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Relationships & Friendship Building
Today we’re going to talk on such a topic which when begins everyone’s is awake. Because this
is the topic which creates a very much sensation and really touches the heart.
We’ll be talking and discussing today something about relationships and friendship.
(Eccl 3:8) 9ेम का समय, और बै र करने का भी समय; लड़ाई का समय, और मेल का भी समय है ।
Here every one of you sitting around here is Youth and most of are teenagers.
Who is Youth?
There are various definitions of Youth’s age, but the widely accepted definition is the people of the age
group between 13-35 is called youths
Various Categories:
Teenagers: 13-19
Adult Youth: 20-25-26
Matured Youth: 26-35
In India there are 40% population is youth by census 2010 i.e. around 460 million or 4,600 crore people
are youth.
All of these youths are facing various problems. Let me give a brief DATA before you:
5388 youths are arrested
4210 youths are suffered from STD
3610 youths are assaulted out of those 80 girls are murdered after being raped
2861 youths become school/college dropouts
1377 teenagers become unmarried mothers
1106 teenage girls undergo abortion
1000 teens taste alcohol & smoke the very first time
500 intake drugs first time
420 drug arrest
6 out of every 10 youth commit suicides
All these very single day
Today there are several youth problems to deal with:
 Addiction
 Peer Pressure
 Time management
 Examination Stress
 Lack of Communication skills
 Personality Development
 Relationship Building
 Friendship Maintaining
 Career Counseling
But out of all these Friendship/Relationship building is the most VITAL and Important:
Due to lack of awareness of this:
 Stress
 Frustration
 Suicide/Suicidal Attempts
 Inferiority Complex
 Distraction from career
 Mental Imbalance
And
So on…..
So today we’ll be talking over this
May dear friends please Remember:
If you want to overcome these situations in your life……….
Build Your Life on the Foundation of Principles
Make Sure Your Every Decision is Made Upon Right Principles
Principles are the Driving Force of Your Life/Acts as a Catalyst
Please Remember:
Principle gives us 3Ds
 Determination
 Direction
 Destination
We Need to Internalize Right Principles
What Else You Suggest
How to make Right Principles in the field of Relationships/friendships
Friendship Tip-1
Choose those who demonstrate Godly Character Traits
 Family Loyalty
 Responsibility
 Work Ethic & Honesty
 Determination
 Maturity
Friendship Tip-2
Affiliate with the People Who Have a Strong Work Ethic
People Who are Willing to do What it Takes to Provide for Themselves
 Helpful in Career
 Acts as a Motivator
Friendship Tip-3
Affiliate with the people who not only confess faith in God but express and practice too
 Helpful on choosing Right to wrong
 They have a measurement Standard
 They do not have relative truth
Friendship Tip-4
Ask yourself “Is this relationship drawing you away from God or towards God”
 Friends are the factors who either withdraw you from the wrong path or drag you
to the wrong path
Friendship Tip-5
Never Ever Compromise your Values
(Matt 5:37) परन् तु तु Fहार| बात हां क| हां , या नह|ं क| नह|ं हो; क् य|Íक जो कु छ इस से अÍधक होता है वह बु राई से होता है ।।
Friendship Tip-6
Proverb 4:23 "सबसे अÍधक अपने मन क| रHा कर, 4य|Íक जीवन का मूल 8ोत वह| है ." नीÍतवचन 04 :23
Friendship Tip-7
Devote yourself to God, His word and Yield to His Holy Spirit
Supporting Tips:
Find how much yr friendship is good, ask these questions
 Are Safe: Emotionally, Physically (Mostly Tribal Girls)
 Have Boundaries that are respected (e.g. you refuse something She/he forces)
 Draw you closer to God
 Mutual Trust
Make Sure your Every Decision is on Right Principle
Identifying True Friend
 Friend of God is Friend of Mine
 John 15:15 vc ls eSa rqEgsa nkl u dgqWaxk] D;ksafd nkl ugha tkurk fd mldk Lokeh D;k djrk gS%
ijUrq eSa us rqEgsa fe= dgk gS----------

 Friend In Need is Friend Indeed
 Friend Rejoices in your Plan
 Respect your Dignity
 Empathize your Feelings
 Shares your Plans
 Feels Your Sorrows
 Advice to Lift You Up
 Gives Exhortation to Grow

 Identify The Type of Friends

 The Hushai Friends (False Friends)
 They Say They are But They Aren’t (2Samuel 16:16-17, Galatians 02:04)
 The Eliphaz Friends (Unfaithful)
 “I’m your Friend As Long As I Need You” (Job 19:14-19)
 The Philistine Friends (Dangerous)
 I’m Your Friend If You Do What I Tell You (Deut. 13:6-8)
 The Judas Friends (Sly)
 I’m Your Friend But If I Have to I’ll Betray You (Math 26:47-50)
 The Solomon Friends (Compromising)
 I’m Your Friend But I’m Friend of Everybody Even Those who Talk Evil about
you (Prov 18:24)
 The Jonathan Friends (True)
 I’m Your Friend And I Love You As I Love Myself Even More Than Myself (I
Sam. 18:1-4)
Some Suggestions:
 Be friendly but don’t be Cheap
 Be Open but do not be fooled
 Be co-operative but do not be abused
 Be mingling but do not be compromising
 Be influenced but do not break your values
 Learn To Say “NO” to Certain Things
 Sadrak-Mesak-Abednago (Chapter 03 Nebuchadnezzar-idol worship-
burning furnace-7 times higher-all dead-Jesus Himself came)
 Daniel (King Darius-3times prayer-nobody will pray anywhere except king-
lions’ den Daniel chapter 06)
 Joseph
जवानी क| अÍभलाषा से भाग और शै तान का सामना कर
"पृ ³वी पर क| नह|ं पर÷तु Tवग|य वTतु ओ पर Iयान लगाओ" कु लु िTसओं 03 :02
(James 4:4) संसार से Íम×ता करनी परमे tवर से बै र करना है सो जो कोई संसार का Íम× होना चाहता है , वह अपने
आप को परमेtवर का बै र| बनाता है ।
(Titus 2:6) ऐसे ह| जवान पु Fष|को भी समझाया कर, Íक संयमी ह|।
(1Tim 4:12) कोई तेर| जवानी को तु च् छ न समझने पाए; पर वचन, और चाल चलन, और 9ेम, और Îवtवास, और पÎव×ता म
ÎवtवाÍसय|के Íलथे आदश बन जा।

 Joseph-Potipher-didn’t compromise-get prisoned-but later rewarded- Potipher’s
wife later servant of Joseph’s Wife
 May be immediate lose-but if you follow yr principles-later you’ll be rewarded
 Never Compromise
 Say NO if yr friendship is an obstacle to yr career
 Say NO if it is against yr sanctity/purity
 Say NO if it is against yr reality (Peer Pressure)



Friendship With Opposite Sex
 Avoid Meeting Alone
 Avoid Filthy Talk (Dual Meaning Talks)
 Avoid Physical Contact
 Avoid Develop Intimacy
 Your Relationship Should be Characterized by Respect, Dignity & Sanctity
Making decision for life partner
xyr QSlys
,glku ds cy fd;k x;k QSlyk
ncko ds dkj.k fd;k x;k QSlyk
Ny ds dkj.k fd;k x;k QSlyk
rjl [kk dj fd;k x;k QSlyk
nwljksa ds }kjk fy;k x;k QSlyk
What Does Bible Says
vlekurk ds tq, esa u tqrks
vU/kdkj vkSj T;ksfr esa D;k esy tksy
2 dqfjfUFk;ksa 6%14 (अÎवtवाÍसय|के साय असमान जूए म न जु तो, क् य|Íक धाÍमक ता और
अधम का क् या मे ल जोल या 7योÍत और अन् धकार क| क् या संगÍत)
O;oLFkk- 6%3&4 (Reward if you obey God)
vioknksa dks vius fy, fodYi u cuk,a
Unequal Yoke Is Mental Suicide
Making decision for life partner
Never Think of A Prince Or Princes.
Think of A Person With A Common Weakness
Before marriage:-
• Never Give Final Word
• Never Make Final Commitment
Before marriage Beware of these:-
• eSa ckn esa lq/kj tkmaxk
• tks vHkh ugha lq/kjk mlds ckn esa u lq/kjus dk de vk’kk j[ksa
• tks vHkh vla;e cjrs
• tks vHkh la;e ugha j[ks mlls ckn esa vki ds izfr oQknkj jgus dk de vk’kk djsa A
• pfj=xr ckrksa ls le>kSrk u djsa
• vioknksa dks vius fy, fodYi u cuk,a
Understanding of Love
• Love Is Your Choice
• Love Is A Commitment
• Love Is Hard Work
• Love Is Sacrifice

Qualities to Look For
Person of Responsibility:-
• Physical fitness
• Emotional maturity
• Financial stewardship
• Spiritual discipline
• Making decision for life partner
;kn j[ksa
• fookg ds fnu vkids thou lkFkh ds fy, vkidk loksZRe migkj vkidk ifo= thou gSA
1 Corinthians 13
God is Love John 03:16
Love is Not God

So today we’ll be talking over this May dear friends please Remember: If you want to overcome these situations in your life………. Build Your Life on the Foundation of Principles Make Sure Your Every Decision is Made Upon Right Principles Principles are the Driving Force of Your Life/Acts as a Catalyst Please Remember: Principle gives us 3Ds    Determination Direction Destination We Need to Internalize Right Principles ..All these very single day Today there are several youth problems to deal with:          Addiction Peer Pressure Time management Examination Stress Lack of Communication skills Personality Development Relationship Building Friendship Maintaining Career Counseling What Else You Suggest But out of all these Friendship/Relationship building is the most VITAL and Important: Due to lack of awareness of this:       Stress Frustration Suicide/Suicidal Attempts Inferiority Complex Distraction from career Mental Imbalance And So on….

" नी तवचन 04 :23 . या नह ं क नह ं हो.How to make Right Principles in the field of Relationships/friendships Friendship Tip-1 Choose those who demonstrate Godly Character Traits      Family Loyalty Responsibility Work Ethic & Honesty Determination Maturity Friendship Tip-2 Affiliate with the People Who Have a Strong Work Ethic People Who are Willing to do What it Takes to Provide for Themselves   Helpful in Career Acts as a Motivator Friendship Tip-3 Affiliate with the people who not only confess faith in God but express and practice too    Helpful on choosing Right to wrong They have a measurement Standard They do not have relative truth Friendship Tip-4 Ask yourself “Is this relationship drawing you away from God or towards God”  Friends are the factors who either withdraw you from the wrong path or drag you to the wrong path Friendship Tip-5 Never Ever Compromise your Values (Matt 5:37) परन ्तु तु हार बात हां क हां. क् य क जो क छ इस से अ धक होता है वह बु राई से होता है।। ु Friendship Tip-6 Proverb 4:23 "सबसे अ धक अपने मन क र ा कर. य क जीवन का मू ल ोत वह है .

ask these questions     Are Safe: Emotionally. you refuse something She/he forces) Draw you closer to God Mutual Trust Make Sure your Every Decision is on Right Principle Identifying True Friend  Friend of God is Friend of Mine  John 15:15 vc ls eSa rqEgsa nkl u dgqWaxk] D.Friendship Tip-7 Devote yourself to God. Galatians 02:04)  The Eliphaz Friends (Unfaithful)  “I’m your Friend As Long As I Need You” (Job 19:14-19)  The Philistine Friends (Dangerous)  I’m Your Friend If You Do What I Tell You (Deut.ksafd nkl ugha tkurk fd mldk Lokeh D.g. Physically (Mostly Tribal Girls) Have Boundaries that are respected (e. 13:6-8)  The Judas Friends (Sly)  I’m Your Friend But If I Have to I’ll Betray You (Math 26:47-50)  The Solomon Friends (Compromising)  I’m Your Friend But I’m Friend of Everybody Even Those who Talk Evil about you (Prov 18:24) .k djrk gS% ijUrq eSa us rqEgsa fe= dgk gS--------- Friend In Need is Friend Indeed  Friend Rejoices in your Plan  Respect your Dignity  Empathize your Feelings  Shares your Plans  Feels Your Sorrows  Advice to Lift You Up  Gives Exhortation to Grow  Identify The Type of Friends  The Hushai Friends (False Friends)  They Say They are But They Aren’t (2Samuel 16:16-17. His word and Yield to His Holy Spirit Supporting Tips: Find how much yr friendship is good.

और व वास. और ेम. और चाल चलन. वह अपने ह जवान पु ष को भी समझाया कर. 18:1-4) Some Suggestions:       Be friendly but don’t be Cheap Be Open but do not be fooled Be co-operative but do not be abused Be mingling but do not be compromising Be influenced but do not break your values Learn To Say “NO” to Certain Things  Sadrak-Mesak-Abednago (Chapter 03 Nebuchadnezzar-idol worshipburning furnace-7 times higher-all dead-Jesus Himself came)  Daniel (King Darius-3times prayer-nobody will pray anywhere except kinglions’ den Daniel chapter 06)  Joseph जवानी क अ भलाषा से भाग और शैतान का सामना कर "पृ वी पर क नह ं पर तु वग य व तु ओ पर यान लगाओ" क लु ि सओं 03 :02 ु (James 4:4) संसार से म ता करनी परमे वर से बैर करना है सो जो कोई संसार का म होना चाहता है. पर वचन. और प व ता म ् आप को परमे वर का बैर बनाता है। (Titus 2:6) ऐसे (1Tim 4:12) कोई व वा सय क लथे आदश बन जा। े       Joseph-Potipher-didn’t compromise-get prisoned-but later rewarded. The Jonathan Friends (True)  I’m Your Friend And I Love You As I Love Myself Even More Than Myself (I Sam. क संयमी ह । तेर जवानी को तु चछ न समझने पाए.Potipher’s wife later servant of Joseph’s Wife May be immediate lose-but if you follow yr principles-later you’ll be rewarded Never Compromise Say NO if yr friendship is an obstacle to yr career Say NO if it is against yr sanctity/purity Say NO if it is against yr reality (Peer Pressure) .

k QSlyk What Does Bible Says vlekurk ds tq.ksfr esa D.k x.k QSlyk rjl [kk dj fd.k QSlyk Ny ds dkj.k x. esa u tqrks vU/kdkj vkSj T.k x.k esy tksy 2 dqfjfUFk.6%3&4 (Reward if you obey God) vioknksa dks vius fy. Dignity & Sanctity Making decision for life partner xyr QSlys .k x. क् य क धा मकता और अधम का क् या मेल जोल या यो त और अन ्धकार क क् या संग त) O.k x. fodYi u cuk.ksa 6%14 (अ व वा सय के साय असमान जू ए म न जु तो.oLFkk.k QSlyk nwljksa ds }kjk fy.k fd.k QSlyk ncko ds dkj.k fd.Friendship With Opposite Sex      Avoid Meeting Alone Avoid Filthy Talk (Dual Meaning Talks) Avoid Physical Contact Avoid Develop Intimacy Your Relationship Should be Characterized by Respect.a Unequal Yoke Is Mental Suicide Making decision for life partner Never Think of A Prince Or Princes. Think of A Person With A Common Weakness Before marriage:• • Never Give Final Word Never Make Final Commitment .glku ds cy fd.

Before marriage Beware of these:• • • • • • eSa ckn esa lq/kj tkmaxk tks vHkh ugha lq/kjk mlds ckn esa u lq/kjus dk de vk’kk j[ksa tks vHkh vla.kn j[ksa • fookg ds fnu vkids thou lkFkh ds fy.e ugha j[ks mlls ckn esa vki ds izfr oQknkj jgus dk de vk’kk djsa A pfj=xr ckrksa ls le>kSrk u djsa vioknksa dks vius fy.a Understanding of Love • • • • Love Is Your Choice Love Is A Commitment Love Is Hard Work Love Is Sacrifice 1 Corinthians 13 God is Love John 03:16 Love is Not God Qualities to Look For Person of Responsibility:• • • • • Physical fitness Emotional maturity Financial stewardship Spiritual discipline Making decision for life partner . fodYi u cuk.e cjrs tks vHkh la. vkidk loksZRe migkj vkidk ifo= thou gSA .

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