settle down with someone that could put up with me and not complain about my weird behavior or my fascination toward goats.Ex Girlfriend Survival Guide After I had realized that girls were not disgusting as I always stated when I was in kindergarten. for no apparent reason. my brain trying to convince my emotions it was okay to move on. In her eyes you are the scum of the earth. After many unsuccessful relationships. Of course that is morally wrong and just plain bad of thinking of girls like that. she can talk evilly about you to her partner. I started listening to really corny music. And as far as she is concerned. This will not only cause the unfortunate effect that she will spew evil about you. I still don't know any better. Bob over there had a better car. But This One Called Back You see. but I was young and immature. a leather jacket and he wore those really cool shoes that everyone was raving about. Then one day. nothing will happen. if you are walking down the street with your new girlfriend. Now you see. I'm a nice guy. nor was I aware of the dangers involved in a relationship. she decided one day that I was just not cool enough and told me right there and then that it was over. This has the effect of making you think "she's single again! Maybe she'll want me back!" 153 . All was well. sighed and sobbed a lot. I dropped my heart pieces to the ground and walked away. You have been introduced to what I call the "I've been dumped" technique. She knows better than to make a fool out of herself on in a public place. and she sees you. feeling miserable and all. I just thought "hey. Pure evil. dumped her for another girl. Unfortunately I wasn't sure what I was looking for. For a while I sat there picking up the pieces of my heart. the reason it all ended was your fault. Her Techniques The ex-girlfriend called back and began pulling the typical alone-ex-girlfriend techniques: Usually. You will both cross each other on the sidewalk. and when you are past their ear range. she looks cute. the ex-girlfriend called. Then I thought about it and I said "you know what? This was the best thing that ever happened". after the little trick "do you know who this is?" she will start talking about how miserable she is now that the guy she dumped you for. I'm horny. Bad. Honest.
I usually point out how shitty that must have felt and that you know that feeling already (hint hint). A good deadly reply that always shuts them up is "yeah. which is the first step in bringing out those old feelings you had. She will bring up the letters and poems you have written her and start reading them to you. Unfortunately she has not been convinced yet and she calls again for another blow." Guys. she will never call back. A nuclear bomb would have done less damage. If I accept. 154 . She will ask you to call her back. Be careful. and describe with miniscule and painful detail all the things she does that she never did. your girlfriend is over. my girlfriend will have my head. If you got a nice shirt your girlfriend gave you. Don't forget to "Forget" to call back. After that blow you can rest assured she will not call you ever again. My girlfriend surprisingly more evil and diabolical than me told me I should go. growing experience. she is somewhat smarter this time. of how great she is. Answer with the carefully tested answers. In fact.. Con scientists have determined that this works best with a little pause prior to speaking with a disgusted tone: "I wrote that shit to you? What was I thinking. The conversation will not last long. Dress nice. Now I know what I don't want in a woman". make sure you wear it. Your current girlfriend doesn't like finding that stuff in your house. At first I thought... going out with you was a good. By now she is hoping you feel sorry for her. and this might cause you to start feeling again just because she didn't throw anything of you away (even if at the time she said she had). The best defense is to start talking of how happily involved you are with your new girlfriend. She calls again. Tell her you are busy because. Say "sure". I guess she is a little more stubborn then we originally assumed. Her final and desperate move will be to invite you out for a coffee or dinner. and she will be very careful in saying anything that will spark you in talking about your girlfriend.. More Techniques She will call you. don't forget to throw your letters away. Last time you checked you are not a spare tire.. look spiffy and don't forget to shine your shoes. uh. You'll notice that this time conversation will be more casual. and my ex might will think that finally I have come to my senses and I want her back. she will use the "Past Approach". but think about it: she left you for a silly reason and now she wants you back. At first you'll be surprised she still has them. She will talk about times prior to your girlfriend of when the two of you were dating and the wonderful moments you spent together. it would be wise to decline. "Do you remember this poem you wrote me?" she will ask.Now this has worked in a few cases that I have witnessed. Her mental attacks will be a little stronger and clearer this time.
She will sit there looking miserable (make sure you ask "you look so down. reply with the patented answer "no.. did you put on some weight? (that comment works better than a stun-gun. not really.. after dribbling the question around a bit. I find it better to conclude this with the wise words of a friend: "ex-girlfriends should be handled like nuclear waste. Tell her how she has changed. don't overdue it though. she looks a little shorter. Notice the twitch on her eyebrow). I am evil and vengeful and I always enjoy my steaming and evil plotting. While looking over the menu.000 years. my girlfriend bought me this really nice shirt". Congratulations! You have destroyed her. and how that reminds you how great she looked just the other day when. this most likely caused by a the deadly combo "did you gain weight?" question and your "let's be friends" answer...being a woman she will answer you with a typical "nothing" answer). Spend the next 15 minutes discussing about her great clothing tastes. hmmm. Notice how she will hardly touch the food. but we can still be friends. I will probably get criticized for my childish behavior... Bury them in the ground and hope they're harmless in 10. The waiter will grab your drink order." 155 .. She will compliment you on how nicely you are dressed and you get to reply with "yeah. this looks good!" and point out to her how the pasta All'Arrabbiata is great and she should try it. what's the matter?" .. and she will take this chance to ask you. but I can't help it.Finally you get to see her. if you are interested in getting back with her.
" Second. 156 . she needs to find out. she tries to get that sense of security "by osmosis" from you. Some women can be very insecure.Recognizing and Avoiding Traps Games Single Women Play to Test You Here's a chapter which will open your eyes to some head games single women play on men. She may even believe that she has very few talents and abilities . she really wants and needs a strong man who will control her and tell her what to do.except for her physical features and beauty. Actually. she needs to find out the limits of what you will view as "her acceptable behavior. WARNING! If you are tolerant and patient (like all nice guys) you will not pass her test. a man confident enough to stand up to her when she needs it. she must find out how strong and sure of yourself you really are. she will walk all over you. "Comfort Zone. so untamable. so strong and therefore. It can be very frightening. a man who will make her feel secure." She does not know you well enough yet. totally out of her. she is testing you for two reasons: First. so desirable to her. Another typical female behavior is to test you at the very beginning of your relationship to see if you are going to put up with her garbage. she is in unfamiliar territory. The uncertainty makes her feel very uncomfortable." So. a man who will give her that sense of security she so desperately needs. She sometimes cannot get that sense of security from herself because she may have so little self-confidence and self-esteem. she needs to find out what behavior is expected or accepted of her. Therefore. And that can be very "scary. Therefore. You will make them for her. she will leave you and go after another jerk because he looks so uncontrollable. The very last thing a woman really wants and needs is an insecure and weak nice guy who is easily manipulated and controlled by her. Plus the added benefit that she won't have to worry about the hard decisions.
Don't Be a Victim of the Pregnancy Trap! Some single women. After all. Therefore. Nonsense. the laws are so distorted in women's favor that men don't have a chance. take all necessary precautions to: Protect yourself from any Sexually Transmitted diseases. that you protect her from getting pregnant. as all women do. they should not blame anybody else but themselves. and avoid the "Deadly Pregnancy Trap. What a joke. I order and command you to always wear condoms in conjunction with spermicide and any additional contraceptive you can come up with. Women do. innocent. "I am pregnant. this blob of holy semen came down and impregnated her. Notice also that when women want to get pregnant and are happy with their pregnancies. And it was not her fault at all. My good fellow. Listen. Most likely. no guy could get in if these women kept their legs crossed and closed very tight. I am so happy because I am going to have a baby." But when they want to nail you or the pregnancy was unplanned they say: "You got me pregnant. Why should we men take care of women's bodies? Why is it that we men are the ones who have to wear condoms so they don't get pregnant? We men don't ever get pregnant." 157 . if they run the risk of getting pregnant they should not "spread your legs" around. Or at least. And if they do get pregnant. you will be stuck with a child you never wanted or expected for the rest of your life." They never tell the honest truth that "Our daughter got pregnant because she was spreading her legs around. and unfortunately you do not know which ones. Unfortunately." And listen to their mommies and daddies saying: "You got our daughter pregnant. Since condoms are not 100% failure-proof. Men are so stupid that they do not make women responsible for their bodies and their pregnancies. she was "sleeping around" without even taking "birth control" pills expecting. And you will pay up to your ears. virginal girl who just happened to be praying when unexpectedly. poor thing. unless a man and his woman decide willingly to have a child. use pregnancy as a way to trap you into marrying them. high from above. they say. women should both protect themselves and take full responsibilities for their pregnancies." As if their daughter was this pure.
At some point we are always going to do something or say something that the opposite sex does not agree with.and if the relationship can't be improved. The real truth is that you could be perfectly happy with any number of women that come along in your life at the right time. There has never been a perfect person on earth except God. By being trapped in a bad or unsatisfying relationship that doesn't satisfy your needs. 158 . when I tell you that it's just not worth it to stay in a bad relationship until someone better comes along. Also. in that you are overly emotionally dependent on women.Are You Staying in a Bad Relationship Just to Have a Woman? Some men think that it's better to have a woman .any woman . My friend. I'm saying a girl with no flaws or shortcomings. and that you may suffer from low self-esteem because that you feel that you are nothing without a woman. by staying in a bad relationship just to have a woman can indicate that you are suffering from some underlying psychological problems.than no woman at all. In conclusion. When I say perfect. We all have flaws in our makeup and personalities. compromise. We just can't be perfect every day to everyone. and trust. The problem is that you could be waiting forever. It's all a matter of both parties being willing to commit to building a relationship built on love. nothing could be further from the truth. Are You Spoiling Your Chances for Love and Romance? A lot of guys fall into the trap of thinking that there's only one girl out there in the whole wide world for them and when they find her it will be the key to their happiness forever. Life's just too short to spend all your time with someone who makes you miserable. if you are stuck in a bad relationship. Believe me. you owe it to yourself and her to find out why it's not working out . you are in a sense preventing yourself from attracting other eligible single women by projecting yourself as unavailable. commitment. it's best to end the relationship and get on with your life. Another mistake is to think you can find the perfect girl for you.
So. drive your fancy car. Look for these signs when you first meet this type. After dishing out all this money and expenses.If you can accept the fact that no one woman is perfect. going on extravagant dates. She's just using you and stringing you along. I call these women Gold-Diggers and you need to avoid them. It's all an act to tease you and use you. move on to someone else. she may not even sleep with you either. she's not going to date you. She's not interested in you. then move on. just what she can get out of you. if you determine that a single woman that you are interested in is a Gold-Digger. It's not fair for the both of you. you may get a few dates but it's only to eat at fancy restaurants. This woman is only interested in taking you for your money and whatever else she can get out of you. to get nice gifts or money from you. out-of-town trips. 159 . If she finds out that you are not a man of financial means. She may act like she's interested in you. always live your love life by this creed: If you can't accept a woman as she is. but she's only interested in what she can get out of you. but I hate being used by a woman for my money or a woman is just interested in my assets instead of me as a person. She will ask you questions like these: • • • • • • What do you do for a living? How much money do you make? Do you own your own home? What kind of car do you drive? Do you have a boat? What kind of watch are you wearing? Questions like these could indicate that she's a Gold-Digger. etc. Always. Sure. especially when she does not get the respect and dignity that she deserves. Be on the Lookout for Single Women Who Use You for Financial Purposes I need you to be aware of and be on the lookout for single women that will just use you for financial purposes. I don't know about you. you'll have a lot easier time accepting her as she is and not try to change her or criticize her for being the way she is.
They must be in place and clear to both parties early in the dating process. You see. the "matchmaker" will call and say. The conditions and circumstances must be right for both parties. If you implement the ideas in this book you will develop a clear idea of the type of person you are seeking. what did you think? Isn't she terrific?" Now. Of course. Don't violate a single woman's boundaries. They cannot tolerate a salt shaker without a peppershaker. She has to come to her own conclusion that a relationship with you is preferable to an independent single existence. the example in the previous paragraph was unsolicited. (Why does she need all this help?) Women love to do this. You have to be in control. Why don't you and Fred bring Karen and we can meet?" . ("A bunch of us are going to the Arts Festival this weekend.Freedom People have a natural need to preserve their emotional freedom. The problem is that they have no idea what you are looking for. A boundary is an invisible line between you and another person. this is to be encouraged. a single woman abhors an available. It works both ways. unmatched male. this works both ways. you must preserve your self-respect. 160 . "Well.simple. possessive and controlling. You can not press the issue and talk her out of giving it up." No matter how close and intimate you become with someone.Very safe for both of you. You will be set up on a blind date with a minimal chance of success. Some men do not respect the boundaries of single women. You need to recognize this. "I know just the girl for you!" If a relative calls you and says. Try to arrange a meeting with a group of people. "All you need is love. You will have to make the same sacrifice. You probably already do without recognizing them as such. That is what makes relationships so difficult. It will be the longest night of your life.be very cautious. Also they are trying to help someone they know. the Beatles were not quite correct when they sang. It's called networking . The prime reason will be because you satisfy her emotional needs.) Avoid spending an evening at the well-meaning couple's home for dinner. They will be jealous. So how do you handle referrals? In spite of the last paragraph. Don't let her violate yours. Just as nature abhors a vacuum. what do you say? You will end up hurting Aunt Hilda's feelings and struggling through an uncomfortable cup of coffee with her best friend's daughter who is determined to start a mink farm and have at least seven children." You must have boundaries. Unfortunately. That is what you must work on. Beware. You have to maintain your identity as a unique person in any relationship. "good fences make good neighbors. "I know just the girl for you!" . When the date is over. Good boundaries make good relationships. They only know what they think would be good for you. There is an old saying. It's in their genes.
or who it is she wants in her life. Years that in the meantime you can use to find someone who does know what they want. if anyone. She calls at inopportune times and turns up at your door without warning. awful sickness begin: the agony. selfinflicted torture." Let me describe The Commitaphobic to you: The Commitaphobic single woman is confused. I want you to be happy and be able to recognized when women may be playing head games with you. and only ever give you dribs and drabs of her love. every nerve. I never really intended to focus on the negative aspects of meeting single women. There is nothing wrong. The woman will not let you alone. I feel that single men need to be exposed to the dark side of meeting the wrong type of women. "The Commitaphobic. P. She really has little idea of what she wants from a relationship. come and go as she pleases.Should You Date Commitaphobic Single Women? I want to alert you to a certain type of single woman that can cause you problems. only to come back and ask for one more chance. and often breaks up and then comes back only to break up again. That way she can get the experience she needs with other people to eventually come to a decision about the kind of person she can really commit to. The moment he had left. or evil about her. her every waking thought. she is simply undecided as to what part she wants you to play in her future. She interrupts your work and intrudes into your 161 . but likewise is incapable of making a solid commitment. but as soon as you do or say anything that looks like tying her down. The longer and longer it goes on the less she understands what. But. her every dream would be centered on him in unbearable. she runs a mile. She embarrasses you in public places by inappropriate displays of affection. I call this type of woman. and no wonder. at that moment her heart would break and that awful. She hates being alone. The only possible solution is to not take her back next time she leaves. for his presence his touch. she would drop all pretense. the hopeless yearning with every fiber of her body. Obsessed women A woman could fool herself about her relationship with a man only as long as he was around. This tells her that she can treat you like a door mat. The problem here develops when you keep taking her back.S. She is happy to "coast" along. She pursues you relentlessly. for months or even years if you let her. If you aren't it. then it's better to know now rather than after she's taken years of your youth.
This is the notorious "Romeo and Juliette" effect. entranced.. obsessed. desolate. if he denies her. a damned nuisance. a picture in her mind. Her professed "love" for you complicates your life. and drains your energy. She is lost. and upon the object of her affections. She may fixate upon a man already married or in an established relationship. The obsessed woman has gaps. obsessed with you. and she develops the conviction. familiar to generations of frustrated lovers. no peace? Why does she believe. It might well bring ruin upon the woman. his aura of mystery and desirability. Why You Should Avoid Women Who Flirt & Power Single Women Now I want to warn you about getting involved with these two types of single women: 162 . For further reference. uncompromisingly. If the man fails to respond. not a real person. having a woman "hanging all over you" might be flattering to your ego. a highly mixed blessing. nurtures the illusion that this man is her one and only soulmate. She is driven to fill the emptiness. one particular man? How can a passion for one special person brutally enslave her heart and mind. or one totally unsuitable for reasons of age difference or other cultural barriers. Having a woman completely enthralled by you. a dubious way to run a relationship. giving her no rest. distracts you from attending to your life's work. unobtainable.. precisely that which she cannot have. blank spots in her life. but. of course. that only this one man. an expression of the search for purpose and meaning in life that at some level must move all humans. The subject of mad. not to mention the movies Play Misty and. obsessive love has received extensive attention in literature and the arts. Inacessibility and resistance superheat her passion past all normal bounds. for all that. the void within her. holds the promise of fulfillment for her? The obsessed woman wants the unobtainable. totally and entirely "in your power" is the stuff of fantasy. Anna Karenina. you. and adolescent fantasy at that. distant. consider Tolstoy's novel. the man who is beyond her grasp. Your devoted admirer has become an annoyance. Fatal Attraction.. She is unfulfilled. What compels a woman to become smitten and enamored. Certainly.private business. a scourge. Her frantic pursuit of a man is a cry of desperation.. The obsessed woman falls in love with an "ideal". incomplete. It demeans the woman. it is an unhealthy state of affairs. even this enhances his "specialness". obsessed with a man.
and live up to her high standards. like that makes up for the lack of quality time together. Power Single Women Power women. and dumps you over the phone on her way to a "get rich quick" seminar. A job for which she feels the need to appear perfect at all times. Now a problem arises. She's exciting to be around because she constantly shows her affection. and dress better. Before you know it she's all over your best friend. 163 . She's intent on changing you. She flatters you often. because to her flirting is as natural as talking. When you ask what's going on. She wants you to earn more. and lives for her career. drives the expensive car.The Natural Flirt She's very attractive and she flirts with you. never leaves the house without perfect make up and a mobile phone. You interpret this as her expression of interest in you. She doesn't limit her flirting to you alone. She pencils you into her personal organizer. You can't believe the attention she gives you. dresses to kill. and she doesn't even bother to hide it. Soon you're in a relationship together. between sales meetings. If you're lucky she spends money on you. She's strong to the point of being dominant and really has no interest in love other than the physical and superficial aspects of it. Within a few months she's spotted someone else more promising. she can't understand your concern. All her time and energy goes into her job.
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