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Change Your Thoughts Guide
Unlocking the Power of Your Mind
Module 8 Changing Your Beliefs .
I'd like to start this topic with a story Harvey and his sons ‘it’s not our environment or events in life that shape us. literally. Tommy and Matt's mother died when they were very young. Honestly. but don't really do anything about it.Mind Alchemy Module 8 – Changing Your Beliefs Welcome to Module 8 of Mind Alchemy. To illustrate what I’m talking about in that quote. even when given the tools to do so. so massive kudos to you. and that is beliefs. Harvey is an alcoholic who has two sons. If you've made it this far and you're really doing all the exercises. Changing your disempowering beliefs to empowering ones will. This is a huge topic and it deserves a lot of your attention. human nature shows that most people talk about changing and say they want to change. Tommy and Matt. Okay. Harvey has brought Tommy and Matt up exactly the same way. a huge congratulations to you. change your life. I’d like to tell you a story about a guy named Harvey. it's the belief we attach to the environment and those events’. today we're going to be looking at one of my favourite topics. .
He has two sons. doesn’t drink and he works out three times per week. two boys and a girl. When Matt was asked why he turned out the way he did his reply was. and this is what we want to look at next to show you ways that you can disarm the disempowering beliefs or get rid of them altogether and install new beliefs into you own life. His sons would be afraid at the thought of him coming home. ‘how else could I have turned out with a father like mine’. Tommy. and would often go home and beat his kids for no reason. Beliefs and how to change them One of the biggest gifts we could ever be given in life. was asked why he turned out the way he did his reply was ‘how else could my life have turned out with a father like mine’. He has been married for over 20 years and has a loving relationship with his wife. has three children. His wife divorced him a number of years ago. and his family and spends as much time with his wife and kids as possible. When Tommy. is now in prison for attempted murder after a brawl in a local bar. they would hide or stay away. Matt is 45 years old now but has the fitness level of a 25 year old. they went their separate ways. Harvey was frequently in trouble with the police getting into fights in bars. Matt has a successful business and his turnover is in excess of 10 million dollars per year. to know that we can actually change beliefs that have been useless and lying unchallenged within us for years We have certain beliefs within us just now that are disempowering us. When he got drunk there was always a fight. Matt. . This is just an amazing piece of knowledge to have. This happened throughout Tommy and Matt's lives until they were old enough to leave the family home at 16 years old. He loves his business.Mind Alchemy Module 8 – Changing Your Beliefs Harvey was a mean drunk. The story shows that our perceptions and beliefs about our life. one who is in jail and the other a drug addict. he doesn't take drugs. is knowing that we can change our beliefs. who is still in prison. due to his alcohol addiction. and our surroundings can drastically alter how we live our lives. As the two boys grew up. and I mean this quite literally.
is that 50 – 60 % of patients respond to the placebo tablet. is something you hold in your mind. as possible. but effectively you have created the world around you and created the person that you are today. the thing that makes you different are the beliefs you hold about your world.Mind Alchemy Module 8 – Changing Your Beliefs Our beliefs literally shape our reality. but if you can get your head around that and really think about it. That’s a stark presentation of how deeply embedded our beliefs are and there is lots of evidence to support this. it's a concept . it means if you have created your life thus far.something you know with certainty that is ‘true’ and that creates a deep feeling within. but they can also affect our physical body as well. we share a lot of constructs. that is. Yes. What has been found time and time again. depression etc. if you feel it’s necessary. change them or install a new belief. Think about that for a moment . the sugar pill..so. So what this really means is a belief. The other sampling group are given genuine medication to treat the condition. each having totally different beliefs about themselves. Your reality is totally different from mine. your kids and the people around about you. this not only shows that beliefs are in our mind and can affect our minds. and. it just means that we are fooling ourselves with the power of the mind by believing that the sugar pill is going to help. If you read any of Dr Siegel’s books. Dr Bernard Siegel recounts stories of patients with multiple personality disorders who have literately changed eye colour and gone from one personality to another. This is the power of belief. . it has the desired effect of positively addressing the condition. You're unique to you. if we take it down to its basic function. you will realise the power of beliefs. Let’s consider the placebo affect which basically has two sets of patients who are given two sets of different pills. It's also different from your partners. pain. They have also developed physical symptoms such as diabetes within their bodies simply because they have changed from one personality to another. This is reinforced within the hospital/medical setting. it doesn’t mean to say that human beings are stupid. That might bake your noodle a little. One of the sample group receive a sugar pill and are told that the ‘pill’ is going to help with their condition. So. work colleagues. since 1955 when the phrase was coined ‘placebo effect’. and ’accepting’ that a doctor has prescribed the ‘pill’. it means you can change it because you are the creator.you have created your own world. through your beliefs. They are extremely powerful in themselves and so it’s important to learn as much about yourself.
a male friend paid her a compliment. One day whilst at work. Now to illustrate this formula. when she went home that night. She looks in the mirror.Mind Alchemy Module 8 – Changing Your Beliefs A belief is a feeling of certainty. I have come up with a belief formula. Sharon was really flattered but politely refused to take the drink. If you say that you are an intelligent person what you are really saying is you feel that you are an intelligent person. who joked with her about this. which caused a little stir among her friends. in the changing room. to think and take actions in a different way from the perspective of an intelligent person or at least your perception of how an intelligent person would behave. both female and male. Other small things like this happened over the next few weeks and Sharon's (self) belief was starting to take hold. in turn. both qualitative and quantitative. based on my Psychology degree research. but didn’t really think anymore about it However. Sharon was taken by surprise by this. Sharon has never really believed that she is attractive which is reflective of a lot of people in the world today. A few nights later when she was out with friends she was approached by a good looking guy who asked if he could buy her a drink. That feeling of certainty allows you to tap into your inner resources which will allow you to display a feeling of intelligence and. Sharon started to reflect on recent events and began to question and challenge her perception of her beliefs in herself. . and feeling that something is true. she looked in the mirror and thought about what her friend had said and thought that she was actually looking a bit better than she had been. and said she looked really good and ‘hot’. Belief formula For the purpose of this course. A few weeks later. Again she was taken aback by this compliment. I’d like to tell you a story about a girl named Sharon who is 22 years old. which as you know can be traumatic for anyone :) and was able to recognise that she actually looked good and she acknowledged that she liked what she saw in the mirror. Sharon is out shopping by herself and she sees a nice pair of jeans and decides to try them on. The belief formula is: perception + evidence + time = belief.
and she was able to take this compliment in the positive manner in which it had been offered. dress and even walk differently. in general day to day life. it was unusual for her mother to pay her a compliment. . More evidence. I know that there will be awful experiences that people will have been through. more confidently and begins to take on bigger challenges in life. She was able to challenge her misconceived perceptions and beliefs of herself aided by external reinforcers. So Sharon was able to take this belief obtained in the previous few months and let it set in her mind. This is what happens to you. But if you look at the transition for Sharon. She begins to dress to accentuate her best assets and she attends the gym to maintain this attractive figure. and how the world really is. if you wish. if you have limiting beliefs in your life. you can turn that around. and the more traumatic the experiences. This change affects her thinking. If you are the type of person where your world looks bleak and dark and miserable. A few weeks later her mother says to her that over the last few months there has been a marked difference in her appearance and she was looking wonderful. it’s purely because your belief needs to be altered in relation to how you really are. which has been reinforced by the compliments of others. This perception changes as external reinforcers force her to look at her perception. However. again in the form of external factors. the more specialist help you will need. it is how you react to the event that matters. Now. that she is attractive. Obviously you have to examine your current belief to know what areas you want to change. Sharon has now formed the belief that she is attractive.Mind Alchemy Module 8 – Changing Your Beliefs This was the formation of a new belief in herself. You see Sharon has a perception of herself about the way she looks. Due to the formation of this belief. Your beliefs are either positive or negative. Sharon starts to act. purely by turning your beliefs around. and internal factors prove to Sharon that she is attractive. With time and the continuation of evidence building she forms a new belief about herself: perception + evidence + time = belief The story of Sharon is quite simplistic in that a belief may be formed over years depending on what stage we are at in life. and she is thinking more positively. The event is irrelevant. due to her new found belief in herself.
In Sharon’s case. that idea has now turned into a belief about herself and this is how we all form beliefs. you will be able to retain those beliefs that you actually trust in.e.9% of the world population holds true: That the sun is going to rise every morning. there has never been one single day that the sun has not risen at a specific times. How do we determine this? We look to the past. peers and family. However. Basically what this means is you have an imaginary table top which represents a perception we have about ourselves. Belief formation When we are young our beliefs are formed from external forces i. Think about the belief that 99. As Sharon travelled through the following weeks she received further compliments that reinforced the positive image in herself. Think about that belief just now. it doesn’t have any support as such at this stage. It has always risen in the morning. It’s now able to support the idea of her positive self image. So because of the evidence.. the perception may have been planted when the colleague at work paid her a compliment. If we respect another person then it is easier to believe what they say. we have transferred these childhood beliefs across. Santa Claus. question it. Whenever you question something it means you are starting to doubt it. at this point it’s just a ‘table top’. friends. evaluate them. This will lead to more questions which result in you being less likely to believe entrenched attitudes given to you from others. we have no foundation to say that this belief is not true. teachers. and identify which ones you want to discard. parents.Mind Alchemy Module 8 – Changing Your Beliefs The table of beliefs Tony Robbins uses a metaphor for building your beliefs called the ‘table metaphor’. which resulted in the formation of the ‘legs’ for the ‘tabletop’ or her perception. These times have been recorded and we can trust in our past experience of the previous events. anyone! In adulthood. The possibility of the sun rising tomorrow morning is extremely high. Obviously there are some people out there that . so it’s time to look at your beliefs.
but the word represents how damaging the belief was. but it is an indication of commitment. and I had the audacity to apply to university. It is this experience that triggered my interest in beliefs. When I was about 5 years old. when we question beliefs about ourselves and not external natural forces. The reason for this inner challenge was that I had taken a History exam. teachers etc) that I wasn’t really intelligent and I believed them. This is an illustration of how challenging our beliefs. and I achieved an ‘A’. The difference is that this will be proved unfounded within 24 hours when it rises again. I know that intelligence is not equated to passing exams. English etc. a topic I was really interested in. and how they form our reality and worlds. When I reached 14 years of age things changed. . as the exam system is inherently flawed. can change our reality in the future. Math. and my Geography exams. That carried on for another 10 years or so and I still believed that I was quite ‘thick’ . However. purely because of my previous belief that I lacked intelligence. I went onto achieve all the qualifications required first time which allowed me to secure a place on my Psychology Degree course. because I had changed my beliefs that I was intelligent. we start to ‘pick holes’ in our beliefs. to apply to university I had to have some Higher level Math. I graduated in 2000. Physics and Chemistry. Now. Math. I carried on to achieve good results in English. belief. I then began to look for evidence. The reason I was so ready to believe this was because significant others in my life told me both verbally and nonverbally that I was ‘slow’ and I had no understanding or benchmark on which to challenge at the time. However. and a degree of intelligence. I had difficulty hearing the teacher in class. because I couldn’t hear properly. At the time I couldn’t understand that this was correlated by an undiagnosed hearing impairment that appeared to reinforce this view point. I was told by significant people in my life (friends. This was one of my biggest achievements in life. and I believed I could pass these Higher exams. the’ legs of the table’ so to speak. I questioned these beliefs that I had. These were all clear external indications that the conditions of worth and labels that had been placed on me as a child were wrong. This outcome made me question my beliefs about my intelligence as a whole. and when I reflected back to high school I couldn’t achieve even the most standard grade in any of these subjects. and changing them.Mind Alchemy Module 8 – Changing Your Beliefs may believe that the sun will not.this was the phrase I used at the time and it’s a phrase that I have never and would never use about myself or anyone else again. I began to form other beliefs that culminated in me believing that I was intelligent.
Module 8 Changing Your Beliefs Exercise .Mind Alchemy Module 8 – Changing Your Beliefs Try the exercise on the next page to help you further with forming beliefs and ridding yourself of negative beliefs.
Think of a negative belief you currently hold about yourself and write down questions to question that belief: .Mind Alchemy Module 8 – Changing Your Beliefs This is a two part exercise. Part 1 .
Belief Statement: Evidence: . I am intelligent.Mind Alchemy Module 8 – Changing Your Beliefs Part 2 .Just as above I'd like you to write down a new belief statement that you would like to have about yourself e. Now find evidence to prove that statement and write it down here. Revisit this as much as you can and find new evidence every day.g.
Mind Alchemy Module 8 – Changing Your Beliefs Your thoughts and insights How did you find today’s exercise? Did you gain any insights from this exercise? What actions can you take today as a result of doing this exercise? .
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