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9 Things a Leader Must Do Breaking Through to the Next Level based on the book by Dr.

Henry Cloud The Big Idea Are you accomplishing what you want as a leader? Why do some leaders get and accomplish what they want, while others seem to regularly experience frustration and setbacks? Why do some leaders achieve their goals, while others barely hang in there? Based on his groundbreaking psychological study of ways that successful individuals think and behave, Dr. Henry Cloud presents a simple yet profound roadmap to help leaders – and those who want to become leaders – to arrive at greater levels of personal growth and corporate influence that they thought were possible. The good news for all of us is that leadership success is not limited to vague notions of “charisma” or traditional advantages like graduate degrees and connections. It is much more closely tied to a pattern of thinking and moving forward that learns from mistakes and stays focused on goals.

Why You Need This Book This book will help you discover the secrets that will help you focus on the dynamics that make a difference in your organization – and your life.

Déjà Vu Leaders A good number of us are in business or other arenas of leadership, but we have different backgrounds, different personalities, different economic circumstances, and different abilities. However, this set of people are the same in that they share this particular way of handling life and work. And that commonality is the déjà vu experience. People who found what they were looking for in life seemed to do a certain set of things in common. If you were not born with these patterns for leadership in place, you can learn them. You can learn these patterns that work every time and lead to a better life.

1. Excavate Your Soul For successful leaders, the invisible world is where the real life is. The same is true at all levels of leadership in the business world. Every blockbuster deal, every new rung on the corporate ladder, every

desires. beginning in very small ways. Face the fears and obstacles that have caused you to bury your inner treasures. If you do not have such a community. Avoidance is really not helping anything. and sculpted. So. You may be envious of someone else’s position or success because you have lost touch with your own dreams. and space become available to you to focus on the things that have life in them. This violates an important value. talents. Don’t confuse envy with desire. Play the Whole Movie . Don’t let negative feelings just sit there. 3. Pay attention to your fantasies. desires. Don’t let long-term wishes and dreams go ignored. here is the sad result of not living like a déjà vu leader: You get the negative emotions of all your problems without the benefits of solving them. Either fill the cavity or pull the tooth. In order to get to the outside visible world. time. Listen to what bugs you.project design. Listens to them and values them as life itself. your desires and talents have to be mined. Then new energy. find one and join it. the déjà vu leader: Becomes aware of his dreams. and every successful sales campaign begins in the invisible soul of human beings. really bad stuff. In order to optimize his opportunities in business and life. making room for the good stuff. Yank the Diseased Tooth There are major negative things that can afflict us. and other treasures of the soul. refined. I wish this were not happening. Do everything above in the context of your values and the community of people who are committed to guarding your heart. Leadership success is the process of digging up the treasures of the invisible soul in order to bring dreams. The negative energy drain is stopped. because you still expend the energy and feel the hurt. Takes steps to develop them. and talents into the visible world. Avoidance always prolongs the pain. Listen to your symptoms. resources. every company merger. 2.

6. the tiny steps. Earn a Black Belt in Hate Choosing what you hate is serious business. one brick at a time. Déjà vu leaders are different. “That is not a city! Allor-nothing thinking keeps people stuck in destructive ruts. If it takes money to make money (a common excuse). What you do not hate well is going to find its way into your . So plot a movie. then go raise the money you need. They use it to live out the difficulties before they actually occur. Even if someone else is at fault. Put Superman Out of a Job Déjà vu leaders tend to call on themselves as the first source to correct difficult situations. don’t wait for it to change. the city will be built. But one brick seems too small and insignificant for all-or-nothing thinkers. Whatever the answer may be. 4. enlarge your network or openness to other jobs. and it can build your life by enabling you to see the good things that can happen. start your own service business.Déjà vu leaders evaluate almost everything they do in this way. See it. If the economy is lousy. playing the whole movie provides successful leaders with another strategy common to all of them. a vision of your life. they worry ahead of time. your career. find another niche that is hot. your relationships. look somewhere else. Taking the long road. 5. meaning they play the movie and then take active steps to make sure they are ready for unpleasant scenes when they arrive. They value the little increments. Don’t just sit there wishing for a bigger budget. But if the ant looks at the grain and says. They see every behavior and decision as links in a larger chain. All success is built and sustained just like a building is built. steps in a direction that has a destination. déjà vu leaders make a move. Embrace Your Inner Insect The biggest enemy of the small-steps-big-results principle is our craving for having it all. your finances. or something. Gain a skill in a different field. In other words. If the ant picks up a grain of sand. they take the initiative to address the problem and seek a solution. plan it. In addition to motivation. will actually get you there faster because you will not lose time by trying shortcuts. they rarely do anything without thinking of the ultimate consequences. Playing the whole movie can save your life by preventing bad things from happening. They play the whole movie. one tiny step at a time. and so on. In short. so to speak. and then evaluate each scene you write every day in light of where the movie is supposed to end.

listen. Serve the people “under” you in whatever structures have placed you “over” them. 7. The other’s benefit is their utmost concern. and experience much more success in your work and in your life.life. coworkers. A déjà vu leader shows up with what we call integrated character. Deal with your subjective hatred. In other words. When someone is hurt by you. customers. or freaking out. eliminate most of the destructive things. Put names and faces to the origins of your problematic feelings and attitudes. It is the law of love. One thing that déjà vu leaders always do well is resolve conflict. Here are a few examples of the humble ways of déjà vu leaders: Say you are sorry to your children. it can also build success in all areas of your life and leadership. and other people in your life when you fail them. In the process. getting manipulated. Forget About Playing Fair People who succeed in leadership and life do not go around settling scores. Root out any attitude of entitlement. déjà vu leaders are as concerned with their relationship to the custodian as they are with their relationship to the CEO. he brings his love as well. Mature leaders know that ultimately the offending person is going to get what he deserves without anyone else bringing it about. Be a déjà vu leader and learn the way of humility. His hate is integrated with his love and other values. Revenge is for immature people. you will preserve most of the good things in your life. such as respect for people. Déjà vu leaders have transcended the need for revenge. Use . In organizations where there are hierarchies. and that means being honest and assertive without losing control. spouse. Embrace your imperfections and the imperfections of others. Find the sources of your subjective hatred and make them objective. when he brings his hate. Build your skills. Embrace a spirit of gratitude for everything you have or any good treatment you get. Quit Self-Exaggerating Just as humility sells soap. That is how he can take a hard stand on a tough issue but remain loving and kind in the process. and forgiveness. Mix hate with love and respect. Here are some tips that déjà vu leaders would offer: Make your values intentional. 8. They do not even keep score. kindness. changing things for the better.

risking loss of approval in order to do the right thing. but weight. Concern. Do not see leadership success as a goal that you cannot attain or a prize only for special or lucky people.failure as a teacher and a friend. whether or not someone else is going to like it is not a factor that carries any weight. What déjà vu leaders do is find those ways and practice them. loving. Don’t try to avoid upsetting people. If kind. Forget the popularity polls. déjà vu leaders decide to do what is right first and deal with the fallout second. They are willing to be the odd one. Be encouraged to embark on a path of putting them into practice into your own life and becoming a déjà vu leader. But if controlling. responsible and honest people are upset with you. then you had better look at the choices you are making. yes. but when weighing whether or not a given course is right. but in the ways of wisdom that transcend any one individual. no. Ignore the Popularity Polls Successful leaders are sensitive to the reactions of others. just make sure you are upsetting the right ones. then take courage – it might be a sign that you are doing the right thing and becoming a déjà vu leader! The principles are available to everyone. irresponsible. Déjà vu leaders go against the odds if the odds are against what is right. . Success is never embodied in a person. 9. hot and cold. or manipulative people are upset with you.

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