“Managing your emotions is an inside job. That's why it's important to learn techniques to make attitude adjustments.

You can then direct your emotions more efficiently. Happiness comes through emotions qualified by the heart.” –Doc Childre and Howard Martin “What counts in making a happy relationship is not so much how compatible you are, but how you deal with incompatibility.” –Daniel Goleman “Love is not a matter of what happens in life. It's a matter of what's happening in your heart.” –Ken Keyes “The first duty of love is to listen.” –Paul Tillich “Be master of your petty annoyances and conserve your energies for the big, worthwhile things. It isn't the mountain ahead that wears you out - it's the grain of sand in your shoe.” –Robert Service FOR OUR WORLD We need to stop; just stop. Stop for a moment... before anybody says or does anything that may hurt anyone else. We need to be silent; just silent. Silent for a moment... before we forever lose the blessing of songs that grow in our hearts. We need to notice; just notice. Notice for a moment... before the future slips away into ashes and the dust of humility. Stop, be silent, and notice.... In so many ways, we are the same. Our differences are unique treasures. We have, we are, a mosaic of gifts to nurture, to offer, to accept. We need to be; just be. Be for a moment... Kind and gentle, innocent and trusting, like children and lambs, never judging or vengeful like the judging and vengeful. And now, let us pray; differently, yet together, before there is no earth, no life, no chance for peace. - Mattie Stepanek (at age 12), Excerpted from Hope Through Heartsongs. Copyright © 2002 by Mattie J.T. Stepanek. All Rights Reserved. Available wherever books are sold. Published by Hyperian.

“When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.” –Lao Tzu “The bond that links your true family is not one of blood, but of respect and joy in each other's life. Rarely do members of one family grow up under the same roof.” –Richard Bach “True friends are those who, When you make a fool of yourself, don’t believe that this condition is permanent.” –Erwin T. Randall “The best relationship is the one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.” –Unknown “The ultimate test of a relationship is to disagree but hold hands.” – Unknown “A loving relationship is one in which the loved one is free to be himself -- to laugh with me, but never at me; to cry with me, but never because of me; to love life, to love himself, to love being loved. Such a relationship is based upon freedom and can never grow in a jealous heart.” –Leo F. Buscaglia “The glue that holds all relationships together - including the relationship between the leader and the led is trust, and trust is based on integrity.” –Brian Tracy “Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something: they're trying to find someone who's going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take.” – Anthony Robbins “Mirror your partner's dreams; the relationship will grow.” –Unknown “The closer and more confidential our relationship with someone, the less we are entitled to ask about what we are not voluntarily told.” – Louis Kronenberger “Whenever you're in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude.” –William James “The one who loves the least, controls the relationship.” –Dr. Robert Anthony

“The formula for achieving a successful relationship is simple: you should treat all disasters as if they were trivialities but never treat a triviality as if it were a disaster” –Quentin Crisp “The more connections you and your lover make, not just between your bodies, but between your minds, your hearts, and your souls, the more you will strengthen the fabric of your relationship, and the more real moments you will experience together.” –Barbara De Angelis “Health is the greatest gift, contentment the greatest wealth, faithfulness the best relationship.” –Buddha “It is only when we no longer compulsively need someone that we can have a real relationship with them.” –Anthony Storr “For a marriage relationship to flourish, there must be intimacy. It takes an enormous amount of courage to say to your spouse, "This is me. I'm not proud of it -- in fact, I'm a little embarrassed by it -- but this is who I am."” –Bill Hybels “There is a big difference between thinking, ‘I'm in a relationship and something's wrong. Therefore something must be wrong with the relationship,’ and thinking, ‘I'm in a relationship and we've got problems. This is evidence that you are different than me.’” –Wayne Dyer “The relationship between commitment and doubt is by no means an antagonistic one. Commitment is healthiest when it's not without doubt but in spite of doubt.” –Dr. Rollo May “If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” –Mother Teresa “Little kindnesses and courtesies are so important. In relationships, the little things are the big things.” –Stephen R. Covey “A deadness occurs in relationships when people are no longer willing to tell each other how they really feel.” –Shakti Gawain “Problems in relationship occur because each person is concentrating on what is missing in the other person.” –Wayne Dyer “When you struggle with your partner, you are struggling with yourself. Every fault you see in them touches a denied weakness in yourself.” – Deepak Chopra “Trust men and they will be true to you; treat them greatly and they will show themselves great.” –Ralph Waldo Emerson

“When you look for the good in others, you discover the best in yourself.” –Martin Walsh “An argument is always about what has been made more important than the relationship.” –Hugh Prather “No one makes you feel anything. It is how you react and respond that determines your emotions.” –Brian Tracy “What you call flaws are really just the scars of hurts and wounds accumulated over a lifetime.” –Deepak Chopra “When you judge another person, you do not define him or her, you define yourself.” –Wayne Dyer “Don't be reckless with other people's hearts, and don't put up with people that are reckless with yours.” –Kurt Vonnegut, Jr. “You can end half your troubles immediately by no longer permitting people to tell you what you want.” –Vernon Howard

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