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Dear Friends, We have another Basic BabyStep Boogie. This one is your guide, but you have to let go of your perfectionism for it to work. I guess that is just about true for everything we do though. Our perfectionism sabotages at every corner. We have to recognize when it is happening and let our routines help us. Your next BabyStep, I am going to break down for you into several even smaller steps. Many of you get so overwhelmed by this that you have continued to procrastinate about doing this. I know your curiosity is about to get you. This week we are going to take the babysteps to build or revise our Control Journals. Yes you heard me right. This time you are really going to do this. NO MORE EXCUSES! We are going to do this together. If your routines have not been working then you may need to redo them and tweak them just a little. Things change and we have to do is rewrite them so that they flow again. So here is what we are going to do. I want you to find a 1 inch three ring binder. We all have them around the house. Then just put it on your kitchen counter. If it has one of those clear windows on the front then put a favorite picture in or some of your family pictures. Then put some paper in it. It can be lined notebook paper or just typing paper with holes punched in it. Ten or fifteen sheets will be enough for now. Now don't get perfectionist on me! This is not an art project you are going to be graded on. This is a working rough draft. It is just a binder that is going to hold your routines. Do you hear me??? Use what you have! That is all we are going to do for now. FlyLady For those of you that already have a working Control Journal and it needs a little update or cleaning out; or you that have purchased the Control Journal workbook that we have on our website, but you are afraid that you are going to mess it up; then get it out. We are going to build this it this week.
Control Journal BabyStep 2!!
Dear Friends, The very first page we are going to build in your Control Journal is your Before Bed Routine. So get used to opening up your Control Journal. Open it up to the very first page and write on the top of it. My Before Bed Routine Then number the page 1-5 in big numbers with a little space. Work in pencil! 1. Shine your sink. 2. Lay out your clothes for tomorrow 3. Brush your teeth. 4. 5. Don't worry about 4 and 5 yet. At the bottom of the page in big letter write; Go to bed at a decent hour! You need your rest. Now do this! Don't get hung up on doing this right or making it pretty. When you get some sheet protectors or if you have them in some drawer some place then place this sheet in one. If you don't have them; don't worry you can pick some up the next time you are in town. Do not let this keep you from writing a simple before bed routine down on paper! FlyLady For those of you that have already gone to bed; you can do this in the morning.
Control Journal BabyStep 3!!
Dear Friends, Your next page in your Control Journal is your morning routine. We are going to keep this very simple. You can look at my example routine if you want to see what I do in the morning and where we are going with this, but you are not supposed to do a full blown routine on your first day. YOU ARE NOT SUPERWOMAN! Take it slow and easy and you will find more success and "crash and burn" will be a thing of the past. Now get another sheet of paper! Do not let your perfectionism take over! You don't need a printer or magic markers. We are using a pencil to get this started. At the top of the page write Morning Routine in big letters. Number the sheet of paper 1-11; just cause I like the number 11. Leave some space between the numbers. Just use one sheet. 1. Get out of bed and hit the ground FLYing! 2. Make the bed. 3. Get dressed to shoes: Shower, fix hair and moisture or make-up 4. While in bathroom; Swish the toilet and wipe down the counters and put things away. Swish and Swipe is what I call it. 5. Empty the dishwasher 6. Check Calendar for appointments 7. 8. 9. 10. 11.
What a way to start my day!! (at the bottom of the page) Now put this sheet on the back side of the Before Bed Routine in the sheet protector. If you don't have sheet protectors yet; then just keep it behind the before bed routine. This is the section you are going to label: DAILY ROUTINES. This can be a tab on the sheet protector, a sheet of paper or a divider. Don't get picky about this. It will all come together. As for those of you that have purchased our Control Journal Worksheets then get started with the Morning Routine. If you already have a Control Journal I want you to look at your morning routine to see if there is a new step you can add or an old one that you have moved to another routine. Pencil it in. Then take out some of my essays you have printed and put in your Control Journal. If you want to you can put them in another binder for now. You are doing this. I am so proud of you! FlyLady If you are still hung up on your perfectionism then do what I did for several months. I put post-it notes in my bathroom to remind me of these steps while I was in there. It is not about looking pretty it is about developing a routine that will work for you not look good on the counter. Once I leave the bathroom; I will forget to do it. Also put a note in there to remind you to look at your calendar and Control Journal.
Control Journal BabyStep 4!!
Dear Friends, We have one more daily routine that I do not talk about often. If you work outside the home you may need this routine to keep you focused on what has to be done to get supper started. It can also be a "get home from school routine" for the children. You could have both since they could be several hours apart. You could also adapt this for those of you that work at home. This is what I do. I have one for after lunch to keep me focused on calls that need to be returned and other things that I tend to forget about. So get out your piece of paper and pencil. At the top of the page write AFTERNOON ROUTINE Or AFTER SCHOOL ROUTINE or AFTER WORK ROUTINE Number the page from 1-5 and leave a little room between the numbers. 1. Get home from work and change clothes and put on lace up shoes. 2. Get dinner started; fill the sink with hot soapy water; clean as I go! 3. Sit down and drink some water for 5 minutes 4. Set the table and put some candles out 5. Start thinking about tomorrow right now: Your Before Bed Routines can start right now not just before you are ready to crash. **************************** Don't let your perfectionism keep from making an afternoon routine. It can help you bridge the gap between the morning and going to bed at a decent hour.
Control Journal Babystep 5
Dear Friends, Your next little assignment for your control journal is very simple. As children we sang a song, "This is the way we wash our clothes" every Monday morning. When we build our basic weekly plan this is what we have to think about; what day are we going to do things on. Right now all I want you to do is take a sheet of paper and put the days of the week on a single sheet of paper. Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday Date Night Saturday Family Fun Day Sunday Renew your spirit day This is a brain-storming list for you to help in building your basic weekly plan. We will do more tomorrow. Don't get hung up on this. If you need to look at mine and get an idea of what we are working toward then be sure and look at my example. http://flylady.net/pages/FLYingLessons_Routines.asp#basic (see following pages) You can do this. Once you start practicing a basic weekly plan you free yourself to have time for you.
FlyLady's Basic Weekly Plan
I want you to think about the things you need to do every week. Select which days you want to do these things, put it on your calendar for next week, and stick to it. Make an appointment with yourself LOL! Try it for one week. It may surprise you that your week can revolve around these appointments. This is what I do. With the Basic Weekly Plan, we decide on a day to do things and stick to it. I never knew how much this would help my lack of organization. Knowing that I do my shopping on Thursday, my cleaning on Monday and my desk day on Friday allows me the freedom to schedule things according to the day. When you know what the day is, you know what has to be done. It is another way to be on autopilot. - FlyLady Monday: Weekly Home Blessing (8:00am-9:00am) 1. Get Up and Dress to Shoes 2. Laundry 3. Weekly Home Blessing Hour a.Cull/toss old magazines. b.Change sheets. c.Empty all the trash. d.Vacuum all rooms. e.Mop kitchen and bath. f.Clean mirrors and doors. g.Feather Dust furniture. Tuesday: Free Day 1. Water and fertilize plants. 2. Spend 15 minutes in the current zone. Wednesday: Zone Clean and Partial Desk Time 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. Finish Zone Cleaning Chores. Remainder Weekly Cleaning. Make sure refrigerator is clean. Write thank-you notes. Work on menus and grocery list for next week. Balance check book before going shopping.
Thursday: Grocery and Errand Day
1. Make sure menus are planned before you go shopping. 2. Check grocery list one last time before you walk out the door. Take your list with you. 3. Grocery Day. 4. Errand Day: a.Library. b.Post office. c.Buy gifts and cards. d.Buy candles. Friday: Paperwork and Misc. 1. Be romantic today. 2. Get food from the freezer for next week. 3. File papers. 4. Write letters and cards. 5. Clean out purse. 6. Mend clothes and polish shoes. 7. Pet care (Flea and Heart Meds). 8. Clean out car and check fluids. 9. Clean laundry room. 10.Mail film to Mystic Labs. Yeah! It's the weekend! Time for the weekend dance! LOL! Have some fun! FlyLady Friday: is "Date Night" Saturday: is "Family Fun Day" Sunday: is "Renew Your Spirit Day"
Control Journal Babystep 6
Dear Friends, We are still working on our Basic Weekly Plan. Do not get hung up in your perfectionism and try to do too much. With our system we will never have to spring clean again, but here is how we accomplish the detailed cleaning weekly so things never look awful. We simply do Kelly's Zone Mission for the day. So on Monday-Friday of your Basic Weekly Plan put; do Kelly's Zone Mission for the day. After five days of missions you have spent only a few short minutes a day and the accumlative effect is a home that hugs you. All of this fits together nicely. Have you done Kelly's Mission for today? They are posted on our website every day. http://flylady.net/pages/FlightPlan_Missions.asp FlyLady I have decided to break your Control Journal down into simple little babysteps so you will not let your perfectionism ruin one of the greatest tools we have for keeping us from getting sidetracked. If you have purchased our Control Journal worksheets and have not done them yet then use the directions to help you. I know that some of you have resisted doing them even though you bought them last year when we introduced them. Were you afraid that you were going to mess them up? Do not let this tool lay unloved in a drawer. Tools won't work unless you pick them up and use them.
Control Journal Babystep 7
Dear Friends, This message is a check list of what you have put together so far this week while building your Control Journal. All of the little babysteps will eventually be on our website. 1. We found a old three ring binder and put it on our kitchen counter. 2. Write down a simple Before Bed Routine. 3. Write down a simple Morning Routine. 4. Write down an Afternoon/After School/After Work Routine. This is your first section in your Control Journal. You can put a tab for Daily Routines or just leave them as they are. Put them in a sheet protector and use the front and back. Start with your before bed routine as first; since I believe that it is the most important routine of the day! The next section we are working on is our Basic Weekly Plan. 5. Write the Days of the week down one sheet of paper. 6. By Monday-Friday write; Do Kelly's Zone Mission for the day! This is a work in progress, just like you are. Do not let your perfectionism keep you from even getting started.
Control Journal Babystep 8
Dear Friends, We are building our Basic Weekly Plan. Your next thing to pencil in is your errand day. I do mine on Thursdays. This is the day I purposely plan to make my appointments. Just think if you know you are going to be out anyway then all you have to do is make a couple of stops. Now for those of you that work outside of the home. You may want to pick one evening, a lunch hour or even right after work one day. When you plan on doing things on a certain day there is a measure of peace that comes. You can make a list and everyone will know that your errand day is _________. Your week will revolve around when you grocery shop. I know that sounds stupid but before you go shopping you will need to have a clean refrigerator and a menu plan for next week along with a grocery list. I am not asking you to pencil this in yet. First things first.
Control Journal Babystep 9
Dear Friends, We have been working hard on your Control Journal this week. Our focus has been the basic weekly plan for the last couple of days. Tomorrow is Friday and we send out three messages to remind you to: Clean out your purse and file those receipts. Clean out the car and check those car seats. Then plan something special for date night with your sweet darling or a good friend. This is what I want you to put on your basic weekly plan sheet. It doesn't have to be on Friday but this is when we send out the reminders. If your weekend starts on another day then you may want to put it on that day.
Control Journal BabyStep 10!!
Dear Friends, Every week on Wednesday we send out the clean out our refrigerator reminder. We do this not only to get rid of the science projects but to also take inventory of the food that is in there that needs to be used up. This way we can integrate this food into our menu plan for next week. We do this the day before we go to the grocery store. So put this on your calendar the day before you go shopping for groceries. Also this is a good time to make your grocery list and a simple menu plan. You will need to look at your calendar for next week to see what nights you are going to be home for a meal with your family. An important part of any Control Journal is your family wall calendar. This helps you to see everyone's schedule. Put this on your basic weekly plan too: Make menus write a grocery list. Here is a picture of what a calendar center in your kitchen could look like. (see following pages)
Kelly's Guide on How to Use a Calendar
Dear Friends: One of the biggest tools that you can have in your journey to PEACE is a calendar. It doesn't matter what kind, it can be a wall calendar, a planner, whatever as long as you have one. One of the first things that we tell you to do when starting our system is to establish routines and a basic weekly plan, this is why we had all of you go through the control journal exercises in the past few weeks. A calendar is the next step towards FLYing. A calendar should be a tool that keeps you and your family informed as to what is going on in your lives. If you are using a personal planner I still recommend that you have a family calendar that is located in a central location of your home so that all family members can see what is going on. This is what will save you from forgotten games, events, appointments and...disappointments!!! Your family counts on you to keep them going, using a calendar will help not only you but all of your family as well. Once you have established routines and a basic weekly plan, you know that you are to sit down once a week to plan the next week, we call this desk day. This is the day that you look at your calendar to see what is happening the following week for your family. The kicker is that if you don't have a calendar, than you have to rely on your memory to tell you what is going on for next week, well I think we all know how well that works! LOL! So how do you use a calendar?
Family Events: Take the time to sit down and fill in birthdays and general information that is consistent for your family; this will save you from ever forgetting a birthday or anniversary again! This is where you look at your calendar on desk day to see if there any cards or packages that you need to buy and or mail. Schedules: When you receive a schedule of events from anything that a family member participates in FILL IT IN ON YOUR CALENDAR
IMMEDIATELY!! Examples are : school calendars, sports schedules, boy scouts, dance classes, church schedules, etc. When you get them write them down! Don't leave those schedules in a hotspot or the car! If you absolutely can't write them down that minute than take a paper clip and clip it to your calendar or put it in the pocket of your calendar to pull out and enter the information on the calendar when desk day comes around. This will allow you to know what events you can and cannot attend because you will be able to see if you have a schedule issue. Invitations: When you receive an invitation in the mail DON'T throw it in a hotspot or a pile of mail. First ask yourself if you want to go to the event, if you do than go to your calendar and see if the date is a good one for you or the person that has been invited. If you have looked at your calendar and know that you can attend, you write it down immediately! If the invitation requires an RSVP than take care of that right away. (By the way if you don't want to go to the event or it is something that doesn't work into your schedule then RSVP if required or throw the invitation away!) Appointments: When you schedule an appointment for Doctors, dentists, barbers, whatever, look at your calendar FIRST! Then after you have scheduled them WRITE the appointment down so that you will not schedule yourself into a conflict. When you are using a basic weekly you will have a day that is more convenient for running around. Try to set up most of your appointments on your errand day, you can make this decision.
Some calendars and planners come with stickers that save time and space by having them with pictures and/or words that you can help use to schedule things. If you have those USE them. They are little tools to assist you in your planning. If you have a sticker that says Dentist: than use it than you only have to write in the name of the person that is going to the dentist and the time, the sticker will tell you that it is a dentist appointment. Visual aids that will help you!!!! Colored pens, stickers, hi-lighters. Be creative! Ask any Born Organized person that you know, they use calendars, planners and even the electronic date keepers. If you want to really FLY, using a calendar is a must! As I said before, it can be whatever calendar you choose: The wall calendar, a pocket planner, a desktop calendar, it does not matter as long as you use it!!!! We want you to FLY! We promise that using a calendar will help you to FLY! Be consistent and dedicated about this and it will work for all of you!
Happy Planning! Kelly Dear Friends, Some of us need a little help with a master grocery list. I found this one online. We all just love Woman's Day Magazine. They love us too. Thank you Woman's Day for helping our ladies with such a great tool.
You can print this out and put it in a sheet protector and place it in your Control Journal.
Control Journal BabyStep 12!!
Dear Friends, We have been working on our Basic Weekly Plan for over a week. We get to pick a day that we do things and mark it on our days of the week in our Control Journal. Today we are going to pick a day or days that we are going to bless our homes with our Weekly Home Blessing Hour. I do mine on Monday morning. Other people may do it twice a week; Friday to get ready for the weekend or Saturday Morning to get the whole family involved and then again at the first of the week to recover from the weekend. Then there are our payroll SHEs that may not have a full hour to devote to this. So I teach them to do one or two items of our weekly home blessing a day. You can do one before you go to work and one after you get home. Then after three days your home has been blessed and you have only done ten minutes in the morning and ten minutes in the evening. With these things penciled on your Basic Weekly Plan you have a specific time to do them. So now is the hard part. You have to pick a day to Bless your home! Guess what it doesn't have to be the perfect day either. If you pencil it in you can move it around to the time that works best for your family. Practice makes progress. Some weeks I don't have a full hour either so I go to plan B and just do something that is going to Bless my Home!!! So pull out your Control Journal and write in Weekly Home Blessing Hour and these seven items. You can pick the order. Vacuum or sweep just the middles not around the walls. Dust Mop the kitchen and the bathroom
Clean the glass in the doors and bathroom mirrors. Purge magazines. This means get rid of them from your house. Empty all the trash cans Change the sheets on your bed. (each family member is responsible for their bed) It is time to put this in your Control Journal.
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