CURRENT ISSUE RELATED TO SOCIAL LIFE OVERVIEW & DEFINITION Social issues are matters which directly or indirectly affect

a person or many members of a society and are considered to be problems, controversies related to moral values, or both. Under certain models of political issues, they are seen as distinct from economic issues. A social

life is the time we spend outside our own life¶s, inside other peoples. People mostly have social life¶s at the weekend when they are finished their mundane jobs. Social life is also what you celebrate, what you eat, what kind of music, etc. Sometimes, it can be difficult to make friends, not to speak of starting a conversation and keeping one going. If you want to build a social life that you're content with, this assignment on social life issue has suggestions for you. On our student foundation level, I shall be looking at current issues related to social life, based on student perspective only. Social Life Social Media Messaging Social Life in Making Friends. Social Life in College

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People are spending way too much time on ³social networks´ instead of actually ³living social´. We all know it. You can come up with a time slot of the day (say during lunch hour) or while on the bus ± this is the time you could use to spend on catching up with friends and family via your Social Network.ISSUES Social Media is the most hyped around buzz word of current times. upset about it. Problem 1: I spend too much time on Social Media Ask your friends and family who are using any kind of social media. Ask them how much time they spend checking their Facebook wall or posting some thing on twitter. We all understand it. Solution 1. well at times. Come up with a time management plan and stick to it. And we all are. The reason is the contagious nature of the way any kind of Social Media engulfs the user. CURRENT ISSUE RELATED TO SOCIAL LIFE Page 3 .A: Learn about Time Management One of the best ways to make sure you don¶t end up spending too much time on Social Networks is to first see how much spare time you have in a day. In this article we will cover some of the nuances that have been introduced by Social Media in our lives and how to make sure that social media doesn¶t mess around with your social life. What all you want to do.SOCIAL LIFE IN SOCIAL MEDIA MESSAGING .

if you talk with people. read a book. It¶s just that you must know when your goals have been met and either chose to abandon and do something else or keep logged in and pass time (you could probably read a book or watch a movie instead. But not every time! However. so you need to find that line where i n you say ³OK my today¶s goals for Social Networking have been met. Not that it¶s bad. you¶ll find most of them don¶t have any clue why they actually go on Facebook. or listen to music? There are lot of important things that your life is filled with but you ignore them in favor of Social CURRENT ISSUE RELATED TO SOCIAL LIFE Page 4 . Are you there to share something? Are you there to read something specific or read from some specific people in your group? Anything beyond that will be a pass time activity. it wasn¶t way too back in time. Come on. so let me move on to something else now´). watch a movie.B: Define your goals properly Many people go to Facebook without any aim.C: Prioritize your activities Think from the perspective that what all you used to do when you had time and there was no social network. How many times do you go to a mall without any aim? Perhaps once in a while. Perhaps call your friends instead of IM¶ing them.Solution 1. Solution 1. Define a goal for yourself. You don¶t need to be on top of all your friends¶ activities 24X7! Think of going to Facebook just like going to a mall. You just need to go back a few years back in time and remember what all you used to do.

if you were to buy a car. nothing more than that. This fear engulfs them every single minute of the day and they end up messing all other parts of their life just because of this fear. You don¶t have to follow your friends and be available just because they are there. go back in time ± with a mail. Problem 2: If I don¶t use it I feel left alone Many people just go on their preferred social network every day and every hour just because they think that if they won¶t do that they will be abandoned by the community as being a non -social person. what if they are there because you are! May be they¶ll learn from you and start respecting their time too! CURRENT ISSUE RELATED TO SOCIAL LIFE Page 5 . You have to really plan out all your activities and keep your focus on all the things you need to do every day. it might make sense to read about the hybrid technology.A: Learn to ³not follow´ the herd One of the hardest things to do is ³not following´ the herd.Networks. For example. Prioritize your activities and keep Social Networking the bucket of your ³last but not the least kind of things´. And hey. Solution 2. or a few articles of what are the key differences amongst various models. You could do the same with your cell phone. Keep in mind that all that social media provides you is another way to communicate. do some market research. etc. and go further back in time ± actually traveling and meeting people. Try not to be online just because you think all your friends are.

Nothing more.B: Keep clear distinction between ³real´ and ³virtual´ life Many people forget that in the end all that any social network does is connect you with your friends. your social life will automatically be good CURRENT ISSUE RELATED TO SOCIAL LIFE Page 6 . Keep in mind that social media is just another way to communicate with ³real´ people. So if you will keep good focus on making your ³real life´ good. you will very soon be left alone in the Social Media space too. Because if that¶s not true in real life. Remember that you don¶t have keep your virtual life really glamorous and hyped about over the Social Media.Solution 2.

busy with work or a new family. y In the past they were happy being alone a lot of the time.SOCIAL LIFE IN MAKING FRIENDS . I'll cover a basic structure first. I've noticed people who are already good at making friends naturally tend to do most of the things I outline below without thinking about it.ISSUES A fairly common social issue people have is that they're not sure how to make friends and put together a social life for themselves. y Their old friends have slowly been dropping out of the picture (moving away. but now they want to be around people more often. y They never really knew how to make friends and have a lways wished their social lives were better. There are quite a few ways someone can find themselves in this situation: y y They've moved to a new city and don't know very many people yet. They've been in a long term relationship and have let their social life wither. y They feel like they've grown apart from their current friends and want to make entirely new ones. etc. CURRENT ISSUE RELATED TO SOCIAL LIFE Page 7 . Below are my thoughts on how to make friends. then go into some attitudes and principles towards the whole thing that I think are important.) and haven't been replaced by new ones.

Bare bones guide on how to make friends Here are the basic steps to making friends. I'm talking about people like: y Acquaintances you're friendly with when you run in to each other. People who struggle with their social lives often stumble on one or more of them as well. There are two main ways to do this: Draw on your current contacts This won't apply to people who have just moved to a new area and don't know anyone. It seems simplistic. but who you never see otherwise. y y People at work or in your classes who you get along with. but often you'll already have the seeds of a social life around you. You don't necessarily have to go out and meet ten strangers to have one. 1. It's often easier to turn existing c ontacts into full-fledged friends than it is to meet new ones. CURRENT ISSUE RELATED TO SOCIAL LIFE Page 8 . but there can be a lot to each point. Friends of people you know who you've gotten along with in the past. Find some potential friends To make friends you first have to find some possible candidates. There are probably a handful of people you already know who could end up becoming part of a new social circle.

and you naturally have to get to know them through your day -to-day interactions. y Friends you've gradually lost contact with who you could call up again. I'd say the easiest things to do are: y Being in a situation where lots of potential friends are around. y Meeting one or two good people and then getting to know all their friends. Work and school are the two big ones. Sometimes you're at a point where you need to meet entirely new people. CURRENT ISSUE RELATED TO SOCIAL LIFE Page 9 . who you could see more often. I go into more detail here: Overall. you shouldn't have to have met them all individually. If you hang out with fifteen people. Not having easy access to potential new friends is a big barrier for many people in creating a social circle. but it doesn't always work. y People you very occasionally hang out with.y Someone who has shown an interest in being your friend but you never really took up the offer. Meet some new people Getting more out of your current relationships can go a long way. y Siblings and relatives close to your age.

but they won't take the step of inviting them out and taking the relationship to the next level. This is the most important step in my experience.y Being into hobbies or communities where you'll naturally meet a lot of people. CURRENT ISSUE RELATED TO SOCIAL LIFE Page 10 . but lonelier people often hit a wall here. or the girl you chat to at work in the break room. There may be someone they joke around with at work. or chat to in one of their classes. People will stay as the guy you talk to in class. meeting new people may require making an effort to pull out of your day-to-day routine. and there is some risk of rejection. Invite potential friends to do something with you Once you've met some people you get along with. for example. you might be a little hesitant to invite people out too. Overall. then you won't form many new relationships. it's fairly easy to get used to. ask them to hang out. interesting life and run into lots of potential friends as a side effect. You can meet all the people you want. Also. This seems basic. While it is a little scary at first. If you're on the shyer side. It's not nearly as bad as asking people out on a date. but if you don't take any actions to do something with them in the future. the easiest way to naturally meet a lot of people is just to live a full. and they can think you're great. 2. ones you already have something common with and a built-in activity to do with them.

and you set a time and place. Try your best to get used to it. or ask if they're on Facebook.Make a habit of getting people's contact information There have been plenty of times where I've met someone I got along with. I didn't have their phone number or email address. At other times trying to nail down a plan can be tedious and unpredictable. Ask for their phone number or email address. You ask them if they want do something. Also. but I only saw them a handful of times before they dropped out of the picture. if they have your info. It's a good idea to get into the habit of getting people's contact info fairly early. That way if an opportunity to get together comes up. Have a basic grasp of how to make plans To hang out with someone you've got to plan it. especially when more than one other person is involved. It personally helped me to accept this wasn't a situation where I could perfectly control and arrange everything ahead of time. Sometimes the process is straight forward. CURRENT ISSUE RELATED TO SOCIAL LIFE Page 11 . they'll be easy to reach. I had to come to peace with the uncertainty of trying to organize events. then they can get a hold of you if they want to invite you to something. and would have liked to hang out with in the future. they agree. so I had no way to get in touch with them.

You may get invited to a movie you don't particularly want to see. just being out there outweighs these minor annoyances. They shouldn't always have to step up and organize things for you. or someone might call you up on Friday evening as you're about to go to bed. If you're more of a shy or solitary person it's easy to mull over the invitation and rationalize that it won't be that fun and that you don't want to go. They may have nothing against the CURRENT ISSUE RELATED TO SOCIAL LIFE Page 12 . Another thing to consider is that many people will stop inviting someone out to things if they decline too often. you're going to have to compromise sometimes. Sometimes you'll have to inconvenience yourself for the sake of your social life. Whenever you have two or more people in the equation. Do some of the lifting yourself at times. asking if you want to go out. Why turn down a free chance to get out there with people? When you've got more friends and different options competing for your time you can be more choosy. Do your best to accept every invitation Of course if someone asks you to hang out. Ignore those thoughts and go anyways. it also probably feels that way for them at times. then you should go. Again. then that's even better. You never can be sure how fun something will be until you show up and see how it is for yourself.If inviting people out and arranging plans all seems like a big hassle. If someone invites you to do something.

etc. email. Don't fall out of touch with your new friends and acquaintances. Hang out with them on a regular basis. Various traits can get you at this stage: y You're just too busy or mildly lazy and don't make the time to really establish the friendship as it's getting off the ground.person." 3. show all the traits of a good friend: nice. fun. etc.. open. etc. Facebook. so no point in letting him know this tim e really. Of course. and keep hanging out Keep in touch with friends through the phone. Basically.. MSN. Other people will wonder if you've died if you they don't see you every week. but run into trouble in the long run. but the next time they're planning an event think. don't be needy and over rely on one person to fulfil all your social needs. Every friend and acquaintance has a right amount of time you need to spend with them. Of course. reliable. Once you've got some budding friendships. What the amount is for each person tends to naturally work itself out over time. Some people may not have a problem with meeting people and hanging around them once or twice. etc. trustworthy. "Paul never comes out when I ask him. Some relationships are more casual and you only hang out every month or less. CURRENT ISSUE RELATED TO SOCIAL LIFE Page 13 . keep in touch. enjoy each other's company and let the relationship naturally develop and deepen.

Don't think you automatically have to throw the friendship away. having a relationship or two should be enough to take those feelings away. one or two good buddies may be all you need to be happy. Once you know some people. You can still get back in touch and catch up. You can also continue to meet entirely new people. You'll convince yourself your new friends don't really like you and drop contact with them in response to this imagined slight. Sooner or later you'll end up meeting your friend's friends. build on this foundation Once you've made a regular friend or two you've also got a good base to work from. y Shyness may rear up again and make you too wimpy to call them up and make plans. At the ve ry least. If you do go a while without talking to someone. It's not even that awkward. If you hit it off with them then you can start hanging out wi th them as well. it's not really a big deal. If you're not super social in nature. Things tend to pick up where they left off. y Your lower need to be social may cause you to not want to hang around with them as often as is needed to keep the friendship going. Having friends will make this easier CURRENT ISSUE RELATED TO SOCIAL LIFE Page 14 . if you were feeling lonely and desperate before.y You can feel insecure. You could also become a member of the whole group with time.

hit it off with three people there. CURRENT ISSUE RELATED TO SOCIAL LIFE Page 15 . It's up to you when you feel like stopping. There's no law that says everyone has to have dozens of people in their social circle either. then you've made two new friends. you can always get out there again. then you'll have a pile of friends and acquaintances eventually. If week after week you're coming up with new ways to meet people. Repeat the above steps more often to make more friends If you join one new club. and then following up and attending lots of get together. and end up hanging out with two of them long term. If you stop t here then that's all you'll they'll do things like invite you to parties or keep you company in places where there are new people to potentially meet. If you only have a couple of friends and decide you want more though. 4.

The same goes with lunch or dinner²invite anyone and everyone. join a team. Over the first couple of days. invite others to join you. once college rolls around and you¶re left on your own with your own freedoms. it¶s up to you to be proactive with your soci al life. you¶ll form friendships quickly. When you attend meetings. or community. However. This way people can drop in and say hello at any time. or just meet people. y The best way to develop a community is to do everything in a grou p the first few weeks. y Keep the door to your room open. try to meet and talk to as many people as you can in your dorm and in class. 1. By developing a group. Whether you¶re looking to get involved on campus.SOCIAL LIFE IN COLLEGE . within your dorm. there are a number of things you can do to break out of your shell. Start Early: Your First Week at College Defines the Rest of the Year y Even if you consider yo urself to be introverted. CURRENT ISSUE RELATED TO SOCIAL LIFE Page 16 .ISSUES Being an introverted and shy wallflower might be one way to live in High School College. in a place you¶re unfamiliar with. be more outgoing than you normally would the first week.

y Usually your dorm will have a bulletin board with a list of events and activities going on. but they will also allow you to meet other students in your classes. Study. You can also get people together once a week to watch a favourite television show. join. or a night of pick-up basketball in the rec centre. Study. y Bonus: Helping others on their homework also helps you solidify your knowledge. 2. Many schools offer a variety of organizations to choose from and they provide a steady source of new people to meet. When you receive your first assignment. talk to anyone you¶ve met and arrange a date a few days before the assignment is due to get together as a group. Study! y Not only are study groups helpful. join! Your freshman year is the ideal year to join a club or organization. 3. How much more motivation do you need? CURRENT ISSUE RELATED TO SOCIAL LIFE Page 17 . y You will meet some of your greatest friends by joining a campus organization. Get Involved on Campus y Join. Some will be specific to your dorm wh ile others are specific to campus. y Introduce yourself to people around you during the first few weeks of class.y Organize a weekly poker game.

And you¶ll keep active playing a sport you love. a group of friends²and hit up the Saturday afternoon football game. which is good for the body and helps keep you healthy. y Playing sports can be a great confidence builder and motivator. y Most schools will give students tickets for free. attend the events. such as school and work. y Intramurals help take your mind off other things. thus reducing your stress level. or at least at a discounted rate. CURRENT ISSUE RELATED TO SOCIAL LIFE Page 18 . y By doing something physical every week you¶re getting your heart pumping.4. pool. including meeting new people and having fun. Check with your school for specific offers. Root for the Home Team! y Even if you¶re not into sports. Look at it as an ego booster. y Grab a friend²or better yet. 5. Stay Moving! y Go to your school¶s rec centre and take it to the weight room. Going to a common place on campus will allow you to meet others doing something you share an interest in. Be Part of the Team y Joining an intramural league at school can have numerous benefits. It will allow you to meet people and show your school spirit. or cardio room. 6.

y Did you ever stop to think that an on-campus job could provide you with future networking opportunities? Working a job in your intended career path can give you some great leads when graduation rolls around and you¶re looking for connections.y Participate in your rec centre¶s yoga class or cycling class. what are you waiting for? y On-campus jobs are generally more flexible than off -campus jobs and allow you to meet people you go to school with. take up a job in the computer lab. If you are studying computer information technology. who says you can¶t chat up the person on the yoga mat next to you? 7. Earn Extra Cash with an On-Campus Job y If you feel there¶s time in your schedule for a part -time job. If you can meet people sitting in your Biology 101 class. y Consider getting a job in your intended car eer path. CURRENT ISSUE RELATED TO SOCIAL LIFE Page 19 . Greek life isn¶t right for everyone²but if you¶re intrigued by the idea of brotherhood and sisterhood. Go Greek y It¶s true. You might just meet some lifelong frien ds. why not check it out? Attend Rush Week activities and see if there¶s a group you can envision joining. 8. but you will earn extra cash as well. Not only will you get real-world experience.

CURRENT ISSUE RELATED TO SOCIAL LIFE Page 20 .y Greek organizations often participate in events in the community. community service programs. Your options for getting involved and meeting people are limitless once you become a member of a Greek organization. and many on-campus activities.

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