The problems teens face.
Teenagers and Body image At the very outset they are struggling to come to terms with their body image. The cherubic appearance of childhood gone, they are looking at strangers in the mirror, gawky, disproportionate limbs, facial features, facial hair and acne to mention a few. They don¶t know what to do with their hands and legs and are often termed µfidgety¶ Search for Identity - the troubled teenager I see teenagers as those struggling to find a place in society, be recognized by their peers and be accepted for what they are. This is the most important task of their lives at this juncture and they are faced with a lot of anxiety and insecurity as they work around this. I take my son as an example. My son is brought up to be respectful, helpful, kind, gentle, tolerant, follow moral and biblical principles of honesty, integrity etc. He has chosen to live by what he is taught. The struggle that I see each day is food for thought. Looking at the world around, these values are passé- this teen sticks around like a sore thumb because he is not like the rest of his peers aggressive, pushy, vulgar, defiant and lack moral values, to name a few. His friends don¶t accept him though they know that when they are in trouble they can find help here. He dares to be a loner because of his choice. All around him, the media is not so subtly preaching that it is okay to do anything that makes you feel good. You are cool only if you have µthings¶ is what is shouted from housetops. The shows on television for this age group say all is fair in teenage - be it bullying, premarital sex, aggressive / violent behaviour, breaking rules. What is the teenager learning? What is a teen to choose? Who is to blame? Is it their fault if they become are confused teenagers , defiant teenagers or out of control teenagers?
Teenage stress leading to teenage depression
Scheduling work and play Teenage stress increases with school work and as they move higher, a number of projects to be done, tests to cope up with, professional choices to be focused on, drama, literary forums, sport and other extra curricular activities from the school front add to the pressure. On the social front, a new and tantalizing horizon opens up- dating, partying, hanging out with friends, vying for attention with the distraction of the media, sports, music, internet relationships etc. The teenager is under much duress to schedule time, prioritize work and achieve goals. High parental expectation Parenting teenagers is like walking on thin ice. Parents need to strike the right balance. Often times parents live their dream through their children this is when the pressure builds. Expecting the teenager to excel in academics, get good grades, be the child of their expectations ± well behaved, responsible for themselves and sometimes for their younger siblings and bring in accolades from extra curricular activities - is in itself enough pressure.
Teen health is at high risk and its no wonder that this generation now is the victim of every health problem in the book. In an effort to do it all and be it all. the teen sacrifices highly on rest. The teen is unable to effectively handle all this is under considerable emotional pressure. to be accepted among peers. decision making. with good social and self. The girls are forced towards an anorexic look (to be popular) and the boys stuff themselves with unhealthy. fulfilling parental expectations and conforming to peers¶ expectation. depression and sometimes even a complete break down of the individual. getting into trouble with the law etc. being responsible. unbearable stress is all planted.
. The teen is hardly ever able to do what he / she wants to do with his / her life. Wonder of wonders. Social and parental pressure Every significant other adult around the teen is attempting to mould him / her into some acceptable shape. high calorie junk food. managing their finances well. social groups are all party to this. etc. Parents. achieving. fatty. more prone to anxiety. This is reflected in mood swings. Here is where the skills of parent in parenting teenagers comes into play. the seeds of restlessness. fear of failure. teachers. smelly socks.Added to this is peer pressure. they survive it all!! Relaxation and rest The most important and yet the most ignored item on the teen¶s agenda. teens arrive at decisions which conflict with their own skills or fields of interest. Amid such hectic activity. It is a known fact that teens require about nine hours of sleep but at an average. This is one of the main reasons for performance being negatively affected. feel the need to become more popular through other channels like music.help skills in areas like managing work independently. elders in the family. prioritizing. mental health issues. anxiety. untidy shelves and cabinets. depression etc. Even though people do not push their views down their throats. Teens. The most immature and easy way out could lead them to other problem areas like formation of unacceptable habits.
Teenagers health and wellness
Teen health The eating habits of teens are poor and unmonitored. missing stuff. Though every parent complains about filthy bedrooms. they are still under a lot of strain because of the variety of suggestions given and the fear of failure. sport and if need be by bulling and getting into school gangs« and are often under great stress to become acceptable and popular. The teen is suddenly expected to act like an adult. I wonder where is the time! Their inabilty to handle pressure make them defiant in the face of expectations. substance abuse. aggression. Emotional health Hormonal changes in the body add to the chaos of strain of scheduling. teens get roughly about seven plus hours of sleep. Frequently.
our parenting skills. Make vegetables and fruits interesting. the richest spoilt brat lording it over all. Build lines of communication that are so strong that your children always look at you as allies and not as enemies. I always take my son¶s input on what I write. sports. peer pressure. An encouraging and supporting attitude goes a long way.who are their heroes? In our schools we find the biggest bully.
Helping troubled teens
What a paradox the life of a teenager is today!! The teens today are forced to live on the edge. Televisions.Searching for role models . computers and other gadgets that they spend most of the time with. Take their opinion and help when ever needed. Be willing to listen to their point of view. Give it a good thought before you trash it. Our children are fed on a diet that television programs and internet churn out. music etc and focuses on the negative aspects of their lives. cannot give them the nurturing that only parents can.This will tackle the problem of the out of control teenager.
What we need is a paradigm shift and a clearer view of our parenting skills. The media glorifies the people. the ones who break all rules (considered daring) are the most popular. stop complaining and take responsibility for what we are exposing our teens to right now. learning to live from the internet and television with no emphasis on moral value or excellence. and are imbibing the values of their heroes as they see them portrayed in the media.
. Be graceful enough to thank and appreciate them at every possible occasion. Provide a healthy and complete meal whenever you pack it or put it on the table. Let them know that you don¶t always have all the answers and you too are not always right. Communicate positively and avoid commands and µI told you so¶ lines. We need to look at ways to help teens. at a very superficial level with no acceptance and very little positive affirmation from parents. especially in filmdom. We cannot afford to ignore the parental duties of bringing them up well from the time they are little.
helps them break down goals into smaller. achievable modules and will take much of the stress out of their life . Look out for sign of stress. Most importantly. disturbance in sleep. poor oral and personal hygiene. Teaching techniques of goal achievement.Fear of failure is one of the greatest reason for stress. techniques like program the mind. let them know that you care!
. help them build self esteem. plummeting of interest in social activities and immediately address it or take help from experts. self affirmation etc could be taught to overcome this. lack of concentration. anxiety. poor food intake.