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Synopsis: The Climb is a story of two solo rock climbers, Michael Harris (Ned Vaughn) and Derrick Williams

(Jason George), who are brought together when they perform a daring rescue. The man they save is the son of retail mogul Mack Leonard (Dabney Coleman) who rewards Michael and Derrick by sponsoring a trip to their dream climb at Mount Chicanagua. The two highly esteemed climbers approach the sport very differently. Michael is a safety-conscious plodder driven by the beauty of creation. His goal is to reach the summit, and take whatever precautions necessary. Derrick is a flamboyant self-promoter bent by anger. Hes a risk taker and will reach his dream at any cost. A clash of pride, styles, and character put both of their lives on the line.

PositiveAn excellent movie. Very highly recommended. Nothing offensive whatsoever aside from the fact that Derricks girlfriend gets pregnant, and its assumed that shes spent the night at his house on several occasions but everything turns out fine. A good chance for parents to talk to kids about staying pure for marriage. I would definitely recommend this movie to anyone who enjoys a good movie. Positive -The Climb has enough male testosterone action to keep a viewers attention, while still sharing the peace and benefits of a life dedicated to Christ. For you romantic types, this film also reflects the value of healthy relationships and touches on personal integrity, and responsibility. How can I be and feel forgiven? Forgive and forget is how the old saying goes. But is it that simple? A boy who was dumped by his girlfriend says, "She really hurt my feelings. How can I ever forgive her for what she did to me?" A girl whose father sexually abused her for years asks, "Why should I forgive him for that?" The drug dealer who wants to turn his life around wonders, "Will God really forgive me for all I have done?" How do we forgive others who have wronged us? How do we accept God's forgiveness? The Real Need for Forgiveness God hates sin; He cannot stand to look at its ugliness. Therefore, unconfessed sin in our lives comes between us and damages our relationship with the Lord. "Surely the arm of the Lord is not too short to save, or his ear too dull to hear, but your iniquities have separated you from your God; your sins have hidden his face from you, so that He will not hear." (Isaiah 59:1-2) Not only does unforgiveness come between us and God, it also breaks our relationships with others. "He who covers over an offense promotes love, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends." (Proverbs 17:9) The Requirements for Forgiveness Because God hates sin, the price for forgiveness is high. Scripture gives the following requirements for forgiveness: Sacrifice. Hebrews 9:22 says that "without the shedding of Blood, there is no forgiveness." In the Old Testament, a sacrifice of an unblemished lamb was required to satisfy God's wrath. Jesus, the sinless Son of God, died on the cross and became the ultimate sacrifice for sin. Jesus bought our forgiveness when he died on the cross.

"For Christ died for sins once for all, the righteous for the unrighteous, to bring you to God." (1 Peter 3:18a) "In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God's grace." (Ephesians 1:7) Forgiveness of others. Another requirement for forgiveness of sins in that we forgive others. 1 Corinthians 13:5 says that "real love keeps no record of wrongs." Remember that Proverbs 17:9 tells us that a real friend will forgive. God has also made forgiving others a requirement for receiving His forgiveness. "For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins." (Matthew 6:14,15) "Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ, God forgave you." (Ephesians 4:32) Confession of sin. We must admit our sins to God if our relationship with Him is to be restored completely. Looking back at the real need for forgiveness, we see that unconfessed sin can separate us in our relationship with God. Confession is the way to restore that relationship with the Lord, remembering that it is for our own benefit that we confess to return to the Lord because He is faithful even when we are not (2 Timothy 2:13). "If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness." (1 John 1:9) Repentance. We must decide to change, to turn from our sins. "Therefore this is what the Lord says, 'If you repent, I will restore you that you may serve me.'" (Jeremiah 15:19a) The Results of Forgiveness The Bible promises the following benefits of God's forgiveness: Happiness. When we know God's forgiveness, we are blessed (happy). "Blessed (happy) is he whose transgressions are forgiven, who sins are covered. Blessed (happy) is the man whose sin the Lord doesn't count against him and in whose spirit is no deceit." (Psalm 32:1,2) God chooses not to hold our sins against us. Another result of forgiveness is that God doesn't keep a record of our sins, He does not hold them against us. Because the blood of Christ covered our sins, God chooses to put them out of His mind. "I, even I, am he who blots out your transgressions, for my own sake, and remembers your sins no more." (Isaiah 43:25) God removes our sin from us. "It is possible for the Lord to look at us without seeing our sins because when he forgave us, he removed our sins as far as the east is from the west" (Psalm 103:12) We can forgive ourselves. When we are forgiven, we can forgive ourselves and go on with our lives. "Brothers, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus." (Philippians 3:13,14) What is true love and how do you know when you have found it? I Corinthians 13:4-8a

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. I Corinthians 13:4-8a (NIV) Couple. Illustration copyrighted. Used by permission from Bill Zeeb.This verse describes the characteristics of true love. These qualities can certainly be found in the person of Jesus Christ, and they can be found in all truly loving relationships. The problem with trying to find love in our dating lives, is that too often we don't look for these characteristics. Rather we look at physical appearance, popularity, or wealth. These are not the qualities that God looks at and neither should we. But the LORD said to Samuel, The LORD does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart. I Samuel 16:7b (NIV) Love is best seen as devotion and action, not an emotion. Love is not exclusively based on how we feel. Certainly our emotions are involved, but they cannot be our only criteria for love. True devotion will always lead to actiontrue love. Dear children, let us not love with words or tongue but with ACTIONS and in truth. I John 3:18 (NIV) Christ was devoted to us enough to give his own life for us (Romans 5:8), even when he didn't feel like it (Matthew 26:39). Sex is not love! Our culture has taught us that sex and love are one in the same. This is a lie. Sex is a beautiful God-given activity that is wonderful when practiced within the boundaries of a Biblical marriage. Sex is the completion of the binding of two people within Biblical marriage; it is a God-given gift. PRE-MARITAL SEX Because premarital sex is not love, it only leads to pain and disappointment for those who are seeking that love. The Bible says that when two people are married, they become one flesh (Ephesians 5:31). Sex is consummation of that union. When two people break off their relationship after having sex, it is like ripping apart flesh. This is why two teenagers will struggle so much and become so dependent on those they give their bodies to. In light of I Corinthians 13:4-8 (above), it is easy to see that premarital sex is not patient, it is not kind, it does not protect, it is self-seeking. It is not love! IDENTIFYING TRUE LOVE We can only identify true love and know when we have found it, based on the Word of God. When we match our relationships up to what the Bible says that love isand we are honestly prepared to make a life-long commitment to that personthen we can say that we are truly in love. The three keys to that statement are: We have to look at the Word of God be completely honest with ourselves understand the level of commitment that comes with true love How far is too far? What are the guidelines for dating relationships? What if you've already gone too far? Clear guiding principles for your decisions making. When God creates something, He creates it with purpose and design. The Genesis account of creation makes it clear that God's creation is good (Genesis 1:31). But mankind has a history

of distorting what God has made, whether out of ignorance or just plain stubbornness. The golden calf (idol) of the Israelites, for example. Gold is beautiful to look at, but God clearly did not want His people worshipping it. Sex (and yes, sex was Gods idea) is no different. God created it, and therefore it is reasonable to expect that it is good. But when man distorts it by ignoring God's specific standards, it becomes harmful and destructive. So the question we've asked why save sex for marriage is really a question of understanding God's purpose and design for sex. We can choose to do things God's way, and experience the beauty of His plan, or we can choose to do things our way, and experience harm and destruction (Proverbs 16:25). So, let's talk first about why God created sex. One reason is obvious: procreation. When God told Adam and Eve to be fruitful and multiply (Genesis 1:28), they probably figured out that He wanted them to have sex. But God also wanted them to develop intimacy with one another, and He knew that sex would help them do that, in a way that nothing else could. God also knew that because sex is so powerful in creating intimacy that there must be some constraints on how it was to be used, so He specifically relegated sex to the arena of marriage. The kind of intimacy that God desires between a married couple cannot occur between one person and several others; it can only be experienced between one man and one woman. Hence God has specifically said, Do not commit adultery (Exodus 20:14), and Flee sexual immorality (1 Corinthians 6:18). That is, do not have sex with someone who is not your spouse. Obedience requires that sex be reserved for ones spouse. So far we have two basic reasons to save sex for marriage: (1) God tells us to, and (2) God's purpose and design for sex cannot be fully achieved any other way. Many, though, have argued that non-marriage sex is not all that harmful. Let's look carefully at the potential consequences for this particular area of disobedience. Sex outside of marriage causes damage in at least two areas: (1) physical consequences, and (2) relational consequences. Photo copyrighted. Courtesy of Films for Christ. The physical consequences are becoming increasingly obvious and increasingly dangerous in today's society. AIDS and other Sexually Transmitted Diseases are frightening realities. Safe sex is more accurately described as reduced risk sex. The only truly safe sex is abstinence. There is also a very real risk that children could be born and possibly grow up without two parents. Your actions affect your life, your partner's life, and the lives of your family. They can result in handicapping an innocent baby's life as well. Worst of all the willfull destruction of human life often results from pre-marital sex.) The relational consequences are just as real, though they may be more difficult to grasp. First, sin always damages a person's relationship with his God. Psalm 66:18 says, "If I had cherished sin in my heart, the Lord would not have listened." Intentional disobedience of God's command to not commit adultery dishonors and displeases God. Conversely, God is pleased when His children choose obedience and self-control instead of the immediacy of pleasure.

Second, relational damage happens between a Christian and those who are watching his life. The sin of adultery (i.e., televangelist scandals) causes a person's friends and even outsiders to view the adulterer as less committed to obedience, and more prone to hypocrisy. But a Christian who saves himself or herself in obedience to God wins the respect of those who see his or her life. Sex outside of marriage also damages the relationship between the persons involved. Trust is the main issue here. If two people do not cherish sex enough to wait for a marriage commitment, how can they trust one another for fidelity? Conversely, a man and woman build trust and respect for one another when they both survive the struggles of self-control each will have the confidence that the other respects them, and cherishes their intimacy. Similarly, if a person has not carried sexual purity into marriage, his or her marriage relationship is affected by the past. If a man or woman has previously had sex with someone else, their marital intimacy has already been affected. One or both spouses will have to deal with real or perceived comparisons with former lovers and feeling that intimacy was not important enough for the other person to wait for it. But if both have waited for their wedding night, the intimacy has already begun with a solid foundation. Why save sex for marriage? We've discussed several reasons: (1) God commands us to, (2) God's purpose and design for sex can only be achieved within marriage, and (3) the physical and relational consequences of sex outside of marriage are painfully real. "But we're in love!" some might say. Maybe so, but if one believes in God's definition of love, he must realize that love is patient and kind; it does not seek to please itself, nor does it delight in evil, but is always hopeful (1 Corinthians 13). True love would be patient in waiting for the proper time for sex. It would be kind to future spouses by not pre-harming marital intimacy. True love would be unselfish in placing God's desires and the needs of others above itself. It would not delight in the evil of disobedience, nor would it force another to disobey God. Love could never be a reason for premarital sex; rather, it should be one of the greatest reasons to avoid premarital sex. "But we're going to be married anyway" is another common excuse. Along with being presumptuous, this stance will almost certainly leave one question unanswered: If one gives in to moral temptation before marriage, what's to stop him or her from giving in to moral temptation once married? "What if it's too late? What if I've already forfeited my sexual purity?" Good question! Certainly a person cannot reverse the past, but there are a number of steps one should take to keep from further damaging his or her intimacy with God and others. First, acknowledge your actions as sin. For those who have accepted Christ's payment of the penalty for their sins, He asks only that they confess - agree with God that they are sinful. Second, maintain purity from this moment forward. Jesus told the woman caught in sexual sin to "go and sin no more" (John 8:11). You cannot change what's been done, but you can keep yourself and others from any further damage by avoiding situations which might cause you to compromise your commitment to sexual purity. Paul advised Timothy to run away from temptation (2 Timothy 2:22), and Joseph is famous for running from moral danger (Genesis 39:7-12).

Third, be honest with anyone who is a potential spouse don't wait till your wedding night to discuss your sexual past. Some intimacy problems may be averted if you address them early on. Sex is a good thing. It must be, if God created it! The only way to keep it a good thing is to follow God's guidelines. God will reward you if you choose to honor Him, and save sex for its proper time and place your marriage. God wants the best for us in every area of our lives. This includes relationships with boyfriends or girlfriends. We should date for fun, friendship, personality development and selection of a mate, not to be popular or for security. Don't allow peer pressure to force you into dating situations that are not appropriate. Realize that over 50% of girls and over 40% of guys never date in high school. The Bible gives us some very clear principles to guide us in making decisions about dating. 1. Guard your heart. The Bible tells us to be very careful about giving our affections, because our heart influences everything else in our life. Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life (Proverbs 4:23). 2. You are known by the company you keep. We also tend to become like the company we keep. This principle is closely related to the first one and is just as important in friendships as in dating. Do not be misled: Bad company corrupts good character (1 Corinthians 15:33). 3. Christians should only date other Christians. Although it is fine for Christians to have non-Christian friends, those who are especially close to our heart should be mature believers who are seeking to follow Christ with their lives. Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? (2 Corinthians 6:14). 4. Is it really love? 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 defines real love. Ask yourself these questions: o Are you patient with each other? o Are you kind to each other? o Are you never envious of each other? o Do you never boast to or about each other? o Is your relationship characterized by humility? o Are you never rude to each other? o Are you not self-seeking? o Are you not easily angered with each other? o Do you keep no record of wrongs? o Are you truthful with each other? o Do you protect each other? o Do you trust each other? If you answered yes to the above questions, then 1 Corinthians 13 says that you truly have a loving relationship. If you answered no to any of the above questions, then maybe you should discuss those issues with your boyfriend or girlfriend. How far is too far?

Many students ask the question, How far should I go on a date? Here are some principles that will help you decide what is appropriate behavior on a date. 1. Does the situation I put myself in invite sexual immorality or help me avoid it? 1 Corinthians 6:18 says to "flee from sexual immorality." We cannot do this if we are tempting ourselves through carelessness. 2. What kind of reputation does my potential date have? When you accept a date you are essentially saying, "My values are the same as your values." That in itself can put you in a position you may regret later. Remember 1 Corinthians 15:33, "Bad company corrupts good character." 3. Will there be any pressure to use alcohol or drugs? Don't give up your values for a date. 4. Am I attracting the wrong type of person? Make sure that the message you send with your actions doesn't attract people who will lead you to compromise your values. 5. Am I aware that sin is first committed in the heart? Matthew 5:28 says, "But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart." 6. Are you going to the right kind of place for a date? Many good intentions have been forgotten because the temptation and opportunity were too great. 7. Am I doing anything to encourage sexual desire? Don't engage in any impure contact that is sexually motivated, such as petting. If you have already gone too far, why stop? 1. God is forgiving. 1 John 1:9 tells us that God is faithful and just to forgive our sins if we confess them. You can start fresh with God anytime you want to. 2. God is holy. His word tells us that sexual sin is wrong, and He knows what is best. 3. God is caring. God knows that going too far before marriage tends to break up couples and leads to less happy marriages. He knows that most guys do not want to marry a girl who has been intimate with someone else. My boyfriend wants to have sex. I don't want to lose him. What should I do? I met a guy last year, and we have been going out since then. The thing is, he has been willing to have sex and keeps pushing me to do it. I know that it is against God's law, but I don't want to wait. If I found the right guy (which I think that I have), at the perfect place and time, I think that I could do it. But if I don't do it now, I am afraid I might lose him. I will hold on as long as I can, but please answer quickly. I don't want to lose him. Pat You are honest, Pat, and I respect that. And that means I'm going to be honest with you, completely honest and straight up. After all, we're not talking kiddy games here. I sense you do not understand what a dangerous path you are on. You simply don't realize how high the stakes are in your decision whether or not you go to bed with this guy. You're well aware that sex before marriage is against God's law. You admit that. You know that it's wrong. I know it's wrong. God tells us it's wrong.

It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in a passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God. I Thessalonians 4:3-5 God again makes it very clear in Ephesians 5:3: But among you there must not even be a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity because these are improper for God's holy people. That's what God tells you, Pat, about premarital sex. And about this guyhe doesn't really love you. If he did, would he ask you to do something against God's law when he knows you want to obey God? No. Absolutely not. He's not thinking about you. He's thinking about his glands and what he wants. And in 1 Corinthians 13:5, in the love chapter, we are told that love "is not self-seeking." This guy isn't concerned about what's right and wrong. The truth of God's law doesn't matter to him. And again in 1 Corinthians 13, verse 6, God says, Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. What this guy wants is sex; real love isn't a part of this picture, and that means he cannot love you the way God wants you to be loved. Something else really disturbs me about your letter, Pat. You said if you didn't have sex with him now you might lose him. That tells me you are more concerned about this guy than finding and obeying God's will for your life. Quite honestly, you are letting this guy become your God. He is first in your life. That is dangerous territory. God doesn't play games with us. He makes that very clear. Jesus said in Luke 6:46, Why do you call me, Lord, Lord, and do not do what I say? And in John 14:15, Jesus said it again, If you love me, you will obey what I command. So what you are doing, Pat, is mocking God. You are saying that you know what God wants you to do, but you aren't willing to do it. You are putting your boyfriend above God. And you are fooling yourself if you think you can fool God. Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows, we are told in Galatians 6:7. I can't tell you exactly what you will reap if you turn your back on God and go to bed with this guy or any other guy. That sexual sin could have any number of serious consequences: broken fellowship with God, guilt and shame, loss of dignity, AIDS or some other sexually transmitted disease, low self-esteem, unwanted pregnancy, stirred up desires which can't be fulfilled, and, yes, even fear. Pat, I plead with you. Do the right thing. Ask God to give you power and strength and desire to obey Him. Say, like Paul said in 1 Corinthians 10:13, No temptation has seized [me] except what is common to man. And God is faithful; He will not let [me] be tempted beyond what I can bear. But when [I am] tempted, he will also provide a way out so that [I] can stand up under it. Commit yourself to the truth, Pat, and I promise you God will help you. Explain it to your boyfriend. And if he keeps pushing youif he pushes you even oncethen lose him. Break it off. It's simply not worth it. Remember, God loves you. With his help, you can do it. I know you can.

Movie review THE CLIMB Synopsis: The Climb is a story of two solo rock climbers, Derrick Williams is a hotshot climber who wants to prove to the world he can do it himself. Teamed up with Christian "SafetyMan" Michael Harris, another stunning professional world-class climber. Michael Harris and Derrick Williams, who are brought together when they perform a daring rescue. The man they save is the son of retail mogul Mack Leonard who rewards Michael and Derrick by sponsoring a trip to their dream climb at Mount Chicanagua. In this intense ice-and-snow mountain drama, two climbers temporarily forced together for a rescue mission find themselves as uneasy partners in the adventure of a lifetime. The two highly esteemed climbers approach the sport very differently. Michael is a safety-conscious plodder driven by the beauty of creation. His goal is to reach the summit, and take whatever precautions necessary. Derrick is a flamboyant selfpromoter bent by anger. Hes a risk taker and will reach his dream at any cost. A clash of pride, styles, and character put both of their lives on the line.

Questions for discussion y What is true love and how do you know when you have found it? I Corinthians 13:4-8a

How far is too far? What are the guidelines for dating relationships? What if you've already gone too far? Clear guiding principles for your decisions making.

My boyfriend wants to have sex. I don't want to lose him. What should I do?

Why should I save sex for marriage?

"What if it's too late? What if I've already forfeited my sexual purity?"

How can I be and feel forgiven? If God forgives me every time I ask, why do I still feel so guilty?