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I was seven and I was in my first two weeks being a standard one student when I ran away from school. I did not have any friend in my class because all of my kindergarten buddies were in the other classes. I was scared and lonely. Once my mother found out that I skipped school, I was beaten by hanger and belt. But I did not mind. I just hate school. The next day, I stayed in the school toilet when I arrived school. Unluckily, someone found me. She was my class teacher and she did talked about that to my parents. Finally, my father sent a request to the headmaster to let me enter the first class of my batch because I got some kindergarten friends there and it was accepted. Since that day, I never skipped school again. This all happened just because I did not have friend. That shows how important friends are to kids. Friendship is one of the most important thing in helping children develop emotionally and socially, also a necessity for health psychological development. It provides a training ground for them to try out some ways of relating to others. Children will learn to give and take, how to set up rules,how to make decisions when they are facing problems or dilemmas and some other things through interacting with friends. The process in understanding things that happened around them will be more interesting as they almost got the same way of thinking. From that, they will learn how to communicate with each other and why do they need friends through life. Research shows that children with friends have a greater sense of well-being, better self-esteem and less social problems as adults than those people without friends. Without friends, they also more likely to have problems adjusting to school and will always feel lonely. Research also shows that children who have friends at a young age are more likely to have friendships at later age. About 75 percent of preschoolers are involved in friendships and by adolescene 80 to 90 percent report having mutual friends, usually through one or two best friends and several friends. So that, with having friends since at young age, kids can have more friends as they grow up. Luckily if you can have friends from different races or nationality. Through friends, children can learn lots of new things such as for Malay and Muslim, when their friends are Chinese and Indians, they will know about Chinese New Year, Deepavali, their friends languanges, national clothes,food and so on. Having friends in different society also make us feel happy and not isolated from others. They also can exchange thought and can discuss about lots of things based on different type of thinking and it would be more fun. Kids will become more excited in making friends and they will enjoying their kids life more than those kids who does not have friend.
Teenagers spend almost a third of their waking time in the company of friends. Friends can help each other with homeworks and assignments. With toddlers friendship is not reflected in language. Now. They also fill in what is misses during absences and the most important thing is. As for me. common sense. Parental support. Schools can provide a place of rewarding experiences and represent natural communities of reinforcement to students. Children who align themselves with friends who engage in antisocial behavior are at risk for also engaging in this type of behavior. Sometimes there are kids who want to go to school not because they love their school or the teachers nor even the books. the most well-liked children are those who can manage social relations within a group and think of activities that are fun. The amount of time spent with friends is greatest during middle childhood and adolescence.Well. Longitudinal studies show that children entering first grade have better school attitudes if they already have friends and also successful in keeping the current friends as well as in making new ones.the Downside of Friendship The quality of friendship is important. During the elementary school years children generally choose friends who are similar to themselves and who share their interests. patience. trust. In the nut shell. . Most adolescents move away from relying on family and parents and develop close ties with friends. This would help them in socialize at school later. Research proven these impressions. my parents send her to an Islamic kindergarten near home and they already make sure that some of that students will enter the same class as my sister once they become a standard one student. At this age. When Friendships Are Not Helpful -. but because they want to see their friends. children become increasingly grouporiented. that is good for them. for my six year-old sister. Preschoolers identify specific children as friends and interact differently with friends than non-friends. although positive for many. The well-known "peer pressure" effect that starts in early adolescence. but in the time they spend together engaged in a common activity. and luck will help children acquire the ability to deal competently with social interactions. I suggest to all parents out there to let their kids to be friend with the neighbour’s kids at least for the first step towards having friends at kindergarten and school. feel good about themselves. children begin to establish contact with peers. next year. as long as they do not skip school. and be responsible for their actions. my parents learned from what had happened to me last time. can also have negative consequences. develop the rudiments of play behavior and show preferences for certain playmates. Antisocial friends are not good role models. They do not want what had happened to me will happen to my sister. Children need knowledgeable and sympathetic guides to help them get along with people. it seems logical to say that by having friends at school would enhance children’s academic progress. friends can make school more fun. But. Friendship Through the Ages In the toddler years.
Respect your child's social style.Especially during adolescence. For group interventions in the classroom: Conflict resolution programs teach children alternate ways of handling problems through peer counselors or adult-supervised techniques. Reinforcement of appropriate social skills may enhance a socially reluctant child's social interaction. two children with difficulties interact while they receive feedback from an adult coach. cooperative assignments and games or "buddy systems" may foster alliances and encourage positive peer interactions. Encouraging Children's Friendships What Schools Can Do For children who require individual help several different formats are presently in use: Children are taught social skills individually by an adult coach or counselor and then they practice the new strategies. In some instances a shy child is matched with a more outgoing child. and some do best with a few close friends. and some warm up to friends slowly . Collaborative learning. In contrast. some children do best with a host of friends. competition and difference is a necessary part of development. Learning to deal with peer pressure. Helping children deal with pressure from friends is more important than protecting them from it. Some make friends quickly. adolescents who have a history of positive peer relationships and are socially mature are more resilient and better able to deal with life changes and stress. Peer pairing therapy. What Parents Can Do Let your child know that you feel friendships are important and worth the effort. teenagers who have a history of difficult behavior and poor peer relationships can engage in delinquent behavior.
be flexible about family schedules so that your child can find time to be with friends. which may be the case with children having hearing. This is especially important if your child is shy or reluctant about peer interactions. trust. you could make concrete suggestions. nevertheless parents should remain involved and interested in their youngster's social life – should be knowledgeable about their child's friends. Children need knowledgeable and sympathetic guides to help them get along with people. If your child has a problem with a friend. feel good about themselves. try to create easier situations for socializing. If your child was teased. Parental support. and luck will help children acquire the ability to deal competently with social interactions. common sense. recently completed research shows that children who were more well adjusted socially had parents who were more involved in their children's social activities. For example. Or. Offer your home or offer to accompany children on outings. or who are very shy. parents have less opportunity to control their youngster's peer networks. With adolescents. . speech or other problems. ask questions about social activities and stay informed. encourage him/her to talk about it and think together about some possible ways to handle similar situations when they arise in the future. Find practical ways you can help your child make room in his/her life for being with other children. and be responsible for their actions. Know your child's friends. patience. You might also make arrangements for your family to spend time with another family that has a similar-age child. If your child is finding it difficult to be with other children or to make friends. such as "You can invite somebody to go to the pool with us on Saturday?" The Best Ways to Help Although some parents may sometimes feel as if they're being too pushy by adopting such strategies. help him plan good ways of responding in the future. get to know them.