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Antoinette Martin Sonya Shearin English 121 18 Sept. 2011 Legalizing Gay Marriage is Unhealthy for America For years, there has been a debate within America about whether or not gay marriage should be legalized in all states. Gay couples often claim that they have the right to marry as US citizens; however not everyone would agree with this. Just a brief look at where the economy is today shows that the government does not have the extra money to support the costly benefits of gay marriage. Marriage is a privilege in the United States and heterosexual couples can actually help in the growth of society by having children. Sure, the amount of children in orphanages will go down but what kind of environment will those children grow up in? Even if the gay couple that adopts the child are great parents, that child will always be lacking a father and mother figure. Although it is not always apparent, marriage is a subject that should not be taken lightly in any way. Gay marriages are harmful to the United States as a unified nation socially and economically. Not only does it distort the idea of marriage, it ruins the definition of a traditional family. To raise a child successfully, a mother and father are both required. A mother is naturally looked upon as the person who nurtures the child. Although the father plays a part in this, the mother usually has the full time job. She is the person who carries the child and therefore knows it before it is even born. A male homosexual couple would not have this expense. A father is

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seen as the individual who carries the authority of the household. He is the head of the home, supports, and protects his family. A lesbian couple wouldnt have this male figure in their home. A mother and father is not just a couple, in an ideal situation, theyre a team that supports each other and is strong where the other is weak. If there is two of the same gender, they will generally share similar weaknesses and strengths. In a homosexual household, where a child is raised, one would wonder whether he or she would be affected by growing up in an environment that is abnormal. This child will grow up seeing their friends with mothers and fathers and wonder why they only have two of one gender. Joe Messerli states, Children learn about expectations and gender roles from society. It's difficult to teach the importance and traditions of the family when such confusion is thrust upon them (Messerli). From a very young age, children try to fit in with their friends and be normal. If they grow up in an abnormal home, it will be harder for them to feel good about themselves, as they get older. Even if children arent negatively affected, they will be taught that gay marriage is okay and when they grow up, get married, and have children they then teach the same thing. If enough people are taught this, it will become so widely accepted, thus changing Americas traditional fundamental values on marriage. When a couple marries, they are granted with certain expensive benefits. For example, Adam Kolasinksi states, Collecting a deceased spouse's social security, claiming an extra tax exemption for a spouse, and having the right to be covered under a spouse's health insurance policy are just a few examples of the costly benefits associated with marriage. In a sense, a married couple receives a subsidy. Why? Because a marriage between to unrelated heterosexuals is likely to result in a family with children, and propagation of society is a compelling state interest (Kolasinksi). In all states, they will be given these same benefits. This is more costly to

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the government especially during bad economic times. Thus, gay marriage is harmful to the economy. If we dont ban it now, it will grow to be an even bigger problem in the near future. If people accept gay marriage within the United States, theyll start to accept other things such as having more than one wife or marrying sisters or brothers or other immediate family members. Theyll wonder why weve permitted gay marriage and not other types of marriages. One could claim to be in love and demand these same rights. By doing this, it would open the doors to many other abnormalities in America that everyone will consider fair. Gay rights activists claim that these marriages should be allowed because it doesn't hurt anyone, but it could start a chain reaction that destroys the whole idea of marriage (Messerli). We can't let this happen or the consequences could be losing the traditional definition of marriage itself in the United States. Not only would America suffer socially and politically, it would suffer spiritually as well. Virtually every religion in the world, including the major ones in this country, considers homosexuality unacceptable (Messerli). If most of the religions in the United States are against gay marriage and the majority of people have some type of religion, one could argue that most people are against gay marriage. Some people would argue that denying gay couples the right to marry is a form of social discrimination. It wouldnt be fair for the couple because theyre in love and theyre being forced not to be together. Heterosexual couples arent denied the right to be in love so why are gay couples? As American citizens, they should have the right to marry. If gay marriage is the cause of public indifference and arguments, then why permit it? Gay marriage is obviously the reason for the hostility we feel towards gay couples. By letting

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gay couples marry, were losing the traditional foundation of marriage itself. Gay couples may be angered by what they feel is social discrimination but the change they wish to make affects too many things. Why would we let them do this? Marriage is not just a union of two people, its a pure tradition that America has upheld for many years. To change it now would have devastating effects on society and the country as we know it. Its never going to be an easy decision to make, but we can't just ignore it. To ban it upsets gay couples but allowing it upsets the majority of the public and, as the saying goes: majority rules. In conclusion, marriage should not be viewed as a simple bond between two individuals, but as a beautiful union between a male and female. Its not an easy choice to make but its necessary if America is to stay unified. Therefore, gay marriage should not be legalized in any state in America.

Work cited

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Messerli, Joe. Should Same-Sex Marriages be Legalized? 30 July 2011. Web. 2 October 2011. Kolasinksi, Adam. The Secular Case Against Gay Marriage 20 Feb. 2004 Web. 2 October 2011.