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ANG ER

MA NAG EME NT

Hilary Rife
Roger Kapes
EDUC 631 Fall 2004
ANG ER MA NAG EMEN T
1. DEFINITION
2. STATISTICS
3. TEACHER (PowerPoint)
4. STUDENT (PowerPoint)
5. VIDEO for Students
6. SUPPORT AVAILABLE
7. RESOURCES

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~ STATISTICS ~
5.5% of the Nation’s Elementary
Teachers were attacked by students!
(U.S. Dept of Education 1999-2000 school year)

10% of the Nation’s Elementary


Expulsions were for bringing firearms
to school
(U.S. Dept of Education 1998-1999 School Year)

Source: http://www.nccev.org/violence/statistics/statistics-schools.html

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AN GER
AngerMAN AG EMENT
management does not
involve getting rid of all anger,
but using anger to enhance your
life. We can look at the purposes
of anger in both a positive and
negative light.
http://www.anger-management.net/question_show.cfm?selected=85

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AN GER
MAN AG
The positive EMENT
aspects of anger
are that you have increased
energy, are able to communicate
your feelings, able to problem
solve and can take charge of the
situation.
http://www.anger-management.net/question_show.cfm?selected=85

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AN GER
MAN AG
The negative EMENT
aspects of anger
are that you can have disruption
of your thinking, unnecessarily
defend yourself, become
aggressive and become known
as an angry person.
http://www.anger-management.net/question_show.cfm?selected=85

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AN GER
AngerMAN AG EMENT
management would be
seen then as increasing the
positive aspects or functions of
anger and decreasing the
negative functions of anger.
http://www.anger-management.net/question_show.cfm?selected=85

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AN GER
MAN AG EMENT
So now,,, you have a student
that is displaying a lot of
ANGER! Now What do you do?

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• Skills needed in dealing with your anger:
2. Identify a range of feelings including anger
3. Identify aggressive acts by self and others
4. Identify the potential consequences to self and others
from these aggressive acts
5. Identify self-destructive behavior
6. Identify thoughts prior to aggressive acts
7. Identify internal cues to feelings of anger
8. Develop coping mechanisms for dealing with anger
9. Express anger without loss of control

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• Identify a range of • Embarrassment
feelings including • Excitement
anger: • Disappointment
• Jealousy
• Fear
• Helpless
• Sadness
• Left-out

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• I am in charge
of my own
feelings:
1. I own my feelings.
2. It is okay to feel angry.
3. Anger is part of being human.
4. I learn how to express my
anger in helpful ways.

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• Identify • Throw something
• Kick someone or
aggressive acts something
shown by self • Get in someone’s face
and others: • Shoving, grabbing, hitting
• Break something
• Call someone names
• Give someone a dirty
look
• Silent treatment
• Get others to “gang up”
• Spread rumors
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• I choose to feel
good about
myself through
expressing my
feelings.
1. I express angry feelings in ways
that are fair to others and me.
2. I use fair words…e.g.
“I feel when you”

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• The more I learn to
take care of my
anger the more
powerful I become.
1. I need to control what I do
with my anger.
2. I control how I let my anger
out.
3. I practice cooling off.
4. I watch my thoughts.
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• Know the difference between AN GER
and AG GRESSI ON.
• Anger is an emotion. It is ok to be angry.
• Aggression is acting out inappropriately
and is not ok. Learn to check your
aggression and express your anger
appropriately.

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• Ways to Keep Cool:
2. Get exercise every day.
3. Eat right.
4. Get enough sleep.
5. Learn to relax.
6. Know your feelings.
7. Write about those feelings.

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• Ways to Keep Cool:
2. Find a quiet place.
3. Take a time out.
4. Find fun distractions.
5. Make good decisions about what you see and
hear.
6. Choose friends who make you feel good.
7. Learn to forgive and forget.

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• Identify potential • Physical harm to
someone or self
consequences of • Destruction of property
your anger to • Loss of family/friends
others and • Loss of job
yourself…what • Loss of social privileges
can that mean for • Going to jail
you? • Getting a bad reputation

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• Identify self- • Negative self-talk
• Blaming everyone else
destructive • Taking everything
behavior…How personally
does that help or • Assuming
• Overeating, drinking
hurt you?
• Driving recklessly
• Taking drugs
• Looking for fights
• Feeling outraged

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• I stop blaming
others and
myself.
2. Blaming only keeps
people upset.
3. Blaming is a way of not
respecting people.
4. I express my feelings
and then try to work
things out.

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• Identify thoughts • You did that on purpose…
• You wanted to hurt me…
prior to • You deserve this…
aggressive acts: • You never even asked me…
• You’re being unreasonable…
• You think you’re so good…
• I’ll show you…
• You started it…
• There’s no justice…

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• Identify internal • Stomach gets tight/upset
• Heart is beating faster
cues to feelings
• Clenching fists
of anger:
• Feel myself getting
flushed
• Pressure on my temples
• Sweaty palms
• Clenched jaw

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• I don’t have to
hold on to my
anger.
2. I find ways to let it go
3. I talk about hurt and
angry feelings.
4. I look for someone to
discuss my anger.
5. I discuss my words and
actions that hurt others.
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• Steps to taming
anger
2. Know what pushes your
buttons.
3. Know your body’s anger
signs.
4. Stop and think!
5. Cage your rage…it’s your
choice.
6. Decide what to do.
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• I take power.
2. I stand up for myself and
others being hurt.
3. I learn to defeat negative
self-talk.
4. I feel good about
learning about myself.
5. I am strong when I use
fair and firm words
instead of fists.
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• I remember that
people are
precious.
2. I watch my thoughts, words,
and actions.
3. I stop hurting people with my
words and actions.
4. I take ownership of the
hurtful things I do and say.
5. “Bullying” hurts everyone.

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1. Calm down
2. Name the problem
3. Find solutions
4. Pick the best
solution
5. Congratulate
yourself
6. Evaluate the
solution
7. Make changes if
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• Can you identify any of the steps in
resolving conflict, controlling your
anger and avoiding aggressive
behavior?

• Well…(then click)

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• Calm down
• Show mutual respect
• Name the problem
• Find solutions
• Choose the best solution
• Congratulate yourself
• Review the solution that was picked

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Now that YOU understand
the mechanics of Anger
Management,,, How Does
this relate to YOUR Students
in Elementary School?

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When you are ANGRY and UPSET
remember…

1-2-3 TURTLE

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1 – Go inside your shell
• THINK before you ACT
• Take a “Time Out”

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2 – Take 3 Deep Breaths
• Time to RELAX
• Calm yourself down

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3 – Walk Away
• Think of a good solution

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Good solutions
other kids have
used
• Tell a teacher or an adult
• Talk it out
• Ask for advice
• Be honest about
your feelings

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VIDEO

Student Workshop
HANDLING YOUR ANGER

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SUPPORT
AVAILABLE

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RESOURCES

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