Assessment 1

How positive is your self-image? Answer these true or false statements and find out. 1. My glass is always half-empty, not half-full. 2. I'm always apologizing for things. 3. I'm always telling myself I "should" be doing this or that. 4. I constantly criticize myself. 5. What other people think about me dictates how I feel about myself. 6. I am critical of my mistakes and relive them over and over. 7. I always let the people who care about me down. 8. I feel like I have the weight of the world on my shoulders. 9. A partial failure is as bad as a complete failure. 10. I bend over backwards to please others. 11. I am not sure I have done a good job unless someone else points it out. 12. It's hard for me to forgive and forget. 13. I have to work harder than others for relationships and am afraid that the relationships I have will fail. 14. If I don't do as well as others, it means that I am not as good as them. 15. If I can't do something well, there is no point in doing it at all.

Give yourself 1 point for each question you answered with a "true". 0 - 4: You have a generally positive way of thinking and should feel good about yourself. Keep it up! 5 - 8: You may be struggling with some negative emotions. Take time to review your good qualities. 9 or more: You can be very critical of yourself. Challenge yourself to change your way of thinking!

Assessment 2:Role plays
The best way to improve your self-image is through practice. Below are a number of experiences you may have that require you to question your self-image. Scenario 1. Your friend has invited you to a party, which you'd really like to attend. Unfortunately you have nothing new to wear and you haven't got the money to buy a new outfit. Which of the following would you do: A. Turn down the invitation. B. Go, but know everyone realizes you couldn't afford a new outfit.

If you chose option B. but I'd love to try and will read up on it and get advice from someone who has" or "I'm not sure I know how to do this. Don't hand in the assignment. showing him or her that you've made an effort to learn. Congratulate yourself on being creative. you have decided to go but are setting yourself up to have a bad time. you at least can go back to your boss. You're also not giving others the benefit of the doubt . Realize that you were invited. B. You tell your boss you can't do it. and go. you've provided an honest answer. It's fine to admit that you don't have a specific skill. This is good. but you can make this admission positive by showing your boss you have initiative and are eager to learn. You ask you boss to pick someone else because you've never done this before. C. Think of some way to modify an old outfit and go. the less often you'll be asked or offered special opportunities. but you weren't able to figure out some of the answers. you've given up without even trying. Scenario 3. not your clothes. Responses: If you chose option A. you may want to say "I've never done this before. Instead of recommending someone else. you are not only punishing yourself by turning down a fun opportunity. Option D indicates you have enough self-esteem to accept the invitation as an indication of your self worth. B. Your class assignment from the night before is due." Option C is another sensible approach. but would like to learn. The boss asks you to organize a going-away luncheon.they may care more about how you behave than how you appear. but you've also foregone a chance to improve your relationship with your boss and his or her confidence in you. C. maybe Mr. after getting the advice. but you are also placing too much emphasis on physical appearance and others' perceptions of you. If you chose option B. Option C is not a bad decision and shows a lot of ingenuity on your part. You: A. you still think you can't undertake the assignment. You've never done this before so: A. You talk to someone who has done this before and get advice. . but remind yourself that appearances (and others' opinions) aren't everything.C. Not only are you limiting yourself. Scenario 2. but you are also limiting your opportunities. D. X (a coworker with more experience) and I can work on this together. If. The more often you respond with a 'no'. Responses: If you chose option A. Skip class. Copy your neighbor's work. Remind yourself that a 'sparkling' personality can be far more attractive than a new outfit.

this is far more financially responsible than pretending that you don't. It can also lead to a debt-free and even profitable future! .D. but "covering them up" by using credit cards with high interest rates is just going to make you deeper in debt. If you chose option B. When you discover you're still behind on bills the following month. advice from experts can be invaluable. Although it may be difficult to admit to others (or yourself) that you need financial help. Don't be ashamed to admit that you need to work within a budget . you are admitting you need help. You'll be surprised at how understanding and helpful many financial institutions and corporations can be: they'd rather work with you to get their money back than 'punish' you.) Option C is probably the best option. You may also need to get a loan or work out a payment plan with some of your creditors. you are just making your financial difficulties worse! Anyone can have financial problems. Borrow money from family and friends. Hand in what you have done with an explanation that. but be sure you don't use this loan as a band-aid. not just the immediate problem. Even people who don't have financial difficulties often seek expert advice on getting the most from their money. and pay it off. Seek advise from a financial advisor or consumer group about how to create a budget. Responses: Neither A. B. C. Eventually you're behind on all your bills and cards. although you tried. You still need to address the cause (why you can't pay your bills). An honest and responsible approach can save your reputation and lead to well-earned esteem. so you: A. See if you can get another credit card. Worse. Responses: If you chose option A. you decide to use another credit card. which is good. The first thing you should do is put yourself on a budget and pay off your credit cards. you have not focused on the real problem: you didn't understand the assignment. Most teachers will understand this. Again. but you are limiting yourself even more by not addressing the problem and learning how to handle it in the future. This is no reflection on your capabilities. you may need to put yourself on a budget and be sure that your budget includes setting aside money to pay back that loan (or for future emergencies. You may just need one-on-one time to ask questions that weren't answered in class. Everyone has difficulties at certain times or with certain subjects. The purpose of class assignments is to 'test' your understanding of what you are learning before you are actually tested and your teacher is there to help. B nor C are good reasons for not turning in your assignment. option A is cheating! If you chose any of the first three options. Option D shows your teacher that you have made your best effort but still are having a problem. Scenario 4. You are behind on bills so you decide to use a credit card to pay them. you weren't able to answer all of the questions and ask for an appointment so your teacher can help you. consolidate your debt. or maybe you need to review the lesson again or walk through the exercises with your teacher.

Taking the time to listen and respond may be enough to stop future criticisms. or C. says that there is some truth to the criticism. ASSESSMENT 3 : PERSONALITY Answer these ten simple questions: Tick on the options best suited to you today:1. with long steps b) fairly fast. you are not only being open to new ideas but also showing him that you respect his beliefs. looking the world in the face d) less fast. Start to question if your job is right for you. It also shows a respect for others' beliefs. If you are happy with your job. Option D shows self-confidence in your judgment and a willingness to defend it. D. which you happen to enjoy and pays your bills. B. you might want to ask yourself why you are staying with your job. If it's not. Responses: If you chose option A. or smooth your hair . head down e) very slowly 3. you have every right (and the confidence) to ask him to stop. you: A. Ask your relative to explain why he hates your job and address his concerns. you ask him to keep it positive or withhold it altogether. When do you feel your best? a) in the morning b) during the afternoon & and early evening c) late at night 2. Get a new job that your relative approves of so that he will leave you alone. A close relative is always criticizing your job. on the other hand. If. If the criticism continues. not what you think is important. you are already luckier than most! Don't let groundless criticisms make you question your own judgment. When talking to people you a) stand with your arms folded b) have your hands clasped c) have one or both your hands on your hips d) touch or push the person to whom you are talking e) play with your ear. B. you are placing too much emphasis on what your relative thinks is important. if your coworkers treat you well. You usually walk a) fairly fast. C. a nagging voice in your head (not your relative's). Repeatedly make excuses to your relative about why you're keeping the job. and if your job meets your financial needs. with little steps c) less fast head up. By taking the time to listen to and address your relative's criticisms. touch your chin.Scenario 5.

You're working very hard.. in those last few moments before going to sleep. Which of the following colors do you like most? a) Red or orange b) black c) yellow or light blue d) green e) dark blue or purple f) white g) brown or gray 9. When relaxing. and you're interrupted. appreciative laugh b) a laugh. concentrating hard.4. You often dream that you are a) falling b) fighting or struggling c) searching for something or somebody d) flying or floating e) you usually have dreamless sleep f) your dreams are always pleasant . you lie a) stretched out on your back b) stretched out face down on your stomach c) on your side. you sit with a) your knees bent with your legs neatly side by side b) your legs crossed c) your legs stretched out or straight d) one leg curled under you 5. but not a loud one c) a quiet chuckle d) a sheepish smile 6. slightly curled d) with your head on one arm e) with your head under the covers 10. a) welcome the break b) feel extremely irritated c) vary between these two extremes 8.. When you go to a party or social gathering a) make a loud entrance so everyone notices you b) make a quiet entrance. do you . When you are in bed at night. you react with a) a big. looking around for someone you know c) make the quietest entrance. When something really amuses you. trying to stay unnoticed 7.

and understanding. Not a person who makes friends too quickly or easily. expecting you to examine everything carefully from every angle and then. usually decide against it. (a) 4 (b) 6 (c) 2 (d) 1 5. amusing. lively. careful & practical. but equally that it takes you a long time to get over it if that trust is ever broken. someone who needs looking after. You're seen as vain. charming. wishing they could be more like you. They enjoy being in your company because of the excitement your radiate. a slow and steady plodder. nervous. (a) 6 (b) 4 (c) 7 (d) 2 (e) 1 3. but someone who's extremely loyal to friends you do make and who expect the same loyalty in return. (a) 7 (b) 6 (c) 4 (d) 2 (e) 1 10. 31 TO 40 POINTS: Others see you as sensible. considerate. They see you as clever. They also see you as kind. someone who's constantly in the center of attention. OVER 60 POINTS: Others see you as someone the should "handle with care". but sufficiently well-balanced not to let it go to their head. (a) 6 (b) 4 (c) 3 (d) 5 (e) 2 6. UNDER 21 POINTS: People think you are shy. hesitating to become too deeply involved with you. who's quick to make decisions. a natural leader. Others may admire you. or talented. (a) 2 (b) 4 (c) 6 2. though not always the right ones. someone who will try anything once. They think this reaction is caused partly by your careful nature. someone who takes chances and enjoys an adventure. who always wants someone else to make the decisions & who doesn't want to get involved with anyone or anything. and always interesting. extremely careful.POINTS: 1. practical. (a) 6 (b) 2 (c) 4 8. gifted. Those who really get to know you realize it takes a lot to shake your trust in your friends. (a) 4 (b) 2 (c) 3 (d) 5 (e) 6 (f) 1 Now add up the total number of points. (a) 6 (b) 7 (c) 5 (d) 4 (e) 3 (f) 2 (g) 1 9. rather impulsive personality. and indecisive. They see you as bold and adventuresome. They see you as a worrier who always sees problems that . cautious. 41 TO 50 POINTS: Others see you as fresh. and who is extremely dominant. 51 TO 60 POINTS: Others see you as an exciting. It'd really surprise them if you ever did something impulsively or on the spur of the moment. (a) 6 (b) 4 (c) 2 7. someone who'll always cheer them up and help them out. 21 TO 30 POINTS: Your friends see you as painstaking and fussy. highly volatile. self-centered. but don't always trust you. (a) 4 (b) 2 (c) 5 (d) 7 (e) 6 4. but modest. They see you as very cautious.

Similarly if the fourth thing that you did was to attend to the baby then your fourth priority would be your family. • The water is running from the tap. Some people think you're boring.don't exist. • The clothes are hanging outside and it has started to rain. Result: Each action reflects the priorities that you have set in your life. • The doorbell is ringing. 1) Attend to the baby-family 2) Pick up the clothes-sex 3) Switch the tap off. • The phone is ringing. What would you do first if you were in a situation where: • The baby is crying.Friends and relatives 5) Answer the phone.Career and job . Only those who know you well know that you aren't. Assessment 4: Priority Test We often get in situations when we take decisions without a second thought and this is the right moment to find out what type of person we are.Wealth 4) See who is at the door. For example if the first thing that you did was to answer the phone then your biggest priority in life would be your career and job.

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