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Being Of Light
by Dr. Richard Bolstad

Modelling Transformational Change
How do new NLP change processes get developed? Richard Bandler explains how he used modelling to create processes such as the NLP Phobia Cure. “I went out and found two people who had a phobia and who got over it. Then I found out what they did.” (Bandler, 1993, p. 7). If we want to model life–style transformation, we could do the same. That’s what Dr. Kenneth Ring has spent the last twenty five years doing, and in this article I want to translate his results into NLP terms. Dr. Ring’s studies concern people who have had their pulse and other vital signs stop during some medical crisis, and then been revived, and who then claim to recall these events. In 1980, while people were still debating the first five years of anecdotes about such “near–death experiences,” he completed the first of a number of scientific studies into the phenomenon (Life at Death, 1980). Since then, he has focused on the dramatic life–style changes that result from such events. In nine separate research studies, the long term personality changes brought on by the near–death experience are consistent and include: (Ring, 1998, pp. 124-127) • Enhanced appreciation of everyday life • Greater feelings of self–worth and self–acceptance • Increased compassionate concern for and desire to help others
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• Increased reverence for planetary ecology and compassion for the suffering of animals • Reduced interest in material accumulation • Reduced interest in social prestige and competition • Reduced interest in formal religion and increased interest in inclusive spirituality • Increased thirst for knowledge • Strong sense of mission or unique purpose in life • Loss of fear of death • Conviction that life continues after death • Conviction that a spiritual power (such as God) exists My aim in this article is to present an NLP process designed to replicate these changes.

What Is The Near–Death Experience?
According to Gallop Poll research (Ring, 1998, p. 305), over 8,000,000 people in the United States alone have had the experience first called by Raymond Moody a “Near Death Experience” (1976). These people believe that, during a medical emergency, they have “left their body,” re–evaluated their life and made contact with a “being of light.” For the present, whether they have actually had such an experience, or merely hallucinated it while their brain was in crisis (as is claimed by Susan Blackmore in her book, Dying To Live, for example) is immaterial.
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1998. be it good or bad. Kenneth Ring investigated twenty totally blind people (often blind from birth) who were able to do this. whichever culture they come from.Anchor Point The point is that we now have decades of careful research on tens of thousands of these people. I relived my life. Not just the “big” stories of their life. 2001 . Brain researchers have found that stimulating a specific area in the temporal cortex will produce feelings of spiritual transcendence and a sense of a mystical “presence” nearby. pp. Often the passage to this perspective occurs through a tunnel and is accompanied by an odd buzzing sound. Neev. It was overwhelmingly evident that the light November. but to enable the person to learn how to more effectively express love in each action. whatever their previous beliefs. I realised that I was not in my physical body. Cardiologist Michael Sabom was completely sceptical of such claims until he completed one of the earliest studies into the reports of such “observers. At the same time I saw the effects of my life on the people around me… I felt all that they felt. 22). and whatever their age (e. The first thing I checked was if the ball stayed in my glove. 1982). which they “saw” while in a coma (Ring and Cooper.. Such details could be verified by medical staff and records (Sabom. but every little impulse to help or hinder others is revealed with all its implications. into my teens and through my near–death experience over again. 1998. 1996. p. At times the person simply finds themselves there. Morse and Perry. which felt like the blackness I experienced after my out–of– body experience. and the father of one of the other players. It did. 1997). Consider the following archetypal descriptions by “Peggy. Bailey and Yates. where I was lying on my back. Neev. and many attribute the whole Near–Death Experience to the final activation of this brain structure (Carter. pp. p. through my childhood to adolescence. as others experienced the effects of their actions. 145-198). the world as I knew it was gone. Those who recall the moments which would usually precede death consistently report the same kind of experience. pp. The review took me from my conception. pain. I felt no pain or discomfort. I felt everything I ever felt before. 1997. and I mean everything! I had always felt love was just a human emotion people felt from time to time. I felt totally at peace with myself. the being of light makes it clear that the experiencer is loved and forgiven beyond human expectations. Love is the highest value embodied in the entire Near Death Experience. 13-14). describing things such as the pattern on a doctors tie. and through this I understood the repercussions of everything I did. Many experiencers find this life review shocking. 1998. “The light told me everything was love. see Ring and Valarino.” (in Ring. (Ring and Valarino.Anchor Point were both kneeling over me in the infield. never in my wildest dreams thinking it was literally EVERYTHING! I was shown how much all people are loved. I mean every cut. And yet the aim of this life review is neither punishment nor judgement. describes his March 1988 experience after being severely injured in a baseball game: “The next thing I knew. I saw my life. 1998.” showing that they were able to provide complex details of medical procedures that occurred while they were comatose. The second step of the NDE (Near Death Experience) process involves the meeting of a personal being composed of brilliant but undazzling light. 1990. While the life review is happening. The first step in their experience tends to be a shift in perspective. from inside the body to outside and above the body. Eysenck and Sargent. I was standing behind my coach. They 4 . emotion and sense associated with that particular time in my life. Those who go through the process and recover seem adamant that what they contacted was more.” (Ring.” whose Near Death Experience occurred in an automobile accident in 1973 (before any of the wave of literature on Near Death Experiences). The being of light has the person review their entire life from three perspectives simultaneously (as they experienced it originally.g. the high school student described above says “It was like watching my life from start to finish on an editing machine stuck in fast forward. When I say everything. 21). A high school student. 205-206). 1998. and as an observer supported by the light).

My feeling of warmth and love flew through from my body and brought me many new friends. I learned that I am much more than my body. concentrated. “I felt like I now had a purpose. accident–prone fool you could ever have met.Anchor Point .” Since the research is on Near Death Experiences rather than death itself. after the NDE other people around me began to accept me for who I was. Neev found that his encounter with the “Being of light” and the life review had healed him in a number of ways. This love I experienced in the light was so powerful it can’t be compared to earthly love. Neev explains. tests. 2001 5 . which would act up before school every day. These problems were chronic migraine headaches. All these problems were solved through my NDE. or if I looked good or not. those studied have chosen to or been told to come back to this world.” Like most people who experience an NDE. beyond which there will be no “coming back. 1998. for which I had to take pills for years.Anchor Point loved everyone equally without any conditions… I can remember looking at the people together and the light asking me to “love the people. even though earthly love is a much milder version. In doing this. pp.” I wanted to cry I felt so deeply for them… I vividly recall the part where the light did what felt like switch on a current of pure undiluted.” (Ring and Valarino. soccer games. and a terribly anxious stomach. He says “Physical problems that had haunted me all my life disappeared afterward. and in just about all social situations. I was no longer interested in what people thought or how they felt about me. cramps.” November. 45-46) The third step of the process involves recognising that there is a border of some kind. This is often after being reminded what their “original” goals for living this life on earth were (their “mission”). Before my experience I was the most klutzy. which was to help people and share my positive perspective… I was no longer interested in what society had to say about how I lived my life. unconditional LOVE.

or of the brain dying in a precisely replicated way each time. In study after study.” (Jung. 1997. As with Time Line Therapy®. 209-213). mission and open spirituality. self–actualisation and spirituality occurred as these people integrated the meaning of the NDE (Greyson. these longstanding personality changes are intrinsically of interest. 204-215). the participant reviews past experiences from both associated and dissociated positions. if we model the Near Death Experience and offer it vicariously to others. These changes spread out to those who come in contact with the person who had the NDE. usually a sceptic when it comes to psychological studies. most experiencers want to share their new world–view. p. What this tells us is that. Some studies suggest that just reading this article will be enough to produce values realignment in many people (Ring and Valarino. and they let go of “negative” emotions (feeling forgiven instead of guilty. They generate learnings based on the experiences. existence beyond death is the best hypothesis accounting for the evidence of this research (Eysenck and Sargent. 1998. Kenneth Ring reported his study of 74 people who had an NDE. p. 1983). and 54 persons who did not have the experience. but studied it.Anchor Point November. That is what I have done in the script which follows. 6 . the Near Death Experience clearly has similarities with such models as Time Line Therapy® (James and Woodsmall. Carl Jung. 302). But the importance of NDEs to us as living human beings does not depend on this belief at all. Firstly. saying “A man should be able to say he has done his best to form a conception of life after death… Not to have done so is a vital loss. The shift in values and beliefs in the “control group” was almost as powerful as that occurring in the NDE group (Ring. 1988) and Core Transformation® (Andreas and Andreas. 1992). He showed again that a parallel rise in the importance of altruism. 2001 . including a shift in values towards self–acceptance. pp. despite the absurdity of the claim. shared happiness. 1994). 1961. compassion. the NDE experience is followed by profound life changes. Dr. says he is convinced that. who had a NDE at age 70. The Omega Project. Whether the NDE is a result of real spiritual experience. they will benefit in extraordinary ways. Psychiatrist Bruce Greyson published a study of 89 NDE survivors and 175 members of the International Association for Near Death Studies (IANDS). NDE and NLP To those familiar with NLP change techniques. In his book.Anchor Point Can The Experience Be Modelled? Psychology researcher Hans Eysenck. urged others to vicariously experience this.

1998. In this case. who with Milton Erickson developed the technique November. The metaphors embodied in such techniques seem to work faster and more reliably than older metaphors such as Freud’s model of Psychoanalysis of the “transference.” In Connirae and Steve Andreas book “Heart of the Mind”. 2001 7 . to design a metaphor of transformation based on the actual design—either of the brain or of the universe. we are selecting one event. In the actual Near Death Experience. The point of developing new NLP change processes like Core Transformation® and Time Line Therapy® is to more effectively enable people to change. Psychologist Dr. As with Core Transformation®. the participants report having infinite time to process every moment of their life even though this seems to happen at enormous speed.Anchor Point for example). pp. In the following script. participants step into a profound transpersonal state and consider how just being in that state changes and transforms their possible responses to “difficult” situations. Dr. Now we have the 30 minute and even 5 minute cures of NLP. are approximations of one fundamental neurological or spiritual truth. Speed is not the real issue. David Cheek. Is the “Being of Light” process just a modification of James’ Time Line Therapy® technique? Perhaps both James’ method.Anchor Point . one moment.” The Near Death Experience offers us an opportunity to do exactly that. I have enfolded the Near Death Experience in the structure I use for NLP work (the RESOLVE model. depending on your belief system. 107-108) including pre and post testing. and the question arises as to how we will discover the most appropriate event to heal. Wilson van Dusen notes “I have observed the psychotherapy scene since the days when Freud was the main voice. Later brief psychotherapy took a mere 6 months. see Bolstad and Hamblett. and my own that I present in this article. We must be closing in on the actual design of people.

141-142). see James and Woodsmall. perhaps giving an example of the NDE experience. I do not consider it appropriate to trademark this process. pp. and wants you to heal. In this script I have chosen to use a similar hypnotherapeutic questioning process. as I have done in the preceding article. Alternatively. Tell the person “If you believe that Near Death Experiences are created in the brain. 1) Get into a resourceful state. 1988. Tad James uses a similar set in Time Line Therapy®. As the Near Death Experience has already been described by tens of thousands of people over several decades. You might remind yourself with amusement that a little extra compassion now will look good on your life–review.Anchor Point November. and in guiding you through the process I’ll talk as if the ‘Being of Light’ exists in some sense. “You can imagine that if you were watching a movie of the story of your life. you know that the area of the brain that generates this experience and the feeling of total love is there right now for you to access. and remind yourself that you too will one day face the Near Death Experience. 1989. 8 . 75). p. notice that you can feel the uncomfortable emotion associated with that old way of responding to it. proposed using a simple set of questions to elicit an unconscious timing of the original issue (Barnett. if not millennia. whichever you believe.” Explain the Being of Light process. I would appreciate your acknowledging this source if you use the script or some adaptation of it.. and they too will one day face this “for real. and which if healed would solve this problem. You’d know if that changed wouldn’t you?” 4) Elicit the original event. both authors also at times simply ask the unconscious mind to take the person back to the key event (e.Anchor Point of ideomotor signalling. 2) Establish rapport with the person to be guided. p. beginning with “Would it be before during or after your birth?” (James and Woodsmall.g. there would be a time which was the initial event which led to the creation of this problem in your life. Remember that they are human too. His questions have the form: “Did this event occur at age five or earlier?” and after each question he waits for a positive or negative response before refining the question further. and how does it need to be different?”… “As you think about that now. The process will work. 2001 . you know that the actual Being of Light loves you and is here with you right now. “What is it that you want to change? What is the ongoing issue that you want to be different. If you believe that Near Death Experiences are generated spiritually.” 3) Specify the outcome. 67). 1988.

“Great. If you knew. 2001 9 . And if that part was to consider its higher intention in doing that. and look down and see your body down there below. Does that part understand that yet?” 6) Meet the Being of Light. at what age did this happen to you/that person?” 5) Get permission to heal. or even to make sure you change the way you behave… I’d like you to realise that anything less than completely healing this event.Anchor Point . if the person’s belief system prefers a physiological explanation of NDEs) wants you to heal it eventually. in the way that the universe (or “your brain”. If the person says “No.Anchor Point And somewhere deep inside your memory. is a Being of pure light and love.” then use a variation of a standard parts reframe such as: “So I know there’s a part of you that thinks it’s not okay to heal this event. is that event in this lifetime or before?” If the answer is “Before. If you knew. Once you have established which life the event is part of. where a being of love and light guides them through a review of earlier life experiences. you know that event. Can you see that comfortably now?”… “And beside you. in the womb or in their family history. “Now I want you to allow that November. who or what is that Being?” Accept the person’s name for this and use it in the script from here on.” ask if the person thinks of it as in another lifetime. you realise. you know. is not totally enabling you to learn. so imagine that you float out of your body to being way up above it. whether it is trying to protect you. or to make sure you learn from that event. “You may know that people who have experienced physical death often report that such events are healed by the process they go through at that time. to change and to be safe in the way you want to be now. ask “And if you knew. Is it okay for you to heal this event in that way now?” If the answer is “Yes” then go to step 6).

you will be bathed in the love that the Being of Light emanates. knowing that it/ he/she is there for you always. and that it is love which heals this event now. “Now the Being of Light knows that you’re here for a reason. And the light is teaching you how to respond to that event with love. Allow that light to fill your body. Welcome back. you are learning from this event now. and it will go fast forward from before the beginning to after the end. 2001 . and once you know you are ready. 8) Recommit to mission. again. so you become totally immersed in a love that is beyond imagination. feel yourself come back down into your body ready to begin living your new life. so quick it takes no time at all. It is showing you a range of new possibilities. in the past. Just let me know once you realise that the event is now totally healed.Anchor Point Being of Light to emanate that total love and acceptance through you now. and have the person listen to the Being of Light saying the reframe. “And the Being can guide you so that you are comfortably way up above the specific event which was the initial event that you are healing now. that would have been a problem. 7) Heal the event.” Use the reframe above if needed. and the ways in which having healed this enhances your ability to achieve everything you came here for. And in a moment the being will play a movie of that event for you to observe.Anchor Point November. Take all the time you need to feel the Being of Light fill you with the energy you need to complete that mission. And healing this event is part of enabling you to fulfil that purpose more fully now. and yet you’ll know at some level everything that has happened in that event. which you can choose to accept or leave. The learning is love. have the being of light use a version of the reframe above. So notice that as you think of future situations where. and the learning heals you. While that happens. until you actually feel love and acceptance now. What is it like as you go to do that now?” As they recognise it has changed. And your task is simply to know that you are loved beyond measure. Do you realise that yet?” If there seems to be difficulty. And I’d like you to feel that love flowing down from above and filling you as you try to think of that situation that used to be a problem for you. 10 . It has changed. “So now I’d like you to thank the Being of Light. including all the effects of that event in your own experience and in the experience of others. At an unconscious level.” 9) Post–test and futurepace. Can you feel that love yet? Take all the time you need. And the Being of Light can let you know and feel the importance of your purpose here in this life. say “That’s right.

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